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I’m telling everyone and putting forth the reason I wanted to leave my marriage is due to financial issues, which yes, was a bit of the problem but could probably have been worked through. The real honest reason is I HATE my step children. I know it sounds awful I feel bad even writing it. I thought over time I would grow to love them but what grew instead was complete resentment. I know I can’t be married to someone who I hate their children, that’s not right to him or the kids. They all deserve someone who will love them as their own I just know it will never be me. I can’t say this to anyone not even my attorney because it makes me feel awful and I feel saying it wouldn’t do anyone any good. I’m just going to stick to what I’ve been saying. I know it would just hurt others and make me look horrible but I can’t help how I feel. Has anyone else left a marriage due to step kids? I knew being a step parent would be hard but I honestly thought over time some kind of “bond” would grow. I seriously feel nothing for them. Since I’ve been separated I’ve not thought of them once and they lived in my home and I have my own kids, so I know how it’s “supposed” to be. Please don’t be mean in the comments it’s not what I need. It’s not my fault I couldn’t love them I’m only a human and can feel what I can and cannot force if and view myself as mature for letting go of the love of my life because I know I can’t love these parts of him that can’t be changed. I do wonder how I could love my own kids so much and spend equal amounts of time with all of them, yet feel nothing as if they were just someone’s random kids at a park or something. I guess I now know I just can’t ever be with someone who has young children. 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My now ex husband (32M) and I (23F) just finalized our divorce on 11/28/2018. I also just gave birth to our son on 12/01.. The judge defaulted on our divorce since my ex did not participate in the proceedings. For the duration of my pregnancy, my husband was telling me that our baby boy wasn't his. He did not help support me financially, and I had to rely on the help of my family. 2 weeks before I gave birth, my husband started singing a different toon and has been constantly asking about our son and genuinely wants to be apart of his life. I've been accommodating in allowing that to happen. He did not show up while I was in the hospital and has not signed the birth certificate.. All of the above is a back story... The question I'm asking here is, is it normal to be sad and want your ex back after the divorce is finalized?? I fantasize about the 3 of us being a family and working on our relationship. But I'm also so bitter about how he treated me while I was pregnant. I just want to move on and at the same time, I can't.. Something is blocking me from letting go. Maybe postpartum emotions, maybe it's something else. The daily contact that we've had since our sons birth just has my mind all over the place. Is all this normal? Please tell me I'm not alone.",3.5861627906976743,5.083160600775198,4.899914728682173,82.90894186046512,72.83720930232559,8.26077519379845,28.403875968992253,8.841846274778883,2.219825736434108,1017,40,203,20,20,338,130,258,0.058,0.9,0.042,-0.7979,1,1,2,0,3,0,39.0,8,1,0,1,15,4,1,0,17,0,26,1,0,2,3,35,41,15,0,6,10,9,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,7,8,0,1,2,2,0,2,7,2,0,0,13,2,32,2,29,24,4,33,0,1,0,0,38,14,0,1,17,143,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041384387314636,0.0,0.2013943484689779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354340560708025,0.0,0.0,0.1936474835617301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714757695082187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607342901454353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315582872386185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518895322928573,0.14164163901262994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23740997107965606,0.0,0.06366830049672544,0.0,0.0,0.2758756587981907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156252412101886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134952963300077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880135995290638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12876044718884525,0.0889401328801299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25300460633412786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714203623156126,0.0,0.0,0.13383169750023954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37012090267217657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315582872386185,0.1382209684299527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105781134970102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13518960748412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083225728025308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19387680221935785,0.0,0.0,0.08912593523695912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14289109870067207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201170650284164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342423234812966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146474529292198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22281041329393012,0.0,0.10100442128658642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167034545435593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sagesalve,2019/01/01,"STBXH mentally ill and I don't know what to do Title says it all...my STBXH is struggling...he's lashing out at me and being quite nasty. I need to leave asap but I'm worried about him. He has a history of lying and hiding things...including infidelity. He has a history of mental illness in his family and his Nmom has BPD along with being raised by a schizophrenic women (aunt) so we suspect that, too. I don't think he is schizophrenic at all but I'm worried about his well being. He is self destructive, reckless, and isolating himself. He seems happy with his job but has a history of quitting or just giving up and running away from things. It's best for my safety to leave. However, I'm unemployed and have been a SAHW for 2 years. We moved 800 miles to a very toxic environment for his job. I don't know where to go or how I will be able to afford living on my own. He has agreed to help me for 1 yr financially, which is great, but I'm not sure I trust him. We will be getting divorced soon, this new state makes the process pretty quick and painless if not contested. All these years he has been putting me down, gaslighting, and emotionally abusing me. My friends and family don't like him and they don't know how he treats me. I've kept it all a secret. My own fault. I thought I could help him. He admits to all of this. How do I handle this? I'm worried about him and don't know how to deal with it. I have to leave ASAP. I KNOW I need to get my act together and move on. Get a job and a safe place to live but it's all overwhleming. Heck, I don't know where to move because I don't have a job...I am willing to relocate anywhere but the hiring process takes time and I have to go. I'm not so much hurt over this but scared, confused, and I feel alone. I'm young, 27, and have two fur babies (thank goodness not human babies). I feel lost and alone. I don't have much in the way of family support. I don't want to be a burden to anyone else. I also feel weird talking with a counselor, which I so badly need. Any words of encouragement and/or advice would be welcome. 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Does anybody live in the same neighborhood as their ex? I have the opportunity to do so, and I wonder what that would be like. On one hand, it would be convenient for the kids to be able to walk from one house to the other if they'd like to. It would help eliminate the struggle of the kids needing something, like a piece of clothing, but it's at the other house. On the other hand, I could see a downside to living close to your ex when one party begins to date again. I would be nervous to have a date come to my house for dinner if my kids could drop in on me. If anybody has any experience/thoughts/opinions on this subject, I would love to hear. 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Can either spouse cohabitate with a “friend “ i.e. bf/gf or is that against the rules? ,10.5875,7.95575941666667,9.503333333333334,69.67500000000003,59.0,12.933333333333335,32.333333333333336,11.20814326018867,3.2423833333333327,102,2,19,2,1,32,23,24,0.0,0.868,0.132,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,11,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5444424891987789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6222550300047349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5624776027441841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lurkerloo29,2019/01/01,She's out. I'm home with kids. Cohabitating. I got out of the house briefly for myself and bought a book. I guess she needed to get out too. She went to a bar to meet her male divorced supporting friend. I got the kids in bed and I'm watching Netflix trying not to feel like I'm waiting up. Just sitting with my emotions. 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I understand this is a highly personal set of choices, however was wondering how many of you navigated social things like deleting photos, legally changing name, updating social media etc in conjunction with your separation and/or filing for divorce? I don’t want to rush anything but I don’t want to be in divorce purgatory - so much of what I decide for timeline is for my STBX’s benefit and not true to what I want (which is to disengage and detach now). We have been separated for almost a month (second separation in our marriage for physical intimidation, you get the jist). I’m very certain I will file but am waiting 1-2 months because he has been emotionally unstable. I realize I don’t have to wait, but am choosing to for his adjustment sake. 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Recently discovered my husband is having an affair. I would like to get my ducks in a row before confronting him and filing for divorce. (There is no working through this level of betrayal for me. I’m done.) I just found out about the affair 3 days ago and this is all super new. I feel like I’m trying to swim through maple syrup in figuring out what to do. My state (TX) does have at fault divorce but I’m not sure I have enough evidence to prove his infidelity. It is a community property state. We have kept our finances separate. The house was purchased prior to the marriage in my name and my dad’s name. No kids. I’m curious: how much do people prepare before letting the STBX know they intend to file for divorce? Should I figure out what the best option would be as far as dividing finances? Should I have already hired an attorney? I know he is in financial trouble and I am concerned about the shared debt aspect of a community property state. I’m afraid as soon as he knows, he’ll amass even more debt that I’d be on the line for 50% of. Also, yes I am going to consult an attorney ASAP. I hate this. He left me alone on my birthday, Christmas and New Year’s Eve. He didn’t even get me a birthday present. He’s been seeing a coworker 10 years younger than me for at least 8 months. I don’t even know how to start unraveling my life, or how to piece it back together.",2.8265625000000014,4.721520586805556,4.144466666666666,85.86720000000003,75.77083333333333,7.385777777777778,27.145,8.238735603445708,1.8327064999999998,1131,45,228,20,25,372,163,288,0.107,0.816,0.077,-0.8153,2,1,0,0,4,0,33.0,2,0,1,3,14,11,2,1,16,1,26,1,0,5,3,38,46,16,0,5,4,3,1,2,0,5,1,0,0,1,8,9,0,1,9,1,5,2,5,5,0,0,6,2,28,6,37,32,8,33,0,0,1,0,27,14,0,2,16,145,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645494603801294,0.0,0.0,0.1477474358141143,0.15742321018314734,0.11408105799982735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10969279908631224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641663939507382,0.0,0.14970749808263886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200059767204463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248382490148174,0.14598547352040125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14740062768194095,0.0,0.28266661345385125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213059489438645,0.10191267656569436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641371549364452,0.0,0.0,0.1490625764919191,0.0,0.08107405721091067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084216254259538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460458120014546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31359757071008565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549949472447358,0.14587428252582793,0.10076136231969156,0.13938793963144455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11386576620889187,0.0,0.2097355054453364,0.0,0.0,0.27555394892522445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09889893360446543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14085448646088425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11367747176695185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097186007801574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344505385102088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12468665507824107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685330110878657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414154576227915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385445347542588,0.0,0.0,0.2026758711266942,0.0,0.0,0.1837301344189459 divorce,Jnaks07,2019/01/01,"Cleaning house - Happy New Year! I’ve been cleaning out a bunch of boxes of old papers and photos tonight, and the thing is - even with over a year of distance from my former marriage, it’s still hard to reconcile who we were, and who that person was, with where we ended and who that person became - the person that I ultimately decided needed to leave my life. Finally threw out tons of photos and mementos from our wedding that have been gathering dust in boxes. Old love letters. Gifts he gave me. Etc.... Happy New Year. 2017 - the year he cheated 2018 - the year we got divorced 2019 - the year i made my life better",3.291771561771561,5.640461829059831,3.988951048951048,85.4083216783217,76.008547008547,6.305827505827506,23.45687645687645,7.348242739294969,1.0990410256410257,482,15,88,6,11,153,74,117,0.047,0.8340000000000001,0.119,0.8977,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,4,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,7,0,6,3,0,1,0,16,12,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,3,9,12,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,8,1,10,4,14,4,3,21,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,0,15,57,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747584323980676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276609774278169,0.0,0.1607488129377717,0.09519991921532726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15789303147577236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527806099608068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3068691334318949,0.12911679966188785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16631263212786532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261833163301616,0.0,0.0,0.2036138637453987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008761670002802,0.13638418117961876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10687440087940857,0.0,0.2784132871931328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30249122573114384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3775598079207215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151065314998679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957570011648936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5569099359257882 divorce,Savysavannah225,2019/01/01,"New Years Res. I can do it!!! Starting out 2019 is hard for anyone who's looking forward to the coming year of finally being free from a treacherous marriage. My divorce proceedings started in late August 2018 and then the holidays came. I slacked, I'll admit, because we have 2 girls together and I wanted them to have a happy holidays. My STBXH is an addict. And also obsessed with me. So far I haven't been able to get him served. He's jumped and had people (his mother and Aunt) lie to officers about where he is staying when they have tried to serve him. I've waisted 100s on the service fees. Next step is hiring a PI to do it. We are amicable at the moment and he's been providing funds to help pay for our kids. Until his car broke down and I did cut him some slack so he could fix his car but that ship has sailed and I have to get him served. Problem I have is once he's served I know he'll completely stop giving me the money needed for their daycare and bills. I know this bc in April 2018 when I told him I wanted a divorce, that's exactly what he did plus more (stalking, harrassing, damaging my truck, stealing documents from me that are between my lawyer and I). 🤬 I'm trying my hardest to be nice to keep him paying. But the problem with that is he gets opportunities to tell me/beg me not to go through with the divorce. Which I have told him countless times that I want this divorce. And I'm the kind of person that hates confrontation. I am a people pleaser so it's very hard to put myself first. I need this divorce. He has been far less than a husband since I got pregnant with our youngest. Typical addict behavior (agressive, selfish, self removed from the family duties, in and out of work, heavy spending, etc). My 2019 new years resolution, put myself first! It's going to hurt but I have to do it. Discipline! 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My wife left me before my military deployment under the guise she was just visiting family but went to go live with her “good friend(also military)” in another state with out telling me with my 3 yr old. She never told me she was moving and I only found out that she is staying after noticing some credit card charges in a different state than her family and confronting her about it. She has now decided to try and adopt her 17 yr old niece who currently shares a bedroom with my 3 yr old in the house with this good . This is not a favorable condition for my child in my opinion. I also give her informal child support as of now because she has no job and no money. I’m going to file as soon I get back but I don’t know how this is going to play out for myself and my child. 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I know I should go ahead and file to push the issue but she’s threatening to pack up our kid and move far away to hurt me. She wants the Separation also. We live in a very expensive California area. We own our home and we cannot afford a second household. I suggested we buy a trailer or rent a studio and swap off our time at the house. I asked for every other weekend Thursday night through Sunday evening and Wednesday dinner. She says it’s too much and that our daughter(who has Down syndrome) wouldn’t react well. So I should only have every other weekend. I know the custody thing will be ok but I’m terrified of her packing up and leaving. Do I have to be scared of this? On top of it all she won’t talk about anything other than hurting me( she has a good reason) fuck this shit is hard I don’t have any family in the area anymore and my friends are tired of hearing it. 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I had a feeling this was coming, but I was hoping maybe, just maybe we'd be able to work it out and push through it like the couple times before. But last night she finally said she wanted a divorce... 18 years married and 24 years together. This morning I changed the lock screen and the background on my cell phone from her and also changed the ring tone to just a generic Android ring. I still can't get over it....",4.562059925093635,5.393623202247195,4.5141011235955055,89.11849250936329,69.78651685393258,7.281647940074906,29.44007490636704,7.1686216300943375,1.4697400749063672,351,13,73,3,6,108,60,89,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.802,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,13,13,7,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,6,6,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,6,10,2,7,6,0,15,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,1,11,45,16,1,0.1748437126987706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982245387591333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877912165871812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3699229291726712,0.15061237676963662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346124252062447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840623460625516,0.0,0.0,0.3830654819366887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134862347699167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17365925781420258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850419238579402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541980632755765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3513080199963641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32815796025974625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33263281916772913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963041481606922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10195277493054476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312735179412637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12728830522327292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22518723700342344 divorce,WendyJenner,2019/01/01,Two pretrials? Did anyone have two pretrials before the final hearing? I just got notice that a second pretrial (the “final pretrial”) is scheduled in February with the final divorce hearing end of April. I had a pretrial already and the judge put in a temporary custody order but nothing else regarding assets. Is the final pretrial to start to look at division of assets? Wish we could just get divorced at the final pretrial... whatever that is. ,5.759120879120879,8.530935717948722,7.2121245421245455,63.201923076923094,70.02564102564102,10.61098901098901,36.78388278388279,10.608840637214634,5.362188278388278,358,20,46,12,7,122,50,78,0.053,0.902,0.046,0.3687,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,8,14,2,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,3,0,9,10,0,15,0,0,1,0,5,4,0,0,9,37,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15587866040590515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876894215664313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201977979990974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278080824614566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800062037607476,0.0,0.12511020826424366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7736910075976873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380002832231841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297471247760656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184098238559022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186188183537614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553820422222926,0.16082001720513564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420005225338949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09998117983582154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27597167181906224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243654497485424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,HypotheticalChicken,2019/01/01,"Need some help with filing taxes following separation (Florida, 3 kids) Okay... so for the past 10 years we have filed jointly and have claimed the kids as they have come, 1, then 2, then 3. Last year we split up on Jan 2nd. We have filed for divorce and are awaiting our court date. There's no legal separation in the state of Florida. 1) Do we file single or married filing separately? 2) We have agreed to 50-50 custody of the kids, are we able to go back and forth claiming 2 and 1, then 1 and 2? 3) If I recall correctly, one of us will end up being the ""custodial"" parent and the other ""non-custodial"".. how is that determined and how does it impact taxes? Happy new year. Tomorrow is the 1 year anniversary of her saying she wants to divorce. Prost.",1.9296171171171181,4.203415790540543,3.96475675675676,84.21087387387391,80.2837837837838,7.189909909909911,23.380180180180183,8.238735603445708,1.5333553153153163,579,20,116,12,15,197,94,148,0.015,0.898,0.087,0.867,1,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,8,0,1,0,5,2,0,0,7,1,12,0,0,2,1,23,17,16,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,3,15,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,12,2,15,15,2,22,0,0,0,0,19,4,0,3,14,70,15,3,0.22586663163698345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367749781371372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19456410355690915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197657411433895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20005079486230196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12836521185786634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2404392293505181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139364212201215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411145080188848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747724541312564,0.0,0.21814340029906595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15305307507159152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507981649191372,0.0,0.2156152572395882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17961821110051004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716897476344477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13322199134213036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5818028217832504 divorce,FridaKahlosTinyQueef,2019/01/01,"A Year Later, I’m feeling Down The judgement on our divorce will be final any day now a year after we went our separate ways, which I feel relieved about, but I feel down. This whole year, I was super positive and I told myself that by the end of this year, I would meet the father of my children and was very proactive in my dating life. But that didn’t happen. I’m halfway to 36 and I’m getting nervous that I’m still single. Everyone tells me that any man would be lucky to be with me. You’re beautiful. You’re not going to have problems finding a man. But that’s not what I want. I’d like to fall in love and have that person fall in love with me. Having spent the holidays all alone, I feel so down — especially when I see couples in love or beautiful families. I wonder if that’s ever going to be me. How much more can my heartache? Thank you for reading and or commenting.",2.506537753222837,4.097142342541439,3.980088397790056,88.01937753222836,75.85082872928177,6.81561694290976,24.77384898710865,7.554174236665415,1.1512759484346229,688,23,144,9,15,228,106,181,0.048,0.6709999999999999,0.281,0.9951,0,1,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,1,0,1,7,10,0,1,7,0,14,4,0,1,2,30,36,14,0,5,8,1,4,1,0,3,1,0,0,4,11,8,0,0,6,2,1,5,3,2,0,0,6,5,21,8,21,23,5,28,0,0,1,3,17,8,0,5,15,98,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541884520276188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024787006112779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16472612766229838,0.0,0.09601134302266638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318580784315329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466495669927558,0.0,0.1422553817488004,0.0,0.0,0.14034505405844974,0.0,0.30110044778277656,0.0,0.0,0.1630840696006483,0.13606803838533374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07778046298364892,0.0,0.16921692497833166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164868926657794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1051540312335025,0.07273226274509223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40309349445884507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094394388019468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12999093841748272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14245220687539334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891417739249266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11863321556532368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188908808650882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012234174543316,0.13706307607735585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422553817488004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12283655058798965,0.08780967751358769,0.11816916437563944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380075875369821,0.0,0.16621238159586146,0.0,0.0,0.16144738317389198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21151148011591284,0.0,0.0,0.3834796165603209 divorce,Tori_186,2019/01/01,"Having a low moment I know it's normal to feel this shit after your partner walks out on you and your/their daughter, but I am really having a low moment right now. I don't know where the man I married went, or if he ever existed. He speaks to me with no emotion and is pushing for a quick divorce. He only left two weeks ago but has been planning since our daughter was born, unbeknownst to me. He's been in counseling alone, didn't think to even give me a heads up. I would have done anything I could to support him and if it didn't work than at least I would have had sometime to prepare mentally. It makes me feel so pathetic that I hurt so much over this when he so obviously doesn't care about its impact on me and our daughter. Like finding a place to live, like the massive commute to work I now have to make, like the household income being less than half now he's gone. As he is in the military his expenses are next to none. I am in a very dark place at the moment and see very little light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for listening, I'm hoping writing down my feelings would be cathartic. 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Is it okay for a woman to disrespect a man by insulting him or in ocassions recurring to violence? 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It's just been a tough couple years. I'm so unhappy with my life with my husband. We're essentially roommates (and bad ones) with a Deadbedroom. At best, I feel meh in our relationship. At worst, I want to walk the fuck out. &#x200B; I know he loves me, or at least is very comfortable with what we've got going on, but I can't live like this anymore. &#x200B; We've got 2 kids, and I know it will be difficult for my oldest. She's too young to understand. The youngest won't remember us being married at all. &#x200B; I've been in counselling and I've been medicated for PPD. I feel like I'm finally getting through the fog and am excited about my potential future. &#x200B; I'm trying to get the financials together before I talk with him. I don't want to move, but have decided that itll be okay if I stay with my parents while I save money and look for a place. Having my mom there might help me feel less alone anyways. &#x200B; I'm terrified. I'm also excited. Cheers to 2019, I guess. 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Was to try to get me drunk so that he’d get some. This isn’t me guessing at his motives—he flat out told me that’s what he was trying to do. Didn’t work out for him, but didn’t work out for me either. Fell asleep at 11, missed out on the New Year with my kids. Never again. Never again will he rob me of time with my kids in service to his wants. I’m so done, and he has no idea he even messed up.",0.22402631578947307,1.3277699684210518,1.959144736842105,102.16713815789477,80.89473684210526,5.171052631578949,16.085526315789473,5.148860815047168,-1.134342105263158,317,4,87,1,8,104,62,95,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.936,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,1,0,10,2,1,0,2,15,18,4,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,7,1,0,1,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,6,0,12,0,18,10,2,19,0,1,0,0,12,9,0,2,9,56,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24708701577629244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947534206349745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2522951517101904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659842199075031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725674798326457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37244200282951867,0.4663875198225921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407913433137579,0.0,0.0,0.2307156690970684,0.0,0.3278571841698812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14241337130232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3515567181516139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548578062943438 divorce,liminal_woman,2019/01/01,"Having lost what I thought was love is like being skinless in salt water I don't think I realized how difficult it all has been for me until I got admitted to a psychiatric hospital for severe depression and sleep deprivation about two weeks ago. I spent the Christmas and the end of the year away from my child. I don't think I've ever been more miserable in my life. I'm feeling as if I'm ruining my child's life and I'm thinking about killing myself. I feel I am poisoned by the relationship that ended but I have no strength to get over it. Yesterday I relapsed, had a drink too many, as I got out for a few hours to visit a friend. I am dangerous to myself. My view of the world is surely distorted right now but I feel as if my ex is a bit pleased about me being in such a bad place, although he's probably a bit irritated because he can't make any plans of his own for I am not there to take care of the child. If it weren't for my self-destruction, he could be with his girlfriend. I am so guilty and hopeless. Happy new year sounds like a bad joke right now. I am very sad. 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No, it's not a comfy, cozy, nurturing word that offers self care. It's m-fing discipline. That's what I need this year. Discipline to stop thinking about my ex husband, who walked out to be with another woman. Discipline to find a good job, and to kick ass at that job and make myself indispensable. Discipline to lose 15 lbs, eat better food, and exercise. Discipline to stick to a strict budget and get my finances in good order. Discipline to stop feeling sorry for myself and being weepy about the life I thought I was going to have, but instead to find a new vision of what I want in life, and to make plans and put in the work to get there. No one is going to come save me, or fix me- this is all on me and I need to strap my boots on and hit the ground running. It's going to take discipline. Please root for me, friends. May we all find better things ahead in 2019.",3.877681159420291,5.03489773429952,4.784270531400967,85.34104347826089,71.65700483091787,8.225314009661835,26.360386473429948,8.648137234880735,1.7320218357487924,809,26,167,14,15,263,114,207,0.094,0.767,0.139,0.9171,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,6,5,10,0,1,8,0,10,7,1,3,2,49,28,12,0,3,3,2,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,13,16,2,10,7,1,2,8,3,2,0,1,2,1,18,8,37,21,2,27,0,2,0,1,8,11,1,2,7,107,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493159790301495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276129905085381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119725081801464,0.0,0.0,0.2216918628487437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316711776286691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506418415825344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704426564754951,0.0,0.15559967267040725,0.0,0.09941740530692823,0.0,0.13445937805136218,0.0,0.21939444960426888,0.2158603947114554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553889494425876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18178016814097084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14395936274615495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178903210390412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908283277421324,0.0,0.2485587829222252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871965092919239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125136801666496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935836460310549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424070523431908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14404608224179058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516352400056613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.096750913982759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08548889281033968,0.08245258031874876,0.0,0.10215709059459717,0.0,0.14789807065262028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589845941036458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368015467602574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573066281732954 divorce,LostMyWayBack17,2019/01/01,"I’m a little confused and could use people to relate to I’ve posted in here before, and they’ve been pretty melodramatic at least for me, but this really is more of a serious reflection that I’ve had. Now we’ve been separated for 6 or 7 weeks (lost count) and have not spoken at all in that time. I’ve had a lot of downtime to think, and a lot of therapy to discuss some things, and while by no means do I think I have this figured out, I feel like I’m starting to grasp little pieces of the big picture. I’m fully aware that my mental and emotional issues contributed to the breakdown of my marriage, but what I’m struggling with now are the causes. I’m doing a lot of things now that haven’t done for years, or that I never got to do. I was at a New Years Eve party for the first time in 12 years. I can remember the last 12 NYEs and they involved sitting on the couch, sometimes with her waiting until midnight, other times by myself since she had gone to bed. People laughed at my jokes, nobody gave me any looks of disgust or disdain. I stayed for 2 hours after midnight just talking, nobody was giving me the evil eye to leave at 12:01. I contacted an old friend I hadn’t seen in 3 years, and as bad and as awkward as I felt doing that, he met me that night for dinner, and the invited me over his house for a dinner party the next week. I don’t remember the last time I was at a dinner party. I guess what I’m having trouble processing is if I’m such a mess, why are all these people I haven’t seen calling me and inviting me out? I fully understand that none of them had to live with me, so is it just I’m okay in small doses, not really lovable to live with? But even still, for the years I had issues, I had no energy and I didn’t want to do anything but be on the couch on the iPad and fell asleep by 9. But now I have the energy to stay out until 12 on weekdays and still be productive at work. But deep down I know I’m still sad, I miss her like I would miss air, but I can’t help but feel I was being held back. My career got me down I will admit, I got laid off and for several years I struggled to find a good job, and I never felt good enough for anyone, and I felt like a failure, this is all on me. I never sought out help because my first experience with a psychologist when I was a kid was because the school thought there was something wrong with me because I was being picked on. So every time I go to see him, I always feel like I am the problem. And maybe my problems broke us because I expected her to be too much for me, to be that emotional support. But honestly I didn’t have anyone else in my life because I was cut off. I don’t want to label anyone controlling, but all these people I’m seeing now were my friends before I got married, but I barely saw them during. I had close work friends before I met my wife, but never again after. Happy hours trailed off, weekend get togethers with work friends pretty much vanished. I’m not blaming anyone, I’m just pointing it out. I do remember I used to play volleyball with people I met, and I enjoyed that, but game day was a source of contention because I was leaving the house and her alone. It got to the point where she would even mock me playing the sport so that I would be embarrassed about going, and then the volleyball games ended too. This year has been hard for me, and I know for a lot of you as well. I wasn’t at my best, frankly I was probably at my worst, but why do I read so many stories on here of spouses leaving when we are at our worst? I understand everyone deserves to be happy, I want to be happy too. I never asked to fall under life’s pressures. But she fell before too, and I never gave up, and I didn’t spend all my time reminding her how hard it was to deal with her and the issues life threw at her. I never blamed her, never once thought about just disappearing from her life because I “deserved to be happy” or “loved her but wasn’t in love with her” and all that cliche bullshit. I don’t even know what I wanted to get out of all this. I’m sad, but I can’t figure out what is making me sad. Why do I miss this person who I tried to do everything for, even while I knew deep down it was putting a heavy burden on me that I wasn’t sure I was ready for, who then decided to cut and run at my worst moment because it was too much for her, or because she found someone so much better for her and didn’t have the stomach to tell me to my face? She was my life for 12 years, but I don’t mean that in the sappy way, I mean literally I went to work and came home to her, and we hung out when she wanted, to the places she wanted to go, took the trips to where she wanted, and ate where she wanted. Hell for the first few years I even went to bed when she wanted. I’m free, and I know this now, but it kills me that to earn this freedom I have to be the villain she made me out to be just for this last time, and everyone else tells me I’m the better person, and I’m the wronged one. Which is it? 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I quit my full-time job, ended my lease in my comfortable city apartment, relocated to live with her while going to school full-time. Up until this past September, I was unemployed because of school, so I have had almost no financial contribution to the household. I now have a part-time job and have been living in student housing during the separation since I cannot afford conventional housing in our location. I'm currently going into my last semester of undergrad and have applied to graduate programs across the nation (USA) so I will likely not be able to commit to a 12-month lease anywhere anyways. &#x200B; She has now informed me that as of Friday, I will be responsible for: \-cell phone bill (she's already made arrangements to cancel the entire plan we've been on) \-health insurance (policy is in her name and she's made arrangements to cancel me) \-car insurance \-my pets (cat and small dog) &#x200B; Up until a few days ago, she had been reasonable about things and understanding of my financial circumstances. Now I feel like I need an attorney but- unsurprisingly so -I don't think I can afford a retainer for even one minute. Are there any options? Do I have any rights here?",6.501953405017924,8.321389016129036,6.864784946236558,70.38523297491041,66.09677419354838,10.349820788530467,33.939068100358426,10.504223727775694,4.076829928315413,1108,50,175,30,18,359,150,248,0.035,0.927,0.038,0.2039,7,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,2,0,0,2,11,4,1,0,9,0,24,2,0,3,1,26,36,15,0,1,2,1,2,2,0,2,2,0,1,1,5,10,0,1,6,0,1,4,4,1,0,1,8,2,32,3,33,23,1,31,1,0,0,0,15,14,0,2,15,126,37,9,0.10894064016533464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09656930440447177,0.0,0.10908831468271438,0.0,0.12021870540307394,0.0,0.0,0.3541114143126641,0.3971244058444704,0.1481667420923169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06640920309432329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025770047234302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09648907189137322,0.0,0.0,0.07195426538555619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016732193516178,0.07782721510148423,0.0,0.11933914632470148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05691698812728064,0.0,0.1857404290319924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579880620175145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25140574420092826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21621355109510965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880116184830054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694799590626171,0.10644578796099273,0.0,0.19239316230208253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061645355978432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695537962563729,0.0,0.0,0.08077810430075634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382099718195845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797209711117268,0.10399616792818857,0.0,0.09512276495599273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587178058429028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200912212796192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303471145965074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22050748782103705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011682330627764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07237532060042391,0.06980476338769337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341104841013933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3971244058444704,0.0 divorce,samus_94,2019/01/01,"Call recorder for android Going through divorce, lawyer suggested to document everything. I need an app that records the whole phone convo. I used one recently but it didnt record what I was saying only what the other party was saying. Help?",5.304302325581396,8.111331465116287,5.067616279069767,77.87723837209303,71.55813953488372,8.020930232558143,31.68023255813953,8.841846274778883,3.155655813953489,195,9,30,4,4,60,37,43,0.0,0.8390000000000001,0.161,0.7964,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,6,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,2,3,0,3,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,20,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277401935345004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884618033066178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241127322075304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2151354453228438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23799078526929301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21749355522486624,0.2441076325682944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169132901212138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5104870097788913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772098969331345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35834491326251344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Swampsofsadness,2019/01/01,"Is anyone else still very sexually attracted to their ex? I am. I still love him and cant imagine getting close to anyone else, I really don’t ever want to be intimate with anyone else. We separated for other reasons, sex and attraction wasn’t a problem for us. He’s very handsome and we had the most fulfilling amazing sex life. We spent New Year’s Eve together an event for our kids, he let me know he was fantasising about me, and for the rest of the night all I could think about was making love to him, and allowing myself to appreciate how attractive he is. I miss the way i feel when we make love, he makes me feel so attractive and beautiful, It’s just the other parts of the relationship that are a huge problem. But it does confuse me and make me question wether we should stay apart or whether the relationship could work some day. I think it’s a toxic relationship in many ways. 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So, still living in same abode as STBX. STBX plans and prepares a New Year’s day party in the home, without inviting me, and making it plain I’m not invited. Now, STBX asks if I’ll be here and starts asking me to do errands to prepare! Plus, FexMIL is here as well! Arghhhhbbbbb. That’s it.",0.9511160714285722,3.196273843750003,2.5413392857142867,93.126875,84.0,4.9071428571428575,20.080357142857142,6.18269132825596,0.020091964285714692,242,7,52,2,7,79,47,64,0.031,0.882,0.086,0.5302,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,8,8,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,8,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,9,30,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725199590733052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32596821976101953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25349972500961265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315723468095205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16869320089598028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4881589492465202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887719378148512,0.0,0.20182328233999944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22722649048967006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24361398372917895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3254880204500829 divorce,Renissancelady,2019/01/01,Case management so one Jan 15th I need to go to court. My husband and I are going through a divorce. He's already been served and answered. The next step is case management. I have absolutely no idea what this is or what to expect. Any advice?,0.7404464285714276,3.281291437500002,2.32595238095238,90.6,92.95833333333334,5.242857142857143,23.523809523809533,6.868970318607317,1.0538059523809524,191,8,38,3,7,62,39,48,0.056,0.944,0.0,-0.3597,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,8,4,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,4,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,24,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606505168264728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4072774530427096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25097996664773536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4195014888882437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4166346263950705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736604130856758,0.0,0.0,0.39250967956629057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250091095329432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,spacejam_igarashi,2019/01/01,"Has anyone experienced getting a divorce from an immigrant? I have been estranged from my husband since July of 2018, and I really want to get the ball rolling on this divorce. Ultimately he used me and denies any type of cheating through the “almost 2 years” of being together. He still continues to try and get me to come back to the marital home and saying we can work things out but there is literally nothing to work out. He continues to say that I just play the victim, but really he had no intention of treating me as a wife, but as a roommate. He is just worried about his status. Anyways, we have no kids, no property, and everything is separate; BUT he doesn’t want a divorce. Can this still be uncontested? I live in fear that he will try to fuck me over for the rest of my life. 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Well, 2019 has started in an unexpected way but possibly how I actually wanted it to if truth be told. I walked out last night on my wife (10 years this year) and my 3 year old son and I feel like a complete bastard for it. I've been unhappy for a long time, have had counselling, anti-depressants for a number of years but I've had this unshakable feeling of misery. The one constant thing has been my wife and I've finally accepted that it is her that is making my life miserable. I've come to the realisation she has been emotionally abusing me for years, and when confronted about the fact she tells me immdelus and it is all because of my depression. I've tried telling her numerous times how I feel, only to have my feelings undermined and told that she acts like she does to protect herself from the rollercoaster of my depression. I have spent the afternoon in tears at my parents house, telling them how I feel and how I don't see a way back from where I am. It breaks my heart as I feel my son should have a stable home, but if I'm always sad and miserable, I'm surely not being the best dad I can be. I'm not sure what my next steps are. I don't know how I'm going to move forward. I know that the fallout will be bad and I will be the one labelled as the shit in all this. 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You need DSD. If you're going through a toxic divorce, you might find this guy very helpful. Here's a review of his channel [http://narcissists.ca/co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-you-need-dsd/](http://narcissists.ca/co-parenting-with-a-narcissist-you-need-dsd/) &#x200B; <3",21.51681818181818,29.07708545454545,14.088106060606062,8.752159090909117,42.939393939393945,6.936363636363637,32.49242424242424,8.07648339933343,3.1286424242424244,272,8,23,3,4,74,29,33,0.0,0.894,0.106,0.4754,3,0,0,0,1,0,41.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952259365439948,0.3310862624055163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490366973501124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15485350061784853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269792529074579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18263387030309866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890523168159377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6061090232478217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248199447520676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310862624055163,0.0 divorce,notreallybeingme,2019/01/01,"Happy 2019! To all of you out there I wish you the best 2019 can offer. This is the year you can move on, the year your wounds will heal, the year that you realize things will not change with your STBX or EX. Go live life and enjoy the fresh start! 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We were best friends and while we didn't do everything together (different interests and all), part of what made trying new things fun was sharing an experience with someone else. I simply LOVE sharing experiences. family vacations, puzzle rooms, dates trying new things, movies, learning skills together, playing games with friends. Even mundane tasks. Not just significant other, family or friends too. I've accepted that a lot of what divorcing meant this year is that I need to work on myself and I've learned so much and really pushed myself. But part of what I think holds me back is not having that partner in crime to go travel the world with. I've been told a few times already to just go do things and meet people along the way, but that sounds so lonely and I'm terrible at initial interactions. **My problem:** If a group bails on a trip or event, I feel foolish for going on my own without someone to share it with. **The Real Question:** What drives you to go try new things by yourself? Go to the movies alone? What insight or advice could you give?",2.0738370720188897,4.945856041322315,3.0024391971664706,85.85171074380166,89.82644628099175,6.071499409681227,23.85643447461629,7.447530270364453,1.5778454309327037,1030,41,185,20,35,326,152,242,0.079,0.813,0.108,0.2816,1,3,0,0,0,0,46.0,2,4,0,4,9,15,0,0,12,0,15,1,0,3,1,48,32,16,0,4,11,0,2,0,4,0,0,1,1,3,17,14,0,1,12,3,0,10,4,3,0,0,12,3,20,12,26,19,10,29,0,1,0,1,25,8,0,7,10,123,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533898271015152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164624402148668,0.1189578014799933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08289002747633739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312737693674302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606795159236524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262599279244202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005141779292186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711995790395101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968819142777404,0.21089430711430315,0.20324476893784155,0.0,0.054505920557061605,0.0,0.1035030092703477,0.0,0.09852544219312116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24985346081349,0.0,0.0,0.1034096885248105,0.3675846118873871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916460262113686,0.09729192654402924,0.102001097980698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07924395199108741,0.15986173970384246,0.0,0.3123360136838086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198525580139117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334695131057455,0.0,0.07473357770188893,0.09412507772333496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152607656841917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314815176535168,0.0,0.0,0.12075845906669393,0.0,0.0,0.12269775277608565,0.06905817532973674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917164047752005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826738340281304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358081090258353,0.0690726219151151,0.0,0.08557959092742012,0.12571579087575047,0.0,0.0,0.10300563275161112,0.0,0.21956334937987032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06358206826912048,0.08556505489357015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391344960222347,0.0,0.07847824628255154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941839399245467 divorce,IDN2,2019/01/01,"Anybody had their spouse be in total, surreal denial about their marriage? My wife refuses to talk about “us”. She’s so angry and hateful towards me inside. If we don’t talk about “us”- she keeps up a jolly facade as a coping mechanism. She says shrubs going to get counselling on her anger and then consider marriage guidance with me, Am I clogging a dead horse here? Is her refusal to talk about us a sign in itself- or could she genuinely plan to address her anger and see what transpires. Every time I mention “us” it takes us right back to square one. Particularly interested in a female’s perspective-but all input welcome. Thanks ",2.9814043583535117,5.902439101694918,3.8971428571428617,82.13423728813561,81.71186440677965,6.083292978208232,27.072639225181604,7.447530270364453,1.9087486682808719,506,22,85,8,14,162,87,118,0.152,0.754,0.094,-0.8615,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,2,1,7,6,3,0,5,0,6,0,0,0,2,14,13,8,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,3,5,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,1,1,3,20,3,17,10,2,11,0,0,2,0,27,7,0,2,3,63,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082096118962668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123582645834592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856772927704418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352352973396269,0.0,0.07997783207943585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893779604778922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250837398481384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953595834895738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017923996606746,0.0,0.11191096807218738,0.0,0.0,0.11214040669681148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580844272955317,0.3393306983600817,0.0,0.12956159892645966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205846562049114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8463802886903652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bedhead64,2019/01/01,"My husband just pissed all over my friend's carpet I've been considering divorce for awhile, but haven't quite had the push to finally move forward...until now. My husband was laying butt ass naked in my friend's bed snoring his head off when I left the room. When I returned, he was doubled over the bed, pissing onto the carpet. I'm currently cleaning it up. Done with him.",5.097123287671233,6.175349397260272,5.2985205479452055,83.07901369863015,68.72602739726028,7.4838356164383555,31.03835616438357,7.554174236665415,1.9848871232876717,298,12,56,3,5,94,56,73,0.15,0.85,0.0,-0.8979,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,5,4,2,0,4,0,6,5,5,0,1,4,7,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,5,0,8,2,9,2,2,16,0,0,0,2,8,8,4,0,6,35,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386865819693151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3625500693866374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5113971386784346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396600359102073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595885784998865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517576826184386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520162778480706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MowAlon,2019/01/01,"I'm so sad right now. I'm so sad right now. I never get sad, but I am. Believe it or not, that's a gift. I took my ring off tonight - figured it was a fitting time to accept it's done and try to start fresh. As I started the bedtime ritual alone, I looked at my naked finger, and ideas of loneliness came over me. No one to say goodnight. No one to hold my hand. No one to worry about me when I'm sick. Eventually, it hit me that I could find someone else to do those things, and I'm sure I'd be fine. And what's that but proof that I'm just selfish and loveless? I pushed her away with my apathy. She deserves so much better, and a big part of me is happy she'll be able to find that now. Meanwhile, I've become the most cliché of clichés... the one who doesn't realize what he has until it's gone. I never cry, even when people die. I'm crying now. It hurts, but it's good. It hurts, but it's good.",-0.1853030303030323,1.5524906212121223,2.0376666666666665,98.08650000000004,84.7070707070707,4.9701010101010095,17.980808080808078,5.985473137389443,-0.5070937373737371,685,16,171,5,20,231,114,198,0.241,0.606,0.152,-0.9648,0,1,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,0,0,1,13,13,0,0,6,0,11,3,2,0,4,28,25,18,1,1,7,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,19,8,0,1,6,0,0,4,7,6,0,4,5,5,19,7,18,15,3,25,1,5,1,0,6,8,0,2,13,107,38,0,0.13739926862244478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230420484152614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909113577813086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517466972811979,0.0,0.15480192459110348,0.0,0.12151848746342195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714815972126392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970213571477927,0.0,0.3018532896182882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425987482831742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406071558079101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11477945824498648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075092108176017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511608846465726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07178544690954736,0.0,0.0,0.2304879753127213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626407637761088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941775176391864,0.1551070499782831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538078075279093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100427179996777,0.0,0.21194157271571548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3724212013583587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879001845712506,0.0,0.09525535268148376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23467644933343734,0.0,0.10926541321139957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11641795442631793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945038190422419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949718462310186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128196880173584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011861846939647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15265564301426962,0.09328508426977468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953562680530696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bonjarno65,2019/01/01,Found out my wife was cheating on NYE - and she spent NYE w/ the dude. Getting a divorce. Such is life. We've been married 1.5 years (together for 5 years). I am wondering if I have to pay alimony (I hope to fucking god I don't!). But yeah - I am getting divorced for starting the new year!,0.2671670702179192,2.5140503898305084,2.297142857142859,93.60542372881358,87.47457627118642,5.405326876513318,27.072639225181604,6.868970318607317,1.2759520581113808,219,11,48,3,7,73,48,59,0.127,0.7829999999999999,0.09,-0.2912,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,3,1,7,2,0,0,0,7,15,3,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,4,0,7,1,6,11,0,7,0,0,0,1,4,2,1,3,5,27,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3309501178233989,0.0,0.27904464572713,0.3153961089496945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997935388237504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21319731857596005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915173121989143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21364270316195424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3273307621212048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5831219094990081 divorce,MayArcher,2019/01/01,"2019 is already a nightmare So, it looks like I’ll be starting 2019 seeking divorce advice. I want it to be as quick as possible. I live in California, married 23 years with three kids one adult two teenagers. I am interested in mediation as opposed to lawyers, what is your advice (especially if you live in California)?",4.82677966101695,7.1047147288135655,6.012000000000004,72.97664406779663,71.20338983050848,8.787796610169492,37.22372881355932,9.3871,3.924570169491525,255,15,44,6,5,85,44,59,0.0,0.883,0.117,0.6969,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,8,5,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,5,2,9,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,3,0,1,4,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5410483649891908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30549907706321794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524970956191465,0.0,0.4889083884200371,0.0,0.2324753076209449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759348997612865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31209474089860345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19594829775928707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704317923209549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328700541135716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827544752894947 divorce,Sweetness521,2019/01/01,"Well Happy New Year Well we made through another year! My boys are with dad, which was hard because new GF on his end....but I dealt with it... Got texts drom an ex BF....thats a first. Got a couple of sweet Happy New Years wishes. A bit lonely, no kisses, no parties, 1 drink and lots of Netflix lol 2 years ago was the worst year for me so far, this past year was nearly unbearable, but some great discoveries....I hope 2019 is healing, loving, kind, soft, compassionate, and strong for all of you. Happy New Year my fellow divorcees",1.4272977346278315,3.9290226601941782,2.421577669902913,92.9889360841424,84.53398058252426,4.986731391585762,18.292071197411005,6.42735559955562,-0.09598317152103596,406,10,84,4,12,128,78,103,0.066,0.552,0.382,0.9922,0,2,1,0,1,0,30.0,1,1,0,2,3,15,0,0,5,1,5,4,0,1,1,12,11,4,0,2,1,2,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,2,2,1,6,3,7,13,10,5,5,17,0,1,0,2,10,3,0,3,14,43,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818961546887858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797965808930895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0744003096084929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324656386338612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504557236380818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956215331105235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809972847224167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381533616253467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952284455839911,0.13456012621631688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897722389669535,0.10933247783213043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12122280185031355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709588761568158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376221413212493,0.1101545384205238,0.11548629229133042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4715050966245225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651016322187195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21947451443705498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14035102850012005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501716323060649 divorce,Detectivejordan,2019/01/01,"I finally left. I’ve posted here before throughout the past few years but have since deleted them. I finally left. Thankful, I have a great family that has taken me back under their wing. I have an appointment with a lawyer tomorrow. My wife 27f and I 25m have struggled with sex since our wedding night a little over 5 years ago. We saved sex for marriage due to religious reasons. Sex was not the only issue we had, but it was a pretty major one. The routine was once every 6-8 weeks. When we did have sex it was so one sided (all about her). I’ve gone as long as 8 months without getting off. There are so many things I’m going to miss. Having someone to do daily tasks with, an ear to listen, someone to be lazy with. Those aside, I am hopeful to find someone that I have a deep connection with that carries over into the bedroom. I encourage all of you that are unhappy with anything in your relationship to let your significant other know ASAP and give them an opportunity to change. Unfortunately in my case, my opinions, desires, and wants weren’t valued, and I made the decision to leave before I’m too old to have children. As much as the pain hurts right now, an opportunity for a new, satisfying life is liberating. I feel like I can breathe again. Any tips or advice on moving forward are certainly appreciated. Good-luck to all of you out there that are struggling. Blessings for 2019. 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Who gets the friends? You? Because you're still in the big beautiful dream house we just built? Because you're an alcoholic and so are all of the people you surround yourself with? Because no one knows the reason I left was because you assaulted me? Because no one knows you pissed on me while we slept 8 times a month because of your drinking? Because I had to ask you to get gas or groceries before I used our debit card? Why do I love them like family? Why does losing them hurt more than not having you? This sucks! I just cried because NOT ONE of my ""friends"" reached out on new years. Normally we would have had the party to be at. Tonight I'm in the basement at my moms, with our son. Enjoy yourself and enjoy our ""friends "". I wish you the best as well as them. 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I’m a 25F divorcing my STBXH of 2 years. No kids. He turned out to be really controlling so I had to get out because we were headed in a scary direction. Our divorced isn’t finalized yet, I’m hoping to have this wrapped up in the next 60 days. I find that I keep comparing previous memories to the present. “Last time this year I was kissing [X] when the ball dropped,” or “last Christmas we went to church in his hometown.” With the new year starting I’ve read a few of your posts saying this year will be better— does anyone have advice about how to get past these moments of weakness? Especially this time of year? Thanks. As a final note, just wanted to express some appreciation for everyone in this sub. I’m new to Reddit but I SO appreciate all the support constantly being shared here. Really makes a difference to know you’re not alone in all of this.",3.3603893442622947,5.420906989071039,4.474996584699458,83.35052766393446,74.7377049180328,8.290846994535519,26.191598360655732,9.017664075816787,2.15751393442623,741,27,145,17,16,242,122,183,0.038,0.828,0.134,0.9575,0,1,0,0,1,0,18.0,3,1,0,1,8,7,0,0,10,0,12,3,1,3,2,20,27,7,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,9,5,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,2,0,0,5,2,11,5,28,18,4,38,1,0,1,1,12,8,0,3,26,85,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11769947413501156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247468303983516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842193856762421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342341051606635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10652563754349527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301604834798883,0.1350916208795596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767839009254167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584154303140566,0.0,0.0,0.10540403487388923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11509232855578347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26388773612567185,0.11008643179095652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258572363433353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361343369806645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963110894295692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705888214112363,0.0,0.0,0.06619455483465145,0.19636086135322894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039934859149392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489855665794969,0.1280968159546062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498034871829192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535498992030425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12047965581601287,0.0,0.23148441475076456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578433740217013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0852530498059245,0.12838054117388947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668189760885704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089147131612412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21070094986474028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177564815499877,0.1310118152659088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710427973306286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111655632375619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.542947708493021 divorce,Justkeepbreathing123,2019/01/01,"You got this. Hi folks - The “first” holidays after my ex left were really hard. Every single one consisted of me hiding away and wallowing in what “should” have been. That was in 2015. There were more hard days after that, but none quite as difficult as that first year. With time, I began to find myself as an individual and not part of a broken union. I am poorer, but happier. I am without the future I planned, but in control of my life. I am alone, but not lonely. I am confident and secure in who I am. If you’re in the throes of mourning a lost relationship, I empathize more than I would wish on anyone, but I’m also popping my head back in to say that it really does get better. Time heals. Hang in there. You’re stronger than you know. Just.keep.breathing.",2.3134451901566,4.6610905906040285,3.7269530201342285,86.03454586129754,79.33557046979865,6.926353467561523,20.671588366890386,8.021203637495839,1.0174640715883672,594,16,118,11,15,195,96,149,0.12,0.701,0.179,0.9149,0,3,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,2,0,7,4,6,0,0,6,0,12,3,1,1,0,19,19,13,1,4,9,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,8,4,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,4,0,3,7,3,16,2,24,10,5,22,0,3,0,0,7,10,0,1,11,89,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854317325915837,0.0,0.1431784458676072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12518912547817918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682142351043789,0.1376709225125668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15834657659866594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20080889621250936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11546616786806345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566793540677187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084915640801866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363957077415253,0.30458313851112223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354115579453423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14319486619376573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3207698445167269,0.0,0.1837469786529358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913922575309802,0.0,0.0,0.09839585464353573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19452778623307146,0.0,0.12646144341033502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954436135190337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12132232617199395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388317404650005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904313744709569,0.0,0.0,0.22939557372914335,0.0,0.0,0.19222225493591455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238001545132592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087996521560116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588748413289734,0.17258843920983274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271850767847342,0.0,0.0,0.11529606915633203 divorce,definitelynotstalin,2019/01/01,"I think I’m finally done I’m very drunk right now, so apologies for any typos etc. We got into a fight earlier tonight. We started talking about it more now. I’ve tried really hard to acknowledge the things about this relationship that I need to work to fix, and to start working on them. I haven’t felt like he was making the same effort. Tonight I finally asked him what changes he thinks he needs to make. His answer: nothing. He things that I am everything that is wrong with this relationship. I’m not perfect, but I’m sure as shit not that bad. I’m done. I’m so fucking done. Have fun being perfect on your own. 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Counting down the days... Happy 2019 to you all! I’ve had such a sucky 2018 but here are things to look forward to in 2019. -My divorce will be finalized on Jan 22, 2019 (21 more days!!!) -I will be graduating with my bachelors in May! -I’ll be getting a boob job! ( from A cups to D cups, lmao) I hope you have all have a fun and safe night!! 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May 2019 suck less than 2018 for all of us. You all are incredible . Believe tomorrow can be great. 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I don’t know why. Guess it’s sad this could possibly be my last one depending on what my husband decides. 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I ended up running into so many people I know and I meet some new pretty cool people 😃 I'm really glad I went. I know it's difficult. Trust me, I do, but you've got to get out and see people and be seen yourself. I very seriously considered sitting in my apt watching Netflix for new year's, but I pulled myself off the couch and went and I netted a phone number of a cute girl and a new bunch of people of hang out with and saw several friends. So you never know. Just. Get. Out!! 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Thanks for being there and helping me get through what was easily the most torturous and painful trauma of my adult life. This song is my elegy to 2018: may it rest in peace now and forever and if it ever, I mean **ever**, comes back to life, we are going to throw as many nukes, priests, and nail-boards at it that we can get our goddamn hands on. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YBRCvVpknvg",2.0935984848484885,4.953484193181822,2.2881818181818185,91.71893939393942,87.75,5.206060606060606,17.56060606060606,6.816661863887847,0.02726969696969661,371,9,74,5,12,112,69,88,0.128,0.764,0.108,-0.469,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,4,1,0,0,5,4,1,0,2,0,6,4,1,0,2,15,13,7,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,2,7,9,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,3,0,1,1,2,9,1,15,10,2,15,1,0,0,0,8,5,0,3,6,53,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870779801362524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095761394460459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4401464961264805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542220269360741,0.0,0.13826952170792708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408991970260591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16307476288053896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3436913324403838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24666181317709146,0.0,0.26501836510397536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349747504525645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648622331532385,0.0,0.2588818474201143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239923219909591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926525879921289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667328540961425 divorce,trying2moveon,2019/01/01,"NYE So I was tempted to post this on my FB profile but decided not to; Things I’ve learned in 2018: Be careful who you talk to, not everyone has your best interest in mind. Anxiety is real and if you don’t get help with it, it will completely fuck your life up. When you need help, put your pride aside, and ask, you’ll be amazed at who steps up and helps. Worry about the things you can control, everything else will completely stress you out. Nice guys finish last. If you’re ok with that, be the nice guy. If you don’t advocate for yourself, no one else will, so step up and stand your ground. When we are unable to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. I never knew how strong I was until I had to forgive someone who wasn’t sorry and accept an apology I never received. Hypocrisy is real most hypocrites are in denial. When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but stay above it, trusting that others will see the truth. I really wanted to just because stbxw has been posting shit on her timeline and I decided to not stoop to her level.",5.065907738095241,5.973552941964287,5.4054285714285735,82.90623809523811,68.6875,8.294761904761904,28.772619047619052,8.447377352677275,1.970514047619048,905,31,176,13,15,288,134,224,0.14400000000000002,0.66,0.196,0.9351,0,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,13,1,7,9,17,2,1,7,1,26,3,1,5,3,41,36,19,0,5,9,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,3,13,11,0,3,7,0,0,4,10,3,0,1,6,3,26,14,25,20,2,28,0,0,2,1,32,12,2,4,8,125,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265979236965624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132349119616774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07383627645780333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711252726711708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12349434221069652,0.0,0.25626699292519217,0.0,0.25399314242656845,0.0,0.40755375688575307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202367695770864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11573950228800185,0.10885875111561948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061244108195869576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197750515248968,0.06328247102351749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23986428932412845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435612857240652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873250740100707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555370692430912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230105974965345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08981216703378503,0.18683712383877615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207699087393101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576110604347397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23200728123842584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12176342146277985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757320441379131,0.07759535695348935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930408418375579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12433239950744973,0.0,0.13614883865668573,0.0,0.0,0.10262826442919053,0.0,0.0,0.13558878759702814,0.0,0.12910243563043833,0.0,0.0,0.1387475279259689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735516037773727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609392653902167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223547942338255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144227688650022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300765183201486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,InsaneGenis,2019/01/02,"I’m gifted 2 joints for my birthday submitted to discovery. I was gifted 2 joints for my birthday before our divorce and she flipped the fuck out I had weed in our home. Filed it in court as evidence and still lost half in the divorce. Today she’s texting the dealer to date him. Completely fucking oblivious I might add that’s where I got my weed. I’m not going to react except here to state FUCK YOU! You naive asshole! You are texting the drug dealer. You dumb piece of shit. I can’t and won’t tell it to your face because they are a pride possession amongst the friends you took from me, but you put yourself into that abyss. FUCK YOU!!",2.5225520833333306,4.669174484375001,3.3200000000000003,90.25833333333335,77.59375,6.141666666666668,25.510416666666664,7.1686216300943375,1.134951041666667,506,19,102,6,12,160,83,128,0.152,0.818,0.029,-0.9411,0,0,1,0,2,0,13.0,2,8,1,2,3,9,6,0,6,0,7,7,2,1,0,11,17,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,7,0,1,5,0,23,2,16,10,1,13,0,1,0,4,18,6,6,1,3,66,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158319455477036,0.0,0.1616895586998204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992280844488273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035814946995735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680583398799013,0.7026666512254817,0.0,0.0,0.1079904303378093,0.0,0.15197309525487704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19060146791793287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20742483081826169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20157687077495787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19101848957184545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19504861865281964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517469649032583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16608229565041654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18011288099187658,0.0,0.2111146866948481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Nebula2Parsec,2019/01/02,"Complex Divorce- International - I am from Asia. I married and American English teacher ten years ago. Two weeks after marriage, my parents put $50000 down on a condo. MY mother had cancer and wanted to help me get started in life. She died two weeks after. My very cheap new husband did not want to have anything to do with the condo and I used my own savings and completed the unfinished condo on my own. Soon after, we had one child. The next year, we traveled to the states to visit my new in-laws. We stayed with my new ""urban"" in-laws for two weeks and slept on the floor of the apartment, because they did not have a mattress. They did not even pick us up from the airport. One day, we were asked to leave the apartment and stay with my husband's sister. We moved in with her and slept on the cold unfinished basement floor in sleeping bags for one month while I worked at a Sushi Restaurant to earn enough money to return to Asia. During this time, my husband who has an economics degree, stayed at home. Eventually, we returned to Asia and lived there for two more years. We returned back to the states and lived with my husbands college friend for one year. During that time I worked from home in sales and my husband worked with his friend only to be fired after one month. My husband had no desire to leave his friends home during this time. We had our second child during this time as well. After being asked to leave, I found an apartment for the family. We lived the the new apartment for two years and I earned about $50000 per year. My husband decided he wanted to be a fire fighter and trained, only to not pass the test. He then worked at the local airport for three months. After outgrowing the small apartment, I walked to a nearby apartment complex and signed a new lease. At the time I did not have a license or car. In the new apartment, I continued to support the family and encourage my husband to get a job. He decided to become a heavy machine operator like his father. This requires him to work long hours away from home. I had no car and paid all bills- his car, mortage, insurance, food, credit cards. He slowly started making money, but contributed nothing to bills. I bought a car and learned to drive. One week after leasing my car, my husband used my car to go to job sites and put 18000miles on the car in two months!! I still paid for all bills. My husband does not believe in sharing bank accounts and I have no idea what he has saved. He spent $3000 to join a bit coin club and start investing. He buys his own groceries because he does not like my cooking and if I need money for things like our children, he will only write a check directly to who needs the funds and not to me.. He never sent our children to preschool or summer camp because he said that these expenses were not necessary. This past year, he made $90000 because of working 5:30PM-7PM mon-sat. as an apprentice. He devotes no time to the kids and says that Sundays are his time off and do not disturb him. As he has made more each year, I have made less because he works more and I can barely work from home while taking care of the family. This past year I only made $30000. I have filed for divorce and to my amazement he wants 1/2 of the property in Asia. The property he said was a waste and spent not a dime to help purchase. He also said that he will not leave the home and I must leave, because he will not. &#x200B; We are all still living in the family home and I am sleeping with my daughter in her bunk bed, while he sleeps in the master bedroom. &#x200B; He has not paid any spousal support since I filed, five months ago and is slow to produce documents. He has gone on ""unemployment"" suddenly because he says work is slow. What advice do you have for me if you have any at all? Does he has a right to this property in Asia? It is being rented and my elderly father lives off the rent. I profit nothing from it. I have not been home in five years. &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B;",4.255669491525424,5.774580344871797,4.391573229030858,87.1240482398957,71.19230769230771,6.877879182963929,27.835723598435465,7.270048000033692,1.4176329856584098,3159,114,616,31,59,980,304,780,0.04,0.883,0.077,0.9862,9,0,0,0,3,0,120.0,14,2,2,14,9,19,0,1,47,0,47,9,5,9,6,102,86,43,1,10,20,16,2,3,3,4,2,5,16,5,19,48,2,1,7,3,28,18,20,1,1,17,31,8,78,18,102,47,14,133,0,0,0,0,97,42,0,4,71,390,97,22,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03829377287902122,0.06947507404902921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03133839442605539,0.0,0.25475917925157565,0.28570411346406777,0.05329796793063809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03224814312782365,0.0,0.07327043054149407,0.0,0.036818139880165315,0.030132927093559244,0.0,0.16721923346540318,0.04327974258786201,0.0,0.04415112531901357,0.0,0.0,0.04278282555616613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039954478113069285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04108756428953648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02527282852937541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0406706520116916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288027712077466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04049137595613633,0.0,0.025883110304217583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14777072685371212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04738592979157832,0.04296729707566405,0.09082897361706878,0.0,0.040947918069578926,0.0,0.022271276469051887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525333867417196,0.0,0.3144677152691136,0.0,0.03859199676595297,0.0,0.0,0.04423815026552482,0.0,0.0,0.07777550312374784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074706126151326,0.0,0.0,0.02767943575072689,0.05743540128824915,0.0,0.17301731228019904,0.034679886751025985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832142019944602,0.026158098132641423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639626576239604,0.04165032986133746,0.0,0.05811437508475392,0.030223974805214267,0.2270863845886371,0.04167657003347911,0.0,0.0,0.07520332184088445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15932762311640655,0.11921606547978846,0.0,0.0,0.0435133100939348,0.0,0.0748181993458742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878893673536548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033466086908512487,0.11182944724364599,0.06232727357199215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032416475457065635,0.0,0.11764802103816648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08321178026930963,0.125306641901207,0.06259070545655053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08893948901935238,0.0,0.0,0.029464278032057714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02603457065909982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995466604439715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296841680971461,0.0,0.04713798540739851,0.06769119194824873,0.0,0.03233396161761134,0.09245569755218376,0.0,0.1257360563339575,0.0,0.035234454056210486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567620510083468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28570411346406777,0.25235597921882064 divorce,noetherlostnorfound,2019/01/02,"Tomorrow is my birthday What should be a happy occasion is now just a regular day. I met my STBXW 16 years ago on my birthday and spent every one with her since. Now since were not together it just doesn't seem real. 5 months till divorce is final but everything seems so out of whack knowing that I was happily married in October separated in November and got served in December. Excuse me if it sounds like a pity party but I'm still not quite adjusted to this yet. I keep being told it gets better but I have yet to see it. I'm going to try to make the best of it but since it's the first since all this has happened I can't say how it will go. Just looking for support and venting. Don't mind me...",1.59195694716243,3.5927290958904123,3.5908414872798424,87.89246575342466,79.95890410958904,7.1851272015655585,24.127201565557733,8.192908349453996,1.4827667318982392,552,20,117,11,14,187,102,146,0.018000000000000002,0.795,0.187,0.9796,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,0,4,10,6,0,0,5,0,14,0,0,2,1,26,32,11,0,2,10,0,0,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,11,5,0,1,4,0,1,2,5,1,0,2,6,4,11,5,14,22,2,20,0,1,2,0,6,5,0,3,14,79,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458967413559555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272425327075944,0.14556412227070034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614521474799984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138671927865309,0.0,0.1479204835485706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18029737992157732,0.0,0.13999790260132527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08599008915695704,0.0,0.18707755016593008,0.0,0.13163552669658093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554403629365606,0.17520627800811225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1462927851879035,0.0,0.0,0.09045289468154097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040905798352574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821190855624868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098633237851156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618628921672074,0.0,0.13137204010100606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152863737513036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17505888964006458,0.0,0.18733641935408774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13088645440431718,0.0,0.0,0.13115479636040747,0.2996682556255441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5445933754132958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314396578956758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677175668254814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727025129958205,0.0,0.1117439962932837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105988847176282 divorce,hustlors,2019/01/02,"Could be divorcing over yoga My wife is a yoga instructor. I am semi retired at 45 and pay all the bills. She is 12 years younger than me. Whatever money she makes and it isn't much goes to her and all my money is for us. I do all the cooking and purchase the food. Our marriage is basically sexless and we dont have kids. We dont fight about money, or exes, lack of sex life, or not enough nights out. We fight about her crazy family and the fact that I dont do enough yoga. She says shes not sure if she can be with someone who doesn't have a shared spiritual practice and who isn't interested in spiritual awakening/development. We have been married for 3 years and together for 10. Does this sound crazy or am I unenlightened? ",2.476943727413526,4.308455630872487,4.3229530201342286,84.48341765616935,76.58389261744965,7.806091894682499,24.88435725348477,8.617729084823388,1.6851947341249351,575,20,121,12,13,195,90,149,0.102,0.867,0.03,-0.812,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,6,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,6,0,23,4,0,1,5,28,24,12,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,5,14,2,0,0,4,6,0,8,2,0,0,1,2,20,3,13,20,7,7,0,0,0,1,23,4,0,4,3,87,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062723739414569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16509498359892127,0.0,0.6633136826099246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3898661572341077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17784899892188333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22812475395773946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332539953968752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592999075374842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868457826374747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17704178402828935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500275926947665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984843635046364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778069592082665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22693110318661386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429778034208344 divorce,Leelsabeth717,2019/01/02,"Staying married too long I got married a year out of high school (age 19). No, I wasn't pregnant and no, not religious. I just thought I knew everything like most teenagers. Now here I am 15 years later, 3 kids and I am pretty sure I'm headed for divorce. The only way I'd stay is if my husband would agree to go to marriage counseling with me but I doubt he even cares enough to do that. Here's the thing though, he did something AFWUL nearly 4 years ago and at the time I wish I'd been strong enough to leave him but obviously I didn't. Now I feel like I don't know him anymore. At all. But here's the thing, I feel like our marriage has been pretty dead for the past 6 or 7 years. Has anyone experienced this? Sticking around just hoping it'll go back to what it used to be? For YEARS? I don't know what I'm doing anymore",1.3177214285714314,3.0647266400000035,2.7007678571428566,95.18029464285715,79.74285714285716,5.517857142857144,21.794642857142854,6.322622252153567,0.13060714285714334,642,19,149,5,16,208,108,175,0.068,0.731,0.201,0.9707,0,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,0,1,12,8,0,1,6,0,17,1,1,1,3,29,32,9,1,4,8,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,6,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,8,3,18,7,16,21,4,25,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,5,17,90,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11792005233909135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2638532788607511,0.09301529001097328,0.0,0.0,0.1184218750724906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1022892422538463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13562948193331345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749040709857949,0.0,0.08786281306063494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955572824971206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13452448941995526,0.1900684557017016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120416194364136,0.0,0.1063935222505986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652366723355694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405499039507257,0.0,0.1321254269823355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621587810582354,0.0,0.0,0.14085595925315395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19497022835117636,0.0,0.0,0.11772435270551215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117272182478247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12698893960956253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706717472132198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463001864500415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10241037386522577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2835773064163689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253759938609038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675392084247632,0.0,0.13069795665403774,0.10560825921862446,0.07756887878758686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11489226901435025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559032123581567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297402208939567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09449827816124484,0.0,0.0,0.428323836784479 divorce,callmesiren,2019/01/02,"Need advice from mums who don’t have primary custody My STBXH wants primary custody of my daughter and I’m weighing the pros and cons. Obviously I want to see her as much as possible but I also want what’s best for her. He has a good job and access to 24/7 free daycare (his parents.) I do fear her not knowing I’m her mom and becoming more attached to him and his parents. She is 17 months. I know a lot of people will advise to get the most custody I can, as her mother. I’m just trying to do what’s best for her as well as avoiding drama (which I don’t want her to deal with.) I fear it could get ugly quickly and want to do what I can to avoid my daughter seeing that. Whether it be arguments or cops called, etc. So as a mum who doesn’t have primary custody, how often do you see your children? Why did you choose it to be that way/ why did it end up that way? Are you happy with the situation? What would you tell me knowing what you know now? And do you feel like you get to see your child(ren) enough and have a good bond with them?",1.3471363636363631,3.07780580454546,2.9672727272727286,93.38090909090911,79.5909090909091,5.854545454545455,22.81818181818182,6.742157984588678,0.4657454545454547,807,26,184,8,20,266,118,220,0.092,0.741,0.168,0.9563,3,2,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,9,1,2,8,12,0,4,7,0,23,1,0,1,1,37,44,20,0,8,5,8,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,15,11,1,2,6,1,1,0,4,4,1,0,2,5,33,9,25,37,8,7,0,0,4,0,37,1,0,4,5,131,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655496286264184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538483998542656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173078573295935,0.0,0.0,0.25034525449882616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179396060086475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523204651704917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12296814570198004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056429844621666,0.123243819190515,0.13302408214051809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684369439525792,0.06030944464124001,0.08521067841709531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18695009832200135,0.0,0.0,0.2000858182348444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697134139284874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836285898036868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26220351236613954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058272146799619264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140404726488177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969441320013154,0.09520483137235264,0.0,0.08768146078289463,0.0884415183010071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648833928196014,0.0,0.0,0.08269084387879308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13446557937861722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3801895825494521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407103295020753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425233471251732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098046065049577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35175988106078004,0.1893512076702233,0.0,0.0,0.10724329767613223,0.0,0.21525577293720904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847301290647038,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,2DD4eva,2019/01/02,Loneliness? How did you learn to deal with it? In the early beginning here. ,0.7526190476190457,2.6384366428571475,2.2442857142857164,87.28404761904763,111.14285714285714,7.580952380952381,18.952380952380953,7.793537801064563,1.9531238095238104,59,2,11,2,3,19,14,14,0.196,0.804,0.0,-0.4871,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,9,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lovemedegrademe,2019/01/02,"Ex husband and new girlfriend, advice appreciated I don't know why I put myself through this, but I was over on the step parent subreddit and it made me realize my deepest fears about my divorce and being the ""bio-mom"". Ugh, it seems like this is going to be hell. My ex's girlfriend is moving in to my ex's house soon (they just met a couple months ago) and I am now going to be the ""bio-mom"" and her the ""step-mom"". The girlfriend doesn't have kids and my ex had a vasectomy. My daughter will probably be the only child she will have with my ex. It seems as though the step-mom always sees the bio-mom as a nuisance and honestly, I feel scared. I don't know why, but I just feel like everything is going to get a 100 times harder. My ex was emotionally abusive and got worse after the separation and divorce. So, we don't have an amicable relationship and I have had to create boundaries so that he stopped verbally abusing me. The new girlfriend is obviously going to support my ex's side of things and I am worried it's going to feel like 2- against-1. I am single and I feel kind of like a sitting duck. I am sure I am going to be labelled as difficult (even though I avoid almost all unnecessary contact with my ex) and this is because I know how my ex works. It's not that I am against my daughter having a step-mom and I can't do anything about it, anyhow. I am positive and supportive whenever my daughter says anything about the girlfriend. I am just venting, I guess. I don't like the idea that this new woman can just swoop into my daughter's life and then start judging my parenting or think of ME as the problem. When all I wanted was to have a family with my daughter and her dad. Now I am going to be the odd one out. Perhaps I am jealous, or hurt or feeling replaced. But I think I have legitimate concerns. Does anyone else feel this way? Or understand what I am trying to express? I don't know if I got my feelings across properly in this post. &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B;",4.13612575703598,5.110125369077309,5.41480851442822,81.74912406483794,70.87032418952619,8.022835767723548,30.530904880655502,8.306716005460428,2.195677520484504,1567,65,311,23,28,524,178,401,0.14,0.7609999999999999,0.098,-0.9707,2,2,0,0,2,0,62.0,1,0,1,1,17,19,2,3,22,0,45,1,0,2,4,67,79,36,0,3,13,18,7,5,5,2,1,1,0,3,17,23,0,2,18,0,0,10,8,9,0,1,9,9,55,10,34,62,3,35,1,1,1,0,39,8,1,10,19,218,72,1,0.0,0.1643886427592494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06778938782579877,0.0614939764986681,0.0,0.06946590638450857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772295254405105,0.2254931742952964,0.2528832430827425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048506424009238734,0.07107967811301326,0.1141742751783815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04228844765488948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767586539354883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060707790336206977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795129521826229,0.07803401579372474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0458194654283274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062346963026505685,0.0,0.06539762446255537,0.07806263951977183,0.2455355106597326,0.09911855461570124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03624393850466516,0.0,0.2759794240943735,0.0,0.11096604228218997,0.0,0.07642093511660214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004582315706392,0.07426402089691296,0.07831239649641636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07224012667245591,0.15249986060243495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899940287506256,0.16945795622175935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564134009815609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4874849695425382,0.05537196424999921,0.07373131848257884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099935103640648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047008174013578034,0.05276043263879203,0.0,0.0,0.15405850255919654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643907465872421,0.0,0.0747946083015862,0.06637951006965558,0.0,0.06973788931178998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07447942595907549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055167294871212864,0.06945334321605978,0.0,0.0552803982468473,0.12630708881889532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910176616419416,0.0,0.0,0.05799798902345558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574447504352398,0.0653821658576698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04608758747443088,0.08890138550193658,0.13631501878570604,0.0,0.04045129487795016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04709894558344736,0.0,0.0,0.07221856249903226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040917325891798736,0.05506416087647489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519464392587942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050503547084509215,0.07045050069151046,0.07069586144808235,0.0,0.0,0.2528832430827425,0.0 divorce,blueeyes783,2019/01/02,"I don’t know what I am My best friend of 11 yrs decided we should divorce and just be friends because he wants other sex. I’m not going to deny we had a lot of troubles. And, yes, our sex sucked. I should have changed it up, but none of that matters now. I’m just so confused. He started taking antidepressants and started showing a lot of side-effects. He won’t go see his therapist, because he never got one. And he won’t talk about filing. So he’s moved out, abandoned his belongings, and wants to stay married? I’m just so confused right now. I appreciate any insight anyone can provide. Thank you.",1.7113846153846168,4.121321266666668,3.153333333333337,88.89576923076925,82.16666666666666,5.35897435897436,27.56410256410256,6.67199483983844,1.3182179487179484,472,22,93,5,13,154,81,120,0.135,0.732,0.133,-0.2884,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,1,0,1,9,9,1,2,2,1,10,2,0,0,1,27,25,9,0,4,5,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,1,3,1,0,3,6,5,0,1,2,1,11,4,9,18,4,12,0,1,1,2,16,3,1,4,5,57,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981346366463354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375866900654066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506608587786963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576206693274208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2174950701907789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3176884947166621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336917840787568,0.0,0.16443523583982186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11299110082673512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495835681330072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185177824515379,0.0,0.0,0.15856959532599707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13931829992935996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17557928407589712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638347216155255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910461735249952,0.2191397571628695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15458385848409373,0.16525161666817986,0.0,0.18928670866664896,0.0,0.2387147375871441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425336614544704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,juggernaughtish,2019/01/02,"40 male. She’s trying to take my kids. I’m hurting. 40m. Married to 43f. 22 years together. 20 married. Year 18 she cheats. She changed after losing a couple of our babies. Then she got pregnant. Mine I believe. She is now if not. I love my baby girl. Either way she’d started clubbing and such with a friend. I didn’t know. Wound up sleeping with a guy. Thank god the baby didn’t get an std. I made a lot of mistakes over the years. I never cheated but I’m no angel. No drugs or drinking either. Separated for six months. I lived in a motel while she lived in the house with the kids while I struggled to pay for everything. I got screwed. Now two years since the bomb was dropped and reconciliation isn’t going to happen. It’s toxic and too much has been said and done. It’s just torture. I spent that six months crying and broken and begging. Pathetic. Here I am 19 months after moving back in to the house and as I said it’s been the worst rollercoaster. She has no remorse or guilt. Even says as much. She just says I need to move on. We’ve been working on the divorce for two months now and we’re sleeping in the same bed, no sex, but I couldn’t do it anymore and moved into the basement. She’s been going to the “movies” two or three nights a week. Not sure if it’s true. I don’t even care anymore. She’s rewritten history to make me put to be abusive and she was so miserable and all this crap and the affairs she had were my fault. Whatever. It used to hurt. Now I just want out. Here’s the thing, she came down and woke me up last night complaint she wants the fan I have. It irritated me but I said nothing. Then this morning at 5:30am she started sending me text while I prepared for work talking about the kids and having full custody of them from me. Talking about spousal support and all this stuff. She’s been mentally and emotionally fucking me for two months now. I’ve don’t pretty good but I just couldn’t hold it in tonight after her saying it over and over. It got to me and I told her a few choice words and phrases. I told her to shut up a couple times. And mentioned the fact she literally does nothing. She works two days a week. She doesn’t clean. She doesn’t cook. She is demanding and rude to the kids. Always yelling. Etc. screw it. I’m tired of just taking it. Then as I was walking downstairs to my room she started talking about the kids placement again and I just started to get really emotional and told her how could she take my kids from me? I want my 50%. She took everything else from this family. All our hopes and dreams for the new farm we’d bought 1.5 months before she’d cheated. All for sex. Her excuse the day I found out was she just wanted to be desired. Wow. That hurt so bad at that time. Now it just sounds pathetic. I left the house and went to pick up two of our kids and I just had to cry about it all. I’m so burned out and mind fucked. I don’t know what to do anymore. She literally brings out the worst in me. 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I won't ruin it for those of you who've not yet watched it, but for those who have, you may know where I'm going with this. I'm 39 and just starting the separation process and am definitely feeling loss. I'm grieving the loss of the future I'd envisioned and the loss of ""family"". And I'm having a very difficult time with the thought that I won't have my someone to go on adventures with. There's obviously a lot of healing I have to do.",5.173142857142857,4.795929504761904,6.181666666666668,81.91250000000002,68.23809523809524,9.666666666666668,33.6904761904762,9.2995712137729,2.7314761904761897,398,17,87,7,6,133,65,105,0.173,0.731,0.097,-0.8502,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,3,4,8,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,1,1,18,20,5,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,2,3,7,1,14,15,1,10,0,5,2,0,3,3,0,2,5,56,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506840433960196,0.0,0.18809199085284545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228269806909483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443887745498995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162570845088698,0.0,0.3519909285502384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31519039370321955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633001739414044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953227001653696,0.21691343936394056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069350646234789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,needyslut37,2019/01/02,"Dammit Pixar I made the mistake of watching Pixar's Up tonight. I won't ruin it for those of you who've not yet watched it, but for those who have, you may know where I'm going with this. I'm just starting the separation process and am definitely feeling loss. I'm grieving the loss of the future I'd envisioned and the loss of ""family"". And I'm having a very difficult time with the thought that I won't have my someone to go on adventures with. There's obviously a lot of healing I have to do.",5.124498381877025,4.9104364174757285,6.1127669902912665,81.81277508090619,68.32038834951456,9.585113268608417,33.671521035598715,9.2995712137729,2.752451132686085,393,17,85,7,6,131,64,103,0.17600000000000002,0.726,0.098,-0.8502,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,3,4,8,0,0,8,0,9,1,0,1,1,17,20,4,1,1,3,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,2,3,7,1,14,15,1,10,0,5,2,0,3,3,0,2,5,55,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506840433960196,0.0,0.18809199085284545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4228269806909483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20443887745498995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162570845088698,0.0,0.3519909285502384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31519039370321955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633001739414044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953227001653696,0.21691343936394056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069350646234789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,1randomfatguy,2019/01/02,Question I’m trying to wrap my head around Can anyone tell me a bit about the processing of the divorce from the other side of this coin? Is there anyone here who left your marriage for a new relationship and wish you had not later or if you left your marriage for a new relationship and are still happy with the choice you made?,4.199846153846156,5.804492369230772,4.547692307692311,85.61230769230772,71.46153846153847,7.046153846153848,23.76923076923077,7.554174236665415,0.9724461538461536,264,7,52,3,5,83,49,65,0.0,0.897,0.103,0.7757,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,5,0,0,5,1,0,0,7,0,4,1,1,1,0,10,7,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,1,9,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,3,4,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823815114446772,0.0,0.0,0.17975618883270486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22044995916305704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495307063791635,0.0,0.0,0.2072334532141646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4387845196990087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910664536581896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3900411248226232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22620237409078686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4335840726962246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16125768088609588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649147612210356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709391810424246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322039503627786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,my1BabyGirl,2019/01/02,"Children of separation My Wife caught me cheating online with a woman I fell in love with. We spoke and decided to separate, and we had to tell the children... nightmares and scary movies don't hold a candle to the hurt you cause to your own children when you tell them. The crying, the sadness, the fear from the kids tore myself and my wife apart. The one that hurt the most was my youngest crying uncontrollably just because he couldn't see me whenever he wanted... It still haunts me and is hard to write. The benefit though is that we went to speak to a marriage councilor. My cheating was a cry for help in our relationship. We had stopped talking, stopped fighting, just stopped being together, and instead just lived side by side. We know now that, and it's a long road back, but we now speak, talk, even when we are angry. I hope to be one of the lucky ones here... but please make sure you know this is what you want before you tell your children. You can't take things back once they are out.",5.0900436161776375,6.008723809278351,4.645463917525774,88.33653053132437,68.63917525773195,7.618715305313244,28.325138778747025,7.61054688173877,1.4257054718477402,785,26,162,8,13,237,115,194,0.16899999999999998,0.731,0.099,-0.7876,0,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,8,8,2,0,14,13,3,2,15,0,14,1,0,2,1,39,26,12,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,6,8,17,0,4,3,0,0,3,3,8,0,3,7,5,28,5,18,16,2,21,0,3,1,1,42,7,0,3,11,111,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024746419815696,0.0,0.08025784817484571,0.0,0.11203175421277606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13524962837761118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338623027720739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695925019073399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14815250542735794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179402270313826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08824797072968847,0.0,0.0,0.13076667660965327,0.0,0.0,0.2818864651944192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144712224468474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11625693797279507,0.11651369998131113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882700847410747,0.0,0.08788312429590361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14021209051013372,0.2676457828682385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14452158418200758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413520427506637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491484212775304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10514271181937164,0.3302174037324353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408665325270518,0.0,0.098990866822584,0.2116443584502677,0.34522620523588105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746811016696474,0.0,0.12935388608890552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531128292740587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122048822413499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Giggletubelaughter,2019/01/02,Broken spirit and heart I’m not perfect. I struggle against falling into depressive moods. I made selfish mistakes thinking it was self care. I love you and I don’t know if that will ever change. I want you to be happy but I don’t think I can ever be happy without you ever again. I lost my purpose and hope for life when I lost you. It’s my mistake I’m young and foolish. At 28 I thought I would know what to do to be the best partner for you. When I close my eyes all I see is you. When I dream all I want is you. I’m so sorry. You weren’t perfect as a wife but I was worse as a husband. I wish I could rewind time. I wish I could somehow have one more chance but I probably had many that I missed. I wish I could send this to you. Every message you send me brings me back to my knees and opens a wound so deep I can’t begin to close it. I wish no animosity against you. Even through the pain I can’t wish any negatives on you. I just want to feel love again. I want love with you even though I know it’s not possible. It’s ok as long as you find love and happiness again. I don’t care what happens to me. I’ll live my life as best I can. I miss you so much. I am so sorry that this wonderful love ended with such coldness. ,-0.9918562091503276,1.031091644444448,1.3174291938997842,99.76137254901964,91.8148148148148,4.213507625272332,18.31154684095861,5.7212163849143,-0.5224204793028321,944,28,233,7,34,316,127,270,0.165,0.536,0.299,0.9944,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,0,15,0,6,20,27,0,1,5,1,24,12,3,1,7,54,61,23,0,17,8,2,1,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,12,12,0,0,9,1,0,4,11,10,0,1,8,4,57,16,24,45,6,26,1,5,2,5,27,7,0,4,15,163,69,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058777143169147485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06646134697625088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18141139724564165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1762476260525851,0.0,0.09143424777638848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070282337383092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444428600184293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07655364372233832,0.0,0.0,0.1141758561597468,0.2345497501480755,0.07282320726944291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370292794796046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899784568722537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07643207738583509,0.2760273826441325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242306679372573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584709059889536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425033169780315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209982640080863,0.0,0.0,0.07632158395133479,0.07649014578970917,0.0,0.0,0.18870282228544047,0.0,0.3900440550509247,0.0817846316529328,0.0,0.08762910706762053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353791824417597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585689778823611,0.0,0.09197039798435856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09743978844477784,0.0,0.0,0.09318897939048093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887560493867552,0.0,0.09016806933703247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19350847581788685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035813737327053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076506140549536,0.08491960693886529,0.06861784294059448,0.05039955379537192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20392078658234294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4969662173860563,0.08331795801954647,0.09373248570291852,0.0,0.0,0.0880822204310939,0.0613992509392805,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,trying2bgooddad,2019/01/02,"How to eventually talk to kids about messy stuff of divorce Curious of others stories and how they've talked to their kids about the harder conflict stuff between you and your ex? I have and will continue to try and take the high ground, not denigrate, etc. My concern is that my ex is already saying either outright or implied things to the kids that are simply not true. Implying that I'm not to be trusted or might already be giving specific reasons that are simply not true, either literally not true or hiding major parts that would make my ex look bad. If and when the time comes I want to be thoughtful in how I address this stuff in a way that shows care and honesty with my kids and doesn't denigrate my ex, but still tells the honest truth if needed. &#x200B; Thoughts?",10.774988814317672,7.7110285234899365,9.45875838926175,71.47883109619687,59.067114093959724,12.080984340044743,40.9407158836689,9.725611199111238,3.903307829977628,626,24,114,8,6,194,91,149,0.079,0.797,0.125,0.8063,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,7,8,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,5,4,38,23,17,0,5,13,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,1,4,12,9,0,1,3,1,0,1,6,1,0,0,2,2,11,7,15,15,5,10,0,0,1,0,17,4,0,6,4,83,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.340406765661136,0.0,0.0,0.1671147608653562,0.18741375576755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12878070949548676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725399355535224,0.0,0.0,0.13286075186151494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17201403324743192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147957330964445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295891848160246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295194871357133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295380116165584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636201390966684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436412132814093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670226770502591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15858040918126434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226547453438856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12317315676900023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.529690336230792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596635988221585,0.2479382858933103,0.13480915846815034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246761814924736,0.0,0.0,0.24489248617381074,0.08993631613926406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047161944407345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09097245386288076,0.12242544510557565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095649073721802,0.0,0.18741375576755,0.0 divorce,AdorableArtichoke0,2019/01/02,"Wife wanted a divorce. It’s been very hard on me. Now a mutual friend has come onto me strongly. Should I start seeing her? Will it help me heal? The divorce has been going on for a few months, initiated by my wife. She seemed to be completely checked out and didn’t want to try saving it whatsoever. No matter what I tried to do. She’s moved out, all of that stuff. My wife also has a history of pretty bad depression if that has anything to do with it. Well anyway. Ever since other people have heard about the divorce there’s a mutual friend in particular who has offered me someone to talk too during this dark time. As time has went on I realized on a few occasions she kind of threw herself at me (on New Years she asked me if I wanted to come over for drinks and her kids were away) I didn’t though, I wish I did. There’s nothing wrong with her in particular. It just seems to me that she feels a certain kind of way about me, she did call me “hot” once and that’s as she went. That wasn’t the first time she invited me over. I don’t know. I’m so lonely. My dog could only provide me so much comfort. Should I invite her over? Whar should I say? 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My wife had received a deposit close to $18,000 for Canada Child Benefits for our 3 kids after I had filed my taxes after 4 years. She was a SAHM and so the deposit went to her account. Naturally she put a deposit on a place and moved out shortly after because she had no use for me anymore as she was working again after 10 years. She claimed that she was entitled to the full deposit to put onto her VISA balance as she was using her credit card at times to buy food for the kids, even though I paid for everything for 10 years. I didn't see a dollar of this payment for me to use for the kids once she moved out. As we were still living together and married at the time she received the deposit should it not have been distributed between us for each of us to put towards the kids? She felt that it should all go to her, and then left me. I haven't heard a response from my lawyer. 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Is there hope to fix us? I am so unhappy in my marriage, but I love him so much still. I'm finally trying to make myself happy and we have decided to separate until we know what needs to happen. Any success stories for separation? Anyone on the brink of divorce and somehow saved it?",2.4463133640552996,5.136791096774196,4.802995391705071,76.40306451612905,81.58064516129029,7.413824884792628,29.82488479262673,8.418075326091056,2.9301078341013818,256,13,43,6,7,89,53,62,0.03,0.685,0.285,0.9712,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,3,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,0,13,10,6,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,5,10,10,1,6,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,2,3,35,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123961316119785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838944821449066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3421438937146857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27619371566088685,0.3324826915789203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102156547635571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.171649225283074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28189137472251724,0.0,0.20848370282821932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295995912374465,0.2315898511386549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24942834089166235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120525878282492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37569634045120986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Legitimate_Emotion,2019/01/02,"I have no idea if I should let my Ex wife move in and part of me wants to So here's the thing I'm a wayward and I screwed up years ago I did not respect or appreciate her and all I've ever wanted was to win her back. That is until one of my kids attempted suicide and it came out she was being sexually abused by her step dad my Ex's new husband. I said some hurtful things to my Ex in the heat of the moment and I realize now the bastard was completely manipulative and fooled everyone even my Ex. Even though he's not living there any more and it's across the street I do not want my kids to go back to that house especially once my daughter gets out of the hospital. I know how it sounds but how do I explain it used to be our house prior to the divorce and I'd look out and see everything I've lost and I look at it now and I only see the place where my daughter was victimized. My Ex recently mentioned can't stand being there any more either and I'm just wondering if maybe I should ask her to move in with me and part of me wants to because I miss her I miss us all being a family and at the same time I feel anger towards her for not believing our daughter about the abuse. I mean I know logically that my Ex was manipulated and lied to by that fucker but it's hard to shake this anger and this lack of trust I have towards her and it's like being at war with myself because all I have ever wanted was a second chance and when I found out about the abuse happening with my daughter I felt nothing for her for the first time but anger now that I've calmed down I do not know what I feel. Part of me wants to ask her if she'd like to move in because I don't think it's fair for the kids to be away from her but the problem is neither of us trusts the other and I do not know how would respond to me asking her to move into my house and I'd only offer so she'd be able to see the kids. I just do not know how I can extend an olive branch without causing disaster.",2.495858335213171,3.2916983752913787,4.1651387322355085,89.84884953755925,74.57109557109557,7.307045642529514,23.86201970072937,7.601502580125103,0.8289254981577558,1549,43,363,19,31,522,183,429,0.197,0.747,0.056,-0.9961,0,0,0,0,4,1,9.0,4,0,0,4,25,22,8,1,20,0,33,2,0,8,5,90,71,37,2,14,19,13,4,2,0,3,0,2,0,4,19,29,0,0,16,0,0,8,12,15,0,3,12,11,63,7,57,46,13,48,0,4,5,2,45,21,3,6,20,265,82,0,0.0811504281709511,0.2884499626990868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07193495823689358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037014784600484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275940875118176,0.0,0.07624349857535145,0.12479934029294247,0.0,0.14840564340590767,0.0,0.0,0.09142874331285364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09281447110683072,0.0,0.08336384364580297,0.0,0.0,0.08508467998573616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719818491799467,0.1468104164606342,0.0,0.07754271174254286,0.07293277223023582,0.0,0.07650140147641718,0.0,0.08206418956155699,0.0,0.07791713713064666,0.0,0.0,0.06902651274649556,0.0,0.08897725588630105,0.0,0.0,0.04239774935891644,0.0,0.04611965844190258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176105562816737,0.0,0.07269484407265282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28091009593269073,0.08687321175007982,0.09160895574093793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22299076527856868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829818109145202,0.0,0.07929200027573839,0.0,0.07165731481971471,0.0,0.1362918428120089,0.0,0.08858527852683544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815265124566142,0.08839660634138181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34500024996173634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837558920782957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778660244691784,0.0,0.0,0.08642255753859701,0.054989630318224784,0.1234371148047043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26363401697293337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08478492545045252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07765000015488595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08012625775821346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0771926404516391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399915401268292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876539717155416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782547719236116,0.05199791766127124,0.07972988365473091,0.0,0.09463893452187587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522794660194487,0.07008791472991399,0.0,0.0,0.2871877504219286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822611689701442,0.08800417770589226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764693585311448,0.0,0.0,0.05225821512079384 divorce,Miishxo,2019/01/02,Divorce partyyy Has anyone ever been to or hosted a divorce party? I never have. But I want to throw one (divorce was final on 12.20.18 🙌🏼) and I feel like celebrating. I need ideas...,0.7483333333333348,3.2825971666666685,3.2791111111111135,84.37700000000002,91.22222222222223,3.9911111111111115,23.86666666666667,5.6839178017228535,0.7571733333333337,142,6,25,1,5,49,30,36,0.034,0.72,0.246,0.8261,0,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,9,7,3,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,4,1,3,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,4,18,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693717869953765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34847554448395623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19479110426586305,0.27521862028156235,0.0,0.4220163236502273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348939469154079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882109160607076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2856537830066892,0.29712417032849786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26105152247494784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272270821787795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whydidhecall,2019/01/02,"So she finally left him Old story: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/7j4oio/ex_cheated_on_new_husband_probably_going_to_lose/ So my son goes to his mom's house on NYE, I go to a BBQ at a friend of mine home. I get a call a few hours later from saying he was going back to my house, and that his mom and step dad are breaking up. They are going from a $250,000.00 home to old beat up trailer. She doesn't make a lot and maybe this is a temporary landing stop. He has said that she has horrible credit and was actually sued last week by credit card company for $3000.00. She also owes my son a good bit of money dollars. He seemed okay about the entire thing, he was making comments like: * ""its okay step-dad and I really weren't that close"" * ""I know why they are breaking up, but its not my place to tell anyone"" * ""I have know for a good little while"". There are few other kids from my X's last marriage that are in the mix. Apparently, my X and her husband have an agreement in place for custody and I assume for property too since neither can afford an attorney. There is no equity in the house so it should be easy to buy out her half... probably less than 1000. Any one been through something like this? Any suggestions would be appreciated.",3.987013720742532,6.281735457627121,4.192857142857143,85.01816384180792,73.66101694915254,6.8681194511702985,22.67877320419693,7.793537801064563,0.9476959644874898,992,27,194,14,21,308,144,236,0.028,0.838,0.134,0.9731,3,0,1,0,1,0,48.0,0,0,2,1,9,10,0,0,14,2,22,0,0,2,0,21,33,13,0,2,2,6,0,2,1,2,0,2,2,1,11,9,0,1,4,0,6,4,5,0,0,2,6,2,24,10,28,23,6,32,0,0,0,0,30,15,0,3,13,125,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.1202623875996626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985532831924794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676119604482566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617078681855662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476231796995987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454383991369046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12583964802021594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350010669819661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521327563102344,0.0,0.06438670263047068,0.0,0.21011677117902205,0.20673216320654694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472352713453125,0.0,0.12136448136207045,0.4265998805644479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354566250372232,0.20091063105380103,0.0,0.0,0.13389831052616086,0.0,0.0,0.12041560035439686,0.12351672534788664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.104772433318401,0.0,0.0,0.1645244755040483,0.0,0.12380900857746703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886694167883124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586348355256786,0.0,0.0835091727413698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2575146966557957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287127177022712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894933767382209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11722743921960745,0.09800370369084116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219113186134397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10194364275299524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948745361467772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303238076452076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10771533367325092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187376736912938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885398880776214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11120301272370964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754464971503761,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BeccaBecca88,2019/01/02,"Hello Americans going through a divorce , I just need to know something Hello. I'm from Europe, don't live in the US so I don't know how the law works over there. But please, help me satisfy a curiosity of mine. If a divorce decree was signed in a County Court, does it mean that the divorce is finalized? 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Today is our anniversary and it feels terrible. In my mind, heart, and soul I know I'm making the right decision by doing this, but it doesn't make it any less painful. We are separated in-house, so we spend most of the time avoiding one another. Everyday I feel like I have to keep from caving in. Everyday, I wish she would come up to me and say something like ""i'm sorry, i want to fix us, or i don't want to end this."" But she won't. Some days I just want to go to her and apologize for the pain this is causing; to try for the umpteenth time to ""work it out"". But I won't. I can only move forward with my decision and hope its for the best. Soon i'll have to tell our son that we won't all be together anymore, that daddy failed to keep the family together, and that mommy will be going away. Then i'll spend the rest of my time praying that I don't fail him too. Sorry for the rant, i'm just so tired of feeling this way. Today is our anniversary, and I feel terrible. &#x200B;",2.156756381798001,3.487780297169813,3.9122086570477252,89.22546614872365,76.21698113207547,7.81842397336293,23.79134295227525,8.4952907291091,1.3173465038845729,781,24,177,15,17,263,114,212,0.14,0.7120000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.0253,0,1,1,0,0,0,37.0,8,0,0,4,6,11,0,1,8,0,19,4,1,3,1,42,39,14,0,6,6,1,4,2,0,5,3,1,0,0,13,13,0,3,7,0,2,5,6,7,0,1,0,5,27,4,25,32,6,24,2,2,0,0,16,7,0,4,15,117,40,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13512414752781707,0.15153732591868566,0.08480765053588775,0.13077019382518476,0.0,0.0,0.1236796465886868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11716994330448235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13087633688286515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281123901203066,0.0,0.10742734957839224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804281774030113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11045679177311216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11756628487931273,0.0,0.2522301997658979,0.0890934519758236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175209338063632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778295077151105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386600754109788,0.0,0.14389957014525398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216974567870483,0.0,0.0,0.06853781847193409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185483812269353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16649091372515692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592240152137832,0.0,0.0,0.1325478909132763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08450729553488542,0.09484821665838288,0.2654022618778164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650237949163012,0.0,0.09917506879112456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09600850064365468,0.0,0.2792071595869919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900277463597463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21815968835754004,0.14333676963875835,0.3546338945805221,0.0,0.0,0.08467047693986614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500117902655869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22067306107040152,0.0989896632705762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14341131609928834,0.0,0.0,0.09079097983678026,0.0,0.0,0.08859100555191722,0.0,0.15153732591868566,0.0 divorce,tlw117,2019/01/02,"Divorcing in PA. Dad is a retired veteran (70) with a fixed income. Wife is 50, works but makes less than dad. There are 2 properties. One they bought together, dad lives there- she left last year. Investment property, he had for 10 yrs before meeting her and 10 years of the marriage (20 yrs total). Tons of marital debt maybe $20k Kids are grown. He’s currently paying spousal support, mortgages and all maintenance for homes. Lawyer suggests 50/50 of properties as settlement. Dad is opposed and wants to offer 50/25. Your thoughts? 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My stbxw wants a divorce and 50/50 custody. At first I thought it's a good idea as our kid deserves 2 parents. As we're working out the details though, the stbxw continues to become more and more unreliable. I am basically the primary caregiver as I work out of the house. She comes and goes as she pleases, and she spends more time out at bars and doing who knows what coming back the following mornings. A basic workweek is her leaving the house at like 7:XX AM and not getting back til after 11:00PM. Weekends she goes out almost every Friday night and Sunday night, sometimes not coming back until the following morning. &#x200B; While I am all for a mess-free split, I am worried I'd be doing my kid harm by going ahead with a 50/50 split since the mom seems like she is more interested in partying than being a mother. &#x200B; Has anyone been in this situation before? Go amicable and 50/50 even though there are some red flags about her being able to properly care for our child, or blow a fortune in court trying to fight it out, but maybe (big maybe) getting something like 80/20 or 70/30? &#x200B; State: PA",6.016207951070339,7.355029183486238,5.8293761467889915,79.15430886850156,66.79816513761467,8.198654434250765,31.96452599388379,8.447377352677275,2.509698103975535,934,38,164,13,15,291,137,218,0.027000000000000003,0.892,0.081,0.858,1,0,1,0,2,0,43.0,2,0,0,4,8,8,1,0,16,0,14,1,0,0,1,31,28,20,0,1,5,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,18,1,0,4,2,1,7,2,2,0,1,2,1,16,6,30,23,6,35,0,0,1,0,19,12,0,5,18,109,21,2,0.10300313791122116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314276384564336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348115706776549,0.3754802604522045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202218896977182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23760916514840205,0.0,0.0,0.11375887327739576,0.08764808382286797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501856389977343,0.0,0.0,0.2661842483681501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803260114463165,0.0,0.08678458617911425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761441648810732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762977652174906,0.0,0.11707811396638325,0.08639414512915455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23770358336705902,0.0,0.11627800511673125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566078308312343,0.0,0.0,0.1090654505689584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096639088187966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696099318907885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063603022158124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933229346115192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437279505087004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130665141647289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377018822706452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520526008521966,0.11577984267451448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07929684784207118,0.10187273717761433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20240012004455726,0.0817729859393558,0.060061958045325985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993236933817178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060753919459318975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997502232164142,0.10460468644014227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3754802604522045,0.0 divorce,robbyvegas,2019/01/02,"How to pay child support ""through the state""? In previous posts, I asked for advice about the best method for paying child support and alimony. The resounding suggestion was to make payments through the state. From the comments I received, it appears that making payments through the state will allow me to establish that child support payments were made on time and that they were specifically for child support (not just gifts, or whatever BM decides to claim). I'm in MD, and I'm not sure how to do this. Do I need to get a court order etc.? I've located the myDHR website, that apparently allows me to make child support payments, but it seems that making these payments requires a case number, and that I'd need to get BM to somehow apply for support even though we've already got an agreement on child support etc. Can anyone point me in the right direction here? Thanks in advance!",8.141506475800952,8.177163423312889,7.254928425357875,75.3062099522836,62.00613496932515,9.698432174505797,39.58350374914792,9.150863307647796,3.7179017041581455,710,35,120,10,9,218,92,163,0.016,0.8059999999999999,0.179,0.978,1,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,1,3,8,11,0,0,11,0,7,0,0,9,1,26,30,9,0,2,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,10,4,0,1,2,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,5,0,7,11,24,24,3,17,0,0,0,0,11,8,0,4,1,77,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021495825282987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535605762494715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309272323298187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977253392493828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970216371280887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23316646710063646,0.06904383437125851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922958020942276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836055263035537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891276057626366,0.2791094847118013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15502152719594622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09881858047018988,0.0,0.10011484035517884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927161127111406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516398367817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8303689729941656,0.09852221950019148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624102048151242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10270429272115196,0.0,0.06095471602620312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ThrowawayAccount602,2019/01/02,"Why surviving cancer was easier than surviving divorce: my story First, a disclaimer...My cancer was caught before it had metastasized but I did not know that at the time. Now that I am five years post-cancer, I can safely say that it was caught in time. If it had not been, my story may have been different. But, surviving cancer was, for me, easier than surviving a divorce. Here is why: 1. With cancer, society views you as a victim of a terrible set of circumstances that were generally not of your creation. With divorce, society views that you were an active participant in what caused the divorce since you chose to marry this person. 2. With cancer, friends and relatives encourage you to talk about your fears, hopes, goals etc. With divorce, friends and relatively often shy away from engaging with you since they view it as so intensely personal. 3. With cancer, friends and relatives flock to support you with rides, meals etc. With divorce, friends (but not relatives) often treat you as a pariah since they feel like they need to take sides in the divorce. 4. With cancer, a host of societal information is thrust at you in terms of treatment and it is easy to figure out the right thing to do. With divorce, while lots of information is available, it is incredibly difficult to figure out what applies to you and there are so many more decisions to be made (who get the dishes, where to live etc) 5. With cancer, you have a designated expert (doctor) to guide you. With divorce, you may have a well-meaning friend or relative but there are rarely experts in this who are able to guide you. 6. With cancer, some people have sick time to take to deal with the divorce. With divorce, you are expected to buck up and do your job despite feeling like crap. Finally, I get it: cancer can kill you. But, how many people have committed suicide or simply stopped living due to divorce? Again, my story would likely have been different had the cancer metastasized. But, I want to give encouragement to people who are going through a divorce to let them know that I recognize how difficult it is. You have my support. 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What to tell parents? Also, first time post. (Late 20s/early 30s M+ F) My husband and I have been together for probably 8 years, married for 1.5. He has struggled with addiction (to legal substances) for the past 4 years, on and off (although probably more ""on"" than I realize). We have tried to make it work for a very long time. I've always thought I could be a supportive partner and help him through his journey to sobriety, but I don't think he has really wanted to get sober until very recently. I do understand that addiction is complicated and that it's not 100% his choice, but at the same time, I believe that there is some choice involved-- for him, the biggest fear is the withdrawal and then being miserable without using, so he chooses to use instead. &#x200B; We've talked about breaking up so many times over the past few years, but I've always been scared of what that would mean-- at first, scared of being alone, then scared of losing a sense of stability, then scared of having to cancel a wedding, then scared of potentially losing a chance to have kids, etc. I felt for so long that our love was strong enough to get through anything, but I've realized that love is only a fraction of what makes a marriage work; I need honesty, trust, openness, and genuineness, too. &#x200B; This past December, I finally told him I want to split and meant it with all my heart. I've felt myself becoming emotionally-distant over the past 6 months or so and don't feel like I have any more emotional energy to give to him. His addiction/the accompanying lying/his misery as he constantly withdrawals or spirals into depression has become such an overwhelming theme in our relationship that we've hardly been able to have a normal, pleasant week in such a long time. Every morning when he wakes up, he complains. It's as if he's just waiting to die.. while I wish my days were longer, am excited about the life ahead, and have so much I want to do in my short time on Earth. &#x200B; This really, really sucks. We've gone to marriage counseling, which has been helpful (a few times back when we were trying to make things work, then again very recently to talk about splitting). I have one friend who I've been able to talk to about this from almost the beginning of when things started getting bad. I've only recently opened up to my sister, for fear that she'd judge me/judge him/hate him. Surprisingly, she was really supportive and just really shocked because she had no idea. My biggest fear right now is what to tell my parents. They love him and have been really supportive of our relationship. He's been to holidays at their house for almost the past 10 years and they see him like a son, so I know they'll be hurt. Part of me doesn't want to tell them about the addiction piece because... I don't know, the stigma? I mean, I could definitely construct a narrative based on the lying/ spending every penny we have each month/ the irresponsibility/ the lack of follow-through, etc. I also fear my mom becoming ""mama bear"" and spewing crap about him to me. I used to share things with her before all of this was a huge problem/ when we had ""normal"" couples problems, and she would sometimes get mean. I don't want to hear that. I also do not want her to worry about me/freak out/call me every day. I kind of want to be left alone. &#x200B; Anyways, just looking for some support from you all. Would love to hear anyone's experience re: divorce and addiction, telling parents (esp. religious/Christian parents). Thanks. 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Feeling lost, despondent, don't know how to move forward First time poster here. I hoped I never would have to turn here, but I feel broken. I'm at my wits end and I just don't I know what to do anymore. My wife (31F) and I (28M) are separating, and she's pushing for a divorce. We've been married for almost 4 years, and dated about 3 years before that. Currently we live in an apartment, no kids, but we have pets (3 cats). Some backstory: We met through a cousin of hers (old friend of mine), she lived in another state. We hit it off fabulously, I moved out to live with her. We were broke but happy (this state has a high cost of living) and lived through poverty during this time. Her parents have never approved of me, due to racial and cultural differences, and always told her I was just a phase. Eventually, we agreed to move to my much cheaper home state, where we got married shortly after. Financially, we're doing much better. I have a solid job that pays the bills, and she's does odd jobs, but otherwise has no career. Her older brother died a few months ago to a medical complication, and she said it felt like a wake-up call for her to take control of her life. A business opportunity took her to another country in November, and in December she told me she applied for a work visa to go back in February. This is effectively our separation. Moreso, she wants a divorce. Ever since being a teenager, she's been in relationships, never had much chance to be single or on her own. She wants a sense of independence and to be able to support herself, by herself. Her reasons for wanting a divorce is that she wants to be alone, that attachments would be distractions while she pursues this new career. That she's always put the needs of others before her own, and as long as we're married, she feels obligated to always put me first. That she doesn't want me to suffer being cut out of her life and waiting for her to come back. I told her I didn't mind, that time and distance was preferable to divorce, but she's a stubborn woman and doesn't change her mind easily. She says she still loves me (albeit not *in* love with me anymore) and sees me more as a best friend than a husband. This hurts me the most, because even through all of this, my feelings for her haven't changed. I'm still deeply in love with her, and I don't know how to change that. The dead bedroom started a year or so after marriage, but wasn't consistent. I chalked this up to her history, she had an extremely violent and sexually abusive boyfriend in the past, about 7 years before she met me. The lack of intimacy hurt (I have a high libido) but I always did my best to be understanding and not push her. Probably could have done better. She has absolutely refused to try any marriage counseling or couples therapy, much to my frustration. Her reasoning for this is because she's been to enough therapists in her life that she ""knows what they'll say and it would be a waste of money."" I don't know what else to do to try and save this relationship, if it's still worth saving. In her words, she cannot see how this relationship can continue. Emotionally, I'm a wreck. I'm losing sleep, having terrible dreams, my work performance is suffering, and doing all I can not to fall back into substance abuse. I've been having random breakdowns, I think I've cried more in the past 2 months than I have in the last 10 years. I literally cannot fathom my life without her, and this is the most difficult and stressful thing I have ever experienced. I'm trying to be optimistic without being naïve, but it's getting crushingly heavy to stay positive. In spite of all that, I want her to be happy. I want her to succeed at her goals and achieve her dreams. I never wanted to be an obstacle or a burden, and yet I've become one it seems. Everyone I have talked to about this says that I'm strong, and I'll get through this, but I don't feel strong. I've never felt so feeble and powerless before. I'm scared of the future and don't want to lose her, us, but she doesn't want *us* anymore. I can't hold onto this if she's letting go. Before you ask, no, I don't think there's someone else, or infidelity is an issue. She would have said so already, or I would have found clues of something. However, I'm not discounting the possibility, and honestly I wish that was the case. It would probably make things easier on me... So what do I want from this post? Advice maybe, someone to talk to. How to move forward or accept what is happening. I don't want a divorce, but it's beginning to feel like an inevitability, it takes two to make a marriage work, and I'm the only one trying. My heart is broken. I feel broken.",4.149347633790363,5.424924477980667,5.17447826499021,82.34962666645606,71.13748657357681,8.312131168256776,28.0843021419094,8.757208317658263,2.067612611360333,3703,134,736,66,68,1217,376,931,0.17,0.708,0.122,-0.9934,6,1,1,0,6,0,140.0,10,1,1,22,29,42,5,3,42,0,82,10,2,11,10,152,157,63,2,26,28,6,9,2,2,7,5,5,3,2,44,45,0,5,24,2,7,15,31,19,0,5,27,17,121,23,108,108,20,94,0,8,2,3,108,31,0,16,49,509,165,13,0.04723199051669926,0.11192437066008766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615455449040281,0.04186830977782005,0.0,0.047296015855579715,0.04891809775225714,0.05212167603302435,0.0,0.15720319914306274,0.0,0.0,0.03211937320532378,0.09905372057975427,0.0,0.0,0.14052432893434114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04415553528306583,0.0,0.0,0.10895545575167907,0.0,0.05758436605498715,0.05216402269666204,0.20095472564615788,0.0,0.09913412013006014,0.0835457146900475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04822914317067092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989554968466476,0.04068617762388108,0.0,0.0,0.05297469358215038,0.03771090112553698,0.05226129913991034,0.0518821237391816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04901934918672369,0.04934737727321463,0.0,0.0,0.04133303319193085,0.0483347248954308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07891253480010872,0.0531296320791636,0.0418335244002782,0.04880327211066512,0.0,0.03119628428076818,0.08544807900968683,0.0,0.045132191021192536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717339497437736,0.0337425434625279,0.09070023572248828,0.0,0.0,0.0803510140100617,0.0,0.05178743970851978,0.07298263741836714,0.0,0.04935353123291508,0.0,0.05368605734457756,0.0,0.037775737540651916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04176709322787305,0.10055866436064252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559701361754564,0.0,0.09980638239423599,0.04737753754936277,0.04691202383896256,0.0,0.0,0.1011256454467796,0.0,0.0,0.04929792684305073,0.09374092514425716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978733382356994,0.038500376240908456,0.0,0.05001185819613156,0.0,0.04829791036858818,0.13344540687140372,0.04615032957293018,0.0,0.20853356478212848,0.0417988253032157,0.0,0.10568103182581888,0.05155929709310388,0.0,0.12788614650404972,0.0,0.06305544086462768,0.0,0.04745088288503649,0.0,0.0,0.04758126138815307,0.0,0.0,0.09538169218976922,0.0,0.07540024842191029,0.2008005244300688,0.13888379044902388,0.035021922493753764,0.18214111423166185,0.04561695076219015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049562028771278,0.0,0.06401123829527543,0.035922057142956064,0.0,0.0,0.052445535939566586,0.0,0.09017655871863084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05324697257059642,0.04523519078691273,0.0,0.1018481486605228,0.0,0.0,0.09496239206519973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712470545615792,0.0,0.15212844520778346,0.0,0.0,0.08985687799675507,0.11268232383649693,0.04728746219458144,0.0,0.07527556259076508,0.042998230256899056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039070790637336206,0.0,0.047266100895383134,0.0,0.08003902458239352,0.03636149384603197,0.0,0.0,0.03343104598944078,0.05034301747449435,0.11315858591605628,0.0,0.05410408555664079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05359830311393965,0.0,0.0,0.07102515754962327,0.07592656972264107,0.0,0.0,0.054013897464635564,0.05483998139523888,0.06275767153661448,0.060528704757824514,0.0,0.0,0.08262406049968057,0.0,0.0,0.1353965730635776,0.05247647935436527,0.12826968468621794,0.0513748426746646,0.04613879165816967,0.049170167853494234,0.113628538139969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33430382094512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05431445812439383,0.09105990676117194,0.0,0.10315635487934742,0.0,0.0,0.20131350546631346,0.0,0.0,0.1520792666555832 divorce,berg1001,2019/01/02,"Still being punished by brutal thoughts. Happy New Year everyone. Hope you all had a nice Christmas. &#x200B; I'm a 29 year old male (bit of background). &#x200B; I've been a follower of this sub for quite a while now, and I just wanted to post for some general advice and even just a few kind words of assurance. &#x200B; Nine months ago my fiancee left me. Although we weren't technically married, we were as good as and had pretty much lived together from the first couple of weeks of dating. We were together for five years, had bought a house, got a dog and were planning a wedding which was due to be in a few months and I never thought I'd be without her. &#x200B; While I'm still struggling living my life and getting used to being alone, I know I will eventually come to terms with that and soon enough I'll be back into a regular routine. I've made the house my own (I paid the mortgage and the deposit, so I'm keeping it) and the dog stayed with me as he comes to work with me everyday. The first few months were spent floundering, not knowing which direction to head in. I drank a lot, I went out all the time, and I even racked up quite a bit of debt while stuck in this self destructive place. I dated as much as I could - instantly downloading dating apps and did anything possible to take my mind of her. Needless to say, they didn't really work. I'm not focusing more on being stable and getting into a healthy routine. I struggle with being motivated, but I'm sure that will come. &#x200B; No matter what I seem to do though, my pain over the loss of our relationship rarely subsides. I think about her constantly! My therapist has told me it takes time, but I thought I'd be over this by now. I woke up this morning and felt quite emotional and actually shed a few tears in the shower. I know that if I started dating it would help alleviate my pain, but I just don't feel ready to do that and cannot help comparing and judging my date to my ex (she was very judgemental and that judgement is still ringing in my ears 'would she approve of this girl? Would she think I'm making the right move? etc etc). I also know that I don't want to carry this baggage around with me for the rest of my life, but when you have the constant thought that 'I'll never meet anyone that can make me happy again, or someone that I feel that passionately about', it's difficult not to go 'searching'. I feel sometimes that I'm drowning. &#x200B; I guess I'm just looking for a few wise words from people who have been through the same thing and any tips or tricks that can help in these particularly bad moments. &#x200B; Thanks in advance everyone.",5.740471449136276,6.1383387927063335,5.798459093090212,82.48918576055667,67.02303262955853,8.89253838771593,31.636336372360844,8.751876143730069,2.3665916026871394,2105,80,418,31,32,664,257,521,0.08800000000000001,0.807,0.104,0.8575,4,1,0,0,0,0,79.0,4,2,1,12,21,22,4,2,28,0,39,8,2,5,6,91,92,38,1,8,15,1,4,0,1,5,4,3,1,3,28,33,1,1,16,0,5,8,12,11,0,4,29,8,53,11,62,49,21,69,0,1,1,1,28,19,0,8,40,285,81,3,0.0,0.0,0.05054121827901729,0.0,0.0,0.05061023993345989,0.0459102081443448,0.0,0.0,0.053640571156308686,0.0,0.04141779568293622,0.0,0.3928139204048824,0.4405280045858354,0.0352201251291851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03621395377887504,0.0,0.042620147830923945,0.04610558446656415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039824612605303226,0.04324389770709044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308622283155248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13384186463861267,0.0,0.11193683484457892,0.0,0.04135145003874464,0.05730651975538329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05825868014091733,0.0,0.05351466043448178,0.11552284945590692,0.06841584540959661,0.0,0.0,0.0989783583234567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856230370414853,0.0,0.04972814430362449,0.0,0.0,0.08810796990341678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054118040675286326,0.0,0.029434410897147018,0.04344041222887226,0.04142254565566962,0.0,0.057054385446429275,0.0,0.0,0.1102664338735764,0.0,0.0,0.05315321571684917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414463400806168,0.0,0.0,0.05144083413799981,0.0,0.1195213128656858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460348336472178,0.0,0.05393307508708791,0.1138534331471148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056271822591964914,0.0,0.07316400444493787,0.0,0.0,0.09146602205854043,0.0,0.043491975426396386,0.0,0.0,0.0440314426451978,0.0,0.04900654923243327,0.06914271032412354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052294842624766365,0.0,0.12401889821519725,0.055046369921540016,0.07614570257584258,0.0,0.07988988817932519,0.050020736817800455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543466662260817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022001922986767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03590583657890184,0.0,0.05411129262234942,0.0,0.0,0.05838734849208861,0.04960212235690691,0.052690768053674335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526051204841075,0.0,0.0,0.03317908273731695,0.0,0.0,0.055604892429204564,0.0,0.044229820170102005,0.0,0.041186830556529136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04714920930432371,0.0540300278897237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0438829307625246,0.0,0.0512233055985843,0.0,0.036658424665412984,0.055203050305432315,0.1240827313138401,0.0,0.0,0.10828783888214426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04881305477974269,0.0,0.07788181046457006,0.0,0.0,0.047682829605896905,0.0,0.06013414379152191,0.034408097415324065,0.06637204723299926,0.050885072343529326,0.16446726629824124,0.060400301730208786,0.0,0.0,0.04948917916172835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044731391141659686,0.0,0.04273356821320394,0.06109616113191691,0.0,0.041544169592876566,0.0,0.0,0.04801141539485701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0499253408508112,0.0,0.07540993413323191,0.0,0.0,0.11037399153765606,0.0,0.4405280045858354,0.10005645067089697 divorce,dillflipper,2019/01/02,"Wife got upset that I bought her a Christmas present. I moved out and have been separated for 6 months and going to marriage counseling. I bought my wife a small gift for Christmas but she got upset that I didn't tell her I was buying her a gift and she didn't buy me one. I was kinda hurt that she didn't buy me a gift. Am I feeling too needy? Is it reasonable for her to be upset with me?",0.8657142857142865,2.6608205714285766,2.6930952380952395,94.45607142857143,81.38095238095238,5.628571428571429,20.02380952380953,6.6274283507984215,0.042980952380952786,304,8,71,3,8,101,47,84,0.185,0.685,0.13,-0.7023,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,3,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,9,16,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,2,0,5,2,3,4,0,1,10,1,18,0,7,5,0,6,0,1,0,0,11,2,0,1,2,49,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17518696712478676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19690837454033314,0.0,0.5542116105453443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709061058714274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765511399245125,0.3682455634485596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347788142484947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562315585279671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028323414783234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Onlymecorrect,2019/01/02,"Advice Please Sorry for the long post: Married 8, together nearly 20 with a daughter (4). I'm (37m) not sure how to move forward with my wife (37). Last week she came out of nowhere and asked if it was ok if she and her co-worker (62f) go to Florida to visit my wife's friend at some point in 2019 and I watch our daughter if she doesn't end up taking her. We are not financially in a good spot and her friend just filed bankruptcy. I said only if the friend pays all of her portion as we have lent her money many times and it doesn't make sense she would want to go out of state if she can afford normal things. My anxiety has been high which causes my brain to never shut down and I lose sleep. It began to put pieces together that I probably would have ignored thinking everything is fine. When she was in the shower this morning I went into her phone (which she locks and I only found out the code by overhearing her tell our daughter). What I found was a long text conversation with her ex from high school that lives in, you guessed it, Florida. I knew they were talking but he's married with a kid and she had shown some of the vanilla ones to me before about his problems. The conversation I read was sexual, about how she doesn't need my permission to come down, she'd can't wait to show him her bj technique, she doesn't consider BJ's cheating, and so on. Once confronted she acted like I was crazy and had no clue what I was going on about. I mentioned divorce because there would be no turning back if this is how she feels. When I mentioned specific details she knew she was caught. She began to cry and said she didn't want a divorce, she loves me, she never has cheated me and it was just texts. Part of me wants to go to counseling and fix this for our daughter but a big part of me thinks how can I ever trust her again. This is the first time I've ever looked at her phone in our marriage and I've never been controlling or jealous. She has male friends and I never forbid from hanging out with anyone unless they are a bad apple. Is this worth trying to fix or should I go directly to a lawyer and start looking at my options? She makes way more than me, her entire family lives by us while mine are hours away. I know I shouldn't leave the house to live elsewhere as it could be considered abandonment but not sure what I should do. BTW I haven't talked to anyone about it which is another thing I am considering. If I say nothing she could try to turn the tables later and make herself the victim which I would never out past her. Any advice I'd appreciate it.",5.004255725190838,5.171151286259544,5.433654580152671,85.27162690839698,68.58015267175573,8.534732824427483,27.634541984732824,8.278499904357787,1.6062206106870227,2030,59,429,26,32,650,260,524,0.087,0.823,0.08900000000000001,0.0436,2,0,0,0,2,0,46.0,7,1,2,3,18,23,5,0,18,1,49,3,2,9,10,100,88,40,0,22,18,7,1,1,4,7,0,3,1,2,24,32,0,5,8,2,3,15,18,11,0,2,25,7,84,12,63,51,8,70,0,2,3,1,81,27,0,13,28,300,108,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504897331851947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053949993604156136,0.08318885237243444,0.06069046511003856,0.0,0.0,0.11094466970718107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416679120359188,0.0,0.0745371160730504,0.061003122148584374,0.06624076422667415,0.04836140731181846,0.0,0.06750758238045687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856323269663488,0.0,0.0907372187191993,0.0,0.08149810287078893,0.0,0.06833941025418644,0.0,0.0,0.08898007945763506,0.12668384663200502,0.0,0.08714492110434285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702665758577205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435246972782127,0.0,0.0,0.07130048608514257,0.0,0.07478924692789718,0.0,0.04011376797423142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06748165140426486,0.0,0.17397176608584444,0.2451737022864897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22543734211882505,0.06654178408831195,0.0,0.0,0.08739559324771591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16764192929301952,0.0,0.0,0.07812823113272681,0.0915410442327024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04360001538586372,0.06466798211399524,0.0,0.08400348950041296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03875869509303805,0.0,0.21016072289448592,0.1404165855512992,0.1332415366203153,0.08875470505972591,0.0,0.0,0.07160223563360274,0.0,0.15886863403004015,0.08043245232642718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431972613118903,0.0,0.0588253227254788,0.3059372262663982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773069641863814,0.07612332870939978,0.0,0.0,0.08448836062025618,0.053758924163125055,0.12067450636237124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718224695971549,0.07573349478234165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708515561928427,0.07499648587624838,0.0,0.0759802577103909,0.0,0.0855357128812153,0.07591213916944048,0.0,0.07975280855891234,0.0,0.0,0.07935569414105248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093003098861393,0.06308976010022545,0.0,0.08029047132723832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939151940165061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880816989251791,0.05615317290848107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14954313668716784,0.0,0.059649464063969274,0.12753169013407306,0.0693416095987424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054122680529423,0.10166833623052234,0.0,0.0,0.09252084937465584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772546251434274,0.17258571118400773,0.0,0.0,0.0954293047176408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14038014445783747,0.06297181523812216,0.06363713006710509,0.0,0.0,0.07354362155098199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057756260792021626,0.0,0.0,0.2254270294111816,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mountains_fall,2019/01/02,"Don't Leave Heard this song this morning: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQGcfudKBBs . (MO - Don't Leave). Reminds me of my marriage. Before we married, I said that no matter what, I marry for life, so we won't leave under any condition. She agreed, enthusicastically. Then shit hit the fan with me, I got super depressed and anxious, and when things got their worst, then she left me. The one person who was supposed to be on my side. She still harrases me. She sent me a message a week ago about how much she misses me and how I shouldn't have given up on us. She is the one who went to couples therapy and the first thing out of her mouth was ""I want a divorce"". After I drove 4 hours from my parents to be there at a 9am session. After I begged her to reconsider. After I lost my shit crying in downtown Chicago in her arms. After begging her to give me some time to get my shit together. She said she already had a lawyer. I know I was a shitty husband at the end. I know there are two sides to every story. I know she thinks I didn't 'try' hard enough (saw a therapist twice a week, went to a substance abuse program off work for two months, went to group therapy weekly. Finally, was STARTING to get my shit together). Then one day she said ""I'm moving out"". And then I had a double pulmonary embolism the day after she left. I think my body was starting to shut down. Then the divorce was finalized. I took my ring off my finger. I had two seizures that night. My whole body and mind hates this. I have no job (lost my job during all of this), I live with my parents who pretty much don't know how to deal with ANYTHING, and call me a big whiner. I guess I am whining right now. I know there are two sides. I know I was largely at fault. But why does she keep texting me? She asks me for money, even though she makes six figures and I pay her out of debt. I never knew how to say no to her... and then I drank over it, so I had the courage to stand up for myself... and it was a huge fucking disaster, and I know that was all on my response to things. But the week I moved back from her after being in rehab, she goes out drinking and comes back wasted, after promising me, in couples therapy, she would have no more than 3 drinks, and come back by 8. I was willing to do that right out of rehab, so that way she wasn't 'put out'. I didn't recognize my needs there. I was at fault. I should have told her no to going out. I know she is an addict too. She wouldn't admit it, but once at an AA meeting she said ""Wow, if you hadn't got here, I think I would have needed to come in myself. I'm not going to drink again."" That didn't happen. Going on 4 months now, off a 10 year long marriage. She says I gave up. I want the courage to say ""You gave up, too."" or even how I really feel ""You gave up. I said I wanted to stay. I wanted to work on it."" **Don't leave Shut your mind off and let your heart breathe You don't need to be worried I may not ever get my shit together But ain't nobody gonna love you better Don't go What we have here is irreplaceable No, I won't trade this for nothing I may not ever get my shit together But ain't nobody gonna love you better than me, yeah Love you better than me**",0.9986076986076996,2.9678345555555588,2.5904995904995936,94.46299754299757,81.82282282282283,5.177504777504779,19.4002184002184,6.194236138160024,-0.16317537537537552,2458,62,557,19,66,804,272,666,0.116,0.812,0.07200000000000001,-0.972,5,0,3,0,3,0,112.0,4,9,1,9,30,27,8,0,25,1,56,25,13,6,5,86,131,37,0,13,10,3,3,0,0,12,4,11,0,1,23,30,4,1,15,4,4,16,27,16,1,10,45,15,120,11,85,68,10,108,0,5,1,4,79,45,7,6,44,395,143,9,0.0,0.06504219119317592,0.0,0.05984419813017789,0.0,0.0,0.04866154874838509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605785495661967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03733082260288503,0.0,0.0,0.06201628987627718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045174319289017516,0.0,0.05131988236664424,0.0,0.0,0.12663375353813727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04671202745055267,0.0,0.0,0.14565182675210786,0.0,0.12195305090032685,0.0,0.0,0.056054443419058964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14186283800346636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12148165374939075,0.06030012930785629,0.07080611251303666,0.056594850283153524,0.04728141390839128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048039422184968976,0.0,0.0,0.16133007386872372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04862111935551095,0.056721726229128036,0.0,0.07251592033941051,0.09931224556832904,0.04625182656675437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02775681434119693,0.0,0.0,0.12027067446084265,0.0,0.0466940844517222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05075000538774598,0.11472253256651473,0.05266076595219157,0.12479351139059908,0.0,0.13171483899842862,0.0,0.0604735824760699,0.0,0.04854390955765764,0.0,0.049175585630400566,0.05419794142598627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505143208333099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0540610098694866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895062692601236,0.048793642899739816,0.0,0.0,0.2413530502776333,0.0,0.0,0.23250563383359885,0.11928824324255115,0.05613436826846172,0.03877431526481721,0.0,0.0,0.048473732434719835,0.048580790242341784,0.0,0.0,0.11984984644675943,0.0,0.14863599666129046,0.0,0.03664317267364922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1108576125672676,0.0,0.08763412909892185,0.11669045825001828,0.08070901805159472,0.12211295352515875,0.04233879397713137,0.0,0.0,0.05151570824209258,0.0,0.052673713009908286,0.0,0.0,0.05846191614896475,0.11159583498639944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1219099131205139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047932633382133716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05584845902184305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05518513996941884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035167463126553694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09376091450392794,0.2610909583059633,0.1309653153793138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33809665269547223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07771063521587325,0.05851129916578785,0.043839617394582746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18833336610770315,0.06373790683660824,0.10941039329101064,0.10552445989149427,0.05393455025567695,0.0,0.032010007641663986,0.0,0.0,0.05245500296414254,0.06099092062223264,0.037270441220468166,0.0,0.2144997083837385,0.0,0.06603252767126312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951515331459815,0.0435734929068628,0.17613543615388386,0.0,0.0,0.1526660360613233,0.04953465050815055,0.06128886557475795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07992915593846613,0.05574904517391758,0.0,0.0779923766681955,0.0,0.0,0.035350902328040584 divorce,jerichaholic2287,2019/01/02,"We can do hard things. Wife and I agreed to divorce on Friday. I posted it about it Saturday I think. Told my family and hers today. We did it together. It was by far the hardest part. Her family is pretty rough and my family ain’t perfect but it’s been really supportive and bonding for her. She’s felt more loved by my family than her own. We can do hard things. Wife and I don’t hold any ill will towards each other. But we disagree so majorly on what our problem is and what the solution is. We don’t see the same reality on so many issues. We don’t have any kids but I want some and when I ask myself “do I want to raise kids with her” my honest answer is no. We can do hard things. So anyway she wanted to be a partner of the conversation and tell my family together. Watching her ball her eyes out while she told them how much she’s going to miss them and how much they’ve meant to her was probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to listen to. I’m so thankful this divorce is mutual because I don’t think I could live with causing another human being that much pain if it was only me who wanted the divorce. She told my mom through tear drenched eyes that she mothered her better and stronger than her own mother. I thought I was going to die of pain. We can do hard things. We told her 17 y/o niece too and it was my turn to come apart as I told her how proud of her I was, how much I believed in her and knew she was going to be such a good partner to someone one day. Her neice’s Dad is a drug addict and absent from her life. Her grandfather (my wife’s dad) is a drunk and a cereal cheater and a scumbag. I was the only stable male presence in her life and now I’m out of it. Wife told me afterwards that her niece said that was the nicest thing any man has ever said to her and she’s going to miss me like crazy. We can do hard things. My wife is moving out on Saturday. I’m keeping our dog. Our wonderful beautiful dog who we got together in our 4th month of marriage. My wife is devastated to lose him and as of now I think I’m okay with her visiting and taking him out every week or so but who knows how I’ll feel in a month or a few months. She’s going to keep most of our friends as she’s the more social one who makes friends easy and then I bond with the husbands/boyfriends. I’m losing my primary friend group and I need to learn to be purposeful (as someone in my other thread commented) and go make friends. I’m scared to death of being lonely but I know I have my family and my dog. We can do hard things. 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I’m glad I found the courage to leave an abusive relationship. I’m glad I still hold out hope that I’ll find my partner in life. Someone to cherish with each breath I take. ...when I’m ready ",6.785963020030812,7.540817344632771,6.085454545454546,80.09255778120186,64.81920903954803,8.24427324088341,33.6050333846944,8.00094639256281,2.5044395480225985,758,31,133,8,11,231,119,177,0.086,0.5670000000000001,0.34700000000000003,0.9964,1,0,0,0,0,1,13.0,0,3,13,1,8,18,0,1,14,0,6,12,8,1,0,18,16,9,0,2,4,0,5,0,1,0,3,0,1,1,5,9,0,1,2,3,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,7,24,13,22,12,2,25,0,4,1,1,20,13,0,2,8,88,29,0,0.0,0.22000004360781886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450035797742204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855524062103956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1642185769431464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946815988332786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263966929980392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16970785236632022,0.0,0.0,0.2035881716737583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17812085652979653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445716727006685,0.0,0.0,0.1844218060720024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966079580196476,0.0,0.0,0.13115104046522474,0.0,0.3721996135795086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3949448660830488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121775429827918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20107298571938206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19399573279727395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19935047438622386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15732577985120716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828402244188538,0.0,0.2126954319532613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139608001957177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335732060277588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,catpotatoe,2019/01/03,"Mad at myself I wish more than anything I could go back in time, and spend more time working on my relationship before getting the government involved (aka marriage). Getting married so quickly absolutely destroyed everything. 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STBXH moves out 11 months ago, and the kids have primarily lived with me. The kids visit him randomly and infrequently— maybe a Saturday here and there. Do I go for sole custody or joint? We’ve gone a whole year with zero custody arrangement, and I’m not going to go for week-to-week (this is what he says he wants) a year into the separation. Every other weekend us what I’m looking for. My teen is refusing to go, but my other 2 are fine with every other weekend. My 1 year old, I’m very protective over, and since he is still a co-sleeping, breastfeeding baby, I’m firm on not doing overnights. How long can I hold out on avoiding overnights? 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I have what I believe to be proof, in her own admission, with the date, location, and her admission that it was a secret marriage. What do I do first?",5.171515151515148,6.2358173636363645,6.489090909090908,74.66196969696973,68.54545454545455,8.593939393939394,37.39393939393939,8.841846274778883,3.6147666666666662,180,10,30,3,3,61,33,44,0.0,0.925,0.075,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,5,6,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,6,0,3,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,2,27,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4369024996491203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6155304816178044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647107801740363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629063866374523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,stay_true_to_you,2019/01/03,"Moving out tomorrow. Words of encouragement needed. Love you all. Goodbyes were just about an hour ago. I’m shaky but doing OK. This is the right thing in the end. This isn’t a healthy marriage. I deserve love and respect and empathy. But God, that was hard. I’m still a little bit of a wreck. Saying goodbye to his cat was the second hardest part; packing up our wedding photos and seeing our happy faces, our first dance, our parents hugging, was first. Tomorrow my parents are driving to the city to help me finish packing. Saturday is the big move. Saturday night my friends are coming over for wine and pizza on the floor (I don’t have chairs yet!) Sunday begins my new life. Love and strength and peace to you all. 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On 11/8/18 I told my husband I wanted a divorce. I went to stay with my parents while i tried to figure out living arrangements. Staying in the home with him while we go through the divorce is not an option, although we own it together. Yesterday i got the keys to my new apartment.😊 after 2 days of moving, which included him threatening me and throwing my things out in the snow, then crying and begging me to stay..... I am sitting here in this mess of half unpacked things in an apartment 1/4 of the size of the house I still own but can't live in... And I feel very good. I've never felt so free. I can't believe it took this long, but I am so thankful I finally did it. Freedom. No more walking on eggshells. No more pretend forgiveness to keep the peace. No more anxiety about what will happen next. NO MORE FIGHTS. No more praying that the neighbors wont hear and call 911. No more hearing my daughter scream in fear watching violence. It's really fucking over. He is probably at home crying. And I don't care. I couldn't be happier.",2.0766531257052563,4.328028928909955,3.3162491536899132,89.18263823064774,79.61611374407582,6.293929135635297,27.583164071315732,7.447530270364453,1.6071893929135634,828,37,166,12,21,268,130,211,0.234,0.633,0.133,-0.9673,1,0,0,0,3,0,34.0,2,0,0,0,5,10,2,1,11,0,12,1,0,0,1,23,28,13,0,2,3,3,2,0,1,2,0,3,3,0,11,11,0,1,4,1,1,6,13,5,0,1,7,6,26,6,26,17,9,36,1,0,1,1,17,14,1,1,12,119,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973647086959367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468879096216977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312738869214027,0.0,0.13292593852703516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2864214953501387,0.08408104948819681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670805186317076,0.06592148608150665,0.0,0.12518038619063934,0.14281937211930726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052952953031205,0.0,0.0,0.07409508186956959,0.10935231256346026,0.20854549610845527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152901272786714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2938840614221397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615533862706501,0.0,0.0,0.15043517420625202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11588323543697053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302469180169085,0.11537771764520972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856792650653835,0.0,0.0,0.10055318969831348,0.12591692772931826,0.1386552258450297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476594003519735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1362140615258528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405662342613383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352152385074597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4168870115447867,0.10411759405711908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003172666737882,0.0,0.0,0.17323063158105695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12457884054344975,0.14485135345410854,0.08851602500075506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757297798146474,0.07689851644736974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208588738801853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Patsx5sb,2019/01/03,Temporary Orders today was Brutal. We dragged each other through the Mud. 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According to my therapist, this is the boy’s way of protecting you from the massive emotions that would sweep through your body otherwise. It’s a trauma response. In return I found it increasingly difficult to make tough decisions. Part of that is because, rational as we like to think we are, most decisions are emotional—we justify them with cherrypicked logic after forming them. And I could logic myself into and out of options A, B, and C all week long—and I did! Much to the exhaustion of the friends I discussed them with. And I couldn’t feel enough to have my “big cry” that I kept feeling must be coming soon but never seemed to show its face. Well. I started dating again and had a very delightful encounter. Or two. Or three. (I went back for seconds and thirds!) And boom, it was like someone turned the floodlights on inside. Suddenly I was feeling again. Naturally the first things I felt were good! And then o realized that I was making decisions easier, a good sign. Hey, I even had that cathartic Big Cry! And now I’m having little cries all the time. SIGH But every time I cry, whether it’s because I’m scared of letting someone down or I regret having ever moved here and losing my ex-husband in the process, when it’s done, I feel less afraid, more confident and assured. I didn’t think a little making out could finally bring the levy down. But it has. And I think I’m better off for it. Everything is a little too loud, like after you pop your ears on a flight. So it’ll take some getting used to. But I’ll be myself again ",3.293887147335425,5.508082777429472,4.125078369905957,85.0800313479624,75.4576802507837,7.158620689655173,26.673981191222573,8.104835398774808,1.820156112852664,1302,50,245,22,29,417,181,319,0.104,0.748,0.14800000000000002,0.9473,0,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,2,4,3,3,16,19,0,2,17,0,28,5,3,4,7,66,54,25,1,6,8,1,6,3,1,3,2,3,1,1,16,20,0,2,17,1,0,5,3,9,2,5,14,9,32,9,34,31,11,49,0,2,0,0,15,17,0,7,29,179,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965483679913023,0.0,0.12629583113521206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161753612507663,0.0,0.11506588996072073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923419620207666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654174536178649,0.0,0.4551579803756383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751076848415307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600922909407584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652556936961987,0.0,0.10703686148856292,0.0,0.06842066556411701,0.187407397124606,0.08727961370252582,0.0,0.09310062145634757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618927957164999,0.0,0.09946329567814376,0.11347852383228813,0.0,0.08811417744242868,0.0,0.11358183111899932,0.0800339005416056,0.0,0.054121853495501214,0.0,0.0,0.1737738910794567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844402283029525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592848632335576,0.0,0.1518275175160771,0.31147521959101354,0.0,0.09167448986247828,0.0,0.11589147075895136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2074427450670614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11010049629210787,0.07615106732797393,0.0,0.07989551672346341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121786089968388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10371233981175956,0.0,0.0,0.09430506228813426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569127898256823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17554408992246934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733220147795697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778872975320545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027676093781395,0.0688210431912962,0.1991301701826736,0.0,0.0,0.12080911431885033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267691041074833,0.10119303969550708,0.0,0.0,0.0894690852739767,0.0,0.08547315790873444,0.0,0.08222545812524454,0.08309419307283616,0.0,0.0931404598975648,0.0960295959605472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358784520128486,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Euler84,2019/01/03,"Using the kids as leverage TLDR - My wife is keeping the kids from me in an effort to harm me; it's working but is also harming the kids. I'm looking for ideas to persuade her to process her anger in a healthier way and focus on effectively co-parenting to reduce the harm to our kids during and after the divorce. Background Info I (36M) have been married for 12 years (34F) and have four kids in a flyover state. I live in a separate house than my STBXW and kids. I work for a F500 in tech and she's never had a full-time job. We haven't filed for divorce, but will file soon. I wanted to work through our issues and she wanted to be done with me. She was emotionally abusive, but I broke some of her stuff and pushed her on a few occasions and fully accept the awfulness of my pathetic actions. I'm deeply ashamed of my behavior and have learned to make better choices; there is no excuse for pushing her and breaking her stuff. After we separated and after it was clear that no intimacy would be possible again, I slept with a bunch of women (<10) while the marriage was still legally valid. I'm not suicidal because I'm not going to abandon my kids, yet I'm in enough pain that I understand why people choose death. The Kids I chose a virtual job to help raise my kids between work tasks and put most of my effort into being the best dad/husband I could; I was a good dad, but a poor husband. As soon as it became clear that divorce was the only path forward, I strongly advocated for being the best co-parents we could to minimize the damage to our kids. My wife clearly hates me and tried to hurt me by trying to embarrass me publicly, and privately saying that I'm fat (neither fit, nor fat), stupid (sometimes, but I'm reasonably intelligent), a sexual deviant (nothing too crazy), have a small dick (~8""), etc. I fought to make the point that we shouldn't do things that emotionally harms the kids and, in doing so, revealed a weakness that could be exploited. Leverage Now, if my wife doesn't get her way, she keeps the kids from seeing and/or talking with me. She's started telling them that I belong in jail and me that she is going to get full custody if I don't meet her demands. As an example of what she's doing, when I show up to her house, she makes the kids talk to me through a closed door and makes them go to the other side of the house to come outside to see me because I'm so ""dangerous."" For the record, I don't even spank my kids. Any ideas? I'm going to see a lawyer soon, but I don't have any ideas for persuading her to be a good co-parent. Any ideas? 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We started counseling only because I gave him an ultimatum a year ago. A year later, some small changes have taken place, but nothing significant. I’ve been emotionally done for a long time. I guess you could say I’ve had “one foot out the door” for awhile. My husband is in denial. He has zero self esteem. He has talked about how a divorce will “destroy him” and how I’m all he has. He has even said that he has considered suicide several times, but decided against it. I know I’ll be okay. I know my kids will adjust and be okay. My biggest hang up is him. I can’t bear the thought of hurting him so much. I’m aware that these are the divorce is the result of his action (refusing to acknowledge that the abuse is a problem or seek help for his anxiety/depression) and his lack of change is what lead us here, but I still can’t handle the thought of hurting him. I feel trapped. I don’t want to stay married, but I don’t want to cause another human, someone I do love, but can’t handle living with, so much pain. Help! I’d love insight from others that have been there. I’m ready in every other aspect to take the first step, but this is killing me. 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Almost a year into an extremely messy divorce and suddenly questioning if this is the right decision. My spouse has expressed wanting to stay together and for the first time I’m considering it and I don’t know why. Sooo many awful things have happened leading up to separation and since then that i can’t believe I’m even considering this. No physical violence, but BAD. Just about everyone we know would disapprove after the year we’ve had as well and probably for good reason. We had only been married a short time but have a baby together. Do people come back from stuff like this and able to have a decent marriage? Do they later regret it and wish they would have separated as they originally planned? Would love to hear any experience out there...",5.329190476190476,7.786481442857145,6.154285714285718,71.71904761904764,70.28571428571428,9.80952380952381,30.95238095238095,10.125756701596842,3.6590952380952384,622,27,103,18,12,204,98,140,0.122,0.752,0.126,0.5710000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,3,3,7,6,0,0,8,1,16,1,0,3,0,30,26,13,0,7,4,1,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,8,12,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,2,1,1,3,1,8,4,14,20,0,19,0,1,0,1,12,5,0,3,12,73,16,1,0.17018189383911014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041258395623554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572952359639747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085937166088274,0.1420947728532024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19173671709450146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146596632607691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240353585706568,0.0,0.0,0.16261609254811016,0.0,0.16647054751980386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475663196208632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142740498326981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049128668758974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191807362799982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870550364259133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831422771102937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359580353454344,0.0,0.0,0.17253772924841052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12943099895448176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11798269728925738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834848651670405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906426690558776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497533062099924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453344074805299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407762211948783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813912554110072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19481755278440613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306128831536105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19846886172824507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003776902471368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301396058517894,0.0,0.15356268908950532,0.0,0.1957007791824129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626770038786995,0.0,0.0,0.219183119999651 divorce,DakotaMayhem,2019/01/03,"NonProfit Hi all, Long time lurker first time posting. My ex works for a major non profit but I have no idea how much he makes,what the value of his 401k is. I have access to our last 5 year IRS transcripts. Is there any way that I can get a full financial picture of his earnings and deductions? We have been married 12 years and he has kept me in the dark about our finances. No joint bank account. Please help. I want to have as much information as I can before meeting my attorney. I can only afford a legal aid attorney. 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At first I was heartbroken. We’d been married 25 years, she’s all I’ve known my adult life. But here’s what I didn’t realize… my wife was a borderline hoarder. The house was a wreck, it was embarrassing to have anyone over. I was in constant mental torture of living in a house that was just a dump. Fast forward to today… she’s moved out, divorce is final, and my house is clean. There is peace, joy and sanity in the house. I feel like I can have people over and be proud of my house. I’ve upgraded my TV and cleaned and redid every room of my house, even my 3 children’s rooms. I’m starting to talk to other women—confidently. I don't feel emotionally oppressed like I did in 2018. While I didn’t ask for it, this divorce has been the best thing for me in a long time. So for those just going through it—there is hope. It’s better if your spouse leaves you than if she (or he) stays in a marriage that they don’t want any part of. There is a new life ahead for you out there. 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My divorce was finalized over a year ago and I gave my HR rep, at the time, all the paperwork needed to show I was no longer married. I then filed my 2017 taxes alone and pretty much haven't thought about it since. A few weeks ago, I noticed my check stubs still list me as married. When I filed my taxes a year ago, there was no mention of me being married, so I didn't think to ask. However now, I am wondering if my taxes for 2018 will be affected. I was told I can fill out a new W4 but I don't know if there will be any sort of penalty or fee for not being listed as single last year. I don't think my ex will have any need to do anything, but I'm curious to know if I'll have any problems. I claimed 0 last year and I will make sure I'm changed to single for this year. Is this making sense? 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I am in the middle of a divorce. I make about 75% of our income and my attorney has said that I will certainly be paying child support and/or alimony. My state has tables that will determine the amount to a certain extent, which means that it will be based on my salary and her salary. My question is about how alimony and child support is determined. My salary is guaranteed for only 9 months per year, but I can find extra work and earn extra money, up to 12 months per year. The last few years, I have been lucky/good enough to earn 12 months of salary, but this year (2019)... I will not. My concern is that I will be forced to pay alimony/child support based on previous years' salaries, which I will not be able to earn. I can't find anything on the internet about this... but I have to imagine that I am not the only person whose salary can ary substantially from year to year. Any clarification on this would be helpful. Thanks!",4.592314744079452,6.132370588235292,4.70056913674561,85.15236631016046,70.3903743315508,8.123605805958746,27.26088617265088,8.634040054169528,1.8663356760886167,768,26,151,13,14,239,95,187,0.03,0.852,0.118,0.923,7,0,0,0,1,0,30.0,1,0,0,4,4,7,0,0,7,0,26,0,0,2,2,22,34,8,0,1,6,0,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,3,12,5,0,0,6,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,19,7,22,20,6,19,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,1,11,101,31,6,0.12522121152524882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08515471785548054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030463875465843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938698524537529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288998375211109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502961114723823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393313853552048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207200044554413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08358613105174666,0.0,0.0,0.136402609207066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29985112907822964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904727480977029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933833189655832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402764151288216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911404752941662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5683981876014378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528686757209862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116253336781248,0.0,0.0,0.08895355589546107,0.0,0.0,0.5644684827850035 divorce,ReadyWillingAlan,2019/01/03,"STBXW losing sense of self This is very difficult to write. I've been trying very hard to detach and get over it since I found out she was cheating and didn't want to end it. We are living apart and close to finishing our divorce. Her affair partner bailed out on her and now she is suddenly grieving the loss of our marriage and her boyfriend. She is afraid she doesn't know herself and will always be alone with nobody to support her. I've been trying to help her with her identity issues for years. Her parents are very awful to their kids. She isn't sleeping. She is having panic attacks. Friends and neighbors are with her around the clock. As has been typical for the last few years, she needs me but is unable to give. The thing is, I understand why she would feel so lost. I also don't recognize her anymore. Her behavior over the last couple of years isn't like her at all. I've tried a few times to talk to her and she is very appreciative but I really don't think she hears me anymore. She hated infidelity and anybody that engaged in that behavior until suddenly it was OK for her. When I found out she made up the most horrible excuses mostly about how much I've let her down. I tried my best. She has been unplugging from our marriage for quite a few years now. Her accusations against me are almost all reflections of her own behavior. It is heartbreaking to me that what I see as her parents abuse and some really terrible therapy has put her into a tailspin for most of last year. Now her old life and her new life are gone. She was a wonderful person. I wish there was some way I could help her without losing myself again.",3.338259619637326,5.354000993808049,4.106451791242814,86.16773606811145,74.66563467492259,7.586421937195933,25.15800530738611,8.418075326091056,1.656526846528085,1303,44,257,24,28,416,167,323,0.16,0.74,0.1,-0.9508,2,1,0,0,2,0,26.0,4,0,1,6,11,19,3,2,10,2,36,3,1,2,2,48,55,20,1,5,3,2,2,1,3,2,2,1,1,4,10,21,0,0,8,0,0,2,7,13,0,0,14,4,56,6,43,36,13,39,0,6,1,0,60,14,0,7,23,190,66,0,0.0,0.1172774918907414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911618145814788,0.10251550718786663,0.0,0.07915587473270723,0.0823609585828727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963271061206092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881149710731027,0.0,0.11260632175203315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387550898059082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902907784711505,0.10952170738032266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766867822763268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0500482764970881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21705732199838065,0.07647325258581683,0.0,0.0517140129965607,0.09495255984805044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866843565991117,0.0977242389820941,0.0,0.0,0.11155991497185544,0.0,0.13269110483704616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331149831746066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05439792209773861,0.24205063843135474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121580774921857,0.13982783668935644,0.048357608538016364,0.0,0.08740292505894648,0.0,0.0,0.2214710930222344,0.10805055254842888,0.0,0.0,0.09365916771188566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727631636974177,0.07339390352675071,0.0,0.09559743854786512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386496511943301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613405761028042,0.21981560868589084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08642727004813536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950425541524452,0.0,0.10527954771026483,0.0,0.0,0.1268208157192301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887584383315692,0.0,0.10325981981715288,0.0,0.0,0.08187893852092111,0.0,0.09905348999102284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232360783859392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07955798734827459,0.0,0.0,0.11319455065124727,0.0,0.06575924681381051,0.06342367296351689,0.0,0.0,0.057717203906434277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26880913990218724,0.0,0.0,0.10304375941889343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32668208595751785,0.058382151892257164,0.0785673094231799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931586508250712,0.0,0.11382442241428856,0.0954151219593433,0.1073417636183333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031397739259744,0.0,0.0,0.3187058342479509 divorce,significantjacket74,2019/01/03,"Stood up for self & feel very anxious Ex asked to take kids from our town to his town for a day trip to see the lounge where he works. I said no for the following reasons: would require a train trip as ex doesn’t have car. If winter weather happens the kids might be stranded (he doesn’t have ability to keep them overnight) and I would have to drive two hours to pick them up. I don’t want kids around alcohol or addicts. I don’t want them introduced to new girlfriend at this early stage (suspect she’s a coworker;we’ve only be separated three months). Ex is flipping out now. I said the kids would like to do kid stuff (indoor playground, trampoline park, laser tag, mini putt, movie, etc. as long as they were with their dad. I didn’t see how taking them to a lounge would be any fun or a healthy activity for them. He’s MAD. I never stood up to him in our relationship and I’ve only started to recently. He’s a narcissist and doesn’t appear to take kindly to being told what to do. Any advice on how to get past the fear I’m feeling for standing up for myself? 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For backstory, my STBXW has some serious mental issues going on. I suspect it's bipolar, as her mom is also bipolar, but it is possibly a symptom of her Lupus. Regardless, I can't live like this. Started the divorce process in September after she accused me of giving her the wrong medicine (I didnt), cheating on her (I hadn't), and trying to start fires, spending all of our meager savings, vandalizing the house, and taking off randomly. In November, after a hilariously dumb attempt at reconciliation on my part, I got a restraining order against her. Within a week, I had a security camera set-up in the house, alerting me to any sound or motion. Normally, I ignore the sound notifications, likely just the pooch barking in her crate. This time, I looked, and there she was standing in the kitchen, getting the dog out of the crate. I called the cops immediately, and left work to deal with this fresh insanity. She was gone, of course. But I showed the police the video from the camera, and they went to her mom's house where she's been staying. They didn't arrest her, but she is being charged and got a summons. Fuck everything about this. I turned 40 5 days ago, alone. New Year's, alone. I don't even want this divorce. What I wanted was a partner who would take her mental health seriously. Fuck my life. God bless all of you in your individual struggles, and stay safe.",5.21445652173913,6.7036960253623175,5.995623188405798,76.65626086956524,68.81884057971016,8.563478260869566,30.828985507246376,8.982922981607832,2.6252585507246367,1157,47,210,21,20,379,168,276,0.191,0.733,0.075,-0.9855,1,2,0,0,2,0,50.0,1,2,2,2,7,17,5,2,23,0,17,8,0,0,2,29,34,13,0,5,5,2,1,2,1,1,5,2,1,1,9,9,1,5,1,2,1,5,5,11,0,0,12,4,38,6,33,20,5,39,1,0,1,2,28,15,3,3,16,141,47,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474937908173644,0.0,0.0,0.2447741689406895,0.0,0.0944994273840208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08035873474726657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900956130562827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066340455540092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620900394357362,0.12182669024854875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804927940508674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10620236381688378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21849002711561216,0.06173824283297965,0.11335813753037972,0.06715796747030517,0.0,0.18902052997774288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560775002825955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637231781588694,0.4090522723296581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333737029819268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632322219476946,0.0,0.0,0.1283905848950508,0.0,0.08346601275085573,0.11546246774315423,0.0,0.10434508364223896,0.0,0.09923190517084024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23817241296793046,0.0,0.0,0.2767953913468043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412801933726295,0.0,0.0,0.11578018824351535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796513340934265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332173986566561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167280758551282,0.25190411791344397,0.09436963720592297,0.0,0.0,0.12353553102334347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12282247419162158,0.17769623832407094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06890509059223518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08022875712676446,0.12853355913220746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939786381984284,0.0,0.09478776388114064,0.0,0.0,0.10954352321023147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602818519375083,0.0,0.0,0.08394361913289401,0.12919886926854285,0.0,0.07609673682990316 divorce,deco23,2019/01/03,Back on this sub again I am almost done with my divorce. It’s been hard and was not my choice but whatever. My question to you all is about child support. First of all I only get my kids over night every other weekend because of my work schedule but I am with them atleast 4 days a week. We have not gone in front of the friend of the court about how much I will be paying but since the split I have given her $200 a week every week. We have two children together. On the child support calculator it shows me giving her an additional $160 a month. Now let me state that in no way would I ever make my children suffer. I’m just mad because my ex is lying about how much money she really makes. She is a hair stylist and we bring home almost the same amount. Plus she is gettin food assistant from the government and in section 8 housing all the while she is not suffering one bit and is actually ahead. Myself I am having the hardest time making ends meet. Is there a way to prove to the court she is lying with out hiring a forensic CPA? I would totally hire one but like I stated I am strapped.,3.2112470588235285,4.46394244888889,4.361098039215687,87.36917647058826,73.4,7.071895424836601,24.79084967320261,7.5105763829236425,1.0661633986928098,861,26,181,10,17,282,137,225,0.095,0.815,0.09,-0.289,0,1,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,1,1,3,11,7,1,0,16,0,24,2,1,5,6,38,35,12,0,2,8,1,2,1,1,3,0,0,1,5,5,13,1,0,2,2,2,3,4,3,0,4,5,2,32,4,23,25,10,32,0,2,0,0,23,8,0,3,18,133,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.13494177441116506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27693579714827143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632913240296664,0.0,0.16858896070031631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15096643976903765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917945218378116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150891281976102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12247543707157685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508258596027386,0.23301449037824115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176212822264774,0.16720927201006525,0.0,0.10683513455528376,0.0,0.07224582909797574,0.13265121025617935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387212436011945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870656852174426,0.0,0.0,0.15955707625614884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14140113143317526,0.0,0.06755684425915061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769098273579197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037413788542193,0.0,0.20330408662972194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297668372640414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874048266336025,0.10516851525577997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15490575372949658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885859987226936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438701923015605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138380375204993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806324438545233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507990912310452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21952117348357136,0.33276071405832364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066981630706008,0.0,0.0,0.19646093194285147,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MiniJunkie,2019/01/03,"Getting divorce while unemployed? (Question is for Canada/Alberta) Used to make a very high salary, but recently unemployed. I understood the child support calculations when I was working (formula was pretty straightforward). But how does it work if we go through divorce and I have no income (not even EI payments due to severance)? Anyone know or been through that? Thanks!",5.864861751152077,9.404424887096779,5.373963133640554,72.30951612903227,74.32258064516128,9.349308755760367,37.88940092165899,9.606745405546679,4.965107834101383,301,18,42,9,7,92,54,62,0.041,0.7759999999999999,0.183,0.8941,6,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,3,0,13,13,8,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,4,2,5,9,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,4,29,6,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18442772579475467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23081890571028205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17421156019393044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780416282567445,0.0,0.14990137489587868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786778296691387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495607050711132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17606242193585386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683396179786018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954725272876892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604320285317853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2979746948316295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993126977940432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24283556215295815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278046962302221,0.0,0.21763033246189356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.384042094366318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Hey--ThrowAway,2019/01/03,"Dating Again I’m currently talking to someone going through a divorce. Technicalities: Still married, separated and filing for divorce. I didn’t know prior to, but I grew to like this person. I understand the situation that I’m in. At worst, I’m the rebound and the distraction. At best, I’m a shoulder this person can lean on during a very dark and tough time. Looking for some different perspectives. * If you’re comfortable, what was the reason behind your divorce? * When did you start dating again? As in how soon after knowing you were getting divorced did you put yourself out there? * What were you looking for in a new dating prospect? * How did things work out with the new person?",2.8574305882352924,5.9055538960000025,3.703247058823532,81.60856470588236,86.03999999999998,5.821176470588236,27.35294117647059,7.285733465282438,2.013371764705883,547,25,89,9,17,174,79,125,0.084,0.787,0.129,0.7943,2,0,0,0,4,0,22.0,0,5,0,2,8,6,0,1,9,0,8,1,1,3,0,15,20,9,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,6,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,3,0,0,7,2,8,3,19,13,3,26,0,0,2,0,13,8,0,2,16,66,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20363433700763206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027318231283616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137855259536084,0.0,0.11027812300723484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21328001007505268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479876104148413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3258915853732719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748125272138934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5082880461915263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19506506663382467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995067387159778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21811051271093224,0.0,0.0,0.16441053478045714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734340662125166,0.0,0.15496160547956514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559630192556225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891239483171754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11314702249610295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200380087630695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16010436588729346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126435248476593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,blackpantherlove,2019/01/03,"separate rooms &#x200B; no editing &#x200B; living in seperate rooms to start off the new year. its that great? he enjoys going online to talk to women. he hates every thought i have and finds me useless most days. he broke something he gave me intentionally saying he bought it so i gave back every item he bout that was in our room. he continued to say that for 4 years we havent had a conversation about our relationship. so as i told him time and time again i was in a relationship with myself for like 6 years. and about 3 years pior to that i was falling in love with myself, long story, which he denied but was obviously true. He did something and it was okay, i go and do it and that was so wrong and apparently i never recongize my wrong doings. it probaly has been over he lacks drive and consistency and every time i tried to talk the other day he would turn the music up lol. he then went on to complain about how i talk to him like a child, but he talks to me like dirt. or as im talking he closes the door on me. and he continuosly yells how everyone else sees that we dont have a relationship but me. but yet hes still telling me that he wants to be with me and he doesnt want a divorce. he went so far as to saying that he will take care of me and the kids while he entertains other women. lol i think i needed to just write this down so i could see how toxic and full of shit this guy is. 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I've determined I don't want to be in this anymore. Maybe I rushed into it. I may be about to break the vows I made to her before family and God (if you believe in that). 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To say I was blindsided is an understatement. He had never expressed unhappiness with our marriage. During this time we had bought a house, had a son, a miscarriage and gotten pregnant again with the twins (all discussed and planned). Once I discovered the truth, he stopped the infidelity and has remained in the house. We have had periods of fighting and getting along under the guise of reconciliation. But even during the good times there was an an emotional emptiness to the relationship. Now that the twins are born, I have the confidence and clarity to see that he’ll never be the man I thought he was and that we need to divorce. He is in agreement and lawyers have been retained. My issue is that I can’t help but continue to have hope that we can work things out and stay together. Every time we get along and laugh together or have any sort of fun, I get the wrong impression. I know that he doesn’t want to be with me. I know there’s no going back. The reality is the marriage was never what I thought it was anyway so there’s nothing to “go back” to. Yet, this hope is causing me to be heartbroken all over again on an almost daily basis. I know it’ll get easier emotionally when he leaves. But it’s going to be more difficult having two newborns, a toddler, a dog and maintaining a house all on my own. The children will be split 50/50 between us and that is also going to be hard. I’ve never been apart from my children that much. I’m going to be the one losing again after being lied to and manipulated throughout the whole marriage. I never thought it was possible to feel such anger, resentment and love towards someone . And it has me on an emotional roller coaster. How can someone be so cruel to another person, let alone their spouse and mother of their children. 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It took flying alone after a 10 day vacation with friends to realize that my best friend and forever travel partner is gone. When out with friends and family it's so easy to feel optimistic about the future. But when alone and doing an activity we were always supposed to do together it's so easy to forget all the things that were wrong with our relationship, and only feel the pain. I keep going through in my head what happened, and if I made a huge mistake telling her we should get divorced. I know this is unreasonable - during normal day to day activities I miss and grieve the relationship we had, but know that it was not healthy. Some background: my STBXW bought her own engagement ring and shipped it to me after just a year of dating in our early 20's, set a hard deadline for marriage before we had even been dating for 1.5 years, cheated on me with the little brother of one of my friends, and told friends she was only going to couple's therapy so I couldn't claim she didn't try. She was emotionally abusive and always made sure she got her way. Despite all this, I can't help but think about only the good times we had traveling, and do legs of travel by myself is heartbreaking. I want to do nothing more than text her (despite agreeing to no contact at the advice of our lawyers) to ask her to reconcile. Not really sure why I'm writing this, but it's helping to prevent me from crying again in the middle of the airport. 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It took 2 full weeks of cohabiting at night but me leaving everyday to come to ""my place"" to do repairs, clean, and paint. It has been a struggle since the 9 and 11 yr old are on Christmas break. So, l could never make too much progress with the work getting interrupted by kids who are hungry or bored. Some days, it felt like nothing got done- but then I'd realize the girls and I had a great time together, so it didn't matter. Some days, I'd have to leave them with a relative just to get a few hours of work done. My room still isn't finished, and I'll be sleeping in the recliner for a few days. Thats okay, because the kids rooms are done- paint, curtains, and all other decorations picked out and set up. This has been so hard moving one car load at a time. Sometimes, with half the car taken up with the kids being with me. Not everything worked like we thought, and I had to buy a stove- and we unexpectedly have no hot water heater until Friday. It will take my whole paycheck, but I've got food in the fridge and the kids showered at my mom's tonight. He hasn't offered to help pack one bag for the kids, or to make one trip. He hasn't offered $1 toward a stove or hot water heater for his girls and I, even though I've mentioned everything going on. He made them so happy, offering to take them to the mall on the 30th; but then he gave them a $20 budget while he bought 4 pair of pants at American Eagle, some boots, a few shirts, and a gaming headset. So, they came home unhappy with him, but happy to see me and my small amount of progress on ""our new"" place. After decorating tonight, my oldest fell asleep in a room fit for a princess- the first time she's been in charge of every single item chosen. My youngest asked me to sleep in her room just for tonight- so we plugged in her Star twinkle lights and fell asleep together talking. When he asked for the divorce, it hurt. Every time I accomplish something for the girls, it heals a part of me. Everytime He makes the wrong choice, the hurt takes a hike. I can dig myself out of this hole and still have a loving heart. 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I want to be divorced from this motherfucker today, right now. Two days ago I found out that my husband has been cheating shamelessly with multiple women. Strangers, old flames, women he paid for sex, you name it. We had our problems, but we had so many conversations and I was always told that the love and devotion were still there. That I was the only woman in his life. Turned out he was straight up living a lie. Looking back I see that I checked out on the marriage a long time ago. I loved him and still do, but over time I had come to see him as someone I had very little in common with. Plus I was always the breadwinner, and deep down i guess I had a hard time respecting the fact that he contributed so little to our expenses. It was a major turn-off. All this time I thought our interests had diverged, but in reality they were never aligned. I never cheated, but I was distant and critical. And there were periods where I was very closed off to sex. I realize that none of this in any way justifies his lies, backstabbing and betrayal. But I had my role to play in the marriage going on autopilot. Still, as far as I was concerned he was my person for life. We were about to start counseling and try for a baby before this whole life ruining shitshow blew up in my face. I kicked him out 2 days ago when I found the texts, and there’s no going back. How could I ever trust him again? A persons word and integrity mean a lot to me. And even though I’m beyond devastated and broken, a big part of me is relieved and eager to start a new life. So ultimately there’s no question that I’m divorcing his ass. I want to regain some self respect, move on with my life, get back into therapy, and down the road maybe venture back into dating with a fresh understanding of who I am and what I really want. Everyone I’ve talked to says sit on this for a week or two and file later this month. Our finances are mostly separate and no kids, so I can hopefully skip the lawyers and file myself. But I want to do it now so this stage of this fucking nightmare can be over. Am I being rash? Should I hold off for a week or two?",3.493722943722944,4.757938104308393,4.579187796330653,86.03417439703155,72.71882086167801,8.066542980828695,26.062049062049066,8.575989854853784,1.6607378684807257,1708,56,359,30,33,559,220,441,0.139,0.7390000000000001,0.123,-0.8944,0,0,0,0,1,0,47.0,7,1,1,0,29,17,3,0,21,0,38,14,4,1,6,74,66,40,0,9,10,1,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,7,20,34,0,1,7,1,4,4,8,5,0,3,26,5,55,12,56,33,8,81,0,1,3,6,42,36,2,8,38,260,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328892821135416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573846897833148,0.0,0.0,0.0595538551505884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26935840821976104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07451968969913703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543792070145723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992133778177666,0.0,0.0,0.11295697963140425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784231788762013,0.07921640450000221,0.0,0.08368145759019001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920424575726043,0.0,0.08096147523735063,0.04575420932759508,0.0,0.09954153408495586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647349616503492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844980365773943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698151905602741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3092832937822424,0.0,0.17554587752259804,0.07733013737025404,0.07750092667312261,0.07354076100684455,0.0,0.0,0.07445294835680848,0.15807932066384442,0.0,0.0,0.0887870840245223,0.08798063984743662,0.09539461154303046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699013558597798,0.0930781344145937,0.0,0.0,0.13508614211838035,0.08458027062784365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189500254397108,0.0,0.0,0.06660456834345001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483495532070876,0.0,0.0,0.1529338442815477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379723959633413,0.0,0.0,0.09810379880306287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056102648134268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1495767714671815,0.0,0.06964298201890337,0.0,0.0,0.13957152657532015,0.0,0.0913595974723133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420182900057623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397176356217415,0.0,0.20981200322966567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08253819607817485,0.0,0.0,0.07038929288000152,0.0,0.0,0.1001493959787007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860417791407169,0.0695245950874148,0.2042622396768251,0.0,0.08301065393622814,0.08368145759019001,0.0,0.05945752874116264,0.19051243120299247,0.25664351209490993,0.09116843704757456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144516734230911,0.20661550275368795,0.0695127860584554,0.1404944161447898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09777411715810777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Danibelle903,2019/01/03,"Not really sure where to start Hi everyone. I’m not really sure where to start. I guess I’ll talk a bit about my background. I’m a 34F, he’s a 35M. We don’t own anything. We don’t have kids together (though that’s a bit complicated and I’ll get to it). We’ve been married for 4.5 years. He didn’t do anything to cause this, neither did I. He’s a good man and a great father. We’re just making each other miserable. Like I said, we don’t technically have any kids together. My husband has a child from a previous relationship (no marriage) who’s 11. His bio-mom lives in another state and is barely involved in his life. My husband has full custody and my stepson has lived with us for several years. Although we tried for a while, we were never able to get pregnant. I know I don’t have any legal right to my stepson and that’s okay. My husband and I agreed that we’d still coparent together as much as we can. My mother is his primary babysitter (though he doesn’t need much supervision anymore). I trust that my husband will continue to let me see him and be involved in his life. Neither one of us knows how to tell him. I could really use some advice here. He’s in middle school so he’s pretty well-aware of what’s going on. He knows his dad has pretty much moved into his room. As a middle schooler, he knows what a divorce is. Still, I have concerns. I don’t ever want him to feel like I’m abandoning him the way his mom did. I don’t intend to and neither does my husband. If any of you have any experience in this dynamic, or a similar dynamic, I’d be really interested in your stories. Another thing that we’re not sure of is the legal process. I met with a divorce attorney to figure out some of the details, but I’m still a bit confused. In theory, this shouldn’t be complicated on a legal level. We don’t have anything to fight over. The lawyer I met with said she could write up an agreement, send it to his lawyer for review, and that a judge would more than likely approve it. With nothing to fight over, do we even need to go to the court for mediation or is this fine? Have any of you opted for something like this? I’m really not sure at all where to go from here. Any and all advice is welcome. 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I thought it would last forever. I took my maiden name as my middle name and my husbands name as my last name. I’m a writer, and in those 12 years I have been published many times under my new name. I’ve become known by my new name. But now my last name is my husband’s, and into weeks we’ll be divorced. Do I go back to my maiden name? Keep the name that I feel like I’ve earned? I don’t know what to do.",0.017256637168141964,1.3017688230088496,2.0789469026548666,100.28408407079651,82.00884955752213,4.873982300884958,17.494690265486724,4.935628992294339,-0.9047550442477874,379,7,100,1,10,127,63,113,0.0,0.971,0.029,0.4329,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,0,0,22,21,7,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,5,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,5,1,20,1,10,13,0,21,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,0,16,56,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778303513582726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425817347727544,0.0,0.0,0.221560090045061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143540791116312,0.14331718647123148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401236987221512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17831308053463413,0.0,0.0,0.22050211530560213,0.4905764386486003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800884447933836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338898645141906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875044598160832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105084498800152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592634456197379,0.11697841627136885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22288721018720328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16091877110121386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425089429221283,0.0,0.0,0.38756247243586106 divorce,brownbearkodiak,2019/01/03,"When you least expect it It’s been seven months now since my ex and separated. It’s been a rough road but I’ve lately been seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, started dating again, stopped crying so much, getting life back on track. But tonight all those feelings of loss rushed back in and took over for a bit. I miss my old life, remembering all the plans, the routines, the cat, the reciprocated unconditional love when the relationship was good. Going room to room in my mind of what was our dream house remembering how it once was. Will these flashes of anguish ever stop? 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I (m29) am having to deal with custody and I'm so over it. My STBX (29f, let's call her A) is out of town with her most recent affair partner. Quick background, she filed after she had an affair and didn't feel that I tried to reconcile soon enough after dday, even though I stayed by her side and worked on my own emotions so I could attempt reconciliation with a clear head, it just took longer than she wanted, wtf? My kids are with her abusive/alcoholic/ex drug addict parents and they're complaining saying they want my brother to pick them up. I got the situation handled to where he will spend time with them until I'm off work (around midnight) at my home, my kids were happy to hear this. My ex in laws decided to blow up A's phone and now she is saying that because it is her time she will call the cops if my brother babysits them. I fucking hate this whole situation. Why would you deny them better sleep, better care, and deny their wishes especially if ""your"" time with them is being wasted out of state? &#x200B; Thank you for reading, just needed to get it off my chest.",5.821164241164238,5.827096639639643,5.899729729729732,83.18030145530146,66.83783783783784,8.272210672210672,27.887733887733887,7.61054688173877,1.4430993762993758,882,24,179,8,13,279,137,222,0.076,0.833,0.091,0.3542,1,0,2,0,0,0,33.0,0,3,7,5,12,8,2,0,6,0,16,7,4,1,1,34,33,12,0,9,5,4,1,0,1,3,2,3,1,3,9,15,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,3,0,0,5,4,36,5,34,22,4,28,0,0,0,1,38,15,1,3,10,124,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14185974529870268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099464511146734,0.15812089755938988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584233977690366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932539006623553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301769337817162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657523808403516,0.0,0.13267512037169324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038973647352808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415721652618798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15090824969161326,0.0,0.0,0.14637753534460346,0.0,0.13445797399212187,0.0,0.08594893332075808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579709872927443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12030210217793813,0.13597399379056166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407599564751754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852466947939565,0.0,0.128475381183649,0.1335498279990713,0.0,0.14666476557009325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052993039437774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13306565103847415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929779107081709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449278096302287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016414826657718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12848662298845556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20696750187054988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925407469505504,0.13022291108861106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13870012893646216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198052386199832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785101649164113,0.0,0.2276376828299136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457803321522414,0.08834900397871147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1535068330397287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742112224915867,0.14528430711309367,0.1496418514997479,0.0,0.0,0.1894708268745816,0.0,0.0,0.09243986079756172,0.0,0.15812089755938988,0.0 divorce,raw1234321,2019/01/04,"Just say it.. “I don’t love you anymore..” We have been separated over 6 months. Sometimes, she seemed to want to work it out but most times she appeared fine with us apart. Finally, after the holidays I said we need to make a move—toward each other or divorce. She said that she understood what I was saying but she wouldn’t say anything else. Over the 6 months, she never wanted to just be open with how she really felt about me. I had told her consistently over the separation that I still loved her but I could understand if she didn’t since I had confessed some 5 year old issues I had with another woman. (I’m not telling the whole story.. she had grown cold over the last several years before I confessed anything.) Finally, I told her I needed to know if she was “in love with me at all”. After asking several times she finally told me she wasn’t and hadn’t been in a while. It hurts like HELL to know exactly how she feels because it kills all HOPE but it was exactly what I needed to hear. I was blinded by tears for days but at least I knew. False HOPE is Evil. I’m not recommending anyone to say “I don’t love you anymore” just because you are going through a low season of your relationship but if you know in your heart that you don’t want to do the hard work of marriage then by all means just say it....don’t keep the wound open forever.",2.7862420076726337,4.546604334558825,3.9023209718670095,88.14843350383629,75.50735294117645,7.377493606138108,23.59079283887468,8.18289091462,1.215777621483376,1057,32,224,18,23,343,139,272,0.1,0.76,0.14,0.8957,0,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,3,7,0,2,8,13,3,0,10,0,23,7,1,3,6,62,58,15,1,13,16,0,3,1,0,1,2,8,0,1,11,11,0,1,12,1,0,3,10,5,0,0,21,13,44,8,32,34,8,36,3,2,1,4,49,14,1,10,20,151,55,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739906559364783,0.0,0.0,0.18423589746749644,0.0649480480491397,0.0,0.1528745204727698,0.0,0.08683586749061473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324488194347912,0.0,0.07903914114484721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416190953401652,0.0,0.0,0.05990378309697648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775943307143958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696595044536494,0.0,0.08918512254550864,0.3052562048722649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052789252035804965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832076076688417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468926814217336,0.11007035238518656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451350480441367,0.0,0.0,0.09943637973841056,0.0,0.0,0.09694884719350057,0.0,0.08256134102092325,0.10276459227217442,0.0,0.1531431425249095,0.07571448399758163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04537940575006559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33533295129047896,0.0,0.062002123543308175,0.0,0.0,0.10118008001172303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828143150685474,0.09872311375954812,0.0,0.20662136704526607,0.07163940628788742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746822760405477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059505147463536176,0.0,0.0,0.09972479799667457,0.0,0.0,0.17671170558403404,0.3693333606033457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455992212489337,0.0,0.20986947286754246,0.0,0.07683625567638483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186662504642887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417887632161699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118645454369773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832514237217868,0.0,0.0,0.2662696489094815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669759754571028,0.11173041633195573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643597009474473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10370389728638392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352442225826398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11963107196155966 divorce,darkedgefan,2019/01/04,"Is it worth it for taxes? Ok, so my wife and I fight quite often and I getting so tired of this. I have a good prenup so it shouldn’t be too expensive to divorce, less then $7,000, but one thing that stops me is this thought. So they just changed the tax code that singles can only deduct $12,000 and you can no longer itemize deductions. Since we are married I can take the standard $24,000 married deduction. That will help a lot at tax time with our combined income. So if I do get a divorce I feel that next year my taxes will suck. Man, if the tax code did not change I could itemize up to $20,000 easy. We usually are ok after a few days after we fight, but I am just sick of 5 years of fighting on and off. No kids involved. I got a vasectomy before I met her. What to do??",1.6757662337662325,3.176942866666672,3.0233982683982714,94.37795454545456,77.9090909090909,5.926406926406926,23.300865800865804,6.5431188927421005,0.4009047619047621,603,19,140,5,14,196,107,165,0.158,0.753,0.08900000000000001,-0.9179,1,0,0,0,6,0,26.0,4,1,1,1,9,7,4,0,8,2,17,2,0,0,0,23,25,14,0,4,7,1,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,11,8,0,1,2,0,7,0,4,4,0,1,4,1,20,3,14,16,6,14,0,0,0,0,18,4,1,4,10,98,31,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18582243107103716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4620270454712476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1743559725329796,0.0,0.0,0.14083486288183136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041778747729387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22818555587961076,0.0,0.0,0.18316395952988207,0.17465574304695605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14637325438046533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856560047408349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23224602735810715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479776586199799,0.16608527034916315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322704304403767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806434080301545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18257264402312828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1641920512274198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1450797319619328,0.0,0.0,0.17336665424309353,0.12733717124295155,0.2509918159259863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405110099910066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28125478467424425 divorce,wordswords321,2019/01/04,"Can a potential, future partner find out whether I or my ex filed for divorce first? I filed first, but he filed for an annulment afterwards. Just wanted to see how it would affect my future. 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I'm roughly 28 days out from the divorce hearing. We came to terms months ago. She cheated on me but I felt it was right to give her the house for the children. Everything was going well until Nov (separation was in April and agreement signed late September). In november I learned the man my wife wouldn't let go of, that his wife hired a p.i. and got photos of them back to may of sexual stuff in cars and weekend getaways. I knew it was going on, but it wasnt a reality if that makes sense. Since learning this I cant stop engaging and letting her know how much she hurt me and how I think she is trash. I need any suggestions offered on how to ""Let it go"" TL:DR: I cant stop engaging with the soon to be ex",3.1023885918003566,4.015763588235295,4.488140225787284,87.65844919786095,73.24836601307189,8.178015448603684,27.63458110516934,8.575989854853784,1.7598156862745091,571,21,128,10,11,190,101,153,0.043,0.8290000000000001,0.127,0.9013,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,1,0,1,0,6,7,1,0,7,0,15,0,0,4,0,29,31,12,0,3,3,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,8,9,0,3,6,1,0,6,4,2,1,0,9,3,19,5,19,16,2,26,0,1,0,0,18,8,0,2,12,83,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520089657998594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11139121239307448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259538932618177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873462465346529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10563896222659253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721498666920552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727593992698166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713413624347028,0.3723705925385497,0.0,0.13100769983264615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846171488851905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900591491494165,0.1753537993774094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455950515072953,0.0,0.0,0.09002148563394674,0.0,0.18477618116742206,0.0,0.0,0.5024969906122595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10933933799066932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307454699188132,0.0,0.12041357174817355,0.1214573641265486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988630859782852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135498993408984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2738921919035219,0.0,0.0,0.18751449695574748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495792935397294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472779810456229,0.0,0.14780613956103095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whitesnake1987,2019/01/04,"Equitable distribution in North Carolina for property value gained 90% prior to marriage? This is not a replacement for legal advice, I am just trying to prepare in advance. &#x200B; Bought a house prior to marriage. Put money down on it. Grew equity 3.25x across 8 years with principal payments and appreciation. Got married towards the end of my residence in the house. We were married for the last 9mo of living in this house before selling, so she resided there 10% of the time (as married). &#x200B; We now live in another house, where all of that nest egg from above when into the new house's down payment plus some additional savings. We have only been here 6mo (rented in between). &#x200B; Given that some of this lump sum was acquired before marriage, how would this distribute? Would they typically prorate her time in the house to the 10% she lived there? Or is all that moot, considering we bought the new house as a married couple, meaning that now we split the current value of the house regardless of the basis of how it was acquired in the past? In other words, even though it was gained 90% outside of marriage and is documented and measurable, would we simply split the valuation/sale price of new house 50%50%?",8.105158371040723,8.718554809954753,7.5920361990950225,70.91031674208145,61.98642533936652,10.057918552036199,36.45701357466064,9.851270322608157,3.7291647058823534,987,43,158,18,13,310,128,221,0.006,0.93,0.064,0.9168,2,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,6,0,1,5,13,1,0,0,16,0,13,2,0,2,2,29,18,12,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,12,13,1,0,1,0,6,3,1,0,0,0,9,0,12,1,38,6,4,35,0,0,0,0,14,17,0,3,15,113,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272865979211215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2419230632515719,0.2713088278736652,0.0,0.07804261599671454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266628443195193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235144477953275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06591973853079873,0.0,0.0,0.04915796439343345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952562632928179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7729031142185224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606674855040706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19715974107945644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08107221648116855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21564457046769148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660466451964365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104846241809634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481913303909354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312360344142238,0.0,0.08679731614892128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053067006163635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861123146212433,0.0,0.2713088278736652,0.047928189831526566 divorce,sandraknowler,2019/01/04,"26(f) looking for lovely and caring man Am 26 years old from San Diego ,am here for serious relationship",8.893157894736841,8.637101473684211,8.588421052631581,67.32894736842107,60.57894736842106,11.810526315789476,34.78947368421053,11.20814326018867,3.9770631578947366,84,3,14,2,1,27,17,19,0.053,0.6579999999999999,0.28800000000000003,0.7717,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,2,7,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4459220198257609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3672758319490588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947383275334335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4589402264705503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695655446126089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28164824891444346 divorce,GoodAsDad,2019/01/04,"My First Panic Attack In A Long Time Yeah, so I have PTSD and still a bit of depression. Honestly, I (34m) have worked a lot on myself. However, today was the first time I had a panic attack in a long time. This morning I went to drop off my son at daycare. I'm told right away he can't stay because my ex (32F) decided not to pay her share last month and no one told me. I had to fork over money right there because I wouldn't be able to go to work. Told her about this and she just flat out said she didn't want to pay because she just had a baby, with the man she was having an affair with, and needed it. I was so angry I wanted to punch a wall. Granted, I calmed down and we solved this issue. She's pissed because she still has to do things, but it reminded me that no matter what I'm going to have to deal with her. Regardless of her lying and selfishness I have to try to be better than her &#x200B; tl:dr - It does get better, but the problem will always be there",2.4865064102564105,3.266883740384614,4.05742307692308,90.67091025641028,74.57692307692308,6.892820512820514,21.55897435897436,7.03164865440522,0.3883624358974361,750,16,172,7,15,251,121,208,0.162,0.7390000000000001,0.099,-0.9386,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,0,6,9,13,3,2,11,1,20,1,1,0,0,25,33,10,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,9,11,0,0,1,0,3,3,6,8,0,3,12,1,28,5,28,16,2,29,0,1,0,0,23,12,1,1,12,119,37,4,0.1202315627110916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004229172530237,0.13027084796525146,0.14609450869430965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735615195516397,0.1129615109480938,0.0,0.0,0.29316817871865025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267009340730575,0.1312617267787823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395346180493295,0.10355526878602853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10521545075467956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20453781164346446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06281602914179622,0.0,0.13666073565232664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549051432972025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09800477070245003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128022990653642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221657509560013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095967686279976,0.0,0.0,0.08915018030167503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0814720185103356,0.0,0.0,0.2821316670082279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504536788729335,0.14054426279000942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20535419524234905,0.11436774888907178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281508485315736,0.19203416258103745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987650783306277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21032397328035785,0.0,0.11396546314248693,0.3446592317426231,0.0,0.08162933887377856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14183138155875466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145586318166403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17506001920935088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14609450869430965,0.0 divorce,BigSeabee,2019/01/04,"How do i do it? Need help or advice. I'm fairly new to Reddit and knew quickly that it was something that might be able to help me out with this. I'm a guy (43) and have been married for over 20 years. For the past few years, things have come to mind about me not wanting to be married anymore. I'm not really sure how to come off in this asking for advice, I'm sure I'll get some harsh feedback, and probably not seen in a positive light. But anyway, I'll begin my thoughts. I'll just start of my saying that I have not been faithful to my wife, we were married when we just turned 21, and she's been with me there a lot, 5 military deployments, a spout with infidelity that she found out about 2 years ago. She's been there through though and thin. And writing this all out makes me feel kind of horrible, but I'm to a point that I just feel like I'm needing more or wanting more. She's a maid during the day, cleans houses for a few people so she earns he due. I'm the main bread winner of the family still and just recently purchased a house that I think is well out of our price range, but she said we could do it and do we did. Work all that being said, don't know where else to turn. Still love her, tried therapy in things and still I don't see a larger future with her. We have two daughters, one daughter in college and one in 5th grade. I just don't know how to approach to her that I want out. I'm not happy anymore and not where I thought I would be in life. It's not a cop out I don't think, but something in my mind keeps telling me that I deserve to be happy. And I just don't feel as I can be as happy staying in the marriage. I need advice badly. I don't hate her my any means, she's a great mother and genuinely a good person, but I'd it possible that sometimes something just clicks and your like ""what am I doing""? I do know that I feel I could be happier alone, and it's not like I have someone waiting for me, I just feel like there's now for me out there. Can someone please lend me your ear and offer some thoughts. 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However, she has unilaterally rescheduled two appointments, the most recent one TBD with the intention of reaching out to the lawyer to schedule a new appointment in two weeks. This following a ""let's reschedule in two weeks"" from two weeks ago. We are currently going through counseling which, thus far, amounts to her crying and telling me I'm a bastard for wanting a divorce but then feeling much better and collaborative afterward. I went through a dark hour or so after the most recent reschedule where I considered just saying fuck it, hiring a lawyer and having her served. I'm backing off of that urge. I'm doing so because I am committed to doing what is best for our daughter. I recognize that I have had much more time, internally, to process this breakup. She is still working through things. Hence the therapy. I feel like even if the start of a marriage gets off to a bumpy start, you can still potentially recover it down the road. With a divorce? I want this break to be as clean and amicable as possible. I don't want litigation. She doesn't want litigation. We are able to agree on a whole lot. Part of what I'm doing is letting go of some of the artificial timelines I established in my mind. I can take her off of my health insurance next January, regardless of the status of our divorce. I really don't want to go this route, but we can also change our daughter's school mid-year. Forcing this will cause more unnecessary hurt than any of these small things I hope to get accomplished this year. At the same time, the process is important. And I've made her aware of that. She has consistently asked me if I had a timeline in mind. I've consistently told her no. When I think about it, however, I DO have a timeline and it is the one we have been discussing for weeks. Sell the house by summer, set up new homes over the summer, new school in the fall. But I'm not keen on selling anything and moving out without the separation agreement pinned down. So, communicating these things is important and will hopefully get us to a new place of understanding. I offer this because writing it all out helps me let go of any anger. But also to illustrate my belief that communication, respect and collaboration can rule the day. Hopefully I'm right and that it will apply in my situation!",5.177328704310232,6.931731271714928,5.749158260186032,77.36510513559546,69.24498886414254,9.291261627145287,31.91412288746233,9.701314574385464,3.1425112799685566,1907,84,351,45,34,616,225,449,0.06,0.804,0.136,0.9828,3,0,0,0,3,0,52.0,8,1,0,4,13,13,3,0,31,0,37,2,0,5,2,59,73,27,0,11,10,2,2,1,0,3,1,1,2,0,27,20,0,0,5,0,2,9,6,4,0,6,6,3,42,9,62,60,14,68,1,1,0,1,32,26,2,10,32,251,69,7,0.08078356473835901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160975593917357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12920517506993529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10987118841711332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06647799057386561,0.0,0.07552172805072202,0.0,0.0,0.06211757481193617,0.0,0.09848982251712872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847773672430292,0.07144649820432315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08298697384334744,0.08545829997475797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873695256112249,0.052098716198675135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0533567826217417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169319521249431,0.057711794790403136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468310387159309,0.12661823507135056,0.0,0.2295558074939469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586915170708316,0.0,0.0,0.05414752059966065,0.0,0.08103250212183623,0.2407089224915719,0.07955553865736065,0.09321338749904633,0.08648047685784001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478200045968103,0.0,0.03946676919569246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867929789293993,0.0,0.07643936222031528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16313674316017213,0.0,0.0,0.08586014472043951,0.11877043031756887,0.0,0.0,0.31208508087424564,0.0859142375688052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948206832360026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748072831072774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440163124629514,0.0,0.0,0.09107133128885554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05175202015278997,0.0,0.15952804875452611,0.0,0.0,0.06898872289265989,0.0,0.06424233309481198,0.0,0.1635145606878116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080411146459584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153706873760907,0.0,0.12902771830487633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060739187044568224,0.0,0.0706083962610741,0.0,0.09238304663579112,0.0,0.16100703249890455,0.05176284638696239,0.0,0.0,0.09421109248631183,0.0,0.0,0.0771921580111141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156552177532815,0.08409853987805888,0.09717268176226723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382411975633742,0.0,0.25919881137441386,0.0,0.0,0.07488717384836108,0.0,0.09019196508296268,0.0,0.07787247363954779,0.0,0.05881139725713781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404393419658928 divorce,kfh227,2019/01/04,"Objection to motion that wsa dismissed without prejudice I am highly confused right now. &#x200B; I apparently have a short calendar event in Connecticut on Monday. &#x200B; I was never notified that this was being marked ready. &#x200B; There was a contempt motion that I filed. Due to a paperwork error it was dismissed without prejudice meaning that I can refile. I have refiled. &#x200B; But the original contempt motion had an objection filed against it before it was dismissed without prejudice. So if the matter was dismissed, how on earth can the objection be heard? Are they trying to get rid of the ""without prejudice"" part to just get it dismissed? &#x200B; I have engaged my lawyer. I literally found out about this today at 11 am. And I only found out because I got an e-mail saying there was an update to my case. The update was that this objection was marked ready at noon on Thursday. &#x200B; What can I do here? I have an appearance filed along with my lawyer. I do not want to deal with this if my lawyer is not available. &#x200B; Luckily I started collecting evidence that contradicts some of the rational in their objection but I don't know what to do at all. Calling my lawyer in a minute.",5.200772727272724,7.888592986363637,5.327272727272729,76.46090909090911,71.4090909090909,8.4,33.72727272727273,9.120678840339163,3.557927272727273,987,50,154,22,20,310,110,220,0.062,0.862,0.076,0.2541,1,0,0,0,0,0,50.0,0,0,2,0,8,8,6,1,14,0,27,0,0,2,2,30,38,7,0,3,11,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,16,6,0,0,4,0,0,4,8,7,0,0,14,2,22,1,29,22,3,30,0,0,0,0,6,14,0,5,12,126,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4943892120066959,0.5544413823970131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039735670260957534,0.0,0.055466934952670965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656033438549308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720202591580482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429421746834524,0.0,0.0,0.06811208588846275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05213374231979826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887066355769893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035823519848686786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100467989943683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050274057018612615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049575505141960505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07058811327919587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055666932369800005,0.0,0.05183707512938397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04613769711893103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178697953317922,0.0,0.0,0.04425577847207305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03844731740604971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513408882959889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5544413823970131,0.0 divorce,mwmike11,2019/01/04,"Struggling with the end of a decade I’m so happy I found this. I’ve mentioned it elsewhere, but I’ll certainly share again. This is less looking for advice (though that’s MUCH appreciated) and more just getting out of my head, because today just isn’t a great day. My STBX [29F] and I [30M] will have been together for 10 years in March. I THOUGHT we were completely happy the entire time. We had our spats, and the physical side had calmed down after the first 5 years, but I just assumed that’s how it was. That the honeymoon period was over, no biggie, we’re adults with responsibilities, and having sex all the time certainly wasn’t necessary if you’re in love. Plus, she had confided in me that she had body image issues, regardless of however many times I told her she was beautiful/perfect/etc. We got married in 2015, and again, we seemed to be happy. Nervous, scared, but happy to start our life together. We started trying (unsuccessfully) to have kids starting in 2016, but despite these set backs, we still tried. Last year, things started going south, and crashed hard. January, I lost my job because of downsizing, etc. I quickly got a new, better job, and that speed bump was alleviated. I have severe anxiety, which I (mostly) was able to manage to some measure of success. After this, it started coming back with a vengeance. Feelings of inferiority, etc, that sort of thing. Around about June, she started changing her schedule. Visiting friends she hadn’t visited in years, long talks on the phone with different friends, acting secretive. I asked her (initially jokingly) if she had found some new boyfriend and if he could help pay bills. She blew it off as part of my anxiety, that she would just leave before cheating. Despite what my spidey sense was telling me, I accepted what she was saying as true. It only got worse from there. Labor Day weekend, we had a falling out. We had a come-to-Jesus meeting. We determined I should get therapy on my own for my anxiety, she should get therapy of her own, and we needed marriage counseling. I accepted this. She was right, we needed help. One of the things she pointed out as a problem was that I would isolate myself and just play my video games. I’m very, VERY introverted. This isn’t something new for me, I have been my whole life. I don’t care for clubs or large crowds, all that. I’ve asked her on MULTIPLE occasions throughout our relationship if she wanted me to get out more, to go with her dancing with her friends, etc. Every time, she said no, because she knew I didn’t care for it. I assumed this meant she had no problems with my chosen lifestyle. I still tried interacting with her, but we did our own thing, we lived our own lives. She ultimately stated she didn’t want to be a married single mom. Needless to say, the sex had stopped by this point. After this falling out, she started spending more and more time out of the house. I tried cutting back my gaming, but she was never home, so I figured there was no harm. I saw a therapist, I ultimately got on SSRI’s, and feel completely changed, for the better. She noticed a change. Still, though, no change in our marriage. If anything, things got worse. First, it was “I love you, but I’m not in love with you. I don’t find you attractive and haven’t for a while. It’s because of your weight.” Needless to say, that hurt. A lot. I’ve been the same weight for 4+ years. My mind reeled, because that might mean she hadn’t found me attractive since before we got married. But I accepted this and started working on this. I still cut back on gaming, still have her her space, literally EVERYTHING she wanted. Still, nothing helped. Our second (and last) marriage counseling session, she told me (after I glowed that I felt we were getting better, because I did) that she wanted a separation. That she couldn’t keep living like she was, that she was unhappy. We couldn’t afford me to completely move out, so I wound up staying in the spare bedroom I had been using for an office and we stopped wearing our rings when not with our families. I didn’t care for this, but I accepted it. Again, thinking this would fix everything. She then left on a work trip. I gave her her space and lived my life. She dropped the big D bomb on me right around Thanksgiving. It was all hazy, but that was when she admitted she hadn’t found me attractive our entire marriage, and then some, because of my weight (I’m not THAT overweight, but it sits unattractively on my stomach), and the only reason she had sex with me was to have a baby, which (thankfully) proved unsuccessful. Things were quiet at Thanksgiving and closing in on Christmas. We went to her father’s retirement party, and on the way home I mentioned I was thinking of things for our anniversary and her 30th birthday. She urged me not to make plans that far ahead, because she still just didn’t know how she felt, her motto during all this time. After Christmas, the phone bill came. Periodically, I checked it. A number popped up, one with a guy’s name, but I assumed it was this high school friend that was recently divorced and the number was still in his name. Stranger things and all that. Except she hadn’t really talked to this friend in a while, and DEFINITELY not for multiple hours a day, in the morning after I left for work. I confronted her (from afar, because she was gone, yet again). Initially, I got rebuffed. He’s a college friend, etc. Finally, after more prying and pointing out college friends don’t typically talk for hours on end at 6AM five years after graduating. She finally confessed. She was sleeping with him, because in her mind (but not in the eyes of Missouri) she had checked out of the marriage a long time ago. I dug deeper, because I HAD to know. She had been talking to him for at least 6 months, including on the evening of my birthday. I presented this to her, asking if she had been sleeping with him the whole time. She said it had only been physical for about a month. At this point, I didn’t know what the hell to believe, but a LOT of pieces fell into place. And the gaslighting, making me think my anxiety was making me imagine things. I want to be mad at her. I’ve accepted that divorce is the best option, the only option. I can’t trust a damn thing she says anymore. Neither of us are going to fight this, we aren’t getting lawyers involved, we just want this done and to move on. She’s still talking to him, so clearly she’s fine with moving on. She’s tried making me feel bad for her, that “she deserves to be alone” and “I don’t know how I am going to do this alone.” I want to laugh in her face, tell her she deserves this and so much more. But I can’t. It’s not that I love her. Sure, there’s still a little of that, but not entirely. No, I can bring myself to do that because I just don’t want to be that kind of vindictive asshole. She deserves it? Probably. But it won’t make me feel better. I know I’ll eventually have to move on, but I don’t know how. We got together because we were paired together for a project in college and hit it off. I don’t know how to go about dating, how to present myself as an appealing mate choice. I know it’s still early. The divorce proceedings haven’t even started, regardless of whether to just paperwork at this point or not. But I still want to start trying. Start testing the waters. Hone my skill to be ready to start dating within the year. I’m hurt and angry that she has had sex with someone else and I feel too fucking guilty to even TRY, because she’s still my wife. I just don’t know what to do. I’m spinning a little bit and thought I was getting better, day by day, even made an OKCupid profile, but I’ve since deleted it, because I didn’t feel comfortable or even understand the damn thing. How is a chubby (but slimming slowly) nerdy gamer supposed to find his perfect match, someone that can indulge and participate in his pass time, when he doesn’t care for crowds, doesn’t have many friends (and fewer single friends) to talk him up or take him out? What do I do from here?",3.948379949033498,5.6870293294797705,4.4340553069384905,85.6370224221518,72.33975594091201,7.437481094743823,28.099161953301426,8.103011114424296,1.8042974123106883,6314,242,1240,94,124,1996,519,1557,0.08800000000000001,0.762,0.15,0.9989,7,2,1,0,5,0,256.0,34,4,0,17,65,74,10,3,62,0,123,27,9,15,13,258,240,94,0,29,52,3,12,1,10,8,5,8,3,3,89,91,5,3,48,9,6,23,48,21,0,6,96,24,225,53,181,126,39,218,2,4,4,9,199,81,4,24,109,872,314,19,0.030124913903823488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029437717214164976,0.026703918542444333,0.0,0.0,0.062400651211366814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09218190672363856,0.0,0.029875819786752987,0.0,0.0,0.024790237333831868,0.05363512045408028,0.08448818380686084,0.0,0.0,0.09265679716831493,0.025153044791198217,0.2754580185964349,0.0,0.05126816585480661,0.033940461963211516,0.03161423858257136,0.1332151913638514,0.03288860369867947,0.03346198817144072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03445487613733954,0.12285742978085372,0.0,0.1274726579568368,0.05189989177194395,0.09475619723306143,0.0,0.0,0.024052292465648814,0.0,0.0,0.0971403864800968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031474123268412584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03082824607032045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02516550002212229,0.0,0.05336346434124197,0.0,0.16798621082061005,0.09948610759322908,0.0,0.02538153924085411,0.0,0.054148660302189316,0.0,0.028399087779845688,0.0,0.09139236973295124,0.0,0.05784928313005176,0.06600074137496019,0.0550672510985271,0.051248472754545735,0.0,0.1321216527571096,0.2094699037861268,0.0278499974776893,0.11017316908345197,0.0,0.08560341400228116,0.0,0.19274916489716448,0.033212823929253954,0.0,0.029828400997002326,0.0,0.12827412408447186,0.02698600572171046,0.0,0.03091685270319457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060576284351403616,0.03182862551193365,0.06043548976175815,0.0,0.05933394398693316,0.034760105996648895,0.0644986867846642,0.0,0.0,0.03144258341724608,0.05978865739814805,0.026776407633902332,0.0,0.03137046208418324,0.14900278362283045,0.04911165110062913,0.0,0.031897934129962634,0.06546161420162537,0.0,0.06383435276945004,0.0147175112652309,0.0603861556609538,0.10640340356433543,0.053319201658254746,0.025297340525770217,0.0,0.0328849021368739,0.05122224904783,0.10875564381346302,0.02850492192574358,0.1005430697729616,0.06108386881254786,0.0,0.03281486266239493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031957773051287754,0.060835150790477265,0.035281935073244786,0.04809083773917742,0.12807206395757806,0.04429055587265869,0.04467448389657412,0.023234190744662018,0.0872844887055991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02890566736413956,0.03429741414608802,0.0,0.0,0.04082684260026101,0.09164541801787296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0326223461064115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031474123268412584,0.0,0.14238890435899587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032479752346847315,0.05765094829493873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019298791239295898,0.030973428790456187,0.029744718183333026,0.032342883598399964,0.0,0.0514530237482643,0.057311383316812785,0.09582616264731443,0.03016029415144847,0.030488021163065024,0.0,0.02742459020540098,0.0,0.03403257799548931,0.0,0.049839280167026906,0.0,0.06029333951273658,0.0,0.05104948358333805,0.02319163049329538,0.0,0.0,0.25587082935848643,0.03210914997413935,0.3127513370479046,0.050371553855896214,0.0,0.031493100832328896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028392374840641763,0.0,0.02265018616388205,0.14527958810661554,0.05266100512254068,0.02773497331281367,0.0689009289226038,0.03497734691987536,0.22015019632659466,0.05790848531657995,0.059195149915928835,0.04783163330819845,0.15809471599913788,0.0,0.02855489596709757,0.05757129241985438,0.0,0.14316987362589026,0.0,0.0,0.03136109778603035,0.036236562243482436,0.026018253317029116,0.0,0.04971241781372551,0.15991609257072795,0.023911754457532658,0.0,0.11005208830739978,0.0,0.027926096997441884,0.0,0.06726678110184364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579388832392939,0.0,0.06139972182278409,0.06419962353381464,0.0,0.0,0.13579619808974144 divorce,krtstrph,2019/01/04,"Collecting Evidence of Emotional Cheating - Legality Question I'm currently in the process of preparing for a divorce from an emotionally cheating wife who has not made an effort to put an end to such action. To support my cause, I'm interested in what ways I can collect information that can be legally used in court/divorce proceedings if needbe. One thought that came to mind was recording video of incriminating conversations on her phone with the following reasons: * It's far quicker to collect records of conversation via video. * It would prove that the conversations did occur as the video would confirm the conversations are not falsified. * It would show that I do have access to the phone via fingerprint, which is where my main question lies. * If I have fingerprint access to such messages, would it be legally obtained evidence? I know typically spy software and password hacking are grounds to invalidate evidence, but what about fingerprint access that was setup with her consent? If the above isn't a legal approach, what other approaches should I consider? Thanks in advance!",7.4853985507246374,10.22777311956522,7.150521739130436,65.64520289855074,65.08695652173913,10.558840579710145,41.071014492753626,10.650279960617883,5.406910579710146,890,53,126,26,15,280,113,184,0.044,0.8690000000000001,0.087,0.7157,1,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,0,3,4,5,2,0,12,0,20,0,0,4,1,26,30,6,0,8,6,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,0,7,4,0,7,3,2,0,1,6,0,9,3,23,17,1,19,0,0,0,0,15,8,0,5,3,91,24,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081640931664815,0.0,0.18696824652943367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4094600129149896,0.16120152512721014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002464030697204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17221658843879226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837721596569886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333062282472974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829642929934021,0.4077722741676169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713042794643914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20653598591229647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16756483307747633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14449084844455962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15719302214079506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444663060993434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5171616875078763,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PinkPwrRanger74,2019/01/04,What’s next S2bX keeps pulling ridiculous antics on me trying to get this divorce in his favor I’m assuming. Already have the CPO and he didn’t care about that either. His narcissistic attitude doesn’t amaze me. Not sure what he’s up to next but 2 months into it and I’m STILL reaping repercussions every time I let my guard down! ,3.12409090909091,5.2961132272727305,3.8969696969696974,86.71545454545458,75.81818181818181,6.824242424242425,24.63636363636364,7.793537801064563,1.3292000000000002,267,9,52,4,6,85,54,66,0.052000000000000005,0.845,0.104,0.5042,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,10,9,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,4,8,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,1,5,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113259327839005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876396779748431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376978840194776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14739581798493348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507608138271205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2884863485104903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22518512890122586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6000746724610401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253010327251827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26589433201299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16450617518616986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915406519522299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,tracergreen,2019/01/04,"Common law, separated for two years, but now ready to do this... ugh Sorry for formatting and/or spelling issues. On mobile, first time poster. I (32f) left my ex (37m) two years ago, December 28th 2016. After years of mental and emotional abuse, I went to a women's shelter and stayed until a coworker offered me a room in her house. Eventually I moved into my own apartment, and moved on with my life. However, after an eight year relationship, signing affidavits of common law marriage for health insurance for work, filing taxes together and so on, we are considered common law married under my previous state of residence and my current state of residence (TX to CO). Fast forward to current day: I need to get an actual divorce. Colorado carries the same requirements for divorce regardless of the type of marriage. My ex, being a manipulative and depressing person to be around generally, is not going to make this easy on me. I'm broke from paying off our debts. I knew that I made more money than him our entire relationship and I'm not looking to pay him any alimony after all of the damage and abuse he put me through. I can't afford a lawyer to help with my papers and half of these things in the paperwork don't apply to me, him, or us. There are no children from the relationship, just pets. There is a little property of mine that he still has which carries some emotional weight, but it's been two years... He's living in a house that's been hoarded out by his mother, so chances are that the house will burn down before I ever see those things again. In any case, I need to get these documents filed (I have downloaded all files for divorce from the state but I can't imagine I need to file every single one) but I have no idea where to start, how to interpret the legal jargon and no idea how much in total this will cost me. Any advice is welcomed here. 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I’m 40, male, married 18 years, divorce has been in process for 10 months, finalized a few weeks ago. I cannot afford therapy right now, but I need to work through my pain. I tried a DivorceCare group, but it was super religious and there was a lot of shame for choosing divorce. Looking for a non religious divorce support group to try. 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Just found out that the guy I used to date prior to meeting my current now-husband died a week ago. He was very young. I really don't know why, but I am feeling all sorts of emotions right now. I haven't talked to him in at least 4 years, but still deep down had feelings for him I think? It was definitely a casual relationship but still to this day, I occasionally would think about our time together. I don't know if what I'm feeling is guilt, but I think part of it is also regret that I let go of our relationship in order to date my current husband. There are definitely issues in my marriage that I think this death has amplified all of these feelings. I really think this might be the tipping point. Thanks for letting me vent. 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How hard is it to get divorce in Oklahoma?,1.1950000000000005,3.7673618333333367,4.449999999999998,73.84500000000001,97.33333333333334,9.066666666666668,39.333333333333336,8.841846274778883,5.496533333333336,50,4,8,2,2,18,9,12,0.138,0.862,0.0,-0.1926,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,6,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5038038526777285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8638180815583092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RAM1114,2019/01/04,"What did you do with the rings? My wife and I have come to the mutual decision that we are not each other's person. We still have love for one another and have no hard feelings towards the other. There divorce will be a clean break and there has been no argument in regards to splitting of property. My question, is what do people do with the rings? They aren't of any real(monetary) value and throwing them in the trash just doesn't seem like the right thing to do. Thanks in advance",4.443609022556392,5.847950473684211,4.8565413533834585,84.41578947368423,70.57894736842105,7.954887218045112,27.25563909774436,8.418075326091056,1.7750902255639098,385,13,76,6,7,122,67,95,0.1,0.779,0.121,0.631,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,1,2,1,4,3,0,0,7,0,16,1,0,0,0,16,21,4,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,6,10,0,0,4,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,2,4,8,3,12,17,1,10,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,2,2,62,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950702428679178,0.30079094643199394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470989237468129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504176809536848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569644267992363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014214942298078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25889651808701525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19437938157625492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19886812542917864,0.2504694454396801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3213416127367154,0.0,0.0,0.3265021271467405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244971354614428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611406880665311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290816064614913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640961983449678,0.0,0.0,0.19057274483867054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,VAmom40,2019/01/04,"Confused Last year around this time I found out my husband who I’d been with since I was 18 was cheating on me. We are almost 30 now. I was a new mom, my son was 10 months old and I still can’t believe it. The girl he cheated on me with is a single mom. When I reached out to her she told me to speak with my husband but later called and told me everything. What killed me was that I begged her from mother to another mother to please leave our family alone because like her I wanted to do right for my son. I wanted him to have a home with a mother and father. A lot has happened between January 2018 and today. I’ve caught my husband multiple times, I caught him sleeping at her house, there were so many days he wouldn’t call and ask to know if our son was ok. He missed out on swimming lessons, night time baths and reads, watching him start to take his first steps, snuggles, and hugs. They work together... she and her coworkers would look at my social media. She even had the nerve to tell me that her manager and her even had discussed my husband’s salary due because I had told her about a comment my husband had made. After almost a year... I finally called the girl’s mom and told her what kind of person she raised. I’m so angry. I know I need to move on, I have gone to mediation. How do I finally just move on and stop holding in this anger. I’m still at home with my husband. I want things to work out but I’m so confused. 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I told my wife last night that I am not happy. She was blindsided. It feels like we are going through the motions, basically co parenting our kids. She doesn't feel the same way. She asked me what I want and I told her I am not sure. She keeps saying we have things we can work on like reading the love languages books, which i have. Cuddling more at night and showing more affection, which I have wanted but now it feels forced because of the conversation. I don't feel like any of this will help. I don't know if I am interested in saving the relationship. &#x200B; She is Bipolar2, diagnosed about 2 years ago, I had given her an ultimatum of getting help or we were done. She is getting help, but it is because of the ultimatum and the kids, and not for herself. &#x200B; We have been married for 5 years, together for 10. It feels like we are always waiting for the next thing to be happy... moving out of her parents house, finishing college, getting married, having a kid, moving back upstate, moving back to our college town, buying a house, having a second kid.... I am so tired. Nothing has ever made her happy. I am happy with our children but not our relationship. &#x200B; When I talk to people about her, they ask me how I am doing, I genuinely cannot answer, I always feel like I am taking care of her or our kids, I don't even know who I am anymore. &#x200B; I don't really know what i want. I mean, I know where I am posting, but I can't bring myself to say it out loud. My biggest fear is not getting to see my kids. We live in Virginia currently and I am sure she would move to Omaha to be near her family.... &#x200B; Sorry for the disjointed post. &#x200B; TL;DR- I don't know what I want out of this relationship anymore. Wife wants to save it but I don't know if we can. 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Any good books? I feel people don’t really understand divorce unless they have been through it. The feelings, the emotional rollercoaster is something you have to experience to appreciate. Reading stories from this sub and others have been very helpful. I’m 33 and my my wife (32) of 11 years came to me almost 2 years ago wanting a divorce. She had been having an emotional affair for about 1.5 months with an old boyfriend from before we were married. During her affair she said she “realized” how miserable she was in the marriage. We are very religious. Family and marriage is incredibly important. We have 3 children together - 8, 5, 2. We began individual counseling. I had issues and she did too. Our marriage wasn’t the best from the beginning but I felt was not worth throwing away. She went from one emotional affair to the next. But the next one was worse. It became physical. She told me she loved him, she couldn’t imagine life without him among other things. What sucks about all of this is the state we live in, you have to be separated a year to file divorce unless there is fault - which I would have to prove, not just her admitting to it. I had moved out to my parents in Jan 2018 but caught him and her in the “marital home” while our 3 children were sleeping one night in May. I should have filed for divorce on her then and there. But she said that me catching them “looked bad” and he was just a friend and she had been thinking for weeks that she chose the marriage and wanted to stay married to me. She said he was just a friend that would come by and they never did anything. She was just lonely. She was very sorry - or so she said. Advice from the counselor was for me to move back in, which she was hesitant to do but agreed. So I moved back in the end of May 2018 and stayed a month until she was back blaming me for little things and looking at every possible thing negatively. I looked on the phone records to find she never stopped talking to the guy. They talked every day usually for hours. I moved back out June 2018 and so now have to wait until June of this year to file for divorce. I plan to try and build a case against her for adultery. The guy I caught her with, she has since done physical things with and is the one she “loves,” “trusts completely,” and “cannot imagine life without him.” There are a lot of things I wish I had done differently. I should not have stayed by her side while she cheated on me with her first boyfriend. It was only emotional but I regret doing that because it showed I had no respect for myself and I believe also showed her she didn’t have to respect me either. I wanted the marriage more then she did. She had already checked out a long time ago. Begging, pleading, push and pull will not win someone back that doesn’t want to be with you in the first place. I could write a book about what all I experienced and went through and what she had done. I feel incredibly, ridiculously wronged. What made it so difficult was that she was constantly battling with herself for the first year - should she stay or should she go. I think it was fear and guilt vs her own desire. She would cry and seem to be on a constant seesaw. I thought I could convince her. I thought I could fix this, make her see that she should pick me and the family. But I think it did more harm then good. I think while she was wavering, she was subconsciously building an emotional case against me - picking out my flaws and anything I did wrong helped her lean more toward divorce. I should have left and moved on and not groveled or try to convince her to stay in the marriage. Take a look at your relationship. Control what you can control. I couldn’t control her not wanting me. I couldn’t control her not seeing another man. She did what she wanted to do. I took control of my weaknesses because I am smart enough to know that I contributed to the bad marriage just as she did. I played video games too long too many times (I have since stopped playing), I let my anger and stresses from life/finances/job show too much and directed it towards her too many times (not abusive, but not at all loving or kind), I battled depression but through therapy have realized it was mostly how I would talk to myself in my own mind. I had my part in the marriage going south. I own it. But failure is when you stop trying. I didn’t stop trying - she did. I read the 5 love languages book to try and be a better husband. I read articles and blogs of marriages overcoming infidelity and becoming stronger then ever and how they were able to do that. I took her on weekly dates, took her on a 10 year anniversary vacation that I planned and arranged, etc I feel there is not much more I could have done to try and keep my family together. She wants someone more and I had no chance. I later found out she was talking to her boyfriend on the phone while getting ready for dates, she was sick for a few days and I took care of her in bed and she would talk on the phone then, she would say she was going to the gym but would go see him. She did all that and then acted like she had no control over not getting back “in love” feelings for me and blamed me for not being “romantic.” You can’t want the marriage when you want another man more. As bitter as this experience has been, I feel it was a necessary trial. I decided to pursue a better career (nursing) and am in nursing school because of this. I am stronger then I thought, dealing with the emotions of divorce and the rigorous curriculum of nursing school. I have a greater love for myself and my children. I have a greater love and appreciation for whoever my future spouse will be (I wish it could have been my current “spouse”) because I love myself more. I am more positive. I have come closer to my God. I have come closer to my friends and family. I have realized things about myself I didn’t know because I was so busy trying to make my wife happy. I am a social person, I didn’t know that. I read self help books and podcasts and love how they make me feel and inspire me to improve. The Miracle Morning, How to be a 3% Man, The Way of the Superior Man, and No More Mr. Nice Guy! have all been inspirational and have helped me identify some areas I need to improve or lack in. Don’t get me wrong. I have had many depressed days I didn’t want to get out of bed. There have been nights I didn’t want to wake up the next morning. I have cried and hurt deeper then I thought was possible. I often think death of a spouse may be easier to deal with then divorce. I have been lower then I ever thought possible. What has she done to improve? Nothing that I can tell. She has actually been heading down a path that may vary well end up with her and her boyfriends relationship/future marriage not working out like ours didn’t. She didn’t fix or try to improve her flaws and weaknesses before jumping from relationship to relationship. I have to be the stable rock for my children. They will see and feel my stability and example and hopefully be drawn to it and find comfort and peace in it. One day when they are old enough, they will know the truth. In the meantime it is hard breaking their hearts every time I have to leave them. What hurts the most is that I still blame myself a lot for the failed marriage. I also am shocked by how she turned her emotions and love for me completely off so quickly. I would cry, beg, have nightmares with me pleading out loud for her to stay, etc and she would just look at me and sometimes even get angry at me. How could she turn so cold? Her lack of feeling is the most shocking. Her ability to throw everything away and move on so quickly just tears me up. What books regarding divorce, loving yourself, moving on have you read or recommend? How did you get past the feelings of shock and hurt of your spouse shutting off emotionally and becoming a person you didn’t recognize anymore? I’m a broke nursing student working when I can so I am trying to save up for an attorney as best as I can and see what options I have at trying to prove “fault” and try and get these next 6 months I have to wait down to 3 months or less if I can prove adultery. Plus she has made the reason for the divorce out to be my fault and my flaws when I think the lions share for the divorce goes to her emotional turned physical affairs and thinking the grass is greener or chasing those fun feelings of lust and heart pounding emotions of being with someone new. Those feelings are nice, but temporary. Marriage is commitment, devotion, love, understanding and hard work. 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My husband and I are currently going through a divorce. A mutual friend of ours has decided to move in with my soon to be ex. She's his ex girlfriend, and my best friend. My question is would that make you uncomfortable? Our divorce is civil as can be also. I just need input or advice on how to handle it. She arrives 2 days after I leave. I just found that out tonight. Thanks! 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I always felt like something was off about marrying him, but it was never one huge thing to make me walk. It was always small things, like him ranting so much about me visiting my parents whom I hadn't seen in 2 years, without him, that my own mother told me she didn't think it was a good idea for me to visit ever again without him. Or him complaining about me spending MY money to fix my car because it meant he couldn't slack with the bill money in order to buy himself more toys. Or him racking up a $2000 drinking bill on our last vacation and then laughing about it to his friends about how I had to pay for it because I 'forced' him to come along when in reality I wanted to go by myself or with my best friend. Anyway, the more I looked at it, I realized I needed to leave. I've been depressed for 8 years and he doesn't care. I've literally cried to him endless times about how I want to work things out by going to marriage counseling, or anything else, and he doesn't care. &#x200B; So I decided I don't care. I've made a budget and am ramping up my savings for 3 to 4 months, then I'm out. I might have to rent a room in a house, but I don't care. I might not get to go on kickass vacations twice a year anymore, but I don't care. I just want to be happy again.",6.989731852654392,4.687252919014085,7.596901408450705,79.50692849404119,65.58450704225352,10.569447453954496,34.52221018418201,8.841846274778883,2.6477473456121348,1055,36,231,13,13,353,155,284,0.116,0.757,0.126,0.7093,2,0,2,0,0,0,30.0,1,0,0,2,16,17,0,0,8,0,21,1,0,4,2,41,44,18,0,5,11,2,1,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,12,10,1,0,6,2,9,8,12,3,0,3,14,3,42,14,47,26,5,40,0,1,2,0,26,16,0,6,17,163,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17757978198760205,0.11561844686909828,0.12966231858600966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582600452638688,0.0,0.0,0.08781187552428407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009683296117766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198382435085254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5439813456538933,0.0,0.0,0.09191979033177952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721410598359612,0.0,0.0,0.0919077409041376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109199684944708,0.0,0.1045335534867929,0.0,0.0,0.08914112945716578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652380692323327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245674498752308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16488520478313395,0.0,0.05575070586625608,0.0,0.18193443411443505,0.08950189676718029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135930171362252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312710281409985,0.0,0.12046073254956445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698154308016683,0.0,0.1129887295382796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426461431944188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960813434055956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10097001582783666,0.07122864867198121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264013814327795,0.0,0.0,0.08517358265965504,0.0,0.07844291135292022,0.079122885477257,0.08230005377130334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230833598295175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11848698867630103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214929702601839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21267684799555814,0.06837439857126941,0.0,0.0,0.06222249390362231,0.0,0.0,0.10196439621909384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888180392150643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057260727339832,0.0,0.07768494581097124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966231858600966,0.2748667015912914 divorce,grittysparkles,2019/01/04,"Staying to have kids? Unhappy in marriage. There has been infidelity, mild emotional abuse and mild addiction (from husband although I reciprocate the e. abuse sometimes due to resentment). I feel so insecure around him which might be fueling my worries. We have been together 10 years and married for two with lots of good times and love for each other. We have started individual counselling for now but I am not feeling very hopeful about our future. I dont know if I'll ever be able to fully trust him again and live without worry. I'm almost 28 but I feel like by the time everything about divorce settles down, I'll be too old to work on myself then find someone, marry, and have kids. I also feel like all the good childless men will have been scooped up by this point (if it takes 5 years from divorce to find someone else I'll be at least 33). I almost feel like working on this marriage as long as possible so at least I could fulfill my wish to become a mother before time slips away. Anyone experience this?",5.212592047128132,6.6745418350515475,5.628718703976437,79.38855670103094,68.79381443298968,8.223269513991164,31.89837997054492,8.634040054169528,2.6175843888070696,812,35,146,13,14,260,128,194,0.079,0.7559999999999999,0.165,0.966,0,0,0,0,4,0,20.0,3,0,0,2,11,10,1,1,4,0,18,2,0,0,2,33,30,16,0,5,6,2,5,3,0,2,1,0,0,3,6,10,0,0,8,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,3,5,16,8,29,20,5,25,0,0,0,1,15,10,0,7,17,99,22,2,0.1177771490814359,0.27909332519912283,0.0,0.12839447705890653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358736038622429,0.0,0.0,0.09418634356871232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08235252109285571,0.0,0.0,0.10484663288812296,0.0,0.0,0.11065550854867623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300756078797908,0.10021967917138117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403546992768247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803394156500715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09838769522385893,0.13248344034573592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065361742131961,0.0,0.0,0.10585050727998173,0.11520865146467403,0.0,0.0,0.2977583269147351,0.2524200565102948,0.0,0.0,0.2152923610949448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975717695010368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697928384872752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647272409966131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17261989766279218,0.0,0.10399938041630684,0.10422907070632947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012992039832884,0.1062984753729043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494294300686765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358730571199213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113374748208212,0.1327760392474884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19958439243081155,0.0,0.11648461199544415,0.0,0.08336327231549984,0.12553477017248546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855375856218557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060304083043865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505116096346375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717848261306826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135437908964104,0.1135329688271381,0.0,0.1714863345007217,0.23921682386212725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516892450658612 divorce,sadlyDivorcing,2019/01/04,"So i told her I don't want a divorce Said I would do anything to save our marriage. She understands why I cannot move on with a secretive love affair and conjugal visits basically. I am beginning to think her loving me is total BS because if she loved me the way she talks she would be willing to work to make this marriage work. I am at a loss right now. I think I am severely depressed at this point. I have no drive, I hate work now, and I even hate waking up :( &#x200B; I don't know that it will get better, I love her and want no one but her. Sadly I am losing out to her parents I guess. How long will this hurt so much? I wish I could go to sleep and die peacefully way to often and it scares the shit out of me. I am so sad, hurt, depressed, and just don't want to go on without her. &#x200B; My original post can be found here - [https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/ab4kw8/heading\_for\_divorce\_but\_i\_dont\_want\_it\_m48\_f48/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/ab4kw8/heading_for_divorce_but_i_dont_want_it_m48_f48/) &#x200B; Isn't it supposed to get better each day? It doesn't for me and I am truly scared what the future holds for me.",8.235493433395874,9.513655063414637,6.677073170731707,75.27801125703566,61.780487804878035,8.063789868667918,26.988742964352717,7.882392219407189,1.3545909943714824,948,23,170,9,13,280,111,205,0.245,0.596,0.159,-0.9586,1,0,0,0,5,0,68.0,1,0,0,7,10,20,3,2,6,0,24,7,3,3,1,36,48,13,1,8,4,1,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,9,11,0,1,6,0,0,5,9,13,0,1,3,1,36,7,21,37,3,24,0,8,0,4,25,9,1,3,7,121,45,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3100763912613111,0.34774056319268964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07850070702323447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058150980764052784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687355642057725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616393254558637,0.0,0.0,0.061520903705032375,0.0,0.16432453125062374,0.0,0.09900337285650064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300649469297273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045940284359131,0.0,0.0,0.09967831347219523,0.0,0.10842862748410824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508667436087922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883626267359436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424138932128824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05242576254384919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442022905475023,0.0,0.1067209048192033,0.0,0.0,0.34438536497884603,0.0,0.06367588948164292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138817385255704,0.0701251848386067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06464109170251751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592317187863004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017767368600778,0.0,0.0913605858505481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146551177244601,0.0907410455629146,0.0,0.1910110325314472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077674811456245,0.09792003766926324,0.0,0.0,0.09546237328842352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667366679361802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224858193921015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09115255933899884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930797822045864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16879664041595707,0.15143781044165966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08607777932768954,0.0,0.10969779563382158,0.09195591180753744,0.0,0.20834277145816446,0.0,0.0,0.13552958422473038,0.0,0.34774056319268964,0.0 divorce,321getout,2019/01/04,"What to do when she acts nice/blindsided by $hit getting real? [CA] 16 yrs married; 2 kids (12F, 15F); California. So she (54F; SAHM) has been increasingly verbally abusive to myself (44M) and my daughters over the last 8 years.. tons of name-calling, constant blame for anything that goes sideways in life, inability to cope, yadda yadda, you’ve heard the story before... April 2017 I am laid off with ONE YEAR full severance from a high paying job in digital software. Instead of circling the wagons and regrouping as a family it gets worse. “You’re a loser who can’t get a job, provide for your family, buy a house, etc...”. After some panic attacks and therapy I decide I’m done. She finds out I have a sep checking acct, talked to some lawyers and have been looking at apartments... then acts like this came out of nowhere?!? It’s like a 70/30 rule where 30% she’s nice. Now she’s telling her family and the kids that I’m nuts. Trying to hold firm to my demands which, I decided on the spot, were that she get individual therapy for anger mgmt and get a job to help with bills. Doubt she will change at 54 years old but who knows..? Still have one foot out the door but what have you all done in this scenario?",3.8458097928436885,5.312455313559326,4.673333333333336,84.90942561205274,72.13559322033899,7.786817325800378,27.09416195856873,8.344100000000001,1.7418811676082866,938,33,189,15,18,303,158,236,0.096,0.872,0.032,-0.9053,3,0,0,0,0,0,54.0,0,2,0,1,6,8,2,2,14,0,14,2,1,0,1,24,26,12,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,1,2,12,12,0,1,4,0,4,4,1,5,0,2,7,2,17,3,30,17,7,31,0,1,1,0,19,15,0,3,14,110,29,6,0.0,0.14919634715436253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362263785192713,0.0,0.0,0.14325384693206006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714989356828382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440206119906748,0.0,0.0,0.13320821512927938,0.0,0.0,0.13607637103237288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577227587728892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043572115564654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561226561134944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508993926202543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.328943845549156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440250478756509,0.1330429430881897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529646597895607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3748728769590765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920314494217883,0.1026428018372679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894205583789302,0.12303773613634438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057423178575748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321333969826997,0.0,0.17065528935581792,0.0,0.0,0.14774170982280374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14332619676963626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225541519851792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005610459292588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121090507608843,0.11006091206888888,0.0,0.2880043425669273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549241015589644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832473229226593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24326788808312774 divorce,grisworld12,2019/01/04,"Thoughts of a lonely ex-housewife... As I sit here, alone in my big house, I can’t help but just be sad. My daughter is with him for the night and tomorrow is mediation. I’m still in disbelief. Every day I’m in disbelief. I’m nervous as hell. I don’t know what to expect. I’m hoping he can be agreeable. I’m hoping that we can make it without it getting too personal even though this is already personal. I’m sad all the time. I just hide it really well when I’m around my daughter and everyone else. I save my tears for days like today when I’m alone. I feel alone all the time. He is living with his parents. He’s surrounded by his family everyday. I, on the other hand, am not. I don’t have that luxury. My family is in Texas and I’m in California. Most days it feels like he’s won. He’s got everything he’s wanted. His family, his daughter, and now his freedom. I’m left picking up the pieces of my broken heart and starting from square one. I have so much on my mind most of the time. From finding a full time job, to finding a place to live once our house sells. How will I make it? How can I survive on my own? Who’s gonna help me? How does one adult? But most of my thoughts are on him. Not so much wondering what he’s doing or who he’s seeing, because I really don’t care anymore. It’s just missing the man I knew. The man I fell in love with a long time ago. Everything reminds me of him. Everything has a memory. From the meals that I cook, to the old, raggedy t-shirt I wear to sleep that I’ve had for 15 years, complete with holes. The toothpaste I buy, the tv shows I watch, the songs from my favorite bands I listen too. Most especially those songs. I can hear a song and picture trips we’ve taken. The late night drives we used to make. Every single thing in my life has a memory of him. That’s the part I have a hard time letting go of, the memories. I feel like I lost a part of myself. I try to do little things to make me happy. For example, today I went to get a manicure. I hardly ever get them. I used to when I worked long long ago. So I’ve been treating myself to them more often now. I’m working part time so why not? As the manicurist was massaging my hand, he ran his fingers through mine and for a second, it felt nice. It made me miss holding someone’s hand. A man’s hand. And I felt silly thinking that. But it’s just the truth. I miss having someone to talk to on a daily basis. I miss confiding in him. He was my best friend. I valued his opinion and advice on things above everyone else’s. Even my own mom’s. I’m lonely. Moreso now than ever before. I’m used to not being around family. I’m used to spending holidays alone because of his schedule. I’m used to the long distance from my family. I’m close to them. I call them pretty much everyday. But I always thought, “Well, at least I have my husband and my daughter.” Well now, it’s just me and my daughter. This whole Christmas break, I’ve been pretty much alone. Well, with my daughter. I’ve gone and had a play date for her once. But man, it just feels awful. And it’s worse in the neighborhood I live in. It’s a great neighborhood. All the neighbors tend to mind their own business. But man is it quiet. It’s always quiet. The only noise I hear are the cars passing by in the street behind my house. Feels like the whole world is dead and I’m the only living person left. That’s how lonely I am. I feel pathetic. I’ll stop rambling now. Just felt like getting it off my chest. If there is anything anybody here can do for me, it’s just say a prayer. If you’re not religious, just send me positive vibes. I need it for tomorrow. And pretty much for eternity lol. 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I'm looking to send her a message and was hoping for some feedback on it before I send it. I'm not comfortable posting it in public and was hoping to get some feedback via PM.",4.16,5.5269496296296285,5.8453703703703725,77.1991666666667,71.22222222222223,7.622222222222224,33.87037037037037,8.07648339933343,2.798125925925926,216,11,38,3,4,74,34,54,0.05,0.847,0.103,0.4401,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,12,4,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,3,6,9,2,6,0,0,2,0,7,2,0,4,1,26,7,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553552024168832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15678507829867935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26882244912003145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5961158317957161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5040014521963821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874040723007819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.296303501632916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412016502473737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thebigbeat77,2019/01/05,"I’m the idiot, I keep trying, but to no avail. I don’t know what I should do. It ends in argument every time. When I try to talk to her... and tell her, I love her, That I don’t want a divorce. I want to work it out. I want to show our 3 kids what a real relationship should be like. She rebuffs me, I can’t get through to her and I don’t know what else to do. I am so sick of feeling alone in my own house. I go go work, stressed about my relationship.... and I would do anything to go to work and actually worry about... work. This consumes me. 24 hours, 7 days a week. She goes about her day, like nothing is wrong.. I hear her singing when I am in the other room.. and even that annoys me. How can she be singing, or smiling... and I am in total pain. I’m not perfect, she’s not perfect. No one cheated, that I know of.. but we have just been arguing for about 3 years now. Money issues, etc, that just manifested. I fear its too late. I don’t want a divorce! I just don’t understand why two 40 years olds cant sit down and talk like adults and TRY to work this out. Fix whatever needs fixing. Why would she want to just throw this all away. On top of that... I worry about being the financial aspects of the divorce. I have 3 kids, 16... 14....12. She doesn’t work. I have worked SO hard to get us out of debt, to say no to credit cards, to just live on what I make. That’s all going to be ruined if this divorce happens... I don’t know what to do.. I am so depressed. I seem so antisocial because this eats at me every single day. I don’t know what to do... But I need to be happy again.. I want to be happy again so bad it’s killing me..... Thanks for letting me vent.... 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We have two very young kids and I know that can cause stress. My biggest issue is that I just don't feel loved. I've talked to him so many times about what I need to feel like I'm a loved parnter...not just a mom and someone who cooks and cleans. I'm realizing that I'm not happy and am not being fulfilled. He doesn't want to better himself and doesn't seem to want to fix what I ask him. He is an OK dad. I know he loves his kids, but doesn't go above and beyond. I know it isn't the greatest reasoning to end a relationship, but I've been trying for so long with no change. I don't even know where to start. How do I know if I is the right thing?",0.2006114398422092,1.5437242485207108,2.140094674556213,99.78631558185408,81.66272189349112,5.2167258382643,17.18382642998028,5.6839178017228535,-0.8213316765285992,574,10,152,3,15,191,98,169,0.13699999999999998,0.813,0.05,-0.8902,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,9,8,0,1,7,1,17,4,0,3,0,33,40,13,0,4,7,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,8,9,1,0,12,1,0,2,9,1,0,1,2,2,19,7,14,37,1,13,0,0,0,3,20,5,0,2,7,87,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373832750653442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598206003960525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15794671458073498,0.16265031835173935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734273115294206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13617954787439468,0.0,0.0,0.1015524259459202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548430301571325,0.10984119503994272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08738138993967695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367295899403395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16047821657089426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42249322028911707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511596387817307,0.0,0.0,0.13606659283612424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163043362945599,0.0,0.0,0.1558814394829825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18007368995700404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400592322218407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580837219199894,0.0,0.16507321328388008,0.0,0.13130424715311967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13997098355271953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302744429998997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10882718568602998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1761235758852752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235808611001731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10214668089797728,0.19703746613537654,0.0,0.0,0.08965462798633901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438821445823583,0.0,0.15019436869246078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686235170800353,0.1813750408778463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901191004642727 divorce,Corinco,2019/01/05,"Only have one more week with spouse living at home. Need advice on getting closure. This sub has been one of my rocks while I have been going through my divorce, and I can't thank all of you enough for sharing your experiences and hardships. Some background: - My STBXW (35F) and I (40M) have been together 9 years, and married for 5 year with no kids. - She surprised me by asking for a divorce at the beginning of November. Said she has deeply resented me for the last two years for disrespecting her. Never told me this until she slapped down the ring one day and said she wanted out of this toxic marriage. - I agreed to the divorce, even though I still love her - because you can't make someone stay and you can't make them love you. - We've already filed amicably (as possible) without lawyers - I am keeping the marital home and she is moving out in a week. - After we filed the papers, I sat down and took a long hard look at what I had done to damage the marriage by taking a moral inventory. Honestly, I can see from the exercise why she would have wanted to leave. The only problem I have is that I was never told how much she resented me for the last two years and that we never got a chance to work on anything in therapy. I was more than willing to go because I made a life long commitment to be with her. Currently, I am going to individual therapy because I can only work on myself. Here is where I need the advice. Since I only have a week left with her, I want to write an apology letter and read it to her before she leaves where I own all of the things I did that contributed to the failure of our marriage. I will not make an excuses at all for what I did - only take responsibility. I want to do this so she has to hear me out and won't throw the letter in the trash if I mail it to her. I also will not be giving her the letter, because I don't want it circulating to her family and friends as ""See, I told you he was a piece of crap"". I also don't want that to be what she pulls out from time to time to remember ""how toxic the marriage was"". As much as this is for me to get closure, she really truly deserves an apology for the hurt I have caused her. I never intended to hurt her, but must admit that I am a flawed man and take ownership for what I have done. I really hope that she will be able to listen to my apology and find some way to forgive me down the road and start over without baggage. What does everyone think of this idea? Have you tried something similar to get closure? Should I just let sleeping dogs lie? Thank you for your consideration and support. 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My husband (34m) cheated on me (34f). Married 14 years 2 kids. Live in WA state. I do not want a divorce. I want to attempt to reconcile. He doesn't know what he wants to do. Im considering legal separation to have custody, alimony, child support payments set in place, and to hopefully buy me time for him to get his head out of his ass.",1.4909302325581422,4.0047371627907005,3.954697674418604,82.02693023255813,84.34883720930233,6.695813953488373,29.53023255813953,7.908726449838941,2.381059534883722,340,18,65,7,10,118,61,86,0.105,0.7829999999999999,0.112,-0.0885,0,0,0,0,3,0,17.0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,3,0,5,2,2,0,0,12,13,2,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,8,2,13,13,0,9,0,0,0,1,11,5,1,1,2,34,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062020031261987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007429855554735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910542632178313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31653285811263443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610468009254885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25875917552480737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061638223772156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325376597715057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708736416584883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185267247800722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870777802762875 divorce,mpowell3q3,2019/01/05,"Avoiding lawers Could use some advice here. The wife and I are getting a divorce. We haven’t even started the paperwork yet. I am wanting to proceed without lawyers, and idea which was seemingly ok with until recently. Now she is very adamant about getting lawyers involved. I would really prefer to not pay someone a lot of money just because we can’t fill out some paperwork or agree on something. I’ve repeatedly asked to at least try the forms on our own and see how it goes, but she is convinced that I will try to take advantage of her. So my question is, can anyone provide me some good evidence why proceeding without lawyers is easier than most people believe? I know people who have done it this way, and they are very happy with the result. I also know people who have spent >$100k on divorce lawyers and are obviously unhappy about that. Any help would be appreciated.",6.329240576496673,7.562577567073172,6.34161862527716,76.15105321507764,66.01219512195122,9.134368070953435,36.250554323725055,9.339509955726095,3.507007317073171,707,35,121,13,11,224,114,164,0.047,0.795,0.157,0.9612,0,1,1,0,2,0,18.0,3,0,1,1,10,6,0,1,6,1,20,0,0,3,1,36,32,11,0,5,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,10,0,1,6,0,3,1,5,1,0,0,3,1,15,5,19,24,8,15,0,0,1,0,16,5,0,8,8,92,23,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597621247411281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13074419424012898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111799120431939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11431714626519765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284260055789956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996629777320092,0.0,0.0,0.18419907625612145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053475992214708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730869647279595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10798467704330522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17083525342851438,0.0,0.0,0.13712901907676586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740398759858769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958499064873352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184562145478996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17970144394266607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13899473390489045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3400335238478438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831480379305043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10473692205460093,0.0,0.16142825689312365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13028165858566654,0.14883663598960464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13852592415499854,0.12586384116894594,0.0,0.0,0.11572021436588704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292535596417314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220001643565412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412042721159547,0.0,0.26979542734780565,0.09643159693368883,0.12977204280586474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475257629645941,0.0,0.0,0.3152001864933802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23227952060556764,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ArtisticPlatform,2019/01/05,"Today I had a diagnostic interview with a therapist... And after a lengthy session of answering his many questions, and me sharing my story with him... He gave me the all clear and told me that he can safely say that I do not have any mental health issues! I'm so happy and relieved! I didn't think I had any, but I still wanted to be sure. And now I've got my answer. That said, however, I'm still going to go for therapy sessions just so that I can work on any issues I have. I do not want my next serious relationship to be a failure again. I want to make sure that whatever mistakes I had made will not be repeated, as much as possible, and I do not want to see the same red flags popping up. My life is really looking so much better now that I've got my own place (I am renting a room while I wait for my new house to finish construction)! Here's to a much happier, healthier and successful 2019.",3.4815467775467748,4.336391724324326,5.39567567567568,81.72482328482332,72.29729729729729,9.151767151767153,28.284823284823283,9.466822959209583,2.420060291060291,699,26,146,16,13,242,109,185,0.069,0.765,0.166,0.9652,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,3,10,10,0,0,8,0,17,2,0,2,4,33,36,14,0,5,6,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,2,0,6,9,0,2,4,0,1,2,5,2,0,0,10,5,24,8,17,22,6,18,0,0,3,0,12,4,0,1,12,101,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810422214671465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183650606782695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658305577220769,0.0,0.2203566702691239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664685514992068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643121336863707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15895521456001985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875688925627275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09730314824841776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11568273674019737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035075270368868,0.09195510065374896,0.13966584961206274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138828517404315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30380581171414145,0.0,0.0,0.1330483536816383,0.14650809752676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439286755253668,0.0,0.0,0.1553024023017594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432143718354718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882518454485453,0.0,0.0,0.14790144777950467,0.0,0.0,0.1310402107625014,0.10955136504428163,0.0,0.0,0.10977596603696753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200287876840787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596721675761181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15753924831720914,0.15994864011418847,0.0,0.08827030724273524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057928004093616,0.1316344826448147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250149506784929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002900819335479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Thislifecanbegood9,2019/01/05,"How did your spouse act when you told them you wanted a divorce or wanted to separate? Just told mine and she absolutely flipped her lid, started yelling and crying. She told me I was a liar and I wasted our marriage. I definitely am not the best husband, I'll take that. This too shall pass. Thanks for letting me vent a bit.",1.41,4.020190000000003,2.4643750000000004,91.643125,86.5,5.075,23.625,6.6274283507984215,0.7393187500000002,256,10,52,3,8,81,51,64,0.18600000000000005,0.733,0.08,-0.8109999999999999,0,0,0,0,2,0,8.0,1,3,1,1,4,3,1,0,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,13,6,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,5,1,14,2,2,6,2,4,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,2,37,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617995071830221,0.0,0.2723526052276565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740270334513752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25509620937528343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657354204921488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18756762272861047,0.0,0.0,0.22967506638074825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7151272650790645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29428339256625297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LizardDemonFromSpace,2019/01/05,Karen please Karen please give me my kids back i have no purpose in life without them,1.937058823529412,4.583617117647059,0.9132352941176478,103.65455882352943,83.70588235294119,3.4000000000000004,20.264705882352946,3.1291,-0.8132117647058821,69,2,15,0,2,19,15,17,0.111,0.657,0.232,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,0.0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760431984538918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34437847399264393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25356713446078777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7881322807199955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34605611632549704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,tuckerbud4,2019/01/05,My parents are getting a divorce and I found a dating app on my dads phone please help. Yeah... so my parents are getting a divorce and I am really upset about it. I know my dad is the one who wants it and I kind of hate him for it. My mom wanted to see a marriage councilor but he didn’t. He is going to file for divorce on the 15th this month. I found a dating app on his phone and I kind of want to die. When I confronted him he told me it meant nothing. What do I do? 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( If you ever dealt with the pain of working through the details and comparisons of an affair how did you do it? ) Are any of you betrayed spouses getting divorced because you cant get the sexual/physical details of your spouses affair out of your head? ( If you ever dealt with the pain of working through the details and comparisons of an affair how did you do it? ),10.562978723404253,8.211011787234042,9.894148936170216,65.98250000000002,58.787234042553216,11.953191489361705,49.03191489361702,10.125756701596842,5.374412765957448,404,24,64,6,4,130,34,94,0.153,0.847,0.0,-0.9482,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,12,0,2,4,2,0,0,8,0,8,4,2,2,2,12,12,6,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,12,0,16,10,0,4,0,0,0,0,22,2,0,2,2,54,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29103742503292496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26088936281015285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3871275558526033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4471981615110989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4392254422069768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4553951819603085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115706286042104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Backed_Into_Corner2,2019/01/05,"I don’t think things are working, and have let things go too far. Our marriage has been one of mainly emotional and financial support. We married young, and while I’ve never told my spouse, I was pressured into marriage. There’s not a lot of intimacy due to differing interests, with months between sex. We have very different levels of tolerance when it comes to clutter. While we don’t have children, he have very different ideas on how many pets is too many. I’m timid and tend to let people walk all over me, and my spouse has a tendency to take advantage of that - or maybe it’s that I enable them to. We’ve discussed some of these issues before and tried to work through them, but they always come back. I’ve mostly given up trying to fix things, instead finding any way I can to avoid dealing with them. But now we’re in the process of looking for a house, and all of the things I’ve been avoiding talking or thinking about are on my mind constantly. I don’t want to be stuck in a home with someone I have to wall myself away from to tolerate. I’m feeling so many emotions at once - guilt, sadness, frustration, bitterness - I can’t think straight. I don’t know what to do. In hindsight I should have been more assertive, shouldn’t have let someone pressure me into a lifelong commitment I didn’t fully understand. That’s all my fault, but it’s also something I can’t change. The options I’ve left myself with, or at least the ones I can see, are to either ask to hold off on buying a house while we sort this out, ask for a divorce before buying, or go along with buying. Divorce afterwards would be cruel - while we make roughly the same, I can’t leave them with the responsibility of a mortgage we had planned to pay together. I’ve considered giving up any claim to savings so that they can at least find a house with a mortgage they can afford. Has anyone been in this situation, or have any advice?",5.4031639928698745,6.071495443850268,5.694986631016048,81.98797014260252,67.82352941176471,8.479322638146169,31.35873440285205,8.472884824447931,2.310052049910874,1512,59,292,21,24,482,194,374,0.11,0.836,0.054000000000000006,-0.9726,5,2,1,0,2,0,43.0,7,0,7,5,12,15,3,6,16,0,42,1,0,2,5,67,67,24,0,4,10,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,15,26,0,3,9,0,4,5,11,11,0,2,10,5,35,4,56,49,12,42,0,1,2,1,29,23,0,10,13,210,50,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080576238519801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743125209097635,0.0773214935405031,0.0,0.0,0.18957766162712694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497569832106231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374567208698927,0.0,0.08730660392188358,0.07145400444799872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814558080938296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09830290002470292,0.16009424935276245,0.0,0.1004194965328344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580215157995127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29126223388870626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20905745053596847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04698594521564557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698645204748675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914264560869302,0.10562345190968124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09321189348708378,0.0,0.0,0.32167079084146943,0.0,0.10490162392885133,0.0,0.09699012113579758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05106944667071624,0.0,0.0,0.0983947296630163,0.1009638713032408,0.2850679821994745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803404985680004,0.0,0.0,0.079001971213219,0.0,0.0,0.06202851964953841,0.2826357375101665,0.09335619515344773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382830548915012,0.0,0.07417227961119825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07166990526551237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896266753133716,0.1259375019172098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442286914490457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740496244141025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445220059108044,0.0,0.0,0.15747101728136334,0.07153862076255525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545080178005516,0.0,0.0,0.06986844149003131,0.07469002924067811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469423991769694,0.1786288019375977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879433587959239,0.0,0.12618068398063442,0.0,0.0,0.09673876452372906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15334660519854074,0.05480989121654758,0.0737599684679049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530179997938532,0.0,0.0,0.06601163758066561,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,EarlVanDorn,2019/01/05,"We're splitting and the ultimate family reunion comes along My wife and I have decided to split. We have had some ongoing differences, but our nature is not to argue (mine anyway and mostly hers). She doesn't want to live where I want to live and that's a big deal but much more. I pretty much retreated totally some months ago emotionally and she sought love elsewhere, which I don't blame her, but obviously this can't go on. We don't hate each other. She makes big money, but in discussing divorce details she was actually stunned when I said I would agree to pay alimony if she became unemployed within 10 years. At that point she suggested marriage counseling, which I really don't want. Cut to the chase. For years my family has talked about having a first cousin reunion. I have a first cousin who is a billionaire. That's not an exaggeration. I have his email address but have only emailed him maybe three times in 10 years. I figure it costs him a thousand dollars to read my email! Anyway, said wealthy first cousin is planning to host us all, say 11 or 12 plus spouses, on his compound in the Caribbean. Although I am not impressed by them, there tend to be movie-star and other derelicts around. This is scheduled to happen in maybe March. My wife and I were planning to file divorce papers now. I would enjoy the trip more without her, but only marginally; like I said, I don't hate her. My question is, do I pretend everything is hunky-dory for a couple of months, let wife join me on trip?",4.904955357142857,6.357423989583332,5.205099206349207,82.17125000000003,69.52083333333334,8.263492063492063,28.99206349206349,8.704169506293173,2.1999730158730166,1191,44,224,20,21,377,167,288,0.042,0.8109999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.9889,2,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,4,0,1,5,8,8,4,0,11,0,28,1,0,1,3,41,42,18,0,6,12,7,0,1,0,2,0,4,1,0,11,14,0,0,3,2,4,4,10,4,0,5,6,4,42,4,29,32,10,32,0,0,0,1,44,14,0,6,15,161,53,4,0.0,0.0,0.11999823049878175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900298660666266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10946686171189364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059253382366447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13606084698485393,0.0,0.0,0.1267737642161541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847453199163306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13832152777779316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11051497337940873,0.0,0.23184502903479906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31378746421035536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988508278396764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087394721180962,0.0,0.0,0.24280926667224195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574227392924206,0.0,0.06007555336036185,0.0,0.21716454750249048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109826818782751,0.0,0.08208154822248577,0.0,0.2470741226020066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19630246151533212,0.0,0.1807900537486866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870441646398501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162437326200764,0.0,0.0,0.12510183065151073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137751385163953,0.0,0.12300045773924095,0.0,0.07877592495042096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35090984520656193,0.09778843793103656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988363622329848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07170315215993334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14791437828196216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21758768810116505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853597446093013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747047146679078,0.0,0.0,0.237560498922143 divorce,fredbotz,2019/01/05,"I’m set on a divorce, but timing is shit If I weren’t pregnant, I would have already filed for divorce. The trouble is that I have been almost entirely dependent on my husband since we got married (a measly 6 months ago). I quit my job to move across the country to marry him (yay military!) and I shouldn’t have. We barely knew each other (my fault) and we are just incompatible on many major levels. There has also been a great amount of manipulation, emotional & mental abuse. Right before Christmas I dropped the bomb, I wanted to separate and fly home to my family (4000 miles away) and stay for an indefinite amount of time. My baby is due in the next 6 months. Since I have no other health insurance, the plan has been to stay married until the baby is born. However I do not want to be married. Being home has been a million pounds lifted off my shoulders. And although the task is daunting, I would rather struggle being a single mom than go back to the way things were before. I just got a job, today. I start next week. I accepted because they pay 100% of health care for myself and any of my dependents. It’s GOOD health care, too. Knowing this.. makes me want to file for divorce now. I want him to be a part of our child’s life as long as he gets the help he’s promised me that he will get. In no way were any of my actions to hurt him or take his child away. -Has anyone filed for divorce while pregnant? -How did this work with custody/child support etc.? (Note he is active duty for the next three years or so) -Can I file in the state I am in now or do we have to file where we got married? (Where he is currently stationed) -How smoothly or not smoothly will this go with him being 3000+ miles away? Any insight is appreciated ",2.465390850144093,4.532580008645535,3.567592759365997,88.79862256844383,77.44380403458213,6.066606628242075,23.812049711815558,7.04035,0.8461729827089335,1361,45,277,15,32,439,186,347,0.095,0.775,0.13,0.9587,5,0,0,0,6,0,55.0,6,0,1,3,14,13,1,1,19,1,40,6,2,6,0,45,60,21,0,9,11,2,2,0,0,5,4,0,2,2,9,14,0,1,4,0,1,4,6,5,0,2,12,2,39,8,41,38,7,50,0,1,0,0,26,18,1,9,21,186,48,5,0.0,0.11373093749963326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508820901960308,0.0,0.09611883795332812,0.0,0.10592593988829817,0.07676214503582023,0.0,0.10400373846560153,0.0,0.19582686442630445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06711754516283384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705536877550344,0.07380940096875094,0.0,0.058513833029674285,0.0,0.16335866233908009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19573379555118306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10797439073791676,0.0,0.0,0.1070527967346534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09048962282957816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030028925663588,0.0,0.10910520374514286,0.08051078452980852,0.2303128453562341,0.10582790312709504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3060945634975147,0.0,0.0,0.06433921593854773,0.0,0.1925690260355272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10275791048981138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905079874179917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275289041798007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06779967195257516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08494699697808226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407321624140344,0.09731749647503857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673405338997328,0.0,0.0,0.11242082922611868,0.15323456169831426,0.10202081887601584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062552793877892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394643017653908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209581964611446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197384276064698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853104211065347,0.15880572289411912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794131036071667,0.20462240851272975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003482519630002,0.0,0.0,0.10892686240873596,0.0,0.0,0.07217157180816154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377064063044535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194358958923957,0.0,0.09098608328659988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264665371301852,0.1523827567159533,0.07699636156626638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988093168200238,0.0,0.0,0.1363752658632606,0.0,0.0,0.061813588833210226 divorce,life_is_complicated_,2019/01/06,"A feeling of relief at last. It’s been a week since she (32f) told me (34m) that she no longer wanted this marriage. We’ve had a few conversations and I have tried to convince her to try. The first few days of processing was the worst pain I’ve felt. I’m a very private person with anything regarding feels with the exception of the anonymity of Reddit. Today I hung out with a friend for the first time and telling him that she doesn’t want me anymore has made me feel so much better. I knew he would be supportive but I was really surprised by his reaction. He was great because the only other person I’ve talked to is my mom (we are close but not anymore that most) but she says so many negative and probably truthful things about her that it makes me hard to talk to her about it. I know she is trying to be supportive but I get irritated to hear any sort of bad mouthing about her. I’ve never told him or anyone about my frustrations with her (my need for privacy), but it made me feel really good that he saw it from the outside how much I did for the family. He stated that he never thought she would do something like this, and thinks she is crazy for leaving me. He knows I’m the one who takes care of the kids and that she was never home at night. He also mentioned a concern of mine regarding our oldest. He is 16 and from a previous relationship of hers but I am his dad. I’ve been concerned that he will burden a lot of my duties soon and my concern is not for her but obviously for him, taking care of the house is not his job. He has chores, nothing major, take out trash, walk and clean up after the dog, vacuum every now and then. Are my feelings of relief so quick normal? She asked for some time with the kids alone today so I watched the ravens chargers game to get out of the house and while we talked about the divorce I actually felt happy and caught myself with a smile and a laugh. Taking some time for myself as others have suggested made me feel so much better. In the first few days I was just upset and doing it without talking to anyone was terrible. Today I think I am actually starting to accept the idea of this. Last night we talked and I stupidly told her that I was willing to completely quit smoking pot (haven’t smoked since the first night) and I would convert to Catholicism (complete non believer here). Lately I think we need to talk about dividing our possessions. Is it too soon to start that?",4.771157407407409,5.480103325102881,5.313783436213992,84.01598379629631,69.24691358024691,8.379526748971193,27.32741769547325,8.472884824447931,1.7363664609053493,1920,59,389,28,32,617,230,486,0.08900000000000001,0.775,0.136,0.9735,1,1,2,0,1,0,43.0,6,0,0,7,20,26,2,1,29,0,37,2,1,5,5,84,81,33,0,8,14,2,9,1,1,5,1,2,4,4,24,29,0,1,17,1,0,2,11,8,0,5,23,13,62,18,61,51,12,43,1,0,2,0,67,8,0,6,33,276,86,2,0.0,0.0,0.13736082166971714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289211835167059,0.0,0.056282601018330665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04786059271807865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13959545289825384,0.09842221094699252,0.0,0.057916476146470476,0.0,0.0657954959744135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058764089227674975,0.04290279690497952,0.0,0.0,0.07929379332766094,0.0,0.12449020715816478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351353933205035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758350132962264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09077813658129792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592979120049598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634769436992391,0.0,0.2135164714370935,0.0,0.13515105085015253,0.0,0.0,0.2394596638880101,0.0,0.0,0.054375162657170316,0.0,0.07354095120218619,0.0,0.0,0.05903113261425268,0.0,0.07759384062977145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492047320588689,0.06304636521317138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793230092548696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059655286983275,0.0,0.0,0.16241739219303553,0.0,0.07945008692319569,0.0,0.0,0.06984096810770819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735765806370852,0.11473765786024072,0.07939133941418278,0.07452191426333993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03438395440308603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05983428325429151,0.0,0.19978485181942574,0.04697897986036394,0.07135394436478397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.082427825258543,0.0,0.0,0.15521147830311566,0.1043712751156577,0.1628434333957744,0.0,0.0,0.1981396732388866,0.06895713890684242,0.06753119673075064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04769108951544333,0.05352691459837088,0.07488893679949211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290563583937684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07588119374203199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748574480311916,0.0,0.0,0.09017404451719516,0.0,0.0,0.07556143255951885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055968742739675975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643758960756588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418171259012639,0.0,0.0,0.09963019303096347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973204329474294,0.0,0.0,0.2116670282754119,0.339411103082218,0.06151493844043309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046757129072042616,0.13528936263707514,0.0,0.055873600809790994,0.12311686417447447,0.0,0.2001351091003519,0.20175238780018853,0.0,0.14334953933252426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05807060299020885,0.0830235120927987,0.0,0.05645433039781642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678434956152927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998710641362908,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,poofscut,2019/01/06,"Hi I’m 46 and my wife has, well technically I have, left our home. We were married for 18 years and together for 20. I always had emotional issues and she had been previously married to an alcoholic. In my infinite wisdom I developed and issue as well as a replacement addition to food and a way of dealing with the crippling depression I was feeling. She had enough and that’s why I’m here. I actually stopped drinking for a while until she told me that she no longer cared for me in that way. It’s been kind of a shit show since. The good news is that we still kinda get along and we have 2 dogs wrapped up in the mess. No kids though. I’ve been very remorseful about my behavior but that isn’t enough. We had other issues which are becoming clearer to me as time goes by. It’s been 4 months and I can’t get over what is like to live with someone. She said we became roommates which isn’t untrue. But I thought we were friends too. No one in my family has ever split where all of hers has and it’s been a huge adjustment. I’m literally middle aged and living on my own for the first time ever. To say it’s been an adjustment would be an understanding. I’ve been talking to an ex who has helped me tremendously but I may have screwed the pooch there by being a little too forward in her poly relationship that I don’t understand. No one in my family has been that either. Add to this the deaths of my father and one of my best friends and I’m a little stressed at the moment. I’m getting past the separation I think but I am entirely too lonely and not really in a position to date yet... or ever. Lol. I just kind of wanted to talk to someone. Other than the people I pay weekly and monthly. 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I had to pretend my spouse and I were putting on a show and that’s why they were screaming. There’s so much more to this obviously, but I’m at the end of my rope. I saw my kids watch my spouse scream at me, yet again, and convinced them we were putting on a play when they walked out the room. They believed it, and ‘can’t wait to tell their teacher about their roles as little squirrels.’ I am broken and feel like this is it. 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Telling her i filed for divorce tomorrow. Any words of advice? Separated under the pretense we would try to work it out. No infidelity on either part, just didn't work out. We're meeting at DMV so she can renew her driver's license, getting breakfast, and afterwards is when I plan to tell her, before I drop her off at her apartment. Didn't want her driving for fear of her being inconsolable. 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I've used the child support time calculator and it works out to he has them 10% of the time. How he thinks this is good for his kids is beyond me, but it is really fraying my nerves as I have to deal with school projects, homework, discipline- all the lame stuff. He took the kids out today as scheduled, but drops them off at 3:30pm. Our arrangement is he has to give them dinner or at least give me a heads up they are coming home early. He didn't. I didn't say anything to him because he had a friend with him. The dude he is living with. No, it's not a gay thing, but they do everything together, so the kids have to share their time. That's a whole other rant. But anyway, I'm stalling myself from sending an email reminding him again of our predetermined arrangement. STBX is not stupid, I'm guessing he just doesn't care. Also, he is supposed to have them Tuesday's for dinner. But Tuesday Jan. 1st was a holiday and he knew I was off work, therefore there was no need to take the kids to dinner. WTF. This is not a babysitting schedule! I know this post is scattered but I'm just angry that he has literally just walked away and thinks everything is peachy. I don't want to be the bitchy wife and remind him all the time. 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I just finished the video. My lyrics depict how we all feel during divorce. Married 28 years no kids and no debt. She left out of nowhere with a note to explain her feeling's. https://youtu.be/ykczAqQuOBg,2.051117021276596,4.809221851063832,1.5140159574468086,94.67187500000004,96.44680851063828,3.201063829787234,22.89627659574468,5.148860815047168,0.15240638297872344,205,8,37,1,8,59,42,47,0.147,0.853,0.0,-0.7096,1,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,1,11,5,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,7,0,5,3,1,5,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,22,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4692520727526423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041667850325677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4390736470580238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4934980686366746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988182286914761 divorce,no-originality-left,2019/01/06,"Every time I see him, it cuts deeper Have been married for close to 22 yrs. He was my first. I cheated in begin of marriage. Long distance due to work. I had a lot of things I still hadn’t worked out from my childhood. I regretted and told him when I was drunk. I don’t remember. Fast forward 7 yrs. We had our 1st child. I find out he was emotionally attached to someone else and even thought of leaving me (found this years later). He apologized when he was caught. He has never came to me and apologized or talked to me about it (the why, especially since we had a child!) During that time, he had physical contact with a stranger (asked me for divorce, when I asked him why—several times—he finally told me why). I tried to make it work. It’s been over 12 yrs but the fact that he can’t just open up to me has pushed to just give up. He has gone to sleep when I’ve been crying because of the hurt. Like, it didn’t matter to him that this has been really hurting. He doesn’t see the need to talk about it. We have gone months without sex. The times we did have sex was when I would initiate it. He hasn’t initiated sex in years. (Yes, I gained weight. Went from under 100 lbs to close to 200 lbs. I’m short, as well). I’ve asked him if it’s the weight, he says is not. He has stopped being my friend years ago but I stuck around because he has been the only person who “loved” or stuck with me even with all of my damaged past. We have to live together at this time. We are moving back to the states in less than 8 months. I already told him I can’t live without love. I can’t be his roommate. All he says is that he wants me to be happy. Not I love you. Just wants me to be happy. I fee so alone. I can’t and don’t regret the years we have been together. If I did, I would be regretting my kids. They are the reason why I need to leave. Can’t raise them like this; I don’t want them to think marriage and love is like this. He doesn’t want to talk about us. We are cordial. I know I have to be. He doesn’t care. To him, it’s just another day. I just can’t take this. It’s tearing me apart inside and he doesn’t give a damn. 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Four room apartment (bedroom, living room, bathroom, and kitchen) that is pretty small and open. Don’t know how to go about this but I want some space away from him, neither can afford it, and I don’t want to leave my dog. 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Last week I (34/F) told my husband (36/M) I would be filing for divorce after 13 years of marriage (together for 14 yrs. total). I spent six months deciding whether or not to file. This was after two years of marriage counseling and repeated events of broken trust. Ultimately, I realized I don’t trust him to be there when it matters so what’s the point of having a relationship with someone you can’t trust? He’s saying some ridiculous things. About how he’s finally going to peruse a career now that he’s single (something I’ve asked him to do for years). It feels spiteful. My challenge is me though. Logically, I know this is the right choice but it doesn’t FEEL like it. I feel relieved to have finally made a choice, but I also feel guilt. I feel guilt for being the one to end the marriage. For hurting him by ending it. I feel uncertainty about the future. I miss his hugs and kisses. I miss him. I don’t miss the bad, but I do miss the good. I’m just posting this to get my feelings out there. I have two close friends that I talk to, but everyone else is a mutual friend and I can’t talk to them. This gets easier right? 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Still have yet to finalize the divorce after 1year separation. I haven't had any interest in dating. Don't think she has either. I do want to get things finalized and hopefully be able to continue to get along for the kid's sakes. But what comes next? I mean I am enjoying my time with the kids on the nights and weekends that I have them but also enjoy my time alone on the nights and weekends I don't have them. But I find my eyes wandering at the grocery store. Can't help but wonder sometimes if maybe someone else may come along who I might be interested in getting to know. But I won't put my kids through meeting them of course unless it were the right person. I just wonder what it might be like to hang out with someone again who genuinely enjoys spending time with you.,4.106104166666668,5.536303068750001,4.655000000000001,85.4366666666667,71.4375,7.833333333333335,26.458333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.650020833333334,641,21,128,10,12,204,98,160,0.044,0.826,0.13,0.9323,0,1,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,3,0,5,7,0,0,7,0,19,1,1,0,0,31,31,11,0,3,9,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,4,8,11,0,0,6,2,2,5,5,0,0,0,2,1,19,7,24,22,1,29,0,0,1,0,14,8,0,7,17,92,27,0,0.14481177277559576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14150838836783686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14998132364990344,0.0,0.11580592236959145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695394258937327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2494850394710292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097165431318592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172684374642652,0.13235533683043094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22697452316922664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09706427879032006,0.0,0.0,0.1438307651719508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07958476316243404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07074771745297452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454828897782712,0.15774247357852164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072448130004293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15391199692667368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400896320058952,0.2717920778627547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644405433718806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557582891949813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366846271227502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453970902815952,0.0,0.14322254610250618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11564686879958352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09620650719000012,0.09278953675149657,0.0,0.0,0.2533227277526345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08541373552670482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140843806369644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Perfectlyimperfect24,2019/01/06,Can’t wait for this to be over! Living together while separated sucks! I can’t wait for this to be over. That is all. ,-1.1605999999999987,0.8678888400000027,1.4794999999999978,95.58725,100.6,5.7,14.25,7.1686216300943375,-0.12199999999999987,91,2,22,2,4,31,17,25,0.128,0.872,0.0,-0.4738,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,3,8,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,6,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,17,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Thanksforpie,2019/01/06,Finalized The divorce is final and I’m spinning. Im 49 and we have two young kids. I don’t see them as often and I’m heartbroken about that as well. She is getting married again. I want to kill myself but don’t want to abandon my kids and hurt my family and friends. But it’s too much to process. ,-0.2826562499999987,1.9071185468750045,1.9112500000000023,95.60875,90.09375,5.075,22.0625,6.6274283507984215,0.4855687499999997,233,9,53,3,8,78,45,64,0.199,0.6829999999999999,0.118,-0.8248,0,0,0,0,1,1,6.0,1,0,1,0,5,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,12,11,9,1,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,1,0,1,8,2,6,11,1,4,0,2,1,0,7,0,0,1,4,35,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482102476796726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5768516401201776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20342037080457792,0.0,0.13756030172442513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818617827787515,0.0,0.284402812673456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912959146397579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935514606709442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098113112432274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572000804459288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31059536726164444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367330188964379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,s0fiecushion,2019/01/06,"Tidying, and all the feels I need to have a bit of a pity party. Has anyone watched Tidying Up on Netflix? Im going through a divorce/separation so Im going to need to downsize at some point and after watching a few episodes Im feeling motivated now that I have a little outline to follow. Well, the first step in ""tidying"" is emptying closets and only keeping clothes that bring you joy. Easy. Before putting discarded items away they say a little ""thank you"" to it. I didn't necessarily do this but as I start touching items piece by piece I'm reminded of so much. Dresses for Christmas parties at work. Date night outfits. Concert clothes. We called ourselves mustard and ketchup because we would accidentally dress in red and yellow. Maternity shirts...oh gosh those were the worst. I felt so positive when I started and now I'm sitting in my room, thats wrecked with clothes btw, trying to pull myself together. It's for the best, I wanted this too but damn it's so hard when it gets here and I'm doubting if this is for the best. I'll get it togethee and finish what I started, but how do I pull myself out of this?? 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We have been married 11 years and together for 13. Long story short there have been major issues with drugs and alcohol on his end. We have 3 kids- two together and one mine from a previous relationship. For back story I grew up in an abusive home with an alcoholic father. My husband has had at the least five emotional affairs plus all the drama that comes with addiction. He’s been soberish for two years. Basically we’ve been kicked out of counseling twice and he refuses to discuss any past issues because he’s good now and I should get over it. Over the years I’ve learned to walk on eggshells to try to avoid fights but he criticizes me daily. I have tried to leave but can’t right now as my credit is destroyed from when he was using. I’m trying to either work it out or avoid the daily fights while I get my stuff together to leave in a way that doesn’t leave me or my kids in a bad spot. The problem is he plays on my fears and weaknesses and I don’t even know who is right anymore . This morning I came down to grab coffee and it wasn’t ready yet. I said okay I’m just going to go upstairs for a few. He asked me what the fuck my problem was and why I was so angry. Why I treat him like shit? So I sat on the stairs and said it’s alright I don’t have to go upstairs. I’m not mad. Then he just goes off says I’m crazy and on drugs. I just wanted to avoid the argument by doing what he wanted. Last week he went out with friends and ended up spending the night in a hotel with three girlfriends without even calling me. I’m not allowed to be mad as nothing happened, it’s my own hang up not his, he’s an adult etc etc. I should just trust him. What it all boils down to is I’m crazy and I cause all the fights. Which is interesting because all I’m trying to do is not fight with him and get through each day. But then I start to wonder if it really is all my fault? I would love some help and can answer any questions. This post is probably convoluted but I didn’t want to write a book. 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Three months since filing/accepting service. Some back and forth about temp parenting plan (meaning i proposed one, she took 2 months to send a very ugly counter proposal). Nothing has started on division of assets, permanent parenting plan, financial support, etc. Still under same roof. Finances still tied together. Still paying for things the way we always have (meaning most bills covered by my income since she doesnt make much). Still havent told the kids. Still havent [insert everything here]. My lawyer has talked about different legal tools we could use but they all seem to me that they would increase hostilities, which i dont want, but silence and inaction is making me hostile myself. My state has a set schedule so court date is already set for this fall. At the rate we're going, we'll end up in trial simply because she refused to face current reality. Why cant this be like TV? I want my lawyer to call her lawyer, hash some shit out and get some proposals on the table to negotiate. I'd rather her be willing to meet in a coffee shop and discuss how we can do this as smoothly as possible, but I'm kidding myself if i think that can happen (been trying that for 6 months). I get it. This sucks. It's going to be hard for the kids. It's going to be hard for each of us. Things are going to change. This isnt how we thought life would go. Etc etc etc. But is it really going to be easier later, after your inaction saps whatever life out of me thats left? Can't we just get this moving?!?!?!?",2.9843144774688426,5.2542838120805415,3.964069990412274,85.59827181208054,76.65100671140941,6.941706615532119,24.40124640460211,7.957251820313856,1.4637810162991367,1208,41,230,20,28,389,175,298,0.12,0.838,0.042,-0.9743,5,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,8,1,2,2,15,6,4,0,8,0,30,4,2,7,1,45,57,14,0,7,8,2,3,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,18,13,0,1,5,2,4,12,7,4,0,2,4,3,30,2,33,43,13,42,0,0,0,0,28,10,2,6,17,154,48,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313415190186476,0.0,0.07776524017381531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186407766902188,0.0,0.056971640283830526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09543192307763053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09886705856501794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461927744942584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764459416903047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953306226893172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08277679054977062,0.0,0.4169252370701275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399477747026435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531354225231887,0.0,0.3186888688890043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08264534192518094,0.0,0.16744152359497652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154330110891976,0.0,0.13202548258579966,0.045659267532762816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476900037234305,0.0,0.0,0.2036081462893521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379385889058528,0.19866390880660975,0.06870299955339547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967627580556115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333012746547641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20754995931976045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536079756780738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987212487043585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08508141618501727,0.0,0.0,0.09593415432334318,0.15462023339248995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661506466739218,0.0,0.37318174436908974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060559819974479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511867394863607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417979853839645,0.059884649785257225,0.0,0.07419587803909111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930392494467068,0.10383620798339356,0.06345241630588969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124194750135168,0.08071842905559265,0.0,0.07711332927665901,0.1102488883539944,0.07418327557414571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433206483973138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132780954316106,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,hahakbye,2019/01/06,Why is he so nasty? We have been divorced for almost a year. We have 2 kids so we have to communicate. Why is he so mean to me? He was the one who cheated. He puts me down every chance he gets. He constantly lies and tries to gaslight me. It like he rewrote everything in his head and makes me out to be a terrible person. I admit it stings. I just want him to be a good dad to our kids. I want him to actually visit with them and not just text them. He only spent 3 weeks with them in 2018. ,-0.7347750362844714,1.316456698113214,1.6164150943396258,97.99658200290277,90.50943396226415,5.1483309143686515,16.644412191582006,6.67199483983844,-0.3666769230769229,374,9,93,5,13,126,66,106,0.124,0.772,0.104,-0.7489,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,4,0,3,0,5,4,1,0,4,0,9,1,1,1,0,18,16,6,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,9,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,3,0,17,2,14,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,26,4,0,1,4,57,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.2331469467097391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392392415969481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581826493011215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012965118024928,0.0,0.21472173799578506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482342506764167,0.0,0.0,0.2003908852980444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24519610674545966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672198647969703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15947787121306806,0.0,0.0,0.26024888902662474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16189524451916976,0.1817059122638376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086116942301835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401759455519782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16220786005482402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28183696215938603,0.0,0.19164350650787448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311679386869233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15385367143143608 divorce,Allfallingapart000,2019/01/06,"What just happened!? I don't understand. We were once so happy. He was my best friend. He still is my best friend. We've been together for 11 years. No abuse, no infidelity. We just moved to a new city because I changed jobs. My last job was terrible and I was absolutely miserable. I knew things weren't great between us, but I thought a new adventure would help get us back on the right track. I thought me being miserable was the problem. Now I'm happy, I like my new job. I thought he was having a difficult time adjusting. He doesn't do well with change. But the decision to move was a joint decision. We talked about it a lot and he was 100% on board. He told me today that he wants a divorce. He said he just isn't in love with me anymore. I asked, then begged, to try and work things out. He said he feels like I'm a friend/roommate but no more. I said we can fix this! We can rekindle the romance. He said he is over it. He doesn't even want to try to make this work. He said he's been feeling this way off and on for a few years now. But he never told me. I would have done anything to make this work. In the last few months we were talking about having kids, starting a family. I took this job instead of a different opportunity because of the great benefits (e.g. paid leave, child care, etc.). He said that's part of why this is happening. He doesn't want that anymore. I asked him what he wants, he said he's not sure. But he definitely doesn't want this. I'm 32. We've been together since we were 20. He moved across the country with me over 8 years ago. I thought that was the hardest part. The first year in a new place far from everyone we knew was rough. I wasn't sure we'd make it, but we did. At least for a while. I'm never going to have a family of my own now. I'm never going to recover from this. He was my person, my soulmate, my other half. I'm never going to find someone who fits with me so well.",0.3684229390681004,2.51808330024814,2.162220016542598,95.51136421284815,85.72456575682382,5.765845051006344,20.12180865729253,7.123485893559443,0.3194656630824366,1482,45,346,22,45,487,172,403,0.118,0.742,0.14,0.9532,5,0,0,0,2,0,64.0,12,0,0,7,16,25,0,2,22,0,40,1,0,3,6,59,85,14,0,8,10,0,3,2,2,2,0,7,0,3,21,18,0,0,13,0,1,7,16,5,2,2,37,10,42,20,37,44,11,51,0,2,0,1,60,16,0,1,29,208,63,7,0.0,0.07773654534167211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05815887535891789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301340158345326,0.0,0.0,0.05399103958936615,0.0,0.12267207759576465,0.0,0.0,0.050449666301814036,0.0,0.07998990133077864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770627395889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668932719947516,0.0,0.13881233224251435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854797767935637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714131178493707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317195101238863,0.04333446510677445,0.0,0.0,0.06269270209868684,0.0,0.0,0.12370162108379693,0.0,0.06634828307571572,0.046871449789684036,0.0,0.0,0.059965907024226536,0.055807418947318665,0.0,0.0,0.15206924290129226,0.0,0.03427826304345046,0.0,0.11186219604459903,0.0,0.0,0.14466944123941713,0.0,0.0,0.1160365528025693,0.139685094952366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043976674131176285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604292750495822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696102111352172,0.0,0.0694710018802229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410698878575029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05577886244000487,0.05921514779818434,0.0,0.131384579843616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05236888798797898,0.20919759003240876,0.0,0.0,0.20240840705626773,0.25346430918379875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698719909662552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14209741975528062,0.0,0.0,0.05728769679959553,0.06854797767935637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06277944397709831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05603016632668385,0.4368677045599628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427286783033649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559072815739495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04643875157931853,0.0,0.05239584249604882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236723806564916,0.0,0.0,0.10546888394497754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871760913225934,0.0,0.0,0.2083465013094176,0.038257435132113986,0.0,0.06219014759192271,0.12538540419737368,0.07289458395242303,0.08908910633819557,0.0,0.0,0.06830181774100119,0.157840333702685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19349095570465247,0.05207777820690565,0.0,0.0,0.11798166463837248,0.0,0.05920238132467358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432935224217365,0.0,0.0,0.09321423239209768,0.0,0.0,0.16900150325692406 divorce,throwaway27384723094,2019/01/06,If you cheated on your spouse and are now getting divorced due to your infidelity how do you feel about your marriage ending ? 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I try hobbies I've tried dating but I never ever stop thinking about her. People say in time wounds will heal, however I really am wondering now if I'll ever feel anything again. 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And on the 20th, is what should be our first wedding anniversary. And I don’t know how I’ll manage. I miss her so fucking much. She was the love of my life, and when we should be eating that cake, getting drunk on wine and just enjoying each other’s company, she’ll be a couple states away, living with her boyfriend, and I’ll be here, alone, unsure how to cope. I don’t know if I’ll be able to get through it. 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I am a 49m and out the other side of a divorce. I have no contact with my ex or my ex-stepkids. I have a girlfriend of 3 years who seems to adore me. I have an OK job and I came out or my divorce with enough to get a mortgage on a house. Sounds pretty good, huh. When my girlfriend is loving and affectionate to me it makes me sad because some bit of me knows someone is going to get hurt. Probably her at first and then me but I can't shake the feeling I deserve it. That nasty little voice in the back of my head that whispers ""you fucked it up. You could have done more, endured more, been stronger."" When I look at my life I twist everything into a sign of failure. I have my own house = look how messy it is and falling apart. Geez I am a lazy-piece of shit for not doing more. I just got a raise at work = look how long it took me to get it. My work must be really easy if even I can get a raise. I have a few degrees = lucky I did easy subjects a day I didn't get too many A's because I was lazy. My girlfriend really likes me = she must have a soft spot for losers. I can play this game with anything. While my marriage was dying I was so miserable I wanted to undo my seat belt and drive into a bridge pylon at high speed. Now I see myself slowly destroying my life and myself because I don't like myself or care about myself enough to think I deserve anything else. When people like me I automatically assume there is something wrong with them, or that they are easily suckered in or broken as well. I even have the most loving adorable dog but sometimes looking at her makes me sad because I think she deserves someone better than me. I know this is all messed up. I know rationally that divorce is usually not that one-sided I know that rationally I am not that bad a guy. I didn't cheat. I wasn't abusive. I didn't drink or do drugs. Feelings trump logic though. I don't like feeling like this and feeling like I am subconsciously trying to turn my life into a car wreck. I am stuck and I don't know how to change my head so drastically. 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Have been separated from my wife for 7 months and we have gone to therapy sessions together regularly. There isn't any unforgivable issues, we just grew apart slowly and she wasn't happy. I don't want to get divorced andI have wanted to reconcile with her since the day she asked me to move out but she hasn't been interested in working on the relationship. This has been a tough time for me and I'm almost certain we will end in divorce but I'm torn between being stubborn and waiting for her to ask for a divorce or asking for a divorce myself. I know it's petty and I need to move on but this has all been her decision and if this is what she wants then she I want her to take responsibility and ask for a divorce instead of continuously dragging this on for another 6 months. Has anyone else felt stubborn in this kind of situation?",3.942502064409581,5.766092156069369,5.531019818331959,77.41735549132952,72.52601156069363,7.948637489677952,29.698183319570603,8.634040054169528,2.4181663088356733,705,30,131,13,14,239,98,173,0.12,0.846,0.034,-0.9382,0,0,0,0,6,0,8.0,3,0,0,1,3,8,3,0,7,0,17,0,0,0,2,35,36,13,0,6,6,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,12,0,4,5,0,0,4,4,4,0,0,7,2,20,4,28,27,1,20,0,0,0,0,25,9,0,3,7,96,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1389469910410537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436080778203387,0.1455008014629043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09702344665221672,0.14217488710652348,0.0,0.0,0.6486041851943091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948800892642754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11591525277074688,0.0,0.12289919636804705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701606672468254,0.0,0.13323030082318515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07249579629501927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14771142540508675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482823712508952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1444960377829428,0.07625826059045661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22151205450292533,0.2949574944559744,0.0,0.1028879634563552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897512564215706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478279297837272,0.1559708132982116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043294213181878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586828909654492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08091142834723015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32737436881005033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10101812917333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,darkf4d3r,2019/01/07,"She wants the kid!? So there I was sitting in my chair. My STBX in another chair, my daughter on my lap. We’re chatting about her school day as it was the first day back after the break. Some dude knocks on my door. It’s the “you’ve been served” guy. He doesn’t say that, but carries on with his day (a job is a job). A little back story, Previously (as in 2 months ago) my wife and I knew we were getting a divorce, amicably we pushed forward. She gets this, and I get that. We were going to a lawyer for mediation. So I’m looking at the paperwork, my wife can’t stop smiling...I read the entire thing, and discovered that she wants everything...money...house...and the kid. I’m confused as fuck. I’m a good dad, and there is no reason to think otherwise...she even says that...not that her word means anything to me. She says it’s for the safety of the child so that one person doesn’t leave with the child....she has threatened to take the child before. I have a lot of emotion running through me right now. I don’t know what to do...",1.0662173038229383,3.0348284319248826,2.547873910127432,94.86112676056341,81.58215962441315,5.559490274983233,20.94097920858484,6.655083550727371,0.16943031522468122,788,23,181,8,21,256,124,213,0.094,0.8690000000000001,0.037000000000000005,-0.8845,2,0,0,0,1,0,53.0,3,0,0,1,11,3,1,1,18,0,14,1,0,1,0,22,30,11,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,11,9,0,1,5,2,0,4,5,2,0,2,6,4,24,1,24,24,2,26,0,0,1,1,26,10,1,3,12,110,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845738731734128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16378401024920494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12853512441492754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24020853030851494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291038701915722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3021984378881316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569828077247995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10316528272685148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132859333552866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443997022918736,0.2448162234989803,0.0,0.08876918216599422,0.13100890247082916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546575444848884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30999874724009197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584065248134187,0.0,0.0,0.16538788543095265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15654836067719347,0.0,0.0,0.1311644083136359,0.0,0.0,0.13279134978651605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17014207642189325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467330846379998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584173161447644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13638339419993198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15623720548929798,0.0,0.0,0.1605944093848983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338962269598226,0.0,0.3726374491361247,0.0,0.15807761501385248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13058596121233798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743915386492343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376897564279863,0.10008340870391187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842556413346715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,erma36,2019/01/07,"Filed today and it felt amazing! Tonight, not so much... I (39F) filed for divorce today from my husband (44M) of 4 years. No kids. After a steadily declining dead bedroom (not my choice) and other issues, I found out that he was sending out “accidental” dick pics to multiple girls on Facebook, Snapchat, text you name it. Believe it or not I was in complete shock when approached by a girl at a bar who had been a victim. My husband, although flawed, was always the nice guy. I had no idea he was capable of this sort of thing or how bad it would hurt. Apparently he’s been doing it for 15 years in some way or another, he gets off on exposing himself/sending pictures “accidentally.” So yeah, he’s a predator. Not really a lot of remorse for his victims either, I was absolutely shocked, sad, embarrassed, disgusted, angry...you name it. He moved out on 9/29. I decided shortly thereafter that I couldn’t move past this betrayal but told him I’d wait until after the holidays to file. So, today I finally did it. And I literally skipped out of the courthouse feeling like I’d finally been set free. But tonight the sadness crept in...I feel like nighttime is always the worst. I keep telling myself that time heals all and that I have to feel this in order to move on and grow.....but man it hurts. 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We have 50/50 custody of two boys (15 and 12). I’m the parent that moved out of our home. My kids, particularly the 15 yo, seem to struggle with the transition to their time at my house. I, myself, am really struggling to feel at home in the house that I’m renting so I don’t blame them and understand it is hard on all of us. But, it’s been six months and every other week I get them, it breaks my heart. Especially since I was a stay at home mom for 15 years and making our house our home was what I did. Does anyone have any tips on what I can do to help ease the anxiety for my kids? Did/does anyone else struggle with this? Thanks for any advice you might have. 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I (26f) have the feels for a longtime friend (25m) and it’s mutual. We don’t want to be each other’s rebound (he also had a divorce last year), but we are also *basically* dating and have some bomb sexual chemistry. 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I need help. I'll try to keep this short and sweet. I found out about two months ago that my wife was talking to other men, and apparently had every intention of leaving me after the holidays. She said she didnt cheat but from what I've discovered I find that highly unlikely. I also discovered that she has put me in a really bad financial spot that I dont see a way out of. After confronting her about what I knew she claims it to be my fault and getting her to work with me to pay the Bills is like talking to a brick wall. We currently still live together and even sleep in the same bed because her mom lives with us and we dont have enough rooms. All of our bills are under my name, so it seems she doesnt care and is willing to watch me drown. I could file for fraud due to her taking a 10k loan out under my name without me knowing but I'm trying to preserve a good relationship for the sake of our two kids. It also seems that going to court would be fruitless and just cost more money in the long run. Am I just supposed to live in misery while she walks around not caring? I dont know what to do.",4.712398589065258,4.296001888888888,5.455828924162258,86.86194444444445,69.20576131687243,8.753556731334509,26.82216343327455,8.192908349453996,1.3720114050558498,901,23,205,11,14,294,141,243,0.145,0.7979999999999999,0.057,-0.9779,5,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,0,1,10,9,2,0,10,0,21,1,1,1,1,40,39,14,1,3,6,2,1,1,0,2,0,1,2,2,14,16,0,1,9,1,6,4,8,4,0,2,6,5,35,5,37,28,4,28,0,0,2,0,26,14,0,2,10,142,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135144486014913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286797664650145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017827579242532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09546529391063066,0.06969780643163749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331451468499363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09128752357889904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5360010091934257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11813904522458772,0.0,0.07551746184410787,0.0,0.09633251654607797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05781142011614618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450049595607942,0.0,0.0,0.1253628787003693,0.0,0.0,0.05973553417788439,0.0,0.06497944996576194,0.09589911966580844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663661712563058,0.12080164109322512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162656830857454,0.0,0.0,0.1885072582681681,0.0,0.0,0.12106469344516113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05585850739867247,0.0,0.3028807927236084,0.10118324241935632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13390825363145434,0.09126143568880273,0.0,0.0,0.08477825986666601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493866953619683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324619317753467,0.0,0.0,0.12275344453403975,0.0,0.0,0.10875916013712374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091110520961086,0.20817333138557886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11441798448693186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913084083704702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596600122233129,0.18379694775118754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15525248026122754,0.0,0.2233781694781551,0.0,0.1375314238734006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09075412882045937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102152578889676,0.0,0.08323754226055692,0.0,0.0,0.08122059682349224,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,STG210,2019/01/07,"I did my best, but I’m done and I have questions Sorry for what may be a long post. It’s sort of my second intro here. A couple of years ago, my wife filed for divorce. She had guidance from her lawyer/cousin who has always despised me (I was military when we married and lawyer/cousin hates the military). My wife’s camp was aggressive and dirty throughout the process. Fake claims were made (and later dismissed with prejudice in court). I was left homeless. My accounts were cleaned out. I lived in the hood for a couple of months while I got my finances back in order. I then pushed my lawyer to close things out, got a nice new place and even started dating. The decree was finished by my attorney. We had two signatures remaining when I handed it to my wife. About two weeks later, she texted me and asked if we could work it out. I initially told her to go to Hell, but I relented and agreed to counseling and dating. I eventually moved home. Things were really great for about a year. She’s now slipped back into the bad old habits that frustrated me before. She’s a slob. She is terrible with her money (our money is now totally split). She refuses to hold the kids accountable. I reached a breaking point last night and now I’m finished. I’m 46. She’s 44. We’ve been married for 22 years. Two kids, 18 and 21. One kid is college. The other has been kicked out of her online HS for lack of effort (wife refused to hold her accountable or let me do so). We own a house with about $100k in equity in a real estate market where houses sell in 2-3 days. There is no infidelity. I want out. I want my sanity back. I also want to have a clean break with no child support. Alimony isn’t paid here and - after all - she’s a PhD holding professional with high earning potential. Can I achieve my goals if I exit? 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My wife just told me, she plans on divorce when i get home from deployment. I am so mad right now the pain has not hit me yet. I dont even know where to start with a divorce, we married in illinois. Do we go by their laws or the state or residence we live now? I have no idea where to start with the process.....im just still in shock",0.010281293952179029,2.115042405063292,1.1270042194092829,102.61669479606188,86.9746835443038,5.030098452883263,18.904360056258792,6.42735559955562,-0.33938087201125144,286,8,72,3,9,89,57,79,0.152,0.848,0.0,-0.9045,0,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,3,0,1,1,12,3,1,0,5,0,5,1,0,0,0,14,13,5,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,0,12,0,10,10,0,17,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,2,8,49,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251669745490748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18325177880112792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14495512201310806,0.0,0.1576800848567428,0.0,0.22190050063483227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783029527811499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132050063437718,0.2996914363748587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247815781501356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449916556865297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2952242198052942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369390650280057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927582265638003,0.0,0.2215703208872344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651134414403461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,WW_III_ANGRY,2019/01/07,"How to proceed - help My wife cheated on me, she had asked for divorce three times, the last time it was serious as it wasn't out of anger. She cheated on me a few days prior. I have been calm and loving throughout the ordeal for the past 3 weeks, after freaking out previously just a little. I want her to come back, but know it will take some time if any. We are still living together and it looks like we will be stuck together for some time. We have had sex more often due to our stance that we will be friends with benefits, however she hasn't been honest about the affair. I have done more digging, she's become aware of it, and know more details than she is willing to admit, but through it all my stance hasn't changed, I love her, want her back, I know nothing will change her mind and may never, but maybe down the road there's a possibility. She says I can do whatever I want, but wants me to know when I have sex with someone else because she doesn't want to have an STD. I told her I only want her. But this affair of hers I told her to stop, because its wrong. She said she has, and I'm not 100% certain but its possible, because hte guy is married as well with 4 kids. We have 2. Because I got her password and found out more details about what she did today, which she probably knows - she's upset. She wants her privacy. I'm ok though, I found closure, and found that she got a hotel with the guy when she claimed she had a meeting after work. With that being said, should I tell her the details I know? I told her I know more than she is willing to admit. She said ok. Should I discuss it further and let her know what I know? More importantly, should I tell her its ok to date if she wants? Is that is what is needed to speed up the process of possibly getting back together down the road?",3.845447154471543,4.534884623306238,4.492687262872631,89.1414048780488,71.33062330623306,7.4216151761517635,26.95512195121951,7.404127859558343,1.1792947642276426,1402,45,308,14,25,448,170,369,0.081,0.8029999999999999,0.116,0.7946,1,0,0,0,1,0,45.0,6,0,0,1,14,19,3,1,15,3,42,5,0,1,3,68,83,22,0,14,10,1,0,1,1,10,1,4,0,3,19,22,0,1,14,1,0,1,6,7,1,1,21,5,64,12,39,48,10,37,0,0,1,5,64,12,0,6,25,220,83,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636054480247092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748065345764056,0.0,0.0,0.1911864470738898,0.0,0.2020890147648368,0.09153331602949924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534993163758816,0.07139289805418618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053450082242112035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08481396603133289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923474852150746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726175536401973,0.06403209022364402,0.0,0.043300843550580406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257177433047815,0.0,0.0,0.1641264302327164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05555202969342874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40993305295196186,0.06755742604834042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474936680094841,0.0,0.04049048063479654,0.08306650568618737,0.07318365302828549,0.0,0.069597465102024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14960302086389354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326306972626807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836841382556299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061453709546570714,0.06392137457603958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952461143403791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303319489020791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07911735925394145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28030077336599024,0.0,0.0,0.08935755235532858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365106519563179,0.06590868715936184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022308626767285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661872562138401,0.06929053388140137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062314674520401264,0.0,0.1448797537638373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142817179311977,0.0,0.1933095864516004,0.0,0.07855957718312333,0.2375832359326973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910733325454324,0.0,0.06648051428075506,0.0,0.07451815157418441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060336880628307624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061514821929156,0.0,0.0 divorce,divorcetaway456,2019/01/07,"My therapist just said something really insightful to me, that I thought some of you might appreciate I’m in couples and individual therapy. I see a separate therapist for individual. I was detailing how taxing marriage counseling is. I’m going to paraphrase because she said it better than I could. “Intensive marriage counseling probably feels like you’re swimming miles without an oxygen tank. And if you were already tired when you started, you’re going to drown. Maybe you need to love yourself enough to take a break, breath on your oxygen tank for a bit, and see if you really want to continue swimming those miles.”",8.050324675324678,9.310230500000003,8.23857142857143,63.985000000000035,62.18181818181819,12.103896103896105,40.259740259740255,11.765960540728905,5.491246753246753,505,27,76,16,7,165,74,110,0.059,0.818,0.124,0.7425,0,0,1,0,0,0,11.0,0,6,0,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,5,3,1,1,0,16,20,7,1,5,4,0,1,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,2,1,4,1,0,0,0,5,5,13,3,13,13,3,12,0,0,2,1,12,4,0,4,4,48,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925676667169144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10637500416866523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15433313514195116,0.19051135487223855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13932591566962985,0.19308351536107093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18030756018948632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823362413684249,0.12466450348903033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983473975688248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08525302676802762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574951709924473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17531105091554444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851194017988912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939127080813212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18814303222490106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223581329270137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3319833637609434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781115373136164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434042343218805,0.0,0.0,0.12351365136480863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312040393603837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955862889868,0.4052213230207357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853536244323536,0.0,0.200564764552913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292599879360834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682140244813726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lostinthewoods1221,2019/01/07,"First day in new place Currently going through the separation (6 months living together while separated- at her request) and last night was my first night in the new place. While some of the stress has certainly been eliminated (no longer need to walk on egg shells, wondering if she’d come home or come home late) it was quite strange to start my old routine alone in a new place. I’m sure things will come in waves, and triggers will make it difficult. But all in all, my own head is what matters and I think there will be improvement there for sure. 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Hey fellow divorce buddies. &#x200B; TL;DR: Wife of 7 years left me, for what seems like another man who she feels more compatible with. It does get better, but only if you work on yourself and do your best to not dwell on the past. This post has been the most time I've spent thinking of her in months, and I can already feel it dragging me down. Move on, the past is the past. Weather you did something wrong, or were mostly the innocent victim of someone else's whims, you have to move on to heal. Find things you enjoy, throw yourself into those, and allow yourself the time you need to grieve and heal. You will be okay. &#x200B; I've gotten fairly silent on this sub, as time has gone on, I've felt the need shrink to post on here. But I kinda had an urge today to update everyone. Not that any of yall were keeping tabs on me, more so that those of you going through it now, can maybe see what 8 months might look like for you. I'll give you a quick recap of how it all started. In May of 2018, my STBXW (26F) of 7 years ) told me that she wasn't happy, didn't really know what made her happy, and that the last time she remembered being ""free, and in control"" was when I was deployed to Afghanistan. Please, bear in mind I would never even dream of abusing her in any way, she really was my treasure, I loved her with all my heart and did a lot to help her achieve her goals and dreams. When we started dating in high school, she had initially described being in a committed relationship as ""chained down,"" that's where the free and in control comment came from. So, we agreed to a trial separation. After a week of separation, she had decided she wanted a divorce. She said that she ""needed to be alone, needed time to herself, without someone else in the picture."" As soon as I told my family we were getting a divorce, she changed social media to single. (Seemingly inconsequential, but kinda ties into her behavior down the road.) 5 days later she's going on dates with guys. At the one month mark, she moves out, and starts exclusively seeing a guy. During this time, she was supposed to be filing for divorce. By August, I take matters into my own hands and file. 3 days later, she updates Facebook (I had unfollowed her, but remained friends, I found out from my mother that she had made this update) that she is now in a relationship with the guy, and backdated it to the day she moved out. Some of my friends and family approached her (not at my request) and expressed their feelings that she could have been a bit more tactful about her relationship. I was hurt, but honestly, she was done, I didn't hold it against her to move on, it was more the manner she went about everything that really hurt. In some ways it felt a lot like she was erasing the past, and me, despite saying that she felt that chapter of her life was really important to her. (As time goes on, I wonder if she was just placating me, eh, oh well.) &#x200B; Around October, when I called her to arrange plans to sell the house we bought in April of 2017, we stumbled into a long talk, about 2 hours. She initiated, and I was in a place at the time that I felt I could keep the conversation healthy. During that conversation, she waxed poetic about her new soulmate, and how he truly made her feel loved. It took a LOT of work to not get wrapped around the axle, because I well and truly did love her, and I pulled more than my fair share of the weight in the relationship. (There was a post on r/relationship_advice where someone was talking about how their boyfriend essentially needed to be ""mothered,"" I essentially needed to ""father"" her in a lot of ways.) &#x200B; Anyways, here we are, reigning in the new year. I've moved into my own apartment, bought myself a car I really like, and is well within my means, and have picked up a couple hobbies (like drone racing, which is suuuuuuuper fun), reconnected with some old friends, and have been going to therapy. She is going to move out of state with her new boyfriend, and the divorce will be final by mid Feb. &#x200B; All in all, I get better every day. I worry less about weather I will find someone, or why she left in the first place. Trying to unwrap ""I want to be alone"" promptly followed by her going exclusive with a guy she met through a friend at the stables, is impossible for me. I've been going to the gym, re-working my wardrobe, and most importantly, trying to figure out what I can do to just be a better individual. Honestly, with the exception of occasionally bumping into her in public, or otherwise having to see her, I really am feeling okay. Sure, it still hurts. I did a lot of things, and sacrificed a bunch of my own dreams to give her everything she wanted. In the end, I still couldn't be who she felt she needed me to be. It wasn't a maturity thing, or a responsibility thing. I'm a techie, I love hobby electronics, drones, guitar, and video games. She's a horse girl. I did what I could to be involved in her hobby, she was teaching me how to ride, and I could tack up a horse no problem, but I really think she wanted someone who was truly passionate about horses, and I can't ever be that. I was fine with her not really being into my hobbies, but she wanted more overlap. It was a fundamental incompatibility for her, and I can respect that. &#x200B; I always tell anyone who would listen, I'm not mad at her for wanting a divorce, if anything I'm thankful, because I'm starting to see just how little my own needs were being met by her, and I certainly would never have pulled the trigger. Though I am hurt by the way she went about the divorce. It resulted in me having to do nearly all the ""unfun"" work, while she spent her time at the stables with her new man. As our time apart grows, and as I begin to forget her touch, her smell, her mannerisms and her quirks, the wound heals, and I begin to find myself. This divorce will not define me, it will not constrain me, and I will grow from it.",6.735828419611512,6.166969058923996,6.996024561831565,78.01056267198028,65.07173356105892,9.621086305287845,31.73845444810432,8.887007027152599,2.4213877733045965,4692,154,922,64,63,1522,440,1171,0.049,0.802,0.149,0.9991,2,2,1,0,8,0,214.0,7,11,2,13,43,48,2,1,66,2,97,13,2,14,11,186,185,67,1,26,27,4,13,5,5,11,5,3,0,7,52,65,1,6,24,7,7,27,18,10,3,2,64,22,163,40,166,90,31,179,0,5,5,5,154,77,0,25,72,669,215,7,0.0,0.04333258098163111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575642086939817,0.04035880182804149,0.0,0.030431354303193874,0.2377585475966517,0.2666384593448779,0.04974127912591419,0.03834958680794874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02557243020234631,0.0,0.030096154710833156,0.0651147813303593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458866626879216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03838071425592069,0.09703654600308734,0.03992783497025675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037344739841597994,0.04182934067181355,0.0,0.0,0.03868898856843933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08203861897413246,0.11680106252286235,0.040466914646552096,0.0,0.09434527183603107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03200495115483345,0.037426493772602584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061103471648304486,0.0,0.03239249098531722,0.0,0.0,0.02415587430958737,0.03308203371236332,0.03081401446485275,0.03494671108303445,0.06573823541475304,0.0,0.06895483314331417,0.0,0.09246109203638024,0.0,0.17557727983273327,0.040063523731167366,0.10028015179385506,0.031108656684980536,0.0,0.04009999630582716,0.11302367938396372,0.0,0.07643074966665453,0.07016759009242843,0.12471039580111645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448505972885399,0.0,0.07786448011480455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043338737471959016,0.024513860047630055,0.03864098696356688,0.0,0.0,0.036016669259507784,0.042199899652126484,0.15660700863623192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501486015629801,0.0,0.0,0.02009935859413456,0.029811571178704106,0.0,0.0,0.07947252953259491,0.0,0.025832327069514056,0.08933768766149057,0.03665537886328096,0.0,0.032365622816667584,0.0307117944852094,0.0,0.0,0.15546369234195134,0.13203289011756764,0.10381770800474953,0.0,0.0,0.0367421181488755,0.03983831095293209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038797776278351695,0.03692792621126675,0.0,0.11676768344582344,0.27209639215715364,0.0,0.21694510800717576,0.056414127046541675,0.1412882789605054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03837681842978975,0.0,0.024782557639644064,0.027815129823714202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965083780322146,0.0,0.0,0.07642121941133999,0.04014576039772497,0.0,0.0,0.10507939726262444,0.0,0.0,0.034995063495072344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874348838370375,0.0,0.0,0.1570612520507812,0.041429655441145095,0.0,0.03478894202922191,0.02908401982544928,0.0,0.037013449665466734,0.11657459024034915,0.06658868961908143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03728118613910999,0.15493933510425936,0.02815539399335011,0.0,0.0,0.1035451706608286,0.0,0.058413892155398085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03446926684504796,0.0,0.027498062960738808,0.058791382283591535,0.031966086811783284,0.033671160000719735,0.04182398475356335,0.0,0.09718890954814052,0.04686852354251365,0.0359324190004715,0.0,0.21325792119078613,0.0,0.03466657278043398,0.06989342216606889,0.04063353276579675,0.049660824236699576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942889299389138,0.1161185916649906,0.02933635426043988,0.044535605304991135,0.09864954793436058,0.06780638074470838,0.033001106130729964,0.0,0.0,0.03525470601833243,0.03966145242120191,0.10650122817081202,0.03714127661339997,0.0,0.0779404318011131,0.039986424868751966,0.2666384593448779,0.0706547154917008 divorce,1DrafterChick,2019/01/07,"I looked over the rules so here goes... 38F, married just shy of 16yrs not sure this last yr should count. My journey begin in the dead bedroom sub if you'd like some back story. Anywho, the signed divorce agreement will be going to the judge on Jan 28th. My problem is my soon to be ex is super clingy and wants to continue hanging out. I don't think that's going to help him let go. More like hold on. I've tried to do what's healthy for me during this whole process and I'm moving across the country in a few months. He doesn't know that. I just think it's going to hurt more if we spend time together. Sorry if this makes no sense. 🙈",1.1930252583237646,3.1368923208955226,2.1673134328358223,97.88314006888636,81.01492537313433,4.720091848450059,19.262916188289324,5.369823440869387,-0.4831956371986226,497,12,114,2,13,156,99,134,0.125,0.753,0.122,0.1625,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,1,0,1,6,7,0,0,6,0,11,0,0,1,1,21,23,6,1,6,6,1,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,3,0,1,7,4,2,0,0,0,1,10,5,15,17,5,21,0,1,1,0,7,7,0,4,9,66,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17052457148229658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5041395234465076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486452549868657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23740537685856536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187694135042693,0.18076910738690374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267710344270744,0.0,0.2166875936564397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18622781208214967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803070611132135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17701171955687242,0.2357024470158087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21220036854250893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482491810527772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090120833453896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2841977403517237,0.0,0.0,0.1293136944234043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056473903292492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308034907895892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24759411878976226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bishopsadvice,2019/01/07,"Cataloging Happiness, sex, alcohol, sickness everyday with a number. Not going to look at the results until June. Good or Bad idea? I've really struggled with whether or not I should stay or go. (See multiple post history). It's been a roller coaster of a few years. I feel like I get lost in the weeds and it hard for me to access everything form a big picture point of view. So I decided that for six months i'm going to try to track several metrics of our marriage to help me better understand where we are. Here is what i'm going to track. * General Happiness. 1-10. 5 is baseline. Happy is 10. Not happy 1. * Happiness from SO. 1-10. 5 is baseline. Happy is 10. Not happy 1. Same thing buy trying to differentiate and see if she has made me happier or sadder on a day by day basis. * Did she drink. She seems to be doing this a lot lately. I'm interested to see how often. I rarely drink. Very much into fitness, so drinking once a week would be a lot for me. Will track mine as well though for comparison. * Was she mean from drinking. I feel that she gets mean when she drinks. Would be interesting to see how this pans out. * Sex: How many times we've had sex in a day. Kinda have been dealing with a dead bedroom as of late. Would be interesting to see exactly how often we have sex. * Sex Strikeout: How many times I've tried to have sex with her and she refused. I feel like i try to initiate sex a lot and she is constantly shooting me down. Would like to see how often that is truly happening. * How often she is sick. I know this sounds crazy, but she says she is sick a lot but whenever I talk to her she says she is not sick? I want to compare this to how often I am sick (which I will also track) so that it is something we can talk about. Am I crazy for wanting to do this? When I suggested to her she thought it took the romance out of marriage. But I'm a numbers guy, so seeing it in black and white goes a long way for me. &#x200B; &#x200B;",-0.06629699248120248,2.269190055137848,2.2123088972431084,91.89184680451127,93.31077694235589,5.4565162907268165,20.157581453634087,7.021680442328713,0.6285807017543856,1508,52,322,26,56,508,187,399,0.097,0.799,0.104,-0.4562,1,0,7,1,0,0,70.0,4,0,0,2,26,20,0,1,17,0,37,18,0,10,1,71,70,34,1,8,14,0,4,3,0,7,6,3,1,1,17,15,6,1,11,6,1,5,5,3,1,1,9,18,43,17,50,50,8,38,0,1,11,7,32,13,0,16,20,217,60,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07130628447325832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053358126448516736,0.0,0.14458805510389114,0.16215078970778835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055710675180434335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059010814132274964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210354497866837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909188282418016,0.0687881834105751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32681426712266315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059966068732294486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121101970812453,0.09533343358206474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971972336730567,0.0,0.15168021307658625,0.05596384284735882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06606597224671737,0.05900267139875288,0.4971929526000956,0.059770441775925276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044722825528722136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07532181718134923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036669056031900016,0.0,0.15053224444973318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779203627648804,0.0,0.0,0.0590474980091188,0.056030271192185385,0.0,0.0728357189555372,0.22690104537272845,0.0,0.06313464074156297,0.0,0.1352927091900593,0.0,0.14536118152303892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05325742991917635,0.0,0.04904886848223641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105750771436742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307452688843293,0.0,0.06390191156225745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04274427605216412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612115283355504,0.0,0.0,0.3721855243513363,0.06074184853454605,0.0,0.07537766954253425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136640132604346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711175302782862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06975306271901094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725837250244344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044327603206950485,0.0,0.06555472302855006,0.052970378113331926,0.07781309661964535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413138497851668,0.18120135903812254,0.0,0.0,0.06946069338972245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505322286516247,0.07870956523499534,0.052961380883957986,0.05352093267601399,0.0,0.05999172865450391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895915930172702,0.0,0.16215078970778835,0.0429672371409105 divorce,801510,2019/01/07,"I still make breakfast for her and the kids every day. Married for almost 20 with 3 kids. After years of marriage counseling I moved into the basement about 2 months ago. I'm in a psychological abusive relationship. That's our therapists opinion not just mine. She still bounces between shock, denial, and anger. She's having a hard time coming to terms with it. Every now and then she says she wants to change and make things better but I have yet to see any evidence of that. I really don't think she's capable of change which is why I moved in to a different room. Today I'm ready to be done with it all. Some days I feel like I can wait a little longer. I think she's slowly coming to the realization that it's over. I just hurts. I want it to end. I want to get on with my life. 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I have been married for 10 years, but we have been together for 20 years. No kids. I just bought a house 5 months ago. The divorce itself is friendly, so no legal battles foreseen. The reason for the divorce is simple: she doesn't want me anymore. We have been distant and I have been trying to talk to her about it for at least the last year. Now she decided to just leave me. To be completely honest, I rationally it seems to be the right thing to do. I wasn't feeling the same about her, but I was trying to re-kindle what we once had. But what is really hurtful is the fact that it seems that I was the only one trying. I never expected anything from her, other than respect and consideration. The fact that I have been trying and she didn't even want to try is hurting me more than it should. I know no one is perfect, but I thought I was a good person. I have friends that tell me I'm a good person. But I don't even trust that anymore, as why would the one person who has lived with me half of my life leave me then? If I'm worth it, why would someone leave me after 20 years together without even trying to mend things up? I have always tried to improve myself and be the best version of myself. I always put her as a priority in my life in all aspects (maybe too much sometimes). I never disrespected her and now I'm questioning if she ever did... We had a number of changes in our lives, including changing countries. We had moved 4 times in the last 6 years. We finally bought a house together, what was supposed to be a happy moment in life ... and after 3 months, she decided to leave me. Not 3 months ago I've heard from her that she loved me and that I was her life and her support. I can't figure out what happened ... I don't know if she is lying now saying that she realized we're just friends not a couple or if she was lying before when she would say I was her support and the one in her life. We're still living together until she goes back to her home country. I guess from the above, it is clear that emotionally I'm probably all over the place. Sometimes I feel good, since from my perspective I didn't love her anymore the way I did. But the fact that she didn't even wanted to try to fix things is hurting me so much that I'm not entirely sure what I really feel. I honestly have been from ""is life wort living at all"" to challenging god to bring me his worse ... I can't find the middle ground or balance I had before. I am usually seen as a strong and balanced man by friends and colleagues and that was how I actually felt as well. But now I just feel like a little kid hiding in the corner and being embarrassed for crying alone. I've never felt that bad and I can't understand why this hurts so much. I guess I just didn't know myself and was actually never strong after all. I'm a mess emotionally and I have no idea what's to come. I don't know if I can still find someone at my age or not. I'm using my time now to try to become comfortable being alone, but the truth is: I enjoy being with someone. But as much as I would like to be with someone now, I also think that I'll only be ready for someone when I'm ready to be alone ... So, in short everything sucks and I'm just hoping I'll feel better in a few months. I can see that my case is not as tough as some others that involve kids or legal disputes. But being alone in another country, I have no family around and very few friends (mostly colleagues that I'm calling friends) is not helping me emotionally in this part of life. Therefore, any advice on how to handle things emotionally would be greatly appreciated ... (sorry for the long post)",3.6459709801748255,4.588738622162887,4.888131596846108,85.18787263521173,71.99065420560748,7.682202685341463,26.01458548504925,7.966352962830772,1.3956266770788726,2864,89,599,38,53,950,279,749,0.127,0.6920000000000001,0.181,0.9953,0,4,0,0,2,0,86.0,7,0,0,6,34,44,2,1,33,0,79,10,0,5,16,124,126,56,0,16,32,0,7,2,6,6,8,3,1,7,39,30,0,0,26,0,3,4,28,11,1,5,33,12,96,33,79,75,18,75,0,4,2,2,59,26,1,17,45,432,135,3,0.0,0.0,0.09339106936364187,0.0,0.0,0.04675930447543827,0.08483379663777882,0.0,0.0,0.19823623063094856,0.0,0.038266313725960434,0.0796314939490089,0.0,0.0,0.032540224206481345,0.0501757966375432,0.0,0.0,0.14236557920223902,0.0,0.0,0.0393771788443312,0.0425974084478664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03679435602115403,0.03995346756405535,0.0,0.052847513032415465,0.08143511127787599,0.0,0.05021652313890312,0.042320195200046144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048861075900447366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123972559307373,0.04121927702394805,0.050170714043721205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0529460640612003,0.052561920433165536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691288725984994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12642016124238292,0.04328384042885797,0.0,0.0,0.043005265584737835,0.0,0.045109530153497335,0.0,0.12097415740450655,0.034184662401369886,0.09188865508438013,0.0524182758313782,0.08746963434727323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22181672440423286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040508786081508,0.0,0.05275573969607343,0.10542622932656066,0.0,0.04231435555730975,0.050938127952902375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032073421356814666,0.0,0.047998311933176864,0.04752669872918373,0.0,0.11042693073454184,0.2049013319673326,0.05401779407400968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10519032024150196,0.07800967141571714,0.0,0.20266859733304288,0.0,0.0,0.2365893320686441,0.04675502420007503,0.0479591304262728,0.16901273656143528,0.04234650340899994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637453484418019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04807261829189892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277639281371025,0.05085788913099376,0.14070354520828993,0.0,0.14762212590958584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050211425921541666,0.05095960191567827,0.129699918647075,0.07278546725787775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0518178160077856,0.0,0.0,0.12534457011465608,0.04999396190602093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04582789461112903,0.0,0.05159131797564365,0.0,0.0,0.048103328624003176,0.053603911963164684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130896964605241,0.04919865140780512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04086437114202185,0.0,0.07610584549304948,0.0,0.0,0.03813093842638426,0.08712324764852468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03958272408169792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027193828262085,0.0,0.09465144389244877,0.053565117743539364,0.0,0.0,0.07642751376369802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10860117283518217,0.045098867221793834,0.0,0.0,0.03846070697286001,0.04182375886338477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271599348731788,0.030660897570396244,0.0,0.03798823613162778,0.05580444002487258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923883231400617,0.0,0.0,0.04981443056173411,0.0,0.04132777755554493,0.05270095959159128,0.03948196906456575,0.08467102717959113,0.03798178367865008,0.0,0.0,0.04302366785443517,0.0,0.12953386942512846,0.0,0.0,0.04612651939513388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0487641121512861,0.1699593825038891,0.0,0.0,0.1848863015786259 divorce,PrettyNicole1111,2019/01/07,"I love you but I’m not in love you anymore! My husband of 9 years told me that he loves me but not in love with me anymore and does not feel any emotional connection with me. He told me that he has been unhappy in our marriage for sometime. He also had emotional affairs with other women and one of them is a co-worker. I also want put it out there that there some to blame on me too. We are now separated (me in home and him staying in an apartment) and going to counseling. He told all our friends that we have separated and does not want to be in the relationship. How can someone throw everything away that easy? I have not given up on my marriage but sometimes, i feel like i should. Has anyone been in the same situation? Any thoughts or advice? Should I give up? Nikki ",2.0665384615384603,4.195224884615389,3.669846153846154,87.27515384615386,79.0,6.724102564102565,25.143589743589743,7.793537801064563,1.3963158974358976,606,23,125,10,15,201,90,156,0.057,0.748,0.195,0.9809,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,2,1,0,7,6,0,0,4,0,13,4,0,1,1,31,29,12,0,4,9,1,2,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,7,11,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,0,0,1,8,2,23,6,22,18,3,20,0,0,0,4,28,14,0,2,3,94,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12821315090596855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20985105366307807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17844938984886555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2602425291941671,0.09174240483461896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12327251585906805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296388072878216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2951785630066404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179196454699954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13268356382138868,0.09373371414107944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136956155413024,0.0,0.0,0.1258649140029431,0.07456749011950795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316104865151007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410070723491279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.473674764611901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890869650726027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189844034545833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14086632415710762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474812325239363,0.0,0.0,0.11117056215202767,0.0,0.2595325143389359,0.0,0.0,0.13984831979824022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416304319398903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761193547640279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15477759712818498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09551965449625399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449247178601094 divorce,PrinzessinVonJudaa,2019/01/07,"I think my husband wants a divorce, but he won't bring it up. He's been very distant and irritable these last three months. I work freelance and I sometimes have to pull all nighters, and he resent that. I'm alos older than him, and put a bit of weight lately. I think he doesn't love me anymore and he hasnt said anything because he's still deciding wether to divorce of not. We have two children. At least, it won't take me by surprise.",1.625,3.779896833333337,2.6011111111111127,94.225,80.66666666666666,4.888888888888889,25.555555555555557,5.82211442006289,0.5558888888888887,345,14,74,2,9,109,65,90,0.126,0.813,0.062,-0.7716,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,2,0,7,2,0,0,1,13,15,6,0,1,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,4,6,1,0,3,0,0,3,5,1,0,2,2,2,9,2,8,11,3,10,0,0,0,1,14,2,0,0,5,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2452827844229387,0.0,0.0,0.20352976029276795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507687717028331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700179726807561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20160522147264268,0.2789966060681184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2232230556908744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741474326216632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24863281808054316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352654383949545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446135839613077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975163535406123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595977515028125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169554201703425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416033872635716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20407139199496985,0.14588038360773795,0.0,0.0,0.3011787106794562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18005763235168698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Passinglinesandtimes,2019/01/07,"Surprise Emotional Breakdown After moving out on my own while the divorce goes through its waiting period I've taken back my life. I've gone out more, spent time with new + old people, starting a yoga class at the end of this month, gotten better/more comfortable at my new job, have been on amicable terms with my stbx, & even started seeing this new guy a few weeks ago... I really thought everything was going well! Then next thing I know I'm struggling to hold back tears at work until I'm running into an area where I know I'll be alone to cry. Full blown crash about how it's just been so hard to even get to this point & still feel so horribly depressed at times over everything. That even though I like this guy I'm not ready for anything so what's the point. And even though I know I made the right decision what if I end up regretting it years down the line? All I wanted was kids & a family with someone who I could rely on (he wasn't ready after 3 years together) but now I'm back to square one all alone. Yesterday would've been our 4 year anniversary but it felt surreal acting as if it was just another day. When will I ever make it to a point where these feelings/anxiety attacks go away? What do I have to do? I thought just following all the great advice I've found about being my own person would kinda cure everything but that was definitely a moment that filled me with a lot of fear & doubt =/",3.620915426037378,5.061327076655053,4.422465948685463,86.59107617991766,72.65853658536584,8.005638264174848,24.5437123851758,8.575989854853784,1.4912174216027871,1129,33,233,20,22,363,174,287,0.133,0.805,0.062,-0.9473,1,2,0,0,1,0,33.0,1,0,0,1,25,11,1,3,13,0,17,1,0,3,4,42,44,17,0,6,9,0,3,1,0,2,1,0,0,4,19,8,0,2,9,1,1,8,2,6,1,1,17,5,19,5,35,22,10,64,0,2,2,0,8,22,0,5,35,145,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879717593504616,0.08055082993417607,0.0,0.0,0.18822796495276287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938307103270264,0.0,0.0,0.09528518637494683,0.06951535108697401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477832095433627,0.0,0.0,0.10337781749135162,0.08537541743063007,0.2096204129860413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036718811243121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255235282597594,0.0,0.099816499593987,0.05860367450313665,0.0,0.07826625392617835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10221659247255337,0.16096781204667324,0.0,0.0,0.24007528395708805,0.08219717630155664,0.0,0.0,0.24500446555619296,0.0,0.08566421015717705,0.10225408663084627,0.04594663525966081,0.0,0.08724951283491048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09963433610824336,0.0,0.0,0.0474758584964375,0.0,0.10328710420716328,0.0,0.0,0.10018456758347287,0.0,0.17995130206070592,0.0,0.0,0.0814017296389352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017451814077676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498194339811277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418421433440444,0.04439452378854583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07725447981238667,0.0,0.08598345275349864,0.060656474078657874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07253161901994692,0.09658049835241046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26328862539185466,0.09664134514307766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535284734285783,0.0,0.061575907854420374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0629978615391598,0.07934423583239525,0.0,0.0,0.2577047499895185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821369057057488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760253909848445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241167690581479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07699391128333967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12863659958127285,0.0,0.07256895137862981,0.0,0.0,0.09499712205954698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060370033491162385,0.0,0.17855875519644185,0.14428136282540854,0.10597413144689204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05359751876418215,0.0,0.07289048503354649,0.0,0.08170310159014532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615448965745559,0.0,0.0,0.1291029741294559,0.0,0.0,0.17555202791650773 divorce,jutsuqueen,2019/01/07,"Parents Divorced - Toxic mother and absent father, need advice/help Hello, so my parents were married for 23 years but are now divorced. It’s been about 3 years now. My father was always an asshole/narcissist not only to my mother but sometimes to me and my siblings (4). She filed for divorce and he moved away from us. He then sold the home we used to all live in therefore we were basically forced out. We rent now and we all work to provide rent/bill money. I am [19 F] and haven’t gone to school since I’ve graduated highschool due to the circumstances. We live paycheck to paycheck and it doesn’t help that my mother always finds reasons to argue with any of us. My sister who is 24 has gone to school but hasn’t gotten a job for what she’s certified in. For now she works a 9-5. My brother who is 20 also works a 9-5, he also hasn’t been able to go to school. My youngest brother who is 17 has jumped from public school to online to public school to now an alternative school because his grades havent been great. Just so you all can see where we currently are at. Just tonight my mom and my sister got into an argument and I stepped in because the way my mom talks is crazy. My mom started telling my sister that she’s wasting her time with her life. She doesn’t give motivation and just throws things in her face. My sister went to school, got a job in her field, quit and now works a 9-5 because at the time she wasn’t sure if that’s what she wanted to do. Now she is trying hard to find a job in her field and my mom just bashes her for it? Like she literally makes no sense when she argues. She contradicts herself and I had to jump in and back my sister up. Then my mom got upset with me for doing so. I get it, my sister isn’t getting any younger but I mean is that how you want to go about telling her to do something with her life? It’s not easy and when someone speaks to you the way she does it just makes things worse. I feel like a mother should help motivate her children and support them in their decisions as long as they’re good ones, of course. I wish I could go to school and work towards my life, too but it’s literally impossible given our situation. My father doesn’t have any communication with us, in fact he has me blocked on facebook so he’s a no go. I just don’t know what to do anymore. This gets harder everytime and I don’t think my mom realizes what the divorce has done to us. It’s affected us as well and she doesn’t see that. Anytime we have tried talking to her about it she just victimizes herself and tries making us feel guilty. I know she’s been through a lot with my dad but so have we. Is that selfish? My dad said things to me too, to make things worse he blamed their divorce on me. Too long to tell you about that one. Like my mom just doesn’t get it. I have tried talking to her and telling her that we can’t beat up on one another. We are all we have and we need to work together as a team and help eachother. The divorce is costing all of us years of our life and she doesn’t seem to get that. She makes no sense and I don’t know what to do. I wish I could move away but then she wouldn’t have enough money to support herself and my brother. I have tried talking her into us all going to therapy and she doesn’t believe in it. I feel like I’m going insane. Please any words of advice would be greatly appreciated. Alex if you see this I’m sorry.",2.262564844254264,3.813460939351202,3.4596567139203,91.66205613062088,76.41889985895628,6.217216896559968,23.44149076044082,6.847781081116105,0.5679151394898518,2662,81,592,25,59,863,258,709,0.105,0.81,0.085,-0.9325,9,0,1,0,6,0,65.0,22,5,3,11,35,16,3,1,20,0,61,5,1,12,8,113,112,52,0,13,19,27,4,4,0,3,4,2,2,1,34,47,0,1,16,1,5,15,23,5,1,3,20,9,113,11,85,86,8,65,0,0,3,0,129,24,0,4,28,398,147,24,0.046180719107599286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04512726423638838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07386140877142577,0.07685211551559559,0.0,0.0,0.12561789039001242,0.0484245105553931,0.0,0.0,0.045798864225340914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677661155580532,0.03551012242807325,0.0,0.08445401320216404,0.0,0.0,0.05202985626147444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07374309289620752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04041305849743445,0.04725890925028424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04771702772250348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005107746846707,0.06598302991562584,0.0,0.0,0.0844166812601563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063759847415052,0.04430075380072968,0.15747340142362887,0.03873419615807658,0.11080481927797138,0.10182881169677688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413688535027549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238158502801752,0.0,0.046323026610604084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748171373730916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07613914647418545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304752305272579,0.09024626671099532,0.0,0.08155684208401072,0.08173696637548844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039261195947137666,0.0,0.0,0.15412994301741664,0.0,0.0,0.050304341449891085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3786041005376259,0.0,0.0981655919422351,0.0,0.06848483612903558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387975130114097,0.03512251786423154,0.0,0.0,0.10255644689868916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05069256177046926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04911887926800719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04748147063051826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043928439149593115,0.0,0.0,0.3738988256625288,0.11040016227269407,0.0420411922490473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038201168064189724,0.05190906317322312,0.0,0.0,0.03912877343777103,0.0355521737548327,0.04567391203534568,0.05169553416979692,0.032686950675215584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481066555404568,0.04352478123255082,0.0,0.0,0.1484732508965568,0.1614559359905248,0.0,0.05281167698911796,0.0,0.12272167102738098,0.029590740108440018,0.0,0.0,0.053856697374293216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15676838446021635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4443977520357744,0.039885313927870966,0.0,0.0,0.054477169261673,0.07331221058414687,0.0,0.0,0.04152201255913799,0.042809989277571084,0.0,0.0,0.10621109577150988,0.0,0.0,0.20172068112025385,0.0,0.09412419619970576,0.032805457864477874,0.0,0.0,0.08921660703282992 divorce,psaikido,2019/01/07,"No settlement I (M54) am separated from ex wife (F56). We married in 2015, I took on her mortgage for 2.5 years and she did the domestic work. Now that we are split she is saying there should be no settlement because ""we are quits"". My solicitor has told me that although I would probably win in court it would cost more than I would get back. I think the ""matrimonial assets"" are normally divided and in this case that would be half the rise in value of the house. We tried meditation but the mediator said there was ""no basis"" to continue. I can only get legal aid if there has been domestic abuse which there has not (UK law). So, I can't get any justice because I can't afford it :( I don't know if it makes any difference but I am disabled and have been taken in by my elderly mum (she's a star!). Advice please!",3.146509971509971,4.727290697530865,4.857654320987656,82.43098290598293,74.12345679012346,8.688319088319089,26.04178537511871,9.265573868473778,2.1173346628679957,631,22,131,15,13,214,107,162,0.096,0.8240000000000001,0.08,-0.6993,2,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,4,0,0,3,7,1,0,0,6,0,25,0,0,1,0,22,35,9,0,8,5,3,0,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,8,7,0,0,2,0,1,2,7,0,0,1,8,2,21,1,12,20,1,12,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,2,4,93,29,2,0.0,0.21445044586207354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17686701708767066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461667236212853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391746106604656,0.0,0.2206667395554186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891021052153852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836885313362937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088448712429461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947056728241087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12081611294930487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773374710901064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13765547440932605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986790544605134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951441027692508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19251133003131798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17216846908793668,0.14393513789711518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11597481090325315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294925904244404,0.20109301179798506,0.12288427850573667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176711003996466,0.0,0.0,0.5142969399866131,0.0,0.0,0.11655537162576868 divorce,suddenlydivorced,2019/01/07,"Can anybody walk me through the simplest possible divorce? (CA) She's out of the country right now, back in her homeland. She wants to split. I'd like to have the paperwork ready for her to sign by the time she gets back, but I don't know how feasible that is. There are no kids to worry about, no intermingled finances, it's just a very simple and amicable split. But I have no idea where to start.",2.653285714285716,4.541727900000005,3.6171428571428565,89.48500000000001,76.25,7.071428571428572,26.42857142857143,7.957251820313856,1.4521071428571428,312,12,67,5,7,100,61,80,0.14800000000000002,0.81,0.042,-0.8674,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,10,10,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,12,10,0,10,0,0,0,0,7,4,0,0,6,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5028220793215231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082241333297113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690965473215462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796879374581251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15973549362770245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685967804110276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792209225782424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23142303350943064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906522331342571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26977514933729696,0.19284869813662925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33204240612788083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LivnBetternow,2019/01/08,"3 divorces, 0 marriages I am struggling as a unintentional person caught in the poo-flinging that is divorce. I have (understandably) avoided committing to anyone until I’m 98% sure I’m not going to end up getting divorced. I lived through two of my parents divorces (mom/dad, dad/stepmom) and my current partner has kids and half custody and I have been feeling some of the residual pain from that as well. I have some questions for y’all who have actually been there. 1.) if you’ve been divorced 3+ years with kids - will you ever get past it enough to be civil for events? If so, how did you get to that point? 2.) Having been divorced, my sweetheart is understandably a little reserved about marriage because he feels a little burned. Will he ever be able to actually commit? Will he actually enjoy the wedding... should he ever ask? Or am I barking up the wrong tree? Will he ever ask? 3.) I am terrified that my parter might be one of those people who gets married and divorced over and over again... my pops is on #4 but he’s not said anything about divorcing her... yet... do you know if you’re going to end up in an unhappy marriage going into it? 4.) How do you overcome the hate that comes from a divorce for the sake of the kiddos? How do you foster healing when the ex-person says inflammatory things? 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But, I want to call my ex. Or maybe at least a text. We haven’t spoken in a year. She reached out one time last summer. It was phone call but I was afraid to pick up the phone. I was still hurt because she wanted the divorce not me. I feel like I won’t do any better than her in my life. She was a knockout gorgeous girl who was independent and had it all but me on the other hand people always use to come up to me ask me how I got her. I still feel like I’m nothing. Talking to girls on whatever apps there are now a days is terrible, I am just never attracted to any of them but when I am attracted to them it’s not like they ever swipe right on a guy like me. It’s been a year and few months since our separation and I feel like I drew the short straw, ",0.6302514619883048,2.3470280368421044,2.5624561403508785,95.4916374269006,81.78947368421053,5.485380116959064,18.976608187134506,6.42735559955562,-0.19495321637426866,677,16,162,6,18,226,117,190,0.153,0.759,0.08800000000000001,-0.9139,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,2,0,3,1,8,13,0,1,11,0,17,3,1,4,3,33,31,12,0,4,10,1,5,5,0,2,2,0,0,3,9,7,0,0,5,1,0,2,6,4,0,1,8,5,29,9,20,21,4,28,0,1,0,0,22,13,0,4,18,112,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414706358783618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12046284917291447,0.0,0.0,0.1969013979895059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13534334201717144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825236179178518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804007657110916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29565912302943426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24941848029785615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933666978647137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309555926338592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29280659607508697,0.3102778782615926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578830452715932,0.0,0.0,0.14334816879924905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549826395566278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956353104348819,0.11800943088921055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225754951805316,0.3536442146806982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14544407694654796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555653832442615,0.0,0.0,0.10734744814629901,0.11165796976896199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891373141275792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981020257369938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10036746593654264,0.0,0.1512571168512251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363546966931277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119757836615748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312320316148429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163631652100371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618084061862572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441838157902405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250375093430564,0.0,0.0,0.17078189663639187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864583098697572 divorce,dogmomMickey,2019/01/08,Husband filed today I'm a 32f and my husband and I have been married for 7ile eating dinner at Culver's my husband told me he filed for divorce,0.532,2.9896492000000023,2.6750000000000007,89.2425,90.33333333333334,3.0,24.16666666666667,3.1291,0.2516666666666669,116,5,21,0,4,39,23,30,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,3,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,12,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6052100090472977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5606337838224326,0.5651642286857084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,fauxnugget,2019/01/08,"Just so afraid Married 11 yrs, no kids, no house, 34F (me) and 35M. There are lot of thoughts spinning around inside my head and out my ears and I just can't land on a path forward. I love my husband very much, but I have hurt him deeply. I don't feel any physical attraction to him, our bedroom has been dead for most of our marriage. I know I cannot give him what he wants or needs, but he still wants to try? He refuses to make the decision to leave, says it is my choice if we divorce or not, but if I decide to stay then I have to work on fixing things. He says he has done everything he can, given me as much love, attention, and caring as humanly possible, put up with so much HORRIBLE shit I've put him through, and I agree he has done those things. I can't accept why he wants to stay when I have created such misery, he is a stubborn motherfucker. I don't love him the way I once did. I don't know when I stopped, maybe I've ignored it for years. I feel like I owe it to him to keep going, but I know things won't change. I'm terrified if I do decide to end it, I will regret it. I afraid of my inlaws and what they might do or say to me. I'm afraid he will never be okay, he has mentioned wanting to commit suicide in the recent past...how can I do this to him? I feel like there is no right decision. Maybe I just need to rid him of myself for good. I am a garbage human, the world needs less garbage.",2.979752475247526,3.262341323432345,4.2604141914191445,91.50131435643566,73.05940594059406,7.776171617161717,25.0509900990099,7.7348632917899725,0.9449116831683172,1083,30,262,13,20,358,154,303,0.181,0.68,0.139,-0.9495,1,0,0,0,1,2,41.0,3,0,1,1,12,18,2,3,7,1,32,6,3,1,2,56,58,23,2,11,14,1,3,2,0,4,0,4,1,3,12,10,0,5,13,0,1,4,12,8,0,0,6,7,46,10,31,47,6,25,0,2,0,3,38,10,1,9,12,167,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07365062967604992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641377806267104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11042343960411773,0.0,0.11457157594930202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22166577790983014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959254526529242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733691045284278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428570640758214,0.15474520981466394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389534173571248,0.0615518226799844,0.09084049821823127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115144516079213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496860701059072,0.1159419801865528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626582735619736,0.0,0.0,0.17856361266409582,0.0,0.0,0.1146786029686247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582400880226868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207643256430216,0.2932465449016189,0.0,0.07229395316174794,0.0,0.2176124285381869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148937342643618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388483397460511,0.2409187714506753,0.08353094356670529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534053193103025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10338869767461116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209681157531956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775144634474453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693741836265044,0.0,0.0,0.09249127009168684,0.0,0.25838375023280313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111727951424867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308759210889164,0.08649194420962476,0.090547234219268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846731245211922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21585766926990904,0.0,0.0,0.08598150687663612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353150219570964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936238005011664,0.2555227002544838,0.08596690257576385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09772777416446236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884681148023061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06974441050424414 divorce,kegoff89,2019/01/08,"Just separated Husband came home at 115 and said he wanted a separation and I had to pick out some up at 145. He was gone before I got back but came back after I told him we needed to tell our son together, I didn’t want it and thought we were working on it but he said he was unhappy and needed to figure things out. I am a stay at home mom to 2 at his urging, I am 8 hours from my closest family. He cheated 4 years ago and I found out starting in July and ending in September with just a little more coming out in November.. I was unhappy for 2 years but once it came out what he did I decided to work through it. I was willing to work things out as long as he was open and honest about everything including emotions. That’s all I asked to talk to me I didn’t think it was too much but apparently it was because he never mentioned his unhappiness He says he’s been unhappy for 2 weeks and that’s all I got. Then he left. I thought everyone had times of unhappiness but you worked through it together. I love him and would be willing to work on myself but I won’t live in limbo. I deserve respect and love. So what do I do? He’s suppose to drop off a notarized letter giving me custody for now. So I would be able to take my kids to my home state if I decide to after our talk on Friday. What else do I need to do to make this easy, fair, and still protect myself and dignity? 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Nobody tells me that I’m “criticizing” them by mopping, because it’s their job, they’ll do it later. Nobody freaks the fuck out about the VERY IDEA of calling a plumber to fix the drains, when sewage is backing up into the bathtub, and I have the money to pay for a fix. Nobody whines that I sleep too much. Nobody calls me a workaholic. Nobody swears on the Bible that they have the right to my body for sex whether I want it or not. So much more. I did this. I chose this life. Divorced. It sucks in some ways, starting over completely after spending so many years building a life. But for not one second have I ever missed my ex. Zero “wish you were here” moments. This was the person I promised to love for life, the relationship that I happily prioritized above everything else. It gets better, people. Give it a year or two if you’re in the middle of the thick of it. Find love again, or don’t. Time changes feelings. Nobody starts this process without good reason. Holy hell, I thought it would kill me, but has it ever been worth it. 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Parents separated in January 2018, and legally divorced in September 2018. My mom has been dating and I'm not the biggest enthusiast. I've expressed my opinion that I never want to meet this ""awful person"" and whenever I see photos of the two of them I throw shit and get all mad at her which leads to a long argument. Whenever she goes out to dinner, or whatever, I tell her something along the lines of ""Hope you have a terrible time!"" Any advice as to how to cope with this, and why the hell I'm getting so mad about it? 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My spouse and I have been separated for 8 months. She and my son live around 5 hours away from me, we have no shared property aside from some debt. I’m not sure we are going to divorce at this time, but if she does decide to file, do I have to have a lawyer. I don’t really have any assets at this point and I don’t have a job, so I can’t afford a lawyer, I don’t want to pay for a lawyer, honestly I don’t want a divorce, but if she so decides, I’m done fighting for the relationship. I’m just not sure if this is something that is impossible to do without a lawyer. 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So I’ll make this long story short.. Me and my wife are together 7 years married 5, we have a 2 year old boy. A few months ago I found my wife acting differently.. buying new outfits, hitting the gym a lot and wanting to go clubbing frequently with her ‘girlfriends’. I told her I had suspicions and had found conversations. She said she had been flirtatiously been texting a work mate and said she had since stoped.. I kept finding more conversations. I found her sending boudoir photos to another man, and she said it was nothing She told me last night she wanted to explore being with other men/woman and that she wanted a non-monogamous relationship. I realllllly!! Don’t want to offend anyone but, I told her the thought of another man f**king her discusted me, regardless of “if there isn’t an emotional connection” she said flirting and other activities fill a void I do not. We went to marriage counselling today and it seemed like it went no where. After we talked and I told her I needed honestly and she told me she was talking to another guy. She said it started just talking about the dark/rough stuff she was going through. Now she is sending him pictures (non nudes) and having deep sexual conversation. I asked if she would have sex with him and she said yes. And she doesn’t feel bad Was her mentioning non-monogamy an excuse to have an affair basically, or is this a lifestyle? I mean she has never talked about it and it seems like since I busted her talking to men/woman now all of a sudden it came up? Is my marriage doomed ? To be honest I’m looking for suggestions on what my next move should be. 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This rotting, festering, cancer our marriage is. Will now be getting cut off, I will no longer have to feel responsible for her well being and care or if she is ok. I am almost free, so blessedly free. My life can restart and I can get clean. It is a great day folks, great f’n day. 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My (38f) Ex (38m) filed September 10th and the divorce was finalized October 2nd. While I was surprised by his filing and it wasn't something I would have chose (we had problems, but I honestly thought things were better and continuing to improve) I did not fight him and we were able to come to an agreement with lawyers. My question is, does the lying ever stop hurting/affecting you/pissing you off? I'm talking about newly discovered ones, whether it be something that happened over half a year ago that your just finding out or something new and recent they lie about. Basically how do I keep from caring?",4.277545454545454,6.770387966666673,4.5945454545454565,81.55227272727275,73.5,7.363636363636362,32.57575757575758,8.296473431620573,2.785166666666667,516,26,89,9,11,162,91,120,0.097,0.743,0.161,0.8877,0,0,3,0,2,0,17.0,2,3,1,1,6,7,1,0,5,0,13,0,0,2,2,27,19,10,0,2,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,10,0,3,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,8,0,15,5,11,9,0,15,0,0,0,0,13,3,0,2,11,65,20,1,0.19139017567277616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965584291151276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692690572249172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195135039584951,0.0,0.0,0.16486568949778305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16748683248688034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34624674238074193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2096585823716469,0.17492715323953692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924570027167424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011638198534382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848458242924393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12969093625255124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831345503110306,0.0,0.0,0.2144007984528969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889747089940325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44202452313265095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32002151349441965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538321734747744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715112838575338,0.0,0.0,0.15194242099410635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595808954553698,0.0,0.0,0.12324899815987304 divorce,divorceQ,2019/01/08,"Tracking parenting time Long time lurker, first time poster. I (F)and STBXH (M) have two teenage kids. One has chosen to live with me, one wants to swap between houses. Does anyone know if any of the online custody trackers allow for tracking by child? The one living with me will do visitation with STBX but does not want to do overnights. I want accurate tracking to make sure child support is properly calculated based on parenting time.",4.700384615384618,7.699315384615389,4.2483974358974415,81.96951923076925,74.64102564102564,6.976923076923077,28.98076923076923,8.07648339933343,2.3063538461538458,352,15,58,6,8,106,58,78,0.033,0.87,0.097,0.7418,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,2,1,13,12,2,0,4,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,0,0,4,2,12,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,32,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211931463573608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12461293037443134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31191644425944404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159063252314164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20563759938138126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09794297816997516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31473638885174404,0.1577157536716418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896071608377605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36229178516236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957760615241776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20223766361409592,0.16796668581875945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156772629721385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740913589575749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31534964615149674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Tis_Of_Thee,2019/01/08,"Mediation vs. Litigation Title says it all. I'm preparing to get divorced and I'm looking for opinions on which route to take, mediation or a ""traditional"" divorce with lawyers in the courts. Mediation would be the far cheaper option but my concerns with it are that I would A) not have the benefit of Discovery (I do believe my STBX has been hiding funds, albeit probably not a large amount) and B) possibly be subject to a ""let's just meet halfway"" attitude from the mediator (STBX makes significantly more than I do and I'm not looking to split everything 50/50). Any feedback would be appreciated, thanks.",6.2974545454545465,8.079097790909097,7.472500000000004,65.97875000000002,66.54545454545455,10.954545454545457,38.29545454545455,10.9516,4.8679999999999986,487,27,80,15,8,165,78,110,0.066,0.8590000000000001,0.07400000000000001,0.4367,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,1,1,19,22,5,0,3,7,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,2,12,14,3,3,0,0,2,0,4,3,0,3,0,53,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16924460598748606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803986755459444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236742188096676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13002773893204927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2544931608128566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4179872852614247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16612704700495662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280570944991024,0.0,0.0,0.26833104245863704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979166423698168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871242120424176,0.0,0.0,0.2291321135123172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5303843368113818,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bobesaerg,2019/01/08,"If you have the warning signs, and a long lead time, what are some things you can do to protect yourself financially prior to filing??? Title self -explanatory. Was tipped off that wife was getting too friendly with a co-worker and upon pulling phone logs I was shocked to see they had texted more in the last two months than myself and her had. Confronted her and she had deleted almost all of the 260+ messages to and from the guy. She told me nothing has happened, no kisses even, but she was developing feelings for the guy. I confronted the guy and told him to leave my wife alone and he claimed he has no feelings like that for her, she is just a friend. Please note that she did indeed initiate most of the almost daily text conversations, but the guy knows she is married (he is not, and has no kids either, divorced 3X) so even if telling the truth should know better. Wife said she was not happy and would never be happy after the confrontation, but we have since talked a lot and had some counseling, which she said helped a lot-- and also said she still loves me and no longer wants to leave. I am not 100% convinced though. What if she is just biding time? I have been the sole provider for us the entire time we've been married while she raised the kids and saw about home issues, except for the last 6 months when she began working at this local grocery store where she met the guy. We have a paid off home, 3 paid off vehicles, about $80K between checking and savings, and I have about $200k in my retirement and brokerage accounts. Now-- my wife doesnt really watch our finances that close-- my intention is to quietly leech significant money out of the accounts so that betrayal wont ""hurt"" as much if it happens. Thinking of storing in a safety deposit box or just fucking stashing somewhere. Im just so pissed and hurt at this betrayal. How realistic is it to think I can get away with some of this given enough lead time?? Anything to think about or watch out for??",6.227992961743669,6.555901827676244,5.846906572823245,82.80249517538883,65.97127937336815,8.645203768872744,31.01248722897037,8.321376580360154,2.1191129299579976,1572,55,306,19,23,485,212,383,0.12,0.779,0.101,-0.8975,0,1,0,0,1,0,51.0,4,2,1,4,21,19,5,0,23,0,36,4,1,4,3,69,62,35,0,7,18,4,2,1,2,3,0,4,2,8,14,24,0,1,7,0,10,3,10,8,0,1,23,10,37,11,43,35,11,35,0,2,4,3,55,15,2,14,18,217,51,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894967380493684,0.09799789462117313,0.0,0.07566766515125553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786428566733268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08889870495816296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368379516421505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09776786378102206,0.0,0.1249913761978947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568553793807832,0.06759662314012584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620651945875024,0.08747476396596894,0.09887020091092616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684439089779656,0.16734449575316762,0.2014497260945815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06342186302194351,0.0,0.18982336376556647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025855624268292,0.0,0.10220595213940382,0.09875880833049512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10400147223728347,0.1542560314932923,0.0,0.20037806188354548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622660469265428,0.0,0.0,0.08373581691786765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088526215682675,0.08539834052203106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510497328960364,0.0,0.06955666556139,0.0,0.07297685943985363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079054430732067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038644632835958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060616063245187174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2700161678049092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07539997454192646,0.0,0.09870940717776942,0.0,0.0,0.07827073004830656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755637394449513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07605205762813225,0.08270214381518727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06286139449925326,0.18188623136331047,0.09296377443075524,0.0,0.22069498055103812,0.0,0.0,0.1808271336353592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243009541712904,0.0,0.11381633810653273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055809390460411216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13776912921086454,0.0,0.0,0.06721540902380536,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,nanodgree,2019/01/08,"Cheated wife and I stll love her. 40 M with 39 F and 7years of marriage with no Kids. We loved each other's like anything. Just found out that she went on a trip to meet her family and there is a secret sub trip where she went alone to meet her online boyfriend. She never done this before and this is the first time happened in our relationship. After learning all this and I found out that lot happened behind me in last 4 months. Lengthy all day chatting when I am there with her and also when I am sleeping on her shoulder. I don't know what happened between them in that trip and I can't even think about that. It's burning me like hell. All this time, she lived with me and did all this under my nose. Somehow I still love her a lot. She told me that it was a infatuation and done with all that. Somebody praised her a lot and that's the reason for all this. The other guy is married with kids and no chance of leaving them for her. What to do? Leave her or fix this relationship? I still love her a lot and don't know what to do. I can walk away as simple as that. But my mind says that don't run away.. Sometimes mistakes happens and you gotta fix it. Can't eat anything and can't think anything.",1.5256133333333324,3.514095688000001,2.3965,96.43408333333336,80.12,4.806666666666667,21.216666666666672,5.46131890053228,-0.2090133333333335,942,27,213,4,24,295,122,250,0.071,0.815,0.113,0.9129,0,1,0,0,0,0,23.0,2,1,2,2,12,10,2,0,9,0,18,8,3,1,7,50,36,21,0,1,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,3,24,24,1,0,9,1,0,7,9,3,0,1,9,2,35,7,30,26,11,30,2,0,0,4,38,11,1,6,14,158,59,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084588828408248,0.0,0.08374496677917043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25852821030462625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19677676266476155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910945456443498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0675360759340158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21433091250303735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715524156945093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06916691975662077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872119199100636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089075225888732,0.0,0.2296413030784076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368978484230004,0.3704160610615461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151033247832625,0.08536120552332174,0.0,0.22176783309182932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10232231869615026,0.0,0.09247014299545543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561185853336197,0.37805745298036897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573787875768803,0.0,0.08358692473261309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08076692543931795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767014187027538,0.0,0.22486130864572176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327796542095772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047961538757591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10357127787561264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672598946162233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13420136921683248,0.0,0.0,0.12212676165989562,0.0,0.0,0.10006495025844267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19415395343793015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thevyckinator,2019/01/08,"Attorney retainer fee question I escaped to a safe location with my kids about a month ago and my husband has no idea where I am. He has filed for divorce and texted me for an address so he can serve me papers. The terms he's asking for go like this: he gets everything, I get nothing. I have a consultation with a good lawyer coming up soon. She told me her retainer fee is $4500 - about half of which I have, but won't have the full amount by the time of our appointment. So here's my question: Do I have to have the full amount? Do lawyers accept payments, or maybe get their money out of the divorce settlement? Since he has all the money and I have almost none, can't my lawyer get him to pay my legal fees? I was willing, and I told him this several times, to just come to a mutual agreement on terms and get the divorce without needing a lawyer since we don't have any children together. But he's the one who insisted we ""lawyer up"" because, in his words, ""it's going to get ugly.""",3.7918550106609814,4.6631927661691535,4.803315565031983,86.19682835820898,71.58706467661693,8.130916844349679,28.287491115849328,8.418075326091056,1.83571329068941,770,28,163,12,14,252,116,201,0.017,0.9,0.083,0.9089,0,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,3,0,1,0,8,5,0,0,15,0,20,0,0,0,1,28,34,10,0,1,5,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,12,0,3,4,0,6,4,6,0,0,2,3,0,26,5,23,29,8,19,0,0,0,0,28,8,0,4,8,110,31,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165699409888385,0.0,0.16002106305480313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108672499194528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493955794781069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09741530343267664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753147501848998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14362192651048247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5009473455976812,0.0,0.1816410920051508,0.13403638248406508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18039976140756775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07807237739792161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16054503925528238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755437946309486,0.0,0.0,0.11849296745810868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15333667022380798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10828762438195808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580350917484023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18053353078553647,0.0,0.26438376844550204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18636650826905324,0.0,0.0,0.3053999815653245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404577761992322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,emeraldsofoz,2019/01/08,"The Holidays Sucked Seriously. Sucked. So hard. So many memories. So many emotions. Our marriage needed to end and I’m happier as a person and he has found the kind of love that makes him feel fulfilled. It’s good. A positive thing. I can see that. But I miss my best friend. I miss looking at him and giving him knowing eyes when the kids are extra annoying or adorable. I miss gaming and laughing and watching Bobs Burgers. I miss my family unit. We’ve been together for 10 New Years eves in a row and they were all fun. No amount of alcohol could make me forget that. I tried. I just got a bad hangover. I didn’t want to kiss him. I just wanted to laugh with him. I wanted to play a stupid game. I wanted to talk about life. I just really miss when he didn’t hate me. I don’t miss my marriage at all. I miss my best friend desperately. I want his advice. I want his support and he just hates. I fucking miss him. I understand his feelings and that we all heal different and that I can not control his actions or feelings. I’m just venting. 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I have an injunction against him and I have nothing to offer after being displaced. I am starting over with an apartment and work. What should I watch for with this? He is very vindictive and abusive. Most recently he has told everyone that he is the abused one and tried to file for injunction which the judge denied. I have evidence of abuse, he has a criminal case from the last incident, I have evidence of harassment from his friends and family after injunction, what’s next? I really want to just move on from him. I don’t want the house, alimony, nothing but peace of mind of safety and moving on. Thank you for your advice!",3.9969230769230784,6.385735965034971,4.625874125874127,81.48958041958043,73.96503496503495,8.316083916083917,30.58041958041958,9.057496981413335,2.9514027972027974,605,28,107,14,13,193,86,143,0.175,0.7490000000000001,0.076,-0.9183,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,0,2,0,1,1,3,1,0,7,0,12,0,0,0,0,15,17,7,0,3,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,1,1,1,15,2,25,14,1,14,0,0,1,0,18,6,0,1,6,76,20,1,0.0,0.7781064189066856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12834793673248676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255049184580694,0.0,0.0,0.12381953040414667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147612769060936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15155345955717228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10706297370874976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13262010141551234,0.0,0.0,0.2791959893227831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968594295430395,0.0,0.0,0.2520564172195869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900216298912045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414239524669205,0.0,0.12968645563600528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296603169348787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092400284072748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1255049184580694,0.0,0.08917402386705957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083726399359662,0.15494030919171364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09562007083801798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thisisnotacat,2019/01/08,"Trapped With Nowhere To Go. I filed for divorce back in August (pro se, because I couldn't afford a lawyer), and made it known to my husband. We had been married for a year and 5 months; during this time I have caught him active on a dating website, found pictures of another woman in his phone, he lied about how many kids he actually has (they live in another country- I found out from finding one of their birth certificates) and he lies about most smallest things like taking our silverware to work with him and losing it. I'm 35 (f), and he's 45. We have no children together. In the divorce documents, I wanted him to leave with whatever he came into the home with- all his furniture, his car, his savings, etc., and I was going to remain with my possessions- my house, car, furniture, etc. I thought the process would go fast, but it hasn't. He filed bankruptcy and I had to get his bankruptcy lawyer to file some documents saying that we could proceed with the case. The lawyer hasn't submitted the documents, though he has it. And now the court says that my case is no longer pro se since his lawyer is involved. His lawyer won't talk to me and tell me what's going on because ""conflict of interest"". I already made it known that I'm not seeking legal advice from him- I just want to know where he was with filing the paperwork. Here it is January, and my husband is still living with me. He makes double what I do in pay, and has a savings account with thousands in it, but he won't move out. I'm tired of him. I can't trust him. He still wants to sleep with me and act as if there's no divorce going on. I can't afford to temporarily move from my house, and I don't have anyone I can go stay with. I feel trapped, and I feel like he's just doing this to fuck with me. He was married before (she died), but they weren't living together. I ask him questions about his prior marriage, but he won't answer any of them. I'm ready to move on with my life but due to no money- I can't. I'm stuck with him and I don't know what to do. Legally, I can't put him out because though it's my house (I purchased it years before we met/married), right now it's just as much his house as it is mine. I can't have friends over- if I go out, I have to come home and listen to him question me about where I was/who I was with, and just everything about him is irritating. I don't know what I can do. I'm severely depressed and overall an emotional wreck.",2.6862077534791244,4.1032618131212715,3.858981610337974,89.7930449801193,75.00397614314116,7.0180715705765415,25.298658051689863,7.6454224807358475,1.1416155467196818,1904,64,415,25,40,620,211,503,0.125,0.8390000000000001,0.036000000000000004,-0.9921,2,2,0,0,3,0,75.0,5,0,4,2,21,10,1,0,13,0,44,4,1,4,1,86,80,31,1,8,12,2,2,2,1,4,2,3,2,3,21,44,0,1,14,0,4,17,20,3,0,2,16,5,74,7,66,58,7,53,0,2,0,1,64,19,1,6,18,273,95,10,0.0,0.0,0.08290741584346127,0.0,0.0,0.08302063842103123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09375401555951794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577748154788022,0.1781731664687523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059405084157370974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794248968383987,0.0,0.0,0.065327980418774,0.0,0.15537006756124588,0.0,0.14458715765817895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717009620104207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318437971161539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783259250233836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07317478624012605,0.0,0.08817369616928007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556707941366517,0.0,0.0,0.18950277111224148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635538304865848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591532224731042,0.06069449767500097,0.0,0.0,0.07765069398946316,0.0,0.0,0.18630561400764814,0.06563886510250445,0.0785429302754942,0.044387403545850516,0.0,0.3379878283937495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17044096547318435,0.0,0.0,0.3921236379070727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007320532455958,0.0,0.0,0.08995897462141636,0.0,0.0,0.06000882792142359,0.08301303883850407,0.0,0.22506021178073365,0.0,0.0,0.09504703087316303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607799136869323,0.056710578341618426,0.08613476631272292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06781320749605521,0.2708928931964115,0.06245440496998096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575702000384334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08540693873321302,0.1903463296971966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255424816394943,0.0,0.13512510400415034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959791254105641,0.0,0.07027869769603301,0.0,0.0850200357328449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09055464833146036,0.13569622253314942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387835381392483,0.06828656847725957,0.07425763066748273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644277162149292,0.0,0.1669429426777808,0.06744770161825775,0.04954008928882433,0.09764750426263127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033249127789247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061850930594875286,0.0,0.0,0.06035220839749185,0.0,0.0,0.1094212083531137 divorce,qazmlp10,2019/01/08,"Phone call recording app for iPhone Hi Friends, my office mate gets these horrific calls from his ex wife and would like to record them. I have an android phone so I showed him my phone recorder app and he realized he would like one as well. We can't seem to find a good app for an iPhone. Can you guys reccomend one? Thank you in advance.",1.9208193277310917,4.240508602941176,1.560336134453781,101.17794117647058,80.61764705882355,5.0621848739495805,21.478991596638657,6.18269132825596,-0.08915378151260489,267,8,61,2,7,77,52,68,0.057,0.74,0.203,0.8481,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,2,1,1,2,6,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,8,4,0,2,0,2,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,3,1,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,10,6,7,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,19,1,0,1,2,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5298748060235067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371415010751129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2004579508508571,0.0,0.1355570049009237,0.0,0.0,0.2176225192164619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569059339622176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25351784546369643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516332682399766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362024018973621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23887566829551626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332854653593484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36862550885949136,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,rootnegative,2019/01/08,"How to find something to live for 29M and married exactly 3 years and 4 months after having been together for 9 years. Is there anyone else here who is a depressive and suicidal that managed to find something to live for? How did you do it? I sacrificed everything for my relationship. Literally everything, career, education, you name it, I threw it on the altar and sent it to Cthulhu. And now, no relationship, I have nothing left. I have no reason to go on, and yet I'm too stubborn to die. 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A good sign. We’ve been on a self-imposed (by me) hiatus. It’s been three days. Drifting off to sleep last night I was beginning to become a bit fearful I was *too* fine without seeing him; thankfully, I woke up missing him and thinking about him and wanting to see him. Badly. At four in the morning. He blames me for only seeing him for ten minutes in the last 72 hours. I’m confused about needing to take any blame for some time away to unplug, reset, recharge. For me. For the last 72 hours *he’s* had his kids, who are young kids compared to mine, six and three, so hectic AF, and one of them, the six year old, was my student up until two and a half weeks ago (long story but it’s a good one — next time), so, yeah, it’s uniquely tricky and awkward but we’re chugging along nonetheless because we love one another. *Hectic. Love. Beautiful. Love. Mysterious and Scary. Love.* When he’s with his young kids it beats him down as the days pass. He goes and goes and goes with them. He takes them places, cool places like the beach for a bonfire, the woods for a hike near a creek, a museum — he’s a good daddy — and he cooks for them and plays with them and tapes huge strips of paper to his Vinyl faux wood floor or his kitchen table so they can go big and draw sea monsters or dinosaurs or whatever the fuck they want without worrying about coloring inside any kind of lines. He does and does and *does* for them, my boyfriend, when he has them, which is every weekend for more than 72 hours straight. If I see him during this stretch of time, when he is so incredibly *actively* raising his children, he will look into me with his gorgeous gray eyes and I can see that they are pleading, that he is roll-over-and-die tired, more than a little desperate, and scared out of his mind about what to do with them. On a continual loop. I see in him that *he thinks* he can’t raise those little boy-men alone. *He thinks* it will break him. It won’t, though. I’m not broken. And those kids of his, they have a mom. She’s in their lives. And she no doubt feels broken too, especially when she’s alone with them; no doubt she’s also trying her best to make it all work somehow. Raising kids is hard. It’s harder than anyone can possibly imagine. Especially when they are little. I’m glad I did it with someone when my kids were little. It’s best done in partnership. But I don’t want to *have to want to* raise those two guys of his, his kids, with him. At least, that’s present right now because I’m tired of moming this year. I’m tired. I get that I probably sound horrific and non-maternal, and maybe that’s true. Maybe I am missing something most other women are born with: the need to sacrifice all she is or wants on behalf of her own kids. Isn’t that what it’s about? Giving up what you want so they can have what they want? Did this standard maternal feature not come equipped with my model? I’m broken, I guess, if you can call missing a feature being broken, but not so broken I can’t function. I teach kids for a living; *love* to work with kids. Almost every time I finish a day of teaching I drive home feeling grateful, satisfied… all the feels of having a full-cup, full-heart, full-soul made of warmth and caring and making a difference. Who can claim they get that kind of life affirmation after work most days? I don’t think it’s a large percentage, but I do think it should be. Anyhow. I have four kids of my own, who, by the way, are the best work I’ve done here on Earth without even trying, by fucking far. I could die now, leave my physical body this very moment, and my greatest accomplishment here on this planet is hands down those four. They are my living proof that something amazing came from me, through me, because of me. They are bursts of brilliance. All of them in their early teens except for my daughter, the only daughter, who is a highly precocious ten years of age. I teach. I parent. I spend most days with and around kids. Yet… Though I love kids I do not like to *be with* kids all of the time; in fact, there’s nothing I crave more deeply than spending my free time alone, or with adults, or just, basically, without… you know, *kids.* It’s weird. Is it? Is that weird? Is that horrible? Or did I do my part? Is it normal to be tired? Am I taking a breather? His kids are his kids to raise with his ex wife. I can drop in and participate, not as a mom figure but as an adult friend and former teacher, meanwhile the mothering mom stuff can, must, needs to, *should* come from their own mom. I gotta save up my moming mojo for my own kids. I’ve let my mom-tensity slacken quite a bit this last year. Forgivably. Divorcing after an 18 year marriage. But here they are. The dust settles and they are standing before me, so beautiful and wise. My children. Like many fortunate parents out there, I sometimes forget about my incredible kids. Like many, I take for granted that they exist. Time passes and they quickly grow capable of thinking independently, of living in the world so courageously. I *do* have four, FOUR, superb, smart, unique, kind, sweet, scared, and hopeful children of my own. And I am proud of them all. Am I horrible? You can make up your own mind. I’m honest. I’m scared. I’m in love. I’m human. Am I horrible? Are you? Not often, but sometimes I can be really maternal. I love my four kids with all of my blood and cells and fascia and brain cells and marrow and skin. My whole body, heart, mind and soul. I love them with all of my being. I love them from the depths of who I’ve ever been back through the ages, to when there was only one large star and we all hid inside of it waiting to burst, to all I’ll ever be through the cosmos, to whatever we call a future and beyond. I love, I love, I love them, throughout all of this, in spite of, because of, this Universal Expansion we call life. I believe love has no limits. It expands. Grows and grows and grows. Just like the universe itself. Just like our souls. So maybe, just maybe, I do love those two kids of his too. It’s probable I always have, already do, and always will. I think we will be okay. 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I (32M) am finally divorced from my (33F) wife. It was a 2 hear long process, of which attorneys were hired about 8 months ago. Had the settlement conference today, we all agreed on an amount, and now the process is done (the divorce decree is mailed in a few weeks, but the agreement is legally binding so in effect, we’re divorced). The whole thing sucks. The relationship and marriage was toxic. Dated for 7 years, then married for 4 years. No infidelity or anything; I decided on my own to finally end the toxicity and separate. It feels like it’s all my fault, really. I shouldn’t have married her. I only did so because I felt like I *had* to. We dated for so long, how could you not? Her family put pressure on me to put a ring on her finger because she was moving from her home away with me for me to go to law school. We would fight probably, on average, 2-3 times a week. The problem is, the fights would last 2-3 days. Of course, we had some weeks where we wouldn’t, but pretty much the entire relationship from beginning to end was a big fight fest. Coming to the realization that I needed to divorce her made me feel like the scum of the earth. According to her, she was happy somehow. I tried to explain, what we had was not normal and that I couldn’t take it anymore. Being an attorney, I did everything I could to make the process as easy and as painless as possible. Problem is, she had this thought (which turned into a delusion) that I would come back. So she wouldn’t sign the papers. She drew the process out for over a year. For that entire year, I felt like the world’s worst human for causing her pain. I had daily deliberations of whether I should get back with her to end her pain. I suffered from levels of depression I never thought possible. It was at that time that I decided to take a cruise for myself, just to get away from everything. She found out, through a friend telling her sister, and she decided to sue me for money while I was gone. Boy, I’ve never experienced anger like I have that day (and the next few days). I’ve never felt such rage. The entire year she was drawing out the process, I was trying to pay her. I was trying to offer money. Even though I’m an attorney, I don’t make much. I was offering what I could and what was fair. I knew, with the lawsuit she just filed, it would be a long process costing each of us thousands. Problem is, the attorney she hired is a legitimate dickbag. He’s one of those asshole attorneys that make our entire profession look bad. I’m talking, straight up lying to his client (ex-wife). He had her believe she would get thousands from me, and that I would be paying all of her attorney fees no matter what happened and no matter how long it took. I begged and pleaded with her, tried to explain that her attorney would basically be stealing money from her. I tried to make her realize that it would make everything infinitely worse. That it would financially ruin my life. That it made no sense to sue me for the same money I was already trying to give her. Turns out, her objective of suing me wasn’t money (except during today’s conference). She sued me for two reasons, by her own admittance: 1) to force me to talk to her, and 2) “revenge” for me taking a cruise for myself. Cue 8 months of the most frustrating, blood-boiling negotiation and legal process I’ve ever been a part of. I’m sparing a LOT of details here. None of it matters, as the end has come and she was forced to settle today. Here I am, with three maxed credit cards from legal fees, having to take out a personal loan at 18% interest just to pay her off. My credit is shot, my cards are maxed, I basically have less than $300 to live off of per month now. All because she couldn’t see reason and drop the suit and let me just pay her without the mess. As of today, I am a “free man”. My attorney kept telling me how this was a win, how it’s finally over, the weight is off my shoulders, and I should be happy. But you know what? I feel nothing. I WANT to feel happy. I WANT to feel as though a huge burden has been lifted. I don’t. Instead, I’m laying here tonight feeling depressed. Sad. Imagining her crying herself to sleep knowing that she has lost....me. Knowing she can’t stop the divorce anymore and can’t win me back. It’s soul-crushing to imagine. I still feel like the world’s biggest piece of shit; a feeling I was hoping would go away. For some reason, I felt compelled to write my story, albeit in brevity. If I can provide any guidance to anyone, please let it be these few things: 1) Make sure you marry the right person. Someone you’re truly happy with. Don’t marry for them, marry for yourself AND for them. 2) never represent yourself in any legal matter. It’s almost impossible to separate your human emotion from your case. If you’re at the point of thinking whether you should hire an attorney, you should literally hire an attorney. We’re taught a saying in law school, and it rings true: A man who represents himself is a Fool. So long, everyone. Sorry for the long read. Maybe, one day, I feel as if the burden has been lifted and I won’t feel like such a large pile of depressed garbage. Until then, may you all love as happy as you can be. We have one life on earth; don’t waste it being unhappy. 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I’m a 50’s male, she’s 41 female. I still have love for her but I know it’s over, I’m helping move it along, but I cannot sleep. It’s been 6 days without anything but small snatches of sleep here and there. I started eating again today and yesterday, but I cannot get some much needed sleep and I have an 8-4 job I cannot call in sick for. FML. Can’t I have just one or two crappy things happen at a time. 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What to expect financially? Will summarize the situation and then ask my questions. STBXW and her kids moved in with me (TX) in a home that I own 18 months ago, only my name on mortgage. No custody issues to deal with, we had no children together. STBXW quit her job ~8 months ago to take care of the house and 7 kids. Now that divorce is planned, we are offering on a home that will require a ~$70k down payment. STBXW is now back to work in a job paying similar to what she had before. Neither of us want to waste money on attorneys and so far, we are wanting to work things out on our own. Might need to seek out a divorce mediation resource and will if needed. Questions: * the home we are making an offer on for her to move into, she is asking me to sign it over to her at some point post-divorce, as soon as she has enough work history to refinance on her own. this is a tough pill for me to swallow, the $70k that I am just kissing goodbye. * any thoughts on if I should expect to have to pay any support after divorce? * any other comments or suggestions in my position? 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So here're the basics: 1. I am a US citizen, lived in CA for 18 years. But the last 6 in China 2. She's a Chinese citizen. Currently lives in SE Asia. 3. We were married in 2014, separated in 2017. 4. We have no kid, no contest, and no fault. Just irredeemable differences. 5. Long story short, she's not at the liberty to get divorce in China. And AFAIK, I need to be in CA for the past 6 months to qualify for the residency requirement. 6. Hence my question. Is a Quam divorce legally recognized in the US, and what complications can we expect during and after?",0.36809954751131,2.816531863247868,3.2308697838109595,84.15710407239818,93.6153846153846,6.85550527903469,24.831070889894423,7.928766900206844,2.100857616892912,456,21,89,12,17,160,79,117,0.105,0.883,0.012,-0.865,1,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,5,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,9,0,7,0,0,0,0,14,9,7,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,7,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,10,0,16,7,0,17,0,0,0,0,14,10,0,1,7,56,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617875895458246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309101181356234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20424430333778892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4425078071441363,0.22174255911094426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999897032260675,0.0,0.0,0.1857911236120947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391930964211713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28069067479473875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664645667602333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6027988263405536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135594974880954 divorce,HeNeedsSumMilkk,2019/01/09,"When will divorce law change in the 9 states? So, as you may know Jeff Bezos is getting divorced. I'm wondering, do you guys think his wife deserves more money that it takes to live normally? This isn't just this case, it affects the breadwinner (any gender). You find it more and more often were one spouse doesn't do much and receives a ridiculous amount in a divorce. I'd imagine in millionaire scenarios the work of taking care of family is very very minimal. Do you think this 50/50 thing is outdated? I can understand it was applicable back when society was dominated by men, but now? 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Last night I talked with her some and learned that one of the reason's she wanted the divorce was because she felt that I was talking down to her because of our age difference (13 years difference). I never felt that I was. I felt that I talked to her the same way I talked to anyone else. I so wish that I had known that I was doing this and making her feel this way. &#x200B; Part of me keeps thinking about it and wondering why she never said anything to me about it. Then I start thinking that maybe she had. I just wish I know and could have done something to work on communicating better with her. What I do know is that I never meant to treat her any different and didn't feel that I was. The only thing that keeps popping into my mind is my work environment where I work with people with intellectual disabilities and wonder if I talk to everyone the way I would talk to my clients. Day to day for the past 17 years or so, I have spent the majority of my time working with people in this field and that has been the majority of my social interaction with other people. So now I wonder if I speak to everyone the way I was making her feel that I was talking to her. Worried that my time spent mostly with my clients has been affecting my personal life. Or I could just be an a$$ and would have been doing it anyways and just not knowing or.... maybe I'm so bad that I just didn't care to think about what or how I was talking with her. (I really hope I'm not that way, but maybe I am and to blind to see it) &#x200B; Please, anyone thinking of divorce for a reason that you haven't really sat down and tried to talk to them about, please take that time to do so. If you're the one getting that talk, please take the time to listen!",6.761896135265701,5.184901880434786,7.0050724637681165,81.25345410628022,65.52173913043478,10.0256038647343,30.77053140096618,8.680891452615391,2.057414371980676,1404,38,306,17,18,456,148,368,0.033,0.91,0.057,0.8172,1,0,1,0,2,0,41.0,1,1,1,5,18,5,0,0,17,0,34,2,0,6,3,76,73,26,0,11,14,1,6,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,29,20,0,2,21,0,2,0,8,1,0,2,24,11,57,4,44,44,6,34,0,0,2,0,35,8,0,13,21,226,86,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057114977062962376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13962383755325347,0.15658358157611538,0.04381589019556339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901045420197864,0.06601807878134912,0.05302195011030759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0537979313421562,0.07855415620714043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056984764892022234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569259931641548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288723209694528,0.0,0.0,0.0831064689907518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019528136698348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659361870206088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053824570886738816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313485156939445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773608867048113,0.0,0.1855941370831088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03366299976405341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06399539842324628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145400369169098,0.0,0.0,0.1062302342807716,0.05252058460405805,0.0,0.0,0.07000542987141868,0.0,0.04551014474350453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08601756502207919,0.0,0.1941914614163784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06505783479861381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908152180160106,0.0,0.0,0.06046495786320458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08732142344430778,0.04900335076008373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977345091306453,0.06150752335313939,0.13400686571814635,0.05625943535713722,0.0,0.2121805784227652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255342879535242,0.1324934145613429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128947589440153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134386906933063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656801910580775,0.0,0.049602811721130236,0.0,0.0,0.04560521872056255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09688951538447407,0.5178790726435493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04280568035060158,0.16514139702507807,0.0,0.0,0.15028299750114826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043745019428798416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038003594219320966,0.25571515004557005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058139753056847925,0.0,0.14818697226728625,0.0,0.20962088729784012,0.1876287140671386,0.06543370522081926,0.0,0.0915411226946972,0.0,0.15658358157611538,0.12447606133917395 divorce,downpaymentquestion3,2019/01/09,"Wife and I buying first house. I have $$ from before marriage. Downpayment issue if future divorce? \*\*\*Hello, I am not in the process of divorce however I want to know what might be the consequences of the following should a divorce happen in the future\*\*\* &#x200B; &#x200B; Before marriage I was gifted $170,000 from parents. I put all of it in a mutual fund and have not touched it since. Got married two years ago. Wife and I each make about $130k salary. Mutual fund worth about 205k. We have no debts at all. Thinking about buying our first house ($650k - we live in expensive area). Thinking about selling off the mutual fund and using that as downpayment. Then wife and I jointly pay mortgage going forward. Question: Suppose we get divorced in the future --- And suppose when we bought the house, I sold the entire mutual fund amount and used that entire amount immediately as the Down Payment .... Is that 205k then considered joint property to be split up? Or would I be reimbursed the 205k?",5.038434065934066,7.5405359615384615,4.860535714285717,80.47508928571429,71.25274725274723,7.626923076923077,30.60576923076923,8.472884824447931,2.6199769230769228,803,35,133,14,16,247,103,182,0.024,0.957,0.019,-0.2359,5,0,0,0,4,0,53.0,5,0,0,2,5,0,0,0,12,0,12,0,0,3,2,29,26,14,0,4,4,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,12,0,0,4,0,14,4,3,0,0,3,4,1,15,0,22,16,5,24,0,0,0,0,17,11,0,4,11,88,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309696136377228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30092404865728234,0.33747650936159584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363306876251027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362399084086332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255212545697606,0.0,0.07892115255891774,0.0,0.11106439522411847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279937472117032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4807006228021306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494076852196852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631751318344644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262185076615682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269460851272078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14731563640421752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15419504980053428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395994007053743,0.15556249847099854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487197909489208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17796036359032233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565259940647564,0.0,0.0,0.23987250546982894,0.0,0.0,0.08190718459263599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864692785504743,0.0,0.33747650936159584,0.08942560954132628 divorce,wittyid2016,2019/01/09,"Would the Bezos' divorce really be split 50/50? When you read the [stories](https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-01-09/jeff-and-mackenzie-bezos-are-getting-a-divorce-after-25-years), every one seems to mention how they'll be splitting $140 billion 50/50. That seems like a liability to have manage that much money and giving it away productively is a lot of work. I wouldn't be surprised if one or the other decided to an asymmetrical split based on who would be willing to sign up to run the philanthropic arm. Who knows, maybe Jeff keeps just $10B and MacKenzie signs up to give away $130 billion. Or perhaps the other way around.",8.238383458646616,9.254383815789476,6.9087969924812045,74.53657894736844,61.71929824561404,9.321303258145363,33.829573934837086,9.23628265651192,3.04314686716792,521,20,85,8,7,156,79,114,0.036000000000000004,0.914,0.05,0.3472,0,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,0,1,1,1,4,2,0,0,8,0,11,1,1,1,0,19,17,7,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,4,1,1,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,3,2,13,8,2,9,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,6,2,55,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18778435702342264,0.0,0.0,0.3963765540489169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772892038861698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404712279460466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749619459638586,0.0,0.0,0.11592898119502705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030562947012498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17933654331913848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192100752854176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506767741629016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858814270231869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21100049374705396,0.0,0.135135749617758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3840699149924477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743705982553211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356931441414706,0.0,0.0,0.2996962916432005,0.0,0.0,0.13584063964388834 divorce,5hatteredIllusions,2019/01/09,"[getting started] [infidelity] Moved from a state where adultery is illegal to a no-fault divorce state shortly before finding out about spouse's affair that occurred in the previous state. How would this affect a divorce or which state's laws would apply to the divorce? Anyone have any experience? Hi all, my (31M) husband and I (28F) moved to Nevada from South Carolina in July 2018. November 2018 I found out about an affair that he had from August/September 2017 (probably earlier, but that's the earliest I have proof of) through February 2018 (physically) and October of 2018 (emotionally/virtually). We have been married since October 2010, but lived together since early 2008. We also have one child (10F). We aren't in the process of divorce right now, we're actually kind of stuck in limbo with maybe trying reconciliation (he wants to reconcile, I honestly don't know what I want at the moment so have been going along with that instead of making a major life decision while I'm still so confused and hurt etc.). I'm considering all of my options, though, and was trying to think about how things would go if I were to pursue divorce. In Nevada (where we have lived for the last 6 months) adultery is not illegal and it is a no-fault divorce state. In South Carolina (where we lived the entire relationship before moving here and where the affair occurred) adultery is illegal and actually considered a felony offense in a ""long-term marriage"" (the exact specifics of which I'm sure) and it makes a big difference in the way the divorce is handled by the courts. Does anyone have any experience with or knowledge of how the process works in such a situation? Like which state's laws would be applied to the divorce etc.?",6.719238095238098,8.004724098412698,6.967301587301588,71.82714285714287,65.15873015873015,10.063492063492065,35.0,10.181067101454742,3.8050952380952383,1381,63,230,32,21,446,168,315,0.107,0.87,0.023,-0.9805,0,0,0,0,8,0,53.0,5,0,0,1,19,7,1,1,24,0,24,1,0,6,5,53,39,21,0,7,6,2,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,12,19,0,0,7,0,0,5,3,3,0,1,7,0,13,4,40,27,5,41,0,1,0,0,24,21,0,5,9,149,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.22602604966509646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09261253549893833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750838667387354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619529009017127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19709011398622744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209959131394678,0.0,0.0,0.10134536768170203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.258315630268598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265671416742695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584746513707567,0.0,0.0,0.1269787555677991,0.0,0.0,0.060505501083895775,0.0,0.13163401765610874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12397609041010425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059740864306025,0.06364568022723935,0.09439991417761376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08179942760320423,0.05657850099558405,0.0,0.30678480379630113,0.10248745354223394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460701393685908,0.0,0.11634585708905144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09243775873073312,0.36926039672458777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847527727607216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248618511224624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1243356868491191,0.0,0.0989003814199326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915970514125565,0.13017433693213207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08197031251133048,0.0,0.09248533687129316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091487534297493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693845340592301,0.07420582721928656,0.11378190198380606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725362201918625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661447448806818,0.0919239128817781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843104405573647,0.0,0.0,0.3290699900333606,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TheHaydenLane,2019/01/09,"Any SAHMs here who have initiated divorce? So I am a sahm of a 2 year old and a 7 month old and am seriously considering filing for divorce from my husband of 4 years. No infidelity on either part, I’d just consider him emotionally abusive and a jerk and I’m done. My kids and I deserve better than constantly arguing about every.little.thing. We’ve done counseling in the past and will start again here soon, but I feel like I’m just going through the motions so I can say I tried everything and did my best. My question is this - I’ve been a sahm for the past 2+ years and have no money of my own so how do I even go about paying for an attorney? Am I shit out of luck? My name is on our credit cards but I don’t have direct access to our (his) bank account and I fear the second I file he will remove me from the cards and I’ll have nothing. I can sell my wedding rings and clothes and as a last resort ask family for temporary help (they’ve offered already) but I wanted to see if anyone who has been through this situation has advice. Idk if it’s relevant, but no assets are in my name. I signed a quit claim on the house (my credit is absolute shit) and I’m not on the cars either so I have nothing to leverage. My husband makes upwards of $250k and I feel like he will spend every last penny trying to ruin me and take the kids. He’s a decent dad but he mainly is vindictive af so I’m terrified he will “win” in the end and I will be left destitute with an unfair parenting plan. I feel helpless and so trapped and am looking for any and all advice. 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LGBT My wife and I have been together for six years (in our late twenties now) and she was my first lesbian partner. I fell head over heels for her, and thought I’d have the living dream. Marriage, kids, a shitty house to fix up together, a pack of chickens, you name it. About a year ago we celebrated our first year of marriage. She told me shortly after that she wanted another sexual experience, aka a free pass. I hesitated but when we first got together I had slept with my then bf while I was dating her. I was extremely confused, Midwesterner, had no gay friends or idols, and wasn’t sure what I wanted. She said she’s always held some resentment for that time I was untrue to her. I obliged to her request, hoping it would indeed be a “free” pass. She used it, and months later confessed to me. She said it confused her, since she had feelings for this new (not to mention young) girl. We tried therapy and she decided space was what she needed. I then moved out of our home, into a friends for a couple weeks. When I returned to my home, she requested we sleep in different bedrooms. Again I obliged. I was working on myself, going out with friends, and spending a lot of time alone. Then the holidays hit. I took off for over a month so she could figure out what she wanted. On our cross-country car ride “home” with six hours to spare, she starts to cry. I figured it would end badly for us/me and tried to figure out what was up. She confessed to me that she’s been seeing the young women (or the free pass) and that she really liked her. She told me she wants a divorce and that she hates being married. She says that I tricked her into marriage, and that she thinks we’d have no issues if we weren’t married. I don’t know where to go from here. I’m so hurt beyond words, I spend all day violently bursting into tears. My heart is breaking. I thought I had it all. I pictured her being the mother of my children, I pictured us together raising chickens on a shitty farm together. The dream is no longer a dream but a define no-go. Now I’m left homeless virtually, all my money wrapped up into our finances, a broken down truck, only a shitty bike for transportation, the family that I thought was mine-gone, and a broken fucking heart. How can I stop blaming myself, for issuing this free pass, and realize that maybe, just maybe, she was a shitty person all along. 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I forced it myself due to all the pressure. I can't bring myself to get out of it though. It gives me anxiety. Every day I just feel like I'm living a lie. Wasting my life and dreaming of a better one. It's not fair to her and it's fair to me but there is no way I'll ever have the balls to say anything. I wish I could tell my friends or my family but I don't want people to think bad things about my wife if I'm not brave enough to tell her myself.,-0.06585770750988118,1.5139891652173922,2.339446640316204,96.9105928853755,83.43478260869566,4.8774703557312264,17.41106719367589,5.565023196281405,-0.646391304347826,394,8,97,2,11,135,75,115,0.193,0.6940000000000001,0.113,-0.7483,0,1,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,1,7,0,5,1,0,0,3,19,15,7,0,5,7,1,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,6,2,0,1,0,2,18,4,13,14,2,11,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,2,6,66,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897342071790938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17100921295469254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17351194888669755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18379029391260515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16591868601005064,0.0,0.0,0.13401970150084302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472238901523216,0.0,0.0,0.18797526137302487,0.17508816033937466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590395946854616,0.0,0.105074543442464,0.1484588887256386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16055282346201166,0.0,0.10857169687966006,0.19934945962240325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14678173884305856,0.10152504730901367,0.20827934831519948,0.18349927487790765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16027521719049634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081684911841394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406868972384562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652581662905424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3632686899337851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13805915647232045,0.133155703782795,0.2041714216273965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451424258585377,0.16494921993215372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389702514227316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382227069498154 divorce,juanlee337,2019/01/09,"Dated for 2 years(mostly long distance). Got married and divorced in 2 weeks. I am completely devastated. i met this girl 2 years ago on a trip to korea through some friends. We been mostly long distance but met few times in america, paris, bali. (spend 3 months in the same city as I quit my job to spend time near her and my family) Even with up and downs I loved her. We are vastly different people but we worked our problems and moved on( at least I did and I thought she did too). I wanted to marry her so I applied for fiancee visa(allows someone to come to US for 90 days) to get married. We had official ceremony in asia(which tons of family and relatives came) and flew back to us on the 4th of Jan. We had good time until Sunday. I tried to have sex with her but she says she didnt want to it. I was frustrated so decided to go outside for a walk. Next morning after work , I come home and find a letter saying that our difference are too vast and wants to go back. She doesn't like it here. She doesn't want to do anything... She doesn't want to be part of my life .. etc...I am in complete shock at this point. I mean, its only been a week since we been married. For next 3 days I tried to reason with her. I tried to show her how much I care for her and how much she means to me but her mind seems to be set. I tried, tried, cried , told her to focus on the good things I can provide for her and take care of her. I am not a perfect being. We are different but we worked it out. But it seems that her resentment towards me has build over the year. We fought like a regular couple , I maybe raised my voice in frustration one or twice. We always found a common ground. she hasn't brought the airplane ticket yet. so I keep pleading with her to work it out. To at least give me 2 weeks. Finally she says ' ok lets try to do something this weekend and see if I want to stay'.. This is shocking to me. How can you put a condition on such request? WE ARE MARRIED! wtf.. I am in complete shock. My only other option was to call her mom and plead with her to talk to her. That i love her and I want her in my life. She got pissed at me for calling her mom and he brought the ticket back to Korea. What a fucking rollercoaster ride. Haven't sleep for 2 days. How can someone change so dramatically and be so irrational so quickly? Is this the person I knew? No. she was a different person. I dont understand why she would marry me if she just was going to turn around and leave and not even try . Korea is very traditional family. I think she felt as though she had to get married in a way to make her parents happy . Looking back ,there were alot of warning signs I ignore and I blame myself for this. Her yelling at, at quick mood changes. but I ignore it and time and talking seems to work. I guess one of the reason for my ignorance was my age. I wanted to marry and start a family before turning 40 and pressure from family was also a factor. I still can't understand how can someone get married and just give up everything in a week. This will haunt me for a long time. I still haven't to my parents. This is going to be so hard on them. she said she didn't see a future with me. WTF... why marry me then? why come all the way to america ? Still boggles my mind. I am so embarrass. I didn't want to be with this person in the same apartment, so I got her a hotel and drover her so she can go to the airport tomorrow. To be fair to her, it must of been a hard decision on her. She gave up everything to be here with me. Job, apartment, family. etc. She said she tried to love me but can't see herself with me anymore. But why not try to work our differences? Isnt comprising, supporting each other weakness, nurturing our strengths part of being married? ...; i still can't understand what just happened last 3 days. In the end, she just never appreciated my strengths and focused solely on my weakness which she thought it was more important for her. I wanted to take care of her forever.... damn..",1.1750467690723383,3.388266241082416,2.78517534826511,91.93196022483481,82.77613776137761,5.995417489058613,21.876612603335328,7.261496328839315,0.70919029148431,3086,101,666,45,86,1012,313,813,0.131,0.7909999999999999,0.078,-0.9885,7,0,1,0,2,0,119.0,17,1,1,10,41,37,7,2,31,1,66,11,2,8,4,128,138,59,0,15,19,4,3,2,2,3,4,7,1,4,27,54,0,4,19,5,2,17,19,18,0,3,39,14,134,18,116,86,17,111,0,0,4,5,103,42,3,11,50,477,161,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04180219157745962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03771175735929324,0.03923873618280799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04676747123365033,0.0,0.0,0.038806523792843904,0.04198008574917485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504452520806638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040127475813731835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963059599556677,0.05393550503763905,0.14424034271179975,0.0,0.09977255698129313,0.12186577871999647,0.14833091643805668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05217876838894462,0.05180019177988552,0.12165049227798555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2463472408567217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05526812395948685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0417674611327912,0.0,0.10518593750101947,0.062294038566629836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476406442062599,0.0,0.2667348103488194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04527850120905468,0.05165862887922645,0.04310101111950885,0.0,0.0,0.05170565727371475,0.03643369182301039,0.04359625828485512,0.07391338861911914,0.0904753540965886,0.13400319155858234,0.07910678289611807,0.11314824692235645,0.0,0.05194919489947125,0.0,0.04170113486812154,0.05019993134048014,0.08448753910751737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04730271920735432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359289000016964,0.04191566566867163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03843957666233085,0.0,0.049932879749708566,0.0,0.04822163857897722,0.06661733531604852,0.04607744923088639,0.0,0.0,0.12519845049704548,0.03960034080307988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768418941758627,0.0,0.03147793203274592,0.0,0.04737594871648464,0.10273647093561712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09523106595555086,0.1104603586032561,0.037640588385902236,0.05012085534156676,0.0693322329724118,0.0,0.03637069560079249,0.0,0.10030486407838524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06391015210618907,0.07173065846292137,0.0,0.0,0.10472542848575696,0.10213374186855073,0.0,0.032693004891224765,0.1235280734988065,0.0,0.0,0.044578987529928935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04512326498855952,0.0,0.04740621399369512,0.0,0.05015770176948249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697132666514928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971497651817424,0.11250437654165656,0.0,0.0,0.11273503176573844,0.12879098307733508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03900909026353778,0.0,0.04719145853351467,0.0,0.11986894110442473,0.036304071978555716,0.0,0.0,0.03337825186881068,0.05026351606319328,0.15063984868107566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05351366097378466,0.0,0.0,0.07091299501852473,0.07580666690888427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031329282486567044,0.030216559083100076,0.04633190805516138,0.07487541934469552,0.13748930174331855,0.0,0.0,0.0450609185178486,0.0,0.2881510243164109,0.1025874236215702,0.0,0.1472775557992419,0.11344909658879893,0.0,0.0,0.03890979539061036,0.2781465751858421,0.074862701456957,0.1513072936448289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020888183982713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598690188268748,0.0,0.0,0.033499265384288615,0.0,0.0,0.06073564157169811 divorce,emdogg89,2019/01/09,"I had that...... I Had That I had that twinkle in my eye when you mentioned his name That excitement when the door bell rang Passionate days and nights Led to endless bickering and fights I had that adventurous soul But was only told no Got a job and supported myself Only gave me crumbling wealth I had that Facebook status The one that was a must It didn't matter though The connection was all for show I had those butterflies When I would gaze into his eyes The reasons are endlessly coming Shut off my ears to the buzzing I had that once You have it for months One day the flip will switch Your world will become unhitched",2.393164108618656,5.1213731157024815,2.7013754427390806,91.08894628099172,82.30578512396696,6.101770956316411,21.865997638724913,7.447530270364453,0.9160361275088548,501,16,98,8,14,153,80,121,0.049,0.833,0.118,0.86,1,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,4,6,1,0,8,0,17,4,3,2,2,13,22,8,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,11,5,0,0,1,1,1,2,2,1,0,2,14,4,17,5,7,4,1,14,1,0,2,1,10,5,0,0,7,72,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696112623805961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21028768763490455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31487429436071634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524499375591595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422513435345678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948541840710323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290899995143057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25997973820397746,0.33084393938887513,0.3713283858470536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25099592681580074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27702438226513154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398465732784309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332670366697881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341578076604425,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway1892000,2019/01/09,"She wants to meet after the final hearing next week. Thoughts? I haven’t posted here for a while. I’ve finally found happiness. I’m doing so well, I have a girlfriend who I absolutely adore, I have some really huge changes coming to my life soon. It’s been about 4 months since we split up. I’ve only seen her once since then, out at a bar, and we talked briefly where the mood was good, but she cried and I felt fine, but some strong emotions bubbled up as I left, through the next few days. She emailed me today. She wants everything to go smoothly next week at the final hearing. I assured her I have no other motive than to tell the judge we didn’t work out from differences in what we wanted from life and that’s the end of it. She wants to meet after the hearing to make sure we “end on a good note”. Honestly, after how I felt like I got a gut shot after the last time I saw her, as much as I feel like I’m over her and love someone else, I’m TERRIFIED and anxious of the thought of seeing her and having an emotional talk, and an “official goodbye”. I’m scared of the thought of her hugging me and a flow of hidden emotions being released. Has anyone else had a final “goodbye” after the final judgement? Would you avoid it if you could do it again?",4.1298805147058815,4.743220296875002,4.802472426470589,87.45263786764706,70.640625,7.586029411764708,27.558823529411764,7.5105763829236425,1.3630696691176474,980,32,208,10,17,315,145,256,0.08,0.741,0.18,0.9765,0,1,0,0,0,0,26.0,5,2,0,3,8,17,0,2,20,0,15,6,1,3,2,40,41,18,0,7,3,0,4,2,1,1,2,3,0,0,8,16,1,1,8,1,0,3,3,2,1,0,13,10,33,14,35,25,4,42,0,0,3,2,30,12,0,3,28,136,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10111499785571017,0.0,0.06258386843489311,0.09170829048482534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09468425766684199,0.07710049832145034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146233533678636,0.0,0.09831686896824972,0.057723220215287266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351351247083622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953962530326287,0.30204270945332984,0.15854945173865806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044118301985738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04525633874891122,0.0639422788654171,0.1718773740979846,0.4902409114796498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098137442283969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05086766582554735,0.15014483424205202,0.07158520064895578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527957141142512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3026353946310081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295839440063409,0.0,0.0,0.09724727554442074,0.0,0.12643983742595274,0.08745509201344984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08078161675301394,0.0,0.05974517878632051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144191303287008,0.0,0.06579635933965491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28556825292398064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531973837578007,0.0,0.06807246756028226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572089970156704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573390953526307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960996368995328,0.0,0.07132377291408341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148078664739621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583716437450748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435725678820218,0.0,0.0,0.1438812074107923,0.07823117926521751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317054647026595,0.05219099466455247,0.0,0.08484012715304101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116910534012925,0.0,0.1435907749765864,0.0,0.08047560439418389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06516059286560379,0.0,0.0,0.06358167358366112,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Livefreeconsulting,2019/01/09,"Can we change jurisdiction for the custody battle? My ex left the county with my daughter while I was at work, and so we had to file in the county ""where the child now resides"". Problem is it's in the middle of nowhere and they only have one judge for two counties. Meaning the calendar is FREQUENTLY booked and we have to wait months to even be heard. &#x200B; Has anyone had success changing jurisdictions?",4.325939849624056,6.850250842105265,4.325864661654137,83.38605263157895,73.47368421052632,6.448120300751881,29.27819548872181,7.447530270364453,1.8954458646616552,328,14,57,4,7,101,58,76,0.07,0.884,0.046,-0.2406,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,3,0,1,2,4,3,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,10,13,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,7,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,4,1,7,1,10,8,0,10,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,4,44,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27112880078402185,0.30406211030410085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17496966743734174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5294294996402684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652774202984798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27188034052091425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725785529003177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19973466129619125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956526361180266,0.19031449011581325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394404666756961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444425878517968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18217357841302945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30406211030410085,0.0 divorce,Forbetterorworse1924,2019/01/09,"I feel guilty- Advice needed please I have been married for four years and unhappy for three. My partner is a homemaker due to them claiming they can not find a job. I am tired of supporting someone who does not help. We do not have children and do not own a house. I want to leave but I do not know how to start the conversation. I went to an attorney two years ago for a consultation but never went through with anything. I feel guilty for wanting more out of life. I have been waiting for a big argument or an excuse/reason to ask for divorce. For those who initiated divorce without anything major being wrong, how did you start the conversation? I have no idea where he will life, what he will do, and what will happy. I feel guilty. 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To start things off, my divorce has now been finalized for roughly a year. During our divorce, I was in contact with my ex to ensure he was following through with his attorney, and getting paperwork completed on time for a speedy end to our marriage. Once the divorce was finalized, I blocked his number, and during the process of our divorce he was blocked on all social media. He is now unable to contact me, himself. While going through our divorce, he had asked me over text to mail him important documents, to which I was compliant with. Now I am being harassed by his friends on social media platforms, being accused of not sending those papers, and being told to contact him. Instead of taking “no” for an answer when told to contact him directly, they take it upon themselves to try and manipulate me and tell me I’m in the wrong. I don’t speak to my ex due to previous mental and physical abuse inflicted by him. During our marriage, he was manipulative and would gaslight me. I was cheated on, lied to about a severe mental illness he had, I was not allowed to have a job, I was slipped LSD and other drugs like ecstasy and cocaine without my consent... All around, my ex spouse caused me to want to distance myself after divorce for my own safety. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to contact him about lost documents? People lose similar documents all the time and are able to get replacements. Besides, our divorce has been finalized for a very long time, so why try and contact me now concerning them? I really don’t feel like I owe him anything, nor am I obligated to help him if I did everything on my end when I was asked to mail them to him. Also, how do I prevent the online harassment from his friends? Blocking has not seemed to help. I just want to be happy. I was finally getting my life in order, and now I’m in fear of him again. Sincerely, XX ",5.506223404255318,6.47070411170213,6.1867702127659605,77.49440000000001,67.72340425531915,8.99472340425532,35.25276595744681,9.174902378510234,3.293225234042554,1550,76,277,28,25,507,182,376,0.127,0.769,0.104,-0.9109,3,0,2,0,9,0,49.0,6,0,3,3,18,15,4,1,12,0,35,3,0,5,3,43,56,21,0,5,7,4,2,2,2,1,3,1,0,0,6,17,0,4,3,0,1,3,9,9,0,1,19,3,58,6,60,31,4,47,0,2,0,0,64,15,0,2,28,211,64,2,0.10249370158089613,0.1214382764792516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08196417612428816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434358337173095,0.09124112433360684,0.19163555069089003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052892647130598,0.0,0.0,0.10746269608329387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886015423718772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815579957166238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211473014888034,0.0,0.0,0.11533390922371148,0.05182389511045838,0.0732215208886021,0.0,0.4491073609172701,0.0,0.08718109020577852,0.0,0.0,0.1583727591895615,0.0,0.16064618641346648,0.0,0.058249532576703074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910645119550058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373987353903387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170918378144236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07239433252544791,0.10014649087117213,0.0,0.0,0.090703700610397,0.0,0.11466423519549795,0.111883982702634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20657908883531612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091524471510989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105622751564028,0.0,0.0,0.11250730605489086,0.0,0.0,0.1963212684771151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656600897339446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330641652502708,0.0,0.11578870911413745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20895884285105712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725455695111452,0.0,0.08185160247901532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15412501618057875,0.0,0.08958401277446768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06809226107156632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390596064973401,0.0,0.0,0.1958742482632668,0.0,0.13917299102032013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456803781301622,0.18136032213795925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924846238012813,0.0,0.0,0.09880027082771367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280858491510936,0.22412154589576636,0.0,0.06600258343009235 divorce,krklages,2019/01/09,"My wife has tried to kick me out for years My wife has tried to kick me out for years and I always ignored it or refused to leave. Our 25th anniversary will be in July and it has been Rocky for most of the past 15 years. She has been treating me badly and about 6 years ago I started treating her the way she was treating me. This leads to fights and she eventually tells me to ""pack my crap and get out"". I usually go upstairs or out to the garage. Well on Monday she called me at work on my cell phone. I was not in my office as I was at one of our other locations and sharing space with someone else. She was bitching about our son (20) and I wasn't saying much because I didn't want the other person to hear what I had to say. She started bitching at me for being quiet and not being sympathetic to her argument. I got up and left the space I was in so I could tell her that I wasn't alone (that usually causes her to hang up on me). Well I said ""hang on"" so I could get into some place more private. She hung up on me and it pissed me off. I sent her a text saying ""did you ever think I was not alone when you called"". That set her off and she sent a long text that ended with saying she was going to find a place to live. This usually leads to her telling me to leave. I replied back asking if that is what she really wanted and that she was correct that I have been unhappy for a long time and that maybe it is time that we separate. She did not take that well and is saying I planned this, which I didn't, and that I am giving up on my family. She says that she doesn't trust me to give her money, she doesn't work, or that I won't help with the kids (20 + 18 with autism). I told her I will help with the kids and even give her up to half of my take home pay. Even said she can stay in the house we are renting for a year so she can get a job and Insurance. I don't want to leave, but I do want to leave. Does that make sense? I don't want to leave because it is comfortable being there, but is it toxic too. I have been sleeping on the couch for 5 years. I'm extremely lonely and getting very depressed. I can't take it anymore. I even told her I would talk and try to work things out, but she doesn't want me to blame her for treating me badly. She said I need to forget the past and just move on. But if I forget the past it will repeat itself. So now that I am taking her up on my offer she is pissed and playing the victim. She also says I'm winning. I just want to be happy again and I don't think it will be with her.",2.4802421052631587,2.9696564672727312,3.850009569377992,93.23911961722489,74.32727272727273,6.880382775119617,21.74641148325359,6.7183091564049375,0.19785454545454506,1947,40,474,15,38,643,207,550,0.13,0.823,0.047,-0.981,2,4,0,0,1,1,52.0,5,2,0,7,22,25,7,0,18,0,58,4,4,4,2,77,96,38,0,13,15,3,0,0,0,6,0,12,3,3,34,36,0,2,3,1,3,9,16,12,3,2,27,12,100,13,73,55,4,74,0,2,0,0,81,35,5,7,27,344,134,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05819467313221236,0.0,0.0,0.13598698987606656,0.0,0.05250019939023362,0.054625973904940325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510705776320981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137379216911101,0.0,0.0,0.050480718926300135,0.10962984459206572,0.08003913647048888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13407177109168705,0.0,0.0,0.06744052892942726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048322025019692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654416060316994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05745066779460852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05484206543202096,0.0,0.058146323349606586,0.0,0.0,0.13008341461307046,0.059384090904697234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188888076385848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000281705613144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371974475808165,0.1889320915776296,0.07462069941452434,0.0,0.05250622034116762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988553674764726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07399220588184392,0.0,0.08800748503859103,0.0,0.06585220005596888,0.0,0.0,0.0757511675037815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0651473934203473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34756881229538483,0.07132880582891933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057970062340657776,0.11619618698434768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04382181642628053,0.0,0.06595414608287932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06977545156465298,0.04826022850834822,0.04867856722186966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04448606964491203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18801076709329656,0.0,0.057322958347724474,0.137180340242348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205700546279554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734425887210407,0.36545203494552025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569730916861982,0.0,0.05562494519256923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293467083565474,0.06997405584233722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974422110516551,0.05276690091511604,0.17214271241029816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04361487484200734,0.08413160710786133,0.0,0.0,0.07656196646343183,0.0,0.0,0.12546258103833208,0.0,0.13371591328916296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169122617686172,0.05416804093158602,0.2710540737332717,0.052109832961857935,0.0,0.0,0.17708142652826214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338172201291782,0.0,0.0,0.04663580366583223,0.0,0.0,0.25365828981890265 divorce,ElephantBoy,2019/01/09,"M27, A rollercoaster of emotion. I’ve (m27) been told less than 24 hours ago that my wife wants a divorce. 2.5 years ago we had some issues and went to counseling. Everything was going great. However, on 12/15/18, I found out that two years ago when we were going through our shit, that she cheated on me with my best friend. During the fight she said that she’s happier than she’s ever been with me and that she has issues with her self and that she loves me and wants to be the mother of my child etc. I told her I’d still be willing to give things another go since we had been doing so well and made some appointments with the best counselor in town, and that I’d give her some time to think about it. Well yesterday she told me she wanted to talk after work. We met for a beer and she told me that she wanted out. We are in the process of buying a house from her family. We were actually gonna pull the trigger next month. So here I am, 26, soon divorced, and searching for a house with a 3 year old pit bull and no savings or anything because I’ve been pouring money into beefing up her credit score to get the house. I feel lost, and helpless. I feel like I’m starting all over and that everything we had worked for for 6 years was pointless. I feel angry and upset. What sucks the most is that she has a well off family that she could go live with. I don’t. My family is not well off and my dad is freshly remarried so his house is at max capacity. Currently in talks with a friend that has an office in his house he might clear out for me. She’s also being pretty civil. I just think it’s kinda selfish the way she’s going about it. It’s just fucked guys. Idk. I know it could be worse but I just feel broken and helpless and now I’m venting/ranting on the internet. 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My mother had me when she was twenty. My dad turned eighteen a couple months before I was born, and immediately there was stress in the relationship. My father was making 70k as a teenager, so the stress wasn't unbearable, and their relationship lasted 18 years. I remember the first the first sign that there were real problems was when I went into the attic at 15 to get the Christmas tree down for December and found my dad's old diary, with only 3 pages filled. My mom wanted him to keep one for future generations, as a religious thing. They were dated all just days after the wedding, and my dad talked about how his father was wrong about the ""honeymoon phase"" but that my mother was irritable while pregnant. I thought it was really weird to see that my dad kind of talked about me as a baby causing stress on their lives. It never stroke me as out of place for having such young parents. Flash forward to August 2018. I have 2 younger siblings, the middle child a girl and youngest a boy. My sister always had special treatment, but we alk got along really well. I did some stupid things as a teen, but kept amazing grades in high school while running track as a decent athlete. I got a huge scholarship to a pretty good college an hour away. I remember brushing off comments about how my younger siblings said my parents weren't doing well. I commuted to school, and worked, so I hardly noticed and thought they were being dramatic. My dad told us my parents decided to take a ""permanent break"" to try and be more happy. I had no idea how to feel. I thought it would all be okay. Everything was relatively normal for the next two weeks with my dad, but my mom brought an entirely new reality. She was darkly sick 24/7, had unhealthy fits of tears around the kids and I (siblings are 13 and 15), and broke down on a daily basis. I rarely saw her out of her room, and I'm convinced my siblings and I were all that kept her alive. She tells me my dad left her, nothing was mutual, and he didn't even tell her that he told the kids and I he was leaving. Eventually, my mom pulled herself together and got a job. We stilled lived in my dads house and used credit cards with my mom and him on account. Shortly after, it became apparent his new residence was not his sisters house, 10 minutes away, but was instead a female coworker that my mom coincidentally says he left for. Then they bought a town house together. I was house sitting overnight when my siblings went to see my dads new place. He never addressed it to me, and never came forward about his speedily new 'roommate,' but eventually we saw her clothes in his bedroom. My siblings each spent 2 nights with him. He has a 3 bed, and just about told me I didn't have a hime with him. I thought it saddening. But brushed it off. My paternal aunt's ex boyfriend came forward to my mother about how there was a mystery girl with my dad that went on date night instead of my mother, and it all started falling into place. Then we realized my dad claimed deceased to remove his name from the credit card- our only sustenance. He became very accusatory any time I asked questions that I knew the answers to but hoped were wrong. It all went south for good when he came by the house unexpectedly with a trailer and started taking stuff from the garage. He has $50,000 and took everything he could pack into a home depot carriage. I told him he wasn't allowed here as per my mom and that he said he wouldn't come unannounced. He came on a day my little sister and my mom were off celebrating my sisters birthday an hour away. I said I'd have to call the police because he wouldn't listen and took everything. He told me he already notified them, and eventually they showed up just to say he had the right to take his property. However, I also got to hear my dad tell the police nothing was wrong but I'm just 'emotional,' and that set the tone for the rest of my relationship with him. He reflected every wrongdoing he ever did, and told me I was the last person who could tell him when he did wrong. I wrote the declaration against my father for court, as my mom losing meant I'd have to drop out of school and move out becuase my mom couldn't support more than herself and one child. My little sister decided to stay with my dad. We believe its because it felt more normal at his place, where she calls his girlfriend mom. Also, she knew my dad was with a new girl often, so she probably had too much guilt with my mom. I showed up to court, and hid in a corner of the building, just in case my dad started lying and witnesses were called. I told my paternal aunt the day before court to help testify against my dad, because he routinely told my mother she wouldn't get a cent. My dad tried to claim she was abusive to him physically and wanted to kill herself, which is why he left. He said he called a mental health hotline and they told him to put his oxygen mask on first, then the children, like a crashing plane. Get out first, then help them next. Except it took him 6 weeks to get my siblings. So he left us in a house with a woman he believed to be dangerous and suicidal. Either he wasn't bugged by the idea of me walking in on my mother's deas body, or he made it up. Fortunately, when I explained to my dad's sister that if he got his way, I'd drop out of school and have to work and live on my own, she told my dad and he eased up on his legal push. Turns out, he had us in a legal corner. He had been ready to leave for years- he wrote my mom out of the house without her knowing, he took every picture of her damaged body when she hurt herself, and he claimed she was abusive to him and my siblings. He wanted to say she was suicidal and insane, and deserved only loneliness. Of course, in the papers, he never mentioned me, my well being, his relationship with me, or how I mattered. My mother mentioned me constantly in court, as he often treated. Me much harsher. It became apparent she was fighting for my siblings and he was fighting to not have to pay child support or alimony. But he settled when he realize I would lose my life. When the divorce started rolling, the documentation came in. He took the most expensive vehicle then traded it in to avoid paying the full half-value of it when the funds were split. We saw thousands upon thousands of dollars siphoned to an account never before heard of. We saw thousands of dollars unaccounted for withdrawn from ATMs in Downtown LA an hour away, and 5,000 spent at Macy's, when he never did clothing shopping for anyone. He falsely claimed he kept our pantry stocked with hundreds of dollars of food after he left. He commited fraud with a credit card company so he could free himself from the payments. Multiple times, he expected me to go out of my way to help him, and was very frustrated when I said no. It has been so difficult to tell my dad no, even as a 19 year old living away from him. Most recently, he was trying to force my mom to pay insurance on her car (court said he gets the car in April but must keep paying fees and insurance) and I got fed up and broke my silence with him to tell him each penny he takes is money my brother and I don't have to eat. We had $200 left after my mom paid rent last month, and she keeps wanting to do more and buy us things because my dad never did. He makes over 16,000 a month and pays less than 1/5 of that to child support, yet he says he's tight on money too, and I could never understand the situation. I explained he's belittling me and I've been just as included as my mother. He said everything I've said in a legal context makes no sense. He told me if I hate him so much, why do I still live in a house he pays for? He critisizes everything I do, even after leaving. He asks for help and simultaneously tells me I'm not allowed to do things. He 'advises' my mother against giving me privileges. He's an ass to me and my mother, and is stingy when my little brother needs something. All growing up, we thought we were struggling and hardly making it. Then we saw almost 100k unaccounted for. We still have no idea if we're getting 50 thousand or 350 thousand. Honestly, the worst day of my life was finding out if I was losing my life to him, dropping out of school and working instead. He has never apoligized, and has done so many little shitty things. Worst of all is the fact that he's been this way all the time, but I found a way to deal with it or he found a way to cover it up. It wasnt until this divorce that we finally saw this man is a tower of cards, and money is the only friction holding them up.",5.420950016550812,5.815764502923976,5.848293059693257,81.86620655412116,67.71345029239767,8.604876972304977,30.81043804479753,8.451235370850725,2.191277170914708,6820,251,1347,92,106,2195,577,1710,0.121,0.816,0.063,-0.9989,13,1,1,0,6,0,181.0,19,0,10,10,68,52,7,6,85,1,106,12,3,14,21,256,227,133,3,25,33,63,6,1,1,6,6,15,6,14,46,116,3,9,31,3,32,32,30,29,3,12,133,31,221,24,217,78,30,231,0,7,8,1,299,97,1,17,97,883,267,30,0.0,0.06305889528063674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026646873182659542,0.0,0.02936568051652945,0.04256129573667189,0.022142318098551717,0.0,0.0,0.018096257137646482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01860689072368807,0.0,0.0,0.02368925462155871,0.04975501330146373,0.0,0.12500861711433195,0.0,0.0,0.06488678895307258,0.0,0.06793149477241958,0.059962519976679216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059117201656366636,0.0,0.0,0.10869041195363884,0.1521783351769485,0.0,0.02733662281039726,0.0,0.022922848697049743,0.0,0.02875682211650102,0.0,0.08498623672356935,0.029444345054234287,0.0,0.06864706050458236,0.0274345672551936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02723208839704696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027229492718040437,0.0,0.02993356930059072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052728549073024406,0.024070992914346917,0.04484149495131304,0.0,0.11958035988872913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.013455220501929002,0.0,0.025550541998236226,0.02915083166414579,0.024321789930520747,0.09054053461763713,0.03217788608116632,0.08753210899928808,0.0,0.0,0.08341827091074723,0.02552750502911848,0.015123531399623975,0.04463975451396834,0.12769853055287692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028327692387640574,0.047676101431170084,0.02627265664110901,0.0,0.028286036983302863,0.029992306632379243,0.0,0.07134663565611139,0.028115772188932436,0.02669280301832489,0.026430529662283632,0.07861883565701024,0.2456423312652312,0.028487412744904864,0.09012106542680304,0.0,0.0,0.026407113782814684,0.07095870760650885,0.02944090848159119,0.027711054160656244,0.014624600244014687,0.06507406329798504,0.0,0.08453098758154172,0.1734762782630323,0.0,0.05638798695912555,0.013000693157991787,0.10668405365429458,0.11748912365145317,0.0,0.0,0.0893120382953878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02517978323716885,0.07105166495744894,0.026979175385822268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026817428383589647,0.0,0.0,0.4363274775861685,0.06372146219804592,0.02828307000444904,0.058686001626270176,0.019731571685734108,0.18471501144577399,0.12850438667513067,0.05660177730771813,0.04994486796574557,0.0521458697549002,0.05106756232841381,0.030296573203870542,0.0558471182594448,0.0,0.03606433477034568,0.08095485286299632,0.0,0.0,0.08864443568221025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02323552492252325,0.11121049249572892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02707275127450523,0.028690944175220976,0.02546294259751632,0.0,0.02675120486057647,0.029810187179840717,0.0,0.0,0.030288917273951364,0.03409512093460453,0.0,0.02627495554129509,0.11428016542465246,0.0602896999161782,0.02272547857266933,0.20250372377078474,0.08464790783131118,0.0,0.13465775598614765,0.04241072601621322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029911655164419706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02048629462164225,0.0,0.0,0.07534104737823848,0.02836357308343983,0.06375425992839745,0.0,0.09144774757944972,0.02781938692868942,0.030463000456206608,0.05821579416140672,0.09059286453920633,0.0,0.0,0.08003204209768322,0.0427775075340704,0.162813090357499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839516841025206,0.0,0.0,0.10563001731048986,0.046550916015722636,0.0,0.0,0.2797053670855753,0.14782789471084545,0.05420096110394902,0.057889819798399314,0.02599488578214677,0.027702782220874328,0.12803806794180694,0.022983187971508633,0.0,0.04391339530787109,0.06278295933991941,0.10561207563198263,0.04269115869209196,0.0,0.07177891752296034,0.09867391615911544,0.04802421754026217,0.029710008882305083,0.0,0.025651862462358874,0.0,0.058118939972638436,0.0,0.0,0.03780709892138223,0.11637893341800044,0.0,0.05140944993748482 divorce,Chr3y,2019/01/09,"Staying friends, texting and small talk? My STBX (F24) wants to be friends. (She left me) I'm (M27) not feeling it. We live separated since November, were together 8 years 4 married, 1 kid (f5). Today she texted me how I'm doing, I answered strange question, but i'm doing fine. She then wrote she wants to talk some time like a normal person, and not cut down our communication limited to our child. I answered I can't. Don't assume I'm your friend. We don't fight. There is no hope we are coming back together. And I don't want to. It's okay. Did some of you, dear strangers of reddit, stay friends, and why? How did you feel that way? I can understand if you fight and hate each other, staying friends is no option. &#x200B; I'm curious of your stories. Thank you.",1.1674195906432772,3.634594703947368,2.530964912280705,91.95730994152048,85.51315789473685,5.4830409356725145,24.23391812865497,6.937597516519254,0.9355953216374272,593,24,124,8,18,191,97,152,0.097,0.637,0.266,0.9839,0,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,5,6,0,1,4,15,4,0,1,1,14,0,0,2,0,33,30,10,0,6,4,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,0,3,4,10,0,1,7,0,0,1,8,4,0,0,4,2,23,11,8,25,3,13,0,0,0,0,29,3,0,7,6,69,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293058103464308,0.17150666054274172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10853181570683017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12158394550946665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427343362027204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5452415002609836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13935149577864853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14018886224464014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15335448807919616,0.0,0.0,0.06895633214688576,0.0,0.12463364738634584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13829216147204965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1232423959779274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811473615699578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11675662736804725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4513254661068236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268940572697062,0.0,0.12994738019066754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230280205094846,0.0,0.13378898478431414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693695397627032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497529869059295,0.11203435505320332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736143586947607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17150666054274172,0.09089277169806677 divorce,ueeediot,2019/01/09,"My Divorce Was Granted! I know a lot of people in this sub feel defeated or broken or hurt. But, I am so happy right now. After 34 months and $50k in legal fees because of their antics and over rotations by my lawyer, my divorce was finally granted and I couldn't possibly be happier. There is a wonderfully green field on the other side of the mountain that you face. Keep climbing. You'll get there and you'll get to where you cant see the side of the mountain you're on today. There is happiness in your future....should you decide to search and accept it!",2.206534090909092,4.4452157410714275,3.763051948051949,86.21831168831172,79.08928571428572,6.572727272727272,23.574675324675326,7.686295010490155,1.2629357142857147,441,15,86,7,11,146,77,112,0.101,0.728,0.171,0.82,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,6,1,2,6,5,0,0,6,0,10,1,1,0,0,16,17,9,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,1,5,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,2,3,13,3,14,11,1,16,0,2,2,0,9,10,0,4,5,60,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126602924605753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125468854957759,0.0,0.0,0.27182917362390285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25928956799647834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.52830693141942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656428452658845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22056142425399616,0.0,0.0,0.13637322751926814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21096280647404733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19806584606762204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17203152107735378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2797446134055441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119132699810551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977383139287326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352111086011973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26910113820047943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Newfoundself17,2019/01/09,Tennagera and divorce Has anyone dealt with a teenager who refuses to talk to the parent that has left the house? General advice for teenagers and divorce please.,7.942499999999999,10.01511110714286,6.305714285714287,74.78928571428574,62.92857142857143,8.457142857142857,39.0,8.841846274778883,3.8715142857142855,133,7,19,2,2,39,23,28,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.3182,1,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,0,13,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3683014045791621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635365898217492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4348909179590231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40950193727787904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41850180905690987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41372199307231855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30293719203314023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lifemovesonandsodoi,2019/01/09,"Having a rough night tonight. Hey guys, I just need to get this out of my system. I (28M) and my stbxw(26F) have about twoish weeks until our divorce is final. We’ve been together 10 years with 3 of those being married (no kids). My stbx dropped off my dog tonight (she wanted the dog over the Christmas holidays since it was the first anniversary of her dads death) and it happened to come out that she is now sleeping with a friend of hers (the dude who she went to stay with when she left). In theory, I have no problem with her doing that. We are no longer together... but it hurts nonetheless. I’m just sitting here with the dog listening to the washing machine run and trying to find anything on Netflix to watch to disappear into. I find it funny how strongly she can send me into a tailspin. My live has gotten significantly easier without her around and I feel so good most of the time. I’m working out, taking care of myself, kicking ass at work and growing closer to a lot of my friends. But tonight I feel like I have been cast back to September when she left. I yet again have to be careful about what I think about lest I hurt myself unnecessarily. I will slowly process this when I’m ready... but that is not tonight. But it is a little nice to have crushed even the smallest possibility in the back of my mind that we would work it out. I never put any stock in that but it’s hard to let go of something I valued so highly for so long. But it’s getting easier. I know I will be fine. I’ll pick myself up and continue on my path of growth and healing. I do wish the healing and moving on process was faster. But I put my all into the relationship, so maybe it’s justified that it takes as long as it does to heal. Haha by time I’ve finished writing this, I’ve found something to watch. Wooo. Small victories. Thanks for listening.",3.172164855072463,4.843235654891308,4.1043260869565215,87.4848768115942,74.2445652173913,6.971884057971015,26.39710144927536,7.675431598112923,1.3597638405797103,1443,52,298,19,30,465,199,368,0.066,0.767,0.16699999999999998,0.9914,0,0,2,0,1,2,47.0,3,0,0,5,21,14,0,0,16,1,26,6,2,2,2,55,51,26,1,5,11,1,4,1,2,3,4,2,0,2,23,24,0,0,7,2,0,11,6,3,0,1,7,8,43,11,57,37,3,65,0,2,2,1,26,24,1,2,27,206,66,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800089194965212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438948708002552,0.10210857284183752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763966080965984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338914634987997,0.0,0.0,0.0988051081942871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037597668377922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07575919940466039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11599295838323878,0.08194271008659765,0.0,0.12564978788609613,0.20967002114995556,0.09756496058903444,0.0,0.12576417550962155,0.1772360493799153,0.0,0.11985350499910495,0.0,0.0651874544899764,0.09620610057699162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357242904173427,0.10143007788764638,0.0,0.10274993353672583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118833700852084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455804630249033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303689513049239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492468347404423,0.11728996278886925,0.0,0.056037315041102695,0.11496094577104594,0.10128344628935992,0.20301427647773101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975150368591221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11523298307134627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581572621155653,0.0,0.0,0.12190944628168525,0.0,0.0850496419977334,0.08846479836299087,0.0,0.0,0.1076395030199716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12930860535711733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975375842428883,0.0,0.2306131952017797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314638833149333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488219148638956,0.0,0.11478424579627383,0.0,0.0,0.17660549815101473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12225644134912995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17248237082088902,0.0,0.0,0.10560164753251383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349603196622953,0.0,0.0,0.13376662892887936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0778747280626205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765386331691675,0.0,0.0920065522670948,0.0,0.0,0.10632935603800207,0.0,0.0,0.13190096059416678,0.110568065927362,0.0,0.25051197728635244,0.0,0.0,0.08148059058471348,0.0,0.0,0.07386394728411637 divorce,badmxh,2019/01/09,"Divorce seems like the only route at this point. Idk where to start or how to feel. Hey everyone. Me (27f) and my husband (29) probably won't make it and im not sure how to feel or what to do. We've been together almost 7 years. Married less than a year. I've begged for counseling for years for us and he has always said no. We're mostly in a dead bedroom at this point (for probably close to 3 and a half years honestly). I resent him so much and can't stand being around him. This is my fault because I chose to go through with the wedding hoping change would come :/ I never wanted this. I didn't want to marry and divorce so quick (at all obviously) but I feel completely alone around him. I try so hard and it seems to go unnoticed. On top of him degrading me and on a hand full of occasions being abusive. He's completely changed and im tired. Im tired of losing myself to try and make HIM happy, and it not even working. I'm tired of this being one sided. Ive tried separating, but im scared. I don't want to not find a place for my dogs, or be poor (I've finally found financial stability after years of struggling). Idk what im doing or where im going I just know I'm tired and I want happiness. I can't do this any longer. 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I'm still endeavoring to survive, and feel as though I'm losing strength—and thus am questioning my ability to hold on. There's not a point to this post other than to say that if you've arrived at the point of losing your final modicum of hope, I empathize. Our situations may be similar, although our pain (respectively) is unique. For those who can still reconcile, please put yourselves to the side and be vulnerable, share gratitude, and be gentle and kind. You may never again have that chance.",7.774857142857139,8.043847200000002,7.305476190476193,73.85535714285717,62.71428571428571,10.428571428571429,35.595238095238095,10.125756701596842,3.565095238095239,456,19,80,9,6,143,79,105,0.101,0.7170000000000001,0.182,0.8591,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,3,0,3,6,7,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,1,1,17,14,8,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,2,8,4,14,8,1,14,0,2,0,0,10,5,0,7,6,56,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984339051467822,0.0,0.0,0.21325776107251213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19335693899505066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2027248291008181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4355847211756268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15014593458545966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20714871649524447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21369550607731555,0.36806300429452815,0.0,0.3728910974056151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957028917832013,0.21808138609453365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481396475714204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21882369202464103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31093660008992924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19126792933589684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ExMoMeg,2019/01/10,"Friends Ok so..this is my first time posting here. I’m 35 and my STBXH and I split up in September after 14 years. He’s always been the extrovert in the relationship and all our friends have stopped talking to me and have continued talking with him and he’s even made some new friends. We still live together because frankly I can’t afford to move out right now. Anyway, I find myself completely alone most evenings while he’s chatting it up with his friends either in his phone or PlayStation. I am not ready to date but I don’t have anyone to talk to. Does anyone else feel like that too?? I seriously just stare at the wall or just go to bed. 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I've always struggled with low grade depression and social anxiety my entire adult life. There was a time( when I started college) when I hit a real low. I was having panic attacks almost daily and ended up dropping out of school for 2 years because I just couldn't handle it. Over time, some things improved including meeting my stbx. I've always had very low self esteem and body image issues, so I think meeting him was almost like a reward in a way. I really thought that for the first time in my life I found someone who completely understood me and someone I could trust unconditionally. We had some issues during the duration of our marriage, but I always thought that's what all couples experience at some point. He pretty much blindsided me with it and told me he didn't love me anymore. I felt completely crushed. To add insult to the injury, he basically pushed me out of the house since it was in his name. I knew that legally I could stay there longer, but I was so distraught and broken, I had to get out of there. He basically treated the whole thing like a business transaction acted without an ounce of emotion or remorse. It's been almost a year since we separated and I'm still struggling with severe depression and anxiety. Some days I have really hard time functioning. I go to work and get things done because I have to, but I feel completely numb. I know it's stupid to let him have that control over me, but I feel completely broken and don't know at what point things will start to have meaning again. I wish I was a stronger person. It completely shattered my self confidence and whatever little self esteem I had and I haven't even entertained the idea of dating again because the thought of it is too painful. Has anyone else dealt with this, especially if you already had depression/anxiety? Sorry for the rant, these past few weeks have been really hard. 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Emotional abuse. 3 kids. To make a very long story short, I have been with my husband since I was 18. We are 28 and we got married when we were 22. We have three kids under the age of 5. When we were engaged I caught him talking to let's call her Susan. I caught them talking, was upset for it a little while but got over it. We got married. Maybe a year or two into our marriage I caught him having another emotional affair with Susan. I got over it once again because nothing physical happened. This has happened several times with this girl Susan. She was just some girl he supposedly hooked up before we started dating. Well last year in June of 2017 I caught him talking not to Susan, but a very good friend of mine. I was furious. I finally told him to move out. He was moved out for about half a year and he constantly begged me back. Anytime I ever tried to leave he would threaten suicide. He said he couldn't live without me and I do care so much about him. I have loved him for a very long time. Well, I took him back in October of 2017. He moved back in and we were so in love. Or so I thought. I got a disturbing phone call from SUSAN in July of this year. She told me everything. She was calling me to tell me to tell him to leave her alone. Turns out he was talking to my friend and Susan at the same time. Come October when we were close to reconciling, she was getting ready to leave her husband for my husband. Oh and the best part is, she has an STD. Just great. So we did some marriage counseling still working on things although the thought of Susan just drives me mad. He had actual physical contact with her last year and May of this year when we were fully married and together. I thought everything was going great. So here we are this past weekend we were at some friends for dinner letting all of our kids play. I had a talk with him ( yes I feel like his mother) to please be on your best behavior don't come drunk or messed on his medicine which is a (benzo?). Something for anxiety that he abuses. He will take all 30 pills in less than 2 weeks. Anyways beside the point. He was so messed up on Friday night that he was following my friend around. I was so preoccupied with kids and didn't think I had to watch my husband around other women. He even tried to get her in the bathroom and at this point she is telling him no. And at this point I was pulled aside by several people about what is going on. I was furious. Of course he doesn't remember the whole night. I made him stay at his parents. I told him enough was enough. I am so tired of cheating. Whether it be emotional or physical it has been pretty much off and on our entire marriage. He is back home now but still begging me. He told me he would call counseling first thing this morning. He didn't. He swore he would never drink another drop again. That was a lie. He has been drinking right now. I just have no will power. I think he is such a sad and depressive person that I can help him. But on the other side, I have tried and tried and he just brings me down with him. He is the father of my children and I care about him so much. I'm not in love with I love him so much. I obviously don't want him to kill himself and the last time we were separated he did get on some drugs for a little while and I don't want that to happen. I don't want to leave him no where to live. I care way more than I should for what he has put me through. Now December 2018 things are great! He almost overdosed on kolonpen in November we separated and then it got better. Today, January 10, he is fired. For the second time in 3 years for alcohol in the work truck. Any help???? Should I just make it for my kids? What am I doing?! Every time I get an out I always let him back. 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My parents were married for 36 years and quite recently my mom decided she wants a divorce. I talk to my dad but I don’t really know what to say. How can I help him through this transition? He goes to therapy and is truing to keep it up, but what other resources or advice do you know of that could help him? 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I have a great settlement, I have my kiddo, 6, 50/50. So, I feel like it's bad to complain. But even at that, it's hard sometimes. It's just so hard to be away from him, especially on nights like this when I so badly want to just read him a story, watch one of his dumb shows with him, or even make him eat his peas.",0.36994575045207867,1.7476600632911428,2.2544665461121163,99.00025316455697,81.27848101265823,5.5269439421338165,16.349005424954793,6.18269132825596,-0.7803070524412301,271,4,71,2,7,90,53,79,0.191,0.584,0.224,0.6179,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,1,9,11,1,0,2,0,3,1,0,1,0,11,8,6,0,1,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,4,13,6,9,7,0,5,0,1,1,0,8,3,1,3,4,44,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297599647470578,0.0,0.4083730751971384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502326412128581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32304198584703403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365031545624013,0.17470443193750212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696139405102301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4381321718839705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389466318898309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16323702730141254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294908016743139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571138207781053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24461318667678836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418632447373821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14424016177483628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Druticus,2019/01/10,"Advice for my buddy whose wife just left him She left him and he’s devastated. She continues to text him and actually sent him picture of her new boob job. He’s pandering to her daily texts until the papers go through. My advice to him is to block all contact after the papers go through. Any advice would help. Thanks. 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(Kind of nsfw) Okay so this is kind of gross and kind of embarrassing, thus the throwaway account. Let me preface by saying this situation is not the only reason I'm thinking about divorce. That would be ridiculous. There have been many problems, mainly revolving around his attitude and words towards me, so this fits into that category. Essentially, a day or two ago I was complaining about how much I hate cooking. Call me privileged if you want, but when I get home from work, I don't have the energy or patience to cook. I just want food now. I basically begged my husband to do the cooking more often. He doesn't do a whole lot more than I do, which is why most nights I end up eating something microwaveable, or cereal, or just straight up snacks. I told him how much I hated it, and I offered to do more of the other chores. Jokingly, I offered to even pay him in blowjobs (which I've done before, but I don't enjoy very much). He chimed in on the joking, throwing back an ""hourly rate"" and we had a good laugh about it. He never made any promise or agreement about anything, and I thought he clearly understood that was a joke. Tonight, I came home from work to find him cooking dinner! And not just something basic we always do, but a recipe he had looked up and bought ingredients for! I was relieved and felt loved. I sat down to relax while he cooked. He came over to me during the cooking process and I thanked him again for cooking and asked how I could make him feel more loved. He started smooching me and was sort of physically implying some sexy times, but didn't answer my question. I asked him again, and he said something along the lines of ""well you promised..."" My mood immediately shifted and I confronted him. He knows it's not my favorite thing to do, and I thought he understood it was a joke. I asked him if he was seriously only cooking me dinner for that and he got very defensive and argumentative. He basically told me that I was spitting in his face for just doing something nice. To which I responded, if you're only doing it to be nice then why are you expecting me to do something for you? He wouldn't give me a straight answer and just angrily told me to go sit back down. As it stands, we haven't spoken since he told me to leave him alone. I'm not sure where to go from here. I'm really sick of his short fuse and his attitude towards me. This is just one instance of many like it, but I know he's especially sensitive about sex-related stuff, so I'm worried he's not going to let this one go for a while. Am I wrong for wanting him to make it clear he's just doing it because he loves me when I confronted him about his expectations? Am I wrong for not just doing what he wants because he did something nice? Am I wrong for even asking him to do all the cooking in the first place? 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Wanting to get opinions on this situation. A few weeks ago my wife said the marriage isn't working, for various reasons, and decided she's going to move out. So I get the separation paperwork together, we live in VA, give it to her, she moves out today without signing anything or communicating where she's going. We bought a home together using my VA home loan. We we're paying down the loan together. Here's the question, Can I rent out the empty spaces since I'm taking on all the payments without any negative repercussions. Also, does that constitute abandonment? I'm planning on going for a no-fault divorce if that helps.",5.130000000000003,7.273080414634148,6.283422764227645,71.92123170731709,70.0569105691057,9.472845528455288,34.25121951219512,9.888512548439397,3.944730731707317,533,27,86,14,10,178,84,123,0.045,0.904,0.051,0.1921,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,3,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,9,0,2,0,0,2,1,21,15,6,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,4,8,0,1,3,0,5,5,4,1,0,0,2,1,11,0,16,13,3,19,0,1,0,0,15,11,0,4,3,54,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571566804004529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417785617213816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056312032366838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458943712523689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15514746885642733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852531706143512,0.17007249825081394,0.3022735787819565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883359296163545,0.0,0.3556721810035932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19262584937171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655011137131444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3768619274286685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1986051124548528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18228340689367414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16864316629996273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466559263980051,0.19928112499936665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332998399583248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16804996810623754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531214347670823,0.0,0.0,0.10457009733559623,0.0,0.14221115623528596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3418020154169609,0.0,0.1290690610717189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sai_gunslinger,2019/01/10,"Paperwork never ends 😒 My divorce has been final a while now and I *thought* I changed my name on everything. Until my vehicle registration renewal came addressed to my married name. Cue a trip to DMV with my divorce papers in hand. I get up to the counter only to find out I also need my title (not mentioned on any of the paperwork) to change my name on my registration. So I have to go home and find it. Only I can't find it. My ex still has it, that has to be where it is. I called him and he said he would look for it and mail it to me if he finds it. So now I wait. And if he cant find it I'm going to have to order a replacement ($$) and then renew my registration and probably the title again ($$$). The paperwork. It never ends. /rant",-0.4695361842105292,1.5959266187500027,2.6654605263157904,90.9513815789474,89.0625,6.11842105263158,20.296052631578945,7.475848149327749,0.7261875,569,19,131,11,19,203,85,160,0.0,0.978,0.022,0.4939,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,0,7,0,11,1,1,0,2,27,21,15,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,10,10,0,1,6,0,0,4,5,0,0,0,4,3,20,0,20,15,0,24,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,2,12,90,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750395581280003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999209146373302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15003717746862574,0.16805462392810025,0.0,0.0,0.3108757307479572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26028179278953223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205580404674672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1609602328351484,0.6714801511133669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676753138752923,0.0,0.16701322030322835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738789748276046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338848735062305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895052358473596,0.22665083295054456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235015473330391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1584209022888314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976893911495386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734257007984555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11665006595053125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437848764177776,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Eleuthromania14,2019/01/10,"My A-Z of divorce... I wrote this for something else but thought it would be helpful to some who are maybe on the cusp of divorce to help them understand possible post-divorce reality. Obviously this is just my perspective from the lens of my personal experience (female, married 17 years, 2 teen children, self-employed) but when I was pre-divorce it was helpful for me to know what types of things to expect and how to possibly navigate the whole experience most effectively. I'd love any feedback! I moved out April 2018 and am still 100% convinced it was the best thing I could have done in the situation. So anyways, here it is: TL:DR, 26 things you can expect or tips for survival post-divorce &#x200B; Divorce A-Z &#x200B; A is for Aftermath. When you're curled up in some temporary rental apartment with popcorn ceilings, wildly screaming into a room full of unpacked boxes, clutching your head and sobbing like you've never sobbed before.  Knowing you're doing something hard and accepting that you are going to feel any emotion at any time during this initial period.  You could be laughing one second and sobbing the next.  Things are going to pop up all around you and trigger intense emotions.   It's wildly disruptive to finally be real and be moving into the unknown.  Your tears have nothing to do with whether the divorce was ""right or wrong"" and everything to do with the huge change you've just experienced in your life.  Let yourself feel whatever your heart needs to feel right now.    B is for Bravery.  You are brave to know that just because there was a task or skill your ex was responsible for doing before, you can learn do it yourself now.  Brave because you're now putting your faith in you more than anyone else in this world ever will.  Brave because you allow yourself to feel the hurt, the pain, the release, all the feelings that make your head explode but explosion is what needs to happen right now.  A total breakdown of the past to create space to paint a future.  Brave because you don't know what they are saying about you but you don't care, they could never understand anyways so let them talk - you can face the world with an open gaze and have no need to explain. C is for Cats.  This could be a really lovely time for you to adopt a buddy to fill your space with you!  There's a reason there's a huge stereotype about ""crazy cat ladies.""  They really do make fabulous quirky surprising buddies!  Okay, okay, so you're not a cat person.  A dog, fish, gecko, any other living creature you can take care of, talk to, hold, be responsible for, they will serve the same purpose for you right now.  Grounding you in the present.  Having someone to talk to when you're feeling alone.  Knowing that if you can manage to keep this little critter alive, you can stay afloat as well.  Seeing how simple daily needs really can be.  Food, water, a cozy space.  Consider adopting an animal life into your world right now, the more potential the new life has for loving you back the more fulfilling!  Not sure you're in a good place for the commitment?  Contact a local shelter and see about taking in pets on a foster-care basis. D is for Darling.  You may hate each other, you may still talk, but for some reason you can't stop calling him ""darling"" or ""babe"" or ""shitface"" out of habit when you're on the phone or chatting briefly during a child custody exchange.  Calling them by their name is one more new habit you haven't quite developed yet.  It will come.  But dammit, did you really just call him ""honey"" again when you saw him at the courthouse? E is for Empty.  It is only in empty spaces where there is room for growth.  What else in your life can be swept aside to make room for the new?  Was it just your marriage that was holding you back?  Do you have any other relationships or commitments that are keeping you from really being in touch with your best self or draining your energy unnecessarily?  Do you really need to be on that committee or are you just participating to please someone else?  How much of your physical possessions do you really need to hold on to right now and what of your belongs actually just keep you busy maintaining them?  This is a great time to take out the trash, cut out the extra people, activities and possessions that don't serve your ultimate goal of living a happy life.  Delete the apps or social media that you're using to fill in those blank spaces of your day and are keeping you from being able to have the space to reflect on how you're feeling, and be present in your own life. F is for Friends.  You know who they are now.  The ones who actually call.  The ones who still want to go out even though your ""one"" doesn't match their ""two"" anymore.  You weren't just a couples date to them.  The ones who drag you out for lunch dates and allow you to have full mental breakdowns over something you saw on social media or a surprisingly poignant laundry soap commercial.  You will have days when you don't want any friends, no witnesses to the chaos that is your life right gut now.  But the days when you do let them in always feel better.  The good friends don't want details, they don't want updates, they just want to see you alive for another day.  You wonder if you'll ever be as good a friend as they are and hope you will. G is for Gossip.  You can't stop 'em, people are going to talk.  And guess what, no matter what you do or don't say, everyone will have their own idea of what ""went wrong"" or who is to ""blame"" in your divorce.  Rather than trying to manage the gossip, just release any idea that you need to and know that the only people who will really understand the situation are you and your ex and any attempt to try and relay an entire relationship and marriage worth of experiences will be futile.  Relax, let them gossip, don't give them any additional fuel.  Rise above and know that what people say has no relationship to the actual truth and you are under no obligation to react or respond to idle gossip of the masses.  The silver lining of gossip is you know who you should and shouldn't confide in for the future.  People tend to be self-sorting that way.  Save your energy to deal with things you can actually control. H is for Hobbies.  Time to dig up the ones one or create some new ones.  Does your day now start by practicing that new song you like on the piano?  Ever wanted to try rock climbing but your partner didn't approve of the risk?  There are no old dogs and there are always new tricks!  Look for community classes, meetup groups, youtube tutorials, discover how amazing it is to work hard at learning something new just for the hell of it!  Finally mastered folding that origami crane?  Of course you did!  Now what else can you do?  One of the great benefits of a good hobby is that you'll be able to connect in person or online with hundreds or even thousands of other people who share the same hobby.  So break out that D&D board, your snow shoes, that box of yarn, your unicycle and have some fun! I is for I.  You are an ""I"" now.  Actually the big secret is you were an ""I"" all along but somewhere along the way you forgot this and let yourself be a ""We.""  A ""They.""  An ""us.""  Did you forget that you had that ""I"" inside of you?  Take a moment and tell yourself five reasons you are an incredible person.  List five things you have accomplished in life that you're proud of.  Give yourself a hug, a huge smile in the mirror.  A night out to the movies and the rotating sushi bar with yourself.  You're one hot date!  Try saying ""I love you"" to yourself first thing in the morning or when you're having a hard moment.  ""I"" is enough.  It always has been and always will be. J  is for Jogging.  Fuck that.  Even divorce won't make jogging easier. Let's make J for Joking instead. Look up a daily joke online.  Something to put a smile on your face, a laugh in your throat. You might not run into anything funny today unless you intentionally set out looking for it.  Find a joke website or forum that you check in with frequently.  Just find something to laugh about!  Knock knock jokes, blonde jokes, math jokes, whatever.   Find something to make you laugh today. K is for Kisses.  Did you know you can experience that ""first kiss"" again?  When you're ready, and when the sparks are right, you'll experience the meeting of your lips on new ones.  You'll get to feel those schoolyard butterflies in your stomach.  It might be awkward.  Your lips might be dryer than you'd like.  You might say something dorky right afterwards.  Laugh it off, soak up the new, weird energy, be in that moment and let yourself take a chance again.  After all you took at chance by leaving.  Take a chance on that kiss.  This is the fun part! L is for Loneliness.  Those inside jokes you'd built up with your ex are useless know.  You have an entire vocabulary that was developed for the two of you and you find yourself sometimes referencing your inside jokes with outsiders.  In these moments the loneliness will hit you with intensity.  In these moments you'll realize it will be a long time if ever that you develop another unique language with another human.  It might feel like you're going to die from the loneliness some days but at these moments place your hand on your heart and feel it beating in there.  Yep, everything is still ticking.  You will go on. M is for Money.  Why can't you stop thinking about this?  With everything else going on now you have to worry as well about which brand of jelly at the store fits best with your new smaller budget.  You have to announce to your extended family at holidays that your ""presence will be the present"" as you can't afford to shower everyone with gifts this year.  You want to create space from your ex but the money issue looms seemingly indefinitely.  Is there child support? Alimony? Joint investments that you've been unable to liquidate?  Enough already!  But yes, I suppose I can keep the house at 78 degrees in the summer instead of 72 to save on the electric bill...  Ugh!  Was it worth walking away from dual income to live this life?  You suspect it was but God do you miss that joint bank account.  Time to prove what you're worth.  And guess what? You're worth a lot so get that hustle on and get to work. N is for Noise. You can't manage all the noise in your head some days.  You're just trying to fill the car with gas but your thoughts are running a mile a minute.  Replaying a conversation.  Imagining the what-ifs.  Wondering if it's too soon for you to get involved with that cute guy from the party.  Thinking of ways to show the world on social media that you're okay.  You're thinking of anything but the task at hand.  When you drive off with the gas cap still open you don't even notice till your next fill-up because your brain is so full of chatter, static and wild ideas that current reality barely registers.  Deep breath. Ground yourself.  When you hear the noise this is a reminder to find something in the moment to ground yourself in the present.  Take those ten deep breaths.  Look at that pretty tree outside the window.  Sing your favorite song.  Turn off the devices.  Connect with your current reality.   O is for Oasis.  Make yourself one.  Whether your space is on someone else's couch or you've got your own place, do what you need to create one tiny spot of this universe that's uniquely yours and provides you ultimate comfort.  Shop for a new blanket or pillow that makes you feel decadent.  Buy or stream music in your space that speaks to your soul.  Have an air freshener with your favorite scent that makes you feel and lovely and pampered.  But some silly useless piece of decoration that your soul understands.  Create a piece of art that represents you and hang it where you can see it daily.  Create your very space YOU place, you'll find comfort coming back to this space after a day that is full of unknown and the needs and dreams of others. P is for Pacing.  Yes, you've got big dreams.  You know what you want to move towards.  You want to skip to the happy ending.  But every amazing movie plot takes time, development, nemesis, snags.  You wouldn't want to watch a movie that just skipped to the last scene where to hero finally vanquishes their foe and gets the girl.  So ease into the pace of this.  Know it's going to be a few rough years, expect to face all the snags that the hero faces.  Know that everything you overcome brings your one step closer but the journey to get there will be slow.  Know that you'll feel like you've been kicking forever and your breath is about to give out but someday you'll finally break through the surface of the water with a gasp and feel that sweet sunlight on your wet cheeks.  There will be sunlight and oxygen in abundance.  It's coming but for now breath, pace yourself.  This will take time but yes, it will be worth it. Q is for Questions.  Your kids want to know what went wrong.  Your parents want to know if you need money.  Your friends want to know who you're dating.  Your cat wants to know why you've forgotten to scoop his litterbox for the past week.  So many questions.  And guess what?  You don't have to answer any of them.  Just like that.  A smile, a hug, a ""thank you for caring, it means a lot and I'm going to be fine"" will suffice.  People want you to know that they care about you and sometimes the only way they know to do this is to ask personal questions.  Return their love but don't be their puppet.  You have a right to your privacy.  And you probably don't know the answers to many of their questions anyways so why waste your breath pretending you do? R is for Restraint.   Knowing that you're going to mash out that text to your ex in the heat of the moment then decide to read it over three times, edit a few times and still wait a few minutes before deciding whether or not to send it.  You usually won't. You know better now than to fight battles that can only be lost.  You'll find yourself picking up the phone and about to hit the speed dial for their cell phone but taking that deep breath, putting down the phone and putting on your boxing gloves and taking it out on the punching bag instead.  Restraint in saying anything negative to your kids about your ex - knowing that they are a part of him and letting them form their own opinions.  When he knocks on the door to pick up a signed form from you, taking that pause before opening the door, inhale deeply, and breath that bitter look off your face.  Greeting him with calm restraint.  The hard part is over, you're gone.  Now you get to learn patience.  It will serve you well. S is for Single!!  The grass may always be greener on the other side but heavens, there are so many perks to this single thing!  Do you want to fart under the bedroom blanket? Use up all the hot water during your shower? Make microwave smores for dinner?  Do you want to go to the jazz club that none of your other friends like and just find a dark seat in the back with your favorite cocktail and feet tapping?  Even if you're trying not to be single, look for those silver linings while you are!  Do you get to implement a rule in your home that it will never be a space where a beer or a sports game inhabit?  Want to decorate your walls with crayons/butterflies/NASCAR posters?  Guess what, champ?  Go for it!  There's no such thing as bad style right now, just your style! T is for Tinder.  Be smart, don't start.  Yes, it's great to meet some new people and Tinder might appear to be a tantalizingly simple and quick way to do this.  But it's a trap and trust me, less than a day after you start swiping you'll start seeing humanity in a much different way and start to feel gross about not just the people around you but yourself.   You're more than a swipe.  They are more than a height or a gym selfie. Now is not the time to minimize yourself or the amazing people around you you haven't met yet. So instead of installing Tinder try Meetup or join an adult sports league.  Find hobby groups, join a baking class. Go to a wine and paint night.  Allow people with similar interests or passions to start filtering into your life. You can't fuck away the pain. U  is for Underwear.  Get some new ones!  Spend a little extra money on styles or colors that you wouldn't have splurged for in the past.  You need all the support you can get right now so why not have some that makes you feel sexy and young again?  Thongs? Lace? Something to show off your ample cheeks?  Hell yeah!  You've got one sexy ass, check yourself out in the mirror after you put them on each morning.  Damn girl! Looking fine! V is for Victories.  Keep a victory list if you need one because baby, you're going to start racking these up left and right!  Finally agreed on custody arrangements? Victory!  Finally had the divorce decree approved by the court?  Victory!  Finally figured out how the hell to put the Christmas tree together on your own? Victory!  Finally made it one whole day without looking your ex up on social media? Victory!  Good grief, you're just one huge sack of wins, aren't you!  Everybody loves a winner and baby, you are on fire! W is for Wishing.  No amount of wishing will go back in time and change how things went with your ex.  No amount of wishing will deposit 10K into your bank account.  You can wish you were in your 20's again and had a do-over all day long, it won't make it happen.  You know what wishes lead to?  Nothing.  Goals, plans however...that's the shit that is going to help you right now.  So if you have that wish in your heart of what you want your life to look like right now, sit down with a piece of paper, your calendar and make a plan.  Set deadlines.  Write out action steps.  Make the phone calls and set the appointments.  Soon what started as an empty wish starts actually happening.  Beware of a wish that you can't make a plan for.  That's the wish that's holding you back from the life you could be creating. X is for Xanex.  It's okay.  You might need a little extra help to cope right now.  Be honest with how your head is right now.  Needing it today doesn't mean you'll need it forever but it's a miracle that there's pills out there these days that really can help you get back to just being able to smile.  Smiling feels really good.  You deserve to smile.  Talk to a health professional and hopefully that therapist you hired when you moved out and find out if something as simple as a daily pill will help you move forward if you feel like your brain is stuck in a massive rut of recurring thoughts, panic attacks and self-destructive thoughts. Y is for ""Yes.""  What can you say yes to today?  Can you take that road trip with a friend this weekend? Yes!  Can you indulge in an hour of self-care in the tub?  Yes! Can you spend a little extra money on the ""good"" steak at the grocery store?  Yes! Yes you can.  Yes, my friend, you deserve this. You deserve to try those things you've always been nervous about trying.  You deserve to discover what you're really made of.  What freedom really feels like.  You deserve to say ""yes"" to following your passion. Changing your career.  Asking for that raise.  Growth and change happens in the world of ""yes.""   Z is for Zero.  Zero fucks given about how anyone else suggests you should be living your life right now.  Zero tolerance for letting yourself getting sucked back into old bad habits.  Zero desire to compromise who you are as a person for the sake of other's comforts.  Zero fucks my friends.  This is your 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divorce,EmoExhaustEllie,2019/01/10,"My ex is a narcissist and we have a 3 year old My divorce was final just before Christmas and while it's a relief, it hasn't changed much. My ex still makes little digs at me and is generally unpleasant. So I avoid taking to him about anything other than necessary things involving our daughter. I work from home and now that she is older and needs more interaction with kids and she's very smart and I feel like spending 3 mornings a week with her grandparents isn't enough to challenge her anymore. So I found a really wonderful Waldorf School and we made it to the second round of interviews and I feel like, if I had a good relationship with her dad, I'd tell him this is an actual possibility. I'd like to note that I don't expect him to pay for this, it's a glorified daycare and my responsibility. So how do I tell him? Does he get an opinion on this? It's daycare that I need her in so I can work. But if and when he finds out I put her in and I didn't tell him I'm going to get crap for that too. I just want as little interaction about it as possible. Thanks all.",2.306851545905122,3.984826609865472,4.279745102666983,85.28354024073639,76.62331838565022,7.744064196365353,24.29289591692235,8.532816995589336,1.5075793721973092,846,28,183,17,19,289,126,223,0.05,0.816,0.133,0.9571,1,1,0,0,1,0,16.0,3,0,0,3,13,10,1,1,10,0,13,1,1,3,1,39,28,24,0,6,5,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,15,18,0,1,5,0,2,2,4,2,0,1,5,3,33,8,23,23,4,18,0,0,1,0,31,7,1,4,12,126,48,6,0.0,0.0,0.13732765878532655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395617505091036,0.0,0.0,0.11580498686030295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11974692281515975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14886877927942768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314971741609325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540692287210186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14230994824741666,0.2010684612965584,0.0,0.15415776147626126,0.1286204364246847,0.0,0.0,0.154298101864255,0.0,0.0,0.14704639256928198,0.0,0.07997746935808725,0.11803376157509772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14115901763080396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625391871829,0.2820875761974821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13315774530967164,0.09393527554544476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344933716848656,0.20869215372832015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476676006188368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3172934149246788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14146786292795774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09015227388873648,0.0,0.0,0.15108637967840194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424215848618357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238346025447722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10580796285931864,0.0,0.36900052170598935,0.1295610113291634,0.0,0.0,0.09349168109122548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611316612640335,0.08300346781015856,0.0,0.11288140137173645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261065809329336,0.2048994871176616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062252279679296 divorce,falsus-in-omnibus,2019/01/10,"he called our child the wrong name in his(47) sworn affidavit. sifting through old paperwork trying to organize for 2019. rereading his sworn affidavit in his pursuit for full custody of our child (tweens). His affidavit was pure fiction at its best so it always caused me physical pain to think of it, never mind read it. i must have been in a crazy mental state when i read it years ago, to not have caught the blunder. He didn’t just spell his only child’s name wrong, he actually used the wrong name. I’m filled with shame for letting a human being like that even register on my radar. I really do feel like a fool and it’s hard to trust that I could survive another storm like him ever again. 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Shades of shame, dissociation, euphoria, doubt... what does it mean? I'm a man in his 30's, married for less than ten years to a woman with children from her previous marriage. They are blameless in all this and I'll miss them if we part ways. &#x200B; For the past week, I've been looking at apartments. It's a first for me, after at least a year of questioning myself, and the effect has been... educational. When I find something that, hypothetically, would fit my budget and lifestyle as a newly divorced man, I experience this wave of euphoria and longing that honestly scares me a little. Partly, I know it's a form of fantasizing. Yet, it's telling that I don't feel any loneliness or sorrow at the prospect of living in a new town with a place all to myself. &#x200B; I haven't said anything to her. Maybe I should backpedal and start from how I've gotten where (I think) I am. &#x200B; In short, what I'm realizing more and more is that this is not the life I want for myself, and the compromises I would have to make are looking like too much to give up in exchange for what I'm getting in return. But on the surface, we seem to be okay. We're hugging and kissing every day, going on dates every week, laughing together, playing with the pets together, and making plans for the future. Right now, I'm feeling a dual sense of shame at these outward behaviors: when doing them, I feel like a phony who is engaging in a cruel deception, but when contemplating an unmarried future, they make me think I'm being selfish for ending a relationship that by all appearances is stable. I don't know which of the two shames is valid, if either of them are. &#x200B; As it turns out, behind the amicable exterior, there are some real problems. When I married her, my wife was an athlete. In the years since we moved in together and made our vows, she has slid into alcoholism, depression, and the ensuing paralysis accompanying them. She has almost doubled in weight and has tried every self-help strategy under the sun, from sticker collections to journaling to hanging up positive messages all over the house, and a full complement of rotating medications. But she won't give up her beer. On our free time, she goes to visit local breweries, ostensibly to pick up a few cans for the week, but always comes back tipsy and red-eyed. I can't stand her when she drinks; I have to leave the room and wait for it to wear off. We've had arguments about this, and it has never ended in her dialing back her consumption. &#x200B; Her reasoning is that she needs it to cope with her depression, and on the face of it, that's obviously silly because alcohol is itself a depressant (and a major factor in her weight gain and lack of energy). But intertwined in all the sensations I'm going through is a deep pity and compassion for my wife. She has it hard, and struggles through every day. I try to be supportive when it's called for, and to leave her some room when it seems right to do so. She depends on me for that, and I know that if I go, she'll be devastated, shattered. Already, she has an apocalyptic self-image that has gotten to the point of self-harm in the past. Her response to stress is not healthy and I worry about the children, her job, and her own mental well-being. It's becoming almost a moral dilemma, knowing that I'm plotting in secret to make a decision that will leave a gigantic crater in her soul, perhaps for years to come. &#x200B; But then I return to the facts: we don't share any passions or hobbies. She isn't passionate about anything except beer, and doesn't respond to any of the things I'm passionate about. It's like I'm talking in a different language when I try to get her interested in things I love. We disagree about some principles related to how she raises the kids, and while I realize it's not my place to tell her what to do (especially since the father is still in the picture and takes them for half the time) I don't like how she sometimes reacts to them, or what she expects of them. And there are other topics that I have changed my ideas about a lot in the past year or so, now dividing us even further. More and more, we are sticking to surface-level subjects like TV and mainstream politics. We never have sex. &#x200B; We never have any sex. And it's not her that's lost interest, it's all me. It causes me a lot of pain to acknowledge that, but simultaneously, I can't help it if I'm no longer sexually attracted to her. Many nights have ended in silence and tears, with me unable to accommodate her--not least of all because she was drunk and horny, and I was repulsed by it, but also because physically she doesn't excite me anymore. That makes me feel shallow, and combined with the sensitivity I know she has about her current state, even more ashamed to pile onto her depression. She doesn't even try to initiate it anymore because she knows I'm not interested anymore, and we simply don't talk about it. &#x200B; Of course, it's not all bad, being with my wife; nothing ever is. I still see in her some of the qualities that I fell in love with, and the possibility that one day she could be fully restored to her former self, full of vibrancy, causes me to reconsider what I might be about to do. But it's a long time to wait, and even if she could morph into that person from the past, I would still be me, and I've changed. In my temperament, in my thoughts about the future, in my relationship to the world. I don't know if I would have been as interested in her if we met today, even if she was the person I met back then. &#x200B; This is a long post. I'd better wrap it up. &#x200B; All of these emotions have been simmering in me, occupying my mind most or all the time every day, and every now and then I feel dissociated, like a mannequin, just going through the motions of life with no influence over my surroundings. I don't like it, and I don't like the confusion of not knowing if I'm a bad person, impatient, overly rational, or if I've already wasted too much valuable time. My current status is to await a likely promotion at my job and my bonus from last year, and to decide once and for all sometime after that. Knowing that I can postpone any drastic moves until then is keeping me sane, for now. I don't know how I'll feel when I can't make anymore excuses.",7.237138957816378,6.528031835483872,7.599193548387097,74.55821339950374,64.11290322580646,10.66302729528536,35.044665012406945,9.999027980811624,3.3182825062034738,5036,198,961,94,65,1655,465,1240,0.112,0.7829999999999999,0.105,-0.8625,5,0,7,0,1,0,205.0,13,0,9,8,49,57,1,9,71,1,89,23,2,20,17,203,162,96,0,22,35,4,9,9,0,9,6,1,3,10,66,70,8,3,33,6,4,15,30,23,0,5,17,13,140,35,168,126,39,169,2,8,3,9,108,75,0,33,84,703,206,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264268608054089,0.06806534788540411,0.0,0.0750101239476728,0.027179074453802424,0.028279576632427625,0.3682447057610646,0.4129744314076595,0.11556027878527812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348223123696156,0.0,0.0,0.05593615749116215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840080042255701,0.056754788422400414,0.08287167190279847,0.03753553325498074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030058388808462032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03470412199360129,0.0,0.0,0.06982720744933778,0.07190663985253302,0.058552898885881575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054271074587330916,0.0,0.0,0.08767419018595031,0.0,0.11709044680292816,0.0,0.0,0.035508766865162716,0.0,0.0,0.029741905660282224,0.0,0.0,0.03329393248941054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03823035434458448,0.09030612854174128,0.0,0.0,0.112239155026625,0.03074282853810236,0.17181107512919586,0.0,0.0,0.0332454196355566,0.0,0.0,0.1031078871499188,0.024280036254305117,0.0,0.0,0.031063139781329237,0.02890898748342782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0355131950543062,0.06520609373350626,0.07726147971771136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03044532099027053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04556100769401525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03921597718599778,0.0,0.03836673836632608,0.0,0.0,0.06745291929585179,0.03020885468517628,0.0,0.0,0.18678148397944136,0.02770361789625484,0.0,0.1079607171429515,0.0,0.0,0.04801148615851026,0.14943723919047955,0.034063505200162165,0.030010793458841663,0.09023122351844884,0.05708037420948391,0.0,0.037100392389129766,0.057788389663393225,0.061348472974283176,0.032158945891487684,0.13611793004797282,0.034457081431459056,0.034144111217547166,0.037021374608414384,0.0,0.03423792734572282,0.034250502485011616,0.03605441534083405,0.034316780934673934,0.0,0.0,0.07224476154946463,0.04996812808409709,0.02520063577270415,0.07863769123134676,0.032824473340216036,0.0,0.031894124968021416,0.0,0.032611062578676284,0.0,0.0,0.03619462341006012,0.02303020203883313,0.0,0.0361641422431168,0.0,0.0,0.07360835900708082,0.12977623440914138,0.0,0.08902737347326213,0.07101753373032542,0.0,0.03212832564676258,0.038314788743824435,0.03254977128491686,0.0,0.0,0.032520589455386224,0.0,0.0,0.03807277399896343,0.0,0.0,0.038684195274838636,0.0,0.034943888748088334,0.0,0.07297778582415791,0.0,0.058048747194760074,0.03232904267994436,0.0,0.03402651900659371,0.0,0.027082922643290028,0.0618802545615958,0.14182175816380552,0.0,0.0,0.05622813906796215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02616454772660481,0.06722723958037066,0.0,0.024055892809159117,0.0,0.08142523611413352,0.0,0.03893153935713562,0.03553017714836667,0.0,0.0,0.03856759477011264,0.0,0.0,0.0255536960660314,0.05463428883415418,0.05941157877010968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04515837823064378,0.043554486269779515,0.0,0.026981566753049583,0.0990893087553795,0.0,0.03221532606667527,0.0,0.0,0.09229869105653768,0.03696766499198064,0.03319997306765753,0.0,0.04088169922083653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020046179243310227,0.0269769838266369,0.08178600960297218,0.08277305377512323,0.03055803807666113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034515045493870765,0.0,0.09657243170641043,0.0,0.4129744314076595,0.13131754974048054 divorce,NoAccountIsSafe,2019/01/10,"Im going to win my temporary parenting plan request! You guys, i am so excited! My wife accused me of mollesting my daughter august 2018 after i disputed child support because i had my daughter a substantial amount of time up until then. She had also done the same thing to her 9 year old's father in their custody battle. The police report says as much as well as mentioning her 15 cps cases in which 3 were founded. (I had no idea). She was given a week to serve me with a response and she hasnt even tried. She was also ordered to give me supervised visits until the next hearing so i could see my daughter. It's been 4 and a half months since i had her last and i miss her terribly. Ive been fighting tooth and nail pro se and im definitely not a child mollester. Each case she claimed was unfounded and she looks rediculous. The deadline for her to serve me a response and get visitation to me passed yesterday and weve got a hearing again next wednesday. I am pretty sure im going to get my 4 days a week back and shes going to look like the knob that she is. I am so excited!",2.8340990990991024,4.392627815315318,4.421801801801802,85.32747747747749,74.90090090090091,7.275675675675676,27.64864864864865,7.984000788550335,1.7583945945945945,853,34,173,13,18,286,131,222,0.077,0.795,0.127,0.9024,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,1,1,1,2,9,11,2,0,13,0,20,1,1,0,1,17,36,20,0,1,1,6,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,4,11,0,0,2,0,0,6,3,4,1,1,15,6,37,7,21,20,4,29,0,1,3,0,34,3,0,0,20,117,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22049234663948405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600542764965873,0.0,0.08403785713363875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006957402786884,0.0,0.0,0.08890795732703878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14107810795302336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09105488385455708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115580000952694,0.0,0.0,0.14405177276178735,0.13224737147444982,0.23504615191302655,0.0,0.11025881682982254,0.0,0.0,0.13650255568617958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31075529802567864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556265683306012,0.4467356733426183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11237387297223156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673511765262259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2315344784440996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003811865655837,0.0,0.10134257733069607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932302338669393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466032982482516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307663376471975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402526486842695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10963138875825508,0.0,0.0,0.10985615381467112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403878332335678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644129989704478,0.12993092483023394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158771027534952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038696921594894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359753501448596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22116511252422752,0.0,0.1239522253723964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877698278026691 divorce,xrayvsncom,2019/01/10,"A divorce for the ages It is not a good thing when the senior judge of over 25 years looks at you at the divorce decree hearing and says this is the worst divorce case I had ever had to preside over, but it happened to me. I was interviewed recently and thought I would share the post for those who may be interested. I am very happy to say that after the 13 month divorce (and the subsequent frivolous civil lawsuit my ex filed on me (asked for $4 million in front with a jury trial and received $0) I have made a complete financial turnaround. &#x200B; [https://moneywithapurpose.com/life-after-divorce/](https://moneywithapurpose.com/life-after-divorce/)",10.818378378378377,11.310507369369375,8.952927927927927,63.825067567567565,56.38738738738739,9.922522522522524,37.41891891891892,9.2995712137729,3.44711891891892,542,21,83,7,6,163,81,111,0.059,0.836,0.105,0.804,0,0,0,0,6,0,33.0,0,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,11,0,10,0,0,1,1,12,16,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,7,5,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,5,4,9,4,15,8,1,17,0,0,1,0,14,6,0,1,8,62,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303015450589263,0.25827567412395264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19870875793851647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228582200583383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1922667400519414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827972671630218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18796029002497064,0.22626707123990786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395631556772544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002655372879841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849134240527836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112318820631106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169658114391826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20356742407845974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20987086261503995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380620265407312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412110495570941,0.0,0.0,0.16874367544525568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17537883440247082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099185327130596,0.0,0.25827567412395264,0.13687743559943166 divorce,accidentalbaymax,2019/01/10,"Love your perspective...just looking for support and someone who can realte This is a tough one...my STBX said some things in the fall that have totally changed the course of my/our lives. Huge issues they have been dealing with. Our marriage has been sexless for awhile and has gotten worse over time and definitely most recently. Sex was *never* amazing or mind blowing but seeing as I was super inexperienced I assumed we could work on it...and I feel people usually can. But sex issues are just the tip of the iceberg. They have been absent, distant, not present. But I am extremely loyal person. For years, YEARS my mind never wandered. It never dreamed of cheating. I thought all the sex issues were from me so my libido and any shred of self-confidence I used to have, disappeared. Now that we are weeks, possibly days from filing for the big D, and I'm working on moving out of our living arrangement, I am finding myself seeking attention and affection from an old flame whom I never dated (we were super attracted to one another). We haven't crossed lines just talked and discussed on the surface what's going on without giving away too many details to them. I feel like as soon as my divorce is official, or rather, as soon as I sign something, I might seek out some things from this person. I know usually people take a lot more time to heal than this. I feel like I'm rushing ending my divorce even though we sought therapy and are working on ourselves individually and still couldn't find a resolution. But seeking support and other things from this friend of mine make me feel more like myself than I have in years. I finally feel awake just talking to them about deep things and great memories. They have said some of the most thoughtful and insightful things to me recently. Am I crazy? Have you experienced this?? I wasn't even the person to really initiate change in my marriage but now that I know I might have just a small taste of freedom, I feel like I am running with it and starting a new, exciting chapter in my life with endless possibilities. Please tell me I don't sound insane!! But f I do, please let me know if you are just as crazy alongside with me. I am ready to commit myself (not YET) and be loyal - my STBX is the one who is not.",5.134135033758441,6.570096725581394,5.4340960240060046,80.8085258814704,68.95348837209302,8.246061515378846,30.150037509377345,8.654491914285503,2.3510862715678926,1792,70,330,29,31,569,211,430,0.031,0.757,0.212,0.9982,0,0,1,0,2,0,57.0,7,3,5,5,18,18,1,0,16,0,42,7,0,3,7,83,69,31,0,4,19,0,6,4,1,2,2,3,0,3,20,25,1,0,16,1,0,7,12,2,0,2,13,13,56,16,52,50,10,53,0,0,2,4,35,18,0,12,32,245,76,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05369405349236324,0.08279420238725849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418351014011129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705389634235965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06304142765600998,0.0,0.0,0.05092128873376959,0.08140208831779364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699332294738028,0.0,0.0,0.10430184588140702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.239540803566216,0.2256300485147778,0.0,0.08649447799154597,0.14433211018455352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610026480358905,0.0,0.0,0.07574357559876735,0.044873572351904346,0.0,0.0,0.08705132119851676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472344809519479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301795274846564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073976308075957,0.05577027273430489,0.15429929151720675,0.0,0.1394424767978835,0.0,0.06630471772794372,0.0,0.0,0.06712715040237212,0.07126255284648053,0.0,0.05270498575932182,0.0800508787716415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16752362717501956,0.15944986379063955,0.0,0.0,0.08391971125276836,0.0,0.0,0.2435886819632577,0.0762579947848284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285299364415855,0.0,0.16051167146854114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094788790717857,0.20682887769940714,0.0,0.17334404294915084,0.0,0.17802625071389105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05058242799508935,0.0,0.15592272563466109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021401516685942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291919301442565,0.0,0.0823702697552519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06690073993553658,0.06078561941885804,0.0,0.0,0.05588678085925912,0.0,0.06305585029587712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17920089138120304,0.0,0.0,0.0593664855225271,0.12692667662342202,0.06901265127776803,0.0,0.09029519602569497,0.0,0.2622804740772939,0.0,0.07757569816559745,0.1253674449191947,0.09208192816354566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819424121687301,0.17392185901694873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06333523393894135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611256099844381,0.0,0.17244679096199855,0.0,0.08046480656507696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15253882247361142 divorce,Queen_Aurelia,2019/01/10,"How to let go of anger? My (38f) divorce was final in July after 15 yrs of marriage. My ex (38m) had an affair with his 22 yr old co-worker. We were living in South Florida and had just bought our dream home a couple of months prior to his affair starting. I knew I could not afford the home on my own, so I let my ex keep it. I ended up moving back to my hometown 1000 miles away after the divorce to be near my family. I lost my job, my home, most of my belongings, my independence (I had to move in with family until I found a job in hometown), my life as I knew it and had to start completely over after the divorce. He immediately moved the 22 yr old into our dream home after I left. I am doing well now. I found a great job, got my own place, started dating a wonderful man. The problem is, I cannot let go of the anger I have towards my ex. I never saw his affair or our divorce coming. I lost everything while he just continues on with that young girl as if they didn't destroy my life. The fact that she moved into my dream home (this house is amazing) while I am struggling in a tiny place just kills me. I begged my ex to explain why this happened, what caused it, how he could do this after 22 yrs together and he just kept saying he didn't know. I gave up so much of my life to support him through school and his career just to be discarded. I think had he told me he was unhappy and wanted a divorce, I would be having an easier time than being replaced by a 22 yr old out of nowhere. Any advice on letting go of the anger and bitterness? Is this just something that happens over time? Like I said, I am doing well. I really like the guy I am dating. I am just having a hard time with what my ex did. 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I get a small amount garnished every 2 weeks, and the current payment is over a week late. CSS is going to call his work and his pathetic ass to ask what's going on. Is it likely he was fired?",1.991037735849055,2.9339642830188666,3.603915094339623,92.82398584905664,75.98113207547169,6.054716981132076,22.683962264150942,5.985473137389443,0.21436226415094328,189,5,44,1,4,63,42,53,0.196,0.7559999999999999,0.047,-0.8577,1,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,0,3,11,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,5,2,4,10,1,10,0,0,0,1,7,3,1,0,6,23,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23753492979332766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594489244348764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21407734916181093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274878790745026,0.0,0.2888044223781714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5732373000510467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413296798203555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883323480418505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220812590176602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40762289907471694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22927195441971826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18497671437204585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,megbotmegbot,2019/01/10,"In need of support and advice I'm 35f, married to my husband, 35, for the past five years, no kids. On the surface, we have a good relationship. We have the same religious and political beliefs. We text each other when we're not with each other. My husband does a lot of the housework because I have back issues. Neither of us have cheated. We're not abusive or toxic. But I'm just not happy. Some back story. I'm the breadwinner, by a lot. My husband loves to brag to his friends about my income, the vacations I plan, the cars I've purchased, etc. These are friends I don't know, because we don't have any mutual friends, which I've always thought was weird. For years my husband pursued his hobbies whenever he was off work instead of planning things with me. I've worked so hard to build a life that we can be proud of and happy in, but I feel like my husband just uses it to brag and doesn't see that I'm trying to connect with him. So I've created my own life on the side and travel a lot, which I love but I wish I could do it with someone. When I travel with my husband, it's basically just him following me around, not contributing to the plans or the costs, and texting his friends the whole time. He's just ever present with me, enjoying it with me. We also never have sex. I beg for intimacy and he will cave every once in a while but I think that's my biggest resentment. I feel like he must have a porn addiction or something but he won't admit to it. Something just isn't right. I've told him if we do get a divorce, my life basically wouldn't change, and I have a problem with that. I would have to do more housework and wouldn't have someone to text during the day but otherwise I could essentially keep on living the exact same life without him in it. To be married five years and not be dependent on him for anything, including sex and a social life, is just bizarre to me. I want to have a life with someone, not just beside someone. I'm starting to have so much resentment and contempt. I've told him all these things and nothing has changed. We've been to a counselor. He seems willing to work on it, but his idea of working on tour relationship is doing more housework. I kee telling him I need a husband, not a butler. I guess I just need reassurance that I'm not crazy to want a divorce. Sometimes I do look at him and think that he's my best friend, but is that enough? 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Start off with a quick back story. Been married 3 years, together for 9 years in total. I am 29(M) my ex is 27(F). We have a 3 year old daughter. Last summer (July 2018) my X dropped the bomb that she was done. Not wanting to talk to Someone, place blame on me, she just moved out and no explanation. She did not give any reason, I was left in the dark. Spent the summer apart in separate houses(same city) with joint custody of daughter. During my time of morning and understand I feel I may have moved on and. Started to pursue dating. Luck has it i found a very interesting and attractive women (33). We had a lot of fun and grew to care for each other. At Christmas my STBX came to me and for Christmas gave me a key to her place and states she wants to work on it and try our relationship again. I want to forgive and move on but I have a strong pull for keeping my family together. I said we can do it slowly, through counseling, marriage courses etc. My STBX knew for New Years I was taking a trip to Europe for 2 weeks to reflect. To me the timing is a little suspect and she also doesn’t want to talk to anyone about the past and my STBX doesn’t want to talk with anyone and states she thinks it won’t help. My question to my fellow people of this helpful community is what is a wise course of action. I’m thinking without learning from the past my STBX and I will fall right back into the same patterns. And the new girl I meet this summer is someone I feel could be very special but I am uncertain as of now, I don’t want to burn bridges but I know my daughter is my first concern and she is doing amazing and I’m not concerned. What is the best thing to do, have a convo with my EX and with her not wanting to talk about the past and learn is it wise to move on and cut losses ? Or is she coming back to me for the safety that a provided for the length of the relationship. Side note. I am a hard working self employed man that comes from an working class family that is only concern is the safety and health of my family and to provide for them. 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We been together for 6 years and married for 1 1/2 years. We do not have children or property. I have him on my health insurance and we have a shared checking for bills. How do I start? How do I tell people? How do I tell my parents? Do I break the lease for the apartment (lease ends in July)? He wants to stay together and fix ""himself"" and I want to leave because I don't want to live in constant fear of his actions. 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One week after our decree is signed by the judge my ex now wants to go back to court to go back on a section. That he just agreed to last week. He has fired his lawyer or she has let him go so he is his own representation. I'm worried if a judge will make him pay my lawyer fees for going to court and going back on his agreement. I don't have the money to for every time he decides he doesn't want to adhere to the decree. He just complained about how he was going broke too but I'm guessing he's still riding high from his win where he fought to get no right of first refusal so his affair partner could watch our kids. But anyway, any of yall gone through this? 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I have anxiety and my STBX used to be my go to person. Now when I have an attack I don’t have anyone to go to, which is incredibly difficult at the moment. I want to be strong enough to be my own person and not have to rely on anyone (when a therapist isn’t readily available). Anyone else going through this/have gone through it? Maybe offer some advice? 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We agree on almost everything so we aren't getting lawyers involved. The one thing we don't agree on is how much alimony should be. Here, in Arizona, there is painfully little information on the internet. For anyone out there far enough along to know how much you have to pay/receive, would you mind sharing that value? Either reply or message me if you prefer. Also I'm in Arizona, if your valued are also Arizona please let me know! Thanks in advance for the help. I read the rules and this seems okay, apologies if it's not. 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Things have been bad for a long time. Years. We’ve had 2 miscarriages and lost our daughter 2 yrs ago. I feel ready to leave but still so much doubt. We also have a 3 year old. No one is abusive. We argue a lot. Almost daily. I try to hide it from our son as much as possible. In September my husband promised he would go to counseling and find one by the end of the month. It’s now January and he has yet to even look for one, meanwhile I have been going every week since I also made that same promise. He is so depressed and refuses to get help for himself. Please tell me all about your experience. Obviously I know I need to for my child’s sake. I don’t want him to think this is normal. I’m not asking for what’s best for my child right now I’m asking how you know the timing was right and you were emotionally ready to call it the end. 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We have been together for 6 years. I have a 5 year old and a stepson. We don't own a house, we rent, live paycheck to paycheck. I'm thinking of just giving her money for my son without any type of legal work. We met on an online website before tinder was made. We met and not soon after we had our son. I was dumb back then and I didn't use protection. So we didn't really get to date much, besides a couple of times we went out to eat. She kinda slammed me with I'm pregnant and that was that. She moved in after a month or so of first meeting up. I took her and her stepson in. Her ex was in and out of jail, when I met my wife. She was living with her in-laws and moved in with me. The first couple of years were pretty rough. From her being super jealous, fighting, and arguing. We have been ok ever since. I know I have messed up rather bad. I work as a professional ( or at least I thought I was) massage therapist. I had this girl that came in requesting a guy. Everything was going normal. Then the client would throw these remarks about her being single because her boyfriend left her. There were more but I fear this might already be too specific. Anyways things got rather hot. She asked me a personal question and I lost it. She was so beautiful. I don't know what came over me. This is the first time it happened. I know how ethically fucked I am. From getting black mailed, to losing my license, shit even could go to jail. She left a nice tip and rescheduled. So I think I might be good. I really can't stop thinking about this girl. This whole situation is fucked. This happened a couple of days ago. I haven't been sleeping well and I haven't been eating either. Before this happened I was semi- happy. Now I question if I love her, she doesn't deserve this. If I come clean this will hurt her especially because she has been cheated on by her ex. So coming Clean will end up super messy. Why did I do that? I just don't know what to do. There are times when we can be super mean to each other. She will tell me ""your a no good peice of ($h**)."" I smoke close to a pack of cigarettes a day. I tried telling her I want to quit but she will tell me ""no"" because I get grouchy. I told her before that she rather see me die that to help me quit smoking. There is more but I feel utterly helpless. She works but we could bearly make the bills sometimes. We have two cars I can leave her one and I can move to a friend's house. Lately I just don't feel anything. I love her for being my childs mother and I want her to be happy. I'm just not attracted to her anymore. Any advice is appreciated. Sorry for venting and formatting. I'm on mobile and I suck. 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How long did you try to reconcile before moving toward divorce ? If you are a wayward spouse and are now getting divorced who initiated the divorce ? 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Since then the harassment has been never ending. He has bipolar and his harassment has been directly parallel to that. It ranges from you’re a bitch, to I’m so sorry you were right in leaving me, to you abandoned me, and every possible mood in between. I’ve received 25-100 messages a day every single day. It’s been brutal to say the least. I blocked him he calls me from unknown numbers, or emails, I block the emails he creates new ones. I recently unblocked him for texting as we have one very last financial matter to figure out, his car. It’s supposed to be done this week and then I’m completely done I can’t put into words how sweet it feels. Anyways this has opened me up to a new barrage of messages, telling me how much he’s hurting and so on. I sent him this- You taught me a lot and for that I am grateful to you. You taught me patience that I could have only learned from few other sources. You deepened my reserves for empathy. You taught me that anyone who disrespects me is just not an option. You taught me that no is a complete sentence and one I'm allowed to say. For those things I am thankful, with those lessons being taught to me I now know that it is okay to say no to you. To say no thank you and please stop using me as your emotional lending service. Only visiting when you need help assistance or something. I can no longer be your emotional bank. I am so terribly overdrawn that I don't and haven't for a while anything left. I don't have the emotional wherewithal to take care of myself. I most certainly don't have it for anyone else, even you. I am emotionally bankrupt and I hate to even consider how long it will take me to recover as I haven't even began to yet and it's been months. Every time you message with your struggles I'm pulled more and More into the negative, it's why I've had to block all of your avenues of contact even with a deep desire not to. You broke me, someday I will recover and I'll be strong as fuck and wildly proud of myself. But today is not that day. 2019 might not even be that year. I'm okay with that I will take my time and that's fine, but if you would like to remain in contact with me you have got to stop contacting me when you need something from me. I have nothing left to give. Build yourself up so you can support yourself, and find a support network that can assist. I will not be a part of that. I wish you the best of luck though. I’m standing up for myself with the person that I never thought I’d be able to, I am dreading how my words will be twisted and misinterpreted but I feel good, and I hope that lasts. Thank you for giving me a space to write this all out, very cathartic for me. Hope your day is lovely! TLDR: Go me! I can and will heal! 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A little back story. Husband (27M) told me (27F) one month ago that he wanted a divorce. He already had a bag packed and went to stay with his parents. I was confused and devastated, and he would only give me very vague reasons and clearly didn't want to talk, he just wanted to leave. I've since met with a lawyer and the petition has officially been accepted by the court, I am just waiting for the summons to be served to him. Fast forward to today. I get a message on FB from someone I'm not friends with. He asked me if me and my husband were still together. I didn't respond right away, and eventually he sent another message stating that his girlfriend (recently ex) has been spending a lot of time with my husband. I asked him for details if he had any, and boy did he deliver. He had dates, he knew what car my husband drives, etc. He even had photos of some of my husband's stuff in their house. I was so overwhelmed with the information and was shaking while I read through everything. So far, things with my husband have been very amicable and polite, so I texted him to ask if we could talk in person. He agreed and came over to our house. I tried to stay calm. I told him I received these messages and had very specific details of the two of them together. He denied anything. He kept claiming nothing was going on, that he never had an affair, and that this guy was crazy and is just mad that they broke up. I finally started to read him the messages this guy sent me. I read every single soul crushing detail out loud. He finally admitted that he has been hanging out with her a lot and has been sleeping at her house, but that nothing happened. I asked why this guy found a used condom when he went to pick up his stuff if nothing happened. He, again, argued that it wasn't from him. At this point I'm angry. I know he's lying. I know the truth and am just looking for him to fess up. And then he finally admitted it. He slept with her a few nights ago. He said it was the first time anything physical happened. But he also has been hanging out with her since October, which I knew nothing about until today. The first time was a hockey game that he claimed he went to with his dad. Then he went out again with her and another friend from work and told me he was out with different friends. Then they went out together two nights before he told me he wanted a divorce, again telling me that he was with a different friend. I know this woman. They work together. I've met her, I've looked her in the eye. I had a weird feeling last spring about her and my husband. They texted a lot, he talked about her a lot, and I told him I was uncomfortable with how friendly they were. He assured me I had nothing to worry about, that they were just friends. At the time, that may have been true. But as soon as you start lying to your wife and hanging out with her behind my back, she's more than just a friend. I know this doesn't change anything. Our marriage is still over, we're still getting divorced. I just hate that I had to find out this way. I asked him multiple times if there was someone else, and he swore to me there wasn't. He seems to be in denial of his feelings for her - the more we talked today, the more clear it became that this won't just be a one time thing with her. I feel like a chump. I feel like a fool. But I also feel... relieved in a strange way. Ive been destroying myself for the last month wondering what I did wrong and what I could have done differently to make him stay. And now I know that it wasn't just me. I finally have an answer to the questions I've had, and while I'm angry and devastated, it's given me an odd sense of closure. Good riddance to him.",3.1786011871177418,4.650377143808257,3.955329165632268,89.376239590151,73.83355525965379,6.902444198695526,26.5770159561263,7.4657900992518655,1.2432176803809614,2909,104,616,34,59,928,284,751,0.107,0.815,0.078,-0.9684,4,0,0,0,3,0,92.0,4,2,8,4,33,27,4,3,38,0,64,4,3,5,6,124,127,51,0,12,19,11,5,2,8,3,0,2,0,6,38,54,0,2,24,5,1,17,9,11,0,6,62,10,98,16,87,57,12,99,1,2,3,1,141,29,0,16,51,414,136,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0910456678569062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566711771914176,0.08213665373195032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034922950080171385,0.1076997398719049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267816019661586,0.0,0.2400485128704444,0.0,0.04824942154466813,0.07897717301547519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0436990585541818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05873608406693258,0.0,0.0,0.05432645240214641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200508204606671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160964161605826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05255367761604272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04290025362430175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0572740541078415,0.03391928826442739,0.0,0.04326854105225842,0.0,0.04615428380795145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983237095173086,0.07337560128505602,0.0,0.281282762302427,0.046937256093524914,0.0873645457906827,0.0,0.056307766660301815,0.27773554155174146,0.0,0.053661411650511005,0.04926409793042831,0.029186053673288064,0.04307387728369701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15254765057565406,0.1362383477224058,0.0,0.0,0.05070212416700118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17776925099278318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111597231940387,0.08372185278548364,0.0,0.054377201448956684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05017861480533991,0.051470890524213185,0.0,0.0,0.0862500108181316,0.0,0.0,0.17463968317159131,0.0,0.0,0.03427965420622835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198164686583741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03960790267728388,0.0,0.0,0.09638579499955807,0.0,0.24638104945484615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959853373431743,0.0390575557113482,0.0,0.0,0.05702330558685183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484093427627938,0.0,0.0,0.048546781148139616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057529005630472474,0.0,0.15410576127585465,0.0,0.0,0.052801174209005874,0.05070656068532798,0.0,0.0,0.0438566244779031,0.04885007008979542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04675138083169402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496226014736549,0.0,0.05139177752635008,0.0,0.08702532400268745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07269822749988405,0.16421179905113026,0.12303576479612632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757766660058655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1651078174678046,0.04488626242041037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06823554794206597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17967199557761845,0.0,0.1460347235056521,0.2453580342253721,0.0,0.03486646335266614,0.0,0.10033213958052048,0.0,0.0,0.044353963369719175,0.0,0.12711899210891725,0.12116130635390555,0.08152592477228021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23803155964990716,0.04633961981864248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05569197042587192,0.0747736515876712,0.05215318029116989,0.0,0.03648089818421008,0.05614829148406158,0.0,0.0 divorce,ChanceWilsonMusic,2019/01/10,"My wife and I decided just a few hours ago to get divorced This is my first night alone. I don't know how to feel, I don't know what to do. I want someone to talk to, but I don't want to talk about me. I don't want to sleep in our bed. I don't even really want to sleep. I keep thinking about all of the legal things I'll have to do. Where do I start? How do I cope?",-1.6545977011494235,-0.2082366896551715,1.0650574712643677,104.64402298850577,88.3103448275862,4.786206896551724,14.264367816091953,5.82211442006289,-1.2620666666666662,276,4,81,2,9,95,48,87,0.021,0.875,0.104,0.4784,0,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,7,0,0,0,2,0,11,2,2,2,1,16,22,4,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,5,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,1,14,0,13,22,2,7,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,5,53,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18884814070894826,0.0,0.0,0.2206463995455166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407116818117133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772001539536838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812127081365652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11130521700322504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2098026359886348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18936077821275754,0.0,0.0,0.2341637081622734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999247037764429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13647962705092825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4263900463153311,0.0,0.1805090897716414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079163478449714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424688409591598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153508522083938,0.13650817782822844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5026288008950379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Gherkino,2019/01/10,"When does it end? We’ve been living in separate houses for 5 weeks now, finally, and we’re trying to figure out joint custody of our daughter and tie up loose ends, like the last utility payments on our old place. Still the texts keep coming, calling me stupid and evil and deceptive. Why? What is she getting out of it? I just don’t understand! You don’t want to be married anymore, fine. You’d rather be with your married affair partner than me, I don’t get it, but fine. But somebody please explain to me why she just can’t leave me alone now, so I can heal? Why is she still so angry and cruel when she’s the one who left me? How do I make this end? I can’t go no contact because we have to co-parent, and she damn well won’t take my daughter away from me too. So I guess I get to keep being her punching bag forever? People who keep ragging on their ex, explain it to me. What do you get out of it? What do you want?",1.918685567010311,3.3386672989690718,3.3717396907216504,92.48482603092786,77.04123711340206,6.087113402061857,23.980670103092784,6.6274283507984215,0.5915268041237116,712,23,160,6,16,234,116,194,0.146,0.787,0.067,-0.9631,1,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,3,5,1,0,15,8,4,0,3,0,18,1,0,2,0,29,35,14,0,3,5,3,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,1,11,12,0,3,4,0,0,2,7,4,1,1,1,0,30,4,21,29,0,25,0,0,0,0,26,10,1,1,14,107,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435329558639231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13743974268234593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302057962004733,0.0,0.0,0.08448053635774393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141511460914306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11937928099198833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12127725119045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3682372999326466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15181382429279394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.289621164586511,0.0,0.07876142832017362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15266773659553876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15990925296412498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3695439256324198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296581546807526,0.0,0.14674221126693165,0.1505737327989858,0.0,0.0,0.06770595671201511,0.0,0.12237368305532165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250700892375983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454223450016736,0.0,0.0939092346513709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960778520034574,0.0,0.14479252566254702,0.15212544597966746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22134938552693867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419917445918953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940905709579475,0.0,0.0,0.14427256693585627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.163482834171336,0.0,0.11116506278804568,0.0,0.1246051581913128,0.0,0.37515602680507176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,alwaystryingtoimprov,2019/01/11,"It’s all happening so fast California. We had an argument last night and my wife said she could not stay married to me and that she wanted a divorce. She insisted I immediately leave, repeatedly. At first I refused. I thought it over and decided that I needed to get divorced. I took a vacation day and talked to three lawyers and picked one. By that time I had decided to try and move out as soon as I can. I’m leaving tomorrow. I rented a van and I am going to get some boxes and try to pack a few important things and take them to storage and go stay in a hotel. I’m not packed yet and I don’t have any friends who can help me move. Right now I can’t even move off this bed. The whole expensive house we live in was remodeled by a builder just before we bought it, and is filled with overpriced furniture that I realize is nice, yet don’t have an attachment to, and it is so sad that it is just gonna be mostly wasted. I did all sorts of tech projects for the house like home automation and an elaborate security camera “passion project” and network system and it is all just going to basically be junk if I leave because nobody will appreciate it or be able to keep it running ultimately. We’ve been married almost 9 years and moved here and nested and threw out all my old stuff two years ago. Now she refuses to be in the same room with me and wants me out of the house. She’s a cat person and I have grown so attached to the cats. I am going to miss them so much. I feel shitty I can’t say goodbye to them because they don’t know words. They keep coming into the room I’m in, chirping and looking for attention, and she keeps trying to get them out because she doesn’t want them around me. I’m feeling really depressed and need someone to be there for me but there is no one.",4.208803360581288,4.7263251062670335,5.421161444141692,83.43166950499548,70.41689373297002,8.841462306993643,29.188124432334238,8.959647251330699,2.1292326067211618,1402,51,300,25,24,468,195,367,0.055,0.8909999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.3557,1,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,0,7,1,17,8,0,0,16,0,31,1,0,1,4,74,64,33,0,7,8,1,2,1,1,2,0,2,6,1,17,36,0,6,8,1,3,14,9,3,0,5,10,5,43,5,40,46,10,50,0,3,1,1,29,16,0,6,18,208,60,3,0.09768080475672664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658813969433347,0.0,0.09781321600084844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642629685209643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695662576671424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17863593581774895,0.0,0.0831191703167529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841433640483709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07799017423882279,0.0,0.0,0.06299603813673292,0.0,0.08413233400388334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645172502922075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878069972957856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308724262580945,0.0,0.0,0.07546794744733419,0.0,0.1531025665765533,0.0,0.22205700959310692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637881305056168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06547338440543947,0.0,0.09798181157699813,0.0,0.0,0.33813160144011256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604695622889503,0.0,0.0,0.05368281572056094,0.07962289316007237,0.0,0.3102896047277675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047721907156105775,0.0,0.08625394019549278,0.0,0.08202727445632828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152769469871707,0.07180663079363958,0.14485815803625987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09166681818500222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249957291219408,0.0,0.13238208260450976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529111098929427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06257682478711507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341887354339493,0.09291681400286056,0.07767969656297194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827646288841819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082294820520817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182115151866716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344380865091409,0.07851213078033528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06489478628036469,0.0,0.0,0.0775476479250696,0.0569584627818708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852696822764288,0.1989565634801816,0.0,0.09541995267126244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17284400840370312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1090571301282408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12580647134469594 divorce,swifferlifterupper,2019/01/11,"Finding it hard to move on So as the title explains im finding it hard to move on, i love my new gf but always think about the ex wife. Im not sad were separated but find it more nostalgic at certain points. Im guessing this is a normal thing? I just want to forget about her but five years of marriage is hard to remove from my memory. Im just wondering how long did it take others to forget their ex’s",4.431724137931036,3.9230622873563235,5.979908045977013,83.18089655172416,69.80459770114942,8.799080459770115,27.74482758620689,8.238735603445708,1.6346248275862068,317,9,70,4,5,109,58,87,0.098,0.785,0.117,0.5757,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,6,3,0,0,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,19,11,6,0,2,6,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,6,0,0,3,1,1,0,1,2,3,6,2,13,9,1,10,0,1,0,1,9,4,0,2,3,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12063788470426155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975368716653945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15971566860778402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3896302095835016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6264282284412448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12830583334666007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085326745959058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081890272818775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14002596579732315,0.0,0.0,0.14205304510792294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13705626839797538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10900954706113658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632059378450776,0.09289957132777543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551502350082467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15722841897609344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933646192276718 divorce,sadboizrus,2019/01/11,"Tell me about your first love after you split with your ex Would love to hear your stories, good and bad",7.685714285714287,6.029689000000001,5.5238095238095255,92.86285714285715,63.76190476190475,8.4,25.761904761904763,3.1291,0.2952476190476188,83,1,19,0,1,23,18,21,0.11,0.535,0.355,0.8316,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,4,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,5,3,4,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,9,0,0,0,2,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966640039225251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3022214059666873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2980121429190513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004534374311479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.641351474755931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105513618713932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523977716675859,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Yeahboyinsanity,2019/01/11,"How to handle the child pre-divorce Hello Everyone. My SO is in a bind; her daughter’s father is getting resentful and hateful over the fact that she won’t let him claim the daughter on his taxes. The daughter has lived with us for over a year and has never once spent the night at her father’s, nor does she have a bed there. My SO has been scared to do anything legally against him and has lacked the finances for a lawyer due to him cheating and leaving her and the daughter at my SO’s parent’s house. It has been two years since then and I, personally have no experience with divorce or child rights. The daughter does see him once a week for 6-8 hours at a time, but she has often said she only goes because she feels like she has to. The daughter is 14. So, what needs to be done and how do we best handle this situation? The father has been relatively quiet until this request was denied, then began harassing my SO, which understandably has me pretty heated. I’d like to ask for anyone’s help regarding this if I could! 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My wife said “everybody goes through being a ho” to my teenage daughter’s... So, I’m coming up the stairs where I hear my daughter’s in my wife’s room talking with her and my wife saying, “All of my relationships were long. Don’t get me wrong. I was a ho like everyone else. Everybody goes through that time.” To where I interjected with a bit of righteous indignation unfortunately, but as a father it really upset me to have that label and mentality put on my teenage daughter’s. I want them to know that they are special and valuable and not just anyone deserves to touch and be with them in those kinds of ways. And no, not everyone is a ho and goes through that. They defended her saying they thought she was talking about experimentation to which I pulled up urban dictionary (they are teenagers after all) and read off some of the definitions of a “ho”. My wife sat in the bathroom laughing at me, and at the end I seem to be the out of touch, overreacting parent. Like I said during, 10, 15 years from now they’ll look back and remember the “value yourself” versus “everyone goes through it, and then laugh at their dad while he tries to enforce good thinking” I’m 90% sure I’m not crazy here, but I’m also growing and learning after being abused and manipulated for many years. Appreciate your thoughts and just the opportunity to put the issue out there. 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I'm afraid it'll start to carry over to our children, so I've been preparing myself to leave. I made my intentions known to him, but not how close I am to leaving. He knows I'm unhappy, I've tried to explain why (again! This is not the first time!), and he's telling me I can't blame him him, keeps giving me excuses, and says he'll change. The other day, after three days of belittling me, he literally told me everything I ever wanted to hear. I'm afraid I'm going to get sucked back in by him and lose my nerve to leave. Help me!!",4.339384615384617,4.405266746153849,5.7244230769230775,82.96432692307694,70.0,9.576923076923078,28.55769230769231,9.516144504307137,2.235307692307692,487,16,107,10,8,165,84,130,0.128,0.789,0.084,-0.6969,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,0,0,2,5,4,1,2,2,0,7,0,0,3,1,18,25,6,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,4,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,2,4,2,21,0,15,19,0,14,0,1,0,0,20,3,1,0,10,61,25,0,0.0,0.20930824302498174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583741042797146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687841892238985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278567608756667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987140044204692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597952901758435,0.0,0.0,0.15876684751431416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502633382572065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922953673852887,0.1694643460744821,0.1003975655298373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910393220661,0.0,0.2368173259056403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701979713138006,0.0,0.0,0.09708541097634417,0.0,0.0,0.5611589741024843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19763266000134244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715599490497393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098804168016126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048378729965466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503788866123133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15440496077984942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300942105092972,0.0,0.0,0.16880219295943405,0.0,0.11993769621710583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10419617131623424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940438777538138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376054711401272 divorce,_disjecta_,2019/01/11,"Quotation from “A Grace Disguised” by Jerry Sittser “Anger, like denial or bargaining or binges, is simply another way of deflecting the pain, holding it off, fighting back at it. We refuse to let the pain in and experience it for the hell it is. But the pain of loss is unrelenting. It stalks and chases until it catches us. It is as persistent as wind on the prairies, as constant as cold in the Antarctic, as erosive as a spring flood. It will not be denied and there is no escape from it. In the end denial, bargaining, binges, and anger are mere attempts to deflect what will eventually conquer us all. Pain will have its day because loss is undeniably, devastatingly real.” Excerpt From A Grace Disguised Jerry L. Sittser https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/a-grace-disguised/id387709787?mt=11 This material may be protected by copyright.",8.413500000000003,10.603096207142855,7.064285714285719,69.35071428571429,61.92857142857143,9.6,36.14285714285714,9.888512548439397,3.8903,679,31,102,14,10,204,87,140,0.253,0.6609999999999999,0.086,-0.9821,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,3,0,0,5,2,13,4,0,10,0,15,4,0,0,1,14,15,14,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,0,12,5,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,10,0,0,0,1,3,3,23,8,1,14,1,2,0,0,5,6,1,3,7,75,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663470757295082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12198378376896035,0.0,0.09670500860461907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17143266141457267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10230918625944874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050728050830316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15517961774400288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622193716023356,0.0,0.07750311975640302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6752133473838953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18056618629844284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5724704209505311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259204451017475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ronniepancakes,2019/01/11,I love my ex-husband so very much and the fact that he wants nothing to do with me and he does not want my love is just breaking my heart right now. I don't understand why he doesn't want my love. I guess it was not good enough. That's all.,1.5433333333333332,2.2603657407407383,2.567592592592593,100.6991666666667,76.77777777777777,6.140740740740743,20.907407407407405,5.985473137389443,-0.326503703703704,186,4,50,1,4,59,38,54,0.083,0.701,0.21600000000000005,0.8945,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,5,4,1,0,2,13,13,3,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,0,8,4,2,12,3,3,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,1,1,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381765251588165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22884687875821105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857659689856108,0.0,0.0,0.24398394613507146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26245352849253184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5996799845203704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628124538570791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21251495002514825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18914174567840225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23056731556387705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827432637037067,0.39190192927410217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19985023222632176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,NoPossession9,2019/01/11,"born again I began a divorce about 5 years back. During that time I started to date a married woman. I ended it after about six months. Last week she contacted me. She stated I have a three year old. Pointed me to pictures. It is mine - unless a twin brother that I don't know about hooked up with her. She won't give me the name or D.O.B. Says I can see her when she is grown up. I keep asking to see the child, but she refuses. I do it nicely - careful not to bring up the anger of it being a secret for 3. I have focused on why it is good for my daughter to have me involved. No overtures to the mother. At first she was mean. I stayed calm and never reacted. Now mother does not respond at all. &#x200B; It feels like a divorce - no sleep, no appetite, queasy stomach. &#x200B; Today I filed in court to establish parentage. My preference is to come to a reasonable agreement without litigating. &#x200B; Is there another approach to something like this? What am I missing? Is there something else that I can do or say to make her come around? &#x200B;",1.7680072463768113,4.345000879227058,2.880030193236717,89.77627717391304,83.68599033816426,4.995893719806763,25.05012077294686,6.42735559955562,0.9493222222222228,830,34,158,8,24,265,127,207,0.076,0.797,0.127,0.9009,1,0,2,0,2,0,46.0,0,0,0,1,10,9,1,0,11,0,18,2,2,3,2,25,34,6,0,1,7,4,1,2,0,1,0,2,0,2,11,5,0,2,6,0,0,5,9,2,0,3,2,5,29,7,29,30,1,36,0,1,2,0,27,9,0,2,22,118,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4275655112614348,0.4795007807044643,0.0,0.10344713695439164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782281978382073,0.0922280087812349,0.0,0.0,0.07585870163585977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058414918621204,0.0,0.0,0.1699630690972182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863326267871662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241261153145968,0.0,0.08737800665318933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04988233797010573,0.07047831205789311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391489286897126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463773805962564,0.0,0.08274614753615843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768805223822074,0.0,0.0,0.05421756201951841,0.0804160342585436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639455107548997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585219402829685,0.0,0.0,0.10746293642792028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874454164108143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760879114026913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10352059363407333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325975204953203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143256253447276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690696210807084,0.0,0.0,0.15722865102024966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872507128468576,0.0,0.0,0.15189706804513728,0.0,0.0,0.06982768487153831,0.10515185079167608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05752583851948969,0.0,0.09351229050044507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07913414744518857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901973214596515,0.0,0.0,0.09509876651420228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4795007807044643,0.1270596571925968 divorce,bingexpresses,2019/01/11,"Cheating is not as bad as people make it to be Cheating is not good, I am not promoting it at all. But let's think about it, is it really THAT bad? I mean, breaking a promiss or the rule of a relationship is not good for the relationship. But why do those rules exist? I have been with my girl for a year now, never cheated on her and don't plan to. But the idea of why cheating is so bad doesn't really make that much sense to me. Other than the fact that it breaks trust and rules. I just hope this video helps people get over cheating quicker and move on. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzfuDgNWTdo](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzfuDgNWTdo)",5.921403013182676,7.903576093220341,4.923333333333336,83.11705273069681,67.72881355932203,7.278342749529191,23.280602636534837,7.793537801064563,0.8488726930320154,521,12,100,6,9,154,73,118,0.163,0.6890000000000001,0.147,-0.499,0,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,0,0,0,2,4,12,5,0,7,0,13,0,0,2,3,22,19,10,0,1,9,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,11,4,0,0,3,1,0,1,7,8,0,0,1,0,7,4,16,16,2,10,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,3,71,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527616703495159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094435576622287,0.0,0.0,0.3032127790551571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115440546809007,0.0,0.0,0.17952774243624206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040472593468376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18483139509447247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24130702579807756,0.0,0.0,0.1968921609643444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921110084415244,0.13287368205373065,0.0,0.1394072579562155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506216662040128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23158900588416526,0.0,0.0,0.38812048729400095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581872650670925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262015353999274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11639850588309172 divorce,TenebrousClarity,2019/01/11,"I dreamed a dream Background: I (45M) was blindsided a bit over a year ago (shortly before Christmas 2017) by the STBX (44F) walking out, 2 days before we (us and 2 kids, 8 and 13) were due to move out of our 10-year apartment and temporarily in with my parents while we house-hunted. At that point, we had been together 17 years, married 15. Where I am, divorce is no-fault and you have to be separated for a year before you can file. A year and a few days after separating, she filed. We had discussed filing jointly, but in the end I couldn't...I couldn't sign a legal document stating I thought our differences were irreconcilable when I didn't in the slightest believe that, and in any case, I simply couldn't afford the cost. If she was in such a rush to be rid of me, she could damn-well foot the bill. Divorce will be final in around 5 weeks. Custody is 50/50, although previously I had been the stay-at-home, work-from-home dad. That's a long way of saying it's been one hell of a year. It's been financial pressures, even more social isolation than before, worries about whether I will even be able to keep the house I found once we go through the settlement (we're trying the collaborative route, as neither of us want to be giving money to lawyers that should be going to our kids), the usual emotional rollercoaster and feelings of utter worthlessness that accompany being blindsided, the betrayal/rage at seeing her put efforts into dating that she never put into the marriage... And sleep issues. Those have been a major bugbear. I've made some pretty good inroads to improving my sleep hygiene: relatively early to bed; cutting out screen time before bed; dark, quiet room; all that. But still, I would typically wake anywhere between 12 and 3, and not be able to get back to sleep, my brain running through imagined conversations or scenarios, spinning up the good ol' fight-or-flight reflexes. And dreams seem to have been absent, whereas I used to dream quite vividly. So the night before last, I had a dream. That alone makes me feel like maybe I'm finally making some real progress. But it was a weird dream...I was in some strange old house moving weird stuff (like an old wooden Japanese case containing a massive edible jellyfish), and this older (60s?) woman (recognized as a real-life friend of the STBX that I also sorta know, except she really didn't look the same...) came up and was helping, and started hitting on me. But it wasn't aggressive flirting or anything. It had a kind of melancholy sweetness to it, like she was not expecting any traction, but was still willing to open her heart to life. Initially I kinda deflected, but she suggested going back to her place for some wine and a definite implication of romance, and for some reason I just thought ""what the heck, no harm in seeing where life goes"" and agreed. And suddenly the years just kinda melted from her to the point where she seemed almost younger than me. Not physically per se, or at least not entirely, but more like in a brightening of spirit or a rediscovery of part of her she had thought she had lost or locked away long ago. And it was infectious; I felt almost giddy with the idea that someone could find me interesting for me, with no interest in using me or reshaping me. I woke pretty soon after that, I think, well before the dream progressed to any wine, let alone romance. But it still felt amazing, like a breeze of fresh spring air in the sunshine as you emerge from a stale, cold cave. I realized that the personality this dream figure embodied is almost the diametric opposite of my STBX. The STBX is an amazing woman; looks young for her age, in great physical shape, constantly positive, optimistic, bubbly and upbeat. But the past year has taught me it's...well, maybe not fake, per se, but contrived. It's a mask, a coping mechanism for deep issues, a deliberate ploy she uses to try and be a better person by acting how she thinks a better person would act. I don't think it's healthy, at least not to the level she does it, because it's inauthentic and blocks real emotional connection. Really, once you scratch the surface, STBX has not acted like an optimist, but more like a fearful, deceitful user. I feel sorry for her; 15 years of travelling the world, raising 2 beautiful kids, being supported to pursue her dreams, and she found nothing in there worth even exploring with counselors. And maybe my subconscious is starting to recognize that it's okay to let go and to re-open my heart to the possibilities of life. TL;DR: Rough year, still hurting bad, but a dream offers a welcome moment of respite.",7.922946523254048,7.578801720092919,7.730920820077768,72.97343319194063,62.57723577235773,10.831904256930768,35.558273998889064,10.276239652853533,3.5958834823006613,3655,145,648,72,46,1169,420,861,0.08199999999999999,0.7290000000000001,0.188,0.9987,2,3,2,0,3,0,152.0,10,4,0,7,24,40,3,2,62,1,61,13,8,8,2,131,104,54,0,10,30,2,7,7,1,6,3,2,3,8,31,42,2,3,23,12,4,17,17,13,1,1,38,18,73,27,98,43,17,113,2,3,7,0,59,44,2,20,57,420,104,4,0.10776027674031682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552298344724723,0.0,0.1618595268235538,0.11160714790390516,0.0,0.043087927188257866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992102516113968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04433876299332425,0.04796474640213285,0.0,0.0,0.05062216362446047,0.0828610011683863,0.04498766496419904,0.03284483225308483,0.0,0.320936205053092,0.06070446517335381,0.0,0.09530520773080714,0.05882315626672194,0.0,0.0,0.060148053652711475,0.0,0.06162452446282021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058225288308309815,0.0,0.08603781244361959,0.0,0.0,0.0694964637122363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629327679393818,0.0,0.0,0.04715087217957074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121580719613477,0.04772181012361672,0.0,0.0,0.10676196971340678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06063013523655523,0.08173025063090887,0.03849198161740187,0.10346676473873856,0.11804611588830287,0.0492454703493164,0.0,0.0,0.11815358136747353,0.041627661249322316,0.0,0.028150148477706288,0.05168673833606143,0.12248529721614808,0.090384207478077,0.0,0.05940304276669765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12769644678277878,0.03611472100494463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434089118662063,0.057679802500782223,0.06082411790692593,0.0,0.11247373191804846,0.0,0.04789114262621386,0.0,0.0561078728134414,0.02961111496088852,0.043919504057951655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019218394909593,0.11417140546751706,0.18426179811722285,0.0,0.0,0.09536445389702908,0.09049149234265652,0.0,0.05881653581087909,0.0,0.0,0.05098268969308805,0.07193082149642388,0.0,0.16238952292692507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453212031437968,0.0,0.0,0.04155568431623488,0.0,0.0,0.05056285991972189,0.0,0.05169944592153471,0.0,0.11307628320928315,0.11476117781346293,0.03651057618856042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982751737557807,0.05834693927372722,0.051434688739051784,0.0,0.14113817571301032,0.05629327679393818,0.0,0.10186829271919304,0.06074176037280118,0.0,0.10963094196369616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832884171216926,0.0,0.05730815939398898,0.0,0.18398217998612565,0.0690339926394338,0.0553977559688964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04284764862235256,0.0,0.0,0.08587098879197055,0.09810090875143393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16175714988514214,0.054924015782554535,0.045652466393377486,0.0,0.0,0.06031440367349247,0.07627327851589677,0.057429058522063266,0.17211499240888234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06167986772366695,0.0,0.06114254251392867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035726512488922,0.0,0.12832443418814116,0.031417941976234376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07316215433633383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12962234474568154,0.13960542028570927,0.05934136028611705,0.0,0.03177990159696833,0.04276754592422555,0.043219397000695235,0.0,0.0484447151392596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03922538244282619,0.054717895919051435,0.0,0.07654980880293859,0.0,0.0,0.3469704258065502 divorce,BabsRogers,2019/01/11,"Just go to 50/50 or roll the dice and do mediation? In my state, if parenting plan changes are filed more than once in a 6 month period, the judges have you go into this mediation thing where you pay another lawyer to do a sort of investigation, then they make a recommendation and turn it over to the judge. &#x200B; My STBXH took me to court shortly after I filed last summer and wanted ""more time but not 50/50."" He's now refiled for 50/50 custody (so his child support will be halved), and I don't think we should change the plan that we went to court for last summer. I agreed to do the mediation route, but is the mediator just going to say 50/50 because that's what's the politically correct thing nowadays? Is it worth the extra cost? It will probably be yet another $1500 just do it. Any experiences on this?",6.628427672955973,6.5245908364779925,6.959119496855347,76.63540880503145,65.16352201257862,10.337106918238996,30.874213836477992,9.994966539143718,2.6798100628930825,649,21,131,13,9,211,103,159,0.008,0.93,0.062,0.8523,1,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,2,2,1,2,7,1,0,0,11,0,14,0,0,1,1,21,24,10,0,3,8,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,11,7,0,0,1,0,3,5,2,0,0,0,2,1,12,1,17,17,3,24,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,3,11,85,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885267450508486,0.21142659792379548,0.11832459707210607,0.3649041188060837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606755722710767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3681335955916688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020341782748716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29666119555382003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28366316345643383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614500671940915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13888353232528938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18530217632693965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19320417209297533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875992578647028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13837018217292107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974508524548148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311930606579417,0.11149088364804938,0.0,0.0,0.10145962484582954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19331816457547749,0.0,0.18925984390364606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10262852022913584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16129787616087918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142659792379548,0.0 divorce,garfield420sex,2019/01/11,"My ducking wife is a whore I just walked in on my wife ducking my neighbor, mike. I saw his penis and it was twice the size of mine, so I’m kinda pissed. I wish she had just divorced me or something beforehand so we didn’t have to do it now. God I hate women, they all fucking suck, I also fucking hate mike. I think I’ll just have sex with her gay brother to piss her off",1.0442328042328022,2.475816703703704,2.7623633156966503,95.8677777777778,79.49382716049381,5.122398589065256,22.682539682539684,5.288315135182226,-0.005442328042328359,287,9,68,1,7,95,60,81,0.244,0.706,0.051,-0.9598,0,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,1,0,1,0,7,8,7,0,2,0,7,7,2,0,1,11,16,5,0,1,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,0,1,4,1,17,0,7,12,1,5,0,0,1,5,12,3,5,2,1,46,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2493852902413079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5765981904380486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6157720519028105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24007636242076014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19982005307359574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3586106112299385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BrownLawGroup3,2019/01/11,"divorce lawyers edmonton Brown Law Group is a leading family law firm in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. 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Looking for anyone who's been through similar. My divorce was hard. 13 years of marriage and 2 kids, I loved family life. My wife was mean, though, and just getting worse. I don't miss being with her. Soon after divorcing, a friendship with a kid's friends mom turned into dating. It got serious. She is sweet as can be, devoted, but has 4 kids, a house that's a mess, and just not good at adulting in several ways. She was ready for marriage and mixing families. It scared (scares) me to death. We'd keep going out, but I'd feel pressured and break up. Last time was a few months ago and she is now dating someone else. I'm back in the cycle of wanting her and fearing I won't have that with someone else. I just fear being alone and not finding happiness. I'm trying to just give it time and enjoy myself, but is hard.",1.4500631578947392,3.800684622857148,2.7689624060150377,91.61545864661656,82.77142857142857,5.512781954887219,23.496240601503768,6.8360192770164,0.8051142857142857,679,25,139,8,19,219,115,175,0.214,0.6859999999999999,0.1,-0.9712,0,1,0,0,2,0,28.0,1,0,0,0,9,15,0,5,7,0,17,2,0,0,0,29,31,15,1,1,9,2,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,6,15,0,1,3,0,0,1,4,8,0,0,6,6,14,7,18,20,1,23,0,1,1,1,21,6,0,0,13,86,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445928361231184,0.0,0.0,0.14541574365508014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0981734330177144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079616702980343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345783147533721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647199597096451,0.31598607683883884,0.07099225809947038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832630932663547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847544141893016,0.0,0.07335506464892562,0.13468788753056066,0.07979457819688839,0.1177638439109305,0.11229355226388714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494621993788559,0.3773220324586564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620068561756086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479713441792414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11444764002119764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09917118596800167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11790362804356692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1267196937436844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294063649522485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16443895141054465,0.11206878128804547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344677984203675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811369123718334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15861605741743012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2379269598752736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13794578387718398,0.0,0.16374088872945464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532480024833133,0.15271875432552756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08281365684548095,0.111445809908676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430832216611355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041528870251488 divorce,katzoom,2019/01/11,"Divorce drama - how to prove innocence amidst child molestation accusation Utah - In midst of divorce -- a very specific accusation has been made under oath about a step dad touching his step daughter's privates while she slept on the couch (about 15 years ago). Her head on mom's lap and her feet towards her step dad. She remembers her night dress and a blanket. Due to personal experience, I wouldn't be surprised if this was something she saw on a show and internalized. Have you seen this? It'd be nice to find a matching tv scene. I don't want to debate guilt/innocence - just would like to see if there could be helpful advice and, if so, how to find it? Is there advice or other help for a situation where someone is defending themselves against a false memory? If the one memory is the only evidence, would a prosecutor take the case? We've been told accusations like this happen during divorces -- but this specific?",6.661096256684492,7.7064336764705885,6.818449197860963,73.70393048128344,65.17647058823529,10.41711229946524,33.68983957219251,10.436869588844218,3.641588235294118,735,31,129,18,11,236,114,170,0.055,0.872,0.073,0.5948,0,0,1,0,3,0,24.0,0,1,0,0,9,5,1,0,12,0,17,3,3,3,1,23,26,14,0,9,7,4,1,2,0,3,0,0,1,2,7,4,0,0,4,3,0,3,2,1,0,1,8,4,11,4,17,10,0,15,0,0,3,0,21,7,0,5,7,82,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36603387005544463,0.1660206628561689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953526509641382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832048720702868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34235805185345386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561930825639196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221285337028549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510721379810212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18300018193682752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721766284050813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193509629831371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575831945013973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691207584471942,0.1424419511959878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635337914888634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21216226549418868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14924532259014614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2105210187872011,0.0,0.0,0.1586896149623125,0.14418445222158785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14081824413770538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17896295095865106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453328590145685,0.1104680808372417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660898883250511,0.0,0.0,0.12060816780435404 divorce,kristalee9209,2019/01/11,"Untie the knot ? Hello. Looking to get a divorce via online. No underage or in school defendants.. we have been split since 2007. They live in Ontario and I am in bc so it's easier to do it online. Having said that. Has anyone tried untie the knot.. or any other website... I am trying to find real reviews and it's a little Harder than expected.. Thanks. 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Now he's getting remarried. It hasn't even been a year. The irony of this is, I initiated the divorce. It still hurts for some reason. 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I had no idea it was coming we have been married for 4 years. She says they even though I have bettered myself the past few years and become a better husband she still isn't happy..she says she knew she made a mistake early on but has been lying to herself and me. 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I’m 38, so is she, two kids, married 8 years at point of filing. We spent the first 8 months preventing her from running across country with the kids. Then it was was nit picky shit about every little thing. We have a GAL involved so we could at least get temp parenting arrangement. He released his final report in Dec and she still doesn’t want to settle. I left because she was emotionally abusive and treated me like shit even though I was the primary income and did more than my share of house and child work. My kids are tired of the inconsistency. The holidays were a nightmare getting travel plans arranged to visit family. How do you get this shit over with when a controlling STBX can’t let go of control? During the holiday, she didn’t read the letter her lawyer wrote and was out of state when it was her time with the kids, she was 5 hours late for pick-up! I enjoyed the extra time but she was shouting at me when she showed up as it was my fault she can’t read. I know that a final divorce won’t solve everything but it will help fill in the gaps. Anyone else deal with a high conflict STBX during a long drawn out divorce???",2.8410369933097215,4.738061376033059,3.4836245572609217,90.61188705234163,75.73553719008265,6.4277056277056275,22.680834317197966,7.2636822038024595,0.6894255804801253,951,27,199,11,21,299,150,242,0.091,0.836,0.073,-0.7515,3,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,4,1,0,5,13,9,3,0,16,0,25,4,3,3,0,28,35,17,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,5,7,16,0,4,1,6,1,6,6,4,1,2,14,2,27,5,28,16,3,41,0,0,1,0,33,16,3,0,19,130,34,5,0.0,0.14629416408651374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633451355456626,0.1265116849746199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526740286126321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2769687591588492,0.09858236815758896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12729424027528774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314503665685204,0.1388894137604826,0.10935956926696172,0.0,0.0,0.08155211067159834,0.0,0.10403050974961084,0.0,0.11096869815578833,0.0,0.11639844022563993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27051514504044283,0.0,0.10502524480396777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935271171199447,0.0,0.14034399900586347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276069836971049,0.1304549777385567,0.0,0.0,0.12159507703299954,0.14247014381071887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785699807381562,0.0,0.13928182679132098,0.0,0.1341527207984706,0.2525170303063446,0.0,0.06032219656336685,0.12375141033836247,0.0,0.10926886023961804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971083911349144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371010762910481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672097710537795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2470108845980641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3802267903277671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972098437325082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202932965643198,0.0,0.12131064160495506,0.0,0.14399506610815008,0.14191293388287654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12061423115959045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728270017626794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101618247854876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988910766728082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951193849581266 divorce,MorpheusDaughter,2019/01/11,"Divorce & Disability New member, looking for anyone who can commiserate. Anyone else dealing with the complex and infuriating combo of divorce and disability? I was disabled before I got married, was 110% clear with my spouse-to-be, even going so far as to introduce my doctors. Now we’re getting divorced because prostitutes (him, not me, for years before we ever met. With my health problems, he literally could have killed me.) The disability issues are just too much on top of everything else. Wondering if anyone else here has been there, been through that, yet managed to get through it? Cause right now I’m kind of falling apart. Thanks! 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Anyone else dealing with the complex and infuriating combo of divorce and disability? I was disabled before I got married, was 110% clear with my spouse-to-be, even going so far as to introduce my doctors. Now we’re getting divorced because prostitutes (him, not me, for years before we ever met. With my health problems, he literally could have killed me.) The disability issues are just too much on top of everything else. Wondering if anyone else here has been there, been through that, yet managed to get through it? Cause right now I’m kind of falling apart. Thanks! 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My hearts broken and I'm alone. He's sleeping soundly in our bed. I've literally given up everything in life over the last ten years and I feel like I'm being tossed aside like garbage. Everything was for nothing. We never did get married. Common law is not a thing in our state. He told me today that I would be fine living in the apartment with just a bed for awhile. I have nothing. I feel like nothing. How am I supposed to hold myself together for the children? 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Married 20+ years in Cali, planning to divorce in several months. There is no money/property before marriage, everything attained after marriage. I make 50% more than wife. I have had the same salary for many years. Meaning no raises in 5+ years. 2 kids. Considering all assets will be split 50-50, and alimony/child support will be based on a calculator, can someone explain how I could get screwed? My friends tell me horror stories but it generally involves guys who have fluctuating income where alimony is based on highest attained salary. In my case my salary is completely flat for many years, actually since I started working. It is at the high end of the type of job so no room for increases either.",4.508542510121458,7.3023369624060175,4.9909774436090215,77.50189705031814,74.11278195488724,7.701330248698671,34.29091960670908,8.617729084823388,3.3417500289184505,588,32,96,12,13,187,95,133,0.098,0.851,0.051,-0.7319,5,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,4,4,4,2,0,4,0,13,2,0,2,1,11,20,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,8,2,16,14,5,19,0,0,0,2,11,10,2,0,8,57,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.1826262161134406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924634264060972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962176411073693,0.0,0.0,0.14941980246081946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16575464296971054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16819357525746126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144587519001732,0.0,0.19555074706428266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853026604869188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19772863411605102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857122224542164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12492053009696395,0.3794706730989896,0.0,0.20385542474991294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937710169260934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21142022485303547,0.0,0.15480801690695958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15856708385787238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324619709078798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123695701903212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635727029769836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13624355918853512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820601641189757 divorce,BobLI,2019/01/12,"Paying spousal support from a bank account other than my own (New York) Hello. For IRS tax deduction purposes, can I pay my ex-spouse through a friend's checking account, and still be able to claim that as a deduction next year?",5.562480620155039,6.88503765116279,5.367441860465117,82.10992248062018,67.83720930232559,8.524031007751939,35.26356589147287,8.841846274778883,3.0766496124031018,181,9,33,3,3,56,38,43,0.036000000000000004,0.895,0.069,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,6,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,19,5,3,0.40821607927875897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153867302270019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3942576331228228,0.4341424314234087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3260018882262234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632387691861346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26287777116563305 divorce,FindingMyselfAgain18,2019/01/12,"Am I responsible for Credit Card debt my husband accrued during our marriage if my name is not on the card? Long time lurker, but first time poster. I am just wondering if someone knew much about what is considered marital debt in the state of Missouri. Me and my stbx are seperated but still cohabiting. He expects me to pay half of the credit card debt, but my name is not on the cards and I also am not an authorized user on any of them. We have been married 14 years and I have been a stay at home mom throughout. I'm trying to figure out my financial situation so im just trying to find out if I have a legal obligation to oay? Can a judge force me? Any help is greatly appreciated.",3.9345652173913024,5.105910427536234,5.525333333333336,80.028,71.53623188405797,8.708405797101449,28.29275362318841,9.120678840339163,2.2953310144927537,541,20,108,11,10,184,87,138,0.068,0.8109999999999999,0.121,0.8285,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,8,0,14,0,0,0,0,24,17,11,0,4,11,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,0,4,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,16,3,16,14,1,15,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,4,6,75,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828345055464675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31095108066952354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089627375756929,0.19447168597906686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25206424771263075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1532451800022328,0.0,0.2293334992289551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469585216612667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232944484416704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26776748767364145,0.0,0.0,0.16806860010754174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569885426373892,0.0,0.0,0.19371658524071556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436880630856153,0.18258339161176734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26663078320824063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31044812748484363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24793836644362655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472295614602593 divorce,Koschei5000,2019/01/12,I find it fascinating how female posters denigrate their ex husbands as “the problem” and the men just say they are getting divorced. This was the pattern with my parents and it was clear to all of our family friends that she was the problem Adulthood means accepting responsibility rather than blaming. To recover from divorce it’s essential.,8.377372881355933,10.197314830508477,7.762500000000002,65.6806991525424,61.711864406779654,10.645762711864409,45.25847457627118,10.686352973137794,5.571538983050847,281,18,41,7,4,88,49,59,0.122,0.71,0.168,0.4939,1,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,1,0,2,0,3,4,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,2,13,6,4,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,6,2,7,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,12,0,0,0,0,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089907085370426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2995742163626212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25323291481055976,0.0,0.17124536756135092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35703568168111943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3639478211412535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6272598436815817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606544453321562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwawaytoday1298,2019/01/12,"Nothing prepared me for this My husband and I are getting divorced. I’m the one that filed. Today he started packing boxes. Even though I know this is the best decision for all of us, nothing quite prepares you for seeing him take his stuff slowly out to his car. Just waiting for when this gets easier...",2.9741954022988466,5.570237568965516,3.642068965517243,86.16816091954023,78.48275862068967,5.2459770114942526,28.63218390804597,6.42735559955562,1.5004045977011495,241,11,42,2,6,76,48,58,0.028,0.9,0.071,0.5475,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,1,1,0,2,4,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,10,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,1,7,10,2,5,0,0,1,0,8,1,0,0,3,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753381813217228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329105592692062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741520581137464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441901472739904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5034967937719363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17778679947176185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27905980419633064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090726832953048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570484895289527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003476641343234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19726747644650966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2577744341105829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486934203041673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315595427655571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,NYCthrowaway81,2019/01/12,"Does anyone know if there is a divorced R4R personals sub on Reddit? Hopefully this is an ok thing to post here Hey group I’m just about finalized with the divorce, and as I go through Reddit I see there are tons of personals groups that cater to everything. But I haven’t found anything that caters to those who are divorced. I feel dating people in this chapter of life is very difficult and should have it’s own sub. Haven’t found any… Any ideas? Hopefully this is not inappropriate for this sub. I searched divorce and this was the first thing that came up so I thought I would ask. Everybody else still in the process, bless you and hang in there. keep digging to find more and more internal strength to get you through the process. It’s one of the worst things I’ve ever been through Thanks ",3.1856060606060588,5.638519941558442,2.8958181818181856,92.5870606060606,76.85714285714286,6.704069264069265,26.500432900432898,7.793537801064563,1.4219762770562765,637,25,131,10,15,189,98,154,0.044,0.846,0.11,0.8498,0,0,0,0,4,0,11.0,0,2,0,2,9,8,0,0,7,1,13,1,0,0,1,24,28,9,0,5,4,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,15,7,0,1,7,0,0,3,3,2,0,2,6,2,9,6,20,20,5,14,1,0,1,0,13,5,0,3,5,87,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11503559769016786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11828163024398065,0.0,0.13920547304674172,0.0,0.1581431356130839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193475652002718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480343388766132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14131269853784134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15301623069541653,0.0,0.0,0.15203141806808307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08553311995508628,0.0,0.0,0.18530811748216605,0.1546105153275932,0.14388865658384695,0.0,0.37095363235330303,0.0,0.0,0.08837988411551136,0.0,0.09613835946895856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3360310094890633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19096270473669366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035848350200556,0.0,0.0,0.09296671777226982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948374615164607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11462818731101918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727526112611035,0.2954105345405011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200992390283553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479978701229775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509256528154726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15574115035518316,0.0,0.0,0.3371500842516942,0.0,0.0,0.13429530850394744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395759254916995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016745198388952,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SilMarrill,2019/01/12,"Any advice please? Married in NY but I’m British. How do we file? So my American wife and I would mutually like to divorce, however we married in the states and I have no idea if this affects how we file. We have zero communication so conversing with her about this is out of the question. However, she has stated numerous times that she wouldn’t contest it so it’s just a case of knowing how to initiate. Do I have to go through UK or USA courts? Thank you in advance ",1.3319825918762085,3.818397478723405,3.3086847195357834,86.56136363636364,84.85106382978722,6.822437137330756,27.69439071566731,8.00094639256281,2.0751829787234044,369,18,75,8,11,124,67,94,0.03,0.878,0.092,0.7087,2,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,4,1,0,1,8,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,4,0,21,13,11,0,3,4,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,12,2,12,11,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,3,2,55,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35198201638312576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449474785445673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20470923102219304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4066205066999167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19795579424218732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17597489824328705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3953900244014421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035049971440241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316225833665836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100347678760224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558748331612737,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,needhelp224,2019/01/12,"I need help now please This is all happening really fast. I need help. I am devastated and have no idea what I am doing. Need a lawyer to make seamless transition and protect financial resources at all cost. Nashville area.",3.1182926829268283,6.11814912195122,4.0128780487804905,80.89736585365854,82.17073170731706,8.158048780487805,27.71219512195122,8.841846274778883,2.9140887804878046,178,8,31,5,5,57,32,41,0.133,0.645,0.222,0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,9,10,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,2,10,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,20,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268306624179416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067419341162261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34251572032065825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253016390476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.674929453096447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330557529293697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943737823842263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,earth2_me,2019/01/12,"Why do I put her feelings and happiness ahead of my own? Background: we have been married 21 years. I knew it was a mistake in the first week when I started to realize a lot of what she told me during our courtship (long distance with little physical contact) were lies and manipulations. That has been a recurring theme in our marriage I’m afraid. So in turn I wasn’t a good husband particularly because of it for the first year or so (no cheating, just not as attentive to her needs) but then really decided to give it a try. It was ok but honestly I was unhappy. I took a job as an otr trucker for a big chunk of them or worked super long hours when I was a local driver because it was preferable to being at home. Our personalities do not mesh well and while I won’t call her a narcissist because I’m not qualified to do so, she definitely scores high for those tendencies on every online test I’ve seen. I’m pretty non confrontational and laid back and thus was fairly easy to manipulate. Until I had enough one day and said we were through. We’ve been separated for 6 months and being in control of my life and finances and not having to walk on eggshells around someone while doing what I want when I want has been awesome. So why is it that I’m dreading the talk that is coming soon about divorcing and getting so sad at times and thinking about how this is hurting her and how sad it must be making her and I’m a terrible person for wanting to cause her pain so that I can be happy? There’s many reasons for why I’m wanting to leave, like the numerous emotional affairs I’ve caught her in with online people over the years, not paying the bills with the money I make. (she just started working for the first time right before we separated, she’s been a stay at home without any kids for the full 20 years of marriage leading up to it) Dead bedroom and a lack of sex drive for the last 10 years, as well as the lies and manipulation referenced above. So why can’t I just chuck the deuce and move on? Why do I still think that maybe I should try again. Maybe she’ll actually try this time. Maybe she won’t lie to me. Maybe she won’t screw off money with nothing to show for it. Why am I such a sucker for someone that while do admit I care for, I do not love in the romantic sense? Thanks for listening to my rant!",5.084458495698847,5.375092513859278,5.863510036026764,81.82895522388061,68.42430703624734,8.942313065215792,30.244908462613047,8.841846274778883,2.208217351665319,1835,66,379,29,29,602,237,469,0.149,0.733,0.118,-0.9512,1,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,1,9,26,24,4,2,27,1,42,5,0,12,1,70,75,41,1,10,14,1,1,1,0,6,2,2,3,3,20,25,0,1,10,1,5,8,13,12,2,4,21,4,45,12,63,44,5,65,0,3,1,3,38,22,1,3,35,259,65,8,0.0,0.0,0.07966204925839017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551325113373113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07267069267277892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627707514596472,0.0,0.14928818911341735,0.0,0.06946368523440649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335643786331287,0.0,0.08323030177414968,0.08385959569864022,0.0,0.07031961619138123,0.0,0.0,0.0915583703878422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264654287896207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182615704855923,0.0,0.0843487288344131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877933794567875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041276106384972415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083110086431187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04264988230242209,0.07830982875187759,0.0,0.06846990192592728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737997299212444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624976482545549,0.1637691447627388,0.0,0.08039207840000807,0.0,0.08738983347933517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100817356826409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654180457825475,0.0,0.08643757852803388,0.0,0.0,0.05765981435051239,0.039881768848806315,0.08181772917774667,0.0,0.14448530307981008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940147215200708,0.07367698535108945,0.0,0.10898134598361388,0.08276306681442931,0.3280453527253371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515869564816787,0.0867629784461648,0.0,0.06052984801893869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832908183060337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531664525566995,0.0,0.08686328604781264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05659405569571881,0.14255760408761053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305012627479211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820637296574251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052296201266396114,0.08393233782631361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06971415080714817,0.07765169330110247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833478143355638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556053972856055,0.087009934908325,0.06519223312920187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06561352716616986,0.0,0.0751567146615731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461428268044894,0.0,0.0,0.14280260672854952,0.0,0.0,0.07800384641253558,0.09069728597723954,0.16627038080673712,0.08879328139821444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19259707475670065,0.0,0.06548108251440031,0.0,0.14679577271147246,0.0,0.44196660589012293,0.0,0.0,0.07869131567314036,0.0,0.1188596177941258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628449337450248 divorce,SloppingFlotties,2019/01/12,"The morning after. So this morning my wife is all emotional (as expected), and the alcohol she drank has worn off. Apparently divorce isn't on the table now, but I feel like I should still file. Should I take it as she was drunk? Or should I just stop dealing with this and end it before it gets swept under the rug? Also, I found the root of this. So a while back I spoke with my Mother-in-law to get advice because my wife and her father share a lot of traits. My wife has severe anxiety and OCD that she inherited from her dad. Logically, I spoke with MIL to get advice on how to handle a situation. My wife took it as me trying to turn ""her"" family against her. This was well before Christmas and she has been thinking of divorce ever since.",3.645344722391705,4.86344867785235,4.977291031116536,83.50381330079318,72.28859060402684,7.834289200732154,24.954850518608907,8.296473431620573,1.4487261744966442,579,17,118,9,11,193,91,149,0.08900000000000001,0.845,0.067,-0.5122,1,0,1,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,10,3,0,0,8,0,11,3,0,2,2,25,24,15,0,4,3,6,1,1,0,3,1,2,1,0,9,8,3,1,4,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,9,3,21,3,20,12,2,13,0,0,0,0,20,4,0,2,9,89,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3599820485050415,0.0,0.1968460339444171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729887621664325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090695015537974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163285577607698,0.0,0.11228219123341784,0.0,0.3134689288785774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18989463813236485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071920529116298,0.16314010584729136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661288827478424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364053265896778,0.0,0.09313338914508616,0.13158733792931449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019578440192802,0.0,0.0,0.2886993299525281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998727407443995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659408988072493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2080853799497196,0.0,0.1523661468042602,0.20704036920109525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14709656866931722,0.15399338722078532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849002548287598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11802327729438535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2046449233980252,0.12505478702010298,0.20034882052101227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16561140357183332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TwelveGaugeSage,2019/01/12,"Question about Transfer of Mortgage In divorce my wife and I want her to be able to take over(assume) the mortgage on our home as part of our divorce agreement. She will have no income other than what I give her in child support/alimony until she gets a job. We are doing ""DIY divorce"" to save time and money and have no problem working things out ourselves. It is a VA loan. Is this assumption of mortgage into her name possible? If not, is there a way that I could hold the mortgage and just agree to pay it as part of support? Our mortgage is cheaper than she would be paying rent for on a much smaller place.",3.4884999999999984,5.350990850000001,4.036666666666669,87.495,73.83333333333334,5.8000000000000025,30.33333333333333,6.2581,1.5132333333333334,482,22,91,3,10,152,80,120,0.068,0.826,0.106,0.6966,8,0,0,0,3,0,13.0,4,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,18,18,8,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,7,7,0,1,1,0,5,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,14,3,21,13,3,10,0,0,0,0,18,7,0,2,2,74,21,5,0.2080808415970928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16613562032309745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871365151445923,0.19961010379166105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872204999668106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064881278845395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296336066235486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4506625482393293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21740019171940947,0.0,0.0,0.23457988417976386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19910526347693192,0.0,0.0,0.23309816412647394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4722553463496942,0.0,0.0,0.15645089690076142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13823966518408382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133361207706672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273147156267265,0.1651648866938313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148533091354613,0.0,0.0,0.1478146597395716,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,daliacristina9d1,2019/01/12,Why do I feel like this My ex and I were married for 5 years. But 2 of those we were separated. He left me one year for someone else and I forgave him. That’s a whole other story. I loved that man with every cell in my body. I honestly don’t think I can love anyone the way I loved him. We fixed things after he came back but I felt like I was clocking out of one job and heading to another. It was a constant battle trying to explain to him that I needed help and that I needed a partner not someone to take care of. After a while someone started flirting with me and giving me attention. My ex and I were fighting all the time by then so getting attention was kinda nice. And though I never did anything why the guy flirting with me I would flirt back and I knew that was wrong. When my ex found out he kicked me out. I was living with my parents and going to therapy and wrote about sleeping with the guy flirting with me in a journal I was meant to write in courtesy of my therapist. My ex showed up to my parents house one day took my journal and my cell phone and looked through everything. Then he told my parents about it and they asked me to leave the house cause they didn’t wanna see me. They’re very old school. Anyways he filed soon after. It was finalized this month. Idk why part of me thought maybe we could fix things. Our relationship was not perfect but I loved him once and he felt homey. But when I got the notice I flipped. I cried and cried. I mean he told me he filed I just never believed him. Not long ago he messaged me still calling me Mrs. I’m all mixed up with emotions. But everyone around me is happy that it’s finalized and telling me it’s about time and congratulating me. And I just smile and say “right?! Thank you” but I feel sad. I know that even with how much I loved him our relationship was kinda toxic. He drank too much had anger issues. But he was mine. I think part of me thought he always would be. That even if we dated other people in the end it would still be us and that would work cause we’d still be married. I know that sounds ridiculous but I always thought it. Now I feel alone and sad. And no one including me really understands why. ,1.5863982102908238,3.7534625838926203,2.697422818791946,93.41575391498884,80.87919463087249,5.494586129753916,22.01387024608501,6.640361216903883,0.38189360178970894,1713,54,370,17,45,546,204,447,0.097,0.7709999999999999,0.132,0.9372,5,1,0,0,2,0,37.0,8,1,2,2,22,24,4,0,12,0,29,9,3,3,5,93,72,39,0,9,14,7,5,2,1,4,0,2,0,5,24,39,1,0,20,1,0,3,8,7,0,4,31,9,77,17,43,32,7,49,0,2,2,5,64,12,0,3,35,253,101,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262655829201122,0.0,0.0,0.0731716211299979,0.0,0.0,0.1175721609860539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740822072690268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493998040737762,0.0,0.058138555245828887,0.06289307301993137,0.06604778695376944,0.0,0.0,0.10865027729524708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07959784314868915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07847571694223349,0.0,0.0,0.07214108384551657,0.08080425745118411,0.07203191898173975,0.14515308666301222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763470587018104,0.0,0.05640791233549719,0.0,0.15521041398172108,0.04556311139681468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901862872963925,0.07947122819372843,0.06257452637369651,0.0,0.0,0.09332671542612274,0.0,0.05952528818127605,0.06750866721952646,0.06349525492783664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10716759717171093,0.05047204858019353,0.1356692837546241,0.15478624496495158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746357875229462,0.0,0.0,0.036911470955917854,0.06777348057004315,0.04015176415766815,0.0,0.05650489455312643,0.0,0.0,0.13990831276893648,0.0,0.07520775365387188,0.0,0.0,0.0725068148685608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04735490033066101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16304017711674448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373976894446227,0.07010877133621357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077654283828505,0.0,0.0,0.0748076664482659,0.07676093662379753,0.0,0.0,0.06903159741895668,0.0,0.062384841996116734,0.06252262351360026,0.05932782368819305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31881986046557986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097696321577808,0.07695806539045515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056391792241974215,0.0,0.10387108823508057,0.10477148383550378,0.10897856797499757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043497447279968,0.07413481223354962,0.07523945895140294,0.19149583862908034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534387447961955,0.1530131435061169,0.0,0.04897949842575508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045259907177745966,0.0,0.0,0.1517023414962472,0.0,0.06033432482856797,0.0,0.05618335331005004,0.0,0.07150111065317798,0.05629853979741839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07070056657813617,0.0,0.17958338891317344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05000611110242988,0.0,0.16926245207222795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0531196648859843,0.0,0.0617508157422805,0.06504460834620679,0.08079391110122436,0.08202956627117415,0.09387283593761826,0.09053875059613653,0.06941281858918756,0.16826353968333,0.08239263488566721,0.0,0.0,0.13501733443905292,0.07849424327577413,0.04796640303685544,0.0,0.0,0.07354866722936447,0.08498270297059632,0.0,0.0,0.058293273084616015,0.0,0.05607831981732274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550008996683275,0.07887769319500335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05143370969854021,0.0,0.0,0.20074963700802212,0.07724418596500386,0.0,0.09099198041433901 divorce,FrogsNFaeries,2019/01/12,"New Here \*\*\*LONG\*\*\* Please Do: * Tell us how old you are, how long you were married, how many kids, if you own a house, etc. * I'm 37; married 17.5 yrs, separated a month shy of 16 yrs, officially divorced 5 months; 4 children; no house, it was sold as part of the divorce. * We met a month after graduating high school. Red flags were there from the start, but I had no idea. Being 18 and having dated only a few guys, and coming from a rather conservative but dysfunctional family, I was an easy target. I stuck through the bad and ugly because my religion taught me to, because the healthy/functioning members of my extended family had celebrated 30, 40, 50+ years of marriage. I'm stubborn and strong willed and didn't want to be a statistic. Early on, I believed the love bombing and his family was nice. His mom liked me! When we married (19) I gained sisters and brothers that ""loved"" me. We had our first child a year and a half later because he wanted to, it was God's plan for us. I wasn't ready. I fiercely love my children and have virtually gone to the ends of the earth for them and will continue the best I am able. &#x200B; * Tell us if you're using a mediator, collaborative divorce process, attorneys, or trying to DIY/Pro Se. * attorneys; my first one died while I was fighting false claims of abuse/neglect in Oct 2017 and I had to hastily find another &#x200B; * The basic reasons for the divorce. * Me: long-term abuse, mostly emotional manipulation and control; Him: he wanted out and wanted someone new &#x200B; * Tell us where you are emotionally, as best you can. * I have a lot of hurt with deeper layers working themselves to the top. I work with a therapist at the VA and I attend family therapy with my middle son. My ex has many narcissistic/sociopathic traits that I was blind to for way too long and I blame myself for it, though not as much as I used to. I've learned/read enough to fill a semi or more in the last 2.5 yrs. I try to implement what I learn, to see what works and what doesn't. * I have military service connected PTSD that was made exponentially worse because of my ex, but I didn't understand it at the time - that was a watershed moment in therapy. I've made tremendous progress since we separated, even with the drawn out divorce. * My ex constantly moves the goal posts as far as communication, parenting time, pick-up/drop-off, etc. I try to use the grey stone/broken record method that is suggested in many emotional abuse survivor books, but he had so long to observe and manipulate me that I get tripped up from time to time. I worry about my kids and how inconsistent their dad is. He does similar things verbally/emotionally to the two older ones that he did and tries to still do to me. * My ex alienated my only daughter from me early on in the divorce. I lost the chance to have my youngest attend school with his next oldest brother for this school year because of viscous tactics on my ex and his attorney's part. I should get my youngest for school next year and future years. &#x200B; * Tell us what you'd like us to do to help. * Reminders that I'm not alone, that there are decent men out there to eventually date, to build friendships with others, encouragement on how to be the best mom to my kids, to learn what helped others undo years of emotional and other abuse, to take care of myself better and keep reaching for my goals. I gave up so much during our long relationship and for years just tried to survive. I thank God for my best friend reconnecting with me (my ex had alienated me from my family and friends) and telling me some hard truths that started me on the path to reclaim my broken and bruised heart and make a better place for myself and my children. &#x200B; * Rant or vent if you need to get it out of your system. * I could write a novel or screenplay of the drama and betrayal. * The biggest one is that he has always claimed to be an upstanding member of his church community, but never really lived it beyond showing up on Sundays. He couldn't wait to start dating after we separated - but this is forbidden by our church doctrine. I guess it shouldn't have surprised me, but it still hurt. He was dating exclusively at seven months, living with her and her kids at fourteen, and married her the day after our divorce was finalized and she was over five months pregnant! They named their daughter the same name he and I had chosen when we were first engaged and didn't get to use. It makes my head spin. * During the divorce I learned that he bided his time until our youngest child was old enough to not qualify under supposed tender years practices. He had threatened for years to take the kids but learned that most courts wouldn't let him take a baby/toddler and didn't like separating siblings. He also drained our savings, ran up lots of debt, and kept his pay the last year we were together to set himself up once we separated; my VA benefits didn't cover all of the bills and he knew it. He then sold his business to pay his attorney. * When we agreed to get a divorce I talked to his family to let them know and ask that they not say things to the kids (be decent, not take sides, etc). I later learned that he had been conditioning his family for years with lies and half-truths (people afraid to say things when we were together shared astounding things when we weren't). The real zinger was being told that I carried the spirit of the Devil and therefore drove out the Holy Spirit from their homes whenever I was there with him. I was told how mentally ill and broken I was (I had a diagnosis and was in therapy). His younger sister was glad we were finally divorcing because she had told him for years to leave me. According to them my ex had been a long suffering and devoted husband that could handle the burden of being married to me no longer and he deserved happiness. * My ex and his family also did not trust my children in my care and made efforts during the divorce to ""prove"" it to the courts. Ultimately, it came down to him spending a lot more money for an attorney and me being forced to ""try"" alternate arrangements that were never reviewed.",4.912376137512638,6.401522924126173,5.36215517754119,80.91209971450664,69.54560954816709,8.456666468407382,29.325809393524853,8.907891778443368,2.3409351771446705,4862,184,915,88,86,1554,482,1173,0.115,0.757,0.128,0.9541,3,1,1,0,16,0,191.0,24,8,8,23,30,41,2,1,61,0,88,8,2,20,5,165,147,88,1,16,23,20,1,3,2,5,3,2,1,14,44,77,0,6,12,4,8,10,22,10,0,10,67,7,147,31,142,61,25,129,5,4,4,3,155,39,0,14,79,620,191,22,0.037179669208162576,0.13215548504151767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038506924498099324,0.0,0.05946513606624621,0.03093646318239285,0.20142078026771212,0.2258868380275313,0.0,0.03898612491983533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0347579718232139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031043470792995437,0.1359862875604964,0.0,0.0,0.04188875535356359,0.15607107612264404,0.06576479208169878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04252363679724607,0.07581430130556245,0.0,0.0,0.032026992909935006,0.0,0.04017801409455605,0.041700160468396134,0.05936988105099971,0.0,0.0,0.02397781084197337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03858662672532152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0325361790734325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091106180625912,0.032930151407953724,0.07683307408816266,0.12439547750641508,0.024556820862179887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803974657890651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08145702057933712,0.033981544089761014,0.0948750229056608,0.0,0.0,0.057449840404138565,0.0,0.0971242131350436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04095759730576098,0.03681371789534696,0.0,0.03957844922522877,0.03330568077923813,0.0,0.03815706694240105,0.0,0.0,0.04405808702480039,0.04984149711288035,0.03928236182391152,0.03729423966071942,0.0,0.0,0.08580069285655585,0.07960320971109364,0.041971321011125585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03304699829482511,0.0,0.0,0.0204329738644558,0.0606127854179969,0.0,0.039367901371005966,0.0,0.07603746153000726,0.0,0.054492325072428585,0.0,0.06566065814784805,0.2303198609128527,0.0,0.0,0.04058600091921225,0.09482647560968104,0.10066830915470522,0.10554090591466908,0.049635435802622765,0.11308304699173333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037468361810304,0.0,0.0,0.0870887584432644,0.1483822862361029,0.039516104410716964,0.05466266963113512,0.02756825361597461,0.057350505894474726,0.07181671240485307,0.0790819999940636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802761708084484,0.03959513429355668,0.07558171821855897,0.056553627625734626,0.0,0.0,0.04128362273845905,0.08052391724025003,0.0,0.025775701272007342,0.0,0.03884484103332125,0.04081211194544288,0.0,0.0,0.0356078456915957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043461043687786735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03718973055467311,0.04231860322435836,0.02381824813458931,0.03822689221115351,0.0,0.03991705062679018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05913353047396664,0.0,0.15051124066586602,0.029627382690905982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03075540657309252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031502213067489265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894788368473406,0.0,0.05938346371315049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11181793671045837,0.029883609768682293,0.16248334824094848,0.03423004416078185,0.12755457593950476,0.04316846157343062,0.09880208064408742,0.0,0.03652883622552846,0.0,0.10839882053129604,0.0,0.0,0.10658030168435986,0.0,0.15145532912855236,0.0,0.036319134399143665,0.03870534685715595,0.2683353854729539,0.12844518723468204,0.0,0.0,0.0877181287639493,0.029511490846287014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120172597379642,0.03775775882498017,0.03788925927112068,0.0,0.0,0.2258868380275313,0.28730985584063023 divorce,TheSuriel,2019/01/12,Scared and confused I’m so scared of the unknown. I have two children under 4 with my husband of 7 years married and 14 years together. He let me know he cheated and got someone pregnant. I love him so much but don’t think I can stay married. Have any of you divorced while still head over heels in love? I feel this is my only option and I hate it.,0.7466095890410962,2.9457861780821943,2.193407534246578,95.5895633561644,84.4794520547945,4.197945205479451,24.19349315068493,5.148860815047168,0.2272753424657528,273,11,59,1,8,88,55,73,0.165,0.728,0.107,-0.3604,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,3,7,2,3,1,0,6,4,2,0,0,11,14,8,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,1,1,1,10,2,7,12,1,8,0,0,0,2,9,3,0,2,4,37,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752959992227733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712894475429432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852712624093644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22870591736670745,0.2377392123323069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12730850407016794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368773029538641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4181454261389619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702890324576587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617987916330538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4638431113355307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19627586503686684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469075392891799,0.18499558561510546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14843164253798868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262878962284379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983493591806018 divorce,throwaway23690832647,2019/01/12,Is there anyone here getting divorced because of infidelity ? If so I would love to hear a little bit of your story ? Is there anyone here getting divorced because of infidelity ? If so I would love to hear a little bit of your story ?,3.766363636363636,6.097911090909097,5.327272727272729,76.46090909090911,74.45454545454545,6.218181818181819,29.181818181818183,7.1686216300943375,1.9723818181818191,184,8,30,2,4,62,21,44,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.8983,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,4,10,4,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,6,8,2,2,0,0,0,2,8,2,0,2,0,24,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873934770168105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505528753648647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4487254136997367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21474004155934592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632473751168099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4119482074848037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37095996617467264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2919755314385189,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ashrafshah,2019/01/12,"Divorce Problems [Divorce Problems](http://www.rohaniamilusa.com/divorce-problems/) Here are **Syed Ashraf Shah Jilani** who will provide the best **Divorce Problem(Talaq Ka Masla)** **Solution** for those who suffer through the painful and painful pain of getting separated. 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I'm a wreck. I thought I was almost ready to initiate, but in the end she asked. It's over. Sixteen years! I've been with this woman since I was 22. One daughter (8 year old). I feel like I have nothing left now. I'm empty and crushed. I have no friends of my own. I poured all I had into saving this sinking ship for way too long. WTF do I do now? How the fuck do I even get though this night with no one to turn to? I haven't been this alone as an adult, and I'm flailing. As bad as the above sounds, I'm not going to hurt myself... not in my nature. But I could use any sort of human kindness, and I know you're nice folks here (I've lurked). What do I do with this pain?",-1.264067288474351,0.6252825000000009,0.7227781479013977,104.69194203864092,91.08860759493669,3.5794803464357097,15.277814790139908,4.4396938790447145,-1.3980177215189875,537,11,142,1,19,175,100,158,0.214,0.637,0.149,-0.9273,0,1,0,0,0,2,29.0,0,0,0,0,7,9,1,0,6,0,14,2,0,2,1,22,29,10,0,1,4,2,2,1,1,0,1,1,0,3,7,7,0,0,4,0,0,1,5,4,0,2,6,3,19,5,17,22,2,16,0,1,0,1,10,5,1,2,10,83,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836722632878792,0.1899715561101496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12473435373550393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34295265490831905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15315106387933974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644883792121074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245888726378507,0.0,0.0,0.1211495733069195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854889904482306,0.1310378731641299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171263639079573,0.1695721841292781,0.0958312726644725,0.0,0.10424387214338827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229449883210066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963587824434727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910074777213595,0.10080482644570284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992903034495856,0.0,0.0,0.08961151727901429,0.0,0.0,0.16232413465140913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721306450479232,0.0,0.17599991355755848,0.0,0.1924722375211585,0.0,0.24858518843222965,0.0,0.19517566756115687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517299166745736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18021277863930604,0.14561786831470294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995122307749554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841911819675758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455931345406799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362375993029571 divorce,trashgarbageperson,2019/01/12,"Screamed, thrown things at, for the billionth time, I'm done So as the title says, for the billionth time. He always makes it seem like it's my fault, like I said something that pushed him (usually alcohol related, though I have to say, though we were drinking, I am 100% clear headed, and just cleaned up the tables he turned over/destroyed, the random mess he threw on the kitchen floor). And I am fucking done. Done to having my dogs cower in fear as he screams over my face about how he wants to beat the shit out of me for what I just said (which is about food in the fridge?). Done with ALL the shit I've had to endure the last 10 years, and there's more than I can even post. No sex, no money, no intimacy, nothing to talk about, and your abusive asshole shit comes out again? Yep, we're done. And I'm probably done with ever having a relationship again after this, so thanks for fucking up any potential happiness I could have had with anyone else either. I am searing with rage. I feel nothing. I can't, I've been numb to feelings for over a year. Sorry for the rambling, I just don't know what else to say besides my stream of conscious.",5.766072874493926,5.515829561403514,5.585964912280705,86.25188259109316,66.98245614035089,8.41889338731444,29.819163292847506,7.61054688173877,1.61852726045884,892,28,189,8,13,277,135,228,0.117,0.754,0.129,0.7129,1,0,3,0,0,0,38.0,1,1,0,1,17,16,6,1,13,1,22,13,5,2,3,30,38,12,0,2,4,0,2,2,0,0,2,7,2,0,8,13,4,0,5,1,1,3,5,12,0,0,13,9,19,4,36,24,3,25,0,0,0,3,15,11,5,2,12,122,27,0,0.0,0.1179009550846824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634401225067996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279880070812858,0.0,0.0,0.06766899389820638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957845289601111,0.10195791869769584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571751035650374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944920723847923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.610988673367685,0.0,0.09748016092360944,0.0,0.0,0.1662526787725566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06572423307102744,0.0900108713230051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197439922040507,0.1006286799660795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12032572041396247,0.0,0.0,0.18398747016369893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592833803967606,0.0,0.0,0.10212412979285558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054687108894864236,0.08111247091499467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722936840352782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06642250170700661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19096161915209944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953013569030804,0.0,0.10728667876230837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10683457576317036,0.0,0.0,0.18931018641006506,0.23739876352455616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905885355323653,0.0,0.0,0.3064312374204926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766062802492351,0.0,0.11139129228932312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998092849491749,0.0,0.09161378881578404,0.0,0.0,0.06610883196769399,0.0,0.1955326187680552,0.0,0.11604807291966285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823635608483682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095942329838862,0.0,0.05869251940013163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816004722850094 divorce,B4d3r99,2019/01/12,"She wanted this, but now she's telling our children that we're getting back together, despite a no contact order I'm 25 years old, from Canada. I haven't officially divorced yet as I can't currently afford it but I honestly believe I may have one of the craziest separation stories. I met my ex in high school, we dated for 8 years before she got pregnant with my first. I never wanted anyone else, I did my best to give her everything she ever asked for. My world fell apart a year ago when she told me she had feelings for another man. Eventually I gave her the ultimatum, him or me. When she told me she couldn't choose I left her because I'm not a doormat. She spiraled into a chaotic drug and alcohol fueled depression. She stole thousands from me and even more from my kids RESPs. She told me horrible truths about our relationship, like the fact she had cheated on me with 8 of my friends, despite the fact I'd never so much as thought of being unfaithful. She told me she wasn't sure if my daughter is biologically mine, even gave me a name of the possible father. She forced my best friend to have sex with her. In a crazy twist of events she charged me with harassment after I had confronted her about draining the kids RESPs. The lawyer I used didn't even know what I was being charged with, but billed me 2 grand anyways. I took a no contact order to avoid legal fees from going to trial. At this point we were already doing split custody, 50/50. I requested a layoff from work to ensure I'd have access to my kids. Child protective services automatically get called for ""domestic violence"" charges and so they began investigating me. They quickly closed my file and began investigating her immediately after the no contact order was put in place. She had shown up at my place and screamed in my face in front of the children, knowing I wasn't allowed to say anything. She then tried to use the harassment charge to get full custody of the children, to no avail. I was forced to request full custody to counter. She lied so much in her affadaivit the Judge threatened to have her charged. Despite CPS and her best friend and roommate recommending I get custody, the court decided on 50/50. I left her everything, all our physical possessions as well as the very affordable rental unit. I was forced to take on all of our marital debt by myself, an amount close to 60 grand. I'm finally starting to get my life back together and I've accepted the fact that I'm better off alone than being in an emotionally abusive relationship like that, but now my 4 year old daughter keeps telling stuff like ""mommy loves you dad and she wants to be with me"" My daughter is brilliant, but she's too young to understand fully what she's saying. It's clear that my ex is putting ideas in her head, unhealthy ideas of an unrealistic expectation. I'm at a loss for how to handle this situation. I don't want to upset my daughter but I also don't want her to have any expectations of those sort.. All I can tell her is it's not that simple. I honestly fear for what's going to happen when the no contact order runs out. as hard as it is to co parent when you're legally not allowed to talk, the relative peace and calm of her forced quietness has really been healing. She has a habit of lashing out when she doesn't get her way and I'm worried about what she might do when she's allowed to talk to me again.. Any advice??",5.206286813922353,6.235894591867472,5.892076305220886,79.10058099062921,68.44277108433735,8.854029451137885,31.472423025435077,9.090341537353329,2.6421740696117806,2715,111,517,49,45,885,305,664,0.147,0.706,0.147,0.4655,9,2,2,0,2,0,64.0,6,1,2,7,28,30,4,3,30,0,41,8,2,6,12,77,85,37,0,9,11,9,2,3,3,2,4,4,0,8,18,24,1,3,10,0,3,8,19,10,1,3,26,6,106,20,87,52,12,79,0,2,0,2,99,31,0,5,38,351,124,8,0.0,0.091632817390383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07557374392030825,0.06855542115963982,0.0826507422957528,0.0,0.0800987862068176,0.08534434446845579,0.06184712597294904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518490806815996,0.0810955776315065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054076488726882886,0.07924186312841225,0.06364253839252114,0.0,0.07230053789903734,0.0,0.0,0.11893621048687696,0.0,0.04714449291193786,0.0,0.06580889423910022,0.08713337934065307,0.24348420295223785,0.06839912677455985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0789706878491063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0666110579478954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968746200931016,0.0,0.0646059285257092,0.08699477773457459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324294810321348,0.0699565981392271,0.0,0.0,0.13901271479489266,0.0,0.0,0.08702668836559971,0.03910438829331005,0.0,0.0,0.08471993753682815,0.0,0.06578361576208237,0.0,0.0,0.17925331135082032,0.0,0.2424353027869541,0.07418960311166675,0.08790587179633026,0.0,0.061854218870027865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06838968857461873,0.0,0.06927960721299325,0.0,0.07937104266661096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08171178411268991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746102506136941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874151819953621,0.0,0.0,0.08500582305498436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805580515268842,0.0,0.05462607708811183,0.1133502390227063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06980051404505662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204333709949517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11370457509517044,0.0,0.11929558047984605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16230632542711926,0.0,0.05240619245880575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587463461887132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616033821303694,0.0,0.07310935502799147,0.08718691175794319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549198945225656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954466735580426,0.0,0.0,0.16606401813885693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300447456722695,0.0,0.07827012832726446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08693108952598516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05474019490577897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08853344307869225,0.0,0.0,0.07289009707802943,0.0,0.05814850915385718,0.1243226199520451,0.2027903159115502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061397688900695115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955988794134949,0.0859253015515681,0.05250738746287007,0.0,0.0,0.08051152730011144,0.0,0.1335903051945018,0.0,0.06381190338539691,0.22807961600102844,0.06138726025907041,0.0,0.0,0.06953609967939982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056302944411298864,0.07854043632905418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19921240156192455 divorce,davidobr,2019/01/13,"House question I (50M) told my wife (53F) that I want to separate after 18 years of marriage. We have two children 15 and 13. I’ve been sleeping on the sofa since November. I’m leaving due to her alcoholism, emotional abuse, and general irreconcilable differences. We are currently living in a house built by my grandfather and owned by my father. I want to move out because she won’t. She has indicated willingness to move out but has taken no action to do so. I’m tired of sleeping on the sofa so I am moving out in the next few days. I am concerned about the status of the house. Is she entitled to any of it because we have been living there for ~12 years? Is it dangerous for me to move out?",2.8628177458033583,4.741291582733812,4.8023201438848915,81.26352817745807,75.61870503597122,8.374340527577939,27.41067146282973,9.075114841892004,2.407057074340526,546,22,107,13,12,187,86,139,0.101,0.8440000000000001,0.055,-0.8854,1,0,1,0,1,0,18.0,3,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,6,0,13,4,2,0,0,15,19,6,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,2,1,3,10,1,0,1,0,0,5,2,1,0,1,4,0,16,0,25,14,2,20,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,1,7,74,19,0,0.0,0.15993912325017245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426149533787014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917967080718458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16457529250215258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705631950846933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141034096671279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518437266741922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4672753017735643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14293317362120547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383943752216621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5738850196094527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435616433924075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15121784738691066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166375941848346,0.0,0.2701716772523275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551492526363828,0.0,0.12898715480314832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13186400499031847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923925446504494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17385614539512914 divorce,GFYZain,2019/01/13,"Divorce in PA If anyone has experience with this, can they PM me?",0.2976923076923086,2.71441453846154,3.2834615384615375,83.09903846153847,95.92307692307692,5.676923076923077,21.884615384615387,7.1686216300943375,1.1802615384615391,51,2,10,1,2,18,13,13,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,0,8,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5815216373738092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8135309368832163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,R0barito,2019/01/13,"Gone STBX Gone So here's my situation. I'm 27 years old. Live in PA. My STBX and I have 1 child, 5 years old. Will be married 6 years in March. This May will be 5 years since my STBX walked out on me and our 6 month old. We have had no contact during these 5 years. I don't have anyway to contact them let alone have a location of where they are. Ive been told that because I lack info on their whereabouts that I can't even begin the legal process. This is due to the court being unable to attempt to serve or serve my STBX. Any input?",-0.4773152709359607,1.61330284482759,1.374187192118228,99.96810344827587,89.51724137931032,4.0039408866995085,16.04433497536946,5.288315135182226,-0.9686802955665024,414,9,100,2,14,135,78,116,0.062,0.923,0.014,-0.6124,0,1,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,3,1,5,0,0,0,3,0,18,0,0,0,0,8,23,4,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,5,0,15,0,10,11,1,21,0,0,0,0,10,6,0,2,12,60,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592648742576452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12864433123109206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531828801818528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494718071052713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344251643728866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704348997810467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099632347880176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5955166688633018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15648610886893125,0.21263871558482192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18076319527782286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6091070155061329 divorce,greensky608,2019/01/13,"They are officially in a relationship! My soon to be ex wife (I'm also female) left me via a phone call in July 2018. I was transitioning careers/jobs in June 2018 from a career I made excellent money at and was good at but it was a super stressful job. She actually worked for the second company I was supposed to transition to and sold me to management based on my skills and abilities without them ever meeting me... When she asked for the divorce she listed a bunch of super nice things about me (sarcasm) completely contradicting things she has always said loved about me. I bent over backwards for her and did everything to make her happy. In June 2018 we had a friend stay with us for 2 weeks. I let the friend borrow my car and I took the bus to work. I had to work early in the morning and I listened to them for 2 weeks laughing and hitting it off. The new job ended up falling thorough due to lack of funding and I was feeling stressed to be leaving my job and then watching these interactions. Once the friend left I confronted my wife about their interactions. I've never been jealous before and this was never an issue in our marriage. My ex told me how much she loved me and our life together and we developed and discussed our short term life plan. 10 days later she asked for the divorce. She denied anything with the friend that stayed at our house yet the friend was all she ever talked about. Finally today I was told that they are in fact in a relationship. I feel so free. I value myself on my character and she tore me to shreds. Really it was the guilt of her leaving me so she was trying to put it back on me. She lies to my face telling me nothing was going on with them when in fact there was. Everyone thinks my ex is a super bubbly amazing person but obviously she just puts on a front. (Side note: my ex was going through emotional difficulties in relation to her mother dying and the affair was to help her not think about what she was dealing with). New and exciting. 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And the worst part is that I have this bad habit to look at his social media, and find myself devastated after seeing the great life he’s portraying with his new gf. (Whom he started dating less than a month after we separated. ) I’m single, trying to go through this and learn about myself before jumping into another relationship. Looking for any pointers to avoid caring about what he’s doing. It doesn’t help that he’s a 36 year old man who is ADDICTED to social media and has to post everything he does. I’m so sick of the perfect photos he portrays after all the shit we dealt with together. Anyone else dealing with something like this?",6.922051282051285,7.066999410256411,7.5084615384615425,72.10320512820516,64.51282051282051,10.01025641025641,32.07692307692307,9.725611199111238,3.0551846153846163,652,23,113,12,9,216,107,156,0.146,0.741,0.113,-0.7785,0,1,1,0,1,0,15.0,5,0,0,1,5,10,1,1,6,0,11,5,1,0,2,19,19,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,12,13,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,6,0,0,2,3,12,4,22,17,6,21,0,1,3,0,23,3,1,0,16,78,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669277959913424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412959207988742,0.16056389786982753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070678829437028,0.15689366535101987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785217007796287,0.0,0.0,0.13029727245481704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612015501578191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578641525395059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339998716097866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791547964210048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761800577065547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677398915636621,0.13995259046408642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08702391568995055,0.0,0.0,0.16881978500107173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263581041418396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392244241309029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815603166993527,0.07480866706304617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571712419128438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666664225063861,0.0,0.11256378162734793,0.0,0.0,0.14788814353350602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606779125362698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16293476527050915,0.0,0.0,0.16581840398895126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665049452199055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643979044668732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202002785130915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15717961760118518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121813329402215,0.0,0.11788236020044958,0.0,0.0,0.10838197742624142,0.0,0.12228504913479843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172880235265712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10396116587650124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841893558991951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13817062126123306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09860685574044452 divorce,MantisSmash11,2019/01/13,Moving out Anyone know off hand if there is a issue if you move out before divorce. Found out my spouse was cheating. Illinois is the state we reside in. We have kids. I found a place and want to move out asap. 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I separated from my ex in the fall of 2013 and had my divorce finalized in the summer of 2014. I lost everything in that process. I had to rebuild every aspect of my life since while simultaneously paying down debt that he helped rack up. I never asked him for a dime. I paid down $5,000 of this debt on my own. he was/is quite ill and I didn’t want the divorce dragged out in the courts. I finally have a good paying job but I’m being forced to take on a second job to finally squash this debt. I know it’s only temporary and this is minor in comparison to what I went through with him it’s just deeply annoying and frustrating. I know this isn’t right to say but I seriously hope he gets runner diarrhea for a week straight. 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When you score the test, anything under 150 is manageable/normal life. Anything over 300 gives you a 50% chance for major stress-related illness. Between our separation, the failed two violation and the move during the reconciliation, I scored a 638 for the last year. So if anyone needs me, I will be over here waiting for my stroke.",5.460904761904764,7.442649122222222,5.550952380952385,78.165,68.8888888888889,7.80952380952381,26.190476190476193,8.418075326091056,1.8233809523809523,391,12,68,6,7,123,68,90,0.201,0.754,0.044,-0.945,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,3,0,1,4,5,1,2,10,0,4,3,0,0,1,10,9,5,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,0,1,8,1,11,7,3,9,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,3,4,45,10,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460145232458022,0.0,0.3403624642739221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949554449542984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838426291901728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113653509678471,0.1685720306755472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607106096754827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17581649861596094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21979884009500272,0.0,0.15334178959686942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7106763461003991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490936164135544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373907110049902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20201646223055547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13317433909406792 divorce,vjhl1982,2019/01/13,"Child support w/tip income Going through separation and beginning divorce. My spouse (41m) is a delivery driver and most of his income is based on tips, his checks are around $300 each, not including daily tips. How do most courts review income when it’s tip based and there is no way to determine the actual amount he brings home? I am almost afraid to go through the courts and the amount he pays now may be more. Idk though. At this time our custody has been one night a week he sees him for a few hours, and Friday nights it’s overnight. This may change slightly to one more night a week and some weekends but he works most evenings so it won’t be consistent and he may be bringing him home btw shifts. 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I just got the call today from my dad saying he was leaving my mum. It's been a difficult couple of years with him losing his job partway through 2016 and having difficulty finding more work and his mother dying last year. I guess they've never been super affectionate as far as I can remember. They would argue a fair bit but so would my whole family. I've been fairly distant ever since I moved out of home when I was 18, only really going back for christmases and the very rare visit in between. I don't know the whole story and I don't know if I should be mad at anyone. I just feel kind of numb. I feel like I should head back home to make sure mum's ok but I love an hour away and don't really have the time with work and other obligations right now. Sorry if this is a little incoherent, my brain is kind of all over the place right now.",2.927135167464116,4.187548444976077,4.296719497607658,87.52297398325364,74.11961722488039,6.947488038277513,21.67494019138756,7.413659706084162,0.63082033492823,791,18,168,9,16,262,131,209,0.106,0.8140000000000001,0.08,-0.1058,4,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,2,4,11,15,2,0,10,1,21,5,2,1,4,37,34,15,1,6,8,6,3,1,0,4,2,1,2,0,5,11,0,0,8,0,0,3,4,6,0,0,7,4,24,9,22,22,5,34,1,1,0,1,19,13,0,3,19,109,29,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840315207625961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534881688728713,0.17244044533425748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241574588251733,0.0,0.0,0.12517296450214216,0.11449617005037385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12406852371815402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11637212214988835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10142703292643612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570517206519413,0.0,0.17008726200922966,0.08010492702609588,0.0,0.0,0.10248380683301453,0.0,0.0,0.12294357961859845,0.0,0.0,0.05858273580181119,0.0,0.06372545256823982,0.0,0.0896797451683321,0.0,0.12352265334207553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507662710999945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494891010705675,0.0,0.1104244053024903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127065712130634,0.0,0.0,0.3502950642020152,0.12324625043627024,0.0914000402097773,0.12648631234225122,0.1187283423281228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478052931568912,0.1123826410196652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544358654899576,0.0,0.0,0.10120073337814743,0.0,0.07484692869505595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917530293867325,0.0,0.0,0.08648074013852655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766044555584475,0.0,0.0,0.08527910082591518,0.0,0.0,0.24901180516809404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171508620797946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436653222395243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12702021475147507,0.19151498001441614,0.0,0.08916942235526877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275420616502672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551915234998806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568018561495617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538327837553,0.0,0.21257022161450334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251810691091904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25037588269607325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326238692438527,0.0,0.0,0.15930634356451942,0.0,0.0,0.2166220558534328 divorce,redditgold246789889,2019/01/13,"Still love my drug addict stbx husband I am certainly not in love with my stbx husband but I love him. Every time I think about the fact that any day he could go out and get a bad batch and die I feel like collapsing and crying. At the same time I don’t ever want to get back with him: the lies, the hurt, the fear. I don’t want that anymore. Even if he got clean (for real) there’s just too much history of hurt between us. I know I can’t be there for him because it will make him sad or give him false hope but I wish I could just help him. I also know that when I was there for him it didn’t stop him from using. He’s a sweet guy and before his relapse he was my best friend and my partner in crime. I’m so scared that he will die and I just want him to get clean and someday find someone he loves and be a dad. I want that so bad. 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I’m 27m. My ex-wife just gave me a Christmas present and a long hand-written note apologizing for leaving, apologizing for everything she did to me, apologizing for mistreating me when she knew better and saying that she wishes she could go back and change everything back to the way it was. The note has me absolutely battered with emotions as I loved her so much and part of my brain wants to go back as well. I DO NOT WANT to get back with her though and it’s been a few days since I read the note and I have not responded. I was wanting some advice as I’m not sure how to respond. The way I see it I have a few different options. 1. Ignore the note completely and do not respond. 2. Tell her it’s alright and take the moral high-ground (this sucks but by no means do I want her eternally tortured by what she did because of lack of response?) this may be too nice of an option after what she did to me? 3. Respond saying yes I agree with everything you just said, you messed up and it’s your fault but it’s too late now. 4. Some other response that combines all of these. Any advice from someone that’s had this happen or anyone else? Thanks",1.6595985155195656,3.724884546558709,2.994600202429152,91.92337128879892,80.05263157894737,6.059986504723347,22.84227395411606,7.1686216300943375,0.6996937921727393,941,31,205,12,24,305,135,247,0.111,0.7909999999999999,0.098,-0.274,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,3,0,1,15,12,2,0,12,2,17,2,1,1,2,39,37,19,0,7,9,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,16,12,0,1,2,1,0,2,5,5,1,0,11,4,30,7,27,23,8,19,1,0,1,1,28,1,1,6,14,142,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462509499197092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568413507578422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881019387590441,0.12910161027192038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875440502607361,0.0,0.07680826409294786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143651927364563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406573659453035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13329100420003326,0.0,0.1321083165159788,0.0,0.0,0.10060052931962192,0.0,0.0,0.08125940021864582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164289704174456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10525660397794304,0.1417327337771093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3397212903590291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582965691134822,0.0,0.1432170970396342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114211424669634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312562944216527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421331802195315,0.13341551797025816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11150579341617443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371967297666395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725064079036753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10057177998510576,0.0,0.09262429706052476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364454257588946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603382431709398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11985459402560923,0.20040008034069887,0.0,0.0,0.1004054691805706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422827622091682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067591598038267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875325155342227,0.0,0.09473611384564733,0.0,0.11012931506211016,0.11600362002580443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237940920434458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2972716141034432,0.2000254369785475,0.0,0.0,0.11328888653326595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489346777561668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Parley_P_Crap,2019/01/13,"Some questions about child support Hey everyone. I’ve made a few posts here already about my situation so I won’t go into too much detail. Short version is my wife cheated, asked for a divorce, we went through mediation for the separation agreement. We’ve now been separated a year and can file for divorce. We’re going through that process now. She’s very motivated to get it done because she’s almost 39 and wants to have another baby with her AP. Dude is in his 50’s. We already have three kids of of own. I don’t get it, I don’t need to get it, moving on. I know for a fact that when she has that baby she’s going to want to quit work and be a stay at home mom again. My question is; what does that mean for me? Right now we have shared custody of our kids. I pay her support as I make more than her. If she quits working go support her “new family” will I be forced to pay her more support? Do I have any way to push back on this at all? I feel like she’s sacrificing our kids financially so that she can have a baby with her new guy. Any suggestions?",0.91430257721818,3.016435515837107,2.840649222899863,91.81068070037381,82.98190045248869,5.83442848711391,22.73086759787527,7.079830092131019,0.6593114696045639,823,29,185,11,23,275,127,221,0.042,0.8440000000000001,0.113,0.9366,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,5,0,0,5,13,8,1,0,7,0,20,0,0,3,2,25,41,8,0,4,1,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,1,5,10,9,0,0,6,0,2,7,3,1,0,1,4,1,32,7,29,33,8,27,0,0,0,0,34,8,0,5,10,120,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536997436835054,0.0,0.2542825783181092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15669866462921206,0.12081171106749597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10770934679537318,0.0,0.0,0.08859229761020285,0.0,0.07023326083181933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008243695299902,0.11790371496226693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100917197169834,0.0,0.0,0.10861331336027316,0.0,0.05825555718253024,0.08230875907775939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18058335983465085,0.0,0.2619146220981744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407977219685544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556883161989864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06331848933019728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05628764118502117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901807978593216,0.07690610366157206,0.0,0.0,0.12550160022232915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13493700571561,0.0,0.1224540320023349,0.08469539692946966,0.08542957006722289,0.0,0.2225484047648512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034296879401707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581316394819649,0.24508810856426144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983919524990843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12950513427893373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280257714292515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5229730026583448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506344808953457,0.13591216425590336,0.09145134872018816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680434342208364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167754031751898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07419390736669115 divorce,sje12345,2019/01/13,"My parents divorce still affects me a year later I’m still in high school and my parents divorced last year. Every once in awhile my mom goes on this rampage complaining about my dad and basically pours her emotional baggage onto me. It’s so annoying because neither parents cater to how I feel. I’ve tried to accept the fact she’ll never understand, but every once in awhile I just break down. 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My stbxh makes way more than I do. He has a stable job that makes no less than quadruple what I make as a new business owner. I cant afford life without him. I'll likely get 50/50 custody of our children and I'm sick that I will be homeless without him and he will take full custody of our kids. He also doesnt want the divorce and keeps saying hes excited to move home again (??!!!) I'm so lost. Scared about how this will work out and the lawyer won't be in touch until tomorrow to even advise what I'm suppose to do from here. How did I get myself into this mess? 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I would leave before my partner woke up and come home after they were asleep sometimes. A few months ago I took this job to help support us while my partner goes through grad school. It’s been hard, but knowing I would be able to come home and snuggle with the love of my life made it worth it. I was planning on quitting last November after my last business trip and after getting a sizable bonus for going. You know where this is heading. I come home from my last business trip and my partner says it’s not working. I work too much. I say I will quit my job! “It’s too late, I’m not in love anymore”. I ask if there’s someone else. My partner shook their head “no”. (I later find out through spending history this isn’t true and they were seeing someone the ENTIRE time I was on my trip). They grab a single bag and run out the door saying they can’t miss their train. I haven’t seen them since. I’ll be honest. I’m pretty fucking devastated. My whole life is a fucking joke. I moved to this new city for their grad program. I don’t have any friends here because IM ALWAYS FUCKING WORKING. They had the entire summer off and would go to brunch, meet new people and go to cafes. Go to the park. Constantly hanging of with the friends they had time to make. And then complain that I’m not fun anymore. Why am I so stressed and worn out all the time? I was so fucking burnt out. I could barely verbalize it. I just wanted a fucking hug and a kiss. Well they’re gone. And I’m so frustrated that they could never ever empathize with my point of view. Why I was so tired all the time. I miss them. I wish they were here now. I would get them coffee and make them breakfast. I always made little heart pancakes. I feel like the worlds biggest loser. I feel like I’ve been done wrong and the only emotion I can feel is heartbreak. I wish I felt he righteous indignation that some of you feel. I wish I was ready to move on. I’m not ready. I’m being forced to. And I’m being forced to realize they never cared for me as much as I cared for them. They actually said that. They said: “I see how this job is killing you and it made me realize you do so much for me, you would do anything for me. And I have to be honest, I would never do anything like that for you. I love you but I’m not *in* love with you. And it makes me feel guilty and I can’t handle it anymore.” My partner said this to me as I was on the floor hyperventilating and crying. I wish they loved me a fraction of the amount that I loved them. That’s all. But the harder I tried the LESS they loved me. I’m a fucking joke! 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Now single almost 2 years. 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Another stupid argument with my SO of 13 years, and for the first time she said tonight was the closest she has been brought to the thought that divorce might be the best thing. Gonna have to say that in the past I would have freaked out, and tonight I just walked away before permanent damage was done. 2 little girls, we had ups and downs, we have tried hard and fixed a lot of things through counseling years ago, and I have to admit that I’m not completely against just fucking calling it. I’d get fucking destroyed in the divorce, mentally and also financially after finally having dig us out from underneath our debt after all these years, she hasn’t worked since the 8 year old was born, but maybe it’s all worth it just to finally start over. Fucking shit man. End rant.",7.6125000000000025,6.697834541401273,6.644641719745227,82.37804538216562,63.458598726114644,10.397770700636944,35.54856687898089,9.516144504307137,2.975599363057324,641,25,131,10,8,194,107,157,0.133,0.828,0.039,-0.9221,1,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,4,0,0,3,5,9,6,0,9,0,17,4,1,0,2,23,28,9,0,1,5,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,2,11,11,0,0,2,0,2,2,2,8,0,1,9,3,11,1,23,15,4,32,0,1,0,3,15,11,4,2,19,89,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12309473436291342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11104965025336012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14561122107778998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046748665822736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816320603173823,0.0,0.14572941024449287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14179587374433927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14559647128322253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210628881559156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2459849275427244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042378860762663,0.0,0.11811781724466668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.385133144719012,0.07255081288480601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12439504713700147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13917840893777406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805737667286348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27901550623921084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994245199288824,0.14731297125273726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457146180121052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256159133407325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209165340549353,0.11043038512624964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425421053617154,0.1148699008957776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828879521008503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18451040770523205,0.0,0.0,0.11024266320425256,0.08097283150561914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427967624590576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16703653422612472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109479117661548,0.0,0.0,0.09864514319041702,0.0,0.0,0.3576959668143621 divorce,HannahVile,2019/01/14,"2 years post divorce (in feb) Not about me but the guy I’ve been seeing a few months. They were married almost 25 years and (according to him) very happy until the last few years. They have 4 kids together.( teenagers and older) I can see he’s still in pain (and has improved since we met) But is 2 years enough for him to to be ready to invest in me ? Or will it be 20 more before he’s better? What’s your experiences?",0.35241379310344456,2.5605663678160937,2.0443793103448265,95.90105172413791,86.47126436781609,4.859310344827586,16.745977011494254,6.2581,-0.4533485057471265,322,7,73,3,10,105,65,87,0.047,0.767,0.18600000000000005,0.9352,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,1,2,1,2,3,0,0,3,0,9,1,0,0,0,9,12,7,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,9,2,10,6,4,13,0,0,2,0,12,3,0,2,9,45,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21760333559949788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18491375146106348,0.0,0.0,0.1921919411469154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22453804210228884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125696681454406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516984024984412,0.0,0.23132921867164702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713564536681736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17345378109372836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23123184485726966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20812172492010506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463338975294854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17976005406364434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354305855448535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793024875937501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5597588735733018 divorce,Devon620,2019/01/14,"I am so lonely I don't know if I can post it here, but please delete if not allowed. I feel very foolish and ridiculous for being so uncomfortable right now, but I need to deal with this. I'm 38F, he's 41, 2 kids, been separated for over a year, been co-parenting in the same house, he is moving out in April. We were together for almost 20 years and he was my first boyfriend (first everything, basically). This is so hard to talk about. Because I was very inexperienced, I didn't realize that our intimacy was nonexistent and he was incredibly selfish in the bedroom until I said some things to my therapist. That being said, I've never experienced true closeness and intimacy before. I haven't started dating because I took over a year to focus on myself, heal my wounds and make peace with my past. I am at a point where I crave intimacy and a connection with someone so much that it's hard to deal with at times. Casual, clean chatting on kik doesn't help, in some ways I feel worse since the conversations always die out. This is extremely hard for me because even though I've been through a lot in life, I'm typically a positive person. But, this is the first time where I'm truly like, I'm so terribly lonely, and I'm owning the fact that I've felt this way for a very long time. I want to be touched, held, and loved. I'm always ""the strong one"" but what about those times when I just want and need a hug? I don't have that and it hurts. I guess I need some help with how to deal with my loneliness. I've been focused on myself for over a year, seeing my therapist, forgiving people, moving forward, basically doing a lot of inner work. I genuinely love myself and I'm holistically happy in my life. I'm really excited about my future. I just really, really struggle with this intimate, private part of my life. Thank you all very much for listening to me. I genuinely appreciate it. 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Then today she filed an ex parte on the grounds of domestic violence, obtaining a restraining order, removing me from the home and taking full legal and physical custody of my two children away from me. We spent two hours in court and the judge denied all her claims. We’re set to go back to court on February 4. She was representing herself and I had my lawyer with me and after the hearing she called and tried hiring my attorney not knowing that he is working for me. After that she asked MY dad if he could help her get an apartment and now she’s calling MY cousins. WTF?! My first day in court was a major victory! So far she’s tried calling the cops on the yesterday morning trying to remove me from my home and the police officers told her no. Another victory! She is in way over her head and this is narcissism and entitlement at its finest. 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So basically my marriage is ending. Really, it is the best way to end it. No cheating, no abuse, no drug addiction. We have just grown apart. We went to counseling and it didn't work. My 15 y/o is not talking to me or his mother. He wrote a long letter, parts of which are summarized in another post. Anyone got any ideas?",0.218,2.597659133333337,2.596333333333334,89.80650000000001,91.0,6.2,19.5,7.554174236665415,0.8673999999999995,285,9,60,6,10,97,61,75,0.174,0.777,0.049,-0.8611,0,0,1,0,2,0,14.0,2,1,0,2,3,2,1,0,3,0,7,2,0,2,0,11,10,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,5,0,7,1,7,5,2,9,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,1,3,39,11,1,0.0,0.2785718304927162,0.0,0.25630913583430304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1598856895118813,0.2465376941257717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439728560444225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467378029114401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27265777890183723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164827159417893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880422698443535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26541526563033346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20806863078148746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546057208712905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251743713345024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15062014974023516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889758538370896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18662267456480894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179531795157389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711659068602563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,dictate_this,2019/01/14,"[Rant] It’s been a few months since it was finalized and tonight I want to scream to the world the injustice of it all. We divorced in August. He didn’t show. No kids, he sucks, yada yada. I have been overcome with anger today. I want to scream to the world that he cheated on me multiple times during our 2.5 years of marriage. I want to remind his sister, whom I no longer speak to (but miss, so much), that whatever he said, I wasn’t the enemy. I really loved her. He slept with my BEST FRIEND. And plenty of others. And that I care about his sister. And how much it hurts me that the girls he cheated on me with like her social media, while I have to hide in my solace. I hate explaining at work that my email address is different. “Life change,” is what I say. What I want to do is scream from the mountains that what happened in my marriage to this man WAS NOT OKAY. He cheated on me. He kicked me when I was sobbing about him cheating, again, with my best friend. He beat the fuck out of my body, yet gets to be hero because he is regarded as a hero is society. Ugh. Reading it all makes me so proud of where I have directed my life since these painful times and moments I will forever leave behind. I have to continue to move forward. Life isn’t fair sometimes. But, I suppose, it’s more fair to me now that I’ve left, than what I could have shown what love is acceptable to vulnerable children one day. I just wish it all didn’t end in such finality, including my budding relationship with his sister. 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I'll start with the cliff notes : - Me (30s M) - Her (30s F) - Together 15 years - Married 4 years - 2 kids A culmination of things had lead to us hitting a brick wall and mutually deciding on a seperation last year (My refusal to currently try for a 3rd child, my constant financial concerns, equal mental health issues, a decade old year old infidelity of hers coming to light, her refusal to attend marriage concerning our individual counselling but to name a few) Things were good for a while, we had our iffy moments. After we got married they got worse. Declining mental health and difficult disagreements meant neither of us were getting out needs met. Then one day she blindsides me with the announcement of having slept with someone else (we'd always been eachothers firsts). It felt like the final nail in the coffin but I still tried to get her to marriage counselling (had been trying for 18 months at this point) she finally agreed but after our initial session she told me she did not want to continue with it. We agreed that we wanted different things from our lives and after giving our children a memorable last Christmas we'd go our separate ways. I would move out of our shared rental when I could get funds together and have the kids 3/4 nights a week alternating. All seemed good and set until about 2 weeks ago when she tells me she's changed her mind and wants me to stay. She wants to do the counselling and work things out. The main issue now is that it's how I felt at the very beginning but with some events that have happened over the last 6 months I guess I mentally checked out already. I realised how unhappy I was with our relationship. Through reading here and opening up to friends and family I discovered the way I'd been feeling was not normal or healthy in a relationship. My only issue now is she views our previous agreement terms as me leaving her and the kids. She's very vocal about this now. THEY don't want me to go. She told the kids one day while I was at work that I was leaving that day and they watched on as she packed my bags ready. Of course I didn't leave, this wasn't the agreement we made. I also want planning on leaving until we'd attended meditation and had a legal separation documented. Things are moving fast and although she still maintains she does not want me to go, she wants me out ASAP. The kicker is this is how the infidelity began last time. She wanted to break up with me 5 years in after moving in together, I didn't want the breakup. We still saw eachother and slept together often. Turns out she was seeing another guy at the same and that didn't work out so she got back together with me. The other guy part being completely unbeknownst to me until 10 years later. How do I know this isn't the situation again? How do I know this won't happen in another 5-10 years when she decides she's had enough? Primarily I'll be looking into my legal rights this week. My name is on the lease agreement, I pay all the rent and utilities. She will have to deal with all of this when I leave because I can't afford to pay it and live elsewhere. I may even have to move in with my mother this weekend because the kids are starting to notice the environment in the house. I grew up in an environment with 2 parents who loathed each other and would never want to put my kids through that (although they already been!) I guess I just needed to vent but any help from people in a similar situation of amicable agreement gone awry would be much appreciated. Is it best to just get out because things get more toxic or should I fight my corner to get what was agreed? I feel I'm losing a battle I hadn't even begun yet. I suffer anxiety and the sudden hostility has really thrown me through a spin. I don't know where I stand. I don't know how she REALLY feels. What is up? What is down? Eugh. 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I am not sure why he stalled into 2019 with the new tax laws but he did. Now he is still stalling. Anyone else experience something so weird? He has a new girlfriend so really unsure what he could possibly be thinking. 🤨,0.6105555555555533,3.1175270000000066,1.9017592592592607,93.4504166666667,93.8148148148148,4.9222222222222225,23.41666666666667,6.6274283507984215,0.8258222222222225,214,9,44,3,8,68,44,54,0.22,0.78,0.0,-0.8658,0,0,1,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,8,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,2,1,3,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,0,4,24,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19358692784601944,0.2836757563402608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210501571813573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312809784506969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27082217523349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5347861671376479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18760748038664732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31211801640537323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736358573508987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21314033051762224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22110072911362705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609372445574316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774006892086772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498230594752895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,-RAdAbsurdum-,2019/01/14,"Too Fast In November, I was informed that my wife was seriously considering divorce (this is 2 years into a separation). I'd felt divorced for a very long time, but the news, though unsurprising, still came as a shock. Mid-December, she asked me to discuss how we might divide our things. After Christmas, she informed me that she was going to the courthouse to file. I had the divorce papers in had by the beginning of January. As I said, I'd expected this outcome (divorce) for a long time. I was even taking steps to divide things like bank accounts, insurances, cell phone bills. Not with the intention of initiating divorce - I just felt like the only reason we were sharing those things still was for the benefits (convenience, lower premiums, etc.). I felt I was financially connected with someone who is a stranger, who doesn't know me. I was sort of dragging my feet. Doing things at a pace I could manage. Preparing and processing. The news of the divorce accelerated things. I now have my own bank account, car insurance, and a car titled in my name only. Each time I've taken one of these steps, I've wanted to reach out to her. I don't know why - I haven't processed feelings with her safely (or at all really) in a very long time. She's not part of my support system anymore. I nearly broke down at the bank as my name was stripped from the first bank accounts I opened on my own (without my parents - I added my wife to them after we got married). She seemed fine, sitting there while we did it. And I'm glad, genuinely glad she's finding peace or found peace. I haven't. I could barely look at her. I ached as I spoke to the insurance rep about removing myself from our plan, paying for insurance twice in the same period (we had just renewed our shared plan, which I paid half of. The insurance company wouldn't prorate based on that). I only told her that she wouldn't have to pay anything extra for the changes that were made. I repeatedly told myself ""we will survive this"" as I drove away from the DMV (It's what I do when the emotions get too intense). I just received the new car title with my name only (this was done with my wife's knowledge and consent). I'm the sole owner of vehicle now. I wanted to let her know it was done...but I didn't. Shouldn't this be getting easier? It's all the same. I have to split the cell phone bill soon. I've survived everything else so far...I'll survive that too. But the pain... It's all happening too fast. I've wanted this situation to be over for years...be careful what you wish for? We will survive this.",3.4543038457868107,5.357903809619241,4.43796020612654,84.40589345357381,74.03006012024049,7.557992174825842,27.11141330279607,8.344100000000001,1.8752828132455388,2007,76,392,35,42,651,234,499,0.03,0.846,0.124,0.9932,2,0,0,0,6,0,90.0,10,1,1,7,19,15,0,0,30,0,40,2,1,4,3,71,75,18,0,10,10,4,4,2,0,6,1,2,0,0,30,21,0,1,14,0,12,10,11,4,0,4,32,7,68,11,62,32,11,54,0,1,1,0,55,18,0,5,26,274,98,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09872228422659776,0.0,0.0,0.08191737912412116,0.0,0.09306150765742126,0.0,0.09352617641436188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138534138745499,0.10149316561643476,0.0,0.1053058297626587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589577973119182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20373900314602494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08315740500583675,0.11197517210186024,0.0,0.0,0.11101943022252944,0.06574879524994004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946498323725519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050333143242701946,0.0,0.2867375730055535,0.0,0.09098268856436063,0.08467326301949127,0.0,0.10914638869389856,0.0,0.0,0.10401672169319487,0.0,0.05657394259452255,0.0,0.07961554685879522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802766496513544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16412263898099194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10179191185861527,0.0,0.09726570454669294,0.0,0.0,0.2642836289554549,0.0835930615256113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419226064076082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056019341707653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0961415638028024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745453661232552,0.3028350375053969,0.10592331985964937,0.0,0.11053338189989806,0.10779796328412727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377132970926289,0.10234924639221196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469046730109504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09062238989190986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189319593842408,0.0,0.0,0.08434449102832586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15899416373238087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296293576075417,0.0,0.0,0.07484574924526753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3306676893862959,0.0,0.09780284619047648,0.0,0.2321828838169735,0.0,0.0,0.19023978368237265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427075394175755,0.1761433611513755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0898242366309104,0.0,0.1144722927317893,0.09595820949756227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0641039713262464 divorce,sraid1719,2019/01/14,"Not ready for divorce My STBX told me he wanted a divorce from me. His best reason for why he wanted it was he feels ""unhappy and unfulfilled"". He has no reasons for me as to what went wrong, but he tells me ""with 100% certainty"" that this isn't for him. I have done everything possible to keep him, because this decision is incredibly one-sided. I spent hours trying to convince him that this is normal to not feel 100% happy in a marriage. People change, and it's how we adapt to those changes that make a marriage work. &#x200B; We have been married for 5 years and have two very young children. Am I in the wrong to feel like this isn't a good enough reason to leave his family? &#x200B; I will take an legal advice possible, because I don't know what to do.",4.180060204695966,5.4464169999999985,4.8457555689343765,84.77069235400361,71.05298013245033,7.8750150511739925,27.634557495484646,8.296473431620573,1.8002662251655628,601,21,119,9,11,193,93,151,0.127,0.792,0.081,-0.7237,0,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,2,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,6,0,15,0,0,5,0,23,27,6,0,3,3,0,3,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,1,8,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,6,3,17,5,18,20,2,6,0,0,0,0,19,2,0,0,4,79,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984783238706775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657728495480489,0.2980555856162531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14952720326893626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12870895997552506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25948550347161065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550900061113482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672565991457382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022593084694696,0.0,0.11561932902007856,0.0,0.18603985712487867,0.08761802032021086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286928594837616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13055849075379636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078118221727988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901301859410358,0.0,0.0,0.06740279827979279,0.0,0.0,0.12986395090655908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059918430849707036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08186687090011825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016661931160665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310781289954848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502699630911413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765289065930247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783002202710034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221420584876756,0.0,0.10719763474431143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171930988066136,0.0,0.08326829193970689,0.0,0.11980690162094335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011954404336148,0.14467907064772315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11369367291034185,0.1106685513929158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08928743627971128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681873569980584,0.2980555856162531,0.07897972653371158 divorce,GrogbeardTheFearsome,2019/01/14,"Trying to figure out how to move forward with life. We have been together for almost 8 years, and have 2 kids. We haven't filled the paperwork yet, but she's pretty much made it clear that things we're done. I can't figure out how to pull myself up out of the pit I feel I've fallen into. So far we haven't said something to the kids but we separated about 2 months ago and they're smart. They know something is up but they don't ask or talk about it. I don't, nor will I, talk badly about their mom in front of them. Heck, as much pain as I'm in I still love her. I'm trying to quash those rays of hope that I can't let go of. I mean there really isn't any. My heart feels harder every day but because of that, the pain is mixed with anger. I was trying to get to sleep this morning and was just overtaken with rage. I wanted to tell her I hate her and that I never want to see her again, even though it's not true. Everything has been a reminder of her, so I took everything that I could immediately find that reminded me of her, everything she had bought for me, everything she made for me, and threw it out in the living room. I don't want to see it. It sucks cause it was some nice stuff, and all of it had a lot of sentimental value. I can't let sentiment hold me back from trying to heal though. It sucks, it hurts, and I wish I knew what to do. I'm trying to move forward with life, and I don't know how. I can't enjoy things I like, and oftentimes sit and stare off into space. I don't drink nearly as much as I feel like and usually only after the kids are in bed (I work swing/grave, and a six pack maybe every other week), so that's good. I can maintain a civil relationship with STBX and take care of my kids, but I'm emotionally slumped. I want to do new things, and I'm going to try taking a martial arts class and maybe try updating my wardrobe (finally), but life feels so dark. I want to try having fun again, and enjoy things in life but food isn't good, sleep is awful, and I'm all alone. How do I move forward? Tl;Dr: I'm going through divorce, need help moving forward",3.133918918918916,3.6270800495495514,4.400468468468472,89.87381081081081,72.82882882882883,7.631711711711713,22.232432432432432,7.675431598112923,0.6076681081081086,1618,33,378,19,30,535,204,444,0.146,0.738,0.116,-0.8738,0,1,3,0,1,0,57.0,4,0,4,1,21,22,5,0,11,1,37,13,3,7,5,78,80,40,0,9,10,1,4,2,0,1,7,1,2,4,26,32,2,1,11,2,1,17,16,9,0,1,15,8,52,13,59,61,7,52,0,1,3,1,31,22,3,5,22,239,78,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615071563465781,0.0,0.07472633388157808,0.07728917625215972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05074767848389242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976446562343819,0.0,0.0,0.057382153777891985,0.06230890461576659,0.04549081446229608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608534013576163,0.07666061189700259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05958213049249059,0.0,0.0,0.04812706474124415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07636746405107772,0.0,0.07310426208716762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394327839106137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04928922474458891,0.0,0.12574985817328374,0.0,0.2682731842485568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093092428295926,0.05331224043255331,0.0,0.08174823233212174,0.06820605864287377,0.0,0.09023705867558864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03898857426392094,0.0,0.12723362126843393,0.12518411362325355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736769113081967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843119251346254,0.05001968224207391,0.0,0.0,0.07411963762772843,0.0,0.0,0.07988779402392977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08202408989809863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15261859633193048,0.2108398741087432,0.07291618276986,0.0,0.06589539734174729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06344365576057644,0.06735213463272871,0.1412242912215974,0.0,0.0,0.14994203859666452,0.08128869345973301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740010385970272,0.05956510327988744,0.31725900714292576,0.16457427187191678,0.05533362221110316,0.05755553599778361,0.0720734597122049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05675580886082141,0.15881289682672914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07592063192420245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780679844174033,0.0,0.0,0.08011951101191292,0.0,0.0,0.07098563108619207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893320656136253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14935813822347868,0.0,0.0,0.11490021222373115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959576171314284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08542797226229606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221768982087928,0.11996177895622134,0.06522569280159249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983106032100251,0.0,0.14663771246963653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291131602158866,0.40532476621352737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218908807069572,0.0,0.22007931050430804,0.0,0.05985981462719407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0858152691929466,0.0,0.0,0.05432801669284276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04805616646980194 divorce,Joebob68,2019/01/14,Do you ever feel like everything you have to give... is just taken for granted? Do you get that feeling inside that you're just used up and not appreciated anymore? I feel that way. I feel that someone else would be so happy for what I have to give considering the stories I hear about how people treat one another. Its a lonely feeling. Anyone feel it too?,3.501304347826085,5.5718692028985535,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,74.3623188405797,6.918840579710146,25.99275362318841,7.793537801064563,1.584901449275363,281,10,52,4,6,93,50,69,0.069,0.727,0.205,0.8511,0,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,7,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,2,1,14,19,3,0,1,3,0,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,7,7,3,6,16,0,3,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,38,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107978483946651,0.0,0.0,0.1993680870884105,0.1405650937485469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679350603881508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18184345927921536,0.0,0.0,0.18067311457733448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6098819064444333,0.14361612102267987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503005978660646,0.38569325642530666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21400054395329127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265758130211626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821327376436544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622336674227045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13936913145831395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17033236178131775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17362567555377367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15956853332071128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14280619161908314,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lilybear032,2019/01/14,"I may not deserve better, but my daughter does. This is my first time posting, and I'm doing so with shaking hands and eyes burned from tears. Today I realized that if I want to give my daughter the best life possible, I have to be strong and leave her father. He isn't a good husband, and he's an even worse father. This isn't an epiphany. I've been heavily in denial for a very long time. Through lies, cheating, manipulation. Through protecting his reputation at the expense of mine because if I didn't, it would ruin his career. (What kind of asshole lies about his wife almost dying just to get time off of work and play video games? When I really did almost die last August, he spent the whole time complaining about what a coward I was for crying after my c section...) Honestly, I spent so much time protecting him when I should have been protecting myself. At the moment, my main concern is that every time I try to kick him out (we live with *my* mom so it's *my* job to kick him out) he threatens to take our daughter with him. Yet when he watches her (if you can even call it that..) She's always crying, always hungry, always in a soaking wet diaper. He ignores her screams for video games. He tells her to shut the fuck up. He doesn't track her feedings so one time she went almost 6 hours without eating. At 5 months old, that's dangerous and unacceptable. I don't know my options regarding custody. I do know that he is a decorated veteran (regardless of the fact he lied his way through the military) and I have postpartum depression/anxiety. If I take him to court, I'm scared they'll give him custody. God I feel like such a whiney brat. I swear there is much much more to the story than this. For example, he degraded me and muttered about me and denied me any money until I got a job of my own. I wasn't ready. I have postpartum depression really bad as well as Graves disease which has gone untreated since August because I can't get 5 minutes away from my baby to focus on myself. I'm trying so hard. I want to ask why I'm not enough for him to be a better man. I want to ask why I daughter isn't enough because she's the most important thing in the world to me, and she should be for him too. I don't know guys. :( I shouldnt be this broken at 22. The only other person I've dated besides him passed away. He never even let me heal from that. He just added more and more trauma and now I've got to raise our child on my own. 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Neither of us had family or friends here. I work on an office floor by myself and I don’t have any friends here. I’m depressed and I’m considering moving back to where I’m from because at least I have friends and family there plus I would go back to my old office where I have some friends but my ex wants to stay here. If I go, I’d only get to see my kids on school breaks. If I stay, I’m afraid the isolation and depression is going to make me kill myself or if not, be a shitty dad because of it. What would you do?",0.6788095238095231,2.4274931507936515,2.646269841269841,94.79178571428574,81.7777777777778,6.104761904761905,20.02380952380953,7.1686216300943375,0.2344095238095241,451,12,108,6,12,151,78,126,0.132,0.7759999999999999,0.092,-0.8487,1,1,0,0,0,1,10.0,3,1,0,2,8,8,1,1,4,0,10,0,0,1,0,19,21,11,1,6,7,3,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,4,0,0,1,1,17,4,16,17,3,20,0,2,1,0,13,7,0,6,4,71,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234855656964614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314580996602171,0.0,0.1834928941181576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592594606110744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28376542641189245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4651191383260012,0.0,0.07863264720350399,0.0,0.25660636846839313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16651147606215982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046325180604138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199259789795505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14535866051224575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15792967294152532,0.0,0.0,0.11446582951950347,0.0,0.0,0.16711798414068813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231908843092698,0.11993299381782245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208365953430834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103897590718224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877174457589576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956942772404843,0.0,0.0,0.21382885826922696,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,friend-no-bennys,2019/01/14,"At my wits end. I really just need to get this out, I have nobody to talk to that will objectively listen. I (32F) have been married for four years to my now husband (35m). We have one child (2M). We originally met at work, but no longer work in the same office, nor for the same company. We should have never gotten married and I see that clearer and clearer every day. I feel like I’m cheating my child out of a stable household and life by going through with the divorce, but I don’t know what else to do (he was adopted out of foster care, not because of infertility, just something I, and I thought my husband, was passionate about). I am utterly emotionally and physically exhausted. For some background and why this is so much more complicated: I was previously married before. I was young, we were high school sweethearts and he was in the military during the height of the war in the middle east. He was severely injured on deployment. He needed round the clock care and his injuries led to serious bought of PTSD and a TBI, which changed his personality completely. This all came to a head when he became physical and attempted to kill me. I left the marriage, and my home, that night with nothing but my dog and cell phone. After this, I began counseling for myself and began to rebuild my life. I met someone at work, we were friends at first and it developed further. Even when our relationship was in its infancy, we had several long, in depth conversations about what we wanted out of our lives. I was determined to not make another “mistake” We talked about the kind of lifestyles we wanted to leave, how we each wanted to create a family. I was very passionate about adopting from foster care. I have the capacity to love a child that’s not biologically mine, and since there is adoption in my family, I know my relatives would 100% be behind this endeavor. We talked about family responsibilities and closeness. EVERYTHING. I was explicit in what I wanted since it went so wrong the first time. My counselor encouraged me to be honest and open in new relationships since there was such turmoil in my first marriage. After dating for several years, we were engaged, we bought a house, we were married, and then began the process to adopt our son after being married for two years. I did everything “by the book” this time. Not rushing, taking my time, having honest and open communication. Everything seemed perfect. Once my son was born, everything changed. I don’t know if it was a bonding issue, him not telling the truth about wanting to build our family through foster-adopt, or what, but he completely checked out of our marriage and has been an absent father the entity of our child’s life. He began working longer and longer hours, for no benefit other than to remain out of our house and avoid responsibility. He does not get overtime, and is not in a position where extra hours would benefit job prospects. He became obsessive about completing certain goals and achievements and started volunteering for committees and other projects that would keep him away. For example, I had minor surgery. Wasn’t a big deal but I would be off my feet for a few days and needed him (over a weekend mind you) to pick me up from the hospital and take care of our son. He refused to change a work project that he volunteered for and could have been easily covered by a coworker. I had to stay with my parents to recover. He didn’t even come to the hospital to pick me up. In the past two years, I have tried anything to get him to help. Our son was not an easy baby. He still doesn’t sleep through the night. Staying up with him has fallen all on me. I end up on the couch with him every night. I have not slept in a bed since he was born. My husband gives me 30-40 minutes of babysitting time a day. And yes, he calls it babysitting, even though it’s his son. I have tried counseling, crying, yelling, ultimatums, calmly discussing my feelings, everything. Nothing has worked. When I look at my husband all I am is resentful and angry. I no longer love him. I have been taking care of a special needs child for two years, alone. I wouldn’t trade or change my son for anything. He is perfect and wonderful, but it is so hard to feel so alone when you are supposed to have a partner. I cry constantly and am the loneliest I have ever felt. I am devastated and embarrassed that I couldn’t make it work again. I am trying to hold everything together but I am so sleep deprived I have little energy for anything other than my son. I feel like I have let my son down. He deserves a two parent household. He has already had so much struggle to overcome just by being born. I want to give him the world and have failed him completely. We are selling our house when it sells, we are officially separating and moving into separate residences. For now, I am stuck in the same home with him. How did I manage to mess up my son’s life and mine so badly again? What is wrong with me?",5.008969540653403,6.502726093220343,5.595652173913045,79.3121825104397,69.3177966101695,8.862294276590518,30.418447555883077,9.280378410782307,2.694439007614837,3928,158,730,80,69,1268,378,944,0.123,0.748,0.129,0.8140000000000001,3,3,1,0,2,1,122.0,26,2,0,16,38,44,4,5,44,1,87,15,5,8,10,152,146,64,2,20,22,16,7,2,3,7,6,2,4,7,31,73,0,4,11,2,6,8,21,18,0,9,46,11,119,26,125,85,13,116,0,2,3,4,110,51,0,6,57,521,150,19,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334141299853317,0.0550545493038513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523137239479093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316497207550825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04687303650568105,0.0,0.04165583434591343,0.030412311742398862,0.0,0.04245247924843585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05094298462102114,0.057060551702600076,0.2543294850384662,0.0,0.2111068448198921,0.042975578347863794,0.20923369916474047,0.05391306631371385,0.0,0.03983288380813161,0.0,0.10960303492840494,0.0965242311084874,0.05143411318973872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365883231193629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04167646139287416,0.05611922277680578,0.08837497206305182,0.0,0.0,0.09885507345989633,0.045128110191406084,0.08406848577085954,0.0,0.2690259937505188,0.0,0.1881263609956705,0.0,0.10090297074514223,0.07128245536532858,0.04790195729978833,0.0,0.0,0.12730851727490114,0.0,0.0,0.03854467580367879,0.0,0.07819596256440721,0.0957175355387277,0.028353478974215286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044691391969961684,0.0,0.05120124841315199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03344002932421674,0.05271123089826385,0.1000869187419762,0.0,0.09826265417673333,0.172698124135192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05207190847506036,0.049507851415534015,0.044344277602797265,0.0551955861073127,0.051952468688433666,0.08225426017932905,0.0,0.0,0.052826012561292164,0.05420532941111782,0.051015621331433614,0.1409543455072179,0.0487471967181567,0.05000260838957075,0.044053538940426115,0.04415083442521886,0.04189480180556096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005484466163051,0.0,0.06660355426326246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037439770758,0.0,0.0,0.05302487954085537,0.07334937276323297,0.14797038816835967,0.03847802955289418,0.04818380481926782,0.0,0.14045437467454874,0.0,0.09574106843717144,0.0,0.0,0.053130926178807054,0.033806567084440416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079326544765508,0.0,0.04762538521287103,0.0,0.0435617813020839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05831841576063222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031960633697189045,0.0,0.0,0.10712578239558164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050491062598821065,0.03975564954398829,0.045417729586379935,0.0,0.1690835574515289,0.0,0.16507717580845147,0.0,0.09985150441044588,0.0,0.0422713999288087,0.03840754572895293,0.0,0.0,0.03531220232708605,0.1063516121737183,0.039841996789220326,0.0,0.0,0.05215557011887891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125325872767022,0.12029840733495202,0.043605816394869816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04901639899759384,0.039606866884720295,0.1163643934392264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161554007692207,0.0,0.19494003827163064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041164245890979036,0.17655750537480408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04624827252963095,0.0450177146560763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054103275837794486,0.2542421848623705,0.0,0.0,0.14176090967353586,0.10909315934606782,0.0,0.16063672777672058 divorce,mattjonz,2019/01/14,"How do you navigate summer vacations and summer schedules with kids? I'm trying to work out a plan for scheduling summer vacations with my ex. I'm looking for advice, successes, warnings, and tips on how to establish a way to plan the summer schedule. I've been divorced for years, but we've never had a good plan for working out how vacations with and without the kids work. Also, I'm remarried so having some time for my wife and me without the kids is important too. Thanks in advance!",6.071612903225808,6.947778903225808,6.8227419354838705,73.75411290322583,66.41935483870968,10.070967741935485,34.854838709677416,10.125756701596842,3.778858064516129,390,18,66,9,6,129,57,93,0.05,0.857,0.093,0.6037,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,8,6,3,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,3,1,17,10,10,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,2,1,4,3,17,8,1,16,0,0,1,0,7,4,0,1,10,45,4,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25419535684842953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20802531992223994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21818412840324533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21844311009177567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062776486561107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394921245809081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15168349599062675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766107301416406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20647854291771567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5015107555323477,0.0,0.5681317202442376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16751475074817068 divorce,darkforest12,2019/01/14,"Getting divorced, need to split equity in house Background: * I'm in the middle of a divorce, expecting to finalize everything in a few months. * We own a house together that's worth $300k according to our friend who is a real estate agent. * We owe $215k on the house via a 30 year 3.75% fixed rate mortgage. * I'm currently experiencing health issues which pretty much keeps me at home 24/7. I work from home. Issue: Per our divorce agreement we need to split the equity in the house. Options: 1. Sell the house. This is probably the cleanest option to split up the equity but I actually really like this house and I can still afford it on my own. Plus, the thought of moving right now with my current health issue would be pretty stressful. 2. Cash out refinance. The LTV can't exceed 80% so lets say our house appraises at $300k, we could cash out $25k. The refinance would increase my interest rate to 4.75%. When calculating the equity that I owe my spouse, do I just take (300k-215k)/2 to get $42,500? Or should I factor in closing costs into this calculation since if we were to sell the house we wouldn't receive that much? Also, if I can only get $25k from the cash out refinance are there any other options I have to come up with the remainder? I could tap into my savings but that would bring my emergency funds down quite a bit. If I refinanced the house I would rent out 1 or 2 of the bedrooms so that would bring in additional income that could replenish my savings. 3. ? I will be speaking to a real estate agent and a loan officer next week to go over my options but I would like some outside opinions. Which option do you think would be best? Is there anything that I'm missing? TLDR: Divorce sucks and I'm trying to figure out how to split the equity in our house.",2.2892180076329933,4.800987763688767,3.6762131007087793,85.40989407274711,80.58501440922191,6.979017057403225,23.499415842355326,8.098718942377014,1.550989936910974,1402,49,269,28,37,459,175,347,0.04,0.863,0.096,0.9598,8,0,0,0,4,0,56.0,10,1,0,3,10,11,1,1,25,0,28,2,0,1,0,62,49,17,0,18,9,1,0,2,1,10,2,2,4,0,15,22,0,1,3,0,12,7,2,3,0,0,2,3,33,8,43,30,9,42,0,1,0,0,21,25,1,12,12,172,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.06528824786730511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350277264265259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0454967319279358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05505594978666694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702111846896432,0.0,0.07304138679289524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763151431047477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025120555450947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06012862810603456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328960699508008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168954370297018,0.0,0.10486308524050364,0.0,0.0380228490708714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223076431156187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421950120320486,0.0,0.0,0.7719775428365817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948988149708134,0.0,0.05946698025950616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841344837809317,0.0,0.06537142426607095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0534018031395273,0.07110792272146138,0.0983636657976177,0.09921632088605993,0.0,0.0,0.07115272150550601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05088319107865318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13612999615544133,0.07213338017748608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116019782592514,0.0,0.15230185326374196,0.04286014962688573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05713529591728904,0.0,0.05320441599564179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05534333676053035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053429289293787416,0.0,0.07663783041596173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050303169562459095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042869115731303614,0.0,0.05311397317758935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04542314245474145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05366602021437904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048706606597486685,0.0,0.0,0.3326847098990632,0.0,0.0,0.04308371513102437 divorce,RfTaLaP,2019/01/14,"Life stopped dead in its tracks My STBXW(30F) and I(32M) have reached an impasse and D looks inevitable. Been separated for 6 months almost. My whole life feels like it’s stopped dead in its tracks and the race is over. Meanwhile I keep hearing news of fellow friends and relatives my age and younger having kids and settling down. I feel depressed knowing it won’t be me. I missed the boat and totally screwed up my life plan. I honestly don’t have the energy to go on. Nor do I anticipate finding anyone who will want to be with me and me with her and setting down anytime soon enough to reach the settled phase of kids and a house. Anyone else going through this or have come out the other end alive?",5.433665855636659,6.28993351824818,4.902871046228711,87.02386050283863,67.83211678832117,7.840713706407138,32.74047039740471,7.793537801064563,2.092564314679643,560,24,113,6,9,169,95,137,0.14400000000000002,0.741,0.115,-0.807,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,0,7,0,12,4,0,0,1,26,23,12,2,1,1,0,2,1,2,2,3,1,0,2,7,14,0,3,4,0,0,3,3,3,0,0,1,4,13,3,17,18,3,18,0,2,1,1,7,8,1,2,7,72,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1946880540256815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718922645543796,0.19921087815360944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747949280810612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745753853663953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16241672327516532,0.0,0.17220240037544704,0.2008924833399109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19661373985985706,0.1388969029580857,0.0,0.0,0.1777004723794726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15021188782614456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22099184981336825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21913054390934247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22433977118317647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17281343049633469,0.0,0.0,0.10685062156799567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.411983326382986,0.09498599083518418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326761447854374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15518778244598033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3250951785723045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467660854685738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170680129984537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,dhdidbdidjdnodidhddh,2019/01/14,"Bam! I'm ready! After five years and (literally) three different marriage therapists, I am ready for this. I've done the work. I've done my best It is time and I am ready!!!",-0.7499047619047587,1.3025289142857162,1.5192857142857152,94.55988095238098,102.71428571428572,5.761904761904763,17.261904761904766,7.1686216300943375,0.4383333333333335,132,4,30,3,6,44,25,35,0.0,0.669,0.331,0.9164,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,3,1,2,4,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,18,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34952803932158377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3479789198984184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6816761616155305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867106733456081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19421114095632985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24247311566213306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144810195555344 divorce,HeyImBrianxD,2019/01/14,My divorce with the Object The object would not put the food on the table for me at 6pm and instead gave it me at 7pm. i got extremely angry and grabbed her into a headlock while swinging her around into the wall. she said something nice aboout me before this and i never accept compliments from the bitch. this is 7th time it has happened. any idea what i should do? Is divorce the right answer as she has now died from severe brain trauma,2.802954545454547,4.895214295454547,3.5840909090909108,88.9586363636364,76.5,5.3090909090909095,22.363636363636363,5.985473137389443,0.388177272727273,350,10,67,2,8,111,64,88,0.213,0.758,0.029,-0.9519,0,0,1,0,2,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,8,0,7,2,1,0,1,14,11,5,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,5,7,1,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,2,11,3,11,6,0,13,0,0,0,0,8,8,1,0,4,50,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912000720796264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344805020336218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22413271688781147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940398287231613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2733660499389897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185025026421079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21066383634927688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329224170162898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29734483703918857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20314915540527428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647882360977175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494087339600735,0.25055228399967683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975653231062577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20277702799984887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15358977916170227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18711073178834367,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,captredbart,2019/01/14,Just found out wife is cheating. Need advice. Just found out tonight. Her messages have been coming in as content hidden on her phone. I went through it while she was sleeping and found messages between her and a coworker very explicit. There's no question. I video recorded me scrolling through the entire conversation for the past 3 months. I'm ok right now just numb. Only want divorce. No house. No kids. I want this to be quick. Can I find a lawyer and talk tomorrow? What's a reasonable timeframe? Do I need more evidence?,1.9743197278911568,4.809893642857143,2.129428571428573,91.43223809523808,92.16326530612244,5.062312925170068,26.94149659863945,6.742157984588678,1.479720272108843,419,20,77,6,15,126,74,98,0.139,0.8109999999999999,0.05,-0.8626,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,6,3,1,0,5,1,7,2,1,1,1,20,17,5,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,6,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,6,0,10,1,10,10,1,14,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,1,7,49,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893616986080432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692618507082985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771133972418743,0.0,0.0,0.6374164581183034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235986121965257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15467508325327084,0.0,0.0,0.2873740546370322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738007620677573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18498701289748767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170803850752901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992403502216476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16548891859731266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19392212211668106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575477188444048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15989058884277405,0.2285954950140775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796380175968265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwawayfhgfhjfjhf,2019/01/14,"Are any wayward spouses here getting divorced or under the threat of divorce against your will due to your betrayed spouse's decision? If so can you please share your story? Are any waywards here getting divorced or under the threat of divorce against your will due to your BSs decision? If so can you please share your story? &#x200B;",6.157499999999999,8.682906416666668,4.626666666666669,83.265,68.16666666666666,6.133333333333334,37.0,6.742157984588678,2.6754,275,15,43,2,5,79,32,60,0.16,0.71,0.13,-0.6408,0,0,0,0,4,0,8.0,0,8,0,0,4,4,2,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,8,6,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,2,8,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,4,2,32,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31424441994157565,0.3524148714648632,0.39445697067241936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30305455056164554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6367256857927185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3524148714648632,0.0 divorce,signuporlogin1994,2019/01/14,"Anyone else anxious about their “first time” after the divorce? I’m just having a hard time imagining myself being intimate with someone new after being with my STBXH for 4 years. I’ve had a baby, my body has changed and I look and feel very different from when we met. I left him 9 months ago and I’m not any more ready now than I was the day I left. Any advice from those who are further along in the process? Does anyone else have the same anxieties I have? 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He was always emotionally abusive and became physically abusive for a few years before our separation 10 years ago and aside from slamming things around and being aggressive has not been physically abusive since. He is still emotionally abusive, and I realized that after 20 years of this, I don't want to feel this way anymore. That said, he is a high wage earner and we live in a place with extremely high cost of living. We spend into our credit cards often, and have a chunk of not so insignificant debt. I have never earned enough to pay for a 1br apartment here (1br for my teen, me and the younger kids in the living room?) I can't earn enough to cover childcare and my kids have complex needs and make it impossible for me to care for other kids to earn money and keep them with me. As far as I can tell that leaves me with working alternating shifts, but my STBXH has to work mandatory overtime nights and weekends at times. I can apply for IHSS for one of my kids to be his paid caregiver but it doesnt pay much and will take at least a year to get going if I am approved. I have no idea how to make it work. I have recently inherited a chunk of money that is not community property and I could live off of it without support for maybe 2 years, but then I would be back to poverty wages and childcare issues with no nest egg, no money for my teen's college, etc. We do own our house and it is enough money to buy my STBX out, but I can't afford the mortgage and utilities on my own with estimated child support and what I could expect to earn working. Perhaps I would then qualify for SSI for my son but that would also take ages. It all feels insurmountable. I have no idea what to propose. I have no idea how to keep up this house if I fight for it, and I really want to keep it as an asset for my kids since housing is so desperate here. What have other people done? I want to have ideas for solutions because I'm afraid of ending up getting hosed... or getting in over my head and losing this house my kids were born in that was supposed to be their home base forever. Thanks.",5.678856643356646,5.729721368181825,6.242727272727276,80.44716783216785,67.13636363636363,9.314685314685317,30.10489510489511,9.057496981413335,2.2721520979020973,1742,58,353,28,26,568,214,440,0.119,0.833,0.048,-0.9818,6,0,0,0,2,0,38.0,6,0,2,10,11,9,2,1,11,0,41,2,1,4,2,72,65,38,0,12,12,1,2,0,0,4,0,1,2,7,24,32,1,3,8,1,15,1,14,4,0,1,8,3,45,5,65,47,10,45,0,1,0,0,25,20,0,4,23,246,69,15,0.0,0.3403414897401418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731385344091475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057427959734404135,0.059753263155208076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121811983721116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06392782630312374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521892730949564,0.0,0.043775874756570715,0.0,0.06110664754546075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07321702985456002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467193599405487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734885180951794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16155746978541022,0.06360403874287061,0.2226027035449797,0.08008926401762499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262052038857687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11255627959767107,0.0,0.04081236424911138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736997390037082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517464546340382,0.07203320248607686,0.0,0.0,0.33144521718144354,0.0,0.3242676287284009,0.0,0.07495297835455021,0.0,0.19148917967367296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603844552692167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536449342719633,0.0,0.0,0.0803391602667743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587001719787908,0.0,0.0721447173450011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052790017785458776,0.05324762250076431,0.05538577326362298,0.0,0.0,0.06739061433239278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04866160978400312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04978533751695522,0.0,0.07502816320022329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0460045493982702,0.0,0.07090559921786556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683095726615494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880711066243285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05734908533983839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1629826124708952,0.0,0.0,0.1079872407899413,0.0,0.06276677594681497,0.06611475993537892,0.0,0.0,0.04770864311638814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041874103130231925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706957807230373,0.057000952831748615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06922412013558735,0.0,0.2091197075831584,0.0,0.0,0.15303936477627192,0.0,0.0,0.3699561328200113 divorce,marie_dancanto,2019/01/14,"I’ve been engaging in every coping mechanism imaginable since my divorce two months ago, but now I want to really get better. Advice on healthy ways to get through this/being alone? Hi all, I went through a pretty absuuve relationship for 5 years until I ended two months ago. I naively thought I would quickly deal with some emotional fallout but reach a point where I felt relieved that I had gotten out of something so toxic. However, that’s not been the case. The hardest part has been looking at what I allowed to go on: the verbal abuse, the emotional manipulation, and even physical abuse. I’m pretty mad and miserable towards myself. Sadly I’ve been turning to partying pretty hard and have even been hooking up with my Roomate. This is not how I envisioned working on myself and I feel terrible about how things are unfolding. As of right now I’m struggling mostly with the horrible loneliness of being alone in my new place, but then also being checked out and vacant often when with friends. I feel like crawling out of my skin. On the bright side, I have started to try to get it together. I’ve joined a gym this week, establish a morning routine at my new place, schedule therapy, etc. Maybe I’m just expecting too much. Any practical advice on ways to get back to normal or just get through this is welcome! <3",5.5903405017921175,7.1833533387096775,6.055913978494626,76.1844265232975,68.03225806451613,9.220788530465953,33.939068100358426,9.586721724236666,3.4647331541218644,1060,50,180,23,18,342,151,248,0.168,0.6579999999999999,0.174,-0.4632,2,2,1,0,3,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,17,12,1,2,10,0,15,1,1,4,1,37,34,17,0,4,8,0,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,8,12,0,0,5,1,1,2,2,5,0,2,10,7,19,7,37,21,6,42,0,2,2,0,6,20,0,4,19,125,27,1,0.0,0.2566385668471045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21166147547716385,0.19200506474720852,0.0,0.0,0.2243348866021849,0.0,0.08660847841057326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736485705376503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327698382212234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578366336937903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116538434602956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24364868086361804,0.09592277075076086,0.0,0.12078453292906535,0.14306392149544978,0.0,0.09124848245732263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095207421842411,0.07737044170923653,0.10398619340557352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367328474267133,0.0,0.2829146916297081,0.0,0.06155010180234623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09701665633135344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052910525077189074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094578194324604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880317224413176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17289006478921534,0.0,0.07961388732615267,0.0,0.0,0.2091960633506276,0.0,0.0,0.10611224016322657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11727971058651315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22630353168610365,0.0,0.1023796966624157,0.0,0.0,0.33054394895959816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938056030155737,0.0,0.0,0.11627502251311515,0.0,0.0924886842030568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958792134021708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337560098868772,0.0,0.0,0.07665618917783427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321999156772786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385192923933715,0.0,0.07195054475996036,0.0,0.0,0.08597910298921185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735294463878989,0.1178006712770652,0.21158918825946665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06387888907548213,0.17192899819329885,0.08687273805718786,0.0,0.0,0.10039635294738004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884460706598566,0.0,0.0,0.07693410771509054,0.0,0.0,0.06974246057666768 divorce,Upsidedownkangaroo,2019/01/15,"I [26F] am getting a divorce after 1.5 years of a toxoc marriage but I still feel hurt and lost. Any advice wpuld help My husband and I have agreed to go our separate ways after only 1.5 years of marriage. I've been wanting to do this for a while but now that it is official, even though I want this I am still I'm scared shitless. I spent last night crying not because I'm going to miss him but I am going to miss the few fun times we did have. I keep trying to remind myself of the emotional and verbal abuse he does to me but for some reason I feel scared and lonely. My entire family saw how he treated me and each one of them supports me 100%, it just sucks that I have no family in the state that I live in. I think he has cheated on me with a previous coworker, I didn't go through his phone on purpose but I stumbled on a few texts to a girl calling her beautiful, and talked about how he wants to kiss her and how pretty she is. (that is cheating right? He said it's not because he never touched her, but they went to a baseball game when I flew home for a weekend). I am a little bit excited to get my freedom back but I feel broken, scared, confused, and like I'm a failure. Does anyone have any advice for me? I sadly have a house that is in my name that I can't afford so he can walk away freely but I can't :( I feel like a mess Here is some things I would get in trouble for (so you have an idea of what our marriage was like) -Can't ask his kids (9M and 8F) to leave the bedroom if I want to change, I have to change in the closet -I have to open every door for the kids -He got angry at me for not mopping for a week even though I rolled my ankle and the doc said to not walk on it -I have to have sex with him because he ""doesn't want to retire his dick"" (I've been sexually assulted before meeting him and I'm working on that but he pressures me into it) -If he is home and doesn't let the dogs out and if they poop inside, it's my duty to clean the house when I come back from work -I am to give him money with no conditions when he needs it (or I would be a bad wife) we keep our finances separate and he would spend all of his money on stuff for himself and forget bills -Im the reason why he has depression and won't get out of bed until 3/4pm - He wouldn't go to counseling because there is nothing wrong with him (even I've been to marriage counseling and therapy by myself) -I can go on and on and on Please help me find some comfort, this is the second time I've been abused and I'm on the edge of just giving up. Thank you",2.6145938217784632,3.351739616087752,4.0529433272394915,90.98617728402009,74.22851919561244,6.8534008343880375,23.532039563118172,6.900799576094004,0.5844199034359909,1978,52,455,17,39,657,246,547,0.172,0.7020000000000001,0.127,-0.9862,1,2,0,0,3,0,54.0,5,2,3,3,23,29,3,5,27,0,47,4,2,5,2,84,92,45,0,13,19,2,5,3,0,5,0,2,8,3,20,32,0,3,9,2,6,11,15,19,0,2,15,8,71,10,70,70,8,58,0,7,1,3,62,24,2,8,24,307,91,4,0.0,0.18957254254575204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15634908095904526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10880474391053163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055937478252075366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478869027104965,0.0,0.07516212036708242,0.123029283966556,0.06679620243333967,0.1950676982957031,0.0,0.06807364303708538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873386839900835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08168838691471468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925762937018807,0.06891244590556074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08787564363243097,0.0,0.0,0.06890341242618085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001612244251782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08998861801381611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585166544392523,0.0,0.06740299026522274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083273074984174,0.0,0.16180051044108013,0.057151625856164075,0.0,0.0,0.07311805155914762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671856512438945,0.15348553163459724,0.27279319946262304,0.0,0.06398287137902223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072438952761644,0.0,0.16049195005198885,0.0,0.0,0.1846172577539387,0.08564106999603854,0.09030964589456948,0.08641313819531347,0.0,0.0,0.14221438077171727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521023231949047,0.0,0.08470787067877754,0.0,0.08180486174924836,0.0,0.1172510767521067,0.08018046942594582,0.07064098345826059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873288541554159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05931858140301083,0.061700510663358965,0.0,0.0,0.07507406818055712,0.0,0.07676163362144868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054209700369861655,0.06084318961011024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878153770053003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08138820494675945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645055250142848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831909652741433,0.152195600713284,0.0,0.24028022813693556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277753344600724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158023502242962,0.0,0.09078243225781013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430053072539256,0.0,0.07365274889242238,0.09148634756476633,0.0,0.05314808243853592,0.05126041982755503,0.1571981145694097,0.0,0.0932966498240585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054314377901120314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23592875314511286,0.06349984284370118,0.06417073643192386,0.0,0.0,0.07416029525248369,0.07218706403245027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648111046711375,0.0,0.0,0.17048795027826918,0.08746684432318189,0.0,0.10303405086260856 divorce,jessasd27,2019/01/15,"7 Days Until D-Day My divorce hearing is in 7 days and I have never felt so heartbroken, confused, angry and sad all at once. I held out hope that he would change his mind and withdraw the petition until today. He knew how I felt when the papers were filed and never told me that he was certain that he wanted to proceed with the divorce. Today, I gave up on holding on to that hope. I have nothing else that I can do but focus on healing and moving forward. I will now put him on the ‘no contact’ list and live my life without him. This surely wasn’t the outcome I wanted, but I can’t make him want something when he doesn’t. Just had to get that off my chest so that I can breathe a little. 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Keeping busy with school and friends. And then today I had yet another appointment with my divorce attorney. And had to send another (still unanswered) email to my STBXH about signing the god damn papers. I had a full day at work. And I was fine. Hadn’t cried all day. Got home, and fuck...it’s so quiet. And then it hit me how alone I am. I didn’t want this divorce. He did. And now he’s making it so much harder for me to just move on by dragging things out. I’m not sure why I have it in my head that papers need to be signed before I can move on, but that’s where I am. I know he was having an affair. I know he’s on dating apps now. But apparently he has just been “too busy” to take 20 minutes to sign some paperwork. Just. Sign. The. Fucking. Papers. Going to go cuddle a cat now.",-0.908707865168541,1.2177493202247192,1.5059011235955069,96.94752584269665,95.12359550561796,4.421033707865169,15.546966292134831,6.152001189255117,-0.5494798202247191,641,15,148,7,25,216,110,178,0.048,0.901,0.051,0.1067,1,1,0,0,3,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,14,6,2,0,6,0,18,3,1,2,2,30,31,14,0,2,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,7,10,0,1,2,0,0,5,3,2,0,0,11,2,15,4,19,18,4,26,0,0,0,2,11,8,2,1,13,94,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16809369288698967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34037107842523656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13810521458960826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1782787592908064,0.31400992088879603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539245804707802,0.30008718383793936,0.0,0.0,0.18447748482158316,0.13612941015870386,0.12980601283591162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538878264800673,0.0,0.16656646501075034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16279997817774802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425955992619954,0.0,0.0,0.17839150118100194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833640716398664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449981012756882,0.1193090609172454,0.12034327895968458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10397343696558756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16425610844211058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961286628404609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15296568366343466,0.0,0.12202928536653446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782480564763472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30768255266149497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09572865393207723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464503664562828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815622052086205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SaltTrash,2019/01/15,"I’m so fucking tired of being lonely in my marriage. This is my throwaway account for obvious reasons but I’m just really frustrated. I’m a 23F who’s married to a 25M. We’ve been married for 3 years, and I’ve been really depressed for the last two. I feel so alone in our marriage and counseling hasn’t helped. We’ve been attending for a while. I lied to myself for so long and told myself I was happy. My husband is a wonderful man, but he often neglects me, and we don’t have anything in common. He makes me feel like a child, and constantly guilts me over little things. For the first year of my marriage, my in-laws resented me for “taking him away”. They made up all these lies about me, and made me feel terrible about myself. My husband never stood up for me, and he suffered through a severe video game addiction that kept him away from me every night. Nothing is lonelier than going to bed alone when the person who’s supposed to be beside you is in the other room, choosing not to be with you. We’ve grown even further apart in the last few years and I’ve finally become aware of how truly depressed I’ve been. I’m not happy. I don’t feel young anymore. I work 45 hours a week while he works around 20-25. He doesn’t help with the bills, he doesn’t help me with car maintenance. I feel like I’m stuck doing everything while he works part time and plays video games. I just feel soooo exhausted and so lonely. I’m depressed and I often consider suicide. I make good money, and I constantly think about what it’d be like to live on my own. Do you guys have any advice for me? I really think I’m going to end up divorced in 2019. Our lives seem to be heading in opposite directions. 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Feel like the entire divorce was designed to screw me over. My second attorney, first one had major back surgery, so I hired another one. He gave a big presentation, preyed on my weakened mental an emotional state, and I bought into it. We're scheduled for prove-up this week, and I just received the settlement agreement. It is complete bullshit. A friend told me I should explore talking to another attorney, and he stated I could file a motion to dismiss if I'm not happy with the settlement agreement, before the divorce is final. He said that her side would have had to have filed a response prior to this, but I don't remember what the response was. I'm to call him in the morning, but just wondered if this made any sense to anyone. If the situation were reversed, I'd have been granted a lot, but in spite of her abandonment of the kids for almost 3 years, I'm the one getting screwed. Each paragraph is worse than the next. &#x200B; Funny when I asked a friend, who's quite well off, if he had any words of advice after going through his divorce. They were: ""FUCK LAWYERS."" &#x200B; How true. At least based on my current dbag of an attorney. 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We went in for temporary orders last week and the judge ruled that the kids stay in the state, but stipulated that we devise a parenting plan and that I move out: I was good with that. I’m sick of the tension and it’ll be nice to be in my own space. Well we didn’t work together despite the judge saying so; I came to the table and she wouldn’t even... I submitted 50/50 week on week off. Pretty cut and dry. We’ll be living in the same complex, but I’ll be in a totally different building to accommodate easy child transfer. I got her proposal though and holy shit: she’s submitting a daddy weekend every other week... I’ve been a huge part of our kids upbringing and that’ll be devastating to me and the kids! Definitely feels like retaliation for the win (kids staying in the state) but its pretty low. My lawyer is looking it over and yeah she’s still asking for more than I make. Yeah she’s saddling me with all the debt. Anyone been through something similar? I’m just in a whirl... this feels so wrong. Leaving her is a god decision, but I’m not divorcing my kids :(",1.9298046351273683,4.2027213215859085,3.4899674391878968,87.620034476154,80.27753303964758,7.119632254357402,23.085424248228307,8.18289091462,1.35867148055928,888,30,185,18,23,293,130,227,0.14400000000000002,0.68,0.17600000000000002,0.8177,4,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,5,0,0,4,7,11,2,1,17,2,15,2,1,1,2,32,27,16,0,1,6,2,2,1,0,4,1,1,0,7,10,17,0,0,4,1,1,3,3,6,1,1,7,4,23,5,26,10,6,31,0,1,1,0,24,15,1,0,8,116,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028912687138777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756614470106254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16830132674652934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374127839388807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719172307598548,0.0,0.12398090511419525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488077431987032,0.10512456902154696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342311902683832,0.11768994630894362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994755119712877,0.0,0.1558114623064392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189045354486114,0.0,0.12993686233874538,0.0,0.12356962064454614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982243092124778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15639802474770348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32678712373142177,0.15934998893649996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29941055360344154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170202313765816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510481932238417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11328388370570608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31368637169439645,0.11751482801648405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457492501349914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374496082746274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4721420194189418,0.0,0.13230625149430866,0.13641027635064526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10712754321131752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16088631207606358,0.0,0.0 divorce,BalBaroy,2019/01/15,"Splitting up and wife heading to Pacific US territory So my SO is from a US Commonwealth and we are spliting up. She wants to move back permanently and has asked that I and our 3 year old daughter move back with her for about 2 years. That way we spend some time with her family. It is then my option to stay or move back to the states after that time period. She has told me that she legally cannot take her child there now without my consent and even after being a resident there for 2 years, she cannot lawfully keep our daughter there. I have not spoken to a lawyer yet but plan on it and anyone know the law as it pertains to US territory?",5.058187022900764,5.238477824427484,5.838998091603056,82.36552003816797,68.46564885496183,9.298091603053436,28.588740458015266,9.188382445141503,2.105495419847329,509,16,107,9,8,167,80,131,0.011,0.979,0.01,-0.0343,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,7,0,0,1,12,0,0,0,5,0,9,1,1,0,0,21,15,12,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,10,0,1,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,20,0,19,13,1,24,0,0,0,0,20,3,0,3,15,82,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10534185940867244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084259680761282,0.0,0.0,0.3475344421950343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09950656606663227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14202463905571638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461605245736582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339095698740212,0.0,0.0,0.08279634710014963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4803690033383129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15808765062978405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16057876474114635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11327421991184848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17569691870586748,0.0,0.0,0.14395782866842044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5436602097729659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886054330972196,0.11958335853414676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522656843683582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29105169305354484 divorce,Rickydoowop28,2019/01/15,Will be meeting with my STBXW after 6 months of no contact. To sign the paperwork. Hey there’s! It’s been a minute since I’ve posted on this subreddit. But I just need to good words of encouragement and to get me mentally prepared for this meeting. It’s been a good 6 months since she left my life. The whole story in on my profile if you wana read into it. But it I just want to get this over with. I said to her that the faster we get this signed the better. (Well for me) I just know that I will be amicable and will not be petty about it. I however do not want to know what’s been going on with her life. Like I said I want to rip of the bandaid as fast as possible. Get my life back together. I just need to encouragement from y’all! Thanks! Also when I go meet her ima wear some good clothes so that she sees that I’m doing fine. I’m not Hana tell her that be will also make me feel good. I just hope Karma is real...but regardless I hope I don’t sound petty with this but I hope she realizes in the future that she made the mistake of just walking away from me. Or I just tell me self that so I can sleep better at night. Who knows! 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He was separated from his ex for 1.5 years when we'd met, and the divorce was finally signed off last week. It was horribly ugly, and he (and I, and even our families) were terrorized by that woman. I'm not sure if ""trauma"" is too strong of a word to describe the experience, but she is a very troubled woman. She tried to throw out false abuse accusations, threats, tried to turn their kid against him too many times to count, wouldn't provide required information, and wouldn't agree to settle on *anything* despite not presenting any settlement offers herself. That is just a very simplified way to describe several years of abuse she was able to inflict on him from a distance. Every time either of our phones would buzz, we'd have a physical reaction stemming from fear of another one of her hours-long crazy-mail rants. I'm sure many of you can relate. The courts and lawyers proved to be zero help until a new person stepped in last week and got everything sorted out in just half a day. I don't know how this person did it, but she deserves a statue. My boyfriend gave up a lot that he could have gained by fighting in court, but he felt he couldn't bear it any longer and bought his freedom, essentially. The final orders are arriving by mail this week, and it was all pretty unexpected. His ex is walking away with six figures worth of cash and no responsibility for any of their joint debt. My boyfriend is an ""ideas"" guy...very good with numbers, meticulous with his finances, and loves to think about ways to increase his wealth (via legal means, of course). Of course, while he was still legally tied to his ex, he was unable to pursue any of his money-making ideas. It caused him a lot of frustration. He didn't react the way I expected to the divorce. He was relieved it was over, but sad about the sizeable payout and the wasted years. Now he's got a ... strange energy, for lack of a better term. He's so excited to get out and start living his life that he's considering a fairly risky and expensive real estate investment that he swears up and down is a *great* idea (it would be, if all went exactly 100% to expectations, which neverrr happens). He's got people looking into it already, and is prepared to go all-in. I've seen him put more consideration into buying a pair of pants! His head is a whirlwind. He can't decide what he wants to do with his house (which he kept). He's kind of aggressive in how he's expressing himself (not at all violent, just negative, and with a ""fuck the world"" attitude). I would imagine this is normal after years of low-key trauma and a sudden, life-altering event...but I'm worried about him, and especially about this real estate idea. I don't feel like he should make any big decisions until the dust settles. He feels like he's finally free and doesn't want to waste any more time. How can I support him through this? He's obviously adjusting, and will be for some time. TIA for any insights.",6.090900318531009,6.477671797639125,6.335347105115236,78.98011265692337,66.26812816188871,9.55684841671351,31.64928798950721,9.444778638647367,2.7136918118793334,2428,90,466,44,36,779,304,593,0.156,0.73,0.114,-0.9805,1,0,0,0,7,0,106.0,4,1,2,4,17,27,6,2,29,0,48,4,1,6,9,103,78,36,0,16,13,3,3,2,1,7,1,0,0,6,21,33,0,2,19,0,10,7,13,12,0,4,24,5,41,16,79,40,13,62,0,1,2,2,77,20,1,6,33,278,62,5,0.07464272455880701,0.17687884586708233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08237010265957115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3553172861565516,0.07826940491895581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142460233958742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012929681123893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601542409559337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07667863940666866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05959614182643117,0.0,0.0,0.04813838230189691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04930081559879068,0.0,0.06288971475510728,0.0,0.06708406784279197,0.07301490743440585,0.07036651768167736,0.08399381704134448,0.0754832085997265,0.1066495546782666,0.0716687211187821,0.2453023687398623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06900599607777763,0.03899774281713251,0.0,0.0424211805090325,0.06260677595984734,0.1790958167170031,0.08229386733805094,0.0,0.0739080326256568,0.0660063148159696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660496982389256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050031444870662425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861276824168281,0.0,0.3370502019329335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07772891129607486,0.041021689341631744,0.1216875658943284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544472760700632,0.07293332973956412,0.0,0.06591089330353432,0.06605646236498393,0.06268108937883975,0.0,0.0,0.1269171503416155,0.06736797316086038,0.0,0.049824598253258856,0.15135201412750324,0.0,0.08130780930906978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209040850715287,0.0,0.0,0.07313402191660476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505798419299427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174786681356862,0.13035029596129774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593848542017646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503655464046166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991952383996642,0.0,0.0,0.07370068553643473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432503254460783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052832504626718485,0.0,0.0596097762526013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470367927302908,0.14069976907263074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047828043956164204,0.0,0.0,0.1740990918045223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135502059661536,0.08118985012205282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24635225991807935,0.08805242574218444,0.17774376126581082,0.1796216737840092,0.0,0.0,0.06919455347947126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580331003354136,0.0,0.1590721497665565,0.0,0.0,0.2403373367900852 divorce,ferociouskuma,2019/01/15,"She brought the AP around my daughters after swearing she wouldn't 3.5 months separated now, and I was starting to turn a corner for the better. Then last night I called in to talk to my daughters and my 7yo tells me they went to eat at the restaurant my wife works. I know this is also where AP works, and thus I can tell she went to see him. I confront STBXW and she starts telling me I can't control her, and backtracks on her earlier promise. Sends me into another fit of suicidal depression and drinking myself to death. I got pretty angry, threatened to take the kids from her, and generally took a cordial divorce into nasty territory last night. This morning I feel 100x worse than I did yesterday morning. Resisting the urge to announce her cheating to the social media community. I seriously feel like I've lost all the progress I've been making.",5.849377104377107,7.052516092592594,6.032648709315377,78.04237373737377,67.08641975308642,8.60695847362514,33.86307519640853,8.841846274778883,2.9206098765432102,685,31,122,11,11,218,107,162,0.202,0.7090000000000001,0.09,-0.9648,0,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,1,6,4,8,2,0,9,0,7,2,0,3,1,19,22,9,2,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,10,2,1,3,1,0,5,2,5,0,0,9,3,28,3,20,12,1,25,0,2,1,0,22,9,0,0,12,78,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12260930111867645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607685392133391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648658495465302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559836449998658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15655603544577099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17196050895673876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205359397523642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501944373035086,0.0,0.15688380789114054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15504557871979902,0.10953126021037084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12262336248596002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426021736521874,0.24995120672650076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749040119465299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673660076170646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102341750092033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237791497547265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877593480063294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15598073581518285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221755443949786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628960660621755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170402240981501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677063095155887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115276950323702,0.12323215756404075,0.4020231905105161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034326180746434,0.0,0.16676725237131787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842568509606671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223236393174112,0.0,0.15624535337684614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Straw27,2019/01/15,"Kindly asking for advice 44M w/2 children who has been divorced for several years. My ex and I have an up-and-down relationship in that sometimes we can communicate wonderfully and agree on things without issue and other times she is very unreasonable and demanding. Regardless of what stage we're in, I always give in and let her get the upper hand when it comes to negotiations. She has primary physical custody and I moved out of the house. I wanted them all to be able to stay in the family home so I pledge to pay more money in child support than required by law. I voluntarily upped my commitment against the advice of numerous people to make sure she could afford the mortgage. Well now she had remarried and her new husband has a very high income. They just sold our family house and upgraded to a much larger home with all the bells and whistles. Not only is money not a problem for her, but I have been laid off for six months and when I eventually get a new job there is no question it will be at a lower salary than I had previously. I am in NO WAY looking to shirk any responsibilities as the father of my kids, but I am preparing, with my lawyer, to petition the court to lower my child support. The kids are very well taken care of while my finances are being strained to the limit. Remember, I am paying well over what is required by law and am simply looking to decrease my current amount to something more reasonable. Furthermore, please keep in mind that separate from the child support I also pay $320/month for the kids' medical insurance and my lawyer believes that amount is, by definition, ""unreasonable"" as a percentage of our income. I am going to sit down with my ex this Friday to tell her my intentions and even though she does NOT need this ""extra"" money I am 100% positive she will become angry and tell me I am harming the children. Can you suggest any tips or strategies I can use to help the conversation go smoothly? I'll simply add I'm a very ""nice"" guy who speaks very calmly and sensibly whenever I deal with her. Thank you!",7.556028523084358,7.096715695431472,7.989579405366211,71.19826565143829,63.36548223350254,11.159584239787288,34.75175247764081,10.608840637214634,3.638944790911288,1640,63,297,36,21,543,216,394,0.07200000000000001,0.799,0.129,0.966,10,0,1,0,1,0,38.0,3,2,2,3,12,15,0,1,22,0,33,2,1,4,4,54,56,26,0,5,8,4,2,0,0,2,1,1,2,9,13,23,0,4,4,0,8,4,6,3,3,1,6,5,47,12,54,43,8,34,0,0,2,0,45,16,0,3,10,212,60,10,0.09441692407949437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845262509401344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550518007447653,0.07856244441622913,0.0,0.0,0.12841349213668204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826707866645311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427607468481404,0.0,0.10637554120932384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626434665717347,0.0,0.0,0.08133181984868118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538423110244068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733970289273476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262488652638894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062361487887287376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801574626218375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865789183340863,0.09057331694039326,0.1073186275864918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348759904635724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328567398714259,0.09975666413883022,0.18941574627434032,0.0,0.0,0.21788890745770575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854673845200597,0.0936942283785144,0.08392210031746762,0.0,0.09832069716106498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654770181360317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15857287343361415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630240299824934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511511784589034,0.0,0.0,0.09533417808075567,0.0,0.15072537602050706,0.10035024812014516,0.06940730294894988,0.07000895285244409,0.0,0.18237690725013844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180832535200045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545680695729662,0.0,0.0,0.1036414297691149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903442450599539,0.0,0.0,0.10576856329720986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707632307021984,0.0,0.10136844191393596,0.10695596950270736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066642495008676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268676094995376,0.09338075214911734,0.0,0.0,0.10063587849725382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.321429619662717,0.08898683356652443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16504910647972748,0.0869264183785889,0.0,0.0,0.06272640898739387,0.0,0.09276414852719586,0.0,0.05505526771154354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08154590768152205,0.0,0.3895192525289588,0.05568954808023703,0.07494375958823322,0.0,0.0,0.2546764612926192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101454553683964,0.10239112660788044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060801403526741835 divorce,Old_Kung_Fu_Kenny,2019/01/15,"Any tips for moving on? I'm having a difficult time moving on from my STBX of 6 years. She decided to leave, but drags her feet on divorce. Moreover, she frequently makes attempts to keep in contact almost daily, yet refuses to come back together. I'm assuming this is her using me as a fall-back option. The one issue I am having the most trouble with is when she contacts me. It's like I look forward to her message as the days go. I also occasionally lurked on social media. I have. Blocked her from all social media outlets but the anticipation of her talking to me is still on the forefront of my mind every day and night. My time is filled between work, school, our child, and working out but that doesn't affect the ruminations of her in my head... I tried to introspect and figure out why, and the best I could think of is that I feel almost certain that she will try to come back. However I'm conflicted because I know that I do not really want her anymore...",4.717692307692307,5.694207157894738,5.946842105263157,78.45827935222674,69.52631578947367,8.582995951417004,29.878542510121456,8.841846274778883,2.411165991902835,760,29,143,13,13,255,117,190,0.07,0.861,0.068,0.3945,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,0,4,6,5,0,0,9,0,13,2,2,3,2,35,27,11,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,9,0,4,6,0,0,7,2,2,0,1,0,2,28,3,28,25,3,28,0,0,1,0,21,10,0,5,14,102,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921135274556045,0.0,0.0,0.11664342515439123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918915195013474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14465297860636936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3364698055364975,0.0,0.0889143196859393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307006836910542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25128930311357434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645657833999715,0.0,0.0,0.1881340341134395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228925358035515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07375071545109453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0828950562875916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14969345994764865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223894704307306,0.0,0.1296462205311509,0.0,0.0,0.08016031628970371,0.0,0.0,0.15444366769593318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125936149649756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248486180435587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973620447887137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472760551613733,0.0,0.0,0.3100501619698413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687883245971735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883786338542212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344103881308297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14761714003265167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973698547214813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648322131671915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723597489167795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09346058615760244,0.0,0.0,0.1701031635798247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980574334935701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12597538301232186,0.0,0.0,0.0860314434979385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316151006988539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123742430742425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392844245332553 divorce,mandacatty,2019/01/15,"Wisconsin divorce and debt Hello, I am currently going through a divorce in Wisconsin. My soon to be ex has a mound of credit card debt that is in his name. I was an authorized user on the accounts but was not put on jointly as far as I am aware. He wants to file bankruptcy on this debt after the divorce is finalized. Being that Wisconsin is a marital property state, I’m worried that they will come after me for the debt even though the accounts were not joint. Does anyone have any experience with something like this? If so, what was the outcome? Will I be responsible for his debt? My biggest issue is that he makes over triple what I make in a year(barely 20k vs 75k), and I’m a single mom barely scraping by. I can not afford to pay his debt, and I cannot file bankruptcy as I had previously filed a few years back due to medical debt. Thank you in advance for any and all advice. 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Hi guys. Im jane. 36 years old. In the past my marriage has almost come to an end because my husband cheated on me and im pretty upset on it. Im truly devastated and hurt when I knew what is happening. &#x200B; But deep inside me I still love him Even though I want a divorce. To cut the long story short we ended up fixing it after a year of arguments. &#x200B; My advice for those who are suffering right now dont give up if youre still seeing a chance . I dont know what situation youre in right now. But I do hope that you make a right decision. If you need help from a profesional dont hesitate to go to one. If you need a friend then go talk to one. If you cant open with your friends im sure theres someone free here in reddit who you can talk too. You can PM me for a talk. But for now Im leaving my blog here I hope I can help you soon. 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Please bear with me as I try to write this post. I feel like I’m all over the place with my feelings these days. So as of now, we are cordial, but still separated. It’s been 3 months and looking back, it is very true that “time heals all” I still am in love with him, but have been realizing and accepting the reality of my life now. This past weekend, I was basically ready to just cut ties and only talk about our children because although I’m trying to get him to go to a marriage seminar with me to see if we can salvage it, he comes up with excuses. He gets out of the military in Feb 2020 but if he does not use his leave, he is able to go on terminal leave and gets to get out in late November instead. he is excited and anxious to get out. If he decides to go on the marriage seminar, he just ends up getting out on the first week of December. I completely understand where he is coming from in the sense that he does not want to spend another second in the military so I’m not pushing for the seminar too much. And this is what is making me realize that although he says “he’s not sure about going because of the cost of having to go (a weekend seminar in another state, so we would need to get tickets for flights, hotel, and dining), if he’s not willing to invest another moment to save the marriage, it’s time to let go and just move forward. When I told him that maybe it’s time to stop having conversations and just coparent, I could tell in the tone of his voice that he didn’t like it. Not in a controlling way but down and not expecting me to do that. Surprised basically. He started to say that he isn’t sure of his feelings because of his depression and anxiety. He realizes how I’m always there, by checking on him everyday to make sure he’s mentally and emotionally sound, and logically speaking, in his head, he thinks he’s making a mistake letting me go. But the feelings aren’t there. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like maybe it’s just time to let him go and let him be selfish. The past 3 months, I feel and see my personal growth. I chose not to be angry and hurt due to his selfishness and now with these mixed feelings, now I feel that he’s holding me back, if that makes sense. I’m just planning on filing for divorce. He wants to move to California and go to school over there, I tried advocating for my daughters that they need their dad with them, not 2000+ miles away but now I feel that it goes through one ear and out the other. I realize I can’t make him be a father to his daughters. 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Im jane. 36 years old. In the past my marriage has almost come to an end because my husband cheated on me and im pretty upset on it. Im truly devastated and hurt when I knew what is happening. But deep inside me I still love him Even though I want a divorce. To cut the long story short we ended up fixing it after a year of arguments. My advice for those who are suffering right now dont give up if youre still seeing a chance . I dont know what situation youre in right now. But I do hope that you make a right decision. If you need help from a profesional dont hesitate to go to one. If you need a friend then go talk to one. If you cant open with your friends im sure theres someone free here in reddit who you can talk too. You can PM me for a talk. But for now Im leaving my blog here I hope I can help you soon. 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It’s all escalated from there and she got her parents to pick her up. We’ve spoke and messaged since to progress the divorce but not met in person. Now I’m waiting for the divorce to finalise whilst in a relationship with a girl who has a lovely daughter (this is after abandoning the idea of kids due to the previous toxic relationship). Seriously anyone who feels they will be alone forever and struggles to see any light at the end, all I can say is have faith. 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I initiated. I don't miss him. I am happy with the choice I made, I just miss feeling normal. The rental house I am in does not feel like mine. When the kids aren't home, I just run off to see my boyfriend, an hour away for a quick release and distraction from how shitty everything is. I miss knowing what was going on in my life. I'm sick of running. I just want normal again. School, and work, 2 kids, a relationship with a man with 2 more kids. I am one of the most positive people (my nickname is smiley for Christ sake), but geez, my life has just been a complete mess since everything happened 6 months ago. My ex has spiraled without me, drinking excessively, my kids are acting out, my dog (the only thing that was ever happy to see me) got killed, my Mom and I had a falling out, my Dad ignores me, my brother and his on/off gf are constantly fighting with a 3 month old baby in the house, my best friend got her heart broke and I have been her emotional crutch, my other only good friend is struggling with anxiety/depression, IM BROKE (something that has never happened in my adult life), my boyfriend is a great person but he is recently divorced and struggles with the same things I do. I have a break down about once or twice a week, replaying all the sexual abuse I have had in my life. The worst part is no one wants to listen, no one cares that I struggle, maybe I should stop covering it with a smile. I smile so I am not a burden on anybody, like everyone is on me. I honestly just want to be alone, away from everyone, but I am scared of the thoughts that enter my mind when I am alone. It all seems so superficial, I just want real happiness & peace, I just want to run away from all this, but baggage has a good way of following you. I try so hard for everyone I love and it is always at the expense of myself. I know that no one would do the same for me. Idk about anything anymore...",3.5383503725524186,4.6467862261306525,4.467941431294404,87.47384422110554,72.41708542713567,7.700710448795703,26.286952001386236,8.104835398774808,1.4402286258880612,1530,50,326,22,29,496,201,398,0.17600000000000002,0.636,0.189,0.7145,1,3,2,0,4,0,60.0,0,1,1,2,18,30,2,5,25,0,38,9,1,2,5,63,67,19,1,9,15,4,4,2,3,2,6,1,1,7,13,17,1,2,8,1,1,8,10,16,0,5,10,7,56,14,44,54,10,42,1,5,2,1,26,17,0,3,17,226,69,2,0.0,0.09400657301750152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703313549504113,0.0,0.0,0.16434750362602527,0.0,0.0,0.06601839229325708,0.08596636279544631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573706782034179,0.05547734458907228,0.08129463007219241,0.06529120355349444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236315426765911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326389371296704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089383481752423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318793776472737,0.08573985592406208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683366228506802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943218496340693,0.0,0.0,0.07772435650789432,0.0,0.0,0.0662795503868571,0.08924838456516675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176882953422603,0.0,0.227442294416395,0.14261385053842845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203521720085928,0.0566815047893317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259792202568365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0450915402965452,0.1330955870230505,0.12691311493508778,0.0874741624515178,0.0,0.0,0.1403226580984473,0.2533811546496061,0.07107430110269201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401992903148523,0.0,0.0,0.07958588315943635,0.0,0.07813528693401342,0.183098622704266,0.0,0.0,0.08570231613018175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877794925064642,0.0,0.13081185877795368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802058504086876,0.07752439082199836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160870206883344,0.07507474150682181,0.0,0.0,0.07970909035037861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011218609932161,0.0929236769139204,0.12665908089559075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061192971123361216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15547543263671493,0.0,0.0,0.08325544202937593,0.08449599080815272,0.21505511663837612,0.12068540453995585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591899348698287,0.0,0.05500532973587211,0.06927784131035612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030787173365212,0.0,0.0,0.07834005069805981,0.08518296005372285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943457249552305,0.08029772240156421,0.12644963075312984,0.07222942150006563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563201760686825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108087820557881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633295461884893,0.0,0.2488345427215573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542178788982802,0.0,0.0,0.06298820105202609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053867595628513135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339880371031203,0.06297750225558738,0.06364287716949937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648226854818115,0.0,0.0577614767900456,0.0,0.0,0.05636184696093415,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,libby1613,2019/01/15,"I’ll be alone forever My ex husband left me in May after 9.5 years together. We were each other’s only since high school. He left me because he couldn’t handle my mental illness anymore. I got a diagnosis days before he left me and have been in intensive therapy since then. I am a completely different person from that time. I have been really upset lately because my ex moved on 3 months after he made the decision. I can’t understand how he could have moved on so quickly and also how he even found someone. I have been on multiple dating apps and it seems like I will be alone forever. I don’t know how I will ever find someone let alone find someone who will get me like my ex did. I am overweight (and working on it) so I’m sure that’s why no one is interested but I’m so depressed about the whole thing thinking that I’ll have to wait until I am thin to find someone. I have been on some dates but lately nothing. I know I should be okay being alone but I don’t like being alone and it’s not for me. I also want to have a family but I want a husband for that...I am not someone who likes doing things on my own. I am just so sad and feel like I am going to be alone forever...",2.0144750430292566,3.5703170682730985,4.104165232358002,86.75662650602409,77.11244979919678,7.152495697074013,23.9053356282272,7.957251820313856,1.248719104991395,926,30,197,15,21,318,122,249,0.13699999999999998,0.7859999999999999,0.077,-0.9393,1,6,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,14,11,0,1,6,1,38,2,0,4,2,40,54,21,0,5,7,5,2,5,0,5,2,0,0,1,11,8,1,1,11,0,0,3,7,3,0,1,9,2,29,8,19,31,4,30,0,2,0,0,15,13,0,3,19,135,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5467062669194336,0.0,0.1407104608429509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724961246236812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726000957178664,0.0,0.07486200603726509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224228317976994,0.0,0.0,0.07024253096445239,0.0,0.0,0.0567379314464278,0.0,0.07577452075286745,0.0,0.0,0.09191731230683856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810802444823614,0.07958029583687698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293695104477028,0.0,0.04448384958211327,0.06285083578607396,0.0,0.0,0.2412283421179011,0.0,0.0,0.0964623153709805,0.0,0.0,0.04596438751612756,0.0,0.049999395835600834,0.0,0.07036329906493277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929526038431052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09669979282168126,0.0,0.1984839320462544,0.0,0.2867620291771222,0.08996251384421387,0.0,0.21490576048917406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324603003509712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866019328510233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022245725277693,0.18701140298933314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08441637061305221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0596155389268068,0.06691052549423769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681818335617657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636036328507105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903749086079915,0.0,0.08009101957501627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455510814770882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37271342601159385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291734651682066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10060944586129654,0.0,0.11689611106063973,0.05637215355894184,0.0,0.0,0.05130013651965345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09158723167284724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378230959487122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938562095855055,0.09822325587412226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404835414982782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05665434809709233 divorce,cartech26,2019/01/15,"37, married 13 yrs, I know it will be better in the ling run. It really sucks right now though. I guess I would just like to vent. Rant a little bit. Im sure my family is tired of hearing it. Im 37 and the father of 4 amazing kids. She is 35 and the mother of those amazing kids. We seperated about a week or two before xmas. We were seperated for a little over a year before. Her and the kids moved in with me just before xmas last year. She took them and moved out just a couple days ago. We went to counseling for a little over a year. We have grown into different people over the last 13 yrs. We just dont seem to get along. Constant bickering over everything. She is incredibly controlling and no matter how much I did, or how hard I tried, or how much I changed for her, she was never happy. She has become physical with me about 5 times over the last year. The last time she did it was first thing in the morning before school or work. We had counseling that day. While we were fighting, she did a group text with is and our counseler. It said were not coming in today. We are getting divorced. Then she acts like why am I leaving her.. I begged her to wait till after xmas. I begged her to calm down and think. She didnt. And niw everythig is my fault. For the last few days she will not even speak with me. Only text. We have thing s to discuss and ssettle and I really would like for us to be friends. Right niw though. She is so difficult. Its unbelievable. It is so incredibly frustrating.!!!!!",0.6659699502133734,3.0537277467105284,2.286692745376957,93.302119487909,87.32236842105263,5.786486486486488,18.084637268847803,7.222845823187471,0.2774026671408252,1161,30,252,19,37,378,153,304,0.075,0.83,0.095,0.7485,1,0,0,0,3,0,46.0,11,0,1,4,15,15,3,0,17,0,29,1,0,4,2,51,42,24,0,2,10,2,1,3,1,4,1,3,0,3,11,27,0,2,3,0,0,8,6,5,0,2,13,4,43,10,36,23,4,50,0,0,0,0,41,17,1,6,28,174,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380108931551991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440836872224432,0.32177510869895537,0.0,0.0,0.08361003747013628,0.10320960242726604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10000730396316768,0.08143500473411015,0.0,0.1021605986299872,0.10603095878238306,0.0,0.10460307139718407,0.0,0.1829050711929916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877074074172554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11079631994049746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062440605297850685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496349910383147,0.0,0.08912079655034395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08041287715436843,0.0,0.0,0.07303882756713033,0.0,0.09878305813713124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10414284412751604,0.0,0.0,0.10063608560095016,0.08468632317611871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065497427860716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20423173856485705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051954903417352524,0.3853001811115239,0.0,0.1001007257701472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385575836833973,0.2842518570404503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009551229995172,0.13899071863252307,0.0,0.07291253868500701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189942787298273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553985136893035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112527423683292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614676674447039,0.08992605981205573,0.0,0.0,0.0956761975018221,0.0,0.08606267015050496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909973029308645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12561197873958502,0.0605753064845515,0.1857636749927067,0.0,0.1102502315838676,0.10865604112839583,0.08960974710624199,0.0,0.10503376316540117,0.06418422047549277,0.0,0.09234862885973796,0.0,0.11371602202226867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07583164632244427,0.0,0.0,0.08763647720827293,0.08530467644814423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882385074042477,0.0,0.0,0.1343123326570658,0.0,0.0,0.24351416669406056 divorce,Newaccount_xx,2019/01/15,"What is your spouse up to? 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I recently moved bright-eyed and bushy-tailed to a brand new city to start my life anew, only to learn a few days after moving that said ex had already got re-married to the scumbag they had an affair on me with and are apparently living it up all happy. I’m not a bad looking guy, still youthful, financially stable, lost a lot of post-divorce weight and continuing to better myself health-wise, and I get a good amount of looks from women out there. I have a small subset of new friends I can hang out with every so often now. Yet, I feel such crippling loneliness that will send me into a spiral of depression when I think of the circumstances that person put me in and why I’m still so lonely after all this time and she isn’t. The idea of dating feels so out of my scope in this day and age; I attempted it, and everything just feels hopeless for me. Why is my end of the stick so short, and for being the faithful and loyal, “good” person? It feels like whenever a potentially good new girl comes along in my life, it’s the absolute wrong time, as they’re already in a relationship of their own. Always. I don’t have the mental fortitude to be friendzoned and play waiting games. And I’m stuck feeling like it’s all too late for me anyway, since I’m in my early thirties already. There’s also that feeling that I can’t trust anyone else as easily as I can before. It just really sucks, and I don’t know how I can deal with this much longer. I really feel like I wasted such a huge part of my life and I can never get that back and the after effects are continuing to reel in and settle even further. Meanwhile, the bad person has exactly what they want and aren’t suffering at all. I should be happier than this, knowing my situation and having my dignity, but I’m not.",5.688999592502036,5.680527650366753,6.433756112469437,79.28880857783213,67.11735941320293,9.359453952730238,29.511104319478413,9.075114841892004,2.27928109209454,1615,51,318,26,24,533,213,409,0.07200000000000001,0.812,0.116,0.8608,2,2,0,0,2,1,40.0,0,0,3,4,23,24,2,0,22,0,28,4,0,2,6,67,63,31,0,4,5,1,11,3,1,4,3,1,0,6,19,30,1,2,17,2,0,7,8,11,0,1,7,14,39,13,56,46,11,61,1,6,2,0,18,22,1,2,35,222,58,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28197502930077645,0.06811365286126993,0.07087162843160658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595556725256775,0.08727087430982156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549358297814352,0.1422335393866722,0.0,0.0,0.07247683876768449,0.0,0.0,0.0753295210382791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336989777766344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986042525784584,0.08781070021838304,0.07336027998729233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115198514325309,0.0,0.07543892270494926,0.0,0.0,0.05625665330083554,0.0,0.07176280627806278,0.0,0.07654893942026895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4306655624915893,0.18254506389051253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06580525573612586,0.0,0.088999845967351,0.0,0.048406372501621296,0.214319843191962,0.06812146443087493,0.0,0.0,0.08433569540521771,0.0,0.09066935450417128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053602671413362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09615112916906167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570660453725553,0.0,0.0,0.0936188550667046,0.0,0.09608003246487652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18048284023319192,0.1248352079595663,0.0,0.07521024202723832,0.0,0.14304949201654055,0.0,0.09297753139112304,0.07241192704399622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08583540401839405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810530604193188,0.06261272318586078,0.0,0.06569147417005243,0.2467848696889703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477869916674317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18447038075627328,0.0,0.0,0.22311207183363224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16314638129293493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562344026213635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109129348221496,0.0,0.08409909377561728,0.09144504862849316,0.0,0.0,0.08102002127341894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045685003034695,0.09573919501796684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060286627304254936,0.0,0.13604020441662748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054576088736451915,0.0,0.06761867754526446,0.09933134095937343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050237858411790084,0.0,0.0,0.10371904055616588,0.0,0.0,0.15371265492996072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06050519766962549,0.09312444715314937,0.0,0.10969858463256432 divorce,WhileTheGoingIsGood,2019/01/15,Why is it better to filing papers first? I’ve read a bunch of posts and comments that being the party that files divorce papers first is better. 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These last few years I have no been extremely happy. I love the girl but I just don’t want to be married anymore, she is super clingy, insecure, has major trust issues, no self confidence, I damn near play therapist every day and in general relies on me to do everything for her and all of this combined for years is exhausting and I’m done. I have a really big heart and I would’ve left a while ago but when we talked about it I could just see her falling apart and it crushed me. Do I sucked it up and we stayed together. Well I’m st the point where I dont know if I want this to continue. I’m still so young I want to be able to get out there and live my life. But again seeing her shattered is really hard for me because I don’t want anyone. To feel like that. I care more about her happiness than my own. So i dont know what to do. I’d like to separate for a while but she then just goes on a tangent about moving out of the house and stopping our business. I do know she needs therapy to help her and she refuses to go. I’m afraid if I left she would do something to stupid like hurt herself, I’m not too sure what to do, I know someone is gonna be heart broke but I wish I had a way to not care. Help! 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Trying to figure out fair alimony and how to split property? Me (M40) and possible STBX wife (F35) are thinking about breaking it off. Here's our basic stats. Lived together for 5 years first. Married for 8 now. No kids. Living in Oregon. First 1.5 years of marriage we had similar incomes (about 70K/year combined). Then I got much better work (80K/year) and She went to gradschool and I paid for it out of my pocket (60K). I have been the sole breadwinner until about 1.5 years ago when she started working part time for min wage. She could go full time if she wanted to but prefers hanging out with friends. 3 years ago we bought a house together. $400K. 90K down. 30y mortgage. $2000/mo including tax and insurance. My FIL gave us a no-interest loan of 40K to help with home buying expenses. only 3K paid back so far. I have about 90K liquid cash and about $250K in IRA/stocks/mutual funds. She has about 20K in IRA and that's about it. An interesting twist, we started polyamory 1 year ago thinking it would help our marriage but it really hasn't. She has a boyfriend that she could move in with if need be. She could go fulltime at her job and scrape by. I'd like to keep the house seeing as how she wouldn't be able to afford to keep it without me. Any ideas on how we should handle it? If we lawyer up, what kind of ball-park ruling might we end up with? &#x200B; &#x200B; thanks! &#x200B;",1.6441270020302277,4.038731982517483,2.6961764042409238,92.1645127453192,82.32167832167832,5.928084818407399,22.51251973832619,7.233258080335977,0.7979044890593276,1121,38,234,16,31,356,173,286,0.006,0.897,0.097,0.977,5,0,0,0,1,0,64.0,9,0,0,5,15,6,0,0,6,0,17,1,0,3,0,46,35,21,0,12,6,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,1,1,10,21,0,2,5,0,10,5,4,0,0,2,8,1,27,6,44,18,3,42,0,0,1,0,28,15,0,4,22,132,37,6,0.09088909193025252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24170308818650085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954348794001013,0.3313205850063504,0.06180769923233745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988810144553534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08038401578859639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177026325807571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050075813847067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15462043033031733,0.0,0.0,0.07022068696517239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330873096781598,0.0,0.07269230969318337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184208492203187,0.0,0.09116916984962906,0.0,0.0,0.20974761816887774,0.0,0.10260272173096233,0.0,0.0,0.09019339932382253,0.16157280201825105,0.0,0.09464700285506708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04440381933175653,0.0,0.16051346667953795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641896345389996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966007208510236,0.06681394040168752,0.06739311001478013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912525003229701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842402948311256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20492758962870736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05822587963872955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242683881801018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866353414364318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367846451476425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11647612033644784,0.0,0.0,0.105996320830492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0617077273039566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932838671337007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360874127563496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425509879819094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761384123595435,0.0,0.13233668281816854,0.0,0.0,0.0645650031718087,0.0,0.3313205850063504,0.4097071670100535 divorce,mamaetalia,2019/01/16,"Tips on beating the self-pity? I'm so frustrated with myself for wallowing in self-pity. I understand it is a normal phase, but fuck is it so irritating. I'm finding myself getting mad at my friends and the world in general for not catering to my needs right now, and the resulting whining in my head is so fucking detrimental. I'm working on finding a personal therapist so I can vent some of this off outside of my own head in a healthier space, but in the meantime, does anyone have any tips?",5.736116838487973,6.191544072164952,6.772731958762886,75.30006013745707,67.04123711340206,10.590378006872854,37.81615120274914,10.504223727775694,4.169922336769759,393,21,73,10,6,132,62,97,0.205,0.755,0.039,-0.9558,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,2,5,6,4,0,7,0,5,4,2,1,0,14,13,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,15,13,2,13,0,1,0,2,2,12,2,1,1,50,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391690089337662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14309602928704493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17909058276996642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3740927612134986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581120723302759,0.3783912306636431,0.10692117161128196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4200598564499046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15174537227902776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20051353599196647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869247496468446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747699707429807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.426989137971332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2376144083489328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130478538772826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14898762793415005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sincondo,2019/01/16,"How do you bounce back? My wife left me and I wanted nothing more than to make this marriage work. I just feel so emotionally drained. I hold a lot of anxiety since she left. I keep thinking I'm not going to find love again. I'm not going to have a family again. People keep telling me I'm ""Handsome"" and ""I'll find someone new"" but I've been spending a lot of days in my bed, unable to get up. I fear that I'm going to be too clingy in my next relationship and fuck it up. I tired going out but whenever I'm out, anxiety attacks me and I want to go home. I don't want to find someone new. I want my wife back and I'm struggling to move forward. For people who are getting divorced against their will, how did you move forward? When did you realize things were going to get better?",0.558299457994579,2.7144308597561,2.569430894308944,92.86892953929541,84.91463414634146,5.351761517615177,22.52574525745257,6.691623216298621,0.5423411924119241,607,22,134,7,18,203,92,164,0.157,0.778,0.065,-0.9551,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,3,1,2,10,7,2,2,3,0,10,3,0,3,0,30,36,11,0,4,5,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,5,7,0,3,6,0,1,10,3,4,0,0,4,1,21,3,20,30,3,27,0,0,0,2,13,10,1,2,11,81,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854755573208442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13276101135492244,0.0,0.17946737320116418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032100447898338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07526066311858427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126973003705952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001264539502274,0.13131788120232554,0.05900609931079862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199800297254753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788557437185252,0.18290992618771973,0.0,0.3979335435944396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11705777586900633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20745338447607586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535857984586408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19842521578575445,0.1053246513612392,0.0,0.07789693223674353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480633650347881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254156325699444,0.12410982386011835,0.0,0.0,0.11197503801140918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180762980096602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252901576257111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09653392915756734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775595535284896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199826139188473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199934109860732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07752907631743877,0.07477547295277251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341273752634461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753264083116298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495765499525376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sunflower731,2019/01/16,Hurt Everything fucking hurts... I’m getting a divorce and to be told my husband hasn’t loved me for a long time hurts even more. He’s been using me for sex and to clean up after him and do his laundry. I don’t understand how someone can wake up and just tell you they’re not in love with you anymore. ,4.01171875,4.1238142343750015,4.846875000000002,88.810625,70.71875,7.65,30.0625,7.1686216300943375,1.5208250000000003,237,9,53,2,4,77,51,64,0.146,0.7559999999999999,0.098,-0.5053,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,3,6,1,0,2,0,6,5,1,2,0,10,14,5,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,8,2,9,11,1,6,0,3,0,4,11,3,1,0,3,34,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101267925323928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13994392012879225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904229639628202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958784958468951,0.11069790508978604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6804617717614384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750603171406025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38245769936079205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795241824721105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851913717667731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1235482065665105,0.0,0.0,0.20245923131944346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205732574071564,0.0,0.1829952167279693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,NaCeste,2019/01/16,"Wanted a divorce, getting one and now what I have been wanting to divorce my husband for a long time. Long story, he’s not a bad person, but has not treated me well over the years. One of the areas that has been particularly difficult is finances. He has always made significantly more income than I do. I have just signed a lease for my own place and plan to move out shortly. I have been freaking out, I check my budget 2-3 times a day to make sure I can afford it. I strongly feel like I need someone to check my budget for me, because I have gotten so accustomed to my husband overseeing the finances and basically giving me “permission” for larger purchases or ongoing expenses. It’s been so hard to resist sending my budget to my stepfather to review. It’s driving me nuts. I woke up with panic attacks several nights in a row. Has anyone else gone through this? When will it stop? I know logically I can set a budget, I’ve worked for the insurance industry in the past, dealing with other corporations money. I just can’t seem to stop this cycle of thoughts",3.8803769274700173,5.790704650485441,5.4038435179897215,77.90257852655628,72.88349514563106,7.953854940034268,29.593375214163327,8.671277953709913,2.5236434037692743,842,36,151,16,17,284,126,206,0.139,0.794,0.066,-0.9455,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,0,3,7,10,1,1,12,0,18,0,0,2,1,27,32,8,0,3,6,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,2,5,0,11,4,3,5,1,2,9,2,24,5,26,22,2,26,0,0,0,0,10,9,0,2,13,107,33,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14119793084577226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186530903388111,0.17387023761616885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193049958440464,0.0,0.0,0.1416863271150146,0.1034431026894088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943776142532192,0.17494573571029515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14175648704744628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08580173428500484,0.12122850792741582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865743862728917,0.16278471268111416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15201133961928515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325867710465756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290328796194542,0.0,0.0,0.3003454218117755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16056734784538435,0.11327120347660267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18035649857525707,0.0,0.1258249963694141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15924511565909247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299763477445083,0.0,0.0,0.1990978361282127,0.0,0.0,0.16199089549412446,0.0,0.14816913146009975,0.1772927676186181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448187251657836,0.0,0.19170446434872515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437800848780829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837414124677071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993337357912935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347170590997861,0.1978983709275762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20017831718691415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257412807882198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12353831594568453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10927654344626428 divorce,doomteam1,2019/01/16,"Divorce Advice I am pretty sure this matters, I live in California. Should I try fighting the amount she is asking for? I don't mind it being zero. We had a house and we sold it so my spouse could go to school in the Caribbean. I went with her and for a year and a half we lived off the money we had from selling the house and from her student loans. We bought a car over there valued at $4800 USD and it would sell at $4800 if it were to be sold a year from now, its just how cars are priced over there. We flew back to the USA and I filled out paperwork to have the car switched to here name as I wasn't going to go back, our intention was to give her the car and I work in the USA to support. Anyways we got into a fight and she went to her parents house. Her family has always hated me and I believe they convinced her to file for divorce as she said she would be coming back later that day. Anyways when I went to pick her up she said not to. Fast forward 2 days and she comes to get her things while I was out. ( I am at my parents house as they were keeping us while we were back from the Caribbean.) She takes her things and 2 days later ( Today ). I get served with divorce papers. She is claiming my car is $15k ( even though KBB says $10.8k ) and wants $7.5k. She has jewlery at her moms house which i have purchased through our marriage worth about $3k. She has the car which is $4.8k, she also took all the money from our joint account which is $2.2k leaving me with no money. She has already half of our other physical property. and she left me with about $1k of credit card debt. ( She has her student loan debt which should be about $50k and i have about $5k of student load debt. Should I try fighting the amount? I don't mind it being zero. I mean I really feel as I am getting the short end of the stick. I mean her student loans were so she could go to school just like mine were so I could. I don't mind getting the credit card debt, but as for me owing her $7.5k I don't want to do if I can avoid it. She took everything of value and I have nothing. I feel as if I am being taken advantage of. Also she leaves in less than a week to go back to the Caribbean. I have 30 days to reply back to the divorce papers. Also we have one pet which is a Cat that she has at her moms that she wants to keep.",1.1491511500547666,2.7076560783132564,2.709231471339905,95.797647864184,79.58232931726906,5.491128148959475,19.952719970792266,6.11248444174946,-0.1739654618473896,1789,43,423,12,44,586,198,498,0.044,0.905,0.05,0.3771,6,1,0,0,9,0,59.0,14,0,2,2,28,12,4,1,25,0,53,0,0,3,2,68,92,36,0,14,7,5,2,1,0,5,0,3,1,0,19,33,0,3,4,0,22,21,7,5,0,5,23,5,86,7,67,55,4,61,0,0,0,0,68,19,0,3,24,304,105,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733209029215206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280024345850799,0.18001041965921796,0.0624330612145639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014527063868951,0.0,0.0,0.3461722242644564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453594749251632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926773154873078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1797220675859953,0.0,0.0,0.1935590533749396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664565353361965,0.0,0.0,0.049558266925488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743438420280781,0.0,0.07073397515904742,0.0,0.07587738569317498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15680556392826836,0.07197802312497202,0.2132135301847329,0.0,0.06001035467871131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07407907216592945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4328872274266723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13338468947366075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889719401303726,0.08152304448481261,0.0,0.0,0.036657095618988216,0.0,0.13251016657477116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346480551791925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272843450907089,0.17575434382826374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719957194801785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050843972396160064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662945149179892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07633503999196918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0480677488904686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427462035149957,0.05966886560606637,0.0,0.1518738170968442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514600612584326,0.07071725515456784,0.0,0.05641511156569051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09969653467836187,0.0,0.0737190626711065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711220486257759,0.0,0.16672776461116767,0.10188430158726644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09025487415123197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327683598750117,0.0,0.06018655571835485,0.0,0.0,0.20866767270335215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546245628075505,0.0,0.0,0.10660188832975527,0.0,0.0,0.09663695615693718 divorce,progodyssey,2019/01/16,"It's showtime! It's been almost a year since I discovered my STBX was having an affair. Our attempts at a separation agreement have been halting and delayed and messed up with some complicated asset and income situations after 30 years of marriage. After meeting with my lawyer today I feel I am FINALLY in a position to put get a separation agreement done and get through to the ""DONE"" part of this excruciating exercise. The idea of having something I can point to as ""closure"" is giving me goosebumps! It gets better but the ""getting"" part is no damn fun. 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Title says it all, I don’t want this. We got married in the summer of 2017. A few months into the marriage I began to have issues really bad with my PTSD. I was taken out of work for about a year and emotionally separated myself from my wife. I kept distant and to myself a lot. The VA calls it social anxiety and relapse of trauma, I call it a marriage killer. I would be hateful towards her and our family. We don’t have children together but she has TWO kids (23), (27). They don’t understand the divorce either and told me that I’ll always have them in my life. Never cheated, never put hands on; just emotionally separated myself. She says that she spent 8 months by herself feeling single and losing herself. She says she realized she was happy when I wasn’t around. We work together and are still amazing friends. We still live together as I don’t move out till next month. We haven’t filed yet, nor haven’t talked about it much, although she has made it very clear that we are not together and intends divorce. Anyways, this is the stopping point for now. I’ll have a part TWO of this story some other time as this is just hurting to write out. 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My STBX will always email me saying how I was such a good father and how everything would be better if we could ""move forward and become a family again."" When I ask for the kids as per the temporary order she gives a list of reasons why that cant be allowed. Has anyone else had this happen to them?",5.577972972972972,4.768510986486491,6.454729729729731,81.73587837837839,67.51351351351353,9.021621621621623,26.60810810810811,8.07648339933343,1.4913081081081083,279,6,58,3,4,93,61,74,0.046,0.861,0.092,0.5204,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,1,6,3,1,0,6,0,10,0,0,4,0,12,14,8,0,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,2,10,2,5,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,1,0,1,4,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987978543562658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670561291571653,0.2447984185565947,0.0,0.0,0.22335488641646373,0.0,0.0,0.18371221401697715,0.0,0.0,0.26386475194440945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21130242783325864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907555640206924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995842665491716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472294692202368,0.0,0.2252294252140213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291906928746305,0.0,0.2003920135387222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112732708153846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25393066825556515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456461847458599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3799923381489196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091927447886568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155851831242349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16971958653004546,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Urmomsahippogriff,2019/01/16,"What skills do I need to learn as a single woman? It’s looking like a divorce may be in my future. My husband takes care of stereotypical male stuff with the house and cars and I’d like to become more self reliant. I know how to manage my finances and am in the process of improving my credit score, saving, working on my career, so I don’t really need advice on that front. I’m hoping to own my own home some day in the near future. What things do I need to learn to do? My dad took care of all the handiwork and car stuff growing up. Feels a bit pathetic that I don’t even know how to change a tire or mow the lawn. Thank you!",2.5372180451127804,3.5929880225563906,3.969932330827071,90.28888345864664,74.78947368421052,6.823759398496243,22.32255639097745,7.1686216300943375,0.5419178947368417,489,12,110,5,10,162,83,133,0.027000000000000003,0.7829999999999999,0.19,0.9614,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,1,0,2,4,8,0,0,9,0,8,1,0,2,1,21,22,9,0,4,1,2,1,2,0,1,1,0,2,3,8,5,0,0,5,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,1,2,13,8,19,19,7,15,0,0,1,0,7,7,0,4,5,72,21,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17122013321850638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935135332568934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129170464172127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572910450379459,0.0,0.18535647073361053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130005414007858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572924946304484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08859503612880476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17575704890518346,0.17403012681938282,0.0,0.20217702127296044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925894840299429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120445998884382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14713824388570754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897638034527407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122485681518263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18278966045687492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4011633440897528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13174146161502429,0.0,0.0,0.1613163748698093,0.0,0.0,0.1164064630199902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013862938937241,0.0,0.0,0.19467265766287334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756014380949873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jwfowler2,2019/01/16,"I've reached the end of the data collection phase Five counselors over 8+ years. Books, talks, weekend programs. We're aware of why we struggle. Our symptoms are very well diagnosed. Yesterday we had, what I've decided, is our last session with counselor #5. She's great and helped us further understand what our problems are, but we're just talking in circles. New ways to say the same things over and over. But I'm just so tired. Thanks to all this therapy, we have all the tools laid out in front of us. I just don't have the energy to pick them up and start over, once again. She doesn't know how to use these tools and frankly, it feels to me like she thinks it's all BS anyway. So I'm checked out. I wish I wasn't, but I am. I've told her. I've told the counselor. I'm so tired of being tired. Emotionally, I can't risk being crushed by her saying she's going to do better then having her actions tell a different story, again. All this time I've been collecting data and all the data is in. With apologies to cancer survivors... I'm using that metaphor. It's like have a cancer in our marriage. I finally have all the info I need to weigh my options and figure out the best course of treatment. But I think it's now too late. It feels too late. Now I'm paralyzed. I know what needs to be done, but I don't want to end it. I also can't stay in this situation. It's killing me. Like, actually killing me. It's a lonely place. Sorry for the super downer post. I needed to say all that. 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It's pretty civil, all things considered. Two friends from the relationship (people that were his friends prior to us dating) and one friend (his first, became really close to me over time) have reached out. The non-close friends reached out via text, saying happy New years, they miss me, etc. One sent well wishes towards a happier future and the other asked if I wanted to hang out (in a group setting) with another woman from that friend circle. I was not a huge fan of her back then. I found her fake. I have this paranoia its more about finding out what I'm doing now that I've moved and hidden all of those people from social media. Anyone else experience this? What did you do?",5.6411818181818205,7.312821433333332,5.540181818181819,79.63009090909092,68.0,8.121212121212123,27.63636363636364,8.575989854853784,2.0474,645,21,113,10,11,201,109,150,0.07400000000000001,0.701,0.224,0.9757,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,2,1,1,2,4,10,0,0,6,0,9,0,0,0,2,21,16,8,0,3,2,1,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,1,12,12,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,2,1,4,6,1,16,8,19,10,4,26,0,1,0,0,23,10,0,1,12,81,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587797006691794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727495178182753,0.14254343424273588,0.0,0.0,0.13005710066439172,0.0,0.0,0.10697360731626727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11621572942538973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15515400057032588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360846743652122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271518695881393,0.11833420035109765,0.0,0.1525363516973409,0.6448960584867127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809432441015585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605241727664164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786104308240444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343615997235134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598155641677066,0.0,0.18854071203647674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928946252721127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415336185898189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08912293015960303,0.0,0.0,0.14936130042336973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106326854255219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11508033405963936,0.0,0.0,0.14181388140883544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242420856384176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112116774503171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13589864629092835,0.0,0.1673425328045478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205574796459854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12508431857646374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1599795111197598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958780984352614 divorce,KickKathleeenKennedy,2019/01/16,"What's your advice to single people/those not married on how to avoid getting a divorce? I often go on this sub to learn about failed relationships so i can avoid certain mistakes others have made. I am currently signle (23 years old, F) with no divorce. What should I know before entering a marriage? 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My (24F) husband (28M) and I have been together since I was 19. We've lived together since about 4 months of seeing each other. Since then we've moved to a different state together, bought a house and got married. He's never been the emotional type. He doesn't talk about his feelings, he shuts down when I try to communicate about anything and he has a hard time putting his thoughts/ feelings into words. We keep our finances separate because he's very paranoid something will happen to the money he's saved up. He's the most hardworking and money driven person I know, which has led to him putting his job before me many times. He's never been able to tell me why he loves me or why we're together, I can ask him questions like that and he just says ""I don't know how to answer that"". He doesn't make me feel good about myself. I constantly feel like I'm walking on eggshells around him. He's an extremely private person and wants me to be that way, too, but I'm actually quite the opposite. I don't feel a strong bond or connection between us. We've been in a DeadBedroom situation for a while now (not 100% dead, but very close) and things just seem to be getting more and more dull between us. Over the past 5 years, I've thought many times that I made a mistake getting married so young. In the past year, even when things between us are ""good"", I still consider divorce. I remember someone telling me once that if there's something you can't stop thinking about, there's a good reason you can't stop thinking about it... does that mean that maybe it's time to seriously consider divorce? Or are all marriages like this?",5.211507936507939,5.909792055555558,5.322821869488539,84.38055555555559,68.25925925925927,8.517107583774251,31.47795414462081,8.563005593585519,2.2767250440917106,1302,52,262,19,21,409,174,324,0.076,0.8540000000000001,0.069,-0.6349,2,0,2,0,2,0,46.0,5,2,0,3,19,12,0,0,15,0,21,1,0,5,3,54,49,20,1,3,9,1,6,3,0,1,0,1,0,2,16,13,0,3,17,0,4,6,9,3,0,0,11,8,32,9,28,35,5,39,0,1,1,1,38,10,0,7,24,148,48,4,0.09153308808250316,0.0,0.08932309016182867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0753239323673483,0.08148385453503143,0.08557108129851032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557977209156862,0.0,0.07788791622771721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891475049190736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09563259522150937,0.0,0.0,0.0801012222115941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10296240407597626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060456741409379726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314093979804197,0.06539125641531605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564452126843552,0.0,0.0,0.2303208345769623,0.07320737224630633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08094240749869196,0.0,0.08199566799116223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561689417955762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083246613469484,0.0813588143790817,0.0,0.0,0.10060838282617676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415532996673216,0.0,0.08082539374076274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261218568481604,0.08661082112114543,0.06109904706114828,0.1856003692587938,0.1839145797242218,0.09970636676611426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306083763085543,0.09728518684371323,0.0,0.0,0.14119192073023026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747975149103746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17475737951910236,0.0,0.15984632383569733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840320702629699,0.10253800698370696,0.09735670620625957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411125936310584,0.0,0.0,0.10368914548834626,0.0,0.0,0.07279078551235002,0.0,0.0,0.07294002037289103,0.08332828564794392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271513490160392,0.10288702609078654,0.0,0.0,0.07755568849620703,0.1409332862159811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309844238079707,0.1530515204346894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357082898896318,0.16000790693655315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12162103298574202,0.11730141379832243,0.0,0.14533409518470486,0.21349471900201286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062144958418317124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303091043741183,0.0,0.0,0.15104876757707192,0.053988586891597336,0.07265470480533821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16518874986670834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788861538991335 divorce,1234Whatever,2019/01/16,"Is it time? I know I'm not perfect, but... Me (28m), W(28F). Maybe I'me writing to vent, maybe I need some advice. But I know I need to do something. This is obviously a very tough time, and I kind of feel like I'm shell of who I thought I was. Almost like I don't have a spine anymore. I'm not sure whether to try to mend things or to just call it quits. Here's the background. I work 45-50 hours normally, pulling in about 3.5x of my spouse(50 min drive each way). She works 24 hours per week(5 minute drive each way), never trying to pick up more hours. Here defense is that she provides so much value at home keeping things in order and tidying up. We don't have kids, only two dogs. I don't think I'm missing anything, but it only seems like she vacuums and does the dishes at best, maybe once or twice a week. She also has said multiple times that I couldn't afford to pay someone to take care of everything she does. Mind you, I do my own laundry 99% of the time, she's maybe mowed the lawn two or three times total in 3 years. She stays at home 5 days a week, but has almost no hobbies, doesn't pursue any sort of self-development or continued education. It seems like the only time we are having a conversation that she is okay with is if we are talking about emotions or religion. I don't even feel like I can talk to her about work or any of my own interests anymore. Also just to be fair, I never suppress her from talking about anything, work or whatnot, it's just that she doesn't seem to be interested She regularly says that I live a ""much more comfortable lifestyle"" than her due to buying lunch when I forget to pack it or don't have time, maybe once a week, and also spending some side money on entrepreneurial ventures(maybe $250/month at most). We also drive very comparable vehicles. I feel as if whatever I say during disagreements is just dismissed and put to the side, and due to her anger and grudge-holding, as a subconscious self-defense I started to lie(white lies, to avoid further disagreements or anger). Eventually, she caught me in a lie about nothing terrible, just not 100% the truth and was understandably upset. She has said before ""there's other guys out there that I'm sure would treat me better"", ""my grandmother, mother, father told me not to marry you"", ""you don't treat me like Jesus treated the church."" So I did the dumb thing and moved out after she had asked me to. So still I'm paying the mortgage, the utilities, cable, everything including for the dogs food. A few days ago she called and asked about the idea of seeing other people(sex strictly prohibited), but wanted to see if there's other guys who'd treat here better or whatever her reasons were. I love her, but I don't feel like I'm living the best life I possibly could. What on earth should I do? 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First off, this wasn't addressed in the decree. She is a SAHM and wanted to stay that way until he was in school. We divorced in October 2018. My ex doesn't work and has claimed to be disabled pretty much since we met, even though she carries our son around no problem. She got a crappy settlement in the divorce with almost no alimony and has no job so she has no income other than child support and the proceeds from selling our house, which is about $45,000. I know she has/had credit debt to pay from that including attorney fees. Now she is saying if I don't pay for half of our son's preschool ($6500 in a lump sum, supposedly will start later in 2019) she will move to a less expensive town 40 miles away and a one hour drive from me so she can have a more affordable life to afford the Montessori-type preschool she desires. This is after she got me to agree to an extra $7000 when the house sold to help her out financially (Which at first she said would help her ""survive"" but now she says it was to help her get a two bedroom instead of a one bedroom). Would you pay that? Bear in mind that with her lack of income she should qualify for free preK immediately at a public school. She just wants him in Montessori. Oh and there are cheaper living options close to me because I just moved a bit closer to the North edge of town myself to move in with my girlfriend. She just likes this other town (far to the South) better she says. I said no already because it felt wrong to pay her even more money over the decree but if she moves farther, I'm already wondering if I will need to cut down my custody schedule because the drive will be so tough on my son. My current plan is to gut it out but I would have to drive 1.25 hours in the morning with him in the car just to drop him off for school every Friday morning and also Monday mornings 2-3 times a month. My girlfriend thinks she may be bluffing. I'd love your thoughts. I am not a wealthy man but I have a professional job. Doing this would put me into credit debt, which I want to avoid. I could probably swing paying half of the payments on a monthly basis, but with preK being free in the school district, I feel like it shouldn't be necessary. 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Follow on from my first rant a few months back. Kath left with the kids a few days ago. It's bittersweet, but I’m happy that she’s relocated back to our home city. She’s got a great job, and the kids are going to a great school.  I’ve lawyered up, as I was concerned about losing my legal rights with the kids, but it looks like I’m in great shape.  My lawyer says 50-50 is definitely reasonable.  She also said that if we end up in the family court, something has gone very wrong (we live in Australia, BTW.)  I still want to think that it will all go smoothly, but I'm not completely sure, but at least my lawyer says I’m in good shape.  I’ll travel down or the kids will come up on alternate weekends. It hasn’t been the easiest few months cohabitating with my STBXW.  It’s either been OK, or the tension is overpowering.  We’ve had a few serious arguments. I’ve done my best to keep everything calm, mainly for the kids, and also in the hope that we may be friends in future, but it has been hard work. We got through Christmas and New Year's ok, so I was thankful for that. I didn’t want the last Christmas as a family to be really weird, so the kids had a great time. I’m just amazed about how quickly it’s all gone pear shaped.  6 months ago, they were just old friends catching up, and now they are in a full-on relationship. At least by BS radar was working. I’ve tried my best to be civil and not judge her, but living with someone who’s in the midst of a trashy affair is not pleasant at all. Apparently, there are ‘six types of affairs’ based on an article that she wanted me to read!  The sad thing about all of this is, she’s absolutely spiraling.  Ralph keeps on delaying telling his wife about the affair, and Kath is too stoic, so she won’t say how the delay has affected her.  On the Thursday night before she left, she came in to my room in tears three times, because she’s so upset that she can’t be with him, or he’s not going to tell his wife. I mean, really?  If he had the courage, he’d just do it already.  I don’t want to be with her anymore, and the thought of holding her hand or hugging her repulses me, but I still have empathy for her.  Her actions have hurt me beyond belief, but I still don’t like seeing her emotions being pulled apart by Ralph. I don’t miss her, but I miss the friend that I used to have.  I miss not having that one person who cared so much for me that I could tell them anything.  And that they could tell me anything.  But I guess I have to adjust to the new normal.  So far, so good.  I’m looking forward to having a lot of space between us.  I’ve not called her since she’s left.  She’s called me about stuff for her business, and how to do a few things, but I’ve no interest at this stage to hear about her day.  I’ve been facetiming the kids in the evening, and texting them throughout the day, and that has been great. I really miss them so much.   I've spent the last few days cleaning up our house, and throwing out boxes of rubbish.  I found a few things that I bought her over the years that Kath never really used and left behind (shoes, handbags and a GHD), so I’ve given then to some ladies that I work with. My work colleagues have been great.  I’ve been speaking to my friends.  My therapist has been awesome.  I was asking the question we all ask - ‘how did I miss all these red flags?’, and I’m confident that I’ve pieced it all together.  It all stems from attachment theory.   It’s really helped put my mind at ease. I can see that towards the end I was being gas lighted.  I made mistakes, but it just wasn’t me.  It takes two people to break a marriage, and two people to fix it.  At least I can say that I tried to undo my mistakes, but Kath had other ideas ... I’m driving down on the weekend, to see the kids, and to help set up their stuff when the removalist arrives.  I don’t want kudos from her, I want the kids to see me helping, so I can be the role model to them that I’ve always wanted to be. It’s going to be tough, and I’ll have to bite my tongue, but I am looking forward to it.  It might also help to offset any of the negative things that she has said about me to the kids and Ralph, which I know that she has.  It’ll be interesting when her (previously our) friends in Brisbane find out about the affair.  They won’t judge her directly, but they will think a little less of her.  That’s on her, now. I know that I’m not the first in this situation and I’m not going to be the last, but if you are going through this, just stay strong and reach out.  You’ll get there! 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We don't talk, we do not go out together, intimicy has been absent for 4.5 years. Our house is paid off in May. I do not want the kids to lose the house. I feel they should continue to grow up where they were born. I broke this marriage 8 years ago (depression, anxiety, ptsd). I have tried to fix it numerous times, but again we share no common interests anymore and just do our own things. What can I expect moving forward with a divorce? I'm not angry with her, but as these last 4 years have rolled by I have fallen out of love with her. We're not even friends anymore. I don't want to be separated from my kids, but I do not think our current relationship is healthy for them. Just looking for some advice/reality check.",3.671402714932128,5.110169705882356,4.641764705882356,85.07486425339367,72.52941176470588,8.289592760180996,27.19457013574661,8.841846274778883,1.9485203619909508,670,24,139,13,13,218,109,170,0.119,0.78,0.101,-0.0372,1,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,8,0,3,1,5,7,0,0,4,0,22,1,0,0,0,30,31,6,0,4,11,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,3,6,10,0,0,2,0,2,5,8,3,0,0,4,2,22,4,22,23,2,26,0,3,1,1,24,9,0,3,14,94,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288933947465635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233134730987071,0.0,0.4795853629654888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883672379050754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10646755215573607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08150486306225348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453859385736825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09161063957051656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.371993988675159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313951616337639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536291583751556,0.1803355916769187,0.0,0.0,0.14548447341114715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17132441251053918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259580205091113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18172275833471235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18842793053471046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17306273859154928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956216114069155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21418113796379745,0.10328702887695553,0.0,0.0,0.09399390208779294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944059251912812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19015357284221196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4152163022681802 divorce,Charmolipi,2019/01/16,"STBX and I work together - divorce papers have been served but the harassment continues at work. Can I get a VPO? So my STBX and I work together and they have filed for divorce (the separation came out of the blue not too long ago and I was served with papers 1 week-2 weeks ago). Since the divorce papers have been served, my STBX consistently tries to bait me into saying something via text or email to use against me. When I don’t take the bait, my STBX gets frustrated and will approach me in person at work. During these encounters, I repeatedly say “not at work, wait until we are on personal time.” My STBX does not respect that and will continue to harass me (knows all the right buttons to push) and try to corner me into saying something I shouldn’t. The problem is, everything in emails/texts are very vague so I have no written proof. The harassment is happening in person and I am in fear of losing my career over this. In addition, enduring this harassment at work has had a negative effect on my performance. Am I able to get a VPO to prevent my STBX from having any interactions with me while I am at work, unless we are in group settings (like a meeting) so I can protect my job? I would also like this to extend to outside of work to limit any interaction at all and direct everything through our attorneys - but also still have they parameters in place to prevent my STBX from being within a certain distance of me when outside of work to prevent the harassment all together. I feel the situation is rather complex so I’m not sure if I would qualify/what to do here. Any suggestions or advice would be extremely helpful. Thank you! 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Own a home together. Four days ago I found messages on her phone from a guy she has been talking to since the first of the year. (A banner popped up while I was looking for a phone number I needed) I confronted her about it and she just stood there like a deer in the headlights. She left that night and to stay with her mother. She is a recovering addict that has been struggling to stay clean, and currently is out on bond and has two active felony warrants on her. I love her and don’t want to hurt her but I need to protect my kids and myself. We argued the next day (Sunday) and she called my sister that lives in another state. My sister offered for me to come stay with her while my wife figured it out. I left because I feared she would call the law on me she has done it in the past. I spent a weekend in jail then she recanted her story. I have found out she is going to talk to a lawyer on Thursday and has no interest in trying to make this work. I fear for my kids safety and well-being they have not been to school all week because she doesn’t care to send them. What do I need to do to protect myself from being arrested on trumped up charges, and how do I start the process of getting custody of my girls? Thank you in advance please pardon my rambling I haven’t slept good since Saturday.",2.0595454545454537,3.79596952797203,3.1058657342657376,93.17095244755244,77.4965034965035,5.974601398601399,22.62881118881119,6.742157984588678,0.4443414265734269,1079,32,238,10,25,345,156,286,0.101,0.76,0.139,0.8834,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,1,2,4,4,13,2,3,15,0,24,3,1,2,1,33,44,16,0,5,3,4,0,1,0,1,1,0,2,5,8,18,0,2,3,1,1,4,5,7,0,4,12,1,48,6,42,30,2,45,0,2,1,1,43,19,0,0,19,163,56,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12416898588346957,0.0,0.0,0.10096643197494932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341176886809692,0.0,0.0,0.119435209993592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388660781618532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326114681482219,0.0,0.11612973866428522,0.0,0.0,0.0981156919680215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691354316369507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331206938651107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563407550340721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968841975376669,0.0,0.24977330282661814,0.0,0.0,0.05950861141033515,0.0,0.06473260666180572,0.0955348190206464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277997329861815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425206671830945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193345821824975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475077059104074,0.0,0.0,0.05564631264282864,0.0,0.10057673736914216,0.0,0.09564821759333124,0.0,0.12433648003112972,0.0,0.10280016859258592,0.0,0.07602985306182035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2533686151073697,0.0,0.0,0.12113508710375467,0.1068884444833703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873146575435656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502917821427184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527397036950565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1884402951074892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061976823655817,0.3642101777854625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907413579821753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18309874168967308,0.0,0.10486480820649298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07733135432290635,0.0,0.2225296026556484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718180603169499,0.0,0.09136457321140712,0.0,0.1024107467990691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292134029277147,0.0,0.0,0.08091205680846025,0.0,0.0,0.0733485589127625 divorce,Isntitrich,2019/01/16,"The worst case scenario finally happened I’ve been fighting for my marriage for about a year now. I’m not a psychiatrist so I won’t even begin to try to diagnose what is wrong with my soon to be exDH. He has had numerous childhood traumas which have resulted in him being incredibly cold, distrustful, suspicious and a million different other adjectives. When he’s well, he is funny, thoughtful, loving. But when he’s down, he’s emotionally abusive. Unsurprisingly, living with him has caused me to suffer from anxiety and depression. I’ve acknowledged it and have sought help but it is used against me any time I raise an issue with him. I don’t want a divorce. This is breaking me but I have to be strong for my two amazing children. It’s not fair, I have done nothing wrong and I have actually physically and emotionally drained myself bending over backwards to make his life easier and relieve all stresses for him. Divorce isn’t the answer. Him seeking help for his issues and finding the man I fell in love with is but he does not have enough insight to realise the degree of fault that lies with him, the fact that he will not be happy either in the marriage or otherwise. If that is something that is never going to happen, I have to do what is right for my mental health and that of my children. I can’t live like this any longer so I have to agree to a divorce",4.391509740259739,6.233680715909093,5.269675324675326,79.6727272727273,71.38636363636364,8.05887445887446,30.75324675324676,8.704169506293173,2.5861474025974034,1095,48,199,20,21,357,146,264,0.155,0.6970000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.1863,1,0,1,0,5,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,9,18,2,1,12,0,31,5,0,4,3,37,42,18,0,2,11,0,0,1,0,2,3,0,0,3,14,13,0,0,5,0,0,2,9,10,1,2,4,1,27,8,32,32,4,21,0,2,0,2,28,8,0,2,11,149,41,0,0.0,0.16244068735639902,0.13378949867485956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18646495057899176,0.0,0.10488087042597502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14083912442681504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808374277629345,0.13915327664922014,0.0,0.14323997242461242,0.0,0.0,0.11997684298110385,0.1403005599029219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084373457910195,0.0,0.14166060564189215,0.0,0.09055303740636894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15018598443441392,0.1253066123809786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791690053807092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424735664914101,0.1459451454767859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457305355480006,0.0,0.0,0.18379003445853384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861928666438789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968375497172895,0.06697997239866953,0.0,0.2421230364776578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24747560540464114,0.0,0.0915150926934224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138164218715673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573971554955487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155082862338918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170823669973512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554602217229532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15704720597985386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884182186206573,0.07994391868121792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308167481547444,0.0,0.13392645384638166,0.0,0.0,0.11841009377402102,0.0,0.0,0.0808649360574588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326906614562155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997939284234428,0.0,0.08828769092020261 divorce,candy14325,2019/01/16,"I'm not happy anymore and feel like dying inside We've been married for 15 years and we have 4 beautiful children, I'm 34 and he's 45, last year I told him how I felt and that I wanted to get divorce well he didn't took it well, he said he will kill himself without me and the children, I agree to live together for the children but I'm so unhappy, I want to be me again, I feel so bad because he's a good men and a good father but I don't feel love for him, in the first years of marriage he was very abusive and I can't forget everything he did to me, even now that he has changed completely, now he tries to please me on everything but even when he tries to touch me makes me sick, I don't know what to do anymore, I don't have any family here and I haven't worked since we got married because he wanted me to be with the kids, thinking of how the kids could take a divorce makes me even more scared.",2.4852066715010857,3.1684999898477173,3.9141007976794775,92.06315989847721,74.48223350253807,7.049891225525744,25.74655547498187,7.1686216300943375,0.9075398114575774,706,23,167,7,14,234,102,197,0.168,0.72,0.112,-0.9637,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,0,0,2,14,10,1,1,8,0,17,2,0,4,0,31,38,16,2,4,5,1,5,1,0,1,1,1,0,6,4,11,0,0,6,0,0,1,8,3,2,1,9,6,24,7,17,25,1,12,0,0,0,1,29,2,0,0,10,98,28,1,0.0,0.15820945417360954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080396830901877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648488111236461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149073157889557,0.16279548535789307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125546240913994,0.0,0.14000210629032794,0.0,0.0,0.10661165299888926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858151594758414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.264582972190798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400136365685929,0.0,0.12587879912877292,0.0,0.20254808606354516,0.09539279697803138,0.12820831336771313,0.0,0.0,0.11357928567170522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06976313730289392,0.0,0.0,0.2239947644077263,0.10679495059145844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214358595091695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772951668495204,0.0,0.07338377914220377,0.1088435606048904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06523528708363037,0.0,0.11790812408944848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205146970550833,0.0,0.17826263972778358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657421035227472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701619439778328,0.0,0.13368533660610118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1104561665061677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039682459012113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08555968003299097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759221722688152,0.14835509204372807,0.1813141917309366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11017500816735017,0.2362757312279451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401163401703755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871672237976833,0.0,0.09721034840312076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579639550543313 divorce,Hondo_Bogart,2019/01/16,"After 20 years - packing my things to move out This might say more about me than others in general but spent the day packing my things up in our marital home which will be sold in a week, moving into a rental close to the kids school. 20 years together with my stbx wife. Amicable split (though still living in the same house until it sold). Financial plan all with the court, parenting plan all done (50-50 split for kids). Most of the equity in the house is going to her and my super (pension) is looking very threadbare. My wife is taking all of the household furniture and things. But that is ok, I understand that assets in a marriage should be split equally. The only things that are mine (apart from my clothes and the kids stuff) as I look at the packing boxes are: PlayStation 4, TV, telescope, Echo Plus, mountain bike and 10 boxes of books. Everything else, the candles, the cushions, the throws, the vases, the soaps, the linen, the endless miles and miles of bric a brac and clutter, that is my wife's. And you know what? I can't wait. The kids are happy, I'll have my work, my car, my kids half the time, my hobbies, and be renting a nice low maintenance townhouse. My life is now entering its third phase after single life and married life. At mid 40's I am not really into dating and will leave it a year until I start thinking about that. After years of feeling dead inside I finally feel optimistic. Bring it on I say! Anyway, just my positive thoughts on this day. Best wishes to everyone that is going through similar and may you all get to a place where you get to experience the best of yourselves. :-)",4.8352932551319645,6.093039080645162,5.055131964809386,83.91724340175955,69.48387096774194,8.087976539589443,27.96187683284457,8.438071523408619,1.9027741935483864,1265,43,243,19,22,398,178,310,0.03,0.8340000000000001,0.136,0.9894,3,0,0,0,0,0,53.0,1,3,0,6,8,7,0,0,27,1,22,3,0,0,4,40,42,18,1,2,4,4,2,0,0,5,3,2,2,5,20,18,0,1,6,3,4,8,2,1,0,2,5,6,27,6,41,29,11,48,0,1,2,0,17,22,0,3,18,170,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25470206452111105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652350392838013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418483366548945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137370213107433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11595666773838866,0.109063006009128,0.11870516419689894,0.0,0.0,0.12271804465394814,0.0,0.0,0.1329347616914753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268024195901337,0.0,0.13793383775155282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12918104979667194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172556340760893,0.0,0.0,0.2800469395204717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06669167352307008,0.0,0.0,0.1284938376048512,0.0,0.0,0.25714270162291875,0.0,0.0,0.10715569856729762,0.0,0.20380958541760885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873488558645005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579551221222368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09229337088131252,0.0,0.0,0.13474660652859555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678660842200482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774095141611972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930073485532416,0.0,0.12281431218269095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08589329709528347,0.0,0.09691155582388812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891856509308256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09124131145307238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.322482480985203,0.07775721438986129,0.11922734477571467,0.09633962653564557,0.0707611021001186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633131003436435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001277906505734,0.0,0.0,0.09734094506206432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954836739841806,0.0,0.0,0.08834542039872018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3125858433985385 divorce,AmericanCat13,2019/01/16,"Did it help you move on after given a chance to fix your divorce? STBX (no kids/debt) cheated on me multiple times throughout our 4 year marriage and total of 8 years together. Attempted to kiss a guy while I was on tour in Korea. Emotionally cheated on me less than a year after marriage and then again this past July with a different shit bag. I felt something was off in July when she kept distancing from me. So asked what was wrong and for us to spend time with each other even if it was a stroll around the neighborhood at 2am (shiftworkers) She told me the next day with about the cheating,not attracted to me/feel like roommates, I don't know who i am, i want a divorce. Couple days later I found out she flew to see this guy in Dallas and I told her to leave the house. We've been separated since August. I've worked on myself, exercised, tried to move on. Ended up regressing back to survival state depressed and not eating much back after I moved out of our old place in November. I ended up calling her on Christmas day to wish her and our cat a Merry Christmas/Happy New Years. Two days later, I get a message about cutting all ties from me because she is dating someone. Tells me to move on and blocks me. I've always tried my best to support and love her as she did as well however we failed to communicate. My issues were small and less severe than hers. Only if I knew before she already decided to give up on me. Throughout this divorce I was never was even given a chance to work it out after pleading for marriage counseling or anything. The cheating doesn't hurt me as much as not given a chance to do anything about it. 8 years of memories and dropped instantly like I was a nobody.. I only get you are so sweet and nobody is gonna love me as you do from her and that I should find someone else who will love me better than she could. &#x200B;",3.6338737486095667,5.174973965053766,4.543403781979979,85.33596774193548,72.79032258064517,7.174045235446793,26.268446421950326,7.753152298057669,1.460955209492028,1473,50,289,19,29,477,195,372,0.078,0.773,0.149,0.9789,3,0,1,0,3,0,38.0,5,4,0,7,13,21,5,0,16,0,22,7,1,0,3,41,45,25,0,6,5,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,0,2,12,21,1,2,6,1,1,5,6,9,1,1,21,3,51,12,63,20,8,63,0,3,1,4,43,24,1,3,34,203,63,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09972233300414704,0.0,0.07519265959679132,0.0979127062915841,0.10980590779922476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14872883367576806,0.08044587070479707,0.08448103224240762,0.0,0.0,0.13897343124836442,0.0,0.055086940449974295,0.0,0.07689573933480576,0.0,0.09483468771628972,0.07992234915960501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227490445094304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215076962499306,0.09998946835012357,0.0,0.23311719350554444,0.0,0.0778330438157357,0.0,0.0,0.09441437735430484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09246809515733778,0.0754901096095966,0.10165081528132774,0.16007684205467362,0.0,0.0,0.11937322382218447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04569231687930138,0.06455826849169465,0.08676657965240595,0.0,0.08259388483583988,0.0,0.0,0.0990828519169846,0.0,0.0,0.09442615148102618,0.08668834886512783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895525690037994,0.0,0.09619744967017686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057115682726525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427149110573987,0.09673984086883083,0.0,0.0,0.094319765809947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04966339039087666,0.0,0.0,0.09568570231760877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882975929439972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24467948575202386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3841836696106101,0.13286042059795314,0.0,0.06969667220849816,0.08727710044586125,0.09610642740136173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482506154174636,0.0,0.0,0.1374564909360995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086265614444263,0.0,0.0,0.09441437735430484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201087235754433,0.0,0.0,0.1020890918486892,0.09276052119967727,0.07475259222675602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313548738677088,0.06956900226202957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1025475049612552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898482138955062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538755597042332,0.0,0.0,0.17269925776640402,0.0,0.12270664706283957,0.0,0.08827551790985608,0.0,0.108700484919066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05330085211848856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125086824706547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391769590426804,0.0,0.0,0.13157663830373126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880222890156344,0.10980590779922476,0.2909672218300413 divorce,zThrowawayNomDePlume,2019/01/16,"One year of divorce today A rant more than anything, maybe it'll help, maybe it'll be a list of things not to do, idk. It's been a long road to get here. I'm not even sure how I got through some of it. I would say on the whole I'm better now then I was before, different and not fully whole but better. My stages started with prolonged numbness, followed by extreme anxiety, and small glimmers of hope that have helped me work to where I am. I've been constantly learning through this experience and fixed many of the negative aspects that contributed to going down this road I would've never wanted. Life is different and really not terrible. Somehow we've fostered a good relationship as co-parents to our children. We actually get along. There's sadness in the fact it'll never be the same and there's also some solace that there isn't sadness/unhappiness that existed in my relationship. Sadly I did this lately on my own initially and it's not what I'd hope but forced me to be a new life of self sufficient and forced me to evaluate so much of my life and trim the far sort of speak, keep the good and minimize the bad. I'm happy, I'm sad, I'm better, I'm not whole. I'm fortunate I had it good in so many ways and I'm grateful for that. I hardly cry now but understand and accept that there's a healthy thing to being ok with emotions, I don't care if I'm moved to cry. I'm vulnerable and I'm ok in saying I'm not fully healed or where I need to be, but I clutch to those happy moments and I'm working to bring lasting happiness to my life. I keep telling myself that tomorrow will be better than today and usually it is, if it isn't... Well I'll survive until the next day. I didn't do it way most would or I'd recommend but let anyone to tell you it's wrong, it's just different and you just got keep on your journey. You got to crawl before you walk, you got to walk before you run, but you should never stop going. One way or another you'll get to where you need to be.",2.266242236024844,3.8964238091787458,4.043915804002761,87.13769565217393,76.6086956521739,7.3401242236024835,24.630503795721197,8.146662555663855,1.3869883505866107,1563,53,334,27,35,527,188,414,0.132,0.7,0.168,0.9556,5,0,0,0,1,0,40.0,2,10,0,7,19,25,0,0,14,2,31,6,0,1,5,66,66,33,0,10,20,0,1,0,0,8,6,3,0,2,26,19,0,4,3,0,0,9,15,7,1,2,10,4,34,18,45,40,10,50,0,3,0,0,24,15,0,12,22,215,60,3,0.0,0.0,0.07505475199006771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06150628118611544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806486529856782,0.05883726149131,0.0,0.0,0.05377846858475233,0.0,0.06329179893469353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421808037098703,0.0,0.0,0.19633864742823204,0.0,0.0,0.272088693409676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841663271120741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831142547003162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896784367558598,0.049601701885654124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410691581598763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086515342093773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05079947104816731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523442829999953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12054961057670972,0.0,0.08742141503843746,0.19352972547188707,0.2460533399745337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24562189423853936,0.06889780138805067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031046202516592,0.0,0.0,0.15278140020588574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050880334871384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06269332368532378,0.08675977935278242,0.0,0.0,0.07864745292658486,0.2173001124705693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680644591108279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15595284107106144,0.15453633706078232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08174499513657232,0.056538969741376476,0.11405814370459345,0.17795719853975633,0.07428182628077044,0.08179649539482339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423475492377167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04927162246781679,0.0,0.0,0.16514882516953405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122326586415532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023570624856143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443851702228199,0.0,0.0,0.06430164858334331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724883935354637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344484807882846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021934692472336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580665040137994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08006782140547929,0.0,0.0,0.08470740251155888,0.0,0.04536452995638394,0.18314684949423848,0.0,0.0,0.06915288030259592,0.0,0.0,0.25760759329268496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111985308163947,0.0,0.0,0.1639076548428164,0.08409090088838858,0.0,0.04952863125599508 divorce,Kvam2017,2019/01/16,"Any advise on how to proceed with a divorce in Texas? We live in Texas, a community property state. We've been married under 2 years and bought our house a year ago. Things have been pretty rocky the last couple weeks but today he went through the entire bank account at the casino, including his car payment, after promising me he would only spend 40. I'm tired of the lies an gambling, etc. I tried to have s calm conversation with him about it and he wouldn't get off his phone or even look at me. He won't touch me or acknowledge my feelings. I told him I want a divorce and asked him to leave but he refuses. Out of the 11 mortgage payments he maybe helped with 4. He is unemployed currently so he would not be able to make the payments. I also have 3 children from a previous relationship so it makes sense that we keep the house. Do I need to pay to file an order to vacate? How long would that take? I'm slightly concerned for my safety due to his previous actions and threats. I don't have a lot of money so I'm not entirely sure how to proceed.",2.528784284655302,4.472050507042255,3.795250803063997,87.81969607116385,76.79342723004694,6.737731653076353,25.764516926118112,7.669130373188453,1.3673342723004691,830,31,170,12,19,271,133,213,0.083,0.852,0.065,-0.5731,4,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,0,9,4,1,0,15,0,15,1,0,5,1,33,31,15,0,6,6,0,2,0,0,5,1,0,0,1,5,10,0,2,2,1,8,3,5,1,0,0,5,3,20,3,28,20,2,25,0,0,1,0,28,8,0,3,12,103,25,3,0.16183186974804595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14345418815536545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1294168877692682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005122087994704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15129095251782598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17906388578485594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804853130918879,0.10688842369587054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08182705584823283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08455047257925083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10847249102270698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3734644994529917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384360155732365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13191457325658515,0.0,0.17135658338584267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14290050588482167,0.1432161121750676,0.13589801219046158,0.0,0.0,0.13758366849736114,0.0,0.0,0.21604805940376776,0.0,0.16258186484361714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199962808540002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12308042936673133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16464119114113832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374686422284366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15252462203602368,0.0,0.12167742582584175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10751390333859884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18600192784562394,0.15339769001729234,0.15463728669667715,0.0,0.10987321663599876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545262969656282,0.0,0.1298117643639792,0.0,0.0,0.1500197645805624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3448821512575086,0.0,0.0,0.20842883650294744 divorce,uspeoples,2019/01/16,"Unable to pay temporary family law order I live in Washington state and filed for divorce in 10/18. Recently a temporary family law order (TFO) mandated I pay the following: * Spousal Support - 1500 * Existing house mortgage - 1800 * car payment - 423 * car insurance - 100 My bills: * Rent - 1200 * Truck payment - 290 * Truck insurance - 210 * Utilities - 120 * Phone - 55 * Internet - 45 * Lawyer - ~1300 I bring home 5500 per month. My total bills after the TFO is $7000+ and that's without my food or gas added in. I'm hoping we can negotiate a settlement and have the agreement signed by the end of January or beginning of February as I've exhausted all funding sources. I'm afraid I'll have to file for bankruptcy February/March time if I can't finish this divorce. What would happen if I only paid Spousal Support in February and filed bankruptcy while not paying the car payment/insurance and mortgage? We've been married for 30 years and our children are all adults. Also, is there a table where known agreements are posted? For instance, what would be the typical spousal support for a spouse if she's hardly worked but in the marriage for 30 years and I net $85,000 per year? Thanks in advance for your help.",2.8418894662257905,5.867994552511419,3.6811998110533786,82.12068493150687,85.21004566210046,7.586899700834515,28.5562903479767,8.433251757073789,2.916872020154307,953,46,161,25,29,303,139,219,0.02,0.889,0.091,0.9311,3,0,0,0,2,0,46.0,2,1,0,2,3,9,0,1,11,0,12,2,0,0,3,26,24,16,0,6,8,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,4,8,1,0,1,0,8,6,3,2,0,0,2,1,13,7,21,19,3,28,0,0,0,0,12,7,0,6,11,82,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389180959298347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829117879323414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31567172450392184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024541462713056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14805569404730845,0.0,0.1499822640375551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122232064487778,0.0,0.16794355704510033,0.16629340736612186,0.0,0.1931889976354884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14784165849192207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13363913129577734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273362518404365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160349381528168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16531457905629454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5699846472914192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541448606130847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09762839336657028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613942538669582,0.0,0.12188930356988913,0.0,0.0,0.2378715592384185,0.0,0.0,0.3234536995723513 divorce,Winyamo,2019/01/17,"How long were you single again before dating seriously? Ive started dating again after divorcing last October. Ive mentioned the divorce in passing which is often met with wide eyes. Apparently 3 months is too soon? It seems the only people who are cool with it are women who are also recently divorced/separated. Im 33 with no kids. Honestly, I feel like the world is passing me by. I have friends and get out and stay busy, but part of me really misses the special bond one experiences in a relationship. People encourage me to stay single for a while and ""focus on me"", but I feel like the longer I take to get back out there, the more difficult it will be.",4.9847681539807525,6.270036173228347,6.3590026246719145,74.605135608049,69.15748031496064,9.423972003499562,29.071741032370948,9.725611199111238,2.8328029746281715,522,19,94,12,9,177,87,127,0.07,0.784,0.145,0.8758,1,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,1,0,0,9,10,0,0,8,1,12,1,1,1,0,15,21,8,0,0,2,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,2,6,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,1,2,4,11,7,14,17,4,24,0,1,1,0,12,7,0,2,15,70,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16000088204939966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538462643667286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17025012818796334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19571293624560127,0.0,0.0,0.2023290984182005,0.2858689852359355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545783924217238,0.0,0.20906313578630425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611665247387365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630888243414843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19549427117088405,0.0,0.0,0.17706115999752844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969893116419906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355768257028952,0.15216698223191402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21666305060093966,0.0,0.27741532008729136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12817395073847093,0.0,0.19755113135776495,0.21480698545722304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18214187771783288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161497936559747,0.4265092622650355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043241877632402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,palestinianchicken_,2019/01/17,"Hardest decision of my life... I made the wrong choice High school sweethearts who got engaged at 20 years old. A few weeks before the wedding, she cheated on me with a friend. Said she got drunk with the guy, got anxious about the wedding, and then had sex with him. She asked for forgiveness. I had to make the hardest decision of my life: forgive and try again, or call off the wedding. I chose to give her another chance. We got married, but things never recovered. I later found out she tolerated the marriage because I was financially supporting her while she was going to school to earn a masters degree. Our plan was to get her through school while I work full-time, and then I would go to school while she worked and supported me. Right before I started school, she says she never wanted to get married, been wanting to leave this whole time, and does not have it in her to financially support a man. Basically revealing that she waited until she could get all the financial benefits from me, and then leave me. We divorced. I am currently in school full-time and working every weekend, on my own, while she has the house we bought and a great paying job. This has been a horrible experience. I became severely depressed, and drinking a lot. One morning, after drinking all night, I found a note on the kitchen bar of my apartment: it was a suicide note that I wrote while drunk. Never thought this would happen, that someone would betray you like that. I took a chance, hoping that going through with the marriage would make things better and it would work out. Or, at least, that's what she manipulated me into thinking. Just curious if anyone has experienced something similar, or know of someone that has gone through a similar experience. Just looking for any advice moving forward, thanks. 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In the interest of not repeating mistakes of the past, I’ve been sole searching. The red flags were there for me. I chose to ignore them and I settled. I’m not talking about a little red flag the size of a postage stamp. I mean several giant red flags the size of a football fields and the flags waved around in 20mph winds. I ignored them because I didn’t have enough confidence in myself to think that any other person in the world would want me. I didn’t know my own worth. Can anyone else relate? P.S. I know my worth now and I am happier than I’ve ever been.",1.8660123329907528,4.104069892086333,2.798689619732788,92.68124100719429,80.29496402877697,5.6980472764645445,21.439362795477905,6.868970318607317,0.4549132579650563,541,16,113,6,14,171,84,139,0.051,0.802,0.146,0.9036,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,5,2,0,7,6,0,0,11,0,11,0,0,0,1,20,20,5,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,3,6,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,6,5,20,2,15,13,2,16,0,0,5,0,9,9,0,0,7,73,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15725906984304816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616965489394556,0.2369446704298905,0.0,0.205863020111017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17781826476192933,0.0,0.14096887547307274,0.0,0.1967781440419996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1931811019831072,0.0,0.0,0.2389447990893011,0.0,0.0,0.2091803806232336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3812696206248658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317749316495145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519008692445271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22075589170258764,0.0,0.2019200439536964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18427764575701247,0.0,0.0,0.2612485710482705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858713377535151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963534732814228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13639823020709052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16427455591001633,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Pseudoburbia,2019/01/17,"Strung Along Unintentionally She left 2 months ago after I found her texting someone out of country, haven't had much contact since. Separation papers are in the works. She tells me she misses me and would like to get back together at some point, but we're too close to the mess we were in to do it now. She said she can't talk to me without crying. I don't doubt she's a mess, but I don't believe that she wants to even consider coming back. I feel like a backup, or like she doesn't want to just slam home the fact that she left and I need to just fucking deal. I told her we'd just go back to no contact until/if she's ready. I have no intention of waiting around, but I miss her and this has fucked with me a lot. &#x200B; What am I dealing with here?",4.0264375,4.14218876875,4.810000000000001,89.075,70.6875,7.65,26.0,7.1686216300943375,0.9019499999999998,593,16,137,5,10,192,99,160,0.172,0.738,0.09,-0.9133,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,11,10,2,1,6,0,14,2,0,1,1,31,29,7,0,4,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,1,0,5,11,0,1,2,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,5,2,28,3,20,22,3,18,0,2,0,2,23,9,2,4,10,94,33,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345294671464186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312019641141828,0.1829339819696433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13402087151769354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34728955402926764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696176032984631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968496515086606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1653714308399282,0.0,0.3104196119286676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943644933146242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612229286818357,0.10755251116219486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16506963067255356,0.0,0.2783609621550903,0.07865584028537491,0.0,0.08556068525508738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15101330881514402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32714469593735906,0.0,0.0,0.22065247580004246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279917039500987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201670832703468,0.0,0.1106711208589306,0.11163046182674413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231783126490882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432069411791454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453600751243032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12756000587757932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210058934453209,0.13158679875741225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385638960417202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17759585646773465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145124235362334,0.0,0.10960174575985328,0.0,0.0,0.1069459640656668,0.0,0.1829339819696433,0.0 divorce,StevieVCNH,2019/01/17,"What Do You Mean Love Yourself Divorced 1 year. Went straight into an intense relationship that I can't tell if it is good or bad.. I can't stend being away from my new love. Or maybe I just can't stand being alone. I keep reading posts here and keep seeing the advice ""don't get into something until you love yourself"".. I've never done that, always been insecure and shy and low self worth.. what do you guys mean? How do you learn to do that? Are there guides?",1.502903225806449,3.8417057956989282,2.374634408602152,94.60195161290324,82.44086021505377,4.580215053763442,18.97741935483871,5.6839178017228535,-0.321007741935484,361,9,76,2,10,113,64,93,0.068,0.7240000000000001,0.208,0.9335,0,1,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,4,0,0,4,7,0,1,2,0,14,3,0,1,1,16,24,8,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,2,3,1,1,1,5,3,0,0,3,1,9,4,6,19,0,12,0,1,1,3,12,5,0,3,4,48,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17140261334130075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816654908058004,0.0,0.0,0.14595005550501372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16479769214078024,0.0,0.14645488912528984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949903869037134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164127272317353,0.0,0.0,0.1471204284042422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17367738963870213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118140045271172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4749264717851526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17621674440684806,0.3821324307079027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528226334714105,0.1694061324961257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679884033434098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1754513179696716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883180931261792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977415979041316,0.0,0.18298447095642728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503445410787046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533106971834048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260112735511129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129543293293654 divorce,bongo711,2019/01/17,"Question about Alimony Awards I live in Nevada. I know each case is different, but I was wondering, when monthly alimony payments are awarded, are they usually a fixed amount, or a percentage of the paying spouse’s income? Thanks for your time.",7.2055038759689936,8.936148465116283,7.013953488372092,70.30527131782948,64.34883720930233,11.314728682170546,37.58914728682171,11.20814326018867,4.956417054263566,196,10,30,6,3,62,38,43,0.0,0.7829999999999999,0.217,0.8555,2,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,1,2,2,3,0,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,7,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,3,4,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,4,20,5,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3779404553612696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19880239540929007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3194223271300203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887367657368639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40523067434797577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3330408397363481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.210933027410666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984046054094207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3922907146423809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,klyncakes,2019/01/17,"Too expensive to divorce? My (33f) husband (39m) is controlling. I make 85% of the income in my house and my husband makes 100% of the financial decisions. If I tell him I don’t agree and would like to discuss it he yells at me and tells me I don’t know what I’m doing. Just for reference, I have a child from a previous marriage and we have no children together. He has a pretty solid relationship with my child. I told him I want a divorce. We’ve only been married 6 months, and the control issues have been getting increasingly worse. After I told him, he told me to go ahead but that he would financially ruin me. What all is a spouse actually entitled to? We have about 30k in savings, and I have roughly 40k in ira contributions though part are a company match. I also will receive a bonus in a month that will be about 40k. I made about 7k from selling my house in the last year as well. I feel like he only married me because of my earnings potential. I’m also worried that it will be hard for me to pay for a lawyer because he will know immediately and we will fight. Is there any point where it makes more sense to stay in a crappy marriage rather than paying to get rid of your spouse? I’m sorry for all the complaining, I’m just having a really hard time accepting what my life has become. Thank you for your help. 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I met her through a mutual friend. &#x200B;",1.4254761904761892,3.478415357142861,3.087142857142858,81.24119047619047,109.71428571428572,7.580952380952381,26.095238095238088,7.793537801064563,3.1131238095238083,61,3,10,2,3,20,12,14,0.132,0.62,0.248,0.3597,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,8,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4527020168773671,0.5076905522121383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228025751075573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4187600599486079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5076905522121383,0.0 divorce,donttextspeaktome,2019/01/17,"South Asian Mother-in-law wants all the jewelry back. Is this normal? I was married for 19 years. Separated for a year and now divorced for seven months. My mother-in-law gifted me a lot of jewelry during the course of the marriage. A lot of them were heirlooms and I returned all of those after the divorce, including the engagement ring. However, she has now sent me a list of every single piece of jewelry she ever gave me, things I had thought were gifts, for example when the new bride cooks for the family for the first time, she is given a simple pair of earrings. When she went abroad, she brought me a chain from Singapore as a present. I never asked for anything from them. I have maintained a very good relationship (or so I thought) with my in-laws. They miss my son on the weekends he is with me so I take him over to their place in another town for the day. I help my father-in-law with computer related stuff, groceries or things that need to be fixed around the house while I am there. They seemed welcoming. I think I am just surprised that a nearly 20 year relationship has come down to a list of “small bead earrings” which.. I don’t even know where they could be. And I don’t know how to react. Is this normal? Do mother in laws of Western cultures do this? 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We haven’t treated each other fairly and such. My (41m) wife (44f) told me this morning that after two weeks of wanting an amicable divorce that she was getting a lawyer and going to make it hell. I went to my lawyer this afternoon and started the paperwork. He told me that there was no way I could remove her from the house even though it’s solely in my name and was bought years before her and I met. He said the best bet is to file a protective order so she can’t have me removed from the house. He stated that even if denied it would cast doubt on hers if filed. I feel bad in doing so but at the same time we have became very toxic towards each other. She is trying to instigate things. Trying to get a reaction from me. I’d never saw her as a greedy person until recently. All the house related bills have been paid by me. She now believes she’s entitled to some equity value of the house. There’s a very thin line between love and hate and we are toeing very tightly. 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So... the on-going post-divorce saga rages on. My daughter's ex stored a bunch of his property at my house before he filed for divorce and accused my daughter of child abuse (as has been discussed in previous posts). I'm currently gathering all his property together to eventually take to him so she can get her property back. My daughter informed me that via Talking Parents he is ""holding me responsible"" for his property, even though he volunteered to leave it (some of it I've had for years). There are items on the list that I don't have as well as things he failed to list that I no longer wish to store for him. I would go back to the lawyer who did the divorce, but we weren't pleased with her inability to deal with this man. Should I seek legal advice and if so what kind of lawyer should I look for? 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Please be easy on me. I am really hurting though I don’t think I have the right to be. I had my husband of 18 years move out 8 months ago. We have four minor children in the house, I am 38 years old. I love him so much still. He was the love of my life since I was 17. But I had weight loss surgery and gained a ton of confidence and had an early mid life crisis. I started seeing someone over the summer, learned how to ride a motorcycle, and did all kinds of activities I wasn’t able to do in the past. My husband caught the guy and I together last week. He was at my house and my husband still comes in whenever he wants. I didn’t think it was all that big of deal, but he was devastated and hurt. He gave me a whole lot of grief over it and I felt awful. I would see him daily and he would look just awful. So two days ago I find out he went out on a date and then last night she was at his house when the kids FaceTimed him. He had just gotten out of the shower 🤮. I put two and two together. I went to the lawyer today and told him I’m ready to file for divorce. Why on earth am I so jealous?? I know the girl a little bit, and she’s nice. But now I’m feeling hurt. Especially since he has been guilting me for over a week on a daily basis. I’m also starting to suspect he may have had something with her in the past. He brought her to my 30th birthday party and I had never even met her prior. I’m a social butterfly so I didn’t think anything of it back then. But since then, I had discovered two major affairs over the years (found out about one with my sister 2 months after that 30th birthday party). And then another with a co worker a few years later. And no, I never left. Our baby was 5 weeks old when I discovered the first one. Anyway, I hate this feeling. I’m mad and sad and jealous. But why!?!? 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Everything is amicable, she’s a little greedy with money and seems to always be a little bit in the red after receiving $1210/mo in child support. I make $56k/yr. My primary goal is the welfare of my two little boys, who are in her care. I see them every other weekend. She is also a stay at home, non income earner, using her mother’s house as the residence while her mom stays in the guest house. The agreement states that I claim them on taxes this year, her for every year thereafter. I get a text this week asking to file jointly. I was the only earner between us for the entirety of 2017. Does anyone have experience with this? I plan on bringing it up when I go to the FA at the end of the month, but I’m wondering if I’m just giving half of my return away if I were to commit to going with it. 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Been told I can ""fuck bitches left and right."" Dont have friends, or a family. But living life alone. I really dont know what to say. More importantly what to do. This started cuz of me. Told her to pack her things and go. Because she didnt even know if she loved me or wasnt sure if she wants to be with someone else. I have the mentality of ""never finding love"" because thats how its been my whole life. With her moving out, I wasnt prepared to go inside my room. Once I did I bursted into tears. I saw how lifeless I've been alone. And realizingmy fear, growing up alone. At this point of course I'm shattered, broken, and destroyed. I always been that ""asshole"" type of guy that doesnt care about words or how people feel about me. But her telling me she wants someone else better for me was the most painful things I have ever heard. My mind isnt stable and my emotions are clueless. Dont want to work, dont want to do anything at all really. Came here because I have no one to tell my emotions. I'm drain, and alone. I fear loneliness.",1.0394750367107228,3.217600779735683,2.445886563876652,94.3731176578561,83.05286343612335,5.1930249632892815,21.793135095447873,6.42735559955562,0.26559632892804697,855,28,189,8,24,276,123,227,0.242,0.688,0.07,-0.9879,0,4,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,2,9,13,3,2,3,0,24,6,0,4,4,38,47,17,0,6,7,0,1,0,2,0,3,2,1,1,10,11,0,0,5,0,0,5,12,6,0,1,14,4,30,7,24,32,4,20,0,0,1,3,21,10,2,6,5,120,40,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3946975147492748,0.0,0.0,0.07927499594148063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07840178648588983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742331101473627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426146832997049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896724407841428,0.09713745221731226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466382690991175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15917719003459938,0.2143392190697116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292709876715784,0.0861801306032666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.089815163385745,0.21441784102739755,0.04817302984875449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707804618513226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14721578992484327,0.08807860636729374,0.0,0.0,0.1082919940893148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433551985365354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707909892224056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035146906934476,0.0,0.13458866162783936,0.0,0.0,0.08412804620710669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17197569854972894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601305142522863,0.0,0.09619884712847697,0.0,0.0,0.10126041229449974,0.0,0.0,0.07348062212576895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146292715873736,0.0645596359836045,0.0,0.10137748053352333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605049199322048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900640387357535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206899754962225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08136285521678974,0.0,0.07576513127391275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16144947134708024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06743491352794961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08979393299496365,0.0,0.0,0.07657704855147705,0.16654608119121228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659065931181931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207539182604754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477858120879396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636920773530667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936007798803186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,frdestes,2019/01/17,"Recently decided on divorce In my 20s with 2 kids, recently decided to get a divorce. My kids are very young and I have extreme anxiety about letting my spouse have them alone. I have zero trust for them after having been sexually abused. Has anyone regretted getting a divorce because of having to share custody? 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It's my fault, I think. He says he still loves me and wanted to make it work but I closed my heart to him. I had to. It hurt too much to let him close anymore but maybe I was too sensitive. Maybe I let depression and anxiety get in the way. Could I have a relationship with someone after 3 abortions? We're married but our relationship is so shit and toxic and occassionally violent at times that we couldn't bring another child into it. 3 times. What kind of shit people are we? He says he's changed and we could be better now. I've heard that before and I felt stupid for believing him. So why do I believe him again now? Why am I doubting my decision to end it? Even if he has changed and become a more loving, caring, empathetic person... I'm so angry. I'm so angry that we couldn't be better earlier. We've been together about 10 years. Isn't that enough time? I'm so angry that it cost me 3. I say me because it doesnt seem to hurt him like it hurts me. He keeps telling me about how I need to move on from it and let it go but I cant. I'm a terrible person. I cant forgive myself and I shut him out because I cant let that ever happen again. I dont even think hes a terrible person. I do think he cares about me but I cant let him close to me again, emotionally or physically. I cant be his wife so what's the point of staying together. I feel like it's my fault. What if I had been less angry and resentful earlier and we had fixed our relationship? Was I even angry and resentful the whole time? Didnt I try to make it better at all? It wasnt enough then. He wasnt either. I'm so afraid of losing time with our kid. She's my light. I would do anything to be with her. Anything. Except this it seems. I can't let it go. His presence gnaws at me, a reminder of what we are. That we werent good enough to keep them. What kind of person just let's that go, like it's nothing? Maybe some and that's ok but I'm just not that person. It means something to me and I dont want to. I loved them and I want to remember. We've been to therapy but it hasn't made a difference with this. I dont forgive myself and I don't forgive us for being what we are when we're together. How can anyone fuck up like this over and over again? Someone has to hit the brakes, right? We dont deserve another chance, do we? I've accepted that it happened. It's in the past but does that mean I can have a future with him? I dont think I can love him again. Honestly, I'm afraid to. Am I wrong for shutting him out? 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Or stay until you can reduce debt even if there's no guarantee it will happen while married. 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Does anyone else miss feeling loved. I don’t wanna be loved by him. He cheated and was emotionally manipulative but I miss feeling loved and feeling that someone cares. I miss being someone’s priority. I realize this is a dumb question and everyone probably feels like this. It’s just so hard and these feeling hit me at the most random times. I was fine all day and today when I got home from work I sat in my car and started thinking about how my life has changed and how much I miss feeling loved and I just started crying. I know it eventually gets better and I will eventually meet someone else. ,1.960717948717949,4.5760608153846185,3.5838461538461566,84.8044871794872,83.15384615384616,5.9282051282051285,27.128205128205124,7.3011,1.6439128205128206,526,24,100,8,15,174,83,130,0.13699999999999998,0.609,0.254,0.9524,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,0,0,0,2,7,14,2,0,3,0,8,5,0,3,1,30,32,15,0,1,3,0,7,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,6,10,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,4,7,15,8,6,24,3,13,0,4,0,4,10,2,1,3,9,58,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168195586100944,0.1343476466154429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11596473568298304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368529168263255,0.0,0.1387072763195304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440288538653853,0.08456137116929457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11474374926016925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190673997851129,0.14749203508168207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529051003952854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3977884162841449,0.09367195309587197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850464114981875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10486841689926414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174575132392448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152376850459696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07205996821111553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926137348478146,0.0640584713466452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4733626608099881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093170167043816,0.0,0.09638807992620156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2511528909716081,0.0,0.1413692333955899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468840928780855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332919359582692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18561442324859212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08401622123307552,0.0,0.0,0.07645696229461356,0.0,0.12428616171241348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545671669683352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,imbackagain324,2019/01/17,"Regret/anger/sadness I’m not real sure where to begin. I’ve come a long way since the divorce, but I still find myself looking back and wishing I had been different and that I would not have been who I was. I’ve changed for the better and have moved on. Sometimes I find myself thinking about her, but then random shit pops up that leaves me perplexed like she has said things like “ oh I know I’m a good lay” ... like why should you be telling me these things at all? It felt like jealousy.. because of where I am in my relationship and she I guess is still struggling with tinder, I’m not sure. It’s small things like that when she tells me I’m not just focused on our daughter she also mentions my present gf. Either way I guess stuff like this normal it leaves me perplexed most of the time. We don’t really communicate it’s mutual we had a good conversation and a few hugs on Christmas Day also when she mentioned being a good lay so that was the only issue there. It gets better but never goes away is my understanding and sometimes you’ll just feel down. I wanted the marriage to work not only for my child but because I genuinely loved her even though I was a straight up ass and a fuck up. I think some days it could have been different and I miss my daughter a lot ... life is funny sometimes ",1.918505747126435,4.252339931034484,2.8282758620689665,92.00264367816094,80.72413793103449,5.2459770114942526,21.9272030651341,6.42735559955562,0.3551363984674327,1026,32,211,9,27,324,145,261,0.111,0.6940000000000001,0.195,0.9784,2,1,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,2,0,3,16,19,2,1,13,0,23,6,2,0,4,49,45,19,0,6,12,2,2,6,1,3,1,1,0,1,17,12,0,0,8,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,10,4,37,15,18,29,6,31,0,1,1,4,27,14,3,6,19,147,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621045315969299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522484206437523,0.07793449730922769,0.0,0.12356816619428855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792776662294491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1072184429221176,0.08730696720073848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809224311537448,0.0,0.0,0.1307290978339889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21178543184190324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06694295526270502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051247317057578984,0.0,0.09731514445184146,0.0,0.1852703164245484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09369957174514527,0.05295296073799264,0.0,0.0,0.25503123333673994,0.0,0.0,0.2233043617083304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057866020676353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05570117007282935,0.0,0.0,0.21463720202680128,0.0,0.0,0.07158889358269653,0.2970968677059077,0.0,0.0,0.08969455679796394,0.08511131735127342,0.0,0.0,0.08616702395484489,0.09147538755032712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10772260890647646,0.0,0.0,0.07816997916656462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09930479846798017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15416763372346254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536234182460495,0.0649295740787629,0.0,0.0,0.1088156056244139,0.0,0.0,0.0964102793404054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403779376964742,0.08384056787577482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30072326969561136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618818892316917,0.0,0.0,0.10595656474582668,0.11602537785839925,0.0,0.0,0.19104873280703066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17717465258673198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200405729042487,0.12988631396754122,0.09957918669392284,0.0,0.05909997417078022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551244876638588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059780852767233925,0.16089919965994726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145566593929563,0.0,0.11655139142903813,0.0,0.0,0.07378647178620372,0.0,0.0,0.07199853711700809,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TwixsterTheTrickster,2019/01/17,"I hope I'm not breaking any rules since I'm the child posting here but my parents have been arguing over the past few years and I don't know what to do I'm so sorry if there's another subreddit to turn to for this, but I'm just so confused and upset that i can't do anything My parents have been married for around 15 years and they've been having problems ever since my mother put her foot down and took her ring off two years ago. She's done, she doesn't live in the same house anymore and I'm scared of change. My dad went to different methods to cope like smoking and doing other things and they just haven't been able to talk anything out. My mom is tired of waiting for him and I know that they're going to separate eventually. This post is all over the place and I'm sorry if I'm breaking any subreddit rules but my mom just came and told me that we were taking the ""scenic route"" to school tomorrow and I just know what that means. If I could get any form of advice to help myself cope with the stress or the change I'd really like to have some.",3.2866891891891896,4.261892657657659,4.013141891891895,91.00322635135136,72.87387387387388,7.171621621621622,23.78490990990991,7.413659706084162,0.7602153153153148,838,22,187,9,16,267,121,222,0.135,0.813,0.052000000000000005,-0.9636,3,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,1,0,1,0,10,9,1,4,7,0,20,2,1,0,2,41,41,20,0,6,12,6,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,10,16,0,1,4,0,0,5,5,6,0,1,10,1,21,3,24,30,5,24,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,7,9,116,31,1,0.1176603428528625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11497632528618287,0.10429879472021084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24003920365507025,0.12337712847550768,0.0,0.0,0.11668744383277845,0.0,0.0,0.19364887371394496,0.10474265058033408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1345720871506871,0.0,0.0,0.2489380830672426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09394220965877596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229300155538257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040738153697887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10643051629216868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06147267288905758,0.0,0.06686908432694685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07886524764069137,0.0,0.0,0.11686326890801825,0.0,0.13576423827217834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939891420444078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496580052885386,0.0,0.10389623837648722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281666066782332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756047430033339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26129577315060665,0.0,0.11232011079835888,0.0,0.0,0.1229300155538257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253721682604516,0.0,0.0,0.11258505773379493,0.0,0.11828114257188603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537622849681154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779852920848374,0.11907854855300558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194659702952644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2634222416592583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477952520515182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08846593481501289,0.0945709266905572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07816830361018433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13523325557371407,0.0,0.11242949981913017,0.13072497019499454,0.0,0.1279806660059293,0.11493705825075635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10907231661313624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273082094541159 divorce,webby_web,2019/01/18,Lost the will Really can’t imagine a life beyond this right now. If it wasn’t for the 8 year old son I don’t think I could do this. She ripped my world apart. Wish I had something positive to add to this subreddit. Sorry but this sucks. ,0.16366666666666774,2.404171100000003,1.8200000000000005,96.85666666666668,88.0,5.7333333333333325,16.333333333333336,7.1686216300943375,-0.0952666666666664,185,4,43,3,6,60,40,50,0.128,0.784,0.08800000000000001,-0.2263,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,3,0,7,1,0,0,0,7,11,2,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,4,6,0,7,0,1,0,0,2,4,1,1,3,27,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728583889303225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24138708995490846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3730588853438294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358607588761422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189328561249413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2918513731195457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630947109139611,0.0,0.3825594944415099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189786556582049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3929939380157026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200748454735128 divorce,baker555,2019/01/18,"STBXW influencing kids against me I was just wondering if anyone else had this happen, and if so, how they dealt with it. I have zero doubts that my STBXW is telling my kids (F12M, F10 and M13) either lies or her skewed feelings about me and is working on blaming the divorce (and everything else) on me. My STBX knows that im dating (as she is - in fact her BF goes places with the ex and kids all the time) and she's already bad mouthing my GF to the kids also. Any ideas or suggestions on how to deal with this?",5.173142857142857,4.795929504761904,5.282619047619047,88.35821428571433,68.23809523809524,8.523809523809524,28.92857142857143,7.793537801064563,1.4675714285714283,398,12,90,4,6,125,70,105,0.109,0.8909999999999999,0.0,-0.8934,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,1,4,0,6,1,1,3,2,25,10,15,0,2,6,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,9,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,14,0,12,8,2,7,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,6,2,59,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684345219575593,0.19452845760780052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16541963436641316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008738529721118,0.2492403190906666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031051769704767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25078202911439823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064115003152426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21861912394078956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229954702134628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21510685299293048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27460178787652884,0.2627537956704748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13368488338326606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541464633601129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21261288352254568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14184213984454044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637963105592143,0.17709028128321053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,albi_seeinya,2019/01/18,The last staw I feel like a fight about the cable bill may end my relationship. Does anyone else have any so called small things finally push over the marriage?,6.323,7.51006996666667,5.206666666666667,84.45000000000002,66.0,8.666666666666668,25.0,8.841846274778883,1.495000000000001,129,3,25,2,2,38,28,30,0.084,0.836,0.08,-0.0258,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,1,2,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,4,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21772715574915816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22387090124708975,0.3280528697906596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.326930233029224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28018366665614186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267461660057182,0.0,0.2835763395633724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188800079372484,0.2287301177664589,0.0,0.3507315141291375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260981973733412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15641930386634803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.343743670130133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21270728475551573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,FigFirth,2019/01/18,Is a 730 evaluation worth it? I am curious what others have experienced with 730 evaluations and if they think it was worth it? 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Ex-wife remarried and now has my two younger kids calling their step-dad ""dad"". I completely hate it and want it to stop. Am I out of line?",0.5221428571428568,2.9273831190476187,1.3595238095238111,96.00214285714287,98.76190476190477,5.257142857142857,22.66666666666667,6.868970318607317,0.8691523809523822,169,7,36,3,7,52,33,42,0.149,0.8190000000000001,0.031,-0.7089,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,4,0,3,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,5,15,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633197645579445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6066491191989886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114546591874078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375806037547925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2932785647577563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371050535288853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3006337269092443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2483498008105127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901778414483172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520969099148262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,myperuvian,2019/01/18,"Visiting old vacation spots I’ve happened to go to a couple places this year we visited when we were married. I’m now a year out from the divorce. Should you find yourself in this situation, be prepared from some nostalgia and wistfulness. Also be prepared to say Thank God I don’t have to share a hotel room or bed with that person any more. It gets better! 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Cool. But hey, I’m sleeping diagonal in my bed tonight and nobody will fight with me because my feet are cold. Happy weekend. 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So XW and I are on good terms. We are not at war, kids are doing good, its peaceful right now. Except that she does some things like I'm still her BFF - forwarding pics of dogs (not our dogs, but [random dog pictures](https://www.instagram.com/p/BsrRa5vHinu/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet)) on Instagram is one such thing. Sharing [weird news stories](https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6606291/Animals-bad-hair-days-hilarious-gallery.html) is another. Fairly harmless, but more the stuff that you do with your SO / spouse. She has a BF that she should be sharing this with. &#x200B; My issue is that my GF is not really OK with it. It rubs her the wrong way that XW is doing those kind of things - to her it's kind of crossing the line of what Ex's should be doing. And I tend to agree with her. &#x200B; So the problem is that I don't want to start a war. Our co-parenting is working well right now. But I do need this stuff to stop. I'm looking for any advice on how to break this to her and get it to stop without pissing her off and the drama that would ensue. Looking for any suggestions on how to move this forward...",4.529594398841142,6.866086899082575,3.9865717044905855,86.91673346209564,72.21100917431194,6.974794785127957,24.31772090777402,7.85451343220497,1.1631706422018353,936,28,180,13,19,279,124,218,0.081,0.763,0.157,0.937,1,0,0,0,0,0,69.0,3,3,0,1,11,16,3,0,8,1,23,1,1,3,0,32,32,13,2,6,8,3,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,1,23,10,0,2,0,1,0,4,5,6,1,1,0,3,21,10,27,27,3,22,0,0,2,0,24,10,1,2,10,126,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839452587054492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28472587553170925,0.31931078632003546,0.17870183081559798,0.13777573665233306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10970664731477492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498183132875778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864678158690593,0.0,0.0,0.22041038094583787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13713888073018785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736486376532281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419138641580725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22067200516683289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1396486674685398,0.0,0.09742533934750676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903446996782644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12572418775655264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417293817374248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244157228871483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09299977752061646,0.0,0.10492964451929628,0.2196988213331428,0.0,0.0,0.30082430373602176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618725791197433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749827556000895,0.1042926784700035,0.0,0.0,0.1181369889341202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266569863310868,0.0,0.09565478005730747,0.0,0.0,0.0933369500622064,0.1436562842247778,0.31931078632003546,0.0 divorce,MisterSiSeeSea,2019/01/18,"Court hearing is next week. I am not required to attend but feel I should. Thoughts? My court hearing is next week. My STBXW is the petitioner and has to be there. She said it was optional that I attend. It is an uncontested divorce, all property has been divided in the divorce papers equitably and neither has any arguments to bring forward. I don't have to attend but feel like I should. We are not fighting or anything, so there shouldn't be any arguing while in court. We're civil towards each other. In fact, we still reside in the same house and will until it sells. So I just think I should be there and I asked her if she was OK with that and said it was up to me if I wanted to be there. Any pros/cons to attending?",2.075861056751471,4.196823376712331,3.4291976516634044,89.0513698630137,78.93150684931506,6.637181996086106,24.127201565557733,7.7094869923839395,1.1953009784735813,567,20,118,9,14,185,82,146,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.9458,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,2,0,0,1,8,4,2,0,4,1,24,0,0,0,2,31,35,14,0,7,8,0,2,1,0,5,0,4,0,0,7,9,0,1,4,0,1,6,5,2,0,0,7,6,17,2,15,19,4,19,0,0,0,0,14,7,0,4,9,92,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.395252792801356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15943282803974818,0.0,0.18112224177709896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19592314737400493,0.13840903696479678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4367217253392129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22355179288436933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465235895585188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120927767590583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3685852538652212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472229114691052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414179363154282,0.0,0.15380918837914856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11427381470232795,0.0,0.3108156486472532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,carrot5639,2019/01/18,"My heart won’t let me ask for a divorce My husband (36M) and I (30F) have been married for almost 6 years, no kiddos. I’m pretty darn certain it’s time to get a divorce. There are just behaviors that go on that aren’t in a normal relationship and any of them alone would probably be grounds for a divorce. But...I’m nervous about telling him I want a divorce. He has brought up (multiple times) divorce in the past as a real possibility but we always found a way to (generally) talk through the issues and get back to the status quo. I have a very, very caring heart and I still care for him. I don’t want to be malicious or put him in a bad spot. I also don’t want him to not find another relationship (if he wants one) and be alone. He says he’s not very attractive on the dating market anymore. Of course I’m nervous about going to live life on my own again, since it’s been 6 years, and to be out on the dating scene again after so long. But that is a little less daunting than actually telling him I agree with his divorce thoughts and taking that dive. I’d like him to come to that conclusion again and then I don’t contest it. I guess so that I don’t have to file and be the “bad guy.” Did any of y’all feel this way? How did you do it? 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She tells me that it was a one time thing and I believed this. 1 month goes by trying to work through the betrayal and I start to get that gut feeling and look through text messages on her phone to find that it was a complete affair. Texts, pictures, plans to meet and so on and so forth. After this I find myself more angry than I have ever been but I still give her another chance. 2 months go by and things are getting better but she is changing. She is wanting to go out more with her friends without me and leaving me at home with the kids. Fast forward we start to fight constantly every time we see each other she is defensive with every word that comes out of my mouth and blames it all on me. We tell each other we need to be separated for awhile to straighten shit out with ourselves. The next day I catch her talking on snap chat with other guys about things that a married woman should not be talking about. I ask her what a seperation means to her and she tells me when we are seperated that means we can do whatever we want. She has always been the love of my life and I keep giving her chances and have always wanted it to work but I am the only one trying to save the marriage. She blames me for giving up but she tells me that she has been mentally checked out for a long time. I don't trust her, she doesn't respect my feelings, and she doesn't want to say she is done. I think she is fucking with my head wanting me to say it is over so she doesn't have to feel the guilt and can blame the failure on me. I can't make a clear decision. On one hand I keep the woman that I have been with for 12 years and have grown with and become who I am. Then on the other the kids are broken.",3.4116687344913146,4.21232118010753,4.010430107526884,91.79333746898264,72.41397849462365,6.905872622001656,24.79156327543425,6.8449194561589275,0.6890203473945404,1397,39,314,11,26,442,172,372,0.124,0.779,0.097,-0.897,0,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,7,0,0,4,8,14,7,1,17,0,38,8,5,1,3,70,69,24,0,7,6,1,4,0,1,1,1,2,1,5,25,37,0,4,10,1,1,7,7,8,0,3,8,8,61,6,55,57,5,41,0,0,2,2,59,17,2,0,19,231,86,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15849360892059886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998668076558075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903597609950767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10518442701011456,0.0,0.10730218205675368,0.0,0.08423150357790066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075064952098063,0.0820403040134695,0.09985669157487548,0.10291994943903493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06142152953868914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09746296546916304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08614948354360748,0.16048659251926467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14446769620155395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26114123943615364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07358171879475392,0.0880472841786972,0.09951730398261924,0.2740869122733154,0.1623802255356801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09430197260459867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774309380278444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553287654325776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16930629700167887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084476572409393,0.0,0.0973887320279634,0.06727039985260948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08428386581267168,0.07997710348168285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595727059358099,0.0,0.06357303438601979,0.0,0.0,0.2074872387644128,0.0,0.0,0.0959789076185938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15203834974150546,0.0,0.0,0.07061880314943303,0.0,0.0,0.10128817494279292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19361003257310014,0.07243385004217108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15147637591567542,0.0,0.0,0.07589346555015876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977618683068895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13482186514626804,0.0,0.07605830229050978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309963300875865,0.3329737093782221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1898184624138518,0.06102555744827143,0.0,0.0,0.16660456789242334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932259236356067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280873307850215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918073762444056,0.0,0.1386708248266867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06133104655791642 divorce,Haimblah,2019/01/18,"My STBXW is in an abusive relationship Yesterday I had to meet my STBXW for some paperwork and discovered that the guy she left me for is abusing her (at least psychologically). Question: Should I do anything about it even when I don't have proof of it? 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Please don't do it - those posts will be removed. 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My spouse left me last week, and they took our dog. They claim that I physically abused the dog, which is not true. I love the dog, but I can't take care of him in my living situation. My spouse said I will never see the dog again. Is it possible to get visitation rights to see the dog? We're from California.",1.60257142857143,3.7518975428571433,3.312857142857143,89.12214285714286,80.71428571428572,7.428571428571428,18.57142857142857,8.418075326091056,0.6709999999999998,268,6,62,6,7,89,50,70,0.142,0.858,0.0,-0.8317,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,5,0,5,1,0,0,2,5,13,2,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,2,3,12,3,5,10,0,11,0,0,2,1,10,4,0,0,4,36,16,0,0.0,0.2752356444003521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368437231497823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136633775300112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18935421842137248,0.0,0.0,0.25239291524433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051237625672141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20965839542857131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17916286382203125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618815673727461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3967631663332165,0.22096899516505472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702235331783109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611131592972317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174659503480042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543287495348441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25809209425576923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863357821370476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,What_is_the_truth,2019/01/19,"Letting go The ex moved out four months ago. Found out from the phone records that the she is in a new relationship and from my son who has to watch her make out with him. I want to let go. I want to not care. She was awful. I am so happy that she left. Yet the realization that the chance of reconciliation are zero changed everything. Something died and the pain has been difficult. I want it to be over. But still need to sort out our finances and come to a separation agreement. There is something to release. To purge How did you let go? What did it for you?",0.8621744627054362,3.3244421769911514,2.1773261694058164,93.82834070796459,87.4070796460177,5.352465233881164,20.460809102402024,6.868970318607317,0.2729499367888746,438,14,98,6,14,140,76,113,0.124,0.7709999999999999,0.105,-0.648,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,1,2,0,0,5,5,0,0,8,1,14,1,0,2,0,19,25,6,1,4,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,7,9,0,0,1,0,1,5,1,2,0,2,5,1,13,3,19,16,0,17,0,0,1,0,13,7,0,1,5,73,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15309826866856788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17609082130233647,0.0,0.18270580031871494,0.14877561062323694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792472046655932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522190366576755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893691768362816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29446767046649913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838545369389829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18765148235808726,0.5298274396778521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11528622576044192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785662177231822,0.1835649253643256,0.0,0.12806334260187674,0.0,0.16680578271947255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837771467257832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854274485893788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659234052471525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792757721106835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3056090421824144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,awesomeroy,2019/01/19,"How often does a marriage result in a divorce because of the person youve become since being married? (separated october 1 2018) I guess im a bit of a pushover and maybe tended to put my wife on a pedestal and her needs first. Does that make her a princess or am I at fault for being young and not making it a point to be true to myself/love myself? is it common for people to become someone completely different after getting married and having kids? or how common is it for someone to stay with their significant other, but develop vices or bad habits due to the marriage/love they have for said person? Hell, what about living situations? How does someone who was never close to their family, because of abuse, start to live with a family who is very close while S.O. is pregnant? What about social media? My soon to be ex wife was a ugly duckling- but now snap chat, instagram, facebook, whatsapp, not only has she become a beautiful woman, but shes a beautiful woman with a low self esteem of a teenager. And you add social media and all of a sudden those likes and hearts become a drug. TLDR: I guess what im asking is: how much is my fault and how much is circumstance/being young/nieve? i guess thats a hard question to answer without details. anyone up for discussion?",4.400635430038513,6.078753077235778,5.432644415917842,79.17390885750962,71.07317073170732,7.455370132648696,26.768506632434743,8.032893268588372,1.8441089430894315,1011,34,176,14,19,333,139,246,0.127,0.8029999999999999,0.07,-0.9461,1,0,1,0,2,0,33.0,0,1,3,1,10,7,1,0,18,0,18,2,1,8,3,41,29,20,0,1,9,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,6,12,14,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,5,0,1,3,2,16,2,31,22,4,22,1,1,0,0,28,8,1,8,13,124,28,0,0.0,0.12288687614298648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252086055716425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696075597041257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08659879268398406,0.12644900869109896,0.4581860953741725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11323135616425617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10874458536831597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836147665054027,0.0,0.0,0.2722885445152849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027800027759067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955490268058292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822104648330119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05418749503856715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.342765649649846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09290944830985154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229043353352908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22406284091424114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05067055370282336,0.0,0.18316681663451265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846289429145922,0.0,0.10419698111464494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15248685388645028,0.07690433506835714,0.07999241778399739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888093291735407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190383529030275,0.18112217542435569,0.0,0.0,0.09804544389313208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426354549178916,0.11618601193266385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865796851802497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819873859716587,0.0,0.0,0.08579520941762211,0.11658148615078785,0.0,0.21145144829856768,0.2636354971429689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341094318611874,0.1105477943108686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557682379623616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999788287194044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dirk44,2019/01/19,Is there anything that helps with dealing with the loss of love? Divorced for about a year from my high school sweetheart. Any recommendations are appreciated. Thanks.,5.843888888888888,9.650694777777783,4.086944444444448,77.78375000000003,82.7037037037037,5.662962962962964,28.972222222222214,7.1686216300943375,2.0258222222222217,137,6,21,2,4,39,26,27,0.058,0.505,0.4370000000000001,0.9432,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,4,0,2,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,1,13,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594636974407365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3139790418438577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933561621928224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557415843851581,0.4031232620675833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3443592772008451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3861439301119736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3512753923673775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457024835340996 divorce,sass_mouth39,2019/01/19,"One week left Until the kids and I and move back to home state without him. And I have no idea where to start with packing. All I have boxed up is my yarn, fabric, and old baby clothes I’m making into a blanket eventually. This is what is left of my life before depression robbed me of my marriage and husband. At least, he says he can’t deal with my depression anymore. I don’t know. I don’t even know how I am going to say goodbye to my cats. I can’t do anything but keep playing sad songs and lay in bed. 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Hello, everyone. First of all I don't know if my subject is posted in the right subreddit. But since it's a consequence of a divorce, I thought it was the right place. Is it reasonable or understandable not to tolerate seeing my father happy after his divorce from my mother? I am 26 years old and my parents separated when I was 12. I was close to my parents and mainly to my mother. From my point of view, my father is the one who is responsible for the current situation. He's the one who hired a lawyer to get a divorce. Forcing my mother (stay-at-home mother) to leave for her country. Since then, I have been living with my father because I have spent my whole life, my friends, my professional experiences in my country of birth. And at the same time, my mother, who has no professional experience, is unemployed, alone and without a professional and personal future for nearly 15 years. This has a great effect on his health, which is deteriorating. And her employment and health problems are, for me, consequences of my father's choice to separate from my mother. Therefore, I always blamed him for separating from my mother. Still living at home (in my childhood home), I have seen my father for some time start dating friends and now have a girlfriend, and despite the feelings I may have for him, I can't bear to see him happy, to see him start a new life while my mother is still alone, ill and hopeless. Is that normal? Can any of you understand my thoughts ? Or am I extremely selfish?",6.184622041681383,6.996294258389264,6.880533380430943,73.6678753090781,66.14765100671141,9.49516072059343,32.12716354645002,9.549672527348893,3.024346308724832,1251,49,220,24,19,413,143,298,0.07400000000000001,0.8440000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.7405,6,2,0,0,4,1,44.0,0,1,0,2,4,9,0,0,15,0,27,5,0,4,1,35,42,17,0,3,7,17,1,0,3,1,5,0,2,1,10,12,0,0,9,0,1,0,6,3,0,3,8,7,46,6,38,33,5,35,0,1,6,0,40,12,0,5,22,167,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.213552428362023,0.0,0.0,0.0857840105856598,0.0,0.0,0.07010871702535179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06284627659178929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09851250797492064,0.0,0.2016950583815349,0.0,0.0,0.05212836220817193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08769328199402371,0.0,0.0,0.1593032043875644,0.0,0.05386332935719917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366354461314493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32924236561405285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917214676459096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20682709791209145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056658785975333685,0.0,0.0,0.10916362507358786,0.0,0.0,0.14563930324657576,0.0,0.0,0.18207105836268125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09957061964134788,0.0,0.0,0.10101204903531273,0.0,0.0,0.10818175772346447,0.0,0.1397208396128348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22895149384923544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001932440160683,0.10771322612913377,0.0,0.09745890694208788,0.0,0.09873733121111497,0.0,0.0,0.09864881028288812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119994200219256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17608659452594197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286161957684383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705639140116063,0.1158840610923668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459435542625558,0.10988646458818983,0.16466496670121386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16369318664461202,0.12023204479589115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465284282436092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510284086409216,0.0,0.09938072568638667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13278070158121347 divorce,ImpliedSubmission,2019/01/19,"Counting down the injunction days - 86 left Happy Saturday Redditors, &#x200B; I (35M) filed for the big D this past Monday from my soon to be ex(33F) after she revealed to me, once again, she was in a serious relationship for I think the 3rd time. We also have 2 kids and we would have been married 10 years this September. Sigh where do I even begin... &#x200B; I'm in my house having some coffee and watching my boys play Metroid on the wii while writing this. She's at her BF's, where she stays the night about 4 nights out of the week leaving the kids with me. She reminds me what a great parent she is while doing this too. &#x200B; About 2 thanksgivings ago and some change she told about her first fling. She met him while playing songpop, stupid game. Anyways she starts to commute to his house to spend weekend nights with him, again leaving the kids with me and also commenting what a great parent she is, broken record. What really ticked me off about this was she never like driving a long ways (he was an hour away) and the dude was into video games. Not once had she ever shown any interest in my hobby, but I see her drooling away. He would use Twitch to host his sessions, of which she would watch while she was here. That really got into my head. This continues into December where I lay the gauntlet down and say if you see him again after the new year (start of last year) I'm filing for divorce. And the strangest thing happened, she stopped going to see him. It would appear that we were going to mend things after all. &#x200B; She cut all contact, apologized profusely to me and said that it would never happen again. I'm accepting of her apology and we begin to mend things out, especially in the bedroom. Fast forward to March and I get a kickass job promotion. So things start to normalize, but I always had a sneaking suspicion that beyond the emotional affair that was taking place, there was cheating too, which she denied up and down. This really starts to nag at me and we start to drift again. So she starts to see what I think was an attempt at BF2, her tattoo artist. Trust totally gone. &#x200B; Apparently this one didn't last long cause she tells me this guy is a controlling mess. Just wait it gets better. Fast forward to this past December. She tells me that shes in another serious relationship (I think BF3 at this point) that had started this past October. Also, she explains to me how this is the love of her life, they are going to get married, etc. I didn't realize how much you knew someone after 4 months. About a month ago in an emotional stupor, she reveals to me that BF1 raped her the last time she was there. She wants me to comfort her and I don't, I can't. She lied to me for nearly a year as she was totally fine with us having sex again without telling me what happened. The bad side of me thinks that she almost asked for this. She had a previous assault incident happen to her when she was a late teenager, WOULDN'T YOU KNOW THE SIGNS? I have a STD test schedule next week. &#x200B; Last weekend I had to go rescue and move my niece back with her mom. Its a 30hr driving round trip, perfect to really drill down and think, and talk with my dad the co-pilot of the rescue operation. I leave on Friday and, I don't know why i left it like this, but had told her lets not come to any conclusions and talk more when I'm back. The reason I don't know why I left it like that was because after BF1 I told her that I wouldn't be sticking around if this were to happen again. Well, i did let it hover for about 2 weeks, and I really shouldn't have then I could have shaved 14 more days off the injunction. The one think that led to the next was what I always see on r/Divorce and r/relationship_advice, ""once a cheat, always a cheat."" My kids and I deserve better than this. We collect my niece after driving straight there, turn around and drive right back. On the way back I text her to go ahead and fill out the divorce papers, I'll fill out my part once i'm back, and after the kids are in bed, review anything else we need for the initial part. This totally shocks her, and I'm not sure why. &#x200B; I think she thought that this behavior is totally ok, but to any sane individual, nah. Perhaps she was thinking I could be plan B again if BF3 didn't work out. Nope, no parachute this time. So this dude, bf3. I've met him previously at one of her work party events. He was a friend of a co-worker, i really don't remember any of this, but insists I had chatted with him at said party. He was married 5 months to a cheater, she cheated with her boss. And, not sure if it was the bosses or his, she got pregnant, had an abortion without telling him. So that's how far his parenting skills go. Wait, he also lives in a friend's basement. The friend is married and has 2 kids, so guess he interacts with those kids too, so wow, good parenting resume. We're planning on splitting custody, so I feel he's in for a reality check. My ex lost her job a few months ago too, so they have one basement dweller income at the moment. I'll end up having to pay child support because of this. &#x200B; Sorry this is going on for so long but just one more piece of psychosis. I had a snowboarding trip lined up for today, but it ultimately fell through, buddy had a sick kid. Ex was going to a hockey game with bf3. Get this, she tells me to find somewhere else to stay Friday night so that she can bring him here after the game to spend the night so she doesn't have to wake up early at his house to come home to watch the kids. I tell her, this is my house and I have nowhere else to stay. Guess what she suggests, I cant make this shit up, ""Ok then Ill just bring him over anyway while you're here too."" My brain almost exploded as to how ANY of this would just be fine and dandy in her demented head. I had to reach out to her mother to talk some sense back into her. She has already introduced my kids to him on 2 or 3 occasions, and she does bring him here while I'm not here, which I'm totally not cool with. &#x200B; I know that I am not the crazy one because as I'm telling my family, friends, and co-workers, they really can't believe the shit she is trying to pull. There was definite gas lighting occurring, but luckily my support people snapped out of it and I think getting this out on here is helping too. I keep the house since I bought it before we we're married, thank god. But I'm really looking forward to April, where I will be single again, raising 2 awesome children in my own home, and have an awesome job to wake up to. &#x200B; TL;DR Divorcing Crazy illogical wayward Ex ",3.8176911976911967,5.162372300075589,4.374047962619393,87.5049226963513,72.03099017384731,7.401388029959457,26.28880643166357,7.8636836590182275,1.378266213151928,5215,171,1073,68,99,1654,479,1323,0.084,0.8079999999999999,0.108,0.9863,9,0,0,0,3,0,202.0,9,3,3,15,75,51,11,0,66,3,95,16,8,12,13,173,189,80,0,18,28,10,2,3,5,10,5,3,4,14,71,68,0,5,25,12,5,31,27,17,2,7,51,17,169,33,164,119,21,211,0,1,10,4,169,75,2,14,109,725,240,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102487359897585,0.0,0.061019161059511835,0.0,0.033622503788293234,0.09746188761642514,0.07605614728367285,0.3301236783212769,0.37022294201669737,0.10359737344107617,0.03194864736628155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025072797752756087,0.05424645635621274,0.028483728178432706,0.0,0.05725190260964759,0.14056935626724434,0.025439740508456286,0.05571954069368957,0.0,0.02592626154244304,0.0343273171200082,0.0,0.053893434026987014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03401267610202425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0312993156580984,0.032231399491244775,0.052491449446996484,0.0,0.0,0.034172765943309084,0.04865288350090483,0.0,0.0,0.03929903906996693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026662996489153892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763570131142574,0.06854542646404807,0.026985851946411333,0.0,0.03398018528373616,0.020124011087943882,0.02756030291874394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028722782064498124,0.0,0.015405677455483494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02784745525024366,0.02591630276082032,0.0,0.0,0.09415886785850527,0.0,0.07959209186754397,0.0,0.13852660189230287,0.02555534707274277,0.048736532484542266,0.06718277085952885,0.06712848922444012,0.030168386668299237,0.1347149935652859,0.032434049811341285,0.0,0.0,0.06253848920768909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020422245333964837,0.0,0.061124336628168234,0.0,0.03000511768855627,0.17578151749457804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070519745327968,0.027081606525564243,0.0,0.0,0.06697827783420572,0.09934285652598554,0.034369546092861275,0.09678452534375152,0.09931162364506896,0.062311759633577414,0.0215206466846024,0.04465578668020021,0.0,0.02690404877782888,0.08089040505219705,0.025585680933341674,0.0,0.03325972596768071,0.0,0.027498811579391297,0.0,0.0203378129859078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03568408041056061,0.09727795923514274,0.032382959006649885,0.02239769097000139,0.022591842997785928,0.04699803052670679,0.029426453954403436,0.06480672126367591,0.14296208046658854,0.029852444631601305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979089207419975,0.12387656724886922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532567369398374,0.06598835461976081,0.0872562602901917,0.02112286851415177,0.0,0.031832866968048656,0.0,0.028802372104420656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615007895230462,0.031326465548301465,0.0,0.06542305894723502,0.03451462094818045,0.02601974399913053,0.05796462145491745,0.024229598562575016,0.0,0.0,0.12139636908309932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625505016075086,0.025203675441732017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025815674130737182,0.0,0.0,0.034106744139687735,0.15095923408143505,0.09742539522392728,0.0,0.02547284572780912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915008444289883,0.0574319852217256,0.0,0.02290835416788271,0.07346774621697104,0.1864143330254993,0.028051097986110992,0.0,0.0,0.08096708354686599,0.17570558776332146,0.0,0.02418841038048016,0.05329889594100002,0.0,0.028880366161599873,0.0873412395232201,0.0,0.020685961616780033,0.03314073863160938,0.0,0.0,0.03664958847110627,0.02631481072621951,0.0,0.0,0.01797098050442334,0.04836860376557025,0.07331944737549345,0.0,0.02739464213422952,0.0,0.08247864894200556,0.0,0.0,0.058740667857634876,0.0,0.08872508066240524,0.0,0.0,0.12986274838681475,0.0,0.37022294201669737,0.07848229156726916 divorce,rightinthefeelsies,2019/01/19,"I broke down crying petting a cat at petco, because I miss the animals I’m losing in the divorce In September of last year I finally left my nightmare of a marriage. Physical abuse, mental abuse and constant sexual abuse and manipulation, and I couldn’t take it anymore after learning he’s been cheating for our entire marriage, unprotected sex repeatedly, and in one instance he actually raped a very dear friend who never had the guts to admit what happened to me. My life has been in shambles since and I’ve been trying to get myself together, but he keeps dragging me through court. He sued ME for adultery and abandonment for leaving the marriage, he won’t divorce me civilly, he’s instead fighting me every step, he won’t let me get the rest of my belongings, he won’t settle. Yet he’s publicly dating a 21 year old (he’s 30), and last week she stayed in the home we own, she slept in the bed we chose together, she posted pictures of herself in the bathroom I painted (it’s very ornate, I did a big mural that I was so proud of and loved), and she posted pictures of herself snuggling and kissing my dogs and cat. I broke down sobbing in petco the other night because I miss my cat so much, I raised him from a tiny, malnourishment kitten that was terrified of people to a lovable, cuddly fluff ball. I miss my cat, I miss the dogs I had to leave behind. But I had to get out and I couldn’t take them and I can’t afford a place where I can have them and I don’t have family in the area that can take them. My STBX convinced nearly all our friends that I left for another man because I’m renting a room from a male friend, it’s the only place I could go with the one dog I was able to take. I just feel like there’s no end to the turmoil and punishment for leaving and my heart is so broken. I lost the illusion of the life I thought I had with him, I lost my home, I lost my pets, I’m going broke fighting him in court, and there’s no end in sight. 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I don’t know what I am looking for here. Maybe just venting or rambling. I don’t have many friends I can share any of this with or get advice from. I have never said any of this aloud to anybody. So We have been married for 10+ years and Have two beautiful children together. Made a good life Together but We have grown apart the last couple of years. SO has hinted a couple times in the last year that they want a divorce. I did not want one at first. I think I am coming around to the idea now though. I just don’t know how to take the first step and really just commit to it. I know I have not been a very good communicator or very perfect in our relationship and I haven’t always been there for the important stuff. I worked a traveling job for a while and missed a lot of the kids while they were growing up. But I am working in town again now and want to be there for the kids. SO makes it really hard for me to do anything alone with them. Makes me feel guilty that I want to do something with them while SO cannot come with. I am not perfect but I have tried to make up for that by providing My family with a really comfortable life but I feel like i am getting taken advantage of now. They know I can’t say no to anything they ask. I don’t want to hurt SO but I can see now that This is the path we are heading. The path they started and wont finish but when it all comes to a head I don’t want to be the one that is painted as the bad guy. I want everyone to know that it wasn’t my idea but I feel like the way it’s heading now is so SO can play the victim. I would never have really considered divorce until spouse brought it up. Now I feel like I have to be the one to make all this happen if I want to feel again. I just don’t know how to handle the thought of SO moving on and making a new life with somebody else. I want what’s best for the kids but have a hard time grasping that somebody else could possibly be raising them. It just gets my mind racing and anxiety building. The thought of the financials also gets my anxiety going. I don’t know how I could ever afford to pay alimony and child support plus all of life’s other expenses. I feel like I would be responsible paying for two households and I could never afford that. I think SO thinks that they are just going to get half my earnings across the board and leave me with all of our debt which we have a lot of now and trying to live off of pennies. Literally lucky if I end up with a couple pennies a week. I do not have any family to help out with anything. Whether it be a place to stay or help with the kids. I don’t know how all that works out with a divorce. SO just works a little bit from home and doesn’t make much money. I sometimes feel like the ONLY REASON they have stayed over the last year is because they haven’t had to work and we’re just coasting off my earnings. It was ok before because I made really good money. I moved into a new position couple months ago that is a really great career move but I will be making less money for the next year or two. Almost as soon as i took this new job with my company SO stopped wanting to have any sexual or physical contact and it has been really frustrating. I have tried to give space and let SO sort themself out. But in reality i can not be in a sexless marriage as petty as that sounds. We still sleep in the same bed but have almost zero physical contact. I am the type of person that needs that contact. SO has really gotten into social media over the last year to the point where it literally consumes them. They might even read this and if they do they will know it’s about them. So if you see this just know that i do still love you but we need to figure this out because I am not ok with how things are going anymore. They eat sleep and drink on the phone. It’s sad to watch. They created this whole fake online life that is starting to affect real life and I don’t know what to do about that. I don’t think there is any infidelity going on. Well at least i know that I have been faithful. Not sure about spouse though. And the thought of that just eats me up. I have told SO that if it gets to the point where you need to cheat that you just need to leave me. They assured that nothing was happing. I am skeptical though. I don’t think that they could be that conniving but I could be wrong. I am sorry this is so long and that i am all over the place and have so many run on sentences. Thank you to everyone that reads this all the way through. You are the real rockstars. Hope I can get this worked out as quick and painless as possible. 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Tomorrow makes one year since the split. And the be honest some days I miss the dork I married some days I hate the want to be biker chick that divorced me. But most days I'm okay. Divorce has given me more freedom than I thought I'd ever have again but freedom is a lonely road. Tomorrow I'm going skydiving for the first time. It's partly a I can can do whatever I want while you( her) is stuck at home with the homewreckers kid she had. It's partly defeating the fears I have. It's a celebration of a second chance it's a in your face it's a lot of things all covered up by the fact that it's my grandma's birthday in a few days and she is jumping with me. It seems like I'm the only one to remember that tomorrow makes a year. I just wanted to say that when I was married I loved my wife with every fiber I had and when she gave up and cheated I didn't give up on her and I still wanted her and chose her I never gave up. And now that I'm divorced I'm not going to give up on myself. I don't want to be a statistic I want to be me a better me a stronger me a happy me not one that has to have a girl to love just to be happy.,0.8684188185355488,2.211593035019458,3.1993721259285444,92.93126193845067,79.73929961089496,6.2291475061903085,21.409444640962146,6.980632752743323,0.35718832684824875,898,25,215,10,22,310,117,257,0.083,0.718,0.199,0.9857,0,2,0,0,3,0,15.0,0,2,0,3,8,15,2,1,22,1,21,3,1,3,4,36,49,12,0,6,6,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,14,10,0,0,3,0,0,3,5,7,0,6,9,1,35,8,27,35,9,35,0,3,0,2,23,11,0,5,22,155,49,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091819813594594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184615735589025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166809218460867,0.10401241464647633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13891619257400284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10500697667627112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368500373024189,0.1403195875217476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2628308168405367,0.0,0.12188186229681056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383096944618815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060311704099466186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049532448865912,0.22283788646794747,0.0,0.24721260670169595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09521267637776988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3346131565109819,0.09388970787852706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267369835829291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984541044855447,0.0,0.0,0.09817283408890047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238474628687928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211957252124998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858777049176756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201506144623325,0.0,0.0,0.09800594892335478,0.07198500977807476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368860052516165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23849432448453015 divorce,hurtslikehella,2019/01/19,"Birthday parties.. Who knew it could get so complicated.. Well I officially fucked up (excuse my French).. My daughter turned 6 in Dec and had her 4th party celebrating it this time with school kids.. Kids benefit from divorces.. Party at my place party at mom's and indoor playground on the actual day with me. And now the party with school kids.. I was supposed to go along only on the day itself I had an appointment at work and didn't see it on the shared calendar.. Which it isn't on, ex said it is there but she is not very handy with the stuff. She also at some point said I'd only take up space in the car.. So I was somewhat inclined to not be around her yet I did want to be there for my daughter.. Long story short multiple events lead me to missing the party and I feel like crap about it. Not only did ex txt me an hour after the party started with the question of where I was.. But I wonder what my ex has said to my daughter about me not being there.. I owe my daughter an apology at the least.",1.6159756097560989,3.6847480975609774,3.20067073170732,90.37173780487808,80.21951219512195,5.85609756097561,20.98170731707317,6.961326702584282,0.4482634146341464,780,22,165,9,20,257,113,205,0.042,0.825,0.133,0.9237,1,0,0,0,1,0,29.0,0,0,0,2,13,7,2,0,13,0,16,2,1,1,0,27,32,10,0,2,6,8,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,3,12,12,0,0,4,0,1,3,6,3,1,0,12,5,24,4,31,16,3,32,0,1,1,1,24,19,2,4,11,120,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.15620180658453225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800511603634165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424931141856341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780006934703295,0.0,0.0,0.2064592910847772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093442795069677,0.11435153405910385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14797889282473328,0.08362813570922978,0.0,0.0909694762897038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763325194454553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820040285135084,0.0,0.0,0.14165380865847496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746794117433693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365213340726752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16723541600389766,0.0,0.15131457325589145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931110427790548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4567796670145066,0.0,0.0,0.3239916714349177,0.12755227045903308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11329588708505152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832378380741832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12035008166483507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333605886214212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741063793373236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207161964034053,0.09441136431951737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439189997619184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17358528288529942,0.11653031275387413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,itsmesurvivor,2019/01/19,"Advice needed! I am 30 years old , have a 1.5 year kid. So husband cheated on me with a tinder date. AP is a 35 year old with an 8 year old kid. He ‘fell’ in love wIth her. I have gone through real bad 2 years. So husband started asking for divorce 9 months back to marry AP and leave me and our kid. Last December I agreed.( I don’t want to go into details but I have been with him for 11 years and married for 5- infidelity has already beaten the shit out of me but my child saved me- I have survived this) . We filed fo separation and signed papers 2 days back. Then husband tells me I should give him 2-3 months and he wants to see where ‘it’ goes. Means I am guessing he is having second thoughts of divorcing and marrying her. Any advice. Husband is beyond my comprehension. I hope someone here advices what is going on? What is his thought process? Or anyone who has faced something like this. Thanks! 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Married 15 years, but we’ve been growing apart for a year or two. Kids have been really stressful but we’ve been a good team. She’s been significantly pulling back from parenting responsibilities over this time, too. Our kids are middle-school age and one has some real mental heath and social challenges. But I thought hey, it’s tough but we will get through this - she’s struggling, I’ll pick up the slack - we’re in for the long haul. This is simply a “for worse” part of our “for better or worse” and we’ll get to the other side of it. I was wrong. At the beginning of this month she told me she didn’t want to be married anymore. No infidelity, not abuse or anything from either of us. She simply had no confidence we would make it through our tough times and we were on a downhill path that would only get worse and more resentful, sad, and angry. There’s a lot of baggage wrapped up there too, as she’s seen a lot of divorce in her life and I think she would rather have a “good” divorce now rather than risk a possible “bad” divorce a few years down the road. She was totally committed to the idea. And I agreed to it because if she wasn’t willing to try every day, we wouldn’t make it. So, I told her I wanted the house and kids - I was still going to keep this family together as best I could. See them throuh this trauma and we would move on as a unit. Somewhat to my surprise, she said okay. She wants a new path in life, she says. Never liked the house that much anyway, she says. We went through mediation, she’s moved out. Divorce will go through officially in a couple months. I have primary custody, and they see her on weekends and once during the week. No child support, and it’s all very amicable. But I hate it. My identity was totally wrapped up in being a husband and father. Together we had our whole life planned out. I knew where I would be in ten, twenty, fifty years... Now I don’t know anything and I’m living with her ghost waiting for her to get around to moving her stuff out. But my question is this - I don’t know how to tell anyone. I’m so sad and confused by the whole thing. I told my parents and siblings. But that’s it. I don’t really have close friends - she was my best friend. When I play out the conversation in my mind with my coworkers at the lunch table it just sounds dumb. “She left. I don’t know why, really. I guess she’s scared of being married? But she didn’t really leave because she still sees the kids all the time. It’s weird.” I guess I could just say that? But still, that is dumb and offers no answers - though I don’t have any myself, so I suppose that’s accurate? I don’t want rumors and whispers flying... but I suppose that is unavoidable? And beyond person friends, acquaintances... did you all do a Facebook announcement? Again, I don’t know what to put there. I have a lot of shame wrapped up in this. All I ever wanted is to be a good father and husband. And though she has struggles, I thought I was giving her security, a family, and a happy life. I failed, though I feel like I did just about everything right. Like Picard says, “It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness, that is life.” With everyone I know, I don’t want to be vague. Isn’t the automatic assumption that there was some terrible behavior or betrayal involved? No, I want people to know that’s not the case. But this also isn’t “our decision” either, even though I’m going along with it in support of her choice to end the marriage. I especially want people to know this isn’t my idea, it’s hers (is that wrong?). I hate this. I don’t want to throw her under the bus. But I want the truth to be known without hurting her. I want people to know I kept the house, I am primary caregiver for the kids... I’m doing the right thing and sticking it out with the family that is left behind. She bailed - even though she’s still not brave enough to just leave all the way. How did you tell people? I think that’s my next step on the road to moving on. It’s getting awkward keeping this 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divorce,Szymstaboio,2019/01/19,I May not be going through one but my parents are I am 13 and my parents are going through a divorce i really dont know what to do my mom is going to court soon and i have a 3 y/o Brother. 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divorce,fox-four,2019/01/19,"Advice request: A switch flipped tonight... and for the first time I truly wanted out Married a few years, no kids, no major drama, just very different people. Little sex, not much passion. Not really ""best friends"" there is some love, but my heart does not feel full. We had an arguement about money that she would not back down from tonight, would not meet in the middle about, it ruined our night despite my best efforts to squash it. A switch flipped in my head where, for the first time, my humming and hawing about calling it quits went to 100%. It was something so reasonable, in my eyes, and she refused to act as a partner on it, despite me asking multiple times. Feels like the straw that broke, if that makes any sense?",5.7967320261437925,6.798239000000002,4.9665686274509815,86.36928104575165,67.08823529411765,7.515032679738562,29.816993464052292,7.3871296695380915,1.6735630718954244,568,20,108,5,9,169,97,136,0.163,0.7859999999999999,0.052000000000000005,-0.9417,1,0,1,0,0,0,27.0,2,0,0,6,8,8,0,0,9,0,5,6,3,2,0,22,12,7,0,4,8,0,2,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,8,5,0,1,3,1,1,2,7,2,0,2,3,3,11,6,16,7,7,22,0,2,1,3,13,10,0,2,11,74,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17102298208487632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901644483241125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361573420092576,0.0,0.0,0.13457600709043496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673356408310395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17871024819796935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828537987748858,0.0,0.0,0.15315711901340234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17698604704774126,0.1250310065779102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297735947866247,0.0,0.0,0.13521643128744554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796162490288121,0.0,0.0,0.2073940416522397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0855036634510638,0.17541136669402574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157958193465059,0.0,0.11682411034416508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865642550391254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424005742439138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12133361260585955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18615037608036264,0.0,0.0,0.11211931972733616,0.17994493657913346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347353729067485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061585876980975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440599927126227,0.10322859251859136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224099007907725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486517774821699,0.0,0.0,0.1127041523155733 divorce,turd_oatmeal,2019/01/19,"Signing Day Hey everyone, This is my first post as a reddit user, been following this community for a while and decided to join and post. My STBX and I were high school sweethearts, had some great memories, but it wasn't enough to keep her from leaving. We have been through the mediation process already and signing day is coming up. This was not my choice, but I am learning to accept it. I am in my late 20's, and would like to hear from everyone about their signing day experience. Any advice for me would be greatly appreciated, thank you. ",5.6359778085991685,6.792446689320393,6.072843273231622,77.73106796116505,67.54368932038835,9.380859916782248,33.16088765603329,9.606745405546679,3.0969761442441044,431,19,81,9,7,139,73,103,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.9672,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,1,1,1,1,1,6,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,0,0,20,19,9,0,2,3,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,5,7,0,1,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,6,1,12,6,13,10,2,13,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,1,7,59,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342005889691095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19584078380243744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120684592333295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287330573824068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3433572940881639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337228941411132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33915730793888715,0.0,0.17359814106720586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095452372906012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3913190577951773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001977599742587,0.0,0.0,0.18750510002967388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774206115019773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001920763587974,0.1879134029063272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08670209214470477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3399313258287696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17960748747205402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633890518894583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521369079763739,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Odiawesome,2019/01/20,"Possible to DIY if STBX isn’t communicating? Married 7 years. No kids. We own a home we couldn’t afford (long story) that is up for sale, neither of us is living there. No real assets to speak of besides vehicles with loans and a 401k with loans against it. Learned in August ‘18 that STBX - a LEO - had been having an affair with a dispatcher for two years. I was totally shocked, crushed and it took a lot of therapy to get back to a healthy place. I now want to divorce and put this behind me, but spouse won’t return phone calls or texts. Do I have any hope of filing DIY? I don’t have funds for a lawyer. Would love to hear from others who may have relevant experience.",2.0091965811965835,4.1290288370370405,3.3192592592592614,89.76128205128207,79.14814814814815,6.524216524216524,22.97720797720798,7.61054688173877,0.952566951566952,523,17,111,8,13,170,96,135,0.054000000000000006,0.8370000000000001,0.109,0.8528,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,8,0,16,1,0,0,1,20,22,6,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,7,8,0,0,1,0,4,2,7,1,0,1,4,2,8,2,21,14,4,12,0,0,0,1,13,3,0,5,7,76,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14560499276646274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164640597074918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21863452931062413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20944476495023487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186582801959684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241322255593516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147739922591134,0.2126637044897283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18906675418332114,0.1894843220325542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18203222913987646,0.1932464177473069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237037586312356,0.0,0.0,0.24138158009548802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21524390157538287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437088259208528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24485823865090714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378887454608025,0.0,0.0,0.20915845345723044,0.0,0.2575530096457738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262900978778725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210057867482155,0.0,0.0,0.2757650391215589 divorce,throwaway498274400,2019/01/20,"Are there any wayward spouses on this sub who do not want to get divorced but have been rejected by their betrayed spouse after your affair ? Are there any wayward spouses on this sub who do not want to get divorced but have been rejected by their betrayed spouse after your affair ? If so - how are you dealing with your situation ? Do you still have any hope ?",5.375373134328357,7.090255492537312,4.958388059701496,83.38026865671642,68.70149253731344,7.151044776119402,31.310447761194034,7.554174236665415,2.065778507462686,286,12,51,3,5,87,35,67,0.267,0.688,0.044,-0.9659,0,2,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,5,2,0,5,3,0,0,0,0,11,0,0,1,0,10,16,5,0,4,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,9,14,0,5,0,2,0,0,18,2,0,2,3,41,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6267293272849795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31671462500814496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210036222377283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051236497696941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3453110289894848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24533412340802396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36239466143720417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Megamama11,2019/01/20,Moms gone Wild. Not really. Separated and mentally divorced just not legally yet. I have 3 kids and I’m not looking for a dad for they or a husband for myself but something anything would be nice. Tinder is just no. Will a single dude ever be interested in me?!? ,0.6898529411764684,3.1927492352941202,3.3237009803921573,82.58790441176471,95.86274509803923,5.6872549019607845,24.02205882352941,7.1686216300943375,1.625017647058824,205,9,37,4,8,71,41,51,0.075,0.7759999999999999,0.15,0.7144,0,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,11,9,4,0,1,7,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,1,4,2,4,4,1,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,1,2,30,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3333098855273632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36637799664523785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401279931791549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081807394202081,0.0,0.0,0.4743729389148751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2594762531784086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3118162848067558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877257537957314,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BullehShahDanceParty,2019/01/20,"She Wanted To Be The Perfect Mom... Then Landed In A Psychiatric Unit! 🤯 https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2019/01/19/681603052/she-wanted-to-be-the-perfect-mom-then-landed-in-a-psychiatric-unit",40.096,52.38039760000001,15.655,-3.817499999999996,6.333333333333329,8.333333333333334,27.5,8.841846274778883,3.373000000000001,184,3,10,2,2,36,15,15,0.0,0.75,0.25,0.6114,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,7,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4027815231539786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8875890962427443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22350087435343408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,takethiscup,2019/01/20,"Just hurting and want to leave this somewhere. 32-year-old female, working on my second divorce. No kids together, thank God, but I do have my own son who has had to watch this build (I tried to prolong that for him for as long as possible to make sure it was going to work, joke's on me) and fall apart (which he knew about before I did). My son's father, my ex-husband, has never wanted to have anything to do with him. I have a lot of feelings, ranging from extreme disappointment to rage to utter despair. This is my rant. You could never be the man we needed I am grieving He is too, I think In a way I will never understand First an incompetent father Now an incompetent Dad What next? I thought it was forever He did too, I think You are either too stupid or too evil To understand what you've done I don't know which is worse. ""I didn't know he was coming"" Bullshit You knew exactly what you were doing, Sending a message You didn't want me, that was clear But you didn't have to make it clear to him too. Did you mean anything you said? Or were you just wasting our time? Two years, gone. I gave you everything Love, trust, time, money Taking care of your child in a way that none of the adults in his life ever could, And will never be able to All you ever wanted was to go back Back to before you knew Us. Back to when it was just You. I wish We could go back too. 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Hey, I’m going through a mutually amicable divorce and we’re hoping to try and mitigate costs. I heard about filing online together using legal zoom, and I was wondering if anyone has any experience with it? For those who have used it, do you have to still to hire a mediator or do they give you the option of providing you one on the site or anything? Any details of your experience, good or bad, would be helpful. Thanks!",5.799666666666668,6.856753188888893,7.43555555555556,68.47000000000003,67.1111111111111,10.444444444444443,32.77777777777778,10.504223727775694,3.7271111111111104,377,16,65,10,6,131,64,90,0.037000000000000005,0.804,0.159,0.8668,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,4,1,0,2,4,0,0,5,0,9,0,0,3,0,15,19,7,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,2,1,7,3,11,15,0,4,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,7,1,45,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2824334435662395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904030475019769,0.0,0.1708874552977569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17338840929498925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4062649575258347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992075238594368,0.11801863279208097,0.17417634336526913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391909100452947,0.0,0.0,0.20625440528994526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14071658826515648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583848468988094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191186512188398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14098830836259732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5380577491977088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251996888902432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751654248714124,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Divorcedandafraid,2019/01/20,How divorce and anxiety feel to me. I do charcoal drawings and figured it would help to share this is how I feel with anxiety and divorce. http://imgur.com/jjd2f9J,4.610714285714284,8.111728642857145,3.1542857142857166,84.91571428571432,84.0,5.6571428571428575,35.57142857142857,7.1686216300943375,3.0475428571428576,134,8,20,2,4,38,20,28,0.112,0.726,0.162,0.3612,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,10,5,5,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7363378945728745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4866874458776346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32258400999872977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34187920605709593,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,geek_logic,2019/01/20,"I don’t know what to do Out of the blue my wife asked for a divorce. At first I thought I misheard her as we agreed that was never an option. However it’s been almost a month and we met last week at the courthouse to file the paperwork. I love my wife, she’s my best friend. She seems so lost in her life and so unsure of everything. She blames never allowing herself time alone to learn who she is as a big part of it. She’s constantly apologizing for it coming “out of nowhere.” I am by no means pretending to be perfect, I totally suck at times. Im trying to be supportive for her in all this but I feel like I’m operating at 30% and I don’t know how to stay strong. I don’t know what I’m suppose to do now.",0.9220129870129874,2.5470919805194856,3.1818181818181834,91.84272727272727,80.49350649350649,6.997402597402598,22.688311688311693,7.957251820313856,0.9550441558441564,551,18,131,10,14,189,93,154,0.069,0.777,0.154,0.9143,1,1,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,5,4,9,1,0,7,0,11,2,0,2,5,26,27,9,0,0,1,2,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,8,1,0,1,6,2,0,1,5,2,23,7,25,20,4,21,0,1,1,1,20,9,1,3,11,90,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896759670260359,0.19618116512321185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708138207543536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19878376392592126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316786828234028,0.0,0.20469486255117286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17023776293554846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577603881541824,0.1353211141656443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16111987456215102,0.0,0.0,0.14634480387005175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204605240252818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122995153657833,0.1544019292588894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337923825909864,0.09254065307578224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20677343235801174,0.0,0.1709582232145335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20633303869412645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151192598094306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2921835283765398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2051225345879944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17244012538581133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20189566393163366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21495066318343456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503776862899034,0.22090371731309008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286032028431039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15194065646797808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BonnaraeBrady,2019/01/20,"The dollar cost? Honestly, how much did your divorce cost? Did you settle in mediation? Did you go to trial? Trying to decide if it’s worth it to just settle this, or drag it out in trial. 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I feel like I've had to callous my emotions to this new reality, and am now able to go through the divorce process without emotion and in a methodical fashion. Where I live we have to wait a year and a day to file for divorce, so we are just in the process now of filing the necessary paperwork. We have decided to do a joint application as we agree on the terms and want to avoid unnecessary court appearances. I started the process as I want to be done with this already, and it seems like it is just as well that I did so. Yesterday, while discussing aspects of the application via text my STBX told me that she is finding it hard as the divorce is now becoming ""real"" and she finds it sad. She said that she didn't think that it would be this difficult, and said that if not for me initiating the process of filing that she would have dragged her feet while she worked up the courage. For context, my STBX left me to be with her affair partner. They live together now and I have thought that at this stage in the game she would be chomping at the bit to get this sorted so she can get married to him. I remember hearing long ago that when people jump into new relationships right after another one they are just postponing the pain that comes right after. This isn't the first time that she has alluded to the fact that she is finding all this harder than she thought it would be. Now, I know that you guys will say that I should remind her that this is what she wanted, and that she should go to her AP for comfort, but it isn't who I am. While I don't engage in emotional talk, I just acknowledge that I understand and keep it there, always bringing the conversation back to the topic at hand. Which in this case I would bring it back to what we need to do to get the divorce going. I'd be lying, though, if I wasn't fighting the urge to remind her that this is what she wanted. I wasn't sure how she would act once we got the divorce process started. I had heard many times that it is often at this point where they are confronted with the reality of their choices and tend to get affected by it. I try not to read into it as it is pure speculation, but her behaviour in recent weeks is giving me the vibe that she may be regretting her decisions and is now going to have a ride on the rollercoaster of emotions that we are all so familiar with. For me all I can do is keep it matter of fact and leave emotions out of it. This is how it is, and it needs to be done. I guess it is one of those things where you can tell someone a million times how something might pan out, but it doesn't make it any more perplexing once it happens. I am going to keep moving forward with the process, and bracing myself for the potential fallout now that she seems to truly be out of the fog and can see the situation for what it is.",9.781990291262137,5.941634165048544,9.288422330097088,74.3327305825243,61.71844660194175,12.694822006472492,39.82766990291262,10.222266870305534,3.721516504854368,2406,87,509,37,24,777,250,618,0.051,0.898,0.051,-0.1244,0,1,2,0,8,0,43.0,7,2,4,2,29,15,2,1,36,0,74,5,4,5,7,106,121,40,0,17,12,0,4,2,1,12,1,5,0,2,68,38,0,5,15,2,0,16,10,7,1,4,19,10,70,8,83,80,6,78,0,2,1,0,64,28,0,11,37,395,138,2,0.0747565668370813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06626718594793535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249573044451441,0.0,0.062203452232160124,0.0,0.0,0.050837028961123375,0.07838877847381752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496637090046374,0.0,0.0,0.08256275474638962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08161480920503336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287923258626866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04821180115344713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300384559993016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204553786645169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03779916637633647,0.05340610628547922,0.0,0.0,0.2049784432790806,0.06358789756221149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15622888283545627,0.07171331080230757,0.21242939849636056,0.0,0.059789655641960364,0.0,0.082352786500913,0.07402075437940585,0.06610698516667765,0.0,0.06696720019986041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08425608396717635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993412143846852,0.0,0.0,0.041084254080538514,0.0,0.0,0.07915641028433658,0.0812232286032513,0.0,0.0,0.07304456491310259,0.0,0.13202283624187552,0.0661572091988491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04990058885800673,0.07579142526566962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860980746369185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945439976836301,0.0,0.11086209414535372,0.0,0.14440071617781264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592266077821709,0.10131396880792536,0.0,0.07954625784451329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136360192784882,0.0518267907152444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066911911885024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477679702575442,0.08508933935590587,0.0,0.0,0.0738130910521958,0.08026057591888593,0.08468461730464785,0.12768339923185154,0.14222122828723235,0.05944942245773329,0.0,0.0,0.05957130500381761,0.13611114157636905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402951330224663,0.0,0.0,0.06334099648683025,0.057551257426594074,0.0,0.0,0.10582616555444806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07045717953632089,0.0,0.0,0.06008649669522322,0.06534053444467162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04966494123413853,0.04790098949133265,0.07344794735761097,0.1186967273581906,0.17436462119635066,0.0,0.0,0.07143310323512239,0.0,0.050754801732452524,0.0,0.0,0.07782422250933171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1763734399854805,0.0,0.05996520867010768,0.0,0.06721513148929162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206266273663774,0.0,0.05442367100380908,0.0,0.0,0.3186295212622622,0.0,0.0,0.09628155610551994 divorce,nosoulever,2019/01/20,"Letting go How am I supposed to let go of someone I have been with for 20years (3 kids 21,17&14). He is an emotional cheater about every 4-5 years. I take him back, trust him again and then he does it again. This time I am done! Not taking him back and he tells me he doesn’t want to put me through the pain and heartache anymore. That he loves me and we need to be co-parents. I have been a stay at home mom for most of this time. The difficulty I am having is this. He lied about going places and was on the phone for hours with this chick (tells me they are just friends, she has a boy friend). I take my kids to get milkshakes last night to a place he said he was in one of those lies and I get this aching in the pit of my stomach. Currently he has moved out but is staying with a co-worker. He is supposed to move in to new place feb2. I am currently cleaning out MY room! Packing all his shit in boxes. It sucks to be married 20 years, have your life ripped apart because “we are emotionally incompatible” yet I have not been the cause of the emotional distance in our relationship. Does this feeling in my stomach ever go away? 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We have two beautiful children and a dog, and even though I am terrified to think about what comes next, I am not sure that it would be healthy for me to stay in the relationship as is. There has been no infidelity and no physical abuse, but throughout the years we have hurt each other a lot and have become more cynical and less tolerant with each other and I feel that I have changed so much because of his negativity towards me, that I have grown to hate myself. My insecurity is through the roof, as well as my anxiety. I told him a few weeks back that I was cracking under all the pressure from work and home (I have a very demanding job with long hours and I take care of most of the house related work and activities) and he just looked at me and did not say a word. He did not acknowledge what I said, he barely blinked... that is his MO. I know he does not like to talk about issues in our relationship, but even if I try to gently get a topic going he never looks at me while talking and many times he just plays games on his phone while “we” speak. This is incredibly frustrating because he claims he loves me and likes me but cannot manage to have a conversation with me about important topics without at the same time displaying his complete disregard for me and what I have to say. He is not a bad guy, but not a good husband either. He is lazy (works 20 hours a week, at most), and although he is home and not working the rest of the time, he does not do anything or very little around the house and makes more mess during the day. He does not pick up our kids “early” at school (by 4pm) although he is at home, not doing anything productive. I work anywhere between 7am and 7pm (global job) and generally work a lot more than 40 hours a week, and when I get home tired and stressed, instead of finding relief because some house chores have been done or the kids backpacks or homework have been done, I come in to a zoo of a house and everything due for the next day still outstanding for me. I am going to be honest...many days I snap. Some days I actually start nagging, but lately I just curse up a storm in my head and hold back my tears so that my children will not see me crying, and do my best to walk over the mess and ignore it, but it is eating away at me and I have developed a bitterness that I hate. I try to spend some time with the kids, get some stuff done around the house and I go to bed to read or watch some tv and usually fall asleep at around midnight (many times crying from loneliness and stress). However, I fall asleep by myself at least 4 days out of the week because my husband is an excessive online video gamer and plays for hours with his friends. He generally comes to bed between 2 and 5 am and tries to sneak in, but many times I wake up and although he falls asleep right away I stay awake upset and thinking about our situation and the fact that if I bring our issues up, he gets upset with me and blames it all on me and if I don’t, I will continue to feel miserable. This is where I am at, I still love him. I wish I didn’t because getting a divorce would be much easier, but I am an idiot. I don’t want to share my children (he is not a bad father and I would never keep the kids from him, but I just don’t want to miss half of their lives), I don’t want to give up my home and I love him and miss him terribly even while living with him, but he does not care. He knows all of this. I have told him this in many ways and many different times during our relationship, but he is not going to change. He thinks I nag him too much, he behaves as one of my children and won’t pick up his clothes from the floor or clean up after himself if I don’t ask him to, and the example is terrible for my actual kids. I want a husband and a partner, but I am stuck with a grown child.",6.799078631452581,5.020227573829537,7.023226590636259,81.80110639255706,65.57863145258105,10.490864345738297,32.34960984393757,9.188382445141503,2.3873241536614644,3151,96,703,45,40,1023,317,833,0.161,0.733,0.106,-0.994,4,0,0,0,2,0,80.0,8,0,1,7,28,43,8,7,46,0,64,11,5,3,7,160,112,85,0,12,42,5,2,2,2,6,1,4,10,12,23,71,1,4,9,6,1,16,28,26,1,3,15,11,101,17,104,88,28,105,0,4,4,4,89,41,0,19,45,486,124,12,0.0,0.05862613165666486,0.09657138111441907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954742985878949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037852337477298915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143623520531146,0.1321440238473268,0.046257454200698926,0.0,0.09297684791395767,0.0760946801956594,0.1239420932620696,0.1508138310626716,0.05464716655219596,0.0,0.0,0.05192658170992108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1008970427917152,0.0,0.10468731315303008,0.12786883814043346,0.05187921264541135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870369693471207,0.1595536834682099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05169644144288685,0.0,0.0,0.17320237452403564,0.15190675249346894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05063075773616427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804392691190286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044469754131837416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05003751017869596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04522414965396003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03822840088093176,0.0,0.12925722086789415,0.047466066890100536,0.11248330805697644,0.04150177565924973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899333246953542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770321667433148,0.050781121105066655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481641609916155,0.0,0.19491273734537432,0.2854684416273704,0.052969745274093885,0.0,0.0,0.10328927408593253,0.0982032382529991,0.043980414561257314,0.0,0.0,0.05438622008939454,0.0,0.05581599762257039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0483472059138574,0.0495923164160149,0.08738412305844911,0.043788558664535966,0.08310207544136668,0.0,0.0,0.08413285974296382,0.17863181522290938,0.0,0.033028522349484626,0.30099189295055423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14549502196566114,0.0,0.07632460298010793,0.0,0.10524584148439592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0335291702930539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04949374683364529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593701569171415,0.0,0.042255954305343985,0.04706715015350266,0.07869753136166219,0.0,0.05007676265752195,0.039429438083491766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055617994128625385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03502245117909583,0.105478953441405,0.0790301536281046,0.0,0.11335916295263795,0.0,0.05664317040298701,0.0,0.0,0.0466346506575069,0.0,0.03720307036691195,0.07954087294029932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09511504402155298,0.048614199277838464,0.0,0.20196675750517346,0.05687039122545603,0.0,0.0945612026105668,0.0,0.10078174276464427,0.0,0.048335118764190096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05449562242400577,0.1224794289538221,0.11673918560344262,0.03927520406425833,0.15876063029138962,0.0,0.04448878306696388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056899968328285234,0.0476972981928752,0.0,0.21613373411747452,0.0,0.0,0.10544827731554536,0.0,0.0,0.06372745493491458 divorce,Here4giggles23,2019/01/20,"Trying but I can’t stand to be around my husband. My (38f) husband (36m) and I have been married for 5 years. We have a 3 year old together. We’ve had a rough marriage the entire time because he admits he wasn’t ready to adult and be a parent. He doesn’t help much around the house, doesn’t do a lot of parenting. And 90% of household management falls on me. Even when he says he will do more he doesn’t. He’s in therapy himself and acknowledged he has anger issues. He has a difficult time having constructive conversations and he perceives requests/criticism as attacks on him and gets very defensive. He lashes out at slightest things. I’m no longer sexually attracted to him and we rarely have sex. This is his main complaint about our marriage. We slept in separate beds for nearly 2 years up until a few months ago. Our marriage counselor said we needed to at least get into the same bedroom. We visit regularly on the weekends but I kind of hate it when we are in the same place. I feel stressed around him and his repeated requests for sex are very off putting. I’m starting to think divorce is the only answer. Marriage counseling was a patch but it hasn’t caused us to develop a true partnership. How do you know when it’s time to call it quits. Most of our marriage I have made significantly more than him. (He’s horrible with money has terrible credit and everything is in my name.) We’ve been living in different states due to work for the last 6 months. He got a raise and now makes nearly as much as I do. I’m thinking this a good time to divorce because we already live apart, he’s able to financially support himself now, and I would hate for us to move back together knowing the state of affairs. (He wants to quit his job and move in with me at the end of the year.) 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My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We’re done. Not doing counselling, done. We have three kids, 15, 12, and 4. The older two are mine from my first relationship, the 4 year old is ours. As of right now my husband and I are still living together. He wants to move down into the basement until he can move out. How did everyone handle finances? When do we tell the kids? Any tips or words of experience would be greatly appreciated! (With my first failed relationship we weren’t married, we had no assets together, we were really young too). 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More of a vent really. Me and STBXW have been separated nearly 4 months, physically 7 weeks. I had the kids this weekend and we went to the aquarium, hit the park went to lunch, then came home and snuggled up and watched a film, it was an amazing day. However throughout the whole day I just feel like I have a massive gaping hole in my stomach. That it would have been perfect if she was there. Even though whenever we were out she would moan that she was cold, or tired, or had a cold, hungry, tired! Always on her phone and not in the moment with the children and then give me crap when I ask her to put the phone down. She doesn’t respect me, appreciate anything I did (paid 100% of household bills so she could go down to 2 days a week working) and then also moans that I never showed her affection after being rejected for the 100th time. Yet I would have given anything to have her there today, everywhere I look there are families and it just doesn’t make sense why she would choose to not have these days. There was no abuse no drugs, infidelity etc etc. I am doing all the right things, no contact unless about the kids, moving on with my life, putting the kids first, hitting the gym. The sense of loss however has hit hard these past couple of days and I just wish it never happened at all. Anyway not really much of a point to this just needed to get it out, just wish the bad stuff was what the heart goes to first",7.495331369661264,5.91124917869416,7.073816887579774,81.36842783505156,64.08591065292096,10.376141384388808,31.438635247913595,9.04235418022936,2.260096514482081,1145,31,242,15,14,359,163,291,0.129,0.802,0.069,-0.9357,3,1,1,0,1,0,32.0,2,0,0,5,17,9,1,0,23,0,30,8,3,2,5,46,49,20,0,9,12,0,2,1,0,4,4,0,1,4,16,16,1,0,3,4,2,7,11,5,0,2,16,6,28,4,31,24,7,43,0,2,2,0,21,13,1,3,24,176,44,1,0.0,0.12240438629750362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261624726358947,0.08596144432899942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002916806898152,0.0,0.09658005966146226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251756095181353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11815808470612395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248390733445965,0.11430955046883565,0.0,0.3331291039430558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198057536423894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23043390257429136,0.06823468400366163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973906220440925,0.0,0.052236183355465135,0.07380403928633243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1757493296639282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0539747390720322,0.09910349913012728,0.05871294038322411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135589298089364,0.0,0.09254465862061932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12242177693990855,0.0,0.0,0.1036274472452261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07297027017432081,0.050471606277402915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675362212213207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895962421976451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246033531689476,0.10980122030672404,0.07594407293212539,0.07660238613850624,0.15935668827500812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09862022241694833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766048878190237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20770835258721293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236490538459986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11702906759558335,0.08822540406472436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2365283983506468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863397332140594,0.0,0.10150066292616926,0.0,0.06024036504427247,0.2374772184260089,0.09792494400519408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16573665164221346,0.0,0.0,0.1915371352015524,0.18644078204264547,0.11534091702518685,0.2376007253679805,0.0,0.0,0.07521025276399278,0.0,0.0,0.2935512726993065,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Stuckinkansas1,2019/01/20,"Fifteen months later. I miss my best friend I was married for almost fifteen years. Like happens with so many marriages after the years go by, the sex became routine, less and less…. and we became roommates. But, the closeness and the friendship didn’t end. Restaurants a few times a week, holidays spent with families, watching TV. There were no arguments, fighting, hitting, no accusing the other of being a controlling narcissist and neither cheated. It’s been ten months since my divorce was final and not a day goes by that I don’t miss the friendship I had with her for so many years. I miss the person who shared every intimate detail of her life with me, laughed with me, cried with me, paid bills with me, vacationed with me and buried pets and family members with me. l miss my best friend...and it's not getting easier.",4.67990950226244,6.934016045751637,4.656209150326799,82.64217194570136,71.54901960784314,7.322071392659629,30.069884364002014,8.139509932561175,2.3160179989944703,657,28,113,10,13,203,95,153,0.133,0.688,0.17800000000000002,0.9137,0,1,0,0,3,0,25.0,1,0,0,3,3,12,2,0,11,0,8,2,0,1,0,23,18,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,5,18,0,1,0,2,3,1,7,6,0,1,8,1,17,6,16,8,5,14,0,4,1,1,10,1,0,1,13,78,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739617368743493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3718286471875937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19869555127927607,0.0,0.0,0.19459758010511266,0.11425098345429327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690765968807918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14926159576508766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340138767840879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406577130374808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737406183042869,0.0,0.09255671371365172,0.0,0.10068185428528778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15665849206613344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12513054295860518,0.08654948765294407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3592168169135574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828085056037749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468581197575484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654529851246698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330110561475056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14210388120112508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34224802466580906 divorce,future2b,2019/01/20,"I told him I was leaving. He started crying. My heart is broken. This has been a long time coming. I love that man. I do. I care for him. He is unstable. Unpredictable. I'm not in love with him. He scares me. I spent two days away from home with family and he showed up making a scene. He brought our kids into in. Called me every name in the book right in front if them. He watched as they cried their eyes out, not wanting to see this. I was open and honest with him over text messages. I told him I didnt enjoy my life sometimes. That being a mother and wife isn't always enjoyable for me. He used that against me. He's a terrible person. My heart hurts for him though. He started crying. I hate the idea of packing my things. I hate the idea of moving in with my parents. I hate that were ending 10 years of marriage. I dont want to do it. I know I need to.",-0.9556067116840624,1.1609937790055262,1.0410190300798057,99.53902803355845,97.39779005524862,3.7864538571720896,15.543482709228568,5.5874745759252304,-0.8191683650501331,658,16,152,5,27,215,107,181,0.208,0.716,0.077,-0.97,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,1,0,3,0,1,12,3,1,7,0,13,6,3,2,0,23,34,6,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,8,11,0,0,3,2,1,4,5,6,0,1,9,3,34,6,26,24,0,23,0,1,3,2,33,12,0,1,7,96,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10288391941394803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11617009955322838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625705599946216,0.0,0.12606600211470825,0.0,0.0,0.10651064209215057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40746012296724893,0.07974186137064644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449129550227278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095142332130989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10417763696732382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656305903504255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662264099842808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.293043755407186,0.0,0.0,0.1240276732746132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236629805938754,0.27916403909178805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679529661831038,0.0,0.0,0.1309239510758305,0.0,0.0,0.08733528682342259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109423395898709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22319186145160808,0.0,0.08253510020013613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13141682285320955,0.0,0.09168242557938816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13729497421530806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10796348706714792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10559356503268934,0.0,0.0,0.12379186877208345,0.0,0.09853037288865682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12228970025452755,0.0,0.1750354730820196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214534126756662,0.0,0.12148220759286832,0.0,0.07209935699731958,0.0,0.0,0.2362993490876011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078481223517888,0.0,0.0,0.10679100754545558,0.0,0.0,0.1458599975970885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796243898364243 divorce,SewBadAss,2019/01/20,"Is this horrible of me? I've been divorced just over two years now. I have my own house, a fantastic boyfriend (who has his own house) and am really, really happy. My ex sends me FB messages about various things, and has invited me and my partner to visit him and his new partner. He was emotionally distant for most of our marriage and refused to even touch me for the last five. He is also an alcoholic who would ridicule me for taking medication for anxiety. I don't want to be his friend, visit him or really know anything about his life. BUT I was with this man for 22 years. I sometimes feel like there's something wrong with me to be able to spend that much time with someone and then have no interest whatsoever in what happens to them. Who else has experienced this? &#x200B;",4.866285370258879,6.303084033112582,5.4709211318482875,80.28857314870561,69.59602649006622,9.19951836243227,30.945815773630343,9.573946990214177,2.870464900662252,623,26,119,14,11,201,100,151,0.097,0.8140000000000001,0.08900000000000001,0.3367,0,0,2,0,1,0,20.0,1,0,1,0,7,6,1,0,3,0,15,3,0,0,0,18,20,10,0,2,3,1,2,1,3,1,3,0,0,3,9,9,1,1,2,0,1,3,2,2,0,2,3,3,21,4,20,14,5,12,0,0,0,0,25,2,0,2,8,90,30,0,0.16817716632873975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973024486319553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13449121915235654,0.0,0.1822198894535116,0.20435366499758406,0.0,0.0,0.12865507192033904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383954782653046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049044244502226,0.1891766760920892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107943224350147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503542845426151,0.12014580122863842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12993326152408566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871851277088347,0.1790277207986442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881077400895796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924257724014108,0.13708683686530368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878850616767725,0.08216286851142468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16942080194095271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236295679643929,0.0,0.0,0.16242655521855215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3232157975179561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424959672748085,0.12947099903281645,0.1663315177781317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644829917262065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11172943643658244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098065458131234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164284654405146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919525002082157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946823372130827,0.1838753304866103,0.20435366499758406,0.21660116242144045 divorce,Zapthatthrist,2019/01/20,Shes doing my hobbies Why? Why leave me and then do my hobbies that for 10 years i tried to get you to do? Is your new man getting you to do these things? Why didn't you do them with me? Why couldn't you try to fix our relationship instead of run of with him? I hope he ditches you when he realizes how fake tou are.,0.8210476190476186,2.158624057142859,2.614285714285714,97.09904761904764,79.85714285714286,5.80952380952381,21.666666666666664,6.42735559955562,0.029238095238095063,244,7,62,2,6,81,49,70,0.075,0.884,0.041,-0.3313,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,1,6,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,0,7,13,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,16,1,9,11,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,1,4,42,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279520840277924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166753489144685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309927378470433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106937180272004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342148930969466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493129121794315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962234029802386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7873973185433001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048350707857116 divorce,lisa197400,2019/01/20,"Heart broken and regrets I have been reading everyone posts hoping to see advice but It hasn't helped me. I'm going to post my story. I understand if I get hateful comments. I deserve it. I've been married for 19 years together for for 26 years all together. My STBEXH(44) Me 44(F). I wasn't working at the time he was and gave me the responsibility of the bills. I couldn't do it. He wasn't working steady decided to quit his job so there was no income. I tryed I even went back to work full time. We ended up going bankrupt. After all that he still put me in charge of the bills. It got to the point I was so afraid to ask him for his paycheck to put in the bank. He would scream at me saying it was his money and he should be able to spend it the way he wants but we have 2 children and bills, my paycheck went to bills I never spent it on me. It got to the point where I was taking money from the savings account to pay the bills that I wouldn't tell him. He would ask money from the savings to buy big things like a good cart, boat. I would tell him I haven't touched the savings account so I wouldn't get yelled at. I kept saying to myself I will put it back but it never happened. He thought he had a lot in the savings. He would ask I would get defensive and we would argue it was horrible. It ate me alive I was defensive. When he found out. He was angry. He told me after the bankruptcy he put me back in charge to teach me a lesson. He hates me now he can't forgive me. I tryed to show him I was so sorry I should of never lied. I tryed for 4 years. He was so distant and hateful threatens me with the kids. He tells our boys never to trust woman they will lie and ruin you. Tells me how dare you to teach them that they can be whatever they want to be when they grow up but I tell them always do better what your parents have done. I guess that is wrong. I ended up leaving the house and my kids are with me but goes back and forth. I love him so much that. I went into a big depression where I couldn't eat. I would take the kids to school and go to sleep and work. I beat myself up over lying. I wish every day I could win the lottery to give it to him because of my lie. I ruined my marriage.its over because of my lie. Its all my fault. I've begged him for forgiveness. I told him. I was so sorry but now he tells me he don't want me but he don't want me with anyone else. I'm at a loss.. I tryed to show my appreciation by showing him. Working,cooking,cleaning,yard work and don't forget in the bedroom was awesome. I tryed now I know I can't keep someone that wasn't to be with me. I have to move on and learn from my mistakes. Its the hardest thing is to let him go.",0.037447916666668135,2.0934753489583358,1.973472222222224,96.94375000000002,86.30902777777777,4.572222222222221,18.54861111111111,5.800992412223965,-0.4148180555555556,2075,55,485,14,64,686,225,576,0.141,0.768,0.091,-0.9874,5,0,0,0,0,0,59.0,4,3,6,11,22,29,6,1,25,0,57,5,2,1,7,80,101,31,0,23,8,1,1,1,0,13,0,4,1,6,24,22,2,4,9,4,15,13,19,16,0,0,32,6,98,13,66,48,6,66,0,5,1,1,75,26,0,4,25,324,122,12,0.06666763402451481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06514684038655533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554728121412076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04661555980964068,0.06830886947460997,0.0,0.0,0.1869757150315652,0.0,0.0,0.2050531816695715,0.0,0.08127994182947387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0589621046068699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05322868097382183,0.0,0.0,0.04299510867005706,0.0,0.05742073549627352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822413611522242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821763320015875,0.055692253623530835,0.0,0.11809547148716094,0.0,0.0,0.04403334351576085,0.0,0.0561703570171318,0.06370378128911487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309761963840053,0.0,0.0,0.1044932615180638,0.06395366937694953,0.15155501108944305,0.055917648395290634,0.10664039426735146,0.0,0.0734419150535221,0.0,0.05895396859463596,0.0,0.0,0.1974614590689153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900146731119279,0.044685909793219916,0.0,0.0,0.06621600323068137,0.0,0.07692549869640647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615733978464466,0.059257256313740236,0.0,0.0,0.03663878815062047,0.0,0.0,0.07059139838552445,0.0,0.06817217266046477,0.0,0.03257043847210978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056678438390488875,0.06017014258533865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07085714432203223,0.04900838188430422,0.0,0.20567275715590344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402651800165773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12604492607366222,0.0,0.1276983295186244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680775436748479,0.0,0.07090923506634983,0.06668567523309046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10603355683838077,0.0,0.06747120484792178,0.05312547282986381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671578059250098,0.0,0.0564872699643218,0.0,0.0,0.14925791626171078,0.0,0.0,0.05324085865007114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002515277940205,0.0,0.3496227037940561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858202740268738,0.0,0.0,0.05292665456848058,0.07774886705321121,0.0,0.0,0.12740756257822974,0.0,0.2263147366210741,0.0,0.0,0.06940335817991268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572891913859834,0.05291766476572462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185404693965508,0.0,0.0,0.07666448898012636,0.0,0.0,0.24267415788767924,0.0,0.0,0.3315114209620506,0.07289059214528572,0.0,0.12879531158264068 divorce,kabevis,2019/01/21,"Wife can't talk about anything real Well it started about a year since I got the alarm that something was wrong with the marriage. Last Valentine's day i got home from work and set up the gifts for my wife on the table so when she walks in she would see them, she comes in and said oh thanks i didn't even get you anything. Wow. Ok i thought. you couldn't even get me a candy bar or just write me a note.I bought her stuff a week before. Coffee,candy a video game and a card. So after that i started to notice things where different, I have asked her what is going on, she finally tells me after weeks of asking. She doesn't know what she wants? We have been together 16 years 3 married 3 years 2 kids one step daughter 18 and one 8 year old. The last year she has been checked out, i think she is seeing someone else but you never know. She doesn't really go out, just to work or with the kids somewhere. We're just living like roommates.I love her but i know she doesn't feel the same, and she will not talk about anything real, dont know what to do.",1.6136425339366482,3.391467140271498,2.4416719457013585,97.23825452488691,78.9547511312217,5.1439819004524905,19.194796380090498,5.6839178017228535,-0.4173495022624429,822,18,189,4,20,257,131,221,0.018000000000000002,0.9,0.081,0.9153,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,1,3,1,2,13,8,0,1,13,1,18,2,0,0,1,34,43,12,0,3,8,3,1,1,0,2,0,1,1,2,8,11,1,0,7,3,2,5,9,2,1,2,9,4,31,6,20,31,1,32,0,0,2,1,34,8,0,2,19,114,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834100283688005,0.0,0.21464362269427892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768571490235907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888939747631102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07403602559977328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994079293209603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454387774989673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590005101795043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15164765707625105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804595519220596,0.0,0.0,0.1257569779960098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995575037962272,0.0,0.1304861300258348,0.0,0.18363091068184684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11515301794823328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25236268416301283,0.18715343792040098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608511970563557,0.0,0.10136984980760567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361081422018947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854026646858461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13069971840425335,0.12046251206499425,0.0,0.1555818992201639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2613333812927343,0.0735433455646144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920038503427576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829602942332387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496313418199917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726904046767426,0.08837807893907755,0.0,0.0,0.1625110142053833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314176872276165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18454259335258907,0.10033961322979308,0.10569173484898696,0.0,0.0,0.07626752729936148,0.0735587304226075,0.0,0.09113778924511286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771157789938463,0.0,0.18417008358869036,0.0,0.1032183215846835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16715045707781248,0.0,0.0,0.08155010055848695,0.12551496932973896,0.0,0.369634798020018 divorce,SpyderR722,2019/01/21,"Looking for advice, I’m so lost I’m looking for advice on what to do about settling our finances. We’ve been married for 17 years and have a 10 year old son. After a few years of our slowly dying relationship and the last 8 months of me thinking she’s cheating and accusing her several times with no ‘real’ proof she finally told me 2 weeks ago she wants a separation. We live in SC and you have to separate for a year before divorce. She wants to do mediation, sell the house and divide everything now and not wait the year till the divorce is final. She’s been depressed, says she lost her identity and the only way she can get it back is living by herself so she wants everything finalized as quickly as possible so she can move out. She says we can’t afford to keep the house and for her to pay for a place of her own. I want to keep the house, but I can’t afford it without her financial help. She’s a traveling consultant and is usually gone 2 or more weeks a month so I’m wondering if her travel schedule would be enough to convince a judge to award me primary custody and make her pay alimony so I can keep the house and my son since I think it’s in his best interest to stay in the house. The rest of our finances are fairly even with the exception of 401k. We always kept my percentage high and hers low since my company matched a higher percentage. However, that resulted in my 401k totaling more than 2x her total so she’s saying she wants most of the profit from the sale of our house to make up for the 401k difference. I heard her telling her dad last week that she’s getting a promotion and 25% raise which would put her pay at 40k/year more than me. I’d like to avoid lawyers as well due to cost, but is there any way to get primary custody without a lawyer and the associated cost? Or am I crazy thinking it would even be possible to get custody and alimony? She told me if I don’t fight her there may be a chance to get back together some day if I can “fix myself” and get past thinking she cheated, but if I fight her there would be no chance because she would resent me for fighting her. So what do I do, hold out hope she’ll come back to me and not fight her on our finances or do I have a shot at primary custody and alimony based on her travel schedule and promotion? 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Please let me know how to do this. My very controlling husband wants to separate lol the kitchen and kids items one by one, the process is excruciating and taking so much email back and forth I need to simplify it! Once we’ve done through the big items and furniture, I offered him to let go of his expensive stuff if he’d let me dort out the kitchen and kids stuff roughly 50/50. He refused. I accepted to do the kitchen and decide who will keep the red kitchen scissors and who will keep the blue ones but i HATE it and now he wants to the kids stuff (clothes and games and lunch boxes) and I just don’t want to and can’t... I’m moving out in a few days and need to pack and get electricity there and don’t have the time to go through this. How do I simplify? I’m tired of emailing the lawyers for this, already had 2 e-mails at $500/hr. Let me know if you have ideas on how to position myself and expedite this so I can focus on my move! 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How does it work? Does it benefit? Today just begin the individual one. Counselor asked me many questions. Ask me if I want to save marriage or just co-parenting. Also ask how the life looks like since separating.,3.5500000000000007,6.707287333333337,4.941666666666666,70.32000000000002,92.33333333333334,9.066666666666668,31.0,8.841846274778883,4.347575000000001,224,12,33,8,8,74,36,48,0.0,0.799,0.201,0.8604,3,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,2,0,9,8,5,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,3,3,1,7,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,3,3,18,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662232703871359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5829550688701467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3637943473609441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681563676826706,0.10154849360749464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745476375979855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107345036074868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084936950587584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616014854398418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2328475540097956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719415644477872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19702425351138256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259951965080886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15132246495277132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ACurlyRoot,2019/01/21,"There’s no way he loves me My husband has been in prison for a few months now and I moved my son and I to anther state. I still talk to my husband fairly often because I don’t want to break up with him when he’s already so low but I know he would never show me the same respect. He’s abusive. He’s recorded me while I was being admitted to hospital for a suicidal attempt. His best friend has a copy and I only found about it recently. He’s keep a log of everything I’ve done under stress. Not for my benefit. Not for me to get help but to make sure my son doesn’t have a mother if I decide to leave. I’ve been told he’d have me killed if I left. I don’t owe him the respect of even vocalizing that I’m leaving. I always tell myself a boy needs his father but I’m not allowing him to turn my little boy into a monster. He’s two. He’ll forget him the good and bad. I’m willingly to pull everything out to prevent unsupervised visits immediately after release. 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Hello, My wife and I are separating after 8 years (4 married) We have two young children, ages 4 and 1. Neither of us are in the position to afford lawyers or anything, in fact she’s in the process of getting a job so she can move out. What’s a normal separation for the custody of the children? As far as I can tell this will be a very amicable and reasonable divorce, but I think my wife isn’t too keen on a straight 7 days with 7 days without schedule. Although I was under the impression that was completely normal?",4.1576785714285736,5.290230839285716,5.568214285714286,80.07678571428572,70.96428571428571,8.1,33.64285714285714,8.472884824447931,2.7411571428571424,442,22,85,7,8,149,79,112,0.0,0.916,0.084,0.8171,2,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,2,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,10,0,10,0,0,2,1,15,12,10,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,2,0,10,2,17,8,1,17,0,0,0,0,12,8,0,1,8,62,13,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19899445542003086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535401014540091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119034004651097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597175818511063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633919144649078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23996565984873194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25701277360278346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4738578455425166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486277364612557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2113583644866953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494631138585765,0.0,0.0,0.14100520248885165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23621967817871786,0.0,0.29087559238874144,0.0,0.0,0.19952401780669532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23310257049503105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15572196035470426 divorce,passagg,2019/01/21,"How do you deal with child’s custody We are heading down this road due to infidelity on WH’s part. Some basic information before I dive into my question - child is less than a year old and WH is still very involved with AP. WH is not based in the same country as our child and I. So, my question is as much as I’d like to share custody for the best of our child but I do not want him to be exposed to AP at all. So I’ve been trying my best to stop my child’s travels with his dad as of right now up until he’s at least 3 years of age so that he could let me know who he meets. There is also a clause in our agreement that states that our child should not be introduced to any partner either parent is or might be dating and if this clause would be broken, there will be repercussions. Would love to hear about all your advises and experiences.",4.177875383043927,4.238529044943822,4.907425944841677,88.700342185904,70.34831460674157,7.821041879468847,25.732379979570993,7.348242739294969,0.9475662921348312,662,17,151,6,11,214,112,178,0.052000000000000005,0.833,0.116,0.9339,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,2,0,2,10,6,0,0,4,0,22,2,1,1,2,32,26,17,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,5,0,1,0,7,6,9,0,1,4,1,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,17,6,29,13,11,22,0,0,0,1,32,10,0,6,11,108,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435420089729276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206268909197338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273694191544246,0.0,0.3767376532066386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331207430603307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850513632610247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558045737529435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18421355462215727,0.0,0.20230380082316649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09864570441839594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835456993331308,0.0,0.0876921429030093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16200115778626098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190415726597475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194940655538778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834970626616127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993078478440595,0.1943754881542457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40215074109846144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328766630483484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334486129251456,0.15006577604642926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12186525669174755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810209309212746,0.10587074426346353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255016058072567,0.0,0.0,0.2311776649494383 divorce,VV935,2019/01/21,"Divorcing after 2 months of marriage. Just found this sub, so seeing if this helps. First of all, just scrolling through here I'm realizing my situation could be much worse, I cant imagine what some of y'all must feel. So my STBX and I have been together for 4 years, and got married last October. She was my 100% perfect woman. We fell hard for each other, and got along so well that we never had a single argument in those 4 years. Shortly after getting married she started a new job working late, and one night she didn't come home and didn't answer my calls or texts. She began acting distant, so I asked her what was up. To my surprise she told me that getting married was a mistake. She had run into her ex and cheated. Then come to find out it happened months ago as well with a co-worker at a previous job. She said she hasn't been here true self with me, just trying to be the person that she thought I wanted. She never thought she would get married and wasnt the type to have one partner for the rest of her life, though she constantly assured me that I was the one and only for her. It's been 3 weeks since that conversation and I'm just starting come back to reality. I've been in limbo, not being able to focus on anything but the thought of her with someone else. As much as I know in my mind that I could never trust her again and there's no chance of reconciling, I still want my best friend by my side. I have so many opposing emotions going through me. I'm pissed that she lied for all that time, but thankful because it was the best 4 years of my life. I'm devastated because it's over, but relieved it didnt go on for years behind my back. I'm terrified of life without her, without my partner in crime. I'm terrified of getting back into dating. It feels like no one will be able to live up to who I thought she was. And mostly I'm scared of who she really is. Part of me wants to know, and part of me wants to remember her the way I do. For some reason I still worry about her and her coping skills (not a good track record before I came into the picture). I want to hate her, but I cant. I want to yell and berate her, but I dont have it in me. I dream about her every night. Sometimes good memories, sometimes nightmares of walking in on her with someone else. I usually dont remember my dreams when I wake up, but I remember every bit of them since it happened. I've talked to friends and family, but none of them have gone through anything quite like this. Everyone just says ""time will heal"", and I know it will, but that does nothing to help me cope right now. The bright side: we have no children (just a dog that I'm taking), shes not trying to take alimony or anything, and I know that she truly did/does love me but just cant be faithful to me and doesnt want to put me through that.",4.050854809437387,4.5433267896551754,4.888838475499097,87.19737749546282,70.75862068965517,7.76043557168784,28.19419237749546,7.669130373188453,1.4711896551724144,2198,75,476,24,38,714,248,580,0.117,0.755,0.128,0.4844,2,0,0,0,0,0,67.0,3,1,2,7,28,25,3,1,16,0,44,7,2,1,9,104,97,41,0,13,24,1,3,2,4,5,4,3,1,6,30,35,0,1,20,2,0,12,23,5,2,5,28,8,83,20,77,57,16,71,1,0,2,1,60,22,1,6,38,335,113,4,0.13519406831263148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059920692207919526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16687979841019748,0.0,0.06319410200729336,0.0,0.0,0.1559338402509041,0.0,0.08241304921740528,0.0,0.05752009731020623,0.0,0.14187783388292152,0.0,0.07379845382034438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902412967509874,0.07731299901945159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17468657842563548,0.0,0.0730483796366423,0.0,0.1079414627061757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915462011856652,0.0,0.1584464411895225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129372963512608,0.0760375651137959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11390683342574615,0.06459186294361831,0.0,0.0,0.06372446782059643,0.0,0.06835818306610818,0.048291334707798034,0.0,0.0,0.061782464595344484,0.05749800272140128,0.0,0.07411665891165989,0.10445060181495258,0.0,0.1412666415279124,0.0,0.07683390457059534,0.11339437026150932,0.1081270466427895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195516681235929,0.0,0.060553665193428724,0.06673807657215493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061773422130424,0.0,0.0678053367840618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1341592520133283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14859824862857998,0.05510060489336262,0.07625239884788693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323735291921136,0.06604899286138746,0.0,0.0596894195951025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061008962490492785,0.0,0.0,0.06853278286046219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825373474953855,0.0,0.10791061550049504,0.0,0.0993831958386553,0.0,0.15640499989896428,0.06528563681195097,0.0,0.12687047481405345,0.0,0.06486117737507781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832219990772552,0.05141059051489705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640200141679865,0.0,0.0,0.059023122886141186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0679536897532108,0.0,0.07189776650864363,0.0,0.0,0.04330439100151977,0.06950100938283325,0.0,0.0,0.22972278733447676,0.05772749782557396,0.0643002590477212,0.053755874707388296,0.06767642358842499,0.0,0.05386608440506845,0.0,0.07051844899039597,0.0,0.0,0.11183393036516234,0.0759818985964059,0.0,0.0,0.1145494953599586,0.0,0.13371039046456815,0.0,0.09569105739173138,0.0,0.10796615759176492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164911426170202,0.05433193552470175,0.0,0.06223426710317731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06641374284969173,0.2146579778325135,0.0788327484349932,0.0,0.0,0.06459186294361831,0.0,0.09178789801256147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444858308612949,0.0,0.27909337486911395,0.05365537933033294,0.05422226340995152,0.0,0.12155570356794868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13032225744179848,0.0,0.09842289188517812,0.06864806942386059,0.06888715278147636,0.048018993610988984,0.0,0.0,0.1741210949633857 divorce,TurningTheCorner2019,2019/01/21,"STBXW literally is not speaking to me for 3 months and counting. Looking for insight. Long story short: Wife stops speaking with me three months ago, gets a lawyer, files for divorce a month later *along with* a ""Pendente Lite"" motion for immediate relief from the courts. We live in the same house with two older teens and likely will continue living together until house sells. I have obtained a competent lawyer. My original post on this can be found under a different username by searching - ""She won't speak to me"" AND $5000 - in r/divorce. The reason: she stole my laptop and surely has discovered the post with the other username (its possible she'll find this post too, but I'm betting against it ... she's not a Reddit person, and I haven't posted anything since then). Please don't post the other username here because there is a reasonable chance she has someone scanning Reddit for that username. She LITERALLY will not speak to me, other than a few rare times when we get into an argument (which has only happened once in the last two months). Her refusal to talk is good in many respects ... we don't get into arguments. But its getting on my nerves. Even the simplest thing meets with silence like I'm not there. ""Good Morning"", ""Does xxx have a dentist appointment tomorrow?"", and the grand-daddy of them all ""why aren't you talking to me?"". She does this right in front of the kids ... and they think its VERY weird, and have gotten angry with her. Trying to work through the divorce, especially selling the house, will be an expensive nightmare without speaking to each other. Every time we want to communicate we'll have to send it through the lawyers !?! Cha-ching I'm fairly certain she's dating someone, and likely has been since the start. She disappears many evenings without saying (to the kids) where she is going or when she'll be back. She went away for two nights this past weekend, and didn't tell the kids where she was going. Maybe ""not talking to me"" relieves her from having to justify (or lie about) anything she is doing and has done. Has anyone known of this level of passive aggressive behavior? Sometime I feel like cracking and just start saying things out of frustration, but I've just been dealing with it for the most part. Its surreal. Two people going about their lives in the same house as if neither person exists. The only argument we got into in the last two months started when I couldn't take it and spoke out. For two months prior she had been playing certain songs over and over (and over, back-to-back), singing specific lines loudly, when she knows I'm right in the next room. Very passive aggressive behavior. I calmly made two comments, without raising my voice, and walked out of the room. But she followed and an argument erupted for the next 10 minutes. Things were starting to escalate fast (she grabbed my face with her hand at the end) and I immediately left the house (didn't touch her at all). I have strong suspicions that she's been planning this divorce for a while. I also suspect that she has been being ""coached"" by someone on what to do to get maximum advantage. She swooped in and took my laptop, hard drives, other digital media, and files from the house before I knew what hit me. She has found nothing incriminating ... because there is nothing to find. But it is crippling not to have 17 years of emails and files. She tried (unsuccessfully) to use things she found on my laptop against me in court. The judge has ordered her to give them back, but I'm still waiting. I'm looking for advice on how to cope with the silent treatment, and if anyone has any insight on why she is doing this. Is this part of some master plan of hers? 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The drug problem was terrible but I would have stuck around and tried to work through that, but finding out he had been sleeping with countless young women in town was too much to handle. We're from a small town and I'm the only one in town who didn't know what was going on. After over 30 years of marriage he destroyed our reputation as god fearing people and also went through most of our life savings. So...here I am, attempting to start over. I've taken in my step daughter's 14 year old son. Although I'm not his grandmother by blood he's been my grandson since the day he was born. He's already lost his mother to an overdose, and is afraid his grandpa will go the same way so, we're starting over together",5.0297329650092095,5.854468469613259,5.612941988950279,81.68563766114181,68.72375690607736,8.022283609576428,32.76289134438306,8.07648339933343,2.39091123388582,727,32,139,9,12,235,120,181,0.14400000000000002,0.8320000000000001,0.023,-0.962,0,0,2,0,1,0,16.0,2,0,0,3,5,10,1,2,8,0,14,5,2,0,0,21,28,10,1,3,3,9,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,5,8,0,0,4,0,0,5,2,8,1,1,13,0,14,2,25,13,4,33,0,1,0,0,26,15,0,1,12,83,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18276884474151428,0.13244846902347213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14743937902384968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096210310249863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681298477197823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38413966200885785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18637166168801486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137621091889586,0.0,0.0,0.18159681821532114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18825447350116192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102194277093256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11698426022646735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079681780417836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18041175008970656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217517924673391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379323596257273,0.0,0.1122302750422742,0.1259635795402449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1148219745997209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31695724535639386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270650082305466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700486652422714,0.0,0.16574238039873268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344572975788087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244698880464052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146364541523764,0.0,0.0,0.1489147603791378,0.1535339667368788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205753488375817,0.0,0.0,0.11765366358528075,0.0,0.0,0.21331126695286212 divorce,WickedPatriot,2019/01/21,"I need advice please! Long story short as possible. My wife and I are getting a divorce. Surprise surprise. I have always made all the money and she has been a stay at home for the last two years, to take care of our nearly two year old. My wife got a job about 6 weeks ago and her first paycheck should come in on the 1st. She told me today that she changed her direct deposit to another account which I have no access too and told me that she wasn’t going to pay any bills because she needs that money to move out and put deposits down. Now here is the problem, we had to put our child in day care and I have been paying for it for the last six weeks. 200 bucks a week. I can’t afford it and I have been skimming by. I still pay for all of my wife’s bills (car, phone, etc) what do I do?",1.6157142857142863,3.0130500952381003,2.7864285714285693,96.45857142857143,77.80952380952381,5.276190476190476,20.333333333333336,5.288315135182226,-0.34080238095238125,608,14,143,2,14,195,106,168,0.047,0.872,0.081,0.7574,2,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,9,0,16,0,0,1,2,17,28,8,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,7,10,0,0,0,0,11,6,3,1,0,4,9,0,24,4,21,18,3,30,0,0,0,0,18,8,0,0,15,96,31,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1377113165871396,0.1249224508056017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11726177278020848,0.0,0.0,0.09583455459370913,0.1477732633810713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859072192530534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873670244969322,0.0,0.1490810872696609,0.12139532380597315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088565134745392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15716981104404024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987163618639368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362805078881754,0.0,0.08009152857094264,0.0,0.1127114454729516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14136033040761015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13984737110176673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22974709905771895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12471513002034484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333476471374929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149782101116385,0.0,0.20898977833402968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14787819555796167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15469449656904172,0.0,0.1588729601647628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348472086750821,0.0,0.2833392323239097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020843108394796,0.11254373500582247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10595886001891157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335814285472391,0.2693217826328741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2753285700680945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3391271587731828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815035267308395 divorce,KidneyJunk,2019/01/21,"Pathological need to blame another...? When someone pushes all their self-anger into being angry at another so they can feel better about themselves. Hi, trying desperately to understand what’s behind my wife’s need to blame me for all her poor life choices. To preface, I fully understand and own all of my contributions to problems in the marriage and am not trying to deflect this. But I’ve been a loving, loyal, and emotionally support husband. By all accounts I’m a good husband and an amazing father. I’ve sacrificed / limited my career so she could become extremely successful in hers (but now is very stressed from her Dream Job). I’ve been the primary caregiver of our 2 elementary age kids (one with special needs) because her job keeps her away from home a lot. It’s been obvious for a while that the “spark” had left the relationship but I believed that there was still a strong love and respect bond. She suddenly asked for a divorce. Soon after I discovered her multiple affairs, she contracted an STD, had been funneling over $1,000 a month for 3+ years to a secret bank account. The money was from a pay raise she got and didn’t tell me about. And generally keeping a separate life outside of our marriage. In the beginning she would make up little lies to trash talk about me to our friends, family, her co-workers, etc. I believed it was just her trying to “save face” preemptively so she’d have an excuse as to why she cheated, etc. And I tried to rise above it. But over the past 6-8 months she has actively tried to destroy my reputation, my finances, a relationship that was starting to blossom with another woman, my job, and other similar things. One day she and a girlfriend waited till I came home from work, then called the police claiming that I had just assaulted her and her friend - while my kids were in the house watching and hearing all this. It was a total ambush and thankfully I audio recorded the conversation, and the Officer knew it instantly and advised her that if she’s not prepared to testify in court that there’s nothing he can do. And advised her to be very careful what she decided to do as he heard the audio recording. She has also been implying to friends, family, and co-workers that I’ve had “inappropriate contact” with my daughter. Not ever stating it, or actually reporting it, because it’s completely false, but just enough to get people wondering and then turn against me. So she seems almost pathological about destroying my life and any chances for full or shared custody of the kids. I’m not looking for sympathy but am looking for a psychological term or name for this type of behavior so I can do some research on it to figure out how to defend myself legally. Any help is very appreciated. If it matters I’m in the USA. 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Divorce finalized a month ago and despite her lack of effort to discuss finances and accounts/money we are supposed to split, I figure I need to just move forward or she never will (much like filing for divorce). So if I know the amount I’m supposed to pay her for equity in the house, do I just write her a personal check or do I need to pay her in some specific way? Figured this would be easy to google but I can’t find anything. I’m figuring someone in here can at least tell me how they did it. Thanks in advance. 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Just wanted to hear everyone else's opinion on this subject. Even though I do not pay alimony, I know of people who do pay it and people who receive it. I think that it's an awesome thing that anyone receiving alimony should pay taxes on it, since it is an extra income for them. The person paying alimony gets their paycheck, pays taxes, then pays their alimony. So, the person receiving it should treat it like a paycheck. Receive their alimony, then pay their taxes on it.",5.965857142857143,7.411445700000002,6.501428571428572,73.89500000000002,67.0,9.314285714285717,32.285714285714285,9.606745405546679,3.3333714285714287,430,18,69,9,7,140,60,100,0.021,0.838,0.141,0.8513,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,5,0,4,2,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,0,10,10,6,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,14,2,0,0,2,0,11,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,8,2,9,8,1,11,0,0,0,0,15,4,0,1,4,52,22,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982337752035244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368326312173013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18725283908652454,0.0,0.0,0.27090184288785923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812002543530553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31953152512628863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15580731677660908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385065631460064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3930943072572519,0.4950924786550685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23451884225541025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18834858767034646,0.18165900320250533,0.27854290790105546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16721900549129926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,queensolver,2019/01/21,"He wants me back?! Go fuck yourself. I'm moving out in ten days. The deposit has been paid on the new spot. I've done the emotional legwork of feeling ok with where I am - and today he said that he wants us to try to figure it out. To work on it together. I'm annoyed. We made this decision about a month and a half ago and had gone back and forth initially but he was the one who pulled the trigger. We've known it was inevitable, but it finally happened. I've been working so hard to be kind and good to myself and do all the good things as I transition out of this space. And then he throws this at me. And I feel like he's reframing it so that this is my fault. The separation will be my fault now because he's willing to work on it. And I feel like a piece of shit because I'm not where he is right now. I'm looking forward to my new single life. I'm looking forward to being alone. 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My (42m) STBEW (39) thinks I am totally to blame for the failure of our marriage. I've admitted my mistakes and tried to work on them. She takes no responsibility at all. Everything I've tried to explain to her that went wrong or that I needed to try to fix the marriage has been brushed off as illegitimate and/or a non-issue. Anyone else experience this? This more than anything else makes me realize things cannot be salvaged. 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A couple weeks ago, my STBXW told me she no longer wants to be married. We've been together for 20 years, no kids. I've been through the shock phase. I know I can ""make it"" on my own. Money won't be a real problem. As I lay here though, ""can make it"" feels a lot different than ""want to make it"". I don't really see a compelling reason to grind through what will be the rest of my life without her. I'm not hysterical. I'm calm, but my spark is gone. I feel like I just do things because I'll expected to. I'm expected to want to live, but I really don't. I'm not in immediate danger. I've got commitments coming up over the next couple months that I won't abandon. Doing so would hurt people, including my STBXW, sharply. After that though, there's nothing. My entire existence has been dedicated to her, to us. Without that going forward, why should I even want to go forward? Anyone been where I am now, and if so, how'd you find a way to carry on?",1.3769811320754712,3.2632383962264164,3.4609811320754718,89.12883018867926,80.13207547169812,6.692830188679245,22.864150943396226,7.7348632917899725,1.0215181132075473,788,26,172,13,20,268,131,212,0.071,0.8009999999999999,0.128,0.8646,1,0,0,0,0,0,38.0,1,1,0,1,10,8,1,0,9,0,22,1,0,5,2,34,45,9,0,10,8,0,2,1,0,6,1,0,0,1,8,2,0,1,5,0,2,7,10,6,0,0,8,3,22,2,27,28,4,23,0,3,1,0,8,9,0,2,11,110,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12378065210991306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763812876068534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851220221146622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028576326268813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090135580814057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14589197823381653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09222957487826182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14121032593567684,0.09975740735183444,0.0,0.0,0.12762659233029713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380784615829791,0.0,0.11168125609866156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14948535544978453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674138698954151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09863044132465493,0.0682200681128396,0.0,0.12330290270858235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524313603864196,0.11871522487606442,0.0,0.0,0.27962832619898714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114577107177342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850658562257668,0.0,0.0,0.13398641664961874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968073996161114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13361469709698265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893860230236428,0.17891134297284778,0.14357110952345226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11127339836347483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276927524570272,0.0,0.27438723072389376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13343008269017462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16796730777883592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3294484155917532,0.11083813617619684,0.11200917206480834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12600156591068204,0.0,0.0,0.2692120771003002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919482108460008,0.0,0.0,0.08992228680316973 divorce,stillhavesomehope,2019/01/21,"One of the hardest things so far... Was when my 3 year old son said his bad part of the day was when I got home, because he wanted to be with daddy. He then says he wants daddy home more and more. I cried. I know what he really meant. When I am out that means daddy stays, he can't leave. But when I am home, daddy gets to leave and doesn't stay. It broke my heart. I have a hard time most days knowing how much this is hurting our son. He doesn't deserve this pain. I am trying to be everything for him but the fact remains, his parents don't live together anymore. I still pray my husband might come back, but I lose more hope each day. Having our son cry for his dad hasn't gotten any easier. 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So my STBXH (46M) and I (42F) decided in June we would be separating after 15 years together. We had already been living in separate rooms for 6 months, but hadn't actually said we wanted to split up until June. Then I found out I had to have major surgery and so we decided to wait until after the surgery, to make it easier physical recovery and for our child - surgery was supposed to be Jan but has been bumped to April (that was not in the plan) In June when all this came up STBXH asked that we don't say anything to anyone other than family for the time being. In October we decided to tell our 8 year old what was going on because he was asking a lot of questions and had a pretty good idea already. We never told him he can't say anything to anyone, cuz if he needs to talk he should be able to go to whoever he needs (he's told 2 friends). I have told a few of my close friends, one of them happens to be my neighbor, she's known for months but also knows he doesn't want anyone to know so hasn't said a word. I haven't told anyone other than her, 2 other close girl friends and immediate family. He has told no one. Not a soul. He's a vault. I can't live like that, I need to be able to talk my stuff out with people. We spent Christmas apart, I know that raised so many eyebrows within our friends and neighbors. And we brushed it off as he spent time with his mom (he didn't) and I took the boy to my parents a plane ride away. He asked after Christmas if anyone knew. I told him specifically about this 1 neighbor. He lost his mind, yelling about how we said we wouldn't tell anyone and now I am off shooting my mouth about it and on and on. What I don't understand is WHY? Why can't I say something? Why the big secret? We aren't able to move for a while so we are living together separated (and entirely different post), have been for a while and will be for quite a while more, we are already over a year and it will be 18+ months by the time we move. Does anyone have any idea why he wants this to be such a secret?? Its not because he's hoping we get back together because he's already said he can't wait to move on with someone new. He does not want to try to fix it, so its not that. Anyone?",2.856470588235293,3.7351913630573286,4.1931141501186495,89.67362776320721,73.79830148619958,7.409541651055328,24.468652429124518,7.724431198458867,0.9795344823279628,1736,50,395,22,34,574,197,471,0.032,0.912,0.057,0.9449,2,0,1,1,1,0,52.0,19,0,1,3,15,8,0,0,18,0,47,1,1,3,2,84,86,36,0,13,10,2,0,1,7,5,0,8,4,3,21,38,0,2,15,0,2,8,21,1,0,2,29,9,46,7,65,43,5,60,1,1,0,0,80,23,0,5,29,246,67,0,0.18510188568071068,0.0,0.06021091305211891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723527115981796,0.04934197036779833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04195854322566886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3882826269034933,0.0,0.10154872014161953,0.0,0.17304527619361942,0.0,0.057969771592833924,0.04744397481031308,0.0,0.11283639145737315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056908183791145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06446402453608195,0.0,0.0,0.1079892716925236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11633172278254544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765155452026335,0.19067901028244905,0.0,0.032236031823193095,0.0,0.07013177820465155,0.0517515598698324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05456166206636245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061282646067466334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930499883637387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172715553760472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0301438104954006,0.0,0.16344835627981966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06735352467611437,0.05245566796655606,0.0,0.0,0.04118564867719088,0.06255475306349173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06230004597378835,0.07226303045348703,0.1477465591753444,0.1967340107365372,0.0,0.13725070281476984,0.047587328468750766,0.05959085154442911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474443051107942,0.0,0.08361988547446905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851124623904356,0.0,0.0,0.042775447010017835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05909214653165967,0.06277172102213198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911882483967062,0.06562621335430265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347657082502208,0.14720044893898526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052278742352981085,0.04750015828564626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063245795542171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991852561168957,0.16178720678080774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793439809035588,0.0,0.0,0.3537455682699264,0.06855166859097055,0.04189067665677178,0.0,0.0,0.06423253032074337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455705173319626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2783761017837858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043830356251675855,0.0,0.0,0.11919954557466872 divorce,maidenhair222,2019/01/21,"Ex is threatening to reduce (garnish) my support checks if I don’t pay for half of our boys extracurricular activities... Our divorce decree says we split all of boys AGREED expenses 50/50. We did not use a lawyer. At first this seemed like a good idea. Now I realize it is NOT financially possible for me. I make 40k, he makes 100k. It is unfair that I am expected to split something 50/50 when I don’t even come close to making as much money as him. I hired a lawyer and went to mediation asking for all expenses to be split 60/40 and a cap of $2000 a year per kid for sports. He did not agree. I got childcare and medical expenses 60/40 and that’s it. I made sure AGREED upon in ADVANCE was highlighted in the decree. Since he has now threatened to reduce my support checks since I can’t pay for 50% of our kids sports i have stopped contributing anything. (I’m not even going to go into the trash talk he has said about this to our kids and friends/family). I can NOT afford to contribute what I can plus have my support check garnished. I told him the only way I will contribute is if signs a legal document that states he will NOT reduce my support checks. We have 2 boys (9 and 13) that play competitive travel baseball. It is very costly. We did a lot of fundraising to pay for some of the cost when we were married and had duel incomes. Our boys also play basketball and some Rec flag football. Between the equipment and travel expenses I just can’t afford it! Can he garnish my support check? I rely on the full amount to pay my rent. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you handle it? How do you handle expenses when one parent makes significantly more than the other? 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I’m sure I’ll be deposed by my ex, as she’s very much into administrative wars. She loves nothing more than a good fight in paper. My question is, what risks do I face by not deposing her? There is nothing I need from her that I don’t already have. Our interrogatories and requests were each answered with objections more so than actual answers. Not even sure why we went through that process or if I even had to. Was a waste of time from my perspective. 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Not sure if this is the right sub reddit, but here goes. My ex wife didn't grow up with extracurriculars. I grew up with many. She told me today that my son (7) doesn't really want to play baseball in the spring. I said he's never shown a disinterest to me. But I asked her what does he want to do as an alternative? She said nothing, she doesn't like going to games and she doesn't like putting him to bed late on weekdays. She said she asked him a few times if he wanted to play, he said 'no.' I have a feeling there's some manipulation going on. I said you can't stop me from signing him up. She agreed to the custody situation. I'm worried that she is going to hold the kids back, because of her dislike of extracurriculars.",1.8473763440860225,3.9448862967741967,3.5135483870967765,88.27698924731182,79.58064516129029,6.197849462365593,21.301075268817204,7.3011,0.5102817204301071,596,17,131,8,15,198,90,155,0.099,0.7859999999999999,0.114,0.5329999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,0,0,3,6,1,0,8,0,9,0,0,1,2,19,26,6,0,5,5,5,1,2,0,0,0,5,1,1,4,3,0,2,1,3,0,6,8,1,0,0,7,6,25,5,20,19,2,20,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,3,9,79,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26968021828138217,0.0,0.0,0.11090769217530423,0.0,0.08792422234126808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262208842218069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292947104644013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24591595771411115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14240204770677142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16270318678951914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14093171867580848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14623149355858378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124280371445698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13839722313389047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14499585644524388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240053459802587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231757689399722,0.6860018318456986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16212600818781875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058678823731014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13593963379638865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08410449761283355,0.0,0.13671776745158948,0.13782257476991866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.255220344478973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647748570496005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ashambledlife,2019/01/21,"Just starting this horrible journey My wife told me last week that she wants to attend counselling to figure out how to best separate our lives. I guessed it was coming but it still took the wind out of my lungs. I've spent the last week grieving..contemplating, questioning, crying, and feeling lost. I feel so hopeless, helpless, and despaired. I feel most of all for my son. (8) I think he feels something is coming and has clung to me tighter than before, telling me that he wishes I didn't have to travel and that he has the most fun with me. There was no infidelity, no emotional cheating, no abuse. In the end, the word that keeps coming up to me is ""enough"" I was never enough. I've gone through the last 12 years of my life never being enough. I was always ""disappointing"" her because I could never finish things in the way she felt it should've been done. She felt she could never let go and trust me because I would forget to do things here and there. She was never satisfied with my career path because I was content with my current situation. I had put her and then my son on a pedestal when he was born. Her needs superceded mine, her standards mine, her plans over mine. That was my fault because I wanted to be the perfect husband, the perfect father, the perfect person, and I felt I had the capacity to take what she could dish out. I have made mistakes along the way, including being scammed for a significant amount of money recently and other things that made her perceive me as weak. Now, we're going to attend family counseling to figure out how to sort it out and coparent. Our son's health and condition will be our focus. I'm scared, sad, depressed, lonely, and lost. If not for him, I don't know where else I could anchor. I no longer feel worth of any kind, my friends and family are elsewhere. I am losing my best friend and time with my son. I am losing a house that we've lovingly built. From where I'm standing, I can't see the other shore. I hope I come out whole and stronger. 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Well, it has been almost a year since she left. The intense sorrow and pain are gone. The love I felt is muted and cold. I am not as afraid as I was. A lot has changed. I can't believe I have come this far and it is time to count my blessings. &#x200B; My relationship with my kids is MUCH better. I have redicovered ""myself"" my old personality has come back and I am much more fun to be around. I don't get angry anymore. I realized that she always had me on the edge because of her hang ups and I am free from that. I started seeing someone. Very casual right now, but it felt so good to have someone interested in ME. My EX can't hurt me anymore. &#x200B; I still have bad days, you never get over it completely I am convinced of that. But true happiness is always has a thread of sorrow that runs through it. &#x200B; When I was just starting to deal with this I was a mess. Saw no point in life and was clinging to any hope or distraction I could find. I lost 20 pounds and kept it off lol. I just want to post this on the off chance my experience may benefit someone. &#x200B; Here are the things that helped me the most: Let yourself mourn its natural and necessary. Sometimes you may have to force yourself to do things that will take your mind off of this, try to stay busy doing things you like. You may drink a lot or whatever, that is typical just don't destroy yourself. Keep telling yourself that no matter how bad things look you WILL have a future and you will be happy someday. Meeting other women will be thrilling and fun and you will not be alone forever. &#x200B; Therapy can help, I just had a couple sessions but it helped me very quickly to understand that my relationship with her was horribly unbalanced and unhealthy. It helped me set aside a lot of guilt and shame. Relationships are hard. When they are completely broken they are very hard. &#x200B; At first just dealing with controlling your thoughts will be hard. You must find what triggers you and ensure that you avoid thinking things that are not required. For example, don't think about getting back together when you know it aint gonna happen. It can feel good sometimes to fantasize about such things but they are not good for you. &#x200B; Try to rediscover your friends, meeting people and putting yourself out there when you feel ready. This was the hardest thing for me. I was a typical married chump with no friends and so I am starting from scratch. But the cool thing is this and you may find it helps ""I WAS REJECTED BY THE PERSON I LOVE MOST IN THE WORLD.....NOTHING CAN HURT ME"" Rejection can't hurt you anymore. I have met a lot of strangers in a very short time with very little effort. Don't forget, there are a ton of people looking for...people. Find the YOU that is fun and social, rediscover what it means to be human and to like people again. You can do it. &#x200B; Try to focus on becoming the real you and do things YOU want to do. This is also hard sometimes, because I was so used to giving all my time to my wife and family. &#x200B; Some of this advise I was given early on but I was too broken to get it or act on it. &#x200B; I still have moments. Even now I have to force myself to not think about things I have no control over. Try to direct your thoughts about things back to you being a better person. Redefine who you are into who you really want to be. &#x200B; Start caring about YOURSELF your future, your life, your kids, your passions. &#x200B; and if you are early on in the process, heart broken and desperate just please believe me, the pain will lessen, the future will open up to you and you will survive. If I can, anybody can. &#x200B; Ps, if your single female live in the north east PM Me. I am 50ish with a great job and am completely normal, lol. &#x200B; Pps, some people may feel so guilty and upset that they project these thoughts and feelings into their concept of God. If you believe in God, believe in a God of Love, who forgives you because he WANTS to forgive you, who loves you because God IS love. I am not super into my faith anymore but it is core to who I am so I am throwing this in here. God doesn't want to make you feel guilty, so get rid of that guilt. &#x200B; Good luck, thanks to the people here who encouraged me to hang in there. &#x200B; Don't give up, don't get bitter, embrace LOVE as your lifelong ambition. &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B;",3.037106391436442,5.380197742724099,3.4275017746102967,89.14730848405694,76.81140861466821,6.052874868678839,25.49307192140606,7.11905507035037,1.1367431386467532,3507,129,680,40,82,1087,324,859,0.122,0.653,0.225,0.9987,1,3,1,0,0,1,179.0,0,40,5,10,43,65,2,7,33,3,105,13,1,6,4,132,164,56,1,13,26,2,12,2,2,16,4,0,0,7,61,42,1,6,23,2,1,9,22,23,1,1,25,19,107,43,93,113,14,84,2,9,4,7,94,39,0,23,35,503,168,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02285651676852447,0.02364041243924097,0.0,0.018253604522883046,0.037985414757247565,0.469898529924674,0.5269758809264469,0.015522174098209357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054735013286172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02031960154498929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05265437598411755,0.03811680432324148,0.05565703599050152,0.025209054883621608,0.0,0.10286642893784832,0.0,0.04037473335137493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023272195520897116,0.0,0.024146432371502057,0.03932442444822521,0.07179654507693943,0.0,0.05120164776099298,0.01822436474488617,0.025256065199735268,0.0,0.014720607918774019,0.0470643322544578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02236037425432797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01507607737946312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02232779277514511,0.02151792120693333,0.0,0.05770648415639736,0.0,0.04383226411777355,0.0,0.08344865014019529,0.01941542290472079,0.0,0.0,0.03526996610153694,0.0,0.07155252681254792,0.043792743918362055,0.0,0.07658003928620788,0.0,0.025165277628270345,0.0,0.0,0.020184581078678345,0.04859649923151605,0.08178892918127006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027048416930873363,0.07649751075263671,0.0,0.0,0.0226709468043738,0.0,0.0,0.07330575215701264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02265086169202073,0.020288420323132272,0.0,0.0,0.012544339383422044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02480005462479853,0.02334069748274776,0.032244758090749163,0.022302846501438787,0.022877223197714198,0.020155401397010476,0.0,0.03833546939242165,0.0,0.02491681206679981,0.0776219523385769,0.12360583863796837,0.0,0.015236248924961376,0.0,0.0,0.024863743323715642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02304732446811907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0335588487513146,0.0,0.01760449101838065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022364217713127053,0.02190175535204318,0.0,0.02395160186752104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04857604342172801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494628048173494,0.059791236447515723,0.0,0.02505562756522831,0.02157754677537806,0.0,0.0218605918076818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022946007896787444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02598050213347484,0.014622648181359325,0.0,0.0,0.07351837773140985,0.0,0.019492916805224875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0181890284783148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.018881551970226482,0.0,0.0,0.023267799783521517,0.05802010828216505,0.0,0.06772523361038416,0.0,0.06462423943532401,0.024329026499769143,0.03645706824285254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.017161992137743016,0.0,0.01995055911107332,0.021014723256183625,0.02610303491320732,0.0,0.16680727969045728,0.04387712147357551,0.0,0.05436287204206466,0.039929329989678936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061988269960756334,0.0,0.0,0.023762229137572644,0.0,0.01971396860201917,0.0,0.09416745159337887,0.0673155792564193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02052293366334765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5269758809264469,0.029397844580163836 divorce,porque7890,2019/01/21,"Kids Don’t Want Me To Date My adult kids (early 20’s, on their own) and my teenager who lives with me have made negative comments recently about some of their friends’ parents dating soon after their divorces were final. They think the divorced parents are moving too fast, too soon even though our state requires a one-year separation before a divorce is granted. So in each of these cases, the parents have been apart for over a year and in one case, the husband has already re-married, yet my kids said something snarky about the ex-wife now having a boyfriend. My teenager has come right out and told me she doesn’t want me to date right away when our divorce is final in a couple of months. It’s not because she wants me to get back together with her dad, either. How do I handle this? How do I help my kids recognize or understand that dating after a divorce is normal? And that I have needs as an adult for adult companionship and someone to spend time with and share things with that’s different from hanging out with girlfriends or with married couples? I don’t intend to introduce my kids to anyone unless it becomes serious. 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CLICK HERE TO CHECK MY BLOG:[https://saveyourmarriageforevere.blogspot.com/](https://saveyourmarriageforevere.blogspot.com/)",18.467272727272718,24.450173303030304,8.724242424242426,52.106363636363675,43.24242424242424,8.036363636363637,29.181818181818183,8.841846274778883,2.6042,241,6,25,3,3,56,27,33,0.041,0.4920000000000001,0.466,0.9671,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,2,0,2,2,0,1,0,5,4,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,6,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44575061846822017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4447043063034489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7768812432350054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ittoa666,2019/01/21,"Also depression/loneliness. Need some support So to preface this, I’m in a much better position than I was last year. I have been separated from my stbex since last July. She messed around a lot online, cheated, and had a meth addiction. She doesn’t belong in my life, and thankfully she’s moved to the west coast as far as I know, and that’s a comfort in itself. The problem I’ve been facing these last couple months has just been that overbearing loneliness to have someone to hold at night, to do things with, and to wake up to. I crave that companionship that was there during the good days before everything went downhill. I want someone to confide in, someone to provide some kind of comfort when things seem so grim. I have supportive family and friends that have been there through the worst times, but it’s still hanging over my head. I miss the person I used to laugh with, joke with, and share my life with, but I know that’s more of a wanting to have someone in general that I can do that with. I also struggle with self confidence and just feeling attractive and good about myself. You could consider my stbex “hot”, so my physical attraction is still there despite everything that’s happened, and it pains me to think of her in those terms. Now I’m stuck in this rut thinking I’m unattractive. It’s hard. I wish I could break this 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divorce,chicagobears1369,2019/01/21,Don’t know what to do and need help About a month ago I gambled away thousand dollars and my wife told me that if I gambled away anymore she would want a divorce I gambled away a couple thousand more trying to get the thousand dollars back as you know it obviously didn’t work out so over the course of the next couple months again I gambled $9000 and if she figures out she won’t want to be with me anymore she told me that she’s going to want to see the bank account and I told her that don’t worry there’s $9000 in there and you want to worry about anything threes and I she wants to see it it’s because I’m in the military and we don’t live together at the moment so she doesn’t always get to see the bank account I told her that currently I don’t have access to it so that’s reason why she hasnt been able to see it but if she sees it when she sees it I’m going to be fucked and she’s for sure going to want to divorce known what to do because I want to spend the rest my life with her so if anyone knows the way or if anyone can help me out I promise I will never gamble again if I can just get his money back it will never happen again ever,2.878235294117648,3.2097083529411776,4.3274509803921575,90.75352941176472,73.31372549019608,6.627450980392156,24.411764705882355,5.900188976854957,0.4514705882352943,910,24,211,4,17,304,109,255,0.042,0.879,0.079,0.4215,1,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,1,2,0,1,16,3,1,0,12,0,19,2,0,1,5,43,50,22,0,15,9,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,15,14,0,0,6,0,13,3,10,1,0,4,6,6,36,2,32,38,2,29,0,0,6,1,27,10,1,7,15,152,51,1,0.0955698323712334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471689004337905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952175647251362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18955918666448185,0.13364929780649992,0.0,0.07864582896406891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26937301043783185,0.1469746038395701,0.0,0.11651696553278053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114924035030127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644838485594236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835277003544309,0.14979387874380906,0.0,0.1629436144326696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451208714166335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811688822566294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756804151257325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06750379893952403,0.0,0.0,0.08438991290429529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15256585681866586,0.0,0.0,0.07086381974232066,0.14741869283595094,0.0,0.10163960094291608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982617048107324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4569406975917846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09007343598737927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365284281543617,0.0,0.06488564281151057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945869428306998,0.0758588845267519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08623690877852434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957597619746793,0.19411160768609464,0.0,0.06789006688407746,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,paulinebrady,2019/01/22,"Need advice for 1st consultation with attorney tomorrow My husband of 20+ years decided he wanted out because he couldn’t make me “happy” enough and because I deserve better. Nothing I could do would convince him to seek marriage counseling to try to make it work. I soon discovered he had been cheating on me. We have two sons, 18 and 16 years old, Tomorrow I visit my attorney for the first time to ask her how to proceed. I know I need to ask her what I can do to keep him out of our house, as he comes to the house when I’m at work, and it makes me very uncomfortable. Also, the bills.. he has over-drafted several bank accounts so much that they are frozen. He has no concept of money, and spends it left and right... with no idea why that’s not wise. When I complained to him about spending so much money, he said, “just put a stop payment on the bills until next month’s paycheck.” Like next month’s paycheck can cover this month’s bills. Ugh! What other questions do you recommend I ask her? Thanks!",4.85083107846927,5.519839703517588,5.322713567839198,84.16603401623506,69.0502512562814,8.334132199458834,29.88055662930035,8.384062270229773,2.0314310784692693,787,29,159,11,13,252,123,199,0.09,0.815,0.094,0.2252,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,2,1,1,4,9,9,1,0,5,0,14,0,0,4,0,29,29,13,0,6,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,9,11,0,2,4,0,9,3,4,3,0,2,3,1,24,6,24,23,3,28,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,1,19,97,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125737334801562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10289939840978778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608744175648033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15687519452705762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380042137989445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11084001555585392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10273456764654086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295314909964973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944881238458197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697433100065073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29694171281293097,0.0,0.14525565627891915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437008199219433,0.0,0.0,0.07071507298101919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13980311111827384,0.0,0.0,0.0628629124989232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2576697955357055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30811562535777626,0.0,0.18917827125630748,0.19081814319785625,0.0,0.0,0.27368945108833315,0.0,0.0,0.12346479003740565,0.0,0.13502020491508904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935146072249526,0.14414271342992901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988566176040264,0.12239706869286796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14536336572728684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10757602034111036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846440400846008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503000352054877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736022081870287,0.0,0.12569439263613968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616833630414446,0.07589440869509867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610697015823915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1873503098965788,0.0,0.0,0.091405293642824,0.0,0.0,0.16572181774022104 divorce,its_ight,2019/01/22,"Advise on custody battle with bad judge This involves Me, my sister, my 2 brothers, my mom, my dad, and my grandma. My mom and dad filled divorce back in 2011 and it ended in 2014, even though they are divorced my mom brings my dad to court every couple of months for stupid reasons, suing him multiple times in small claims for the max amount, claiming that he is a abusive father (which I can confirm he is one of the nicest people I know who does everything to make us live a happy normal life),claims he's a unfit parent, not paying child support (even though he has), and one of the worst is making him pay her for our medical insurance (she never got us the insurance and pocketed the money). She isn't a very good person or mother. She has stolen money from her kids and her family (she even stole my grandads rolex that he got for serving), she would pawn our stuff (phones, computers, etc...), even tho she got 4k a month from my grandma, she always starts fights with us, lets my 2 brothers miss sometimes a WHOLE month of school because she doesn't really care, and recently she called the cops on me twice. The first time she called them was because we wouldn't go with her to decorate her christmas tree, it was the midterms and we had to study so we didn't have time, so she shows up with a ""court order"" saying that we had to go with her and when asked to see it she just put it behind her back and said ""your just gonna rip it up"" (which I wasn't), I talked to her in the calmest way I could and gave her some good reasons why we wouldn't go with her but she started to yell and get mad even though we were being calm. We then went inside while she's calling the cops from her car. When the cops showed up they basically explained that since we were to old they couldn't force us to go with her and told us that the court order wasn't real. The 2nd time the cops were called (on christmas eve) was because she gave me a computer as a gift and she wanted it back. So she showed up with a police department from the town over and the cop explained to me that if I didn't give it back to her that she was gonna press charges and I would be investigated (keep in mind that I'M HER SON), so I just gave it to her so I wouldn't have to deal with that stuff. All that stuff I wrote about her was just to explain what type of person she is and what type of mother she is. She filled for a custody change because ""my dads a abusive alcoholic who abuses us"" and she wants a restraining order against my grandma because she takes care of us while my dad works (he works in oil field so he's usually gone for a couple days) and we don't want to say with our mom. But the problem is that the judge that they have is always taking the woman's side (she's very bias). She hasn't talked to us about what we want since 2012 and she thinks she knows what we want so my dad filled to let us talk to her tomorrow. What I want to know is 1. Will she actually listen even though she's very bias ? 2. Would it be beneficial to me if I just say what I want or should I just say the negatives about my mom? 3. What do I do about my other 2 brothers that hate my dad and them saying some stuff that will be in my moms favor? Let me know what yall think will hapen. P.S Me and my sister live with my dad while my 2 brothers live with my mom (it's really a week to week thing but we haven't done that in 2 years, we just stay with who ever when we want to)",4.329394362620622,4.3811520181564285,4.698821736922298,90.3578466226511,70.0195530726257,7.794007110208228,24.652615540883694,7.259408732682427,0.7500877094972069,2679,60,614,23,44,846,269,716,0.095,0.877,0.029,-0.9889,3,0,1,0,4,0,75.0,26,2,6,3,37,17,5,0,35,0,56,2,0,4,3,106,109,49,0,21,15,26,1,0,0,12,2,8,0,5,45,49,1,2,11,3,4,13,16,9,0,4,26,11,127,8,76,62,7,70,0,1,1,0,154,19,0,6,33,418,172,11,0.0,0.16476371752794347,0.045234264737104485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04953772365591178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07713954028462869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043334203264624976,0.0,0.0,0.14257171718306602,0.03870318096306935,0.1412831147609476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893281537672204,0.0,0.09452082992214664,0.0,0.049035786618498216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037009445003669074,0.10257838548594317,0.0,0.029894130018623344,0.04778835478187319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0405642022093104,0.04743565625308162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04105538383842315,0.0,0.05169633156273381,0.1836960347721963,0.04192933457424963,0.039054767107311546,0.0,0.04165947733128432,0.0,0.04369789195119941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039428207033491806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024217755945701042,0.044466437384632886,0.10537489836924048,0.07775812194323567,0.1112192262123161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04934409212217709,0.0,0.04576441920693946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04120106169247853,0.0,0.0,0.10189853967851276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14219857952701867,0.03274080106279305,0.0,0.0,0.12279279359883001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061882553882576186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046696207833590436,0.0,0.0,0.046803754167832695,0.38002006931638943,0.1109966056476968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03575062567517847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045416523269284866,0.0,0.0,0.0486401311911042,0.0,0.06282057263546811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05147000257516922,0.0,0.0,0.03213563449244255,0.08094806075939774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0443539758918641,0.0,0.04659800378217328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276035561932834,0.0593903931634024,0.09531810001334333,0.04576842366805155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409273028708293,0.18431055488127898,0.0,0.04691214960555805,0.03693768526704093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766880787350463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04584473119275629,0.0,0.06561839791855265,0.0494065928135394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21225436654131655,0.0,0.052601327260303934,0.0,0.0,0.06970402678682433,0.11177140253608768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03079516166374278,0.05940281730263562,0.1821680530807081,0.0,0.10811623984139458,0.0,0.0,0.04429269234202444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5018172606410707,0.0,0.051051758467037286,0.1147393120034679,0.2187236494225369,0.0367931981037227,0.07436385705120695,0.0,0.0,0.04297009744372713,0.04182676410726768,0.05175195335991384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749170361424356,0.0,0.0,0.0987844480863658,0.0,0.0,0.02985009155178594 divorce,Cooper5155,2019/01/22,"Time for Divorce The time has come and I am ready for a divorce. However I am hesitant to initiate it. Things would be much much better once divorced and it’s the right thing to do in my situation. I just wonder how and when to do it . I want to do it here within the next month, But as I think of it I feel that’s excessively cruel being just before Valentine’s. And how do I bring it up. Just bluntly, “we need to talk,” “I’m not happy in this marriage anymore I want a divorce” How do you do this stuff I’m so confused ",-0.40787644787644695,1.7620625045045095,2.2787194337194343,92.84695945945947,90.62162162162159,4.973230373230374,20.54118404118404,6.5431188927421005,0.30678326898326924,402,14,90,5,14,139,66,111,0.109,0.816,0.07400000000000001,-0.6993,1,0,0,0,4,0,9.0,1,1,0,1,9,4,1,1,5,0,12,0,0,3,0,22,22,11,0,4,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,1,11,2,13,19,2,12,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,2,5,70,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21749308292779806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18661364821794296,0.0,0.0,0.19395874569699675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889131000533117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088793764308327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23345580896298185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17504832729497072,0.0,0.3224309695964119,0.16261296426721736,0.0,0.0,0.2332349124893981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23355422681917246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872865220242289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465096541671736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510534327196476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17627022861812158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29139493986651865,0.14052272695310408,0.0,0.0,0.25575872560095764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25870526905653946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378285052693245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578901984768953,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,system0540,2019/01/22,"Rapid divorce recovery? Why me. She met a man on the internet and asked me to leave. I gave my two week notice and flew to my home state. In a week, I was working. I was 30, a nurse assistant and in terrific shape. My first night on the floor I was approached by two nurses who told me I could home with them that night and have some serious fun. I opted out as I had not yet had my vasectomy. It was clear that the job would not pay enough. I started picking up agency work and had a girlfriend three weeks after that. Untangling my emotions became simplified. My ex texted me and told me I could not understand how hard it was to be a single parent. Limited sympathy and her online man never showed up.",2.3320130932896888,4.3651786879432635,3.7875177304964573,87.22615384615385,77.72340425531915,7.459028914348062,23.61211129296236,8.384062270229773,1.4831577741407531,549,18,113,11,13,181,89,141,0.032,0.865,0.103,0.8655,3,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,1,4,2,2,0,0,8,0,13,0,0,2,2,22,21,9,0,3,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,6,9,0,1,1,1,1,2,4,1,0,4,13,1,23,1,14,4,3,22,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,1,10,84,29,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15097387534920353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578775616390922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18165755209279305,0.0,0.16686512966120784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13736560881404952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446657395304868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3239806924534273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025658682565813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17099745245712172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12455312657718805,0.0,0.0,0.3030999197972709,0.0,0.0,0.18386051024348174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931853288162747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114305364834723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3086263924914135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3155098057767099,0.16811959689366104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3886191105110215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572204390212226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23513721912317195,0.0,0.0,0.11471978120652715,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MsPOtatOH3ad,2019/01/22,"Considering Divorce and Scared Hello, I'm new here. I'm strongly considering divorce, mainly due to domestic abuse over a long period of time. I have special needs children, and have been a stay at home mom for a decade. My children cannot care for themselves. I'm so scared and at a complete loss on how to provide for myself beyond alimony. * I know I can go to a shelter, but I actually think that would hurt the kids more due to their medical needs. I'd appreciate any relevant advice on this topic, what to ask a lawyer, things to consider, or how to help the kids through this. Their dad has been emotionally, financially, verbally, and sexually abusive to me during our marriage and I absolutely must get out. Thank you!!!",4.700053475935833,6.709005529411769,5.9774064171123005,74.22855614973263,70.91176470588233,9.3572192513369,32.216577540106954,9.800150414767053,3.4488176470588243,576,27,102,15,11,193,92,136,0.151,0.753,0.096,-0.8364,0,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,1,2,2,5,8,0,2,8,0,9,1,0,2,1,16,21,10,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,4,5,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,0,12,4,20,17,2,15,0,2,0,0,16,7,0,1,6,67,17,1,0.0,0.4344264305800434,0.17890128176720954,0.0,0.0,0.17914559844318095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12466904724828555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713865485259672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869146953647917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19221548935581972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20621886266645487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09578109880622132,0.0,0.10418929374617976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12288061868210688,0.0,0.18389251961709915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19625597594364472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075204861094704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223914748702842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468325911009587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2147110568032944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718701689593304,0.0,0.17705892806624188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3670857971543885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19540281760880446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878341332590982,0.0,0.0,0.12179470421131633,0.11746891673589688,0.0,0.0,0.10689979156227278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13023065946451862,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BrokenACOG,2019/01/22,"Divorced today. Finished court this morning and am now divorced. She ended up defaulting (no show) so everything I wanted, which was nothing, I got. She got the house, car and the payments to go along with them. Now it's time for my Corvette! 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I moved out on my own 3 days ago and I am completely incapacitated. I can barely work, eat, sleep. I need to set up my bills and have no idea where to start. I am a 47 year old woman who lived on her own and owned her own house before marriage and now after 21 years of marriage I cannot function. Is this normal or do I need help? Will it get better so that I can actually get through an hour without crying? 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Now that he can no longer communicate with me in any way other than Our Family Wizard, he has turned his emotional/verbal abuse onto our tween middle child. Name calling, accusations, badgering, gaslighting, and repeat, repeat, repeat. He doesn't care how much she cries, I think it makes him feel good to see it. My daughter considered sneaking out the back door this weekend to run to my house, but didn't because she is protective of her younger sibling. I don't want her to go there anymore. She said, ""He screams at me like he is screaming at you."" I have the GAL reappointed to the case (we've been divorced for almost 2 years), and will be speaking with him tomorow, and the kids will be interviewed next week. Does anyone have experience, or know of stories where a parent is able to take full custody due to emotional/verbal abuse? I have tried to put him into therapy, I have tried to reason with him, I have tried to help him understand how they feel when he does this, but nothing works, he only gets worse.",7.302183098591549,7.321537962441315,7.010434272300472,76.41593309859158,63.74178403755869,9.916901408450704,33.71244131455399,9.516144504307137,3.0387624413145558,898,34,162,15,12,283,139,213,0.14300000000000002,0.812,0.045,-0.9652,1,0,0,0,4,0,34.0,2,1,1,1,8,5,0,0,5,0,19,0,0,4,0,25,34,9,0,1,4,3,2,1,0,2,0,4,1,2,6,9,0,1,6,1,0,4,5,2,0,0,4,7,27,3,28,26,3,28,0,0,1,0,34,11,0,2,13,103,33,2,0.11839181394878692,0.5610997598265179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11855230000761735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08051049331346471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174128666077887,0.08278230905977757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103599703607224,0.0,0.0721705509100923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12089127904005408,0.0,0.12070834472156683,0.0,0.12524284096350327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300478483714428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721094842987725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663497111797529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11580991164988415,0.11160926558930423,0.0,0.11972491681698502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185483634632195,0.0,0.13456959241503744,0.09930143647867533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935553729754055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660825770768587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506504473283423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05784026009386339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902745513831705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17406321117812826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259110372603803,0.0,0.0,0.1136001385287406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09004230944751113,0.0,0.0,0.1314600986635594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901647305696242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217265028681217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261772651789262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09434294747735868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901591004644696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135391357199334,0.0,0.0,0.07586069392645838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2411408106853624,0.12877629651108227,0.0,0.12325005363225862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768564550154532,0.06983055929312322,0.09397391122721101,0.09496677186558654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412548382489755,0.0,0.08619065059441565,0.0,0.12065137290944601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624044655492537 divorce,AutoCanuck,2019/01/22,"Parents talking divorce over property conflict involving grandparents. Advice needed please! My parents are nearly 60, and I’m in early 30’s. My parents bought an apartment near my father’s parents over 20 years ago, and where my aunt has lived rent-free for the past 2 decades so she can look after my father’s parents. However, now that my father’s dad is in advanced ages, and requires nursing care, my mother wants to sell or rent out the apartment to pay for hiring a nurse. However, my grandmother refuses this, and insists that my aunt continues living there (although my aunt also has her own house elsewhere in the city), while also asking my father to pay for the nurse. My family has more resources than my relatives, so my grandparents think my father should pay for the nurse while also not selling or renting out the apartment. My mother is angry because the apartment was paid jointly by her and my father 20 years ago, and my aunt has lived there rent-free for 2 decades. The apartment is now worth quite a lot of money because real estate prices in the city has grown a lot over 2 decades. My mother doesn’t think it’s fair that my aunt continues to live there rent-free, while my father also has to pay for my grandfather’s nursing. But my father is siding with his parents, and refuses to budge on selling or renting the apartment, and wants to foot the bill for the nurse, and is now talking about divorcing my mother. Is there anything I can do in this situation to hopefully prevent the divorce from happening? Advice will be much, much appreciated. Tl;dr My grandparents refuse to let my parents sell or rent out an apartment near my grandparents to pay for a nurse to look after my grandfather. Now my parents are talking divorce. Advice needed!",7.599666827619507,7.977392935779817,7.2523804925156945,73.72044422984071,63.067278287461775,9.575342024786735,36.47658136166103,9.276330184999452,3.4832422018348623,1418,63,232,22,19,447,137,327,0.045,0.895,0.059,0.7639,21,0,0,0,3,0,37.0,0,0,0,3,16,2,0,0,19,0,23,1,1,0,0,36,38,24,0,6,6,26,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,0,6,13,0,6,2,0,19,2,2,0,0,0,3,2,34,2,42,31,6,44,0,0,2,0,42,24,0,7,18,164,40,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2402832936831704,0.14531256969744666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621868453729776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06744952214902447,0.0,0.07662542782832453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992918570457138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356792655497164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07726851802280463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07248063843444535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140890771471766,0.0,0.09457563910143517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08381390966007515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2895034294669616,0.0,0.1376585070265326,0.0,0.0,0.13936600021813605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205061810863968,0.1215507762390771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7280920234879391,0.0,0.07824406778906284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997203733010778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717897625936631,0.0,0.09329316145534924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213115310169337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1976390678282317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10503865185258864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09668917362359747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055644670286312 divorce,OhHolyOpals,2019/01/22,"What support to ask for at work? To start things off, I love my job and have a great working relationship with my boss. I’m very newly separated and have been distracted, sad, angry and all the other emotions that come with this situation. I told my boss yesterday what was going on in my personal life because it has started to take a toll on my work. This isn’t the first time I’ve told her, back in October was when I first moved out but moved back in after only three weeks. I don’t want special treatment but I do know that either time off or a working from home arrangement might help. Some days are good and some are bad - I also want to work! So she asked me to come prepared to a meeting with a list of things she can do to help me - what would you say to this?",4.385886075949365,4.69234568987342,5.1352911392405085,86.38660759493669,69.9493670886076,8.345316455696205,27.19240506329114,8.238735603445708,1.4922030379746838,601,18,132,8,10,195,98,158,0.064,0.772,0.16399999999999998,0.9408,1,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,0,7,5,8,0,1,7,0,15,2,0,2,1,24,31,10,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,12,10,0,0,1,0,0,5,2,3,0,3,5,1,17,5,24,24,4,27,0,1,0,1,15,9,0,4,13,94,29,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332970589899773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415890213140857,0.0,0.0,0.19871002018308145,0.1078854912078513,0.07876560973065436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226070586655112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333017651360466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14534458403118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21981301678081916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734333870540944,0.1083757584325014,0.0,0.14245519195597742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17321434302285202,0.0,0.1296088118448372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822162735372486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07101079118709244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126529957753228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11661765157897845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707207505763638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27466093359205696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827051776319057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282175108143927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872387669395614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027534908158179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14523817837757438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.182911918750822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14662670841132794,0.0,0.0,0.09715032436529464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168362187533245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15068753203986898,0.0,0.0,0.2469326164584369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066123139263138,0.15242357197487633,0.0,0.1036449853273721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4703344412327041,0.0,0.0,0.0917875347736351,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,nnylhsa,2019/01/22,Consultation for divorce I have a free 30 min consultation in a couple of days. What all should I be prepared for? 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I (f42) told my husband (m45) that I wanted a trial separation last night. I am completely broken by this decision. There has been no cheating or cataclysmic event, just a slow decline that is getting worse and I am so miserable. My main question is what is the next step? We have 2 girls (14 & 12) and a fairly large mortgage and I have no family in the same country to go to. I work part time but going full time shortly but not sure that I can afford to move out and rent a place for the girls and I on our own. I feel so trapped and stuck. I want to keep things as amicable as possible, I just don't know how I am going to physically and financially manage it. Any advice is appreciated.",2.592291666666668,4.232185868055558,4.577500000000004,83.6175,75.7361111111111,7.855555555555558,25.19444444444445,8.59863814320734,1.6866777777777773,551,19,116,11,12,189,99,144,0.16699999999999998,0.792,0.041,-0.9447,3,1,0,0,0,0,20.0,2,0,0,1,7,3,1,1,7,0,14,0,0,1,1,25,26,15,0,2,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,9,0,1,4,0,1,5,4,2,0,0,3,1,17,1,12,23,5,20,0,1,0,0,7,7,0,2,8,82,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963560022212473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177181397309739,0.0,0.1366459233781802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106815092466824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894281170857071,0.0,0.10160117729086547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10498272809037458,0.0,0.3425960789219791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17860448616272534,0.0,0.0,0.1104312338833205,0.16379271875001258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356715851962554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2137017082103966,0.1885683472905214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2175981723695125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20993927529918824,0.0,0.0,0.22652938111494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250985119343578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14222619225858255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18938334031529214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13349544403257255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23433917318498865,0.0,0.0,0.19200654622827665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23703894640098444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628653424323654,0.0,0.20477477629986368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,pooptimeactivity,2019/01/22,"Any of you stay at home moms before divorce? Sorry this is so long. I am currently a stay at home mom. Our kids recently started 1st grade and I am finally free during the days now. I have realized over the last few months that I am just truly unhappy in my marriage. Hes not a horrible person, but he has become sort of a grumpy old man. He works a lot, so he never wants to go out, he spends most of his free time watching tv in the bedroom. I know he loves our kids, but he spends 75% of the time yelling at them to clean up or telling them to go play somewhere else because hes watching tv. Hes still a good travel partner, we have great sex, and we do have fun sometimes, but he is so clingy and not ok with me going out for drinks with friends. If he tags along, he will complain if I dont give hin enough attention. We bicker all the time these days. He has never been alone in his life (if he wasnt in a relationship, he would move back home to his moms) and I think the only reason he doesn't want to end it is because he is scared of being alone. I am constantly walking on eggshells trying not to piss him off because everything is just a big dramatic deal with him. He has OCD and has to have things a certain way, but his inflexibility to everything has gotten way worse the last few years to the point that there is no spontaneity anymore. We made it thru his drug addiction and lying years ago. but I think somewhere in there I broke and now I just need my own space. But I've been a stay at home mom for 7 years now. Before that I was a caregiver for my grandmother for 6 years. I dont have a work history and I didnt complete my bachelors... I cant afford to leave hin right now. Do I still try to separate but get stuck living together indefinitely, or do i stuck it up and wait until I can get a decent job? I feel so trapped no matter what I do and it's making me more depressed. 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Hello, Here is my story -- warning, it's a long read. On January 21st, 2018 -- My life as I knew it changed forever. I was 42 years old, happily married with 2 girls, aged 10 and 12. Early in the AM hours, after a concert, my wife of 16 years (together for a total of 18 years) told me she ""wasn't in love with me anymore"". I was completely and utterly shocked as I had no idea. In our marriage, we didn't fight, we really didn't have any real issues other than normal married issues here and there, but we were as I thought: Happy. I asked if she was seeing someone else, she said she had met ""a friend"" but that was it... Nothing else was going on, she swore on her kids, nothing was going on. I suggested couples therapy and she initially agreed but quickly changed her mind. She said she had no more feelings and we needed to separate and go our own way. If she would go to therapy, it would be only to figure out how to separate and how to deal with the girls. I was completely heartbroken, I looked everywhere for answers... How, why, when, what could I have done differently? I told everyone who was willing to listen to me. Here is a rough timeline: January 21 - She tells me February (early) - She asks for divorce February 14 - We literally sit down on this day to figure out our finances and separate them March 13 - I have proof (pictures) she was actively seeing someone (her new friend) March 16 - I move out of the house April - My girls meet this person May - She moves in with him June 11 - Our divorce is final November - She marries this new person I cried so much every day for six months. I was a complete wreck. I was in love with this person and she completely ripped out my heart without giving me solid reasons for falling out of love. She gave me excuses (is how I refer to them), I was told she didn't like how I ran the finances, that I refused to dress ""nicer"", that I had failed to take better care of myself.. These were all items that if she would have talked to me about them, I would have been willing to work on them. Instead she simply quit on our marriage. I believe I was a strong provider - house, cars, and clothes, along with all the essentials all under our roof. We went on trips, we were doing ""ok"" financially. I loved her unconditionally, and I showed it to her any chance I could. I sent her little messages, I stopped by her work and surprised her with flowers for no reason. I would bring her breakfast for her and her co-workers... I genuinely enjoyed being married. I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don’t cheat, I drink beer on the weekends, but not losing control. I spent time with my girls, did homework with them, helped around the house, I literally enjoyed being home and being a part of this little family we had created. When it all happened, a built a strong support system for me. My focus was staying employed (I work for an Ag company, I'm in IT) and to keep cutting my hair, continue shaving and clothing myself. I let go of a lot of my friends including a couple who I thought was really close to us as I found out they helped her cheat on me by lying for her and making it easy for them to see each other. I started right away with therapy for myself and this was super helpful. I'm still in therapy, (I had stopped going in August, but in November I had to go back as I learned she was getting re-married). I still go, but it's not nearly as often to my sessions (1 a month, but my next appointment isn’t for 2 months). The other huge change in my life, I started attending church on a semi regular basis. I was raised catholic and while I’m not the best catholic out there, I do believe there is someone who watches over me and my loved ones. I pray a little every night and I thank him every morning when I open my eyes. I’m thankful for my kids, my family and my friends, without them, I have no idea where I’d be or IF I’d be here today. The other support system I found -- this forum. While it did help in the beginning, I found lot of helpful comments, people messaging me privately etc... After a few months I caught myself realizing it was holding me back or making me relive as I read more and more comments. I decided to take a break from the Reddit divorce forum for a while. So what did I do to try and move forward? I walked, a LOT. I joined a gym and while I haven’t lost a ton of weight or gotten buff, I do feel better whenever I work out. I go either 3 or 4 times a week for 45mins to an hour, is it enough, could I go more, probably – but juggling kids, work and everything else it becomes difficult. I have gone a few dates, I even dated a woman for about 2 months, but I found out I had started way too fast in that relationship and we were missing critical pieces to allow it to grow. While she is a sweet nice lady – I find that I’m not as attractive as I thought I was and I don’t share the same feelings she does. I called it off a couple of months ago. If you are going through something remotely similar to do with heartbreak, I am here to tell you it is hard, brutally hard. I lost my little family, my companion, the person I thought was the love of my life, but God has a different plan for me. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t love me as much as I love them. Things DO get better and WILL get better. Try new things, spend time getting to know yourself a little better. If you feel like crying, wait until you are alone and let it out. I had some all-out intensive shouting, crying, and booger inducing cryfests. Allow the people who care for you to be a part of your life. You’ll quickly know who sticks around to help and who just came around to “see what happened” then leave just as quickly afterwards. I find that I’m probably still have feelings for her, those feelings and thoughts have become sort of numb. The best thing I could have done is to do what is possible and not see or talk to her as it did affect me. I have gone through a series of “firsts” which is really hard. First anniversary without her, first birthdays ours (and our kids), and the Holidays were especially brutal. But I did survive and so will you. I had to close down Facebook as the memories portion of it was simply too painful, now a year later, I have debates whether I should open it once again, I miss some friends I only have contact through Facebook along with updates from family and extended family. Many people will suggest different things to try, whether it’s reading self-help books, podcasts, preachers, music, movies, but you need to find out what works for you the best. In this forum, I found 2 insanely helpful items. 1 is an article which was posted on the Chive, it relates to a death, but the person who sent it to me, suggests divorce is like a death of a loved one, but worst because you have to keep dealing with that person due to kids. While I maintain a civil agreement with my ex-wife, I don’t see her and I don’t talk to her. We do everything via text. The emotions described in this article, I can honestly say describe what I was going through down to the letter. [http://thechive.com/2018/07/16/old-man-shares-best-possible-way-to-cope-with-grief-and-its-profoundbeautiful/](http://thechive.com/2018/07/16/old-man-shares-best-possible-way-to-cope-with-grief-and-its-profoundbeautiful/) The other is from Ted Talks – how to fix a broken heart. I lost track of how many times I listened to this video, but it was equally helpful. [https://www.ted.com/talks/guy\_winch\_how\_to\_fix\_a\_broken\_heart?language=en](https://www.ted.com/talks/guy_winch_how_to_fix_a_broken_heart?language=en) Where do I stand at this moment? When we decided to get divorced, we sold everything, the house, the brand new car, quad, etc. She sold most of the furniture and I moved in with a family member who rents out 2 rooms to me and my girls. At years end, I upgraded my 2003 Toyota Camry with 200k miles for a 2012 with 38k miles. I have just signed a contract to purchase a brand new small 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom house for me and my girls, they estimate to be built and complete around April 30th. My girls will be involved with every aspect of that house and turn it into a home. They will help in deciding colors, options, picking out their rooms and how they want them painted as well. I am in the very early stages of getting to know a lovely woman who is divorced (no drama), emotionally stable, she has her own house, has 2 boys, (aged 21 and 17) and has a full time job as an auditor for the state. I will not rush into affection, sex or making any quick plans with her. She lives about 1 hour away, so that is a good and a bad thing, but she may just be worth the drive. Stay strong, there is light at the end of the tunnel – if I can sit here and type this out and realize, things will be alright in the end, then so can you. Be strong – life keeps moving along. 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Hello everyone: You can see from my post history that I've been on this board for a while and, for whatever reason, can't seem to pull the trigger. I've gone through all the preliminary steps; seen lawyers, figured out rough estimates for child support, discussed with parents/friends and have even done some preliminary apartment hunting so I know that I can continue to live near my kid's school. Even though I've done all this and things at home are not improving in any consistent manner I just can't seem to go ahead and ask for/tell my wife that I definitely want to divorce. I'm not sure if it's due to fear of her reaction (she can be quite unstable at times) or of finally setting events in motion that will change things for the kids or what the issue is. Perhaps it all goes back to my own inability to fully grasp or voice what my needs are. By all objective means this divorce is basically inevitable and necessary. Has anyone gone through similar periods of indecision? How do I motivate myself to go ahead and start the ball rolling? 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Too young, too inexperienced. We'd been best friends for two years before we started dating, and we still are. 21 years later we have three kids from 12 to 16. She never had much passion for me, and what there was had faded by our wedding day. I've felt lonely and unwanted since the day we were married. But I've sucked it up and been a great husband and father. I've provided a great life for my family despite never feeling the romantic, passionate love I crave. My wife has never had to worry about much in life--I've been the breadwinner, bought us a beautiful dream home, enjoy parenting my kids. I cook, I fix things around the house, I handle all the finances. My wife has never had to worry about a thing, and I was fine with that. She's suffered from depression for years, and sex has always been a sore spot. Once or twice a year, I'd express my need for love, and things would improve for a couple weeks before fizzling out. We just never had that spark. Last summer she said she never needed sex again in a moment of frustration. So I said I couldn't have sex anymore--if it wasn't freely given for her and for me, I didn't want it. I don't want pity sex. Or duty sex. It's not a matter of positions or acts of frequency. Never in my life did I get that ""I just need you now more than anything in the world feeling."" Recently, she returned to full-time work and got a job she enjoys. Apart from the elephant in the room, it was a great fall since sex was off the table. I asked for a divorce eight days ago. It destroyed her. I need to find that passion, that human connection we've never had. I can't live with myself if I don't. Twenty years from now, I'll look back with the same regret I have now about not finding a lover, and not just a best friend, to marry. In a strange way, asking for a divorce has brought us closer. But my heart is closed and I can't and won't reopen it to damage. But she has no confidence to continue on. She had dreamed of growing old with me, traveling the world with me, sharing a home and a life with me. I did too. She even admitted that some sexual thoughts had been rekindled. For me, I hate to say it, but too little, too late. I don't see her as a lover anymore. But it is killing me to see the pain she's in. I have ripped out her guts and changed her future. I've been sleeping in the basement guest room for a week. Last night, she went to the kitchen at 3 am to let one of the dogs outside. (Having a sick, elderly dog right now isn't helping things.) I heard her wailing. I went upstairs and she was basically convulsing. I gave her a deep hug and stroked her head. My mind tells me that I have to let her go--she has to find her path without me, and I can't hold her hand as we're drifting apart. But my heart wants to comfort someone I love. It's destroying me to be causing her pain. The kids have taken the news well. But they see their mom's unquenchable sadness. Getting divorced as the man who has always been the good guy, the rock, the provider, the dad, is so damn hard. Nobody else saw this coming. My pain was my own. We never argued. We were great co-parents. For the kids this came out of nowhere. But I can't live my life without passionate love, and that's just not her. But when I find someone, will I be so overcome with guilt that I still can't be happy?",2.5443257284843037,4.0609563547925625,3.575464196973119,91.27029817031851,75.58082975679542,6.507552142157973,24.137263760259017,7.133030437378802,0.7913084406294701,2648,83,577,28,57,852,304,699,0.13,0.743,0.126,-0.4619,3,2,0,0,3,0,102.0,11,1,2,4,28,48,8,1,46,0,65,35,6,2,10,104,107,40,1,12,23,8,6,0,6,3,10,4,5,7,27,42,2,2,9,5,2,10,29,19,1,5,43,15,96,29,74,54,10,85,0,7,5,17,83,28,2,6,46,393,123,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258768459878712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0987256507168002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883406907412472,0.0,0.0,0.04881909671678087,0.05281147771204504,0.11092099848686003,0.0,0.0,0.04561696083738058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096174206214807,0.0,0.18677254479734026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06785154606882039,0.0,0.06094271302905541,0.06275756796655511,0.05110289590788181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564154919261624,0.0,0.11477839099681485,0.0,0.051096197016986714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049558096720175256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039183343371559334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055925959655922966,0.0,0.0599926075345227,0.0,0.05696092599057629,0.0,0.21688646390145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750213245214132,0.0,0.061989317172957574,0.0,0.033715541252690634,0.049758665653416884,0.09489461513092866,0.26162235428490543,0.0,0.05874068785909815,0.0,0.06315214721032503,0.053143195266220834,0.058570767329058575,0.06088416185656676,0.0,0.0,0.1405998896905705,0.039764033514092495,0.0,0.11901483556104547,0.0,0.0,0.06845263131951046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058870518437983375,0.0,0.06563388789290688,0.0,0.0,0.09671494519055546,0.06692074061159821,0.0,0.0,0.12132685989580205,0.20951362154783595,0.0,0.05945884127425195,0.10476942958736556,0.0,0.0498177285345909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21417109575548168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059900941451801575,0.06948026263327756,0.0,0.0,0.08722082413613959,0.17595377734788353,0.4117931469726746,0.0,0.0,0.05567212484185901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062251195496807674,0.06317877023148644,0.0401998889865983,0.0,0.1893766933981928,0.0,0.06587295539848474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058575892366459666,0.0,0.0,0.0506628901714728,0.1128625727716464,0.04717730854368255,0.0,0.0,0.14182209281409125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814785578709646,0.0,0.05936745044858786,0.0,0.10053109386716287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0419902621249736,0.0,0.09475341544916728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185232129205322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576505311265325,0.0,0.0,0.04709711127710284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057951520765099976,0.0,0.14272039537386522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049735706392464,0.04708911164545772,0.09517324254335044,0.0,0.053339946226206116,0.10998900993817852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11437360814809568,0.0,0.04318902039548034,0.1204940360385388,0.0,0.04214249865478214,0.0,0.0,0.22921861096390475 divorce,Dietcokeisgod,2019/01/22,"Trying to sort through some of my ex wife's things today. Anyone free to distract me? I got a bit too emotional and I had to leave it, but I managed one box. It's hard! I need distracting now before I start crying.",0.44466666666666654,2.601837466666669,2.6044444444444466,92.42000000000004,85.44444444444446,5.377777777777778,20.11111111111111,6.742157984588678,0.3149111111111109,166,5,36,2,5,56,37,45,0.257,0.667,0.077,-0.7959,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,2,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,7,2,5,2,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,3,23,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21325231571116446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259519421864804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3329641806182045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.335011249788145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3430666125600988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439240365098125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732062864574661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3229346432066045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22614220812544306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666545041208506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21586966167673255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20261820893231186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890897292396901,0.0,0.0,0.20706451605897103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway44878768767,2019/01/22,For waywards who are currently separated or divorcing/divorced due to your affair how do you feel about your affair now and about your current circumstances? For waywards who are currently separated or divorcing/divorced due to your affair how do you feel about your affair now and about your current circumstances? ,15.301153846153845,12.686626807692313,12.703846153846154,50.29115384615386,50.153846153846146,16.553846153846155,52.92307692307693,14.554592549557764,7.80296923076923,262,14,34,8,2,80,22,52,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,4,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,8,0,0,8,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,2,0,8,6,6,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,8,0,8,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,14,0,0,2,8,30,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,soulsucker82,2019/01/22,It gets better right?! Coparenting hell So my ex is an ass who is treats me and his kids like shit. His gf is a horrible mean spirited person who says horrible things about me and to me. My ex loves on his gf's kid more then his own. I recently moved my kids (with judge permission) 3.5 hours away. Same state just different city. My ex is so pissed and taking it put on his kids. He is dropping his time from 2 weekends a month to 1 weekend a month cause he can't afford gas (he makes over 100k.....) and then calls me horrible names for taking his kids away. My kids hurt and wish their dad wanted them more. I know things would be better if the toxic gf wasn't around (he is much nicer without her influence) but sadly she is still around. I can't coparent like this. I am so done.....please tell me it gets better.....,1.6044277108433749,3.627086355421689,2.744201807228915,93.86702560240968,80.02409638554218,6.559638554216868,18.808734939759034,7.6454224807358475,0.3219891566265063,629,14,142,10,16,201,103,166,0.134,0.7709999999999999,0.095,-0.8305,4,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,2,3,8,12,3,0,5,0,13,4,3,3,0,22,23,12,0,4,4,4,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,7,8,8,0,0,2,2,0,2,4,5,0,0,1,1,25,7,14,20,5,22,2,2,0,2,36,8,4,1,12,84,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673544137814759,0.0,0.0,0.2821667973953003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39842180749117895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1533335569003448,0.0,0.0,0.15425911205301976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15688872709657922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366922990502202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690829220737856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788063938022394,0.0,0.16075295859317015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825258432037932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467244433619515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552827490183916,0.0,0.10023519384823247,0.0,0.0,0.16357189647658968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23971788677207564,0.1595998633510905,0.11038733111010984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13111683427372714,0.0,0.16483425141967106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095562962413284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826817998495295,0.0,0.0,0.12823866978427806,0.0,0.1194159131302562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.154140508084059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11992063533675258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22580828355071966,0.0,0.13124937573072135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952369805616768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08756144970364167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08857022708153675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726804273892366,0.1447520988014892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066717265948249,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,stevensmeister,2019/01/22,"This is the most difficult time of my life. So I’ve spent some time scrolling through and I would like to post. 1. I’m 24, my STBXW is 26. We were married for a year and six months. We have one child together, and she has two children from a previous marriage. We have only rented houses the last 3 years, as we were together for that amount of time in total. 2. We have decided to use mediation and have agreed on a custody plan, which will be 50/50 joint custody. That was fairly painless to negotiate. 3. We decided on the divorce because we weren’t happy with our marriage any longer, and also there was an affair that I had found out about and confronted and she still hasn’t apologized for. 4. This all still hurts. I’m taking it one day at a time and doing the best I can. I know I’m better off and happy being out.. but I love her still. Which I’m sure is normal. It’s hard to describe.. I try to take small victories each day. 5. I would love to hear similar experiences or yours. I’ve been scrolling through a lot and decided to post my experience so far. I’ve felt that really talking about it has helped. 6. She still hasn’t to this day apologized for the affair. She refused to even acknowledge it when there was evidence. She even got more angry at the person who exposed it. What I don’t understand or can’t seem to wrap my head around.. is that she, in 3 years, might have never loved me. I’ve just never experienced someone who just jumped out so fast.. but then will text you and just seem like they miss you. I made our conversations only about our son... but she has slowly started to share more. She has now met someone a month after we have separated, and after the affair. I’m just not sure what to think at this point.. usually it takes time to heal right? It’s almost like she doesn’t have anything to heal. I mean this is her first chance in 3 years to just be with the kids and be a mom.. but she would rather be with someone else right away. Could it be possible her and I were in two different places emotionally the whole time? Thanks for reading everyone. I hope you all have a good night.",1.5794600938967136,3.8892572746478886,2.893549295774651,91.17844600938969,81.88732394366198,6.415774647887324,21.2037558685446,7.635375032292933,0.7846341784037554,1653,50,354,28,45,534,208,426,0.051,0.813,0.13699999999999998,0.9897,3,0,0,0,1,0,60.0,11,4,1,4,24,20,1,0,18,0,46,7,1,2,7,76,75,27,0,7,13,2,2,3,0,6,3,1,1,4,24,30,0,1,12,1,2,1,9,4,0,6,15,4,46,16,49,47,12,56,0,2,0,3,55,21,0,10,35,244,70,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08506002169551236,0.0,0.0,0.06793038556408032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776542764264962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06990239406066617,0.07561894779352828,0.0,0.0,0.07980850594350902,0.0,0.0,0.05178160715393198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08914440525790762,0.07512683865171864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782157037688563,0.0,0.0,0.16434725049615018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874931440934627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07096054287787587,0.09555155070836892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221057713800904,0.0,0.0,0.0811684679561809,0.0,0.16618477409314825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08156040079465565,0.0,0.0,0.07225406697915289,0.0,0.09313767059391853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712477306701679,0.06793817611579554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808507972068202,0.0760939228083951,0.0,0.08717794798297013,0.0,0.0957390473306563,0.0,0.056936758913611385,0.0,0.0,0.0843694271776973,0.0,0.09801498042345266,0.09093524517944124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04668348160464838,0.0692414102772827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0599990770803423,0.12449932506097255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07221709476594071,0.22999819751004716,0.08037689427049376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09252987093201052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011308827139626,0.0,0.0994864105373846,0.13560437704094855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13102944802368324,0.0,0.0,0.07971501053096182,0.08322794164775765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512169090053267,0.12920880986074867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417058806369065,0.08874931440934627,0.0,0.08030036314969424,0.09576258296058897,0.16270741795607327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496786193472436,0.0,0.0544178618355838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508491763229275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466124714134827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159205498911868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060124419482788787,0.0,0.271348346477905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011907814372714,0.0,0.19160392263946086,0.0682754725852005,0.0,0.07820582786952635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054429245748978,0.0,0.0,0.2971922370854429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057671993956120174,0.0,0.1659575991107775,0.0884306102476238,0.0,0.07336509818948468,0.09355477850026328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09483791898507883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18102720528143715,0.0,0.0,0.21880685697774974 divorce,russellwilsonthedog4,2019/01/22,"Cheer me up. Next month would be 20yrs together 15 married. Two weeks ago today he surprised me with an email telling me he wanted a divorce. He’s already loved out and signed a lease on a new place. I’m a stay at home mom and my heart hurts. He’s not currently talking to me. Can add more if needed. He said he’s been unhappy for years but never shared that with me. No counseling, no trying to work on anything. We have two pre teens. I haven’t worked in almost 14yrs. I’m on a rollercoaster right now ",0.7469871794871779,3.0608684423076937,2.0861538461538487,95.54217948717951,85.73076923076924,5.38974358974359,20.2051282051282,6.816661863887847,0.26541282051282034,394,12,87,5,12,126,78,104,0.118,0.8220000000000001,0.059,-0.7231,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,0,6,0,6,2,1,0,1,16,12,4,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,2,2,1,8,4,12,8,1,20,0,1,0,1,15,9,0,2,10,45,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682725436744197,0.0,0.1900869878893512,0.0,0.20948175489275045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562136391266349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494906610815865,0.0,0.0,0.1904146309886384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20321658170999024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713286834135678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22232620845866266,0.1515202269086991,0.0,0.0,0.14075629070448625,0.14640833968268493,0.18333867261799366,0.20188600148045813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19833159593712715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211349604177308,0.18057148123956634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2023331644299304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15257789348915074,0.16591949361920202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17993632549113198,0.0,0.0,0.1288818812665566,0.0,0.3708719972496845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119664542805635,0.0,0.15226990629742848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27639651284139205,0.0,0.0,0.13484954699069518,0.0,0.0,0.12224407995486927 divorce,mom_of_3boys,2019/01/22,"Parenting differences driving us apart, among other things -was/is this a major factor for you? Not sure where to post this. Over in /parenting, seems like everyone is a new parent and not where I’m at. I’m 48, mom of 3 young boys. I’ve already navigated the new parent thing a lot. It’s wonderful. But.... I’m finding being on the same page as far as discipline or expectations is just not ever gonna happen, and I’m wondering if this was a major factor in other people here getting a divorce. My boys are 4,6,10. One of my rules/values/whatever you want to call it is that I don’t let my boys go to sleep on a sour note. Even if it’s not been a great day, they misbehaved and needed a “talking to”, I’ll then round out the day with a nice bath and sweetness so that’s how they fall asleep. Not with worries about mommy or daddy being pissed at them! It seems once my H is upset, then it’s demanding they get their butts to bed in a pretty angry tone and I just can’t stand it. I don’t want them to go to bed like that. To me, you can be firm but still do snuggles at bedtime. Nights like these are not all the time, but it’s often enough. I cannot stay silent, as I come from a childhood where that would happen to me and I’d cry myself to sleep at night. My mother is a narcissist. I just can’t have that for my boys, going to bed on terms like that. So I do what ever I can to end it a good note and it seems my H does not get that or care or I don’t know what. But it’s causing a serious rift. And btw, I’m no saint. I lose my mind with my kids too. I would just like to make sure they end their days on a good note and it seems my H does not want to respect this request or rule of mine. So we are always in disagreement when it comes up. 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We have joint custody. My ex already is moved in with another man. My daughter is quite fond of him. My question is ..does it ever get easy. Earlier, when she was picked up by my ex's boyfriend...my daughter asked me if she could call him daddy, and then when I asked her who I was to her, she said idk many times till she finally said daddy and then left with him. She's done this a few times I know she's four and doesn't quite know what she's saying or doing...but damnit it hurts. I mean, sent me into a spiral tonight of depression almost immediately. She's my everything...the single most important human on this planet to me. The idea of losing her to someone else...makes me not even...well it makes life meaningless. Does it get easy...can she ever forget who i am to her? What I am? Thank you everyone...",1.5926858383071083,3.6691533092783497,2.9292186652197536,92.24760444926753,80.34020618556701,6.146066196418882,21.035268583830714,7.273561745256523,0.5198288659793819,738,21,161,10,19,239,118,194,0.101,0.828,0.07,-0.7162,0,0,0,0,1,0,42.0,1,1,0,3,4,5,0,0,4,0,14,1,0,2,2,26,27,10,0,3,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,5,12,8,0,0,5,0,0,2,2,3,0,2,7,3,35,2,20,19,4,22,0,3,0,0,40,6,0,6,14,103,47,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440352417125797,0.0,0.15873130262822674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15082905323146867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689424503266872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687698675064334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114844742428238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238894043110464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517511599578631,0.1471985252348289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500513448395877,0.2602234985631221,0.0,0.13744553161952816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15756997288523505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15030119708621584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641309358948306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539839722413866,0.16237814412176416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15810168920436682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628286228140953,0.0,0.10159862879807778,0.0,0.14416572771635494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092045691488066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601448982471167,0.1458314460111506,0.0,0.15668421027488494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287943153929334,0.0,0.10665572945996776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15093615529128498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113400947694456,0.3059836422015933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736500508059921,0.11438754728717293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12187538467686915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242878494485408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677488235187477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852568216240108 divorce,anonmouse2020,2019/01/23,"Efile Divorce in MN Hello, Does filing a divorce online require us to go to the local court and get our signatures notarized? We are filing a joint petition no children no contest no attorney. I dont see anywhere on the efile instructions mentioning a notary. Thank you",5.6496938775510195,7.943244938775513,6.767091836734696,68.36451530612247,69.0,9.797959183673472,36.73979591836735,10.125756701596842,4.650138775510204,218,12,31,6,4,73,40,49,0.134,0.815,0.051,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,5,1,4,6,0,4,0,0,1,0,9,3,0,0,0,20,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3676765498208665,0.0,0.4924132782121752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21951130468616484,0.0,0.238781221865336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3348055659341302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3868181481558465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.505389341625292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,UnanticipatedUll,2019/01/23,"Crazy Exes who want to get back together I just found out my ex-wife had sex with 3 random guys in two days. Including with one in the basement while my kids slept upstairs. It came out when in a fit of remorse she begged to get back together. I’ll tell you what it did. It made me get back together with my lawyer to see if I have a case for full custody.",2.0700438596491217,3.2938676710526344,3.3236842105263165,93.79412280701756,76.23684210526315,7.171929824561403,23.192982456140356,7.793537801064563,0.78681403508772,277,8,66,4,6,90,56,76,0.061,0.887,0.052000000000000005,-0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,1,0,0,5,0,0,0,3,0,3,2,1,1,0,12,12,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,1,8,0,13,6,1,14,0,0,1,1,6,7,0,2,6,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5814412132769524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882822861260811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625537852931356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27636387337276336,0.0,0.0,0.39506296699317706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495727918633373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384993063345644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079811103076173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20085416623208013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22030604443199608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462198410880887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1486678033639572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,houseplantlover54,2019/01/23,"How screwed am I? I am in Indiana, my husband is 27 and I am 21. We have been married 3 years together for 6 and have one child, so assets besides his car. I personally have zero dollars, no car, no license, and no job because we decided i should stay home with baby. Hes done some really crappy stuff to me like cheating, some stuff that could be considered sexual abuse and stuff like that and when all of that stuff stopped it went to an almost entirely sexless marriage, but I flirted with another man and thats why I'm here. Because of money, and the fact that I was the last one to screw up how doomed am I? Is it possible to lose my chance at custody because I flirted with another man? I'm very bummed out and wonder if its worth it or if i should suck it up and stay together forever for money and my son.",5.785262807717898,4.99739789221557,6.908942115768465,78.57835662009317,67.08383233532935,10.535994677312043,34.72322022621424,9.994966539143718,3.2460517631403865,636,27,132,13,9,216,100,167,0.189,0.754,0.056,-0.9669,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,2,0,0,1,5,10,4,0,3,0,17,2,0,2,2,33,22,18,0,5,4,2,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,4,14,16,0,1,2,0,4,3,3,6,0,3,4,0,18,4,16,14,3,14,1,2,0,2,11,5,3,7,6,95,32,1,0.0,0.1656961131415202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003681143134392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29328405235562016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25574874113897633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11165664283326447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14311228194010345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402781856328141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877680836701384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399416695365973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13664459644197197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645329165623711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18952822017850354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12210921708446867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15765675231350113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08958972387340244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29811710426043897,0.0,0.11691855580662283,0.0,0.0,0.6403665332553631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153886201935353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963979390420885,0.12619038357190687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15165836788088588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005703842917888 divorce,aproxaturtle,2019/01/23,How to start over? Recently seperated after a 10 year relationship put my spouse through school obtained vehicles and house stuff. They kept everything and I ended up back in my home country with no education and work references from a half a world away. Has anyone else found themselves in a similar situation and how did you start over from absolute 0? Just a bag of clothes and luckily a place to stay.,5.549774774774778,7.782812175675678,5.963243243243241,74.27612612612613,69.13513513513513,10.87927927927928,33.954954954954964,10.864195022040775,4.349025225225226,327,16,57,11,6,105,58,74,0.031,0.917,0.052000000000000005,0.3527,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,1,2,4,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,2,0,12,6,7,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,5,0,14,3,0,17,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,7,39,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15348009292304401,0.2249045528412381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2062282673210216,0.16878259912210122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833647884126769,0.0,0.1944125954043742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19727320399778647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2406713445117697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2201772423166564,0.0,0.0,0.2532745018249084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293316623358821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22065897353702826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21673060146974968,0.23566175925227276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221465714876415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467281440134795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107276525736357,0.2339586928907937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25127594987060786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979922778882769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413513461347723 divorce,puppiesnpizzas,2019/01/23,"Divorce is changing me. This whole situation with STBXH wanting a divorce then wavering back and forth about trying to work it out, then sleeping with a mutual coworker, has made me so vengeful and hostile. I'm not normally this kind of person, but, Jesus, I want him to suffer horrendously. I'm usually a quiet, sweet little mouse, but now I feel like a shark with a craving for his blood. I may need some anger management after this is over!",6.78819277108434,7.282223722891568,7.375566265060242,71.74985542168679,64.78313253012048,10.495421686746988,34.672289156626505,10.355215969177356,3.7457007228915673,351,15,60,8,5,116,63,83,0.189,0.715,0.096,-0.8582,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,4,6,2,0,5,0,4,2,2,1,0,17,11,7,0,4,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,7,3,11,9,2,9,1,1,0,0,5,3,0,2,7,43,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980217880474432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724286229095439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13021300844618985,0.1839768025461736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681739573838309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12581431629048453,0.25810895439374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24367756194442464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19095244928931104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25232104438033104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22486198591501455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2894702919216903,0.25771222970237684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1748434174677975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836287783958785,0.0,0.30379130589623904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875188583474601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18748217517643825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,osrcamp,2019/01/23,"Omg and thought combat sucked No, divorce wins. I am born and raised Southern California and only not a resident for military and international consulate services contracts. I knew I was sticking around for the kids and it was loveless. But fuck I had no clue the pure fuckery divorce court is. Back story. I am a business investor and she is a career teacher. Have 4 kids. The first died after full term plus 14 hours. Rare birth organ issue. R.I.P. Cody So, I started getting sick and coughing up blood around 2011 (mold in my office building rental). Got better after moving to new office. The 2014 doctor says my liver was near collapse from a medication I use to deal with an endocrine issue since I was a kid. I move to a retirement ranch I been working on since 2003 slowly. If you are going to die, why do it where the kids see. 2014 to late 2016 doctors are working it out and on the worst diet ever (rabbit food sucks). Liver healing went from 246 to 141 pounds no I never drank or did illegal drugs or recreational ones. During this time 2.5 hours from her and kids, not much effort to visit was made without prompting Unknown to me the daughter is hating mother and making threats to move to ranch with me. This triggers wife to file a DV court order with no violence and cause on the anniversary of the death of our first child. (Combat did not make me cry). This stabbed me in heart. I cross filed and served and showed up to my hearing. She did no serve or show up to her hearing. I said divorce and since I was sick and in California this would of forced alimony from her and child support Well, during my hearing I was not granted a DV protection order but did get a court order for mandatory visitation and other parent protections. She violated them all. During summer as required by court to be with me. She tried to kidnap the kids with aid of her friends. Kids told me and it was on, full ass war. Her lawyer knew since I was combat and 1st special forces group fort Lewis 90-92. She refiled a DV forcing me to quit my gun range because she thought I would give up the kids to keep my guns. Hint you hear about navy seals dying, not green berets for a reason. No violence, no threat of violence and I lose my 2nd amendment rights, welcome to the father/male is fucked divorce in liberal California. They figured since any restraining order makes it near impossible to get custody the fight was over. I could not figure out how a judge did a restraining order without any violence and me being near 3 hours away for years. Then I figured it out. The lawyer did an amended page a lawyer friend of mine found but was never served to me. DV-101. It states I have worked internationally and threaten to take kids to Mexico. I am white as fuck like blind you white. Yes I did work in Mexico and my employer from near 2 decades before has offices there. I asked the judge. So can you with your ultimate knowledge or family law please point out anyone that was or is a Department of defense contractor working with the state department in consulate security that has absconded with kids?? ever? I won the two kids that choose to stay with me after the kidnapping plot was exposed. I got the oldest the daughter, and the youngest son. She kept the middle child and son. She had the middle child involuntarily committed to a mental hospital. He loved weapons, which is why to keep him from me and something we loved to do together. There is so much more nastiness. But this is long enough. FYI she is a Kindergarden teacher so don’t under estimate your enemy. Women are deficient in morals and dignity when they want something. Teachers are also known to have fellow teachers file false complaints against spouses for use in custody battles. Detective Gambiani of the Torrance police department said this to me when I was cleared of a false complaint. Mother was found to have physically abused daughter. I wish you all the best of luck. You will need it if you are a dude. Stanley Mosk Courthouse is stacking family court with LGBT with an anti straight father agenda. 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I’m finally angry, after trying to bargain, after denying that this is actually happening, after hoping that cooler heads would prevail. After 11 years, I don’t understand how she can be this selfish. All I’ve ever done is support her career, and her dreams and aspirations. I feel so so used, and taken for granted, and just chewed up, spit out and tossed aside. Months of her saying that she wanted us to be friends, and have this process be civil, and now she’s tired of me not understanding what the hell happened to us. She says she will no longer answer the questions I’ve apparently asked before, and suddenly has no interest in examining what went wrong. Resisting suicidal thoughts, trying to make any sense but the pieces don’t fit, and I guess they never will. 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Help? Okay, so here's the deal. I (32) married wife (25) in September of last year(2018). Things have had a steady decline since then. The people we are now are not the people we were when we met and honestly, I don't enjoy talking to her or being around her anymore. I just came back from England a few weeks ago after a visit and we talked about the potential of a divorce but didn't make a decision at the time. After getting back home and realizing that nothing had really changed, I've started to seriously consider it. I do a perfectly great job of making myself feel like shit...I don't need a wife to help me. It is becoming painfully apparent after several failed relationships and one failing marriage that since I have no problem (enjoy) being alone that perhaps I was meant to be alone and am prepared for that eventuality. &#x200B; Here are the facts of the relationship: &#x200B; 1. Only been married since September. 2. She has never actually resided in the states - went back to the UK to await successful processing of her I-130 visa. 3. We have no shared bank accounts. She is, however listed as my death beneficiary on my insurance policies due to the potentially volatile nature of my job (firefighter), and is listed on my health/vision/dental insurance. 4. I own my house that was built last year before we were married. She is not on the loan, the deed, and has never actually lived on the property, but did stay here for a week or so. 5. We were married in the U.S., in my state that is also a ""no fault"" state. 6. We have no children together. 7. My emotional investment has dwindled due to the amount of time we've had to spend apart and it would not hurt my feelings if we parted ways. I am not emotionally compromised and am approaching this situation logically with the intention of making it as painless as possible. 8. To my knowledge she has not cheated or been in a compromising position. 9. To my knowledge I have not cheated or been in a compromising position. 10. I participate in a city employee pension and a deferred compensation plan that she is not listed on or as a beneficiary on. I am not, however, fully vested in the city pension yet. I don't know about other situations, but this one seems pretty straightforward and without issue. any help would be appreciated. thoughts and prayers are good too. lol.",4.155123610419778,6.6744785668934234,5.595807753995906,74.10123444499753,73.98866213151928,8.928289364526297,31.391018195896244,9.500547302748984,3.4350748409933067,1892,91,324,51,41,635,226,441,0.097,0.742,0.161,0.9866,6,2,0,0,3,0,82.0,9,0,0,5,17,19,2,0,31,2,46,1,0,4,4,66,61,30,1,5,19,2,2,1,0,2,1,0,1,1,15,24,0,0,11,0,6,4,19,9,0,2,18,2,41,10,49,37,4,49,0,3,0,0,34,17,0,7,24,237,56,7,0.0,0.0,0.17973415337032786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816327017121498,0.0,0.0,0.19075603975067906,0.0,0.07364476653927722,0.0,0.1995601096070759,0.2238001565461912,0.06262472084412697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132906397918898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198009933193848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2124358080487876,0.0,0.0,0.10170675930076058,0.0783622614018685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10532703737011373,0.0,0.0,0.09741957389985408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494129657683303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717891076139106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931274817129468,0.06578949568546942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048113502968683684,0.0,0.0,0.07724117047308937,0.0,0.10153013852725623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788793098993144,0.0,0.0,0.1851790306890241,0.0,0.0923743139177824,0.0,0.0,0.10626011159362282,0.09858482100200268,0.0,0.0,0.09611859132508016,0.1827712898163366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050610548953411036,0.15013215227258025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499078309987333,0.0,0.08131762844579346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18441343904538648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682839638736304,0.14205179360231646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836335079351387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248058579319996,0.07003900064748239,0.09799082073653717,0.0,0.0,0.0997250738547018,0.0,0.12768796159473486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381823990499857,0.0,0.09368917993109774,0.0,0.08811820366556067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058995554009740735,0.0,0.0,0.19774153857625526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383576321419234,0.0,0.10403609056796324,0.09452960948035907,0.2285347233753261,0.20702723667212367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518215374977755,0.09815625590317102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480377653429557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06118085860026168,0.0,0.0,0.07310959715606752,0.10739746156157066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07309717920025001,0.14773894265918294,0.0,0.0,0.08536884736797379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877198824143646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083694588713074,0.0,0.2238001565461912,0.1186065688094668 divorce,Toof80,2019/01/23,"When did the pain stop for you? Just found out on Monday that my wife wants a Divorce and has been in a relationship for months. Since then I’ve had intense physical pain in my chest and extreme emotional pain. When did this stop for the people who have experienced this if any?",4.68333333333333,6.180266407407409,4.75277777777778,85.03250000000003,70.1111111111111,8.362962962962964,26.462962962962962,8.841846274778883,1.7718296296296296,222,7,45,4,4,69,41,54,0.238,0.715,0.047,-0.9146,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,4,0,6,4,1,0,0,9,8,6,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,5,1,3,0,7,3,0,11,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,7,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551205778035631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256589665493365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501075447269705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18207282606312333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7281657719447956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15814066804732085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449015445199457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886924623392426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38141532129154015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454341490270882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,avidreader37543,2019/01/23,"Christian Book recommendations and advice 31, recently separated (will be divorced once debt is paid off) mother of 3 under age 4. 1 special needs kiddo who will be with me for the rest of his life. Ex is a serial cheater with sexual addiction. I decided to break the cycle and kick him out this time. I am looking for books that have helped you through these early stages. I’m currently reading How to Talk to your kids about divorce. I’m really looking for advice or books on setting boundaries with ex, particularly because he may have to move into the basement of our home until we can pay off our credit cards and can afford him to get his own place. Because of my son, (and having a 4 year old and 8 month old) the cost of care is more than I can make working so I’m stuck dependent on him right now until my older 2 are in school. Tell me it gets better? Right now I’m feeling so much I’m just getting through each day barely. 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Divorce was final last year... Very cordial.. getting along just fine. The papers say that we will spit my bonus check as a gift and not spousal support. My question is... I will get the money as a separate paycheck with taxes already taken out. How do I properly account for the taxes I already paid when I give her her half of the bonus. I'm not looking to play games or get an advantage.. I just am not sure if/how I should subtract taxes when I give her her share. Anyone else have this issue? 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It’s apparent that humans aren’t meant to be alone. My STBXW was really the only person I really had any type or of relationship with (very unhealthy not having friends outside the marriage). How did you manage on a social level? What did you do to make friends? How did you select people that could empathize and relate to your experiences (or at least not be frightened off by them)? Were there any support groups that you attended? Any tips you can provide can be helpful. I’m finding myself impulsively indulging in some unhealthy behaviors (smoking and drinking more) and that’s not exactly living my best life. I even texted the ex and asked if It was ok for me to reach out and see how she was doing. Got no response, which kind of is a response, which I think is for the best considering what we are going through. I actually feel guilty about reaching out. But it was really an impulse to deal with how I was feeling at the time. I’d like to avoid these impulses. Anyway, thanks in advanced.",5.765251572327045,7.2337988584905695,5.9521886792452845,77.5613647798742,67.49056603773586,8.483522012578616,33.001257861635224,8.841846274778883,2.8827159748427675,906,40,157,15,15,288,134,212,0.134,0.748,0.118,-0.5845,2,2,1,0,1,0,26.0,1,8,1,3,9,13,0,1,9,1,26,2,0,6,1,35,40,15,0,2,10,1,2,1,3,0,1,0,0,2,14,10,1,1,5,1,0,3,7,1,0,0,14,3,20,12,28,22,5,13,0,0,1,0,24,9,0,5,2,124,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.1327665176173899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14090819489382095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775588038441848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271896712504554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855550514383899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086259533706744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1402629949647277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13327855346963588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986065091205836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308435222926293,0.1282571293089418,0.0,0.13758332748289234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434849315554555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153388675075117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732113245390387,0.0,0.10881271415322773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911923696909138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14167657226186467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0960971105946846,0.06646783023749589,0.0,0.12013585784564805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908153501334666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10347320238250823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432089385742017,0.11879481403497298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614739863483844,0.0,0.0,0.14606826233510015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10841533227640812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868724477939454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4631684686149894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525782821397802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08717622841632824,0.0,0.0,0.07933265161406547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122566338965304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622973434882663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Shep432,2019/01/23,"So lost Okay so I’m new to reddit and was just looking for someone to talk to, feel like the world has been crumbling around me and I just don’t know what to do..wife has been gone around 83 days wants to file for divorce hasn’t spoke to me and has cut off all contact with me, moved back with her parents. We have been married for about 3 1/2 years but have been together for 8 years met in junior high she moved in when she was still a senior in high school, we have been through so much together and grown together, she left back in October and looking back hindsight is 20/20 but in the last couple of years we got in this vicious cycle of fighting all the time over the smallest things, my wife has struggled with bi-polar disorder and depression (diagnosed early in our relationship) but would not take medication and did not want to try counseling to try to manage it but the smallest things would set her off small noises outside would ruin a day for her eating was a daily struggle to find something suitable for her and majority of the time this is what would start an argument they would escalate and I would end up calling her horrible names like bitch and cunt and say I hated her and looking back I can’t even believe I could say those things to her. She harbors a lot of resentment towards me for this well ever since we got married we have been trying to get pregnant and it had finally happened well the day we found out we had another heated arguement and I said something like we can’t have this baby and that I didn’t feel like she loved me anymore once again I can’t even believe I could have said that to the most special person in my life, needless to say we got past it and things were actually looking up for once until that horrible day on July 12 she started bleeding and having stomach pains we went to the er and found out she had a miscarriage...she was devastated, I was devastated...we felt completely helpless. After the miscarriage she really shut off and would hardly eat or talk she would lay in bed and not move at all she was grieving in her way and I felt so helpless not being able to do anything about it the only thing I knew to do was to try and be strong and continue to try for a baby. She has always wanted children so bad and when I would bring up trying again she would say things like”I don’t want kids anymore””I am dead inside” she blamed herself for the miscarriage and I could not say anything to make her think other wise, I tried so hard to be there for her but I was grieving too I wanted to be close I wanted this to bring us closer I started to talk to her and tell her we can make it through this we will have our family things will get better and every time I did she would say “no it won’t god didn’t want us to have this baby” she got to were she shut me out completely I felt like a stranger in my own home it got to were I was begging her to get help I wanted to work it all out and she just wasn’t willing to do it, it was a daily argument of me asking her to get help and her saying it’s a waste of money and that she will always be like this until that night in October she had her father come and get her...since then I have been an emotional wreck I am completely lost without her she was my other half and I can’t help but feel as if it’s all my fault I said so many horrible things that I can never take back...daily life is so hard lately I had to take a leave of absence from work because I can’t even hold it together ",3.6170595186935937,4.723958641061454,4.513519553072626,87.2273871938118,72.22625698324023,7.57473141383756,25.920068758057585,7.9479579679613535,1.3496595186935971,2761,87,581,37,52,894,271,716,0.175,0.746,0.078,-0.9978,1,0,2,0,3,0,32.0,16,0,1,6,32,34,7,2,24,1,88,10,1,2,7,119,146,54,3,23,17,3,9,6,0,16,6,11,2,3,40,55,2,1,12,0,1,9,20,20,3,1,51,24,97,14,92,71,10,86,0,8,4,1,88,37,2,4,44,427,137,6,0.04882507548298139,0.0,0.04764623056957798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08125274819417648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05119734878066099,0.0,0.0,0.04842135518996537,0.0,0.0,0.08035775391289936,0.08692933739395335,0.04564485467587697,0.0,0.0,0.18771734627182132,0.04076689860352408,0.029763312836459093,0.0,0.0,0.1100182807208444,0.0,0.0431818115370237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04985586103882215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04205847926094998,0.15357648812391453,0.0,0.0,0.11694854952182923,0.05402401735414118,0.0,0.12595253795523012,0.0,0.042052965969407934,0.04955642385546128,0.0,0.0,0.05595776650966176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992048282509387,0.0,0.05492163824285664,0.0432445248277346,0.0,0.0,0.09674550562876613,0.04416507606268116,0.04113723190265012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04602793584491515,0.0,0.07406227558070358,0.06976128736150655,0.14063918777387693,0.05348548364077086,0.044625234450622386,0.0,0.0,0.10706835029300088,0.0,0.0,0.12754543379591382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524936559634504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043175853002312435,0.0,0.13121303223171538,0.048204653752845265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09817925672346696,0.1031727458608582,0.04897553166275232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0268329845994115,0.03979895311464643,0.05507681181539872,0.05169870515211411,0.05304858737250207,0.0,0.0689731894853113,0.14312079378696396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400306598488226,0.0,0.10659667504507213,0.041509333174408684,0.04406653688160929,0.0,0.0651822340356293,0.04950096314112036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04918612689064353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567998492759955,0.03589204836517888,0.0,0.037656908182902064,0.04715556214976618,0.0,0.04581902583945753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10399422382258633,0.0,0.03713367004697156,0.05195332273766971,0.0,0.05421446826572788,0.0,0.04660905922095301,0.0,0.04263217264078554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03127859359190828,0.0,0.0,0.05241985879430952,0.0,0.0,0.13933148284229496,0.27179361803371205,0.0,0.049413583035151885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08077721396786115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041369328013371495,0.07517585696833097,0.0,0.0,0.10367591918441578,0.0,0.038991768350630084,0.0,0.0,0.10208513991048726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11013114122275648,0.11773123863669635,0.0426752680244404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25949768505547105,0.031285136899354256,0.0,0.0,0.0854108824649477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23204314903571496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11746110826608723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303863562715847,0.03875507229819399,0.0,0.0,0.08779921303008066,0.04526133413022314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047065630438712334,0.0,0.0710904729109058,0.0,0.0,0.38152326039584267,0.0,0.0,0.09432524345418007 divorce,RawkASaurusRex,2019/01/23,"Need Advice on Child Support I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this so if it isn't, please let me know. My uncontested divorce is in the process of being finalized right now and we've been separated since the end of 2016. My ex and I have a son together and for the most part, her and I co-parent very well. We get along, go to his sporting events together, etc.. Our divorce agreement is for 50/50 custody, and we agreed to no child support in it. While in court the judge requested that we submit our income before the settlement could be finalized. It turns out that because my ex makes more money than me, she is going to be forced to pay me child support. She called me yelling about how it's going to ruin her life. It's really not that much money, maybe $130 a month. I struggle to pay bills and drive rideshare on the side for extra money to make ends meet. The real question is, does she have a right to be angry? Should I deny taking the child support if the state allows it? If more context or info is needed please let me know; this is the first time I'm posting for advice or anything",4.3238666666666665,5.0143998755555526,4.99688888888889,85.95400000000002,70.24444444444444,7.6,26.555555555555557,7.554174236665415,1.2897555555555549,872,26,180,9,15,281,128,225,0.11,0.812,0.078,-0.6759999999999999,4,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,5,0,0,1,5,9,0,1,14,0,19,1,0,4,1,34,37,15,0,8,8,3,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,4,12,11,0,0,4,1,6,4,4,2,1,1,1,1,23,7,24,28,7,28,0,1,0,0,24,11,0,8,10,120,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808919922509493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182918242950457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06802431753202308,0.0,0.09495499562406616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11394601604909002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909565176536614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09765328914881913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767149608425388,0.0,0.1244525108118647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444831018996518,0.0,0.0949185215622791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583012458053044,0.0,0.19025775546592105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265405230605407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22821697041233596,0.07881942054847202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897457853061336,0.0,0.11210730084149333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08907019026219253,0.0,0.08203159736562858,0.16548535927422486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12084125422211325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658795228553075,0.2449849418143034,0.0,0.0,0.2137450278620616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500650262580176,0.0,0.0,0.12701401684922678,0.07148750524318989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858921260435544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230852228201873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166582498851653,0.0,0.0,0.5065247031416419,0.10517239241150744,0.0,0.08390190256334522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506911177764706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137803541752973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207355748462948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10033294309402023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mrozlel3,2019/01/23,"It’s time to get back into things Sooo... I (27f) have been officially divorced for several months. I had been separated from my ex (32m) for several months before the divorce was final. Our children are thriving since he has been gone and we have been happier than ever. He was basically just a toxic person. Our house isn’t perfect by any means simply because he is gone but we are all much more relaxed and happier. This morning my boys (7 and 9) were talking about mommy needing to go on a date. They want a daddy who lives with them and proceeded with their list of demands like tiny little nazis. They want someone funny and who doesn’t yell and who loves their mommy. All of this seems fantastic except they see the world in fairytale land and I see two things that I don’t know how to answer. 1. Am I just not enough for them no matter how good it is. 2. Am I ready to get back into the dating world and find someone good enough for me and for them.",2.6824114567292874,4.654193329842927,3.8043301509085294,87.79871573760396,76.43455497382199,6.378934400985526,23.277178934400983,7.285733465282438,0.8919704958423154,750,23,151,9,17,243,122,191,0.013,0.769,0.218,0.9918,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,4,0,8,1,9,6,0,0,6,0,20,1,0,2,4,35,34,12,0,3,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,3,10,15,0,0,5,1,0,3,5,0,0,1,10,3,21,6,22,24,6,21,0,0,2,1,26,8,0,1,11,106,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435936833304377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23600548835947746,0.0,0.09354896231849814,0.0,0.13058479129036754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171343735444057,0.0,0.0,0.1388150928992115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16811003268318914,0.14026141508554166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035503904598206,0.0,0.08721594591769684,0.2574331558280316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707445199652622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433865809817638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497374266622513,0.15380916017447105,0.13550968730170407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13850537475097852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671650202633168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449836815670145,0.0,0.11281216907866527,0.1137900694977188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13399702962645826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24457856361856584,0.1397059687424097,0.0,0.3467365777976213,0.0,0.12694528642013406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26005557437301025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334687861586735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390656186678555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948487991694541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990999738121938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18103163347416054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,FucksHisHand,2019/01/23,"Dont even know what to say to people So I just started my separation. I moved back home to where all my family is. Aside from my dad, brother and uncle, the majority of my family has no idea what Im going through. I dont even know how to say ""Im back oh and Im getting divorced now."" Ive been kind of a hermit over the last couple of years. I dont post anything on facebook ever and even twitter recently. This is all just kind of awkward to me. 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How do you guys cope with seeing your kids in pictures happy with blended families and stepparents? I feel so empty inside right now, because I feel that should have been me in those pictures. Granted, my daughter has that family and me, so she does have two families but hearing her say ""she has two dads"" makes me extremely sad inside. 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I arrived early to my scheduled court appearance. I didn’t know how I would be feeling, but the dominant emotion right now is sadness. I don’t want divorce, but I know that it is the right decision. If all goes well, this afternoon, I’ll officially be a single dad. Wish me luck, wish me strength.",3.488279569892473,5.993350516129035,4.427096774193551,81.727311827957,76.09677419354837,7.359139784946238,34.526881720430104,8.344100000000001,3.1249913978494632,260,15,46,5,6,84,47,62,0.055,0.647,0.298,0.9423,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,1,1,16,15,4,0,5,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,1,1,8,3,1,11,2,7,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,3,4,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169349093022028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246310042738045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30968885169509663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4812321188930832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16618559020063614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.253330349464882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6480055361122705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20014969393227725,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LadyMarmalades,2019/01/23,Walking through this alone What I have realized is divorce is like a loved one passing away. You have to do it all by yourself because no one around you understands what it’s like so it’s hard for anyone to go through this with you. I have to do it alone and I am not sure I am strong enough. ,1.2092473118279583,3.1482613225806446,2.143225806451614,98.1015053763441,80.93548387096773,5.423655913978496,24.849462365591396,6.42735559955562,0.5116043010752693,230,9,54,2,6,72,40,62,0.192,0.677,0.131,-0.2829,0,2,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,3,0,1,2,5,0,0,1,0,9,1,0,0,2,8,12,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,3,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,1,7,5,10,12,2,5,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,2,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5421550098921859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18301050907911565,0.0,0.0,0.2329987644027469,0.0,0.0,0.2459077230807267,0.0,0.0,0.15955062636678416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704412036617658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487494725271636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344622678607468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557400383070407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2362251675379093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3547154849207605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466812118747056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724743404171065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ecto-1981,2019/01/23,"It's beyond time for me (M, 37) to leave my domineering wife (F, 38) My wife and I have been arguing for nearly two years nonstop, and I think it's beyond time I leave. &#x200B; We met in 1999 online. She lived in the Pacific Northwest and I in the South. We talked for a year, then met, then she moved South so I could finish college. Upon graduation she insisted we move back, despite my advice that I take a job I was offered to save money to move. But she's very attached to her family and insisted, so we moved up with no money, no job, no place to stay other than with her dad. &#x200B; We have very little in common, and we continue to grow apart for lack of time spent together. I've always worked nights, and she worked days. With my type of work, it's unavoidable. We may see each other for a day and a half a week, and it's been like this for nearly 17 years. Sex might happen twice a month if I'm lucky, and it's been that way for years. She doesn't need sex to be happy in the marriage. &#x200B; We have no kids. She is a diabetic, and she didn't want kids anyway. I used to not want kids, but as a man gets older he thinks differently. I may be ready for kids, but I know I don't want kids with her. &#x200B; My therapist, who I've seen for a year and a half, my friends, and my family all believe her to be quite selfish. For one, she insisted on a move with no money. Second, she's torpedoed my efforts to move away from the PNW area at least twice, despite her claiming that we could always do it one day. But it's been 15 years now. Also, when I wanted to go back to school for a career change, she wouldn't help me. I only needed $2,000 to take a one-year program. I couldn't take out more students loans because I was denied. She had enough in company stock to cash out and not take a big hit. But she refused to get the money. However, she took out a $7,000 loan to start an at-home clothing business. Also, she pressured me into taking a promotion at my job that I really didn't want. It paid more money, but it is not what I've wanted to do and is high stress. &#x200B; Of course, this is equally on me for not taking a stronger stand on things I wanted in my life. But I always felt I had to go along to get along. She is the baby of the family and her dad spoiled her. Thus, when she doesn't get her way it can go poorly. &#x200B; Last year when I made it known that I was not happy in the marriage, we agreed to couples counseling. But after two visits she was extremely upset at the therapist's assessment that she had dominated the relationship and gotten her way. She became angry and tried to hit me with a car. She also broke my Kindle tablet and stole my phone. &#x200B; Again, I started to go along to get along, because I had no money to get my own place, and my family is not in a position to help with money. She said that she was sorry and that her lashing out wasn't at all like her and that I had driven her to that. &#x200B; A year has passed, and she didn't change her dominating behavior at all, and I was again too scared to rock the boat. But it's gone too far, so I made it clear that I wanted to move on with my life. I am absolutely miserable in nearly every aspect of my life. &#x200B; Again, I gave in to a request for couples counseling. Again, it went poorly. A new therapist has given us the same feedback: she's too dominating and lashes out when she doesn't get her way. This time, she lashed out by trying to force me into sex. After I had just used the bathroom, she came in and started grabbing at my crotch. I wasn't into it, told her so, and I was not physically aroused. Her uncharacteristic aggression freaked me out, so I left and stayed with friends. My therapist and friends say it's assault. &#x200B; When I stopped by the house to pick up some fresh clothes, my wife told me that I can't leave because she doesn't know how she'll afford to get a place that will allow dogs, that it's my responsibility to help her find a place. I love my dogs dearly, as we didn't have children. She knows this is one of the few buttons I have that she can push. &#x200B; Also, she told me that I'm throwing away nearly 20 years, and that I will just end up all alone and depressed and kill myself. I won't be alone, as I'll have friends and family. Maybe I could one day meet someone that's more right for me, or who will at least treat me better. By the way, she's never liked that I have friends. She doesn't. She says all she needs is her family and me, and that I shouldn't need friends because she should be enough for me. Of course, we live here around her family. Me? I'm 2,000 miles from my family, but I've made good friends and we consider each other family. &#x200B; My wife says that I'm letting my therapist, friends and family put ideas into my head, that things aren't that bad, and that they're driving a wedge between us. But my wife and I have been arguing long before I turned to therapy and friends and family for support. &#x200B; My therapist says it looks like I'm dead inside when I talk about how my life is right now and that it's a complete change when talking about what I would do with a life of my own. The therapist believes it's past time to get a divorce and move on.",3.987093721144969,4.5734367248384125,4.8982259926131135,86.73557536934445,70.9482917820868,8.01112650046168,25.844990766389657,8.07648339933343,1.3066425669436756,4115,117,894,54,72,1342,363,1083,0.105,0.8,0.094,-0.2862,7,3,0,0,2,1,187.0,15,0,0,8,39,38,5,5,46,0,79,13,3,10,7,162,154,78,2,22,22,7,2,4,9,12,6,5,0,7,58,84,0,2,9,1,14,25,32,15,0,11,45,10,162,23,135,85,21,151,0,3,3,5,128,64,0,7,58,615,220,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02608301163195081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528950833878557,0.0,0.08538199763432215,0.06662938658655547,0.3759685529805392,0.42163647423906897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02376144625120079,0.0,0.0,0.05015582945013222,0.041048840518747035,0.02228661805175958,0.06508452767941059,0.0,0.022712837354389875,0.06014525227888608,0.0,0.02360681272000221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03052841796561648,0.0,0.0,0.08470945953591089,0.0,0.027985944886606284,0.0,0.0,0.06393392051351658,0.059068149976426974,0.0,0.06885625844040319,0.0,0.022989690719882737,0.0,0.0,0.02788735000553764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02364109708316743,0.05515972706028082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022489073403336328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767901820173357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02562840579321661,0.0,0.024395909174834102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1855988321801039,0.0,0.12550872488047524,0.0,0.06067847793800571,0.02238789578852237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0236035552834101,0.05682803877475333,0.0,0.0,0.027393585678331885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05367304529298701,0.028201453374152894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03079886400302028,0.0,0.0301319013824256,0.0,0.0,0.07946276379189952,0.0,0.029530627942814563,0.0,0.0440075035953902,0.02175745757734284,0.0,0.08478859086396888,0.029000822860097305,0.02729427186226553,0.09426637679876708,0.052161248065752716,0.026752291780212475,0.04713886597688145,0.02362148781681675,0.022414469926138998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024090478059062018,0.07576955149897918,0.0,0.0,0.02681559694166469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028315883333062557,0.0,0.0,0.021305216552893032,0.2269540881604812,0.0,0.0791668100245928,0.020586435525658798,0.025779199268226943,0.0,0.025048536027202715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043559684767484,0.020300389520565103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.025480434769188643,0.0,0.0,0.11154940002215057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026832727605999473,0.0,0.028390116728209475,0.0,0.0,0.017099511919182752,0.0,0.0,0.028657106900326162,0.0,0.045589466301389873,0.02539010526564062,0.08490586742141891,0.026723244110679688,0.027013623537654616,0.021269985122105664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022615956672560517,0.0,0.0,0.02987939202357985,0.05667798363813799,0.056900018855031036,0.0,0.02231562005274269,0.030575476428948343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030289647013371314,0.0,0.0,0.12041390265698525,0.06436180426120999,0.0,0.0,0.03052450904168161,0.216939437915664,0.0354658190238633,0.03420617808354181,0.0,0.0,0.07782129538773525,0.0,0.0,0.07651575081020245,0.02965567832939102,0.03624409025974856,0.029033117833507763,0.05214820737807933,0.0,0.06421412826425728,0.046106455807963576,0.0,0.044047218833390835,0.12594857353503858,0.10593392230768248,0.021410628761203303,0.0,0.0,0.02474365479904705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058296054071698224,0.0,0.0,0.01896115693139409,0.0,0.42163647423906897,0.17188705751589226 divorce,shmoney-babe,2019/01/23,"Need to make a letter that states I can take my daughter and get it notarized. My SO is deploying April. I would like to ask if it would be necessary for me and SO to make a letter, sign, and get it notarized for me to be able to legally keep my daughter with me even after he comes back from deployment. The plan is to leave all the furniture and items with for him in a storage while he is deployed. But to be able to just take my and daughter's clothing, her toys, and plants with me to another state. My parents basically bought everything for us, but I talked to them and they said it's just material. I agree with them and the only things I would take are the items listed above. I don't want to leave my SO with nothing because it would be rough. I have very supportive parents that will help me through this, but he has no one but his brother who is also living with us. So all in all what is the right steps to take and what process have you done if you had something similar going on? 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Hi all - New to this community, but I am taking steps to leave my very selfish spouse. I feel slightly guilty, not for how it will impact her, but because of how it will impact my kids. I know it will be healthier for them to see a parent in a healthy space vs. walking on eggshells all the time / constant eruptions from their mother attacking their father, but it adds uncertainty into their already complicated lives and changes the plans they have for the future... Context: Intercultural marriage. Kids' dominant language is mine, but they also speak their mother's; I am fluent in my STBX's language, and speak to her in her language. My STBX is extremely selfish: - housewife, but does very little dishes/cleaning (and if she does, it's with a lot of complaining about how her life is so hard) - I do all my own laundry, most of the grocery shopping (including food for her cat), clean the bathrooms, and work full time. - I cook meals 3/4 times a week (most weekends, some week days) - I organize all the kids' schools, their extracurricular activities, play-dates, birthday parties, and shuttle them back and forth (eldest can now take public transport on her own, and does when I need to travel for work) - She actively works to prevent my friends/family from coming to visit (for example: she demanded a vacation during children's school holiday - when my family was going to visit - but didn't actually plan or schedule it, and then she threw a temper tantrum when my family could get last minute tickets to visit. I should note, this was their only visit in 5 years) - routinely forgets my birthday (no cake for a few years now) but always expects a cake for hers She left me with the kids about 18 months ago to live in her home country, but came back about 6 months ago. During the time she was gone, she didn't routinely answer my calls/tell me about plans with the kids, and I often found out about things from my kids directly (8 and 11). I think she only came back when she realized that she had to do all the housework/child-rearing, vs. when I am around to shoulder a lot of the load (nb: she didn't wear her wedding ring while in home country; her excuse was ""she forgot to put it on, because she was so busy"". One time, when she and the kids came to visit me for a week, she had left it in her home country.) She scapegoats the older kid (who's seen through how selfish she is), and pampers the younger one (who still hasn't fully recognized her mother's nature). I've seen a lawyer and drafted fair separation terms. It will involve us living in separate places near each other, and having 50/50 custody. Not in US, but lawyer is fairly confident that if we end up in contested situation that 50/50 or at worst 40/60 custody split is likely. Few questions for the community: 1. What are people's perspective on a 3-3-4-4 vs a 2-2-5-5 custody schedule? The 3-3-4-4 would mean we alternate weekends, but make it harder for my work travel (as I would have kids from mid-week on, every week). The 2-2-5-5 schedule would mean I have every weekend (when I typically take kids to their activities anyway), make it easier to travel for work, and give me more ""time"" out of school with the kids, but mean I wouldn't have much of a social life (as weekends would always have the kids). 2. How do I prevent the mother from alienating my youngest from me? She tries already - saying things like ""Mommy loves you more"" or secretly doing things for the youngest; I just affirm my love for the youngest, and just invest real time in helping her grow up like a parent should - e.g. helping with homework, putting her to bed every night. My concern is the youngest definitely loves me, but feels sorry for her mother (as her mother's problems are always not her mother's fault), and has said things like ""if my sister chooses Country A (my country), I will choose Country B (her mother's country)"". She doesn't fully understand what that means, of course, as she's only 8, but it is a worrisome trend. tl;dr: Mother very selfish, plays favorites. Checked out of real loving marriage years ago, I'm finally planning to leave. Worried kids' mother will actively try to alienate my youngest from me (with some evidence she has tried already). What can I do to make it harder for the mother to prevail in that, and which custody schedule would make that better? 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I've known this was coming. But that feeling when you know it's real... the one where you literally feel your heart being ripped out of your chest... what got you through? ,1.2100000000000009,3.825536842105265,1.3476842105263138,98.93678947368423,88.47368421052632,4.092631578947368,18.12631578947369,5.6839178017228535,-0.5695431578947368,152,4,33,1,5,45,33,38,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.2168,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,2,1,0,9,9,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,2,6,0,4,5,0,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,23,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34768570515196384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4081681024915936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21087649799748745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3228143981937472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4782955145973896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22182079180500186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2735055714754587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4594116420634343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Kratosthegodofwar666,2019/01/24,"20 year old who's parents are getting a divorce Hi so my parents are getting a divorce just like the title suggests. My parents have always had a very toxic relationship. I just turned 20 recently and I swear I'm not exaggerating when I say that majority of my life has been spent seeing my parents interacting negatively with each other. Lots of fighting (mostly verbal but at times escalated to physical). I rarely remember my parents ever expressing love for each other. It has been pretty rough. But now they are getting a divorce. We are selling our house. Me and my mom are moving out in a week to our new apartment. My younger sister is staying with my dad. My relationship with my dad is horrible. I can't stand to even be in the same company as him. We don't talk or see each other. My mom is low income worker. I have to find a job (maybe 2) and help support with the rent and bills. I am also in university and exams and assignments are pretty tough but I just can't seem to get my mind off of this part of my life. I feel very weak. I feel like I should not feel this sad or angry or upset. But I kinda do. I wish my parents could have been happy together. I keep replaying the past years and looking for ways I could've helped more or been more useful. Is their any advice someone can give me? I feel very drained these days. Feel like I am on autopilot. Any advice would be nice. Thank you.",1.823655913978499,4.242125756272404,3.643451612903224,85.50517741935484,81.75985663082437,6.300645161290323,23.636917562724012,7.554174236665415,1.256232401433692,1102,40,216,18,30,369,158,279,0.106,0.731,0.163,0.9621,9,0,0,0,5,0,30.0,4,1,2,1,9,14,1,1,10,0,32,4,0,1,1,50,55,19,0,4,13,11,6,3,0,2,3,1,1,0,9,17,0,1,8,0,4,1,6,6,0,0,6,10,41,8,23,44,10,25,0,2,3,1,36,9,0,8,15,151,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17264270243340113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07064262276702994,0.07350299832511073,0.0,0.0,0.12014362291780135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105892589354885,0.0,0.0,0.056969698823247025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05834538848416741,0.07990537142462603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233278028107571,0.12621514723013127,0.0,0.0,0.0807379099410415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846085852362295,0.08474036688698279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403578780033822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842011341794548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192839669723627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766029064843907,0.07851749070323387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478928636606383,0.1294701742379429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418036529417847,0.0,0.0,0.07510048618918465,0.07972709006375503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08874583174480583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08919462707486786,0.20691715236648184,0.0,0.09388766062854023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08531588857599623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269423873362942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5885230063519015,0.09565976109075787,0.0843271317707439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973984320243822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722158197476595,0.1896805648445415,0.10006797147969183,0.0,0.0,0.070248686247037,0.0,0.0,0.1407854186477588,0.08041818140556709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484718277863095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09415489631966747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002431504063074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100148797959074,0.0,0.08132832973778252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051509691182090436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608468518842712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629432561923134,0.0,0.21866045420796493,0.0,0.07011735793640178,0.07085816742121319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158255166075716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275167569012158,0.0,0.0,0.1137715480926986 divorce,HeartbrokenNoob,2019/01/24,No one to talk to. Who do you all talk to these days? I just want to talk to someone after my workday to see how their day went and talk about mine. I feel like I can’t do that anymore with anyone.,0.2338636363636369,1.6880228409090954,1.8409090909090933,101.45636363636366,81.95454545454545,4.4,17.81818181818182,3.1291,-1.0498909090909092,151,3,39,0,4,49,33,44,0.051,0.86,0.08800000000000001,0.1531,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,7,7,2,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,2,7,1,9,6,1,4,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,0,4,28,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370914953122301,0.16716210077678026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083585273999565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1208801061347579,0.1707904278035717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679668635219817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.161998854425828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19050646778166944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20256177879104484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7686161144899117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14100866625291691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22161869172519444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,softball1511,2019/01/24,"Uncontested question My husband and I have been heading toward a split for a while. I’ll spare the ugly details, but I’m at a point where I would like to start the divorce process. I am hoping to do the pro se route because 1) we don’t have kids 2) we don’t share bank accounts or credit cards and I have solely paid for the house out of my bank account 3) he moved out months ago so basically everything material is already split up and 4) I know he is severely struggling financially. He is the type of person who avoids uncomfortable adult situations and cannot effectively communicate when he is upset. We are semi-amicable so I texted him recently to ask if he would be willing to talk, which he ignored per usual. So my question is how difficult is it going to be on my end if he isn’t very responsive? Our finances are split up, my car is paid off and I was the only one to make payments to it, his car is going to be paid off soon by a family member and I’m fine with him having it, and I can prove that I am the only one to put money into the house and can afford to live in it on my own. I don’t see how he’s really in a position to argue with me about any dividing of the assets or me keeping the house. I am new to this whole process and I have no idea how any of it works. TIA. 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At Divorce Harmony, many of our mediations are performed virtually, meaning we “facetime” or conference call with the parties. All of the benefits of traditional mediation are preserved. We have seen first hand how successful this method is and would like to share with you the many perks of this practice. 1. Ease of Access-in our increasingly advanced world, mediating virtually isn’t so difficult even for the most technologically challenged. Conducting a virtual mediation with your ex is much easier than having to get in your car and traveling to an office. All you need is a a phone or a computer with high speed internet access. You set the schedule according to your timetable. 2. Faster-First, it’s faster because we are able to schedule the mediation in a matter of one to two days. It’s much easier to carve out an hour or two when we know it can be done online. This is particularly valuable to busy individuals with a full work and personal schedule. Second, the process itself is faster since any documents needed can be emailed immediately, and when a settlement is reached, the parties receive the settlement papers almost instantly. 3. Convenience-virtual mediation allows the parties to mediate from the comfort of their own home, car or any other private place they desire without having to drive somewhere, fight traffic and sit in a waiting room while the anxiety builds up. 4. When Traditional Mediation Is Not An Option-for parties that are immobile for health reasons or if the parties live in separate states, virtual divorce mediation is a great option since the parties may not be able to mediate otherwise. 5. Power Issues-if one side, feels intimidated or uncomfortable being in the same room as their ex, mediating virtually can empower them to speak freely since they are not physically in the same place. 6. More Success-if a couple has a contentious divorce and the sight of the other makes them so angry they can’t contain themselves, virtual mediation can be instrumental in a successful settlement. If the couples have strong feelings but they also understand the value of mediation and want to save money and time, they may still want to try mediation. If they can do it virtually without having to be in the same room as their ex, this can help tremendously with the mediation process. 7. More Choices-mediating virtually means you have a wider selection of mediators. you are not constrained by the mediators in your local area. This is a great thing! Now anyone can mediate and couples can choose who they are most comfortable with. 8. Price-The hourly fees of virtual mediators are generally much lower since the overhead costs associated with traditional mediation are not present. Also, the costs to the clients time is a value. They do not have to take off work or find babysitters. We mediate when they can, whether it’s evening or weekend hours. Essentially, virtual divorce mediation provides a “user-friendly” experience that empowers the parties to resolve their differences in a comfortable setting with as little hassle as possible! Please visit divorceharmony.com to learn more. 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My friend of 34 years died last September. Our house needs numerous repairs and I obtained a home equity line of credit to do repairs in October. In November I received two checks from my buddy's life insurance policy totaling 56,000 dollars. I decided that instead of telling my wife about the settlement, I would deposit the money in a money market account and use it for repairs, letting her think that it was the HELOC. That way I wouldn't be borrowing against the house (the checks were made out to me alone, I still have the stubs). In late November she filed for divorce, and served me in December. Is the proceeds from the life insurance policy considered inheritence? Will I have to split it with her? I owned the house when we married, and apparently that is off the table, but right now she's living in a low-income woman's appartment run by a non-profit. I'm imagining they may give her all the money so she can get a place? howlinowl",6.690087719298247,7.551991815789478,7.167105263157897,71.87890350877196,65.05263157894737,11.596491228070176,35.833333333333336,11.374738998889045,4.520122807017544,815,38,139,25,12,267,117,190,0.022,0.94,0.038,0.4137,2,1,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,0,1,1,6,3,0,0,18,0,15,3,0,2,2,19,22,7,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,1,7,7,0,0,3,0,11,2,1,0,0,1,3,0,22,3,23,13,3,21,0,0,0,0,18,11,0,1,7,99,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789173956312478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17928772162083206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13346659021089385,0.0,0.09025499435933376,0.1657179989891724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17328281391241368,0.0,0.0,0.5979925705314107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408146956721896,0.19487006283905686,0.0,0.0,0.17664906720908854,0.3660563127980909,0.0,0.0,0.1525418363627886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16346067852244084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809228998060776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804874806798636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752796369399535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795875429682813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099153141742347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106915304745572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16875211466438433,0.0,0.0,0.14920094684873908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13712128798220966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271698259760395,0.0,0.0,0.11124564351348484 divorce,thaip88,2019/01/24,"How long did it take to meet someone after getting divorced? I am a female and I am 30yo. I am Brazilian my ex is American. My ex husband and I had an amicable divorced after 3 years together. He is in a relationship and I met someone right after our separation but he was just interested in sex and I got feelings for him, long story short: I got hurt. It has been a couple months since I’ve been on a date, I feel like I don’t know how to date anymore. Men on apps show the bare minimum of interest, I haven’t met a guy that I felt attraction for since the fuckboy guy. It’s hard to meet people out there because I work a lot and it’s always cold outside so I’m barely out of my apartment. I consider myself attractive and have been told the same by many men, but still it feels like I don’t have game anymore. I want to meet people to be friends with and see what happens but also don’t wan to be a sex toy for men. 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I am in the beginning of our “Temporary Separation” after my husbands affair. Need to get a post-nup in order and signed. I make about 2x’s his income and want to protect my assets. I need this in place whether we reconcile or divorce. Our house, we (aka I took a mortgage out based solely on my income but PA doesn’t care) I bought from my grandparents and my Mom and Uncle “gifted” us a lot of equity (but PA is a equal distribution state). I do not want him touching my 403b. 50/50 custody of our kids if he can find suitable living arrangements. No spousal support. He has verbally agreed to all of this but I NEED it in writing. If anyone has experience in these types of agreements please help. We are in PA and from what I have researched there is no “fairness” considered in these contracts in our state. He had the affair, why should I suffer and have half of what I worked for on the table. Even if we can reconcile, down the line if we divorce this type of agreement will make it so much easier. Do I NEED a lawyer?? What should be included in this that I am not thinking of? Thanks to anyone willing to give any advice!! It is much appreciated. Sorry if this is scattered, I am starting to panic. 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We can't have a simple conversation or calm respectful disagreement without arguing. We have two children under 8 yo and I have been the only person working for at least the past 7 years. I have given her all the support and resources to attend school and helped with resumes etc, but there has been no real effort to attempt at working or finishing a school program. I found out while I was attending basic military training that she cheated on me with some acquaintance of one of her old friends. She admitted this to me while I was away in training. She claims that there was no sex, which I can't prove and do not see why she would admit that even if it was true, but that doesn't mean that there wasn't any touching or oral sex. She claims that they only kissed, in our bedroom /house....alone..... I don't buy that. This was about 8 years ago and she tried convincing me she was sorry but at the same time wanted assurance I wouldn't hold this over her head. I can never forget this. I have never cheated on her or even caused suspicion as I have been completely faithful and monogamous. Now that our marriage seems to be heading for divorce, could I use the fact that she admitted cheating on me... while in military training mind you, and the fact I have supported our entire family on just my income, not because I wanted this, but because she refused to work and chose herself to be a stay at home mom, and the fact I used my military benefits and personal funds to support her education and job hunting abilities to avoid paying for alimony? Sorry for the long run on sentence. I have no problem paying for child support, but don't think I should still be responsible to pay for her lack of drive to increase her money making abilities and career progression. 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Seems reasonable to me.",3.148333333333333,4.926334944444445,3.84,88.90500000000002,74.55555555555556,7.022222222222222,25.88888888888889,7.793537801064563,1.3736222222222216,142,5,29,2,3,45,30,36,0.0,0.904,0.096,0.34,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,6,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,5,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,1,17,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32790331154596586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829215051273484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7019176476434974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111576801928725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27550620650633684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26137820903095604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805443213068687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BasicYou,2019/01/24,"If you ever want to find out how someone really is, divorce them. It's true. The gloves come off. What are some terrible things your ex did during a divorce? Mine sold a bunch of my belongings (some irreplaceable). &#x200B;",2.4349593495934982,5.396508146341463,3.1920731707317067,84.34794715447156,89.4878048780488,6.635772357723577,23.90650406504065,7.793537801064563,1.897289430894309,178,7,31,4,6,56,38,41,0.073,0.8290000000000001,0.097,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,2,1,0,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,2,10,6,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,1,4,4,3,4,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,3,1,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729527200403939,0.4182543159237092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965074930352007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113587607817553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3146028250561918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205105256911787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2916490551569843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286786439865261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20302469956107969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4182543159237092,0.0 divorce,Sol-Mar,2019/01/24,"Just angry Woke up today from a dream and I can't seem to shake it off. Now I'm sitting in my car at the therapist office parking lot debating if I want to go in or not. I just feeling so angry I'm afraid she is going to be the recipient of everything boiling inside me. Not sure how long I can keep pretending I'm calm around/with him. I feel like I need to explode and I'm scared of that.",0.6490697674418621,2.2998508255813945,3.4211046511627927,89.68188953488372,81.44186046511628,6.625581395348838,22.377906976744185,7.6454224807358475,0.8939116279069768,305,10,70,5,8,108,64,86,0.149,0.722,0.128,-0.5878,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,5,6,0,3,3,0,4,1,0,1,1,17,17,6,0,3,6,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,1,3,2,0,4,3,3,0,0,1,2,10,3,12,15,1,13,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,4,4,43,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485934097905953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509736155368296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2823963182881073,0.19949762435189994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31741059807649463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24821193349807494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1364283804373153,0.0,0.0,0.2471291578227369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374099925597246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070617570812136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795798834763516,0.0,0.0,0.2542204560576034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631916257084082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3242329974325214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2646981639858136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647100150298854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,YE8PD,2019/01/24,"She is getting angry when I’m sad? So I do not understand this at all. We had a rough relationship that ended in her cheating on me. If that wasn’t enough she is now seeing the guy she had an affair with. Last night she calls me up and she is all upset about something and wants to talk, she was sad and missed me, she was also telling me about how she was basically raped by a guy she went on a date with a week or so ago. So on the phone I talk to her and console her, tell her I will stop by in the morning after work to help her out and be there for her, I also miss her and still feel a lot of love for her. Fast forward to the morning, I come to her place with some stuff she asked me to take, upon seeing her and thinking about things all night I get emotional and break down in front of her asking for a little support, she is then a totally different person, shuts me down, tells me about some guy she is seeing as to hurt me more, then proceeds to dig the knife in deeper by saying she didn’t love me for the last two years ( separated a month ago ) and that she has moved on, when only last night she was crying on the phone? I don’t understand this behaviour, she cheats on me, blames me for it, rubs it in my face, makes me feel bad for the feelings I’m having when I open up to her, then proceeds to call me emotionally abusing?!!??? She starts yelling at me and saying I’m an asshole when all I’m really doing is sitting at the kitchen table crying saying I miss her and still love her and wish she wasn’t with this guy, then I ask to talk in the other room (because she is yelling and our son is right there) so I start walking her down the hall gently with my arm around her trying to ask her to calm down and she says I’m physically being abusing and cornered her (I did not at all) she proceeds to say she is unsafe around me meanwhile I’m in tears and being as gentle as I can be. She is on Prozac also, drinks liquor like a fish suffers from depression. Could someone please help me to understand how to process this and proceed, I would have liked to get back together or at least be friends for our sons sake but that just seams unrealistic at this point. When my mouth is shut and I don’t say how her cheating and new relationship is hurting me everything is fine, she comes to me with her feelings and I help her through them, the second I say I miss her and break down (and I do because when I see her sometimes I can’t help it) she flips her shit. I don’t know who I love but it’s definitely not that person she is being. And it hurts to see her that way because I feel as though she is dealing with so much inside maby my emotions make her feel guilty? Maby it adds stress to her ? Maby she feels guilty seeing me sad? Does that mean she is sorry? Maby just doesn’t know how to say it? I don’t know, all I know is that before the eruption of the relationship in the last month we were doing better, we were really getting along and have fun together and being close. I also worked a lot in the last few months so I’m sure that was part of it. I just don’t know what to do because I still care about her. 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I'm a Male, 33, and will have been married for 7 years this summer. My relationship with my wife has been rough to say the least since pretty much day 1. To spare everyone of all the intricate details, we have constant fights and cant seem to get along on just about anything. I dont feel a strong loving connection to her anymore and we have zero love life (a big problem for me). We've tried counseling in the past 2 times with little success and I dont feel like putting in the effort to go back. I've never cheated but I find myself 'looking' at other women at a much higher frequency and tend to flirt a lot with other women. I'm still a young guy and just want to be happy. My problem is I have a hard time feeling like I can just pick up and leave. I dont want to leave my wife stranded but I feel like it's the only way to seperate, just rip the band aid right off. We have no kids, no mortgage, and only share a car and a lease to our names. For those of you who left, how did you know it was time and how did you just pick up and leave.",2.991474358974358,3.5345672393162424,4.08212606837607,91.8444711538462,73.1880341880342,6.875641025641028,23.599358974358967,6.6274283507984215,0.4635051282051279,850,21,198,6,16,277,132,234,0.128,0.7759999999999999,0.096,-0.5725,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,4,5,0,3,11,14,2,0,15,0,21,3,0,5,2,46,38,16,0,4,7,2,6,3,0,1,1,1,0,5,8,18,0,0,8,1,0,3,7,4,0,1,7,8,23,10,29,29,5,29,0,0,1,2,26,12,0,2,16,128,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108530591258628,0.0,0.0,0.09005607660263971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0841491300706239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11826087761838125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057683206705644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3847727071522102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10457029213673076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133547005444595,0.234542189121022,0.0,0.0,0.10002204731735033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057175522196360976,0.0,0.062194705964481414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10835833190892173,0.0,0.11649610478842196,0.09803269592570624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12028575707485778,0.0,0.0,0.46350549384270007,0.11890197063641406,0.0,0.07729751683391052,0.16039394509059876,0.10968310199515943,0.0,0.0,0.09189824226179293,0.0,0.0,0.09303813275146744,0.19753958903952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608953411268175,0.0,0.08440338966203043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1664612297606993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446854978372727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133522724786732,0.0,0.20942995203916084,0.0,0.1100128849893172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174927518306881,0.0,0.0934573030849418,0.0,0.08702748714840207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996259520663427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09052616100647123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08739531672980355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552508368115773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429950826908542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290957644926557,0.08686479125362283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047286197404694 divorce,chhocolatelover14,2019/01/24,"Divorce help or advice. **Sorry this is such a long post :( Location is california. Looking for some advice. I am just getting started. I have finally come to the conclusion that I need to get out of this abusive relationship that I have been in for the past 4 years. Background: -Married 2 years. -He made me sign a prenup before we got married. -We have no properties together or kids. (No baggage) -I just finished my degree so I am fresh out of school with no income yet or savings of my own. -He is older than me. The abuse: Basically I have been pushed, bruised,shoved, it as thrown at me, verbal abuse and much more. My neighbors has called the police multiple times and out of fear I have never said anything. However, last year I did speak up for myself once and he got charged for domestic abuse. But stupid me for going back together. I should of just stayed away. Sometimes it is hard to break the cycle... Anyways, since then I have learned to record him and take pics of whatever I could. I have many evidence of the abuse. Mostly through records. Now I need to piece all of this together and somehow use it if needed. He basically wants to leave me out dry. I have no where to go right now or any money to spend on a lawyer. No family here either to depend on. I am not looking for a big chunk of anything. I just dont want to be thrown out into the streets... ALSO currently he is in the process of applying for permanent citizenship (I dont know if this matters or not) I am looking for some help. Divorce advice are so costly. I was wondering if there are any places out there that offer advice or the process for free or eve a discounted rate. I am barely out of school and do not have too much to spend on a lawyer. I am in california. Or any advice on how I should even get started. I dont even know where to begin... ** Please do not leave judgy comments or anything rude. It really is a sensitive time and I am genuinely seeking for help. 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I live in the apartment still. We have two children. I am their primary caretaker (I take them to all activities and do most of the planning, structures, and routines) I have two small businesses which I run in the evenings and I also do other work as it comes up (no, I don't make a lot, but I contribute and always have). Issue: My wife is a ""wreck"", as she puts it. She made a friend at work who she goes out with several times a month along with a old friend who is also part of the trio. She's stayed out until 4am before and continues to go out late after kids are in bed. She also has chosen go straight from her evening gigs to hang out until late with her friends, leaving me with the kids and no chance of getting my own work done. I don't know what her relationship is like with the one guy from work, but and I have no evidence one way or another. And it doesn't even matter. But I feel her friends are a enablers - a distraction that's keeping her from figuring out what it is she wants to do with us. It's also not a very appropriate relationship to be having with a male work friend when she works closely with him at the same school one of our kids goes to. It is affecting how we relate to each other, and our children see this. She's also late to work a lot because she has no energy. We have an anxious child and that stress affects them in school. So my question is, since I am not a factor (nor are our kids) in her decision making, who should I express my concern to? Should I talk to their bosses (who are also our child's educators)? Or do I just shut my mouth and take the bullshit? Also, any other options? I don't want to blow up but I'm really just done with her. Thanks. 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You’ll be fine. It’s scary, terrifying, wet-your-pants horrifying, but you’re not going to die. Divorce is like leaving the village you’re used to, that you grew up in, that you’re safe in. There are joys you understand, pain you’re familiar with, and days that make sense. But it’s also not enough—that village you’re used to isn’t enough. Isn’t good for you, isn’t healthy, maybe even abusive. Whatever the reason, you didn’t reach it alone. Perhaps the village threw you out on your ass. Maybe you decided to pack your bags and disappear one night. Either way, you’re out here now in the cold forest, with me. You’re here with me now, which means that wasn’t the place you were supposed to be. The place you’re supposed to be is out there, somewhere, beyond the trees and hills and snow. Past the dark nights and wolves and bandits. And believe me, there are bandits. You’re vulnerable and new to this place. The monsters will smell you, the cracks in your bones, the weak in the weave of your muscle. Don’t give in to easy temptation, quick boozy nights of sexual wine that turns to vinegar in dawn’s light. The heady aroma of bar-light love swiftly vanishes in the concrete reason of morning, trust me. I’ve been there, done that, done them, and it doesn’t end well. You’ve been robbed from enough. You’re beyond the safety you know. Past the warmth of old comfort. But comfort is built, not given. Find the fuel to feed your own fire. Out here, It’s your own warmth, your own comfort, that will keep you safe. Maybe you’ve never built your own fire. Maybe you’ve never learned to gather sticks to create a heat that will comfort you when no one else would. Out here, you will. You’ll learn a lot of things you didn’t know before. You’ll learn just how far you can go. I want to say there’s an end. That with enough time spent in these frozen hills we’ll find a way out. But I’m just as lost as you, stranger. The midnight chill cracks my marrow just like yours. Taints my spirit, just like yours. But I believe there’s a way out. I do. We’re in this together. So let’s build a fire and talk and learn from each other’s stories. I’m here to tell you that it’s OK. You’ll be fine. You’re not going to die.",1.310451612903222,3.601453819354841,1.8417311827957008,98.42259677419355,82.84946236559139,4.8382795698924745,18.33225806451613,6.042040473130201,-0.4415883870967741,1786,42,403,13,50,544,199,465,0.093,0.7140000000000001,0.192,0.9942,0,1,1,0,2,0,76.0,1,31,1,1,27,21,0,0,25,2,35,7,2,6,2,63,57,23,2,2,15,0,3,3,0,10,2,1,0,0,24,23,2,3,13,1,1,6,15,3,1,2,12,8,42,18,53,30,10,51,1,1,0,2,42,25,1,2,20,235,66,4,0.0,0.106151909900231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279032751246967,0.0,0.07164671709153132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07623622203103797,0.20187908429502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057779450061470776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18596477273175774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833675126120456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484264807295565,0.0,0.1587038993119309,0.3702900816595914,0.0,0.05917469338739819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637709916627587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594484257198094,0.15275165243808134,0.07514554731805237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07963351618050425,0.0,0.0,0.09847487752651717,0.0,0.0,0.09486502776596856,0.0,0.09161392464535104,0.0,0.1313104267944377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09780028830661318,0.0761679433276114,0.08086030844532661,0.0,0.05980337828040335,0.0,0.36002895991230305,0.09759198965429013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819779933909815,0.0865285445640314,0.0,0.2522281638784153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940117685107069,0.0,0.12141976157736604,0.0,0.09533224071167708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105146769659746,0.0,0.0,0.28081382000499244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842310646352394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124718126890146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07201068311305249,0.15661477300628832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059520966302637535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224183541098357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09745040581558123,0.0,0.09326846685812347,0.0,0.15475750330950114,0.0,0.0,0.052843702807202866,0.21334195888404853,0.0,0.0,0.08055399799107146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06364361031748099,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Kimbo185,2019/01/25,"How are you all dealing with taxes? I am a F (28) and my ex is a M (33). We have a child together and going through the divorce process. Long story short, he is not the working type and only made $14k last year, didn’t have any taxes taken out of his paychecks. He wants to claim my child, whom I provide a home for and provide financially for, and split the taxes, or file the best way to get money. I made $27k last year, so I’m not ok with giving away money I earned/paid for. I mean it’s crazy. I have to remind myself that he doesn’t get to decide how I file my taxes. How are you all dealing?",1.5912307692307692,2.547959507692312,3.640000000000004,92.12000000000003,77.0,5.815384615384616,21.46153846153846,5.6839178017228535,0.002292307692307816,456,11,107,2,10,156,80,130,0.059,0.905,0.036000000000000004,-0.1896,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,1,2,0,2,4,2,0,0,8,1,10,0,0,5,2,22,20,10,0,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,9,0,0,2,0,6,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,15,2,13,16,3,10,0,0,0,0,15,3,0,1,5,64,18,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14500610682700885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003399128305599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22377542553349647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43966879558573146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228114283707132,0.20455302403825035,0.12118552433548747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2138906082371749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3476275601258533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18870495661344205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4035334279566603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322738166513645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621737019031874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257706557730772,0.1692548443009706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552365433772968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746307936442232 divorce,MayorChickaletta,2019/01/25,"Legit ways to “stop loving” someone? Divorce finalized in 2018. News of our marriage’s demise was unexpected. We had issues, but I genuinely thought because we loved each other, we would figure it out. When it all hit the fan, my ex spewed out the news that they never really loved me. Rather, they say that they were suffering from low self esteem, all the while saying they did love me during the decade we were together. In reflection, they were being low-key mean to me over the years: withheld affection, would get very, very annoyed with my anxiety, say I was cute then tell me I was fat, not buy me any gifts for holidays, birthdays. I legit thought he was just being the stereotypical guy not wanting to be lovey dovey or a just had a different love language than I (OMG, am I stupid?!?). So when I’d ask if we were ok, he’d always say he loved me and wanted to be with me. Then he taps out and *poof* we are over. He’s a great dad, contributes financially, still wants to be friends with me. But it hurts. A lot. I feel used, exhausted, ruined, unable to find any hope in finding love again when my heart still loves him. That’s where I get angry... I realize that I am not Giselle Bündchen or Little Mary Sunshine 24/7, but I honestly, genuinely loved that man. And he, just didn’t love me. Now he says that he is a lovey dovey kind of guy and can’t wait to find the right one to share that with... obviously it was just me he couldn’t be that way with. How could he lie to me for so long? And how can I stop loving him? I know I need to. I’m not ancient, I’m blessed with many things. I just can’t get this burden of love off of me. 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I am 36 M married to a 33F. We were married in 2011. I feel shame we are facing a divorce, but I know it's for the best. A quick snapshot: Our daughter (7) was born 6 months after we married. From day one my Wife has anxiety over her. My wife has deep mental health issues and is infatuated with the child. She allowed the baby in our bed from day one home from hospital then, as she grew and moved into her own room, my wife left me and slept with her. Now 7, my Wife still forces herself to sleep with our daughter. &#x200B; I got tired of sleeping alone and I cheated. I am not proud of it. My wife quit talking to me around year 5 and even a basic conversation had to involve the kid at the epicenter. I literally slept 1 x 1 with my wife maybe 10 times in 7 years. I had a surgery in Feb of 18 and she did not attend, but rather went to work. This was the last straw for me and I started seeing a co worker. My wife found out in June and kicked me out of the house. She refused overnights with my Daughter from June until Oct. when my 7 year old asked to spend the night with me. Put Mom on the spot and she was devastated. I am, and always have been, a very involved father. I raised my daughter by myself from 0-6.5 years, as my wife is very lazy and sleeps alot and lives life thru FB and IG. It hurt me not to see my daughter overnight (only short, sporadic visits allowed) from June until Court In Nov. During marriage, my wife who is an elementary school teacher, never cooked or cleaned and didnt sleep in the bed with me. She refused date nights and weekend trips out of town wo the kid. She likes to party on the weekends and would leave with girlfriends at 10pm on Sat night and stumble in at 230am drunk. I am not the going out type. This stressed me out. She would sleep in all day Sunday, refusing the take care of the kid. This happened regularly and during the summer it was tough for me to work (I am not a teacher), come home and cook, clean and feed and bath the kid. Then at 11pm, on say a Tues night, her brother who is 26 and just starting young working type comes over and hangs out eating our food and playing with my daughter until 1 am, then I have to get her down, go to bed, get up at 7 am and go to work while my wife and daughter sleep in until noon. I got fed up. She kicked me out of the house, refused to give me my personal items, I had to get a court order to re enter my own home, she didnt let me see my daughter until the court made her (I still only got 35% visitation bc my wife teaches at the same school daughter attends and judge felt best not to interrupt the kids schedule) when I wanted week on week off. She expects me to continue to support her beyond child support by maintaining our upscale home. Shes not entitled to any alimony and I cant afford it anyway. I really wanted us to work out, but I am so disappointed in her. I am not perfect, but this can't be the way it's supposed to be!",3.3949555403556744,4.227438011437911,4.363638850889196,89.12718878248975,72.48039215686273,6.934853321173433,26.32406140750874,6.9265101639786515,0.9754026751785982,2301,74,505,19,43,747,277,612,0.106,0.8320000000000001,0.063,-0.9761,3,1,0,0,2,0,76.0,9,0,0,11,13,16,1,3,34,0,38,19,9,3,3,88,73,47,0,6,15,23,2,1,1,2,3,1,11,8,12,52,7,4,4,7,1,16,13,7,0,2,23,6,85,9,97,45,8,111,0,2,3,0,81,44,0,2,50,331,97,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498829438038937,0.0,0.0,0.06024559578430784,0.07844927093976801,0.08797829963023894,0.049236931195332005,0.0,0.055388556238966144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06445455493909287,0.06768759274122489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519662236479918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07382029620186457,0.0,0.0,0.12473858163185135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14008299765180746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0740869589354385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04782189530484385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03660943591994404,0.0,0.06951881092325214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08755072117612879,0.07938681086367387,0.0,0.0,0.11348367880785425,0.06945613112959251,0.12344590419274505,0.0,0.17372332065001606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402626484469942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07696164163351572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29050685909843155,0.0,0.0,0.16708806786910138,0.0775095518694826,0.0,0.0,0.0755705479221954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039791125341371886,0.05901859802338244,0.0,0.07666495872171887,0.07866672384138151,0.07403758705049478,0.05114080429324303,0.035372741978782235,0.0,0.06393370577600889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06851003748077247,0.0,0.0,0.07273914845203304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0729657998399924,0.0,0.0,0.08479822188459221,0.057791863183762185,0.07695356897337544,0.0,0.0,0.05584212028009927,0.0,0.0,0.2717834974253886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597539917460171,0.0,0.0981251070973602,0.11013240169016447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06322003125815932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07278561655560874,0.0,0.0770101415141414,0.0,0.0,0.0463836005087839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057578249220505924,0.0,0.14655261838902106,0.1730888865239632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.434735337351825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10249528224898516,0.0,0.1156432178443308,0.0,0.08293807979718404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432549575221347,0.0,0.0,0.05443849686999463,0.05819527151780812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042219121731672166,0.08321728782568051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08709261663450657,0.0,0.0,0.11948110633491278,0.08541103902718339,0.05747060800180938,0.11615560207744187,0.0,0.0,0.06711886308513447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635534175945989,0.0,0.0,0.1028668809316724,0.0,0.08797829963023894,0.1865021796207749 divorce,oc_user42,2019/01/25,"Just Breathe. I don’t know you and I may never know you but just know that I am going through this trauma with you. You are not alone no matter how lonely and depressed you may feel right now and your anxiety is off the charts. Don’t sit home alone crying and feeling lost like there’s no hope. Remember you can’t change what has happened. If you feel like all is lost just stop, take a deep breath and just breathe. Take it one day at a time don’t worry about tomorrow, focus on now. Life may have knocked us down but we will continue to get up. Be strong. Be free. Be you. Love you guys. 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(1 child involved) I'm separated but want a divorce. My other half wants to go to the courthouse and have this done cheaply and quickly (he mainly wants to do this because he thinks he won't have to pay child support hah). Anyways, I'm all for a cheap divorce with no lawyers involved. The only thing is someone told me I coudn't go this route because we have a child, she's 11. I don't want anything from him, I want divorced, although I understand the courts/state may make him pay child support. I'm not living with him and have all I need. With this info, does anyone know if we absolutely need a lawyer for this? Apparently it's $250 to do it through the courthouse, a divorce lawyer will cost ME much more. Thanks.",3.3975250836120416,5.073919273291928,3.8983850931677013,89.17144768275203,73.65838509316771,5.9476349737219305,30.39703774486383,6.297961479604792,1.3926021022455797,637,29,129,4,13,200,88,161,0.018000000000000002,0.847,0.134,0.9279,1,0,0,0,5,0,24.0,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,11,1,14,0,0,1,2,29,36,8,0,9,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,4,10,9,0,0,4,0,4,3,4,0,0,1,2,0,16,3,13,31,5,5,0,0,0,0,21,1,0,3,1,82,26,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129811391943557,0.0,0.14275556815545234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114981281713072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180959261387553,0.17752568173273042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957703995499377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533760652263816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531820583739516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579625363202478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12752446421506053,0.3858896898500121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193594661688482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146985241303767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937159183425557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1597129474691893,0.0,0.0,0.11524942417277988,0.11115610567536044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576328915624852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805941295412136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5116017680830031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,dampkindling,2019/01/25,"Kids How do those of you with kids deal with it when they are really wanting to see the other parent? I am not divorced yet, but it may be in the near future for me. I just can't picture how we will deal with it if one of the kids is crying for the other parent, but it's not their night, but they are just a mile or two away. In particular, my daughter would struggle so much with being apart from me half the time. I would come comfort her at the drop of a hat if she needed me...but I don't know how we can establish separate routines if we were to do that. 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Getting divorced is often harder than staying in a bad marriage. That's why it takes many of us a long time and tons of anguish and soul searching to get there. Took me years and years of a sexless marriage to finally do it. Here's a story I wrote about it on Medium -- hope it helps you process, too. Eager to hear what you think. [https://medium.com/@mookiespitz/from-horny-to-heartbroken-the-story-of-my-sexless-marriage-part-2-f13f0bff53b8](https://medium.com/@mookiespitz/from-horny-to-heartbroken-the-story-of-my-sexless-marriage-part-2-f13f0bff53b8) Hang in there!",14.945616883116884,20.527830753246754,7.9325811688311685,55.3331574675325,53.15584415584416,4.888961038961039,23.910714285714285,5.985473137389443,0.5841701298701301,516,11,59,2,8,129,56,77,0.091,0.8079999999999999,0.102,-0.1759,0,0,0,0,1,0,54.0,1,3,0,0,6,5,0,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,11,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,1,6,3,12,9,1,11,1,0,0,0,10,3,0,2,6,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865074570239794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446946391128096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2334067621247975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517580538395873,0.0,0.14972248017590878,0.0,0.0,0.2218601853897542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10912895924077208,0.0,0.0,0.19767842808656075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264655657394063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4837832449288208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380863215006831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16794899613996686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14312865402131006,0.0,0.0,0.13025082470000424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481760641605812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686906945630698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20155974819310288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876902894658121 divorce,joeyjr10,2019/01/25,"An old joint account in my name question. I have a checking and savings account with Wells Fargo before I got married. Upon getting married, I gave my ex-wife access to the checking and savings account to the point where all her direct deposits and savings are in that account. We got divorced nearly a year and a half ago and upon getting the divorce we split our funds 50/50 and I opened a separate portion of the account (checking/savings) under the original Wells Fargo account that she doesn't have access to (she can't even see it). When I log in to my account I still see my old account she IS STILL USING and my new personal portion. I've discussed getting her off my account countless times to no avail. Every time I talk to Wells Fargo about the matter they state since we live in different states she must go to a branch at the same time and have a branch rep speak to a branch rep from my local office on the phone to coordinate a separation of my account that she still uses. Every single time I've spoken to Wells Fargo they always state ""you know... legally that's your money... you could just take all that money and close the account if you want to..."" or ""yeah at least your nice because there are so many bad people that would just take the money and run"". Due to her dragging her feet for this long I'm about ready to do just that (essentially take her money out of the account and force her hand into making a new account, then I'll give it back..). Is this illegal after her still using a joint account that's under my name after all this time? &#x200B; \*\*Caveat, at this point I've made the joint checking account that she still uses (which is wave2save that auto rounds to the closest increment) send all the money directly into my own savings as sort of a tax. This was after calling Wells Fargo about it and the phone rep saying ""oh yeah if she doesn't want to leave your account, its technically your money and legally can do anything you want"". She was rather enthusiastic about it lol. &#x200B; Thanks. 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Relationship with wife of 8 years is down the tubes. Years of therapy and nothing has gotten better. We have a young one (4 years old) so I’d like do my best to not screw up here. I have strong feelings but no immense ill-will so am ok slicing the pie 50/50. Am thinking about things I need to do to prepare. Lawyer is #1 (and something I haven’t tackled yet) but in tandem: * open own bank account? Stash some cash there so I’m not up the creek without a paddle? * grab tax papers and other important docs, take them out of house * get an apartment in my name and hide it until I’m ready to drop the news to my wife(????) * move my most sentimental things to new apartment or storage unit. Her rage at the news = things might get thrown! * what else? Curious if others got an apartment before actually dropping the news. Can’t imagine my wife will be happy with me sleeping in our shared house when I tell her my intentions. Also not sure how this whole thing will affect my little one. What a mess folks. Sigh. Anything else I’m missing or overlooking?",1.6728571428571437,4.1972001190476185,2.6567857142857183,91.5994642857143,83.52380952380952,5.214285714285714,22.559523809523807,6.6274283507984215,0.5923809523809527,835,29,168,9,24,264,140,210,0.097,0.758,0.145,0.8792,0,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,2,0,1,3,11,13,2,0,11,1,15,2,1,4,1,34,27,17,0,2,9,3,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,10,9,0,0,3,0,4,1,7,4,1,2,2,3,17,8,23,21,5,25,0,1,0,1,12,13,1,6,10,106,27,3,0.0,0.0,0.14611328119327086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11973771573169065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12321368294170937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274078067017177,0.0,0.15713067675396875,0.1324225672444387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.250157664812971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07570715786169208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645377701747654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975144777308748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938862385355165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3455328500180429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07314971382909694,0.15006715219146702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1588381290279413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15913755150524178,0.0,0.11102168204950673,0.0,0.14460858350911882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436684000182216,0.0,0.15711472723848058,0.0,0.20291962404064945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16075222481534365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983649245020875,0.0,0.0,0.115268206916375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14111720773252706,0.0,0.1125770931107046,0.0,0.13086918655081534,0.0,0.1712274290951033,0.0,0.3978914782161403,0.09593988759026842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716636729977633,0.0,0.1443327963748939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28926046521808657 divorce,psjohnson,2019/01/25,Illinois Maintenance (Alimony) Calculator Updated for 2019 Changes The [Illinois Maintenance (Alimony) Calculator](https://calculators.law/maintenance/illinois) has been updated to add the 2019 Illinois alimony guidelines formula. 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Things started getting rocky about a year ago when he started IV Infusions every 8 weeks for a chronic illness. He went through a lot of trauma in his childhood that he never dealt with properly and subsequently cannot handle stress whatsoever. This infusion thing pushed him over the edge. Couldn’t finish school, couldn’t keep a job, etc. and it was always everyone else’s fault (particularly mine somehow). I haven’t stopped working full time since I was 18 and it’s been hard to be the only breadwinner for so long. I’d been telling him he needed therapy/psychiatric care to help with his severe anxiety/depression/substance abuse (spending $400/month of my money on weed) but he would never agree to it. I’ve been consistently going to a therapist since 2 weeks before he left. Flashback to September ‘18 when he woke me up at 7am and told me he’d packed his shit and was leaving me to go “north” because he didn’t want to hurt me anymore. He ended up at a house that belonged to some very unhealthy people we knew in another state. He came back for his infusion after a couple weeks (on my insurance) and we filed for divorce together actually. I wanted to try a separation and counseling but he wouldn’t come back home so i felt i didn’t have a choice. I’m not going to stay married to him and pay for all of his bills while he goes off galavanting around with who knows in another state. I’ve tried to be supportive in every way I know how but he tells me I didn’t support him enough or in the right ways. The divorce is to finalize in the next couple of weeks and he suddenly texted me saying he loves me and doesn’t want the divorce. We talked on the phone and all we did was argue. We remember 2 different realities of what has happened throughout our relationship and He still claims that i’m at fault and just can’t admit it. I feel so conflicted and worried for his well being, like I’m leaving him destitute. But not once has he thanked me for continuing to pay his bills. He also has not made any effort to obtain his own doctor, medical insurance, or assistance and has now lapsed in his VERY IMPORTANT Infusions. I want to feel like i’m making the right decision but nothing feels right. I just want my life to go back to normal but I don’t even know who he is anymore. I can’t go back to being the emotional punching bag, my self esteem already wasn’t that great to begin with. TLDR: STBX has mental health issues, refuses to get help, I feel wrong for divorcing him ",5.2146555932607015,5.9158854027504955,6.050601893195218,79.15503244627018,68.25343811394892,9.627457284038817,30.748407453711966,9.725611199111238,2.8072732154551403,2046,78,398,44,33,674,260,509,0.091,0.802,0.107,0.825,2,0,0,0,4,0,49.0,6,0,0,3,21,17,2,1,18,0,37,9,1,3,4,78,81,32,0,11,13,0,6,2,0,2,7,1,1,1,15,28,0,4,12,0,6,9,18,8,1,0,20,7,49,9,64,51,8,71,0,1,0,1,61,25,1,5,34,238,64,6,0.0,0.09173812650400236,0.07555741208735921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06863420855090126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544242654782816,0.06191820384877565,0.0644253207981758,0.0,0.0,0.05265289596825952,0.1623775536220734,0.0,0.0,0.15357321006008842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892628954524024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23814579610856526,0.0,0.04719867377095738,0.0,0.06588452518135386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855566087227787,0.07894180814890793,0.0,0.0,0.06669635375765247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17134261800125633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08089455249526349,0.0,0.07924963607637027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646801769583271,0.08709475657614738,0.06857718530660506,0.08000260755174374,0.08635137655031251,0.05113968757520089,0.0,0.13047087863384468,0.0739846491856382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565973162139094,0.05531373913431408,0.07434189399127553,0.08481730201586496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809046406061936,0.0,0.2200172442843256,0.0,0.0,0.08536334772372785,0.0,0.0,0.06846828549752916,0.0,0.06935922687585283,0.0,0.0,0.0823010941603963,0.0,0.0,0.10379513720192184,0.0,0.07766541830914164,0.0,0.0,0.0893401603376467,0.08288701736791425,0.0,0.0,0.08081348900942392,0.0768341764958676,0.06882051946302024,0.0,0.0,0.12765527413238908,0.0,0.0,0.16396765590331,0.08412447173346081,0.0,0.054688856165766325,0.0756536712709456,0.0,0.0,0.06852030350084426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06582551766713801,0.0698807323606514,0.07326313376327291,0.051683006807985946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779993803083846,0.0780280284523541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061801352890064075,0.0,0.0,0.05741100954505617,0.1194326810536014,0.0,0.08234430660254953,0.0,0.07586184906897978,0.07429312664431674,0.0,0.0,0.08245704151342921,0.0,0.058886589275049736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053678011395696265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312743369486461,0.08770949908310617,0.19836625607398206,0.0,0.06157291879574413,0.0,0.07836008035615277,0.0,0.0,0.08077306446825802,0.0874702733965657,0.07947752304202595,0.1280965392241423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10960621026691553,0.08252669330961504,0.061833162331303024,0.06473229250762387,0.08869216625308997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572608655176006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06223274892815151,0.13534891526633971,0.07128421768811656,0.0,0.089898511308004,0.10287788399556516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514820421260882,0.0,0.0,0.0739846491856382,0.0,0.10513546326840292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12777047856754215,0.2283417367442266,0.12291561926746468,0.24842851428132576,0.0,0.06961601411650141,0.07177544233025812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0563676506305222,0.07863069900970332,0.0,0.05500179488022378,0.08465407829289827,0.0,0.099720673313991 divorce,thelonegunman88,2019/01/25,"Hmmm Real talk guys and gals I'm interested in this person but the thing is, is that she goes to the same church my ex goes to. She's invited me twice already one to a worship night and another to her small community group for young professionals I just don't know if my ex goes to those things or if she goes to just Sunday services.... I've already mentioned this to the person but haven't really gotten a response back Is this something I should concern myself about and just go and if I see my ex just give her the what's up nod, ignore her completely or just not go? 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That was over a year ago. Since then she's filed for divorce but had only worked for a week at a job where she quit and I think she might be doing some ride share work. She has a CS degree and 10 years experience with running a business so I think she could find something if she wanted to. I'm not sure what her plan is, but basically how screwed am I with her not working? I work full time and make a decent income but need to be able to support myself too as I don't make enough to support two households.",3.759797297297297,4.408411601351354,4.453621621621624,89.49272972972975,71.5,6.730810810810813,26.962162162162162,6.2581,0.8736816216216221,559,18,122,3,10,179,96,148,0.048,0.883,0.07,0.4866,4,0,1,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,7,5,5,1,0,8,0,12,1,0,3,1,28,24,13,0,4,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,9,0,0,3,0,1,3,4,1,0,1,4,0,18,4,16,16,3,19,0,0,0,1,15,7,1,3,9,79,22,7,0.1434480194728485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715801410445612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453157107749035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788860929510889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14822015018812826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14031968856130245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13110889101819415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749456695758986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4270500748028591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19150533378050533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217567975814714,0.0,0.0,0.11449884056929285,0.0,0.0,0.10636488881586233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10909868282442317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3051492521502174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11866168405887167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11043329362634632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3255662251236984,0.13519806071558144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183831397402082,0.0,0.0,0.08364569373303267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09739178904676506,0.0,0.14012787121251624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08460935849511478,0.0,0.11506534856997012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4177274665356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27712746423736145 divorce,workthrowaway68,2019/01/25,"Who helped you the most when things got tough in your divorce? I was married for 11 years, my wife and I have three beautiful daughters, a nice home, etc. My wife was a habitual cheater, but I always forgave her. I am Christian and felt that nothing should have caused a divorce, and I still loved her. I am more than a year out now and things are starting to stabilize a bit, could be better of course. Was there anyone that helped you, gave you support, got you through the really tough times that you really appreciate for helping you cope with your divorce? For me, my mom was a great helper, and a very special friend who helped me put things in perspective. I will never be able to thank either of them for all that they did. I am assuming that we all have someone like that in this process.",6.240815295815295,6.333100902597405,5.641774891774889,85.09059884559886,65.94805194805194,8.922366522366524,31.3968253968254,8.515128840125781,2.126107647907648,625,22,128,8,9,190,94,154,0.029,0.682,0.289,0.9941,0,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,1,8,2,1,4,12,0,0,9,0,17,1,0,1,3,19,25,7,0,2,2,4,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,12,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,9,1,26,10,15,11,7,13,1,0,0,1,30,4,0,2,9,97,38,0,0.1626154195043194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13530905587724473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137044823142511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382012374967426,0.1775339210743196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705083030981946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12983518033708435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18135917819215688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561363042273051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125636269724048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601168123577726,0.179284074086374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4359907516312684,0.0,0.16311652461370107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07944567994769637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14676676503251335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904532139470004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254190364443515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15603388077651156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347341128208787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2083512034805233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778351723902774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11510003090212813,0.0,0.12986488407505026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845340509735956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971443020893965,0.0,0.0,0.3241033769400209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482235883153133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417475155550473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943799720965195 divorce,lalalandtake,2019/01/25,"He [31m] send me a message asking me to for help to make divorce quicker I [26f] feel so bad. We are separated one year already. I left him with no saying something to him...I loved him much and still do. The biggest pain in the world was to leave him. We are living in two different continents. I won't hug him never again.",0.19152985074626727,2.4306110447761213,2.470279850746269,92.26870335820898,87.80597014925371,5.141044776119403,21.807835820895523,6.6274283507984215,0.4984343283582091,248,9,54,3,8,84,52,67,0.187,0.723,0.09,-0.7307,1,0,1,0,1,0,13.0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,5,3,0,1,1,7,9,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,2,1,2,11,2,8,7,1,10,0,0,0,2,14,5,0,0,4,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860238132886371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24230868116100795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21641373394195534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2707995233026447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13105480305266276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17373032428270613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744459403386171,0.2816118779424838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288704812940625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339300784488808,0.0,0.17301206539549627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905352742448295,0.0,0.1999041474267736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17563459067338774,0.0,0.2757975943595244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611915813757967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19953796420751632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.206990339486609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531920332384965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669105642090589 divorce,2bgoodtoday,2019/01/25,"I (39M) filed for divorce today from my wife (29F). 3yo child. It sucks. Filed for divorce today. It sucks. I don’t want to be divorced. I feel like I tried everything I could think of to make it work. But at this point my STBXW says she is seeing someone else, and after 2 years of trying to convince her to reconcile, and one year of separation, I just give up. We were married 4 years, and more than half of that time has been spent with her telling me daily that she wants a divorce, with every added negative and discouraging thing you can imagine added to it. I have no sense of relief, but no remorse either after being shut out for years now. The worst part is knowing that the next few months worth of decisions will determine what the rest of my life looks like. I’m not mad or even really sad at this point. More than anything I just want to protect my daughter in every way possible. Even though I know it’s not my fault, I feel like a failure for her. And I know my STBXW will make this the most difficult part of the divorce. Why didn’t she file if this is what she wants so badly? Why do I have to be the one that makes this terrible decision? Idk. Just venting I guess. 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Is there one? I am not comfortable blasting my problems on Reddit about this. So I was wondering if there are any good divorce discord servers out there? I know that there is a break-ups one which is great, but find that not everyone understands the issues that come from marriage and divorce. 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I'm the one who wants it but I went to a really dark place today about my worries as someone who has health conditions and being worried about a 36 year old female. I RARELY drink and all I want is a Cosmo and some cheese it's. I'm trying not to indulge because I'm currently working to repair my esophagus but eating a limited diet and losing weight. But man I just feel so dark right now and scared about ever even being open to consider myself someone who is worthy of love from someone I don't have to settle for and do more of the supporting (I'm the bread winner in my current relationship and basically took care of everything, even while.going though kidney failure) ",6.853826530612245,6.428399782312926,7.630671768707483,73.08233418367348,64.78231292517007,10.615306122448981,32.660714285714285,10.125756701596842,3.2273,596,21,108,12,8,200,93,147,0.109,0.728,0.163,0.8933,2,0,2,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,3,11,5,0,1,8,0,10,10,1,0,2,23,23,14,0,3,6,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,9,7,1,1,2,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,3,10,3,16,18,3,14,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,1,8,73,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691850702053941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537493445476846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27935808107903976,0.0,0.2918001512684381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18835212680354635,0.12897631708236626,0.0,0.0,0.1281462253652169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07209527218279414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103435484127583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12772817468141578,0.0,0.0,0.15156121261568614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951616968256535,0.0,0.0,0.1286885507793053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961899698938916,0.0,0.09661930218782816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14897100209009392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134361727974627,0.0,0.0,0.15308295449717582,0.0,0.1217668311675727,0.0,0.0,0.14275248288115014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3624354836226972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180379518459567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16305840100778615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400890618405146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703078608747822,0.0,0.15841720771294532,0.09680587156482068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25230102368466584,0.0,0.0,0.17363014623629391,0.0,0.1321777454671544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038035954322743,0.2896040256160863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09182008042849324 divorce,Ayyjay,2019/01/26,"When did you throw in the towel? I just wonder because I am so close to filing divorce from my wife. I got married to her in 2016 through the courts because it was a lot of work with wedding planning, along with her having 2 kids already, I was working, I love my career, and I want to advance in it. But, my wife is super controlling, I don't have my own bank account, I have a joint bank account with her. She has her own bank account, which I have access to, but our joint account gets murdered from her going to the store every weekend and getting them shit fucking food. My step son loves me and I think it's adorable, but he eats like shit, and I've told him that. His sister despises me, to be fair, she's probably the reason I'm posting on Reddit, she wants me and her mommy to break up. I sometimes think, if I could actually go somewhere without her, I would be happy, her little daughter who hates me would realize it too because she only does this crap because she loves daddy and he's in jail or some sort of legal trouble all the time (sorry that comes off so trashy, but it's true). I just want to know how my situation doesn't lead to me filing papers and getting a divorce because I honestly believe I am going to file the papers and leave, I need to get my own bank account, but I want to leave, that's it. I'm done.",6.245604395604397,5.059794054945058,6.797417582417584,81.06008241758245,66.32600732600733,8.825641025641023,33.785714285714285,7.1686216300943375,2.1830923076923074,1039,39,213,7,14,342,147,273,0.116,0.747,0.13699999999999998,0.4796,1,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,1,1,1,7,7,17,7,0,9,0,19,9,3,4,2,46,45,19,1,9,10,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,14,2,1,6,1,10,8,3,8,0,0,6,0,48,9,29,34,6,22,0,0,0,4,34,9,4,6,4,145,60,7,0.0,0.0,0.1149741613826498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300159847650301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591062600790804,0.0,0.0,0.1327414510174973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149047100369862,0.0,0.0,0.132143811901694,0.0940687314641765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031040331544523,0.12056954675909733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120558054440301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09926742751882456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14246697072607914,0.0,0.0,0.10892158981304312,0.24622185828458265,0.0,0.20087743176326195,0.0,0.09423046399086006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254203123209356,0.0,0.11632168114287575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06475013584140116,0.0,0.0,0.24950621270042034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05756031850216621,0.11808539807872726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016533761912898,0.31900822346913593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736115351518836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960651286938506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128378502730434,0.0,0.1270286026125002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113735767912473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418786273400152,0.0,0.13243327700051008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11652581407776327,0.13188850998046164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098707015204324,0.0,0.0,0.06870109462292917,0.0,0.0,0.11258092039300284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277970342980738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11357312687589165,0.1277694718422267,0.17154699138878332,0.0,0.0,0.16739020213087005,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,alt_think,2019/01/26,"Who do I believe? Him or her? Dating a man going through a messy divorce... Been on and off with a man for over a year who is going through a messy divorce. They have one child together. Long story short, she is doing everything in her power to destroy him and take the kid away from him. He is a fighter and is willing to go broke fighting for his kid. She has claimed and charged him with abuse. He is adamant that it’s not true and is fighting to prove it. Here’s the shitty part - because I only hear one side of the story, I find myself questioning the facts and who to believe. I care a lot about this man, but the situation has worn me down, so I have chosen to break things off with him. My therapist says he’s emotionally unavailable and I need to move on (which I am trying to do). Even though he treated me well, feelings of doubt make me question whether I was just being manipulated and would have been his next victim OR if she is falsifying the story and really is just crazy. Back story: When we met, they were still married, though their living arrangement was unique (she stayed out of town with child 5 nights of the week, so he was home alone 5 nights of the week.) The moment him and I met it was fireworks. I immediately had the feeling of “oh shit. This is either going to be amazing or awful” within 30 seconds of meeting him. Despite the chemistry, I suppressed the connection for over 4 months because he was married, and I was in a relationship at the time. However, once it was unleashed, it was full on between us. He explained how things had been bad in his marriage for so long and at the time our relationship started they decided to separate. I broke up with my bf and from that point him and I were full on. We talked about marriage/babies/life together from the start. I was on a literal high. He was a dream come true. However, about 3 months in the shit hit the fan with his ex and she charged him with abuse (dating back almost 2 years). She had no idea about me, though she had her speculations that he was seeing someone. Since then it’s been a rollercoaster. My heart is torn. I have never been married, nor do I have kids, so I can’t totally relate to their situation. Any advice? Insights? Words of wisdom? TL;DR: dating a man going through a messy divorce; ex wife claims abuse and is trying to take kid away; I don’t know who to believe. 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Have you been through anger management or at least tried? What was it like? Can it really save a marriage if the one needing the help gets it? I am stuck mentally. I want to say I don't live my daily life as an angry person but I have my occasional blow ups because I consider someone else to be wrong. I am aware of issues and I am very curious on getting anger help. 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He had not thought of my feelings when he whisked his ex and son away for holidays behind my back. He disrespected our relationship by having emotional affairs. He was adamant to speak to his affairs despite my feelings, and insisted he had not cheated despite all the evident infidelities. Having known all of this which led to our separation, I still miss him. I still miss how good our sex was. I still think of the sweet times we had together although I am sure he doesn't. When he left me, he thought it was miserable and I didn't manage to make him happy. He thought I was a mess and I was paranoid. At one point I couldn't understand how he processed everything. When he had all the secret trips sleeping in the same bed with his ex and writing love confessions with another ex, I am left traumatised, and yet he thought I was the paranoid one. It's just unfair how my ex could just paint me and remember me as the bad character when his actions were disrespectful and selfish. Therapist said I am depressed. I feel lonely. I don't know why I am still living on. I can recall all the good times, and the bad times. Why couldn't he make it work with me and had to leave me behind. I thought it was for life. I thought it was for better or worse. He only wanted the ride when it was better and just ditched me when it got bumpy.",3.470420706912729,5.291882053956833,4.319596496715672,85.62141538942761,73.7841726618705,7.712480450422271,28.63371911166719,8.456263369488248,2.061083015326868,1113,46,223,20,23,358,134,278,0.142,0.753,0.106,-0.8359,0,2,0,0,0,0,26.0,4,0,0,3,18,18,1,1,10,0,29,4,1,6,6,56,50,24,0,4,6,6,3,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,9,16,0,0,16,1,0,5,9,10,0,2,24,6,40,8,23,23,5,29,1,5,0,2,41,8,0,1,16,153,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043533472183587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139665913277133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211393478795597,0.08357271068600558,0.18149629164395847,0.0,0.0,0.09248365415874918,0.0,0.0,0.1922476059967095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677680822122105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09361096425688532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222569537240663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976798348263469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648644958173076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056783871334468564,0.0,0.0,0.1823210706035049,0.08692600373212785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11569810945589487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059730901360640215,0.0,0.0,0.11508262327186206,0.23617499036895956,0.0,0.07676803082438753,0.0,0.0,0.0959715977008686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09809322395832726,0.0,0.14509729908068925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382522860572651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14729669097698872,0.08266048730124728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10274325962098736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925929954627807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668792949146108,0.12311988220770892,0.0,0.10338513316513913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876434267931176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34718664419902034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10243512837747833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12619265003899352,0.0,0.06964150481532487,0.0,0.5177065524736885,0.19012678134026564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131458039632608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410573090701374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961441511533494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912459401209714,0.0,0.11076016751961464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,techsupportredditor,2019/01/26,"Just told the stbxw to stop trying to be friends. Just had to tell my stbxw who is the one that wanted this divorce to stop trying to be friends. She had the emotional affair, she said she wanted out. I contacted the lawyers, I found her the apartment. I bought her furniture so she wouldn't need to take what was already here. And yet now I am apparently the asshole because I asked her to back off on the texting and facebook shares. I just want to keep the conversation about the kids. I don't need the random shares on facebook. I don't need the idle conversation, unless the kids are around and it's just natural conversation. Yet I am the asshole because I don't need the emotional confusion. Fuck her and fuck the horse she rode in on. 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May have helped make things feel a little less stressful. If you have Netflix or if Tru tv streams old shows, I suggest taking a look. May help with some outside prospective on weddings and what they once use to be.",6.1530434782608685,7.875405463768117,4.670260869565219,86.1584347826087,66.82608695652175,6.679420289855073,34.08985507246377,6.742157984588678,2.11308463768116,303,14,53,2,5,87,53,69,0.115,0.7829999999999999,0.101,-0.2567,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,1,5,0,8,0,0,2,0,13,15,5,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,5,0,0,0,3,1,0,3,4,4,1,5,9,2,7,0,2,3,0,8,3,0,6,4,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21640611804038434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43881579980327656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1234392368357458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272697855425629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446819463817392,0.0,0.2160469713374724,0.20500733820117933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16295837175242153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25617289796303205,0.25999000550552304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27964957715202715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183555040913822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16218882666344156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14235390509237406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21084954964868755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195017861570262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28073693680354433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,IHaveTheCri,2019/01/26,"My Parents are Getting a Divorce So, yesterday, my mom told me that she is moving out today. She told me what I need to do(dishes, laundry, grocery shopping, etc) They just fell out of love. No cheating, no fighting, just life. I don’t know what to do, I feel torn and even though I know it’s not my fault, I still feel like I did something that could’ve escalated the problem. It’s really painful, you know. I’m graduating high school in 5 months, and in September, i leave for parris island. I know she’s going to come to those events, but I feel like it just wont be the same. I’m lost I guess I’m gonna have to learn how to be my mom Tl;dr My parents are divorcing, my mom just left 10 minutes ago, and I must do everything she did in this house",2.008461538461539,3.471036382165604,3.5505732484076447,91.11705046545816,76.89808917197452,6.61420872121509,24.81577658010779,7.321109707123232,0.9307583537481628,580,20,131,7,13,192,97,157,0.114,0.823,0.063,-0.545,2,0,1,0,3,0,25.0,0,1,1,1,9,9,2,0,3,0,13,3,0,1,1,26,33,7,0,3,6,5,3,2,0,3,2,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,8,1,1,4,5,6,0,0,5,3,25,3,13,23,2,17,0,1,0,1,17,7,0,1,8,81,34,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1210004381660396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758404735982285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089854255889609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15223537386723884,0.09015802374532407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12267884228778825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070579410497925,0.19503354997938935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131645552345223,0.0,0.07757700867999122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037190893595284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442214417725015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750452689583078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000708525257634,0.0,0.0,0.14453549205455504,0.14830939490889938,0.0,0.0964151215344691,0.13337557999033325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14900762827315195,0.0,0.1231980292849393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4796070954631075,0.10895428004252257,0.14507960536826053,0.0,0.10121421164716353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524733344218246,0.0,0.30313776038325424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13061360251844062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0874464244757984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381469132959945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508560558306597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901035931274357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13411213537345076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12938756229025772,0.2608662694021958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,trayp33username,2019/01/26,Trying to keep a positive outlook I’m in my first month of separation from a marriage that has been dead for a long time. I’m surprisingly happy living just me and the pup but winters are long here and I fight SAD. I had a dinner date with a friend tonight that canceled due to an emergency and I don’t realize how much I was looking forward to it. Just don’t feel like being home alone but not looking to date either. Trying to focus on self care. 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I received a reminder email from a company congratulating me on my 8 year anniversary. That’s when it hit me, I’d forgotten. It made me extremely happy to know I’m at much better place emotionally than a year ago. I post this for anyone that is struggling or going through the motions of divorce. Sometimes it sucks really bad but it gets better. Just let time do its thing. 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It’s been rocky the past 3 months. The marriage is dead. I do love him but it’s not going to work. I’m trying to prepare, save money, pay off debt, etc. I spoke with a lawyer and they told me that if I leave the home it could be viewed as abandonment concerning custody. I work away from the home 1 hour commute each way, and I travel for work. He normally takes her to school, pics her up, runs her here and there. He works locally. My question is this- the lawyer suggested I stay in the home until we can finalize the divorce and sell the house. Now he is refusing to leave and says he will keep the house. I just cannot stay there because he makes life miserable with his comments, stomping around like a child(especially at night when I’m downstairs and he is upstairs) and general assholeness. So I found a place close to my daughters school to rent. Can I get out of there before the divorce? 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This week marks one year that my STBX husband and I separated. We filed for divorce soon after, but we are still in the clutches of the court. 1 whole year of divorce. It’s funny because he still makes me angry, upset, annoyed... but I have grown so much, I have progressed beautifully. He left me to pay off $3,000 in his accrued debt, no place to live and our baby.. he kept the house, and many things in it for the first month. Luckily I was able to move in with my friend, moved over all the things I could load, in the 1 allotted trip I was given and moved into one bedroom with my toddler. I was able to maintain my job, I learned to consolidate my debts and budgeted like a mad lady whilst still paying my STBX bills on top of my own. I knew his family was very shady, and they were going to try to really bleed me dry for anything they could, our original divorce paperwork they had filed encompassed me somehow paying them child support though all overnights save for maybe a night every two weeks my son spent with me.. and just a bunch of other half-baked ideas. Luckily, due to my divorce cause being sexual, mental and physical abuse, with documented police reports.. I was able to acquire a lawyer who took my case Pro bono. After fighting back and forth, and barely breathing with no money to spare, I am now in my very own apartment, with my job, with a somewhat suitable custody agreement and a new outlook on life. Toxic people, even if you love them will ruin your life. You are a person, you deserve to have your own life, Dreams and aspirations. Don’t ever let someone make you think otherwise. You got this.",6.245386996904024,6.396860845201237,6.347120743034058,79.8357275541796,65.93498452012382,9.029102167182662,31.24148606811145,8.6894789155246,2.3517653250773995,1315,46,251,18,19,419,193,323,0.101,0.747,0.152,0.9612,4,0,0,0,7,0,48.0,4,7,5,5,13,12,3,1,13,0,19,6,1,4,3,45,33,18,0,3,4,2,1,1,1,1,4,0,1,2,9,22,0,1,5,1,9,7,3,5,0,4,13,1,47,7,40,15,10,44,0,1,0,1,33,16,0,4,22,172,56,8,0.3302463522216631,0.13042930836650796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905882030218646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464635332256443,0.0,0.06710503702616852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11308465809203808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578322657249604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0727082003382939,0.0995755775149913,0.0927489317183763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377562323396927,0.0,0.05566082615863222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09363579283110647,0.0,0.0,0.08504917083832003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256220416591488,0.0,0.0880427254833599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12701998357993285,0.0,0.1242693113113694,0.0,0.0,0.21847903115459846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960454265887413,0.11256642334052354,0.23326276511909586,0.053780562102639456,0.0,0.09720452646845948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09935340885283027,0.0,0.14696133634194136,0.11160598897938644,0.1105922829777854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11093688275614326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878664958697829,0.3509996084845367,0.08092302250507477,0.0,0.0,0.10631799495698586,0.0,0.10330461001953307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918898340544778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631707957895506,0.09611945885477824,0.1150123829061962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07052142322478079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327222084916514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2637351634808242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12491988230160353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14626733471787204,0.07053617591346327,0.1081551214351565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230528288581105,0.0747385317395376,0.0,0.1075342331495896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816585511858604,0.0,0.0,0.17660246906622193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290275282611104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126678232787796 divorce,TidsoptimistPrime,2019/01/26,"I (32F) have decided after years of working at things that it's time to divorce my husband (31M) or 5 years. I still care about him very much and I don't want to hurt him any more than necessary. If you had to be broken up with, how would you want it handled? I'm really struggling with the logistics of this, and with gathering the courage to go through with it. I can't stand the idea of hurting him, and I know this will. We've been fairly happy lately, so it feels cruel, but the happiness doesn't fix the foundational problems. I'm going in circles. Should it be on a weekend? A weekday? I've already found a new place to live because I needed external accountability to keep me from ""chickening out""... Should it happen now, before I have a place to move into? Or after, so I can leave right away if he doesn't want me there? Should I warn him that we need to have a serious talk? Or just bring it up gently? There's no moment that feels right. I know this all sounds terrible, but please judge me gently. I've spent the past 8 years of my life defined entirely by what he needs, and it's woven into the fabric of our relationship in a way that no amount of talking or counseling has helped. It's just a broken dynamic and I've become certain the only way to fix it is to dissolve the marriage.",3.314204545454544,4.6085250416666685,4.665575757575759,85.12336363636366,73.20454545454545,7.704242424242422,26.078787878787878,8.238735603445708,1.5740096969696968,1017,34,210,16,20,338,151,264,0.13,0.758,0.112,0.4673,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,2,2,0,1,10,13,1,1,16,0,19,1,0,1,2,45,39,16,0,13,10,1,2,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,19,13,0,1,7,1,2,4,6,7,0,0,4,3,23,6,37,28,4,34,0,2,0,0,18,14,0,6,13,141,42,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13910769889859018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0857234923494529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843526704229645,0.0,0.0,0.07684354441487966,0.13922071803732505,0.1072657350838934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285241269726988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12747702278807502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13821565456063195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432828809152284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114723215142009,0.268381323629377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08449375372632027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698945411660037,0.1423036893555076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204578903371197,0.0,0.0,0.13855592320508406,0.0,0.14219846621986693,0.13347679968883722,0.0,0.0,0.08903821256009385,0.0,0.0,0.11131117242500828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397928183179822,0.09266684215717018,0.28041034478768895,0.0,0.1217472179382324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587248701853246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12033624523119983,0.0,0.0,0.2634067290855365,0.138373393076835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062010107116715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075572800385625,0.0,0.0,0.13533868926539375,0.0,0.2153050074105255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10066976413311132,0.0,0.0,0.13178277609610328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20264065170674656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374706974273625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350520170332511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040107238220414,0.2230561198531721,0.20011731461560245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177143590535024,0.0,0.0,0.08954770399454055,0.0,0.0,0.243530889005632 divorce,DevilDoc44,2019/01/26,"Hope-Two of the best lessons from divorce ""Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to chose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."" - Viktor E. Frankl ""When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves."" - Viktor E. Frankl In the early stages, I was hit with grief and tide shifting massive emotions. But there is a silver lining, post-traumatic growth and lessons learned. Wow did I learn so many lessons. It's ironic I feel I'm better as a person than ever. Divorce should be a mandatory experience everyone should go through!!",4.66613445378151,6.862820865546223,4.8173865546218515,81.71952521008407,71.43697478991595,7.449075630252103,29.54705882352941,8.238735603445708,2.258713613445378,509,21,89,8,10,159,85,119,0.085,0.775,0.139,0.8241,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,2,0,0,6,4,5,0,0,9,0,10,0,0,0,1,17,16,7,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,5,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,4,1,5,4,14,7,2,11,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,54,7,3,0.20023109603717384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13616401152213084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21013018201408176,0.17708813283745414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236358998229313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22523303267308825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811204898122117,0.0,0.19132939297863,0.1799547981426075,0.19586443325934166,0.0,0.0,0.1012428584276709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379594620534485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19887465778679053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16321506775868566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20300290386846612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070453180888536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17483406978625027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19176604101645586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2250681412998396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302464303377642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559668611213424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15893412404394816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,the_nessmonster,2019/01/26,"Anyone else feeling a bit of panic at times? I'm 48 with one child and legally separated (soon to be divorced) after a marriage of 18 years. The separation took awhile so I'm only now starting to feel like I'm beginning a new chapter in my life. I am one hundred percent certain that I'm not ready for a new relationship and I want to focus on my inner happiness first but late at night before bed when I'm alone sometimes I feel a bit panicky about being alone forever. I know my age works against me so I'm sure that's part of it. So in that moment a little voice says hop on a dating site and just see what's out there. And I'll admit that I've done that a couple of times: created a profile for a few hours just to see. But then I see some of the men who ""like"" me and that almost makes it worst because I can't imagine anything with them. I'm not ready I know! But how can I quell these thoughts? Or will they go away the more I start to feel better about myself and my life? 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Long story short: my ex wasn't the best with money. I found out a lot of things after he was required to produce all financial documents during the divorce. I wound up getting out of the financial responsibility for most of it (thanks to a fantastic lawyer) but there are some lines of credit that he opened after we were legally separated (one in my name, actually) or even after we were legally divorced that my name doesn't appear on anywhere and somehow these things are still on my credit report. The one that he filed under my name (again, after we were legally separated), he was legally required to deal with and according to the company, my name isn't on it any more ... but when I filed a credit dispute for that one, they told me that they can't do anything about the fact that it still appears on my credit because for over a year (that he wasn't making payments on it), I was the only name on it so that's still part of my credit history. That's fine and I get that (not excited about it but I guess that makes sense) but since my name is no longer on it and I no longer have any financial responsibility for it, why would the current balances still impact my credit? I would like to fix that one but I might just be stuck with it until it falls off and it will be a ""live and learn"" thing. I've done everything I can to clear up the other ones: filed claims (claims come back as ""approved"" but only one out of the two of those came off of my credit report), called the customer service of the companies (wonderful experiences with people in credit card departments telling me that it's not their problem if my husband is bad with money... yes, even for one that he opened after we were divorced). This is absolutely exhausting. Has anyone else experienced this? Has anyone had any luck with a situation like this? If so, please pass on how you made actual progress!",5.957643267315133,6.486597029649597,6.285775225594751,78.72675963904842,66.57412398921832,9.039774991210594,29.87706551037149,8.964715089967882,2.3094480487519045,1522,51,289,24,23,490,174,371,0.054000000000000006,0.765,0.18,0.9936,1,0,0,0,3,0,48.0,4,1,3,6,17,20,0,0,18,1,32,2,0,5,3,67,48,21,0,5,12,2,0,2,0,4,2,0,0,0,36,23,0,2,3,0,11,7,9,3,0,8,17,1,32,17,54,25,7,45,0,0,0,0,29,22,0,14,18,221,68,21,0.0,0.0,0.1980371623847889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760081326459324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21284732212558452,0.10396642955320612,0.08349989794726123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802298343787661,0.08472192681518385,0.06185423219047453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106484889990242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10361064380487198,0.1160528881797792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740609474756822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460952809825114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10383746497060756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08476387923770666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13403792338636458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119331026014914,0.09925562538761994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11125493045185864,0.0,0.0,0.15903924916281234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11177894973803693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09914472960751544,0.0,0.08959851028471316,0.08979639519258965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626485722034619,0.0,0.09601191145298056,0.13546197161879253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1076420024733903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813035876394786,0.15434267427087284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988045551980796,0.0,0.07034545496986717,0.0,0.0,0.11138190006109384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0970916138148592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08393575970392787,0.11405480182287935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3241313769511147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08868790754841607,0.09341852641440554,0.0,0.0,0.2696445478449855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09695746307336214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991199427110891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155950388143144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003821788630212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14416056721948042,0.0,0.0,0.06534236227999146 divorce,Jonnyc258,2019/01/26,What am I supposed to do in this situation? We've been married 4 years. You found your dream job and are going to school to get certified and I agreed to take a full time job to support us and pay for your tuition. I've been working my ass off to make sure we were stable and can save up for a house soon. Then you tell me you feel neglected because I'm too tired and you haven't been happy for a long time. The last 2 weeks I've tried to change and take you out and be more active in our relationship. Then she says I'm not good enough and shes not in love with me anymore. We decided to live states away from my family and we have no one here. She wants to find herself and cant do that with me. Shes going to finish school and moved in to the 2nd bedroom. I reluctantly agreed because I keep having this small glimmer of hope that we can fix this. You're 10 feet away and I'm supposed to just move on? How? I cant move out because I need the money from my job and you cant stay with a friend because they are too far from your school. We built a life here and I'm just supposed to wait A couple of months till we can move on? My heart is so heavy and sometimes I can't even breathe I Have to stop working just to remember to calm down. What should I do?,1.1996978021978038,2.748349706959708,2.5913049450549472,96.74432005494506,79.40293040293041,5.722161172161172,20.53250915750916,6.42735559955562,-0.0810853479853475,982,25,239,8,24,318,141,273,0.107,0.802,0.09,-0.6775,3,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,8,9,1,2,11,10,0,0,9,0,26,7,4,2,1,48,45,20,0,4,5,0,1,0,1,1,2,1,1,0,7,26,0,4,5,1,3,6,8,1,0,1,5,2,39,9,41,38,3,37,0,1,0,2,28,16,1,1,13,155,46,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556978827869444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20002654354952368,0.0,0.0,0.2595637088049689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11260997696365035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778489163853732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999129780091807,0.0,0.07030921588264194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003515788228086,0.0,0.05382431451177501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972933643504387,0.0,0.0,0.11671692198036225,0.0822429998994451,0.0,0.05561572735386504,0.0,0.12099596739650086,0.0892852029568671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11331799610765135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614375327278976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572886122911188,0.0,0.12282899872887562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169055752131321,0.09461764413334987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677095131979339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518877757865366,0.0,0.0,0.09399729335126147,0.09420489329546083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607527402972918,0.0,0.07105619637944106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849673681677705,0.4525579807658355,0.0,0.07893132038024413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07213326965019781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1142874538063558,0.1205870899567824,0.0,0.0,0.08465330637322238,0.0,0.3231992255471032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196542512927731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10528176418757608,0.0,0.0,0.11346152804422,0.0,0.08899695997955015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12079818963902797,0.10032785784793508,0.0,0.160074292512254,0.0,0.09304198514068757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414369297935425,0.12234860658713967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227255713079778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804623375350535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06278696341333351,0.0,0.08538776276411929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499372424404784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06855030486533298 divorce,raybuscusthegreat,2019/01/26,"My wife just asked for a separation today To be completely honest, this just happened last night and I don’t know how to feel. I don’t want to become the monster that sells/destroys all the belongings, is petty, or even mean. Through all the pain and hurt I still want to be with her. What do I do right now? What advise would you recommend to someone right after separation? What should be the first step?",3.3509584086799293,5.469084746835442,3.897504520795664,87.22050632911396,74.9493670886076,7.0459312839059685,23.943942133815554,7.957251820313856,1.2293132007233272,321,10,64,5,7,101,55,79,0.104,0.7829999999999999,0.113,-0.3285,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,1,0,1,6,3,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,1,2,16,17,4,0,4,3,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,7,1,9,12,2,10,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,1,7,48,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22177134040362392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26199399826368885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487236430595368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566834539816295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994699983534447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2017816335547376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20977538128636167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25395196543472626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303714734967979,0.1933682830533964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584052260291052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22261757318673173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25242183601570894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051740325211768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20099814952354897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18944647306319184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248595224221764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2798403642856737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16851630515634244,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Sapper1978,2019/01/26,"Can a separated women suddenly develop a good single male friend? Hi so I’m 10months separated and after 5 months separation I found out from my 7 year old daughter that mum has a new friend from work. He is a single male guy and they have been have been hanging out together with the kids. At least once a month with the kids and probably alone on the weekends that I have the kids. I do know she’s goes out a lot with work friends I’m told. So after a heard that they all went to a restaurant together with my ex’s brother I confronted her about him. She was adamant that he’s just a friend. But I know found out, again from my daughter, that they are going away for the weekend next month. With the kids that is. So I ask you all, can they just be friends, or is it more likely that it’s more??? Is it coincidence that she decided to separate, than suddenly made a new single male “friend”? 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Immediately went out the next day and paid to take a polygraph ( which I passed). I was not able to see my children for two years while the investigation was going on.my daughter then 3 and son then 1 did not see me again till 2 years later after I submitted a polygraph, plethysmograph,mutipahasic analysis, and psycho analysis (10k worth of tests.i worked at a gas station for minimum wage) to the family Court judge who then relented and gave me 50/50 custody. Currently: now I have the 50/50 and things seemed ok but I catch my daughter (now 7)lying constantly and blaming others for her mistakes. She becomes enraged when I catch her lying and more enraged I verify what she's saying.the other day her teacher put her in the car and looked pissed. I asked my daughter what it was about and she again told me a half truth so I turned around and went to speak to the teacher and found out she's bullying other kids not finishing her work and being a general disruption in class I notified her mom and she dressed my daughter down over the phone and made her cry.the next day. We were talking about her dog that her mom got rid of during the divorce (which she said I got rid of the dog). And my daughter accused me of lying to her about this and was yelling at me for lying to her I then called her mom to pick her up.while waiting I asked if she cared that I was dropping her off she said no .do you love me she said no.do you even like me she said not really.do you even want me in your life she said not really.she said all this very matter of factly and without raising her voice.her mom shows up and I tell her what happened.i tell her our daughter lies constantly and I don't trust her.i don't trust her to not get supper pissed at me and try to eliminate me from her life by making some shit up to get me pinched. I'm at a total loss here and have no clue what to do.i can't just write her off and she's seven so how do I proceed?",4.8814285714285734,5.7385717017208435,5.083603387052719,85.23052390057363,69.07648183556405,8.118634252936356,29.474405900027318,8.238735603445708,1.8868682764272064,2092,76,425,28,35,658,242,523,0.16399999999999998,0.7929999999999999,0.043,-0.9969,2,0,2,0,3,0,46.0,2,4,1,4,20,22,10,2,22,1,25,13,4,4,4,66,66,43,0,6,10,15,1,1,2,2,6,9,0,3,21,34,2,1,3,1,4,13,12,14,0,3,29,14,93,8,63,33,5,66,0,1,4,2,89,21,3,4,32,292,114,5,0.07903328229922152,0.0,0.0,0.08615794345676624,0.0,0.0,0.07005823616287753,0.0844625432219196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053745342130200886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035637727519052,0.14777090048178027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08728605096985438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08070181767820153,0.0,0.0805796985962059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17081380215507722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15290978646805473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09165351606061622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440147515599643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450554476970789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08665591471505459,0.0,0.0,0.1651665120916445,0.0,0.1347493069600587,0.0,0.12642027136485304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119379656170024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747063373932886,0.038611669606110816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636805209056472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07133062294040349,0.07478320265634449,0.052755329638225136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4628141251472005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16810558467652228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589005556995266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4510724994365878,0.06285043824801675,0.0,0.0,0.1259585870378518,0.07194893192271748,0.0,0.0,0.1622530570827331,0.0653771478253203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059423192475674014,0.06352395858458909,0.13815714452489322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250620095337123,0.050641336073270427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510393762676243,0.08780888464602135,0.16097523240080958,0.0859655161632305,0.07720403282126846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521073493176609,0.09323175516363452,0.0,0.0633957318463366,0.0,0.0,0.14652928898390247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07618526382719375,0.0,0.11507434159136495,0.0,0.0,0.1122859523394407,0.0,0.0,0.15268452777826202 divorce,famdram123,2019/01/27,"How do you afford to divorce when you're a parent of little income? I really wish I could divorce my husband. There are so many issues to list but nothing has changed even though I gave it so much time, too much time. But even together we barely get by financially. I don't know how we'd do it separately. I started working more this year and going back to school but he has no aspirations and it doesn't look like that will happen for him. And my schooling won't even pay off for 4-6 years so that doesn't help now. I know many people say they go stay with their parents. Well my parents share a rental house with us so that can't work. I also don't have a support system here. I have no real friends around and no other family to help. So how the hell do people in this position divorce? 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Basics first: I’m a 42M and my STBXW 37F with 2 kids, 8 and 3 and have been married for 10 years. The reasons: she has multiple accounts of cheating, drug and substance abuse (currently in a treatment program) and excessive spending and debt. I have an attorney and have been working on this since May 2018. Here’s the problem: nothing I can do makes any difference to move this forward and it’s exhausting and breaking me. I am partly to blame. I am still living at home. It is because of the kids and the fact I wanted to see them as much as I could. This was, in retrospect, my biggest mistake. But over time every chance I get at talking about the divorce is ignored. Attempts to talk about settlements gets ignored. Talked about me moving out gets a fight and then the kids get brought in as a weapon... and then ignored. I literally cannot do anything and am trying to hard to get resolution and I feel I’m going insane with all these attempts. I have talked to my lawyer and he said its time to let the courts decide and I guess that’s the next step. But she has already said that she hasn’t had time to get a lawyer (10 months have passed) and that she has a lawyer friend who said that the courts can’t force a decision (I know... but its still frustrating to hear it). It comes down to the kids. I want 50-50 parenting. She says since I was working I don’t deserve it and so she won’t discuss anything because she wants 100% of the kids. And so nothing is happening! My current thoughts and questions for you: 1). Has anyone encountered such denial and any advice? 2). Is this more of a manipulation technique or a punishment she’s enacting since I filed for divorce (will avoid everything and push to get the kids no matter what in an attempt to get back at me?) 3). I had offered so much more than what the courts would likely divide based on my lawyer’s recommendations. Largely out of guilt for being the one who filed and she said I ruined her life. But... if this does go to court... I know it will then get thrown in my face and used against me with the boys (“he let the court steal our home”, etc). Any advice? 4). At what point can I let go of the guilt and just let her do whatever and let the courts decide and just be ok with it (I’m pretty ok with any scenario the courts decide... I just want to be free of the mental absuse). That’s a lot. Sorry. I tried to package it as tightly as possible. Any tips, any advice, any ways I’m approaching it wrong... just any of your thoughts would be helpful. I’m at an absolute loss here. Thank you.",1.664666206658616,3.961310702087288,2.7457705709849907,92.44304088321549,81.44781783681215,5.654359151285147,23.054303950319127,6.90281598873529,0.6751445161290328,2048,71,432,24,55,652,235,527,0.112,0.823,0.065,-0.9677,4,1,1,0,4,0,83.0,1,5,1,8,17,25,5,3,33,2,47,4,1,4,2,82,87,46,0,10,10,1,3,1,1,6,3,6,2,7,27,38,0,5,11,0,4,13,6,18,0,2,13,10,50,8,62,58,8,49,0,2,1,0,51,20,0,6,17,281,77,7,0.0,0.08159295271101819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26917364714932224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599348421975279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3746407662379221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04815153034826948,0.0,0.11333892754486292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05295240763219152,0.0,0.08395809471536317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05932050986356317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05498255213014233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071948552339763,0.0,0.0,0.06026362628161356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07986074263460226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07680191488425027,0.0,0.0,0.05802115563190535,0.0,0.06189080608625016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03481986689568057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585759513119445,0.0,0.0,0.05320439908201091,0.0,0.32380886170133244,0.0,0.11741153188505313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586180700126098,0.0,0.06089648648493665,0.0,0.0616889000704341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776150881127636,0.0,0.13847489660115148,0.0,0.13815304595527728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07569205332995084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35209213985337084,0.04864090237071027,0.03364362592556254,0.0,0.060808451955837624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058545978154009526,0.0,0.0,0.04596746512218396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939903264068893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054966839372024325,0.14638373749652694,0.10124639057251493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323798044153737,0.0,0.0,0.13215433539029067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04666424218780623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646567246407622,0.07457334256038167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509903675795965,0.07763416831088489,0.0,0.07005976570528838,0.0,0.06589384929743541,0.0,0.0,0.07714379333943776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07080398533955587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26202293401908594,0.054763667441598884,0.0,0.0,0.05487594330475705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089581942091228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708796283841766,0.0,0.0,0.10999026211529636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22140211202808036,0.0,0.12680201840866387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934114806702404,0.12046600791916327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350869926840648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059476657843816574,0.0,0.0,0.16247182922193734,0.05466128801909975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10026808324076114,0.0,0.0,0.09783846737893497,0.0752923181469804,0.0,0.04434636117004406 divorce,Brian425412,2019/01/27,"Should I date again after divorce. Is it worth the effort to date as divorced man in 40s? My story, a short version, is like this: I am 42M married nearly 20 years to STBX wife (42F). She was emotionally abusive towards me and our children and started to be physically abusive towards the kids. Over two years ago I filed an order of protection on behalf of the kids and she ended up moving out so we have been separated for 2.5 years now. Divorce process is finally coming to an end, I have sole legal and physical custody of all three kids (teenagers in middle and high school). All of the kids want nothing to do with their mother and physically, socially and academically all are doing awesome, a vast improvement over when their mother was around. (Sports, solid friend groups, straight As taking all AP or advanced classes.) The question I am struggling with is if it is worth it to even date at this point. I make breakfast, pack lunches, get kids to school, go to work, come home, make dinner and attend kids activities. Life frankly is pretty awesome. The kids and I have an extremely close bond, they all share and like spending time with me. However, my friends are pressuring me to make an online profile and get back out there. Most days I am perfectly content being a single dad. I admit that occasionally I get lonely. In six years all the kids will be off to college, and certainly may be more lonely then. However, all the horror stories of dating and the fact I enjoy my life now, is it worth it? So my question is have you found love again? Did you regret dating again after divorce? How long did you wait and how did it turn out? Thank you for any feedback and have a wonderful day!",4.9450729166666685,6.583651528125002,5.355625,80.41354166666669,69.65625,7.708333333333335,29.895833333333336,8.212053250817874,2.1886770833333338,1339,53,241,19,24,427,181,320,0.068,0.7509999999999999,0.181,0.9881,2,4,0,0,5,0,46.0,2,4,3,4,14,15,0,2,17,0,33,6,0,5,10,54,52,25,0,4,2,4,0,2,2,3,2,0,1,10,9,26,3,2,5,1,4,6,0,5,0,3,7,0,29,10,40,38,11,58,0,3,0,1,38,23,0,7,30,172,38,8,0.0,0.2955708090951737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056618074771628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482110794939501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103670821055003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591015796926043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148887926437784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608818797494471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403051743597357,0.22094863846667506,0.0,0.0,0.08238340703860501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663631217171834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676070158215473,0.19273315600905952,0.0,0.19549982374953676,0.0,0.07088729341466489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317847624389025,0.12511499527596415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17620187027364145,0.1218741742431274,0.0,0.0,0.11038268556916636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125742665079382,0.0,0.2497759991540919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13256892382441418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11968240680995858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179107651246225,0.0,0.0,0.12689589570236295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794537108463955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2524681202272039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12714717311479345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828498434899519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1303955400177985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378191344407732,0.0,0.0,0.11483520920210795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07273143542850052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356711119029131,0.12184370482184835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356935927478715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526505133624192,0.09080538669454218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3212897539786351 divorce,commonbluebell,2019/01/27,When does it get better It’s all been very amicable. It’s just really sad. It’s been 10 months. 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What’s wrong with me?? My STBXH and I were married for twelve years and have been separated for the last two. He had three affairs that I know of. He said the stress of having a family was too hard for him, so he had his fun and lived his life with other women. I finally had the courage to file for divorce late last year. It will be final soon. We have two children together. I stayed after the first two affairs for the sake of our children. After the third affair, he left. The children were torn about him leaving. Once he was gone, they shared with me how mean he was to them (verbally berated them constantly). He doesn’t enjoy being a parent. He never did. It took the attention away from him. He only likes them when they’re quiet and behaving perfectly. We’re amicable and he’s financially very generous. However, he gaslighted me horribly with the affairs. At one point, he had me seriously questioning my sanity. He’s mean to the kids 90% of the time, so they don’t look forward to his visits. He’s obviously a very selfish individual. So, when he asked to reconcile last week, why did I entertain the idea and say I would think about it? Why can’t I be cold-hearted, give him a stern “no”, and hang up the phone? Where is my backbone? I’m so disappointed in myself. 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The questions hangs in the air, lulling me into it. I can barely reply. I remember her. I remember wrestling in the kitchen. I remember long nights by the fire. I can’t get away from it. Some standout memories pervade but one persists: how happy I was coming home to her and my son (four at the time) laughing hysterically and her greeting me with the biggest kiss. I felt that the jigsaw of my life had finally been completed and there was no missing piece. I made the mistake in thinking some things last forever. They don’t. Freedom is close now. The end is nearly here. I close my eyes and I’m free. I’m free. 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So when I was about 23 I met a girl at work and we hit it off from the get go. She was a shy girl who never had much attention but had friends. From the start all her friends and family kept telling me how much of a catch she was and how she was the most honest person they ever knew. They said that you couldn't force her to lie, she was that honest. &#x200B; After we dated for 2 years I proposed and things couldn't have been better! She stayed the night one night with a couple from work that she was friends with and the girl messaged me saying that she caught my fiance having sex with her fiance. I was distraught, but mine swore that it never happened and that the girl was high. So I believed her. A few months later my fiance calls me and is crying and says she has to tell me something. She tells me that she has been sleeping with her best friends husband and that she is sleeping with a coworker currently. I was beyond crushed. &#x200B; For the next month, I begged and pleaded to work things out and she kept saying no that she was leaving with this other guy to start a new life. Finally one night she calls me crying and says she broke it off with that guy and for me to come over. I went over and she said ""You better be good to me because he was my chance at true love"". We even went on a trip once and she said ""I""m sorry babe but I've cheated on you in nicer places than this"". After saying that she gets in the bathtub and starts crying and asking why she lets other men come between us. I was such a fool, I fell for it and we moved in together. The next year we were married. &#x200B; Things started off good, with us being like we were at the beginning of her relationship. But it didn't take long for rumors to start swirling that she was sleeping with numerous men at her job and her phone kept blowing up with texts that she had changed the names to womens names. I had shared everything I loved with her to this point and my family had been beyond great to her. &#x200B; She started seeing this guy from another city and it was a mess. My brother was going through a divorce and was suicidal and the next morning we were going down to make sure he didn't attempt suicide. That night she told me she loved me, but then I found another phone in the kitchen that was sexts between her and this other guy. She went from ""I love you"" a few minutes ago to "" I think I love him"". All the way to check on my brother she kept going on about how he is right for her. &#x200B; Right after my birthday she ended up leaving to live with this guy but told me it was a girl she was living with and that she would be back. She finally admitted it was this guy. One night she called me to tell that she was date raped. A month later she calls back and swears it didn't happen and that she didn't call me! &#x200B; So after trying as hard as a I could I finally file for divorce after she kept telling people that she had filed and that I was refusing to sign. She even went as far as getting me to sign papers then saying she wasn't going to turn them in yet because it was such a big step. I tried to work things out before the divorce but she rejected me which hurt even worse. So right after we were divorced she left the guy she was with and got with a kid, got pregnant by him and got remarried. Now she has another kid and talks about how she finally has the life she wants and the family she's with thinks shes the best person ever. I'm beyond miserable, I live with the pain every day and it's soooo bad! &#x200B; Btw, this is only like 10% of everything that happened, it's actually a lot worse. 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Each week I pick up some of my personal belongings. Memories that have been on walls, in closets, some childhood items left in boxes. None of this process has been terrible, except the emotions of finding my new normal after 15 years of marriage. Today was different. Slowly watching and participating in the finality of it all is painful today. Another box of old memories. Photos. Vacation trinkets. Etc. Today just sucked the life from me. Seeing the home we shared become less of my home. Finally seeing our wonderful neighbors and telling them what's going on. I'm empty and numb. 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Hey yall, 47 yr old male here, about to start divorce as soon as I am working again. Been married almost 20 years and have a daughter who turns 17 in a couple months. Wife and I have always had a bit of a turbulent marriage but in the past 10 years things have gone down hill significantly. In order of appearnace the problems were, her paying cash for a house and holding it over my head constantly (settlement was from a pre marital matter so by GA law may be excluded from marital asset). Then baiscally she started to withdraw. Now she spends 12+ hours a day on the average day talking to other men on line and one in particular we will call Rob. They exchange gifts in secret, whisper to each other constantly, He has sent gifts with cards professing his love etc. Along with all that she has picked up an STD that I dont and have never had. We have not had sex in over 5 years. When I complain we dont spend any time together she will spend 5 mins talking then ask if it was enough. I asked her 2x near the end of the year if she wanted divorce and she totally blew it off,wouldnt even talk about it. A few friends think its cause I am a good meal ticket. Sex life has been gone for at least 5-7 years. &#x200B; Emotionally, I had been completely shut down until a few months back, I made a new friend online, female, who was having struggles of her own with being a single mom. I'd like to say thats the extent of it, but I started to get feelings for her and its complicating my emotional state up to causing frenzy because she is unwilling to discuss anything other than helping me with getting my divorce. It's one of those cases of, if she would just say, ""fuck off, I am not interested in you in that way"" I would be over this in short order. She just flat refuses to speak about it. The only real comments I have gotten basically are of the wait and see variety. &#x200B; The wife is obviously picking up things are far south. My kid has told me point blank that she wants to come with me no matter what. What is killing me is day to day dealing with wifes sudden found non physical affection. She has said I love you more this year than all of last year. She is trying to be cute and endearing, but it just makes me and the kid sick to an extent.. &#x200B; I guess what I am looking for is people to talk to. My female friend has her own issues and is starting a new career and tbh with my emotional confusion with her I dont know what to do. I told her I want us to be friends, to put the part of me away that wants more than the friendship but she literally just will not respond on that topic. So I need safe people to talk with. AMA if you want, will answer what I can. Just sad, lonely and so over this. I am currently working with a therapist online but we are just getting started. Just a big basket case at this point. 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So this has been along time coming. At least 2 years i have wanted this to end. me (30m) her (24f) has lived with me ever since i found out she was pregnant with our daughter. When we met she was living in a rough neighborhood and had a daughter that was 3-4 months old already whos now 3. I put on my big boy pants and we started renting a rather large home together (her daughters father is NOT around at all). In summer 2016. Well come to find out her finances are absolutley garbage. Shes has lawsuits from a phone company and a hospital still pending from prior to us ever meeting.. She flunked out of college on her GI bill and decided not to pay which led to wage garnishments. I didnt find this out until she was unable to help make rent and even help a bit for our daughters daycare expenses.. (I cover all utilities and always have) one month before our kid was due her car was repo'd because she got a title loan on it and never paid it back. (I had no fucking clue about this) told me it was stolen.. I tried to get her finances straight for her and make her a budget but even when she had money to pay the debt down she would not do it. Then we quit having sex. Quit sleeping in the same room, for almost 1.5 fucking years.. She refused to acknowledge there was a problem between us. I decided to seperate from her in october but still in the same home until the lease is up Finally on new years eve she didnt come home that nightand when she did at noon the next day she went straight to the shower. I told her to pack her shit by the end of january or im breaking this lease and she can figure her life out couch surfing with her kid. Currently watching her take all the bandaids and toilet paper off the damn rolls while her family thats helping her move call me the villan 😅 good times",3.6709903164620172,4.804612377358492,4.367810721772987,88.22130178696219,72.1266846361186,7.221363681741041,26.678746131576318,7.526774132740827,1.2908076470001006,1436,48,300,16,27,459,206,371,0.063,0.887,0.049,-0.8444,6,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,8,0,0,2,18,8,4,0,19,0,29,7,2,3,6,57,48,21,0,4,7,6,1,0,1,1,2,0,8,3,13,27,0,1,7,0,14,9,7,6,1,1,22,2,51,2,51,25,7,73,0,1,1,3,58,27,4,2,36,205,64,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10191072121725177,0.0,0.11230877484050927,0.0,0.08468309176003644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905993362535758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825697277979089,0.0,0.06203973177594455,0.0,0.08660112549500876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110949841003216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10392137002028927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26300467154891033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06563501276032335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028092073167276,0.0,0.0,0.13443990039496878,0.18411858168130601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09594230352344883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148708738213363,0.1860369234411221,0.0,0.0,0.11158858172759943,0.0,0.18817455911580486,0.05317206821313224,0.0,0.0,0.08536216512712687,0.08139697578410884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20464841352015745,0.0,0.30625913835298496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10993204846100282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188511236824384,0.0,0.0,0.1797344287928561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358682193191093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16246809710358093,0.2163366818037856,0.0,0.0,0.07849342900823915,0.09829276880534993,0.10823648816255052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10679339487060087,0.0,0.06896385818839842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973827895918022,0.0,0.10230973675912927,0.0,0.2164957220655148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08691338362562746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446827882646514,0.08418748134171727,0.0,0.10184626219012936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07203528555627982,0.0,0.16255172018214384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07652045208790156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11868903321768084,0.0,0.0,0.1944964730699146,0.0,0.06909702561732682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448402061616804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06002821252821746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150593646035217,0.09434437102783592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07229645091562471,0.0,0.0,0.19661496809016493 divorce,notlovedanymore,2019/01/27,"What are your thoughts? I would like your opinion on this : I miss gifts... I have been together with my almost ex husband since I was 17, almost 28 years. The last years have been a struggle with him losing his firm in the financial crisis, us being in serious debt and him trying to solve everything and build up a new business at the same time. Of course I felt something was off between us, but every time I asked he would say it was the stress of everything. I believed him and did everything at home, with the kids, and my job, so all he had to do was his work. All of a sudden he said he was unhappy, that was because he was with me and that he wanted a divorce. The last few years I haven't felt loved, and over the last few years I haven't gotten any gifts, for any occasion. My husband did not give/buy me anything, there was no money and no time. Now I know there was no love for me. I got him presents for lots of reasons and occasions. Not so expensive things but once, as my parents gave me some money, a really expensive leather suitcase. My kids are too small to think about giving me something, and my mother, who was the one in charge of gifts at my parents, is diagnosed with Alzheimers, and can't do anything anymore. I told a friend I miss gifts, and she was very politically correct and said: of course it's not the actual gift, the thing that you miss. Of course you miss the time and energy someone put into finding and giving you something meaningful. At the time we talked and I partly agreed with her. But, to be honest, I do miss the gift itself, having a new thing every once in a while. Something I can enjoy, something new. Does that make me materialistic and shallow? Do I have to be ashamed of myself? I don't buy things for myself, I have very little money and what I have goes to the children of course. I loved the reddit zero credit christmas card exchange. I could afford a card and a stamp to send, and got a super sweet card from my secret Santa. What are your thoughts on this?",4.0060020741508975,5.214470817042611,4.592403422348977,86.64293233082708,71.40601503759399,7.307959554057557,26.039322444041144,7.6298220110432995,1.2686243367038283,1572,49,320,18,29,501,183,399,0.127,0.76,0.114,0.517,5,0,5,0,1,0,53.0,3,6,0,3,7,20,0,3,26,0,41,4,0,2,3,57,67,26,0,4,6,6,3,1,1,2,1,3,1,3,17,27,0,0,10,0,9,2,10,10,0,2,27,7,55,10,44,34,8,37,0,6,0,3,49,16,0,5,20,228,72,3,0.0,0.0,0.08126602734318003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16677913241886858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326199681129767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0825880899248734,0.0,0.0,0.13705922480448707,0.0,0.07785245472353748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050764691474579536,0.0,0.0,0.09382430154945404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648965307834494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08452407772713776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07287598427994513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14032838999683805,0.0,0.2245311321129778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15991734557699416,0.0,0.07611337727470979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433935676233153,0.0,0.0,0.2396597405101113,0.0,0.0,0.13320793769925018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353330048722178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08263925557408712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045766685718622586,0.203644828145748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04068477961505775,0.08346511141019101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316530410754237,0.0,0.07079885574206388,0.22548136641642194,0.0,0.05558783087461277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2412874108131069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17737389370934115,0.0564304339108726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849377970853249,0.09018052970687952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08371606505617543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05334917393694568,0.08562229724528256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843038660939282,0.06622495879913126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888733065076394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056006112790403,0.320552285821122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539315612763456,0.08705886774383187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06693464130546269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213013046059796,0.0533603342867879,0.0,0.13222476441174166,0.2427965104068971,0.0,0.0,0.07957443694265358,0.0,0.056539399621240716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2003431860611219,0.0,0.0,0.13742396567150594,0.049118743771665085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06062641521012605,0.0,0.0,0.11831472897701435,0.0,0.0,0.21450980758434168 divorce,dragonfly472019,2019/01/27,"Unsure of myself I moved out this past June and filed for divorce in July and even though it was me that did all this I’m still struggling. We met when I was a 14 years old and started dating then. We got married when I was 26, we had 4 kids together in which all are grown plus our 6 year old grandson. 32 years and I finally have enough courage to walk out of an unhealthy marriage/relationship. This is all so new for me I went from living at home with my parents to living with him and I am struggling with being alone. Some days I’m ok and other days I’m not. I wonder if I will ever be ok with being alone!! I feel like a burden to my friends cause none of them have been through what I have. I have one friend that I constantly try and talk to but I’m afraid I’m gonna run him off with my nonsense. I really need to let go of some of this emotional baggage but just don’t know how to. I am in counseling but can only afford going so often. I just feel stuck sometimes!! I sometimes feel like I’m losing my mind. He’s barely talking to our children and I know there’s no way for me to change it but it hurts to see my children and grandson hurting. Just don’t know where to turn to. 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My spouse has hidden tons of money through laundering and other devious business tactics. I am absolutely getting screwed after a 30 yr marriage where I was a stay at home parent to 5 children and never EVER involved in any of the business. I haven't worked in 30 years and am getting royaly shafted. We own 3 houses. On was our residence and the others are rentals. We have multiple cars and a nice lifestyle. Yet he claims to only make 60,000...I admit I am foolish and naive but that's besides the point. How can I figure out where his money has been hidden. He has multiple businesses registered and I'm sure he flows money through them.. What types of strategies do people like this use? Where do they hide the money? How can I find hidden bank accounts? How can I figure out what credit cards he has? To catch a fox you have to think like a fox. I have run out of ideas and am hoping reddit can get crafty. I've hired a forensic accountant but was told that there were some stones better left unturned..is it true that I can get in trouble for my spouses actions? I honestly never knew what my spouse was up to with our finances. Thanks all! 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Hello all! First off, this sub really helped me through my divorce. Life is going pretty well and I just graduated nursing school in December and I will be a registered nurse in just a month or so. Anyway, i have a report that I have to write today for my psych class and I need responses to a survey in order to complete it. The survey is short, stupid, not very scientific and the responses from this sub will be biased for sure but it doesn't matter. I just need numbers to fill it out, I can do the rest from there. Please help me if you have a moment. Thank you in advance! Survey link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScJbPk5jMJkib0TP5DLXUjZpgshGZVUVxE0YN_jyknB3I3vtg/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1 ",5.6200256410256415,9.14425274615385,4.6730769230769225,76.99525641025646,75.38461538461539,5.9282051282051285,20.2051282051282,7.3011,0.6705282051282051,627,15,103,8,15,186,85,130,0.038,0.825,0.13699999999999998,0.9122,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,0,3,0,2,7,4,1,0,9,0,12,1,0,0,2,20,17,8,0,4,7,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,14,3,16,13,2,16,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,5,75,20,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4076715578796509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19724782509431854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600209287426834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691704221351199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782931572661423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13287982863124348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15016136297162666,0.0,0.0,0.41848187975098705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20650720887690452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19139302946956924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12051912307764795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3807896079484641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730769121532095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17320228095095058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17832262025409745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522466994669742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914897612324767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12114777040491485 divorce,shadowfax99,2019/01/27,"I need to tell my (25F) Husband (26M) I want a divorce How am I suppose to tell my husband I want a divorce? I found out he’s been cheating off and on our entire relationship and I need to cut my losses sooner rather than later. I’ve been trying to make it work but I feel he hasn’t. He hasn’t shown remorse or tried to do anything different. Hasn’t shed one tear this entire time. I’m unsure of where this all leads.. we have a house together and everything. Thank god no kids though",0.27470588235294,2.5083755882352925,2.301470588235297,93.70161764705885,87.23529411764706,4.968627450980391,20.264705882352946,6.42735559955562,0.17002352941176468,378,12,83,4,12,126,70,102,0.141,0.774,0.085,-0.6652,1,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,2,0,0,3,4,4,2,0,3,0,8,0,0,3,1,18,17,7,0,5,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,4,3,0,1,3,1,12,1,10,14,1,7,0,1,0,0,13,4,0,1,2,48,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082661601026912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2422768428684854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20840876728627905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172511071626402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25425662084036565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26757119386050965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15478910919400207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438886231377102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15713541001802625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489642574205522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40536608294264254,0.213494168335228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278318273149671,0.0,0.13521756459995224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31487766887239643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27355075647021965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688194818245187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,OzymandiasTheVagrant,2019/01/27,"How do you know if it’s time to get divorced? What’s your best advice for how to decide whether to get divorced or try to save your marriage? What factors should you consider? Are there things that unexpectedly turned out to be red flags, or are there things that seem like red flags that actually don’t matter?",4.195,6.232968500000003,4.036666666666669,87.495,72.33333333333334,6.8000000000000025,25.333333333333336,7.554174236665415,1.1032333333333335,250,8,50,3,5,76,40,60,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.8992,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,4,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,0,13,11,6,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,7,9,1,2,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,4,2,34,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.32139150167179203,0.0,0.0,0.3218304102285014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3456254198676412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3441365078329801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18099843600738624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16090047518197845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998217236731173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4376020394653345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920426963922266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22360244670452764,0.3582308804833126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,allinhope,2019/01/27,Separated for about 6 months now So this may be a stupid question but what's the best way to go about social media when going thru seperation/divorce...specifically FB we have about 300 mutual friends/acquaintances. Were not bashing each other on social media and have not changed anything on our pages since the seperation and havnt announced to anyone that isn't immediate family what's going on. My whole page is full of our pics and milestones ect...we have been together since high school 10+ years and married for 5 with two little girls. I thought about maybe deactivating my account or just cleaning it up but its alot to clean up... just looking for opinions on how to handle social media during seperation/divorce.,6.225114503816794,8.287743610687022,6.0029694656488575,75.35682061068702,67.09160305343511,8.5987786259542,31.4206106870229,9.120678840339163,2.9449383206106874,587,24,95,11,10,183,95,131,0.017,0.909,0.07400000000000001,0.8462,0,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,10,2,1,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,0,20,14,10,0,0,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,7,7,0,0,2,0,1,3,3,1,0,1,3,1,6,1,20,9,7,17,0,0,1,0,8,9,0,5,4,66,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12787627640051089,0.0,0.1504973977030124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919247715529527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346631339637105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240612707541025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31181043251058466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19322627885746452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18329714156991966,0.0,0.0,0.15357593663452396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373088590988676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14597572898640138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20487118412036864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508769336765454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3025659604433288,0.0,0.0,0.5592795708746888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14518893554408555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17865043916475667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14516427462599935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418270650982992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177708682843814 divorce,aylynnraven,2019/01/27,"My husband is trying to get full custody of my kids and my mother is trying to take my kids when I mention leaving My husband left me last year in April and we've been separated this whole time. I've been living with my parents with my 2 kids. I dont have a vehicle, my phone is through my parents, and I dont have a lot of money besides monthly child support My husband wants full custody of my youngest and I've been fighting him in court for it. Our final court date to establish permanent custody is September 2019. Also..my parents are paying my attorney fees. My husband purposely kept wanting a divorce secret and then brought it up randomly so it would catch me off guard. He never gave me access to his bank account and he knew by leaving me and making me move in with my parents I'd have no money to fight him in court. So I've been relying on my parents to help fight and keep my daughter Unfortunately my mom and I do not get along. We argue a lot and she often uses how she helps me against me when she's angry. I got sick of it and told her if she didnt quit arguing with me I would leave and go stay with friends. She immediately got angry and threatened to call CPS and take me to court for my children. She believes their best interest is with her and that I'm not a good enough mother to leave the house with them. I told her I've never once put my children in danger or left them without and that I had a right to leave her house if I felt us arguing was too much for me. She then threatened to call my husband and tell him if I left because it would be a golden opportunity for him to prove me unfit by not having anywhere to officially live. It broke my heart. I'd never go stay with people who wouldnt help me or who would put my kids in danger. It would be with friends I love dearly and trust She threw in my face I have no income, car, phone, or job (I'm going to nursing school to get back on my feet since my husband left me. I dont work to focus on my grades since the classes are super demanding on studying for several hours a day and plus I'm too terrified to leave my youngest daughter in daycare) My husband and I lived in Maryland before I moved to Texas to live with my parents. He filed in Maryland so our court dates are in Maryland which means I cant even pay for my hotel and plane ride. I have about 4 court dates spread out throughout September this year and my lawyer has already cost $15,000 I don't know what to do. My husband is extremely manipulative and neglectful. He's hurt my kids and I several times and I can't imagine him getting custody. I would fall apart. But I do not know how to get on my feet. I'm trying so hard. I never thought my husband would leave me. I quit college to become a housewife and now I'm having to start over to be a better person for my kids. I'm trying SO hard but I cant handle arguing with my mom and today we had one of the worst arguments yet. Lot of yelling and arguing and crying. She wont let me leave with my children and the fact that shes threatened me and to take my kids has made me lose all respect. I dont know how I can keep going. I dont know what to do anymore. It will take me at LEAST 2 more years to get my degree, I have no idea when I could save for a car, and my husband threw all of the kids and my stuff into storage all the way in Maryland. All our furniture and house needs are states away. It will take years to officially be on my own and on my feet again. How am I going to keep going life this.. 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Generally, I am not a person who needs help or advice. I am usually the overachiever, the most collected, and the most independent. Over the past 15 years, I have also been a great husband and a great father to my 3 kids (1 toddler, 2 at 8yo). Of course, that came to a screeching halt when I asked my wife for a divorce and expressed my intent to move in with the other woman in the future. My wife is not a bad person. However, the secret that I told no one was that I was terribly unhappy. My wife and I were high school sweethearts and have been together forever. Over the last 8 years, we have been on a single income, which I was hesitantly supportive of. At that point, we were happy but we have since drifted apart. She has no interest in what I want to tell her - often ignoring or overriding what I have to say. She does not respect any of our budgets, always overspending and eroding the savings plans that we formed together. She is addicted to materialism and reality tv and social media - I see our kids developing alarming behaviors. The biggest issue is that she has no communication skills and, when I try to facilitate change, she hides under her covers in her room. At that point, I just capitulate or work around the issue as best as I am able. If I push really hard, it results in her making self-harm threats and I end up with a feeling of being in a hostage situation. Over the years, my wife has been developing reclusive behaviors. Her circle of friends dwindled to zero. My circle of friends were dwindling as well. Sometimes she would express fear in driving on the interstate or taking our sick children to the doctor (because she is scared to be judged). I have since found out that she has Generalized Anxiety Disorder but, at the time, the fact that there was a mental illness potential did not occur to me. I encouraged her to get help / be social / talk to friends. However, I did not force the issue and the issue festered. All this came to a head in the last 6 months and I had to confide in an understanding coworker. I honestly found myself considering self-harm - which is NEVER a place that I would go. As you can imagine, one thing lead to another and we built an intense connection. You'll likely accuse me of being in puppy-dog love (and I partially am) but she is everything that I have dreamed of in a partner and mother. After long consideration, comparing of life goals, etc, she and I decided to change the course of our lives to find a happier place for the two of us. I am rarely a selfish person but, in this, I wanted something more and felt like I had to do something before I found myself in darker places. I am also a cheating bastard. I found a source of happiness and safety for me and I committed to making that a future. So, I decided to tell my wife and these last two weeks have been so difficult. During the first week, she reacted to violently that she could not eat or sleep. She would sit in our bedroom and wail endlessly. She just wants to disappear and sees that her life is over. It got bad enough that I had convinced her to check into a suicide clinic that did 24 hour observation. The state of that clinic turned out to be TERRIBLE and I had to register many complaints to the Patient Advocate. I am appalled at the state of treatment. However, the separation did help and she was in a better place when she got back. While she was out, I missed a ton of work and watched the kids night / day. She called often and I made sure to have time for her, her medical staff, and, of course, complaining to the PA. It was hard but it was my pleasure because I do care for her and still love her. Now that she is back, she was in a recovering state. However, she was harboring the illusion that, somehow, I was not going to leave. I felt the need to correct that (gently) and this put her into another tailspin of despair. She now has a mix of anger, desire of self harm, and long periods of staring at the wall. She does have medication from her stay, which has helped keep the edge off. She does have appointments next week to see a therapist, our family doctor, and to check in with the care facilities. All the while, I am sitting here feeling like a terrible human being. I wanted a shot at a different happiness and I have found it at the expense of someone else's. I am tired and worried and juggling 3 kids and at jeopardy of getting reprimanded by work. Most of all, I worry that my wife will make a rash decision while I am not paying attention. Therefore, I am sleeping little, not doing essentials like shopping for food, and keeping a positive demeanor for the kids (who have been largely shielded from this so far). I just wanted to share my story. Here's the things I keep wondering: 1. Am I a terrible person for having a change of heart? I feel a sense of crushing guilt - but only because of the self-harm / depression. Once she gets through this, I intend to give her EVERYTHING plus ongoing support plus remain in her life to whatever extent she would allow (within reason). 2. Aside from helping her seek medical support, I am at a loss of what to do between appointments. I try to think of activities, I snuggle with her, we still have sex when she asks. I do anything to help keep her from just living in her head. 3. She likes to go out and drive to clear her head. Those drives terrify me because I am not sure what she is planning. I call her every 30 minutes to check & she promises me that she is not thinking of self-harm. Sometimes she seeks out our friends (which is great) and sometimes I do not know where she goes. I am not sure if I should restrain her or when to call authorities when I am most worried. 4. I have sent her the number to the National Suicide Support line. We have called it together to show that it was very easy & helpful. 5. My girlfriend is very understanding of my situation. She is keeping far back, being supportive, and encouraging me to spend time with my wife. She is wonderful in that way. Just wanting to share my story a bit. Advice or criticisms are welcome. Just to be clear, I am in a good place personally. I just do not know the best way to steer my family though this safely just yet. 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He cut me out of the picture in which myself, his blushing bride, was sitting next to him in as his best man gave his speech. He also has pictures that I AM IN on his profiles. Which I find HILARIOUS. He had deleted his Facebook, so in order to get any pictures of himself he went through my Facebook and Instagram accounts and took pictures to build his dating apps while we were still married and while I still lived in the house. But you know what? I’m not even mad about it anymore. So far, after being divorced and out of the dating game for 10 years, I have had 3 guys ask me out in real life, not on bumble or tinder. I still have game apparently? I feel like the fact that I don’t care what he is doing in the dating world is a small little step in the process of things, and I’m proud of that. Just wanted to share. 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Pre-apology: this is kinda long, but interested in opinions. The basics Married 17 years, mid 40s, 2 kids in middle- & high school and one step-kid in college. Unfinished dream house we can't afford, horses and other animals. Once romantic notions of the gentleman's farm have become reality of barely having time to care for, much less enjoy our place. Beautiful house built by my hands - still unfinished. I would love for it to go away. I'm gone for work 50 hours per week (including commute). My wife has similar work hours plus another full-time gig out of town until spring. I love my job in the skilled trades. I love my kids. So I immediately thought I made a mistake marrying someone who is always crabby and disrespectful. I stayed to do the right thing. Then we had kids so I stayed. Now her parents' health is failing and she wants to move them closer so I'm an asshole if I leave. I have expressed my desire to sell our unsustainable property and simplify. Pay our bills, save money for the future, maybe have enough to buy something fun on occasion. I have spent any spare time for over a decade carrying this place on my back while fighting depression & anxiety and dealing with Crabby. We tried marriage counseling for a while. Lead to my being diagnosed with adult ADD. Tried medication, but didn't make her feel any better. She took me to the doctor because of my low sex drive. I wanted to tell her that it was because she was obese and mean but went through the motions. She moved to the couch 5 years ago and we have sex a couple times a year. I drink way too much but function fine with my obligations. We do fine raising our kids but don't enjoy going anywhere together. It's not real bad, but it's not good. My only joy comes from good music, my dog and fantisizing about leaving (constantly!)...My new small living quarters, time and energy for personal growth, hiking and maybe some travel. Sometimes I dream about a new love interest who is KIND...maybe artsy...loves the outdoors...or not... That was waaay too long...but do I stay and do the right thing, which also keeps me living full time with my kids OR Do I start a new life independent of Crabby and MAYBE find peace and happiness? Possibly relevant: I have never - from day one - been able to find a Hallmark card that says anything I honestly feel. Got married because the time seemed right and we had some common interests and I had no other prospects. She says she loves me but usually seems annoyed by me.",3.82913746630728,6.0379355660377385,4.473667265648398,83.21693396226415,73.84276729559748,7.813297394429473,26.66112608565439,8.634040054169528,2.0544383947289604,1983,73,370,39,42,632,265,477,0.066,0.7190000000000001,0.215,0.9982,3,0,2,0,2,0,81.0,10,0,1,6,11,28,2,0,20,0,31,15,1,4,1,68,60,35,0,6,13,2,3,0,0,1,6,2,1,7,16,30,2,1,8,4,7,14,8,7,0,3,15,5,56,21,45,43,7,72,0,3,0,7,43,22,0,9,31,221,72,10,0.07087199508322631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282374746979058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566763088627095,0.058971177346397716,0.15357955412533786,0.0,0.09639077392172113,0.07431546628784988,0.054216882253487086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058321613268157865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06658657234410684,0.05449618955182183,0.059175155569281664,0.12960873117797692,0.07827255043955947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06268052029952281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07225872235821862,0.0,0.0,0.06104994832888703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07841851455269948,0.0,0.045706573734813766,0.07306591495194524,0.06104194551543112,0.07193358316569813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0725404900712491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06942757393123948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322971619943758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167002035853158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955143910324213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083456415469535,0.11888813395355698,0.05668280874801939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07544455662548802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07533361664956942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488015394796893,0.0,0.0,0.13958927816144345,0.16355353373967668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032951939186192,0.06299428560144471,0.0,0.07380227680274264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15008641936977354,0.0,0.0,0.0500589860611817,0.0,0.0,0.12516254018726022,0.1254389708740634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198237129502048,0.06706079536090036,0.0473076070481145,0.0,0.2848017796187572,0.0772003794829377,0.0,0.07139607893431102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15065142951243568,0.10419814204488152,0.0,0.05466085172809186,0.2053458434482033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547636175193707,0.09604939610008673,0.05390134587520386,0.0,0.0,0.07869496340477085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188269244638784,0.14809230105349316,0.0,0.0,0.07989752574339981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066784625903216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18157288968921925,0.0,0.11272051016754843,0.0,0.0717262426994621,0.0,0.12903840511557352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06004961144570072,0.0545607243074716,0.0700942153295327,0.0,0.050163562896064384,0.3021604677588742,0.05659846682255273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061945247512371536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416840873994352,0.0,0.0,0.056264447617409966,0.2479561816230977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07874139425635003,0.09623486500314364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07805548986412678,0.0,0.08360427786032552,0.056254890877230984,0.0568492395229213,0.0,0.0,0.06569904947828588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10319131300395268,0.0,0.0,0.050345431890246886,0.0,0.0,0.13691772361189536 divorce,BlahDeBlaha,2019/01/28,"Dating before the Divorce is Final and will live together until home is sold. 32F dating a 32M. We separated in September but didn’t officially file until 2 weeks ago (I am being gentle with his emotional needs, we have no children). I started dating in December and met someone I liked a lot pretty quickly. I let him know I froze my apps and canceled dates upon meeting him in person. He has introduced me to his friends and I have introduced him to mine. I don’t think he is seeing anyone else but I have made it clear to him that I am not and he hasn’t come out and said he isn’t, only that he isn’t sleeping with anyone else. I am pretty sure if I log into the dating app we met on it’s still active and that will cause me to shut down on him. I don’t think it’s fair to demand he stop checking dating apps until my divorce is final but at the same time it’s making me super insecure. Even then, we have a house to sell. I don’t want to walk away from a good thing, if circumstances were different I would not tolerate this. I feel like damaged goods and like I am red flag city so I understand him protecting his heart but giving me a chance. I don’t want to have the DTR talk officially (he knows what I am after) until my divorce is final which will take months. This limbo just sucks.",3.185337078651685,4.379206737827719,4.775301498127341,84.6038511235955,73.38202247191012,7.587191011235956,23.83689138576779,8.07648339933343,1.244685543071161,1017,28,209,15,20,343,142,267,0.064,0.7290000000000001,0.208,0.9913,1,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,4,0,0,1,5,11,1,1,9,0,31,2,2,3,2,44,52,20,0,6,9,0,2,3,1,4,0,1,1,2,12,17,0,2,6,0,3,2,11,3,0,0,7,5,40,8,27,39,2,37,0,1,2,0,32,12,1,3,26,144,52,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11192514701272488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17657302218578114,0.2587441526923692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862889749248573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744110440667087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297075953651827,0.0,0.1087649928096961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319186870763743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21095423019268603,0.14202966187908025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339597951062873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06384271782649494,0.0902028087034788,0.0,0.4149471173827813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09755101729416472,0.0,0.0,0.121123641203412,0.0,0.21180799310354714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14962308612416975,0.0,0.0,0.12665278066998714,0.0,0.0,0.14569135116515033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13878244902342002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12911318243076927,0.0,0.18505819017581776,0.0,0.1114931556548857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734487797902052,0.0,0.11947376082855075,0.08428199664826656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1007824764625319,0.0,0.0,0.09362292971898756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602922945924088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11024858797122444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569111402012813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010568772971067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061581723917908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12635488080382434,0.0,0.10698281875574116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937009296562409,0.0,0.10083434966777796,0.1055621024610966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11900203796039363,0.0,0.09493458468384144,0.1014859749948685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08388398827402582,0.16180935448457612,0.0,0.0,0.07362537574989507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131444959083544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14894719699599648,0.0,0.10128111975848336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969410601372699,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sccr410,2019/01/28,"Ex wife wants me to tell her every person I have around the kids “I’m just asking to be in the loop of who is around the kids. It’s not out of the question and quite a normal request. You are of course free to do as you please but I will always ask who they are because they’re my kids.” But is it normal? I have a female friend (just friends for reals) who I met a while back. Two times she has been around the kids. However, for some reason my oldest child has been making up stories and telling my ex about other times they have been around her, including a time where I left them with her while I went to work (I work from home and would never have to do this). My ex believed their story and confronted me about it asking if she was “qualified to be around the kids.” Even if this story was true, is it her business to be asking me this in any way? I feel like she is trying to manipulate and control every aspect of our kids’ lives masked as “because they’re my kids.” This is the same woman who, during divorce negotiations, said “I can’t imagine a life where I only see them 50% of the time.” Looking back now it seems like that last one was also an attempt to manipulate me into acquiescing on parenting time in her favor, and it worked. Makes me realize she has absolutely no faith, trust, or belief in me as a parent whatsoever to make any kind of decision. Makes me realize I should continue to be more thankful I am no longer married to her. 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I posted a year ago...tried to work it out it's gotten completely worse. My wife is straight up narcissist I believe. Full of rage when confronted turns everything on me, she agreed to go to a mediator. But, not sure if I want to risk blowing money away. I asked the counselor we started seeing last week to work with just me now. She refused to go, because I confronted her about another lie and she swears I'm crazy. I can't do this anymore and I'm still in disbelief this is the person that I actually married. It's like she's a pod person. She moved into her own place last year, her dad pays for most if not all of it, and she has a son I didn't adopt. We were married for a little over 3 years. I give her some money every now and then, but pay for their healthcare, car, insurance, phone, medical bills, and all that stuff. She works part-time and our income is drastically different and I start a newer higher paying job on Monday. Just sitting here hurt, upset, and feeling down.",2.445679611650484,4.7033337135922375,4.064864077669903,84.26496601941749,78.36893203883496,7.0326213592233024,24.863106796116504,8.07648339933343,1.6210434951456318,819,30,159,15,20,273,132,206,0.132,0.8290000000000001,0.039,-0.9325,3,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,3,0,1,3,9,8,3,2,9,0,9,1,0,1,4,31,23,14,0,3,8,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,9,13,0,1,1,0,6,4,4,6,0,0,3,2,28,2,22,20,6,35,0,1,1,0,26,13,0,4,17,106,37,7,0.0,0.0,0.14158122414412272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860836543163348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521334054477711,0.0,0.0,0.14388451427446022,0.10144622709343007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563411677349999,0.0,0.13631135635435754,0.0,0.0,0.08844196520051564,0.0,0.0,0.1634601801284409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211799498379314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15158208112829902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123694064825314,0.12223967312949705,0.0,0.1303922995553728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733589171291867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391779588953986,0.16490935789370567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15531560783257387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439736547860201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23652593014247744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088079841295614,0.14541245626389213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615704060610107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542015151901753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15711202094262242,0.0,0.0,0.25336380730440883,0.15158208112829902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13895053270516428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561330172054746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053826486995868,0.0,0.11586440792130777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660866669299738,0.0,0.0,0.13674011599358832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850262984980024,0.15780991818772105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12530614281086708,0.0,0.0,0.08557440420024988,0.0,0.11637777218861432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168690175294949,0.0,0.14785316711167687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802883518022127 divorce,WhenTimeSaltsWounds,2019/01/28,"Separated not long ago (Dec 2018), ""wife"" already met someone new who has moved in. I need some advice about how to approach this, for the best of my 3 year old daughter. The house we lived in was her parents house and her mother was living with us to help with the care of our daughter, whilst my wife worked and I completed my bachelor and masters degree. After we agreed to separate, naturally I had to leave and was forced to be out quite quickly. I ended up finding a bedroom, with an ensuite in a place of 8 other similar rooms with shared facilities. The agreement was this; * 1. My wife would drop our daughter at daycare and I would pick her up in early afternoon to take her and play/spend some time with her. * 2. Afterwards, I'd take her home and because we (are)were on amicable terms, I would have dinner there and spend some more time with my daughter before it was her bath and bed time. Of course, this was not to be every night. Weekends would generally be me taking her to play in the morning to early afternoon and drop her off once she got a little tired. Now, this has only really been in effect for a week and a half now however, a man she met (or rather, already knew through her work), who she is arguably in a relationship with now, has effectively moved in. Car in the garage, sleeps in my old bed, is there in the mornings and evenings, his stuff is accumulating in the house now. I no longer feel comfortable being in the house where I've been essentially ""deleted"" (no pictures of me with my daughter or anything along those lines), together with a new man being introduced into my daughter's life effectively in my old place. This agreement has become difficult to maintain and my time spent with my daughter is very limited to just taking her to do fun things, rather than being there when she eats, baths and sleeps (like I used to do). I'm lost for how to approach this and worried, due to my housing situation, that I'm going to be spending less and less time with my daughter. I also feel as though my wife is not doing the right thing by having this person effectively move in no more than a month after our separation (after having been together for 9 years and married for 4), but this is not my business directly, however, I worry about the effects on my daughter... Please help :(",8.477271062271067,6.99131384841629,8.236218487394957,73.50107843137258,62.09954751131222,11.133979745744453,36.88472312001724,9.957137785484203,3.4740035337211808,1819,70,343,30,21,585,215,442,0.061,0.867,0.073,0.7469,3,0,0,0,0,0,65.0,7,0,0,12,20,11,0,0,21,0,37,6,2,9,0,67,55,26,0,7,10,15,2,1,0,4,2,0,7,3,17,34,2,1,9,4,3,7,7,2,0,1,16,2,51,9,71,28,9,74,0,1,0,0,49,29,0,5,37,251,68,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970849882655476,0.07230619291296889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002732769439975,0.0652308766552436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712451882929749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049723840093356994,0.09008679615290928,0.0694093993115591,0.0,0.08560186513880781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08316525723000506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08552377641934299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346567697866995,0.0,0.0,0.07224611888006814,0.0,0.0,0.053875701248585005,0.0,0.06872558684075805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08248769815287277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455279034775948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046357668122898016,0.0,0.06523835761555012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10934825901553556,0.0,0.08182057952576886,0.0,0.0,0.4705996473652517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637002749466652,0.0,0.0,0.057614753161739224,0.03985060121611539,0.08175378856016062,0.1440542333232995,0.07218619385277612,0.0,0.0,0.0890424404962725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510777407795668,0.2600855193375418,0.0,0.0604825438966706,0.0,0.1575601240850502,0.0,0.07654718836552822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567795284197926,0.08686855835572109,0.0,0.06203706830757357,0.0,0.0,0.09057296698132412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712230976057907,0.17044494988218245,0.08953851000651493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08675890720932777,0.0,0.0,0.05225533174532796,0.0,0.0,0.08757481704831263,0.0,0.06965966914526517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09168722214926693,0.16325625886125136,0.0,0.06911333634832169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337724291111196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453196114536086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838193203822832,0.0,0.0801413455955944,0.0,0.2378183439712835,0.09375182035413293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811772964763596,0.07044961737017782,0.0,0.06730315003949837,0.0,0.0,0.06542990899860793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876672891241058,0.16567500701230256,0.0,0.23177773737826735,0.0,0.0,0.10505580809174933 divorce,Uonlytkabturslf,2019/01/28,"Divorce with Medical Condition Has anyone ever divorced someone they were completely reliant on due to a medical condition? I (30f)have type 1 diabetes and HAVE to have insurance for my medications and supplies. Without insurance, the monthly cost for them would be well over $1000. I've become entirely dependent on my husband but, for reasons I'm not ready to disclose yet, am strongly considering divorce. I'm scared i wont be able to actually go through with it, though. I feel stuck. I have an 11 year old daughter from a previous relationship, whom I also homeschool. I understand homeschooling would have to go if I leave him, which sucks but is a necessary evil, at least temporarily. I cant afford to live on my own where I am and the areas my family live in have an even higher cost of living. I doubt I could find a roommate that would be cool with a kid anyways. Ultimately, though, it's the lack of health insurance that is my biggest fear. I'm completely lost. Any advice appreciated ",5.078774774774775,7.194827075675678,6.250270270270272,72.21828828828829,70.13513513513513,10.122522522522523,35.03603603603604,10.355215969177356,4.2557279279279285,799,42,135,24,15,267,120,185,0.175,0.757,0.068,-0.9704,1,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,0,0,2,2,9,9,2,3,10,1,20,5,0,2,1,23,30,9,0,6,5,2,1,0,0,4,5,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,4,0,2,2,4,6,1,0,3,2,19,3,23,19,3,17,0,1,0,0,11,9,1,3,6,97,25,1,0.13678635006602236,0.0,0.13348374599622315,0.0,0.0,0.13366603817879366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938799472825098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930194086487056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564419640721633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1510697768901947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28683577115001657,0.0,0.0,0.10921277012111284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034609415581574,0.12373108480104945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894999716884273,0.15392267269326496,0.06916328856333619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12502024586667207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554776699703896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453974937020841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1448369943301384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3623545594512095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493184594632286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133935711128899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091815596047976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353426445352516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14063914960230384,0.0,0.1468573491084349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13694699898779197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11589863052245712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26878378887526794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239941444845902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229873560895982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13185716023136046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2915072954843745,0.0,0.0,0.08808592472586865 divorce,Anticheat4Marriage,2019/01/28,"From hopelessness to impossible joy - out of nowhere I was cheated on. I was left feeling like it was me. I spent months trying to figure out what I did wrong. You will often not ever get closure from Infidelity and Divorce. My confidence was crushed and I thought I could never be happy again and that Trust was just a word people use when lying. &#x200B; I am here to tell you that I was wrong. &#x200B; Out of nowhere, the most organic experience of my romantic life decimated my massive rut and crippling depression like it was nothing. I learned quickly how special I am and how accomplished I was already. How the woman I loved with every fiber of my being convinced me it was me but it turned out she was wrong. You will find a person who realizes this, it will happen seemingly randomly, and they will turn your world right-side up again. It feels absolutely surreal to go from misery to happiness. I am here to tell you that you will find happiness again. Take it from a dude who was absolutely betrayed (much like many of you) and thought it could never get better. Never become convinced by the darkness during times of trepidation, take the reins and make the best choices you can, power through. You will find the light much faster this way and it will reward you overwhelmingly. I promise.",4.95939834024896,7.1662463817427415,5.169251037344399,79.4640010373444,70.65975103734439,8.139502074688798,30.722199170124483,8.841846274778883,2.6978927800829884,1042,45,182,20,20,328,130,241,0.133,0.677,0.19,0.9332,1,0,0,0,1,1,33.0,0,10,1,5,13,23,1,1,9,0,27,2,0,5,4,44,44,14,0,2,3,0,2,3,0,7,1,0,0,2,17,14,0,1,11,0,1,1,4,7,0,0,15,3,33,16,25,18,4,22,0,3,0,1,20,8,0,4,15,142,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533397114759207,0.0,0.0,0.2264820908661775,0.2539922807747445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542767513514406,0.0,0.0,0.1096811597499089,0.09243427860475684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16689209992428594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001789026937453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453903854584614,0.08805768492268627,0.0,0.0,0.10223490023057978,0.0,0.0,0.1056909961463663,0.07466493463655703,0.0,0.0,0.2865721381657254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10920866672902588,0.0,0.059397803947098086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242152386293448,0.3337717906460552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135549373739084,0.0,0.07382143993284837,0.15318101367395764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432810718858076,0.0,0.06976401135654045,0.10596095104224733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834222029861813,0.0,0.15365986188133046,0.0,0.2418232828922232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028415239428652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245695689723733,0.09125773058468756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925451901379024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514576324645796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571632782182832,0.0,0.1826999597143664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16594513261084126,0.06094304542144328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07095825210675111,0.2273627816188257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026667496752216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295847308507025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3428094712839347,0.2539922807747445,0.0 divorce,Schmataschmen,2019/01/28,"There better be some light at the end of this godforsaken tunnel. It’s still very fresh. My emotions are so jacked up right now. One minute I feel like this is for the best, and the next minute I’m wondering how I’m going to make it through work tomorrow with such a heavy heart. I can’t even be in my house right now without feeling like I’m going to drown in sadness. The place is littered with memories, some happy, some sad, but all of them are painful right now. Thank goodness I have loved ones that are willing to let me crash until the storm lets up a little. And when I start to feel oppressively nostalgic, I call to mind the turmoil I felt on a fairly regular basis. I try to remember the things that angered me or the things that caused grief, but it’s not helping right now. I suppose I shouldn’t force it. The emotional process will be what it will be. All that’s to say is that this may be one of the most horrendous things that we can go through, and by god, it better be worth it. 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My deeply held personal shames, and also messaging people that I, in moments of pique, have complained about. I’m trying to be the adult here, I would never do the same to him, but how do I deal with this? Crawl in a hole? It makes me feel so small, and like everything good I’ve ever done is worthless.",3.771926910299001,5.58381446511628,4.294451827242527,86.15569767441862,72.95348837209302,7.70498338870432,30.890365448504987,8.418075326091056,2.3566132890365457,348,16,68,6,7,110,66,86,0.104,0.8140000000000001,0.081,0.159,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,1,4,0,8,0,0,2,3,16,13,6,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,9,2,11,9,2,8,0,1,0,0,14,4,0,0,5,46,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185075894961536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23859598255898595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23683504200331626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093432767554132,0.0,0.4422859291877866,0.4159918863966369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11701885166779195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19411398019110188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718884290374588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306586792950846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15448249698348274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849444072728893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604456424975973,0.2020772862059172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.404563118241781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571269735481847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644024822943815,0.0,0.0,0.1490344657350617 divorce,wildlikeawave,2019/01/28,"What are some general unspoken things I should know about divorce attorneys? Not sure how to exactly ask this but I'm trying to be some help to my parent in divorce process. It's very messy and dad is not being civil. There is a good bit of money and land involved. Will an attorney try to drag out the process to rack up the bill? Do they really have your best interest in mind? Will they withhold information from you? Does the client have the ultimate say-so in what they allow or want the attorney to do? Can the client request certain information from their attorney as to what their plan is and what exact steps they will take going forward? What else should I know to help my mom navigate this? 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So why would anyone want a legal separation vs divorce? I’m trying to decide the best option for me and my situation? ,3.3737179487179496,6.340016115384617,6.8515384615384605,61.376794871794914,80.15384615384616,8.082051282051282,27.89743589743589,8.841846274778883,3.288682051282052,113,5,16,3,3,42,24,26,0.0,0.736,0.264,0.7608,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,3,3,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,11,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132852883475242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4701982970530043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.503624256857007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041948989099729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26427007354696497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40429325520279996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182801485497445,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TheArgotect,2019/01/28,"Wife is moving out, the apartment feels hollow, don't know what to do. Not sure why I'm here",0.5259999999999998,2.4079316000000013,1.8800000000000023,99.395,83.0,4.0,15.0,3.1291,-1.334,72,1,17,0,2,23,19,20,0.103,0.897,0.0,-0.2411,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,5,6,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,9,1,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746272205003413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29849479726969685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5772704283385665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5119017490413951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4900981510446126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,demonicgrizzly,2019/01/28,"Soon to be ex has moved out. Would i be in the wrong to change the locks immediately? Hello reddit. My soon to be ex moved out but did not return the house key. Would i be wrong to change the locks? The divorce decree states the house is mine, but it is not yet fully signed. If i change the locks now, would i be in for trouble or am i good to go?",0.5691428571428574,2.213190066666666,2.119238095238096,98.95200000000001,81.66666666666666,4.819047619047621,14.714285714285715,5.288315135182226,-1.2279714285714287,265,3,67,1,7,86,41,75,0.128,0.8240000000000001,0.048,-0.7536,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,0,0,12,14,4,0,4,6,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,1,0,7,1,10,5,0,13,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,2,5,48,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5768694265352288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10330475180368973,0.15246104361438348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194790785514781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3863880002429374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3873750978479845,0.3974765057922777,0.0,0.0 divorce,barksatgoats,2019/01/28,"My divorce is forcing me to go out and do what I actually want to do I had zero drive to go back to school during my marriage. I had a job I wasn’t passionate about, I yearned to do something that I was more interested in but my marriage was so exhausting I just couldn’t work up the energy or courage to do it. Now that I’m divorced and have moved across the country, I have a job that I HATE so I’ve booked an appointment to tour the school I will most likely be attending in the near future to pursue a career in a really interesting field. This divorce has been good to me in the sense that it’s taught me I’m more capable and more deserving of happiness and fulfillment than I thought I was. I want a career, not a dead end job waiting tables at shitty restaurant.",5.44352201257862,5.0453830377358475,6.662264150943397,78.76371069182392,67.67924528301887,10.337106918238996,32.76100628930818,9.994966539143718,3.0067911949685544,609,24,127,13,9,207,92,159,0.09,0.703,0.207,0.9515,3,0,1,0,3,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,6,10,1,0,12,0,18,2,0,0,0,16,28,8,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,5,0,1,1,1,0,5,3,3,0,1,9,0,19,7,21,16,4,18,0,1,0,1,5,9,0,2,5,95,27,10,0.0,0.0,0.19790356276838594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15594069531427066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796206212186494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305118468801288,0.1700990328480135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21588438961714826,0.0,0.20022303140588246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6037431742630228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907784469720653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554432393771544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991888416405914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4104888892533709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15612536133864272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100056086653408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392334093081707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147640828033737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lady0thelake,2019/01/28,"Emotion Processing help Hello! I (26F) am currently getting a divorce from my husband? 29M. No kids. We were married two years and together for four. It seemed that he started pulling away last March, and began playing video games all the time. He would shut himself into a room, oversleep work, and wouldn't even eat dinner with me after cooking. We had a small farm, and I ended up taking over most of the chores because he just wasn't helping. I eventually started to (try) talk to him about it, and he told me that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be married over text. Later he said he wasn't happy because I wasn't home enough and his life was boring. I asked if he would go to counseling, but he wouldn't. He eventually moved across the country and left me with the house and basically everything to deal with. Since then, I have been trying to pay off our joint loans and get out of some debt that we had put ourselves in. It's been 2 months since he moved, and I haven't seen him for 3. I sold the house and am still working towards my MBA. I think that I am finally able to start processing through my emotions. I am struggling a little bit because i am still pretty young, but I feel like no one will want to get married/date me ever because I failed. (I come from a very religious background). I am in counseling, and I think I am going to start a journal to better process my emotions. Has anyone tried a guided journal to help process? I just feel like my outlook on life and life goals have changed a ton and I feel like I can't control very much in my life right now and it's freaking me out a bit. I guess I am just wondering if anyone has any recommendations for being able to work through the emotions on my own in a healthy way (especially if you've tried a guided journal!), or any advice on making the transition to single without looking at every single person that you meet as a potential relationship. 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Hey All - in the process of what should be a reasonably amicable divorce. STBX has an attorney and I should be receiving a settlement proposal soon. My intention is to hire an attorney to review and suggest changes, hopefully meeting in the middle. Has anyone had a similar situation who could provide an estimate of how long an attorney might work on something like this? Obviously I don't want to pay a ton, but I'd like to have an idea of what to expect. Attorneys here are $300/hr. We don't have enough assets to make this overly complicated, so I don't think there's much heavy lifting. Thank you for taking the time to read this. 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Tossing and turning, internally crying because I didn’t want to wake up with eyes that tells my story to the day after. The last two letters he said “I will always love you”. The last two conversations he said “I love you too”, aggressively after I had said it to him. And I’m dissecting as to why he said it in anger. I’m dissecting as to why he wanted a separation and a divorce but didn’t formalize it in ink. My mind wanders now to my follies, my faults, my mistakes. I want to own up to them. It’s not ending just because of him. At least I can admit that now.",1.6762239583333312,3.612638757812501,3.780937500000004,86.95364583333338,79.390625,6.7666666666666675,23.947916666666664,7.793537801064563,1.2090916666666671,483,17,103,8,12,165,73,128,0.106,0.816,0.078,-0.6652,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,1,0,5,6,2,0,6,0,6,5,3,0,0,14,19,6,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,8,5,16,2,21,10,2,16,0,0,1,2,20,5,0,0,11,68,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087925546277599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17711485091822246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15957620515629672,0.0936894403577014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12866927162945474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306521231233602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35525206920013025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26223015405421896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2933698041650261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13632941291455986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5527537642829999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537849397486632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12697551135478985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158015937738752,0.2838223554733712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25705836264459103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621736186162451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Shattereddreams11,2019/01/28,"discovery process is there a way to start the discovery process myself, without the lawyer? i am in TX. the bailiff set the trial date and asked us to sign a form to confirm. on top there were options for discovery. i asked him if i can pick an option and have judge sign off on it. he said your lawyer will have to do that. any advice?",1.5052310924369756,3.721698220588237,2.2544537815126056,96.20147058823532,81.5,5.650420168067227,22.94957983193277,6.868970318607317,0.5304050420168069,261,9,58,3,7,81,49,68,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.659,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,7,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,12,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,10,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,3,2,40,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31999870829153354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22269000427627356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6122782208824212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114978056613085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23178409263337985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3939046301205885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25992948039166824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3156682245387241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Super_Juicy_Muscles,2019/01/28,"Something died inside me Something inside of me died, yet I cannot grasp what that was. And in its stead, hate has taken root. I know I am broken and shall never be whole again, until I find that which has been broken. Any idea what it may be?",2.529600000000002,3.9404533599999993,3.2089999999999996,94.31950000000002,75.4,5.0,16.5,3.1291,-0.9476,188,2,41,0,4,59,37,50,0.299,0.701,0.0,-0.9524,0,0,2,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,10,0,0,1,1,9,13,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,3,6,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,4,32,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933552843168094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5901827621874588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2598739933533664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807186566790917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209758440836633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562612487594716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21929411077178845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43778481826775456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174461531352967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sijndanyk,2019/01/28,"STBX took child, dogs to parents... Hi, &#x200B; throwaway account but looking for some advice... 35 M, we own a house and have a child and two dogs.. this morning woke up to dogs and child gone taken to her parents house... I'm sure this is just a move to make a point but curious how/what I should do in case things spiral out of control... What steps should I take? Where do I begin?",1.3661363636363646,3.575533064935069,2.1092045454545456,97.08380681818184,81.98701298701299,4.36948051948052,21.313311688311693,5.148860815047168,-0.21634935064935013,294,9,64,1,8,91,55,77,0.0,0.913,0.087,0.7399,2,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,2,1,14,15,5,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,1,4,1,5,1,9,9,2,10,0,0,1,0,8,5,0,1,1,38,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20007369738214945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22184029370315772,0.2487866565957195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2296380699519292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.472494716730177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193359172873302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13666836711066946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21761072012596444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4546884875164099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935494818028175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19296901897996727,0.0,0.15394218441711569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13602297240281902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22747837924010386,0.0,0.0,0.20000536765476026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487866565957195,0.0 divorce,Bigbeefyblackburrito,2019/01/28,Deep down I knew I was a great husband or so I thought I guess being faithful on deployments working hard so you spend more time with your family and then giving up your career so you can raise the kids isn’t good enough for some women. FF a few months now she wants to “be free &enjoy her youth” god I gave up everything for this woman and that’s what I get instead of trying to work through things you just give up fuck you. Then when you ask to come over and see our son you take a pregnancy test and just casually toss it in the trash I wish I didn’t throw that paperwork away or I would have never know. I really wish I could unsee it but i can’t. I know it’s not mine we haven’t been intimate in 5 months so I guess “being free &enjoying youth” means sleeping around and going at it unprotected. Sorry for the rant guys I thought I was over my feelings but I guess I still have a ways to go. ,1.262255639097745,3.3442528306878363,2.711695906432748,93.33842105263159,81.53968253968253,6.306989696463382,19.47117794486216,7.475848149327749,0.3640730158730161,711,18,161,11,19,231,121,189,0.063,0.805,0.132,0.8543,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,8,0,2,11,7,1,0,7,0,15,2,1,0,1,33,39,16,0,5,7,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,9,9,0,0,7,1,3,4,6,1,0,0,8,3,32,8,22,26,4,29,1,0,1,1,22,13,1,6,11,112,41,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29202513476806313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996510526500367,0.12598254996887304,0.0,0.12661159796480434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608393766905205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075950150974894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392432597161685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12111373439857526,0.0,0.12703987708412387,0.0,0.06813878147135809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245835881696772,0.07040661691486295,0.25854843277205725,0.15317459880593753,0.11303042106691183,0.0,0.1485735423017167,0.4453604981978692,0.1334337365217906,0.0,0.0,0.12071862576904885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812130949322214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467933108091442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21512853379725144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393533620631633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08633080350743713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738639294859924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13485747324118846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15085295614874142,0.0,0.0,0.10761963072267353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132286249821697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08952865636897672,0.0,0.0,0.2139690141920268,0.07857972780235813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09149329668907047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948502861723117,0.1069663353520296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3099350462324915,0.0,0.0,0.1962139899317564,0.0,0.0,0.09572974486374099,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,phillies1989,2019/01/28,"You don't need a lawyer to do your divorce... This is what I told my ex and (unsurprisingly) she believed me (and took the clerks at the county office advice as if they are lawyers). She then decides to file for the divorce along with not serve me the papers and thinks I won't be coming after her for any support or anything after she left me high and dry for rent, utilities, car payments, etc that all used to be split. &#x200B; Should I feel like an asshole for tricking a soon to be ex who left me while I was on a work trip away from any communication medium that she won't need a lawyer?",11.899750000000004,6.095373475000002,10.663333333333338,72.04500000000003,60.08333333333334,13.0,41.66666666666666,8.07648339933343,3.4401666666666664,467,14,99,3,4,148,82,120,0.0,0.944,0.056,0.6486,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,2,1,1,1,3,1,0,9,0,11,0,0,1,1,18,20,9,0,4,3,2,1,1,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,7,0,0,3,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,3,1,17,2,17,11,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,2,6,71,22,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919725228555004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21285776896428768,0.23871304796372725,0.26719084063721193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166485901537025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18457494961313156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22133632382417348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1692276796957832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190980806123844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933301813529112,0.1403467386389741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075643805562716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.426895575395789,0.0,0.0,0.09597747499188236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29133622415416066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229336104131685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587975645991215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18772016473772446,0.21826756304899086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696731337292742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302081281334453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23871304796372725,0.0 divorce,pshah514,2019/01/28,"I think I am ready I have posted in this subreddit previously but I would delete my comment the next day. This will be the first post that I will not delete. One “emotional affair” and drinking problem afterwards I am ready to leave. This past weekend was his nephews first birthday and of course he got drunk became verbally abusive and his secrets (affair and alcohol issues) were exposed to his family by his own doing. After having a tumultuous relationship with my in laws they surprisingly support me if I choose to leave. For the sake of my kid I am giving him until Easter to see a therapist and curb his beer drinking (he will binge drink 5 beers in 2 hours on a empty stomach). Do I see him changing? No. But I am not going to walk away without giving this 15 year relationship one more month of effort. Plus, I need time to find a safe place I can afford. I have not felt this brave in a long time. Hell, I haven’t felt this much hope in a long time. I think I am finally ready to leave. 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And boy has my life been a shitshow. So long story short my ex wife had an emotional (not sure if physical, but wouldn’t surprise me if it was) affair with a much older man. 13 years older than her 25 he’s 38. She randomly tells me she wants a divorce, divorces me, married him 5 months later. I on the other hand had to move back in with my parents, just got my own apartment and started dating all over again. And my god, does dating suck. 1st thing I realized is you can’t drink or screw the pain away. Spent a lot of time and money at bars wasting money on booze. And while the ego boost was nice picking up women, it didn’t really help the emotional part of me. 2nd thing I realized, is dating absolutely sucks balls. For the past two/three months I’ve been exclusively dating a 21 year old ( I’m 27). She has a kid, baby daddy is very much apart of her life in the I want the mother of my child to love me. He’s a very big piece of shit, unemployed, cheated on her, beat her, has another child from another woman that his parents take care of. I honestly do not know how TF I caught feelings for this woman, considering everything that I’ve been through. But damn, I just feel like somehow, somewhere along the line I ticked God off and he’s been pissing on me ever since. I guess I’m lookin for advice and to vent. I know I should probably cut my losses at this point and gtfo. But damn, if it wasn’t for the fact that my work life has been outstanding these past 5/6 months ( I’ve gotten a promotion, about to get another one). My life would completely suck. I guess being in a relationship and marriage for the last 6 and a half years of my life made me forget how I absolutely HATE dating. 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She lived with her friend until this last weekend when she moved to her own place, taking all her things. She left behind some bags with clothes and things she no longer wanted thinking she will come back this week to take them where she can donate them. I went through them tonight. It was very hard... Her favorite pjs, a jacket she wore that made her look beautiful, sweaters, gifts I got her... Everything brought so many years of memories. It made me feel so disposable. Just something you can put in a bag and give away. It reminded me when we had to clean up my grandparents' houses. Going through their clothes and their belongings. But this time the person I miss is still alive.",4.261986368062317,6.251773962025317,3.2651898734177216,93.30011197663096,72.03797468354429,6.633690360272638,24.812074001947426,7.321109707123232,0.8828825705939627,658,20,134,7,13,189,107,158,0.051,0.841,0.107,0.8901,1,0,1,0,0,0,20.0,2,2,5,1,10,4,0,0,5,0,11,0,0,2,2,18,27,9,1,1,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,11,8,0,0,2,1,1,7,1,3,0,1,8,3,29,1,19,17,3,29,0,3,1,0,26,7,0,1,15,94,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412038808737941,0.1155649433009476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12946288309652562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13594733284997298,0.0,0.0,0.13507237566775449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599193546583086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611489709743936,0.0,0.0,0.1441733722980113,0.08541416485675041,0.0,0.12020190095812545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346317298442071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34683259524634946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450153835794773,0.0,0.0,0.16329223467237022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271021312773376,0.0,0.12620707008530702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28441904204070423,0.0,0.15237206662996067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31947231637646323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184145997805552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312288052190561,0.15702270668189924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108454247232184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273415627594892,0.11570179608715045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2400460899398867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2260011189491057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29954113047913705,0.09630077197823096,0.0,0.0,0.08763622529101761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12400628818542372,0.08864586414301139,0.0,0.12055483504807282,0.0,0.0,0.13932179461216002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678284601933566 divorce,Ghost_Of_DickCheney,2019/01/28,"Considering mailing a letter to my ex. Long story short my divorce gets finalized in a few days. The situation with my wife was very bad, abusive and I hated it. But I can’t seem to move last her. It’s almost been 6 months and I just wish I would’ve tried more. I moved across the country from her back to my family, and haven’t barely contacted her since. I am dating an amazing girl now but it hurts so much, I hadn’t realized how compatible we were, even if she had many issues to work on. I will admit it hurts like hell to think about with her someone else, I don’t know if I regret instigating the divorce, I know her family fkin hates me. But even though she was, very very flawed like I said, we were compatible and I miss that more then anything. This is being worsened by my severe depression. I really need advice or some kind of support. Thanks in advance ",2.1216125760649085,4.321005028735634,3.7282014874915497,86.56341784989858,79.17241379310343,6.852738336713995,21.72954699121028,7.928766900206844,1.0493871534820824,681,20,139,12,17,226,117,174,0.225,0.6729999999999999,0.102,-0.9804,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,2,0,0,2,9,15,3,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,0,27,28,14,0,5,7,2,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,8,0,0,6,0,0,3,4,9,0,0,8,1,29,6,15,18,5,17,1,5,0,0,19,5,1,6,11,94,35,1,0.0,0.16117799300168462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13293080705796287,0.0,0.0,0.13621835651378092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11194435465121676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460171501565473,0.11358267082102999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773064758233481,0.0,0.11716584666409564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363891444504423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17969828947279534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2564814133392308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14901854912132334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07107212722978362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686107360042273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29125432607724644,0.0,0.0,0.14198410696161726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165843133465233,0.14952140885386173,0.11088583006046288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13291863877477628,0.0,0.0,0.12038577000643842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791707964990454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10858100555579593,0.28916513294155594,0.10000060966624996,0.10086745443039982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714683533437552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293994432803083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384020414068188,0.0,0.15367964935224646,0.0,0.11252869384523602,0.1529078657437261,0.0,0.0,0.11526112917070913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15436972079006495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12524178961911273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716506596660845,0.1336526707385984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09235812637924436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33672678010515183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564323355107438,0.0,0.0,0.09903433986578458,0.0,0.0,0.096634619084989,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,justcat5,2019/01/29,"Fuck women’s lib I guess So after 18 yrs being supportive in any choices he made, bad good or ugly. Getting shit right about 5 yrs of successful business and family dynamic improvements he kicks me to the curb literally. I left quietly asked for nothing after the first year of no I don’t owe you or our minor child anything every time. We did ok thru family support and yeh stupidly believing you’d call me home, eventually. Then 10 years later and I’m struggling the most since you threw us away you file for divorce and so you won’t have to be accountable you lie to the court. Publish the summons and I find it late. Your welcome for the ability to bring home 5000$ a month from our company your sure gonna wanna leave tobacco offerings for daddy helping out still. YOU ARE 54! You make good money you never spent a penny on your real family so why do you still play the games? How do you sleep at nite? Can any female on here tell me what can I do I have no money so no attorney. He has money and attorneys and Iives in home state where we married I don’t. So no legal aid services? I had no voice or equal access to the court and so he got his default judgement. I got the bill for our waived filing fees! How is this ok? Women’s lib I guess. Sorry I know I’m all over the place it’s just I can’t believe it. I don’t deserve this but without money I am less then I guess. Anyway sorry just I’ve lost hope and feel like I never existed except when the bill collectors call . FML this would not have happened 25 years ago. We’ve come along way baby! :(....",0.5472344980503117,2.9758072695924795,2.6105344445293994,90.20426255829956,89.15673981191222,5.620032112546832,19.6927135102072,7.11905507035037,0.6213834543925372,1225,38,250,20,41,410,192,319,0.087,0.802,0.111,0.8327,1,0,1,0,1,0,31.0,6,14,0,3,17,19,3,1,13,2,23,3,2,4,4,43,48,24,0,3,9,0,1,1,0,3,0,2,3,3,7,14,0,1,3,2,10,3,14,6,0,1,8,3,40,13,29,34,4,35,0,1,0,1,37,12,2,8,19,155,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057443995742312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896879311793112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08408360965281372,0.0,0.0955224345216488,0.0,0.09599939102091927,0.0,0.08531418119650322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302387441249823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086698820893907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0880171129870517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08608918943276887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2889723618883284,0.0,0.05166415740188531,0.07299582889960647,0.0,0.0,0.0933886429498399,0.08691237038935617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09446171431162773,0.05338367461051136,0.0,0.0,0.17140375390061746,0.16344181505677674,0.0,0.3376810442251393,0.0,0.0903554764412334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848761441895082,0.0,0.3074779435473126,0.10148559397385233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615423759410732,0.0,0.11526099026180145,0.10819151934679627,0.1110164606665699,0.0,0.0,0.04991890378547178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11153912072371763,0.0,0.0,0.09668308923840696,0.06820446386407036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155733190217028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15761161128595014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09804233895265828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675403625337854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163006871087517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725926876064477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048840263583132,0.08452251833068176,0.0,0.10225157500478604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287593262666234,0.0,0.0,0.16319861967376503,0.0,0.0,0.10681840441795123,0.0,0.0,0.23190027555328066,0.09630135165986636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930788638730837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0595806872109217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229072926495416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08110396850364986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921995568094473,0.0,0.0,0.09849573700533734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258416572596894,0.0,0.0,0.19739742749914646 divorce,Dinosaurladi,2019/01/29,Telling kids How to tell young children about divorce?,6.619999999999997,10.310975444444443,2.342222222222226,94.30000000000004,72.33333333333334,3.6,42.333333333333336,3.1291,2.4098000000000006,45,3,7,0,1,11,9,9,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Rickrtr57,2019/01/29,"29M (sorry for the crosspost earlier; fixed) considering divorce as a option - seeking advice as to whether or not I'm being unreasonable, facing a midlife crisis, or a valid point. Considering Divorce Seriously For The First Time...Didn't Think I'd Ever Be At That Point - Looking for advice You can read my post history about my DB. I'm reaching out to folks who maybe have gone through a divorce before or been near this point. The DB/Lack of Sex is only part of the reasoning for considering divorce. There are obviously other reasons: We've been married 6, going on 7 years and I've been the main person in the relationship since we've been married that does the cooking (solely, she won't cook), I do 90% of the cleaning (she will clean the bathroom, which is the smallest room in the house), I do the laundry almost exclusively (I have left baskets of clean clothes out in hopes that she will do them, and it usually takes two weeks before they get done; that's if we haven't just emptied them out first of necessity over the course of those two weeks), etc. I have to practically nag her to get her to do anything and she gets mad at me for doing that. At some point I gave up asking her to do it and just started doing it all myself because it was easier. It almost feels like we are roommates that occasionally fuck; and it feels like I'm getting the short end of the stick. I put it this way once: I'd love to have someone who does all the things I do for me; but I would never wish that on a person because that's just not fair, IMO. Now, I don't think I'm innocent in this whole thing. I have had a few ""virtual"" affairs over the past 2 years, never anything physical. If I'm honest, we got married too young. We were each other's firsts and I never got to really develop or explore my sexual desires and tastes. She made it seem like she was open to a lot when we were dating, but when we got married, that changed. She is very vanilla and I just want more. I've asked her to explore more, given her quizzes to take that gauge interest in a very broad range of kinks/fetishes/etc. and she just answered indifferent to 90% of them, except the vanilla ones everyone likes. I feel like the bad guy in this because I just want more than she can give me. We were raised christian (grew up/live in the south), so divorce was obviously taught to be a last resort/almost not even an option. But I'm tired of denying myself things that I want. I want to explore things she has no interest in and I don't know if I should just suppress that part of me or should I seriously think about divorce? Am I just having a midlife crisis? (29M, turn 30 this year) Are those still a thing? When I think about getting divorced, of course I am sad to think that I'd be losing my best friend, but that's almost all it feels like. I'd lose a friend. There is also this almost overwhelming sense of excitement I get when I think about finally being free. Anyone relate or been there? Am I crazy? Should I just try to be happy where I'm at? Is it worth shaking up our lives like that?",4.158313385349594,5.1581351123778525,5.007501704416336,84.59386144989018,70.84039087947883,7.731171880918112,27.471252177865313,7.97965635744439,1.5801803348231194,2405,81,492,31,43,782,268,614,0.092,0.7809999999999999,0.127,0.9656,1,0,0,0,7,0,83.0,8,1,4,6,28,29,3,2,33,0,57,8,1,3,9,97,107,32,0,14,27,0,4,7,2,7,1,1,4,3,43,22,3,1,18,3,2,8,11,11,0,6,21,7,64,19,66,73,16,69,1,4,1,3,49,33,1,19,33,340,107,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13052723475748906,0.0,0.0,0.3343883519642061,0.0,0.0,0.05340964938471049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0466991191170681,0.0,0.1099202463501458,0.0,0.12487391511781927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055764469752202166,0.12213845658476792,0.0,0.11366186908161807,0.0,0.07008897991521135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065193536086622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689174743966115,0.06834642922050535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915357997078788,0.0,0.14897062442907086,0.04411227414971476,0.060412789114848,0.0,0.06381797156950117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.135078332924493,0.1908509762677472,0.0,0.07316204412983827,0.0,0.17042731401850789,0.0,0.0,0.1031991528540131,0.06174363202688549,0.20936113548737514,0.06406830758664607,0.03795666910660358,0.0,0.16024732390596189,0.0,0.0,0.06612976595723921,0.0,0.07109614931192992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06633469671828858,0.0,0.07706338916518621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036704463898704326,0.054440430671838284,0.0,0.0,0.07256441984221049,0.0,0.0,0.22840175136387406,0.0,0.058974265629176015,0.0,0.05608437436783454,0.1494354457847779,0.0,0.056780035605610124,0.06027799874887658,0.063195603940293,0.0,0.0,0.06709665598736475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15453107221249618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07112612128234166,0.0452566925427822,0.050794627284784365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464792217389394,0.06375587945463071,0.0,0.1166319039777157,0.0,0.0,0.25254172816342146,0.0,0.06396361564242709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713951948558207,0.0,0.0,0.0668052106169958,0.0,0.04278555018891269,0.1373366005782159,0.0,0.07170439082401256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06080050123835407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524700994287271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658852450628075,0.0,0.0,0.07476273200552107,0.047272279369087095,0.0,0.053336293935924366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043123062855082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2218520310708554,0.2567670041252635,0.0,0.0,0.03894411671297903,0.07676198927628691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04534408204716957,0.07264522672209298,0.1304826567320687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07355659586606912,0.11021276519383454,0.15757113535387104,0.053012520720186126,0.10714522563781152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07456545343159374,0.07680191158385817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047443665957383946,0.0,0.0,0.12902617971078706 divorce,DetMills,2019/01/29,"Dated 6 Years. Married 4 Months. Over. My wife and I were one of those couples that just seemed to work. We colored outside the lines of the world, made up our own rules, danced when there wasn't any music. She showed signs of something... She would periodically contemplate complete life changes after a period of sadness. She would want to quit her job, move to another city, and I guess I enabled that. We moved to new places every year, she got and quit 9 jobs in the 6 years we were dating. I knew if I attached my cart to her horse, it'd buck at me first during one of these spells. Four months into the marriage, she got too drunk on a work trip and fooled around with someone else. She came home and lashed out at me. Meaner than she has ever been. Hiding her infidelity with rage. Her next work trip? She started an affair with someone else. Suddenly, we're fighting for the first time in our history. She's telling me I'm not making enough money. That she enjoys the sex, but she feels she married her best friend. By the time I caught up to the truth, she had run off with the affair. Can't figure it out if this just happens, or if she is mentally sick. Her sisters say: ""This is just who she is. She lacks empathy. We hoped you'd make her better."" Her parents say: ""This is just who she is. You'll find someone else."" But... I love/d her. She won't answer the phone unless it is to talk about the divorce/dissolution. She completely ejected me from her life. Therapist sister says it's cuz I remind her of her mistakes. But, her sisters says it's lack of empathy. Serial monogamist who hasn't been single since 17, and hasn't found ""the one"" until I was 36. Facing the reality of starting over again sounds like Hell. Therapy, Journaling, are the biggest help to try and stay me, but there's definitely a bevy of emotions brewing inside of me. Just trying not to harden my heart. Hope you, reader, are well. 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Back story. Together 20 years. Told me they wanted divorce last summer, I asked if they were sure, they were. 3 kids from 3 to 9. They didn't want to waste the money on lawyer so I borrowed it and got it done. From lawyer to judge signing off was 2 weeks. Holy shit it got done fast. Still cohabitating due to financial reasons until they can move out and get their own place. Just hard sometimes, I don't cry for me anymore just the kids, and the lost time (50/50 custody) all of us will lose from divorcing. 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He is HIDING $$$ Hi. I’m a stay at home mom. Gave up my career to take care of our kids. We’ve been together for ten years. I figured out he was cheating but don’t have proof to show courts or lawyers. He makes a SIGNIFICANT amount of money! I take care kids a majority of time. He doesn’t care about taking care of kids and only wants to take care of them for money purposes. He gets paid in all kind of stocks n various funds like that. My lawyer, accountant and everyone KNOWS he is hiding money but we can’t find it. We have ALREADY subpoena his work and got the info. His money is very complicated. But he gets a lot on bonuses too. He should be making a half of million but only saying he makes half of that. I’ve gone over all his bank statements very careful to see if various strange amounts were taken out, or if he started buying random things. I feel as if he is another account or transferring funds. I’m not about the money but He is only About money, I repeat only about money doesn’t even care about our kids or helping them. How can I find where he is hiding the money? Please advise. Thank you!",1.1703913043478238,3.4544439521739143,2.9788695652173938,90.09178260869568,83.3913043478261,5.7669565217391305,20.069565217391304,7.087006719466742,0.4808052173913047,879,25,183,12,25,292,126,230,0.048,0.752,0.2,0.9907,0,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,4,1,2,2,9,12,1,0,8,0,18,0,0,4,3,38,47,17,0,5,13,1,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,4,4,7,0,0,7,1,16,1,5,1,0,4,8,3,17,11,27,37,8,14,0,0,1,0,34,8,0,9,5,103,21,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111790563489624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10564413906157988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7190424317004203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654378200985346,0.0,0.0,0.09627001260508287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050941735115916695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18416557053196264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10527441647286866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057820032484588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13505989792156814,0.0,0.1010594884465776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491460772661368,0.05536903031057424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049220885460983785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08565321975983117,0.0,0.0,0.20175227313935415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11799604252280513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3064966992033714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059217705341884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801196698753651,0.0,0.0,0.08028393033328271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07131067971624322,0.10738505747641894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3030029191079834,0.0,0.0,0.0927561678120466,0.0,0.0,0.06693317666605815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05874756772501436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625699679120068,0.059424386319589184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334649142017785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487907006788124 divorce,YoSantana,2019/01/29,"My Kids Told Me, ""It's About Time!"" I've been verbally abused for about 23 years. My kids witnessed it all. I'm living with my daughter in Ohio, I'm from Illinois. I'm too numb to even react to this. Is it my, newly-found, freedom? I have proof of his verbal attacks on video, do I turn them in to my future lawyer? Where did you start? Help, please. Thanks!",-0.7539312039312058,1.4135121081081117,0.7471498771498801,101.68789926289926,96.83783783783785,3.231449631449632,14.835380835380835,4.851557810540192,-1.2210108108108102,272,6,63,1,11,86,56,74,0.106,0.73,0.16399999999999998,0.6832,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,0,1,1,0,5,3,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,1,2,4,12,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,11,1,12,9,1,8,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,4,36,15,1,0.0,0.35773039999728995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34348197487124565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19941786026352865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310439256884862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20237319729544048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666042975356165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33142172933020914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21370326022114766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27797092309217025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760542292242174,0.0,0.0,0.2885011843541718,0.0,0.0,0.3284064571713396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19442906516657893 divorce,ashypoo1990,2019/01/29,"Separation How do you start a separation? What is the difference between that and a divorce? What are the laws with a separation?",2.7423913043478265,5.640734434782607,5.122065217391307,68.58135869565217,95.95652173913044,9.256521739130434,31.83695652173913,8.841846274778883,4.418139130434783,104,6,17,4,4,36,17,23,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,16,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8279017268757147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5608731858773507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Singlemomstruggles,2019/01/29,Things that make me bite my tounge (Soon to be) ex husband has a medical bill going to collections soon. He keeps saying he can't afford to pay any of it. Yesterday he let slip that he bought a Nintendo switch and a few games. About equals the amount it would cost to pay off the medical bill...wtf dude.,1.952841530054645,4.1336387377049215,2.8831967213114744,92.4994398907104,79.65573770491805,7.3453551912568305,20.002732240437158,8.344100000000001,0.8991289617486333,237,6,52,5,6,75,46,61,0.0,0.954,0.046,0.1511,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,0,5,2,0,1,0,4,9,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,7,5,3,5,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,29,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304939329489761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19263001215454773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012695105732747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3465937906978781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262481348221115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6829019982376775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695423291614273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2251797138556345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407765002866699,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Mr_NightRyder,2019/01/29,"Help please! I'm needing to file divorce as my wife left me the week before Christmas. I'm honestly not sure where to begin as the google searches seem to take me on a rollercoaster of mixed information. Here is what I am needing. &#x200B; 1: How do I go about getting the papers done myself (I'm honestly clueless and don't know where to begin) 2: Can a lawyer help prepare the documents? Would this maybe be better? &#x200B; My issue is this... I don't have very much money so I need any bit of help anyone can give me to keep costs down but get through this as smoothly as possible.",3.2506034482758643,5.218660784482761,4.090896551724139,86.39375862068968,74.77586206896551,6.708965517241379,27.11724137931035,7.554174236665415,1.540899310344828,465,18,90,6,10,149,79,116,0.029,0.8490000000000001,0.122,0.8211,0,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,0,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,6,0,12,0,0,1,1,13,28,8,0,4,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,10,4,15,25,2,9,0,0,0,0,7,5,0,1,3,56,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265757947531863,0.3662441062688632,0.10248399853625872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537585464144096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282381426145736,0.0,0.0,0.13328558510890168,0.1645299136875611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15422268186144902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574734099043662,0.1445691652223484,0.0856486486698819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.303041470752672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157295991740785,0.0,0.13395278429062016,0.0,0.0,0.08282306659331078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16374051378280766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140258749906832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11078489986480068,0.3352356813418688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654279150892995,0.0,0.1698962997846023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13719540971550967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14203688988180527,0.0,0.11331077502388265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12434671728585182,0.0,0.0,0.12088578902345758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705591330426466,0.0,0.3662441062688632,0.0 divorce,throwaway88621,2019/01/29,"Quick question since I’m at a loss Using a throwaway for the obvious reasons. So I’m in the midst of a separation, definitely headed towards divorce, and I’m becoming okay with it more every day. But I did have one question for anyone who wants to offer advice. My wife planned her exit like a champ, had an apartment rented and money moved months before she left, lied about it probably not even longer. I’m guessing she was taking to a lawyer for at least that long as well. She disappeared on me basically overnight, left the cliche not about loving me but not being in love with me, and a few weeks later I had divorce papers sent, with a note saying they already had a settlement offer for me. Now it took me a few weeks to respond to the divorce because I had only learned about it when she left, I wasn’t prepared for months like she was, and I didn’t want to engage in legal things with my head deep in depression. So I responded, lawyers are engaged, I figured I would have the settlement they drew up for me, but it’s been weeks and I have nothing, not even communication back that says it’s coming. Been radio silence for weeks. Any idea what’s going on? She seemed in a hurry but now we are waiting. Is this normal, and am I just awaiting a crap storm of epic proportions in my general direction? Thanks for responding, just need some guidance.",5.064469696969695,6.102184386363637,5.639848484848487,80.7506060606061,68.77272727272728,8.290909090909091,30.196969696969692,8.515128840125781,2.2622287878787883,1074,41,202,16,18,347,150,264,0.076,0.8170000000000001,0.108,0.6525,1,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,1,0,2,3,15,13,1,0,17,1,20,5,3,2,1,40,39,14,0,5,10,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,12,12,0,1,7,1,2,6,6,3,1,1,13,2,29,10,35,24,5,38,0,2,0,2,27,18,1,5,16,145,41,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824779534215395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353553833402684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228971357726224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461173471227786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09304782287386652,0.0,0.07376546483179337,0.13364403032729902,0.1029690505459722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423783433818223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07804026688882679,0.0,0.1042241701834026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984952643557568,0.0,0.10195461270947946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877173869080222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13330415549327193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24837861200132275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660350875948835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39442723271810654,0.0,0.0,0.11823697111944925,0.0,0.0,0.10708843351580492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21842921817610367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19317515340757008,0.1286125474482764,0.0,0.0897260339581718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11856232627909145,0.11611061461852926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819982761084985,0.09203217555036043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046728726729462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711137166160651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12441656538830688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246112710959773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1101613045046259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10009921894274916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098309350833897,0.0,0.0,0.11140807638900753,0.0,0.0,0.08039245944357228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344445431113855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10451221713319417,0.0,0.0,0.1427475223831503,0.0,0.3882618592709263,0.0,0.10880088847327482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08596074088037586,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,wondering129,2019/01/29,"How do you cope with losing your connection to your ex's family? Husband and I have been together 10+ years, no kids of our own. We have two nieces and one nephew. I have been through a lot with the kids due to some unique circumstances and we are very close. They are all under 5. I love them so much, when I think about not seeing them again it absolutely breaks my heart. I honestly never imagined I could love anyone as much as I love them. I can't even describe the pain I feel when I think about them not understanding why I'm not in their lives anymore, I know they're too young to understand. Right now it's basically the only thing keeping me from filing. I know it wouldn't be possible for me to maintain a relationship with his family due to family dynamics. How can I cope with this and accept it? Has anyone been through something similar? I feel like crying just typing this.",3.722475649350649,5.398474607954547,4.599220779220778,84.47954545454547,72.80681818181819,8.437662337662339,24.50324675324676,9.04235418022936,1.7667724025974023,705,21,143,15,14,228,112,176,0.063,0.804,0.132,0.9207,0,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,3,3,6,1,12,9,0,0,5,0,15,5,1,2,2,34,29,11,0,2,4,3,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,2,7,11,0,1,10,0,0,0,7,2,0,2,3,3,30,7,20,23,6,14,0,1,1,3,22,4,0,2,10,104,37,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14455633614446414,0.20383979441085048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163787738554697,0.0,0.16011226901430176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627415959529838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4122331814091144,0.0,0.1474028853931075,0.10413211346664618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272819333962636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295596040642828,0.0,0.0,0.1602135225787981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121175321220806,0.0,0.12871015994162988,0.0,0.0,0.16306994180180232,0.0,0.12392129662525188,0.3946665945132688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21430308953704752,0.0,0.11242032892497213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09877182994083604,0.11085826219709076,0.15510061533851482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432429865977113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564934045895086,0.0,0.1244796067470784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615312037268585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221439804016753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683752768386683,0.1867962905295079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14238789952209874,0.3034859244549972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026858227370472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13152716882577406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386568898631044 divorce,pseudodojo,2019/01/29,"Ex moving overseas - unsure of my financial risk My wife and I separated 5 months ago; she has met someone else and is thinking of moving to the states with him (his home). I have no emotional issues with his, but I am concerned how this will impact our joint debts. We had very few assets to split so had no lawyers involved so far, but we had an agreement that I would take on 2/3s of our joint debts as my income is much higher. The largest was a personal bank loan of approx $40k. Every two weeks I transfer her money to make my share, plus some other ongoing expenses that I help with. While she is not the type to leave me in the lurch, and she may only be away for 3 months although she has said that they have discussed marraige to keep her there, I am concerned that she will not keep up her end of the arrangement due to difficulty or disinterest and the distance & time will make this easier for her to do. This would leave me obligated to pay 100% of everything to ensure my own credit didn't suffer and would stress my finances a lot. Is there any advice you can give me from a legal standpoint, if any at all considering the international issue? We are in Australia. Separation has been amicable, no fault by either party. 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My wife wants to separate from me. I won't go into all the details right now but I don't want to lose her. We have 2 kids, a lovely house and I love her to bits. What I cannot bear the thought of is her with another man and my kids being around him. I'm looking for a magic bullet here to stop this, I know there may not be one. How do people cope with losing a family in this way, they are all ihave .",-0.3953191489361707,1.4434367021276628,1.884510638297872,98.294,86.23404255319151,5.036595744680851,16.846808510638294,6.2581,-0.5376817021276592,326,7,81,3,10,110,71,94,0.078,0.763,0.16,0.8736,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,1,2,5,4,0,0,5,0,10,2,0,1,2,18,19,4,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,3,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,1,1,14,2,13,14,3,8,0,2,1,2,14,4,0,1,2,56,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2349483789179731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994625443264915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446175012770093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112255647852643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12733950900360147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585372839457349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12313852930494022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815551687942292,0.5013357795048806,0.0,0.0,0.40444912291138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183010372536124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1553362700649152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913475898484616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732573374898812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17788007555820118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26431496073520205,0.17784986191997826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,illgetthere,2019/01/29,"We just told our families that we're separating and working towards an amicable divorce 13 months ago we decided to buy a van and turn it into a motorhome. We did everything ourselves and built an amazing tiny home on wheels, that we planned on traveling around Australia in for 12 months. With 4 moths left until we hit the road, we had an honest discussion and decided that we'd be happier if we weren't together, but we still wanted to do this trip together. It's been 7 months since that talk and 3.5 months traveling together, and we finally decided to let everyone know. We thought that we could use this time to heal and build a friendship, as we want to remain in each others lives. What we didn't know, was how hard it would be to cultivate that friendship in such a confined space. Tonight was possibly the most emotional and frightening moment of my life. Not because we feel we were South the wrong thing, buy because of the hurt that we would inflict on our families. Well, it's finally done. No one died. We received lots of heartfelt, loving, and supportive messages that I could have hoped for. So, tomorrow, a new chapter begins. A weight has been lifted, and we get the opportunity to start again. To do things right. For those of you who are holding off because you're afraid to break your parents our families hearts - know this; you're not alone or the first ones to experience that fear. Everyone will be okay. Most importantly, you will be okay.",6.213543434343437,7.235904829090912,6.2017878787878775,77.81023737373738,66.16363636363636,10.329292929292931,34.18686868686869,10.380263240014207,3.6040626262626265,1168,52,216,29,18,369,163,275,0.087,0.75,0.16399999999999998,0.964,1,1,0,0,1,0,34.0,22,3,0,4,8,14,0,2,15,2,27,5,1,2,0,60,44,17,1,8,6,1,3,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,22,32,1,2,8,2,2,4,5,4,1,3,12,3,27,10,30,19,4,38,0,1,0,1,34,15,0,6,18,150,49,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990176688325512,0.0,0.0,0.1167232311013232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10032691067122264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20610265655360613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17996358932056392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696482664832165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153312480129694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677235232881362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153793955502961,0.10128751010739732,0.11024224398681406,0.3187306435087203,0.12681885380700228,0.05698451584585198,0.0,0.0,0.24691472408752124,0.0,0.09586257855958166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058881108387949466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10095708045377128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13355006510405212,0.0,0.0,0.11304730802069515,0.11193654805870602,0.0,0.0,0.12064770122025327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1858109491906496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244890036227905,0.11524340505255218,0.07960335633115588,0.0,0.0,0.09951618150697214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581352593400977,0.10171616721925858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3598243196708003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884638059555618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15273689910144872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514003391361073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705233789506395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624520041445536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09322662029847192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976965348789364,0.0,0.09000238072673443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789064596688005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09058400624396358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497457696586574,0.0,0.0,0.08947122634466344,0.06571628736857367,0.0,0.0,0.10768969777514806,0.0,0.0,0.12258525800979875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973366314556395,0.0,0.0,0.13294678228581275,0.0,0.0,0.13723826153861154,0.10133085177853043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204695605793873,0.0,0.0,0.16011771990376011,0.12321977879386355,0.0,0.0 divorce,honkifyoureahonkey,2019/01/29,"Who gets the house? My (37f) husband (38m) has decided he wants a divorce. We aren't married on paper but are common-law. Together for 12 years, have an 11 year old daughter. We were living in a home that needed some repair and decided the best thing to do would be to buy our own home. M mom owned the house we had been living in and her health declined enough to where she was unable to continue working. We decided she would move in with us. His parents put down our down payment, which was a hefty amount. I make pretty good money, where as he doesn't have much credit. I knew going in that any home we bought, I would be the one on the mortgage. I had the finances and the good credit. He did not qualify to be put in the loan. One of the stipulations from his parents was that if they were to give us the down payment, husbands name would be on the deed. Which we were able to do. Meaning he would have legal say over any decisions made regarding the house and I would be financially liable seeing as how the loan is in my name. I was not thrilled with this idea, namely in case we ever did decide to separate, I have the bad end of the stick. Separation was not a thing in our minds at the time. Once we moved in, my mom took the money she received from selling her house, which wasn't much, to help make renovations. The rest in savings for her to live on. The total input from her for reno is around 12,000 dollars. Nearly a year later, my husband is wanting a divorce. Aside from the normal devastation, I am faced with this financial burden. His parents are quite wealthy and could hire him some good lawyers, where as I'm tapped out. He says he is not moving out, this is his house too. At this point, I'm at a loss about which way this can go. On one hand, his parents sunk their money into getting us this house, on the other, my mom used much of her savings to put into fixing this house and I've also been financially responsible. I do not want to ruin my credit by foreclosure and honestly, I have nothing left to move out on my own. My hands are completely tied. Looking for any insight or advise! Thanks!",3.4071050934880738,4.896059274231682,4.27764882871266,87.22454545454548,73.2789598108747,7.0185256823554685,24.8749194068343,7.576466943178032,1.1184836879432618,1655,51,340,20,33,533,204,423,0.07200000000000001,0.825,0.103,0.9597,5,0,0,0,2,0,55.0,14,0,2,4,9,16,0,0,29,0,48,4,3,5,2,68,70,15,0,13,8,11,2,0,0,6,1,2,3,0,18,24,0,0,9,0,13,11,8,4,0,3,19,6,48,12,63,39,13,57,0,2,2,0,59,36,0,4,9,243,66,11,0.06500586038089579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05198516306063188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261864261483652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578689977817322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05427717812144589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06821963992687545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0681574078211193,0.0,0.0,0.05190188993914409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057575897535883165,0.06716843093528099,0.0,0.0,0.05880152237026268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06792575806214958,0.06235954467553503,0.07388865703020685,0.1635714945160185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909818977381756,0.0,0.0,0.043572057948587116,0.0,0.1956185346477592,0.0,0.0,0.5250562451796925,0.0,0.07338370382951089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706290575084237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722040970367073,0.0,0.054588550575657466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061510116868351915,0.08678383316605279,0.0,0.0,0.07081043907578345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656373878969755,0.2284022340440365,0.0,0.2763637677073261,0.14336036115035453,0.04820102178616819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0636919411222543,0.06237487625321918,0.0,0.06821271530702344,0.06922911974388077,0.13214896007695456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887252601122829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145154981090128,0.0,0.0,0.06613433003603078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196046533265744,0.0,0.0691417342446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10339053863814872,0.0,0.0,0.05180125438645837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05984866242594655,0.0,0.0,0.0863740102652861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0379054399513817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222390275897313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345821382332135,0.0561441917437947,0.0,0.0,0.1150264220892566,0.05159862619661607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04732504057335261,0.0,0.0,0.2770697886320292,0.0,0.0,0.12558492835333587 divorce,scareddivorceetobe,2019/01/29,"I. don't. care. I just want this done. He thinks that we shouldn't value the loss in the house value along with the 401k? fine. I'm honestly not really planning on being here in retirement, so... whatever. His schedule, that ignores my 25% travel time, to make things 'even'? Fine. I literally want this done, so I can organize my affairs and be done. 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A fog so thick, I can’t see two feet in front of me. It’s all becoming real. It’s all happening so fast now. I can’t find even ground to stand steadily on. I can’t find the edges of this crap that might make sense, where things could be defined and real. I literally feel lost out in the open. I was okay for a couple of months. I knew we were ending. I’m still acing grad school with a 4.0 gpa. I honestly don’t know how I am doing that. I don’t sleep more than 2-3 hours without waking up for 20-30 minutes and then work 40 hours a week. I drive a lot for work and find myself having trouble executing that basic requirement from exhaustion. When I get to job sites, I find myself doing what needs done and doing it well. But it’s all me on autopilot. It is taking everything in me to do what I need to do for my kids. I think they are the only thing keeping me going at this point. I went to our sons IEP meeting while she partied in Vegas. I have been covering bills and groceries while she was out of work twice this past year. Yet I’m supposed to pay child support and she gets guaranteed 50/50 rights? Because my state is pro mothers? If I did what she did, I’d be hosed. You can be a severe drug abuser in my state as a mom and get away with it. I have friends that work for CPS and jobs and family services, I’m not making this up. I’m angry at the system. Despite all this and her infidelity, I still love her. I’m devastated she was so selfish and sacrificed the family and our love (she’s admitted to feeling still) to be “in love” and feel “passion”. I know I can’t go back and I will not let myself be disrespected. I’m just exhausted. I want it to be June. I want the house sold. Divorce finalized. And grad school done. I want to be able to sleep. I can’t even mourn my most recent family members passing properly. Nobody except people on here understand what I’m saying. I’m sorry for a rant that had no point. I just want to feel better finally and I feel like it’ll never come. Thanks for your time if you read this. 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I have a frozen pipe and my heat.won't go higher than 57. I divorced August 2018 after 29 years. My ex husband was extremely handy, could fix anything. Now my house feels like it will turn to ice and I am feeling helpless. I HATE this feeling. It brings up the abandonment all over again. Oh, and I also found out I owe taxes on money he took out of a fund as part of the settlement in 2018.(another story) Just needed to vent. I am getting on with my new life. But, today was horrible.",1.8533636363636392,4.0649805181818195,3.2209090909090925,89.78136363636364,80.18181818181819,5.8181818181818175,22.72727272727273,6.980632752743323,0.7707272727272723,427,14,86,5,11,139,82,110,0.127,0.8140000000000001,0.059,-0.8918,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,6,0,8,1,0,0,1,16,20,6,0,2,2,2,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,4,0,4,3,0,3,0,0,4,4,12,1,18,14,2,22,0,2,0,0,4,11,0,0,9,58,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686529076625956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21879815639707828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170936412818566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665979953917338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165142285991059,0.14906671366887295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287848708040338,0.0,0.0,0.10901621445660824,0.0,0.1185862610962062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060085067308416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4815311460989819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473826971477176,0.1019407142767997,0.0,0.1842505632466515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15471871284117894,0.0,0.2015250849499844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2189535225731039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259583976897598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197785239537234,0.0,0.2318288877942709,0.0,0.2269621130153502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13437016994700274 divorce,MrRobertSmithers,2019/01/30,"How to get out, what words to use and how to find confidence? Keeping my details vague, just in case. We've been married for several years. Better in the beginning, kids were the glue and now kids are gone and I think we've grown apart. Nothing big has happened, neither of us have horrible habits or tempers. I'm not cheating and don't believe she is. Bedroom has been on life support for years. I just want to be gone. I don't want to go to counseling, as I think we are just no longer compatible. I want her to go on have a happy and healthy life, but just not together. We've had some recent talks about how I feel distant, but I've been vague about my future desires. I'm told her I've unhappy for years, but always stop before telling her I want to end it. Fearful of saying the wrong thing and causing her to break down. She comments that she's not sure what has happened and thinks things have always been great. I consider this clueless and selfish. It has not been one big thing. It's a hundred small things, habits and personality traits that I'm not interested in spending the rest of my time around. No prizes at the end for a long loveless marriage. It's going to be a surprise and she'll be upset. I do care about her and don't want to hurt her. Just want to go our separate ways in a civil manner. I'm looking for advice on the right words to use. I've talked to some friends and I'm just too direct. I've thought of some ways to soften it, but it will still be tough. Next, I'm looking for an exit plan. I imagine there will lots of tears and her being upset. What are good tactics? Right now I 'm thinking of getting a place, pack up and move a lot and then have the conversation. I don't see it being easy to pack up with her home and upset. Then I'll come back for the rest when she's at work. And more after we all calm down. My courage is building, but I hate confrontation and really am not interested in seeing her in pain. Also looking for the right mindset to push through that.",2.3117859078590755,4.1311565878048775,3.3570325203252054,91.27918021680216,77.02439024390243,6.1165311653116525,24.55962059620596,6.937597516519254,0.7968319783197835,1571,54,338,16,36,504,193,410,0.153,0.715,0.132,-0.91,0,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,4,0,0,4,22,27,4,4,17,0,35,3,0,6,2,74,77,32,0,7,18,0,1,0,1,3,3,1,2,3,18,24,0,2,8,0,1,10,13,13,0,1,11,7,35,14,55,57,10,59,0,1,5,0,30,26,0,6,20,221,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922705909172614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551128955680614,0.15713760255264167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08405788095272422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260666108229481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08034834909669737,0.10638414855902724,0.0,0.08351085335097913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627213586215637,0.0970000374665526,0.0,0.08133840079207752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672642736641722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625388586721073,0.047743896598355005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08630234066868075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295218376220315,0.0,0.09866587471148716,0.0,0.21465462249157635,0.07919884417298498,0.0,0.1041034149383227,0.0,0.0,0.16699865985418846,0.1005167039835299,0.0,0.0932247079754184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947155364004964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108344848398494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392889085274544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333897237571552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356276759592725,0.2378785564756517,0.0,0.0,0.16055277497808754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003583679347997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004215948254205,0.0,0.0,0.0906029156113901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06398452815830817,0.0,0.10047439331075056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08244788698560597,0.098653571927844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060490793449902734,0.0,0.09323286528898736,0.0,0.0,0.24191418467637285,0.0,0.07509020305883893,0.0,0.0,0.15048830431942425,0.0,0.0,0.10667288021132858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540757862446207,0.07894316338951282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715187601938743,0.0889940339133974,0.0,0.0,0.15178977528827614,0.0825312306929773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509259379149204,0.24201379114697102,0.0,0.07496255633167011,0.0550597224944459,0.0,0.0,0.09022671718740297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11358112406241115,0.1631050118955612,0.0,0.0,0.3341643251146389,0.1498996472867356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874220703807468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323843749976573,0.0,0.18241896977026106 divorce,throwaway3946292,2019/01/30,"Nearly 3 years post divorce I have found out the truth. So buckle up because this is going to be a long ride! Also grammar isn’t my strong point so please just work with me. As the title states I’ve been divorced for almost three years now. My ex husband gaslighted me our whole marriage. There was multiple times I had a gut feeling that something wasn’t right. We share a child if this provides any insight at all. In the beginning: There was the time I found him at the back of our garage talking to the female neighbor which was just his “friend”. It was dark outside I called out his name, I heard a quick shuffling. I got into sight, something seemed off. I asked to speak to him inside our home. I proceeded to tell him that what he was doing with the neighbor looked sketchy to say the least. The way she looked at him. The way they would laugh together anytime they hung out. The amount of leisure time they spent together. The way he texted her all hours of the day. I accused him of having an inappropriate relationship with her because everything pointed to something wrong. I didn’t have evidence I just had intuition. He accused me of trying to control his life. He accused me of being insecure. He told me I was wrong for even thinking he was doing something wrong. He made me feel like I was completely wrong. He made me feel like I was insane and that everything was just in my mind. Months go by and we take a trip to visit his parents. I find evidence but not enough. I happen to glance at his phone as he gets an incoming text from neighbor. I find evidence that he’s talking inappropriately with the neighbor but yet this isn’t enough to prove he’s actually doing anything physically with her. He tells me he’ll stop talking to her and he was wrong for his actions. He makes me feel like I’m in the wrong for reading the message. He threatens our marriage if I ever check his phone again. I promise to respect his privacy. We go on and try to work on our marriage. Months go by.... A year later: He makes comments on his coworkers body. He begins texting a lot again, but I had promised not to invade his privacy so I avoid checking his phone. The coworker becomes pregnant. I assume nothing of it. I only have a weird feeling. I don’t have evidence to stand my ground with. I just put my doubts in the back of my mind. I begin to doubt myself. I chalk it up to being insecure. The last year of our marriage: I finally found my concrete evidence in the final year. I found him to be having an affair with a person he had met online. I went through his phone because I felt something was off. He would always hide his phone. He had password protected everything. He couldn’t keep his phone out of his hands and he never stopped texting. He went out for unexplained reasons. One night I was able to find out his password to his phone. What I found showed me that I needed to leave. He was planning on leaving me and marrying the new girl. I mustered up the courage to confront him. He tried to make me feel like I was wrong that I was making it all up. He tried making excuses that she was just an old friend that he had re connected with. He told me they were just really close. Once I showed him the evidence he could no longer lie. I could no longer tolerate the roller coaster I was on. So begun the end. Flash forward to present day: He is now married to his latest affair. Upon meeting her I resented her. I blamed her for ruining our marriage. I failed to place blame on him. I failed to see the bigger picture. I decided to get to know her. I learned that he had left her in the dark. I realized that she was a person just like myself. She was easily trusting of others. I realized that she wasn’t fully to blame. I now am able to be friends with his wife. Between us we have worked things out. We are similar in many ways. She has turned into a good friend. She recently shared with me the truth. He wasn’t innocent. He cheated with neighbor girl. He had sex with her on multiple instances. The time in the garage I had actually walked in on them in the act. He cheated with work girl. He would bring her to our home when I went to visit my sick mother. He was in a relationship with work girl around the time she became pregnant. He cheated with another co worker of his. Then of course there was the affair I was already aware of that resulted in his recent marriage. Now I am here. I was right all along. I wasn’t crazy. I knew the signs. I doubted myself, and I shouldn’t have. It’s been almost 3 years I thought I was healed. I didn’t know the full truth. Now I do. I don’t know what to do with it. I guess that’s why I’m here. It feels good to vent. Any helpful suggestions are appreciate. It feels like a wound has been reopened. TL;DR: Got divorced nearly 3 years ago. I was gaslighted my whole marriage. I questioned my husbands faithfulness and he made me question my sanity. I found out recently every single doubt I had was right. He cheated the whole marriage. I placed too much trust in him. I was wrong. Now nearly 3 years later I know the truth and I am not sure what to do with it. 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How about you?,7.91,6.309681904761906,8.333333333333332,72.72000000000003,63.28571428571429,10.304761904761904,40.04761904761904,8.841846274778883,3.536676190476192,168,8,32,2,2,56,37,42,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,3,0,6,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,9,4,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,26,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452316439893654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059251046220896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35130282873114405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40814763954386174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31633087629414314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31701793084017976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3826615054027952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Pseudo_Nyms,2019/01/30,"Nieces and Nephews: How to say goodbye My wife told me our marriage was over today. It was brutal (check my post history for details). On her side of the family I have three nephews and one niece. Two of the nephews live far away and I've little contact with but then other two have always lived nearby and have been a big part of my life and I've been a big part of theres and I love them so much and my heart is breaking again now thinking of them. When my divorce is final I have to be completely out of my wifes life. She has mental health issues including Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD, depression, and many physical disabilities (for which I have spent my adult life caring for her). I cant ""be friends"" with her. If I'm to have a chance I need to separate entirely and move on. That means from her family too. That means from my niece and nephew. How do I say goodbye? 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My wife and I have been married for 8 years, things have been going downhill for the past 2 years, we also have a 2.5 year old child together. The only thing we talk about other than our child is various arguments, and we have no sex life or attraction anymore. If we divorce I know my wife would desperately want to go back to her home country, and I can’t blame her. Her family is there and she never made any friends here (not that she made many friends or attempted to back there, but family is family.). I’m just really scared of not seeing my child everyday, and what kind of man she might be exposed to, and if my wife is miserable and is the primary caregiver how my daughter will turn out. I guess I’m asking if it’s better to just stoically wait it out for another 16 years until she goes to college, or if not that long then at least until high school. It will be difficult but at least we will have more time together and bond more. If ( split I will probably only be able to see her every couple of months due to the logistics.",6.192088989441935,5.579937647058824,6.863088235294117,78.65973039215689,66.1945701357466,10.986576168929114,30.63386123680241,10.504223727775694,2.92100874811463,864,27,177,20,12,286,124,221,0.105,0.8640000000000001,0.031,-0.9299,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,6,3,0,2,11,8,0,2,6,0,24,2,0,4,1,43,40,24,0,8,15,4,0,0,2,6,1,0,1,4,10,15,0,1,2,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,6,2,27,5,22,25,5,25,0,1,2,1,31,5,0,10,18,128,37,2,0.12730781219700074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10180801141889577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657367786485773,0.13349334126118464,0.0,0.0,0.12625514106981905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11901561911279415,0.0,0.0,0.19578369867444284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832957151621952,0.0,0.0,0.11259341432862455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408636727626938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10726232251689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3600434257025902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967153998054408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470392696247775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14024390794465302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13450769327004206,0.12770011567812556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257149574921925,0.13993008839310858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08992127269403638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253268153022529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409234601498495,0.0,0.12907013981651705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350534704542786,0.0,0.0,0.10161588110827063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09818763304400037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13358813342167705,0.0,0.0,0.19364665577109227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12152971192124913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725935367578662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155664439623755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274573290366008,0.1288423025830802,0.20289568744600087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023251971097318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915530712345492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742342090743772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13847434231179054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15017889213093769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043581714517566,0.0,0.0,0.32792822841715946 divorce,Myrisa,2019/01/30,"Dad hates having his 46 yr old daughter back on scholarship My SO of almost 2 years attended a homecoming for his oldest daughter (21) after 18months of a religious volunteer opportunity. While attending church to hear her adventures, his ex father in law approached him and said this, “we need to have you pass your bar here so you can make more money”. (His bar is from out of state and is in no way a hindrance to his current income) WOW, just wow. I guess saying no to his daughter and discontinuing paying her outlandish lifestyle on a school teacher budget would be entirely unacceptable for him. Seems encouraging his attorney ex son in law to have a higher child support is the better solution. I was unaware that human ignorance was so extreme. 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He is a 100% disabled veteran who has PTSD, TBI, and bipolar disorder. We have been through couples therapy, retreats, and medications (I'm also his caretaker for the VA). I've sincerely tried to get him all the help he needs and thought (maybe naively) that all he needed was someone to love, care, and support him. While not going into too many details an event happened last night that turned physical with him locking me out of the car and trying to drive off while I was in front of it while holding my things hostage. This is not the first physical incident as he slapped me in November because I wouldn't go out in the snow to get him a sandwich. He has refused to take his medications since September and I can tell he is going through the start of a bipolar hypermanic episode. I've been staying at my Mom's since December and I want to leave but am unsure how to fully proceed. I do not have much money, we do not have children, and I do not want anything from him. I simply want to get my stuff from the apartment and cut ties. But I'm not sure if I should file for separation or go for a straight no-fault divorce. Frankly, I'm not even sure how he would take being served divorce papers because he is in a state where it's impossible to reason with him. So I'm trying to figure out if maybe it would be cheaper, a bit easier, and still legally wise to get a legal separation first then file for divorce after the year is up? What we have together: I pay the rent, the lease is up in June. We do not have any joint bank accounts. I have a credit card under his account as an authorized user (I'm planning to take my name off and get my own). And I do get paid by the VA for being his caretaker (not sure how to deal with this just yet). My name is also on the electric bill (but I figure I could just call the company to take it off). On another note, I recently also found out I have a rare disease and I might have to undergo chemo for it. I was going to use this as an excuse to move back to my Mom's place by saying she would take care of me (he's lazy so he has not taken care of me or even offered since I found out about the disease). I don't want to let him know I'm leaving him and then have him try to retaliate. Also before getting married, I loaned him 4k to pay off his debt. He promised to pay me back but is refusing now of course. I'm figuring there isn't much I can do to try to get it back and should just take it as a loss?",5.140720349260249,4.933503428571427,6.096888188212468,81.91704220227992,68.28571428571429,9.195343196701431,32.38685423235508,8.841846274778883,2.472055711860296,2032,81,427,31,31,676,234,532,0.07,0.84,0.09,0.8549,2,0,0,0,5,0,57.0,4,0,0,4,24,14,1,0,28,0,49,6,0,5,5,90,96,43,0,15,22,2,0,0,0,8,4,1,1,1,16,31,1,3,8,0,13,10,13,2,0,2,10,1,53,12,74,73,6,63,0,1,0,1,53,27,0,7,24,290,69,8,0.0,0.08757691046113253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364384449966633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050264575171266576,0.07750607635222227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082555404332653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705076765022967,0.0,0.09011550996832274,0.0,0.06289602134320811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806957801470294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07547523972062298,0.0,0.2260830887012453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05901492573605305,0.0817852821215909,0.0,0.0,0.15240575524549518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471272491430124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764001098470797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574372351471694,0.0,0.1620874504316211,0.0,0.0,0.3089393139481479,0.0,0.21003732294176355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653625830061263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04954350924442028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04062162206933602,0.06025039913800152,0.0,0.15653012838603672,0.0,0.07558285558121071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06671096167022914,0.0,0.0,0.07493797081487627,0.14851463348746505,0.0,0.0,0.14892269998544608,0.0,0.07841188552005701,0.0,0.17313615998520748,0.0,0.1571193962927646,0.1086717147384792,0.10961372406468868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06936400027883614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07722519797002822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640240540292958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07599668939957703,0.07298191376710725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058779988230631776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18342917345588414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262774092817197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05231725144349302,0.07878330532850135,0.059028427191402735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461472252114932,0.0,0.08387759993636505,0.208991375156903,0.0,0.33344822900644483,0.0,0.06460476295411648,0.0,0.0845279760613215,0.0,0.049105685817103055,0.0,0.0,0.058680067431179636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2509163693392219,0.08039803968231396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638386253401509,0.0,0.0,0.17438737498103302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15752078603491376,0.0,0.0,0.09519737115584352 divorce,one-eyed_panda,2019/01/30,"School offered counseling for my child, is this normal and/or positive? So a little background. I am divorced about 8 months, separated for over a year. I have two kids age 4 and 5. My 5 year old is currently in kindergarten. The divorce wasn't toxic or very contentious at all - we settled everything in mediation without going to court. &nbsp; Just today I received an email from my son's school saying he had been ""identified"" as someone who would benefit for counseling (provided from the school) aimed at children whose parents are divorced, separated, or in similar circumstances. Format seems to be group meetings once a week. Neither of my kids has demonstrated outward signs of distress - and seem to be coping extremely well. &nbsp; I guess my questions are a few. Has anybody here had schools reach out to offer counseling? It seemed a little strange to me, but could be potentially helpful. Alternatively I'm worried about it actually creating more problems if it introduces my son to other kid's problems that he doesn't currently have to deal with. What are your experiences with divorce counseling for kids. Helpful? Bad idea? 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Well folks, the drama that was my divorce is finally over. For some reason I dont feel relieved. I'm not upset, sad or depressed. Just here. Living my new life. For the few that were following along, I eventually settled, he got the house, the equity, our pets and 98% of our belongings. And that's fine with me, nothing was worth fighting him on. I'm still in therapy although we are nearing the end of it. In the 4 months since leaving my home I have earned a liscense, effectively promoting me within my industry. As well as I have began taking college courses (ex wouldn't let me). I have a very large number of goals to accomplish over the next few years that I work on every day. I'm very much a recluse at the moment and with my therapist we are tasked with changing that. I think I should be leaving this sub now. Thank you to those who helped me when shit hit the fan. This sub was better to me than most friends and family. Thank you everyone and good luck to the rest of you. 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I'm probably going to be much lonelier but it'll be an honest loneliness. Better than being married to someone and lonely. If I'm alone because I'm alone I can join a pottery class or something. if I'm alone because the person who sleeps next to me has no connection then I'm definitely forever alone. damn, gotta remember that Maybe this is a reaction to my divorce.. but I remember years before i got married thinking that non-monogomy made a lot of sense.. i was probably just young and horney and living mental fantasies of about threesomes right? Only I've had some close friends that opened their marriage.. I've made some other poly friends although I'm still way on the outside of any poly lifestyle. So I'm transgender (mtf) living on my own, trying to take care of three young kids (i have them half time), and all I can imagine is how poly likely just further reduces the chances of finding anyone. take the very small percentage of people who would have anything to do with me, then find someone who might want me as a person (not a fetish object), then further reduce that potential pool with people who are also okay with poly. how many few people want me? In my imagination this is: nobody. I've been flirting with boys on grindr even though in my heart I think I'd rather be with women (but at least boys on grindr will talk with me ... and clear what they want and I'm curious... ) I spent a bunch of marriage pretending I wasnt alone. Now I'm honestly alone and I don't want to lose that honesty, yknow? so when i look at my future it seems like mostly being alone raising kids and a few random hookups and then just being alone when the kids aren't around. i was so busy a few months ago with the moveout.. but now things are settled down. seeing glimpses of what its like being alone, to have nobody to talk about all the little random shit in life. last night i was staying the night at a female fwb's place - i don't really click with her. we hookedup after a club night once and, well, she's not a good match for me. and yet i'm too afraid to be alone? So I stayed over with someone and just felt even more alone fuck. i want to be impervious to feeling alone. i dont want to want anyone. i don't even barely see my friends from before. guess learning to deal with aloneness is my next challenge. yay. i dont want to be an adult today",3.4405582272512985,5.281162261386144,3.9836421499292776,87.91756600660067,73.91089108910893,6.393682225365393,24.895096652522398,7.07126945348624,1.006925506836398,2022,65,396,20,42,637,244,505,0.11,0.731,0.159,0.9729,0,15,1,0,2,0,69.0,1,0,3,3,29,23,4,1,21,2,41,6,4,4,4,79,80,35,0,12,14,0,3,3,3,5,1,0,0,9,21,27,0,0,13,4,2,1,11,7,1,2,15,7,43,16,57,50,14,57,0,2,4,1,31,21,4,12,35,252,64,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04739114347252819,0.0,0.0,0.7198212637833902,0.0,0.04275381830887365,0.0,0.17377928674584334,0.0,0.036356228180664606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11214634491611912,0.0,0.04399495498528856,0.047592822090240405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518029908463546,0.0,0.13647755476804158,0.0,0.0,0.04728309994362874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054508424223922436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05511733059388477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12531494130723222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593412478352772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027032168202982782,0.0,0.1026644712176478,0.0,0.09772723030517287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239146263337918,0.0494250768506842,0.0,0.0,0.03038388293667252,0.044841678826016,0.04275872150248565,0.0,0.05889480086710772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06335313672187369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04357894703324727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037762035632393935,0.07835700443968595,0.05358331516279279,0.09441646094500797,0.0,0.04489490530854653,0.05981068937532555,0.0,0.045451774235922365,0.0,0.10117472778453708,0.0,0.0542024269987076,0.05371011179185897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05387746969532831,0.0567150998955018,0.0,0.0,0.04267313404564512,0.0,0.039300975332571264,0.0,0.04123345662915493,0.0,0.11371562172100058,0.15051236858573686,0.0,0.0,0.06086723459519644,0.0,0.0569356530393301,0.0,0.04066052278976963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05103585808421437,0.11119217631045476,0.0933625157462412,0.055856772073153815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0543904253419721,0.1152829013446152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034249347451167186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12112483097603904,0.04565655086675145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520513499697255,0.04867011135589254,0.0,0.0,0.10975665857740434,0.0,0.0,0.0535009552763638,0.0,0.135895415321788,0.0411579254304083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11396749363107332,0.04269509810446307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039406055451158,0.08594201624563283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035518006716491225,0.06851302444752562,0.052526482922060594,0.0,0.031174323541298427,0.0,0.05067605226060461,0.0,0.0,0.036297423172793136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411203399291232,0.25226781187486563,0.042435921319024066,0.0,0.0,0.0480690690930586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03797811626955847,0.0,0.0,0.034427997612120814 divorce,Justalittlemalicious,2019/01/30,"Divorce or try to fix? Spousal hatred after abortion My husband and I are compatible in so many ways. We had our first baby a little over a year ago and we have been raising my two children from a previous relationship. However... I absolutely despise this man. Three years ago we found out I was pregnant. He immediately demanded I have an abortion. I talked to him and pleaded with him to change his mind. He stood his ground and told me this was what needed to be done. I was completely dependent on him at the time, and we were all living together. I felt as though I couldn't say no. I stayed up and cried for weeks through the night as he slept. The day that I went in I kept begging him to change his mind... Obviously it fell on deaf ears. Fortunately I was under 3 months, so it was all chemical... But it mentally and emotionally killed me. That day as I was in bed, he went out to work on the property. Didn't even come in to check on me. I had never felt so alone in my life. Fast fwd two years, we got eloped and had a baby... (I didn't want to get married to this man, he went down to the courthouse with me and said we would get our ""licences"". Immediately he ""surprised"" me with a trip to a minister. Oh joy. How do you say no to someone that you live with and share all your bills with? This wasn't out of love for me. The relationship was never stemmed off of love. Last night we got into a major argument. I have been debating divorce ever since we got eloped, I brought up the abortion and explained my hatred towards him over the whole ordeal, I truly have contempt in my heart towards him. Do I attempt to fix this horrible ""marriage"" or do I get into a bitter divorce/custody battle? I don't even know where to begin.",2.6368203650336213,4.465884463976948,4.121576368876081,86.11442987512011,76.11815561959655,7.16268972142171,26.264073006724306,8.021203637495839,1.5533847070124875,1347,51,280,22,30,447,174,347,0.134,0.83,0.036000000000000004,-0.9876,1,1,0,0,3,0,53.0,10,3,0,3,9,10,5,0,17,0,29,7,3,2,7,54,55,22,1,4,3,1,2,0,0,1,2,5,1,3,12,30,0,1,5,0,2,7,9,5,0,4,32,8,54,5,54,20,5,57,0,0,0,2,46,28,0,3,20,201,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18699539943591406,0.0,0.0,0.10924084680478703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22315826564843969,0.09085783587481522,0.11058909402167134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585992488919765,0.13604599146999985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793809490291656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186457827560723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393311951438969,0.0954086620061778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202546113013179,0.0,0.0,0.08971743807921717,0.0,0.11564848241363837,0.0,0.0,0.1653198445694277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530752674714823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249890194535208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11669305443568807,0.0,0.05796659683386059,0.08597664046872472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07450049122243747,0.0,0.10571419771476104,0.1862736635376997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19039158076636145,0.0,0.0,0.1069356397033839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10629453340912186,0.0,0.2130004497978084,0.0,0.08418956751564129,0.0,0.0,0.07820877437477118,0.1626984733331426,0.0,0.0,0.19796329314886024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.226482507718078,0.0,0.0,0.1003313895535424,0.16775676135474402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08725045434454194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936908040753072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11242288871235184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08477724147706975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10362917979250913,0.0,0.06150363396621511,0.0,0.0,0.10078639587090216,0.0,0.07161096617794653,0.0,0.20606854734270755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06221220463074211,0.08372157196504335,0.08460611377352506,0.0,0.0,0.29333063915821433,0.0,0.1177596705602824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678744730553275,0.0,0.0,0.07492679540182882,0.0,0.0,0.20376836345980395 divorce,orangecrush79,2019/01/30,"financial discovery - advantages/disadvantages of claiming household/life expenses when incomes are disproportionate I do not know what I'm doing. I make the majority of our household income. I'd be fine paying my husband a fair % had he bore more childrearing responsibility and not turned down a fulltime employment offer. He also prohibited me from using our joint account for ""our"" 2 dog expenses. And a whole lot more bullshit. Anyways. I want to limit the amount I owe my husband in alimony, pension and my retirement. We've only been married 4 years. We'll likely split our child 50/50. Is it advantageous to under report expenses or over report and why? Deeply grateful for those who have been through this and in similar situations. 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Especially with those folks who have never been divorced/married? I'm finding there's a lack of fundamental understanding of what I'm kinda struggling with right now, which is probably why they say to give yourself a lot of time post-divorce. I gave myself less time than maybe I should have (8 months or so), but I'm falling for this amazing human and I'm finding I'm more damaged than I thought after this divorce. Also, I am in therapy, but I appreciate the thoughts and experiences from this community - just ya know, before I continue. Things I'm realizing post-divorce relationship for myself: 1. I struggle with believing what my partner is telling me. I question when he responds affirmatively or not, I realize it's from years and years of being gaslit by my ex and him never truly being honest with how he was feeling. 2. I struggle with blowing things up because I was in survival mode for so long. ""I wanna talk"" ""He's breaking up with me!"" ""Perhaps we should try eating healthier"", ""Stop trying to change me!"" I go to the extreme because with my ex everything was extreme. He was always conviving, manipulating and trying to change me. 3. Having been in a sexless/emotionless marriage towards the end, I struggle with feeling there's enough intimacy, always mildly worried it will fall off. Worried that me and my new partner are having sex too little, or that he's not kissing me enough or being affectionate enough. Arguably, we're totally normal spectrum on all the things, but my mind plays anxious hyperbole. 4. I realize I existed in an anxiety-driven place for so long in my marriage, I can induce drama and anxiety without really realizing it. I make things issues that shouldn't be issues (see above fake issue in #3). I exhaust my partner by dwelling on things in my head and not getting over them. It's hard. I don't know how to change it. I can't get my mind to shut off, Yoga, Meditation, etc. Work temporarily but the voices always come back. 5. Everyone wants to be with happy people. My partner inclusive and struggles with my moods sometimes. I struggle to keep myself upbeat and happy. Can't blame my ex or anyone but me for this but it's a practice, not a thing I can switch on and off. I'm sometimes sad and can't articulate a reason. I probably cry too much over things that seem dumb. So.... Perhaps some of this relates to you, perhaps none of it does. I'm really interested to hear how other folks cope with this. I'm mostly concerned with the timeline I'm on for healing vs the timeline my partner might be on for building a relationship and dealing with my shit. Hope everyone is having an awesome day! &#x200B;",4.241164027709054,6.6987084050387615,5.545578096651823,74.8578748144483,73.47674418604652,7.724822695035463,32.29655286161966,8.593345894127513,3.037658057067459,2211,110,363,43,47,737,245,516,0.152,0.76,0.08800000000000001,-0.9844,0,0,0,0,6,0,86.0,1,2,2,2,17,24,3,7,17,0,34,8,2,8,4,91,65,34,0,8,18,3,3,0,5,5,2,3,0,6,31,29,1,2,17,3,0,4,13,14,0,0,9,7,54,9,68,45,14,49,0,2,1,3,39,25,3,13,19,265,85,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05279109371083248,0.16478594029859905,0.0715257644383493,0.0802138128201398,0.0,0.0,0.05050026314674468,0.07457663680083551,0.0,0.04615828042166868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050760423662776624,0.0,0.08048261917141808,0.0,0.05617275577691566,0.0743747801009515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20950107237859286,0.05686491601065214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251289703732545,0.042573344412398885,0.13611435327023366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05776899178518698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754844639459312,0.0,0.0,0.058468501844594414,0.20462924745152647,0.0736226719796406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615774701285434,0.0593288138962529,0.06457401875180782,0.0,0.0,0.06675697195047775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12067056410888335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06897881718781873,0.06332631029533216,0.03751707975696593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054552029618328,0.05913526585261954,0.0,0.06774905196358225,0.0,0.0744021836097307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556645158837728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20670330562957,0.0,0.058675967104499786,0.0,0.0,0.07255875354377674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616302178345923,0.0,0.11684000950810132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05612244631993884,0.0,0.0,0.04406462536157578,0.0,0.06631958634288387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003005279603855,0.13330994042904432,0.0,0.05269146727582462,0.0,0.04852762990009405,0.0,0.10182759617891128,0.0637563965269479,0.0,0.0,0.0646793630037886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576555445184103,0.0,0.06897021612421589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966849247449005,0.0,0.2135216463301393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395039825314706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458007178526844,0.0678730288868668,0.0,0.2834958296170528,0.0,0.05637529817587804,0.0,0.05249670572057269,0.0,0.0,0.05260433388397178,0.06009634954575041,0.0,0.0,0.06776206520886352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057837972519404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05519036902674242,0.0,0.4140708134686664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05305927298170034,0.05769884157925353,0.0,0.07549236428962643,0.0,0.3069957600540602,0.0,0.0,0.10481493189522846,0.07698618278026045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13445680951815414,0.0,0.0,0.06872253990203911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038936562346025064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956705322702261,0.0,0.0,0.06363480489345012,0.0,0.04805872492624321,0.13408013611336667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802138128201398,0.08502125518181203 divorce,lea711,2019/01/30,"Deleting pictures... Was with my ex for 6 years, married for 3, been separated since August 2018. I have so many photos on my phone - literally hundreds of him/us/our family. (No kids just pets) 6 years worth of photos is a lot! But a guy I went on a date with a couple of weeks ago commented that I must still be in love with my ex because I haven't deleted all the photos - my question is, have you deleted them? How do you delete 6 years worth of memories? I don't want my ex back, I care for him but I'm not in love with him. It would take me days to delete them all. Should I just bite the bullet and dedicate some time to getting rid of them? 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I have been divorced from my ex-wife for 3 years now. Our post divorce relationship has its issues but for the most part we sort things out and move on. My current predicament is that my ex-wife has made very poor financials decisions post divorce on her end. I'll spare you the details but the net of it is that she is now broke. She works but her liabilities exceed her income and she is practically on the brink of bankruptcy. I was not obligated to warn her about the hole she was digging herself into over the past 3 years or so, however, I did exactly that and she did not heed my advice. Now that she sees that the results are clear that her financial decisions made her broke, she has been reaching out to me to borrow money. She has never done that in the past, but lately she has approached me twice in a span of a month, which tells me that she is feeling the heat and needs someone to bail her out. I do care about her but I am struggling on whether to give her the funds. First, I do not want to set a precedent that she can just come to me all the time to bail her out all the time. Secondly, I have the kids that we had together to take care of first. Am I right about this logic? I am also venting here, because I clearly told her that she was making bad decisions but she never listened and now she is on my behind to help her out. How should I respond back to her so that she can stop burdening me with her problem and be relatively cordial with my response but firm enough to stop her asking me? It screws with me mentally because she is still someone I care about, and she knows that that's why she is trying her chance to see what I will do.",5.10550310559006,5.269999368115947,5.5243892339544525,84.71652173913044,68.36231884057972,8.542443064182192,29.472049689440993,8.269060116576782,1.8347267080745333,1342,45,283,17,21,430,163,345,0.105,0.81,0.084,-0.8311,3,0,0,0,4,0,27.0,3,1,0,3,16,10,1,1,16,0,36,1,0,5,7,59,54,21,0,4,13,1,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,1,21,20,0,2,6,0,6,3,5,7,0,4,12,4,65,3,44,39,5,46,0,2,2,1,54,17,1,3,23,225,86,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212792365794074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925103393764888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602646085553354,0.0,0.0,0.09543322893137747,0.1036269914453926,0.15131308342517236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3796164419831546,0.0,0.0,0.10691011138639638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700801904203074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992496750774017,0.12823920953216625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275394221726438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21113646843992112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11905799502271733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0831885781938309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295390021306755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820782450439332,0.0,0.1400019256392598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2348725035137108,0.08284464896991005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12507408191178598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906372911050863,0.13190970304288846,0.0,0.09202628149013606,0.19144316765819394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439945775792106,0.23695482102481905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23772689242624476,0.0,0.0,0.11875688162947436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324811170151227,0.0,0.10598959481968484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977998241970185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2103166611635599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911471766856912,0.20752368645018546,0.0,0.12974712674477634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331556745219563,0.0,0.10847795113156433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245342824232495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14473953280278,0.0,0.0,0.11859279615285585,0.0,0.08426280790046713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240406953267528,0.07320352353351109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11199032271967924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035384197156617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15984604391213822 divorce,tinyytokerr39,2019/01/30,"guilty why do i feel guilty? I am hurting mentally & physically. it hurts that you could never keep your promises. it hurts that you could lie to me so often... it hurts that you could get that mad at me. But you were always so great with our kids, the best father I have ever seen in my life! I watched you study so hard for a long time until you taught yourself all about software testing and coding. You went on so many interviews but you never gave up & you finally got the career that you not only wanted but one our family NEEDED. But you got so angry with me and you hurt me. Then the knife you had scared me. Now you have a Warrant out for your arrest for first & second degree assault (felony charges). They told me you would be in jail for a couple days most likely. I knew that I couldn't just let this happen for the fourth time and just let you walk all over me, but still I feel so guilty because I don't want you to lose the job I watched you work so hard for. I don't know how we got so toxic to each other. This may we will be divorcing. Friday would have been our third year married. Why did you do this to our family that YOU worked so hard to get back together? And why am I the one left feeling guily? 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I had a very sedentary marriage. Spent my 20s with her, basically watching her put out fires in her life. I tried to be her happiness but that's just not in the cards after 11years. She needs to figure that shit it without dragging me down. Now she's in a committed relationship (took less than a year to jump back in because codependency is a bitch, amirite?) I often wonder if she is putting in the work or if she is just torturing another guy. Here I am alone 3years later, and full of terrible monsters in my closet, for example: 1. I cry at night. 2. I'm too quick to find compatibility when it was never there in the first place. 3. I remenice about the past, particular movies and music can wreck me.  4. I fear that I'll be alone forever. 5. I do have occasionally (though I don't want to act on them) suicidal thoughts along the lines of ""I could just plow into that thing and fuck what a mess that would make."" I'm trying to find a mental health professional however this is proving difficult. I want to meet new people and sex them up, Ideally they would want more as I do as well. Really though, I just want to be married again. I feel less than my very beautiful ex because I'm just not getting out there and have no massive network of family to set me up like she got. Am I really so useless as to not be able to find someone too? I hate it and even now, just writing this post is getting to me. Making the grown up decision to leave a toxic marriage was not easy, and continues daily to feel worse and worse. It's like I plataued at ""in pain"".",2.5116666666666667,4.435302777777778,4.0813095238095265,85.83910714285717,76.7777777777778,7.547619047619048,25.535714285714285,8.418075326091056,1.6756190476190476,1225,45,256,24,28,408,180,315,0.224,0.696,0.08,-0.9962,1,2,0,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,3,3,24,16,5,1,14,0,23,6,1,2,3,54,44,19,1,11,15,1,3,2,0,2,3,0,1,1,14,13,0,0,10,0,1,6,8,11,1,1,7,4,36,5,46,30,4,43,0,1,1,2,19,20,3,5,17,179,50,2,0.11324806331992547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23458167954108355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875046867148364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708077030725563,0.0,0.1380699365386112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041936348217897,0.0,0.12439767983756045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479927775488815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676019527849638,0.12743555607065646,0.11452324707625325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3105200346382759,0.09632874480712864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469600968429052,0.11833487788643972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057482164441284,0.0,0.0,0.11213338752187793,0.0,0.1205546692432413,0.0,0.11180901670945986,0.0,0.12037739559089405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991334732632487,0.0,0.0,0.07999045626598576,0.1106545667149636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118792330334765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11412741159772373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397200399072484,0.08734388795397527,0.10937568524773353,0.0,0.10627563579154838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050392395454572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10810809072433476,0.07851194784505805,0.0,0.1183201225477339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084603400043874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22769116592299984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509921849027504,0.0,0.0,0.12158603810103155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11624750957950428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595471654711682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387500036753883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0752369811460391,0.0,0.22253129444000647,0.08990631234459401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12582276528508304,0.15377600239223238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18688302507117974,0.26718656760894943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10182360947026076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10916709177384436,0.12281269383150878,0.08244593887483019,0.0,0.23081890315145195,0.16089634987360724,0.0,0.0,0.07292803979442744 divorce,rougepeaches552,2019/01/30,"Recently divorced after really bad situation. How do I share my past with someone new without freaking them out but staying true to what’s happened? I recently got divorced due to my ex husband’s gambling addiction I never knew about until shit hit the fan (close to 300K in debt), his complete and utter denial of it and refusal to get help, and the horrible aftermath of me moving out and eventually filing for divorce. It got so bad in the end, i.e. verbally abusive (physically abusive once), constant harassment once I moved out to the point of having to block him on every communication avenue in order to function as a normal person, following me home from work to find out where I lived, etc. I didn’t recognize him at the end and it’s been a very hard recovery to say the least. Anyways, I’ve tried dating again very recently but I’ve been completely dreading not only telling a guy I’m divorced at a young age but the circumstances around what happened. I went on my first date this past weekend (my first ‘first’ date in 6 years btw) and we happened to know so many of the same people but had just never met before. I got really nervous that he would find out about my divorce if he asked around about me after, so I told him about it on the date. Better hear it from the source than through the grapevine I guess. He asked what happened and I briefly told him the situation. His eyes were so wide and he honestly didn’t know what to say and changed the subject pretty quickly. It made me feel so damaged and validated all the concerns I’d been having about telling someone about my past. How do I deal with this? How do I tell someone without this happening? Do I wait to share my past? I’m just at a loss for words and just feel like this shitty part of my life isn’t ever going to leave me alone. 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Basically, my mother and father got divorced in 2009. My mother is the biggest piece of shit. She was an alcoholic and still is and does not care about me or my brother. In 2007, she got arrested for DUI because I called cops on her because she was drinking and driving during with me in the car (I was only 9 years old). Anyways, basically, they got divorced in 2009. My dad had 100 percent custody of me and my brother at this point. There was no child support left to pay. However the divorce agreement said that my dad must pay my mother from 2009 to March of 2012, 1000 dollars per month for spousal support: AND THAT THIS WAS NON-MODIFIABLE. Well, my dad didn't know this because at the time, my mother got re-married already. My mom still kept in contact with me as I would chat with her sometimes on the phone. I guess because of this she either forgot or never brought up the spousal support money. My dad clearly did not know. However, over the years I eventually had to stop talking to my mother as she is a toxic, horrible, piece of shit. My dad gets a letter today, that says he owes the 48,000 dollars he didn't pay her in spousal support and 37,500 in accrued interest. IS there anything my dad can do to fight this? And to wondering why everyone I am so fucking mad is because my dad and I are barely getting by month-to-month, while her and her new husband who is a retired government worker have a ton of money from his retirement, and they vacation all over the world. This is just really fucked up but it looks as if there is nothing my dad can do and he is pretty much screwed for the rest of his life. He doesn't work a government or W-2 job, so he has no savings and barely any money for social security. Hell, in the letter, my mother even put that if he cannot pay, the money will be taken out of his social security. What a fucking piece of shit, entitled motherfucker. My mother never had to work a day in her life and just got boozed up all the time. So fucking sad. There is literally nothing we can do? Is this the type of shit world we live in?",5.223102686786895,5.596910287081339,5.9522488038277555,81.02266470371734,68.13875598086125,8.536032388663967,32.10563121089437,8.384062270229773,2.367941921236658,1652,67,325,22,26,541,187,418,0.136,0.802,0.062,-0.988,4,0,2,0,4,0,53.0,2,0,2,3,16,24,12,0,22,0,41,14,4,0,6,46,68,27,0,4,11,21,0,0,0,3,3,2,0,1,14,20,3,5,3,2,11,4,10,13,1,0,21,3,48,11,51,43,10,45,1,1,1,5,62,25,10,7,16,227,62,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155209030358308,0.0,0.0,0.0945357889674716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058256574197308335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409934686663005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611093834430187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747570009022143,0.0,0.0873433306777438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05524820054353553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496786750951961,0.0,0.0,0.08392115650713604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05658231990597076,0.0,0.0,0.08185859724303086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3167914605939097,0.08951506107513124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425790788050421,0.0,0.09437198269030228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850113905723039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09416080935863844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930775684646872,0.0,0.12101843016982318,0.0,0.0,0.07564562989258876,0.0,0.07193879874423932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003322868645378,0.20513601582168012,0.0,0.06297518472243972,0.0,0.1321435168461938,0.08273783114460072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16439980992930486,0.0,0.08989322388160788,0.0,0.0,0.06515369941657846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098311143544737,0.0,0.0,0.08715425136546258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611910954699505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054880545943416965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08148904162439859,0.06812592634090743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517442399299139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465366590021786,0.0,0.0,0.08472696483302841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368277335164719,0.07162154202696769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3888560965678498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885598007032398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990636451117953,0.0,0.08120240592275378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07702502240605417,0.0,0.07730124442644329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929023292665998,0.12473335648107635,0.0,0.0,0.0608554588594039,0.0,0.0,0.11033362357550294 divorce,volgarevolpe,2019/01/30,"separated but can't move on hello it's my first post please be kind, i got married and moved abroad to be with my now ex-husband. living in a small city, having no job, being very young and insecure, the marriage was getting rocky. might be just me looking for excuses but i felt pretty much unloved and unsupported. i felt like i was blamed for a lot of things: for my husband not being able to do and spend his money as he liked, for not being able to find a job and ""fulfill my potentials like the great young woman that i am"", etc etc. i cheated, regretted it, husband found out, had fights for like a year. after two years of marriage we separated. i moved to another city but still in the same country. like two years have passed and now i'm living with my bf for a year and a half. i'm very happy, very happy with my job and life and friends, very happy with my painting, everything is alright. ex-husband and i don't talk much, but one way or another i'm able to catch up with what he's up to. his facebook is logged into my computer and as much as i want to delete it, i can't. keeping up with his activities somehow gives me information that i actually need because long story short i'm dependent on my marriage status to reside here - things about apartment contract, health insurance, etc. on the downside, well. on the downside i kinda know everything that he's doing, whom he's with now, and i'm very uncomfortable about that. i simply can't move on, then. if people's happiness lies in being with someone else, as mine also does, i still don't understand why i still feel very attached to him. perhaps actually divorcing is what i need to move on - thing is it's kinda hard for me to get a residence permit without this marriage status. i didn't enjoy being in my position when i was with him, and i doubt things were going to change and i grew happier. i really love where i am right now and what i do. i like the people around me. i don't want to do the things that he's doing or be a part of whatever he's involved in right now. everything is telling me i have moved on but my actual feelings. i haven't looked into his fb for a very long time. and truth is i'm not interested. it looks pretty clear what i need to do here but i don't have the gut to do it. need advice. thanks.",3.1699440875565053,4.531252351177731,4.655033904354031,84.79324797763503,73.66809421841542,7.758482036640494,26.03432072329289,8.344100000000001,1.6263538424934576,1796,61,372,30,36,601,199,467,0.103,0.7020000000000001,0.194,0.9946,3,0,0,0,1,0,57.0,1,0,0,1,19,26,2,2,17,1,43,4,1,2,2,72,73,32,0,8,14,2,5,6,2,1,2,0,0,1,22,30,0,1,9,0,2,10,14,6,1,5,10,8,53,20,62,53,9,58,0,1,3,1,33,25,0,10,27,257,75,4,0.18954080253744665,0.0,0.1849644816870764,0.0,0.0,0.06173902619226033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052523710333008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13250003855168646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056243833080679824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03851410465756756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06683634562369571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05528947786448263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277900639182452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21138809767766287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034705165915678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06389168321788602,0.0,0.1213259296020131,0.0,0.05774561989935501,0.05374110327046276,0.0,0.06927390225940193,0.04881291795471388,0.0,0.06601816421179127,0.0606082696463281,0.03590680201717983,0.0,0.050531031557009526,0.0696564679784497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690262783973517,0.05659710982193525,0.0,0.0,0.0671576699232651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808999989279812,0.056157524723033404,0.0,0.06579252617274102,0.034722222718120685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04462609140655647,0.18520012408810374,0.0,0.11157866745936286,0.1118250971629485,0.15916653706050884,0.0,0.0,0.05371360409136538,0.05702265815235012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06702427953585914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40290375372766696,0.13933429870927966,0.18738947122497107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04281258438463302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841807284389499,0.0,0.08760248471117224,0.0,0.0,0.0693529610504537,0.0,0.0,0.060509231637926784,0.12855409155274172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04047489719170641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10791120648908613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353243563560865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513675297462408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05078190580053528,0.055222338588925085,0.058167901788848536,0.0,0.0,0.2098708117510905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0368409220687808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343588181553343,0.06577288665230108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3649123622948142,0.0745307174462966,0.05014955555202287,0.0,0.0,0.05680664813881805,0.0,0.05701036436804183,0.0,0.0,0.060903523288928965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16274408332640108 divorce,1_Florecita,2019/01/30,"Thinking about dating I honestly didn't think I'd be where I am today. I spent 17 years completely in love w sbxh. I never once had a shadow of feelings for another man. Seven months ago our bond broke when I discovered the affair. Over 2 months ago he completely moved out to live w her. I've spent the whole time grieving and healing. Last month I took a trip. It was fun, but also helped mend my soul. After returning, I downloaded a dating app, and so far have had the luck of avoiding major creeps. Just been messaging and talking w some people. I never really dated. My husband is the second and last man I've ever kissed. I've got so many emotions stirring about things old and new. But I want to explore and grow. I'm doubtful I can really trust or love again. But I have a new path in front of me and I just want to keep going. Every now and then I have a thought that surprises me. I've come a long way already. Now the legal ties are weighing on me. I prioritized emotional health and maxed my card on that plane ticket. I dont regret that. But I'm left without enough to pay filing fees. Besides, he's still covering my car payment until I get my planned raise in 4 months. I don't want to rock that boat. I wish sbxh would bring it up, but I'm betting he'll drag his feet. Meanwhile, there's a guy who seems sweet and funny. I'm working up the nerve to meet for coffee. If I've learned anything, it's that life is always unpredictable and often unfair. You've just got to make the most of what you can. It's just hard to put yourself out there when you're still technically married. I'd be happy for any advice or thoughts from someone looking at this crossroads in the rearview mirror. 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I hate that I married an old man. He's 35 and just so boring. Do not marry older ladies! Thanks for taking my youth !!!! 25 and stuck.,-2.4376344086021504,-1.042732129032256,0.12822580645161352,103.34567204301077,112.22580645161293,2.066666666666667,8.39247311827957,3.1291,-2.3353268817204302,108,1,26,0,6,36,28,31,0.268,0.653,0.079,-0.7881,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,3,1,1,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.528577700597313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5617920897343535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4025397332669121,0.0,0.0,0.4929067107319285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,tapwaterbread,2019/01/31,"Child of Divorce needing advice Does anybody have advice on what to do when parents are going through divorce. They are constantly arguing so I have to stay in my room and when they aren’t arguing, one is out of the house for late nights. Is there any subreddits or tips on dealing with this or what to do to keep myself occupied? Thanks",3.5512820512820547,5.892058923076924,4.0657692307692335,85.20839743589745,75.15384615384616,7.410256410256411,29.294871794871803,8.344100000000001,2.303871794871795,270,12,50,5,6,85,48,65,0.087,0.871,0.042,-0.4767,2,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,2,0,4,3,2,0,1,0,9,0,0,0,0,7,13,6,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,5,1,13,13,0,12,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,5,39,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4870484932707899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947073259810158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693065021240373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569236376276549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808456132565926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163127359816016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875538400011263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2215084970484954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811187176832402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18478538868332045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338658568810316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887053460018833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2767172117700365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26562374047783305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22943825542986554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Rooster1984,2019/01/31,Need Advice want out. 3 weeks ago I caught STBX with another man. I knew it was going on for months. I basically was unraveling during this time. I’m at the point where I need to get out for my sanity. We have two kids aged 6 & 3. Jointly own our home. She continues to see OG. I have an exit strategy set up to sleep somewhere else. I have been and still am the primary caregiver due to her shift work. I would still have to spend time at the house taking care of my boys. I would also immediately start paying support based on the average results of the online calculators. Cut or transfer all utilities to her name. There is a large gap in our salaries. We are common law. We can then work on our separation agreement and adjust as needed. 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My husband decides every year he is ready for divorce, we have been married five years and every single year he has done this. He lays out his reasons and it rips me apart. Each year I convinced him to get therapy because he is experiencing seasonal depressive disorder, and each year he does it for a little bit, things get better, and by the time it gets cold again I am facing the man I love listing all the reasons why he doesn't want to be married to me and that he has been faking happiness this entire time. Same thing, he loves me but just wants to be alone. It gets better every year, but every year it tears me apart. I'm done. If he decides to reconcile next week (again) I'm going to have to stay strong. I take my marriage vows very seriously, and getting a divorce because he doesn't feel like the marrying type just does not feel right. It feels crazy! But I cannot do this again. Thank you for a place to vent.",5.450972927241963,5.707400421319799,5.727220812182742,83.24111886632828,67.62944162436547,8.597123519458547,29.61463620981388,8.344100000000001,1.941237225042301,781,26,158,10,12,249,111,197,0.103,0.78,0.117,0.7207,0,1,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,1,0,3,6,13,1,0,8,0,18,3,1,2,1,31,35,10,0,3,9,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,12,10,0,0,8,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,4,5,15,9,13,29,6,24,0,1,0,2,23,6,0,1,17,90,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11433905420825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459521638093722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527615421986771,0.12052604478114692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508565268277486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652569512248416,0.0,0.19322010216578853,0.2259510072508701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720603724238313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746166769510945,0.0788683674010646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28839204416674497,0.0,0.06274173877361819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11752074491602855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05393489605311145,0.1106478184363548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992770461853054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740954649162358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153424336664176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22701510222971724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427930570153266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11766960017895403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300557168375543,0.0,0.0,0.101639664186726,0.12624975691992968,0.0,0.14668707773857412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287479462811941,0.0,0.10464441426528484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108992814791862,0.13023122477987706,0.0,0.08855463237471478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961704155265808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4976489364530498 divorce,aworldbeyondreason,2019/01/31,"Terrified of losing time with my children Hello, I am facing divorce (neither has filed yet) but I am terrified of the possibility (reality?) that I won’t see my children everyday if we go through with it. I won’t go into the details, but our relationship is very unhealthy for us and the kids. How have you coped with the loss of precious time with your children? It seems unbearable. Kiddos are still very young (3 and 7). 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My husband and I are not in love anymore, but we are best friends. We've lived together for the past 3 months as a separated, friendly couple. We have a daughter who will be 4 next month, and she knows that we love each other and her very much. Today, we went to file for divorce, and were told by the clerk that we don't have to actually FILE anything.. that at the end of the separation period (one year in SC), we bring a witness to state that we have, in fact, been separated for a year, and the divorce will be filed. Is this correct? Where do we go from here? Thanks, and love to all of you! 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I will be moving out. I already found a place, but it's a steal of a deal and I have to move fast. I'll be purchasing a modular home and leasing the space. I need about $6500 as a down payment. What would be the best way to do this so my STBX wife can't try to claim the house or the money? I have about that much in an IRA I put together before we got together (I have not contributed to it during our relationship). Do I drain that, or do I take out a personal loan? I live in California and can't afford a lawyer at the moment. 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I'm divorcing my husband and have retained a lawyer. The last time I spoke with the lawyer, we were finalizing the Settlement of property, and the last piece of info needed was the payout amount for the house. I sent that to him 3 weeks ago today, and have heard nothing since. I've sent emails and left voicemail, but no response. I know my case isn't the only thing he's working on, and I have zero experience with this stuff. But...is this normal? 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I found out that she was having an affair about a year and half ago. Flooded with emotions at the time and not having anyone to turn too I talked myself into wanting to stay and work it out, which was true at the time. In the months that followed while working it out she became pregnant with our first child. Tests confirm she is mine. Over the past year we bought a new house to separate ourselves from the previous area (trigger for me) and prepared it for the birth of our daughter. Fast forward to today my daughter is 3 months old and I still feel the pain of the affair and cannot get over it. I’m starting to feel that separation is best for me. I’m feeling like I need a fresh start. I’ve been doing some research on divorce and how it affects children, specifically infants which seem to suggest divorce is easiest before they become toddlers provided you can give them a positive environment and keep the separation amicable. I believe that this would be the case for us. I’m just wondering if anyone on here has gone through a separation with a baby and what advice you may have as far as custody schedule and how/if it has had an effect on your young one. 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Obviously when you get married you plan for it to last forever. Now that you are divorced/ contemplating divorce what was the beginning like? Did things completely change, or is hindsight really 20/20? 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I am going through this whole divorce thing, and boy is it pure hell. I had been with my ex for around 9 years. I just turned 30. We have had tension for years, because I just didn’t attend to her as much as she needed or wanted. I was dealing with my own demons, and it’s easier for me to shut down and go through the motions. I just didn’t think it was as bad as it was for her, I suppose. I thought and still think she is the love of my life. It just feels right with her, even in the bad times. I didn’t want a divorce, and I tried to get therapy together and separately, desperate to save us. It was just too late. I feel absolutely no hope about anything unless I’m with our beautiful 4 year old girl. Her presence reassures me that good does still exist. It’s just so hard trying to come to terms with not being good enough to fight for. I know that no matter what she did or didn’t do, I’d forgive her and work on making us better. My moods are all over the place, as some days I try to be tough and fight away thoughts of her. Others, I cry so much that I really think I run out of tears. I had to delete all of my social media, because I didn’t want to see her going on without me. She is being understanding and supportive of me through this, which makes me feel all the more a mess. I miss the way her hands fit in mine, or the smell of her skin. I know that through the joys of life in my future, my heart will try to mend itself. But I know that it’ll never be enough. I guess I’m just hoping this was all part of some bigger plan, and I’ll come out a better man. Sorry for pouring out my sadness, but thank you for reading. I’m so sorry that you have or are going through this too. It’s awful. 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I will keep the details of how that came to be to myself but I have met the spouse before. I came here to rant and seeking advice of any kind. I am frustrated and even more frustrated that I feel that way to begin with. I want to be there for my SO but he literally only tells me things I ask questions about. If the question doesn't cross my mind or I forget for any reason, he never brings it back up. This morning I woke up at 7 AM to him crying into his pillow. I know he's not in love with her anymore, that isn't my concern. I understand that there is a piece of you that always continues to loves someone, even after you have moved on. And perhaps that is what hurts the most, the piece of you that empathizes with the hurt of separating from someone after so much time together. But how can I help him? He won't speak to me or share anything, its like pulling teeth. The other day I left work early to check on him and he was crying in the shower and almost had a panic attack. He told me that he's been crying every morning after I leave for work, but that day in particular he couldn't stop. I know before me he has had harsh, abusive relationships, from one person after the other. So I know that all that pain isn't from the divorce in general, but I know it triggers a wave of emotions. The divorce is too much weight for him to bear alone and hes cracking. Plus, I love him, I want to be there for him and help him bear this burden. I expected there to be pain, and an entire healing process now that we're together but I wasn't prepared for *this.* He said he was thinking about checking himself into a psych ward, but didn't think it would change/help anything. (We're also 30 days out from moving into a new place and he's 2 weeks into a new job. Very bad timing to be admitted, but of course I haven't given him that impression.) Not only that but he won't let me in, in fear that he is hurting my feelings. I know this isn't about me and my feelings don't get hurt. But I get extremely frustrated when I see that he doesn't sleep, eat, clean, cook, talk. What do I do?? I can't just sit here anymore and watch him fall apart. I am not sure he understands that he doesn't have to do this alone anymore. I am so incredibly frustrated and I know part of that comes from not being able to fix this myself. That is something I am working on trying to let go. Please, if anyone can help shed some light of guidance, I would greatly appreciate that. 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Or tell me how you left them despite losing everything and it still worked out. Basically, I’m closing in on forty and have not been taken out on one date by my husband for the length of the marriage (nearing five years) We dated five years before that and in that time we went out all the time and had a normal life, but as soon as we married he changed. Also, I am unable to leave the house for more than a couple of hours without him calling or freaking out. I’ve been dragging my heels on leaving because I needed to secure a living situation. I work, but have never made enough to live like an adult should. I would be starting over from scratch in the middle of life. If we could just live like we used to and I could go out with friends I might be able to manage and repair what has been destroyed, but it just keeps getting worse so I have to divorce him for my sanity. IMO, he is throwing me away. Anyway, for three years I paid his bills because he didn’t work, and had made a promise that never came to pass. Now he works and is making more than I ever have in my life, but he wont let me work, because of some long, strange mythology he ascribes to that is ridiculous. So if I want to work again and have a life I have to leave. But if I stay I live rent-free with all the time in the world to do whatever can be done during the day within the confines of the house but cannot leave nor can I hang out with anybody for more than a couple of hours on a weekend. Strangers, feel free to reassure me that I must leave. I’m gonna be single, poor, and semi-homeless, but otherwise I cant envision a future with a possibility for living a full life. 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Last year my husband had a near death experience (actually almost died) the 2 months in the hospital and another 6 months off work put a dead stop on my exit plans. How could I leave him to deal with all of that?!? Dealing with moving (foreclosure) and everything that happens with half the household money disappearing for 8 months (get an emergency fund!!!) added yet another delay. Then the ‘one last family Christmas’ delayed me. Now it’s car repairs🤬😫 I still know I have to go, this marriage is killing me slowly but surely. And knowing I have to end it, being so close but still so far away is torture! I knew we would all have to leave our home (neither could afford it alone) I had made peace with that. But moving together has been horrible. He was never supposed to be here. This was supposed to be my and my little’s fresh start our new home. But he had to come. Life didn’t care about my plans, and I’m horrible but not bad enough to leave him during the hell of the past 12 months. Yesterday I was talking to my mom (no one knows my plans) and it slipped ‘soon it won’t be my problem anymore’ she heard it loud and clear and asked what I meant. I explained that I wanted to have ‘the talk’ before March first now it will probably be April first because of his car. She was happy for me. Said ‘it’s about time, you’ve put in years more than you should have’ She kept asking ‘so when exactly?’ I know I am now on a real timeline, I have a witness, someone to hold me accountable, someone who loves me and wants what’s best for ME and who will not let me make excuses because life and shit happens or because I feel bad. 2 months to go and the clock is ticking now....",2.4314438502673816,4.4314292566844955,3.5919786096256696,88.90208556149734,77.28877005347593,6.752941176470588,24.368983957219246,7.724431198458867,1.1784245989304822,1458,50,304,22,34,472,200,374,0.129,0.764,0.107,0.5435,1,1,0,0,0,0,49.0,3,1,0,9,16,12,4,0,15,0,34,5,1,4,5,65,66,25,4,9,8,2,1,0,0,5,3,4,2,0,19,21,0,5,9,0,4,11,7,7,0,5,16,5,44,5,36,37,6,63,1,0,0,1,28,11,2,3,41,197,63,1,0.0,0.0,0.07589054107066914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06893681346394948,0.0,0.1557472293448697,0.08054439736530916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16309346841926012,0.0,0.0,0.07712515346571462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14540553059641745,0.0,0.07306578008732675,0.0,0.12986639051232512,0.14222031133707458,0.0,0.06617500687313213,0.0,0.08161292375527249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894609850715363,0.0792898587711141,0.0,0.0,0.06699041476244283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418315285446625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1603511905123808,0.0,0.0,0.0807111094033116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887953880692127,0.08035533518732027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989304001661151,0.07607221820658336,0.073312933969366,0.0,0.039321936555832944,0.0,0.0,0.08519125740696502,0.0,0.13229917553025286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040630672630986464,0.0,0.0883949158783246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754031772768582,0.08278569070497663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560156827802919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603898652521104,0.0,0.17095746676678253,0.12678291859861027,0.0,0.4117264534617814,0.0,0.0795232493369421,0.16478993007955464,0.0,0.07794416280119362,0.0,0.06882240621202411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018883313701656,0.07358614738417937,0.1038217493813112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09108117121184196,0.3103691603613689,0.16531056985051784,0.0,0.11532826383069265,0.05997962699012852,0.075109008273202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10539548449351276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423854270922058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08384726853218366,0.0744136607200758,0.0,0.15635703334164924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770344652799169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397536310621153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982793560534099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178548015797678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008945875812187,0.0,0.12421156351960792,0.06501769406115318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07329560435397786,0.0,0.0,0.12501426022934586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09069452093204164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173939377648327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661617288171319,0.0,0.0,0.055244295139331205,0.0,0.0,0.2003206738997436 divorce,casandrawrites,2019/01/31,"When choosing a lawyer My STBXH and I want to do mediation rather than court, but just in case we can't settle things amicably I want to be prepared and have that taken care of beforehand. We have a young child together, no house, accumulated medical debt from child, two dogs, vehicles, and really no other grand belongings that either of us be sad to part with. What should I look for in a potential lawyer? Are there certain things I should ask or bring up? Were there things you wish you brought up? This is all very new to me and I know nothing about the process. 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My STBXH is ignoring my lawyer and refuses to sign the settlement agreement, in effect trapping me until the clock runs out at the 1 year of separation deadline where my lawyer will then have to file with the court to force him to settle. I'm working on doing my taxes (married filing separately). It's more advantageous for me to file this way and not give him a chance to dick up a joint return (which would have negative implications for my employment beyond the usual hassle of an audit). I've discovered that if you file married filing separately, you cannot contribute to a Roth IRA that year (barring certain low income situations that don't apply to us). If you do contribute, you receive a 6% penalty and additional penalties for any interest the ineligible contribution might have received. Having been married, you generally know the financial habits of your spouse. I'm almost 100% sure he already contributed for this tax year. Take that, dickhead!",9.722600869025447,9.187321061452515,9.635940409683428,61.40196772191186,59.0558659217877,12.648292985723154,40.559279950341406,11.855464076750405,5.117964121663562,806,37,125,21,9,265,119,179,0.109,0.8,0.091,-0.5599,2,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,6,0,3,2,7,0,0,13,0,14,2,1,1,2,21,19,7,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,7,1,2,2,1,3,3,4,2,0,1,1,0,17,5,25,15,1,20,0,1,0,1,15,8,1,4,8,88,25,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25188265865262705,0.0,0.27758250024098496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17105696898269404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413017013826205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824072963245218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26684597300538504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28274338890979217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.237075057705855,0.0,0.18912803955251392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30257367103502314,0.0,0.2770376243572859,0.0,0.0,0.19966207827579024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18312533979792975,0.0,0.0,0.17868799327753185,0.0,0.0,0.4859537868236439 divorce,Throwawway180129,2019/01/31,"Texas: (Avoiding) recalculating child support agreement Let me state: I am not trying to short-change my kids. I will always make sure they have everything they need and more. Background: The results of my Texas divorce, finalized in June 1018, was 50/50 custody of the 3 young kids and no alimony or child support either way. In the years leading up to the divorce, my ex-wife and I each made six-figure incomes, so the child support calculations cancelled each other out. My income is from a normal job, hers is from her self-employed business. Starting in early 2018, her business started falling apart. Between the loss of my help and, I assume, her depression, she couldn’t keep up and started losing clients. I don’t know how much money she made in 2018, but it was probably less than what I made. She recently lost more clients and may end up losing her business and having to go back to a regular job where she will make possibly half what I make. Officially, I am the custodial parent because she pays me $100 / month (through the state) for half the children’s medical coverage. I’ve heard she could seek to have the child support recalculated. I have no problem giving up the $100 / month or covering other bills entirely (e.g. kids school lunches, cell phones) if she can’t afford to help. But, by my calculations, I could be on the hook to give her almost $1,000 a month (on top of splitting actual bills) based on the Texas child support formula. It seems unfair that I (a single parent) would have to pay her (now married to her affair partner, has rich parents) because she let her business fail. Does anyone out there have experience with anything like this? What happened to you?",7.0162031276273735,7.632044476038343,6.781701698335298,75.78258113334455,64.30351437699679,9.273179754498065,35.32352446611737,9.134995656068208,3.1882498402555903,1343,59,233,21,19,423,179,313,0.102,0.79,0.108,0.4956,9,1,0,0,3,0,59.0,0,1,2,7,6,17,0,1,17,0,25,2,0,9,1,43,49,14,0,8,7,3,0,1,1,4,1,1,0,10,9,12,1,2,3,0,6,3,6,8,0,2,7,1,39,9,35,32,8,37,0,6,0,0,43,16,0,7,16,156,48,7,0.0,0.0,0.09065277586247543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302159711744916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729664112148962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06495481404676254,0.0,0.07644522312882879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143103793794546,0.0,0.11325667928958948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09827130383133174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833927078116946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001090648314868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08129362889598131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822779928154682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08348864037051518,0.09086979285100936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017626683668597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17822798734806866,0.052794751384353744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214733627614404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12453202205366283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18436924156175669,0.08256994189275642,0.0,0.0,0.051053032097881035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18998423772692694,0.0,0.045384133173916714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20785299115840614,0.10140660000831248,0.0,0.0,0.26370039393404515,0.18602574794301266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358261678328347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22244531820636648,0.0,0.06828900789837461,0.06888096397887514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101803529496086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3094489520856873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047259127557474,0.0,0.0,0.10015724665674483,0.08888861261486647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172326943904864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401537989256133,0.0,0.08456873119998136,0.09691044606583736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972561050855068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5270845406585785,0.08755307182509782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307006370102078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373626078251436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06599042033819136,0.0,0.0,0.05982176729621441 divorce,ancientmoonfog,2019/01/31,"Canada / Ontario - Divorce alimony as a sponsored PR. Hello, I married a Canadian woman who sponsored me to come to Canada. In this agreement she is to be responsible for me financially during my sponsorship period. After living with her, my life has become a nightmare. She refuses to find meaningful employment and I am bearing the brunt of all financial responsibilities in addition to doing all housework. I want out. I am just afraid of what will happen with alimony. I have worked extremely hard for many years and have no family. It just sickens me someone so lazy will be benefiting from my hard work. So I am wondering, since technically she is responsible for me financially (but doesn't contribute) would this exempt me from alimony considering I am sponsored under a contract in which she is responsible for finances? Lived together 2 years, Ontario, early 30's.",6.336897605705554,9.065291788079476,7.69496688741722,60.58180845644424,68.20529801324504,11.268670402445235,36.7809475292919,11.051253699011982,5.412456546102903,704,38,98,25,13,240,97,151,0.078,0.8190000000000001,0.103,0.4447,1,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,2,5,0,17,1,0,0,2,18,21,6,0,2,3,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,6,7,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,20,2,22,16,2,11,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,1,5,80,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24989159241719106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19490701042983247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330222893051667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20680184327484225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20008513335031486,0.0,0.40537746951559256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981745415690926,0.0,0.0,0.3995917636863854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293968994782713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871685039732832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19171335217685276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334567866390048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453744231816554,0.3294468033220723,0.0,0.0,0.16073195616258545,0.0,0.0,0.29141410614894264 divorce,Throwaway120574,2019/01/31,"Child Support experiences Hi everyone, Using a different handle than normal due to my pending divorce. I wanted to ask everyone questions, specifically men, how child support worked out for you. Here is my situation.... I (male) make in the high 50s to low 60s a year. It fluctuates because of the way I have to clock in and what is allowed to be clocked in at my job. On average, I’m in the 58 range the last 2 years. My STBXW makes on average in the mid 50s. Recently though, she’s gone through job losses and just took a position paying 51/year. If she hadn’t been fired earlier this year, she would have made 56k. We have two children together. She has 4 biological total. It’s a 50/50 plan. We agreed to make me school placement due to my stable work schedule. We are selling our home and splitting everything evenly. So far so good. She is demanding I pay $400/month because her expenses are greater with 4 children. My attorney says his calculation of support creates a wash where nobody is paying anything. I’m considering challenging her, but for the stability of the kids and speed of the divorce, is it worth it I ask? Should I kick her this amount? Or do I risk going through the courts where they notoriously screw men over I feel like? If I made a larger amount more than her, I’d happily pay it. But we have always been the same in pay for years and this is the first year in 7 together I made a bit more and it is mainly due to her not holding a job this year. Any advice and experiences are greatly appreciated. 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What should I do to help ""protect"" myself? M/mid 30s. Main issue is dealing with home down payment and any equity. It seems like its pretty simple for the most part but don't want to overlook anything. * Married ~1yr. No Kids. Bills have been split. We have a house. No combined finances. I think the main issue will be regarding the house. The down payment that was used was not 50/50 and she put more down. I think the stbx will keep the house (even though i dont think they can afford it). But my family may have interest in buying out the stbx down payment of 40k. So the down payment paybacks are the main issue and relatively easy to figure out at face value but when does equity come into play? We only had the house 1yr, so im not sure how much value the house has increased by. How would we determine equity? Regardless of who ends up keeping the house? 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You can read about the origin story of the breakup [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/afdnbh/i_did_it_and_i_feel_awful/?st=JRKON4O2&sh=c6215bc2). We have 3 kids (9, 11, 14), a house, a dog, etc. Needless to say, the last 3 weeks have been tense. We have been in a dead bedroom situation for almost 2 years and we have become roommates. So living under the same roof was tolerable, if not totally normal to me. Not to him. He is absolutely devastated (even though he admits he is unhappy) and cries well in to the early morning hours. We are getting to the point of talking about evenly splitting kids, how to deal w debt, etc. He has a great job (teacher, more steady than high paying) and I am self employed freelancer. I know i am walking away from great benefits, pension, etc. It was a really hard conversation. I had a flash of “shit. If I just stuck around, kids wouldn’t be put through this, I can keep benefits. I’m not in love w him anymore but we are good friends. Prob won’t have sex w him and if we do, it’s totally obligatory. But I would have security” I know it’s fear doing a lot of the talking but it’s really testing my ability to understand the value of happiness. Would love some support and insight. 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Please help! Hello everyone, me any my current wife are in our 30s, we have been together for nearly 7 years. No children. Although that she really wants a child, I feel I am not ready yet and/or not ready to bear the responsibility of having a child yet. We also have different priorities in life. No cheating or extramarital affairs involved. No abuse from any kind. It is this kind of perfect relationship you see on Instagram. I have a full time job. She has a part time job but she also has a big family support. Actually her family supported our marriage from the beginning and I have good relationship with all my extended family. I came here last night to read about other people’s experiences before taking the decision to move out (we have a lovely rented apt). I found, however, that reasons for divorce here on this sub are far more substantial than just someone wants to walk away from a good relationship because they want to be alone and rediscover life as a single person (me). I started doubting myself, and I am here to ask is wanting to be free from marriage an enough reason to just walk away? I have my suitcase prepared and I am planning to tell her and move out in the same night. We have rotated the idea a few times in the past, but this is the closest I have been to actually make the move out/move on with my life. This will shock her, and I do care about her although I don’t love her as I used to do, and shock her family and pretty much everyone who knows us but I feel deep inside me compelled to discover life solo again. I might regret in the future because she is the perfect wife and mother in every sense of the word but it’s just my nature and I can’t resist the urge to get a divorce and enjoy life alone while I can. My other question, is telling her and explaining reasons over dinner then leaving out the same night a reasonable thing to do/end the relationship? I know it might not be fair to her but staying in this relationship, against my desire, isn’t fair to me either. I am planning to speak frankly about how I feel and how things changed after amazing years we have had together. My third and final question am I am asshole for doing this, wasting this marriage? Please help! I am not planning to remarry again anytime soon. I seriously just want to travel, have fun and engage in casual relationship. I don’t have any saved money but my salary, so there will be issues around money. I am willing to leave everything in the apt, and I will also pay one month rent. She does have family members to support here who live in the same city. We don’t have any shared bank account or anything that will complicate the process. I have lots of acquaintances but I don’t have one very close friend who I can consult, so this is literally my only consultation. I wish I can see my future before taking this important life decision because my life is literally at the crossroads, but please help. I can use some of your wisdom.",5.297627986348123,6.401361723549492,6.111895904436864,77.33658105802049,68.28327645051195,9.068191126279864,30.690955631399326,9.321569398390272,2.723763276450512,2414,94,445,47,40,794,258,586,0.071,0.7290000000000001,0.2,0.9981,8,2,0,0,3,0,59.0,9,2,1,6,25,29,1,1,32,0,63,10,0,10,4,95,96,40,0,9,19,3,3,0,1,7,7,2,2,4,23,31,1,0,16,3,8,7,13,6,0,3,5,7,77,24,68,80,14,63,0,1,2,2,67,30,0,9,25,339,100,6,0.0,0.07044947561397723,0.11604728073602875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12316367970103695,0.0,0.1426485963362882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173728642079238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0489298876121437,0.05293132898531,0.055586362251590464,0.0,0.11172782502756486,0.0,0.0,0.1087374010203073,0.0,0.1011908663711321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800552953115949,0.0606226571224683,0.0,0.06289999106762446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062122249717733564,0.0,0.0,0.0520331809191048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052663237500518316,0.06143728855772161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0500969734881615,0.1136317022647041,0.05343813024570054,0.058162545278279285,0.2802643949396321,0.0,0.09019313368045057,0.0,0.0,0.06513469020701362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06519398678480491,0.04593806071658792,0.0,0.031064998396250012,0.0,0.0,0.09974317764527724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956282408117185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06712224366164105,0.0,0.06205999773716156,0.1180082404043752,0.0,0.0,0.12383529560044278,0.0653544857498477,0.048467215872942115,0.0,0.1259174981684118,0.0,0.0,0.29398473349538706,0.0,0.0,0.0525035975638616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05055011889158372,0.10732856965666933,0.0,0.03968950387947342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12615371306670764,0.0,0.0,0.04745979746108527,0.18958728423953364,0.043709382285159096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16739540435034606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08058223860822841,0.04522143075313312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643885618010112,0.05676057177658106,0.04122154984997335,0.051917514226098666,0.0,0.1958051681257809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06049142225624059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332159115967995,0.0,0.0594753297219272,0.0,0.03809111117707124,0.2445360033098965,0.0,0.3830218254577092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09476263086923248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037962042787368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0420855555459956,0.06337563769153548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20242092008595408,0.0,0.0,0.08941189618063036,0.0,0.10393999167857723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07900415297283123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401348162104496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715221437434291,0.10270738384009967,0.0,0.04906009942135427,0.21042359892161666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837519068553276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657960120361625 divorce,lesslittlem,2019/01/31,"Parents divorcing after 30 years My parents told me (28F) and my sister (30F) they are divorcing yesterday, but with a lot of drama. My father is a passive agressive guy and he treats my mom very badly (never physically abusive tough). She suffered a lot, taking pills every day that keep her in some zombie like state. I tried talking to them, but he just won't change or admitt his behaviour is wrong and hurting. He is jealous, if she goes to a neighboor friend and comes home a little bit late he would make a big scene and won't talk to her for weeks. She then stops going places, but he is still mad and gives her the silent treatmant. All of her friends told her to either seek for proffesional help or to divorce him, but she is too submissive and scared to make such a big change. Couple of days ago, someone called my mom and he picked up the phone. It was some old co-worker wanted to ask about my dad's private business, but my dad already created a scenario in his head how this is her lover calling her (because the call was made from a private number). He accused her of cheating and she said she did it. He then started a smear campaign, calling me and my sister, our grandparents, my mom's friends, to tell everyone she is a cheater and that's the reason they are divorcing. Obviously she lied, although I would totally understand her even if she did cheat. I don't know why she lied, what to do or how to act. We are going there tonight (we don't live in the same city) to talk with them, but I know he won't believe us when we tell him she lied cause she had enough of his accusations, jealousy and passive agressive behaviour. It is very stressful and confusing for me and my sister, because we don't know what is our role here? I had a plan to stay at their house for a month due to personal reasons (moving to another country and waiting for a visa and stuff) but now I don't know what to do or how to handle the situation without falling into depression myself (I'm going to therapy and have personal issues myself). Sorry if it's a long post. 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Went through a pretty nasty divorce and ended up paying a ridiculous amount of money for not really having any assets. I can explain that when we chat. She lights this rage inside of me of frustration and I try not to think about her at all. The only issue is...I can’t help but think about her. I can’t help but think about what I would give to have one more night with her. What I would do. I want it so badly even though I know it’s awfully wrong. Anybody else get that feeling?,0.9281410256410254,3.2870165576923114,2.0861538461538487,95.54217948717951,85.34615384615384,4.620512820512821,17.320512820512818,5.985473137389443,-0.4179525641025639,398,9,85,3,12,126,74,104,0.16699999999999998,0.722,0.111,-0.8435,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,0,7,5,3,0,3,1,8,0,0,0,1,19,19,7,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,7,1,2,1,4,5,0,1,1,3,13,0,13,16,3,7,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,0,3,58,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13848763557720167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17003758858411222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402435748671248,0.0,0.1803716979475628,0.0,0.0,0.13450759518936445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20594111360249814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639768410392128,0.1953577354022679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2730019473984986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21255562129775185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191962479589113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911098693276854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13799716739821355,0.15488349436322585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2071832470138912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046213498837975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3914682808196383,0.2000831436340011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382636363641989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011687731046215,0.16164631759400455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18878375287880325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2893314179739017,0.22265713839971954,0.0,0.0 divorce,sjmb31,2019/01/31,"Deadbeat I have been in a relationship with a deadbeat since I was 17. I’m now 35 not married, with 3 kids (12,10,4). I have taken care of my children entirely alone, bath times, holidays, birthdays, first days of school, all the memories my children will have are without their dad. On top of this I have had lone responsibility financially, single income earner, cooked, cleaned, bathed kids, pressured daily to put out for sex- even when I didn’t want to. I have returned to university currently in 2nd year. Since being in school, on top of raising an adolescent, and all my other responsibilities i mentioned I felt like I had the weight of the world on my back. It got so bad I would cry in my vehicle because I was so stressed, my thoughts raced, my anxiety was through the roof thinking constantly about everything. I cried to my spouse every now and then and pleaded he help out more - bribing him to get the kids to school bc I was up late studying, none of it ever got done. Even with all my responsibilities I made time to apply to jobs for him, sat with him to prepare for intvws. Within the past few months I harboured nothing but stress and negative feelings... all stemming from my bf in ex, disappointment bc he didn’t do what I asked, anger bc I had to do it yet again, made me feel cheap bc all he wants is sex all the time - if I didn’t would get grouchy, I felt stress cooking bc he is a very fussy eater - put a real strain on just cooking the same old meals (meat n potatoes). Finally I could not take another moment of it n feeling like I could not breathe. I said fk it I’m done, I’m not having sex w you, I’m done taking care of you, I don’t deserve the unnecessary stress, the unnecessary bills like his cell phone or the premium pkgs for cable/internet. It’s been a week since he’s been gone and I feel amazing, stress has diminished. Except I have guilt and feel selfish but that’s nothing compared to everything I was feeling in regards to being in the relationship. It’s been a hard on my 2 youngest, and childcare for class time is still up in the air but I’m gonna take it a week at a time and hopefully be able to pay my old daycare bill so she can go to daycare on campus. So anyways like I said it’s been 1 week and I love it, feels too good to be true. At the same time I’m afraid - of what idk. I feel like it’s the calm before the storm. I don’t see any stories like mine so I thought I’d share even tho there’s a lot more to bitch about lol ",3.3261347703254174,4.606660705765407,4.351692476718636,87.43936669456943,73.15506958250499,7.441854138327925,27.74976457047191,7.94452939551167,1.5352775347912515,1937,73,419,27,38,630,249,503,0.099,0.748,0.152,0.9813,3,1,0,0,0,0,61.0,0,2,1,3,23,30,2,9,26,1,45,10,1,2,8,61,88,22,0,8,12,3,12,6,1,4,0,2,3,5,16,15,5,0,13,6,4,4,12,15,0,1,32,15,53,15,61,46,14,60,0,2,1,4,33,25,1,4,37,257,69,7,0.07231381635944867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489530504244968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04917587487085006,0.07582734161068197,0.055319871583358826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760365664842873,0.0,0.0,0.055604861114920814,0.0603790161100124,0.04408183126014288,0.0,0.061533731557647624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14745751048335629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814554553065246,0.0,0.11547339626845694,0.0,0.15886666335126792,0.046636429179079036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220064228694876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432877810927125,0.06541198694123943,0.06092750915216087,0.0,0.12998199064415258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29251230670724704,0.10332200971234767,0.1388652080516441,0.07921625115035716,0.0,0.06151009525381682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556196881021786,0.0,0.04109760830962664,0.060653398256526686,0.11567192987098927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06477897557699308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04847042679591046,0.0,0.0,0.0718239362734757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07176030453184001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157313462159249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119732677676356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061478620702258624,0.06526604258429264,0.1368501630284839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05772019830406111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387741142226067,0.0,0.15176237155199926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903172019397058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539071730269126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823089545262218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15527595215950948,0.0,0.0,0.13757399811031348,0.0,0.0,0.21955632841849,0.057624749137114885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17945620848868532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05774990715622036,0.0,0.4141761615843328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16311297101045702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046335773619206905,0.0,0.11481818531546226,0.2530006071090066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059666471812051584,0.08530512495035973,0.0,0.17401734474416453,0.08805874687025589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970793844595395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027393207140038,0.0,0.0,0.04656772683388491 divorce,throwmeawayokay57,2019/01/31,"Decided I can’t beat myself up forever Throwaway. My story is ongoing as my divorce is not yet final, but I’m hoping we can settle by this summer. There is a hearing coming up that could be a game changer depending on a judge’s decision. My backstory is so complicated and I’m nervous to post it because it’s so unique that I don’t want to be identified if my ex is lurking. And I’m not proud of it. I’ve seen how the “bad guys” are blasted here and I won’t pretend that I wasn’t in the wrong or try and make excuses for what I did. My marriage was over. There was so much misery and resentment and I decided I wanted out. And then the shitstorm came and I’ve been dealing with the fallout continuously now and it’s been a nightmare at times. A nightmare that I acknowledge I got myself into, but at times I refuse to take ownership of people’s actions towards me because they’ve just been downright spiteful, vengeful and irresponsible. But I get it. People react out of anger and hurt and we don’t get to tell them how to feel or how to move on or when to move on. I’m just ready for it to settle down. Today I was giving a friend support on her relationship and I decided to give myself a bit of a break. And like I said, I’m the bad guy and if I posted my story, you all would certainly say that karma is a bitch and I deserved what I created. But I am happy now with where I am. Do I deserve to be happy? I don’t know. But I certainly didn’t deserve to be miserable. And I know that five, ten years down the road, this might all be a distant memory. Maybe I’m just trying to convince myself that some good can come from this, as dysfunctional as it has been. And I’ve definitely learned a lot about myself, one of the only positives I can take away from this. I guess my point is that if you’ve made a mistake, own up to it. Try to make it right. Learn from it. And don’t let it ruin your life in the process. It takes a lot of guts to say “I fucked up” and try to minimize the damage as best you can. I wish I could say more and be more specific. But I wish you all healing and happiness. 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What is my next move? 50yr old, been married for 20 years, lived together for 6 before that. We have a daugher that is 14-good kid in a good school. No abuse, no affairs, no major trauma other than my wife has not had her needs met and is done. She has wanted to leave about 4 times, i'd say in the last 5 years. The last time she told me she was done, was last halloween, I was 10 minutes late to pick up our kid at her friends house and she snapped. That last time, she had the whole plan mapped out, she was going to get an apartment, near by, ""we will figure out the next phase"" and I remember I slept in the living room for a week, without our kid knowing, and we lived as husband and wife-no fighting, none of me begging ""to take me back"", just figure out what we are supposed to do. &#x200B; I think a week went by, and we had a VERY emotional sit down with our daughter, that mom and dad were getting a divorce, and she cried, big time, it was horrible. I remember my wife and I still trying to discuss ""whats next, seperating finances, etc""....and one night she said ""if you want to sleep in the bed, you can""....and that was that and there was a lot of me telling her ""I will get better"" better at all my 'problems'....which I don't think are life threatening, but, its stuff that she doesnt want to be a partner to, and this time, over the last couple weeks, shes been brewing and shit hit the fan today. &#x200B; I work full time, make a good living, I dont bring work home I dont travel much, I dont work insane hours. She works from home, consulting, makes about 1/5th what I make, has had some struggles finding new clients, and financially stressed as she is used to making her own money all of our lives-so stay at home mom, self employed. &#x200B; She feels the weight of the world on her, the ""house, the kid, groceries, making dinner, etc"" and I offer ""No help""....not enough 'excitement' or 'planning' on my part. My kid and I sleep in on Saturday mornings, she likes to get up at 5am and ""get to it""...drives her insane that we get up at 7:30, have some breakfast, chill, and decide the day. &#x200B; The last couple times, its me that fights to stay in it-we've created a good life-family, but, im tired of her being mad at me, telling me im not ""planned enough, not enough friends to socialized with, not enough doing stuff for her or the family"" despite me doing house chores, helping with our child, taking time off work to be part of the family, home improvement, keep the place clean, etc etc..... &#x200B; Anyway, thanks for listening if you made it this far. We took the dogs for a walk tonight and I got the ""we should look into living situations, lawyers, etc"" and this time she mentioned something about me moving out-but im not the one who wants this, marriage is tough sometimes, I am not miserable like she is, she's the one looking for some amazing life, so, I dont want this to get ugly by any means, but..... &#x200B; Are there counselors that just talk to one side of the couple? to help walk them through this? &#x200B; Beginning of a nightmare, thought we'd grow old together. &#x200B; &#x200B;",4.86911835748792,5.434082705314015,4.772962560386472,88.49451630434784,68.96779388083735,7.755893719806764,28.246417069243158,7.554174236665415,1.4014724315619969,2444,79,516,24,40,753,281,621,0.083,0.812,0.105,0.9473,2,0,1,0,5,0,178.0,14,3,1,10,11,21,4,3,35,0,48,10,4,8,2,84,92,29,0,9,16,7,2,2,3,3,3,3,8,8,28,34,3,1,12,1,2,10,18,9,0,4,25,7,76,12,74,59,22,84,0,1,2,0,81,35,1,8,38,328,104,10,0.0,0.04392105036915665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614810694907628,0.4053892338494127,0.025208390273841037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028503998023196142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031543237902421785,0.0,0.0,0.06556955417998672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230494022889385,0.04071887751645864,0.023906627199050585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07586951346490184,0.17377974040201685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04169796502551768,0.0,0.1532099548944117,0.20671030156402975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048368905478346,0.0,0.018743348254462645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03388066206527626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057279287347721065,0.0,0.13557022861730678,0.0,0.02106733336847317,0.12436785628731645,0.029647699807825133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454029675851692,0.0,0.14873409255196024,0.0,0.03650578638153743,0.1283189606670391,0.0,0.0,0.12012359208561887,0.0,0.0,0.03294889068434338,0.0,0.0,0.02037231388490204,0.18129852729685367,0.04181577691911293,0.0392510287068465,0.0,0.0,0.07854941335160333,0.0362203680533835,0.0,0.1636643234791361,0.0,0.0622577396478586,0.0,0.0,0.031514987140140095,0.0,0.03507586115875807,0.12372020400612728,0.0,0.0,0.0403793271101848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683021544597115,0.0,0.07879758354353758,0.02725019546590229,0.02748641091839318,0.0,0.035801753993296444,0.11827084034943974,0.034787020163323086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779597416444163,0.0,0.10047644868684327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028486348303461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038729521194002636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03979854768683978,0.0839845650633499,0.0,0.035261386248902155,0.029478989498285483,0.0,0.03751610336301773,0.0,0.0,0.03867135691752677,0.0,0.03805109637367988,0.0,0.04166743826559649,0.07419212762819881,0.03778747577791105,0.0,0.028537752650126882,0.03666247845256351,0.0,0.0,0.0790218678270786,0.029603585125742838,0.0,0.0424627496745492,0.038752873455720586,0.08487094304321166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0557429897316672,0.029794893404163563,0.06480039162958345,0.034128424406717095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750501208574123,0.0,0.02942887781425192,0.1945386246896164,0.042605698976608784,0.03513735518917993,0.03542129785357052,0.041185348272697285,0.025167616528525262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03201596704312683,0.0,0.030586048782081012,0.10932214667024336,0.0,0.08920425213072798,0.045140412122014494,0.0,0.034363605820075575,0.0,0.04138654160624035,0.0,0.0357334754520478,0.0,0.13493443330926205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053892338494127,0.047742818415622765 divorce,PandaBeastMode,2019/02/01,"I was beaten My husband and I have been headed for divorce for a while. Together for almost 10 years. He's never hit me before. Lots of verbal and emotional abuse but not physical. Tonight we were talking about money. I was being really calm, which I think made him madder, and he lost it. He told me he wanted to kill me. He grabbed my neck, slammed me backward, threw me on the ground, and punched my head so many times. I was screaming. My son came in and saw it but ran when I screamed at him to get his brother and run outside. I had my phone and had used the emergency alert when he grabbed my neck (press power 5 times) so 911 heard it. When he got off me 911 talked me out and I got my kids into the car. He was arrested and I'm in the hospital with a hamburger face and a brain bleed. My kids are with a friend. My family is flying here. I want him to be in jail as long as it's possible. My amazing lawyer texted me, called me, and got a restraining order in. There will also be a criminal restraining order because it's a DV charge. I'm smart. I have a good job. We live in a nice neighborhood. My iPhone button may have saved my life, my kids are going to be so scarred, and I don't know if I can deal with going back to my house. I'm brain dumping but this is the only place I could think of to do that. I can't believe this is happening. And I'm so grateful for the kind police officers and paramedics and nurses and doctors. I'll take any advice or kind words. And I'll probably delete this tomorrow but God if it can be a warning to others to be careful maybe I should leave it up. 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Wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be. The facilitator was very helpful and my STBX was completely silent. In that moment, it became very real. This is happening. Let the countdown begin. 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Wife called it an found out it was a divorce attorny. Title says it best. Lately there has been a lot of stress because wife wants to enroll our child in a new private school that is more expensive than the one she is currently attending. We are not affording the one she is currently in. Apparently this new school is the ONLY one that she can go to. Wife has been harassing me about enrolling for 2 weeks. Day and night. Calling me at work several times, making promises. Begging, pleading. If you read me post history you will get a feel for the problems that I have had. Wife is sporadically working and when she does she puts her paycheck in another bank account. She claims that she is not working but I've caught her her in that lie before. Tired of it. Apparently I got careless and left contact info lying around. She called it and found out it is a divorce attorny. She called me crying and vented. Asking if I had gone to see her. Yeah I lied and said no. It's going to be an ugly evening. Then again it's been an ugly marriage.",2.042515503875972,4.607270869767441,3.2163081395348847,87.9590358527132,82.16279069767442,5.815891472868217,24.30717054263566,7.1686216300943375,1.153624031007752,867,33,167,12,24,279,124,215,0.17600000000000002,0.7879999999999999,0.036000000000000004,-0.9867,5,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,2,2,0,4,7,7,1,1,13,1,20,1,0,1,0,27,35,13,0,4,5,4,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,14,13,0,0,4,1,3,6,3,5,0,3,13,4,26,2,19,20,3,30,0,0,1,0,35,11,0,3,12,117,40,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12302708527801336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20889095352466444,0.10968445754427092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715211571242609,0.0,0.0998362263401655,0.0,0.1231269434385539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4792139760134482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887767212187576,0.07566589870886793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267322760901884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749305940460889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059323813379393416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2572849449393532,0.0,0.0,0.06129826381306031,0.0,0.13335872931403306,0.0,0.18767347078544888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234942405091213,0.0,0.2549512128260909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09974681099522968,0.0,0.0,0.07831636262717875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22662936671921324,0.0,0.11010299036101104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385104575500525,0.08923210479367713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236637335652358,0.0,0.0,0.1122656335902265,0.0,0.11794555760682204,0.0,0.0,0.11735826943108847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160438727005613,0.09330275721644384,0.0,0.2374814024062961,0.09349404549370696,0.0,0.0,0.13254557103990716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13439713134866854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06841403686548363,0.13484957440222378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06920222085460173,0.0,0.09411225668269974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562453100081617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thedodobirdy,2019/02/01,"First night ... in my house. My own house, that I bought without my ex. The kids are away tonight, so it's just me and cheap wine and a mountain of boxes, as I try to find a new place for everything. I never wanted this. We had a real chance, but more ""if only"" than we could overcome. Those who have been here... When do you stop mourning the ""if onlys""? 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Just wondering if anyone can tell me if this will come to bite me in the butt, I'm hoping it's all on her. Need a little advice ☹ ",3.338181818181816,5.563379181818185,4.656818181818182,81.2677272727273,75.36363636363637,7.581818181818183,26.90909090909091,8.472884824447931,2.1514727272727274,360,14,65,7,8,119,71,88,0.045,0.921,0.033,-0.25,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,1,13,14,4,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,11,1,10,8,4,14,0,0,0,1,10,5,1,7,6,46,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29350454822655986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21001599987158184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821944848894819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587302231472274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15692368876525722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983214227777101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010357631922396,0.2652199783844929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227102753573796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29656545747116075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2398648049937993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26252450903717744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514008326556554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32572342638884755,0.21866285042976047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thornycrowned,2019/02/01,"Need Advice. Waffling on decision 34f married to 40m for 8 years with one little who is 3. We've known each other for years. Met in 2001 and began dating. He was my first love and sexual partner. Dated off and on until 2009 when we moved in together. Married in 2011. He is was my best friend for the longest time. He definitely knows me the best. He's a great father and he's generally very supportive and caring. About 2 years ago we began to fight a lot. He stopped wanting to do the things we used to do as a couple. We rarely talk about any subject outside of our child or work. We work together actually... I'm his boss. Our working relationship is ok. A few weeks ago I had enough. I told him that I wasn't sure if I was in love with him anymore and I wanted to consider separation. Lots of reasons leading to that feeling, like lack of intimacy and sex, sex is a chore for me when it happens, he is constantly on his computer instead of spending time with me, different interests, divergent ideas on religion that used to be the same, his constant shitty attitude, blames me for career decisions he made, different opinions on my role in the relationship (he thinks I should be more like his mom who was stay at home and did everything for him), my feeling trapped because he gets mad when I'm gone from the house for more than an hour, his inability to make it through a few hours parenting alone because he'd rather be on his computer than entertaining the little, I contribute financially to the house but I still have to ask him for money when I want to get a haircut, I want my independence back, I am tired of feeling like I'm his maid, and most important I don't want my son to think this is what relationships look like. He's changed. So have I. As I get older I stopped feeling like I had to please everyone and that my happiness matters too. After having my child I see being his mother as my most important priority. When it's just me and the little I feel content, happy, free. When my SO is around I feel depressed, anxious, lonely. I've asked him to go to counseling twice in the last 6 months and he said sure but nothing comes from it. I started individual counseling to help work though why I am compelled to leave. Sometimes I leave more confused. Even on good days I still feel like this. Is this acceptance of the situation? Not sure. The articles and posts I read about when you know it's over offer no real help. I'm 80% sure, but the 20% comes up when I think about how sad he will be. He's always had trouble sleeping when I'm not in the bed. I worry about his health and his emotional stability. The day I told him I wasn't sure if I was in love with him anymore, he made me feel so guilty by saying I was the only person who loved him because I wanted to. That no one loves him and if I wasn't in love with him then his life was wasted. I don't want to be the only person responsible for his happiness. As the weeks have gone on I still feel the same but when I feel most empowered I start stressing about him and how he will get along without me, then I retreat. That's not fair to me or him. I'm a portion of the strong, independent, driven woman I once was. I changed a lot of what I wanted in life to make sure he was happy. I felt like I had to pleasw him. Now I'm resentful and feeling like I'm lost. I see who I want to be and what I want did my happiness and in that picture it is not with him. I'm alone, but I'm ok.",2.8090872720043762,4.338745567988672,4.400016400775312,85.57740991998409,74.90651558073655,7.787247154713981,26.26698474230903,8.479577106124081,1.7080863078375828,2705,98,574,50,57,907,290,706,0.123,0.68,0.197,0.9952,4,5,0,0,1,0,76.0,7,1,0,11,33,49,3,2,30,2,48,13,1,14,6,122,125,52,0,17,17,5,12,8,2,3,4,2,4,6,25,35,0,2,23,2,3,8,12,10,0,4,31,17,99,40,90,83,19,83,0,4,3,8,90,27,0,13,54,376,124,10,0.0,0.0,0.05022567655993227,0.0,0.0,0.05029426729457834,0.09124715800585824,0.0,0.0,0.10661135877309433,0.0,0.0,0.04282578287538262,0.0,0.0,0.0350002369031376,0.0,0.0,0.05814457561285045,0.1020855289197892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04581773554092716,0.09623190251022684,0.0,0.0,0.03957597738930984,0.0,0.0941238691501372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802569737447748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247540398232625,0.0,0.10889336094557234,0.08867083715587214,0.0,0.11123798462888362,0.0,0.0,0.05694874053331218,0.0,0.06638564433763572,0.0,0.04432960681078342,0.0,0.0,0.10754692403678304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057894956338657474,0.0,0.0531805547574772,0.0,0.03399435391670519,0.0,0.0,0.04918020559123408,0.04625642632322032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28626333706815826,0.18384496598880445,0.04941767881278792,0.0,0.0,0.043778944685218035,0.0,0.0,0.039764312695791525,0.0,0.10756033588302494,0.0,0.02925064436102068,0.04316920265341668,0.0,0.056744027811432625,0.0,0.0,0.045513284097607735,0.2739450309931811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470843986886832,0.0,0.0,0.06899628832668409,0.0,0.05162694264034217,0.0,0.1013718970397754,0.11877511081885872,0.0,0.058101492404550335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0565713085596405,0.0419535674210596,0.0,0.10899508366125872,0.0,0.0,0.07270722290061006,0.20115865373645614,0.15475439713660769,0.0,0.0,0.04322044392874458,0.0,0.056183774237499116,0.13126962934823302,0.2787131240487096,0.0974011776874188,0.06871103474484831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060279099100452004,0.04108153886522402,0.05470270139145941,0.0,0.03816312280594358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049385261437346235,0.0,0.0,0.054812103574353004,0.06975255994181377,0.07828798538591122,0.0,0.0,0.05714950197386157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988034052248654,0.0,0.05649678292430318,0.0,0.0,0.049292443653232654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05148226920894014,0.0585822400767294,0.0,0.05291802673704636,0.0,0.16577321070187848,0.0,0.0,0.04895817856030694,0.04092969066635625,0.0,0.0,0.08202720852775063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0578525718858019,0.05150551096532016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050903505434358634,0.0,0.07285911353688387,0.05485840357974496,0.12330805116799587,0.08605967559375356,0.05895681088808358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05840566360376941,0.2910498145574913,0.0,0.0,0.041368303026140016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034193278885447355,0.09893650441532212,0.05056738385580031,0.0,0.06002320723802644,0.059155286847193726,0.0,0.09836041118246816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890424331103018,0.0,0.04246677164525834,0.3035736110598588,0.0,0.08256959748788084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04644217249489186,0.0,0.0,0.04961364421162452,0.0,0.14987826135381974,0.05226859876535479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943177272435552 divorce,bowlofoniondespair,2019/02/01,"Finding a new normal? Hi there, first time poster on a throwaway. I've been trying to write in a journal to work out all of the feelings I'm having through the process but I thought posting here might help the forever alone aspect of the journaling. We were together for almost 10 years, married for 4. It's been over a year since I discovered that pretty much everything my husband presented himself as was a lie. I spent a year with him after that trying desperately to get to know this new person, but the more time I spent with him in counseling, on vacations, on helping him feel better about himself the more I got to know who he actually is and it just makes me even sadder because there's not an ounce of the person I fell in love with in there. It's like talking to a jerk that won't stop wearing my husband. One therapist actually asked me in our individual session to either leave or stop seeing her because after spending a handful of sessions with him she was confident that I barely registered to him as a person if at all. He moved out a few months ago, waiting on the final divorce order. No kids, he took the dog and the video games. I didn't care then and I don't care now. That's really it. I don't care about anything. Before I found out what a creep he is, I had goals. I wanted a house, I wanted to do well at work, I wanted to help people, but I wanted him to be happy. My whole life revolved around this perpetually unhappy person who made me happy and me trying to make him happy. I think I always knew deep down that he was unhappy because he was stuck spending his life with someone that didn't make him happy, so I tried to make everything else in his life happy. I don't have any experience doing anything else. My job feels stupid and meaningless. I struggle to do laundry and clean up after myself because who cares. I used to love doing chores because I used to love the feeling of a clean home and now a clean apartment just looks empty and sad. For all intents and purposes I don't have family. I have no friends, partly because I'm really shy and awkward and partly because he would get pissy and bored if I wasn't around and would be pissy when I got home. If we did things he didn't want to do, he'd go along and be pissy and whine the whole time while telling me he wasn't being pissy and whiny. When we did do things he wanted to do, he would ignore me - walk ahead of me, look everywhere except at me, basically leaving me out of the whole experience. I'm bitter, sure, but I'm sad because the whole time I wrote it off as someone who just didn't know how to husband well but deep down was a kind soul who supported me and my goals. i literally could not have been more wrong if I tried. I feel stupid for complaining here. I don't have kids, I had a great job that I quit because I just don't have the energy for stupid pissing contests with manbabies over technical decisions, I have a comfy apartment and enough savings to figure out what to do next. I have it good. What I don't have are any of the things that used to actually matter to me - the friends I do have are mostly married and are treating me like politely but as if divorce is contagious (anyone who has ever been laid off can probably relate), my husband is an untrustworthy creep who won't go away and still wants to play happy couple instead of moving on (he did something so insanely ridiculously a dealbreaker it's not worth mentioning. Let's just say I've made peace with it and if my nudes end up on the internet somewhere then oh well enjoy the show boys and ask me how I got that scar sometime), the things that used to make me happy (gaming, volunteering, mentoring) just feel exhausting and draining, I have no motivation to do anything for myself or anyone. I feel dumb but everything I've tried just feels like not only making it not better but actively worse. I feel like I got pushed on stage and there's an audience and everyone is expecting the usual song and dance and is staring at me waiting to start the show and every time I try they just look more and more confused like ""well that's weird"" even though to me it feels like the same song and dance that I've always done. I make poor financial decisions, I'm a mess, I'm clumsy, I say awkward obnoxious things, things i never felt self-conscious about or struggled with before I'm finding insurmountably difficult. I guess my question is - if you found your happy post divorce what helped you find it? How did you get into a new routine and activities after losing the relationship?",6.137112820512817,6.100577060000006,6.6704444444444455,78.06569230769234,66.17777777777778,9.634188034188037,31.64102564102564,9.316499836019103,2.660579487179488,3614,129,696,61,52,1183,348,900,0.153,0.6729999999999999,0.174,0.9868,2,1,1,0,3,0,79.0,4,4,1,11,39,63,8,5,47,0,77,11,4,18,6,162,155,64,0,20,33,4,12,6,2,6,4,4,6,7,43,51,0,5,27,10,6,10,24,25,4,2,39,22,99,38,100,103,20,89,1,4,5,4,81,38,2,16,43,481,142,10,0.0,0.0,0.1283047420838159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03884946198734565,0.0,0.04388581196338683,0.0453909362284871,0.0,0.0,0.07293415642769628,0.0,0.0,0.059606913917439004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06128888008176885,0.0,0.10819618642416168,0.07802958093792803,0.08194354148106152,0.0,0.041176348360847666,0.0,0.0,0.2404455167632982,0.0,0.07458608209021779,0.0,0.0,0.07752178400036715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787357552243857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034991816664192536,0.048493081404991915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04484962654233085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322267216686139,0.0,0.0388171847540468,0.04528438990689269,0.0,0.05789385178162475,0.03964349068537175,0.036925634803394114,0.04187800627223539,0.11816503540849105,0.08574126365893697,0.041315632364021526,0.0,0.2215994622805603,0.09392877332953248,0.042080219844589636,0.04800968234507736,0.12016961527010545,0.03727871606226448,0.0,0.09610677770631744,0.06772034059094305,0.0,0.06869246020734306,0.0,0.04981510968860562,0.03675950756516185,0.14020791261145715,0.04831876410501694,0.04827972401352427,0.0,0.0,0.3732321681298537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750365662647215,0.0,0.08792291133056787,0.0,0.0,0.05056978489679393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698188504327173,0.0,0.0,0.045638454608369586,0.07225753490276557,0.0,0.0,0.09281166563530173,0.0,0.04481546646830961,0.0928676537663136,0.12846820069604276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.110409421850366,0.049030534675125664,0.0,0.0,0.11866511960196645,0.08293920452507983,0.2047812505658372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0464928878277869,0.0,0.0,0.034981816801871624,0.09316106122126816,0.03221744898671644,0.0,0.03380162385931481,0.1269834395526389,0.04660987686421098,0.0,0.042940569781748913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02969790495618028,0.03333195442778133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09491944734512807,0.0,0.0303837096296789,0.15307009878877953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394715880780391,0.044587207798085685,0.04725227506036817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04909560158147167,0.04661477436309451,0.0,0.0,0.0561526320911341,0.0,0.0,0.04705315532325508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0697050295679055,0.0,0.0,0.034923969022929234,0.0,0.04572049658493227,0.0,0.0,0.03625365350871741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426793819761936,0.033739706247297975,0.04334543327404882,0.0,0.031020553665914125,0.0,0.034999822104246965,0.07328167076520184,0.0,0.09163374444125408,0.0,0.0,0.04973368283699666,0.04130586622891248,0.0,0.0,0.03522600267269346,0.038306208009730766,0.0,0.0,0.05088583188351493,0.17469788876461584,0.028082189454398453,0.04305921849706936,0.034793268580526074,0.12777764036237532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04869274639281343,0.20828675590518714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15140776311318538,0.04826859123356503,0.0,0.180949636233752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576207987959104,0.0,0.0,0.1957224555844508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06381228680920505,0.0,0.0446628489222748,0.09339905789910843,0.04791729177258136,0.0,0.08466830001524514 divorce,Hippie4love,2019/02/01,"Ex never filed an answer per his request - still got a court date. . . We’ve been separated for 19 months. Lived apart 18 months. Was amicable initially and was understood a divorce was imminent. Due to financial reasons we stayed married. Finally graduated College, got a job and was able to be way more independent (also agreed on). We’ve talked about the divorce before and steps but neither of us acted on it. Fast forward- October let him know I would finally being filing for the divorce and paying for it. Previous agreement was we would split it. He has a lot of financial issues so I knew the likes of him having it would be slim and slow the process. What was once amicable turned into a stalling match. I noticed this and also wanted us to work on coparenting better (we have a 3 year old). He was reluctant and the session was mostly about his feelings and gas lighting. No progression on communicating better for our child’s sake and ours. At first he was on board to divorce after the session. Once he understood his reigns of control were ending. That lasted about 3 days. Went back to stalling and wouldn’t talk to me about anything. Went ahead and filled out the uncontested paperwork and asked him to do the child support calculator online as did I. He said he would but never did. Basically never filled out the paperwork. Said his lawyer said he would’ve given up major rights to our son had he ( it was the same agreement we have now just in legal form). So I was confused. Suggested talking to a therapist again so we could go over what the issues were or his lawyer. He wouldn’t answer me back (only wants to text me, will not talk to me on the phone). Well he eventually responded after I reached out again. Told me to file my own paperwork and he would contest it and file his own with his own terms. This hurt me and I felt defeated. I knew he was only using custody as a stalling tactic. Why ? Bc I know him. 2. He never even filed an answer back with his proposal for custody. I didn’t think we would be able to move forward without him answering or me filing a petition. But the court gave us a court date anyways. Clerks office said regardless if he answered or not - I filed a complaint so I would get my day in court. It’s been a rough four months. I’m looking forward to the end of this. And a new beginning!",2.902407819846573,5.381863358574614,4.043426874536007,83.8447493194754,77.99777282850779,7.1091512001979735,26.013412521653056,8.167268648758528,1.8615917941103688,1844,72,346,35,45,599,219,449,0.053,0.871,0.076,0.8816,2,0,0,0,4,0,54.0,12,0,0,8,21,10,0,1,29,0,41,0,0,4,4,78,72,31,0,14,11,2,3,1,0,10,0,4,0,2,13,28,0,1,15,0,1,11,12,3,1,2,36,9,46,7,51,20,11,65,0,2,1,0,62,20,0,7,39,238,59,10,0.15751274329604734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259628839060623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06480978338856512,0.0,0.07362657616221033,0.0,0.0,0.18167636536989004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670158715916064,0.0,0.0,0.1393072213080413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08833196759346677,0.06288055429666055,0.0,0.0,0.1015826887218178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950953830116994,0.0,0.0,0.05201784070448858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03982158786943649,0.0,0.07561846743043885,0.17254751111875288,0.0,0.06699012949109782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04114695363672589,0.0,0.044759060948868695,0.0,0.1259773298767884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431032472723128,0.0,0.0,0.16440238090561465,0.07815354655316158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08656488440139963,0.06419695436603895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053372591753491,0.0,0.038476385049232814,0.0,0.06954331904882104,0.0,0.06613551688528813,0.0,0.0,0.06695585082064774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1885877534095168,0.08370555928370872,0.0,0.0,0.2429670759650441,0.07606339449967582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966465111499157,0.08264156379690919,0.1677459309504635,0.0,0.11979553907269445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097466690934367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725751106990838,0.2996613778596309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08394381330811004,0.0628949401318643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08937179724094862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25320555316938115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144221763016994,0.0,0.05046390290914488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07525508813984733,0.0,0.0,0.08566431689162242,0.0,0.0,0.2842026542288869,0.06802021856096639,0.0,0.0,0.09290509701046634,0.06251314200684603,0.0,0.0,0.0708114363715757,0.14601589108808344,0.07106537564235059,0.0,0.0,0.07591833184101864,0.0,0.0573355765436205,0.0,0.0,0.4475701343045129,0.0,0.0,0.050716521212254916 divorce,more_than_a_feelin,2019/02/01,"I'm so tired of crying I can't seem to bust out of all this, sometimes I. Any help but just lay down and cry. I can't believe I cared for someone so much for so long. I really gave all of myself and he just took it right now I am looking at our wedding pictures and I feel so embarrassed and sad- I was so excited to be a good wife. I was so excited to add to his life and take care of him, grow with him... But he never really did that. He never really was a husband. I can't believe how screwed I am now because another person just didn't love me like I loved them. Even now, he's still messing up my credit and just won't see all the ways he's been so wrong. I wasted my youth building a life I will not have. I gave my whole self away. He never did, so now he gets to go start over while I am in a shell of our life.",0.7787681159420288,1.855376586956524,3.1103043478260908,94.61150724637685,79.32608695652173,6.4284057971014485,20.96231884057971,7.03164865440522,0.2320192753623189,628,16,158,7,15,217,104,184,0.183,0.675,0.142,-0.8585,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,2,0,1,0,19,14,1,1,5,0,17,7,0,1,6,25,33,18,0,0,7,2,1,1,0,2,4,0,0,2,3,9,0,0,2,0,1,3,9,5,0,0,10,3,27,9,20,20,5,24,0,1,2,3,23,8,1,1,13,109,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480357456803973,0.1461835311230172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098027580069432,0.0,0.0,0.08498303666060346,0.0,0.0,0.3141346406970873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842755543737765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3062706582232127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920789843609826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048988033720781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728359664512416,0.0,0.07922991068653717,0.1169304863313404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344357844489884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954081988202981,0.06810867981511085,0.0,0.0,0.12337345520905316,0.11706928127949902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516459199211349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1024823842292762,0.0,0.3225647386314205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12172742699579403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679288304214352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190553707361082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11109171349025394,0.12691362008826534,0.14543502497985594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812163311599748,0.0,0.1378800459715809,0.0,0.0986751092895608,0.0,0.11133299903175607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048189635725272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602312768119855,0.0,0.0,0.15488962974891324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065716198995487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556462765237347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242294039756962,0.0,0.0 divorce,imaravennnn,2019/02/01,"Help, really need advice Yesterday my husband called my mom stating he will be divorcing me. He didn’t not discuss this with me prior to calling her. He did it on purpose because my mom and I have a horrible relationship. We are a military family and live on the opposite side of the country from any family. I have no income and in school full time. My mom does not want me in her home, and I don’t really have any friends I can stay with. We’ve only been married about a year. I did not see this coming. I’m very confused, stressed, angry, sad. I have no idea what to do. Any advice will be super helpful. 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Very good experience and got all my questions answered. 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I was told today that my parents are separating. If it was only that I would still be ok, very sad but I would be fine. Unfortunately there is a third person involved. I'm so sick to my stomach, I feel i might pass out. I'm not going to be specific because for some reason I feel so ashame. I need to vent. I really do hate those who get involved with married people. Always have but now I'm with reason. There are so many single people. It's such a heartless thing to do to a whole family. Yes, I'm not a child but this makes me so sick. I'm not sure who I'm mad at. It really sucks. It's like a stranger took away future family moments. I can't stop crying. I'm so disappointed in my parent. I feel broken. 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But she refuses to leave. She is taking some course right now, so she doesn't want to leave for financial reasons. What can I do to make her leave? If I leave, I will be breaking my lease and may be required to pay 6m of rent. Which I can't afford for sure. I want to stay where I am, and I can afford the rent, but she can't. And she knows this so she refuses to leave. What can be done? Also, if she leaves, and since we are having divorce, is she automatically entitled to some sort of payment from me?? Plz help",0.2851378446115298,2.4364748571428616,2.152210526315791,95.42480701754387,86.14285714285714,5.050426065162909,18.64110275689223,6.42735559955562,-0.17557604010025066,488,13,113,5,15,161,77,133,0.041,0.818,0.141,0.831,4,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,1,1,20,0,0,2,1,25,26,13,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,0,5,7,0,3,2,0,3,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,22,2,14,19,2,6,0,0,0,0,20,2,0,6,1,78,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984267883399558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259532612585211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249772574993912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764138205190172,0.0,0.0,0.9122653865353564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215665273957583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12654642627471335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10510938779850378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181279631502756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118657954969967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11600115679289567,0.0,0.09254061385607466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21778678057192694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Yolo1920,2019/02/01,"This is crazy! I’m currently married but my wife just got married to another man at the same county Clerk office we did. How is that possible for her to do, and what can I do?",2.0490990990990987,3.4126526486486526,4.209189189189189,86.8518018018018,76.56756756756756,8.176576576576577,25.84684684684685,8.841846274778883,1.8574036036036048,136,5,30,3,3,47,32,37,0.055,0.945,0.0,-0.2481,1,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,6,8,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,4,6,1,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,1,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6043836867318997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4609829775238609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6497807735271892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Binnub19069,2019/02/01,"Need advice saw notifications on stbx phone I didn't mean to see it my kid had her old phone but I saw the subreddit she was on. I told her I had the phone and the subreddit I saw. I did NOT read any of her posts or messages. I quickly closed all notifications on the phone and powered it down. I never once looked thru her phone during our marriage. She feels hurt and betrayed now. Is there anyway i can reassure her i didn't snoop thru her thing? We are still going thru a divorce and were trying to keep things as friendly as possible.",1.476345565749238,3.86790531192661,2.8919495412844043,90.50715978593271,83.03669724770644,5.835168195718657,21.00993883792049,7.1686216300943375,0.5557516819571869,425,13,90,6,12,138,69,109,0.092,0.84,0.068,-0.5719,1,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,5,0,10,0,0,0,2,15,21,8,0,1,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,1,2,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,11,6,21,2,12,10,1,12,0,1,5,0,22,5,0,1,5,66,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342525638176553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16301848440824435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121012853205256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18520783179677094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623895532177632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566262633793714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21307501843417595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013052449963227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611264200299952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775006658748993,0.18488759541268326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25154683943684064,0.25529501633509594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702493822745968,0.22958643049665825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397858484091088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19102658149771265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914414814997908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185199298096384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2290636660705041,0.0,0.16275480735100992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,craftcorners,2019/02/01,"Question about child support. Hello everyone, I got divorced in South Carolina and my ex wife and I now live in Alabama. Until what age do I have to pay for child support? Thank you for your answers. 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I can’t really explain it, or identify them perfectly, there’s so much. Part of me misses her, wishes it was us going somewhere. Part of me is excited to go, part of me realizes how much I missed out on by not going on these trips while I was married. It keeps hitting me how alone and isolated I was in my marriage. And that makes me realize what a bad friend I was to so many people for so many years. So first the sadness, then the shame, what a wonderful cycle. My friends are going to be so happy they invited me on this trip. 😂",2.340860139860144,3.993861100000004,4.268321678321681,85.5103146853147,76.46153846153847,7.804195804195802,27.202797202797203,8.575989854853784,2.0191538461538463,493,20,102,10,11,168,81,130,0.158,0.6679999999999999,0.174,0.6532,0,1,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,2,2,8,13,0,1,5,0,8,0,0,3,1,19,25,13,0,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,2,4,0,0,7,2,7,0,1,4,0,18,6,18,18,5,17,0,5,0,0,9,6,0,2,4,78,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15788661047190802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272848570659454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966928225908042,0.0,0.0,0.35333491411431306,0.0,0.07964600136996194,0.0,0.4331888407979196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16228009059031254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27099949502840204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175794120559946,0.3091097549176563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412861426602956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952478750520982,0.0,0.10568587752508153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976599018063562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833720602818191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530374415434505,0.0,0.16531964465353885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09816931172142966 divorce,evieinthebath,2019/02/01,"Is divorce the right path? I (33F) am considering filing for divorce from my husband (42M). We have been married for 18 months, together for 4 years. He was married before - a fact I found out from his still-then-wife when we were engaged... - and neither of us have children. The house was his before we met, and I wouldn't want to claim any of it. I am a foreigner in the UK, he is a Brit, and I would return home. We have no shared debt. The reasons for wanting to leave are complicated by my bipolar (affective) and his ex-wife's abuse of him (and me, but that is a whole other thread!). He doesn't deal with any form of difficult situation; just sticks his head in the proverbial sand. He also is increasingly incredibly selfish. We have no sex life to speak of (I have been reading r/DeadBedrooms with fascinated familiarity). I just don't know whether divorce is the right solution for us. We have tried couple's counselling, and individual therapy, and nothing has changed. He is my best friend, but also the cause of so much emotional exhaustion and pain. Any advice or words of wisdom from those who have gone through this would be hugely appreciated.",5.376712328767127,6.524381648401826,5.945095890410961,78.443397260274,68.1324200913242,8.945022831050231,31.951598173515983,9.21078282632365,2.735526392694064,907,38,173,17,15,294,135,219,0.113,0.757,0.13,0.8443,1,0,0,0,4,0,44.0,8,0,0,1,6,9,0,0,11,0,28,6,1,3,1,35,34,16,0,5,6,1,1,0,1,3,4,1,1,1,6,17,0,0,3,1,1,2,6,4,0,0,8,2,24,5,25,22,6,12,0,0,0,1,29,6,0,1,4,119,30,1,0.0,0.1698707742425937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010013833211693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22930691149537225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924908719556017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439957241261944,0.0,0.15045865025673774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728114919595975,0.15166713576487867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15863689552978028,0.0,0.0,0.14780884314290474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16127268231725786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1571985158807773,0.11076780732746634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471396477178948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14381245009917673,0.0,0.0,0.16543047897159088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879275890841818,0.0,0.0,0.15180881559546167,0.0,0.0,0.10126692895690716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443708373766408,0.0,0.10539392303116547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756800389228085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15255647830730798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14340944655935595,0.0,0.0,0.14740890492945025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.244875500783358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611546158252376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11449598503222287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395683135075534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09733925918455616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3449144745876833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691274460938463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16006820890632442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20369279027359066,0.0,0.0,0.09232599699483376 divorce,aalmosawi,2019/02/01,"i am literally going through hell. i feel like i am in a well and theres no rope or someone to pull me out. ive been with my wife for 4 and a half years and now she wants to split up. divorce. absolutely abandoning everything we had built. she had left to her parents house since the 27th of december and today is the first of February. thats 34 days. she has told me that she will not return to me at all and that i should live a new life. the original plan was 7-10 days. this all came after discovering in june of 2018 that she had an emotional affair over whatsapp which i stumbled upon by literally by accident. i still have the evidence of her chats and picture swapping with said person. they are nothing long but a mere chat conversation from icloud backup of four days. yes she had sent her pics to him and he has done so too. there are also call logs of phone conversations. just logs of incoming/outgoing calls. most of the voice messages in the chat conversation on whatsapp were from her side where she was telling the guy how much she loved him and so on. after i confronted her with the evidence she denied it. as the saying goes, no thief will admit their crime. even though she denied it i still decided to continue with her and believe her lie and even worse i have the evidence on my laptop staring at me. its now february and as i said its been 34 days since she went to visit her daughter because she was married at the age of 19 in 2007 and has a daughter that lives with her grandparents. furthermore she was also married and divorced in 2014 for a year and a half. so i am the third husband. i live with her up north with my elderly mother of 70 years old in a huge house and that is not a problem in middle eastern environments. about a week ago i discovered (facebook) and found a chat conversation with many guys one of which was a doctor who we used to visit because we were struggling to have a kid. he recommended IVF at the time. (side note: i am born with a single kidney and my semen volume is 1ml and have an enlarged prostate. still though i function 100% normally in bed and i can go with having sex 4 times a day without any problems.) anyways, in this chat conversation with this doctor i found flirting from his side and she was asking him for money as a loan because she wants to divorce me. she comes from a poor family and i can only assume she wants the money for a lawyer. yes. those words were written from her side. i am divorcing him. his reply to her was ""good riddance"". this chat conversation was on the 12th to 14th of january. its like i have cancer and i refuse to get rid of it. she is literally flirting and betraying me and yet i see myself as the one at fault. i feel my conscious eating me alive. and for what? i have never cheated in my life on any partner and have always been faithful. i remember talking about this story in its origins of july 2018 in /r/DeadBedrooms. but now its evolved dramatically. right now i am taking 1mg of xanax at night to sleep but i dont wanna take it throughout the day because it makes me sleepy and many times i almost drive into other cars. still though, xanax helps. i have lost 5 kg in 2 weeks (i weigh 80kg - 5'10"" -- 75kg now). whats even worse is i keep wanting to beg/call and hear her voice. she doesnt answer the phone. and want to fix what i have NOT done. its her the one cheating. its her the one thats now refusing but living with someone for 4 years you know sometimes they are stuborn and i use that as an excuse. whats funny is she doesnt block my phone number, she doesnt block me on whatsapp and yet she doesnt answer when i feel the need to talk and to whom? this is my WIFE. no girlfriend, not friend, not acquaintance .... WIFE. evidence? i have. plenty. yet i sit here and cry at why this is happening to me. everyone in my family knows and sees i have not lacked with her in anything. clothes, food, living situation, going out, everything is top class. her last excuse when we had a phone conversation about a week ago is shes tired of me. i asked if i had cheated/betrayed/flirted/ lacked in money matters and she says no. i am devastated, cant stop eating at myself. please help!",2.35295222539812,4.483443807646356,3.5986561408284565,88.13275214373215,78.06810035842294,6.627460943998308,23.61763682833508,7.6739169115481065,1.1082416375542543,3285,109,674,50,79,1068,359,837,0.113,0.7929999999999999,0.094,-0.9822,2,0,0,0,3,0,99.0,4,1,3,4,38,20,4,1,44,2,70,17,3,6,3,118,110,57,0,14,14,8,3,2,3,3,8,7,1,5,37,57,4,7,14,6,5,12,18,11,1,9,32,13,118,9,111,75,7,112,2,2,3,3,121,48,1,5,53,481,155,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543846402256552,0.0,0.06520181318195191,0.0,0.0,0.10414256240804146,0.05417968848279814,0.0,0.0,0.08855889162629528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05358290237486738,0.0,0.12174475631379825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877045919399402,0.0,0.0,0.07336067159997431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329764262825835,0.07447255302738334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608955647808637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152417552156133,0.2519571124064922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133292951957313,0.0,0.1332675340965796,0.0763125938919928,0.0,0.0,0.13325483144463965,0.0,0.07324397800925518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290206540350107,0.0,0.0,0.06221878596373993,0.11703971767718395,0.0,0.12276651712132265,0.0,0.09877009968205017,0.0465171320528489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538555108385915,0.07873556129728752,0.14278729013273322,0.05030656604362919,0.0,0.03401914162436289,0.0,0.11101659045062284,0.05461415518354378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894530028879894,0.0575796958905085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338770145882577,0.0,0.08728847803872558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502645852943581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05787591368635234,0.0,0.0,0.0715694067693839,0.05307623261037163,0.0,0.0,0.07074606095601961,0.0,0.0919832498723288,0.06362238156144202,0.0,0.28748228126887226,0.05762344141137193,0.0,0.0,0.0710791299445303,0.0,0.0587675197165194,0.0,0.043463799233271344,0.132029836390277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047865950202390574,0.04828087115589757,0.050219582719817295,0.06288707088158947,0.0,0.06110465434681776,0.06379745260659615,0.06247820590000264,0.0,0.0683257158643344,0.0,0.1764905024397133,0.04952178775688788,0.0,0.0,0.07230088993120863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05685463899639956,0.0,0.07147512301236986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460974425970694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376095731353371,0.0556066146376184,0.12387579093655683,0.10356181445431006,0.0,0.0,0.10377413573685536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077252003545332,0.07319035665552742,0.06516057271780715,0.0,0.11034099667131284,0.0,0.06439896440752066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2079990557446254,0.054437842130849484,0.0,0.06807081855071917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09791456996948934,0.1046716076406688,0.056912111377663215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919211923809712,0.0,0.1139047012645762,0.07483844540139975,0.06172003044284612,0.06221878596373993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124743993917582,0.0,0.0,0.1920282896716844,0.0,0.1566904830342852,0.0,0.05854489991694261,0.06036091179663225,0.05875484974926185,0.0,0.0,0.06276713716370518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13271253743845127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772396158871414 divorce,chalknightmare,2019/02/01,"child of divorce looking for advice hi! tomorrow my mother will be delivering a letter to my dad saying she wants out of their 26 year long marriage after a series of events. my mother got me and my sister out of the house w/ her and are currently living with my grandmother. my dad has possessive tendencies and we’re worried about how he’s going to react- how do i support my mom and younger sister through this? i keep pretending i don’t really mind but the more i think about it, it kinda stings. what are some things i can do to make it easier on my mom, even though it’s hard?",2.486643356643356,4.6353590940170974,4.190660450660449,83.96216783216785,77.71794871794873,7.673348873348875,22.602175602175606,8.575989854853784,1.5938273504273504,462,14,90,10,11,155,82,117,0.041,0.892,0.066,0.5792,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,4,0,18,17,8,0,1,1,8,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,7,7,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,17,1,16,14,2,10,0,0,1,0,18,3,0,2,6,64,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161449527300948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460943446572176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257077492690538,0.0,0.17690637674265666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19814338485072747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2552243237095679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19660442147078827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19531540494814534,0.19574677340273464,0.1857444458875585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476464829477903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233395119647508,0.5181116547286656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14170040053779706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17589969056554167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2510045394411665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14694924582743996,0.14173004347181234,0.21731870014487206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046398196501946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246298518126293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243953284971522 divorce,Immediate_Departure,2019/02/01,"My first ‘relationship’ since starting the divorce process ended tonight. My first ‘relationship’ since starting the divorce process ended tonight. &#x200B; The woman who I had been seeing the last 5 weeks told me there was “No Spark”. It wasn’t totally unexpected, but it did hit me a bit by surprise. From my vantage it seemed like we were having fun and getting to know one another. We had just had sex last week for the first time and she told me then and even tonight that it was good (which after coming from a dead bedroom was a relief). I wasn’t mad at her and told he thank you for the honesty. I then drove home and felt kind of blah and confused. &#x200B; The phrase “No Spark” brought me back to the discernment counseling my STBXW and I had done together last year before she decided to ask for the divorce. I couldn’t help but internalize it as there being something wrong with me. I wasn’t necessarily looking to be back in serious relationship, and it was nice to be planning dates and getting some of my physical and emotional needs met. &#x200B; Just wish I understood the whole spark thing and if something is off about me, or I just had to misses in a row. &#x200B;",5.5244196428571435,6.996437602678572,5.357500000000002,81.5875,68.0625,8.457142857142857,32.75,8.841846274778883,2.695933928571429,949,42,177,16,16,294,125,224,0.109,0.731,0.16,0.9187,0,0,2,0,4,0,33.0,2,1,0,4,9,13,1,1,14,0,22,1,0,0,1,34,45,18,1,4,7,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,10,15,0,0,6,0,0,3,6,5,0,4,24,3,25,8,22,16,4,30,0,1,2,1,21,4,0,5,24,127,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3737497968031454,0.4191482115255625,0.0,0.09042671917691307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08061969133068934,0.0,0.0,0.13262142794682566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338109638657173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09414816222867822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07428529765147819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08825010446918666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700470193094804,0.15276027355595093,0.0,0.0,0.05695853969965376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280077413501648,0.0,0.0,0.22005872783802752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09011025296307736,0.0,0.0,0.07233126857365348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05780265507345006,0.0,0.08650246064852073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980227256071895,0.04739344557556385,0.2108833079766439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04213090500576628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241712483737824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06394343456949515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05843623273931235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777578896200764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0687195000797429,0.07850667031561398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267181050055333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13277847913731913,0.0,0.0,0.12207758738526435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939518475111446,0.0,0.0,0.057291844334803325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05028532445041736,0.0,0.0,0.2472086423059405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383477888128583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09628021727221646,0.09916797114362262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942863147549196,0.4191482115255625,0.05553361976917441 divorce,Random7619,2019/02/01,"Need to talk to a lady thru dm If I post what I found about my stbx and she sees the post she will instantly know it's me. Would just like to vent and get a outside opinion. 10 year relationship ending about 6 months in. Please be open minded.",0.3670588235294119,2.623666784313727,1.83872549019608,97.01926470588238,87.0392156862745,4.968627450980391,16.34313725490196,6.42735559955562,-0.4988980392156863,190,4,44,2,6,61,43,51,0.0,0.9,0.1,0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,11,8,3,0,3,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,6,1,7,4,0,7,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,4,25,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434712543198592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301403075275282,0.0,0.0,0.14361885983376854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15107254487333954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429753755485016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2775608865080394,0.0,0.21941485115690376,0.0,0.0,0.20382770805202385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017470513178228,0.0,0.0,0.5265379285238775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29512935620777464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190520151761916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094644703725624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19527421444113854,0.0,0.0,0.17702036985644434 divorce,treehugger00,2019/02/01,"Kids say the darndest things Conversations with my kids (11 yo twins B&G, 1 minute apart) **Part1:** Momma: *B, do you want to go to the comic book store?* B: *Alright then* G: *Ugh! What ""Alright then""??! What he means is YES MOMMA, PUHLEEZE!* **Part2:** I could see my son playing with his hair (on top of his forehead) from my rear view mirror Momma: *B! Stop playing with your hair!* B: <*gasps!*\> *Momma! How did you know??! But you're driving! Do you have a 3rd eye??* G: *OF COURSE she has a third eye! She's a MOMMA!* **Part3:** B: *Momma, your jokes are getting cornier!* G: *Yeah! Worse than Uncle jokes... NO! Worse than Dad Jokes!!* \----------------------------------------- I was plagued with guilt when we separated (and eventually divorced), but when I see my kids happy and spontaneous, I know I made the right decision.",-1.2829346680716576,-2.9401541986301343,0.2954109589041103,97.94546628029508,156.05479452054794,3.0408851422550054,15.821390937829293,5.225104853561615,-0.4552113804004216,581,19,119,7,52,183,95,146,0.061,0.82,0.118,0.8190000000000001,0,0,0,0,1,0,131.0,1,5,0,1,3,10,0,1,6,4,9,5,5,2,0,18,18,9,0,2,2,8,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,3,7,0,1,4,7,1,2,1,2,0,1,3,8,19,8,12,14,0,11,0,0,5,0,25,4,0,0,5,60,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677575878577456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973075484129332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291115295902246,0.0,0.14044565420688968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2630669507290229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716245954084441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23383368844790986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691893137700373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21104162916490227,0.0,0.19652207011830236,0.0,0.0,0.3938499549704588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2066058321727799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16417749172544072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14575950491561074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036787492664812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ForeverNightShift,2019/02/01,"New to the idea This is ridiculously long and I apologize. I think I’m mostly venting to 3rd parties now to see if I’m justified at all for feeling the way I do. I (34F) was just this week able to vocalize that I want to separate from my husband (33). We have been married for 8.5 years and together for almost 10. We have 2 children (5 yo who will start school this year and a 3 yo). A little background: I was engaged when we met and we were just friends and coworkers. Nothing more. My ex did not like my chosen male-dominated night-shift-working career path, which I had recently finished training to do. It was something I’d wanted to do and there was a lot of work involved. So when he said to me, “me or the job” I said deuces. I stayed at my now husband’s for 2 days while I found a place to live. There was no hanky panky. About a month later, my husband changes agencies, moving to another county. My mother had come to stay with me and my husband (Steve, for clarity’s sake) had ended the lease on his apartment, moved his belongings in with his 2 roommates, but, as it was an hour away from where he was leaving in a couple of weeks, stayed on the couch at my place. My mother did 27 loads of laundry for him, by her count. We decided after he left that we wanted to be exclusive. He worked M-F while training at his new job and so on my days off, I would stay at his apt. He missed work a few days to spend with me, calling in sick, which I didn’t really appreciate because he would sleep until 1130 or later and I am an earl riser. But I let it slide because puppy love. A year later, things changed at my agency, and things were looking very long term for Steve and I. So I made the move to the a new agency in the same county, and we moved in together. This is where my frustration really starts. I noticed that I did all of the housework. All of it. And Steve would lie in bed (now on a rotating shift, just like I was). I got frustrated and would talk to him about it. I would fuss. I would nag. I made lists. I asked. He would unload the dishwasher and it would take the edge off for another 3 months. On and on for years. We get engaged, we get married. 2012, we start talking about kids. If we have them great, if not, also cool. I told him before I went off the pill that if I do everything when we have kids by myself, then I will do everything by myself. Apparently we are a fertile people and I get pregnant right away. I still do everything while I am emotional and pregnant. I took the trash down to the curb every week. I took the trash out. The grass in our yard got so high once, that I couldn’t see my 50 lb boxer and a fatherly coworker offered to drive 40 min to my house to cut the grass. Steve finally cut it. Twice that summer (our yard was small enough for a push mower. ) He was wonderful in the delivery room. Great at supporting me through breastfeeding. But he still seemed to think his household duties included sleeping and going to work. I returned full time. He would work secondary employment at the expense of childcare and be late picking up our child, and not work when I was off. I said something and that stopped. Fast forward to second pregnancy. Over the summer again. I was due mid August. Late July, the grass is high again. I cut the grass in the early part of my 3rd trimester in North Carolina heat. He seemingly didn’t care. I was already at the point where I didn’t care if he came to the birth, not because I didn’t want him there, but because I knew I could handle it without him. Fast forward to 8 months after the 2nd child was born. A hobby he’d started while I was pregnant was turning into a little business that needed to be legitimatized due to its nature. We talked about it, and how maybe we could move to where we could have it at our house, but as neither of us is business savvy, I needed to research it. 2 weeks later, he comes home and says “I talked to Bob and Alicia (friends of ours) and we can run the business out of their home. Does 40% sound fair to you for them to have? Business contracts are already being drawn up and we’ll sign them next week”. I was crushed and dumbfounded. So here we are 3 years after that and nothing is better. In fact, it’s worse. I was thinking of going back to school, but in taking a small class to be certified to make a little side cash that is still very intense, I still do everything. My house was starting to stink and now I’m waay behind on the class because I had to stop to clean it. There are so many other examples of this. I know I have some blame. We tried counseling, but it wasn’t what I thought it would be and I’ve had too many discussions about what he could do and I’m getting no support. I am empty and I’m not even attracted to him anymore. I really think I would be happy just me and the kids, and I hope Steve’s family will still love me. Is there anything else I could or should try to make it work? 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We’ve been having issues and lack of intimacy for 2 years now. She’s always had guy friends and that’s been a struggle for me. I am not good at planning and she’s struggled with that. But I tried at least three times over the last 1.5 years to get us help. She declined and said “it wouldn’t work”. So my world was crushed when she said we need to split. Went through the holidays pretending it was all good for our friends. Then the beginning of the end started. Sleeping in separate beds, no hugging or kissing goodnight. And her increase spending of time with one of her guy friends. And btw this was a friend of mine also. A friend who I gave money to helped out in times of need etc. I’ve always been suspect of her relationship with him but she convinced me he was like her little brother. Anyways during this time I’ve been depressed and sad. Wondering what I could do to fix it, bargaining, begging, and pleading. Nothing would make her change her mind. Then about three weeks ago I opened our laptop and her Facebook account was up. I decided to look at her messages and found one b/w her and “her little brother” the texts were not of friends but of two people acting in love. My heart sank and I started my first of many panic attacks. I texted her and the replies were angry and defensive. I knew something was up. The next day she came home after a night of drinking and staying at his place. They’ve she admitted they have feelings for each other and have been building a emotional relationship for the last couple of months. The next two weeks were hell on earth as she still lived with me while going out with him. I’ve considered suicide to avoid the pain. Last Friday she moved out and (which did help some) but the idea of those two together have been crushing. I’ve had many panic attacks and bouts with thoughts of suicide and constant pain/sadness. Divorce was one thing, I want her to be happy and for me also. But the feeling of being replaced so fast is just crushing. I honesty don’t know how I am gonna be able to move on from this. I don’t deserve this at all. I’ve been faithful, honest, and held the idea of marriage to the highest of standards. I have plenty of friends, family and coworkers giving me support. But at the end of the day it’s me and only me to be with myself. My first divorce easier and manageable. But this is so extreme. My friends are finding out about the relationship they’ve been having and aren’t happy. But still they’re together going on with life as it’s no big deal. I am not sure what I am asking the group here for advice. But I know I am not alone with these feelings. It’s so goddamn painful. Each day is a struggle for me. 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I recently discovered that my wife is cheating on me. I need to save up enough to get a retainer for an attorney before I can divulge what I know and begin the separation process. What are some legal ways to annoy and screw with her in the meantime (safely and nonviolently). I've though about taking an old car we dont use and parking it sideways across the driveway and claiming I misplaced the keys... any other potentially passive aggresive ideas to make life just a bit more difficult for someone who deserves it?,7.086785714285719,8.250843842592595,7.4715873015873076,68.97500000000002,64.27777777777777,10.245502645502649,37.650793650793645,10.290406445055957,4.256601587301588,477,24,76,11,7,156,81,108,0.151,0.73,0.119,-0.6997,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,3,9,5,0,9,0,4,3,0,2,1,20,12,7,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,8,8,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,3,14,12,4,10,0,0,0,2,5,4,2,2,3,55,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16686467991034382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087976359754065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26788798032151434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875798537915405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25353989093329365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268469541793595,0.12819928239229342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770006088595774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348527057265072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17331693368327913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16379096019746947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819438333807978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574817389417729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24228004789651936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20790701817094512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449286205459367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108152022951565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21192682415010294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3895374620497853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,looking4helpandhope,2019/02/02,"Is anyone else this lonely? Short background, my husband is abusive, emotionally and physically, finally left him and told my family what’s been going on. Got a protective order and filed for divorce. All within the past month. So now he is out of my house and can’t harm me anymore. There’s a lot of sitting around waiting for things to get filed and processed and whatnot. Huge relief that I finally stood up for myself. I’m dealing with the expected rollercoaster of emotions. What I was not expecting was how lonely I would feel. I knew I would miss him, he’s been a huge part of my life for so long, how could I not? But damn. It’s not just him. I feel so alone in every aspect. I have a very supportive family, but I don’t feel like I can talk to them about how I’m feeling about everything because they are too close to the situation. They get angry every time it’s brought up. They put their own emotions into the conversation and I am unable to vent the way I need to. His family has basically cut all ties with me. They do not know the whole story of what’s been going on. Even if they did listen to me, I don’t feel it’s my place to tell them, and I know he’s not going to tell them. I’m not a very social person, and the couple friends I do have have the same reaction as my family. The couple times I’ve tried telling them how I feel about their inability to let me process everything, even if it’s unintentional, just offends them. I don’t have anyone to talk to. I come home to an empty house. No one understands what I’m going through. They don’t see bruises. I’m not physically hurt. But I have so much mental crap I’m trying to sort out and no one understands. That in itself just adds onto the already huge pile of hurt I’m already dealing with. I don’t know what I’m looking for here. I just needed to vent I guess? Well, here’s to another Saturday night alone. 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I’m not sure if they ever loved each other. My mom says she did live my dad, my dad says she never loved her. My dad used to never drink but started drinking recently and got into an accident, and got really depressed because of it. My mom yelled at him and the person that consoled him was his office colleague. But then him, and his office colleague got into a relationship behind my mom’s back. My parents always fought, at least on a weekly basis. When my mom figured it out, my dad said he never liked her because she always yelled at him. My mom told me about this and every time my dad went out, she would say,” he’s probably going to Go meet that girl again.” I cried and felt depressed so much, that I started to feel emotionally distant. Whenever my mom told me something about my dad’s relationship, I stopped reacting to it. But then my mom would start crying and say, “ so you don’t care about the family either.” And she started to get mad at me. I still feel depressed and I don’ t know what to do.(sorry about ranting, but I don’t have anybody to talk to this about)",3.0931996290285184,4.879497647577097,4.248328309761188,85.88375144910736,74.72687224669603,6.7172733596104806,25.603756086250872,7.475848149327749,1.2961682819383262,894,31,176,11,19,292,114,227,0.16399999999999998,0.797,0.039,-0.9859,2,0,3,0,0,0,27.0,0,1,1,0,12,10,2,0,6,0,10,4,0,2,5,37,35,19,0,3,7,15,3,1,0,2,0,7,0,2,11,14,2,1,6,2,0,3,7,5,0,0,11,10,40,5,25,22,4,30,0,3,0,2,49,9,0,1,19,123,51,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325462169036328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06124401856798355,0.0,0.0971047652336449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120594430913869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749780987674804,0.0,0.0,0.2058008500402351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560484746527653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959272808648552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07204573237793745,0.06710646204302173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508458364444437,0.0,0.08054434803064002,0.0,0.0764740996545685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04161253645865677,0.0,0.09053103041521997,0.0,0.19110416819957865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754437667476568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038911750060384734,0.0,0.07033021022465501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14376997419812426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6529754046950267,0.0,0.0,0.05855008394740852,0.0,0.1842872086493508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17687826762219747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954513327247283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08587348652686004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05102423416825174,0.0,0.07864230702515293,0.17102323621606025,0.0,0.0,0.07576302076653224,0.2533555859397927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06131654414831859,0.0,0.08915886620750968,0.225499669074758,0.0,0.06360660408566013,0.06658888444081959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506683524882457,0.0,0.0,0.06401765125687704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04644310338104984,0.0,0.0,0.15221321736556176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878987566816237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06388842797177079,0.0,0.0,0.07383403939317254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11315861130317705,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bristolianclifton,2019/02/02,"International divorce with a baby \[crossposted to r/Divorce_Men\] &#x200B; So, I \[male, late 30s, non-european\] married to an American, and we have been living in the UK for the past 4 years due to my job \[she was not working\]. We don't have any European or UK citizenships. We don't own a house or anything big. And, we have an infant. I am considering to file for a divorce due to irreconcilable differences but the baby complicates everything. Currently, we all are in the US, but I will soon be back in the UK. 1. If I file for a divorce in the UK while the wife&baby in the US, how can it work? After all, she has no reason to be back to the UK. 2. What is the default for the baby in this situation? Will she automatically go to the mother, as she is 9mo old? Because in that case, I can never get to see my baby as they will simply live in the US, and I can only visit 2-3 times a year at most. Sorry for the messy post, but the possibility of never seeing the baby again after a potential custody battle is a nightmare for me, and I would like to hear from potential men who have been through an international divorce. Thanks.",3.765288912024985,5.128769584070799,5.884971369078606,76.54855023425301,72.18584070796459,8.857470067673088,27.895887558563253,9.325443323948027,2.4364047891723057,890,33,174,20,17,312,127,226,0.054000000000000006,0.913,0.032,-0.5831,2,0,0,0,5,0,50.0,8,0,1,2,6,3,1,0,26,0,24,0,0,2,4,25,30,15,0,2,7,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,3,5,10,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,1,0,0,3,3,23,2,33,21,4,31,0,0,2,0,24,10,0,4,19,136,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948851337299509,0.16535203158048253,0.09253903105827134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198220248700297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927416068217972,0.0,0.08295307328646866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14217458257788593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222998828269473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0710961563664806,0.0,0.07733737044380658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15337199144838765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701798961295987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13503835096504427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350410863239633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06648178895643854,0.0,0.2403221744671764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2099064900068245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14279301437351946,0.0,0.0,0.10349493249382664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299037081864389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15340969504512697,0.13032697426558484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13991285068481854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168762005405839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15295956314116185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233036081915025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252841332522673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934931203735443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4910622672875366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19813564577812176,0.0,0.0,0.0966672907744707,0.0,0.16535203158048253,0.1752620499833104 divorce,bravekc,2019/02/02,"Split custody when divorced In USA (SC) Me Male In USA (SC) 2 children 2 step children Separated for over a year working on finalizing Have separation agreement for every other weekend. I see my bio kids much more, and pick them and my step child (her bio child father not in picture)up 2-3 times a week from school. Most months I average 10-15 overnights and close to 20 days a month that I see kids for extended periods of time. I am refusing to do anything less than Split custody. Is this a realistic goal for me to stick to? I firmly believe this is in the best interest of the the children. She has previously with her two kids (my step children) signed custody away to her family. Her family still has custody of one of the step children. All of the step children custody issues are court documented. Thanks for the persepctive Yes I have an attorney ",4.097010582010583,6.286831240740742,4.947548500881833,80.20111111111113,73.01234567901234,8.085361552028218,31.32451499118166,8.841846274778883,2.790977425044091,679,32,124,14,14,220,98,162,0.017,0.884,0.1,0.9231,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,0,0,1,3,2,4,0,0,11,1,9,0,0,1,1,11,12,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,4,5,0,1,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,2,0,2,17,4,25,12,6,25,0,0,2,0,21,8,0,1,12,80,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011418116830904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422165465553987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329043412370352,0.21694146116117072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13331826623444798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741717800683031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3897572660187705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264532994240441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21576353867905032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33000625905801445,0.0,0.15196408861088467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007983879106542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2092131949264887,0.32946054328711233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16508805740044608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903213838294026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24108193880308565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2019368682629592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16581951852081014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049571446726687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13312186874628798 divorce,Kevlarsocks,2019/02/02,"When did you take off the ring? I was served papers this morning from my stbxw and even though I knew it was coming it hurts. Ever since I got it 8 years ago it's been like a security blanket - I don't want to take it off because I'd feel alone and incomplete, but I feel like I have to start somewhere. So when did you take off your ring?",2.8389041095890413,3.3562427534246595,3.8437260273972633,93.50915068493154,73.5205479452055,6.935890410958903,22.819178082191787,6.742157984588678,0.2954350684931515,263,6,64,2,5,85,50,73,0.069,0.8270000000000001,0.104,0.5266,0,1,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,3,0,0,6,4,0,0,2,0,7,0,0,0,1,10,17,7,0,1,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,7,4,10,3,6,10,0,10,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,8,40,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821996078450676,0.0,0.0,0.25496384807024874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15006646039693858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120586222054336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259676993165711,0.2226800717482433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2489477253738186,0.17586801450158124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968892465081997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2635362461585996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2405380862767001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20363913532558905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17424447233514884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5552806111868503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418664375558829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14520084339819195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852912038641095 divorce,Runferit,2019/02/02,"I’ll make sure you struggle Sorry this is so messy, I’m just tired of dealing with this lump of a man. What kind of pos brags “my child support pays all her bills.” He doesn’t pay my bills, I do, and a grand a month does not pay every bill, that’s delusional, two kids are expensive, activities, clothes, medication, school supplies... He’s such a joke. He told me in the end “I want you to struggle and regret leaving me.” Here’s the thing idiot, I don’t struggle just because I live modestly and in an old house. I have no debt, your kids have clothes and more than everything and everyone they need. I will never regret divorcing you. You aren’t paying alimony, it’s child support you swine, not my money, but their savings. I dream someday he’ll realize a check does not equal being a “good dad” and offer to sign over his parental rights. 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How you doing? If this is your first time, welcome. If you happen to be here for another trip, welcome. I want to say how brave I think you are. It's an amazing journey to start and it's going to require your utmost dedication. You have to be able to keep going when it seems like nothing has ever hurt this much or that you might be dying. Your old self will die off. You will inevitably try and keep it on life support for as long as possible because that's human. I hope that you have a funny internal voice for this. You are going through some heavy stuff, but you can survive it. And I'm going to give you a road map. Step 1: Love yourself. Your hair, your eyes, your face, your physical self. Stop focusing on the negative. Look for the positive. Always look for the positive. Step 2: This is a biggie so buckle up, buttercup. Be honest with yourself. Why have you made those choices? What brought you to this precipice? Think about that and have an answer in your mind. Step 3: Do you blame someone else? You absolutely certain about that? Short of any abuse, emotional, mental, or physical, your decisions and actions brought you here. Step 4: Be completely objective. Look at the situation not just from your eyes but also those involved. Was there hurt or anger or guilt or happiness that drove the moment? Think back and relish it but also look at the other side. What other motives were at play? Step 5: Start all over. Dig deeper into your understanding until you know objectively what happened. Look for moments that led to the event and see if you had changed something if the outcome would have been different. Step 6: Practice this over and over. This will make you absolutely raw from emotions and it will hurt and it will feel wonderful. Let it all in and process it. Truly give consideration to how you got this far. Step 7: Be proud. Be proud of your mistakes and the things that were wrong. Make amends if you can and if you can't mend a relationship, let it go. If you have taken this advice, then you are changing and sometimes a constant reminder of what we were is unhelpful and unhealthy. Step 8: Think big, start small. Did you make it out of bed this morning? Fuck yea! Good job. Did you shower and get dressed in clean clothes? No? Give yourself a pass today but make it a priority tomorrow. Give yourself goals and dreams and start working toward them. Step 9: Never stagnate. Make a deliberate and conscious effort to never go back forever. You will have days where it's hard and IF you are honestly trying then accept that and roll with the punches. Step 10: Make new connections. And I'm not talking about banging someone new to get over someone else. Never do that. Do not get intimate with anyone until you have yourself and your life worked out. Step 11: Be unapologetically you. Do not be afraid to be the loud one or the one that dances in traffic or the one that cries during Disney movies. Find yourself and there is nothing you can't accomplish. Step 12: Be patient. There will be people in your life that doubt your change. People that know eventually you will fuck up again. Let them think that. Let that have no bearing on what you want to accomplish and delight in proving them wrong. If at any point in this, you stumble just get up and start again. Every day is filled with new possibility and new people to meet and new experiences if you are open to them. 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For better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in and out of health. Love is sacrificial meaning regardless of where your spouse is at you make a conscious effort and have a real heart change to stay soft towards them. But reality is: we are human and incapable of loving to such a high degree for so long. After my divorce I questioned life and it’s meaning. Conclusion: you can’t go to any human being for infinite love and to have faith in an afterlife where in my preference God (or any other deity) perhaps will offer that perfect eternal peace. I believed that so deeply that death became alluring but still I felt wrong about taking life into my own hands so I carried through the pain of heartbreak. Truth is the only thing I got from divorce is a deep understanding that life is generally meaningless. For every up is a down. No marriage last. No relationship is permanent. Let alone circumstance. We end one relationship to perhaps move on and fall into another. 2nd and 3rd divorces have higher divorce rates. Humans are skeptical to making bad choices out of the fear of being alone which places them in even worse relationships which they aren’t willing to work through and thus the cycle repeats in another painful divorce. Humanity moves in circles. We seek a need for love and when it is not fulfilled we go to anything that will fill from work, to sex, to substance, food, to TV and other relationships and all of this is a vicious circle. Broken world we live in. Social media and Hollywood rub this image into our heads of how a perfect American life is supposed to look but reality is we are all broken and will be broken at some point or another. I know this for fact. I’m in a place now where I’m hurting and still broken over divorce. I most certainly could move on and get involved in a new relationship but I choose not too. I think the strongest and most mature thing a man or woman can do is learn to be happy and content alone without the need of another human being. 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What went wrong, what was the “last straw” that made you start thinking of divorce? How did you tell your SO that you had enough and want to file? How did that conversation go? In hindsight... would you do anything differently about/during your divorce?",4.388200000000001,7.22940942,3.414000000000001,88.397,74.8,5.6000000000000005,26.0,6.742157984588678,1.0302000000000002,221,8,40,2,5,64,37,50,0.079,0.8959999999999999,0.025,-0.5803,1,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,3,0,7,12,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,7,0,3,5,1,5,0,0,0,0,12,1,0,0,2,28,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698158626075801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3425629857885428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3387858794991049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18634076535974112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2672645349731008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102463277937244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320739128398037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865800422073698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100911433747896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933910868072944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3039464225033722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329153014228201,0.3584833950455472,0.0,0.0 divorce,knowledgencrap,2019/02/02,"Debating if I should divorce Me(22F) him(25). We've been married for a little over a year now and have a 1 year old. I didnt want to get married and said no to him three times till I caved in. I felt guilty cause he would say ""you love me right? Then why dont we just get married?"" Cause i wasn't ready for marriage. Now I'm very unhappy and he stresses me out all the time. I literally got bells palsy on the left side of my face from extreme stress. He doesn't communicate with me, not even about our finances. He refuses to take counseling to work on ourselves, he's controlling in his own way and says that he isn't when i point it out. There's other things he does that aren't fair to me and i dont know what to do other than leave him because I'm not happy with how he likes to live his life. We are two completely different people. Hes mean and rude to everyone and doesnt treat me how i wish to be treated. At first we were fine as a regular couple but after i got pregnant and he moved in it was a nightmare. His binge drinking every night, no help, lack of undersranding and always putting me down. he calmed down on his drinking but he still drinks every day. Even tho he's an asshole most of the time and he stresses me out I get scared I might be making a mistake if i do end up leaving him cause i love his horrible rude ass. He doesn't fail on his kids needs, but he fails on understanding and treating me right.",2.1613043478260856,3.710872983277593,3.400152508361206,91.98723879598663,76.69230769230771,6.656909698996657,23.6656856187291,7.404127859558343,0.7820364147157193,1118,35,253,14,25,363,169,299,0.175,0.747,0.078,-0.9759,1,0,3,0,1,0,29.0,4,1,0,5,12,18,2,4,10,0,22,8,2,7,1,49,41,23,0,9,8,0,1,1,0,3,1,3,0,1,8,19,3,2,4,3,1,2,13,9,0,3,9,4,38,9,38,27,4,42,0,2,0,3,40,22,1,4,18,154,46,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08404478575624051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061572102023139966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31128185366679434,0.0,0.0,0.10590249420015144,0.0,0.11328641648221295,0.0,0.11176082200615672,0.0,0.06514028327143252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10552939820990193,0.0,0.0,0.08839071820949522,0.0,0.2367557209632847,0.29684122850480993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894610189821953,0.0,0.0,0.13342654821582298,0.0,0.17020321988866866,0.09651521968414688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09698125637252253,0.0,0.0,0.08591534771028002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583138376850513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16156687831772618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075223843814104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770195290142905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551005946207915,0.0,0.0,0.2139007821865103,0.10974292585743424,0.0,0.07134327222218237,0.049346254817715283,0.10123418868199847,0.08918983262751243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18232307133211595,0.0,0.06742205053231942,0.0,0.0,0.11002475524325454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715102465191276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10735301283600247,0.0,0.07489440390028057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478695295411196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10598843057731766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07002459454885736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548297984746357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153856842005653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251653321455582,0.09607949585159806,0.16064748159457315,0.1011242684821736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08066323638565955,0.0,0.34710486584999073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07594367267461216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710366058206309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766916068085055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866783579725408,0.10515043575123507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334023303369767,0.059575744772759565,0.08017357740283229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0911418817198372,0.0,0.11615150382217698,0.0,0.0,0.07353331053896735,0.0,0.0,0.07175151027029085,0.0,0.0,0.1300886440348114 divorce,names0fthedead,2019/02/03,"Is this the end? Sorry this is going to be rambling. I'm sitting here alone in my shitty studio apartment questioning all of my life choices. This may just be screaming into the void but I have to put this somewhere. About a week ago I left my 15 year marriage. Just walked out the door. It wasn't sudden, it had been a lot of years of fairly extreme emotional abuse, which took me a decade to realize and name. Most of our marriage, it was just ""oh he has a nasty temper but I know he doesn't mean it"" when he would tell me I was worthless, that I was a complete failure as a human and a wife, that I was a terrible parent, that I fucked up everything I ever tried to do. Then he'd be sorry, and so sweet, and I'd see the man I fell in love with, and I'd believe him and forgive him. And then something else would go wrong. Some minor inconvenience, a bad mood, a tough day with our toddler son... and it would start all over again. And he was always sorry. And I loved him. I still love him. But I recently started therapy and I think being forced to really face what it was, and that I had believed for so long that I deserved it... it just... I couldn't do it anymore. So I left. Lived in a hotel for a week, begged my parents for money, and found a sad apartment to live in alone. I left our son behind because... well, he's always been a good father to him, and I can't afford anything right now, and I guess I'm telling myself I can't save anyone if I can't save myself. I don't even know what to say. This feels like the end of my life. I'm almost 40, how am I supposed to start a new life now? And maybe this is stupid, but when I imagined being free of the abuse, I always thought I'd feel free and happy. But I don't. I feel horrifying grief, and loss, and so much anger I barely recognize myself. Why? Why am I grieving something that was so obviously toxic, codependent, and painful? Why am I fighting an internal urge to run back to him and give him another chance? It's also been really hard because the first time I tried to leave (it took a couple tries) he threatened to kill himself, and I was so scared. And now he's been saying I'm abusive, and I'm so vulnerable and broken I am starting to believe him. The worst part is I have really no one to reach out to. Over the years he was always really jealous of anyone I was friends with, he was even jealous of my parents who I used to have really close relationships with, and I guess I just eventually got tired of fighting about it and I let all of my relationships just fade away. Most people won't stick around waiting for you for 10+ years, so I don't really have any friends left and my relationship with my parents is so distant now. This feels like the end of everything. I don't know how I survive this. Is this it? I am terrified, I am alone, I am greiving and angry, and I can't imagine what the world looks like when I wake up tomorrow. What do I do to get through this?",2.162703632272581,3.7122924770491816,3.757000964320156,89.4302137576342,76.68852459016394,6.620379299260688,23.92799742847959,7.362008331298528,0.9009414979106398,2281,73,497,28,51,759,256,610,0.25,0.643,0.107,-0.9986,5,3,2,0,6,0,86.0,3,1,0,3,36,40,9,1,28,0,62,11,2,3,5,92,99,54,3,5,12,8,5,3,2,5,5,3,2,2,35,40,0,1,16,1,3,8,13,22,1,2,23,11,77,19,57,63,10,67,0,5,2,4,54,22,1,10,39,342,112,0,0.0,0.21925268762102895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467822834769715,0.0,0.06176658118302335,0.19165485304471394,0.0,0.04932784627962551,0.20530067885105915,0.0,0.0,0.041946532635907134,0.06467996894656099,0.0,0.0,0.061172928376720614,0.08626032920036714,0.0,0.050759825962560484,0.054910918017202784,0.0,0.0,0.05795317780545105,0.04743039402141278,0.051502700794529205,0.07520272810439463,0.0,0.0,0.20848674247951088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467341714205355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06825102955632402,0.0,0.039780410693659216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152820379175814,0.06938503537089524,0.16389840038102935,0.0,0.0,0.08148203567592556,0.055795774904183235,0.0,0.0,0.11087334647231817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475504555764623,0.08813264764051139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052467500065390985,0.0,0.0676321893324942,0.09531221430612148,0.057024908877979875,0.03222680429230167,0.05917192238551847,0.07011170305540851,0.051736746039147616,0.049333503411323656,0.0,0.1359014843003566,0.0,0.0,0.06566266516881747,0.05525582250030646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06824306369324898,0.0,0.10169803624415792,0.0,0.0,0.06531335554389582,0.26807489572260323,0.06307501272117927,0.1307055109386937,0.0904055455821249,0.0,0.10893437957084112,0.054587484584951586,0.05179815687570268,0.0,0.0,0.05244065258565414,0.16701385745358754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061968830923820224,0.06719083384713301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045344077945011566,0.0,0.0,0.05957379372458055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041797974684209496,0.0,0.06563502566782235,0.0,0.2739665398616231,0.0667966421036238,0.0,0.04276320258238965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200841860274023,0.06909903964728449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23709412816090075,0.0,0.06090448824509154,0.19867326647272207,0.0,0.05267691663332868,0.0,0.0981055419747738,0.061755410466274724,0.0,0.0491533384340208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497312282856807,0.0,0.20714709388462527,0.1746380855795974,0.0,0.04926009698070331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10782726357305472,0.0,0.07053984828126532,0.0,0.0,0.039523954488508525,0.0,0.04896938559994569,0.035967833993374894,0.07089549642733473,0.0,0.0,0.13706409149295234,0.12563605648123646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327427859756072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895671064582492,0.0,0.05546039499669569,0.0,0.1669778501469035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145342957209286,0.06744064106210405,0.0,0.1588872331034379 divorce,Batoutofhellodolly,2019/02/03,"New here! Painfully slow separation Hey everybody! I’ve lurked here for a bit and wanted to share. I (33f) am on a very slow track to divorce with my husband (34m.) We have a 4 year old and a mortgage in my name. Long and not that interesting story short- after 13 years I just can’t handle the emotional abuse that goes with someone who isn’t taking ownership of his mental health any more. His mental stability fluctuates and I’ve recognized ptsd symptoms in myself and have decided that I won’t let my son grow up like this/thinking that it’s ok. To that end, I want to leave my husband in an economically stable situation where we can coparent and he can maintain a healthy home for our son. He should be (hopefully) starting a job in the fall that will make him enough to rent a place in the area and we can officially split. Im ok with it taking longer since it will be better for our son in the long term (husband is currently mentally stable and not a threat to me or my son.) What I’m not ok with is the fact that he won’t tell his family that we’re separated and seems to be in denial half the time about it. I feel gaslit and powerless, when I should feel proud of myself for doing right by me and my child. It’s exhausting and I just can’t wait for it to be over, or at least really started. 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We have been to couples counseling before, the first time was 11 months into our relationship. We have been together almost 3 years. In the weeks leading up to the wedding and the ones shortly thereafter, I found out he’d been lying to me about his financial contributions to his family (who is not in need of financial support) and had no savings/contributions to retirement, despite what he had told me during our premarital work. He sees nothing wrong with the lying and can’t understand why it matters. His family of origin is enmeshed and is strongly dependent on each other for companionship and finances. They are also mistrustful of outsiders and do the stereotypical in-law thing by taking jabs at me, have advised my husband to lie to me, and continue to reinforce the imbalance in familial priorities. Before we got engaged, he was living with his parents (he was in his late thirties) and lied to me about that, making up another residence but never allowing me to see it. That was resolved, but I’ve since noticed a habit of him lying about similar things quite regularly. This past week, he informed me that he will no longer keep a joint account with me and that he will pay me rent instead (we live in the house I bought before getting married). I strongly fear that he will revert to being manipulated by his family to pay for absurd things like new kitchen granite, student loan bills, property taxes, plane tickets, you name it... meanwhile hiding the activity from me and treating me like a landlord. Since we got married, he started making snide comments about me not being domestic enough and resenting the fact that he “had to feed himself” since I work full time and don’t cook every single night. We got into a very heated argument (also commonplace) about this very thing and he left the house to go stay with his parents. I haven’t heard from him since and that was yesterday morning. This has happened before. He has brought up separation previously and I am treating his lack of communication as him truly wanting to take that step and split up. He is 10 years older than me and is already pressuring for kids, which I think unwise considering our current dysfunctional state. Sometimes I feel like I’m swimming in problems, I can’t trust him, I have lost a lot of respect for him, we seem to want very different things... other times I feel like these issues are all solveable, if only we could communicate better. I want to be married, but I’d love to be in a relationship where we trust each other and are transparent. I’m 30 and have fears about giving up too quickly or being too petty about some of the issues. Has anyone else been through something similar??",7.990051285511843,8.248737518591,7.97756798704366,69.25176125244623,62.26810176125245,10.805614413928065,37.58155071192388,10.47874826744603,4.1292027937107765,2236,102,367,48,29,723,260,511,0.104,0.794,0.102,0.3944,6,0,1,0,0,0,58.0,12,1,1,10,15,24,1,3,18,0,47,4,0,7,3,79,82,30,0,8,8,4,2,4,0,3,0,1,3,1,27,40,3,1,8,3,9,6,10,7,1,2,23,5,57,17,65,49,9,51,0,1,2,1,60,21,0,7,26,265,84,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936680991209565,0.0,0.08746468553809164,0.12676737886616768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311036003904472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541999427096366,0.0812105908498811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26977554405423537,0.0,0.0,0.07009847168757788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06328215743126345,0.08769898520124708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280917199586152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06621103316911825,0.0,0.0,0.08189611641967684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677943752685835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2988747199636193,0.17837765299450087,0.08015183774709192,0.1132458193146152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06741797950438097,0.0,0.08690380804444241,0.0,0.0,0.04140974943655151,0.07603280975174814,0.045044926418408654,0.0,0.1901728756498059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008879899989087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829093424794261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16545237978438376,0.0,0.07044936967036765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940802148547118,0.0,0.08611553725134996,0.0,0.0,0.15488849825236176,0.0,0.13997495135229093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652096498117356,0.06738348190422114,0.07153467578164517,0.0,0.10581248966736992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652814567086956,0.0,0.0,0.058769818451631435,0.06112971221315325,0.07654919329711468,0.0,0.07437954942686477,0.0,0.07605150300769346,0.09023731790130786,0.0,0.0,0.05370820025868659,0.06028032233459438,0.0,0.0,0.1760163010078365,0.0,0.0756620369060554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584051273433425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08430209606370091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17018980245463802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631891204980825,0.07215475353730509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622566791331892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06101773517266348,0.0783895434380694,0.0,0.05610018992526728,0.08447994246492391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994259363927118,0.0,0.0,0.11918636435319464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26328201737866896,0.05078620384652203,0.0,0.0,0.1386503278387668,0.0,0.0,0.07573572447694439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251179924521533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19619184251583527,0.14024768963022724,0.0,0.12715417128367934,0.0,0.07126369216242627,0.0,0.07151925328288558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11540353045005967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0866576785861841,0.0,0.10208087112522078 divorce,ashley6589,2019/02/03,"Filing this week, seeking full custody - what to expect? I'm filing this week and would appreciate any helpful information that anyone can share. I am seeking full custody of our children, as well as filing for child support tomorrow (I haven't previously requested). My ex has been out of our home for 7 months. I've known this is my next step for several months, however haven't yet filed due to cost/fear/feeling stuck. A unique factor for my situation is that there is a protective order in place by social services limiting his access to our children (supervised visits only). He is an addict (2 months clean) which was the downfall of our marriage. An incident occurred 2 years ago, he was using and put the kids and I in an unsafe environment. I called 911 which resulted in his arrest and social services involvement. He has not seen the children in 5 months. He's stated that he's changing, that we will get through this and work things out. This was his message until 2 weeks ago, when overnight he decided he was moving on. He now would like 50/50 custody, no support. I do not have an attorney, nor any acquaintances who have divorced. I'm feeling very uncertain of what comes next, what to expect.",5.797767857142855,7.337678955357145,6.095000000000002,76.3,67.48214285714286,8.992857142857146,32.75,9.354420925462401,3.1448625000000003,962,42,164,19,16,308,132,224,0.041,0.872,0.087,0.8445,1,0,0,0,1,0,34.0,5,0,0,2,5,6,0,1,9,0,21,1,0,2,0,23,31,10,0,4,2,1,1,1,0,3,1,0,2,5,16,9,0,2,4,0,0,5,6,1,1,0,7,2,16,5,24,21,2,35,0,0,1,0,35,10,0,1,19,102,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615294169024826,0.0,0.0,0.23768481219546944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18234046773456994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374284228601992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689751147945894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182522837599024,0.11548694631812766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086277445516524,0.13557672070704185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07004453287300479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986235950526535,0.0,0.1344802450165975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06549841918333145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280443605379908,0.14249212349144202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28516379023556376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019640803630142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007159784769432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13477447766237924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145767645539554,0.0,0.0,0.15069705165851746,0.0,0.2733290754786131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042755410293971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906823234662369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11579093988552425,0.0,0.11061940846862407,0.0,0.0,0.3226216525675649,0.0,0.1205424349637999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760245464242023,0.0,0.0,0.19047486031436225,0.0,0.0,0.08633482489662392 divorce,bantha__fodder,2019/02/03,"Good book recommendations for healing from infidelity but NOT working on saving the marriage? All of my searches and highly-rated books are about recovering from infidelity and steps to trust again and repair the marriage. Short story: stbx had second affair of our marriage. Taking steps towards divorce now. Looking for books to help me deal with pain of infidelity, but there's no point in working on trust or the marriage. That's not the goal. 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My parents bought a house with them being 75% ownership and my sister being 25% (to get tax exemption). If my sister gets divorce again, will they split the 25% between her and her soon to be husband or does she have to split it 50% / 50%? State is Georgia, parents bought and paid off the house, my sister just has a percentage on the Quit Claim Deed.",4.1242857142857146,5.51529191489362,4.2088449848024325,88.80500000000002,71.34042553191489,6.648024316109423,28.322188449848017,6.868970318607317,1.3104699088145892,376,14,75,3,7,116,60,94,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,3,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,0,2,2,5,0,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,0,0,12,17,7,0,2,4,7,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,1,0,4,0,1,0,0,0,5,0,10,0,9,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,17,2,0,3,4,49,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18899766107998875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142646796233736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3385077714625637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21384522633023104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4984030310483776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.479620432434155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24193692626227026,0.4594234458702524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273852803465553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13907823102745998 divorce,nht94,2019/02/03,"Advice: STBX wrecked the car w/ our child and abandoned the car. Should I involve the cops? My STBX(24) drove the car with our 8 years child in the car. She was near my house, she turned in really fast and lost control. She walked my son to the house and disappeared. She then called me, saying that some car tailgated her and she freaked out and turned into the neighborhood. I went to see the accident, she hit the curb and broke the front bumper. The oil leaked from the curb down to the end of the sidewalk to where the vehicle was parked. She is no where in sight. My son was freaking out with me at home. Saying that mommy wasn’t looking but she was texting. Anyways, she abandon the car in my neighborhood and oil is every where. Should I or can I call the cops on her for child endangerment? Or there’s no point in it and let the insurance takes over. 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We got back together for about two months before she left in November. We also have a 13 month old daughter together. During the first split up she started seeing another guy and told me she stopped talking to him when we got back together. While together again I found out that was a lie. She stayed in contact with this guy while we were back together. We tried to work things out but she couldn’t let go she left me in November. As far as I know she’s been seeing this guy since she left me. So yesterday she decided to ask me when can he meet our daughter. I don’t know what to do about this. I could really use some advice.,3.220400000000001,4.802831506666667,4.2316666666666665,86.98750000000004,73.93333333333334,8.200000000000001,24.5,8.841846274778883,1.638,586,18,123,12,12,190,91,150,0.01,0.99,0.0,-0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,6,0,0,2,12,0,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,0,20,25,11,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,6,10,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,8,2,26,0,21,13,2,30,0,0,2,0,29,11,0,1,17,87,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502847495271883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102412502213989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342859654847008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11972228104659803,0.0,0.0,0.2954192630989433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897278444126636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981240255718727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224845139185756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893092587398724,0.0,0.14041524741395156,0.0,0.0,0.0669080025757855,0.0,0.07278155733462803,0.0,0.2048484946492732,0.0,0.0,0.3804096196395419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076093116482502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4174247852228712,0.13095381953911242,0.0,0.0,0.1283534804563508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066576933565082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13438132047897872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204089156037643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20410039200427552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10593562386706899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09064415271995482,0.13649887490157328,0.0,0.10706699545007392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293275872395907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507983813773577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12237036247095845,0.0,0.1738937048471405,0.0,0.1250996357905841,0.0,0.0,0.11060592720576357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323190574285144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Grenkorn,2019/02/03,"Apartment Lease Tl;dr: 34m. Married 5 years to 31f. I've decided it's time. She is in pure denial. I plan to move out, and she wants the house. She can't afford it on her own. I am fearful that if I move out before any paperwork is finalized, I may be stuck with the house and the lease. She claims that since she went to the trouble of finding the 'perfect' home, she kept a to keep it and she will never move out. I dont care, I don't want the house. The problem is, she could never afford it. During the five years, I've begged and pleaded for her to find a full time job. She gets mad when I bring it up. She does work 2 part time jobs, but it wont cover the expense. There is no reasoning with her on this subject, I have no idea what to do.",0.582567287784677,2.222960093167707,2.374881987577641,97.15308902691515,81.6086956521739,5.2871221532091095,19.42898550724637,6.079149491110277,-0.27467238095238056,569,14,138,4,15,188,95,161,0.112,0.8809999999999999,0.006999999999999999,-0.9141,4,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,0,0,0,3,2,6,1,1,11,0,15,0,0,1,4,27,24,7,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,10,9,0,2,5,0,1,5,8,4,0,1,3,0,21,2,17,16,3,23,0,0,0,0,13,9,0,2,9,90,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258262666774876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584856418390105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880793863139496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086999505840694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914058087596564,0.0,0.15955981969973212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15319991331573507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1491391586938403,0.2488664014775013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711296501283328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13656358868929822,0.0,0.0,0.4712758847659586,0.0,0.1536900677277218,0.0,0.0,0.2702039364417497,0.1210110924262607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4340987572163105,0.0,0.0,0.21000537802478256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474307455211498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027147494848024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399787643423269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261977000817405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238160081708802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060258321517673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12620690389339054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09911449424566643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175344616828888 divorce,blazin_daisies,2019/02/03,"What do I do first? I (28F) know I want to divorce him (32M). We have been together 6 years, married for 3, no kids, and one joint bank account. I have a place to move into and stay for a bit and I already know what things I'm taking from the house. How do you tell someone it's over? There is no way he shouldn't see this coming. We struggle monthly because he won't get a consistent job and I'm trying to further my education to get out of the service industry. I work full time, take care of the house, take care of the cat, and handle the finances. What should I do before asking for a divorce?",0.6113919413919398,2.612662825396825,2.612222222222222,93.59730769230772,83.44444444444444,5.146764346764347,22.390720390720396,6.297961479604792,0.33372844932844936,460,16,103,4,13,154,82,126,0.057,0.872,0.07,0.3695,1,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,2,1,0,2,2,3,0,1,9,0,11,0,0,1,0,16,26,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,0,2,0,3,2,4,1,0,2,1,1,12,2,14,22,2,14,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,0,4,64,18,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877964500689344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590941314281483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373936860496184,0.0,0.14480955707185586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857910871165312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470170951685037,0.0,0.0,0.1465938992406501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14475393290277153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17782271540990455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3927267901411429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887612130042748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870515486918344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583503127354155,0.18087304807722604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153175054151442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17780054245090607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561040729514018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441918778094357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813878732809389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17790774865105788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838596569195572,0.0,0.1487437028340442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305918023147407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923258058886164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11554018053962199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037581865523676,0.135079947334673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12389213549795974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958951661074666 divorce,RamseyIsTheGOAT,2019/02/03,"I thought I was over her. Today my ex wife and I got together to do our taxes. We were married for about a year, together for 5 years. And everything came flooding back. I thought I was over her. This is so painful. Being with her again was like a dream and a nightmare. We hadn't seen each other in 4 months and didn't miss a beat, I was making her laugh a ton and we had a great time. It makes me feel like I'll never have that kind of chemistry with someone again. I've memorized her facial expressions. Her tones. The sounds she makes. I thought I'd forgotten all of it, but today... it all came crashing over me like a tsunami. I'm devastated. We separated back in September. She's completely over me. Why am I not over her.",0.5689560029828513,2.92097301342282,2.368534675615212,92.82500186428041,87.3221476510067,5.995674869500372,22.3717375093214,7.3871296695380915,0.9143464578672628,565,21,124,10,18,186,90,149,0.067,0.8290000000000001,0.103,0.2503,0,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,5,0,0,1,6,8,0,0,8,0,13,2,1,3,3,27,26,7,0,0,2,2,1,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,14,0,0,5,1,1,2,4,2,0,0,15,3,26,6,15,10,4,20,0,1,1,0,17,7,0,0,14,85,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617123812737134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3892760361234474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784281403788649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294479480792406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604698717572888,0.12157502355737505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610669825474705,0.18762157780092195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721394618884695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24942076808349475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3407849226178397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583426199488582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13125157727408535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108113180266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14419106120319733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4053063898990587,0.09923201860197588,0.0,0.32261723042280155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15355895617685794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2191777919382216 divorce,throwaway12233444555,2019/02/03,"I [25F] recently found out my [29M] husband was cheating on me for two years with my best friend. I think there were probably others before her, and certainly others after. He’s planning on moving on with his [31F] coworker who he has also been cheating on me with. I’ve found out about all of this in the last week. We are living separately. We were together for 11 years and I moved states to be with him. We’ve lived together for 8 years and have been married for 1. We have a house, and a puppy, and I just generally feel like my whole life is falling apart at the moment. On top of this, he’s still trying to deny he has cheated, despite the overwhelming evidence. I literally caught him at his single female coworkers house at 11:30pm at night with the lights off... he said they were “watching documentaries”. Sorry for TMI, but he smelt like vagina. I don’t know how to recover from this. I just feel like everyone out there is evil and no one is as they say they are and everyone has ulterior motives for everything and I honestly just do not know how to go forward. Have you been in a similar situation and if so what do you recommend? I am seeing a counsellor but I don’t know if that’s enough. I have plenty of friends but I’m conscious that I’m trying to spend every waking minute filling my time to avoid feeling things because it’s too much... I don’t think I am strong enough to handle the pain that’s waiting for me. I’m slipping. 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I leave behind 2 step children I love. I was a collegue of my wife for 18 months. We started dating Sept 2017. I was proposed to by my wife after just 10 weeks later. I am her third husband, the second a LEO killed in the line of duty. 3 weeks ago we were on holiday, a beautiful family of 4 with happy photos. Lots of very kinky, passionate sex. 8 days ago she said we are done. In 4 days she packed all my belongings, changed her name and removed all trace of me from her house (hers prior to marriage). She divided our money, slightly in my favour, and cut off contact. The shreds of information she has given me is ""I can't give you the love you deserve"", ""we are too different. There is so much I didn't say"" ""It shouldn't have been so hard."" Apparently coming home to me ""made her chest hurt."" I don't drink, gamble, do drugs, I work full time, was a dutiful step father and doting husband. Her social media suggests she has rid herself if a ""negative influence"" and she is ""at peace."" TL;DR: Wife suddenly wanted a divorce. No explanation. Want my life back.",1.8656706074194889,4.03503121524664,3.5497289033836132,87.66677028128824,79.89686098654708,6.5657562168772925,22.692417448022827,7.686295010490155,1.0823112107623314,863,28,176,14,22,287,146,223,0.061,0.823,0.116,0.9276,2,0,2,0,1,0,50.0,5,2,0,1,7,8,2,0,10,0,20,8,1,2,2,26,30,7,1,4,3,7,1,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,1,11,1,2,1,2,2,4,6,3,0,2,10,3,40,5,24,19,5,28,0,1,0,4,41,8,0,2,16,116,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27250016706108976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11818954897751947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259936034175942,0.13240312611638022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825383680774367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16058886329943653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572934359991077,0.0,0.15057224582158454,0.17824883843912892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489926173363282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14744770654276984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16362168059284554,0.1376893630009648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1541785059589837,0.0,0.0,0.3547095410769997,0.1645442306164357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17005165327338315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16275125250817996,0.0,0.0,0.10856628754230414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13067437462963416,0.2774492726685453,0.145439254064573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24537150413345415,0.0,0.11299075691218086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620851901857346,0.12223227318076843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15668274729586404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879309035273783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962653937591407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682260599431588,0.18131821645083734,0.0,0.24658553319731785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189896800708968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,fasteddiecoyle,2019/02/03,"Feeling selfish and hating it I have been married a long time. I have spent my entire marriage managing my words and deeds to accommodate my SO’s anxiety. I had terrible LSE and was convinced that this was the only way to stay married to her. From the outside I was a doting husband but on the inside it was eating me up. After a few years of therapy I realized that this wasn’t sustainable. We have twins who entered college this past year and the thought of an empty nest with her terrified me. I started talking about my unhappiness and she was dismissive. I got more and more upset. And yes, magically, an AP situation presented itself. After a decade of a DB and a dismissive spouse I was finally with someone who treated me like she loved me. That situation is suddenly on hold because of my job change and a short illness but I have a feeling that we will get together again some day. Anyhoo I told her that I wanted to move out. She is dumbfounded. And when she pushes back, I immediately cave and go right back to my old role as people pleaser. I back down and tell her it’s all going to be ok and we just need to work out our problems. She keeps saying that she can change. She says I gave her a list of everything that upset me (we’ll not a list but I did give examples) and she’s fixed every one of them. And to be honest she is trying her best to change but she’s clearly doing it reluctantly (as I can tell from her passive aggressive comments). I’m slowly starting to realize that first, it’s not real and second it’s too late. I have so much resentment and yearning for freedom. And I’m not getting any younger. I feel terribly guilty all the time. She keeps insisting that she’s addressed everything and that I’m being ridiculous. But I don’t feel any better. Are there any former people pleasers who can give me a pep talk and describe how they learned to put themselves first? 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I am a twenty-something female so you can imagine how well this is going. I just went to the fourth dealership where the sales guy tried to swindle me. I am currently crying in my sister’s guest room like a sad, weak little girl. I was so looking forward to not asking my sister for rides anymore, being able to get out of the house, meet friends, do things as I felt like it. Feeling like a real grown up. I know it seems silly, but it’s these adulting failures that make me want to give up and go back to my lonely, miserable marriage. At least it was safe. At least I knew what I was getting into. Things were more certain. I just feel like I try to do things right and I get fucked. I am NC with my ex but every time I see/ hear his name (his surname is a common food, think “Potato”) I mentally unravel. My career is on track and I have my financial ducks in a row and I still find ways to struggle. I have a great, supportive family and network of friends and I still isolate the hell out of myself. I am reading books, journaling, exercising, practicing self care and I still fight these intense waves of grief and regret. Sometimes I think my ex has the right idea my just self-medicating with alcohol and pills. Re-reading this, these seem like very first world problems. I am grateful we didn’t have kids together, I am grateful his addictions are not my problem anymore, I am grateful for my endlessly supportive friends and family. But today is not a good day. Really hoping for a better Tuesday for all of us. 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I'm afraid to post any details because I have a feeling my STBX is on this sub, but I would love some reassurance. My STBX walked out on me just over a month ago. We've been married for eight years and have two small children, and he is fighting me for custody. I would love to hear from other people, especially women, who have been through this. It's all so new and terrifying and it feels like there's no way things will ever be okay again. But that can't be true, right?",3.312045454545455,4.971354080808084,3.8968560606060616,89.16528409090913,73.84848484848484,6.566161616161617,25.506313131313128,7.1686216300943375,0.9375343434343436,390,13,83,4,8,123,74,99,0.125,0.6729999999999999,0.202,0.8384,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,5,9,1,1,2,1,13,2,0,0,3,17,20,7,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,3,7,7,10,13,2,15,0,0,0,2,10,6,0,1,7,56,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122390626732581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628197006023351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595349013370892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657693243988754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212465119153406,0.17104788406080887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698535033577956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697275030445038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4321874309702581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110967382393185,0.0,0.0,0.1775333191746726,0.0,0.23124169385286086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598968743608308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22930647411867494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447076923709254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590657642160588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338870125489105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004732750638828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34016650405659016,0.0,0.0,0.1541842084301977 divorce,monkeynuts2021,2019/02/04,"Introducing kids to partner So 4 months since We split, 3 months since she moved out of the house, took the kids. I paid for her new place. Been deliberately not escalating the situation. Within 2 weeks of moving out she started sleeping with someone else, may have been going on before. I found out very quickly, have evidence, but not done anything. I have tried to let things calm down. She’s refusing to email about anything other than to do with the kids. 9,8 and 5. We have loads to sort out, she has refused mediation but I’ve not not got lawyers involved yet. Today I get an email saying she wants to introduce my kids to this guy. After only 3 months!!! This cannot be a good move, my kids have no stability, she is doing this so she can get him in the house while they are there. There’s a bit of me that says this will end the infatuation/rebound things she’s going through a bit quicker, but introducing my kids to this guy seems too soon and I’m worried about the impact on them. Also as we have no formal custody arrangements this is only a skip away from her refusing to let me have the kids because they want to play happy families together. I’m a bit upset personally, but I kind of knew this would happen at some point. Any advice on how best to protect the kids.",4.428690476190479,5.628555599206351,5.275555555555556,82.17500000000003,70.3888888888889,8.13968253968254,27.095238095238088,8.515128840125781,1.7716333333333334,1009,33,202,16,18,329,146,252,0.098,0.82,0.083,-0.4469,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,0,3,1,12,7,0,1,15,0,24,1,1,1,0,32,40,12,0,3,8,0,0,0,1,3,0,2,0,12,11,11,0,4,3,1,1,6,7,1,0,0,8,2,27,6,37,26,5,33,0,0,0,0,37,14,0,4,13,139,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698072267592462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08754958916673516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074448855488742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1801822801670832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028582695261455,0.0,0.0,0.06673682763722137,0.0,0.09315779130416436,0.0,0.1148905013866076,0.0,0.3585651597122275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203409623920006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09145489642696153,0.0,0.09696509308422163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103206200124886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003707514293828,0.0,0.0,0.11439556715911856,0.0,0.1244378431501986,0.09182502789346338,0.08755962973394801,0.0,0.0,0.21680104280579807,0.09681111359269412,0.1165414627375964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2526460345249786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11400458398413935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238975291612008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26215310130869635,0.3490736524447482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573462170078857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16652604171310506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559204558180667,0.11438130301848624,0.0,0.10349218166977073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741227428860806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966474159392807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811228150310112,0.12305796031889195,0.10955715395135483,0.0,0.09276043054300344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0774891557128154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546475702287134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10377242855726633,0.0,0.12163418641567825,0.07432843690430352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033088987485746,0.12914602813996928,0.0,0.08781672032893822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118031477472937,0.0,0.07777009418679783,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,HaveMercy703,2019/02/04,"Paperwork being signed tomorrow I’m struggling tonight anticipating having to go sign the last of our divorce papers tomorrow. For the divorce I still don’t want. 9 months later after the bombshell, I can rationalize up & down what might not have worked for us or all of the terrible things he said & did & recall all the hurt I’ve been through. But I still don’t feel like it should have been over. Not so soon. 13 years together, less than 3 married, to vanish with a piece of paper? Thinking about the good times, connections I made with his family, the life & future we had built together, only makes me more nostalgic & sad. I miss him, our house, our life together. But to flip to the other side, recalling his distance, impulse decision, rejection, only makes me feel the pain. I try to close a door to the past, to help with my detachment. The future is too daunting. I try to live in a single minute. So I do what everyone says I should do. Give it time. He was your first true love. You’ve dated since you were 18. It’ll take time. I bought the clothes, cut off 9.5 inches of my hair. I’ve booked the travel, continued with my working out, made new friends, sought the love & friendship of friends & family. Cut off most contact. Deactivated my FB. Started taking anti-depressants. I’ve self-cared the shit out of myself, yoga, writing, meditation, bubble baths, podcasts, instagram inspiration. & walking by him at work. Smiling would indicate I’m okay. I’m not okay. I don’t want to give him false pretenses or release his guilt that his decision was a good one. I’m tired of our co-workers seeing my tired, sad eyes. It’s so apparent when I cry. I’m doing all that I can. I’m trying to find grace in knowing I’m doing the best I can. That I DID the best I can. HE was the one who left. My friends tell me I’m awesome, I deserve better. I know I’m strong & I’m independent. I know it’s only myself that I can rely on & that I control my destiny. But I feel alone. I feel a void. I’m so, so hurt. At times, I feel like I’m going crazy. My thoughts, my emotions. This is just exhausting & I’m getting impatient. I’m so tired of divorce’s constant presence in my life. 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I'm afraid to post any details because I have a feeling my STBX is on this sub, but I would love some reassurance. My STBX walked out on me just over a month ago. We've been married for eight years and have two small children, and he is fighting me for custody. I would love to hear from other people, especially women, who have been through this. It's all so new and terrifying and it feels like there's no way things will ever be okay again. But that can't be true, right?",3.0948,4.646035479999998,3.799000000000003,90.08950000000002,74.2,6.6000000000000005,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.7658999999999998,388,12,85,4,8,123,74,100,0.125,0.6729999999999999,0.202,0.8384,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,5,9,1,1,2,1,13,2,0,0,3,17,20,7,0,3,3,0,2,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,2,0,2,2,3,8,7,10,13,2,15,0,0,0,2,10,6,0,1,7,57,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122390626732581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1628197006023351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14595349013370892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21657693243988754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24212465119153406,0.17104788406080887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2698535033577956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11697275030445038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4321874309702581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19110967382393185,0.0,0.0,0.1775333191746726,0.0,0.23124169385286086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598968743608308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22930647411867494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447076923709254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590657642160588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338870125489105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004732750638828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34016650405659016,0.0,0.0,0.1541842084301977 divorce,udonowho,2019/02/04,"I’m about to file and I have questions When I file for divorce, I assume my stbx will not want to move out and he will make things difficult for me. He can not afford to move out, and I have a bad feeling he will quit his job (he has had like 10 jobs in the last 2 years, which is just one of the issues he has.) So how do I get him to leave? If he stays in the house till the divorce is final how do I get him to contribute to the household expenses? I don’t mind him staying there as long as he contributes. I rent and I don’t have a lease. He has no friends or family to go to. Also, since I am worried about his reaction, should I have someone with me when I tell him I filed? 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Hi all, I made a new account because stbx knows mine and I'm trying to stay a little off the radar, but I just needed somewhere to vent today. Stbx and I had been on the outs for a few months and I knew he was planning on leaving, but nothing at all felt real about it until he was gone. He has his own apartment now, his own things, his own life without me. I thought I could handle this and I have been trying to be strong for my childrens sake, but I miss him so much. I have been trying to stay busy to keep him off my mind but everywhere I look I see him. I am starting a new job soon, (previously a sahm) so I am hoping that will help keep me occupied mentally during the day, but I don't now how to keep him out of my thoughts when I lie awake at night. I honestly don't know how so many of you cohabitate for so long with your ex before divorcing. It's so different with him out of the house. This hurts more than I thought it would and is so much harder than I ever thought it could be. :( Thanks for listening to the ramblings of a very sad lady. 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She's the youngest of my three girls, and has been dealing with the divorce really well over the last two and a half years, which has been a huge relief. We had been having a wonderful time, playing, building, coloring - but I can always tell that she doesn't have the same desire to play with me like she used to, and it manifests itself in different ways. Today's manifestation was quite a bit more tough than the usual ""I miss mommy"" she says when we're together. Today, the preschool teacher pulled out a mosaic quilt the kids had been working on and my girl showed me the beautiful square she had been working on, and on it was a picture she had drawn of her family. There were four figures and when I asked her to tell me about her drawing, she said ""I drew my family! Mommy, my sisters, and me. But I didn't draw you."" There's been moments where I've felt such hurt for her and her sisters, but what a knife to the gut this was for me. It was like a visual representation of everything I was missing out on and will miss out on because they don't live with me primarily. It's moments like that that stir up several emotions for me. Their mom doesn't work, and I have to work six days a week to make sure they can have a semblance of a childhood - but it's their mom that gets to spend every day with them, and do the activities with them I just can't afford. She gets to experience all of their ""firsts"" while I get a text about those things days later. And while I struggle to make ends meet to make the payments I can barely afford, it's a subtle reminder that my kids will grow up having all the experiences I wish I would've had with them. When the ones you love move on without you, it's a regret-filled feeling that is like none other. 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My wife and best friend has decided to leave me. She moved out this past friday and it's been very difficult for me. I am home alone and am constantly reminded of all the times we spent together in the house. How do you folks move on? Is it really just time? I've been going to the gym at least 4 times a week and find that helps but I still eventually come home. I am not sure moving is the answer as I feel very fortunate to have an affordable house I own in Seattle. Financially it makes a lot of sense to keep it and I also actually like the house a lot.",1.995729386892176,3.6003452325581407,3.710768146582101,89.3457716701903,77.29457364341086,8.101761804087387,21.029598308668078,8.841846274778883,1.1285906976744182,481,12,111,11,11,161,85,129,0.052000000000000005,0.802,0.146,0.9237,1,1,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,3,0,2,5,7,0,0,9,0,12,0,0,3,2,23,18,10,0,0,3,1,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,7,8,0,1,4,1,1,6,1,1,0,0,3,1,14,6,15,15,7,19,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,8,76,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.1231507479310356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130702754747205,0.0,0.10092025261144116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648733942202679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870814156566376,0.0,0.1363748777882718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638093473656777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534240869624875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1950000551453758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07172105937141572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458765609416395,0.0,0.2531731590300906,0.0,0.0,0.4368455957625576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121703114325068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13362513950083774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616538202100781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21457753805233515,0.0,0.0,0.08423794261732144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5365127203148948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204699812515124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08084547610643275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692689905051954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078164375504152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893983583335198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22076067574008826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082526328575996,0.0,0.0,0.1012281803199148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Fairybomb,2019/02/04,"Idealizing How do you stop idealizing the past? I get so so depressed thinking about the first 5-7 yrs and all the happy memories. Now it's been 15 yrs and literally everything I miss has been gone for years and isn't coming back. Why can't I stop thinking about all these happy memories? I mean the most recent one is from around 2011, how do you let go??",4.152083333333334,5.092275597222223,5.431555555555558,81.76899999999998,70.80555555555556,9.093333333333334,26.9,9.3871,2.0868466666666663,281,9,59,6,5,94,49,72,0.133,0.7020000000000001,0.165,0.5529999999999999,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,2,0,3,9,6,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,2,2,17,17,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,2,3,0,0,3,2,2,0,2,3,0,6,4,5,13,3,12,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,8,40,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20020042714943287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729270878330229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1937234486244557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19369805412922986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20211728491127395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912919379942513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749612313818375,0.0,0.1278105830926883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4788007226704565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22996600576373444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449719313107896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239177722613126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21468364639155907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220524624659347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3760374363944927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882017950876441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029289021261142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482225522952644 divorce,werkbetch,2019/02/04,"Waves Separated and cohabiting while we try and figure everything out. After three years, my STBXH wants a divorce. I understand. We we're living like roommates. I wanted to try couples' therapy, and he did not. So we're splitting. I went through a bit of mourning, but for the majority, I felt that I'd already been mourning ""us"" the last few months of our relationship. So, it was a weekend of sadness and crying, but ultimately I'm good. Working on getting in therapy so I can work on my own issues that I know I have, mostly relating to my mother leaving me at a young age. Working out and getting back in shape. Hoping that there is some part of me that remains after this process. A part that isn't completely frozen over. I hope I survive with at least a piece of my heart. We fought on Saturday because he's taking advantage of the fact that he's taken all of our friends (they were technically his before, since I moved to his town), and leaving me to watch our dogs on the weekends. I mean, I guess I should be happy that I get time with them, being that one we got together he'll probably end up taking from me. We're two dudes, so that pup is pretty much like a child. To think of someone else raising her, reduces me to a shaking, sniveling mess. Last night I realize he's texting someone else... some new guy. I'd like to say that was the reason I felt a strong resurgence of emotion concerning the loss of my marriage and this relationship, but it wasn't. I've been sad about it now for three days. I haven't cried in my office since the second week, and my desk is covered in tissues. What is wrong with me? And why does this feeling of loss randomly wash over me in such strong waves that I feel like I can barely breathe? I'm so incredibly alone now. I'm in the middle of the tunnel, and all I can see is darkness. There isn't a light. Nothing. Just me. Used and tossed away like trash. Really happy I have a therapist appointment tomorrow. Hopefully she can help me see what I no longer can. And hopefully this wave subsides soon.",2.9045269526952717,4.936568836633665,4.120825082508252,85.50632563256329,75.98019801980197,7.162156215621562,27.311331133113303,8.07648339933343,1.8073951595159512,1606,65,318,27,36,525,213,404,0.093,0.733,0.173,0.9897,0,1,0,0,1,0,56.0,8,0,2,9,14,26,1,1,20,0,25,3,2,2,3,53,56,21,2,7,5,1,4,5,1,2,1,1,0,2,20,21,0,0,11,2,0,3,6,10,0,5,13,9,52,16,47,39,14,47,0,6,3,0,30,21,0,9,28,212,72,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932026235930179,0.0993063339655116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08454867901143925,0.06919684668483048,0.0,0.05485714123070008,0.0,0.07657496310871095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824590261550306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943529275456242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995723549367662,0.19769984002888594,0.05803618200148225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07875095949264489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035039414234164,0.10122677143718924,0.07970453487367166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087731628178625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100341604493327,0.06428895893164457,0.1728092529814493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695261426413082,0.0,0.14104836877908009,0.0,0.0,0.07547944219115453,0.07197331884777883,0.0,0.099134261557338,0.08910436594927043,0.0,0.19159230988267809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663872419630868,0.060318479796452815,0.0,0.0,0.357521972501293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392630397728384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049456215909137236,0.1467079154689898,0.0,0.1905730847608996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198231326197197,0.0,0.07946292369474706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802562100257864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182925435978435,0.09564525480180162,0.06615309179614758,0.0,0.0,0.08691301760918256,0.0,0.08444963050112017,0.0,0.08634794614304059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060979633537387994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949010586173609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091552302965291,0.09702456860982947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05764997450374936,0.09252483007472767,0.0,0.19323141969937374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156375449775798,0.0,0.0,0.14342094742586375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.148881512592555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15249667145041276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13532274002676006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20582308738511834,0.10448546404469937,0.0,0.05766203455709934,0.0,0.0,0.05247396201898266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12219476726947175,0.0,0.08790727010137353,0.0936828874594429,0.10824703286010086,0.07772256934437648,0.0,0.0,0.10615700739582284,0.0,0.07218464527095148,0.0,0.0,0.08342174180389204,0.08120208525052236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19654163503534786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839006814479112,0.0,0.057950686137416316 divorce,pathpaver849,2019/02/04,"Stage 1 : Denial. Really starting to feel the loss today. It's been a while since my spouse and I separated but it hasn't been easy. I have good days and bad days but ultimately I only feel better when I convince myself that they will ask me to come back. All of our issues are remiadable. The problem is the lack of effort or desire to make it better. (From their side) I feel I did all that I could but it was not reciprocated. Although we still love each other very much, it's being chalked up to ""it's not meant to be"" ""it will never work"". I don't understand how if two people love each other how it will never work. I just want my old life back. 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I have one older teen at home and another young adult who has left the nest. Husband and I do well and agree on so many things BUT have had ongoing issues over the years with him having low desire and me being more of what I would call medium (maybe interested 1X a week). Over the last several years, we have gotten into a vicious cycle of him being depressed (He claims he isn't, but has gained over 100 pounds, doesn't do much outside of the house, always either grumpy OR with a bad temper), low-T (he found out several years ago he had low T and took the shots - was a DIFFERENT person for several years, but he claims it did nothing for him so quit) but now is in a not-so-good state physically or mentally and there is nothing I can do. WE were together ONCE in 2018 - ONCE. He says he just isn't into it anymore and doesn't want that part of his life with me or anyone else - ever. Says if I can accept living as 'best friends' and co-parents, he will stay in my life forever if I will let him. He is a great provider, great friend, great dad, and so much more, but I am a very physical person and he knows this - yet refuses me. He gets angry if I mention counseling and I don't bring it up anymore. It's killing me inside. Is THIS enough of a reason to throw away a long-term relationship? I keep thinking that I am 53 and maybe since I am older I will eventually lose some of my desire and interest as well and it won't matter. It's scary starting over at this age - and I wonder if I would be making a mistake by letting it all go just because of this one thing. Anyone with words of wisdom or advice?",5.5697899159663855,5.105779389355742,6.311556022408965,81.60464495798321,67.43137254901961,9.268851540616248,29.05448179271709,8.697196308434329,1.972909355742297,1370,40,286,19,20,452,194,357,0.096,0.7490000000000001,0.156,0.9823,2,0,0,0,0,0,47.0,2,0,0,5,12,21,3,0,15,0,40,2,0,2,2,61,55,33,1,11,16,3,0,0,2,6,2,2,1,3,17,24,0,2,6,0,0,4,7,9,2,3,9,2,29,12,35,35,11,45,0,4,0,0,38,18,0,10,21,191,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459028671132557,0.07673462277619493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07202898952374456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907709186685708,0.0,0.0,0.17169837885943665,0.12105647936596575,0.08869604142730249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133063875633656,0.0,0.07227813403705277,0.052769202178022966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084459526546274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839251280167686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07455828172147821,0.0,0.0,0.09044196912053752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231392456888165,0.0,0.0,0.08944475417156111,0.0,0.0,0.07830297120368028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07363211916681138,0.0,0.0949140214082249,0.13375976200684836,0.0,0.04522662393022063,0.0,0.049196867279076274,0.07260658969666471,0.0,0.28631455471518225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08683172287602797,0.0,0.0,0.09988435281787876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09035133828005497,0.0,0.07694292265846045,0.09577131351612,0.0,0.047573843582076746,0.07056200413308182,0.0,0.0,0.0940530930713125,0.17703709333761666,0.1222867965274018,0.0,0.0,0.07643845435675478,0.07660727431202571,0.0,0.09684405884530424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057782789589670876,0.08776329255931728,0.17393229475480684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723712935104537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727042632468122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661228465594614,0.0,0.0908353741043939,0.1843777355160002,0.11731732783316645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374142669627927,0.0,0.0,0.15117038548304498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207250097091736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08900320642243234,0.0,0.18587676325277105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767987704022752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29338132871037403,0.0,0.07160743763083391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127113123569066,0.09226674006714228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11501983904364806,0.055467337365310426,0.0,0.0,0.05047673007998372,0.0,0.0,0.08271653839030851,0.0961768666862496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142516597640218,0.10211652412446656,0.0,0.0694371973273733,0.0,0.15566460793236175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387601723145846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12298654187925945,0.0,0.0,0.3902150172565624 divorce,Jubilee411,2019/02/04,"Stbx does not “Spark joy” I have been married for 13 years and we have one child. Stbx has threatened divorce once and when I immediately said please let’s do that, he backed down. Stbx has been ignoring his family because of some insult I didn’t hear and I don’t care about. He also isolated himself from friends and family because I might not like them. I have repeatedly said, it’s okay to have your own friends and hobbies. As long as your hobbies aren’t too expensive. Too expensive is defined as more than 300 a month. Husband is always sick and I feel that some of it is self created. He’s been told to stop certain thing reguarding his health but continues to do them. His attitude and illiness are likely to cost him his job. At the point if he’s not working I cannot support him and his medical needs. Which is making my desire for a divorce/mediation more urgent. But I know a divorce will cause a spiral in his attitude and he will for sure lose his job. And I don’t want a divorce to leave him homeless and on the street. What do I do? He’s an okay dad when he wants to be. But that’s just it everything is on his terms. We’ll except bedroom time I control that. I know he would like more/any but I’ve never liked bedroom time. and at this point the thought of intimacy is repulsive. I’ve offered to let him get a side piece of action but he won’t. Is it wrong of me to just want to leave with our kid and never look back?",1.8795520581113792,3.913730881355932,3.318928571428572,90.03277542372885,79.16949152542372,6.65496368038741,24.434019370460053,7.7094869923839395,1.1762663438256662,1130,41,243,18,28,370,152,295,0.112,0.785,0.103,-0.5363,3,0,0,0,4,0,26.0,3,2,2,3,10,17,1,0,10,2,35,3,0,3,4,49,52,25,0,7,12,2,1,4,2,6,3,3,2,3,12,15,0,3,4,0,3,1,11,4,0,1,8,5,35,13,31,35,7,26,0,1,1,0,45,10,0,4,19,162,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624140171729163,0.10013829204164204,0.0,0.0,0.0818400437589604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18507873134163805,0.0,0.14672475106055347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270172256456115,0.12362945497557574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349793227024152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10531641522062772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816006659903823,0.0,0.226904762443096,0.0,0.06085102716481097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595948936430368,0.0,0.06287630723583844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792316592723593,0.135639744094911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2388515294731793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227905801996415,0.0,0.0,0.2548600582629004,0.0,0.24612579285180103,0.0,0.2351817370528901,0.0,0.0,0.1065032517920155,0.10106111659184404,0.1346374384990107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08033251468846103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123687748263848,0.0,0.12766908146181702,0.0,0.0,0.09605977661579683,0.0,0.0,0.08923572857694048,0.18563795331540614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816555977778502,0.08155019884202275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210479687784535,0.2275335093054614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22895499175180334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12554810156335036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10061542777505238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365682774757194,0.1134255634961483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995315711695904,0.0,0.0,0.09554202477556677,0.14035053306947384,0.0,0.0,0.11499665527408053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21295122386137866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761400316846084,0.0,0.0,0.08549101083694248,0.1315804827913299,0.0,0.07749948143982202 divorce,MrsD93,2019/02/04,"My last post as a married woman. I'm 25. We had been together for 7 years. He has cheated on me basically the entire time, having online affairs. I fought for us, I tried everything I could to make him happy. A few days ago he told me he was done. I felt a weight lift off of me. I'm not sad. I'm left wondering why I fought for this relationship for so long when neither of us were happy. I've been happier in the last few days than I have been in years. I leave tomorrow to go back to my home state and I can't wait! The two things I'm most upset about, is that I have to leave our pets (2 dogs and a cat) with him. I know he will take good care of them but they are all closer to me. I will miss them so much and I know they'll miss me. The other thing? Well, I shouldn't have chosen this username. Now I have to make a new account and subscribe to all my subreddits again. Lol. Looking forward to a fresh start. He is already sleeping with other women and I don't even care. I'm finally happy. Thanks for reading :)",-0.4974583758069997,1.6266589449541298,1.7946687054026498,96.57651206252123,90.28440366972477,4.881005776418621,17.707101597009853,6.42735559955562,-0.23675793408086945,782,21,184,9,27,263,128,218,0.061,0.758,0.181,0.9836,0,0,0,0,0,0,29.0,4,0,4,0,9,15,3,1,10,1,23,2,1,2,2,22,47,10,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,2,2,7,8,1,1,4,1,1,2,5,7,1,1,11,3,33,8,25,31,7,27,0,3,1,0,22,7,0,2,18,120,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246821785291798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14001119333570133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09756007187593264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587177637521704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10130043141754867,0.0,0.0,0.16364948285166753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298385437159439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380062427429756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402827105000665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12182118080094795,0.138986825989877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07210674642868968,0.10641785223052146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4051866613553583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12726731130806995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1394558338989979,0.20684229793177256,0.0,0.26868744368617925,0.1378515118545251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228156606141584,0.10654416882037668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1693818808929233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09326870659067428,0.0,0.0,0.1225379573078854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12151245940040195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691067197034048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621770425770086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126967966005069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08980372466297143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953952157935042,0.0,0.0,0.11681068513343625,0.0,0.0,0.1685820017998665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07398261266881094,0.0,0.0,0.12123577758183099,0.0,0.08614070473449734,0.0,0.12393974581774014,0.0,0.3052332241175089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545011983073084,0.11407706458652946,0.0,0.11448616018008913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1375919757623066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16340840300358256 divorce,mirandacarly,2019/02/04,"How can I forgive my parents? So basically my father cheated on my mom multiple times. They got divorced a year ago and it really fucked things up with me. I question how could my father ever do that, and how could my mom ever let my dad cheat so easily on her? ",3.3240566037735846,4.598073056603777,5.3850471698113225,80.0541745283019,73.15094339622641,8.318867924528304,26.45754716981132,8.841846274778883,2.045871698113208,204,7,40,4,4,71,38,53,0.184,0.731,0.085,-0.7985,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,7,4,3,0,1,0,5,1,0,3,2,12,7,7,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,11,1,4,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,11,3,1,1,5,33,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20482590425864192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36897450431773904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180245188592434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21361662363902856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18480444139878102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23628045214974505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5412429822900867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565712439827597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588465959276985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480266785717102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350986091709362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134736335549687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879880977771265 divorce,golfalphabravoecho,2019/02/04,"Private negotiations failing, moving to mediation, worried it's going to escalate to the court. April will be our 9th year, we'll almost certainly still be married then but I assume for not much longer afterward. We decided to go our separate ways late last year. We made verbal agreements and wrote them into a separation agreement and a 50/50 parenting plan before I moved out of the house. Those documents are NOT signed. We also verbally agreed to put off the implementation of the parenting plan until after the holidays, splitting custody into the 5 weekdays with her and the weekends with me, we agreed to begin permanent schedule (3-4-4-3) on the first of the year (2019). &#x200B; During the holidays I petitioned for an additional day and so now we're on essentially a (4-3) Thu night, Friday, Sat, Sun morning. In our first counseling session of the year she reneged on starting our permanent parenting plan. We agreed to put it off for 2 weeks, I sent her an email asking to begin the schedule in Feb and she replied with how she'd prefer if we continue as is until the end of the school year. I have requested a mediation session with our counselor, in speaking with my STBX she has decided that she's prepared to ""roll the dice"" and get the legal system involved. Despite this we've been very amicable, we've been able to negotiate just about every other aspect of our separation in private personal negotiation. I do not want the law in my business, however I will not be relegated to being a weekend father. The only thing I have constantly and consistently requested from her is equal ""quality"" time with our son. &#x200B; Prior to our separation I would confidently declare myself our son's ""primary"" care provider. My STBX is a fine mother and person, I'd just say that I did more and was more active and intimately involved with our son. It ""feels"" to me like she is using this opportunity to strengthen the bond between her and our son before we go into our schedule as she's never really been as interested in the work of parenting as I was. Again she wasn't negligent or anything like that, I'd just say that I was ""more"" involved. &#x200B; All that said, I'm asking for suggestions and advice to get as far ahead of the power curve as I can going into mediation. All I want is a fair 50-50 split for time with our son, but with her seemingly preparing for a legal battle I'd like to strengthen my case. Any ideas?",8.144592430858808,7.657394751091704,8.831102620087336,65.7374690684134,62.18777292576418,12.000145560407569,38.078966521106246,11.374738998889045,4.535798835516738,1948,87,330,50,24,659,225,458,0.021,0.828,0.151,0.9959,6,0,0,0,0,0,70.0,21,0,1,10,10,12,1,0,31,0,28,0,0,3,4,66,51,28,0,5,11,11,1,3,0,4,0,4,0,2,13,34,0,0,7,4,0,9,6,2,0,2,13,5,56,10,68,29,7,65,0,1,0,0,63,17,0,5,40,234,69,7,0.0880484248976512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603990177580975,0.0,0.0,0.08816777896637222,0.0,0.0,0.07041229357963193,0.0,0.28620129477108514,0.3209654208930157,0.059875948239545326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245635147876084,0.0,0.1646267832312524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14984544902995833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08977123730306327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514906753835853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05678394999453293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779847703022312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418459547369811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04451992918740922,0.06290181233978917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497878904767668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200333588860328,0.0,0.2001597957843328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015960607240734,0.0,0.099395954418335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07177121795831189,0.0993224584039923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904803872178508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331354856000754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871630827038606,0.06472572328138765,0.0,0.06790837329428615,0.0,0.0,0.08262748220256662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696479474864475,0.0,0.0,0.3910694240810667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537609768691215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702597232055767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640607559820863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375421496408697,0.14003928296723356,0.0,0.08910970667748268,0.0,0.08015597915925107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623211283253134,0.0,0.07031558586005135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058495461112203176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268348924899402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604556914141894,0.0,0.07264917171758159,0.10386648452132342,0.06988874136692293,0.07062713545377812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06410030197716943,0.08941744945581755,0.0,0.06254707481456752,0.0,0.3209654208930157,0.28350149426541155 divorce,throwaway7687333,2019/02/04,"Filled with rage, sadness, and unable to think of anything else - and I've been divorced nearly 5 years. My ex is a narcissist and he is controlling, and generally a monster. He's not trying to change our divorce decree so that my son goes to school in his district. This is coming at a time when he's about to start kindergarten (this fall), and I'm moving to the best school district in my state in order to give him the best possible education. My ex is unhappy bc I travel for work, which is just an excuse. Because I've offered to reconfigure my schedule every which way, I've even offered to pay for someone to drive the 20 minutes between our houses (his main complaint) in order to work this out. I've tamped down my travel, and I've had literally months of not traveling bc he complained and threatened me with court. The fact is, I took this job bc it more than doubles my salary and puts me so far ahead with my career that I couldn't say no. The travel was part of it of course, but the company is so amazing and works with me to make my schedule work with my childcare schedule. None of this is enough for a controlling narcissist who literally feeds off of my anxiety and pain. &#x200B; He's remarried, has a newborn, and his mom lives with him. I am alone, and my dad lives 90 minutes away. My son is all I have, and he wants to make it so that his whole life is over there with his dad. He is ruining this period in our lives, I wanted to be excited to enroll him in Kindergarten. I didn't get to enjoy anything about pregnancy, or his newborn time bc I was living a nightmare with this man. And now he wants to take away another special moment in my son's life by filing a motion with the court to take away my residential parent status, making it so that my son has to go to school in his district. &#x200B; I have no idea if I'll win, or what kind of chance I have of winning. The lawyers I spoke to, none of them had a clue or refused to speculate. Which I get it, I get that they don't want to speculate. &#x200B; I just need hope right now, that I get to raise my son in the community where I live. I want to be involved in his school, and I want to build our lives where we live, not where his father lives. &#x200B; He's such a monster and I even told him today when he called me to tell me what a nice guy he was to give me the courtesy to tell me that he's going to file with the courts...I told him he's dead to me and that any goodwill he had with me is gone. &#x200B; I'm so filled with rage, sadness, just general anxiety. I have never wished harm upon another human being, but I wish harm upon this man. Help me feel ok about this? Please?",4.906353646353646,4.961151593406594,5.623533133533133,84.21389110889112,68.78021978021978,8.596203796203799,29.365967365967368,8.296473431620573,1.8579567765567764,2094,70,443,27,33,683,229,546,0.087,0.7959999999999999,0.117,0.9729,3,1,0,0,2,0,79.0,5,0,2,11,23,21,2,0,22,1,32,4,0,5,3,69,66,31,1,12,12,12,1,0,0,0,3,2,0,6,28,32,1,3,3,4,1,16,11,9,0,0,13,3,69,12,82,49,11,63,0,3,0,0,72,26,0,5,17,293,97,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061476460439661436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32156908896904873,0.3606292489685896,0.040365130022103096,0.12448301169563705,0.0908166378384851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0976923166766901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673049530183534,0.0,0.0,0.03618377619312739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458405159704075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06061063590792861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279235602427874,0.05113122349529941,0.0,0.0,0.13314894911897862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04958556798754963,0.0,0.0,0.06133215650436655,0.0,0.07841012731786308,0.0,0.050011247086275516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030012931453463388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404735874088248,0.11388223009902147,0.06746846120673268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05877324926174934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03978607569223984,0.0,0.0,0.0589553827764565,0.0,0.06849057629040141,0.0,0.06700738346081501,0.0,0.0,0.058903151808905777,0.0,0.0,0.06181169375171165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08385190403285707,0.0,0.0,0.41931002339774576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11886476050596725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695187772453866,0.04737858381907678,0.06308762024489599,0.0,0.044012828209551526,0.04578015711161602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0631605565132649,0.0,0.06590947039180077,0.06427837950173282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515670150694312,0.0,0.0669166536144993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05967067411960535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05069097385292889,0.0,0.047203460081832314,0.0,0.24029180343852674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05029341035794433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04201353835619105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925889372136643,0.0,0.10376212860865007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03803388412968951,0.0,0.0,0.06922366186296815,0.0,0.056263961936350776,0.1134372546504658,0.06594835766876261,0.04029984074685465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100635201234092,0.047115214293905625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627052005120056,0.1365163728604666,0.0,0.0,0.17285184451112512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3606292489685896,0.03822427874278205 divorce,livingsd92108,2019/02/04,Separation is Killing My Emotions I tried dating someone during my separation and turned into a crazy person. I accused him of cheating for no reason. I dont have normal emotions anymore. I want the closeness of a relationship but I pushed him away. I'm so hurt by my STBX. We were married for 17 years. He slept with a prostitute. I don't love him anymore and dont want him back. He has damaged me though. ,1.1641136363636342,3.7973452750000014,3.0288636363636385,86.30068181818184,90.0,4.90909090909091,26.022727272727273,6.574015621080383,1.287875,322,15,60,4,11,107,56,80,0.29,0.679,0.031,-0.9711,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,4,0,7,2,1,1,0,11,13,5,1,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,15,1,8,11,0,7,0,2,0,1,10,3,0,0,3,41,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37341481794497416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768803285522502,0.1447634796841298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4412882694337886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42354356802360105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20154062344813492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20828634398610385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699157095310057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844588554734146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643849591033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19356686034851814,0.0,0.2021251981856432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951556940129175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849685321344985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12781897265991352,0.20477729020085053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22208609958005726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123591431189218 divorce,masury3,2019/02/04,"need some advice. has anyone been through something similar? To sum it up quickly, wife asked for a divorce out of the blue in October. We wrote up our separation agreement and filed. In our state there is a mandatory 90 day waiting period after filing, then you sign again to finalize the divorce. I had pleaded to try counseling, or anything to try to salvage it. She outright refused. Contact was then cut off for over a month. About 3 weeks ago we came in contact again, this time she not only agreed to counseling, but scheduled the first appointment. We have had 2 since. She admitted she wished she tried counseling in the beginning rather than jumping right to filing. What I don’t understand is this: there is no contact at all between us from session to session. The sessions go well, and something is gained each time, but then we have radio silence. Part of my end of counseling is letting things take their course and not forcing my agenda. So I don’t want to be on her back all the time seeing how things are and what not. She was seeing somebody while we were separated, and she may still be seeing them. I am not sure. Has anyone gone through a similar scenario? Any input is helpful.",3.8998065476190473,6.388505915178572,4.268214285714286,83.46011904761906,74.66964285714286,7.1238095238095225,30.309523809523807,8.11559375814309,2.3857880952380954,951,44,168,16,21,298,140,224,0.043,0.883,0.07400000000000001,0.7922,0,0,2,0,2,0,28.0,8,1,2,2,12,4,1,0,10,0,24,0,0,1,3,36,40,14,0,4,8,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,13,0,2,2,1,0,4,7,1,1,1,9,4,25,3,32,27,5,40,0,0,4,0,30,12,0,3,23,133,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15131255424071074,0.13726057946330286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529977927354424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2165421801058834,0.0,0.1274240833256788,0.0,0.1447589929382981,0.0,0.0,0.11906609932847402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.177101209188854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986209114856592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371465394864425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1696249183754697,0.0,0.13171091455580705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08800187276870414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378921079306112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833930720487396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12359564841510612,0.0,0.0,0.11481546307747352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11776645403459968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16768183751389598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322366199477513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701737923789377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12808922527393662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384141964145721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365926366512567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593939899762232,0.0,0.1164240249184626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20574401991853808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708737582668101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31538838099214034,0.0,0.0,0.16119890599103834,0.18625923844819972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133147963067154,0.0,0.12420716485778728,0.0,0.13922407847785953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806388733989548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Atxflyguy83,2019/02/04,"Sale of house So the ex and I are finally selling the house. I haven't lived in the house for over a year and a half. She is wanting to deduct expenses from net profit of sale such as: cleaning, tree trimming, repairs, etc. Is this something I can fight or is it a lost cause?",1.8705263157894727,3.575895350877193,2.9331929824561414,94.33768421052632,77.94736842105263,5.963508771929827,25.43508771929825,6.742157984588678,0.7766940350877185,213,8,48,2,5,68,44,57,0.08900000000000001,0.858,0.053,-0.25,0,0,1,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,6,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,8,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,0,1,1,0,4,1,8,7,1,4,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,33,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23687060108618815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2571591980189526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2525906388049605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7981798866840664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036075892287938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517068222189072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775128169530691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360028762510506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14848685336471967 divorce,Sofia_Jessica,2019/02/04,"Need handholding. I keep fucking up. Separated, cohabiting. I desperately want to fix it. He said he won't. But his behavior is inconsistent and sometimes it seems like he might want to. &#x200B; I keep fucking up. Last night I had this weird feeling that the girl he was sleeping with during our separation was pregnant. So I asked him and he went ballistic. I suppose that's understandable. I can't control my emotions. I find it so hard not to be triggered by him. I cry everyday. I just want this man to be my husband anymore. Not in name alone. I wake up everyday and think how did my life descend into this nightmare, shit-show. Where did all the love go?!",1.7887394957983211,4.566644111111113,3.314873949579834,84.49777310924371,88.04761904761904,6.4567693744164325,28.046685340802988,7.724431198458867,2.186548646125118,522,26,98,11,17,171,85,126,0.076,0.809,0.114,0.4001,0,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,2,0,2,0,11,6,2,3,1,26,28,7,0,4,4,1,2,1,0,2,1,1,0,2,8,5,0,3,5,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,7,3,18,2,11,17,1,12,0,0,0,3,16,6,2,2,5,62,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605770569720808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418339514715198,0.20655567261564606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685837626810168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15891710007080134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906575161470924,0.0,0.0,0.1867253244081328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121514445975632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595172550850648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536719087464768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31430483909449,0.0,0.0,0.09660886786607473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1522770727889654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30218869856789715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385640125211305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120068508635568,0.08304821237049427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534220297362315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18033184248490305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260449528226234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595234942948322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169880379795307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475192445970828,0.0,0.0,0.17449163011894436,0.0,0.0,0.17011211930271636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16812381873478735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089223148297356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17696491357604713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007923775955309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15758183515724936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20655567261564606,0.0 divorce,Pinkie87600,2019/02/04,"Am I being Unreasonable? We are meeting with the lawyers soon to discuss the divorce settlement. Financially I'm not overly concerned because there is a prenup in place that protects everything and even caters for no spousal maintenance. My concern is that I do not want my STBXH to have unsupervised contact with our 1 year old son. In case you don't feel like reading my post history, he was arrested last year on child porn charges and has now also been implicated in the potential, but unsubstantiated, molestation of my niece. He is still awaiting trial on these charges. Over and above this his family and friends have a history of drug and alcohol abuse. As a result of this I have not allowed him to have unsupervised visits with my son and do not want to allow that after the divorce either for fear that he could become a danger to my son. I don't think that he would intentionally hurt my son, but then again I never thought that the man I married would be involved in child porn either. I am not adverse to supervised visitation along the same lines as what has been happening since his arrest, but the thought of leaving my son with him unsupervised terrifies me. Am I being unreasonable in not wanting to allow him time alone with my son?",9.579592476489026,8.343289655172416,9.114764890282137,67.27945141065833,59.77586206896552,12.401880877742947,40.91849529780564,11.389717465364855,4.6606672413793095,1008,46,176,23,11,324,130,232,0.196,0.7709999999999999,0.033,-0.9902,1,1,2,0,3,0,16.0,2,1,0,0,7,7,2,1,11,0,26,4,0,5,1,41,35,13,0,6,11,6,1,1,1,2,2,0,0,3,10,13,1,1,4,1,0,2,10,5,0,0,5,1,26,2,31,24,3,25,0,1,0,2,30,10,0,0,13,132,36,3,0.0,0.20734569716524584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870211597830508,0.0,0.18124662256522106,0.0,0.1399469733413847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10667802244563168,0.1932731109265033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13972279742989793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.202943769131054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1155854667756952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727819510985366,0.0,0.16497387908966754,0.19692300078772507,0.08848496514467981,0.1250196209655592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352041181667864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15475140959604078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734049906009595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14264788456196587,0.0,0.18529911837876745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08549587728990833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497034145499487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836324537345683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828371476854741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760107052288306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750467778198649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1447613290245592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13975476326036038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1121325624839625,0.0,0.2778599844903512,0.10204356939656764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3096575768533213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2486291346767867,0.0,0.0,0.2253877784301068 divorce,had2ask-ta,2019/02/04,"Those with unending or complex divorce cases: how do you deal with all the legal paperwork? I am drowning tonight. Overwhelmed with how much remains to be done. Flabbergasted at how much was done, yet mattered so little or was never acted upon by counsel/court. Would love to hear how you cope with having to put together documents for your own counsel to work on. 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Told him I was done. Hi all, I'm new to this... and I'm feeling lost. Hopefully this post doesnt break any rules. I'm 34f, currently still married to 39m. We have one child, 5f. We have so many issues I don't even know where to start. He recently tried to talk to me about our growing distance... and I told him I wanted to separate. I've wanted a divorce for over two years. Over two years ago ge threatened divorce during a fight one too many times... and that was the straw that broke the camels back. Only instead of follow through, he surprisingly apologized. But I've wanted out ever since then. For the majority of our 9 year marriage (and 16 years together) I have done 99% of the house work. I also do the vast majority of the child rearing while working overtime (45 hours a week) and making more money (he works full time). I do all the mental/emotional labor (making appointments, remembering when things need to be done, etc.). There were a lot of other issues. His constant grumpiness and temper have been long standing issues I used to try to address, before I gave up. Honestly when I decided I wanted divorce, I gave up on a lot of things. I stopped asking him to help around the house. I stopped asking him to do anything. I stopped talking to him when he got grumpy and just shut down/avoided him. I was just biding my time until I could leave. He would never agree to counseling in the past, even though I'd asked him many times over the years for it. So I was done. The ""walkaway wife"" seems to fit here. When I told him I wanted to separate, he begged me to let him fix it. I felt guilty that I hadn't been clear how badly his actions hurt me, so I reluctantly said ok, though I was very clear that I didn't think it was fixable. Well, its been a few months. This time around he asked for counseling. I was shocked. He flat told me no when I wanted counseling years ago. Now he wanted it. So I reluctantly went along with it. After the first session, things were even more awkward, and I was even more sure I was done. I told him I was done trying to fix things. I wanted to separate. He was very upset. He tried to convince me again to reconsider. But I told him I was done. He still isn't happy, and I hate that I'm hurting him.... but I can't live like this anymore. I'm happier when he is gone. I told him that. I guess the next step is to actually file. The thought scares me, but it is a necessary step. I've been with him since I was 18 and he was 23. My entire adult life. This is going to be a huge change. Finances are an issue... but I have to trust we will figure it out. I feel like most people on here arent the initiators... but if there are any initiators, did you feel guilty about your choice to end the marriage? How do I cope with that, while also knowing I can't stay in this marriage any longer as it makes me miserable and depressed? I feel our relationship is so broken, and he disagrees. How can he not see?? I know what I need to do, but it isnt going to be easy. I wish I had done things differently. I'm to blame here too. Regardless, I want to more forward. How do I do that? 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Moment ago in an arguement my husband said, he hates to look at my face and I should shut up and get away from him before he stabs in my F***ing face because it's women like me who men kill on a regular!. What was my crime? Telling him to take responsibility for a bad decision he made behind my back. I'm usually scared of him during arguments but he has never been violent or spoken like this before. I want to leave the house tonight but a few friends have suggested that I not make rush decision since he said it out of anger. What should I do?",3.3482539682539683,4.640927840336137,4.539775910364148,86.06486461251171,73.11764705882355,8.314098972922503,26.66760037348273,8.841846274778883,1.8226463118580765,459,16,99,9,9,151,83,119,0.177,0.71,0.113,-0.6523,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,9,4,1,5,0,7,2,2,2,1,17,19,5,1,4,4,2,0,2,1,2,0,2,0,2,7,3,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,5,3,16,3,16,12,1,15,0,0,1,0,18,8,0,1,8,60,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793655528199505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799510595705528,0.14567584262190644,0.15818336512574252,0.1154873474077403,0.0,0.3224170698243198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636908903746015,0.0,0.09898013641153557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870432779178145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21860059425495468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20959905587388492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012017314899711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511201944226693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909081728739402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926276958877407,0.12645976857898925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14047524378616685,0.14611600736504474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3604218713210075,0.0,0.1896731334779728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671552127605134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244329852985232,0.0,0.1655882035423081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12139231589060832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2086531067719801,0.0,0.1117428917898698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dudeman3001,2019/02/05,"Ex-wife won't let me talk to the kids I have 50 / 50 custody. On days when I don't have the kids (2 and 5 years old), I want to talk to them for a maximum of 5 minutes. My ex-wife thinks that it's ""her time"" and that she doesn't have to make the phone call. She tells me that the kids love me but don't want to talk to me because they are kids so it's a hassle for her. &#x200B; Most of the time, I text ""can I say hello \[to the kids\]?"" and then she calls. But every couple weeks she stops calling after I text. Then I explain to her that it's important to me to tell the kids I love them every day and she complains that it's ""her time"" and it's a hassle for her. &#x200B; What can I say to her to end this re-occurring argument? &#x200B; I'm considering buying my 5-year-old his own cell phone! I'd rather not do that, not because of the money, but because I think it's too much unnecessary responsibility for him. I don't want to be asking him ""Why didn't you pick up the phone yesterday?"" I think he's too young for that. &#x200B; When I mentioned this to my lawyer a year and a half ago, she was shocked (my ex's behavior shocked her a lot...) that my ex wouldn't let me talk to them nightly and she told me that that is basically illegal and if necessary we could go to court and a judge would order my wife to let me have this 5 minute phone call. But of course, I'd rather not bring lawyers and the legal system into this ridiculous argument. &#x200B;",1.8157209992579768,3.278812913183284,3.303295819935691,92.68439215928768,77.42443729903536,6.4566411080880535,22.250927529062576,7.1686216300943375,0.4714965619589413,1140,32,266,13,26,375,135,311,0.092,0.852,0.056,-0.9306,0,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,1,1,4,0,7,6,1,0,17,0,23,2,0,2,0,37,38,20,0,9,10,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,6,21,12,0,1,4,0,2,2,10,4,0,1,3,2,50,2,30,27,4,27,0,0,0,2,58,3,0,3,20,173,71,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515281649657279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3981830482320857,0.44654930639114393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06871205221495623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13441372440975322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30020457300144365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05868332000959123,0.08132572943125774,0.0,0.09480211325067332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065098685691394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385289192157342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041771424033562515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254744632475861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248659325878736,0.13267222361172987,0.0,0.04906144515463512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05403054339601799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689742429519247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15425059109711525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11689940524286314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06144882070030529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363042544876785,0.12848349570197254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412864150041802,0.0,0.0,0.12857433893329007,0.0,0.0,0.07023186212426867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005561733757307,0.0,0.05895681521366829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06632181009007655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05221189148201085,0.0,0.44654930639114393,0.1419936836130929 divorce,Patchwork_Mum,2019/02/05,"I’m at my wits end!! So. I told my husband a couple of weeks ago that I wanted to leave and share custody of our daughter. He told me that he didn’t think it was good for our daughter’s mental health and definitely not his. As a compromise I suggested that we rearrange our home space to accommodate us coparenting in the same home. He reluctantly agreed. I figured that as time went on he would see it wasn’t working and then we would come to an agreement for separation. I should note that I’m scared to leave in case as it’s deemed as abandonment of the family home and that may jeopardize custody negotiations. Also. I earn double what he does and I contribute more Money to the household and feel like I have a right to be here. His agreement to the proposal means that we would need to do some minor renovations. I asked him a week later if we could talk about the renovations and he seemed surprised that this was still proceeding. He has refused to talk to me as of last night and when I got home today I asked him to talk and he’s just not giving me anything. Everything I ask gets a response of shrugged shoulders or a “don’t know”. I suggested that it wasn’t fair that I’m asking for change and trying to work on solutions and he’s not contributing to the conversation. He shrugged. I responded that if that was his response that maybe he should leave and stay somewhere. He said no, I’m not leaving and walked away. So. Here I am. Writing here and not sure what to do. I know I need to consult a lawyer and will. He’s got a temper and I worry that he’ll fly off the handle for the 100th time in front of our kid. So frustrated. I’m venting more than anything. I needed to put it somewhere. Thanks for listening. 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I’ll keep this short. Scrolling through Facebook. Then suddenly, a sponsored ad pops up. What shall it be this time? A women’s empowerment pitch to stop being “stuck” in life after marriage. I know I need help, but why do you have to con me? 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I stayed at our apartment and he moved in with his sister. His name is still on our apartment’s lease. We want to file for a “no fault” divorce. Virginia states 6 months of separation is required before filing (since we don’t have kids). He has no legal documentation proving he was living with her (he didn’t have any bills under his name) nor did we put anything in writing stating we would be living separately. How would we go about “proving” we’ve been separated should we try to move forward with the divorce? If we created a separation agreement now, can it be retroactive? Not sure how strict VA laws are for this. 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After 20+ years together ultimately ending in divorce 2+ years ago, my girlfriend's ex husband is now being directly verbally abusive to my girlfriend, and is being verbally abusive about my girlfriend to her kids (13m, 17f). Are there any legal routes to go to get this to stop? He's got a history of mental instability which seems to be coming back with a vengeance, so we're looking for avenues to keep the kids safe and free from the abuse, and getting his hate to stop at the same time. Any suggestions? We live in Colorado, if that helps direct any support. Thanks in advance.",7.890190476190476,7.229751585185191,8.014391534391539,71.95333333333336,62.77777777777778,10.380952380952381,39.285714285714285,9.606745405546679,3.8597936507936494,564,27,98,9,7,184,91,135,0.16399999999999998,0.733,0.103,-0.9074,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,0,0,1,6,5,1,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,17,20,6,0,2,2,4,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,4,8,0,4,2,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,8,5,22,16,1,19,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,3,10,59,12,1,0.0,0.6982705280532346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060340033558118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3005781255219271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212439772005144,0.0,0.13773813851595107,0.0,0.0,0.11329135792516624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691587438170945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13049489133168227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539526919474949,0.0,0.08373375563786496,0.0,0.11783708965503133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546260083136736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875540304960047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309579296461992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009931754672438,0.0,0.12372411512794658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847881329907325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412805794558827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24635696080747266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16719377199712127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564607820057034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08591210001116119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10003065008410962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897575464704598 divorce,AromaticSpread,2019/02/05,"Filing for divorce this month after less than 2 years. I'm 28 she is 29. We have been together for almost 8 years. Married almost 2. This is failing because of me because of my inability or desire to grow up. Shes been my mom pretty much. I'm feeling so lost. Even tho i do want to go through with this, all I can think about is sleeping alone never having her in my life again. The warmth if her body pressed against mine at night. The way she smells, her cute quirks and her bubbly personality will be wiped away from my world soon. You might be reading this and thinking jeez buddy you sure don't sound like you want to go through with this but I do. I want.my freedom I want to find my self. How can I love her right when I cant even love my self. I wish her the very best in life I hope she finds the man she deserves. She really is an amazing person. I just cant value her like she deserves. She deserves better and all I do is hurt her. Well thanks for reading guys. This kept my from bawling my eyes out infront of family. 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Was with ex for 12 (since we were 19), had 1 child together. We were best friends, did everything together. We were never that rich, and lived paycheck-to-paycheck so we didn't necessarily go out and have tons of adventures like a lot of young couples do, and also for the last three years we had a child at home. Now at 32 years old I'm trying to use some of these dating apps. I've just come to the point where women will ask me to tell them some of my hobbies or interests, and I legitimately cannot think of more than 1 thing. I've come to realize that for 12 years, my interest and what I did for fun was to spend time with my wife and my daughter. Sure we did things together, but it wasn't those things that I enjoyed it was who I was doing them with. So now, I feel like I'm just some loser who has no hobbies and no interests, and honestly I don't have any interest in meeting new people are doing new things at this time. Maybe it's depression since I'm still not over her leaving me for another man, but I just see other people seem to have all these things they left to do and all these things they go out and enjoy, and I'm sitting here with nothing to give",7.476573033707865,5.067519775280903,7.760159176029962,79.05574438202248,64.73033707865169,11.446816479400749,33.48595505617977,9.928628108626363,2.791155056179776,1008,30,224,17,12,332,136,267,0.069,0.794,0.13699999999999998,0.9417,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,6,2,4,3,13,18,0,0,5,0,27,0,0,2,4,47,42,19,0,0,7,3,1,2,1,1,0,0,1,4,22,25,0,0,5,0,2,4,9,3,0,1,14,2,26,15,35,27,11,36,0,3,1,0,28,12,0,6,21,158,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789330184436096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324475707643586,0.12836027114333726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443924464906928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12846445812406504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2108952096305118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1354471995325143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543378207610857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11001654026391294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061895482230013864,0.08745157683256538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09457566129719136,0.0,0.0,0.11742930810237345,0.13913978873349298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12278980598297345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978259684702027,0.0,0.12961725497769291,0.13300163428535774,0.0,0.0,0.1196092137208722,0.0,0.10809255729619396,0.0,0.0,0.13694837327132547,0.0,0.10407080421435506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229798973216748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0899873366447522,0.0,0.09441213382914272,0.23645367924781555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745817900848628,0.0,0.12845141836692242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697309497154558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571946225168232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314253071376746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09754698327397067,0.11143982199064008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252191439714934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977588503515563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537241484503645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699399686104287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4879529019777673,0.07843704314381278,0.0,0.0,0.21413929222705444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08311011140937677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572517206058693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3153187710900455 divorce,muhthrowawah_121,2019/02/05,"STBX making demands without a lawyer - looking for advice. Ok, obviously throwaway. I left the house, I am ready for divorce. Talked to STBX we agree verbally that she get's house, everything else is split by who's name it's under (cars, retirement accounts etc.). I file w/ para-legal. Waiting to get papers back, talk to STBX, send her preliminary copy of papers to review b/c we are amicable and in agreement (mistake I know...20/20 etc.). I get a call from STBX, says she talked to a lawyer and lawyer isn't happy with the way papers are worded, thinks it needs to be clearer that house is hers. STBX tells me she just wants to make sure, so her lawyer is going to redo for consent decree...not changing anything else. STBX is going to pay and since it will be a consent decree I save myself money and court time that I had planned for default appearance. This all sounds like a win win to me. She clearly states that she's retained the attorney. This sticks out b/c she used the word retain. This is pertinent later. Cut to getting papers from paralegal. Call STBX to sign (b/c we amicably agreed paying for server is waste of resources). STBX says that she thinks I'm screwing her and that she wants half of retirement account). I get angry, tell her that's not what we agreed. Also she doesn't want to sign acceptance of service. I give her a couple days to think it over. In the mean time I meet with a couple attorneys who advise that if she wants half the retirement she can take it (account was started after marriage). Also advise that the house is not mine to offer (she bought before marriage). I resign myself to the law. Call STBX to have her sign papers (b/c she still needs to sign and then she can respond/dispute whatever). She drags her feet, asks me for 3 more days. I say no, this needs to be done. Choices are amicable signature in front of notary or I pay for server. She gets upset. Calls me back, asks me why am I pushing so fast, why not just wait a few more days? I say ""that sounds like a question for your attorney"". She tells me she doesn't have one, and denies telling me she ever told me that she retained one. Obviously that is a lie. So it seems like she was trying to strongarm me with legalese. I call server, and she's served. Today she texts me and says that she wants to be informed. Says that she needs 401K statement, paystubs, tax forms etc. I have not responded yet, because I don't think I have to. Is this correct? I have surrendered to the fact that there's not a lot I can do if she goes to an attorney. But it doesn't sound like she's gone to one yet, otherwise the demand would be coming from them. Is this accurate? I'm not trying to be difficult, I just don't want to help her take my assets, now that she's shown colors and tried to be sneaky. TL:DR: STBX is asking for financials without legal representation. 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I'm still in so much emotional pain that I can barely get through my work days. Reading all the stories here has been helpful, and has made me feel less alone. Thank you for being here guys, I appreciate you all and wish you all the very best.",3.2948437499999983,4.763985046875,4.152000000000001,88.09300000000002,73.53125,7.620000000000001,26.8625,8.238735603445708,1.5393787499999996,249,9,54,4,5,80,50,64,0.129,0.616,0.254,0.8662,0,1,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,3,0,2,7,5,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,1,3,9,13,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,9,3,5,10,6,4,0,1,0,0,6,1,0,0,3,38,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519924726783192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553354812045071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15691276107444316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2736874076322813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16070185014346408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230232312529799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12711776359103294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409119897744226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308342282806776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604649671414214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302227819783429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885849705067602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2588955951219365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24337264746175946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2734870431832937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943051289128356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955607937096073,0.0,0.22400421691400565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20075359542748625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27979081840559705,0.0,0.0,0.17713025194463622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,finackles,2019/02/05,"Seriously contemplating pulling the plug, lacking in confidence with nobody to talk to I read the rules, trying to follow them best I can. I am 54M, married 30 years, two kids mid 20s. We are financially secure but separation will pretty much screw that up. There are two dogs, their custody is unlikely to be an issue. Over the past ten years my wife has been in a cycle of alcohol over use. Her off switch with alcohol weakens with every glass of wine she has. More than two and she's incoherent and tends to fall asleep by about 7:30pm. When it becomes daily, it's like I am living alone. I don't handle it very well, it bugs the shit out of me. We've made deals, like if I give up drinking she will, but she doesn't. I have consumed about 25 beers in the last ten years. Annual consumption for me is single figures, sometimes zero. The last booze cycle included having wine when I am out walking the dogs for the evening walk. I come home, I can smell it. It's sneaky. I really resent the lies and just the whole thing. When she does this I might as well not be there. So why should I be. There are other issues too. I am aware that my resentment, particularly about the recent stuff, diminishes my tolerance of other things. She had a little hissy fit about some throwaway comment I made a couple of weeks ago, in a situation which I inadvertantly started but she escalated, and by trying to end the discussion apparently I impugned her sewing ability. I yelled, I try not to and I have been better at that lately, but I was just utterly uninterested in her being offended by taking something the wrong way. I don't like the person I am becoming. I have considered various options, separate bedrooms but continue to live in the same house. I can't really see how that would help. There are no infidelity issues, unless there is someone else that she isn't sleeping with. I do care about her, and she seems to care about me, shows in occasionally, but she isn't from a particularly demonstrative family. But the basic thing is this - I really am not prepared to live the rest of my life effectively on my own in a house with someone I resent in a continuous cycle of alcohol abuse who I basically ignore the minute the first glass of vino is poured. I don't feel I have the right to demand she does something, and it seems pretty clear she doesn't want to stop. Therefore, the only option I have is to vote with my feet. I've been considering it seriously for some time, six months or more. I really want to be able to talk it through with someone, to sanity check that I am not being petty. Either my son or my daughter could probably handle it, they are very capable and mature, but I am not sure that's appropriate. If I talk with a friend, then that will impact that friendship forever, and could get kind of awkward. Should I seek professional advice? (like just me and a braincare specialist/counsellor). 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Better explanation: father has him every other weekend and lags if he has “too much homework from school”. I work full time and a full time student. Father is part time job and part time student. Inside my son on my own with the exception of him visiting his dad every other weekend. Yet, father is trying to get joint-custody and joint-decision making of son. Will this effect me negatively? I don’t want to worry about father having more legal custody than he actually takes my son for. My partner and I are pregnant so he will have a little sister soon. I don’t want to be worried about him taking my son out of spite. (Which he does and neglects my son sometimes out of spite as well)",4.802832167832165,6.009230961538464,5.6742424242424265,79.64045454545455,69.51282051282051,7.4675990675990676,27.643356643356643,7.686295010490155,1.7208153846153849,634,21,114,7,11,208,89,156,0.109,0.8370000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.8981,2,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,3,8,5,2,0,3,0,17,0,0,2,0,17,23,9,0,3,2,13,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,9,0,1,1,2,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,17,2,22,18,9,16,0,1,0,0,25,6,0,2,9,86,21,8,0.0,0.0,0.1663268359101563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15074212578754792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14915497010742945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125753541423918,0.0,0.2872095248113449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904892657597936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691374163469819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17082769200863113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11377137934206098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252945042566749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3691442207087511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17249643505835446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16857152706603054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563023914068244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3975444762468319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3471568532647138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20106225202623665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15324785533002167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408382868148025,0.34618431230986635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,rmorlock,2019/02/05,"Credit dropped 167 points My wife and i are divorcing. I have written agreements that she is to pay her car loan (which is in my name as she refused to refinance it). I thought all was good, but nope she has not paid on it since November and my credit sunk. I'm sure her credit is still in the upper 700's like mine was, now mine is low 600's. Is there anything I can do? I already informed my lawyer. 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I cheated on my wife with multiple people throughout the years. Just recently, the past 2 years, I have quit. I know I'm a monster, but I do love my wife. I am now on meds for my bipolar and PTSD disorder as well as anxiety and depression.. I love my wife, but she doesn't think I have changed. We have a child. We still live in the same house, but now I have been offered a new career out if state. I don't want a divorce and neither does my wife, but if she doesn't want to come than it's pretty much done. My wife doesn't work and this move would help my family tremendous. Any advice, thanks.",2.2893233082706743,3.2835221804511256,3.52632330827068,93.4693345864662,75.3157894736842,7.124511278195487,23.82631578947369,7.554174236665415,0.7595118796992488,482,14,115,6,10,157,78,133,0.08800000000000001,0.723,0.189,0.9632,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,0,0,3,5,7,1,0,7,0,15,3,0,0,0,23,26,12,0,5,7,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,3,9,0,0,3,0,0,2,6,3,1,0,3,0,21,4,11,22,3,15,0,2,0,2,15,4,0,2,8,75,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16917411743196936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11772980314669855,0.0,0.1324388759470767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831415310642565,0.14913042206119995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911087310201118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984143384122788,0.0,0.1515013954361792,0.17716527687861947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1632052708460907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604092088052685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1997610823911024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19028811258933426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15287107487645518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18898456885662876,0.0,0.3125011345824581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923009951905694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400270501688584,0.12726556964007615,0.0,0.0,0.16720359388878522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526581073866406,0.12002192089740164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17612866870444766,0.0,0.0,0.2023719119246228,0.0,0.0,0.1841379749032535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17093840566233434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825651743050352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15938870524704746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109304414240901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20422525464338054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565866771571651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12603584837144946,0.0,0.0,0.1229818486692041,0.0,0.0,0.22297150086463655 divorce,AnonBB21,2019/02/05,"How will vehicle distribution work with our divorce? It's a big concern as we have kids. Hello, so the divorce we have is inevitable. We have 3 kids and have been married 5 years, but the end is coming. &#x200B; The problem is that I've been a housewife while he made the money. Which in hindsight I realize was a mistake to let him have all the control. He has two vehicles, and I have one.. But mine is in his name, although I made the payments on it. &#x200B; We're at the point where he isn't going to cooperate and agree on assets divided with the divorce. So how will this work? Because I have started to make money, but if law says because it's his name he gets to keep the vehicle intended for me too, I don't have the money to get a car and don't have anyone who can borrow one. The most likely situation is the kids would be staying with me as well, if that influences things.",4.334333333333333,5.027466211111115,5.468888888888892,82.57000000000005,70.22222222222223,8.222222222222221,31.11111111111111,8.344100000000001,2.236111111111112,698,29,141,10,12,232,101,180,0.039,0.913,0.048,0.168,0,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,4,0,0,3,7,4,0,0,16,0,27,0,0,8,1,34,36,17,0,5,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,1,0,3,9,11,0,2,1,0,4,3,3,2,1,3,5,1,15,2,16,26,2,16,0,0,0,0,22,8,0,3,5,106,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375815904642811,0.3785867473302864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10892708271069274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899277190391772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13419324448492911,0.0,0.0,0.1747238601055292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13797748265783827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16278035612383965,0.0,0.08853505833445749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384670716398988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15929865307373878,0.0,0.07610769579648599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2948112472999749,0.103986349741114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21112515974710427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14726527090692024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149063274222719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388487945879577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17510659811424206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026399602637314,0.1660439305583371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10349529068165184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521773366488429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140067609038224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268237316117105,0.0,0.0,0.11066376033524833,0.0,0.3785867473302864,0.10031913245850237 divorce,Haveanotherbeerbitch,2019/02/05,"STBX didn't show for court Rant I just got home from the court house. It was supposed to be final today. Asshat didn't submit some papers and now we continue to wait........... I was so ready to be done. Sad, relieved, excited, and grief stricken all at once. I sat in front of the judge and gave my ""testimony"". We've told the kids. It was supposed to be the beginning of a new chapter. This was the day. D day...... Nope. I've been amicable. Everything 50/50. I'm tired of playing nice. I'm just fucking tired. My nerves are frazzled. I'm sick of the unknown. I was ready to start a new life. I just want it over. I want to relax in my own home. STBX and their lawyer didn't show up. Ooops! STBX forgot to submit some form. Now I'm just shocked and sick. I can't wait for STBX to get home from work today! We are still co-habitating. STBX is supposed to be moving out. I can't force them until it's final. FML!! I'm so fucking tired of it! Filed in June 2018,,,,,,,,this was supposed to be done today. My lawyer said one more week. One more fucking week............ Dammit I just wanted to start a normal life with a routine. 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I’ve been through standoffs, periods of normal couple interaction like we were still married and it looked like things were going to go well, and silent periods. I don’t know what to do anymore. I keep thinking that we could fix it, we did a few sessions of counselling, and that just sort of fell off. Now were currently back to hardcore divorce mode with minimal contact. Do others go through this crazy roller coaster ride prior to calling it quits? Are my attempts to reconcile futile? I feel less and less attached each time these silent periods happen over seemingly insignificant things. Sorry for the vagueness, I’m frustrated. 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I’ve (25F) been divorced since August of last year, and my ex husband (28M) still has this hold on me. I still find myself going out of my way to make sure he’s ok, make sure I’m doing things to make him happy. We have a child together, 50/50 custody and he pays me child support every month. It’s not through the court, just direct payment to me. And honestly that’s the reason i try to keep the peace, unfortunately i need the child support to help me get by. I’ll love him forever, he gave me the most beautiful gift in the world, but I’m not in love with him. I don’t have any romantic feelings towards him anymore. He’s mentally beat me up in so many ways that it’s just hard for me to believe him when he says he’s changed and he loves and misses me. But i find myself telling him i miss him because i know that’s what he wants to hear. I find myself hugging him longer than i wanted, or allowing him to be extra affectionate towards me when it clearly makes me uncomfortable. I’m trying to be his “friend” but he’s trying to make me be back in his life. He’s got this pattern - every few weeks he’ll express his love for me and how depressed he is and it makes me question every single decision I’ve made since i left “should i have stayed around?? Did i make the wrong decision? Maybe if i go back it’ll be different”. He knows how to get inside my head and make me question myself. And when i tell him we cannot be together he gets mad and freaks out and tells me that I’m nothing but a selfish asshole who doesn’t care about him. And it hurts my heart. The biggest issue to me is the fact that whenever i meet anyone or even hint at the fact that I’m talking to someone, he starts texting me vulgar shit like “make sure you wear a condom. Gonna fuck him after not knowing him that long. Atta girl, meeting all these guys off tinder jumping from relationship to relationship”. He claims one of my OLD friends (i haven’t spoken to her in months) reaches out to him and he pursued her, like they wanted to fuck, but she backed out saying it’s too weird cause of who i am. He didn’t tell me about this until i had to pry it out of him, he told me i know who it is but wasn’t going to tell me. Yet he has the audacity to tell me that i need to tell him who it is I’m meeting because “it’s respectful” We’re currently in a fight right now because I’m claiming our child on my taxes (per our divorce papers i get to claim him this year - ex-husband claims him plus he gets the house) and I’m gettin a nice chunk of change back, but he has to pay. Here i am crying because i feel like he’s still controlling me and I’m upset with him for treating me this way, but I’m more upset with myself for allowing him to get a rise out of me. Please tell me it gets better eventually. We’re not even together but he still has this controlling hold on my entire life - who i see, when i go out, how my money is spent. We’re not together but he acts like he can still tell me what to do. 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Lurker. I (M48) expect to post the story some time soon. Catharsis, all that. For now I am having trouble. I am used to txt/messaging her (F49) through the day, only been going on 20 years. I need to stop, break, change that connection. We are still early in the process, still in the same house, playing at being friends. For me to move on, let her go, her own thing, find myself, I need to stop/reduce that messaging. Just trying to figure out who to share/send those daily little nothings that was part of my connection to her? Answer is different for everyone, but knowing what others did might help. My support network, small, getting professional help besides.",3.1476075105996344,5.754835692913389,3.736535433070866,85.67356147789219,77.8976377952756,6.112416717141127,24.729860690490607,7.321109707123232,1.3192815263476678,531,19,95,7,13,167,93,127,0.027000000000000003,0.862,0.111,0.9003,1,0,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,1,17,20,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,1,4,1,0,3,0,1,0,0,3,0,15,3,20,14,5,22,0,0,0,0,13,8,0,2,9,72,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19396701490011325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824986530471655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915686653067002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520512890539833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16758464890491306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416608866910168,0.0,0.09579627762298484,0.0,0.2084116100869676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24580018413801386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115689468109941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076801519416104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18749458912855305,0.0,0.0,0.1837715246953565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1945124214390357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948790927883484,0.0,0.2719132533207497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17593564305268544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945098852664564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1985573751962265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560497847666684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2928577021349815,0.306588725579624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807094434610668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14737512332775446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12181400550897352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069167324030901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12448712399953515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15836126773250314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11807566579569904 divorce,wordsfromfire,2019/02/05,Just going to leave this here.. 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Everyone says this will get easier with time but I have a hard time seeing that. Though logically I know it to be true. I keep the bedroom door shut and I pulled the mattress into the living room. I can't sleep in that room since my stbxwife told me she was leaving. That was three days ago. I have to get used to a new routine and that is tough. She's going to get all her stuff this weekend and I will be gone from the house. 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I'm Internally Freaking Out. Today is the day I divorce my wife. The woman I once decided my life to. The woman I wanted to for for. The woman I thought would never better my trust. Today I say goodbye to the person who forever changed my life. The person whom made me a better person. The person I will still love, regardless of time give by. I wanna say it won't hurt, but it will hit me like a truck. I have friends and family going to be there as support, but I still feel so alone. I miss her, I miss her life. I hate her. I hate what she did to us. I love her. But I don't anymore.....",-0.577031250000001,1.5396278593750026,2.2800000000000007,92.965,90.71875,4.7625,17.375,6.322622252153567,-0.17138437500000014,458,12,102,5,16,160,73,128,0.181,0.6659999999999999,0.152,-0.2682,0,1,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,0,0,2,4,14,2,0,9,0,10,5,0,1,1,14,25,6,0,4,3,1,1,1,1,4,3,2,0,7,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,6,0,0,3,3,27,8,12,16,0,10,0,3,0,2,23,1,0,0,9,72,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392943896842284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333811107007708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23789660418563344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142275967853117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673698485999355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12678821528586373,0.0,0.06800380079702241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10390910934662936,0.0,0.0,0.12901812843544888,0.07643558249380586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655683730154261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439777476147146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2849895646053311,0.06570658188860877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427707201067179,0.12726071364844213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372944374000724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323086400105195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4697370832440805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2139087747101557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2148128795813623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15262128462511634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677257432293673,0.07842406395837913,0.0,0.3824514708438442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617787546755918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07932757140225508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554010740271418,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SoSoSoooo,2019/02/05,"Feeling Numb I can’t believe this is happening, it feels so surreal. After he served me with the divorce papers (if you read my history, it was a total one-up narcissistic move), I was so hurt and offended. I started packing up my stuff to go. It took a few days, and for 48 hours before my boxes were arranged to be picked up, I told him I thought this was a mistake and didn’t want to move across the country with my stuff, for one of us to regret it, but he had zero emotion about it. As soon as my things were picked up, he suggests this be a “break” Total BS- if it was a break I would have taken a different course of action. So, now I’m 3000 miles away, back in my home town, staying in my family’s basement. I’ve spent the last week unpacking and making it feel like “home” but it’s not. I feel so pathetic for being here. I wanted to stay on the west coast, but my brain fog made it so hard to decide where to be and I certainly didn’t want to pick some random place only to hate it in the coming months. I don’t want to be in this state. I don’t want to be with my family. I realize I made the decision based on months of thinking about it, and the opportunity to save money and have a “safe” place to heal. But I can’t help but feel embarrassed, esp being in my late 30s. I’m starting to regret the decision to be here and keep thinking about the fact that I didn’t push myself to just stay on the west coast, albeit completely alone. I haven’t felt like I missed him persay, but I miss what we used to be. I’m so full of anger toward him, yet it makes me sick to think about what is happening. I went out for a friends birthday this weekend and was approached by several guys. UGH. I don’t miss feeling like a piece of meat. I don’t think I’ll find someone again. (I’m certainly not ready for it now, but fear that it will never happen when I am) It’s all such a mess. I feel like a total failure at life. Thanks for listening to my rant. 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Not sure where this belongs. A lifetime ago, I videotaped the special occasions of our only child: first Christmases, early family vacations, etc. Most importantly, the day our son was born. Thankfully, I was present in the moment and not videotaping durning labor and the actual birth. However, we did capture some other wonderful stuff from that morning, including: mom holding her only child for the first time, dad doing the same. Anyway, it’s now almost two decades later, and the boy is soon off to college. His mother and I rarely speak. If we do, it’s about him. The videos sit on an aging computer and will surely be lost if nothing is done. I can upload stuff to YouTube. But for what? I occasionally watch them. I really doubt my ex would ever have any interest in doing so. I should probably offer though, right? It just seems weird. At 18, I doubt the boy is interested. Maybe, if he were to marry and have his own family, someone, some day, would watch them. Broken home movies - what happens to them? 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I haven't had much contact with STBXW since then, though she did email me in September 2018 to say that she wanted to be involved in 'the process' and didn't want me to have to take on all of the burden of getting this divorce done. She went as far as to meet with a friend who is a paralegal to fill out the paperwork for a 'no contest' response, but she never signed or filed anything with the court... that was 4.5 months ago. I've been reluctant to file for a default judgement (we have no children together, no assets, etc) because I had hope that she would follow through with what she said she would do but she hasn't and I finally got to a place where I am at peace ending this marriage once and for all. I had hoped that her participation in the divorce process would somehow validate the value of our 10 year relationship but I finally realized that it doesn't matter what she does or doesn't do. Assuming the judge signs the paperwork I just filed our marriage will officially end on February 23, 2019 and I'm okay with that. It's been a long road and I'm sure that there are some emotional bumps ahead but this was the last, final step to end our marriage finally. Sorry if this post is disjointed, I'm drunk right now.",4.958827838827837,5.724714498168503,5.3667582417582445,83.5990750915751,68.85347985347985,8.997069597069597,30.551282051282055,9.150863307647796,2.414712820512821,1090,42,222,20,18,348,148,273,0.077,0.805,0.118,0.925,0,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,4,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,17,2,27,1,0,1,4,40,43,17,0,8,8,0,0,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,18,13,1,0,2,1,0,5,9,1,0,0,14,2,26,6,35,24,5,40,0,0,0,0,30,13,0,8,21,153,44,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.111290597141104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331518618762618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653280629501825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098677727855142,0.12847904357278686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412244370827127,0.3335944012832069,0.0,0.14001904390160574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501261477936298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699796029890824,0.0,0.13118714347630464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10041208758257318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24939469368795164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10233825737760577,0.14162344740238794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110589972408888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10021109899100032,0.0,0.09229211815758542,0.0,0.0968302445183786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370436670385175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117078557092274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12024013916927224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13479140985282814,0.0,0.10721718103952077,0.1194247589950702,0.0998406923482924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385448191910747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054054341256053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832736627198565,0.0,0.09439636132536186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335012877473145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190046853396934,0.0,0.1394882849152886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14810275383684346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116384118148273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675567792777692,0.0,0.0,0.08084870150572519 divorce,sophia_aristigrad,2019/02/05,"I’m lost on this My husband and I had an inseparable bond from the day we met. We always enforced monogamy and no double standards. We even went through the typical jealousy things like: who do you hangout with, are those our condoms in the trash or someone else’s, limited to no friends of the opposite sex, etc. But then he got weird while I was pregnant. He accused me of flirting with his dad, sleeping with his boss or the neighbor or a friend, and then asked for a threesome when I was 32 weeks pregnant! He didn’t even want to have sex with me anymore, not even on our anniversary. We had been together for a year. He started talking about divorce weeks after our marriage. I was so hurt. Still am. I’m now 6.5 weeks postpartum and he still doesn’t want to reconcile. Has anyone experienced this? Is this “a normal sexual fantasy” to ask for a threesome? Or was he completely out of line due to the circumstances? Thoughts? 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It’s said often, but I’m not quite sure what that exactly means. Can someone elaborate or give examples?",4.214266666666667,7.4608429600000035,5.124000000000001,73.16866666666667,79.4,11.333333333333336,32.333333333333336,10.504223727775694,5.146733333333334,114,6,18,5,3,37,24,25,0.124,0.8759999999999999,0.0,-0.4816,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,8,6,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2652771552174767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724399108668662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29079654891731205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6604099313969448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32242342065040275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2883526217518992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568469225208485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2857029528603257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,adairskee,2019/02/06,"Tonight was progress. And sad. My ex husband came over my new place tonight for dinner to see our daughter. We have 50-50 custody. It was nice. I made dinner and we all ate together and played with our two year old, and then he went home. He left his thermos in my kitchen. I suddenly wished it was just in there because we all still lived together and everything was okay. Then I cried alot. I am glad we are trying to be awesome coparents for our girl. But man do I miss before things got this way. Just feeling super sad. I love this group. It helps me so much. ❤️",0.6570559006211205,3.0429583391304362,1.6709627329192571,97.71315217391306,87.34782608695654,5.024844720496893,22.127329192546586,6.5431188927421005,0.3576459627329194,439,16,98,5,14,137,81,115,0.078,0.701,0.22,0.9571,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,7,0,0,2,5,9,0,0,1,1,9,5,0,1,2,20,19,9,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,6,11,4,0,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,1,9,2,18,6,8,9,4,17,0,3,1,1,18,5,0,1,9,59,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347653507127499,0.0,0.18811865743718448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25285106003116825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428406555611479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19868807686466136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117822311208069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17681398153233116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1481820033246589,0.0,0.22175638636533654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24019878167976536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19521339501355572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19952894122295955,0.209186638671994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625156618925545,0.0,0.0,0.2135157435628444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231981165965036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309764632514591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17616826037395322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17655088885959222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14687249672022631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009550531515234,0.0,0.21595828400153846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17547915243380702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20493886555244592,0.0,0.0,0.2542254955422218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423651390893622 divorce,metalheadcubfan,2019/02/06,"Changing 70/30 to true 50/50 Once you have established custody as a 70/30 split and has been this way for many years, is there any going back to court and changing it to a true 50/50? We’ve been every other weekend and one other night during the week, but I’d really like to change it to a true 50-50 stance. Would it just be petitioning the court to change custody or are there other steps to take to go this route? Pretty sure my ex would fight this change, but with the prospective change in the laws upcoming in Illinois, would there be a shot to actually change custody to a true 50/50? What would I have to show a court to convince them to allow this change, and what would she be able to ask the court to disallow this change?",9.525816091954018,6.534849455172412,8.157758620689659,79.61893678160921,61.3448275862069,11.321839080459773,33.821839080459775,8.841846274778883,2.4673218390804603,581,14,122,6,6,176,78,145,0.022,0.799,0.179,0.9737,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,1,1,0,5,8,1,0,11,0,15,0,0,1,5,21,19,8,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,1,0,1,2,0,5,7,20,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,6,77,18,0,0.09226450676334542,0.0,0.09003684928591754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06274302848382493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625485903083363,0.0,0.0,0.07094571055289288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8784325288674681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773682628366532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487209086000387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04507577754431896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09354172837106954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658398942830242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09825868851521108,0.06252081760704592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09386617306725037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0591070056003185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695820571886666,0.0,0.0693714266264936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323527090945355,0.07400902201630022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3277102920332924,0.0,0.0,0.05941531734491566 divorce,rando490,2019/02/06,"Looking for advice Been married 1.5 yrs, together 5, two kids, one is 4 and the other 7 months. I think I got married and had the second child just because I was trying to do “the right thing”. Always felt pressure to get married and immediately have a second child. I don’t think I was ready for either of those things. Absolutely love my kids and want the best for them, but have very little interest in my wife. When I proposed I told her I didn’t want to get married that summer (we did). I feel I was more excited to see my friends at the wedding than actually get married. I had zero interest in planning the wedding and wanted to delay initially so I could help pay or plan a destination wedding I would be more interested in. None of those things happened. Right after the wedding she was wanting another child, I thought I was doing the right thing by finally agreeing and after a month of nothing happening i spoke up to tell her I wasn’t ready. I was about two weeks too late at that point. Around that time I realized what I was doing to myself by sacrificing what I wanted for someone else. Never went on a honeymoon or a trip out of the state besides a funeral. Lost interest but scared to split because I won’t see my kids as much as I’d like. We never really fought or argued, I just shut down completely over the last year. She knows I’ve stopped trying and have basically given up but I’m terrified about taking the last step. Any advice? I’ve been to a counselor for 7 months, she’s been twice, and we recently went to couples where I spoke up more than normal, but was too scared to show my cards and truly speak my mind. I want nothing but the best for her and somehow want this to be as mutual and as painless as possible. 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I don’t think they are empty threats. I’m more than willing to go to therapy for our 18 years and girl(8) and boy(11). I have already been to therapy for my anxiety/PTSD. My tours in Afghanistan turned out to be tougher than I could handle. I wasn’t in shoot em ups but the threat was always there. You want to discuss what happens next? Sure I will. I mention how your list of my past mistakes isn’t helping and the response is you won’t acknowledge them? I have explicitly acknowledged all of them (no infidelity on either of us), but I haven’t according to her. I find myself repeating answered request. I find myself having to defend myself constantly against a past I thought was resolved. I want this to work. I haven’t been acting in a manner that merits sex, but that is “I’m not using sex as a tool!” SAHM for 9 years that is looking for more I guess. I will file if she can’t do it because of fear, but I’m tired of the word/mind games. I try to clarify and understand, but I’m just “manipulating her words”. Why the games?",2.0989754005867742,4.355895521327014,3.4280974949221386,88.38074249605057,79.56872037914692,6.673076055066577,25.213495824870233,7.793537801064563,1.4057675919656965,829,32,171,14,21,270,123,211,0.125,0.799,0.076,-0.917,0,0,0,1,0,0,30.0,2,3,3,2,3,7,2,1,7,0,25,3,0,3,3,35,40,12,0,5,9,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,9,3,0,2,9,4,0,0,6,1,33,3,28,28,4,15,0,0,1,2,19,6,0,2,7,118,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18110932564798865,0.0,0.13656010106269093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10004537936843956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735426421897826,0.0,0.13103561497325245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18467942945061805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000034663177111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327257277965466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079550963482507,0.0,0.14512983204883784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100054625301273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13781857083753302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16571333911737582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17454234906812865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3133401874575105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918462522138616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468015379856367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753686101437566,0.0,0.0,0.10516078659951444,0.0,0.13029210198292462,0.0,0.188630572703175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142598369190004,0.1785142731439545,0.0,0.1708535991110958,0.1974148711551174,0.14174606552767974,0.0,0.0,0.19360319986178404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1480918116062973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11948053919490174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137442634486325 divorce,spooky_wagon_,2019/02/06,"Anyone chase that fairy tale of living happily ever after with their high school sweetheart, and ended up divorcing? I recently divorced my high school sweetheart after 5 years of marriage. She cheated on me in the past and we tried to recover and make it work. Actually, she didn't take responsibility for her actions and would guilt me for having trust issues after that, and just telling me to sweep it under the rug and forgive her (another story for another day) Long story short: we were a failed fairy tale story of high school sweethearts living happily ever after. It's funny when you are young and you try to plan your life with someone else, only for it to crash and burn. Anyone have a similar story?",7.287347328244272,8.021308068702293,7.370295801526719,71.3868940839695,63.73282442748091,9.603435114503815,31.642175572519086,9.516144504307137,3.023663358778625,571,20,92,10,8,184,85,131,0.075,0.74,0.185,0.9575,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,2,3,1,3,4,8,1,1,4,0,6,1,0,1,2,18,8,9,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,6,12,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,15,5,21,5,0,23,0,1,0,0,18,8,0,0,14,64,21,5,0.0,0.0,0.1446973227515284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31096349960863195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073579678717907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956266362418116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386671515620637,0.0,0.1313297377658772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682507383687113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4699895436173929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476304943257893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047326907170992,0.0,0.0,0.26186326656272235,0.13122080543509085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09897629511474126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277162066134455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154752652239194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14640601344609516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4501938403483333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12563493346705015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148612804555028,0.0,0.12960095598377006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013412005640234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10794769051380217,0.0,0.0,0.10533198856116703,0.0,0.0,0.09548576408910857 divorce,Amanda1984-666666,2019/02/06,"Met someone else while in the midst of trying to leave LT abusive marriage I hope I can get some advice without being judged. I have been married 25 years, the last seven which have been emotionally and verbally abusive. I went to a ""regular"" counselor for the first five years (husband went once and refused to go back), then two years ago discovered a place that works with domestic abuse/violence victims who I have been working with ever since. I had no idea that abuse was not just physical, but through two years of counseling with people trained in this area, I now know that what I have been dealing with for the last seven years is NOT just temper outbursts and explosions. Honestly, looking back, he was that way even in our early years, I just overlooked it (first few years honestly was just young, in-love, and didn't know better). Middle years kids were born and was too tired and dependent on him to really care. Over the last two years, I have developed a support system of two relatives and a female friend, and have saved enough money to get a fresh start with the help of my three supporters. I did get back into my career five years ago and working my way up in hopes of moving up the ladder after being out of the workforce for a while. Kids are out of the house (well, one of them is - the other is about to be). I worked with the counselors over the last two years on my emotional health as well as an 'exit plan'. &#x200B; I have met another man in the last year who is now a good friend. We met as part of an industry thing and gradually started getting more personal (nothing physical, but a lot of sharing). I shared my history of what was going on at home. through a LOT of conversation and sharing I have seen even more that what I am going through now and have been for years is NOT normal. I would like to pursue a relationship with this man and honestly, had I had the courage to get out of this abusive marriage years ago, I might have met him under better circumstances. I feel tremendously guilty about leaving in the next year because now I feel like there is an element of it being because of someone else, even though it isn't really. Even though I know why I am leaving, nobody else other than the 2 family members and female friend know why - to the outside world, my husband is the perfect husband and father. They would be shocked at what goes on behind closed doors. &#x200B; I feel horrible. Like someone who has had an emotional affair. But I had been planning on leaving anyways for at least several years, just hadn't put it into action. SHOULD I feel guilty? I DO. Also, if I do manage to leave, how could I legitimately have any kind of relationship with him without people thinking I left a marriage FOR him? Remember, other than those three people, nobody has a clue what has went on at my house. Advice appreciated. 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Hi. I'm 31 years old male thinking about parting ways with my same age wife. We have been together 6 years and married for almost 5. We have no kids, but we a dog and some real estate(we are not in US if it matters). So why? Let's say I feel burned out. Everything I do is not good enough. All the nagging and complaining. She was fired from her last real job after knowing here for a month. All this feels like a long drag without future and I'm just loosing time. In all honesty I'm only worried about dog because papers are on her name but dog considers me as owner. Material possessions can be sold. What I'm wondering - what was the reason for your divorce? Final drop? 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My female friend filed a divorce in Illinois. She and her ex-husband on in the process of divorce. They have 2 kids. She moved to California December 2018 and wants the ""unlimited alimony"" in California. Her plan is to establish residency in California after 6 months. Then, have the divorce moved to California. Is that even possible? She got free consultation from some California lawyer saying that possible. Is that true?",4.991298701298703,8.534159883116883,6.4155974025974025,62.78053896103898,80.03896103896103,10.352727272727273,34.972727272727276,9.888512548439397,5.217115324675326,369,21,53,14,10,124,50,77,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.8702,0,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,0,0,1,1,1,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,1,5,7,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,7,4,12,6,1,11,0,0,0,0,14,6,0,1,3,36,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18394975814127912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21517207595613566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227456873283836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229983122626595,0.5920129392833513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6279445101835279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214781524403018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16426931504379694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Brokenhearted2019,2019/02/06,"Do you think she'll come around? So... Me (Male 28) Wife (28) Son(2 in April) Married 5 years, together 7 April 2017, my son was born. Things have changed since then, its like i just couldn't do enough to make her happy and she kind of pushed me away emotionally. Things weren't terrible at all. Still lots of sex, affection, talking and what not. last summer, she got into a motorcycle accident, it could have been really bad but she only broke her collarbone and shoulder blade. She had been treated for depression and anxiety before we got together but i seen it re-emerging. I think she also had post partum depression. Even though she was in a sling, I took her and my son to Ireland to cheer her up and help our relationship. We had a great time. When we got home things changed. Her depression and 'baby blues' seemed to get worse, she said to me ""i wish i had died in the motorcycle accident, you and our son would be better off without me'.. weeks later she had a bag packed.. i told her 'if its that easy for you to leave me and our son, then go' &#x200B; She stayed &#x200B; Fast forward to November. She started doing weird things. Removed her last name off her social media profiles (she said with being a recruiter, people were always finding her and sending her resumes) going to the gym more, tanning, and going out. I sat her down and grilled her about it... She admitted to have a texting affair with a man, but he wanted to actually be physical so she ended it. &#x200B; With Christmas coming up, the next MC session we could get was in January (When we were there the counselled told her she should be on anti-depressants and anxiety medication, especially considering that she had, had suicidal thoughts in a sense) &#x200B; Then i found another guy. This was more.. pictures, sexting, talking about nasty shit. When i confronted her.. she said she had feelings for him and was attracted to him.. but didn't want to be in a relationship with him.. This was devastating &#x200B; Last week she was supposed to be at home with our child, but her mom came over to baby sit (she said she was going out with her girlfriend for a coffee).. i easily found out she was at the bar with this guy.. thats when everything blew up all her family and friends found out what she had done to me and with who.. I told her she needs to make a decision, we either make a decision to work on our marriage or end it. &#x200B; She called me the next morning and said.."" Im done.. I don't love you like you need me too, i want a divorce' these were soul crushing words. &#x200B; SO i'm wondering what comes next. \_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_\_ I love her and my son and just want to be a family, but not like this. Right now she shows no remorse and is just playing victim like EVERYTHING including her having affairs is a result of my failures (bitch please....) She has said she just wants a divorce and is done (although we need to be 'separated' for a year for that to happen) &#x200B; Im just wondering, has anybody been through this? &#x200B; Im not willing to come crawling back, fuck that. But if she were to make honest steps and realize what she has done then i would consider going back to MC &#x200B; Has anyone been through this? Is it possible that when shes alone for 6 days (were going to do a 6/6 schedule for custody because i work 6 days on 6 days off) without or child and will have time to be alone and to think that she will realize that true magnitude of how badly she fucked up. Honestly, i'm done trying and am not going to try to 'win her back' .. not like this.. she doesn't deserve me that way she is now. But is there a chance she will finally come to her senses and the 'affair fog' will lift. &#x200B; Thanks in advance guys",4.091673455195712,5.7412792211404735,4.6145397874031415,84.8467967663422,71.80945757997219,7.917355454003576,27.99923008146235,8.527137837955566,1.9775978342936609,2916,109,573,50,56,926,299,719,0.145,0.7509999999999999,0.104,-0.9879,0,2,0,0,2,0,196.0,12,5,0,5,30,35,6,0,26,0,78,9,2,7,3,123,142,54,2,17,25,7,1,5,2,9,1,6,2,7,34,53,1,0,17,4,0,20,13,14,0,0,54,9,108,21,84,67,7,95,1,4,2,5,123,31,4,8,47,410,142,4,0.0,0.0,0.034051328270474836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07227893427402939,0.0,0.02790456987509204,0.029034447936000088,0.4158817532421605,0.4663978270184302,0.0,0.036589205674150437,0.05338734330483149,0.0,0.0,0.024398565568575243,0.0,0.0,0.03106289173929282,0.0,0.0,0.03278388621284276,0.08049356564267833,0.05826975315038259,0.021270944704243015,0.0,0.029692065052476537,0.0,0.0,0.030860742232562213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03563048472346648,0.0399092265770609,0.0,0.0,0.0738260553963554,0.15028965216673287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571974114102465,0.0,0.0,0.06751086862186229,0.0,0.12021596099866247,0.0,0.0362142691644159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1785424293051612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039250843363753236,0.06181112307130127,0.0360546368248914,0.0,0.02304703458158835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06272061882417908,0.0,0.06578956338545226,0.0,0.01764336043732527,0.0,0.0,0.038224466854674254,0.03189231318532205,0.0,0.0,0.11477779562901075,0.02695887358408206,0.06451753621619608,0.036461154501970884,0.0,0.13881670751613673,0.0,0.08372331027715955,0.038470552329751474,0.0,0.10365108344104892,0.03085648384697665,0.03714511308686209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023388587513129756,0.0,0.07000267957961928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11307391846001676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03633653692888994,0.0,0.08532934512095652,0.0,0.03694750999708977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523677307578617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02966547223806588,0.06298605766546184,0.0,0.09316756528342472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035151845866605094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040867212388243514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761996123283575,0.0,0.0,0.1113298988623173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026538317376658897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024190976589137783,0.0,0.0,0.03830292856853056,0.0,0.03933753158404042,0.033418627583587754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02235387029581496,0.0,0.0,0.07492579364029138,0.0,0.02979912588655345,0.19915204220601335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031766017092258944,0.0,0.0,0.03581799789674139,0.02886452292986069,0.0,0.0,0.03556984835981196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02469802063870472,0.03719216218937493,0.02786624436144512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03816816823580045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056092650724363716,0.0,0.03212553513870466,0.0,0.0,0.09272759621927006,0.0670756398026699,0.0342829943843227,0.027701790069403858,0.04069372626707999,0.0,0.0,0.1000276017983507,0.03876831046656568,0.047381217457284686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10290637570723292,0.027697084810196733,0.055979424505428636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04012616321248348,0.06727278163107131,0.07568170406853518,0.050806223305693794,0.0,0.03555977679656246,0.04957512760671053,0.0,0.4663978270184302,0.04494094343042722 divorce,srt201,2019/02/06,"Some days just are just crazy.. I’m 26 and some days I just feel like crap. My marriage with my wife 29 has had its ups and downs but up until she got pregnant with our first and only child things were bearable. When she got pregnant she started talking about how I have to do more around the house, I did my best though that was never good enough and I started taking anxiety medication because I was almost always one straw from a panic attack and being sick to my stomach. Being on the medicine was eye opening to me, I noticed how the entire marriage was about keeping my wife happy and sheltered from anything that might make her mad. I walked away from my brother and my parents because she hated my mother. I made sure I had all the bills taken care of so she didn’t have to worry. And I did my best to be a good man for her. But phrases like “I’m always right” and “happy wife happy life” and other similar phrases began to eat at me and I told her that. Big mistake. 8 months pregnant with our baby girl I made her mad I don’t even know why (probably didn’t clean the tub right) and she tells me she hates she is pregnant with my child and that if she could she’d have had an abortion. It floored me. Two weeks after our baby was born I went to sleep early and was going to take our baby for the night shift. I didn’t hear my phone go off and I wake up to the door being thrown open. I get up and head to door where she’s standing and she thrusts our baby into my arms and says take your f-ing child. She calls her stepdad to come get her and a few hours later she leaves with the baby and is gone a week. And complains about me not fighting to make her stay. Near October after our girl was older we planned on going with a friend of hers to take our girl to her first pumpkin patch and once again I did something to make her mad. I think I didn’t tell her I went and ate lunch with friends that work near me. She told me I was not allowed to go with them. Then when they were on the way home. She said I’m a horrible father for not “fighting to go with her” After New Years we take our baby to meet some of her family in another state. Her mom made her mad at a rest stop and when we got in the car again she says this gem “if it weren’t for you or my mom getting the baby if I die I would have killed myself by now” and then on the way home “I wanted to tell my uncle to kick your ass because I don’t like how you treat me” And throughout all of this she has done nothing but tear me down and tell me what a horrible man I am. That I must be cheating on her. That I don’t love her. That I’m a dumbass. That she will make sure I never see my baby. That because she gave birth she has all the rights. And that if she leaves she’s taking the car that’s in my name. That her family will make sure I only get supervised visits only since there’s a police officer in the family. Finally I went to see a lawyer to find out my rights. She found out about that and went ballistic about how we had been doing so much better. She throws punches and tells me I have to leave and I didn’t. I stood my ground and she slapped me. Then she tells me her stepdad is on his way to kick my ass. Few hours later she packs up and goes home. I helped load the car because she complained about how I never do anything. And yet she accuses me of breaking up the family and that it must be my mother behind this. Still waiting for them to try and kick my ass. I’m not letting that happen. Sorry for the rant guys. 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I lurk way more than I post. I read a post here recently and the term discarded totally sums up my feelings. From the day I moved out in December a wall went up. We went from hugging each other and crying with each other and wishing each other well on the last night in the house to Nothing. I'm having trouble coming to terms with how 2 people can be closer than family and then nothing at all to each other. Occasionally I still run into her and hear her voice and that's when I start thinking about what we had and how we're nothing to each other. I know it get's better and I know I need to keep moving forward and working on me and maintaining good boundaries. Thanks again to everyone here who remind me of all of those thing in their comments to others. ,4.932405189620759,6.2967416766467075,5.59438622754491,79.74072105788423,69.35928143712574,8.440918163672654,28.28792415169661,8.841846274778883,2.239052295409181,688,24,126,12,12,223,103,167,0.057,0.7979999999999999,0.145,0.9225,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,2,2,10,8,0,0,6,0,4,2,1,2,3,38,21,16,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,1,12,25,0,1,5,1,0,7,0,1,1,0,3,4,18,7,27,17,11,34,0,0,0,1,11,14,0,0,12,98,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472842529051363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12422519921038025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12099360306358445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542883960205133,0.09058489304649883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684305444610179,0.0,0.0,0.1324129140500456,0.0,0.14204129949633448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338440124535743,0.0,0.0,0.11781094073211948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830830153786496,0.16644543270766834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207164692702514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12484704403474188,0.0,0.0,0.1543859666199038,0.11449341060628193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29857288601118004,0.0,0.10414909525061086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13181192288915455,0.0,0.4043246400643173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09737707742843828,0.12264400104039573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2690431511740101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14049772045186085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13868701849809575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09941810572228893,0.0,0.1121713058927374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586328593312204,0.0,0.0,0.09331519010327244,0.09000091069162612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11149037998389788,0.0,0.0,0.12629014787655365,0.2604151168615882,0.0,0.0,0.16152173467038286,0.0,0.0,0.10225634179040403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,att971,2019/02/06,"First time posting - looking for encouragement I’m (f),42, was married for 13y, together for 17. We have two kids in elementary school. We had/have a loving relationship but I realized years ago that I am not heterosexual. We tried to make it work but I realized I wasn’t living an authentic life. We were able to come to all decisions with the help of a mediator and all we need to do is file the paperwork. I moved out about a month ago and we are co-parenting well so far. All that said, I am really struggling. This adjustment to the move has been harder than I expected. I miss my husband and my kids when they’re not with me. I don’t like living alone. I feel pretty paralyzed and like I should be doing all these things to better myself but I can’t. We lived together for 6 months while going through everything, I slept in another bedroom, and I really thought there would be some relief when i moved out but I’m feeling none. My soon to be ex seems to be doing much better now that I’m out, he did a lot of his grief processing while we were still living together and I think he’s relieved to have that part over. I also assume he’s dating he was off and on since we started this process. I think he’s reached acceptance and I realize I haven’t. I still can’t believe that my marriage is over and feel a strong urge to “go home”. The reasons I did this are all still true and I think I understand, intellectually, that going back isn’t the answer (and honestly isn’t even an option anymore) but I feel like I’m sitting in a shit ton of fear and denial. I am looking for some encouragement- it helps me to hear from others who have been where I am and have found relief and peace. Thank you. 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At first I was happy after separating, but then depression hit really hard. I felt like I did not have any friends. I doubted my perceptions about my marriage and even who I was. I ended up in a hospital to be evaluated at the recommendation of my psychiatrist. I was so depressed I even reached out to my wife and she came to the hospital. She offered no comfort on literally my darkest day and she was not working in my best interest for my care there. I kept apologizing for the failure of our relationship and she just smiled at me and said “I know you are sorry.” Everything she said at the time seemed reasonable to me at the time, but I realize later it was all hurtful, whether intentionally so or not. Obviously, I have issues. I do not hide them because then I could not get help. She knows them all, and uses them against me. She said she came to see me out of concern for me, because she’s human. A few weeks earlier when I was talking to my wife, she admitted her friends read what I posted here and sent it to her, after she had been trying to manipulate me with knowledge of what I had posted, without telling me. So I even feel like I could be manipulated through this forum. It all feeds into my paranoia and isolation. One of her friends reached out and said she could be my friend too, and I met her to talk and it was just the strangest experience. She seemed super concealing and would not give me any comfort. I felt like she was indirectly accusing me of things but I wasn’t sure because she just sometimes popped out these strange hypocritical relationship anecdotes that didn’t apply to our relationship and didn’t seem to fit into the thread of our conversation. Thinking it over it totally reminded me of my marriage. That concealed nature and lack of basic human empathy. I’m scared of my ex because she seems so normal but she flips on people and has such pure rage about them, and she’s manipulative. When I finally saw her lose control and direct that rage at me, I left. I feel like I’m struggling not to be brought down by her emotionally even after I have left her. I’m so lucky a few of my friends still remember me. They corroborate things I think about her now and remind me of things that had happened in our relationship before I left their lives. She had me convinced my friends were all terrible people until I had no contact with any of them for years. I don’t understand how someone can be like that and be a semi-functional person and keep a job. A job where everyone else is incompetent. Where she’s the brilliant one and nobody will listen to her.",5.508840659340663,6.563896488461538,6.383901098901099,75.75538461538461,67.76923076923077,9.635164835164835,32.93406593406593,9.819183407551806,3.1867296703296697,2154,94,406,48,35,713,231,520,0.181,0.6829999999999999,0.13699999999999998,-0.9767,2,1,0,0,0,0,43.0,4,1,7,6,26,31,2,3,15,0,41,1,0,9,8,99,82,38,0,7,18,3,5,5,6,2,0,5,0,3,20,33,1,3,20,1,0,5,15,10,0,3,33,13,101,21,66,36,9,53,0,4,3,0,78,27,0,8,24,317,121,4,0.0,0.08224371537506757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14161079873909302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925544218651248,0.0,0.059065825116892214,0.0,0.07284524640925093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878123622489448,0.07077174832329627,0.0,0.0,0.059793633727192715,0.0,0.0,0.07785320739990446,0.22168431060471236,0.0,0.0,0.044766002324873766,0.0,0.1195715911988056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798612056828493,0.15616181937609006,0.06147980915365245,0.0,0.0,0.1833880010235964,0.0,0.0,0.06632762910721078,0.06238442991662555,0.06789977892194883,0.0,0.0,0.07019516091073827,0.09917811908868204,0.13329580192800555,0.07603915963522108,0.0,0.059043136783954515,0.0,0.0,0.3217724552977124,0.0,0.036265718998783024,0.06658780965023041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06138217989912819,0.07389202299194017,0.06218091355466592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046526444601953564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430864924408075,0.0,0.0,0.07244972010919845,0.1377644908091326,0.06169795951123981,0.0,0.0,0.07629575206416411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22625410087340786,0.0,0.0,0.16955979057450882,0.0,0.06129344323114608,0.0,0.0,0.0776560158504026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06801054872625181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09407284637142196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09624524195912527,0.060609241243878474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13295800133875205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06943234207009491,0.0,0.04446810254674997,0.07136869820499259,0.0,0.3726209187606405,0.07863202959530702,0.0,0.264112755957363,0.0,0.06949508062639086,0.0,0.11062723708699236,0.2527659840318287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05881388224771863,0.0,0.0686517835401002,0.07770279495805603,0.0,0.0,0.055433756904706,0.0,0.0,0.07256612188620327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0654214567277471,0.0,0.0,0.11158397680230876,0.060670509022240214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383458502831645,0.08895481005191327,0.0,0.05510661130414694,0.08095120749594177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712724930400206,0.0,0.0,0.07226196164494761,0.0,0.0599510271002434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556793690862895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669121926670492,0.0,0.050533896772087014,0.0,0.0,0.049309399871487664,0.0,0.0,0.044700055394570094 divorce,Tryinghardbutokay,2019/02/06,"How do I explain to potential new employeer how much my ex affected my career choices? I'm trying to start over after a very bad divorce and overall abusive relationship, so I'm looking into moving back to my home country since I feel there are more opportunities for me (plus I can be closer to family). I have been living out of my home country for the majority of my adult life, so this is a big change for me despite this being a relocation back to where I am originally from. Since graduating college I've made it to a near senior level status experience-wise in my industry, but my employment history is very odd due to how my ex's work affected where we lived during the time we were married. &#x200B; In 5 years of marriage, we lived in 3 different countries due to various job transfers on his part. He was the main bread winner (I could make due alone just on my salary- I was never financially dependent on him), so I followed him each time a move happened. Fortunately, I was able to get decent positions with each move, but I have ended up only working 2 years per company at most for all my employment history because I put his career first. (Argh...) Now I'm back in his country, and since seperating and divorcing after that last move (which triggered a whole series of absolutely bat shit insane events on his part), he has become a stalker post-divorce finalization, and I honestly fear him being violent towards me. There was an incident recently ago that required me to take legal action, and it just rubbed more salt in the wound- not only did he cheat, lie, and steal while we were together, but he is also incapable of just leaving me alone after everything has been finished. &#x200B; He has caused a lot of stress and turmoil in my life, and I'm trying to keep as low key as possible to avoid anything else from happening (this includes things like sending my dog to my relative's house in my home country before I get my move dates because he vaguely threatened to hurt it). His erractic behavior is the number one reason why I'm trying to do yet another job change despite having a pretty good position at a top firm at the moment. A few examples of some of the things he has done in the last several months is: call several my friends via messenger apps and tell them that I never signed any divorce papers and that I'm lying about the fact our relationship ended, follow me into my place of work and try to get to my desk (security stopped him), try to extort several hundred thousand USD from a wealthy relative of mine(he said he would leave me alone if they sent him money for his investment he wants to do), lie to my family saying that I was pregnant and he needed money for medical care for me, create fake online accounts to harass my friends and relatives since I've blocked him on everything I can think of,...hell, he even started hanging out near the hair salon I get my hair done at to try to find me (my hairdresser told me???), etc etc. In this country it is VERY hard to get a restraining order- I'm trying, but although it seems like the best option in the short term, there is generally a low success rate in obtaining one without watertight proof of violence. He used to hold me down when I tried to leave the house when he was drinking, but was never physically violent to the point where I would have bruises or injuries. &#x200B; Another thing that I should mention is that the field I am in now in this area has a very small community, and everyone knows each other to some extent. Almost everyone I have worked with directly more or less knows the very broad strokes of my situation, and they have been generally supportive or don't even mention anything. (The limited people that I talked to in more detail about how bad the abuse was have told me to take time to make choices that will make me happy, and I feel they are generally sympathetic to what has happened. ) Despite this (for me at least) positive environment at work/work related things, I do not want to be here anymore. It is too stressful and physically it is taking its toll on me. Today I've literally just started the interview process, and immediately during my first interview I was asked why I never stayed too long at each company in the past few years. I'm sure I'll have to go through at least 10-20 interviews until I land something, so I anticipate this question coming up again. How do I answer this from a professional standpoint? How do you factor these life events into explaining why you are where you are- especially since that person is out of the picture? Last time I interviewed I was still married, and it was relatively easy to just say ""My husband got transferred"" without anyone wanting to go deeper into that answer, but I feel weird bringing him up at all anymore. &#x200B; I'm still a bit raw emotionally going into my divorce at times and avoid talking about it to most people, and I don't want to appear unprofessional, but I can't be the only person that has this trouble when trying to rebuild post-divorce. Would it just be alright to say something along the lines as ""My former partner/husband(?) had a job that required changing locations frequently, and although I'm enjoying (current job), I would like to have the chance to do similar work in (home country)."" I want my next job to a long term commitment, but on paper it doesn't look like that I'm that type of person, unfortunately. I can understand why they think I would just bounce around again, and I'm afraid of how that will affect what I'm trying to achieve long term. &#x200B; Since my ex did have a lot of impact on where I am now, it's very hard to explain things without giving a really brief, non-dramatic overview of my relationship's involvement in all the job changes. I am worried what sort of impression that would give to someone who is interviewing me... I'm particularly feeling bad now... I feel like I have to start completely over, and it is making me depressed thinking about everything again. &#x200B; I think getting back to my home country would do wonders for my mental health and let me finally get my life back, but I don't want to/can't afford to be unemployed, so moving back without a job lined up is not possible at the moment (maybe in a couple of months, but I can't drop things immediately). &#x200B; Any advice on how to approach this with interviewers etc or any sharing of similar experiences would be really appreciated. &#x200B; (Sorry English isn't my first language, and I want to be as vague as possible due to how my situation is at the moment.)",11.197833065810592,7.8952460385232754,10.75812199036918,63.22323434991975,58.518459069020864,13.991653290529694,44.20866773675762,12.031772070788634,5.240774317817014,5268,234,922,119,49,1735,493,1246,0.132,0.7829999999999999,0.085,-0.9956,17,5,3,0,6,0,175.0,5,3,5,17,59,45,6,7,51,1,102,13,3,23,11,175,185,69,0,19,29,4,11,5,2,11,8,4,5,4,54,49,2,11,22,1,4,21,18,24,0,6,27,18,126,21,166,136,38,181,0,4,2,0,87,76,1,19,86,642,180,39,0.031430440579862384,0.07447986508691859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03071346277239225,0.02786118916978067,0.0,0.031473046122996895,0.09765737254744428,0.0,0.025134911976210542,0.0,0.2724389538942523,0.3055314043015153,0.06412133217011637,0.06591511483716796,0.0,0.0,0.06234110288780189,0.021976894847583358,0.0,0.0517291491002599,0.027979755756443368,0.02938321914456982,0.0,0.0,0.1450084123236013,0.07872931510141505,0.03831940970136359,0.034712452256153735,0.0267449899721292,0.0,0.032984308284479014,0.0,0.034313900700469344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03209399396596471,0.0,0.032045428900226984,0.032287720388840445,0.13299695442319487,0.02707454151814746,0.03295421895882949,0.0,0.0,0.025094649284793404,0.03477718468508356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.027070992415959744,0.0,0.0,0.03283812077768461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06432850625817746,0.0,0.030789866074565832,0.0,0.0,0.026256100038428674,0.03535501523069835,0.0556760826094887,0.0,0.1051597485248904,0.041519019150908366,0.0,0.0,0.06006626579199791,0.0847429600400172,0.03074500191580258,0.05925964428223291,0.035367983834967406,0.07946087568125676,0.022453913030352667,0.0,0.06886102269488185,0.028726853279553183,0.08020415010294883,0.0,0.0,0.0485661608508456,0.0,0.11494775571567915,0.060301885153963376,0.0535879310889696,0.026362362351235555,0.02513779455710541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08338150441244482,0.03345828844393128,0.05631100238373759,0.0,0.0,0.03340908858273157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15763647291542404,0.0,0.0,0.07253301699486198,0.033646936700576696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21832903735280285,0.027936819728893062,0.0,0.0,0.03454669633131993,0.07686001211283171,0.0,0.09984089513015086,0.0,0.03213975497040974,0.08880099876045461,0.0767766282722196,0.0,0.08326096459315108,0.0834448525646795,0.05278730825669512,0.0,0.0,0.05344207323561508,0.0,0.029740242832926037,0.08392025259371627,0.0,0.03157610210081769,0.0,0.0,0.031662862234156736,0.03167449158598215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050174955613903886,0.20043350542064567,0.023104990259042547,0.023305273436301458,0.09696437360155943,0.03035571536750305,0.033426630127257814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04259615992622081,0.07171279911264282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680722085478316,0.03000391196196053,0.0435798200730763,0.08233154515718269,0.03283812077768461,0.0,0.029711925564169742,0.10629929772995617,0.060203347798527526,0.03197605751707505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031596273928700784,0.035209286643689316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040270290115775036,0.03231572764858503,0.031033768276009708,0.10123359200623916,0.0,0.0,0.029897546489920008,0.07498424362385589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02861309265911395,0.0,0.10652235460805716,0.03226289558766115,0.15599751144523952,0.07065826419120598,0.0,0.0,0.026630910307682592,0.04839337742154539,0.0,0.035183804981085184,0.08898651045606584,0.03350066770494529,0.05020078089486669,0.02627725568673148,0.07200692698371702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0356668915024558,0.029622818282534845,0.0,0.07089533924839136,0.05052519514832888,0.02747159041954588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252859287476793,0.08055742887203593,0.0,0.0,0.09163671329512732,0.0,0.02979238260475498,0.06006626579199791,0.0,0.21339206005421596,0.0,0.0,0.03272019709765795,0.0,0.027145809195786595,0.0,0.15560043084245428,0.12976941732046918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344433572409512,0.03509096446167382,0.0,0.12119129248439875,0.0340849720760294,0.16017214553816314,0.031919138078742554,0.0,0.1786182656363148,0.0,0.3055314043015153,0.06072051973787609 divorce,misdreavus79,2019/02/06,"Nonchalant Sadness I've commented on a couple of people's posts over the past few months, but this is the first post on my own divorce. For months, I've been taking the attitude of ""shit happens, what are you going to do"" when it comes to all the things that have been going on in my life throughout the divorce, but this week I've been in a foul mood and I couldn't quite figure out why. This morning I came to the realization that, as has been my biggest issue through the marriage and before, I tend to let things roll off my shoulder due to my personality. Although I'm a passionate person (and tend to show it through my demeanor), I don't let events affect my mood *too* much, preferring to remain calm (and serving as the balancing force for my STBX along the way, who tended to freak out, for lack of a better term, more easily). This would lead to things piling up in my subconscious, to the point I'd blow up and cause more trouble than necessary. While I'm not blowing up at the moment (through the help of a therapist, who has given me tools to deal with my own emotions over time), I can't help but notice that the process is pretty similar. I've been putting up a front for everyone so they don't have to worry about me, and now my brain is like ""yeah dude you're sad time to be sad"" at a random time. At least now I know why. It'll get better, I know. But I'm sad today. And probably tomorrow. Definitely yesterday. Oh yeah, it doesn't help that I hate the patriots and live in New England.",5.282607260726074,5.2817490924092425,5.890511551155118,82.81253300330032,67.97689768976898,9.241584158415842,29.704620462046204,8.998388855275968,2.167454125412541,1177,39,246,19,18,383,164,303,0.091,0.758,0.151,0.9618,0,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,0,1,1,5,6,15,2,0,21,2,24,5,3,3,1,31,41,18,0,4,5,0,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,18,14,0,0,4,1,0,7,6,8,0,1,7,0,23,5,49,28,10,51,0,4,0,1,14,21,1,1,21,164,41,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1060499802070832,0.0,0.0,0.22044819699505172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13912702460031234,0.0,0.14254221392473665,0.0,0.12802816945291864,0.0,0.10735672718918604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13789946271636513,0.0,0.0,0.12848688185723905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401906925126505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908821624148945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10600924434579263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06511343529706608,0.0,0.14165890601681502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020888898932006,0.0,0.0,0.12304519690511732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506082926656019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008014987319416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13698552386725474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548829056974299,0.08802904927922196,0.06088736557478895,0.0,0.11004956637146918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895513347699234,0.0,0.09161655181810648,0.0,0.0,0.12036732925494772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14189078273826186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11897234857881185,0.08640195903969629,0.21764222616239773,0.0,0.0,0.11781455597022535,0.0,0.2387199938787529,0.12679235514091305,0.13437098971978093,0.0,0.0,0.1252864266633912,0.0,0.13255813310006745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12792973345887065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370539219870448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14470371181423095,0.2483936295688144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180162708900073,0.0,0.11813358647165673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989245877888267,0.09996975370881887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22491632209776832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12656665659644362,0.0,0.08853276611383362,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,captainreset,2019/02/06,"UK divorce legal advice regarding infidelity Hi, You can find my story in my post history as my first ever post to reddit. The tl;dr version is that I (28 UK national) and married to a woman (27 EU national) that I have caught “cheating” by telling someone else online she loves him, wants to spend the rest of her life with him etc We have no kids and no real financial assets. She has no money or income of her own due to being unable to work due to disability, I have been the sole provider. If I were to apply for divorce, UK law says they must commit adultery (physical sex with someone), their behaviour is such that you cannot be reasonably expected to live with them, or they abandon you for 5 years. I have lots of photos of Facebook messenger between her and her “friend” proving what was said. If I file for divorce under “behaviour” would it be acceptable to say i can present this as evidence to the court. Baring in mind I accessed her Facebook without her knowledge but on a shared computer and she had only recently been deliberately hiding access of her phone and other information from me. I am fairly certain the divorce would be swift and uncontested as everything requires a fee, including getting a settlement, which she would not be able to pay for and she would not be able to seek help as she is still an EU national (she refused to change to UK national) I really really hate having to go down this road and it makes me physically sick but I just want to weigh up my options and get some quick advice before I spend any money. Thank you so much in advance.",7.014037521985543,6.9852082657807335,7.623599765487594,71.94127027555209,64.34883720930233,10.803283173734613,35.313855774868095,10.46071229359064,3.768280672268908,1252,53,221,28,17,416,179,301,0.085,0.831,0.084,-0.4779,1,0,0,0,4,0,26.0,1,4,4,4,6,9,2,0,10,0,29,5,0,2,5,50,40,20,0,10,10,0,0,0,1,5,2,3,0,2,10,13,1,3,6,0,6,3,7,3,0,1,7,3,43,6,43,22,7,26,0,1,0,2,43,12,0,7,9,168,53,5,0.2757100659857197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694206855328557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374614968565416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11730447957397733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583234598138484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151601908940616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15374480211929498,0.0,0.12469776969162615,0.0,0.0,0.12389521471014135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12599700270097788,0.11725942064045032,0.0,0.0,0.10650645652608873,0.0,0.14404712996421706,0.0,0.07834619212032423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610330486481606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240132275573316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973710866605276,0.0,0.0,0.12172851975397952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11719941930789825,0.12441954949588907,0.0,0.09201930498460847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919428527034608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133931105314338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10484496457676858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640540299127732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15690920785343845,0.17662692823017725,0.1417379336399829,0.1361152141253508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113170486111994,0.21925571066359195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23360824419671866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11009120742270348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12049137504229696,0.12691839297202914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16262094031986904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288733243679254,0.0,0.10036010586432076,0.0,0.0,0.3917130407360231,0.0,0.0,0.0887741214926059 divorce,Djxlain,2019/02/06,"Trouble with self worth It has been 9 months since my wife asked for a divorce and 8 since it was finalized. My ex wife declined mentally quite a bit in our last few months and most of the time was spent in random bursts of anger and empty accusations. I cannot help but submit to the feedback loop that is thoughts of ""why would someone leave me?"" There wasn't any dialogue at our end, we got divorced so quickly that I never really got any reasons that made any sense, I just wanted to escape the yelling and anger. Any advice on how to move past the fact that I will never get answers? 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I have finally mustered up enough courage to post my own condensed version of my situation and ask for help. &#x200B; Been with my wife for 8 years now, married for 3. Met in high school. Told her the first day I met her I was going to marry her. Complete opposite people and personalities but I always believed our differences complimented each other and that we had the chemistry to build a successful future. Currently stationed in New Mexico, her and our 9mo son live 6 hours away with her parents. We lived together for the first year and a half of my stint in NM. This was a mutual agreement we made 2 years back for financial reasons and we were still happily together and hopeful for the future at this time. Went great up until around our son arrived. Essentially, my not being there has added up, I didn't make a great fatherly impression the first two weeks of our son's life, and that has pretty much been the catalyst of our marriage implosion. We were exhausted, we were fighting, I was unable to keep up with her motherly instincts and her parents setting the golden example of how to be a parent. I have acknowledged my shortcomings, and the little time I do get to spend with them, I try to be the best I can be. However, I have failed in every way in her eyes and now she says she wants a divorce. &#x200B; I make every possible effort, every chance I get to take the 6 hour drive and see them typically once maybe twice a month, my goal for the entire weekend is to be the best father and husband I can be for maybe the 1 or 2 days that I'm there. I'm now 3 months away from ending my time in service, being able to move back home and start the life we always talked about and my wife has snapped. She has told me she doesn't need me anymore, she has no love for me, doesn't want to try to save the marriage. Every attempt I make to talk to her results in looks of disgust, expressed annoyance and genuine disdain for my presence. She says she wants me to be part of my son's life and I want to be the best father I can be for him. Even though when I Facetime her to see my son, she will blow me off due to her feelings towards me or will just simply cut the calls short which doesn't bode well for my outlook on how fatherhood will go if the divorce does happen. &#x200B; I have attempted to set up marriage counseling as my own way of throwing up a hail-mary which she is reluctant to attend but has agreed to it. I've tried 6 different counselors in our hometown area so far and none have either returned my calls nor are accepting new clients. I'm running out of options. I'm battling my own depression with being in a job that I feel unappreciated in, living in an isolated location, living away from my son and wife and on top of that, the general uncertainty that comes with separating from the military. All I wanted in this period of us being apart was to bide my time here, come back and hit the ground running and build our family the way we always dreamed of. This has thrown a wrench into my(what I thought was our) vision of the future. &#x200B; Some days I'm hopeful for what the future will bring, others I struggle to even find a reason to wake up in the morning. I have loved her too long and still love her too much to not try everything in my power to save our marriage and hold our family together. But, I am coming to the realization that you can't make someone love you. I'm hurting but I've come to the crossroads of trying to save the marriage or giving up.",7.983595991353901,6.528725005502063,7.995313814108865,74.7363191196699,63.04401650618982,11.11462369817253,36.452308901552364,10.025080133382057,3.452384507761839,2937,114,564,51,35,954,326,727,0.081,0.77,0.149,0.9965,8,0,0,0,4,0,73.0,19,2,2,15,25,32,5,1,41,0,56,11,3,10,1,96,110,42,0,9,12,17,4,0,0,4,4,2,1,1,19,48,0,2,10,2,2,14,10,11,1,6,22,12,100,21,101,71,17,106,0,4,6,4,91,41,0,9,45,400,119,6,0.05447413828307599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05454798071752856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13598054065125784,0.236090824282633,0.2647681620219911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402370753920331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849353225992418,0.050925965826541714,0.0,0.15354073828778386,0.16754899940720122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137369966527284,0.17150174202249618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11124837152160737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876985866441079,0.057115097575953275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06027459789555417,0.0,0.10539393797868978,0.0,0.046918495481476585,0.0,0.0,0.1138277605530004,0.0,0.0,0.047670685506259684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04824791773794677,0.056286346701458975,0.0,0.07195930915627542,0.0,0.18358724381524225,0.0,0.048957842976115336,0.0,0.10270673899826006,0.0,0.1101750443225646,0.0,0.0,0.059673755814266274,0.049788375508507295,0.139007022586374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056920977831526866,0.052256557178390485,0.061917816286562885,0.0,0.0,0.12011585953538635,0.0,0.0,0.048171300580119696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07302573325118497,0.05755491793379874,0.0546420022476743,0.10821022132611956,0.10729210645857652,0.0,0.0583156916929589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05405717674852502,0.04841911704146239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543008458299127,0.0,0.05459739742925279,0.19240664846573666,0.04820789817935942,0.04574455649547815,0.0,0.05946495688414651,0.0,0.19666014645132687,0.051544746773007695,0.1454476412102773,0.0,0.10945318745436433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696147492791417,0.05789738805974295,0.08008951902548976,0.04039188329760096,0.0,0.10522292440727188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05801317942792869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146125195116808,0.05899018329454801,0.0,0.03776550855181685,0.04756471638331836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0614114060244888,0.052171166432555684,0.055419782440108686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120169736198429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664004238903072,0.0,0.05513073617791682,0.1302265062634578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04506157010797307,0.12246242761420185,0.0,0.0,0.04615576059198997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03855707545361221,0.0,0.08700623439995506,0.0,0.0,0.0569481969369346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040957772598716816,0.0875684978165049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053520564282815264,0.04324638097646947,0.12705723240910952,0.0,0.0,0.10410474713477963,0.0,0.18492182058929804,0.0,0.05321331770069153,0.0,0.06552568113080037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606512906780709,0.1297171062200382,0.08739173580263059,0.0,0.04897879239749423,0.050498071941449216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647681620219911,0.10523867714856537 divorce,Heebejeeby,2019/02/06,"We got together in high school This jumps around, I apologize. I split with my x-wife after 27 years of being together. Married for 20. It’s been three years. I read the sticky for this sub so I’ll be as factual as I can. I became a drug addict after a back injury and two surgeries. Went to rehab, stopped the drugs. I was “better” ten years before we split. While we were dating, in our 20’s, she was diagnosed with Chrohns disease. She had it pretty bad and none of the treatments worked, this was a big stress on our relationship. She was hospitalized several times. Her parents never liked me, when I went to her dad to tell him I was going to propose he said “it’s easier to get a divorce when there’s no kids”. Her mom was the real problem though. We couldn’t try to have kids for a while because of the meds she was on, but she ended up with an abscess on her colon and had a some removed, so we were able to have a child. I’m just rambling here. I bet everyone on this sub could write a book of why. I miss her. I don’t think I want to try again. Thanks for letting me vent. 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We do not have kids, own two houses, and live in New York. Married for over 10 years. We married young and she for one reason or another never really worked after we got married. I was always of the impression that she could make her own decisions. She is older, and so we are in a bit of a different stage in life. I mention this because with no experience for the last 10 years her earnings potential is limited. I have focused on a successful career this whole time. The truth is, I have been unfaithful, but have not yet told her. We were in a bad spot before, yet I know nothing can justify my actions. She has said in the past that she would like to keep everything (houses) plus a hefty alimony (50% of my earnings). The guilty feeling in me sometimes wonders if it’s the right thing but I also think of my future and it would probably cripple me financially. Anyone gone through a similar situation in New York ? What has been your experience? Thank you in advance ",3.881102941176472,5.938662575000002,5.164235294117649,78.99182352941179,73.25,8.505882352941176,28.764705882352942,9.168548406835145,2.682708823529412,825,34,150,19,17,274,127,200,0.057,0.865,0.079,0.3421,1,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,5,2,0,6,5,6,0,0,12,0,21,1,0,2,2,34,33,12,0,4,6,1,1,1,0,2,1,1,0,1,9,13,0,2,7,0,0,3,4,1,0,2,9,2,27,5,25,21,4,31,0,0,0,0,20,12,0,3,16,116,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11522527070704842,0.1198908328718426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15108640440013058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10074806152135612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1203055290018796,0.08783329657873737,0.0,0.1226063060221822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15730425079540925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504069558212555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15053887436330388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12949492350678626,0.2818868967585837,0.0,0.0,0.07285405192313961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1152384852416472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325110717054499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806997768690934,0.0,0.0,0.07918572463229842,0.11744906461353045,0.16253492927263616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177198084992356,0.07039298792861487,0.0,0.12723030014528566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617831397288122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111277633253077,0.2783177059889577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13825410133297494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763618952047544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13754609052776862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15534873890515438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230497971175164,0.14814408222028894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230483882203259,0.13705848228305495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16195834755314953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250442730679674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833450387646193,0.0,0.0,0.13265474076596326,0.0,0.0,0.09572412712510976,0.09232428939903904,0.0,0.0,0.08401752197205932,0.0,0.0,0.1376800472346024,0.0,0.0978247224806426,0.0,0.1407507783493474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608665223611966,0.0,0.0,0.15625477973505106,0.1048960951594315,0.0,0.0,0.2047086740411852,0.0,0.0,0.1855729149662819 divorce,VaneW10,2019/02/06,"Should I filled the divorce? First to all I'm sorry for my English I'm not from US. Today the police came to my home and arrested my husband, he's charged for theft level 5 which means he stole over a $100,000 from his old job. It's been a crazy day for, I didn't know anything, he never bought anything out of ordinary for the house as a matter of fact we are having a financial hardship at this moment. After I paid his bail and confronted him, he confessed he could still that money because he's addicted to opioids. I knew he was addicted before but we went thru together to all the rehab process to him quit the pills. I knew he has prescribed pills for his back pain and I talked to the doctor about his prior addiction, well his crappy doctor prescribed him opioids again (I found that too again) The thing is this is not the first time my husband lie me or hide me stuff, we were having several problems for this. We have a 2yrs old and he says he will go to therapy and work to be a better person. At this point and after all the lies he confessed me today plus a possibility of imprisonment to him, I don't want to go thru more lies or put my son or me in risk. I'm a legal permanent resident in US, I never been in any legal problem but if he gets me in legal problems I could be facing a deportation. I love him and he's not a bad man, for that reason I won't ever deny any visitation from to our kid, but I don't know if abandon him right know it's right or if I'm making a rush decision.",3.0810869565217374,4.1095045636942675,4.803774577679317,84.93791608972585,73.4267515923567,7.626474660758793,25.754084741068958,8.04050195162591,1.4317836056494042,1179,38,249,17,23,401,159,314,0.133,0.779,0.087,-0.9143,1,0,2,0,1,0,25.0,7,0,0,5,8,11,1,1,20,0,21,11,1,2,7,55,42,19,0,10,13,3,0,0,0,3,9,1,1,3,12,14,0,1,11,0,3,8,9,8,1,2,12,1,41,3,39,23,4,39,2,1,0,1,44,12,0,7,19,168,53,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3509838042140261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596251088643994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766303716677583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08252242758406579,0.08960768689337885,0.06542125373570999,0.0,0.09132138458090187,0.0,0.0,0.09491578658779856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12274544805586518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1713725165459114,0.0,0.0,0.06921249819788251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196930606726127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09707705130909534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825726125196641,0.0,0.11767080079543342,0.0,0.0,0.056070251541168,0.0,0.12198481706842748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10765067388013916,0.0,0.0,0.1238328290028062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10649850418473993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769407360944846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968604572490445,0.0,0.07163690909235249,0.0,0.0,0.11690290234485115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16554354407202854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252284973880701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11419600794810846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09370765273887548,0.0,0.0,0.10145205453104396,0.1209871338992604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080721340181625,0.0,0.10788620544532952,0.0,0.11414799162168165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034279675122184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18330132514873232,0.0,0.0853451426057503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212410115160864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013591289603835,0.0,0.0,0.08570586160509118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12285568230771085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625972157727327,0.0,0.0,0.1227297314661506,0.0,0.07129861514041316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625791338510489,0.0,0.20345355390040587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2581854046348022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330009512762516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09649353593462263,0.0994866815001482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07813021171485443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ottno,2019/02/06,"Preparing for a divorce. My marriage has been terrible for years. The divorce threat is brought up by him but nothing ever comes of it. We have young kids, and things are held together by string or two. Anyway, my question: What, if any, are the benefits of filing for divorce and serving your partner rather than them filing? Any benefits for child custody? Finances? Does it really even matter? We're currently in the state of Texas. 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I write and write and write and...just feel it. It’s been 6 months and I’m still writing, working on it and feeling it.",-0.01413043478260789,1.1832847608695691,1.7210869565217382,103.2059782608696,81.82608695652173,4.6000000000000005,20.195652173913047,3.1291,-0.8100260869565221,153,4,42,0,4,50,29,46,0.133,0.8290000000000001,0.038,-0.5859,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,3,0,1,4,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,12,7,6,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,8,0,3,5,1,3,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,0,2,25,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4475033726190296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43689742776316737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3532156810777575,0.0,0.32530352128029283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353397482817145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3867824655390509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221602307578924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,buckshill08,2019/02/07,"Don’t know what to do.. want to roll over to abusive FXH ... need to get my son treatment. Please help. Ok so it’s been a divorce battle since November 2017, when I finally called the police for the last time and left my abusive ex. The shit has been non stop. We have three small children. The oldest had serious emotional issues and special needs, leading to a placement in a therapeutic school and a PTSD diagnosis, hospital visits for extreme violence and suicidal ideation. He is 7. My ex and I currently have a temporary order for joint legal custody, but I have primary physical custody. At every step of the way my ex has been a roadblock to providing basic and necessary medical care for my kids. The reason being that he doesn’t want to pay his share of the costs. This included forbidding me from getting them therapy, seeing a dentist, and refusal to help pay basic pediatrician check ups. To date I have basically just done what was needed, despite his “forbidding” me. I got my kids what they needed and payed for it myself. This is technically a violation of the joint legal custody order. He is perusing me for it in court. My lawyer is not at all concerned that he had any valid argument.. but I cannot keep paying for the battles. Recently, my eldest is having a mental health crisis. This has lead to extreme violence at school and at home. He is actually really hurting me now during his episodes. I am worried about what he could do to himself and what he threatens to do to his younger siblings (toddlers). He needs a psychiatrist. I found, and worked my connections to get into, an amazing Dr. I payed for it alone, as I have with all medical care despite the order in place that my ex contributes. Again my ex tried to forbid me and I went ahead anyway, after repeatedly asking him to at least participate by coming to appointments. Our whole divorce is being held up by a single issue. My ex wants my eldest to sleepover once during the week (in addition to his weekends), on school nights. He currently has schoolnight evenings(from right after school until bedtime). I disagree that this is a good idea because he already has an hour long ride to school (on a special needs van, by himself, with two adult aides. Coming from my ex’s to make the van on time means waking up an hour and a half early. Mornings are the hardest for this child. Routine is EVERYTHING. Waking up is more than hard... it’s a battle every day. I believe with all my heart that this is a terrible idea. When we did a trial run on this scenario my ex arrived an hour late. Twice. This meant he missed the van and I needed to pack all 3 kids in the car for a two hour round trip to school. My point finally..,, I am thinking it’s time to give up. I could relent on this one issue (school night sleepovers for eldest), and end the whole nightmare trial. Again, I KNOW this is bad for my kid.... BUT ... is it worse than: Continuing this battle (trial), and spending the equivalent of a DECADE’s worth of money toward medical and psychiatric care for this child PLUS plenty extra to send my younger two to preschool. I am a waitress. I don’t have this kind of money. What we have already spent could send 2 kids to college. What we WILL spend if I battle this out..... it is just insane. My son needs care. I need my ex to stop being a roadblock to that care on the basis of cost, especially when we are spending WAY more just to fight this out, I want to give in, and roll over, give him everything he wants just so that I can take my kids to the doctor. My lawyer tells me I need to fight, that this is just an extension of the abuse/control/conditioning that I have been on the receiving end of since I was 18 (12y ago). But I can’t.... I can’t justify paying my lawyer more for 1 hour than I would need for a once a month psychiatrist appointment for my kid. I want this to end, I can’t fight anymore. It’s mutually assured distraction. All I want now is the ability to take my kids to the Drs they need, even if it means always paying for it alone. I’m sorry, long ass post, I am desperate for help. I don’t know what to do anymore. 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I'm supposed to sign an agreement on Monday for the property division (We've already filed the petition for divorce and it takes six months of separate living to complete). I'm having serious second doubts about the agreement. I would like to instead just present a judge with the assets and let them divide them. I live in a community property state. I see it's called a ""Judgement of Divorce"" but I'm not sure how to go about it. Has anyone done this before? I would like to leave lawyers out of it if possible. 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Just some background: I (32F) have been separated from my STBXH (44M) since October last year. In fact the crisis in our marriage had started in August last year already and since then we were sleeping separately. He had been treating me very badly for years and it had gotten much worse, to the point where my family and friends started telling me I should leave because, according to them, it did not seem like my STBXH was happy in the marriage and did not want to work it out. Furthermore we were in a DB situation for three years. I tried talking to him, but it was useless. He said he didn't want to separate. Nevertheless the continued treating me very badly even in public (thus family and friends telling me I should leave). In October I finally gathered enough courage to ask for the separation and immediately moved out of the apartment. We were together for seven years, married for five, no kids. The first few weeks of separation were hell. I even wrote a short comment about it here. But in December I was feeling better and 100% sure about my decision. I started going out with friends again and had the chance to have casual sex a couple of times. I ended up not doing it, but quite honestly I haven't had sex in three years. I really really wanted to. I have read some previous posts about this here and the opinion that one should wait until the divorce is finalised before going out with other people seems to be unanimous. The problem is, I live in a country where we must be separated for one year before we can divorce. As I said, I was in a DB situation, so I haven't had sex in at least three years. Do you think it is still acceptable having casual sex (no dating) in this situation? Even if I am still legally married? Or should I just suck it up and wait until another year until the divorce is final? Mostly I feel guilty about thinking about having sex with other men already, but at the same time I think it is normal for me to want to have a sexual life again. Any thoughts would be appreciated.",5.917175572519086,6.644375964376593,6.544362340966924,76.14179541984734,66.70992366412213,9.748559796437661,31.496081424936385,9.791249743138472,2.9774043562340964,1626,62,300,34,25,533,185,393,0.099,0.787,0.114,0.8142,0,0,0,0,3,0,45.0,6,1,1,4,20,21,2,0,19,0,46,8,1,1,3,66,71,22,0,13,11,0,2,1,3,6,1,2,0,2,15,22,0,2,10,4,0,3,8,6,0,8,24,4,38,15,56,38,8,63,1,1,0,6,32,26,2,8,34,227,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418273032226487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05675022661826961,0.08750670591155996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780163615817274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393578805148007,0.05087156904338744,0.0,0.1420230232704717,0.0,0.0,0.07380651875329303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09233805873470484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391370855154794,0.08622823161238599,0.0,0.16535779119327093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734225078539849,0.0,0.08439168463126373,0.0,0.0,0.18283518967132187,0.0,0.07098423473162532,0.0,0.0,0.19342444135887624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09485539773986644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883621349670498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13604904819238822,0.0,0.17672725230894626,0.0,0.0,0.058944620686621325,0.040770435416490516,0.0,0.07368965130950852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886962768048739,0.06134682743653282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0817652485618424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11309847972907605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785511423645475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888912091961914,0.0,0.07992395467581738,0.0,0.0,0.07985230049427645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887614820163056,0.08347459054393451,0.0,0.10692298550460153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15876393841586026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.151943146316386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13806472552560795,0.28141065793826164,0.0835122752871899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772032807606683,0.0,0.13328976157136885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07865252921503467,0.0,0.0,0.06707556231815788,0.14588146525752546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16041802979583936,0.0,0.0662515720733361,0.09732307305634268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056658434986134085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771329155767362,0.19688862416161573,0.0,0.06694016646493729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060754055183402385,0.0,0.08504472488769753,0.059281911592211724,0.0,0.0,0.483663209261673 divorce,whatdoesntkillyou,2019/02/07,"Moved 3,000 miles away to be married to a man for two months so far, and I want out. I have no idea where to start. I. Fucked. Up. I was a single mom for years. My child never had a father in their life. The opportunity came where I was promised the world from someone stationed 3,000 miles away from our hometown (I actually knew him personally before we left, I went to school with his brother, it wasn’t a random internet thing.) I thought my daughter needed that family dynamic. She was at the age where she asked strangers walking by with kids if they were her dad. It always broke my heart. This was the opportunity she deserved. So, 4 months into a long distance relationship, I decided that we should move. I sold everything I worked years to make my home. I gave up a perfect apartment. Sold my car. We got married two months later because it was financially more stable and I haven’t had the opportunity to start working yet due to daycare waiting lists and lack of savings. I regret it SO much. He’s not a bad person, I just know in my heart I don’t love him. I feel like a terrible person all around. To my child, to him, to his family. I cry daily knowing I agreed to all of this. I don’t want to touch him. We have had sex maybe 2 times in the 2 1/2 months we’ve been married because I can’t stand to fake being into it. We fight nightly. Small things, he doesn’t like how I cooked the dinner. I ask for a $10 purchase (he’s a control freak about money). He’s too strict on my child. I gained weight very quickly due to depression of being up here and staying home and he reminds me often. I have no vehicle, he has control of the one we have. I only leave the house for groceries with him along. Anything we can argue about, we find a way. I don’t think I can pull off getting an annulment. I have no education on divorces, especially military divorces (USAF). I can’t hire a lawyer because he controls all the money. I just want to go home. I want a rewind button. I wish it never got this far. I need to gracefully find an exit before I lose my mind. 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My fiance's mother needs to prove that her husband hasn't been living with them since April 2018 in order to get more assistance for the house and child support (they're separated). He needs to write a letter saying he hasn't been living with them but he's uncooperative and won't do it.. Is there any other way to prove that he hasn't been living there? He's living in an apartment right now so he's got different bills to pay there.,4.291125541125538,5.389000363636368,4.9438961038961065,84.80727272727277,70.61616161616159,7.273304473304473,22.223665223665233,7.447530270364453,0.6771604617604621,392,8,80,4,7,126,58,99,0.018000000000000002,0.958,0.025,0.1556,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,1,3,13,16,5,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,5,1,6,1,12,10,1,8,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,0,2,46,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253020032261549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19251076871156805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626738806882834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736824274032195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126094083334244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8135175378441338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732504782858663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15735563259126334,0.0,0.1465296433882578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15242041938964335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2090942032637836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625570957465608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,rgresh23,2019/02/07,"Giving up Have any parents had their kids so stuck in the middle from their ex that they ceased visitation? This sounds horrible, but after fighting in court, through child services, and counselors it has become apparent my ex wont stop until she has completely either screwed up my kids or cut me off from them. They dont even want to see me anymore. I'm not sure how much longer I can keep fighting without it affecting my own livelihood. Any help is appreciated.",6.067586206896548,7.435294781609201,5.798333333333336,79.31750000000002,66.70114942528735,8.558620689655173,32.89080459770115,8.841846274778883,2.7508942528735636,374,16,67,6,6,116,71,87,0.205,0.6609999999999999,0.134,-0.7557,2,0,0,0,4,0,8.0,0,0,5,0,3,5,4,0,1,0,8,1,0,2,1,12,14,6,0,1,5,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,2,12,1,12,11,3,10,0,0,1,1,17,6,1,1,3,47,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.358478354163087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261394319217834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910964806705172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27635204483314196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30890645262090033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408796512753788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528439422340808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17666791764268222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342764447811597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19375702127588915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2926674391594396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21003414056166264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22035944322345688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2484151245194573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546261695492652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540756734052527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,toughtimes2020,2019/02/07,"Red Flags Hi Gang, I am actually in the process of heartbreak from my exSO who I was planning on marrying. Its been hard but my gut was screaming at me that the relationship was unhealthy. I wanted to list some of the red flags here and see if, give your understanding of the challenges of marriage and children, that I chose not to take the relationship further or work on it any longer. I am hoping that asking people who are mostly in healthy relationships I will get a bit of validation that I made the right decision. We were thinking of getting married in the next two years and starting to have children at three. I should add that outside of these negatives, she was a loving, caring and very kind girlfriend and we were very much in Love. \- She hit me once, while drunk, as I came home late and she was locked out for 25mins on a dangerous road. She justified this by saying she was scared and locked out. Also it's not the same as if gender roles were reversed. She showed remorse but also seemed to forget this evening happened a year or so later. Making me even deny the events myself. \- Very OCD about cleanliness in the home. It's a stressor for her. Refuses to get a regular cleaner to help with this and buy us more time to do fun stuff (We could have afforded it comfortably) \- Cannot take criticism 90% of the time. Gets very worked up and defensive if you try and pass on a criticism, even in a calm manner. \- Prefers all natural health care to an extent that she has not seen a doctor for 28 years, refuses a smear test and claims that she would always do her own research to decide if she would use a natural or 'mainstream' approach to health. She is not a medical professional in any capacity. \- Has not been vaccinated. \- Future MIL is very controlling of her. She is a natural health provider and assists on her helping her around the house with chores (she lives very close) future MIL had a health condition that could be easily treated but again refuses any modern healthcare through the threat of death. \- She refused any couples counseling, had tried CBT to help with mood swings but refused anyone on one therapy. \- Often is the victim and rarely has the insight into how destructive her behaviors can be. \- Has made thinly veiled suicide threats, One more serious that I prevented. Her trigger claimed to be tiredness and me saying 'stop joking about that..' and showing me she meant it. \- Much of the above has been discussed with her but met with defensiveness and often turning it around to be a bi-product of my behavior. e.g. ""i got angry as you were not listening"" \- Took a very strong dislike to one of my female friends (who made no effort with her and can be a bit rude) to the point where it was once stated ""I can't be with you if you are friends with her"" \- Has a brother who shows lots of bipolar traits, suicide threats and long mood swings. \- Sister has emigrated with her own family due to the volatility of this one and behavior that got out of hand once she started having her own children. She has gone total no contact. \- Father has previously been physically abused but seems to be tamer now. So, I chose to leave and not propose to this woman in the next 6 months, did I make the right call? Should I have tried to work on these issues? I feel it is a way to far gone and an unhealthy place to raise a family. I feel I have abandoned her and the relationship, she is devastated but I think these are not issues I can fix, especially if trying to get to address some of them is a very difficult task. To be clear she has shown no real intention of extracting herself from toxic family members. Sometimes they are stable but this is what I have observed over the BU. I did try and discuss these things during separation but was met with yo-yo-ing of empty promises to seek help and throwing the blame back at me, suggestions that I am meant to accept this situation as a healthy one to start a family in.",5.495166627398625,6.630310464619495,5.734442786460378,80.10733657949163,67.85180240320427,8.971973088300741,30.84114767402288,9.221295682616745,2.6245904918976932,3114,121,584,58,51,990,348,749,0.15,0.7170000000000001,0.133,-0.9465,2,0,0,0,2,2,99.0,4,5,2,8,19,34,9,1,48,0,73,12,2,10,3,126,120,52,3,15,26,3,5,0,3,5,7,4,4,4,39,46,1,11,14,5,1,7,14,15,0,7,34,13,77,17,97,70,17,70,1,2,4,2,87,37,0,18,24,425,116,8,0.0,0.07078393794522025,0.05829911043866516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555055168300217,0.04970973447206847,0.0,0.0,0.16250514209883365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04177266323736116,0.0,0.0,0.10636524611720108,0.05585026122517342,0.0,0.0,0.04593754498825612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044454444196205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100277637855499,0.0683283891088381,0.1218209323045636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06700520004841372,0.09539749276714872,0.0661028609486775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06114798215294213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837614119042568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225275971090132,0.0,0.060414219996032935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231230781344764,0.0,0.1560624049778068,0.05730951434641673,0.0,0.0,0.09556150983535362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0528292331287285,0.0,0.053516671837577016,0.0,0.0,0.25400978911942623,0.0,0.0,0.16017393924860504,0.0,0.11985124090895866,0.059336814041804666,0.0,0.06893369863052648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247092612236906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06221160486161701,0.0,0.0,0.06739104219265732,0.0632576488248687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05275286096130797,0.0528693695393901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050790108053486535,0.10783811729067937,0.1695866259186893,0.0797558634808019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06018330116294074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768511517084558,0.0,0.08783378943086909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12707157886950665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908683226502903,0.20241201681847965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04141725117407998,0.0,0.06241717813673987,0.0,0.05647505115410264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799893436780911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25656016020540806,0.0,0.10203787160586084,0.0,0.09501771682581484,0.0598116883718483,0.0,0.04760626054711725,0.1087728809841405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671519770073502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05908589566716368,0.0,0.12685607633821086,0.0,0.0,0.04994658982611324,0.0,0.0,0.06838975292291456,0.13069506349623827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08983638353098759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06831964019574607,0.0,0.039689614526627316,0.07655991373843395,0.0,0.0,0.06967152714164071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06637503228825596,0.2028028691949562,0.06498162383012973,0.05835878899900656,0.06219303427075575,0.07186169861908215,0.051597496084208994,0.0,0.3943441171435487,0.03523709920825994,0.04742004168979272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047762483490435,0.0,0.0,0.08487733037599451,0.0,0.0,0.11541474990889147 divorce,sunflower-lover,2019/02/07,"My ex still haunts my dreams I am 2.5 years post divorce and my ex STILL haunts my dreams. I have removed all reminders, avoid things that remind me of him and yet, he is still in my dreams. He had an affair and I promptly left. I am in a very very happy relationship with someone who treats me amazing. I hate waking up from a dream with him in it. I know it takes time, but my lanta I would LOVE for it to stop. This happen to anyone else? How long before this will stop regularly happening? I should add that its not nightly. I can go weeks w.o him in my dreams and then bam! ",0.5121848739495789,2.8048386638655494,1.805672268907564,97.25623949579834,86.73109243697479,4.408403361344538,16.903361344537814,5.773587663045528,-0.6514470588235293,447,10,101,3,14,142,78,119,0.097,0.725,0.179,0.9125,0,1,0,0,1,0,15.0,0,0,0,0,5,6,1,1,3,0,9,2,1,1,1,17,16,7,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,10,7,0,3,1,5,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,21,4,12,12,1,21,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,0,12,68,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12887582636917422,0.1888502902857723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15683665539640354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396973108129022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10474923702676378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3259744793971024,0.19620445026536545,0.0,0.18197077554854246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129351914593512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20025644485329447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16311106740525294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663495382250636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296511887905966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17652075626551067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19788301784830375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561676750363737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44157742713924986,0.3081875819880889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858032105574558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224492640396993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10747430183899034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041547990483581,0.0,0.0,0.14784464628731867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093055654675462,0.0,0.0,0.1186914289310991 divorce,Business_Clerk,2019/02/07,"I am contemplating divorce, but not sure the best way to start. I am 36\[F\]. When my husband and I were engaged we moved to his hometown(1,000 miles away from my family).We have one child, a cat, and live in a 2 family home(no renters at the moment) I just recently started a new job that requires travel \~7 days a month. The job came with a pay increase that has kept us afloat. He works a weird schedule, and with the new job I am the ""breadwinner""... We have separate bank accounts, because I am a ""spender"" and he is the ""saver"". We set up our finances so that bills are mostly paid out of my bank account, then we treat his as a savings account.. basically trying to live off of one income, despite having 2. What has ended up happening is he has over $10,000 in his bank account... I have -$238.90 until the 15th. (He is always reluctant to give me any actual money when I ask....knowing what my balance is.) My credit is shit. &#x200B; Neither of us are happy. Last night we argued until 2 am because I tried to initiate sex for the first time in 2 weeks...(we have been intimate, but it was 3rd base... and only beneficial for him). What started as an argument about positioning spiraled to one of our big issues:our sex life ....he feels we only have sex when I want to, but he never takes the step to say ""hey I'm tired. lets do this in the morning"".... &#x200B; The underlying issue is that he feels I ignore him and his needs... while I feel I focus only on him. &#x200B; I went through a pretty severe period of postpartum depression and anxiety, and have been trying to focus on building myself back up. Now that I am focusing on my own mental health more.... our problems have been getting worse. &#x200B; I have always felt a little bit like the relationship was one sided, that I give more than he does... I have brought it up in the past, but nothing changes. &#x200B; I have brought up going to couples therapy, his response was ""sure, let's go on Friday""..... That particular Friday was going to be the first trip I had to take for my new job 1 week after I started... He got upset and said if I really wanted to fix our relationship that I would cancel the trip. I said financially we couldn't afford to take the risk of it seeming like I can't balance a home life and the job, lets schedule it first thing Monday. &#x200B; I am not sure how much more I can take of his ""black and white"" mentality. &#x200B; I am considering asking him for TRIAL trial separation. One that no one in our family knows about, just to take time to see what we really want without all the drama of ""*Oh we are separating"".* We have this 2 family house, if we did decide to split, our son is young enough that we could make it so that his day to day doesn't have to change drastically. &#x200B; What is the best way to proceed from an emotional, and then legal standpoint??",4.453183453237411,5.706346692446048,5.408697841726623,81.04232733812951,70.38489208633094,8.149928057553957,28.468345323741,8.548686976883017,2.074277841726619,2235,81,428,36,40,734,266,556,0.119,0.8140000000000001,0.067,-0.9844,8,0,0,0,1,0,157.0,20,0,0,7,12,20,2,2,32,0,56,8,1,2,5,66,95,31,0,10,11,2,4,2,0,1,4,3,1,1,24,28,0,3,7,2,14,13,9,8,0,9,20,10,68,12,67,68,13,82,0,1,3,3,54,25,1,4,43,302,92,11,0.0,0.0,0.04420412615372178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538280969083133,0.3926412468595653,0.4403343568345416,0.030804062651705363,0.0,0.034652699003596264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08469467113098575,0.0,0.04255878156795183,0.03483121815365452,0.0,0.05522624642695542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950745093276572,0.0,0.04945347411984699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051808624682624316,0.0,0.0,0.09583814881611484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036166613635248784,0.050121162784661055,0.0,0.08764001596659368,0.0,0.039014935507548636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03964041688765639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095393688932084,0.040120412634771535,0.046804744354599526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810822545843611,0.0,0.06871179805546843,0.0,0.04349299916065734,0.0,0.0,0.11559087659673305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02366623499255624,0.0869075697010082,0.07723136423275405,0.0,0.03622879495430957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040056701864834884,0.048220358743233736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04814945150118688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09087478921987154,0.0,0.0,0.052267588434514026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04727914263348136,0.22475542351912248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049788981085550986,0.03692375919847025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13896023257644166,0.06399036256983515,0.044260441649146484,0.04540030360571275,0.07999758841455126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03023663846906805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129907226695763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036156278042774784,0.048144401009153966,0.03329910078684959,0.03358775053872927,0.034936461918961506,0.13124671520912692,0.0,0.04250892408981512,0.0,0.0434644683005128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.184169801408274,0.10335307215394374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043241883126528005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04608415541791728,0.0,0.043343884489733794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058037871223774073,0.0,0.044726120462835715,0.09726578675390332,0.0,0.0,0.08617717667790291,0.03602263490646069,0.0,0.0,0.036096488112725,0.041237422980795684,0.0,0.051173629338334636,0.0464975487894299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12824808611147942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807794340375558,0.0,0.1702915705281572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05180199099550426,0.0,0.030093850735054082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052827032040766296,0.052063166522658716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226271426898132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897537089251597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015346204974426,0.0719105828304415,0.03633516911873766,0.0,0.0,0.041991521676755766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04366547029106811,0.0,0.03297734359376475,0.0,0.046162336077690866,0.0321782630240892,0.0,0.4403343568345416,0.0 divorce,geodessxo,2019/02/07,"My husband and I will be divorcing, but I'm worried I can't make it on my own. I have a part-time job and I'm a full-time college student. I will only be bringing home around $920 per month. I don't think I can make it living on my own. I have credit card debt and no car right now, since my husband sold mine and used the money to buy one in his name. I have been applying to countless part-time jobs so that I can work a second job after my college classes, but I haven't gotten an interview. I'm very worried about my future and don't know what to do.",2.7233536585365847,2.8303967317073173,4.508689024390247,90.12205792682929,73.55284552845528,7.12560975609756,25.944105691056908,6.6274283507984215,0.8267569105691064,430,13,102,3,8,147,73,123,0.107,0.862,0.031,-0.8047,4,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,5,0,15,0,0,3,0,14,26,8,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,0,2,0,5,2,5,0,0,2,3,0,18,1,9,19,2,11,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,0,4,65,22,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884714861683645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19025519165695434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.56465675302897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042380644858168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674827160157689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532133497696915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139335491577754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852578500283834,0.1442531254251962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.410789801505152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1619777540174776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15689757520956504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153333541711266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16381459936617734,0.0,0.15649820355829594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808253927475392,0.38523963524318094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,brixton75,2019/02/07,I will kill you Last night my ex forced his way into my house and forced me into a corner. He then whispered into my ear you have no idea how crazy am am. I will kill you,1.1404385964912258,2.133370763157899,2.7026315789473685,98.24675438596493,78.21052631578948,5.066666666666666,15.298245614035089,3.1291,-1.2555543859649123,131,1,33,0,3,43,27,38,0.408,0.5920000000000001,0.0,-0.9638,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,3,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,5,1,1,1,0,6,5,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,0,3,3,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,3,23,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3709245116740553,0.0,0.3628919821520356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7113011537076519,0.0,0.0,0.262034805126366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3016707367235693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551619332313109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Throwaway031859,2019/02/07,"Moral struggle upon cancer diagnosis- what would you do? I (almost 50 female) have been together with my 2nd husband (M60) for 9 years. Married almost 3, but not legally married. We had a commitment ceremony, I legally changed my name, but we decided not to include the financial burden of actual legal marriage. He kept his finances and insurance completely separate from mine. There is one huge thing we have together and that's the house. He pays the mortgage. I pay utilities and I paid for an addition. My name is on the deed. I also own the truck he drives, but he paid $9,000 of it (I pay the monthly payments on it so I'm on the title of the $30,000 truck). We have a fairly new business together (that isn't making any money yet) and we work our regular jobs together. When we decided last year to separate, we went through the process of discussing how to split the house and the truck. The conclusion was we'd have to sell everything. There's more but to keep this simple, I'll move on. We decided it made the best financial sense to live together as room mates until my youngest graduates HS next year. It's amazing what separating can do - we get along great! But for the past 9 months, it remains clear that we are not going to stay together. At least it's been more peaceful at home. \------------------------------------ On to the purpose of this post: Yesterday, he was diagnosed with cancer. I still love the man in spite of agreeing we'd split. I love him like a friend. I would not turn my back on my friend. But I know he can't afford what it's going to cost for treating his cancer. I have savings, but I'm not getting any younger and looking forward, I know I have to afford to live on my own very soon, I'm not in a position to afford him a loan. He hasn't even asked. We are still in the very beginning of his diagnosis, so all of what I've written is based on a ""worst case scenario"". Morally, I feel like shit for even thinking about this. OF COURSE my heart is destroyed by his diagnosis and I care very deeply for what he is about to endure. But what would you do with this situation? Reconciling for the reason of him having cancer is NOT a choice. I don't want to get into details, but he has shown me his bad side of his true personality and I will NOT stay fake-married to him. I can be his friend and that's it. Should I just do what I normally was going to do? Leave him next year? I can endure the public scrutiny of how bad this will look. But damn, I can't believe a complicated situation has been erased by a massive tragedy of the cancer diagnosis. I don't know what to do.",2.461222167243939,4.476671689922483,4.036275771070429,85.67880504700643,77.25581395348838,7.492264555500578,26.09500247402277,8.399286722034276,1.8039565066798613,2016,78,413,40,47,671,230,516,0.138,0.73,0.132,-0.5579999999999999,5,0,0,0,0,0,107.0,14,2,0,3,18,23,4,1,30,0,48,10,2,5,4,77,79,27,0,6,19,1,1,2,4,6,6,0,2,2,26,26,0,2,11,0,10,7,14,9,0,1,13,3,61,14,64,57,8,48,2,0,2,2,52,19,2,2,23,279,87,10,0.0,0.0,0.09359131543537112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19207384562230356,0.0,0.0,0.076696726204733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043998355723435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08966002012967875,0.0,0.0,0.0737464985481324,0.16015653792182066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10805425205216776,0.10064839152576163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778349288830464,0.0,0.10145680049639262,0.0,0.10055657689067514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973435010799535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266912272109885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619495213297243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04849341849203083,0.06851592006941587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22229233655867608,0.0,0.15032221584835873,0.0,0.1635183318922626,0.0,0.0,0.1057377136500324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136501574260578,0.0,0.0,0.09620245668269783,0.0,0.0,0.22132740908436171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517281561109453,0.08524647374161733,0.0,0.0,0.15812379882068525,0.0781769371978131,0.0,0.1015515763503265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093710549582832,0.0,0.16937512813484,0.0,0.16107530960444508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731194725848652,0.09074944300493597,0.06401861126770768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15310397095070308,0.10193387390184508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09262749726331826,0.20399618675757855,0.0,0.09396841487260567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498900848203654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091554003570628,0.0,0.08374221989066573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09185231456315053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986082830891186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09844707122112613,0.0,0.21560678421725854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20444802361542253,0.1531827742703661,0.0,0.0,0.10026273239678687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371629352008541,0.061453279325222536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431918442026147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2373997500559666,0.05656838401500714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08890667213267787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982137721197305,0.0,0.0,0.2043885646134173,0.0,0.0,0.24704363830689596 divorce,ferrisbeuller7,2019/02/07,"3 years and still broken hearted. How did you move on? Hi there. This is my first post. I have been separated since mid 2015. I was married for 12 years and together with my wife for 19 years. We have 2 children (12 year old daughter and 14 year old son). I thought we were happily married and we had an amazing little family. There was no obvious indication that my wife was unhappy. Without any warning signs, my wife told me one day that she wanted to seperate. I was shocked and it devastated me. My wife was my best friend and I loved her so much. Literally overnight I lost my wife. The next couple of years was unbearable. We have 50/50 custody of our kids. Every other week. I subsequently found out that my wife had met someone else and had an affair leading up to the separation. The thing that has been very difficult has been that my ex and I have zero contact with each other. We went from being best friends to literally never speaking to each other again. I sent her an email about a year ago to ask if we could try and communicate for the sake of our kids. I just wanted to try and have an amicable relationship with her so that we could discuss the kids schooling, birthdays and so on. I have been the only one to reach out over the past 3 years and she just doesn’t even respond. I don’t even know where she lives, or where my kids are on the weeks that they are with her. She told my kids to not tell me where they live. I’ve found it very difficult because I’m a very gentle person, and would never do anything to harm her, yet, I feel like a criminal that is not allowed to have any contact. This whole experience has made me lose all my self esteem and I have become so introverted. I have walls up around me and when life becomes bearable again, something triggers my hurt and I feel pain again. Obviously this has all been a very brief summary of the events that occurred. I’ve never spoken to a group like this and I’m wondering how long it takes to get over this pain and when your life gets back to some sense of normality? It’s been over 3 years and I still just can’t get over it. Thank you so much. 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There's no other woman or man involved. Our problem is my mental health and cultural dlfferences. Be ready. This is going to be a long rant. I have bipolar 2 and often have unstable emotions. I am very grateful my huaband has been there for me. He says it's been too much for him and he doesn't feel well mentally anymore. I come from another culture, another country. My parents and he could not get along. It was good at first but then it started to be a problem. I started another medication that makes me very agressive and gives me anxiety as a side effect. (I believe because of it) I yelled at my husband horrible things after I wanted to hug him and he pushed me. He has been pushing me physically and emotionally for a couple months now. I just snapped. Yesterday he went to talk to his mother and then came home to tell me that he is going to file a divorce. He says he does love me but he is going to go mentally ill if he stays with me, because I am a burden. I asked him to consider once more. He said he will tell me his final answer today. I could not sleep yesterday. My heart physically hurt. I didn't know that my heart could hurt when I am sad. I guess this is what heartburn is. I love him very much. I know he does too. He still says he loves me. I wish we can go past this and be a happy couple again, like we were. Everyone envied us and our love. I don't know how we came to this place. I feel my heart can't take it for long. How do you live with this feeling? 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Lonely. I had to move cities. I have no one outside of business contacts. I figure if time and money doesn’t cure this pain. I’ll just end it. 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Neither of us realized how hard it was going to be emotionally. We had a sleepless night last night. She woke me up arround 1am and she wanted to argue, she was clearly in pain and rage. I tried to be calm and comforting. Still love her but neither of us are happy. I am actually kindda scared of falling a sleep what if she does something crazy?? Last night she pinned me against the wall and of course I was very comforting I know she is in pain but. But I am a little scared. 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Promptly had a panic attack😓 So I’ve been single going on three years now but we just never filed because damn if I was going to do it all on my own. Finally decided it’s time and hammered it all out in 6 hours. On the way home from the courthouse I started thinking about our dog and how just this past Labor Day, STBX and I held each other and our baby and cried while she passed away in our arms at the vet. All of a sudden I couldn’t breathe and everything went black. Nowhere to pull over but at least it was a red light. Thank god it passed quickly. I have been over this marriage for years now and didn’t realize how filing would hit me in the feels so hard. We are still good friends and he’s coming to visit for the weekend. He will get served at that time (he is well aware and on board). Just needed to vent. Thanks for reading and good luck to all of you!💜",1.943736486486486,3.602334167567569,2.8880236486486517,94.95095439189191,77.5945945945946,5.706081081081082,21.29222972972973,6.322622252153567,0.08576351351351398,691,18,156,5,16,219,120,185,0.04,0.8,0.16,0.9766,0,1,0,0,1,0,15.0,5,0,0,0,13,9,1,1,8,0,13,2,2,2,5,37,26,18,0,4,6,0,2,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,9,15,0,1,4,2,0,8,3,2,1,1,8,5,13,7,26,14,8,41,0,0,2,0,12,14,1,2,18,105,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19589813583420296,0.1617840802464854,0.0,0.0,0.10496925845239516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14833185418288905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18914953585273134,0.11105235984653386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547589197186932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706761676386338,0.0,0.0,0.3772652316352402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303842439440286,0.0,0.08996545295956329,0.0,0.19572623664248925,0.28886015193120945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542540505972787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272691616013405,0.0,0.1695786566615382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12768136512039302,0.13280839230796535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20203524135007192,0.0,0.0,0.16438084061643946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224288603209675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1218814184200122,0.0,0.1375161774498266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31707041203708497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033642790207533,0.0,0.0,0.2008180797474438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13668139775848825,0.0,0.0,0.15482514219959193,0.15962768346122164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223233019246491,0.0,0.0,0.22177752665127187 divorce,omgusername822,2019/02/08,"How do you know I can’t even look at my husband the same anymore. I think our arguments and things he has said to me just crossed a line that I can’t get over. Which is a shame, because I was the one trying for MONTHS to make this work. After going to couples counselling he is starting to change. But it might be too little too late. How do you know? 😓",1.1343428571428582,2.9187721866666685,2.276571428571433,97.824,80.46666666666667,4.819047619047621,21.38095238095238,5.288315135182226,-0.2325047619047625,274,8,64,1,7,87,58,75,0.083,0.917,0.0,-0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,2,0,1,6,1,0,1,4,0,10,0,0,3,0,11,19,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,2,2,9,0,8,15,1,9,0,0,1,0,7,3,0,1,4,46,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574667363214255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15825792128397045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27463655766290146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2872572933279922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17147220470722174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563728831339988,0.0,0.14754428014666066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28535347445233256,0.0,0.29285522739848324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26020083344988426,0.0,0.0,0.21800987384686832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732939629369429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754087950170393,0.0,0.0,0.20722094202013105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17592076123143893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469517978413554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837557033999684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724756096563234,0.16634978639579667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17626045967760645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18900164991365986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,pamperednerd,2019/02/08,"Confused, scared, SAHM in need of support I'm 25(f), and he's 28. We've been married for three years and have a three year old child. He became emotionally/verbally abusive in the last year and after 13 months of hell I finally ended it. I suggested counseling, multiple times and got absolutely nowhere with it, you can't make somebody love you. He lied and manipulated me for months, and moved on before the split (so cheating). We just bought a house right before the abuse started, and he told me I could keep it. As of right now, we're on decent terms, he's much happier being out of the commitment and even being friendly. Which is exactly what I wanted, I know that we don't work together as a couple anymore, but I have no idea why and that's probably the hardest part. He's taking our child for a night every weekend and comes over every night for our bedtime routine. It's been almost a month since he moved out, so at times it's easier. We decided to wait at least six months to start the divorce process so I can be more financially stable to take over the bills since I haven't worked in almost four years. I always said I don't believe in divorce, so whenever he asked me to marry him, he better be sure. Now, here we are and I don't know the first thing about it. We're on the same page on just about everything, so once we start it shouldn't be too complicated. I guess I just really need some sort of support. This is killing me. I know it's the best decision for myself and my child in the long run, hell it's even better for my relationship with him because maybe this way we can be on friendly terms instead of bitter, but it still hurts so much. I wanted it to work, I tried for so long and he just wanted out. How do I cope when, even though the love was real for me it wasn't all that real for him? How do I even start picking up the pieces and explain to my baby why daddy isn't home all night? 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What are some steps that you overlooked or didnt think about before filing or separating that would be good to start or think about at this point?",6.1349242424242405,7.438514159090907,5.148181818181818,84.2756060606061,66.5,7.684848484848485,28.303030303030305,7.793537801064563,1.5499939393939397,189,6,36,2,3,56,36,44,0.024,0.846,0.129,0.6908,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,8,4,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,7,5,1,8,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,4,2,24,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866444847419807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.286534379016856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5650872017993668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384228420456009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3184431776908044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384324359931251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4316947345133957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23929687752819714,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Georgerobertfrancis,2019/02/08,"Anyone else struggling with losing friends? I’m currently going through a divorce and working through it all. One of the things I expected, but is difficult, is the division of friendships. Of course in a divorce this is inevitable, but some of the ones who chose my STBXH really surprised me. Relationships I put a lot of effort into, while he did not. I think I realize that it seems to be less a division of merit, but more of a situation of who they identify with more. Has anyone else lost friendships, and how do you deal with it? We’re not even in a very acrimonious divorce.",4.420292929292927,6.420339554545458,5.374848484848485,78.29671717171719,71.63636363636364,8.888888888888891,32.22222222222222,9.444778638647367,3.2301919191919195,461,22,83,11,9,151,72,110,0.119,0.7509999999999999,0.131,0.343,1,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,0,1,1,4,2,7,0,1,9,0,7,0,0,1,1,19,12,7,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,8,6,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,4,0,2,2,0,8,3,17,9,6,7,0,2,0,0,11,3,0,3,2,67,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.284335496903634,0.4166556494076869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961646490756294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396995482279915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13429252657277893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15708638065110325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11555280458479147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274657559691594,0.2219504160377833,0.17285743225321876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755530383797709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043951684286366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302535347911252,0.0,0.0,0.2182921646124404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18509707526023655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2285428946911035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.212556716847196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13507836697193032,0.1302807831046262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677622723351271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802112760296396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,fishred,2019/02/08,"Got word today that the judge signed the order and everything is official TLDR: last week, after 20+ years of wedded bliss (and that's not sarcasm, our marriage was great) followed by 18 months of rapid decline, my marriage officially ended. The lessons I've learned: 1.) put your kids first; 2.) identify your priorities and develop a strategy to protect them; 3.) the process will change you, but you can and should exert some control over \*how\* it changes you. It's been about 16 months and a few weeks since I was blindsided by my now-officially-ex-wife's confession that she wasn't sure she wanted to be a wife or a mother anymore. It's been a little less than 16 months since I confirmed that she was having an affair with a co-worker and about 15 months since she broke off the affair and we began earnest work of reconciling. It's been a little less than 14 months since she fell back off the wagon, about 13 months since, for the second time, I began consulting with divorce attorneys just in case, though we were still theoretically trying to work it out. It's been a little less than a year since I knew that prospect was doomed (though I was planning on waiting a few months for a lull in my work schedule so that we could either make one last desperate run at it or I could have a bit more time to focus on the end of it. It's been nine months since she walked out for good, moved in with the AP, and told me to just get the process started. It's been eight months since my attorney sent the first draft of the Marital Settlement Agreement, and six months since I had a signed and notarized copy, thus formally ending our relationship. And now, as of last Wednesday, when the default hearing was held in our absence, my marriage of 22 years, six months, and change is officially over. I am now (well, I have been for nine months, really), a full-time single parent with sole residential custody of our five-year-old son. We share joint legal custody, but I have 100% of the overnights. Increasingly, over the course of her affair, I had been the primary parent, and based on advice that I saw in this forum (and elsewhere) I began keeping close track of how much time we each expended on basic parenting duties--who prepared his meals each day, who got him to school and picked him up, who put him to bed, did the laundry, how much time each of us spent with him together and alone, and so on. Even before she left I was doing most of that, and actually seeing the disproportionate nature of that in black and white had a pretty big impression on me. She had various concerns about her AP and his safety, and the place that they lived was not suitable for having overnights, so once she left I had full residential custody in practice. When that was written in the agreement she resisted the wording--she wanted to keep the situation as it was (she agreed that the place wasn't suitable for overnights for a variety of reasons), but wanted the agreement to \*say\* that we had 50/50 custody, in case, I suppose, she ever changed her mind or (what I really think) in case the fact that I had full custody would make her look like a bad mom. But I shot that down, and said that the agreement would reflect the reality of the situation, but that I would (and, indeed, I remain hopeful that we eventually can) gradually work towards a more even split once her life and living situation stabilize. (I would have been willing to write that into the agreement as a shared understanding and goal, but she declined.) The agreement gives her parenting time one evening a week and one day every other weekend. It works out to about 18 hours every two weeks. She's never come close to it. She spends an average of about 15 minutes with him on an average of about two nights per week after school. (I'm flexible when I'm picking him up from school so that she can come meet him at the park or for a cookie somewhere or what have you.) The weekend day happens occasionally--not every other weekend, but maybe once every 2-3 on average. The kid is doing great. He's given me a sense of purpose throughout all of this, and also a sense of pride and accomplishment because he's doing so well, and I know that I've done right by him and I've met my responsibilities and even though I sometimes get frustrated at how the situation as a whole has cut me off from plenty of opportunities socially and professionally, I know that I've come through for him and I wouldn't trade that for anything. Financially it hasn't been cheap--I wound up paying for the entire process myself because we figured (correctly) that hiring an attorney and working out the deal on our own would be cheaper than mediation and certainly cheaper than fighting it out in the courts. She couldn't afford an attorney, so I've been footing the legal bills for this, and I've also got a bit of debt because we split the marital debt evenly, but she had some wild spending in the run-up to our divorce. But I managed to preserve a small inheritance that will be important in helping secure my and my son's future moving forward. Meanwhile, her spending has continued apace, and she was, I'm sure, right on the verge of bankruptcy until a last-minute job offer upped her salary substantially, giving her a few more months (maybe more, who knows) of solvency. Among the lessons I've learned: First, do right by your kids. Because it's the right thing to do and it's your responisbility as a parent, sure, but also for your own well-being. Prioritizing his well-being has helped to ensure that whether I'm happy or sad at the end of the day, I can live with myself and my decisions. Second, pick your priorities and focus on those. For me, when the process started, I figured that my two main priorities were the custody issue and the small inheritance. I made a plan to protect those two things and was willing to sacrifice other issues that weren't as pressing. We had one car, and I needed it more than she did, but whatever. She wanted it, and I let it go in order to preserve the priorities. She freaked out about the amount of child support the state formula spat out. I knew that reducing that would prevent any possibility of being drawn into an extended fight about other things, and would also get us a deal more quickly so that I didn't have to worry about being responsible for her mounting debts, so I compromised there as well. I made a few other sacrifices, too. I don't regret them. I identified my priorities, and worked with my lawyer to secure them. Third--and this is the most consistently important lesson for me: I decide how this changes me. This was a mantra that I repeated to myself a lot. I can't control the situation. I can't control the changes to my life as a whole. But I can exercise some control in how I react to them and who I become as a result. So I focused on that. This is, in part, following the ""work on yourself"" advice that is common here, and which is great advice. I worked to improve myself. But I also worked to not allow myself to be degraded by this situation. I decided, from my first time grappling with the multi-headed demon (jealousy, anger, confusion, fear, despair) that slides into your head when you find out your partner of 20 years is having an affair, that I wasn't going to let this situation turn me into someone that I didn't want to be. And so when I was tempted to do or say things that were mean-spirited or what-have-you, I asked myself who and what I wanted to be. And I won't lie and say that I never said or did anything in this whole process that I wouldn't do differently if given another chance ... but I can say that I didn't do or say anything that I can't stomach admitting. The high road has been good to me. Anyway, those are just some random thoughts as this all comes to an end. Wherever you are in your journey, I hope you find a measure of peace and brighter days on the horizon. 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My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We have 2 beautiful girls, ages 4 and almost 1. We have a house, 2 cars, husband had a great job. Over the past year or so, my husband slowly became more and more distant from me and the kids. He would throw his spare time into side projects or be on his phone all the time. He started getting angrier too, especially towards his mom who suffers from a brain injury. I noticed him talking to women more online, but he told me it was nothing to worry about. Long story short, we got into some heated arguments about risqué behavior with said online women, and we had a long chat about how he feels neglected in the bedroom. I told him I would work on it and I did give him more time. Then we argued about how he doesn’t feel love from me anymore through little things like snuggling and stuff. We talked about it and I agreed we needed that, and noted that he needed to be there more for the kids and me too. Maybe do more things with the family. He has this mental thing in his mind where he shouldn’t have to do stuff around the house because he brings in all the money. I did almost everything, except mow the lawn and take out trash, which I had to beg him to do. So, I was even more stressed out trying to give him what he needed, take care of the house, and 2 kids. Well, out of nowhere he decides he’s going to California right after he turned 30. Said he felt like he needed time away from everything. So I let him go, thinking it was a mid life crisis kind of thing. He was like frantic to leave almost. He leaves, but leaves his messenger open on his computer. I see he’s been talking to this 25 year old girl (I’m almost 34) for a few months now and he went out to see her. Told her all this sappy lovey dovey crap about how he’s complete with her and blah blah. I notice they had an argument the first night. Apparently, he forced himself on her against her will and had sex with her, even though she said no. She told him he was too strong and couldn’t move, so she just had to wait for him to finish, after telling him no several times. I was shocked. He goes on telling her he’s sorry and he loves her more than anything and wants to be with only her, and I guess eventually she said it back to him. It’s been 3 weeks since he’s left and now he’s telling me he has no plans of coming back. He lost his job and now he’s trying to find one out there. He also told me that he was never 100% about marrying me and he feels nothing anymore, except the fact I’m the mother of his children. I asked if he would at least come home for a couple days and talk to the kids and he said no, he just couldn’t. He was enjoying the experience out there. So, that’s the story. TLDR: Husbad went out to Cali to be with his mistress, raped her, and is now trying to be with her and won’t come home. I’m so confused about the whole situation still. It kind of all came out of the blue so suddenly I am still at a complete loss. I really think something is wrong with him mentally, like something snapped. He has a family history of some mental illness, but it’s just so strange to me that he shut out his entire family, even his brother and parents and just left on a whim. I’m doing my best to keep things normal for the kids, but my 4 year old keeps asking when daddy will come play with her. I’m so lonely at night, can barely eat or drink, and I’ve just been so stressed about money, since I have no job and neither does he. I have a nice cushion in savings, but I’m afraid he will try to take it away from me, since he’s used up almost his whole savings on going out there and buying her stuff. Ok, I’m done....this is too long as it is. Cheers and thanks for reading.",2.733262548262552,3.996066550836552,3.644798584298584,91.99654150579151,74.61132561132561,6.5184813384813385,22.473809523809518,6.88968998030894,0.4290302187902184,2918,74,652,26,60,934,307,777,0.122,0.792,0.087,-0.9765,5,2,3,0,0,0,90.0,7,0,1,7,52,36,3,5,31,1,56,10,2,4,6,130,118,59,0,13,16,9,4,6,0,8,2,5,5,11,29,68,2,4,8,4,3,14,12,15,1,2,36,12,81,21,103,66,20,97,0,5,3,4,138,44,1,13,42,412,110,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550745268212069,0.0,0.0,0.040741374406336635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10104917877014234,0.0,0.0,0.04192409015017843,0.04535260382650338,0.09525497710637616,0.0,0.09573059815441856,0.0783484212999019,0.0,0.03105611468125845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05346452196148063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687241261272244,0.0,0.058268475361618374,0.05194268506177687,0.0,0.0,0.17554134009536376,0.10683149987879816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056370609270258526,0.0,0.03285585583690138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04458305289693105,0.05213528817895439,0.0,0.049907533507661465,0.0,0.052130318803449566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10094775182495253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915736822302328,0.04983481284361742,0.1440816278076004,0.0,0.07727925102382306,0.0,0.04891600125501112,0.0,0.04656358001515573,0.0433345103333957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026617101670111,0.097743794877452,0.08686109448973027,0.0,0.04074604680413957,0.05616797474753412,0.056122592732622975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15330851134597598,0.0,0.0,0.17635399748002462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15166767237625176,0.09056601697069183,0.0,0.10610451709352496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183288381559424,0.16605843128131928,0.052095578922922325,0.035984557471103636,0.09955826735514893,0.05106112135315356,0.0,0.1352564108375173,0.0,0.0,0.05561340874637739,0.0,0.0919612296198931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051181949600608005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402428964814874,0.0,0.05144078113683469,0.11933431751900216,0.040664487992282464,0.05414737143066085,0.0,0.15110279623960055,0.03929257692165418,0.0,0.0,0.09561845006115424,0.04991611196643941,0.0977678259474687,0.11600436601034687,0.10691819011339702,0.0,0.03452222354048594,0.0387466113685468,0.0,0.0,0.0565693326242039,0.0,0.04863357437073832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05095963237722263,0.0,0.032637213303381214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043507473871128,0.2423058287471927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119448609654648,0.0,0.0,0.057554304491417775,0.0,0.12642879008811794,0.05726526512287751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07844120202944861,0.0,0.0570297032721113,0.03605973180884157,0.05430149296409907,0.08137083638343365,0.0,0.1167165882605829,0.0,0.17496241394606085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114914807050716,0.16379336394251692,0.13358674403310836,0.046904089937547314,0.0,0.0,0.1692307806695957,0.06528808165299692,0.0500540347417708,0.0,0.14853466163941484,0.0,0.0,0.24340469405050075,0.0,0.13835554024994068,0.05541445066226668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04400085335708652,0.0,0.0,0.030049179759834538,0.0,0.04086568442079242,0.0,0.04580643364145783,0.09445461875151896,0.0,0.1137584347035416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037089182437405166,0.05173797928651692,0.0,0.10857140124939378,0.055701284668684736,0.0,0.13122981724275665 divorce,Tolpec,2019/02/08,"Welp, she is moving out today. This feels horrible. I’m in my mid/late thirties and the father of three children, all under 6yo. She is in her early thirties. I have absolutely no idea how to cope with this change and I’m afraid of when the time comes when I need to explain this to the kids. As far as I know she left without doing that. We intend to share custody of the children but it is at a high frequency of exchange, a 2,2,3 schedule. Has anyone had any success with that? I’ve been the primary caretaker for the kids for about two years. We need to be separated for a year prior to moving into divorce territory per the rules in my state. Ahh, this sucks. 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Currently I'm essentially living off my relocation package and giving my entire check to my wife. Not sure how exactly we'll be going about it, but we're not fighting about anything yet and we generally agree on the terms. Wife has started sending me paper work with some law firm referenced. They include: retainer agreement for the lawyer (for review), the petition for divorce, the parenting plan forms, and the financial declaration form. The plan as I understand it was to fill the forms out in accordance to agreed upon details. Essentially the hash it out as we fill out the paper work. Reason for divorce is irreconcilable differences. Nothing juicy at all really, besides the fact that she's been threatening divorce every month since we've been married, and the same threats even before marriage. Oh and she also doesn't really let my parents see my kids, for no good reason other than that she's pathologically controlling. We just sorta hate each other. I've been delaying the inevitable for longer than I would like to admit. I'm done wasting my life and so I finally just called her bluff and here I am. I lost my job back in Feb 2018, and I got a job offer in another state that I had to take. In the beginning I thought I would try to work it out and move them down, but the day I moved down she essentially tells me that this means we're separating and I had finally had enough so I said fine. It only took 12 years. I'm doing OK aside from when I think of my kids. It kills me. I was a very involved dad and I can't believe I'm going to do this to them. They're going to conceptualize this as ""..dad left when I was 7/8..."" &#x200B; I'm looking for some basic advice and what I can generally expect. Specific questions that come to mind: Does what she's doing sound right? Can we just fill the forms out and give them to the lawyer? I don't want to be an idiot and get more screwed that I already will be. Do I need legal representation given my description of the situation? What can I expect to pay her out of my check, roughly speaking? I was assuming 50%, but she's telling me that it should be more because of the 2 kids etc. Can I really expect to pay her more than 50%? I'm in the most expensive state in the union. If I have to give her more than 50% I may as well blow my brains out, or quit my job and join a monastery. Seriously wtf. Anyone who has any experience with kids in another state I would greatly appreciate any advice or insight you have to offer. I don't know how I'm going to afford flying back and forth constantly. &#x200B; Thanks",3.9668387016540265,5.4926933404634575,5.1894051320316725,81.09439497574928,71.92335115864526,8.498462048667248,27.663267421133362,9.037768484169169,2.2124373502466534,2248,82,442,46,43,746,266,561,0.095,0.826,0.08,-0.8574,10,0,0,0,5,0,78.0,5,1,4,8,19,17,6,0,28,1,44,4,1,5,5,91,83,36,1,11,12,6,1,1,0,8,2,3,0,5,24,36,0,3,12,0,7,14,8,8,1,0,19,6,65,9,70,51,21,64,0,1,2,1,51,25,1,11,22,294,89,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867505179194814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830187294805058,0.05674360533551075,0.0,0.23064286776337,0.25865845640863705,0.09650522666618667,0.22321112157694292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04961418798329529,0.0,0.05839086334706708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091217947770189,0.0,0.043254208784218255,0.0,0.06037845515898613,0.0799432796766968,0.0,0.0,0.15493147067411306,0.0,0.0,0.07921052695936337,0.07245415973481865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611224379858473,0.0,0.0766783875649843,0.07958335268618877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576084493309581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0741340716503157,0.0,0.0,0.06209420264040445,0.07261277410463565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07331666790295087,0.07913486061572665,0.04686586606801098,0.0,0.059783614387924434,0.0,0.0,0.06940872744655004,0.06689114071010847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545798204888428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03707165834123242,0.20420280616473072,0.20163006839099865,0.0595146498378852,0.11350022587734496,0.07822940286161036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005450533189289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08187386719408071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816521098065862,0.0,0.07850246392564053,0.0,0.03899564287564496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709406162298132,0.07255746800892134,0.05011842523888264,0.03466558942234151,0.07111670041257434,0.06265557801567433,0.0,0.05958529294387145,0.0,0.07745701668758782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729204588363264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164548141814632,0.0,0.056636519789224564,0.2262454656369313,0.0,0.052613084118109874,0.05472575508181102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0680843370027696,0.0,0.07445654045041372,0.0,0.0,0.05396534740475704,0.0,0.0,0.15757680889733586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07948712401878838,0.07547059678571033,0.0,0.0,0.13636897463011732,0.14590947424496378,0.07006063521504642,0.0,0.0,0.060596162070181835,0.06749554484733379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05654286265027751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058695658261760375,0.07975768247672456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05022312624649755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687532906980688,0.0,0.0533501921450316,0.0,0.12403760046431855,0.06532688714653508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04546583408651594,0.0,0.11266251010652704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788348904314404,0.04817456631202252,0.0,0.0,0.07386785171027864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058546252626070876,0.04185177406981806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06379809788581604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497076088706108,0.0,0.0,0.2016208447551631,0.0,0.25865845640863705,0.13708029735827987 divorce,peachescomeinacan,2019/02/08,"Stopped sleeping with STBXH, now what? I had posted awhile back that I was continuing to sleep with my STBXH. I ended all contact abruptly. He obviously didn’t like that. It’s only been 3 weeks. I have him blocked on all social media. Mostly because anything I would post would trigger him to contact me. We did not have any kids or property together, divorce is pretty straight forward. Although, since he filed, I have no idea what the status is. I’m having such a hard time moving forward and NOT thinking about him. Nothing in me wants to be with him or talk to him. I just feel stuck and can’t move on. Please tell me this goes away. I moved out 4 months ago, but I know the sleeping together made things worse/harder. 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We have been married for 10 years. We never have sex anymore. We never kiss or do much of anything together. He travels a lot for work and when he is home, he is working on his hobbies or around the house. We don't sit down and have dinner together. If we did, it would be a silent one. I have tried to get things to a better place, but its hard. With him away so much, its hard to get a counselor to see use. No one works on the weekends. Plus, when I have asked, he said that counseling is stupid and he isn't crying on a couch. I'm kind of at my wits end and don't know what to do. This is barely a marriage and I can't be the only one holding it together. I did move out a few years ago for a year, but we got back together. Now I'm here again and its worse. I am starting to wonder if he is only trying to keep things going because a divorce would cost him more money than to just stay married to me. He just gets mad when I try to talk to him about any problems because he said that he can't change anything. Which is why I wanted to try counseling, maybe he would be less angry with another person in the room and we would actually talk about something productive. Any one else going through this too? 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We’ve cohabited for 6 months now but the STBXH is signing his lease today and will hopefully be gone by the end of the month. I’m scared. He’s a very emotional kid, we will be sharing 50/50 custody and I’m not sure how he will handle being away from his current home and me. We agreed on what we will tell him and hopefully there are no outbursts from the ex but who knows. I’m just so sad for our son and can’t get over the guilt I’m feeling. Doesn’t help that ex blames me every chance he gets and reminds me we are “ruining” our son’s life. Please tell me we aren’t. I’ve already talked to several friends and my sister but my anxiety just won’t quit. Any suggestions for helping our son deal with the changes? Any ideas for dealing with my guilt?",2.3292161016949144,4.279995180790962,3.3910416666666663,90.45402012711864,77.4180790960452,7.136864406779663,25.18679378531073,8.07648339933343,1.3657234463276842,685,25,149,12,16,220,107,177,0.13699999999999998,0.698,0.165,0.7068,2,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,12,0,0,1,6,10,0,3,9,0,15,1,0,1,1,30,26,12,0,2,6,6,1,0,1,5,1,0,1,3,3,15,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,1,1,22,5,16,17,0,14,0,2,0,0,39,3,0,2,9,83,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17233515456722814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21239904650935587,0.0,0.1194680115827527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14672487729686656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520492489841768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071537228623037,0.3220044831413001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756678613070943,0.1383184011397864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13157818629659007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896317960793907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206549276374878,0.0,0.1631825582138599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20935209515622696,0.0,0.15664913099515165,0.31021991212357397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17629454368622846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582579048755709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11030600207914876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.249303446381199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17142545145019186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610377852615782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15635130576445294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1764252689780148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14718639207552112,0.0,0.0,0.125521837791826,0.4094928686255381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14802890343194489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885486790769168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jellyypony,2019/02/08,"Why didn’t my divorced dad keep in touch with us? I want to know what goes through the minds of divorced parents. My parents got divorced when I was about 5 years old. My elder sister and I then lived with my mum. And I am 29 years old now. Initially, after the divorce, he would still take us out, as kids, every once in a while. But that stopped and I am not sure why. So I grew up with VERY minimal contact with him. But I know he still cares about us. He wishes me happy birthday via text every single year. And he bought and continued to pay for my sister and I a very premium health insurance about 5 years ago. I can also see it in his eyes and voice that he gets emotional every rare time we meet. What I want to know is why didn’t he put in more effort to keep in touch with us? Doesn’t he want a relationship with us?",2.1728488852188264,3.5568995838150315,3.4165689512799347,92.57689306358385,76.28323699421965,6.561354252683734,22.183732452518573,7.1686216300943375,0.4889177539223781,640,17,146,7,14,208,100,173,0.032,0.8809999999999999,0.087,0.7951,2,0,0,0,4,0,18.0,6,0,0,1,9,3,0,0,5,0,9,2,1,0,1,31,24,15,0,5,3,6,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,5,15,0,3,3,0,2,2,4,0,0,0,5,5,24,3,25,18,2,26,0,0,2,0,29,7,0,0,17,88,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995707453946822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08115458160843261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034669776175114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11415283536790267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25650718793800154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05301980556971598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116388876839789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802876105440293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786990654340904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804025348260111,0.0,0.0,0.16731445226715275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08960987214738089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246721254748524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21297516618963264,0.1080743026886725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2253660112296797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201676431157043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10895296830905823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08086747985423967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1620862398004595,0.0848429345244124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956449509772338,0.0,0.07630132940372067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059174578645643225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6103477146265761,0.0,0.0,0.16746544772815025,0.1795689502345311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.274713343244922,0.0,0.1166985193334766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07208942401041006,0.0,0.0,0.2614025930168565 divorce,jhp58,2019/02/08,"(MI, No Kids) STBX and I starting mediation but we've had some discussions already. I think she wants too much on the house value. STBX is asking for her portion of the equity on the house (fair) plus what money she put into the house already which she calculates at an additional $50K, which is a rough total of $115K. I feel like that is unfair because it should just be her half of the equity and that's that. I feel like her equity plus what she out in is a double dip and much more than fair. This is really our only sticking point and I have a lot more liquid assets than her. I'm planning on keeping the house. She's already threatening she can go for much more based on my financial situation, which was already in place before we married. We have our first mediation meeting today so I'm pretty nervous. Any advice?",2.147370875179341,4.54406760365854,3.929670014347206,84.07128407460549,80.28048780487805,6.785652797704447,22.4519368723099,7.928766900206844,1.3222565279770446,653,21,125,12,17,219,98,164,0.078,0.804,0.117,0.7755,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,4,0,0,2,3,3,0,1,10,0,12,0,0,0,1,22,22,8,0,2,2,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,10,11,0,1,3,0,1,2,1,1,0,2,2,3,20,2,18,18,11,16,0,0,0,0,18,11,0,2,5,91,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12209462946446248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5515188516134086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496676034323401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680653791841793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761652009650702,0.0,0.10631883695032598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263517076549959,0.17852120497024904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627799781592798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100901905853145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766781752715702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105669453464262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220834531084336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622361564812352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2755464512774073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09502616382923708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305407409894727,0.0,0.11811323813652935,0.0,0.0,0.12711379772491638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560405143408396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004284939390757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14044320969210336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08843658481285784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800595939118763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11843307744057853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0736956904858575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,wendydarling15,2019/02/08,"Cannot take the pain anymore Husband and I have been married for four years. He’s continually cheated, despite me doing everything I can for him and for us. I loved him with everything I had. We have two very young children- who are my world. I’ve realized that they are the only anchors I have keeping me going. I’m contemplating suicide, and getting closer to action every day. I have a plan laid out, notes written, and am finalizing my will. I’m just finishing weaning my baby first. I do not want them to grow up seeing their mother depressed and lifeless. This is not who I was. This is not who I want to be. They are so young right now that they would forget me within months. I don’t know how to handle one more day of pain, and I don’t know how you all do it. You are all so very strong. I don’t know what the point of this post was, but thank you for letting me read through your posts the past couple weeks. 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My wife had an affair in March last year. I suggested counselling. We attended. Counsellor said my approach was mature. But wife was unsure whether she could commit to a process. Eventually she didn't want to try to work on things. The affair continued. She apparently didn't love me anymore. I gave her space, reiterated my offer to move forwards together. We rarely argued. We'd just lost focus before she had the affair. She moved out to live with her Aunty. Our 4 year old was shared 50/50 since then. Divorce is going through. And now.. Almost a year on.. She texts me regularly and in an amicable way. Today, she says she's going to have to buy a shitty house in a shitty neighbourhood, where my daughter will live 50% of the time. Does she expect sympathy? Is she so self-absorbed that she cannot reconcile her own choices? Anyone had any experience of this? 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The long and the short of it is that I left my husband around Christmas. He and I were married for about 2 years, together for 4. He had a child from a previous relationship and a pretty high conflict ex-wife and high conflict parents. Our marriage fell appart because I was unhappy with life, our situation, dreaded waking up every day and couldn’t find it in me anymore to go to couples therapy (we did it for 1 year) individual therapy (2 years.) so I had an affair (for about a week), stupidly told my husband about the affair and moved out. I have been seeing this guy ever since. Unfortunately, I’ve been talking to/leaning on and giving emotional support to my husband through the last month. Finally he’s lost it. He contacted the man I had been seeing last week after I told my husband I was done and I didn’t want to see/speak to him anymore and tried to ruin the relationship. I was able to re-kindle it but lied to by STBXH about it worrying he would do something vengeful again. I tried to ignore him, give him space as all of our friends, his friends and my therapist said I should. He lost his godamn marbles and threatened to expose me publicly for cheating on him and for some weird sexual kinks that I’m into and telling my boss all about it (the guy I have been seeing works with me.) He was extremely drunk when this happened and I rushed over and basically allowed him to yell at me and berate me for two hours while he threatened to blow up my and my new partners life. I wasn’t able to convince him not to, just to hold off. He’s holding me hostage. He obviously wants me to come back, but he says he will take me ending my relationship with this new guy to not blow up my life. I’m not willing to do that and am worried if I lie again he will blow my life up out of spite. How do I talk him off the ledge? How do I talk some sense into him? I realize in all of this that I am at fault for the marriage ending, for not only hurting him but also breaking his child’s heart by leaving. I also left him financially destitute as I convinced him to go back to school and quit his job. I have offered to pay alimony until he finishes school enough so that his lifestyle doesn’t change and I live in squalor. 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What is right ? So after 6 years I’m getting a divorce (blindsided) the house is in her name but we bought the house together. In my state all the assets get divided 50/50 unless agreed upon other wise. We have a small child together, I can’t decide if I want to just leave everything and walk away or to take what is fair and have her buy me out of my portion of the house. Keep in mind she says everything I have done to the house is half assed and I don’t deserve anything. But she has also left me with some debt and I’m behind on everything because of her and all the bullshit that comes with a divorce. I’m so torn on what to do because I still care for her and she’s says she still cares about me but her actions just say otherwise already talking to other guys , sending nudes of herself she has completely changed I think she just likes to manipulate my feeling so she get the paper work filed and come out on top. Please give me advice. Sorry for the bad grammar ",2.447455555555557,4.408961190000003,3.434333333333335,90.23022222222224,77.1,6.4444444444444455,24.61111111111111,7.3871296695380915,1.0525277777777775,778,27,162,10,18,249,112,200,0.08800000000000001,0.757,0.156,0.918,1,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,2,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,11,0,14,2,2,1,2,35,31,17,0,2,9,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,7,15,0,1,3,0,3,5,2,1,0,1,2,4,28,4,28,29,4,24,0,0,0,2,26,14,1,3,5,113,35,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778743689054075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330156621411142,0.09639345716525337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991917441905176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11324855195811455,0.0,0.10064342470558804,0.14695656707062282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457911673579617,0.0,0.12751224513373247,0.20766403801760105,0.12638083223163232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335127965379948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32499285839574765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060947168015103824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188926943709242,0.11563014800040185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935065733594165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5563344143300178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10713889264538642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12763136067710115,0.13096388716949622,0.0,0.0,0.05888832740417304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12170808681136265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231351426671045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293800540790483,0.0,0.28756776561088243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1349313895176879,0.0,0.0,0.1925221312663278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090628881102693,0.09688313686767834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723529205780669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109589119752671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775242786159483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07762192581570247 divorce,handstandplans,2019/02/09,"Cake of lies My ex husband lied to his family about our divorce, about the domestic, about custody, and his family thinks we have court coming up for custody. We don’t. To them I’m this terrible human that won’t let him parent. He’s had his cake and he’s still eating it. It’s been a year and a half of not having contact with them (per his request) so of course this new information to them seems to be a bunch of bullshit. If they can’t see the truth, they clearly don’t want to.",2.46339108910891,3.803211712871292,3.937710396039602,89.3176547029703,75.43564356435644,7.030198019801983,23.51608910891089,7.6454224807358475,0.9191673267326728,377,11,83,5,8,125,68,101,0.126,0.813,0.062,-0.8188,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,3,0,5,0,5,2,0,0,5,0,10,1,0,0,2,15,16,5,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,7,1,0,3,0,0,1,5,1,0,1,2,1,14,1,15,11,1,5,0,0,1,0,23,1,0,2,3,58,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504489626983303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975022125811384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5481724013833931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29730395575941004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28080096649692393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32283519468569594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316841697648762,0.2646810979703205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321873759771388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862960863540636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17148748885471193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18722866981467173 divorce,aanaphora,2019/02/09,"Planning a divorce... I've been with my husband for eight years. We have one child that is 8 months old. My husband has become increasingly violent since we had our baby. When I was 8 months pregnant my husband stopped working and hasn't been back since. He started drinking when the baby was only two months old and hasn't stopped since. He has hit me and slapped me a couple of times, all while he was drinking to the point of belligerence. He tells me he ""doesn't want to work"" because I'm not ""worth it"" to him. He constantly complains that I don't have sex with him - but honestly, his drinking is disgusting to me. I don't want him to touch me and he constantly shames me for it. I had to start working because he wouldn't. I work until 1AM every night and he forces me to wake up at 8AM every morning to take care of the baby until I go to work. If I don't get up he breaks things, calls me ""lazy"" and a ""useless"" mother. It's like he's turned into a different, vile version of the old him. He threatens to kill me if I leave. He threatens to take my daughter away from me. He threatens me all the time. The final straw was last week when I woke up to him and the baby gone from the house. When he gets back he said he ""took her to the mall"". He is drunk. So drunk I don't know how he made it home. So drunk that I realized that he might hurt my daughter one day. It made me realize I have no choice. For me and my daughter, I have to leave. I never wanted to be a single mother. I never expected him to change like this. I feel like a failure. I'm scared, hurt and alone. I don't understand why he would throw our family away.",1.3372058823529436,3.204546882352944,2.8178676470588258,93.7841544117647,80.17647058823529,5.779411764705883,22.389705882352942,6.770275591412753,0.44544117647058856,1260,40,283,13,32,411,151,340,0.209,0.742,0.049,-0.9949,1,1,3,0,3,1,48.0,4,0,0,6,9,15,4,2,15,0,29,8,1,3,4,39,53,22,1,8,4,8,2,3,0,3,0,1,1,1,11,14,6,2,5,7,1,5,13,10,0,4,14,3,48,5,36,34,5,45,0,3,0,1,47,8,0,3,34,172,59,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470580887963098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17182458447623533,0.1406257267139337,0.0,0.1114837701514403,0.10098994423132204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09337198757568543,0.0,0.09323069582123804,0.0,0.09673297431581664,0.0,0.0,0.19763153633263866,0.0,0.0,0.10117827216446082,0.0,0.058972197872202474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09553689729344536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687335514196383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408680247729942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08620290100895625,0.0,0.04623556609832729,0.06532582048588262,0.0,0.1001696853675194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09554881140617713,0.0,0.0519683074362992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172327262317673,0.0,0.0,0.10551120513161187,0.1957800178374706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011664632252042,0.0,0.050253852855612034,0.07453702089012898,0.0,0.19364667481656106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340210829865386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17304830226108425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09700497312318307,0.0,0.0,0.2189631806418509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105063235212062,0.0,0.0,0.08581164625921206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28785739267321664,0.0,0.12392624363364887,0.06954537552897802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08644176687916807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08698179922264396,0.0,0.09154888605201676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22692404248517034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944551802307333,0.0,0.0,0.1528983643548118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750524459487862,0.0,0.07992389485890694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06074966443276126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10664053921544488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159486269437172,0.0,0.09946208571332672,0.0893250511670624,0.09519381851060503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180368426477734,0.0,0.07334884958739314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251172413283415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3328524778770685,0.0,0.0,0.06495741266057142,0.0,0.0,0.05888532311857338 divorce,serialphile,2019/02/09,"Clueless Hey there. I'm clueless and just looking for some guidance. I’m 33 and my soon to be ex-wife is 31, we have been married 10 years, no children, no house, no notable assets. We live in California and filing with irreconcilable differences. My gross is 84,0000 her's is somewhere between 60,000-65,000. I moved out a couple months ago and we've been getting ready to do our divorce paperwork. We were going to do it ourselves and be fair with each other. But I just found out that she is having trouble making ends meet, has an attorney and wants alimony. Neither of us have children with anyone else either. Any inclination on how much if any she is entitled to? Or any guidance you can give me? &#x200B; I will be getting an attorney too just in case.",3.0554022988505736,5.67161431034483,3.967586206896556,83.83436781609197,78.3103448275862,6.349425287356322,28.97701149425287,7.554174236665415,1.988714942528736,605,28,109,9,15,194,103,145,0.118,0.825,0.057,-0.8466,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,5,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,3,0,19,0,0,2,0,27,29,10,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,3,15,0,0,1,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,1,15,0,15,21,5,12,0,0,1,0,15,5,0,3,5,79,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17476339682146688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2136141637696532,0.2395613200767504,0.4022104638276412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13785329735019694,0.20200557354224316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21814499339622206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20598193054036573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646952397486688,0.0,0.17461819844180476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161670467276042,0.0,0.0,0.2060076179136287,0.189126211017496,0.11204605336684488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274869955206412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408887211358412,0.0,0.16555806795942532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160052426352364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573648853431406,0.20954142834493664,0.14492944133112776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2371496414182753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628538710383422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395613200767504,0.12695945629468489 divorce,toDornot,2019/02/09,"[CO] Potentially have a divorce coming my way; how to protect assets, and how to gain the upper hand? As the title says. Late 20's, going on 7yrs of marriage, 2 kids. Had a big fight tonight, over nothing important (as usual), she took the kids and went to an in-law's house. Says she won't be back tomorrow, didn't say when she would be back. She's upset that I didn't ""seem"" to care that she was leaving and I... well, if she's decided to go spend the night elsewhere instead of talk it out then fine (who am I to force her to do otherwise?), but to me that says she's more interested in escaping the problem rather than solving it. So... no sense in continuing the relationship if one party is mentally checking out. Frankly if it weren't for the kids we'd have split long ago. At this point the biggest roadblock is cost and a desire to protect the status quo. She has worked for... somewhere around 6-8 months, combined, over the course of our marriage. I work in a highly skilled technical trade, and shoulder the entirety of our financial burden. She's a ""homemaker"", but rarely stays on top of meals/groceries/cleaning/etc. She has no marketable skills... her earning potential is effectively minimum wage. In my ideal world, my finances wouldn't change and I'd still pay for all of the things, we just wouldn't be together. Alas, we don't live in an ideal world. I'm comfortable with providing for her and the kids, whether by an amicable agreement or via court-imposed child support and alimony. But I rather enjoy the quality of life that I've established for us, and while some things will obviously change I'd like to protect as much as possible. General idea of assets: - House... half million. - Multiple motorcycles... ballpark $50-70k, would need to get some custom built ones appraised. - Thousands of $$ in tools/shop equipment... est. $20-30k, maybe more. - Multiple cars, couple cheapies and BMW I bought for her... guessing around $40-50k KBB values, and most of that is in the Bimmer. House is the only thing we have financed, and haven't been here long enough to build any significant equity (<$5k, probs). Almost all assets have been acquired during the course of the marriage, unfortunately. I would like to sell the house if we split. Ideally we'll split the proceeds from the initial purchase price and she can have whatever equity there is, as well as her car. I'll keep my cheap beater commuter car (paid $1k for it), the others would be sold and she can have the proceeds (a few grand or so). I would very much like to keep my tools and bikes. Those are my primary interests, as far as assets go. How realistic is this? Does the fact that the stuff I care about is owned vs. financed help my position? If I say basically all of this verbatim to a family court judge or whatever, would they view my position favorably or unfavorably? I also have a monthly disability stipend from the VA (amounts to ~1/4 of monthly income), and my 2 retirement accounts were established while in service and funded primarily with tax-free deployment money. My attitude towards continuing financial support for them aside, if it comes to a court fight can she legally touch this stuff? Thanks in advance for any advice. My parents split amicably without a lawyer when I was very young, so I'm not as up-to-speed on this stuff as I apparently should be.",5.441406789413115,6.719332110759495,5.8634004602991965,78.60812428078255,68.08227848101265,9.353049482163405,32.08515535097813,9.631235645658696,3.0297962025316454,2642,112,491,57,44,849,324,632,0.05,0.7759999999999999,0.174,0.9978,4,0,0,0,3,0,141.0,9,0,2,13,23,26,2,1,39,0,52,3,2,4,5,84,75,53,0,23,20,1,2,3,0,12,1,5,0,5,25,29,0,5,4,1,20,11,12,5,2,5,14,8,54,21,77,43,14,66,0,0,1,0,50,29,0,16,27,320,79,14,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683626982785527,0.06970069980837411,0.0,0.07873652938882754,0.0,0.0,0.0628803366463611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069421145347211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13999463876486354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092314456339287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16033693367460095,0.0,0.16636010651213878,0.1354654662660699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700253586248764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06880959260042853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124574975925808,0.08769317082617069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412531194732679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041080899649440526,0.0,0.1340616251310393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08661974653327045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270399304098306,0.08307685138397587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3629135865627785,0.0,0.08876363426569607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13977981152622626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08869800007187723,0.08325775588949601,0.0,0.0,0.05553865378437986,0.11524385452948492,0.0,0.06943167983604262,0.1391700496276304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899434587073625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0792404881271905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828500990204192,0.0,0.11560411009790438,0.058303106081976024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378887454166863,0.0,0.07544755053481335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065633680570708,0.059801614507658925,0.0,0.0,0.08730924597174787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0743307111500889,0.0886434458554135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523823581147368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844191318605975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31264843143960186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158174656038181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08380905670800076,0.06279397368821303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27003741650102897,0.0,0.17845665398998414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319976936973137,0.0,0.07239188683103072,0.0,0.0,0.1567147198319692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08736075934014925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945821394341792,0.0,0.08659977296055471,0.12975587478952014,0.0,0.06241278847098663,0.0,0.0,0.14139552285187915,0.07289074450045357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0757964586989526,0.0,0.11448706930415233,0.0,0.0,0.3351387310913696,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,blooominonion,2019/02/09,"How do I start the divorce process? We are in agreement how we are going to split assets, child custody, etc. We have agreed none of us would contest. Money is tight so do I really need an attorney, lawyer, or any professional or can I do it online? Where do I start? We are in the state of Missouri.",0.4535000000000018,2.891651683333337,2.2816666666666663,92.0625,90.5,5.0,20.833333333333336,6.6274283507984215,0.4598333333333336,231,8,48,3,8,76,43,60,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.7608,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,5,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,11,0,0,2,0,11,15,5,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,9,1,5,14,2,7,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,2,37,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2580454851763675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231976693362715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156555893250059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813644252625673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24309148452068224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5371668013041314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4564430798006618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695571551087003,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Badperson8757,2019/02/09,"I am planning to leave my husband I’ve considered it for years. I’m not happy for a variety of reason. He has been difficult to live with for many years but so have I. He did some incredibly hurtful things - forms of punishment - to our children in the past and when I learned of them i’m confronted him. He didn’t remember any of them. I have been deeply angry with him since that time and I can’t seem to let the anger go. The anger and resentment had caused me to stop having sex with him. I was never really attracted to him but I did it to please him. I stopped doing that. Just this past week he had an argument about sex and it got really ugly. I decided that night I would finally leave but haven’t told him. I have found a rental and bought some furniture. I’m making plans. But in the back of my mind I am terrified of being alone. I keep asking myself if I am making the biggest mistake of my life. He has stayed with me through some pretty dark times and we have children, two are grown and two are teens. But our home is not a happy one and is ruled by his mood and schedule. My children have felt the burden for as many years as I have. I am truly codependent. I went from and abusive home life straight to marriage. I wanted nothing more than to please him and finally have a stable home. But I am so tired. I second guess myself constantly. I went to therapy after a particularly brutal argument about 6 months ago. She really just wanted to help me find the strength to leave and help me set a timeline and strategy. My family desperately wants me to leave. I want to leave. But now he is being nice and I have tremendous guilt. When these feelings come I try to determine if I am experiencing Fear, Obligation, or Guilt rather than love and longing. It’s always one of the FOG. Things will be bad then they will get better just long enough for me to let my guard down. This it explodes again. I know I need to stick to it and leave. I am wondering if anyone else had these same emotions around ending their marriage and how they dealt with them. Things remaining as they are is not an option. I can’t do this for the next 40 years that I might have left. But I am terrified of being alone. 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Since my divorce was finalized last summer I’ve been a more sporadic lurker than active participant. So I’m most just seeing the ‘trending’ posts these days. However one fact I’m seeing repeatedly in these posts (again not scientific per se) is this: “Together for X years, married for Y” and Y is a quarter or less than X AND X minus Y is 2 years or greater. Looking at all my friends and acquaintances- married, divorced, co-habitating and single- I see similar patterns: long cohabitation leading to a short lived or failed marriage. Really I think that a key take away from this sub- especially for those coming here in the early stages of considering divorce- is that if you needed more than 18 months to decide to get married there’s already a pretty good indicator that divorce is the right, if not inevitable, conclusion. Yes I’m sure there are exceptions (unexpected or unplanned tragedy or career events) but generally speaking: if you didn’t want to put a ring on it earlier rather than later, your marriage was not a wise move.",5.769659863945577,7.7342095714285755,6.242734693877551,73.57845578231294,68.08163265306122,9.104217687074831,33.98503401360544,9.558583805096642,3.5128589115646265,860,41,143,19,15,278,134,196,0.053,0.877,0.07,-0.0026,1,0,0,0,4,0,25.0,0,3,0,3,8,5,0,0,11,1,10,0,0,1,3,31,23,14,0,6,15,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,1,0,3,4,6,7,4,19,19,7,27,0,1,4,0,11,7,0,9,13,90,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929827192504548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892334348297268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1643040613132289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15064230069633056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11278213352886456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608850585524313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19157079502354987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511065739849387,0.0,0.09136677277900222,0.0,0.0,0.1466797476041685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254927823941274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442087610976973,0.15476192598600189,0.14685385453387845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395863111098017,0.1858681175509368,0.0,0.12967015550192587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1991002754920794,0.0,0.0,0.23700432850594036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3349704302808855,0.17791425455318194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580114495606988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120316136966322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934524159087947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4180664514511028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14466126176911515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164820870418038,0.0,0.13148683122194432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11205505008580142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10314784131418717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252319775919264 divorce,dlnn12,2019/02/09,"Advice needed!!! I am a 32 yr old female. I was married for 7 years but together for over 10 years. We have one son who is 10 months old. For many weeks, I had this gut feeling that my husband was cheating on me. I put up a wall because I had my suspicions. He cheated on me once many years ago, we took a small break but ultimately chose to work through it. After many weeks of my suspicions, I finally found his text messages! They proved my suspicions and he was definitely cheating on me. He has moved out and we are currently trying to be civil enough for our son. I’m having a really hard time with this. Any advice anyone has to get through it? I am in need of any encouragement right now!",2.1217582417582435,4.131231000000003,3.7814285714285694,87.1328021978022,78.28571428571429,7.164835164835164,24.340659340659343,8.139509932561175,1.4286153846153855,540,19,113,10,13,180,90,140,0.17800000000000002,0.764,0.059,-0.9648,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,4,0,1,1,1,4,3,0,4,0,14,1,1,0,1,14,21,4,0,2,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,3,0,1,7,2,20,1,20,13,1,28,0,0,0,0,15,10,0,0,14,71,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3003082477890075,0.13620972931153488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089872341716064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10744217987451253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936693044757362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877116891000967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769477678390649,0.0,0.0,0.16832629081673828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847952978918154,0.0,0.0,0.080280660545855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764858249965492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673593440809417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264941529848432,0.16331555550830498,0.0,0.22787289996458654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3224792478555018,0.16364217700630432,0.10412354221323897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544700727903396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984381047510378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122423261349467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959999400503899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170721175180256,0.10432460208389722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24651250009265116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11186582604236613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29685472169732674 divorce,itsafarcetoo,2019/02/09,"Divorce in Paradise We are on a week-long vacation with family in a beautiful location. We’ve had an amazing week and leave tomorrow. Last night, we got into a fight out of nowhere and wife (31F) informs me (32F) this morning that she will be packing her bags and leaving once we get home. I said some nasty things last night so I’m not fighting her on if, but man, having to manage the initial shock and grief with my GRANDMA right outside of our door is pretty rough. I’ll be faking illness for the rest of the day. Wife is excellent at compartmentalizing and is going about her jolly day. I have never wanted to crawl out of my skin so badly in my life. Wish me luck, redditors.",2.5286969001148094,4.804312753731345,3.840447761194032,85.88761768082665,78.17910447761193,6.5111366245694615,25.233065442020674,7.61054688173877,1.4015804822043632,535,20,104,8,13,175,97,134,0.156,0.6579999999999999,0.18600000000000005,0.705,0,0,0,0,4,0,17.0,4,0,0,1,3,9,2,0,7,0,10,3,1,0,1,22,17,9,1,3,3,2,2,0,0,1,2,1,2,1,3,13,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,6,0,0,3,3,15,3,19,11,2,20,0,1,0,0,16,10,0,3,9,67,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1621293000336244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504556087861773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830523605218174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144922774198437,0.0,0.1103550024093704,0.0,0.15530071730012932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19477490167893813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3165595927864314,0.0,0.4112098376908379,0.0,0.0,0.13715263259409916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718401274073488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14976091815325396,0.0,0.0,0.3644430575806243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067916777269695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975473487760004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582570408809244,0.18470635539847413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12900226494894718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11453035415717253,0.0,0.3115134154739653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22329343794833634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lemurpiracy,2019/02/09,"Brother needs help with divorce I am trying to help my brother to move forward with his divorce, but we are at the very beginning. It has been a very long and horrible road to get here and I want to help him in anyway that I can. Now that he has made this decision he wants to move as fast as possible. He does not have a lawyer yet. We don't even know how to look for one. How do you find a lawyer that would be able to fit his needs? This is something so unfamiliar to us we are not sure how to start. We are expecting this to be a difficult process because of the STBX. He does not want any of their assets (there are a lot), all he wants are his kids and to move out of state (2 hours away) with them. He would be with his family and have plenty of support. He currently has no support or friends where he lives. He has been separated from everyone for years. I realize things vary state to state with custody etc, but there are many examples that what would be best for the kids is for them to stay with him full time. What is the best way to go about this? Any advice or direction would be appreciated.",3.1112723503498323,4.285398427312778,3.964783622700182,90.4200906970718,73.53744493392071,7.984348276755638,24.806685669862667,8.4952907291091,1.2839553770406842,861,26,197,15,17,276,121,227,0.053,0.779,0.168,0.9826,1,0,1,0,2,0,22.0,5,1,3,2,13,7,0,0,9,0,30,0,0,4,2,44,45,14,0,11,7,2,0,0,1,4,0,0,0,2,12,15,0,0,4,0,0,5,5,1,0,1,3,1,20,6,36,33,6,28,0,0,1,0,34,9,0,3,11,138,32,2,0.11890488963101944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619248199395472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1617188047429953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11171505791795874,0.0,0.0,0.07248331708378493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2495666916380635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2081089404040326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13261038302667233,0.07853555818256615,0.0,0.0,0.1136187175995396,0.0,0.0,0.11209294767994668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867691497904908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186562277259393,0.0,0.0621228972138706,0.0,0.06757638894156519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2390983233365094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11709736472050025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534701770970093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10499519598275377,0.1052270856047854,0.09985016032836684,0.0,0.0,0.10108868508520108,0.0,0.11251068156882543,0.0,0.12055089522546028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37913124029940903,0.0,0.17633293804603015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08057303049670952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340473972710126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09153879320527036,0.0,0.0,0.08416149288094382,0.1267367915476868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26986371933317765,0.11206645129566846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07899512518874886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933439735164025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807286149375177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14302794185320408,0.0,0.0,0.19621797334603894,0.2805327384953461,0.09438116682205994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378664881837159,0.0,0.0,0.0765708504724361 divorce,Perturbed-Bucket,2019/02/09,"Is it time for divorce? It seems like for a while I have just wished my husband would just disappear into thin air, like I never met him. This is in part because I’m a coward and can’t bring myself to begin a divorce. He’s in the military, is supposed to get out soon. I never really wanted him to go but he wanted the GI bill. So now the distance is taking its toll. But he entirely refuses to admit that the distance has anything to do with it. In his words: I’m the only threat to the relationship. Just me apparently. He is a saint. The latest thing, is that I’ve been a “total toxic bitch” to him for a week. And he felt nervous and depressed because he talked to some new girl for 10 minutes at work and she made him feel happy, like when he first met me. So now he actively avoids this girl because he could see it being a threat to our marriage. And he said it helped him realize that me being a “total toxic bitch” is why that happened, not distance or anything else. And it just seems like nothing is ever enough. He has a problem every five seconds. And, I shit you not, two weeks before all this happened he was texting me left and right about how much he missed me and couldn’t wait to come home. And now I’m dealing with the hurt of all this and the anger, and I try to talk to him about it. But he won’t let me. I have questions and confusion (like him saying he missed me so much, yet I’m a toxic bitch). I tried bringing it up last night, and he just hung up on me, leaving me in the dark. And then texted me and told me it was the wrong time to bring it up and that he “was trying to enjoy his time with me, but I ruined it all for no reason” so apparently I had no reason. I’m supposed to be perfect when he dropped a bomb on me 18 hours previously. And he’s been completely cold, because he apparently stopped feeling guilty when he realized it was all my fault. Everything is my fault, all the time. It’s exhausting... and I’m starting to hate him. Anytime I try to talk about my side to be heard, he manipulates me and turns it back on me. It doesn’t matter that I’ve been unhappy for months and months... because if I bring it up he will just say “oh so since I have a problem with you, all of a sudden you’re unhappy now” and completely dismisses what I’m trying to say. And I explain the difference between us is that I try to let things go, so I won’t bring them up right away. The whole pick your battles. Anyway, this just seems like a hopeless cycle of shit, with me being the villain time and time again. And i don’t know what to do to finally give myself the push to file for divorce. Because at this rate I’ve already wasted years on this. 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Pretty much non stop crying. Lots of anger. Lots of resentment and pushing away people who care. I’ve let my husband give me hope (he left 5 months ago and won’t come home, but won’t leave me alone). I set up an appointment to see a divorce mediator for this week, and when I told him he freaked out saying he doesn’t want a divorce, he loves me, etc etc. I cancelled and have been spiraling ever since. I know he isn’t the man I married and loved for ten years. I know he can’t give meet my most basic needs (support me and don’t lie). He is completely selfish, he wants everything his way. He has abandoned me yet wants me to date him until things feel better for him. He says my constant fighting makes him not want to come home. I can go a few days without starting an argument with him, then I completely lash out because even though this has been happening for 9 months now I can’t believe he has done this to our marriage and to me. He sees me in so much pain and only cares about himself. I have given him space, time, I’ve offered divorce, told him I want him to be happy, got him a therapist after he asked me to. You name it, I’ve complied. I’m so tired. I’m so depressed. I know I deserve better. Why won’t he let me go. Why do I keep taking his crumbs. Why can’t I move on. Why am I not good enough to come home to. Sorry for the vent, this is all over the place. I’m thankful for this sub and all of you who share your stories. Here’s hoping this pain only lasts so long. 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My STBX responds maybe to a third of my questions about issues involving our five-year old daughter, and I don't really ask that many. Our little one was sick last week and whenever I asked how she was doing, what her temperature was, if she'd eaten, etc., I mostly got silence. For my part, when the little one was with me, I sent my ex updates (that she mostly ignored) even though she never asked how things were going. This made things awkward and embarrassing at my daughter's doctor appt when I was only able to give partial information. When my daughter's school requested we attend a parent-teacher conference together my ex refused (even if just over the phone), she won't discuss with me some anxiety issues my daughter has displayed, and so on. There's no history of abuse, threats, cheating, or anything of that nature (from me, that is). Is anyone else going through something similar? How do you deal with it?",6.630289971808299,8.044432649214663,6.573507853403143,74.1024124043496,65.43979057591622,8.808860249697947,33.01691502215062,9.057496981413335,3.0310826419653645,840,35,137,14,13,266,123,191,0.14300000000000002,0.857,0.0,-0.9762,1,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,3,1,1,0,13,6,2,2,4,0,15,3,0,4,1,26,25,15,0,2,4,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,9,10,1,2,2,0,0,4,4,6,0,3,10,0,27,0,19,13,5,20,0,0,0,0,32,8,0,7,8,102,36,2,0.12390091321514934,0.14680232173269034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947838594778765,0.0,0.0,0.17326879871951262,0.25390225504287234,0.10195989453407917,0.0,0.3474918853869594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277364010539766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268178348069313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20700662874665146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818226996216906,0.1636707692825267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11885704592951385,0.14083148855566982,0.0,0.09909487886198153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3879610887862998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099578110494503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3725437949381853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1172380398829258,0.0,0.1256160789828594,0.12447512073924727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955600225205365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001316604231888,0.0,0.16791693075084518,0.09423222768910038,0.0,0.0,0.13757730144091215,0.13417261495615593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387973788570471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07937409766982935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12539433892779067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09538497624396194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16462852252423588,0.0,0.12173201815458752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223122935584372,0.0,0.0,0.0993858389933174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978812585954835 divorce,KiwiKetoMama,2019/02/09,"Advice Please: Tips to survive cohabiting Hi everyone, I am in the unfortunate position of having to cohabit with my STBX. It is awful. I won't be in a position to move out until July. I don't have family I can stay with and I also have two young children. This morning we had an argument (away from kids, but they could hear us shouting) and they started crying. I feel so guilty for doing this to them and so trapped because financially I can't leave. My STBX has now taken to insulting my weight and appearance (amongst other things) and it fucking hurts. After years of being rejected and emotionally abused to be called a pathetic, useless, fat fuck is just destroying me. It is only getting worse because I am now standing up for myself. I know I need to ignore it, but honestly its so hard to hear. Any advice or tips for getting through these next few months from those who have also had to cohabit would be appreciated. Thank you ",4.1636142322097385,6.2493088820224765,5.5447415730337095,76.44538951310862,72.53932584269663,8.791610486891386,29.84419475655431,9.3871,2.9909605992509376,743,32,131,18,15,249,119,178,0.297,0.637,0.066,-0.9951,0,2,0,0,1,0,21.0,2,1,3,1,8,10,4,0,4,1,23,4,1,0,0,21,36,15,0,3,4,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,2,12,10,2,1,2,0,0,2,3,8,0,1,3,6,21,2,26,26,1,18,0,3,0,2,14,5,2,2,9,105,33,0,0.0,0.17905909885276755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953563334334503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24171014181895295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027705760227591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198745620078304,0.0,0.0,0.18424950049758576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1543161129904124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066147761458727,0.0,0.16600435219813028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699959354047383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440696705900732,0.0,0.0,0.14246774602946835,0.0,0.0764136335474465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794263251222172,0.15791375507674033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353788346764748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3406590219641084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16178305795077366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305466593162278,0.0,0.0,0.1600201673279563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062699531905048,0.16062257371455962,0.0,0.11205770190779836,0.0,0.0,0.16072376772666316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493781279306405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16589050355950366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696746264054456,0.16107975929368568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391361287621433,0.0,0.0,0.10040111948068707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14762773125716638,0.0,0.1817854639101908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1840302417286124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400987599919205,0.10735527530211726,0.0,0.0,0.09731991801585044 divorce,sing4thelaughter,2019/02/09,"(38m) separated 2 years but cohabited with wife (41f) for 20 months. I left our family home and purchased a new home and we started our 50/50 custody of our children. I could really use some help on how to help our children acclimate to this now, totally confusing normal for them. Our custody is a 50/50, it works best for my ex wife who’s in Law Enforcement, but it’s really hard not seeing my kids on my off week, 5 days is just torture. I feel like they are not acclimating well or feeling very at home in their space in our new home. We did try to replicate every small detail we could between our residences. Struggling Here! Help. 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Newly separated. Married almost 10 years. I'm 29F he's 30M. We have 3 kids. I was the one who asked for the separation because he got a little too close with a coworker last year. It was an issue over and over. I forgave him multiple times even though he has blatantly lied. They would talk on the phone 4-8 hours a day, hang out until 2am without calling or texting me, not telling me he's with her or lying about being with her. Anyway, so we separated and it hurt me so much, I drove to his apartment today to tell him I wanted to try and make it work and the girl calls at 9pm :( He said it's not what it looks like, but it is. He even told me he told her we're separated and he hasn't even told any family or friends. That they've talked about me. That he needs space from me. Idk what to do. I miss him but I feel like I lost him already. It's my fault, I asked him to leave and now I can't take it back. I don't understand why she's latching onto a married man. I've confronted her before when I caught them at a bar together on a Friday night when he was supposed to be working, and he said even if we got back together, I'd have to be okay with them being friends but she will never wanna be my friend after confronting her that day. So it'd be his own personal friend. Should I be okay with that to keep my family together? He said they're not romantically involved. I feel so hurt. SO deeply hurt. 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Hi all. Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I am a 35 year old woman who got divorced 4 years ago. Prior to that, I was with my ex for 13 years, since high school. We grew up together in every sense of the word - university, travel, bought our first home and got married. In the last few years I started to feel restless and bored - my ex wanted to settle down, and I was still in party mode, and wanted to go out and socialise. He wanted to go bush walked and I wanted to go out dancing. Resentment started to build between us, I started developing feelings for a colleague. I felt like I was no longer in love with my husband and we split up soon after. I never had an affair. I now look back on my behaviour and feel like I made an enormous mistake. My ex was a wonderfully kind and caring man who only ever wanted the best for me, while I prioritised partying over his feelings. He moved on to get remarried soon after, and has recently had a baby. I try to be happy for him but my heart is broken, and it hurts even more knowing it was my doing, and that I immaturely ruined something so pure. Meanwhile, I ended up getting together with my colleague down the track. We have been together 3 years but our relationship is volatile and unstable. I feel myself longing for my ex and the comfort he provided me, and grieving all the memories we had lost. I blame myself every single day and wish I could go back in time and tell me immature young self how hard the path ahead would be. Has anyone been in a similar situation? I feel like after 4 years I should be feeling much better, but it never gets any easier. I find it hard to fully invest in my new relationship at times because I am still desperately grieving my ex. It feels like someone has died. I miss him so much it causes me physical pain and it’s made even worse by the fact that I was the one who wanted this. I don’t know how to stop blaming myself for my mistake, it has caused me so much unhappiness and I will have to suffer the consequences for the rest of my life. The majority of posts I read point to the ex as the problem, with the poster in a much better place for having left or been left. Is anyone like me, in that YOU were the one you screwed up and ruined a wonderful thing? I question what this means about me, and whether I am a bad person. I have no clarity on anything and am constantly torturing myself thinking about what could have been. Please can someone relate or offer advice. I am finding it hard to get through each day at the moment and am having horribly dark thoughts. I have been in therapy for years, taken medication, exercise daily, and do all the right things. I am tired of hurting and wish I could erase him from my mind but I dream about him almost every night. I think I’m still in love with him and I want to make it stop. Please help me. Sorry for the ramble, I am at work. 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We've raised 4 boys together (he had 1son & I had 3 when we met) He said he wasn't happy. No warning, nothing. He's been having an affair with our 23 year old neighbor. Ugh! Midlife crisis or not who I thought he was? We still have a 14 year old at home. I feel like I'm in the Twilight zone! What do I do now? I'm 46!! 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The choice I have. Had a huge follow up argument with the SO about the huge argument Fri night. It’s literally my choice to continue counseling with her (pick it back up) or just go the divorce route. I could end this relationship tonight if I wanted to. Words matter. Choices matter. 14 years, 2 little girls of 6 and 7. Most likely going to pick up some more sessions but I’d be lying if I wouldn’t start my 1-1 with the counselor (the individual you have after you have the first group session) with “I’m pretty sure that I’m done.”. Balancing / teetering at the edge of an abyss. I’d have the chance to start over. Financially ruined, certainly, but I could dig my way out of it. Oh dear grown up anons, why does this life have to be so fucking hard.",1.92625,4.216469152866246,3.5693590764331233,86.94919785031851,80.40127388535029,6.982324840764332,21.914410828025478,8.07648339933343,1.1482614649681526,615,19,128,12,16,204,100,157,0.09,0.767,0.14300000000000002,0.6997,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,2,0,1,5,7,1,0,11,0,13,2,0,3,2,26,23,8,0,6,6,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,1,7,6,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,0,1,3,1,11,5,22,14,3,25,0,1,0,1,7,10,1,5,11,78,18,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17101799788794567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35514932765210644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463071034910748,0.2276005682245195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19698744422227374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891801027695016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20561258128388984,0.0,0.0,0.2527991456203588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923385269344293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709332419183195,0.10865729821853927,0.22291121119860235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21044779559291246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087148103216164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262688591355577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23878292226628794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148430069685183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20961687642667906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13118198109011084,0.17653709164528705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006885965067389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432234385562875 divorce,Fall_On_Me,2019/02/10,"Creepy thing my ex did My ex broke up with me very unexpectedly a bit over a month ago. It was completely out of the blue, and left me and our two kids very confused and heartbroken. I know he has a new girlfriend, because wanting to pursue a relationship with someone else was one of the many very confused reasons he gave for leaving me. I saw on Find My Iphone that he'd spent a couple of nights in an apartment about an hour's drive from where he now lives. That was rough to see. Anyway, I remembered that about 2 or 3 months ago, he took me and our kids to this suburb for lunch. He said he read a good review of the restaurant, and it's a trendy part of our city so I thought it might be fun. It's over an hour's drive from my place too. Anyway, the food was pretty bad and I never saw the review. I think that what actually happened is that he took me and our children there to scope out the suburb where his fucking crush, now girlfriend lives!!! Maybe he'd hoped he'd catch a glimpse of her, or even see her and talk?? All I know is that knowing this, makes me realise what a terrible person he actually is. And what a creep. I mean his crush is so heavily on his mind that he takes his WIFE AND CHILDREN to scope her out. 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After many attempts to make my marriage of 6 years work, I filed for divorce and everything was set to go through last October. Two weeks or so prior to the court date he asked me to reconsider, and that he had changed and wanted to be the husband that I had been asking him to be all along. I cautiously after a long talk accepted. He moved back in and we began wearing our rings around Thanksgiving, and I just a month ago told my employer that the divorce was cancelled and we were trying to make things work. From then until January, things were really awesome and I saw a huge change in him and noticed all the little things he did to keep good on what he said. And I made damn sure I told him, and made damn sure he also heard me tell everyone else around me what an amazing man and husband he was. Come January, he developed a very serious drinking problem. I never argued with or tried bringing this up while he was intoxicated, and always approached him the next day with basically: “hey, last night while you were drunk you did X. I don’t want you to feel ashamed or embarrassed, but I do need to point it out because it made me feel. I’m not angry, but I do need and want us to work through this together so that Z doesn’t happen.” This continued on every weekend in January until my birthday. We had a nice day. Went out for breakfast together, and he got me a very nice gift. I felt a lot of relief because I was feeling really unloved and distant from his drinking and anger, but I kind of thought to myself that things must at least be okay between us if he’s acting so lovingly today. Wrong. I woke up to him being 14 drinks deep and lamps crashing in the house at 3am. I tried putting him to bed and quietly cleaning up the mess, which apparently triggered him to be verbally abusive. I told him that I was going to go to a relatives and that we would talk in the morning, to please stay at home and sleep this off and I’d be back soon. Instead the next morning I came back to a house void of all his belongings. He packed up all of his stuff and moved out that night. Communication has been distant and he won’t answer any calls. Only tells me that he is going “back and forth” if he wants to be with me. Whether or not he wants to work to save this or if he’s done too much damage. It’s fucking *bullshit*. There should be no question in his head if he’s willing to put in effort, the time to mull that over was last summer while we awaited the court date. Before I told my employers, my friends, my family that we were back together. Before he picked up the phone to ask for reconciliation was the time to decide if he wanted me or not. Not now, and not only three short months after being back together. I’m jaded enough to realize a marriage doesn’t always mean a lifetime commitment, but I’ve committed to shitty paint colors on my walls longer than he’s given this a chance. I have groceries that will last longer than his commitment did. Had he told me “hey, I’m getting cold feet about the court date coming up. I have no idea what I want right now, but can I come back for a couple months and fuck with your head and your emotions for awhile while I figure this out internally?” I would have told him to fuck right off. The worst part? He wants a pity party from ME right now. I’m supposed to feel bad for him for some reason I can’t figure out. I gave him every chance to come back and make this right, telling him that I loved him and wanted to be with him in spite of what happened and that I could forgive him if he was willing to work on this. Somehow I am the bad guy after the fact for saying I can’t imagine staying with someone who after 9 years still can’t figure out if they want to be with me or not, because apparently he’s having a bad night because of it. I should have never called of the court date. I haven’t regretted a single moment of the marriage, relationship and times we shared together because they were a significant part of my life that I still cherish. But I damn well regret cancelling that divorce and giving someone a chance just to be a temporary three month choice. 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Is anyone who is currently going through a divorce willing to allow me to interview them through skype or FaceTime? I understand that this is a tough subject to talk about, but i will do my best to be as sensitive as I can. That being said I will still ask personal questions about the situation. If unwilling to do it through Skype or FaceTime I will also be willing to do a phone call, but if all possible a video call will be best. Thank you r/divorce ",6.023286978508217,6.562202681415927,7.100404551201012,72.90840707964604,66.43362831858407,10.350948166877373,38.266750948166866,10.290406445055957,4.175324652338811,465,25,83,11,7,157,71,113,0.011,0.843,0.146,0.952,1,0,0,0,3,0,8.0,1,1,1,2,4,4,0,0,7,0,19,0,0,1,1,13,25,10,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,11,3,16,14,3,6,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,5,2,70,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807579033950856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15804700010659598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21130963548222184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4744137887638201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4616083848913429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128459332847348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19736263647916769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2548173924807953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532078425328701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21500842434976405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540697119772452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1805096415682821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18167615530707715,0.0,0.20810012134610087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23530753684932154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dibbly123456,2019/02/10,"feeling very lonely and afraid for what the future holds My wife had been an emotional and physical abuser for years. I have been moving out and back again because she completely looses it and I have to go back fearing for her mental state of mind. This is all power playing and manipulation of course but it has taken some time to really become strong enough to act on it. We have been together 18 years but have no children. I am also fortunate that we still have our first house that we have been working on and getting it ready to sell, so I have been staying at the house more often recently. I had to leave again yesterday morning at about 2am because of the manipulation, anger and violence. I have made the decision this time not to return. I'm done. I moved to the USA in 2001 so this is now my home but my siblings and other family members are all in the UK. I have no support system. So now I'm sitting here in an empty house (no furniture except a bed) and feeling very alone and fearful for what to do next and what the future will be. Hope I'm strong enough not to return. Just wish I wasn't so alone.",3.0460892140665585,4.907673179372196,4.279745102666983,85.28354024073639,75.05381165919283,7.205947604437102,24.29289591692235,8.032893268588372,1.3645748878923762,881,28,175,14,19,289,124,223,0.166,0.705,0.13,-0.8065,1,4,0,0,1,0,17.0,4,0,0,5,16,10,1,3,10,0,26,0,0,3,2,36,38,19,0,2,7,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,13,15,0,1,3,1,1,4,6,5,0,1,11,2,18,5,26,25,6,35,0,1,0,0,8,8,0,3,19,134,31,1,0.0,0.14915540510792874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607617498964978,0.0,0.1006717177532127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1935985290247537,0.0,0.15347898578584948,0.13903220346905856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13199003175108887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12882601760528184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416058316748484,0.0,0.26014966282422114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867497664171575,0.2833155484693155,0.1273044100027541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10707934272778898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06577071553887529,0.0,0.07154443294746593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262748365617797,0.1250341079224576,0.0,0.4357697823811881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332960627868756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11911723960768475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12686439801096344,0.0,0.1271098944272916,0.0,0.0,0.2675957290678949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13388215868021813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064637911229534,0.0,0.12429813812986655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13417869801686427,0.10053345024685513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285497549655765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681134106076102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077397720864098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476373567227974,0.0,0.0,0.09164717097651792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213408745746327 divorce,throwaway170964,2019/02/10,"My wife says that her feelings changed, and bailed on me over text This started on Wednesday Afternoon. I was in the middle of class and received a text message from my wife stating that her feelings changed and that she doesn't have the love for me required to make a marriage work. She had already packed a few things and was on her way to her mother's (all while I was in class). I've been with this woman for 10 years, and was married for 3 of them. She had a 2 year old when I met her, she's 10 now. I don't know where it all went wrong. I was under a lot of stress with school (engineering) and I admit, I wasn't as involved as I should be. I was in a rut and as you all know, you don't know you're in a rut until it's too late. (She says this was never an issue, she understood my stresses) Anyway, I immediately wanted to try marriage counseling, but my wife shot down the idea, stating that it was too far gone and she don't think its fixable. But here's the kicker... I asked where I went wrong and she told me that she had no issue with our marriage. How does one fall out of love without some underlying issue acting as a catalyst? I just can't wrap my head around it. Anyway, I'm living back home (30 years old), our old home is being packed up, and I still don't have an explanation for what happened. Where do I go from here?",3.3464806143472536,3.897584494661924,4.371489042891927,90.06283011799965,72.38078291814945,7.054579509271399,25.10975838171943,6.8360192770164,0.7292590747330956,1037,29,237,8,19,338,139,281,0.071,0.924,0.006,-0.9485,0,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,2,1,2,16,6,0,2,14,0,26,3,1,2,4,39,48,20,0,2,4,4,2,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,15,15,0,1,9,0,0,7,10,4,0,1,19,4,42,2,36,26,6,46,0,0,0,2,38,19,0,2,17,170,57,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852660676989133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368223926236264,0.1088829360829624,0.0,0.0,0.08955758961625107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464178417014185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192294085670274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.117780606751489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06619210380898395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10299328754929032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953095255770912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233656113992748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13147949731404449,0.0,0.3646906089846244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920252020386153,0.0,0.13138227787410936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10284439610919052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901790909335816,0.21023591608512807,0.0,0.07774406417375414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982819106066378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3666443522595872,0.0,0.07892251246888092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18524189074394248,0.0,0.11787300105240675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824374661142624,0.0,0.09301241621275384,0.0,0.2668300430161525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737693014965409,0.0746287305666325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129126707992107,0.0,0.07907490980200778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06869652418228342,0.09244779263510207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21593614378337406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11227210749497664,0.0,0.08479093068683331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546814708294469,0.0,0.22500694825213688 divorce,Iamth0r92,2019/02/10,"Having sex with wife while separated? My wife and I have been separated for 3 months now. She stood firm for a divorce in those months. But, now she is having mixed emotions about it. I really want to work it out, but I can only go at her pace. Anyways, I went over last night to spend time with our daughter. I took my daughter out to buy some groceries and bought her dinner. She fell asleep in the car on the way back to my wife’s place. I bought her inside and laid her down. As I was about to leave, my wife flat out asks to have sex. She didn’t sugar coat it or anything. At first I said no. As I was at the door, she takes her clothes off and we did the deed almost everywhere in the house. I love her and I wasn’t going to turn down sex with my wife. I really want to work things out, but I don’t know what to do. She’s having mixed emotions about it. Should I just give it a little more time? 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A few years ago, STBX and I befriended another couple. They went through an ugly divorce and we stayed friends with the husband. The wife and I had a falling out and she harassed me pretty aggressively for a long time via email, mostly. When my ex and I split, he reached out to the husband and asked if he could move in to one of his spare rooms. The husband and I are still friends, so he called me about it. I begged him to say yes to my ex. He was drinking a lot and being horrible to me in front of my kids and I was pretty desperate to get him out of the house. Ex moved in with the husband with the stipulation that he wasn’t allowed to drink on the property. My ex violated that after a couple months, so the husband evicted him. I found out today that my ex recently messaged the wife on Facebook, telling her they should sleep together to get back at me and the husband. Thankfully, she refused and told the husband about the message. I just... what in the f...? I mean, ok. I’ve always known that he didn’t love me. I’ve always known he was a vindictive person. I know he has issues with anger and substance abuse and this move doesn’t really surprise me. But it still hurts... I guess just due to the reminder that this is who he really is. The guy I loved so much just... doesn’t even exist. All the hopes I had for us were so useless from day one and I ignored every red flag because I thought if I gave him the life I thought he wanted, he would become the man I knew he could be. What a stupid, ridiculous thought process. I’ve been missing him lately and I needed this reminder that people are who they are... not who you hope they can be. I have feelings for someone else, but we’re not romantic currently because it’s too soon to be and we want to do things right. I want that for myself, for him and for my kids. I know it’s the right thing to wait. But then here’s my ex... propositioning my ex friend for revenge sex. And he wonders why I think he’s unstable. Sometimes I wish I could hate him even half as much as he hates me, but I know that in the long run that solves nothing and won’t bring me any happiness. I hope for good things for him... and I hope that he’ll stop trying to take pleasure in hurting people. His daughter deserves a father that’s above that kind of petty ugliness. I don’t understand why anyone is this way. 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If you live in US as permanent resident and if you get divorced later officially at your native country; do you also have to change the marital status in US? If yes, then how?",6.092142857142857,7.705169642857142,8.131904761904764,61.69642857142858,66.85714285714286,12.266666666666667,37.80952380952381,11.855464076750405,5.676752380952381,183,10,27,7,3,65,29,42,0.0,0.931,0.069,0.4696,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,3,4,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,5,3,8,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,7,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,2,24,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009733185997978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26585371891687537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129962678231175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22191222020780432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9068885818436132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,wastedtime666,2019/02/10,"Where are you in the process? How long has it been? It's been a year and ours still isn't complete but it's close. Are you dating? How are your kids handling? Who moved out? Who iniated and why? What would you do differently? 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I’ve been married since October of 2017. I’ve wanted to leave so many times but I just can’t bring myself to do it. Am I just being crazy? My husband works 6 days a week and I am a stay at home mom of two kids, so I should feel lucky right? My husband has never gotten me a present or anything for any holiday, anniversary, birthday. He’s never done anything special for me. He comes from a huge family that seems to be his only priority. We have spent every holiday and birthday with them but they didn’t acknowledge my birthday. My husband has punched multiple holes into walls during arguments. I suffer with extreme depression and serve anxiety. He always calls me mentally unstable and crazy. I have no friends and I stay home with the kids for weeks at a time never leaving the house. He is so lazy when he gets home from work, he never does anything I ask him to do. Put his dirty clothes in the hamper. His dishes in the sink. He is worse then our children. When I was pregnant he would leave me and our oldest at home with no car and no food because he wanted to go on a float trip with his family that I was too pregnant to attend, he couldn’t just stay home with me. He loves his sister and would do anything for her. I’ve never gotten that from him. He’ll spend our last 20 dollars on them even if I asked to be able to buy my mom something for Christmas. He won’t stand up to any of his family for me. He constantly goes behind my back and they all talk about me. He lies all the time and says that it doesn’t happen but I always catch him. I feel stuck. I have no where to go. No friends. No family that can help. No car. No job. No money. My heart hurts when I look at him. I just want to be loved. I know the family you come from is important but isn’t the family you create supposed to be the most important?",1.443210526315788,3.5529552157894737,2.9978947368421096,91.38026315789476,81.05263157894737,6.2105263157894735,21.315789473684205,7.3759095455046575,0.6749736842105261,1442,43,309,21,38,473,183,380,0.184,0.711,0.105,-0.985,1,0,1,0,1,0,39.0,4,2,4,2,15,9,0,0,15,0,33,5,1,0,7,52,58,23,0,9,10,6,2,0,2,6,0,1,5,3,7,20,2,0,5,2,5,11,20,3,0,1,9,4,54,6,43,37,3,49,0,3,1,2,56,14,0,5,20,201,61,3,0.07680037200141931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12780812370941488,0.0,0.0,0.10445377311587728,0.0,0.05875207436922355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2528006493655227,0.0,0.14359596106635727,0.0,0.0,0.05905474546504396,0.0,0.04681679393678426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07842176660980768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13231344021908714,0.0,0.08299391830153045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049529886404662486,0.0,0.06614804786813495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06720852308701594,0.0785934450770796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072592138537842,0.0,0.06470762578407928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4344033339892043,0.0,0.07766515135379971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286731467465824,0.0,0.11867155379347337,0.0,0.0802500491045667,0.0,0.0872948425473478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791431532373153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100881060105584,0.051477670470189335,0.0,0.3851851751850063,0.0,0.0,0.08861731787431178,0.08221638665059439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621251871960348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042207475948736035,0.06260255359026122,0.0,0.24396151455360385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644929698132397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13863066843599692,0.0,0.0,0.07786352291440325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739671133715638,0.0,0.0,0.17989533495139445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29616590740123233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841014366438485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772055862665095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06558709805910876,0.0,0.061074738356747524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991617424984413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06353006135271996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059124678493387574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24557693381659204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061729229868354475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13434874357877674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502280391487179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358965477063877,0.0,0.12320925178502508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182317101009837,0.0,0.07826614030878576,0.10911356151897576,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Citizen51635,2019/02/10,"Advice needed - How to choose a good divorce lawyer/attorney? I'd like to ask those who were looking for their divorce lawyer/attorney in the past how they chose the one out of those available? It's easy to find let's say 5-7 divorce lawyers in the area, review their web sites, testimonials etc. but that is probably not enough. I can schedule with most of them either a free or for-a-fee initial consultation but what should I ask them to find out whether they are good enough for the money they are charging? How these initial pre-divorce consultations go? I've never dealt with lawyers before so I'm just trying to prepare for a meeting with one or more of them... Obviously I cannot book 5 or so paid initial consultations, that would be quite costly. Please, any advice? Practical tips? Thanks!",4.731004415011038,6.652293529801327,4.790347682119204,83.13046633554085,70.65562913907284,7.417439293598234,29.139624724061807,8.07648339933343,1.9525757174392937,637,25,119,9,12,198,94,151,0.014,0.835,0.151,0.9656,0,0,0,0,4,0,24.0,0,0,8,1,6,5,0,0,7,0,10,0,0,3,2,26,18,11,0,3,9,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,5,0,0,3,1,4,1,3,0,0,2,2,2,11,6,18,12,6,10,0,0,1,0,19,6,0,4,4,76,19,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3437668274193571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961522700634453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3288777986237377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496744346317362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634949184626074,0.19617039705854947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3215312870071461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09996567951834884,0.29506622994362797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17986544991834374,0.0,0.0859338398821661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770823483735676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042456284902249,0.1356617427540435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.238383194799626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791251611336128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19308085066169609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18964550373269887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18708691495131324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987946007064822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16194128972267427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11942175329585117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249513831930609,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,tawnas,2019/02/10,"Today’s the Day No response to the served papers, and today is the day it’s all finalized. I feel quite strange about it all. Sometimes I find myself collapsed on the floor in the kitchen, wondering how I could have screwed things up so badly, what I had wasn’t “that bad”, and now I have to start all over again because I failed AGAIN. But then, on the good days, I can think clearly. I read over journal entries from the end of the relationship... and things were “that bad”. I now have a place of my own, that looks how I want it to look, I work at a job I love and don’t feel guilty about not being home in order to do so, I eat and drink and do what I want, and don’t worry about how he will view it or how he will judge me. I can express myself and not have him turn things I told him in confidence around to use against me, just so he can feel like he is superior to me. I’m good enough just the way I am.",5.179384615384618,3.7287508615384652,5.569871794871794,89.86096153846157,68.58974358974359,8.825641025641023,28.217948717948712,7.1686216300943375,1.1111948717948712,698,17,173,5,10,224,104,195,0.14400000000000002,0.736,0.12,-0.7170000000000001,1,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,0,3,17,10,1,0,11,0,21,5,0,5,4,33,36,18,0,3,6,0,3,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,12,9,3,0,6,2,0,0,6,5,0,0,4,6,25,5,23,28,5,27,0,1,3,2,10,12,1,2,14,124,37,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12510083586497348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3520081880627491,0.08566533291465585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11220117961691142,0.0,0.0,0.2718892421687221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376651753370559,0.0,0.14379651675937494,0.0,0.0,0.12446721359478585,0.14520429203622667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131674497694378,0.10039413184976294,0.0,0.15394293596831718,0.12844119828368994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357385528467596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096230643460456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945360712215651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06865549832068969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23601837140604146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12683314431768491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14682316719570584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494701667337984,0.14056728981097238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087583427383053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13898703205458815,0.0,0.0994673339508818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28008418917032224,0.0900454758678876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26641061478212896,0.13428173074985025,0.0,0.0,0.15285548153680004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213721610075864,0.0,0.0,0.16577559777572626,0.1115455859634514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15239798854082573,0.10230697541022768,0.14271428558916696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jbrin361,2019/02/10,"The big D Currently going through a divorce (26m). I filed for divorce about a month ago in AZ. So far nothing has happen on the court side of the situation. We filled all the paperwork out together and I thought that we would get something in the mail for a set court date or something. Everything has been mutual. She’s keeping one of the houses and I’m keeping the other. Is the best option to contact the court system or do I need to hire someone to serve her the papers even through we filled all the paperwork out together? 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I’ve recently learned my ex is labeling me as unfit to our children (10, 12,15). We went through a difficult 2 yr divorce.. If I attempt to address it directly with him he attacks me, attacks our kids for “tattling”and is very good at spin. Not sure how to handle this. My son(12) seems to be the target. He verbalizes to his dad that the mean comments he is making about is mom makes him uncomfortable. I am proud of my son for being able to verbalize his feelings to a bully. I wouldn’t be surprised if my ex was trying to create a Platform for reduced custody support. We are 50/50 but technically I have the kids 80+. If I address this directly with my ex my son faces the consequences with his dad and will possibly stop feeling he can confide in me. The story is consistently the same i’m a drunk”...which Is the furthest from the truth. Our divorce was two yrs and displayed a ruthlessness I will never forget. So the question is would you try to address this, or document it (if so how) or would you deal directly with your kids to acknowledge their hurt and empower them to speak up when ready? 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Tonight my daughter says to me ""I don't want to have kids."" I ask her why and she says because her kids will never know their Grandpa. She says her Dad hardly sees them so she feels when she has kids he will be absent as well. She is only 11 y'all. This hurt me to the very depths of my soul. We have been separated a little over 2 years. He hardly sees our children and when he does he visits them at my home because he does not have a car. He lives with his parents. They never see our kids except for holidays. Their Uncle and his girlfriend are having a baby. Tonight the ex text our daughter to tell her the gender of the baby. Later on I find out that they actually had a gender reveal get together type thing and our kids weren't included. The ex was there as were a lot of other people. I feel so pissed and sad for my kids! I hurt so bad for them. They deserve so much better. Thank you for letting me vent. 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Married 18 years. 2 kids 11-13. Relationship 30% terrible, 50% just basically nothing, and 20% good. Kids would never know we’re mostly dysfunctional. Outside world, no idea. But living life of treading water, and I can see the years slipping by with nothing to show for it except the kids. So do you stay 5-7 more years to avoid fucking up their high school years, or pull the plug now? Probably 20% divorce rate in our friend and family sphere. No stigma, really, but fuck it’s so uncommon i just don’t want to fuck up everyone’s life including my own. 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When they did this, they transferred $ to an account opened under their name only. I found myself needing money for legal expenses and want access to my money in ""our"" savings. Currently have no contact (court ordered) with spouse, am I legally entitled access to this account without them needing to be involved?",9.153750000000002,9.712411420454547,8.571727272727273,64.95509090909091,59.79545454545455,9.312727272727274,44.87272727272728,8.841846274778883,4.7721518181818166,407,24,52,5,5,129,61,88,0.026,0.901,0.07400000000000001,0.2732,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,5,1,1,2,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,14,10,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,9,1,2,0,0,0,3,0,15,2,14,6,0,10,0,0,0,0,15,6,0,0,2,43,17,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33814883228170545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31499489421728033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3305703361386831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3204382048585394,0.0,0.4471048870592639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585963921512959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778277498113341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906274586677973,0.0,0.2194897134597236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mommyshark6,2019/02/11,"(NC) child support, potential income Long backstory but basically I had to get a restraining order on my stbx after we'd been separated 1.5 years already. Prior we got along well enough so I hadn't filed for child support yet (turns out he was only ""playing nice"" to try and convince me to take him back!) He no showed for court about the restraining order so only got video chats with our kids, though he'd have gotten supervised visits if he'd shown up. Turns out he left the state. Thankfully I have a good relationship with his family and knew where he was living, was able to have him serve. About 2 weeks after he left the state he quit his job. He does receive 60% veterans disability a month but has not been employed since almost the end of September and I know as a month ago hadn't attempted to find a job either. I filed for child support through DSS my first appointment was early September. My case worker JUST told me we could use his ""potential income"" (what he was making before he quit) if we got the right judge but it was at best a 50% chance. Is there anyway to improve these odds? Or something that may convince a judge to do it? I work full time and obviously have the kids all the time, the marital home is about to go into foreclosure because I can't afford it on my own, applied for help with it and he wouldn't sign a stupid paper (told his mom he refuses because he wants me to end up homeless.) I realize I likely won't see the money either way, and I will by no means depend on it coming BUT it will eventually catch up to him. 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Now, how do I find a good one? I think I shouldn't have to chase down my lawyer when I am paying $325/hr - but here I was. Calling, leaving messages with her bitch of a paralegal/secretary, hearing same bullshit ""She's in court"". Meanwhile, this flunkie didn't know about tax laws, missed some important dates, and generally doesn't seem to give a fuck. Not only that, when I was feeling frustrated how she was completely uncooperative, she told me not to raise my voice (I was not, just talking strictly). To make matters worse, she was content to roll over and not put up too much fight with any of my stbx's lawyers' demands. Anywho, I am through the initial retainer and now is a good time to find someone that will fight for me. The question - how do I qualify good lawyer? Reviews online are unreliable, IMO. I don't know any people that went through divorce and had good lawyers help them out. So. Suggestions? 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Separated a couple of months, events before the separation left me feeling disrespected and emotionally manipulated (I know, everyone probably does). I had some of the classic warning signs of not being able to say no, slow isolation from family and friends, constant pushing of sexual boundaries, not knowing how to have a voice, and putting up with put downs and threats that were always phrased as lighthearted jokes, feeling like . I didn't realize how bad it was at the time and it has taken me a lot of time to identify some of the behaviors that I accepted as normal. I realize that I had some responsibility here as well. I did not try to speak up, did not try to outline or enforce boundaries, didn't want to rock the boat...so we never fought. I don't think he even realized he was being manipulative, it was a cycle. &#x200B; Here is the problem. I realized I have huge trust issues, not related to cheating but related to wondering what people's intentions are. I sometimes wonder if I am manipulative myself, why do I keep talking to people about his behavior, why do I feel the need to justify leaving him and make everyone understand? Why can't I let it go and move on? Am I trying to enact some sort of revenge trying to ""expose"" him? I really honestly don't know. I'm at the point now where I have gone on a few dates out of curiosity - I didn't have any real dating experience before I met my ex. But the problem is I am finding myself paranoid of everyone's intentions. Are they trying to take advantage of somebody in a vulnerable state? Or questioning my own motives, am I going on dates just to boost my self esteem? I can't stop over analyzing every single interaction. How do you learn to get past this?",6.296146934460888,7.159612261627908,7.762251585623679,67.26118393234674,65.91860465116278,11.254545454545458,35.11310782241015,11.115808304768276,4.326841860465119,1454,67,248,43,22,503,191,344,0.09,0.795,0.115,0.6955,0,1,0,0,0,0,46.0,1,1,1,2,13,15,3,0,15,0,36,0,0,12,1,69,60,19,0,6,11,1,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,1,10,10,0,2,21,2,0,7,14,6,1,0,16,6,39,9,44,41,8,37,0,0,0,0,18,15,0,12,15,182,49,4,0.1002331751687506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340203125265057,0.10860260341836303,0.12179427889776905,0.06816199625678357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008536661539473,0.10270073296901784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08369051452338296,0.0,0.0,0.17058209909284322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10831645386957947,0.0,0.0,0.11090610185876157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0877147270496215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08373195621337302,0.22549766209659336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06620306687737065,0.0,0.08445077310106934,0.2873312828162915,0.0,0.0980472785534114,0.09449091702495163,0.0,0.15204271510577586,0.07160660036809081,0.0,0.0,0.09161130622716386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07743990249623534,0.0,0.05236769705392976,0.0,0.11392964664565836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461739347971633,0.0,0.08909185152619346,0.0,0.0,0.16525659524626926,0.0,0.0,0.10613245997572844,0.10890363809915993,0.1024952126154353,0.0,0.0489688664142113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08521466115620795,0.0,0.0,0.06690642274850182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0800051641394257,0.10653200256328413,0.0,0.07432162933767764,0.07730600386938513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820723014721973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09568390731874776,0.13897812625655578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09475274875982484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10806831570748444,0.19181922370100973,0.0,0.20152405126668188,0.11228409562877062,0.0,0.0,0.11408729717672472,0.06421193863023726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07970944395926041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10456506174424456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099133173197547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379942258555942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07536287355433906,0.08056362943544727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12845074281981786,0.0,0.0,0.1168935409894822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402587323058202,0.0,0.0,0.10434627026344892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05912012366654986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09012166199712296,0.0,0.271334550950134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739720561903653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179427889776905,0.0 divorce,Kieferdog,2019/02/11,"Divorce - Vaccines - Medical Decision Making - Children I am the father to three girls with my ex-wife. My ex-wife was not an anti-vaxxer when we met, nor when we got engaged, nor when we were first married. Everything changed when she saw the movie ""Vaxxed"" in the spring of 2015, after our third child was born. My now ex-wife then and there became a militant anti-vaxxer from that point forward. There were many other issues of course that led to the breakdown of our marriage. However, the kicker, the thing that caused me to file for a divorce was her adamant and stubborn refusal to vaccinate our three children (ages 12, 10 and 4). That issue and the constant back and forth over it and the ongoing medical issues for our children was the straw that broke the camel's back in our relationship. After 4 marriage counselors and trying my best to hang in there and work things out, I eventually called it quits and sought out legal representation and filed for divorce in June 2017. Per the advice of my lawyer, I requested that the court appoint a ""custody evaluator,"" and I asked that the court appointed custody evaluator make a call, a recommendation as to the medical decision making for my children ... this is legal custody ... legal custody only as it relates to medical decision making ... not physical custody. My ex-wife and I agree on religion and education for the kids ... but we do not agree at all on medical decision making, most notably on vaccines and some other medical/health issues (she is a big fan of very costly out of network holistic doctors, vitamins, natural remedies, organic food, vegetarianism, on and on, etc.). In November of 2017, interviews were conducted by the custody evaluator, a clinical psychologist, with me, my wife at the time and my three kids, separately. In March of 2017, a recommendation was made by the clinical psychologist. She recommended to the court that I get full legal custody of my kids, only as it relates to medical decision making. The soon to be ex-wife fought this recommendation as well. In September of 2018, we finally settled all issues (custody, visitation, support, all property, the house, maintenance, etc.). However, my ex-wife refused to mediate with me and she refused to budge one inch on the vaccine issue. She wouldn't agree to slow the vaccines down, and she made it very clear that she will not, under any circumstances, agree to vaccinate the kids, no matter what I say, her family, her brother and sisters, parents, my parents, our pediatrician, other doctors, friends, etc. Everyone is wrong, and we will all see in due time that ""Vaccines are harmful. It’s not a conspiracy."" (her words). Eventually we went to a final hearing. The final hearing took 6 days, and it was a final hearing based only on medical related decision making. The 6 days were spread out from September of 2018 - December of 2018. We were granted a dissolution of the Marriage and became legally divorced in November of 2018, pending the judge's outcome on legal custody ... again legal custody only as it relates to medical decision making. After the 6 days of hearings, we submitted our findings of fact and conclusions of law to the court on January 31st and we now await the court's final decision on who gets to make the medical decisions for our children. When that decision comes, who knows ... weeks ... months? I am down $100K in attorney's fees with this legal battle. I crap you negative. If any of you parents, husbands, wives, spouses, etc., are going through this, I sympathize with you. It is a terribly frustrating road trying to reason with someone who is irrational, rigid, controlling and dismissive, and with her own confirmation bias on full display. I hope each and every night that this fight was worth it ... that the judge has common sense and can see that the benefits of vaccinating my/our kids far outweighs the risks of not vaccinating my/our kids … that it is in my children’s best interests to get them vaccinated versus not vaccinating them. People who are so deeply anti-vaxx live in a bubble where they believe anything from any source that supports their position and they dismiss outright anything that doesn't. You're never going to get an adamant anti-vaxxer to agree with you about the safety and efficacy of vaccines. My advice to anyone struggling with their spouse on this issue ... seek the constant and necessary support of friends, medical practitioners and family throughout this ordeal. You will need them when the excrement hits the fan. Hang in there and good luck. I anxiously await the court’s decision as to who gets the authority on medical decision making, specifically as to relates to vaccines and my three beautiful children. Frustrated in the Midwest, Divorced dad of three &#x200B;",8.298362989323845,9.032681186239623,8.314462870699884,65.48153060498223,61.57413997627521,11.678756820877814,39.991672597864756,11.368139846972461,5.0505044555160135,3812,195,588,104,50,1238,339,843,0.07200000000000001,0.8059999999999999,0.122,0.9895,5,0,0,0,6,0,164.0,18,5,7,7,20,28,7,3,58,0,32,18,1,16,7,121,72,53,0,4,10,12,0,0,2,4,16,5,0,15,46,59,1,6,16,0,3,10,14,14,1,8,20,8,72,14,118,46,16,96,0,1,3,0,102,46,1,5,42,418,118,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478756768539046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05254989068995696,0.05893298909312985,0.09894529246333668,0.0,0.0,0.054791362842216855,0.0,0.0339124315502534,0.0,0.0798229795511043,0.0,0.04534109185474364,0.0,0.0,0.0745872409977245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054643058974411525,0.10179582736210367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904814862093277,0.0,0.0,0.049823012540858434,0.05130672627489873,0.041778583478531466,0.0,0.10482286117659932,0.05439704064931464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09383575049124283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928391433482196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21636194427071867,0.0,0.0,0.04086346694699194,0.04634397036700682,0.04358880620842815,0.0,0.09144324729908666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656477103358186,0.04432825711973341,0.04125420157967389,0.058646572141694824,0.0,0.07494218891865,0.0,0.12669662923584593,0.0,0.05512750421379365,0.040679623529142984,0.038789999367718285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515533899386529,0.21865276919370666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04817159090788037,0.0,0.05596265967123437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543508804585821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026654413254202414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04282651973289418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178402648365247,0.3237422576644541,0.04917153822960869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5374467690784439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03871235585359835,0.0,0.0,0.035962245606113004,0.037406304500493086,0.0,0.0,0.045514103923298375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03286495585067732,0.14754619388838106,0.0,0.0,0.16156102607496514,0.0,0.0,0.03362389626583377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045848317012443164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158587798340875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04986623039695619,0.0,0.05207100886798506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03856926477978093,0.0,0.0,0.07729667811669215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04109401847684288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050702885774899537,0.0,0.0,0.1651121814627537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644426872302633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05656165329385328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388544959010697,0.06585683446314458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08003540379916955,0.0,0.0,0.038903893682340436,0.0,0.04360745817945368,0.04496012360734418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03530868577783039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05302729875772555,0.05893298909312985,0.0 divorce,mythrowawaynoe,2019/02/11,"Is it possible to exit a marriage without destroying the kids? My wife(41/f) and I(42/m) have extreme marital problems including a DB nearly the entire 17 years. In the last 8 months I fell in love with another woman(31/f). I'm 90% sure that my wife is not aware of my cheating and I hope to keep it that way. I am now looking to exit the marriage and fear destroying the kids ""happy"" life. I say ""happy"" because my wife and I do a very good job shielding the kids of our issues. I would love to hear stories or advice on the best way to make this change. I'll answer all questions I can to any pertinent details.",3.5392114695340524,4.622773064516132,5.009139784946238,83.68926523297492,72.38709677419354,7.769175627240144,30.71326164874552,8.167268648758528,2.212273476702509,476,21,95,7,9,160,82,124,0.071,0.727,0.201,0.9541,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,1,0,0,1,1,13,3,1,10,0,7,3,0,1,2,17,15,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,3,5,5,0,1,2,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,0,3,12,8,14,14,2,13,0,0,1,2,13,6,0,3,4,57,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17022649336378184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11846216110528775,0.18266417794622594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10619087124061746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281244211720216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18428079363191735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.196023740800246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461109264393986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3708788655953136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19633637128269613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17302017976070472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818198292509082,0.17286689415777734,0.15483720912316964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14199647495327627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12304280649023287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14628435818587318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31444510022975003,0.0,0.1162800367634878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13904499815168508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1963846368577741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16668613765033904,0.0,0.0,0.1951441764678831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853105117905165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418169833722301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437334712386213,0.0,0.2765441411009237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16792284949051348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374687785661108,0.0,0.0,0.11217926621520513 divorce,EvenOutlandishness0,2019/02/11,"Would it be rude to reach out to an acquaintance who I suspect is going through a divorce and offer him help? I'm facebook friends with this guy because his wife(I suspect STBXW) is a former coworker. We were good friends when we worked together and I attended their wedding. He's a good guy but I've never hung out with him outside of the circle of his wife and other coworkers. Lately he has been posting often on social media and he rarely ever posts on social media. All signs lead to they are no longer together. All pics of his wife are wiped, they're no longer fb friends, and posts cryptic stuff like ""new beginnings."" He also posts alot about his new interests and hobbies which leads me to believe he's working on himself. I'm pretty sure they are split because his wife posted a pic of her left hand with no ring on it. He hasn't made a social media announcement nor should he but I haven't heard from the horses mouth if they are split. I feel for the guy because he reminds me of myself when I was going through separation. I'd post a cryptic message about sunsets while I took a picture of the sunset on my run. I really want to reach out to him and tell him I've been through the same. Just let him know if he needs someone to talk to who can relate, he can hit me up. Would I be overstepping my boundaries as an acquaintance to offer him someone to talk to that has been through the same?",4.677492481203007,5.584894907142856,5.07593984962406,84.9185338345865,69.57142857142857,7.75187969924812,29.73684210526316,7.85451343220497,1.8636071428571424,1114,42,220,13,19,354,147,280,0.048,0.826,0.126,0.9645,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,0,4,4,8,9,1,0,16,0,23,2,2,3,5,42,36,17,0,7,5,3,2,1,3,3,0,2,0,3,9,15,0,0,4,0,0,7,7,1,0,0,8,4,33,8,38,21,5,33,0,0,0,0,53,10,0,4,11,146,42,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08299372474553557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18979202379004198,0.0,0.0,0.11692578413925735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09387596527347923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052474852910335934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24054310928664155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796240508527378,0.17409336039778514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30827887787518105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06956229760718212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703538983750672,0.0,0.11706962456077875,0.0,0.11275849132287917,0.10612322732332456,0.0,0.05070221339741145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820020574877604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076952386008851,0.0800423982032219,0.200464906186968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5963617553958149,0.10558270975968786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664848434013768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31737534933119305,0.17586681360895498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11880455381000732,0.0,0.0,0.09781247808047316,0.0,0.0,0.16683066735318938,0.09070927384825564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153046437237372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06121279387739417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110778382420986,0.0,0.0,0.14744626106882666,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Jcon1212,2019/02/11,Dividing student loan debt We live in a common property state and have agreed to divide student loans (currently in my name) that were taken out during our marriage. Aside from her taking a personal loan for half the amount is there another way to divide the debt?,5.470625000000003,7.825428145833335,5.560833333333335,76.56750000000002,69.625,8.966666666666667,28.66666666666667,9.516144504307137,2.9924416666666667,213,8,34,5,4,67,40,48,0.1,0.858,0.042,-0.4404,3,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,4,0,7,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,2,22,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.535312055051686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.45078783697334995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4457558153143595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838384144050989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052174163256553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,just-some-random-grl,2019/02/11,"Homeless or leave state Child support isn't being enforced yet and I can't afford to keep living here. We are 8 months after filing. All my family and closest friends live out of state and they said I could live with them until I was able to afford living on my own, but then I would be removing the kids from the state. I've tried government assistance and I've tried working more, but my pay only covered the child care expenses I had. There is no custody agreement yet, but the kids are with me most of the time. He makes very good money but only pays about half what he should be.",3.708717948717952,5.1913797008547045,4.204786324786326,88.07076923076927,72.5042735042735,6.90940170940171,24.11111111111111,7.3871296695380915,0.9674034188034186,463,13,93,5,9,146,80,117,0.048,0.8140000000000001,0.138,0.9168,2,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,2,1,5,5,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,1,1,20,18,11,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,1,8,0,1,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,1,3,1,12,5,12,9,4,14,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,7,63,13,4,0.18652987181173672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19017963587634928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14892892456786228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758437624106384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14411251625439478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645240662585874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579632059617905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750820146131534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6588371767817375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12451013786252654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14888636408134698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2837287457415306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743262300380502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21167188805297135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876706828691744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532830776356212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15390667923317775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579596823899556,0.0,0.0,0.13250546913158484,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Sarcodude2018,2019/02/11,"Threats after threats after threats. 2 months since we sepereted. For the past month she had ended every converstion/ email with "" papers will be here soon"" "" ill let you know when the papers are here"" "" cant wait for you to sign the papers."" By now she could have def had papers drawn up and signed and served me multiple times. Has anyone else experienced these threats. I dont think she truly wants to divorce but she swears she does. Anyone have similar experience. I have 2 young children. I also caught her with another guy once i moved out about a month ago.",3.304155844155844,6.018944714285716,3.079393939393942,89.98636363636366,78.04761904761905,6.103896103896104,21.926406926406926,7.348242739294969,0.7853809523809523,445,13,85,6,11,133,76,105,0.11,0.877,0.013,-0.7847,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,2,0,0,7,4,4,0,4,0,13,1,0,0,0,14,18,5,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,6,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,3,1,14,0,12,11,0,17,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0,13,53,15,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17917518635676816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616425095840208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119499083960011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826666303339159,0.2071050743051897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138358039065687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688447334403698,0.0,0.2368937138542204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688528651350613,0.0,0.17902632253741108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703024227052403,0.0,0.0,0.1977209735820651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001395150628367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108482691558526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20669062440917213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4840123819435616,0.21483116691489976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21526081660342014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929550273125928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672032195878026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295161186643165,0.0,0.0,0.11786306091762147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11922093690009533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ashcams,2019/02/11,"Will it just be this bad with the next person? No sex, no love, no idea what to do. Hey, I’m a 37F with 3 kids, 4 through 11. Common law only. Last year we moved to a small town and he bought a house. For financial reasons I didn’t go on the mortgage. We haven’t had sex once in 5 years. Since I was pregnant the first time, 12 years ago, he’s pushed me away. I’ve always wondered if he’s gay. He was raised in a hyper religious, loveless home. I was raised in divorce and ignored most of the time by a bipolar stepfather, and now I’ve chosen an unavailable partner. I try to kiss hello or goodbye sometimes, or initiate a hug. It always feels like kissing or hugging someone who doesn’t want to touch me, and it’s stiff and weird and I always feel rejection and shame afterward. I wouldn’t even have the guts to initiate sex at this point and honestly I can’t even remember how to do it. There has been violence and substance use and hostility for as long as we’ve been together. Our first was an unplanned baby and we were not emotionally prepared to be together or be parents. We did some counseling. It’s mellowed and we have fewer blowout fights and less drinking. Generally it’s less volatile but it’s also just less emotional in general. Now it’s just cold and quiet a lot of the time. It’s like autopilot. With the occasional snarky comment or bickering. Sometimes a big fight. We separated when our second was 2. Lived apart, just a few blocks so we could co-parent. It lasted for a few months but saw each other more and more as time went on until he eventually moved back in. Then we decided we needed another baby. I know, I know. I hate to think that my precious third child came from my unwillingness to leave and fix my life, but the truth is she did. I have convinced myself for years that it isn’t that bad. That others go through this? Is this that abnormal? Do others recover from this? Last year we did some counseling and the tension mellowed a bit, but only to amiable roommate level. He doesn’t even look me in the eye most of the time. I live in this codependent angst wondering each morning, or when he comes home or when I come home, how it will be? Will he be in a good mood and be nice to me? Will he be distant and cold? Will he be annoyed with his life and passive aggressive? I spend every day with a pit in my stomach. I have this feeling in my gut now that it’s actually time to leave. I am willing to do counseling again, willing to take my time, willing to separate in house. We don’t sleep in the same bed most nights and haven’t for a few years anyway. I am willing to do almost anything if anyone has ideas. I am terrified of losing time with my children. Terrified because I don’t make even a quarter of what he does. Terrified because I’ve been pretending it’s not so bad. Terrified of the judgment. Terrified of giving up the dream of a family home. Terrified to give my kids a broken home like I had. Terrified that I will have given up when i could have fixed it. Terrified that it will be the same no matter who I’m with and I could be with the father of my children if I could just figure out how we can fix this. Does anyone have any advice about steps to take before divorce? Does any of this sound normal? :( ",2.4790611980851303,4.4520358213740465,3.890500711605643,86.94296286712385,77.04580152671755,7.249838271445206,25.605511709147358,8.17336443882689,1.6102720921205846,2553,95,523,46,59,841,281,655,0.16399999999999998,0.757,0.079,-0.9967,5,0,1,0,4,0,75.0,14,0,0,3,28,30,6,2,35,0,69,19,5,6,1,113,99,51,0,11,21,2,4,3,1,12,4,2,6,7,40,48,1,3,14,3,2,10,16,15,0,5,20,11,54,14,70,53,19,73,0,2,3,9,48,25,0,19,41,360,94,0,0.0,0.0,0.06808602895212079,0.0,0.0,0.06817901069104047,0.061847416175392814,0.0,0.06986516512323172,0.0,0.0,0.05579551368218918,0.17416415422126902,0.0,0.0,0.09489278418278918,0.07316054448969575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09757043416909073,0.0,0.0574152487409407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555176374091909,0.0536492751694784,0.17476657893562506,0.0850630052060436,0.0,0.05936963118599016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07617141121617592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07979896509759926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020236658434055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228245476005085,0.0,0.0,0.044996257013920016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18317013410703092,0.0,0.0,0.06834861389059912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696504033159084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843312603042456,0.0,0.05878472921890055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0657735005493638,0.0,0.10583431635969597,0.049844121709655985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186936523104576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338606103476406,0.0793044655737467,0.05852025862097141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06888401058821163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499279404554582,0.0,0.0,0.161011780983266,0.0,0.157525001750737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07668818055352516,0.17061702310768442,0.0,0.1477539563443025,0.0,0.0,0.09856205874165157,0.10225915453269456,0.0,0.12321741418327738,0.06174477445803215,0.05858972139767201,0.07805544087952274,0.0,0.05931645854269413,0.06297067931868347,0.0,0.046572408988712566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055690217358001684,0.14831018577734206,0.0,0.05173400663241002,0.0,0.0,0.07420181142389165,0.06547497005681614,0.06836036213230898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430339870955985,0.0,0.10612735167893474,0.0,0.0,0.07747198071784166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06092098589989354,0.0,0.0,0.06595575711221392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717357843096121,0.0,0.0,0.07903647476760872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05771495103748105,0.0,0.06982097506628973,0.0,0.059116392444413725,0.0,0.13800979029650545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049175976103401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04470617530992155,0.0,0.0,0.3254703255957833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047369649106766415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060259386220693587,0.0,0.0,0.041152500249663694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467803369044732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513264520381151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2695798253067989 divorce,anonoless,2019/02/11,"Having a hard time I get divorce is rough. I’ve been unhappy for years. I don’t feel the same way I did way back. I’ve tried breaking it off before we were married but he guilt tripped me back into it. He has been verbally abusive, I’ve had zero privacy, he controls everything, he’s never been the affectionate person I needed, etc. there’s a long list. I told him I wanted a divorce because I couldn’t live a lie anymore. I told him I have been staying for the kids. I thought I could. I don’t feel it anymore. But he’s continuing not to accept it. He still wants to make it work. I don’t. I can’t. I hav been planning to leave for almost a year. I have always put in so much effort getting nothing in return. I don’t wanna make it work. I don’t even feel it in my gut. I need to leave. I will never be happy with him. But he isn’t accepting it. It’s so hard for me to talk to him about it because he always disregards everything I say and still says things like “can we try to make this work” or “is this what you want” or “I don’t know why you think this is the best option” etc. it’s like he didn’t hear me when I said I can’t do it anymore and I don’t want to. He has been like this for close to a week. I told him I’m just not emotionally stable enough for a relationship and he says “well how can you be emotionally stable to take care of our children”. That’s a completely different thing. I have been a sahm for four years. I think I can take care of them 🤷🏼‍♀️ I don’t have a job other than 4 hours a week at a small shop and it doesn’t pay the bills. I am struggling to move out. I have a place to go when I do move out but he is making it so difficult saying it’s just not going to happen. I feel so stuck. Again. Like before when he guilted me into staying. I can’t stay. But he isn’t accepting it. What the heck am I supposed to do? 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We never really let go of each other and have reconnected in ways we didn’t know possible since then. We are now at a crossroads of making the decision to make it work or let go. I know in my bones the decision is being made today to let go and move on and it’s breaking me apart. ,3.5810126582278485,3.687561025316459,5.209974683544306,85.85116455696203,71.65822784810126,8.851645569620256,24.66075949367089,8.841846274778883,1.4087853164556965,287,7,66,5,5,98,58,79,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,4,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,10,1,1,3,1,19,19,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,0,0,4,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,5,0,8,0,11,10,2,23,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,1,8,47,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16308201208754008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18826946278639548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136703021663021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20221479831161301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5643781975673867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408081943703346,0.2456083903037796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910708806501275,0.0,0.0,0.14189223090396502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20740324771799395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785857199793873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521853445911799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17438601311874727,0.17579521506154566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14603014247813406,0.14757299174969793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13393539570949636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11847334145850195 divorce,8619229,2019/02/11,"MA or NH? Which would be the better place to file for divorce I have the opportunity to find an apartment in NH or MA, I currently live in MA. Which state would be better for the divorce process?",1.9226923076923088,4.23171094871795,3.3407051282051263,88.47721153846153,80.53846153846153,5.951282051282053,25.134615384615394,7.1686216300943375,1.0598153846153844,153,6,32,2,4,50,24,39,0.0,0.655,0.345,0.9503,1,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,5,2,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,2,1,21,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6311659860286725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32613187243937825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315083289487894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728065065949788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506956930306288,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway2456432,2019/02/11,"I’m the one who left - huge amounts of guilt even though I know it’s the right thing to do. Throwaway account - Over the past few years, I knew my marriage was in trouble. I repeatedly attempted to make my wife hear me and my concerns. I was either not clear, or she was in denial but I was never successful in getting changes in the marriage. After years of trying, I told my wife I wanted to separate and I moved out. We started counseling (again) and I was doing it for a few reasons. I though maybe it would give me some clarity, I figured I owed it to her, and maybe it would give us closure. She now gets what I was trying to get through to her but for me, it’s just too late. I have stopped the counseling now and need to move on. I have a huge amount of guilt for being the one to end things. I know it’s right for me but I hate seeing her so hurt. I care about her but I just can’t go on. I have always put everyone else needs before my own and this time I need to do what’s right for me. I’m struggling so much with doing what I know I have to for me. 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While watching the news with my boyfriend (of a year) yesterday, there was a report on a local sportsman charged with domestic violence. My boyfriend then shared the following. He learnt his wife was having an affair. He confronted her. She confessed and during the following argument she yelled at him to hit her. He refused. She kept demanding she hit him. He said that he eventually did. He struck her across the buttocks with a belt several times. He said he regretted it. He said he knew how much it hurt as he’d been hit that way as a child. He said he feels she manipulated him at his moment of anger to do something as awful as her cheating. Obviously learning his wife of 20 years was having an affair was challenging emotionally. But violence? Red flag obviously. We don’t live together. Dated a year. Were friend for two years prior. He was divorced 4 years ago. He’s 50 and I’m 40. We have had a couple of disagreements and I am now seeing them in a different light and worrying. He once pushed folded washing off his dining table during a disagreement. I wasn’t in the room but heard it fall. I ignored the behaviour and simply refolded the washing and placed it back on the dining table. Just folded it to pass the time as I gave him space. He pushed it off again. Neither time did he say anything to me - just pushed the washing off. The second time I left the clothes on the floor and went home. He apologised the next day. It was only a small disagreement so an overreaction I thought. He once texted f*** you during a disagreement. I didn’t see him for two weeks. I agreed to date again, but said if he swore at me again it was over. He’s never sworn at me again (6 months has passed). Can I possibly trust my boyfriend not to be violent after learning he hit his ex? 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I'm a very private, reserved individual in person. I dont like talking about my issues, and I generally don't with my family or my friends. My wife said she wanted a divorce and moved out almost 4 months ago and I still havent told my family, or any of my friends. And I just feel so overwhelmed and I feel like I just need someone to tell me it's going to be okay, eventually. 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About 5 or 6 years ago, my mum started saying really mean things about my dad and I hate it. Not only that but she has been getting really mean and angry with me. She will make fun of me because I wear something other than shorts and a t-shirt or says that the video games that I play are dumb and childish even though she won't let me play more mature games (she even got mad at me because she think Super Smash Bros. is too violent). She will also sometimes go into a rage where she yells and slams doors and ignores me for days. I know that if I tell her that I want to live at dad's house she will lose it. I've talked to my dad about this and he is fine with me moving in with him and thinks it would be better for me. TLDR: My mum is toxic and would get mad if I moved in with dad What do you guys think I should do? 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I (29M) have decided to go through with the divorce against my wife (36/F). Not sure how I will break this news to her though. We've been talking sparingly here and there and I have expressed interest in seeing her again but we are states away now. We've been separated for little over a year and have only seen each other twice in that time frame. I want to see her and possibly pursue a relationship with her again but I no longer have ANY interest in having the state/government involved with my relationships. (No more marriage for me.) I'm well beyond the anger and hurt phase. I no longer hold a grudge and understand where she was at mentally/emotionally when everything happened. I'm wondering if anyone here has had any experience with initiating a divorce when you haven't been a resident in the state you got married in for over a year. I aim to pursue a no fault divorce despite the original reason for our separation allowing for otherwise. I'm just looking to not get ultimately screwed though as it's taken me a bit to get where I'm at and aim to continue progressing. She amassed a bit of debt after I left and while I'm probably more equipped to handle it in the long run (She has kids and I don't), I'd rather not have to take on unnecessary debt. I already had to take some on with last years taxes because we planned to file jointly before the split and I had my w4 set accordingly with dependents I couldn't claim after she filed single. I understand there is no substitute for a lawyer but I'm not exactly bringing in the big bucks yet. Couple that with my inexperience with the court system and you have someone who is clueless as how to proceed. So any resources/recommendations you all have would be greatly appreciated.",4.793490950226243,6.510957738235298,5.717647058823527,77.36133484162897,70.14705882352939,9.348416289592759,31.018099547511312,9.757249324022393,3.08166742081448,1421,61,265,35,26,467,187,340,0.113,0.8320000000000001,0.055,-0.962,2,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,3,4,0,2,21,9,2,0,19,0,26,1,0,6,3,52,49,25,0,6,10,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,7,22,0,1,5,0,4,3,12,4,1,1,10,4,34,5,49,35,8,46,0,1,4,1,27,20,1,4,18,187,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1458544960230399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2696433814870131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241736003807884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12417944026521001,0.0,0.0,0.08057049704651498,0.0,0.1124681800869092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885940108772805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14624520981887265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14867510603239315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878718843928635,0.12928905248580178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381082684365954,0.0,0.07511608829017759,0.0,0.10570959301844828,0.14571950451470786,0.0,0.0,0.11687878818860124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.141492284729095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773738299891136,0.0,0.0,0.143604681229647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13247052857061686,0.0,0.11696758552224674,0.1109907406490707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052235345189227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1490034653551092,0.0,0.0,0.14250319180400156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358942770443382,0.0,0.2838053748500741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21064708735709786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198845164959792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245700396505582,0.0,0.19875298240205516,0.1062344153576083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.259715582565242,0.0,0.0770702429441095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751903084273687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795815329568585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883801835158955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333431351812018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389081509906594,0.0,0.0,0.2553422661951553 divorce,lifesgr8mistake,2019/02/11,"(40f) wife of 8 yrs, partner of 20 yrs had a long term affair with co-worker, divorce was only option left after offering her continuing chances at repair. Sept 2018 moved on with in-house separation for financial reasons, now I (38m) have found a place, broke the news to 7 y/o son this weekend. I am not the perfect husband, nor was I ever. I made mistakes, plenty of them. I had patience issues with our son, i had issues with work stress and anxiety, I yelled when I got upset and I isolated when I felt like I couldn’t take it anymore. My actions were harmful to my wife, while she had said more than once about seeing a doctor or therapist on more than one occasion, I wrote it off as not that big of a deal because she didn’t communicate it to me as if it was. I was a great provider and I loved my family to death, but I introduced conditions to where my wife wasn’t comfortable with coming to me and instead let some creepy piece of work, co-worker talk his way into her pants... and based on what I know didn’t take much. We agreed to separate and divorce in Sept 2018, I was hurt and still foolishly loved her at this point, but in Oct 2018 I found some writings of hers to an audience she had no reason to lie too, they contained some pretty hurtful things including de facto prove of her physical affair. After I read these letters I was hurt, but I was also done hurting... finding out how she really felt about me, not filled with the repeated lies she fed me made me realize I was wanting for nothing as this woman felt nothing of me. I have been angry still, but not about losing my wife... after some introspective I realized there were several aspects of my marriage to her that I just couldn’t stomach either, now of course this didn’t make me go out and cheat, but if gave me peace and belief that this was the right decision for the marriage. Fast Forward to this weekend, when we delivered the news to our son. He is devastated, as am I. This is not what I envisioned or hoped for, but it’s where we are now. I am struggling so hard right now, looking in his face, listening to him talk, him telling me i’m the best daddy. This shit is all destroying me emotionally and I can’t take it. I’m losing my mind because I feel I’ve contributed to the demise of his family. I know what I need to be for my son, physically I am capable but mentally I can’t wrap my head around doing this to him. Custody will probably start in a week so, 50/50 and I want to there and be the man my son needs, at the same time I’m struggling deeply with trying to be the man I need need to be. Can anyone help, insight, advice, funny joke? TL;DR Recently separated (38m) struggling with the burdens of placing the pain of divorce on his son, need some words of experience, advice, wisdom... 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Left her phone and didn't say where she was going. No way to contact, only a rough idea where she is. I'll try not to be too long winded, but it's been a rough week. My wife and I have been married a little over three years with a few rough spots, but overall nothing too bad. My wife has dealt with depression and mental health issues since we've been together, having previously been into self harm and at one point being in a mental hospital for attempted suicide a little over a year ago. She has a drinking problem and I've tried to help with it, but I don't feel like she was ever very receptive to the idea of getting help or even acknowledging it. I have my own struggles dealing with anxiety and depression as well, but I've usually been able to keep it to myself and just go on about my day. I was a heavy drinker as well for the first bit of our relationship, but I have cut back significantly the last two years and only drink now for special occasions. My wife came from a broken home where her parents went through a pretty nasty divorce when she was a kid. I was very fortunate to have parents who stuck it out. My wife came to live with her mom and step dad in her late teens after being kicked out by her dad. We met when she was twenty and hit it off pretty quick. We dated off and on with one of us breaking up with the other at some point. At around the year mark, I found my roommate after he had committed suicide and she popped back up. We got engaged a little while after this and lived together for about a year and a half before getting married. After the first year she disappeared one night and had gone to stay with some friends in another state. I didn't think anything major about this as she can be a little bit impulsive until I noticed she had packed two suitcases. She only stayed gone for a day and came home and we talked through things, about a week later she was hospitalized for attempted suicide. Up to this point we'd have an occasional spat, but we rarely fought or even really argued. I intentionally tried to avoid conflict when she had been drinking as the smallest thing would set her off. Fast forward to Christmas of this year. She works a really odd third shift type of job and I work retail so November/December was a tough month for us, with us having opposite schedules and working crazy hours. Her mom and step dad live a couple hours away and they've had a bit of a rocky relationship, with her mom missing our wedding because she forgot about it and planned a trip to Jamaica, and at one point kicking her out shortly before we got engaged. I asked her if we were going to go to her parent's house on Christmas eve and to my family on Christmas day. She told me that because of work she wasn't going to visit them at all. I'm not a huge fan of them as they've ""jokingly"" tried to set her up with someone down around where they live. The day before Christmas eve her plans change and she decides that she is going to go on Christmas eve for a few hours, I was not invited, but didn't push back because I'm not the biggest fan of theirs anyway. A few hours on Christmas eve turned into the entire day and almost all day Christmas. I spent some time with my family, but for the most part was alone on Christmas. About a week or two after this, her behavior kept getting more and more distant. I thought that the work schedule and lack of time together was wearing on her, so I made sure to try and do more things around the house like cooking, cleaning and laundry. We didn't see each other much at all during the week in January, but we tried to carve out one of the weekend days to have a date night/day and spend time together. I felt like things were just getting worse and I talked to her two weekends ago about how much it hurt my feelings that she left me alone for Christmas to spend time with her parents. I told her I understand wanting to be with your family, but I'm your family too now. It seemed like we had resolved this at this point and I was feeling a good bit better about everything. So about a week and a half ago, I came home from work one evening to find that one of the trunks we keep junk in had been emptied and was just sitting in the living room. I checked a spare room and noticed that a suitcase had been cleaned out. I started to worry that she was going to run again, so I asked some questions about when she wanted to see her family who lives farther away and when we wanted to try to take a vacation. She was noncommittal about trying to set any dates or anything. I knew she was talking to her mom and step dad a lot more and had over heard them making plans one evening. She's had trouble holding down jobs since we've been married, so our cars are in my name. I started to figure that her parents had talked her into moving back home and they were going to coordinate when to come pick her and her stuff up. That whole weekend I was worried sick that I'd come home from work and find her gone, but it didn't happen, so I was relieved. This past Tuesday I went in early and she called me around nine just to see what I was working for the day. She seemed really nice and really sweet, which was awesome, but also concerning because she hadn't been acting that way towards me in a while. Well I finally get home around 5:30 and walk into find the house a complete mess and a bunch of stuff gone. I went into the kitchen and found a note from her saying that she was sorry and she couldn't do it any more. She left her phone (was on my plan), my credit card and the keys to the car and house on the table. I'd been thinking this was a possibility, but the actual event tore me up. She left her wedding dress, her wedding band. Our dog is basically her child and she left her too. I'm almost certain it was her parents who picked her up as notifications popped up on her phone for sign ins from her computer in their town. So after six years total, taking care of her, paying all the bills, working crazy hours. She can't even tell me she's leaving. She had a check list of things to get done before she left, so my worrying was well founded I guess. I have no way to contact her as I don't have any of their numbers and I don't know where they live. I've thought about what I would do if I do hear from her, or if she says she wants to come home and I just don't think I can do it again. I've been bailed on twice, I worked with her through the suicide attempt... I just feel so betrayed. We always joked about how I'm not stuck with you, but you're stuck with me. She had gotten very secretive about what she was doing, having setup a PO box and always making sure I wasn't looking when she was texting. I don't know if I was being cheated on at this point, but I don't know if I want to know. I guess I really don't know how to feel. I know there were things that I could have done better, I did let work get in the way of life, but I was honestly trying to be a good provider. I miss her terribly, but I don't know if I could let her come back as I feel like I'm just asking to repeat the same vicious cycle. My family and friends say it's time to move on, but it's still tearing me up. I decided to talk to an attorney, since we do have abandonment/desertion as part of grounds for divorce here. I just don't know what I should do, emotionally I'm angry at her parents, I can't even describe what I feel towards her, between betrayal and just being made a fool. It doesn't help either that she hasn't even tried to contact me at all. It's been a roller coaster week for emotions and just feeling like a shitty husband. I guess you could consider this a rant/vent... but any input would be appreciated.",6.602739343116702,5.4347393773584916,6.6559958071278835,82.30488819007691,65.60377358490567,9.638015373864432,31.642208245981827,8.477595080826907,2.145294199860237,6150,191,1305,71,81,1966,495,1590,0.129,0.794,0.077,-0.998,9,3,4,0,2,4,139.0,22,4,9,25,85,51,5,2,78,0,134,10,2,10,11,257,247,122,4,21,46,22,12,6,2,4,3,6,12,3,62,113,5,7,41,11,9,41,29,20,4,22,106,23,213,31,216,120,36,255,0,5,4,0,195,106,0,25,104,919,275,19,0.02836260992337307,0.0,0.027677815929543652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542522718533795,0.0,0.05680211373548605,0.05875022033001805,0.0,0.022681568908592718,0.04719992707511042,0.0,0.0,0.077150189372921,0.02974066948617238,0.021697318959503185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04668002263190355,0.12624368027149205,0.07954563482234872,0.0,0.05329521132606981,0.1090454815582256,0.02368159457900856,0.06915833502824233,0.0,0.09653796815944547,0.0,0.0,0.0501688472283516,0.12385849673902735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028961395861659012,0.12975707946736606,0.028917571085740824,0.0,0.030003880551061443,0.0977275082074904,0.029737656883421205,0.0,0.0,0.0679357084117175,0.03138268841474978,0.0,0.1646238331835963,0.029240605432975145,0.04885734873372357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05804959447889287,0.0,0.08335367989960565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380823732173094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13113265452170098,0.02565560446575346,0.0,0.0,0.025490484967482463,0.0,0.1604264665686887,0.0,0.11472790222666328,0.06078676258912544,0.027232553377624383,0.031069852817634688,0.07776873491388116,0.048250443023550284,0.0,0.09329441350965073,0.043825764140604254,0.0,0.10372805142985554,0.0,0.14507212352449586,0.0475784230976239,0.045368340258893886,0.0,0.09373383737853627,0.0,0.02508096228628109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03014812805311242,0.031966722715343086,0.0,0.05703257872043663,0.0,0.19915007209302552,0.0,0.13965728780913306,0.13090657525868296,0.03036276053242205,0.06403586858948591,0.0,0.029603195922604162,0.056291027852884194,0.050419981766202535,0.0,0.0,0.12469878934045035,0.02311931259466847,0.031994259381896435,0.030031908671272638,0.18489635201772875,0.058005380544526426,0.0200333501709041,0.08313923134677159,0.11370714507279238,0.17531292932608344,0.025100017262900898,0.023817449029791,0.0,0.0,0.02411287670032277,0.0,0.053674774577427566,0.03786452472625397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057165679691424005,0.0,0.0,0.13287178380247036,0.02263876464575388,0.06028993151162231,0.041699563474806835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323277615439465,0.0,0.02721468916529619,0.06458203876774615,0.0,0.0,0.15375390811353445,0.06471312874463077,0.0,0.0,0.22045325281922612,0.06142788526170581,0.02707532046806706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087100389972306,0.03197458112815338,0.0,0.057709941668791676,0.0,0.027139187242529582,0.0,0.0,0.031772614202392496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084907091523453,0.0,0.0,0.06090165729449939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090220343211488,0.0,0.0,0.06780398396832776,0.051640509698215084,0.029588387805458333,0.0,0.0,0.07038553205921406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024031547347925952,0.0,0.0,0.0317496197281406,0.04015040257063117,0.06046153682596993,0.022650416922282555,0.0,0.0,0.029650758074745258,0.06493680533458032,0.1240963672732063,0.0,0.05346284839015632,0.0,0.04265030578403956,0.11398395749919102,0.02479017120566446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305714652420877,0.054520845620709774,0.0,0.04503348828977288,0.0826923296619296,0.0,0.0,0.05420337846945774,0.0,0.192563503673585,0.030850375068164737,0.11082459458690597,0.02952647719139351,0.10235018262529964,0.0,0.031237407791247507,0.07020637067876317,0.08364501091344761,0.09005167834539743,0.15925542411990662,0.0,0.10200557013452273,0.07887727065538884,0.0,0.031665841092252324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2684281316765029,0.08641082139310141,0.028903922597471963,0.060443952979592735,0.0,0.0,0.16438131797362746 divorce,Fishewish,2019/02/12,"Having a plan before ""the talk"" My husband has said for years if it gets to the point where we need therapy we might as well just divorce. He owns the house and the majority of everything, but I don't care about any of it, I make good money on my own and have the means to support myself. My big fear is asking to go to therapy and having him kick me out and being stuck with no place to live, so I have been saving money and actively trying to find a ""backup"" place to have in mind so I could move out swiftly if needed. I'm a planner at heart. Does this sound cold and pre-meditated? 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I’ve been in it so long it’s become normal to me. But idk if it really is. Been brewing a long time... sorry it’s long I love my husband and we’ve had so much fun together over the past 14 years. Recently I’ve noticed something that’s always been a thing but for some reason, I’m just now realizing: he’s actually really mean to me. I brought this up to my twin sister and she was confused. She said “he hasn’t changed, he’s always been like this”. She’s right. So I guess I’ve changed. It just hit me one day like “wait why do I hang out with someone so mean?” He’s the kind of mean where he constantly scoffs at me for being stupid, asking same questions, not understanding things so I ask for clarification, etc. He would never let me be upset about anything, he always flips it so he’s the one who gets to be upset and I apologize. I’m always “wait did I just apologize for something I was upset about??” Yes I did. And he does the silent treatment constantly. And when we argue about something when we’re out, he often gets so mad he’ll leave me, walk 20 feet in front of me, not talking to me. I never ever ever get mad at him. I’m super easy going. Everything is always my fault. The last time we went out to dinner, I guess I asked him the same question twice. My bad, didn’t remember the answer. He literally actually yelled at me “if I have to tell you one more fucking time!!” I was so hurt. So hurt. Why would you wanna be mean to someone you love? He wouldn’t want anyone else to hurt me like that so why does he get to? I said “what if someone heard you, that’s embarrassing” and he said “they’d know how fucking stupid you’re being”. I said “how come you’re the only one that makes me feel like this? My other friends and coworkers don’t constantly make me feel stupid” and he said “they don’t know you like I do”. And then when I told him about all of this, he said he acts like that because he feels a lack of love from me, that I don’t show him affection enough or do enough for him. Again, my fault! Ugh. We’ve had so many good times together tho. And he’s so funny, passionate, interesting, thoughtful, sexy, etc. But this can’t be normal is it?? Just tell me if it is and I’ll keep working on it. I feel like I’ve been in it so long, it’s become normal. But when you step outside for a second and look in at it, it’s like wait wtf. 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Thank you for reading my post. I'm late 30s and a male and I just told my wife of nine years I want a divorce. Largely it's due to the fact she doesn't want kids and I do. I went to therapy about two years ago to try and reconcile this yearning to be a father, but I couldn't take it anymore. I need to be a dad and I've been heartbroken over this fact, daily, for the past several years. I seriously get depressed thinking I would never be a dad. We discussed kids before we got married and I knew she sent clear indications she wanted kids. But she says now she never wanted to be a mother. I also felt trapped in this marriage because she is not at all interested in the things I'm interested in. I could never try to do my own thing, like go see a movie I wanted or go to a museum. She is a homebody and rarely likes to leave the living room. When I would suggest I'd do something on my own, she would shoot that down. I felt largely controlled. She is also not independent at all and I often have to take care of many simple tasks for her. I don't intend to put her down, these are just her personality traits. To sum up her personality....she is the type of person who hates Halloween. When I finally got the balls to tell her I wanted a divorce, it felt great. That night, I haven't slept consistently and deeply in probably years. I felt very much at peace with my decision. Last night it was also really easy for me to reaffirm my wishes for a divorce. I felt strong and confident. But now I'm experiencing these waves of regret that come and go. My therapist told me on Monday she feels I've made a very good and strong decision. In fact, my therapist recommended I leave my wife a couple of years ago. I should have listened. I wrote myself a letter reminding myself on why I'm leaving my wife when I feel these moments. Any other advice you can offer to deal with these waves of regret and yearning to go back? 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I agreed on finances and parenting plan. We got the paperwork back and now I'm rethinking everything. I made a huge compromise financially and was only asking for child support. Our state is 50/50. We made a parenting plan so it is 50/50 between us. Since making that arrangement the child support amount is very minimal to support my kid. Now I want to renegotiate the conditions but I know the other half is in a very heated state. Has anyone gone through renegotiating finances and parenting plans and how that worked out? I don't want to look money hungry because I'm not I just want to give my child the best life possible. Literally everyone from legal secretaries, mediators and attorneys have said the deal is all in the other parties favor. I'm just wondering what the experience was like for anyone. 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She yells at me all the time and a lot. She doesn’t care if our child is in the room and while she is too young to understand what is going on it really pisses me off. I never engage and I try to assure her everything will get better. Here’s our situation. 2.5 years married, 2 yo girl. We moved to her hometown because of cheaper cost of living. This was her idea, but she blames me for her unhappiness. She complains about our finances. She is in 8k in debt over 3 cc’s and I am about $400 into one cc. Everything is in her name. I’m the sole income, and it is usually about enough to pay the bills. What should I do? She said she wants to divorce me by the 1st of March. I’m lost, hurt and feel so alone .",1.3313847305389217,3.2642908622754514,3.0363136227544913,91.8840512724551,80.49700598802394,6.0911676646706585,21.215943113772454,7.1686216300943375,0.4929044910179634,622,18,138,8,16,206,109,167,0.18600000000000005,0.7809999999999999,0.033,-0.9802,4,1,0,0,2,0,21.0,5,0,0,2,6,8,1,0,7,0,14,1,1,0,3,21,25,10,0,3,2,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,1,2,5,9,0,0,3,0,5,2,2,4,0,1,4,4,27,4,24,19,3,21,0,2,1,0,27,11,1,2,8,94,32,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106232166361913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396847959912413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17985845702039152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20734260416968825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101288199385333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655399354970206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1028266773688832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1062490159907298,0.0,0.11557614263433012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21770479339038634,0.2295725964370324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17957366377353404,0.0,0.17077409066872762,0.0,0.22199524307442006,0.17289234404381992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16232277610445187,0.21614317758167392,0.0,0.0,0.15684643975920934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13780434573413652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13027984192800912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19344522324244592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822435823713588,0.2285890532020732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11858287078209905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13807044236646882,0.0,0.0,0.21170853716131166,0.0,0.0,0.2239761237119075,0.0,0.1199490395453586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309594027506682 divorce,blackandblue90,2019/02/12,"Almost done with the divorce but I have been holding all the feeling all by myself for way too long the divorce process took 8months and was stressed all through out day in and day out every second of each day thinking of the consequences and all the pent up clogged feelings forwaytoolong Whattodo? It was a short marriage I really loved her but it was nothing close to what I had imagined living with her we don’t know each other very well we only knew each other for a few months and she almost forced me indirectly to get married soon I fell for it she loved me so much ! And it was that feeling that when somebody shows you so much love you believe and trust so much and forget everything and go with the flow. But the problems started even before marriage and it never ended there were other third party ppl (friends and family) interfering way too much than they should and it all messed up so bad. But I had done so much dreaming all my life thinking I would find this ONE person whom I will live for eternity and here I am with a divorce only after 1 year marriage. I have some apprehension about my future since she was such a devil used to scream and act so dramatic for silly reasons and act as if it’s normal I even suspect if she has some psychological problem it was very scary to deal with her sometimes. The chaos has created much trauma I am afraid if I look at future prospects the sane way and just keep apologizing and just accepting that’s the norm. I also lost a TON of money which I hated she dint deserve a bit not a bit ! I don’t usually share my problems I try to deal myself although I did go to counselor this time first in my life it helped but not much I prefer dealing with myself coz I feel self healing is better ofcourse a professional opinion and suggestions help which I welcome but I donno since a child I prefer to solve my own problems do I am a bit confused since this is the biggest problem I have ever faced in my life ! I lost a lot of money which was needed by my family now I felt hurtful and just very frustrated to loose all that money esp much more than what she ever deserved. I don’t know the best way going forward I am afraid to meet new ppl about the old problems coming back again which I am at a point I cannot take it anymore ! And I am about get the divorce in a month. 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In 2013 a separation was agreed upon. \[Female\] left for home in Brazil. \[Male\] left for the west coast. &#x200B; \-No children \-No assets to claim &#x200B; \[Female\] is currently able to come back to the United States - North Carolina, for 60+ days. How would the prospects of seeking a divorce with this \[Male\] individual be? Could this be completed within the 60 days? Could it be unfortunately extended longer? If so, how long and why? It is understood that the \[Male\] would have no interest in pursuing contest of the divorce proposal. &#x200B; There are lawyer websites and organizations that offer services for $xxx.xx and 45-60 day turn around. Due to travelling to the US from Brazil, the length of stay shouldn't be longer than 60 days if possible. &#x200B; Thank you in advance for any advice. The woman dealing with this is someone very important to me. I wish her nothing but the best.",8.674847058823527,11.284569608888884,7.193098039215688,67.06517647058824,61.8,9.56078431372549,43.01307189542485,9.916854025145753,5.0986522875817,1122,67,149,24,17,336,137,225,0.045,0.884,0.07,-0.2919,4,0,0,0,6,0,99.0,1,1,0,2,7,3,0,0,15,0,16,0,0,3,0,23,23,11,0,9,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,6,7,8,0,0,1,1,0,6,5,0,0,0,3,0,5,3,34,10,1,36,0,0,0,0,25,17,0,2,11,95,12,2,0.06330513055450195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061861040911811466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4801375775503908,0.5384586390088671,0.04304965960248691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044264419201307824,0.0,0.0,0.05635498766057957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04867773780390544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06643482890076706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0646416162340569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05453176455336573,0.0663742249558844,0.0,0.0,0.15163198668724231,0.0,0.0,0.16330628841948133,0.0652648098827369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350020753101272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13756241915155698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11179918016676366,0.05602304844445092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060742980115857215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06614038761924756,0.0,0.0,0.07136702292955054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07115761912425549,0.0,0.0,0.05363823168591608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06747484615546019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058282858902061536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07033432934388373,0.0,0.06885780351744368,0.0,0.0,0.07614827750192639,0.0,0.0,0.05223336255706965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05712303384226083,0.0,0.07279777593421795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994029686598115,0.0,0.5384586390088671,0.0 divorce,throwaway-8123,2019/02/12,"Divorce is close to being finalized and it’s all going so fast. I feel free and completely heartbroken all at once. In the middle of an international divorce from my narc/abusive ex. Separated in May. It was difficult finding an attorney that could help with the process but I found one a few weeks ago and she has been excellent. No kids, no shared assets, I’ve already paid the majority of the service/filing fees so she said we are over halfway done. I was set up with another attorney from June up until a month ago with no action on his part at all so it’s refreshing to have found someone who is really getting things done. But I’m realizing that ever since June up until finding my new atty, I had gotten so used to making no progress whatsoever in the legal process that once I had processed that initial grief, I just became numb. Everything was on pause and I didn’t have to think about things being completely over. It was just hanging over my head as this neverending thing so I went on and lived my life as best I could and pushed it in the back of my mind. Now that things are really wrapping up soon, all of those old emotions of grief and heartbreak and pain and everything else have come flooding back. Once I stopped crying every day in that initial shock and grief after our separation, I started to wake up to just how bad my STBX’s abuse was and realizing the long term effect it has had on me. Every part of me was angry and it took everything in me not to reach out to her and lash out (we’ve been NC for the most part since June). Now it feels like I’m back at square one - feeling that same heartbreak and pain that I felt when we split. For the first time in months, part of me misses her. Part of me feels like I still love her despite the abuse. I know everyone’s experience is different but there were times I was so angry at her that I couldn’t wait for the day that this was all over. Now that it’s approaching, I feel free and relieved, heartbroken and terrified, sad and angry all at the same time. I hate her and I miss her all at once and it’s so confusing. I hate this feeling of being in that same place I was in the beginning of our split. I haven’t cried for months and now it’s all just coming back and it’s thrown me off so much feeling everything all at once. I know it’s normal to feel this way but I guess I just wanted to hear from everyone’s been through this and could really use some words of encouragement. I’m re-living all of the good times and all of her abuse at the same time. The abuse was so bad that I can’t believe I didn’t leave her before she left me. I’m hard on myself and I think about what that says about my own self-worth, that I accepted her abuse and wasn’t able to just stand up and leave. I’ve been in therapy but I have flashbacks (I was already diagnosed with PTSD prior to this from past trauma) and I still find myself scared of other people and apologizing for everything and afraid of being lashed out at for no reason. I notice the effects everyday and yet, I still miss her and I’m still heartbroken. I’m 25 and I never imagined myself getting divorced, but if I ever did I wouldn’t think it’d happen at such a young age. I know this grief will pass again but right now, it’s so much to process. I feel like my heart is breaking all over again. I know this probably all sounds overdramatic but damn. I wanted to close this chapter of my life for so long and now that it’s almost over, it fucking sucks. 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Her husband took out loans under her name (~160,000 USD). He told her that he using this money to start a business, but a few days later she found out that her husband used the money to gamble and that he had lost it all. (Every single penny). A few weeks later the husband told her that he wanted a divorce, and he told his wife that he’ll leave the house to her (they still have mortgage loan on the house). Maybe my aunt was too scared or embarrassed, but she didn’t tell anyone in the family or contact a lawyer to work our legal issues. Instead, she decided to go to the court house with her husband and fill out all the legal papers for divorce, so now they are legally divorced. So now, my aunt has lots of loan under her name, and a mortgage that she has to pay. They also have two kids, but I’m not sure who’s name they are under. My aunt is now losing her sanity, and she keeps saying stuff like how she wants to trap herself in a room and blow herself up to end everything.",8.597563025210086,5.586047747899162,8.16931092436975,78.88304201680674,63.11764705882353,10.360336134453783,33.46386554621849,7.1686216300943375,2.167511260504201,916,23,189,5,10,292,121,238,0.125,0.8420000000000001,0.033,-0.9674,2,0,0,0,3,2,28.0,1,0,4,3,11,8,0,2,15,0,11,0,0,3,3,34,30,16,2,3,6,12,0,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,11,11,0,1,2,0,10,5,2,6,0,1,12,1,33,2,27,17,7,31,0,2,0,0,61,12,0,3,15,129,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693618949191204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0964722536992752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435122340054448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353834813138177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15559997697629818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684734387707584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10164070436113352,0.0,0.10841950760156238,0.0,0.11372451677442247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227071967698584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711999437614547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4175918911348299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259122346811243,0.0,0.10722647300247357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12773569253892664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058936465485638835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13496039014946554,0.13168801877306208,0.10256008161638283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12119468473123984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128696837645802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593427899774834,0.12077729062065508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08538650563662194,0.0,0.0963397539441365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380989115855383,0.26391155468534977,0.0,0.11369763472197693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544084033337332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4610899801629111,0.2680612028470089,0.0,0.0,0.1178434618896329,0.0,0.0,0.2083808683385624,0.0,0.0,0.2134620249430029,0.0,0.09676660968079737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782416081288467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Redistherose29,2019/02/12,"25f,35m My husband and I have become verbally abusive to each other. We apologize but it always happens again. This time he talked shit about my dead parents. One parent died not even a year a go. I think that was the straw. I am sick to my stomach and confused. This can't be saved. 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Going through a divorce and not sure if I should press charges.( Iowa) my STBEH and I were in the house. ( short version) I started asking questions about the past and he was instantly pissed and went for his gun. He locked me in our house with a loaded gun in his hand. Got in my face screaming, intimidating, pointed it at me yelling still, then went out and hit something. I'm completely unarmed. Our child was in the next room sleeping. Crying and terrified I went to check on her as he went outside. She was still asleep. He comes back with a bloody hand. Gun still in his other hand. I then proceed to calm him down because I never thought he would have gotten a gun from this conversation. I was too terrified to call the cops that night. I just wanted him to calm down and go to bed. I didnt tell anyone for a week. And then I told the cops and they took a statement but because I was living with him still I was scared to press charges for domestic assault with a deadly weapon. Is there a time limit for pressing charges? I feel he needs to live up to the consequences of his actions. I have support now and I'm not living with him. 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Or do you know anyone that it helped? Without going into detail we are about to start down that long road and I am wondering if it does any good, what factors in PREs make a difference (I am thinking a 75 year old LCSW probably doesn't know much about personality disorders, for example), and what age your kids were. If a ""child"" is a teen what can a PRE do?",4.930689655172412,6.016020402298852,5.933965517241383,78.34508620689657,69.11494252873564,9.018390804597699,29.44252873563219,9.2995712137729,2.526066666666667,353,13,67,7,6,117,65,87,0.085,0.8809999999999999,0.034,-0.6641,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,2,0,0,3,2,1,0,7,0,10,0,0,1,0,14,17,5,0,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,7,5,0,0,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,10,16,1,12,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,4,5,46,12,0,0.0,0.2431826082149989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13957412320902068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870251498584289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144380860592904,0.23522936907899106,0.0,0.3592238136438405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007696911570584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11664586874903005,0.17215036648632007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27514375044159856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22559535276433976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816359975510472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13700310737663945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15087921513872254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21537085004712347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22790107541011714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792126401440111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22128959302665144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527397225681968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315131656141836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1978495433961198,0.22258022086133103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13217151011032569 divorce,HamSandwichNoBread,2019/02/12,"Seems like this will never end I (36F) feel like this divorce is never going to be finalized. Married to him (36) since 2003, high school sweethearts. Two kids 10 & 11. D day Jan 1, 2017. I'll spare you the details of how it ended and the 4 months of weekly divorce/no divorce. I moved out the end of May 2017. Had already talked to a lawyer and had all the paperwork in place to file. Two days after I moved out, he told me it was all a mistake and he didn't want to lose me. I should have stuck to my gut and said it was too late. I was out, I had a plan.... but I stilled loved him. So I called my lawyer and asked for our case to be put on hold. We were going to try marriage counseling. That never happened. Back and forth, lie after lie, I lived in limbo for 10 months. He said EVERYTHING I had ever wanted to hear, but there was no action behind it. He said he would change, he didn't. He said we would go to counseling together, he never made an appointment. Meanwhile, my individual therapist and all of my friends kept asking me the same two questions: 1. Do you love the man you married or do you love the man that you are currently married to? 2. How long are you going to live in limbo and let him treat you this way? 10 months. That's how long it took me to realize I was in love with the man I married in 2003. The one that had hopes and dreams, the one that I planned my future with. I planned to grow old with that man. But the man that I am currently married to is not the same man. I man I loved is now gone and the person in front of me is a liar. I told him in March 2018 that I was done. I was no longer in love with him, he had chipped away at that love with every lie and it was all gone. It takes two people to make a marriage work and I was the only one doing the work. I called the lawyer and updated the paperwork. It took me months to save the $250.00 filing fee because I was paying bills and supporting my kids all on my own. He was served in September 2018. Temporary Custody hearing in November 2018. He didn't read the paperwork until the week of the hearing and somehow it was my fault he didn't know what needed to be done. The Judge gave him until January 2019 to complete the paperwork and turn in all his information. Facing the judge alone in that court room scared him and the next week he got a lawyer. We were supposed to meet the end of January 2019 to discuss a settlement. The day of that meeting his lawyer had a medical emergency and had to be taken to the hospital. I found out this morning that our meeting has been rescheduled for he end of March. I feel so defeated by this. Why did it take so long to reschedule? Why do I have to wait for another five weeks for this meeting? What if he doesn't agree and this gets dragged out even longer? I want this all to be over. I want to change my name and be able to move on with my life. I thought I was out of limbo last year, but it feels like I'm still stuck there.",2.002654845154844,3.5601054642857166,3.2053246753246762,93.18128371628372,77.14935064935065,6.621578421578422,22.72277722277723,7.395310329662975,0.6457093906093911,2290,67,524,29,52,740,250,616,0.065,0.82,0.115,0.9919,2,1,0,0,3,0,74.0,5,7,0,7,16,22,1,1,37,0,58,11,2,5,12,88,113,34,0,11,7,0,3,3,2,5,2,7,1,10,33,35,0,3,10,2,3,15,12,6,0,8,50,10,67,16,79,51,10,87,0,2,0,7,82,27,0,7,47,341,100,10,0.062276097936814476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644992559740869,0.06872322266655084,0.0,0.0,0.06747612609585961,0.0,0.0,0.06530191863975801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11643948983130188,0.0,0.05851044401542205,0.04788647523929654,0.0,0.03796293127643911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12718171775730813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317597082024931,0.0,0.06529530383440392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048879358861912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12746013997748362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2757906912342328,0.0,0.0,0.04113277534739805,0.05633229595774185,0.05247029845784591,0.0,0.055969741239632914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0944659989126882,0.08898011361882603,0.0,0.06822042125816175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828252698866008,0.048114358783442605,0.0,0.032536690820832284,0.0,0.14157176644292724,0.0,0.04980788454988538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05507054773555321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21056906539117368,0.0,0.0,0.0657981166652826,0.0,0.06185421700524115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03422531476541092,0.05076333169857219,0.07025015102862119,0.0,0.0,0.06368152947511815,0.043987449695791256,0.09127486729414623,0.0,0.10998187085842458,0.16533716087869668,0.0,0.06967102398237268,0.0,0.0,0.3934462686642101,0.05892714964086754,0.04156977895464936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273661689354666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19883274889813704,0.19856890936159152,0.0,0.04617693752257625,0.19212466371411654,0.0,0.0662313366627295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06534828881742889,0.0,0.12659968704020408,0.04736377874939735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043174405017384836,0.05437708661735026,0.06506526755219233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06260467920016677,0.06976348224379138,0.0,0.06229295073335655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369553208833669,0.0,0.06234923818787565,0.06302673587424686,0.0,0.056693820635012215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151543175677202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09946754451531048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706701779335477,0.0,0.0,0.09364775058493817,0.05005516854494836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07230734963447076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04944026545418767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190149607243453,0.13838207248522527,0.042281382588666,0.06773851152355448,0.2433387944532686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14692822432477418,0.049431867828487366,0.19981651731437075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238898392116556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067548200549527,0.0,0.0,0.0884783063715471,0.0,0.0,0.04010376526923425 divorce,SmallStuffMatters,2019/02/12,"Every time that I feel bad, I remind myself of this memory (long, including alcoholism and complete inconsideration). The moment I knew my marriage was truly over was in June of 2018, so this is still a semi-new process to me. My STBX husband and me went to an all expenses paid day to the nearest city’s amusement park, for my best friends husbands birthday. That was what they chose and so they footed the bill (without needing to but know it could be costly, plus we still had to pay a babysitter for *my* two girls). During this day, I was having the time of my life!! I suffer from pretty serious depression and was in the middle of an episode, but I love amusement parks and thrills and my best friend talked me without, without much effort. The entire time, STBXH was cranky and complying, and ironically enough, HE is the cheerful friendly one of the two of us. The reason he was cranky was because he needed an alcoholic beverage, and honestly, that isn’t even the worst part. Nearing the end of our day (5pm because we are all in our mid-30’s and can’t hang all day and night anymore, we were riding one last ride and heading home. I was laughing with my best friend and having a great time, as soon as we started to load on to the ride, my STBXH looks me straight in the eye and says “you are being completely over the top.” Wow. That hit me like a slap to the cheek. Very few moments do I get to truly enjoy my time due to my mental illness. I would never make a scene in public, ever. So I said nothing but looked at him in disgust, and loaded on to the ride. As SOON as we got into the car to head home, STBXH turned in to his normal cheery self- as alcohol would soon be within his grasp. Halfway home our babysitter called and said my mom had picked up my girls and was having a sleepover. “Great!”, I thought, so that we can hash this out. My STBXH could not understand why I was upset and crying and locked him out of our bedroom, not that he slept there anyways. Point of the story is, that night while crying alone, and feeling even more lonely because he never made an attempt to apologize, I had the conscience thought of “our marriage will never recover from this because I cannot forgive him for this”, again... we had many issues, including things that I could have done differently, but THAT MOMENT was my breaking point. That moment will forever stick with me. That memory is so painful that it conceals some of the good times we shared. I told him as much and still no attempt at anything, not so much as “I’m sorry your feelings were hurt.” And that my friends, always makes me feel better about this long and strenuous divorce process. Hope you all are being (or trying to be) optimistic as well. 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So I live in a small town in Indiana. My STBEH insists on take our 4 and 5 year old to his newish church. He found this place about a year and a half ago. It’s actually lovely. We all went together for some time, actually. Until I realized that the woman he had sex with during our marriage attends the church with her husband and young children. I absolutely refuse to let our children spend time together. Is this petty? She, her husband, and mine don’t seem to have a problem with the affair. They make small talk and are even friendly. Somehow I look like the crazy one for not appreciating this. Maybe it’s a lack of maturing, or ever present pain and insult from the incident, but I don’t want my kids with hers. Background: my ex refused to enter a church prior to me leaving. These two had sex about 5 years ago. The woman came to our home to teach me how to breastfeed my oldest son and then afterward met up with my ex for sex in the car. I only found out about this a year ago. Still struggling to let it go. 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She's basically an alcoholic, it always caused rifts in our relationship and bad nights out when she drinks too much which is why I don't like to go out much with her because she can't control it. One night about two months ago we stayed home but she got drunk anyways and claims to have blacked out. During this supposed blackout, I overheard her on the phone with an ex of hers that she had seen when we split up for a while before we got married. I had previously asked her not to talk with this person anymore and she agreed. During this conversation of hers, I overheard her telling him that she still loved him and wished things would've worked out etc. I confronted her about it the next day and she said she couldn't remember anything and blamed it on the alcohol which she's done a number of times in the past. Since that night, I have felt quite distant from her and have felt like I am no longer attracted to her based on her words and actions. We haven't had sex since then (our sex life has pretty much always been shitty, but I always held out hope that things would get better eventually) and I don't think I want to have a physical relationship with her anymore because I feel disgusted by the events of that night and others. It was pretty much the last straw for me. She has been away for the last month on a work-related event and said that she will be going to rehab to try to cure her disease before she comes back (her decision, not mine). I'm glad that she decided to try to get better but it still doesn't change things for me as far as how I feel. Since she's been gone, I have not missed her very much and have also sought the attention of other women and have had an affair. I don't know if she's doing the same thing while she has been gone, maybe so maybe not, I don't really care. Is it time to get a divorce? We don't have any kids, so that will make things a lot easier. I feel like I am already emotionally checked out of this marriage. Any advice on what I should do? PS, spare me the BS of calling me a piece of shit because I slept with someone else. I know what I did was wrong. It isn't the first time either one of us has done this to each other. I would just like an outside perspective on where to go from here. Sorry for the long rant, thanks for reading.",5.274928571428575,5.110697683333335,5.304880952380955,87.56250000000001,68.0,8.607142857142858,26.517857142857146,8.07648339933343,1.2606607142857142,1848,45,410,21,28,578,224,480,0.107,0.7979999999999999,0.096,-0.343,0,0,4,0,1,0,42.0,8,0,0,6,16,20,3,0,23,0,49,12,2,4,1,70,83,28,0,8,11,2,5,5,0,5,4,2,1,3,34,31,5,2,12,4,1,7,17,6,0,4,24,9,70,14,58,52,11,53,0,1,2,3,60,18,1,3,32,289,104,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07238888588629946,0.0656663320060659,0.15833528530157778,0.0,0.0,0.08174772999578661,0.059240740397516825,0.18491833421490356,0.0,0.0,0.10075216486741806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14693240604011662,0.0,0.0,0.060960489850399535,0.0,0.06925362058296894,0.0,0.0695994133237054,0.05696197728249529,0.06185265235875308,0.13547313420789714,0.0,0.1260711005769726,0.0,0.0,0.13103324847918815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0756426744862558,0.0,0.07552821096816273,0.07609927034529773,0.07836548282028949,0.06381227381963478,0.0,0.0,0.08308560424686479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047774657937641435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15161653810475256,0.0,0.14513792327771355,0.0,0.0,0.0618832804228618,0.0833286100629434,0.0,0.0,0.0826173752339303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236930797564833,0.05292186557082537,0.14225441207413034,0.0,0.0,0.06301133710685332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610925010385335,0.0,0.1263019626679546,0.0,0.1184950687659507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430701470529473,0.07357690216856393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142347468304607,0.1207681180353386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0523240037560838,0.1809556487954304,0.0,0.0,0.06555735243170886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06297909437384605,0.06685895370409006,0.0,0.04944813316537333,0.0,0.14884409932212905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825788460263956,0.0,0.2722819819537428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878357877707763,0.27807151132362123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10039534073199488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07071653806191013,0.0,0.06468269708946918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15072941764013295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07879185690426996,0.07409878523740725,0.0,0.047456736763973086,0.0,0.0,0.159065683864363,0.08391676990935963,0.0,0.14093168830735398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604076050832377,0.18383609393446088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0627666747184221,0.0,0.0,0.08292508281127342,0.0,0.07895807872852346,0.11831875248101754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06981833433032915,0.0,0.0,0.05954168393644976,0.06474808258296466,0.06820174959880224,0.0,0.0,0.2460731109590979,0.047466664448800634,0.0,0.0,0.1295877243971179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10058920154188676,0.0,0.07236416343200718,0.0,0.0891076013153979,0.0,0.0,0.06112271739804289,0.0436935592686781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684453926634637,0.0,0.08518689335329821,0.0,0.0,0.10786040777204232,0.0,0.0,0.1578702311773165,0.08099347145128491,0.0,0.0 divorce,unhappywife432,2019/02/12,"Live in a state where you can't divorce if you live together... personal contract anyone? Has anyone ever dealt with not being able to get a legal divorce due to the state you live in? We are amicable and feel we can share the home. It's spacious and we have our own areas. We share a child together. I am considering coming up with a contract between the two of us that we are married in name only and that we are separated emotionally. Or something like that. Has anyone ever heard of this? I'm pissed right now. I don't see how it's the state's business who I'm living with or why I want to divorce. Ugh.",1.8549731182795703,3.9543699274193567,3.951290322580647,85.13860215053765,79.56451612903227,6.391397849462368,24.043010752688176,7.492282038375204,1.191604301075269,477,17,96,7,12,163,75,124,0.058,0.857,0.085,-0.212,0,0,1,0,3,0,14.0,8,3,0,0,5,5,1,0,8,0,11,1,1,1,2,23,19,7,0,2,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,2,7,13,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,2,0,1,1,3,14,3,13,17,1,15,0,0,1,0,21,7,1,3,5,67,21,1,0.17735799795895227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3720385078552593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527782108912515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19950387596992367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208609261817641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967753277962226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09266223375213943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1779045328400714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664815910422836,0.0,0.6264414461876282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13488874950525798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1548621628008682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514627611893083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133136175588062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1365388517566054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17325299288085227,0.0,0.21333983403030746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461034238346634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16003800688606862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lovelysparkles,2019/02/12,Has anyone regretted their divorce? I’m curious to see who has regretted their divorce and wish they could go back and stay in their marriage. Did you divorce too quickly without putting work in it to see you y’all could work it out?,5.747333333333334,6.791421511111111,5.468888888888892,82.57000000000005,67.22222222222223,8.666666666666668,37.22222222222222,8.841846274778883,3.261888888888889,188,10,35,3,3,58,31,45,0.112,0.787,0.101,-0.1431,0,0,0,0,3,0,3.0,0,3,4,2,3,2,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,10,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,2,7,0,6,7,0,8,0,2,2,0,12,3,0,0,2,26,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19384509643359946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21317213574754695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44268990176408335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15755573814621734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27869190843969144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4418315449107077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2954894313729303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31879988827918715,0.26723904743456184,0.0,0.4036523060521179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jefec504,2019/02/12,Fwb with stbx? My stbx wife of 23 years has proposed a fwb scenario. We have been separated 6 months. She says she misses us and just wants the lunchtime hook up. Anyone have experience with this? She has gone so far as to tell her boyfriend of her desire. Anyone try it? 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This apparently happened during our brief separation while I was out of town for a stretch of time for work. We had been going through rough times, constantly arguing about what feels like anything and everything, we have a son ( age 1) together. I was offering to go to marriage counseling before finding out (walking in on and witnessing) my wife had secret relations with another male. Now this revelation came about a day ago when she had invited a few friends on to socialize with, we had been drinking a bit and it was getting late when my son woke up. I left to take care of him and put him back to bed, when I returned to the living room I found my wife cuddling with this male “friend” and went ‘wtf’. After that I calmed myself, sat down and talked about the situation, asked what was going on and how long it has been. After finding out my wife had told this guy we were separated and she “done with me” I was torn, but some how relieved because her actions up to this point led me to believe something was up. Part of me wants to still go to counseling and work on things, but the other wants to end it (as civil as possible). My other main issue is as I had left for work that morning, the three adults there (wife, her secret boyfriend and her friend). Had all stayed up the entire night drinking, leaving no one responsible enough to watch the kid. My biggest fear is that when she’s off at this friends house ( which she goes to every day off, and has been the past few weeks) and taking our son. Is that she’s drinking with them being an irresponsible parent. Which is an environment I don’t want my kid raised around. 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I'm trying to be there to calm him down but I find one to be told this is all my fault, my fault he's fucked up in the head and treats me like he does, it's my fault he thinks I'm with another man when I'm at the grocery store or 30 minutes late from work. It's my fault that when I'm on my phone I'm obviously cheating on him. I can't take this. I'm being as strong as I can for my kids but they hurt, I hurt, he hurts but I am hanging on for my kids. The crying coming from him scares me. He's trying to say he would kill himself when I honestly think he's trying to manipulate me into staying. Fuck after 22 years this is hard.",-0.7829761904761909,0.9786247500000016,1.74642857142857,99.16523809523814,87.21428571428572,4.923809523809523,16.476190476190478,6.139981653823899,-0.6928595238095236,570,12,148,5,18,195,93,168,0.335,0.594,0.071,-0.9956,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,1,2,4,20,6,1,3,0,11,3,1,1,4,19,26,10,1,1,4,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,3,7,6,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,15,0,1,4,2,24,5,24,18,1,19,2,3,0,2,22,9,4,1,8,80,31,1,0.0,0.18327615484865264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622004655844271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13324723018618356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991395329221246,0.09975887806907056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536568214718933,0.1582962222125049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1739995430586789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413790748367677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860071493713869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856716819399004,0.0,0.15875119766634516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4967797275455165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711357764116743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449115495484474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0755711638067841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048184015033506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12301153544050167,0.15486643690665766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648733803333163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11630369415029156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982315058026833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956158477899303,0.0,0.3150624093880527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11261235278184605,0.0,0.0,0.10988362047029518,0.0,0.0,0.09961191851410628 divorce,FRG2015_kd,2019/02/12,"Discounted or pro bono attorney in Salem, Oregon? I have been married for over 17 years, 2 kids, a house, etc... my wife is a stay at home mom who recently revealed/discovered childhood sexual trauma as the reason for the majority of our marriage being completely abstinent. I had an affair over a year ago and we separated but are still married. I pay for everything, she doesn’t have a job. I sleep in a shithole of a place and go over to her and the kids every evening to help with family obligations. I’ve asked to move back in and she “isn’t ready” for that as the children have been sleeping in bed with her since I moved out and she doesn’t want me moving back to “disrupt” them as it has been traumatic. If I move home, I am giving up on having a marriage I can enjoy and be happy in, I am only moving back for the kids and to relieve some financial pressures. I would rather get a divorce, or, if I am being honest, I’d rather kill my self because this is all such bullshit and I really can’t imagine ever being free from my wife and all of her fear mongering control issues that affect almost every aspect of my life. Does anyone know a lawyer in Salem Oregon who would work with me on costs? OR- does someone have a pistol and a bullet I could borrow so I can shoot myself in the fucking head and get this miserable existence over with? You can have the gun back when I am done with it. 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I ended up going to her work recently to get some stuff the kids forgot and noticed she has a few family photos up at her work of when we were married including one on top of her desk. I said nothing. I'm not interested in her at all. We were not compatible for marriage and I recognize mistakes were made all around; however, she had multiple affairs that ultimately lead to the divorce. I am just really weirded out by this. Is this ""normal"" behavior for some to keep photos like that around this long?",4.883525641025641,5.896558666666667,6.553066239316242,74.12908653846156,69.17094017094017,10.294444444444443,30.86431623931624,10.411451182825502,3.3670521367521364,472,19,88,13,8,163,79,117,0.022,0.923,0.055,0.408,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,2,0,0,5,4,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,2,2,20,16,3,0,2,3,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,2,6,7,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,1,8,1,13,2,20,8,5,20,0,0,0,0,18,12,0,2,7,63,19,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.360918297262928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17954514246482722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38220294160046336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10591011543241034,0.0,0.11520749150940485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180182227022684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09903621099057308,0.0,0.0,0.1793962175436115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918136437086984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19861746202965425,0.1945103163373278,0.2307921415917292,0.2127150806477543,0.0,0.13736479371313498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12986429068025898,0.0,0.20015640774938376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928281945241111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23205994510625205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4427363627254303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305416839200933 divorce,seatbeltmom,2019/02/12,"Beginning long awaited and inevitable divorce. Hi, 60 yo F, married 25 years (63 yo husband) , blended family, 3 from Dad, 1 from Mom, 2 together, all adults now, youngest finishing college. It's been a rough rough go with this crew! Story is a full length movie with a sequel or two, so will just go to recent. We have lived in house he bought after 3 years of marriage, when he sold the house he had when we met. Our home has never been in my name, I had struggled with credit so just his was used. He NEVER put my name on it. We did have many separate financial years, as I was supporting my son, and he his kids, and I just had always worked so I just fended for myself, even through pregnancies and being a new mom 2 times. He is very cheap with his money. He pays for house bills, I think mostly because they're in his name! He didn't think we needed cable or cell phones among other things so I pay for all of that. I paid for all dance and sports, with few exceptions, tuition and vacations, etc. My parents helped me out alot, and eventually when they passed, I received a moderate inheritance, so that helped me. I reinvented my career several times so I could be home with my kids, most of my jobs have been very flexible, I've been lucky to find them! I did licensed day care for 4 years so I could be with my kids but still earn money. I've been miserable for years, my husband is a narcissist through and through, only pays attention when it affects him, for example, if he's not home it doesn't matter what food is in the house! There hasn't been one day without chaos, if my husband is home, in all these years. He doesn't communicate, he doesn't help with kids needs, he leaves me to handle everything. He is good at playing with the kids when they are little and he has little occurring time off. He has consistently made very bad choices and recently put us in danger, by allowing his second son (now 34 yo) to live with us, and that son eventually got angry and pushed our son (now 24) off of the 10 foot deck, causing him to be in ICU for 7 days with punctured lung, broken rib, lacerated liver and other injuries. He is okay now, suffering from PTSD, as am I from the incident which I was home and helped save my son's life, calling 911, stopping the bleeding from the gaping puncture wound on my son's chest from landing on branches from recently chopped bush. My stepson is in jail since then awaiting trial. My son and I haven't stayed at our home since, we stay with my sister, for now, she has extra bedrooms. I don't want to ever live there again, nor does my son. ALong with the trauma and PTSD, we are afraid that when my stepson is released, even if convicted he'll eventually get out, we are afraid that he'll retaliate. I also am too angry at my husband (kind of like last straw!) for ignoring my requests to at least speak with his son about when he would leave our house, as things were getting worse in terms of his demeanor, I could tell his anger was gaining. I'm at a complete loss, I don't have money to get housing anywhere, I don't want to live there, I want to be away from the drama and traumatic daily living with husband. I need peace from him and our chaotic life. I don't love him now, I don't like him at all! I need to be divorced from him so I can live my golden years in peace. I think it will probably back fire. I don't want a contest, I just want what is fairly and rightfully mine. I should have the right after all these years to be able to find a place to live. Any suggestions for my next step? Thank you for reading this! 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I’ve been married to my husband for almost 10 years. He has two children that lived with us for the entire period but we don’t have any together. One of the children is 23 and disabled, the other is going to college in the fall. I had planned to wait for the youngest to move out but it’s too difficult to stay so I plan on moving out into an apartment early March. What are the next steps I should take to begin the divorce proceedings. I’m not really sure how to even find a lawyer. Also, side note, I’m a pretty successful business women. 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What’s repeating on your heartbreak playlist? 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Divorced already, have a parenting plan, basically just want a lawyer to draft a letter saying Ex has to follow the parenting plan. My lawyer for divorce proceedings was way more expensive then I'd prefer. I'm just looking for a quick letter that would carry more weight then my emails. Any suggestions?",5.944218749999997,8.071401234375003,5.811375000000003,76.19612500000002,67.90625,8.870000000000003,29.9875,9.3871,2.9581287500000006,285,11,46,6,5,89,45,64,0.0,0.971,0.029,0.168,2,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,7,0,4,1,0,0,0,7,8,2,0,3,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,6,6,2,7,0,0,1,0,12,1,0,0,4,27,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3219260228988457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19838314614906394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26663155644244185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449757031151673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6478526436151322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23199159559322394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720670869073126,0.2315578926165777,0.0,0.35524271395160684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.207233218829254,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,NanobotPreacher,2019/02/13,"Well, here I am, about to go this way myself Hello, I am 33, and months ago my soon to be ex wife has, out of the blue, told me that she no longer loved me and not wanted to be with me. As a response as for the why, I didn’t receive anything I could have deemed sufficient at this time. Till this day all of her answers were just cryptic messages that never clarified any of it. She has isolated herself from me, and basically doesn’t want to interact with me anymore, at all. Over two years ago, I moved across the planet for her, just to end up in a world that I didn’t know, speaking a language that wasn’t my first one. I felt lost, alone and severely depressed. But there was no time for me to grief, for she did that to me while I attended my first semester of college and worked whenever I didn’t have classes, to pay for bills and be able to afford nice things occasionally. It was difficult for me to get to terms with it, and the lack of time to actually sit down and self reflect made it very difficult for me to actually come to terms with it. I struggled, I went through every stage of grief, and I just didn’t want to exist anymore. This transition was difficult for me. This loneliness consumed me. I didn’t know what I had done wrongly for this to happen to me. I am in a better place now, though. I am seeing a therapist, I have found coping strategies, and I have found love again. Yet, until this process is done, it will always be difficult for me. Thanks to some magnificent people in my life I am still standing and willing to fight my way through it. Koste es was es wolle ",4.833411214953274,5.124146757009349,5.483830218068537,84.33303504672901,68.96884735202492,8.91221183800623,29.757165109034272,8.841846274778883,2.092454080996885,1243,44,265,20,20,403,164,321,0.133,0.7909999999999999,0.076,-0.9306,1,1,0,0,1,0,39.0,0,0,0,5,13,18,1,1,9,0,35,3,0,1,3,39,55,18,2,5,5,2,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,21,17,0,0,7,0,2,6,11,11,1,4,22,4,44,7,57,26,6,45,0,4,2,2,18,12,0,1,22,203,65,4,0.11999003534520265,0.0,0.23418593145246014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21272785309813785,0.0,0.0,0.12427348951635095,0.0,0.0,0.09984132160852888,0.0,0.0,0.08159733866837432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23799574555626585,0.0,0.0,0.09874157527550348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10612143537603733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033607908060668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580227954510613,0.0,0.0,0.07738364626970158,0.0,0.1033472416197019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455829316171996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10627555638649308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109677990612248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11520925088168538,0.0,0.0,0.2041269255353828,0.0,0.2631257608703083,0.0,0.0,0.06268984106179365,0.0,0.0681931022581283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10610679198258556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13188677083040778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847525104912393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098329782201354,0.0,0.21659138324560365,0.11353747268131127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577490144082892,0.12753041826164685,0.0,0.0,0.09254371240926056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08130835331643188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318598235394017,0.0,0.12536404835855025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561652300788023,0.0,0.1251757757193835,0.13555458613439675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958241972241262,0.0,0.0,0.1254396375725926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047070337619723,0.0,0.13931767926694655,0.07971604778331955,0.0,0.1178896005039764,0.0,0.20990146363227344,0.0,0.0,0.1146556208323396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11721282929821372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09900434553287338,0.21231969504365328,0.19048500996120632,0.0,0.0,0.1078854519992752,0.11123196489372586,0.1082723436429379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08735417480573125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13119026729866368,0.0,0.07726964873447031 divorce,tmwatz,2019/02/13,"Hard days Has anyone else had days where they had to take a day or more off of work because of the crippling depression you feel from going through separation and/or divorce? My husband 42M and I 38F recently separated and I’m finding it extremely difficult. I feel so rejected on all fronts. I had a talk with my employer today and they made me feel extremely small and insignificant. I thought after everything I have done for them that they would have some sympathy towards me and give me a break. Instead they named all the days off that I called in sick from the beginning of the year. I told them to just take it off my vacation days. They don’t offer sick days or stress leave. Cold hearted bastards is all I heard. I’ve been there for 7 years and was there for them through their personal family crisis yet here is mine and it’s like, “NOPE, you need to get over it and you need to take care of yourself and your kids”. No shit Sherlock! I know what I need to do but throw me a fucking bone!!!",3.209741532976828,5.148581762626264,3.9109387997623313,87.7677807486631,74.8080808080808,7.891146761734997,26.79857397504456,8.671277953709913,1.8926912655971475,791,30,164,16,17,251,122,198,0.139,0.833,0.029,-0.9468,1,1,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,4,9,1,8,9,3,1,8,0,14,6,3,1,3,30,35,13,0,4,4,1,4,1,0,1,2,1,0,2,7,10,0,0,6,0,0,3,3,7,0,0,10,6,31,2,25,24,5,26,0,2,0,1,24,9,3,3,14,112,38,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09573861139236513,0.14029213284120995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834660014444008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13981203612457935,0.0,0.1396004706605702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.529817771260634,0.0,0.11793018262551445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011810824085116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438024232684545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230561062087756,0.0,0.1290772899113715,0.0,0.20769468891319964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1251436593627356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265816080546725,0.07153576901826482,0.13134746261975155,0.07781557472713754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12265466099101854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1622524927131455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524840879233631,0.0,0.0,0.1449799698914621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06689286934435494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955831890915076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045764015869911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955446635815695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1351933429005015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14054782736512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15684297640461614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088435095542169,0.11005221750790656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10870028022235108,0.0,0.0,0.1297854569733695,0.13083424474506594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09968039423683182,0.0,0.0,0.09726501878411307,0.0,0.0,0.1763457571552304 divorce,deepthought--42,2019/02/13,"Tips for when you want to call Decided to divorce a week ago. 14 years together. I know it's for the best, the feeling is mutual, and it was a long time coming. She is my best friend. We've been texting and emailing about the asset split, all very civil. But I want to call her so badly. We've been living apart for 6 months and I'm scheduled to pick up my things for my house on Saturday while she's out visiting her her parents. I haven't seen her for 6 weeks. My rational brain says rip the band aid off, don't call, don't see her. But I feel like I need closure and I want to say goodbye properly. What should I do?",1.197272727272729,2.890719636363638,2.913636363636364,93.76545454545456,79.9090909090909,6.521212121212122,21.60606060606061,7.492282038375204,0.5913969696969703,480,14,112,7,12,159,85,132,0.031,0.799,0.171,0.9326,1,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,0,1,0,2,3,5,0,0,6,0,10,1,1,1,1,19,21,9,0,5,2,1,2,1,1,1,0,2,0,0,4,6,0,0,4,1,0,2,3,1,0,0,4,6,19,4,15,16,3,18,0,0,2,0,19,5,0,0,12,66,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775734869474128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391760989699053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34985397866152723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18607703855442784,0.5106160503636502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14358548902809293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685632044501476,0.11908072684800385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287814227862654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19233361179744266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160643188939596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143450709224835,0.0,0.14718705775122254,0.1475121312069213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304741529891284,0.0,0.0,0.1235957802292541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18508541143474366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2651112739475536,0.0,0.0,0.1328274010694445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1107389718585912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09719612265706283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13753365525149913,0.2949476973365913,0.0,0.26741139284180143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734051291639952 divorce,throwaway990103,2019/02/13,"Impending divorce I am using a throwaway for obvious reasons. I dont know why I need validation from strangers in the web but I think it may make me feel better about my decision. Me and DH have been together 9 years married for 5. No kids. No house etc. I have been financially controlled and emotionally manipulated to the point where I emotionally checked out 3 months ago. I cannot go for girls night as I would need his permission. I cannot have Male friends. I cannot go for coffee with a coworker or hes texting wanting me home. I am afraid nightly to come home as I dont know what the fight will be that specific night. I am simply fed up. My husband is my first we met when I was 19 and naive. I was severely obese and thought that maybe no one else would love me. I now realize I deserve better and I have been emotionally involved with my best friend for 3 months... its recently gotten physical. I spoke to my therapist today and she believes this new relationship is a very positive thing. But I am still feeling slightly guilty. I still love my husband but our priorities are very different I want kids. He does not. I want a dog but i am not allowed to have a dog. I spend all my time walking on egg shells and apologizing for things i didnt do as this man has damaged me beyond words emotionally. I cry regularly when it comes to my best friend as I didnt realize i was so unhappy until i found happiness. I'm not sure what I'm looking for here other than support and to tell my story... I've got some commitments and such as well as legal and financial aspects to tie up but I am looking at legal separation as early as the end of April. My best friend is waiting and loves me for who I am. I am sick and tired of being unhappy and being an emotional punching bag",2.6485265363128505,4.6304744776536335,4.4954713687150845,82.75845844972069,76.56983240223464,8.162150837988827,28.226606145251388,8.930421266530582,2.385968994413408,1405,61,285,33,32,477,196,358,0.14300000000000002,0.652,0.205,0.9822,2,0,0,0,2,0,29.0,2,0,0,7,12,19,1,1,10,0,40,8,0,6,4,59,72,31,0,7,9,2,2,0,4,4,3,1,2,5,13,19,3,2,11,0,2,5,13,3,1,2,15,5,54,16,38,50,6,35,0,1,2,3,29,9,0,3,21,197,67,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07538910869104644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581894027657063,0.26775500362217464,0.15043446938418745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14652106490025574,0.0,0.0,0.09538753662454524,0.0,0.0,0.09342022848430197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885610163415951,0.0,0.0,0.07442527650084059,0.0,0.1993490985567697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104592584106383,0.4783326134714485,0.07532647328440409,0.0,0.09484998005834082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08600472229545045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07234100636956424,0.0,0.09324973808913793,0.2628286651211928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666843571717842,0.0,0.06801992242938187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053420256920697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17061831952505505,0.0,0.0,0.09813291652041524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347930659985383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428362621358667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302749418363285,0.0,0.056769589101296376,0.0,0.08544122717849034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13576754241516134,0.0,0.0,0.12612267060514126,0.0,0.08213900387702552,0.0,0.2394327818073141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05763010528606841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08039698421081816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08744256712387162,0.08397373548543557,0.09130874044219764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09607899744977316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583742259513562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651042329043448,0.08015587036246803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433490018801514,0.0,0.0,0.09874621975331843,0.11300300742441773,0.0544947375011216,0.0,0.06751788499898521,0.04959163872437825,0.09774911235014684,0.08061469152189803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07345337442334571,0.0,0.14034550262339945,0.15048892125575564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764675424351117,0.0,0.07674176525784933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12083001698351728,0.0,0.0,0.054767533843107764 divorce,Lord-Ochu,2019/02/13,"At what point did you wake up and realize the person you married was a complete waste of your time..? For me, it was when we moved to her home town and most of the things I enjoyed in life slowly fell away, one by one. When all that was left was her, then I realised how grounded, boring and unimaginative she really is. It's really depressing. But it is was it is I suppose. 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Divorce because of abuse. I know that this isn't the suffering Olympics but sometimes I read people's posts and think, ""oh, that was it?"" My stbex was someone that had no limits and became really abusive as soon as we got married. It started as we were driving away from our wedding and I had to run away 3 months later. I can't imagine how much worse it would have been in a years time. I'm safe now. I guess reading this sub helps me see normal people marital problems. It's kind of hopeful in a weird way. 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Located in Utah. I’ve finally “manned up” and left my abusive husband. I don’t have money to file for divorce and he sure as hell won’t do it. I also do not have money for a lawyer. He works for a high profile company and gets free legal representation. I should have left a long time ago, but that’s neither here nor there. What I want to know is what can be used in court? I have proof of the abuse (physical, verbal), I have pictures of everything he’s damaged. I have proof of his illegal drug use that he tried to hide from me. I have proof of his numerous infidelities. Do any of those things stand in court to grant me a divorce when he will fight it with a lawyer? He’s taken everything from the home we shared and I am getting evicted next month. I don’t have a lot of support and I’m the one who is taking care of the kids with no help from him. Any advice or tips on what I need to do next would be incredibly helpful. I know he is going to continue to make my life a living hell in an attempt to make me change my mind. 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It’s ups and downs each day like I’m either crazy and it’s all in my head or I’m just an asshole who expects to much. Either way I find myself going on and on in my mind about it may be time to make the Big D a reality. It scares me and it also gives me hope in a weird way. Struggling to figure things out....",-1.3731818181818165,0.5457325909090933,1.7436363636363659,96.81045454545456,92.4090909090909,4.563636363636364,15.954545454545453,6.11248444174946,-0.5958090909090911,300,7,74,3,11,106,61,88,0.157,0.755,0.08800000000000001,-0.6461,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,2,6,0,2,1,1,1,1,21,10,7,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,1,6,3,15,8,5,16,0,1,0,0,2,11,0,3,4,50,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2047347973027442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16510824887463685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944868310259636,0.18289689406009135,0.0,0.0,0.2339927225088973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24559254963086966,0.14549900711485342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627448580094661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542802816197787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501516208495729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089174532052553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585017823430779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882002014506411,0.18983159509697906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400951974646466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563152944583923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676420651838553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17008473613195546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14928418241308766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4064249741082125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Brettgraham4,2019/02/13,"Is anyone else considering a V-day gift for their STBX? We separated 3 months ago. It is my fault, though it precipitated from years of intermittant fury and emotional manipulation on her part. I recently talked with her and she made it clear that she still wants a divorce; but every time I think about not getting her Valentines flowers like I do every year, it hurts so bad i can barely think. I still love her even though I have also come to the conclusion that divorce is the best path for us. Does that mean I shouldn't buy her flowers or make her chocolates? Anyone else in this conundrum? 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I am devastated. We did it all ourselves. No lawyers, no arguing. Just $150 bucks to a website to spit out the forms. It took about 15 minutes to actually file. He walked away saying ""wow, that was easy"" and I was bawling. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this man. Despite our flaws, I truly love him with all my heart. I will miss him so much. I'm just so sad.",-0.9594444444444434,1.157576666666671,1.3190432098765434,97.62819444444449,97.14814814814815,4.181481481481482,17.86111111111111,5.985473137389443,-0.37417777777777816,294,9,69,3,12,98,62,81,0.214,0.7070000000000001,0.078,-0.8833,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,3,0,5,4,2,0,2,11,10,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,3,0,0,4,1,12,2,10,5,5,5,0,2,0,1,10,2,0,0,1,46,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.3406525279301277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279729244354324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41366245625191705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24656610897334116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150590719642604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566145708071045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27760308168781017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3308878034453261,0.0,0.3878416389256308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205896913896261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,karenfromonline,2019/02/13,"Just did something completely humiliating and stupid. I had a sham crash & burn marriage that lasted \~9 months and I was/still am very much in love with him despite all the shitty things he did and the 8 months that's passed. Our divorce was finalized on Sunday and we haven't had any communication in over two months which really helped with the healing process... until D-Day. Today I had the glorious idea to stop by his house on my lunch break. I don't know what I thought I wanted or what could be gained by that. Even though he was obviously home and has a camera doorball, he didn't answer. I feel completely humiliated and just devastated. Like being treated so callously in the marriage, still continually going back for more, and now this, do I have any self-respect? Appaaaaaarently not. 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So my ex wife is engaged to the woman she left me for THE DAY BEFORE OUR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY. I'm so freaking mad I could scream. We still have contact because I'm working on getting the house out of her name and she's been telling me how great her life is going. I snooped on her facebook page, that was the first issue. But god damn if I'm not enraged. Everything I wanted from my ex wife she's giving to this other woman. I feel so cheated and betrayed and angry and sad and lonely and just jiaosdifhasldfh. I'm so god damn mad. &#x200B; Thanks for being here through the hard times and for letting me vent.",2.4121614583333333,4.5313654765625015,3.2278125000000024,90.91927083333336,77.828125,5.204166666666667,26.291666666666664,5.985473137389443,0.8338572916666669,503,20,100,3,12,159,81,128,0.242,0.639,0.12,-0.9634,0,2,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,0,0,2,8,14,6,0,5,0,9,1,0,1,0,18,19,14,0,3,4,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,3,9,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,10,0,1,2,3,18,4,11,14,1,9,0,2,0,0,21,4,2,1,4,65,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241014729274682,0.2702901609335414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13559796825125914,0.0,0.1892809064327506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760103736017682,0.0,0.0,0.1434560421471102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991562665112544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124728526020158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18920819995289706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162162409640482,0.2133856751010241,0.1264183457779829,0.0,0.0,0.2452419864726308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992634430679895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2566670471253983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321706107707668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416827960595551,0.2274609921209609,0.1571166558206629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17764166898761802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194423237442962,0.20479378581261795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12970713522865404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13120146434509855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16193969639246028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2702901609335414,0.0 divorce,tequilasunrise86,2019/02/13,"Too little too late? Hoping this is the right place to ask this question. Any women out there have experience with the ""too little too late"" feeling? Like, you regularly brought up things you needed to repair in your marriage and your spouse refused/made excuses, and then only when you left said he was willing to make changes? I came back after being separated for a short period, and husband has been trying harder to be more affectionate and open, but I feel like it's not having much of an effect. Has anyone had this experience? If so, what did you end up doing? Do you have any regrets? Thanks in advance!",4.900175438596488,6.826936035087723,5.4973684210526335,78.2099122807018,70.2280701754386,7.522807017543862,26.701754385964907,8.167268648758528,1.8419017543859644,484,16,84,7,9,156,87,114,0.027000000000000003,0.848,0.125,0.87,0,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,7,0,2,8,6,0,0,4,0,15,0,0,2,0,19,25,9,0,4,3,2,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,6,8,0,0,4,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,7,3,9,5,13,15,2,23,0,1,0,0,16,12,0,3,10,65,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2333126088813517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199480695066672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16037117330385986,0.0,0.0,0.13190731478879675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19620148036851048,0.0,0.0,0.18147158690940626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519377207976279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33560734146979143,0.0,0.0,0.17347634787130273,0.2451031903770123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17038263168781825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387019873122279,0.0,0.18638385989947345,0.0,0.0,0.16761618797109396,0.343865788030004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450744476118566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12610512070804464,0.1271982496797888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13046750344148858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792277398980764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19216936655097197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14649826904914082,0.1631783293009696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15793534709758944,0.0,0.0,0.11396670149761465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646761669048344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MishMeeter,2019/02/13,"I feel like I'm going through life in grayscale Officially divorced for 2 months (9 years together/7 married). It was completely amicable and I (30M) initiated it. No children just two dogs. We separated 7 months ago with the intent to go to counseling. I never let counseling happen. I decided to separate due to a myriad of trust issues focused primarily on financial and life direction challenges. The icing on the cake was two separate instances of emotional affairs that she willingly initiated. I decided that there were too many differences between us to ever recover from. So now I'm here. The day before Valentine's. The first I've spent alone for a decade. I feel I've made a great mistake in my handling of our marital issues. Personal counseling has been revelatory. To keep things short I've realized that I didn't communicate my needs or feelings adequately. I never addressed concerns and just let them build until they were figurative mountains in the path of our relationship. I am now certain that I do not enjoy single life. I am far happier when I am around others. I have tried dating a few times. It isn't hard to talk to women or get a date. I even tried picking up a random girl without a dating app. It worked very well. I just kept coming to the grocery store on her shift and going through her line. 2 weeks later I had her phone number and a date set up. None of the people I meet interest me. Every time I've been on a date I only wish it was my now ex across the table. The pain of having no one to care for, the ache of realizing I didn't do my part to fix the relationship, the dull reality I'm living now. It has all combined into a constant daydream of what could have been had I been more open, more willing to listen, less critical of our differences, and a more patient partner. My past is full of vivid color, happiness, fulfillment, and hope. Somehow I lost all of that and focused on the toxic parts of my relationship that I felt were her problems, not ours. I encouraged the behavior I didn't approve of by abandoning her emotionally. As I walk forward I wonder how I will ever manage to love as strongly as I did in the past. I wonder how I could have ever unwittingly shattered something so beautiful. I dream of a day that isn't greyscale. Personal counseling has really helped me. I can only imagine what it could have done to repair our relationship. I wonder if she would even be interested in hearing how I feel now. For now I will continue to fix myself. I can only hope that someday I'll find the vivid color that used to be my constant companion. My ex was the color that brightened my life. 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This may seem so silly. I don’t know. But the ",-4.204285714285714,-4.934802142857142,-0.7392857142857139,106.59678571428572,141.85714285714286,1.4,3.5,3.1291,-3.0926571428571425,46,0,12,0,4,16,14,14,0.0,0.649,0.35100000000000003,0.6615,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,9,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5168146901124058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8560972935852666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gussekras,2019/02/13,"I'm a child, and I don't think my parents like eachother anymore. I love my parents, but they seem to only stay together for us children. They don't sleep in the same room, they argue all the time, and it's generally just a negative tone between them. I don't really have a problem with it if they need a divorce, actually I think it could probably help them be more positive people. By no means do they hate one another, but it seems that their romantic relationship is very forced. Am I wrong for thinking they should separate? 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My wife and i moved abroad with our son, we have been here almost 2 years. I have been very clear with my intentions to go home next year. Last night we started at discussion about what we are going to do when we go home, she told me she dosnt want to go home, and that she dosnt want to live in our homecountry. We revisited the discussion today and decided that this is something neither of us can budge on, i want to go home and live close to family, have a house and a yard. She wants to move around and see different countries. I honestly dont feel bad about getting a divorce since we have fundamentally different goals. My only regret and biggest worry is our son, i want whats best for him, and i worry about where and how he is going to grow up. Thanks for reading, i just really needed to tell someone.",5.5016071428571465,5.572462136904764,6.273904761904763,80.00442857142859,67.51190476190476,9.815238095238096,29.3,9.642632912329526,2.4443171428571424,661,21,134,13,10,218,98,168,0.05,0.8270000000000001,0.123,0.8571,2,0,1,0,2,0,17.0,10,0,0,2,10,5,0,0,5,0,13,0,0,2,1,35,32,11,0,7,2,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,5,19,0,0,3,2,0,9,2,2,0,0,3,2,26,3,23,29,2,25,0,1,1,0,25,8,0,1,8,89,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11438011697405025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168471535359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537333665760477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987238302714374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23868220960125505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13387117612206909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768142712264722,0.0,0.05775573307879851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935598746289107,0.0,0.3895011498029121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4583090722386303,0.0,0.0,0.1318006356285145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931088477183123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20172602788047836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428067888730243,0.0,0.08469659693373717,0.0,0.0,0.1214798799284446,0.10719268638042334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08687347176358626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11425618984578118,0.0,0.07317563854513061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09102275845718397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09448833104702044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09678270810566614,0.08793620021103082,0.0,0.0,0.08084924029358755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983792840931574,0.10516329012693866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827220835092956,0.10914714897048086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13739894628467628,0.0,0.0,0.09424781770100152,0.3368651447419233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320026306249248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14711466912992627 divorce,dennissharke,2019/02/13,"Have you heard this many problems before? Hey first time posting on here but I wanted to ask this question.... my ex wife had so many problems such as ... Cheating,Bulimic,Pathological lier, stealing, alcoholic. Let me know! 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She intentionally destroyed our finances and caused us to lose our house and go into bankruptcy. We have 3 kids and I had no money so we agreed to do the free program and agreed on everything but in front of the judge she suddenly found a extra document not in everything I had looked at for child support which I never thought of as my ex made the same as I did or so I thought she lowered her hours for several months so our income was very different. I argued she should have to work full time as all of our kids were in school full time and I had the kids 3 days out of the week and she 4 only because before and after care would have cost 18 grand as it was a charter school. But as out youngest was 5 they were not required to work, and I could request they change it when she turned 6. I did but as she was not legally required to submit pay stubs so they did not change anything. So I got by living at my moms, years go by kids become teenagers and disrespected my mom and she kicked us out. I finally have a day in court and she got a lawyer that is playing hard ball. They want to modify time share and argue I lost intentionally lost my last job and want to use how much I would have made there. Any suggestions for defending your point of view, they want me to request her pay stubs when she gave the court the pay stubs I am just confused. I just want things to be fair. . 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My STBX \[38M\] and I have 2 children (3, 8). Is it of benefit to go through the mediation process prior to filing or file immediately due to Iowa's 90 day waiting period?",4.605,7.048569888888893,5.841944444444442,73.21625000000002,72.33333333333333,8.944444444444445,37.91666666666667,9.516144504307137,4.144,195,12,34,5,4,65,36,45,0.0,0.932,0.068,0.4588,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,7,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,5,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5791767460131972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.510390256472988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6356540591980846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,usernameoftheyears,2019/02/14,"Valentine’s Day before separation First post but I need to get it out there. We’re fighting again. The kids are reacting to it and everyone is in horrible moods. No ones enjoying Valentine’s Day. All I can think is how being divorced would have made for a more enjoyable Valentine’s Day. He went through all the effort, made dinner and bought flowers and a card. But I got home from work and we immediately go to his parents. The guys start talking about boring men stuff and I get bored so I’m looking on my phone at old baby pictures of our kids. It makes me happy. I need to find happiness. He’s now angry I’m not giving him my attention. Like really I’ve worked all day and I need some down time. And I’m not able to contribute to your conversation. Am I being selfish? We get home and he still hasn’t spoken to me. Not after I apologized, hugged him, offered to help. Nothing. Now he’s put the food on the grill and has locked me out of the bedroom stating he’s going to bed. I’m so tired of this. I am so unhappy. Thanks for reading I just needed to put it out there. 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Hello, Im a 33 m, married about 10 years, most of it in DB, with very similar story to most out here. DB at home, wanting my wife was made to feel like I'm committing a sin. I discussed, argued, debated, tried it all. Her attitude and respect for me kept getting worse and worse and after loads of lonely breakdowns I decided not to let her hurt me anymore, apathy took over, I gave up! I decided I will never confide with her for any of my needs. I told her I don't love her and I don't see any hope and it's the best course of action to divorce as I don't see a way to move past this much damage. Then seeing me less responsive to her feeble efforts she made matters worse. Played the victim card in front of friends and family. I totally shut down and decided I can't do this anymore and have to leave, broken over the thought of not having my toddler in my daily life. Well when she realised I have made up my mind she turned around, like a total 180 degrees. She started asking for sex. I started feeling more and more angry as to why after so many years and so much misery. I tried a couple of months to comply, to go with the flow, but I couldn't. Felt pathetic each time we had sex. Felt that this is just her fear of change making her do things she doesn't desire. I couldn't do it, not after the years I spent longing for her and felt miserable. Now the issue is, she doesn't get it. Doesn't understand why I have become this stone cold person. Why I don't care anymore. She keeps pushing to make things as they were to the point I don't recognize her at all. If I leave, I will be the father abandoning the child and he will be raised to hate me. If I stay I can't be at peace living this fake life with absolute no friendship at home. We don't fight anymore, as we don't talk to each other at all except out of necessity. Feeling at cross roads and wishing this process could be made amicable. How does one leave when their mind is made up but their partner is not making it easy to leave or not agreeing to leave, without having to become the asshole hurting everyone in the process? Thank you! 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I guess my husband thought today was a good day to ask for a divorce. When I asked him about it and today's date, he shrugged and said ""he didn't think that far ahead"". Happy Valentine's Day guys.",2.1976666666666667,4.04331271111111,2.695277777777779,95.77625000000003,77.44444444444444,4.5,24.583333333333336,3.1291,0.04666666666666641,172,6,37,0,4,53,34,45,0.0,0.762,0.238,0.8908,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,8,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,1,4,3,4,4,0,9,0,0,0,0,9,1,0,1,8,17,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4159166242021539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4303805552237731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865783442782878,0.0,0.0,0.2450509151323117,0.22025792168254535,0.0,0.4735988358768226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21159843900753333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14253532648180858,0.0,0.1765984060661544,0.0,0.0,0.4217082933950284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,torpedo821,2019/02/14,"A Particularly Tough Day Yes, It's Valentines day. Yes, It's my first one alone since I was 20 (now 40). My big plans for tonight... attend my part of our court mandated parenting class. It's required in my county for all divorcing couples with children. This whole thing sucks. I miss her so much, I miss the life we had, I miss my little family. She's moving on with her life and I still don't know how to pick up the pieces of mine. Just needed to vent a little. Thanks everyone.",0.7233161512027486,3.1490626288659804,2.2820876288659804,93.0984579037801,87.65979381443299,5.707560137457046,18.392611683848802,7.1686216300943375,0.2799353951890038,373,10,81,6,12,121,71,97,0.116,0.795,0.08900000000000001,0.1132,1,2,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,0,3,5,6,1,0,4,2,3,2,0,2,1,11,10,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,5,0,2,2,0,16,1,11,8,5,14,0,3,0,0,8,6,1,0,6,52,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2221084595670809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372879809375724,0.0,0.27660867230071456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2049188722621943,0.0,0.0,0.20216704529336196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824134703357744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785766868067354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029487563745489,0.0,0.429876155221574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22792942290650856,0.15764750763456775,0.15901405846891156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531878983467786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23812449244655334,0.2322315200402701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17739759968745433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17126230958455965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974393561303416,0.0,0.0,0.1424729332445385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394289296750957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,srslyconsideringdvrc,2019/02/14,"Based on y'all experience, does this sound like a foregone conclusion to you? Hey all - Throwaway for obvious reasons. I can't believe I'm posting here, but I'm suddenly at my wits end and I don't know what else to do. I've been to therapy for myself in the past. I've talked at length about a lot of these issues with my husband over the years (been together 10, married 5). I think I'm just at the point where I'm exhausted, ready to cut my losses and hope for better. At the very least, I already feel very alone in our relationship - strictly speaking I physically am alone: 6 months ago he moved out of state for work, and I don't want to follow him; emotionally speaking, I feel very alone for lots of other reasons - so I don't think it can really be worse to be officially divorced. For context, I love him and care about him, I just don't think I can be with him anymore. There's been no cheating. That's where my heart has gotten me. Today I started second guessing myself, because this is a huge decision to make, and so I sat down and tried to write out all of the reasons I should stay and all of the reasons I can't. I've tried to be honest and fair. I know this is just my perspective. I know my husband doesn't agree with some of this - especially that we don't connect physically or emotionally - and I know that he would definitely agree with some of it. We've talked about most of it before. &#x200B; [Here's the list.](https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1_k7A6tvxturPbqbZJ1ITmKUT7k-kVrjHR_b6oI1iG80/edit?usp=sharing) &#x200B; I was hoping to get another opinion on all of this before I talk to my husband about the real possibility of divorce. Though I know that if it's gotten to this point I need to have a huge conversation with him either way - not that we haven't spent the last 3 years having huge conversations. Not that I haven't spent the last three years in therapy working on my stress, my anxiety, my things so that I wasn't bringing as much of that to our relationship. I don't think he'll be surprised that I'm really unhappy. I think he'll be surprised that divorce in on the table. So am I.",5.756784726065303,6.2827400455635525,6.171954436450839,79.37898312119539,67.0095923261391,9.197159195720348,31.386183361003514,9.162432508145574,2.5394605054418005,1697,64,332,29,26,548,186,417,0.112,0.765,0.122,0.7408,0,3,0,0,3,0,69.0,4,2,0,5,17,14,2,1,15,0,34,3,1,5,5,66,70,18,0,7,9,3,2,1,0,4,1,3,0,0,24,18,0,0,18,0,2,3,15,5,0,2,10,5,51,9,57,50,12,42,0,1,0,1,33,23,0,11,13,223,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0733855225032915,0.0,0.0,0.25722654072734297,0.09135731654152132,0.0,0.0,0.1793989737834406,0.20119010004560775,0.0,0.0868092010307418,0.06333169212143537,0.0,0.08210228179734247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05046607820319398,0.0,0.14089097572179787,0.09327239862623472,0.0,0.07321821633086327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440668233342849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244730569569383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06915776668673862,0.18624806357014895,0.07332455173279875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809813973196476,0.0,0.0,0.08371900919093501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04325269751907534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119901774189956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810278250095876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16445198764306956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640793332485662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274873611448595,0.13496461844318974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04044545943436609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076479091239225,0.07471833893729272,0.0,0.05526084643829431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0660796513721597,0.08798929000497854,0.06085783963709565,0.06138537941733255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07902938898456809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652061143682086,0.09332970269274392,0.07928689094567291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422952761264174,0.10607071591584012,0.3404745639698258,0.0,0.1777641291377652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859693861026979,0.08823973696008278,0.0,0.0,0.09483202472721364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996227344934649,0.0,0.0,0.18934789146808867,0.0,0.05499988584736454,0.2652322632960427,0.08133763214070001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0784722271093617,0.0,0.0,0.1124136355394171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20492339450277447,0.04882981246256119,0.0657123257789799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12053958459318585,0.0,0.08436684414611233,0.05880938297570103,0.0,0.20119010004560775,0.15993599700577826 divorce,TheCarbageGan,2019/02/14,"Why wasn’t it enough? Maybe I’m just really emotional because today we started the paperwork process and filed after having the talk last night. It feels so hard because I still love my husband and I consider him my best friend but we’ve been living like roommates since last summer. When we first started dating we had so much in common and I felt very comfortable with him. We got engaged after 5 months of dating and knowing each other and then married 8 months after the engagement. Now after many individual therapy sessions I now know that we probably rushed things but I thought he was a trustworthy guy with a lot in common and everything would fall into place when we were married. We shared a lot of good times and I enjoyed spending time with him but the physical intimacy dwindled away insidiously. But we never cheated on each other and there was no abuse. We went to marital counseling and we each receive individual’s therapy and even with that things aren’t changing. I view him in a platonic light and not someone I want to be physically intimate with. I don’t know why but although the personality compatibility is there the physical compatibility/attraction isn’t. I’m really angry, sad, disappointed in myself that I can’t force myself to develop that physical connection with him especially when he’s a good guy and has done nothing to deserve this. I really wish that us having lots in common, being good people, and spending good times together was enough.",7.496843137254902,8.534295974074078,8.129302832244012,65.06774509803923,63.33333333333333,11.389978213507627,36.25272331154685,11.20814326018867,4.546010893246186,1203,55,191,34,17,401,150,270,0.084,0.718,0.198,0.9877,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,11,0,0,2,12,16,1,0,11,0,19,1,0,0,1,53,34,25,0,3,7,1,3,1,1,1,0,0,0,3,12,33,0,0,6,0,2,4,8,3,0,1,12,5,31,13,24,19,10,43,0,2,1,1,27,9,0,3,31,143,43,1,0.0,0.12771998509919172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10127737661154804,0.0,0.0,0.1314222153962407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11312467759399103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403329622942457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031217431932118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212553758838531,0.0,0.222763037218978,0.0,0.07119788013980227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687960256946797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054504619986275114,0.0,0.10350053957551827,0.0,0.0,0.091690757352899,0.0,0.0,0.08328249967902268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36165484701133466,0.0862138711586884,0.0,0.0,0.21346889232311952,0.0,0.0,0.09656355280690086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17772468581327144,0.175735363113571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052663413433687065,0.0,0.09518536000543253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749315183113094,0.09728960505241638,0.0,0.0,0.1092876702939572,0.10829502134840248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17208260449671392,0.0,0.07924206114385628,0.0,0.08313849882173573,0.0,0.0,0.10115873048484698,0.0,0.10343264452398122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473179447711377,0.09412283179619324,0.11262330541326322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11622173037548217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20716958257877968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916951274480031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09133473761548276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15259635307091846,0.0,0.08608558810327764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08664190199522417,0.0,0.0,0.2465469902094376,0.0,0.1432290184210019,0.0,0.0,0.08557754890492526,0.18856918673954248,0.0,0.10217748536220264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12966465759413914,0.0,0.0,0.08894253807358449,0.06358055113153814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999274649947044,0.19453725985352185,0.0,0.12395945121524833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07657479709076576,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwawaydivorcee998,2019/02/14,"This dark tunnel... Been going through a divorce for about a month. STBX has already been on ""two dates"" with some other person, so I assume that they were talking or more before hand. Short-term marriage (>5 years) but STBX makes much, much more than me. Own house together. Offers me a low, low amount to sign and walk away. I get a lawyer who says I'm entitled to much more than that, regardless of the short-term marriage stuff. So, we're trying to get to whatever steps are next. This morning, I figure out STBX has been attempting to get any and all access to security cameras out of my possession (doorbell and inside alarm camera) by resetting and changing login info. At this point, I feel that I'm strapped for what I can do. Have reached out to my lawyer, but haven't heard anything. At the moment, STBX can have anyone over at any time. Meanwhile, I'm practically under surveillance, and I'm not the one who has cheated or seeing someone so soon after. STBX can have people over who may go through my things, or remove our shared property without my knowledge, and at the moment, I cannot do a single thing about it. I'm beyond frustrated. I'm beyond over it. I am surrounded by darkness in this black tunnel with no light in sight. I pray that STBX settles for something more than the original offer so I can simply get away. So I can escape the darkness and move forward into the light that I know is there. Somewhere. If not, I pray that I can find the courage through this chaos to make it till the end, no matter when that is. That I can turn this anger and fresh hate into a steadfast resolve. I'm going to make it. And everyone else here will too.",4.372479360165118,5.811426303405572,4.673610681114552,85.52587525799794,70.79566563467492,7.240918472652218,27.08062435500516,7.6454224807358475,1.4894438596491222,1308,44,252,15,24,411,174,323,0.127,0.762,0.111,-0.8888,0,1,1,0,1,0,52.0,1,0,1,2,14,11,4,1,15,0,27,1,1,4,1,43,50,22,0,2,9,0,2,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,26,16,0,1,8,0,0,8,7,7,0,2,5,9,22,4,49,43,12,45,2,2,3,0,15,25,0,7,14,181,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940277945397635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19646019671371265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10100191945774188,0.0,0.11886900736608152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714286973531025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1229152408380454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528076164983519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066838922184672,0.0,0.1279387113249196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380269638119011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730376244802615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13202353386765428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3018740245194993,0.0,0.24628064780272185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426132280461006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16667445495257616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07938525129656189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892619721346556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529760825762335,0.15352615334975336,0.3185593389876469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15362287653791426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09788220637890388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001425703569709,0.12612707042963073,0.0,0.0,0.13655075175903153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11487143789908058,0.0,0.0,0.11510694604608505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223909508889824,0.11120369921496236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16535925126931028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610242771670175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919306522042319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422922346215253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980712143912704,0.15711875249682206,0.14110543234066894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924343324410646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302025432513997 divorce,Passivefamiliar,2019/02/14,"Years gone. Finally about to get a lawyer, $problems. Lost ... I've posted before. Vaguely. Comments sometimes. I hate the feeling. Short version. It was, mostly my doing. Specifics are more shady and complicated, but ultimately I cheated and I left. We have a little boy, ... spawned at leaving, which is why I had to leave. He... shouldn't be here. She forced that, and that's an entirely different bag of hurt and confusion for another time. My issue is, I want full custody. I want to be able to move away. But i'm terrified of losing. Right now we have a unofficial 50/50thing going. But she constantly drops him off with my parents, who smoke, multiple things, I have lost contact with my parents they disagree with me leaving. I'm with another woman, that I left her for, years in the making, have ANOTHER child... an accident but welcome. My unofficial STBX is about to move in, with a convicted felon(theft not a violent crime) but he does has violent history. I'm looking at getting a background check now. I do not want this person around my son. She didn't tell me about him at all. My son, about 4, makes it seem like he's around a lot, but i'm not pressuring him for information. The clothes she gets him are always a size to small. Nails never trimmed. Always day 1 at my house he just wants to sleep. So i'm under the strong impression he doesn't get good sleep. I don't know if this is too far to much off base. This entire situation is sickening and exhausting. I just wanna make sure my boy is ok. And at my house he does chores, school (we were putting him in school, not her) I am not even sure what i'm here for. I'm going to hire a men's rights attorney with my tax money. O just hope I have a chance",1.8536160420775831,4.254163911242607,3.188234714003946,88.92717126890206,81.48520710059172,6.832478632478633,24.477646285338594,7.984000788550335,1.4797926364234055,1334,51,275,26,36,433,182,338,0.141,0.7340000000000001,0.125,-0.8695,3,0,1,0,0,0,69.0,3,0,1,4,16,22,4,3,16,1,26,3,2,3,4,54,55,14,0,9,15,4,1,1,0,1,1,0,1,6,12,17,0,0,4,0,3,6,10,13,0,0,7,2,41,9,40,45,7,40,0,4,1,0,37,23,0,6,10,170,53,5,0.09483420577964492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781931243698885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2983258005200517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884509832616362,0.0,0.0,0.0890998580811333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806969242491778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248208597897056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06116021728977295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908156060793627,0.0,0.0,0.16598010510840489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263709851475936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047951023891247516,0.0,0.0,0.1038862369722438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981878335294637,0.0,0.10779292919940403,0.07954243242954827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09362914462113428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941917643871234,0.0,0.21885188157102625,0.10152197869480667,0.0,0.0,0.09898227213377388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211839936775143,0.0,0.0,0.3012471928269141,0.20607528412145076,0.0,0.0,0.046331202683171896,0.09504878803098796,0.0,0.0,0.07963684824985186,0.10609521861704607,0.20704547646165825,0.0806246504505627,0.0,0.0,0.18990770627276815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20158750505898151,0.06971405301160831,0.0,0.07314198584060158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21060432529339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280557056094752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082495454115724,0.0,0.0,0.09074352729187342,0.0,0.0953345701919384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197578714103944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1919545584112232,0.0,0.0863334992181118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10659762069378348,0.1898053878177935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09379345442043167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876023326118048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288927583823076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300363240726042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05529858802659186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2237426865535275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557312019901264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221402385210417 divorce,jenbenn18,2019/02/14,"Getting started I’m separating from my husband after 8 months of marriage. Promises were not kept, and I’m just so angry and hurt. And we had a big talk yesterday morning about finalizing everything and splitting everything down the middle. At the end of the conversation I apologized for how I feel. I’m not in love with him anymore, and I felt like a monster for so long because of it..but I tried to piece it together by myself. He looked me dead in the eyes and said “it is what it is”. For some reason I thought it would’ve been a lot harder of a conversation, but it wasn’t. I was upset at first and then at 12am he comes in the room and tells me he wants to follow through with his promises, etc. well it’s too fucking late for that. 3 years too late, ANYWAY. What is the best way to get papers started, etc. Also, I live in Rhode Island. 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She's blocked me on everything and in order to file I need some information from her.. What have you done in order to get the information you need? I need Wages, social sec, etc... Any advice?",1.3170000000000002,3.969624366666668,3.068333333333332,86.4225,88.66666666666666,5.666666666666668,19.166666666666664,7.1686216300943375,0.6751666666666671,242,7,46,4,8,80,46,60,0.052000000000000005,0.948,0.0,-0.4606,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,11,10,4,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,10,0,7,6,2,10,0,0,0,0,8,4,0,1,4,32,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384502964097344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2692784977922628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16593972460284262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24971380626358325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27214312489997083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21930647687983976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5346167377594295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12748865503406334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5428058763655145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2487442972719301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ProfessionalAvocado6,2019/02/14,"Wtf to do I don't know what to do. I think the marriage is pretty much wrecked. Ive slept in another room for a year and my feelings are completely dead toward him. He is 37 I am 34 f. One little girl who is four. We slowly grew apart, became detached we don't ever kiss I never want to hug him I just don't feel any pull toward him physically. He became a porn addict. Then he started disrespecting me. He's tried to turn it around he's done a one-eighty on everything and it feels completely fake. I mean like overboard love bombing and not genuine. I have feelings for someone else never felt this way before but I can't get past the guilt of wanting to leave. I've been married nine years I would love anybody's input this feels hard. I feel sad about it I don't want to hurt my daughter either but we just keep having disagreements when she's near and she's noticing it. Help.",0.13362637362637386,2.5226395054945097,1.857582417582421,94.2124175824176,93.50549450549453,4.338461538461538,19.087912087912084,6.093298490706669,-0.015753846153846233,698,22,146,7,26,227,117,182,0.152,0.741,0.107,-0.3257,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,0,0,0,6,9,0,1,5,0,18,7,1,0,3,32,38,8,1,4,6,1,8,1,0,1,1,0,1,1,8,8,0,1,10,0,0,2,8,4,0,3,4,8,23,5,16,33,2,21,0,2,0,5,20,9,0,0,10,88,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15427812756328307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623872641825752,0.14839648106840134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12598316200060006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12042343877813312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2967628982777939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14482450625599666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822213651323855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12801330596040197,0.0,0.0,0.12718941218388197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42934180530247,0.0,0.13588177944769494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07393856909561636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677448290614327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948581424537688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15150051751958254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12578983592007176,0.0,0.0,0.07777591195541328,0.0,0.0,0.14984967196708648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913972002955335,0.14184062171987985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554553765710567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15415720609272685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403377914251144,0.0,0.21829851722202426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611219158636034,0.0,0.0,0.19179577417693264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13509723724035488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397712651178066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199097775091765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016886905877416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068055936836013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09608306343153504,0.1539335589565166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504171996044967,0.11233230801154034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053203328420736,0.0,0.0,0.18226899814010075 divorce,Ughhhhnooo,2019/02/14,"How to deal with my wife leaving? We have been together for 9 years. Married for 6 and have 2 children ages 7&3. Long story short, about a month ago she started lying and going out with her new ""best friend"" nd coming home at all hours of the night. I got tired of it and fussed alot. She told me she wasnt happy and wants to seperate. She is supposed to be moving her stuff out on saturday and she is taking our youngest and i am keeping the oldest bc her school is close. We have figured out what to do as far as the kids seeing each other. Rotating weekends with them and keeping them on our respective off days. But in the end...i didnt want this. So whats the best advice? Thank you.",1.2414893617021256,3.4867891773049706,2.3866382978723406,94.69400000000002,82.75886524822695,4.894751773049647,20.747517730496455,6.079149491110277,0.0503679432624109,538,16,115,4,15,171,101,141,0.07,0.815,0.115,0.8290000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,4,1,2,2,3,6,0,0,7,0,12,1,0,1,1,27,24,12,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,6,18,0,2,1,1,0,3,2,0,0,0,5,1,19,6,22,18,5,27,0,0,1,0,21,11,0,1,13,80,25,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712450854891446,0.15534203214288694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18987533372551935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36781269073008266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095602248477538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11301700920768615,0.18066747314735376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552129695830444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13539203359150925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959443419022664,0.0,0.14015755272666633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654905529088275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17578266235010034,0.0,0.17257870636724065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31152743135621946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18555665907355573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15508422714563014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13987700812492534,0.18625519925364192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16925043951295596,0.0,0.16445335200870093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17735491351047056,0.1396457001202279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12403764680782962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006109032344091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176066057569966,0.0,0.0,0.16133988384488404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20141564234249354,0.0,0.1674518581117187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20672530598252825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128505184682348 divorce,LuckyMost,2019/02/14,"Today it happened. I'm officially divorced. Thank you! Valentines day. Great day for divorce, right? I just wanted to thank you all. I never posted, but lurked all the time and many of you unknowingly helped me in times of distress. My divorce was not an easy one and it took me 2 years to finally get out of a toxic relationship. 2 years of talks, mediation an stress. I had my low moments. On those lows, I read posts like this - it will end. You will be happy. It is not easy now, but it will get better. Your troubles are temporary if you just keep going. Please keep going, for your sake and everyone around you. &#x200B; It WILL get better. I traveled a long distance from depression to this day. Now I'm smiling like a fool and singing on the streets on my way from the court. &#x200B; Don't give up! Thank you, all of you, you beautiful people.",1.4812987012987016,4.131123484848486,2.5639826839826867,90.67454545454548,86.87878787878788,5.324675324675325,22.402597402597397,6.868970318607317,0.7647142857142852,665,24,132,9,21,211,98,165,0.158,0.64,0.202,0.8468,0,0,0,0,3,0,37.0,0,11,0,2,5,16,0,2,8,0,10,0,0,0,4,21,26,7,0,2,7,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,2,0,3,0,4,4,7,0,1,3,0,21,9,19,18,3,33,0,3,0,0,18,11,0,2,17,85,30,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647528291674054,0.2969116660156986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10876153193286303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21610747833582625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23637804088097936,0.0,0.105229031723219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1082106664786404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11674331866745795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338365921409854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19149397227523413,0.11720126267139208,0.13886958197164506,0.0,0.0,0.13469821936746698,0.0,0.0,0.10803882914138584,0.1300574150357108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08189123630289981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21718926623202747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.119376934955604,0.0,0.0,0.10812091041641116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12386613644555228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422878730265064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278885005931702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08470066775716578,0.0,0.0,0.13411131273907753,0.0,0.0,0.2340194957758677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1222079266999734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13117008174895015,0.0,0.10433666668522386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995089443772868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09819952814051344,0.0,0.3374466014149736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14248229192601786,0.0,0.11580748596338054,0.0,0.13574076979635774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206190049215436,0.09697672062581793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2969116660156986,0.15735321408658645 divorce,Rmurphy520,2019/02/14,How to date while filing for divorce? When should you even date? I am hating being alone. I left my husband of 14 years 4 days shy of our 15th wedding anniversary. He was my best friend. I worshipped the ground he walked on but he continuously put me in situations I could no longer tolerate. I have not been alone for so long that I fear my codependency will have me jumping into something too soon. 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Id wish us all the strenght to let this day pass us with the least amount of pain. I honestly did not know how I would feel today. I knew it wasn't going to be good, but which version of pain? I'm not sure. Maybe it'll vary throughout the day, but right now im just numb. 4 months into seperation, and I'm as down as ever. Ive gone through different emotions, and dare i say I've had days where I feel somewhat ok, but they don't come often. Ive done a lot of positives for myself in these few months. Ive been going to therapy regularly, I've been exercising. I lost 40 pounds, I joined a run club. I am getting rid of bad habits, overall I'm working on myself. And although the progress makes me happy, ultimately I'm still unhappy. Unfortunately the one thing I want in my life wants nothing to do with me. Although I've learned to accept that this is mostly her, and not me, I still feel like a failure. I failed her as a husband. The one woman that wanted to spend the rest of her life with me now wants absolutely nothing to do with me. I love reading the posts about happy endings. How we will be ok. We will find happiness beyond this, a happiness we did not know exists. I just don't see it for me. I fear that I never will be as happy as I was when we were ok. I miss smiling. I miss laughing. I miss the guy that used to joke and make everyone laugh. I now live with a dark cloud over my head. In some ways, I'm a shell of the person I was. I miss being ok. Lastly, this is for you, my beautiful wife. If for whatever reason, you are reading this; you see the screen name, you know its me. I love you. I miss you dearly. I want to call you, i want to text you, but you dont want to hear from me, so i respect your wishes. Give our dog a kiss for me. Give yourself a kiss for me. I miss my family. 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My wife and I argue constantly, we cannot seem to get on the same page finically I’m a saver she’s a spender and it’s been a fight from day 1 is it possible for us to come to a common ground? Or are we too different? 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I know that she doesn't love me anymore, and our marriage was toxic. Still, there is those moments when you just feel. Those nights where everything just weighs in on you. I've been pretty numb these last few months, but tonight is really hitting me. Just throwing it out there. I feel like reaching out, but I don't even know what to say or what I'm looking for. 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So I'm not really sure where to start but here it goes. I recently found out my wife has been seeking attention else where, and today I confronted her about the matter. She says she loves me but that I dont make her happy. I have been trying so much to do everything I can for many years to work on myself and keep her as happy as can be. I am active duty military and have been contemplating reenlisting for the main reason of having affordable health insurance and keeping a roof over her head and the zoo of all the animals she has brought into the household. She knows how difficult this decision has been for me, and yet here I am catching her red handed doing the same stuff she did years ago when I was deployed. I Guess the silver lining is that I going to be looking into a divorce now. Does anyone have some words of positivity I'm having a really hard time seeing any good with this on top of having to change careers in the next six months.",6.412362713428706,6.126212294416245,6.968149515459159,77.00245039224734,65.6497461928934,10.20932164282418,29.58421781264421,9.800150414767053,2.5839685279187816,790,23,152,15,11,260,123,197,0.093,0.809,0.098,0.4361,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,13,8,2,0,11,0,26,4,2,3,2,33,41,14,0,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,11,0,3,6,0,0,3,2,3,0,1,9,6,25,5,24,30,5,27,0,0,3,1,15,11,0,2,13,119,31,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783243987674154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573848334681732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10872217331780357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16448772710864387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13607028424558482,0.0,0.1822330381561592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989188321759354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13974432167408138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34097336185165605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836850962497902,0.13041757484374294,0.0,0.0,0.1712896863160504,0.0,0.0,0.33104384039205315,0.1392884345883192,0.0,0.1595775254713266,0.1652785229429722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.276413185536713,0.0,0.0,0.08545319828256615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057237878843975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14033573119006526,0.0,0.10379073466299056,0.15764238237474815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411057745648313,0.0,0.11430298833713608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16536530293884838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19922165946964854,0.1598695432938628,0.15352754593444767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365183204022613,0.0,0.0,0.1239053416538438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005657168413396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17799876747615745,0.0,0.0,0.14654741744963598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906674277166345,0.0,0.14738627124389533,0.0,0.0,0.10556745481452216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11319851981337672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20026083201389766 divorce,cherryblossoms2018,2019/02/15,"Not sure if i need to be here or not. I tried filing for divorce over 10 years ago. I was completely miserable and just trying to come to grips with my decision. He on the other hand would call or text me none stop. After about 6 weeks of separation I couldn't handle the guilt I felt and let him come home. Since then our relationship has gone back and forth to what it always was. Very little sex passion no kissing. I talk to him telling him i can't live like this and he will try for a month or so. I have spent the majority of my marriage being rejected sexually. Now I feel terrible resentment. My irritability is out of control. Every single thing sends me to blame him for my frustration. Getting out of work late and can't help with picking up the kids from their respective places. Yesterday was logistic nightmare. And all I could think is why do you stick me like this? I hate his job. I hate the people he works for. I begged him not to even entertain the thought of going back to that company. What does he do? He goes back. With out telling me he took the job!!!! Last year we moved into our brand new built house. 6 months we waited for it to be built. I love this house! It is a bit more costly than our last house but no worries i had all that figured out. Do you know what happens??? The same week we move into the house I get a look at his paycheck and nearly threw up! He took a nearly 1k month pay cut! Fml. The reason is a long story alone. Totally fucked up my budget! I don't know how many months it took for him to request his pay back. We have a teenager and a toddler. I don't want to be separated from them a week at a time. Also my husband isn't able to help with drop off a or pick ups. It's a total nightmare. I would have no choice but to have them all the time. I don't know what to do. This has been a terrible week for me. I have actually sat down and cried twice this week. And that is not my normal nature. I don't even get upset over the lack of sex anymore. Maybe I just needed to vent. 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Hi Everyone - going through an incredibly amicable divorce process. Only 6 weeks into a year-long time. I was wondering what people do with family pictures, wedding album, etc? I actually have kept one pic of my wife and I from when we were first married and so, so close. A great memory regardless of the current situation. But I have pictures in my office, etc. Looking for ideas. Thanks. 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She has attempted to control me financially, socially, and emotionally for the past three years. We’ve been together for seven, and married for one. Since we had our son, she has become emotionally abusive and what I suspect is a legitimate case of bipolar disorder. I have begged to go to couples counseling, and have gone on my own for the past six months. We currently live in Colorado, and this is where it gets even more difficult—and really what I came here for. She is intent on moving to San Diego (her family is there). She works from home and can technically move whenever she wants. She makes roughly 35k a year and says that she won’t seek alimony or child support. And that we can split custody. She says “good luck” finding a babysitter due to my hours if I want to keep our son here with me.I’m in a position where I cannot move with my job, so I’d have to find a new one. My family is telling me I should fight to keep my son here until I’m ready to move, that it would give me the upper hand in custody agreements going forward. I’m torn, because on one hand I’m angry and heartbroken and hurt and would like to say fuck you this is not how we should be handling this. On the other, Id like to avoid a custody battle. I’m hurt, but at this point I want to end this as amicably as possible so we can create a good coparenting situation. Advice? Because I’m lost. 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Sorry for the long post......First time poster.... been on Reddit for a month. I must say that reading these posts have helped me manage my situation and has given me courage. After 15 years of marriage my wife (40) told me (47) that we were done. It shocked me as i did not see these signs before. We had issues but none big enough to take such a decision. She said there was nothing much left in it. Tried counselling myself as she did not want to go. It helped me a bit but since she never went we could not resolve anything. We have two kids pre-teens. I eventually found out that someone else was in the picture but its long distance. She says that there's nothing but i am quite positive as i have seen evidence. We continue to live in the same house while we work on the divorce papers, the kids dont know yet as we've decided to keep it simple till she moves out which is after the divorce is finalized. I am now thinking of letting the kids know and ask her to move out which she has left to me to let her know. But my fear is that i don't want to mess up their school year. If we do it just before the school is up then they have 2 months to digest it. I just want to move forward but the more we delay telling the kids it will take them longer to heal. I am really not sure what to do? I am confused. BTW we are very civil with each other, i dont have any anger left in me anymore as i want this to work well for the kids. I still have awful days but they are getting better. Thanks for reading and for any comments. 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How do you file when/while divorce? How are y’all handling taxes? Another year of not officially divorced and filing taxes as married. However, STBXH lives two states away. Kids with me. I carry the health insurance. Next year (fingers crossed I’m actually divorced!) I assume I’ll claim the kids and file separate. 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So my mother died last week. My husband has been hateful and mean and it has really pushed me to the point where I’ve had enough. He took an extra shift and worked overnight after her viewing and before the funeral. Instead of being home. Rather than listening or asking if I needed anything he has complained and bitched about how the laundry and dishes are piling up. Today I confronted him to which his response was that I’m a bitch and to just get a divorce attorney already. So that’s my plan for Tuesday. Here is my question I’m in IL we have a minor child. Should I ask him to leave or should I go? Obviously it would be easier for him to go. But am I putting myself at a disadvantage if I left? 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And even that is an understatement. I won't get into the details of my childhood, but at least as far as my 13-year marriage was concerned, by the third night of my honeymoon, I had second thoughts. Five years in: I was in full survival mode. Ten years in: I'd been kicked out of the house with no legitimate explanation, timeline, or hope of reconciliation. And now I'm sitting here typing this, having suffered through zero singleness blues induced by February 14th. Having spent a phenomenal evening with my kids and looking forward to a long weekend with them. Having just bough my first house, in which I can work because my very new job (making more money than I ever thought I'd make) is a remote position. I just keep jumping up and down in circles fist pumping and screaming ""yeah bitch!"" I've been doing it for months now. Take care of yourself through the storm. If you do, there's one hell of a rainbow. Man that was corny. But I don't give a fuck. 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I’m in my early 30s, my partner and I have been married a little over 7 years. We’ve always been pretty independent people but have always had a good friendship. However, the last couple years have been just like two roommates. We don’t really seem to share any interests any more. We seem to be getting more and more annoyed with each other. Moreover, there hasn’t been much of any romance or intimacy in years. I’m probably the more desirous partner, but when I bring it up my partner just changes the subject. They say they’re too uncomfortable with how they look and are embarrassed to be intimate with me. It just seems like we’ve been kicking the can down the road for a couple years now. We started reading a book about repairing marriage, but neither of us seems to really care. 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It was never my holiday even when we were very happily married, but it just felt like life grinding salt in my raw wounds, again. I hate my life.",5.277235772357724,6.844376073170736,5.2814634146341515,81.5389430894309,68.7560975609756,8.393495934959349,33.178861788617894,8.841846274778883,2.8842130081300805,173,8,31,3,3,54,35,41,0.142,0.703,0.154,-0.111,0,0,0,0,1,1,5.0,1,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,7,2,2,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,6,19,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455441087890001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2514734448876332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36556758689552576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3045104592271944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3758993327925464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5378521343817776,0.18600904928217604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2936481347539511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3141482078187599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,EveryExcitement,2019/02/15,"Then it hits you!. You are in a different country on your own, divorced, single and your kids are younger than 10, and it the form for emergency contact for work you don't know who name to right down there, because you only have yourself, then it hits you, this shit messes with you on the daily basis. For all of you out there in my situation, let's be self sustain and put N/A on this form. 😏",2.090899470899469,3.78245025925926,3.345079365079364,91.69,77.27160493827161,6.110052910052911,23.917107583774253,6.868970318607317,0.6728292768959432,305,10,67,3,7,99,57,81,0.08800000000000001,0.912,0.0,-0.7988,1,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,9,0,1,2,2,1,0,3,0,6,1,1,0,1,8,9,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,10,0,14,5,5,11,0,0,0,0,15,8,1,0,2,51,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2024713202126072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3470187938162447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18253713378412176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396387716242402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25260975618076204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3338955034015349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836483495831114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464976384690163,0.0,0.34094006741877336,0.0,0.3733427040295865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24180409593346355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,shifting_sands,2019/02/15,"Joining the club Husband (early 30's M) and I (early 30's F) have been together 4 years and married 1.5. We've been considering divorce for a couple months due to a very eroded relationship, including his intermittent emotional abuse. He was always paranoid that I was cheating on him (or trying to, or wanting to). Well, I did some snooping on a hunch yesterday and found that he's been on multiple dating apps and emailed a girl from an app to hook up. Also found out that he secretly took intimate photos of me without my permission while I was inebriated/sleeping, on our honeymoon no less. This was always an extremely explicit no-no as I had to get a restraining order against an ex who tried to blackmail me with nudes after I broke up with him. Screenshotted everything I found yesterday and am planning to surprise him with it all at our couples counseling session tomorrow. Then moving out. Happy Valentine's Day to me.",8.499043927648579,8.084798465116277,8.877286821705425,65.45582687338502,61.44186046511628,12.528165374677002,41.78552971576227,11.855464076750405,5.323342894056847,744,39,121,21,9,248,116,172,0.08800000000000001,0.855,0.057,-0.743,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,9,0,11,1,1,0,2,22,17,11,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,1,4,1,0,2,2,2,1,0,13,0,17,3,27,4,3,25,0,1,0,1,17,9,0,3,13,85,23,1,0.0,0.20141367540061197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359431840025873,0.2828952616610925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3761876087897921,0.0,0.10963129547499194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912190241792014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15277857110390944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5591650063215499,0.0,0.0,0.08881422393528016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18096050094187488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356866343872302,0.18067544811423675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18250865354627546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17011557084573595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18886826017447747,0.23082791069328426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14026186644906594,0.10026616020550007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15284394617905894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16386699692156498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094697923917074 divorce,throwaway156368,2019/02/15,"Asked for divorce, now husband has a diagnosis I've been married for 15 years with kids and up until about 3 years ago, things were pretty good. Husband quit his job several years ago to start his own business and that's floundered, which has caused stress. Two years ago I found some very flirty sexting between him and a high school friend. After he was confronted he apologized, swore nothing physical ever happened, straightened up, and things improved. Six months ago I had reason to believe he was cheating, which he denied, but that led to my first suggestion of divorce. I'm also very bitter about supporting the family while he figures out his business shit. Last week I found a naked picture from a friend on his instagram private messages and made an appointment for myself with two divorce attorneys. Since confronting him and asking for a divorce, he has begged for marriage counseling and went to a private session with a therapist. He came home with a diagnosis of bipolar 2 and while he is profusely apologizing, he is using his diagnosis as an excuse for his behavior (sexual and work). I don't know what I am asking for here, but at this point I feel like I'm obligated to work with him toward reconciliation because of the diagnosis. I have some fears that he may attempt suicide though he's not directly threatened that. My friends are all encouraging me to leave and while that's what I want to do, I feel like this new situation has pulled the rug out from under me. At the end of the day, I do love him but I want a partner and I just don't feel like he can be that to me anymore... Any advice or commiseration is appreciated.",7.799245607333841,7.7464028474025985,7.834973262032085,71.1592245989305,62.733766233766225,10.753552330022917,37.273491214667686,10.328600350310266,3.8825498090145154,1319,59,231,27,17,427,171,308,0.093,0.7390000000000001,0.168,0.9749,1,0,0,0,4,1,31.0,0,0,0,5,8,17,5,2,16,0,22,3,1,5,2,44,43,22,1,2,6,2,3,3,4,1,1,0,2,2,14,19,0,0,8,0,0,4,3,7,0,4,10,4,28,10,41,31,4,38,0,0,0,1,44,11,1,4,26,154,42,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09810463487026284,0.35597572449689074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08028568384476785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06827190545681057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956466292226096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28156675203182363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061199737148744035,0.0,0.0,0.11311055826797267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482490365548235,0.0,0.10313311276602798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474633938123749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891999244579221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908128426778964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464328082986287,0.11297205938451654,0.1522878794804261,0.2151661916706576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539576405782008,0.0,0.220155428627375,0.23269431613579425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420639352688934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08877878848477977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607261634975104,0.10070416828091966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962634603688196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055174355537085024,0.08183516004400937,0.0,0.10630359542382893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147143481782585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061022504545783,0.09499598549662022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08013417009687251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696192169615643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633151653062456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0949055347606532,0.0,0.0,0.10213760234560593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678222572018303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10322257327431783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10160489559564452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11341754571698455,0.1030538176349817,0.08304761451798598,0.11284795954814618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105995489149458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500190213356733,0.0,0.0,0.10981561449003624,0.11392682725931408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656609863259808,0.13339568585127765,0.0,0.09863737949419317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1961422598032474,0.0,0.0,0.0867088715833209,0.0,0.16567244540914147,0.11843090622968508,0.0,0.08053065139102185,0.0,0.0,0.0930669837390546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14617721756423074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25860383385887803 divorce,ShitGamesShitPrizes,2019/02/15,"Does it get better when you/they move out? It's so hard to live across the hall from my best friend. I miss him so much, but I'm divorcing him for a lot of very good reasons (infidelity, lies, manipulation). Since he's been in therapy he's a much better person & I know he truly loves me, however too much damage had been done. We've been together 20 years, married 15. He's all I know, my great love story; but also the source of my greatest pain. I am a disaster emotionally, but we've only been split 6 weeks, so I suppose that's normal (my therapist has been amazingly helpful). He's trying to convince me not to go, that we can fix everything. I feel like that's not something he can judge, since most of the damage is his fault. Sometimes it makes me angry that he isn't listening to me say it's over, but mostly it hurts to see him so sad. I absolutely never want to hurt him, I'm not cruel or spiteful. I'm just over the bullshit. Does it get better if you aren't under the same roof? I don't want to leave my beautiful home, but I think it's the only way to move forward. Any advice?",2.1498684210526307,3.679875302631584,4.150526315789474,86.67868421052633,76.67543859649123,7.256140350877192,22.964912280701753,8.032893268588372,1.1027596491228069,851,25,184,14,19,291,132,228,0.181,0.579,0.24,0.9587,1,0,1,0,0,0,36.0,1,1,0,4,8,22,2,0,9,0,15,3,0,3,2,29,33,13,0,4,11,0,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,1,11,2,0,0,5,0,0,4,7,10,0,0,7,5,25,12,19,26,10,16,0,6,1,2,22,8,0,5,6,108,36,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12034349177185978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848525042622253,0.0,0.13343600837715527,0.0,0.08374812773582123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12924126667351055,0.3267559336034703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554369204770216,0.12602807311156902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853032515545707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068179655585084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06226975648820514,0.08798038560612065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09514754852061448,0.0,0.12868451110443607,0.0,0.06999057483757305,0.10329472649220252,0.0,0.13577639781549133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11032071997632116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254672652748091,0.0,0.12353230061896228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26367524104861784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353631173568032,0.0,0.0,0.130401034345875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06016623785615127,0.0,0.1087461795031862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047001073822656,0.222300422128368,0.0,0.0822054509316214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2617838751380418,0.2715944365244961,0.0,0.09498303222237024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066359711599585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18732650920118893,0.1310432631293892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753227556499087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1266215904471342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09793605030731574,0.0,0.0,0.0981368377106481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2037465391443448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09480904287316604,0.12180126914899747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408359607599089,0.14298989390481873,0.0,0.078911342156918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361266788321348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161395838884227,0.14527742555929074,0.09775296110345624,0.09878574846004096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930636608892948 divorce,Seni12,2019/02/15,"Separation before therapy? Hello! Just wanted your input about something. I’ve posted once before about my situation. It got a little more complicated. I posted about three months ago. My dad had just had a heart attack and my uncle died the same weekend. My husband was upset to say the least that I wasn’t spending enough time with him and our pet children. Just 5 weeks after this, my father passes. We are Catholic Hispanics, so the tradition in our hometown is to do a rosary for nine days after someone passes. However in Mexico people get buried way quicker than they do here, practically the next day. So they start the prayer the day of or the next day of when the deceased passed. So we started the same day my father passed. However due to funeral home complications he was buried 8 days later. So then on the day he is buried that is when the official 9 days of prayers start. In total we prayed 18 days. During this whole time, I was the one doing the rosaries. I would get home from work by 5:40 then I would eat dinner quickly and he ready to greet guest by 6:30 as the rosary started at 7pm. During this time my husband once again claimed I was spending too much time with my family. My mother was a complete and I mean complete wreck. Only my older sister and I were the ones ok to be able to organize things. Anyway that is the back story. Now because of the deaths that has happened around me I want to be near family and enjoy them and spend time with them. But my husband has just had enough. For the most part our marriage has been conflict free. We will fight one day and then we resolve it or get over it. However this fight has last since last Friday and it is now Thursday so almost a week. This is the longest fight we’ve ever had. I called to schedule for couples counseling but apparently Kaiser doesn’t do couples. So I opted to get individual. I was told they were going to call me back but i haven’t heard anything. I told him that Kaiser does not do couples counseling but if he wanted to he can go for individual. Because he’s previously seen a therapist he got an appointment for April. My point is.m, these appointments are so far away. Has anyone tried like a separation trial for like a week or a month before therapy? Like we are so awkward with each other barely saying a word. When before we would talk about everything. I think I’m the one leaning more towards divorce. I mean the love is there but reading through people’s post I do see that our relationship is emotionally abusive and there has been so much gaslighting. Has anyone else gone through this situation? 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How after all these years? I don't think I'll ever want to be with a man ever again. I don't want to trust anyone ever again.. &#x200B; I'm kind of at a loss for words. I didn't really try to keep my friends because he was my best friend this whole time. Everyone would leave me or lie to me. It seemed like he was protecting me from all the bad in the world and cared for me. I thought we were honest and open with each other. I even told him if he ever felt like he wanted something purely physical with someone, to tell me, because I wanted things to be fair.. I was that open with him.. &#x200B; I just don't get it. I was honest and pure and always asked if he was happy, if this is what he wanted, I bent over fucking backwards, inside out, sideways, every which way for this guy. &#x200B; I don't know how someone could lead someone on and betray them so badly. Fuck, I can't even vent properly or think straight.. When you're with someone and they are against cigarettes, and then all of a sudden start smoking them... that's the sign...... I'm so dependent on others to make me happy. How will I do it on my own? I'm so fucking ruined. &#x200B;",2.468658536585366,3.9507255813008166,3.597243902439025,91.17976829268294,75.70731707317074,6.0582113821138215,23.27560975609757,6.508806274219699,0.510462439024391,927,27,199,7,20,300,133,246,0.097,0.765,0.138,0.8596,0,0,2,0,0,0,56.0,1,0,3,3,17,19,3,0,6,0,21,3,0,6,9,55,46,20,0,10,7,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,0,2,15,17,0,2,6,0,0,1,7,7,0,0,10,1,29,12,27,31,7,29,0,2,0,3,19,13,3,7,16,135,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06914238079816504,0.3601371548602858,0.4038820774077889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05810253100696056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768337671322198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387630813652684,0.10130888397942762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720393887004599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08472172885295168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06634525251590953,0.0,0.0,0.05358993101983485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976801383110377,0.300659714283947,0.07001181415791953,0.07940161917450461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978502054656643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12839925231910482,0.23046224610776175,0.08682827496748009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227792835623764,0.0,0.1769140959390008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07385938485811014,0.0,0.08653151176705351,0.045667290777415936,0.0,0.0,0.08798647769690393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811928428603654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0554671066164579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05323331153783102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564731573596331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28162728222105704,0.0639712236798566,0.0,0.0,0.05881565069625079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0726294112626973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520517199451977,0.10648889529981023,0.0,0.0659688009908625,0.04845384220593446,0.0,0.0,0.07940161917450461,0.0,0.05641660876992665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2450603445738792,0.06595759592767099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927735180442361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05902888800669622,0.0,0.4038820774077889,0.053510985139872284 divorce,coda859,2019/02/15,"Name changes Has anyone had experience with changing their last name to something other than their previous/maiden name after divorcing? I took my husband's name when we got married mostly because I hated my old last name so I don't want that one back. That said, I certainly don't want to keep the married name now either. Am I just going to need to wait until the divorce is final and then do a separate court filing to ask to have my name changed?",6.691704545454545,6.638852943181825,6.9626363636363635,76.49145454545456,65.02272727272728,9.312727272727274,33.50909090909091,8.841846274778883,2.81522,361,14,65,5,5,117,62,88,0.09,0.8809999999999999,0.029,-0.6323,0,0,1,0,1,0,6.0,1,0,2,0,5,2,1,0,3,0,8,0,0,0,1,19,19,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,4,1,11,1,10,15,2,12,0,0,0,0,15,0,0,1,10,45,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13667458839346636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18273461333418106,0.0,0.0,0.15030152656057633,0.0,0.11915444799496724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6203323125072963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19120355769735697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21412378769721974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11108800818977296,0.0,0.1563322638634593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192982513078075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737394369836918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186622615036461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493579172100124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510901080731306,0.0,0.13245302999888262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18593322163224876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504795146432321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217170261949846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23058218735554584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Leavinggthrowaway,2019/02/16,"Did you get primary physical custody and become a single mom/dad through divorce? Please share the best and worst about that. My marriage is crap, and we probably should have ended it some time ago. I've continued to try to make it work, largely from fear. Fear that I cannot handle parenting my toddler alone, and fear that no one will ever want to be with me as a single parent. Fear that my spouse is right and I'm an awful person that would make anyone treat me badly. I spent about 4 months as a single parent because my spouse was incarcerated in another state and we could barely even talk on the phone. I managed to keep it all a secret and it was stressful af. That doesn't really prepare you for the full responsibility of single parenting but I saw that I could do it if I had to. The baby was still quite young. Well my spouse has said if we ever split he will move out of state and I doubt he will see our child as often as the child deserves. My spouse is a good parent. More patient than I am, more playful. I am not a bad parent but I get stressed and overwhelmed. I guess as I consider whether to end my marriage I am hoping to hear from people about what it is actually like to solo parent. I feel like in some ways it would be easier day to day. No one to mess up the routine or need to compromise with for parenting decisions. I could cook less, eat less, one less insurance bill (I'm the breadwinner). But my son still doesn't sleep through the night and he recently puked several times and I dread dealing with things like that without someone to dump the puke towels into the washer while the other person gets meds and water. I think that life as a single parent would be manageable and aspects would be great! I also think it would be a gift to my future son's partner because he wouldn't grow up with entitled gender role domestic crap. But I'm so scared that I can't pull it off, that I'm too selfish and would be too exhausted to show up well for my son. I mean realistically I already cook all the meals, plan the meals, do most of the grocery shopping, all the bill paying, but I can outsource bedtime a few days a week, and get spouse to handle overnight wakeups as well as help in a parenting crisis. I can also count on him to take turns missing work for the kid when he is sick and I would lose that if we split. How do you keep your employer from getting mad at you for so many sick days? Would you share the nitty gritty and the things you enjoy about single parenting? If I can think through the reality it will help me so much, thanks.",4.920370108855543,5.457366073786414,5.5499558693733455,83.06824654310094,68.84466019417475,8.494851426890262,27.83907031479847,8.484438967287268,1.7945663430420704,2028,63,412,29,33,657,244,515,0.152,0.708,0.139,-0.828,13,1,0,0,7,0,43.0,5,7,0,6,22,38,4,10,31,1,48,13,3,3,5,79,79,44,0,20,13,19,1,3,1,14,4,2,0,6,26,27,6,2,7,5,5,3,9,22,3,3,8,5,51,16,60,48,22,42,0,3,2,0,57,14,2,12,25,291,77,7,0.0,0.0,0.054627009399700915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049621624829026836,0.0,0.0,0.057976916357346975,0.0617737440870124,0.08953208454913568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586984115983072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03914151777184676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09347953559345293,0.0682480335022184,0.06182393264888511,0.0,0.0,0.058746055703632574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13408299959177528,0.0,0.0,0.14440618685981996,0.05771144774957016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057280052264976115,0.0,0.0,0.09916079555550797,0.0,0.0,0.03697331759640349,0.1012716429557403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519658172697666,0.02830444700413558,0.03999110165564153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146232462202519,0.0,0.0,0.04695216870422515,0.0,0.06171657114331165,0.06166670603130646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309191688729722,0.0,0.07504251110423127,0.0,0.0,0.05559935089953296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951265030761072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039539319535879365,0.08204490527404996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06262570116436011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07473226042841118,0.05675348388484664,0.0,0.06097707350557077,0.06217957190205605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556142472738323,0.04468156057722595,0.0594963609805143,0.041150689991225335,0.041507400418082735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05253209593489477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379758348445235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6837333521168262,0.0,0.0,0.03880849213945647,0.09775665641280937,0.0,0.061447659907100986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060354366454992765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059540099826573024,0.0,0.0,0.035861305411336614,0.0,0.055272084656508284,0.0,0.0,0.04780539299311529,0.05324843911688922,0.0,0.0560443141982142,0.0,0.044607672789930296,0.0,0.0,0.06323985053251985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056018997141464036,0.0,0.047430460777912735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940911676487724,0.0,0.12824652580704127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04208891808688428,0.04499345420587947,0.0,0.051537546378597386,0.0,0.0,0.07437934917026219,0.10760642218965943,0.0,0.0,0.06528310877165193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03800577455964643,0.0608886096042738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03301761099241711,0.04443318334758845,0.0449026323489914,0.0,0.15099437179432187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05396134396453185,0.0,0.08150613145067591,0.0,0.0,0.31812456069284306,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,11_29_77,2019/02/16,"What do we do about our pets? The divorce is final. I hope to be moved out by March 1st. We have three dogs together that are our life. We originally had planned for me to stop by a few times a week to let the dogs out and spend time with them. Our relationship has recently taken a turn, and frankly I can’t stand the sight of him and can’t get out of this house fast enough! What was once a fairly amicable split is now completely off the table due to some things that have happened. I’m done being friends. I’m absolutely gutted over what to do about our dogs. I don’t want come back to this house that will be pretty empty once all of my stuff is gone. This house holds too much pain and memories, and I just want to move on. We couldn’t split up the dogs because of their older age. They don’t like being apart. This is literally tearing my heart apart. 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No contact except a random call from him last June which didn’t go anywhere. I am 38, no children, no good friends close by, and feeling very alone. I really loved him so much and we grew up together. I can’t see myself loving someone else and I can’t even talk about him without tearing up a little. Dating doesn’t help because I don’t like the guys that I’m meeting. Is this a normal time frame? My friend that was divorced at the same time as me is in another serious relationship...",3.2197435897435938,5.139517512820515,4.302914529914531,85.05180769230772,74.72649572649573,6.731282051282051,27.084615384615393,7.554174236665415,1.5814964102564102,467,18,89,6,10,152,90,117,0.102,0.7070000000000001,0.191,0.9201,0,1,0,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,0,0,3,8,0,0,5,0,13,2,0,0,0,13,19,6,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,7,0,0,1,0,0,3,9,2,0,1,4,2,14,6,13,15,2,20,0,0,1,2,20,9,0,1,9,61,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19329191906542775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19569734537099745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11376763543939075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19056962692115534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15590503301129047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326705112040234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436550308736393,0.0,0.0,0.20444353884856836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28837903952227106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10606586854362288,0.15653600369474174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18479258659766828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250938467770666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30425596866152965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091177766292456,0.18705182856430225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3368808929684875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19835766566904892,0.1371941858764014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828573241383836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1195596623391348,0.0,0.0,0.20037028195967585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14871958048723738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15813060372878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15000575496690413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.217650371386656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18230994238847045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398891604591136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17990421680873422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201833049633016 divorce,Throwaway000666999,2019/02/16,"Just a word about divorce and how we all get it wrong My parents stayed together. They were miserable with each other. I watched my mother deteriorate and become a drug addict over my lifetime as she copes with the verbal abuse my father slung at her. She claimed he wasn’t abusing her but she became addicted to prescription medication and there were some punches thrown and even an incident with a knife. I called the police on them and once she even left for a few months. She moved away. I thought they’d finally get divorced like they’d yelled and screamed they were going to all my life. But they never did. You hear a lot of people talk about the way divorce damages children. But divorce would have meant I wouldn’t have suffered the abuse and codependency I experienced as a child. My mother made us kids her therapists and caretakers. Our mom was hysterical and our dad beat the crap out of us to get her to stop. Yeah, this isn’t everybody’s story. But it really screwed us up to see how much our parents loathed each other. It especially screwed us up to see how awful it was and to be told that this was all normal behavior. It absolutely wasn’t. *Divorce* is bad for the kids? No. It actually isn’t. Subjecting your kids to the behavior that leads to divorce is what’s bad for the kids. Making yourself a martyr is bad for your kids. Making them responsible for making you feel better about your troubles with their their parent is what’s bad for the kids. If you aren’t bringing out each other’s better angels, *you are damaging your kids*. They’re just good at hiding it. Trust me. Oh yeah, I’m divorced. -The kid of two people who didn’t get that divorce",2.6536024844720534,5.3060492049689465,3.5358881987577675,86.09824223602487,80.2422360248447,6.537142857142857,24.106832298136645,7.760100539840176,1.4095132919254658,1332,48,253,23,35,424,163,322,0.223,0.703,0.07400000000000001,-0.9955,4,0,1,0,10,0,34.0,8,8,9,4,11,19,3,1,18,3,25,8,1,8,4,49,43,20,0,4,7,8,1,1,0,2,5,3,0,10,18,20,0,1,3,0,0,4,9,14,0,1,14,8,46,5,36,24,10,20,1,4,3,2,66,10,3,3,5,177,64,1,0.0,0.3393963099403312,0.09317793240513401,0.2081817934289952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897097085098604,0.0,0.3188982865621694,0.0,0.10545380903478332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16889444845599538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749913045254087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11073032028176764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261316453399002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048279228145527625,0.0,0.0,0.10459729384170233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19954434450321165,0.0,0.05426536285331173,0.08008686636652475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10761662466309384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374289066088076,0.0,0.0674426823570417,0.046648319953931705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117649170712764,0.0,0.0903486122273451,0.19120754331609516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618938480335948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11182889322998228,0.0762138633795218,0.10148364266531062,0.07019121589416555,0.0,0.07364261145756076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09355336623368103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10168660397715017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3180687327658007,0.0,0.0,0.1323922029433025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061169050407428725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15217566422346435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177249906245822,0.0,0.07982831874563147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0767458640101188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11086347690540838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580307887214559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09123839012467017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09327331507597901,0.0,0.4594186392254847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07579020341774721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782860058236358,0.104396005197672,0.0,0.0 divorce,inthislifeiwillbe,2019/02/16,"I'm super glad I was under his spell when he told me about that other woman, because if I knew then, what I can clearly see now I think I would have bludgeoned him to death on that warm evening that he told me he was leaving me for her. I believed that it was all my own fault, that I had lost him by my terrible, cold, and selfish acts. He had me so perfectly manipulated, and because of that, I was able to react calmly, and logically, and was able to wish him all the best with her.... Which was the exact *opposite* reaction to the one he had been hoping for and planning on. It must have been such a let down for him. If only he'd known that it was only partially my own integrity, but also largely due to the fact that he had me so convinced of my unworthiness, that I accepted defeat pretty easily. Only months later did I finally come around to accepting the massive deception I had fallen right into. Now that I can see his malicious intent, and how meticulously he laid his trap, I *know* I would react much differently, in light of such knowledge. It would have taken 10 people to tear me off of his broken and lifeless body. I am so glad I was duped.... Because my real time reaction was perfection! I'd be so sad if I had changed any part of it.",4.709566733067728,5.153212912350597,6.136093127490042,79.01099228087651,69.2788844621514,9.30288844621514,29.23331673306773,9.354420925462401,2.429145219123507,975,34,195,19,16,332,135,251,0.125,0.705,0.16899999999999998,0.8906,1,0,0,0,0,0,36.0,0,0,0,7,14,18,0,0,6,0,31,1,1,5,8,42,44,19,1,9,4,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,18,11,0,0,8,0,0,3,0,6,0,1,23,5,39,12,26,14,7,21,0,3,2,0,21,9,0,4,9,151,57,0,0.2934777052553695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734700743107225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978745167649106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13062868928200472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683519277431435,0.0,0.0,0.16532443750828835,0.15399337276497949,0.0,0.0,0.1629937853629903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1552302492025832,0.1264025283927778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15331086922319784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09691962823350657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16074524051517708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14574479028441814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08064383585165014,0.0,0.0,0.15537525751501335,0.0,0.15005041867324342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16018279168346822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171255521971035,0.0,0.10786994067012788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943404417187417,0.33480452918789244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890387779898268,0.0,0.10173024426742157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1492861666921307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16702093951350336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253141783765736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338637344019406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0940243317086412,0.0,0.0,0.0855646050097969,0.0,0.0,0.2804305240822657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687424387386364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312717212290044,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PicnicSandwich,2019/02/16,"[Long] This is the first post I've ever madd on Reddit. This is big for me. [Long] Married since mid 90's dating her before for 8 years. TBH I feel destroyed, I feel I've thrown my whole life to this girl/woman. I have watched a steady slow decline over years (more than a decade) always believing that things would tick up. They've not. So 30+ years together, she argues with me about everything E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. To avoid the arguing I leave the home, she calls me 20 times, texts 40 times. Shes a very angry woman. We've not had sex in years, I gave up initiating 2+ years ago because I was refused, or told the morning after I'd forced myself on her. I didn't, would never. 4 kids nearly all past 18. We are wealthy, I run my own business, also have loads of property so no money issues, we've never had. She's physically attacked me (many times) in the past, not recently. I keep telling her I've had enough, that I'm done but she doesn't seem to hear it, thinks everything (that I written above) is normal in a marriage. Been going for counseling for 4+ months. She lies to the counselor and loses her temper when I call her out..... There's so much going on and I feel that I'm ready to walk. HELP, I feel lost. Somebody tell me, first, could I be the problem? I don't think I am. Second what should I do next. 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I'm a 33 year old female and I was with my husband for a total 18 years. Yes, 18 years, since grade 9. Anyone else in a similar situation? I'm basically single for the first time!",-0.292536231884057,1.9420468478260915,3.0478260869565226,86.86637681159422,91.3913043478261,6.544927536231885,18.536231884057973,7.793537801064563,0.8690405797101457,169,5,37,4,6,61,36,46,0.0,0.922,0.078,0.508,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,0,6,2,2,8,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,21,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149663336061807,0.31500441663050044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2568232500179051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26150482445622625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2171510722567004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32260226689620924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543141582681994,0.3455708392268773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17926834903103164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5939359310420634 divorce,MaterialStrategy,2019/02/16,"She’s pregnant now, should I try to make it work? We’ve been married for 12 years, . I’ve probably wanted a divorce for a few years now. Three kids already, and now she’s 33 and pregnant again. I felt like we got married too young. We argue all the time, she’s told me she hates me and wishes she never married me etc. I’ve said some bad things to her too. Now she’s pregnant again. And it’s put us in a bad position. I don’t know what to do. 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No abuse - affairs 1 large asset & a home in my name If she were to file and I contest it, I seriously don’t believe she has the funds to pay lawyers through that process. QUESTION I believe, correct me if I’m wrong, that if my stance throughout the entire process is: “No, I don’t want a divorce” it will make things much tougher on her to walk away with as much. 1 child, 12 Married 17 years ",2.3903651685393257,4.33234605617978,3.333019662921348,90.981327247191,77.20224719101124,5.348876404494383,32.473314606741575,5.985473137389443,1.506673033707866,345,19,73,2,8,110,63,89,0.184,0.755,0.062,-0.8689,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,6,0,0,1,1,10,9,5,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,6,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,10,0,11,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,4,1,46,16,2,0.0,0.2867209814197671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621982603834442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273594754582084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5452842933452116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24273773411976446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16153155726440224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3557839679239901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2728096507138469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710864529571119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16076875008075558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427331674481981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645802932139305,0.0,0.15583493150571406 divorce,KratosIRL,2019/02/16,"Can she love me again? Story of James and Laura We were so in love. She was an exchange student, quiet and reserved. I met her and started dating. We started loving eachother right away. She had to leave back to her country, and i promised to call her. I moved back with my parents. &#x200B; We would talk all the time on the phone, loving eachother more. She came to visit for a month. I didnt have enough money to show her tourist stuff, but she didnt want to anyway, shes been here. We just stayed together in my parents house, hanging out, loving. She said it was the best month of her life. She said she wanted to finish school back in America, and move in with me. I was afraid of love for a while, had my heart broken before, but i said yes. Then my parents moved to another state, and my job wasnt enough for an apartment. I also suffered with depression, and i guess as self punishment, i actually was homeless while waiting for her to move her in a couple of months. I would text her all the time with my prepaid minutes, call her on payphones. I didnt tell her i was homeless, but maybe she knew, because she offered to send me money before hand so i can set up an apartment before she got there. More self punishment, i said no. I was trying to also save money for when she got there... Then someone at work hit on me. She took me out to lunch, and took me to a hotel. I slept with her, it was comforting, and maybe because i wanted to destroy my life some more. I called it off. ETC ETC ETC My love finally came to America, I lost my job because of their harassment, but i manage to find another one, we moved into an apartment together. We loved eachother so much, she finally came to see me, she couldnt keep away from me. It was wonderful, my princess and the love of her life. Then of course the people from work that hated me and the girl i slept with actually found us, and told her. I told her i was sorry, she quickly forgave me, but it took the wind out of our sails. I got depressed, accepted that i ruined my life again. Im not a compulsive cheater, its just i do things that are self destructive. Even went to a hospital for suicide when i was a teenager. But she was still sweet to me. When i said i needed time to myself, she would stay out and give me time to settle in. When i was busy typing or playing videogames, she would wait quietly and watch me, waiting. That scared me, she still loved me, and i was going to have my heart broken again because of me. She was honest and said she was a little disappointed, in just and honest way, but that was excuse to be depressed again. And so the pattern continued. I would love her, we would be happy, and then i would get depressed again. Some miserable times. But we loved eachother, and i made her happy when i could. We married etc etc I lost my job. Couldnt find another one no matter how hard i looked. She was disappointed, because she thought i was going to support her while she went to college. We asked parents for money, and i managed to get on unemployment. We couldnt afford to go outside, she said, and i was going crazy. I actually saw a therapist, said i need to go outside more (and gave me medication), but i couldnt, she said we couldnt afford it. I was also afraid to leave her, she always said shes so lonely. SORRY Ill SHORTEN THIS Shes always been there for us. She finished college, got a high paying job. We had two kids together! I raised them. 9 years! There were happy times and bad times. I told her i need to study to get a better job, but then she would always hint im not paying enough attention to her, and the fact we didnt leave the house except for Disneyland on Birthdays was driving me crazy. But we went to her home country for 2 months, it was great. She said she wanted me to move back with her. I was afraid to go, maybe because ill be happy there, or maybe i was afraid of being stuck in a house in a country i dont speak the language. Shes threatened to leave me before. She would scream in my ears, or call me a retard. But we always got back together, and then id get depressed, and start playing videogames for hours instead of making it up to her, angry at what she did, but maybe i deserved it for being a jobless piece of crap. The resentment kicked in. I remember we were laying together in our new house. She said lets just be happy. I would caress her face and say shes so beautiful, and tears came to her eyes saying she was so happy now. Said we were soulmates. Telling me things we have in common to get me to love her again. I would say lets go somewhere together, and she would say ""no"", and the stir crazy would kick in. I would try to bring up mean things she did, so we can talk about it, but she never wants to. I would go back to learning programming or playing videogames. Then she would go back to do everything to make us happy again, so we can recapture the magic... &#x200B; ANYWAY &#x200B; Were divorcing now. Going to court. She told me that she was just having a lonely time those years ago, and now shes just moving on. Like there was nothing. Hurts me, like I wanted it to, that i was nothing but a disappointment. Like i planned all along. Im going to college, getting a better job. But theres already guys out there with better jobs, that will treat her right. Im off the medication that made me so tired all the time. Im far away from getting one now, so by then, it will be too late. But were still sleeping together. She still smiles and covered her mouth because shes so happy when im nice to her...when shes not saying something hurtful to me. Shes stressed that we might lose the house... &#x200B; but i guess im just a loser. Her friends tell her im just using her, it would be too much of an embarrassment to get back with me. &#x200B; On paper, im a loser now. But theres feeling still behind her eyes. Im showing her that ive changed, but like i said...it would take years of good behavior to prove im not just saying that. &#x200B; Our divorce settlement says that i go to college for two years, in my own bedroom in our house. Shes happy going out and partying while i watch the kids. &#x200B; Do you think theres still something here? &#x200B; No suicide this time, i got two kids. Do you think we can just forget the past, and get back together. Ill help her financially either way, im raising my kids. &#x200B; Can people fall in love again, when life doesnt get in the way? &#x200B; or im a just addicted to lose. &#x200B; &#x200B;",2.3972412134761356,4.369369295245402,3.3702906311739618,90.58204013725695,77.2898773006135,6.046105854216492,23.704221690755954,6.9577165023457095,0.7597339035042121,5067,165,1053,53,118,1619,378,1304,0.149,0.69,0.161,0.9823,17,4,2,0,1,2,242.0,30,2,2,13,82,85,8,8,47,1,111,39,12,6,7,193,229,96,2,33,42,4,3,4,1,21,12,25,2,9,35,79,1,4,15,6,7,36,21,38,0,6,92,37,231,47,141,99,24,175,0,21,7,14,195,50,1,11,86,746,266,24,0.0,0.0,0.06124137990934301,0.022804649077494427,0.0,0.0,0.01854331042017442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023084486176515026,0.05018642301860165,0.06962468120216743,0.27198695980759946,0.3050245076699689,0.0,0.06580575734000546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.019556313638354996,0.0,0.05896188291151727,0.14476783386024902,0.01746637733463691,0.08926361567270379,0.0,0.07120164874736364,0.0,0.021953056769638244,0.055503104734606984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544199446871972,0.09570242849383184,0.0,0.0,0.0221293839593361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.016702010410885683,0.023146324703710305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008693288221208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024516752357885013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.064844334228251,0.11665031289712373,0.013816712125330316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.01880052575849722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.010577205983832258,0.0,0.0,0.04583118516229228,0.03823892472869303,0.0,0.0,0.02293645421745396,0.016161862135270117,0.0,0.1092924284309822,0.020067280124290064,0.15455273946049253,0.017545750309118213,0.10038435723121998,0.02306312098248257,0.04608897336466295,0.020712963835090584,0.0,0.20041667369849486,0.01873919291293926,0.02065304697129778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049577908201622216,0.014021473328510885,0.022101927931556825,0.020983325822880785,0.0,0.02060086687379163,0.14482535992824966,0.04478815230209104,0.0,0.2937475111499702,0.0,0.14531121011023054,0.01859364714221189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023597389316080655,0.08860022447926942,0.0,0.042781910679611033,0.07387806006781425,0.04087960043314448,0.02096619692204061,0.0,0.0,0.017566576883786322,0.046805715087850065,0.045670821493248345,0.0,0.2643212759171446,0.03958786909357583,0.02792700779750994,0.0,0.10507905092394043,0.022786775048651044,0.0,0.04214710862636218,0.0,0.022191608511897068,0.0,0.0,0.06678894943050398,0.15563409018419408,0.03075554342046808,0.04653321691937514,0.01613391722473307,0.02020356883031419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04014442764147839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042525490104135664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291168984280243,0.0,0.019969422336562768,0.02900501219621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02369699458382819,0.035729190452111724,0.27858081533422435,0.11644863976266802,0.02094343180103512,0.02117100678033348,0.016669625924489655,0.0,0.06546881094634556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.020933970965283343,0.0,0.017724485254305047,0.032208726423698465,0.0,0.04683391032244858,0.044419438000461234,0.04459345053438744,0.10023498901601292,0.0,0.02396248759026695,0.0,0.02394709404165315,0.045763683045498965,0.02373847852733005,0.0,0.0,0.01572838205164624,0.033627580357968215,0.054852026499794135,0.0,0.0,0.024288412974989983,0.0416926903925537,0.026807926271961116,0.0,0.01660724104831491,0.1219795759729553,0.024043156433026642,0.0,0.0799554825584991,0.0697248815337681,0.028405070484771262,0.0,0.0613040703579418,0.0,0.0754884517610606,0.018067181679031645,0.0,0.0,0.07403092648511657,0.04981326072713868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581759884367965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02268561524840922,0.03045836370423152,0.0,0.0,0.2674828893340889,0.0,0.3050245076699689,0.05388424925738746 divorce,BiancaLavoe,2019/02/16,"Restraining order and boundaries I wanted to get other people's opinions on this. There is a restraining order against my husband through family court. About two weeks ago he had his friend call me because he was upset about child support issues. The friend was polite, I was caught off guard. I told the friend that my husband needs to do everything through lawyers. Long story short, I need advice on what is something I would call the police about (of course I will call for violence or threats of violence) and what I could ignore. Please, no judgement for not calling previously- it's in the past and I would report it now, but I'm sure the police will think I am crazy. My concern is if I call the police at this point he'll go to prison and I worry how that will affect my children. I can't imagine telling my children daddy's friend called mommy so she called the police. I don't know how I would deal with that now or even when they're adults. I appreciate any thoughts and opinions. 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She'll be replaced, just as I will. New, amazing memories will be created. There is not only one person for you. There's someone out there who will be just as good as the one who left. Its frustrating that you invest all that time only for them to leave, but don't be so pessimistic. They most likely contributed to your life in a lot of ways somehow, and maybe that timeline ultimately was better than the one where it didn't happen. Maybe you would have wasted time with someone worse. So consider it a lesson learned. It ultimately made you a stronger person, I believe. Would you say that most divorced people have come back stronger than before? 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Separated, allowed spouse to come back, three months later all the cards are pulled in divorce, custody, and legal issues. Have any of you dealt with false claims, exaggerations, and exes who will pull every button possible to upend everything? I am severely struggling right now and unfortunately, can’t post details to describe the level of what this vindictive person is doing to my children and me. I’m interested in hearing others perspectives who have been through the explosion and how they picked up the pieces to rise above it.",8.569563492063494,10.101908046296296,7.580846560846562,68.19166666666669,61.12962962962962,10.245502645502649,36.72486772486773,10.290406445055957,4.136508994708995,511,23,76,11,7,157,88,108,0.07400000000000001,0.888,0.038,-0.6124,1,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,3,3,0,1,6,0,10,0,0,3,1,13,14,6,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,6,7,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,1,1,1,5,2,13,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,0,4,51,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18927142500787886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2140157410158207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397534586920037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345019078907284,0.0,0.2501417276173643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136939629230953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2905003408339181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22215739350725555,0.0,0.0,0.2063754212927656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2430237854955691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31377107863741793,0.26655965438712675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23768913542276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31442949123970104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909670749474883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,3boxersinn,2019/02/16,"Advice please! Help!! 28 yr marriage over. He’s mentally ill and the breakup is not going well. Is he obligated to make half the house payment while the divorce is in process?? It got ugly last.....real ugly. After 28 years of marriage my husband I separated a month ago. We agreed to a three month separation to see if we wanted to save the marriage. He is staying at his dads cost free. I’m staying in the house with our daughter because I’m close to my work. We agreed to keep our finances together for those three months and I would make sure he had spending money. He is on disability and doesn’t work. He is borderline, bi-polar and has an opiate addiction and is not handling this well. Deciding to go off all his meds is his idea to save the marriage. A week ago our daughter (14) went to stay a few days with him. He called me begging to come home. I said no and then he called screaming at me. Then he called and said he to have a good life and that he hoped our daughter didn’t find him cause she wasn’t gonna like what she saw. Long story short. My daughter found him in the woods with his gun before he did anything. His dad took him to the hospital,he stayed a couple days,then was released to his dads care. It was no contact for a few days. Now he is back to texting me. Calling me. Begging to come home one minute accusing me of hiding money the next. Screaming at me the next. At the end of the night last night it was finally understood that we are going to divorce. He thinks he should get all his SSI income and shouldn’t have to pay any of the house payment while things are settled. “I’m not paying for a house I’m not living in” were his words. He also thinks he should get half of our daughters SSI. I haven’t told him I’m want full custody because he is going to flip out. But after what he did to her with the suicide attempt I don’t want him to have any rights to make any decisions for her. This has been rough on her. She doesn’t want to go to see him and I won’t force her to. I’m scared to death. I never thought I’d be doing this but his mental illness and abuse is more that I can take anymore. I’m saving myself and my daughter. Any advice on custody and house payment would help. I have no idea how the divorce process works. 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Thing is I still love her and she doesn't me, we met in December and she fed me a web of lies for a week about how she loved me, wanted to remarry properly and get a home together then a week later denied it and said I was reading between the lines. I asked her directly about this other guy and she won't answer, reason I k ow is because there was an unknown car on the drive of the house we shared last night (she lives there) and it was still there this morning, asked her and she won't give me a direct answer. Today hurts like hell, we are entering the final stages of divorce and she making my life hard there as well. Problem being I love her and it's difficult to deal with.",2.781357537490134,4.065695790055248,3.9902644041041846,89.48156077348067,74.52486187845304,7.160378847671666,22.87332280978689,7.7094869923839395,0.8648339384372536,682,18,148,9,14,223,105,181,0.141,0.7490000000000001,0.11,-0.7351,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,3,0,0,1,14,12,2,0,10,0,14,5,0,4,0,26,30,13,0,2,2,2,1,2,0,2,1,1,1,2,10,15,1,0,4,1,0,3,3,5,1,0,8,4,29,7,19,18,0,21,2,1,2,3,32,5,2,0,14,104,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14757889978436545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2631471196972478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17158845397094816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509748614884288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417456212344385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15431491780621953,0.0,0.0,0.14706241819483187,0.13501130792124452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27871084880268,0.0,0.0,0.1260760266909341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14117440162982645,0.0,0.0,0.1623958764630186,0.15066583473765946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472245835213407,0.0,0.0,0.1529151869384663,0.0,0.09940932158879444,0.13751759799017527,0.0,0.12427662031686833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810719413317499,0.0,0.09394551293736927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13207561687516062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13466984649274846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14077879065490972,0.0,0.0,0.1447048842709498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338766390116748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243042390083598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11924914196607878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22479141638703173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0935018701386888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668114624468741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830125138157846,0.0,0.225787407156248,0.0,0.12654279537426802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246090888699197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,psychlibrarian,2019/02/16,Does anyone else feel disconnected? Lately I've noticed when I'm in my home or interacting with spouse a feeling of floating above it all or observing it from the outside. I'm not talking about a psychotic break or anything but just feeling removed. It's like all of the pain and confusion of this process has built a wall between my brain and the world. Does this make sense? 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We have a 7 year old daughter together. I grew up in a sports minded household with several State Champion wrestlers and State Football Players. Mental illness was never discussed. We were always happy. We worked through our pain. After several years of watching my wife, slip further into depression not understanding it. I finally learned how to just listen and not try to fix her. Things seemed to be working out ok. Now she says she wants a divorce. We have a long 4 day weekend with Presidents’ Day. I want to give her space A crying, Combat Marine Veteran",3.931662946428574,6.917117054687503,4.3850892857142885,79.90812500000001,77.671875,6.7821428571428575,31.799107142857146,7.957251820313856,2.8047013392857143,565,29,90,10,14,178,90,128,0.149,0.748,0.103,-0.7506,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,5,0,0,2,5,6,0,1,6,1,7,3,0,2,1,30,14,6,0,3,4,3,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,3,14,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,3,17,3,18,10,0,21,0,1,1,0,21,7,0,1,11,62,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14233974527948676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879068191449032,0.22064548668567102,0.0,0.1473379940338181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18739329528605714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16410109128109793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18210182424739674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15138710100236638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3447864770238942,0.0,0.17272683818937773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193583818132232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795038927781164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820251718066291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1999657766832583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603771729684427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573110917840552,0.0,0.3865094121548173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788342318828912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11364795410716808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161418746236886,0.0,0.0,0.17808464982310335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30269562565315905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490746474631077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220320443309524 divorce,ImJustABrokenGuy,2019/02/16,"I (21 M) am 1 year and 8 months married to my wife. I told her I want a divorce last night. What to do now. I know I probably messed up by telling her before getting a lawyer but oh well. I just need to know what to do now. She can’t move out and won’t take my money to fly back home. I just don’t know what to do... I feel like I’ve fucked up but I feel like I haven’t. I do love her but we’re just not right when we’re with eachother. We always argue and she just says that it’s what every couple does. We have a lot of happy moments but just am not satisfied and I feel myself becoming more aggressive and impatient. Last year she screamed at me because I came home drunk after being out with my friends. I drunkenly told her I hated her and she told me she wanted a divorce. We just went in with our lives for 2 weeks then I asked her where she is going to go and she said she was just going to kill her self. Out of pity I stayed with her. I wanted her to better her self and save money so she had a cushion if things did fall apart. I never told her these things until last night. I just don’t know what to do. I’m scared she’s not going to go back home and we’re going to end up staying together. 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I'm a 31 F who got divorced in August from a 31 M. We were married for just under 2 years, but had been together for almost 9 years, so basically since we were 22 / senior year of college. The back story of the divorce: I found out in April that he was having an affair. I caught him and then at first he told me he loved her and wanted a divorce. But for several months, he then went back and forth on whether to try to make it work or to get a divorce. He put me through literal hell as he was/is a total narcissist, emotionally abused me and put me through a rollercoaster of emotions with his indecision. Like, he literally looked me in the eye at one point and said I hope you die so I can take your house. He never took responsibility for cheating, blamed me for everything, and told me I wasn't doing enough to win HIM back (the audacity, right?!). He and his gf harassed me, called me every name in the book, and used secrets I told my ex privately against me. I should also mention the gf is/has been a drug addict (most recently for heroin) and I strongly suspect they were/are doing drugs together. I could go on with so much more but long story short, it could be made into a Lifetime movie it was that bad. So during the summer I finally said this is enough, I'm not playing these games (I had previously been open to trying to reconcile) I'm divorcing. My self worth was too high to tolerate anymore and I knew I had to move on. Despite him being the cheater and all of the above, I did all the paperwork, paid for lawyers, did everything to get divorced (settlement). I should also mention I am and have always been by far the breadwinner. I supported him for YEARS without a job. Financially -- thankfully -- I am ok. So anyway, it was a quick divorce (5 months since affair discovery) and now I'm almost 6 months since the official divorce date. I feel like I've come a LONG way in the past 10-11 months. I was in a DEEP depression for the first few months. But now I go out, have fun, and am trying to date. Of course I still get sad sometimes but I mostly try to 'hide' it because people always say I should be moved on. I've had a lot of ""friends"" be pretty crappy and harp that I should ""just get over it."" But it's still affecting me. I spent pretty much all my adult life with that person who I truly loved deeply (even if he was probably just using me). And I am so proud of myself and how far I've come. But I still feel like the experience is and will have lasting impacts. So ultimately what I want to know is how long it takes to really move on? To feel like it's in the past. To stop letting it creep in my thoughts and impact things I do daily. To feel confident moving into a new serious relationship isn't a 'rebound'. What is a fair timeline for that? Because so many people seem to think I should already be completely over everything. But I still never want to see or hear about my ex. Like, it literally triggers me and I can't know anything. But given what happened and it's been less than a year, I don't feel like I'm that far off the path of reason. This was super long so thank you for those who read it. TL;DR -- How long post divorce until you can really feel like you're over it and moved on? What's an appropriate timeline for recovery and ultimately dating again?",3.8127189054726403,4.879290713432837,5.0528544776119455,83.69744092039805,71.71641791044777,8.269900497512436,27.092661691542286,8.660442795831766,1.8362213930348257,2598,88,538,45,48,863,299,670,0.09,0.77,0.14,0.9881,1,0,2,0,10,0,91.0,2,4,1,7,33,29,3,1,36,1,55,7,1,11,6,105,112,55,1,12,18,2,6,7,3,6,4,4,0,3,32,35,0,1,17,4,3,15,8,8,0,3,37,13,68,21,78,61,14,101,1,2,3,2,63,35,1,11,55,359,100,7,0.0,0.06762377665573646,0.0,0.062219470381578726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11430344237135558,0.0,0.06298296891361105,0.09128468059158128,0.09498086936492953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05660242285934864,0.0,0.0,0.04696733031491037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13165996577370884,0.04765470161601459,0.06958399294092707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827929675791368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983290045728742,0.05984137431332503,0.0,0.0,0.09113845501779573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049158057492441024,0.0,0.05923416860264995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13237626152863372,0.0,0.0,0.1284019325669174,0.0,0.11794612929488205,0.0,0.037697072554437314,0.0,0.04808760486528948,0.0,0.1538842476743056,0.055829669949270334,0.0,0.0,0.17315104973407874,0.2038696496079704,0.0,0.06252216506528244,0.0,0.09709483275952883,0.0,0.06257908328217562,0.04409550434297156,0.0,0.1192759772901438,0.0,0.06487334134622741,0.0,0.04564757475765223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05047066277600632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0643269450272519,0.0,0.0,0.0603021886300554,0.0,0.056687711601059884,0.0,0.06585614159884902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663748965548476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06273314470095752,0.046523216145372366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05836239389941685,0.040313304139147965,0.19518552508769685,0.0,0.0,0.3030540437375651,0.047928082840139725,0.0,0.0,0.048522574796386,0.10302366568364173,0.05400513378143562,0.038097574503308265,0.05786443681029756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277810243202271,0.3639660353593385,0.08391243453983555,0.0,0.08803852069741347,0.05512276677304763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03867505938526079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10896785803498253,0.07913634150329578,0.04983512447678403,0.0,0.0,0.0539537126179939,0.0,0.10932290870033536,0.1161302732942492,0.061535806877451374,0.0,0.0,0.11475097968098805,0.0,0.0,0.057089799158759565,0.0,0.07312658532538567,0.058681941661017936,0.056354039101269925,0.06127649674533973,0.0,0.048741186490934604,0.10858156115236832,0.04538781711989224,0.0,0.0,0.045480870718784885,0.051958348344260316,0.059540998705293786,0.06447777448264656,0.0,0.14163748632617204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05644799552113969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18231861141081865,0.04771671558780285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647673005892724,0.0,0.0,0.08582562247610596,0.0,0.0,0.1050927940153603,0.0,0.0,0.037917664744479725,0.03657094149972978,0.0,0.04531066183101719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361097342437012,0.06341170736293301,0.15499895970405894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09858783369453374,0.0,0.0,0.10099179825370126,0.04530296563491479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052908497987435014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05501764057991313,0.0,0.041550809484655365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837700636891353 divorce,ppaulapple,2019/02/16,"120 Days after my first post here about my husband wanting a separation/divorce. So, I looked back when I first posted about my husband wanting a divorce. I read all of your comments and I was hopeful. But, what I learned was he had already made the decision way before even discussing it with me. So, I was left with no choice, he wanted out, so he left. Honestly, I was destroyed. I contemplated ending my life because it was too much... I felt that way for a couple of weeks. He agreed to having me around until we figured out living situations. We still spoke to each other and he was more than accommodating to help me in any way he can so I can move on. We were friends, after all. 120 days and now I’m sitting here in my little bachelor suite in a city I’ve always dreamed of living in and on my own with my 2 dogs, found a job and working on getting my life back together. But this time it’s for me... and only me. I’m grateful for all the good things that have in my favour (man, someone must be watching over me or the universe wants this) because I cannot believe where I am. Today, for the first time, I feel that this is what was meant to happen and I don’t feel so unsure anymore if I made the right choice. Yes, I’m still heart broken but it’s not so overwhelming anymore. So guys and gals... there’s hope. Hang on.",2.407342995169085,4.1093407777777795,3.6727053140096615,89.63978260869568,76.40740740740742,6.028985507246378,25.072463768115945,6.7026698264267655,0.8218937198067637,1030,36,218,9,23,336,145,270,0.03,0.8859999999999999,0.084,0.8951,1,0,0,0,2,0,41.0,3,1,0,4,22,8,1,1,10,1,19,3,1,2,4,44,39,22,0,8,6,2,3,0,1,1,2,1,0,2,14,18,0,0,8,2,0,2,4,2,0,3,15,6,34,6,33,22,7,45,0,1,2,0,20,18,0,4,19,154,48,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12396147406306918,0.0,0.09346946307356463,0.0,0.0,0.0763898084549518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22280689190152486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09999955290294922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17275319253144067,0.0,0.1369534413022477,0.0,0.09558650414562253,0.1265600223475402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429354101601765,0.0,0.14489006657711914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949306592954077,0.0,0.0,0.07419441735304819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359716089834182,0.0,0.1078566133493453,0.0,0.0,0.2866493625273667,0.0,0.12316655665778932,0.086787647711665,0.0,0.05868898457882999,0.0,0.0,0.09421899431634637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122662681680244,0.09933507204519483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13311430314374914,0.07529396535178222,0.0,0.0,0.22314261815660227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147246352511124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440987210263604,0.0,0.15868723534757534,0.0,0.11258646417683008,0.19838293815141714,0.0,0.09433083102242693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21258305557816515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1193914456301125,0.08257715742208281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543376755569489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21516656240743293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1123626875606848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593116090298316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262661992035421,0.0,0.0,0.09517878380884467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17941742195907234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462858127888605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310037219591985,0.0,0.10647787515811404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2650259775671609,0.2674924267496219,0.09010618633464523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08177924415243837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whisperstruck,2019/02/16,"Handling separation with a toddler I found out that my husband was having an affair 30 minutes before our two-year-old’s birthday party. That was 11 days ago. He has shown no remorse or emotion towards me. No empathy and generally showing no feelings whatsoever. He said he broke it off with her because he didn’t want that to be the reason for us to split. For being a Doctor, he is such an idiot. In this time, my husband has only come to see our son twice and he has flaked twice. Yesterday, Valentine’s Day, he said that he had an investor meeting that he didn’t know about until 20 minutes prior. Complete BS. Tomorrow, we agreed that he would take our son overnight. Now he won’t give me the address to where the placement is. I sent him a text telling him that it is a basic respect and understanding that any parent would want to know where their child is. I also mentioned that I hope in the future we will be able to have a clear understanding of transparency and how important that is. He refuses to tell me where my son will be staying. Should I give him until 9 AM tomorrow morning and offer him to only spend the day with my son? 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Unless I choose to live in my car under a bridge after selling the house ASAP after filing. State of CO Alimony if granted would be 1/3rd of my paycheck. We don't have kids. I never agreed to him being a part time / stay at home spouse. He is only working a part time job because I stopped giving him money when I realized it was all going to weed and videogames. He thinks his time is worth more than min wage, hence he won't give his current employer more than 20 hours a week. I currently pay the mortgage and all bills associated with being a regular adult in the US. Luckily we don't have any student loans. I don't know what to do. If I somehow managed to sell the house (under my name) and walk away in the black, I'm not sure if I could pay for rent in the area, plus alimony, plus bills and food. For those of you who have to pay your ex, how do you do it? Was it worth it? Should I continue to ""believe"" my husband when he says he'll be earning a real paycheck soon? Just wait it out until he's got a decent income? It's been years, I'm beyond tired of waiting for him to pay/do his fair share ( I pay 100% of the bills and do 90% of the housekeeping, else it wouldn't be done). How often is alimony really granted? If it makes a difference, he does have a bachelor's degree and work experience from when we were dating. I truly believe he could get a decent job if he'd put in the work required to do it. He's just lazy and doesn't want to stop smoking weed long enough to get a good job. 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We made it a week short of 15 years before catching her cheating (again) and for the last time. Separate houses since September 2017 and the kids (12F, 9F and 5M) are split 50:50 week on/off. Divorce just finalized 🎉 a few weeks ago. We have been very kid focused and never put the kids between us in anyway. For some background my ex has a long history of depression, anxiety and anger issues. I (along with Grace) spent the bulk of our time dealing with her explosive anger and abuse. Myself as a peacemaker always took one for the treat and accepted blame and fixed the fallout. Grace was always there to comfort me even at a young age. The past Christmas my ex lost her cool with me on a kid swap day and my oldest (12F - let’s call her Grace) had the final straw that broke the camels back as they say. She had had enough of her moms bullshit and called her out on it and refused to go to her moms. It’s been almost 2 months now. I fully admit I have allowed my daughter to stay with me way too long. I enabled her to hide here from her problems and need to gave her mom and confront her with her feelings and rebuild the relationship. She needs a mom. Her mom didn’t have a Dad and that was huge impact on her life (she refuses to face that). I was trying to protect her from the abuse and anger that I absorbed. She needs to confront this head on and the fact she stood up to her mom is pretty cool. I could never do that when we were married. She tried a few times to go back but her mom did not exactly handle it well. Grace has communicated her concerns (a laundry list of big and small issues) but her mom wont acknowledge them and has indicated to me that she thinks Grace is “making this up”. I have now been battling with her mom to get her back to her house and back to the regular schedule. This past week (the ex’s week with the kids) I have been trying to get my daughter back over. I am essentially forcing her to go. She “doesn’t want to go” but does understand she needs to go back. She doesn’t trust her mom but she has been respecting my new found authority and is ready to respect my wishes and go to her moms. Now to the issue. I finally get here and her mom is stalling. For the past three days I have basically said “I am coming over with Grace - what time works for you?”. She is now going on about “we need a transition plan”, “don’t I get a say”, “I am not your babysitter” (reminder - it’s her week and she already has Grace’s siblings) etc. Stalling. She has ignored my texts all day. I even had Grace text her and she won’t respond to that either. I have offered to meet one-on-one in advance. I agreed to have a meeting once I drop her off to go over expectations etc. Tomorrow morning I plan to just take her over and drop her off. Am I crazy? Everyone I ask says to do exactly that. Thoughts? Suggestions?",2.023725338721178,4.022504532445922,3.1050199072973648,91.91625103993348,78.55074875207988,6.289529355835513,23.044954837176128,7.310402129719878,0.7509284288091274,2308,74,502,30,56,739,261,601,0.084,0.809,0.106,0.9481,1,0,0,0,3,0,73.0,6,2,2,7,24,29,7,0,30,2,52,3,2,3,6,84,89,33,0,10,9,21,1,0,0,3,1,4,0,6,17,41,0,5,8,0,1,13,10,12,1,3,25,7,95,17,72,58,8,86,0,3,0,0,104,21,0,3,47,334,112,1,0.0,0.1122167610192996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041977686226071086,0.0,0.047419571601158166,0.0,0.052257838295882264,0.0,0.07880693778159065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03622673531990609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04427088686151536,0.0,0.0,0.2548935436613404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040295939643063536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671027322164306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04079246587924716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03780941679161822,0.0,0.0,0.09162090553248507,0.04882131638435636,0.040787118544748535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041441011287773895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04893076540081273,0.1056275308348619,0.0625555624245018,0.0,0.0,0.045250094007529496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023944302493840025,0.0,0.0,0.15562650895537136,0.0,0.04028046118842669,0.0,0.05192272881499176,0.0,0.0,0.09896492403146533,0.0,0.2153052255402392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04860028088422877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10928349862909198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14828013709617244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038600954325667694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048424083455634134,0.033448504654740814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838160404615267,0.0,0.0,0.051693990201574,0.0,0.0,0.04480880461778067,0.03161008320503233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7210066181407058,0.03779861172350819,0.0,0.0,0.17556706746439887,0.07304677530721917,0.04573612013112069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05043193312579399,0.06417846075851892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356182028935008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04535336284904007,0.048177445012091175,0.0,0.045312702222219774,0.0,0.0476052355414388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050841954793339486,0.0,0.0,0.04504580970450786,0.1129766942667176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783457177364952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050474533183507225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07121070312121364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030343414738711105,0.0,0.03759488128119973,0.11045320927402684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05261356850267238,0.09645358156291482,0.0,0.0,0.04929861961923932,0.05696269022655447,0.0,0.0,0.039073147133950575,0.027931429471519442,0.03758849564110766,0.2279137716225674,0.0,0.04257817287606587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054456348794207146,0.0,0.0,0.034475279914010004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03049531147082985 divorce,azulwolf,2019/02/16,"One year post divorce, ex gets re-married As the title says, I've been divorced for a little over a year now. My ex cheated on me and left me for this Jody. I went to therapy, spent some time in Afghanistan, and realized how much better off I am without her. Even have a new girlfriend that I think is the best thing to happen to me in a while. So why does my ex getting married again hurt so damn much? My head understands that she needed to see the curb. My emotions? Not so much.",2.5032575757575763,3.9616826969696985,3.4200883838383858,92.58346590909092,75.56565656565657,6.162121212121212,25.506313131313128,6.6274283507984215,0.7751101010101009,373,13,82,3,8,119,71,99,0.103,0.828,0.069,-0.5348,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,7,5,2,0,7,0,4,1,1,1,0,11,13,8,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,1,3,0,1,1,2,3,0,1,3,2,12,2,13,10,5,16,0,1,1,0,9,7,1,1,7,57,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032386640443264,0.16882381733226332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704628050094766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21472190008404066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260788974850715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994608956899707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16880052181640015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19590487540555934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20434821292573274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073990114247806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131867034702246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4209711728991557,0.14154010574080367,0.0,0.18435961177188326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12934980137839328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281673966718912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180080451781602,0.0,0.0,0.15211202484237735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2182956335415616,0.0,0.12681667414065134,0.12231252115449052,0.0,0.0,0.11130759847107298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19871983779639432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17695392882866526,0.17224560052868318,0.0,0.0,0.18400801432335295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458496159056284 divorce,anonymous27777,2019/02/16,"Having a tough time lately.. Lately I feel like I’m drowning. I was doing okay for the past few months then a couple weeks ago it’s like a wave of sadness hit and won’t go away. I miss who my husband used to be, I miss us being a family, I miss all the good times, I hate that I’ll never get my best friend back. He is no longer the same person and isn’t even a good dad to our kids anymore and I don’t like who he is at all currently, but I’m constantly stuck thinking of what was. It’s weird because I was doing well for a while and didn’t even think of any of these things, just focused on the present and future for me and my kids...now I feel like I’m stuck in the past and it’s breaking my heart all over again. We had court this week and it was hard to see him and realize what a stranger he is now. And it’s hard for me to console my children who are asking “why isn’t daddy the same daddy anymore?” I don’t have the answers. And I hate that they have to go through this too. I will never understand why he chose to randomly up and leave and completely turn into a different person, the worst version possible of himself. I’m hurting thinking back to our old life. And I’m finding it hard to be okay with all of this, even though I was okay with it before and even though I don’t want to be with him any longer..it’s all just eating me alive now. And I feel like I will forever be stuck in missing the past and dreading the future. Because he keeps doing things again and again that mess up me and my kids lives. I feel like I’ll never be free..",2.254119402985076,3.1937572179104485,3.5846567164179106,93.22922388059703,75.32835820895522,6.554029850746268,22.95223880597015,6.742157984588678,0.4098382089552235,1208,32,284,10,25,396,146,335,0.157,0.732,0.111,-0.9292,2,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,4,0,1,1,17,28,2,1,18,3,31,3,1,1,8,52,63,24,1,1,3,2,7,6,1,3,1,0,0,5,21,24,1,1,11,0,1,2,11,13,1,0,10,8,35,16,32,43,11,41,0,6,1,0,25,9,0,1,35,190,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08143420682052817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12494489003392745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822139835829933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08588287923715493,0.0,0.08631170412665183,0.1412795049524147,0.0,0.11200206552009,0.0,0.07817171878527059,0.0,0.0964083394395714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09632039271364014,0.0992751691618238,0.0,0.0,0.10164865659619993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09598105460293617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400247651923184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24270811787084676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660366395675052,0.0,0.18580207312575905,0.2625180980612518,0.0,0.0,0.0839644172046845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07097591497452105,0.0,0.04799651205258021,0.0,0.10441982302072993,0.15410670771488266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2468833142643984,0.18139851627624606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886237512983638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09834510599870253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08165526395327223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20725907493837434,0.0972734754623466,0.0,0.0,0.06488810343719847,0.2692883116051989,0.0,0.08111989967403002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07332705161603904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125595790072261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09639855353184894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26309122240755184,0.0,0.16042876072343545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10356579952453736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732057941325754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220641872243626,0.1765932427646717,0.18051695571809054,0.0,0.10713631808541484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09992449148155136,0.0,0.09563638082430416,0.11050422055139264,0.07934325512415605,0.0,0.0,0.05418530673956108,0.0,0.1473797064119884,0.0,0.08259911509549332,0.0,0.16579065311385846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PandorasChesterfield,2019/02/17,"UPDATE ... UPDATE ... UPDATE https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce/comments/arl861/dazed_and_confounded/?utm_source=reddit-android Today my husband came over for a visit and I basically told him that it's time to poop or get off the pot. It isn't fair that for the last 15 months I've been in relationship limbo while he is free to do whatever it is that he desires. The Silver Lining is that he has agreed to keep his word by signing over the house to me under the terms of an uncontested divorce. Yaaaaaaay, me ... I guess! 🤷🏽‍♀️ I no longer have the mental, emotional, and physical strength to hold on to someone who has told and showed me that he no longer loves me. I tried my hardest to love him through everything that has happened over the last year, but all I received in return was his butt to kiss. I'm hurting, but I will be okay. I feel broken, but I know there is a light on the other side.",4.39038152610442,6.8515108493975925,4.435638554216869,82.97221285140564,73.03614457831327,6.354377510040162,23.114859437751,7.3011,0.7914912449799201,715,20,136,8,15,221,105,166,0.073,0.8190000000000001,0.108,0.6138,1,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,0,0,11,1,14,5,2,0,1,17,26,8,0,1,4,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,2,2,1,1,3,3,1,0,0,5,2,18,7,22,19,2,25,0,1,0,4,18,10,1,2,12,88,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302221977728611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264242181239252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18090652149691186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177829951519217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516574540189663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217436883911767,0.0,0.1780001301973843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23226169687760306,0.21548516624816053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17891584893141946,0.0,0.0,0.11062374962282376,0.3281565200690876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.363344265687313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2028530307519597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16066780087845028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21611018755821346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055240975005245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173738493614314,0.0,0.19079943519507375,0.3846825458518791,0.0,0.13666273380551772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296241953794928 divorce,tiffikay90,2019/02/17,"How do you stop remembering what you want to forget? In the months that have passed since I left my husband, and divorced him I have grown and broken more than I thought possible. I moved to a new place, have a new name, have a new job, life moved right along. I always thought that when (IF) I ever left him, life would be miserable for a long time. I would be stuck and useless. But I was wrong. I cried sure, and I was depressed, made poor choices, yada yada. I found out that my friends and family who were absent in large part for the last decade, were still there. Waiting to love me and see me through. I was surprised by how little I wanted to go back. How little I truly missed him and my life I made with him. I realized in time, that the life we had, was more routine for me, functioning more so than actual living. I was becoming more of a shell of myself than ever. I was raising a step daughter, thankfully her mother and I are really close, and I am able to maintain contact with her and a friendship. That has it's own issues but I'll focus on the main point. I do not miss him. I do not love him anymore, and I do not have any respect for him. I have had plenty of time to think and reevaluate my actions and contributions to the issues we shared. But at the end of the day, I realized, I was never going to get to be truly happy, because he was so insecure. I lost contact with one of my sisters, my XH thought my relationship with her and my father was unnecessary because they were ""too influential"" on me. They didn't care for X because they said he was too controlling. Of course I disagreed, he was looking out for me. In the time I wasn't speaking with them, my sister committed suicide. X was mad at me, I called him from the hospital after my mother informed me. I was told I needed to leave there and get home, which was in another city, it was after midnight. That is just one of MANY, too many, incidents where he wasn't controlling me, but was looking out for me. I don't make smart choices. I believed him. Because he said all the things I wanted to hear. ""I'll never leave you, I won't do what the last guy did, You are my world"" Any kind of validation for me was very appreciated when I met him. I never looked at our age difference as a factor, he is four years older than I. But he would often use those four years as reasoning why he knew better. He was around longer, had more experience. I'm so exhausted thinking about this. The only reason I am even writing is because I don't know what I am supposed to do with the shit I keep remembering. None of it pleasant. I do not hate him. I wish I did because the void of something seems odd at times. Like, why do I need to remember this stuff? Nights of no sleep because he wanted company while he played video games til 4 am when I worked at 7am. I was laying on the couch, snuggled with my boyfriend, happy. Then BAM! Remember that time you spent 13 hours cleaning the house and cooking a meal so that when he got home from his buddies overnight hunting trip, he would be able to relax and visit with me. He was mad that I expected him to be happy that I took care of our home. He was disappointed that I didn't think about him being full and now we're wasting food we really can't afford because he is still without a job. I should have thought about that. I actually went a while after the separation, truly feeling that I made all the horrible parts of our union possible. In a way I did. He was a drinker, a heavy drinker, he was loud, he was demanding, he was arrogant, and he knew more than I did about anything. I didn't graduate school with a high GPA, but i'm not an idiot. He was really good at talking down to me in a way I never realized. Subtly keeping me in check. Other people saw it. They seen the things I was blind to at this point. I knew it was over, when my step kid, who was 10, was asking me if anything happened to me and her daddy, if we would be able to talk still. She knew. My heart broke the rest of the way that day. I never realized how much she saw. I hated myself. I was more close to suicide that day than I had been in the last 12 years. Sorry for the rant, that's what I mean though! Just out of nowhere, I remember the bad. I know there was good, I don't recall it as much until I focus. Is it wrong, that I'm not sad, I'm just tired of remembering things I had forgotten for reasons. I'm hoping it's because I am in a much better place mentally and physically. Maybe it is my mind finally letting me process. I don't like it though, it makes me feel like I was weak, like I was a victim. I never wanted that, I never wanted to be an ex wife. Marriage was supposed to be forever. I lost myself with him, and it has been a hell of a journey finding myself again since. Thanks for listening. 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This is truly a case of ""I have a friend who..."" She is ready to tell her husband she wants a divorce but is scared of how he will react and wants to have the conversation in a public place out of safety. I advised her that this may not be the best idea, but what do I know? I suggested she find a mediator for a neutral third party to be there in case things to get ugly. &#x200B; Is there other advice to give besides talk to a professional (therapist, lawyer, family counselor)? Has anyone not been able to afford a professional and had a family member or mutual friend be there?",5.486259999999998,6.154285736000007,6.362950000000001,77.27322500000002,67.64,9.13,26.825,9.188382445141503,2.0981400000000003,507,14,95,9,8,168,77,125,0.095,0.7559999999999999,0.14800000000000002,0.6295,1,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,2,12,0,15,0,0,2,0,17,21,6,0,3,5,2,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,2,0,10,4,15,14,1,4,0,0,0,0,24,4,0,2,0,72,17,4,0.1798365641254057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17573420911316928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1948528420949542,0.2185211095052174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12574590704487115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887273790153097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33906781522618945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16436736159656162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.416823850018209,0.0,0.0939571822750654,0.1725156191943693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030135911157639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883347251086376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878909332495189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800477734317989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445458181560251,0.3143701673260587,0.0,0.0,0.20880411185156506,0.11947542225290307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3182167947776268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185211095052174,0.0 divorce,BarneyBodie,2019/02/17,"Husband trying to give me full custody, no alimony My husband is the breadwinner, given that I don’t work, and he’s decided to divorce me after he used paternity tests on our children. Of the four children we’ve had, two turned out to be from another man and I honestly had no clue. My family isn’t supporting me in this, and I have hardly enough money to get a lawyer. What should I do?",4.787307692307691,5.294300551282053,6.529897435897437,76.03176923076926,69.12820512820512,10.342564102564104,32.266666666666666,10.355215969177356,3.4061405128205138,305,13,59,8,5,106,58,78,0.058,0.863,0.078,0.3612,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,1,0,7,15,3,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,0,0,2,3,1,10,2,10,10,2,5,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,0,1,44,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32810752240857777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233138665350615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949783992986892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634796225741761,0.3001663910213952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803008615264287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550801794640135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21244153271677574,0.3403501099293385,0.3056621100001726,0.0,0.0,0.27024891698992315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22779811346854545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,littlebigcoffee,2019/02/17,"If not divorce, then what? I'm at the end of my rope with my husband. We have a toddler. So many stories here are about how divorce is a mistake. So, then what do I do? He's resistant to do anything differently. Talking is out of the question. Therapy...nah. He'll talk the lets-fix-us talk but not follow through with anything. So, what? Do I learn to ignore him and just live in my own mind in our home? Do I move elsewhere (finances would really harm that)? I feel stuck and miserable.",-0.1884353741496625,2.1099620612244934,1.7682040816326534,94.02203401360545,96.75510204081631,4.654149659863946,23.88027210884353,6.42735559955562,0.8184957823129251,374,17,79,5,15,123,69,98,0.181,0.8190000000000001,0.0,-0.9578,1,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,2,0,0,0,7,4,0,1,5,0,10,0,0,1,0,19,15,10,0,3,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,4,6,0,1,3,0,1,2,2,4,0,0,1,1,10,0,12,12,1,9,0,1,0,0,12,4,0,2,3,56,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3752699880898634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23822470323744965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20195154203346544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529005363193005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287152924121926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20133935917293333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23116905269079546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302277909359837,0.0,0.0,0.24234137651040985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554263661638983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607075077566195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5498038256381104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27427115961836795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197365408054612,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,seansagesilver,2019/02/17,"Separated but still living together My husband and I decided to end it at the end of last year after two years of marriage and seven years together in total. I initiated the decision and he grudgingly came around. No real issues there, but I can't find a way forward with our living situation. We have no children or significant assets, but he is highly dependent on my income. Prior to our engagement, I wanted to be a supportive girlfriend/wife and talked him into going back to school. I make more than enough to support us. But the situation has changed. It's one thing to financially support someone when you see a future with them. It's an entirely different thing when you just want them out of my daily life. So he's moved out of my bedroom, but he's still very present in my life. I'm not a petty person and he doesn't deserve it, so I'm not going to fully divorce him and cut off support. He has two more years to go for his degree, but I am dying. I feel so trapped in this awful situation that I created. So much so that I'm now on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety meds. I just focus on work and finding excuses to spend time outside of my house. For added stress, I haven't told anyone in my life about this change outside of my immediate family. So I actively lie to the majority of people around me. I am still ashamed of this failure and the predicament I put my self in. Best case scenario would be him moving out next year, followed by an actual divorce. But for now, I have to live with him. I can't date or move on with my life in any real way. I'm not looking for advice. There's no easy or fast way out. I'm just looking for any suggested coping techniques from anyone who's been in a similar situation.",4.091565217391306,5.301905460869566,5.83315942028986,77.82104347826089,71.20289855072464,8.882318840579712,29.45217391304348,9.281916038205594,2.6246208695652173,1364,54,260,29,25,469,177,345,0.093,0.794,0.113,0.6344,3,1,0,0,2,0,36.0,4,2,2,2,22,9,1,2,12,1,15,4,0,2,1,51,37,27,1,3,16,1,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,3,12,22,0,0,5,0,1,10,10,3,0,4,3,4,39,6,53,31,7,58,0,0,3,0,31,22,0,4,25,185,51,2,0.0,0.0,0.07856061296265816,0.0,0.0,0.07866789932545956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10949140970426566,0.0,0.061585591921124484,0.0,0.0,0.11258099838289501,0.0,0.0,0.1433318428020021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06190286035451412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08448432736720718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09207550665440724,0.0,0.0,0.17032581279896014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06933826126350279,0.0,0.08355078430282717,0.08410989013255317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14260588244371633,0.08318249281234273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589231740173036,0.0,0.04070540801426591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14715899789485815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13725739748746574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850572443924326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289118783201293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402560459443703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656217735292383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22745035563906185,0.0,0.0,0.21326039427382,0.0,0.1352067229401579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053737265245323206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08942216196825052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.256690086408192,0.059179945325080974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561726800809291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05455181731802673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05581156581946976,0.07029327555511686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809290868601422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18326310382944366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147467964446622,0.064151527892973,0.0,0.08398357328810993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3619609586257385,0.0,0.0,0.06821105736450113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928725852289771,0.0,0.09221743775147688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3654214375969873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470633081628176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696699905031537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04694272208535856,0.0,0.0,0.07692533702889172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15728206488995486,0.0,0.09683679647208973,0.0,0.0,0.06642450315260075,0.09496707898276743,0.1917017694009716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05860811087175447,0.0,0.0,0.0571879660838685,0.0,0.0,0.25921074465660443 divorce,definutlynotbert,2019/02/17,"My parents are probably getting a divorce. I just wanted to talk to people about this and this seemed like the right place to do so. So I’m 14 and my parents were happily married as long as i know. But the last few months have been rough. My mom has a burnout and is home a lot because of that. My dad finds that really sad and hard to deal with. He’s has found that for some time, but just recently told my mom about that. So today they told me and my sister that their marriage wasn’t going to well. Obviously i was very sad and shocked, but the hardest part was that my dad has seemingly given up on rebuilding the bond they once had. Also my dad is maybe in love with someone from his work. He says he isn’t, but he does have some feelings for her. My dad wants to go on as we previously did, but he also wants to keep seeing that woman from work. I don’t really understand this as it doesn’t fix the problems my parents have. I hope they figure something out but it doesn’t look great sadly. I just wanted to tell this somewhere and not keep it to myself. 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In a relationship for 8 years, married 5. Me (37f) and husband (38) are getting worse. He's an addict, but I didnt know that until recently. Even before things started getting bad, it was my responsibility to bring home dinner, clean the house, clean the laundry, and do everything involved with taking care of our kid (3f). He's also always been very passive aggresive. On nights that he drink it's even worse, he'll go to bed super early and often miss work the next day. My every day situation is that I come home and entertain our child, feed her, do activities with her, get her ready for bed, and lay with her and read a book until she falls asleep. All during this time he's either watching tv or playing video games. He doesnt attend any of her doctors or dentist appointments, he doesnt go to her school events, doesnt attend her screenings, hasn't taken her to the zoo or museum or any other place. It's all on me. I'm stressed, overwhelmed, and underappreciated. I've asked him to see a therapist, and after about 3 months of me asking him he finally saw one, but he'll only go once every 2 weeks. He wont see a marriage counselor with me because when we did premarital counseling he felt I spent the whole time attacking him. Last night he was wasted again. Is it pointless for me to hope he'll change? Do I need to give him more time with this every-other-week therapist or is it time to throw in the towel? 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We’ve been separated for about a year and the paperwork is almost done. I’ve taken a lot of this time to focus on the kids and myself. We have 50/50 custody. I recently took kids (13/G, 8/B) on a kick ass vacation. I know this because they want to do same thing for years to come. During the vacation, at times, I found myself thinking about the ex and how much she would have enjoyed the experiences we were having. I guess I’m still not over entirely over the relationship. One day at a time! 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We have been separated 6 months with 0% chance of ever reconciling. STBX has moved on and I'm slowly moving forward. I've been having mostly good days until today. My kids birthday was this past week and it's the first family bday since the split. The week was fine, but now it's Sunday and we should be celebrating as a family, spending the day together...but we're not. And it just hit me like a ton of bricks. So now I'm sitting here crying. I'm sad, mad, pissed off, hurt...all of the emotions. I'm going to force myself to pull myself together and spend the day with my kids and make it a wonderful, memorable day. Thanks for listening....I just needed to ""talk"" to people who understand!",2.2962266009852206,4.4969408344827615,3.992733990147787,84.88387931034484,78.58620689655173,7.453201970443351,21.391625615763548,8.418075326091056,1.3183694581280792,571,16,114,12,14,191,96,145,0.116,0.743,0.141,0.2363,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,2,0,0,1,8,7,2,0,9,0,9,1,1,1,1,24,21,10,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,6,10,0,0,4,0,2,5,1,3,0,1,4,0,7,4,15,13,2,23,0,1,0,0,6,3,1,2,17,65,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18202127154153386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906773431226617,0.4477974281581207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19526218966801406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15701952335653724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272850492636557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476531487576689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865358277020664,0.14559667317168326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18582864391106352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848059176551775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158707765504914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855561418567047,0.3689913571044442,0.0,0.12871267887427634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16570858504995786,0.12034347938023594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14359309171460974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13952278302938162,0.0,0.15981573382530176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16454032970633806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18071035438588012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27848229664739793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18824786918942452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,cleverever,2019/02/17,"Divorce Finalized: Dobby. Is. Free. Just wanted to update with some good news. I chose to leave my Now EX Husband back in October after yet another infidelity issue came up. His vice was paying sex workers, not romantic affairs. He was also severely addicted to porn. I had tried for 4 years to change him, to therapy him, to change myself, to numb myself with drugs (weed) and just tolerate the behavior, and at some point I just realized that I had been unhappy in this relationship for longer than I had been happy. My entire future felt bleak and miserable. I was trapped in a sunk cost fallacy but thankfully I had a moment of clarity and realized I had to get out. &#x200B; It only took 4 months, 2 court visits, and I am 12,000 richer in a lump sum payment. No kids, no shared assets or debts. No long term support payments that I have to see his name on a check every month. The 12,000 pays for nursing school which will double my salary once I'm licensed in another 2 years, which will allow me to live very comfortably on my own without having to rely on a roommate or a boyfriend to share expenses. And his toxic self is out of my life forever. I could not be happier and it's always so humbling to look back and see what I put up with. I can't believe I did for so long. But it's taught me a lot about who I am, what I will and won't tolerate, and has made me much more discerning. Congrats to myself for a new life, a fresh start, and a happy ending. The road ahead is long, but the future is bright. &#x200B;",4.094430685593476,5.360730664451829,5.309364240410755,81.36589474479013,71.25913621262458,8.794986408939899,27.967532467532468,9.218907990703514,2.352201328903655,1194,43,232,25,22,397,178,301,0.078,0.754,0.168,0.9866,2,1,1,0,1,0,47.0,0,0,0,2,11,12,0,1,14,0,27,8,0,2,0,41,41,19,0,2,11,2,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,2,11,17,0,0,4,0,7,4,8,2,0,0,16,5,32,11,42,19,8,41,0,1,4,2,18,15,0,5,22,164,43,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017666973428286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815800619947038,0.09172759345861994,0.2388875979466204,0.267904652501261,0.0,0.2311901910758129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16953381449009713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242014867344663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12608393032917148,0.0,0.0,0.23323627199585614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801678913044228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278421221269001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763894221103864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09288102538911312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584662900380352,0.120761323361366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057595273803051135,0.0,0.0,0.09246315665607092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347027117385958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11506076762972026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167270748109924,0.0,0.0,0.15572998637617633,0.0,0.0,0.09734296582808942,0.292673864808974,0.09257290920596024,0.0,0.0,0.09372116815203202,0.0,0.10431070992093956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759832718831574,0.0,0.08103827363402871,0.0,0.0,0.10646941378153783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11740082762550315,0.0,0.08384164881549856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042113901398744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11082053979432784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835531975242924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11156764926031217,0.17569225665467136,0.0,0.11500321190734468,0.12453857549222636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802765877875394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12509779406290913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10149316540611568,0.1260677862730458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224794709165255,0.07484497487392251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09095863527612168,0.06502175771332039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626636294045437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267904652501261,0.14198047084345472 divorce,gurumaster1221,2019/02/17,"Filing advice Looking to file for divorce in Minnesota. Any advice? 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After five years of dating and five years of marriage, with no children, his split occurred last February and papers were signed in July (didn't know until recently they were signed so close to us meeting). We've always been very open about his divorce and I ask him questions about timelines, if being raised in religious midwest influenced his decision to marry, etc. and they have an amicable relationship where they have only got together to discuss things like the dogs and taxes. When we first got together, he was very shy. It took a couple weeks for us to share any kind of intimacy and it was only by my making the move. I used to have to beg him to touch me. We also experienced some other issues with intimacy at first which he began talking about in counseling (and are since wonderfully resolved) as well as his discovery for his ""sense of self"". A couple months into spending some time together, and still sharing about other Tinder dates, I let him know that i was wanting to pursue someone else seriously. This was the first time he unloaded on me that he wanted us to be serious and wished I saw him as someone who I could seriously have in my life. I was shocked by this conversation as ""us"" as a couple was never before broached. He was upset by my decision to see this other person and then about a month later, when that relationship ended, we started talking again. Since re-connecting we have been back and forth about dating, never aligning at the same time. He used to become so upset that I was handling him with ""kid gloves"" and urged that I open up to him. He asked that I don't see him as broken and give in. He's attended a family even with me for emotional support, talks about me to his friends, has mentioned me to his mom, and whenever he travels, he texts me with large declarations that he's been thinking about a lot and wants us to happen. Only, when he gets back, he falls silent. He clams up and tells me he's hesitant. He thinks he's going to fuck something up, that he doesn't know his long-term plan (whereas I'm very 5-year-plan kinda gal), that I've already left him before so will it happen again, or that we'll end up in a dead bedroom relationship eventually. I feel so slapped in the face because we had such a solid beat going before me asked more from me - to fall in love with him at the same pace. I've tried recommending we go back to being best friends and still spend our allotted days together but eliminate the intimacy - he totally shuts down at this one. He gets turned off by me seeing other people and I the same towards him although we're open about when we sleep with other people and the emotions around it. For the most part, I feel like I'm doing a pretty ok job at dating this beautiful, hilarious man and looking after him. I have also looked after myself saying it isn't fair that he asks so much of me, but he also wants to ""see what else is out there"". I give him space when I can tell he needs it and he gives me mine while always upholding our plans. When we've had emotional conversations about his hesitancy and insecurities that the problems from his marriage left on him, I try to remind him I am not his ex and he needs to see me as me. I also tell him how I desire to be with someone that knows in their gut that I'm the one they want to spend time with - that it's an easy decision for them that they want to be with me and I don't have to sell them on me. His response is to ask me if I'm sure I'm completely sold on him and, if so, ""how can that be?"" I feel so angry that I met this person who I have no fears about, who I know fits. Who sees me like no one else has and makes me feel so safe. There's a pat of me that wants to leave it open indefinitely and hope somewhere along the way, he heals a little more. There's also a part of me that wants to get out before it's too late. At this point, he's such a regular part of my life that I don't think any decision will be clean. How can I help my best friend? Can we get there? &#x200B; TL;DR - My divorced best-friend boyfriend asked me to open up to him and is so jittery after his divorce that we're stuck in limbo. He wants us to make out and be in love while also being open to other people but he also hates that too so everything sucks oh my god please help. He just wants me around because he wants to love me but can't allow himself. 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She works in HR. Wants me to tell people we got seperated because she doesn't love me and that's all so I do not destroy her career. What do I do? ,2.8817307692307668,5.212891403846154,5.258307692307696,75.88669230769231,77.26923076923076,9.544615384615383,27.707692307692305,9.888512548439397,3.2609953846153843,211,9,39,7,5,74,42,52,0.064,0.8759999999999999,0.059,-0.0655,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,1,10,9,3,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,10,1,6,7,1,1,0,0,0,1,12,1,0,0,0,29,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24149240674633535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3168413373379442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3575453480931128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746439915708031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4466052312098272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4253222055991696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462569251075716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23366247888487185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28840555307673593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,QueenofKings97,2019/02/17,Considering it My husband just told me that he’s “falling out of love with me”. I’m the main income and I can’t afford to get my own place until he starts working which won’t be for a few months now (have to pay for state licenses). Does anyone have any advice on how to get out? We have a daughter but I don’t have hope of keeping her. I’ve wanted to leave for a while and just don’t know how. Any advice is appreciated. ,0.09670329670329636,2.141155648351649,2.4820769230769244,93.47542307692308,85.92307692307692,4.958681318681318,17.89120879120879,6.2581,-0.3063371428571431,328,8,76,3,10,112,63,91,0.043,0.8320000000000001,0.124,0.8779,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,2,0,15,20,7,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,1,0,8,2,14,17,3,11,0,0,0,1,8,4,0,1,5,51,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4878186654040024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33947743497106336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452834272905368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21842941949509725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2608147127064303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2479122712069725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.221858769504018,0.0,0.0,0.1371753766691056,0.0,0.0,0.2642937212695236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22527660957142884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19923087202561315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607821913611246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766704111619137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385065291367359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722241894063526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817140833329481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ohmahgoooodness,2019/02/17,"Pregnant and wanting a divorce? I’ve been married to my spouse for 6 years now. And I’m pregnant over 30 weeks pregnant with our third child together. He’s cheated on me several times over the years. Meanwhile I had a hard time even looking another man in the face. In July of last year I started going to outpatient mental therapy. Trying my best to really forgive him for everything over the years because it weighed on my so heavily. I would constantly worry about what he was doing, where he was, who he was with... I felt like I was losing my mind. During that time, while I was off work and going to therapy he started accusing me of cheating, did all of this crazy yelling and arguing with me in front of All my siblings at different times. Well I ended up taking some birth control I didn’t know was expired. And now I’m pregnant... For a while things calmed down... but at this point I don’t even want him touching me. When he leaves I don’t feel anything... when he tells me I’m hurting him I want to laugh! I feel like I’ve been through 6 years of hell mixed with keeping my mouth shut and internalizing everything. My self esteem has suffered, I’ve contemplated just killing myself, I’ve felt worthless because of the weight I put on this relationship... and he says I’m hurting him??? Am I missing something? 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You are at an appointment for the kids and bump into your ex (figuratively). Do you speak? Is the relationship icy, friendly or some where in between? I am friendly with my girls father. The “ice” chill that comes from the ex of my fiancé is shocking. The have 3 kids and will sit in a room and not even acknowledge each other. 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I recently found out that my ex-wife has signed up on a fetish web site and has been exploring her sexuality since we divorced. When we were married, I could barely get her to have sex. I begged her to explore with me. Am I wrong to be angry, jealous, and hurt? Anyone have any tips for moving past this? 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(I posted on here early in a rage and deleted because I have better facts/ more logic). My husband and I have been together for 15 years (early 30s). We have 2 elementary school aged children and I just learned that 6 years ago he had a one night stand. My initial reaction was to leave because I told myself I'd never tolerate that but now... I'm hurt, but it was so long ago... And he supposedly sought counsel with some trusted people and they suggested he never tell so that was his plan. The pissed part of me wants to leave, but more of me doesn't... I'm hopeful we could work through it and he really wants to, its me that's on the fence. How did you know it wasn't worth fighting for?",1.6697321428571428,3.739586826388887,3.1714285714285717,90.64500000000002,80.04166666666667,6.058730158730159,22.785714285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.7497714285714285,549,18,117,7,14,180,92,144,0.138,0.8029999999999999,0.059,-0.8976,0,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,2,2,1,3,7,7,3,0,4,0,13,1,1,2,3,28,21,13,0,4,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,9,0,1,4,0,1,0,4,4,0,1,8,0,17,3,12,12,4,17,0,1,0,0,16,3,1,2,12,77,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33722086249357097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23190152277768095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822602891617447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186787656878614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18892228064905656,0.0,0.0,0.2036246361433464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20906980427431093,0.0,0.0,0.40281162639003865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16833060606897995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29340464882716394,0.0,0.0,0.1784999862539532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288917865431096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20597980167372296,0.0,0.13186824531073235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18216940369903545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12185393346775525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19250352295655904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16625265631873082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18175460704236215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438256092386136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384757554846997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24497908676577934 divorce,hammonjj,2019/02/18,"How do you cope with the loneliness? Context: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship\_advice/comments/apq5mn/update\_wife\_32f\_told\_me\_31m\_she\_is\_might\_be\_a/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/apq5mn/update_wife_32f_told_me_31m_she_is_might_be_a/) &#x200B; My wife and I are starting to split assets and are, in a few hours, going to talk about a custody schedule, which I am metaphorically having a panic attack over. It's super cliche, but my two daughters (6 & 3) really are my world (32M). I do 90+% of all the child stuff (breakfast, school drop off, pickup, going to do fun stuff on the weekends, etc.) and the idea of not having them for several days a week is paralyzing. I've intentionally left jobs in the past that require me to travel because I don't want to miss all of those great moments. &#x200B; Given that I am going to have to deal with this (there's no way my wife would agree to sole custody, which is probably a healthy stance to have), how do you that are super close to your kids deal with the loneliness when they are gone?",12.911190476190471,13.83337202380953,8.40666666666667,68.03833333333336,51.97619047619048,9.609523809523813,31.761904761904763,8.841846274778883,2.392376190476191,892,22,133,9,9,238,107,168,0.091,0.7559999999999999,0.154,0.9381,1,0,0,0,0,0,75.0,0,3,2,3,5,7,1,1,11,0,19,1,0,3,2,18,27,7,0,2,2,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,10,7,1,1,1,2,0,5,3,3,0,1,2,0,15,4,23,24,4,24,0,1,0,0,13,8,0,0,9,93,25,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4372265876585374,0.32689024193195804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1530252439135528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199642283322846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08674821932493566,0.2773490768397133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001489275335486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2293364480597779,0.0,0.0,0.14829842864613865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246586133993102,0.0,0.0,0.15184611240893225,0.0,0.0,0.1334810307291876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614617750389622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15781922556370934,0.0,0.0,0.12840560285542868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14502519406700104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08617094474272052,0.0,0.0,0.1444140620425535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13613192424238174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519587087884697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520730609727313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3079649471306029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10811453770819268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139732635781495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933784617513656,0.10676826576920492,0.10789630233941386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09555248207758804,0.0,0.32689024193195804,0.0 divorce,mg8814,2019/02/18,33f ex husband was a high school football coach and it came to light he was texting/snapping girls that were seniors or had recently graduated. Even while I was pregnant. I now know of 10 women in the 4 years we were married that he “crossed the line” with —taking it to his grave if he slept with. Our divorce was final 2 years ago. I accidentally got pregnant with our 2nd when I was debating leaving and ended up losing the baby and the day after I filed for divorce. He is now dating one of those girls that was a senior. He is 29. She is 21. I will say he has become a better dad. He was barely around the first year of our child’s life. So I know that’s what is most important. I now know about 10 different woman he said he “crossed the line with” is taking it to his grave if he slept with them. She constantly posts and tells everyone how much he does for her and how amazing he is. Won’t lie it kills me to know he is doing all of that for her and couldn’t do that for his wife at the time. I had to do everything the cooking the cleaning taking care of the baby not to mention I was the bread winner. The gf has absolutely no idea about the cheating and thinks I was the issue all along. 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First time single as an adult 😕 Hi I’m 33 and it’s been about a month and a half since I found out my STBX (32) had a 3 month long emotional affair with an engaged subordinate of his (also 7 years younger than him) and a little over a month since he moved out. We have been together 16 years and married 4.5. We do not have kids but co-parent our dog. I was completely blindsided by all of this at the beginning of the year when I discovered he had been spending hours talking to her on the phone while I was at work. When I confronted him he admitted it and said he was unhappy and wanted out of the marriage. After a few days when things calmed down he agreed to do discernment counseling, so we could decide if the marriage was worth giving one more chance. I wasn’t sure if I could forgive him at first, but came to a place where I thought we should at least give it a try. At our second appointment he told me he was moving out. Since he moved out we have been meeting each weekend to talk. Some weekends go well and some have not. I’ve felt like even though he moved out he still had a foot in the door. This past weekend things were going especially well and I decided to lay it all out on the line. We have had a mostly great relationship and even though he has been doubting our marriage for months, this was all very new to me and I wanted at least a chance to see if we could figure out our issues. It was then he admitted that the affair had been physical as well (still won’t admit if they had sex) and he has feelings for her. She broke off her engagement at some point in the last couple of months as well. It was then I knew it was over. I’ve been spending the long weekend boxing up his things and taking down pictures, etc. I’ve been with him since high school and not only is the thought of divorce scary, I’ve never lived on my own. I’ve never had a major breakup. I’ve never had a first date as an adult. I know I will get through this and there’s a good chance come out better for it in the end, but right now I don’t even know where to start. Thanks in advance to those who take the time to read this super long post! 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After nearly two years of separation, my wife finally filed here in Virginia, and there might be an end to this after all. We've been seeking a no fault divorce, no lawyers involved or anything, no property or kids to split. I signed the waiver of rights to be notified of the court date as the defendant, but it's my understanding that doesn't bar me from the hearing, just to be notified of the date and I'm not REQUIRED to be in attendance. I would still like to be there to look her in the eye when she finishes this. We're still in contact, still amicable but she doesn't want me to come to the court date, as it's a huge emotional drain and her anxiety disorder already makes this too stressful. It looks like the case might even be this week. What would you do? Would you go to court, or just let it lie, and wake up in the morning divorced? 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First time poster here. I just need advice on what to do and to rant. My husband (m49) and I (f40) have been together for 21 years. We’ve never really had what you would call a great relationship (yes, we’ve had a lot of good, but there have also been many many issues over the years), but I’m loyal and supportive to a fault so I’ve stuck by his side through hell and high waters. This morning, we got into a huge fight and I just felt something click inside me and an overwhelming sense of “I’m DONE” came over me and I just walked out mid screaming match and went to work. I’m done. I really and truly am. The years of him talking down to me, his refusal to have anything at all to do with my family, the years of me supporting and taking care of him as though he’s a child have just worn me down and I’m done. The problem is that I can’t just up and leave. We don’t have kids, but we do have 8 dogs & 2 parrots that I refuse to just leave (yes, I love them more than I love him at this point), and I don’t have anywhere I can go that I can take them (thanks to having to support him for 5 years with only my income, my credit is shot) and I’m sure he will fight tooth & nail to keep me from taking them out of spite more than anything. Also, he is highly dependent on my income to live and he’s having surgery in a few weeks and will be bringing home only what his short term disability insurance pays out, so I just don’t feel I could leave him with zero support/help (did I mention I’m loyal & supportive to a fault?). So, I want to end it. I’m planning on moving into one of our spare rooms tonight. Has anyone else been stuck where they really can’t leave? I suppose I’d be OK being just roommates with him until I can afford a place where I can take my fur babies, but I really feel like the final nail has been driven into the coffin of our Marriage now. I’ve just got so many conflicting thoughts & feeling going on right now! 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You came to accept their just that type of person. Then you found out about their past and learn they do a lot of kink things with other people but just not with you. You asked why and how did you react?** ,-0.4192796610169509,1.8132540847457648,0.2862500000000008,106.14598516949154,92.89830508474577,2.95,7.375,3.1291,-2.5793576271186445,217,0,53,0,8,65,41,59,0.047,0.898,0.055,0.1154,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,7,4,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,2,0,22,7,8,0,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,10,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,3,0,12,1,10,4,1,4,0,0,0,1,13,1,0,1,2,44,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3409782723817374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41716001970027294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3999134334955433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31008491130125115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3481811170909003,0.25286153443760234,0.31847279782484555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423139282773241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3291168797432838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TheStarsDemise,2019/02/18,"Is acceptance worth it? Hey all, I [24F] have a somewhat complicated situation and am currently in the process of divorce. We tried working it out and such but with being long distance on top of all the other problems I finally decided to divorce and be happy. However, before we started the paperwork we tried being in an open relationship to see if it would somehow help any of our problems. For him [24M], it didn’t. For me, I found a new partner that I’m still with today. Now that the paperwork is in process and it is becoming more official, my peers are very confused. Almost all of them told me that I just needed to talk to the ex to figure things out; and almost all of them now are super confused why I am with someone new when they probably think I should be sobbing and waiting a grace period or something? But it makes me wonder— Is their acceptance worth it? Could I have explained it differently? Or do I ignore them all and focus on my own happiness?",5.554286987522284,6.260153764705883,6.6415106951871685,75.20187388591802,67.50267379679144,9.869696969696973,34.29991087344028,9.928628108626363,3.486522638146168,762,35,139,17,12,256,111,187,0.096,0.737,0.16699999999999998,0.9431,3,0,1,0,2,0,21.0,4,0,5,3,7,12,0,2,9,0,19,0,0,1,5,49,29,13,0,7,6,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,13,16,0,2,7,0,2,0,1,6,0,0,3,1,23,6,22,19,8,21,0,1,1,0,20,9,1,9,12,113,36,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31577177676765683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10722247278374103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17413650845951845,0.1341673915217494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12588838654276838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647338440511426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17272213977496526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17287938059034166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3356898835993227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10568432247702647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13953489627012827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524738837141603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11691190570301625,0.0,0.3045615012664991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699972517835009,0.301741918109286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928088822128445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564429432625565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17723010937502365,0.0,0.0,0.13359510598264734,0.12138372873466005,0.0,0.0,0.11160116344177816,0.0,0.12591718733186966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12673090635372866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10475037425684056,0.1010299509433642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945476762052787,0.15066250180244253,0.0,0.21409808789430898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009604133676214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1422745963158023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1709887271708879,0.1147872073220434,0.0,0.0,0.11200577567769146,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,leakingear,2019/02/18,"How one keeps parenting? When the ex left in 2015 she didn’t want a 50/50 arrangement for the kids, her initial offer was one day a month.... Eventually , she was willing to settle EOW, not that that was exactly what i wanted, but it’s were we ended up. Needless to say, the entire divorce proceeding was a warzone, not really relevant to my story, except that any form of communications between me and my ex leads to nothing till this day. Present day, My kids have no discipline or respect for anyone it seems. This includes me, my partner, grandparents, people visiting etc etc. They don’t think it’s needed to clean up their toys after playing, their manners towards other people are really bad, they blatantly ignore people speaking to them or calling them. Basic table manners, etc etc I realize that i am way more into discipline then my ex. She essentially tries to be their biggest friend. However, i don’t think asking them to be polite to other people, not to ignore and listen to other people is too much to ask. I’ve tried explaining this to them, but it never sticks and the next time I have them I can start all over again. The oldest is running on 7, can’t expect ‘full compliance’ at that age, but just an attempt at the basics would be alright with me. The ex of course denies they do this at her place, however I have recently seen them do this towards her when I picked them up at her place. The oldest is essentially the boss and she pleads and negotiates with him. Personally I don’t consider that healthy, but I can’t change anything there. My feeling is that I have so little contact with my children that I might as well give up on trying to teach them some ‘manners’. As the ex and me seem to be on very different wavelengths regarding this topic it wont go anywhere. Truth is, I can live with it if really needed, their behavior etc etc. I do feel like I am not really their parent, just a caretaker for the weekend, but just enjoy the time with them, go out etc etc. My partner however is utterly fed up with their behavior, which is really starting to create a tension field. And deep down I know my partner is right (for most part). How does one deal with such totally different ways of wanting to raise kids?",6.567704918032787,6.757451653395783,7.126937704918035,74.38732459016396,65.2529274004684,10.298042154566744,33.00505854800937,10.078955797065145,3.2953427447306787,1764,68,317,37,25,581,217,427,0.054000000000000006,0.862,0.084,0.9037,8,0,0,0,1,0,55.0,1,0,18,2,13,12,0,1,18,1,39,1,0,5,6,68,63,24,0,8,16,7,2,1,4,4,0,3,1,8,25,17,1,5,9,3,0,5,13,4,1,3,8,6,57,8,56,47,17,58,0,0,1,0,57,27,0,8,25,250,82,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051525188214458735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297910718948711,0.0,0.062351031708762765,0.0,0.1416666665084884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0632635449281321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07736812494457414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08015304201444746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1465932714413212,0.07811401167954002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583239427269301,0.0,0.0,0.0663055378159033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06710841474456967,0.0,0.6760153792132662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07662167525091887,0.05412904204659676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058538566511404926,0.0,0.0,0.07268406340969663,0.08612198598922502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673465372253513,0.0,0.0,0.041640394165623436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232271292582738,0.0,0.0,0.03701666907077738,0.07593995684034925,0.0669049866306249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037842050600033,0.0,0.0,0.060477705566059026,0.0,0.055698576347353014,0.11236278719310447,0.05843734952350856,0.0,0.0805806749669217,0.0,0.0,0.07270193335038272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15402811941196107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16826393796790712,0.08204991784081045,0.0,0.26264173976379057,0.06615814451509623,0.1583239427269301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426962534279488,0.0,0.07481226749233942,0.0,0.0,0.0647058975684252,0.0,0.0602541640212306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13795362024736782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10725868937732892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709880965259247,0.0,0.0,0.08836246048087544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15432554373222945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251695975481304,0.1340706992077524,0.12028304048215528,0.0,0.0,0.06812499415522122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053823778943611685,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RobMarenghi,2019/02/18,"4 Lines I Wrote... Darling divorce me From your memory When we get money we'll do it legally 'Till then though; divorce me",0.213750000000001,2.5423928750000044,1.9916666666666671,91.47,99.41666666666666,4.066666666666666,22.66666666666667,5.985473137389443,0.6436166666666671,95,4,18,1,4,31,21,24,0.0,0.785,0.215,0.6369,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,3,13,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4695114325790765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8829263925591665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sophies-mommy,2019/02/18,Finally had enough... again. Divorced in August. I still pleaded and begged him to work on us. Choose me and his family over alcohol. Little did I know he has a girlfriend who is also a drunk and known to drink and party with her too young adult children. I’m not like that at all! When I go a while without texting him he begins texting me.- just keeping it raw. This weekend I had a meltdown. My dad is dying and my college kids came to be with him. Their dad asked them to drive 45 minutes away to spend the day with him instead of their beloved papa. My meltdown started to him after he started texting me. I was just sad and crying about my dad and how I wished he was with me... and then he turned and became so hateful. He again texted me and became just hateful and mean today.. I finally told him he’s blocked from contacting me at all. I got my daughter’s phone and texting him to say any contact will have to go through my daughter’s phone and she will see it first so he will need to show restraint with his hatefulness. Any other solutions you’ve tried? ,2.3811971830985925,4.4987726948356865,3.1888521126760594,91.168911971831,77.92018779342723,5.5745539906103305,26.142957746478878,6.508806274219699,0.9565250704225354,836,33,169,7,20,264,126,213,0.119,0.846,0.035,-0.9597,0,0,2,0,1,0,25.0,1,0,3,2,14,5,3,0,5,0,13,3,0,1,2,35,33,20,1,2,5,5,0,1,1,3,1,1,0,3,6,19,3,2,4,4,1,4,2,4,0,1,8,2,35,1,26,21,3,29,0,1,1,0,41,7,0,0,19,118,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16073845900566852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027976333531537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456271249239294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14060946973212354,0.0,0.14131155192656886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720245948628345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16521412005938266,0.09699953970200592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15609786296492725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734079069304049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15540978427012508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14178955542689275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295252245405673,0.0,0.12793541511800186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17095859005755212,0.0,0.12029355754108614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.445484875629827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336879185617595,0.0,0.0,0.08265929999438648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734808595073371,0.15074649987846026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1638364170132792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115242725351994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11960902675252813,0.0,0.0,0.11985424785161665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21291652876726813,0.0,0.12011456517129455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425674668081869,0.14371954516362895,0.0,0.1021159195037139,0.16359872753770627,0.0,0.0,0.18092010879126275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17295967780029553,0.14498618487426015,0.0,0.10949748629927376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,AdditionalExcitement,2019/02/18,"Trying for years to divorce, need to bypass residency rules A friend of mine needs a divorce and has tried for years to do it. My friend was born in the USA but never lived on the states and has lived abroad her whole life. She got married in the Philippines (no divorce there) When she tries to talk to lawyers in the states they keep whining about residency requirements (she is a citizen) She can't fly back to the states to a country she never lived in and stay months for some silly requirement How do you bypass this, pay an attorney online and have them file online? She is willing to fake any documents needed",4.763860640301316,6.4585279661016965,4.623333333333335,85.26790018832395,70.1864406779661,7.617325800376648,26.670433145009408,8.167268648758528,1.6187879472693032,492,16,94,7,9,151,76,118,0.068,0.887,0.044,-0.5994,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,0,1,2,2,5,5,0,0,10,0,10,1,0,1,2,15,15,7,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,2,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,12,3,18,12,2,17,0,1,0,0,17,5,0,1,8,66,14,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587163217359146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14232740431568375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28600943217225205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803818587639642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645218359321922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073878389218135,0.0,0.0,0.4903294966743599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14774186710447734,0.0,0.0,0.4117390322002112,0.2855149032666154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19728771596974765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14877315935210642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37700411679819307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665308198610186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383915201748488 divorce,bern_trees,2019/02/18,Neither of us can move out. We don’t have any where to go. We are each others only friends. She is leaving for a damn good reason. I should have listened sooner. We try to be friendly. We still watch tv and smoke together. Honestly we have been more open and honest about everything in our lives since she said she wanted to leave. It hurts going home every night to someone who has already moved on. It hurts knowing I’m the o my one having nightmares. ,1.5083758937691556,4.127810910112364,2.4148927477017392,92.15980592441271,85.96629213483145,4.58467824310521,21.574055158324818,6.11248444174946,0.34364269662921343,357,12,69,3,11,112,74,89,0.1,0.7440000000000001,0.156,0.7693,0,0,1,0,0,0,10.0,7,0,0,0,3,8,1,0,2,0,12,0,0,1,0,14,19,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,4,10,0,0,2,1,0,4,2,3,0,1,2,3,12,5,10,15,3,11,0,2,1,0,15,5,1,0,2,48,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968319780292405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12129540418189093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028155305454274,0.0,0.16030439857913922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756111847927949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20273969802945496,0.1496054412016489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789162425261823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3818902678832048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980256184526701,0.0,0.0,0.3777289497530867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15750097527772622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.379150935091159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16738497084331805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12086582405539972,0.1356558365054781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18339057130789715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966748176350965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754669438182652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112944102278694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244379684910602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12109921283986708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145530576231868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052052417655516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SongLyricsHere,2019/02/18,"Texas Divorce: Can his family demand items back from a 15 year marriage? Hello all, I am in Texas and my situation is likely unusual. My husband and I are having an amicable split. No infidelity, no drama between us, just that we recognize we're unhappy together because we are leading two really different lives with different goals and it's time for a change. We've been separated for a long time now (long story) but his family only recently found out. We've kept this from them for as long as possible because they will turn this into a bloodbath because that's how they roll. Anyway. My question is regarding household goods that were given to me over the years. Sometimes as a birthday gift. Sometimes, which they would try to frame as a ""home makeover"" where a truck shows up and they just push a china cabinet through my front door as a SURPRISE. We have been given these pieces of furniture over the last 15 years. Now, if the items ARE rightfully theirs, then I will return them, but since I had to surrender my furniture to make room for half of that stuff, it would really screw me over to have to give them back. My husband has already ear-marked the items he wants, and we have no issues over that. He's not into antiques and can afford new items. Do they have rights over anything like this? And is it worth fighting over? If I have a legal right to keep them, I'd like to continue to do so because I'd love to pass them down to our children. 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I filed for divorce May 2018. No kids but we bought a house that we put over 60% of the purchase price down so there’s a good chunk of equity that I’m entitled to. I don’t want the house, he does. This is the only thing really being disputed. When I filed I was a federal employee and have two types of retirement accounts (one of which I wasn’t familiar with until his lawyer responded to our initial proposal) After giving every asset known to me (minus my FERS which at the time I had no idea about because they don’t explain it to you, just your TSP which I reported because I can withdrawal and borrow against that) my lawyer and having her balance it out, she sent over a proposal stating that my ex would come out owing me over $64k in order to keep the house. His lawyer pointed out my FERS and suggested that the balance in this retirement would negate the valued balance my ex would owe me for the house and gave a proposal of giving him the house and walking away with nothing. After contacting someone who is an expert in federal retirements and how they’re involved in divorces (they are not subject to the same laws as a 401k or other retirements) we figured out what my options were. I was actually planning on quitting my job as soon as I got into nursing school. My ex has been aware of this even before I even expressed divorce to him. I got accepted into my nursing program and quit my federal job in January, even though I tried to work out a part time schedule with them but nothing was feasible. So because I’m no longer a federal employee that changes how my FERS retirement can be divided. When you leave federal service, and you aren’t even close to retirement age, you are entitled to a complete refund of all the money you’ve paid in over your career. You also have the option to not take the refund and let it sit until you get to retirement age then collect on it. I’m only 32 and would have to wait a good 25+ years to collect on this. Since I’m not working and doing full time nursing school, it’s in my best interest to just take the refund as I have my other retirement account that is valued more and collecting more than this one. Granted I can’t take anything until this is final because every is tied up in this divorce. My lawyer composed her findings, they were also contesting the value of the house and wanted to use the initial appraisal when we bought it, I decided that squabbling over $7k wasn’t worth holding up every thing so agreed to even go off the original appraisal instead of pushing for a new one. She sent over all the proof showing how much I’ve paid into FERS, the letter I got from my manager stating I no longer work there and even the contact information of the expert that I mentioned earlier. She sent over he new proposal December 27th. Now, I understand it was the holiday season and his lawyer wouldn’t even look at what she sent until at least January 6-7th. But it’s now February 18th! Like how have you not discussed SOMETHING and sent a response back? I emailed my lawyer on the 6th and I didn’t any real response other than an invoice from the office. Her statement shows she hasn’t made any contact since December 27th. I just emailed my lawyer 20 minutes ago telling her my discouragement and irritation with this divorce so I’m hoping I get SOME response. At this point, my ex has to be aware how screwed he is (he’s dug himself into a massive amount of debt and is working a commission based sales job that doesn’t really pay him well cause he doesn’t have the ability to sell well) I’m to the point I just want to go to trial. There’s no reason the judge wouldn’t agree to split our assets evenly and everything adds up to him owing me. The documentation is there. I just know he wants and is doing everything he can to hold me back. He’s done it for years just now he’s doing it deliberately. He knows that the money would alleviate the financial burden I’ve taken on over the years because of him but is still being a child. I’ve even tried talking to him directly about exchanging personal items that he still has at the house and that I have of his but he doesn’t cooperate with me in that aspect either. I just want what I’m entitled to but it’s so hard to keep going.",6.3451027619528375,6.350326712603067,6.872882863392707,76.64786471479051,65.73733804475854,10.13438138506286,34.05209009398813,9.858887515219184,3.2491455061176424,3445,142,647,68,49,1130,326,849,0.054000000000000006,0.843,0.103,0.9916,8,0,1,0,5,0,59.0,6,9,4,8,51,13,1,0,50,0,63,1,0,10,3,116,116,57,0,13,19,4,1,1,0,8,0,0,0,3,47,45,0,7,13,3,23,12,23,4,2,4,27,2,92,9,109,76,14,96,0,2,1,1,88,47,1,6,34,468,139,23,0.0,0.0,0.05823267047668289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05289690500981601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544165851167526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811599724198517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04910615748524775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05606516220493145,0.0917703855060799,0.0,0.181881879004988,0.0,0.050777703184997865,0.0,0.06262359483316733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130106177393425,0.06312658822500243,0.05140338562515995,0.0625664676161274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522206304033651,0.06106664838005109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35472370523538194,0.0,0.15083234336103726,0.0,0.10726128211711963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06536933786589386,0.0545404440528196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09353073006936267,0.1144884043342198,0.1017413751872568,0.10010250234689712,0.14317890626352714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05276902685432372,0.0,0.05345568213094939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926919147193314,0.0,0.481985973511473,0.0,0.06736405147993164,0.0,0.0,0.1776500474655496,0.10608099248530704,0.0,0.0,0.06558992522195978,0.0,0.0,0.06318555791728216,0.0,0.0610201364826349,0.0,0.029153429079721693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05011066134978365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646445277391346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386684529283928,0.0,0.0,0.11526596244796693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717748282944999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12130880406806975,0.09076868182793238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06462052153302579,0.0,0.0,0.052104547021208564,0.0,0.0,0.1692320698857288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059988290179782335,0.0,0.1269400998315904,0.0,0.06792144010451354,0.0764566687369667,0.06135423600670897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12078541633030992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.098724974185437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05056111296205328,0.04593953030813532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531057422683778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346010036760524,0.047963251533829084,0.05215721769935958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928876535799759,0.0,0.0586288528623202,0.0,0.10438819008863404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102869882366671,0.0,0.058292281024986875,0.0621221566398379,0.0,0.051538693545843985,0.0,0.0,0.17598470811210604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10730718000926756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377190319418784,0.0,0.0,0.21195150206990895,0.0,0.0,0.11528321871504578 divorce,art202020,2019/02/18,"Does you feel like it was over long ago and you did most of the crying back then? (Early 20s guy. Filed in January) Don't get me wrong it still hurts and I need some time to move on. I was very hurt and kept myself for so long. Since I've left that house I felt so much weight come off my shoulders. How long did it take you for you to stop thinking about them as much?",-1.0731363636363618,1.0044160499999997,0.07886363636363747,107.45068181818183,94.75,3.4090909090909096,11.022727272727273,4.851557810540192,-1.9555,284,3,74,1,11,87,62,80,0.147,0.795,0.058,-0.8254,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,4,1,0,6,4,0,0,1,0,5,2,1,1,0,13,13,8,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,1,2,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,6,3,11,1,11,7,4,17,0,2,0,0,6,5,0,2,11,45,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568172316484733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603043315772514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15238957042194914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943238468425609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15481235987765588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894494091602787,0.1263822753450408,0.16985830036300484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09242651758684367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17516557584669384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412673089673916,0.3787648427123753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19220978939893876,0.0,0.0,0.08642774167021076,0.0,0.0,0.469670935248564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802396443626246,0.2600937517496866,0.13117417353655147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463391586280359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412780236793198,0.1479020319987574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13301192051259947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335475405814235,0.0,0.0,0.10315579574681767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14596666267742262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154248610626072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19341984829329112,0.0,0.0 divorce,ThankYouMrBen,2019/02/18,"How to shop lawyers and prep for initial consultation? Chicago area. (35f) stbx and (37m) I finally decided that divorce is happening. Two elementary aged kids, house, two cars. We agreed on striving for fairness, amicability, and “best for the kids.” We talked about trying a mediator before getting pricey lawyers involved. I thought we were in a place where we could trust each other to authentically do all that, but she’s already (in first 24 hours) done some things that lead me to believe fairness isn’t going to really be a goal. I still think she’ll put the kids first, but fool me once.... So I think I want to have a lawyer basically in my back pocket. I’ve never needed a lawyer for anything before, so I don’t even really know where to start. Chicago is big. Googling “Chicago divorce attorney” is pretty overwhelming. How do I narrow down which ones to even call? How do I best prepare for a consultation? What questions do I ask? And if anyone here has any personal recommendations for Chicago lawyers, I welcome them. Thank you. 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He was the breadwinner with $150k income. Initially, his salary (all tax free as we had moved countries for a job opportunity and we had tax breaks/employer support) was supposed to provide for the family. Living expenses were about $60k a year. He then encouraged me to get a job, where I earnt $50k. At our peak, we were earning $200k tax free so we should've been netting at least $100k a year in savings. However, we were still living paycheck to paycheck and he also managed to run up about $150k in credit card debt over the course of several years we were residing in the country. There is hundreds of thousands of dollars unaccounted for. He ended up bankrupt. A marriage therapist said it's usually 3 things - another woman, drugs or gambling. I know for a fact that he pretty much came straight home from work (we all used to share the ""Find my Freinds"" app on the iPhone for security reasons) so it can't have been another person. He did get addicted to painkillers following a spinal surgery, but that was 5 years in (his spending issues started way before) and the drugs were paid for by our health insurance. As for gambling - I did see a few emails from a sports betting website in his inbox and that's the only potential factor left. Is there anything else that could be a factor? How could that much money slip off the radar?",5.434449227157113,6.809133955390338,5.679534337702992,79.55990412835064,68.182156133829,8.785834474662492,33.11700254353355,9.134995656068208,2.9697836431226765,1130,51,205,21,19,359,159,269,0.016,0.916,0.068,0.8438,7,0,2,0,0,0,39.0,9,0,0,3,11,9,0,0,19,0,22,5,1,4,3,29,33,14,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,2,9,13,0,1,3,1,17,4,1,0,0,2,17,2,17,11,39,12,7,29,0,0,1,0,26,15,0,2,9,131,26,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1380834913659681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10129391432464437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656384872696025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423446085683218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10778254268065136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14487095826078533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3033949659819849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2937822558396458,0.0,0.10581231198697268,0.0,0.11218754907745712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11940844146410233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11576946908227813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13235441638528675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13463891816158546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705527194244376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220529865480007,0.2513908352440333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961174365154488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762183821072907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22369494197468615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13462479561683585,0.2793399363387045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09633440180961186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11059894817827516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1288637904775676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302326640679099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048737292310227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093556535758308,0.0,0.0,0.14309533915138178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896541031724827,0.0,0.10115479226280373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373788360570308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14706776902938362,0.0841505641281093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093978476452858,0.13950354674679882,0.0,0.0,0.10054074111748776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221359178303268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3262722983287245 divorce,oakenToken,2019/02/18,"It's been nearly 5 years and I still waver I've been married for nearly 25 years. Apologies in advance for the lengthy post. My wife and I have 6 children, aged 12 to 24. Three of them are under 18. For the last 5 years, things have been rough between us. My wife is a very strong catholic but around 5 years ago realized she had a drinking problem. I was, sadly, no help as I was facing my own alcohol problem so we were in a toxic relationship. She became friends with another woman at our church and they began doing volunteer activities through music ministry. We were in such a bad place that at first, I was glad to have her out of the house. However, I came to realize that she was ALWAYS gone. Five or six nights a week, they were doing something while I handled the house and kids. Soon, my wife was helping her friend at work so much (she has a cleaning job at the church) that the church just hired my wife part-time since she was always there. My wife's friend is in poor health (heart condition, etc) that my wife began spending the night with her to keep her friend's stress/night terrors/whatever down. Soon, she was staying with her 3 or 4 nights a week. Yes, I know what it sounds like but I honestly don't believe they have been doing anything. As Jim Gaffigan would say, they're not just Catholic - they're Shiite Catholic. Cut forward a couple years and they've gone to Disney together, a couple Florida trips, and who knows how many Texas coast weekend trips. A couple years ago, having sobered up (literally/figuratively), I realized this was no way to live and filed for Divorce. She was served and we talked through it. She convinced me that she had always hoped we'd make it and be able to show our kids that marriage can be tough but it can be figured out. So I held off. We actually went through this cycle 2 or 3 times until I actually burnt up the $2500 retainer fee I'd paid the lawyer. My wife is home most nights now although she does still stay with her friend one night a week. However, we feel like roommates. We didn't have sex for 3 years and now when/if we do, it just feels like she's doing her marital duty. We're not fighting and we come together on the kids pretty well. Often we can even joke about some dumb thing one of them did or what's going on in the church. But it feels amiable at best - she hasn't taken my hand in 5 years or initiated affection. Recently, I took a risk and said we should go on a cruise for our 25th anniversary this summer. Her response was that she couldn't leave her friend alone that long because she would take on too much physical labor at work and hurt herself. She suggested a weekend trip to Niagara instead. Now, just yesterday my wife told me during a small fight that she had a mild heart attack recently. She didn't tell me because she was concerned or asking for help or anything like that. She threw it out there to zing me because I was calling her out for her neglecting our daughter. ""Well, maybe I've been distracted because I had a mild heart attack but I didn't tell you because I knew you wouldn't care"" kind of thing. Of course I want my wife to be healthy and be here for our kids but this raises other thoughts. She had a freaking heart attack and didn't tell me, didn't ask for help, didn't confide. Yet, I'm sure her friend knew all about it. What are we doing as a married couple if we can't turn to each other in that kind of crisis? Am I bastard for thinking that her heart attack is a nail in the coffin of this marriage since she clearly doesn't even turn to me for any help? What kind of man hears ""heart attack"" and thinks ""sounds like it's time to move forward with that divorce""? Before you ask, we've talked to the Priest and a marriage therapist. We saw a therapist for years until our therapist ""broke up with us"". The therapist basically said she couldn't get through to my wife and that we should find somebody else that my wife would listen to. I've always had a reason to hold off on the divorce. I didn't want it to define my son's senior year, my daughter was going through severe depression in high school, my other daughter was expressing self-hurt desires, my 2nd oldest daughter is getting through her senior year, etc, etc, etc. Now there's this heart attack issue but I'm also just scared to pull the plug on a nearly 25 year marriage. And yet, it feels like a roommate situation where I pay the bills and handle the kids while she hides in our room until she goes out for a church activity or spends time/the night with her friend. Things just feel hopeless so I'm asking for thoughts.",4.4575328947368416,5.545591573464915,4.665745614035089,86.99230263157897,70.21710526315789,7.542105263157895,27.298245614035093,7.756953410329674,1.4342008771929824,3633,119,741,42,64,1136,359,912,0.125,0.7490000000000001,0.126,-0.499,5,1,4,0,6,1,105.0,24,3,5,6,38,53,11,3,44,1,78,13,9,4,3,122,130,51,1,15,24,16,7,6,8,6,2,7,3,8,45,50,2,6,19,6,7,19,18,25,2,6,55,15,116,28,102,61,12,121,6,6,1,1,139,45,2,13,63,480,161,11,0.04264371068475792,0.0,0.08322822039820774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07560215309553507,0.04557315794145978,0.0,0.04416602359916253,0.0,0.03410216002785259,0.14193193362462658,0.0,0.0,0.02899918558078402,0.04471564882659832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018428082785234,0.037961943501117305,0.1594644520497983,0.2910802628992202,0.0,0.0,0.035605717192787587,0.1299760511440792,0.0,0.03628665693502736,0.048044858985722236,0.044751943455777835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0435439964618198,0.048773044609212765,0.04347810509744507,0.0,0.0,0.036733780822724986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18873781910537765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03672896552634062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03731779859112682,0.0,0.0,0.04177460184084943,0.0,0.0,0.035623348355676016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19023603907737344,0.05633153744973725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780970711177557,0.09139402630142204,0.0,0.0,0.038975579009911485,0.03627271852390539,0.0,0.0,0.2635714007419674,0.0,0.04455915755706906,0.0,0.0727062105205389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04532827034808595,0.04806256119221243,0.3537310173802989,0.1429159019057546,0.04505542164062864,0.04277511877245503,0.04235482668294261,0.0,0.09841023335203483,0.09130194853247188,0.0,0.0,0.04450895477102855,0.04231730282211922,0.03790368941676378,0.0,0.13322058746152518,0.046871736325926006,0.03476031578832479,0.0,0.045153532349413536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12500137814126966,0.0,0.03765517780363816,0.037738342036693684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02846500801591619,0.04323402943929058,0.04284133908712588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04532351577537285,0.06269606800307055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801276359942199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057792963975797765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617898307232295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04455360141441743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084088702560442,0.04338398445712456,0.0,0.08160854393277703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04384483688391637,0.08421103945121793,0.04578338631221508,0.0,0.0,0.0811278683453842,0.033911990329738205,0.042693793650919784,0.04315771185203315,0.0,0.0,0.04448669049192803,0.048175255024111685,0.0,0.07055063629275764,0.04793331751110582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03282921186833253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09090504332740436,0.0681106448759488,0.0,0.04884822651133134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04019119265279812,0.0,0.03206276335966229,0.06855079866671421,0.11181744820833282,0.0,0.0,0.19805053947487133,0.11332234610397185,0.05464873585844758,0.0,0.06770868586998224,0.07459767189575861,0.0,0.0,0.04074789301536009,0.0473787316363691,0.0,0.0927682235504672,0.0,0.0,0.10259026674430836,0.0,0.0,0.03518552732559434,0.05030473084463273,0.033848592640212435,0.10261863744701012,0.0,0.07668363441873709,0.0395311470338261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062090258525293575,0.0,0.0,0.09087860568786203,0.0,0.0,0.3295338186241177 divorce,anewdogpanicneedhelp,2019/02/18,"Two years post divorce and now it hits me I have been operating in survival mode - the paperwork, the house, setting up again, trying to keep my shit together. But now its hitting me. we are truly done. tbh we were done 10 years ago but i kept thinking we would go to counseling and it would be better. but we are done. i didnt feel bad when we signed the papers. only relief. but now i am heartbroken. i dont even know why. its just so sad. the thing is he was the love of my life - but there were so many things that needed fixing. i should be happy. i am not. 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Please help A friend of mine is getting a divorce and I need some advice for him. 6-7 months ago his wife packed up and left with their kids (4&5yr) 6 hours away to her parents house while he was out, she served him a TRO so he couldn’t get them back, and he ended up filing for divorce to get the case moved back to their home town. In his county, it’s almost standard for the mother to be ordered to bring the kids back to their original city (where he lives), but for one reason or another the case keeps getting postponed. He was a stay at home dad and took online classes and she worked. He would get a job and work when money was too tight but for the most part he had the kids. The rest is pretty standard; she cheated, he had a DWI about a year ago. He has tried to work things out, and even offered her a bunch of incentives in mediation to move back to their hometown so they didn’t have to cart their kids 6 hours back and forward and they could have normal visitation agreement. She refuses to accept any sort of deal regarding the kids. She wants visitation to be once a month, 2 weeks in the summer, and for him to pay the full amount of child support and she won’t budge. Over these 6-7 months she has let him see the kids 4 times and always makes him sign a rule 11. Now, she has added more to the rule 11 (like he can’t leave the kids with his mother while he’s at work), and won’t let him see them unless he signs it. Since she’s been gone she’s got in a rear-end accident with one of the kids in the car, and the other kid broke his arm. His lawyer is telling him she will probably still be ordered to bring the kids back to their home town but he is concerned that won’t happen because it’s been so long and she is in school now (and they still don’t have temporary orders). When she left she took all of their belongings and only left him the things that had payments attached to them. He still hasn’t got his own bank account so she still has access to the money, but he has no money to pay her child support because he’s drowning in the debt and bills she left him with so he can’t even afford to drive 6 hours to go see the kids on her turf. She lets him talk to the kids over video chat every couple nights but even that is getting more difficult because she always has reasons they can’t see him like they have to be in preschool, she has work, etc. What is going to happen??? If she isn’t ordered to bring the kids back to their hometown he will have VERY little relationship with his kids and he is terrified. Is there anything she could do to get to keep them where she’s living now? Sorry for the horrible grammar and punctuation. I’m very tired. 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Normal? I [27F] Made the desicion to ask for a divorce a couple months ago. Things are finally getting started in the legal realm of it all. I have been much happier knowing I don't have to be worried about what he is going to say when he gets home from work, or really anything that he says or does. All that to say, I have been feeling very impatient. I just want to start my new life already. Is that normal?",0.8356818181818184,3.3540876547619085,2.5596103896103912,90.31266233766236,89.11904761904762,5.435497835497836,23.11255411255411,6.980632752743323,1.0304904761904763,329,13,65,5,11,108,62,84,0.08800000000000001,0.8140000000000001,0.098,-0.2238,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,4,0,10,1,0,1,2,11,20,3,0,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,4,6,0,10,16,3,9,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,2,7,43,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691021922479335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2077858031337208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15494894284701438,0.0,0.176028364010742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834241799357195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164776310959311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09520650463934974,0.0,0.0,0.20626557473922572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1967504482821864,0.0,0.10701114575976116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18887304552437925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348080663418373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299678344817725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17816721392589974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15029352821369366,0.0,0.13841688399669502,0.0,0.0,0.18185437368950785,0.0,0.0,0.3689739599608257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062519856044887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4492140111247673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26654924665565244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250933793339208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536129168262394,0.11105998056314284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370794116020076,0.1912204932001942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Im_not_a_teacher,2019/02/19,"Stupid Optimism? How long did it take for the “she’s gonna call and ask to reconcile!” thought to end? Personally, I feel like it’s a self defense mechanism. I feel normal when I think that things are going to start to get better... and also dumb because I know they are not. Anyway, I’m sure I’m not the only one. It would be cool to here some similar stories.",0.9529729729729725,3.1691985540540566,3.006689189189192,89.98138513513516,83.72972972972974,6.402702702702705,21.41216216216216,7.6454224807358475,0.9051135135135132,279,9,60,5,8,94,56,74,0.114,0.7490000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.1999,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,5,7,3,0,3,1,5,0,0,1,1,16,18,5,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,6,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,3,6,4,6,13,1,5,0,0,0,0,6,0,1,1,5,36,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20158858352054213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23566112076436774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15366585588906104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229446051633244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574022454997699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326838939882476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25491882190074744,0.18008626911311226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317015908590798,0.0,0.14326308538824747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13853678074020162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12315373736362205,0.0,0.0,0.22308319793753145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24698524418465004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708161848959046,0.19171848313471312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22010685884508208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629748061254775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784237857313032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375827686651373,0.0,0.18953306899474032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16747099900465476,0.16152292470469676,0.0,0.2001236588154408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17907066471229632,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thetechguy23,2019/02/19,Questions about Divorce Hi everyone! I just have a few questions about my in laws divorce. My mother in law is looking to get a divorce out of no where because she is having an affair. For 6 months she has been taking money out of my father In laws account to go see her mistress and now he has been served divorce papers and has to appear in court. My father in law has no idea of the affair and is willing to do anything to get his wife but he has no idea he doesn’t have a chance. He wife is requesting that she get half his pension and that he pay for her lawyer. I just want to know what rights he has. He can barely afford his bills now and I would hate to see this happen to him. ,2.1016666666666666,3.619701388888892,3.3483333333333363,92.43,76.77777777777777,5.355555555555556,22.416666666666664,5.46131890053228,0.11702499999999948,536,15,116,2,12,174,78,144,0.08900000000000001,0.884,0.027000000000000003,-0.8398,1,0,0,0,4,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,7,1,1,0,5,0,20,0,0,0,0,22,33,6,0,2,3,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,7,0,0,5,0,4,2,4,1,0,1,2,3,16,0,22,29,1,14,0,0,3,0,31,9,0,3,3,83,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17178828752974826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12725563606293688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19947517247412394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3271989659311027,0.0,0.11864076733208807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460211961481335,0.0,0.0,0.2061031951724684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4713199173965005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11472676248869265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17530234783384507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16662693764955766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677086836236426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827636579095887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327027890985562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15695842847027114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12312961626893118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829417508745582,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,dplattal8r,2019/02/19,"How to help my mother My mom(58) is falling out of love with my dad(52) after 20 years of marriage and I fear they may need a divorce, however my moms version of that is running away and being homeless. She has been a stay at home mom since I(19M) was born so she has little money of her own and has severe copd among other issues. She needs me or my brother(17) to help take care of her but we can’t if she runs away. I have no idea how to get her to get an agreed settlement with my dad through divorce mediation, my dad loves my mom and would probably agree to help take care of her until she can get a job or I finish college and move out. But she I so sensitive I don’t know how to express this as a safe option cause I don’t want her to get hurt.",3.7339751552795017,3.7261527391304377,4.834341614906833,89.07859316770187,71.29813664596273,7.6822360248447215,26.037888198757766,7.1686216300943375,0.9648703105590064,585,16,135,5,10,193,98,161,0.07200000000000001,0.7440000000000001,0.185,0.9633,2,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,1,0,1,0,5,7,0,1,5,0,15,2,0,4,0,28,29,17,0,5,5,6,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,10,0,1,2,0,1,4,4,2,0,0,2,0,28,5,25,24,2,17,0,1,0,2,28,7,0,5,5,93,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23951195094020755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599146788188063,0.13093993063387346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343166052723946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663772742378041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25630790940875475,0.0,0.1278560925350938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645210948799558,0.14389056196983432,0.0,0.1330385795096722,0.1264876671469247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700505016578375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12775172231517098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300812273374934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5971339520304703,0.0,0.13547332639374138,0.0,0.18902485839213864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742700648065806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14399725917841208,0.0,0.10543896710422687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13585892880161662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19167309205386066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518116262912725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054627823944136,0.0,0.0,0.08208219251549928 divorce,geneandtinaandlouise,2019/02/19,"Working Mom Divorcing Unemployed Dad I have been with my husband for nine years and I have always been either the only or primary breadwinner. We have two children (8 and 5). He has usually worked part time, minimum wage jobs. He quit his last job in December. We have been talking about him doing Lyft to make money. He did two rides. We talked about getting our sons in after school care and him going back to work. Instead he came at me recently talking about how he needs one big idea and wants to make us rich. Not get a job mind you, but just get rich- no specific skills or plan. That was it for me. I make $65k a year which is just enough for us to live paycheck to paycheck. I also had to get a side job recently to help make ends meet. I can’t continue to financially support my family of four with no help. He does do some things around the house, but no where near what a stay at home parent would do. I still do at least half of the cooking and cleaning. I’m still the one doing the bulk of the parenting- taking them to appointments, etc. I run the household. A friend warned me that he might be able to get full custody as I could look like he’s a stay at home dad instead of just unemployed and refusing to get a job. Any thoughts or advice? 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A bit of background: Married over 20 years, children, rampant abuses suffered at the hands of my husband (every kind imaginable). My stbx is an abuser and I called an end to the misery for myself and our children. While the physical abuse was never directed at our children, I had plenty. Hit, kicked, spat on and more. I don't use the term narcissist loosely here, he is that. His tirades included gaslighting, name calling and general ugliness at the mere hint of me attempting to address our issues. If my child were an adult in this kind of relationship, I would undoubtedly do everything in my power to rescue him/her. The months of separation haven't been smooth in the least. The only difference is my emotional detachment and resolve to have the legal finish line crossed. My children have been amazing through the process. Each have very level heads on their shoulders. Yes they love their father. However, each understands that love does not equal what he has subjected us to. That my decision to divorce didn't come lightly but is necessary for my survival and all of hour happiness. No more eggshells, no more being afraid for dad to come home, no more constant dread and the taste of chewing pennies. This brings me to my latest reality. Evidently some mental switch has been flipped in my stbx's head. I'm not sure why either. He has been owning up to his abuses. I'm talking full stop. He has been talking to me. Each conversation seems to shed more light on his understanding and taking ownership of his actions. He has, what appears to be genuinely, been listening to myself and our kids, taking his lumps so to speak. Witnessing him sobbing repeatedly, because the full reality of what a monster he has been to his family, has been driven home again and again. He usually wouldn't even have been able to entertain the notion of accepting his blame, let alone repeating back and owning it, then watching as one more realization hits him like a Mack truck. It hasn't been a bid for sympathy either. Quite the opposite actually. So here I am, in utter bewilderment at him. I have honestly told him that I am most definitely not in love with him anymore. His acceptance of this fact appears to be in totality and driven by his understanding as to why. Furthermore, he is attending therapy (which I have confirmed because lying was prolific during the course), and taking medication to treat his now diagnosed mental illnesses. So many steps and giant leaps towards a healthy relationship with his family. I can't help it, I'm really proud of him. No matter that I'm not in love with him anymore. I continue to love him as the father of my children and will always show compassion out of human decency. Now the purpose of my post. Is it possible to grow and overcome so many things, to come out the other side and actually find that romantic love again? I feel so jaded, then that tiny flicker of hope emerges, in the middle of the inky blackness of the ocean at midnight. I already know I am strong and have conquered my codependency and fears. I know I am able to keep my course true if I never feel that in love for him again. The question is, do I even give him an inch to try? I haven't opened that emotional door to him yet. Have any of you wonderful people ""been there, done that"" and actually recaptured the love in a complete success story? My faith in humanity took a beating but persists. Please give me your thoughts.",5.770061893823378,7.488674082695257,6.268151799387442,74.35357022077592,67.74425727411945,9.852080142930069,33.20600433894844,10.125756701596842,3.656814216436958,2828,128,483,72,48,916,318,653,0.096,0.7190000000000001,0.185,0.9971,2,1,0,0,5,0,82.0,5,2,3,13,18,32,0,3,36,1,59,20,5,1,8,82,103,37,0,5,10,4,4,1,0,3,4,2,4,10,24,34,2,2,17,2,0,14,17,5,0,1,22,11,71,27,83,72,24,75,1,2,2,9,80,33,1,10,28,353,95,2,0.12742786028940212,0.37745294321256573,0.1865268149289326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598841651395174,0.07030990626191648,0.0,0.053015093896918115,0.0,0.0,0.04332765734215758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1263741965195965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04899207945507578,0.0,0.07767884088978141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695591099547827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13011809264436885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16465172760819838,0.06680284354847049,0.0688521236980599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466829792917825,0.0,0.06656749618244816,0.0,0.0,0.055756489630226364,0.06520147154208977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433391915044812,0.056431630811824576,0.0,0.0,0.08416489992037722,0.0,0.053681734106184965,0.0,0.0572619721161254,0.0,0.12012764589170614,0.07169588493976801,0.06443135494112166,0.0,0.0,0.0697954961612184,0.05823337787708927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12224041494203672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06782466339475121,0.0,0.0,0.1307777475955101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0427061043439864,0.0,0.1278205337029273,0.06328230881494278,0.06274538699865383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650078967233454,0.0,0.05663186859086632,0.0,0.1326965073639571,0.07003101948860925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515181032379469,0.0,0.03112740795377865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5175387856215711,0.0,0.0,0.1291918497399189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06418508157537217,0.1284173118191157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508558511751499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828022153359044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04317420799552198,0.048457314934695815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04417121683037478,0.0,0.0,0.06993876236474925,0.0,0.14365576608846586,0.06102033292161566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137418337998361,0.0677676074115708,0.0,0.0,0.08163355027823697,0.0,0.0,0.1368098334053733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058002769075871034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053267698521908165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060049625137989775,0.0,0.143714838517121,0.10242168721906313,0.0,0.0,0.07286243184453738,0.0,0.042328704090019584,0.0,0.0,0.05058174361983347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088139065375385,0.07078852073028258,0.04325757627603607,0.0,0.0,0.19898534481919336,0.07664001307476997,0.05502837882361314,0.07017189261813847,0.05257066503194043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11498382377541358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909503938763213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04526054793283479,0.0,0.0,0.041029682069932516 divorce,ontheedgeindc,2019/02/19,"How am I supposed to stay sober today? She moved out on Friday, and we went to counseling for the first time yesterday. I felt really good about the counseling session, she even texted this morning saying she apologizes for hurting me and is willing to listen more. I thought things were looking good. Then we talked by phone this early afternoon, and I can’t even put the conversation into words, but she said repeatedly “I’m not trying to say this is going to work out.... but xyz”, I don’t even know what she’s talking about. I’m so confused and sick to my stomach. I almost threw up at work. I haven’t been drinking much these last months, and that’s not why she moved out, but I’ve been to AA meetings Friday, Saturday, and Sunday, then counseling Monday, and now I’m left sick and confused, and it makes me want to drink tonight. 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I fell out of love after discovering multiple infidelities. That was the reason for the divorce. I got all the items I asked for in the divorce. &#x200B; My ex-h died of a congenital heart condition 1.5 yrs ago. The illness was not new and he always resisted treatment/broke multiple doctor appointments when we were married. That was another frustration to be honest. &#x200B; It all feels like a painful curse that will never go away even though the marriage is done and, unfortunately, he has passed away. I have a hard time dating and hard time telling people I'm divorced. 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Everything is amicable and I’m getting all the info ready to contact a mediator but if I’m only going to go once and then they will write up the papers and file can I just do it myself and save some money?,1.1876436781609172,3.3399492586206883,4.048965517241381,83.2509195402299,82.27586206896551,5.935632183908046,23.459770114942533,7.1686216300943375,1.1067839080459771,219,8,43,3,6,78,46,58,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.7514,0,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,1,12,10,7,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,7,9,2,7,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,2,2,30,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4012044652855891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332307663715075,0.0,0.5074101076516203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4311454973945749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4754120119886434,0.0,0.3395148718965481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Elbmirt,2019/02/19,"Need help on getting started on a divorce. I am 31M and married to a 29F for 10 years. We got married at 21M and 19F. We have 3 wonderful kids together 7, 5, and 2. I work in the US military and currently staying in Hawaii but it’s not my home residence, California is. I read up that since I’m in the military, I can do divorce paperwork in the state I am stationed in, where my wife is located, or wherever my place of residence is. This is a very difficult situation for us. Our relationship has been rocky over a few years. She has lost a lot of weight in the past few years and gaining confidence on who she is becoming. I do not have a problem with that. I have a problem with her leaving at 9 or 10 at night to go out with “friends”. I am constantly telling her that no married woman should be going out with “friends” every weekend. She, in my opinion is trying to live the lifestyle of a single woman like she always wanted. I ask her to stop doing that but she refuses to listen and say until I give her what she wants, romance and love she will stop. I respond back with, I will not romance and love someone who wants live like a single person. While she’s doing this she is meeting new people. New people I have never met or seen. She is constantly on her phone texting or on social media. Whenever she is texting she do mind me looking over her shoulder. But when she is on social media, she becomes a bit hostile when I try to see who she is talking to. It’s to the point she will stop what she is doing and put her phone away until I walk off. It is like she is hiding something. Due to this, I wait until she come back from being out with her “friends” and look at her phone. I look to see what she is actually doing because she tells me different. By doing this, I have pictures of messages over Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat show that she is speaking to other people. She is speaking to different men in a suggestive manner. I have pictures from as early as a year ago and some as late as Saturday. She sent men pictures of her body lady parts and full body pictures. I seen messages stating, “yes we shall, we will finally have a bed and we will see how this will go down.” Saying hey baby, you seem not happy whenever I leave you. What am I supposed to do. Sorry for the long post and but I want to understand what I am supposed to do. 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He already spent the night with someone else last night. I hate that after 12 years I meant so little to him. You can look at my post history in r/asoneafterinfidelity for more back story. I'm feeling paralyzed on making the next move. Still wishing he would change his mind. Why am I so pathetic? He told me he wanted to separate to work on himself but that is very obviously not what is happening. I hate myself for caring.,2.022006802721087,4.7556510306122455,3.6092857142857135,83.73154761904766,84.61224489795919,6.531972789115647,24.493197278911573,7.793537801064563,1.6850585034013608,403,16,75,8,12,133,76,98,0.191,0.703,0.106,-0.9419,0,0,0,0,0,1,10.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,2,0,2,0,7,0,0,1,1,15,22,4,1,5,4,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,0,3,2,13,2,12,16,1,17,0,0,1,0,10,6,0,0,9,48,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19405944855914228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352210012540919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792950455247584,0.0,0.18603039354071527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18250886379548506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14690359321916693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891715175394134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1555072610209964,0.0,0.0,0.3472391696890843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14334461880881064,0.0,0.0,0.19106606933484288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17625207604633028,0.0,0.0,0.1476732120902674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738402344439372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775625804632288,0.0,0.0,0.18690515159468413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870229039238573,0.3300544501373342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16841968347322386,0.0,0.18960053733985574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14900066686103516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043736665137585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16190289220990509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16803619469736947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14509810649557914,0.20744669039012825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868103530074407,0.0,0.20222361586627005,0.0,0.0,0.12802392956162564,0.0,0.0,0.12492175626876074,0.0,0.0,0.11324431933371493 divorce,cx_2859,2019/02/19,"Eternal Limbo This is a second account for sensitivity reasons. I'm a 39M, married almost 15 years to 38F. I've been in real limbo for over a year now with SO. She went through my phone and saw an email that I had spoke to a family member about a separation. Backstory. Several years ago I was on the brink of leaving her, I told her this. It was extended family issues at the time. We reconciled, went to counseling and things were good for maybe a year. Then within the next year she had a new job, and then it all turned for the worse. She dressed differently, felt more empowered. Which is good. I'm all for growth. However this growth lead her to leave me sort of sitting left out. Then she tells me she had an affair with her boss. I chose to stay by her side and commit to making it work and making it better. We went to about three sessions, and she quit going. Since then I have felt like her life continued, and I was left to pick up the pieces. She continued to work at the same place. The guy apparently worked from home, and I don't think there was any more contact between them other than the occasional work issue. My problem is she never reconnected with me. We have 3 kids, and I felt like I was left to fend for myself. Intimacy was never a strong point before, but since then it's non existent. I battled internally everyday when she went to work. It was a total mind fuck, with the mental images I was seeing. She was cold. When I was rejected numerous times physically I would then lash out in anger. I couldn't wrap my head around how she could do things with this other person that I would have to almost beg for. Our sexlife before and after felt more like a hookup. It's not the sex that I craved, it was the connection. Our sex felt like, hurry up and get it over with. I actually felt worse after we had sex than before. We have never reconnected. So about a year ago in an argument she said ""just stop trying"". So.. I did. Now I want to leave, but I find myself in the paralysis. I can't pull the final trigger. The kids weigh on me heavily. Yet I see no future. She is now in counseling, and says she wants this to work more than anything. I can't help but feel like it's too little too late. This is what I needed years ago after the affair when I was reeling. Now I feel completely empty. Dead inside. Any advice?",2.1470512820512795,4.295735158119663,3.6446324786324817,87.45592307692309,78.82905982905983,6.895042735042735,20.44273504273505,7.946510646118237,0.8483458119658116,1826,47,378,32,45,602,219,468,0.107,0.838,0.055,-0.9824,5,1,0,0,0,0,63.0,7,0,1,10,20,14,3,0,29,0,36,7,1,8,7,72,66,28,1,8,5,0,8,5,0,2,1,3,1,4,25,26,1,1,12,0,1,9,9,5,0,2,33,15,63,9,59,29,9,78,0,1,3,4,43,25,1,3,47,265,88,10,0.0,0.0,0.0678692759279889,0.0,0.0,0.06796196165797093,0.18495157164148945,0.0,0.13928549637804727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459069140022466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0572324663259957,0.06191288497850755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17754188088448025,0.0,0.0,0.06150997145507527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292024940155925,0.0,0.0,0.0555287954716191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266335032788589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13112821899698862,0.0,0.07033159401632315,0.04968544210560149,0.4006646371479389,0.0761869512858206,0.06356604319113326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06429644143203297,0.03633620597545033,0.0,0.03952599923349369,0.1166679167767873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06886392141512243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137679673709868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046616874586677716,0.0,0.06976278778832967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451810704671208,0.06901612669407793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07845370543792682,0.2209253686898522,0.2266938541161239,0.0,0.04912414238075076,0.1698893513093267,0.06970583971992303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09284828987482396,0.0,0.06987078781012351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008850153611554,0.0,0.07022413041405684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0515693105477563,0.16092020679336774,0.06717034738788694,0.07396558870287641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06072704291144016,0.07266335032788589,0.0,0.06574578584449564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654849472636712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397336058326877,0.0,0.07916138693528431,0.0,0.07150741222760221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06615652306199024,0.05530773619679261,0.0,0.0,0.11084225500734796,0.0,0.0,0.07856997687777256,0.0,0.11506242903041736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412941715339445,0.0,0.05814563654683747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06078842977141901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240982853819553,0.04456385244508521,0.0,0.0,0.08110854632808097,0.0,0.0,0.06645654517931275,0.0,0.04721884702807302,0.07564876590382558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204298113890983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25788852030736625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3037926944585297,0.0,0.14175166878504505,0.09881047775814644,0.0,0.0,0.313508548938448 divorce,jbran235,2019/02/19,"I’ve never hurt like this in my life. Never in my life have I hurt like this... I decided that me and my wife needed to separate. I told her it was because I did not love her anymore and I had moved on but that was nothing but a complete lie. Truth is no words can express how much I love her. She is truly my best friend and I cannot imagine life without her. I told her I did not love her anymore and that I had moved on because I love her. Still does make sense? Ok I suffer from extreme Anxiety, Depression and PTSD. I treated my wife like garbage more times then I can count. I NEVER laid a finger on her but every time I would have a bad day or I would have an attack I would yell at her and treat her like trash. I am not proud of it, Infact it kills me to know how I treated her. But you know what after everything I did to her she always loved me and she was always still there. I told her I wanted to get a divorce because she deserves nothing but the very best and as much as I am in love with her I honestly felt like I could not give her that. I did not want her to have to live with my problems and my BS anymore. The day she walked out the door I completely lost it. Watching her back out of that driveway killed me. It’s been 2 weeks since she left and I am a total mess. I drink every night alone in my house just so I can try and get some peace. I don’t want to eat, hell I don’t want to do anything. Last night she came by the house to get some of her things that she left and she told me that she had sex with another man. My heart sank, I felt sick to my stomach and I honestly felt like I was about to die. I don’t cry, I’m about as manly as you can get but since last night I have laid in this bed with tears in my eyes and a feeling that I cannot explain. Before she left she told me how sorry she was and that she wishes she could go back and take it back. She held me in her arms for hours trying to get me to calm down, telling me how much she loved me. I don’t know what to say or think anymore. I feel like my whole world was destroyed in one night. What do I do? God knows I love her and I want my wife back but all I can think about is that other man touching my wife and it makes me sick. How can I over come this and get my best friend back? How can I learn to live with this? I don’t know what to do anymore. I am so lost and I’m worried that this pain is literally going to kill me.",0.4009893938813782,1.9428111688555347,2.068379982386954,99.60741892254092,81.77673545966229,5.101489451315236,18.569858712715856,5.709855703277628,-0.5851665275491058,1855,41,471,10,49,606,195,533,0.236,0.643,0.12,-0.9971,0,1,1,0,1,1,41.0,0,2,0,6,20,45,6,0,11,1,50,22,5,8,6,92,102,42,4,13,16,4,7,7,2,3,6,2,3,3,30,29,2,1,16,1,0,7,17,16,0,1,26,11,115,29,53,71,12,51,1,6,2,9,67,20,1,4,31,328,145,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05783684105978179,0.0,0.0,0.09293223633687824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05855659313006446,0.04271998916889135,0.0,0.2769078538434164,0.0,0.0,0.04595429658753066,0.0,0.0,0.06352984160302552,0.0,0.21470034153890716,0.04662684204465817,0.10212471396325644,0.0,0.047518554733141115,0.0,0.17581236637413136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386988456706287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048104077972939634,0.1171013231947299,0.0,0.0,0.08917269864681894,0.0,0.06134126800563339,0.07202864693580907,0.0,0.04809777218607128,0.0,0.057956552646932516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0488688681916313,0.0,0.0,0.05470519666730175,0.0,0.05714166062793024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941008160926684,0.0,0.05018837782461087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05647212392508547,0.039894481038052175,0.16085504216047267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0862888254949574,0.0,0.17505498820374987,0.053570003824758884,0.06347409462832994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06617460651206229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05499442427609052,0.1288713939179619,0.11956286428785687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853470887379171,0.0,0.15345014918492614,0.09103952294565572,0.0,0.0,0.18202180117984856,0.0,0.11833137134338745,0.19097558769750664,0.0,0.09862135443627032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191916726730545,0.0,0.4032062334918523,0.0,0.07455170333301986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187052292486869,0.12315380324058492,0.041407116342453684,0.1292094397572781,0.0,0.0,0.2096207024462555,0.0,0.10716634885131623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037840880833850885,0.0,0.05942123281301238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05343451821016716,0.06527785609538428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04440885175723895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238834754433428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06251202802678632,0.0,0.0,0.08919309960800248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041987229033798416,0.0,0.0488095256090201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037099822363571816,0.07156429292002107,0.0,0.0,0.06512538132663215,0.0,0.0,0.2668034407216889,0.0,0.07582790119473529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04607658977870032,0.1646891934862399,0.0,0.04479414521337045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06234707573823808,0.06421706538341003,0.053830970502337684,0.0,0.0,0.05671160510473231,0.0,0.11900848309566008,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,iggyri,2019/02/19,"Anyone feel like staying single is the best long term solution? Perhaps this is a defense mechanism for me at this point, but I've been I'm 33 and have been in 6 serious relationships. They have all been pretty great in their own right, but unfortunately never materialized into anything long term (longest one was 5 years). Each break up seems to get harder and hard and I'm at a point where I'm starting to think that perhaps I don't want to take another chance and go through this again. It seems that whenever I feel like I'm completely healed, get my confidence back and and my life is back on track I meet someone. I think the longest I've been single was about a year. I'm thankful for every woman that was in my life as they taught me something great, but I'm at a point where I'm not sure going through another break up in my life is worth it for me. It's great having another person to share your life with, but when that person is no longer there it feels like the world has come to an end. Perhaps I will love again, but as of right now it seems futile. 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We have a four year old son. My wife is English and is her in America on a greencard. We got married in Scotland, I'm American. Anyone here have experience with a UK & US divorce?",3.158888888888889,5.414581555555557,4.355333333333334,83.07300000000002,76.03703703703705,6.542222222222222,34.874074074074066,7.554174236665415,2.7059451851851843,220,13,40,3,5,72,41,54,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,9.0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,7,8,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,7,0,5,7,0,7,0,0,1,0,12,3,0,1,4,26,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35679103222130165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302507445607601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32211373043057423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26336732070342544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34553974524178965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.368885801264784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330767202381423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3961013813848912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4241104116156089 divorce,sprinkles394,2019/02/19,"Divorcing with Young Children Any advice on items to include in my divorce that pertain to children? I have two kids under the age of four. I just want to make sure we've thought of everything to discuss before the divorce is final. We're splitting custody and have gone over common items: holidays, sleepovers, etc. Anything you're glad you included or wish you talked about? Thanks.",5.4808695652173895,8.043110927536237,4.799347826086958,81.1364130434783,70.15942028985508,6.918840579710146,34.68840579710145,7.793537801064563,2.8549014492753617,310,16,49,4,6,93,55,69,0.0,0.7929999999999999,0.207,0.9211,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,1,9,9,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,0,5,3,12,7,3,9,0,0,0,0,10,4,0,1,4,31,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2803149703736543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507373103000786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2360602418058813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2440955983126724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3199232424632656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578100740277089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142396492323594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19148038837143536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703608997392816,0.0,0.0,0.2305661313099761,0.0,0.2641009207994726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277337399528293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802192364228183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16919667462705199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298733112712939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sninapeters,2019/02/19,"I told him I wanted it, why am I breaking down? I need help. 26, married 8 years. Washington state. 2 kids. No house/assets really. No legal involvement yet. Reasons for wanting the divorce, he’s unfaithful. After years of pushing me into having an open relationship, and finally closing it down to be monogamous, still unfaithful, talking to girls and telling them he is divorced. He has an extreme porn addiction that had made our sexual life harder to maintain for his needs. He is depressed/angry and refuses to seek help. He claims to be suicidal, and he’s telling me I’m the reason why. He’s not attracted to me anymore, and he does not like how emotional I am. I was diagnosed bipolar last fall, and have been working on maintaining a stabilized mood. Lots of dr appointments, being medicated and still working full time. It’s been hard, but I’ve gotten through it. THE THING. He’s from out of state. He wants to move back to his home state. 1. I want to keep and protect my children. This is the uttermost importance to me. 2. I am terrified of what this is going to happen to me financially. I make twice he does now, but I still rely on that income to pay my bills. 3. I am lost right now. I can’t stop crying, I am so low and sad, and the only person I want to hug and make better I can’t anymore. 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It's been 2 years since the divorce. I still see my relationship with her everywhere I go. The music on the radio, the movies, the shows, the games, the clothes. All I have to do is something menial like turn on the playstation and the ambient menu music brings me right back to a day, years ago, where I was sitting in a room with the love of my life, someone who deeply cared about me and loved me. Someone who understood me and shared her experience in life with me. Everything reminds me of the time I spent with what feels like the only love I'll ever have. We were together for 8 years. Married for 5 of them. We lived together for 7 of them. I'm at a loss for what to do. Everytime I start dating I back out. All I can think about is her when I start having moments with a new person. I think about this person multiple times an hour. its inescapable. I just sit around and think of all the dumb shit I ever said to her. All the stupid things I did. I think about how just a few fucking clicks and keystrokes changed the course of my entire life. How I could have still been with my best friend if I had just done things differently. If I had said things differently. 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Been crap for awhile and I’d been trying to hold on and sort it out. Plus in the last few months there’s been other stuff going on as well Got three bits of advice to share that have helped me sort out how I feel, and also how I am going to go on from here. 1. Our personal experiences shape who we are and how we react to things. We can think about how someone else should react to a situation, but our opinions are based on our own experiences. It means we are often annoyed/disappointed by our STBX’s reactions to things, but in reality their experiences in life shape what they do. 2. As unromantic as it is, when it all boils down to it, when we are in a relationship we do stuff or don’t do stuff so that our partner won’t leave. Now that the relationship has ended, we don’t have that over then anymore. ( and they don’t have that over us either). This means that we can decide what they should or shouldn’t do. 3. Sometimes love isn’t enough. It’s ok if you can’t keep a relationship together even if you do love them. Sometimes love is the worst thing for you, or them. It’s ok. Disney movies and romantic movies have it wrong! 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I don’t know anyone IRL that gets what this is doing to me. I’m 37F married my husband (40) just a couple years ago though we have been together for 9. I have kids, they aren’t his. We’ve been having problems for the last 3-4 years. Yeah I married him anyway, I thought we could make it work. I was in school and he was working out of state. He started questioning where I was or who I was with. At first it was normal conversation but slowly it turned into accusations and cold silence. We didn’t really fight. It was more of ignore each other until one us pretended that it didn’t happen, rinse and repeat. I chalked it up to only seeing each other 1-2 days every week. He stopped traveling for work a couple years ago and things got worse. Snide comments made in front of our friends, eye rolling, dismissive gestures. It got to the point that I started avoiding activities with him and our friends. I used my job as an excuse to avoid being belittled in front of people. I started pursuing some solo hobbies that I knew he didn’t like just to get a little space and time to think. I thought this was just us trying to adjust to living together again. He accused me of cheating on him over and over again. Which is hilarious because he’s the one who got busted with an active Match account. He’s also the one who changed every password he had so I wouldn’t be able to see his accounts. My passwords were in a book in the living room for everyone to see. Anyway flash forward a bit. I told him I wanted a divorce. I moved out 2 weeks later. It’s been a month now and I still am waiting for him to sign papers. He’s adamant that we don’t get lawyers involved. It’s all about the money for him. I got him to sign my car over to me. But I left the house. I asked for very little in the way of money for my share of our house. He knocked some off what we agreed on in spite of my low request. I don’t care about the money. I don’t care about the house. I just want out. But I’m sad. I’m lonely. I’m having more anxiety than ever. I’m hardly sleeping even though I work nights and need to sleep. I’m not eating as much as I should. I feel crushed under this sadness and empty inside. I know I made the right decision but it hurts so much more than I expected. I’ve had one or two people express interest in dating but I’m not ready for that. I know if I try that right now it will be an unhealthy attachment on my part. But it’s really hard to resist the thought of some comfort/companionship when I feel like I’m falling apart. Thanks for reading. 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For the first couple of months I would collect it and mail it to a requested address, but now I keep a sharpie in my car and take it with me every time I check the mail. I get an odd satisfaction writing “Return to Sender” on the mail and stuffing it back in the outgoing box. Now if I can just get him to withdraw his half of our money from our joint account so I can close it....",5.720303030303029,5.035684545454547,6.363636363636362,82.09212121212124,67.18181818181819,9.151515151515152,33.78787878787879,8.344100000000001,2.4583333333333326,420,17,88,5,6,138,71,110,0.044,0.882,0.075,0.5187,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,8,0,4,0,0,0,1,13,9,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,5,6,0,1,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,14,0,15,8,1,16,0,0,0,0,14,5,0,1,9,63,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25724655778617794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35390714414273633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3701707055353718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818708956306249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28456613245453005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495747671377448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2973613983737566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.267032810274765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671702532932441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25153826171178184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19507747461771494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23765311227326935,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sellifa,2019/02/20,"Divorce Playlist - Let’s hear your jams I’m meeting with a lawyer for a consultation on Friday. I was hoping this could be done amicably but it seems as though he’s not interested in that. I have a long commute and am big on playlists for everything. I need a divorce appropriate playlist to help me work through my feelings on my commute. Looking for more empowering, moving on, clean break or even angry type songs but a really good sad song could certainly round things out a bit. Any suggestions for music that helped you through?",6.051428571428572,7.5865204343434325,5.897431457431459,77.97090909090913,66.87878787878788,9.293506493506491,34.34487734487736,9.606745405546679,3.292615007215007,429,20,78,9,7,134,76,99,0.111,0.736,0.153,0.54,1,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,2,0,1,2,5,0,0,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,14,15,6,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,5,3,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,6,8,4,15,9,2,10,0,1,2,0,11,7,0,3,1,50,13,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564320432558554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25113921141307466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36732929241032003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2354062056960891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519362928048115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20674109445260985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631287174827218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294288194359874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592667518355908,0.0,0.3083759229939885,0.0,0.0,0.2284771777918739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23522690669113425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2035741982285258,0.19317190260482356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24449135512890785,0.0,0.17056842483893914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736664582865608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094156997546136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15282537933874166,0.0,0.2260087324710901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1674685997704728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,struggling-mama,2019/02/20,"Best course of action? I’m being slightly ambiguous on dates for anonymity. 44-48 SAHM of 3 kids (ages 12-4) for past 6 years. I gave up my career to become sahm because his job combined with mine meant paying out a lot of daycare/nanny. 4 years into marriage, my last surviving parent passed leaving me a sizable inheritance. At the time I considered getting a post-nup just to protect those assets. I didn’t because I thought it would be rude toward my husband. I didn’t know I should have kept it solely in my name and most was deposited to joint accounts - checking/retirement, etc. Hindsight is oh-so 50/50. That inheritance pulled us out of debt by paying off being behind on mortgage, his failed business, paid for his education for future career and eventually, paid cash for our home while he ramped up his business. (I’m guessing that’s upwards of $415k). We also paid off the balance of my student loans (not sizable, 6k). Husband is independent contractor and does quite well now, but I believe my inheritance has paid more of our lives since it was inherited than my husband has contributed in that same time frame. I believe he will be liable for child support, alimony, etc. He is a good dad and I don’t want to punish him, so I will likely go for 50/50 custody, but that may not work since his job is based on when clients need him - nights/weekends, etc. I cannot see his business books to know if or how he’s hiding anything, and wondering how that impacts our taxes, and/or support/alimony. What type of lawyer should I be looking for that can advise me of the financial component, the custody component, potential child support/alimony and yet... allow us to be as amicable as we can? I’m aware there’s traditional divorce/mediation/collaborative divorce, etc. Tl:dr: pretty sure I’m headed for divorce and as a sahm with assets to protect, looking for best lawyer options to represent kids, me, assets and finances. No infidelity, just irreconcilable differences. Thanks for making it this far, I’m kinda a wreck and all over the map right now. 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I have a 5 year old and a one year old. My ex cheated on me the whole time we were married. I have breast cancer and am having a mastectomy next month. I am getting my will together. My fiance wants to adopt the kids so they will stay with him if I eventually die. My ex has only seen the kids 2 times since the divorce last year. He gets visitation Saturday afternoons but never takes it. When he came to play with our 5 year old, our son said he wanted my my fiance to play with him and not his dad. Now my ex is angry and won't sign his parental rights away. He initially said he would but now is being petty. Anyone go through this or have advice on how to deal with the situation? 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We met and got engaged quickly...like within 6-9 months. He was in the military and we’ve been together through his undergrad degree, my Masters, and now he’s 2/3 done with a physical therapy grad program. He told me on Monday that he feels we should separate. He feels like we are two different people and not a good match. I agree that we are very different, but we work SO well together, have similar life views and goals, and I think in the big picture we are on the same page. At least I thought so. I’ve been a wreck since then as I feel like this came out of nowhere. We have had discussions in the past about the physical aspect of our relationship and while physical touch is not my “native” language, I tried. I’ll admit I didn’t do as much as I could have or should have to meet his needs. We have moved 4 times, including two states, during the duration of our marriage. I’ve had three jobs due to the moves, which were necessary for his grad program. We have had a LOT of change in our lives. He has been unable to work due to the demands and of school and I’ve been the main “breadwinner” for the last two years. Prior to that, I worked and he used the GI Bill for expenses. Anyway, he initially agreed to try counseling and we have an appointment scheduled on Tuesday. Today he said he feels like he’s made up his mind but would like to go to counseling “because it would be fair to me”. Yesterday he said he felt like we should make an attempt to fix things. We do not have children, but have two dogs who are essentially our kids. I should mention I live 1800+ miles from my entire family. I moved here while he went to school. I guess I’m just looking for support, advice, experience, etc. I’ve told a few of my family members, but am I stupid for holding out some sort of hope that therapy may help us?",3.8065703095859753,5.002885963446481,4.656392204401347,86.0415894255875,71.87206266318537,8.604587840358077,27.7777881387542,9.04235418022936,2.0669657590451327,1496,54,315,30,28,484,209,383,0.032,0.866,0.103,0.9776,3,0,0,0,0,0,51.0,17,0,0,6,8,11,1,0,19,0,40,2,1,3,0,66,66,25,0,9,9,1,6,5,0,7,1,2,0,2,9,28,0,1,8,0,2,6,4,1,1,5,23,10,42,10,43,34,9,41,0,0,2,0,51,15,0,8,24,196,51,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913432639310936,0.0,0.0,0.09360230007384696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05698185157392354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10691117187618576,0.0,0.0,0.09888477896433626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07463265180699691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19532419092082345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956579817941517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279162701607318,0.0,0.10424999112626723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143706280756804,0.1762409327873097,0.0,0.18905626612895307,0.20033693882875456,0.08975122457236986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053124331494362735,0.07840288931082566,0.0747609678495539,0.0,0.10297390004693574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593292223854093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265471706722249,0.0,0.0,0.09284235158103707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276009877180423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0761950812275951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06602457306126419,0.228337256270325,0.0,0.16508131565084486,0.0,0.07849595250844674,0.0,0.0,0.07946960322841835,0.0,0.08844886265656281,0.06239568164813285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438369820789899,0.0,0.07461132349901342,0.2980492743841514,0.06871531350916722,0.06931096497500465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923302688520618,0.06480420388453846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537968186994498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035780054982388,0.0,0.0,0.17783338206825014,0.0,0.0,0.18920457340996374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07732397334535629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10607499090070008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21379496548212368,0.0,0.0621010279284772,0.05989538318749084,0.0,0.07420917650883127,0.05450636777966149,0.0,0.08860392875818647,0.1786398625988056,0.0,0.1269275783507742,0.0,0.3652482724988946,0.0,0.1124396244749988,0.08073289659226232,0.0,0.07712715065465266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840457806675822,0.08665280769037415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20415402670332544,0.0,0.0,0.1328047532595205,0.0,0.0,0.12039042946850775 divorce,qwerty8097,2019/02/20,"Made a post a few months ago, but I still don’t have the guts to leave. I’m so scared. I need to. I don’t want to repeat word for word what my last post said, but things have escalated. I’m just so fucking terrified to leave. His go to is always threatening me with “I’ll make sure you NEVER see our daughter again,” all because one time I made an off handed comment about how we’d be better off if I was dead. I don’t know what I’m hoping to accomplish by staying. He says comments to me or our sometimes that break my heart and then I get mad at myself for putting up with his bullshit. I’m so depressed. I have not been ok since I found out about his infidelity almost a year ago. He says he’ll use the depression against me when we go to court. We never have sex. I physically can’t do it. I always get flashbacks and see images of the other women he has been with, while claiming to be faithful to me. I can’t give myself away to him like that knowing he has been everywhere else. When I do force myself to do the act it can’t end fast enough and I just feel DISGUSTING afterwards. I know this is not a healthy marriage. He is still refusing counseling. Says God will fix him and that he doesn’t need a counselor. If I leave, I have nothing. I’m currently a SAHM because that has been my dream since I was a teen, but clearly that will change when I get the balls to leave. It will break my heart (luckily my mom will watch my daughter, but still). Sorry for the word vomit. I am a mess. I’m so scared of losing my daughter, and I’m scared that God will strike me down for divorcing. I’m just scared, but I want out. I want to pack up my things and never have to see my husbands face or hear his lying voice again. I want my daughter surrounded by love and attention and I want her to grow up knowing that I did the best for her. Talk some sense into me, please. I’ve tried to make this work, even with the history of unfaithfulness, but I’m tired of trying. I’m exhausted.",1.5669223907225671,3.401747815980631,2.9915413533834574,92.97255989550148,79.31476997578693,6.284414425895248,22.00643558047661,7.273561745256523,0.5684953995157391,1540,46,348,20,38,502,187,413,0.205,0.6779999999999999,0.117,-0.993,1,0,0,0,0,0,45.0,5,1,0,5,19,20,3,4,17,1,38,11,5,6,6,65,81,28,1,10,15,6,2,1,0,6,3,6,0,1,17,17,0,1,7,2,0,5,12,12,0,1,11,12,58,8,46,61,5,46,1,3,4,3,41,12,1,7,25,223,75,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15069279132707256,0.0,0.0851141195542415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145178662647712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07985926385767192,0.0,0.0,0.10362908012855723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08920110076945356,0.07517461904282524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991756497677006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1464188547838319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100567352030261,0.0,0.07528379574408689,0.08782658458482576,0.0,0.05614097132471589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0429779974025292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931969058074268,0.0,0.07858011272192825,0.13322525000655275,0.08153868936426696,0.09661366651210568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579993701013342,0.201448209779512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442308582087113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18685268850411815,0.06928544755774327,0.0,0.36000624582276586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04152616872351859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509202640772944,0.0,0.0,0.0767148251705772,0.16085602735505453,0.11347485058118628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954968352598068,0.0678453104612285,0.0,0.0,0.12605121358445556,0.19666917340092396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155873628341552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05759745393476268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330326670904472,0.0,0.0,0.1628108992712119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08544737062076045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808534177587014,0.2027836089186756,0.3403949053921382,0.0,0.20319935362295335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406239356625492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406608479514323,0.09514930877138914,0.0,0.09059751715936287,0.20364069226587656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08011045664216628,0.0,0.0,0.06831889553286682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11293898358001032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049563541707900866,0.09769373086869153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11541734626130908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341175812018293,0.0,0.0,0.2506727651775861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061880211001217066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054736504332077315 divorce,thucydideslikedpasta,2019/02/20,"Dating While Separated for Emotional Disconnect Hi, everyone! Sorry for the odd title! I have a question regarding separation and dating. My STBX has a multitude of mental health issues and for the last several months she has vacillated as to whether she wanted to remain married to me. Needless to say the back and forth has been quite stressful. I have the children, all assets have been divided and a martial separation/custody agreement signed-off on. I love my STBX and the problem I am having is trying to understand whether her feelings are her true feelings or are her mental illness speaking. Regardless, I have been in regular therapy for the last several months in an attempt to try to rationale everything and move to a happier place. This morning, I explained to my therapist that I am having trouble emotionally disconnecting from my STBX (e.g. she continues to call frequently, wants to hang out outside of her visitation hours, wants my advice on multiple matters, wants to carry on our friendship after divorce, etc). My therapist recommended that I enforce new boundaries and she also recommended that I go out there and meet new people and even try dating to see if that helps. I have no desire to meet new people or date at this time - I am putting all of my energy into my little people. Has anyone had any positive results from dating while separated in regard to trying to disconnect from their STBX. I love my therapist and she has helped me immensely; however, I am not sure about the dating advice. Thanks!",9.050344403444038,9.335457749077497,9.177771217712175,61.44124477244773,60.070110701107005,12.540319803198033,40.94489544895449,11.979248473330829,5.499510504305042,1234,62,181,36,15,407,146,271,0.067,0.784,0.149,0.972,1,0,0,0,1,0,31.0,1,0,1,2,5,9,0,1,12,0,23,4,0,2,4,38,36,19,0,8,6,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,6,13,0,0,6,0,0,5,2,3,0,0,4,5,35,6,39,32,3,38,0,0,1,2,26,12,0,4,21,141,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20254658662703787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08287881219516373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047700361500654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07246569800720377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969078350106165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10582539938932096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23315631025368486,0.0,0.0,0.11558312539856935,0.06845154249977861,0.0,0.0,0.0990300019063429,0.09314263598331923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10480439316729227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0588995375682192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016173762138044,0.0,0.0,0.13893196424010018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020619885217386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10817054698172436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895666912079552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387192746360267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870736466298012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088842994172035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654448094809824,0.1101501825369331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30028101574904714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21554742623053674,0.0,0.10827905215469727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916702022102528,0.0,0.1041842380622708,0.11609763575181455,0.11023115962188293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08241664092265898,0.0,0.0,0.0825856106051233,0.0,0.0,0.23416158450587685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601361357853675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11871632142341985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09767704758438588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09541541780962697,0.11851842881680975,0.3609931186077934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06043181657892512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814520374833449,0.0,0.0,0.10789021552222597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445121562267861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LSaintP,2019/02/20,"Filed yesterday I filed for divorce yesterday. STBX is supposed to be served today. As much as I want to be happy about this, I'm devastated. Also hurts that he has already moved on and is sleeping with someone else. &#x200B; Just feeling so alone, I don't have any friends, and my parents don't seem to understand what I'm going through.",4.779538461538461,6.5281663384615385,5.092307692307696,81.70769230769233,70.23076923076923,7.661538461538463,34.53846153846154,8.238735603445708,2.8178307692307696,272,14,49,4,5,86,50,65,0.17600000000000002,0.731,0.093,-0.7763,1,1,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,8,1,1,0,0,8,15,6,0,1,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,10,13,1,6,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,31,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23482146263216105,0.25019959408273795,0.1813140157088584,0.0,0.2456593085189646,0.2754989051259969,0.1541825733514824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18940185425462325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146403096628879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1751692160243792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12885454553500186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2413557939751766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24271663315381506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24097560519817066,0.16667090661570927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517542182491827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20640433261846525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268913848895737,0.0,0.1921055977613308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21491129679369825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23603147431655044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337298392703598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754989051259969,0.0 divorce,anon-amously,2019/02/20,"I have had enough I feel completely used and taken advantage of. I feel unappreciated and in this weird slump of unhappiness which will quickly trigger my depression. I’ve done everything for my husband. I’ve sacrificed my studies and a chance to have a real shot at a career, my personal vehicle and belongings. I’ve always stood in his corner through life’s toughest moments (job changes, big moves, his racist parents, debt, ex-wife drama). I’m 24, a stay at home mom and love our kids but I’m miserable. Not miserable because of them, but more miserable because of my husband. I wouldn’t mind these sacrifices and this life path that I’m on if I felt appreciated and loved. If he truly knew how hard and depressing and isolating this can be. I don’t think that i’m difficult to please. I just want some recognition of what I do, what I’ve given up and that the small things that I do for him and our family goes unnoticed. I’m finding it hard to find more motivation to continue to do the small things. ex- I’ll do laundry, pick up his lounge wear that he puts on after work that he usually leaves on the floor, wash it and put it back on the floor where he left it. I’ll gather his things and put it on the kitchen table so everything’s easily accessible in the morning when I know he’ll be late for work. Packing his lunch is a nightly norm now. Literally an ass grab and a “thanks for holding down the fort” or “thanks for scheduling my appointment” would be appreciated. That’s all. I’ve known this man since I was 20. I’ve given up my youth for him. I’m just not happy, I feel miserable. Trapped is an understatement. I tell him this often, but he doesn’t change. I’ve given him so many chances to change his actions. He asks what he can do to change my feelings or bring back some type of emotion and I’ll tell him what I’m lacking. He does so, for about a week or so. It just doesn’t stick. Then we find ourselves having the same arguments about the same things. We’ve tried couples therapy, lots of marriage books, and just sitting down and having long talks. I really really don’t want to nag so I change my approach often. He listens, says all the right thing but his change isn’t consistent though. Sometimes I don’t think he *truly* wants to change. I’ve gotten to the point where I can’t just sit around and fake my happiness anymore. I’m losing myself. I’m tired of arguing and I got into the mindset of stick around for the kids sake... but I realize that that may be more harmful with all the arguing. Also, we’re in the middle of buying a home and I need to figure out what I want before this whole process is over. Lately, I’ve been thinking about divorce more and more but I don’t know where to even start. Do I even have the balls to do it? What about our kids? Is this a *real* cause for divorce? I literally have nothing and sometimes feel it’s more convenient to stay and just deal with it. Our kids are all under the age of 3 (there’s a set of twins in the mix). 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She has a serious history of lying and cheating (this is not the first time by any means). So I finally kicked her out and she has the kids during the day during the week at my house other than that she moved out (I'm getting the house and primary custody). she rarely helps with groceries, is frequently shitty towards me and refuses to leave the job she's at ( cuz her bf works there) so has almost zero way to support our kids on her own ( she works PT minimum wage) and no place to watch them other than my house. Let me tell you how excited I am to come home to my stbx at my house every day. What should",3.6186032510535817,4.745507609271527,4.533172787477426,87.01175195665262,72.2450331125828,7.8750150511739925,26.972305839855515,8.296473431620573,1.6494052980132452,583,20,122,9,11,189,92,151,0.13,0.8029999999999999,0.067,-0.8537,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,1,1,1,3,5,7,2,0,8,0,10,0,0,2,0,22,15,12,0,1,1,2,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,3,5,13,0,1,2,0,1,2,2,3,0,3,1,1,25,4,20,12,2,18,0,0,1,0,26,8,0,2,8,88,30,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29027402736589625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856453707693927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08835440758442425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248534408592778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869493146804052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14832449418003282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211865575559833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877527637507882,0.0,0.12328634884835947,0.0,0.0,0.11198070127039628,0.0,0.07572544968402821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097150588405546,0.0,0.14538717883897687,0.0,0.0,0.6689676899343214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.143831120752946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15347110355946153,0.0,0.14821152165180965,0.0,0.07081062636599154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578827382811396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15404885556714318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821546064992508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15143201474707746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644768065915837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12668442002824215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451599415829829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504705382137265,0.11626255810132265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21103687796626688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ERnursey,2019/02/20,"Separation after 30 years Hey Reddit, I will try to keep this short. My parents have been married for 30 years. My mom wants out of the marriage due to various factors including my father's alcoholism which had led to a lack of gainful employment. She has simply stated she loves and cares for him, but is no longer in love with him. Although he loves my mother very much, he has refused to change/seek help over many years and she has reached her limit. &#x200B; They own a home worth approximately $700k with a $150k mortgage remaining. &#x200B; My mother is the breadwinner of the home, earning approximately $60k/year. My father only works seasonally (his own choice) and earns approximately $20k. He collects EI in the winter. My mother has a workplace pension currently worth approximately $180k with 8-11 years left before retirement (dependent on when she chooses to retire. She is currently 54). My father has no pension, besides what will be provided by the government. Prior to their current situation, and up until 10 years ago, they were self-employed, together. &#x200B; Besides this, my mom does not know their true financial situation. My father handles the money, which I know, is not ideal for someone who has a drinking problem, but this is how they've functioned thus far. My mother doesn't even know how to log-into her online banking profile. This is partly her own fault, as he doesn't forbid her from doing so. She is just very uninvolved in their day to day finances, and it has always been this way. This is now proving to be a problem as she wants out. &#x200B; How can she go about this in the simplest/most affordable manner? Does she contact a divorce lawyer? are there different lawyers that specialize in separations vs. divorces? Does she need a lawyer for a separation? What are the steps she should follow?",5.610181315644002,7.82630830447761,5.804112769485903,75.54894416804866,68.94029850746269,8.306246545052515,32.10889994472084,8.94667605116694,3.0099065782200096,1482,66,242,28,27,470,189,335,0.093,0.828,0.079,-0.733,9,0,2,0,2,0,70.0,0,0,5,6,10,11,0,0,17,0,31,5,0,6,2,40,44,16,0,8,6,11,0,0,0,3,1,0,2,0,14,10,2,4,5,1,5,4,6,4,0,0,4,0,36,7,36,35,7,38,0,0,0,3,49,13,0,1,19,162,50,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07490403092445556,0.09030465646814502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031065591447201,0.36622226896286575,0.4107063344772013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0719031604767066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615324287498599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1089908434427498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08828437290467807,0.0,0.0,0.2218392010214416,0.0,0.0,0.08277769719573244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055811363174079226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048023219959080335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663847759688905,0.0,0.16952050639512567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07510736157570908,0.0,0.0,0.13931674602455607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918093493793758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22879327881593686,0.0,0.0,0.08566959922469981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19793043868078375,0.0,0.0,0.062117122651380065,0.06265557839394117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426595421178086,0.0,0.0,0.09382709898520963,0.09150511816080724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16170991560825088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815178679166097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899627748763499,0.0,0.0,0.0715964604768793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057369860876832414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13944247453160136,0.0996804180979157,0.06707205882530633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061516907313592085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4107063344772013,0.32649085151957924 divorce,erroruserunknown-,2019/02/20,"Sue for abuse - (Illinois) Can someone lead me in the direction of what I need to discuss with my lawyer what I need to sue my ex for physical and emotional abuse as well as lost wages from abuse. I have all the evidence as well as proof of him admitting to rape. He’s also been found guilty by another party that has forced him into therapy but have yet to to file with civilian police. 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Did I find a untapped source of “strength” or did things just get so awful that being that guy coming home to an empty room seems tolerable? I feel like life is a test I just don’t have the answers to; I just have to hand in a blank sheet and take my lumps. My wife’s anger, contempt and even hatred is never going to end until I can get hired again, but I just can’t seem to make that happen, regardless of my best efforts and a pretty good first half of a career. She also wants another baby but sits there in her old robe with a crazy looking topknot glaring at me with rage. How exactly do I get the baby inside her when sex is a distant memory? Chalk that one up to my inadequacy too. My son is starting to absorb her style and has decided I’m sort of a butler/whipping boy who lives down the hall from mommy. But I’m thinking maybe I could cobble some kind of a life together if we divorced, and that gives me hope.",7.056880733944957,4.7970212935779815,7.689064220183486,78.76396330275229,65.42201834862385,10.187889908256881,31.43302752293578,8.238735603445708,2.1194554128440366,814,21,174,8,10,273,139,218,0.115,0.779,0.106,0.1348,0,0,0,0,1,1,16.0,1,0,0,5,13,10,4,0,14,1,18,5,1,2,3,40,38,17,1,6,11,4,2,1,0,0,3,0,2,2,9,10,0,0,8,0,0,3,4,4,0,3,4,3,25,6,21,32,2,22,0,0,1,1,14,8,0,8,11,119,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273945890421556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16704313455116204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16717871949255536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13722546923871046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12719052033359307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109521589385465,0.0,0.0,0.10521816004705976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054840702783869,0.113806128527423,0.0,0.0,0.1456000988380912,0.1355030903033884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496878010254119,0.15281799842639876,0.09053559268691044,0.13361583764823592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15773506200900306,0.14087115825713964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15979394480571402,0.15822387012489106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624521867215615,0.1658896091210858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17308322655881736,0.0,0.22504090633633975,0.07782742200202747,0.0,0.1406675089696907,0.0,0.133774437888784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063360208065288,0.0,0.3200826447686876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457286609635277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16716175005265396,0.0,0.1079478673669293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16206846916478668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29004702176661457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1127555165159874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11977606575137728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10583386579777808,0.10207496007106497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17699154661241825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09396106445448203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Brief_Wait,2019/02/20,"Oregon - Removed from Auto Insurance Policy without my Knowledge I buy 6 month auto insurance policies and pay in full. I recently got a divorce from my ex husband and everything was finalized and settled completely out of court without lawyers. (Self Filed.) Myself and my car was removed from our auto insurance policy after the divorce was finalized but a month before the policy was to expire, and when it came time for me to buy new insurance, I discovered that I had been driving uninsured for a month. Now, every time it's time to renew my policy, I have to pay double because there's a gap in my coverage. I ended up in tears with an insurance agent who told me that there's no way I could have been dropped from the policy without proof of divorce and proof that I had gotten myself on my own policy; that this is fraud, I should contact the underwriter, etc. I contacted the underwriter of the original policy my ex dropped me from, and sure enough, there is no record of documentation surrounding the removal of me and my vehicle from the policy, other than I was removed. Do I have any course of action here? I don't want any money and I don't want anything other than the record of a gap in my coverage to be removed. It wasn't my fault. If I'd known that I was being dropped from the policy I **instantly** would have bought a new one.",5.204560274560271,6.4115113629343625,6.514330759330761,73.98626233376234,68.57528957528957,10.38876018876019,31.763406263406267,10.504223727775694,3.626768168168168,1069,45,190,30,18,362,120,259,0.076,0.888,0.036000000000000004,-0.7801,0,0,0,0,3,0,28.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,17,0,25,0,0,1,3,28,32,12,0,6,5,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,12,12,0,0,2,0,6,9,8,1,0,1,16,0,33,1,35,11,5,38,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,1,16,147,45,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20397669150910172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341689182382858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09142354985774157,0.0,0.12761793269872534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153178744449554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572462469273513,0.0,0.0,0.11974307213658394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13283359931693306,0.15496457412658812,0.16726210184723114,0.0,0.0,0.12636065724694512,0.0,0.1347881276997754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32858121722979355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11994894659994774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3591265569010953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2896941554159244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162714355760558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808251397225514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564569445830548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14134994381626764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623554076232606,0.0,0.0,0.14330782462986802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17691863339333533,0.11904341105987708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4337125072040436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106538148950947,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whod_have_thunk,2019/02/20,"Collateral damage of a mid life crisis. Newish to reddit, I am ten months into the divorce process. My husband of 35 years decided he wanted to divorce me. While I knew something was wrong I had no idea that was what was coming. He had quit talking to me and was spending a lot of time away from home but answered everything was fine when I tried repeatedly to discuss it. He told me two days after our daughter's wedding and left for four days. When he returned, he said there was nothing to discuss and he saw no point in marriage counseling. He said some really hurtful things that night that really came out of the blue. I realized later that all the things he thought I was was saying and feeling were the voices in his head that he projected on to me. All his insecurities and his perceived failures as we approach our late fifties he took out on me. It left me paralyzed for weeks unable to even start the process of figuring out what to do. I told him that he had to tell our grown children and I would never lie to them. He cried when he called our son, cried when he called our daughter (who was on her honeymoon) but then felt relief that it was over and felt everyone should just be okay with everything. He moved into another building on our property, brought home the Harley that he had hidden from me, purchased with cash that he had hidden from me, and spent every weekend with the girlfriend he had hidden from me. His do-over life had begun. Wonderful, wonderful friends (and a great therapist) got me through the ""what the hell do I do now"" first weeks. That was the first month of my divorce story.",5.767741935483872,6.568433677419358,5.6808064516129075,81.94120967741938,67.06451612903226,8.780645161290323,31.951612903225808,8.841846274778883,2.524954838709677,1280,51,244,20,20,400,160,310,0.108,0.804,0.08800000000000001,-0.6897,0,0,1,1,3,1,31.0,7,0,1,3,8,10,1,1,13,1,26,3,1,0,3,44,46,18,0,3,3,4,3,0,2,2,2,4,2,1,19,20,0,0,13,1,4,7,3,5,0,5,33,9,35,5,41,10,4,51,1,2,2,0,56,17,1,4,27,167,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11572214071593442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368690502122688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22537991142338065,0.1262225032963082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09506541591021474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24245067782801655,0.14234621194183675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07289177586109212,0.0,0.09298310659204884,0.10545376245544824,0.19836900374390715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05580136003533267,0.0,0.21192592019388531,0.0,0.0,0.1877444137487732,0.0,0.0,0.08526390515889952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826501800722915,0.12167235085041475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132612558723242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22140026785353994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814272198851465,0.12458306964516973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244909496074168,0.0,0.23981304653107735,0.0,0.1559011419407908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382417271669333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17617668688923793,0.11729527375612432,0.0,0.0,0.08511647832269945,0.0,0.0,0.10356543613960714,0.0,0.10589344972853004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10432592401824747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11738150356644696,0.0,0.0,0.14139895503364786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20995537005523424,0.08776274570259686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849605624677997,0.0,0.0,0.07811341533922497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870323228744563,0.0964595528680958,0.0,0.0,0.12813653049547674,0.14663663422348772,0.0,0.0,0.0876135567698208,0.06435183588395965,0.0,0.0,0.21090752491089645,0.12261408239043756,0.07492723349495753,0.0,0.10780573833026104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509322009453943,0.0,0.17704835949447414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2393615452009696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783966170788889,0.1206613961334715,0.0,0.07106825747841958 divorce,kparker123115,2019/02/20,"Where do I begin? I have no idea where to start with the divorce process, advice needed badly. I decided today to file for divorce from my husband. We were together for 3 years, and got married in October of 2018, so only about 3 months ago. Due to him having an addiction problem that has become more apparent and emotional abuse that has led into some physical abuse I have decided it’s best to leave now. We have been living seperately for a week and he is already moving on with his life, continuing thise same habits. We have a 2 year old son together (he is the father, we wanted to wait to be married) and he has only seen him in the last week when I have pushed for it, I think 2 or 3 times. He has also been neglectful to him. We don’t own a home or have our names on a lease together as I rent from my parents. I am an authorized user on 2 of his credit cards and I bought a car since we’ve been married although my name is the only one on it. I make more money than he does by far. We live in Indiana. 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I’m (45F) in the early stages. Married 21 years, together for 25 with a 14 year old daughter. I’ve moved out and gotten my own place in early November. The question is specifically for he ladies. Did you take your maiden name back? What about now having a different name from your children? I’m not worried about a professional reputation as such. The people who know me, know me. I’ve had this name for so long, and it’s the one I share with my daughter, but on one hand I’d kind of like MY name back ",1.3866666666666667,3.777807666666668,2.7792592592592613,91.1666666666667,83.44444444444446,5.822222222222222,20.11111111111111,7.1686216300943375,0.4511888888888893,420,12,89,6,12,136,73,108,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.8862,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,4,0,0,8,3,0,0,7,0,4,1,1,0,0,15,11,5,0,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,4,1,10,3,14,7,1,18,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,1,11,52,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5020542769952108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.227387069767104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266381620777783,0.2392180753001873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063277198327496,0.0,0.0,0.19260420574700485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2313164618914545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283761593167981,0.0,0.2949564639988888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15088390189076392,0.0,0.227387069767104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438061718787263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16363790081020113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2418056142278488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210235879925592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28030554593152274 divorce,Chiswicker,2019/02/20,"Contacted a state rep today It’s been since Aug. 2018 that we had 2 day trial. Proposed judgment and facts and findings delivered in Sept. 2018. No word from judge. as to a divorce nisi judgment. Wife still living in marital home. I cannot live there with her accusations. I wrote to a state rep. who is also a family law Attorney who just happened to be in the courtroom the day of my trial and witnessed how my attorney was treated by the judge. We were not even allowed to give closing arguments. The judge kept objecting to questions my attorney was directing to my STBX on cross exam. I wrote and emailed that state rep. (Family law attorney) to see if she can get some status info on my case. I also have asked my attorney to submit an enquiry form to the court for status. I filed in May of 2017 and this is just taking too long.",3.9103964134025486,5.6474599263803675,5.081595092024539,80.96244926852289,72.43558282208589,8.450967437470505,28.489381783860306,9.057496981413335,2.484682302973101,660,26,123,14,13,218,103,163,0.046,0.954,0.0,-0.7351,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,10,0,12,0,0,2,1,27,21,10,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,9,0,1,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,8,1,15,1,22,11,2,16,0,0,1,0,15,7,0,4,5,84,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3450852906658534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20170583308187606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27829381621914656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14250699192236088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4067973580182894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972001040479573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272533634854776,0.2069759940451527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19079524868012368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164241837291699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810388540441411,0.19094020320624086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241699810348942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17193223868469595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17847833401068172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1723056667470541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16222415243613322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20451460145396114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Miatonta,2019/02/20,"Hurting too much but not ready to let go I [28F] found out he was cheating, and out of all people with someone from work. I was so hurt, and turned a little/lot aggressive. We have been married for 7yrs and lived together for 9. I asked him to go... and he did not. We stayed up all night, I went through all the stages of denial... I left for work and told him I did not want to see him when I came back. He was gone, I panicked. I did not want him to leave. I wanted him to fight for us. To fix things. Now it’s too late. What do I do? 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Shouldn't a degree of selfishness be acceptable? I will try to be succinct, realizing important details will be missing. My wife and I married and started a family very young. We were Mormon; now we are not. We have 3 kids under 10 years old. By most measures my life and my marriage are good, certainly nothing to complain about. However, the past few months I've been wondering if my super domesticated life is really a life I would have chosen without the influence of Mormonism, and that puts my marriage in question as well, even though I care for my wife and the thought of hurting her and our kids pains me. Compounding all this, a girl (now woman) I fell for very hard as a teenager recently connected with me on social media and we've been chatting a bit. It's pretty benign conversation, but it's secret, so some of you may not define that as benign. If I'm being completely honest, I've never forgotten about her and have thought about her on occasion throughout my entire marriage. This is pretty irrational I realize, especially because we never even really dated. I just crushed on her. Irrational, but the truth. If I could erase her from my memory and my feelings, I would. Life would be simpler. To my great astonishment, she has also left Mormonism. She is divorced and has taken that as an opportunity to really ""find herself"" and determine what is important for her in her life. I am envious of her ability to start life over again. And I am finding that my budding identity/mid-life crisis is turning into a full-blown crisis as reconnecting with this old flame has made me realize that I may not have to accept my domestic life as the best or only option. I am not so delusional to think that this old love will turn into anything, but obviously the curiosity is there. I am very concerned that if I decide the domestic/full-time parent thing is not for me, I will end up regretting my choice and damage relationships with my kids. I will not be a dead beat dad abdicating parental responsibilities, but I long for the opportunity to adventure and date and travel with what's left of my (relative) youth. I'm agnostic and refuse to hold out for a heaven or afterlife that may not exist. I realize that many of you will think I'm a selfish motherfucker, thinking with my penis, but have some sympathy. I grew up in a fundamentalist situation, and didn't really have an adolescence the way most people do. My life feels prescribed--as if I didn't really choose it. I just did what I was supposed to. I'm lucky, in that I am not miserable, but I don't know if I'll ever be able to shake the idea that a different life path may have been better for me and my personality. So, reddit, I'm curious about your thoughts. About any of this. Am I selfish? Shouldn't a degree of selfishness be acceptable? 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She alos wants a divorce. What should the next steps be and does anyone have recommendations on what should be done in my situation?,3.583750000000002,6.351548208333337,3.8873333333333338,84.29100000000003,77.33333333333334,5.506666666666668,26.266666666666666,6.742157984588678,1.177411666666667,206,8,37,2,5,64,38,48,0.13,0.845,0.026,-0.743,0,0,0,0,3,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,0,7,8,3,0,4,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,1,4,0,7,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,4,27,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537293142903553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3175527021153872,0.3713451762728212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3859196669978647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24589220916873036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885712600924909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.407884577109693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280639215599036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336783842499848 divorce,TheFreshPrinceOBlair,2019/02/21,"Starting the divorce process Me (20F) and my husband (25M) are getting a divorce after 2 and a half years. I recently told him I'm going to file on my first day off work in March, which was the hardest conversation I've ever had to have. We own a house and dog together and those are the only thing that I feel matters to me with our belongings. I get the house and he gets the dog. I left for Chicago today for a business trip and when I get home I'm going to be living alone for the first time I'm my life, I'm going to be alone. I know I'm young and this is for the best but he's all I've even known. I can't remember a time when I didn't have someone to love or love me. How am I supposed to get used to not having someone to kiss or snuggle? How to a stop myself from jumping in too fast to another relationship just because of my loneliness. I'm excited to grow as an individual but I'm also terrified of myself.",2.6473438621679857,3.3028706080402017,4.896284996410625,85.27584170854274,74.07537688442211,7.896769562096195,27.78212491026561,8.192908349453996,1.6853974156496774,717,27,161,11,14,252,115,199,0.077,0.8109999999999999,0.112,0.8422,0,2,0,0,2,0,16.0,2,0,0,4,9,5,0,0,14,0,13,4,0,3,2,26,35,17,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,5,9,0,1,4,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,4,1,21,5,26,29,3,28,0,0,0,3,13,5,0,2,17,106,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997007865499618,0.0,0.11570482636333472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517152103849067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819884967248272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15183835401462714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331008465036368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09556331261829404,0.13087618726550335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315726295027569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2461385786182922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37796063239295385,0.0,0.24668406508397775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14513120829283685,0.0,0.0,0.3338949483866301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07951528742621969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572010618815748,0.0,0.10219554530560727,0.0,0.0,0.12775981949213794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611683641107983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11003973248060177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285933339150794,0.15533792461397633,0.16390030283519824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24518286405493195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10240903917570104,0.0,0.0,0.12096343561560392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09612252103925924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873438841328975,0.0,0.13714479921377126,0.13825305734778304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12496169242460345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10533266185567253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317262512015123 divorce,WynterBlu,2019/02/21,"Was Looking Forward To Divorce But Getting Shafted Now I'm new here so I will give some background. I've been married for 25 years, we have 4 kids....the youngest is the only one below 18. He left, with no forewarning, 18 months ago. We were married during his entire 23 year military career save the first year he joined. The first 16 years of marriage was abusive from his end. With the first 10 years being severe physical abuse. There are times I sit and become amazed that I am still alive and then beat myself up for ever staying as long as I did. The 11 year mark started the first of 6 hostile fire deployments which made reunification extremely tough but we always made it. The last deployment he was diagnosed with PTSD/TBI. The last 2 years, prior to his leaving, the intimacy was gone which just started the entire process. One morning, 18 months ago, he literally woke up, packed and left the state for good. Paid nothing at all in ways of support or child support. The first 4 months I was devastated. I literally stayed in bed crying, barely eating for that 4 months until our youngest son (21) had had enough and did everything he could to bring me out of that depression. Last year we sold our house and split what was left. We started talking decently to each other and came to agreements on everything. He asked what I was going to do with my portion of the house money and I said retain an attorney. Naturally he talked me out of it, convinced me that it would be better for me to pay off my bills since after the sale I had to move back to my home state and had been having extreme difficulty obtaining employment (thankyou Florida😒). He moved in with his girlfriend. We made an agreement not to retain lawyers (first biggest mistake) and agreed on a decent settlement between us but didn't get notarized signatures (second biggest mistake). Mediation has to be done prior to case mamagement with a judge and prior to going to trial. With him being out of state I figured he would call-in to the mediation appointment. Nope, he showed up, with a very expensive lawyer. The agreement they want me to sign literally only gives me child support....after 25 years of marriage. The visitation agreement was agreeable. I have recently been given an offer for federal employment that I accepted because I'm living off of 0 income at the moment and needed to accept the job. It's located in Germany. I can't afford a lawyer and was just recently ordered by a judge that I can not take my daughter out of the state unless I sign the agreement. So I'm basically stuck between a rock and a hard place with accepting the job because I need money, now not being allowed to take my daughter, and pretty much being forced to sign this paltry settlement so I can leave for my job with my daughter. I was looking forward to finally having this finalized. There's no more love there and I'm happy he has someone else because he literally can no longer take care of himself. But now I'm just depressed that after everything I gave and all the abuse I suffered, I will end up with absolutely nothing.😒😒😒 I definitely will not ever remarry 😂",5.674253691440793,6.961942580101184,6.268269649981493,75.88313330317116,67.54974704890388,9.023139884012668,32.844527618969266,9.310311815833133,3.0893368897297746,2502,109,436,48,41,815,282,593,0.098,0.769,0.133,0.9799,9,0,0,0,3,0,65.0,9,0,1,9,17,25,1,0,33,0,48,3,0,4,4,79,88,29,0,8,13,4,2,0,1,5,1,1,2,2,18,39,1,2,4,2,8,10,10,7,0,9,34,5,52,18,78,42,8,95,0,3,2,1,48,27,0,2,53,292,70,10,0.0,0.2286896943417158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406334365756784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05353429187575941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06014725722274473,0.0,0.0,0.04947187844744892,0.0,0.11765937118351424,0.07105616251270999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056901649579226075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569619553522743,0.07358542476239444,0.06559678316360826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05136858279621061,0.0,0.07067216877335876,0.0,0.0,0.11082828849395224,0.06530162038721672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06584001558216927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06583373991415056,0.053746064885111064,0.0,0.11396857660119825,0.06647825560564617,0.0,0.0,0.1163946389606128,0.0,0.0,0.17346828440632775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409580626367737,0.0,0.3283547403596997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06722780097414775,0.12343756412551328,0.07312942940627687,0.05396358314374816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06848889739985582,0.057634126611195075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06453616560854229,0.0,0.0,0.14847461092900438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19153633290157507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15733194160749758,0.0,0.13624910579506855,0.20970996967704728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05681154980964239,0.056937022300922416,0.1080552744132706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058067472173035185,0.18263424712633688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20541561131207764,0.13676202446569916,0.04729576379640717,0.09541148429808273,0.0,0.06213795062434644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06173395610398304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719406050024486,0.09786375352927193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06721941824716532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06545478039645714,0.0,0.0,0.07520756927803234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12705184097795955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061200081931476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268352083388945,0.0,0.053220980773867325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054513299052464284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13661610324471346,0.1371512949394055,0.0513803349185483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2190296802040896,0.0,0.0,0.145122295303535,0.10342474369005704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037515950437496746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739057931849222,0.0,0.0,0.05308551054148528,0.03794816395428603,0.05106843517759007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140760509467026,0.0,0.0,0.3728835191341915 divorce,ClumsyFleshMannequin,2019/02/21,"Need help I'm not sure where to start. For backround it's been rough for about a year and half, I was 12 hours from just upping and leaving cross country at one point until she gave it ""one last shot"". I'm 28 we have been married for 6 years been on a relationship for almost 12. She is essentially a black hole of depression that just pushes me away in every way possible. I've tried and tried and tried too rekindle somthing.... anything out of what's left but there is just resistance.... and a closed door.... every day of the week. Today she tells me she just doesnt want this anymore. All this started when she finished school, (I had been working the entire time first military, then 2 years of labor jobs to make ends meet) we finished school no debt, my turn to start. She was already separating herself from me, it's almost like as soon as she didn't need me I was tossed away. Either way. I'm in Washington state, I'm not sure if on going to stay here but I'm definitely leaving the apartment in a month, luckily I have some money put away. However, I need to know how to proceed legally. She doesnt seem to want anything and just wants me gone or to ""be happy"" or whatever. Should I go mediator lawyer up? Just file through the courts? Its confusing because I have investments I've been putting into the whole time but she doesnt want any of it. I also wonder if the courts would even care and just split it 50/50 without asking either of us. Other problem is I'm not currently working becuase I've been doing full time school (silly me to think if I had more time to spend with her we could make things work.) We arent hurting financially but I wouldent say we are doing well. I just want my life back, but i cant have that so how do i spit out this shitburger with the least amount of harm?",2.659212257617728,4.607274542936292,3.5188287742382265,89.92746753808866,76.42382271468144,6.5069598337950145,24.023632271468145,7.413659706084162,0.9475130886426588,1414,46,296,18,32,450,198,361,0.078,0.8390000000000001,0.08199999999999999,0.7492,6,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,6,0,0,4,23,12,0,1,12,0,32,2,1,4,3,69,62,26,0,15,24,0,1,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,14,18,0,0,4,0,4,7,11,5,1,4,14,3,38,7,45,44,9,58,0,2,1,0,24,20,0,11,28,196,52,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18445423161545585,0.0,0.10163714140888906,0.07365414928659228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06263269957715809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913406998030242,0.0,0.0,0.15158463550240595,0.0,0.08610318633473434,0.0,0.25959933374254285,0.07082095784542637,0.0,0.05614468682821785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390439904480792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07353616541272294,0.0,0.0,0.05939834249611134,0.0,0.0793275472231001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157527076468753,0.0,0.0,0.06083267842091991,0.0,0.1552002638177315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834214087929436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10468768115897338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980445753800772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061734207837844515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09070217996566876,0.0,0.0985973812490919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913972879407243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05061699701502655,0.07507563996624593,0.0,0.19504600352378912,0.10006938209714483,0.0,0.06505455465381647,0.044996515172485804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295795621954668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735151504555176,0.0,0.0,0.20487799087582007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12482175888305752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706641197577053,0.1038314669183696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812943040817528,0.0,0.1851764334044388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888336596659733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324341907703184,0.0,0.2796372325701225,0.0,0.08384644435039748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955713749413772,0.09816876154871527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17361059248080654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08050144053881851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06118865337732105,0.059015413480468425,0.0,0.0,0.21482228917483684,0.0,0.08730217945663664,0.0,0.0,0.18759417971325185,0.10018081817775598,0.0,0.0,0.11078768640996878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716215155012378,0.14621298436386732,0.07387888270552967,0.0,0.08281099866845862,0.0,0.0,0.10282889144457204,0.0,0.08878329827979307,0.09988097925679283,0.20115464094928134,0.0,0.0,0.06542680761594208,0.0,0.0,0.1779325199056164 divorce,queerpolyboi71,2019/02/21,New to all this - 47 m Last fall was our 20th anniversary. We have 2 kids. The day after Valentine's Day she announced that she is 100% gay and is splitting with me. It took her to almost 50 to figure this out? ,0.2043181818181808,2.351914431818184,1.787454545454544,97.92118181818184,86.5,4.42909090909091,17.89090909090909,5.6839178017228535,-0.5345490909090911,161,4,37,1,5,52,38,44,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,7,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,6,3,1,8,0,0,0,1,6,1,0,1,5,23,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42705658647923306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5500866673917643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34763687719097425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4118955672202549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4738332761887242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,wondering-what,2019/02/21,"12 month update Hi everyone! It’s been a year since D-day and I haven’t posted a lot in the past 6 months. I wanted to stop in to share the progress for my divorce. 1. The first 6 months were hell on earth. I posted on here so many time. I cried over the comments, some for good support, others not. 2. I got really sick from the stress. I lost 40lbs, my hair started falling out, I started to stop eating. 3. I lost my job because of the divorce. 4. I desperately wanted to reconcile for the first 7 months. Then we actually did. It lasted 2 month and I realized that there was just way too much water under the bridge. I thought I could, but I just couldn’t get the love/trust/respect feelings back. I couldn’t live with myself - being with a man who treated me terribly. What I really wanted was my dream and old life back. But, I realized that it was already destroyed. I was returning to a wasteland that needed to be rebuild. But how can you rebuild, the second time, knowing there is a good change your rebuilding will get destroyed again? Like watching your house get blown away from a hurricane, and going back and rebuilding the same house in the same spot. I just couldn’t reconcile it. If I am going to rebuild, if I have to restart anyway, I am just going to cut my loses. 5. Being nice was the best thing I could have done. Being nice allowed for mediation. Allowed for settlement of most issues. It didn’t cost me more than $200; while I spent 30k on lawyers to get very little done. I’d recommend being as nice as possible during your separation if for nothing else then to save you money!! 6. I still miss my daughter because we are on shared custody. It sucks but nightly video calls make it much, much easier. 7. I still pinch myself daily. Do I really want this? Is this for real? Am I making a huge mistake? Will this marriage and divorce be the biggest mistake of my life? What will other people think and treat me as a divorced woman? Will my daughter love me and respect me all the same? Will I love and respect myself all the same? It’s been a year and the weight of the changes still affect me. 8. ❤️ I met someone amazing and we are taking it slow. But, I now realize how bad my marriage was at times, and also how good. The compatible (good) things were SOOO good. The incompatible things were SOOO bad. Highs and lows. I may never find someone who loves real estate, netflix, business, take out, and nice things. But I hope I never do find someone who subjects me to vitreous attacks on a daily, yells, screams diatribes, and purposefully gets me fired from my job. 9. I am still going to family court on a regular basis. And I really don’t anticipate that will end any time soon! I have come to see it as “going to work.” Don’t get me wrong it is still emotionally exhausting and all consuming, but it is less fear-provoking than when it started. My confidence in myself, who I am, in the face of the lies and unfounded allegations in the “affidavit wars,” that I can fight back rather than crumble. 10. Summary: 1 year since D-day. I am well on my way at accepting and rebuilding a new life. I bought my own 🏡 house. I am able to focus part-time on my career again. I am slowly starting to consider... becoming healthier. Overall I am like a re-born person. Exploring who I am now, now that I am out of the fog. 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We just split up recently. (2 weeks) Is it a bad thing that the kid lives with her a majority of the time. I feel selfish by how much free time I get compared to her I feel guilty I dont have to get up early, get her ready, make her breakfast, lunch, dinner. Teach her to potty train, discipline her, put her down for nap time, and bathe her, bed time. I get to come home and do what i want most of the time after work. 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I filed for divorce 2 weeks ago after being essentially kicked out of the house by my STBX in September and today I received summons for a pre-hearing in 3 weeks. I was wondering if anybody would be able to expect at one. My lawyer said it’s a mediation conference to see if we can settle everything without going to a hearing. Any advice is appreciated.,5.852,6.9220848666666726,7.724,66.40200000000003,67.0,10.266666666666666,36.33333333333333,10.355215969177356,4.196733333333333,315,16,52,8,5,111,58,75,0.0,0.949,0.051,0.5106,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,0,9,12,3,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,2,3,6,0,14,7,0,12,0,0,1,0,5,5,0,3,5,38,8,1,0.1992878605928606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947417909003208,0.17665666407412722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552257907507625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17910707894543132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325988376547227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6738357080660676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22995143422381714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13504261194809275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956839188468774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15880662300621898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890158972412247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197134018183007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921063860076281,0.21611918376198064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415683783171148,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,CodeWendt,2019/02/21,"Wife's Part-Time Income not Included Married 22 years, one minor child. Currently in the process of divorce and I believe a bit of back-story is required before my question. &#x200B; Wife and I worked for same company. She made slightly less than I did. She left in January 2018 to work as a counselor in a homeless shelter. It was a little less pay but she stayed working for our company part-time to make up the difference. In doing this, she actually began making more than me because she was averaging 25 hours/week here, in addition to the 40 hours at the homeless shelter. &#x200B; In October, she was fired from the homeless shelter for having an affair with one of the residents. It took her 3 months but she finally found another job, although making even less money. &#x200B; Now my dilemma, and my question.... we are using a mediator for our divorce. The mediator is using her current income and my current income to determine alimony and child support, but refusing to use the additional p/t income from my wife. This causes me to pay for 60% of all joint bills and 60% of all items required for our shared-custody daughter. For all the years of our marriage, she has earned equivalent salaries and, some years, even higher than mine (last year for example). &#x200B; Is it right that the mediator is now sticking me with the 60/40 just because that is the current situation of our f/t salaries, even though her additional p/t salary pushes her earnings above mine?",6.279586327442224,7.813901771217719,6.562299475626336,73.41841134200818,66.34317343173431,9.247698582248981,36.77238298698777,9.549672527348893,3.8140804428044284,1184,61,193,24,19,381,144,271,0.04,0.938,0.022,-0.7655,10,0,0,0,2,0,58.0,6,0,0,7,9,1,0,0,18,0,13,0,0,8,3,37,24,13,0,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,7,13,0,3,3,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,8,1,31,1,37,16,11,29,0,0,0,0,31,11,0,3,15,138,38,10,0.0,0.0,0.085888232899656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814492649284768,0.4277829139977367,0.0,0.0922895633789332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06767675412373075,0.0,0.10730411678758588,0.0,0.07489279062015514,0.09916078989682936,0.0,0.0,0.09608767037112692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09041384891912273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09195511033376202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17439575849141606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641420991280647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650198238366817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667531926665918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733956687003039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07174254318568897,0.0,0.0,0.0956266502676156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821239529184181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328026227715869,0.17624857719636394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025133397102791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928010778473015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906195391038473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971899585857964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516283194654892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09893057711313676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938104106479917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987638956488104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647256820026675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0977859557204325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280455599086033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059891777672378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19222407590256868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4277829139977367,0.2267105814741231 divorce,FFCPatriot,2019/02/21,"Where Do I Go From Here? Got married last September. Two months after the wedding, my wife told me she might want a divorce - I was shocked. She had been acting funny, but I thought it had to do more with her job. I spent the next two months building emotional protections, and a few weeks ago we had another talk. I finally got her to tell me everything, and she told me she slept with another guy 5 months before our wedding, used her previous unhappiness to get a bigger wedding & nicer honeymoon (knowing I would break budget and say yes to make her happy), etc. In fact, on our wedding day, her dad asked her if she'd be happy with me for life, and her response was, ""I'd be content."" &#x200B; I don't hate her, nor do I wish her ill will. But I deserve better and I'm ready to move on. I'm going to have a talk with her on Saturday and ask for the divorce. Where do I go from there? We have a house and several dogs, all of which I want her to have. What do y'all recommend to do in life, post-divorce?",2.7865760869565217,4.068216772946865,4.1628713768115935,88.25995923913044,74.5072463768116,7.687077294685991,26.9471618357488,8.278499904357787,1.6349132850241546,780,29,170,13,16,258,115,207,0.06,0.7829999999999999,0.157,0.9636,1,0,0,0,3,0,38.0,4,1,0,1,4,5,1,0,8,1,22,4,1,2,2,27,44,11,0,5,3,2,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,1,3,13,0,1,2,0,2,5,2,2,0,2,13,1,37,3,23,25,4,25,0,0,0,0,38,8,0,2,11,113,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10693234560134388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26140786916488706,0.14658020121530746,0.0,0.25298481687800123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255479136443406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264832894879304,0.0,0.0,0.1066885585321637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779719191719052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356939463118966,0.0,0.0,0.13453575753819266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084156103921644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321456638551846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302486160117897,0.0,0.20567259826375198,0.0,0.19295969880219854,0.0,0.0,0.11944392651876935,0.0,0.25682846782408714,0.0,0.1190984083431436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13919229350797646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970792537015244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06629579320850043,0.09833058845273854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17041087211555292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052231186740465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797071812280975,0.0,0.0,0.28886019517380296,0.12821195308117114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12829272804095335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553141457674415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959308305779762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627900287870046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939176966299956,0.10543705019409884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957677566208014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2305367029925185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2356784518601928,0.0,0.0,0.1041866889766659,0.0,0.0,0.1423029012748722,0.0,0.09676313134235992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13872001134338133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08569299570875702,0.0,0.14658020121530746,0.0 divorce,Kelmnop77,2019/02/21,"Asking for a divorce for the 2nd time My husband (42M) and I (42F) have been married for almost 10 years, together nearly 15. We have two children, 8 and 5, and own a home together. Our marriage has not been on solid footing for years. To be honest, when I look back, it's almost as though we've been growing apart rather than together since before we got married. We don't really fight, we just disagree on most everything under the sun, have different interests, poor/low communication and have had a DB for the past 6+ years but really dead the last 2 years. &#x200B; A little more than a year ago, I sat down with him and asked him for a divorce. Now, we've been round and round this topic many times over the years, but this is the first time either of us had raised it outside of an argument. He was taken aback, asked to work on things, etc. All things we've tried in the past. I agreed, even though I felt done at the time. Fast forward a year later and we're even further apart. Yes, he's been helping more with the kids and doing more things around the house to help out. He took over the finances to take some burden off me, but now he regulates what I can spend out of the account. I'm still not attracted to him anymore. And not because he's heavier than he used to be, but I'm not attracted to his personality or who he is most of the time. We have absolutely no connection, no chemistry. &#x200B; I love this man because he is the father of my children. I love him because of the family unit we've created. I'm not in love with him nor do I like him most of the time. I need to have this discussion with him again. I can't waste another year and the kids are only getting older. He can't be happy either. I'm scared to have this talk, I rather wish he would ask me for a divorce! As much as I want this, I dread what it will do to my kids, I'll miss our family unit and I hate that I won't see my kids daily. &#x200B; Any advice on how to even broach the subject again? How to have the conversation so we can calmly discuss how we move forward? I don't want to do counseling. He said he would try that if things weren't better by this past June, but he never initiated it so neither did I. I'd like to use a mediator and come to a sensible agreement around our assets/debt, etc. ",3.600810429880198,4.43613564904863,4.768710359408036,86.40252290345316,72.00211416490487,7.932064834390418,25.96124031007752,8.199878495009871,1.410941367159972,1794,55,388,26,33,592,226,473,0.116,0.772,0.113,-0.5236,2,0,0,0,4,0,71.0,11,0,0,3,22,19,2,2,30,1,41,4,1,5,2,65,71,31,1,9,17,2,3,2,0,4,0,1,1,8,20,28,0,0,1,0,3,6,16,6,0,2,17,6,43,13,57,47,15,59,0,1,4,3,62,23,0,8,36,256,63,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142617208240437,0.06479302274733947,0.0,0.14638526596612286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23759049590493425,0.2664499948517071,0.04970612116339383,0.0766449613656555,0.0,0.0,0.07248916176709225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013751424211084,0.2733304131166288,0.0,0.0,0.05620442892192031,0.0,0.13367145077594428,0.0,0.06219722830499611,0.0,0.0,0.06464530597342913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06296362203957304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763672036237479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480008020995167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1630372615410601,0.14483280321770312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569177053774382,0.0,0.1378121894431755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07018127155767667,0.0,0.0,0.062173337139152025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03818836357145982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05845958995616338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780944420656798,0.0,0.07216474900605051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0979861329762363,0.0,0.07331879133499197,0.0,0.0,0.0843401441238312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059580999729772086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714196338396293,0.07325894046496788,0.0,0.0,0.0613801737572028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979093506157276,0.0,0.0,0.07410538822563076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07768687711611127,0.053732170235395095,0.05419794190009207,0.05637425260424396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559093925563207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20932819540621755,0.0,0.063822469381876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936512008734878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952870525397882,0.0,0.0731793958221974,0.0,0.058246096691560376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060463740713568186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05837260424589603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495725374593469,0.058749827557795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424042962422347,0.0,0.14362808547886896,0.0,0.25572862433865823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08120962461945155,0.09925144628206327,0.0,0.07140177841681664,0.0,0.08792254207919062,0.12625871939631814,0.0,0.0,0.08622494033460464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840539763711116,0.0,0.0,0.053212975666629886,0.0,0.0,0.10384712294528364,0.0,0.2664499948517071,0.37655880301273376 divorce,Juvitky77,2019/02/21,"The In-Laws My wife (separated now, still legally my wife) is completely controlled by her parents. She’s 34, and is consistently told what to do, and where to be, by her mom and dad. We had to spend all summer at the same lake as them, three campsites down. They would tell us when and where we were going to eat, when we were allowed to go golfing, swimming, you name it. We’re not 18. I’m 41, she’s 34. I put up with it for one summer, mostly because I didn’t realize going into it just how awful it would be. There was no bonding as a family unit, they would interfere in everything. I was not ok with it. Wife was perfectly content. It wasn’t just her mom and dad there, either. It was her brother, three aunts, three uncles, various cousins, etc. Literally the entire extended family. As a reference, my family is somewhat close, but not in your face close. We get together every couple of months for a bbq or something, text every now and then, etc. After the first year, I told her that I can’t do that again. She said the next year would be different, we wouldn’t go as often, we’d make more time for ourselves. Ok, I thought, this is my wife and I trust she’ll make that effort. She didn’t. She absolutely cannot stand up to her parents. It’s so bad, we couldn’t even have presents under the Christmas tree for our daughter - no, they had to be brought to her parents house to put under their tree, because that’s where they decided we were going to spend our Christmas. Needless to say, I settled into a lovely depression and then snapped, just broke. Couldn’t do it anymore and walked away from the relationship. A lot happened, mind you - trying to break her reliance on her family, before I decided enough was enough. When it finally happened, people were surprised. They all thought we were so happy, how could this have gone wrong? No one seems to understand the absolute hell in-laws can be when they impose themselves like these ones did. They were nice people, mind you - just no boundaries whatsoever. I guess I’m wondering if anyone else out there has gone through something similar? Sometimes I feel like this is on me, that I should have just assimilated. But I feel like it was on her to work with me to develop our own family traditions, our own things as a unit. Since the separation I am so much happier. I feel like I can be me again. It was hard, I wanted to keep things together for our daughter, but I also know she’s better off with two happy, separate parents than with at least one who’s miserable.",3.848761815238393,5.548119032586564,4.676822810590632,83.95579925844694,72.5234215885947,8.050154055042041,27.253694709906522,8.69343788997812,1.9993737636430104,1979,72,389,37,39,639,229,491,0.091,0.7979999999999999,0.111,0.9197,6,0,2,0,0,0,81.0,15,4,9,6,28,20,1,1,15,3,53,3,1,6,3,84,84,31,0,11,14,17,4,4,0,7,0,2,0,0,25,27,1,3,13,2,2,12,15,6,0,9,27,6,70,14,55,40,17,58,1,3,0,1,71,22,1,9,26,293,95,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061965157179633586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07684483325126715,0.05417969017912965,0.0793930910565955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280021413092375,0.0,0.0646971881119167,0.0944689302044557,0.0,0.06593448622216205,0.0,0.0,0.06852966204749883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08124211294030538,0.0,0.08690662020722506,0.06186589747247809,0.08573627460147737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673818080808397,0.0,0.0,0.08095589582326428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07928705021737675,0.06472922472715599,0.0,0.0,0.1601265490139817,0.1728337157093954,0.05117846742541352,0.0,0.13056981629597042,0.0,0.06963900574782328,0.0,0.3652323485191841,0.0,0.11753704940476348,0.16606705265654098,0.0,0.08488162001277838,0.0,0.06590915950281928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040482995792066115,0.0,0.22018408605012624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853590565041089,0.0,0.13704041167073724,0.164969593237644,0.06941182282543025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0894079080733123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688727069041814,0.0,0.0,0.04258402556240126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514220807493004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587543396182688,0.06993372377421272,0.0,0.1034443973276285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15647661057263326,0.1815002525010342,0.06184821761141165,0.0,0.05696078643086321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240674929681148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2100248250381995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34415408303560563,0.0,0.0,0.10743743217578017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578873577403166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319047024397347,0.0,0.0,0.07370649116602172,0.06161961029272564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053992413800862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06409683819783503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930430634559518,0.07663517892103484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06188005117413872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772577600163614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295589755256378,0.0,0.0,0.12302972477207275,0.04518244064774854,0.0,0.0,0.14808150529898725,0.0,0.05260759438768022,0.0,0.07569211206929775,0.0806651782995678,0.09320556232683752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045702978214883415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840297612402067,0.05641039490902555,0.0,0.0,0.22017401365446265,0.08471827251526733,0.0,0.09979629271953648 divorce,throwaway92738ow,2019/02/21,"Got married too young and too quickly. Now resentment has grown and wondering if we’re still on the right path Throwaway for reasons. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years. We got married when I was 23 and he was 22 and only after a month of dating. We were actually quite compatible for most of our marriage, but I have a couple of major strains which I’m wondering if they can be mended. First is that I have become more successful than my husband career-wise. We initially worked in very similar positions, but my career has bloomed like a rose over the last few years, while his has been stagnant. He becomes depressed about this, and I feel like I can’t share my successes with him because he will become depressed that he doesn’t share the same successes. Also since I make more money than him, he frequently expects me to pick up the tab for many bills and expenses which i guess I don’t mind, but feel that we should split the responsibility (we have always kept our finances separate). Secondly, he frequently makes comments about me not performing house work correctly and/or frequently enough. This is particularly upsetting because I handle the majority of the cleaning, all of the laundry, and at least half of the cooking and yard work, and I work 50 hours a week. I want some down time too! I try to talk through these things with him, but we just can’t seem to see eye to eye on them. Lastly, I feel like the romance is dead. I’ve asked him several times if we can do something romantic, and his response is that it’s a waste of money. Sex feels very much about him and with no “setting the mood”. I don’t know if these are just normal growing pains, or if these are the first of many bad signs to move on. Looking for any advice from someone who has been in a similar position and what their outcome was. 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Hey, We're agreeing to custody and I'm OK with the mom being primary and having child most of the time, due to the fact she doesnt work and I'd rather have my child be with the mom then somebody else. So should I tread with caution, can this be modified later if she begins working and we have to put our child in day care? Can it be switched to 50/50 then?",2.033390705679864,3.5939309277108467,3.251153184165233,92.87228915662651,77.07228915662652,6.1886402753872645,23.9053356282272,6.868970318607317,0.6511287435456117,309,10,69,3,7,100,54,83,0.0,0.892,0.108,0.8431,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,4,1,13,0,0,0,1,13,16,8,0,3,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,9,10,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,2,8,45,9,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058769549196395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193479584713757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506172082397408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7027287406631635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30158972395745776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17493639363559313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4368170867917154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ridgirl,2019/02/21,"Divorce I am so confused right now. I found out that my husband was cheating with a friend and he wanted a divorce. I had gone through all the stages of grieve and I started dating someone (we were still living together). When he realized I was with someone else he wanted to try. He ended it with the other women and we started going to therapy and we did a weekend retreat. I found I was the one doing all the work and every week in therapy I would say, ""why aren't we doing the lessons"". He would say that we're busy. We own a business together. I finally got fed up doing everything and asked for a divorce. He did not try and fight for me and just said okay. We had sex this morning and then after he stated, why did we do that. I asked him why he did it and he said he could see me hurting. We have a business together we're trying to sell and a home. We have to continue to live together and work together. I am the one who runs the business and he is off doing things he needs to get done for himself to move on. The affair happened because I felt resentment towards him because he did nothing for our business but sit in his office and I ran the business. I need help with moving on. Any words of advise? Thanks for your help..",1.4675605271222771,3.69332840239044,3.2188247011952207,89.17977244866688,81.70916334661355,5.773889059148022,25.191694759423843,7.010146845296331,1.152071284094392,963,39,194,12,26,320,128,251,0.041,0.901,0.058,0.6182,0,0,0,0,4,0,26.0,10,1,0,3,5,9,3,1,16,1,26,2,0,0,2,47,48,18,1,7,3,1,1,0,1,2,0,4,1,1,9,28,1,0,5,1,1,6,2,6,0,2,21,6,32,3,28,24,3,31,0,2,1,1,46,9,0,1,13,138,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0793668096283893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21821621116005124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229067886978955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09318344699358633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943486209065812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09749623827864393,0.0,0.1033704283684819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09833321791856732,0.0,0.1048914323707202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120599131218974,0.12785011229666796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559330060529645,0.09016986497733427,0.0,0.06097616371296888,0.0,0.06632898882752229,0.0,0.0933436574492051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10320627727562072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645652044710867,0.0,0.11706965697322162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249404806161074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20611415585717988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24808854291528434,0.0,0.1730779886402793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11198640322902287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15817144784807066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966971169076026,0.2220358935456372,0.18562497026837846,0.0,0.0,0.0930027682610709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1977760271430167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652158929603326,0.0,0.09320476553517937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10745089763290422,0.2669361378853131,0.0,0.07753694534645976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377153092427997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13767717666522786,0.0,0.09361773097492808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159378955061134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16993255601701696,0.0,0.0,0.16581488646360348,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,speedlimit27,2019/02/21,"should I tell her there's someone else? I (50m) had the ""I'm done"" conversation 3 nights ago. it went better than expected. her ask: if we're gonna end it, let's do so quickly and amicably. then... after the initial conversation when I thought ""wow this is easy!"" ... now she's devastated, panic attacks last couple of nights. I've laid with her and caressed her to help her thru each panic attack. (they're bad) I told her I'm no longer in love (true) and years of dead bedroom finally took their toll (true). now she wants to have sex constantly. ugh. she has apologized profusely. I have apologized also (I'm no saint). what she doesn't know, and I think can only be destructive, is that I'm in love with someone else. it would be so much easier (for me!!!) to just say there's someone else. but that's not fair to my GF in so many ways! its not her fault, it's mine! and I want my kids to meet her eventually and not hate her. I'm in therapy. therapist knows everything and has recommended I pursue my gf. very long story. my wife says she will do ANYTHING to keep me. (why now?!?!?!?!?!? 😭) so confused. thank god I have a therapy appointment tonight. i posted a few days ago in another sub reddit. this thing is developing in real time. I'm doing my best. I love my kids. I love my wife as a person and a mom. I also want happiness. I have a lot of life to live and give. 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We are just too different in almost every aspect (Family, Finances, emotions etc). I don’t see it getting any better we been married for almost 7 years but I just think it time to call it quits. Is there any advantage for filling first? She told me many times that she will probably file but has never pulled the trigger. Just curious, we have a joint house with about 60K in equity still owe about 150K still, have 1 kid and our salary so about the same (maybe 3-4K difference).",2.8327027027027043,4.894164387387388,3.728189189189192,88.10363513513515,76.29729729729729,7.322882882882882,23.71261261261261,8.238735603445708,1.3894785585585585,441,14,89,8,10,141,83,111,0.0,0.912,0.08800000000000001,0.8053,4,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,4,0,0,6,12,3,0,0,4,0,9,0,0,1,1,17,14,4,0,0,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,6,0,0,1,1,2,3,2,0,0,2,3,1,10,3,12,10,2,15,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,2,9,56,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34255440576961665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489500945166042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127570542958774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746564185242876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574119551577592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19240298803613864,0.0,0.0,0.19076077048091808,0.0,0.0,0.14411307802958526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16124632609350845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2909821615973985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936413172595455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973633600498354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341313048426907,0.1718380364168638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13192071260793525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1844158086680837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819277759444955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13630099251378608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731940626497947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10959894885033444,0.0,0.0,0.19947582923380555,0.0,0.0,0.16344115457371586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014759251214278 divorce,African_Butter,2019/02/21,"I keep doubting myself is it normal? Im in the process of filing my divorce. I have made the decision after years of physical abuse, emotional abuse and financial abuse. Logically I know I cant go back- if I want to save my life...emotionally, im really in the dumps and have never felt more alone. I logically know its withdrawals from the toxic and co-dependent relationship. Is it normal to doubt yourself in this process? I feel like im in an abyss. 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It was here or ""*r/depression*"". &#x200B; I (33M) am in process of getting divorced and it is going bad and it is also taking a toll on my family and closed ones. Even heard that one of my close friend got divorced (amicable; but after 7 years). I have lot of stories here and otherwise where long relationships have ended. I believe that everyone wants to be super independent and no one wants to try. Expectations have got shallow. which are causes of lots of rift. Also, loosing most of my savings. &#x200B; Looking at all this doesn't feel like there is much to marriage. Feel like the new culture of 1-night stands and flaky relationships is way to go and not get emotionally attached to anyone. 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I'm going to ask * to return to my maiden name, * asking my higher earning ex-spouse to carry a life insurance policy in the event of death - alimony and child support would cease. What else should I ask the judge to consider? Was there anything you wish you had asked for? My lawyer told me to prepare this, but has not been helpful in composing it.",3.5657999999999994,5.234020579999998,4.743000000000002,83.32150000000003,73.2,7.8000000000000025,25.5,8.472884824447931,1.7376999999999994,398,13,77,7,8,131,68,100,0.061,0.902,0.037000000000000005,-0.5086,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,0,9,1,0,0,0,9,21,2,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,10,1,17,14,2,9,0,0,0,0,13,4,0,1,3,52,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305237031550007,0.0,0.8896817303368083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324995081895383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028507670702976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10631390696859963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203195300595936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17999038607440646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15156003108940985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272285324131893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823953319277621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11267301844067198,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,G1ngerbred,2019/02/21,"The stunned mullet look I’m tired of being told “this is how divorce is,” or something close to that. I was married for 36 years, 40 years together as a couple. 34 of those years i was a military spouse, having 3 adult children and 24 moves. We have always been friends and enjoyed each other’s company, but he basically left the marriage in 2011 and quit trying, but we were still together. We stayed together just because it was the thing to do. He did not have the ability to connect emotionally anymore. I was broken hearted when he asked for the divorce on our anniversary in September of 2018. I only want the best for him and am grateful for our grown children and the life we have had. I choose happy. That doesn’t mean I didn’t cry a river or get upset, miss him or miss having him around. I have been in therapy for 6 years and choose a path that is better for me and my psyche. The divorce was final on the 7th of December, yes, the day that lives in infamy. I’m now on my 28th move and totally moving forward, as has he with a new fiancé. I’m hurt, our grown children are hurt, but it is what it is. I choose to be the bigger person, be benevolent and a friend, but definitely the EX. I have started dating and getting out and am tired of being told...this is how it is, or this is the stage you are in, or you’re not ready to date, or whatever similar comment people will say from their own experiences. All of our paths are different. When I state it like that, I always get the “stunned mullet” look like “oh, you’re not over him,” or “your in such-n-such stage.” I smile and shake my head in acknowledgement, but wish I had something intelligent to say that acknowledges their journey, but that it might not be my own. I would like suggestions and guidance on how to state politely that my journey is unique and my path might not be like there’s.",4.74917117117117,5.3385718945945975,5.507364864864867,83.03627252252255,69.24324324324324,8.761261261261259,28.930180180180177,8.841846274778883,2.085666666666666,1451,50,297,24,24,473,180,370,0.099,0.743,0.158,0.982,1,0,2,0,3,0,46.0,8,2,2,3,10,16,0,2,20,1,46,5,2,3,2,58,62,34,0,3,19,2,0,4,2,4,3,2,0,5,20,23,0,0,6,0,0,9,7,6,0,0,13,4,37,10,37,39,6,45,0,4,2,0,39,18,0,9,19,207,57,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815480042703952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1081908070087432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711577803316182,0.10198710143088556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650199736040263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144862303236928,0.09648377291303548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12070917908985235,0.1198333885506524,0.07035587228359774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397882369782195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271478855611025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067137543184816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950590014769205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16856975229411708,0.0,0.1709895564697434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11613138235283045,0.0,0.0,0.11196075180545202,0.0,0.0,0.12927556915873067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335723345516736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11852971598973805,0.0,0.07705551613649629,0.21318905152207798,0.0,0.09633099762844688,0.0,0.1832210601211104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883411061743585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2314605779054919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34784534919246696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10536256789837686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297003902135358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07563125585839628,0.09525568097892696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603368942128316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735100483160802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797003307877462,0.0,0.0,0.07721649067117739,0.11627847780790415,0.08712170214985793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12475719757644743,0.0,0.07247645138417738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25077239802950896,0.0,0.20848581333999736,0.0,0.07406689364503109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434579771424917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1254514097583719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749644059263268,0.0,0.0,0.28100891078787976 divorce,treadmill22,2019/02/21,"50M - new poster, feeling trapped Hi New poster. I am 50 year old male. Who has been married for over 20 years. I have four kids, two under the age 18. The kids are great and doing well. I do not own any property (2008 took care of that) and only have a used commuter car, and my wife has a new car on payments under my name. I live in Florida, my wife already has an attorney lined up and I do not. She wants to work things out and I feel completely burnt out. The reason I am seeking divorce is recurrent verbal abuse and irreconcilable differences. She also sought the affections of another man earlier this year threw that in my face but that will be hard to prove in court. Emotionally I feel trapped. I am looking for help understanding the best course of action and understanding the financial matters. I make all the household income (at a job I don’t like), she doesn’t work. She wants 33% alimony, the state minimum for two kids under 19 is ~25% (love my kids) and the COBRA to cover her medical would be another ~23% (outrageous). Leaving me with ~18%. Is that possible? An attorney I spoke with wants $13.5k to start. I don’t have that. 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(Throwaway for obvious reasons) So STBXW flirted and who knows what else with various men behind my back for years, while ignoring me and refusing to have sex with me for the last two years up until she asked for a divorce. Now that I moved out of the family home I have started meeting and dating women and she is pissed. WTF is that about?!? Can someone please help and explain this??",3.8975428571428568,6.368284773333336,4.164571428571431,84.28800000000003,74.6,6.9523809523809526,28.04761904761905,7.957251820313856,2.0129619047619043,318,13,56,5,7,99,59,75,0.194,0.748,0.058,-0.9163,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,0,5,2,1,1,1,15,9,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,8,0,2,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,7,1,13,9,2,12,0,0,0,1,11,2,1,0,9,45,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2623569998242771,0.0,0.0,0.2157919447112525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2344355667524353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26455886960591424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881045550614144,0.0,0.2815010288252543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542303373692881,0.2287559903400019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2982719086910166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080543163150789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885407930052496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377821741224776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19863577398734072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741408269055029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614410730564672 divorce,mmymommasaid,2019/02/21,"Missing papers? Married at 18, separated at 23, no kids. I didn't have an income the last two years of the marriage and after I left him he would give me an allowance, even after I moved in with someone else. 27 now and he filed a month ago, I wanted to hold him accountable for one thing he promised he would do so I didn't file myself. I tried breaking it off multiple times but he is such a nice guy and would talk me back into it. My best friend died by suicide and it changed my thoughts on life so I decided to try to find bliss instead of settling. I don't know how relevant it is but he taped me when I was drunk a month after I left him. We were still living together and hadn't been intimate in months. Anyway, my question now is, his brother served me and the papers his brother signed say he was serving me with the FL-120, FL-140, FL-142, FL-150, and Declaration of Residence Family Law Case Management Order Notice of Department Assignment. I don't understand why this paper says I was served with these forms when I was not. He says he gave me what he was told to. At this point I'm wondering if I should seek professional help. Any input is greatly appreciated.",3.154141630901286,5.0779776652360535,4.197276824034336,85.7201212446352,74.92274678111588,7.578454935622318,25.813090128755363,8.395991825355821,1.697214763948498,928,33,187,17,20,301,145,233,0.071,0.81,0.119,0.9272,1,0,0,0,0,1,27.0,1,0,0,1,13,6,0,0,9,0,22,2,0,2,0,33,32,15,2,6,4,2,0,0,1,4,1,3,0,2,9,12,1,1,7,1,1,2,7,1,0,2,13,3,30,5,24,15,2,31,0,1,0,0,31,11,0,3,16,123,39,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12259396088886075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404824802825383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634360412391132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451365544784239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14630229285564178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14353281058835968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553129629859513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134536539185327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037624613136806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12640302989053312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684967514467288,0.0,0.0,0.1326692644926282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247543656635484,0.0,0.13693802351110065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0926990873738228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600566352485172,0.1127323659381338,0.0,0.0,0.3005251292389979,0.0,0.09768486641570588,0.0,0.0,0.12212079169462026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3311674804320465,0.14699024016658255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574546387913638,0.0,0.0,0.09371516650256248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073751512722104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15492683687754866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3299433981114655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718052509531485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11044597795363956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15127695762743282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115971684070527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09187989162523427,0.0,0.0,0.10979417447134827,0.08064341817736577,0.0,0.0,0.13215088190189542,0.0,0.18779225613711245,0.0,0.13509829391291595,0.14397442043202174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08157249434283356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12479358267940713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997966196356555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2947315063171113,0.0,0.0,0.08906019740141477 divorce,beckystone1991-,2019/02/21,"Received papers yesterday, really struggling I received divorce papers yesterday. Bit of background marriage three years. Husband left when first born was six months old. Refused to work on anything or see a therapist. Was very destructive. I’m sure as you will all understand that is not the half of it. 9 months later I receive papers. I knew they were coming but it floored me. I feel broken. I feel like a failure. I feel like I’ve failed my child by being unable to keep her family together. I’m scared about being alone. I’m scared of raising her without the love and support of a partner. I’m scared of the evenings with no one for company once she goes to bed. I’m scared of not being kissed or loved for the foreseeable future. I’m scared of eventually dating with a child. I’m scared he’s going to try and take our home from us. I’m scared this is all my fault. I’m scared it’s all a terrible mistake but he’s not willing to do anything to see. 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I came home from the gym and studying endocrinology to have a nice discussion with my roommate about religion and spirituality. I recommended he read The Bhagavad Gita, so I went to look for my copy on my bookshelf. I found the copy and a letter slipped out of the front cover. I remembered that my now ex-husband gave it two me four years ago for Valentine’s Day. We set a price that limit for $10 that year, and he bought me that book from a used bookstore. I read the letter he wrote, which I hadn’t looked at in at least three years. He said beautiful things about me and us, and it was sad, but I was able to look at in a “oh, that was wonderful at one point” sort of way. Rather than, this has and always was wonderful, I wish we were still together rose-colored-glasses sort of way. I say all this to say, I’m sad, this is hard, but I think I’ll be okay. I’m happy for what we had and what I learned. 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Such as myself not being around when she needed me, such as when she got locked in the hospital, and a separate occasion had pneumonia, etc... there were a few. Mind you, I cant handle hospitals. Anyways, we have 4 kids together and have been married since 2011. 99.9% of the time I was the only one bringing in any income. I would work over 60 hours a week to make sure we had a roof over our head, clothes, food, etc... however for the past almost year I have been working 7 days a week, no time off unless it was a holiday. We needed the extra money so I took on more days. Which I just quit that other job so now it's just monday to Friday. However, we argue all the time, never got to spend time with one another and yet alone me spending time with our kids. We had our niece living with us who is 16. (My brothers kid) I was texting my wife that morning that we needed to get more gas money from her dad cause we were shorted on how much we normally got for bringing her to a school that bussing will not bring her. Anyways like I said I texted my wife saying that we needed that money and technically by the end of the month she would be getting a free ride. (Wouldnt care if I'm already not behind Bill's to my eyeballs) but not even 5 minutes later my niece texts me about that subject. Which my wife never told her so she read her text as she was setting it down. Well she ended up telling me to take care of my kids and I told her to get out. Well, after I told her that my wife left me. She insists that she wants to move out and get her own place and become independent, pay her own bills, etc.. well I was able to get her to come home but she still wants the divorce and try to better herself. Now, supposedly she wants to find something close to the house we bought so they can be close. She wants to be able to be here when I get home from work and see the kids just like any normal day, still wants me to do our nightly routine, still have sex, whether at her new place or mine. Anyways most of everything would be almost the same, just the living aspect. However to add to this, she has been texting 2 guys from 2 different states that I never knew she was talking too. Which I found out the day after she said she wanted a divorce. She tells me that they are just friends and have been talking for like a month with one of them and a week with the other. Also, shes in a bunch of group chats, snap chat, etc. I know she has added guys from those groups cause they keep popping up in my suggestions on Facebook. She is always on her phone, and never let's me touch her phone and never ever leaves the room without it. When shes on it, it's always turned and you can not see who she is talking to or what she is doing. Now, I love this woman with all of my heart and we have been through hell and back literally. My question is on what i should do. Should i let her try to become independent and let her move out, or keep fighting and praying that we can work this out together in the same roof and she still become independent but still married. I'm just at a loss. 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I’ve been with my husband for 25 years, married 17 years. 2 kids (15 and 11) . When the oldest was 2, I chose to stay home full time. I was out of the workforce for 11 years. I was a cliche housewife trapped in a miserable marriage. 2 years ago, I re-entered the workforce, prepping for divorce and supporting myself. Salary is just 70k a year, less than half of my former salary before becoming a SAHM, 13 years ago. Please, don’t read this as feeling unhappy and entitled, finding a job after being out of work for so long wasn’t easy, I feel secure and happy in my new position. My husband owns his own business. He also has history with opioid addiction. No boss to notice his erratic behavior. He sleeps all day. I wake at 5am for work and prepping kids for school and he’s asleep. I get home and he’s still asleep waking between 7-8pm. We have just under 10k in the bank. 100k in savings spent on the business.. or drugs... over the past two years. Equity in the house is 150k. We have no debt. No college or retirement savings. I solo parent and he’s not a present member of our family. I’m not a confrontational person and dislike drama. We don’t fight, it’s not world war three over here. I do my best to keep it stable for kids. We sleep in separate bedrooms. The story I feed the kids for his erratic sleeping schedule is he is working 3rd shift. Planning for the divorce I don’t want to count on child support or alimony because his life is circling the drain and I just don’t feel confident he is a reliable source of income. I’m trying to budget for living solo on my salary alone and I just don’t see how I can do it. Current household expenses come in just under 8k. I can’t afford to stay in the family house. I want out, look at apartments and real estate on a regular basis. Everything is out of my reach financially. The apartments in my price range are dirty, dated and depressing. I just can’t do this anymore. Is financially insecurity better than my current situation? Yes, it is. However taking half of our measly savings for 5k attorney retainer scares me. I met with 3 different divorce attorneys for consults last year. Figuring out out how to live on my salary alone paralyzes me. I also live out of state from family and have no support system. I just feel like I’m failing the kids by staying and will fail them if I leave. 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My dad has been in a 25 year marriage with my mom who clearly has BPD. She was very verbally and physically abusive when I was younger. She never cared for my education or my well being. My dad is a saint, he busted his ass to put food on the table meanwhile my mom said “I’m not a slave”, kept talking about becoming a makeup artist or yoga teacher or something, and constantly spent his money. He even paid for her education and she blew that. His number one goal was to get the kids (my sister and I) out of the house by encouraging us to stay sharp and work hard. If there is one adult I respect the most, then it’s hands down him. My mom has threatened us with suicide or has told us we should all drink rat poison and kill ourselves, which scared the shit out of me and even more so my little sister. She even threatened to drive the van into the lake one day with me and my sister in it when she was yelling all day about how our dad never takes us on cruises or big fancy vacations while everyone else is doing it. She has thrown my homework and textbooks in the dumpster during my high school days. Didn’t find out until the Sunday before, she told me I should’ve done my chores. She made me wake up at 3 AM every morning in high school and forced me to drink these herbal powders (not approved by the fda), stare at the sunset to “cure my eyesight”, and drink 2 liters of water (she does the same with my dad and my sister, except my dad will just say no, my mom will scream at the top of her lungs, then my dad will just say “ok” and go to work). She would throw away my ADHD meds because “I am a moron for filling my body with chemicals”. She tried to open up her own fitness studio that would serve food without consulting my dad, which would’ve tanked his credit. She has threatened to beat herself until she’s bruised and call the cops if my dad didnt give her money for something expensive. She refused to work and she refused to cook because “I am not a slave”. She would literally starve my sister and I until dinner, maybe think about making something, and if she didn’t, my dad would end up cooking after a 12 hour work day. She doesn’t let my dad visit his brother or his family for get togethers for no reason. This is the same brother that found him the convenience store and threw down money to help him get it. When my sister and I would say no to her asking us to do chores, then she would say “that’s fine, I’ll just tell your father to do them after he comes back from work when he’s all tired”. we would then immediately do our chores. She literally starts an argument every other day. I lived with them after I graduated school and got a job and it was the same shit. She made me go into work with a 103 degree fever and told me that if I took care of my body then I would’ve never had a fever. During this time I worked at my dads store after my 9-5 to help him out when a worker left. Meanwhile she was just running her mouth, spending someone else’s money, and not doing any work. My dads side of the family (and moms) avoid us because of my mom. My dad is the one who brings the respect and my mom is the one who quickly throws it all away. I could go on and on and on. Fast forward, here I am in my late twenties and my sister who is about to go off to college later this year l. I haven’t spoken to my mom in 2.5 years although I speak to my dad and sister all the time (when they aren’t around my mom). my dad sold his convenience store because it wasn’t doing well. He didn’t make that much money but my mom is unaffected by the situation. My dads not young, he doesn’t have a lot of money, and he’s been working hard to find a job or another business. I asked my dad a while back for the first time “dad, why don’t you just get a divorce?”. He said “number one reason is because I don’t want her to get custody of your sister and number two, I would be financially ruined. Divorces cost money and I don’t have money.” I’m sick and fucking tired of seeing this. I see a man who did nothing wrong and had so much potential, only to be brought down from some psychopath bitch who only exists to ruin people’s lives. I want to help my dad (and my sister but she will be going to college soon anyways). There has to be some law out there that can protect him from someone who has leech off of him and mentally tortured him. Does anyone have any advice? I’ve never posted about this on the internet in general, but I’m sick of seeing this and I would like to hear out other people’s opinions. 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In our court order, me being the respondent, it states: Respondent shall provide health insurance coverage for the parties' minor child and such costs are reflected within the child support calculation. Petitioner shall pay 20% and Respondent shall pay 80% of the cost, expense or charges of all medical, dental, orthodontic, endodontic, prescription, optical, psychiatric, psychological, nursing, counseling and other health care expenses incurred by or on behalf of the children to the extent that such ""medical costs"" are actually incurred and are not fully covered or not fully paid or reimbursed by the health benefit plan. However, I feel that braces are not a medical necessity and more of a luxury. My interpretation of the divorce decree is that the medical expenses only apply to medical necessities. That being said, I feel it is only fair to go 50/50 with my son's mother on the left over cost of his braces. I just want to know if the divorce decree binds me to 80% or if that 80% is only for a medical necessity and not a cosmetic luxury like braces.",14.221581632653065,10.171822484693877,13.632040816326532,47.19867346938778,53.74489795918368,18.13877551020408,50.95918367346938,15.719379583869454,7.9387938775510225,901,45,132,34,7,304,104,196,0.042,0.882,0.076,0.8312,1,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,1,0,0,2,3,4,0,0,15,0,15,9,0,0,1,29,24,14,0,4,13,2,2,1,0,4,9,1,0,3,9,7,0,1,5,0,12,1,4,0,0,0,2,3,10,4,23,15,3,9,0,0,0,0,13,6,0,8,1,95,19,4,0.0,0.0,0.12650194523333186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13216826801223985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310914744967352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07367274399145486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4133776509213006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124225164642771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14084533895503326,0.0,0.0,0.06333155355263137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7835424530895911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957724948084736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330953502576335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14710463978925456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646019914685412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,iradi8u,2019/02/22,"Seeking Empowerment for divorcee sister Hello My sister moved out of her and her ex husband’s house after five months of marriage filled with emotional and suspicious physical abuse compounded by his financial infidelity as in taking on credit card debt in their joint name. He was charged and convicted of domestic violence related to when she moved out. I am suspicious of an underlying narcissistic personality disorder which causes him legal trouble and general lack of insight. There is now a raging custody battle over their two year old son. Our legal system is granting him rights to which he is entitled as a legal father. He continues to be abusive via text despite a restraining order. He recently filed for joint custody. He was an absentee father when he was married to my sister. He continues to pass parenting responsibilities to his mother with whom he lives. How do I support my little sister? Has anyone had much experience fighting a guy like this? Is there anything she can do? Awaiting final adjudication. Thanks.",6.261475573280157,9.42795495480226,7.203921568627454,61.958584247258244,70.07344632768361,10.26640079760718,35.27052176802925,10.328600350310266,4.972570222665338,845,44,112,27,17,281,121,177,0.196,0.7020000000000001,0.102,-0.97,3,0,0,0,5,0,14.0,1,0,2,0,6,8,3,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,0,15,17,9,0,1,0,11,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,8,0,1,1,0,2,4,0,4,0,2,4,0,16,4,26,12,2,26,0,0,0,0,37,9,0,0,12,80,20,4,0.0,0.4223919092255453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12463586719292,0.0,0.14668376497173152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18311085611751773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042888326605818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005061685673732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436175593502518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952631010634268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17649456527613433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2056754499662065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708347299490124,0.17865235707988672,0.1573971603261248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14227667620188944,0.37890102212454585,0.13103354761404784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18704237365220064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.197924454926331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556401787599352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759994143016945,0.0,0.0,0.15222369880814526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20227488839139587,0.0,0.0,0.13402108818436584,0.0,0.0,0.16410775952362236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741234029989826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478653204378407 divorce,anniebee7353,2019/02/22,Sappy post Was told my husband wanted a divorce last night. I don’t know how to feel. Numb.. hurt. Confused. Any advice with lawyers? 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Or does it always going to be rescheduled later? Also how long of a period usually for the rescheduled court date? &#x200B; Thank you!",8.835,10.6459905,8.353333333333339,61.89000000000002,60.66666666666666,10.666666666666666,41.66666666666667,10.686352973137794,5.387166666666667,290,16,36,7,4,92,47,60,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.5158,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,6,1,3,0,0,1,0,4,7,5,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,2,5,6,1,13,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,3,10,23,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19114420733275936,0.19888378716866725,0.258978069716191,0.29043546156911343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033884150134973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3082962522347871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209168012386272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13584057399655036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5387858220103593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21152517813431293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2200575022913933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26324676107948425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19172742622320946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29043546156911343,0.0 divorce,mysterysciencekitty,2019/02/22,"Am I supposed to feel sad? Everyone in my life is telling me I should be so deeply upset, but I'm not. Backstory: married 3 years, no mortgage, no kids. I walked away two months ago and moved into my grandparents house. I feel as if he was becoming more and more verbally abusive, and I no longer wanted to live like that. He is devastated. He is trying to get in touch, make it work, all of the things he never did before. I, on the other hand, feel so...free? It's so nice to do what I want to do and not have to carry his weight with me. I can make new friends, try new foods and live in a comfortable and safe environment. I wake up happier now than I've been in the past 5 years. I suppose I just want to make sure I'm not a complete sociopath and am somewhat still an okay person for not missing him at all. 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Maybe not right now, but someday, I am almost certain. I need to vent. (Throwaway account because he knows my usual account). For almost 5 years my husband has barely worked, which also means he has barely contributed financially. Meanwhile, I struggled with a horrible job for a long time to support us. I would go off to work in the morning in years because I hated my job and he would still be asleep. At noon. Now we have a child and it’s still the same but worse. Now I watch the baby when I’m home, while he sleeps in. I go to work, come home, and he immediately hands the baby over. I cook and clean. Thank god he has at least gotten better about some household chores. I need space. He’s always home. He works for himself (from home) and has lost almost all his friendships. Recently he ended a friendship because his friend called him out for saying some shitty things. That’s right - my husband was the dick, his friend called him on it, and now he wants nothing to do with him. I just want time to myself in my house. And it is my house - he didn’t buy it and has barely paid for anything. Literally months go by without any monetary contributions. Everything about my marriage makes me sad. This is not the person I married. The guy I married exercised and ate vegetables. He had friends and a social life. He worked and had spending money. Now? He plays video games and lives off of my income. He used to be happy and kind and now he hates everyone. I can’t even talk to him because he just blows up and leaves the house. If we do manage to talk, it’s all about how I’m the one with problems. I feel like I am losing myself. I love life and am naturally a very happy person. He is making me sad and exhausted. He is sucking the life out of me. He tries to keep me from doing the things I love and worked so hard for - travel, seeing friends, spending time with family. Does anyone come back from this or is the damage already done?",1.885298525501572,4.296003355329948,2.9533430021754903,90.59708967851101,81.43654822335027,5.275223591974863,21.563693497703646,6.5431188927421005,0.4208302634759491,1558,48,312,15,42,497,195,394,0.132,0.7020000000000001,0.166,0.9483,3,0,0,0,1,0,56.0,3,0,0,9,19,27,3,1,18,0,28,15,5,5,3,63,60,27,0,8,9,2,3,1,4,2,5,1,6,4,11,28,3,1,4,6,7,6,5,12,0,1,9,6,46,15,44,47,6,44,0,6,2,3,53,16,2,7,23,195,57,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297550572561592,0.0,0.08439906578897541,0.0611621037850878,0.0636386056460764,0.0,0.0,0.05200993710446266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05347753454693043,0.0,0.06293763011740168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05880943322075403,0.0,0.1864892716040812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06764153426344782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561920082857005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13176381280617958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06692934021180319,0.07826696946116574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677397706053567,0.0,0.0,0.050515206911533335,0.0,0.0,0.07308120246909894,0.0687365011387175,0.0,0.0720998051890483,0.0,0.038671265925823234,0.054638287989374326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363571890137583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039833224774358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07572855570772727,0.0,0.16283162735687848,0.06851226245184833,0.15101898796835245,0.07849192460825379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.306868098870404,0.0,0.0,0.26474760986734824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15179186684934598,0.06798013334206449,0.0,0.07964355131734893,0.042032146928701115,0.0,0.0,0.08098270108293938,0.0,0.0,0.1620631069112228,0.03736492183540613,0.0,0.06753442864003463,0.0676835833988298,0.0,0.08556306163353959,0.08348842244898365,0.0,0.13805479938205986,0.0,0.15315567457523754,0.0,0.07683579061850793,0.08331060573512918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06104667972528208,0.0,0.0,0.11341989611899328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338591302545061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05182573857269776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13356112047010602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07318231791900823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07551610118770886,0.0,0.0,0.13062930110276552,0.0,0.0608210351019501,0.0,0.0,0.060945729713053835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07653657868811088,0.07796309947585166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215620146552805,0.0,0.0,0.07995490743971727,0.0,0.0,0.08679012370639523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12294561573753332,0.0,0.07041374667662598,0.0,0.0,0.10162161411359157,0.049006157550846086,0.0,0.0,0.13379066155598054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05192581273530026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919976408654244,0.0660553257928379,0.08423339606730627,0.06310511921424926,0.09022135742391203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07372528712051256,0.0,0.33407597931028216,0.0,0.07794102431040381,0.10866030594318916,0.0,0.0,0.09850295699218277 divorce,blonde_daisy,2019/02/22,"How to tell people ? How did you guys tell people ? I don’t want to do a social media announcement or anything. But living in the south everybody and their mamas gonna be asking. I’m trying to come up with like an “elevator speech”. Any advice is appreciated. 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Divorced in 2018. Part of our child support (controlled by the state of course) has me paying nearly 70% of our childs expenses in the form of child support. One of these items is the before/after school care which is always a big bill at the end of the year. My spouse claims our child as the dependent (so I cannot), but should I still be able to take some form of deduction? It seems ludicrous that I should pay the large majority share but my X claims the deduction. That being said, it would go on a long list of things that I now find insane about marriage and divorce and how the legal system/state handles it. &#x200B; Thoughts or insight?",5.8868888888888895,6.9656393185185195,5.468888888888892,82.57000000000002,66.92592592592592,8.37037037037037,30.555555555555557,8.515128840125781,2.2296666666666667,568,21,106,8,9,174,92,135,0.062,0.845,0.093,0.2869,0,0,0,0,3,0,23.0,3,0,0,1,5,5,0,0,12,0,9,0,0,3,0,18,19,8,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,5,9,2,0,1,5,0,4,1,1,0,0,1,2,1,11,5,17,12,6,13,0,0,0,0,16,6,0,6,5,73,20,4,0.16665143724501938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386673459561472,0.3611335252574869,0.2024997371614936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699122470073656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869137575296248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14760370863188746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15231639449660225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471185227022293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18358534657455405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14748127774694464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11292732685032053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1804672664723508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866877496875476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15852367961514485,0.0,0.0,0.1686601515875696,0.0,0.1517132094776105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13308805305630989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5673422282303034,0.0,0.0,0.12530114078099014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071580982840327,0.0,0.0,0.13230262602636514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11838439955553927,0.0,0.2024997371614936,0.10731806170379726 divorce,ecorado14,2019/02/22,"Is this valid reason for divorce? Please help me navigate thru the fog in my head. 25F married 1year to 27M, 5mths pregnant (unplanned) and very unhappy in relationship. In short, I feel taken for granted and that I give more to him/relationship than he gives. Also sex has gone downhill. He is a good person: compassionate, easy to cooperate w/ when given clear instructions, and focused on upward mobility/career growth. But: - no invites to go do spend time together outside of regular groceries/commute to work/ect. We went on one date in last 2 mths, which I initiated. - did nothing for anniversary, Vday, and my bday is in 4 days (haven't heard of plans from him). We went to Yosemite for his bday. - I don't think I want the responsibility of motherhood nor the commitment of marriage. He wanted to split when I found out I was pregnant and planned to abort, but we changed our minds and decided to stay together and keep the kid. - I'm bored w/ him. He doesn't teach me anything/bring anything into my life. He talks about what we should do/where we should go, but never takes the steps to turn into plans. Ive been thinking about splitting and giving kid up for adoption for about a week. I can't ask my mom for advice here (her stance is that I got pregnant, so I have to accept responsibility for consequences, plus she sees him as a great provider for me). Am I missing key points for making this decision? 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We meet and started dating at age 18. I'm 33 now. We were married five years as of last November. A month after finishing his doctorate (in which time he smoked pot and played video games non stop) I come home one night and he's packed two suit cases and tells me he thinks we're in a toxic relationship and he needs to get out. He now lives with his mother on the other side of the country. I've been seeing a therapist and going through the stages of grief/ separation. It sucks. He told me two weeks after he left that he doesn't want to reconcile or see a counselor. I've only ever had one romantic relationship. My biggest fear is that I will never love again or be able to trust someone enough to let them in. I fine with the thought of living alone. I just, I don't know. If our relationship was toxic like he claims, what would a non toxic one feel like? I just want someone I can trust to share my feelings with.",2.126138587675218,4.243650040201008,3.2002644802962195,90.77305474742133,78.74874371859295,6.199523935466808,21.528960592435865,7.273561745256523,0.5875567839195979,774,22,164,10,19,248,126,199,0.067,0.8290000000000001,0.103,0.8013,0,1,1,0,0,0,20.0,3,0,1,0,6,11,1,1,9,0,12,2,0,0,2,31,30,10,1,5,5,3,2,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,6,13,0,1,6,3,0,2,3,3,0,8,6,4,19,8,22,20,1,36,0,1,2,1,27,11,1,3,24,93,25,1,0.10982940121073996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19471427489290136,0.0,0.0,0.11375013683997298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460830418325854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241504600940087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348313070024164,0.0,0.0,0.0993469812469989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12358861075318113,0.1110660905128386,0.07846214616990466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05738132909124553,0.0,0.06241857972760765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016784435638256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603593666184419,0.08952562072166245,0.0,0.0,0.35798989731587955,0.11230800390757548,0.0,0.10731419546845393,0.0,0.1939627468739827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09912532261880706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26299434063841465,0.0,0.0,0.0814371093544741,0.08470720498153754,0.0,0.0,0.10306745298860026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22326973400292524,0.08353020872313131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35374702318303536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750396262088991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861161904719636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07773781546578748,0.0,0.0,0.09182229724722064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599573758500063,0.0,0.0,0.1275203999060279,0.0,0.070374245578991,0.0,0.08719227649816393,0.06404240707063072,0.0,0.0,0.10494669949245056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4291494645869087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956045283151746,0.0,0.08809852084389984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07801965546064593,0.0,0.0,0.07072653348135202 divorce,throwaway11111463836,2019/02/22,"Advice Needed This is on mobile and a throwaway so apologies for formatting. My wife (26) and I (27) have been together since high school (10 years) and married for 3. We’ve never lived on our own except for some time in college and have joint accounts. No kids, we rent, have a dog, she co-signed on my vehicle and I on hers. For the past few months I’ve been plagued by thoughts of life separate from each other. I can’t get them out of my head and I’m beginning to really want that. I love my wife, and she loves me, but I’m just not in love anymore. I’m not interested in counseling or having a mediator. I just don’t know how to bring this up when it’ll seemingly come out of nowhere and I’m worried about what her reaction will be. I can’t bear to see her upset. I’m worried that she’ll do something as an overreaction. I should mention that, in the past, we’ve joked about divorce and she’s always said that I shouldn’t waste hers or my time if that’s what I’d end up wanting at some point. I just don’t know how true that is. Do you guys have any words of advice to offer?",2.643853069612124,3.6478013842794788,4.039948625738507,90.09073722065249,74.45851528384279,7.48430516311328,24.824300025687126,7.928766900206844,1.0936142306704335,843,26,194,12,17,279,132,229,0.061,0.831,0.107,0.8821,1,0,1,0,1,0,28.0,2,1,1,0,9,7,0,1,6,0,21,5,1,2,2,40,42,18,0,6,10,2,0,0,0,5,1,1,1,2,12,14,0,0,4,1,2,2,9,1,0,0,4,2,27,6,31,32,5,27,0,0,1,3,24,15,0,6,10,124,39,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3088288981081518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13148456123794747,0.0,0.0,0.10745841601598856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671249977870205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13611947447600714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13995803217215327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255846490500053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15646376628347586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217319916208134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695586946561242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17368634465516278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116135731801371,0.0,0.0,0.13953377243327295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4278552587519371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12612934895764955,0.0,0.0,0.11716917054874898,0.1218740820476376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30169424850640303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937913872905942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123109054093253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031236313280194,0.0,0.0,0.1599237792928582,0.12592077480788558,0.14385466632117455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13071504376942722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12165083383451795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544952536414866,0.18428443189821755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18640753477769664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3209521607664759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10175912835667293 divorce,chalicegrey,2019/02/22,"I need some help please Hi ladies! Can you help me, pretty please? 🤗🙏 I'm working on a brand new program that I'm super excited about and I'd really appreciate some feedback. This is not a sales pitch at all, lol, just need a few minutes of your time. In return for your time, I'm offering you a complementary 30-minute breakthrough session to help you with your feelings of overwhelm and tips to help you overcome negative thoughts. Is this you? You are between the ages 25-45 and recently divorced (within 3 months to 5 years) You want to start over as an entrepreneur (or want to take a new direction in your existing business) You struggle with negative thoughts, low self confidence, fear and insecurities, alot of which stem from your past relationship You struggle to set goals and a vision for your business because you have no clue where to start and it's overwhelming You constantly think about all the things you need to do but struggle with procrastination, distractions and time management If 🅐🅝🅨 of this speaks to you then you're the answer to my prayers and I'd love to chat. I want to interview you to find out more about your needs so I can make this program the best it can possibly be. 💓 If you are interested, please comment ""YES” or shoot me a PM. I'd be honoured to have you or have you nominate someone you know. Thank you so much ladies! 😃 Have a blessed week, ж๑χ๑ Daeyna ",3.9566466580142743,6.0789225783582115,4.4088254380272565,84.20729720960416,73.21641791044777,8.093705386112914,29.562621674237505,8.841846274778883,2.409139000648929,1113,48,217,23,23,351,153,268,0.085,0.695,0.22,0.9904,0,0,0,1,1,1,28.0,0,26,0,5,7,17,0,8,14,2,14,1,0,1,2,40,35,18,0,9,8,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,9,12,0,0,7,1,1,0,4,9,0,0,2,2,32,8,36,31,9,26,1,3,0,1,40,9,0,8,16,136,41,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272239172817672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12519492375486518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12891776070633595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13424237978231676,0.06032018732429144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10903536842527012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198492679564501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06556255441041445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10767027094117618,0.0,0.079631726201025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09522178983274772,0.0,0.08769707913501643,0.3538290881566845,0.0,0.2304357234465473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11388256009579276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3928571035880815,0.0,0.13448953120090948,0.0,0.12136801682499268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642476321086188,0.0,0.1177914728310197,0.1280804165356818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244528705160434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108002740993773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16887817224593712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37414562560567055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08969655626575818,0.0,0.0,0.10983272173934824,0.0,0.0,0.07925567799211126,0.07644075084536676,0.0,0.18941710930187824,0.20868925736171967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21109352319501445,0.0,0.09569292041809556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684969390966628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682340719285102 divorce,rockhound01,2019/02/22,"My wife has presented me with an open door This morning my wife flat out asked me if I was sticking around for the kids. It definitely took me by surprise, because she’s right. She said that she knows how much I love her and the kids, but that she could tell how our lack of physical intimacy for the last couple of years has been bringing me down. She said that I deserve to be with someone who actually wants to have sex, and that she wants me to be happy. She told me that I don’t need to make any decisions right now, but the door is open. The fact is that I do love her and the kids (who are actually my step children), and if it wasn’t for the lack of physical intimacy, I would be happy as a clam. So, I asked her if she would like to try marriage counseling or see a sex therapist to see if the physical intimacy issues could be worked out. She doesn’t want to do any type of counseling or therapy. And before any of you ask: no, I don’t believe in open marriage or cheating. Period. Which leaves me with the dilemma: do I stick around because I love my wife and kids? Or do I take the out that my wife offered me this morning?",6.093205128205131,4.869542465811968,6.790213675213674,81.11173076923079,66.64957264957266,10.535042735042737,32.74786324786325,9.725611199111238,2.6737760683760685,883,31,197,16,12,293,108,234,0.062,0.807,0.131,0.959,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,1,1,0,1,6,8,1,0,13,0,24,5,0,3,1,43,44,20,0,14,10,4,0,1,0,2,0,2,2,5,14,17,0,0,2,0,0,3,5,1,0,0,7,4,38,7,27,29,3,20,0,0,2,5,38,12,0,8,6,140,52,2,0.0,0.0,0.24104630335113475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519630883970713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2198914287771077,0.34638176058501224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057511263635284,0.0,0.1050937347129378,0.13914794282666512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972175287707042,0.13665603259398226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629469290016364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12890722596551302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678751673348098,0.1006731320699272,0.0,0.13077405721276714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060338348320211586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3344044961107753,0.0,0.08244060637447886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09079045157090104,0.09157745904857244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21094534348244529,0.2349632452772415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19683513238725028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464546167174443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09286045701915832,0.0,0.1079488920617604,0.0,0.14123883359069353,0.14339892823823902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180144058554397,0.13721869894334734,0.08385184878571743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21853950534728087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08991317620411712,0.0,0.0,0.1754689443072307,0.0,0.0,0.07953322846153016 divorce,cheesey_ball,2019/02/22,"How to find a good divorce lawyer? I just started the divorce filings/proceedings and I had my first court date yesterday n it was the temporary order hearing. Long story short, I got Totally railroaded. They awarded my STBX 67% of my net monthly income. She is early 30s, just started going back to school and claimed she can only make approx $500 per month because of this. My lawyer seemed entirely unprepared and he lawyer spoke quickly, rushed through things, and my lawyer kind of rolled over and just went along with the numbers being thrown out. I am currently left with around $1k per month to pay all of my bills, and the remainder goes to her. My lawyer advised this is routine, the temporary hearing just adds up the numbers and does the calculation to determine who gets what. I have my kids 3 days per week every week, she has them 4. Two kids aged 6 and 4. I looked up what reviews I could find for lawyers before hiring this one, and I noticed he was rated well in a few places. I liked his demeanor when we met, but I have severely lost confidence in him after yesterday. His communication is lacking, but I feel he did a terrible job representing me in court. If there are any lawyers that are willing to chime in, please tell me how badly I got screwed. Any one else, Please let me know how to find a good lawyer in my area. There aren't many reviews for them like other businesses. I love in the Wausau, WI / Stevens Point, WI area. Please let me know if there is anything else I can provide to help get better answers. Finally: this whole thing really sucks.",4.8924705527031085,6.356984488372095,4.917337662337662,84.176525974026,69.56478405315615,8.263424947145879,30.293113862881302,8.710501217029153,2.3097760797342186,1245,50,240,21,22,387,180,301,0.076,0.7959999999999999,0.128,0.9387,3,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,1,0,3,4,15,14,2,0,12,0,22,2,0,4,2,40,43,17,0,4,8,0,1,2,0,1,0,3,0,2,12,16,0,0,8,0,2,3,1,5,1,4,10,5,38,9,30,28,5,42,0,1,1,2,27,17,2,3,23,150,50,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14736852472576412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891658999847307,0.096457805580401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08331734180233442,0.09047085132592234,0.0660514373875239,0.0,0.0922010565580912,0.0,0.0,0.09583008237993253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651164873959005,0.0,0.0,0.06987920178998591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482109263150684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810313009771779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09129270361280133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478690925274442,0.0,0.0,0.11869623160739867,0.2971000804327326,0.0921656403378952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322071949081645,0.0,0.061579930425773526,0.1817639613762516,0.17332077672271687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442450915632444,0.0,0.07262723142700638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752437288103524,0.0,0.0,0.11283375173079495,0.11909676936347904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177266612283564,0.22159809137172973,0.0,0.10587233351806573,0.0,0.0,0.09588965483273887,0.09098985640295364,0.0,0.11828091258095745,0.0,0.09779348548039203,0.0,0.07232696631991427,0.1098536908677946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25946077705646114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233614571051897,0.0,0.0,0.14684660396611535,0.08240790585220058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11320660184355599,0.3568196227220364,0.10242931226545972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941418374889229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10965977490050947,0.0,0.09864118017296243,0.0,0.12240889043958544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338667713124815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470594921339648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397082736412206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10584586467221062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382967724853232,0.0,0.09742302972111247,0.10044500737552636,0.0,0.12097308701107658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sammig17,2019/02/22,"Guilt festering divorce. Good Evening All, New to Reddit... I find comfort in reading everyone’s experiences and would like to share mine. I am 21 (f) and my wife is 24. We have been together 2 years and married 1 1/2. As you can tell from the timeline, things happened too fast. I am in the military and was transferring so after two months of dating, she quit her job and sold her car and followed me. There have been a lot of bumps and hiccups. We’re different culturally, we value different things (none are bad values, but the same things are not important to us), we have dead bedroom (once every three months) because I consistently reject, and don’t have very much in common. With all this said, my wife is head over heels for me to this day. She loves me with everything she has and more. No matter how hard I try, I just do not view her romantically. I fear that my youngness in age has confused me of my sexuality because she is gorgeous and there should be no reason I wouldn’t want to have bedroom fun, but I don’t. Two days ago, my wife logged into the computer and my google searches from my phone, popped up on the computer which were about divorce. It forced the subject on us which I wasn’t emotionally ready for or else I would have talked about it. Now I had to make a decision and drag her through my indecisiveness of to stay together or not... I ended up deciding divorce because it’s not fair to her to be with someone who can see a life without her. I just want this to be a story where no one is a bad guy and we walk away as best friends, but, that’s being optimistic. It breaks my heart to see her heartbroken, to know she dropped everything for me, and know I’m the reason for this all. I wish she despised me, to make this easier.",4.42991379310345,5.390863830459776,5.187988505747128,83.69336206896553,70.17816091954022,8.673563218390807,29.15517241379311,8.959647251330699,2.1622448275862074,1375,51,285,25,24,446,186,348,0.156,0.7070000000000001,0.13699999999999998,-0.8666,4,0,0,0,3,0,48.0,6,1,0,2,12,17,1,4,12,0,35,6,3,5,3,59,50,23,1,7,12,3,1,1,1,4,2,1,2,1,17,22,0,0,7,1,1,3,13,8,0,4,8,5,51,9,44,34,9,33,0,1,3,1,36,12,0,5,16,208,68,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10031739708858996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632590202970513,0.0,0.18898260030977115,0.20696012376500728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876377320805499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459691499339179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23647481675126195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09453809015480466,0.1272997746204612,0.1002340505539374,0.0,0.0,0.07474698774537691,0.0,0.09534967486877767,0.108137728801977,0.2034178110870119,0.1107008945986532,0.0,0.12734646956288506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034343196907157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08743400745483983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09492069976146718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112054998317115,0.10007487999423263,0.0,0.10137710117400583,0.0,0.11614393537136375,0.0,0.0,0.1341056853169213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230266591905713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438933000486994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07993453725387092,0.0552886056555062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09621214746694368,0.10213934603567147,0.0,0.15108223220331554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806606643941034,0.0,0.08319215911495932,0.0,0.0,0.10929922387279024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052117961145202,0.07668617200307061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12036904993692753,0.11319951998775375,0.0,0.0,0.23271294437396414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10764953444474587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803619143824432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588763738283212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062298433891128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096087094105376,0.09891460224396384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22555315545227814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683425102051931,0.0,0.2210991324236506,0.0,0.2722564928384546,0.0,0.0,0.09337619027946807,0.1334998926075214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13013864405395406,0.10909077622055956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1607838718936355,0.0,0.0,0.07287705791319883 divorce,drinkinknowthings,2019/02/22,"Questions about damage in a short marriage - long Hello. I am completely unfamiliar with this and I find it has been difficult to get information outside of contacting an attorney. I would like to know/understand what my options are to avoid wasting more of my time or anyone elses. Yes, I am sad, bitter and broken - so I am attempting to ensure whatever I do is verified as possible as I know my emotions are driving this. Any insight or useful resources are greatly appreciated. The facts: 32 M/F Ohio residents married in Colorado Length of relationship: 6 years Length of marriage: 364 days (but still ongoing 364 is the date of infidelity) Grounds: adultry, written admissions by him. Fraud, infidelity was with men. No children // no property // no shared assets Separation began in November of 2017 not legally just actually separate. He ended the relationship ultimately. He makes 20-30k more than me, I have premarital investments which were not used in the marriage. Since being apart I bought a house, he signed the mortgage and signed away any level of ownership. I would like to seek damages on the grounds listed below, along with their reasonings. 1. Wedding expenses. Would like repay my parents for wedding (out of state) and local reception. 2. Emotional issues. Documented, sought individual therapy and marriage counseling. 3. During the marriage and prior to that we lived in a house which was owned by my family at no cost to us. This was a ""loss"" utilities, upkeep and other items were being paid during our time there. 4. During the marriage and prior he drove a car provided to him by me. Returned after relationship end. Loss based on typical use, would have sold at a higher price if sold sooner. 5. Loss of time/embarrassment - at the time of relationship end we were beginning to plan for a family. Discussed with my Dr (documented.) With my age and the end of this relationship I have concerns about my ability to have a family. The actions of my husband and years he took from my life in addition to the emotional issues I now have may bar me from being able to do this. (on my own isn't an option financially) Seeking damages obviously in no way gives me back the time and pieces of myself which he took, I realize that. If I was able to get any amount of damages from him, I think it would be best for me to donate it or do something positive with it (turn personal tragedy into something good for others?) I would like to pay my parents back as they were financially impacted. I can admit this is because I am so hurt by all of the things that he did, my motivation is to hurt him however I can. I very much appreciate anyone who reads or responds to this. I considered posting in r/legaladvice but decided to start here in case someone has personal experience. I have a great amount of respect for all of the peoples posts who have lived through similar situations and have been able to end things in a loving and amicable way..... Im not there, I don't know if I will ever be. 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I started dating my wife at 21 have been together for 11years and married for 6. We have a 2year old together. As the years have come and gone communication has never been good, whenever there's has been any type of conflict, any type of concerns I would bring up or even asking for help at times with something as simple as taking her clothes out of the bathroom sink and hanging them or placing them in the hamper would be reason enough for me to be yelled at, stone walled, she just gets up and storms off to the room and I can expect to get the silent treatment for days at time. I'm not one to be upset for days or even hours I feel it's too much energy wasted I like to talk things out and move on but that hasn't been the case. Within the last year or two things have gotten worse and I feel I lost respect from being cursed at, flipped off and have even had a plate of food thrown out of my hands because I didn't want to argue about a dream she had. I'm an affectionate person and like to show it and be shown. It eventually got to the point where I no longer cared to be that person because of rejection and being withheld from sex for months at a time. I stopped trying to hold her hand and her of which was done before unless I initiated it. I can't say I've ever been consoled during a rough day and has been quite a while since I've even been asked how my day was. I've tried having hearts to hearts to find out what's going on only to be rejected and just recently she has started seeing a psychologist (I have been seeing my own for over a year because of being torn) after years of asking but I don't know if I have the will in me to try anymore or should with what I've had to deal with. Besides cooking sometimes I've done pretty much everything around the house and paid all the bills. I feel if it weren't for my daughter I may have been gone a long time ago and thought of it before she came along if being honest. I want more from a relationship but I'm scared of what a divorce will do to my daughter and don't know how I can handle only having her half of her childhood - I know that's a little selfish of me. I told her I was thinking of divorce back in January of 2018 , started paperwork a few months later but haven't filed. A little worried to have regrets when it comes to staying or leaving. I also get guilt tripped constantly by wife about insurance and car insurance etc - she did become employed these past few months(at a dispensary even though she has a degree in psychology-ironic). Some days I see things so clear other days not so much...So am I valid for thinking of divorce or am I being selfish hoping someone out there can treat me fairly and with as much love as I have inside?",5.705533376963352,5.245334659685863,6.07650905322862,83.38999918193718,67.15008726003491,8.628468586387434,29.59909467713787,7.756953410329674,1.7081047556719031,2212,67,462,21,32,713,265,573,0.08900000000000001,0.8109999999999999,0.1,0.9099,1,1,1,0,4,0,34.0,1,0,2,2,24,20,1,3,30,0,67,8,4,4,4,87,110,49,0,12,19,4,7,2,0,6,0,2,1,2,20,35,2,4,11,3,2,12,11,10,0,3,29,12,53,10,88,64,11,81,0,4,3,2,36,31,0,13,39,332,73,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674009972721332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060805664942018375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341367001834456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540691246301867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06768783018997887,0.21324914683373147,0.0,0.0,0.058466705207139084,0.0,0.13905184087867636,0.08397537827867563,0.12940143977127308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696450331262655,0.07752339114912014,0.0,0.0,0.13099592324567527,0.0,0.08216750266400212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29422014213018155,0.07838939465892376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15562169469530773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856513023472192,0.0847998253086308,0.2511040788208082,0.0687785794411497,0.0,0.0,0.06833592042899217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11533769572569605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949518729201383,0.0,0.09194258425304387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191764335001434,0.0,0.043212800132552465,0.06377507801604733,0.06081263839982193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06811298855423661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020517263304148,0.05096507927398225,0.0,0.0,0.07552053587974561,0.0748797782327665,0.08773490698510569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12536157938194206,0.06197918587495185,0.0,0.08051075230262818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742943351226698,0.15241535082236676,0.0,0.06728913885443934,0.0,0.0,0.08300187089392315,0.0,0.06862512369064226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12138182709481107,0.0808138402957681,0.2235797439847253,0.0,0.058643364437773765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978660193691313,0.0,0.0515237099445953,0.11565704411523332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07258461137383486,0.0,0.1327827566089364,0.07944104881780696,0.0,0.07187824617595799,0.0,0.0,0.07735556986991722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08087325072124385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781772902016596,0.07507601050941826,0.08163380987414956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046658392966539,0.07612492902857837,0.0,0.18177165554672947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0628974579375604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442474160253757,0.05853594187423858,0.07520118118534609,0.0,0.16145522841711754,0.08104386352054023,0.0,0.06356919039125414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057169330164732524,0.06111455831289848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15154407965683905,0.09744112160049807,0.07470461931767541,0.06036379606617204,0.17734794664202774,0.0,0.0,0.07265530182726132,0.0,0.15486960269315367,0.0,0.07427576100383322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454335178060134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06861032847596586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07721787198184786,0.07748680173116645,0.10802705837090076,0.0,0.0,0.19585780828307764 divorce,loulouIa,2019/02/23,"Default divorce judgement hearing experiences? (31 F) After waiting 6 months from filing and many moments where I felt lost in this whole process, my hopefully-final court date is this coming week. I’ve been doing this divorce pro se, DIY. My STBXH hasn’t done anything, hence the default. We have two kids. I filed a motion for a hearing of default judgement of divorce, but I also included child support and child custody in my motion in hopes the judge will help us with some decision making (husband quit his job during the divorce so the original child support values are really high compared to the income he is bringing in from unemployment). I wanted the judge to shed some light on if we need to change child support values because of the new situation. Anyways, I have all my “proposed” paperwork filled out and I have written down some notes in case I am asked about certain things. I’m wondering if this will really be the final court date and judgement will be finalized... I’m just having a hard time believing that it’s really the end, especially since I will be asking the judge about changing the support values. Will the judge possibly send us to speak to a mediator/referee right then and there, and then the default judgement will be signed by him the same day once we figure everything out? What have your experienced been at your hearing for default judgement of divorce? 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We are still “friends” if you will. It’s hard because we work so much better in this environment than we ever did together but alas I spent so many years with a goal and dream to have the nice house with the love of my life and make a family. In almost a decade of just talk only managed to make the foundation. In 4 months my stbxw is already talking about having kids with her new bf and it just pisses me off. I’ve battled depression before but now I’m just angry yet we get along better. I don’t know if it’s just that we really did love each other and just weren’t compatible or she’s playing me for a fool. I sure feel like one. I don’t hate her and I think I’m just jealous I didn’t get what this new dude is getting. I feel like a joke. I don’t know just a rant to get it out ,0.4566328289599717,2.363648982378855,2.554284619804637,94.32840452020687,83.40528634361233,6.062363531890442,19.56119517333844,7.255503002510835,0.2604776479601609,817,22,194,12,23,275,128,227,0.159,0.6459999999999999,0.195,0.8856,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,5,1,0,5,19,19,4,0,13,0,21,5,1,2,2,45,42,19,0,2,14,0,3,2,2,1,2,0,1,2,10,20,0,0,6,3,2,1,6,7,0,1,8,3,26,12,23,32,2,19,0,2,0,2,22,6,1,6,14,127,36,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305539623615469,0.0,0.14387451475436328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947674896668297,0.0,0.11094141954152943,0.0,0.0,0.230616128944532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245874333962561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11793366829207312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290804866721,0.0,0.13184528923403158,0.1862830375666844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072912407314168,0.0,0.3405836063795679,0.0,0.07409638405173356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12909395505324706,0.0,0.0,0.1167923889066418,0.12872052201956907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307789914670492,0.0,0.0,0.1504378180254603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433038313142302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09208929288678776,0.12739145742075236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23534107972554566,0.0,0.17405562613283349,0.13218204716635615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13134134230993613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406586069092803,0.0,0.09584226505609428,0.0,0.0,0.37775742195965023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834698487749572,0.09915775803423303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0835229916976789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11869053308239848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20823884773834592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287899582351396,0.0,0.0,0.2095845568912044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08354046424202076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18983235167765736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791732238547394 divorce,___wellfuckmedead___,2019/02/23,"Should I leave? I think I am absolutely ready for divorce. We literally fight every single day, and have done for a while. Our kids are miserable, we are miserable and I want it all to stop. My question is, are there any potential negatives for me (man) if I leave the house to create some initial peace for everyone? Can it be used against me? We live in Ontario if that matters. 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Future ex had multiple affairs. We separated 2.5 years ago after I tried to hold us together. We kept trying for another year, or so I thought. All this time, he has still been with the woman his last affair was with. I thought she was my best friend. They are coming up on 4 years since their first encounter. So happy anniversary to them? I keep confiding in her, my marriage was in trouble and I didn't kw what to do... I thought he was cheating.... I was broken hearted... and the whole time it was her. We traveled together, spent time together with our kids. And now he is going to tell the kids she is his girlfriend, and somehow thinks they won't put that together. I know it is broken, I know I don't need that in my life. The pain diminishes sometimes and I feel happy. And others it is a tidal wave sucking me out to sea and there's no air. I go between wanting them to be happy and wanting them to suffer and I know that doesn't help me. I keep practicing for forgiveness I know that's what I need and yet something in me is resisting it. I've done therapy worked with coaches done so much work on this and I feel like I'm good and then here comes the tidal wave again. There is another side of this right? the clouds will break the Sun will shine? I will be through this with a life better than I could have ever imagined? 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My wife (37F) and I (38F) have been together for 17 years, married for 14 (almost 15). We have two young kids (6 and 2) and have just sort of grown more distant over the years. I've been doing a bunch of therapy on my own for a couple years and discovered that I've been perpetuating some bad relationship habits, and as part of that, I've been trying to work with her to fix things that I see as problems, but my wife (who has benefited from my bad relationship habits) is only seeing things getting worse, as I'm forcing her to see the consequences of my not enabling her anymore. &#x200B; Additionally, we have been polyamorous for almost the entirety of our marriage, and I have been with a current additional partner for two years. He makes me very happy, which has been alienating my wife pretty significantly. She has only told me about those feelings very recently. She sees my trying to fix our marriage as things are getting worse, in her eyes, and feels like this other person seems like a better partner for me, which he is if she refuses to see the problems and work on them. So she's wanting to end our marriage so I can be happy with him instead. And I reluctantly agree that this is probably the best plan overall. We are civil, but very sad. &#x200B; Which leads me to my question. I have been with her for so long that I just don't know how to not be married to her. How am I supposed to learn how to have a different relationship with her? How do we even start? Since we have the kids and a nice house, I am going to be living in a different bedroom for a year or so while we sort things out, which is going to be very weird. I'm trying so hard to look at this productively but I keep getting very overwhelmed at the enormity of the situation. I know so little and that's very scary. I can't even formulate a proper post here, and feel like I'm rambling. I wish there was just, like, a checklist of how to do divorce that I could just go through and make sure I'm doing this all right. &#x200B; How do I go from being married to being just roommates and co-parents? Advice please?",5.508303701015965,5.834947794811324,6.020943396226418,80.94118287373006,67.51415094339623,8.787227866473147,30.930333817126268,8.617729084823388,2.236740493468795,1691,62,338,24,26,548,186,424,0.08,0.794,0.126,0.9739,4,0,0,0,1,0,62.0,9,0,1,7,25,18,0,1,18,0,45,1,1,11,2,75,76,38,0,6,13,3,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,5,22,28,0,2,9,0,0,6,5,7,0,2,10,11,50,11,53,58,7,31,0,2,7,0,43,11,0,9,17,244,72,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07030247204484888,0.0,0.0,0.1440822848029446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338526440589304,0.2622581158738431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134873842610635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013983390160132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550038978908817,0.06362828475232374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05744112583115491,0.07960424626295567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033153930488755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06372069261982805,0.0,0.0,0.09503616393948312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091305666047304,0.10279307187288432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11276271501671818,0.0,0.1635488669466032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531706408638701,0.06444735164246318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301327722957784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0639467943607425,0.0,0.0,0.07907666325588111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14059207332772028,0.07210640671225904,0.06352753382792027,0.06366783906446061,0.060414520670312485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09604584894396236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943272862101856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790792874658826,0.0,0.0,0.06281839329673232,0.0,0.07897248962582823,0.0,0.0,0.06890210014705278,0.07319252493142289,0.07756738964423192,0.1376806547660467,0.0,0.0,0.08059331858249599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07103564462394728,0.2317215686410839,0.0,0.061439457709457176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2866487496807028,0.06549476891261484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05951250525281584,0.08086764230806551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184412793287503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0678060096847665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227379851170424,0.0,0.19118457528260036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874521122828581,0.0,0.14653498481492522,0.0,0.14055692429686678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35616612234622497,0.042434210603144014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273161156208979,0.0,0.0,0.10475162325402164,0.0,0.14663338857439387,0.0,0.0,0.2622581158738431,0.2316466600252509 divorce,mdsn22,2019/02/23,"Too little too late So my last/first post was about 2 months ago. Since then my husband and I have gone to several counselling sessions. He is actually starting to change! Not 100% but hey, he is showing effort. I’m getting all the things I wanted and felt like I needed. And I’m still not happy. Wtf is wrong with me?My mind keeps going to the terrible things he’s said and done. I’m not blind to his progress but it feels too little too late. I just feel like I already grieved our relationship and in my mind it is over. We are currently stationed overseas and have a 1 y/o. We’ll be moving back to the states in the spring and I think I’m going to have the talk with him. 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I changed my name when i was really young, after the divorce in changing it back to my birth name. Do i need a court order or will a copy of the final decree of divorce work? If the former how will i receive this? 2. I'm getting some of my STBXH 401(k) as a settlement, about how long will that take to be processed in the court order? One of the things i plan to do with it is to back to school and i want to get an idea of when i can enroll. should i wait until after the name change to take care of this? 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I went on the IRS website and was totally confused. I also called the IRS but had to hang up after being on hold for a half hour. Is there and easy formula or percentage? 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I currently live in Boise, ID and will probably be going through divorce soon. Kids are 1 and 4. An opportunity has presented itself in Colorado where I could make good money and live with an old friend for a very reasonable price. Is it wrong that I’m considering doing this? Idk how to feel. I don’t want to not be able to see my kids much, but if I stay in Boise, with the amount that I’ll most likely have to pay in child support i won’t be able to live hardly financially. Anyone ever leave state without their kids that have regrets? I plan on being able to see them over summers and holidays, plus I would be about an 8-9 hour drive away. Any thoughts or experiences with this? My dad lived out of state when I was 9 until I graduated and I enjoyed my time with him and never held any resent toward him. 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Whats the one life lesson you got from going through your divorce? Mine is “everything is temporary”. When I’m having a bad day at work, stuck it traffic, or doing anything - I keep thinking “its all temporary”.",2.5862790697674427,5.372144372093025,3.680279069767444,83.99437209302326,82.02325581395348,6.2306976744186064,27.20465116279069,7.554174236665415,1.9685013953488373,180,8,31,3,5,58,36,43,0.129,0.871,0.0,-0.6705,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,0,2,0,3,1,1,0,0,3,0,4,2,0,0,1,6,10,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,2,0,4,0,3,8,1,4,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,22,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724408558074963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27642805338237936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2135115502907351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975426809130425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18815364336183213,0.0,0.2647854210390022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942685587473208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4676864112334127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4486806555398867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21213508481467275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24102153602501056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Polished_Runner,2019/02/23,"Divorced, I think I have a drinking probhlem Divorced, mid 30's, successful career. Ex-husband cheated before we even got married and ended up fathering a child which led me to file. Its been almost 3 years since we split. Met an INCREDIBLE man unexpectedly on that damn Tinder and been dating 2 years. im not sad nor do cry about my ex but at the same time my marriage imploded, my sister along with 3 of my girlfriends moved out of state. During this time, I was promoted to a management position with a well respected firm and since moved onto an even more senior mgmt position. Problem is i just drink. I used to be a dedicated runner running half marathons, tough muddrs and the like and now im just a drunk hanging out with my cats and eating junk food. My BF loves me to death as I am highly functioning but I know that my luck will eventually run out. Im typically the most drunk at parties and such. In the past, running has saved me from depression and other unpleasant things. It was my medicine. Been on antidepressants for years and Im fine staying on them as depression runs thick in the family. I need to motivate myself to run cuz i know that will help me get out of this shit but its easier to just drink and eat mac n cheese in bed. UGH. Ive not told anyone any of this out of fear so here I am. Confessing my deepest darkest to Reddit where i view daily but never post. Thanks for reading and allowing me to utilize a platform to tell my truth. 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So my soon to be ex husband has a flair for the dramatics. His past behavior has included issues with drugs and alcohol, a DUI, a bipolar dx, then he went through some health problems that led to an MS dx, then he started physically abusing me. (All this occurred within 6 months during the time I was finishing my degree and working long hours. I also have two elementary aged children from a previous marriage.) And now that I have a restraining order as a result of the abuse, I've heard through our therapists/mutual friends that he is bad mouthing me and saying that 1) I'm crazy 2) He never abused me 3) He only abused me because I am lazy and don't clean the house to his standards 4) he doesn't have mental health issues 5) blah blah blah. As I have begun to stone wall him he's now resorted to reaching out to our old marriage counselor (who is now just mine as he fired her in a fit of rage last summer) he has called her and left her four messages this past week demanding that she call him back. He's bad mouthed me to our mutual friends and if they stand up for me in the slightest he tells them one of the four points mentioned above and attempts to divide my friendship with them. I know this because they have reached out to me in frustration with him and sadness over his inability to take anything other than 0% responsibility in his decisions. Luckily I have a plan with a lawyer for divorce papers but I'm scared of his reaction and how bad it's going to get. I'm just tired of fighting. It's so hard. Very lonely. Thanks for listening.",3.5684040258806635,5.303805199376949,4.406931464174456,85.45692487419123,73.33021806853583,7.555283968368082,28.23400431344357,8.263242389622931,1.9079685118619696,1283,51,256,21,26,413,182,321,0.18,0.759,0.061,-0.9873,0,2,2,1,6,0,30.0,3,0,4,4,13,14,3,1,16,0,16,11,3,3,2,34,30,21,0,3,5,2,2,3,2,0,8,3,1,1,13,17,1,1,2,0,0,3,3,11,0,5,3,5,40,3,42,26,2,43,0,2,0,0,48,14,0,2,23,162,53,3,0.0,0.5169391195784802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656686755808075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08722638831650464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897585567630444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387112511387716,0.3642887267679397,0.13298091967992248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227533705272082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264911386790641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09277823541609473,0.0,0.0,0.1685405069023982,0.0,0.11397326084197508,0.0,0.06198923222367126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770882358896647,0.0,0.0,0.23188098981814675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10741585704906258,0.12585667919087176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22768970465498986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05994418345487261,0.08890981687026207,0.0,0.0,0.11850915211082574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09652700222581756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10992087441649673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08706177619169843,0.0,0.0,0.08087694249739846,0.08412454470341259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144547490704992,0.0,0.07391132282526175,0.08295564443834512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20824683040746095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311012663757428,0.0,0.1044626811901742,0.0,0.0,0.10436902731690666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08673997291289942,0.10920203942091324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07720309427896525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08201002649175032,0.0,0.0953354288996618,0.10042062699505863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06360189003641034,0.12536444559543447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065493877585609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999742148639897,0.0,0.0,0.08749253332880605,0.0,0.0,0.10111263271749082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07940712547791741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mrsbombastik,2019/02/23,"Emotional roller coaster I have been married for almost 5 years. I thought he was the guy for me and somehow I ruined it. With my jealousy and trust issues. A lot of fights started and became ugly so soon after we married. He had his issues as well, being always right and me always wrong. Even when I knew he was being an ass he would turn the situation on me and make me feel bad. Finally I decided I was going to divorce. He cheated. But will not accept it. I feel like I really want this marriage to end. But a small part of me wants him to apologize and ask me to forgive him. Can’t say I don’t love him because I do. But I know I’m not happy with him. And I’m more than sure that he isn’t happy with me either. How can I make the correct choice and how can I not feel depressed about the situation? Can’t stop blaming myself. 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My lawyer reserved on attorney fees and so that is the last thing we have to do. During a courtesy phone call to let my ex know the latest of the kids school stuff, he threatened me, al la, ""If you ask for fees through the court, you will make this a hostile relationship."" Never mind that he has routinely hidden money (he makes 4x what I do), and that all of my savings have been spent on lawyers fees and things for the kids. The conversation ended with me hanging up the phone because he started raising his voice and getting very unglued. The process is what it is, but his constant lying to others it really hard. He started out running to people and telling some wild stories about how I threatened to take the children away. It was bullshit. He's charismatic so folks tend to believe him, so I started out the divorce with the upset of having close friends who would not speak to me and would not explain why. A year or two in, one mutual friend recognized that it didn't smell right and called me. I got the whole story that he told others and it was awful. The story was corroborated by an ex of his who spilled the tea to me over coffee. He tries to include those people in the kids birthday parties. Now that the kids are in school, he routinely tries to make friends with everyone and build his coalition. It's so hard to be struggling through a divorce, being a parent, working and constantly feeling like he's at me. I don't have any better point than that to make. I just needed to say that to someone because it's really wearing on me.",6.681576388888887,6.532053393750001,6.462083333333336,80.39680555555556,65.0625,8.861111111111112,34.65277777777778,8.167268648758528,2.5882256944444446,1306,54,249,14,18,410,174,320,0.106,0.828,0.067,-0.9215,1,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,2,2,0,2,8,9,1,2,24,1,25,2,1,5,3,42,43,20,1,4,6,3,3,1,3,3,0,3,0,6,28,19,1,0,3,0,5,2,6,3,0,2,9,7,25,6,41,28,4,30,0,0,0,0,48,15,0,3,14,174,53,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811161007285475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738254238464832,0.0,0.1079187180145412,0.0,0.0,0.14004032764979815,0.0,0.0,0.1294126443876692,0.0,0.10158807034324846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23457842725716144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2482548362363411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11921092809693493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10173560751136226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975768687156892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058078802113421375,0.08205902341128092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662314398075082,0.0,0.060011815341791015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09186741167479637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057915632198938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312637265500423,0.09362967195417063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11745644966133822,0.0,0.05611685703345158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066910414661124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11598012048350625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517036544724374,0.17718073889113986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07783496978658958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754312567638476,0.0,0.0,0.1592647780723951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085838175363302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716992423202402,0.0,0.0,0.12332118808896335,0.0,0.09809341829557068,0.0,0.09134463994003364,0.0,0.2324974506909235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501687171765548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09732408286465714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24390446338679256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008102491641942,0.13149205358793192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08636360019254183,0.0,0.10039639319593592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1526213708098078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10975768687156892,0.0,0.15597053420577306,0.0,0.1122056548300972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09477501300884104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.103647094701009,0.12824180223698373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0836225219108266,0.0,0.0,0.16319249591061746,0.0,0.0,0.14793758646818986 divorce,testybnmbbm,2019/02/24,For those of you getting divorced due to infidelity in your marriage how long after affair disclosure until you or your spouse decided for divorce ? 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Hi, all - Wish I weren't here, but glad that I found the community. My divorce will be finalized in one week, and I could use a few success stories to pick me up. I read the first stickied post, and decided it would be easier to add information from the bullet points. &#x200B; * Tell us how old you are, how long you were married, how many kids, if you own a house, etc. * I am a 26 year old male. I have been married for just over two years. No home, just a family dog that I will luckily be keeping. * Tell us if you're using a mediator, collaborative divorce process, attorneys, or trying to DIY/Pro Se. Please note, most people in this sub (and pretty much all the mods) are going to urge you not to go Pro Se, especially if children are involved. * I have an attorney, my STBX does not. I am attempting to reach an agreement with her on a financial division... Hoping that it will be agreed to tomorrow, but I suppose we'll see. * The basic reasons for the divorce. Infidelity, physical/sexual/emotional abuse, addiction, irreconcilable differences, etc. This is where details are important, but careful consideration of how much you reveal can be important. ""Infidelity with a co-worker"" is fine. ""STBX is traveling to Vegas and hooking up with co-workers at the ABC Pharmaceutical Sales Convention this weekend"" is not a good idea. * Infidelity and emotional abuse. Her family and I remain convinced that there is either a mental health issue (Bipolar, borderline, or others) or a medication side effect (A med she was taking can cause manic episodes). She is convinced that she found her true self. The STBX was one of the kindest people I'd ever met, but her personality switched within a two week period. Suddenly, my happy wife was cheating with a co-worker, became emotionally abusive, and wanted out of the marriage. It was incredibly bizarre. * Tell us where you are emotionally, as best you can. This is an important step in the healing process. * I am doing much, much better than I was eight months ago when this started. I was in a pretty bad place for a while. As I mentioned above, STBX became emotionally abusive. It got bad enough that her own parents called me and told me that I needed to get out. Nowadays, I have realized that I can still build a happy/wonderful life with or without her. Some days are rough, but it's nice to know that things are trending in the right direction. * Tell us what you'd like us to do to help. We can't offer specific legal advice, although we can let you know what to expect from the legal system, and we do have a handful of attorneys who are kind enough to offer their opinions from time to time. But this sub is no substitute for a competent family law attorney. * Positive words would be helpful. I would also love to find a support group of others in my own age bracket. Does anyone know of any suggestions? It seems like everything I look up is directed toward those in their 40's/50's. 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We agreed openness was fine if we discussed it(we weren’t new to that lifestyle), but this one wasn’t discussed and our house was used to facilitate it. When I asked about it, it was one lie after the next. “It didn’t happen.” “It happened but not here.” “Well that’s what they wanted, I didn’t.” Next time my trust was betrayed so badly, I said, it would be the last time. Years later, I find out he has 3 credit cards with 30k+ debt. I asked about it. They denied the cards existed. Statements came in. I was able to see their credit card accounts and credit reports. Lie. Lie. Lie. I agreed to go to therapy to save our marriage, but I refused to do the work because it wasn’t my doing. Five months later, we finally see someone. I keep find evidence of little lies outside of those things. “Yeah, I took the car in.” It never happened. “I fixed that.” I fix it months later because they didn’t. “I didn’t eat out, I had left overs.” There’s takeout containers in the trash. “I’m not pulling extra money out of that account.” There’s so many small transactions I can match to receipts from their pants pockets. Do they think I’m stupid? Maybe I am for sticking around...",1.0723456790123471,3.5819110288065867,1.991222222222224,95.21350000000002,86.86008230452673,4.392263374485596,20.034156378600823,5.888618617440367,-0.06640016460905374,952,29,197,7,30,297,137,243,0.133,0.753,0.113,-0.7974,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,5,0,6,1,11,9,1,0,8,1,21,1,0,1,1,30,38,9,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,20,12,1,3,4,0,7,6,10,2,1,3,16,3,30,7,26,20,1,36,0,0,2,0,22,12,0,1,18,125,50,5,0.13510637989903845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197636539280049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12027332232607522,0.25261245436988583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11280818381843855,0.16471919034874674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15452570585421266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824755598143454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14800243523172,0.2469695671385489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678406922437013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35842237664714394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15589462267369425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12008875821744218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012973202603024,0.0,0.0,0.14679347707623755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541208637837465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697666343278175,0.13573251814030338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21568124689072266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420236922226067,0.13048658360763268,0.28737433554217834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831031592003659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851710633367075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153245849951208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11447519725168084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15466448106621078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450592005231334,0.0,0.08975867541732227,0.08657071288278692,0.0,0.0,0.15756323323171104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15010815927624782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11668853322478025,0.0,0.0,0.07968924335005262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1214768611531734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0983590536757184,0.0,0.0,0.09597569588886497,0.0,0.0,0.17400815803663294 divorce,nuzzyba,2019/02/24,"Found out my lost child was not mine Wondering if I am being rational about this... 6 weeks ago I was cleaning out my wife's old car because she has a new one. I discovered a agreement (not signed) between her and an unknown man. This agreement was about an unborn child and their parental rights and support. Again this is unsigned. It has the name of law office near our previous address but that is states away. I was floored. It took me a couple of weeks to approach her about it. She says she knows nothing about it and does not know the man. Shortly after marrying, she was pregnant but we lost the child. That was very difficult for her and me. Now I fear it was not my child and she had cheated on me and tried to pass the child as mine. I told her that I cannot get passed this and that we should divorce. We currently live away from my family and friends. And I have not discussed this with anyone except her. She still maintains that she does not know where the paperwork came from and that all my assumptions are crazy. Wondering what others think about this situation and whether i am crazy. No kids living with my inlaws ",3.231136363636363,5.4297462045454585,3.2890909090909126,91.0736363636364,75.5909090909091,6.581818181818183,25.54545454545455,7.554174236665415,1.2158818181818187,895,32,181,12,20,272,122,220,0.114,0.8420000000000001,0.044,-0.9504,2,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,4,0,1,2,9,9,1,1,10,0,19,0,0,0,1,43,33,17,0,2,11,2,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,8,19,20,0,0,7,0,0,6,8,5,0,1,14,1,37,4,24,17,1,27,0,2,0,0,33,10,0,3,10,138,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13101400673056024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10334379598560288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777221668112257,0.0,0.0,0.09009628716729083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16904153474641434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635356725312864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2586780463571917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933079789831865,0.1663138369279176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16205287508703825,0.114188365862925,0.0,0.07721835330156378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24367774171925996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610166782933936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32267794578883896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427442265020996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14181616426733118,0.0,0.15508913556525528,0.0,0.10015174781776637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411218496845598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621868189397448,0.0,0.1175348994014142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661311411351585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803167133248428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16771941552406078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470298866393134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122731988927495,0.1642090128742447,0.1003451382560325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121948826193575,0.0,0.0,0.2371092763310469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3205612462387964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,1234throwawayweryu,2019/02/24,"Trying to help a friend figuring out her 'financial worth' I have a friend currently going through fairly right divorce proceedings. She's a stay at home mom with three kids (1, 3 & 5). We are trying to help as best we can (bringing meals, more then likely going to change locks when the time comes, etc), and the court asked what her fiscal worth to the marriage is... She didn't bring in any income, but certainly added value to the marriage via house keeping, child care etc. What resources can she look at to help her figure it out?",6.464117647058824,6.669918941176473,5.847843137254902,83.41529411764708,65.47058823529412,8.760784313725491,28.764705882352942,8.344100000000001,1.8450470588235293,420,12,81,5,6,128,75,102,0.0,0.754,0.246,0.9734,2,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,2,0,0,1,1,6,0,0,7,0,6,1,0,0,1,12,15,5,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,2,3,7,1,1,2,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,1,1,9,6,14,14,4,17,0,0,1,0,20,6,0,0,6,48,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2022390151912824,0.0,0.1269307968920472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449584849761252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958813577535008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19030570744827371,0.0,0.19745467894012686,0.16078548343012555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4163360376175228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.288416099142969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2121589981590888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753297678014163,0.0,0.18722870329632527,0.0,0.0,0.21537310602928303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590622827720147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118948355679143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567419502069656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186063513207009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940108957565438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198947821463984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10883917082938664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25345098097391633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,witchypoopoo,2019/02/24,What was your moment of realization? When you absolutely wanted a divorce and there was no going back?,4.788333333333334,8.024366722222227,6.2755555555555596,66.10000000000002,76.22222222222223,8.044444444444443,25.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.7614666666666667,83,3,12,2,2,28,17,18,0.138,0.862,0.0,-0.3736,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,1,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6844404852489416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5058706452998188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.525010583108701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Prvt_Browsing,2019/02/24,"She is incapable of admitting fault and it’s making me crazy. I wish I could just be done with her. Erase her from my life. But we have a 2 year old, the house isn’t sold yet, the divorce isn’t finalized and it’s important for us to coordinate and communicate. And she just can’t get her shit together and It’s always my fault. “I’m sorry, but (excuse)” “I’m sorry I didn’t show up in the morning so you could to go to work, but if you’d just be comfortable living together I would have been there the night before.” “I’m sorry I lied to you about XYZ, but I knew you’d be mad about it.” “I’m sorry I didn’t tell you about the schedule change until the last minute, but you don’t like being interrupted with texts” The list is endless. I am trying to accept that it is simply beyond her abilities to apologize and take ownership for her part in things. I have come to expect it will be like this but it is still maddening every time it happens. 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We were together for 7 years and so so happy. Then his job relocated to Florida from NY so we decided to move. Three months after moving our happy relationship completely fell apart. Now we are headed for divorce! Has this happened to anyone else??? I'm stunned at the turn our lives have taken. It would help me feel better knowing other people have been through something similar. ,3.0336244019138765,6.1440566447368425,4.183492822966507,77.37490430622012,87.81578947368419,6.974162679425838,26.64593301435407,8.00094639256281,2.6395421052631582,339,15,52,8,11,110,63,76,0.016,0.787,0.197,0.9561,1,0,1,0,1,0,10.0,5,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,0,8,13,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,3,1,7,3,10,9,0,11,0,0,0,0,10,2,0,0,5,36,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23480527239121746,0.34407572855973284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235294266092304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484977665130636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17604453251316926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805251043976409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489749206236852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14847727573083802,0.3574746380826904,0.0,0.0,0.1723183192184934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254275679508624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16661917450146307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227584809580412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14826263071919016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340196624892558,0.5353673046512805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11640374577466925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026645188822168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292609834806402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826317345049067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11927444370454825,0.0,0.0,0.10812490629870218 divorce,assamteafling,2019/02/24,"I just don't understand cheating. Hello folks, I've recently found this sub and unfortunately have reason to post. I am at the start of this process and am very grateful to several of the posts I have read. Thank you for helping to keep me grounded and possibly a little more sane. &#x200B; After 15 years of marriage, my wife has decided to tell me she does not want to be married to me anymore. And then says she has already been seeing someone else. I asked, and she confirmed that she had been sleeping with him. So I have moved out and have sought legal advise. All the normal stuff, I guess. My initial reaction was to state that I would take 1/3 of the value of the house and that she has to pay for the cheap and easy legal paperwork. I have since come to my senses and realized that I was making this demand based on emotion and I was being nice. I have changed my mind and now want at least half, which I have been advised is the least I am entitled to considering the length of the marriage and the fact that I have a much lower income. &#x200B; I understand that people fall out of love and maybe our marriage had run it's course. Throughout our years I have recovered from alcoholism, we had a few failed IVF attempts, and we always said that we had to be honest and do our best to work through any issues we had. She has apparently not been able to get over the past, and also refused to try to change some of her behaviors which I found annoying. I always tried to talk to her about my feelings and was always told ""You take yourself too seriously"". she would state that I had to accept her for who she was and it was not fair for me to expect her to change. This goes against everything I had been learning about acceptance and self confidence in recovery, which is all meant to be stuff for me to be able to get along with the world. I know that, but why did she not ever have to take me seriously and try to grow as a person? &#x200B; Anyway, I thought I was getting paranoid for the last couple months before she told me. We were getting along and I thought we were in a happy, loving marriage. I don't understand how she can justify cheating by saying that the marriage was broken for a couple years. The only time she said anything that made me worry was when she came home drunk, which was not a regular occurrence. She talk about us not having enough sex and that she was getting attention from other men. But then when I would ask her about these statements the next day she would deny that she was getting this attention and divert the conversation. She would occasionally ask if I wanted to get divorced, but when I said no she would not be honest and continue the conversation. I freely admit that I can be oblivious and I probably should have paid more attention to these signs. I admit that I was content in life and probably was taking her for granted. But it still hurts like fuck and is damn confusing. &#x200B; So I left with my clothes, my chair, my motorcycle, and the TV. I have filed for the divorce petition and am doing all the legal stuff to make sure I can have a chance to get a deposit for a mortgage. Here in the UK property is damn expensive. I have accepted that it is time for me to start the next stage of my life, and I'll be doing this alone. We made it a long time together. Too bad she had to sleep with someone else before telling me she was not happy. If you made it through all that, thanks for paying attention. I do have several friends that are helping, I have a decent job as a teacher at a local college, and I am aware that things will eventually be ok again. I just realized recently that I have never actually lived alone, and this is strange. Not bad, just very different. &#x200B; TL;DR - After 15 years she cheated on me, and just puked about it on Reddit. Thanks if you did read it all. 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Will the court grant a divorce like that? &#x200B; One reason is that we want to keep our financials separate. I earn a lot more than him, but he doesn't want alimony. Will the court have a problem with that? &#x200B; We live in MA. Thank you!",2.9089084507042244,5.709858816901409,2.82899647887324,90.58743838028171,80.54929577464789,5.240140845070423,28.59330985915493,6.6274283507984215,1.4508718309859159,300,14,55,3,8,90,53,71,0.05,0.782,0.16699999999999998,0.6372,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,3,1,0,1,3,4,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,13,12,2,0,4,1,3,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,1,2,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,8,3,8,8,2,4,0,0,0,0,12,2,0,2,3,39,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.416269195623025,0.4668323310165531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14770901711788564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109171881874944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17074265350946374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769559836692126,0.0,0.16962319698937578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633120999785605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301683843346438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1838087473084261,0.0,0.0,0.21519009994904084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750541193856846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17685505102813606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266049390087395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13645860971274495,0.0,0.4668323310165531,0.0 divorce,redditlurker0001,2019/02/24,"Ex has moved on, I just can't I am still latching onto old memories. He was horrible throughout the separation. He is with someone new. He's moved onto someone new after all we had built and been through. I am gutted. How do you move on?",0.7231249999999996,3.16271172916667,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,87.95833333333334,5.7,24.66666666666667,7.1686216300943375,1.313016666666667,185,8,37,3,6,63,38,48,0.077,0.923,0.0,-0.5423,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,9,1,1,1,1,6,9,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,7,6,1,12,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,0,5,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7411502532853651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4489897252670792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24390978912316486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938963374079816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18562925094419427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,JoshRawrrs1,2019/02/24,"I'm honestly tired of my parents using ""Divorce"" as an argument. I'm 24(M), I still live with my parents, but I pay rent for my share of the room and utilities. Every month, there would be at least 1-2 big arguments, and it either by my dad or my mom that pulls the divorce card to try to scare the other one into stop arguing. But no, it doesn't scare the opposition, the situation just gets worst. Whoever pulls the divorce card, the other party would say things like ""do you think I need you to survive?"" ""you want a divorce? do it, tomorrow we will get the divorce paper signed"" or ""who the fuck do you think you are, bringing up divorce everytime? You think I'm scared of that?"" My parents are Asian, specifically, strict chinese, when they fight, they do it loudly, as if the whole neighborhood is fine with them arguing. I'm probably sure the entire neighborhood knows, just no one wants to bring it up because they are understanding. Why can't married couples just talk it out? It's not hard to sit down, shut the fuck up, let the other person talk, and then you who have been listening to say, ""I understand what you're trying to say, but here's my opinion on the matter"" Wouldn't that just be freaking easy? I was in a relationship of 3 years, and we maybe had 1-2 major arguments. We were understanding and talked about everything. Took turns, let the other person talk and generally try to understand from the other person's pov. We broke up because she's going back to China, and I could not fathom a LDR that far away, especially with reverse schedules in china. (Morning = Night). I honestly don't understand, I guess I'm posting this because I was sitting in my room just now, doing my hw, minding my own business, enjoying my day off school and work. Out of nowhere I hear an argument break out. Can someone enlighten me?",6.175016862268986,6.408183844192635,6.743617968433836,76.65378659112372,66.08215297450425,10.123242951571564,33.240118710373665,9.957137785484203,3.1914164036152703,1439,58,272,30,21,472,191,353,0.179,0.727,0.094,-0.9897,4,0,0,0,7,0,65.0,4,7,4,2,12,18,5,3,21,0,28,3,0,1,1,59,58,18,0,8,14,5,1,1,0,4,1,6,3,3,21,19,0,1,10,0,2,6,8,11,0,2,6,7,38,7,39,43,6,43,0,1,0,2,46,21,2,5,13,184,59,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08327477372275463,0.0681542493316515,0.0,0.16209180592090644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07076721785337939,0.0980720860852142,0.0,0.05716174374826308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07467815882735103,0.0,0.07965872786443147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16388182885556316,0.09261545050240516,0.0,0.050372873657214164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764059351232156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07939885766100141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989721532358706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048711053054535394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18126900407597735,0.0,0.04330220611834164,0.0,0.07826564610351011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904499405310229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949530227277562,0.1038073351711903,0.07074699419816996,0.0,0.0,0.06572115607922509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317721758845617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012169187966695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29525345906618394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321759641356812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08488708849465477,0.0,0.0955626875665114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951599891313196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21145648396512232,0.2662149701263393,0.08970256945970757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09962858453237544,0.0,0.0,0.07509949272411583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078340800222993,0.07410218236836333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08353670979978678,0.0,0.0,0.2849633363326547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05888464185485815,0.17037970088757148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10187200506532618,0.0,0.0,0.09847588723182103,0.1805304656461842,0.09640858678073587,0.0,0.4613567796738656,0.0,0.07655151388501723,0.0,0.0,0.1045575267802336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07997860349938979,0.09895694889225903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452677272641323,0.0,0.0,0.12592642333257806,0.0,0.0,0.05707753606083889 divorce,coronadelmar,2019/02/24,"My wife says she’s done and I’m lost Last night my wife told me she’s done and I don’t know what to do next. I’m in my 40s and we have three young children. I don’t know what any of us is going to do. My parents divorced when I was young and I know how devastating this would be for our children. I’m pretty sure I’m a great father but a terrible husband. I’m most worried about the kids but I also don’t know what any of us is going to do. This is my fault. We’ve been married for 15 years but I had an emotional affair with another woman that ended eight years ago. This involved way too many texts, calls, and staying after work (we worked together). I lied about it when my wife confronted me. She confronted me a few times and eventually we (me and the other woman) stopped. I quit my job, started working from home, and have been a very devoted father and husband since then. My wife feels as though she can’t trust me at all. Over the past two years her heart has slowly gone cold. A big part of it is that she can’t believe that I had an emotional affair and not a physical one. I’ve compounded this because I wrote some notes and things eight years ago that she discovered back then that suggest that there was more involved. There wasn’t; I just wrote what I thought would happen. But in doing so I made it much worse and she can’t move past this. I’ve made it worse in other ways too – there’s been a lot of pressure and I’ve probably changed my version of how things went, what I was feeling and so forth. She feels like she can’t believe anything I say any more. I don’t blame her. I think I understand. I don’t know how to say this but I always loved my wife. I’m sure anyone reading this would seriously doubt that and I understand that and I’ll always have to live with that. She is different from me – she is not emotionally expressive or affectionate. There were years when she was mad a lot at me because my job kept me out of the house for long hours. Her social template doesn’t really allow for compliments or just expressing love. I know she loves me but she wouldn’t just say that or show it in any way. I met someone else at the time who was affectionate and supportive, and I was willing to risk anything back then. I didn’t care, mostly because I felt like my wife didn’t care. But eight years have passed. We’ve had kids since then. I care so much about my family and my wife. We have a great house. We’ve built our lives to puzzle-piece together in most ways. The things she’s not good at I’ve tried to be great at. The things I struggle with she’s taken on like a champ. Outwardly we probably look like a model family, but I can see that it’s probably over. I don’t know what to do. I’m sure the answers involve counseling for us and therapy for me. I probably need to see a lawyer. I know my wife has been thinking about this for a long time but she doesn’t know what to do. I don’t know where she would go. She can’t afford to live on her own. I need these kids and these kids need me. She needs the kids too, but she feels trapped and she’s always sad now. She told me last night to just let her go. I want her to stay - to take one day at a time, to keep trying. But she is like a shell of herself now and she deserves to be a full person. I don’t know if anyone can help or if there’s any advice that maybe isn’t obvious, but I think that would help. I pride myself on having answers and keeping it together so this is very shaky territory. She’s been thinking about this for a while; maybe that helps her in some way (?). The past 12 hours have been traumatic for me though. Also, thanks so much to anyone who has read this far. You’re an empathetic, caring person to do that. It's a little helpful just to write this out and think someone would read it. 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So I created a throwaway so I could post on here. My initial username was Stevo4BigD. After I signed in and started composing the message I thought that maybe I would delete it and start over haha. Anyway, I am 50yo male, she is 49f. We basically are roommates in same house. I drink quite a bit, so to lose weight and to attempt to control what I thought was starting/had gotten the best of me I stopped drinking. After a couple of weeks with no drinking I realized I am depressed. I hate my life. This marriage has sucked since it began. We just arent compatible. We split 8 years ago or so and got back together. That fiasco cost us about $8K or so. About 3 years ago we were going to divorce again. She lost her job the next day. I couldnt do it at that point. I just feel dead inside and if I dont make a move It'll be too late. We've already wasted alot of time. Ive started making plans: 1) find an atty, b) find a therapist, iii) tell her. Im thinking the best time to tell her is on a friday night where she can have a few days to get a grip before she goes back to work. I feel a huge shame about waiting this long as well asgetting back with her years ago. At this point in her life she is just fine with the status quo. I am probably 60/40 to blaim in all of this, but she is certainly culpable as well.",1.4320796703296708,3.2702528178571453,2.938571428571432,93.17565934065935,79.75,6.021978021978023,22.91208791208791,7.010146845296331,0.5970439560439567,1039,34,234,12,26,340,162,280,0.084,0.843,0.073,-0.2365,2,0,3,0,1,1,37.0,5,0,0,9,21,13,2,1,16,1,23,6,0,3,2,40,44,16,1,4,7,0,4,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,13,12,4,3,8,3,1,2,4,6,2,0,9,4,37,7,32,30,7,44,0,3,0,0,22,13,1,4,28,152,50,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701163713788218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1120888971072613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23431128464262624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643157810926258,0.0,0.21319027009102165,0.0,0.11089196861605646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11392333152249565,0.08109818482053807,0.11238915990102916,0.0,0.13101302551600882,0.0,0.08748511769619505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1190434004653268,0.2985101191704476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027172399800034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18567270099203254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10613593624159658,0.0,0.05772656805949716,0.0,0.08123761706477399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10028281501333007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11720219619496812,0.0,0.0,0.1097168238744891,0.0,0.10079603835625582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11457934661508926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348875188480265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08988936245350201,0.0,0.11363477927118068,0.11087948789539913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356022169864621,0.0,0.10204424596744772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079565692959744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802458313815952,0.0953198609393206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19203960202282985,0.0,0.09727934770418756,0.0,0.10951342631941816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10803593374260018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08402265938019593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28757702048754435,0.0,0.0,0.08492000482152301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775594543581442,0.0,0.0,0.11793467708291536,0.0,0.06508420561281321,0.0,0.16127604650727187,0.17768499635477755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12218042942392762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147614510983575,0.12368917446831446,0.18265357290512307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07394672701817427,0.0,0.0,0.07215490917258839,0.0,0.0,0.1962300359816304 divorce,LurkandListen,2019/02/24,"Is there such a thing as a good/bad time to file? People, myself included, keep telling me I should wait a bit until logistics are better. Another part of me thinks that starting the process sooner is better. Things i am waiting for: To save up some money, to build a credit score, to have the idea of separation really sync in. 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I (28f) have been with my husband (32m) for 10 years, married for 4.5. I am deeply in love with him and I don’t want to leave, but he has told me he absolutely does not want to have a child. He has been a fencesitter for awhile, always kind of giving me hope (sometimes even misleading me to think he wants one), but last night he really solidified that he does not have the desire to have children. He says it’s not that he hates them, but that he has no strong desire and therefore is afraid he will regret it. I know that I want at least one child. This is something I have tried to push to the side, but my longing for a child feels like a weight I carry with me everywhere I go. It gets heavier with each new pregnancy announcement that seems to happen so frequently around me. I fear that if I don’t leave, I will regret not having a child. But I am so in love with him that I can hardly bear the thought of actually leaving. I have known him since I was 16 and I feel like I don’t even know a life without him. 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Last Monday he told me it wouldn't work anymore, he was leaving, and needed about a week to find a new place. We used to live in my condo. There was no fight, no screams, no name-calling, we ended it pretty maturely. Still, I don't feel emotionally ready to see him or speak to him for now. During this week, I've been staying at my mother's. I have depression and anxiety and having her company really helps. He is finally leaving next Monday, but I still don't feel ready to stay there, to look at the place and have all the memories come back, to not see his stuff there. A friend offered to stay at my condo for the first three days, which I know would be helpful, but I still feel like staying at my mother's for at least another week. Honestly this feels like a step back, I'd been living on my own/with him for the past year or so and I don't want to create a codependant relationship with my mother, but I just don't feel strong enough yet to be there. It doesn't help that my classes will start back up Monday - I'm a full time college student, I'm 24, yes, got a late start. Is it okay to want to be ""babied"" by my mother? Is a week of it enough? Is two weeks to much? 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I’m curious, has anyone managed to work things out with their SO? If so, what do you credit your new beginning to? 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Married 8 years - problems progressed as she was controlling, uncompromising, and not interested in intimacy. After years of depression and considering ending my life due to feeling unwanted and unloved, I asked for a divorce 2 weeks after our only kid was born. After she moved out, I started dating a close friend, who had been there for me for years, and while there was never any prior acknowledgement of stronger feelings, I can admit was an emotional affair in the last few months of my marriage. The new relationship is fantastic - she is caring, considerate, and I have never felt better about myself. But I am still stricken with guilt thinking I could have tried harder, that I abandoned my kid and her - crazy, given how I was treated, but I have huge regret over not being able to stick to my vows, that I chose to end it. I think I am having an optimistic recollection, but we did have fun together, it was just more like having a controlling and hot tempered roommate. But with the building guilt, after a year apart I had to get it off my chest, and apologized for my part in the failed marriage, with no expectation or request to fix things (I am so happy in my current relationship). To my surprise, she responds and seems like a new person - she offers up all her faults and apologizes (she never admitted fault before, ever), she knows about my emotional affair, and she is willing to forgive and wants to try again to restore the family. This was surprising but also terrifying. She seems changed, and I still have love for her as my child’s mother. We have years of history so maybe could rekindle things but at this point would be near starting over, and I could be with my kid every day. But of course there is no guarantee this leads to happiness this time around. And I would have to throw away my current relationship forever, which has been amazing - I love her, and would completely devastate her. I am also not sure I can be a happy person without being there for my child every day. People say not to reconcile for the kid, but it is a huge factor as I already feel like a failed father who abandoned their child. I want to be a good and present father. I am optimistic that maybe things could be better with the new reformed ex, and in the end I was the one with the emotional affair and who asked for the separation. But do I risk the current wonderful current relationship at this uncertain possibility of reconciliation? I am torn. Separation (divorce not finalized) has been traumatic and painful, even though in the end if was my decision. I went through some incredibly dark days, with a mantra I repeated to get myself through each day. I never want to be back in the same depression that I once was during the marriage. There is a lot to gain and also so much pain with either choice. 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Now before making any assumptions let me give you a brief summary of the start of my marriage. I got married at 16. My ex husband is significantly older in age. To be exact 12 years. At the time I wasn't sure what I was thinking. I can't remember if I was in love, infatuated, lonely or depressed. All I know is he got a hold of me at a very venerable phase of my life. Now don't get me wrong I had a really good life. I lived in a nice large house, he bought me a car, he took care of all of my basic needs. He never physically or verbally abused me. I had it all or so it seemed on the surface. I come from a very poor financial upbringing knowing that he thought I would never ask for more, but be grateful for what he has given me. He was a very broken soul and still is. A lot of mental issues. A lot of anger issues. Depression. When he met me he was so desperate to start a family of his own. I came from the same ethnic background, from the same country, from the same city, but most of all I was young and impressionable. He was easily able to shape and form me in to something that aligned with his world views. There was a huge imbalance of power in our marriage. It never felt as we were equals. He always had the last say. I always felt like a child who's masquerading a role of a wife. To be honest I never thought it would come to this, but my infidelity had less to do with my ex, even less with my marriage, but more about discovering myself. I acknowledge that what I did was extremely wrong, very selfish and I'm ashamed of myself. I feel guilty for causing so much pain to my ex, but not for the act itself. Ever since marriage I lost my identity. Prior to it I had dreams, goals, interests, a large social circle and a handful of very close friends. In my marriage I was a homemaker, a wife and a mother. Today I'm 24, alone and I can only identify myself as a single mom. Some say I'm a whore, bitch, ungrateful, entitled, selfish and stupid. Others say that I'm a victim and that I have a Stockholm Syndrome. On my journey to self healing and recovery I discovered divorce care a faith based divorce recovery group. It's not the best, but it helps to share and be heard with no judgment. Also a book named the state of affairs by Esther Perel. It's goes very deep in to untangling the state of your marriage and the affair, as well as the outcome. If you find yourself asking ""why?"" I would highly recommend you read this book. 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Hey everyone. I've been reading through a lot of the posts on here. I'm currently going through a separation that is amicable and open. I still love him as a good friend and respect him. But years of the same disagreement/conversation finally led to the agreement that we're in a super dysfunctional codependent relationship. The thing is, I've spent several years in therapy and striving to be a better partner by example. I realized the only thing I can change is my own behavior, so I made sure to be as loving as I wanted him to be. I tried to talk to him when things didn't feel quite right or I felt disconnected, but he always insisted that things were fine and got annoyed when I asked about his feelings. So after years of this, he has straight up said that he feels like the hero/rescuer and I'm basically the unstable helpless victim. I think my best option at this point is to seriously figure out where I'm going to live, as well as employment. I don't see how anything I do or try will affect that deep-rooted concept of me as helpless. Does anyone relate to this kind of situation at all? I don't feel any deep hatred of him, and there was no betrayal on either side. I still want him to be happy and appreciate him, but I think I need to be alone. I feel a bit weird that I'm not distraught about this. Any input is appreciated! &#x200B; \*\*disclaimer\*\* wine brain :/ :)",4.113541188053826,5.878153299638993,5.380382343288481,78.91371102723993,71.96028880866426,8.790876271742697,28.836396455530032,9.339509955726095,2.61539855595668,1132,45,215,26,22,377,163,277,0.131,0.6809999999999999,0.189,0.9316,2,1,1,0,0,0,43.0,0,0,0,4,13,22,2,1,13,0,20,4,1,4,2,38,47,23,0,3,7,0,6,1,2,1,0,1,0,1,15,9,1,0,10,2,1,3,5,7,1,0,9,8,27,15,39,32,7,30,0,2,1,2,20,15,0,4,12,145,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295848965255045,0.0,0.0,0.0987848507165644,0.12863346137954265,0.1442582330231358,0.1614678329445458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08301203669182126,0.0,0.09769674134878213,0.0,0.11098751132356044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458969424730194,0.1049985114635528,0.12961188574372678,0.0,0.0,0.13253118588866286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12559040002064667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10389298782175256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344239244094845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30014290796600285,0.08481384951230106,0.11399016425421896,0.13005235230518586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09172305629370137,0.0,0.06202648854164825,0.0,0.1349430339650704,0.09957700603115437,0.09495151788267137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638003172038553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12362898664336812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058000771513985284,0.0,0.10483225368790916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10093180531392744,0.2142995216379769,0.11233607597399076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802964326964145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09029218417036024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122291148145862,0.0,0.11370128835492413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627371734146692,0.11875248826515925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274612376975672,0.0,0.10138653948840433,0.11293024985691205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09460475682008124,0.0,0.0,0.13412021535267976,0.0,0.0,0.13344665978291687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403088245958874,0.0,0.18962046706343494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11189253510285327,0.0,0.0,0.09542292900345092,0.0,0.0,0.13576707921339534,0.0,0.3154901298629061,0.15214242702852931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16120666401524686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14004868953498895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674386214582192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442582330231358,0.22935605996136885 divorce,Allnamestak3n,2019/02/24,"Surprise divorce So, my husband informed me a couple months ago that he wants a divorce. We have one child. He has a girlfriend and we had agreed that we would just file without attorneys and carry on in peace. Our daughter would be with him while I finish AIT and then come with me when it made sense. There didn't seem to be any debate about anything. Well I just listened to a voicemail from his attorney (he hired one anyway - said so we don't miss anything). She said that if I didn't call back by Wednesday then they would just file nd have me served. Well - I just heard the message today so missed that. Anyway. What's likely to happen. Is there legal help? What's he going to get? Can he take full custody? We don't own any things together because we didn't have any dispute about any of that. My main concern is custody and if he is going to screw anything else up. Thanks.",1.8268631578947383,4.271072702857147,2.364390977443609,94.51603007518796,81.97142857142856,4.369924812030075,22.353383458646626,5.399115186594226,0.08534285714285694,693,23,140,3,19,213,106,175,0.024,0.8420000000000001,0.134,0.9454,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,7,0,1,0,17,8,1,0,5,0,19,1,0,1,0,27,35,13,0,6,7,2,0,1,1,3,0,4,0,1,9,13,0,0,2,0,0,3,6,3,2,2,8,4,20,5,16,22,3,17,0,2,0,1,31,4,1,3,11,98,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374255933459589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4217054802608981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3827318154870105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11920923991129632,0.0,0.0945054351913408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830394520267516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335454459616845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17153881017517342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129508475203405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099727872218407,0.0,0.17621533623246946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709336726597834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10391398558796393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07574029687760786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466940442729113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1237442343959035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101059835044484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2949398922585897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14113436480330213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656398921455813,0.0,0.0,0.14273168029214905,0.0,0.0,0.10299568210058148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14695122421727233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09144127781250573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27878290573557524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1494443146032024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303886410040736,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,somethingsmells82,2019/02/25,"Not really sure if i should So I'm 38/m and my stbxw is 37/f. We have been together for 14 years married 6. We have a 5 year old son. We own a home together. My wife told me at the end of January her heart wasn't in it anymore. I told her a week later i was moving out. We had been trying to save our marriage for the past 4 months. Those 4 months had probably been the best we have had in a very long time. It was on fight on a Sunday that changed her feelings towards me. Our first fight in like a year. I think she was looking for a way out personal and with that fight she found one. My stbxw had cheated on me twice. Once when we were dating and the second when we were married. I have major trust issues with her. Now I haven't been a saint ether. I have had my demons. I'm an acholic and up until last Saturday I was 18 months sober. She stuck with me through a lot of blackout nights where I was definitely not the nicest person to be around. I never did cheat on her. We definitely love each other even though we were not the best we could have been to each other. About 7 years ago we were split up for 2 months and I had started talking to this girl. We had know each other since school and had reconnected on FB. Once me and my stbxw decided to get back together I broke it of with her. Now last Saturday I was at a buddies house and was looking through my old messages on FB and there she was I had never deleted them. Well while I was scrolling through I accidentally hit the 👍and sent it. I thought oh shit. In about 10 seconds she sends the same back and we start messaging back and fourth. She texted her number and wants me to call but I'm not even close to being ready for that. It felt good to know that someone wants me but bad in a way cause I'm still in the house for one more week. I feel like I'm cheating on my wife. It's weird cause my stbxw left for a 3 day business trip today and she has texted me more today then she has in 4 weeks. She's joking around in a lot of her texts something she hasn't done in a while. I love her and it hurts but i know I can never be with her again. It sucks. I enjoy talking to this other person I'm not looking for anything romantic just talking. But I'm guess I'm asking is it wrong for me to be talking to someone else even if it's just for comfort. 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Filing a divorce Sorry, using phone while posting this. 27 years old.... made some bad decisions while young and now many regrets. So I Filed a divorce with the Michigan Macomb county court. Filed the complain, then served the documents to my wife and she signed without hesitation (what a bitch!). I then filed the prove of service through the court web portal. It has been around 25 days. I tried to call the court to see my status and check up on what needs to be done. They told me I have to keep it going? How the heck can I keep it going when I don’t even know what’s the next step? Everyone I talked to refused to at least point me to the right path. The Michigan state check list said they will send me a notice for pre hearing after I filed the proof of service. Nothing. I work 12 hours a day 6-6. And the court operates at 8-4:30PM(I still think they need to open a little bit later since not everyone can take day off) I’m sorry for asking you guys this, but can anyone recommend me the next step after you filed the summon proof of service? This would be divorce with no children (the only good thing about it) ",2.7737892376681614,4.801361838565022,3.25715470852018,91.56976793721977,76.3542600896861,5.715605381165919,22.360762331838565,6.508806274219699,0.4112530941704038,882,25,180,7,20,274,137,223,0.064,0.8859999999999999,0.05,0.5704,0,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,0,2,3,1,8,5,1,0,21,0,12,0,0,3,3,29,29,12,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,11,8,0,3,4,0,2,5,4,4,0,0,5,3,21,1,27,20,3,36,0,1,1,0,23,10,2,1,19,111,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09549109511000604,0.0,0.0,0.12157393192364813,0.12767207530598002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11402806702879215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14909622028537542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13945057532096705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642240076946388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397558561386055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09020147373207098,0.0,0.0,0.2609919890606064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522879095991254,0.11454624814219802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352231881461157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15392137502881612,0.0,0.0915382434441777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1344913706906796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2427747439576224,0.0,0.0,0.07505386652640157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13687640328394415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12922336738876927,0.0,0.13845789933496455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20252597991706514,0.0,0.0,0.2904819392208144,0.0,0.0,0.13104009487008356,0.1554828797717919,0.14330450370580142,0.0,0.0,0.1038656547882476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12910032694002455,0.0,0.13079380982709954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166278056892377,0.12990686242186378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088265291562884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11296995705150514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3057520264879601,0.0,0.0,0.10906289483282984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10268168198124247,0.10976769577370996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09072930624762976,0.08750686977831876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304959945303032,0.0,0.09272029394360944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11795037769123135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13164609146779493,0.0,0.09942268712946138,0.0,0.0,0.09701355622890256,0.0,0.0,0.08794492224115877 divorce,Lairofthebeast,2019/02/25,"Anyone know a good town or city to start over again from scratch? Moving out soon and don't really wanna go back to my hometown in South Texas. Just looking for a place with moderate temperature, laid back people and decent karaoke. I'm 40 m, I've lived in a few places across the country so I'm not new to starting over. I just have no idea where I'd like to go. I have a military pension, so I'm flexible. Any recommendations, shoot em at me. 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I'd given everything emotionally to fight off this conclusion. I cannot be with her anymore and the pain of leaving her is breathtaking. However the anger, resentment, and sadness of staying has become far, far more damaging. I discovered her 2nd affair at the end of December, it'd been going on for two months. I was crushed but I thought deep down we could make it past this. She has been by best friend, my favorite person and partner. We separated after the first, but there was a lot of other stresses going on at the time that I rationalized what she did and I forgave her. We got back together after three months and in time felt stronger than ever. When I found out about the second she made a bunch of promises and really tried over January and February to make some positive changes. Things I'd been asking her to do (treat her depression, calm down on her drinking) for months before I found out. I'm proud of her for bettering herself, for becoming a better person, wife, and mother. But I can't help but be fine myself feeling anger and resentment and asking myself a question with no real answer. Why did she do that? I've been a good man, husband, and father. My dad and stepfather were terrible, unfaithful, abusive people and I swore my whole life to never hurt people the way that they did, but to also be humble about the good that I do. I don't understand why I had to be humiliated and heartbroken for her to want to change. I can't get over that, I will never be able to fall in love with my wife again. Stringing her along or becoming paranoid/controlling are not who I want to be as a husband. I won't let myself become those things. This is a chest crushing pain. I thought I was strong enough to forgive her and soldier through this, but I can't. 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My STBXW moved out three weeks and a day ago. I’ve done my best to deal with it responsibly. Hired a lawyer and paid flat fee in full. I’ve been working out more, eating better, drinking less, and trying to stay on top of a budget. I’ve done a lot of cleaning and even painted the ceiling of my living room. I’ve also been going to therapy weekly. I thought I was doing well but this weekend was tough. Yesterday was Grey and rainy and I had to work in the evening. The work had me spending a lot of time thinking and worrying. I’m worried about money, worried about the prospect of dating again, feeling lonely, isolated, and low confidence. I can barely talk to other human beings let alone a women I’m attracted to. I know some day my STBXW will find someone new to love and be with and I’m not sure how I am going to take that when it happens. I just want this whole process to be over so I can take stock and figure out what my next move is. Mostly I just feel so lonely. I miss even the wasted, going through the motions, kisses and hugs we still shared daily till she left. I’ve just been feeling so worthless and scared these past few days and I needed to get it out. I tried so hard to fix things and it didn’t work. I feel like I’m going to just make the same mistakes with anyone I’m with. Thanks for reading. 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Situation has become toxic at home. No longer a healthy environment for our daughter. I am primary care giver. Can I get custody and keep the home? My (33M) wife (37F) has been having an emotional affair with a neighbor (Check post history if you want the story). We have been married for 9 years. We have an 8 year old daughter and a home together. I am the primary breadwinner in the home ($100k) my wife makes about a third of what I make. We live in Georgia. My wife an I have been working through her emotional affair, but this past weekend, an incident occurred that out everything back at square one. The man she has been texting/calling/probably sleeping with, entered our home at 2am looking for her. Suffice it to say that I do not think that our marriage is a healthy environment for our daughter any longer. My wife never spends time or pays attention to our daughter. I do everything. I get her dressed in the mornings, feed her breakfast, take her to school. I spend time and do things with her in the afternoons and weekends. My wife is always so preoccupied with her phone, she never has time for either of us. I literally cannot think of the last time my wife took her and did something with her. We never do anything as a family. It’s always just my daughter and I. Have I painted a clear enough picture? My question is this, with the pattern of behavior outlined above, do I have enough ground to go after full custody AND keep our house? I know that I need to speak to a lawyer, and I plan to later this week, but I want a good idea of what I can anticipate, what documents to have, and what questions to ask the lawyer. While I have no proof that a physical affair ever occurred, I have a mountain of text exchanges that do not paint a married mother in a good light. No sexts, but vary inappropriate conversations between her and a single man that is not her husband.",4.193288477712366,5.919152745257456,4.945855527520795,82.26634146341466,71.6829268292683,7.908083356695636,30.6103167928231,8.53829466247534,2.401256349873844,1509,66,286,26,29,487,177,369,0.021,0.9,0.079,0.9445,0,0,1,0,0,0,51.0,11,1,0,2,5,4,0,0,29,0,34,3,1,2,6,51,52,18,0,4,10,14,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,2,17,21,2,2,7,2,5,3,10,0,0,2,7,5,53,4,40,45,5,36,0,0,2,0,55,11,0,4,21,209,70,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652362758225796,0.0,0.0,0.06752134357486399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170810394193209,0.0,0.09282376245392436,0.0,0.0,0.07634871655326103,0.0,0.0,0.10965920400229104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10123387996847548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33506732388806826,0.0,0.205188468822026,0.0,0.0,0.08981447215272688,0.0,0.0,0.17847285222435474,0.0,0.0936027995587169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10375098909022586,0.0,0.056429412553764234,0.1665613048437953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4979852766976334,0.0,0.0,0.11456858260613326,0.0,0.11208755077050088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17650895944885706,0.0,0.0,0.0545677843882352,0.0809354876045037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08767584837061156,0.0,0.08337950546012722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325551423332056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362308243801757,0.22973822075281586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418929259734357,0.0,0.06728220980463268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478457697036173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09509341416075333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2224574811565492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07896025714180806,0.0,0.10048788031471766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11160734122461237,0.09936279321516668,0.0,0.0,0.07643912921894386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465454002963029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596458583880221,0.12724343790797132,0.0,0.0,0.23158972378388265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031605036109657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943495152618196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171289105805872,0.0,0.0796453203480694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07228509343580554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1278804084852188 divorce,ganjafinch,2019/02/25,"2 yrs in & is this it? Rant I always day dreamed of being married. I wanted this my whole life. Is this really how marriage is? I feel like I have one foot out the door. For our first yr of marriage, my husband has: 1. Created two tumblr pages that included pro pedo memes. 2. Paid for cam girls & their snapchats 3. Called me a bitch handful of times 4. Hid his porn addiction 5. Has a lot of ""friendly"" racists in his life (white dudes that say negro and nigger casually but get offended when called racist) 6. In order to fix these issues, I have to take it upon myself for us to adress these issues. He admits his porn addiction and is willing to go to therapy. He doesnt think it will work but I will have to basically parent him into going and set up the appt. 7. I feel like my dreams and anything I want to do is last priority. His debt, baggage, even his to do lists come first. I have become this doormat, it is easier to just work through and get the shit he wants done first and then work around him to do what I want. 8. I have become dependent on pot to get through my daily life 9. I am so sick of hearing ""im sorry"" and ""whatever"" almost daily My husband has so many good qualitities. He takes care of me. With each fuck up he is remorseful, we talk through it, and we move forward. But after each hit... I am just caring less. My depression is worse, I can barely get ready for the day, I feel like I have lost myself. His baggage is so much heavier now. In the end... I am day dreaming of a life on my own the past few months. But before I really decide on us.... I can admit that I need to work on my shit. I play an equal part in who I am today. I have let myself go. I have become dependent on him. I couldnt leave him if I wanted. Part of me thinks he talked me into not working a full time job to trap me. He was afraid I thought this after I found those tumblr pages. Now every fuck up reminds me of it. That I am devoting myself to this marriage that is making me weaker. Today I am making a promise to myself to change my current life, regardless if its with him or not. I got less than a year until I am 29. My goals are to 1. Self care: therapy, primary dr, working out 2. Get a job & hide a savings 3. Be an artist again 4. Give my all to us and see if its reciprocated In the end, I need to know I gave my all. I also need a timeline to know and trust my decision. He needs to want to meet me half way and change. I need to make a plan to really change my life... if hes in it or not. 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My ex (F39) is now moved in with the guy (M49) she left me for, he's divorced his wife (F??) and they're getting married this summer. It'll be a year from the final divorce in a few weeks. We have joint custody and the kids (Boys, 9&5) are adjusting. Good days and bad but way, way better than they were over the summer. They're settling into their step family and I sincerely believe they are well treated at their mom's house. I'm starting to feel like I have my shit together. I'm a series of post divorce cliche's - focusing on work, hitting the gym, dating misadventures. My new house feels like my home, my finances produce less anxiety. At times I feel like the divorce has made me better, maybe even most times. It's just my life now. However... When I see my ex, with her fiancee, I still get angry and sad. It's just so wrong what they're doing and yet they seem so happy. I feel like they're getting away with something. I start checking off the list of all the shitty things they're doing. I try to prove to myself that she's not happy... but I can't do that, can I? Spending any energy on that is just a waste. I can make the perfect case of how badly she handled the divorce, how emotionally volatile she still is and then... what? Do I need to get to a point where I'm not waiting for her to get hers? My gospel belief in the statistical inevitability of her relationship with this man falling apart - I have to really let that go, don't I? If I'm really comfortable with myself and my life then seeing them together won't hurt anymore. It'll just be a fact. I wont need their relationship to fall apart to feel that she was wrong, right? Is that moving on?",2.637190340402782,4.4214765828729305,3.8608786312600247,88.1807618962752,75.9889502762431,6.659918018178579,24.10835858135805,7.4822170145007005,1.023265621101408,1401,45,291,18,31,457,187,362,0.115,0.745,0.14,0.8776,1,0,1,0,7,0,68.0,1,0,7,5,17,23,1,0,19,0,27,4,1,5,4,48,56,19,0,3,9,4,5,5,1,4,3,0,1,4,16,18,0,1,9,1,3,9,6,8,1,0,3,8,46,15,40,45,4,56,2,2,3,0,37,23,1,3,26,183,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19199991228445346,0.1076608208692627,0.060252226422331176,0.0,0.067780094142679,0.0,0.08786912528536599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324425814491733,0.0,0.1479575161345843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982382829243733,0.0,0.15672209061931094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632255993236327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05714079714507597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775359861066393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966504020191527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0585206184443445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352584196614532,0.0,0.22399852800446435,0.2531884237931021,0.0,0.09705888330761213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23145378021373636,0.0,0.05035441479772699,0.0743149419229214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772965973740038,0.0,0.18863641500888254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887477664986168,0.0,0.0,0.2044690408868007,0.09485000295014827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626605764664893,0.0906012895286291,0.1251640687138819,0.21643169132831191,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440315278080133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08383711556103743,0.059142354302009516,0.0,0.08901236401010637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10376929555036774,0.0,0.3766785418364887,0.0,0.13139414585395634,0.0,0.08557211961920372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942785059756734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08375728977930354,0.0,0.08485598209303352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113521096148379,0.0,0.0,0.1902502365647512,0.0,0.07566540805102574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14120824252371705,0.08065970305948557,0.0,0.0,0.09094842032432436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820995373291361,0.0,0.0,0.12542554548712573,0.0,0.14151493963182213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05886306390523891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332878269106434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060154770420255486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14065588581127275,0.07107097727950748,0.0,0.07966361143167143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06450312724930538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19374420339394907,0.1076608208692627,0.11411324063018136 divorce,jibboo24,2019/02/25,"Lawyer up, or no? After 6 years of marriage, my STBXW and I have decided to separate. So far things are amicable. I am continuing to live in the same house until I find a place and we are on good, speaking terms (in fact, things between us seem a lot better since we made the decision). She says that she does not want alimony and would like to share the kids (ages 3 and 4) equally. She said that we'd each keep our own debt, and split everything else 50/50 (not that there's much to split). I'm confident that I'll have no troubles with her when it comes to possessions. I don't really want much of it. &nbsp; Anyway, she said that she doesn't think we need to get lawyers involved and she will not be getting one. That certainly makes me feel better about the cost of the divorce, but is that really a good idea? &nbsp; What are some things I should consider before making a final decision about an attorney? 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Existential angst. I might be getting divorced. And I’m feeling a lot of, idk, existential angst about the whole thing? Is this common? Does it get better? I can’t stop asking why I’m here, what my purpose is, or what I want out of life. I have a job that’s fine. It’s not a career that I will ever be passionate about, but it pays the bills and is basically okay. I have things I like to do. But over the last several years, those have all involved my spouse. I like spending time with my spouse, and I’ve been happy. But I haven’t been worried about what my goals were for life. I suppose they were an unspoken “be happy, live a good life, be financially secure, and do things you enjoy doing” kind of deal. My relationship was probably a bigger part of that than I realized. And now it’s like... do I really care that much about hiking or running or playing DnD or watching tv shows or reading books or whatever? If we get divorced, I don’t want to look for another relationship to fulfill me. I’d like to have another relationship in time, but is that enough? Do I need specific life goals? Like try to sell paintings or publish novels or... something? Or is this me just maybe losing a big chunk of my life and not knowing how I’m going to fill it? 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My soon to be ex-wife (39) and I (40) came to the conclusion after approximately 5 years that was time to part ways. I won’t bore you with the details, but suffice it to say that we weren’t happy, haven’t been for the last couple of years, and decided to part ways now, as friends, rather than let an unhappy marriage drag on into some of the ugly horror stories I’ve read here. We’re nearly at the finish line, and it’s been about as amicable as humanly possible. This should be something to be happy about, right? This is about the best outcome one could hope for in a situation like this, right? But then, why don’t I feel happy? Why do I feel so depressed?",3.7852348993288594,4.391165543624162,5.1095906040268435,84.96787583892619,71.41610738255035,8.10765100671141,26.309395973154363,8.238735603445708,1.4575551677852348,562,17,122,8,10,188,96,149,0.134,0.654,0.212,0.9427,1,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,1,1,0,2,8,11,0,0,8,0,17,0,0,0,0,23,23,11,0,5,5,0,2,1,1,3,0,1,0,1,8,8,0,0,5,1,0,1,5,2,0,1,5,3,8,9,26,9,4,20,0,1,0,0,6,8,0,2,10,85,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14970997026333094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16316187620572786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139001965963004,0.15784752071020927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287047024415733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442635720323651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038613128245286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102166283748564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6074451311577073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169082622026793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628468936006005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587669140707535,0.0,0.06969512070053926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666823661855264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3089677742992299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16082460145302047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14269584329811896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2436570039538361,0.0,0.11344676167756455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035271286713162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982451158648188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318458282721321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22646935110781455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25745193716536763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18373316842924384 divorce,misseff,2019/02/25,"When should I tell my boss? I'm extremely anxious about my name change, I can't hide that I'm getting divorced. We are filing tomorrow. I work remotely and I feel like it makes it more awkward. I work with A LOT of people and in general I'm anxious about when the name change goes through and everything automatically changes over on our email/chat apps. I don't know how to handle it. I'm still in the stage of feeling like a failure.",2.5888636363636373,4.627948340909093,3.8522727272727297,87.03590909090912,76.95454545454545,7.127272727272729,28.04545454545455,8.07648339933343,1.8188590909090911,346,15,72,6,8,113,59,88,0.118,0.785,0.097,-0.4139,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,2,6,3,0,1,4,0,4,0,0,3,0,16,13,6,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,2,10,2,11,12,2,9,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,6,42,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4452649877667068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6254203489954178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771134012403755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1992885679348498,0.28157304673450545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102960704279681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10830426892043517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255645206595776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754148112646758,0.0,0.0,0.13154545253203712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366232101452666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573799943679232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17224746979775066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2869379538194389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,johnnyzvette,2019/02/25,"4th Divorce on the way... So here I go again. I’m on my fourth marriage and it looks like i’m heading towards divorce again. I initiated the divorce. I’m 47(M) she’s 46( F)we don’t have any children together, which is a first, lol. I had one child with all my previous wives. No one cheated or anything like that. We’ve been married for nine years, together eleven years. I’ve been unhappy for many years and I just don’t want to continue like this anymore. It’s like we’re just going through the motions. Sex is almost nonexistent. I care for her but the love is gone. I feel guilty for doing this to her but i feel this is the right thing to do for me. I’m throwing in the towel on marriage. I feel like marriage is just not something i’m good at, perhaps I just don’t pick the right women. I don’t know. Am I the bad guy here? 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Almost 4 months out from the initial split, I'm no longer on my knees crying. I'm muddling through day to day. For every couple of good days I'm dragged back under the blanket of depression. Realizing that the person that you always turned to for comfort, is the one who broke you, is devastating. 16 great years. Like really great. We were living such a charmed life together. Even up to the day I found out he had been cheating. So pissed that I gave him all my ""cute"" years. The loneliness is suffocating. But at 44 all my friends are married with lives. I'm now this weird single woman who doesn't know how to be alone. Thanks for letting me vent. 🙁 ",1.8141447368421064,4.468693812030075,2.7345817669172945,90.26247415413536,84.5639097744361,5.731015037593986,22.598214285714285,7.1686216300943375,0.9008650375939848,539,19,107,8,16,170,97,133,0.214,0.632,0.154,-0.8302,0,1,0,0,0,0,19.0,1,2,0,0,6,14,2,0,8,0,11,3,2,1,2,12,20,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,6,4,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,0,1,5,0,10,9,18,13,4,15,0,2,0,0,11,6,1,1,10,66,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17164861961222805,0.17753554504190605,0.0,0.0,0.14263205707394447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13180852016587322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18966882715659086,0.1882927084085606,0.4421972174850355,0.0,0.14764057033352454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321882059105365,0.0,0.14442558901714575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1879490772830119,0.13243577436601944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14377582295730051,0.0,0.3779740553468372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0942058915152322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1752847358271773,0.12107637117369525,0.0837453242365266,0.0,0.3027273895287031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682282033607188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11615609152580646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856271011316777,0.0,0.0,0.14967406312842949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981364312089882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157817058259038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18645166338807412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207728978506859 divorce,partial_jeremy,2019/02/25,What to do it your heart hasn't made up its mind Seeing her this moring to drop my daughter off seemed to bring back a flood a memories. Do I still want to be married to her? Some days the decision is one way yet today I miss her. 6 months of seperation and some days I just don't know if this is what's right. What do you do if your heart hasnt made up it's mind?,0.6823867595818847,1.9661090853658576,2.3614982578397243,98.99621951219515,80.09756097560975,6.149128919860628,17.811846689895468,6.868970318607317,-0.3685665505226483,283,5,74,3,7,93,53,82,0.055,0.927,0.018000000000000002,-0.4137,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,10,2,2,2,0,14,18,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,0,1,2,1,10,0,9,15,3,14,0,1,1,0,7,4,0,5,7,51,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16530798200406566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772913677290123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5095097000784121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11814855215489325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40684256436521615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4341413180435633,0.0,0.17159667898097627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456774498601959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18359355781275435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131291765408008,0.19571164998971435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17168500058271455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20377791475275006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680202573480273,0.1706428020977679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,yourjane,2019/02/25,"Because I (F44) need a reminder of why I have to leave this relationship with my Narcissist Husband (M44). We have been married 14 years. Out of which, 10 have been sexless because my husband does not believe in initiating sex, or touching me in any way outside of the bed and I don't do mechanical sex for the sake of it. While for years, I cried and asked him to go to a counselor with me, he gave me empty promises but did not do anything about it. He expected me to book the appointments and drag him there because apparently, I was the one who was unhappy and he was perfectly fine with status quo. 8 years into the marriage, I asked for a divorce. He was shocked ! (LOL) 10 years into the marriage I find him on an extra marital dating website and he plays it off as only chatting and said there was nothing wrong with it till he physically or emotionally cheated on me. Since we live in a very Patriarchal developing nation, I wasn't too keen on filing for a divorce on my own and he finally agreed for counselling. Then refused to make any action plan or take any action to work towards saving this marriage. 13 years into the marriage, I asked for an open marriage. He didn't dispute it. Later called me out for cheating! Still does not want to divorce me. Now I am speaking to a counsellor on my own and he is working to help me move on from this relationship. And because it still makes me feel guilty that I could not make my marriage work and that my family will never understand the emotional abuse I had to go through the hands of this man (they think the sun shines out of his ass!), every time I have second thoughts about separation, I would like to take this time to quickly write why I need to move out of this relationship. Please bear with me as I list all of those: 1. He is a man with unstable / fragile self image who needs validation from everyone outside himself to make him feel like a success. Any complaints / facts/ discussions that highlight a dissonance between how he sees himself and how he actually is will get him to deny / lie / blame others including me for the same. 2. He is willing to settle for an unsatisfactory marriage to avoid the hard work of confronting the issues, resolving problems and establishing a satisfying relationship. Doesn't believe he needs help dealing with his challenges, because ""What will the counselor tell me outside of what i already know?"" 3. Admits zero accountability of where we are because everything is always someone or something else's fault. No remorse for any past behavior or choices made by him. Have yet to hear, yes, I could have tried harder or WE should work at saving this marriage. Its always about ""why don't you change your mind?"" 4. Will take action only when it inconveniences him or his life style. Has no empathy for me if it means he will have to work to change himself. 5. Deluded in thinking that his relationships with others is closer then it actually is. Recently told me ""he feels a SOUL connection to me"". 6. Avoids conflict at all costs. Does not like discussions of any sort that may get heated or force him to acknowledge his part in the negative situation. Will remain silent, proceed to do exactly as he wants. At some point will think of an excuse and blame his choices on external circumstances. 7. His brain switches off the moment I start speaking. Even if it is mundane stuff about every day life for which he has raised a query. Will sit through the discussion either mostly silent (while having an entire conversation in his own head), or will start speaking mid way about something completely different from topic at hand. Will raise the same query again in a matter of minutes / hours / days or weeks depending on when he feels the need to know about it. Still, no guarantee that he will actual hear what I am saying. When pointed out will show no remorse or even acknowledge that, that is the case. Will go on doing exactly the same every time. 8. Will rely on me for emotional support but is incapable of giving the same in return. 9. Emotionally unstable. Will cry no end for a dog on the street (expects me to look after all strays he gets home) while will sit completely unmoved by my pain. Dramatic about simple life events (Boss looked at me the wrong way, I am going to get fired). 10. Will lie, deny facts about whole conversations, timelines, incidents if it means he can pretend it didnt happen at all. I am delusional because I have made up these scenarios in my head. 11. Dismissive of my feelings or negates my feelings if inconvenient for him to deal with. 12. External Locus of Control - Temples, religion, astrologers, divine intervention, fate, circumstances....are responsible for what happens to him in life. 13. Financially incompetent - Always under estimates expenses and over estimates his capacity to pay them. No plan for the future. I could go on a few more times....but these are the major ones that will keep reminding me of why what I am doing is much needed for my sanity, self respect and happiness. And for any of you out there who think of going back because its too painful to separate....make your own list in comments.",5.475454384227722,7.204835355718785,5.9146733074206,76.56432718029058,68.47534102833157,9.020640527319213,32.20532639699688,9.452860124536354,3.125354917754164,4086,179,713,87,71,1314,412,953,0.13,0.7759999999999999,0.095,-0.9851,2,2,2,0,4,0,135.0,4,4,2,13,29,29,3,2,46,2,75,14,6,11,10,139,137,48,0,20,24,2,12,3,0,22,6,7,2,4,47,39,0,6,21,5,4,11,20,12,0,4,18,23,87,17,143,94,22,112,2,0,4,3,109,52,1,21,47,497,134,11,0.0,0.05930653418831251,0.14653825232447554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05523651271611781,0.0,0.12494834926708424,0.0,0.0,0.2382719841464505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0411906834963603,0.0,0.14038292540351366,0.0,0.0,0.038488909510538516,0.0,0.2441026313759019,0.0,0.0,0.11278882147198913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055877504776214906,0.05111135870508676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059022920521643,0.0,0.10496262371314218,0.0,0.056140507335736674,0.11989361210701566,0.0,0.10996528913777584,0.06456217196041343,0.10320822105244272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229641944997946,0.0,0.0,0.13140939359213455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041814208249803024,0.2252188203682441,0.044333532195547684,0.0,0.0,0.06612120271337679,0.0,0.1265195167890152,0.04782933000214397,0.04498586072864051,0.0,0.04718703659720723,0.0,0.15185470493720546,0.03575902720129647,0.0,0.05483238445625837,0.045749011606243874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046058823513258,0.04801694806146143,0.1706831484455578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08852626207702634,0.053284068792733286,0.044839103617493534,0.0,0.10274095219434784,0.0,0.11283037869683345,0.0,0.06710110711469351,0.0,0.05020886039131993,0.0,0.049293713376861004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05224401381910844,0.0,0.04449084198610671,0.0,0.0,0.055017415100729786,0.0,0.0,0.05300061033066149,0.0,0.0,0.14142022042594132,0.07336247009861177,0.0,0.04419914238953935,0.0,0.08406654061956767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472577461203972,0.13364737768342722,0.0,0.0,0.10904830024023908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05054089252796535,0.0,0.0,0.1064002691898954,0.03679590163380158,0.22268917821561549,0.03860520512045889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04802875340053487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06783660555794807,0.07613758102900628,0.10652327967211098,0.0,0.0,0.054204270628102715,0.047782794141168886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05494493652600005,0.0946355811582436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047895506858279736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049422894015864666,0.26869962229913663,0.0,0.0,0.04761340158126922,0.039805439164649535,0.0,0.0,0.03988704783421805,0.0,0.10443576061415467,0.0,0.0,0.041405695060546435,0.056263484849928665,0.0,0.0,0.04241111314542003,0.07706897667415022,0.0,0.0,0.07085782873669866,0.0,0.11992104140952488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730055910412879,0.0,0.056801384315416786,0.0,0.0,0.1129045240890269,0.0,0.04374994005487993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282919055759963,0.0,0.03973777342629877,0.08756174620240961,0.0,0.0,0.04782933000214397,0.0,0.03398379814558116,0.0,0.0,0.052108619841240884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041300299800064014,0.0590470179974705,0.11919307142236216,0.040150793179034285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18066601939302204,0.05588419047532996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21864213669687746,0.0,0.0,0.03555736260147225,0.10945372834137436,0.0,0.16116765587423812 divorce,divorcewbaby,2019/02/25,"Should I divorce with a 5-month infant? Husband and I have been fighting almost every week. I got pregnant right after our honeymoon. Since then my life was miserable. Lots of bad memories during the pregnancy. Constant fighting due to his family aka his mother. Husband doesn’t make much but he spent half of his income paying for the house that his mom and his sister’s family live in without paying any rent nor utility bills. His mother constantly calls him for everything - from a broken lamp that needs to be fixed, AC not working, his neighbor got a heart problem, his niece needs, down to his niece’s friend got in a car accident that he needs to call her! She has 9 kids and she places all her needs on my husband. She drove me nuts during my pregnancy, complaining how I didn’t come visit often. We live 2 hours from her and see her every month if not more. Every time we came see her, I always brought food and gifts. Still not enough, when I was 37 weeks pregnant, still asked my husband to make me visit or else she’d complain I don’t want to be close to my husband’s family! She told my husband not to “spoil” me, not to tell me where he’s going, that I need to yield to my husband and since I’m married to her son, I should know my place in her family! When my son was only 1-2 months old, she wanted us to take him to visit her, regardless he was sick or not. When I’m upset that she and his sister live rent free and ranked up the utilities bills and we have to pay for it, his mother said all I care about is money and that I’m selfish only thinking of myself and don’t care about my husband’s family. She, on the other hand, doesn’t care about money or materialistic stuff like me. I’m a successful working woman. I owe my house that we’re living in now. We let my husband’s mom and sis family live in my husband’s house. Yet its still not enough. I married my husband because he’s a very kind man who loved me a lot. But because of his mom, we’ve been fighting so much, we start to drift apart. Now I feel very disappointed in the whole situation. Especially when my baby is sick, I don’t have an option to stay home the first few months to care for him because my husband doesn’t have much $ left to provide for us. If I stay with him, unless I keep my current job, we can’t have a comfortable life. I feel his family is leeching from us. It will never end. His mom said every time that I’m the one destroying my family. I think she is the cause of our fights. I don’t like her obviously but I always treated her with respects. Now after so many months fighting, I’m exhausted and feel like nothing left in this relationship. I don’t want my son to grow up in a broken family but this has become inevitable. It breaks my heart to think how divorce may hurt him in the future but I just can’t stand his mom anymore. Am I wrong for wanting a divorce? Am I selfish for wanting his family to leave us alone? I don’t mind coming to visit on holidays and even monthly, but I can’t take the constant calls from his mom nor them asking him to pay for whatever they need. I know she’s his mom but now he has a son and a family, isn’t it time to leave him be? I still love him but I’m entering the depression state...",2.6821920563097024,4.2268127571644065,4.148559577677226,87.18753519356459,75.27450980392156,7.143388637506286,23.740824534942185,7.857877913537022,1.1255065862242328,2530,76,531,37,54,840,259,663,0.135,0.755,0.11,-0.9233,6,1,0,0,12,0,69.0,12,0,2,5,24,35,6,2,24,0,43,11,3,5,4,92,99,40,0,17,23,29,4,3,2,4,5,2,4,4,18,28,1,2,8,1,13,14,25,19,0,3,17,8,115,17,67,73,12,80,0,4,2,2,128,23,0,11,41,341,133,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04612658702771503,0.047708561754754235,0.0,0.0,0.07665811712819189,0.0,0.0,0.03132519804532838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04568325379945961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612751430094906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03846163677607218,0.08424082528585136,0.05087422881412579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14110992624793975,0.052685109980109966,0.18786186239872274,0.04732056562374342,0.0,0.07936036382953042,0.0,0.14933692770307794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039674980385485455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03848068212711181,0.0,0.04079915969703874,0.09519315052345058,0.0,0.03042493317433269,0.0,0.15524411477070318,0.0,0.04139948307933088,0.0,0.4776769368600168,0.0,0.06987424699381324,0.03290823422237862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03918213800310001,0.05570094669331404,0.0,0.03558904397645294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02617931501715922,0.0,0.11052511381882728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091724666675354,0.0,0.0,0.04620609303757457,0.0,0.04536390367570533,0.15945551509637226,0.04931261968955502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0457115558626381,0.04094392838451024,0.0,0.04796871822856254,0.05063129856001799,0.0,0.0,0.0975505563320913,0.10009765613264132,0.04710370896094492,0.0650729354487104,0.06751384302338723,0.0,0.20337741879769167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832417721533813,0.08314937822487839,0.0,0.061496348645824775,0.04670181273576028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04651165479854128,0.3776483872891881,0.22060776523109205,0.0,0.10158733982658606,0.2049358779883921,0.03552750820528392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044199789256469516,0.0,0.04833657110504303,0.0,0.031214256640504045,0.07006771564347893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09625445404674124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04407716543907174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04945565244998648,0.0,0.03933852793696085,0.0876351005042873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07341431886156441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762094731225488,0.05177802872505365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032604438753746745,0.09819649857467172,0.14714754204324404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052732425002980886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692690082156966,0.0,0.04026209288178885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08854813192549113,0.0,0.0,0.08058111974715285,0.0,0.0,0.0440162643561212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22163797768293328,0.0,0.0,0.07601548731312731,0.1358491303087878,0.0,0.07389975676419057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051428972581880034,0.0,0.044404191748207145,0.0,0.06707049201682702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05036391102719871,0.0,0.0 divorce,JustSquash,2019/02/25,"My wife came home today after a weekend with friends and out of the blue, “I want a divorce”. Our three children, ages 6 and under were in the room. I don’t want a divorce. I apologize in advanced for meandering thoughts here. I read sub rules and am hopefully abiding. I’m completely lost. My heart is about to burst from my chest. M/36. Three kids, 2/4/6. My wife spent a weekend with friends and dropped this on me 2mins after coming home this evening. The question at the forefront of my mind is What steps should I take to ensure the maximum time with and custody of my children? Married for almost 10 years, this last year has been rough. I quit my job of 8 years last July. I was a pastor at a non-denom church. Too much to get into here but overall I had lost trust in the senior leadership; saw very questionable hiring practices (of friends and family) and how money was being spent on frivolous things and luxuries for senior leadership. Sure they e worked hard and longer than me, but man does it put a bad taste in your mouth when you see where church offering really go to. My faith is a whole different conversation, but somewhat relevant here. Also with the age of our kids, the ailing health of grandparents who were helping with childcare and the cost of childcare we came to a decision of me working part time 3-4 days a week and taking care of the kids as my primary. Me working f/t right now would be almost entirely negated by childcare costs and we’d end up about $130 ahead of where I am working p/t after everything would be paid. Kids would be spread between 2 schools and a daycare. This has me concerned for what’s next. Me working p/t isn’t a long term solution but a ‘transition period’ if you will, for the age of our kids and the flexibility my job now offers makes it possible for us to care for kids and pay the bills. My wife works in healthcare, 12 hour shifts, and on call 1-2 days a week and we need a parent to be present just to make sure everyone gets to school and is cared for. Also moving out of ministry trying to plan what’s next is complicated. What I have been educated for and experienced in doesn’t make an exactly lateral move into a new career. I’m looking outside of church world. My initial thoughts are I need to get a full time job ASAP. With my wife, I feel like I don’t recognize who she is. The things she says, the way she’s acting is so completely out of character. She’ll make accusations that no one likes me, I’m a dick to everyone, her parents hate me (we used to be great! But things changed when I started working at a church). When I ask for examples of why? What have I done? Who hates me? She will roll her eyes and make a sound. Yes, I guess I’m giving you a play by play of my night. Left turn here, recently we’ve had several arguments about racism. She’s Caucasian and I’m mixed Asian/Caucasian. I know this is trigger stuff so I’ll tread lightly but 2 months ago we had dinner with friends who started spouting off some RIDICULOUS claims of how racist our community was. Now we’ve all read the news, engaged online but here I was hearing some pretty outrageous accusations from a Hispanic friend that I know and love deeply and I called them on it. I felt comfortable in our friendship to have a real talk about these issues. What they were saying just didn’t make sense and was so incendiary. Yea I pushed the envelope a bit but I don’t understand why this would be a marriage ending conversation. Since then we haven’t seen those friends...until they invited over my wife and kids but not me. I told my wife I wasn’t ok with that and she’s used this as an argument of me being controlling of her friendships. NEVER, honestly have I done anything like this or said she couldn’t spend time with anyone. The only exception was when we were first dating and she wanted to spend time with an ex who was in town. I know that an heated debate with friends sounds petty for splitting up a marriage but it’s kind of where we are. You may be thinking “ok dude. There must be more here.” I wish really wish I knew what that was. None of the pieces are fitting together. She told me she would have never married me if she knew I was going to be working at church. Which, she totally knew when I proposed and the year we were engaged. But I don’t anymore so I don’t know why this is being brought up by her. Her family has a history of mental illness and I’m not just trying to generate Reddit’s sympathy here, I’m legitimately concerned for our kids. She’s has been on three different anti depressants over the last three years. I really was the one who kinda pushed her to see a psychologist. She has said numerous times, “I hate these fucking kids. I wish I wasn’t a mother. I wish these kids would just disappear.” It breaks my heart. Being a father is the greatest joy I’ve ever had. I know it’s different for men and women how they relate to kids and she did experience Postpartum depression after our second I really don’t know what that feels like, but saw it in her and encouraged her to see our midwife. My father was distant and angry. I am convinced my greatest life’s work are these three little girls. When my wife dropped the ball my oldest starred weeping and crawled up on my lap saying she doesn’t want a new dad. I don’t feel like this is just a random fight. She told me she’s been contemplating this for the last two years! I really had no indicators. She’s been talking a lot about money lately which is pretty tight right now. I didn’t make a ton working at a church and even less now but we’re getting by, bills are paid. How does that play out for custody? I think I’m at a huge disadvantage with employment at the moment. Who has to pay child support to whom? How is that decided? Again I love my wife. I don’t want a divorce but I feel like this is happening. Divorce was off the table in my family, we didn’t say the word. My mom told me this, they made a commitment and she would fight for her marriage. My wife...her parents, all uncles/aunts (5 of them) and grandparents and two cousins are divorced. It’s pretty crazy when I think about it now. I was wondering if because this is a family thing to her that she was just brought up that this is what you do when things get rough. Again, my mind is racing and heart seriously, feels crushed in my chest. So for my TLDR; What steps should I be taking (other than finding F/T employment) to maximize my time and custody of my kids. Also thank you for any other bits of advice in a heart crushing time. I don’t know what I am saying. 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A somewhat toxic relationship because of the age we got together. All in all I love her and still want to be with her. I wanted to marry her this year. We have two kids 9 & 2 and sometimes she punishes me by not letting me see the kids (I’m a great father and love doing it) She wanted to end it and wanted me out 2 days ago. We have taken breaks before where this has happened and we got back together. I don’t believe that will happen this time. So now I’m out back at my parents house contemplating what to do next. I live in NYC so finding affordable housing is near impossible. I am looking for something new. A new job that will be exciting and keep my mind off the situation or maybe doing something that I always wanted to do like being in a different state or find a purpose that will take me away at weeks on end. I want to push away hard but need something that will change me for the better in the end. I want the hurt to stop. Just looking for advice and suggestions on what could be out there for me. 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I’m 30, my STBX wife is the same age. We have kids, two girls 9 and 6, we’re in the process of separating, I’m going to move out and I’m currently looking for a place to stay. And we’re getting close to that step of telling our daughters. Telling my 9 y/o breaks my heart and makes me so worried how hard it’ll impact her. I’m worried about telling our 6 y/o too but she is a little scrapper and I don’t think she’ll fully understand at the moment. Does anyone have advice on how to talk to your younger kids, what to say, how to console them, how to support them going forward? Or what other things am I overlooking and not even anticipating or thinking of at this state?",2.05603700097371,3.4979196962025334,3.563924050632913,91.15833982473222,76.72151898734177,6.127361246348588,26.077896786757545,6.67199483983844,0.8642116845180134,584,22,131,5,13,193,95,158,0.04,0.935,0.025,0.2244,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,3,3,2,0,9,1,0,0,6,0,10,1,1,6,0,23,24,15,0,0,4,2,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,4,7,9,0,0,3,0,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,3,17,1,20,22,1,20,0,0,1,0,24,10,0,2,4,78,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31250022881302353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10873587218875327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180414138523774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399274944003685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10561087723079768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16707982530980406,0.0,0.18174701705481866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432368702612271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18947946258654874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16025943285529826,0.0,0.0,0.1342737387744896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1067329103035734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16994587674770978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16705899189655013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271570139750441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17042959956626616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18144993676169868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851965896587209,0.5590303089941742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10622888104706216,0.20491189109526844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15619675143145995,0.16645907294140172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32476761174867075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,DustWindDudette,2019/02/26,"The shame of a short marriage **TL;DR I wasn't married for very long, probably dodged a bullet, but still carry the shame of being dumped and putting up with the ex's controlling tendencies in the relationship, and I would like some advice on how to let go of shame.** Let me preface this by saying that I can't imagine what it's like to dissolve a long marriage and won't pretend to. Everyone here with kids, property, 10+ year history, the whole nine yards... whatever your reasons, that's horrible and you have my sympathies. However, that's not my situation. We were together for 4 years, co-habitating for 2.5 of those, and legally married for all of 9 months before my ex decided ""whoopsie-doopsies, I don't want to be married after all. YOLO!"" We continued living together for another 6 months or so, with me pathetically trying to reconcile and him making it very clear that I'm not a priority in his life. He carried on multiple emotional affairs right in front of my face, and when I called him out on it he'd say that it's completely normal for CEOs to be on the phone with female clients at all hours of the night and that I ""don't understand entrepreneurship."" Since then the divorce was finalized about 6 months ago I got a new job, met a close female friend who's also divorced, and mostly everyone in my social circle tells me ""I always thought you could do better anyway,"" everything seems to be going right. And most of the time I'm quite okay... except, I can't shake the shame of having been dumped after such a short time actually being married. I even entered therapy, convinced that I must have a personality disorder or something (heh, yeah it's customary to armchair-diagnose our ex as narcissistic or whatever, but I did it to myself). In my mind, that was the only explanation I had for being unceremoniously abandoned like that. My therapist told me I'm ""presenting like someone who's been abused,"" and had me read *Why Does He Do That?* by Lundy Bancroft and.... I won't go so far to say that my ex was abusive because others have it so much worse, but there were some controlling and rigid tendencies there that I didn't react to in the most effective ways. Now I'm just angry. Angry at him for being that way, but mostly angry at myself for not seeing it earlier, for putting up with it, for being too socially awkward to get enough prior relationship experience to know any better, and angry at myself for it's my fault for not being good enough (*even when the evidence overwhelmingly says otherwise in my case*). And underneath all that anger is this intense shame that just won't go away.",5.005323670444637,6.625810955645161,6.05343068875327,75.53899738448128,69.48387096774194,9.555710549258935,30.54250217959895,9.901549036053794,3.1717870095902363,2078,85,371,52,37,690,247,496,0.158,0.753,0.08900000000000001,-0.9917,2,0,1,0,3,0,80.0,3,3,0,6,20,25,3,9,21,3,41,2,1,7,6,71,60,31,0,5,14,4,0,4,1,5,1,4,1,2,32,24,0,4,9,3,0,9,13,14,0,1,16,5,44,11,67,26,14,61,0,2,1,0,40,26,0,10,28,265,76,4,0.0,0.20838766249339216,0.08581618727655085,0.0,0.0,0.08593338222011324,0.0779529887520774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032512139471686,0.07317264107161077,0.0,0.0,0.059801820314341475,0.09221214812802793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08262197869484798,0.0,0.0,0.053607053439710686,0.0,0.07482996830347508,0.0,0.0,0.15555053910888098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897959787499545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09220280743140134,0.0,0.19726307151485528,0.0702124701682368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892566589108471,0.0,0.0,0.10078619258994978,0.0,0.0769563779526327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989200097602959,0.0,0.18172985449355927,0.0,0.11616631340267827,0.0,0.0,0.16805976633407874,0.07903427919703078,0.08602162577915637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963333347848076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06794177677534058,0.0,0.04594471672597628,0.0,0.1999119929384996,0.07375941218162411,0.07033318658514019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.086602613411927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726630382450659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048329204725004515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17984802747905088,0.062114212133622414,0.17185103201892882,0.0,0.07765211787223122,0.15564723658549726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587002448697074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879374421704113,0.0,0.21057721514175184,0.0,0.06464559121308247,0.0,0.0,0.08493243860426568,0.0,0.08252518730786215,0.08616195905865548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06688189065372238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07678530846223676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09481356698043207,0.0,0.0,0.17680680972821225,0.0,0.0935343965069722,0.08796321639558959,0.0,0.0,0.09041636875419763,0.0,0.1888280506359755,0.0,0.15019956622222685,0.0,0.2797318216473665,0.0,0.0,0.07007633118083008,0.08005674404728279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07274439592258171,0.09884759118093583,0.0,0.17928632586652232,0.0745107841241762,0.06770006087730931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022853340171789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686292806551429,0.0,0.10056638932549304,0.10210444308721203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0698140755511417,0.10255636451469724,0.0,0.0,0.08402988316703937,0.0,0.05970509282938793,0.0,0.0,0.09154803625848124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511846044289198,0.051868947604609,0.13960443470554867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935164731122725,0.09818122052548203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961778057075474,0.062469639967690026,0.0,0.0,0.11326020492288535 divorce,chaosdigitized,2019/02/26,"breaking point my long story, readers digest version: H had multiple emotional affairs. I forgave (idiot me, right?). H had a physical affair which resulted in a child. I stayed anyway. He had the balls to tell me that I'm responsible for him having a kid - that it should've been a wakeup call to me as to how unhappy he was. I was advancing my career for the good of our family and while he was ""sleeping"" or ""going to the gym"" he was sleeping around. Justified it all because I was working full time and going to school full time and then studying for the CPA exam. Tax season is just another chance for him to fuck around. And because he's fucked my confidence and my emotional well being, my career at my old firm was stalled out as well. Kid (whom I love) and Baby Mama (BM are now living with us because she has no place to stay after her LT boyfriend got physical. So now, he's doing everything he can to keep BM happy and so am I because there's the constant threat of her taking off and taking the kid with her. But he's doing everything he can to upset and downright hurt me. Isolate me from friends and family. I have a history of depression and anxiety and this bullshit hasn't helped matters at all. Tonight was my breaking point. 11 hour day at the office and I get a text about the chores he expects done - but neglects to tell me that I'm on my own for dinner. So I come home to do chores and bawl my eyes out. But BM came home with dinner. She got fair warning. So after the 60+ hour weeks are over, I'm finally going to file. For me. For my kids. For my career. For my fucking sanity. So... that's my story. 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I'm curious to hear from divorcees if any have divorced their partner even though they still like them. My husband and I get along very well, besides me not having the desire to have sex with him. I don't feel a physical attraction to him anymore. The thought of staying in a marriage for the rest of my life without sexual satisfaction really bums me out and sometimes I feel like we are more friends than lovers. That is really the only complaint I have about the marriage and I'm wondering what everyone's thoughts are on if divorce would be the way to go or not. 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Sorry if this is not the correct use of the sub but I have nowhere else to go. I don’t know how to go about looking for a good attorney. Don’t want to share my need with anybody I know socially or professionally. Anybody in Northern NJ/right outside NYC have a recommendation? Jersey City would be ideal but open to other suggestions. 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My ex wife cheated on me last year but I’m now hoping to get back on Facebook. I tried google with mixed results but nothing definitive. We were together for 11 years so it’s more than untagging a few photos. Thanks! 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I live i New Zealand. My stbxw left me 5 weeks ago and took my son to live at her parents 5 minutes away. They have been in the middle of bulding a new house for the last 3 years. This house is over an hours drive away (not massive compared to the US but is quite far in ol NZ). I knew they were moving soon. But the last few weeks all I have got out of her is ""i haven't decided if i am moving with them yet"" "" i don't know when they are moving"" Finally she admits last week she is moving. Has quit her job and will not be looking for work. Then she tells me she is moving this weekend. We haven't agreed on a plan for shared custody and once she is moved it will be hard for me to force her to play fair. Currently looking at a last minute court order to prevent her leaving. Which will fuck everything up for us and for her. I don't want to do it but she is leaving me no choice. She has pretty much decided our sons future with no input from me. What school he attends. If i will be able to see him during the week So torn. Don't want to start a shit fight. But every question and request from me is going ignored. 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Hi. I've been going back and forth between staying and filing. It's my second marriage, his first. I'm actively in therapy, he is not and has, according to the two sessions he attended with my therapist, anxiety, which he will not admit nor try to work on. I'm incredibly empathetic and patient, almost to the point of enabling his toxic behavior by staying married to him. We have a 2 year old son. He's amazing and kind, and like all children, perspective as hell. I'm getting really tired of how blatantly mean my husband is towards me, especially when we argue, even when our son is in the room watching us. My patience had worn thin. I work, own our home, and have the experience of one divorce under my belt while also working in a family law firm for quite a while. I know how this all works and I can confidently move forward, as soon as I finally tell myself that enough is enough. My question is directed towards parents. How did you tell your unkind partner to be more civil while you were going through the preliminary stages of falling out of love? I've tried stonewalling, avoiding, speaking calmly, agreeing with everything, arguing back.... I'm just so done with how manipulative and hurtful his words are, no matter how many times I tell him to stop arguing/treating me like this in front of our son. I should add that the things he says range from ""You're just like your mother"" (I cut her out of my life for being a narcissist, so this one is particularly nasty), ""You just give up all the time"", ""You're ruining our lives"", ""I never grew up with divorced parents so I don't know how fucked up it is"", ""I guess you think you're taking DS away from me"", ""He'll stay with me because I'm the stay-at-home dad"" (I know that's not how it works but okay), and then the general name calling and ""fuck you""s.",5.118397790055248,6.260016121546965,5.899188950276244,78.55879447513811,68.72375690607736,8.996419889502764,32.159558011049725,9.281916038205594,2.8689841767955806,1484,64,279,29,25,486,208,362,0.086,0.845,0.069,-0.6334,2,1,0,0,3,0,68.0,7,6,0,8,22,18,6,1,13,1,22,5,0,9,5,59,44,35,0,1,7,8,1,3,1,3,2,3,2,3,11,21,0,2,7,0,0,8,7,10,0,5,6,5,42,8,43,33,7,48,1,2,1,3,55,18,3,3,23,188,53,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09928606201127378,0.0,0.0,0.0792915442428208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07585074617903866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09315624558031826,0.15248300786067995,0.0,0.060441929786151816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124492756886026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10146656978294816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20490033308211195,0.0,0.06548873429591992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08911111593362432,0.09698934621134918,0.09347135790381443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861579369732692,0.0,0.08433834875258894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18332821828909954,0.051802648424227216,0.09511530414621044,0.11270034319446155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10922672859039477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945719625583517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10614389947155073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325119284851424,0.16347347286460245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003374756877527,0.14532147373079735,0.0,0.0875527296320787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08948824153924283,0.0,0.0,0.10052421768243028,0.0,0.1080052217261008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10538251985821387,0.0,0.0,0.07647187034792836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404298486822994,0.0,0.13437545763283068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22019236247765225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373036446837604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11107254771007778,0.10545999198822983,0.0,0.0,0.06351909036738174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07884937726514651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42272989505669817,0.07918264132209613,0.08289522493002628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07454970645271015,0.0,0.2599887553893649,0.0,0.11338856087836233,0.11512271583574488,0.06587195512296375,0.06353237820705848,0.0,0.0,0.11563225705161564,0.11396024386952887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346349331708024,0.0,0.09685676154385513,0.0,0.1192672350929576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609179357616569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06385041626297552 divorce,efrey8907,2019/02/26,"Trial date tomorrow My trial date is tomorrow because my stbxh refuses to agree to anything and keeps trying to change his paperwork. In order to get him to agree to back pay for tuition for our child’s school (which I have been paying on my own for the past year and a half....not even asking for back child support just tuition) I agreed to swap tax years with him (ie I claim child in even number tax years, he gets her on odd number years). Then he just up and decided that he deserves half of my tax return this year (obviously any smart person knows he is not legally entitled to anything) and tried to argue that. I’m just so exhausted, I have been dealing with this now for almost two years. We have no assets to split, I legit gave him everything to get away from him except our daughter. He’s manipulative, he gaslights me, he’s out his hands on me, screamed at me for no reason.and tomorrow is our trial date. I am aware that I have to deal with him for the next however long I live for because of our daughter, but man am I happy to start finishing this stupid legal stuff. 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So far, I’ve just been telling basically one person at a time about it, privately, just people close to me, so they understand what the hell is going on. But honestly, it’s hard, like pulling teeth each time — I wish I could just let everyone else know at once and then maybe field the questions, haha. How did you handle this aspect of divorce, or how do you plan to if you’re even thinking about it yet? Like, is there even a good way to let social media friends know? I don’t want to just blurt it out and overshare but I also want to give more people a heads up. It’s such a huge, major life change, and it’s starting to feel weird how many people in my life still have no idea about it.",5.1504878048780505,5.340853560975613,5.1962439024390275,87.01826829268295,68.26829268292683,8.267317073170732,27.985365853658532,7.908726449838941,1.483909268292683,640,19,136,7,10,200,105,164,0.054000000000000006,0.815,0.13,0.8131,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,0,2,1,1,23,9,1,0,9,1,10,4,2,3,0,31,21,16,0,5,9,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,0,1,9,7,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,2,0,1,2,2,9,7,19,16,5,19,1,0,0,0,12,10,1,3,8,91,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167053565198088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15438145354058055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11651841049983737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191120934518432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1927793475841748,0.0,0.0,0.13944856800579852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07378987310187822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275016841636143,0.0,0.0,0.13999557691649567,0.08293906908998884,0.12240460200605716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13073042816704333,0.0,0.14977293909837114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474453120745922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604057541854226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29845989242620496,0.20615851429005905,0.14259439274549804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14795669293028182,0.14661281713139285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145602203119236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15541759659075954,0.09889034095821556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4046959419242238,0.12742611206131585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16348226540236374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14876387103507355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032945971529376,0.0,0.1165450676225425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2551098453906445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09351020868631167,0.0,0.0,0.17019347918199776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519250304633968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215424310544974,0.11583759118317995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16781975871504004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lippy0902,2019/02/26,"I don't want this..... I'm new here, we have been separated since last summer ""bird nesting"" I guess is the term with our kids. I screwed up, I got us behind financially and hid it from her. This was what broke her finally I guess. She is done, this separation didn't bring us back together. We are in counselling for I thought reconciliation, but it is apparently to facilitate a divorce. I miss my best friend, I miss my wife, I don't have answers for my kids.... I have no hope for the future... We have been together since we were 18, I don't know who I am without her.... I have one friend, my church imploded, and my three kids seem to be my only reason to keep going. I just needed to put this out there, thanks ",1.5716071428571432,3.6170899305555584,3.4992063492063497,88.29500000000002,80.25,6.8920634920634924,22.091269841269842,7.957251820313856,0.9492853174603172,546,17,122,10,14,184,89,144,0.08800000000000001,0.762,0.15,0.945,1,2,0,0,1,0,34.0,7,0,0,1,4,9,1,0,3,0,20,1,0,1,0,22,36,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,8,8,0,1,5,0,0,3,6,4,0,2,8,0,31,5,14,27,2,13,1,3,0,1,19,3,1,4,7,87,39,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1368231280043555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867346657573686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820920725574842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19492208152035284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2749484917308005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10112611037368506,0.0,0.1423130545595621,0.0,0.3920369325630101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673231133897124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15815922678765085,0.0,0.0,0.0977899208437536,0.14504299588167666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13193856933357764,0.0,0.17185336476023153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057520833494564,0.1353296589530728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17887656155671278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18294961801591691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16198782305519713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943838517340832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382115159379412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14126267876271878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4280743514387946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10495228111790628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17152561833035834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dixie_Flatline9000,2019/02/26,"Contemplating divorce/separation First of all, she has no idea. I think she’s reasonably happy with the status quo. I am not. I have a history of addiction and I relapsed shortly after birth of our first child. I wasn’t ready to be a father on any level. Not blaming anyone but myself, but that’s the reality of it. I did everything in my power to keep the marriage alive, and it worked. Our family is intact and nominally stable. But now, after significant amounts of therapy, I’m starting to believe I don’t want this life at all. That I don’t want the standard run-of-the mill existence: you know the stereotype - two and a half kids, a mortgage, a minivan, and a never ending cycle of weeks that blur past in a haze of tiresome routine and drudgery. Now our second child has arrived years later, and guess what boat I’m back in? Yup. So I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel it’s fair to her to keep her in this, that’s for sure. She’s a good person and she deserves someone who shares her wants and dreams. And I want to share those wants and dreams... but by my actions, I really seem to be acting out of misery and desperation in a life and lifestyle I don’t want. Anyone go through something like this? Anyone have advice? 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So I’m 28 year old female...I separated from my ex husband November 2014 and we were divorced by summer 2016...I have a daughter....I know how hard the divorce process is and starting over again it sucks....if you ever need someone to vent to or talk to I’m here!!! I’ve had a lot of friends turn on me and loose touch. I never judge and I’m a good friend! ,-0.6749300699300704,1.5107018333333355,1.395967365967369,97.68388111888115,94.76923076923076,3.8620046620046624,22.475524475524484,5.565023196281405,0.07713846153846228,285,12,65,2,11,94,60,78,0.048,0.778,0.175,0.8949,0,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,1,1,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,0,4,0,0,1,2,12,11,7,0,1,1,2,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,5,4,8,9,1,9,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,2,7,34,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2381266679517887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6101639428827577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22080343836297267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23582224495545004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467651328826042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22380758913884952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19519815554327344,0.20303630991678495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27623887874406583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230527175193255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633124769735468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21159213017547215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863427766767786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1695257726233503 divorce,kerplunk81,2019/02/26,"I'm freaking scared about a possible divorce in my future. Will I be okay? I'll be 38 years old in a few months. Got married way too young. My mother was right. She wanted me to date more and have fun. Meet new people, hang out with friends I regret not dating more. Luckily people have told me I look 28 years old. We have two beautiful boys together. 6 and 3 years old. I don't have a high income job. Been working entry level jobs and some dead end jobs for most of my life. Currently a route driver for a dry cleaning company. I want to change this but not sure how. I don't want to be homeless. That's my greatest fear besides being alone My mom will probably let me stay a few weeks until I get my own place. Not happy in the marriage and a bit depressed. I feel lost and alone. We currently live in her grandma's basement. For $300 a month. We're mostly debt free. She has a car loan in her name. I don't have a car whatsoever. Working on getting one. I could date but not sure how the females would be attracted to me in my dire situation. Want my boys to be happy and safe. I have no clue on what to do in the future and don't know if I'll be okay. Very few friends and family that live here too. I feel alone in this. Help please ",0.10381535038932553,2.312036153256706,2.1157706093189965,94.88935483870968,87.85057471264368,5.2068223952539885,19.147324187368678,6.6834051587181325,0.0950532937832156,960,28,217,12,31,319,147,261,0.182,0.669,0.149,-0.8558,7,3,0,0,1,0,31.0,2,0,0,3,6,18,0,2,13,2,26,1,0,2,2,38,40,14,1,8,7,2,2,0,2,3,1,0,1,2,5,12,0,1,3,0,3,3,9,6,0,2,5,3,30,13,24,23,11,40,0,3,1,0,18,15,0,4,20,131,35,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3301827520328208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11601641402708833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11241675686620584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484582521535784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152790560506564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09412132283958702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017939210932483,0.11958030337963943,0.1074639217786812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16420376902532688,0.0,0.11104059992650177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08499170078396649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2262471223328907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07122875905509332,0.1122772808823716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3163618176547485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0584017518123156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866555661872694,0.07505976607077305,0.0,0.0,0.18767201908159686,0.0,0.08923780283015904,0.0,0.1160033565579748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445902613064624,0.16964315643117284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10263366071105144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345290967548985,0.0,0.07200950088861373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14734478871866874,0.0,0.1110267541213488,0.11664962959309674,0.0,0.119800460692583,0.0,0.0,0.1145741677054058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907517290915564,0.0,0.0,0.10639214742928443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944894438553608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11326684682594765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20031142367144264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154299888572918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10380775149459204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768168603637545,0.25071692547037616,0.08435006942452136,0.0852412514843312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15472778064553888,0.0,0.0,0.07548927051369772,0.0,0.0,0.20529805163634648 divorce,jessas27,2019/02/26,"D-Day is Here I’m sitting here in court waiting for my name to be called. It’s an easy case: 2nd marriage, no kids, no property, married less than 2 years. A month ago I was sure that we hadn’t tried everything to save our marriage. Over the last month, I did try all I could to save our marriage, but I only learned that it was always a one-way street. He only tried convincing himself to consider reconciliation. He doesn’t have the capability to look past himself. That made everything clear that I was never a priority much less significant enough for him to care about. So, I decided that I had tried all that I could and that our differences are definitely irreconcilable. Over the years we were together, he literally sucked the life out of me until I had nothing left. I made life fun for him and his daughters. I was so happy and optimistic and he took all that I had to give. When I fell apart, he left. I was not and am not at all perfect and I did my fair share of damage, but he thinks he did nothing wrong and everything was my fault. Fine - I’ll accept that. The weird thing about a 2nd marriage in my case is that I never have to see him or talk to him again. My first marriage awarded me with my amazing son. When I’m ready, I will find my forever person. That person will share similar values and priorities. That person will love me and give just as much as I do. When I’m ready, I’ll get back out there. For now, I will continue to work on myself and repair the damage that was done over the last few years. I will continue to focus on my son and our lives. I still remain optimistic and genuinely happy. 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Rant here. Here's how the story goes. So I work as a volunteer director of finance for a non-profit here in Maryland, where I live. I just found out that our CEO hired a single mother after she saw a video of the non-profit where I work at. She used to live in California. Then she saw the video, and moved to Maryland. She left her husband, took her three kids, and arrived here with no money, no skills, no computer, and no cell phone. She claims that God called her to do this. She gets paid $100 a week working only 6 to 10 hours a week. And she's asking our non-profit to loan her money because she can't afford her rent, food, or cell phone bill. I'm not the only person that's upset about this. Our director of operations is upset about this too, because this woman earns at a higher rate than our DOO who works much more per week. And here's me, the DOF, who works completely for free. I get paid nothing. But our CEO is just so compassionate and wants to help people. As DOF, we'll see if it's at the cost of our non-profit. The reason I can work for $0 is because I have a full time job as a CPA earning $60,000+ per year. This non-profit's financials were in shambles before I came along. I came by and fixed it. I hope the board of directors holds our CEO (and this single mom) accountable for this sham. Any advice? I'll answer questions as they come along. I hope to God that I am wrong but it sounds like she screwed over her husband and now her kids and our non-profit is paying the price. Her husband is paying the price too, for taking the kids with her. 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In hindsight, what would you have added or done differently?",5.630526315789473,8.936671263157898,4.883421052631579,76.97144736842105,73.21052631578947,8.010526315789475,30.552631578947373,8.841846274778883,2.899189473684211,90,4,15,2,2,27,16,19,0.0,0.731,0.269,0.7399,1,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,2,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,13,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5246390153555704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5138729528871125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5774467743682999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567123696053481,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,CloClo15,2019/02/26,Has anyone had this feelings after 10 months of separation/divorced? I (29F) was on a marriage for 13 years. It has been 10 months since we separated and are still waiting to get it finalized. My soon to be ex has been the only guy I have loved and the only one I had been with. I feel I have put enough work on myself and have gone out with some guys. I’ve even engaged into an intimate relationship with one. I still sometimes feel like I want my family back and how everything would be if we were still together. Will this feeling go away? I don’t know if I am dating just because I want to feel free and whatever I want or if it’s just trying to cope. How long did it take for you all to engage in a serious relationship after the divorce? 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My husband (36M) and I (32F) have very different life goals. We are good friends but lack deeper emotional connection and physical intimacy. We often fight over what we want from life and how being with the other person means a huge compromise. We don’t have any kids We are actively discussing divorce. I can choose to be in marriage by agreeing to lead life the way he wants, but I am worried that I ll lose my individuality by doing so. If I continue in marriage, I am worried that I ll repent years later not having lived my life my way and selling myself short. On the other hand, I am worried that I may end up all alone all life if I take a divorce and if letting go of a good person is worth that risk. Though I am financially independent, have a great career, good looking and in great shape, the possibility of ending up alone is very probable and scary My husband is very adamant about living his way or getting a divorce. So all negotiations about pursuing a middle ground have failed If you are someone who has gone through something similar, please share your views and help me make a decision ",8.100404040404044,7.300701666666669,8.347811447811447,70.18742424242424,62.425925925925924,11.0026936026936,37.691919191919204,10.230975488527342,3.8204222222222217,904,39,162,17,11,298,131,216,0.13699999999999998,0.655,0.208,0.9528,1,2,1,0,5,0,20.0,5,2,0,5,7,12,1,1,12,0,24,6,1,4,3,38,33,19,0,7,8,2,1,0,1,1,5,0,0,3,8,14,0,0,3,0,2,3,2,4,0,0,1,3,26,8,18,28,4,23,0,2,2,0,26,12,0,8,5,113,34,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368171285766682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07774645871032651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101113172664557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11944765562856542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860278188905874,0.20252004026993772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08832895913543737,0.0,0.05973127578922757,0.0,0.06497481775218139,0.2876768498116113,0.0,0.2520924202603716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07663115390335333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11690737145655455,0.4037636315740227,0.0,0.0,0.20190613410057076,0.0,0.09600610614858136,0.1279029625638659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07631433525033186,0.0,0.0,0.12453590466585568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965231100121947,0.0,0.1254970020073452,0.0,0.12888681008643088,0.0,0.0,0.1232641252670222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09686911821302988,0.08801471192712271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595987293287151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232595459037527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2829958937777618,0.13486636266564386,0.2722429775940408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483146528696486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07362300845755777 divorce,Greetingshumanoids,2019/02/27,Green Card Devil A buddy of mine married a girl from the Philippines and they are basically separated but he was her sponsor. She got her PR once she landed in Canada. She has been here less than a year. There were some major red flags on her end but he was a dumb shit who didn't listen to anyones concerns. Are there any loopholes for him to revoke her PR so he can cancel his sponsorship and not be bled dry for 2 years? ,3.005182724252492,4.6266294186046535,4.020033222591362,88.12313953488373,74.5813953488372,6.309634551495018,22.75083056478405,6.868970318607317,0.5878923588039875,334,9,69,3,7,108,68,86,0.16399999999999998,0.836,0.0,-0.9427,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,1,0,4,3,2,0,5,0,10,1,1,0,0,6,12,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,6,3,11,0,9,5,3,6,1,0,2,0,16,3,2,1,3,47,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27262290348304397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28031567717562217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3550747024864816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206330081135883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269409622514263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4115137960582319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5163275256983549 divorce,AccomplishedWall,2019/02/27,"Children So- long story short I was a pretty fucked up alcoholic, went to rehab, got sober, stayed sober, didn’t save my marriage, three years later my wife kicks me out and we’re on track for divorce. All good, I’m sober still and getting on with life. Not bitter, not angry, no desire to reconcile. The trouble is my two daughters. They’re six and seven and they ask me- why did you leave? Why don’t you live with us? I have them half the time and I don’t know what to say. My ex just told me she won’t tell them that she asked me to leave and I don’t want to cause a conflict but I don’t want them thinking I left them because I wanted to. How does one deal with this? 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Three kids under the age of 12. Our finances are a mess, but if I waited till they were in order I’ll be an old depressed man by then. Wife was a SAHM for many years because it was the most financially viable option. She started working part time two years ago. Tried to encourage her to get an education in something, anything during the SAHM years, just ended up with debt and nothing else. First question would be, Will a judge look at her current income or will the judge account for the fact she’ll increase her hours to full time once divorced (child support). Neither of us has made particularly good choices with money, but she definitely likes to shop. Sadly I have school loans, that while my work reimbursed my federal loans, we did not pay them because we were always paying off credit cards. We currently have a good chunk of CC debt, unfortunately all in my name because her credit is shot. A few years ago she sprung on me around 17k$ worth of CC debt she had secretly collected on her own. I used what few assets we had to erase it. Now I look back and think, that was a bad idea. I have a 401k, which also has a loan on it. I’m assuming if she is entitled to half the 401k she is also entitled to half that loan? I’m guessing the school loans, there is no way I can prove that it was a mutual fuck up. The CC I would have to take her to small claims for, or potentially get her to agree not to touch the 401k as a trade off? All our cars are in my name, would I need to sell her-her car? No house to worry about, we rent (essentially). Finally, back to child support. I’m pretty much preparing myself, that even though we’ll do 50/50 and I pay for their medical insurance, I will essentially lose 1/3 of my pay to child support. I make substantially more than she does (even if you put her to 40 hours). I honestly don’t know how she’ll cope, on her own... having to work and clean all on her own. In 16 years I don’t think she’s cleaned our bathroom once 🤣. I’m done though, I can’t take the loneliness anymore, the lack of connection of intimacy. I set aside 1500$ in an account, the start of a small egg, that I’m going to give to her, to help her start out and make sure my kids have a roof over their head. What else should I start thinking about before pulling the trigger, getting a lawyer. She knows it’s coming, I think this will be pretty amicable. 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We haven't told him anything yet and while my husband is looking for a place to live I am trying to prepare myself and my boy for all what's coming. He is a sensitive kid already and his age is sensitive as well. I myself am absolutely devastated and can barely cope with what is happening (it was out of nowhere and very fast). I hope that educating myself will reduce the fear of the future. Has anyone read a good book on how to get kids through divorce? Book recommendations on self help during divorce are also very welcome. P.S. we found and started working with kids psychologist, but we had just first appointment and the next one is in a week. I want to kill time usefully and reading helps me to cope.",6.455766871165642,7.021683319018407,7.055343558282207,73.51135889570553,65.50306748466258,9.95558282208589,34.091411042944785,9.888512548439397,3.3523231901840496,683,29,123,14,10,225,109,163,0.066,0.8270000000000001,0.106,0.429,1,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,4,0,0,2,6,6,1,1,8,0,16,0,0,2,1,29,27,15,1,2,4,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,5,18,0,0,2,5,0,1,2,2,1,2,4,1,19,4,19,22,1,17,0,0,1,0,25,6,0,1,10,89,24,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19213101482616213,0.1392330230113395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173941603326392,0.0,0.14327493595064833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14997746026664324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591838283816124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809502532384838,0.0,0.19089895229275197,0.0,0.0,0.09096353727215754,0.0,0.0,0.14603239539318386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15396193328713528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23340003146402785,0.0,0.0,0.17292718564955928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19262320928637505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15373935942321526,0.0,0.14620573392434028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1851643946915343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797917018399587,0.1324159508828262,0.0,0.0,0.193324827789238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18190438980713014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3483075262342495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816312044721523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12323358114158965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10152298621916693,0.0,0.0,0.16636636275348826,0.0,0.11820698491439552,0.1893780363732671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15037224240115346,0.0,0.2873124360327553,0.10269261157576938,0.0,0.13965785058172628,0.0,0.15654278536750932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675171289694687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,awesomesauceome,2019/02/27,"Ex using child to manipulate. Won't let me take him out of the country to go to Disney World. I had really hoped for a positive coparenting relationship with my ex but he refused to let me take my son to Disney world with my boyfriend because he’s miserable and bitter. I have filled out my request for child support maintenance and am stopping at the courthouse and to meet with my lawyer today after work. I could have been so much worse to him during the divorce but I chose not to be. He is about to find that out now when I take him to court. It is not going to be a good time for him. Anyone else have experience with an ex manipulating by not allowing the child to travel? I'm at my limit and I am not playing games anymore. I am not going to hesitate to spend every cent fighting for my son's happiness and ability to enjoy life despite his miserable controlling father.",4.741206896551724,5.779474672413797,6.137413793103452,76.8864655172414,69.51724137931035,9.248275862068963,30.017241379310345,9.516144504307137,2.7494000000000014,699,27,132,15,12,237,101,174,0.15,0.72,0.131,-0.5867,1,0,0,0,3,0,10.0,0,0,0,3,4,10,2,2,7,0,16,1,0,5,0,30,26,9,0,2,7,6,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,2,12,0,4,1,3,2,5,6,4,0,0,2,1,21,6,32,18,1,18,0,2,0,0,24,7,0,1,6,94,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17774254619402718,0.12531793846118128,0.18363668131690347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925359246900906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20101551793652644,0.1430961806291064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971907322058473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15100437220448698,0.0,0.0,0.17531595272191622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16380794722991968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3055722428961785,0.15032500841158555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907878142618541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17801036932504605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665383907483316,0.12659156554113685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317506302646427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11481580481551855,0.0,0.0,0.1924200414606076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983970819884276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20338184012824204,0.0,0.0,0.4042635605589858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450724797244466,0.0,0.16988387102763067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15479242494763226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13047757147388248,0.0,0.18264507836577631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Alwys_Forward,2019/02/27,"Spousal Maintenance (Alimony) and Moving in Together Hi, all. &#x200B; It's been a while since I've posted here. Things are going well and I'm in a relationship with someone really wonderful. She is also divorced, receives quite a bit of spousal maintenance, and will continue to get it for the next ten or so years. My income isn't great, and something that we've brought up is what happens to those payments if we move in together (and what happens if we get married). Finances are such a sticky thing, and I want to get as much info as I can about this. &#x200B; Has anyone had experience with this on either side of the equation? Thanks much.",5.307367941712208,6.933601303278687,5.558961748633879,79.35152094717671,68.75409836065575,8.700910746812388,33.22768670309654,9.150863307647796,3.0631282331511835,517,24,92,10,9,164,85,122,0.028,0.8859999999999999,0.086,0.7183,1,0,1,0,1,0,25.0,2,0,0,1,6,3,0,0,6,0,10,0,0,0,1,18,21,14,0,3,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,10,0,0,2,0,1,5,1,0,1,1,3,0,6,3,16,17,5,16,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,4,4,68,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183139459472156,0.0,0.3206031484759965,0.3595459781987697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10344866739718868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16152087568701046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14472151317880694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2318901392619136,0.0,0.08408224634967591,0.0,0.0,0.16311316996735226,0.0,0.0,0.2616598197595608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31449057720716506,0.21751757644559214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15734435488841522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416932679934988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.157360887731972,0.0,0.0,0.09477926424699623,0.0,0.0,0.15884076225669516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238409769447985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535584312570708,0.11389758288939004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621062230809755,0.0,0.0,0.19658012748468795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726355165156804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13302300162576844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16044327299146915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3595459781987697,0.09527364828852973 divorce,thefarside86,2019/02/27,"Dating after divorce - need advice I need advice on how/when to disclose to someone I have a date scheduled with that I am divorced. Here's the backstory. &#x200B; My ex-wife and I married June 2013, separated November 2017, and officially divorced June 2018. We also have a 3-year old daughter. I was the one who technically initiated the divorce, but I always like to point out to people how she constantly threatened divorce throughout the marriage and sometimes would straight up say that she wanted a divorce, but then got mad at me because I actually meant it when I said it (I never threatened it once prior to that). But that's just a side detail. &#x200B; Anyway, at the time we were living in a small town (where she grew up) where all her friends and family lived, but all my friends and family lived over an hour in the Twin Cities. So after the separation I had no friends out there. My job was also incredibly high-stress and toxic environment, and due to the pan of the separation, the difficulty of the job, and being utterly isolated, and only getting to see my daughter a few days a week for short periods of time (due to my shitty work schedule), I was really struggling at my job and they fired me May 2018. I spent a month looking for a new job in that town, with no avail. My landlord said he would be evicting me by the end of June, so I had to make the tough decision to move back to the Twin Cities and live in my mom's basement. I finally got a new job in August 2018, and only get to see my daughter on weekends. I also still have a shit ton of debt due to almost 4 months of unemployment as well as a lot of previous debt. I am getting caught up slowly and hopefully will have enough money to move out of my moms by spring or summer. &#x200B; So as far as I'm concerned, a 32-year old man who has been divorced, living in his mom's basement, with lots of debt.... is not very appealing on the surface. But deep down I am a good person who knows how to treat a woman well. &#x200B; Anyway, I recently hopped on an online dating site, and started chatting with a woman. We've been hitting it off, and have our first date/meeting scheduled for this upcoming Sunday, and have exchanged phone numbers and all that. I have yet to mention all this backstory to her, however she does know that I have a daughter, and that her mother and I are not together, so it's possible that she has already considered the possibility that it is due to divorce. &#x200B; I didn't include any of this info on my dating profile, as I didn't want to advertise that part of my life to prospective women, but I absolutely want to disclose it soon so that she can back out now if it's something that she doesn't want to get herself into. How should I approach telling her? Should I mentioned the divorce on my dating profile in the first place? Should I tell her during our first date on Sunday, or should I maybe talk to her over the phone before then? &#x200B; Men on this subreddit, let me know how you've handled this in the past, and women on this subreddit, let me know what you think would look best for me to do. &#x200B; &#x200B;",7.933235294117647,6.671762323529414,7.9065228758169965,74.7113529411765,63.01960784313725,10.578300653594773,37.066666666666656,9.473421319101043,3.361468235294118,2490,102,469,37,30,806,271,612,0.096,0.84,0.065,-0.9543,13,0,1,0,9,0,103.0,4,1,1,5,28,14,2,1,39,0,42,2,1,5,5,79,73,49,0,15,12,8,1,1,3,9,1,3,1,7,31,31,0,0,8,2,6,5,8,4,2,4,17,8,68,10,84,42,11,107,0,0,4,0,64,46,1,8,57,343,99,7,0.0,0.0,0.045638691270705335,0.0,0.0,0.09140203557057623,0.0,0.0,0.04683126260569942,0.0,0.05160950354053526,0.11220073761487287,0.03891461134910957,0.4053837097299965,0.4546246134935579,0.03180375289753984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07192320492295873,0.0,0.028509257280131768,0.0,0.039796009699118236,0.0,0.049079990449640544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05053944900070383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030161404825646526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040926875058822615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04142244820142155,0.04832370784065383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817716443639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05123191165733225,0.0,0.11934216983190678,0.0,0.0,0.1083982127278764,0.0,0.0977371197077084,0.0,0.0,0.03922666745864248,0.07480907018858507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049412818596620785,0.0,0.04645104387810932,0.046056927744949794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2320494550607063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280958517512202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564662404903376,0.03303352713578433,0.022848417191936626,0.0,0.20648441433703488,0.0,0.0785464579931769,0.0,0.0,0.07952073517476849,0.0,0.0,0.031217913987369776,0.0,0.04698460783772914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16432187970463988,0.074659329554603,0.09941368126716443,0.0,0.06935556069964155,0.03607026172320323,0.09033739361635294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815001719156967,0.04980625138902448,0.0316911166415764,0.07113813969174956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050645041827141114,0.044645220383106116,0.032422949945415565,0.0408358970288519,0.048862466365902135,0.0,0.044210750468157485,0.10544748475332268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029960692782157444,0.0,0.04617762596281687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897390137985338,0.037191684494251066,0.0,0.0,0.07453586894600962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04800654279796638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03962626144206074,0.03600418843394298,0.04625461573112353,0.0,0.03310253655816155,0.0,0.03734887852785345,0.0,0.0535724329609754,0.04889192836459418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03759023948537798,0.08175435323967077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029966960392099437,0.0,0.0,0.054541438002235015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038588387715769217,0.1103395972899385,0.0,0.0375143614402004,0.0,0.08409985699580669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034047563749364705,0.0,0.0,0.09966765138690427,0.0,0.4546246134935579,0.0602339452471203 divorce,itoen90,2019/02/27,"Had the divorce convo last night....looking for advice/support I’m 28M, soon to be 29...and I just had the conversation last night (started by me)...and Im just feel scared and lonely. I’ve been married for 2 years and together with her for 4, we have no kids, no assets and she is a foreign national with her family in her home country. To describe our relationship I’d say it’s extremely up and down. She makes me sometimes the happiest I’ve been in my life but also sometimes the most stressed and least happy in my life. She has mentally and physically abused me but also given me great joy. She is an only child and grew up with a majorly mentally and occasionally physically abusive mother. She grew up constantly being shouted at and occasionally hit. Throughout our relationship I always made excuses for her when she would do this behavior to me and would always feel like I was “saving her” from her terrible childhood and I can “teach” her to be a better person. However for the past few months I’ve finally accepted that I’m simply not happy enough, I don’t want to accept being shouted at almost daily. My wife is very immature and “cute” and she relies on my for all her emotional support and I guess I kind of enjoyed that role, but I have realized that’s simply not what I want in a relationship...I feel like we should always be happy and we should have an equal relationship. We also have a nearly entirely dead bedroom, which I see now is a consequence of many of our problems. I talked to her many times about how this is a problem but she never made any effort until very recently (after I threatened divorce) but the damage is done and my love of her is far less than it used to be. For the last 3 months almost DAILY I’d go back and forth on whether I should divorce or not and it’s been destroying me, just absolutely killing me and I have no idea how the hell anyone can deal with this. Last night my wife shouted at me again over some mundane thing and I told her I wanted a divorce and I tried to show no remorse or weakness in falling back on my word... But this is where I need help...when I think of the pain this will cause her, her shattered dreams of the future, when I think how we will no longer be together...the good times we do have together are definitely good it absolutely crushes me and I question myself if I’m doing the right thing and whether I should take it all back and try more. But on the flip side when I remember/think of the bad times I’m sure I’m making the correct decision. How on earth did you guys stay strong on this and follow your decision through? I know time heals...but that doesn’t help me right now. I don’t even have any ideas what on earth my next steps are, and she is basically in denial about the whole thing. I don’t know if this information is pertinent but she is currently here on a 2 year sponsored (by me) green card, and I’m assuming I’ll just not responsor it or something...I just feel scared and lost and lonely.. Thanks for reading. 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My divorce is final now, it has been for a while. And I'm not sure where I go from here. I have to raise my kids pretty much on my own, and thats a really difficult job. I have a regular job too. And Im just exhausted. I met someone who I thought was pretty special (and they still are) but that is over now too. Im just sort of floating along aimlessly lately, not sure where to go or what to do and its all because of my divorce. If it werent for that, I would have a partner, help raising my children, and not be so alone a lot of the time. I mean, my closest conversational confidant is one of my kids, who is simply a kindergartner. This whole thing is not fun at all.",1.589977168949769,2.9106645958904167,3.622123287671237,90.76391552511416,77.6986301369863,7.0584474885844735,24.495433789954337,7.793537801064563,1.0637187214611874,525,18,123,8,12,179,87,146,0.102,0.83,0.068,-0.6057,3,1,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,0,4,25,21,12,0,2,9,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,4,12,7,0,0,2,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,4,0,15,4,14,15,6,16,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,4,8,97,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897410161779479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11167764726431992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006877731862788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2082347340392588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12279578846260447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3957770989536191,0.0,0.3635975070905452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20665874112067376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15575096407783634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995596285113267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467383617358186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414175897093135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.372762618226704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736327072442662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522563791285576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1463045789291173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.345329604700487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12171062364919608,0.0,0.0,0.14544115378871803,0.10682599365272248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20453740711857274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13014075516922127,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,headingfordivorce,2019/02/27,"I.AM.FREE The day was yesterday and today I found out about it. Not a Harry Potter fan, but dobbie is free! The nightmare, that was supposed to be for only 3 months., lasted 8 months. I have to pay he a lump sum, I am fine with it. She twisted absolutely everything, took advantage of everything nice. But I don't feel any animosity against her. &#x200B; I just want and will move on now. It's my time. 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I have only made one post here, about my sudden and significant weight loss and the advice I received here has helped me gain more than half of it back. While I haven’t been posting, I have been reading, and it has helped me immensely. Knowing I’m not the only one going through this crap, I’m not the only one angry, I’m not the only one that feels like this is impossible has helped keep me grounded, focused, and motivated. I know the arguments don’t stop and the stress doesn’t go away after today, but it’s a big step forward to getting my life back in order, and I just wanted to express my gratitude to this sub for helping me get here.",5.600397897897898,5.879644790540542,6.131441441441443,80.39253753753756,67.31081081081078,8.739939939939939,30.63363363363363,8.515128840125781,2.2199165165165162,591,21,115,8,9,192,90,148,0.075,0.8029999999999999,0.123,0.802,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,8,5,1,1,8,0,14,3,1,2,0,19,28,8,0,1,5,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,8,6,1,2,4,1,0,5,6,3,0,5,3,2,14,2,12,23,2,23,0,1,0,0,7,5,1,0,13,81,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381805364774783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1328558127927696,0.2174653327881325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119532346747633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13511971757866675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0714992413064927,0.10102064269163832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14775784314504098,0.0,0.1607288443608948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37912647499544055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256883590828129,0.0,0.0,0.1554263375628648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987940581129527,0.06908394382103664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338019988198195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10394985329271406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3832820984142779,0.4301832555589231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2708561700837743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14144450175012638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1182219443915085,0.16198036467656868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301878628587759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680731535727573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08340506123881551,0.0,0.0,0.1721946994298629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106097929269194 divorce,FluffyFunnyCat,2019/02/27,"The time between calling it off and physically splitting up is a special kind of torture. At the end of the first week of February we decide to split. It just can't work. I went through some serious trauma a couple years ago and it has changed me and thus changed our marriage. I don't blame him and I'm even happy for him to an extent for realizing he can't do it anymore. I was worried I would have to end our marriage eventually to end his suffering within it. I'm glad he took the reins on that. I didn't fight him about it at all. I just said ""ok, let me know when you're leaving so I can make arrangements."" Bonus pain: my mother tried to kill herself once again that morning. He didn't know. He still doesn't know. So, he's moving out. He asks me not to start divorce proceedings right away. It doesn't matter to me, it isn't contentious and I don't have anything he can ""go after"". I calculated the waiting period in my state for divorce to be final before the end of the year for tax purposes, and it turns out I just have to file by the end of October. Easy enough. He's signing a lease on the new place later today (Wednesday), and 40 days later he will be moving in while I go and pick up my friend/new roommate out of state. All of this days after I turn 30, but it's ok. I've never had a good birthday anyhow. The first week was insanely difficult. My work suffered. I spent time in my boss's office crying. I told her my mother was in the hospital and that my husband is leaving me. I could barely make it in that week, and when I did I couldn't focus. Then it was Valentine's day and the only person who knows about the split is my boss. I don't care about the holiday but having multiple people ask me what ""our"" plans were killed me. After that it didn't get easier. I just got numb. My boss recently asked me how my mother is, and honestly I've been so good at shoving that down and it's nothing new, so I had almost forgotten about it. I told her she was doing ok. She never mentioned the split. I'm going to have to talk to her about it soon, though. I've been trying to focus on my excitement to have my friend move in. There were a lot of logistics to iron out so I spent a few days doing that. I've set some personal goals that I'm working toward to keep busy. But overall I know I'm just going through the motions and coming up with tasks so I can continue to be numb for a while. It breaks my heart to love on the cats that I know will be leaving so while I still take care of them I have created a physical distance. I can hardly talk moving logistics with him and I'm so glad I will be gone for 5 days immediately after he leaves, and he will be doing most of his packing and moving while I'm gone. I'm trying not to dread it so I'd rather push the feels aside until it's time. We used to spend our evenings on the couch, enjoying dinner together, watching our shows, having long talks. Now I work later than usual and retire to the home office while he is in the living room. I lock myself in there to avoid him and the cats. I'm trying to disconnect ahead of time so I don't completely lose it when they leave. He and I hardly talk. It really isn't contentious, it just hurts too much, and between this and the other things I'm going through, I can't afford to mourn this while he is here. It will consume me. I wish he would stop going out of his way to say goodnight if I'm still awake. I feel like I'm floating through time. I'm trying to focus on everything else but ""us"", my mother, my other issues. I almost wish it were contentious or that one of us could bare the blame. If I hated him or he hated me, I could focus on that. I would be able to laugh about this with my friends, I would be able to say I deserve better than him, that I'm better off, that I'm not losing much. But I am. I'm losing so much. I know I'll be ok, I know change is hard, but this is going to be the longest 40 days of my life and I know it's not immediately all better after that. I know this story pales in comparison to so many others. I count my blessings. We don't have kids. We are still kind to each other. We have the resources to be able to split up. There's no abusive behavior between us. For all this, I am extremely grateful. Yet, it is still it's own special kind of shitty and I feel stuck between two lives, just waiting.",1.7336870208105142,3.4001087973713062,3.491324069003287,90.35843188663748,78.2223439211391,6.273652792990142,21.8177573932092,7.117808014507957,0.5517461226725073,3384,95,742,39,80,1132,338,913,0.103,0.769,0.128,0.9769,1,1,0,0,3,0,104.0,13,0,2,16,48,50,6,2,35,4,84,7,1,9,6,116,153,59,3,13,22,5,6,1,2,9,4,3,3,3,55,39,1,6,15,2,5,19,23,21,0,4,27,10,110,29,116,101,16,129,1,7,1,1,78,37,0,11,69,508,165,9,0.14865282011042674,0.05870976131394207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04392391860998965,0.0,0.0992362176568107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049141217781738314,0.0,0.0,0.04077620163658152,0.0,0.13897032014758054,0.0,0.046554739281783976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216420037214227,0.0,0.0,0.13147133924438054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05059704990480241,0.0,0.10104097152913166,0.0,0.1572549730162927,0.042683747301632366,0.05195321788250862,0.0,0.0,0.11868718086811415,0.05482717267678687,0.0544293808975414,0.1917375424605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04139345216300278,0.0,0.2194371268720593,0.05119936685921895,0.0,0.06545585713653361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453318984202597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516333236531779,0.035399201463042256,0.0,0.05428063277950982,0.0,0.08429600856440042,0.0,0.0,0.11484880006805186,0.0,0.02588832102960301,0.0,0.19712658787345835,0.08312195514889731,0.039630413311953806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0527478970651691,0.13316372842941873,0.09784258944709444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05871810252209295,0.0,0.0,0.049703632993619504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053045306146321934,0.0,0.0,0.0517183076600454,0.0,0.04404315223288484,0.10964154713636956,0.15479903683273866,0.2723190077519707,0.0,0.0,0.26233645454024856,0.0,0.05066919336653716,0.034999294343389165,0.02420808638732596,0.0,0.08750877573561441,0.043851022655426994,0.0,0.16630448178479176,0.0,0.04212643726091075,0.044721657981082914,0.0,0.06615127448785031,0.050236875869754775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26332403728242904,0.10927692699386432,0.0,0.07643347934988834,0.1435698199770034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04754546336156114,0.0,0.0,0.05277013397146317,0.033576999357349306,0.03768572274886689,0.05272569380019845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034352382776324734,0.08653193914257343,0.051770185958483386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031743601011914355,0.0,0.048925575416401364,0.0,0.0,0.0423162320496982,0.0471342910260986,0.07880979269275054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03507241039534207,0.0,0.19785722360477107,0.04142680461499367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037256140217105466,0.15930867458135226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03291944278805138,0.0,0.048683547002300674,0.0,0.14446775806783754,0.0,0.04696849731555199,0.09469609332811156,0.05505291759642548,0.16820917837932314,0.10779438769885227,0.04840406838277274,0.0,0.17881103945385862,0.042796102723831636,0.0545733599464662,0.0,0.0,0.03933122979480835,0.11924032569270065,0.0,0.0,0.04593421784374703,0.0,0.0,0.11396227125774275,0.0,0.0,0.1442946979825778,0.05032138486724709,0.0,0.14079826446490415,0.0,0.0,0.06381836158464146 divorce,EasyMode615,2019/02/27,"Need advice on supporting kids I (33M) am in the middle of an amicable divorce with my STBX (37F). She cheated on me with another married man in November 2018 (he's now going through a divorce). We have 2 boys under age 8. Cohabitating until we sell the houes. We agreed to a divorce a week after she became physical with the other guy - kisses, touching, no sex yet. 3 days later after we agreed to a divorce, she had sex with him in his car across our house at the neighborhood park, maybe 500 feet away from the kid playground. Her actions changed quickly. She would cut off the kids bedtime routine, get them to sleep so she could get ready to go out, leave the house at 8PM and come back 2-3AM. She would wake up late often and be behind schedule in prepping the kids for school. The kids noticed she would leave the house to go see her guy ""friend"". This happened nearly every day until the guy ghosted her in late December. I know because I was in talks with the other guy's wife (supporting each other). Since her affair partner has ghosted her, 2 or 3 out of the 7 days in the week, she would go out late and sometimes come back late. She didn't shower twice a day and wouldn't drown herself in perfume, so I took it that it wasn't for a guy. I assumed she either went out to eat dinner with friends or do her own thing (whatever that was). The kids still knew she left the house but still assumed it was for her guy friend. 2 weeks ago, her behavior changed similar to when she first went out with the original affair partner. She's putting on perfume again, taking 2-3 showers a day, leaving the house right after the kids go to sleep and coming back the following day at 2-3AM. I don't think it's with the affair partner, otherwise his wife would've told me (she still pays that guy's cell phone and other bills). Tonight, my older kid asked ""mama are you going out again tonight"" to which she responded ""yes but I'll be back sooner because I have to get up early tomorrow"". * So I need your feedback and advice: what can I do to support my kids? I know I shouldn't bad mouth their mom. We've agreed to 50/50 custody once we sell the house. I feel like even though the kids are happy now, but I fear deeper psychological issues. I also anticipate that their mom's behavior will continue once we get our own apartment.",4.413195652173915,5.430273308695654,4.9201630434782615,85.39089673913045,70.26086956521739,7.5760869565217375,28.07065217391305,7.756953410329674,1.5864130434782604,1822,63,366,21,32,581,221,460,0.026,0.88,0.094,0.9838,2,0,0,0,4,0,65.0,8,2,3,1,21,13,2,1,31,1,26,10,5,1,0,55,58,20,3,9,6,4,2,1,6,7,0,0,2,22,16,31,2,0,7,0,4,16,6,4,0,2,11,5,59,9,60,37,4,91,0,0,1,3,83,31,0,5,45,232,75,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183223740567288,0.0536670526381565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04841561628481418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348382899343903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056598832120938164,0.0,0.05688143778280581,0.18621301600404674,0.0505502507683871,0.07381198860444599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12809134797242913,0.15645536548573086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048338061089073237,0.0,0.0,0.2342684603189789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06194983720530287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03998758582554013,0.0,0.051009457668592335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06812686416972512,0.03061198121783965,0.04325139624117528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05149720780813133,0.0,0.0,0.14032437892004151,0.0,0.12652330952031385,0.0,0.2064453387826644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196244287937168,0.05353731265240872,0.06444835201257917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4191457748640886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319038071700596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654487571184853,0.0,0.2731771848399571,0.19231650672693276,0.06577933290115087,0.0,0.0,0.0295778857518006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06082282860310975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418127054081801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08978262403883366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06892775408242678,0.0,0.1289510429483856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06086168417895086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051702751592457095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06127199025082373,0.048244335648647885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050081175688136144,0.0,0.12117194786290307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05987783434169033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14504735966278465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061078870722998,0.0,0.0,0.04552023820732624,0.048661568087688366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04022158142610106,0.03879302987863218,0.059482454258769774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785071535160945,0.0672646685457501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456900258003323,0.0,0.0,0.11224654652521224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21503739049026274,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ghostiex,2019/02/27,"This is kind of complex, but here it is (22M) leaving (23F).. Okay, so as stated previously, this is a bit complex. I am a 22 M that is currently living in the Midwest. My home state is approx. 6 hours away. The state I am living in was by choice when I was freshly 18 and didn't know what I was doing with my life and facing homelessness. I got married to said 23 F when I was only 19. I strongly regret this now, despite being together since I was 15. Things have grown increasingly toxic imo. There has been extreme emotional/verbal manipulation and abuse. Not to mention finical domination/abuse. This is incredibly frustrating because I now realize how fucked I really am. I have no driver's license nor was I taught to drive (There is an extensive background into why that is as well.), I have loans and many other bills in my name, I have no family or friends here (due to my own neglect to see I was being manipulated into alienation.) and now I feel trapped. I want to get up and leave so bad but for some reason I just can't find myself to. I think the head-games that she has played with me have taken a serious toll. I face all the things I ran away friend back where I came from and I face homeless once more when I get back. What do I do? I feel so depressed and scared. Please take it easy on me, I'm not in a great headspace. I know I did this to myself, I wish I could start all over again.. / 22 M living in a state that is 6hrs from family that is married with emotionally manipulative 23 F and seeking answers on escaping and facing homelessness",2.7197970085470082,4.573946342948723,4.3474358974359015,84.4753418803419,75.9551282051282,7.314529914529915,25.017094017094017,8.167268648758528,1.5062235042735042,1217,42,248,21,27,408,173,312,0.194,0.716,0.08900000000000001,-0.9912,1,1,0,0,2,0,44.0,0,0,0,1,20,16,2,1,10,1,37,6,4,5,2,46,57,23,0,4,6,0,2,0,2,0,1,1,1,0,17,16,0,1,11,1,2,5,7,8,1,0,16,4,39,8,31,38,7,36,0,3,1,1,6,14,1,2,13,177,56,1,0.0,0.30137576767163593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2389801964067708,0.1955876331223651,0.10619025580162443,0.07752794330383887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13884797123818315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454604061261673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10154313764974056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10954022421323964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14306074324596935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23978857596833625,0.0,0.12861238338899872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162405094291233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965184012109399,0.11757615751017547,0.13289293721201964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171772093542804,0.14021675301019407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305237009828017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12757223172327978,0.0,0.12524699776896353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13243873340138426,0.1397899568590798,0.0,0.0,0.2693311933344463,0.0,0.0,0.08983122196921271,0.0,0.0,0.3369076607759462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12894088386522382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13544289126592035,0.0,0.09672636516921984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13960580104557732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08147497034156692,0.1307625519540634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12097760937647865,0.0,0.12732968821791615,0.0,0.10134624983330834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520487586769997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001888587546326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956237736887706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1689859082975946,0.08149201445125588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07501424851941309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11435038242079595,0.0,0.11476045816862278,0.0,0.14625109273672546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,createnewuser-,2019/02/28,"M/27 I think I have to leave my wife with chronic illness Well, I’m at the end of my rope. I love her deeply. Her smile her eyes her voice and moments we have shared. Since about a month before our wedding day (have been married 2.5 years) she has suffered severe illness. She will pace and scream in pain for days on end, about once a month. We have taken her to every doctor we can, racked up hundreds of thousands in medical debt from constant ER visits and the only answer we’ve gotten from doctors as to why, is cyclical vomiting from chronic marijuana use. She will not quit. Won’t even try. She will sneak off and buy more weed behind my back. I’m not convinced that cyclical vomiting is the cause but with having done EVERY other test and avenue mentally and physically including having her gallbladder removed nothing has helped. I work nearly 70hrs a week and she can’t hold a job due to her illness. I get home from work frequently to the house torn apart and her running around naked clawing at herself and screaming. I’ve never seen anything like it. I’ve tried to be a good man. Take care of her. Love her so well. Spending hours at a time in the ER with my back thrown out in the awful chairs advocating for her. I’m her errand boy I’m her punching bag. All of it would be okay. It’s what I signed up for but when she is feeling well she cold shoulders me and treats me like a dog. She has zero respect for me or my opinions and she blames me for our financial ruin, while everything I’ve sacrificed and done for her goes thankless. My whole family says I need to get out and her family blames me for her illness, as she was fine before we wed. I don’t know what I’m looking for here. I suppose primarily to vent. I think I have to divorce her. The anxiety and stress and weight this has all put on me is becoming too much to bare. It will shatter my soul to leave her. I have tried before. I frequently fantasize about packing up and just leaving state. We have no kids. I could just go.. but my heart is like concrete around my ankles. The thought of making her hurt like that with me gone makes me sick, but I just can’t bare it any more. I’ve begun to loose my will to live. A lack of sleep from working long hours and being up with her all night trying to help her while she screams and claws at me, eventually begging me to take her to the ER, all to have medical professionals tell us nothing is truly wrong. I don’t know. What would you do? 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You’d think I’d be jumping for joy happy it’s over. Tonight I’m in my feels. Last week Tuesday lost my relationship with my mother Wednesday lost my job Thursday I got a divorce I feel like I have nothing I don’t have family I don’t have love I do t have a career. I’ll be 30 this year for my birthday and I feel like a waste of life I’m just here. Wasting time wasting other people’s time What’s my point ya know I’m scared I’m afraid I’m lonely I’m lost I’m empty ",-2.056453055141578,-0.4121501475409808,0.9842026825633392,97.88341281669152,107.85245901639344,3.201788375558868,17.02086438152012,5.238671369647483,-0.6371442622950818,430,14,99,3,22,149,69,122,0.244,0.612,0.145,-0.8591,1,2,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,2,0,4,2,12,0,2,3,0,11,2,0,0,0,9,31,1,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,0,1,2,7,0,0,6,4,16,5,6,22,0,16,0,5,0,1,7,3,0,0,14,42,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16035494541760895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951862446267985,0.0,0.2993274011797688,0.21145851263496016,0.0,0.16212374005700475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836691094294352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754581172781135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14686442225408286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08133541148036824,0.24127500361168516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045348259176551,0.1446079496043705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6462258713792274,0.0,0.13357328539066513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200734125983394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260265016051807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990522673769576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15889364707016132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817105345144865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0948306541712262,0.0,0.0,0.1725967591479493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2374289143538187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530536891896736 divorce,together2019cd,2019/02/28,"I dont understand My husband of 8 years said he wants a divorce. He recently gave up drinking and has never developed healthy coping skills. I am trying to be supportive, and he told me just a week ago how I was the love of his life. If we fought a ton, didn't have a good sex life, and didn't care- I'd get it. I don't understand why he wants to throw away our marriage?",2.251541666666668,3.221111737500003,3.9175,90.72416666666668,75.375,7.833333333333335,25.833333333333336,8.344100000000001,1.4054583333333333,289,10,68,5,6,97,59,80,0.126,0.79,0.084,-0.2942,0,0,1,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,2,5,1,0,5,0,9,5,0,1,1,12,21,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,2,1,0,1,5,1,0,0,7,1,9,4,6,13,1,8,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,1,5,38,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19089419062847046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232778760077266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195629976873375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2523878149127745,0.21096036238964008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11251113848827073,0.0,0.0,0.1806248036803804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30421520564102755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19436118119753776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660906817873994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2126314868004973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20484653056950897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2443758715431876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20577551666162944,0.0,0.14620806148064425,0.0,0.0,0.4483725015539682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.254037232702473,0.0,0.17274024558612167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19431927795210915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13867791020772582 divorce,anitaburrito,2019/02/28,"So my parents are divorcing........... I have never thought my parents were all that great together. The earliest memory I have of them was in fourth grade. My mom moved my brother and I out. Literally, she just packed our bags and made us move to our aunt's for a week. And my dad showed up at an assembly because he wanted to see me. After that, we moved back. And then a decade or so later my mom got fired from a nail salon because my dad was mouthing off to other people about creating a nail salon business. I was completely against it but they did it anyways. The salon became moderately successful, but my mom literally does all the nails...It's like she's a dentist without making as much as one. After three years, my dad (easily gullible and easy to persuade to buy anything) bought 3 teslas for 180,000 bucks. My mom, as well my bro and I, were pissed. We had just recently moved and my mom was staying at the old house (she makes the excuse that there's too much shit and she's sorting through them) but it's been half a year. She comes to the newer house to rage around 8 to 9 pm. The divorce would be good. My dad told me he was going to hire a lawyer. I'm not sure if they're going to through with it. The threat of divorce has been there every time they argue. I think they'll be the first couple in the family to divorce. My grandma and grandpa sort of tolerate each other. I think the relationship examples from my family have made me really detached and cold. I used to want kids but after I hit my teens, I just didn't want to anymore nor did I think I would be married at 28 (have a house with a fence and all that shit). Do you guys have any opinons and/or similar experiences. &#x200B;",2.6651515151515177,4.581081580645165,3.7919736070381234,88.12129374389052,76.30205278592375,7.010009775171065,24.856402737047897,7.908726449838941,1.320081446725318,1333,46,276,21,30,432,184,341,0.096,0.826,0.078,-0.8802,3,0,0,0,3,0,55.0,5,1,5,2,13,12,6,0,21,0,27,5,4,5,5,52,48,24,0,6,11,15,1,1,0,3,1,0,0,2,10,19,0,1,4,1,3,7,5,6,1,4,19,3,47,6,42,22,6,32,0,0,1,0,44,9,3,4,16,188,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09510938952990633,0.10666207944922364,0.0596932821964588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705398627512506,0.0,0.0,0.07223530587680793,0.07814264300028509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749725703396499,0.0,0.10701951719452556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561453540429071,0.0920354627062826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09712669227913627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07681670493970197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07395827744598285,0.0,0.0,0.08586549967279038,0.16550198893012216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07466546316786818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09977457998943642,0.0736255415447063,0.0702055344224382,0.09677755252016322,0.0,0.08691581451275664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30385835220119084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042884782169408615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16611876091162406,0.11718741214197975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.514033273990357,0.0,0.3731841930219941,0.1290565236561543,0.0,0.06770120239834504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09211014644527787,0.0,0.05948187230925338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19493818617021874,0.0,0.0,0.0608554690689684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05623399523975912,0.0,0.0866719744251999,0.09424266731323344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994914520129784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18020943099058329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356160001989536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08273143389328443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687372772344174,0.0,0.06968736555599091,0.051185114230967436,0.0,0.0,0.08387737200070848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558830568393524,0.07581357376401376,0.0,0.0,0.15532442208215191,0.0,0.07041167031715491,0.0,0.07892459283823786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461660625084838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247125197093113,0.0,0.10666207944922364,0.11305464179104892 divorce,zombiebobby,2019/02/28,Ex wife is threatening to take me to court for more child support since she found out my new GF is pregnant I am the custodial parent. She found out my new girlfriend is pregnant. She sent me threatening texts saying she can’t wait to take me to court to get more child support of our daughter that we share joint custody of. I am currently paying her more than I need to because it’s based on her last jobs income. She lives in another state. Can she take me to court in that state? 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Complete handbook of divorce and marriage. Hello, I am the author of the book ""Should I Leave or Should I Stay?"" - The Complete Handbook of Marriage and Divorce. My book is completely free for the next 5 days and I wanted you guys to take advantage and download this free e-book while you can by [clicking here](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07P8WH88L)! Enjoy.",3.7621180555555536,7.049050281250004,3.0395833333333364,85.93597222222225,85.25,4.719444444444443,28.98611111111111,6.42735559955562,1.6567902777777777,294,14,47,3,9,86,41,64,0.018000000000000002,0.737,0.245,0.9439,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,0,2,0,1,0,5,0,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,0,8,7,6,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,7,8,6,5,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,1,3,29,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7965915301682992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633269619653355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25075986886887464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2681579136749998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693369901509758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26993355218120424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904144212383849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14937493225216444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jeepd00d,2019/02/28,"FL alimony and child support I cant seen to pin down how these two things are figured out. Is it that first alimony is figured out and then child support is calculated after? Anyone with experience as well on the new tax laws and how it's being applied? I read that alimony is generally 1/2 the length of marriage x 30%. Is this true? When alimony runs out do you end up having to recalculating child support? If you get bonuses how are they worked? Married 12 years, 3 kids, shes been a full time home maker the last 6 years until she picked up a part time job and going back to school 6 months ago. Have a house w decent equity, a meh 401k, and a cash value insurance policy. Yes yes I know I should talk to an attorney.",2.9969080459770154,4.702287765517244,4.7473275862069,82.54834770114945,74.79310344827586,8.14367816091954,25.186781609195403,8.841846274778883,1.8527816091954024,566,19,115,12,12,192,103,145,0.009000000000000001,0.813,0.17800000000000002,0.9736,1,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,1,3,6,6,0,0,9,2,15,0,0,5,1,22,22,13,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,4,7,9,0,0,3,1,3,2,1,0,1,2,2,1,9,6,16,18,2,25,0,0,1,0,11,8,0,1,15,72,16,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567716558216096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366141926239133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13599089860272365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664140548992544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17299853316407726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15043312687028895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09239965564750913,0.0,0.10051100879288384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740040259038153,0.0,0.0,0.20406740549960128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17550171157016697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971951117022258,0.14416076896993954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14116430609679895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17080806324572242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915171815611612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769032760192102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17898712328907798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6020802922060319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14214968456380195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1174948801911728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20625163110997694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17276204375681248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15901425885388404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12875284950022087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2277781794990172 divorce,rockersox,2019/02/28,"Delayed grieving? Has anyone else found that the grieving process for a divorce didn't really kick in until months after actually leaving? I left 9 months ago, and have had to rebuild everything from scratch. Is this why it's only hitting me now? Is this normal?",4.074375,6.964032687499998,4.624833333333335,79.00350000000002,76.29166666666666,6.34,32.516666666666666,7.554174236665415,2.663661666666667,211,11,33,3,5,67,44,48,0.191,0.809,0.0,-0.8577,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,4,8,2,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,1,2,0,6,4,0,9,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,7,22,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.2646381200553577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403897568831184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961934385724608,0.2778617925495134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2265408510194754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24372421719494894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29734111807219965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28714649568705425,0.2946440519224412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4329156701871876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26570440367023657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20624894172134176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1737285008107932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24470291018716744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Wintrepid,2019/02/28,"Finding closure through a healing ritual of divorce like the Jewish ""Get"" Hello all, I'm not personally going through divorce but I've stumbled on a profound topic and wanted to hear your thoughts and personal experiences. I'm currently reading a book by Dr. Marilyn Beloff, a Vancouver-based psychotherapist and divorce mediator. In it she begins by telling the story of her own divorce and how, despite two years of therapy, she wasn't able to fully move on and heal. It wasn't until she dug into her Jewish heritage and participated in the ancient Jewish divorce ritual, the *get*, that she finally had emotional and spiritual closure. Since then, she has completed a doctoral thesis on this subject and interviewed several people who've performed the *get*, and in each case she found common threads: namely, that the ritual is profoundly healing. As a result of her experiences and research she's been advocating that everyone going through a separation, not just Jewish people, should consider incorporating some kind of healing ritual of divorce. In some ways, it seems obvious. We have ceremonies and rituals for everything! Marriage, funeral, birthday, and now even kindergarten graduation. Why wouldn't we have a ceremony that properly and viscerally closes off one of the most important aspects of our lives, our deeply personal long-term relationships? As a Christian, I especially see a need for this in the Church. With the divorce rate higher than 50% in some contexts, there probably millions of people going about their lives with unhealed wounds because they, and their church communities, never adequately provided closure and healing. Maybe we need to get over the taboo of divorce, accept it as a reality, and make practical steps to help people heal. TL;DR: Research shows that having a visceral ritual of divorce is immensely helpful for providing closure and healing in the aftermath of a separation. Does anyone have personal experience with this kind of ritual that they can share? Also, do you know any other authors or thought leaders who advocate for this kind of thing? edit: for those who might be curious, [here's Dr. Beloff's book](https://www.amazon.ca/Moving-Forward-Ancient-Divorce-Ritual-ebook/dp/B07M7KTDWG)",10.116256684491976,11.229161695187173,9.938930481283425,54.084278074866354,57.71657754010696,13.324064171122995,45.07486631016042,12.641684177145171,6.71004705882353,1830,105,235,61,22,599,212,374,0.009000000000000001,0.925,0.066,0.96,1,0,0,0,10,0,72.0,5,2,4,1,8,6,0,0,24,0,17,11,0,3,3,56,38,26,1,5,5,0,0,1,0,3,11,1,0,4,19,26,0,1,7,3,0,5,6,0,0,3,7,2,22,6,50,27,7,31,14,0,1,0,46,14,0,7,12,172,41,8,0.10691795844388537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550225273918069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270787811486125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07475952251032185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06517619509078079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210144522912878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10943506096913194,0.09356462594165148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202683124855926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07061830318490459,0.0,0.0,0.1021646911615822,0.09609096693960573,0.3137588379175067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11712339736675526,0.09772107703557703,0.0,0.0,0.11723002283194232,0.0,0.0,0.22344088164373105,0.0,0.18229181912693787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12050430972678937,0.0,0.14332970762219782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340158022217434,0.058759313814584824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522347138609964,0.0,0.18882103226750915,0.09461902871089822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713685674928471,0.0,0.10741346000724396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342305780409324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363686926837158,0.0,0.15855662286721747,0.08246172083498597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07245037570009003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2964938006341859,0.3734265491811769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527564270472995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694689196188092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11478987443978225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519977016503215,0.0973340938096255,0.0,0.12078686005466675,0.0,0.08844364008447864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0934510082797352,0.0,0.12227000347305647,0.0,0.07103154074159129,0.0,0.0,0.16976183230518851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444330961269023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06306298203898685,0.08486649879143326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09647682747099502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06885165979489831 divorce,urbanprojection,2019/02/28,"Has anyone had their parents divorce while they're in college? My friend is going through a divorce while we are here in college. I want to help as much as possible, however, mine divorced while I was much younger and I feel like our experiences will be much different. So, can you all share what it was like to experience a parental divorce while at university? How did it affect you academically and socially? And in what ways were you able to manage it?",4.8113109243697485,6.942193694117647,5.388067226890758,78.06058823529416,70.88235294117648,8.621848739495798,33.31932773109244,9.23628265651192,3.183991596638656,364,18,66,8,7,117,60,85,0.0,0.826,0.174,0.924,4,0,0,0,4,0,9.0,2,3,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,2,1,9,14,11,0,1,0,2,1,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,1,11,4,10,7,4,10,0,0,0,0,16,4,0,0,6,53,16,4,0.21043925909052905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471440229125848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21986423603647465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41169995103687584,0.0,0.0,0.10640441238842806,0.1503378487420261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258484955619018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11959748051577647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410529994991802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205619984588146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4640912066490757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4673357868255002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372386455448733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451632340199792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241225273047916,0.16703688872482267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,runostog,2019/02/28,"I've(M32) been contemplating divorce with my wife(f51), Texas native I've been married to my wife for 12 years, we got married when I was 20, she was 39 at the time. It was pretty good for a while but I had a lot more patience back then, and my limit for her crap is rapidly dwindling. Basically there is sex less usually once every two months...and it sucks usually. She is jobless, does nothing around the home like cleaning, cooking, yard work (we own two acres of land). &#x200B; The full story is she is depressed (she is taking meds for it), in constant pain (military injuries, is taking meds), three types of arthritis plus a recent constant allergic reaction (more meds). Between the libido suppressing meds, and the constant pain she doesn't really have much sex drive or will to do anything really. I've talked to her about the lack of sex for years and I've gotten nowhere for it. I could accept everything, the lack of effort into our property and the lack of will in getting a job if she would just...love me I guess. I just hurts that it seems like she just wants me around to take care of her. It just feels more like I live with a freeloading roommate and less with a loving wife. I guess I'm just...tired of it all. I'm just tired to trying to put all this effort into our marriage when it seems like she does almost nothing. I don't like the feeling of being taken advantage of and being used. &#x200B; I don't really want to get divorced, my friends are all very interlinked with my wife and if we split up I'm don't really know what would happen. Would I still even have any friends at the end of the day? My family are...useless druggies, so I don't really have any of them to lean on. &#x200B; So I come to the point of this post. We live in Texas, and she is a air force veteran with three separate degrees (Floral Arrangement, Business Management, and the degree to be a medical lab tech). She is around 40-50% disabled from nerve damage in the wrist. I'm a high school graduate who works a pretty low level Walmart job. If I were to go down the path of divorce how bad would I be fucked? Alimony? Lose everything? Would it be better to stick things out of hope they get better or should I just bit the bullet and rip my life apart? Please help me.",3.5938839063278536,5.317205535874444,4.190097159940212,87.08763203786751,73.23766816143498,7.287394120577978,25.841803687095165,7.984000788550335,1.4664894867962133,1783,60,355,26,36,565,223,446,0.136,0.732,0.132,-0.4662,3,0,1,0,3,0,82.0,6,0,2,9,18,26,3,0,26,0,40,14,2,2,3,68,71,24,0,16,11,3,2,5,2,8,6,0,3,0,15,27,1,2,6,2,0,4,5,11,0,4,10,2,46,15,56,47,16,45,0,5,0,5,34,23,3,12,22,234,61,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07016618437390378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22776634562403136,0.25543253061434823,0.09530163678821142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05766262660260699,0.18713467010511853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053880427054428935,0.05850652457183726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394456307887633,0.07649960139631051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144225772640421,0.0,0.0,0.06036013370225235,0.0,0.227166219706448,0.0,0.055946150926544064,0.0,0.0,0.0451901267277536,0.0,0.060352221314061774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12263955748549832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06206228438021452,0.0,0.0,0.046281366305971,0.0,0.05903800758887536,0.0,0.12595095149716035,0.0,0.06605689055945717,0.0,0.07086020757919581,0.05005887880843308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827366957986127,0.06477969467633643,0.1098279287170676,0.0,0.03982307737558827,0.058772397499740926,0.05604233923701379,0.0,0.1543826519368197,0.0,0.06196373016149581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696724787922008,0.07403406927710733,0.07028712619306084,0.06959651155583094,0.0,0.0,0.07501266813906125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13906970636039934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038509298636357145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049493360344457456,0.17116624281940546,0.0,0.12374830555985647,0.0,0.0,0.07839174854133084,0.0,0.059572027907935685,0.06324199316542507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113332241765013,0.07058936146965515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05151039400945215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13447041119230027,0.0,0.0,0.0746235404191298,0.0,0.0,0.14912139296646454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07691713488761695,0.06623993238823893,0.0,0.06710883949792115,0.14257520155662634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044090913048505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244470228597792,0.0,0.06918685589446076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07091579465352614,0.0,0.1275803763754539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595895030651955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580544643029746,0.05632057577856622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04655219126026542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04085907983203637,0.0805365357499671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04757374475663091,0.0,0.13689876002079102,0.0,0.0,0.060519018259838075,0.15434705297413598,0.0578160779040544,0.0826596177042416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10202533532501527,0.0,0.0,0.24888284784633016,0.0,0.25543253061434823,0.0902471099991806 divorce,UrInUranus,2019/02/28,"I guess we’re getting a divorce You hurt the one person that would have done anything for you. The one that loved you enough to look past your flaws and mistakes. You hurt me for 3 years and I stayed in hopes that you would realize how much you were hurting me and in turn would want to be better and make things work. But, we’ve been separated for 5 months and you have no plans of coming back. We talk and you still make me feel unworthy and irrational. You won’t disclose where you’re staying even though I only inquire because of our child that I was willing to let you keep overnight. You decided you would rather not keep her than to disclose that. My emotions are all over the place. The majority of the time I feel at peace, I feel happy, and I love myself so much. Others, I feel like I failed. I reminisce on the person you used to be, the one that loved me. You were my favorite everything. My favorite person, my favorite hello, my favorite goodbye, my best friend. With you I had my best meals, and my best days. You let me down and you hurt me at the lowest point of my life, and then you left me to pick up all of the pieces. Despite all of this, I don’t hate you, I don’t resent you, and I choose not to see you as a bad person. I just wish my heart could follow what my brain feels. I shouldn’t want to be with someone who destroyed the one person that would have done anything for them. I don’t want to by affected by your actions nor your words. I just want to be at a place of peace. 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A week ago this past Sunday, my wife initiated our separation (nothing is signed) and I moved out this past week. We've been married for 3 years and together for 11. The reason for the split was my inability to grow up and be the partner she needed, let's leave it that for now. We have spoken a few times since the split, some good and some bad but, no she seems to be backtracking and is hesitant to sign the separation (I do not want the separation). She has expressed an openess to us possibly beginning to date each other again down the road but, currently needs her time and space. All she ever wanted was for me to grow up and be a partner and, over the last two weeks, I've felt myself doing that. I have found a place, started seeing a therapist, joined AA, and resumed going to church after an 18 year hiatus. I don't know what I'm looking for as far as responses go, I just know that I want her back and the man in the mirror is changing everyday. He's not just changing for her though, he's becoming a man I can live with. P.S. - No kids and we rent.",4.591316526610643,4.915055722689075,5.620689075630253,83.02529131652662,69.50420168067227,9.035742296918768,28.47170868347339,9.029198982220553,2.0481587675070023,914,30,194,16,15,303,141,238,0.077,0.915,0.009000000000000001,-0.8825,2,0,0,0,0,0,34.0,4,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,19,0,19,0,0,1,2,42,37,18,0,5,7,2,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,5,9,17,0,0,7,0,1,5,6,1,1,1,8,3,23,1,26,25,5,41,1,0,2,0,21,11,0,3,24,129,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12164361153622212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10551922766520437,0.1145789598133504,0.0,0.15155663428383606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2903363126528586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1241298369187708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1317596088666921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1504625152481306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1559787328218045,0.11509964436511055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15083293404234813,0.1118584637474064,0.0,0.14530376513641075,0.0,0.14032408468517152,0.0,0.0,0.13753768102818906,0.12117411035331085,0.0,0.11523626612795405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14585077066438454,0.0,0.20350442411882227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13167317622130498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619977337669731,0.0,0.0,0.14337319139962815,0.0,0.0,0.15470302195692673,0.13142570132518513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109239188033468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093522922534176,0.12492646695965083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351573789154877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713010133844599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593313278920576,0.0,0.0,0.13482500348697074,0.10894304916406718,0.2400548092890261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340510108719584,0.0,0.16506739615566668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2428204311681213,0.0,0.33022608904289874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17673960409613182 divorce,Doug8796,2019/02/28,"[USA-AL] Default Divorce Tomorrrow Hello all, I have a default divorce hearing tomorrow. Everything is uncontested, but my soon to be ex-wife never turned her vehicle in after non-payment. I will be served for a future court date for that, but in the mean time can I tell the divorce judge that I would like the divorce to be prompt and ready pending she surrender the vehicle to reduce my amount owed. I also would like to see if I could get my belongings, as she also informed me she would let me get the rest of my stuff, but never has. She keeps saying she will surrender the vehicle but keeps pushing the date up. Now it is next Friday. My question is can I ask the judge for these stipulations, as I filed the divorce and the default? I live in Birmingham, AL",3.894909909909913,5.716918581081085,5.006486486486487,81.13558558558559,72.64864864864866,8.176576576576577,29.900900900900893,8.841846274778883,2.5599711711711715,602,26,112,12,12,198,83,148,0.0,0.931,0.069,0.8674,1,0,0,0,5,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,12,0,17,0,0,0,3,19,27,11,0,5,5,0,0,2,0,5,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,2,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,3,22,2,15,17,3,16,0,0,1,0,18,4,0,2,13,86,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993943642649281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17499902574100534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14945738771997838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16823588289681565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19559993616362614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109787172034563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3327692728835589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914162563231525,0.0,0.1829048761636558,0.0,0.1652937528091382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2039067028191112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2887476492683013,0.0,0.19908055946130396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20969761105362475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488624001740352,0.0,0.0,0.14916759621462472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142897789488533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16361384827587613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915302009527243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20361088044858813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3989269646406303,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,WiscoByron,2019/02/28,"First court date today Separation began in August. Started mediation in September and petition to courts filed in October. Agreed to 50/50 custody and who gets what property and assets. Found out about the affair in November. Stbxw stopped forward momentum on finishing up the divorce. I pushed to finish it because I’ve healed. Counseling, meditation, and physical health were my focus when not with my children. She has now filed for full custody and child support. Stbxw is being hypocritical and manipulating the system (she’s a certified GAL and CCE). I’m nervous. Everything I’ve done over the last 8 months has been to set up an amazing home and life for me and my children. Now I feel that’s on the line. I have a good lawyer, but I’m scared. 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Hey all just here looking for advice or suggestions or maybe just others opinions. I am a 31 Male married to 25 female with 1 daughter who is soon to be 4. We have been married 3 years together for almost 6. I am at my wits end with my relationship. I love my daughter more than anything in this world, she completes me. My wife has zero trust. She is always over my shoulder or snooping through my phone. If i change the lock code or my Facebook password she goes insane saying I am hiding stuff from her. I work in a hospital and their are other females here but i have never done anything with anyone besides her i am completely loyal and have been through out our relationship. If she sees a co worker in Walmart that is a girl she will be like ""is this why you wanted to come here, did you know she was going to be here"" Another example if i come home and take a shower after work she thinks I am washing sex smells off of my member. She won't have intercourse with me until she gives me oral so she can smell down there to see if i have been in someone else. One day i was at the clinic that is part of the hospital and i asked my wife to order pizza for supper because i was to busy at the moment and i wanted it to be ready to pick up at 5 when we got off work. She orders the pizza and then comes to the clinic and sees me talking with some co workers and says ""i ordered the fucking pizza. I want a divorce"" luckily the clinic manager wasn't there to here that at this time. I feel like she will think nothing of jeopardizing my career over her jealous insecurities. She calls all my co workers sluts and wants to know what all they said to me and how long i was there talking to them. I work in IT if someone has a problem i have to fix it, doesn't matter on race/sex/hotness or whatever i treat everyone the same. My mom will buy my daughter clothes and my wife wont let her wear them or she will get jealous and say ""I feel like your mom is trying to outdo me"" instead of being grateful that our child is well loved and is being help taken care of. She is just suffocating me in every way possible, it feels like i am living with two shadows. I want out but the thought of not seeing my little girl every day literally kills me. I don't want to break her heart cause mine surely will be. &#x200B;",3.2343451143451136,4.599184035343036,4.444656964656964,86.3510187110187,73.51143451143452,6.7800415800415825,26.09771309771309,7.222845823187471,1.1919471933471937,1855,63,378,19,37,610,239,481,0.059,0.8170000000000001,0.125,0.9864,1,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,4,3,4,7,19,19,4,1,17,0,54,16,3,3,5,72,89,31,1,12,17,8,3,4,0,7,4,4,2,4,16,26,4,0,9,0,1,4,7,7,1,3,15,14,81,12,60,59,7,45,0,0,5,5,63,22,1,14,18,285,97,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08431025630650986,0.0,0.0,0.08639535714486922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179054244100047,0.09348261298685516,0.10483770259496476,0.0,0.09047042770100854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06032786505227556,0.0,0.14199954760818645,0.0,0.08065865954443381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052594513314535095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08809989538536518,0.0,0.08796658143212474,0.08863168577601688,0.09127110966370687,0.2229636122464279,0.18092252686643934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11128486386722293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08829276090804376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07207453422800311,0.0,0.0764170557669553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14538655040958468,0.08244271090217811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308748579345812,0.1849119238070527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07976299277546553,0.045076904260267885,0.08276610538467752,0.04903400438789305,0.0,0.06900472010583615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224032229461144,0.05783059447858448,0.0,0.08654427234886758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0954542690806853,0.0,0.09483270720144472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08822551202593075,0.0,0.1686050773486596,0.08647362538508968,0.07618541003985753,0.07635367112812076,0.07245212827081794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15573925345475625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667825184705175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20209644432507576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06654322284929795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278645407357386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05846447838960226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343110206343644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09726593517236014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08255677897335059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185261430839522,0.0,0.0,0.08207051826688629,0.20583614572303255,0.0,0.0,0.27501086493918137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14620682079095393,0.0,0.08533154613693382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09876812885614547,0.0,0.0,0.08131637322792014,0.0,0.06487062114817001,0.13869462341188968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16585114952505015,0.0,0.06849541413885066,0.05030963028983513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058577371787322474,0.0,0.08428146243252782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3053354228994819,0.06848377992036818,0.0,0.0,0.07757464540472253,0.0,0.07785283844661092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2512468181612577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10483770259496476,0.05556046241678878 divorce,glotti,2019/02/28,"29m/ how do you know it’s time? It’s so discouraging to think about but we constantly fight, there is no sex and every day for more then two years I have felt so hopeless. Also I’m really worried in how my family will view me and the fact I’m scared shitless of the future, the last nine years have been creating a life that most of it was a front to everyone. Today I hit my breaking point and I just don’t know what to do? How do you know and how come this feeling of I hate you but I love you but I wanna get as far away from you as possible?",-0.3585714285714268,1.7178073865546253,2.003991596638656,95.83439075630257,88.57983193277313,5.752941176470588,16.903361344537814,7.1686216300943375,-0.028505882352940493,425,10,102,7,14,144,79,119,0.199,0.721,0.079,-0.9518,0,0,0,0,1,1,8.0,1,5,0,0,10,6,2,1,5,0,10,3,0,4,1,24,23,17,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,6,0,0,2,2,5,0,2,3,3,15,1,14,18,2,16,0,2,1,2,8,4,0,1,9,72,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914932602738664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872631193683996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220236675702847,0.0,0.2285737309216589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641036788391858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178211412923214,0.2021126707209999,0.0,0.0,0.19939852784146486,0.0,0.1069488811399206,0.0,0.20308859887046501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050841739893418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20882833038203152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34873110395888635,0.17241382901529093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940005663344158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090151274370507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995105568350185,0.2384525898376538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550261163551608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176448693300404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553095802663687,0.0,0.0,0.1233367223080488,0.0,0.20049250393691254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662046745068616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480483792839564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724188305470737 divorce,dtrain421,2019/02/28,"How do I know when it’s time? It’s so discouraging to think about but we constantly fight, there is no sex and every day for more then two years I have felt so hopeless. Also I’m really worried in how my family will view me and the fact I’m scared shitless of the future, the last nine years have been creating a life that most of it was a front to everyone. Today I hit my breaking point and I just don’t know what to do? How do you know and how come this feeling of I hate you but I love you but I wanna get as far away from you as possible?",0.27060224089635554,2.116251571428574,2.5564915966386583,94.39647408963587,83.70588235294117,6.3196078431372555,18.32002801120448,7.492282038375204,0.20836078431372584,423,10,102,7,12,144,79,119,0.201,0.7190000000000001,0.08,-0.9518,0,0,0,0,1,1,7.0,1,4,0,0,11,6,2,1,5,0,10,3,0,4,1,24,23,18,0,1,4,0,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,6,6,0,1,6,0,0,2,2,5,0,2,3,3,15,1,14,18,2,17,0,2,1,2,7,4,0,1,10,73,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914932602738664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19872631193683996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18220236675702847,0.0,0.2285737309216589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641036788391858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178211412923214,0.2021126707209999,0.0,0.0,0.19939852784146486,0.0,0.1069488811399206,0.0,0.20308859887046501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11050841739893418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20882833038203152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34873110395888635,0.17241382901529093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940005663344158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090151274370507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995105568350185,0.2384525898376538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13550261163551608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21176448693300404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13553095802663687,0.0,0.0,0.1233367223080488,0.0,0.20049250393691254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20662046745068616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21480483792839564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724188305470737 divorce,looneylaster,2019/02/28,"Decided on divorce today. Im sorry if this is a rant, but no clue who to really tell this to. Today, my husband hit me, hard. Unfortunately this isnt the first time but i put up with it and hid it from family because i felt i had no resources. Basically meaning..ok i tell family but where do i go? We have a daughter and despite my husbands relationship to me was always loving to her and she had a great home that i felt selfish to remove her from(yes i know this sounds stupid) besides the physical abuse the emotional abuse wqs almost worse. Ive been alienated from friends and most family. I thought i had no way out as a stay at home mother. After the incident today my hero of a dad showed up, police were called and husband was arrested. My dad has been amazing and said he will get me through this and my aunt has offered to let me and little one stay with her, get me a great job and help me rebuild my life. Im excited for the future and the possibilities i havent had in years since weve been together 12 married 5. I guess my only problem is, even after all the hurt and pain i stlll love my soon to be ex. Instead of flashing back to horrible events my mind keeps playing all the good ones. The cuddles, playing,, inside jokes and strong bond. Does that ever go away? Im scared i wont make it. I guess im not really looking for answers im just so torn and broken, feeling like a knife is in my heart. It gets better someday,right? 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I am pursuing my master's degree and am taking a course on research psychology. I am interested in custody arrangements, as I am the 3rd parent in a conflict filled custody arrangement. If you are a part of a custody arrangement with children under 18, I would REALLY appreciate your participation. The survey takes no more than 10 minutes and is completely anonymous. Taking the survey would mean helping a student (from a divorced family as well) succeed in school. Thank you for your help and kindness.  Please follow this link: [https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LV7QY3F](https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/LV7QY3F) Thank you!!!!!",9.991445523193097,13.696193495145636,8.578187702265375,53.94510248112192,60.65048543689321,9.626321467098165,36.687162891046384,9.994966539143718,4.722880043149948,562,26,64,13,9,172,71,103,0.04,0.7070000000000001,0.253,0.9726,1,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,0,5,0,2,1,6,0,0,9,0,8,0,0,0,1,12,15,6,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,10,6,13,13,3,7,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,0,50,11,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116705133623315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986467805452836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4049882452309285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2097300705645272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21938674168332847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22363402516793526,0.21809965478091392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2210798438834983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290238198457506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20383043172087556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4542896240772102,0.0,0.0,0.3708493610576752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108534533858311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2861416053915206,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Space_Droid,2019/03/01,"My mother is going to divorce my dad because he is mentally and emotionally abusive. I'll try to keep this short while giving as many details as possible, I'm just sharing to see if I can help my mom figure out what to do. Ok, so for the better part of a decade my dad has been unemployed and drinking everyday. He used to drink during the day but my mom got him to stop for about a year and now he just drinks at night. My mom has been paying all the bills for the house and all the bills for her and my dads credit cards. He has been mentally abusive towards her especially bad for the last 5 years. He will text her while she is at work(teacher) accusing her of cheating on him and fucking other men. She has never committed adultery and I know this for a fact. My dad has severe emotional problems and has some type of un-diagnosed bipolar disorder. He has assaulted me once and has constantly said things while drunk that are just unforgivable. Examples are thing like making fun of my mom because her parents are dead and threaten to kill himself at least once a week while my mom is at work. I think that is a good enough summary of how he acts while sober and drunk. Currently my mom is trying to consult a lawyer to see what her options are. My dad either wants us(my sister-16 and me-26) to either leave because he thinks the house is his or to sell the house and give him half the cash. He has no job and probably max $3000 dollars to his name. He can't afford to keep the house for even 6 months. The house is paid off, but for 11 years my mom has been paying all the utility bills. Some advice given to my mom has been to take out a second mortgage, give my dad his share of the houses value so we can finally be rid of him, repair the house, and then sell it. My mom is also worried about credit card debt that my dad has racked up under my mothers name. Any advice that might be obvious to a divorce lawyer would be of great help. I never thought I'd be coming to Reddit for help with legal advice but any help would be greatly appreciated. I just want to help my family in anyway I can to be rid of these troubling times so that we can start to heal and move on. If you think this would possibly get more traction/advice in r/personalfinance or any other sub-reddit message me and let me know, I would really like the help. Thanks in advance, Space_Droid.",5.314122653862941,5.573479542194092,5.820769678451914,82.4424683544304,67.92405063291139,8.816412047140988,28.792084970173143,8.641336200584522,1.966758126000291,1869,59,378,27,29,604,229,474,0.14,0.726,0.134,-0.8553,8,0,3,0,2,0,43.0,2,1,0,3,14,20,4,0,23,1,49,8,0,3,8,70,78,37,2,9,13,19,0,2,0,6,2,1,0,1,16,23,5,3,7,5,13,5,4,7,0,2,10,3,48,13,58,55,11,45,0,0,2,1,67,16,1,8,26,252,64,12,0.0,0.12999481208649113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442524456579976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386968418034719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11191535479370476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04580388945998121,0.10032223724319547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048517179134951335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04725505252825229,0.0,0.05928168691510662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03537867929206871,0.0,0.0,0.055679412416997205,0.0,0.0,0.06287167872550455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612189891802478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12341506139588555,0.0,0.056682670180017776,0.0,0.0362329945565766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051714958893864765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060093930721129875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050715061199080716,0.028660884937704693,0.15787351829724472,0.031176896037091745,0.04601203742790825,0.0438747153463048,0.12096161944113465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22061976634327815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4430889564795004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443780419346608,0.09752009154993713,0.06069191901773172,0.0,0.060296716334785276,0.044716348594853766,0.0,0.058086385207799324,0.0,0.05609571664782855,0.0,0.05360140410154704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03661794182038293,0.055617099204168616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11056732116390697,0.05819535234718675,0.0,0.5782380943142029,0.04378689407442991,0.058305055204264,0.0,0.0,0.08461928274647831,0.0,0.0,0.05148023682461621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11684332376548565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091298569767574,0.059405545029927974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12368763215136952,0.0,0.0,0.059145880688891726,0.052491411773108704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03514324838101852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052182236544986736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08742897150978489,0.0,0.0,0.06197358822694336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03882856357039975,0.0,0.0,0.0458634949346236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041246164506552656,0.0,0.0,0.0505056013035919,0.0,0.0,0.07289003878488767,0.10545180045811932,0.0,0.043550887435817066,0.031987966979054004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448955691615285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598706061983407,0.04737944088947889,0.0,0.0,0.06471298748023538,0.0,0.04400353928843066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07987412028903851,0.05571065886956979,0.0,0.15587734919706436,0.0,0.0,0.10597968382337528 divorce,friedfandango,2019/03/01,"She left me long before I left her Saw someone else do this following the sticky and got a compy so I could do the same. >Tell us how old you are, how long you were married, how many kids, if you own a house, etc. I am 42m. Based in Ontario, Canada. We were married 4 years but together for 8. She brought a girl and a boy into the relationship and we had a girl together. After living together for over a year we bought a house together with the assistance of my mother. We bought new, my mother provided the downpayment and lived in the inlaw suite at reduced rent to repay the downpayment. The relationship between my ex and mother went south very quickly. After 4.5 years my mom moved out, we sold the first house and bought a second house together for just our family, no one else. We did not end up finalizing the repayment of the down payment to my mother because my ex interpreted her investment in the property as a gift where as my mother interpreted her investment in the property as a long term investment where she would not have to move out of again in the future. >Tell us if you're using a mediator, collaborative divorce process, attorneys, or trying to DIY/Pro Se. Please note, most people in this sub (and pretty much all the mods) are going to urge you not to go Pro Se, especially if children are involved. When I initially asked for a divorce we were amicable and agreed to try and work things out amongst ourselves. That quickly deteriorated and resulted in us going to mediation. She was a mix of aggressive, unresponsive and antagonistic to communications from me. Going from one extreme of ignoring me completely to picking or trying to pick a fight with everything I said instead of trying to respond constructively. During mediation there was a temporary reprieve where things seemed to move ahead until we reached agreement, but since then has been more of the same. >The basic reasons for the divorce. Infidelity, physical/sexual/emotional abuse, addiction, irreconcilable differences, etc. This is where details are important, but careful consideration of how much you reveal can be important. ""Infidelity with a co-worker"" is fine. ""STBX is traveling to Vegas and hooking up with co-workers at the ABC Pharmaceutical Sales Convention this weekend"" is not a good idea. At the end, I was tired of being judged for everything I did or tried to do. Instead of trying to communicate with what was being said she consistently took issue with how things were said. Our arguments constantly turned into debates about how we argued rather than discussing the topic that was being discussed. >Tell us where you are emotionally, as best you can. This is an important step in the healing process. I have no idea right now. Like I know I'm an adult but I just can't even. She is dragging stuff out for reasons known only to her. She refuses to agree to any changes to our mediated agreement. I'm left at her mercy when it comes to anything that is not directly related to our daughter. >Tell us what you'd like us to do to help. We can't offer specific legal advice, although we can let you know what to expect from the legal system, and we do have a handful of attorneys who are kind enough to offer their opinions from time to time. But this sub is no substitute for a competent family law attorney. After much delay, most of which was self incurred in order to try and help her, she is flat out refusing to agree to sell our home despite agreeing to do so during mediation and at least two other points since that time. I'm now at a point where I need to engage a lawyer because I don't know how to make things change on my own. I get some help through my EAP at work but only 25% discount and I don't know if I'll be able to get any of that back because she's refusing to cooperate or if I'll just have to eat those legal costs once the house is sold. >Rant or vent if you need to get it out of your system. We've all been there before, we know it hurts. She recently requested a face to face meeting for the purported reason of discussing the sale of the house. This was an incredible shock because she has ignored and flat out refused to meet me in the past when I requested it. Trying to be the bigger person I agreed to the meeting with the hope that we might have an actual constructive conversation. Surprise surprise it was more of the same where she wanted to discuss other items that she did not disclose in advance despite my request for a list of items to discuss and where anything I did bring up was questioned for ulterior motives with no response to what I had to say. And I'm not a nimrod, I recognize after the fact that I did the same to her, but listening to the recording I was the only one to apologize when I recognized I was out of line and misdirected the conversation. Just ugh, I can't even think how to describe what happens in terms that reflect how it makes me feel. So much YERGH! >Realize that the family court system is not meant to be a place to seek justice, revenge, or moral victory for you. Family courts exist to legally dissolve a marriage in the most efficient and fair manner possible, and to look out for the best interests of the children. Your hurts, anger, bitterness, sense of betrayal, whatever, have no place in the courts and are irrelevant to the consideration of your child's best interests. This is not an issue in my mind but it is in hers. I'm trying to seek closure so I can move on. She's trying to get stability. By forcing her agenda she fails to realize that avoiding closure is impacting the children while also failing to recognize the patience and time that I've provided to her which she has abused. >Remember that you can no longer dictate/control/demand any sort of behavior out of your STBX. They are free to spend their/your money in any manner they see fit; live with, sleep with, date with, cavort with, hold hands with, write the great American novel with whomever they see fit. They can make whatever parenting decision they choose on their time. We have a saying in /r/divorce: There is no law against being a bad parent. There is also no law against being a bad ex-spouse. No issue on this front from my end. She can spend whatever money she has however she pleases. In regards to new partners, she advised me after we had been separated for less than half a year that she was seeing someone new and is still seeing that person currently. When she told me I wished her luck and hoped things worked out. 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What to do when you need a lawyer and have no money for one?? I won’t share the long, involved backstory but been married 19 years, 3 kids ages 18 (still in high school), 17, and 12. Husband is an alcoholic who refuses to seek support even when sober, and things have finally come to a head. He is self employed and I’m a homeschooling mom who has always worked part time (babysitting, book keeping, minimal hours mostly) until recently. We have no assets, no retirement, rent a home, and no savings. Husband has been restricting my access to money by not making deposits to our personal accounts and I have no credit and no access to money for a lawyer. He has lawyered up, courtesy of his parents. My parents don’t have the ability to help and I don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I NEED a lawyer and have been to a couple consults but I don’t have the funds to pay for a retainer. Even if I was to get a job tomorrow, it would take months for me to enough to retain a lawyer. And because of my non-existent credit, a loan is likely out of the question. What do I do?!! I don’t see any way to get the money I need....am I just going to have to let him screw me over, because I can’t avoid a lawyer to fight him?? Help! I feel so lost and desperate",2.798085937499998,4.143844511718752,4.244187500000002,87.43206250000004,74.5859375,7.463750000000001,26.471875,8.07648339933343,1.5536365625,969,35,205,15,20,322,138,256,0.141,0.7490000000000001,0.11,-0.7971,5,1,1,0,1,0,42.0,2,1,0,2,7,10,2,1,18,0,30,3,1,1,0,34,46,18,0,4,5,5,1,1,0,2,1,0,2,3,7,14,1,6,3,1,12,2,13,4,0,1,5,2,23,6,30,38,3,21,0,1,1,1,27,5,1,3,14,140,30,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111314966687925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11765577862674202,0.0,0.0,0.09615656383776716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17239174423571718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180321860567946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1564559468476333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14610356560206067,0.0,0.18678617927996266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07149587670554268,0.0,0.0,0.15489632936338735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477508899778418,0.0,0.08036064040309879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511676382502595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2843314755874856,0.14939642063932382,0.1418353087004329,0.0,0.13925010444982014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403172657701658,0.1256824444582008,0.0,0.0,0.07770951176638254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14459065162635668,0.0,0.06908069287880614,0.0,0.0,0.1251341795470078,0.0,0.0,0.1543543459167409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09438531826351376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16560548023650953,0.1128637964760034,0.0,0.0,0.31453799279935424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09581601549518984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3140150022443759,0.15312196686997231,0.0,0.0,0.12346466004114336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839989146766392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961502760617944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14310392487511334,0.11267715894410732,0.0,0.14751060102365865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129218879923557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604585687904173,0.0,0.0,0.1063148874722721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09393959855387006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08245123275170486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11223640574181833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294057898555377,0.0,0.0,0.1004462053479494,0.0,0.0,0.09105669415830676 divorce,unuther_one,2019/03/01,"I’m being forced to co-live with my STBX until June - is there anything I can do? Background, I (28F) and my husband (28M) decided to divorce about 2 months ago. We have two kids, ages 3 and 1. I co-own our house with his mother (she co-signed on the lain because otherwise I wouldn’t have qualified). Since we decided to divorce, we have been sleeping separately (him in the living room, me in bedroom). He is becoming increasingly hostile towards me (verbally and via text, no physical abuse). He calls me names, tells me to fuck off, etc. I have had conversations with him where I explained to him that he needs to be nice to me in front of the children, and for the most part he’s no longer rude to me in front of them. But today he called me insane and told me to fuck off in front of our youngest. I have been trying to get him to move out, but he refuses. He is set to graduate from college with a bachelors in computer science this June, and he wants to stay until then. However, his mother lives 3 minutes from us, and has two spare bedrooms- more than enough for him and the kids when he has them. I also believe having grandma around will be seriously beneficial to the kids for the first time mommy and daddy aren’t living together. It will be an easier transition for them, and they should come first. Is there anything I can do legally to get him to vacate? I wanted it to be his decision, but he has made it clear he intends to stay here until he graduates. It’s unhealthy for the kids to see their parents interact this way. Any advice appreciated.",4.962263843648209,5.6378690293159615,5.9248387622149865,79.9244568403909,68.80456026058633,9.397328990228011,30.65944625407166,9.516144504307137,2.67523335504886,1220,47,242,25,20,404,169,307,0.07200000000000001,0.867,0.061,0.3094,3,0,0,0,3,0,47.0,6,0,5,2,8,6,4,0,10,0,30,3,1,2,1,38,43,19,0,5,3,4,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,5,7,20,0,1,4,0,0,6,4,5,0,4,5,1,41,1,50,29,6,38,0,0,1,2,53,14,2,1,14,169,48,6,0.0,0.15730762115815045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973873571376865,0.11769026127586794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10617401646426022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09028636323299144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21851246320064532,0.11819110610621195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08093375541525769,0.1466311272881317,0.0,0.14958335908361375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2711406546377684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436733176670053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371841824114953,0.14807071112650996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258637113083255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454825852222283,0.1387309403343894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1531957173334012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517080558670885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256276940688235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10597364670475608,0.14111070108820953,0.0,0.09844532130734808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1474224505415869,0.14377412178639498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10579840308825053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098265390402452,0.0,0.13286325130841747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2830246987007612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604453185532992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07741772014428512,0.0,0.12584794107019948,0.12686491003394626,0.0,0.09014032799869212,0.0,0.2593888539574837,0.0,0.1597027968534364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15661926741783988,0.10538455714648924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,QBin2017,2019/03/01,"Does Trust money move in Divorce? I am part of a Trust (inheritance) that pays me a modest amount of $ each month as part of rental income. I am only paid out as 10% as there are 9 other people in the trust. I am in texas. In a Divorce, will my SO get half of that ongoing? Or does that just get factored into my total monthly revenue in child support calculations? I’m thinking I will need that to pay the Child Support. 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Not many answers as to why She never told me why she wanted to leave. Never had issues. Built a life together. Anyone else experienced this? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GKODJP7uIUM I did a vlog on it.",4.014668989547037,7.256265170731712,3.3869686411149864,81.21195121951223,92.41463414634146,5.269686411149826,18.052264808362374,6.868970318607317,0.7091923344947739,196,5,30,3,7,58,35,41,0.042,0.958,0.0,-0.1431,0,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,0,2,6,4,2,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,6,0,5,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,4,21,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1918318418456028,0.28110391249651523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22918415294725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863500363839412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904969505043095,0.0,0.0,0.1937814608033707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781477562583336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4231911402951836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621531039662216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16181868998888732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4951162577750858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17667235248537866 divorce,whosthatgirl,2019/03/01,"I Things were bad for quite a while, and he cheated within the bounds of our nonmonogamy. I tried for months to make it work. He gaslit me. He ended it. The tough part is he’s not a bad guy, just a terrible partner. We are extremely enmeshed in our art, friend, and social communities. I’m devastated. I gym, meditate, read, got a tattoo, have gone on trips, planned more trips, I go to work, I meet friends, we are very low contact. I’ve read the breakup books. I’m in therapy. I AM a therapist. I drink water. I eat healthy. But I’m so panicked and devastated. I don’t feel as if I’ll ever be able to trust anyone again. I constantly weep when I’m alone. I don’t want to date ever again and simultaneously mourn for what was supposed to be my forever thing. What else should I be doing? 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Her STBX, who has obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, has been actively trying to alienate her from their children (ages 15 and 12). Ostensibly they have 50/50 parenting time. However, one thing he's currently doing is planning fun events with them during her parenting time without consulting with her. As a result she feels forced to tell them no, which casts her as the unreasonable parent to them. She's already asked him to stop. She doesn't think he will. She is very, very conscientious about trying not to hurt them. As a result, though, he often takes advantage (like here), which frustrates her tremendously. But my question is: what can she tell them that won't put them in the middle? I suggested saying this: ""I'm sorry daddy knows he's not supposed to plan things during my time with you. I don't know why he does that. I don't do that when you are with him. That wouldn't be fair."" But it strikes me that my answer will do exactly what she doesn't want. Any/all constructive suggestions would really be helpful. Divorce with an OCD STBX sucks. 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We agreed to use collaborative law to save some money and she said since its 50/50 she wont ask for child support. That's fine by me and I agreed to continue to pay for all the public school fees and supplies and any extracurricular they are involved in. Is there any chance a judge will okay this, or if I will end up paying any Idea as to approximately how much? 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We are now in our young 40s and have kids ranging in age from 5 to 15. I am very pro sex and sexually liberated, so to speak, and want to fully explore human sexuality. During our courtship, sex was prevalent, exciting, and varied. After marriage, we had several dozen swinger type encounters with a small handful of couples and singles, mostly before kids but a handful of times after kids. My spouse wasn’t driving that, but was on board and seemed to enjoy it. In the time since, life has done what life does—schedules, responsibility, chores, etc.—and the sexual relationship suffered greatly. Unfortunately, despite marriage counseling, individual counseling, and various discussions and fights about this over the years, we cannot seem to get to a place where I feel sexually engaged or even desired for that matter. Throughout the marriage, rarely, if ever, has my spouse initiated conversation about sex, initiated romantic touches, or initiated sexual encounters. My spouse does not tell me I look sexy or ever suggest the occurrence of carnal interest in me. On only a single occasion in the course of the marriage has my spouse said the words, “you are sexy.” My spouse has alluded to and even said, at various times, that sexual desire / craving does not regularly occur for them. We still manage to have sex maybe once a week, with some periodic hand play in between, but it always feels like a favor to me, because there is no apparent or expressed desire for it in my spouse. The topic of sex and our sexuality is like a stick of dynamite, and can very easily cause hard feelings in my spouse because of self-perceived inadequacies and negative self-talk, so it is hard to even broach the subject without risking a relationship meltdown. In contemplating my next 20 years, I am struggling with the idea of being with someone that doesn’t desire me, or if they do desire me, doesn’t express it, despite it being well known through therapy and discussion that I really need that. I am struggling with the idea of being with someone that does not have a desire to explore sexuality, try new things, pursue each other, and the like. I deeply wish to be understood and pursued by my partner in this way, but I keep coming up short in my marriage. My question is whether it is reasonable to expect our relationship to significantly change in this department, after a \~20 year marriage and lots of opportunities and discussions and therapy making it plainly obvious that this is a critical issue. How long does one hold onto hope that change could come in this area? What else can be done to try to find a middle ground in this area, without sacrificing my core desire to explore sexuality? Should I just be satisfied with the fact that I at least am having some sex and get over it? If it is unreasonable to continue to expect significant change in this department, then how hard is it to find sexual gratification in new relationships with folks in their 40s? I am not looking for random hookups, but rather a real relationship with a real person—someone that is fun to spend time with, is a responsible and emotionally supportive partner, and who also wants and pursues me sexually, will initiate conversations about sex and sexuality, communicates their desire for me, creatively approaches sex, etc. This may sound like a dumb question, but is that a pipe dream? Is there a reasonable possibility of finding that in the post-kids, post-marriage world of mid-life? It feels like such a risk to consider breaking up a long and safe marriage for the wish and hope for something better in this area. After such a long marriage, with young kids, it is so hard to know how heavily to weigh this issue in the context of other factors (several of which are also struggles, but beyond the scope of this post) and the “good of the kids” and the “good of the spouse.” Is it selfish to consider ending such a long marriage under the circumstances, because I do not feel sexually engaged or desired? Any insights anyone can offer would be appreciated. Thanks! 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There’s never been a hint of abuse in my marriage. No cheating, no abandonment. No anything. He’s a good father and husband. And still, I feel like divorce is inevitable. When and how did you know you were going to divorce? 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I'm late-30s, female, and the thought of divorcing my husband fills me with hope that I might someday be happy again. I've been in this relationship for close to 10 years but instead of filling me with joy at the prospect of the two-digit milestone, all I can think is ""this is how long it will have taken me to get out."" So I think I need to get out soon. Problem is, I am alone: my friends don't know how bad it is, nor are they in a position to support me while I get out. My husband is also their friend. I honestly don't want to put them into that position anyways, nobody likes being involved in a divorce in any way; no judgement on people who relied on friends to help them out, I just don't want to involve them here myself. I'd like to be able to say ""I got out on my own and I'm proud of it"" later. Makes sense right? I don't have any family left, it was a small family in the first place, haven't seen cousins in about 20 years and everyone lives in another country I don't want to go back to. So that avenue is also closed. I want to get out there and make new friends that are just my own, have some kind of human contact you know? but at the same time I am wary that in my current state I'd become a clingy mess. How do people in here cope with post-divorce support? Do any of you attend group therapy, has it worked? Have you made new **friendships** that way? How do you manage to keep yourself in check so you stay presentable to new people? I'm specifically not talking about dating, here; after this relationship I think I am done. I've basically become asexual as in, I don't see how sex can improve my life, it seems to create more conflict than connection, and I don't need it anymore. Does anyone know of a friendship-based commune out there!? :) I'd love to surround myself with people who just want to hang out, and work hard at relating to one another and become better people for it and be committed to that instead of.... I don't know, just ""existing"" around a partner and taking this other person for granted because ""marriage"". I've been alone for a very long time in this relationship, I'm ready to make friends, but where the hell do you go to do that when you're also in the middle of a divorce?",3.2366533251231537,4.485705540948281,4.355716748768476,87.44667241379312,73.33189655172414,7.1132019704433525,26.40369458128079,7.554174236665415,1.286723596059114,1777,61,374,21,35,581,211,464,0.068,0.748,0.184,0.9967,1,3,0,0,3,0,68.0,0,6,5,5,33,21,1,0,15,0,42,3,0,10,2,68,83,29,0,9,8,3,1,2,6,2,1,1,0,3,25,25,0,2,9,0,1,8,12,4,0,2,9,4,42,17,73,68,6,71,1,0,2,2,39,38,1,4,23,251,67,3,0.07706890904218959,0.0,0.07520813790139325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394604410025473,0.0,0.18489593615042726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572285028625698,0.1616269417854091,0.0,0.0,0.07643164873622688,0.053888373143688925,0.0,0.0,0.06860766860511681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05926123387359403,0.06434931987974703,0.04698049162436714,0.2553496651212938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06816118710935452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0674435216610332,0.07886825170385676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07364264530535157,0.0,0.0,0.14530741697544206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06555477466061603,0.0,0.0,0.2977162397415044,0.0,0.1610612962905128,0.0,0.08760007412476438,0.0,0.06163904693986595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204128676595128,0.06903860462534113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05165766518809978,0.0,0.0,0.07654681622938928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06850238745916852,0.0,0.0802554090841906,0.16942022753397226,0.0,0.08693708628498292,0.0,0.08373559517492345,0.0,0.054436049654915705,0.07530395211410174,0.0,0.06805325865212145,0.13640711857040852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695576993816797,0.07292446518398255,0.15433228570664403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08175793339505721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11429123903636595,0.0,0.22330089779914866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0522238873260307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2671493882461518,0.0672935986892405,0.08052060666796072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381071104826899,0.0,0.0,0.07374453756985981,0.0,0.07747554016291197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24822949823177864,0.0,0.06581642722466513,0.0,0.061288289789855635,0.0,0.0,0.061413942361334385,0.07016064028621549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08214520269433494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491376934636946,0.0,0.0,0.1158924565113084,0.06194506976972331,0.0,0.0,0.08813501411176737,0.0,0.0,0.14814793502424015,0.0,0.061184105098820524,0.08987900126849947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528512558374621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0635899212689047,0.22728619669831845,0.1223474254705079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11221416733798133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09925970123946504 divorce,nmcurse,2019/03/01,"Confront My Wife About What Is Wrong And Told She Wants A Divorce... I knew something was off and sure enough I found out she met someone online through a blackjack game. So then I'm told that she's going to start seeing people immediately while we're still in the same house. Note: I can't leave the house or I'll be hit with abandonment. I asked nicely if she could at least hold up with dating since we still have teenagers in the house. I was swiftly informed, 'you don't control me anymore'. It has to be one of the most cruel things I've ever seen another human do to another. 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How long did your divorce take start to finish? Was it DIY or with attorneys? Kids or no kids? Assets or no assets? Were you separated before filing? How long once filed did it take to finalize? TIA!!",0.8485638297872349,3.307983297872344,2.2672074468085133,89.27187500000002,99.0,4.903191489361704,16.513297872340427,6.6274283507984215,0.2175127659574465,193,5,36,3,8,62,27,47,0.079,0.758,0.162,0.6785,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,0,3,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,3,0,7,10,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,0,3,0,4,5,0,8,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,3,8,22,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20518507867751967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2641476847474577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6401811575386701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2567970931546874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34134812105357104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5439024571222361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,karekarekare,2019/03/01,"A snap to reality Last night I just realized my loveless marriage according to my husband who stated he stopped loving me since 1 year ago, he lost that connection between us. I'm 35 and so is he, we have been together 11 years and married 4 years. Things started to drastically change once we conceived our son approx 2 years ago. I admit, it took a toll on us with a difficult pregnancy including the death of my father. Once we were able to bring my son home from being in the NICU for 2 months, my husband asked for a separation. I got side swiped with that thought. Here I am keeping myself from going into deep depression and he adds that. Not because of my interest in reconciling our marriage and needing a marriage counselor, he only agreed due to his best friend trying to help us. We have been in marriage counseling now for one year and I was hoping things will get better. There has been a lot of resentment built up especially on his end. Just recently - 2 weeks ago, he finally admitted that he tried to pretend everything was okay for this whole year, we held hands, kissed each other after work, lacked on the sex part, but attempted to reconnect through common interests such as board games, movies, video games, books, food, talking... Etc. Basically that last part hurt me, he gave me that glimmer of hope to see if we can reconnect. I am devastated and feel like a fool. Now, today, I realize he believes he cannot reconnect with me and states there is some sort of barrier and cannot pinpoint what it is. I'm just hurting/grieving the fact that we are at the brink of divorce. I don't want to believe it because I wanted to keep all that we have built together and provide our son a complete family unit. Other background: He came from a divorced family who were amicable. I came from a religious family and complete family with no divorce. How do I continue this path that I am eventually walking even though I rebuke the thought. Each day I am crying because of the fear of potentially losing all of this and quite frankly, I still love him. It is not as intense as it was before, but I can't seem to let him go. Seeing him today, looks like he has already moved on and waiting for me to get to the same conclusion. Sorry if I am rambling, but how do I accept my fate and let go? I'm tired of hoping the love will rekindle, it is impossible if it is only one sided.",5.7567357319171215,6.354788869848161,6.530696387164338,76.5542299349241,67.02603036876356,9.916104420674694,33.25013089984292,9.921728534948242,3.2577624504450604,1883,80,352,41,29,622,240,461,0.106,0.782,0.112,0.4652,0,0,0,0,3,0,53.0,14,0,0,8,15,24,1,1,19,1,37,8,1,2,3,75,76,26,1,10,11,6,2,2,1,2,1,0,1,0,26,31,1,6,11,5,0,9,7,8,0,2,17,5,50,16,53,54,13,54,0,4,3,5,58,14,0,10,31,237,76,2,0.07741850289471386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20588049495298655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08543324307734525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072375849476872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14158080237615928,0.0,0.06587744382122951,0.17444828298170276,0.08124594244594112,0.06847037446246915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770922855741057,0.0,0.0,0.08189851073545877,0.0,0.16234365467290213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504059013700932,0.04992852969414455,0.0,0.06668044310077348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856981453563671,0.0,0.08634209538462295,0.051134191010668184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957875842788472,0.0,0.2919330978352991,0.0871173393815533,0.039145121229304816,0.05530779393693189,0.0,0.08480818573463357,0.0,0.0,0.09361476100443188,0.0,0.059813343291556076,0.0,0.08089594486323595,0.0,0.13199615791549565,0.0,0.061918649079735814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051891990578324665,0.0,0.0776570707222881,0.2306821254181232,0.0,0.0,0.08287810855635341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762624507631868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262128255382552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15833132894778873,0.0,0.07564553990945329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06501204408336353,0.08661150185307996,0.08451144124109264,0.06581844264922311,0.2096196644479144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179471039495945,0.08228361652656284,0.0,0.05740483893014209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07265202049347468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489635783253884,0.10492156233612228,0.11776052012556035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767338851388566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08234410746041324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07644143177074914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12338504679945513,0.07047889739972672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640413856152416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08666367564444485,0.05479721481972605,0.0,0.06182651641727555,0.06472533499106503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062226060066002536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286682653793912,0.0,0.07606328601884739,0.12292328713542505,0.0,0.08898118035562441,0.14676737687249716,0.0,0.08601480531217365,0.10512416316302617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793747800804963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913268777030938,0.0,0.06210045321003273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643499370781932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636159215727101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2991298655932408 divorce,kay1970707,2019/03/01,"I Think She Cheated but Can't Find 100% Proof. Just Peices of it. Long story short my wife (29F) and me (33M) separated back in September 2018. There's a huge story to this and if anyone wants details I'll give them, but for now I'll stay on topic. Before she left on September 17th me and my friend were going on an overnight hiking trip on labour day weekend. She kept repeatably asking if I was actually going. Then she started to accuse me of monitoring her whole I was away, or having someone check up on her. Obviously I was not doing either. I told her that those that worry about such things usually have something to hide. She got angry and stated ""this is why I don't say anything. I knew you would turn it around on me. I was more or less asking how you were going to survive up there being away from your family""? I went anyway because I trusted her. Than a couple Weeks later she left. She called her parents and said her and my son were in danger because of me. (not the case at all). Her parents came took my son and her and left. No call from anyone asking wtf is going on nothing! So as the months go by I start to search everything. I find old phones and an old laptop. On the phones she was using whatsapp which I never knew about. All the messages were deleted. She used what looked to be a galleryvault app that can hid itself within the phone and have no icon show up. (Android). I root one of the phones and found a picture of what looks like her with some other dude in a diner. As I dig and dig I find that she used Facebook messanger a lot after agreeing not to use it because 2 years prior I caught her messaging an old boyfriend from high school behind my back. I have found skype logs that show her on skype during times I was at work. I found old internet. Cookies from match.com on her old laptop as well as images (banners, logos) from Ashley Madison. Where my frustration lies is that she covered her tracks real well and changed her passwords to her email accounts quite a few times while we were still together. I never knew she did this. We were supposed to know each other's passwords Becuase honesty and blah blah. Now I'm in court fighting for custody of my son who's only 20 months old. In her court documents she has accused me of everything from being addicted to porn, alcohol, to sexually abusing her. I was able to get the sexual abuse alligations dropped because I had proof they were false. Anyways what do you guys think? Am I looking for something that isn't there? Or would it be proof enough for you that she was cheating if you were in my situation. Please serious responses only. Thank you everyone :) ",3.4672050290135386,5.4279940038684735,4.193273694390715,85.92693181818181,74.1450676982592,6.634235976789168,25.48307543520309,7.435244526350478,1.2764858800773693,2088,71,400,25,44,666,267,517,0.12,0.812,0.068,-0.9803,2,0,3,0,3,0,60.0,2,7,2,3,20,12,5,0,17,0,39,4,0,6,8,66,79,30,0,6,13,6,0,3,1,2,2,2,0,1,25,20,2,1,12,3,2,10,10,6,2,1,32,5,80,6,65,41,11,76,0,0,3,1,68,32,0,8,32,286,105,5,0.07116119065473421,0.16862874912370382,0.06944305695385948,0.07757620159990676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604967130990524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09951511817177157,0.0,0.058559596582449226,0.06334854673124918,0.1995783216226608,0.0,0.13371656220654918,0.10943712619066824,0.0,0.17351680531533578,0.0,0.06055293197783016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1453270639131399,0.08138944455151717,0.0,0.0,0.07527910407555445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787385039519853,0.0,0.04589308095388365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0735285325316544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799756721642837,0.12791017932082682,0.0,0.06708443736550015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1951201171942793,0.0,0.0,0.2340737176415787,0.054978959376881936,0.0,0.0371787850472672,0.0682642983539727,0.2022127227968381,0.0,0.056914104865072486,0.0,0.0,0.07046076669464407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0751857049472057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039108329357930814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319505255836074,0.0,0.0,0.03476576326332232,0.0,0.0,0.06297541441736228,0.17927243323841532,0.0,0.0,0.06049869954639565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11360036692649735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10976779436236044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06828108166114266,0.0,0.4480301939484901,0.0,0.048220664453737336,0.10824258427797437,0.0,0.0,0.15803216172588375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07811361803440704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568868566540686,0.0,0.08099701413237616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769058806134279,0.0565902350096976,0.0,0.07201892405724279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998815983293163,0.0,0.0,0.060294645914964265,0.10956672237447136,0.0,0.0,0.1007365140201182,0.0758483609402508,0.056829418779528074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551566354739358,0.0,0.0,0.047276333057414216,0.09119443521722398,0.0,0.0,0.08298932506782343,0.0,0.0,0.06799756721642837,0.07906270117718035,0.0,0.07740294098204925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24584168316063285,0.07837399792890014,0.0,0.041972713971037016,0.0,0.057081214766376974,0.0,0.12796491302808086,0.06596713667040016,0.06421190615073896,0.0794489280533848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05180619432233674,0.07226764335627807,0.0,0.10110173625363962,0.0,0.0,0.04582547367036696 divorce,f3_D,2019/03/01,"Frustrated With the Process Long story short, I've been ordered by the court to pay a ridiculous sum of money each month in temporary child and alimony (let's just call it what it is) and was ordered to contact my county's child support enforcement agency by a certain day. Which is today. I have left numerous messages (because for some reason nobody can answer the freaking phone) begging for a return call so I can give them the information I've been ordered by the judge to provide. No dice. Planned on leaving work early today to go down there and meet with them face to face, but my attorney has advised against that. So, I'm sending an email and a fax to their office and calling the matter handled. Hope the judge sees it that way. The county prides itself on child support enforcement and going after ""deadbeat dads,"" and yet they make it as difficult as possible for a parent to meet the obligations placed on them by the court. It's absolutely ridiculous. Sorry for the rant. Just had to vent to someone, and ranting about personal issues is frowned upon at my workplace.",7.237835820895523,7.765880606965176,6.969365671641787,74.92927238805972,63.82587064676618,9.287064676616916,36.65049751243781,9.075114841892004,3.4155004975124377,866,40,144,13,12,273,126,201,0.098,0.8440000000000001,0.058,-0.7325,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,5,3,7,10,3,0,17,0,12,2,2,2,1,22,21,13,0,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,10,11,0,0,3,0,2,3,1,5,0,0,4,1,10,5,32,16,2,26,0,0,1,0,24,10,0,2,9,99,20,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0994149561334006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49958332246832104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517617867769044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15644576244944874,0.18536965504803626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16197996475731272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17021811892101324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17268321349480836,0.17719206916092686,0.16676521665769964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1443248808184797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10886034382219777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017269968994527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18108632644652156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14239932215353074,0.17038886361032102,0.0,0.0,0.18385356321496832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16767829523682248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12995743924196318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13818118810617167,0.0,0.0,0.1825600371227137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37013330651648574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3091705673801972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12944909169358754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872764777184007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,hottbob1969,2019/03/01,"How to calculate alimony Does anyone know how alimony (spousal support ) is figured in Michigan , I have a decent job , but she makes over 100k more then me . Michigan is a no fault state , but she’s at fault for the marriage failing ( affair ) , I’m told there’s a formula, but I can’t find it . I’ve been the primary caregiver to our children , I know there’s a formula for child support ",4.847200000000001,5.667716653333336,5.993333333333332,78.81000000000002,69.13333333333333,9.733333333333334,36.33333333333333,9.888512548439397,3.720733333333333,299,16,57,7,5,100,51,75,0.189,0.7390000000000001,0.071,-0.8735,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,4,5,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,3,0,10,12,6,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,2,0,7,2,7,10,1,5,0,1,0,0,8,3,0,0,1,36,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128400969258546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663781600732256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2782115616787073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020651188062823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3345751183968898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031860599502855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6908477923814972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908625154237565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,espygoSanto,2019/03/01,"Why is he giving everything up? My husband recently left me after telling me he has developed feelings for his coworker. We just got married a little over a year ago and the big Wedding celebration was only half a year ago. 4 Months ago we started trying for children and roughly around that Time he started to like that other woman. We are in Couples therapy now and so far we had 2 sessions with the therapist. He keeps changing his mind in terms of why he decided to seperate from me. At first he said its because of that other woman and then he said its because he hasnt been happy with our sex life. He is going back and forth between those 2 reasons all the Time. He not only left me but moved into a airbnb in another City (where he works) and has also very limited contact to his family and our friends. I just dont understand how he could throw away all that we had for something thats just so fresh. The other woman doesnt even know, i mean i bet she knows but they havent even talked about it. He said to me and others that he really doesnt know her, just from talks at work and from company events. His biggest wish was to have children soon and that was mine as well, he is giving everything up for someone he doesnt even know if she wants children or wants a relationship with him. I would be interested in your thoughts about this situation. Why would he do all that? Have you experienced something similiar? Thank you for your response in Advance!",4.162483370288246,5.737407505226487,4.956960722204624,82.75902043078872,71.50871080139373,8.005638264174848,29.073329109914475,8.575989854853784,2.1812522648083617,1162,46,224,20,22,376,157,287,0.016,0.885,0.098,0.9742,0,0,2,0,0,0,22.0,7,4,1,5,19,6,0,0,9,0,25,2,0,2,3,53,47,20,0,7,9,1,2,1,1,2,1,3,0,6,17,20,0,2,10,0,1,4,7,0,1,2,11,6,31,6,36,32,4,43,0,0,0,1,56,20,0,3,20,155,48,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27071154761101696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140728043686497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10674336643104668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0906211975429077,0.0,0.0,0.09564193358598973,0.07827585590184148,0.0,0.12410940347380273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10768806726104052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08127687710724757,0.11263679893300647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11930570149578633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20170851037874665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18297773549812926,0.0,0.09596545405129184,0.0,0.05147178391923842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08658874882621252,0.0,0.0,0.07864835731011678,0.0,0.0,0.1953065314191893,0.057853763168404584,0.0,0.08141661657742966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083651406008734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904821357773865,0.0,0.0,0.2237805804987728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22120617318728567,0.0,0.07190245798362165,0.049733028821975785,0.1020276582709113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11088712494710364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278627456530716,0.0,0.08125365003136448,0.10819444152795467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484289882802374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521397019077728,0.10466459980841096,0.10051257308754234,0.1092922256485732,0.0,0.0,0.2904976894825874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442445339851975,0.0,0.0,0.08625253932690975,0.15673710139790764,0.0,0.0,0.14410533481580015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16364166043073014,0.08897534502795712,0.09372129582815382,0.11641410773246655,0.11819453514480573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081570161724927,0.11871767244841908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911369847754256,0.0,0.0,0.10597460073063372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08399345050208545,0.1200853942338356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152801650900673,0.0,0.2755687446112636,0.0,0.11706189474039627,0.0,0.0,0.1482193234691799,0.0,0.0,0.1446277915709869,0.0,0.0,0.13110827370980954 divorce,Maturn926,2019/03/01,"An unmarried divorce has a different Name but still the same implications... Child custody, property division, expensive, bullying attorneys coming at you like a heat-seeking missal, odd retainer-draining depositions, private investigators, CPS, rehab, stealing of one’s journals, and just lots of lies upon lies in interrogatories. I’m about 6 weeks out from mediation and am Feeling lost and empty and afraid and exhausted. 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I got off financially painlessly. But, the emotional damages were awful. I would have rather paid a ton of money and had no emotional damages. But, 14 months after my ex said he wanted to call it quits, I finally had 7 days of feeling good, like myself. I didn't realize how far from my normal I had wandered. &#x200B; Let me back up. I met my ex-husband when I was 17, just out of high school. He was 19, in college. He was amazing, kind, supportive, exciting. He went to a college about 4 hours from mine, but we made the long distance thing work. After undergrad, he followed me to medical school and residency. We got married my first year of residency after 6 years of dating. In residency, we met another couple, and all 4 of us got along so well! For 2 years it was great. 3 years in, I noticed the other woman in the group started acting differently towards me. We had been best friends, telling each other everything. Then she wasn't nice to me, ignoring me, no longer wanting to hang with me alone. She and my ex-husband did things together and left me and her husband out. So, her husband and I became pretty good friends in the process. She was a year ahead of me and moved about 2 hours away for her real job during my last year of residency. We routinely visited since we were so close at one point and wanted to keep the friendship going but something didn't feel right to me. I asked if their relationship was growing more than friendship - it seemed that their emotional connection was deeper than just really good friends, but everyone told me I was overreacting. My ex used the words paranoid and crazy more than once. &#x200B; On NYE of my last year of residency, he and my friend went to a concert. He told (didn't ask) that he was going to go with her and be gone for another 3 days, that he would find his way home and for me to go back home without him. I vividly remember him hugging me goodbye and I felt confused. Not because he was going to a concert with another woman and had told me he wouldn't be home for 3 days, but because he was actually hugging me. I couldn't remember the last time he had touched me or figure out why he wanted to hug me when he so clearly was hurting me. He left me and her husband alone on NYE. I cried. Her husband said that, once again, I was overreacting and had nothing to worry about. &#x200B; Two weeks after that night, my husband asked for divorce. Funny, he wouldn't use the word though. He made me say it. He denied an affair and blamed me for our marriage ending. He said that since I had become a physician, I had changed. I had become a bitch, ruthless, unloving, uncaring, demanding, and cold. He said he didn't like who I had become and that I never helped him out at home and never supported him. Never mind my 80-100 hour work weeks when I would come home, cook, clean, put away laundry (to my ex's credit, he was great about doing laundry but not folding it), etc. My ex worked 25 hrs per week, at most, from home, and I felt he barely chipped in. And, he must have forgotten the time I rearranged our lives so he could go on tour with a band - his life long dream - on a last minute tour. I do take full responsibility for the fights we had about my long hours as I chose this field. I take responsibility for taking out my frustrations of work on him. I am not innocent in the divorce either, but I wanted to work on it. He didn't. He never took any responsibility for his part in the divorce. Anyway, about 2 weeks after this, my friend and her husband split too. She also denied an affair. My ex husband and his ex wife are still together now, so you be the judge if there was an affair or just a coordinated attack plan. &#x200B; Since the divorce, I've been struggling with feelings of abandonment, feeling I was always wrong, betrayal, and all the anxieties that come with that. Luckily, I had a therapist who is AMAZING. But it felt like I'd never be in a spot where I would be calm and happy with myself as who I am ever again. Days and months seemed to drag by. I felt insecure in who I was. I took what my ex said to heart - that I was a horrible person, cold, uncaring, a bitch. I barely survived the last 6 months of residency. I put on a happy face at work and would be miserable at home. &#x200B; Once I finished residency, about 8 months ago, I moved away. I started new. New job. New location. New friends. New everything. I literally purged everything that was remotely related to the marriage. In the last 8 months, I've processed what happened. I finally reached a stage, physically away from the past drama, where I wasn't just surviving but could start healing. I had a few casual relationships that didn't work because I was so afraid that I was going to be cheated on again. When I wasn't in a relationship, I felt alone and abandoned. I felt unworthy, depressed. Some days were better but underneath it all, there was always a feeling of abandonment. &#x200B; I'm not 100% sure what happened, but a week ago, something shifted in my mind. I realized that I'm not what my ex said I am. I'm a good person. My new friends and coworkers love me, and I love them. I realized that just because one ass hole said I was a bad person doesn't mean I am. Yes, he did leave me for my best friend, but it gave me the opportunity to filter out anyone that doesn't treat me with respect. I realized I'm not always at fault (and I also realized he had been blaming me for our fights for a very long time). For the first time in over a year, I have had 7 good days in a row! I'm not feeling lonely. I'm not feeling abandoned or rejected. I'm not anxious or sad. I feel like me again. I'm happy. I'm fun. I'm passionate. I have my confidence again. I am hoping this is a permanent trend but I'll take my 7-day win. &#x200B; So, for those of you who feel there can be no light at the end of the tunnel, I'm here to say there is a light. I have been in your shoes and I know how you feel. Just know, it does get better. 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(he is from uk, i am from usa) Hi everyone. &#x200B; I'm just wondering if anyone has done this? thank you.",1.3641176470588228,4.059276588235297,3.3737647058823548,82.98594117647062,91.94117647058823,6.249411764705883,27.388235294117646,7.554174236665415,2.3313717647058825,140,7,24,3,5,47,31,34,0.0,0.906,0.094,0.4998,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,1,0,4,8,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,5,7,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,0,16,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26493128643337954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29375392749042084,0.32943545224472864,0.0,0.2842886244808577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3791410344661616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23725532131414676,0.27744566028933665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590628283344785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297155934187996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2496070638053245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2940135915988392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32943545224472864,0.0 divorce,juiceisloose6,2019/03/02,"Stbexw wants to move my child 2 states away 2 years ago, we moved from her home state to mine. Now after the marriage has failed, she wants to move home with my baby (4). I don't want to let her, but I feel like a jerk if I force her to stay somewhere she doesn't want to live. I don't know what to do.",1.2316176470588225,1.8249236323529416,2.2081176470588244,103.45452941176471,77.38235294117645,5.44,16.541176470588233,3.1291,-1.2972564705882357,229,2,64,0,5,72,46,68,0.12,0.8290000000000001,0.051,-0.3493,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,12,2,0,5,2,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,13,1,11,11,0,11,0,1,0,0,8,1,0,1,5,36,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17348163022518606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387230285677586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895487352174484,0.13981246147473014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3926183069598164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755494250317772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001227246018731,0.0,0.0956121043842912,0.0,0.17281205268161032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.624013768045422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20859663999517292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4617300623138726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260282979793842 divorce,fireflyz8,2019/03/02,Is it worth it I’m a husband with kids. My wife recently mentioned divorce and I broke down mentally and physically. Being a strong minded person I thought this would just pass by. It’s only gotten harder. She only dwells on the past bad memories we have together. I’d like to mention there were as much if not more good memories throughout our relationship. I want nothing more but to fix everything but she sometimes mentions it’s to late but other times things seem to be progressing. We go to individual counseling and those r the days I feel we r most connected. I want to hear if anyone has been in this scenario and what came out of it. 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Advice? Hello everyone. Thank you for taking the time to read this. &#x200B; I am the father to two kids. Son (12) and daughter (15). I was married 18 years. I wanted the divorce, the STBXW did not. When it came time to tell the kids, the STBXW didn't want to be part of it, and said that I was to be the one to tell the kids, since I am the one who wanted ""this"". I told the kids. &#x200B; Son took it fairly well, daughter was devastated and locked herself in her room for a few days. She eventually came out, and started speaking to her mom, but not me. This was about two months ago. Since then, she refuses to talk to me or allow me to touch her. We communicate via text messages. &#x200B; The divorce will be finalized in about two weeks. I will have joint custody (50/50) with the kids. &#x200B; Right now, I give my daughter space and don't push/force issues. Before telling her about the divorce, I feel like we had an awesome relationship and a strong bond. &#x200B; We have sold the house, and the STBXW will be moving out in one week and she will be taking the kids with her until I move into my new place in about a month. I asked my daughter what color she wanted the paint in her room, and told her that we needed to go shopping for a new bed/desk for her. Her response was, ""No, it doesn't matter because I am not going to live with you"". &#x200B; I am looking for advise on how to rebuild/re-establish a relationship with my daughter. &#x200B; Thank you.",3.002592592592592,5.073379602649009,3.4636129506990443,90.15223571253377,75.82119205298014,5.666127054206525,25.092469953397107,6.42735559955562,0.755262300711308,1208,42,242,9,27,376,143,302,0.021,0.903,0.076,0.9588,0,0,0,0,4,0,81.0,4,3,0,1,9,5,0,0,24,0,25,0,0,2,0,38,48,15,0,5,5,10,2,1,0,4,0,3,2,6,11,22,0,2,1,2,2,7,7,0,1,6,15,7,43,5,40,24,2,40,0,0,2,0,61,14,0,1,20,171,54,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0570069683662667,0.05171289025332355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424624495713089,0.4962072113251586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054537915724020634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03556214733662707,0.0,0.04964112345768349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334456758134646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03762301878824459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05574421450391027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029497316273885126,0.04167649604690008,0.0,0.06390614714346884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05596287994084888,0.06630936874037636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06731392412471239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060889448226581634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028500875017695926,0.0,0.051513296844026696,0.0,0.04898901231408431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832446082651163,0.09312926154428096,0.1240075792140399,0.0,0.043256698060912015,0.0,0.11268591356922115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1185934955999771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06317409189686574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06095052603654377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058353531129661164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12526580976059107,0.0,0.04982011471586987,0.055492553855304216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965151695428364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041291755542078576,0.0,0.0,0.04877296626521433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772544669415884,0.04688966891921534,0.2039590387607873,0.10741911370233732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803441545770172,0.0,0.0,0.11148842900782054,0.06481538022752216,0.0,0.0,0.1709624975620966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376364518139686,0.0,0.0935900388892714,0.0,0.05245263803414525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4962072113251586,0.03756759452722087 divorce,LordOfBulls,2019/03/02,"It's over, and I am lost First time poster of anything. So please forgive me if I ramble. My (26M) wife (29F) said it. It happened today so I am still raw. She told me that we are done. These past 3 months I could see that things were going downhill, but I was not strong enough or tried hard enough to fix things and turn it around. I was doing what I always do, and put my own self in front of my wife's needs. She laid out clearly what she needed from me, and i just did not listen. My wife said that she had been mourning our relationship, and distancing herself for when this would inevitably happen, so she was not mad or crying when she told me. Just very a-matter-of-fact. The straw that broke the back was a little lie that I told, and then telling her that I have trouble feeling regret (not just with her, but everything and anything that I do). I was stupid and should have been up front, but I was not, and it cost me the relationship, but i should have done something from the beginning to fix things. I should have gone and had my head looked at, because I am sure that there is something wrong with me. I can hardly feel happy, and when I do it turns to sad afterwards. If I mess something up, my brain goes to lie about it, and cover it up and don't admit it, regardless of what might happen. We have been together for 6 years, married for 5, and just like that, it is gone, and the hardest part is that is all my fault. She would bring her needs up to me, I would not listen or hear her, she would get upset, yell, I would try to fix things and then backslide again. Rinse and repeat. I suffer from depression, PTSD, anxiety, and probably a brain injury that was left untreated as a child, and these have taken such a toll on our relationship, but I can't blame my mental illness for my mistakes that I have done in the past. My wife specifically said that I needed to step up, and follow through with what I said it would do, and give her honesty and respect. All I did was throw that back in her face, and now things are broken beyond repair. We have a daughter who is 7 months old, and means she the world to me. She is probably the only reason I have not gone and jumped off a bridge. I cant stand the thought of my daughter going through life without a father, and to know that he was just some low life coward, who could not hold himself together. The only good thing out of this is that my wife said that we will take care of our daughter as a team, and she is not going to denie access to my daughter from me. I know that could at least be worse there. I am currently back living with my parents, and still yet to tell them the news. I told them we are just having some problems right now. I am not close with my parents so this is going to be something hard to talk to them about. I don't know what to do now. I am going to go talk to a therapist soon, and sort stuff out, but I am just so lost right now. I was planning the rest of our life together, and now I have nothing. I feel like to much of myself was attached to my wife and now it is gone, and I am flailing. My wife said that I should go and find myself, and that will make me happy, but I struggle to know what that is or how to even attain it. I just want to fix things and be a good partner, but it seems like I cant even do that. I just feel broken. I don't know what I want from you guys here, support, punishment, reprimands, encouragement.... I don't know. If you read this far, thank you. I hope your day goes better than mine. If this does not fit here Mods, then take it down.",4.7389606074988135,4.467682000000004,5.059680430311662,89.23170384432846,69.1360544217687,8.034488213890207,25.936560670779944,7.215322853602372,0.9240827400727736,2750,65,626,22,43,871,279,735,0.134,0.767,0.099,-0.9836,3,0,4,0,0,0,103.0,9,4,3,8,43,37,3,2,22,0,89,8,4,3,4,140,155,65,1,28,37,14,7,3,1,13,4,10,0,4,61,50,0,1,17,2,1,19,19,20,0,1,40,19,114,17,72,96,11,82,0,9,2,0,81,28,0,14,37,474,175,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478813686694703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04402114124396151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09470791637371033,0.05122652149568732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274377045338964,0.0,0.035078398858376485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050893152144926616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12847667482830133,0.0,0.0,0.05867012802704555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13783303923782472,0.0,0.06320958117016683,0.03711123647336559,0.0,0.04956271909508715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050357300901726056,0.17666302936871314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11891704377240615,0.0,0.07601477816774974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051716999746604514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638426844279096,0.04110957466977783,0.0,0.0,0.052594339272943866,0.048947051278266776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030064459718187688,0.055201622254308,0.2289257906578214,0.09653065833869368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0569777866412409,0.15265838863311798,0.12251370219965213,0.15464485103966347,0.0,0.0590569315840405,0.0,0.06485647458956344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057154356163456474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18974866302903332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252192143230001,0.0,0.12193547125925228,0.08433954104794217,0.05767438713326209,0.05081256640944173,0.0,0.04832261947977056,0.0,0.1256325431498115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03841118790346773,0.0,0.0,0.06268248316855678,0.0,0.0,0.057991000286720676,0.061045282803743516,0.0,0.0,0.09186243313467456,0.0,0.042301594426531926,0.17067312538961532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05521519400125206,0.0,0.06038293837633212,0.0,0.0,0.08752988594652579,0.0,0.0,0.127792007036959,0.06231474078595864,0.10986486475816584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06316623095272315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408472043573453,0.05506201006122227,0.06726606862930717,0.05784779608805132,0.0,0.0,0.057559753644367176,0.0,0.0,0.05916500241992985,0.0,0.1853427464533538,0.0,0.0982848329506476,0.3284261638162806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04585526228292745,0.05238606151244373,0.060031131090263236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17720128869694066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09190971515249806,0.0,0.0,0.06015767255093073,0.06587432034576701,0.0,0.06530045509114726,0.054234709935366616,0.0,0.08653212585949582,0.09250366650336578,0.10059230176257047,0.0529789509024242,0.0,0.06681322978987735,0.2676085800853545,0.0,0.0,0.045683652261656466,0.033554474915857384,0.0,0.05454515547580388,0.21994372520931385,0.0,0.07813744370416065,0.12518309020940582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474799761458104,0.06788209818265754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055470537373369634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05864243695466136,0.24526641253919665,0.0629155288929696,0.0,0.03705656614324696 divorce,sunflowerchickpea,2019/03/02,"How do i help my 13y/o Female cousin deal with her parents separation? I am very close to my uncle, aunt, and cousins. There are two girls, one is 15 the other is 13. They are practically sisters to me. I see them at least twice a week. Since Christmas, my uncle hasn't been sleeping at their home while they decide what the next move is. He cheated. &#x200B; Within the past month, the 13 y/o will barely speak to anyone. I can feel her anger, frustration, and hate towards the world and most adults. I don't know how I can help her open up to me or at least get some of this anger down to a minimum. I will try to start conversations up about random things and she has no response, doesn't even flinch or make eye contact with me. just stone walling me.. and I am the last person I thought she would ever do that to! &#x200B; Any advice on how to approach her or what to say exactly? She doesn't know I know what is going on between her parents..maybe she suspects i know but we haven't talked about it. I don't even want to talk about her parents with her, I'm really just looking for some advice on what to say to her that I'm not an enemy. 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But I left my STBXH 8 months ago. There’s nothing horrible going on, we’re okay with not living together, we’re Co-parenting nicely, I’m sure he knows a divorce is coming, but it’s hard to pull the trigger. He can’t afford an attorney and won’t get one. The only thing we’re fighting about is the house. I think I’ve had to just sit back and process everything before actually filing. I guess I need a bit of guidance from people who’ve been through this. My questions are: how many of you shared the petition and went over it with your STBX before filing? Is this a courtesy? Or should I just file and tell him I filed? My attorney says to go over it with him but I don’t know the best time/day to do it and I don’t want it to turn into a fight or a manipulative convo on his part. I need advice!",1.1373356602675957,2.9600580942408388,3.2519982547993003,90.6469211751018,80.62303664921467,6.548109365910412,21.605875509016872,7.594959193182576,0.7345704479348467,700,21,158,11,18,238,112,191,0.047,0.8290000000000001,0.124,0.9139,2,0,0,0,4,0,25.0,0,2,0,1,6,7,2,0,13,1,14,0,0,3,1,33,28,12,0,4,8,0,1,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,8,11,0,1,4,0,0,5,5,2,0,1,5,2,18,5,24,21,3,20,0,0,0,0,14,9,0,4,5,97,26,0,0.0,0.0,0.16391376863513651,0.0,0.0,0.16413761760202647,0.14889461496988304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12915799339327952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858589387557652,0.0,0.17627337627757433,0.0,0.1833789290822077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1446906451216064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832627743370668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15095994084191586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775700606645792,0.0,0.19092160347506004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850370777383593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15046746510713954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19381397492121072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1846230258654048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18249909327662786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14831993458203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17029446658285546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26814292282133784,0.0,0.0,0.2490941570311492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1611710358459294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11382031816304088,0.12774819178537816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818943409076095,0.0,0.11644873610196585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881640136115424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335758979411122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15830904042261165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681253744061967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11159131320845417,0.10762791998730713,0.0,0.0,0.09794422671651497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827023221089004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990726219240116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1557091875275437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10816669683465893 divorce,augi88,2019/03/02,"How did y’all handle the news? I just want to say that this community has helped me over the last couple of days. 30 M married for two years. Separated 3 days ago. I am curious how everyone took the news that your partner was giving up on the relationship. I didn’t agree with the decision but knew there was nothing I could do to change her mind. I was an emotional wreck and new I couldn’t stay any longer. I moved to the city I lived in to be with my partner. I am lucky to have a friend across the country who would house me until I got back on my feet, in a whiskey infused haze I bought a plane ticket and flew across the country with just the clothes on my back. I know my decision and ability to leave comes from a place of privilege but I’m curious to hear how everyone else dealt with the news of a divorce and if anyone quit their job and skipped town. (Also, my job was awesome and they are ok with me leaving and will be ok. I have no real assets except the house that we had just paid off. I told my stbx to sell what they can of my stuff and donate the rest) TLDR: I moved across the country overnight as a reaction to the news that my relationship is over. How did you react to the news?",2.2792943201376943,3.9009111004016077,3.4881009753298926,91.17349397590364,76.55020080321285,6.991853126792886,23.503729202524386,7.793537801064563,0.9350644865174988,940,29,211,14,21,305,140,249,0.032,0.8140000000000001,0.155,0.9818,2,0,1,0,1,0,19.0,1,3,3,1,11,5,0,0,22,2,23,2,1,5,0,43,36,18,0,5,7,0,0,0,3,2,0,2,0,2,8,15,1,0,4,2,4,5,3,0,0,1,15,2,34,5,36,15,1,29,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,2,9,148,42,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163109250457668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492965124646847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08922820217071435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174601104709736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201786823407495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13880418656007834,0.11302694045024282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476156829584414,0.14518283826868636,0.0,0.16924090287116572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961022750874466,0.14759508294606188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507560928479627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10137354619109792,0.0,0.0,0.12586986150376664,0.0,0.0,0.10494168503470194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14788470231187495,0.0,0.08794818704913357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028005104743752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2604139927318131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07211031415574448,0.10695474450612703,0.0,0.2778677009374437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11586200614073874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13248603669331446,0.0,0.0,0.2789137520725637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12672471778949818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12590080758539346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370879103954334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1395593979843852,0.0,0.14934721658158676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28174372266738656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10434451411484716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13985381695908802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020557802410173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12537804642398134,0.14578061281290874,0.0,0.0,0.12817440127708532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739184056469814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932087624635739,0.0,0.0,0.08449579301796073 divorce,thinkcrylaugh,2019/03/02,"Question about seperation Just getting through the grind as the divorce train is picking up steam here in Virginia. Married 18 years, she had asked for an 'amicable"" divorce and no fault, but her actions are trending the other way. For now, we have decided whats best is that I stay in the same home until I get a place, at which time I will still pay my share of the bills in this house until its sold. I thought we had agreed not to make lawyers rich, as we will only have a small windfall at best after the house is sold and it isn't logical to give that to lawyers...but, sure enough she lawyered up this week. So I will probably be posting as much as I've been lurking. Here is my question, and might belong in the r/legaladvice thread, but she has started speaking in ""legalese"" since yesterday and giving me her lawyers card today. One thing she said is perplexing about if I did not spend the night here even one night then that would be the first day of separation and I would not be allowed back in. She said ""ask my lawyer."" If I stay at a friends house cause we had too much, or if I get a few days off and want to go to the beach, is this true? Thanks folks",7.530626692456479,5.633085497872345,6.7511798839458415,84.71090909090908,64.23404255319149,10.077369439071568,35.40618955512572,8.296473431620573,2.448574468085106,912,33,202,9,11,279,140,235,0.027000000000000003,0.8059999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9906,1,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,4,0,0,3,12,9,0,0,15,0,25,0,0,4,2,36,42,20,0,6,10,0,0,0,1,6,0,3,1,0,12,10,0,0,5,1,6,2,5,1,0,3,10,3,24,8,31,23,7,38,0,0,0,0,24,14,0,7,18,144,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438506434398056,0.0,0.0,0.09227977418437174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25188479520707296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12328264955116924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1547921914422711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240017280115288,0.0,0.07926503677012216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10207988269857037,0.0,0.0,0.09271891784422658,0.0,0.18809977973838632,0.23024778724484946,0.06820407313835455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120379152277542,0.0,0.0,0.4154239943565605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010716586802273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12731094407466526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17644134566856726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2252412705478212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16264286834647085,0.09127251036272216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12538421687873302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11493577340037744,0.0,0.12939036546608906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2688758508786443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22831272706576916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09927296560813167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849432280385482,0.25582797587818595,0.0958396133843493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310738203450064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048847586073182,0.0,0.0,0.07972887247061755,0.0,0.0,0.0952740102279212,0.06997841083317108,0.0,0.11375482132909613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078461765167941,0.09525782755840048,0.0962642531316772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1705023827997654,0.0,0.0,0.0772820798460244 divorce,Getready24,2019/03/02,"Lonely on the weekends I (35F) moved from house in beginning of January with 2 kids. Ex was emotionally abusive and inconsistent with work, parenting and just about everything else. I work all week then the weekend comes and I feel lonely. I take my kids to sports games and see all the happy couples. My ex was never outgoing and awkward so we never made any couple friends in our area. And family lives in different state. I'm feeling lonely at home and sad that my life isn't at a place where I pictured it with friends and happiness in a relationship. Any advice? 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I’ve been a lurker for a long time. I (m31) was married to my xh (m30) for 3 years and together for almost 6. Recently our divorce was finalized and I have a new life that is in a lot of ways better than my life with him. My x has an affair with a co-worker and we mutually ended our relationship. I left because of the affair, his emotional, mental, finical, & sometimes physical abuse. I can finally utter that last word without making an excuse for his behavior or blaming myself. To the point that I almost believed him that a emotional affair doesn’t count as cheating. I was abused as a child and always felt he preyed on that weakness but struggled to put it in words. My adoptive family had me in therapy for years but nothing could prepare me for the gaslighting I would receive. Back to my life now, I see a therapist, I’m joining a DV support group, take better care of myself, and I feel happier in my life. Recently I found out my x is in a relationship with the person he had an affair and it hurt to hear about it from friends. (We now have a boundary up that we just don’t talk about him) Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle hearing your abuse completely wiped himself clean of your experience with them? 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When confronted he admitted that he didn't think he was in love with me and did not know if he wanted to be married anymore. He is unhappy with his life and blamed our marriage. He didn't want to do anything specific about it though except figure things out on his own. Eventually he moved out to ""work on himself"". I don't feel like he wants to work on things or make our marriage work he just wont say he wants a divorce because he doesn't want to lose any of his options. I drew up an MSA and am looking into moving to be closer to my family. I hope that we can move toward a DIY divorce. When I am feeling practical and logical all of this makes sense but emotionally I am a disaster. &#x200B; Every time he talks about maybe after x,y,z we can fix things in the future or says he doesn't want a divorce I want to believe him so much but I don't really because his actions don't support those things at all. He is seeing other people, wants to be on his own, will not do marriage counseling, etc. I want to have my life back and I want the future that I have been planning on but I think it will kill me to keep holding on to a hope for that unrealistic future. Even though it is his choices that have created this situation I somehow feel like I am the bad guy, the person ruining our life and our children's lives, the one who is giving up. &#x200B; I would welcome any advice or insight or just encouragement at this point.",4.49119179600887,5.268001567073174,5.442228381374721,82.59922394678496,69.91463414634146,8.036807095343681,30.457871396895786,8.150884317080207,2.085178048780488,1286,51,256,17,22,423,170,328,0.123,0.795,0.083,-0.8868,0,0,0,0,3,1,37.0,6,0,0,5,14,14,2,0,12,0,33,4,0,2,2,60,66,20,1,14,14,0,3,2,0,4,3,2,0,4,20,15,0,2,10,0,0,5,10,6,0,1,5,8,32,8,41,53,7,40,0,2,3,1,47,19,0,9,18,175,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683358971379246,0.06969826858902728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25557761461996714,0.2866219620457788,0.10693838430333803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797705450998893,0.0,0.0,0.06470348601958358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06045946333093016,0.06565042762927392,0.09586082249624388,0.0,0.0,0.0885859290720802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844501691949005,0.0,0.0,0.08769011201422068,0.05193252396189377,0.0,0.06624680705193824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07412272639376719,0.0,0.11926882420852115,0.11234257459201626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04107946671292357,0.07542637470126877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07785328961986783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15618910125266136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06988746794410261,0.08698934706487224,0.0,0.043211452768418486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040163902059236,0.16661014964752047,0.0768265564842607,0.0,0.06942925800033993,0.0,0.1320540902452757,0.08796372459324267,0.0,0.0,0.07096411769152185,0.0,0.1049685329239286,0.0,0.07899159048115624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06275948078722883,0.250704810371136,0.057800038864395824,0.0,0.0,0.07593863958940797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327982551834256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054510200300590166,0.06865423813207758,0.0,0.0,0.07432811843203142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037059759982663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250550103991776,0.0,0.0,0.06265569839674635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08838026700193234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226109470336003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0892252146354968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06319756490833531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20894567132003555,0.10076226969620086,0.15450164931601426,0.0,0.045848152546101466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4637635964252722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17172461384755053,0.0,0.0,0.0558545068615071,0.0,0.2866219620457788,0.050633338820849014 divorce,SilentBreadCrumb,2019/03/02,"I bought a business that my dad runs. If he gets a divorce then can my mom come after it? My dad sold his old convenience store (for good reason) and needed to get an income stream afterwards. He needed help with it financially so I was going to co-sign with him but I ended up putting it under my name because my mom (who has BPD) can do something crazy at any time and fuck up my dads hard work. My dad has been managing the business for the past 2 years and the debt for the initial loan is almost half way paid off. He needs to get this divorce and I want to help him so he doesn’t get screwed. Since I’m technically paying my dad as an employee (I’m not taking any money from him except money that’s going towards the loan), does this mean my dad can get the divorce and then he can still keep getting paid without having to pay anything to my mom? 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Stay At Home Mom's: how did you get your ducks in a row to leave and how long did it take you? If you were the one that was left rather than doing the leaving, what happened there and how long did it take you to get back on your feet? What is the process like in regards to custody and child support for an infant? 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My husband and I were childhood sweethearts and we've been together 15 years and have two kids together. A few years ago, we were in a really bad spot. He has severe depression, which I did not realize, and I am ashamed to say this, coupled with what I perceived to be a lack of interest and neglect, led to me having an affair. I confessed everything to him shortly after. He chose not to leave because we have kids but it's been almost six years and honestly, I don't think he's past it. He's never looked at me the same way. I regret what I did, but I'm also tired of paying the price. He's had several internet affairs since then and countless gaming girlfriends. I've tried to Be cool with it but he always lies about it and when I try to address the problem with him, it just ends in a fight. Honestly, I'm tired. I don't know if divorce is the answer. I don't really want anyone else. But I do want to stop being punished. I want him to smile when he thinks of me instead of smiling only when he thinks of other girls. He firmly believes in staying together for the kids.. right now though, I kinda just feel like maybe it's time to say goodbye. I'm really tired of feeling like being married to me is this huge burden. It's just such a big step and I don't really know what to do.",1.4578289562289548,3.5094091963636416,3.314585858585861,89.43958249158251,80.67272727272727,6.255892255892255,22.91245791245791,7.3871296695380915,0.9538175084175085,1039,35,217,15,27,348,143,275,0.181,0.7020000000000001,0.117,-0.9502,0,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,2,0,0,0,14,16,2,1,11,1,24,3,0,2,1,50,39,22,0,7,10,1,2,2,2,0,3,2,1,4,15,14,0,2,12,1,2,3,7,9,0,2,7,6,25,7,31,28,3,32,1,3,1,0,29,9,0,3,20,142,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567858756143582,0.0,0.1193785032026477,0.0,0.0,0.09533771081845957,0.09919800998498164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335922750195694,0.12215180111937368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200820070891626,0.0,0.09954113072126106,0.07267351491623293,0.0,0.0,0.13431662007783055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319112308698258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026813401600219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959042128547976,0.0,0.10559078679790078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071444614014982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055929209939267,0.17033715250379386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19655546920270603,0.0,0.0,0.1262334821619633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648670965326842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011216936476468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197693985843738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09194742176606854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09066982358050277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11380601948235575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407447146198528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30549359212134863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181058009967753,0.0,0.1896121257242582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26936232357968426,0.0,0.09861745055802544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12706935170102418,0.0,0.09967066549250063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2291681247585977,0.117129997675431,0.0,0.1390326646976718,0.4110668626239293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16188089722899762,0.0,0.11645758713693648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21095164696967905,0.0946288250981391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2303153222495975 divorce,FuckYouChristmas,2019/03/02,"Those divorced a while... dating question I've been apart from my ex for like 2.5 years now. It was a hard marriage due to his bipolar and then him having a double life with another chick. Since the split, I've dated a bunch, all variations from long to casual. I'm finding now that after all dealing with his crap for 15 years and all the dating, I don't know if being with anyone is really worth it. Is anyone else a ways out from divorce feeling like this? I never thought I'd want to be single, especially after watching my dad be single for the last 37 yrs after my mom died. I have dated some great guys, even ones where there could have been something. This most definitely doesn't feel like the advice I always hear ""You just haven't met the right one."" I have zero interest in dealing with another adult's bullshit, no matter what they bring to the table. Others that feel like this out there? It's such a weird feeling, since we are almost brainwashed from an early age to find a special someone. 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My STBX got frustrated after a year and looking back now, saw her pulling away from me. On multiple occasions I said I don’t want this to add stress to our marriage, and she just kept saying ‘you’re going to resent me if I can’t have a kid,’ The challenges we were having turned sex into a chore in lieu of a necessary intimacy. Various hormone therapies started and things went from bad to worse. I found out she slept with another man following a Christmas party I had to miss for work travel. We agreed we wanted work through it, and started therapy. Two months into therapy I’ve recently learned she’s still been sleeping with the Christmas party hook up. I don’t want to leave her, but she’s obviously given up on us and I don’t know what to do.",5.254741426238432,6.086615443113775,6.229112683723461,77.44341861731085,68.22155688622755,9.66554164398476,32.547087642896024,9.800150414767053,3.12777125748503,677,29,129,15,11,225,111,167,0.078,0.865,0.056,-0.5346,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,6,0,0,3,5,6,2,1,7,0,11,3,2,0,1,29,32,9,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,18,0,1,3,1,0,6,4,5,0,1,12,4,22,1,27,20,1,28,0,1,2,1,17,10,0,1,12,86,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298404676102458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15359088373592766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1376172552247003,0.1126295552137766,0.12229977006257348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16060130976803247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08324461659380318,0.0,0.2342974652011634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049834446608896,0.0,0.0,0.15509494146532335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12300136842991473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338284866282287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462552047260058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13933042818074504,0.11648209744617402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657989956930956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3110254032467391,0.0,0.1169744196141269,0.0,0.1677856069561342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5025177568530906,0.0,0.09731089530106776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944631111368736,0.15932177897028485,0.14308392948410956,0.0,0.17619032872659707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591826889224037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578297458156627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21326980438712625,0.0,0.1492696395837562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09432452946473972 divorce,MaximumDiabetes2,2019/03/03,Im so lost. Need advice. So my wife and i have been together for almost 6 years years. Married for almost 1 year. She now wants a divorce. I dont know what happened. She just snapped one day. Carries and sleeps with knives. Thinks everyone is out to get her or is stealing her stuff. Thinks her family and i want to kill her and thinks i want to kill her family. Shes threatened to kill us. Is a bit mean to our 3 year old daughter. I dont know what to do. I love my wife more than i can put into words. She moved out and went to her dads. We have tried to tell her that she needs to talk to someone. Denies there is anything wrong. I just want my wife back. 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Divorced finalized last week wednesday (YAY!!) And im taking my last name back. So where should I start first? Do I have to wait for any papers through the courts saying I'm divorced to hand in to my bank? Social security? 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Before we split, we agreed that we would do things 50/50, keep a lawyer out of it and handle everything ourselves. Well, I recently found out that she's already hired a lawyer behind my back and wants me to agree to terms where I give up all my rights as my daughters father and I only get 2 weekends out of the month with her. I was shocked. On top of this, It couldn't of been worse timing considering most of my savings are invested in a home I've recently obtained so my daughter and I could have a place of our own. I cannot lose my daughter. Without her my world would crumble. Honestly, I have no idea what to expect or where to turn since this will my first divorce ever. I just don't understand where all this came from. I do everything for my daughter, I even pay child support and we are still together, I'm not being legally forced to do so. I do it because I want my daughter to have what she needs when she's with her mom. I can't afford a lawyer, I know they are expensive and I just don't know where to begin. If anyone could help me from being so lost and feeling like I've already lost please, any information would help. I'm currently living in South Carolina. Thank you for your time.",3.650345864661656,4.857659778947369,4.6909273182957385,85.60315789473684,72.26315789473685,7.814536340852131,27.25563909774436,8.269060116576782,1.6957218045112783,1107,39,229,17,21,362,153,285,0.047,0.81,0.14300000000000002,0.9712,2,0,0,0,4,0,26.0,5,2,1,6,15,11,0,0,7,0,28,0,0,0,3,50,49,15,0,11,6,9,1,1,0,4,0,0,1,1,13,20,0,1,8,1,3,1,9,4,1,1,7,1,44,7,40,31,8,40,0,3,0,0,32,18,0,3,22,165,57,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27651591512139906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519984918912152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08760398746980146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963384137773939,0.0,0.07637414454157025,0.0,0.1066105008304215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432956119965241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20006387223951652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08275126351288394,0.1133297869573428,0.0,0.0,0.2252007926502227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06334916379950492,0.08950547060452126,0.0,0.13724641745700245,0.0,0.10656954966225092,0.0,0.1373713622881431,0.0,0.0,0.06545758833951966,0.12018726094087202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16795524488337546,0.0,0.1256736558448342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14143442526489908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11136135575336616,0.0,0.0,0.13770955239678828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06120918198662386,0.0,0.11063122656056296,0.0,0.0,0.14016475222215902,0.27353238237547234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467352968732113,0.10000334927619732,0.0,0.0,0.09289915141576764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09528684858132834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089885268557147,0.13752813725639834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24741273651689055,0.0,0.0,0.10699490687022002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10363917903133407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005482146108877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421748585474754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534796870913312,0.0,0.0,0.08323549958773359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21916858243045767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13627690739839096,0.0,0.13042878697978846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477957189357103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264857886352908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077275408882172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12767874538195265,0.2670021017505469,0.0,0.0,0.16136218476019631 divorce,leggyweggs,2019/03/03,"I am lost, please help. I just went through the nastiest divorce I’ve ever heard of. Got screwed over so many ways and just when I thought it couldn’t get worse, it did. Several times. The case was finalized and I got fucked over beyond comprehension. I am in a black hole and my life is collapsing. I feel like I’m going to explode in anger and tears and everything in between pretty much all the time. I see a counselor regularly, go to church, and talk to a few people I trust but I just don’t think it’s cutting it. Should I take a self-healing vacation? I feel like I’m super depressed and just need to get away from my life for a bit. Any advice? 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Its just not working out anymore to the point where it has become emotionally disturbing and toxic. He keeps saying he is going to divorce me. I have two kids, one boy who is near 18 in a few months and one girl who’s 19. I want to just leave the state I live in and take my children with me, and they want to come with me. If I move to another state and take my children with me, can I file for a divorce from another state? Would that affect me in any way during the divorce? 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I haven't had any thoughts about divorce before. I am seeing a therapist, currently only 2 sessions in. I need to talk this out with people who aren't close family and friends so I can process it all. I'm am 28, have been married to spouse for 2.5 married years. 11 years of being together total. Long story short, the past 5+ years of this relationship.. I feel I have been emotionally abused, in a dictator type relationship, and spouse was curious towards other women which affected our connection and relationship. I'm can't say it was all really bad and terrible but than I'm not going to say it was normal either.. I just am going through something that is making me feel like I need to get out sooner than later. So what ""triggered"" my decision? I say triggered because there were many other events that occured over the years that I think i move aside but the latest was a New Years eve event. Long story short, i saw him being provacative with another women that night. He saw i was uncomfortable, he stopped. Than later, he was being really inappropriate with her again. That was the moment something in my head, like a switch, flipped. I saw him and felt nothing. Completely numb of any feelings towards him or any thoughts. I talked to him about the incident the next morning and all he said was we were all having fun and nothing happened. We didn't speak for a week, I felt anger, I couldn't sleep, no appetite. I realized at that point I always folded to his needs, wants, demands and critisism( which is a flaw I have). It was a moment of reflection of the entire relationship for me that week. I really realized how miserable I felt about myself in the relationship. I asked for a divorce a week later. He was shocked, he ended up moving out a few days after. It has been 2 months since I made the decision. He has been an emotional roller coaster while I still feel numb and also.. and I feel terrible for saying this, but I feel really happy. He wants to work things out, naturally of coarse but I just can't seem to get myself there. I feel like I have lived in someone else's world and I'm finally free to make my own decisions. I don't have anyone telling me what to do, critising me, or putting me down. I have so many feelings but more on the positive side. I feel happiness and excitement for what the future holds. Since, I have been more open towards people, I'm more outgoing, I'm more adventous. Alot of positive experiences and people have came into my life over the past 2 months than ever in my life. But I can't help but feel bad, sad and guilty for him. A part of it is still my fault for reaching out but the peacemaker side of me is concerned. I want him to take this opportunity to heal and better himself as I am. I no longer feel anger towards him since I have asked for the divorce. It's such a confusing time. I'm not completely sure I have fully absorbed it all.. it's so mindf******g honestly. There are lonely days.. its difficult when you have been with the person almost every day for the past 11 years. but when I envision my future I feel so much more freedom. I just keep telling myself, things happen for a reason and I just need to maintain positive and healthy and not fold. Last I spoke to him, he told me he thinks I'm going through a midlife criss. I can't get that out of my head. I'm not. I know I'm not because there were events in my life that lead me to this decision it want out of the blue. Any thoughts you might have, opinions, advice ... Or anything please share with me.. 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My (30f) husband (35m) told me that he has a promising job opportunity... nine hours away. He already has a potential house picked out. We’ve always joked about moving away to a farm...but now it’s a real possibility. He told his parents, some coworkers, and a friend, before he told me. He knew for a week before he told me about it. We’ve been married for three years. I can’t go. I have kids from a previous marriage, and I could never take them away from their dad (who has three days a week with them every week). Their dad would never move, as he has a stable career, wife, new baby, and all of his family here. There’s just no way he would move or let me take the kids, and I would never even consider leaving my kids. I go back and forth between “oh, we would be fine” and “I could never live without him for that long.” He seems to think we could make it work because he could visit somewhat frequently. I’m torn. Why didn’t he tell me first? Was he hoping I’d be completely appalled and just leave him? Am I being too selfless by considering letting him live his dream while I stay behind and raise kids? Am I being selfish? I never thought I’d be put in this position. To make it super clear... he has a potential job opportunity. It has not been officially offered yet. He has a house picked out that we would buy, but we obviously haven’t bought it or even looked at it in person. So, it’s kind of a hypothetical situation, but kind of real... I know if I didn’t “let” him go, he’d resent the hell out of me and the kids. But I feel like if he goes, I’ll resent him. Is it over? 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The **divorce attorneys** works for you, but if you are not satisfied with the work of the attorney, you can interrupt your business relationship with the attorney. [Read More...](https://www.divorce-attorneys.org/how-can-i-discharge-my-divorce-attorney/)",6.904285714285718,10.95593555555556,6.05936507936508,63.07000000000002,82.33333333333333,11.460317460317464,41.984126984127,9.957137785484203,7.004079365079368,240,16,29,10,7,73,29,45,0.156,0.8440000000000001,0.0,-0.7268,0,0,0,0,4,0,29.0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,4,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,6,0,4,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,21,6,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4838825248432694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193681952923097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7043538740364194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mndrsn,2019/03/03,"Alone It’s all very fresh. We’re just shy of about a month of separation and engagement with our lawyers. We were only married for two years, but have been together for the last six years. The hardest part right now is that I feel very alone in grieving; she doesn’t really appear to care. It’s making me question if she ever really was happy; did she ever really love me? I have to stop dwelling and rejecting this new reality. I have to start feeling comfortable in experiencing this pain all alone.",4.195,6.232968500000003,5.192083333333336,79.21125000000002,72.33333333333334,8.966666666666667,26.583333333333336,9.516144504307137,2.4837958333333328,400,14,75,10,8,131,70,96,0.206,0.574,0.22,0.4043,0,3,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,3,0,9,2,0,1,4,17,16,4,1,1,3,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,4,0,2,4,3,10,5,11,12,3,14,0,2,0,1,7,3,0,3,10,51,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5273530203657525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1730463689389207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3070527038780898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716365357712666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18067585689553212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13834886356841972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15318381067473116,0.0,0.11329303031794327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547320442629626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16392186034534836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290838237961733,0.18059980468970685,0.0,0.0,0.1837960813620407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19013130470464445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32619133460571753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14494457431589158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12013252004608392,0.0,0.0,0.14189804406819095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16579706526465982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.280082479641141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21859520106988067 divorce,seneca333,2019/03/03,"Just a virtual hug to the new-bies on this sub If you are struggling- it gets better. I remember reading posts like this and thinking “no, this is just too painful” . Its been just over 2 years since our last fight and when i left him and i was walking today and saw my reflection in a store window and for a second thought “oh- i know her! Cool!” Before i realized it was me and i stopped to Laugh out loud. I was smiling, i was happy, i had a spring in my step. I remember days spent sobbing, panic attacks and wondering what i had done wrong to singlehandedly destroy a 34 year relationship (because it was-of course- all my fault). Time and distance give tremendous perspective. Keep going. Build compassion for yourself and the choices you made. Know that the anger over lies and mistreatments and gaslighting will fade. You can do this!",2.254303797468353,5.089802088607598,2.801126582278481,89.05067721518989,85.07594936708861,5.944810126582277,26.254430379746836,7.365786028017652,1.5865762025316452,662,29,125,11,20,205,109,158,0.197,0.6679999999999999,0.135,-0.8772,0,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,3,0,1,5,16,4,2,8,1,13,2,0,1,1,29,25,13,0,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,0,10,12,0,2,9,1,2,3,1,10,0,1,12,3,21,6,11,12,1,21,0,1,1,1,9,7,1,2,11,83,31,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19896751856977213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1066139439839204,0.0,0.14882217053764418,0.0,0.0,0.15467979863763573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279235698640275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789775942851894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09137505498020453,0.16777455227084764,0.09939646300849786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18617823801352584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15545409268447574,0.0,0.0,0.19223467042947615,0.14256220002451808,0.0,0.0,0.19002317227368484,0.0,0.0,0.08544452234187126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654892185536426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16891400796644507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860998696807508,0.20520078184455265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16750039731453084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749416321863683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18777102938270934,0.396242304073296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14467437500097952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621946881069264,0.0,0.1828374994378177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206520763479122,0.0,0.13884654094016882,0.10198227471932714,0.0,0.1657793496781264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896654114417622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19121946529529354,0.0,0.2252523943856783 divorce,StuckinHouse,2019/03/03,"When do I move out? My \[27\] wife \[28\] of five years wants the divorce, she told me she doesn't love me anymore, but wants to be friends. This was just over a month ago. Last year my MIL \[55\] moved in with us so we could get her out of a sticky living situation. So I am currently living with my STBXW and her mom. I have enough money to move out on my own right now, but that would require that my STBXW's mother step in and help her pay for bills until she is done with school and can work full time this summer. I am a teacher and don't have summer income, so we thought having me stay until the school year starts next fall would make it fair enough where we each support each other for a time. I feel like I am being used for my money (all be it not a lot of cash) and just discarded as a friend. I could reasonably support myself and save enough for summer to live on my own. The only reason I've gone along with any of this is to salvage our friendship, but I feel like that's going down the drain. I just don't know how to leave until the agreed upon time, I am not sure how to advocate for myself, but its getting harder by the day to feel so unwanted and discarded. I know that to stay here for another five, six months is not good for my mental and emotional health, but I don't know how to navigate that with my STBXW without being accused of leaving her in a bad financial situation and being selfish, ultimately ruining any chance of remaining friends or becoming friends again someday. She's the one who wants a divorce, but I feel like I keep coming up as the bad guy in all of this, no matter what I do. So when do I move out? When do I choose myself over her? How do I communicate this?",6.794213172448468,5.112977977207978,6.985429864253392,81.75515837104074,65.52421652421651,10.196145466733704,30.903469079939672,8.841846274778883,2.1335984917043738,1334,36,291,17,17,432,169,351,0.102,0.742,0.155,0.9693,4,0,0,0,2,0,42.0,5,0,0,2,19,17,0,0,16,0,31,2,0,8,3,72,55,33,0,8,14,3,4,3,4,2,1,0,0,1,16,25,0,2,11,0,5,9,9,4,0,4,5,4,47,13,51,41,11,54,0,1,0,1,28,18,0,2,28,215,63,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07641052315699381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723702834517935,0.09038753475254084,0.0,0.0,0.08548659313881002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394571406678872,0.0,0.09520041017602257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07425310775612105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13764633437628962,0.0,0.0,0.05559144991263402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08821186323279225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09696266708282833,0.0,0.2672009145010589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17433992624846673,0.1847424994441895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663896171642869,0.0,0.09007120567235914,0.0,0.048989077296221456,0.07229992541370064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535090913698233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162587861015427,0.0,0.0,0.057777607567725466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07661794325500967,0.0,0.0,0.1421187260135926,0.07026397544873812,0.0,0.18254533173652135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12633794552186786,0.0,0.228346816941292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07328360519078073,0.07779827918189237,0.0,0.057538735739859015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08686867089800344,0.0,0.0,0.10095563737781513,0.1376069981964636,0.3664650711557611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09167398705900992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841091068667996,0.06555849026947781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17725457738218647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07361377425498672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447668913373324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19378336291801693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061012343877610765,0.1837540766723582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19563600264717912,0.08124186762308493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843265565545703,0.15079060324236515,0.0,0.0,0.08236717329768113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10368720508319887,0.07444856246192726,0.0,0.0,0.15252783063940908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830930977530675,0.0,0.06275415371934519,0.0,0.0,0.12246709068568043,0.0,0.0,0.1665286664995644 divorce,whatadayholytoledo,2019/03/03,"Separated with kids: weekend advice One month into a year-long separation with my wife. We have a 19 month old boy. We are amicably doing 50/50, no lawyers. She moved out of our home (classic walkaway wife syndrome)... I’m gutted. Weekends as a single dad are hard with a young toddler. Luckily I have family in town and we can get together at least one of the weekend days, which is amazingly helpful. We are doing the 2-2-3 schedule. However, I just feel inadequate when it’s just me and him. I feel like I’m not enough of a “mother” to keep him occupied and happy. Toddlers are full of energy and just starting to communicate. It’s an age where it’s hard to do a lot of things because of nap schedules and limited mobility/communication. We play, and I take him on errands to pass the time (the grocery store has become an amusement park for us). He’s up at 6am, so minus naps it’s about a eleven hour day of active parenting. He’s a happy boy. My mind, heart, and body are exhausted. How do you all do it? I love him with all my heart and will do whatever it takes to build a happy, healthy, and stable home for him. But right now, I feel totally lost in space. The emotions of losing my best friend are constantly in my mind. The future feels like an insurmountable obstacle. Every day feels like ten years. Any advice is appreciated. Shoutout to all of you who are dealing with something similar. 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While I’m waiting for a call back from a lawyer and/or certified divorce financial planner, I figure I’d ask the experts at reddit: is it better to get divorced with lots of credit debt, or to wait until it’s paid off? Details: Me, primary breadwinner (150k) Her, first job after SAHM (<30k) Two kids, 10&6 Credit debt ~45k, scheduled to be paid off in a little less than 4 years 6 years into 30y mortgage on 320k house Divorce now would mean disrupting the kids’ lives more than the minimum (would need to sell house unless I want to live in my car), but waiting will just expose them to toxicity for a longer time period. Regardless, I’m going to be paying a lot in alimony (shrug) and child support (gladly!), so I’ve already made my peace with that. I’m thinking that my situation isn’t so uncommon, so maybe someone has some pertinent opinions/suggestions/views to share. 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It has been almost 3 years since the separation. I am 100% aware of my contribution to the failure of my marriage. I don't blame her for leaving but it still hurts. Because I didn't understand the legal system and was afraid to put myself in debt for legal advice/representation she was awarded a default judgment. That meant sole physical and legal custody with visitation for me when she says so. I had no idea that was coming. I failed to do research and thought that since there was a court date I would just show up, explain my side and we'd just split the custody. We had no property or anything else worth arguing over and she wanted to move out of the house we were buying anyway. The only thing was our children. I don't believe that she thinks I'd ever be a threat or danger to her, them, or anyone. I did yell at her when she told me she was taking the kids. I grabbed her by the arm and tried to force her to leave when she came in the house she decided she didn't want to be in anymore, for some reason I can't even remember, and refused to leave. I was wrong to do that but I am not a violent person. There hasn't been many instances of me not being able to see my children. But knowing that at least half of their pre-adult lives are lost to me now absolutely destroys me. I see them 3 and a half days a week. Because of work schedules she has them every weekend. I work at night so that we would not need childcare when we were together. So when I see them it's picking them up from school, spending a few precious hours with them, then bedtime. Sometimes I let it get to me when they are here. I can't function. I can't play, laugh, or love them like they deserve. I can't be their father sometimes. It's a double edged sword. I love them and being around them makes me happy, but sometimes the thought that I am only temporarily allowed to be their father creeps in. I know it's weakness on my part. Sometimes they talk about what goes on at her place. I know I'm supposed to be mature and that it would be healthy for their parents to get along regardless of the situation. I can't though. I lost everything that meant anything to me. She gets to move on and be happy. She is safe and secure in knowing that the law will back her up if she decides she wants to take my children from me completely. She has found someone else and they get to be happy together. She used to always say, ""why can't you be an adult about this?"" ""Why can't you move on? I have."" It is very difficult to experience empathy, especially when you aren't trying to. I want to say that to her, but I don't think it would do any good. She has gotten everything she has wanted out of this. All I have is nothing. I know that on paper and in a perfect world co-parenting would be best for the children. I just can't do it though. I follow every rule set forward in the default judgment parenting plan. I don't do it for her or for the law. I do it for my children. I want them to be happy. I want them to feel safe and loved and secure. But that means giving in to her. I have to lay down and set aside any feeling I have that would contradict her will. Or she will take them. I'm completely miserable. I don't feel like a person anymore. I don't feel like a father anymore. I feel like a daycare provider. I go to a job that I hate, go home, sit alone watching the same netflix shows until I fall asleep then repeat until I see them again. People have told me that everything is temporary. It sucks now but this isn't forever. I don't see my personal life changing. I lack the desire to change it. I can't change what happened in the legal system. I will never legally be in control of my own children. I want to move on but I don't know how. Sorry for the wall of text. Thanks for reading if you made it this far.",1.7640224595624865,3.7337019936467613,3.191501940313888,91.1234382190323,79.25412960609911,5.931309454308183,23.34161544009067,6.944025365002641,0.6992301727394485,2987,100,641,33,74,976,300,787,0.12,0.738,0.141,0.9841,6,1,0,0,0,0,88.0,6,4,21,10,31,39,7,2,33,0,88,7,2,8,4,114,154,51,0,20,22,5,6,4,0,10,2,4,1,11,39,29,0,6,26,6,4,14,28,16,0,2,28,16,133,23,93,100,10,81,0,5,6,3,92,35,1,10,33,466,172,14,0.055914656775200786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055990451904926485,0.05791072144092917,0.0,0.0,0.04652547366673086,0.0,0.0,0.07604776800483516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16635694441357635,0.03909682809774608,0.0,0.09202599657694276,0.04977589912557087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299491965434433,0.0,0.0681701115781631,0.0,0.0,0.06299667071326841,0.058678982625388676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395147151630128,0.0,0.0,0.17745087854776712,0.0481655257897682,0.11725090761586986,0.0,0.06271304209315738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03606032791586226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09341904184726534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03693110345633269,0.05057800822768254,0.09422101982495766,0.0,0.1507574643350056,0.05469526350758265,0.0,0.0,0.1413606525649862,0.11983632591744045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130753510260165,0.0,0.0,0.14606550186345232,0.053638433777503866,0.0635551759982353,0.046898561250116114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04944514632532029,0.23808876746407676,0.0,0.05520414751836352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05608695974797412,0.0,0.05506467377367804,0.12903601334611867,0.05985779653229061,0.06312084154378739,0.0,0.0,0.05548666907630917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843753984142814,0.0,0.0,0.1776166442575411,0.0,0.057176524886543026,0.03949417567317783,0.10926830776782273,0.0,0.049373666336502565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220749059691749,0.0,0.15139548238071385,0.0529078002005362,0.03732346758187205,0.05668868581764658,0.0,0.06090745317151877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.297142156220845,0.0,0.04146000950676797,0.04312483033428476,0.0,0.0,0.05247211762079768,0.0,0.053651621202437695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08505123217694548,0.0,0.0,0.12417321859071442,0.0605501244440169,0.0,0.03876418269606286,0.1464675647017599,0.05841891550203855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05620967379090633,0.0,0.0,0.055929788075419824,0.0,0.0,0.05748957973784183,0.0,0.0,0.0633404062153891,0.0,0.0,0.133396737952895,0.0,0.05658861779755901,0.2227837107740909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09250636378113214,0.06285041694760805,0.0,0.0,0.047376307235708126,0.0,0.22120410113898095,0.06259188045946226,0.0,0.0,0.044653517128582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261225896901691,0.044942083106351706,0.0,0.0514787035875479,0.0,0.0,0.03714721342031864,0.0716557086533252,0.10987173277483203,0.08877998350347913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10685770143735768,0.0,0.07592476323179022,0.0,0.0,0.05820912963926628,0.0,0.0482923107683062,0.0,0.04613544769611845,0.2638393061185326,0.0,0.044851364944961836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10090856154220666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141307214538859,0.0,0.0,0.23832100741936,0.06113389955380915,0.0,0.03600720572919621 divorce,coffeeCoffeeYumYum,2019/03/03,"Going to Ask for a Divorce MWM (9 years), 51. So it has been a rough several weeks, more likely months, but I did not realize this was all happening...The short story is my SO has health issues (chronic) and I have been her caregiver. Things have gotten progressively worse over time. Basically I do everything, cooking, cleaning, financials, fixing the house - cars - etc, feeding caring for the animals. If I don't do it, it doesn't get done, or i have to hire someone to do it. We went to therapy some years ago. It did not help and I stopped it as there were issues to talk about, but we never talked about them: intimacy, sex (lack of), communication. Basically I just made a decision to accept things for what they were. SO I took care of her. Did some things for myself, but not much. We have not had sex since Oct. 2014. I did have an affair thinking that ok, I can do this to fill in the missing intimacy in my life, and it did help and was good for a while - fell in love or so I thought. (It lasted a good 2+ years - it is 3 years ago now). My SO does not know this happened. Do no harm is my motto - some may disagree, this is my choice and I am good with what I have done. It was not about her, but about me getting my needs met. There were other flings but they always left me empty. I have another woman in my life. A friend. Coworker. A single mom. We have been close. It has continued to grow. We have fallen in love. It is intimate in our conversations. We hold hands, we hug, we kiss. There is potential there. I always thought I just wanted another affair. Just great sex and friendship. She will not be the other woman, been there done that. So I have started to ask myself: Am I really happy? Do I want to live the next 5, 10, 20, 30 years (if I am lucky) like this? Am I actually considering divorce? Answers: No, No, Yes I do not hate or have ill feelings toward my SO. We are good friends. Roommates. I am just done. I am so tired. I just can't do this anymore. I have talked to a couple lawyers. I do not want to use a lawyer. I want it to be amicable. Just leave with what we cam in with (we have no children). If she really does love me she will see I am unhappy and will want me to be happy. I hope it can be amicable. I really do not want to give all my money to lawyers and have a huge fight about what are essentially materialistic things. I just want to be happy. Perhaps things with the coworker will progress. I want them too. We have talked about it, but not a lot. We can't go there until things are taken care of on my end. I am not going to talk to her about my SO, nor all that I am doing to move forward. It is just not fair to coworker. I have to do this for me, regardless of what may or may not happen with coworker. I just feel she has shown me what happiness can be like. And I want that. I am also fine with being alone. Been there done that. I like me. It would honestly be a relief, to just have to worry about my needs. I have support. I am in therapy. I told my brother about what I plan to do. He told me he and my parents see what I do, the sacrifices I make and they can't believe it. That I am tired and not really happy. He said he could never do it. Funny how others see things that you yourself do not. Until now. I just needed a place to share. Thanks for reading. 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HOWEVER, the counterclaim was filed over 1 1/2 ‘months ago. Almost everything on the claim is a lie. My attorney was never given the counterclaim neither was I. The only reason I know about it because we have court is a week and it was left on my cars windshield. Wtf!? Is this normal? You only get 21 days to respond, he didn’t even allow me that chance because I was NEVER served. And he wrote on the counterclaim that he served me PERSONALLY. That did not happen! I’m so confused, why is he behaving this way? And now all of a sudden he was equal custody? When he’s said he wants nothing to do with our kids, can someone please explain how this works? My attorney didn’t seem worried since he says he has not gone about this in the appropriate manner and we will handle it and respond to the filing. I’m so stressed out, my husband is a cheating narc and I just wanted a peaceful divorce. 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Sorry for using a throwaway account. My husband uses Reddit and knows what my normal username is. I want a divorce but have no idea what to do. I'm 32F and been married to my husband (32M) for 8 years. We met as teenagers and married in our early twenties. I have a bit of a tragic family history which meant I had quite a sizable trust fund. I paid half our house outright and bought all the furniture etc. I also bought us new cars. Fast forward a bit and I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and don't know what I'm supposed to do. I want a divorce. Things haven't been right for a while. My husband asked me for a divorce last year but decided to make it work instead but I don't want to. His behaviour has been getting steadily worse and I'm not going to take it anymore. We had a vicious fight yesterday and he hasn't spoken to me since. He left the house this morning and I have no idea where he is. I don't know what to do. I believe I have grounds for unreasonable behaviour but my husband has threatened that if I did he'd counterclaim infidelity (I have not cheated but he believes I am having an ""emotional affair"" with my best friend simply because he is a guy and we talk a lot). I don't know what to do. I could lose a lot of money if he does. When he asked before he agreed to split everything in accordance with what I contributed but has said if he doesn't agree he will try and take me for everything I have. We don't have a prenup as he refused to sign it stating married should be forever and be didn't agree with divorce (he was devoutly Christian). I don't know what to do. Anyone know how to start a divorce in the UK when you're not separated?",2.220590476190477,3.9057797828571488,3.8280000000000003,88.39733333333334,76.88571428571429,6.723809523809526,27.380952380952376,7.554174236665415,1.4929523809523808,1324,55,280,18,30,441,162,350,0.114,0.7979999999999999,0.08800000000000001,-0.8644,0,0,0,0,6,1,32.0,7,0,0,4,6,9,3,1,20,0,45,0,0,4,1,58,75,28,0,9,12,4,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,15,19,0,1,12,0,6,3,16,6,0,1,14,2,38,3,30,55,8,22,1,3,0,0,40,8,0,5,12,187,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435818762008121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10461509590384582,0.07375920077277072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19723284615642286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06430410331529922,0.0,0.08976195675964385,0.23769621778724126,0.11070245519117916,0.0,0.3454945626235021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08422305734073622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09231268202798684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186590591988114,0.0,0.0,0.11764626832642824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18961043850887324,0.0,0.09944407594089284,0.0,0.05333756860194908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08149925714719672,0.0,0.055112781277225915,0.0,0.05995088623152101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444905121376474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24343645452565446,0.0,0.3572471004093704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3478384997166198,0.0859862612400456,0.0,0.0,0.1146123034715877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180133507505434,0.0,0.17936312826888307,0.0,0.0,0.0704136185172016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188033022503848,0.0,0.0,0.10335519603567797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11219877069503348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008561191606626,0.1003426166188236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726021765541703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180844406613358,0.07466448213359599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15862670311227056,0.0847867280358492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008110136116652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07161897943277841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268882816065347,0.1822143851074141,0.0,0.0,0.18665749849730712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679603980771489,0.0,0.10750061141097353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358607767364818 divorce,BobbleheadDwight,2019/03/03,"How do I start to move on from being married to an angry, abusive man? I (39F) was married to my ex-husband (39M) for 8 years. We have two children and have been divorced for about 8 months. He is the angriest person I’ve ever known. He rages. He was extremely verbally abusive and physically intimidating (and a few times he was physically abusive - pushing me, blocking a doorway and grabbing me when I tried to leave, etc). His anger was the main reason for the divorce, but there were many reasons - his out of control spending, lying, refusing to help with the kids, severe lack of intimacy, and as I found out after we separated, infidelity, a severe porn addiction and secret credit cards. In court I read 8 pages of names he called me on a regular basis. He tore me down in every possible way. He didn’t like my friends so I stopped hanging out with them. He’d throw a fit about being alone with the kids so I stopped pursuing my hobbies. I became an isolated, depressed woman who worked, took care of the kids and house and worked full time, only to get screamed at for not doing more, not making more money, not letting him spend more money, not giving him enough “me time,” etc. In the end, I told him I wanted to separate. He was sad and apologetic for a few days, then he became furious. He ultimately threatened to kill himself right then and there. He’d purchased a gun and kept it loaded in a desk drawer in our bedroom (where our young children could have gotten it). I called the police, they made him leave and I got an OOP the next day. It was one of the worst moments of my life. My kids were 30 feet away from an irate man with a gun, a man who absolutely *hated* me and knew he was losing control of the situation. It was awful. I’m trying to keep this short - bear with me. We got divorced, we’ve been on pretty much the same page about the kids and things have been ok for a few months. This last week, he forgot to pick up our daughter at school, he didn’t make sure our son turned in a school project on time, and the kids were dirty and my son had a broken shoe when they came home to my house. I sent him a text with my concerns and surprise, he was defensive, called me names, told me to piss off, threatened to take me back to court (for what, I’ve no idea), told me to stop texting him when he was “trying to relax,” etc. I wound up blocking his number, but it upset me. I can’t stop thinking about the suicide threat and the events of that night. It was awful, just absolutely the worst moment of my life. I still get panicky when he gets angry, even over texts. I have tried to avoid any arguments or disagreements, with anyone, because I can’t handle it. I am afraid now in ways I never was before - I was in a minor car accident and I didn’t drive again for 4 months because I was terrified. That’s not the type of person I am, normally. Our kids are young so we have many years of co-parenting ahead of us, but I absolutely cannot deal with his petty, entitled, angry attitude anymore. He forgot to pick up our daughter from school, but he never forgets about a happy hour with friends, or when a new video game will be released. What kind of mother would I be if I didn’t bring my concern about my daughter being stranded after school? I’m not perfect, I made a lot of mistakes in our marriage, but I still can’t do anything right in his eyes. So ... how do I move forward? Every time something doesn’t go his way, he gets overly angry and I get flustered and scared and I don’t want to live that way. I don’t want him to have that power over me anymore. I don’t want to react to his rage. I’m trying to be better about setting boundaries (like blocking his # instead of just telling him to stop texting me and insulting me) but that infuriates him even more. He doesn’t see it as a boundary, he sees it as me being mean to him and he starts to escalate. I know I can only change myself, but where do I go from here? How can I put some of this behind me when he continues to act this way and instead of discussing the actual issue, he wants to blame me for everything that went wrong in the 10 years we were together? Thanks for reading - my apologies for how long this got. 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I will never give him up. My question, do I forgive me husband? He said our six year old father was ruining everything. That we needed to figure out what was best for our family. 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She travels for work. She fell in love with her coworker leaving our 15 year relationship and 13 year marriage behind. I have to take the kids when she travels for work and switch my schedule to accommodate her. It’s so hard knowing that right now her and her coworker/boyfriend are together in a hotel room. And I’m here alone heartbroken taking care of our children just as I was in so many work trips while this all was developing. Sitting here going over divorce paperwork and trying to make sense of our finances which she ruined. I took such pride in my family unit. I feel humiliated used and replaced. So much sadness and emptiness. ,5.491397058823531,7.14273005147059,5.591941176470589,79.19423529411766,68.33823529411765,8.675294117647061,31.982352941176465,9.120678840339163,2.823552352941177,581,25,105,11,10,183,88,136,0.159,0.775,0.065,-0.9193,0,1,0,0,1,0,11.0,3,0,1,4,10,6,0,0,3,0,6,1,0,2,1,15,18,14,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,8,0,0,3,3,1,6,0,3,0,0,3,2,19,3,17,15,4,23,0,2,0,1,18,9,0,0,7,74,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19049331438532305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875262400430988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1733903814041313,0.0,0.09299921866193306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045301787044368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.164762821289708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021633752849304,0.0,0.0,0.19475255711287956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16600165740227402,0.0,0.12277296616441336,0.1864735126908563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520780024510712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19917544808261453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19746919219059733,0.0,0.4712189779440081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765810260016335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20435010637805856,0.12487462970650025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15885421746928716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017040082056088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368864276058213 divorce,adriangs,2019/03/04,Entering this group Just left r/Separation to become part of this group. Any tips to grab some air and start this process? ,4.3886956521739116,6.679667217391309,3.7732608695652203,88.49293478260874,72.47826086956522,8.078260869565218,24.54347826086957,8.841846274778883,1.5786695652173908,98,3,20,2,2,29,19,23,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,10,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31928434930977784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5185392609505728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5101263040619548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084358842064851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323231028591381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,srkate,2019/03/04,"I feel abandoned (daughter of divorced parents) This is going to be such a novel but I’ll do my best: growing up, my parents didn’t love each other. They were at each others throats, constantly screaming. I didn’t understand why. My senior year of high school my father admitted to me that he had been abusing opiates for years but was now clean. My mother, had been having an affair for 10 years. With a local drug addict, and the father of two girls I went to school with. I was heartbroken. Then my parents “split”, living in different houses. My dad was trying so hard to make things work but my mom was done. My dad also had a lot of anger towards her. Over Christmas break my parents finalized the divorce. It was messy.. mom has a restraining order on dad, wants child support, just so much dirty laundry coming to my brother and I. Now my mom seems to have abandoned her old friends who were just fun, for these people I’ve never heard of who live in the rich towns. She bought a nice new car, went on tons of shopping sprees.. she got a lot of money from the divorce. When my father sees me I feel like it makes him sad, reminds him of what he’s lost. When my mother sees me I feel like she’s mean to me. Almost like she is annoyed I’m even there. I feel like she either doesn’t want me, or doesn’t want to be a mother anymore. After my senior year I moved 3 hours and a state away. I’m glad to be away, but all my friends are far away too. I haven’t really found “my group” in college yet. I have people but no really strong connections. My brother and I don’t talk much anymore, he just has his own life. I just feel alone, I feel super abandoned. I have one boy up here who I have a sort of “relationship” with but I am so terrified of him leaving too, but I could never let him know or else he would, it’s only been 5 months, that’s way too clingy. I just feel like my life has been turned over. I know there’s a happy ending somewhere but how do I get though until then? Just not feeling love from anyone anymore. 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My STBX may have a new car. She has an unbelievable story as to why she has possession of the keys. What are the possibilities? Did her AP buy the car for her (yes, she is currently cheating)? Did her parents buy the car for her in their name? I'm not figuring out where this is going. Thanks for your advice.",0.6210294117647059,2.940717573529412,2.6485294117647062,91.21338235294121,86.5,6.341176470588236,18.794117647058822,7.6454224807358475,0.5150235294117653,257,7,58,5,8,86,46,68,0.0,0.923,0.077,0.6416,2,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,1,0,1,2,1,0,7,1,11,0,0,0,0,6,14,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,2,0,10,1,8,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,3,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32261284360617704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876284129829469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.637710161630668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3665857827190537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3721876946725197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30395218972627314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29790356113689265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,FuctInHouston,2019/03/04,"I feel ready to tell her again So here it is, I once again feel ready to tell her that I want a divorce. The last time I brought it up, almost one year ago, she resisted and nearly begged me not to go through with it. Im a sucker. Nothing really changed, but it was all for the kids sake. I don’t know how to even start this conversation again. I’m afraid to get caught up in her web and somehow convinced not to follow through again. I won’t even make this long and drawn out, but I’m afraid. Afraid of the anger that this will bring up in her and how she will react toward the whole situation. Afraid of how she will not work on an amicable plan with me. 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What are your thoughts on this? I filed back in the summer (it was a long time coming and we'd been discussing divorce since Jan 2018). Our temp hearing was in August to establish custody, visitation, occupancy of the house, and child support. We've been in negotiations regarding the house, paying child support year round, and claiming kids on taxes since then. There have been multiple offers on my side, but he will not accept any of them. We had a court date set for April for the judge to decide on those issues, but I just found out it is being pushed back to the summer due to a scheduling issue with the court. I'm ready to start dating again or at least explore the option. Is it wrong to date when I'm still technically legally married? Although at this point it is literally just a piece of paper. The divorce should have been final in September. 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Is it mean that my husband told me to call the suicide hotline instead of going to therapy? He said, ""I just need to get over my shit, there's nothing wrong with you.""",3.3220720720720722,5.001801567567568,3.890270270270271,89.1382882882883,73.86486486486487,6.014414414414415,31.25225225225225,6.42735559955562,1.6009171171171177,146,7,29,1,3,46,33,37,0.192,0.75,0.058,-0.7849,0,0,0,0,0,1,7.0,0,1,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,4,8,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,1,5,0,6,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,1,0,0,20,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097562177710774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15848885303908092,0.0,0.1724018816926681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304391615930531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2249315981490217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2910743399221909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2885571341221569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113863772198382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33181775447991946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3469093474564323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28986575069299336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3316676935511879,0.0,0.0 divorce,candygurl_kw,2019/03/04,"Is it the depression talking? My husband of 7 years just recently (2 days ago) told me he's unhappy. Unhappy being married. Unhappy with life. Unhappy with everything. I noticed slight personality changes since he was 'kicked out' of military. ((He was released due to back issue after a deployment)). We were suddenly forced to move into his parents house while he went through nursing school and I worked. Fast forward to now; we have new home and everything we could ever want and he feels nothing. He says he loves me but hasn't been 'in love' with me since he was released from the military. He is depressed and has been for some time. But two days ago was the worst I've seen him. He finally went to the doctor and was prescribed medication. I want to make things work and be here for him. But he keeps telling me he just wants me to be happy. He can't give me an answer on if he wants a divorce because he feels nothing. He's a shell of a person. He told me he wants a divorce if I want one or try separating and seeing if prescriptions help. He doesn't even say I love you anymore. Is this the depression or does he really want a divorce? &#x200B; I am giving him space to see what he feels and wants. But suggestions or advice would be nice to hear &#x200B;",2.9702534765006163,5.201559797570852,4.029030100334449,85.30401337792642,76.53036437246962,7.5345185706741775,27.74317901777856,8.456263369488248,2.111230381975005,998,42,195,20,23,323,136,247,0.13699999999999998,0.777,0.087,-0.9461,1,0,0,0,3,0,36.0,3,1,0,2,7,9,0,0,12,0,23,6,0,1,1,46,49,19,0,13,12,2,3,0,0,1,3,3,1,2,4,16,0,1,4,0,0,4,3,4,0,2,13,9,22,5,23,30,2,26,0,3,3,3,50,6,0,7,18,114,26,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902302937036805,0.16151141798210053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19741620453133368,0.22139583690277145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09034790174083736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005119245209374,0.0,0.055534440394751236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09637298037286224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072736887952841,0.0,0.0,0.11750546301878875,0.0,0.23539596666031865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09324592916203968,0.07972326606633752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060171477385848327,0.08240624279996696,0.0,0.0,0.16375175226319325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381904981927254,0.0,0.0,0.09979690162696964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17478512706080365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09697891172022807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267766316385707,0.0,0.06106320792166015,0.0,0.09138192239792166,0.0,0.0,0.10511854280493528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508597445480096,0.0,0.08097492430828933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434746530661402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466671448136396,0.0,0.06081075233020046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917748654884642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968261484770715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0879860978472559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.174828099339827,0.10371930964081988,0.0,0.0,0.06173252466318192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115709138225032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15909209189363302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0583617556622817,0.0,0.08995143547251742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489464705667934,0.0,0.09219926883929504,0.14519170845386642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15071969303286525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07322368638414066,0.07962645628379816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06052358318810825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053121837023267775,0.0,0.0,0.1741021838988449,0.0,0.06185172857384767,0.0,0.08899262597697936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42987074189051777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890343331423532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1326455039530828,0.0,0.0,0.06471567218610354,0.0,0.22139583690277145,0.058666180062117886 divorce,txdivorcethrowaway12,2019/03/04,"Divorcing while pregnant I’m currently 4 months pregnant and would like to get divorced. I’m a little worried about taking care of a newborn and a toddler as a single mom, but I need to get out of this marriage so I’m going to work it out. My STBX is a great father so I know he will coparent. I work part time right now so I can’t afford to leave just yet. I’m looking for full time, and I have several interviews coming up so I know it’s just a matter of time before something works out. Has anyone been in this position before? Words of wisdom/advice? Thanks. 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We have a 6 year old daughter. &#x200B; 5 years ago, I told her I wanted a divorce; I was no longer in love We were seperated for 6 months, and it got to a point where I could no longer bear to be away from my then 1-year old daughter. I felt an intense amount of guilt not being there for her, and not being the father figure she deserved. So at 6 months, I moved back home. &#x200B; And here we are. &#x200B; But here I am again in a place where I have realized, on my side of things, it's over. I am intensely unhappy at home, and I know it's obvious. But the time has come to have this conversation. &#x200B; I am dreading this. I've been through this before. It was HORRIBLE. While I no longer have romantic feelings for my wife, I still hate seeing her upset. It breaks my heart, and I know its coming again. I am dreading the crying, the sobbing, the literal begging for me to stay. &#x200B; But it's not fair for any of us that I stay. I'll be unhappy, she will constantly worried I'll leave again, and my daughter will clearly sense the tension/unhappiness. &#x200B; I don't know why I'm posting this. I'm not trying to get talked out of this. Maybe it's just a matter of knowing I'm not alone? Maybe it's that I hope someone can tell me what to expect once the legal process happens? I don't know. Maybe I'm just delaying the inevitable...again. 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My ex knew I had HSA but didn't bring it up and I just forgot about it (there wasn't and isn't much money in it). Could this be an issue going forward in the divorce process?,4.576338028169012,5.717803535211271,5.238140845070426,82.79946478873241,69.98591549295774,7.370140845070423,31.10140845070423,7.554174236665415,2.0219160563380285,285,12,54,3,5,92,50,71,0.0,0.915,0.085,0.6858,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,14,13,6,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,1,2,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,6,0,7,1,6,3,1,9,0,0,0,0,5,4,0,0,4,41,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36519882390136266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4287747662841683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3052065318461933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5605198080538341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3947788504987075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34582972069451906 divorce,smellofsunflowers,2019/03/04,"He ‘never physically cheated on me’, but moved his new girlfriend in in less than six weeks from when we separated, before my stuff was even moved out. STBX husband and I started dating seven years ago, we were married for three. In October I found a pair of worn panties under our couch and searching/saving numbers for local escorts amongst other sketchy behaviour. He also had a porn addiction that he normalized our whole relationship. He claimed he never did anything physical and had no idea where the panties were from. But at the very least he was actively looking for ways to cheat. When I asked him for space (two weeks out of the house) he refused, saying ‘where am I supposed to go?’. I slept in the basement of my work for weeks. He makes 4x as much as me, and my work is only a few blocks away from our house while his is a 30 min drive. I took off a week at work to spend time with my parents five hours away to wrap my head around things. I wrote him a long letter while I was there. When I returned he refused to read it, saying it ‘would hurt too much’. Well one of the main issues of our relationship (mystery panties aside) was that he never listened, so I wrote him the letter so he could look back and reread it and work on things. He didn’t even try to save things, just kept repeating that he’s a good guy and did nothing wrong. It was the end of November then, I told him if he wouldn’t give me space, I’d have to get myself space by moving out at the end of January. My best girl friend and I went on a two week holiday together at the start of the year. The whole time we were gone people had been asking me if I’d gotten a new vehicle because there was a new one parked in our driveway. When I got back, I would see it parked there every morning on my way to work. I told him I was going into the house to take some furniture the next morning because it was he only day I could borrow a friends truck, and he said okay no problem. ‘House might be a little messy though’. When I went into the house, there was clearly another woman living there. Suitcase by the bed that I was supposed to take, shopping bags with new clothes and shoes, make up in the bathroom. They had been using my fancy massage oil to massage each other in what was once our bed. Drinking out of my grandmothers heirloom wine glasses. Sleeping in the sheets we got as a wedding gift. We had only signed the legal separation agreement a few days before and he told me ‘I was the best thing to ever happen to him and there’s no one he respects more’. Clearly not the case when he’s trying to rub his new girlfriend in my face. Apparently they’d met around a month before, which gave him like six weeks to grieve between our marriage being ‘perfectly fine’, to falling apart over night, to playing house with this new girl before my stuff was even moved out. Our wedding guestbook was still on the wall, my clothes were still in the closet... He did me a huge favour by showing me exactly the type of person he is. I lost my shit on him, moved everything that wasn’t explicitly his out, and it completely killed all my sleepless nights of wondering if I made the right choice. We were playing so nice before, I don’t understand how he could be so cruel as to try to shove that in my face. You’d think if you were trying to defend being innocent of cheating, the last thing you’d do is jump into a new relationship so soon and rub my face in it. We live in a small town where everyone we know drives past our place, there’s no way he could have expected no one to notice. When I called him disgusting, he said ‘I’m lonely and horny, I’m a man, what do you expect me to do?’. He’s telling people I’m such a cold hearted bitch for taking everything so he can’t play house with it with his little girlfriend (they’re officially boyfriend and girlfriend, meeting each other’s friends and shit). The ironic thing is, his ex girlfriend before me did something very similar to him and he was bitter about it literally all throughout our relationship. His best friend (who I actually met STBX through so we were always friends) reached out to me and gave me his sympathy, told me he noticed all the red flags I did and didn’t blame me at all for walking away from it all. And that he’s a fucking asshole for doing what he did, and that he’s trying to distance himself from him. Apparently STBX couldn’t face the reality that he drove me away and told everyone I ‘broke his heart and left him, probably for another guy’. Completely belittling the emotional trauma he put me through. Best friend also told me that he had been basically stalking me, driving obsessively around my work and losing it so bad he was shaking when he saw me talking to a guy outside. Even though he was with his new girlfriend (that he apparently described to him as an ‘almost 6/10’), he was getting super angry to his friend when I was on vacation and posted a pic of me and my best friend in bikinis. His friend truly helped me so much mentally by telling me all this because I didn’t feel like I was going crazy anymore knowing someone who also knew STBX super well saw what I saw. This man completely uprooted my life, gutted me time and time again and has no remorse for it. All I can say is I’m glad he showed me his true colours sooner rather than later. I overlooked a lot of little red flags with him, thinking they were normal, but after all this I have a really strong sense of what I deserve and what my needs are from any future partner. Thanks for listening. 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If we werent married or didnt have a daughter together, we would have separated 2 years ago. Last summer I was at the point where i moved into my own apartment and was filling out the divorce paperwork. Its always been that the closer we are to separating, the more she begs me to stay, the more she admits to things that shes done wrong, and the more romantic, nostalgic she becomes. The further we are from separating, the more I am lazy, a poor father, go on the computer to much, etc, etc, etc. For me, all that is one thing, but whats kept me in the relationship is that i want whats best for our daughter. In the last month or so, it has become abundantly clear that she will be much better off with her parents separated. It hurts me, and I feel like Ive failed my daughter and my wife, but I can only sacrifice so much of myself to keep a dysfunctional family together for so long. I am looking forward to having my freedom and finances back.",7.292390243902439,5.816402848780491,8.004024390243902,74.19042682926829,64.41463414634146,11.321951219512195,36.109756097560975,10.355215969177356,3.5192829268292685,804,32,161,16,10,271,120,205,0.069,0.804,0.127,0.9269,2,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,5,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,14,0,24,0,0,0,2,26,32,13,0,3,5,6,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,13,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,3,0,1,7,2,31,3,21,22,13,28,1,2,1,0,21,13,0,3,12,128,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12650981092245714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875179046832388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097403913943618,0.0,0.0,0.3152389328983837,0.0,0.0,0.14977245152922264,0.1262213906521088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460488120958083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4775007922837258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13454067498326336,0.0,0.07216189012543721,0.10195689331955304,0.0,0.156339252211558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16221846546651614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278126049001492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685322798462792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2326664412548632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972420787062009,0.0,0.0,0.12629985576088293,0.11984614773556225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391516903812818,0.15168534694607935,0.31473975477763483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670858098429408,0.10854253924309457,0.0,0.0,0.15847009040131735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13491348349704438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322440720514907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15211709418798147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18962936889887874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417805217290081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10138190295488607,0.1560383905455382,0.0,0.1838098492336656 divorce,sjihaat,2019/03/04,"Im (34m) finally going through with it Ive been married 3.5 years. If we werent married or didnt have a daughter together, we would have separated 2 years ago. Last summer I was at the point where i moved into my own apartment and was filling out the divorce paperwork. Its always been that the closer we are to separating, the more she begs me to stay, the more she admits to things that shes done wrong, and the more romantic, nostalgic she becomes. The further we are from separating, the more I am lazy, a poor father, go on the computer to much, etc, etc, etc. For me, all that is one thing, but whats kept me in the relationship is that i want whats best for our daughter. In the last month or so, it has become abundantly clear that she will be much better off with her parents separated. It hurts me, and I feel like Ive failed my daughter and my wife, but I can only sacrifice so much of myself to keep a dysfunctional family together for so long. I am looking forward to having my freedom and finances back.",7.148235294117647,5.6917871568627465,7.92580392156863,74.57311764705884,64.68627450980392,11.297254901960786,35.59607843137255,10.355215969177356,3.443723137254901,796,31,161,16,10,269,120,204,0.069,0.8029999999999999,0.128,0.9269,2,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,5,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,14,0,23,0,0,0,2,26,31,13,0,3,5,6,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,13,13,0,2,2,0,2,5,1,3,0,1,7,2,29,3,21,21,13,28,1,2,1,0,20,13,0,3,12,126,42,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503283941286078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736539197514473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845919881048564,0.0,0.0,0.31155859443916445,0.0,0.0,0.1480238943049402,0.124747786379559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14434372746321708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4719260857778008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13296994507399215,0.0,0.07131941747436968,0.1007665711971665,0.0,0.15451402917419524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032460403333965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15099757614728607,0.0,0.15235884389786775,0.0,0.0,0.12537224716371378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299501167068545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06891019457154715,0.0,0.0,0.12482533542712562,0.11844697288540933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11258523693283637,0.14991445712947912,0.3110652441024995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09557953164175063,0.10727533129398492,0.0,0.0,0.15661999034236326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333384011383515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514355492314737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15034116382653345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874154917837034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319529373000899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019829370623412,0.15421667999551378,0.0,0.18166391360605064 divorce,RealisticLeader,2019/03/04,"Indian American planning on getting divorce -- Any advice? We have been married for 14 years. Wife's on Green Card. It was a typical arranged marriage. Knew we were destined to fail as couple from day-1 but kept pushing it anyway.. First kid few days before our 1st anniversary and second kid 4 years after that.. Has been in the marriage just because of kids, but it came to a point where I can't take it any more.. There is no love between us, no communication and nothing that connects us.. I can't take the torture she puts the kids through every day; I know she wants them get good grades and all, but not at the expense of so much mental abuse... She is a stay at home mom, has no ambitions or hobbies of any sort, can't take care of home, no outward social communication, not many family friends, doesn't let my parents and relatives talk to my kids. I have a high profile job but has no friends or social life because she doesn't want to invite anyone home, due to the work it entails.. I have never seen anyone so lazy -- doesn't even shower regularly, home's a mess, just does enough to get by.. The way she talks to me is like fighting all the time, no softness or understanding in her words.. Her ideal life is like her sister's back in India, who has servants to cook and do house hold chores. Obviously, we can't do it here in US.. She doesn't want me to spend a penny even for necessities because she wants to save everything for kids future.. It's just miserable life all around and I can't take it any more.. I'm planning to talk to a divorce attorney in NJ area where I live.. If anyone has any suggestions and recommendations, I would really appreciate!!",4.540300080021339,5.685262923312884,5.321261669778608,82.15706721792479,70.07361963190182,8.123552947452655,28.59109095758869,8.456263369488248,1.9639886903174173,1307,47,258,20,23,425,175,326,0.138,0.768,0.094,-0.8742,3,0,0,0,5,0,54.0,7,0,1,6,15,14,2,1,14,0,29,5,0,0,5,44,49,18,0,7,13,4,1,2,2,1,3,0,6,6,11,12,1,2,3,1,2,3,18,5,0,2,8,3,30,9,35,39,8,32,0,2,2,1,43,16,0,5,13,166,41,4,0.0,0.10650113749756504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08783632241899439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30563046831547985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18855278246279428,0.0,0.0,0.08001829250060331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911738647376581,0.0,0.16438244282536582,0.0,0.07648703044960292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10280653174593377,0.09164556422030752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945801388340117,0.0,0.17390861345727895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07866052809059948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287707337973887,0.0,0.11873874267077758,0.0,0.07573349006754017,0.0,0.08078444313900612,0.0,0.08473725773259172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645765029265393,0.0,0.0,0.13889260858538327,0.0,0.14088639993670551,0.0,0.0,0.07539276754202102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497031961684796,0.3606550824334496,0.0,0.0,0.10371727724087657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0891987607261804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04939942428433245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09191532394015704,0.19046907579393596,0.08782828201610421,0.0,0.07937167472906284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112632957734951,0.0,0.0,0.09113108799477106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0905847339983069,0.0,0.0,0.1052743119350419,0.0,0.0,0.06607712679357101,0.0,0.06932622711690921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624879095961471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09980863329929036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497206234555431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0903610421464718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0575837738116455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1832565077421434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09580734909605153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2703346920913648,0.2167427699810072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05241370505212376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357530940686803,0.3243681914686232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21207021009192906,0.07134794314570775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543864736494312,0.0,0.0,0.06385299048913996,0.0,0.0,0.115768280263493 divorce,DaNugget1993,2019/03/04,"6 years together and fear of what to do. For the past half year my marriage has fallen apart into nothing. Dead emotions, dead bedroom, just weekly fights not good enough for a pay per view. We had two major deaths fallowed by a miscarriage. She pushed me away. Everything I tried wasn’t helping. She would complain I didn’t do enough. She refused any therapy or help... her mother lectured me about not doing enough... and here I am almost six months from when it all started and I’m broken, depressed, lost. I want to leave but whenever I bring it up she starts going through the “ABCs of making him happy” she becomes affectionate for a week, I get little notes, she wants to have sex.... then it’s back to fighting. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’ve broken my silence and told my parents. I’ve told my closet friends.... I’m just afraid of what she’ll do next. TLDR; male 25, no kids, stuck in a loop, scared to jump",1.2894374686087389,3.829987740331493,2.2871446509291817,93.31857232546459,85.96132596685085,4.6168759417378205,21.486941235560018,6.11248444174946,0.26026850828729264,715,24,144,6,22,225,126,181,0.187,0.728,0.085,-0.924,2,0,0,0,3,0,36.0,1,0,0,1,7,12,2,3,6,0,14,1,0,1,1,20,29,8,3,3,6,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,6,6,0,1,1,0,1,5,6,8,0,3,7,1,23,4,20,20,5,23,0,2,1,1,24,6,0,2,12,90,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14443208148259987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808580794896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14304391155559318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1355149975707753,0.1109090126544898,0.0,0.0,0.15929795016117926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242307391269579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16224671805401172,0.0,0.4471047748902621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963052111049791,0.0,0.0,0.16230623191552945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11143680967348413,0.0,0.07535765027494891,0.0,0.0819729618721868,0.12097878458626032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15354250185752474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933574536861357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07926864212603127,0.0,0.0,0.152725692585536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1445629269958612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745124540037175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627902486216228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11512824734683075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339721955610675,0.0,0.0,0.13839887090645614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16015763237546507,0.0,0.13769011872416734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14440596040157586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20418276131924185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16494707849444956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2756484314013153,0.0,0.0979271573683812,0.0,0.14089816226022112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701489221069832,0.0,0.2313957389497893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246151498906916,0.0,0.0,0.18576723333724024 divorce,emmaclinton,2019/03/04,"Tips For Divorced Singles Dating After Divorce &#x200B; Regardless of your experience, you should not give up on dating again. There are thousands of people out there with different personalities. This means you can find someone who is compatible and love again. Dating after divorce can make you experience anxiety, it is normal to feel this way. However, the tips I will discuss in this post will help you make the right choices and avoid wasting your time. Many people advice that divorced dating should be avoided because you need time to heal. The flip side is that you will spend long days and nights feeling sorry and sad. This is not a good place. You need to get your social life back as quickly as possible. Divorced singles can date people who have never been married before or other divorcees. There is no hard set rule to determine who you should date. However, you must focus on what’s important, starting a relationship that offers everything you desire. Here are some helpful tips to help you start [dating after divorce](http://www.divorceddating.net/). **Making comfortable decisions** When you start divorced dating, it will be best if you accept offers that make you comfortable. For example, if you don’t like visiting the zoo, don’t make plans to go there. Visit places you are genuinely interested in, this also applies to dining in restaurants. When you are in an environment that makes you happy, the chance of having a great time is higher. **Take it slow when dating after divorce** Decisions that are rushed usually end up badly. So you should take it slow. First focus on being friends, find common interests and talk about things. The easiest way to know you will have a good friendship is when you can carry on conversations for long periods easily.",5.979783637592965,9.026629392156867,5.5696168582375485,73.92500000000003,70.43790849673205,8.142258282623393,28.852377732702273,8.939507131559953,2.89441167455488,1438,56,212,30,29,442,166,306,0.071,0.758,0.171,0.9883,3,2,0,0,10,0,54.0,0,24,0,3,16,17,0,2,11,0,35,4,0,6,2,41,56,16,0,12,5,0,3,1,1,10,2,0,0,1,21,7,1,2,9,0,1,4,6,4,0,2,1,3,25,13,33,42,4,62,0,1,0,1,50,15,0,4,40,158,46,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133492385402153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0829292486510612,0.0,0.11235944336663684,0.1260074524132483,0.0,0.0,0.07933059508825946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07973927986075878,0.08658558202965487,0.063214859441202,0.0,0.08824148362516876,0.0,0.10882727203881837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0668782405612225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083449460966346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918478589264473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09319931855788227,0.20287796599933386,0.0,0.0,0.10486817258224572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18956074808118625,0.08820758835399559,0.0,0.0,0.08011874545331951,0.0,0.05417922873087702,0.09947896441399648,0.05893538127604101,0.17395811089564767,0.0,0.11433016219846318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11039110558381304,0.09289527496438682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20852476832528616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05699108023223452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324672664099957,0.0506628239048794,0.0,0.0,0.183543350209118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359374577480273,0.0,0.415325315290008,0.10513602583032626,0.0,0.11296024025850365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15378520660897868,0.07998021493280802,0.0,0.0,0.09731589000489424,0.10160446772544904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21567859905950165,0.09054727260935294,0.2166898921932692,0.0,0.0,0.11690672720111588,0.09931640906353233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11133552315959737,0.0,0.08855965640366695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570959567968106,0.08786509317399566,0.0,0.0,0.1160842144395986,0.22019923301857705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593973360760174,0.08335053004293162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688940012165094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18140577829618493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11421144491259486,0.0,0.0,0.16462525266763384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260074524132483,0.0 divorce,Turquesazul,2019/03/04,"Dont know what to do. Should i fight or give up? I have a relationship of 8 years and we live together for 5 years. It was my first relationship and it has ups and downs but the most part we are happy, and agreed in most things, the most cause of our fights is my MIL because i want him to positionation but i agree that i could be a lot calm about her and not nagging him because after all its his mom. So in our last fight i lost my temper and told him if i found out he was talking shit about me in my back with her i would punch him and kill him. But i would never ever to something like that, i was just so nervous and i admit when im that angry i dont think of what i say, it just gets out of my mouth. It was been five months since that and we wont forgive me, every time i try talk about that he says that i need to quit my job and go back to my parents (who live +/- 300km). We are basic friends who live together, and it hurts because he never talks about it or his feelings, just tell me to go. I dont have the strengh to just quit and go, i fell like im giving up if i do that, but at the same time i can be with someone who tells me to go because that is messing with my head, i basic cry everyday when im alone and i move to his city to be with him so i dont have friends to talk about it and unburden. I'm at work and fighting if i should talk to my boss or fight for my relationship. Never been here before and just dont know what to do. Thanks for listening",1.6729369918699175,2.344855948170732,3.3747560975609763,95.20906504065044,76.40853658536584,6.564227642276423,21.59349593495935,6.6274283507984215,0.06799349593495974,1133,26,291,9,24,379,144,328,0.152,0.7290000000000001,0.119,-0.9325,2,1,1,0,6,0,26.0,6,0,0,5,19,21,9,1,6,0,32,3,3,2,5,68,52,31,1,10,16,2,1,2,2,5,0,3,0,0,23,26,0,0,7,0,0,6,10,13,0,2,9,4,54,8,41,34,7,35,0,2,0,0,50,12,1,10,19,209,77,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442761192237305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125363949917746,0.0,0.1987694016520502,0.0,0.0693654429358424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374099330358606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06508514173208853,0.0,0.08954321631523479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4776898896504896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07373730363226601,0.06868206351759885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04121772970148158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693387983192543,0.0,0.08937980140412262,0.1259605355104973,0.0,0.042589562691437766,0.15639815075383878,0.18531324084126394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677696272113072,0.0,0.0,0.0836605385108867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726623827871817,0.0,0.2641588729045368,0.0,0.08089360393166953,0.0,0.09018710676546036,0.0,0.08959984264302466,0.06644769468744907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965072834609932,0.0,0.2159445075241368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898605068440253,0.06930331784123392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547238576547627,0.06506654188450975,0.08664026980489342,0.0,0.060444240821724074,0.18861411233125652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051560790019253,0.08827557801408784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17340792707890362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26255807000925546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296520775815867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08367660803623725,0.06743217134352089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0690695674667337,0.06275620337687586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3276036506777474,0.14249988798572275,0.07505042072718188,0.0,0.0,0.054156647346334776,0.0522331634944013,0.0,0.0,0.09506709426364036,0.0,0.0,0.07789352578755654,0.0,0.05534507502181787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04808117131118201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05934575748214632,0.0,0.0,0.11581547726514775,0.0,0.0,0.10498927715188376 divorce,DrawMonster789,2019/03/04,"Any advice on how to start the day? I’m trying to let myself have time to grieve during the divorce process, but waking up alone has by far been the most difficult part. I’ve been a giant mess most mornings. Even if I’ve had an amazing night, waking up alone the next morning is like starting the process all over again and tends to set the mood for most of the day. This hasn’t been too big an issue until now. I’m starting a new and very much needed job. It’s management and I really need to make a good impression, but it’s all so much to deal with at once. I could use some advice for how to get my game face on. Just something to make mornings easier to deal with.",4.010277777777779,4.346597821428574,4.7209523809523795,88.92182539682541,70.78571428571428,7.650793650793651,24.841269841269842,7.3871296695380915,0.9118888888888884,525,13,116,5,9,169,90,140,0.092,0.7859999999999999,0.122,0.7657,1,2,1,0,1,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,8,8,0,0,12,0,10,3,3,5,2,23,22,10,1,4,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,4,4,22,16,9,22,0,1,0,0,4,9,0,5,13,74,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3128281189850564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33155896905792365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088499630614977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277991998252979,0.0,0.0,0.20645788638412307,0.33004080452897194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10572168920951294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362756672298402,0.0,0.0,0.1342552659635705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16706669465720028,0.15884021419215855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636777195483057,0.0,0.07819987079412805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21368979914600375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2353329774460125,0.2373729366023788,0.0,0.154592163853918,0.17023137221959042,0.1502105377877558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17046443045236814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17333523342016496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254199600723814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322616748154434,0.0,0.0,0.33988534873912496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09333542382546132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867390181271158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13824511570018147,0.0,0.13207072105597786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Bravenkind,2019/03/04,"Resources or Support for Adult Children of Divorce Hello everyone, I am a 26M with a 24F sister and we are having a pretty rough time trying to heal from our parents divorce in 2017 after 25 years of marriage. It’s been a very sad journey seeing the worst sides of our parents, tolerating complaints about the opposite spouse, and the constant awkward feeling that there is some huge secret that is being hidden from us. I think we can rise above it but right now my whole childhood feels like a sick joke and I’m not sure where to go for support. Does anyone know decent books, self help, or can assist with finding a free support group in the Ohio area? Long term divorces don’t seem to be very common, and much less so to find adult children in search of their inner peace about the matter. I would be willing to have a pen pal if anyone in a similar situation wants to vent together. I haven’t been able to find anyone to talk to other than my sis. Grace and peace to you all. 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I'm 27F married to 30M for 3 years. We have a daughter 2F and don't own any property. We live in Texas and I have finally had enough and want out of this marriage. Citing irreconcilable differences. I will petition for full custody as he is an illegal immigrant, with an expired visa whom also has drinking problems. I was searching online and found some website advertising online divorce services. Are these companies legit? Can I actually do all of this online? The only type of child support I'm seeking is 50/50 daycare cost. Other than that I dont want anything else, just to move on with my life. He has on multiple occasions day drank during the day when our daughter was in his sole care, so i do not think that he should be getting any form of unsupervised visitation and i want to fight this issue. He invited another male whom i do not know when she was 1yr to day drink with him, again she was in his sole care while i was working. I told him to never do this again and hasn't but I don't trust that he wont do this again once we divorce. Any advise is appreciated - thank you.",3.6074569166278536,5.5433782831858425,4.921513740102469,80.96361201676758,73.69026548672565,7.766744294364232,29.151374010246855,8.532816995589336,2.3043752212389386,916,39,173,17,19,304,137,226,0.027000000000000003,0.872,0.101,0.9224,0,0,2,0,3,0,22.0,4,2,0,1,8,8,1,0,5,0,28,4,0,0,2,30,44,14,0,5,4,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,12,14,3,0,4,3,2,2,8,2,0,0,9,0,24,6,23,31,6,22,0,0,0,0,32,7,0,1,13,118,36,5,0.0,0.0,0.14441799424315346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11834845265266705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3019171283171152,0.15518160268046802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217840897722104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3017736388750783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2863261062399207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15461923183732154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17344450138728956,0.2899499318522849,0.0,0.0,0.12362759874324206,0.0,0.0,0.15291439711416416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16211704842517075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16226463469821026,0.0,0.0,0.07731925696317236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09919533446674443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446428971175258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813320543740709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045305112591811,0.0,0.0,0.1306788785162548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572911497809275,0.0,0.0,0.11413988229838422,0.1429307548922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1576057228220783,0.0,0.11255392258658163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160752412447022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14803117782533695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16793857978262944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27250069729247456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482674005091248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1414118660895849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2618670071796945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773930471370326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953014352048772 divorce,maritalproblems24,2019/03/05,"I think my spouse is going to file for divorce. Any advice? Hey all. I am not ready to share too many details yet since my spouse is also a reddit user. If it’s helpful to know, we live in the US. I’m anticipating my spouse will be divorcing me soon. We have had a lot of problems for years now and I think we are finally through. There’s no point in getting into the he said she said of it all, but my suspicion is it’s probably going to happen by the end of the week if not any day now. I want to know if there’s anything I can start doing to prepare for this if things go south? They have the ability to be vindictive and punishing so if I can avoid any unnecessary unpleasantries that would be best. I don’t want to break the law or make the issue worse, but I also don’t want to be foolish and leave myself vulnerable if they decide to be difficult. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 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I need advice. Hi everyone. I’m going through a divorce, going on 5 yrs now. Here’s the situation. The Beginning I was served with divorce paperwork at about midnight. My first day on the job. We were pretty cordial prior to that. The paperwork pretty much said I was giving up my right to my son. Except that I would see him 2 days out of the month, pay $600 a month I child support and 15% of all Overtime earned. Growing up around broken families and being scared of court I was about to sign. I took it to an attorney that specializes in family court. He explained what was happening. I hired him. She was not happy. 5 lawyers later We have fought tooth and nail. I’m still fighting for, because there are NO ORDERS but I have him equal amount of time physical and legal, I was paying child support on a gentlemen’s agreement and my attorney kept making it smaller and smaller and smaller and now I pay nothing. She was trying to work the angle that because she picks him up nights before I go to work that custody is truly 60-40. So she claims him for taxes. I put him in a before school program to remedy that. This is what she is fighting for. Child support - Which I’m totally on board with. What’s fair is fair. Spousal support- Brought it up for the first time last month in this entire process. 5yrs. Attorney fees- her initial atty fees were 7 grand. Through all of this i have amounted 30grand We were married for 5-6years in California. Still live in California. She claims she makes 38,000 a year and pays 2,500 in rent alone. Something doesn’t add up to me. She is a Supplemental insurance agency development manager. Which work off of commissions which with existing business compounds every year, and bonuses and gets a piece of everyone’s pay that works for her. As long as I’ve known her she has not made anything below 6 figures. And she’s an uber driver. At the beginning of all this i was making 23k a year. Now I’m making about 50k a year take home. But Gross about 90k. Isn’t everything based off of income at the time of papers being served? She has never fought me about custody. Just about money and persists. Anyone out there that can give me some advice? A new perspective? Anything?! HELP!!!! To be continued. . . 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This is a tough nut to crack. We're not quite at divorce yet, but in the brink of a trial separation. How do you disentangle two people who have been married for 17 years and been together for over 20? Who stays in tbe house, who pays for the other apartment? How do mortgage payments work, how about grocery shopping? I'm not asking for legal advice, but has anyone managed to have a civil separation, with rules that made sense? 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We signed the papers yesterday and our divorce will be final in 31 days (GA). We had been married 19 years, and have two children. There are largely two reasons for our divorce. One is financial distress. Income is not an issue. We make almost $200k combined. She makes more than I do. It’s caused by her overspending, failure to budget and save, missed payments, bounced checks, etc. I have spent the last year using my paycheck to clean up the mess left by her overspending. It ramped up in the last two years (again) since I put my life’s savings down on our new house. The house is all mine because her credit is so terrible. She has tried to blame this all on me, claiming I don’t make enough money. I have a salary that most in my area would kill for. The second reason is that, due in large part to the financial stress, my lifelong struggle with chronic depression and PTSD took a turn for the worse. Without going in to too much detail, she abandoned me when I needed her the most. Last fall I laid out a budgeting and family plan for her. She refused it, so I told her it was over, and asked her to leave. She packed, went to her parents, and told them a bunch of lies about me she later retracted. So we met yesterday to sign the papers. In my state there is a standard calculation based on salary to determine child support. It had been a pretty healthy amount. I was going to fight it, not because I don’t want to care for my children, but for the amount of her debt she was initially trying to leave me with. She suggested on her own a much lower amount for child support, and has added an addendum to the filing with that amount. She has also claimed all her debt as her own. She did this of her accord. It really didn’t take any pushing to make this happen. As a result, I am selling my house, but I’m walking away debt free, and will have enough for a down payment on a small, custom home for myself. Obviously, I am happy how this turned out. I was in agony the last two years of marriage. I should have pulled the pin long before now. But her sudden attitude change about her finances is really puzzling me. She spent a good deal of our marriage trying to spend us in to debt. I constantly had to take on side work to pay credit cards, take cash out my retirement to pay off her debt, etc. despite making excellent money. She just threw it away on purses, shoes, clothes, and shopping trips. And she often complained about how I needed to make more money. And now, when she really could have tried to nail my ass to the wall, she backed off, claimed all the debt that belonged to her, and was honest about her financial situation for once. If she would have conducted herself with the same honesty and clarity that she did during the last two years of our marriage that she did during our divorce, we’d still be happily married. I am so confused. I just don’t understand. I’m trying not to look the proverbial gift horse in the mouth, but I’m trying to figure this out. But I also know that I will probably never understand what is going on in her mind. Or, in this case, her conscience.",4.528831485587585,5.764318938211383,4.846177014042869,85.21294623059869,70.1869918699187,7.802291204730227,27.310606060606066,8.150884317080207,1.676991869918699,2477,82,486,34,44,781,274,615,0.12,0.794,0.086,-0.9107,13,0,0,0,4,0,84.0,12,0,1,3,27,24,2,4,33,0,51,5,3,13,6,87,92,33,1,8,14,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,2,4,22,26,0,2,8,1,24,12,10,12,0,7,22,1,90,13,87,60,23,78,0,3,1,1,73,37,1,8,28,355,112,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882914601788569,0.0,0.0,0.10993626227320924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04674281730416377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06425885416598988,0.0,0.12915941471820458,0.05285371884372567,0.0,0.0838016198161119,0.0,0.0584892486365817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008090339777609,0.07061077636220077,0.07271354320260269,0.0,0.0,0.07427916569794944,0.0,0.05488007970822387,0.0,0.0,0.04432901487896969,0.07086376786504303,0.05920219106105853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14204526455305186,0.15331755428941632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647981560686854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07529689639007922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1171927089390949,0.05765247127839261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060782992108726785,0.07317071921847387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894778325325353,0.0,0.0,0.23793624543109965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14348499101575307,0.0,0.0,0.07604616777691292,0.0,0.037775492034222535,0.28014495196812644,0.0,0.14556293709467846,0.07468183355796583,0.0,0.04855024904748095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060829171297559076,0.05772090400293998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27529076612369235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06940373623868518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105769502364498,0.10193370302100288,0.05301341823629506,0.06638562906628159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320156576435077,0.04657727281791129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632316138833584,0.07443435826942643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06992919348568917,0.07410900230171755,0.0,0.08034867173607631,0.06909863580921731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210206923072534,0.14134405219667934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056859105469328826,0.07726211127421317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0548926351920532,0.0,0.0787368224907866,0.07185776101823728,0.0,0.0,0.15600153055619495,0.0,0.0,0.15504268757607073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044043234749109414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13136033171970846,0.07636819285191562,0.28000327397220803,0.14952999672944872,0.3357252794639272,0.2146697095953912,0.08268090981824369,0.059365809639418114,0.0,0.0,0.04054225655502405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06371893370862768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625902314877911,0.0,0.05004060549443935,0.0,0.07004782667825978,0.09765612326574466,0.0,0.0,0.22131855847843507 divorce,TAKE_MY_UPDOOT,2019/03/05,"Spouse and I are in the brink of separation and I have nowhere to go. Wife has told me she wants me out. I've contacted all my friends and none of them have room for me. Only family member here is living with a friend of his and they also have no room. How did you afford life after relying on a combined pay for so long? I have no kids, no vehicle payments, just a few debts that may amount to $1000 altogether. I live in an expensive city and I just don't know if I can afford a place by myself. Please help me with money saving tips and how you worked through this.",1.062198879551822,3.104461823529416,2.8539705882352955,92.26370098039213,82.02521008403359,6.3196078431372555,19.160364145658267,7.492282038375204,0.3723103641456582,443,11,100,7,12,147,86,119,0.068,0.835,0.096,0.6486,3,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,2,2,1,7,3,0,0,6,0,11,1,0,2,1,19,15,11,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,2,1,2,9,0,0,1,0,4,1,5,0,0,0,2,0,18,3,16,12,4,11,0,0,0,0,14,8,0,2,2,73,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2132948344254564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25143863696943697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4121323857097889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515823740785025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17877591102062645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14658161287593927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18839129360541654,0.0,0.0,0.4710349671884919,0.2360376412999517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20285157721915975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27866425554816543,0.2927770198073287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25486113157638396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731758967114814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19417437782195845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,theunseen_1263,2019/03/05,"The ghost of your ex Been 28 months since I filed and 9 months since it was finalized. I've dated a woman for 15 months in that time and put a lot of distance between myself and what used to be. We don't have kids so it's easier. It's still hard though. &#x200B; Last night when I was laying in bed falling to sleep I was thinking about everything like I do sometimes, looking at it all from the 30,000 view. &#x200B; Your ex is always there. She's a sad little skeleton in a dark corner of my mind. It's curled up in the fetal position on the floor of my mind at the spot where the subconscious adjoins the conscious. It's curled up, un-buried with ragged skin hanging from bones and strawberry blonde hair that I used to run my fingers through. It's there with its back to me for me to see every time I feel down or get too sentimental. It's not like I can avoid it either, I have no control over that huge empty room in my mind. &#x200B; &#x200B;",2.972365384615383,4.627557938461539,3.504663461538464,91.64314903846157,74.74358974358975,6.310897435897436,23.982371794871803,6.9077264865688965,0.6873141025641023,758,23,161,7,16,237,120,195,0.066,0.856,0.078,0.4882,0,1,0,0,0,0,32.0,1,2,0,1,10,4,0,1,11,0,11,5,5,3,1,22,18,8,1,0,3,2,5,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,14,7,0,2,3,0,0,4,3,2,0,0,4,9,19,2,30,13,3,34,0,1,4,0,8,18,0,2,14,104,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08113191871273356,0.4225862349005963,0.4739166846081226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497527809052995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10936007808919093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08215211494918732,0.0,0.08763115040575965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0493014259467175,0.0,0.0,0.10681189270507094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050942305322059636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08734527181475941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07947953763318527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09527197430808944,0.09772556254612827,0.0,0.0,0.0818795900067673,0.0,0.0,0.08289521080266109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953565731336387,0.0,0.2334825318784729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915017784018766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980193929360058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07769881094609705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16131418328940428,0.0,0.09757535410516012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643487609113972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786756880466447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06247722668455096,0.0957981057449083,0.0,0.11371182599705396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16842591908982454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4739166846081226,0.0 divorce,Showmethelight11111,2019/03/05,"New here I’m 29 years old. I have 3 kids all boys who are 2,5 and 6. I’ve been married for 6 years and together for 9. The relationship is always up n down. He has a hot temper and would get in my face n call me crazy, tell me things that honestly stuck me in my heart and twisted it to where I felt dead. He threw me out of his apartment 4 times when he moved up to where I was in college at, when we lived together way before getting married. Called me names all that fun stuff that hurts someone’s self esteem. He hated me when I was pregnant, literally despised me. I remember finding an online account for Ashley Madison that he had signed up for which broke me into a million pieces and mind you I was 9 months pregnant at the time. I got pregnant when I was in college *23yrs old* I was going to nursing school and it was totally unexpected. We were very up n down at that point and honestly I didn’t think we would ever get married or end up together even tho I loved him but I didn’t know if I wanted a person like him in my life. He felts pressured n I felt pressured so we tied the knot when I was 15 weeks pregnant. He sent his friend a text saying “I need a drink” after we said I do. That honestly hurt me for some reason. After that it was always a battle to be happy, he was NEVER happy. At one point I thought he had mental issues because he would go in waves being normal then throwing forks by my head that stuck into doors. I’m at the point now in my life that I want a better future not only for me but for my kids. I want to be with someone that actually wants to be with me. I have so much resentment for pushing him to be with me and pushing him to have kids with me. It’s horrible feeling He’s a awesome dad to my kids. I would never keep them from him or anything at all. I just don’t know what to do. He’s verbally shattered my self esteem that I don’t know if it was normal or not. I don’t know if taking the battery out of my car from letting me leave was normal or taking my kids and keeping them from me for hours was normal. I don’t know if getting in my face telling me I give horrible blow jobs is normal or telling me I barely keep my kids alive when he gets home from work is normal ( I’m a very hands on great mother to my boys) when he said that made me feel horrible inside. I don’t know what is normal! I feel so messed up as a person. This last year he has changed for the better which I’m happy about, but now I’m the one that is having the “ptsd” from it and I’m not in a good place. Sorry for the long post. I just don’t know what to do. I’m a very strong person, but right now I feel so torn. 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I'm nearing the end of divorce proceedings (in California) and just got word that my ex is planning on applying for jobs all over the country, and exclusively in other states. We have joint physical custody on paper, but live in different cities, and so my son doesn't have to commute two hours for school, he stays with her during the week. Upon hearing about her plans, I notified her in writing that I don't agree to the move, and she said she planned on taking me to court to fight it because the job she's applying for would almost double her income. Is there anything I can do to prepare for this? My son has expressed to me that he's scared of moving, and while I don't have the means or income-earning ability my ex has, my son is sensitive, and I really do think it's better for my son to not have to follow her job around the country. Please help with any advice or hopeful/helpful ideas. 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Everything happened so quickly. I am not saying it's entirely his fault too but it just closed so many doors for me. That was the first relationship I ever had. I am a girl from India. Things are not the same here as that of western countries. I have to deal with so many societal norms. It's still a Taboo in India I guess. Things are slowly changing but you still get judgemental/sympathetic looks. I try to act all strong in front of people but at the end of the day it's just killing me from inside. I am scared of trusting people anymore. I have this strong feeling that everyone would leave me at some point or the other. I don't know how to put it in words I feel like talking to someone and pouring my heart out but I am scared to even do that. I am lost and a loser in life. 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Sister and her husband are separating and they have a child. She wants to take her daughter with her. Does there have to be a parenting plan in place before divorce? &#x200B; Also, if she moves in with a roommate with her daughter, will this impact anything with custody?",4.450999999999997,7.307807433333338,4.240000000000002,82.47500000000002,74.66666666666666,6.0,30.0,7.1686216300943375,1.9605000000000008,266,12,44,3,6,81,40,60,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,10,8,5,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,10,6,0,5,0,0,0,0,14,4,0,1,0,36,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23788660382072116,0.0,0.3223085560818458,0.3614585372263008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2447924148221306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531250095369645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2603179494101934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161634697688461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303051655587634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3107927744108132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22366037454835694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545547799569555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3614585372263008,0.0 divorce,analienacorn,2019/03/06,"Navigating visitation longish distance Husband (39m) and I (36f) are probably about to start mediation (you know, unless my pathetic last ditch efforts groveling and begging him not to break our family apart finally pay off...ha!). Married 12 years this month, trying to keep things simple and painless (HAHA!) - always kept separate finances, not even messing with each others’ retirement stuff, just have to sell the house and work out visitation schedules and logistics and calculate support. We have two children, 4 and 1. He will be staying in Alabama and the children and I will be moving to Florida (8-10 hour drive, 1.5 hour flight) to have help from my parents. Originally the plan was for us to all move as a family when he finished school, but he says the job market has changed and since he can’t find a job without existing security clearance he doesn’t want to go. Honestly I think it’s an exit strategy for him as he’s admitted he’s been unhappy for awhile (can’t get a lot of specific examples out of him but basically he’s felt abandoned and I’ve never listened to his input on things) and that he didn’t see hope for reconciliation when I suggested we at least try separation first. I dont get much help from him with the kids and between that, my oldest starting kindergarten in August, not having family here, and an offer to work from home in Florida with a bit more schedule flexibility I feel like I have to go for my sake and the kids’. With “real school” schedule starting soon our setup here isn’t sustainable. I’m about at my breaking point stress level wise here (wake up at 5 or sometimes earlier to try to clean a bit, do laundry, and/or prep dinner, get ready for work, get the kids ready for daycare, drop them off, treadmill at office for 20-30 minutes, work work work, pick kids up, eat, bath, bed, repeat) and that move at the end of the tunnel has been keeping me going. I also just finished breast reconstruction after over a year of being disfigured from a freak mastitis bout that almost killed me after I had our baby (story for another day) so I’m finally ready to spice things up again after 5 years of pregnancy/nursing/almost dying/missing boob/getting bionic boob and he’s basically like ew no thanks...granted I’ve still got a pound or 20 of baby weight hanging around. ANYWAY, back to it. I’d like for him to be able to see the kids as much as possible at least early on to help them with the transition of daddy not being around every night but I guess we need to set up some kind of structure and boundaries. Moreso for quicker weekend trips down to us than longer holidays (spring break, summers, winter break) that we’ll likely have the kids travel up to him some (logistics advice on that appreciated though). Should he stay at our house? That would be best for the kids’ stability I think but then do I leave for a few nights and stay with the ‘rents or staycation? Or is guest room fine especially since the baby is still a baby? I did request that we put down no introducing new SOs to the kids without discussing first and absolutely no spending the night while the kids are in the house. He agreed and made sure that also applied to me. Thought hadn’t even crossed my mind that I’d ever be with anyone else, he’s the only one, that was a particularly devastating exchange. He’s not been a particularly hands on/involved dad (doesn’t participate in family outings/activities but is present at dinner nightly and has stepped up at bedtime a bit since our therapist that we were going to briefly last year suggested it and even more so that we’ve been discussing divorce for the last week or so) but they love him and will miss him and I’m worried about my older child adjusting. I’m also selfishly worried about the pain of having to see him when he visits and/or when I take the kids up since I’m still very much in love with him and attracted to him and he’s done with me. Any advice about anything, including how costs are covered if you have a similar situation, is very much appreciated. Also advice on how to stay hydrated. I’ve always been a crier, but dang I didn’t know the tears could come like this. Not sure if he would visit this sub but if you see this my dearest husband STAHHHPPP!!! We love you so much and need you but we need family support for many reasons, one of the best being so we can have time to find us again. Let’s move together and live in a cardboard box if we have to as long as we are together. 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His wife left him after she got a promotion and he lost his job, after 20 years married. They have three girls teens. The mother-in-law moved in next door a few years ago... Together, they wanted my brother erased. They did that to her father, and pattern is repeating... A sort of co-dependent smotherhood. The teen girls are slowly but surely being more distant. Sure, they're teens. That's part of it... but its also a form of Stockholm Syndrome. Going from the agreed 40% custody to.. they don't really want to come and see him maybe every other week. When they see him, they are rude sharp and distant. My advice to my brother: Be done with them all! Sounds cold, but I have girls myself... And my philosophy: You don't need daughters they need a father. If they are old enough is eyes of court to make decisions, they are old enough to be treated like adults and judged for their actions. Be gone! Let absence let the heart grow fonder... and maybe one day, when they show proper respect they might deserve their father. Tell them you are there when they decide such. I am interested if others have faced similar circumstances, and whether I'm being insensitive ",3.2135526315789456,5.9193793026315795,3.3307894736842094,88.10302631578949,78.34210526315789,5.905263157894738,22.657894736842106,7.1686216300943375,0.8998473684210522,963,30,177,12,24,294,145,228,0.055,0.8540000000000001,0.091,0.908,1,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,0,2,16,2,7,8,1,0,9,0,24,3,3,1,3,29,37,18,0,6,7,8,1,1,0,1,0,1,1,5,7,10,0,0,2,1,0,6,3,2,0,2,5,6,34,6,18,24,7,22,0,1,3,0,40,2,0,4,15,122,41,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14096771715936512,0.12787643854145905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536345440908448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1242659070790416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09303478545196787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476265106069134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29811514531153394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1215439912933324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08198541867331344,0.0,0.11537668479119048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17094699348454329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14315428204101308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15673726071276084,0.2950281394068369,0.0,0.07047740659484727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1574751720562629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629365564575217,0.0,0.2898540658166628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15303545039726688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332393436489586,0.0,0.213931670188833,0.0,0.0,0.1534205301528419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027500159329501,0.0,0.09775327954801752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15621787605156798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09241567629536274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299106628472289,0.0,0.0,0.16297102095823146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719238205123028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260882700488426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017477833123315,0.0,0.11571545119108385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579546295623506 divorce,Judgementalmother,2019/03/06,"A vent Sorry about the formatting I’m on mobile. I’ve been with my husband for 3 years. We have a 9m old daughter. I think he’s emotionally abusive but I’m stuck in this cycle that I can’t get out of. Our relationship started out fine, he was wonderful in the beginning. Then I got a message on instagram that he matched a girl on tinder and her friend found my instagram and thought I should know. I confronted him and all I got were excuses. I should have left then but I didn’t because he is so good with his words and I wanted to believe him. We ended up getting married after about a year. On more than one occasion we would have friends over and he would get WAY too drunk. Like to the point where he would pass out outside. That’s completely embarrassing so I started asking him to stop drinking when I noticed he was having one too many. The first time I asked him to stop he got pissed and started screaming at me and punching holes in the walls. Every time he would drink we’d end up with more holes. It got up to around 30. Then one time I asked him to stop and he punched a hole in the wall so I walked out of the house. When I came back less than 10m later he had punched and broken 3 windows. Every time he does this he cries while he’s drunk and says he needs me and tells everyone I’m the only one he wants and he doesn’t want me to leave him alone. Then the next day he’s always so remorseful and promises never to drink again and patches what he damaged and tells me it’ll never happen again. Then a few weeks/ months later he drinks a beer. Then he’s drinking a 6 pack a few weeks later. Then we’re back to whiskey which is when he gets blackout drunk and the cycle continues. At that point I thought “they’re just walls he doesn’t know what he’s doing and he always fixes them” I knew it was an issue but there were always promises and apologies and I wanted to believe he would change. Then he would start to get very standoffish with me. Wouldn’t speak to me cause he was “tired” and I shouldn’t expect that much out of him because he “works long days” and it never really got better. Well then I found out I was pregnant. About 30w into my pregnancy we went out to dinner with his coworkers and I drove his car home because I was tired and had work the next day. I went to bed and woke up at about 12 to him not home. I called and called and when he finally answered he was at a bar. So I asked him if he was going to need a ride and he said no cause he was staying at a friends house. I went back to sleep and woke up to a call from his friend saying he left the bar and they had no idea where he was and were wondering if I had gone to get him. I spent over an hour driving around looking for him. When I finally found him he was stumbling in the street and walking the opposite direction from our house, I convinced him to get in the car and went through his phone to see where exactly he was going because his “friend” was texting him directions to her house. He was trying so hard to sleep with her. So I asked him about it and he “didn’t even remember It”. Then I had our daughter and everything was going great. He’s really a good dad and he loves her to death. I found out recently that he has been in a secret relationship for 7 years. He would talk to her and then block her then talk to her and block her. She knew about me and my daughter but kept talking to him because he promised they’d be together eventually and he kept telling her we were “separated”. I found out and he immediately called her and cut her off. I recently decided to message her and see if there was stuff she could tell me that he was leaving out and there was. He was texting her 20 days after I had our daughter. I’m so hurt and I’m so done being cheated on, even though it is emotionally it’s cheating to me to tell someone that you love them, call your wife the C word, say she baby trapped you, and say you can’t wait to get a divorce. I decided I needed to get away. My parents live 5 states away and they flew my daughter out to see them for a month. We have less than a week until we have to go back and I do not want to go at all. I’ve expressed to him that I’m happier here without him and I can never trust him again and I want a divorce but he BEGS for me to stay and to give him another shot. His actions don’t change. He still doesn’t give me the time of day. I just don’t know what to do. He manipulates me into staying with promises that he’ll be better. At this point I just want a divorce. Am I being unfair like he says I am? Should I give him another chance like he’s begging for? He says “everyone has that moment where the lightbulb turns on, you finding out about (girlfriends name) was that moment for me” ",2.499966176395226,3.900706514170043,3.607508840260341,91.47366704248451,75.4574898785425,6.783908163788245,24.24721980218316,7.392516173487457,0.8502181468764407,3708,116,831,44,79,1199,336,988,0.12,0.785,0.095,-0.973,1,2,7,0,3,0,65.0,12,5,6,5,48,32,5,1,41,0,79,20,3,3,7,162,167,87,1,27,14,9,1,3,6,14,2,9,4,1,28,81,13,8,22,12,1,21,20,9,1,5,64,14,133,23,120,82,9,162,0,2,4,2,183,59,1,5,80,530,161,2,0.0,0.05020178441010192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04388277160064186,0.0,0.0,0.10576625625073906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08885774378245506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07543696083192737,0.19805218914521824,0.0,0.07961643625819384,0.13032034084424746,0.0,0.12914246973361504,0.0,0.0,0.0954734613462224,0.0,0.07494603601560898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2163236686933062,0.04846024619011852,0.0,0.08705177841891178,0.08964415315953696,0.0,0.04442437143632845,0.0,0.0,0.033829174415719594,0.0,0.04654169910148835,0.13662643931919938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03707846663026792,0.0433594475342856,0.0,0.20753343428957796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0953215933114854,0.07505488074390962,0.0,0.0,0.055970263799494435,0.0,0.07139747856838002,0.08097312534309034,0.03807962331150918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09282901389666352,0.03872561512934456,0.03604008902329831,0.0,0.2322838062939728,0.16367564131696474,0.0,0.19923022914472416,0.12193613271811744,0.12039986737231392,0.07107626361853651,0.16943668485818544,0.04671331912107651,0.0,0.0,0.0374678472131901,0.0,0.03795539637841852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500157425616943,0.0,0.04172613364761765,0.19555818891674465,0.04535819876503434,0.04783082309778742,0.0,0.04422350343618847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06985669748255721,0.0,0.0,0.08972789423085308,0.09207073993150844,0.0,0.0,0.062099850515440286,0.0,0.037413682113097126,0.03749631298513667,0.03558031510394938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648155884753981,0.0,0.0,0.04295675464195039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676390136200191,0.0,0.031146988207573487,0.09425094779392963,0.1307141083922567,0.0,0.09012242314061583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04823877835400677,0.044460420346866,0.0,0.1148446353826676,0.03222446295873823,0.0,0.0,0.047047117137809465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016066461780613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054286898080847135,0.0,0.0836709649034492,0.09097952321344972,0.04799720172502134,0.0,0.04030378362061719,0.20216700597759435,0.0,0.0,0.10129074326468304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480164214681826,0.0,0.035900151439609805,0.0,0.0,0.04742999441060305,0.11995944429032855,0.13548305672321995,0.03383691386607378,0.10627020792813807,0.0,0.0,0.04850376698105322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216673799642377,0.18516720700758735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02714912729867689,0.041628527798973934,0.0672744466284345,0.1235320853367198,0.09739667410902514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028766599351831564,0.04608663440939282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03495987035850059,0.1749373821701767,0.033631509898069595,0.10196050860104164,0.0,0.03809591786262107,0.15711048041279185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04084338183603913,0.091897396311783,0.061692052203267164,0.0,0.0,0.21069012936923487,0.0,0.0,0.08185510104221667 divorce,qjac78,2019/03/06,"Spousal support for cohabiting ex Been divorced only 6 weeks and my XW is already living with her new guy, we’re doing flexible on custody for our two kids, around 50/50. I pay child support (higher than the state cap for TX) and agreed to spousal support. I have been pushing for a more fixed default custody schedule so that I can plan my own life without having to coordinate with her but she is being difficult. I don’t want to push the money button just as punishment, but I definitely feel like my efforts to do more than I have to are not worth it. I’m sure it’ll make it worse going back to court over money and perhaps formalizing 50/50 custody, so I want to make sure I’m thinking about it the right way.",7.615045592705165,6.416532226950357,7.6642958459979775,75.99000000000002,63.60992907801418,10.042958459979737,37.16413373860182,8.841846274778883,3.1333112462006074,568,24,109,7,7,184,94,141,0.099,0.74,0.161,0.6429,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,8,8,1,0,4,0,14,1,0,2,2,19,26,8,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,5,6,0,0,2,0,4,3,3,2,0,1,2,1,14,6,21,22,3,13,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,0,5,71,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19708474256093744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15898799436718014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732903199955734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09030332762868072,0.12758876916103035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10150002452112103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17683777381477375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261473903991806,0.08725281413840594,0.0,0.15770323235331166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23842796847126765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724887931785784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13583004084122466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15251971060393335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.608004686815188,0.3366485760090365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443688214462278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446200061298112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21068068509015053,0.14176091526664542,0.14325865895944584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17215983490513245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18200422679510544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PipetteDream,2019/03/06,"Confused and Contemplating I’m 36F married for almost 12 years to 35M. We have two kids and no major problems. That said, we have zero in common and this I’ve known since day 1. That said, we’ve always pushed through. Young kids helped, as we had no time for ourselves anyway. Now that they are getting a bit older... this seems to be a growing issue for me. There is nothing I can think of to discuss with him, no common hobbies. He doesn’t think of the future at all. I like to dream about retirement or future trips. Something to look forward to. And I’m not even talking about actual planning just fun talking about far off places etc. All he says is “we won’t be able to afford it” or says there’s nowhere he wants to go. “What would you do with a million dollars?” Him: “doesn’t matter. Likely won’t happen.” I’ve given thought to him being depressed and I think it is a battle he does in fact fight but even in good times he just has zero interest in anything, common or otherwise. Like...just no personality. There’s no plans of the future or desire to do anything. He thinks holidays and birthdays are dumb and just like any other day, nothing special. I’ve always passed it off as a phase or just a rough spot but I’ve come to the conclusion it really just is his personality. We are so so different and while I wish him nothing but happiness, I’m beginning to find it difficult for me to be happy in staying with him. He will on occasion do things because he knows I want to but he shuts down and it’s miserable and I end up having zero fun anyway. I want to travel, do new things, have deep conversations, gush about my favorite things. While not calling out these things specifically, he says he “just doesn’t get it” why this stuff is a big deal and says it’s “trivial.” I’m at a point where I think that while we can function together, I’d be forgoing a lot of happiness and end up resenting him. I’ve talked to him about this and he says he will try to do better. It’ll last for a bit then go back same as always. I encourage him to have hobbies and he says he can’t think of anything. I’m terrified to talk about divorce. I don’t want to hurt him. But I also don’t want to give up my own happiness just doing the status quo. 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We live in a two bedroom so he moved into the other room same day. By the next day he set up a [plentyoffish.com](https://plentyoffish.com) account. By Jan 22 he was dating Sandi. I just found out yesterday. I have been watching his cell phone bill because I pay the bill and he has been acting shady. I saw a repetitive number so I googled it. I then send the woman a message and told her her conversations and messages are not wanted and that Dennis is still married and living with me. Imagine her surprise. Poor woman. She responded and we talked on the phone and the things she told me are unreal. I knew they were true then because I know the idiot better then he knows himself. I have no emotion over it. Is that normal? I know he is humiliated but has no one to blame but himself. He is a 56 year old grown man! 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I don't post much and I don't even know what I'm going to say. I got married 4 months into a relationship (her idea) All throughout the marriage I supported her while she built her career, gave her as much attention as I could and tried everything in my power to make her feel loved and appreciated. I know I wasn't the perfect husband, but I really tried to be. 8 months ago we moved 2500 miles away from where we met to the West Coast. Very expensive. The day after an anniversary of a bad accident I had four years ago she sits me down after I get back from work and tells me she wants a seperation. I felt my entire world shatter into pieces. She told me she hadn't loved me romantically and hadn't been attracted to me since before we moved here. I tried in desperation to win her back. Read books, bought her stuff, gave her space... Everything I could think of. Only made her develop a crush on a male friend to the point to where he gets annoyed that she likes him. I agreed to the divorce 10 days ago after trying everything and not wanting to compete for my wife's attention when she didn't care to give me any for months. I've been trying to meet multiple new people, try new things, keep myself distracted and whatnot. Not working very well. I keep getting anxious thoughts of what she's doing and making up impossible scenarios and freaking out about them. (I have epilepsy from a brain injury) I know she isn't doing anything to hurt me, and I shouldn't worry about what she's doing because she obviously doesn't give a shit about what I'm doing...but I love her so much and it's very hard trying to fall out of love with someone I can still only see as my forever. And I have to live with her until August. She keeps trying to use me as a financial safety net and get all the husband benefits, but not be attached to me at all as a wife. And it keeps working because I'm scared she'll make my life already harder than it is right now. She still criticizes my actions and doesn't consider my feelings as much as she says. I'm just trying to be friends with her and trying to give her what she wants without hurting myself. I'm already hurting enough and I just want to feel like I matter for once in my life. I think I should end it there. Sorry about the rant...",4.209050116550117,5.267967694444447,4.993473193473196,84.52122377622378,70.77350427350427,8.065889665889665,27.002331002331005,8.391295532112219,1.6965205128205136,1843,60,375,28,33,597,223,468,0.117,0.7440000000000001,0.138,0.926,1,0,0,0,1,1,45.0,3,0,1,7,19,25,2,2,18,0,30,8,2,5,5,73,79,30,0,9,8,4,5,2,2,3,2,2,0,1,13,27,0,4,14,2,2,5,14,10,1,1,16,8,79,15,63,54,11,51,0,3,1,4,60,20,1,0,26,252,92,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17560208692201765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14573751418582565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490451923672616,0.0,0.0,0.07459818690211388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433930859490159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062039921396664185,0.10155018338354113,0.05513456949220073,0.08050587589991502,0.0,0.05618898778506199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07371436251637163,0.0,0.0,0.06732476680373863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816527995745022,0.0,0.0,0.08517129331014876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05848539724495565,0.06822945943868247,0.0,0.04361399391716466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17803787369225346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016439365347833,0.0471737939069748,0.0634017739658288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10203344333496753,0.0,0.13799749942078365,0.19003382830933135,0.03752792091182506,0.0,0.052812404595571655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05915235392500943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21206820237101925,0.07454291211179613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2347716898209452,0.0,0.0,0.10886958081855536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932817368758067,0.0645205106849782,0.0,0.05830810838930115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2383884595792812,0.06248176361275421,0.1322320756005571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581200799314355,0.14036467888670046,0.2427082636396972,0.0,0.0,0.12754963989658644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703226999911911,0.0,0.10044173002300567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577877913420544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062422271398701726,0.0,0.06324110006390846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605059715569889,0.0,0.04230225626882235,0.0,0.0,0.0708944375576407,0.0,0.05639158871186094,0.0,0.10502375095157623,0.06611027999203256,0.0,0.052619534740050974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677816461316662,0.05462295476792068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0559493159482509,0.0,0.0,0.07391823255025931,0.0,0.0,0.10546764337701026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07559167509552937,0.0,0.07493315694083517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057715514574081625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04386921019213642,0.08462221133011835,0.0,0.05242260991558277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309710114675668,0.0,0.4483188764815601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05703107546150433,0.0,0.1634517477304742,0.15579125473151104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05937135246963648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06365319317896566,0.0,0.1442178367696921,0.0670594403469649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042522911710561835 divorce,Brightstar42,2019/03/06,"When the other parent gets a pet(s) So my STBXH just got two cats. We (I) had a cat for a long time (since college) but she died nine years ago so it’s been a while and the kids (12 and 10) don’t even remember her. So they were pretty excited about getting these two cats at their dad’s house, which is fine and dandy...except now I have to deal with the aftermath of “Gee I really miss the cats” and “I wonder what the cats are doing” and “I can’t wait to go back to Dad’s on Friday and see the cats.” I can’t have pets in my rental townhouse. It just kind of sucks, because guess what kids, I’m not getting back together with your dad just so you can be with the cats 24/7!",1.3402873563218414,2.6342022413793127,2.7128448275862063,97.13455459770118,78.3103448275862,6.21264367816092,18.290229885057467,6.816661863887847,-0.2690114942528741,515,9,128,5,12,167,95,145,0.078,0.852,0.07,-0.3017,2,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,2,2,0,13,5,1,0,11,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,25,13,1,0,5,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,10,0,1,2,0,0,1,4,2,0,3,4,1,15,3,13,20,0,14,0,1,1,0,14,3,1,2,10,83,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17743291626677932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30782684023287754,0.0,0.12201784660916505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20635983830570007,0.0,0.0,0.2077381706081573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13220614173339548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3137315915494181,0.0,0.11375756231936808,0.0,0.16008908196998894,0.0,0.2205027248785372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23096187051816966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084395428103925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713844932914227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22225794249428127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036382977551694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12822990021368627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22674629073739905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950443981354034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557736293677272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11671697986741165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3910614209351846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21706883936172086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12889876820730006 divorce,Shewantstoleave,2019/03/06,"I’m (29F) planning to ask my husband (31M) for a divorce after 3 years of marriage. Repost from r/relationship I was directed here by the mods. My husband and I have been together almost 8 years, (3 of those married) no kids. I love him and would love to spend the rest of my life with him but I can not. He has a drinking problem (I say he’s an alcoholic) he disagrees. He’s been a drinker since I’ve known him, but I never knew to what extent. We never lived together and would see each other maybe 3 times/week and weekends. He was apparently going to drink after seeing me so I wouldn’t know. I also thought he would quit after we got married. I know I shouldn’t have but I love him. During the first year of our marriage he’s been day drinking almost every day except for the weekend(when he’s with me). We have fought numerous time about it, talked about it, ask parents to intervene/give advice (IMO his parents are in denial- he’s the oldest of two sons, and they love to portray a “united” family for everyone outside of their immediate household) and even gave him the ultimatum that If he does not quit I will leave. None of it worked. He suffered two episodes that we thought were a stroke but the doctors say it seems to be alcohol withdrawal and anxiety. He and his parents opted to believe it’s ONLY anxiety. After being released, I made him an appointment to see a therapist for alcoholism- he agreed to go without me. He went once/week for about 3-6months and every evening after therapy he was always drunk( this led me to believe that he never went and went drinking instead.) I asked, he denied it. I accused him, he denied it. I have no way of knowing if he ever went. Gradually for the last year after multiple fights and me telling him I’m going to leave, he eased up drinking. Sometimes once a week or every two weeks. This past two weeks however, I’ve been noticing him getting back into drinking at minimum twice a week. Which brings us to yesterday. I’m a nanny, the kids I take care of spent the weekend with me and him. He was completely sober throughout the visit. Everything went great. Then he offered to pick up the kids mom from the airport yesterday afternoon, We all agreed. When he brought her to her house where I was with the kids. He is drunk. As in standing up and swaying side to side. That was it. I was livid. (He has been unemployed for about 9 months nothing related to his drinking.) and he has the audacity to show up to drive and drive my boss 40mins away drunk, putting my job, our only source of income, in jeopardy for alcohol. Tldr:unemployed husband drove my boss 40 mins while completely drunk, so I’m planning to ask for a divorce. Any and all advice is appreciated. 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I’d like to hear from all of you who initiated divorce and were presented with the “let us try one more time” argument. Did you say yes/no, why? For those that said yes, did it work out? If it didn’t work out, can you elaborate a little bit on what happened? If it did work out, what changed?",0.26883116883117003,2.264250212121212,2.0325974025974034,97.28318181818184,84.75757575757575,6.195670995670996,20.034632034632033,7.447530270364453,0.3266086580086585,238,7,59,4,7,78,48,66,0.042,0.866,0.092,0.5238,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,3,0,3,0,1,0,0,2,1,8,0,0,0,1,8,11,3,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,8,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,3,4,1,9,3,3,8,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,2,4,38,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22569925231658605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21869645071630966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18281360050159406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23300348723160896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4227976719860671,0.0,0.10099946227443277,0.20720110692168853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2801757086968041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19665073778053516,0.16440264126152934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241095733836832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2807167207537778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24867474094699255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186544674532804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4515129781051806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,anyoldjp,2019/03/06,"Obvious Throwaway I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like crap in this relationship. She is always controlling me and I am in the place of having to ask permission to make any kind of purchase. She shuts down the purchase and controls me in every way. She also controls the frequency of sex/intimacy. She is ok with once every 2-3 weeks, I want it at least 3 times per week. I have thoughts of being with other women often. I have tried talking to her about this, but we just don't see eye to eye. She is a completely different person from the one that I married. Bit of background, we are married for 20 years. She's been married before. Cheated on her ex with many men, me included. Sex was great for many years although we didn't always agree on everything. There was a point where she wanted it so frequently, I had to put the brakes on to slow it down. It was almost obsessive. There never seems to be a good place to compromise with her. I have given into everything that she wanted. I just don't feel happy in this place and I don't see myself ever being happy. Discussions with her always turn negative very quickly. I earn a great paycheck and it is enough to support our family and then some yet I am always told that we cannot afford whatever it is that I want. She also makes me feel bad for even wanting anything. I feel like i have sacrificed all of who I am for her to be who she wants to be, and now I just want to know when I will be happy. I hate who I have become.",2.54706316861946,4.334153400662252,4.139337748344373,86.07386143657669,76.25165562913908,7.162710137544575,23.867040244523693,8.012643519586192,1.318151910341315,1165,37,236,19,26,389,153,302,0.12,0.787,0.093,-0.9065,2,0,0,0,0,0,31.0,5,0,0,4,17,16,3,1,9,1,34,4,3,5,4,48,59,13,0,7,4,1,4,2,0,1,0,0,0,3,18,16,0,4,8,0,2,1,8,5,0,1,9,8,46,11,41,43,5,33,0,0,4,1,32,17,1,4,16,180,64,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09009666179808004,0.0,0.0,0.14390546468207685,0.2994646210796596,0.0,0.0,0.06118587903223927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08923072207646178,0.0,0.0,0.07404150893712069,0.0,0.08411419560284672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07512511339137835,0.0,0.0993699834100101,0.07656183983256969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982290654136628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09433675751468128,0.0,0.30274281872506925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09400440777893901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09296791331051478,0.0,0.05942743851371455,0.08138726419725628,0.151615124876184,0.0,0.16172691135256456,0.0,0.08482013638441033,0.0,0.18197564009420444,0.12855588241654145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07546650666337038,0.0,0.19839484121669448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28733921271822965,0.0,0.08883138534510901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0936948007995788,0.09889548038788706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08791418389444926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12011761725251055,0.18244044047234145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06939403275982074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09582011539191286,0.060969182960105076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07856243456015492,0.28201322333681705,0.0,0.08505517065183993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0904494212320171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09659915202728032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1433963682080476,0.08190958454515943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10210221942062166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07231825292301135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07142985880641095,0.05246496912801876,0.0,0.0,0.08597467835470997,0.0,0.06108691287765816,0.09786663298495912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423854758376149,0.3714858504119562,0.07141772616083206,0.14434454879879025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1158815093111201 divorce,LauraWasserOfficial,2019/03/06,"Hi Reddit! I’m Laura Wasser, celebrity divorce attorney and entrepreneur. I’ve been in the business for over 20 years, helping men and women get divorced affordably and amicably. Yesterday, I hosted my very first AMA. Check it out #ICYMI. [https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/axnopy/hi\_reddit\_im\_laura\_wasser\_celebrity\_divorce/](https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/axnopy/hi_reddit_im_laura_wasser_celebrity_divorce/)",24.072142857142854,32.32663811904762,11.754761904761908,21.473571428571432,48.76190476190475,8.114285714285714,32.1904761904762,8.418075326091056,4.342961904761905,379,11,25,6,7,89,38,42,0.0,0.938,0.062,0.3595,1,0,0,0,4,0,41.0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,4,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,0,3,13,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5335825155335135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32773925345140065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4204671144146875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5175896085205366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4039617354544733 divorce,emmadean2018,2019/03/06,"He got me a gift today for our first anniversary after separation We’ve been separated for seven months now and still live in the same house for financial reasons, just separate bedrooms, and get along well still. We have two young kids and living together has made this easier on them as well. I initiated the separation, it wasn’t a big explosive reason, we just functioned like business partners and I’d been unhappy with this, I expressed my complaints often which never resulted in anything - until I didn’t have the desire to try anymore. I’ve worked hard to put up healthy boundaries as best as I can and I don’t want to work things out. He does. Today is our first wedding anniversary being separated. A couple years ago there were some figurines I really liked, he said they were ugly and a waste of money. I woke up to find one with a bow on the coffee table with a note. I don’t know how I’m supposed to respond to this in a kind way. I appreciate the gift but I also don’t want to give him the wrong impression and end up hurting him further bc I don’t want to reconcile our marriage. How do I respond to this in a healthy way? The note said: “I don’t know if this day has the same significance for you as it does for me or if we are even celebrating it, but happy anniversary.”",3.773203125000002,5.3611574140625,5.166062500000002,80.82268750000003,72.515625,8.401250000000001,28.034375,8.982922981607832,2.2864490625,1022,39,199,21,20,342,144,256,0.064,0.759,0.177,0.9728,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,6,1,2,5,13,10,0,0,16,0,20,0,0,6,1,41,33,20,0,6,7,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,2,10,15,0,0,6,0,1,1,8,2,2,5,11,3,27,8,35,21,4,31,0,1,0,0,24,12,0,5,18,143,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547813516408845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041783516431706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12919467043718802,0.0,0.0,0.107202632940777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13671226978711962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1441433245802179,0.0,0.0840145663417202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280035482210031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11538219265886605,0.0,0.0,0.08604332852004246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11906611112828155,0.2216183386829949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06806166502521242,0.1249686293363899,0.0,0.0,0.1041902992691018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386768070717554,0.11669798989677775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150316224647667,0.13945871012501768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13565808534651225,0.14318800407657858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272884915720508,0.0,0.2300648610650808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326637462404055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10398174806764976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047368197951008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882755772457572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13095919090838998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834554831229254,0.26788231777104365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2478367232352258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20807053590547947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654682879183054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2469649636508474,0.0,0.0,0.08844603510539252,0.0,0.12725666853244647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23051313765610185,0.2068074622732652,0.0,0.0,0.2342600769343285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1896789171413293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14243181791844622,0.0,0.08389080048228914 divorce,LibertyLondonSneaks,2019/03/06,"Divorce and Taxes This may be more for personal finance but I'll give it a shot here in case anyone has been in my shoes. When we were married, my husband and I filed jointly. He managed everything with the taxes - I gave him copies of my paperwork and he gave them to a lawyer who handled our personal taxes and the taxes for his LLC (I am not involved in any way with the LLC). The LLC is always on a payment plan because he's always owes at the end of the year, but it's ok, the divorce decree ensures that is all his responsibility. I pay through my employer and my ex stipulated that this covers the amount I should be paying in our joint filing. BUT. Our 2017 taxes, which he should have filed before April 15, 2018, are not filed yet. I filed for divorce in August 2018 and everything was final in Nov. 2018. Now I need to file taxes for 2018 and I don't have 2017 done. If I say screw him and file late for 2017, do a ""married filing separately,"" i get hosed because of the deductions. But I don't think I can file 2018 without 2017 being done - can I? Also, when he eventually does do 2017 for us filing jointly, there will be an amount due. Will they try to take that out of my return (if i have one) for 2018? How can I prevent this? I don't think I can attach stuff to an e-filing to explain it, can I? 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My partner has been in a divorce from his STBX wife for 2 years now. The issue: she wants maintenance (alimony). They were married for 13 years and she's much older than him (married 27 43, now he's 42, she's 55), and never worked during their marriage. He filed for divorce, left her and we moved in together. STBX's atty has done everything in her power to postpone/delay this process. It's finally scheduled for prove-up on 3/18 - with my partner agreeing to practically everything she wants, just to get this done: *He's assuming $15K of marital debt *He's giving her 55% of his 401K (law is usually 50%) *He's coming into court with 4 months of maintenance payments (Jan/Feb/Mar/April) - the problem: the law changed, reducing the amount of maintenance she'd be entitled to, and since this is considered 'temporary' maintenance, there was a question as to the amount he'd have to pay. Once the permanent order is in place, the amount goes down again. Part of the problem has been actually affording the maintenance payments. He's still paying her health insurance, and her car insurance, and really can't afford to pay for her maintenance until she's off his health insurance. *He's coming into court with her portion of their tax refund But here's where (IMO) it goes from bad to worse: STBX's atty filed a dissipation claim against him, because we're living together. He and I split expenses down the middle, STBX's atty was threatening draw this out further...but she'd drop the dissipation claim for $5K. He agreed, because this has been dragging on for so long... So, now STBX's atty is threatening to call off the prove-up unless he has all that money at the prove-up. She's already getting close to $10K when they walk into court on 3/18. (He doesn't have the $5k for the dissipation. He's already borrowed from his 401k to pay his legal fees, and get her 4 months of maintenance payments ready.) I feel badly for him - he looks at my divorce, and it was quick (45 days) and easy (we didn't want anything from each other - although I got the shaft, being that all of the household debt was in my name). Ugh.",3.5329527976664035,5.55538734367542,4.4947513922036615,83.56758983028375,74.1312649164678,7.9013789445770355,27.39067886502254,8.680891452615391,2.147800265181649,1703,66,325,34,36,552,199,419,0.093,0.868,0.039,-0.9619,6,0,0,0,3,0,85.0,2,0,4,2,13,6,0,0,20,1,30,3,0,0,3,40,42,18,0,5,3,1,1,0,3,0,3,0,0,3,11,23,0,0,3,0,12,5,4,5,0,0,12,2,39,1,59,25,9,49,0,0,1,0,57,23,0,2,19,187,50,7,0.0,0.0,0.12477724829128195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822031770924461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10522153895760313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21352293217358267,0.15588995105678727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305638888375942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13526362277832688,0.22028778548740385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246198552058967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2616994304008464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298326269637267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465210251106651,0.0,0.0,0.14006924351503588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20041167669620716,0.1226592215086868,0.0,0.0,0.10226487291225912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2718278399694953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334572546205653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892508765020414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11290664266944025,0.1131560053040676,0.10737392570354387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20412035143249124,0.13589966370251302,0.09399507530831087,0.0,0.09861693834013606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361714550306444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13846472768696205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1335911247257016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446980002761033,0.0,0.0,0.14323743539905845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819132341040134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10577078567450564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021127065591878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0868115611827261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408246155645555,0.0,0.2262532778231319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09308683481891772,0.0,0.1303047876218829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16468101368383645 divorce,moon_mama,2019/03/06,"Divorce podcasts - let's hear your favorites Recently someone posted asking about music that helped them through this time, I'm looking for podcasts of a similar variety hit me with your favorites or other forms of entertainment that were empowering/inspiring/comforting during your divorce. I need to rediscover my will to live cause this shit is rough. 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We have two children, ages 15 and 12. She suffers from some complex mental issues, which have been at the root of a very toxic relationship. I have learned recently that some of her behavior has been directed at the children as well. She is woefully underemployed and will barely be able to take care of herself alone. She suggested that I take full custody of the children, but quickly backtracked on this. It is not what I really want either, but it honestly might be best for everyone. It would likely be easier on the kids if they caught the bus to school and came home to my house. What are some creative living arrangements/custody agreements that you have come up with that are worth considering? My STBXW's mental issues and current earnings are greatly limiting our options.",7.736842105263157,9.176192684210527,7.106421052631582,71.18594736842105,62.94736842105264,10.290526315789474,37.56842105263158,10.355215969177356,4.302558421052631,696,34,107,16,10,216,102,152,0.042,0.79,0.16699999999999998,0.9716,2,1,0,0,1,0,15.0,2,1,1,3,2,8,0,0,6,0,18,0,0,1,0,24,25,8,0,3,5,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,1,4,11,8,0,1,2,0,1,3,1,1,1,1,4,0,16,7,17,15,6,14,0,1,0,0,16,6,0,6,6,85,27,4,0.18133019555721425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878033962715912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902948530532564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2073934368021681,0.18487821939460716,0.0,0.0,0.15619990739974185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17326877258973306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19991718075365392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18188897090432385,0.0,0.0,0.2092306998149411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3785232261958175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885887742072884,0.0,0.16011788480020595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.365476375609026,0.19236268211301288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11616476649897488,0.0,0.1790416922749591,0.19468076909715987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835158386610159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27267548047549794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713325275146885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1496164017690466,0.10695324744301228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16303762268696734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881176830637195,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,rexxyrex,2019/03/06,"Do people ever really change? Hi there. I'm a 32F and my husband is 31M, married for 2 1/2 years, no kids and don't own a house. I told him I don't want to be married about 3 months ago and he promised he'd change. Told me I made a commitment and I need to honor it. We've been together for 8 years and continue to have conflict around the same issue. Each time, I say I wanna breakup and he promises to change and I believe him. I feel foolish but he convinced me that I wasn't being patient enough with him and he's making progress. Friends, family, society, etc. also tell me marriage is hard work and misery and I shouldn't divorce unless he's cheating or beating. My inner guide tells me, I deserve to feel valued and cherished. I know it's high expectations but lowering my expectations haven't worked either and cause me a lot of suffering. I believe he should also be valued for who he is but right now all I see are the ways he doesn't change to meet my needs. I believe it's toxic. My needs aren't meet and he isn't appreciated for what he DOES bring to the table (which just honestly isn't enough for me). Basically, we aren't a good fit. He doesn't ever want to get divorced and I desperately want to be free of him (no longer even sexually attracted to him). &#x200B; Anyways, looking for advice on how to start the divorce process. He's graduating in May so I don't want to serve him papers until he's done with his studies. 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My Mom is devastated. He doesn’t want marriage counseling. Not only that, there is a rumor that he has cheated on my mom. Tbh though, I’m not that upset about it. We haven’t ever had a good relationship. Owning a business has done a number on him. He took a lot of that frustration home. He also is our main source of income. Any advice would be appreciated, or some comforting. TL;DR: My Dad may have cheated on my Mom, my Mom is devastated. Any advice or comfort would be nice.",0.8766208791208783,3.2343887500000044,3.2575000000000003,87.05288461538464,85.60714285714286,5.946153846153848,19.32967032967033,7.321109707123232,0.5660280219780223,428,12,89,7,13,147,70,112,0.13699999999999998,0.687,0.177,0.2924,1,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,2,0,0,0,5,9,3,1,6,0,17,1,0,0,1,12,22,4,0,3,4,7,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,4,0,11,5,7,13,4,7,0,0,0,1,21,3,0,5,3,59,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653443048139414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857463051808992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18465550904620576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893909406511595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228110712628948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11387681622193355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13618764067418426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542617219366952,0.1225370605859602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7950565991913916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10325864246037016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12960712408503544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14576537816536506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333926114967329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12973334899959324,0.1508446467212956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008022894014744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1928931779590099,0.0,0.0,0.0874309539608505 divorce,redux2019,2019/03/06,"Question: What to Expect during Ohio Joint Dissolution Hearing Throwaway, for reasons. My spouse (44M) and I (43F) filed for an amicable Joint Dissolution in Hamilton County, Ohio after 12 years of marriage, children involved. My attorney filed the paperwork, we have a hearing tomorrow before a magistrate judge. My attorney says it should only take a few minutes, the judge will ask a few questions, that’s it. What sort of questions will be asked? Do we have to have lived apart for a full 30 days? How long will it take for the dissolution to be finalized after the hearing? My attorney is really pricey, so wondering if anyone here could give me some info/experience so I don’t need to take her time and my $. 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Divorce took 41/2 years. My daughter 16.5 asked To leave with my ex as soon as she turned 16. Met with ex and was assured that this is the best for her and why not and nothing would change and she never wants to deal with court and attorneys ... , little that I know it was nothing more than than settling a trap to extort more money. 3 mo later ex sends me a letter demanding me to pay $700/mo more in child support or go to court. My attorney estimated that my support should be at Around 1400/mo . I volunteerly have been paying 2800/mo. Here is what I’m afraid of and need advise: I own 2 small businesses and have a 3rd start up. If I choose to fight in court, could she request full audit on my personal and business financials for say last 2-3 years? I have nothing to hide, but last time while assets division was going through, I had to produce 6000 pages with bank and transaction statements which triggered cost over $150k in attny and expert fees. My other kid 13, is 30/70 custody split. 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Dad has been cheating and lying to her for years, repeatedly. One day when she found out for the nth time, she finally snapped and moved out of the house, airing all the dirty laundry, vowing never to forgive him again (they are not officially divorced yet). However after a few months, she was now struggling with her loneliness and depression, while dad bragged how good life is at every chance he got. My mom has been married for 40 years. Everything she did reminded her of the fact that she’s now alone. Her friends are all happy with their family. She’s told me that she couldn’t sleep because the empty bed reminded her of how lonely she is. She did try to go out and date, but the problem is ... she has no sexual drive, yet almost all men she met sort of expected that (if they are to be together). Honestly I think she just really needs a companion rather than a lover. Now she actually tried to get back together with my dad, even asked me and my brother to help. She would ask us to take “family photo” whenever we met, and ask us to tag him on FB so that the mistress will see. I didn’t have the heart to tell her, that dad has a separate FB account he hid from her, just for the mistress. It’s heartbreaking when she actually cried and blamed herself, calling herself “stupid” for thinking she could leave my dad. She actually said “I knew it’s my fault”, even though my dad is the one who was cheating. I don’t know how to help her. She couldn’t enjoy the single life. Also, she kept thinking that everyone is looking down on her behind her back because she was “dumped”, and that doesn’t help her mental state either. How do I help her? Any of you went through the same thing?",4.085323529411767,5.387421591176473,4.70694117647059,85.53923529411766,71.32352941176471,8.381176470588235,26.835294117647056,8.841846274778883,1.8646258823529411,1351,45,278,25,25,432,178,340,0.147,0.7559999999999999,0.097,-0.9327,1,3,0,0,1,0,43.0,3,1,3,0,24,17,4,1,16,0,31,5,2,5,5,50,53,21,0,9,7,10,0,0,3,2,2,1,1,1,12,15,0,1,7,0,1,4,8,10,0,2,17,3,58,7,37,30,7,34,0,3,2,1,76,8,0,3,21,200,70,0,0.0,0.0,0.29157752411349946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09973221712753053,0.10315267064759134,0.0,0.07964785133591322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0677295168433437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793298348224523,0.0,0.0,0.1531682105237842,0.0,0.12142706726257255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10169988510786268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07952026637108776,0.0,0.10940285637575596,0.06423195975452177,0.0,0.08578292939727522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13156603325583033,0.0,0.08391494341853331,0.09516940048631474,0.08951154857727796,0.0,0.1877827677486055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10910387320297643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1092031979450478,0.07694855591826477,0.0,0.05203543051027162,0.0,0.056603388583087215,0.0835374127986601,0.07965698569750541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10602308002743648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180231711430622,0.33378954585957593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11492180597290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05473602088099989,0.0,0.0,0.10545906267873152,0.0,0.0,0.14069690704402527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08363657060807722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037056025374994,0.0,0.0,0.34994113918065994,0.0794975412944487,0.10585607021811663,0.0,0.07385006781619922,0.07681550686159706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497929161222064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530107725712103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06380452184258882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473975243643228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07936607996351468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966913601484663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041206267807938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488470546743124,0.0,0.08705234980603936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616795950868111,0.19145360817881787,0.09785375127784428,0.0,0.0580759329839705,0.0,0.0,0.09516940048631474,0.0,0.13523993313801044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23960635653250986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09232760973254317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07075099905235835,0.0,0.0,0.1282746731902653 divorce,pixelatedtacos,2019/03/06,"Motion to modify - is it worth it? I left my ex five years ago, the divorce has been final for three. Three kids, now all grade school aged. Joint legal and physical. We split time 50/50, but I'm the residential parent so they attend school near me. I have since remarried, gone to grad school, and otherwise moved on with my life. My ex has not. I left him because of physical and (mostly) emotional abuse. He was abusive to the kids as well, though to a lesser extent back then. The problem is he is so filled with hate and resentment that we cannot coparent. At all. There's a court order requiring us to check our messaging site daily and respond within 48 hours. He logs in every few weeks and either ignores my messages, or responds with the most incredible stream of vitriol imaginable. We have a court appointed parenting coordinator, whom he will not speak to. I filed a motion to compel him to talk to the PC because there are simply decisions that need to be made. The judge said, in so many words,"" I can't force him to talk to her if he doesn't want to. I can put him in jail for contempt, but what will that accomplish? The correct avenue is a motion to modify legal custody"". The problem is, he already takes out all his angst on the kids. Our oldest, a 9 yo girl, essentially functions as his therapist. He'll go into her room at night and talk shit about me, my family, my husband, our town, etc, and won't leave until she agrees with what he says. He badgers them constantly, and has always been a person to take out any stress on those around him. I have no reason to think this would be any different. I think that at least during litigation, given his personality, things would only be worse for the kids. And of course, it will cost a small fortune. Those of you who have been through this - is it worth it? What do you wish you had known? FWIW, my attorney believes I have a high probability of winning. My concern is the extent to which my ex will punish the kids for it. Also, to the extent that it matters, I believe my ex is a narcissist and his behavior is consistent with that. 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I've been doing a lot of self-discovering and focusing on myself throughout this process... traveling, going back for 2 more degrees, volunteering, etc. I'm thrilled with who I am becoming and am not looking for a relationship for quite a while, but I keep having this horrible, nagging thought that maybe I'm leaving the one person that will ever love me. (We are divorcing due to his repeated infidelity) I've tried to discuss my fears with friends/family/therapist and always get the same response- ""Oh that's silly. You'll find someone."" While I know the fear is probably irrational, it makes it worse feeling like I'm not being heard, not being understood. Have any of you dealt with this feeling? How did you overcome it?",6.6930188679245255,7.521873553459122,7.234899371069187,71.51159433962269,65.0377358490566,10.888301886792457,36.654716981132076,10.793553405168565,4.259706415094341,681,33,117,18,10,224,110,159,0.16899999999999998,0.725,0.105,-0.9319,0,0,0,0,0,0,30.0,1,3,0,1,4,8,1,2,6,0,13,2,0,2,2,26,33,8,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,11,8,0,1,7,1,0,3,5,3,0,1,5,4,12,5,12,24,4,14,0,0,1,2,14,1,0,1,11,74,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334487688246689,0.0,0.0,0.10906370437842754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12332209951664888,0.0,0.0,0.17712679242555548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1788657742668295,0.0,0.1450726321656914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3609435302938643,0.16218560335508092,0.11457529889043452,0.0,0.0,0.2931683040044953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08379178052462685,0.0,0.1822949735053304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425528577651143,0.0,0.0,0.08814049587899134,0.0,0.0,0.1698189588835019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835342659605181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1346785661135464,0.0,0.0,0.13634909661442907,0.28949790494048044,0.0,0.1070547036822515,0.0,0.16112297803530062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1280135566684127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236947216294168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10867744407253642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14003737910839842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1729164561523925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17058356612272926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17218779114636684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731101799635667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2717784204563797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18621320785977985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273235773984779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888729741006453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634406289949606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327927680645647 divorce,sofullofsoulful,2019/03/06,"I really Hope I am not attacked for this. I met my husband at 18, we started out as friends. I had my first long term relationship at 18 also, in which I became pregnant from and had a gorgeous genius lovely daughter. Her bio-dad was mentally and physically abusive and got me to the point where he said no one else would ever love me for being a single mom, then he left. Enter in this wonderful male friend that was Superman to me to save my confidence and worth and going it alone. So much love yet he also dumped me five times cold turkey and cheated and said horrible things. But we were young. We all can be buttholes when we’re young. Now it seems we have grown so far apart (12 years later, 8 years married) and that there is this impossible romantic distance between us. We even had this on our honeymoon, the first real time I questioned it all. We are an amazing parenting team and I love him so much. He is seriously perfectly himself as am I. He’s a great man. But the more I work on myself spiritually, the more I feel stuck in this energy and the more I feel he is also withholding truths. It’s as if I am now searching for a spiritual partner and I wish the same for him. I want someone to see me as I am and appreciate it and encourage it. My arts and creativity that others have loved and paid for (I mostly make dreamcatchers with crystals) him because he thinks they’re too weird and a waste of time. I try to discuss books and concepts and my faults and plans for growth and it’s as if I’m met with nothing. I just feel like the more I know, love, and grow myself, the more he becomes insecure or wants to stop me. What do you all think of wanting a divorce mostly because you feel you can succeed more on your own and can feel more lovable and confident without depending on someone? My “love language” is words of affirmation but he has admitted to purposefully not giving me compliments without knowing why but our therapist thinks it’s because he doesn’t want me to be confident. He has minutely admitted this by saying “I’m afraid of you know how gorgeous you are, you’ll leave me.” But he doesn’t go on dates anywhere except restaurants (which he rushes) because he doesn’t like people or spending money and doesn’t seem to “get” nature. I just do so much alone with myself or with my friends and their spouses or alone with the kids while having fun that it is starting to constantly remind me that I’m tired of being alone while technically not being alone. Sorry for the essay, I just need to find somewhere to release and get advice on it all. 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I have dated many women but none feel like they fit. I believe I’ll be single forever, and I don’t even care anymore. Yes, I’ve lost my mind. 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I’ve never felt more anxious and worried. I don’t know where I’m going to live. I don’t have a home anymore. ,-0.18049999999999847,1.5259539500000017,2.765000000000004,93.05,84.5,4.0,22.5,3.1291,-0.1160000000000001,138,5,31,0,4,49,30,40,0.076,0.8640000000000001,0.06,-0.1298,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,1,5,10,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,5,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,18,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962362617654155,0.3478397419980712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367653149329286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324712561451328,0.0,0.19933357245587907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3518207251935924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19275748073304164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097097645162025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2799572482205789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2705122393910239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3561934017783655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jayjun150530,2019/03/06,"I am finally free I was with my ex-husband for eight years total. married for three. we divorced two months ago. I am sober eight years and doing very well in my career and school. just got accepted into grad school. they are allowing me to defer a year and I am going to use that time to do therapy and enjoy myself. we separated and he went on a meth binge in june of '18. one month before my entrance exam. I found him in the car with a prostitute her bra on the floor and a pillow in the backseat. he begged me to get him to a planned parenthood to get antivirals... after all of this he ended up making me believe that he didn't do anything wrong and it was my fault for not trusting him. when I did finally leave him. he tried every possible method to harass and emotionally torture me - so that I would respond. emotionally abusive emails and texts. he sent my family emails detailing undisclosed trauma I had suffered, at one point he texted me AS MY NEW BOYFRIEND WAS LEAVING MY PARENTS HOUSE - saying he knew I was dating. after I changed my number and blocked him he got engaged to a man and sent me pictures of them in bed together, made a new facebook account and sent them to me. it wasn't until after all of this did I realize how toxic the last eight years of my life had been. it took all of that for me to realize how fucked up this relationship was. I was expected to be a masturbation tool, a perfect housewife, breadwinner, and perfect student... so that he could do god knows what with his time. I wasn't allowed to eat chips around him because he thought I chewed too loud. If I wore makeup I looked ""like a clown."" if I didn't take enough care of myself I looked ""like a homeless lady"". I wasn't allowed to give him hugs or touch him unless he was wanting something in return. when I would have panic attacks he would tell me that I need to grow up and leave me on my own. however, I was expected to stay up endless nights comforting him if he couldn't sleep. he actively tried to alienate me from my family. there was a time when I thought that leaving him would destroy me. that he was a part of me and that he needed me. these past few months, although an adjustment, are quieter. I no longer have the extreme highs and lows. I live a much simpler life focused around my own emotional and physical health. his chaos no longer controls me. and I no longer feel the need to please someone that can never be pleased. the hardest part about it has been realizing how madly in love I was with someone so emotionally abusive. all the guilt and shame I feel for staying as long as I did. he was my world and that's the way he wanted it. I was a loving and devoted wife and I struggle with the thought of ever giving myself to someone like that again. but I don't have to. I get to learn a new way of loving. centered around mutual respect and growth. I am no longer bound by the rules he imposed",3.330770080247369,5.027876837370243,4.313436648752116,86.04124088934702,73.87889273356402,7.202885960391666,27.52278583523522,7.915984808538092,1.6808409335198409,2284,88,456,33,47,740,268,578,0.098,0.8079999999999999,0.094,0.5341,5,0,3,0,1,0,60.0,2,0,3,4,19,34,6,4,28,0,49,11,1,10,9,90,87,43,0,16,8,2,3,3,0,4,3,2,2,1,22,34,2,3,14,0,2,9,13,15,1,7,39,7,83,20,70,40,12,72,0,2,2,5,56,25,1,4,37,321,105,7,0.0,0.16642285191794168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062254926939637426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05779355608731977,0.18755958043911386,0.0,0.07989710944458805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042811741393937126,0.0,0.059760815899494,0.07912550274068754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160447541473985,0.0,0.07429434930393053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07876925761052693,0.05607318296001277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186313388852879,0.0,0.31599855651878783,0.062203203783175474,0.07256667765638407,0.0,0.0,0.06352733062439607,0.05917206003094243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13241376033083208,0.0,0.07102110365715154,0.0,0.0,0.15386773015088548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07700390325173145,0.0,0.06492678426527028,0.11007730539241573,0.13474261388147166,0.0399135001556048,0.0,0.11233917935373844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465152891226008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420217196532589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103634138173002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859673833385579,0.05724707117974096,0.0,0.2974550054337337,0.0,0.0,0.09921148118105354,0.1029329370250213,0.0,0.062014645008913,0.062151608919089475,0.11795153461809485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901567736899437,0.06645361163331354,0.04687927319021585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681714755735098,0.0,0.05162735415751285,0.1562246413364389,0.054165939916701634,0.20348659537340288,0.0,0.06590638266443552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09517974297350723,0.0,0.0,0.08240012964427673,0.07798244126772688,0.15210515042773312,0.06704277178237439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418356780169476,0.06639033761127484,0.07917411533281994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07540106341454117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055849956487025634,0.0,0.142153633896383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07028102337014899,0.0,0.17851772572640712,0.05406671907257152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14971231900342166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734199622539669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052804448252057615,0.0,0.06138438112108535,0.0,0.08031447312371147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16726504944990306,0.12285556491675542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07802845172379202,0.09536353259883856,0.0,0.06860480203297235,0.0,0.0,0.06065643350334912,0.0,0.057947355817220936,0.08284730567113145,0.11149109254405212,0.0,0.0,0.06314547751268056,0.06510419530832781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1995583714950432,0.0767858123600017,0.0,0.1809040524428817 divorce,InfamousCase,2019/03/07,"How to survive a passive aggressive abuser until you are able to divorce? I have been married for 4 years to a man that I didn't live with prior to getting married to (dated for a year) and yes, I am aware it was a mistake and will never do it again. After the marriage, I came to realize he is the most unreliable and toxic person on the planet. His mother is also an abuser and narcissist and raised him to be extremely passive aggressive. I will list some examples: 1. He has refusal to work syndrome. Can't hold down a job, won't search for a job and on purpose under performed in 3 jobs and got fired. How did I know this before? Said mother supported him financially behind the scenes and stopped 6 months into the marriage because hey, he is my problem now. 2. His daily life consists of waking up any time he wants, writing answers on his Quora, playing League of Legends and talking about his delusions of grandeur about how he is going to make it big as a gamer. He is 31. 3. He hates all kinds of housework and will do them wrong on purpose. If you ask him for example to please bring you a soda, he will either not bring it at all, or bring it 2 hour later or bring you water or bring it and shake it so it will be spilled on you. It's like that with EVERYTHING. He is also gaslighting. I have 2 cats and I was sure I bought cat food and he made me feel insane because he swore I didn't bring any and I had to go out at 3 am to the 24/7 convenience store to buy overpriced cat food (cats are priority, I would never let them stay hungry) and the next day...I found the cat food HIDDEN in one drawer. When I confronted him about it, he said ""I stored it from the future"". He tries to be extremely controlling with money although I am making 98% of it and feels entitled to ""give me financial advice because he has done a lot of research on finances and knows better"". I have tried every technique against passive aggressive people I could find and nothing works. I deeply hate him and won't go to couples therapy because we are not a couple, just an exploiter parasite and the sucker me who married him. I have opened a secret bank account and save money every month and I have seen a lawyer for the practical divorce part. I am in Europe so American law advice won't help (I am saying it so that the kind people who may want to offer advice won't waste time). I am 100% going to get rid of that parasite once and for all. My question is: how do you survive until then? I need a good 8-10 months to save the money for the divorce. Has anyone been in a similar situation/dealing with one? Any support would be much appreciated.",3.9420283631279314,5.083097277039852,5.178836013182863,82.63407445321084,71.48576850094877,7.59670428443024,28.479426745231198,7.94452939551167,1.8420352941176468,2063,77,401,27,38,686,261,527,0.076,0.826,0.097,0.8782,3,0,0,0,5,0,60.0,1,6,2,7,16,22,7,1,30,1,55,7,1,8,6,83,90,42,0,9,8,2,3,1,0,12,1,3,0,2,20,32,5,4,10,1,10,12,11,11,0,2,17,7,48,11,64,55,9,55,0,0,1,0,57,19,0,9,24,274,68,8,0.08406167211008632,0.19919867116821136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464322792782325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13444817763158082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17149445889726853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058777875670602074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07858631593131978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.204972860344307,0.0,0.07153029153097906,0.0,0.0,0.07434571778204603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614415860896676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428231318052484,0.06711640501939,0.1860252826225072,0.0,0.054212824262382685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08602427615779581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14165116860587385,0.0,0.07554921056463773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500821437899657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07683084540302458,0.0,0.30494312276694674,0.09216928460085322,0.0,0.0,0.08783750831990429,0.08063961567055362,0.19109674184862416,0.07050694228692067,0.06723179836632627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16598699573395873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05634476687139171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08278381409406713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502547159214044,0.0,0.0,0.17507459148806453,0.09239619317811207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595875508509747,0.059375245010343726,0.04106828687391925,0.0,0.0742279965544326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07146622755415354,0.0,0.079541186676764,0.11222363776612837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2012916740494156,0.0,0.06179500126087245,0.0623306647280493,0.1296670875380056,0.0,0.08940054194795452,0.0,0.0,0.08065944154546187,0.0,0.0,0.08952293732105229,0.11392472910993633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09103059914507708,0.0,0.11655555817905552,0.07339940967668271,0.0,0.0922744727305094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08043566743255637,0.0,0.0,0.09416831118072767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15992380021182134,0.06684921565040522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959855770798103,0.0,0.07027932191654293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19078437866928494,0.07922713113473058,0.0,0.0,0.0675655878425415,0.0,0.0,0.0961318481052516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09803407402690258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141447148193421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916350434670597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239579693165135,0.0,0.0,0.11943000003961393,0.09190824223001418,0.0,0.10826592153743016 divorce,Cristinalyn84,2019/03/07,"What is the likelihood of my STBXH (45) getting awarded alimony from me (34)? Him: filed Oct 2018, makes 35k per year, asking for alimony Me: lost 100k job due to budget cuts, getting unemployment and have 4 month severance (about 18k to my name that is running out quickly due to insane lawyer bills. We: married 10 years, 5 y/o daughter that we agree on 50/50 custody. Issue: He thinks I’m hiding money (I’m not and he knows that) but wants to drag this divorce out as long as possible so that I’m forced to get a job. What’s the likelihood of him getting awarded alimony if I’m unemployed even though I used to make over 100k at my last job (was there for 8 years) Should I just get a lower paying job after unemployed runs out or will I still be on the hook for “potential earnings?” Or does it not matter and I should make as much as possible? I’m desperate to not pay my STBXH any more money than I have to. My lawyer has advised me to wait until unemployment runs out to get a job but that is coming up very quickly and I want to know what I should do next. 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Is it ? What are your experiences? My experience is it runs rabidly thru circles of friends,3.7513157894736833,6.441152421052637,5.5151315789473685,63.9821710526316,103.73684210526315,10.321052631578947,41.5921052631579,8.841846274778883,6.533936842105264,92,7,13,4,4,31,16,19,0.104,0.738,0.158,0.3049,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,11,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9300998817468826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36730669742659855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jjonez76,2019/03/07,"When would I need a lawyer? In Maryland you have to be separated for a year before you can get a divorce. Only exception is adultery which is grounds for immediate divorce. So when during that process should I get a lawyer? Before I ask, I mean tell my wife I’m separating (ignoring her pleas that I’d e guilty of abandonment) or should it be closer to the 1 year mark? 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Taking adultery partner (AP) inventories (10APs). Men call women pussy ""hole"" ""baby"" ""kiss to daddy"" &#x200B; [marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)0 points · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb996x1/) This sub is all about married for married level 4[mandy2648](https://www.reddit.com/user/mandy2648)Miss Mandy11 points · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb77h46/) 1 , if you want to be like OP don’t tell them you are married level 1[Riot4200](https://www.reddit.com/user/Riot4200)FREEEEEDOM!5 points · [2 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/aacal3/adventures_in_scoundreland_new_challengers/ecr00tx/) I was wondering, what reason do you give for needing a hotel? Being single as I am I feel like if I told a girl we needed to get a hotel instead of go to my place they'd assume I'm dwelling in moms basement. level 2[marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)3 points · [2 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/aacal3/adventures_in_scoundreland_new_challengers/ecsi71q/) I always say that my house is a several hour drive away and I'm also sharing it with some friends for rent reduction purposes. Usually the combination of the distance and lack of privacy is enough to justify not bringing her back. [marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)2 points · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb99ni0/) TMI time! AP1 gives great BJs. 2 is 50/50, they are good when she does them, but she won't to completion, tires easily, and sometimes just doesn't do it at all. 3 does but as I said her skills are lacking. 4 does, and it's quite good, also not to completion though. 5 same as 4. Up to now 6 did not, chalked it up to bad experiences in the past. 7 does not, I asked/she semi-offered, but ultimately she spent more time playing with the balls. 8 is a newbie so she does, but I still have to direct her. 9...I dunno. The first time she didn't, the second time she did but I more or less just presented it to her so I dunno. 10...did if asked, but I would put her in the no camp. This is actually probably one of the better lineups for BJs I've ever had. I used to not care...greatly prefer PIV, but my wife absolutely balks at BJs (we haven't had sex in over 3 years, but the last BJ I got from her is coming up on 5 years ago), and her aversion to it has caused me to appreciate it more. [marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)6 points · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb72ux2/) >All this only amounts to sex 3-4 times a week, when I could easily be having it every day. ## Taking AP Inventory [https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking\_ap\_inventory/](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/aacal3/adventures\_in\_scoundreland\_new\_challengers/](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/aacal3/adventures_in_scoundreland_new_challengers/) [marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)1 point · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb7055b/) And for completeness I'll go over the APs where things have ended/I failed. Chronological order. fAP1 - Couple of dates, sex once. I really liked her but I guess she didn't feel the same way. Will respond to texts but makes excuses if I try to invite her out. fAP2 - Couple of dates, sex once. Either I didn't do it for her, or she just wanted a one-time thing. Dunno which. fAP3 - Lasted for maybe 3 months, but she was up-front with me about wanting more and I was up-front with her about wanting less. Ended things amicably. fAP4 - Lasted for maybe 6 months. I was meh from the start, she showed interest and initiative, I pulled the trigger and continued to be meh. Things just faded out between us. fAP5 - Lasted for a year, she realized she wanted more, we ended amicably. fAP6 - Lasted 2-3 years, she wasn't awesome but not terrible either. Just kind of faded away. fAP7 - Had the feels with this one. Ended when she gave birth to her husband's child. Maybe we can pick things up again when things settle down for her, but I won't hold my breath. fAP8 - Met up a couple of times, had some really good car sex, but just kind of naturally came to an end. fAP9 - Met up once, I wasn't feeling it, and she had a lot of issues she was dealing with. fAP10 - Met up once, I thought she was pretty, but I couldn't get her out for a second date, and then communications went slow burn into oblivion. And I believe that takes us back to the start of the year. [marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)1 point · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb9a909/) I have dating site profiles and what not which I do use/upkeep, and they do produce from time to time (AP4 is from CL, AP7 from OKC), but mostly I just hang out online for things that are relevant to where I live. There are meetup and interest groups, but not necessarily. I participate in these things out of my own interest, interact with people, and from there some may be women, we'll have a good vibe going, I'll invite her out and we'll go from there. My meets are 99% on weekday nights. Couple of hours after work. level 2[marriedscoundrel](https://www.reddit.com/user/marriedscoundrel)1 point · [3 months ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/adultery/comments/a3klpy/taking_ap_inventory/eb99v1x/) AP2 is lazy about it, and she fully admits to that. AP3 knows her skills aren't great though I don't make a big deal out of it. AP6 also knows she's not good at it but seems open to learning, this is all a very new development though.",8.032511991634273,11.721535805496831,5.328682397872196,74.97612687262728,66.73784355179704,7.409197753983951,25.60544681624952,8.394325878192415,1.933852272158949,4896,146,726,79,93,1359,388,946,0.036000000000000004,0.865,0.099,0.9944,2,0,0,0,0,0,451.0,8,3,6,8,36,24,0,1,31,0,68,8,1,9,4,135,118,59,0,17,42,3,4,3,2,7,1,2,1,8,37,41,0,1,15,5,2,13,23,4,0,5,29,6,92,20,106,74,28,131,0,1,0,6,86,49,0,19,70,448,129,5,0.0,0.0,0.041050492131363414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3728910189252618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009208495763539,0.03500240481275745,0.04557865355884947,0.051114973938025145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03932616967407481,0.0,0.07904506116918346,0.0646925421292153,0.035123476303130306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047394143388132005,0.0,0.0372040892538188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04295424017410668,0.048112466525746835,0.04288924123692291,0.04321352143729566,0.0,0.03623626153253598,0.13231666685755664,0.0,0.0,0.0335863960592475,0.1861815696888994,0.0,0.02712918528101636,0.0867367025128156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18406184706285567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903248420234413,0.04346557566045662,0.0,0.0,0.0380512390113344,0.03544254381382363,0.0,0.0,0.041148764402625125,0.0,0.0,0.08507963308218162,0.03005206438865486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03578144382336938,0.0,0.0,0.03250020143541228,0.0,0.043955652011418864,0.1210610462163874,0.09562864482246074,0.176415444770238,0.03364414120593235,0.13913422934555422,0.04634060437361423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08285336399216227,0.04853868664420388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043906129167761536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761083922671846,0.046236909404642285,0.1714476247269444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06165418490563175,0.0,0.03714517918892389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03576313455407304,0.0,0.0,0.056158960601864635,0.0,0.12678329859839255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04926736388221819,0.3693447761745388,0.0,0.0,0.06238303114082552,0.0,0.040627747669402685,0.0,0.03947623006488859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919629803672574,0.08551533127534265,0.031993200969924133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040156897952419286,0.029163370257818986,0.0,0.0439501711207039,0.0,0.35789495980611835,0.0,0.0,0.042796395358772686,0.0453544221527102,0.0,0.0,0.04228809728011935,0.0,0.04474252620251823,0.0,0.0,0.05389730288316144,0.04325100603840088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04001453960222123,0.03345268913667096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038295441056882665,0.0,0.047522773353359096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04160449579605965,0.0,0.05954927184256127,0.0,0.033594079966684384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488552383133214,0.0,0.036767667311748735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2235750352364335,0.0,0.12398932987587595,0.03339582251347185,0.196232872521578,0.048348848707923636,0.0,0.040196006921534466,0.0,0.028560153057100707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012007926540357,0.07266329077975456,0.04632991873358188,0.034708977452755585,0.12405851932359828,0.033390150100210195,0.033742926368761965,0.0,0.0,0.038995740446969684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045618942859967516,0.0306246565988304,0.0,0.0,0.029882584455525975,0.0,0.051114973938025145,0.1354460999298541 divorce,TrulyWednesdayAddams,2019/03/07,"Hi. New here and looking for advice. Hi, I'll just get right to it without any of the drama. I want to divorce my husband. We do not share any bank accounts, or anything. We live in an apartment. We have an almost 4 year old. We got married after I had already given birth. (lot of pressure to marry) Finally being honest with myself and saying I cannot do this anymore. We live in his hometown. It is about 145 miles away from where I grew up and where I want to go back to. I sell on Ebay and Poshmark to make money. Before this I was a manager in a call center for 5 years. I do not have any form of financial support. My mother passes when I was younger and my father was not in the picture often. I need to know how I can maintain Mon-Fri custody. I want to move back home, I want to get at least a part time job, and I want the car I pay for to be mine. I am not asking to take anything from him that was his before we met. I will literally walk out of this with nothing. I would rather have nothing and work hard for happiness and continue this. I live in Maine and truly need some advice. Start here, or try looking into this. I don't want to have any kind of drama with my soon to be ex. He is very spiteful and I truly think he is a narcissist or some other kind of personality disorder. My daughter loves him very much, and I would not ever take my child away from her father. Regardless on the fact me and him cannot communicate without fighting. Even though we live together I do 99% of everything for our child. He can't even find her socks in her drawer. She is my whole world and I do this so me and her can live a happy life. (not to say that he is evil, but two very incompatible people together is just not healthy) He already knows a divorce is coming, but I think he thinks I will chicken out like I have before. (I won't) I honestly need this for my sanity. Everyday is a just... unbelievable and the lies I find out he has told me just, confuse me. I don't even bring them up anymore, there is no point because he will circle the conversation until he has won and I am yelling and look stupid. Now I just don't get involved. I was thinking the smartest way to do this, would be to write down and tell him I am moving back to my home town with Annabelle and I will meet him halfway every Friday or Saturday and he will have her until Sunday or Monday whichever he wants. Trouble is finding an apartment I can afford. I also don't know if this is an okay way to do this? :( I do not think me and him should be living in the same environment while we are divorcing. Also our current apartment is next to his grandparents and his moms so it would be even more awkward if he left and i stayed while we finalized things. What I know is that I need to be divorced and I need to get my life back. Any advice would be so helpful. 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I didn't know if this is the right place to post this so feel free to delete if I messed up. Oh and throwaway just in case. &#x200B; I am legally married but my spouse and I separated around 4 years ago -- well, it was more that he abandoned me than separation. Since we have separated, my spouse also legally (???) married another person in a different state. &#x200B; I will see a divorce attorney about this soon but until then, what can I expect? I don't even know where to begin with all of this to be frank so I am unsure of how to proceed. &#x200B; Any advice will be appreciated, thanks.",3.0186529680365304,5.605088856164386,4.0470958904109615,83.38306392694066,78.24657534246576,6.633059360730593,27.541552511415524,7.793537801064563,1.90138593607306,607,26,111,10,15,196,96,146,0.067,0.785,0.14800000000000002,0.9103,2,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,1,0,0,0,13,5,0,0,3,0,14,0,0,3,1,23,20,16,0,3,7,2,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,7,0,1,3,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,2,2,15,4,17,13,2,20,0,1,1,0,9,7,0,2,9,82,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20251149090833825,0.0918524068592358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286445159038931,0.0,0.4490866036784538,0.5036359841850457,0.07046479190048273,0.10865404755881178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224329564333213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826029039119997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06843968174161857,0.0,0.0,0.09901284274731878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052393116733024284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389310010172288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09891650755122404,0.0,0.0904765231788157,0.10826029039119997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2977164235119738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08849046000405628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08257130080407113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08571509518719052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09539888495800593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035081740836054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09316634645542543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5036359841850457,0.06672754047073047 divorce,starbuck_13,2019/03/07,"Asking for divorce after my father passes--is STBXH entitled to inheritance? I (32F) have been trying to make things work with my husband (46M) pretty much since we got engaged 5 years ago (married for 4, began dating 9 years ago). We've done therapy for over a year, and I've read tons of books about how to create a happy marriage, but it's been a struggle. I've thought for years about ending the marriage, and he has managed to convince me to stay with promises of growth. He changes his patterns for about a month and then goes right back to acting like a bachelor. &#x200B; My biggest issues with him are that he has his head in the clouds, has no retirement savings at 46, and is not on a career path. He doesn't know how to care for things around the house very well--even though I am the breadwinner, working more than full time, and he is working about 20 hours/week, I still have to pay a housecleaner to come once a month for our apartment to feel livable. He plays a lot of video games and prioritizes frivolous pursuits over things that would help our household and relationship. I have no sexual attraction to him, although I love him and consider him my best friend. I am reaching an age where I want to start thinking about buying a house and having a family, and I'm realizing that I don't want to do those things with my STBX. &#x200B; This past fall, my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and now he is dying. In the midst of being on full-time hospice care, the realization that I want a divorce has become crystal clear. Something about being around death can clarify our priorities, and I've realized I don't want to waste any more time in an unhappy, uneven relationship. I don't feel cared for in the ways I need to in order to keep growing. &#x200B; I told my husband that I'm deeply unhappy and not optimistic about the prospects of having my needs met in this relationship, letting him know that once my father passes, we will need to have some hard conversations. He is denial, saying we just need to do more counseling. He doesn't believe me when I say I'm truly done, and I don't have the emotional bandwidth right now to do the work to convince him. My sweet dad is leaving me enough inheritance to pay off my substantial student debt, my STBX's + my shared credit card debt, and to put a down payment on a modest house. I feel like this will be a fresh start for me to be able to clean the slate and leave my marriage. But I'm concerned that I'll have to share this inheritance with my husband. I feel so resentful if that's the case, because I've been footing the bill for his life unwillingly for so long already. After I pay off our shared debt, I am at least willing to give him $10k or so just to help him launch into his new life--but I don't feel responsible for giving him any more than that. I've already sacrificed so much! Will I owe him more than that? We otherwise don't have any shared assets aside from a car (which I've largely paid for and is in my name). &#x200B; TLDR: My dad is dying soon and leaving me an inheritance. I've also just made my mind up for certain that I want a divorce. Is there any way I can get out of sharing said inheritance with my husband? &#x200B; &#x200B;",6.185182083491945,6.180239763693272,6.398613543120586,79.94792919680245,66.0735524256651,9.349422662098716,32.137249925982324,8.994212911058018,2.527315323774479,2575,95,507,39,37,826,283,639,0.087,0.7240000000000001,0.189,0.9966,4,0,1,0,3,0,95.0,8,0,0,5,28,26,1,1,33,0,54,6,2,5,2,77,97,33,3,11,9,9,6,2,1,5,3,3,1,0,22,34,0,1,11,5,16,8,12,2,0,0,14,10,69,24,89,73,14,68,0,0,0,1,69,28,0,4,30,328,91,13,0.054392014468324125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09643047799962212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12004588101783364,0.04349727431902523,0.0,0.35360234971011345,0.3965535064900488,0.14795374008044768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09684084930707043,0.05084919114564882,0.0,0.0,0.041824101707456686,0.0,0.03315686717146447,0.06007170661671937,0.0,0.0612811742486108,0.05708106346388672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1663688513645801,0.0,0.057539539183745124,0.046853904266357764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05520674974243911,0.11290064725302774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1113238306103244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061183695311864565,0.048175180413716254,0.056201490847740856,0.0,0.03592541257302225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05127595047541432,0.0,0.13751118406179036,0.03885766600420913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04202313545300159,0.0,0.028417582612091038,0.10435555306415484,0.0,0.0,0.04350226277540215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05790131081693031,0.048724561283186106,0.0,0.05582189894105457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07291564152732008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828324565437912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05677113161592383,0.0,0.04834612162154958,0.0,0.0,0.059784857355447876,0.0,0.0,0.17277986920517335,0.0,0.055619519965589115,0.07683737676389624,0.05314638164489891,0.0,0.0,0.04813522118758976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046242145624125056,0.04909091666369037,0.05146703923381872,0.036307092018520594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05492042919263485,0.0,0.0868303740370581,0.0,0.07996877811923006,0.16132395811819816,0.0,0.05253214651160271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585144049089866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051923332394738765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05533623299646171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05467899771586816,0.0,0.0,0.05440673371991046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17519000368743445,0.0,0.09290096632606178,0.0517392614053596,0.08650942608163224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499363643976625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041873630091113584,0.0,0.0,0.07699789558968377,0.057974650335425884,0.04343753301543304,0.0,0.0,0.0568623432947641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06220200885559345,0.0,0.14454255011805994,0.0348522066180177,0.05343987805178695,0.04318118384087562,0.06343284209094667,0.0,0.0,0.051973900743055634,0.0,0.03692860743839188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487910832894268,0.16040909690959432,0.08634769869015661,0.0436299931307535,0.0,0.048904953225358636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15839213735482294,0.0,0.0,0.038638526495163486,0.0,0.3965535064900488,0.1401066960214265 divorce,livinthedream18,2019/03/07,How did you know it was time? I have lost all feelings for my so and have no interest in him or hearing about his day . of course their are many reasons I contemplate divorce but I feel I just don't really like him much . ,1.9313043478260887,3.6119188695652182,3.2602173913043515,92.17119565217396,77.69565217391305,7.208695652173913,24.54347826086957,8.07648339933343,1.2291043478260877,172,6,39,3,4,56,41,46,0.14,0.815,0.044,-0.5223,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,1,1,1,4,3,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,2,1,10,11,5,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,10,2,4,8,2,3,0,1,0,0,7,1,0,1,3,30,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306659781342423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36169491602714005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40311731893592573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656472952007867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17473829653703232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3904363772942699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626187536004142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629268001360423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22913098863019365,0.36774180683261576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2085588224149304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Steph83,2019/03/07,"Parenting Plan questions I'm in the process of finalizing my divorce (in Florida), which has dragged on forever because my ex got fired and quit paying child support. We have a 12 year old and a 9 year old. We had an agreement, but the judge wouldn't let us finalize an order if he was already violating it. Now we’re basically starting from scratch. Here are a few questions I need some advice with (I do have an attorney, but that costs money every time I contact them. So, I'd rather get my ducks in a row before I send her my stipulations). 1. One of our children is a cancer patient and repeated a year of school because he was out a lot for chemo. Due to his retention, he will be 18 the summer before his senior year of high school. Can child support continue past his 18th birthday until graduation? 2. Can we write in the agreement that the costs of a 4-year college degree or any tech/vocational programs will be split 50/50? 3. Currently, his child support is over $13k in arrears. He was found to be in contempt a few months ago and the amount is accruing interest. How is that usually addressed in the final order? 4. I currently have sole parental responsibility. He has therapeutic visitation only and once the therapist thinks it's appropriate, he can transition to supervised visits. He has not chosen to take advantage of therapeutic visits (he hasn't seen or spoken to them in over a year, actually). Since I have sole parental responsibility, do I have to include the standard stuff regarding if I can move away or change schools, etc? Or is the fact that I have sole parental responsibility enough to cover that? 5. His parents are jerks. When we split, they completely vanished. They live about 30 minutes away and saw them a few times a month prior to the split. Since the split (in September 2017) they have not seen or spoken to the kids. Can I stipulate that my ex can’t bring anyone with him to visitation? They haven’t sent birthday cards, Christmas gifts, anything. Before Christmas I asked them if they wanted me to reach out and see if they wanted to see them, but the kids asked me not to. 6. After he was fired, he changed careers entirely and is a truck driver. He reported to the judge at our contempt hearing that he currently brings in $800/month. I'm afraid to finalize anything right now before his income stabilizes because I'll be screwed out of child support (which he's already way behind on). Can I ask that child support be re-evaluated every quarter until his income is stable? What am I forgetting to address? 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My divorce was finalized last March (wow only 10 more days and it's been a year). We separated in December of 2017. We have one child together. I have primary custody and she sees her daughter every other weekend despite me telling her come spend time with her throughout the week and take her on mommy daughter dates to build a stronger relationship. She doesn't. Our daughter is almost 3. Now my Ex tells me she's pregnant for this guy. They have been ""official"" for only 4 months. Do I care she's pregnant? No. I do care that he lives 2 hours away and she already doesn't see her daughter often. I do care that when I called her last weekend on a Saturday night asking if she can bring our daughter to the doctor the next day (tested positive for flu) as I was working and I knew she was off was ""I'm 2 hours away what do you want me to do?"" I called into work to take her. And then didn't even ask about her daughter for 5 days! I pay everything for our daughter, my sister is always frustrated for me because I ""gave up everything"" in the divorce to have my daughter. You're damn right I did. I would do it again too. I'm mostly just pissed because I know she's going to see her daughter even less. I just want my daughter to not grow up asking why her mom never sees her or why she wasn't good enough for her mom. I'm so scared her mom is going to disappear out of her life for her new family and act like my daughter is a burden. I can see my ex moving away as she has no stable support here and no help. She's not married to the guy. I don't know him well enough to know if he will move here to be with his kid. Probably not. I'm just so upset for my daughter. My ex already cut her last weekend short because she was ""running a fever"" yeah no shit your pregnant a 99.8 is not a fever. Why would you not want your daughter? It's only going to get worse from ere as she gets further along then can't take care of 2 kids by herself and ask even more from me on her weekends knowing I won't leave my daughter somewhere I feel she isn't getting adequate care or just being sat in front of a damn screen to keep her occupied so you don't have to deep with her. Fuck. I'm just so pissed off.",1.464129676293851,3.3506226076759087,2.9333567551851125,93.01687560573757,79.85287846481876,5.713529753828262,23.23904826516767,6.680037744263671,0.5489057569296367,1749,59,386,17,44,571,207,469,0.127,0.79,0.083,-0.969,0,0,0,0,2,0,45.0,5,5,1,2,23,21,8,2,15,1,41,9,3,0,1,49,85,23,0,7,15,23,1,1,0,4,5,0,0,5,8,18,0,1,6,4,2,12,19,11,1,1,13,7,80,10,54,66,6,61,0,0,6,1,90,19,6,7,31,252,88,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07334809639457189,0.0,0.16166375322567045,0.0,0.060948872731106274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27391097535029657,0.0,0.20645898756078385,0.0,0.0,0.13395537306309566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959043709355674,0.0,0.3734101870523733,0.0,0.0,0.06309735871612615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171825648864672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749732546670058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137119025307005,0.0,0.14514043256193038,0.0,0.061715276528316286,0.0,0.13166260377182004,0.0,0.06905245339352896,0.0,0.03703679616068213,0.0,0.0,0.08024048436103605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771733894223304,0.1148084305030517,0.0,0.12488694992339512,0.06143762149270274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14505566415487078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049097129273485696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14427063409831192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510690253573423,0.0,0.0,0.16102250813099078,0.17912265483640868,0.0,0.07755990709751838,0.0,0.0,0.05173779645892656,0.03578566567311819,0.0,0.06468003587384108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2573643417174566,0.058466496483683114,0.1557037728817459,0.0,0.0,0.056493993256738824,0.07074415130332444,0.07790093399724432,0.0687390405030637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049635285254834766,0.16712704837919368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897459955582499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07864180284959071,0.0,0.06255407835414044,0.0,0.0,0.07333483111756964,0.0,0.2918490659933511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07518884464769579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08312187469217731,0.0,0.0,0.1652219539473586,0.0,0.1280453664593162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042711966638281855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12961212715374826,0.0,0.05875577223411772,0.0,0.06585947158455875,0.0,0.1982869573441715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.106652003338676,0.0,0.07464678905201226,0.10406769743960954,0.0,0.0,0.04716982819157926 divorce,Soap_opera,2019/03/07,"How to fight back to do not get divorce? Life is difficult as everyone knows, I had a very difficult time when I got married, I had LL and that plus some bull shit I did on Facebook commenting on random girls page made my marriage get destroyed, we are 5 years in and since that first 6 month of problem things were never the same, my SO is a very difficult person, once shit goes down she will make you pay back , she never let things go, and she never wanted the marriage after that I guess, putting together the stupidity of mine for not trying to celebrate our first Xmas and anniversary and I managed to do not celebrate her birthday in the first year, so yeah I’m not at all trying to play victim here, I know my part, but I have tried really hard to get things back, I have a really bad time remember dates, I went to therapy 6 times, I have tried to work on things but it always felt like I was tested, she never wanted to help participate anymore, she was just watching from far to see if I would do it and most of the times I didn’t, not because I didn’t want to, I felt like she didn’t want anymore and I didn’t know how to go about it, but putting all this together and the kind words that she tells me everytime we have an argument, like I’m not a man, I’m useless , I’m shit I’m garbage, I’m a liability, I bring her down instead of supporting, and a lot more, it’s hard to listen to all this and keep pushing it, I really don’t want the divorce because I love her, I don’t need her, it’s not an obligation, it’s just that I really love her and I really wish we were normal happy and have kids and shit, but since that first 6 month it’s only me in the marriage and she will never go to therapy as she says the problem is me ",3.1289835164835185,4.006032612637366,4.684835164835167,86.41016483516485,73.14835164835166,8.347252747252746,25.813186813186807,8.730908602173464,1.631898901098901,1357,43,300,25,26,457,157,364,0.155,0.726,0.119,-0.1979,0,0,0,0,3,0,32.0,4,1,0,5,14,24,8,0,17,1,29,7,4,4,8,69,65,27,0,12,14,0,4,3,0,3,1,2,0,4,20,18,0,1,6,1,1,8,18,15,0,4,16,8,49,9,35,45,10,41,0,1,2,2,36,10,4,6,26,206,69,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576750614332894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15677263086850773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233035064322287,0.06599499251260768,0.09636394599920442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07552598589414039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15178134650177358,0.0,0.0,0.268925102610427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12388521427996482,0.0,0.13476054401440313,0.0,0.06321540692089005,0.0,0.08707133121654663,0.0,0.0,0.08413941461948114,0.1416084025082063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05297876082728293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025427084407207,0.0,0.08230786481512456,0.1303147414978484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08082362532547091,0.05582819983343428,0.11584466856589215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671968735883095,0.14267314272991866,0.07478943899945642,0.052759729026388806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12617774519419744,0.0,0.0,0.05860706436802265,0.3048021138114916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744229385086257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417488523314788,0.0,0.06011338513996471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08559248015133697,0.0,0.0,0.0690145684514158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15126096791274268,0.0,0.15891380678199993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25317483308927063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953676828163844,0.0,0.0,0.06285567949048468,0.0,0.0,0.06298454550693096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245331754760008,0.13076519955181187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0896935112906979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06908433288332147,0.0,0.1807779664889763,0.0,0.2100423182644856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843551424269878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21465154199378714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043234600959627,0.2330988249348312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327075419900839,0.0,0.0,0.09089195328949608,0.0,0.0,0.057541968952568336,0.0,0.0,0.05614765806151266,0.0,0.0,0.10179817366125556 divorce,Emelia12,2019/03/07,"Please tell me what to do I’m F26 and husband M52 are going through pretty tough times. We’ve been married for 6 years, together for 7 years, he owns a house, no common property together, no kids. I got married very young and really wasn’t able to understand all of the aspects of my decision at the time. But even before we got married there was one big difference between us: I wanted to move from where we live right now, but he didn’t. Then after a year of conversations about it he said ok, we can move in 5 years and if you get a good job. So 6 years went by, I’m about to finish grad school and get a job but he says he doesn’t want to move. But I can’t live in this place any longer, I’m constantly depressed and very unhappy. It led me to really question our marriage. I realized I’m not attracted to him as a partner, only as a friend I also realized if I stay my dreams and plans for life will never become truth. I have 2 immigrant parents I need to take care of and my husband is the same age as my parents. He has no retirement savings so I’ll have to take care of him too. It’s 3 people. I’m afraid to have children because I don’t think I can provide emotional and financial care for 4 people. It breaks my heart but I don’t see any solution except divorce. I feel so much guilt and pain and I don’t know how I can possibly make this situation work. I also don’t know how to tell him and how to make the divorce process go easier. Please if you were in a similar situation give me some advice. Thank you.",2.7860527690700074,3.9074341504702232,4.5749412225705335,85.93643482236156,74.26645768025078,8.326071055381401,26.457810867293624,8.841846274778883,1.8456111807732496,1190,42,260,24,24,405,173,319,0.08900000000000001,0.7659999999999999,0.146,0.9615,4,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,5,3,0,2,15,15,0,2,11,1,22,3,1,6,3,48,53,31,0,6,10,4,1,0,2,1,2,2,0,3,7,14,0,0,9,1,0,7,13,5,0,1,9,4,34,10,36,43,5,33,0,1,1,0,35,8,0,5,16,154,41,5,0.09454128994582754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09238465435529153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120927082570204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12858263824426971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0576314928504485,0.10441342701324917,0.0804476744488698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28917343783935184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216554802287038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08142827449763207,0.0,0.0,0.09877552590555434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634622627931473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062443630369078025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780291684453341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07304236609233676,0.0,0.0987878438977031,0.09069262001172057,0.10745998756219112,0.07929674852543987,0.15122661216175373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203188378436907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10908795524092052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18763528462176415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1039148409717925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06677730900684663,0.0,0.0,0.1669633821977823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12621409032797515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3014472880627183,0.06949872617042474,0.07010116856649598,0.07291607109187326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06406362481510773,0.0719029111974874,0.10059859815891603,0.0,0.20995382855498526,0.0,0.0,0.13108605317977826,0.0,0.09877552590555434,0.20755589228795998,0.0,0.10658109932407901,0.0,0.0961824800821639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10590788152996862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113114241476375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0807377450489046,0.08993041647603786,0.07518302837444737,0.0,0.09568083274375838,0.07533716778475236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125367420477608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10076843596335994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216656846111406,0.0,0.16526650897737274,0.08704091775922737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060578241187311976,0.0,0.0,0.11025557289665244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09842081701127232,0.1137215312428258,0.0,0.0,0.15601293074032754,0.11152580458081764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764072294843518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882718506189131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044074553358265 divorce,Nobbie-tel,2019/03/07,"Divorce and finances in the UK First time posting on here so forgive me if this has been asked before. I separated with my wife in September 2017 and moved out of the house we shared a mortgage on in December 2018. Throughout the marriage my wife paid the mortgage whilst I paid all the bills. When I left I transferred the bills to her and allowed her to stay in the house until she was in a position to buy me out. From around January 2018 I've made no financial contributions but have continued to pay off a joint loan on my own. She's now in a position to get a mortgage on her own and buy me out of the house. Is it true in the UK I am not liable for any mortgage payments since I've left the house? I would add that since leaving I have had to rent somewhere else so I'm paying rent and bills on that property. My preference would have been to sell the house immediately but agreed to stay on the mortgage for her sake. Thanks for reading.",4.386258558195732,5.243037670157072,4.9672251308900535,85.61864277084173,70.2041884816754,8.39001208215868,29.87555376560612,8.617729084823388,2.0615014901329043,749,29,158,12,13,240,102,191,0.017,0.908,0.07400000000000001,0.8903,8,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,6,4,0,0,17,0,12,0,0,2,2,24,19,12,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,4,12,0,0,2,1,14,1,2,0,0,1,7,0,21,4,34,10,3,31,0,0,0,0,14,20,0,1,7,107,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08921148611356848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167840174704119,0.12264189894245793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163025879637467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095896930725212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11158737944147727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06853966044254861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7568594591787094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13890782252993752,0.2850695675461059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413207137360008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13943075011361955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12564063965178507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312222473618924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21703806447948548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2796552333466194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12077913055786316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07649604678142921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1863826013724435,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Marlostanfield23,2019/03/08,"Unsure as hell Hi all, Is it possible to fall out of love with somebody? The background. Married 18 years. We have always gotten along relatively chilled. Two gorgeous kids of 13 and 10. Her dad died 3 years ago and it’s taken me this long to realise just how much we all needed him. I emigrated to her country and he was such a rock. Without him here, it’s not the same. Since he’s been gone, my feelings toward wife and her family (mom, sister) are not the same. It may be the burden of being the only guy in the situation now. A couple of years ago (I’m 45,she’s 47) I became really frustrated with our lack of sex life and the business of home. Met somebody who made me feel alive again. The usual story. I’m now in a place where I think I’ve stopped loving my wife. She’s an awesome mom and is a supportive partner. I’ve just stopped loving her. We are like great housemates who cohabit well and raise the kids. I realise this sounds selfish but I want more out of life. I can see my kids growing up rapidly and think that I would still be a great dad living close by, without having to feign a love for their mother that isn’t there anymore. For her, family is everything, and as grumpy as I can be, wants to keep the four of us together no matter what. So to my original question- do couples sometimes hit a point and say ‘we had a great time but it’s time for a new path?’ This seems to have happened to a few people I know Thanks ",1.2708130348913755,3.4988806632653118,2.8386416502084733,91.60274851876235,82.50340136054422,5.562255870089972,21.72876892692561,6.828538100315305,0.5184583278472683,1121,36,237,13,31,367,172,294,0.066,0.767,0.16699999999999998,0.9859,0,0,0,0,0,0,35.0,6,0,1,0,13,16,2,0,21,0,21,7,0,3,2,52,47,17,1,5,8,8,2,1,1,2,2,2,1,5,13,20,0,3,7,1,0,3,6,4,1,2,8,5,30,12,34,32,8,30,1,0,1,5,40,10,1,3,18,157,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18734046408677146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08792604848293904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10479641658071692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2338440717240285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10966895576397527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09496953728500007,0.0,0.19923286823471045,0.0,0.10686002837965072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3495052142992977,0.0,0.10463008409913373,0.0934437844564046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10599579871848597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392450446436744,0.0,0.0,0.058073563227462835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14927593558350752,0.051625108619326,0.0,0.09330869818071473,0.09351477731177273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3814858248553664,0.0999876721058404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2475192575200239,0.0,0.0,0.07767973526672409,0.07835309387944897,0.0,0.102056910959173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803669277769362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325839241423507,0.0,0.11040283938959587,0.0,0.09989246851926437,0.1191272421256852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11837477682301036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0676950182673916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840331623684202,0.0,0.0,0.0842054462252106,0.09619815624256067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741145855992036,0.11877770116416785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045105024652274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438833616408675,0.17668999141711025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11991325937103202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728689749405467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541835937582036,0.0,0.0,0.12323425458605952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032244039407508,0.0,0.12710820655053182,0.0,0.11638076590939905,0.0,0.12465401098147025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501017544905713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20372455065493586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750650586348987,0.0,0.0,0.20414437944418196 divorce,WildflowerWanderer,2019/03/08,"Will he “wake up” one day? (Crosspost from MLC) My ex husband (38) left me in May of last year for a 20 year old girl. Ex is a high school teacher, and this girl was a student at the school where he teaches. They started at least an EA when she was 19 years old, and it progressed from there during a time when I was going through some really hard things with the sudden death of my dad and trying to care for my disabled mom. This girl is cray. She is on Borderline Personality Disorder support groups on Facebook, and she has multiple scars from self injury. She shaves her head, she calls herself queer, she wears ripped tights and crop tops, and she has a service dog she carts around everywhere. She dropped out of school and does not work and uses my ex as her meal ticket. She is not at all physically attractive, incidentally. My ex lived with this girl for a time in her childhood bedroom in her mom’s house. Why the mom allowed this, I have no idea. THEN he bought an old school bus to convert into their “new home”. The bus even had an Instagram page. My ex couldn’t drive this thing. He had his dad drive it and park it in the girl’s mom’s yard. Well, they ultimately decided the bus was too cold and not private enough (LOL) and got an apartment. In my opinion, all this crap is clear MLC behavior. I tried really hard before the divorce to get ex to see it and get help, but he absolutely refused. He’s basically a laughing stock, not personally or professionally respected by anyone. When he sees mutual friends out in public, he dodges them. He’s embarrassed (and should be). So. Is he gonna wake up from this one day and come crawling back, as some have suggested? I am in a new relationship and would not take him back, but it would be very traumatic for me if he became remorseful and regretted our divorce, because I did (and do) love him with my whole heart. He was not always this person. 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It’s been almost a year now and I can’t seem to shake the feeling of betrayal. I had planned to never give up, but sometimes life happens and you go with it. I never planned to be where I am now without her and it sucks I always wanted her to be proud of me and to be with me. Ya know a lot is said here about how someone was the wrong one when in reality they probably were the right person just at the wrong time. We all are never on the same page there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. It’s more true to say now that giving up or starting over is the better option.. a generation where when something breaks you just replace it and tadaaaa it’s all better. The truth is we are all still broken inside we miss that one person even if it’s in anger but there would be no anger if there were no love. Sometimes I wish she would just take a guess and know it’s me. I’ve accomplished a lot for myself since we parted and I should have done so before. Those of you who come here for answers should know that it’s all speculation and that you should only do what you truly feel don’t always think that the grass is greener somewhere else. 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Happy Friday! Are willing to date someone who cheated on his and her spouse (does it matter if it’s emotional or physical cheating)? Would love to know your thoughts?! 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I have her half of the time, my ex has her the other half of the time. Joint legal and joint physical custody. I am worried my ex is going to alienate me to my daughter. She is vindictive and would love nothing more than to have our daughter hate me. How do I avoid or curve the situation if she does this to our daughter. I would never tell our daughter bad things about her Mother even though there are plenty of truths I could tell. I went through that growing up an my job is to give my daughter a better life than I. What do I do? I love my daughter with all my heart and her resentment would kill me. 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I am so happy and sad and angry and confused and uncertain and confident and joyous and relieved and... Uuuugggghhhhhhhhh ",5.0076344086021525,7.890076645161294,8.99483870967742,48.97892473118282,72.87096774193549,9.29462365591398,32.913978494623656,9.725611199111238,4.168539784946237,140,7,20,4,3,54,23,31,0.244,0.4370000000000001,0.32,0.6681,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,10,1,10,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,1,0,2,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,15,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7468362138574284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6650080222607104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BlueGlassMan,2019/03/08,"Long time lurker. Going to become an official member soon. I'm a 40/m, married for 16 years with two children. My wife and I have been separated for the past 5 months and she told me tonight that she wants a divorce. We had grown distant over the years (I struggle with depression and attachment issues) and she has had enough. I had been holding on to hope but always knew in the back of my mind that this is where we were probably going to end up. Reading the posts here have been encouraging, as much as they can be when it comes to a tough time like this. &#x200B; I am going to continue to search this sub for help, tips, and strategies in regards to the divorce process.",5.757913533834586,5.983123390977442,5.799013157894738,83.09746710526319,66.96992481203007,8.755263157894738,31.66259398496241,8.472884824447931,2.242745112781955,533,20,107,7,8,168,91,133,0.042,0.8490000000000001,0.109,0.8807,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,2,0,1,0,5,6,0,1,9,0,14,0,0,0,0,16,23,9,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,6,10,0,1,1,1,0,5,0,3,0,1,9,0,13,3,20,13,2,25,0,1,0,0,13,6,0,1,14,76,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15468496604991205,0.2014242311654448,0.2258907080968268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14294680231932091,0.0,0.0,0.20531363544368647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16013770810664738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16011671624276685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1646535779648161,0.1920859761306197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3169563725026551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12460587759059985,0.0,0.0,0.18464216642967252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19403289962588172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082209779566032,0.0,0.0,0.16451700495153565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770755173666195,0.0,0.14838482843703402,0.0,0.13665901538644604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17746404653247627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804227876474918,0.0,0.20043329275331212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595183859055572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943446437469054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168013554086838,0.0,0.0,0.17763687950187346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18159878323425044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096495395240896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258907080968268,0.23942898188076744 divorce,sean_m_curry,2019/03/08,"40m Medically retired,cant work, filing for divorce and seeking advixe So to start of I'm 40 with 3 kids. They're 4,7,and 10. I'm retired from the army and collect Va disability as well as social security disability. I'll more than likely never be able to work again. My spouse has become very very verbally abusive and controlling over the years. It's to the point she bad mouths me to my children and now my son has started, because his mom tells him he doesnt need to listen to me. She has a very liberal do whst you want parenting style that I'm totally against. She wants alamony we have been married 14 years almost. In this time shes refused to work until recent ally. She says shes o lt here because she cant afford to be divorced and live on her own. I hadnt left because I love my kids. Any advice or insight? We thinks she will get more than 50% or get them as the primary custodian. She also thinks I'll end up paying her a good bit. I'm on a fixed income the rest of my life due to the fact I'm disabled. I know she cant touch my Va disability money but I still need my social security disability too. My solution was to let her get half the sale of the house which shes never paid a dime on. Pay off her car and we split the kids every 4 days or 3. I can't afford to pay her a dime but she cant exactly afford anything making 35k a year. By all means I dont want to screw here but she is a selfish mean vindictive bitch that would rather get everything and leave my kids fatherless. Shes refused any affection for over 3 years now as well so I've just been waiting my time ",1.7921157684630735,3.5822949580838355,3.8729580838323368,87.12508582834336,78.46107784431138,6.9683033932135725,24.007584830339322,7.908726449838941,1.2294873453093809,1252,43,270,21,30,428,185,334,0.07400000000000001,0.851,0.075,-0.4528,5,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,3,1,1,4,14,11,2,0,16,0,25,5,1,3,6,44,51,21,0,7,8,4,1,1,0,2,2,2,0,5,5,11,0,6,6,0,8,1,9,4,2,1,5,3,44,7,36,41,7,30,0,0,0,2,46,10,2,4,20,158,49,6,0.11004890566911456,0.1303899578876754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10753851696168794,0.0,0.0,0.11019808249612964,0.0,0.0,0.08800607010401641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14967405918554455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056087259122646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09188623948784996,0.2012543743766371,0.12154037020812995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014490257399528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342920535629635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709724400377635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1289764978427201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09747066617709303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09272094939661107,0.0,0.0989048604209992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2299840444441353,0.0,0.0,0.09230380084028847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269816616932513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060480000528227065,0.0,0.0,0.11652590129601505,0.1195684580082452,0.11253246208814556,0.07773079660688624,0.05376433652499033,0.0,0.09717519989524423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932343396251636,0.0,0.07345849907789125,0.0,0.0,0.23975104043172096,0.0,0.1108626947295608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12888794826419533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16319973825805592,0.1697530007037133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1221962863356126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10403178680715093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10866001794934764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751530682772407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436200108836252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578636370241652,0.0,0.08788519822332155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09618759415667064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14102979034543173,0.0,0.0,0.12834080377103407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724056172923333,0.1947290874974174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19789436507758665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403507420097684,0.0,0.0,0.07817558512998468,0.0,0.0,0.2834715486232356 divorce,gxm492lor,2019/03/08,"Need to be cheered up? Most expensive divorces wiki does it for me. Enjoy! Just when you think it can't get any worse... At least you're not on this list! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_most_expensive_divorces ",6.4753246753246785,9.816843545454551,3.054632034632036,81.55909090909094,98.3939393939394,4.30995670995671,16.835497835497836,6.18269132825596,-0.11646839826839805,179,4,28,2,7,47,31,33,0.0,0.804,0.196,0.7955,0,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,5,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,5,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,1,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634867106389152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4677553381762077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2792606289604342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3963341166755893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424939156036982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5447137244852684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,procrastinauts,2019/03/08,"post settlement, child support/alimony I'm past the final divorce with xw, and in my state (ca) we mediated, and I waived the alimony and the child support. While you waive this at settlement, you are unable to legally dispose of it, the state mandates it as a reopenable item. &#x200B; At the time of the settlement, she made (and makes) more. the kids at the time, 11 and 13 were moving to 50/50 time, which we have done. The support is approx 200 monthly for the next ten + years (married 18), and the dissomaster calculated support at either 480 or 800 monthly to me when they are at 50/50. I live in a very expensive place, so 700/month from alimony and child support would be significant, but I'd have to go back to court to get it. I'd love opinions on this- my xw is a calculating and combative personality with alcohol problems, but makes significantly more than me. Thank you.",5.875220468154597,6.861206592814372,6.582406096897117,74.91048448557432,66.90419161676647,10.144583560152423,34.34349482852477,10.230975488527342,3.572920958083832,699,32,130,17,11,230,102,167,0.021,0.865,0.114,0.9169,0,0,1,0,1,0,36.0,2,3,1,0,3,7,0,0,14,0,10,2,0,3,0,22,22,15,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,5,6,12,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,1,3,0,13,6,22,17,4,26,0,0,0,1,14,9,0,2,12,85,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343557597611648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13621687162200824,0.1527627803635809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667042593457342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12865455183045435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13771941132661664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568317556123363,0.0,0.07144920822610941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101249619893028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134666288015341,0.11895869609167528,0.16783729508052445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010439758252192,0.1336197812947149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337039632465596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200133524361368,0.0,0.1097732939856624,0.13134997087143746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040439270619513,0.0,0.0,0.12029644661858865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7133241867948044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11574549370893107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21992390557711916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373163655895702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08930742469732032,0.0,0.1527627803635809,0.08095914453473102 divorce,315truthlover,2019/03/08,"Likely filing for divorce next month. People who were full-time homemakers with children and reliant on your spouse’s income, how did you prepare? I wish there was a divorced person I could sit down with who had been in my position so I could learn from them how to prepare. I am a full-time sahm to our children and rely on my husband’s income. I’m thinking about things like needing to get a job, my own bank account...just ways to become less dependent on him. How did you prepare? What did you get in place before filing or WISH you had known you should do? Is there a right way to go about something so devastating? Thank you. 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Things ended badly I tried to do anything to save the marriage only to be manipulated. Things come and go emotionally but the one thing that hits home is the loss of physical contact with anyone since it happened. The only people I've touched is family who hug you to show love. Pity is what it feels like, it brings my emotions to a head and I burst into tears. I am 37 year old man who feels like a child. Does this stop ever. 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I think this may have been the nail in the coffin for me. The man does not take responsibility for his actions and choices. I have reasons for wanting to wait a few more weeks before I start the filing process, but I don't see how I can come back from that childish retort.",7.898493975903616,6.434390144578316,7.8567168674698795,75.69182228915666,63.216867469879524,9.74578313253012,38.8222891566265,8.07648339933343,3.076930120481928,334,15,65,3,4,108,67,83,0.061,0.939,0.0,-0.5647,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,1,0,1,4,1,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,2,0,11,15,4,1,2,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,12,0,11,13,2,12,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,1,5,48,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490738614959218,0.0,0.0,0.2048663957315636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267102830106007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295038052494289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2331526074467399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.307421704544553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25493525242915804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27393196888609456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21230832024303806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37715768431103996,0.28397639574166555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20032041442633589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17071606230940425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15714591436432335,0.0,0.21371216771158447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24040948870013434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939624819623805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Hardcandy-is-gross,2019/03/08,"Am I too cheap? Can one get a divorce through legalzoom? is that too cold? we've been married nearly 20 years, and I still love him very much so I don't want to fight about things--I'm just not safe anymore. The physical stuff has definitely amped up, and he doesn't talk about why he's so angry. He denies being angry, and denies being physical. That's weird to me. I've got medical reports on it.",0.7622222222222241,3.1947603456790183,2.42825925925926,92.0801666666667,87.51851851851852,5.215308641975309,20.44567901234568,6.742157984588678,0.4120360493827162,312,10,65,4,10,102,62,81,0.231,0.6679999999999999,0.101,-0.8927,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,8,4,1,0,2,0,9,2,0,0,0,7,13,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,1,2,1,5,2,8,9,1,5,0,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,2,40,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3304487503306317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024609990464669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15934093202629626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24392261616708225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27525889594456554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072380981532989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241974592360408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20666424702198746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2435596683251033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3491323542442845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451336324460731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25164276100670924,0.17988676486645386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751995515785656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19639893223782173 divorce,fyrefli86,2019/03/08,"Just venting I can't wait for this to be over. This whole process has been so frustrating. &#x200B; We currently have 65/35. He has my daughter every other weekend, and every Wednesday night. He wants 50/50 (mostly to not have to pay support) &#x200B; So now he's trying to use my anxiety disorder and my migraines to fight for more custody. Low blow and I never would have expected this from him. &#x200B; He also is trying to bribe me by saying he'll forfeit any interest in any martial assets (There are barely any, we have a home with very little equity we only purchased 3 years ago, and he didn't put down any of the down payment) if I agree to 50/50. &#x200B; He's already moved the other woman into his apartment, even though he won't admit it. But, my daughter always says her and her son are there when she comes home to me. It's not even been 6 months since we separated and my daughter is only 4. &#x200B; April 8th can't come fast enough. Hopefully it's all done then. 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My husbandisn't ""in love"" with me so he filed for divorce. We sign Monday, non contested and it'll be pretty much over. I decide to go get a Pedicure and my hair done. Just curious what others had done? 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I'm with someone else now who makes me extremely happy and I love being with her but I still find whenever a location or an event comes up that I once shared a memory with my ex, it's the first thing I think about. For example, my new gf will mention going to a casino to play Bingo which I am all for but my first thought is, ""My ex once won some money when we went together and she loved that place"". I know it's normal to have memories and the emotion that comes with it, but how long until this isn't one of my first thoughts? I've done really well with therapy and I do not yearn for my ex, nor want any future with her. I just can't seem to shake the random memories that come up. Advice?",3.588042620363062,5.072742093922656,4.902971586424627,82.9379143646409,72.8121546961326,8.486345698500395,25.63575374901341,9.04235418022936,1.9729554853985802,713,23,142,15,14,237,114,181,0.006999999999999999,0.813,0.18,0.9884,0,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,1,0,0,4,9,9,0,1,8,0,12,2,0,2,1,40,29,15,0,3,8,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,12,17,0,0,7,2,2,7,5,2,1,4,7,0,22,7,22,20,2,24,0,1,0,2,17,4,0,5,13,103,34,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13196314931436842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14631980207761705,0.16409288747763495,0.0918343528385572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3489845926642554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819660028938108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11281169028256348,0.3038119920554317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209866007464802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342750333150927,0.3446043291862617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07674845180160253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375653915840794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421649066522737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950943272132353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24376443932327835,0.0,0.0901427242638906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13042605548167113,0.0,0.0,0.13231416214192235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2876342850707639,0.09150911204996584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093622304101869,0.0,0.14109193312074494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08651245785704413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12293872061585236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442209624338442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21569216060137514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443425020295284,0.0,0.08971703953214852,0.08653055578104453,0.0,0.21441924053685346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965227831942713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12142051231982975,0.125186871014159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14644914162815525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16409288747763495,0.08696372089330172 divorce,Tuna_Lagoona-1999,2019/03/08,"I (19F) have finally decided to leave my husband (21M), but I dont know if I'm making the right choice. My husband and I dated for a year and then got married. We've only been married a year and he has broken my heart more times than I can count. My husband isn't a bad guy hes funny, sweet(sometimes), and pretty chill. Well that all changed when we got to our first location together. He depended on me for everything. It was my responsibility to cook,clean, and care for him and the house by myself.i basically became a mom, instead of a wife. If I asked for help I would be scolded or he would belittle me for asking for help. I work four days out of the week, on my feet constantly, so I bring in some money. Yet the money he and I make go towards his fun. With ""our"" money he bought a huge 60 inch TV, a handgun (300 dollars worth of ammo as well, a new phone, and a brand new xbox and elite controller. Yet I was yelled at for spending 100 dollars at the grocery store for US and lunch for myself at work. My parents had to send me money for clothes because the boxes with my clothes arrived late. He saw I had money and insisted I buy food, because he had spent all the money in the account. I didn't even get a birthday or Christmas presant, until January when he got me 2 kitties I love and enjoy. It sounds really bad, but he sometimes is really nice to me like after we fight he wants to cuddle and hold me close. Or when hes coming home from work, hell sometimes get me a monster from the gas station. So hes not super horrible. I just dont know if I'm making the right call. I'm 19, and I messed up really badly and I'm scared. Any and all advise is appreciated. Thankyou for reading! 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Besides sex perhaps... &#x200B; Long time lurker, first time poster. We've been separated about 6 months and trying to come to an agreement for our dissolution. I think we're close. It isn't what I wanted, but I have to accept it and move forward. Such is life. &#x200B; On a more positive thought, what's something that you're looking forward to doing again that you didn't while being married? For me, with spring looming on the horizon, it's garage sales. I love going to garage sales! It's just kind of fun to see what you can find, and I will occasionally buy stuff. My STBXW looked down on it, that's like ""buying other people's trash!"" Whatever, I think it's fun. &#x200B; Also, not having to run the A/C anymore. When it was warm out, our house was so cold, I'd have to wear heavy pajamas and layers of socks. Even the kids' hands and feet would be frozen. No more meat locker here. I can have the blinds and windows open and let the nice summer breezes blow through the house, just like when I was a kid. Summer can come anytime! &#x200B; How about you?",3.0587351190476184,5.3385325223214295,3.21464285714286,91.01369047619049,76.45535714285714,5.338095238095238,24.059523809523807,6.18269132825596,0.5361452380952381,911,30,180,6,21,278,130,224,0.02,0.8109999999999999,0.16899999999999998,0.9891,0,0,2,0,0,0,53.0,2,4,0,1,14,10,0,0,9,0,22,7,3,1,0,25,34,15,0,2,4,0,2,2,0,2,2,0,1,2,17,13,0,0,5,0,4,8,5,0,0,1,7,8,16,10,22,22,2,29,0,0,5,2,9,10,0,0,19,113,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07945369069523879,0.0,0.43060187353223905,0.48290596199482794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09853288348762784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117006413504138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06562265482982843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09080813639933973,0.08451081561754424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05646540431851131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2292833133036944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10346233534533636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10159662197570564,0.07017696238223682,0.09707909828588873,0.0,0.0,0.08792553178700804,0.25029805953754586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08967123962607887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930374707036256,0.1055980207909432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887984226715399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07917260620778781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297576713173416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373703615000055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12732459622019776,0.0,0.07887630842299778,0.11586871808217128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06745512676716238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0586018088263656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07057852661180969,0.0,0.48290596199482794,0.0 divorce,GM-Abdush,2019/03/09,"Just when I thought it was done I filed for divorce a couple of months ago. STBX finally signed agreement papers which was a HUGE sigh of relief. Today I received(in the mail) a letter from the judge(AL) saying they my complaint was rejected because I failed to state that I was not pregnant at the time of filing the complaint. I also have to file the testimony(I have it to file) and the waiver. We have an infant son, no infidelity. For the waiver, what exactly does that state? 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We did have a similar problem back about 12 years ago where she had gone off and had a short affair. She regretted this, and I took her back at the time (short version of lots of therapy and 4+ months of relationship work). We've always had problems with sex in the marriage since we started living together and she has mental issues (bipolar). I have generalized anxiety disorder, mostly around relationship issues and more recently health issues. So day 1 what I feel is anxious not really sad or upset, ... somewhat hurt but just anxious. The anxiety paralyzes me when it first starts... hopefully it will get better to the point where I can at least distract myself when I'm feeling bad but its difficult right now. First night, I got very little sleep, kept waking up thinking someone was wrong... because it was.. (I'd wake up thinking something was wrong even if it wasn't before though). We are on good terms, but we work together and have a self employed business and all of our assets including two houses are commingled as well as various 401ks and after tax funds and bank accounts. Neither of us is emotionally capable of moving very quickly, so likely she'll still be in the house in the guest room for a while before anything else happens and I have to get myself together enough to start planning all the rest. There are no kids and our dog passed away a little over a year ago. I welcome any advice, support, or just acknowledgement as this is a difficult position to be in of course, and looking for a safe place to talk and share. 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I sent her a long email stating my side on wanting to do mediation so that we're not in a bunch of debt paying off lawyers when it's finalized, I don't know how we'd each come up with the money for lawyers anyways. I said why spend all this money on lawyers when we could use that money for the kids. I also told her I'd give her the full 25% tx States for 2 children, plus keep them on my medical. She replied that no she wants lawyers and the only way she'll agree to doing mediation without lawyers is if I give her the 25% + insurance for kids+ half of daycare witch would be an additional $560 a month. She states it's normal for the non custodial parent to pay full percentage plus medical insurance plus half of schooling or daycare. I don't think that's true. Is it common? And how can I try to get her to see and agree that mediation will do essentially the same thing lawyers will do but for a whole lot less?",6.687599497276918,5.4871895990783415,7.003175534143278,79.98969836615,65.45161290322581,10.287222454964391,35.856304985337246,9.339509955726095,2.962109677419354,841,35,180,13,11,274,121,217,0.042,0.923,0.036000000000000004,0.1265,2,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,2,0,1,0,8,3,0,0,13,0,18,2,0,3,2,36,37,18,0,8,5,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,0,4,10,14,0,1,2,0,8,2,5,1,0,2,3,2,22,2,29,27,9,22,0,0,1,0,25,9,0,3,7,119,32,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13663696847291767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471810714648682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13641809473653835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871691732176892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926748630192863,0.32780965329968176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15186853887307092,0.0,0.0,0.09390038568533084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15120604228226067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452593683784009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34424767534062123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13637910955955998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16740687609174554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12994700333852988,0.0,0.0,0.1897202102515509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252732935875122,0.0,0.0,0.17291980651293806,0.13615358586458318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093584249676725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19389031218253613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11351203134375545,0.10948041989828328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326439641155407,0.0,0.116002969135501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475684927310311,0.0,0.0,0.403111469586844,0.1356210011816244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417489962203987,0.19075949059905464,0.0,0.16470329024879565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12137429779710295,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MintHeartedMojo,2019/03/09,"Romance movies as a coping mechanism. So I'm going through are rough divorce. We were together for ten years and married for two when he ended it. For some reason even though I'm getting divorced I've been craving romance movies more than usual lately. At first I attributed it to my need to indulge in escapism but I think there's more to it now. I've found that they're actually helping me feel better about my situation. As I look at all of these couples going to extraordinary lengths for each other, letting their guard down and being vulnerable with each other and really trying to make each other feel loved, I'm faced with the harsh fact that my ex never really felt anything like that towards me. In a weird way it's kind of helping me cope. If my ex couldn't accept and love me back fully after 10 years together, then he was probably never going to. So even if I've lost him, at least I've gained the opportunity to find someone who treats me with love, respect and devotion someday.",6.086174438687394,6.671080652849742,6.762292746113992,75.22647884283249,66.30569948186529,9.127633851468048,32.145509499136445,9.075114841892004,2.777915716753022,798,31,143,13,12,263,123,193,0.105,0.721,0.174,0.9452,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,1,0,1,5,10,15,0,0,4,0,7,4,1,3,4,33,26,15,0,4,3,2,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,12,0,1,8,0,0,3,3,2,0,3,6,5,15,13,29,17,8,24,0,1,1,3,15,7,0,3,14,98,27,0,0.0,0.0,0.14576590546242446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12292074965862518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485814774101602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321077403806422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1652777084819844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13229960150996398,0.0,0.0,0.19731810972683608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105433709477858,0.0,0.14342091916674848,0.0,0.13652365839662614,0.1270560786695515,0.0,0.16377911579003582,0.0,0.0,0.07804090868304661,0.0,0.254675314660368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20024232883124304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554835819432794,0.0,0.0,0.1684985621796747,0.0,0.0,0.15274338911511076,0.0,0.07297580468753866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12543518724419342,0.0,0.16305760887567305,0.0,0.4044432417226156,0.0,0.0997072302539475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075773453134287,0.23041039144451755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1610487004798612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913835559292632,0.15357969490776238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16790082487393151,0.0,0.0,0.12656274135758036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957117961512369,0.14675761481900995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10141404778270673,0.0,0.14591512042161342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645125844676885,0.0,0.0,0.11856485050918072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19238184365195304 divorce,sassdragonfly,2019/03/09,"When is the right time I am looking to separate from my SO together 15 married 6 kids 5 and 3. How long after separating should I file for divorce I don’t want to do it straight away as I think that will send him over the edge ",1.8047959183673468,3.1433665714285723,3.636479591836736,90.80941326530613,77.16326530612245,7.348979591836735,26.535714285714285,8.07648339933343,1.4078938775510208,178,7,42,3,4,60,43,49,0.0,0.926,0.07400000000000001,0.29600000000000004,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,9,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,8,7,0,9,0,0,1,0,4,4,0,0,4,28,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4585074881575643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4318791719395881,0.4098108800866483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4167633535215933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.312701214684303,0.0,0.0,0.284566297194826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878447267330885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ozeal1,2019/03/09,"Help! On the cusp of divorce but.... I separated from my wife in Jan because of constant fighting. We're talking one argument a month and it got exhausting. It was time to leave. A friend of mine mentioned that she may be a covert narcissist which I didn't even know what that was. She would take simple disagreements and turn them into full-blown arguments. Leaving me clueless and feeling like I was the one who was the problem. It was crazy. The past couple of months she roped me back again. We're on talking terms and she finally scheduled marriage counseling for us to get help on Monday. However, I feel it may be too late. I want to work through things because we have a 2 yr old together, but I'm not sure if she's the one for me. Till this day, she still hasnt taken responsibility for her actions. All the fights she causes all of last year. Now, she's playing the victim role acting like (once again) I'm the one whos' the problem. I dont know what to do? 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For about 3 years now things have been steadily running downhill. Theres no emotions no romance a dead bedroom lack of affection and were pretty much just roommates coparenting our children. Also she has been very controlling she calls me multiple times a day yelling about how stressed she is by the kids telling me I cant go to the gym after work pissed off when I have to work late and has basically made me a prisoner to my own home using the children as a tool to do so. I'm not a perfect husband years of rejection in the bedroom and my affection being pushed away and scolded because it's not the type of affection she wants has made me cold and basically dead inside. I'm not the loving romantic man she fell in love with and I cant seem to break down the walls and find that man. It's just to the point that I feel like shes miserable I'm miserable and the kids aren't getting the parenting they deserve because of it. I've told her I wanted a divorce now twice in about a 3 month period but I'm honestly not sure if that's the right move because I do still very much so love her or at least who she used to be. And she doesnt want the divorce or at least she says she doesnt but I'm not sure if that's because she wants to be the initiator and not me. Has anybody out there been in a similar situation and is it the right thing to do? I dont really want to break up my family but at this point it almost feels like it's I have to so that my wife can be happy again I can be happy again and our children can be raised by happy co parents rather than miserable parents. ,4.858245614035088,4.6129459649122815,5.880754385964912,83.35744736842106,68.88304093567251,9.530058479532164,30.842690058479533,9.255337874911486,2.3715469005847956,1288,47,282,23,20,429,159,342,0.177,0.672,0.151,-0.7615,4,0,0,0,3,0,11.0,2,0,1,4,20,19,1,4,22,0,33,4,1,9,3,56,58,27,2,9,17,5,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,7,16,14,0,1,6,1,0,5,15,6,0,1,7,5,36,13,37,45,6,39,0,4,0,3,38,17,1,6,17,194,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828802365819077,0.0,0.0,0.07849449377444259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09221982505930072,0.0,0.0,0.23933743385223336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022719840605633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11008914475982312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06330183527246244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300737868421821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11041112956942103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253176982656584,0.0,0.09926020377358047,0.14024385987434976,0.0,0.0,0.08971186404175235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051281920450216296,0.0,0.05578373123976692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3134633711609625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09845743763571632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05394340435074768,0.0,0.11072308110567958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590712035340138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657660770312431,0.1857532111597612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834636032933291,0.10432319899854388,0.1443103931108655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32696843384873525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18557634563676245,0.0,0.0,0.09985889149247287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12576117393128294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1676476155594702,0.0,0.07805677152539632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08935659793533847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103302984295098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07838668556217393,0.0,0.1124361861141529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1850197945758184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08579176983798552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13041960074520792,0.06289374123396531,0.0,0.0,0.11446990429984708,0.0,0.0,0.09379127984865196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16954875775476072,0.0,0.1619762591785163,0.28947172106429764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429159738646059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12641716464750244 divorce,j-t-sheahan,2019/03/09,Quitclaim deed Is it necessary for me to get a quit claim deed signed by my wife for my house? The house is included in the settlement agreement.,5.082857142857144,6.445201571428572,5.041428571428573,83.85357142857143,69.0,9.885714285714286,31.857142857142854,10.125756701596842,3.1690142857142867,116,5,23,3,2,36,22,28,0.0,0.89,0.11,0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20139480810590693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8895729249910987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41000017364723895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,nappyhappy1234,2019/03/09,"For You! Dear You, Do not cry for someone who threw everthing away and erased you like nothing! Be you, be proud! YOU deserve BETTER! Love, Your Future You",0.4763218390804624,2.408107724137931,0.9432758620689654,96.90847701149427,109.6896551724138,3.3126436781609194,18.626436781609193,5.46131890053228,-0.2041080459770117,120,4,23,1,6,36,22,29,0.0,0.5379999999999999,0.462,0.9626,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,7,0,2,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,2,5,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,7,5,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,1,9,1,0,0,2,16,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3983296958024454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3749631750771092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4657063721140077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20712820725420586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38264556292673824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068064873688888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35922472982404513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,strong2134,2019/03/09,"Divorce with Protective order, try so hard to get my baby back to my life When I was pregnant, I said many bad thing and threats to my husband but I never really wanted to harm my baby. When I was in hospital after I gave birth to our son, my husband told everyone that I am a danger to my son. CPS was involved and he told me he was going to get a CPO against me. My friend took me to home. The first several weeks were miserable. I had to look for lawyers even if it was difficult to walk for me. Finally CPS closed the case and unfounded. I got the supervised visitation for my son and one year CPO. I tried so hard. I got psychological evaluation and it stated that I am not a danger to my son. I am in therapy for several months now. However, nobody can take the risk of letting me get unsupervised soon. I have more time with my son now even if it is under supervised visitation by third party place. Also I have contact with STBXH and we go to his counselor for the sake of our son. However, he refused to drop CPO at this point and refused to supervise me. I love my son with all my heart. I really regret for what I said during my pregnancy. However, the trust was lost. I lost trust on STBXH as well. When I was helpless and had prenatal depression during my pregnancy, he recorded and documented behind of my back and gave me CPO when I just gave birth to our son. I am still fighting to get my son back to my life and try to be the best mom and person I can be.It is very sad that our marriage is end like this way.",3.0042307692307686,4.3119148076923075,4.910769230769233,83.0092307692308,74.0,8.78974358974359,26.782051282051288,9.2995712137729,2.191997435897437,1188,43,251,28,24,408,147,312,0.188,0.7170000000000001,0.095,-0.984,3,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,5,0,0,4,18,22,4,2,10,0,23,4,1,0,2,29,45,23,0,4,5,12,2,1,1,0,2,2,1,1,10,18,0,3,0,0,0,6,2,15,1,3,22,5,52,7,41,21,3,40,0,7,1,1,41,8,0,2,23,177,62,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09495655671746377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2739118311285085,0.09914317161498028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1246105951501187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10227082669623352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516864155159808,0.0,0.0,0.15685366635014114,0.0,0.0,0.11346142329606075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007416961193055,0.0,0.10100041906432604,0.0,0.0,0.09173844355905453,0.0,0.2481475758951607,0.0,0.13496567172219584,0.0,0.18993489349578435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21273593067401586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14070780010568654,0.0,0.0,0.11910617944715113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12141997826058094,0.16773953860163512,0.05801050160037835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09971192728232546,0.0,0.2592380781859697,0.0,0.10716773603556833,0.0,0.0,0.12038400398166828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390671774694783,0.09477735635313336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09157982182496167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804614848026644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10367942995986193,0.12405831701628453,0.0,0.11224794213281764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213612409013205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258983895921417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682854301510004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482613869537528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08927791098844677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578985521060358,0.0,0.0788857639544619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923841047580707,0.0,0.0,0.2269228465921215,0.13192481690766594,0.2418505615548553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797316411622793,0.07003609190303113,0.09425050507714287,0.09524628800685256,0.0,0.1067617692697014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646484541581951 divorce,Anonomouseballs,2019/03/10,"Venting/Needing advice So I’m 33F married (35M) for ~6 years. I have been thinking about separating from my husband for a year or two. He hasn’t cheated on me, or been abusive in any capacity. We have a daughter who is 4. He is a wonderful father, works hard to pay our bills and keeps the house clean. I have anxiety and bouts of depression. I talk about my feelings, it’s what helps me to heal and solve my problems. He doesn’t. He doesn’t talk about much. And when we do end up talking about anything political it turns into an argument because we are on opposite sides of the spectrum. I don’t feel supported emotionally. I don’t need him to fix my issues, those are mine and I take full accountability to do what I need to do for my mental health. But there are times when I’m having a panic attack that I’d like to have somebody who is there with me. We have tried counseling, no change. I have talked to him, sent him articles, podcast episodes on what it would like to be supportive during a mental health episode. He asks how to help. It’s no fault of him, it’s just the way he is. It’s not wrong, it’s just not right for me. I need somebody who understands me. He doesn’t. I get it. That’s why it’s such a hard decision to make. I don’t think he’s right for me. He’s fine in the relationship because to be honest, he’s fine with anything. We also haven’t had sex in over two months. I have a high sex drive and have resorted to pleasing myself because he just doesn’t try. I take a medication for my anxiety that has made me gain weight and I feel unattractive to my husband. Here’s the worst part. I live in a place close to where a major wildfire happened and we are going through a housing crisis. There are no places to rent and I can’t afford to buy a house on my own. I just need some good outside perspective. 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She cheated on me, left me, got pregnant with another man's child, and more. I finally realized I don't want to be with her any more. I've read plenty of posts on here about how you will get to ""that"" point but I never could connect with that, until now. For those who are early in in the process, know this is not a quick and easy endeavor, it takes time but more importantly, it will take a physical and mental toll. Above all else, know you will get through it, and as somebody you recognize like a long forgotten friend. I know I will have good days and bad days in the 90 days ahead of me. But I know that I deserve someone who loves me at worst and for my flaws, but makes me better regardless. 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We have kids, but have been separated for about 3 years so it's all worked out. No property and finances are separate. 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Today a friend said this to me after watching Married at First Sight. Sometimes I think that really hits home. Is it really a compromise if only one person came to the conclusion it was a compromise? What is the other giving up? 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My husband hasn't been himself for sometime. He's been distracted and distant. He tells me he has stress at work. He always likes time on his own and I know he doesn't get a lot of it. I have felt like he shouldn't begrudge time with me and our two small children because he wants alone time. I wished he would be prepared to enjoy time with us all together and not just out of duty. It's difficult to find time to do a thing together. Realistically we spend about 30 minutes a day in each others exclusive company without interruptions. For the longest time we had tried to sit together and watch a movie after the children went to sleep. Usually I'm too tired to finish it. More recently he has taken to spending time on his phone in the moments that we do spend together. He couldn't begin to remember half of what I tell him. Forget chit chat and small talk, he couldn't remember if I told him one of us had a doctors appointment. His messages to me have dwindled. When he does, it's about what's for dinner, or what album he's busy listening to. I have tried to overlook his cold, and his distance, and tell myself he just doesn't have enough time to himself and with me and two children, he's impatient and frustrated, and it would pass. The last 3 weeks he has refused sex. All the little things I'd usually do to approach the situation, everything from a coy game to the outright approach had failed. And it never used to take much of an incentive to appeal to him. He tells me he's tired and stressed due to work. However that was never an issue in the past, at least on terms of managing to have some interest. Now he seems embarrassed and awkward if I try, to the point where he's given an awkward little laugh like he's embarrassed about the whole thing. This was so humiliating. And the rejection has been a weight on me. Yesterday started off badly. I was trying to clean and tidy the house as we had a home tutor coming for our youngest. I couldn't concentrate due to the music he was blasting through the speaker on his phone because it was irritating the hell out of me. I asked if he could listen to it somewhere else. He went off on a tirade of one swear word after another after another. It was beyond any reason that he'd be so mad over that. I threw a milk carton at him and told him he had no reason to speak to me the way he did over nothing. We held it together while the tutor was here. He then told me he wanted to go see his friend and if I minded. My reply was that he may as well go as we had no plans as a family for the day. His response was that I was trying to keep him from doing anything on his own. This wasn't the case, I literally saw no point in him sitting miserably with us when he wanted to go elsewhere. I tried to sit on it, but it burned me up. I thought about this for a while and eventually asked him if he has a friend who he could go and stay with. I told him what I thought. That he has lost all interest in me and us as a couple, that the little time we spend together either involves him on the phone or a TV droning. That I feel his lack of interest in sex mirrors a previous time from years ago when he had a 'crush' on a girl he used to work with and that it reminds me of that same situation. He didn't say much. He said I didn't give him the chance so there is no point in him replying. Today we were civil. He didn't want to talk but I tried. I tried to be civil and I tried to be friendly. He doesn't want to know. The friendliest he got was showing me videos on facebook. We discussed his family, who live overseas, which became a little heated. He said I have a history of throwing things up in his face from the past. He told me goodnight with no affection. He said he can't leave as he has nowhere to go. I tried to talk to him. I told him I love him and I miss him and we don't spend enough time together and it makes me lonely. He said maybe I shouldn't love him. I got upset. He said he won't be forced into saying anything. I told him I don't want him to leave. He said the way he feels isn't fair. Our daughter who had been asleep had actually heard everything and burst into tears and is now distraught at my tearful pleading to my husband that I love and miss him and don't want him to leave. I feel horrible that she heard. She will never be able to unhear it. Now he's madder than ever because she heard and is upset, and he is pissed that I talked to him when he just wanted time on his own tonight. I don't see a resolution. 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Morning noon and night. It started when I said I wanted to quit smoking for a night and he freaked out. I filed for divorce and was given emergency custody of our two kids. He started rage texting me and watching the house. Then I found emails he’d written propositioning hookers (again) and I blocked his number, so he started using different numbers. Soon, I had a guy change my locks, and my stbx was literally peeping in the windows and pacing around the house. The guy kissed me outside before he left that night, and my stbx saw it. He went nuts. I lost count at 57 calls and messages from 9 different numbers and countless texts. The second I turned the lights out that night, my stbx knocked on the back door. He’s been in the house when he expected me to be home alone too, so I got a protective order. He’s still smoking pot, refuses to quit even for the court mandated drug tests, and he’s convinced of he could talk to me for 15 minutes I’d let him back in. He responded to my divorce filing with a 6 page letter, rambling about how he understands why the pot made me so nervous, but refusing to stop. He admitted in it to smacking the kids in the face in the letter and told about our attempted entrance into swinging. The jest of the letter was that he sees why I had concerns, but that he’s not angry anymore and doesn’t want a divorce, so we shouldn’t get divorced. Oh, and that he won’t quit smoking. He’s lost it. Even with the protective order, he’s still checking up on the house. The drama I can deal with, but it’s this pit of loneliness that’s really driving me mad. I’m trying to find things to do, but I always have our two kids and my options are limited. I have few friends, few hobbies and very little money. I’m always bored and I’m terrified he COULD talk me into taking him back if he talked to me in a bad day. I’m not worried about finding dates, but I’m not ready and the divorce isn’t final. How do you cope with the boredom and loneliness? How do you meet new people as an adult without money when you have kids? How do I stop feeling so lonely? I need an internet gig reddit. 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He told me two weeks ago he wasn't sure he wanted to be married to me and moved out. He told me it was because he couldn't forgive me for asking him to leave seven years ago and sleeping with another man. Since that week split I thought we were doing so good, then BAM seven years later he tells me he can't forgive me. Since he left he has been staying with another woman and has been posting on social media with her saying ""my baby"" and kissed her in front of me. We are still married, no one has filed for divorce. I'm so hurt and heartbroken. He is still trying to say I ruined everything and refuses to come home. We have an 11 year old boy together who he didn't talk to or come see for the past 10 days. Now he wants to keep him overnight at his new girlfriend's house. Am I right to say no to that? Do I have the right to make his visits at his parents house so I know my kid is safe? 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For the past 6 months she's been doing a lot of work with the local school board trying to make the school administration teach our kids. She'd been having a Twitter affair (is that a thing?) with one of the local state data folks. Two weeks ago she went over to his house for a few hours when she told me she was going to a girl scout play with our daughter. Next day, again over at this guy's house but says nothing happened. Last night after our daughters birthday party she said she was going over to another group of ladies for a gathering. She didn't. She went to this dude's house and had sex with him. We've not even selected attorneys yet for the divorce. ☹️ We're trying to keep this a calm a possible (collaborative divorce) but I can't leave and am now in a very toxic living situation. What can I do? How have others gotten through this? 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She hasn’t started the legal process yet. I want to support her in the best way possible. Based on your experiences, what did you find helpful/not helpful?",3.5164285714285732,6.576244452380955,3.4193333333333342,85.50900000000001,80.66666666666666,5.2647619047619045,34.590476190476195,6.742157984588678,2.434241904761904,185,11,31,2,5,56,37,42,0.0,0.628,0.3720000000000001,0.9468,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,2,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,1,0,3,8,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,5,6,7,1,7,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,2,21,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28093351595404603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26186092525349824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24467197627783646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41364706534221934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213947355093718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17943295288528308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30179032604598405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1894786836159578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6075631567906115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1578957673566692,0.2124869537768289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,El_Bakes,2019/03/10,"When kids make divorce seem perfect... Have children, enrich your lives... WRONG! This is a somewhat hypothetical question. My wife and I are happy, we love each other dearly, would easily be together forever, we couldn't be happier... then... we had a children. They have quite literally changed our life for the worse. Although not seriously, my wife and I have spoken and joked about divorcing, sharing custody 50% of the time just to have some sort of life we can look forward to as individuals. But what will it do to the kids i hear you say... honestly, I don't care. It can't be kids 100% happy and parents 0% happy. Some Benefits: 1) We are still monogomous, still very much in love, still intimate. 2) Every 2nd week we are FREE from all the shit that comes with parenting two VERY difficult kids. 3) Government looks after single parents. 4) Mental health will improve. 5) Can do adult thibgs without worrying about kids. 6) Wife and I can have date nights, sleepovers and a chance to miss each other and reconnect. 7) Actually begin to enjoy our children and being a parent. Yes, it sounds selfish, but kids are selfish. My wife and I deserve happiness also. Sure, finacially it could be tough running 2 households essentially. Anyone else ever considered this? Or fantasised about this? Sure, I'd rather have a cohesive family unit, but that's not gonna happen, EVER. Yes, we have tried. For 10 years!!! THIS IS NOT ABOUT WHAT'S BEST FOR THE KIDS OR MAYBE IN A ROUNDABOUT WAY IT IS. 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Me and my husband have been together for almost 10 years and married for about 4. We have 2 children. For as long as we have been together, we have had our share of problems. His narcissistic, controlling, and negative behaviors pushed me over the edge and I finally called for a separation(this is me being nice for not asking for a divorce straight up). I’ve been contemplating it for a long time. He is highly insecure and doesn’t trust anyone, including me. Because of this behavior, I’ve pushed out a lot of friends and people I cared about. He had complete control over me and disregarded everything that I cared about including going back to school. I have told him over a thousand times that if one day I decide to leave this marriage, it would never be because of another man, but because of his emotionally abusive behaviors. He swears that he loves me with all his heart and that was what I held on to. I thought that if it’s love, maybe it’s worth fighting for. I was stupid and weak to think that. I have to admit that it was my fault for letting him control me and my life. I was too patient and kind. Whenever I tried fighting for myself and my voice to be heard, he just continued to shut me down. Anyways, I called for a separation and that he needs to distance himself from me. He completely lost it and threatened to kill himself. He’s very capable of doing that and I don’t think I would be able to live with myself if he does. He begged for another chance, wanting to make me fall back in love with him. Begged me not to leave him because he can’t stand being alone and that he rather be dead than being without us. His whole family begged me to give him another chance, at least for the children. Now here I am, in a “separated but living together” type of situation. In the end, his clinginess and neediness still has control over my life and I just don’t know what else to do. I feel so enslaved in this relationship and resent him even more for not respecting my decision and giving me the distance that I need. If I call for a divorce or leave he will hurt and potentially kill himself. If he or I stay together, I’ll never be happy. What do I do? 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Married 19.5 years. The kids are all living at home. Ages 24, 19, 19, 17, 17. I have read so much about the affect divorce has on the children but most of what i have read is about younger children. I am in the process of creating an exit plan and i get to thinking about what will happen with the kids and it will stop me in my tracks. Would love some feedback.",2.290679442508712,3.9738630853658563,2.9371080139372836,94.86939024390249,76.6829268292683,5.173519163763067,23.90940766550523,5.288315135182226,0.1896041811846687,311,10,68,1,7,97,57,82,0.033,0.867,0.101,0.7783,0,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,2,1,13,14,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,6,3,4,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,1,12,11,4,10,0,0,0,1,9,6,0,2,4,46,10,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337337628392165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2765204785854145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136646183605003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761207289196513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2822248785091007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22987122896723186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6255712811138381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2614320538928224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200366186802524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22213383222346264,0.0,0.0,0.20136920407215156 divorce,drunkyogi92,2019/03/10,"Stuck in limbo Been married almost 2 years now, together for 6 years, wife and I have decided to divorce roughly 6 times in these 2 years. No hard feelings as neither have really done anything bad, we just have grown apart and have totally different goals in life. Anywho, we agreed divorce is best, in the meantime we live together while she is saving up deciding where to move. However I feel frustrated that I’ve been stuck in limbo for the past 5 months unable to begin the process and begin healing, bc she has yet to get her ducks in a row, while living together isn’t necessarily bad, I love her and don’t want to make her feel I’m eager for her to leave, but when/how do I encourage her to get this done so we can move on with our lives. Note: I am pretty much her only emotional support, her family relationships are not good, and shes to proud to lean on her friends for support.",9.927905844155843,6.475016693181821,9.770259740259744,69.7968181818182,61.04545454545455,13.466233766233769,39.91558441558442,11.491704259439757,4.330078896103895,702,26,138,15,7,232,110,176,0.08900000000000001,0.7240000000000001,0.187,0.971,2,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,5,0,0,3,5,13,1,0,4,0,18,3,0,1,1,23,33,10,0,1,3,1,5,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,3,10,0,0,5,0,0,3,5,3,0,0,6,5,21,10,24,27,4,26,0,0,0,1,23,11,0,1,12,88,24,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14490687668885535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11908458750063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.241654803300886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518649664404034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511918960633664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2961786058935297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627800757621606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13642038227047346,0.0,0.2195102552628788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1118031386946424,0.0,0.15121075073988258,0.0,0.0,0.1213764811810234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963237569629174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15322775158771415,0.0,0.0,0.10221345692867356,0.0,0.0,0.3833466351539172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13060706930200466,0.0,0.09659552531689687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11550671132369628,0.3076091749619617,0.10637902544545556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11005901893975817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814275090704467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14722282061655526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09270538894179636,0.0,0.0,0.15536515040297974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284320067795845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438198108778795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08535412846441813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2795668659383576 divorce,SoSad0710,2019/03/10,"He's actually a psychopath... Yes he's been diagnosed. I thought he was bipolar for a long time so after years of trying to get him to see a psychologist/ psychiatrist I finally succeed and the diagnoses was devastating. It basically shattered any hope I had for a future with him. There are no effective treatments for psychopathy. He has been physically abusive, had an affair, and is a habitual liar. I know no one understands why I would even want a future with him and I don't really either but ya love who ya love... even of they are truly incapable of loving you back. Its been a rough 5 years and I left physically a year ago to move in with family for my safety but I was still trying to reconcile and work on our marriage. I set boundaries, he violated all of them. I have seen some real improvement lately but its just not enough. I can't handle the habitual lying. I catch him lying almost daily. At the very minimum 3-4 times a week. Its dumb stuff too but after the affair I just cant handle it anymore. Im very sad this is how it is. Im just trying to cope right now. I know what I have to do, Im just having a very difficult time letting go. I feel very alone in my life because I have no one around me who understands what Im experiencing. I guess Im just hear to vent... get advice... hear how others got through... I dont know, just not be alone. Anyway, thanks for listening. 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My STBX left me and the kids a little over a month ago and it’s been absolutely heartbreaking. My 5 year old cries daily for her dad and my 2.5 years old is always asking for him. I have been pretty good when it comes to not contacting him but tonight I just lost it and I went off on him via txt. My questions is how did you stop contacting your ex and where did you get your strength form? ,2.7616372391653283,4.136261471910114,3.15733547351525,95.07157303370786,74.73033707865169,6.8834670947030485,21.703049759229536,7.447530270364453,0.3837499197431775,337,8,79,4,7,104,60,89,0.103,0.7829999999999999,0.114,0.2648,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,6,0,3,5,5,0,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,12,14,8,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,6,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,7,0,18,3,6,7,2,18,0,2,0,0,17,7,0,1,9,52,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1981086433479174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18595993412112244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20893112804528244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19251513841500836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24549109344325684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335265304204251,0.0,0.0,0.18745114607362626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24282038533476036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239937063164193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439635718110152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17838600366516089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4690261600505222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22736765956830055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503577276520157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18684599007177632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20717563159774208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878379123338228 divorce,Jadedclone,2019/03/10,"What’s the best financial way to end things? Hi, My wife and I have been discussing divorce off and on for years. We have young children, so it would be involved. The most daunting part is how the kids would react, long term effects and having them subjected to being shuttled around back and forth. Financially, I’d probably be better off ending things now. We really don’t want anything to do with each other, but are not openly hostile. Most of the time. If you could structure anything, married but separate houses, in house but apart, post nups, etc. but knew the long term was we go our separate ways, what would you structure? What would be the most economically beneficial? My thought is to live together, do a post nup (though, I hear they often aren’t enforceable if contested), separate vacations, and travel for work more. In the end, it’s the same and I’d see my kids more with less impact to them. Thoughts? 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What would you advise to do if your spouse locked your child’s phone so you don’t have access to it? I’m at the very beginning of being separated and my spouse is manipulating and brainwashing my 11 year old son. ,1.6062499999999993,4.265183791666669,3.017500000000002,87.67750000000002,86.08333333333334,6.533333333333335,18.416666666666664,7.793537801064563,0.7011416666666666,194,5,40,4,6,63,37,48,0.113,0.887,0.0,-0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,0,0,1,0,5,8,4,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,4,6,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,1,3,24,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6384592103840955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5020296940533086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322208786516365,0.0,0.0,0.3918177318882672 divorce,thatnewkevlar,2019/03/10,"how long till you feel introducing someone to your kids? hey guys, still going through the divorce but texas has decided to drag it out. my daughter is two and my STBX left the state without her, along with catching a DWI with a minor in the car(her kid) pretty confident in getting custody. what im wondering is ive been dating this girl for a bit and im just wondering when is the right time to even have a love interest around her",6.064767441860467,6.066779662790703,6.211023255813953,81.16769767441862,66.32558139534882,9.670697674418603,34.64186046511628,9.3871,2.9894446511627915,345,15,69,6,5,110,67,86,0.025,0.7809999999999999,0.194,0.9587,0,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,15,13,6,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,3,7,0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,1,1,7,2,14,12,1,15,0,0,0,1,12,6,0,2,6,47,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090058536853255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341172591718852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14163821029800214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10842930734271948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11203811602694676,0.0,0.1218734419106697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2123332310145628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4632725419362892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23299398536744875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897761526732868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19354404250752727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21816659698259752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1831339665011869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1816976678026487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17125522006353786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1250439951053517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20948058483375967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20671632088418934,0.4651106448694186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,a9temp876,2019/03/11,"I know i need a lawyer but my head is spinning. Please help So about 3 weeks ago my wife decided that she wanted to leave me for her ex boyfriend (she broke up with him seven years ago for which weve been married) I freaked out becauae she wouldnt talk to me and i threw her stainless water cup and dinged our bedroom door and i punched the door to our bathroom because she wouldnt even look at me. After a day of begging her to please stay she agreed to break things off with him. Turns out she didnt break things off (she continued to tell me she loved me, kissed me, even had sex with me a few times) even though all of her actions seemed like she had. Today she drained our bank account (took 4 grand) and took our two kids (5 and 3) and left with him and went to a hotel who knows where. She says it all started when about 6 months ago she came out as bi (7 years into a marriage,) and wanted to be open. I was approached by a woman in that process and she told me she wanted me to have sex with her. I did and couldnt really get it up because i wasnt comfortable (tried twice then broke it off.) She now says shes filing a protective order because im violent and that she has proof i committed adultery and shes blocking all of my calls and texts. I know tomorrow morning i need to get a lawyer but now i have almost no money. Someone help please. 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He had an affair. We have three kids. 6, 2, and 2. We’ve been living apart for about 6 months now. He lives with his girlfriend. Our six year old was under the impression that he had to live closer to his job, which was far away. For those who are having trouble breaking the news.. this is what worked for us. I don’t know if it was the right way or not, but it was something like this. (Fwiw, he and I are amicable. I’m heartbroken. I want him back. But I don’t want a tumultuous relationship and I know that this is something I cannot change) “Daddy and I wanted to talk to you about something we’ve been working on for a few months now. We’ve been having some grown up problems that we’ve been trying to figure out. We decided that the answer for us is instead of being married, we’re going to be only best friends. We love each other very much, but we think that being best friends only will help our problems instead of husband and wife. Our grown up problems have nothing to do with you, or your brother or sister, and I’ll always be your mommy and daddy will always be your daddy, and we’re still each other’s family.” And then we had to address the fact that she’ll now be visiting him at the other woman’s house. So I said “This means that daddy is going to move a bit closer so he can see you more. Daddy’s friend ___ has enough space at her house, so she said daddy can come stay there. So now when you visit daddy, you can visit him at ___ house.” (She’s met her in public settings already, so she knows who I was talking about.” And then my husband added in “and one day we might get married again”. Which he’s been telling me this entire time and belongs in a rant post, tbh. I wish he hadn’t said that. But overall. She took it very well. Maybe because it was a lot of fluff, but we didn’t have an angry marriage where she saw us fighting or anything like that. She didn’t have any questions and I’m sure we’ll hit some hurdles, but there were no tears, anger, or confusion. It was probably the hardest conversation I’ve ever had and I don’t know how I held it together, and this is the last thing that I want, but I do feel better. 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I found out about the affair in December, we agreed to work through it. On February 13th I went to work and when i came home he and our dog were gone, and the note on the table said he would be back in a couple days to discuss divorce. On Feb 17th he and our dog came back so we could talk. I said I was open to pretty much everything he was asking for, all I wanted was to share the dog. He refused, and things got ugly. I hired a lawyer, only because I want my dog. We don't have kids or own a house, so there's nothing of value to really dispute. Just the dog. In early February we found out our dog has a tumor, and arranged for surgery. The vet said afterwards we would know whether or not it was cancerous. That surgery took place February 20th. I asked a mutual friend how the dog was, but all they could tell me was that he did ok in surgery. I've only had contact with my stbx through police and our lawyers, and he has refused to give any updates on my dogs well being. I tried to stop by the vets and asked, but he has me blocked from getting any information. I know that he's only doing this because its literally the only thing I care about. I'm not sure why he's so intent on hurting me. It's been a long 3 weeks. I don't miss my stbx at all. But I am a wreck without my dog. My house feels empty. I still look for him when i walk in the door. I don't know what to do. 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I want a divorce. I'm afraid he'll kill himself. I'm 35, he's 45. We had our 10th anniversary a few months ago. No kids, we live with my parents, no real shared assets, just our joint checking account, NY state. I've become more and more unhappy over the last several years, as his behavior has gotten worse. He's been sober for 5+ years now, but it hasn't helped our relationship or his anger. He's not violent, he doesn't yell at me or insult me, but he's always angry. He fumes silently and shuts down. Whenever he does choose to communicate with me, I end up feeling deeply depressed by his hopelessness. I feel like he's drowning and pulling me under with him. He's already so close to giving up on everything. I'm afraid that he'll end his life if I ask him to leave. He's on his way to serious health problems in the near future, including needing an organ transplant. I don't want to abandon him when he needs my support the most, but I also have severe depression and sometimes I want to just end my own life and he makes it so hard for me to be happy. I do have happiness. It's at work. It's like my heart soars all day at work, then crashes and burns when I go back home. I want to leave him. I don't want to hurt him. But I'm already hurting him by not loving him like I used you. He can see the difference, and maybe it's part of the reason why his behavior is declining. I don't know exactly what I'm looking for by posting here, just that I feel like I need help. I called one of his family members and told her everything here. She's the one he's closest to, and I wanted a reassurance that she would support him. She agreed, and was quite supportive of my decision as well. She's going to call him tomorrow and then get back to me. I don't know when I'll tell him. We have opposing work schedules, and I normally don't see him during the week. I feel like I have a lot more to say, but this is getting overwhelming...",2.374769207972143,3.793112721271392,3.986423649699933,88.55686300659407,75.82151589242055,7.598162554641773,25.352374601763355,8.296473431620573,1.4610074979625112,1529,53,337,27,33,511,202,409,0.14400000000000002,0.688,0.168,0.8356,1,0,0,0,1,1,55.0,6,1,0,4,15,31,5,4,12,0,21,5,1,3,2,62,61,30,2,13,13,1,5,5,0,3,3,2,1,1,10,19,0,2,9,0,2,3,11,17,1,2,5,10,64,14,40,52,9,42,0,7,3,1,66,15,0,5,26,199,74,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732329211423906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18233468754727666,0.06606692253722085,0.068742024381136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723356520825789,0.0,0.0,0.12705116497319455,0.0,0.0,0.09124141339563356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1687176318951325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05327962824280777,0.0,0.1423117901223339,0.0,0.0,0.08631474754081385,0.0,0.0,0.07229665530763846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21951623147229124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484974785095098,0.0,0.07788175928531346,0.0,0.16708983976843195,0.17705981237227206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08632551158760361,0.0792515203372502,0.09390364275092107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17588970694986794,0.0740065180256211,0.0,0.0,0.08781553201871406,0.0,0.09789878288894892,0.11074974503471773,0.0,0.08286925098445626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768814279290678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09140089306081776,0.0,0.09080572522388082,0.06734198328437084,0.0,0.17495401590832596,0.0,0.0,0.11670637064270532,0.2018067760702964,0.0,0.07295026804889737,0.0,0.06937551658912287,0.0,0.0,0.07023603894112737,0.0745629660542343,0.0,0.05514593439456469,0.0,0.0829975411688955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06594224218866855,0.0,0.0,0.18377319518152693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809448368077901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119636782850983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09173381533943233,0.0894636379336382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07912201799734216,0.0,0.0,0.07905108277567477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878708718312439,0.0,0.0940335822318605,0.0,0.0849416412245131,0.0,0.08869723895818693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569850227574803,0.08271169789983022,0.0,0.1316663932318314,0.0,0.0,0.1866621257591504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170802205382234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2812504488099827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14441772765627392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07894185849817204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07135255039069359,0.0,0.0,0.2923696405084321,0.06557568042987326,0.06626850582240265,0.0,0.07428051083681292,0.0,0.0745468906720659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18043339323474947,0.0,0.08419140770044238,0.058687091935592524,0.0,0.0,0.10640227896929254 divorce,jwwilkinson84,2019/03/11,"Seeking some advice Long story short, my wife of 10+ years is wanting a divorce. She's been seeing her boss for about 2 months and has decided we are too different to continue our relationship. Also, it's pretty much impossible to stay together as many issues of trust have built up recently, most noticeably, SHE'S SLEEPING WITH HER BOSS!! &#x200B; On to my issues. This mostly boils down to finances at this point. She is fairly successful and brings in approximately $120,000 and year and I, by comparison, make about half of that. She also has accrued about $375,000.00 in school debt, that might be forgiven if she continues at the same job for another 8 years. I, on the other hand, only have a car payment and some credit card debt, totaling $25,000.00. She has offered that if I move out, she will help stock a new apartment with goods such as a couch, bed, kitchen table, bedroom furniture, etc. We also will be splitting the bank account down the middle, leaving each party with about $10,000.00 in funds. Cellphones and insurance plans will be split and I'll have to start carrying health insurance for the first time as well. After some basic number crunching, my monthly expenses will be around $2500.00 while hers will be around $4500.00. &#x200B; I'm wondering if I should just take her offer and run with it or if I should seek legal recourse and ruin what might have been an amicable split? &#x200B; All questions and recommendations welcome! Thanks!",7.278285776997367,8.320985832089555,6.717190517998247,74.98233099209834,63.8134328358209,9.7387181738367,35.16769095697981,9.773937934552695,3.4977618086040376,1185,52,200,23,17,367,170,268,0.032,0.8370000000000001,0.131,0.9758,4,0,0,0,1,0,61.0,3,0,0,3,13,8,0,0,10,0,26,5,2,3,2,45,35,22,0,7,6,1,1,0,0,9,1,0,4,0,9,20,2,0,3,0,8,4,0,1,1,2,2,2,22,7,37,19,11,37,0,1,1,0,23,17,0,14,15,140,31,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235950541084436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2513031999188309,0.0,0.3404864763449557,0.38184448213572336,0.0,0.10983845429334503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864976269181968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944040489132902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11682281836151015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909944147592141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08785848706579287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134328320118396,0.0,0.0,0.07021104320834512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2186614718806972,0.10394721431572207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109140609449014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269956414986306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699207674261932,0.10619903973438348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22224426029799507,0.0,0.0,0.16721929659025028,0.1113316041820634,0.07700256376053563,0.0,0.0,0.1011672319215982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11925742486496843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07966633072490481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09902165796446773,0.0,0.0,0.10656738566706322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11734284712293197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034269953638211,0.11246121921096927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601157503153948,0.08347138696697799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482464328317824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07414187766795374,0.1116484911722038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787582079252704,0.0,0.0,0.09643880095147192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061079981243899226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06178367109290979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418192618441748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11359581658050408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38184448213572336,0.2023647549844248 divorce,Projectinprocess,2019/03/11,"May I ask for feedback? As someone who has been through divorce and is hoping to make it my life's work to helping others going through it, I wonder if any one would be kind enough to answer some questions? What are your fears going through a divorce? What are some of your most prevalent feelings; relief, sadness, overwhelm? Do you feel like your attorney is your advocate and on your side working for your best interests? Would you feel more empowered or in control if you had a roadmap, or information before the divorce or hiring an attorney to prepare you for what comes next? Did you consider mediation or only family court? Thank you to any and everyone kind enough to answer. I truly appreciate it. 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Had been extraordinarily careful with how I talked with my stbx because I don't want a long drawn out battle, but when she said she wants to take our child to visit her out of state ""friend"" I kinda lost my shit. We were going to give it some time, give her an opportunity to find a job and maybe an apartment - come to some kind of agreement with custody and alimony. She just left in a rage when I told her that she wasn't going to like the outcome of this whole thing. I meant it in a way to say that neither of us were going to get exactly what we want splitting up, but my autism had it come out kinda threatening. Fuck I'm a moron. She's got a well off buddy that she's probably going to tap for lawyer money now; looks like I'll be living in a cardboard box and eating ramen while still being the only motherfucker with a job. Pray for me and our kid, if you're into that sort of thing. Thanks. 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My lawyer is not protecting my interests. My lawyer makes me feel WAY worse about my situation when I leave the office than I did before I went in. My lawyer only emphasizes what I have done wrong, and no real legal advice. It feels like she is working for my ex and not me. She won’t even give me any legal strategy or tell me what is reasonable to ask for. I fell misguided, unempowered, and confused.",3.4441758241758222,4.861131659340664,4.910769230769231,83.00923076923078,73.06593406593407,8.716483516483517,23.98901098901099,9.23628265651192,1.8017868131868133,355,10,73,8,7,119,65,91,0.146,0.795,0.059,-0.7987,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,1,2,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,15,5,0,0,3,1,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,1,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,2,19,2,7,11,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,5,48,22,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2207746812978178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15363910368510933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112126167674407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224848338226794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.145705169393846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.231203260484842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149223620416374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2284724406906539,0.16140334061000156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803829816117492,0.2167311705486168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2392256230456844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11037723596022944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.150809004817458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21820311944284745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718287784350122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25715605531937824,0.0,0.23229209045541105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539530608038872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19747143669749828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793314994918567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20943795062802956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16447861338775074,0.0,0.2302404075455472,0.0,0.2470173097420968,0.0,0.0 divorce,adanacs,2019/03/11,"Am I crazy? Why do I feel like it's all my fault? Not sure if this is the correct sub, but I've got to start somewhere. I have been with my wife for 18 years. Married for 15.5. We had our first child 18 months in, and now have 7 kids. Throughout our relationship we have never been able to talk. I had a lot of things to deal with on my end, and have made a lot of changes over the last 6 years including stopping smoking and drinking, going to counseling, dealing with anxiety, taking better care of myself and trying to be a better father and husband. Over all I have been making good progress and developing great relationships with the kids. My attempts have been met with anger and distance from my wife. When I stopped drinking I was told I was an asshole without drinking. When I finally decided that I couldn't have any more kids (because we agreed on 3 and ended up at 7 because of my being co-dependent and trying to make her happy) she kicked me out of her bed, told me she'd hated me for almost our entire relationship and that I was disgusting. A month later she wanted to make amends and figure things out. Over the year that followed we did a few more things together, but there was still no communication between us. After a growing discomfort and a fight over how to help kids through their issues (she hasn't had time to do any reading/work on learning about parenting), I moved myself back into my own bed and said that I needed time. A month later I said I wanted to separate. She agreed, saying we should work on being friends. Over this last weekend she wrote me a note, telling me how she's felt over the years, telling me that it's not fair that I haven't tried to make things work, that all she ever wanted was a friend and we never were, that if it was important to me then I would make an effort, that I've cut her off from my life over the years. She's now saying she can't just sit around and wait for me to leave because she'll be waiting for me to come back. My feeling was that she was blaming me for everything that was wrong in our relationship. Then when we talked she pulled up 10 year old issues to blame me for. A clean break would be easier, but I want to try to and mitigate some of the effects on our finances and the kids. Basically I'm feeling that it's all on my shoulders and that it's all my fault for screwing things up. Is this normal? Am I crazy? Is feeling that you've not done enough normal? How do you know when you've done enough? Where the Thanks for listening to my ramble......",5.7792112408362755,5.5434329488188965,5.922039098560956,83.80460629921261,66.95275590551181,8.817920173771382,29.721965788759164,8.216663640201805,1.8415599239750209,1990,62,415,23,29,632,225,508,0.117,0.759,0.124,0.6844,2,0,3,0,1,0,56.0,13,1,1,9,18,21,6,1,22,0,49,6,1,10,10,94,85,32,0,13,10,5,5,1,2,4,1,5,3,6,27,35,3,4,10,4,1,6,11,10,0,1,29,10,75,11,69,45,14,72,0,0,0,1,65,25,1,6,40,302,102,4,0.07255123293379555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072649579779312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09867465256553434,0.0,0.05550149461289644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06458597906569075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11157483961148602,0.0,0.13267967460073127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12833133943306965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07397081726221001,0.0,0.07674958449377267,0.062496463047271564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959427088159108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484902010826534,0.0,0.21321776319681246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851771606505247,0.14992963557529576,0.0,0.0,0.06562674382509158,0.0,0.0,0.06520437003039017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14673633316786214,0.051830615304325325,0.06966056116908571,0.0794763294027237,0.0,0.061712041670671965,0.0,0.0,0.11210580518707153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04123253762009507,0.060852532014935776,0.05802584865841665,0.07998799043786176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07723213654271993,0.0,0.07162932219397533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04862956212116856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15144927556160648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03987226024175677,0.11827787625022244,0.0,0.07682128010583493,0.0,0.0,0.05124508141600189,0.0354448677071241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12336092756734257,0.0,0.06864973081738159,0.2421425567643254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17372910584585566,0.07711047883956675,0.0,0.0537958199270749,0.11191196696036124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14216960837962486,0.0,0.0,0.07613031453301014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805595583134265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115714905197228,0.0,0.0,0.1380256731704182,0.11539130484443795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135213608968706,0.0,0.05793950833917728,0.12131215872363095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06837867843152877,0.0,0.05454949805387062,0.11662786568065135,0.12682595081834674,0.06679542771988323,0.0,0.0,0.24099907690878206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08461041473051255,0.0,0.0,0.13865162436604936,0.0,0.1970300990961634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08727020022165767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17117038768792395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06546620310034611,0.0,0.0,0.06993679955139412,0.0,0.1584544849704511,0.0,0.0,0.10307662855920728,0.07932338392975387,0.0,0.2803236919425369 divorce,laststraw8,2019/03/11,"Can someone just tell me I'm not crazy .... for thinking divorce is my only option? We have a plethora of issues that cause me to desire ending the marriage, but most notably the thing causing the most resentment is that he won't do a single chore or help out around the house. I have been working 10+ hour days on my feet and I still have to do ALL the chores including cooking and pet care. He works less hours than I do and his job is less physically demanding but he still won't pick up a broom. After a long day I asked maybe he could make dinner tomorrow? He replied ""But, I have work."" Bitch, I have work too and an extra 4-5 hours longer than you. He didn't make dinner of course. I feel like i'm losing my mind trying to sustain a marriage with a man child. I don't feel like I have a partner at all and he refuses to change. I told him he needs to help out more like with the grocery shopping and he told me he would NEVER do the grocerg shopping. We've been together for a long time but just thinking about all this makes me feel like bailing out. 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My then wife now soon to be ex took her rings off months ago because they didn’t fit. When I knew we were getting a divorce I took the rings out of the vanity in the bathroom and hit them initially it was because of all my anger. She is upset that I took them but is not making an issue of getting them back. 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Divorce occurred in the state of Florida. Divorce entered 11/6/2018 Ex routinely brought child to Dr from dates in early 2017 to just before finalization of divorce in 11/2018. In that time he did not ask me to pay/contribute to any of the medical bills. Multiple times he did not call to say he was briging the child to the dr and I would get emails from Dr that notified me of a visit. There is one minor child. (the reason why I am not emailing my attorney is because he ate the remainder of what I owed him and zeroed out my account balance... I cant message him... Unless someone here thinks I should... I feel like I am isolated in this.. ) Wording in MSA: 9. The Wife shall maintain health insurance for the minor child for as long as it is available to her at a reasonable cost. a. ""Uncovered Health Care Expenses"" means all past and future ordinary, reasonable and necessary expenses not covered by insurance and incurred for medical, health, dental, psychological or psychiatric care on behalf of a child who is the subject of this agreement, including but not limited to hospitalization, prescriptions, physicians, dentists, orthodontics (including braces), contact lenses and eyeglasses, examinations, and insurance co-payments, and which are incurred while either party has a legal duty to support the child. The husband shall pay 44% and the wife shall pay 56% of the reasonable and necessary Uncovered Health Care Expenses. The percentages of the parties' obligation for these costs are based on their current incomes. b. The party obtaining such uncovered health care expenses for a child shall present, within thirty (30) days of payment, to the other party a copy of each medical providers bill, together with proof of payment. Within thirty (30) days from the receipt of said bill, the other party shall reimburse to the paying party or directly to the medical provider, his or her child support percentage share of any costs and expenses not covered by insurance. Neither party shall be empowered to obligate the other party to any unusual medical expenses without prior consultation and agreement with the other party; except in the case of an emergency. The payments of these expenses are enforceable by contempt. The failure of a paying party to provide proof of payment to the other party is deemed a waiver of the right to payment by the other party. &#x200B; So am I or am I not responsible for those bills from 2017 and 2018, the time before the divorce was final? Its over 500$ that I do not have.... He crippled me financially, said he would do it and did it. &#x200B;",8.71667701863354,9.351136614906835,8.580978260869568,64.26538043478264,60.69772256728778,12.117391304347828,41.473602484472046,11.698219412168324,5.4678335403726726,2207,117,326,63,28,714,224,483,0.039,0.809,0.152,0.9957,4,0,0,0,5,0,83.0,0,0,1,2,5,11,1,0,44,0,33,19,0,4,3,54,50,24,0,3,18,5,1,1,0,9,18,3,0,8,21,19,1,2,8,0,24,4,11,1,0,2,10,4,23,10,77,29,4,40,0,0,0,0,46,15,0,4,21,237,44,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16328023094398605,0.183113455480216,0.1537187803068205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07044071692721811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0459317727971049,0.0,0.12823212178208196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07693928745170048,0.0,0.307291447525326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718715433941297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038098487596698094,0.05382901457792611,0.0,0.2476219394020346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03936650411607248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4004598917623126,0.0,0.0,0.05050454047224282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03681149238373452,0.0,0.0,0.06668108997431288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08207665312434831,0.0,0.5313401140078093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05105812315503118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14385742139572347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3098834082666173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434724450675075,0.14334743914565262,0.059920186111690026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638425764470494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17100926863301805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04828030427537643,0.0,0.0,0.13180902506842487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799034085084307,0.0,0.0,0.0726333071772607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1070508869859782,0.0,0.183113455480216,0.04852199165658514 divorce,Pitiful_Step,2019/03/11,"When do you know when it's over? I hope this is ok to post here. He(M,30s) and I (F,30s) have been together for 7 years. The first few were lovely. We never really had a fight, we traveled and got to see a lot of awesome things together, and then he wanted to settle down. The only place I could really make this happen was my small hometown. &#x200B; ""BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE"". I hear that a lot. I tell myself that a lot. Since living here he has been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder which has, at times, caused him to be violent. Since this last medication change, he hasn't been so. He loves me dearly and I know this. He loves me the best he can. He goes to work even though he'd rather die. He tells me I'm beautiful and that I don't have to do this chore or that chore because I deserve rest. &#x200B; But at the same time he says vile things about my friends and family, people I love. He and my family had a big falling out over Christmas and he refuses to speak to or see anyone in my family. He says he doesn't mind when I see them but he certainly makes his displeasure known when I do. &#x200B; And now we have to move, because the reason for all his problems is living here (/s). It is a shitty shitty state, I agree, but every opportunity I've had or looked into is wrong. Seattle/Portland, too expensive. Nashville, Austin? No, those are red states. I've applied to probably 30 boards across the country, just seeing if anyone even offers me a job and if that location is acceptable to him. &#x200B; When I think of leaving... leaving my parents and family yet again, it hurts so much. But my husband has no family whatsoever. If he didn't have me he would be on the streets. But the idea of having to choose a new place just hoping he'll be better there, trying to sell a house in a shit market, storing our stuff because you know we'll be in a tiny apartment, etc with his volatility is something I dread greatly. &#x200B; How do you leave someone who holds you and says he loves you more than anything? How do you leave someone who has nobody else in his life to help? How do you know when it's time to fight through it and time to save yourself? 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I’m married in an open relationship and have been with my bf long term. He is finally getting a divorce after 15 years and multiple separations and filings. (She knows, this isn’t an infidelity thing and she has her own life) I haven’t ever been through a divorce or have any close friends go through one. I’m looking for advice from men on how can I support him? What kind of “phases” do guys go through once they find themselves alone in an empty house? How can I show him I’m supporting him without interfering in the figuring things out work he has to do? I just feel so bad for him and the kids. 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His parents think I’m going to take him back because he’s “so remorseful.” I’ve seen him act “remorseful” before though, but he is sick and has not gone a prolonged period of time without abusing me. His parents will not stop pushing me to take him back, and write off my fears as being “way out there in left field.” What do I do? I’m trying so hard to move on with my life, and I want nothing more than to be done with him. 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All the data collected is completely anonymous and confidential. To take part all you have to do is complete the survey on the link bellow! If you have any further questions please feel free to contact myself (Emily.platt@mail.bcu.ac.uk) or my dissertation supervisor (Stacey.bedwell@bcu.ac.uk) Thank you for your time! https://blss.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_9H4O0ioqdCVvVw9 ",11.11487080103359,15.766625500000007,7.483178294573642,58.431459948320466,61.44186046511628,10.333850129198968,40.95090439276485,10.25414643259724,5.8533865633074935,507,27,55,14,9,141,72,86,0.024,0.8759999999999999,0.1,0.7639,2,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,0,2,9,12,3,0,2,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,9,3,7,11,3,7,0,0,0,0,12,3,0,3,4,34,9,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13610774338144324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17031150673265372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6295552202402884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120102103364922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14840746763746135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21002202783791252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444821199674985,0.2167411619238244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197027881102377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22421196139978347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15048665264408684,0.0,0.0,0.1842697126116276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1167081141521091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25777795434893874 divorce,ChatterCatt,2019/03/11,"Parents are getting divorced... I'm shellshocked. I'm the youngest ""kid"" in my family. I'm 21, and I found out that my parents will be divorced at the end of the month, just before their 38 year anniversary in July. My father had a past of cheating on my mother before I was born, but they managed to move past it and everything was seemingly fine for several years, at least as far as I knew. Around 2012-2013 it happened again, but again they moved past it and tried to make it work. My mother found out, yet again, that for around the past year he's been doing it more. My father has claimed for years he's polyamorus, meanwhile my mother is very very much a monogamous person. Dad I guess could just never accept it, even when she tried to force herself to be ok with them being in a more open relationship, he would still go behind her back and cheat or do things she made clear she wasn't ok with. I won't go into the gritty details, but this past month had been absolutely hell for my mother and her mental health, and now understanding the reason and what he's put her through I want to hate him with every fiber of my being, I want to rip him apart and tear him down, but most of all I want the father I thought I had back... Despite all of the hell he put her through she still wanted to make it work, but he didn't, and he decided he was done. Nearly 38 years. My entire life I don't know how the hell to feel but I'm so angry and hurt and sad and just--- everything... What do I do? How to I ever have any sort of relationship with him now? He's not at all the man I thought he was and I feel like my whole world shattered today. I know that he will always, without question be there for me, I just don't know how the hell I can ever even respect him anymore...",3.9840476190476175,4.5078222582417595,4.5887362637362665,89.17709706959705,70.92307692307693,7.3853479853479875,25.33150183150183,7.1686216300943375,0.8861688644688637,1378,37,304,12,24,440,171,364,0.156,0.7859999999999999,0.059,-0.994,2,0,0,0,2,0,49.0,0,0,4,2,26,15,7,0,14,2,33,2,0,7,7,74,62,27,0,6,13,10,2,1,0,4,2,0,0,3,14,23,0,0,16,0,0,6,8,9,0,0,18,2,48,6,44,34,9,53,4,2,0,0,47,18,4,6,30,208,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07420611802862306,0.0,0.0,0.0606464502522137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844404351088714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15878081207517927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13715007418754654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15177370609245816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120413821453256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09126359565258614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07898830217507867,0.0,0.0,0.11780702509935248,0.1613394707200968,0.07513922553471687,0.0,0.1603010897109036,0.0,0.08407234255656752,0.0,0.0901856505017512,0.06371125209704193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955657332348993,0.0,0.0,0.04659363147522367,0.0,0.1013677566237736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824343144596766,0.0,0.07886286962797663,0.0,0.0,0.08804822742399056,0.0,0.09479572055656904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095470596306571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470353926357557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06299150186927986,0.04356955611612103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438565278107495,0.11905863271622633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08987393492404767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14236757939491804,0.189571554488618,0.06555863368240886,0.0,0.06878223900896263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1980509125117312,0.0,0.42566896832678586,0.0,0.07786981007063352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17930399666886318,0.09990364416575223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09169339295717452,0.0,0.19149502337758864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118745081165017,0.0,0.10074966412655054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14244085664435222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0592481985943488,0.0,0.0,0.1416002334899236,0.0,0.0,0.08453359537543638,0.0,0.0,0.12109671321201985,0.0,0.0,0.09284104392565393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14716808695231445,0.21040614041530872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09956791407020628,0.0,0.08596774398522954,0.0,0.12985032853117456,0.0,0.0,0.0633519497008631,0.0,0.0,0.28714967819148624 divorce,Kittylox,2019/03/11,"Just left husband...now what do I do? Today, while my husband was at work, I hastily packed up my clothes and toiletries into my car, took off to a girlfriend’s house and changed my number. Unfortunately, my husband would not have let me leave if I had told him I wanted to go. He would go on a wild rage and threaten to hurt himself/others. So I had to vanish. I sent him an email detailing the logistics of my leaving, but I haven’t heard from him yet. I believe that he was probably cheating on me, but I wasn’t going to stick around and wait for proof. The emotional (and sometimes sexual) abuse was enough reason to leave anyway. I am lucky I have a supportive friend out here, and even though I live a few hours from my family, they are supportive over the phone. I am grateful for the good people in my life, and I am grateful that my STBX and I have only been married four years with no kids. However, my head is spinning, trying to figure out all the tasks I have to do in order to find a new place and start a new life. Another scary thing is that my cats are still there, and they will be until I have an apartment. I can only pray he won’t hurt them. He hasn’t before, but he always threatens to because he hates them. How am I supposed to fall asleep tonight and go to work in the morning? How am i going to call these places and return calls from prospective landlords while I am scrubbed into surgery? (Surg tech here) How will I have time to deal with getting bills out of my name and getting new utilities set up? (I already have a crazy busy month planned.) How fucked will I be financially, cause it is looking rather grim. I feel like I want to do everything at once and my brain is moving like a whirlwind while my body is stuck in molasses, because 5 minutes feels like an hour to me. I feel frustrated with having to wait for anything at all. Within the span of a few hours, I have suddenly become manic, and as far as I know, I am not bipolar. How do I calm down when I have so much to do? How can I bring myself to sleep and relax? And how long will this crazy feeling last??? 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We were only married for 5 years and only together for 9 years before he asked for a divorce this January. Apparently he was never in love with me and we never had any chemistry or passion in our marriage but he has felt this with other people including his current lover (for lack of a better word). I was devastated but a friend (who happens to be a therapist) asked me if I really wanted to be with someone who was unhappy and I realized the answer was “no.” So I stopped begging him to go to couples counseling and trying to be more intimate and started working on the divorce paperwork and going to individual counseling to work on myself. We filed for an uncontested divorce two weeks ago and I moved out a couple days later. I am trying so hard to work on myself and unpack all of my stuff after the move as well as dealing with a new stressful (in a good way) job that I just started last month. With everything going on I rarely have any quiet moments so it’s really jarring when all of a sudden it dawns on me that I’m not on a work trip or something and going back to my ex afterwards, this is real, this is happening. It’s weird that I know and accept that this is my new reality and yet still this “dawning” happens to me every couple of days. It feels like some kind of coping mechanism that my subconscious has devised to protect me. Anyone know what I’m talking about?",4.794315789473687,5.601697273684208,6.490175438596497,75.24789473684213,69.24561403508773,9.228070175438598,31.842105263157894,9.414487439383343,3.003947368421052,1133,48,207,23,19,392,157,285,0.095,0.8,0.105,0.6342,3,0,1,0,3,0,21.0,4,0,0,5,10,12,0,1,13,0,17,3,0,0,4,44,37,22,0,3,7,3,3,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,20,20,0,2,7,0,0,7,4,2,1,1,7,4,28,10,41,27,5,45,0,0,0,3,25,11,0,4,27,154,48,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09525304781069233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614720335316447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07513556592616523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009132604465779,0.0,0.0,0.08262684666138939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143693734633812,0.0,0.0,0.09503588750035162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3566932640968411,0.0,0.13860015133031228,0.11078217028674203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09053611240519982,0.0,0.09657430838195738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05433286098610424,0.076766416479349,0.10317438100035324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302005369040369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442783391136395,0.09012879335992836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2850683213098684,0.0,0.09625925457883806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663326119406304,0.0,0.0,0.1118986383964119,0.11810975106970252,0.08759078640302924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052497456580135334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0969830188346787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08577016251650857,0.22841693461533036,0.0,0.0,0.1657530132385926,0.20756288538931006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344989538168891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07449629410478578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230818004277805,0.1376778229519687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104691681758242,0.08272469393113903,0.0,0.0,0.1521154801276747,0.0,0.0858143088145593,0.0898378269861094,0.1230902101285834,0.0,0.12301113673829535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863688696089173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12476441961708795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14591081504024958,0.0,0.10496866367582404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338019138413663,0.08529338070593173,0.0861945291130907,0.0,0.09661563323937923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129162925513201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383959728456326 divorce,taitmelo,2019/03/12,"(TX) Child Support via Payroll This may be confusing, please bear with me. We are located in TX, been legally separated since May 2018. In our temporary orders, my STBXH is ordered to pay $250 weekly in child support, along with some other payments he is to maintain, including the kids' and my health insurance. He allowed health insurance to lapse in Nov '18 without notifying me. The kids have not been insured for 3 months and I had no idea until my son needed to go to the clinic last week. I have health insurance through my job, but can't add them to my plan until the divorce is final. I've applied for state benefits to hold us over until then, but I'm not sure if we will qualify with my income. Is there anything else I should/could do? In addition, the $250 weekly that he is ordered to pay has been direct-deposited to my account via his company payroll (we were the only two ""employees"" while we were together), which means that taxes are withheld every week. It's not a ton, but I lose a little over $100 a month in withholdings. I received a W2 from his business, but my attorney told me that neither of us can file until the divorce is final and the court determines who can claim the children. I'm not sure what to do when it comes time to file taxes. From my understanding, child support can't be included as income, so can I use the W2 when I file? Also, what happens to the $1k+ that was withheld if I don't submit the W2? Is he required to pay that back? Technically he did pay, but I didn't receive it. My attorney did said that he ""isn't supposed"" to be paying child support with payroll but that doesn't change the fact that he's been doing so for the last year. To add: he was paying us with payroll for tax reasons (I don't know what the reasons were, presumably to make it appear like his company makes less profit) and as the two employees, we were able to get group PPO insurance that wasn't available on the marketplace. 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When my brother married, my mom's partner gave me her engagement ring to use in case I ever got serious enough for engagement. On the way to his wedding, my then 12-year-old cousin found the ring, and then STBX found it, and we became engaged soon thereafter. Perhaps many parts of this story will tie back to my potentially terminal case of optimism. &#x200B; Fast forward four years, and you get to a significant turning point. Google desktop was on our laptop back in those days, and I had no idea what a nefarious program that was. Turns out, it saves a picture of everything you view on the internet. I mean EVERYTHING. Every email you read? Picture saved. No password needed to read everything seen on the computer, most easily by searching ""http"" and clicking through every gory detail. &#x200B; I had to do something about all of the naked people that now lived easily in reach, because, believe it or not dear reader, I sometimes look at naked people on the internet. Let's just keep it between us for the time being. &#x200B; In my attempt to put some proverbial clothes back on the caches of naked people past, I came across something I hadn't expected: several emails between STBX and an old fling from the Czech Republic. She was prying in to his present status, asking what he thought would have happened, professing her continued feelings, etc. I was not happy to read all of these messages, but I saved them, and confronted her, and felt hurt, but we made up. &#x200B; In spite of the fact that when I found these messages, we had not been intimate in nearly two years, I was hopeful that it was a phase. A blip. Nothing to worry about. We made up, and nine months later, we were married with our first child. &#x200B; The next Christmas, we were lucky to get number two. Then the following year, during our final intimate encounter, we conceived two beautiful identical twin boys. &#x200B; We are blessed with four fantastic children. &#x200B; The hard parts of our relationship are hardly all one-sided. I've had my issues. I ended up getting a couple of DUI's, and I am sorry about that. I did my time, and hated it, but have held a job throughout, and provided for my family whenever possible, and try to do the best I can with what I have. Remember, terminal optimist. &#x200B; There were several incidents I have written about on /r/JUSTNOMIL, which included potential sexual and definitely physical and verbal abuse by my outlaws, as well as STBX. Suffice it to say that those issues played a large role in my agreeing with STBX that we should take the relocation money and move eight hours away from the outlaws. Because of custody, and my significant motivation to keep the littles as from from the outlaws as possible, I wasn't about to leave the marriage. &#x200B; She didn't like it there. She stopped taking her prozac without consulting a physician, and she couldn't find a job, and she began acting somewhat erratically. Then I had a friend who wanted me to come work for him in a more desirable state. I asked STBX whether she thought we should make the move, she agreed. I quit my job, took the one out of state, went there for the first ten days, and came home for Christmas. When I returned, STBX informed me she was ""leaving."" Like leaving leaving. &#x200B; That was on Christmas Eve, the same day she left facebook open on her ipad for me to learn that she was lying about working on my Birthday in October, and had instead met the Czech guy at an airbnb in Times Square. They met again in Atlanta, and I didn't try to stop her from using her already purchased tickets to Vienna and Malta to see him there a few weeks ago. That trip, she said, was to go ""interview for jobs"" in a few different states. &#x200B; She returned from the trip, and had a real interview in yet a different, even further away state. As I sit today, none of us are in state number 1 where we originally lived, the kids are in state number 2 (with my mother watching them), I am in state number 3, and she is in state number four. &#x200B; Initially, she said she wanted me to still move everyone to state number 2, and that I would have the kids during the school year. My state number 2 attorney said to get to state number 3 and then file for divorce. That was before she left the marriage home in state number 2 where the children have been for nearly a year (beyond the state's six month requiements). Tomorrow at 3:30 CT, I have a call with my attorney to formulate strategies, but my plan is probably to go back to state number 2, be with the kids, find a job, file for divorce, and hopefully find a way to make everyone come out of this better off. &#x200B; I know I'm not perfect, and I know that patience is one of my biggest assets and mantras at the moment. &#x200B; Additionally, allow me to plug a book that was just released that I have been using to get me through some of this shit. It's called [https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062689382/better-apart/](https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062689382/better-apart/)",7.6355857893454875,8.087323525731584,6.898242284004315,76.0380095862765,62.98587285570133,9.700274887783152,35.35058631128432,9.449726292080394,3.2688571836180795,4318,181,748,71,58,1329,413,991,0.052000000000000005,0.8290000000000001,0.119,0.9953,7,0,2,0,3,0,231.0,18,3,3,11,35,28,4,0,61,0,65,3,1,10,8,138,129,52,0,12,13,4,4,2,2,5,2,6,2,10,39,61,0,5,18,6,2,18,13,6,1,17,57,17,107,22,143,62,20,154,1,1,7,0,95,58,1,10,64,528,146,20,0.0,0.029930497364431388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022392609010311114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05575292236840746,0.0,0.0,0.4653001435144023,0.5218189404912821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04723179141845797,0.0,0.047467626172901074,0.07769748952162059,0.0,0.04619714293526577,0.0,0.021495496828260303,0.028460822825067088,0.026510164888834814,0.06702467331983063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158920203152187,0.08667655669513445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043520728326046816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055902272827401116,0.0,0.04887432584327104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052785341984299364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.022374004596550343,0.026101664877259474,0.028173015372636726,0.016684843505285846,0.02285028263739136,0.042567451918859134,0.04827648943457582,0.06810965458038498,0.0,0.023814095593978672,0.0,0.012772867015147071,0.0,0.024254799470704615,0.02767250794393836,0.06926508301555084,0.042974479979187366,0.0,0.08309310038010735,0.01951680964580712,0.0,0.06598990585251106,0.0,0.02871314599996399,0.0,0.020203760918766973,0.0,0.0,0.025012648232393398,0.022338474925597325,0.026891112461624404,0.04525830723425865,0.02494029357329344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050678266203917056,0.05018032078595069,0.024877281711058533,0.0,0.02704273293359333,0.028516921091331464,0.0,0.05273244640986953,0.12533966000534633,0.044906789682844894,0.0,0.0,0.02776588819777525,0.0,0.0,0.10699223278016044,0.05489293002713939,0.025831380073331384,0.0,0.024682780157776682,0.025318448511634617,0.044612362968292914,0.0,0.021213121006712705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047805685936173035,0.03372421386837074,0.02561098269121888,0.0,0.02751694992471341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02958571701627262,0.04032664062991642,0.08054625902900621,0.0,0.018730926119389202,0.0,0.024397510863967888,0.02686566802338189,0.0,0.0,0.024238888627468064,0.0,0.053014947960519435,0.0,0.051353110706583716,0.01921234902284968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471102978379981,0.02411475925344604,0.05253899245053946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.023880083798560933,0.05695661678646381,0.0,0.0,0.027235942691282374,0.0,0.0,0.025394573216404218,0.0,0.02686849091389356,0.07580437685206777,0.028752877912146244,0.0,0.0,0.024942475889544118,0.027121171206908632,0.02861611667018265,0.0,0.07208781342784823,0.020088791366978317,0.0,0.025565773664171558,0.020129977184070228,0.0,0.0,0.05707613371083577,0.02593035071233017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03889474970668004,0.02498406129805509,0.028277945483067106,0.0,0.0,0.02017369846887794,0.04223913838503143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03798669187613117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04010928438433671,0.04419018325391712,0.0,0.023944748771795674,0.0,0.02806622217748261,0.034301514824656015,0.05495405814492419,0.07402982785492741,0.0,0.06077244198497547,0.06545293037051038,0.0,0.02084320945801697,0.029799526152366283,0.060153707494317525,0.0202630827424365,0.0,0.02271293306764073,0.023417468498258057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.024350981678492742,0.0,0.03678103931111845,0.02565406575390055,0.0,0.03588979063420729,0.0,0.5218189404912821,0.13013953798908307 divorce,beautiful_ashes,2019/03/12,"Could Get Ugly - Bring Him Back to Court? Our divorce was finalized the beginning of February. We agreed that he would pay child support from when I moved out based on the worksheet for our state and what he would be paying going forward. He gave me no support and I kept a running record of the support and the bills he should have been splitting that were for our daughter. He was upset when I made him pay my half of the divorce paperwork (which brought us about even on what was outstanding for the copays and bills for our daughter....this did NOT include child support- he still owed a little in the other bills for her but I wasn't going to worry about it). The child support owed was added to the months moving forward so that it could be caught up. He agreed to that arrangement. The support was to be withdrawn from his employer but I found out that he was responsible to make payments to the state until the withdrawal was set up. I told him about this when I found out about it so he could do what he needed. I haven't receive anything yet so I called to check on it with the court and found out that since we didn't use an attorney it was likely that the order was never submitted to his employer. I asked my ex if they had automatically deducted it yet and his response was that he didn't know and would have to check. I asked if he had been sending any payments to the state like he was responsible to do because I know he wouldn't want to double pay if he sent it in AND it was deducted. He said he has not sent any to the state. I made sure that the paperwork from the courts got to his employer because I got the HR number and faxed it to them. Also in our paperwork, anything not covered by insurance for her healthcare should be split 50/50. The parent with custody at the time of the appointment would pay what was due and send the receipt to the other parent so reimbursement could be paid. I have been doing this as she has some weekly appointments set up and they fall on a day I have her. I have not gotten any reimbursement and when I asked him about it he commented about having to eat my health insurance premiums from when I moved out until the divorce was final. The thing is that we discussed my POTENTIALLY giving him some money for that amount but never settled on anything. I had NO option for health insurance though until our divorce was finalized because I couldn't get it through work (I'm part time) and couldn't get it through Affordable Care because our state doesn't have legal separation so the price would be based on his income as well even though our finances were completely split. I receive disability and am not eligible for medical assistance until spring of next year and because of the amount of my benefits and my part time income my share per month for assistance to kick in was going to be $2,100 (I don't know anyone working FULL time who could afford that). I moved out at the end of September so he wanted me to pay him premiums for October through end of January. Here's the other part of it, I have the limited income and have been paying all of my bill plus what I mentioned above for our daughter. In November, he moved out of the place he was staying and in with friends where he is currently staying still. I don't believe that he is paying any sort of rent or utilities and when he moved out of the last place, he left balances on accounts in MY name (which he asked me not to switch over because he couldn't afford them immediately- mind you, the non-essential bill (internet) he immediately paid to hook back up when I wouldn't pay them to keep service there). So, all of this to say, should I take him back to court for the amounts owed that are written in the divorce? I'm not trying to be a jerk, but at the same time, I shouldn't have to support our daughter alone especially when his support is so low (less then $300 a month but still helpful for me).",6.210230880230881,6.294920051948058,6.285411255411257,80.47605339105341,66.012987012987,9.545743145743145,31.916305916305923,9.270117722386633,2.5969647907647904,3120,114,616,52,45,992,273,770,0.041,0.868,0.091,0.9914,16,1,0,0,5,0,60.0,14,1,5,3,39,19,1,1,43,0,82,4,0,4,5,97,138,55,0,25,16,6,0,2,1,11,3,2,1,3,42,34,1,3,6,0,28,22,24,3,1,1,49,2,80,16,112,62,14,115,0,1,0,0,103,40,0,8,49,444,122,18,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057309671071047424,0.0,0.04425083842153977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15051694959421313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0386910454999015,0.0,0.1366063000749237,0.0,0.20692049113228406,0.0,0.0,0.1276460373039889,0.0,0.2023877396557492,0.0,0.0,0.0623428337157074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05650253092725933,0.0,0.05641703053326845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05801698529262402,0.0,0.0,0.22089977315170606,0.0,0.0,0.03568606089081761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0566208270547696,0.0,0.0,0.09801957284865837,0.0,0.0,0.07309559745451133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1818481396531593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820136884924164,0.04275116098674491,0.0,0.08672970039056316,0.05308172511182559,0.09434331348392937,0.0,0.08851182659984311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763559642338176,0.0,0.0,0.037089430569412565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04918368908572208,0.0,0.0,0.0912308910491985,0.045104858934875994,0.0,0.0,0.06012090426696661,0.0,0.0,0.05406711072535572,0.05545952888299237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10471734943514033,0.03693609053946659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05574350934720803,0.0,0.0,0.055871892579299504,0.0,0.13250198702387886,0.3528697721729198,0.0,0.04102969965344033,0.08535448289911454,0.0,0.05884868067721252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228844354931064,0.17976503981584238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562518125988742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05263561297441967,0.04400407491515016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04577312411556684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179580525309425,0.1325701864074389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5023418755132515,0.052151944938249636,0.0,0.041604524746165286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036761665704613984,0.0,0.10873138356175543,0.0,0.16132944477154265,0.0,0.0,0.05287431729744396,0.0,0.03756837333998199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656037790006991,0.04779108905102295,0.0,0.0,0.06527523519409932,0.0,0.04438585650681592,0.0,0.0497522021107828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056809290996136,0.05619469139235878,0.0,0.19653957857722829,0.0,0.0,0.035633490054733104 divorce,BornPersonality,2019/03/12,My Ex just told me she is seeing someone and it’s getting serious enough where she is going to introduce him to the kids. Anyone have any advice on this one? My ex and I have been divorced for going on two years and are on other ends of the US. She has custody of the kids right now and we are having trouble with one of them who is having emotional issues. Durning the call she told me that she is seeing someone and it is getting serious enough to introduce them to the kids. I am happy for her but at the same time there is a part of me that wishes we could get back together. Is that just because we have been together for 10 years before the split? Have any of you felt the same way? Am I holding on hope for no reason? I would love to hear your thoughts.,2.9616666666666664,4.221259598726121,4.1685509554140125,88.47898354564757,74.03184713375795,7.016772823779192,24.54830148619957,7.492282038375204,1.0379473460721869,595,18,126,7,12,195,86,157,0.042,0.86,0.098,0.9044,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,4,2,2,0,6,6,0,0,9,0,22,1,0,1,0,22,37,6,0,4,3,2,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,8,9,0,1,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,3,6,4,24,3,20,29,5,16,0,0,2,1,27,7,0,1,6,104,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1468294286608123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043598630190108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506320756218908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11553837964733606,0.0,0.0915952895765352,0.0,0.12785766379545932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15342922523545574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1199680102577598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690189323518411,0.13308312807652,0.31051135212569897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1442703102388642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355092863531797,0.0,0.1707890632677437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15995140022462678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16935059079886422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14923913216472615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15682929913304186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561283411172395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20363610158388015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16271371878233956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544892499606152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12831868084176026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394707947971093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25462458428550605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11928729628493162,0.08761608130733227,0.0,0.0,0.2871540585763981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467792830646426,0.0,0.18074070391172528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11926703486327865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17278816668211242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673828154008956,0.0,0.0,0.1935211992033224 divorce,donman14,2019/03/12,"Stuck in home with STBX Also posted in r/legaladvice, but I wanted to get personal opinions from people who may have gone through a similar situation. &#x200B; My wife and I have decided to divorce. No children, but we do own a house that we will be selling. She wants a “few” months to save so she can afford her own place before we move on with the process. I am kind of stuck in the mud with a pretty crappy roommate in the meantime. I want to move out to at least get away, but I'm concerned that if I leave she will kind of just hunker down in here and I'll be waiting even longer to get her out. She doesn't want to list the house until she can afford to move. She's terrible with her finances though so I really fear this could be a very long time. I'm trying to be civil and give her some time, but at some point ""enough is enough."" Just don't know when that is for me. &#x200B; Has anyone else gone through a similar situation? If so, how did you navigate through it?",3.7521571428571434,4.647915730000005,4.5544285714285735,87.85400000000004,71.7,7.7142857142857135,26.285714285714285,7.957251820313856,1.3397214285714278,766,24,165,10,14,247,116,200,0.113,0.831,0.056,-0.9119,2,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,3,1,0,0,11,5,0,1,10,0,20,0,0,1,0,34,36,17,0,7,8,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,6,12,0,1,2,0,2,5,3,2,0,0,5,0,22,3,33,23,8,26,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,6,6,120,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09275287843014277,0.0,0.2513386280614956,0.2818680768266784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109916032326811,0.11883997488488582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897139163867542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869438993254374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260430100421747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968902877885154,0.0,0.0,0.2396862851662981,0.0,0.07660676392039567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13051497089263198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18179156923482973,0.11126303979277452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634205540341172,0.0,0.0,0.26766141508127944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2415603184298576,0.0637421274443841,0.0,0.0,0.12281099183383305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10264276069978352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09257783680919572,0.3698199655364646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08040914877822772,0.10127331798042086,0.12117926759599218,0.0,0.10964297875350566,0.0,0.11108122846679452,0.11799808085119315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07430273332546987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.260743200326891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1139543244918002,0.0,0.1352631580495748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787459602918031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956994787387614,0.27364299391489805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2818680768266784,0.0 divorce,Streakist,2019/03/12,"STBXW doesn't want us to sell the house but we need the equity to pay off debt My STBXW doesn't want to lose the house in the divorce (for the sake of our young daughter). We've got nearly $80k in equity and $50k in CC debt. I make ~$91k/year, she makes ~12k/year so I know I'm gonna get killed on spousal support. She couldn't afford to refinance the house in her name so I'd need to keep it if we went that route. The mortgage is $1300/month (20 year loan). The only solution I can come up with is to get a home equity loan for ~$50k (I'd have to find a bank that would do LTV of ~86%) to pay off our shared CC debt. This is where I get confused, so in this scenario I will pay ~$50k in debt over the course of 10 years($25k is hers) but that $50 in equity would be all mine after it's repayed. I assume I still owe her $15k in equity(Half of the $30k we couldn't extract) which I imagine I'd agree to give her when I sell the house, probably when our child is an adult. Does this make sense? Am I making it too complicated? Am I screwing myself over in any way? All of this hinges on how much spousal support I'm on the hook for as I may not be able to pay the mortgage + $550. I have also considered refinancing the house to a 30 year loan first to lower the payments. I know selling is the best solution, but has anyone attempted anything like this? Thanks",1.8911451731761275,3.000059623728813,3.33217391304348,94.01719970523214,76.4915254237288,6.893146647015475,21.978629329403095,7.423996415210882,0.46053868828297706,1059,27,257,13,23,348,153,295,0.122,0.76,0.118,0.7659999999999999,9,0,0,0,1,0,49.0,7,0,0,4,10,10,2,1,20,0,23,1,0,5,2,35,48,13,1,9,5,1,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,12,6,0,1,5,0,16,2,5,4,0,1,2,0,30,6,41,37,4,30,0,1,0,1,20,19,1,4,9,147,42,4,0.11021601761599913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0881397094675641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749506714471666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07706560216715908,0.0,0.09069839148465177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1156649107000714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494133998303322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09645077974839678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073544336950928,0.09374968828029016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17274996061796927,0.1057292470896105,0.0,0.0,0.0881498177123366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055565213363236,0.0,0.0,0.6358724322153829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09796506057721162,0.1219376936305418,0.0,0.12114368176775965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05384597898108763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330353154683647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2942801904003289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797337373894705,0.0,0.08102145456528215,0.1634475610403501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08382424792093335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1188315083074498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08801865403997086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2501436613434712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10147210103184258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13257629865172846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13001652557693244,0.08748434465023879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021713525370608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15658859332475092,0.0,0.0,0.2839020070824886 divorce,throwaway321bye,2019/03/12,"Not sure what to do I am not financially well off and we have a child together. I've been considering initiating for a while. He suggests separation, I want counseling. It's an extreme hell hole. How do you survive financially as a single parent? Coparenting? Considering adoption? If anyone has any help or resources or stability to offer me, I'd appreciate it. I'm really stressed out and upset. I'm not sure he makes me happy anymore. 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Got a whatsapp message that has left me dumbfounded. Went to install whatsapp on my phone using my phone number about 5 days ago and got a hell of a shock. It says this account has already been created by so and so (ex wifes full name). It had her picture from facebook. It gave me an option to continue saying that's not me, continue creating account, which I did. An attorney friend of mine suggested not to use the account at all. We have been divorced almost two years. With very little contact. This phone number has been my mine alone for 15 years. It was never part of her phone plan. The actual physical phone has never been near her. We were already divorced when i bought it last summer. To protect myself emotionally last fall, I cut off all communication when i found she was doing online dating. So for the past four or five months, theres been zero communication. We were together all in for 30 years. I have dated, but had not had anything messy happen that might cause someone to attempt to create an account posing as my ex. 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Now with a shaman?! We've gone to 4 different couple's therapists: First one was fine and got us through a rough patch before we even got engaged. But we moved away and he is no longer an option. Second one was someone I had to go to by myself because, as told to me by my STBXW, ""All our problems are your problems, so you need to go alone."" Third one was someone who, ""Keeps taking your side and she's an idiot."" Fourth one was someone who, ""Keeps taking your side and I don't like being man-splained to."" So now she's found this person: [https://medicinedancecounseling.com/](https://medicinedancecounseling.com/) Is this a joke? Shamanism? On one side, I'm thinking, ""Well, at least it's a new approach. Clearly the old approaches aren't working."" But the other side I'm thinking, ""This is a bunch of bullshit."" I feel like this last attempt is setting me up to fail so that she can say with a straight face to the judge/mediator, ""Well, I tried, but DJ just won't do therapy.""",4.545937500000001,6.325820468750003,4.397833333333335,86.33050000000004,70.875,6.578333333333332,26.34166666666667,7.03164865440522,1.0701079166666667,798,26,156,7,15,244,115,192,0.065,0.888,0.047,-0.4926,1,1,0,0,0,0,56.0,4,4,0,4,9,11,1,0,11,0,16,1,1,0,2,24,33,11,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,1,0,1,0,1,9,8,0,2,4,2,0,6,4,4,2,9,10,3,19,7,19,21,3,24,0,1,0,0,17,9,0,1,10,103,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093512317825082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097061919142454,0.0,0.0,0.07117991829189667,0.0,0.09935989180261352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25840034422225044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199638627167313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07712332767527437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904077001680064,0.08341817931381043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09932172573447834,0.0,0.1280286987436485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13272245357540607,0.0,0.18677805076413548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075752795917724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1903609484851005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409265789288915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12410456084776543,0.0,0.0865810549741959,0.0,0.11277404095679745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12252704683599346,0.0,0.4747449723353753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019562097086154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22345999274191453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092857594900717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968082287038292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17558810689080878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26706587718536984,0.13557517994084686,0.0,0.14963881880238747,0.0,0.0,0.06808762259876898,0.0,0.0,0.11157561988804897,0.0,0.1585538975383339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14045600593583654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20997463702758545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08500757427331765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Musicguy1982,2019/03/12,"I could use some encouragement Yesterday was D Day #4, and I (37M) am done. My wife (37F) of twelve years has had a longstanding emotional affair with a man that became physical prior to its separating a year ago. This past summer she confessed it all and said she wanted to work on our marriage. Well, a few weeks ago, the AP reached out to her again. She's been limerent toward him, which I've said for months, but she denied it, because she was in it. Well, on Saturday, we had a discussion where she said she didn't want to be married to me anymore, and I said I'm not going to fight it. You can't force something that's not there, and without two way commitment marriage doesn't work. Sunday night, our anniversary, she went out with some girlfriends, but afterward she met up with the AP again, and you know where it goes from there. Yesterday, she finally realized that she is addicted to the fantasy of this guy. She is heartbroken and wanted to work things out, but I just can't any more. I feel for her, because I understand addiction, but now I have to care for myself. We have three young kids. We work for the same company. We live in an old house that's taking apart. The logistics aren't there yet, but I can't stay. I know this will get better, but right now, it's the same old repeating nightmare. Encourage me.",4.9781947261663255,5.656290168582378,5.498030200585984,82.98969574036512,68.77011494252875,9.666080685147623,29.14604462474645,9.773937934552695,2.5175290060851934,1038,36,213,23,17,334,149,261,0.054000000000000006,0.853,0.093,0.7945,1,0,1,0,1,0,43.0,6,2,0,5,13,7,1,0,12,0,21,2,0,1,2,43,40,12,0,4,10,1,1,0,1,1,2,4,0,3,16,16,0,0,6,1,0,2,9,1,2,2,13,5,36,6,29,24,7,43,1,0,0,0,41,13,0,2,26,150,52,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615436536737045,0.0,0.0,0.21267089627282956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0815754913865235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896601168917265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625045535877446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10609302188918944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12230508260305095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09577662896094086,0.0,0.0,0.07736292718304641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12275858900396157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134936501292765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06065432292490261,0.0,0.0,0.13140802538561808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0626730561684477,0.0,0.06817484389395087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11877718927907548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13841532067842374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.131851458803058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10592503103308352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.095749258187015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11257237105856613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517512919872225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11451339728819356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10244339851376104,0.4564297646897555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09234945866087013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12785916967026995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019341832852806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07969470420775228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718144614577268,0.12488041340550815,0.0,0.10360511779556253,0.0,0.0,0.2122628475006353,0.0952170042732952,0.09622299853715442,0.0,0.21571313241148893,0.11120218308800138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11563514319174795,0.0,0.34932314463847536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544979203401772 divorce,unkn0wnl0la,2019/03/12,"I think about divorce almost every day but FOMO keeps me here. Not just FOMO, either. FOLMS (fear of losing my stuff). Fear of making the wrong choice. Just fear of the unknown really. Fear that divorce isn't really what I want. Im a mom, and though I've never really been a single mom, I've pretty much been a single mom as far as raising them goes. He is selfish. I am selfish too, but I'm not really selfish I just don't want to share anything with someone who always thinks of himself first. THere has been a lot of things that I have tried to forgive him for but secretly I hate him. Yet he is my best friend. My ONLY friend. &#x200B; I bought a fixer upper with my inheritance. My brother and I invested in it. He lives here in our renovated garage as a roommate, my dad lives in the MIL house as our tenant/groundskeeper. DH is also on the deed. But my brother and I bought it. Yet, when we are fighting, he says shit like YOU (me) get out of MY (him) house. GFY, guy. \*I\* bought this shit. But I know that a judge might make me divest if we were to split. But I want my house. I don't have a mortgage because we bought outright. I'm debt free. That would change if we split. &#x200B; I dont know why Im posting this, I just needed to get it out I guess. 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We still had some good moments and most of our disagreements were about how the kids were being raised. I was talking to this guy at work that’s become my emotional support person lately, I’m first generation American & he older and from the old country... he reminded me of how some people would just leave to larger city in whatever country they were in or would become an expat elsewhere. Allowing things to just fizzle out or get stronger with distance Before our last move more than a year ago, she was really hating her life/job situation to the point I really thought t was going just going to be me and them... but we relocated she switch doctors. She went back school so I’m the one pulling the multiple shifts to keep us going. We still disagree over how to raise the kids, I grew up in conservative environment and she in a “ let the kids be kids” household. I was really upset one of our kids was asked to repeat the grade, the teacher told us in a end of year conference that homework wasn’t being turned in and their reading level was behind kids their age. I have old friends posting about their new jobs on FB, in various locations and in conversation telling me about upcoming job openings. I’m really considering it but I think my wife is either waiting for me to file the paperwork or pay for the divorce. We have some savings but I’m wondering about how to proceed ",6.9043250090481365,7.190455286644951,7.12811617806732,74.33533749547594,64.53745928338762,10.340137531668477,33.993666304741225,10.125756701596842,3.4042133188563164,1291,52,232,27,18,418,171,307,0.047,0.905,0.048,-0.1442,4,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,12,0,5,4,16,7,1,1,17,0,24,1,0,5,0,46,45,18,0,2,12,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,9,6,15,0,3,3,1,1,8,1,2,0,3,15,0,36,5,41,22,9,50,0,0,0,0,46,17,0,9,24,161,42,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17382251464247472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623205941580097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1833182714806656,0.0,0.0,0.07539079637748171,0.0,0.0,0.21656669798990447,0.08342934292419983,0.0,0.0,0.08671311483608045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1003535359272004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11028778447275732,0.08683904898718711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08339729608992143,0.0,0.0,0.07574956828100232,0.0,0.10244926235278616,0.0,0.16716423838928468,0.08223575971369676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09708027795287852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679945161448576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3891793917632364,0.08714718217513757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159840037689349,0.11059938751432563,0.20763166699888394,0.0,0.20051595769677533,0.06925230655646049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08676701975625764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07825883618728527,0.10420665499510033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469277759101716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2057641332435651,0.0,0.1328760877249196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797227737307986,0.17121877708824085,0.0,0.0,0.0926845150966446,0.0,0.09390031093491484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09807184890979613,0.0,0.2512413612588496,0.0,0.0,0.1052639774370008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09922709464181624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020704363284392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659823274209375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11126066322326304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788051114757338,0.08569592810368858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06513695165561548,0.06282347988782838,0.0,0.07783702949693362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09368650151222643,0.0,0.0,0.10664514988138464,0.0,0.0,0.2358728873872652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09088899062752843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063259633619688,0.14275631618625528,0.0,0.0,0.1392971595037727,0.0,0.0,0.1262759385097552 divorce,MadommeBigSpoon,2019/03/12,"(CA) mom doesn’t want child support but... Hey there! I have a friend in California who is contemplating divorce. She does not want child support, but is there a way she can make her soon to be ex pay for half of their child care costs? She is active duty and he is a civilian. It’s not really a set amount since her two kids aren’t school aged yet, and once they go to school, it will change. Does this exist? Is it even an option? They make about the same, and have been married 7 years. 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Here's some background: &#x200B; My ex cheated, I found out over the summer and we filed in January. My ex was supposed to pay all legal costs as he was the reason for divorce, kept putting it off, causing me more distress. We don't have kids or any shared assets (we were actually just starting to look to buy a house and I'm so glad we didn't) and after talking with a friend who did it, I decided to DIY it because he was being very avoidant about actually going through with things. &#x200B; Now every time I look up my case number it just says ""Open"" and when I call the court the woman yells at me saying she's not my lawyer and won't give me any information. I want my ex to figure this out, like he was supposed to in the first place. Side note - I live with bipolar and other mental health issues so navigating this can be a real struggle for me. Any advice from personal experience is much appreciated. 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Long time lurker, first time poster. On mobile, so formatting. My divorce was finalized sometime last summer, I honestly couldn’t tell you the date. I was 22 when I got married, 24 when my divorce was finalized. When I look back at the time I was going through the divorce (and I initiated) my life was falling apart, I couldn’t keep my life together. I had to take off work and every day was a struggle. So reading through these posts, I just want to give a shoutout to all the parents who are going through divorce with kids. It was hard enough doing it by myself and I couldn’t imagine having to explain it to kids. You guys are the strongest people ever and you’re doing way better than you think you are. It gets better I promise! 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My ex has used everything she can to get at me. Get as much money as possible, limit my time with the kids to what’s strictly written in the parenting plan. And uses the kids as leverage. I make 40k a year. I pay $925 a month in child support And alimony. I provide the health insurance, and I still have to feed and entertain the kids when they are with me. I’m broke. I can’t fight in court and she knows it. Ex works part time, has my child support to pay bills, and has SNAP benefits (food stamps) $500 a month. She has twice the money I have, twice the time I have, and 80% of the time with kids. I’ve asked for 50/50, and she refuses. I’ve asked for more time on the Tuesday and Thursday week night visits, she refuses. Now my oldest is on team mommy. I don’t want her to love or like me MORE but I hoped she would remain neutral. She hasn’t. 14yo daughter has blocked me on all social media, is disrespectful on the phone and in person, and avoids my house any chance she gets because of sickness, homework, stress, having a bad day. You name it, she’s tried it. To combat the disrespect on the phone and in person I’ve grounded her from her phone and electronics when she’s with me but that’s every other weekend. I’m not sure what to do or how I should proceed. I was raised in a very strict household and if dad said jump, you jumped. That’s all there was to it. I’ve been paddled, smacked, spanked with a belt, screamed at. I was very hard headed and my dad was a physical but not abusive punisher. That’s my default but I can’t. I haven’t laid a finger on either daughter since they were about 4 or 5. What do I do? Any women that grew up in a similar situation have any hope they can share. I want to be a good dad. I want to show them love and hopefully get more time, but this is really beating me up Thank you in advance",1.5278002043944845,3.3627270533980607,3.0447317322432323,92.54434082779764,79.4368932038835,6.181502299437916,22.492590700051107,7.1686216300943375,0.6268048543689324,1534,48,342,19,38,503,198,412,0.108,0.7440000000000001,0.149,0.9636,1,1,0,0,2,0,58.0,0,3,4,6,8,21,2,2,24,0,37,8,2,5,3,60,64,34,0,10,13,10,2,1,0,2,2,2,1,9,14,22,2,5,2,4,5,5,8,7,0,2,9,4,55,14,44,51,8,47,0,1,0,2,57,20,0,7,23,220,69,5,0.0,0.1268191624680947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459351989277184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21836273824241664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2001268524416442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936988801108703,0.06524764027066215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902882361278062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09018173896378152,0.0,0.096196300434579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942734073111306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22368581422931152,0.0,0.0,0.08977601423317626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958824798045823,0.0,0.10984895413960533,0.11377337023744315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3189301956948363,0.0,0.12350420420119805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764744980847425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05229197278080066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932068222528667,0.0,0.07144680065965439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12535828614330247,0.17086888759541324,0.0,0.07868315846345178,0.07936521514459056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004452472059144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11884987878547855,0.11590864813349035,0.0,0.0,0.1869179469172068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12066606093989288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06856946449714728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181494827569236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885405906930006,0.12031200480453018,0.0,0.10910886669739978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08547841729978511,0.0,0.12260841452007587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2429244630292058,0.10087937189874033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09854359500142916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.374478376442433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266984788931942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848880248486384,0.0,0.17663043379653498,0.18939633223804456,0.0,0.08585714935266392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07792287150038016,0.0,0.0,0.07603470690724866,0.0,0.0,0.06892713396475933 divorce,LonelyNC123,2019/03/12,"Sexless Relationship Driving Divorce I only found out about Reddit because I heard about the DeadBedrooms sub-group. That led me to this sub-group. &#x200B; Can any of you comment about whether your divorce was driven by a partner who just had no interest what-so-ever in a physical relationship? And I don't mean short-term (ex., a close family died and your partner is grieving or you and your partner are facing some very stressful life event). I mean years and years of being unsatisfied and feeling unloved, uncared for, unwanted, etc. &#x200B; Please be 'nice' in your comments - - this is already hard enough without people calling me 'stupid' etc. for staying in such a relationship. &#x200B;",6.062975206611572,8.964945876033061,5.376033057851242,76.11132231404963,69.57851239669421,7.375206611570247,36.6198347107438,8.296473431620573,3.45626611570248,565,31,84,9,11,171,86,121,0.174,0.772,0.055,-0.9299,0,0,0,0,2,0,33.0,0,6,0,1,5,6,1,1,5,0,9,2,1,1,0,18,15,7,2,1,4,1,2,0,3,0,1,1,0,3,4,7,0,0,4,0,0,3,3,4,0,0,5,3,12,2,14,8,4,12,0,1,0,0,20,5,0,2,3,58,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281900901192346,0.0,0.0,0.3775916065706471,0.42345667592298375,0.07899564363883856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081262188662847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11861664244074838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12056010604591688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200286776276308,0.2591075930107908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10950927523146416,0.0,0.058736112985550475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12736805622047406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040603117567009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08205021420456889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2530737504554049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08834811335510763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08053363412360287,0.0,0.0,0.12751341492288548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37415065257166175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238155876422835,0.0,0.0,0.13306570569469314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958476357935746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11197814942259073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42345667592298375,0.1496118803661972 divorce,ghostlyone,2019/03/12,"Is it inappropriate to question my contemplation of divorce here? If not, then, HOW do you know when, if there is no cheating, lying and such. My issue is this, we have conflict almost every day. She is less happy than when we first met and before we were married, as am I. I am estranged from my kids from my first marriage. And I am the defacto father and primary caretaker for her children, since she works nights and sleeps mostly when she is home. &#x200B; I've asked therapists and they don't really want to answer, they hem and haw. I DO see positives to trying to work things out. I DO see postives for me leaving. I don't see positives for her or the children I love if I leave. &#x200B; Thoughts? &#x200B; Sincerely, \*At a loss\*",3.1448088531187115,5.629692253521128,4.071348088531188,83.9385915492958,77.16901408450704,6.874044265593561,27.044265593561374,7.957251820313856,1.8886321931589527,588,24,108,10,14,189,91,142,0.093,0.789,0.118,0.7736,0,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,3,1,2,5,7,5,1,0,3,0,15,2,1,1,0,25,24,17,0,4,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,3,11,0,1,4,0,0,0,4,2,0,2,3,3,24,3,14,21,2,10,0,1,3,1,21,2,0,7,8,84,27,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12153180062290996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3945041953183883,0.4424235927922839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346202451398107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327461715183446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827185588908815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225716891245937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20646989472301236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1291977276193969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121741278695345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12667590933043946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670028370165274,0.0,0.0,0.25702085341112113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10953870974968424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11389497173162773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13595913111597732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07775098810345295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2901420288495284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.100396269157543,0.0,0.1214549311675767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14091676781912252,0.08063102871112247,0.0,0.0,0.09635206439100652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240041715590872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07158556695106592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767136523361651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4424235927922839,0.0 divorce,thenewmook,2019/03/12,"[NY] First Day of Trial For Custody... Wife’s lawyer completely fabricated and accused me of tons of things in their opening statement. They’re claiming that I only stayed home to raise our child from birth because I was too lazy to get a job with no proof except my wife’s word while she made $125k a year while at the same time accusing me of NOT being the primary caregiver even though I have reputable witnesses, 280 pictures from 3 years taking care of him and doing various activities like doc appointments, dentist, library, play grounds, activity centers etc, and text from last 8 months we were together showing her being ok with me to stay home with our child and her very erratic and late schedule... I just don’t see how win this...",16.038741007194247,8.432307676258992,13.752428057553963,58.357994604316595,54.97122302158273,17.353237410071944,53.45503597122303,13.023866798666859,6.51455251798561,593,26,107,12,4,186,110,139,0.063,0.836,0.101,0.738,1,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,3,0,1,2,5,5,0,0,4,1,7,1,0,2,1,19,12,9,0,0,3,2,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,3,10,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,0,1,3,1,16,5,18,7,4,19,0,0,1,0,12,5,0,0,13,67,19,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12258268429552795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050248020314116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21083918830263967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296865060118028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22426866444422355,0.1328181424635743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710471723143664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506129966277457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4034196172320337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19955093751586075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1639153051191606,0.2268384393857159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982424860728864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027635480152924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16050823307287118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15293811468884042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16024280818548411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4286706715963388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15119476103343452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359535520021573,0.0,0.1975700438204089,0.0,0.11725727909985707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592042726178324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25899091728522705 divorce,funguymushrooms,2019/03/12,"Unexpected move out due to a bad relationship **If you had an unexpected move out due to a bad relationship which lead to a divorce, what issues did you have to deal with that normally doesn't happen when you move out on normal terms/timeline? How did you deal with who gets what items? Looking back, what would you have done differently in terms of moving out?** ",2.296013071895427,5.186130823529414,3.3213725490196104,84.70728758169936,86.35294117647058,6.551633986928103,20.79084967320261,7.793537801064563,1.1674065359477126,288,9,55,6,9,92,43,68,0.11,0.89,0.0,-0.8196,1,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,5,0,1,3,2,0,0,4,0,8,0,0,2,0,12,11,3,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,6,6,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,2,0,0,4,1,5,0,13,6,2,16,0,0,1,0,11,6,0,1,5,41,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211666704480335,0.26520286388488723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32745650959782857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16592479555337672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1625198701442684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297274376224589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14043697532949373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1657585242545082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1333621279610079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.675168323102647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3112041888805455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410094256100839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128155269924294,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,boricuanypr,2019/03/12,"mom, cheating ex, living same house, confused Not sure what am I doing. We've been separated for 6 months since I found out about the affair. after some HUGE arguments that the kids (all teens and 1 adult) unfortunately have witnessed, we are living in the same house and separate rooms. We are nice to each other and still partners with kids' activities and house but have not talked about our separation. I am not ready to date and feel sad and annoyed that he has already moved on. 20+ years down the drain. Lost my best friend, lover, husband in just few months. I feel relieved and yet sad. I feel ready to move on but can't see myself out there with another person. So confused. 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Uncontested divorce question. Has anyone used an online uncontested divorce service? If anyone has could you recommend what service you used and how was the service. ,6.192777777777772,10.0862392962963,6.2721296296296325,62.11708333333337,81.96296296296295,7.144444444444447,40.083333333333336,8.07648339933343,4.910266666666668,139,9,15,3,4,44,19,27,0.0,0.912,0.08800000000000001,0.3612,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,0,3,0,7,6,3,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,0,0,2,0,12,3,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.535030076745005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3054660866753067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4285871017210936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6608679014052817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Lost-in-Ct,2019/03/13,"Happier Now That She’s Out Of The House I’ve been lurking for a few months here and wanted to post something. I’ve been holding off because it seems so complicated, but maybe it’s not. She asked for an open relationship last summer. She started dating and I struggled emotionally but went along with it. Then in January she said she wanted a divorce. We have two kids, 5 and 7. We have a house with some equity, no savings, and a lot of debt. We also live with her grandmother who’s 87, pays rent, and lives in a separate wing of the house. I could go on and on, but the basics of it are I tried to make it work and am still willing to make it work. She says she loves me but she’s not in love with me and she needs more space for her spiritual development. I think it’s just simplest to call it a mid-life crises. (She’s 35 and I’m 38). And I’m upset but I’m not fighting it. I’ve already spent months and months dealing with the pain and anxiety of her being with other people and that’s prepared me for where I am right now. The kids are with me. And grandma is with me. And the dog is with me. Between work and travel and her dating she’s been gone a lot the last 6 months and that’s what this feels like a continuation of. We’ve done fine without her and will continue to do just fine. What’s been strange to deal with is my feelings. Even as I say I still love her and would take her back, there’s a part of me that’s happy she’s gone and feels like a weight has been lifted off my chest. I don’t have to be beholden to her feelings any more, don’t have to worry about upsetting her and don’t have to worry about structuring my life around her. I’m reading the posts on here you see how all relationships have give and take, some more so than others. For me, I’ve always been giving, so much so that I think I lost a lot of my own identity in that of my family. I love taking care of my kids, but I did everything not just because I love them but to make HER life easier. And even when I would spent all day working and all night taking care of the kids I would still go out of my way to do nice things for her. And even now I still don’t think she appreciated it all. Actual divorce is so far off, if only because untangling ourselves financially is such a massive task. We’re still friendly - she still has a lot of stuff here and is still coming over. I’ve been over her house. We’ve still been having sex, on and off, which as I’ve read here seems to be a normal thing. And the kids are the absolute most important thing to me and we’ve had no issues there so far. They’re taking it well - for them, mommy just has a new house. At first I was so protective of the kids that her asking me if the kids could do 2-3 nights a week at her house made me upset. But my logical brain kicked in and has made me realize how much this can be a win-win. The kids have hardly spent any time with mommy the past year and now she has to be proactive about it. The mommy time is good for them and the free time will be free time I haven’t had for myself since before the kids were born. This isn’t what I wanted at all, but every night when I put the kids to bed and she’s not here I feel more and more content. 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No signs no red flags. We were 3 months away from a wedding celebration (we spaced out the legal marriage and the wedding). All our friends and family were shocked. All my counselors and lots of family/friends suggested he was cheating. I just want to know if you were someone who “wasn’t in love” with your spouse, did you just decide to leave? If so, were you cheating? If you weren’t cheating, why did you just walk out (I’m trying to find some reason or closure for this whole thing and my ex has gone no contact with me)?",2.503104212860311,4.451135422764229,3.065218033998523,93.00252771618624,76.88617886178861,5.773540280857352,24.189948263119,6.574015621080383,0.5993154471544719,479,16,102,4,11,149,74,123,0.153,0.715,0.132,-0.2359,2,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,3,6,0,0,4,8,3,0,3,0,12,3,0,1,2,28,20,9,0,4,7,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,11,0,0,4,0,0,2,7,4,0,0,13,2,16,4,16,7,5,12,0,0,1,3,27,8,0,6,2,71,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969336346331708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19759978658892235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915779328804673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32388527254280586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11519508605062295,0.0,0.0,0.2219446281363044,0.227739726999038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17820124292229705,0.5675382649913565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16730712176057766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14531580893416451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2155119546926018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993852267423018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760019511438518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13925425463367033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231008652586782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12363224093312718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1891386355783791,0.2340198687593247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,UmbrellaStella,2019/03/13,"Possible divorce incoming Since he lives in another state currently we’re doing a week of no communication... I’m madly in love with HIM, but not the him he becomes when he drinks. He admits he has a problem but refuses to seek help. I know we’re probably going to divorce I’m not necessarily happier without him right now but the toxic - ness of this relationship I know I’ll be happier in the long run. I know it’s gonna hurt like hell, too. Any who have been in similar situations have any recommendations how to get my brain to realize I will be ok?! I’ve been trying to read books, paint, etc. but right now I just want to be blah. 🤷🏼‍♀️",0.4716711229946533,2.8835974772727297,3.6185383244206806,82.94927807486633,89.37878787878788,7.651336898395723,22.916221033868087,8.4952907291091,1.9613648841354727,505,20,106,15,17,181,88,132,0.192,0.7120000000000001,0.096,-0.939,1,0,1,0,2,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,6,7,2,0,5,1,10,3,1,1,0,18,21,6,0,2,8,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,1,1,1,5,3,0,2,4,4,0,0,2,0,9,3,14,14,1,15,1,1,0,1,16,6,1,0,7,55,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25752109160058145,0.19854389816182094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2091157878649908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21137074201577616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18548522746038368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21116882881289686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09892452723312384,0.0,0.10760866971724943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12691342301088346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20269687734715505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3121758541349893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925040097558449,0.0,0.16719439353552898,0.16756365466562045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17089052889143386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134571308902972,0.0,0.0,0.2041450673157037,0.18117682356076845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18939543468594028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2032848058344332,0.0,0.3233978167233621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1566274751114523,0.2128308089051429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12855227983629425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116801122198362,0.0,0.15188049253027727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18252104765775254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,nursetotherescue_1,2019/03/13,"He took our collection and hid it. Hello, I’m 30, female and been married for close to three years now. The marriage fell apart because of irreconcilable differences. We just fell apart, fell Out of love. He suffered a massive death in the family and has never been the same. I told him I wanted a divorce but I haven’t started filing yet because I’m not sure I have the money just yet to do that as I am putting myself through nursing school. We have no pre-nup and shared a joint bank account before we were even married. We collected comics, vintage toys... ext. I come to find out one day, when I got home from a trip that he cleared the house of the collection - left the stuff that was obviously mine. This means thousands of vintage toys and comic books. He said he was afraid I was going to sell it, which I explicitly said I would never do. EVER. He won’t tell me where our collection is... all he says it’s that it’s safe. But it’s ours. We obtained it in the marriage, this is community property, is it not? I’m at a loss here because I want to understand why he did this. The whole reason thinking I would sell it is not true. I wouldn’t. When I asked him about it, he said it was all technically his because it was paid for with his money... but it was a joint bank account. That doesn’t sound right. What are my options here? Should I start filing sooner than later and just liquidate this collection? Because everything that I’ve researched says our property obtained within the marriage is 50/50. I’m not looking to be vindictive. Im trying to understand what my moves are when I speak to a lawyer. I don’t want to set myself up to look stupid. Thank you in advance. 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I was not married, I was in a loyal monogamous relationship, living together for four years that fell apart (I'm a 25 year old female). I'm kind of lost. How do you love again when love is something that requires one to act with such abandon? When promises have been broken in the past, how do you make plans with someone else without thinking of those broken promises of the past? I have this huge fear of opening up with someone new. It was so hard to do the first time and it takes so long to truly get to know someone. How does someone who has been through an emotional meat grinder start over? And what does love mean to you now, after having loved before?",4.511875,5.541430881944446,4.366277777777778,89.40650000000002,70.04166666666667,6.871111111111111,27.594444444444445,6.742157984588678,1.1019161111111115,573,19,118,4,10,175,89,144,0.107,0.667,0.226,0.9719,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,0,3,0,5,10,14,0,1,6,0,15,6,0,4,0,20,34,10,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,2,4,0,0,2,2,4,0,3,7,1,7,10,22,27,0,24,0,3,0,6,13,7,0,0,15,78,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09947857354545757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20461082311049125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766013677371294,0.13150375029091108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155198729735249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09944036188935523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06107866922132577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1047250007924216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0783597678011684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173982694970285,0.12849719051415304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10323032461253308,0.10345831638618087,0.0,0.0,0.25523387476140674,0.0,0.6330745091732312,0.0,0.0780358024839144,0.0,0.0,0.12734513413216222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08668447286561258,0.0,0.11290874540831708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226734008949624,0.0,0.07921867296249514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22320040993619455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12551351783590114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3962170069812713,0.09000011142197173,0.0,0.0,0.08274681663913742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878989202189607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749087784387923,0.0,0.0,0.06816895076418387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126934139351122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15056753170736828 divorce,Protosoulex,2019/03/13,"Am i in a toxic Marriage? Long story and just looking for someone to hear me out and if im crazy or its real, i have 2 kids with a third on the way. Lots of bills, im the only one that works. Stuck co-living with her parenst to get by. Feel like a paycheck and not like a father/husband. Lack of money is constantly ""because you dont work hard enough at your sales job"" when i work plenty hard every day 8-5pm and im getting a second job as an amazon worker. She has to go to her mom for every opinion and never asks me anything especially when it comes to the kids. Cant talk to her or the parents about it because they will easily use past offenses against me so im always on eggshells. I stay late at work to avoid going home and weekends i do everything i can to avoid spending it with her. and this was before the pregnancy. Im not a super big family person but ive always wanted 3 kids and i would do anything for them but sometimes she fucking shuts me down in front of them and its embarrassing since there is no teamwork for parenting. She buys expensive dresses for our daughter then gets mad at me because i have to put gas in my car for work. Her excuse is ""its for the kids"". She always yells that im on my phone but i dont do social media nor do i spend time texting, im on my phone to escape interaction with her. I know im not perfect and i make mistakes but when i do mess up i live in fear for the whole day because i know shes going to tear into me. Im 29 yo and shes 25 and we have been married 7 years come this August Im just at the tipping point. thanks for reading this, i dont have anyone to talk to since my side of the family has vanished since we have been married and i had to abandon all my friends because she doesn't like them (which she mocks me for bringing it up like its my fault).",1.4424479638009051,3.0134038179487206,3.37634992458522,91.28619909502264,78.76923076923076,5.8190045248868785,23.009049773755656,6.522977012572876,0.4852669683257922,1419,45,316,12,34,479,199,390,0.112,0.815,0.073,-0.9586,4,2,0,0,0,0,30.0,3,2,4,8,8,20,4,4,16,0,31,1,0,2,3,53,52,27,0,5,12,4,3,4,1,2,0,2,1,5,14,23,0,3,3,2,7,9,11,12,0,3,5,6,54,8,53,45,5,47,0,1,1,1,43,21,1,5,19,207,68,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624276595396284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549770110046965,0.0,0.10709235223028138,0.0,0.0608306556172216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983270454072805,0.0,0.055368857526330605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11210222426489737,0.0,0.07031638529430814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08392813948993509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22878086541988865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672335873571885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096467413330772,0.0,0.05847974873929501,0.0,0.12268237171684275,0.07322062412409172,0.03290080055440539,0.04648524874310279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050272085417746866,0.060155167119413315,0.10198747368853536,0.0,0.11094049856395463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11657794119194476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07333740079079427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06526943116376521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7028559841483525,0.0,0.1291417236397305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07152035237880408,0.0,0.07340057484743588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12715754828359413,0.0,0.05745704760489299,0.057583945725587414,0.05464150394352835,0.0,0.0,0.05531926805689742,0.0,0.0,0.04343400870852181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07620793152055337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05018516171317919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409238351895988,0.0494878450259293,0.0,0.0,0.14450266834943842,0.0,0.0621156458980008,0.0,0.05681567025551575,0.0,0.0,0.06151116059904379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06541223576244523,0.0,0.0,0.06508652758495166,0.07406267523421789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1614770466295666,0.0,0.0,0.0663295686098918,0.055132683921704916,0.0,0.06435482471018933,0.0,0.0,0.06935480997095286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459986466897743,0.0,0.059906718340686935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03794220994591144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05619865415409634,0.0,0.0,0.038379334310461435,0.05164867920234361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07264712433112452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368547400367885,0.0,0.0,0.0462230931471819,0.0,0.0,0.04190225047500802 divorce,UserX25,2019/03/13,"mourning the loss of what could be When you all realized that divorce is a very realistic possibility due to a host of reasons how did you feel? I waffle between mourning the fact that I don’t have the husband I thought I would have, angry because I didn’t deserve this and ashamed that I am in this position and always saw myself being married until death do us part. Maybe there’s a chance of us getting through it but I highly doubt it. Any feedback would be appreciated and positive notes for my future. 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My husband left me almost a year ago, just over a year into our marriage. He blocked my number and every way I have to contact him, told me he would send papers cause he was going to file for divorce. I have yet to receive said papers and he speaks as if we are already divorced. (I'm still friends with a lot of the people we hung out with) My question here is how can I get this divorce finalized so I can move on with not only my life but my childs? (not his kid) since he left my life has changed for the best and I only want the best for my baby and I.",3.260806451612904,3.4388355645161326,4.443709677419356,90.81056451612905,72.38709677419354,6.52258064516129,25.98387096774193,5.148860815047168,0.5425677419354833,446,13,102,1,8,147,82,124,0.012,0.8590000000000001,0.129,0.9403,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,3,0,0,2,6,3,0,0,7,0,9,2,0,2,0,25,16,9,0,4,5,1,0,0,1,1,2,2,0,2,1,11,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,2,20,3,16,12,4,17,0,0,0,0,25,6,0,4,6,70,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668865367447783,0.15138824966083958,0.0,0.1710138549729707,0.0,0.1884625709970499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3584510816844017,0.0,0.18645009494836312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17544051854422832,0.18066508232703365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14389149642077587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1870837176422571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13194602066610545,0.0,0.08922672956684152,0.0,0.09705954570075112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3711110479237594,0.0,0.2412572501582394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14519304750569373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815146114433709,0.0,0.12663294922155374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2597753472231009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839897861490455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19131531839194876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245312447653146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127292548563486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1363870060421583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1631898550076302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10073185538254674,0.13555908088514926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12131888209865965,0.0,0.0,0.2199564693284025 divorce,InsaineMom,2019/03/13,"It should not be so easy for him!!! My ex husband divorced me, out of no where!!! He always said money wasn't important but now that we are divorced he seems to be rolling in it and loves to brag about how well he is doing. He also couldbt work while we were together due to being disabled, but now???? He is working every day installing windows!!!! All the while, here I am struggling just to make ends meet. I'm so tired of struggling. Its just not fair. Rant over!!!! ",1.9067632850241552,4.05725508695652,2.6336231884057995,94.38770531400968,79.65217391304347,4.958454106280193,24.352657004830927,5.82211442006289,0.4217642512077293,356,13,75,2,9,111,71,92,0.179,0.708,0.113,-0.8102,1,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,2,0,0,2,12,4,0,2,1,0,11,2,0,2,1,15,16,9,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,1,1,1,1,0,4,4,0,0,1,0,1,0,4,2,1,0,3,1,6,2,11,9,1,11,0,0,0,1,15,4,0,1,7,53,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20747353674938784,0.21587430402304436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16731690358363854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2297862388035153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2185888232407048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2341541225729278,0.0,0.17317776591976455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467862117943305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.236183820215603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5424446315737297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29818734229753185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2332671131485261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3777498411656381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bestminipc,2019/03/13,"looking for good info from divorced ppl ill like you to take a moment to think about who should we marry for a really good relationship. did you have a chance to think about it? to have a good answer, you have to be specific in your answer (look at scientists or surgeons as a two of many examples of specific answers) after you have a complete answer, then continue, but if you dont you should have the chance to think about it &#x200B; &#x200B; \~\~\~ when we ask ourselves who should we marry, this is the current conclusion i've come to: 1. you should marry someone that makes you **happier** than you already are 2. you should marry someone that **communicates & understands well** with you 1. communication = expresses well + listens & understands well (this is typically helped by being well-educated) 3. you should marry someone that is **reliable** and that you can trust 4. you should marry someone that is the same as you (meaning the **same important values**) these are **basic** attributes/qualities all my friends & ppl have (this includes singles & also those recently married) &#x200B; looking for **new info in addition** to or different from what i've said from experienced ppl about the kind of person most ppl should marry that would much more likely lead to a good relationship your reasons for why you have any given opinions is what i'll like to discuss im sure (i mean im guessing) that there are many good info on who most ppl should marry for a really good relationship, but i have not run across any that i can atm recall but do you know of any good things i should look and why it is good? &#x200B; please reply if you have specific reasons for your opinions, and ill like to discuss your reasons look forward to it =)",2.645682601205856,5.624809601851855,3.518975021533162,83.2537596899225,85.69753086419753,6.347286821705427,25.436118288831462,7.65591337171366,1.8969004593741028,1397,58,240,27,43,444,148,324,0.016,0.8009999999999999,0.183,0.9952,2,0,0,0,1,0,85.0,3,22,0,2,10,19,0,0,13,0,36,3,0,5,2,58,57,15,0,13,8,0,0,4,1,11,3,2,0,1,23,9,0,0,19,0,1,4,2,0,3,1,3,8,30,19,40,41,8,17,0,0,5,0,41,6,0,9,13,169,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553026297371818,0.047488306980599145,0.0,0.5147288635125784,0.2886258192074914,0.12114677421514225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05551478883778133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05115291989841315,0.06226160917945306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06204226064657116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06959605758555681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04587891052765533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3984589903490902,0.0,0.0,0.06541671583419681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03980295803296089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12828696698222086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061837922176011015,0.03263516741375512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160455097921914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24933247245365806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039638399378837334,0.12040943215001247,0.0,0.12937029222510413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04365310175916466,0.0,0.0,0.05735216146179674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05185066484831735,0.0,0.06518434931125562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07608412955755378,0.1831658526988175,0.05863323158047184,0.19126432185205527,0.0,0.0,0.0564865262716591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20125900501437896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055967472237935634,0.0,0.04464838437877178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03945121331868601,0.1141500689000954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0580082487895011,0.1236389262639902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21356864015011395,0.0,0.10716726291253537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04218375142365602,0.0,0.2886258192074914,0.0 divorce,Checker555,2019/03/13,"I'm getting divorced and I'm terrified I'm (m/48) and my wife filed for divorce about six months ago. We have two boys 7 and 4. Nobody did anything wrong. Nobody cheated or anything like that. We just fought too much. And the love ran somehow ran out on us and I guess she just finally got the guts to call a lawyer and actually file. I probably would have never done it myself. Even though I was entirely miserable in this marriage. But I would have just stuck it out for the sake of the kids. Now it's six months later and we've finally got to a place on the proposed settlement that everyone is okay with so it shouldn't be too long until we're officially dunzo. I won't miss being married. I won't miss her. But I will miss seeing my kids every day. And I have no idea how the money situation is going to work. The settlement has me sending her about 40% of my take home pay each month to her in the form of alimony and child support. And since I'm getting stuck with about $35k in marital debt I have no idea how I'll pay the bills each month and more importantly what I'll have leftover to spend on the boys. I also work in a fairly volatile industry where layoffs are fairly common. So who knows what'll happen if I have to find a new job some day. And then there's the whole being alone thing. I'm not a terribly social guy. I don't have a ton of friends or hobbies or even family around me. I went to work and I went home. That was pretty much how I lived. So if I'm now alone I have no idea how I might meet somebody new and not be alone for the rest of my life. Not that I want to just meet someone new. I don't. But I also don't want to be alone for the rest of my life. That could get really sad. I have a ton of anxiety about how this is going to affect the kids. They're doing really great right now but I have no idea how this is going to affect them down the road. I just don't know anything right now. I feel like I'm in such a fog from all of this. I just feel shellshocked. Oddly, I'm not sad about this. I hated being married. And my ex is not the greatest person in the world. She's got a ton of anger from her own childhood issues and we just see the world in very different ways. So I don't feel sad about not being with her anymore. I just feel odd. Like I've done something wrong. I hate the feeling of having done something wrong. It's like I'm a little kid and I skipped school and I'm wondering if I'm gonna get busted or not. I'm trying to find ways to comfort myself. I'm trying to reach out to friends and family. I just don't know what it's going to be like to be a 48 year old man who's all by himself. It just seems like I'm an outcast. I probably deserve all of this. I'm a very reserved and private person. I'm originally from the south. I was brought up to be a strong man and not show much emotion. I think that's what drove her away. I just couldn't open up. She was from California. The land of being in touch with your feelings and expressing yourself. She hated my southern reserve. And now here I am. All alone. Who's going to take care of me when I really need it? How am I gonna make friends? How am I gonna stay involved in my kids' lives? How am I gonna pay off all that debt?",0.6646395633352142,2.566675642135646,2.612959407742018,94.2174929418408,82.62193362193362,5.6912729782295,20.00018821757952,6.832660038195916,0.15916134010916586,2512,69,582,29,69,839,266,693,0.134,0.777,0.08900000000000001,-0.9813,6,5,2,0,2,0,67.0,4,1,1,4,49,33,6,1,35,1,58,4,1,13,6,116,130,53,0,11,30,2,7,6,3,11,2,0,2,13,28,37,0,0,18,1,8,12,23,17,0,3,20,9,70,16,73,86,21,75,0,7,2,1,50,32,0,13,34,378,98,10,0.0,0.0,0.06065716156583253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05509924389948183,0.0,0.0,0.3218842859257464,0.0,0.0994153291110319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04755063712477276,0.0,0.06164395231025109,0.0,0.0,0.15345201091125854,0.05533372525047681,0.0,0.0,0.058399410060385924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0634701839344752,0.0,0.06337413999371692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04962803967515195,0.0,0.0,0.08017342980805624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06494179465579968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19082739260030115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06991929150601574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08210943720752772,0.0,0.0523707267513286,0.05939455435366201,0.0,0.0,0.1171939063263246,0.0,0.18857346581789586,0.044405629028177435,0.0,0.13618192179493815,0.11362242190520187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14406915973733758,0.0,0.12989978669469324,0.0,0.17662888610310554,0.0,0.1491400957392719,0.06852932401511892,0.06847395440604394,0.061546111259030936,0.0549660415944022,0.0,0.0,0.1841042262498489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12469891957148485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28067489406884777,0.0,0.06487671724219034,0.06168214247596291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10248109846359346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08780795140156593,0.18220331405836468,0.06229856329187281,0.10977316073309268,0.05500780142105915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056099947788549015,0.0,0.041490892919088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0659397282476886,0.0,0.0,0.1984554284577889,0.0,0.13707966510190694,0.04608930858571096,0.04794001826407738,0.18009751356106232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06522427883793994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10854779288356613,0.06494179465579968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06323694876556654,0.13403349725690827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1194598617168132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616504466808273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06290713145361915,0.09906362604244656,0.05658623404535047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05141767207934007,0.06986810412974072,0.0,0.06336216965445236,0.05266620219856822,0.09570440405183887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625207019779211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705360687246516,0.0,0.0,0.0934700373526656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04129495875173029,0.039828284018022124,0.06106983882721214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08440229231775233,0.0,0.06071925397255034,0.0,0.07476832203329642,0.0,0.0,0.1025735840827158,0.07332470096727707,0.09867612416702012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524202541113597,0.0,0.06939709564295801,0.0,0.0,0.06740761057540158,0.1357551137707906,0.0,0.0,0.08831040307741485,0.20387977680927089,0.0,0.04002766125490631 divorce,ohsosoconfused,2019/03/13,"Questions about significance of 10 year marriage length - for alimony in california, for social security benefits, anything else? 🤯 Quick facts: married for 10 years less 2 weeks; just found out she wants a divorce; we have 1 child; no joint assets to speak of; 1 car loan as a joint debt - and a ton of credit card debt (only in my name). 😱 Note: I have a consultation with a family lawyer on Friday. 🦊 What I fear: will waiting for a few weeks before filing paperwork put me in a significantly disadvantaged position as far as length of spousal support? 😒 What I want: best for our daughter, best for my wife, best for myself (in that priority order, surprising as it might be). 💛 More context: 🙋🏻‍♂️ My income has been supporting the family while she was a stay-at-home mom for many years - she did find a part-time job about a month ago but her income at the moment is \~5x less than mine (to be fair I’ve been in the workforce for a while and also my job is full-time). 🙋🏻‍♂️ “Date of separation” - possibly relevant for california is that we have had obvious issues for the last few months due to my discovering proof of her infidelity in mid January. Since then I have lived away from home for a month, now back in the home. Our interactions since mid January have been tense and terse, mostly concerning childcare. 🙋🏻‍♂️ With the above in mind, the way I read instructions it would seem that as far as California was concerned, it could be argued that marriage was over when we had a falling out - or when I moved out for a month; which would make it less than 10y for the sake of court setting a clear spousal support expiration date. Does anyone have experience with that? ❓ Are considerations for any other benefits that might be affected by length from date of marriage to date the divorce papers are filed? Someone mentioned social security benefits (we're fairly young - so it's in distant future, but still) - I definitely want to make sure she can reap full value of all possible benefits she deserves - as long as it doesn’t put me in a vulnerable position to be taken advantage of.",5.146250445315283,6.371140795511223,6.179895796223729,76.26383728179552,68.72568578553616,9.818346989668688,30.03215176344852,10.041961382958581,2.975103954399715,1653,63,314,41,28,550,216,401,0.054000000000000006,0.795,0.151,0.9879,6,0,0,0,2,0,55.0,5,0,0,4,11,18,1,1,25,0,34,0,0,3,6,42,46,21,0,6,4,3,0,0,0,5,0,1,2,1,16,12,0,3,5,1,4,5,2,2,0,0,11,1,28,16,66,24,13,59,0,0,0,0,30,22,0,6,29,201,44,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08638544823062087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07793244660415337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627080161469455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06814080693242199,0.0,0.08019481337252893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155949986670713,0.0749346855432134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08292459925478582,0.0,0.3068100473064767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07780760948310138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08528103040136588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140876388247639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09532689919167624,0.18373842200749604,0.10966075848301866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08906949669977128,0.0,0.0,0.10685124896794117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955048980473971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10171472241837004,0.1934124372135417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07943650642377546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08605203104891772,0.08624208329624405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13010012946249586,0.09880118115708918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067626550837472,0.09839888780479608,0.11413477654605413,0.3111414953788001,0.10357620954777884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07411674901918637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553117836461368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2197253061727987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19593264803706045,0.10916870741089972,0.0,0.0974785187558008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08871677441904767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16122684578583274,0.0,0.0,0.1986803824912736,0.08257088775714783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10387102209031683,0.07782541033521123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3317626240563825,0.09184749507987884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17243940327901774,0.07735297812234224,0.15634046791363285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13845441812570908,0.0,0.0,0.1882679623754904 divorce,xLissita,2019/03/13,"Confused & Afraid I’m sorry if this comes across as a rant... About to reach our 10 year anniversary next month, but I have this thought come and go often. I find myself desiring to be separated from my husband and to experience what I didn’t get to experience before. I was not entirely forced into this marriage, but when you’re 18 and decide to move in with your boyfriend, because your life at home isn’t the best. Then your parents throw a huge fit, constantly visiting you trying to bring you back, telling your baby brother that you decided to leave and will never return because you don’t love him anymore, threatening to disown you and remove you from the will... you become desperate to please them, well at least I did. So I got married at 19. I want to say for about 6 years now I’ve felt this way and I feel that there was so much I missed out on in my life, and honestly my husband feels like my roommate. I do not feel anything when I hug or kiss him, I kinda don’t like getting affection from him. I don’t see him as a person I see an actual future with. From what I’ve seen, he’s not ambitious, even though he has a desire to do more, but that’s all they are are dreams and nothing more. No actions on pursuing them to attempt to make them come true. His anger isn’t the best and we get into arguments often. We don’t see eye-to-eye on things often and he takes what his mother says to heart on very personal issues. Such as my surname, it’s one i was bullied for years on and when I became adult, I grew to love and accept it. So I never took his name and he’s convinced that when we have children (none at the moment) I will give them my name, which is a bit insulting that he’d think so little of me. There’s so much more... but I guess now... I’m just trying to decide what to do and I don’t want to lose him from my life entirely, because I do love him as my family... but I don’t feel the love one should for their spouse. I don’t want to lose his family or upset mine. Which I guess is the reason I’ve put up with it all for so long and have been depressed for years over this. I don’t know if I want support or just to hear other people’s experiences for those who were/are in a similar situation as I am who may have suggestions. For those concerned, I have tried to work it out several times. I’ve explained to my husband the year before that I don’t feel any connection and he feels like a roommate, and I wanted to rekindle our love... but it just... I don’t feel anything’s changed.",2.947365163572062,4.066253547892721,4.255670498084291,88.39099469496023,73.86590038314176,7.4994400235779555,24.49572649572649,7.969615865706242,1.1482716769820227,1960,58,430,28,39,647,231,522,0.092,0.7190000000000001,0.19,0.9954,1,0,0,0,0,0,66.0,5,11,6,7,27,27,2,3,15,0,40,11,1,3,5,90,86,45,0,10,17,7,8,3,0,5,3,3,1,4,28,30,0,0,18,1,0,13,20,9,1,2,11,15,77,18,65,68,12,59,0,4,4,7,68,22,0,13,26,297,105,2,0.0,0.0,0.07463294169182119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08286548630315657,0.0,0.05200867004498782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584709504468272,0.0,0.0,0.12587219367771815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058808000512819335,0.0,0.13986354628211842,0.0844655786807283,0.13015681163267234,0.0,0.16052099494861574,0.0,0.08349578583703719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090515065914224,0.19764090418938804,0.0,0.08264714971849818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06587166538976771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05051397626648541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244348246440579,0.14419609740552308,0.0,0.2706922667495178,0.10927391379669883,0.07343229586920515,0.0,0.06990086059113514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987211760201315,0.07336608758554912,0.043465051833384366,0.0,0.061167627926568074,0.0,0.16850154259355704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619793406264452,0.09062855386729222,0.0,0.0,0.07671515574719916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07982470874173861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042031122946881896,0.0,0.0,0.0809807281926723,0.0,0.0,0.16205915875041804,0.11209203466779362,0.07665253239059573,0.0,0.0676819344999768,0.0,0.1711219543142223,0.0,0.0,0.34512859027147635,0.0,0.05105064780538895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0610451925138325,0.08128558544079073,0.11244243755764323,0.0,0.11797138195873387,0.0,0.08133679626581186,0.0,0.0,0.07338412520716828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10364895200128826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08492141352127529,0.0,0.0,0.053021242839762936,0.13355786667107106,0.0,0.08395150438110263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0768830027290683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07863364466976414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12163910677525228,0.0,0.0,0.1828327348828069,0.0,0.0,0.08640004512893729,0.0,0.0,0.08596614162325521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08561251812425365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08678800933643657,0.0,0.0,0.05750305213427024,0.0,0.06684643784149645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0508095692103747,0.04900496366906682,0.07514070231218352,0.060716165507163015,0.044595800721631614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497151804355353,0.15577364317575784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06310358185535858,0.2255478986566846,0.060705852624996975,0.0,0.0,0.0687642387270578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05567797343229183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462513931891721 divorce,teddybooboo,2019/03/13,"Help please. Not divorced but in trouble, have kid, want to leave for the weekend. In a bad fight, I am done feeling trapped and like a piece of shit for the moment. I want to leave for the weekend with the baby, husband doesn’t want me to. What can I do? Nothing?",0.68888888888889,2.90671862962963,1.6866666666666674,99.00000000000004,84.92592592592592,3.6,23.814814814814817,3.1291,-0.17371851851851794,202,8,45,0,6,63,39,54,0.34,0.479,0.181,-0.9461,0,1,0,0,2,0,10.0,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,6,0,6,1,1,0,0,8,10,2,0,3,2,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,4,1,10,9,1,5,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,4,31,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273894515191513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2786946082837894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13770142607071414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1825412945441086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5767296807696491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13304976960478596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26131404377838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2989434980545548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27954931867428584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4818930521878369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PopGoesTheWeasel690,2019/03/13,so I’m thinking about getting a divorce but have questions Right now I have barely any money since I don’t work full time. I can’t work full time since I wouldn’t make enough to afford daycare expenses. I don’t even know how to save money up without my husband knowing. We have a shared bank account so it’s I can’t exactly hide money from him. Any advice? ,1.9955791505791505,4.0457713378378415,3.3625868725868737,89.78337837837843,78.86486486486487,5.3096525096525085,25.43629343629344,6.18269132825596,0.8247050193050192,285,11,57,2,7,93,50,74,0.031,0.856,0.113,0.7469,1,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,1,0,0,2,6,2,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,2,1,12,14,4,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,9,2,6,13,3,7,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,35,10,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2460220729507201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3424179851847425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26014078792463524,0.0,0.16628856267501088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315369435955085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27672717687405085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680552487573351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2820346813835297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150061343078515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4165256066514423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1613209961829288,0.0,0.0,0.2936126653035424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426927014184608,0.0,0.36657617788271696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ExplorePI,2019/03/13,"Final hearing strategy - how hard is too hard? Firstly, I’m in Australia and our laws are different to the US and Europe... but I have a decision to make and thought I’d out this “out there”. After a bitter and nasty divorce 6 years ago my ex and I settled on a custody arrangement at mediation. Her focus was # of nights in care (equals money), my focus was on productive time with the kids. I got weekend (Sat, Sun and Monday nights)... she got the other 4 nights except some oddities. We finish up just short of 50/50. My ex is nasty. Her ongoing narcissistic behaviour seems to know no bounds. She has screwed with the kids minds (but I have to exceptionally loving relationships with my kids), vandalised my car, threatened my new wife, harassed my employer into firing me (he didn’t, he knows me), sent threatening letters to my old aged mother, screwed around with medical appointments so I missed out, tried to block the school from engaging with me and sent me some truly bizarre threats in txt. This has been going on for 6 years. We’ve been in and out of court in other matters BUT this is the final showdown over custody (well final until she starts up again). A part of me feels like I should just slam everything that’s happened into evidence and let the courts see exactly what’s going on... but the risk in that is that the court could just say, “toxic co-parenting relationship, Parent A gets the kids and Parent B gets minimal contact”. I don’t think I’m prepared to risk that because a militant left-wing feminist judge could very well award my ex the bulk of care... and even if I do get the bulk of care I don’t think it’s good for the kids to have minimal contact. What would you do that’s in the best interests of the children... submit all 60+ pieces of evidence or hold back and just submit enough to make my point? (Note: I don’t think the court cares about her throwing acid on my car... I don’t think the court cares she threatened my new wife, but I think the court will want to see the text where I asked her to calm down about school photos with my stepdaughter because she will just hurt our kids... her response was “I’m happy to hurt them if it also hurts you.” Another example was in text when I said I’m sure neither of us wants the kids to hate us and she responded “I don’t care if they hate me, as long as they hate you.” How hard is too hard? How soft is too generous?",4.241409521435692,5.450282455508479,4.8241176470588245,85.20203888334996,70.84322033898304,8.349551345962114,27.22981056829511,8.757208317658263,1.8767438185443668,1877,63,383,33,34,600,227,472,0.185,0.677,0.139,-0.9794,5,0,0,0,1,0,71.0,6,3,3,3,24,32,8,2,26,0,33,4,0,5,3,76,79,31,0,9,16,8,7,1,0,4,1,3,0,8,14,27,0,3,11,1,1,7,8,14,2,1,14,14,57,18,64,58,9,60,0,4,2,3,55,28,2,7,26,248,71,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585364116617239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05940972095405104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07789958808761205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06613388912704737,0.06945116226238741,0.0,0.0,0.057124457807854974,0.0,0.09057304197590388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779628173314466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4544619031768882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11862910941247085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07761728363736227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676147392540253,0.0,0.04906787309173717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06676710085640745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03756327816430035,0.05307282192682258,0.0,0.2441433341870581,0.0,0.06319107305783626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644044457525367,0.0,0.0844414874820018,0.06231096382827316,0.11883306863786773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06569444012854611,0.07908313273328557,0.26619714773038355,0.22003811295035547,0.0,0.0,0.08373027827076752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385870842394633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816557301203442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08071634964247569,0.07596660279259466,0.0,0.03629436272355032,0.0,0.0,0.06574435073430407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06704966474399944,0.0,0.09917836182806128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0748394031265437,0.0,0.0,0.07501176623345426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14349957390348875,0.0,0.20914851986345254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07795490373247141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16498060336610232,0.08044887760856917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022810378033344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15951940891243854,0.0,0.0,0.07066684362603065,0.05907842438252405,0.0,0.15037098037488064,0.11839909262494468,0.06763086547186906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05258287516456482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700174868208663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380103009010523,0.0,0.058977996267916215,0.043319121794916836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0504380630162143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680853257492974,0.0,0.0,0.06129706617784372,0.08763638490076213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359134198064782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05277351542345588,0.0,0.0,0.09568070465034063 divorce,Sircakes23,2019/03/13,"Scared to leave Ok I've been married 13 years and we have an 11yo. I am scared to leave because I don't want to be alone. When my parents divorced my dad quit seeing his kids. Not being able too see my kids everyday scares me more than anything else in the world. I have stuck around because of this fear far longer than I should but the idea of waking up in a place by myself saddens me more than staying in a relationship I'm unhappy in. Sorry for the disjointed rant here. Just getting things off my chest.",1.2901132686084154,3.757764864077672,2.192451456310682,94.63165453074436,84.8252427184466,4.986731391585762,21.204692556634306,6.42735559955562,0.2500362459546928,403,13,85,4,12,126,77,103,0.267,0.7190000000000001,0.015,-0.9672,1,1,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,1,5,5,0,4,6,1,8,2,2,0,0,9,14,3,0,2,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,2,2,13,1,17,9,2,14,0,0,2,0,8,10,0,0,3,55,15,0,0.1746404540882798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18087484163024148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14371421338359855,0.1554670300649608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21291839971624954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588969001714705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965190637856687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912424292422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19714781535653625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3698380495771425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1939175569606965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18246210419636832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857516198412897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1874984903253797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5245366824477327,0.0,0.2783316622650914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954956903272624,0.0,0.1861434874063044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11602335763090968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10300746459940986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11246272662065096 divorce,SantaClaucasian,2019/03/13,"15 years of dragging me through hell and I still miss.. something. Wtf is wrong with me? I was with a delusional unapologetic violent drug addict for 15 years. 12 of which only I worked. We really started having problems when I started refusing to buy her cigarettes and drugs. I'm broken, beaten, tired but soldiering on. I've taken care of our two youngest children for all but two and a half days for the last 5 weeks. The oldest, no longer a student, is almost independent. I've had that one for nearly half the time. I stayed with her because I wanted the family to stay together. I couldn't bear not being with my kids. The way we separated makes it easier for me to dictate custody, I could file divorce on grounds of cruelty. How do I still miss her? She spent zero time trying to be interested in what I was. She was a drug addict that hardly moved. She did almost nothing with the kids. She equated doing the dishes and laundry to me working 11 hours a day. She spent our money on drugs to the point it caused us to go bankrupt. I lost my career because I couldn't struggle that hard for nothing anymore. She assaulted me. Tried to get me falsely imprisoned. Lied on the stand. The good judge saw through it all and convicted her. Why would I miss anything? I have to move on. I want to move on. What is this shit pulling me? I wrote her a letter. It was fucking nice. Wtf is wrong with me? 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A few months ago my STBX suggested buying a new house so that we had more space for the kids and our oldest could start over in a new school district. (he has some mental health issues). We searched for a while, and I worked extra and we managed to find and put down a down-payment on our dream home, just a couple towns away from where we have lived for over a decade. We closed on the house and immediately started working on painting, carpeting, etc. Finally we started bringing over van loads of boxes, we even slept in the house a couple nights. Then 5 weeks ago just as we were getting ready for movers to bring the rest of the stuff over, she sat down and said she wanted a divorce! This came out of nowhere, I didn't think anything was wrong, and why would she want a divorce after picking out her dream home. We now have filed a formal separation agreement with the county and I am living in the new how while she lives in the old home. We have joint custody and have been signing assets over to each-other as per our agreement. We have 3 kids and only the youngest is really adjusting to the whole only seeing me on the weekends. The other two are obviously mad and don't want to talk to me, and from what I can tell won't talk to her either. Today we had a meeting, together, with a person at the county office in order to get some extra services for our oldest. He acted out which wasn't a surprise, what was is that my STBX let the county employee do her job and put in strict limits to get him to comply. My STBX use to yell at me for doing this exact same thing. She would tell me that you can't threaten him with punishments like taking things away. However, now she's totally fine with it. Yet she cited as on of the reason she wanted a divorce to be ""difference in parenting style and how she didn't believe in any form of punishment, only rewards"". (Side note, she also said that ""she loved me but wasn't in love with me"" and the standard ""she's changed over the past 20 years and we're to different"") So I attempted to talk with her after the meeting today on the phone, and when I questioned her about why she was ok with the punishment the county person gave, she hung up on me. Then she barraged me with text messages, one of which was that she would get a lawyer involved. The only thing I had asked on the phone was why she was ok with the punishment. Latter she sent me a message stating that she only wanted to communicate with if it involved the kids (which this did) and that she wasn't going to be there for me to justify or discuss the marriage in anyway. Up to this point she had gotten to the point of texting me 10-15 times a day, she was always the one to initiate the texting or calls, and most had nothing to do with the kids. Since this whole thing began 5 weeks ago, I have lost a ton of weight (from not having an apatite at all), I have had a few episodes of what I can only call stress induced panic, questioned everything about our entire marriage, and worried endlessly about my children who are with her. I have just started seeing a councilor last week but only one session so far. She has offered no logical reason for wanting the divorce, the reasons she gave don't make sense to me and never will. I don't understand how someone plans something as big as buying a new house, moving, changing jobs, etc and then just backs out after the fact. I don't understand how she can be so desperately needy for me input on things, including home repair things, and emotional support for an incident at her work, and then just days latter be so irrational. The only thing I can come up with is the fact that she turns 40 in a few days. Any input is appreciated, I just need to talk with people about this. 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As much as I appreciate the support in here, this is not the subreddit I wanted to be signing up for. I'm \[40m\] about 2 1/2 months out from DDay when I uncovered my STBX's \[41f\] affair. She claims it had been only been going on for a couple of months, but they had known each other for years. AP has obsessed over her for years and made his feeling clear and I think STBX enjoyed the attention and eventually gave in. We filed last week and are going through mediation. We had been together for 20 years and married 18 of them. We have always had communication problems, which have exacerbated our problems and ruts over the years. My MO was to retreat from conflict and difficult conversations, which frustrated her. She had difficulty expressing her true needs as she felt it de-valued them if she had to ask (I was supposed to figure it out). This obviously led to many miscommunications, periods of silence and telling ourselves different stories. I've been trying to follow advice about working out (lost \~20lbs), leaning on my social network and trying to fill the hours in the day. Weekends are difficult and long. I also feel a little guilty about leaning on my close friends too much and try to spread out the numerous venting sessions among them equally! :) Ironically, since the bomb went off, our communication has improved one hundred fold. I started IC and, combined with my shock, it has given me the kick up the backside and courage to express a lot of things I haven't previously, and be able show up in these tough conversations. Similarly she has been more open about her feelings and needs. We are getting along well and meet weekly for dinner. My friends think this is a terrible idea and I admit it is difficult emotionally to feel closer to her than we have in years, yet knowing we are splitting up. That said it is making it easier to dissipate the anger and it feels like good practice for moving on in a mature way. I guess I'm not really asking for advice, just feeling very lonely, missing my best friend. I'm hoping to come out the other side stronger and more equipped for my next relationship whenever that may be, or even just the one with myself.",6.740847835787591,7.848050204819279,6.6685408299866165,74.6287728692548,65.02409638554218,9.328871039714413,33.68362338241855,9.444778638647367,3.1504199018295402,1805,76,312,33,27,572,232,415,0.116,0.7,0.184,0.9897,1,3,0,0,0,0,59.0,8,0,4,3,13,28,2,1,19,0,33,1,0,3,3,78,70,28,0,8,8,0,7,1,3,1,0,1,0,0,19,37,1,1,15,2,0,8,3,15,1,2,20,8,43,13,63,46,8,57,0,4,0,0,40,29,0,7,20,221,62,2,0.09759539783075252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19073818646704774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010793989206791,0.0,0.07804700438500674,0.08120718919949935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18247704512292465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242034886581948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08406979354409025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079874514055935,0.0,0.06294095773501833,0.0,0.08405877314368981,0.0,0.0,0.10196641861157332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10978168657817226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644608398230935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2960829933409546,0.06972217171077215,0.09370688691967792,0.0,0.0,0.083014595538206,0.0,0.0,0.2262058868045629,0.0,0.050989567265070486,0.0,0.11093142734808452,0.08185838931814779,0.0,0.0,0.1075123337130155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19386850223856508,0.09611180776747984,0.0,0.0,0.11017332479826708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053635878307629635,0.0795532751162929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047680181646145285,0.19563245571475427,0.0,0.17273771186429948,0.0,0.0,0.10653690553008448,0.08297211719125225,0.0,0.09234712518545644,0.0651456858927114,0.09894641519698193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23369914630229816,0.10372846270075972,0.1434876937520035,0.1447315017294147,0.0,0.0,0.1037938127886538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322663347177324,0.07422569786734495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18677123035530305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06252211092336672,0.0,0.0,0.10478093321219206,0.0,0.0,0.0928355724582699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073192160861195,0.0,0.0,0.09948621761019394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907852490536252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075010090054868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08530267939536493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483804571376353,0.12507038040100096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19878260639074585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08052642422727962,0.05756429425014435,0.07746668410620675,0.1565702825523639,0.0,0.08774998338593946,0.09047191155555817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07105061197636604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3142411820609835 divorce,AUserHasNoNamee,2019/03/14,"I’m so tired of humiliating myself. I left a year and a half ago after 20 years of marriage and 4 kids. What little romantic connection we had left was gone and the unhappiness was affecting everyone. I don’t regret leaving and I don’t want him back. I told myself it wasn’t his fault. He was incapable of showing affection, of having a true emotional connection. It’s just not his nature and I needed more. Only he IS capable. He met someone new and so easily handed her what he couldn’t give me after begging and pleading and years of counseling. I spent my entire adult life with someone who wasn’t that into me. The hurt feelings and the blow to my ego are consuming me. That’s not the worst of it. When I’m in really bad shape I call him and sob and ask him what was so wrong with me and why I fell so short. He doesn’t have an answer and he honestly doesn’t owe me one. Every time I do it it feels like falling off the wagon and I look so pathetic and feel like shit. I “relapsed” tonight and I’m such a moron.",1.200952175786302,3.379673672985785,3.5296014648858254,86.83956376561831,82.41232227488152,7.059112451529512,21.91318397242568,8.150884317080207,1.2976995260663506,799,26,167,17,22,275,121,211,0.189,0.687,0.124,-0.9514,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,1,0,0,0,9,13,2,0,10,0,17,4,2,2,1,34,33,22,0,4,3,0,4,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,11,20,0,0,4,1,2,3,9,9,0,2,11,5,27,4,14,21,2,22,0,3,1,0,22,8,2,0,13,110,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144152716044826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15202764031422758,0.0,0.0,0.12504465356458258,0.13578081125754113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1660530844799002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18292548247866044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13701426676957434,0.15539026894764596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24667649996456195,0.2323513565365256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15599981168419422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408795017397494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219097765537802,0.3533739615346763,0.0,0.11486323394890408,0.1588957230326513,0.1629878464502562,0.0,0.0,0.136559746454605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12058058410708668,0.0,0.1570592981887311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11019544264651436,0.12367975040200375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1041784623895108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1669269749432091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27557460151503066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482496264187716,0.18690763534544874,0.0,0.15539026894764596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09591742145219412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1467391522206348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17779931564509008,0.0,0.3141656225270592 divorce,TheSuppishOne,2019/03/14,"Ahhhh, anxiety... can’t you just leave me alone? Well, I need to get this out somehow so I’ll just post it here. Hi there, fellow divorced peeps. It’s been almost two years since my ex-wife left me for another man. And I’ve gone to therapy, and I’ve become happy with myself again (I think), and I’m enjoying life. I have an official girlfriend now! We met online about 3 months ago and talked a bunch. Had our first date ~2 months ago, and made it official exactly one month ago today. She’s awesome, btw. Really level-headed, a great communicator, really pretty, the whole gambit. She seems to like me a lot too. She’s the first “not needy” girl I’ve ever dated, which makes me feel weird since I’m used to girls needing me. Need feels kinda nice, but I know it’s bad in the long run... We had planned to go out to a restaurant tonight that was special to me as a celebratory 1-month anniversary thing. Only issue is: she’s sick. It’s been going around (I had it last week). My concern is that this morning she texts me and said she’s sorry but she doesn’t want to go out tonight, she just wants to stay in and eat soup and go to bed. Fair enough, she’s sick! I totally understand. So I offer to bring her some soup and rub her back/feet until she falls asleep, then I’ll just go home. She declines and says she’d rather not do anything tonight. I have been in a low-key anxiety attack all day. All these thoughts about how she’s probably cheating on me with another guy, or she’s trying to distance herself from me so she can have time to figure out how to break up with me, or whatever. Can you guys help talk me down? Just ease my anxiety a bit? Or is this really a bad sign and I should brace myself?",1.1410299697978772,3.3519567822349607,2.762574150081317,92.0564965538605,82.89684813753581,6.179849763803919,20.034151630140165,7.432916251226849,0.5336499806396661,1323,37,289,21,37,434,201,349,0.108,0.7979999999999999,0.094,-0.8789,0,1,0,0,1,0,59.0,3,2,0,3,22,12,2,0,12,0,20,5,1,5,5,64,47,24,0,7,13,0,3,1,2,1,3,2,2,5,14,21,1,0,8,0,0,9,4,5,1,4,12,5,48,7,34,33,9,49,0,0,0,0,39,12,0,9,26,177,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600876684625281,0.0,0.0979349342157352,0.10129374744703824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20510860023440228,0.22445560897807865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08048300749745657,0.08706483410188245,0.0,0.1112643016591385,0.0,0.07520397647636311,0.1633217677792158,0.0,0.10801502069064918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677484456549777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06307443005165447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007622882389436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105598023869804,0.0,0.0,0.08846783228240325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0989036218757663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16638127184479642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051097695515927376,0.0,0.2779166701058982,0.0,0.0,0.10782744518794284,0.0,0.1936794221653224,0.0,0.1041124289311558,0.0,0.0,0.100373435494026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0655548591160998,0.0,0.09810373959126996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208025211021493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05374961831398088,0.07972197543970501,0.0,0.10355857578787993,0.10626254834992854,0.0,0.06908069795587835,0.047781292028493384,0.0,0.0,0.08655200934610018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314806749604975,0.0,0.09254295609074842,0.06528383354612903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3122596369046471,0.0,0.0,0.2175576280679284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06627340906111412,0.07438310055400249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366762408656228,0.09950015887166117,0.10544748388025148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18796408510591892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930324391626886,0.07777636073970763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903559370541887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180624272912694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10948173280768317,0.0,0.10424430082316456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721966166704174,0.0,0.0,0.11184552016151447,0.0,0.06497554098677813,0.06266780204829732,0.0,0.07764414778122426,0.05702934157203801,0.0,0.09270519984383592,0.0,0.0,0.06640138130226803,0.0,0.09553869272274612,0.10181570407141416,0.0,0.08446983579005135,0.0,0.0,0.1153727296759422,0.0,0.07845115240058065,0.0,0.0879360656126608,0.0,0.0,0.1091928402065166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298151210440572 divorce,Blulum,2019/03/14,"Hit my Limit My STBX (23F) and I (23M) have been married for a little over 4 years, together for 5. &#x200B; For the first two years, I took care of us while I was in the Army. She wanted a job because she was lonely, bored, and wanted to pursue a career of her own. I was supportive and ecstatic when she finally got a job after two years. Fast forward 9 months, and she confesses she had been having an affair with her manager for 6 months. Heart-broken, I begged her to attend counseling with me and she refused. I went to counseling anyway to try and work on myself; see what I could do better as a husband. She refused to cut all contact with him after I asked that she do so. After several sessions alone at marriage counseling and therapy, she finally attends with me. With my contract in the Army coming up, she and I were planning on scouting homes in a state where my family resided. Her and I had an argument after I discover they're still communicating. She hits me, slaps me, and ends up arrested. I end up going to the state alone to get away for my own sanity. &#x200B; Two months later, she comes with me to the state after several more counseling sessions and wants to work on our marriage. She gets a new job, and cheats again. I kicked her out, and she left to California to live with her mom. 7 months later, she and I start talking again. I go to California to finalize the divorce, and we reconcile. She comes back with me to the state I live. 6 Months later (mid to late 2018), I get a fantastic job that pays incredibly well. We move across town to be closer to my job. One day, I get into a total loss wreck losing my car. I got t-boned into my driver door at 60 MPH. The next day, I get laid off as the company trims down the workforce. After several weeks, I discover that her ""friends"" that had been helping her get to work, has been the second man she cheated with. She says there's nothing going on, and that she's just using him for rides. Several weeks later, she wants a divorce again. She's unhappy that I don't have a job...that I don't have a car. I keep spiraling deeper and deeper into depression. I stopped shaving my face. I stopped cleaning the house. I stopped caring. &#x200B; Two weeks ago, she told me she had been sleeping with and seeing the manager at her current job (not the same business/job she met the second man). I had an enormous mental break down when she leaves to work. I just wanted to end my life so badly instead of dealing with the anxiety or her being around him and the depression of feeling worthless. Today, she was getting ready to go out with her manager again. I begged her not to go. Begged that if any of the love she says she has for me ever meant anything, she would stop. I couldn't stop her from continuing to prepare to go meet this man...sleep with him again. To deal with these thoughts, the anxiety, the feelings of worthlessness again, I could not handle. I told her to get out. Pack her shit and get out, because I was done. She's gone now, and I'm home alone. &#x200B; I love her so much and I don't know why. I can't explain why I give and gave so much. I feel so hurt, so betrayed. I know I shouldn't have kept trying so many times, and I feel like a fool. She wanted me towards the end to see someone else to make myself happy, but I believe in marriage. I believe in the love I have for her. &#x200B; I don't know what to do now. I miss her voice. Even now I find myself trying to excitedly share something with her, only to find her gone. Marriage aside, we were amazing friends. We laugh at the dumbest things, dance at the most random times, and did everything together. I don't see how I can ever love anyone again after this. All I know is that I can no longer endure these emotions. &#x200B; Any advice is appreciated.",3.2952133749674744,4.942387526455025,4.383654263162462,85.70803669008588,73.86772486772486,7.285419377222658,26.15005637956457,7.980938725307492,1.5339957758695464,2974,104,595,44,61,970,309,756,0.09,0.8220000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.9427,9,5,1,0,2,1,138.0,6,0,0,10,33,33,4,0,40,0,47,8,3,3,5,110,114,41,0,12,8,2,4,1,2,2,1,3,4,2,15,55,0,10,15,1,1,21,12,16,1,8,32,11,135,17,102,73,10,130,1,9,4,4,97,40,1,4,67,422,150,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04229158594069201,0.03836408434033047,0.0,0.0,0.13447149201114736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2813556595098696,0.31553119893272,0.05886219668988753,0.0,0.06621639514397719,0.0,0.0,0.03026157434750656,0.0,0.035614801415016634,0.038527347239948787,0.040459877379367584,0.0,0.04066189904655407,0.03327875996569706,0.036136027386837216,0.05276476379727922,0.0,0.0,0.09752087456654132,0.0,0.03827662092941851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882513326734682,0.0,0.0,0.11184267706038103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910927138006341,0.0,0.0,0.05582254864732837,0.08923717659369945,0.07455201067647049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04428928400251095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03615392114759335,0.04868287487295568,0.15332884149010975,0.0,0.0,0.02858526861015861,0.07829638519545533,0.0,0.0,0.038896234787550873,0.0,0.04079944286239278,0.0,0.0875323366225505,0.030918415147951725,0.0,0.1422295760419254,0.07911215959471217,0.036812963010344674,0.0,0.0,0.06687425578333864,0.0,0.2035026897770967,0.04151701124151596,0.1475781880947784,0.0,0.06922809106545286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046071134721640775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05128563909481018,0.029008897179731624,0.0,0.08682441952045591,0.0,0.0,0.049937975807358814,0.04633089813606284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3435806009326928,0.03846822552148442,0.0,0.0,0.09513968435863264,0.0,0.04882042167340347,0.04582604733830117,0.04702259116566819,0.0,0.030569127767586256,0.0211438573167322,0.043376771934855916,0.07643202517173972,0.0,0.0,0.048417956679572965,0.0,0.0,0.15624338746820954,0.0,0.02888896475979558,0.04387795542503487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04361489594850891,0.0,0.0,0.05068765959155482,0.17272380382026065,0.04599856249092442,0.06362986084900125,0.0,0.0,0.04179897769163026,0.04602754209809795,0.0,0.0,0.04152721852071235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029326865088662783,0.03291551145063423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0688341484409593,0.0,0.0,0.13795054289618372,0.0,0.0,0.19557110174113296,0.044425111930642414,0.0,0.0,0.0866201998987628,0.0,0.03667002448739176,0.033318168897961416,0.0,0.0,0.030632988881815607,0.0,0.03456254111166996,0.1809152594411912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491123198446164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034785895823939886,0.0,0.0,0.049493130457848006,0.0,0.028752541201327583,0.0,0.0,0.034358568227633585,0.05047248451746719,0.0,0.04102328410977917,0.08270958116002973,0.04808438865857894,0.08815048352303967,0.0,0.16910856960102674,0.0,0.05205912113246529,0.037379025967895316,0.0,0.0,0.1531619027624035,0.0,0.10414703551979647,0.0,0.038912878772724285,0.040119922430232366,0.07810485110902056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260300569359295,0.0,0.0,0.03074404939177745,0.0,0.31553119893272,0.08361047068799317 divorce,Mnbrit78,2019/03/14,"Not sure what to do My wife and I are getting divorced after 15 years of marriage. I was the one who asked for divorce, and therefore my wife thinks I should take the fall. I have been a stay at home dad for about 8 years as we brought up our three kids. I now work part time and would be unable to support myself on my current job. I am looking for full time employment, but am not finding much except minimum wage retail jobs that won’t pay me much more than my part time job does now. She is a licensed attorney, although she doesn’t practice. She is insisting on doing the whole thing ourselves because neither of us can afford lawyers. I’ve said she can keep the house and live there with the kids. We’ve only had it for about a year, so there’s not much equity in it. Although I did use a 50,000 inheritance that I got when my Mom died as a down payment. She pretty much seems to think that since I was the one who wanted the divorce, then I should get nothing. She says she can’t afford to give me anything, and frames it as if I am taking food from the mouths of our children if I ask. Things are currently pretty amicable and I don’t want to upset the Apple cart too much, but I also don’t want to end up destitute. I’m not really sure how to proceed from here when I can’t afford a lawyer. Our household income is too high to qualify for legal aid, but there is no money in the bank to pay for legal representation. I’ve probably missed some details here, but I will update if I think of anything else. 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Oregon. My sister-in-law is divorcing her husband after 7 years. Due to her situation, she is moving in with us until she can become financially secure. She has 0 savings and 10k in credit card debt. Currently in school and bar tending at night. She worked more / paid more bills and basically supported her husband while he went to school first. So he got the career with Boeing making 80k per year. He has 10k in savings, 0 debt, and several shares of Boeing stock. Financially he’s doing great. Marriage odds and ends... she liked to go out with friends more than he liked, often coming home late and drunk. She spends too much money on this sort of activity for her age (30). This displeased the mister. He treated their household like a bachelor pad... never helped out with chores. Wiped boogers on the couch. Saying he was too busy to text while at work, but texting other people. He had secret conversations with other girls. Lack of intimacy / deep conversation. Chronic liar. Dynamic between them is that she seemed to always be giving more than he did, and he would take more than she did. Bullshit but not a complete deal breaker (in their book). Why are they getting divorced? Her husband has a fetish for cuckolding that she entertained for 6 months about 2 years ago. This was a huge mistake... Pandora’s box- it got to a point where he would obsess about it with her constantly. She couldn’t have a conversation without him bringing it up- talking dirty and asking her to fuck strangers. When they had sex with each other, he acted like it was a hardcore porn. No intimacy. At the same time, driving her away, she caught feelings for one of the guys he picked out for her to screw. The guy was treating her nicely... did his chores, was responsible, intimate with her. Realizing she caught feelings, she ended the cuckolding. Yet husband’s obsession kept going. He developed a porn addiction, started spending several hundred dollars a month on live internet sex shows and secretly going to strip clubs. He also begin talking more and more to other women secretly and lying about it or gaslighting. She wanted them to go to counseling, he refused. She left temporarily 9 months ago, so then he made all the big promises. No more porn, cuckolding, lies. He’d start cleaning up. They’d go to counseling. He bought her a nice vacuum (the irony). Well that faded. He continued to spend more on sex shows and they never went to counseling. He also began becoming very suspicious of her normal behavior. Became controlling. Constantly paranoid that she was cheating. Which I suspect was projection, based on his own guilt. He blamed her for his own behavior, even going as far as telling her it was her fault because she didn’t specifically tell him not to visit a specific live sex website. She was supposed to write it down. Or it was because she only wanted “vanilla sex” with him. So now we’re here today. She’s already moved in with us. And she just wants to get the divorce going. However, she’s completely unaware of her rights in her marriage. My wife and I think she’s being too nice- she doesn’t understand that’s she probably entitled to some sort of alimony. Her husband seems to be playing it cool, like he knows that she could potentially ask for that sort of thing. She’s afraid of “being a bitch” to him. We are worried she may be giving up too much of what she’s rightfully entitled to / being too nice. Again, common theme in their relationship- she’s gives more than she gets back. What do you guys think? TL;DR: selfish husband got career first, has several thousand in savings, and zero debt. Wife who supported husband in school, is currently going to school, has 10k in debt, and zero savings. 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My husband and I have been together 10 years. We’ve been married almost 4. The relationship started rocky. I wasn’t sure about him, he wasn’t my type, I had people telling me no. But 2 years in I fully committed (I was 21f). Since then we’ve been great. Love was there, he adored me. People didn’t get our relationship because I (and I’m not saying this to toot my own horn) am very pretty and he is not conventionally attractive, but I find him very attractive... over the last year things changed, we bought a house and he stopped caring so I just kind of did my own thing for our lives and took care of everything. We were operating completely independently, it finally took its toll and I looked at his phone, he was getting nudes from crack heads from his home town, messages were deleted, from “pam” who he has always been pressed on but insist they were just friends. I included her in everything. Anyway at that point he said his mental health is bad and he needs to move out and we needed to separate. He does this and we live together nov and dec, he leaves Jan 1. This whole time he maintains he is having a mental health crisis this has nothing to do with other women and that he loves me dearly and he thinks we will work it out. So we still spend time together. Sleepovers, sex. All of it. I said as long as you aren’t seeing anyone else I will be cool with this. He said he was not. Feb 15 I get another bad feeling and look at his phone and lo and behold he has been in a full emotional relationship with Pam and it’s been happening for a year. He’s in love with her. I said fuck you and leave... we didn’t talk for 1 week. (Mind you the day before he was saying he thought he was ready to come home) . 1 week later I am having a panic attack on the high way and he’s the only one o can call. He has me come over and he is fixing my heart, and says “what if I wanted to come home” I didn’t expect this. I didn’t want to talk about this. Over the next 3 days he has a vicious bout of the flu, I heal him and solve everything. Now he’s like I’ll never speak to her again, blocked her, we went to counseling, and just basically was totally in it. Fast forward a week.... he’s pulling back. And I get anxious and my guts telling me he did something and I check the phone and he texted her. He downloaded Snapchat, and other text apps.... so I believe he’s back in contact. He is screaming that I am holding on to the past that I fucked up, that I can’t move on and he’s feeling invaded. That he texted her he hopes she was okay and that was all. No more contact. But fuck man, now I’m at my house and he is at his and I have this burning feeling she will be over there. She loves his attention but won’t pull the trigger with him at all... so what do I do? Is he in love with her and I’m a second option because she doesn’t want him. Am i really not giving him a chance? Should I turn and run? I want to drive by and see if her car is there. He insists they still haven’t spoken words other than that one text to which she didn’t reply, but what I believe is he told her an app to download and is talking to her there. How do I trust him?? Sorry this is so damn long. I’ve been holding a lot in. I was fully prepared for the total divorce and now I’m so confused. Thanks guys. 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She doesn’t know how to go about actually confessing to him she wants a divorce ideas? ,7.88820512820512,8.273122692307695,8.643076923076926,63.96858974358975,62.46153846153846,12.31794871794872,40.4102564102564,11.855464076750405,5.231402564102563,228,12,38,7,3,77,41,52,0.059,0.8190000000000001,0.122,0.5118,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,5,0,3,0,0,1,0,9,10,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,7,2,7,10,0,6,1,0,0,0,12,3,0,0,1,26,8,0,0.0,0.26836510607138186,0.6630931003943693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2117466435592701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19510943522446925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25478167559699666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3499862115219145,0.0,0.11833674441237317,0.0,0.1287249987546239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556905907817941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1244783112127152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18078989898462075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366439776818553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13359539100510068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ruasquidward,2019/03/14,"Please don't be judgmental and offer me your unbiased insight.. Brief summary of our relationship.. Together for about 10 years but had a break off, got back together again and now married for about 2 years, 1 child together. I am a SAHM, my husband works full time. I am seriously considering divorce due to many reasons (physical and emotional abuse, lack of intimacy, lack of trust, never-ending arguments and fights). In the beginning, I tried to convince myself to stay in the marriage for the sake of the child and thinking that I should ""try harder"" to somehow make the marriage work instead of getting a divorce so early on, but now I think it has reached to a point where I really wonder if anything will ever get better or am I just wasting my time. I regret and hate myself so much for taking back my husband (I was the one who wanted to break up back then), having false hope that he would somehow change, that he will treat me better this time, that he has realized his past mistakes and will not make those mistakes again on me, etc.. I really thought that the reason he asked me back was because he was sincerely sorry for his wrongdoings in the past and because he realized that he really loved and missed me so much. What a fool I was to believe that he would change and that our relationship will change for the better.. Nothing has changed- as a matter of fact, I think things just got worse than how it was before now that marriage and kid is involved in the picture. His anger and temper outbursts have gotten more and more abusive and frightening over the course of the marriage. I think I am at a serious disadvantage if I file for divorce right now, considering the fact that I am a sahm, don't have much savings, not getting any younger and prettier, will have this ""label"" on me forever as a single mom, will not get much spousal support becasue of short marriage, having to scramble to find a new job and place to live, etc. I want to really think carefully and make this divorce decision rationally and not on an emotional whim. Would it be wise for me to wait a few more years before pulling the trigger, and during those time prepare myself financially and emotionally? As for child custody issue, I am stuggling to make a rational decision on this one as well.. I am well aware how challenging it is for a low income earning single mom to carry on her life with having child in her custody.. difficulty with financial issues, difficulty meeting someone new in the future, etc. I am not sure if I want full custody of my child even if the court fully handed me that option, to be completely honest.. as I don't think I can handle the reality and burden of becoming a struggling single mom having to take all the responsibility of the child. Even if I were to receive child support money, I doubt that I will get much.. and I have also heard so many horror stories where the ex-husband somehow avoids the responsibility of paying child support money through loopholes and there is not much the woman can do to get the money from her ex. Please don't be judgemental and call me names and say things like ""you are not qualified to be a mother"", etc.. The society puts so much pressure on women to somehow automatically take all the responsibility associated with a child and it is always assumed that the women will take custody of the child and not the men. I am really coming from a point of view where I have to make very difficult, rational, and life changing decisions. I am really just asking for non judgmental, unbiased advice on this matter from anybody who has gone through similar experience.. I would really appreciate your insight, thank you..",10.138062469497315,8.09773989019034,9.840098096632506,65.06387579306981,59.3221083455344,12.854836505612495,41.068277208394335,11.4731,4.719844353343094,2927,125,501,64,30,958,283,683,0.14800000000000002,0.743,0.109,-0.988,2,1,0,0,9,0,81.0,2,4,0,7,37,40,4,4,46,0,60,4,1,10,6,110,105,50,0,19,19,7,1,1,0,13,2,2,0,15,30,32,0,2,19,0,4,6,12,18,2,2,13,4,59,22,80,74,24,65,0,3,1,1,67,29,0,15,28,381,89,7,0.0,0.1351158034500507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05571806815683763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045597878330588884,0.04744417241719563,0.0,0.0,0.03877470913041231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04692157762579437,0.0,0.10660967922093527,0.0,0.0,0.17537561429302198,0.0,0.06951620848788002,0.06297273593122432,0.09703752293671863,0.06424061210937945,0.0,0.15128536750191315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058222524645711725,0.0,0.058134421533963324,0.0,0.30159141555117996,0.049116609247306015,0.05978308052108955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924152769332933,0.05050169348422818,0.0,0.25436393931817025,0.07532070076236387,0.05157672891331407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055775284113083516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211410972521053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178739678935996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09120621538671833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629421662134311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663248991338483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902553401974884,0.05658231689094515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054806678747024,0.02785648390496035,0.0,0.05034860591248898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051461653177402936,0.0,0.19030231092823766,0.11561613765836334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20033903262413036,0.0,0.0,0.29340742269592385,0.0,0.043976379488322566,0.11013813911705396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471103389562505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0772747690345782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088617082389672,0.0,0.0,0.059572463879851364,0.1251789426886719,0.1078023084484883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057319598161491826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556937246373096,0.1172495546337524,0.0,0.1224336098899123,0.0,0.04869370582005735,0.0,0.0453436030955392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04831180666921961,0.0,0.0,0.0638278288085162,0.0,0.06077440698616227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960838355365102,0.0,0.0,0.19411262478642125,0.05373950245517477,0.0,0.17148403284979907,0.0,0.0,0.05249520953438031,0.0,0.0,0.07576145536771699,0.21921189800517998,0.0,0.04526652296660877,0.1329923799184511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07742398461769215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047046444937203266,0.10089341824534677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253341809777183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061834408296130725,0.08302066647505042,0.0,0.058106983303830816,0.16201795239653372,0.0,0.0,0.11015462770660643 divorce,Itguy1229,2019/03/14,"Leaning Towards Divorce Alright well I will try to make this as concise as possible. I have been seriously considering asking my (31M) wife (32F) for awhile now (married for 8 years). We are scheduled to start marriage counseling this upcoming Monday so I really want to see if anything changes in counseling. We have 3 kids together (ages 6, 5, and 3), and we parent well together, but there is no love and intimacy in our relationship (it sucks). I always want to cuddle her, or just touch her or old her hand and she will tell me not to touch her. We have had a dead bedroom for years now, and we are now on the longest drought we have ever had of a year and a half of no sex at all. She has brought up wanting to divorce me in the past but wants to see her kids everyday. So it's like we are staying together for the kids with a hope of maybe marriage counseling helping to turn things around. But she's cold to me and there is no physical affection which I absolutely need in a relationship. She also claims sex is just a chore for her and I love sex, and would have it with her every day if I could. I know there are women out there who like and want sex. I hate the thought of not seeing my kids everyday, but life is too short to be married to someone who doesn't even want to touch you or hardly ever spend time with you. Should I give marriage counseling and honest try first?",3.9099097472924207,5.051661823104695,4.93424368231047,84.35486732851987,71.56317689530684,8.428086642599277,29.012454873646213,8.841846274778883,2.1482651263537904,1083,42,225,20,20,355,144,277,0.068,0.762,0.17,0.9836,1,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,8,2,0,1,19,12,2,0,10,1,24,9,1,2,3,54,47,25,1,13,13,2,5,2,0,4,1,0,2,5,9,23,0,0,2,0,1,1,6,3,2,2,5,9,36,9,36,36,1,32,0,0,3,7,43,11,1,6,21,161,45,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09923101418329963,0.10324895627627004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211167504617233,0.11046227426380999,0.11600305735884253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13126585328003815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0990720596698781,0.0,0.0,0.08002478915018932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08195720721321627,0.22448461664023964,0.10454726399882976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554694023407127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903398004051405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115610592758733,0.1225085993582916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08317179836964136,0.0,0.0,0.12324475645746752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06819406642211348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876451564245577,0.1212436740775118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2239837564072454,0.0,0.08282793851908926,0.0,0.124660418082433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09200771902810403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1302067074834015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13778210307748226,0.0,0.1184535126389034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13988759447018845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07949225629726135,0.0,0.0,0.26644246891084583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966398895050162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513711927684437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782825348210647,0.13225847917533154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10845607023171064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08243679670396031,0.0,0.0,0.0985099120174393,0.07235516882101035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16849162279052382,0.13496923507744726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4391325466645365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22313527378963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08814667656052085,0.0,0.0,0.23972070246473645 divorce,wafflesareforever,2019/03/14,"She moves out on Saturday, after we watch our 9-year-old's basketball game together It's a ""trial separation"" at this point, but so much damage has been done to what I once viewed, not long ago, as an invincible marriage, that I don't know how we could ever possibly recover. We've been together since we were freshmen in college back in 2000, married in 2004. We moved into a house in a cozy little suburban neighborhood six years ago. Our neighbors across the street had kids the same age as ours, and we quickly became super close with them. It was like we were one big family. We did dinner 3 or 4 times a week, we went on vacations together... crazy close. This past summer, I started noticing some weirdness between my wife (S) and the husband across the street (J). S and J would laugh at each other's jokes a little too much. They'd sit next to each other in situations where it seemed like they should really be sitting next to their spouses. Things continued to get unexplainably weirder until my wife left her email open and I snooped. I found emails to her therapist about how she and J were going to joint sessions together. Wtf?! Then I checked the logs on our mobile phone account and discovered that they were texting more than 400 times back and forth per day, for months. I confronted her, and she told me exactly what I was hoping not to hear: That she was in love with him. ""I don't know how it happened but it did"" yadda yadda yadda. I am still hopelessly, deeply in love with her and I kind of want to die, but I won't even consider taking my own life because my two boys deserve better than that. I will live for them for now, and hope to find a reason to live for myself someday.",5.9169090909090905,6.246150660606059,6.113484848484847,80.6202272727273,66.63636363636364,9.50909090909091,30.13636363636364,9.3871,2.473436363636363,1338,45,261,24,20,427,203,330,0.068,0.7959999999999999,0.136,0.98,0,0,0,0,0,2,46.0,12,0,6,2,14,15,1,0,12,0,24,4,0,4,2,53,41,22,1,6,6,4,0,2,1,4,1,1,1,2,16,28,1,0,6,2,2,4,5,4,0,3,16,3,46,11,42,18,8,59,0,2,2,2,43,27,0,5,28,180,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20902568700569105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813184332204863,0.0,0.07187185092558562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10427457247581473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413500398271242,0.0,0.0,0.07603691565987672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223634676763906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1206544894111145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787303557769665,0.1066489399327163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111473363746602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776012117930647,0.0,0.0,0.1292732525003159,0.0,0.0,0.06159883111392009,0.0,0.06700631741899239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10426018392569412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288391217853535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23420620664656466,0.0,0.13604286248835876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12277659509801984,0.1295915061346964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12810066488226868,0.0,0.08327753734587663,0.11520174083587115,0.2363371812380479,0.20821892201352546,0.10433939441787556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21282197898899174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09410810234772617,0.2506219369305261,0.1733427971335291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2507798315447925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423199563408608,0.1237181196027208,0.1255615830261876,0.07989331986267012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125506214485181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145532258990486,0.13291657916936342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07553092050444803,0.12122270036055802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733338254125696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09752959813953517,0.1325265777888611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834515101319377,0.0,0.09415654022184622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08864749037088089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13689309226177174,0.0783287256963001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13749899069084368,0.0,0.0,0.1126602349645656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11517293957099772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06954154408240477,0.0,0.094573722721203,0.0,0.0,0.10929616192844227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837540652403568,0.0,0.0,0.1518498041153076 divorce,whyvswhynot12089,2019/03/14,"Foreign, abusive, soon to be ex-husband, admitted to using me for a green card and then served me with a divorce complaint on grounds of cruelty so he could use VAWA to self-petition for a green card. Statements like, ""Biggest regret of my life"" and ""I thought I knew pathological liars but this one takes the cake"" really don't begin to describe my thoughts on this subject. My only saving grace was that it was a short marriage and I was able to get out when I did. He acted like the perfect gentleman when we first met. He seemed to have a sweetness/innocence about him that I found really endearing. But in the months I started living with him, I went through hell. He put me down constantly. He was sadistic and cruel, abusive psychologically and financially. Every month he'd create a new dating site profile...tinder, okcupid, badoo, plenty of fish, you name it...even hiding our relationship from girls on facebook. And every time I caught him, he'd continue to lie with a straight face. He could never commit to a person, promise, or responsibility, but he committed to lies like his life depended on it. Whenever I confronted him about this or him putting me down, he'd scream at me for being too sensitive and/or storm out the door and give me the silent treatment for a few days. ' When he saw that I stopped responding to his leaving or silent treatment and started to tell him that I wanted to him to leave, he suddenly decided to try to play ""nice""...but that only lasted for so long. From February 2018 to June 2018 I tried breaking things off with him 5 different times, but his screaming mental gymnastics/word salad whenever I did try, was like hearing the squawk of a dying parrot put on repeat at Guantanamo Bay. He was relentless. He could go for hours and even when I started having a panic attack, he did not care. He'd just keep going. I had no car. I had no way of escape. I had just moved to Virginia and didn't know anyone. I felt completely trapped and yet I kept trying to break things off with him. He never actually hit me, but by April 2018 he started using physical intimidation...at one point, he threw my to go food from work out his car window and tried holding me down when I tried getting out of the car. I got out of that car and walked the rest of the 2 miles home that night, April 14 at 12:30pm. I woke up the following day with black and blue bruises around my wrists, but my work uniform was long sleeve and I never told anybody. I wish I had. &#x200B; By the end of June 2018 I told him I was done for good, one night after work. He turned the whole thing into a record 3 and a half hours of yelling at me about what an awful person I was and after I started hyperventilating, I tried to leave the living room sofa and go upstairs to get away from him/lock myself in one of the upstairs bedrooms. But I couldn't. He held me there for a good 10 minutes screaming in my face and I was shaking and crying at this point. When I was finally able to break free, he followed me upstairs and yelled how, (we) ""weren't done talking yet""...even though I hadn't said a word in over an hour. I missed work the following day, because I was so shaken up I couldn't sleep. &#x200B; Even after all that, he pretended nothing had happened the following day. I was so mentally and physically exhausted it took me a week to drudge up the courage to say that we were done and every time he'd try starting up again, I told him I wasn't interested in anything he had to say. That worked for a little bit but nothing could prepare me for July 2018. That month he got stoned every night. During the day he'd continue to make sexual passes and talk about how we needed to get back together. During the night he'd make disgusting, unrepentant confessions. At the beginning of the month it was that he never loved me and had lied about loving me. During the middle it was that he literally thought age was just a number, that if there were no legal repercussions he'd sleep with girls as young as 13, and by the end of the month it was that he had never even been interested in dating me when he pressured me to marry him/had been using him for a green card. And the real kicker is that when he was sober he would deny all these things...He would say that he had made these (very wordy and perfectly executed) confessions because he, ""didn't know enough English"". He wouldn't be honest with me. He wouldn't apologize and he wouldn't leave me alone even though I kept begging him to. So by the last week of July I kicked him out. I was terrified about not having enough money to pay the rent or utilities on my own, but he had made living with him so untenable, I told myself I would do anything to get away from him. I spent the next several weeks getting harassed by him and his friends, random door bell rings late at night, constant facebook message from him to meet him alone, etc...I thought about filing a restraining order, but he permanently deleted his facebook and came into the house and took my old phone out of my underwear drawer while I was at work, to cover his tracks. I get four days of peace and quiet for the first time in 9 months and I think finally things are going to be alright. But then September 6 rolls around and I get served a divorce complaint on grounds of cruelty. I've never been hurtful to anyone in my life, physically, psychologically...And these lies were so outrageous they weren't even within the realm of belief. (For example, he said I punched and struck him with my fists through out the relationship. Aside from the fact I've never hit anyone before, I have really weak arms. If I was ever in a position where I needed to defend myself, I'd be going for a swift kick to the nuts...because I take Ballet classes. I have no idea even how to punch someone). &#x200B; Fast forward to two weeks ago. My soon to be ex-husband said he wanted to settle out of court, but on the day he and his lawyer are supposed to meet with my lawyer and me to finalize the divorce he backs out. His lawyer has the actual nerve to tell my lawyer that they need to keep the divorce open for immigration. My lawyer tells me he's never felt so disgusted in his entire career and points out that my soon to be ex-husband is a big hulky, 6/3 guy who looks like he could kill all 3 of us. Fast forward to a week ago. We're all in court (specifically because of my ex's fault ground/allegations of cruelty). His lawyer stumbles over all her words and makes the most hilarious/ non-excuses for why there is absolutely nothing to back up these claims...not even hear say. There are no witnesses, no texts (primary way I communicated with my ex), no corroborating documents...And all she can say is that, ""There were no witnesses because his family lives in Jordan"".(Even though my soon to be ex-husband is a real social butterfly and has hundreds of friends in Virginia.) Originally I wanted to give his lawyer the benefit of the doubt, given how gifted a liar he is...I thought, ""I believed my ex for a time. Why should I judge someone for doing the same thing?""...But if you could have heard this woman talk in court...She's just as sleazy as he is. Her manner, her body language, the things she said...she doesn't believe him and she doesn't care. She was wasting everyone's time to make a buck and the end result was the judge ordered my ex to pay for my attorney fees. &#x200B; Virginia Law states that you can't get divorced unless you have fault grounds, have been separated a year or separated 6 months but have a divorce agreement. Since my soon to be ex seems to want to drag this out until the bitter end, it looks like I've got to wait until July of this year to finally get divorced from this asshole. Part of me hopes he gets what he deserves (denial of VAWA self-petition and possibly deportation) but a part of me worries what the backlash will be if that does happen. Right now him and his friends are staying away from me because common sense dictates that you probably shouldn't stalk or harass someone you're claiming abused you...But what happens if his self-petition is denied and he decides he has nothing to lose? I guess that's an uncrossed bridge and I should avoid thinking about it, but I'd like to know that when the divorce is finally final, that this will all be over. &#x200B; &#x200B;",5.8356296296296275,6.2987329086419805,6.082567901234567,80.30755555555554,66.82716049382717,9.0479012345679,30.891358024691357,8.954980946260402,2.405701728395061,6592,238,1276,104,100,2108,575,1620,0.139,0.7859999999999999,0.075,-0.9988,4,4,0,0,11,0,247.0,6,5,2,11,64,60,13,5,83,2,122,17,7,17,21,225,235,107,2,32,33,5,2,7,3,11,6,18,8,6,57,81,2,10,24,3,8,30,34,29,0,9,89,29,178,32,215,106,18,241,4,4,8,2,174,83,1,19,130,821,235,18,0.062310430722010125,0.11074150699282256,0.06080599199699021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055234437238806194,0.0,0.0,0.06453481438532331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025399769628249,0.2271419806312581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0653533529257597,0.0,0.05127617529143761,0.05546949392105089,0.0,0.0354435551860663,0.0878140511959193,0.07186931254781344,0.0,0.11395158067088693,0.0,0.02651079358217682,0.07020251777593603,0.0,0.0,0.034013426044183864,0.03460642082553212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035633266528915256,0.06352963689360526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03266565055323649,0.06733543942443547,0.0,0.14924942605689426,0.0,0.034222541137854966,0.14064775550831984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03233419477057033,0.03255056900268045,0.0,0.0,0.027264138913706902,0.09564780652212804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103770938080387,0.06438333156388684,0.034746300636769915,0.20577725914109773,0.028181675963770168,0.10499845062026822,0.029770143404863125,0.0,0.0,0.029370364299194963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05982778507352907,0.2047740934385108,0.0,0.05300122054084352,0.037673010081692486,0.034160085557765146,0.07221132631217789,0.0,0.1790504555623495,0.05977384293652011,0.10623736117127353,0.05226303299126017,0.07475301542184892,0.0,0.03432098219018464,0.030848561423376424,0.08265136215617393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07022838400787086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03125122124807821,0.03094415860383308,0.09204483417109907,0.03594893554731485,0.03335230241144655,0.035170445916727335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538437381707546,0.034468629767769036,0.0,0.0513662747494118,0.050791317500842426,0.03514443995287636,0.13195549843732585,0.0,0.0,0.06601754993597403,0.10654605160271112,0.03122571056047745,0.11004250381509163,0.05514277039407395,0.05232506852350007,0.03485471679351012,0.0,0.0,0.05623759648825336,0.05895963615235166,0.08318539271073179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06279425859807257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740745696414324,0.033113063385554836,0.0,0.0693035922716545,0.19223058195608436,0.03008990113609374,0.03313392498464101,0.14618529552067247,0.0,0.11957707759875695,0.0,0.0326921576500478,0.0,0.0844463209277121,0.04738989037963318,0.0,0.03655393245999049,0.0,0.06747612436479017,0.0,0.0,0.054407064681105816,0.0,0.0,0.08835524631509123,0.035122824162406086,0.0,0.0,0.03359059157708345,0.0,0.0,0.09395878969810093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07092291165099182,0.05987648620542903,0.0,0.0,0.06689808356771282,0.0,0.02660638368909369,0.11854297712338295,0.12387938866925935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056725075913205074,0.09750505296457143,0.0351965253784542,0.0,0.025771916095735533,0.0,0.06235543056988085,0.031758818591758865,0.07919313861865307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323109307251969,0.03320731424152397,0.0,0.02604715507999724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04684968927416836,0.07512414590577875,0.08169309434166598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418884431223498,0.03992600802174491,0.09182952272555726,0.1236688046265592,0.10900113972364303,0.0,0.0,0.11908057361945253,0.06922918123023197,0.1692187691846025,0.033887927867469934,0.03043411837785224,0.0,0.03747588803879938,0.1076324118963,0.0,0.025706315510935062,0.07350461289486744,0.04945911959531605,0.12495417254488735,0.0,0.0,0.028881196770397792,0.056225471959098716,0.034783685333678815,0.035826960108392994,0.0,0.0,0.13608820703781466,0.031639633509242884,0.0,0.0663953133169812,0.0,0.2271419806312581,0.04012587445725565 divorce,ChemicalSupermarket,2019/03/14,"STBX continues to plea for reconciliation, and it's emotionally exhausting Read the First Time post, so here are my responses before proceeding into the rant. _Tell us how old you are, how long you were married, how many kids, if you own a house, etc._ I'm 34. STBX is 32. We've been married for 8 years. We have one 6-year-old son. We do not own a house. STBX does not work, and I pay for the apartment that she and our son share. I have moved out of the apartment and share a house with 3 roommates. _Tell us if you're using a mediator, collaborative divorce process, attorneys, or trying to DIY/Pro Se. Please note, most people in this sub (and pretty much all the mods) are going to urge you not to go Pro Se, especially if children are involved._ We aren't looking to get a divorce right away, so I haven't put much thought into this. We are aiming for a legal separation. Since she doesn't work and has health issues, I would like her to stay on my medical insurance. _The basic reasons for the divorce._ Irreconcilable differences. The details are that I have been growing steadily unhappy over the years due to big and growing personality differences. I am active; she is not. I want a companion to join me in activities; she does not. I want her to gain some independence, a driver's license, etc etc; she has not. Basically, I'm not happy with her, and I don't want to spend the rest of my life unhappy. _Tell us where you are emotionally, as best you can. This is an important step in the healing process._ I feel okay at the moment. I go through periods where I am very aware of my STBX's sadness, and that affects me deeply. I care a lot about her, and I want her to be happy, but this separation is putting a lot of stress and unhappiness on her. I, on the other hand, finally feel good that I've taken this step. It's something that I've been putting off for years, and I've finally done it. It feels liberating. _Tell us what you'd like us to do to help._ I'm not looking for legal advice. We separated a month ago, and it seems that every other day I get new pleas from her to reconcile and find some way to work it out. I understand that she feels like this can be fixed, but my heart is no longer in it. I've told her this, but she continues to ask to work it out. There's simply no way that I want to continue this marriage. I'm wondering how others in this situation have dealt with it. I am very concerned for her mental health. She has a history of bipolar, and I'm aware that this life change could trigger a manic or depressive episode. How can I maintain a healthy relationship with her while at the same time setting clear boundaries? 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I'm (45F) no longer in love with my husband (46M). In fact, I feel nothing at all about him or for him. I can't get over past hurt and resentment. He's tried everything to get me to reconnect with him. He's still very much in love with me. Honestly, he's a great guy. He just doesn't communicate, AT ALL. That's what has broken me and us. I had an affair which he doesn't know about. My question is this, how do I know when I should leave? How do I know it's too late to fix us? Right now I'm not willing to try, will that change? 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Now he's threatening and telling friends of my sexual exploits. Just talked to my lawyer who said he will look into it but right now I am just furious. His PI was under the pretext that we were estranged (we weren't, we were fully DIVORCED) and he/she was assigned to follow me around and cyber-talk me. I found out though one of my ex's casual friend. This casual friend and I went on a few dates and remained friends without my ex's knowledge. At the time we figured it just wasn't a good idea to date being that I was so freshly single but we've remained in contact as friends. He says he tolerates my ex because our kid's are often on the same sports teams and our kids play together. This past weekend the two of them were together at a gathering and my ex was telling everyone there about what kind of ""whore"" I am. How I am really a ""lesbian"", how I ""throw orgies at my place when the kids are staying with him"", and lots of other just downright lies. I hesitate to even care except a lot of these people are parents of our kid's friends. He then admitted to a group of people about the PI and told them all about it. And surprise, surprise, HE LIED over and over about it all. Lie after lie. Slander??? I know a lot of them don't care and they will see it for what it is: just a bitter man. It's fairly common knowledge I left him and the reasons behind me leaving him. Him trying to spread lies is just hurtful, irritating, and makes me wonder what kind of impact it'll have on our kids. I also know that the best action on my part is no action. What does concern me, however, is that he has pictures and even copies of my profiles (all since wiped and deleted) of me stating explicitly what I like (bisexual, non-monogamy). I am not ashamed of any of it. When I told him I had heard that he hired a PI to follow me, he threw it all at me. Pictures, dates, 'whoring around', etc. Half was true (I didn't tell him this) but I did suggested next time that he should find a better PI and I asked repeated if his PI could even spot me in a line up cause they weren't following the right person. Then he played his card and let me know that he doesn't want **HIS** kids raised in this environment. First, there is **NO** environment! I have never, ever had anyone at our home while **our** kids are there. NONE. My 'whoring around' is (was, really) me going on dates like any normal single person. The profiles are likely the only thing to get me when I mention that I am ""bisexual and open to non-monogamy"" but that's it! He says he ""has so much more"" and that's why I turned this over to my lawyer but it's all so exhausting. I moved on the day our papers were signed, why can't he??? Sorry for the rant, I just really don't want to burden my friends with more of my drama. Thank you all. 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STBX and I separated last July. We have 50/50 custody of two kids. Can I file head of household? I was shocked to see the differences in different filing status. I’m already losing 2K from dropping to one dependent. 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I was fortunate enough to find an amazing close friend shortly after I moved. We have had chemistry since we met but I resisted until a few weeks ago because I wanted to be sure I was ok on my own. We have now been intimate and spent every day together the last few weeks. Monday he told me he didn’t think we were compatible enough for a relationship and that we should stop. I feel like I’m going through the pain and rejection of my divorce all over again. I’ve been so scared to put myself out there and when I do with someone I think is safe they just hurt me. He wants to go back to being friends but I’ve asked him to not contact me anymore. It feels ridiculous how upset and hurt I am. I feel like I’m blowing this way out of proportion but I can’t help it. 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divorce,Hotman2122,2019/03/14,Red flag After learning the trust and looking back what clues or red flags you didn't realized or ignored that shows things were not as good as you 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divorce,Rustyplant792,2019/03/14,Divorce problem Why wife beat meet 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divorce,SmoothHandSkin,2019/03/14,"Playing It Too Smart? I've made the decision that I'm going to do this. I really am. At this point I don't even have any doubts. I feel very set, past it even, already looking beyond. But here's the thing: Spouse has been unemployed for a year since being laid off. If I were to pull the trigger now, I'd owe alimony and maintenance. I do fine in my career, but this being NYC I can't afford to give out more than $500 a month. I mean, I COULD but this would seriously hamper my ability to move on and enjoy life. So the spouse must earn, according to NY State guidelines, at least 60K. If it's 60K then there's zero alimony. I told the spouse that a job is a must. There's been interviews. Nothing yet. Until then it's just wait, wait, wait in misery. I work long hours just to stay away from the apartment. I sit in coffee shops or just wander the streets most weekends. It's misery. The question is this: Am I being too cautious and calculating here? Shouldn't I just start things in motion now if I'm so miserable? It feels like purgatory. Shouldn't there at least be some sort of cathartic wanton disregard here? And how awkward will it be when it's like ""Honey I got the job!"" and I'm like ""Great, I'm fucking outta' here!"" The laziness is, after all, one of the major issues and it will be strange to pull the ripcord right when a major breakthrough on that takes place. It feels unnatural to be planning on leaving at the very moment something I've always wanted from the spouse is achieved, a break through, essentially leaving because of laziness (just one of many reasons, mind you) at the very moment that laziness has been bested. So am I being too smart, too cautious, too calculated regarding the alimony thing? 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Advice? So we have been unhappy for years. She is clearly unhappy in life, and the marriage. She also has a quick temper which got us evicted months ago... I smoothed it out with the landlord and he is fine with me staying there. So right now even just talking about seperation her temper gets her and she raises her voice at me... So I have said lets just text. Papers are not signed for legal seperation, that is what she wants to see if we eventually work it out....by missing each other. I have a 5 year old daughter, she is my world. People joke I am ""mom"" in the relationship. I always do baths, bedtime, take the kid everywhere I go... always give her attention when she needs it. My wife has gotten jealous at times. We have agreed on 50/50 custody, and have a schedule made. We have not told our daughter yet, I am hoping she takes it well. She is a smart kid and I talk to her about a lot of things about people being happy/sad/some people dont like the same stuff. Any tips on how to break it to the kid? I love my wife, I tell her its become a pinhole. Most times I cannot stand her cause she nags, and is misserable about life and seems to blame me. I said therapy or divorce when we got evicted, we did sessions every week....she left feeling like a monster saying sorry and I would usually be slightly slapped on the hand for ""letting things happen"". I wanted it to work, but her change was so minimal I could almost think it was just wishful thinking. Should I just say ""divorce"" or let the separation take place and see what happens. I have no real need for a relationship in my life. I wanted a family, I got one... it broke up. I just wanna love my daughter, but if my wife makes huge changes I would be welcoming of another swing. She is saving money and will be moving out at the end of may, until then we are two unhappy roommates. Advice or dealing with each other? Thanks TLDR : need advice on breaking it to kid, and living as roommate for our remaining days.",2.1459090909090897,4.462719904040405,3.37857575757576,88.47286363636366,79.75757575757575,5.9802020202020225,23.283838383838386,7.1686216300943375,0.9418456565656568,1566,53,309,20,40,507,210,396,0.076,0.836,0.08800000000000001,0.8198,2,0,0,0,2,0,72.0,10,0,0,2,23,18,4,0,19,0,41,6,1,5,1,72,77,29,0,15,14,7,3,2,0,5,3,5,2,4,20,25,0,0,6,2,1,3,5,6,1,2,13,10,58,12,39,51,5,44,0,2,2,2,58,19,0,11,20,225,78,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531500712039367,0.0765469101115292,0.0,0.08647026578198354,0.0,0.0,0.069056630568771,0.1437055761016607,0.0,0.0,0.058723143748426535,0.09054886960647884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09537033564542097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870853341003374,0.18270049159246973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894601129110935,0.0,0.0,0.05569067640969926,0.0890263674056156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10120531859963296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07648331277067591,0.0,0.0,0.057035480565750425,0.0,0.07275630352428683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08140612083121987,0.0,0.04366277742914045,0.06169075023727823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04511598795151077,0.0828378672982631,0.04907651906185631,0.0,0.20719365084946773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1527237162378865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08576822162172205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382301496469353,0.2649060224674425,0.18298147725788674,0.0843756327442667,0.0,0.07625146619637657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734144108352966,0.15587428635012274,0.1634189898323684,0.057641437993568925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10113583548870686,0.06892630809515629,0.09177979583760916,0.0,0.1920894323622176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061316736769337,0.0,0.05851516970613239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795993280912415,0.0,0.09022072475382252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828885771976656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854220607825265,0.0,0.07374516922609384,0.16428335415068634,0.13734307657578204,0.0,0.0,0.1376246558269852,0.07861271887725724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09666534837607953,0.0,0.09204103184038084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09885376523948187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1947806006306121,0.13881487785099622,0.07547651141705664,0.07950243353787878,0.09875242100623648,0.0,0.17210770630871025,0.11066329992425417,0.0,0.0,0.10070650197696936,0.0,0.0,0.08251419241828939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08435453822842083,0.0,0.10387227883405556,0.0,0.09510586055398533,0.0,0.15280008118086993,0.0,0.06926733604617229,0.0,0.07764190609041133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993019294513509,0.0,0.0,0.12573233019253652,0.0,0.0,0.12268568509963453,0.0,0.0,0.11121727164328178 divorce,SSSLBK,2019/03/14,"Resources for Managing STBX Does anyone have any advice on how to effectively maintain, track, and organize conversations and interactions with people. Ideally, this is for my STBX, but I suppose you can use it with anyone. Almost like your own personal Hubspot (for those familiar with the CRM). What do you use to make sure you don't lose history of conversations while also making it easy to search and share with an attorney? Having this information is so important when going through a divorce and I'd like to make it easy on myself. 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Erasing Family follows young people as they try to reunite with family lost due to divorce and family court. It explores the trauma children experience due to the adversarial nature of family courts located in states that didn’t or don’t yet have rebuttable presumption of equal shared parenting. 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[MA] Hi, folks \~ Court reporter, here, going through my own divorce. Separated since 2016 (yes, we dragged it out). Started in alternative dispute resolution and ended up at trial. I have an attorney and my ex does not. On the table is custody of our preschooler. Ex is unable/unwilling to follow the temporary orders that have been in place. Today I'll be cross-examined for two hours by my ex. Ask me anything, about my divorce or any of the ones I've transcribed. Or just send some good vibes! \~ Lamb",2.2046763754045315,4.8994835048543735,3.7963349514563127,83.13262540453073,82.88349514563106,6.151779935275083,27.02993527508091,7.492282038375204,1.854890614886732,423,19,76,7,12,140,81,103,0.044,0.927,0.029,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,26.0,2,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,9,10,4,0,0,4,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,0,9,1,14,8,2,17,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,3,6,46,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867470068071432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22598400794742315,0.0,0.2567271159174734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771033780332168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403166519318625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432265852762861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606952309260425,0.23033328043142054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704395744367504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18608562311048005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28691328876953964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2271636236009027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1943732753765324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.520604119296584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2682580754232597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,xocherrybabe,2019/03/14,"my mom keeps keeping my dad out of the house yet he pays all the bills??? my parents are divorced & live under the same roof. they rent the house but my dad's name is on the contract, lease? idk what it is but technically he plays all the bills & my mom hardly pays shit. is there some sort of thing that i can do??? i'm 18 & i'm tired of seeing this shit happen because it's not fair to him AT ALL. i want justice for him.",-0.540469208211146,1.5003884623655956,1.1567350928641282,101.82782991202349,89.10752688172043,3.8119257086999037,15.981427174975565,4.851557810540192,-1.1603247311827958,329,7,82,1,11,106,61,93,0.16899999999999998,0.75,0.081,-0.8825,2,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,6,0,6,3,2,0,3,14,13,2,0,1,3,5,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,0,1,5,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,10,1,9,13,5,5,0,0,1,0,12,4,2,2,1,47,16,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5458056215276976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10235907374070753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1484861697205956,0.0,0.15041834126179254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3875013990598541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985001087434664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827151185142112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3933186856144612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18644909541881116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338060551842101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.344723484446436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1115548814495472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1929929280388847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09904027720315084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bradleyboo1989,2019/03/14,"I just feel lost So myself (29 m) and my wife (25 f) are going thru a divorce. We have 3 kids (5,3,1). We have been married 4 years but been together a year before that. She wants this and I don’t. I’m willing to go to counseling, but she refuses. Said it won’t help anything. She filed just a week ago. She is still living here, but staying in a separate bedroom across the house. As I’m typing this, she isn’t home and most likely out with a new guy. Which is heart breaking. I just feel lost, confused, and depressed. But I have to stay strong for my children. Does this get any easier? 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I have a 7 month at home and my husband is so hard to live with. He’s angry that we’re spending more money and saving less. He’s angry that he feels we can’t travel like we used to. He insults me and calls me delusional when I try to make suggestions. I have a lot of success in my job and I’ve always shown a lot of confidence with my clients but I can’t believe I let somebody treat me like this. I want to leave because I don’t deserve to be treated this way but I live so far away from my family and I don’t know how he would react. He’s in therapy right now but I’m just so tired of permanently stepping on eggshells.,0.6886692759295521,2.4650864383561677,2.944266144814094,92.52808219178085,81.87671232876713,6.0892367906066545,23.442270058708417,7.1686216300943375,0.7742050880626219,524,19,121,7,14,179,87,146,0.139,0.757,0.103,-0.4678,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,2,0,0,1,9,10,2,1,3,0,10,3,1,4,0,26,17,16,0,2,4,1,2,2,0,1,2,0,1,0,4,10,0,0,2,1,2,2,4,4,0,0,0,2,18,6,16,14,5,13,0,0,0,0,12,7,1,3,5,74,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16542421896401646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678670189696847,0.0,0.0,0.12119153848154544,0.0,0.0,0.22398858579547706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2030052412114423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18741853061941507,0.0,0.10052332066649394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17809295773364392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994206781608631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1972863072950686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925970181890454,0.0,0.0,0.21050901320411955,0.0,0.2032946948629664,0.0,0.1942551364386995,0.0,0.35110229074126864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380389794907065,0.0,0.0,0.13270591328068482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868668414993573,0.0,0.1461467876419216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1697809834875964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2273543248482703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22850060097592434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.134977611916587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170631830723596,0.0,0.0,0.11726213541452878,0.15780457174203538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14122753052612946,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,crazyken11211,2019/03/15,"Lost and it’s freaking me out!!! So me(32m) her (32f) have been together since 15 married since 19. For years I’ve been trying to get her to communicate with me better. One of our biggest issues. I’ve pushed, begged, given space, she’s had friends talk to her and nothing! At first I thought it was me, Somthing I had done or maybe approached it wrong. Why I tried so many methods. Her parents never talk and their relationship is a mess and they constantly fight them won’t talk for literally weeks unless forced. I finally got the stomach to tell her that I can’t do this anymore. We fight with no resolution and she always just waits for it to blow over. I’m a mess myself by no means perfect but have always just given in to makes things better and let-go usually pointless arguments. I had been sick to my stomach for weeks just thinking of what to say or how to approach it. Finally it just happened I was leaving the gym and I called she was instantly in a bad mood from Our toddler(another story). Well it crushed me and she sat there! Sat there without a care in the world look. I told her I wanted a break thinking maybe it will fix it while staying as calm as I could. Not until I thought it best to tell our boys 9,4 what was going on. My oldest went to hug her and she didn’t move said she couldn’t look at him and finally broke into tears. But still would not say anything. So a few hours later she went to stay with my mom after opening up enough to try and blame me for cheating or something random. All in front of our boys which is the last thing I wanted. Weekend comes and goes and she’s back at the house being extremely over bearing. To the point of every time I move it’s what’s wrong or apologizing for every single little thing. But I don’t know if it’s the place I had to put myself I. Mentally but I don’t have anymore feelings for her like none. Sexually physically mentally at all. I’ve tried to be interested and want somthing but it’s not there anymore. Talked to a few friends and they say follow my heart my happiness and my boys having two parents that are happy alone is better than shitty together. I don’t know what to do or say. I’ve been thinking of plans and what I’m going to do if separation is the end and the more I think about it the more I want it. Today I find my self talking with her like nothing ever happened and it’s scaring me and confusing me st the same time. Is there a way to bring it up outside of just coming out. I mean things are on right now but to many times of the same thing over and over has made me worry about what could happen? Thank you all",1.9815689953279647,4.071207403377112,3.1860699702019666,90.83438435787077,79.093808630394,5.9815178604274735,22.833719604164358,7.048011613610866,0.6748429459588721,2058,66,436,24,51,664,248,533,0.133,0.762,0.105,-0.9034,2,1,2,0,2,0,47.0,5,1,4,8,21,31,3,2,20,0,41,5,3,3,6,89,85,43,0,10,23,3,1,2,2,3,1,5,0,4,32,32,0,1,12,2,0,15,15,13,1,3,27,8,68,17,69,50,13,73,0,2,2,1,55,27,0,9,29,305,100,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06960897584352838,0.0,0.0,0.1118477025322384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047522655078693,0.0,0.0,0.19996187643595048,0.0,0.0,0.055307853306880254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168010774423668,0.0561172889472271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07053242961685273,0.17832454356081828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06862861427939312,0.0,0.0685247645320696,0.0,0.0,0.11579040418658,0.0,0.07262980487280775,0.0,0.10732294697064622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06877885388530645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05952784190783985,0.06944558242311623,0.0,0.0,0.06079501800932915,0.11325413549955685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033983241806644124,0.048014620369696094,0.0,0.22087481089561226,0.0614284446888695,0.05716853322420249,0.0,0.0,0.10385208907306087,0.0,0.03511429226851215,0.0,0.11459045753656318,0.0,0.05375373374606287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17829993706690672,0.14309194265458666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0796438135580726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618801236060416,0.07755096562833512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701494611694219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07387338265420575,0.054784872733455656,0.0,0.07116536392513051,0.0,0.06872646792535647,0.0,0.0656705253070627,0.06736177217844784,0.0,0.0,0.11287843516883575,0.0,0.07336732274503806,0.0,0.0,0.06359543957417252,0.04486299408225021,0.13628016586555636,0.13504234679060856,0.14642212464342114,0.0,0.0,0.13546313169096472,0.0,0.0,0.07871518384984619,0.0,0.14286654118490888,0.0,0.0,0.051836261029099724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897903225246707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04554302952228525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925682772076898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07021982763821151,0.0,0.06353488696993817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06756430808887241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07215806115500825,0.0,0.0573967132977132,0.06393181191885566,0.2137913919616232,0.06728863068786238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07011437099059695,0.0,0.0,0.1111931103877154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05174130767679448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14327318715539014,0.053673750175994565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27010303959854154,0.11748847367166973,0.06187765832164504,0.0,0.0,0.22325567850738415,0.1722610379768113,0.0,0.106713982718834,0.1175715429603171,0.0,0.06370693334130102,0.06422174489429612,0.0,0.18252388774393755,0.0,0.06565410720278735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402198501183815,0.0,0.1585680805661497,0.05334792846224575,0.10782312847501736,0.0,0.06042958841272102,0.12460812338092155,0.06064629698976823,0.0,0.0,0.06478774871984769,0.0,0.0,0.06825470889225507,0.0,0.04774383981551437,0.1469665040040127,0.0,0.04328084077407342 divorce,wifeypoo89,2019/03/15,"Is it time to leave? We've been together 10 years and with each passing year I feel more and more unhappy. We've always been opposites personality wise and it used to just work but now it's not and I resent him so much for being a lazy asshole and lazy parent. He has a great job and makes lots of money but when hes not at work hes basically useless. We dont fight much or scream or call each other names etc but I just dont feel that kind of love towards him anymore. We have a good life together, 3 kids, house, dog, etc. He's perfectly content in our marriage. Hes not really abusive he is a bit controlling and can be manipulative but I'm so laid back it's not that big of a deal. What I'm fighting with is: do I uproot everyone's lives just so I can be happy? Life is tolerable right now so it's not like I NEED TO GO. I just wish I had a husband and not a person I share a bed and Bill's with. 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I left a horribly abusive man. A man who would rape me until I was sore and tell me if I just got into it, it might not hurt so bad. He even recreated the rape that I experienced in my 20's. It was deja vu and he knew it. A man who strangled me until I stopped breathing and then sent and email the next day telling me it was might fault for picking that fight (aka asking him to help out in the home more, which led to a fight). He is in full blown psychosis according to the court psychologist, but Ted Bundy is underneath the psychosis and he might be insane, but he is sane enough to manipulate me to believe it was my fault all these years. &#x200B; I have temporary full custody of our toddler who is in daycare...that I pay for. He gets supervised visits and does not take them because we should all be ashamed of ourselves and he refuses to parent in a panopticon. I have a protective order against him that he has violated twice. &#x200B; I pay him spousal support (27% of my net). I have 2.5 more years. I pay his legal fees too. And mine. And the GAL. And the court psychologist. And his student loans that he asked me to cosign on. We have not gotten the full report from his psych eval but the psychologist told me he is ""not with us anymore"". Now his lawyers (that I pay for) are going to use this to file for permanent spousal support, or at least extend it beyond the statute. They want me to pay him for life. My lawyer says they have a case to at least extend it. &#x200B; I am totally non functional around men. I date but cannot form relationships. I literally only go out once. I have a high sex drive and need to go out but I literally block them after a date or 2. Sometimes I just stop responding for no real reason. One guy was too nice, another tried to take care of me too much, some were abusers in waiting, but others just want real relationships and I just C A N N O T. &#x200B; It's been 7 months and my headspace gets worse each month. I was a wreck when I left him, threw up all the time, etc. It got better for a bit and now I'm worse than I ever was before. &#x200B; If I owe him for life, I do think there is a part of me that will just die inside. I'm not doing well at all. The PTSD seems to get worse every month. I'm in therapy 2-3 times a week. I just cannot bring myself to not be triggered by men. 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I feel like I no longer know the person I loved and married 9 years ago. My husband (34M) and I 35(F) have 4 kids together (5, 3(twins), and 15 months). He has verbally and emotionally abused me for years. I had post partum depression for 2 of my pregnancies. He has been physical but not as often. When I was pregnant with our twins he made the choice to have his mom, my MIL, move in with us. Since then things have gone down hill drastically. He continously brings her between us and acts like the biggest baby when shes around (she makes his meals, cleans up after him etc.). She oversteps my boundaries with the kids and it drives me insane. But he expects that I'm supposed to be ok with it because we are a ""family."" I have never felt like she was a part of my family and honestly blame her for the way things are now. I have always suspected infidelity but he says if there was it wouldn't be a big deal. Sex is just an 'experience' to him. I have maintained my loyalty to him but at this point I'm questioning why. I love my kids so dearly and he is a good dad to them and there are moments that are ok between us. I can't stand the thought of losing out on 50% of my kids time but I feel so sad, lonely, and anxious all of the time. And his mom constantly lurking around our house doesn't help the cause. (She doesn't work and has no friends so she is literally in our house 24/7). Considering divorce but just feel lost and sad right now. 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I’m feeling a little guilty that I’m already at my tipping point this early into the marriage. My husband and I met in 2015 and we got married in 2017. I haven’t been very happy since having our baby last year. Amongst other annoyances (he has controlling tendencies, drinks too much beer, sometimes exhibits fragile masculinity, etc), I’m mostly disappointed in him as a dad. He’s really no help (outside of finances since I stay home with our baby). I have two kids from a previous relationship and my oldest plays soccer. She recently had a game and since it’s still too cold in the evenings to take the baby, I left the baby, my other child (6), and my stepson(6) (he lives with us full time) with my husband. He texted me asking where the diapers were, asked how much longer I’d be, etc. Then when I got home, I learned that he didn’t feed the baby (instead just put baby to bed because baby was super fussy), and let SS eat junk food after I had already made him a plate because he “didn’t want to deal with dinner issues”. The soccer game was an *hour*. It’s like that all the time. He never helps me redirect SS’s bad behavior, he scoffs when I ask him to change a diaper or grab something. He thinks I’m nagging too much when I try to gently inform him “don’t feed the baby candy” or “don’t let the baby [insert common knowledge]”. I had strep last week and I got *one* day of rest— and during that one day, do you think any laundry or dishes were done? Ha. I mean.. does working full time suffice? Am I expecting too much? I usually get most of the housework done during the day (though not always) but still. He comes home and drinks beer, and he’s only interested in his xbox or guitar. It’s really annoying and I feel like I am wasting my time. I’m 24 for petes sake. 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He has another year left. I am not happy in our relationship and have not been for many years. He and I have never really been on the same page and it always seems we're going in different directions. When I bring up my concerns he apologizes and swears he'll try harder but (truly) it never seems to change. I have read all the self help books on falling back in love with your spouse etc. I honestly feel I just got married too young. We've been married 5 years - I was 19 he was 24. I had been out on my own for 3 years at that point and thought I was an adult. In my religious community it is not uncommon to get married young so no one raised great concern. When we discuss our relationship he swears he wants to stay together. My biggest fear has been what life is going to be like after. We share friends, our families are extremely close now, I have a great job in the area he goes to school in so I couldnt easily leave. I just fear that I will stay in an empty marriage for the sole reason that I dont want the world to know I failed. I feel so empty inside. Theres nothing left for me to give to this relationship. But the anxiety i hold for the unknown is crippling.",2.411041494461891,4.236845323193919,3.899983468341876,87.46823937840965,76.75665399239544,7.615738138535296,24.362539262688045,8.456263369488248,1.4994812035047116,1012,34,216,20,23,335,148,263,0.121,0.732,0.147,0.8843,2,0,0,0,1,0,22.0,5,1,0,1,11,12,0,2,11,0,27,2,0,1,4,35,44,14,0,3,9,2,2,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,9,10,0,1,7,2,0,4,9,3,0,1,11,2,30,9,31,29,5,41,0,1,0,1,30,21,0,2,15,140,39,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595579399291686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092347303356125,0.08821977478751543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08867425364966015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12199367073445848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12048525204401453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13515462608999862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12861270687690846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10871379068432348,0.259534976163465,0.11661889788285712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909623925405498,0.0,0.060250138694681564,0.11062581626841772,0.13107845863009684,0.0,0.0922322423243446,0.2542822513646122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276068851259755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729681963101814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11443768257746327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337706476790356,0.0,0.0,0.12210763110243596,0.2505918598281155,0.0,0.08145419457653866,0.05633971244026975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1040811450435601,0.0,0.0,0.11691676471715327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1778843721260231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11065301448329913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814407376663128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10901503361132356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11535158698384475,0.0,0.07387718815173401,0.11856855686368632,0.0,0.3714327908947008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23342076173678314,0.0,0.20996668500804289,0.12030430641661966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24583236168715436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10868809306075364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09155150003175658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829496795472997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360378955327407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970501742731942 divorce,blairvengeance,2019/03/15,"Posting For My BFF. Lots of Possible Questions. Please help Him. Almost a month ago, my best friend text his wife from another state (2 hours away after needing time to himself) stating that he wanted a trial separation. It's been a contentious relationship since before they even got married, but we (all of us) as his friends have been supportive anyways. Over the last few weeks, she has found an apartment and is supposed to move into it this weekend. Supposedly he and a female friend of his stopped by his house after having lunch for him to grab something on his way back to work and had a quick beer, and his STBXW found a beer can with lipstick on it in the trash. (Keep in mind that this is what he has told me, I'm not 100% sure joe accurate that is.) She is now threatening to take him to court as soon as possible and take everything that she possibly can. They married just over six years ago, but he started a business more than eight years ago and (stupidly) put her name on everything. What does he need to prepare for? What are his next steps? It just really sucks wanting to do everything that you can to help your friend but having no idea what to do. I'm just trying to make sure that he is even decently prepared for what he has said to all of us that he has wanted for a while. I'm sorry if this is all over the place. Any input for him would be so very appreciated. He's worried out of his mind. Thank you so much in advance. 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We are 32 and 31. We have 2 kids, 7,1.5. Own 2 properties, one is a rental. I don't own much. I have a truck I make payments on, she owns her car outright. I've come to the conclusion that we need a divorce. I cannot tolerate the way I am treated on a regular basis. She doesn't beat me, but she berates me any chance she gets, in front of whoever, wherever. I've been asking for the better part of a decade for her to stop, and it doesn't. Before when the topic of another child came up, roughly 3 years ago, I wasn't so sure, I gave her my reasoning and was met with threats of divorce if I wouldn't have another child. This would also come up in front of others. So out of fear of divorce I complied. At the same though, I started holding resentment towards her for doing that. This was not the first time she's threatened divorce over not getting what she wanted. Fast forward to now. Along with the constant beratement, my 1.5 year old and I have no connection. He screams whenever im near him. So I feel like a complete failure on that front as well. Ever since the threat of divorce because of kids, we have been like roommates. It got worse when my son was born. I'm miserable everyday and have been now, for years. I've tried making changes to see if I could improve myself and not be miserable. I went from inactive to very active, tried being more social, tried gaining hobbies. I don't enjoy anything. I feel nothing anymore and I reached my breaking point about 4-5 months ago. I have become cold and distant to everyone except my 7 year old. I feel like divorce is the only option left. I don't want anything of hers. I don't care if she takes everything except my vehicle so I can work and buys me out of the house we live in and I would ideally buy the rental property with that money and live there. Well I'd also want shared custody of the kids as well. I don't want her 401, her car, her money, any of her possessions. I just want a clean slate and to move on amicably. We have talked a bit and I've told her that I think we need to be separated. Is there any advice? I'm in Massachusetts if that helps. 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I've been very lucky in how cordial and ""relatively easy"" this process has been for me. My best friend is getting ready to tell his wife he wants a divorce and is incredibly anxious about it. I don't have any advice to give because it was my STBX that initiated the process. For those of you who requested the divorce yourselves, how did you prepare for it? There are kids involved for him, and I feel as though that is a big part of the issue. He's not particularly communicative about his anxiety as it relates to this with me, but I know its hurting him and I want to be able to help. 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My ex and I divorced a year ago, but even after that, we spoke often and went out together with our son regularly. In April of 2018, she invited me on an international trip, and initially I said YES. Then, after giving it some thought, I asked her if that meant we were moving back towards a relationship. That's pretty much when everything ground to a screeching halt and I lost, not only any hope I had for reconciliation, but also a great friend in the process. That was the start of what has become a long and agonizing process of me grieving the loss of my marriage and of my dear friend, as well as losing a significant chunk of time with my son. Now, I feel like I have lost Direction in life and I don't know how to find it again. Does anybody have any helpful advice for a guy in my situation? I'm 33 years Young and I know I have a long life ahead of me oh, I am just having a hard time finding where to start with it.",4.122744939271254,4.9514891368421114,5.325789473684214,82.9109109311741,70.78947368421052,8.372469635627532,26.72064777327936,8.617729084823388,1.6587975708502023,736,23,157,12,13,245,120,190,0.131,0.6759999999999999,0.193,0.946,0,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,3,0,0,5,11,13,0,0,13,1,10,2,0,1,0,31,26,17,2,2,5,3,2,1,2,0,2,2,0,1,8,14,0,1,7,0,0,3,2,6,1,0,10,4,24,7,27,16,2,31,0,6,0,0,19,9,0,4,20,108,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27595657401911783,0.12516462842969062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129170007405014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920406834654996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1320022517304205,0.0,0.0,0.10857351862633964,0.0,0.0,0.15594349408593686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12356442781649488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0932607824655455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12690079427700146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139459065250399,0.10087278271255516,0.0,0.0,0.2581071392738272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2181804028575328,0.0,0.0,0.13545120064530827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15567268749709465,0.0,0.1398094710897013,0.0,0.0,0.12648680655577746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09464289058605828,0.0,0.0,0.1402427292586603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1551988460877693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1994664324323457,0.06898282834388074,0.0,0.0,0.2499138114548909,0.0,0.15796585950971775,0.3082713535368508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500724722477988,0.1037977059421921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738840327177664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14365041396410075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15159516763444705,0.0,0.0,0.13431283476690514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15871388922213814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19988313220616102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11209644383632604,0.16466885315208524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269550960609653,0.1308931327295895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185539376982224 divorce,dizmalette,2019/03/15,"Family thinks I’m running away as a result of my pending divorce My husband (37) and I (38) just recently decided that we will be getting a divorce. We have been married for almost 16 years. There were various factors that led to the divorce but they started with poor communication early on that we never properly addressed until it was too late. I wanted to stay together and keep working on our marriage but my husband didn’t . We are best friends so we are trying to keep that part of our relationship intact. Now that I am facing a future on my own, I’m working toward moving overseas to teach English. I did it briefly in my past and really enjoyed it and have wanted to go back ever since but it wasn’t an option while I was married. Now I feel like I might as well take that leap and try to fulfill that dream for myself. My stbxh supports the decision but my family thinks I’m just running away and making things harder for myself. Since I’m still dealing with all of the emotions that come along with facing a divorce and losing that companionship, I worry if they are right. Am I running away since I’m trying to start over in a different country? It’s scary as hell facing anything alone when you haven’t had to for so long and trying to navigate that kind of move by myself is overwhelming but I’m willing to do it. My family feels like I should go and stay with them to get myself back on my feet but I kind of feel like that would make me feel more like a failure. 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I was lied on belittled humiliated destroyed basically. My ex-husband got primary of her daughter who is amazing. I don’t do drugs I don’t party I don’t do anything that would cause a mother to lose her child. I don’t understand. He has gotten away fraud terrible lies abusive behaviors. I’m the one that gets called chaos. Everything I have done is been a mistake in this entire life has been worthless. I tried everything and I gave everything to trying to expose him but it didn’t matter. If we all get what we deserve what the hell did I do to to deserve this? 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My (38F) & my STBX (47M) recently had the talk. We decided to split and he told me I was free to date other people. We have not filed any paperwork. I told him I wanted to see other people almost 6 months ago but nothing really happened, in part because our income situation is sticky. We have two toddlers and he still works part time for the business I own because that is how we pay the bills. His business does not generate enough to cover his personal bills let alone any household bills. This also means he is not moving out any time soon so we live in different rooms (dead bedroom situation). I have been mentally checked out for a while and kinda chatting up guys when I travel for work. I had instant chemistry with one guy last month. We text about something benign like once a week so far but I would really like to see him. I desperately want to keep the friend & father side of my relationship intact with my STBX even if we are no longer lovers and partners. \-Is it too soon to go out with someone when you live with your ex? \-When I go out, should I be open about the fact its a date? \-Any tips on maintaining a healthy relationship with your ex?",3.2001941549151844,5.354760223175968,3.9302759043531603,86.64629470672389,75.52360515021459,7.013202534232577,23.970774575924803,7.957251820313856,1.2854027794808909,944,30,186,15,21,300,146,233,0.043,0.8390000000000001,0.118,0.9605,4,1,1,0,0,0,33.0,8,3,0,2,14,6,0,0,9,0,16,1,0,1,1,39,27,16,1,5,6,4,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,4,6,22,0,1,2,2,6,4,4,0,0,2,6,2,31,7,27,17,4,35,0,0,2,1,34,12,0,3,21,120,37,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09829944229752052,0.0,0.11104274345369194,0.11485110702629467,0.0,0.08868063076570455,0.0,0.24030378840552316,0.0,0.3016426017466658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13519798382833678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585897999092586,0.0,0.0,0.0970427068298828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11458151657495215,0.0,0.07324339966976537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567521108086608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260454392386378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2196018668924343,0.09806180360458386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856628093588927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09039212551949982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339501590969285,0.0,0.10835287316205602,0.0,0.29376012397696183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207943580885373,0.0,0.0,0.11175348040551936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17702654843962018,0.11786109631169076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640427084198527,0.0,0.0,0.11809681156681967,0.07514357587624214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401713758675517,0.0,0.1537576871720948,0.09682698661479874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1420810517245845,0.0,0.1094928897446718,0.23811392436380055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767338079939461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492954597659441,0.0,0.0,0.09395879031465967,0.08537040509008507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08855883241010036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913112923480462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932452747794487,0.0,0.0,0.21192492510880545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832578416342548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081444864951378,0.0,0.08895121296017068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16146200961849816,0.0,0.0,0.07877479577955478,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,DivorceLawyer21,2019/03/15,"Divorce Lawyer Address: 26 Ragazzi Lane Staten Island, NY 10305 Phone: (718) 521-5247 Website: [http://www.divorcelawyerny.org](http://www.divorcelawyerny.org/) Hours: Mon - Fri 9am - 6:30pm Payment Method: cash, check, credit cards Social Media Links: [https://www.google.com/maps/place/Divorce+Lawyer/@40.5645004,-74.2869025,11z/data=!3m1!4b1!4m5!3m4!1s0x0:0x4e2060ef75ef1d59!8m2!3d40.5643919!4d-74.1414811](https://www.google.com/maps/place/Divorce+Lawyer/@40.5645004,-74.2869025,11z/data=!3m1!4b1!4m5!3m4!1s0x0:0x4e2060ef75ef1d59!8m2!3d40.5643919!4d-74.1414811) [https://www.facebook.com/Divorce-Lawyer-1638637529485992/](https://www.facebook.com/Divorce-Lawyer-1638637529485992/) [https://twitter.com/Divorce34554984](https://twitter.com/Divorce34554984) Keywords: divorce lawyer, divorce attorney, divorce law firm Staten Island, divorce law office, divorce, uncontested divorce, contested divorce, separation lawyer Staten Island, uncontested divorce lawyer, uncontested divorce attorney, Uncontested Divorce - No Children, No Property, Uncontested Divorce - With Children Staten Island, No Property, Uncontested Divorce with Children and with Property, Uncontested Divorce with Property, No Children, Pre-Nuptial Agreements and Post-Nuptial Agreements, Legal Separation, Uncontested Divorce, Divorce Litigation, Child Support, Child Custody, Child Visitation and Access, Alimony & Spousal Support, Prenuptial Agreements & Post-Nuptial Agreements, Enforcement of Judgments Staten Island, Establishing Paternity (Filiation), Orders of Protection, Property Division Staten Island, Staten Island NY Description: Decisions about your family and your family’s future are personal and can affect everyone in the household, especially your children. 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My worst nightmare came true last night, STBX got arrested for DUI with our kids in the car so got slapped with child endangerment charges as well. I was on a business trip and dropped everything to fly home immediately so that my kids didn’t get taken into custody. We have been trying to separate amicably, working through a mediator and sharing custody, but I feel like this changes everything. In addition to the legal ramifications and possible jail time, I no longer feel that he can safely take care of our children and I will never allow them in a car with him again. His drinking has been escalating since I filed (due to his serial infidelity and several concurrent ongoing affairs that he’s unwilling to end) but I never ever thought he’d be stupid enough to put our children at risk that way. I don’t really know where to go from here in terms of custody, possible OOP, etc. Has anyone had a similar situation and can you share some advice?",9.108621509209744,7.929652042780749,9.109055258467027,66.76266785502081,60.65775401069519,13.01699346405229,40.56387403446227,12.06081838636515,4.9411834818776015,800,37,143,22,9,263,126,187,0.092,0.7959999999999999,0.112,0.6008,1,0,1,0,0,0,17.0,4,1,1,1,8,10,1,1,6,0,15,1,0,1,4,26,28,11,0,0,2,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,6,13,1,1,4,1,0,6,5,3,1,0,11,2,19,7,25,14,5,28,0,0,0,0,20,8,0,1,13,93,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14615617381069207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458146276003616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710660112915182,0.15249460182619926,0.0,0.15822317179782394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651975425080546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132472903939139,0.15454378446270256,0.16680791956709534,0.0,0.13529287006904592,0.0,0.0,0.2688442500199959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15125220680305565,0.1068514494739524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814313634583198,0.0,0.08500297332624497,0.0,0.3588697143398917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15002895573885586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08219869232921916,0.24383585731775725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07307139744880937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307122115565116,0.0,0.0,0.28071897808078444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3372310214602755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15035720779242304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958171269255058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16896933103023434,0.0,0.1237242419596765,0.16812076220162595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124565645402672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11874032997501645,0.0872143365602015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015468924824082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872016145776634,0.0,0.0,0.13447964522674552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888732650467804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mstevens0828,2019/03/16,"Husband announced his divorce two weeks after I had a micropreemie I don’t even know where to start. Ugh I(27f) have been married to my husband (31) legally not even 1 year. In that year I had a baby born 5 weeks early, struggled with hormones and ppd, got on meds. Got pregnant again when baby was 8 months, then had baby three weeks ago. She was born at 26weeks. She will be in the nicu for a few months. I again am struggling with ppd and had my doctor up my dose. Our relationship has been a bit rocky, I’ve had some trust issues with things he’s done in the past. But our relationship hasn’t really been that bad considering the circumstances. While I was recovering in the hospital, husband said that it was easier without me and that he was happy. Also says that I am manipulative and emotionally abusive. Since he has announced his feelings of divorce he has completely shut off emotionally and it now treating me like an enemy. It’s like he’s had some kind of mental break. Because I honestly didn’t think that he would just up and divorce me in such a hard time. I keep begging him to at least be peaceful with me until the end of this, luckily he is obliging for the most part. I am a stay at home mom, we own our home and have two babies. He wants me to move out and find a “room” somewhere that he agreed to help me pay for. Luckily he will be supporting me until I get on my feet. He wants me to co petition with him and come to terms on our own. But he wants me to agree to HIS terms so I am going to consult with a lawyer. Problem is, I have zero income to pay for this. Or to support my children. Even when I do get a job, I will barely be making just above minimum wage. I don’t know where to start or how to protect myself. All I want out of this is (preferably no divorce and the love of my life to work things out with me) is to be able to support my babies, I don’t want revenge and I don’t want everything he has. I just want enough to support my children and give them a decent life. And I don’t mind giving him 50/50 Because he is the best dad ever. I am so depressed that I can’t even take care of my son right now or give him the attention that he deserves. I love my husband more than anything in the world and am willing to do whatever I can to make this work but he is absolutely not. He is done. He has completely checked out of this marriage. Last week he loved me and our family, wanted a chicken coop and made plans with me to garden and this week he wants a divorce. I am in shock and have been balling my eyes out all week. 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Instead of anger, animosity, disgust, etc., I decided to thank him for helping me avoid years of unhappiness and to realize what I really deserve in a relationship. I didn’t thank him face to face, but in my heart I chose to see his infidelity as a gift. I am 7 years post-divorce and in one of the best relationships of my life (5 years and counting). I may have never left an unhappy marriage if my ex hadn’t made the choices he made. It was a tipping point and as painful as it was, I am truly grateful. I would have stayed in an unhappy marriage and that would have been the example I set for my child of what marriage is. I am so glad that didn’t happen. Instead, I show my kiddo everyday what it means to be polite and respectful to her dad and what a truly loving relationship looks like with my current SO. I hope this advice helps someone. It isn’t easy, but it is so freeing.",6.005756052992232,5.521729402010057,7.179022384650526,75.81443581544086,66.53768844221105,10.452444038373686,35.67884878940156,10.018931242160765,3.4233175879396978,777,35,156,16,11,265,108,199,0.061,0.634,0.306,0.9961,1,1,0,0,1,0,24.0,0,1,0,1,6,14,2,1,9,0,19,6,3,2,1,22,30,17,0,4,3,4,0,1,0,3,2,1,0,1,13,8,0,1,3,1,1,0,5,4,0,2,8,3,28,11,25,18,2,16,0,0,2,1,21,7,0,3,8,115,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13246491952535805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14225891020111744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2868030706166775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15118210244247124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183006374359795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11987277754763664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16063592566681184,0.18172225727459485,0.0,0.0,0.13463887868080296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14728328616876946,0.0,0.09574805388883563,0.06622639694440255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1138339006578702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12234565863981794,0.2565349861539761,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14766152246744865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045500636084487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18371412362490286,0.0,0.14424241019765616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814536276707225,0.0,0.12982631884245746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08684140858652957,0.0,0.0,0.4366130812974726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10780052025732834,0.0,0.0,0.10802153168746492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485716921392368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14448593063138002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3744085502138039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925918802986746,0.0,0.0,0.2618831624497149 divorce,divorcingdad87,2019/03/16,"Soon to be ex wife says I embezzled money? I (husband) filed for divorce after my wife got violent with me during divorce. She was arrested, I filed for divorce the next day. We own a business together and have been able to handle things amicably regarding that. My wife already removed me off the lease at the house we were staying at after she was arrested. I took out a personal loan last month through my credit card company. The loan is in my name only and I am not asking her to take any responsibility of it. I transferred the money to my brother (who, at the time, was an employee of mine) who then bought a cheap house that I am now living in. My wife found out and was livid. She claims the loan is partly hers and, because he's my employee, she is claiming I am embezzling money and the house I have will need to be sold. Our first court date is in a couple weeks. We live in California. Did I break any laws I was not aware of? I know this is a question for a lawyer, but I honestly cannot afford one at the moment. 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Today he finally told me he isn’t willing to have children- something I’ve made clear from the start I’ve wanted. I guess we are done now. I’m broken, angry and devastated ",1.6527564102564083,4.191609019230771,3.674615384615386,84.15371794871797,83.80769230769229,5.7743589743589725,22.128205128205128,7.1686216300943375,0.9838743589743592,207,7,39,3,6,70,42,52,0.193,0.759,0.048,-0.8316,0,0,1,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,7,0,0,1,1,7,13,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,5,0,5,8,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,1,6,23,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31634387293711586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3386331174282537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34053783846690644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27296448118109645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925030953493393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23798078532397401,0.0,0.0,0.21880142252838766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053699996571696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2930159036924471,0.29538374600599915,0.0,0.20987669280133173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823308978590612,0.0,0.2479627394697697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22504787114721034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,slinks1981,2019/03/16,"Even though it’s what I want it’s still hard I’m 37(f) he’s 42 (m). We’ve been on and off for almost 10 years. The 22nd will be our 5th anniversary. He’s an alcoholic and I always felt he put that above me and our daughter. He was emotional and verbally abusive throughout. No matter what I did i could’ve done it better. Nothing I did was good enough. He always claimed I never cared about anything. I know I’m not perfect and I know my faults. I tried so hard to work on them. I changed everything about myself to make him happy and it still wasn’t good enough. We just started the uncontested divorce. We’re using an agency that does things like that, wills, prenups etc. He’s getting the house, 4 cars and everything in the house. I have to have (and pay for) my name signed off the deed by next year. He’s not giving me anything for the deed. We agreed on child support finally but that was after him only wanting to give me 17% when he doesn’t make as much as usually (when his work is slow) but when he has a good week he wants to cap it out at $200 a week. He feels like when he works a lot of overtime it’s his money and should go to him. When I did the child support calculate he’s supposed to be giving me $208 a week. He blames everything on me says he does nothing wrong. My rant/vent is that even though this is what I want and all the shit he’s putting me throw and has put me through I still feel like shit. I’m still sad. I’m still depressed about it. I don’t want him back but it’s just how I feel. Does anyone else experience this? I’m sure I’m leaving stuff out so any questions feel free to ask. I just feel like I degraded myself yet again to get home to sign the papers. All the shit I gave up and he has the nerve to tell me he thinks I’m screwing him over. 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I won't be able to tell him though, because he is no longer part of my life. So I will die alone then. I don't know how else to describe it. The one person that I _need_ when everything goes to shit won't be there if and when everything goes to shit. There are people all around me but my life is very lonely. Still there is no going back. He exists, but he is not the same. I am not the same. What we had will never be again. It's a lonely void. 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STBXW [38] cheated on me [42] over the course of 3 months and only confessed with trickle truth once I had hard evidence. Still, I wanted to work it out and she seemed open to the idea, but a month later I learn that she’s still talking to AP and has been lying to me. Her heart just isn’t in it. Time to move on. We’ve met with attorneys and are starting the divorce process. It just seems so surreal. Like there are these little moments where I’m like how the fcuk did we get here? We’ve always fought here and there, but even after really bad arguments, we always came back together and hugged it out. She would look at me with her beautiful blue eyes and tell me “I love you. I’m not going anywhere. You’re stuck with me”. Now we’re stuck under the same roof for a little while and we barely look at each other. When we have our exchange of words and there’s no make-up afterwards, just coldness. We actually had a civil talk today about splitting our assets and she was saying how she’ll likely have to get a second job and how it’s going to be hard and all I can think is “bitch, you brought this on all of us!” Of course I didn’t say it. Need to keep the peace for the kids’ sake. It just all seems so crazy how you can be so tight one moment and the next everything is turned upside down. 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I have no idea Married 5 years about. Spouse is 26(f) and has a 11 yr old son that I'm stepfather to. She cheated on me 2 years ago with a coworker and I gave her another chance. She told me 2 month's ago she cheated on me a 2nd time a few months prior with an ex. What prompted her to tell me was that she saw me being everything I could for 'our' son and she felt bad for her decision. I went through/going through a lot of emotions and trying to figure out what to do since then. We've come 70% close to normalcy. I'm doing the best I can right now for our family so I think she thinks we've moved passed the me leaving her situation. So she's moved back to her ways treating me like shit emotionally which I don't really understand. I'm so lost. Divorce seems like the hardest thing in the world. Not seeing 'my' son being the hardest. Then dealing with possessions, moving out and aloneness. What happens when I tell her I want a divorce? Is she going to hurt herself like she threatens? Is she going to come after money? What is my life that I've built with her for? Nothing I guess. We rent. Make about the same money wise. She uses my second vehicle I don't care about losing it. Mainly care about seeing my step son and her not trying to make me poor forever. Idk. Any words will help thanks ",1.2749806999485322,3.5735824141791106,2.8962274832732886,90.75798507462689,83.06716417910448,5.935357694287185,21.181677817807515,7.237678284180719,0.6663153371075663,1029,32,216,15,29,338,147,268,0.129,0.778,0.094,-0.8939,1,1,0,0,2,0,31.0,3,0,0,3,10,16,3,0,13,0,16,2,1,3,0,35,44,12,0,2,2,6,1,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,10,16,0,0,8,0,4,10,5,7,0,1,7,4,46,9,29,33,5,34,0,3,3,0,37,8,1,3,18,137,56,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2009726722246257,0.0,0.0,0.1174062301247315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708833121648477,0.1188672950039322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08716644009143082,0.09465042776845768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896377676159313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311550824129293,0.0,0.0,0.19529830277526175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09050831776367473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11686864257413755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2550283063711643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10188018793026153,0.0,0.10686522561821134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10884287448718817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19327440843086055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248782435188666,0.0,0.10024341060822456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07598246751807987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1213536640464396,0.12796905069669787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12003131769508625,0.0,0.0,0.0800691506218143,0.1661451424873211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12682025786446965,0.12374525947920867,0.096374173065046,0.0,0.0,0.15133666150023764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18096490510562135,0.3614495503248944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10877147493117564,0.0,0.11895170136906515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07262098331939176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0968083734629614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18066565198545986,0.10319820983359376,0.0,0.0,0.1163618735087787,0.09377213030550934,0.12742080105344653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19816235779572886,0.10436617554639664,0.0,0.0,0.07531099904820089,0.14527235044868803,0.0,0.0,0.06610082230366122,0.0,0.0,0.10831983761721356,0.0,0.15392728673307807,0.0,0.0,0.11801121277273405,0.0,0.09790619094777134,0.0,0.0,0.06686235622556272,0.08997947591982064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10508537032607096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14599957233489896 divorce,darkescaflowne,2019/03/16,"Divorced 4 years and I still feel nothing I don’t know what’s wrong with me, or if there is even anything wrong with me. It’s been four years since my divorce began, we broke apart because she changed her mind about having children to not having children, and I still can’t really form a relationship. I tried drinking myself into oblivion, saw a therapist for a year, dating like crazy, I tied fucking my way out of this funk, looking for my soulmate, being serious and more. But I still can’t get over how betrayed I feel toward my exwife, the trust I placed in another person, the commitment I made to her only to see it all wash away. It’s been so long I stopped talking to friends about it or seeing any therapist because I feel ridiculous struggling with my divorce so long after. Any advice for me?",7.643076923076923,6.804365230769236,7.2944871794871835,77.49634615384619,63.35897435897437,9.594871794871796,36.80769230769232,8.472884824447931,3.025015384615385,640,27,118,7,8,202,102,156,0.151,0.754,0.096,-0.7769,0,0,1,0,3,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,10,10,2,1,5,0,9,3,0,2,2,24,21,10,0,1,5,0,3,1,1,0,1,0,0,3,6,9,1,1,4,1,0,0,4,7,0,1,5,7,24,3,20,15,3,21,0,1,4,1,13,8,1,3,13,84,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669988689161866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026138298487674,0.1466879330647855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11511839097090547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13143221936054458,0.0,0.0,0.17055253621999822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479861515560104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13703994372085582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923967001676192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21219931074070897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080794559745704,0.12932699493764,0.07308728479487678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07688044679246528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0683436867963084,0.0,0.0,0.24759830331978336,0.11747322536502745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13236826669523732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125005297780355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342292077356894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639342536341526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12214744387506525,0.1461563428815928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961777030344174,0.0,0.0,0.15019060402967035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22295006431055975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11571929834141398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3351514507361764,0.11695515763944415,0.0,0.1462444689690188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124391038733981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32484851545588816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09497682071590367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11103898124790762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3058977424722508,0.0,0.27025569346186223 divorce,Madwife33333,2019/03/16,"Indecisive about getting divorced First few years were hell. Now he wants to ""try"" and im left empty and cold towards him. I dont even enjoy the sex anymore. Im not happy but we have 3 kids 6 and under. I dont want to hurt them leaving their father. Im so lost on what to do. But so tired of fighting and being unhappy. 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Me (26m) and my wife (26f) have been married for 6 years. We had initially met in high s hool. We do not have any children together. We reside at my parants house currently. Little backstory, my wife is not currently a resident of the US. Additionally, she has never worked because of this compleaction in her status. I am the sole breadwinner and I work as an LEO. Last night my wife wrote me a letter explaining that she wanted to separate, but that she will always love me. I broke down, and started crying. I knew she had been contemplating it for last 2 days because she had told me. However, she has been struggling with a stronger period of depression it for a month... I broke down and tried to salvage any piece of our marriage. A lot of the stress she indicated came from living with my parants and me not listening when she said she wanted to move. My explanation for staying is because I wanted to save money for a down payment on a house, when she returns to the USA legally. We are most of the way through the process of obtaining her papers... However, I explained to her that I am more than willing to get an apartment asap today. I want to salvage this relationship but I know I acted like a baby to get her to stay. She still seems depressed and apathetic. No infadelity on my part and none on hers. I am wondering if I should re-evaluate everything and just let her go. I know she had considered separation in the past, and I don't want problems to escalate. I also don't want for this to reoccur in the future for a different reason. What do I do? 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I’m devastated for him. ,3.685517241379313,4.461577034482762,4.713275862068965,87.09681034482759,71.75862068965517,8.558620689655173,24.84482758620689,8.841846274778883,1.2938827586206898,110,3,26,2,2,36,27,29,0.125,0.815,0.06,-0.4767,0,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,0,5,7,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,4,1,4,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,2,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21443772269256225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22157476649413185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4787573228294668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3753151892042231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31887044971507633,0.0,0.3706821273868609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4019972486193044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3662862669637285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whatever0000man,2019/03/16,"Ending It! I am beyond heartbroken but have also grown so tired of being with someone who makes me feel like my feelings don’t matter and like every situation is my fault even if he is the one verbally abusing me. He has NEVER and I firmly believe her will never apologize for treating me that way. I had the entirety of today’s conversation with the back if his head and nearly begged him to turn around so I could look him in the eyes when I told him it was over. I didn’t beg. It is over anyway. I don’t have any idea where I go from here and I am afraid but I will make it somehow...",1.3096341463414625,3.3023187642276426,3.277418699186992,89.82149390243902,80.869918699187,6.051219512195122,20.006097560975608,7.1686216300943375,0.4161170731707315,460,12,99,6,12,155,83,123,0.136,0.804,0.061,-0.8859,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,0,12,5,0,1,4,0,17,3,2,2,2,21,25,12,0,3,4,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,2,0,1,4,4,20,3,13,17,0,16,0,0,2,0,11,7,0,3,8,81,26,0,0.0,0.23640797046239184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1595624138446634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1356858347688256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17762216042402515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1534246623450508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22479965099943974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930681668019026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17672252329733976,0.0,0.0,0.1317863162292352,0.0,0.1681108869218437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20177463349642627,0.14254279333749922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1133963209630544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20477322038847087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22524274678607306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495853648605865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16755320913342775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2663728857889174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30777648084553183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520528945504232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242777536498569,0.0,0.0,0.16905936792603024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22932800423791624,0.18912914782028065,0.19065748806834087,0.0,0.0,0.21702909237573592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15837598388213014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,maybetodayImADick,2019/03/16,"Forensic accounting prior to court proceedings? But after filing the divorce suit and discovery? (USA, VA.) Has anyone here had to hire a forensic accountant to go over their STBX’s finances? Was it worth the money? Was the process hell? My STBX has been cheating for most of our marriage, and he’s always been a gambler (I left as soon as I learned about the adultery). There are 10’s of thousands of dollars I was unaware of that are unaccounted for. He did a spectacular job of hiding money and resources from me. I’m considering getting a forensic accountant to go over everything. But we’re already through filing and discovery. Wondering what others experiences have been? 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They are almost empty nesters, are working with a mediator and have decided to sell their house of nearly 25 years. My siblings and I have started to take lots of our personal possessions to our own homes, but piles and piles of stuff have literally accumulated over the years. The home is supposed to go on the market in a few weeks. Do you have any tips or advice on how to go through all this stuff in an effort to clean up and de-clutter the house to get it ready for sale? Books? Photos? Souvenirs? There's just so much, and it's hard to know what to just toss in the trash, what to donate, or what to keep. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!",4.773759213759213,6.314119864864862,5.045110565110567,82.85566339066341,69.94594594594594,7.273710073710076,29.67076167076167,7.686295010490155,1.8300729729729737,612,24,116,7,11,193,93,148,0.029,0.887,0.084,0.9107,2,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,2,1,2,2,5,1,0,0,9,0,11,0,0,1,2,20,20,10,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,8,6,0,1,2,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,1,27,18,6,15,0,0,0,0,11,9,0,4,4,82,16,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877179532255326,0.0,0.0,0.14741679372638408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20022553395991236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2307447847926805,0.0,0.1673338926837903,0.0,0.0,0.16230751950369945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13187772468048162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2953417768424766,0.0,0.0,0.509606764605681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13085344123510767,0.0,0.0,0.08090674139229588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12515882726598318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10822160555277896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269346313262728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285444097379833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10420111549631172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370570215691735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068903807720536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11808878459608307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071758992360622,0.0,0.0,0.10457889871133726,0.0,0.0,0.18960614315661006 divorce,lwizzles,2019/03/16,"When does it start to feel normal to be on your own? (introduction) Good days and bad days. Hi there, hello. 36f living alone after 12 years with STBX. We’ve been separated since Oct 2017. Divorce not yet final; the lawyers are preparing for arbitration. Abuse was finally our breaking point. I’m not jumping into another serious relationship right away. Feels good to be safe and happier, but the quiet nights are still so weird. I know it will get better because it already has started. But just needed to complain to someone who understands. I’m sorry you’re here :(",2.672459546925566,5.6932100970873805,3.6996504854368943,80.76824595469256,88.80582524271843,6.630161812297735,25.31326860841424,7.793537801064563,2.163203754045308,452,19,75,10,15,145,86,103,0.162,0.736,0.102,-0.7195,0,1,0,0,2,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,7,8,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,0,16,18,6,0,2,5,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,4,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,2,3,3,4,11,13,1,19,0,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,12,42,7,1,0.0,0.20974691298455672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18334559188674707,0.1953526400556569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856272408654886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16632179437657155,0.0,0.14780935119972072,0.10791343248100416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15656514882307826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2283343049734893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1549166828487204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901937236586676,0.0,0.0,0.3878467534374673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248880078520992,0.0,0.0,0.29696209120137784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09728888338953158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15631723889536775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1312625675092361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661269489199753,0.173447935573708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673468301436573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19005971962012533,0.0,0.15117927313825766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14643777178672185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1499935914353878,0.0,0.0,0.19816616137048929,0.2505998882200713,0.0,0.14137322630518248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18429035351959566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399896741644568 divorce,Erroranonnotfound,2019/03/17,"I can't remember my ex-wife after the seperation. I can't remember anything about our relationship other than it was toxic. It's been close to 5 months since we seperated and a week since she's moved out. We have no kids and the divorce finalizes soon. I can barely recall the day we met along with anything else we did in the 9 years we spent together. During the time before she moved out she worked night shift while I was working day shift. We mostly ever saw each other during the weekends, so throughout the weekdays I just felt like I lived with a ghost. I slowly started to forget about her until I saw her again. Just recently I'm starting to forget her face. This memory issue I have is specific towards her. Nothing else significant in my life has been affected/forgotten. Is this normal.",4.616176470588236,6.435649784313724,5.5014542483660165,78.3290441176471,70.76470588235293,8.498692810457516,27.782679738562088,9.075114841892004,2.456930718954248,639,23,112,13,12,209,98,153,0.071,0.911,0.018000000000000002,-0.6588,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,7,0,0,2,8,1,0,0,9,0,13,2,1,0,1,25,21,5,1,1,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,6,15,0,0,3,1,1,2,3,0,0,0,10,3,25,1,16,11,2,26,0,0,2,0,18,6,0,1,19,81,31,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27104388805455376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1401350340013524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21241674844923866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751468200558231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489672539283433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1581236840292313,0.1804046620838373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17188863392322967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11632207558890767,0.0804569037015806,0.0,0.14542010941620032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314502102692507,0.3500687558854016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15454596856775868,0.161356597310587,0.15801995688229634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16260683504015871,0.1768103468183125,0.3731126118741833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27245871212123496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23313016160068745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09602930452968514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13210058887079795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397856739785724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605191360966808 divorce,Pheliont,2019/03/17,"Wife wants a divorce, I need help I don't really know where I am at emotionally, outside of destroyed. I'm 32 (33 in April), my wife is 31 (32 in May). We have been together nearly 11 years, 5.5 married. Like all marriages, we have had our ups and downs. This passed week my wife has been distant, not wanting to go out, and if we make plans together, she changes those plans to be with her family. This weekend, she took a trip to Austin TX and during the trip I had asked her if she was honestly happy with me and wanting to be married. She said no, she wasn't happy and if she wanted to remain married. After a bit more texting, she said we could talk more when she got home. When she got home, she laid it all out there. She isn't happy in our marriage, she isn't in love with me, and she has felt this way for a long time. She flat out wants a divorce. She says how great of a guy I am, that I treat her right, that I don't yell at/hit her, that I do things she wants, the sex is great. She says we are on different paths with each other. I have never that way, but she does. I don't know what to do, I just feel lost and destroyed. 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I'm not sure where to start but I'll start from the beginning. I'm (30)M and STBX is (26)F, we've been together for two and a half years, married for almost 12 months now. We've had a lot of issues, and I have had to come to terms that my STBX is emotional abusive, manipulative, selfish, and hasn't really thought about me for our whole marriage. We have 1 baby just over a year old and our daughter was born, but is still in the NICU. Our problems began before the we got pregnant with the first child. We almost broke up/separated due to my STBX having trust issues, following me, and even in one of our arguments she hit me in the face. I should have left but I saw the good in her and was at a point in my life that I wanted to start a family. We got pregnant and during the pregnancy I helped her get a license for a trade and I helped her start her own business, I've contribute roughly 90% of the income to the household. Together we paid off her debts and fixed her credit, so she is now ok financially. The first baby was born early and I supported her and the child, I was up through the night getting her what she needed. Went shopping for nursing equipment, changing diapers, everything a dad does. I love our kids and they are my whole world. We agreed on waiting a year before getting pregnant again, but as it seems like everything in this marriage she will agree and then beg, please, be abusive, threaten to leave, anything until she gets her way. 6 months later we were pregnant again. Through a second pregnancy with complications and issues, in and out of the hospital and there I was to support my STBX, continue to work 40-60 hours a week to provide for the family in a high stress job, be a great dad, and try to arrange childcare. I guess my breaking point was the first night she came home from the hospital after giving birth (C-section) she blamed and started a fight saying I was cheating on her. All I had done for the last month was take care of the child, organize care, run back and forth from the hospital and try to sleep. The next night we started a fight and she again came to me and said we shouldn't be a couple and dropped her wedding ring next to me. That was the first point in our whole time together I thought ""You're right, we shouldn't be together"". A couple days later we got in another fight and I told her that I didn't know what I wanted right now, in regards to staying together or not, and that I would like time get through the nicu and new baby and see where we were. two days later she pushed me with an ultimatum about my choice and I said ""if you're going to push me into a decision, I think we should separate."" We fought threw text while I was at work and she tried all of her emotional manipulation on me, but at that point I had to check out emotionally of the marriage. When I got home from work I found her drunk mother in the kitchen feeding my son and my STBX passed out in the bedroom. I was furious and I knew I made the right choice, I don't care what is going on between my STBX and I but the kids will always come first. we've gone through more fights, I think where she is trying to come to terms that the marriage is over. On Friday she asked me to attend a counseling session with her, it's a counselor she has seen and we've seen together. I gave everything from my point of view, and she read a statement about how she knows she's been emotionally abusive, manipulative, not taking my feelings or thoughts into consideration, disregarding our decisions about finances, everything that I knew has been wrong with our marriage. things I've tried to argue with her to fix. I know I have my own problems as we all do, but I at least thought my wife was thinking about my feelings when making decisions. She moved her mother in, against my wishes, with no money, no job, no plan under the guise that it would be temporary. Any normal mother in law would be fine, but my MIL smokes, drinks heavily and during the day, has anger issues, and doesn't understand boundaries. It is not someone I want around a 1 year old or a baby fresh from the NICU. I am venting a bit, but I am done with this marriage, I want to be happy, and I want a safe environment for the kids. I guess I have a couple questions; 1. Am I the asshole? I know the timing is appalling, but I can't be emotional invested and it's not safe. 2. I'm going to offer to take on all the debts, and give her roughly $4K, to end the marriage. She has agreed to split the kids 50/50, and I believe I need to give her and them a fair chance at having a good mother/child relationship. I will cover the children's health care, and always be willing to help get what they need. 3. Any advice or questions TLDR; Manipulative, emotionally abusive STBX, getting a divorce with a 1 year old and a baby in the NICU. Doing it for my sanity. 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Hi there! My husband and I are starting the divorce process. Practically speaking, I am seeking advice on what to do about life insurance. We have two young children. I took out a policy after our first kid was born and he agreed to do the same. Then dragged his feet for a year and a half. To date no policy. We are hoping to do most of the settlement DIY with a mediator if necessary for the items we can’t agree on. So far the arrangements have been amicable but in the past he has been verbally and emotionally abusive, so my guard is up a bit. I have 2 questions: 1) is it reasonable to request in the divorce settlement that we each keep a similar life insurance policy to benefit our kids in the event of one of our deaths? 2) what’s the best way to make him not the beneficiary? I’m reading online that one can designate one’s kids as the beneficiaries and then name a custodian who would dole out the money. Is that person under any kind of obligation or oversight that ensures they are using it in the children’s best interest? I hate to make my STBX the custodian but it kind of makes the most sense, since he will have the kids. And seriously, if he doesn’t take out a policy, it seems like he has a huge motive to just murder me. How are other people dealing with this? 😬",3.4409989630141737,5.3106889467680665,5.134630141721399,79.54220100241966,73.98098859315591,9.040373314898034,27.924127203594885,9.573946990214177,2.6814045627376424,1055,42,207,28,22,358,149,263,0.09,0.784,0.126,0.8878,0,0,0,0,2,0,27.0,7,0,1,4,6,11,2,0,25,0,25,4,1,7,0,40,37,17,2,4,7,1,0,1,0,2,3,1,0,8,13,16,0,2,4,1,1,1,4,3,0,6,4,1,19,8,33,31,8,26,0,0,0,0,33,13,0,8,12,148,32,2,0.0,0.17870072211153698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738259715071075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256488648022596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31655909698049184,0.0,0.1646597728522051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15549200338833213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16965569807671022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1282900599870213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14890659573594872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1498013790257694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340585097254657,0.0,0.3141181187486975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31959246806233993,0.07368455298635837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3020267904777725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066049272153334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14397772411419274,0.10456175380367876,0.13169292179371628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16895640025439493,0.0,0.15086392448635189,0.0,0.0,0.15507127623345232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730369446993115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1247624348331572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675337326488912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11340020825982118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16757002427962353,0.0,0.0,0.1473322626348949,0.0,0.0,0.130262741478598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11971636417124998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10714040974117577,0.0,0.0,0.09712513765953902 divorce,MrButterswirth,2019/03/17,"I am the Primary caregiver and a father. My wife is having an affair and wants a divorce. What should I do/know to prepare for what’s next? I have been documenting my role in the kids lives for the last month. Driving to and from school, school activities, church, cooking meals, outings, baths and homework. My wife frequently says really horrible things. “I fucking hate these kids. I want to murder _______. I can’t stand these fucking bitches. I don’t want to be a mom. I want to disappear from my life. I want to move away and start my life over.” All of these things right in front of our 3 daughters, aged 6 and under. The oldest is smart and I’m trying to deflect and protect them in this. I really want them to have a mom but I’m concerned for them. I’m concerned about 50/50 since she often looses it when we’re all here. Often she’ll just leave when she gets fed up. I’m an involved father. I drink a home occasionally but don’t have any out of the home hobbies or habits. Nine months ago, for lots of reasons I moved into a part time job 3-4 days a week and I care for the kids. She works a 36hr week with call so she’s gone often and we need to have a parent in the home with the age the kids are. Yes, daycare is an option but we agreed on us raising them, not wanting to outsource it in these early years. This p/t thing was a trial, let’s give it a year and obviously things are not working. About a month ago she said she wanted a divorce. Started going out a lot. Lying about being at work and the other night I accidentally found out she’s having an affair. Lost my phone and using find my iPhone I found she wasn’t at work. I’m fucking devastated. But I want to work through this. She doesn’t. I’m waiting for her to file. All this to say, anything to know? Any steps to take or missteps to avoid? Ive been reading up on this sub and I’ve heard that I should maintain the p/t job for now. Eventually yes I’ll need f/t employment. My parent have offered to cover all my attorney fees I’ll have which I can’t express what a relief/burden lifted this is. I’m really fortunate for that. I’ve also been talking up my wife to the kids. I’ve never disparaged her to them and trying to do the opposite of what most do in this situation. So there’s my quick summary of a complicated mess. Thank you for you time. I’m a freaking mess right now. 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I’m 31f, literally have one friend in the area due to making my entire world about him. I have online friends but it doesn’t seem to be enough, some just say I need to get over it! I just can’t make feelings disappear overnight. I also have no job, but have applied at a lot of places. I don’t know how to cope with any of this, my mood is up and down, I’m exhausted, I haven’t slept much, I can’t eat and I can tell it’s affecting my dog. I tried going to the store last night and all I could see were couples and babies, I nearly had a panic attack and ran back to my car. I’m not a very outgoing person because I was so happy doing things at home, I was just happy being a housewife and not having a huge social life. Does anyone have advice that’s not “it’ll get better” I honestly don’t know what to say or write -_- ",2.604749818709209,3.317734786802035,4.153694706308922,90.34539340101524,74.22842639593907,6.846845540246553,21.685641769398114,6.868970318607317,0.34901189267585186,711,15,163,6,14,238,123,197,0.127,0.7559999999999999,0.117,0.1422,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,1,9,11,1,1,7,0,23,4,1,4,1,33,40,13,0,3,10,0,1,0,3,1,2,2,1,1,8,8,1,0,4,0,1,4,10,3,0,2,6,4,21,7,21,30,5,25,0,0,1,0,11,13,0,4,8,108,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.275777026847878,0.12508319186651498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11284353291992162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09595786748004943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09866557159850528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605300329069113,0.0,0.10850287682985336,0.0,0.08601775837131274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14808350557436914,0.12479802403841438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11266277301319608,0.1561326488267686,0.0,0.09100259634753337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12348403240080613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14438809273719874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14580165957322544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134813879014469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3270576703801641,0.0,0.14744557994474125,0.0,0.08019458448434842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004228920348272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14154222252815568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400273164570801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15509786819335314,0.11502136039954823,0.0,0.0,0.1533135977040056,0.0,0.09966832623515354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11996446130743905,0.0,0.0,0.18838056395761607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10373017145945927,0.20925869107527684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1324197314701974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956180228410218,0.0,0.0,0.1655591249205762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12320953467811124,0.1474271947525509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244285285171625,0.0,0.0,0.11244432469768034,0.12845887292048047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14384121928107027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12333408292038894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09374548329711432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958026587734572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11642837895979828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908685360882493 divorce,AfterLifeAsIKnewIt,2019/03/17,"Miss The Companionship of a Relationship; Very Unsure About Dating (M39/married 16 years) I've been separated for well over a year now. I'm mostly over my ex, and enjoy my own company. At the same time though, I miss the companionship. I guess it's only natural, especially after being with someone so long. But my situation isn't your average lonely divorcee looking to get back in the saddle. Due to a number of factors, it's more complicated than that. I have ASD (Asperger's, specifically). I work at home. I barely make enough to get by each month. I don't go out socialising. I don't drive. Despite all this, I do think I have plenty to offer. I'm reasonable looking and in good shape. I'm talented. I'm loyal and I'm honest. But I feel like finding someone who's a good fit is close to impossible. I've been thinking of going the online route. In fact, I signed up for Plenty of Fish a couple of months ago. I don't have a profile on there but I do browse the profiles in my area. When I do, I see maybe one in 10 that I'd be interested in. In fact, I was browsing earlier and FOUR looked very similar to my STBXW. Perhaps that's a sign I'm not ready yet. But then I ask myself, when will I be? I actually get along with females more than males. Being completely honest, it would be nice to have someone nice to strike up a friendship with online first, then if all goes well we could meet in person etc. I feel overwhelmed; maybe I'm overthinking it. 'No man is an island'....or maybe this one is. I don't know. Anyone else been or are now in a similar boat? I know getting back into dating is something a lot of us struggle with. I feel like it's ever harder for someone like me who's quite reclusive. 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We have a 2 year old daughter. He left saying that he just didn't love me anymore. We have been together for 14 years. I still love him dearly still to this day. I found out today that he left me for another woman and he and this woman are taking ,y daughter on a trip. We are not even divorced yet. This is extremely painful and I do not know how to move and how to stop hurting. I need advice please ",1.797097505668937,3.681434265306127,3.2260544217687084,91.32767573696148,78.79591836734693,5.988208616780046,22.113378684807266,6.937597516519254,0.5218467120181405,370,11,80,4,9,121,64,98,0.141,0.762,0.096,-0.6936,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,3,0,0,0,8,5,0,0,2,0,10,3,0,2,0,19,16,8,0,1,3,3,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,5,9,0,1,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,1,12,3,8,12,0,16,0,1,0,2,18,4,0,1,10,52,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718143054134664,0.0,0.0,0.1760634936849068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843680042840506,0.0,0.0,0.17437130698602185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11339267857796048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161308558680976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192783205924158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11785189438712025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18822446369339085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662890632819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3820690882200803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3173781320348644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14034196032925755,0.18687431290657314,0.0,0.13037212370362633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18449892198591236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18709036028614615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38600643923809336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13982321944246934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28082838996644083,0.1469977015436405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13219863398105175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16666168714943372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22645126884413205 divorce,professorlambeau,2019/03/17,"Mental health issues? I still care for my soon-to-be-ex. We had been together for many years but during the last year, we became very emotionally distant from each other, likely due to work stress, having fewer common interests, and a breakdown in basic communication. I tried to reconnect with them but was met each time with resistance. We were stuck in a rut and despite going to couples therapy, the lack of emotional intimacy led to a lot of frustration and conflict. This snowballed into our divorce today. To make matters worse, I suspect that my soon-to-be-ex may have psychological / mental health issues. After becoming emotionally distant, they tried to stay in the marriage but ultimately could not and felt like separation/divorce was the only answer. They would say/do: * Cry everyday * Sleep very early to ""escape the pain"" * ""I'm on the verge of a mental breakdown"" * ""I think I'm going insane"" * ""I think I'm depressed"" * Pick at their skin until they bled * Look like they aged 10+ years (white hair, looking disheveled, bags under their eyes) * Purging / vomiting to get relief from stress &#x200B; I'm not looking for a diagnosis, but has anyone else experienced something similar? How did you handle it? I know I have to let them go, but it's very sad because I miss the person I fell in love with. Thanks for reading.",3.969377593360996,6.820777340248966,4.9637908713692935,76.64459087136929,76.42738589211618,7.175502074688798,27.067385892116175,8.238735603445708,2.296310074688797,1053,42,170,20,25,343,155,241,0.207,0.7040000000000001,0.08800000000000001,-0.9876,0,0,1,0,2,0,57.0,4,1,8,1,2,15,1,2,12,0,14,9,4,4,0,37,36,11,0,3,7,0,3,3,0,2,4,0,0,1,5,13,0,1,6,1,0,5,2,7,0,0,9,9,24,8,31,23,4,29,0,3,5,1,18,9,0,2,17,103,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11335479856828275,0.12712371081973053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07315213784211202,0.10719467611353407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377485900404069,0.1155436247882452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10666618957667616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08352987336527783,0.1157590926965539,0.11491921689775862,0.0,0.0,0.09010831523147664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0873958701867576,0.3530473661774487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10045078449437894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0546591846253048,0.0,0.17837241106538607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22241051523728372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21839041038360352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057495945390488024,0.08527856550584728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698016267141808,0.0,0.15333488739077974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26356119529318595,0.0,0.0,0.08894345481954764,0.0944228618589265,0.0,0.0698340908492294,0.10606739116157947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3162944707129143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07956757315829499,0.11132214517221356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913494009938135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464745519877844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319734223299505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469469846712873,0.0,0.0,0.08054092810512575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11151008724166636,0.08354898335891994,0.0,0.2396817514408314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09631925156063052,0.11964110855284857,0.0,0.0,0.13407144598731405,0.0,0.0,0.061004264058717825,0.0,0.09916671550110398,0.0,0.0,0.14205906248138395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25896525064665554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07616398267450006,0.0,0.10661584536786256,0.07431843806623738,0.0,0.12712371081973053,0.20211389554872589 divorce,pumbungler,2019/03/17,"I hate my wife. I love my kids. Living with only partial access to them would be unbearable. Looking for guidance. Hey all, I'm new to the forum and had hoped that I would never be here. My title description pretty much says it all. I find that my wife's company has become unbearable. Physical attraction is gone. If I pursue divorce she'll take me to the cleaners and try to ruin my life. I've been a good husband, provider, and father. My wife sits back and soaks up the fruits of my labors. Our disagreements have become progressively more generalized to the extent that we now just disagree to agree. Her motivation for hanging on is clear. Mine much less so. I'm looking for any wisdom that might come from others in this forum who have had a similar experience. Please Help! Thank you in advance. 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Almost 5 years since I was asked to move out. The part I hate most is waking up every morning and realizing I am divorced. I can say it does get easier in some ways, but I am not sure I will ever stop grieving the loss of the relationship and the ending of the shared hopes and dreams. I have started a blog post just for guys living on the other side of divorce. I recognized that to move forward I needed to recognize my part in the breakdown, and to start taking control of the direction my life was going. Let me know if you are interested in the blog address and I will pass it on",4.89484375,5.226286296874999,6.045312500000001,80.21843750000002,68.84375,8.5875,29.28125,8.472884824447931,2.051840625,498,17,99,7,8,167,82,128,0.11,0.773,0.116,0.204,0,0,0,0,4,0,8.0,0,1,0,2,2,7,1,0,10,0,12,3,2,1,2,21,22,7,1,3,4,0,0,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,4,6,0,2,2,3,0,5,1,3,0,1,2,1,15,4,17,17,4,24,0,2,0,0,10,10,0,5,8,73,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16765374313229342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15652144554460806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877833789944067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14651631018558647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14829043899889832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514471148392501,0.14106428969549248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08747358628748654,0.0,0.09515250180181442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16577884262518272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16529929037894775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662925777623527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201338393121744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17120523393529222,0.11825849155095013,0.0,0.0,0.14784092094015105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35589635759622834,0.0,0.12414484162251463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3626137909157473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3206971631558541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17975371226377826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13314450159833238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13849716892622374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370110841501829,0.0,0.0,0.13997629139258488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15779776599271858,0.0,0.12588410782967055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16355164351926296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13289559100086176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2156347239520367 divorce,Stikfigur,2019/03/17,"Scared to death My wife (37) of 18yrs and I (41) will almost certainly be getting a divorce. With the obvious fear for losing time with my 3 kids (13,10,5) and however much of my money I’m absolutely scared to death of future relationships. As a very good looking women she will not have any issues. I, on the other hand, never had a date in my life prior to just hanging out with my future wife. She has admitted throughout our marriage that she married me because I have her all the attention she wanted. I’ve learned how that back fires. As absolutely horrible as this sounds I don’t want to date someone I’m not physically attracted to just so I can date. I also don’t want to live alone the rest of my life. I Keep getting angrier and angrier about this as days go on. I’ve looked at all the statistics and websites I can find. It seems the top 50% of women do for the top 33% of men. Those are absolutely horrible numbers. So my wife will be moving up in life while I will have everything taken from me and forcing me to either be lonely or settle for something I don’t really want. (I know this sounds like I’m a jerk. I’m really not.) While I’m not suicidal, I honestly get why so many men do it every year. 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My husband and I have been together for 18 years, and married for 15. Our kids are 13 and 9. Before we got married, we promised each other that if either of us ever wanted to get divorced, we’d go through a year of counseling before finalizing that decision. Now, he wants to get divorced, refuses to attempt counseling, and says his decision is final. Eh-heh-hennyway...I’m struggling. Everything we’ve read says to be a united front, blah blah blah. But we aren’t. “We” didn’t decide to get divorced. HE decided to get divorced. HE refuses to try. And that matters to me. I don’t want my kids to necessarily blame him...but I also want them to know that I wasn’t willing to quit, and I wanted to work on things. I dunno. Maybe that’s dumb, since the end result is the same. Help?",1.2715789473684218,3.8009122356687897,3.2657525980556485,86.3663660744217,85.87898089171975,6.362587998659069,24.823667448876968,7.669130373188453,1.613287898089172,619,26,121,12,19,208,95,157,0.084,0.838,0.078,-0.25,1,0,0,0,4,0,35.0,7,0,1,3,3,3,1,1,5,0,12,0,0,1,1,31,24,9,0,6,3,1,0,3,0,1,0,2,0,3,7,11,0,2,5,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,4,2,18,1,18,17,3,10,0,0,0,0,26,1,1,2,7,73,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926166531711966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2750836721416913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14316308653174475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14621061582315312,0.0,0.0,0.14526960414054635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541325498734597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377962513958304,0.0,0.0918624689570604,0.0,0.1292764896064283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083423892536301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08883189054367423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16238686435974753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17192166351285235,0.16168151028315553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2570816828411938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370843267605367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16897889127963353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14127853441067428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10738495129838264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10974143483838596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19443033394169226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4766907196637891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1176742207882854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20817884721902846 divorce,Living_Watercress,2019/03/17,"Need potential divorce advice. I am seriously considering divorce. My main hold up is making an attorney appt, seeing as how I work 47 hours a week. STBX is a walking disaster. Every week it's a medical emergency, death in the family, car accident, getting fired from a job., bankruptcy. Throw in dead bedroom for 2 years, refusal to touch me in any way, or holding a conversation. I am a compassionate person and I hate to leave a person who is in distress. However he can't go 2 days without some type of disaster happening to him and I can't take it anymore. Anyway, we are co owners of our home. I don't particularly want to stay in the home, as I want to move out of state. Hub would probably like to stay in the home, but he can't afford it. I have made 100% of the mortgage payments . I have always heard don't move out of a house you want to keep. Well, I want to sell the house. Which means he will have to move out. So once I scrape up the courage to file for divorce, do I go ahead and move out of state, then wait for him to move out so we can sell the house, or do I stay, wait for him to move, then sell? I can't stand to think of the fallout of the ""I want a divorce speech"" because I know he will be pissed as hell, and I just can't deal with it. Help!",1.6683349802371552,3.2923307840909146,3.636521739130437,89.43456521739132,78.28030303030303,7.167061923583662,23.97826086956522,8.04050195162591,1.1740515810276675,973,33,221,17,23,330,137,264,0.16399999999999998,0.7809999999999999,0.054000000000000006,-0.9716,4,0,0,0,4,1,39.0,3,1,0,2,6,9,3,1,19,0,23,3,1,3,0,37,45,15,2,7,5,0,2,1,0,3,2,2,4,2,6,12,0,6,3,0,3,11,8,5,1,0,2,5,26,4,45,39,2,39,1,0,1,0,25,13,2,3,9,136,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201307003491507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834952114785917,0.0,0.0,0.06403273022240016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09338244125350333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05739969072646418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060726075458805935,0.09707588870217476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933473002583502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876664021887082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049195252515641295,0.0,0.10702776809106128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326628903178414,0.0,0.0,0.09296452421788903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06311415446981512,0.0,0.2833535755296566,0.0,0.0927296485627354,0.32594756355140003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09344029430757256,0.08369465108239296,0.0,0.0,0.05174844029416964,0.0,0.0,0.09970293639674853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046002323649461545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08909744456106017,0.06285321958384259,0.0,0.0,0.10256896736844046,0.0,0.0948573328200599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6004696477334694,0.0,0.06981921161962902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10027842528072052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644355611906704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1015215176389122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750341508986067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010893926153793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079737707373249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0603345868191891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776930795273159,0.07474064383293777,0.15106059925096327,0.0,0.08466207544914436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076787405596977,0.0,0.06855035225926706,0.0,0.0,0.06688929504345324,0.0,0.0,0.06063661698456393 divorce,thrifthuntres,2019/03/17,"It’s getting nasty I decided to tell my husband I wanted to separate earlier this month. We have our house on the market so when sell it we will go our separate ways. He has been emotionally abusive and controlling for years and I finally got the courage to say I’m done. Today, he went through my phone and found a text from a guy but there is nothing incriminating. Now, he is claiming he will do whatever he needs to in court to protect our kids. He claims I’m an alcoholic ( not true) and now running around with men (not true). I need to contact a lawyer tomorrow but, until then I feel alone and scared he will take my kids.",2.8657381818181804,4.832686512000001,4.134618181818183,85.65930909090909,75.88,8.065454545454546,28.163636363636364,8.841846274778883,2.23844,494,21,102,11,11,162,85,125,0.09,0.866,0.044,-0.6956,0,1,1,0,0,0,14.0,5,0,0,1,6,4,0,1,6,0,10,1,0,1,2,22,22,11,0,3,4,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,4,3,9,1,2,3,0,1,3,2,1,0,0,5,2,13,3,14,14,0,17,0,0,0,0,21,3,0,0,10,61,16,2,0.0,0.2415598775505297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2178815816975829,0.0,0.2111541862303972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814929811307427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22866441722230466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20863606662820186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22933320676555866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10308589779115226,0.0,0.0,0.22333633648191809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22353965487351135,0.0,0.0,0.10651686394123766,0.0,0.1158675037602996,0.0,0.16305836666106616,0.0,0.0,0.2018694233732192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352456826177401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16273198293328608,0.0,0.0,0.3023431361474559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562464657771472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16213048261978355,0.2041155739367809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15328947806013632,0.0,0.1781967249838464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19325073388746355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1202514245049559,0.1618273833944108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1889952162874814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128954423291556 divorce,knoteboom,2019/03/17,"Having a hard time separating from kids My STBXH left me in November, quit his job, and found a new job in another state. A couple days before he was to move he came home and told me he wanted to try again. I was hesitant but agreed. He later that day told me he had slept with another woman and I think I knew that things weren’t going to work out. The day he was to leave he got mad at me for overpacking his bag and claimed I was trying to hurt his back. He would not kiss me goodbye or anything. Later that day he called me to say that he forgot something and that the girl he had slept with was going to drive it up to where he was now living which is 8 hours away and spend the weekend helping get his studio apartment set up. At this point I was hurt that he would do this and saw an attorney the next week to file for divorce. After that he became verbally abusive over text and phone and I got a protective order against him for the kids and because he drove 8 hours overnight after the cops told him to leave me alone and parked around the corner from my house. He is allowed to now see the kids every other weekend if he wants to drive down and I agreed to let him come get the kids this week for spring break. My oldest son, 7, doesn’t want to go and I originally told him the choice was his but now I feel bad that he doesn’t want to see his dad so I’m not sure if I should make him go. On the other hand I have always been the parent who has done everything for my kids because my STBXH worked nights and weekends so I am so depressed about being away from them for a week. How do you parents deal with this when another parent lives hours away?",4.186039525691701,4.50251728115942,4.617503293807643,89.88838932806325,70.3913043478261,7.6640316205533585,24.377470355731226,7.348242739294969,0.780217391304348,1302,30,292,12,22,412,175,345,0.122,0.836,0.042,-0.9845,7,1,1,0,1,0,17.0,0,1,1,3,13,7,1,0,18,0,28,4,3,4,1,45,59,24,0,9,7,5,3,0,0,3,0,1,2,7,18,21,0,2,4,3,1,10,5,5,0,0,27,7,37,2,45,27,0,63,0,3,3,1,54,19,0,3,30,178,55,4,0.0,0.1009694746873523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08826021720953557,0.0,0.0,0.07090825859924405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680757213227399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701272082673835,0.07586214710006774,0.0,0.0,0.24019553806491625,0.06552743349035497,0.07115352656281054,0.10389628561654493,0.0,0.07251429859205492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08701717457680158,0.09746676654090072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340781918168103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429217049896776,0.0,0.21983441375342092,0.08785608538506462,0.07339819642033239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872076698411076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179989705306364,0.0,0.07658850391942734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043088815299922784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09343721214484026,0.0,0.0,0.08904584574680632,0.0,0.19372556579583536,0.0,0.13631334633957656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763386496896709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05711987413391573,0.0,0.08548066967233499,0.0,0.251767891000689,0.0983302079684662,0.18245540694957665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691315646932162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18046725732459185,0.09258967937292656,0.08714124742721792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049822923500886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056883721594614474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09057331905945164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230414034286154,0.09063038126019464,0.07997138325033434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2838737362891265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08055861843097896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09063990418153446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06776882745149641,0.0,0.0,0.1358155326987211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560503151956461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031701983498274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05661509723291217,0.05460429651611853,0.0,0.0,0.04969134029814242,0.0,0.0,0.3257180606528312,0.0,0.1157149475551905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2010552958676904,0.0,0.20507037973396894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12407953574843765,0.0,0.0,0.12107293984634425,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ahugejerk,2019/03/17,"I'm just beginning to accept that my marriage will end in divorce but I'm still scared (rant) I'm 32 years old and my STBX wife is 32 years old. Before we got married she had a great job and made more money than me, then she moved in with me, had a kid and decided she wanted to be a stay at home mom. The killer: we have free day care provided by my aunt who runs her own day care and she only wants to be a stay at home mom 2 days a week, the rest of the time she stays at home, watches TV and plays iPad games. We split our time taking care of our daughter 50/50 when I'm home from work. She has threatened divorce multiple times but never followed up, she also says she doesn't want to have any more kids but I definitely want kids. I've spent the last 3 years in our marriage being verbally abused, yelled at, lied to, insulted, accused of being manipulating and controlling and ignored. I just got to a point where I just don't care anymore, and that I won't be in a marriage where I am the only one doing the work. I feel that marriage is all one big lie and anyone and marriage is a free ticket for the other partner to become the worst version of themselves. I'm so scared of being alone, I'm so scared of not getting majority custody of our daughter. My STBX doesn't take our daughter to her doctors appointments, she doesn't take her to daycare or pick her up. My STBX hasn't participated in the planning of her birthday parties. My STBX frequently gives our daughter sugary foods. My STBX frequently will get tired of taking care of our daughter and plop her in front of the TV or give her a phone to play with. My STBX also has a history of gate keeping and denying me access to our daughter, for her first birthday my family planned a birthday party for her and my wife was angry about something so refused to let her go. She will frequently take the daughter with her when she leaves the house out of anger, even if it's her bed time or nap time. I am so scared that I won't be able to make decisions in my daughter's best interests and she will be subjected to the roller coaster ride of my STBX's emotions. I know this marriage is bad and I want out, but I'm scared of being alone, scared of the legal system and scared for my daughters future. 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he could move in with his parents they need help they are elderly depend on us to drive them etc i care for his parents i feel like im losing everything i will not have anyone except my children my parents are gone....my brothers and sistersthe ones that i could go to for emotional support they are passed away....he wont let me sleep at night waking me up being a jerk talking about how he cant cook etc but he can cook enough to survive he wants me to be like a 1950 housewife...except he isnt a good husband he never wants to just watch tv with me or go to the movies or dinner with me he only wants sex from me and when i confront him about it he denies it and says im lying that he does want those things so we try to watch a movie together and he gets mad if i dont wanna have sex i want someone to hold me play with my hair touch me with our geoping my ass and tits etc i want to feel valued for more than my body i guess im sorry for rambling im just hurting so bad trying to figure out what to do hes offered to live here and live seperate lives lol i guess he would like that ne cooking cleaning for him while he goes out with other women but if he treats them like me they will run ....OH and i give him all the left over miney after bills and dont ask for any back maybe $1 here and there for break for the kids for school i have been using my credit card to buy food for us he wont give me money for anything,,,,so now i have a huge mountain of debt and hes debt free i feel so shitty i wish i had help my mom would be nice id crawl in her lap and never leave ",0.8375813008130066,2.4669010914634164,2.5965609756097585,95.91998373983742,80.76829268292683,5.1660162601626025,20.841869918699192,5.788238676338638,-0.13491922764227615,2340,65,553,13,60,774,284,656,0.161,0.7559999999999999,0.083,-0.9936,8,0,0,0,0,0,52.0,12,3,6,4,27,28,5,0,18,2,66,16,7,5,5,99,105,45,0,23,19,13,5,6,1,7,0,1,5,7,15,39,6,4,5,6,11,12,16,11,0,3,8,8,102,18,76,83,12,58,0,3,2,5,101,25,2,15,23,347,117,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250590419004655,0.0,0.0,0.041932111524592974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03565747984592914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03666364961155729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049019484265065416,0.0,0.04926424521288037,0.0403191446974394,0.04378088962756834,0.03196378333600194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058243271262550585,0.0,0.058534607216845225,0.0,0.0,0.1069215997071751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058810116146248675,0.08372988403352664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045886069712223,0.0,0.4301725801004585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05898212187933975,0.0,0.05417919212112767,0.23391476669143885,0.03463270814465928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04712504072271223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795378707686396,0.03745945027551319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12680879981936588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08218509748057974,0.20120105260861246,0.17879952035810973,0.04397984441759721,0.0,0.0,0.11552574510827675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17572979343406284,0.0,0.2103856235944408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226513174383627,0.0,0.2831930504938793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028816809160545836,0.0,0.0,0.055520909897159715,0.05697059202961197,0.05361816230221373,0.0,0.15370204481670774,0.05255347092115279,0.1852036485490577,0.046403171111255886,0.0,0.0586611581480291,0.0,0.13373464230602394,0.0,0.0,0.03500065361540066,0.053160683740420135,0.05267783058307899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061411034652524,0.04185297797213373,0.1114598439880266,0.03854563044556456,0.03887975918782033,0.08088194085623147,0.0,0.0,0.04920653230527044,0.0,0.05031262986194971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03553119522034183,0.03987904808761845,0.0,0.0,0.2328906767662681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05478323313848038,0.057557693225287324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04169827833093551,0.0,0.05306684342128632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05247269395012431,0.0,0.044427858035870335,0.0,0.0,0.05869649496774654,0.0,0.11177709599155584,0.0,0.04383786253395868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05950241932941975,0.04941920310171203,0.0,0.039424463666991164,0.08429025412011668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088087456911344,0.03483536857474168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0611503375906033,0.0,0.0,0.050103723427394165,0.0,0.10679941512178392,0.0,0.051221206066188685,0.0,0.18921791917051325,0.04528685438406925,0.0,0.04326422298949435,0.3092741900027673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06029746233005957,0.0,0.0,0.03817317792988738,0.0,0.0,0.11174458819589622,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,bluefairyrose,2019/03/17,"Feeling good about seeing your STBX struggle with the divorce too 28 yr old and my husband is 30 (I don't want to call him STBXH now... it would hurt too much). No children. We were high school sweet hearts. Overall we had been 13 years together. I don't want to spend too much time on the whys now. I'm just too broken for this. It's been a week since he broke the news for me. I had been in my cousins place since then for I didn't want to face the facts and deal with sleeping on our bed and missing him by my side. We met three days ago and we talked about our feelings. He said he still loves me, and he always will, but he doesn't see us together anymore. Although it hurt, knowing he was in pain too and that he still loves me made me feel better. That night, I slept well for the first time since he left. I came back to my place yesterday. And I just woke up. And I feel so, so alone. Yesterday he texted me: He:""How are you?"" Me:""Getting by, you?"" He: ""I'm okay. And you'll be okay too."" As tender as his words were, they made me feel terrible. Am I a bad person for willing him to suffer like I am? Am I only going to be able to go through this if I delude myself that he will always love me and one day we might be together again? I was only okay while I had those things in mind, and now I feel depressed and lonely, not really willing to try to go on once again. &#x200B;",0.566872146118719,2.5443445000000007,1.824493150684933,99.31799543378996,83.45205479452055,4.852237442922374,18.637442922374426,5.888618617440367,-0.4733058447488583,1062,26,254,7,30,337,158,292,0.154,0.737,0.109,-0.9252,0,3,0,0,1,0,51.0,8,4,1,2,21,23,0,1,7,3,29,9,4,2,1,43,57,21,0,5,5,2,6,1,0,7,2,1,1,2,10,20,0,0,7,0,1,4,6,11,1,3,18,10,44,12,30,29,2,38,0,7,2,3,41,12,0,2,23,162,54,1,0.10304655648729706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913445548525506,0.0,0.0,0.1067251553054249,0.0,0.0,0.17148597976991933,0.1116509009015898,0.1252128451397337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10219449459967447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07923644125440098,0.08603957040935307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09113630522342442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1052220554692343,0.11785780870558947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329130082107711,0.10623647497929188,0.08875384810691059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31262061097539584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0876513483067371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05383757267483855,0.0,0.17569119828167118,0.08643056257078663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12211066558727222,0.0,0.1088743445773704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22062693995845128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05663169254515176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11196038513360328,0.0,0.0,0.050343342417073576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2790106213078832,0.19501028661956232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1093161121207312,0.1040476467809672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515021514138317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670221269815182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10813002673683314,0.10974121958318367,0.06982701354163565,0.15674309932852765,0.10964880142491797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08997627843373593,0.2153234383753697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06601426274364401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09802087264341557,0.0,0.0,0.10428861655823493,0.16422952807546454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2557235291400745,0.0,0.10312097547801498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1645862262428378,0.0,0.0,0.1077266346466414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282491877030465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06845955330553484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017455153239755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996184770125713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12395231966636555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823385865812752,0.0,0.0826577319416406,0.0,0.09265122967600968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07320131717843441,0.0,0.1252128451397337,0.06635860386375445 divorce,cantuse,2019/03/17,"Marijuana and personality change / loss of interest leading to divorce? My probably STBXw started smoking thc about 3~4 years ago. We've been married for 12 years, together 15. The smoking might have originally been to help cope with me, because I have a severe chronic pain condition that started about 5 years ago. I've since gotten to a more stable place. However--and I'm no expert on the normal consumption habits of thc--my wife spends about 200-400 dollars a month at dispensaries. She smokes all the god damn time. In the car. In the morning. Before class. Between classes. After school. At night. At the dinner table. Before bed. In the bathtub. I've done my best to try and stay loyal and supportive... and I don't particularly hate marijuana. But it seems like she has gradually changed into someone I don't recognize. Six months ago she told me that she no longer loved me. Recently she started dating and I know she's been sleeping with other men. I recently tried one last time to save our marriage, but she didn't seem interested. She told me that she wants an amicable separation where I take the 12yo car and my 401k while she gets the 600k house, all her assets and the 85k new car. And custody of the kids. I'm the only one who works. She expects me to politely lie down and take this 'for the kids future'. I still love her and wish I could save things, but she seems to be convinced that she doesn't have a problem, that she's not a 'functional addict'. I'd love to hear from other people who've had this (or related) experience(s) and what helped you get through it. 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If anyone knows a little about divorce law and can help me out (for my mother) it would be greatly appreciate ,3.7360256410256376,6.792312346153849,3.674615384615386,84.15371794871797,79.38461538461539,5.005128205128205,20.2051282051282,6.42735559955562,0.4252205128205127,115,3,19,1,3,35,24,26,0.0,0.546,0.454,0.9299,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,4,2,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,0,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21966342965291674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3463553396876473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4211409341611943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726505462201372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31486433524790924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6896924027329553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22316563088440086,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,prstand,2019/03/18,"Vacations First summer at this game... xso(f) has “custody” of our 5 yo child (we never married and are trying to avoid legalize). They are in PA and I am still in IL. She is vacationing in Colorado this summer and our son will be with me for 10 days! She has been hesitant to tell me where she will be, but has hinted it is somewhat remote. Do I have the right to ask her where exactly she will be? My instinct says yes, in case some unknown thing happens to either her or our son. Please advise. Side note... I’ve been following along here for awhile. I have gained a lot of insight and indirect support for the comments here and just want to say thanks and best regards to all of us here!",3.155958858659588,4.7421182919708045,3.995739880557398,88.59801592568017,74.1094890510949,7.025613802256139,25.593231585932315,7.686295010490155,1.2507576642335771,534,18,111,7,11,171,93,137,0.021,0.812,0.16699999999999998,0.9751,0,1,0,0,0,0,21.0,5,0,1,3,7,4,0,1,3,1,19,0,0,0,3,23,25,8,0,1,4,3,0,0,0,3,0,2,0,1,4,9,0,1,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,1,2,2,18,3,19,17,6,16,0,0,0,0,23,9,0,5,6,86,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.234358481162776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26308051387160025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16167235991543608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21323421268215131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2216816638892019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21312510130468806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19334524931010702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751790184199184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21408530672953568,0.0,0.3987126883627851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20019894188279386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844766082023324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219111465431127,0.2307988855177632,0.0,0.0,0.16654528688585454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17020000034864827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3015455643841164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14786167279926116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Feffen91,2019/03/18,"Go back for the kids? Hey everyone, My wife and I have split up for about 3 months now though not officially divorced. I decided that I had enough with our relationship of nearly 10 years. Constant arguing in front of the children, always coming home from work to her accusing me of things I have never done, starting issues over the smallest things, among many other things. Things we would always say we would work on and not do again but we always end up back at square one. We always argued a lot over the years and she'd always say when we move out things would get better. Well we finally got an apartment and they did not. Anyways over time I felt that I no longer had anymore feelings for her. The love was gone. I didn't care to spend any time with her and the thought of going on a dates with her felt more like an inconvenience to me. I was just so sick of her and the way she treated me and acted. I still see the kids all the time and spend as much time as I can with them, but I know they miss me and it kills them. She wants me to come back home and promises to change. The thing is I'm not sure that she will, I don't have any feelings for her, and I'm afraid to go back and find myself in the same spot eventually. My children are my everything and if I were to go back it would only be for them, but is that the right thing to do? I guess I'm a little loss with this situation and just need a little guidance.",3.7472033898305055,4.417122322033901,4.322500000000002,90.34375,71.54237288135593,7.391525423728813,23.563559322033896,7.365786028017652,0.6624881355932204,1115,26,252,11,20,354,151,295,0.112,0.825,0.063,-0.9173,0,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,7,0,5,4,16,14,3,1,18,0,25,2,0,0,3,58,51,23,1,7,10,1,4,1,0,5,1,2,2,4,15,28,0,0,8,0,2,10,8,6,1,1,13,8,45,8,40,31,6,50,0,2,2,1,35,17,0,3,23,188,60,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3659468557170537,0.0,0.0,0.11963098660753445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08723221343347233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3381772267815841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07779305196361487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968059799720769,0.0,0.09304951450029594,0.1515386847470463,0.0,0.09505299839980616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001313303470264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07790603143597677,0.09088570245366943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840490956207398,0.07905234946409043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894995752016802,0.0,0.16890987591281414,0.09635536027936506,0.08039341238681716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045955221450124505,0.0,0.19995770048638292,0.0,0.07034926744875611,0.0,0.0968973335019042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17646115083984076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09180689156416504,0.0,0.0,0.09731418219483104,0.0,0.048340254634550515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297258093876352,0.17631710381982152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07478004274654257,0.07938690553888379,0.0,0.0,0.08917715262094766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07020845372280822,0.0934870548972054,0.06466037167428637,0.0652208733034355,0.06783980826163102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960365059337869,0.06689718241873681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443561198479873,0.0,0.07511695380148634,0.0,0.13989788953452625,0.0,0.0,0.07009235331745058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09887019153092308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225820456508412,0.0,0.0702445903376028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08290081141405865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40905480008796175,0.0,0.08641978677991463,0.06983003772606819,0.20515962566498794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051880806835120634,0.06981817681646194,0.0,0.0,0.07908617654631549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807116367812366,0.0,0.0,0.2499356916919802,0.0,0.0,0.11328610054907415 divorce,beardown98,2019/03/18,"I got the Dog and Cat! So even though my living situation sucks right now, my ex can’t take the pets where she is going so I defaulted into them. I’m still going to take it as a win for my future. I don’t get to see my kids every day anymore and that will always be difficult. This however will be nice, I miss being able to get up and take the dog for a walk. I can’t wait take her running again when it gets nicer (she’s got some winter weight on her). I’m going to start hiking on the weekends I don’t have the kids and she’s going to love doing that. FYI I did tell my stbx she could see and have the pooch when she gets to a place where she could have her overnight. ",1.2853153153153158,2.459163297297298,3.0132432432432448,95.42612612612612,78.18918918918921,6.014414414414415,17.738738738738736,6.42735559955562,-0.4169207207207206,520,8,128,4,12,173,82,148,0.045,0.841,0.114,0.8984,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,11,6,1,0,9,0,17,2,0,0,0,10,40,11,0,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,5,6,1,1,0,1,0,6,4,3,0,0,3,3,22,3,13,30,1,24,0,1,2,1,15,8,1,1,10,83,27,0,0.15911879050704464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13239958044240333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15780308368852164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25408681321210297,0.0,0.0,0.10261845630794032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10509646044484892,0.0,0.13406444373934634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3325320026161752,0.0,0.3617235021564787,0.0,0.25452366509325564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405048072091016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436109208449622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624526937166795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1358865776827156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535941497097193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17885618734589726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11262509890080635,0.0,0.1270724716410468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4785501115339454,0.0,0.13907683634774531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15633340378294494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19376381998583747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,oogaboogabooo,2019/03/18,"Things you wished you had considered during separation. Disclaimer: I am asking for a friend who is currently going through Hell, I'm sure ya'll can relate. Details: Married 10+ years, two kids (<12 years old), main earner. Was not the initiator, but coming to realize the reality of the situation. State law (MD) requires separation prior to divorce. I've pushed for a formal separation agreement for their sake. Questions: 1) Those of you who went through a separation (required or otherwise), what were things you wished you had in writing? Please be as specific as you can. I've been reading this sub for thoughts - and even the smallest things seem to matter, a lot. 2) What are things you wish you did or did not do? 3) How can I support this friend during what will probably be the worst time of their life?",3.1123273273273284,6.106583175675683,3.7220720720720735,83.0218768768769,82.1081081081081,6.802402402402402,27.141141141141144,7.984000788550335,2.1565123123123127,642,28,113,13,18,202,98,148,0.053,0.797,0.15,0.9279,1,0,0,0,1,0,33.0,0,8,2,2,3,7,1,0,9,0,17,1,0,1,1,22,28,7,0,3,5,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,12,2,0,2,4,1,0,4,2,2,0,1,9,0,12,5,15,16,3,12,1,0,0,0,19,1,1,5,6,77,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1489689659442989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13726428113713962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10524791922050844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2462238982814788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09056119914500516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125522776714767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13547205887582853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16720902892078449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17491636581784395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718042063360291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17850634394891113,0.0,0.1593912249153922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14506452832566308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17911394425835533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18082633898710385,0.1501837013226174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4234551964526562,0.0,0.0,0.12650459447035578,0.0929171603352527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15565994250041287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477172879729231,0.0,0.0,0.5497273633359575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2052299078701285 divorce,dper87,2019/03/18,"You're accusing me of manipulating and abusing you?Proved you wrong please send papers. Harrassing you? Pleas just end this. So we were married for just 16 months I'm 31 she's 22 and she proposed to me. Then just she wants to end it. I get it she's young and thinks she's missing out on things, but we'll talk in a few days. Ok np couple days say I'm headed over tells me not to if I do she won't be there doesn't wanna talk. Her mom tells me give her space, a month... Like serious? No other choice so I wait try texting a couple times just needs space then not responding at all. In a month I stop by because she isn't talking at all not even to tell me not to try becsuse I asked. She answers the door and tries to slam it in my face. Apologize for stopping by but need to know what's going on. That she's sorry for not responding but wants divorce. No chance of talking about it working things out no explanations, tells me I have no choice. Still wants to be friends tho stay in touch. Talking weekly but less and less but says she'll give me one last day together and chance to say goodbye with closure. Day comes doesn't answer but texts saying it's not a good idea leaving me stranded with no way home. Finally answers and gets mad at me for blaming her I'm stuck an hour from home just hangs up. Slept in storage shed at work. Then few weeks of trying to get status on paperwork to completely ignoring me and giving up on saying bye. Find out she's with some girl and telling everyone and all 8,000+ followers she left because I was manipulating and abusing her. Wtf?! Never even raised my voice or called her a name and now that and I'm harassing her. Many mean messages attacking me. Defending myself asking her to come clean I proved she lied but not to blame her because she probably has reasons. Never once being mean or rude through everything, finally an email threatening restraining order insulting me and still no status on paperwork or the ones I sent. Idk where it went wrong or why she treated me like that or didn't say to stop texting even after asking. Just blown away. So now leaving her alone she's still talking trash and me having to get lawyer in case she follows through on threats with false accusations. I'm so lost scared and paranoid",1.9095565410199529,4.42537638359202,2.788997339246123,91.13247161862527,82.28159645232816,6.002678492239468,23.43241685144124,7.327094020958105,0.9999067494456756,1803,65,367,27,50,568,228,451,0.226,0.708,0.066,-0.9976,1,1,0,0,1,0,40.0,2,2,0,3,22,19,6,1,10,1,16,3,3,3,6,84,52,37,0,7,26,1,1,2,1,3,0,7,4,1,14,26,0,6,11,0,0,9,20,13,0,2,8,8,56,6,57,38,8,70,0,2,0,0,68,27,0,7,34,229,70,4,0.0,0.1632393286338987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07134601149000226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319974441406734,0.07836874777241824,0.06472147233274397,0.0,0.0,0.12597837091940198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07034118579659777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11867985999532266,0.07222656179916535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15244400008364775,0.0,0.17770530263157974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12202662203445235,0.0,0.0,0.1364973634919215,0.0,0.0,0.06582434655318142,0.06191106767463505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509243753414167,0.06296134180219394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0532218169458688,0.0,0.14396216403379147,0.1982476586740022,0.039149989882654584,0.057779029626291466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0706977919421143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819827400009166,0.0,0.06783968063249574,0.0,0.0,0.07776487969736834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03785841656038607,0.056151984886340385,0.0,0.14588247595269288,0.07484577465647509,0.0,0.0,0.06730928010841837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07519814489620658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06984046354567477,0.0,0.15007597024100308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08067945754600403,0.16495450265164144,0.0,0.0,0.10215746725458197,0.10625958592737264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07336225738816704,0.09335903791748053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561708564740219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07427168592460072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07082716489234697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286895746385769,0.06896776399920385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07711319961704816,0.0,0.07342422678344906,0.1650394054946023,0.1727774978500895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.332211890776848,0.30105075857473235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915307372991724,0.04413991818526347,0.0,0.0,0.040168481881799084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18707862361674948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12189376399658583,0.054679182833991764,0.1105137673675712,0.0,0.0,0.06385880911728277,0.0621596762403791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10030090864342166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15063393414788473,0.0,0.0 divorce,ksun4651,2019/03/18,"My dad is threatening us So recently, my dad just called us and wanted a divorce. He just left and had a good amount of time to plan this. He has a PhD and owns a company my mom works for. He’s very successful. Once he left to go for a 2 week checkup on his mom, it turned into a 4 month vacation for him. He keeps threading my mom with threats of breaking up for the past 3 weeks. He made my mom work for his company and nothing goes to her. He holds her side of the family hostage. As in he’s not giving them the work that my mom did. She always comes home exhausted and tired. My dad keeps pushing her to do more and she’s given up. My dad keeps taking the profit that my mom makes and sends it to his side of the family, she worked in this company for the money to help her side of the family. He now has the house in his possession and we have nowhere to go. Once he gets here, my mom is legit going to have to find a whole other place to live. What do I do?",1.5186700767263446,2.8174850386473445,3.2960215970446143,93.11936061381077,77.84057971014494,7.189428815004263,20.872122762148337,7.928766900206844,0.5985870417732304,741,18,178,12,17,248,107,207,0.065,0.875,0.06,-0.0111,0,0,0,0,1,0,19.0,3,0,1,6,6,5,1,0,15,0,11,3,0,2,0,23,26,10,0,1,3,11,0,0,0,0,3,0,1,0,8,12,0,4,1,0,2,6,1,2,0,0,4,0,27,3,30,22,4,27,0,0,0,0,42,13,0,0,7,108,35,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251539268443014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898941688004801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507160575120926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464704702126248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965309412275542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045532033918230325,0.08360177300322369,0.14858726353824364,0.07309689332231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05841449479553686,0.0,0.08741808712650452,0.0,0.0,0.10055885991890692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323875270675573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1893764447439083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695463410664269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08246299511303475,0.058172989864247536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7144793565728206,0.06956192561758935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08362232714748499,0.0,0.0,0.1856228163356536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08319409022282175,0.0,0.0,0.09105271293257383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08604964983172117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06552560276457621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081759340757327,0.1001655677274302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479366605672604,0.0,0.0,0.20966031501379195,0.0,0.0,0.07190749158881356,0.0514030524058212,0.0,0.13981219685001545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729934107030903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2537835912669182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway201911,2019/03/18,"Separating with small children My wife(30) and I(31) have 2 amazing toddlers whom we equally love to death. Unfortunately we haven’t seen eye to eye for quite some time. I work a full time management job in retail. So I work at latest until 9 most nights and I work weekends. We pay for childcare 7am-6pm while my wife doesn’t currently work. (Claims that she can’t find work based on my availability). I do well but paying for everything (car, childcare, rent, utilities) myself has us constantly living paycheck to paycheck and that’s being generous. She mentioned that she is tired of struggling but can’t leave because she can’t afford it. Hearing her say this really destroyed me although I’ve seen the writing on the wall for a while. I’m just not sure where to go from here. Do I hire a lawyer? I don’t want to stop supporting her and move out because my children and her would suffer which is not what I want. 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I mean, I believe it’s possible but I just don’t think so. In a “no fault” state so I guess it doesn’t really matter but how did you find out your SO was cheating? 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I've looked at the following website which has all of the forms listed but I'm not sure what I file first? Anyone have any info or tips on this? Even if it's what time of day is best to show up to family court? http://ww2.nycourts.gov/divorce/divorce_withchildrenunder21.shtml#ucdforms Also, will be cross posting in legal and divorce subreddits. Thanks in advance!",6.135833333333334,9.369616950617294,5.403194444444448,74.35812500000003,70.85185185185185,6.519135802469138,26.174382716049386,7.6454224807358475,1.590986419753086,387,13,62,5,8,117,62,81,0.029,0.8290000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.8954,0,0,0,0,5,0,16.0,0,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,4,0,7,0,0,0,2,9,12,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,13,8,3,14,0,0,1,0,4,7,0,3,3,43,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2370670124177317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159281061871004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20728128304830892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3339920747681037,0.3111008078750304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911825434752748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19579917045136952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2794620255726969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521560219560393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24893919409450946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2839124285306984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3320863188969638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2793959667048198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729267883986136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17285950210780318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ryuksapple84,2019/03/18,"Going through Separation and need some help (Not Legal) So basically my wife has moved 350 miles away from me and took our daughter with her. We worked out a Custody Agreement but I miss my daughter a lot and am having a really hard time coping. I have been looking for men's divorce support groups and can only find groups that are tied to religion or through doctors that charge. I started to just look for men's support groups and am not finding much in my area as well... Feel really lost and hate going home alone everyday after work. Fighting depression right now and feel very isolated and just looking for some help and advice. I live in MD (metro DC area). 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So I (37m) have decided that divorce is now on the table, I have mentioned counseling to my wife (41f) on a few previous occasions. On those previous occasions she either broke down in weeping tears or just flat refused to even consider it. Her opinion is that we communicate well and we should just do what the other person wants. This weekend counseling came up again and she flatly refused again until this morning. She said she's open to counseling and then listed off conditions of counseling. She is unwilling to go to a counselor during work hours, or any time that interrupts any of the children's activities and it needs to be covered by our health insurance. So basically she's unwilling. So divorce it is then. We have two kids (8f) and (14f hers from a previous marriage) and live in a small 3 bedroom home. If I file I wouldn't want to stay in the home during the proceeding but wouldn't that be abandonment and cause issues for me with custody? Should I contact a lawyer before I do anything else? She's a pro at this shit since I'm her 4th husband and I've never been married before much less divorced so I don't want to get taken to the cleaners. 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She asked me last night to tell her that I love her and I refused. She said ""See that is why I know you want out"" but immediately changed the subject. I do want out. I just don'w want it to turn ugly.",0.08596273291925627,1.90488923188406,1.7644306418219493,99.96913043478264,84.21739130434783,4.522567287784679,17.10351966873706,5.288315135182226,-0.944856728778468,243,5,62,1,7,79,43,69,0.086,0.723,0.191,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,5,1,0,0,0,17,18,2,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,5,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,17,3,7,16,2,7,0,0,1,1,14,4,0,0,2,42,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20365110953552276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327933175741085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22860977030276405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23044596645339346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394384701024248,0.17756877566385354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966092168121323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20442819932941395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20721584265852308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359037484479564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904018699285327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958315535817414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2369475003719608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6424387454199543,0.17291135068127958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19656682890208335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Rom-com-ma,2019/03/18,"I doubt myself too much I don’t want to be with my husband but i do want to be with my family and he is my family. It’s like I’m allergic to my favorite food. I still crave it, but it hurts to consume it.",-1.3225000000000016,0.2267034166666697,2.4123333333333328,94.86600000000004,87.75,6.34,17.933333333333334,7.554174236665415,0.2272033333333332,156,4,41,3,5,58,29,48,0.166,0.647,0.187,0.0387,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,8,8,3,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,9,1,6,6,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,30,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6294741878953413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4037094532633424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574081216871491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16310899708011845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2454283206691661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666240758635674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3938430592587707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,AllWheelDriveBlue,2019/03/18,"When did you realize the marriage was over? If it wasn't a quick decision, what steps did you take? I'm (44F) coming to terms that our marriage of 21 years is over. Nothing sudden or bad has happened but realization that our marriage has been over for many years. We started counseling and I almost as soon as we sat down there was an epiphany of sorts. A rush of feelings and acceptance that I don't even want to be there. I don't want to *save* this marriage. I don't care about it at all. There's nothing left to make me want to stay. I love him but I don't care to ever see him again. We just need to move on. As the session wore on, he called me out on a lot of things and I didn't disagree or care. I'm just not there/here. What he made me realize is that I have not been in the marriage for years... * He's talked about future plans and subconsciously I did not put myself there with him. Like when a friend would talk about their upcoming vacation and you just listened knowing that you wouldn't be there, that's where I have been. Our last vacation he had to plan it all and do it all because I was just so distant I struggled to put myself there. * I talk about him and us as absolutes and they aren't positive. For example, ""he's an asshole"" vs. ""He's *being* an asshole"". Lots of uses of ""I'm..."" instead of saying ""we're..."" and so on. * I went from joking about us owning our own separate dream homes to talking about living in another country without him altogether. This was more blatant but in my mind, the fantasy of us living part-time in Canada and Texas together to us living separately, took over. After a while it wasn't a joke but more matter of fact. * I have a high libido and yet, I never want sex with him. I'm not holding out but I haven't instigated sex in forever. Horny but seeking him is the last thing on my mind. * Our youngest is graduating high school this year and will likely be moving out after the summer. I used to get a little excited and sad about it but now I'm just mostly excited. My STBX (I can say that now and accept it, STBX) noticed how excited I am and he knew it wasn't about having our youngest move out. He correctly stated it's because I will have no ""obligations to the family and can finally leave"". I didn't disagree. He's totally right. * I spend a lot of time thinking about the dating the world. He called me out for really grilling a mutual single friend of ours about how she is getting on with dating and what dating apps she was using. I didn't mean to make him feel bad about this and at the time, I wasn't really thinking about leaving and was genuinely curious but now I think a lot about her answers and apparently I still bring it up with him. This also goes back to the absolutes thing. I guess I used to joke about ""what if we were single"" to now ""what app would you use?"". Subconscious planning. * I have been gaining new friends and quietly hanging with old friends less. When it comes to couples, I see that a few of them I sorta picked out knowing my STBXH would not really get along with the other husband. Not in a bad way but when the divorce happens, I won't be the one to lose this couple as a friend. I also have picked up more single friends. Not that I see I did this on purpose but before I think I was always looking for married couples to keep us altogether. Now I don't care. I'm not ready to tell friends or family and my one-on-one counseling appointment isn't for another two weeks. In the meantime, I am coming to terms with it all and feel like I am ready for the next step: planning for the divorce. 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I (31/m) have been lurking around on here recently. Been divorced for about 6 months officially and separated a little longer than that. I'm trying to get my life together after a long period of ups and downs so we then but I still can't cope with the fact that this happened to me. The story goes something like this: I sank in to a deep depression and I acted out in careless ways. I am in no way the good guy in this, I'm aware of that. Cheating was involved on my part. Something that was never a part of my past relationships until I couldn't control myself anymore. She worked to get me better and I lashed back because I thought I was fine. Finally it all ended and a rather traumatic way and I haven't seen nor spoke to my ex wife since. I am trying to get better now, I'm trying to rebuild my life. I'm in therapy and I am taking medication finally. But the one thing I want to fix is out of my reach and that was my relationship with her. I can't let go and cope with the fact that it's over 6 months later. I was a terrible husband and all I want to do is make things right. In someway. Or at least to find a way to move on. What would have been our wedding anniversary is approaching and I already know I won't be able to handle that day. I'm not looking for judgement. I'm already aware that I'm a shitty person. I'm just looking to find advice to climb out of this and be the person she fell in love with again, even if it's not for her. Thanks for listening",1.4214150943396255,3.3187086886792483,3.4238742138364806,89.39486792452833,80.0377358490566,6.378364779874215,22.549685534591195,7.42949916751922,0.8388923270440252,1185,38,257,17,30,401,162,318,0.109,0.8059999999999999,0.085,-0.8912,0,0,2,0,2,0,29.0,2,0,0,5,11,11,1,0,14,0,26,4,0,2,5,45,52,21,0,6,8,3,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,3,18,22,0,1,4,0,0,6,10,4,0,1,11,5,34,7,50,35,5,50,0,1,3,1,21,21,0,2,20,180,52,1,0.10625532476739867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038314736097866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23451078617370846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10537673051177772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458976648002174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08170378599635361,0.0,0.06477225975193794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18794840001877175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11917438180029052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852589419127447,0.0,0.0915175555247079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09411067949263917,0.0,0.0,0.07018063989103218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23279502912688466,0.1942308837197788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16654206499249466,0.0,0.06038734972023284,0.08912192516515598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10520947695808727,0.09396123277821176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058395147675355474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865326859317137,0.15010255645297707,0.05191098451758485,0.10649574969233297,0.0,0.09403261875907327,0.17845542343449014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09589957908743067,0.0,0.07092625436835742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10704106107603456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962397298881618,0.11293259453694507,0.0,0.0,0.08195065689360903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200135797180833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2301283244345665,0.10143273053108798,0.0,0.18555610225591684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491431446991324,0.2281569077099325,0.0,0.09074146678212748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08789550265982138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16360108034286155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485563961484302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989078058675764,0.0,0.0,0.0978256271927176,0.12151222411489646,0.0,0.14118263274149026,0.0,0.0,0.08435485903036374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28856156293745755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12534428705669687,0.3373621240883879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07735514192547648,0.0,0.0,0.07548073410055905,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BreakfastInSicily,2019/03/18,"Any advice for how to come up with the attorney retainer? SAHM for three years, husband moved all of the money out of our joint account Hi everyone, I’m finally ready to leave my husband after four years. It’s been a long road of pain but after finding irrefutable evidence of yet another affair, it’s time. The problem is that I’m a SAHM, and after I confronted him he drained our bank account besides a couple hundred dollars and put it in an account I can’t access. This has happened before and is pretty routine behavior for him if he gets caught cheating/abusing drugs/etc. Does anyone have any advice on how to start the process with little to no money? I can sell my wedding ring but it’s probably worth less than 1k. I don’t have any other valuables. I live in Los Angeles and attorneys seem very expensive just after going through a few consultations ",3.1193048128342227,5.739277393939401,4.357718360071304,81.1071657754011,78.0909090909091,7.0338680926916215,29.70588235294117,8.124751697461798,2.527823529411765,690,33,118,13,17,226,113,165,0.091,0.833,0.076,-0.1135,0,0,1,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,9,0,9,1,0,2,1,19,18,9,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,7,8,0,1,2,0,10,5,3,3,0,2,2,1,11,1,24,16,3,23,1,0,0,0,12,7,0,2,11,77,18,1,0.0,0.20294797956239166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3347608220153196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494446397180632,0.17961014514748122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976838038487668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1457532628966423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14754923340083206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1895266420923069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14989506800021654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910311238212679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367278952663747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876373622618288,0.15655390421201387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08949078193531712,0.0,0.09734677804749146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15146919536468095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1813689997130388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17167532862975216,0.15125022510782982,0.15158427236784178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820517751755533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18226224716799327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17426122509453906,0.1846771696898548,0.1638992478660154,0.0,0.17219150297993632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593393831801114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12123835404569057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09987926694164034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14133033593110955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206073956480116 divorce,ZachLeonhart,2019/03/18,"Need advice May be the wrong place to post this First off, we haven't divorced, just separated. It's been a very rocky month since it happened. She left me and almost immediately started a relationship with a now former colleague (she since has been sacked). In the meantime we have still been sleeping together although I put a stop to this. We've argued a lot. We have to stay in contact as we have a son. When I returned home from a night out on Saturday I received a phone call very late (4am) from her and the gist of the phone call was to expect me to be ok with her new relationship. I flat out refused as I feel hurt and rejected by it. So she abruptly ended it with him. Cue yesterday, she comes round for a talk and we sleep together again. She insists that she doesn't want to reconcile the relationship but I don't believe this to be entirely true. Maybe she's just confused too? I'm really, really confused by all this. On the one hand I don't want to stop sleeping with her as I want to do whatever I can to maintain any closeness. On the other I'm afraid of just being hurt again. I've been riddled with depression over the loss of our marriage over the last month. I love her dearly and really cherish the six years we spent together.",3.41508,5.045865348,4.5306,84.8443,73.52000000000002,7.88,27.3,8.548686976883017,1.8986800000000008,987,37,201,18,20,323,135,250,0.141,0.769,0.09,-0.7226,0,1,0,0,1,0,25.0,7,0,0,2,10,15,1,3,19,1,20,5,4,0,2,41,32,12,0,5,4,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,10,20,0,3,2,0,1,3,4,10,0,3,6,3,31,5,36,21,2,40,0,5,1,1,35,13,0,5,22,138,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163542421288408,0.0,0.0,0.1192318318603618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08097197271692758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415159540060972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431684354493613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10256862870446412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10255518335971907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546105538045802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06020558500552644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128124345094294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10529358439510733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943734559572153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25493470721717304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705828923378773,0.13431662676791886,0.0,0.12937036614536854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10122941810900968,0.1074657082025763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196222469784827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008175592469312,0.0,0.0,0.0882892120755504,0.0,0.11499895931758905,0.0,0.11173952866362903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08068520216270428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440325222649028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11403655391493775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1196986655107428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288386914292208,0.0,0.0,0.38351122968961066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19699257350332133,0.0,0.35746925143939123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08427866031042815,0.12691323119458967,0.0950897959403756,0.1990964153611305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09570429803799184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964911428772413,0.2106924666282574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13018481874275895,0.0,0.07667745040806194 divorce,hellaTeaplz,2019/03/18,Expensive?? How much does a divorce lawyer typically cost? And what do they call themselves? Attorneys or lawyers?? I live in the states. 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My wife and i are getting divorced. I don’t know what to do with the house. It has gone up TREMENDOUSLY in value since we bought it. I want to sell it and split it evenly, but we bought the house before we were married and the house is in her name. She had great credit and i had zero at the time. We got married maybe a year after we bought the house. The papers that she gave me stated that she would have full ownership of the house as the house is in her name. We shared a bank account and I’ve always made more money than her so I’ve put more money into that house than she has. Am i screwed here since the house is in her name? 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I have not been happy for awhile now. I have felt more alone than ever before, especially after moving across country. I want a divorce but she always tells me that if we separate, she will kill herself. I have no idea what to do.",1.3010884353741474,3.855673836734695,3.0072448979591826,88.04787414965988,86.14285714285714,4.899319727891157,18.37074829931973,6.42735559955562,0.13454829931972778,194,5,37,2,6,64,43,49,0.245,0.7340000000000001,0.022,-0.916,0,1,0,0,1,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,1,0,6,0,0,0,1,9,9,2,1,3,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,9,1,7,6,1,6,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,1,3,32,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28682599048864543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30399994097070265,0.0,0.0,0.2442335528965433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2497653324281072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26550716573812555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28182684499820937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3124592884268225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313502513158219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3247382521991365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119670959139577,0.0,0.2176426079505599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565508874976944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17312669288621912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,oklewis,2019/03/18,"Divorce & Men's Emotional Wellbeing I went through a divorce 3 years ago. It left me with nothing, alone, isolated and I was shocked at how little support I could find when going through such a tough time. My experience has made me passionate about improving men’s emotional wellbeing, especially those going through a divorce or relationship break up. I could really use your help. I am looking to set up the kind of self-help guide I wish I had but couldn’t find when I needed it and I would be incredibly grateful if any men who have been through a break up or divorce could fill out this quick questionnaire (1-2 minutes of your time max, I promise). Here’s the link:[https://menswellbeingcourse.typeform.com/to/xbzOlu](https://menswellbeingcourse.typeform.com/to/xbzOlu) It would mean a lot to me if you would leave your answers. However, if you do not feel it is something you would like to do I completely understand. I greatly appreciate your time and look forward to hearing from you. With thanks and best wishes.",6.082353351955304,8.917181491620115,5.7809462290502776,73.54225733240224,69.27932960893855,8.720810055865924,32.41655027932961,9.354420925462401,3.2635946927374304,833,38,139,19,16,258,112,179,0.024,0.7559999999999999,0.22,0.9855,1,1,1,0,4,0,39.0,0,8,0,1,7,10,0,0,7,0,18,1,0,3,0,35,34,13,0,14,7,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,3,7,7,0,0,6,0,0,5,2,2,0,0,5,4,24,8,19,20,2,23,0,0,2,1,19,8,0,6,10,94,31,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145564630198118,0.0,0.0,0.1302225532813279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623278738697225,0.0,0.08550346356017365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13195012514605248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13182975608295822,0.0,0.0,0.3011652163567953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2828677590565956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299202443225805,0.0,0.0,0.06357491204561944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2298372821765664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14291511289798872,0.0,0.0,0.13862223069116908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171140903453772,0.0,0.168553762680361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309326614679074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13313420120355055,0.13661040995194082,0.0,0.0,0.06142730428928466,0.12601854660742204,0.0,0.0,0.21116986509223645,0.0,0.0,0.10689459046230976,0.0,0.11897259538788485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696123737550914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09323020267579707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12064520915683423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08054845010869516,0.0,0.0,0.1349913118181438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13116803259157092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967962121858079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426815065130311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157590175701942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21994960178603545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089357717018024,0.0,0.10859384679776313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655672123903947,0.0,0.0,0.2891758977575522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3572714379942446,0.0,0.0,0.0809686039115377 divorce,Ripley_2k,2019/03/18,Well I think it’s time for the big D So I’m (M49) my “roommate” is (f45) we are roommates I need more than that and as is the usual she’s only interested in her own stuff. I get turned down more than the beds in this house she has no interest in anything intimate with me. Last time I brought it up I said I wanted a romantic weekend with intimacy and the whole deal she told me she doesn’t feel comfortable doing that lolol I’m her husband for fs sakes lol. There’s a boat load more including her having an affair 3 years ago and yeah I’m done. I try to initiate with her she turns me down. Every time!!!!! She talks to me like I’m a j:rkoff I treat her like a queen and well yes. Nice guys finish last! 49 and single doesn’t sound fun. 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I’m 28 years old. I’ve been married 2.5 years. There’s so much context and perspective that it’s just not possible to share it all. The simple truth is that early in our marriage my individual life just rapidly crumbled. I lost my career job, despite my efforts to find a new career job I couldn’t, I fell into depression, I developed anxiety, and most importantly I became a liar. I lied about everything to everyone. Lying was my coping mechanism to deflect and mask the pain of failure. Now, in simple terms, all this changed who I am. I used to have natural joy, I used to be honest, I used to trust people. My character and more importantly my dishonesty has completely burnt out my wife’s patience and ability to be supportive, kind, and compassionate for me. I love my wife more than anything. She still claims she loves and cares for me but has told me she doesn’t want to be married anymore. She can’t handle her own unhappiness in our marriage. What do I do. What can I do to first improve myself. What can I do to salvage my marriage. How do I restore trust. Note: There has been no infidelity or abuse in our relationship. Just a very long period of bad times. We are exhausted with life and my wife is exhausted with me. 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Need opinions. My ex and I have been seperated for quite awhile.I have been begging him to file for divorce for almost a year, as I don't have the filing fee and am not considered low income enough to qualify for help. I really feel we truly deeply hate eachother and I can never forgive him for everything he has done to me and our children. We hardly ever speak, see eachother, and he never sees our kids. As far as I know, the feeling of being the worst person on the planet is mutal. I recently was told to look a post he made about him decorating his walls with pictures of his friends and family. I looked, and right in the middle of all of the pictures, he has a picture of my daughter and I. No other pictures of ours kids up. Just this picture. I know for a fact he has photos of just our kids alone. It makes no sense why this man would put a picture of me, holding our daughter, on his wall where he has to look at it everyday. Wtf.",4.04954081632653,5.155234260204086,4.9210204081632645,84.71683673469387,71.1938775510204,7.4367346938775505,28.285714285714285,7.7094869923839395,1.6712591836734698,769,28,152,9,14,250,116,196,0.111,0.8290000000000001,0.061,-0.8787,1,1,1,0,1,0,22.0,7,0,0,1,6,6,1,1,11,0,17,0,0,2,5,32,32,11,0,2,3,3,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,6,6,11,0,1,5,0,1,1,6,4,0,0,6,9,26,2,30,24,3,20,0,1,5,0,34,12,0,3,6,110,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16956747489492027,0.17538302460490515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17329149405069655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17497134734740838,0.0,0.0,0.1531758513924052,0.0,0.0,0.15219001144609215,0.0,0.15963672859690467,0.0,0.17124468968848428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083006374144782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497449712038615,0.0,0.15169352285915633,0.16718614656496353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11350364419424185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861273942144156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4266036340718478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16023164266442544,0.11303438241447016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125561928543096,0.2612077001083504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785934777271373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16217892647762727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702313899086877,0.0,0.18011173151224508,0.0,0.0,0.10848221334426753,0.0,0.16720077562470034,0.0,0.0,0.1446136659611464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.269880810019745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13036461070433755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180964780008975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280114192546015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12029280608752838,0.0,0.0,0.10904807419467323 divorce,Cannabischick420710,2019/03/18,"And that’s a wrap I was fired today. This is my 5th job since we spilt. I lived in my bedroom for a long time. We finalized last Friday. It was hell. I feel so lost and stuck and scared and hurt. I’m so many things. I really want to move on. I’m sad my my 22 year marriage ended. I am all alone. He has the kids. They want nothing to do with me. I don’t have many friends. I don’t know what I’m doing or where I’m going. I can’t tell my family it happened again. I don’t know how I’m going to make it financially. I feel like such a failure. I’m all over the place. I was fired via phone at 5:30 am. Edit; I’m a mess. On my mobile. I wish for everyone hurting love, peace and light. Also, if anyone knows how to budget please pm me. Edit: see above ",-2.2017857142857125,-0.3941750357142819,0.8677047619047649,100.81062857142858,99.95238095238096,3.878476190476192,12.672380952380953,5.6839178017228535,-1.225820761904762,566,10,145,5,25,197,103,168,0.205,0.674,0.121,-0.9439,1,1,0,0,0,0,28.0,2,0,1,1,8,10,1,1,6,0,14,1,0,3,2,23,37,12,0,4,2,0,4,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,7,8,0,0,5,0,1,3,4,7,0,0,5,6,23,3,12,32,2,18,1,4,1,1,10,7,1,2,9,79,30,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634338633868636,0.0,0.12619310748397788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033787014213717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13976452122999047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1507852651806574,0.0,0.0,0.14876039087481133,0.0,0.15957748067877053,0.11273280221379088,0.0,0.17286287786916651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12191637595818056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17936347006519007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13954257672163128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378576780838701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15659277708808525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601692996267975,0.1286285755175169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709341741863808,0.0,0.1393408480876814,0.13964859261155402,0.0,0.0,0.17225802933124568,0.0,0.1424212302957678,0.0,0.10533314643855413,0.3199701437997982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1677170974836209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514139612131599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16486807309261012,0.17321770604012082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109112484262484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15798596002977455,0.0,0.1257466722759139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13053431251104855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13792470671274776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048357273450954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09201481685136102,0.0,0.14957654690829966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18614980110481452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18146293778613085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161843257454199 divorce,BigPimpinPizza,2019/03/18,"Stay at home husband needs help Oh god where do I start Me and my wife have been married six years we have twins at 6 years old , we met quickly and had kids fast, now it seems like we are on different paths and I’m being abused. Around two years ago, my wife picked up a job in the film industry, not really realizing what that entailed I supported it whole heartily, I work from home so it was easy for me to do the kid thing and for her to do the outside work thing, at this point I pay her a wage, She can’t get paid initially so she takes on lots of free jobs that take her out of the house for long hours , set life , night shoots , after party , club life.. while I sit at home alone almost every night doing cooking cleaning and all the chores , years pass ... 2 to be exact and we are in the presence day, nothing much has changed.. except I don’t know who she’s with who she hangs out with , where she goes till 4am, she is living a 20 year old lifestyle and taking full advantage of me and me paying her and a free house.. It’s a easy lifestyle for her while I miss out on everything, we have had talks that mainly boil down to me having more friends and my depression is now ruining our relationship .. I have never been depressed before and about six months ago I called the sucide hot line, I told her what was happening, I was in a ball crying, and that night she went to the club, and left me alone with the kids, it made me feel like she is not there for me.. I don’t know what to do , I love her, I don’t know if I can leave her, this is what mothers of military husbands deal with all the time, I just can’t help but feel like a door mat, and she blames it all on me.. I’m 30 she is 29 , any help would be awesome or advice , We have chatted but it normally ends up in dramatic tears and threats to leave .. I’m stuck . Love Punk dad ",3.61748051948052,3.9341225402597404,4.269506493506493,91.8814025974026,71.64935064935065,7.718441558441559,24.231168831168823,7.554174236665415,0.7538540259740256,1418,34,335,15,25,452,199,385,0.071,0.809,0.12,0.9641,4,2,0,1,1,0,47.0,7,0,0,3,11,15,1,0,17,0,36,6,0,2,5,56,62,24,0,4,8,6,3,3,1,1,2,0,6,3,21,29,2,0,7,6,6,3,8,5,0,3,13,3,53,12,44,45,9,58,0,4,0,2,49,24,0,5,31,216,74,7,0.0,0.10882146760060968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08975000397994662,0.16283034299353247,0.0,0.0919696367593917,0.1902477238240667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0624578420231663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08176164339098818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781534460712085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09378415281675387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09715997571862844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10088756924406818,0.05923251459870065,0.09468830236911983,0.15821216220903836,0.0,0.0,0.09595861893958642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134752946647703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07738348837686683,0.0,0.0825444860801195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09287932085669363,0.1312283671023241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0709593242864848,0.0,0.04798529282196404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08121835049262313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18468557606133892,0.0,0.2763844801816611,0.0,0.09044895822307117,0.21195391129319247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822842512006128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15142705445852614,0.0,0.0,0.19450147538876872,0.09979000906195544,0.0,0.12974587156186795,0.1346126826023508,0.0,0.08110093781986431,0.08128005521320247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07808345026312807,0.1657876423312336,0.08690608846030126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07330991134756322,0.0,0.06751674283922429,0.06810200462130707,0.07083663100075084,0.0,0.0,0.2585713152900748,0.08998873276774577,0.0881278851244012,0.0,0.1927520405554502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08682334054605882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05883834598769507,0.0,0.0,0.0986073040433508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361236240488022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06500846002597614,0.0978946946533284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422477198419787,0.0,0.0,0.2071683361415777,0.07382164133127632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220356546038058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05355563743427627,0.0,0.0,0.08776196343998964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08971935230816082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514136128255079,0.0,0.1025418144295452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13372870584062432,0.0,0.0,0.06524414948971649,0.0,0.0,0.2957262818005121 divorce,slothmama101,2019/03/18,"Yesterday (f22) I told (m22) husband of 3 years I’m not happy anymore. Yesterday (f22) I told (m22) husband of 3 years I’m not happy anymore. I don’t feel in love, and I think we are just very different people. He’s my best friend but romantically I don’t think we are very compatible. I’ve been with him since I was 16, I don’t even know how to be alone, he’s the breadwinner and I worry I’m not capable of being independent. We have a daughter and I just feel like I’m tearing my family apart. We start counseling tomorrow, I worry I’m too far disconnected at this point. I feel like this is the beginning of the end and I’m feeling like the worst human alive. He treats me well, is an amazing father, and puts his family first so why am I so unhappy. Are my feelings enough reason to end things? I feel so selfish but I just don’t feel like he’s the one for me.",-0.2475641025641017,2.0077957362637378,2.668598901098904,89.4368177655678,91.63736263736263,6.33003663003663,20.220695970695967,7.6454224807358475,0.967658608058608,672,23,148,15,24,236,96,182,0.165,0.65,0.185,0.2417,1,1,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,0,0,2,10,14,0,0,7,0,15,1,0,3,0,31,36,11,0,0,8,4,7,4,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,10,0,0,11,0,0,1,7,2,1,2,4,7,25,12,10,30,3,16,0,0,0,1,19,5,0,0,14,85,28,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12575361682969685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24083033244063595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12742190242883578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1268571644914379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2150826479276015,0.1254584348745825,0.0,0.08019620059271422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2289263290463289,0.0,0.4297521780629217,0.3469674477479319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10327906329138352,0.0,0.0,0.09380813076185657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2585058767198455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06672878708266652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23727704585204176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10958551949930566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08227675546732664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417674752074092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114780338807104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12205977760498216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12483910409279245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043917202021983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594109625569259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0806654851902458,0.15560097172752593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23204239400751656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20036702246101773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10917039382265413,0.0,0.1095618934393553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2466140725343582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15637989787421833 divorce,MyKidsArentOnReddit,2019/03/19,"What to say, what not to say Never divorced person here looking for some advice. In the last 6 months four couples I consider myself close with (or at least close with one partner) have started the process of getting divorced. In each case I've found myself a little unsure of what to say so I'm looking for advice. I want to be supportive of my friends and whatever choices they make and I know they're all going through a really rough process so I want to be there for them. I've been looking for advice articles and I see plenty of advice framed in the negative - don't say you're sorry because they might be leaving a bad situation and it's a good thing. Don't trash talk the spouse because you're criticizing their previous choices. Don't refer to the marriage as failing because that's not your place to judge. Don't say you're hoping they pull through, because they could be trying to escape an emotionally or physically abusive situation. Don't give legal or divorce advice because I know as much about that as a fish knows about aeronautics. So, what should I say? (Or if you have other things to add to the no-no list, feel free).",5.3191891891891885,6.35511902702703,5.809027027027027,79.77516216216219,68.18918918918922,8.262342342342341,31.91711711711712,8.447377352677275,2.4781636036036043,912,38,168,13,15,294,121,222,0.105,0.831,0.064,-0.8976,0,0,0,0,3,0,21.0,0,2,6,1,7,7,0,0,12,0,15,0,0,1,2,33,34,15,0,6,7,1,2,0,2,2,0,6,0,2,10,10,0,0,6,0,1,2,9,2,0,2,2,12,18,6,31,25,5,14,0,1,4,0,24,8,0,8,4,111,28,2,0.0,0.12009484436065505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4952383475886641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463123854741472,0.3089401101027041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08092759020509585,0.11215274295093812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11401618535544455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051250584230061735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111358406565396,0.07831036645635989,0.0,0.05295633665045279,0.0972336013735782,0.05760513696087637,0.08501583078476573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067319866722464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671141635760042,0.08262180372710153,0.0,0.10732544290094227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158919500854682,0.0,0.0,0.2553502303706174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765848502939452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10752678003794207,0.0,0.0,0.08090446294743499,0.0,0.07451115025184224,0.0,0.07817496274072176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06868405562672728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08850350887975067,0.10589946690397756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493371353678583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4836325123306412,0.0,0.0,0.08077067505658464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22786542996376416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11346405040578413,0.0717430214927714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11502195335120505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08146920567792505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13467795710938013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06881668276413598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956932795719633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mmiissery,2019/03/19,Where do I start? What are my first steps to get a divorce? I’m F20 wanna divorce M28! Where do I start???? ,-2.377173913043478,-0.7504079565217356,-0.008369565217391184,105.36396739130436,106.82608695652172,2.3000000000000003,14.445652173913045,3.1291,-1.6292521739130437,79,2,20,0,4,26,17,23,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,2,7,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,13,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4910582340938582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30161981391419085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8172437204304419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,peterjmassa,2019/03/19,"Long story short. I have know for about one month that my wife has been talking to someone else. I confronted to her many times to come clean. She always lied about it "" there is no one else"" We have 2 small children. She finally admitted to having a a male friend but no sex happen. I call bullshit on that. We are in our mid 30s no one just talks for months. I'm feel so betrayed. Looking for any thoughts",0.13739837398373922,2.528288146341467,1.1774390243902455,98.79184959349595,94.3658536585366,4.1967479674796735,19.028455284552845,5.985473137389443,-0.1944178861788619,316,10,69,3,12,98,63,82,0.245,0.6990000000000001,0.055,-0.9619,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,3,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,2,0,7,1,0,0,0,9,15,2,0,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,3,3,0,0,4,0,0,1,3,1,0,3,2,2,10,1,11,13,0,11,0,0,1,1,14,5,0,0,5,43,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760565785241494,0.0,0.0,0.14388579829659498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21605305688600865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822626833228136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35350605980815003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10698428567027732,0.0,0.0,0.2317822217655988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16347088997664713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1871048825642936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11628218282227085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18724703337661164,0.17767902813432535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21451508774691014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3377720003001154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301286359104296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1792762093036366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34012977235351266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679757228160127,0.12337755189581552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwawaybabe98,2019/03/19,"I’m in a mess. Any advice is appreciated. I started dating my husband when I was 13. I’ve never known anything else but him, and I always just thought I knew that he was the one for me. We went through so much and there were mannyyyyy times when he did not treat me the way he should have and several red flags, but I ignored them all and married him at 18. I knew he was lazy, but I assumed it would get better once he had me as a responsibility. I thought we would work together and take care of each other, but that isn’t how it went. In the past two years since we got married he has worked maybe 10 days total. He had a decent job, he just wouldn’t go. It was up to me to work 50 hours a week on top of being a full time college student. It drove me insane to come home after a long day of school and work to find him laying there playing video games and asking me to go buy him beer. It got to the point that I would go insane and yell at him for not contributing, but that usually led to him punching holes in the walls. Sometimes he even punched me. He left bruises on me on more than one occasion. He made me feel like it was my fault for nagging him and cornering him though, and it would often lead to him crying because he punched me and me comforting him. Every week he would make me a new promise that he was going to start doing right and helping out, but he would always fail. If I mentioned it I would get screamed at though, or if I denied him alcohol or weed. He would even yell at me and threaten to punch walls when I tried to wake him up before noon. He claimed he was just always sick, but no one is sick every single day and he refused to go to the doctor. He was fine on days I didn’t ask him to work. I almost left many times, but nothing helped. He kept making fake promises. It even got to the point to where I didn’t see an escape and wanted to die because of it. I almost committed suicide twice. Even that didn’t make him change. I should also add he never helped around the house or went to school either. I suffered so much during that time that I think I fell out of love with him because of all of that. I couldn’t take it. I know he loves me with everything in him and he depends on me though, so I made one last attempt. I decided we would move to the city and I would become a stripper so that I could make enough money for us to live on without driving myself crazy while in school. The only thing I asked of him was to keep the house clean and do the laundry... but he wouldn’t even do that. I kept asking and asking and he never would, I always ended up having to do it. By this time I was forcing myself to act like I was in love with him.. And that’s when I met someone else. He started out as a friend, but I quickly developed feelings for him. He had a great job, he always wants to do everything he can to help me, and I just genuinely have an amazing time with him. It quickly turned into an affair, but my husband does not know. I have told my husband that I need a divorce, but he keeps saying that he’s sorry and he will do better. I haven’t lived in the same house as him in almost two weeks. I’ve been staying with my family and this other guy. I feel horrible because I know my husband loves me, but I don’t love him anymore. On one hand, I’m a horrible cheat, but then there’s also the fact that I never would have done this if he had been treating me like he should have. Please help. I really want to be with this other guy, but I don’t want to hurt my husband.",3.825088220031134,4.041677730352305,4.748192930865481,88.98758432797096,71.15447154471545,7.364861903938189,25.729227930577178,6.855684769269737,0.8635935766591714,2727,74,612,20,47,889,286,738,0.119,0.741,0.14,0.9385,3,0,2,0,1,1,70.0,5,0,1,11,31,31,2,0,29,0,65,12,2,10,9,141,128,64,2,27,30,5,4,3,1,18,4,4,2,2,36,42,2,6,15,4,2,16,19,10,0,8,40,10,99,21,81,66,12,95,0,3,2,5,94,38,0,12,42,415,135,15,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048279093481965504,0.0,0.05280012219400198,0.1484192922688177,0.0,0.0,0.07902012052195084,0.2055492689424107,0.0,0.0,0.03359785916435202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.048997600114215126,0.0,0.0,0.04065703114724787,0.04398192589935297,0.2309402873903416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1204700607584256,0.05456518334915765,0.04204097338706179,0.0,0.0,0.08739140511858118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037283711735748,0.0,0.05226512916337312,0.0425590019146573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03944677054801896,0.0,0.054270308308743236,0.12745145326663218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051275757461878346,0.0,0.0,0.05056926238824798,0.043235632873053785,0.05055961924920799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08254495545624874,0.0,0.04375916217804856,0.05104973414804676,0.0,0.1631613977981692,0.0,0.08325358225370334,0.0,0.0888060787333964,0.0,0.046575697556669605,0.0,0.07494366376602662,0.035295745525729394,0.0,0.0,0.045156303123623016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03817104956797287,0.0,0.05162532223238054,0.0,0.14039319682719356,0.0,0.11854377433896952,0.05447042716032819,0.0,0.09783966261207784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16557942053923272,0.0,0.049558371639501726,0.0,0.04865508095546986,0.1710241043467587,0.052890278585230065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805591101668164,0.08782886783397313,0.0,0.0,0.08145694254827389,0.04027258597008377,0.0,0.0,0.10735979860557544,0.0,0.0,0.07241201113115439,0.0,0.08725302696042576,0.043722865847831166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222954783490948,0.09349854000818382,0.13191588815716626,0.050090056086653116,0.049635093132246164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251089192185149,0.07263837313836903,0.036634015616934884,0.15242019736497753,0.0477167433317538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474065093661672,0.0,0.0,0.0526159106148193,0.16739434448427934,0.037575584338700584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04716373667049488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054233088798308814,0.09340951506979962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03165082874981116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04219256074443385,0.0,0.03928973356535925,0.0,0.15000490830554147,0.03937028494103199,0.0,0.0,0.05581485828275756,0.0,0.04086925709545062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04186164932891098,0.0,0.04886392087254969,0.05530611192626359,0.10490972856382218,0.05266035548714325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054042281740870224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429451456676085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032823234069529555,0.03165744992677748,0.1456238007015836,0.07844588896215174,0.17285465258052102,0.0,0.0,0.047209669628837145,0.0,0.03354351572798655,0.05373967660390163,0.09652521014249586,0.0,0.059429485081687425,0.0,0.05441386657169421,0.0,0.11656405022205532,0.03921628230797485,0.11889183987521945,0.0,0.0,0.1373999183819706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04762574137613905,0.0,0.17984123688574818,0.0,0.0,0.42116032347842497,0.0,0.0,0.03181592461502528 divorce,RF3dbd,2019/03/19,"Is equitable distribution a fairy tale? Help, please. I’m in Massachusetts and have reached the end of the line with my marriage. A lot is at stake...I have two little kids and have been the breadwinner for 10+ years since my husband is chronically underemployed. I read that MA is a “fair distribution of assets” state, but anecdotally, people tell me there will be a 50/50 split even though I worked (and paid out the nose for full-time childcare) while he...didn’t. Is loss of half my assets a foregone conclusion? 😢",3.969895833333332,6.476003697916671,4.42625,82.32708333333336,74.52083333333334,8.016666666666666,25.25,8.841846274778883,1.9571125000000005,409,14,78,9,9,129,71,96,0.033,0.853,0.114,0.4871,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,0,0,0,3,3,1,0,0,9,0,11,2,1,0,0,8,13,6,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,1,5,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,2,2,1,6,0,9,9,1,8,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,3,47,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2746992771557092,0.0,0.0,0.20484998251340364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788582262576036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31085000786682576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2636769362976695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21501773313716735,0.0,0.0,0.34044962355998165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31023216305397233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565578229384597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710832255745251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30471906375955204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30296975688839617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22579160713495536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972529314494591 divorce,dastardlywong,2019/03/19,"Divorcing in your mid-30s. Divorce is like getting into a car accident; everybody knows it happens all the time, but nobody ever thinks it will happen to them. So, when it DOES happen, you're totally unprepared for it. All of a sudden your life is spinning and nothing makes sense. One morning everything was going according to plan; by the end of the day your entire future is so murky a crystal ball couldn't even see it. It hurts, but the shock numbs the worst of it. You just go into survival mode and tack off the immediate needs. Needs you forgot you even needed! A new toothbrush, a laundry basket, boxing tape... Stuff you got used to never needing. Then you start packing, and the physical manifestation of separating your life from this person you've lived with for so many years makes it tangible. And that's when the survival mode you've been operating on drops away like breakaway glass in a shitty action movie. This is really happening. It's no longer something that happens to other people. It's happening to you right now. You're hitting the restart button on your life in your mid-thirties and hoping it's not too late. You have some friends who offer to help in nebulous ways. One or two even spend time with you to give you someone to rant to. But you go home alone every night. For the first time in years, you are alone when you go to bed. You are alone when you wake up, too. You go to work and forget how alone you are for a few hours, but you quickly remember when you get home that day. By the end of the week you dread going home, because you know you'll be alone. So, you try online dating. You try Reddit. You try Doublelist. You meet a few people online, maybe even one or two you eventually consider friends. You may even meet one or two people in person! That's exciting because at the very least it means you won't be alone for a little while. But nothing changes. A month later, you're still lonely. You check all of your online accounts for messages like an addict, hating yourself for being so desperate. Then the fear creeps in. The fear that it will be like this forever. That you'll never find someone else to be close to; to have sex with; to keep you company. Worse than that, though, you worry that you'll never make peace with being alone. That you'll never be brave and strong enough to just be happy with who you are. To do that, you know you'd have to give up searching (for now, at least). And that's fucking scary.",3.7063235294117653,5.66461593487395,4.073689075630252,87.0514579831933,73.47478991596638,6.776806722689076,24.08487394957983,7.554174236665415,1.0876631932773106,1939,58,376,24,40,606,225,476,0.172,0.753,0.075,-0.9944,0,9,1,0,1,0,68.0,0,44,1,6,26,21,2,3,26,0,32,8,1,5,9,59,70,31,0,6,11,0,0,4,2,8,5,0,4,2,31,16,0,2,7,1,3,8,8,10,0,8,4,1,45,11,58,47,11,68,0,2,1,2,60,20,1,6,42,257,76,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07008226551016095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4660732518770343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06039970649759549,0.0,0.0,0.07837745706667136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06800706982792501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08291952991143227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05625794388953415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05370349829337121,0.0,0.1138783141069724,0.06642560518794599,0.0,0.2123046235779324,0.058151227519081576,0.05416452874395897,0.0,0.0577769661554637,0.0,0.0,0.1446813850298556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058757108398218,0.05468244753118803,0.0,0.0,0.09933587747424913,0.05943225013207376,0.06717455692058306,0.12333980224455095,0.2192145338850561,0.0,0.051416147299894965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3410924298245809,0.06843465456476522,0.0,0.06347005457166831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04309018802758554,0.0,0.1934551599467436,0.06385144764531996,0.06330969694303981,0.0,0.06882051047306753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05714119570069307,0.0,0.0,0.1059912807741011,0.0,0.07251848067367411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622332367721854,0.12562942765614776,0.06443241351513967,0.05676655537047695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12873611661717785,0.06517687790116332,0.06458488285772321,0.07002733581442735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131323081564789,0.0,0.0,0.19067183784052444,0.19832823856580625,0.062088737704639074,0.0,0.06032894843227449,0.0,0.12337012629148715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17425000655496195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1337054316612785,0.11226577159512237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04118386686028781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728245832932221,0.054900704747067236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05122837654836224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10894024963085447,0.04949123552173907,0.0,0.0,0.04550263467742704,0.0,0.051339641972104506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07359317817699662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041192482295693784,0.06316160278340145,0.0,0.11245871402498356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13093985911275174,0.0,0.18839702909170605,0.0,0.0,0.05552328471038805,0.0,0.053043467105201136,0.0,0.05102798925404862,0.0515671142231403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04680166585487165,0.06528651912617472,0.06551389507907089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08279737720232508 divorce,Riversntallbuildings,2019/03/19,"She changed the locks on our old house. We’ve been separated and seeking a divorce for nearly a year, and I’ve always accepted that she wanted, and will get the house. Still, the simple fact of no longer having keys to my old home, and to not be trusted by the mother of my children and the woman I thought I would go through life with really sucks. For the most part, I have little to complain about. We have had a civil divorce so far. Although, she did find my 12YR old reddit username so that’s why I don’t have any other r/divorce history. Maybe I’ll write a new summary post. I’m just venting in a safe place because I can feel all the hurt, and sadness and rage at wanting to fix, manage and control the situation. That’s not up to me though. I can only do my half. 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I left my marriage last fall, stayed with parents for first few months and then moved into an apartment with a roommate. Roommate is awesome, we’ve got a great relationship with boundaries - really couldn’t have worked out better. Roommate left today for 9 day trip. This is my first time ‘alone’ since last fall for an extended period of time. I’m nervous to lean into the loneliness but excited to see how I am after roommate returns.",7.135161290322581,8.27548719354839,6.44209677419355,76.48314516129034,64.16129032258064,8.780645161290323,33.77956989247312,8.841846274778883,2.9800408602150528,411,17,67,6,6,126,63,93,0.037000000000000005,0.853,0.11,0.7717,1,2,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,0,0,5,1,4,0,1,5,0,5,0,0,1,0,14,8,5,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,11,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,1,0,3,1,1,4,3,17,6,1,30,0,0,1,0,3,9,0,0,15,41,5,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3354368228808885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14322055838551914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044362902686174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4132318624381081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129516211431524,0.178536664625415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16243651533593167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2640013508164939,0.0,0.0,0.3518911335407313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12925696693668098,0.34422786781672554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981242891892654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374130867358214,0.0,0.0,0.17386027078956906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904322079272096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679127456101399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1726038277428956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1888541161725254,0.0,0.15349781444512753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989649398821118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178924281286917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,aSmoothOperator,2019/03/19,"Damn...I lost again. 1) I don’t post much, but reading through everyone’s posts/replies/conversations helps a great deal, so I thank all of you out there for the sanity maintenance. 2) I can’t get the feeling/sense out of my head that I am of lesser value after my wife of years cheated on me and then left me, taking most of the time with our children as well. It’s been months! What do I do to recover?!?",2.120357142857145,3.6430341309523833,3.5590476190476217,90.91928571428572,76.73809523809524,7.180952380952381,23.904761904761905,7.957251820313856,1.0633047619047622,313,10,71,5,7,103,66,84,0.069,0.7120000000000001,0.22,0.9364,0,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,1,0,1,4,5,1,0,4,0,6,1,1,0,1,7,10,5,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,0,2,0,11,3,14,8,3,11,0,1,0,0,6,4,0,1,6,48,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28152634471809096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609330208099778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14266940847384374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301064023864138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2802517515482969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18303512278288275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2966946897102621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298091513771742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21796431931825985,0.0,0.2007401267444948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2615285168274318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2731469675929058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2053169643838632,0.0,0.0,0.2514089944626918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923110319523734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24552548481496295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1758501041191371 divorce,rutsa,2019/03/19,"Question to those who initiated Do you have never really ending nagging feeling in your stomach when all was said and done and dust has settled? If you do, how do you know if that feeling is about regretting the decision or just uncertainty about the future and loss of familiarity?",12.468823529411766,9.44059441176471,11.939313725490198,54.8819117647059,55.86274509803922,14.905882352941177,47.068627450980394,13.023866798666859,6.154286274509804,229,11,36,6,2,76,41,51,0.132,0.7659999999999999,0.102,-0.4154,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,4,0,1,5,3,1,0,2,0,8,1,1,1,2,16,12,8,0,3,4,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,5,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,4,0,5,9,1,5,0,2,0,0,7,1,0,4,4,33,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4070211250024179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3522752679580669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40221366103119854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21858482380201816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3067578490791125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4455543675374953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547993065673416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3783371856420937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,icemanthrowaway123,2019/03/19,"[USA NYC] Are pretax deductions included in my total income when calculating alimony? I'm the breadwinner. For easy math let's say I make a flat $100k annually and each year put $10k to my 401k pre-tax. Will a judge compute my alimony payments to a lower-earning spouse using the $100k gross or the $90k that shows up as taxable income on returns etc?",6.085985915492959,5.803266577464791,7.619823943661974,72.04691901408455,66.32394366197184,11.043661971830986,34.651408450704224,10.686352973137794,3.75167323943662,281,12,53,7,4,98,57,71,0.055,0.9,0.046,-0.1431,3,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,2,1,6,6,4,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,4,0,7,4,3,8,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,1,4,27,5,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4738882352194407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43450042369703146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283631481807364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42715305147495786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379063888856965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3669867927750938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27362883939741056 divorce,uniqueuser96272,2019/03/19,"Can ex wife enter house that we still own without my permission? She moved out 18 month ago, as she was walking towards the door I told her repeatedly that she is not allowed inside but she ignored me and barged in saying its her house. I live there alone and its in NJ. Is what she did legal?",2.831016949152541,4.613252440677968,3.612000000000002,90.18342372881357,75.4406779661017,6.07593220338983,23.664406779661018,6.742157984588678,0.6323667796610177,230,7,48,2,5,73,47,59,0.094,0.877,0.028,-0.6199,1,1,0,0,0,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,6,4,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,5,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,0,3,1,12,0,6,3,1,11,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,4,36,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2473523572178032,0.0,0.0,0.2890015587885462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6439499987049306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24639766487643786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227272760822986,0.29657563985697805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22190401734745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2228419148380788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2666349297293605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689848563858362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Brushean,2019/03/19,"I want to attend court to get a better idea on how to represent myself. Are the courts ok with me just sitting in? So I am post final orders and I had to let my attorney go. He was fantastic, but I am up against a pro-bono attorney and an ex that is very vindictive. So I’m on my own now. Good times. I want more time with my kids and will be filling for more parenting time in the next 6-12 months. My question is, would I be ok going and sitting in on other court hearings? I want to get as much experience and information as I can. Is it improper to attend hearings with the judge that will be hearing my case? Or should I just stick to other judges and magistrates? Would they mind? 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He decided he is done. I know I have done everything I can to try and fix it. Why does it still hurt? I'm moving out this week but I don't have a vehicle since mine was totaled. So, I have to rely on him for rides. We are child free.",-0.9332462686567168,1.0264675223880602,1.7658022388059709,97.31944962686569,90.19402985074629,5.141044776119403,17.330223880597018,6.6274283507984215,-0.2287298507462689,232,6,57,3,8,80,54,67,0.064,0.866,0.07,0.34,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,1,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,0,13,0,0,0,2,10,15,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,0,2,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,4,0,9,2,5,11,1,7,0,1,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,40,13,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23594723905607384,0.5518319856495885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2438877184667492,0.0,0.0,0.2423180568451942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2886349609298592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14817670379002634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2865645567328928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25799097684319783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223033357745859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2153197564637425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791242764581683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305502656779785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21627378083582324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24329110329438106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lopatreddit,2019/03/19,Texas Divorce: Is it common for her to have in the final decree exclusive right to designate the primary residence without regard to GEOGRAPHIC location? She claims that the decree has measures in place to prevent her from unilaterally making it more difficult for me to see my son on standard visitation schedule. I insisted her on staying in the same county(or surrounding) and she agreed however she went to her lawyer and came back with no. She has family here however I am afraid things can change in the next 13 years.,9.44483870967742,9.54199305376344,9.300559139784948,61.51083870967744,59.322580645161295,13.461505376344087,41.18064516129033,12.688352899677879,5.791049032258066,426,21,65,14,5,139,67,93,0.052000000000000005,0.899,0.049,-0.3167,2,0,0,0,1,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,1,5,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,10,2,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,0,0,0,3,2,2,0,0,2,1,12,0,17,8,2,19,0,0,1,0,11,9,0,0,6,51,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21392091479765274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3181900884896963,0.0,0.0,0.2943018584192957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2622650047463934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3047577598998406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18570264563171132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958720193198865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2906628956665611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375838199833219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22169175146251824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2965273545281485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1848256943132876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578969443793217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26817773953607643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1791535942111857 divorce,Simplyxxx,2019/03/19,"Are we done? Perhaps this is the wrong sub, but I just need help. Wife and I aren’t in a good place to begin with. Add to that we’ve lived in 7 places in the past 12 months and all of our belongings were packed by strangers and are sitting in a warehouse. cause of that backstory isn’t important, but the reality is. Living in a random house with only our clothes, while trying to keep our stressful corporate jobs Anyway, she went to visit her family for a week and won’t return a single text or phone call. I stopped after two of each to give her space - but still not a single word. Meanwhile she’s posting to Facebook about what a wonderful time she’s having. We’ve been to counseling and it helped briefly. But my main question (obviously) is how to interpret it when someone goes dark for a week? And what do you say when they return? My thought is to simply say “missed you. So glad to see you.” And leave it at that. Let her say something when she feels like it. Thoughts? Thanks",2.303558002148229,4.520453668367349,3.0025456498388827,91.90937164339422,78.64285714285714,6.167132116004296,23.070891514500538,7.273561745256523,0.7886265306122451,773,25,162,10,19,242,124,196,0.063,0.804,0.132,0.9531,2,0,1,0,0,0,23.0,4,3,1,0,9,7,0,1,11,0,15,0,0,2,2,34,27,18,0,1,7,1,1,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,10,12,0,2,6,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,6,5,20,4,26,19,5,28,0,1,1,0,26,9,0,4,16,110,30,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14850123300448922,0.0,0.0,0.14939761918481645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14882632723753622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13709933161717808,0.0,0.07353424461160464,0.1038958807781626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13951059359198534,0.0,0.12198055867466195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19495856488562852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16780775974307446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14431775117424364,0.12926568691837967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539903493763,0.0,0.1487129724841818,0.0,0.07105020320277376,0.0,0.2568363396660925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608157561368003,0.0,0.0,0.10783518699691096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106067706595851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13883027229438666,0.0,0.0,0.3038887232426086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928262385417794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291591770538896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34695752251528456,0.0,0.0,0.11588961699233635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322314950631455,0.111959829991435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11614132333578855,0.12158676397808547,0.16659063146341532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13389325506101474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2309118168706049,0.08480194099392288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09873805069267744,0.0,0.14206488028056174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23331182908277595,0.0,0.0,0.13481592305732046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15771363282431536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15900588467446525,0.0,0.0 divorce,kcexactly,2019/03/19,"Please help me figure this out. I am so lost on what to do. My wife left me right before Christmas. We have been married 17 years. She got her own place and spent about $4k on furniture in 24 hours. She also did this overnight while I was at the fire station. She said she doesn't want to get a divorce. She has trouble getting over the past issues we faced. She also says she doesn't expect me to wait around. She said she would wait 6 months to file divorce to see if things change. I think she is just saying this because she can't afford to file for divorce. One day she will talk about the future. Talk about things like fostering kids when our children move away. The next day she will say not to contact her and give her space. I asked her to move home and I would stay with family so our income isn't stretched too thin. She says it won't give her the freedom to process her thoughts like she wants. She has offered to help with the bills but she hasn't. She isn't cheating. She will spend the weekend with me sleeping at home. It seems every Monday she turns into a real jerk. She gives me the cold shoulder and treats me pretty bad. Last week I mentioned to a friend who is a real estate agent I wanted to sell the house. I am broke and can't afford all these bills alone. I am the only person on the mortgage. My wife is on the deed. My wife doesn't live here. The agent called my wife and asked if that would be okay. My wife said no. Then she texted me and said how dare I drop this on her while she is at work. That night she said fuck it and I can sell the house. She insisted I text the agent right then and say it was okay with the wife now. Then my wife said never mind and she would just move home. So, I told the agent I am not selling. The next day my wife said she wouldn't move home and to sell the house. She said I forced her decision and she changed her mind. She is so conflicted. I am too. When do I say I am done with this crap. I love my wife but she is having some serious issues. Will she ever snap out of it? When does this phase of her life end? I don't want a divorce. But, I don't want to keep living like this either. She had two friends get divorced in the last year. Also, I personally know at least 3 other people who at her age did the same crap. She is 37.",0.4843677487401834,2.6215747577639767,1.449865229110511,100.89938005390837,85.06625258799173,4.307808898785109,16.359584358764018,5.348583876770743,-0.9547085511152776,1780,35,423,8,53,552,211,483,0.101,0.823,0.076,-0.8902,4,1,0,0,5,0,50.0,4,0,0,2,22,19,5,0,26,2,48,8,5,1,3,64,84,33,0,13,10,9,2,3,2,10,1,14,4,4,21,23,0,4,6,1,8,4,16,10,0,2,20,18,86,9,43,53,6,61,0,2,1,2,100,25,3,4,33,276,107,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568497621822722,0.0,0.1521531295696372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0564580904701563,0.118580051892449,0.0,0.05958606910465718,0.0,0.052953843168383516,0.03866082174760155,0.0,0.05396655627067677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0647598796305366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13418190906385632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270379591062215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0555000996970268,0.06490164992412109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056172136317997216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057367879123892386,0.05343488470241512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597876262258851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09799773546892984,0.05863164523085883,0.09940448446311413,0.18251745925763246,0.0,0.0,0.050723526383836634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08501945027320948,0.0,0.25446553077092776,0.0,0.06245685940863058,0.2195377796298093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13238998657278253,0.0,0.05637145332618102,0.0,0.0,0.03485449486937564,0.10339307593620344,0.0,0.0,0.06890704645815099,0.0,0.044796091730566964,0.09295281623010564,0.0,0.1120037194642078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06923145745651517,0.0,0.05723988242757344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12807415805227584,0.0,0.050621996275530566,0.2696257270385793,0.0,0.0,0.04891414550606103,0.0,0.1348977971262366,0.0595162642129712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04297567626625913,0.04823448943363698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0605424718768989,0.04396810046835863,0.11075345249601383,0.06626139305413667,0.06961715684887695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06452190519076301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.144373848735584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10832228752910776,0.4826227646179201,0.3026093041842929,0.0,0.0,0.05053828507017052,0.0577360498798209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06346675066894475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06759829301443719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1019507126344285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08426812063033733,0.040637583177019085,0.0,0.05034914917291234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060601434440829924,0.0,0.0,0.0689837805302804,0.061953051571077875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18703659396545028,0.0,0.05087245964928838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04617120607949436,0.0,0.0,0.18020968961809392,0.0,0.0,0.08168202340285399 divorce,Typhoonikan,2019/03/19,"Nine months later, I woke up. Someone else divorced my husband Hello, 34 male and 36 male, together six years, married two. The months before I left my exh, I would think in my time alone about some other life I wanted where I didn't have to deal with the continuing cycle that was the rut we rolled in and find happiness in me being me. I remember mourning during that time, maybe for our marriage and relationship. A heated argument came out of no where last June and I did not back down. I blew the situation up and used it at a catalyst to leave that night. Two months after leaving, I moved two hours away to a significantly larger city where I doubled my salary, have had many life-experiences, met great and terrible people, and learned a lot about others and redefined my sense of ""self"". The divorce was final in November, fairly amicably, but it was not what he wanted at all and looking back, I was fighting falling back in love with him in the Fall. But here, nine months after we argued, I feel the pain that I knew would eventually come and realize how horrible of a decision I made. My stone-face that I wore to push through the Summer and Fall has worn off, I now realize what I have done and am in despair. My exh has went through the cycle and his heart is shut. I'm trying to learn what the heck is wrong in my head, and (admittedly), determine which me is me. I'm trying to my fullest to repair what I can of my relationship with my exh. He has recently had a counselling session with our marriage counselor that we saw from nearly two years ago up to August. I have an appointment with her Friday alone. &#x200B; Not sure if I'm asking a question, looking for insight, or just ""verbalizing"", but there it is.",6.084341317365272,6.351806505988032,6.573898203592815,77.67551796407187,66.2754491017964,9.674011976047906,31.67005988023952,9.516144504307137,2.7519106586826343,1359,50,261,25,20,443,184,334,0.126,0.8420000000000001,0.032,-0.9793,1,2,0,0,4,0,49.0,5,0,0,0,14,11,2,0,18,0,25,5,2,3,2,58,48,20,1,5,9,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,3,16,25,0,0,13,0,0,8,5,7,0,7,18,4,42,4,44,27,4,56,0,2,3,1,29,23,1,5,25,190,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08902133332795363,0.0,0.0,0.2080214992619576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881121574866603,0.12202823082469075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938844831703804,0.0,0.0943532611559186,0.23166351820363215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08545488323032814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486025949788198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650785759721749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035344982082889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1027703692617304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0838927950695026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09823561539447316,0.0,0.0,0.050778256860799516,0.0,0.0,0.11001145746632024,0.09178728035184053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071970074614056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10690503660843824,0.0,0.0,0.10306575215048573,0.0,0.0,0.1190049508883156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988990959683968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818603579839088,0.0,0.2126726549246424,0.10911282868029937,0.0,0.14186729902907189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16866460850499615,0.0,0.0,0.08537834810735127,0.09063812492374658,0.0950252357984702,0.0,0.10181590836340736,0.1008911246819016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32063537713352946,0.10673663752236484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09424272660859616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10686003688358507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06962254312722342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124997796557442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0991582740164454,0.2156392603597884,0.1137627535708286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10476591845036527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1128827066678553,0.0,0.0,0.08509037890954138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09465004398675107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434874050026844,0.0,0.0,0.11711807919773537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636493110085438,0.0,0.3924053082961387,0.0,0.0,0.08673557019225289,0.0,0.0,0.11846737239967613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309564008018736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14267908726701095,0.10979974972238277,0.12202823082469075,0.12934173040239993 divorce,timascus,2019/03/19,Just found out......... My wife and I started going to therapy to see if we could fix our differences. She went on a vacation to see her friend and now she's leaving. I don't want to be alone and I already miss her. She's sleeping in the spare room tonight and then going to her friend's. I didn't know it was possible to hurt this badly. Men who've experienced this...what did you do?,0.3825694444444423,2.552577562499998,2.331666666666667,94.1777777777778,85.875,6.055555555555558,21.38888888888889,7.3871296695380915,0.662347222222222,295,10,68,5,9,98,56,80,0.154,0.805,0.042,-0.7682,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,1,0,0,2,5,0,0,2,0,7,1,1,0,0,12,17,6,0,3,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,0,0,2,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,5,3,14,2,9,10,0,11,0,2,2,0,13,4,0,1,4,42,16,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316120607824768,0.24678001296336965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1867207609519996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17854945153190946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336445665230765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2451975073577977,0.34555021209974096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2541868745558508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23939932474996944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290057558075534,0.0,0.0,0.23679067814595395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25210794397529096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35640650350928565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22379036668544688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582856613710181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25573909611193746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13190209836158015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20730619792027574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,divorcepending,2019/03/20,"Finally decided and feeling immense guilt So I (27m) have decided I want to divorce my wife (28) and I honestly never thought I’d get to this stage. I love her and care about her, but no longer in the way that a partner should. Over the past 6 months I’ve been feeling really uneasy about our relationship, just like a gut feeling that something isn’t right. We’ve been together now for nearly 6 years and married for 3. I’ve started to notice how controlling she is and how we’re not right for each other. Here are a few examples: 1.) she makes me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends and spending money, even though we earn the same and I always treat her/make sure I can afford my side of the bills. 2.) She moved to America to be with me from another country, and because her family wasn’t able to make the wedding she told me my family couldn’t either. I argued against this and eventually she saw reason but it caused a big rift in the family. 3.) she is always unhappy about something, and would rather complain than try to solve the problem. She’s honestly never happy, and I think she would be happier back in her home country. She always says things like “maybe I should just go back home”, and when I ask her what she means she plays it off as just being homesick... which I get, I do, but it’s like she’s holding that over my head. The problem is, I feel immensely guilty for wanting this divorce so badly. I know it will involve her having to move back to her own country. We have no children thankfully, but an apartment and a small dog... she would basically have to start over in her home country. I don’t feel good about any of this, but I think I need to do what’s best for me. Any advice in this situation would really be appreciated, I’m in bits and just need a bit of encouragement that I’m doing the right thing. I’ve felt this way for 6 months, have expressed that I’m not happy to her and know things won’t change. I will not consider counselling because upon mentioning it to her she said “she didn’t realise things had gotten this bad.” Thanks for reading this far. TLDR: I want a divorce, we’re no longer right for each other, feeling guilty over her having to return to her home country ",3.12722636663813,4.922568814479639,4.179326158737922,86.37592821328116,74.65610859728505,7.221817292405528,25.74685092332151,8.00916892397051,1.490190216460804,1744,61,352,27,37,566,204,442,0.126,0.7190000000000001,0.155,0.8364,1,0,2,0,3,0,54.0,3,0,0,3,21,26,1,1,17,0,35,3,2,7,3,78,73,27,0,15,14,1,8,3,2,9,0,2,5,2,27,22,0,2,17,2,3,4,14,8,0,0,11,11,58,18,51,48,9,45,0,1,1,1,50,23,0,0,18,240,85,2,0.07933419630252171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775244584473409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198037219960972,0.0,0.0,0.10789994794245174,0.08318882209919752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07416676421357128,0.0,0.0,0.18300929984685504,0.13248148024202452,0.0967227794252588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325634448854448,0.0,0.17322478997131452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08088650047743746,0.0814980732128323,0.08392506034903845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08898004707691398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052399488439190435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22436765913407644,0.0,0.2807962736350728,0.0,0.0761732697137632,0.08690673422453307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06129340326634546,0.0,0.08289768633973603,0.0,0.04508745201599432,0.06654175987310597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16890545435484053,0.0,0.0,0.08141977332257468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3183146696256499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719999903878348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11627604296510965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07160220957684897,0.0,0.1059123841441271,0.0,0.07970186342662162,0.086418197390045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.126647597192581,0.16863939089283222,0.0,0.11765060263673716,0.12237484597313987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032250831393362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573346722218227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182422308854132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935566526273934,0.0,0.10164703523918543,0.08156876689072799,0.0,0.08517523683476505,0.0,0.2710038806706777,0.07546498803184984,0.06308973714124477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08917496061655775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12215068046366255,0.0,0.0,0.11230630494758463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07477154113347899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608053813987446,0.0,0.0,0.2108244593847742,0.10166829923242053,0.0779454450655119,0.06298249014848181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580722435935178,0.0,0.05386271165599673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403800933721301,0.12594358464412556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254269473760811,0.0,0.0,0.05108862134502619 divorce,Stick_Sticker,2019/03/20,"Seeking advice First a little background info, my parents are getting a divorce after many years of happy marriage, but yesterday they sat me and my siblings, each of them 21,19, 17 (me) and 15. It has been a mutual thing to decide to get divorced and they can still talk with eachother and all. I am just wondering if anyone has advice for someone affected by all of this? Should I be in the lookout for something with my siblings or anything regarding that? I am not sure how to handle this. I would be happy for any advice.",6.449833333333338,6.8253408500000035,6.84,75.70833333333336,65.5,8.666666666666668,34.66666666666667,8.344100000000001,2.9247666666666663,415,18,70,5,6,135,72,100,0.043,0.88,0.077,0.6616,1,0,1,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,3,1,3,3,0,0,4,0,11,0,0,2,3,22,15,8,0,3,5,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,0,12,3,14,9,3,7,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,3,5,61,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5765310384093641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13373772672838272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13751148914062733,0.0,0.16183706511059925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1672816260350458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054968205921988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41870328815151614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971082017868276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19938562751741856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21837122128045675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16663209971096551,0.15140094722055064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15705549361616405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18535274809405106,0.0,0.0,0.1580704387983979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13065429814617616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21327286224909556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13970390190306334,0.0,0.0,0.12664465943978068 divorce,gabriel67,2019/03/20,"Heading to divorce I feel like my wife and I are heading to separation and then likely divorce the year after. I am in my early 30s and she in her late 20s. We live in Alberta Canada, own a house together, 2 kids and 2 cars, I purchased one outside the marriage and we signed on to get her one together during the marriage. I work full time and my wife part time but it's capable of full-time work. We are separating due to irreconcilable differences, She wants more kids than I do. I am mostly just wondering if someone can tell me what I can really expect. I have my ideas for things like child care that involve a 50/50 split of the kids based around my 4 on 4 off that would minimize day home costs but my wife doesn't like it because I would get the kids on all of my days off and she doesn't think it is fair to her. I have personal concerns that she is unable to prioritize the needs of our kids over her personal shopping (clothes, shoes, makeup) is that something I could potentially bring up? Would a judge potentiallyaccept my proposal of custody? Or is it typically a week after week thing? Any insight would be greatly appreciated.",5.669980781550291,6.230241228699554,6.4436675208199885,77.23521300448435,67.20627802690584,9.779500320307495,32.072069186418965,9.784248007369934,2.9352526585522107,906,36,177,19,14,299,127,223,0.0,0.888,0.112,0.9759,0,0,1,0,2,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,2,6,0,0,10,0,21,3,3,0,1,32,30,12,0,9,5,3,1,4,0,4,0,0,1,8,11,11,0,0,5,1,3,2,2,0,0,2,0,1,33,6,26,24,6,27,0,0,0,0,29,12,0,4,17,122,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09601352394620942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12568835635868342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08606764948064721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1439518386914813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272811848176854,0.0,0.0,0.1821107574196088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1475127039128864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713895213820721,0.10086562038540804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753109976866122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566163418136622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28980178414066937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14162431834921987,0.0,0.0,0.16291342510595772,0.0,0.15938546495365893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592676110984713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2759117212686792,0.0,0.12467268453718555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10469003154267564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191346964388186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1528941867927522,0.0,0.0,0.2465619947354015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044944171061076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11962918383007436,0.10869437388420992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12340561784913108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18759971311925666,0.09046836322969026,0.0,0.0,0.16465716107652725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832770711112533,0.0,0.2265069818690522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15311370671208194,0.20557489475480067,0.0,0.0,0.4011871372089644,0.0,0.0,0.09092124069430832 divorce,blastfurnace33,2019/03/20,"Advice for my brother who is considering filing for divorce My stepbrother is thinking about filing for divorce from his wife after 4 years of marriage. My mother married his father when we were in college so, there were some significant differences in how we were raised. For as long as I have known him he has said that he would not date a white woman who had sex with a black guy. One of the first questions he always asked the women he dated was if she had ever had sex with a black guy. If she answered yes he would never go out with her again. &#x200B; Well, a few weeks ago my brother's wife told him that she used to have sex with black guys. She said it was before she met him and that she hasn't had sex with anyone other than him since they met. Nevertheless, he is leaning toward filing for divorce because of his attitude toward interracial relationships and because she lied to him about it ever since they have been together. &#x200B; He has asked for my advice but, I don't want to say anything. I think filing for divorce is a decision he has to make for himself based on his own attitudes and opinions. After all, he's the one that has to live with his decision. So, I think he needs to make this decision on his own. Has anyone out there ever been in this situation? If so, how did you handle it? What were the results? I just don't know what to say or how to help him.",4.646842105263158,5.674387927272729,5.287464114832535,82.9333014354067,69.72727272727272,7.825837320574162,27.200956937799038,8.032893268588372,1.6242727272727264,1100,35,215,14,19,355,133,275,0.012,0.955,0.034,0.6963,0,0,0,0,4,0,31.0,2,1,2,1,17,1,0,0,9,1,30,4,0,7,5,48,47,17,0,7,7,6,0,0,0,2,0,4,0,5,14,13,0,0,10,0,0,1,5,0,1,3,18,8,36,1,42,27,5,25,0,0,4,4,66,9,0,7,15,164,50,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217269361887577,0.10056788710167468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09440071540586067,0.2458492509990665,0.2757119194246224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15865581805635032,0.0,0.09336089703276633,0.0,0.21212362814864927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383179319865294,0.0,0.09653884892213613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853264420541393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30787006241126763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09650176647147307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06447708759458577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3370043904742335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07604413207507324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0623499635139833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10017973073767966,0.10040098505011323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1514594807306877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412283099379546,0.08750077139405715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537553108849868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709161631742816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12180442585969495,0.0,0.0,0.21583666524015896,0.18044233267084614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876964645881332,0.12752421105716655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21808537216327675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084077459863208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798564798686088,0.0,0.0,0.06691661923795045,0.0,0.0910039297624897,0.0,0.10200650078079718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16118534517088653,0.0,0.2757119194246224,0.0730590300907079 divorce,AGalacticFailure,2019/03/20,"Becoming happy I’ve been divorced for about two months, married for 5 years. And guess what? I’m finally starting to be happy. I have a job that I really enjoy, and started going back to school. The road is a little bumpy at times, I still feel down. But I can actually smile and mean it. I have so much to look forward to and I’m really happy about it. I just wanted to share this, you guys are so wonderful. This sub has helped me in so many ways, and I’m so grateful for you all. Reading all of your stories have helped me in some way. I hope and pray everyone finds happiness. Thank you guys! 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We've raise two kids who are now great, well adjusted, independent adults. We just grew apart after the kids became independent and my wife began drinking in earnest. This was about 7 years ago. Since then our relationship has deteriorated to the point where we haven't had sex in well over a year, she's some kind of buzzed/drunk at home after work, and we fight too much. &#x200B; There has never been infidelity or abuse on either side, but there is definitely a feeling of just...nothing. It's so terrible - I've forgotten what it's like to feel connected to someone. It makes me incredibly sad. &#x200B; I'm certainly not blameless in all this - I've been selfish, attending to my needs first for much of our marriage, and being willfully ignorant of the signs that my STBX was increasingly dissatisfied. &#x200B; We sold our house last year and have no real debt so the financial aspect will be not terrible, but I'm incredibly scared of being alone. I take pretty good care of myself - i.e. I'm not overweight, I'm a decent looking guy and I dress nicely. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to date when I'm single, but I'm just so anxiety ridden over all of this. &#x200B; I just don't want to spend my remaining years with a ""roommate"" sitting in opposite corners of the living room, silently watching TV and waiting to go to sleep and pass another day. &#x200B; Anyone else out there been through a similar situation? How is it for older guys out there dating?",6.650600600600601,7.190692648648652,7.008468468468468,74.10469969969972,65.08108108108108,10.226426426426427,33.33633633633632,10.125756701596842,3.3337340840840834,1248,50,226,27,18,406,179,296,0.156,0.708,0.136,-0.8134,1,1,1,0,3,0,57.0,7,0,0,2,18,17,1,1,10,0,20,5,2,4,5,45,40,18,0,2,11,2,2,1,0,2,1,0,2,5,11,15,2,2,3,2,3,6,7,7,2,2,8,4,19,10,37,26,8,44,0,1,2,1,21,17,0,2,20,141,30,1,0.07842058023770918,0.09291556415350803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695151127536738,0.0,0.0,0.08122007071670348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248433296189276,0.4764479427453162,0.0,0.08223081599558944,0.05999152923528034,0.0,0.0,0.0548334930715169,0.08035115176895376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07995500801004224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05057478668058632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07682231360625046,0.0,0.0,0.06551033207953617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930360328595701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670450548902344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044568222952070885,0.06577546206416182,0.0,0.08645896656104274,0.0,0.15529740740278736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0929287651620578,0.0,0.0,0.07866223600170483,0.0,0.0,0.09048682064566846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08166296663355667,0.0,0.06392323954915012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03831233432763244,0.0,0.06924680908152951,0.0,0.0658535366718517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052346346254456166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529629932465095,0.05814786658269721,0.06048278595474268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07524666175282688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07413279609623649,0.0,0.0,0.15956384561850553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08925978876043854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08419435509242389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07851268139878012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06487031434854887,0.0881480178806959,0.07847721464289208,0.0,0.06644550315100935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07391046880459519,0.0,0.0589625167771291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660551193626247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04625449003137424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101903913355154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05709111639765516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4764479427453162,0.2525014127668311 divorce,It_gotreal,2019/03/20,"30yo with three boys five and under. I've had my suspicions about the wife the last four months. Roommate, dead bedroom, very distant. Would make BS to cover herself. I caught her in the act last night, not sex but basically the side dide business. I am absolutely devastated... I knew but had no proof until now. I went and paid off the credit cards with savings. Removed her as authorized user on all the cards. I'm 30yo living in my parents living room. Unreal... I take responsibility for my failures in the marriage but nothing like what she has been doing. Being a bitch about it and still trying to justify heraelf. My kids are what will move me forward. I feel terrible they are in this mess.",3.023380588876768,5.723593938931298,4.092873500545256,82.38482824427481,79.07633587786259,6.490948745910576,25.387677208287894,7.7094869923839395,1.6268425299890947,550,21,99,9,14,178,97,131,0.188,0.7879999999999999,0.024,-0.9739,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,0,1,0,4,6,1,0,8,0,11,1,0,1,2,16,19,8,1,1,4,2,1,1,0,2,0,0,2,2,4,5,0,0,2,0,2,6,2,3,0,3,7,1,16,3,16,9,1,22,0,0,0,1,10,10,1,0,9,69,20,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957886776832694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4177919116736615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520159735579933,0.0,0.4525858975158578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1710636086736895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20455393560145874,0.27237667250889136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24049399416799105,0.0,0.245899980058136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845598258811227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20465922045511367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19268471666291376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17399192555776524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21145131152035435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375667929844021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204833845478416,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LucyJay000,2019/03/20,"The Things People Say I (37F) initiated 3 weeks ago so my husband/stbxh (37M) are just starting out with divorce discussions but the ridiculous comments and responses from family and friends has started! What are some crazy conversations you have had? My list so far.... (after telling her we are getting a divorce the night before by text) Friend: ""How are you feeling today? Better?"" Me (wish I said): ""Yes I took a quick acting ibuprofen and went to bed early. It's not the flu, moron!"" Friend: ""I'm so sorry to hear that. Let me know if you need any help."" Me: ""I actually need to move out this weekend. Any chance you have a couple of hours to help?"" Friend: ""I have no plans this weekend but my mother thinks it's dangerous to get involved or be around."" Me (wish I said): ""It's not contagious but I can get you a face mask just in case, you effing mummy's boy!"" Friend: It's been a week, you need to start googling articles about how to get over this and move on. Me: I just need to vent. I am not ready to change anything yet. I am just really struggling to get through the work day. Friend: You don't have to change things, just read articles :) Me (wish I said): ""Cos we live in the Matrix and I can download helicopter flight manuals and eat, pray, love with the click of a button???"" Me: ""I don't have it in me to unpack. My rental room is full of unopened boxes and bags. I just feel like crap atm"" Friend: ""I can come over and help you unpack this weekend"" Me: ""That would be amazing."" Friend: ""Or we could go watch a movie. There's a cinema 20 mins from your new place"" Friend: ""Oh there's a mall with that shoe store that is having a sale"" Friend: ""I wanted to get a new pair of shoes for work... but totally up to you. What do you want to do?"" Me (wish I said): ""Find some new friends who understand empathy. Which mall do I buy them up at?"" Family: ""I never liked him anyway"" Me: ""You said you loved him like a son"" Family: ""That's just a thing that people say isn't it?"" Me (wish I said): ""Ok love you mum, talk to you later... oops that just a thing people say, isn't it?""",0.1589943125394946,2.4760400813397183,1.6853705877042522,97.02655637808071,89.57416267942585,4.972898799313893,16.97770154373928,6.5495543723323575,-0.2748450482982752,1566,38,355,19,53,503,204,418,0.061,0.726,0.214,0.9975,1,0,0,0,2,0,123.0,3,16,1,4,20,25,4,1,21,2,32,10,4,3,2,62,72,20,0,14,18,3,2,3,11,1,2,10,2,1,26,18,1,0,6,7,4,7,9,5,0,0,10,14,59,20,42,57,4,46,1,0,2,3,63,16,1,5,26,222,85,3,0.0,0.0,0.061293155078592364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055676962354705116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854254275990335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05168698775822518,0.05591390225493398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05344638345409597,0.0,0.0,0.055550028606109435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288855654342027,0.05410494935054001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050148392267815374,0.06949767975496891,0.0,0.040507026207239116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426994933400615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17763403584907386,0.0,0.06351688949121859,0.04487122437195707,0.0,0.0,0.05740687947195081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5337923521892889,0.0,0.196892689132328,0.0,0.03569616984311682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07079103704329716,0.0,0.12629994725531746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06185485026225429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034518539381021535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06422711954871799,0.0,0.09205686266981143,0.0,0.055462069033499706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1700644760292259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13351342935535254,0.0,0.18629022959098349,0.04844267186392397,0.18198584541392526,0.0,0.058942598874150064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063290228824395,0.0,0.0656227127706911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06282664418977144,0.0,0.04023746820578929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35847814541013584,0.14984625688445904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07031025752310299,0.1333709742936815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656622804884428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05048401507730373,0.054898399931612635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16691175421961174,0.04024588565987157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05953620122363834,0.0,0.06978382889170888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06538705763574466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07409351429346002,0.0,0.1007642204194622,0.0,0.0,0.05822517203866868,0.0,0.0,0.3611399715388196,0.0,0.0,0.0914523421611611,0.0,0.0,0.04461817113715695,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,tryingtosmiledespite,2019/03/20,"Was just confronted and spouse seems serious I'm 28M and my wife of 6 years has just presented me with all the reasons why she thinks a divorce is best and that it is something that needs to happen or else she would be living a lie. I can't say I'm surprised, she has been with me through alot on my mental health journey and although I'm healing I knew her patience was wearing thin and that the frustation of dealing with someone who has debilitating panic attacks can take a toll. If I'm being honest it was a selfish marriage the turned into her becoming more a care giver than a spouse and I'm glad she approached me the way she did. However I am fearful. As an only child of single parent who is really hands off emotionally I don't really have any support system outside of my marriage. I have work friends but none of them I would consider close so the idea of being a alone horrifies me,band idk what to do next. Also I know it will come up so just to clarify, medically I'm getting all the help I can in terms of therapy, medication, etc. It's just as I age this anxiety I have has become worse and multitudes of treatments have only done so much and I kind of just have to ride out panic attacks, but it's an ordeal for anyone who has to witness it. 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Spouse has recently told me she is speaking with a divorce lawyer, soon. The thing is I live in Canada and she is in the U.S. we have been separated for about 5-6 years, and she has been out of Canada since separation. Does anyone here have experience with it?",3.5874999999999986,6.229834750000002,4.830000000000002,78.245,76.5,8.0,26.66666666666667,8.841846274778883,2.4411666666666667,255,10,45,6,6,84,45,60,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,6,11,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,6,0,10,8,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,5,0,0,3,35,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29931330587518545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32118278351195056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4283448661226388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26804563370009504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2996206657241408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704689552310801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024347936699102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25337494073851435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25952742163032805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20349244342244727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29268325618336183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19724748103557824 divorce,anonymous-seeker,2019/03/21,"Red flags in dating a divorced man. Is it ok to compare new spouses to past ones in a positive light? I’ve been talking to a man who divorced 13 years ago for about a month now. I’m concerned that he’s described his wife as being similar to me before they got divorced (according to him, because she cheated). Is it a red flag for him to compare the positive aspects of his last wife to me? I know he’s not interested in her anymore, but their relationship ultimately failed and it makes me feel like a younger replacement. 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Im from france. And I am in the divorce with my wife who has a mental problem. I have already an avocat (lawer) but he didn't help much. My wife doesn't have job. She stays at home. I work. We have bought a house with the credit from the bank (200k €). And we need to pay for 20 years. My wife will move out and live in a social house. So I dont know what is the best option for our conjugal house. Do I sell it ? Or if I keep the house I will pay for my ex the half of our original mortage. We have paid for the bank everymonth since 5 years. 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Trying to support someone in this scenario and they are finding things difficult. They say it is tough because they feel they are the one having to push everything. I want to be able to understand and support them the best that I can. 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I just found out what the verdict was two days ago, after two months of wait. &#x200B; I feel awful. I don't want to say my relationship was perfect, because it wasn't, It was far from perfect, but I loved him greatly and I want to believe that despite him leaving me in the end, he loved me too. He was my main support network. I poured all of myself into him. And now that he's gone without a word or a goodbye, I am just left raw and in pain. Nothing helps except the knowledge that I'm not alone. &#x200B; I don't want this to wreck me, but it hurts a lot. I miss the good parts more than I can express, and I hate that I'm plagued by all these thoughts and feelings. Its still fresh. At times, I can't imagine getting through this, but I can see myself getting there. &#x200B; One thing about me: I have a lot of mental health issues, which contributed to the demise of my relationship. That isn't by all means the only layer, so if you can't relate to me on that level, don't hesitate to reach out if you need someone to talk to as well about your breakup. I am getting help. &#x200B; I am wary and paranoid about meeting people online, but I feel that its good for my health if I reach out and try to fill this void with genuine connection. But I think we should try for a voice chat right away. Maybe we can try to build a support group for each-other with a group of people who need it. &#x200B; Thanks to my family, I have a team of health-care professionals working to help me with my issues, which are long-term and certainly don't help a break-up. I feel devastated, and gutted at the loss of love and my personal sanctuary with him that I had built over the two years we were together. &#x200B; I have a good support network and for that I am thankful, but its not enough, because one key ingredient is missing: friends and people to connect with. Right now, though, I can't imagine even friends being able to truly help. I think what would really help is talking to someone who is going through a divorce or a breakup from a long term relationship. I can only focus on what I don't have, and its preventing me from being able to truly appreciate what I do have. We don't have to become friends, but if we can support each-other, we can help each-other grow from this. &#x200B; &#x200B;",5.23632784726794,5.750754106122449,5.481046741277158,83.91920671494407,68.14285714285714,7.873601053324556,31.31665569453588,7.601502580125103,1.9405121790651751,1952,76,388,19,31,619,212,490,0.084,0.6940000000000001,0.221,0.9977,0,1,0,0,4,0,93.0,6,3,0,6,14,27,1,0,24,1,43,7,1,0,6,79,81,31,0,11,19,0,4,0,3,2,3,2,0,2,31,30,0,2,12,2,0,4,14,6,1,5,10,8,58,21,63,67,10,37,0,4,2,3,50,18,0,8,15,274,89,4,0.09359522433144576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04148325957856944,0.0,0.0,0.048468212782302005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4056415458377992,0.4549137682820731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04396789711288747,0.0,0.0,0.05705478003298493,0.051684285935382435,0.0,0.052724883488488535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030180588377031168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041448794111638376,0.04835444315745411,0.0,0.03090938147666808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411662386901823,0.0,0.09464911528762172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05131116626724015,0.10846715721822392,0.0,0.07334946256913298,0.0,0.026596161445175882,0.11775485036081322,0.0,0.0515945326227935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620295347407955,0.0,0.149231020131484,0.0,0.0,0.21957217088349526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009781171464284,0.0,0.0,0.09768909739933994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955191424173016,0.0508457425460231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08282882826338231,0.039298207939408,0.0,0.0,0.07957131272969965,0.12671001624099185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04701449144706209,0.05097631883858467,0.0,0.0,0.0471609861471988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037353407555417,0.0,0.0,0.06939967290098575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044903571011590766,0.0,0.049106221762231866,0.0,0.06342254627043208,0.07118338566640073,0.04979595882131421,0.0,0.0,0.050677253581463716,0.0,0.09733071572047013,0.04086186987506114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02997974867470717,0.0,0.0,0.15072936584561694,0.0,0.07992981018343727,0.0,0.03721533951279883,0.0,0.0,0.03729163798880904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07930292984805101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0373726335264863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26552687854434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522829599353043,0.0,0.08616990764942856,0.0,0.0,0.03109025409331353,0.059972040542071336,0.0459784163483678,0.037152076715579296,0.02728806399026103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531752035375604,0.0,0.13714340138072625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08280733241899739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04207667350426905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04511122815107234,0.0,0.06813843802703429,0.0,0.0,0.03324368099344236,0.0,0.4549137682820731,0.06027225582948303 divorce,710420303,2019/03/21,"Divorce wjth 2 aona This is my first post here but I'm hoping you guys can help. I've been married for six years and together with my wife for 8. We have two suns that are 5 and 7. December she told me she wants to get a divorce he already has a new boyfriend. She accused me of hitting her pulling a knife and raping her detectives called me I told them the truth that none of that happened. she got the kids on the restraining order with her and after a couple of court dates the court took the kids off. She called CPS on me and they did a small investigation and realize that I'm a great dad and there's no reason for them to be on the restraining order. Living with her boyfriend and the boys at his parents house it went from having their own room in beds to sleeping on a futon and couch. My older son has had one pair of socks for a month and my other son doesn't even have a pair. My ex doesn't care about them only cares about herself. They have told me several times that her boyfriend is mean to them and they would rather live with Dad . She's also a pill addict and goes through crazy mood swings. One day she's nice to me the other day she won't let them talk to me or come over on the weekend I want to get a divorce but we don't have money for a battle and she won't agree on things with a mediator. I don't know what to do part of me wants to call CPS and get custody of my sons. But for some reason I still don't want to take them completely away from her I feel bad. The fact is they're not in a good situation and she doesn't give a f*** about them, even though she claims she does. back in December her mom was on my side and now all the sudden she's back on her daughter's side she is saying that she has witnessed several horrible things that I've done to my ex and my son's over the past 8 years , when the cops talkes to to her in December she didn't mention any of that. I feel like her and her mom are out to get me even if it's a complete lie. Advice or comments would be appreciated!",2.3448041903958377,3.4614341392111383,3.4391352035435574,93.66804401321804,75.35730858468679,6.709161217745905,22.10932995851789,7.106945922332613,0.35555467904099025,1578,39,375,16,33,509,201,431,0.087,0.835,0.078,-0.6866,1,0,0,0,3,0,24.0,2,1,11,1,16,12,2,0,29,0,35,4,1,2,3,55,63,27,0,9,8,13,2,1,0,4,2,1,4,4,16,27,0,2,7,1,1,4,12,3,0,5,12,3,67,8,57,43,5,48,0,0,0,1,77,22,0,5,20,253,83,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415724870515718,0.0,0.09336465763570534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543536801410032,0.07640663863769546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06497331229601758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08976689331591932,0.14693513906502995,0.07977539149318845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29268384170815176,0.0,0.19482729904023724,0.0,0.0,0.08230284283534853,0.200352489951659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.105717807390157,0.0,0.12323617161388105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361134747411117,0.09777485865920912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18931807056998232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09662000678194496,0.06825677450297776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126982262705079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996715426050684,0.0916546744323498,0.0,0.08013791716132848,0.07641540128293517,0.10533778528783644,0.0,0.0946037502379972,0.08448939444253148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06404124350818102,0.0,0.0,0.09489691955825358,0.0,0.11024514476266294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05250857741637733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09770038766208583,0.0,0.046678055588723635,0.0,0.1687345060213726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10407561141877417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238003555013173,0.07626244535653136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09227715525197654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948640528029898,0.07266564705807575,0.0,0.0,0.10609049446110212,0.10346502595089188,0.09120772180004168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150490450046722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19647064028683175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759805592517622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21587543421881664,0.0,0.0,0.10739565079706788,0.09561317136729748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07630169798872892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07183732560479465,0.15358957021417946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12695060285433868,0.0,0.09387166242183292,0.0,0.05571257417025178,0.0,0.0,0.27388964813336586,0.1061530889625691,0.0,0.0,0.09333277147731718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.225417708923608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.088570403278861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13574367486827565,0.0,0.0,0.12305462653953347 divorce,Sit_Still_Look_Down,2019/03/21,"My husband has finally conceded I've been asking for a divorce for 2 years now, but due to circumstances (finances, grad school, kids, mortgage) we never really followed through. Today though, he finally conceded and said he will give me my divorce. &#x200B; I don't really know where to go from here. It hurts because his finally having enough makes it real. Like there's no going back.",5.329190476190476,7.786481442857145,5.8171428571428585,74.13619047619048,70.28571428571428,9.23809523809524,33.09523809523809,9.725611199111238,3.8240952380952393,311,15,48,8,6,100,59,70,0.098,0.857,0.046,-0.5719,2,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,1,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,7,13,3,0,0,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,1,3,3,1,0,0,2,1,6,1,6,10,1,13,0,1,0,0,11,1,0,0,10,31,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19809790112258846,0.22216033740410016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17092281283751154,0.0,0.0,0.14058617152364247,0.0,0.1114524120077651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18891385850843626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6008490578908577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.175388676428001,0.2078147591840046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19572494885370964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10047943491385264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08932225703318128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1220414750744158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14101095764441413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20810232355476652,0.2342531370203168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17391466598178326,0.0,0.0,0.18503528305046207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17963106331705395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17330292541745335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22216033740410016,0.11773751972159738 divorce,CloneNumber9,2019/03/21,"Legal separation versus divorce Looking at Idaho laws. My wife wants to pursue a legal separation instead of a divorce. I honestly don’t see us ever reconciling, otherwise, it seems like all benefits of a legal separation are purely in her favor. She gets to keep my insurance, I get to keep paying for it. Taxes can still be filed together, but that just gives me a higher taxable income. Sounds like any assets I acquire during a legal separation would remain mine once we actually divorced, but I’d like to be corrected if I’m wrong. It would be great if we could remain amicable, but if I disagree with her... I could see her becoming less agreeable or vindictive while we’re still living together. Also, as we are still living together, I imagine pursuing either option is not advisable until the fall (when we plan to move forward). 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Okay, so I may need to visit /r/legaladvice but figured I would ask here first. My ex and I filed amicably last year and I'm about to switch jobs. Does the court automatically update the child support info, or do I need to send in paperwork for it?",4.7131818181818215,6.1013297272727325,5.863409090909091,77.51511363636364,69.9090909090909,8.40909090909091,28.29545454545455,8.841846274778883,2.1612727272727263,225,8,43,4,4,75,43,55,0.0,0.8640000000000001,0.136,0.7359,2,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,10,9,5,0,3,2,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,5,3,7,7,0,8,0,0,0,0,6,1,0,2,5,25,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23950233217315625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2241929076795596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179144146313648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5084565286819009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20882840260296615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37992211217325583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5814409683415341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1819894672625056,0.0,0.0,0.1649774543811918 divorce,mrsmccann2019,2019/03/21,"My abusive and suicidal ex was given custody of our child years ago and I’m still not over it My ex husband had physically and sexually abused me on a couple of occasions, but the verbal/emotional abuse was daily. He was also deeply depressed and threatened suicide many times. Sadly, I never called the police on him, so there was no record of any of it. It was my word against his, and the court sided with him. I went from seeing my child any time I wanted to 24 hours a day to seeing her for a few weeks every three months. I cannot begin to convey to you the devastation that I felt. And to top it off, I have to pay him child support. I have to send a check to the monster who tormented and abused me for a decade and then stole my child from me. I have never done a drug in my life, I’m not an alcoholic, and I have never neglected or abused my child. My ex’s family made up stories about me and exaggerated the amount of time they spent with our kid, so the judge decided that it would be harmful to her not to live by them. But he didn’t think it was harmful to rip her away from her mother? I will never understand it. Never in a million years will that logic make sense to me. My ex is now going through his third divorce. His other two wives have been in contact with me. He didn’t physically abuse them like he did me, but the verbal/emotional stuff was the same. Our child has now had three mother figures in her life that she has been attached to and then had ripped away. (He has cut off all contact between our child and his other two ex wives) He has moved her into different homes and even across state lines without notifying me or the court. Lately she has been acting withdrawn. I’m concerned for her, but I’ve contacted half a dozen attorneys and apparently our stupid state will not change custody unless physical abuse is involved. So, he can fuck our kid up mentally all he wants and he’s free to do so. I’m terrified that one day he’s going to off himself and harm our child in the process. I have nightmares about it from time to time. I feel like the court system has failed her.",4.5338268907563055,5.188252748235293,5.2115252100840355,84.73322058823531,69.7529411764706,8.236134453781514,26.943277310924373,8.306716005460428,1.581445378151261,1658,50,345,23,28,536,195,425,0.191,0.7659999999999999,0.043,-0.9975,2,0,2,0,7,1,39.0,7,1,3,2,12,14,3,0,21,0,39,5,0,2,7,54,61,30,2,3,12,10,2,2,0,4,4,0,1,10,17,20,1,1,7,0,4,6,14,10,0,9,22,4,58,5,56,34,5,53,0,4,2,1,67,19,1,2,27,248,75,2,0.0,0.6666893084016249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07125514264702289,0.08590553938035403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428267391500381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932710355987407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15104593093677346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08208056390636502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08503510834816744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08894283874592411,0.0,0.10368144412101178,0.0,0.06923421015668269,0.0,0.0,0.08398367226952443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08226025209771087,0.0,0.0,0.09321936604023362,0.0,0.0,0.180841287010357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05309255850736075,0.0,0.06772658463339225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07577843107863981,0.0,0.04064432423915721,0.05742600454746567,0.07718078743589782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07431327128405525,0.0,0.0,0.09136761657072326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063122715627093,0.0,0.07916157765159948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09067611465886496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135545183537496,0.07854265754640832,0.0,0.07098012307683094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606083259776121,0.05365662546831737,0.08149627513939614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100768429077257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416136076945686,0.08543496314867557,0.0,0.0,0.3099836402600656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05446995519937023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811052031246195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419438491763105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.092019901692592,0.17585305371970894,0.09121826876434737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05150651548445292,0.0,0.0,0.2343613920338649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570460426327402,0.08368208181728072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09482456849145186,0.0,0.06447881310372955,0.0,0.0,0.07451633070122361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07748684721360809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05710214808007976,0.0,0.0,0.10352870604715808 divorce,Cheburaha,2019/03/21,"Has anyone filed for divorce and then changed their mind? What were the circumstances? My husband just told me that he filed for divorce, it’s very sudden and unexpected. We’ve been have problems, including deadbedroom, and going to couples counseling. I felt like he never took responsibility for his part of the problem, he blamed me, we were codependent, it was getting toxic. I asked for a short separation for us to heal ourselves and figure out what we wanted. I stressed that I didn’t want a divorce and it was temporary, to help our relationship. We slept in separate hotels for three nights and decided that we missed each other, and wanted to live together while working on our issues. Last week, he blew up on me, accusing me of all out problems and told me he wants to divorce. I have no idea where it came from. I thought he would feel bad the next day but instead he was calm and collected and now filed for divorce. I’m dumbfounded right now. I was ready to get separated after his nasty blow up but I don’t know if I am ready for a divorce, and I am afraid to hurt our children. I don’t know what to do, it hurts so much. We’ve been married 10 years, 2 kids. 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I am feeling lost right now. We have 1 Adult Child. Not sure how to proceed or go from here. ,0.5321088435374115,2.8956981632653047,1.8031632653061216,96.68052721088438,87.77551020408163,3.2666666666666666,24.493197278911573,3.1291,0.005364625850340143,186,8,39,0,6,59,43,49,0.177,0.823,0.0,-0.767,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,1,10,9,3,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,1,7,2,3,7,0,8,0,1,0,0,10,1,0,1,6,24,8,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071599243952177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21122908492912815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17520570581463638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19692943663770185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3688659980090944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782562487243768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2959173736862284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3265812729165826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2043803872018522,0.0,0.2779491644012929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44628174670433307 divorce,jvelez1199,2019/03/21,"I got an anniversary email? Hello everyone, 28 M divorced a year back in December. Just click on my name if interested you can see my backlog of r/divorce posts. (I'm on mobile so i apologize for formatting or wobky grammar) So earlier this month was my wedding anniversary. My ex wife tends to work in a pattern I hear from her every 3 months or so. Whether its through text or email. So around the wedding anniversary date I was expecting something and oh did I recieve a ""something"". I got an email entitiled: Closure. The contents of the email was an 8 paragraph ""apology sandwich"": -Here's what she sorry about -Heres what i did wrong (this was the longest paragraph) things she beat me over head with that took me a long time to get over and move past. -Heres what she did wrong and how she was sorry An example was she apologized for gaslighting me for 5 years but was not sorry that she got mad because i left dishes in the sink. Due to her severe OCD I was doing this intentionally and was not sensitive to her needs.(she forgets all I did was take care of her) I almost felt inclined to respond to her (given I havent said anything more than a few sentences in the past year let alone any contact in the past 8 months) but I stopped myself. If this was a true apology you dont say, ""I'm sorry, but..."" There was even a paragraph titled: What I'm not sorry about. I think its another example of her making herself feel better. She told me this is the last time she would be reaching out. The question is am I wrong for not acknowledging her? That this was a geunine attempt at setting things right or was this some final hail mary pass attempt at making me start engaging again? Only thing I can think of is that I've started a new relationship and she may be unhappy in her current one . Tl;dr: I got an anniversary email from my ex wife telling me how sorry she was while also telling me how horrible and insensitive I was to her. Think theres an ulterior motive?",2.988645833333333,5.2510347395833366,4.088229166666668,84.75052083333334,76.60416666666666,7.183333333333334,28.114583333333336,8.167268648758528,2.044742708333334,1556,67,298,28,36,505,195,384,0.106,0.8220000000000001,0.07200000000000001,-0.9191,1,1,2,0,2,0,49.0,0,2,0,6,20,9,1,0,24,0,34,3,1,7,2,48,60,25,0,4,15,4,2,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,20,9,2,1,8,0,0,3,6,4,0,1,29,7,53,5,37,26,4,45,0,0,2,0,50,16,0,10,24,211,73,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08534205421228641,0.0882689773084246,0.0,0.06815562154714473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05795695979389812,0.08936744288841374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013416860918477,0.07586967665224359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06553393729031681,0.0,0.05195329882173458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07537593582992146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08689412266519846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988485299996806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05629131621658842,0.0,0.07180702341438806,0.08143759729384227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04309309199779382,0.0,0.08183082965943493,0.09336149270353028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04452734191087589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2726537517196038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746700288310698,0.0,0.0960564881675382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947099320961947,0.0,0.0,0.09259886918429408,0.08714989646490343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07542279303037924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137787349590002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2040809983263122,0.09058230874083648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0823123092827438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05775169927073787,0.06481861299844217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24407508614496476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0816234525171826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09547321342137513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0915013931109791,0.0,0.07278298699642516,0.08106994230509992,0.06777555371672482,0.0,0.0,0.06791450640470327,0.0,0.0,0.09628171490248257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13122308604274058,0.0,0.5724247053219842,0.1206475466312542,0.0,0.0,0.07125319140076967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06407974050652555,0.0,0.14898347936963965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16986214936800315,0.16382914848309552,0.0,0.0,0.09939254463398386,0.0,0.0,0.08143759729384227,0.09468980557697076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062045925512606924,0.0,0.0,0.060542478354600075,0.27954547922503514,0.0,0.16464926423126253 divorce,autismmom13,2019/03/21,"Special Needs Child, Neglectful STBX I (30F) have spent the last 5 years trying to take the next step to divorce my (36M) STBX. Child is on the Autism spectrum and requires 24/7 caregiving. I, as her mother, have provided that care without support. Finally took the step to contact an attorney and was told that I would have to stay where I live if I want my divorce to be favorable as a Primary custodian. Due to lack of income and insufficient child care options, I need to relocate out of state to gain the support I need from friends and family. I’ve been stuck in this situation for half a decade and not sure what to do. I am hoping to find someone who has been in a similar situation for guidance before I pay my attorney’s retainer. 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Things that we enjoyed together such as TV programs, certain foods, movies, music, conversation topics, destinations, etc. have completely lost their appeal. &#x200B; The new trailer for Stranger Things 3 came out a few days ago and it only made me feel sad and heartbroken to watch it. It was a show we always watched together and now I will be watching it alone. I won't have anyone to discuss it with or just sit and enjoy it with. I feel like a huge part of my persona is tarnished and I can't enjoy things anymore because I'm too depressed and I associate the activity with the EX. &#x200B; I recently bought a specialty cake that is only available during certain times of the year in a certain region of the country. We used to eat this cake together every year and I absolutely loved it and was looking forward to trying it again. I bought my favorite flavor but when I took a bite it was tasteless and there was no joy in eating it anymore. I feel robbed of things that were once pleasurable to me. &#x200B; I know the standard advice is, ""Go find different things to love!"" but I don't have the energy or willpower. I'm too depressed, busy, and stressed out. My life has fallen apart and I just want to watch a cool TV show without breaking down in tears. It isn't fair that ON TOP OF EVERYTHING ELSE I am now supposed to find all new hobbies/leisure activities. &#x200B; Thanks for listening. &#x200B; \*This is my first post but I have been following this sub for months. Thank you to everyone who contributes.",4.511476626267624,6.644129562700964,4.820980707395499,81.80336322038093,71.7009646302251,7.8714321048726195,30.611056146425923,8.617729084823388,2.545130002473411,1318,58,237,24,26,415,171,311,0.112,0.7659999999999999,0.123,0.6689,2,1,0,0,0,0,54.0,3,1,1,3,10,20,0,1,14,1,26,6,0,2,4,43,48,19,0,1,8,1,3,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,26,21,3,0,6,4,2,6,7,5,0,1,15,11,29,15,30,30,4,36,0,4,5,2,12,11,0,2,19,158,55,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07088846576081048,0.06430525171172766,0.0,0.0,0.07513297302687487,0.0,0.0,0.060361830609046874,0.393003135102443,0.4407402027000693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388690621773526,0.050723956770260994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04422171773205765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08297020076609367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606026190042915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04678442224910522,0.0,0.12496286291201875,0.0,0.0,0.07579230051815287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845979718122992,0.060600612258530875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08090494699307066,0.0,0.0,0.061120852623931674,0.06931822467447768,0.0651972336017018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11004020497717486,0.05182494259420144,0.0,0.0,0.1326065100646297,0.06170528746716704,0.08771963713752318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041228024838754984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03986789633882011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051239472790859365,0.035440988369425684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06091809513129375,0.0,0.07918957309827238,0.0,0.1309463073627168,0.06864221730397405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057903363900139164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14012552771538503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612198229146812,0.15451247772436982,0.0,0.11034488561105353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07855731639031094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06947642131284293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07162774956916683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06000856112517596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08309809636011975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13357623430911494,0.0,0.0,0.289167240312755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04230057718333185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08059826708398445,0.04925213368119306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265411295318843,0.0,0.0,0.04278791339668688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699291451720564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4407402027000693,0.18686200755308188 divorce,melonhop,2019/03/21,"The perfect partner, just not for me ??? I'm having a really hard time processing this. &#x200B; I am married just over a year and have an amazing partner, kind, thoughtful and caring. (S)He cooks, cleans, supports me through all my endeavours but something in my gut is just telling me that this isn't going to be long-term. At this point in time there are no kids (I don't want any) and we own the property we live in (it was theirs before I moved in, my name is on it after we got married). I feel like a horrible person, they were previously married where their partner had cheated on them and was going through some very troubling issues (mental health, alcoholism, etc). I promised myself I would never do anything like that to them, I can't imagine hurting this person because I do love them. But I just see us as different people. I have dreams and aspirations of moving abroad and travelling the world, living in big cities and having a very successful career. They're the type of person that wants to settle in the suburbs and is willing to accept life as is. I do believe we complement each other well and are a great team, but is that enough? I am someone with a rather intense personality, where they are soft-spoken and I almost see this as weakness (it's not, I know), my emotions just make me feel like I am able to put up with more than they can handle. I want/need a partner who can handle themselves and deal with pain and life's bs, I fear they're not resilient. We also have different views on family, I for one am quite adamant about not having children. Whereas they are indifferent, or so they say. Deep down, I know they want kids and would make a great parent but I feel like I'm holding them back (again, the settling down in the suburban lifestyle suits them well). I don't want to put them in a decision that they'll later regret. I was out with friends the other evening and someone approached me, we started chatting and really hit it off. I would never consider cheating on my spouse, but this really got me thinking about how unfair this is to them. They deserve the absolute best and I just don't know if I can commit to giving them that. The fact that I entertained the thought of talking to someone else tells me I shouldn't be in this relationship if I can't fully commit myself to my partner. They deserve better and what I'm doing is morally wrong. Is this legitimate reason for a basis of divorce? I don't necessarily feel like this constitutes a grounds for divorce. I'm in my mid-twenties and just don't foresee us together moving into my thirties. I want more zest out of my life, I wouldn't say I regret my decisions of where we are today because it is a learning experience. But I don't know how to live with this constant nag in my heart that perhaps I settled too young... 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Im 20 years old and my parents got divorced when i was 5. This question has been on my mind recently. 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I have an interview for a job (with my same employer) in a city 2+ hours away next week. I'm in my early 40's, female, married for over 9 years, with one 7 year old daughter. To make my escape plan work from my bad marriage, I either need to live somewhere cheaper, resign myself to living in a studio apartment with my kid or getting a roommate, or I need a higher income. I make good money, but I'm in one of the more expensive cities. This new job is in a cheaper city and would pay significantly more. If the interview goes well, my plan is to meet with a lawyer and get papers drawn up with the intention of moving to the new city with my daughter. If it doesn't I'll have to come up with another option. I do 90%+ of the parenting (to the extent that my daughter asks why Daddy won't hang out with us. Breaks my friggin heart!), so I am not thinking that my STBX will ask for 50% custody. On paper, this should be pretty easy because we have assets that are easy to divide, but I am worried that we'll be a high conflict divorce because he very likely has Aspergers and has no skill at seeing the world from anyone else's perspective. &#x200B; Has anyone who has kids moved several hours away before filing for divorce or immediately after? What are the pitfalls of my plan that I don't see yet?",5.8339974937343335,5.497526785714289,6.541789473684213,79.74619298245617,66.85714285714286,8.89784461152882,30.51528822055138,8.238735603445708,2.100652431077694,1039,34,205,12,15,343,158,266,0.062,0.858,0.08,0.7705,5,0,0,0,2,0,37.0,3,0,0,5,3,6,0,0,17,0,24,1,1,3,0,35,39,11,0,7,9,4,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,2,11,14,0,1,1,0,3,5,5,3,1,2,0,2,23,3,40,31,5,34,0,1,2,0,19,16,0,6,13,135,34,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13123234013562976,0.1471727908152821,0.0,0.1270037877732846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16937838285093346,0.1241006854066794,0.0,0.0,0.22645975130599924,0.0,0.2275904956253779,0.0,0.1011292705916976,0.1476659849362897,0.0,0.10306331222542588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1043332575092733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670363223622183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117934756762073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12655931286337693,0.0,0.06883469488544103,0.10158883532342187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435265481168085,0.0,0.12796882877115934,0.0,0.0,0.2385555516852141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2403837532403799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05917260480920852,0.0,0.21390051741769028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16169568962478514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574605682675708,0.0,0.17961634498031126,0.0,0.2339548882992576,0.12881138564790925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12709397177287596,0.0,0.16414668072992994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13448826913597614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12322152309852295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930322560290818,0.0,0.0,0.13682994713400415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760813756677587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569119320760598,0.0,0.0,0.09993582475969273,0.0,0.0,0.09715432213633514,0.0,0.10890048883298643,0.0,0.10929102053433712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817604377289154,0.12300218086468136,0.0,0.08603943252373378,0.1324245667437219,0.1471727908152821,0.15599327551954828 divorce,WorkingItTomorrow,2019/03/22,"Do you have to justify divorce? Okay, so I'm 35(f) married to 36 (m) for 9 years. We have one child. When I met this man I loved with all of my heart. But at some point after our child was born I felt as though his lack of effort and attention were mean. I almost left him 5 years ago. But when I got close to leaving he came back with apologies and promises to improve. He did improve. I was surprised. But I stayed with him. I was mad and felt as though I couldn't trust him. But he really tried to show me that I could for years. Until finally i forgave him. I stopped being angry. But I found I didn't love him as much. I got depressed. He seemed helpless or unwilling to help. I struggled alone with him by my side. I recovered from depression. I'm now recovering and regaining my selfworth and I feel like I am not looking forward to spending the rest of my life with this man anymore. He didn't cheat. He didn't hit me. He wasn't a terrible husband. He just does not talk about his feelings much. He doesn't show that he cares. I'm getting tired of it. Is that enough reason to leave? I've always thought out of duty I should stay married and stick with that man through thick or thin no matter what. But now I'm wondering if that's the right thing to do. I might be happier without him. We've grown apart. I try to reconnect but am just so often out off by the rude and offensive comments he never seems to stop making. We have moment's of fun. We actually have good sex. Although, I want to try all sorts of things and he is rather vanilla. The vanilla sex has a hint of other stuff and it's pretty okay. He's an alright father. I love the home we've bought together. But if I had to list the reasons why I'm married to this man I would include logistics and finances as well as our child as opposed to love and happiness. What justifies divorce? Am I justified in even considering it? 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My parents have been divorced for about 12 years now and it was and still is messy, especially for me and my brother. I would like to use a post which never got the attention it deserved to illustrate my point: https://m.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/415rh5/children_of_divorced_parents_what_advice_do_you/ Just about every comment suggests why to avoid doing with respect to your children. My parents just about ticked every box on the ""Do Not Do"" list in this case. One of these comments, however stands out to me the most: *""Leave your kids out of it. Neither parent tells the truth anyway cause they're too biased. You basically fill the kids head with misinformation about the only 2 people they really looked up to.""* **Please, please leave your children out of it.** I cannot emphasize this enough. I wish I could communicate the awful confusion it causes for so long and the long-term implications of certain, rather simple, actions can have. The confusion of who's right and who's wrong, who's the liar and who's telling the truth. At a young age it's white lies and acts of control, only to evolve into gaslighting as you age and the former don't work anymore. I am asking you to try your hardest to act as though you and your and ex can get along, feign friendliness or whatever it takes. I get the hate some harbor for their ex, and sometimes it's for good reason. But no one wins when you or your ex abuse your children by making them question everything they believe to be true. After losing a sense of permanence as they now travel between two houses, you strip them of one of the only constants they thought to be irrefutable, their parent's word. I wish you all the best of luck with your new lives, and hope you're able take something away from my post. Thank you for reading.",5.076333304962123,7.237797084432717,4.527404885522174,84.37884075240449,70.2401055408971,7.0011405225976695,25.682270831560132,7.717688229018142,1.321292041875905,1641,51,303,20,31,493,205,379,0.105,0.774,0.121,0.765,6,1,1,0,4,0,57.0,0,16,8,5,20,20,2,3,22,1,19,1,1,6,6,55,36,26,0,6,7,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,7,20,21,0,2,4,2,2,5,7,7,1,5,7,3,40,13,58,25,6,38,0,1,3,0,54,12,0,9,18,207,60,2,0.0931750396721901,0.1103971859163068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09104957040027947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240460247478427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871060843876957,0.0,0.08754101690677107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049763627544614,0.09778145569283446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914328639785145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068911684637016,0.10450372982679697,0.07439268745626215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09627472323945767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1570079790606586,0.08903274333538189,0.08373971769612393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097360225141553,0.0,0.0,0.07815080261721796,0.07452059092771125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09199106158824284,0.09562447170326327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925438380741682,0.0,0.107511485861416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1973178271983677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045520617930786725,0.0,0.08227526707640392,0.16491395612476234,0.07824356659125188,0.10423903614105813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06219506249722734,0.09446486582684692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07186233465418639,0.08998903392582319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18941345481256794,0.2125914488963727,0.0,0.0,0.4138394201337491,0.0,0.0,0.06459584067710146,0.0,0.0,0.20455642724156625,0.08808052932456842,0.0,0.2677077961382662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10437736854243064,0.0,0.09320025416119017,0.0,0.059690316297252036,0.09579945906395512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795709747802829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0717306976602283,0.09215249671539136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07440970704131639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011206811345228,0.0,0.16287818305921764,0.08578305806877531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09154400340241096,0.0739705737467915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08903274333538189,0.0,0.06325973576718151,0.0,0.18203694979388726,0.0,0.0,0.08047331828913842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837755505377183,0.0,0.08407598085381414,0.0,0.2142933945891877,0.0,0.0,0.06783253859072103,0.0,0.0,0.06618887486063632,0.10187227901876712,0.0,0.06000167068521758 divorce,outside-thoughts,2019/03/22,"I’m still not ok alone. Most days are good. I love what I do, which is not to be discounted. I feel like my job makes a positive impact for others. I have purpose. However, when the weekend begins, I find myself feeling trapped. I am so tired from the week that the idea of going out sounds like too much. So instead, I heat up a pizza, have a beer and wait for an appropriate time to go to bed. I have been living alone for a year now. It has been a month since everything was legally finalized. I’ve made the house feel like me. I bought new bedsheets and hung pictures, but there are days I feel like a stranger in my home. I keep thinking, the lesson I need to learn is to be ok alone. How can I be with another person if I cannot be with myself? The trouble is, I don’t want a relationship, I don’t want to share my space. I want someone to check in, to see how I’m doing, to show interest and not use my story as a gateway to tell their own. What I would really like is a hug, an unsolicited hug, an offered hug. I haven’t had a hug in ages. 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In a few months, we'll be moving to an apartment together that will be suitable for his son to live with us 50% of the time. My fiance brought up that he wanted to have shared custody with his ex before, and at the time, she seemed to have no problem with it. It's important to note that the BM has a very permissive parenting style. I'm not saying this to demonize her, but my fiance lived with his ex until his son was 6, and throughout that time she very rarely if ever said 'no' to their son, didn't push him to do anything, and often took the 'good guy' role and left my fiance to do the 'hard stuff'. She would also more often than not give into his every whim and give him whatever he wanted. This parenting style of hers seems to have continued after they separated. It's also worth noting that she likes being in control and enjoys having him most of the time. As a result of this and many other factors (and not all of them are the BM's fault by any means), his son is behind for his age. He doesn't know how to use a knife and fork, until recently he didn't open or close his own doors, he had severe food issues (like a list of about a dozen foods he would accept to eat, most of it junk food), he was very emotionally immature for his age, his dexterity and physical ability were behind, low frustration tolerance, victim of bullying... the list goes on. He is a very good kid despite his issues, and we love him unconditionally. Since we've gotten together, my fiance and I have worked very hard together to adopt an authoritative parenting style (or in other words, high expectations/discipline and high affection and love). We make him do things like eat his vegetables, practice using a knife when he eats, put away his things, hang up his own coat, say please and thank you, etc. This parenting style has worked wonders on him - his food issues dramatically improved, he became more independent, more confident, more empathetic and mature, some of his behavioral issues magically went away, even the bullying he faced got better. However, as a natural result of this, we've had to tell him 'no' and push him to do things he doesn't want to do. He's thrown many tantrums, but we'd get through it and encourage him to express his feelings, and once it was over he'd express pride that he faced the challenge we presented him with. And when he gets back to his mom's house, it's back to the permissive style, and he mostly doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want to. She's a loving mother, but this parenting style of hers is clearly not helping his problems. He's started complaining a lot about going to dad's house, where he has to do 'hard stuff', and like any normal kid he'd try to manipulate his mother to avoid having to go. His mother's reaction was to tell us she wasn't going to force him to come if he didn't want to. We had to go pick him up ourselves - and as soon as we got there, he had no problem coming with us, and he had a great time with us. Now, the time is coming up where we want to have him half the time. BM sent a very formal email to my fiance saying that their son feels very 'anxious' about going to his house, that he likes his routine where she has him most of the time, and she wanted to hold off doing shared custody for an unspecified amount of time (months to years), and that if he had a problem with that they could go see a mediator. What kind of mediator she didn't say. It might mean the court system, where we'd be at a disadvantage because the courts usually favour the mother in my fiance's opinion. Understandably, my fiance was very upset about this, though he was wise enough not to respond to her yet until he could come up with a composed, respectful answer. She seems to have no real ground to stand on, and only wants to put off shared custody because she doesn't want to relinquish control. We feel what she's doing isn't fair and we're not sure what to do. How should we handle this situation? We're in Quebec. &#x200B; Sorry for the long post. TD;LR: Permissive BM who likes being in control is resisting shared custody for a reason we perceive not to be very valid. How should we handle it? 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Time to act? I am 33, married 12 years, 4 kids(11g,8b,5b,2b), and own a house. We started seeing a couples therapist about a year ago, after my emotional affair came to light. I was raised in a conservative religious family and, at this time, I am still active in same church. I am sole income earner and facing possible job loss due to contract term ending next month with no real bites yet for next gig. Why have I never felt so self aware and ready to make major changes until just about everything is falling apart? No clue, but I am naturally very calm and emotionally balanced(imho) and am no stranger to stuff not going my way. I am open to discuss details about the above but don't want this post to be a book. I feel like I want a divorce but am currently able to get along at home reasonably well. My wife does not want divorce. Not rushing, but not wanting to linger. I'd say 3 main motivations are to create a space where my kids can experience me and how I deal with things out of my control, I want to socialize more, and more flexibility to make major life choices with things like finances and spirituality. I don't want to punish my wife in any way and don't expect her to financially support the lifestyle I have provided our family. She doesn't agree with what I want to explore spiritually, disagrees with my method of parenting and interferes, isn't willing or supportive of taking risks financially or socializing. Not a thing wrong with her disagreeing with me, but I have a temperament and personality that makes it so easy for me to let go of what i want, or hide it, to avoid abrasive conflict. Give me traction over friction anyday! &#x200B; We have debt on our home and on a hospital bill, have a decent savings, and no considerable investments. I have yet to speak to a lawyer, have not delved into the process, and mainly want to make transition as smooth as possible. Advice on speaking through this with kids would be very helpful as well. My thought is to start with 1 on 1 with at least the older ones. 11 year old is 'aware' of my affair and has gone through different stages, currently shutting me out. Not applying pressure on her and not shutting her out, she's 11 and ought to be confused and upset. right? Thank you!",7.0505813953488365,7.2974461511627915,7.116604651162793,74.67513953488374,64.23255813953489,10.321860465116279,34.64186046511628,10.078955797065145,3.3957004651162794,1815,75,333,37,25,583,233,430,0.12,0.765,0.114,0.8926,7,1,1,0,3,0,57.0,4,1,0,3,13,17,1,5,16,0,35,2,1,8,1,89,64,34,0,12,17,3,3,2,0,3,1,3,2,4,12,38,0,5,7,1,4,8,18,8,2,1,6,8,42,9,66,51,10,59,1,1,1,0,32,23,0,4,26,229,54,5,0.08685699718606674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08487565240511556,0.07699348735412181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941095201626332,0.10554075855316852,0.0590657365398708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09934126581279118,0.0,0.0,0.09188318619602896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974175079445526,0.0,0.09610561533989324,0.0,0.0,0.08954575022088679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074707548994716,0.0,0.0,0.07600914355650211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19540486240422644,0.07692951898424757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780614684993275,0.08496280979902741,0.16376209374446365,0.0,0.04391750753803486,0.06205065614457472,0.08339633829468228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0453791961393641,0.08332114619621485,0.0987256662422547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05821841434689765,0.0,0.17424930012860054,0.0,0.0,0.10022131310905154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619216745264363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08881716436435567,0.061349665779092385,0.0848678830174396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23191088030934426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932842648982926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0669894707939236,0.0,0.18474680375706248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09114180762719816,0.0,0.058856549170034064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644441654251576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07584017971231434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19583642764730413,0.08318499381263518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988622782143903,0.0,0.08930345911973016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417540101833119,0.0,0.06907217034695802,0.0,0.0,0.06921378134396043,0.0,0.09061079087228474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17707954094323525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12295565931761825,0.0,0.06936411015055008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09943048142353456,0.0,0.1971285822095284,0.0,0.0,0.06530565239725035,0.0,0.0,0.07996625340333148,0.0,0.10084766823549672,0.17311178844344696,0.0,0.0,0.06895475374500362,0.10129402708932853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14333223815824087,0.4610745659478744,0.1378860830117247,0.0,0.0,0.15618974315258813,0.0,0.07837493021873254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061700718751988924,0.09496449138311676,0.10554075855316852,0.1677991754079415 divorce,MKappy7,2019/03/22,"My Parents are Getting Divorced Hi all, this is my first time on this sub so excuse me if this is not the place. My mom just informed me that my parents are getting a divorce. They agreed to separate about 6 months ago. They wanted to stay friends and be civil. According to my mom, my dad did not want to tell me about the divorce until it was finalized and one of the two of them moved out. My mom just told me behind my dad's back about the divorce. According to my mom, my dad has subpoena'd my grandmother to court to reveal her financial records. My grandmother has a lot of money left over from when my grandfather died. Does anyone know the possible motives for my dad to do this? It doesn't make sense to me that he would be entitled to any of her money in a divorce. I am hoping that someone can offer a reasonable explanation for why my dad would do this, however i am fearing that he is not the man I thought he was.",4.123751542575075,5.064312251336901,5.164385026737968,83.65707527766352,70.87165775401071,8.748498560263268,30.427396133278485,9.057496981413335,2.454011435623201,729,30,149,14,13,240,103,187,0.045,0.892,0.063,0.3224,3,0,0,0,5,0,15.0,0,0,3,2,8,3,0,1,10,0,20,0,0,3,1,23,29,6,1,6,6,11,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,11,3,0,0,6,0,2,1,4,1,0,3,5,0,28,2,26,20,2,16,0,0,0,0,32,6,0,3,8,111,39,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11964579468383635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09178655532766468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09437655488065873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10378623002876457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1400811023767913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811615107428484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15188262448214326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785678624240306,0.0,0.11480832371669787,0.0,0.0,0.10428013094367478,0.0,0.1410360842401103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405906286222175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07417786281615643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14664901782094894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1147495766038992,0.0,0.0,0.09009580720386123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6323169617391281,0.1077344976387992,0.14345538693738966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146148381886518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2997440239841399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410184982567563,0.0,0.0,0.15216225306263487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13877515750458602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11436254237032395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1438637089598737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11797271993474308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10715382031084908,0.07870408773723346,0.0,0.0,0.12897288878410604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318494207907596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15922164255446405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179251949169527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.191762492681802,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,verysadday111,2019/03/22,"filing for divorce today. im heartbroken well today is the day im filing for divorce. the last month has been a rollercoaster of emotions to say the least. my wife wants to separate but has no idea if she wants to get back together at some point and work on our marriage or not. since there is no guarantee for me that she is coming back, im not willing to sit around and wait so i made the decision to file for divorce. just feeling empty inside atm",2.1032478632478657,4.340089263736264,3.524761904761906,87.80079365079365,79.43956043956044,6.681807081807082,24.3968253968254,7.793537801064563,1.3929404151404148,357,13,71,6,9,117,63,91,0.11,0.8290000000000001,0.061,-0.6858,0,0,0,0,3,0,6.0,1,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,5,0,7,0,0,1,0,18,14,6,0,3,6,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,4,0,1,0,2,2,6,1,13,11,2,13,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,3,7,49,7,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166414027066456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874868299225765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16103012207228798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12055923632191665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21027955042750832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09452122764366723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09766713934894193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21102970750214134,0.6057738051255834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15237903012701612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688480267100948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14921174606157125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17671638123194194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14866022010818145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1546366494280398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3543898244372756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2205211869646006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680792819964333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360927419652176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ShowMeYourMoods,2019/03/22,"Divorced about 2 years, raising a 5 year old on my own, finally getting back into dating. Although I'm not in physical shape to be dating, and maybe not mentally either. I feel like I need to before it's too late to find someone. Just turned 30. Been divorced 2 years, finally at a point I feel like I can start dating again now that my daughter is 5 years old and more accepting of me being gone since I have full custody. Anyway, after being out of the game for about 3 years and dating off and on with mild to no success, I feel like maybe I'm not in physical shape or even mental shape to date but I feel like if I dont then I'm going to age myself out of the dating game. They say after 30 it's twice as hard to find someone. I feel like I should work on the physicial and that will take care of my mental apprehension about dating, but have no clue. I feel like the habits I picked up while being married may hurt me to the point I'm not as desired by single people anymore. Like feeling like you're loved by one person has made me trust too fast and let my guard down too much to the point I don't ease someone into a relationship where they're accepting of my flaws like someone who'd accept them who's been invested a long time. Anyway, I just needed to vent, I just discovered this and it feels great to know others are dealing with similar problems. 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I felt a lot of relief once this happened as it became really difficult for me to constantly be around her when we were living together. I've noticed that a lot of the physical symptoms of my stress and anxiety have improved since we separated. I no longer have chronic heartburn (I can't even remember the last time I felt heartburn!). I no longer have anxiety induced shits several times a day. I no longer feel nauseated during dinner because I'm worried she's going to pick a fight if I do or say the wrong thing. I have the time to take better care of myself physically and emotionally. But the one thing that has gotten worse: I can't sleep through the night. I wake up at 4 AM every day, lie in bed for a few hours, and try to get back to sleep or medidate or listen to music or browse /r/divorce. We have seen each other a few times and spent the night, and I sleep very soundly when I'm with her. Is that some part of me missing my wife? The comfort of snuggling in bed? Curious what yall's experiences are with bodily sensations. My therapist is big on trying to be in touch with them.",5.1433333333333335,5.8056293103448295,6.260103448275863,77.72857471264369,68.39655172413794,9.80735632183908,30.98390804597701,9.888512548439397,2.9380525287356325,928,36,180,21,15,311,138,232,0.138,0.789,0.073,-0.909,0,0,0,0,2,0,23.0,3,1,1,1,5,10,2,1,15,0,18,11,5,2,0,29,33,15,0,1,6,2,4,0,0,0,5,3,2,0,9,14,1,0,5,0,1,1,5,6,0,1,7,8,26,4,28,24,7,25,0,1,1,0,13,8,1,8,16,123,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18261624042686356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10625343302488263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177850920137834,0.0,0.07275919181887866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10556196233842226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1216928719122144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12898299763232726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15395135816220915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342610627343886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07883446801700447,0.0,0.10056379689145857,0.0,0.0,0.11675448600577318,0.0,0.0,0.060350711462894974,0.0,0.22920373361923985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062359339729219636,0.0,0.06783358768946875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554739614505534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1175430425091575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458449936473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078962475570603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20294686625145536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09526997541107336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22401775691605846,0.0,0.0,0.1358892444370671,0.0,0.12711178558547753,0.08087969504157695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1292524837377686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764634368318911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13520872003933931,0.0,0.0,0.094917832463853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483994129569352,0.12251870407134995,0.0987337135146248,0.0,0.3583309363823217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13672355220309726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24811617704180106,0.08974194588136061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13858319537180544,0.15859156831138732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27839314863159803,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16207174328740115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848239384859683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1212132811159594,0.12163543542386708,0.0,0.13049863118300964,0.0,0.0 divorce,surfryhder,2019/03/22,"Daughter sleeping in the bed with X’s new boyfriend (without mom) help needed. I’m not sure where to begin. I picked up my eight year old daughter last night and she innocently stated “when BLANK sleeps in my bed he snores”. I asked a few questions about it and she let more information out. Like... “he sleeps in my bed when my mom won’t wake up and he said for me not to wake my mom”. Also, it appears to he has told her that it’s a secret. This concerns me on many levels. 1: In less then a year ( 6 months) she’s moved one guy out of her home and a new guy in. 2: My daughter has only known this man for 5 months and he’s sleeping in her bed.. even on the surface this seems bizarre. I do not think it’s a nightly routine. 3. During Christmas this man bought over the top gifts for my child (first Christmas). From what I can piece together. When the mother works nights (rare) he stays with my child and when she can’t sleep he enters her bed. I’m not sure of the frequency of these “slumber parties”. Also, she said that he told her not to mention it to her mom. I’ve tried researching the guy on the internet but it appears he’s a ghost. No social media to speak of no public records. Also, he has no kids of his own. So.. how should I approach this? Am I just overly freaking out? 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I’ve been married now for 12 years. I’m a 39 guy, married at 26 and took on her 2 sons as my own, and had my daughter with her. Totally committed, never strayed. She asked for something, I made it happen. Big house, cars. I just work to make it happen and don’t complain. Had an arguement about nothing much in particular a month ago. Wife threatened to leave me but we talked it through. Had another minor arguement and she’s threatening again, and hasn’t spoken to me for the past 4 days. All of our Arguements have been minor over the years. If she’s thinking like this, then I’m guessing it’s only a matter of time. Pretty much come to the conclusion that we’re done I guess. Just don’t wanna leave the kids. How do you manage to seperate and still live in the same house? 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Staying around for the kids never works out. We are just too different. I want to be in the kids life. But I'm struggling with accepting that I don't want to be with her. I can't get over that hump. I rationally understand that we are just never going to be together again. But I go back to thinking ""no, I need to fix things with her so I'm in the kids life"". So basically, I feel like I want to fake it with her so I can live with the kids. But then I realize that's not going to work out. That's what I've been doing and it obviously didn't work. How can I come to accept that it's over? I love my kids. But I don't love her. She doesn't understand me, she doesn't want to. We were raised very differently and have very different mindsets. Any advice is appreciated.",0.4819729729729758,2.5812134540540552,2.9429054054054085,90.43868243243246,84.72972972972974,6.5108108108108125,18.97972972972973,7.7348632917899725,0.5358702702702707,679,18,156,13,20,234,90,185,0.045,0.815,0.141,0.9321,3,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,3,0,0,3,11,7,0,1,5,0,19,5,0,1,4,42,40,11,0,6,7,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,6,11,16,0,0,8,0,0,4,11,2,0,0,4,1,27,5,27,32,0,21,0,0,0,3,19,8,0,0,9,110,38,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12978696523324101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031992659315273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364700857410512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10212786223553533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11440984706811835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162956229926619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06715612619698684,0.09488429394682714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0693912563233163,0.0,0.226448414517986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876247596080243,0.0648875423662683,0.0,0.11727960033920246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397445572944208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601304170910217,0.0,0.0,0.09848191770637132,0.3073093356181433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010131033219869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14156495563308422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1388488772100043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08823752957614837,0.08510359364047583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27653378680281937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21917541348436245,0.3916937239942908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2900764700718247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,blackandontheattack,2019/03/22,"dating while living together and seeking separation My wife and I are seeking divorce after 13 years of marriage. We started discussing separation four to five months ago, but I just recently found out she had an affair and, while she has supposedly called it off, continues to date other people. We have three kids, all under 10, and still live in the same house. We can't really afford to move out until we've sold the house, and that is not a process that has even been started yet. We also live in San Diego -- and california is a no-fault divorce state, so as far as I can tell she's not in any legal jeopardy for continuing to do her thing while we live together. &#x200B; My question is: is there any circumstance under which it is ok for people to date others before they are living separately? It feels like such a slap in the face, and even though I know the marriage is over, we still live together and are raising 3 young kids. To me it feels completely disrespectful to be seeking relationships with other people until things are split up and we are moved out. 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Many on these boards complain about wives' nagging their husbands, particularly in the area of housekeeping. Posting here as the wife, I am the opposite: my husband is literally killing our marriage with his petty, inconsequential nagging over the smallest of details. I can't leave out an item of clothing without him immediately transferring to the hamper. I can't leave dishes in the sink (it's fine when he does). He rages when our little boy doesn't fold his trousers Mari-Kondo style and makes him take every single piece of clothing out of his closet to re-fold properly. Our son is 5. To all spouses: **please let up on the nagging. You are literally killing your marriage with your obsession on the trivlal and mundane.** Signed, walkaway wife",4.292058823529408,7.5235426176470614,4.297058823529415,79.39426470588238,78.70588235294119,6.6352941176470575,32.029411764705884,7.8658589789855275,2.7586264705882355,620,32,100,11,16,191,92,136,0.21,0.748,0.043,-0.9776,0,0,0,0,0,0,24.0,3,3,1,0,4,9,6,1,9,0,8,1,0,1,1,11,10,5,2,0,1,7,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,2,6,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,8,0,0,0,0,16,1,22,9,4,15,0,0,0,0,25,11,0,0,3,66,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1852701423376074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17837605245131544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4684547686225535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44834377595953495,0.0,0.21648933159699066,0.0,0.0,0.21219052097860727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413190564784247,0.2146422106997017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4647912572748741,0.0,0.0,0.20276107482468184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770002766063775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15918068470400326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20408231121766704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,divorcedthrowaguey,2019/03/23,"Divorce is like emotional steroids A buddy of mine asked me what going through a divorce was like. I told him divorce felt like riding an emotional rollercoaster and every turn the guy sitting next to you beats the hell out of you. It really is like steroids for emotions. You think you’re a mature adult you have experienced sadness, anger, and fear. But then you start this process and you realize you don’t know shit. Cheers to all of you out there going through the suck. I’m with you all. 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This is my second dui( I know fucking idiot) I was just wondering If anybody has any advice. 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I was actually relieved, for a moment. It was not face to face, long story. I texted back and said thank you for telling me. We've been at this point many times and separated once for 6 months. Everytime I cry, I beg, I plead for him not to leave me. I promise to change. I had every intention of changing, but I'm seeing I never did and shouldn't have to This time I realised neither of us is changing and we shouldn't have to. We're just not suitable for each other. I was a teenager when we married. He was a good husband. Not perfect but any means, but he was a great provider, a good father, and he never abused me. He travels for his job and has been gone a huge chunk of our marriage. We have kids. I stay home with them and always have. I have never financially contributed to our marriage. He took care of everything. I have no higher education. He was my everything. My best friend. We haven't seen each other in person since this happened. He's coming home soon so we can tell the kids. I'm SICK about telling them. But I know it has to be done. We've had detailed conversations deciding on logistics and what he's willing to do financially to support us, custody etc. We seem to agree on most everything, this is all just his word and nothing in writing or legally done yet. But it SEEMS we don't have anything to fight about. But I cannot stop feeling guilty. I feel guilty that he will be supporting me. I am willing to work, but do not want to put my children through the stress of Dad leaving and Mom who has been the only one with them everyday suddenly being gone at work too. My youngest is less than 2 years from being full time school aged. I have no problem working then. But given the situation now I want to be home with them. They need me and normalcy as much as possible in their lives. But I can't shake feeling terrible. I can't shake feeling bad that he was unhappy enough to leave but is still going to have to support us. I don't hate him. At all. It would be easier if I did. For me anyway. But I don't. I just feel guilty. I didn't appreciate him. I really didn't. I thought I did, but looking back I did not. I see it now. I've apologized to him for that. Not to get him back, but because I felt like he deserved to hear it. He wants to remain friends. I know that's easier said than done. He's still the one I'm calling when I have a panic attack. I know I need to stop that. I need to learn to not lean on him. This is a giant ramble and I apologise. I'm looking for advice, for a listening ear, something. I don't know. Has anyone had similar experience feeling guilty about alimony or staying at home after divorce? Advice on how to be friendly but not be “best friends”. Advice on how to keep kids as unscathed as possible. I know I am so far lucky. People are in much worse situations than I am. I am grateful he is open to communicating. He is a good man. I just want to feel peace. I'm a zombie going through the motions at this point. Trying to do the best I can for my children. One minute I'm ok. I tell myself I can do this. The next minute it's panic, then utter despair. I have supportive family and friends. I'm not alone. But I guess I'm searching for people who really UNDERSTAND. I'm trying to make this as painless as possible for everyone involved. I'm trying to not be overly emotional. I just need support. 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I really don’t know what to do I’m hurt, angry, and just generally a mess. She claims it’s because I’m not doing it for her the bedroom. What a slap to my manhood. We did try therapy last year but neither of us really used the tool we were given. She doesn’t communicate her feelings well and I am expected to read her mind. I’m really having a rough go of it. Thinking I’m about done. 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I think this may not be quite the right sub. I need help specifically with with a narcissist ex in relation to my youngest child. So my question is should I post about the problem here or is there a correct subreddit? Thank you!,3.618235294117646,6.20138062745098,4.121333333333337,83.68200000000002,76.05882352941177,8.785882352941178,29.807843137254906,9.3871,2.9571066666666663,216,10,42,6,5,68,39,51,0.052000000000000005,0.79,0.158,0.6696,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,5,0,5,0,0,0,1,13,9,2,0,4,2,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,6,1,6,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,3,0,28,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4196864017369208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4642726174960441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998330607538546,0.0,0.0,0.2995642515757507,0.0,0.0,0.3507083432192581,0.3329868615479012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2673587686988888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882313914567769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006016388490129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,poppinfresh_original,2019/03/23,"About to separate. How much should I ""separate""? Hi, I'm 42(M) and wife is 41. We have been together for over 20 years and have been married for almost 15. We have 2 kids (9 and 6). Our marriage has been going down hill for a while and during counseling I discovered that I had become angry and resentful at her which led me to being critical of her. She selfish and is very much into her job and personal activities which placed the kids and myself being way down on her list of priorities. I knew this, but supported her which caused me to play 95% dad and homemaker while she tended to her priorities. She is now contributing more which has taken a load of stress off me and I've worked very hard to work on the stuff wrong with me. Despite this she is saying that now she is angry and resentful for putting up with me all these years. She still insists that she shouldn't have to choose between her job and her family. She claims she hates coming home to our house and has recently found an apartment. She says she doesn't know what she wants and needs time apart to figure it out. I want the marriage to work (at this point) so I'm trying to be supportive. She seems really happy with her decision and we are communicating about it well (not sure if that's a good thing or not). &#x200B; We have always kept our money separate and I was always the one to order and pay for the cell phones, internet, Netflix, etc., with my money. I'm really undecided as to whether to kick her off my plans and let her get her own stuff. I feel that if she wants out she should be all the way out and on her own. I am also thinking that when it comes time for her to move, I will not be assisting. I don't want more reasons for her to resent me, but I'm also done being supportive only to get nothing in return. I'm guessing this isn't unusual? How did this play out for you?",3.616588571428572,4.897911922666669,4.705747619047621,85.17885000000003,72.44,8.343809523809524,24.32619047619048,8.841846274778883,1.5675390476190478,1461,41,305,28,28,479,186,375,0.094,0.8240000000000001,0.08199999999999999,-0.5617,2,0,0,0,0,0,46.0,7,1,0,4,12,16,4,1,10,0,36,0,0,5,3,71,65,34,0,10,9,2,2,0,0,4,0,2,1,3,23,34,0,1,10,3,3,6,7,7,1,1,11,4,57,9,52,43,9,42,0,0,0,0,50,21,0,6,12,228,80,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10418408422685524,0.0,0.0,0.1664063768171901,0.17314430236854464,0.11273059973393985,0.12642369217814456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11490737297694552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10688087093121176,0.0,0.17924774760642528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1064721617348104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11603550177270293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09808252666465683,0.0,0.05260729153678397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11407783262253565,0.0,0.0,0.10871639739304068,0.0,0.05913006221575209,0.08726637291117327,0.0,0.0,0.1146151479952282,0.0,0.0,0.11075575995111307,0.09320213544502204,0.10272097043422636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436366093871498,0.0,0.0,0.12005170904475927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2064933433411062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057179338572378176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639106636777028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11058129512377812,0.1529672241956824,0.07714660224271687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983211122770523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07050226241449377,0.07912942685091143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09084637694597036,0.1087028413958988,0.0,0.09835431065115972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459200076719816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133305282268061,0.10697358234836503,0.10272995868620527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16547841652324424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09471688389925967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0830889130426928,0.0,0.11918096069364904,0.0,0.238208797225596,0.0,0.3542004558961447,0.098059342045363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06912157841388877,0.06666658449506252,0.0,0.0,0.121336676709355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07063840046224808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17169282279692255,0.2454691430039132,0.16516905841208804,0.0,0.0,0.09354719579620384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272337356724183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11375474073767478,0.12642369217814456,0.13400062427909093 divorce,jnkettenring,2019/03/23,"Seeking help/advice on 4 year divorce process So my sister has been trying to get divorced for almost 4 years now. She has three kids (2 boys 12 and 11 and a girl 5). She has been going through countless trials only to be pushed back because more ""evidence"" has been presented by her husband that needs investigation. It seems that any bad thing will be used as ammo by her husband and that he is doing everything he can to keep this divorce process going, exhaust all resources that my sister has. There is a guardian ad litem that has made a full report and insists in her report that my sister is a model parent and is in complete favor of my sister gaining full custody. However my sister's husband still seems to be able to prolong the process by whatever means he deems necessary. He as a parent has proven to use the kids in manipulative ways and that he does not care how his actions effect his kids mental health and well being long term. Please help if you can, my sister is out of resources and doesn't know what to do.",10.415540201005024,7.238289366834168,9.587631909547742,70.6290860552764,59.85427135678393,11.558040201005024,40.45288944723618,8.841846274778883,3.6340497487437187,820,31,149,8,8,261,120,199,0.041,0.8959999999999999,0.062,0.506,3,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,0,1,0,2,8,5,0,0,7,0,25,2,0,6,1,25,38,13,0,2,2,11,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,5,11,9,0,1,5,0,0,4,2,2,1,1,4,0,14,3,21,29,5,20,0,0,0,0,33,7,0,4,8,100,25,2,0.1656161135921606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16183814943339178,0.0,0.0,0.16584061456450586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1126246364611958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12734856847977385,0.13828253705976787,0.10095804565259067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688566655425717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17364534412295954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14493177707179436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14884508390798235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08652758379889597,0.0,0.18824690795852064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760421841898486,0.0,0.0,0.22201797980596066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720721136147447,0.0,0.0,0.09101828479470217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14656504889389999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15670997111100254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18040449972926145,0.0,0.0,0.16690208917526164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228022497144316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12595851733473906,0.0,0.0,0.3677941895969029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1817967591386884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30154137941616976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226124224975475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11002798679755699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11244246980186272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2860782945690539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145836217390655,0.0,0.0,0.14890877581500708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21330269443155106 divorce,NerdyPrincess83,2019/03/23,"I can't let go He announced a week ago he wants a divorce. We live separately. I went to his work again, showed up at his apartment, even showed up at a bar I found out he was at. Amidst hyperventalating crying, literal begging, he remained stern. Never faltering. Never showing emtion aside from frustration, annoyance. He kept saying ""you're not listening to me. I'm done. Leave me alone"". I kept saying ""you're not listening to me , this can work if you just give it a chance"". He said we've given it chances and he's done. My head won't accept that. I still can't eat. When I sleep, I wake up from intense sweat inducing nightmares about him and I. When I awoke to one of those nightmares last night, I said out loud ""I suffer all day while I'm awake, must I suffer as well in my sleep?"". Every hour of every day my emotions and thoughts change drastically! I will break down crying harder than I ever have in my life, and truly believe life is not worth it. Then I'll have a moment where I decide ""fine, I'll stop talking to him. I'm done"". ... But slowly but surely the thought of us working creeps back into my mind and I am consumed with thoughts of how to convince him.. how to make him see that we CAN do this together if he would JUST give it a chance. I went to his apartment today. He asked why I was there, what I wanted. He said he can't help me. ""Reach out to your family. Go see a doctor. I can't help you. My mind is made up. We're done"". He's so heartless. It isn't fair that he is hardly affected by this. He was equally as bad in our marriage as I, yet he acts like I'm the monster and he's glad to be rid of me. It hurts so much. I can't focus on anything. I locked my keys in my garage yesterday and had to pay $65 for a locksmith. I'm forgetting so many things. I can't even watch a TV show , I feel like I'm sinking into this abyss. I try to talk positive to myself , psych myself up, but it's just empty words. Every single thing reminds me of him. Songs, my apartment, everything IN my apartment, all of my clothes , my kids, the city I live in, stores, absolutely every single thing has a story tied to him. I can't even do the things I enjoy because we did then together. It's so strange, it literally feels like someone is suffocating me? I saw my Dr. She doubled my antidepressant dose. But I still feel dead. Nothing I'm doing is helping. I feel exactly the same as I did a week ago. Still pounding heart, shaking, wanting to vomit, everything. I try to talk to people but the moment I open my mouth, I start crying so hard I can't breathe. Then everyone says the same thing ""it'll get better"" ""you'll be ok"" ""just focus on you now"" ... I'm not in the right head space that any of that means anything. It just angers me because it does not help. I'm sorry, this is the most Ive texted or told anyone aside from my husband. I can't stop texting him. He rarely ever replies. But like an addiction, I live for his reply. Every sound my phone makes, my heart jumps out of my chest and I hope it's him. I check my phone nonstop in case I missed a message from him. I don't know how to stop this. I've never had this hard of a time with a break up before. Ever. Divorcing the man I vowed to fight until I died for feels like I'm being murdered.. it is wrong. I'm lost. I'm tired. I'm scared. I miss him so bad, the words do no justice. I hate that he doesn't know how much it hurts me. I hate that he gets to be able to function just fine while I suffer. I just wish he would show up, hold me and say he wants to work it out. But he in unwavering. A solid emotionless rock. I'm at my daughter's birthday party and I can't focus. I keep crying. I see him everywhere I look. Ive never grieved like this in any other past relationship before. I can't handle this.",0.2422669355960494,2.427404072151901,2.284321880650996,94.14751217137295,86.7594936708861,5.042147725692028,19.314230073723746,6.463403179422604,0.016124078453192414,2907,84,652,31,91,970,329,790,0.168,0.733,0.098,-0.9953,3,1,0,0,2,0,135.0,5,5,0,6,36,39,8,2,27,1,56,21,11,9,12,103,121,42,4,11,22,2,8,6,0,7,8,12,0,2,40,23,2,7,15,9,4,7,25,22,1,1,27,26,116,17,80,82,11,89,0,9,6,0,80,39,0,5,47,397,156,7,0.057393535958063624,0.0,0.0,0.06256742579837699,0.0,0.0,0.10175181339804304,0.0,0.0,0.05944239426774945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780591451193847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04013089480805747,0.0,0.0944599796945894,0.0,0.05365520856293751,0.0,0.0,0.04413208646020175,0.09584241039076917,0.06997313362498883,0.0,0.09767534373329284,0.06466286112345146,0.0,0.050759918518679184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06071475093234281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521764170284236,0.07402816528837304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059565429053734326,0.0,0.0,0.058744716025429876,0.05022547008511512,0.23493405558067376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058727915597058714,0.0,0.06456000299407373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11372366762691545,0.15574721734803912,0.2417826470378845,0.054841983153879344,0.10316321872509088,0.0,0.05410551780736896,0.0,0.1450994813160013,0.12300586066863413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06292904979382805,0.0,0.0,0.059971507414497964,0.11011421889327433,0.06523613823904548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1542400049372677,0.11332846907627528,0.11780465185699608,0.0,0.0,0.1360232328988138,0.15387870939549936,0.0,0.0,0.0570047312766778,0.05652107187127205,0.0,0.12288193456890407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05101401183321195,0.0,0.0,0.06308397278383285,0.04678339201902383,0.0,0.060771467607201875,0.0,0.058688779048150425,0.08107750355137447,0.16823749565777718,0.0,0.15203863124787922,0.0,0.04819611527337496,0.0,0.06265182431045974,0.0,0.0,0.0543071514411637,0.07662126184023609,0.058188037189803275,0.0,0.06251838614994495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11590222051935314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438170542812504,0.0,0.17706173252047305,0.0,0.0,0.053859945551891115,0.0,0.055070645663986686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03889134532156924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054788624285930905,0.0397894513132052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161917868773175,0.0,0.04901376611523362,0.16378318705082068,0.18256657360683284,0.05746094187732208,0.0,0.13720565217727976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11486996976667807,0.0,0.04862935676820345,0.0,0.0,0.06424736462705517,0.040623440154025824,0.0,0.13750365586308708,0.1439506979200854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054092728415876735,0.0,0.0,0.1383922505237671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906485751806052,0.0,0.0,0.1366921698915747,0.03346663236373686,0.0659654266535833,0.0544023612382299,0.054841983153879344,0.0,0.07793288700975971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06903735707785562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13540877809322988,0.0,0.09207526524167446,0.0,0.051603681512874144,0.10640876566871292,0.05178873920869485,0.0,0.06599973389440343,0.0,0.0,0.16713271092473794,0.0,0.0,0.08154144248723155,0.06275082178192615,0.0,0.0 divorce,GetCarled,2019/03/23,"Need advice My husband and I just aren't happy together. We have different philosophies on life and totally different levels of drive and motivation. I'm constantly stuck waiting for him to get his ass in gear every single day from the simplest things like getting out of bed to getting necessary things done as a member of a 2 working parent household. I travel for work, I work my ass off, I'm working on a Master's and I take my son to gymnastics once a week, do most of the cooking/cleaning/laundry, all of the orchestrating of daily life, and he's just slow, unmotivated and absolutely helpless/blames everyone else for his issues. Recently he told me he had no money in his bank account, but he called off for no reason a day last week. Like sorry, money doesn't magically appear. Most of my money goes to paying all the bills, he's responsible for water and trash to basically keep him with some fiscal responsibility for the house hold. I'm 30, he's 43 and our son is 2. So mostly since our son was born I have felt completely turned off by him because he doesn't step up. Things were fine until we had a kid, but since then every single bit of his lack of motivation and adult responsibility awareness is making him repulsive to me. Things spiraled from there. He accused me of cheating because I'm not attracted to him anymore (example of one of my big issues with him not accepting personal responsibility). I'm not cheating. I'm just not interested in him. I'm working on my career and on me and being the best parent I can to my son. He went through my phone records and started calling everyone that he didn't know the number and demanded how they know me (some were my coworkers which was highly embarrassing). I struggle with depression and was drinking way too much for a while recently and he was super mean about it, so I have quit and am going to the gym and feeling fantastic which he is now angry about (don't be depressed...wait not like that). He thinks I'm getting all hot to run of with other guys. Overall, I'm over it. I am checking out of this marriage and I can tell. I'm ready for my son and I to have a great life but I'm not counting my husband into it anymore. I get up for breakfast, cook for my son and I and my husband is pissed when he gets up hours later and we didn't wait for him. Or I go to the gym on weekends while he sits around reading Bleacher report in his pajamas. The issue is that he is bound and determined to ensure I can't keep my job I have right now, but still insists he'll collect alimony and he will move far away and basically not cooperate according to anything of my schedule. I want to move closer to my family since I have no one where I am now, but it's in another state so he's going to fight that tooth and nail. At this point he is going to do his best to take my job I absolutely love from me, and isolate me with a two year old he wants to parent on his terms only, oh and take a portion of my money. Anyone have any advice on how to handle any of this? I wouldn't mind paying alimony if I get to keep my job, but he wants to hurt me and take this job from me and he knows he can. I travel a decent amount, so it would involve him taking our son when I'm traveling. (Appx 1 week per month). Sorry for the long winded post. I have no one to talk to because he searches my phone records and is all angry about who I'm texting all the time and I'm just over fighting that fight. 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I grew up with what most people would consider and pretty bad childhood. My parents divorced when I was 9, my mom remarried when I was 12 and I suddenly became oldest of 6 kids in blended family (2 siblings, 2 step, 1 half) My stepdad is aggressively narcissistic asshole who would buy redwing boots (because he needed 8 pairs) and CDs and soda and candy for himself while kids would be wearing threadbare clothes, picking mold off bread because it’s all we had to eat. I would deliver papers in my only pair of sneakers that had holes all the way through the soles of my shoes in snow and ice. Eventually I had to start paying for shampoo, TP, milk, etc for myself and siblings around age 14. My mom (to this day) is super passive aggressive and also a narc. I’ve stayed with my parents as adult and my stepdad didn’t say 2 words to me for 30 days and completely ignored my mom until she dared to go to garage sale with me and came home 3 minutes after he did from his errand and he threw a hissy fit. My mom was involuntary committed on my 15th birthday and I was left to raise my siblings for years before and after. I was constantly told I was useless, ugly, fat, dumb, etc and would never amount to anything. When I got full rides to the 2 colleges I applied to (incl DePaul university) my mom refused to let me go after her attempts to keep me from even applying were thwarted. I paid for classes at local junior college taking 17 credit hours of classes while working 2 full time jobs. When I fell short on money to pay for full 2nd semester I took 3 classes and worked 3 full time jobs. Half the time I couldn’t even tell you where I was, I was so exhausted. So my parents kicked me out at this point because I came home 5 minutes later than I’d indicated from doing my laundry (I wasn’t allowed to use washer and dryer at house) Eventually I met a guy, having never talked to or even held hands with a boy at almost 20yrs old. Ended up moving across us to be with him and get away from family and because the profession I’d accidentally fallen into was booming in his area. Surprise surprise he was a super narc who gaslit me until I wasn’t sure the sky was blue. I managed to gather enough self respect, left him, got my own apartment and started doing OK for myself for a few months. Then dot com industry bubble burst and I got stuck the the whirlpool. For the next 2-3yrs I’d struggle to find a job, any job (I applied for retail, IT, waitressing, anything) I’d get one for a few weeks or months, get “fired” because company couldn’t afford benefits, and then struggle again to find a new job. In the midst of this I met my now EXH. At first he was lighthearted and funny. Had a steady job making Ok money and seemed supportive of me struggling to find steady work. My self esteem was still pretty awful, and I was still convinced that narc behavior was loving behavior because it’s all I’d ever known. I did everything I could while unemployed to make up for the fact he was working. Worked awful temp jobs, cleaned apartment, did laundry, squeezed every penny until it hurt by patching his jeans, baking bread from scratch, filling his prescriptions, finding junkyard twilight and replacing it myself when he broke his. I figured, it was the least I could do since he was covering bills. He proposed to me and I left to visit my family and didn’t want to come home. I couldn’t put my finger on it at the time but I wanted to run away. I returned because after all, all my stuff was there and I was being silly. During this time my ex became increasingly grumpy, gained 100lbs, started taking antidepressants, when I found work he’d refuse to pitch in and help with household things. Instead he’d play video games all day every day outside of work. Sex life was minimal at best, once a month maybe. I returned from trip and we had sex once and I was pregnant (we didn’t have sex again after until I got pregnant with #2 3 years later) I finally managed to find a really shitty awful job where manager fired a lady for having cancer, demanded I work 60+ hours or more while pregnant for 25k a year, and (to everyone not just me) would call me fat and stupid and useless daily. It begs mentioning at this point that I’m 5’9 and a size 4. And yet was convinced I was indeed fat at this point. EXH and I bought a house where again I did all the cleaning, cooking, laundry, shopping, childcare, took him to doctors and monitors and filled his meds (otherwise he took it out on me) taking out trash, checking mail, paying bills, and now mowing lawn. He continued to play video games every waking hour and avoiding me and his child. After 2+ years of being turned down nightly (not even joking) and being stopped mid BJ “I’m tired/itchy/sleepy/etc” I finally got lucky and pregnant with #2. At this point I found a better job but I was opening a hotel so 7-8m pregnant with what would end up being an 11lb baby, I was carrying heavy items up and down stairs in a construction area nonstop for weeks. I’d come home at midnight barely able to shuffle to couch I was so sore and tired. EXH would complain how tired he was because he was itchy last night and he had to watch his own son for 3hrs and wtf? Also he was going to bed, wash his jeans please. On top of hitting the scales at 360lbs now, ex stopped showering but once every 2 weeks because “it makes my skin itchy”. Stopped wearing deodorant because his pits broke out in a rash and he refused to take advice of doctor I dragged him to and wear dove for a few weeks until his skin healed. No, instead he came home crying to me that his coworkers complained he smelled and left a stick of deodorant in his desk. He also refused to trim his talon like toenails (I have scars from being stabbed by them. Gross) or fingernails because he was convinced it would lead to fungal infection? So constantly scratching his dirty skin with dirty fingernails he started contracting mrsa staph infections on his skin. The day my 2nd was born he decided to squeeze the golf ball sized ball of pus out of his face and cover the bathroom with blood and gore. He shrugged and said “you can clean it” while I’m holding our 8hr old newborn. Luckily my mom had come to see birth of 2nd grandchild and she took a gallon of bleach and spent 2hrs scrubbing blood off ceiling and walls and floor. It was at this point with a better job and 2 small ones I hit my breaking point. I was constantly exhausted with workload (my ex required more care than 2 babies) and constant mental abuse from ex. My coworkers treated me better. My coworker of similar age to my mother who had 2 kids around my age she raised as single mom warned me that it would be more work and more stress if I left my husband. I asked ex to leave and live with his parents for a bit, he got physical with me and tried to rip baby out of my arms while 4yr old clung to me crying. Using his size to intimidate me. I left to cool off and crying to mom on phone because I had nowhere I could go and no money. I returned home and he pretended like nothing had happened. The following Friday I was served with divorce papers. He had hidden kids and refused to even tell cops he has them when I showed up at his parents house. Shut off utilities, drained joint account a day after I was paid (now making more money than he did) and clearly had ransacked house and loaded a truck. The divorce story isn’t a lot prettier. I spent 30k over the course of 2yrs fighting in court because he expected me to hand over kids, pay him child support, pay for house and let him live in it, and “go live at hotel” I worked for. Oh, and take the 15k in credit card debt as well. I’ve taken him to court so many times now, 6 main instances but he’s taken to pulling tricks to drag out cases and forcing me to appear or sent lawyer multiple times. He’s been held in contempt of court about 6 times now. He’s had his custody reduced to 4 days a month for his failure to adult. He’s attacked me in front of the kids and I’ve had to call cops multiple times. He’s lived with his parents for 11yrs. Worked the same job paying 30k for close to 20yrs until he was laid off/fired a year ago. He hasn’t worked since. Currently behind almost a year in child support. Meanwhile the kids are happy and thriving. My income has almost quadrupled since divorce. I’ve sunk about 40k into home improvements (house was pretty bad when we bought it) after managing to sack away 6yrs of living expenses. I’ve paid off almost half of the mortgage at this point and I’m on a path to have it paid off completely in 3yrs. And despite being the sort of person who blames themselves for everything - I never once felt blame over my divorce. We went to therapy before I hit my last camel straw. Explained some of the above about no sex, 0 help, constant negativity, video games, etc. Therapist looks to ex and he said “meh, I’m happy. I think she has postpartum and you should medicate her so she shuts up” I knew nothing I did would ever change my situation. He was happy and I was miserable and he didn’t care. I was stressed about divorce drama but I felt like a weight had lifted off my shoulders emotionally not having this constant point of stress in my life. I found more strength than I knew was possible and it fueled my drive to keep doing better for myself and keep being a cheap bitch and saving money as security blanket so if anything happened I’d never run the risk of losing custody of my kids again. I never once in 11yrs regretted my divorce. I never missed him in my life. I never once feel like I failed (outside of picking a shitty person) Tl;DR - all these people regretting divorce or missing SO - I wanted to share how I never regretted mine and it made my life better in so many ways. 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If so and you dont want to get divorced how are you coping ? How are you trying to win your spouse back ? Is your spouse divorcing you due to your infidelity? If so and you dont want to get divorced how are you coping ? How are you trying to win your spouse back ?,0.6740625000000016,3.101463281250002,2.2800000000000007,92.965,88.0625,5.7,17.375,7.1686216300943375,0.12884999999999944,246,6,54,4,8,80,22,64,0.035,0.841,0.124,0.8448,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,0,14,0,2,8,2,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,4,0,10,12,10,0,4,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,14,2,6,12,0,4,0,0,0,0,22,0,0,2,4,40,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4405353382443557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6714506913707207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2993238074942918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3889708542350968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379193951794593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,domodomodomo31,2019/03/23,"advice my cousin is struggling in her marriage rn, and i really want to be there for her. however, im good friends with her husband and if they split shit could get weird. personally im pretty retarded when it comes to relationships, but i want to be able to help her thru this. any advice?",3.1926315789473665,5.226379842105263,4.382315789473683,83.94821052631579,75.14035087719299,8.068771929824562,25.43508771929825,8.841846274778883,1.909851929824561,229,8,46,5,5,75,43,57,0.124,0.675,0.201,0.6041,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,1,0,2,5,1,1,0,0,4,1,1,0,0,9,8,5,0,4,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,4,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,2,8,5,0,3,0,0,0,0,12,1,1,1,1,28,10,0,0.2222226457785214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4343067950930396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15111901946862094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19142513240040285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17742670023288884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716886648813786,0.0,0.11610216051781302,0.0,0.0,0.18638981199700688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14895115521301028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4800771820765514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1940362427667784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22608032124001826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423615172217759,0.0,0.0,0.2385839570625615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281083524664239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23231535907698064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26214534814078266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,NegativeWar0,2019/03/23,"My wife said she’s scared of me and that she’s thinking about divorce. I’ll be the first one to admit I have not handled some situations well and probably overreacted to them. But she’s making it sound like I’m mad 24/7 and she’s scared to be around me. I got drunk (I have not gotten drunk for years prior to this, and won’t drink again) and I did get pissed and break something in our house because she didn’t want to let me the bedroom. She says I scare her (she was saying this while crying), she says she doesn’t feel safe with me (this is new to me) and I was trying to calm her down and ask why? This was happening as we were about to sleep and happened after she forgot to do something I asked. She said I yell at her and make me feel like shit and scared. We have a few boys. I’ll be honest I’m not one to beg her to stay, or try to go above and beyond to make her stay. However I would like the marriage to work and continue, and I didn’t know she felt that way about me (or as she says) She doesn’t seem completely detached from me yet, as she fell asleep on my chest yesterday as I tried to calm her down. What should I try to do? Do I drink now? No, I haven’t for six months and that was an isolated incident. Have I ever put my hands in her that could be threatening in anyway? No Have I ever gotten mad and said some things I shouldn’t/reacted in a way I shouldn’t have yeah. 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Mind you this is my stepson which is actually my ex-wife son. I would like to give him a car but I'm worried that the x will take it away from him and sell it which would really piss me off. Is there any way to stop this from happening thanks,1.4342307692307692,2.3519644743589763,3.0953846153846136,96.02461538461542,77.33333333333333,6.7384615384615385,20.69230769230769,7.1686216300943375,0.1059076923076927,271,6,70,3,6,90,50,78,0.119,0.767,0.114,-0.3377,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,1,4,1,0,4,0,8,1,1,0,0,8,14,2,0,3,1,1,0,2,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,2,0,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,0,0,12,3,11,10,0,11,0,0,0,0,9,3,1,0,4,47,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.2260719759980856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1575403908726183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21765723434231266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19705443928242974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444690512187415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20486091526971567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15528040941304694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263599888248905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2339159760934777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14841076356371238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19368261661959307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17418352174291987,0.0,0.0,0.21328634087675835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18388518188457792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352674212647936,0.0,0.493705280865245,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RestrictedAsteroid,2019/03/24,"Crossposting from divorce sub. Looking for advice about alimony and what ground she realistically to stand on with all this. Hey everyone I’m a 30yo guy in the military currently going through divorce in California. I’m not asking for legal advice so much as everyone’s opinion. My ex is asking for 1200 a month in alimony and asking for us to stay married for an additional year which is technically fraud against the government for healthcare. I won’t do that but does anyone else think that the alimony is to high? She is living in a much lower cost of living area on the east coast and is staying with her parents. I’ll post the most recent text I got from her. I have an attorney appointment this week to discuss everything just wondering everyone’s thoughts. https://imgur.com/a/lpScxdc",7.030279720279722,8.733397377622378,7.233153846153853,68.67434615384617,64.73426573426573,11.034685314685316,35.978321678321684,11.00357731598739,4.543302657342657,647,31,103,19,10,209,95,143,0.048,0.952,0.0,-0.6581,3,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,10,0,8,0,0,0,1,15,19,6,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,6,0,0,3,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,2,1,9,0,25,16,4,20,0,0,1,0,15,10,0,3,5,69,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2888282990094062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333496426918323,0.15142357219889696,0.0,0.0,0.4144781036823659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12932796992122506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12345571010535528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4236457519895195,0.1328199579381272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08398982936006913,0.0,0.1181974578474264,0.0,0.0,0.14633074737855548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15614335343223648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609943719201712,0.0,0.12410248696193253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796086939326532,0.0,0.2172784972050344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640981600116134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153752922765933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459202202212935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3150390739267672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469489538719426,0.0,0.11732507302401313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1777675992773203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11854450653706408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1602669256061856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951689305372096 divorce,Choosewhatswrite,2019/03/24,"Hard Day Today has been a really tough day. Found out my STBX and his mistress are planning their happily ever after while I’m over here lonely wondering if there is any light at the end of the tunnel. All I can think about is their happiness and my daughter being mothered by another woman. Where’s my happiness? Why am I the loser in all this? I feel like I’m screaming at the top of my lungs but no one can hear me. My hope is dwindling today. Maybe tomorrow will be a little brighter. 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My wife and I have been married almost 10 years, together almost 20. We only got married because we were having a child (planned), but were living in Arizona, where the law stated that if we weren't married, my name wouldn't have been on the birth certificate... instead it would have just said ""Unknown"" and to change it we would have needed paternity tests, court rulings, and tons of additional paperwork. &#x200B; At this point, however, we live in Washington state, and my job has only catastrophic coverage health insurance and only for me (to cover the rest of my family would be another $700/month). Our kids get the state medical insurance, but because of my job she and I have been kicked off the state insurance. We live paycheck to paycheck already, are barely above federal poverty line, and certainly can't afford even the cheapest health plan which costs $175 a month AND has a >$5,000 deductible... Yet, she needs medications and doctor appointments from time to time (as we all do!). &#x200B; To qualify for state coverage, we figured maybe we should get divorced. That way she could still see doctors and have medical coverage, as would our kids. However, in Washington state, we have to prove the “irretrievable breakdown” of the marriage... And wait 90 days. And pay hundreds of dollars in court fees... And paperwork...... &#x200B; Has anyone else been thru a similar situation? What should we do? Any other ideas?",7.419776087874951,9.069499091254757,6.933428390367558,71.37734579636673,63.79087452471482,10.711364596535699,37.044571187156734,10.746095033038511,4.469612758766372,1203,59,190,32,18,375,149,263,0.042,0.947,0.012,-0.8265,5,0,0,0,2,0,75.0,13,0,0,2,7,1,0,0,13,0,32,8,0,0,3,49,41,19,0,11,4,2,0,0,0,7,8,1,0,3,8,25,0,1,3,0,4,0,3,0,0,0,9,2,25,1,24,23,3,25,0,0,1,0,26,10,0,3,8,128,33,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1861476548325666,0.0,0.1025702438564458,0.0,0.0,0.302126811269689,0.3388253684170178,0.06320771304627383,0.09746390607543276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06499128524757512,0.09523603790435688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332027129819355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832648176554257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07421128058203395,0.0,0.0,0.05994366222859929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19027208908533755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07764598679298994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613911663943039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762294382183704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14568421774837198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07433887216034205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2963975967943317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10492678862804662,0.0,0.0,0.18447276225889586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24622391549808814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933785902363937,0.0,0.0,0.2809054862599531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1483801453846529,0.0,0.0,0.13783927931365222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2120730437741675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0878657445916667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08841467302841903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07406738807165245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10447725747875974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07422825866476006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10839725655908616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07377766264030787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26410989206861035,0.0,0.3388253684170178,0.05985535636455434 divorce,hd8383,2019/03/24,"Co-parenting makes me feel like Superman!!!! Not because we’re good at it... Because if I can get through things with the kid’s crazy mom, I can get through anything!!! A reminder for anybody who’s on the fence and thinks it’s magically going to get easier with divorce, think again. Sure, there’s a fairytale or two but the majority of divorces with kids ends up as difficult if not more than while being married. And for those that have made it through divorce and are sad/upset that your ex is dating. Don’t be. That crazy? Not your problem anymore. Somebody else (god help them) gets to wake up next to that everyday. 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First time posting. I asked for a divorce about a month ago, shortly after finding out my husband had been having an affair for almost five months. Before finding out, I had been repeatedly sitting him down and asking him to work on our marriage, asking him if he was happy... etc. It felt like typical marriage issues, lack of communication, lack of intimacy.. etc. He kept repeating that everything was fine and making me feel as though it was just me with the issues. Fast forward to the other day, we finally sat down to work on our divorce paperwork. He kept repeating that even though he had made a mistake, I was making a bigger one by choosing to not work on our marriage. He said that he just needed “a wake up call” and was now ready to put effort into it. We do have a daughter together, but I can’t imagine continuing our marriage after this. How is it fair that he gets to act however he chooses and I’m just expected to work through it. Am I being unreasonable? 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I’m 31 and my husband (of only 10 months!) has decided to leave me with no warning or real explanation other than he doesn’t think he can be married.Apart from being entirely devastated, I’m terrified that I won’t ever be able to have children. I don’t want to rush into anything just to have kids. Should I freeze my eggs? I can’t believe I’m on reddit asking this, I just feel so completely lost and confused. 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Tlwe currently live in different states. I texted her today if she'd like to talk, that I'm ready to be a listening ear. They've been married 4 years. They started counseling about 6 months ago, he was very closed off and the therapist finally told them he would have to stop therapy with them because the husband was so closed off and continued to blame my family member for everything. Of course, I am hearing one side, but knowing his personality, it is believable. The husband came home from work yesterday and told her she needed to leave the house. They do not have any children. I'm currently waiting for her phone call. Any words of advice I can pass along? 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First it was offered by my Catholic parish as part of the Pope's call for parishes to offer pastoral care to those who were divorced. The retreat was actually started 15 years ago, but attendance had dropped off and this was the first time they had offered it in two years. As soon as I heard about it, I jumped at the chance to go. There were 4 themes: out of darkness into light, be still, come to me, and hope for the future. There were witness testimony, time for reflection, sharing in small groups, and rituals. I would like to share a few things I took from the experience. First, it was very refreshing and reassuring to be among others who had experienced either a similar situation or experienced grief a similar way. It was especially comforting to be among those who share my faith, because I was feeling a fair amount of shame that was self generated more the anything and they helped me see that no one in our community wanted to shame me. Second, I learned that recovery from divorce is like recovering from drug or alcohol addiction; we will always be in recovery. Third, it hit me so hard that I was attempting to rush the grieving process. I knew the steps, I was doing the self care, but I've also been keeping myself so busy, that I never slowed down to really process all the I lost. I need to take time and just be still and be open to sobbing and crying and feeling the hurt. Fourth, forgiveness is hard to define, but must be done for me to be free. Last, I experienced such love, empathy, compassion, and hope that while I sobbed several times I left feeling quiet on the inside and with a more practical, realistic view of where I am in recovery. If you hear of a similar retreat or seminar, I highly recommend it. 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No kids. Me 29, H 34. No joint property. My money tied up with his. In a new country, I am a 'dependent' on his visa. Long version: How did you initiate the talk? I am done with the marriage. I tried to fix the marriage many times; met with stonewalling and family 'disciplining' me. Background: emotional abuse, gaslighting, coercion. Now: I feel like we are at a crossroads now. He wants kids. I don't. Not now. Not ever. I feel like I should tell him with finality and have the dreaded talk about splitting with him. I feel horrible though. How did you initiate the talk of divorce? I feel like there are a lot of things we need to sort - I am financially dependent right now, he might not be ready to end the marriage altogether. Although I am certain about ending it, I feel like I still care about him. So my question is: any tips on preparing him for bringing up divorce? 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Even after 17 months of separation and 1 month of actual divorce, the silence that befalls my house after my boys leave from spending the weekend with me is pretty tough to handle. I thought that it would get easier with time, but it doesn’t seem to be happening. All I want to do is sink into my depressive thoughts for the rest of the day. No bueno. Any suggestions to help alleviate this crushing sense of loss would be greatly appreciated. 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I’m not going through a divorce nor am I divorced, but I really thought this would be the best place to ask a question like this. My parents have been happily married for years but only recently have they started having problems. I was talking to my mum about this and she said that divorce may be an option but they’ll try to work things out. Anyway today they had a massive fight and my dad walked out, and tbh I’m really scared. My parents love each other so much and they never got into a domestic or anything like that so don’t worry. But I’m just a little worried that if this carries on will my parents get a divorce, and if so... what happens to me ? 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I’m heartbroken and it hurts like hell. Married for almost 10 years, two kids, but looking back my marriage was never great. Husband is too close to his parents, and over the years got much closer, to the point where his parents moved next door to us. There’s been so much secrecy, gaslight, control, belittle.. but I was too naive to believe things could change, could improve. Just recently found out how much meddling his parents have done. How much BS they have talked into his head, how much they have told him what to do, how to behave, what to tell the kids (mommy is crazy), how to set me up (yes I found prof of all this). I’m grieving what my marriage could have been. What wonderful, happy and successful family we could have been. I tried everything I could and I knew under the sun...But it’s over. I can’t take it anymore the meddling, gaslighting, pettiness and greed that you and your family have. Money is too important for you honey, too important to your parents as well. I will wash my hands clean and leave it all behind. Keep your fucking money, house, and all your shit. I will keep my heart and soul, I will continue to work hard to be a good mom and person, I wanna be an example of good human being for my kids. But I hope to God one day you realized how fucked this was, how much power and control you gave your parents, I hope you regret it all. But then, again, you are a narcissist, so this may never happen. May God help and heal our hearts and souls! Divorce sucks and I don’t wish this to anyone. 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Because I was a poor single mother when we met with a GED and a shitty background, and he an accomplished, privileged dude (prep-school, Ivy League) who is 10 years my senior, I have never felt that I could openly complain about this relationship. This is me venting and wondering what I should do. I continued supporting myself for the first 4 years of our relationship (I had my own place with my child, he had his own place), and it was in year 5 that we agreed I could quit my job and go to school full time shortly after we were married, which had been my longtime dream. He became my and my child's sole supporter. We don’t live together. He continues moving around as I stay in the house he bought and work my ass off to complete my degree from a rigorous college that I worked incredibly hard to get into. I view this situation as such: He is supporting me 100% while I become a more valuable member of the team. His financial support now is an investment in our long term partnership. He will ""retire"" very soon, and I will be getting back into the workforce around that same time, and earning far more than I was able to before. Our financial situation will be solid, as he will be collecting a pension and beginning a second, more lucrative career. But he doesn't see me as a partner, a life collaborator, an equal. Any criticism is me being ""ungrateful"". ​ I used to adore him, but my god, do I fucking hate him now. I want to leave but my child is attached to him, i’m also afraid of how it will make me look to our friends and family. These are the problems. (And yes, I suggested marriage counseling. I even floated the idea of an open marriage. He doesn’t seem to think anything is wrong that we should work on together.) I am his arm piece. He is not interested in anything I do. He doesn't give a shit about what i'm studying, what I want to do, what I like, how I'm feeling, who I am. I feel alone when I am with him. Almost every minute of his presence gives me anxiety. He just wants me to go along with whatever he enjoys and praise him. He would rather drink than have sex, and it is this part in particular that pushes me from being mildly irritated by him to hating him. I am hot now, but I won't be forever, and I would like to be fucked by someone who actually wants to fuck me. He requires it to be scheduled and doesn't put any effort into warming me up. In this realm, he's lazy, boring, and predictable. He's not intimate, not passionate, not deep, not kind. He gets passive aggressive when he's home when I don't give him attention because I am doing school work. He gets mad, silent, and moody when I don't drop everything i'm doing and make him food. He picks the music, the movie, the place, the whatever. He's loud and inconsiderate. He has an anger problem, and an aversion to rational discussion. He calls women girls. He likes Ronald Reagan. He's not funny. He's shallow. He makes fun of poor people, overweight people, unattractive people, really, anyone who he thinks he's better than. He lies, he exaggerates, he compares himself to others. he lives beyond his means and sucks at handling the finances, which he won't allow me to be involved in. He only texts me to complain about the weather and his commute, or to tell me how great he is. He is dull. When we argue, he shuts down and refuses to talk. It is always up to me to reach out and try to fix things. At this point I refuse to do it anymore. I rely on him for financial support for at least another year. And again, I am mortified of how a split would make me look to everyone we know. And most of all, how it would affect my child. I feel stuck, and I am fucking tired. ​ ​",3.6657562129623145,5.074451121495329,4.895217482959737,83.37070807860775,72.49799732977303,8.139985477712973,26.89201976904879,8.6894789155246,1.9161521139296849,2946,103,592,54,57,975,342,749,0.17,0.701,0.129,-0.99,1,1,1,0,0,0,113.0,11,0,0,13,29,42,12,1,29,1,71,14,3,13,2,113,125,51,0,17,14,1,7,3,2,13,3,1,1,7,33,48,3,3,13,3,5,5,16,21,0,2,13,12,96,21,81,87,15,73,1,1,4,7,103,35,7,7,34,390,129,16,0.06575884062634248,0.0,0.0641711426245096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316959600848675,0.06810632706019862,0.0,0.05258732109087134,0.05471662323200699,0.0,0.0,0.0894365331852842,0.06895387801565725,0.05030533308929016,0.0,0.06521509997374862,0.04598011033513959,0.0,0.10822784563827426,0.11707861968252455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050564489390667024,0.0,0.08017195778865288,0.07262547306207473,0.05595593000554978,0.0,0.0,0.05815835069849864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714712855863858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0689468932824215,0.0,0.0,0.1575092501837192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06441862916172549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043433094047302695,0.0,0.05540465938323375,0.06283539025167573,0.059099805800435674,0.0,0.061991582555572335,0.0,0.09974893695829166,0.0,0.06313879936457538,0.0,0.0,0.05593443624384761,0.07951585110778357,0.0,0.050805117146055165,0.24317195414085074,0.1374251205248286,0.1892456158178127,0.0747445290820547,0.0,0.0,0.07249935393964342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05890700484857798,0.1298464820473766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06596147879635933,0.0,0.0,0.07587687313185289,0.0,0.07423372687354972,0.0,0.0,0.0652555025660804,0.0,0.0,0.06847771326930502,0.03613933906598557,0.0,0.0,0.13925823479253538,0.0,0.0,0.04644741385434261,0.09637934376807136,0.0,0.11613252206173895,0.0581945046442768,0.11044172867782387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17557814697539803,0.0,0.0,0.07163065530679792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06989124076304996,0.0,0.0,0.05071727179496949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05001256150317954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712104162460901,0.0,0.13676670084030934,0.0,0.2061119771962613,0.0,0.06216335952757247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12584465910799567,0.0,0.06610579754312791,0.0,0.06994262142180302,0.0,0.0,0.04212679715658348,0.0,0.0,0.1412007705471709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19965437223242227,0.05240128215339837,0.11972875755378175,0.0,0.0,0.06750050492300881,0.0,0.14783138410285238,0.0,0.0,0.055717252267196433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07009017461552874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37311176532627977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05285446519484261,0.0574761251456496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043687251749399504,0.0842712196955039,0.0,0.0,0.0766890175756168,0.07558011378374083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0446459362616212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05679452491424949,0.0,0.054257930339645134,0.15514507181691511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561942142255,0.0,0.07131265757493127,0.191492876639957,0.0,0.0,0.1868527746705795,0.07189696922916199,0.0,0.2117326868754294 divorce,MovingForward11,2019/03/24,"I want it, but it still hurts like hell My husband (47m) and I (38f) are nearing 10 years married this fall. I've been unhappy for a solid 5 years. I've tried to leave twice before and he talks me into staying. He says he'll go to marriage counseling or try to change. We only went to counseling once... and he'd forgotten about it and got high. So yeah he went to counseling high. Not much has improved. I struggle to put into words what's not working for me, because a lot of is just inherently HIM. He's a good guy. He doesn't abuse me. He takes care of home (laundry, dishes, grocery, etc.) He's stable and dependable. But he's soooo negative. He's cynical about the world. He's not interested in any activities unless they are HIS interest (like family activities). I've tried to include him in things my daughter (17) and I are interested in, and the result is always me crying over his poor behavior. We don't communicate so we have no connection. I have ZERO interest in sex with this guy because we have no intimacy/connection. I can't see how he's having much fun in this marriage either. A couple days ago I sat him down and laid out my reasons for wanting a divorce. He is having a hard time understanding why I want to leave, he's looking for a reason. He wants me to say he's a monster, or that there's another guy... because being unhappy isn't good enough so I MUST be MENTAL. Yes, he thinks i'm unstable. I left and got a hotel room for the weekend, and I asked him to start looking for a friend to stay with until he could get his own place. He's taking me seriously this time - I heard he had family at the house yesterday. It's breaking my heart because I know he was perfectly happy. And now my need for happiness is hurting him, and that hurts me. I'm grieving the loss of our relationship, even though it wasn't great. This is hard. I need this Reddit, b/c my misery needs the company. &#x200B;",1.9276520316334853,4.1051549585492255,4.05396236705754,84.09002181619856,79.72538860103626,7.379220070902645,25.183801472593398,8.371475516178862,1.826482901554404,1498,58,301,32,38,513,202,386,0.204,0.647,0.149,-0.9712,1,0,0,0,2,0,66.0,5,0,1,3,12,24,2,1,16,2,27,3,1,5,2,51,56,23,1,9,10,2,2,2,1,2,0,3,2,3,15,21,1,0,5,2,1,5,11,9,0,2,10,8,42,15,39,40,7,38,1,5,3,1,51,18,1,4,14,179,57,1,0.0,0.10313477925081137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07716065520089431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0724288961623026,0.09431385024803407,0.10576990808204907,0.05919397975023465,0.09127488093714607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813758676017172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2122487121027646,0.0,0.07406937790828985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0887487707386559,0.0,0.09208268247706296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06949881317167611,0.0963142793364365,0.09561548297920236,0.056137198406734465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994135354375704,0.09707883186530547,0.057492785061331035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16411765312402915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725119967075636,0.0,0.04547772320662101,0.0,0.04947000943963201,0.1460194063698493,0.13923660519383335,0.09596805994520526,0.0,0.2585664303385455,0.0,0.18532327837854248,0.15595148550446886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031494321576206,0.0,0.1839368701444443,0.08731381463720847,0.0,0.0,0.1004389130865158,0.27955228315977365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04783797467701488,0.0,0.0,0.18433740300030094,0.09457527804912252,0.0,0.0,0.08505214770984029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.146192729483206,0.0,0.0,0.07400303987431522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08772147193847996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12797703471549549,0.1936295852653128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927007025131638,0.0,0.06620208649508975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09094410505350987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08750485068633848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.178994708622346,0.0,0.09345437770011884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13844427894546446,0.0,0.0,0.06936405793477175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06161130999281505,0.1855580143423841,0.06951471313445995,0.0,0.0,0.09099894049886116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13089488735890928,0.06996394048439665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05782921594333128,0.05577529332279632,0.08552184101686047,0.0,0.10151395613763302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17729470628243302,0.0,0.0,0.09061751926569196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20536695492106224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16138425063733022,0.07854509744684303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06337021940830821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10576990808204907,0.11210900005170736 divorce,anonymous3123,2019/03/24,The worst pain Divorce is the worst kind of pain. I have literally been stripped of every ounce of happiness I had. It’s like the color and flavor in life is gone. There are moments that I feel ok but the overwhelming amount of pain that proceeds overwhelms the fraction of happiness. My soon to be ex wife seems to be suffering just as bad. I muddied the waters by trying to move on but it’s fake. I feel nothing anymore. I miss her so much that it feels like jumping into an icy lake when the cold strips the breath right out of your lung. As bad as it was at times being together. I would trade 1000 fortunes just for one more day. Sorry if I ruin someone’s day with this post but I had to get it out.,2.657708333333336,4.313850465277781,3.5941666666666663,90.6675,75.59722222222223,6.466666666666668,24.5,7.1686216300943375,0.8793166666666661,553,18,118,6,12,177,96,144,0.24,0.669,0.091,-0.9807,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,0,1,0,0,6,19,0,2,9,1,12,7,2,0,0,16,19,10,0,2,6,2,3,2,0,1,4,0,0,0,9,5,1,0,4,0,1,3,0,13,0,1,5,6,12,6,22,10,5,18,0,5,1,0,5,7,0,2,9,80,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16693629836555013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2810939562520283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21711546871730186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14182373029197615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2553353181765992,0.1202536673711142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08794451335691095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583769015141778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17528787011469493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11889515373920895,0.1644732676329987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17890618930056906,0.1237405618106688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16151540429678662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11406351401045947,0.0,0.5373390739432268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1612118420296099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14375132440815125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15323963010085262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14262389925537802,0.0,0.0,0.1884295879887941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09815350068095743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11428376770992354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957549154794997,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RoxyLaRoux,2019/03/25,"Domestic violence and divorce I'm seeing my attorney for the first time tomorrow. I've been separated from my husband who was really abusive for years although not physically until the night I left him with my 3 children. I took care of child support and custody on my own but feel with my abuser I really didn't get what I think is best for the kids. It has been over a year and I have the courge now to find legal aid to help me. Any advice is appreciated. What do I bring or share with her. He has been quite neglectful as far as the kids are concerned. For example, not enough food in the house, not washing laundry, talking bad about me etc... Have you been here before? What helped?",2.3012063492063533,4.737398385185188,3.7292328042328053,85.50083333333335,79.96296296296295,7.116402116402117,24.45767195767195,8.192908349453996,1.6436560846560848,542,20,107,11,14,178,97,135,0.126,0.727,0.147,0.3125,0,0,0,0,3,0,15.0,0,1,0,3,3,6,0,0,7,0,14,2,0,0,0,15,23,9,0,0,5,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,5,6,1,1,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,1,7,2,16,4,18,16,4,15,0,1,1,0,15,5,0,1,8,76,21,1,0.0,0.4281617858492772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17656223000533394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12287125771487525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15086352136099154,0.0,0.0,0.1537487031645966,0.0,0.18961662086262426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842192926936044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866947834413156,0.20151032620397025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135921607035737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514182440649916,0.15368964529552875,0.21848370651043308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094399887826166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24221723835240264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20848497814351327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19631360168148945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16955961381063422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1921795837986786,0.0,0.0,0.2315014844953996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14398168656026364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2050379648722816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14522688621848268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11577495665783308,0.0,0.0,0.10535824351457128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007464771339565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23270903385163405 divorce,nothingtoseehere678,2019/03/25,"STBX (34F) only communicates through email and I can tell it’s not her writing me. Tired of the lies! What’s the best way to prove this in court?? My STBX sideswiped me with a BS divorce. I couldn’t afford a lawyer by the time we went to court for our temp orders and got screwed. Supervised only visits with my child even though I have a 2 bedroom apt. and everything she needs. Since then she’s made many decisions through terrible judgment, withholding information about where she is with my kid and who they’re with plus stalking me on social media so she can report me to her lawyer. She has friends looking at my page to see what I post and screenshotting to send to her. Even her lawyer doesn’t care about our kid. I sent STBX multiple emails telling her this shit is unacceptable and she didn’t respond, just got her lawyer to send me a letter saying I was violating the injunction in our temp orders and messaging her is “harassment.” After that I got an email from STBX saying she has a new email and to only message her there. Whatever ok but the responses I’m getting at that email don’t sound like my ex at all. In the last couple I sent I said stuff I KNOW would set her off and nothing but a clinical response. When I saw her today for the supervised thing she didn’t say anything about my messages and basically ignored me the whole time. I have an attorney now and she said STBX has to answer when I ask about my child so isn’t she violating the order if she gets someone else to do it and not even reading them?? What kind of legal punishment can she get for lying about this and how do I catch her in it?? Help!",4.087314814814814,5.4362111882716055,4.607098765432099,86.07694444444445,71.37654320987654,8.11604938271605,27.08024691358025,8.59863814320734,1.7728172839506169,1291,44,266,22,24,410,168,324,0.109,0.841,0.051,-0.9628,1,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,4,0,1,1,18,14,6,0,17,1,21,4,1,2,2,40,41,24,0,4,6,1,0,1,1,1,2,6,1,4,14,19,0,2,6,1,0,7,8,8,0,0,13,9,55,6,39,26,4,33,0,0,3,1,63,10,2,1,11,181,69,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10616105980728596,0.0,0.12060332478662765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13538398312733665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13153035583220268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1427428383222192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10776807486561596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556220130362026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594239876396895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966982245743117,0.0,0.20220114823066027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30953398126396714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08647009518751404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343400410675455,0.07089839982221889,0.10515722095595104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06302588283454225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833266516801247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206872732239105,0.0,0.1307919759489238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09565641693819864,0.0,0.12459493228378847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.123784869038993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943449443094322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355221992635107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12904104921958842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24542875931369715,0.3077725773732578,0.0,0.0,0.102801189765124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13242294712405034,0.1067152107362658,0.0,0.0,0.1315055118977042,0.10930648236323512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14768116393557426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2255141021460197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570594597780283,0.0,0.12674787590576925,0.0,0.15044903339603938,0.14827357843663214,0.12228273484162333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023990678620454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11958998268578667,0.0,0.1440307463666509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164225930015944,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gtb4201,2019/03/25,"My (39/m) wife (32/f) of ten years left me and I’m having a hard time. Can’t get it out of my head. Maybe I am in denial or something.. posted this on r/relationships and someone mentioned I should post to r/divorce. Didn’t even occur to me to pay here. Married for 10 years. She was the stepmom to my daughter from age 5-15. I loved her with all my heart. Had our typical problems, but always talked it out with emphasis on improving. Intimacy declined over last several years. We discussed it often, agreed to work on it, but it never improved. She became distant and uninterested in the last year or so of our relationship. October of 2018 she went out with her friends and didn’t come home until 2am. Never contacted me letting me know she was ok, or when she would return. She had started going out occasionally with her friends more than often. I had no problem with this but she usually updated me often while out. I was angry at her behavior and we ignored each other for the next couple days. That weekend she says she needs to go to her moms house to think about things. I get an email 2 days later stating she is leaving me. Comes home while I am at work and throws her clothes in trash bags to stay with her friends. Couple weeks later she has a new apartment. Bought a new dog. Paperwork for divorce is initiated. It’s been several months. I have packed up all her belongings for her. Finances split. Divorce items agreed upon amicably. Only thing tying us together is our home which will be sold this summer. She has been in a new relationship last several months. Has stopped all communication with my daughter. Any conversation we have is negative. She removed me and my family from all social media. Won’t talk to my parents who initially reached out to her and offered support. Here I am... single father to a teenage daughter. 2 dogs and two cats from our marriage. The home we built as a couple I still live in. She is now free of any responsibility and has a new relationship and social night life. I’m angry. And hurt. I suspect she cheated on me or was not faithful to me emotionally. The fact that someone could step in to a relationship after a 10 year marriage is beyond me. Personally I have tried to date to get my mind re focused but it is hard. I’m depressed. I see a counselor weekly and now I’m not wanting to go because I hate talking about the situation. I’m eating right, staying active and exercising but I still feel down. I know it will take time, but it almost hurts more now. But at least I’m not in the bathroom crying anymore so my daughter can’t see me. When does it get better? I have this anger and hurt on my mind every day. It’s starting to frustrate me that I can’t get it out of my head. I want her to feel the hurt that I have experienced. I’m moving from the west coast to east coast this summer for work. My daughter will move with her mom on the west coast. I’m scared of being alone. I also know that when I sell our home and move that I have no reason to ever see or speak to her again. That is good and bad thing that I’m not sure how to interpret. I just want her out of my head. I have been so hurt and disrespected. tl;dr! Wife of ten years left me. I suspect she cheated. Can’t get her out of my head and desperately want to move on. 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Divorced in Dec 2018 (California), moved out with 100% physical and legal custody of our 3 year old in January. She wants to initiate some court action and claims she needs my address for service. I’ve intentionally withheld this because we’re half a mile down the road, and I don’t want her over here causing problems. I take our daughter over for supervised visitation 3-4x/week, and recommended she just serve me there. I totally get her point, I’d want to know where my kid lived, too. 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Abusive relationship. Got the courage to leave him 3 years ago. He slammed me. Made up lies about me. Cheating and stuff. People told me to let him talk- he’d ruin himself. Keep your head high, keep quiet. Well gossip is gossip. When one person doesn’t talk and the other cries to people constantly- he got all the sympathy. People actually got mad at me for not talking. Not confiding- said well we obviously weren’t friend since I wouldn’t talk to them. Me- fully well knowing that nothing is a secret and they all would have told person A or B or him directly. He told me I wouldn’t have a life in the town we were in. 2 years I stuck it out. Finally I had enough of being alienated and not being able to leave my house without him driving by or texting people I’m hanging out with. I moved an hour away. Lawyer 1 said I’d have the kids right away. Judge said nope. Start with Lawyer 2. Lotsa money. Psych evals. Psych evals said said Dad is angry. Swears at kids. Has anger issues. Son tells evaluator that Dad hits them. I got this in the bag right? Nope. Judge says you can’t move the kids. Relocating them from their schools and friends is worse then them living with an angry man who hits. Oh. But he has to do anger management classes. I fucked my whole life up. Moral of the story. Stay with the angry SOB cause as the judge said- you don’t matter. The kids matter. 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Or divorce appeal process? I’m just looking for any advice or info from anyone who has went through the divorce appeal process. Or had any success when filing a motion to reconsider, enlarge, or amend. Due to a couple of different reasons, IMO, a woefully inadequate attorney and a very biased family court judge... the outcome of my divorce trial was EXTREMELY one-sided. I realized my attorney was in over her head and not doing her job only a week before the trial, at which point I spoke to several people who suggested I just ride it out and seemed to think I was anxiously exaggerating. I live in a small community with only a few lawyers. I have a meeting with a new attorney, from a larger metro area who specializes in family law, this week about filing appeal. The first step is to file a motion to reconsider, enlarge or amend... which I don’t have a lot of high hopes for given the bias the family court judge showed in his initial ruling. But, I was just wondering if anyone here has had success this way. Or success after filing an appeal? As it stands, I’m going to have to file for public assistance after being a mostly stay at home mom for the past 7 years (married 10+ years), while my ex earns a 6 figure income. *For some unknown reason, the judge decided to impute income for me at $40,000 a year when I have earned under $10,000 the past 7 years. I was not awarded ANY of my ex spouse’s 401K (which was 100% earned during the marriage), nor was my ex spouse made responsible for any of the debt accumulated during our marriage. Basically, I was awarded approximately 30% of the equity in our house, and that was it.",6.556541353383459,6.812745422360251,7.6200948022229475,70.61540863027133,65.27329192546584,10.25720823798627,32.164759725400465,10.064110947511567,3.2588795031055904,1334,49,232,28,19,453,168,322,0.064,0.87,0.066,0.6653,6,0,0,0,3,0,50.0,2,0,0,10,7,8,0,0,28,0,21,1,1,3,0,37,33,18,0,2,14,6,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,12,8,0,0,9,1,1,7,4,0,0,1,15,2,22,8,44,17,4,41,0,0,1,0,23,15,0,14,16,155,34,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223550502467218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3405919581130639,0.0,0.0,0.14145314870610595,0.0,0.17510132890388772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065456088796807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1385439411738298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081917683906166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3541142596402219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1065046826377713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116047718876863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12850293514436056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1322926314382425,0.12559716048442435,0.12436309043314915,0.0,0.14447704911557605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12425291212143245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1105638872642606,0.0,0.10514597136117801,0.0,0.0,0.1064501844759486,0.0,0.11847797603086566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1466459816595835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12092987061050706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08484642918178185,0.1904576982800659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23905674087676024,0.08680576192758978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836516684138405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2574761764574568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11398768077583675,0.0,0.14145314870610595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13345860447952493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08023035639475817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10331245006588988,0.0,0.09938691566514776,0.20087393241675325,0.0,0.0,0.11607214569180893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578633259058767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3225279328305108 divorce,Vehemence0,2019/03/25,"Just need to vent mildly Me [33m] and STBX [33f] have separated a few weeks ago, and things are finally rolling through the final stages. We still live together, and the split is mutual. No kids, no big assets. I signed over one of my trucks to her, bank accounts are split back to our own. I really started to lose passion with her over a year ago. At that time, I was also diagnosed with cancer. Through chemo/radiation, it seemed to just keep going as normal. No intimacy, and we barely spoke to each other. When I finally told her, she was blindsided. But, a few days later, she told me she didn't feel herself since the wedding, and we've grown apart. My only problem, I'm terrified of the future. I've got a new job. I'm still getting follow up scans. And as much as I hate being alone, and miss physical contact, I'm more or less used to it. My move is official for next week. Power and internet are scheduled to change over, and it's all starting to get real. We've decided on a pro-se divorce, as there's nothing we want from each other than the loss of the marriage title. I'm happy scared right now. I'd ask if anyone else here has gone through that, but, given the name of the sub, I'd be in company here. Thanks for reading.",2.6386919104991406,4.349574429718878,4.151554790590936,86.41686746987953,75.78714859437751,7.313138267355135,24.708548479632817,8.11559375814309,1.417474125071715,959,32,198,16,21,319,161,249,0.099,0.862,0.04,-0.7988,2,1,0,0,1,0,45.0,4,0,0,3,11,9,1,1,13,0,12,3,0,1,1,35,38,19,0,5,6,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,8,16,0,1,3,1,2,5,4,6,0,1,9,3,21,3,33,27,9,38,0,3,1,1,21,10,0,3,22,124,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325222391541973,0.0,0.0,0.13583717237308274,0.0,0.10488471934986927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170672451337893,0.1343839417634295,0.0,0.0,0.122612352750262,0.0,0.0,0.10085020816415348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13874474925819116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08458421613575183,0.0,0.0,0.13311970792665415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10956329134389388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631598036238659,0.0,0.0,0.4310221404196791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704629651091607,0.0,0.07453848944085424,0.0,0.10489674798511764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13961708704968298,0.0,0.12948854919395245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015124046442678,0.11657671606593002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581239290350935,0.0,0.0,0.14672905526080712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13939715924641669,0.09641411997761444,0.0972498756332214,0.0,0.12667045303355318,0.1394849810107787,0.0,0.1285041918915324,0.1258468956358064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08887411826769777,0.099749395261354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549775761931092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311906340407161,0.14928326465176414,0.08402134212621322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200577430410133,0.0,0.0,0.13130917693778496,0.0,0.0,0.11939871506705105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084928884486638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1856645685479701,0.0,0.2094813309983269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.120750033133284,0.0,0.0,0.08713364826066917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0764776177867714,0.0,0.0,0.2506487166516099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132759319674543,0.0,0.0,0.07735870062630544,0.0,0.21040948686544525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0844596110980758 divorce,weirdosfromhere,2019/03/25,"Going on a date on Thursday Just seeking some positive thoughts. Divorced a couple of years ago, long time lurker, first time poster (this fees like AM radio). Two awesome kids, ex and I are business partners -- the business of our kids. 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Curious about getting full custody My wife and I are having some problems (to say the least). We got married when we found out she was pregnant and (although a hasty decision) neither of us regretted it at the time. Fast forward two years later and I'm not so sure it was the best idea. We've gotten to a point where we can't stand to be around each other. I'm scared to even say anything to her for fear of it being misinterpreted and it starting a fight. I shouldn't bore you all with those details though as they're not even what I came here for. I became suspicious of her cheating when she started getting defensive about her phone and hiding it from me (turned off, in her pillowcase) when we would lie down for bed at night. I figured out her pass code easily (2468 real original) and found multiple texts from multiple guys she had clearly been having extramarital relations with and doing hard drugs (Xanax, heroine, ghb whatever that is) with while she was supposed to be watching our daughter. I installed a couple nanny cams after this (without her knowledge) and found that, yes, these things were all taking place right in our home in various locations and even partaking in aforementioned drugs using strange and abnormal methods of consumption. I'm wondering if this evidence is enough for me to obtain full custody of our daughter in the event of a divorce. Although I work full time I'm still a better parent than her. I spend every possible moment with her and my family has already made it clear to me that they'd take care of any daycare needs my job would call for. I can also pass a drug test where I'm sure she wouldn't be able to. TL; DR: Have video and photographic evidence of wife cheating and doing hard drugs in our home instead of supervising daughter. Wondering if this is grounds for full custody, possibly alimony in the event of divorce ",7.696977715877438,7.70812506963788,7.384873259052924,74.08761629526465,62.9275766016713,10.634038997214484,36.61295264623955,10.241411754978122,3.7674934818941512,1536,67,269,31,20,486,199,359,0.107,0.809,0.084,-0.7523,2,0,5,0,3,0,35.0,9,1,1,4,17,15,5,2,12,1,28,6,0,4,6,61,53,26,0,9,5,7,3,0,0,4,6,2,3,1,17,27,0,1,9,1,1,4,7,10,0,1,13,6,39,5,52,31,13,47,0,1,1,0,39,25,0,5,19,196,56,4,0.09483496203325456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1046527388244168,0.0758394848750656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0644910262120302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0780410932909231,0.08442322238912947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995234418017002,0.08387381723696899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09683709942035723,0.1084659322438882,0.09669056421180112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10493308169999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43991379140321707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798986676365376,0.0,0.18791279403940844,0.0,0.07990254571139051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08940196210947186,0.10671569797627636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3119449228052659,0.0,0.0,0.0990947069873275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.075848182476648,0.0,0.0,0.09390152234441328,0.0,0.0,0.2548604954906892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190254398579046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10705712878429197,0.0,0.0,0.09410906654330696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08973513408931857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0703189226982176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08899618757169676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10530300237683192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908235073199798,0.0,0.0896496924900968,0.213824340955222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09074425092444358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1079429488092728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08098853940697026,0.0,0.15083313641100768,0.09494634108817747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342493484800168,0.0,0.07573532318307159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17876165878133488,0.0,0.14260817818471982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06300413482855491,0.0,0.09317486869427064,0.0,0.11059805800830656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10315320614729674,0.0926399778475511,0.0,0.1140747826051101,0.16381391650575872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09141751920654533,0.20568894187285636,0.06904098183915586,0.0,0.0,0.1347360721608747,0.0,0.0,0.06107060626305071 divorce,JollyIndependence,2019/03/25,"Co workers say you'll always care what happens to your EX. I disagree... It's almost a year and a half since I left. Married for 17 years in a dead bedroom to a man who always put his mother and needs first. We lived with his parents because he wouldn't have it any other way. When our marriage was being challenged by his sister and mother's behavior, he never stepped in to correct. There wasn't anymore ""staying for the kids"" after a certain point...did it hurt learning to walk away? Yes, but i did it and am happy and at peace and no longer feel alone!! How amazing that can be for ones health!! Which brings me to this: co workers debate that ""you'll always care about what happens to them because you were married to them"". I disagreed. I have been taken for granted, left with nothing to my name even though I took care of him and paid his parents mortgage for 15 years...(he threated to take custody of the kids, take me for alimony..so many threats)..his mom manipulated my daughter..told her i cheated..i still pay for his medical while i wait for the divorce to go thru any day now... I don't wish him ill-will - but should he step off a cliff..I won't shed a tear. I'll feel sad for my kids and their loss..but for myself- he has taken me for granted, cheated and stolen so much of my life despite how much I tried and gave and fought and did...that he's just someone i used to know. I lost and fell out of love for him a long time ago and he became a stranger to me many years ago with every cold behavior he did putting his family first...why is that so hard for people to grasp? That there's no ill will, but no love?? I did everything for the kids and was always there. I have no regrets. I left way later than i wanted to, just to make sure i wasn't being selfish... &#x200B; Anyhoo - they get child support and so i said ""maybe you feel differently because your experience is different""..they disagree. To each his own..just don't tell me how to feel since you don't want me telling you how to feel LOL..",3.2121776165312714,4.484088022004894,3.923210032336936,90.43425743355158,73.42542787286064,6.2554144648631596,26.396482372426853,6.3737218528115,0.8381251045035101,1567,54,335,10,31,498,208,409,0.15,0.73,0.12,-0.8073,5,1,0,0,1,0,83.0,2,8,4,5,18,19,3,0,13,2,29,6,0,7,4,56,63,29,1,7,5,7,6,0,0,6,4,2,1,6,14,22,0,1,8,0,2,9,12,8,0,3,17,9,54,11,50,37,3,37,0,4,0,2,57,9,0,1,16,206,68,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15640144576482914,0.0,0.08833847482717867,0.09136816428843922,0.0,0.0,0.2936207331428549,0.09558513011608767,0.10719560700576992,0.11998374028067375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08748943344458597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08288455084719744,0.0,0.0,0.16133224900128876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26983511254352865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05689388568008539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216996328714816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058267744624688776,0.0,0.07432821940901115,0.0,0.0792854496619115,0.08629500198953319,0.0831649179147697,0.0,0.22303060652858966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500778849986098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046090728759945854,0.0,0.05013682801301897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15602334560193645,0.0939106484931261,0.07902679720178499,0.0,0.0,0.09377255443374888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09444014599412222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04848279464752197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2875502453027778,0.0,0.06231161072693923,0.0,0.0,0.07789889583671825,0.0780709412845426,0.0,0.0,0.09630133925601793,0.0,0.15924198447200488,0.0,0.058886793895552014,0.1788802152763974,0.08862773211314125,0.0,0.0,0.08887125025959018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10332089738188698,0.0,0.0,0.12970206902783815,0.06541318888383456,0.0680398462470057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464840392923938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0597794027732742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19591327398663871,0.0,0.0,0.06115987031337035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833953656172982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17736870070823632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08391636601277012,0.07015520192436422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459511543523432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07474757894886791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09402959850729536,0.07045171925931808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1001097505732434,0.0831452595003097,0.0,0.13265925213346685,0.0,0.15421439597906544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667461120361131,0.0,0.05144114401276248,0.0,0.0,0.08429692963135042,0.09801443243379802,0.05989483525601675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619279598593387,0.0,0.0,0.1040675736175007,0.14004809676105992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960382637006988,0.0,0.10144736940262944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10719560700576992,0.1704302177614199 divorce,Mrdctou,2019/03/25,"Custody/Relocation Issue I've been officially divorced 8 months. I have two children 14 and 12, A son and daughter. My relationship with my ex-wife is relatively acrimonious. She tends to only communicate through the children whom we share 50/50 custody with. She has a good relationship with our son, as do I. But she does not have a very good relationship, at all,vwith our 12 year old daughter. Last week, for the first time, we met in person, and she told me that she had applied for and been accepted for a 2-year position in Europe (we live in Virginia). She told me at that time that she wanted to maintain 50/50. While remaining open-minded, I said I would think about it. I went and did research, and found that the courts very rarely support a relocation especially when it is voluntary. Moreover, she had this vision that only our son would go with her. So I would have our daughter for two years, and we would each have our son for one year. After doing research, and consulting with my attorney, I sent her an email saying I did not support that arrangement. I did not hear from her. And then two days later, I heard from my kids asking me about Europe, as she I told them, despite the fact we'd agreed that we would not tell the children until we talked again. Has anyone gone through a relocation when you have 50/50 custody? Does anyone have any experience with separating children? Any advice? TL:DL:ex wife wants to take children overseas for a voluntary two-year position. I am resisting because it will obliviate our 50/50 custody arrangement.",5.1427445652173915,7.193180381944451,5.35458937198068,78.9754347826087,69.83333333333333,8.342028985507246,30.23007246376812,8.964715089967882,2.6186347826086958,1242,51,221,24,23,392,145,288,0.028,0.917,0.055,0.7365,0,0,0,0,1,0,49.0,13,1,1,1,6,6,0,0,13,0,27,0,0,0,1,38,47,18,0,7,5,8,0,0,0,6,0,4,0,7,12,22,0,0,3,0,0,4,4,0,0,5,17,4,46,6,30,23,1,28,0,0,0,0,62,5,0,0,19,153,58,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09846217638882944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13704144368672602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409084291795709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419763989897124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061422779077241876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06498230687181132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17635271100603875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985632855579464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08570698820335375,0.0,0.1104788916198169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057264619995213775,0.16902656604300664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356461640472612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516797793884866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213340759809258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08897353193102019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017395694135334,0.0,0.08042621840736673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10573139038923103,0.0,0.06827804867239437,0.15326608460254176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08798034466412362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3245378050160099,0.0,0.0,0.09584648653586006,0.08012894189961542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286840652505501,0.0,0.0,0.07575949619608573,0.0809876228161183,0.08806928094094288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0645633791751966,0.0,0.0,0.11750873283188112,0.0,0.0,0.2888434609893396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3937141972464531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16627623724624035,0.11886252667365885,0.0,0.08082414467426563,0.0,0.0,0.0934061655803456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35788750253598833,0.0,0.0,0.32443289170171724 divorce,kerryfoxlaw,2019/03/25,"Getting a Divorce in Ottawa? Here’s What You Need to Know to Get Started | Kerry Fox Family Law Though you are allowed to apply for a divorce order from the court and represent yourself before the court all by yourself, it is important to seek legal advice first from an Ottawa family lawyer or an expert in Ottawa family law \[ [https://kerryfoxfamilylaw.com/](https://kerryfoxfamilylaw.com/)\]before doing so.",14.112717948717947,13.680232169230768,13.192307692307697,39.07102564102567,50.384615384615394,12.35897435897436,37.05128205128205,11.20814326018867,4.466589743589744,341,10,41,6,3,112,48,65,0.0,0.948,0.052000000000000005,0.3182,1,0,0,0,2,0,22.0,0,2,0,1,3,0,0,0,6,0,3,0,0,1,1,8,8,4,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,10,8,1,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,2,30,4,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444267837437951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4256890164806653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7074085572041492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21276275052244145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26136802833117523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1374663927642241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18547023084044065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770452155504837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24575411201076536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LifeDistraction,2019/03/25,"I need a friend. I am 35 years old. Last November my wife (of 6 years, together for 9) told me that we can't do this anymore. We have a house together (still living together) and two wonderful little girls. I have a hard time talking about my feelings in general which is one of our major problems. I am in therapy and it's been great but it's only once a week. I am looking for a woman (age doesn't matter) to talk about what I am going through daily and my feelings. I am not looking for another therapist, but a friend to share our lives with each other. I am stuck in this place between logic and my emotions and I am having a hard time dealing with it. I prefer text communication, I am not comfortable with voice chat (it is something I want to work on but am not ready to take that on just yet). If we get along I would like to exchange pictures sooner rather than later to help build an emotional friendship connection. Thank you all, as this sub has been a place to feel comfortable! 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We separated about 6 months ago due to my past infidelity which was can be oversimplified into sexting with other people. This started with people I knew and moved to the internet ie tinder to have essentially a disposable interaction to get myself thru stress or whatever other trigger pushed for it. I own my mistakes and brokenness and after about 3 months of counseling and help from family and friends I believe I have worked thru that part. Throughout our separation we talked consistently I had time with our son 2 and made active attempts at reconciliation. She moved back home and is living with her parents and working in her hometown. I would try to resolve the conflict and make a way forward to healing and happiness which was always met with I can’t ever trust you etc. which I can empathize with and understand. The part that hurts almost more than anything is that in the end she deceived and lied to me in her own way until the end saying she didn’t know if she wanted a divorce yet as of a couple days ago only to get served today and told me I had nothing to be upset about. I hate myself for what I did and truly own those mistakes but being treated like less than a human being is just hurtful :( Sorry for the rant but I needed to vent a little. I apologize if I broke any forum rules as it was not intended. 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I'm no sure why but he said it wss about my soon to be ex wife(23f). I'm scared because while she led me on with wanting to be friends, but apparently was telling everybody that I was manipulative and abusive. I've never even raised my voice. About 3 weeks ago I finally just gave up on her and she said to expect paperwork by end of the week. Fast forward 2 weeks I try calling/texting to see what happened if I need to do them or what. She completely ignored me. I message her through Instagram and that's when I hear from her gf, unaware if they're together or not, calling me a dick and stop harassing her calling me a monster for what I did. That's when I find out. Try asking her to come clean and still ignored by her. Eventually proved she was lying by what she said and posted. So couple days I give up. Sent goodbye email( I'll miss you, respect yourself, stay focused, and even though it's ending like this hope 1 day we could still be friends, and wish I could've at least had a chance to say goodbye.). Then ask her mother to meet with me to speak. Going to warn her about my ex's behavior and disturbing online life, nasically selling herself now, nudes etc., and what's up with paperwork. She agreed to meet and talk and as I was waiting get message that she's at police station filling protective orders and leave them alone. Then finally, I get reply email telling me off mind my own business and if I try to contact her or ""just drop by"" she'll get restraining order. Gave final reply shocked because I've given up weeks ago after leading me on and keeping me hanging, that I just want her to sign what I sent or give me some info. And why would I be with someone who doesn't respect themselves, and for the second time ever in our relationship, first time as past reference to her ""horrible"" past life, called her a bad word and guess I'm not finding out about papers. I wanted to apologize I still felt bad but she told me not to contact her. Now I get a call from detective about subpoena. I'm hoping it's just divorce. Wouldn't care if it was restraining order. What I'm scared of is everybody believing her about abuse and her doing something. I'm gonna try to meet det. but should I be worried off its more and if so what should I do?",3.5371775573041404,5.061711417721519,4.492292165583304,85.67253335614096,73.00843881856541,7.6559698939445795,29.055536549207435,8.27314431278463,1.9908705211540645,1868,77,378,30,37,606,226,474,0.149,0.748,0.103,-0.9753,1,1,1,0,2,0,55.0,2,1,2,2,26,19,1,3,11,0,23,4,2,3,4,86,67,44,0,18,20,3,1,1,3,6,2,7,1,0,20,29,0,8,6,0,1,9,7,10,0,2,18,9,65,9,58,37,5,63,0,1,1,2,74,15,1,13,36,243,85,2,0.0,0.17905674266602706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396194457981428,0.0,0.0,0.07825923156216567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128015680288308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12618188551528034,0.0921235380059278,0.0,0.0,0.08513226771011663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4629422471683363,0.0,0.07704028611644469,0.0,0.0,0.06508979584963105,0.07922510462371149,0.0,0.0,0.12065988986520472,0.08360768915919546,0.0,0.09746221364048033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385064520223786,0.0,0.08427137548504404,0.09981570615325644,0.06834996973541102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07255117304537569,0.2483227595674549,0.13812422375574626,0.0642728243799923,0.0,0.0,0.11675771103503373,0.0,0.15791167713544474,0.14497151840552902,0.042943509523478376,0.0,0.06043367030740818,0.0,0.08323983630371971,0.0,0.06681904593168403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851636348327141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15009982421051152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06716279541142962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000903083449645,0.0,0.0,0.1067430611278699,0.03691567635161731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629587288608271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602811368650228,0.05827791468031394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426456699075008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07236731257376834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08112508981170011,0.0,0.0,0.21562971208166568,0.06008977235612465,0.15130107767537426,0.0,0.0602129677404633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06402326384936327,0.058171161545454375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805388198459295,0.18103124171551124,0.06317304420433043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0712160977207507,0.0,0.0,0.060733708736363475,0.13208867901784302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0742390801169063,0.0,0.08812138084352139,0.0,0.0,0.07220253342480862,0.0,0.20520599568493086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13370491360865394,0.0,0.24244445710712256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13636553453045513,0.0,0.08689233536956903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673667086288283,0.0,0.05367693132259554,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,varenykysquad,2019/03/26,"So I finally did it! But now he wants to talk... After being separated for over 7 months with minimal contact during that period, I finally took the first steps towards divorce. Emailed him all the details, the lawyers information and the paperwork. Even though he initiated the separation, I knew it’d be up to me finalize things. And then he messages me saying he’s been thinking about us and says he wants to talk. I agreed to see him on Saturday, but honestly there’s nothing he could possibly say that would make me change my mind. But I know I’ll probably cry heaps. How do you stay strong and composed in a situation like that? I wouldn’t say it’s giving me false hope because it’s not what I was hoping for. All I wanted was to deal with this in a cordial manner and minimize the drama. 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My ex started our divorce a little over a year ago. She moved out a month later and we were officially divorced by sept. of last year. For some reason, tonight has been extremely hard and I have no idea why. I keep finding myself crying this evening. It's been almost 6 months since I last felt like this. The thing I wish I had the most is someone to wrap my arms around and hold.",2.362682926829269,4.616919597560977,2.941646341463418,92.22881097560978,78.63414634146342,5.5634146341463415,23.664634146341466,6.6274283507984215,0.5748975609756104,325,11,68,3,8,101,67,82,0.129,0.807,0.064,-0.6549,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,5,0,7,2,1,1,0,16,11,4,0,1,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,6,0,2,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,5,2,11,1,7,6,3,16,0,0,0,0,6,4,0,3,12,43,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17624518261188865,0.0,0.1990931803914689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1769952148373868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21839845986686407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13132115552438844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19090189803075933,0.0,0.18172122773608232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17810695081430472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2244477167870982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767236087702474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32413564709029585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09713519970525336,0.19927354509374104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31739830489028314,0.21131809048742986,0.14615827065514014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21156239757809464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044238415651863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644689902030892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16846264607359884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407284133652032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13208960833340147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17940743254117664,0.0,0.22863740240287264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560718430281083 divorce,5465476467546,2019/03/26,"For those unfaithful spouses that are truly remorseful for your affair how do you remember your sex life with your AP now that the affair is over ? ## For those unfaithful spouses that are truly remorseful for your affair how do you remember your sex life with your AP now that the affair is over ? &#x200B; I am a betrayed spouse six months post Dday? &#x200B;",6.30123076923077,8.427810507692314,5.455384615384617,79.1046153846154,67.0,8.892307692307693,29.92307692307693,9.3871,2.864907692307692,293,11,48,6,5,88,32,65,0.114,0.807,0.079,-0.3695,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,8,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,0,7,4,0,2,0,6,7,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,9,0,8,7,0,6,0,0,0,2,15,2,0,0,3,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4317558072609325,0.4842000610491631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2814600948752654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903253301854325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1908181238917341,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.451403186392592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4842000610491631,0.0 divorce,lizzye32,2019/03/26,"How did you know it was over? I’ve been married 8 years (F28) (M28) we have two kids together (8,2) our relationship has been up and down through the years we were always able to work through them. He served in the military at 19 we were dating no kids I supported him when he had no one his family and him had a complicated relationship with them I was there for him. We got pregnant even though I was on BC and took Plan B so we became parents but at the end of it all with his job i was left to raise our child alone which I was okay with because he was the provider but I noticed throughout the years he had taken the whole (I’m the provider you don’t do anything but watch our child all day at home and watch TV all day) real serious to the point where he took me off the credit cards knowing I had nothing I tried to work but he always made it hard for me I was away from family so had no support so felt trapped. I finally stood up to him about it and I stood my ground over the years it seem to get worse took my phone and car. I had the talk with him about it not working out and I was feed up he left for half a day came back and asked me for another chance I being me I gave him a chance I love this man as dumb as it sounds. He made promises, we wrote it down and yeah he was working toward those goals for a while and I started to work once we moved back to CA where our families were. I had my own money I paid the sitter, I bought the weekly groceries and kids expenses, he paid rent and other bills he agreed that it was fair so i felt like I was helping contributing a more in that aspect, things were great, small normal arguments here and there but nothing crazy. We had our 2nd child because we agreed it was good timing since everything was going good. I still worked pregnant through my 7.5 months to save for bills and the baby. He helped with our 2nd child since he was home, he was more hands on than the first. I felt like he was changed for our family’s sake (and please note i didn’t have a 2nd child to save our marriage). Boy was I wrong about him changing he just got worse more irritable, angry, nagging putting me down constantly the verbal abuse got REAL and I didn’t let him get the last word but I was mature enough to walk away And let it go and I would forget about it and so that cycle began. It just got worse, I did a lot of things I am not proud of I acted out on rage and hurt which had become so normal I didn’t even know that I let this happen I was in a unhealthy relationship with this person. I’ve put up with so much crap he hates my family i see them less than I would like because he tends to manipulate me and I fall for it every time. It’s crazy typing some of this out. He came to me last week pretty much throwing divorce at me because I’m currently ASAHM since we had problem with sitter and he thought I should just stay home (stopped working October 2018) I started doing side jobs in January while he was home and could watch them since he started a new job. I guess it wasn’t good enough for him staying home and me doing my side job (delivery service) he said I was selfish and not responsible and he was cutting me off (not too sure from what as I make my own money and pay my cell phone bill and credit card) he said maybe once he left me for good I would see everything he did for me and I would see how ungrateful I’ve been... and how hard life is. Mind you I’ve always praised him for being a great provider but always told him that isn’t all a father/spouse is it’s like just throwing money at your problem and leaving and coming back whenever is convenient since he kept getting jobs that would make him be away from home constantly so now he makes good money and is throwing this on me now when once again I’m with not much income and with our children all day while he’s a few hours away and comes home 2 or so days a week. He said very confusing things like I am not giving up on us but gave me an ultimatum if not he would leave me.... so how did you know that you had to go? I’m very emotional and feel angry I feel like yes i should end it but will it be my fault? Will my children blame me? Could we have fixed this? I feel sooo lost and conflicted specially because my children are going to be going through this too it hurts more than I thought...",2.534833333333335,3.9469865277777783,3.3925555555555564,93.00350000000002,75.3888888888889,6.644444444444447,22.61111111111111,7.224341801977833,0.5278777777777783,3385,91,769,37,72,1076,328,900,0.134,0.732,0.133,-0.2529,9,2,0,0,2,0,61.0,21,6,4,13,42,42,6,1,31,3,84,5,2,10,6,145,156,71,0,15,22,1,9,6,0,10,1,4,8,14,42,65,1,3,13,1,15,22,16,16,0,4,80,19,122,26,92,56,21,112,1,3,6,1,114,44,2,7,50,495,164,18,0.04422918262031299,0.05240434899560701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045808094371079744,0.0,0.0,0.14720889226418846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046378154390872485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03639684872592408,0.0,0.041348315249214534,0.0,0.16621909202977753,0.10202853399152516,0.0,0.13480849602455872,0.04884765729373817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10117280425788952,0.0,0.0,0.09357722126392608,0.07619904901585269,0.0,0.09559206741513933,0.0,0.07062680672194976,0.0,0.0,0.1426208190055831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0497518773626224,0.07834785576936665,0.09140113770510136,0.0,0.0584259159707216,0.0,0.03726499394661819,0.0,0.07950067484995711,0.0,0.20847668538990785,0.0,0.06709081101321958,0.031597336901360164,0.12740085413265728,0.048450907655186004,0.0,0.03762132014234981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932376728076338,0.042428662176193135,0.12568231872518668,0.18548669971281165,0.1414964710167601,0.09752565996325252,0.04872343109841421,0.0,0.03911172012202404,0.0,0.07924132026195459,0.04366716104159847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05929177759847884,0.0,0.3105583347670773,0.0,0.04355683559063068,0.0,0.09469650952951633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2194531953791232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09722880830028348,0.07210537405184506,0.0,0.09366463641018197,0.14416540898943547,0.1356820075442214,0.031240379697053625,0.12964886715585786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04828137755700981,0.03760206941325206,0.03991856413741364,0.08370144402447309,0.08856996853287162,0.0,0.044434158748303115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044658866123842934,0.0,0.03530331159651802,0.047008621530211035,0.09754061490272176,0.0,0.0,0.04271682018417992,0.0,0.0,0.08667041644652372,0.08487818718368415,0.05035521756227493,0.0,0.1413079080188043,0.029970838803767195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04911127312898568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03861921626495509,0.0,0.048550360742837216,0.04181087371141658,0.0,0.0,0.04499697940303375,0.0,0.0846427089721055,0.0,0.08892508943125095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10068498564456227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1424567694740794,0.0,0.0,0.12621624315847488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057347965304348,0.04026458672560639,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829341845764244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09391692931503344,0.09428484758650073,0.035321482373746264,0.03697757712228013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038150459600803,0.041685481188769136,0.0,0.0,0.03554974161854675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08815171089085777,0.0,0.043454947360631664,0.07022606110577617,0.05158078413513851,0.0,0.0,0.042262879393690084,0.14742074788154647,0.030028711719395293,0.0,0.04320548466845284,0.0,0.053202260896616366,0.0,0.0,0.0729874154329616,0.0,0.0,0.10643394730453824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049380302880408414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22539560200227346,0.0,0.13521994708464505,0.1885148540173613,0.04835766798190429,0.0,0.11392857398707193 divorce,duhImdone,2019/03/26,Heartbroken I'm sad and so broken. We had a family and he totally ruined our whole lives. He's a cheater and a liar. He played me so hard. And now he's being cold. Like it's my fault. It's devastating. I honestly cant believe this is happening. And I can't wait for it to be over. ,-1.8449999999999989,0.006532564516135153,1.8634838709677448,92.74522580645159,102.38709677419355,6.350967741935484,17.490322580645163,7.554174236665415,0.7559948387096775,217,7,52,6,10,79,44,62,0.393,0.503,0.105,-0.9712,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,3,0,6,0,0,0,1,8,9,7,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,4,0,0,1,2,6,3,3,6,2,2,0,2,0,0,6,1,0,0,2,32,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4596726275121361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846230293759455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36079018258809203,0.0,0.36548495331624603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19932660554417536,0.0,0.3602686090842487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.455513806012474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,temp20180101,2019/03/26,"1 year since divorce was final. My Ex had cheated on me. Finally had sex for the first time since. Here's the good and bad... Next week will be 1 year since my divorce was final. My Ex had cheated on me at least twice in the marriage. Finally started dating again last month, and am seeing someone I have known for years as a friend. Had sex for the first time since the divorce, and am still processing through everything I am feeling. The Good: It felt so wonderful to actually be wanted by someone. The last few years of my marriage had been difficult as my Ex had pulled away so much. It felt so good that someone could actually see me as attractive and want to be with me. The Bad: I had forgotten how lonely I was. I think I have stayed so busy in the last year, working myself to death, that I keep those feelings locked away. As wonderful as it was to have someone show me affection, it also reminded me of how absolutely starved I am for human contact and care. It sounds crazy to me, but I ""feel"" lonelier now than I have in the last year, I think maybe because I am letting myself feel again. All of my insecurities are coming back stronger than ever. My Ex cheated on me. She lied to me for years. My ability to trust has been so damaged, and I don't know how to get it back. My friend that I am seeing is a really nice person, and I logically know I have no reason to fear that she would cheat on me like my Ex. But there is a part of my brain that I can't seem to control. I have been having anxiety attacks over fears that she is/will cheat on me. I have not shared any of this with her because it sounds like I am judging her for something she has never done, and I don't want to do that to her. I know this is just my brain fucking with me, but I don't know how to make it stop. I lost so much self esteem and self confidence when I found out my Ex cheated on me. I don't know how to trust again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Have others who have been cheated on gone through similar feelings when starting to date again? What did you do to learn to trust again? Should I be honest about these feelings with my friend? Is there a way to do that without sounding like I think she is untrustworthy, which is not the case at all, I just don't know how to stop these anxieties and insecurities. 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It's done. My heart hurts so much. I want to cry and scream and go to sleep and not wake up. I don't know if I can keep going. ,-2.0715384615384638,-0.29607251282051017,0.7648205128205134,103.47184615384614,94.64102564102564,3.12,12.928205128205128,3.1291,-1.756481025641026,128,2,34,0,5,44,33,39,0.225,0.735,0.04,-0.8085,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,3,3,0,0,8,11,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,2,4,0,3,9,1,5,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,2,20,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113545253994584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.290065907976026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31050363569742473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3221802752161728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31946670886100204,0.33588746815874226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30343714823703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2519417736236897,0.0,0.0,0.15577571160596496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20836703253666666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836528914226185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2686757400003789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16718508548476274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RedheadBanshee,2019/03/26,"First meeting with my Lawyer I left him in April of last year when I found out about his cheating. It took months for me to come out of my stunned silence. I couldnt deal with any of it. Finally after 10 months, he was the one to file for divorce. Married for five years, but we have no property together, no minor children. Only about $8k in shared debt. When I left him, he packed up everything he wanted to take-all the living room furniture, the rugs, the lamps, all of the bedroom furniture, and moved it out to a new apartment for himself. He took our savings. I was just so shocked, I did nothing but try to survive. I had to take a Xanax today, just to talk about it with the lawyer. Just talking about it made me sob my eyes out. Im.not sure what will happen, but Im are moving forward in the right direction. I'm just petrified of all of this. 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If So, What Are Your New Priorities In Another Spouse/Relationship? Hello everyone, I want to first start off with saying how courageous you are all in opening up with your stories on Reddit. I am a child of divorce myself and marriage has been a debating topic for me personal because it requires a personal sacrifice and a legal officiant (and of course for those who are religious a bondage between two people in the eyes of God). My question is really open to those thinking of moving on to people who have gone and went. I am asking if you are able to think back when you were younger to the person you are presently today to share with me if your ideal needs and character of a what spouse have changed? What new priorities do you have if you are searching again? I appreciate your responses. Best of luck to all of you especially to the ones who have children or are going through the turbulence of domestic violence. Remain hopeful.",7.2095954045954045,7.836463346153848,7.395694305694307,71.50839660339662,63.89010989010989,10.794005994005994,36.87512487512488,10.637119530657019,4.158597802197804,787,37,133,19,11,255,106,182,0.022,0.8420000000000001,0.13699999999999998,0.9631,0,0,0,0,2,0,15.0,0,12,0,4,5,6,0,0,11,0,19,1,1,1,2,28,30,13,0,9,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,10,10,0,1,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,3,4,2,20,6,31,26,3,23,1,0,1,0,29,10,0,8,9,112,30,2,0.1648196394028877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17282776280302334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15408411382584658,0.0,0.0,0.12673612899164066,0.0,0.10047252237941608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17296804298965748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3487146483679555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15749222863993415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019550107794448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09367079934274164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637030912356692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17517719275865246,0.0,0.12221167419517355,0.0,0.3183676695829794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11168605322519136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22853037046796024,0.4317424552102421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463571687772984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558768144956077,0.0,0.0,0.1769546106905643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107119262910355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11666018909139235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2112195396080392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1562297462993463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16100483846633198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194429787298862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15278945698378402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jazzyskye,2019/03/26,"Mom is getting a divorce. How can I help her? Hey All, &#x200B; My mom called me in tears yesterday letting me know that her husband of 19 years has asked for a divorce. She is very unprepared and I don't know how to help her. He moved out of state for a new job over a year ago so we all knew it was coming but we now must deal with the reality of it. They own a house together and she has been financially supported by him for most of their marriage. &#x200B; What are some things that are overlooked when going through a divorce? What can I do to help her make this as easy as possible? &#x200B; Thanks in advance for your help!",2.8234161931818207,4.670643429687502,3.51380681818182,90.59596590909092,75.640625,6.842045454545455,27.26136363636364,7.686295010490155,1.42185,501,20,107,7,11,158,86,128,0.019,0.8140000000000001,0.166,0.9669,1,0,0,0,3,0,22.0,2,1,2,1,5,2,0,0,7,0,14,0,0,3,3,19,24,9,0,1,1,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,8,7,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,3,0,18,2,19,19,5,16,0,0,0,0,28,4,0,2,7,79,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10734980939962753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3936426079396793,0.44145735063791264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11321422626634745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12365890465493833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10431883771522137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12485106921506706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06327091061434119,0.0,0.06882518131184454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246890560986352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397357001190713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12017526502242185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331092238724856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12383522286860728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0808366709134885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2836669082361704,0.0,0.12871249245134614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11696127681532302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13652455489351584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13742536190159205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1114946517718734,0.0,0.0,0.08045493254410006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0999220127303758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.44145735063791264,0.1559717158466292 divorce,Woodersonalright3x,2019/03/26,"Quitclaim Deed - am I being unreasonable? As part of my divorce agreement, my ex-wife got the house, but has two years to refinance and remove my name from the mortgage. The two-year mark is coming up this fall, and she has decided to sell the house instead of refinancing. My agreement says that I will execute a Quitclaim Deed at the time of refinance in order to take the house out of my name, however it is silent on what to do in the event of a sale. She has indemnified me for her requirement to pay the mortgage, provide insurance, etc. I received a letter from her attorney yesterday with a Quitclaim Deed attached asking me to sign and return so that she can list the house. I replied that I will do so at the time of closing, my rationale being that I am not taking my name off the deed until my name is off the mortgage. If I were to release my interest in the house now and she were to subsequently change her mind about selling, I feel like the indemnification wouldn't have any teeth if I had no interest in the property. My response also stated that I will provide whatever cooperation is necessary for her to list and sell the property. Our split was less than amicable (she is a high-conflict personality), and I know this is not going to be well received. So as a sanity check, am I being unreasonable in not agreeing to take my name off the deed until the house is sold?",8.174632606199772,6.853829425373133,8.697014925373137,69.42754879448911,62.58208955223882,12.126750861079223,38.15269804822044,11.20814326018867,4.210213203214696,1098,47,206,26,13,369,131,268,0.026,0.8959999999999999,0.078,0.9404,4,0,0,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,0,1,8,6,0,0,24,0,29,1,1,1,0,29,39,17,0,3,6,0,1,1,0,4,0,1,0,1,9,10,0,1,4,0,7,6,5,0,1,1,6,2,35,6,41,25,3,31,0,0,0,0,22,14,0,2,10,162,44,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.093780170630118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07974710603900809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096309112857832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12405530891552433,0.10101706843880036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13078620379253794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059294852409746385,0.08377717006899874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06664681282081604,0.0,0.09379092574747956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12390139292699028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8118777638688509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06444810866503982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05729182824740825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11840850493273004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269911615132515,0.0,0.0,0.10239497901550404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09325720825109923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645156274224047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676127637819355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22911001951095936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10543913221997152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15103509432503107 divorce,Ashliethecupcake,2019/03/26,"Need some advice Hoping this is the right place to post this. I've been with my husband for 3 years in August, but since last April I've been thinking about the big End. It came into my mind after he TOLD me we were moving to his (narcissist) dads house for a month (now still living there), and started treating me like garbage. I have no idea A. how to even start anything, and B. how to try and keep our 2 year old daughter from being trapped in this house run by 2 men who don't know how to parent her like she needs. I will answer just about any questions in the comments, and if this doesn't belong on this sub, I can take it down or post somewhere else. Thank ypu in advance for reading/helping. 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My parents were divorced. It would be nice to have a community for similar people,4.74625,8.185084458333336,5.721666666666668,68.29000000000002,79.41666666666666,8.200000000000001,37.16666666666667,8.841846274778883,4.484266666666667,113,7,16,3,3,37,23,24,0.0,0.887,0.113,0.4215,1,0,0,0,2,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,13,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4153466595218461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6781912592155245,0.0,0.0,0.4234331713951308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4338756938455607,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Haworthiawhore,2019/03/26,"Sahm(22f)with nothing what do I do? I've asked elsewhere but I feel you all will be the experts. I'm in indiana no no alimony if that helps (not that I would want to do that but) I've been with my husband (27m)since I was 15 and hes done everything for me. I have no education, no bank account, no car, no driver's license, and no assets of any kind. I live in the country at the moment. My husband makes to much to get assistance for day care but not enough to afford it. My family all works. My husband comes home from work at 5 and goes to sleep at 7 so If i wanted to work evenings and nights if I could drive he would be up all night with our toddler who wont sleep for anyone but me and he would have to be up at 3 for work. I thought about working weekends but he gets overtime and said it would be to risky for me to work because it might get in the way of him working lots of over time and I get it because 30 an hour is way more important than the 7 I would make. I tried to stay with my mother and have her watch our son in the evenings so I could work but once a play hired me and told me they would work with my baby sitter schedule they decided to demand I come in at times no one could watch him. I found someone the first time but the second time I couldn't and I lost the job. I wanted to know if anyone had idea on what I could do to save for divorce, a car. And how to pay down marital debt because we have so much from my husband that I know of we divorced it would follow me to my grave if I worked any job I would qualify for. I just dont know what to do. I feel so stuck I've been stuck with him for so long. No matter what he does I cant do anything. 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How do I tell her and should I stay in our house? I've been married for 20 years - 3 kids (16,13,11). Wife has been diagnosed with PTSD and Depression and is radically co-dependent. I made the mistake of having an affair 10 years ago, and we have just not been able to get over it. She still lives in the past, and we are constantly fighting and it has been getting worse and worse. I am at the point where my love for her is completely gone. When we fight, she just berates me for hours on end and these fights can go on for days and days. I know I don't have much to stand on since I was the one who cheated so I just stand in the heat and take the verbal abuse. I've been to see a lawyer, and have picked the person I want to represent me. I am getting some financial issues sorted out so that the split can be cleaner, but the question I have is one I have all my ducks in a row (which will be at most a month out), how do I handle telling her that I'm leaving? So questions like, how should I tell her? Is there a safe way to do this (because her PTSD and Depression will kick into overdrive when it happens)? Once I've told her, I've been advised to not move out but to stay in the house. I just don't know how to do this with her because like I said above, she's verbally abusive and I don't know how much of that I can handle! Have others dealt with that before? I do have a spare room I can stay in. &#x200B;",2.9732162373145985,3.5608410163934434,3.808711943793913,93.62448087431696,73.2622950819672,7.120999219359876,24.359875097580012,7.07126945348624,0.6116760343481658,1110,30,266,10,21,355,148,305,0.102,0.838,0.06,-0.9075,0,0,0,0,5,0,40.0,4,0,0,0,17,11,4,0,16,0,42,2,0,7,1,52,60,25,0,4,8,1,0,2,0,4,1,1,1,2,13,23,0,1,5,0,0,3,5,7,0,2,11,2,38,4,34,43,5,41,0,2,1,1,31,19,0,5,15,184,51,2,0.1060803419354338,0.25137571761521554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403382260418436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149380061671438,0.1288992265235847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12933118368340815,0.0,0.0902665578006872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11122322025633828,0.11463516390031425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682608948125127,0.0,0.1827336861358828,0.10766931409080983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395569664117444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16626780106983985,0.0,0.06028790294434625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938064960377949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10446776854875728,0.2448049439483001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072031644251526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17489694506131193,0.0,0.0,0.11232376531741424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10365099348922213,0.0,0.093670885410946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957416502497965,0.1003757844546715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467231686736733,0.1127466154788934,0.1559625141662479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11297210207340334,0.14376557015255526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126568961825737,0.0,0.09262526286848917,0.0,0.0,0.10028021132566264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2480044859710084,0.0,0.2376685211888695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009066973344708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453229825437117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08775075505299734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392025901936783,0.08471589809920134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07975921527400219,0.0,0.2781566835957194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136431269248987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0625689341204067,0.08420163779486366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162098622587192,0.0,0.0,0.1288992265235847,0.13662452445158296 divorce,deathwoulddresswell,2019/03/26,"Joining The Party Good morning, ya'll. I was going to post earlier, through tears, but collected my thoughts and read the opening post that is attached to this sub. Thank you. I suggest all beginners to read this because it's very helpful. I'm am currently separated from my spouse. We have three children together and we're doing our best to work together with 50/50 custody and co-parenting. I have my own place and my emotions have been running like an alligator. I'm keeping it together about 15% of the time, so now I'm here in between my counseling sessions. I've been married for almost ten years. My spouse struggled to maintain a career or have the want to stay with a job for more than a year. There was heavy drug addiction in the beginning, which he's overcome this, and I'm extremely proud of him for that. Alcohol abuse while he was coming off of drugs. This led to physical abuse that lined with all the years of emotional abuse. I left for a while but came back after a year of being apart. We had had another kid and then the mild drugs use started coming back into his lifestyle. The emotional abuse started again and then complete physical and emotional neglect for three years. So, again. I've pick my self back up off the floor and I'm finding my own life for my kids and I. My ex has a beautiful heart and has so much potential and I think this is the part that hurts the most. I don't know if he'll see him how I see him, but I can't keep drowning in my marriage anymore. I have three beautiful souls that are really a perfect mix of my ex and I . I wouldn't change that for anything. So, that's my introduction. I hope and wish the best for everyone and I really needed to share this today.",3.5293237531699084,5.371958775147932,4.408981403212174,84.95291420118345,73.67455621301775,8.14218089602705,28.935333896872358,8.841846274778883,2.3310943364327983,1358,57,269,28,28,438,179,338,0.095,0.733,0.172,0.9791,3,0,4,0,4,0,36.0,3,1,0,5,14,12,0,1,20,0,23,7,1,4,3,51,49,29,1,6,5,4,0,1,0,2,6,0,0,4,16,25,1,3,4,2,0,6,3,3,0,4,9,2,35,9,38,37,10,44,1,2,2,0,23,12,0,5,24,183,51,6,0.0,0.4184578430218584,0.0,0.09625396072739606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09435989291339313,0.0884141168796901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258440769565764,0.0,0.0,0.08756434848394745,0.0,0.0,0.07265879217352658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036788982168017,0.0,0.05382346460614034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18531911251696584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10098530526010864,0.0,0.0,0.09340379881773804,0.15211566550594655,0.09257502929072736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3071805192235064,0.0,0.0,0.3972773956069224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0843691110086065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08069950882791374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050179758939602616,0.07405717822920857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462932388849773,0.059181894819624326,0.0,0.0,0.08769629077057925,0.0,0.0,0.09452101275683747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08761859706557991,0.15696029136197176,0.0,0.0,0.04852430926621788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593215582346093,0.0,0.06236496661903381,0.043136198251420926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06490656485183491,0.06546920058064244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561426274543157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224888614852407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1691233129454964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17663664613220836,0.0,0.11312734468601647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407184573306752,0.0,0.09211034610069707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249905030709688,0.09411011372834524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09230450832163947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08128964780518069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056575505148000776,0.0,0.0700959143121589,0.05148519179289762,0.0,0.08369279501727604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625803799386119,0.0,0.07285215114583743,0.052078342054263205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10153423627755018,0.0,0.0,0.06427939614078812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2842935882405413 divorce,sillythrowaway99,2019/03/26,"My therapist told me to leave him And I can't wrap my head around it. I know I've been unhappy. Our dead bedroom improved slightly to the point where we sometimes had sex once per week. But it felt like he was doing it out of duty rather than desire. He could go a month without it (maybe more) and be fine. We can't communicate, even when I bring things up gently. He says he feels backed into a corner. I think it's insecurity. I've tried communicating my needs and I'm often met with anger because he ""doesn't feel good enough"" for me. At one point, out of frustration, he told me he didn't care about my needs. On our second anniversary he told me he felt like our sex life was over. Of course, he has no recollection of that. When he gambled away money before our wedding and we had to postpone it, I was patient and forgiving. Clearly I didn't respect myself enough to leave. I didn't respect myself enough to leave the first time he got angry. It confused me and left me paralyzed, so I buried it. I became used to him throwing things and yelling. A few years ago we had been drinking and somehow got into an argument that ended with him holding a golf club over my head while I cried begging him to stop. I can't look at certain pictures from fun events without being reminded that at the end of the night he ended up yelling at me. There have been good times, too. He's come a long way. But I can't fix him. I know deep down he IS a good person. It shatters my heart to consider that person is buried under his vices and pain, preventing him to be the person he wants to be. At the end of the session with my therapist said I need to leave and hugged me. She said she doesn't say that lightly. So now he wants to talk and actually listen. He thinks we're ""supposed to be together"". Why decide to start listening now? Why not listen all those times before I expressed my needs? I'm terrified of starting over. Of having to move in with a parent in a different city and not have a bed or my own room. At age 30. Terrified of having to find a different job so I can afford to eventually move out and live on my own. Terrified to find my own health insurance while I'm having some scary health issues. Terrified this will cause me to flunk out of college. Terrified of what will happen to him. Terrified of what my friendships will look like and if I'll ever be able to love again. It feels like a load of bricks on my chest. Of course I'm questioning if this is the right decision. This post feels all over the place and my head is a mess. It feels strange to broadcast this to strangers on the internet but sometimes strangers listen better than friends.",2.608612414008753,4.612814859287057,3.5957844746716714,89.0603308708568,76.76735459662291,6.768120700437772,24.04975766103815,7.720077496677588,1.1234553158223892,2092,69,434,31,48,671,247,533,0.123,0.81,0.067,-0.9455,5,0,1,0,2,0,56.0,8,0,0,2,19,25,2,2,23,0,40,14,5,2,5,83,84,28,1,11,11,1,7,4,1,3,4,10,3,3,25,31,1,4,18,3,2,6,14,7,0,3,22,20,59,18,76,52,11,73,0,1,2,4,59,37,0,8,32,280,84,4,0.07179161736944001,0.0,0.07005826248726542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06363893713968538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06390976016556249,0.0,0.0,0.0674505877541191,0.055203322325024125,0.0,0.043763503602709385,0.0,0.12217875735784645,0.0,0.0,0.06349385147936643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07319633856862601,0.07374976694956811,0.0,0.061842121499538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0573197647324251,0.0,0.07885972060568495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001392016842752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07032845366786804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2543442564334073,0.22253979555488665,0.0,0.047417686189646084,0.0649396280583202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1814999941936672,0.05128794579337136,0.13786242220735312,0.0,0.1312324753217159,0.061065913059680926,0.0,0.0,0.05546602549282255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040800830589524266,0.18064620755781208,0.11483662939879825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06348509014433844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22103673390947387,0.1526222642726755,0.0,0.08507341224594707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07493179648593548,0.07124210261088243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07890959078650038,0.0,0.0,0.3040678276120454,0.07800180233133397,0.0,0.05070854247839647,0.1402950316481768,0.0,0.06339331342061813,0.06353332222150512,0.12057375481893196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479473760780004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212432909682741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05730338405230516,0.15260625541887302,0.0,0.2129302984446365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06737156960368429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07645572947353006,0.0486478579111936,0.0,0.07639134256646231,0.0,0.07971609512365098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880570134656734,0.07500696008421376,0.0,0.13573256703113615,0.0,0.06875652440393071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804230417372579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06130964897076877,0.13658053646658608,0.11418315127341434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14200749057055806,0.0,0.10162895256703272,0.0,0.0,0.06002100673668085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770338262342287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671120220869035,0.09539032110790832,0.09200233918376084,0.0,0.0,0.12558680826304205,0.0,0.0,0.2057999008760193,0.0,0.04874179566831864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06200490705868016,0.0,0.0,0.08468911196232691,0.05698484424313342,0.05758690505016074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12956153640831633,0.0,0.0,0.13840911450860002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046231447805285736 divorce,Kiregnik,2019/03/26,"I think it is time but i need help. It's 4am right now. I was awoken about an hour ago by loud pounding from my wife closing a paint can. Thankfully the children didn't wake up. I've been considering a divorce from her for about 2 years now. I hadn't pulled the trigger because this one is really complicated and I feel extremely trapped and worn out. Also, I fear for the health and safety of my kids. I've read plenty of stories about people staying together for the kids and I've felt as if I'm in that situation but in a different way. I have witnessed so many instances of neglect and what I think of as mental handicapped decisions on her part that I fear if we get divorced that my children would be in more danger. I've stayed the course to protect the kids. Honestly there is so much to write about this I don't know where to begin or if it is even relevant. I own 2 restaurants. The hours can be very demanding sometimes, but financially I'm very successful and will continue to be more successful as time goes on...that is if I can keep my sanity. The burden I bear is so heavy with regard to my children that it has slowly eaten away at my ability to work. Just a snippet (and thankfully so) I will stop home several times a day to check on the house and children to ensure they are being fed, watched and that the house is safe. Just today I came home to find my almost 3 year old daughter in the bathtub, by herself, water running, tub overflowing. Mom was in the basement. The water had run so long it was ice cold. I walked in to see my daughter getting out of the tub because it was getting cold. Just then my wife came up from the basement ( I assume because she heard me come in) and I explained the situation and that the bath water is cold and overflowing. Her only response was to stick her hand in the water and say ""feels warm to me""....my daughter was shivering. I had to return to work (I only had about 10 minutes) so I asked my wife to clean up the mess. I came home 4 hours later and the tub was still full, wet towels still on the ground. It has been 6 years of situations like that. Some days are fine some days are not. What I want is for her to be gone. But I'm afraid. I don't know how divorce works entirely but I hear it's really slanted against the men. That's why I'm afraid. I want my children to be with me, I can make it work. Yes I would need a nanny but I feel like I need one now anyway. But I'm afraid that she will get placement because of my job. And that I will be stick with a horrendous child support responsibility. I'm also afraid of alimony. I've heard that 10 years is when that happens but I don't know. We've been married 6. I'm afraid I'm going to be made out to be the bad guy. For 4 years I kept my cool. But the mental degradation over those years has caused me to lose it. I've haven't been very nice the last year and half..some because I'm exhausted and some because it was a last resort to get her to realize how bad of a parent she is. But I fear that is going to bite me in the ass now. Do I spend more time in hell and summon every last ounce of mental strength to be the good guy, to reconcile the wrong I've done? Would that even help? I've never physically hurt her, but my words have not been nice and yes..I've lost my temper in the worst way, and in front of the kids. Like I said some because I've had enough and some because I thought maybe I could scare her into being a better parent. It didn't work obviously. Nothing has worked. I've tried marriage counseling. Professional and through a couple in the church. I think she is mentally ill. Hording tendencies, ADHD, psycho. ..but she plays the game so well. She has everyone fooled, except me. And my mom. My mom sees it. I tried to get her to go to a shrink, she refused. Her dad actually made her go, but that only lasted one session. I think the shrink picked up on it but 1 hour isn't enough time to put the whole story together. There are so many more little things this post could go on forever. Here is what I want. 1. I want the kids. We have three. 6 5 and 3. 2. I'll buy another house if I have to, she can have this one...I want the kids full time. 3 visitation is fine with me, but they need to live with me. 4. I bought the business 7 years before we were married. She has no interest and no ability to run it. It's mine. Can I keep her hands off it financially? 5. I bought her a car. She can have it. I'd even continue to pay for the insurance (until she gets in another car accident...3 in just 3 years but it should have been more. Thankfully other drivers are more aware) 6. I don't need child support. We are fully supported by me right now. She just needs to go. For my mental health. For the children's safety and eventually mental health. But if I have to pay child support how bad is this gonna be financially? 7. Alimony? I don't think she deserves a cent. What's the deal with this anyway? 8. What else do I need to think about? Writing this has helped me already. I'm scared of the answers but this feels right. To go down this path. I'm not happy about it, but it feels right. Thanks in advance.",1.0123748488106479,3.174125006585136,2.7643870951485034,92.14794067497652,83.03574788334902,6.0165602741567,21.156170205617524,7.275411538584625,0.5856512632710653,3994,124,882,59,112,1320,374,1063,0.129,0.755,0.116,-0.9421,5,1,0,0,3,0,142.0,4,0,2,13,43,55,3,10,56,2,98,15,4,9,2,148,187,71,0,24,35,12,10,3,0,9,5,6,5,18,53,45,6,8,23,4,8,23,16,27,1,4,41,23,112,28,117,123,20,121,2,4,3,1,83,46,2,14,50,555,165,14,0.0,0.0,0.04317871093415613,0.0,0.05317632215608562,0.0,0.0392223154465312,0.0,0.04430700124021763,0.0,0.048827689243194194,0.07076865529638021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09279372144107527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04136499282567934,0.0,0.04157153385731535,0.0,0.110833245952989,0.2157805922601376,0.0,0.03765095692465818,0.0,0.0,0.039132895418611695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182041748463845,0.0,0.045453880178024965,0.0,0.038114891705584186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07065529358924948,0.04895848844600338,0.0,0.08560700651624048,0.045616736983298746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04622872067537725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045280065924089466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03696270937422577,0.0,0.0,0.091438003764912,0.0,0.08767422253105778,0.0,0.037280024541752714,0.04227992585370818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493706040574393,0.1118631194323996,0.03161008148355367,0.04248408014868997,0.0,0.04044097666652914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618207000095061,0.0,0.17602621662978618,0.03711230291553485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08762301692244162,0.03912749558225921,0.04710177787645498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109754646735892,0.049869609768045,0.0,0.08897353883225423,0.0,0.13315011277279248,0.0,0.17429761583816492,0.15316536861679192,0.047367352378156806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04390834208221958,0.07865757267590069,0.0,0.0,0.07295101868510193,0.14426891457949576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06485058009541743,0.044347140330223384,0.03907093122449022,0.03915722225322986,0.0,0.04950109986507069,0.048300851539472715,0.0,0.0,0.0837352044624624,0.029535230886281207,0.08971907128357269,0.04445208097985495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2675435480567473,0.0,0.0,0.1554647328039862,0.0,0.0,0.03252665242703033,0.22966024404098806,0.034126031244573835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04245621112672129,0.0,0.046429806623503385,0.0,0.11993170939374348,0.10095556263623556,0.0,0.0,0.09826216368895767,0.0479152131758439,0.0,0.030675313957224164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042376416238045035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04448047839647428,0.0,0.0,0.044258996048658315,0.0,0.056691550831485575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511468607069498,0.04208905055556197,0.03518700797983652,0.08859797630733789,0.0,0.07051829598610124,0.0,0.0,0.049986540644816335,0.0,0.0,0.14920652041035826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043761436325555424,0.0,0.0,0.09432287677210643,0.0706714581320277,0.03699249178969096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2008439856578509,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294685297923744,0.0,0.0,0.029395755438435187,0.17011023116383547,0.0,0.035127193167457216,0.15480476673593982,0.0,0.04194100335440377,0.0,0.0,0.06008164721346298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952528165485603,0.13049020040128714,0.0702424533480094,0.0,0.0,0.03978338679002269,0.0,0.03992605532985291,0.049400220107317885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932741547419948,0.0,0.0,0.09429544513437303,0.048377172735618375,0.0,0.2564426842720133 divorce,monty703,2019/03/26,"Divorced men, how do you deal with business dinners when spouses attend? Tonight was the first dinner with spouses that I've had without my now ex-wife. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Background: 45, 2 kids (10 and 8), and feeling like Icarus. It's been about 8 months since we sold our home and split, and a little longer years since she told me she wanted a different life. In that time, I started the career of my life- doing what I'd wanted to do forever, and feeling great about myself for the first time in forever. Until tonight. While sitting with my boss and his wife (who have kids the same age as mine), an investor and his wife, and my investor contact and his wife (also with kids the same age as mine), I found myself in a very awkward place. My boss was astute enough to invite his adult son knowing I'd be the odd man out. These being my connections, I brought everyone to the table but never even considered how uncomfortable I'd be. He knew, having gone through a divorce as well, but his when his son was in high school. My wife would have slayed in this situation- she is smart, beautiful, and funny. She owned her own businesses (still does), is well traveled, and knew when to listen or speak. She was the third leg to our stool. It never occurred to me that this would be a challenge that I would have had to deal with. I'd established great relationships with all of these people. My kids have spent time with the others, but fuck, I felt horrible when the conversation between the wives turned to kids. I heard the ""we should get the kids together"" comments, or the ""oh, our kids loved it- you should go"" type comments, and now, I'm home typing this feeling two feet tall, ""celebrating"" another great union. Day to day, this has never been an issue. This one being the fist though...damn... I don't even know where to start, nor how I should even deal with what I'm feeling. I'd appreciate any advice someone might have. Thanks.",4.655884444444447,5.964626304000003,4.6160000000000005,86.70577777777778,69.96000000000001,7.475555555555558,26.68888888888889,7.793537801064563,1.3853022222222222,1524,48,304,18,27,470,196,375,0.04,0.816,0.14400000000000002,0.9898,1,0,0,0,3,0,72.0,5,2,0,3,19,13,1,1,23,0,33,8,2,5,4,59,63,31,0,8,6,9,5,2,0,7,2,3,2,10,19,23,2,0,10,1,2,5,6,2,2,5,18,8,42,11,37,32,7,44,0,0,0,2,55,11,1,3,29,205,61,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10069973171800474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08240942779774102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0700778568970723,0.10805740839861812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329180627201907,0.3187215450441928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10766581342331376,0.0,0.0,0.09018016530490608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10647868802474644,0.0,0.20419160096054134,0.0,0.0,0.09846914519833266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842166635467366,0.07361928008353351,0.09894461667822554,0.0,0.0,0.17530936314779794,0.0,0.1129895270919508,0.0,0.0952685038023582,0.053839620047942766,0.0,0.05856595986340325,0.0,0.0,0.3408405381716081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887848492757103,0.2067360577241654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10755792276970816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1132676923500258,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14557519641690578,0.10069051381826068,0.10328364849591157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09300707724005207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10932026927077892,0.0,0.0,0.08225390615714956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23843663803658646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06982966897245042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07144222424868386,0.0,0.10766581342331376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11063764481637024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10429258251914306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17048883598294484,0.1158330517864974,0.0,0.0,0.0873143332376197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14587931350909175,0.0,0.08229624262184206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487503230931424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012465686821802,0.0,0.18026868242223199,0.0,0.0,0.09846914519833266,0.0,0.0,0.1120893253442446,0.10066534046464916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502743437060221,0.12156368045424965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853095061643583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933698074177327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21961230278892807,0.0,0.0,0.06636112739544495 divorce,Kiomi28,2019/03/26,"How to tell my parents I’m getting a divorce? Me F19 and my STBXH M19 have been married 5 months but kinda realized this is not what we wanted. We’ve already filed for divorce etc. my parents are extremely religious and view divorce as a terrible sin. I’ve hinted to my mom several times that we were unhappy and she immediately turns to us needing spiritual counseling and more praying. Neither I nor my spouse are religious. I know it’s going to break her heart but we’re doing what’s best for us so we can be happier. If they end up hating us for our decision then oh well I guess. I’m just curious how anyone else broke the news to their parents they were getting a divorce and how they reacted. 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As far as my husband knows, everything is great in our marriage. But I’m really not happy or satisfied. There’s no sexual chemistry and sex is few and far between when it does happen. My husband is my best friend but I’m not in love with him the way I should be. He’s a wonderful man just not the man for me, I think. We’ve been together for 11 years and married for almost 9. No kids. Own a house but planning on selling in a few months. I’m at the point where I just don’t know what to do anymore. The thought of feeling like this or being in this relationship for the rest of my life makes me ill. This would come out of nowhere for him. I put on a good facade for all our friends and family and everyone thinks we are the “perfect couple”. It would be shocking for everyone involved. My question is, how did you tell your spouse you wanted a divorce? 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I don't want to post a massive wall of text, but I feel like I literally have my wife's life in my hands right now and really need some support. I've been delaying the actual divorce to allow her Greencard paperwork to clear so she's not deported, but now she's taking advantage of me financially, I'm on the hook for maybe marriage fraud, and her new abusive boyfriend beats her and is threatening to kill her, so the police would probably come looking for me - her husband - first if anything happens to her. The background is that we were married for 2.5 years but it was extremely dysfunctional and co-dependent and I told her I wanted to separate summer last year for my own mental health. I promised I would pay for a place for her to live and wait out her pending Greencard application (she's not American) so her life wouldn't completely turn upsidedown. She immediately moved to another city across the country leaving me and her family to clear up her affairs here... suffice to say, I'm STILL trying to clear up the car lease and crap left all over my apartment. The abusive boyfriend is new information that I'm still reeling from. She likely has some sort of mental illness on the spectrum of borderline personality disorder / narcissistic personality disorder / etc, and has extremely self destructive tendencies - see her taking up with an extremely abusive guy as just one example. I'm pretty certain she will end up dead from drugs and/or bad people if she is deported to her home country, but I CANNOT continue being the idiot who is paying out the nose to take care of her when she won't even take care of herself. 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F U C K how do you start over? Or continue on as if you don’t love them anymore when you do.. *shit*",-1.9755000000000005,-0.2852913555555521,1.8126388888888911,92.08562500000004,107.0,4.916666666666668,21.180555555555557,6.6274283507984215,0.7570555555555559,159,7,36,3,8,58,39,45,0.048,0.789,0.163,0.7003,0,1,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,3,1,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,4,2,1,1,0,5,7,6,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,1,0,6,2,6,6,0,8,0,0,0,1,6,3,1,2,4,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35082506305064404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33593195445588736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37480144176337343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30571961075160564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3477043898525543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2397568457484301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.387370520407602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3210791228485373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31400873387363976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Scrapeground1,2019/03/27,"Need help finding an attorney Hey everyone, I’m hoping the community can help me. I’m trying to get a lawyer for a divorce in the state of Georgia. Unfortunately my funds are extremely limited. I’m on SSDI. I have contacted the state board for a referral to free legal help. When speaking to them, they advised me that the only divorce cases they will accept at this time are for cases of assault victims. This is not the case for me. Due to my fixed income, I cannot afford an attorney. Any advice on where to go from here? Thanks in advance. Crossposted to r/legaladvice ",2.592787878787877,5.239241400000001,4.612272727272729,78.32174242424244,80.45454545454545,7.666666666666666,27.34848484848485,8.59863814320734,2.60239393939394,454,20,79,11,12,155,72,110,0.08900000000000001,0.7340000000000001,0.177,0.8593,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,3,2,3,6,2,0,10,0,7,0,0,0,0,6,15,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,1,2,0,2,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,10,5,18,14,0,13,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,1,3,52,13,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2873026414167356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19993651470426974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28093863837445365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26871931986208264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360780797275667,0.0,0.16709235147697832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5912050304292996,0.0,0.0,0.2920177328532412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21800428909003705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.223607442780976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706844092027556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1714392803933748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19961312394264966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,RelentlessRestless,2019/03/27,"Child care and work schedule First time post. Soon to be sometimes needs to work nights. She is asking me to flip my schedule so I can watch our children. Son has special needs so it isn’t as easy as getting babysitter. Seems like she thinks we are still married. How do I let her know that I’m not her back up any more?",0.6072727272727292,2.9741105606060643,1.0365909090909078,102.32488636363637,87.33333333333334,3.3000000000000003,20.37121212121212,3.1291,-0.7475696969696966,251,8,57,0,8,75,54,66,0.0,0.8370000000000001,0.163,0.8834,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,3,6,3,0,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,9,17,6,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,10,3,6,15,1,10,0,0,1,0,10,1,0,1,9,36,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17639483311604826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2424956498252956,0.0,0.0,0.19945573358007745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2644664992918909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206379249122588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552113626044796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425545569898657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26524495932283204,0.0,0.12672538208059314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846704064987744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2434209622135858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24842495769834996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23613990229404505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2565444162839541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20715005603951506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16620733390770695,0.0,0.0,0.15125302798868356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3776795993180903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,000katie,2019/03/27,"Tomorrow is D Day! The day is finally here - only 1 more sleep until I am officially divorced! &#x200B; My STBXH has spent last night and today sending me long rambling texts about his landlord (his best friends mother), the woman he currently loves (but is not in a relationship with) and other nonsense. Not once mentioning or remembering that tomorrow I have to go to court and finalize everything (he moved out of state and doesn't have to appear). It's just a great reminder that he is still as selfish as ever and this really is the best decision I could make for myself. I've been reading posts here for the past few months and I just want to wish each and every one of you luck on your journey! It does get better!! 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How do I get the ghost voice of my ex out of my head? It's been about a year and a half since I have talked to my ex-wife, yet her voice still persists in my head. At least once a day, I find myself having pointless arguments with myself. Thing's I wish I had said that I never had the chance to, counter-points to old arguments we had, apologies for the terrible things I've said near the end, and the standard ""God she's such a fucking asshole"". It's so old at this point. I know that ending all communication was my decision and it was probably the best thing I could have done for myself, but it all happened so suddenly that it feels very much like my best friend has died and the mourning process doesn't seem to be getting any easier. I loved our life together. It meant the world to me. I would have never left her, cheated, or strayed. Not in a million years. I totally pictured having kids and growing old together. I can still see this future we could have had so clearly. A little background on my situation: My wife and I have known each other since middle school and we started dating in high school. She came from a troubled home, her mom had a thing for dating abusive alcoholic men that she thought she could change (she couldn't). Her dad was a drunk and never around. She was basically in charge of taking care of her 3 younger siblings while her mom worked 2 full time jobs since the age of 14. It was one of the things that first attracted me to her, she was so strong back then. After watching her go through a couple guys who treated her like shit, it seemed like she was on track to end up like her mother. I was always the guy she would go to for advice and it took me a long time to finally get up the courage to tell her how much I liked her. We started dating our senior year. Moved from Connecticut to California to go to school together. Graduated, got jobs that paid pretty well, rented a couple apartments, got 2 dogs and a cat, and made some good friends along the way. At some point she put on some weight and developed pretty serious depression. She was always attractive to me though, and I did my best to let her know this. Our sex life went through a series of high's and low's. She started to get the point where she was uncomfortable w/ sex. I always had to be on top or doggy style, and she felt so self conscious about herself to the point where I could tell sex was sometimes stressful for her. I always had to initiate the sex, which was not really an issue for me, but if I got the vibe that she wasn't in the mood, I'd back off immediately as I never wanted to make her feel like she had to if she didn't want to. I always felt like her depression was linked to her missing her family and we'd often talk about moving home together but she said several times that she didn't want to actually move home. Fast forward to 2012. We had our wedding. Everyone came and it was the happiest day of my life. Shortly after our honeymoon however she started acting weird. She put a lock code on her phone and would be on it constantly. I had a feeling something was going on and one time she left her phone out and unlocked I started looking around. Turns out she had downloaded KIK and was sexting with several older guys. I was absolutely devastated! She apologized, said she was confused and didn't know what she wanted, but promised to stop and to go see a therapist. We had just had our whole family come out for our wedding. I couldn't just let it end like that. So I took her back and we worked on us. Intimacy improved, we were having sex more regularly, and I honestly thought things were getting better. In 2014, I started noticing some signs again however. No lock on the phone, but an excessive amount of time on it again. We'd be sitting on the couch and she'd be typing away. When I'd ask what she was doing she'd say she was on instagram or reddit. She claimed that she was a part of a therapy sub-reddit for people with anxiety and depression. Unfortunately, once trust is gone, there is always that seed of doubt. So again, when she left her phone out, I started poking around and found a secret email account where she was talking to several different dudes. Even shittier, she had actually created this account on my birthday, after leaving my party a little early saying she had a headache but I could stay out with our friends if I wanted. We actually broke up for a bit after this, spent about a month apart but ultimately I took her back. Swore this was the last time. I should have ended it then, but I didn't. I missed her so much and I wanted to believer her so bad. This time she really started seeing a professional psychologist. We went to a couple sessions together to work on our communication. Things really seemed to be getting better. We were having sex a few times a week. We were saving money and were planning on buying a home. Fast forward again to late 2016, one night she tells me she's going out with her friends and would be home later. She didn't get home till 3:30 in the morning, this was extremely unusual as she is normally in bed by 11. Then she wakes up at 6 in the morning and say's she's going for a walk. Doesn't return for 5 hours. I'm calling her, no answer. I'm starting to freak out. She comes home and says she can't do this anymore. It doesn't take me long to figure out what had happened. She met a dude from out of town that she was talking to online at a hotel room. He's 20 years older than her. This guy drove 4 hours to swoop in and completely ruin my life. 15 years stolen away from me in the blink of an eye. I have an utter melt down. Felt like my life was over and was basically suicidal for several weeks. We were still talking at this point. She claimed she needed space to figure out what she wanted. Moved in with a close friend of hers and claimed she wasn't talking to him anymore cause she needed time to be on her own. Tells me she's going to move to North Carolina to be with her mom and family who had just moved there because a girlfriend from work was moving to New York and she was going to hitch a ride with them. At this point, I'm still hopeful. Maybe sometime with her family will help her straighten her life out, maybe I could move there too and we could start over again. She leaves, we have an amicable goodbye as hard as it was and promise to stay in touch. We talk occasionally on the phone. She sends me photo's of our dog (we split the animals, she got one of the dogs, I got the other and the cat). Tells me she really likes it in North Carolina and I should come visit her sometime soon. A month later, I'm lonely. I miss her and I'm sitting at my computer. Her itunes account is still logged in on my computer and like an idiot I click the find my iphone feature. It comes up that she is IN CALIFORNIA, 4 hours away, where this guy was from. I absolutely lose it. I call her furious say some of the foulest, meanest shit that has ever come out of my mouth. When you spend 15 years with someone, you develop quite the arsenal of insecurities that you can weaponize. I still feel terrible for everything that came out that day and we have not spoken since. I've found out through mutual friends and family that she is living there with him now. She has completely ghosted off the internet but all of her accounts still have photos from our wedding as her profile pics which is confusing to me at this point. Even her mom's profile pic is a shot of us from our wedding. She hasn't blocked me at all even though I unfriended her on everything, but I can tell she still logs in daily, just doesn't post anything. I'm still tempted every day to message her and see how she is doing but I don't. Anyways, I'm left with this overwhelming feeling of needing closure and never the fear that I will never get it. I still don't quite understand what happened and how we ended up like this. I'm seeing someone now and she is great! She is very understanding and really loves me for who I am. Whenever I am with her I feel happy but as soon as I am alone, these thoughts seem to creep back in and I'm back to fighting with someone in my own head. Those who have been through this, how often do you think about your ex? Is it a bad thing, that even while in a new relationship, your mind can sometimes dwell in the past? Any recommendations on how to get your mind out of these destructive thought loops? &#x200B;",3.724962484675864,5.194231246730084,4.522226861709483,85.86391694088803,72.4423305588585,7.80765607573118,26.23733281715197,8.380357678813938,1.615229252735301,6655,222,1366,109,129,2142,542,1682,0.098,0.777,0.124,0.9946,6,3,2,0,2,0,175.0,36,7,1,17,78,79,9,8,81,0,148,26,8,9,14,245,273,103,5,31,25,9,12,12,7,8,7,11,11,8,82,116,3,2,36,2,10,42,28,37,1,7,98,32,248,41,219,143,27,285,0,13,9,9,233,120,3,21,133,962,330,16,0.0,0.03251506795643756,0.08034024071308643,0.0,0.0,0.02681665247530769,0.0,0.02932786068278695,0.0,0.028422322383117888,0.0,0.0,0.13700696299547285,0.029734113674597093,0.03334583904688897,0.0373239035012668,0.0,0.020993561925460303,0.0,0.05443149486134514,0.0,0.0,0.0225829732151201,0.07328936421382448,0.025655185227567982,0.0,0.07734985516362336,0.1266102825362162,0.045826954308593085,0.016728792527166463,0.0,0.0,0.03091848347808991,0.08639814458157148,0.04854161027835456,0.029960280186441226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056044053977757455,0.09416128629126944,0.02797962367864372,0.028191174121393294,0.02903069847147813,0.1181971202988354,0.05754621964726735,0.02965576929846195,0.0,0.153375132492536,0.09109435324965527,0.0,0.07079298891560402,0.0,0.07090897576352365,0.0,0.028481151345084808,0.028671741749318837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02808337192984697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14583632294310214,0.0,0.0,0.0725024798367164,0.0496469192430809,0.02312162699840232,0.02622264033154488,0.049327391616785406,0.0,0.1293525007505379,0.030880625160480624,0.08325500921804077,0.019605043785131317,0.07904777960658944,0.03006209570681845,0.05016419326051317,0.02334271495562213,0.0,0.060178926590575124,0.12721279921269962,0.025370299550198143,0.1433765865704034,0.0,0.14036667915302967,0.0230176035453965,0.10974202186663287,0.030255632614264543,0.0,0.13586275348922686,0.07280236824050908,0.02921322484112797,0.02458323557736853,0.0,0.08449226771288865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.018394238405996924,0.057989359902508225,0.19269059826000487,0.027256756220329182,0.08107648485331574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02864301013192807,0.054465216706405216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04524530935598743,0.022369432902569104,0.030956518952720512,0.058115634987611124,0.11926613369823078,0.056123964013445535,0.11630138585479947,0.1608851863192212,0.0550095151366025,0.024232374022209298,0.04857178600935297,0.02304492513783191,0.03070132010801025,0.0,0.0,0.04953614921388382,0.025966911073886653,0.01831819051244056,0.0,0.055139686647355336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05541853280138741,0.1285620599766215,0.04380894325180147,0.2333376603871403,0.0605205442460619,0.061045160216687384,0.1269928400110054,0.05300858946985361,0.0,0.025753080017565454,0.026887982911568083,0.0,0.031243653482572988,0.08638937475652128,0.058451080493320776,0.07438343413044728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029717729540655193,0.02619712684129081,0.019025287029611915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20753749276170996,0.0,0.02628248510640737,0.05583810775883168,0.029587831992297038,0.0,0.0,0.05517491164963799,0.0,0.05837729973644699,0.0,0.0,0.08790236248493546,0.0,0.0,0.029463149713601988,0.0,0.0,0.10441702650411924,0.10911753461808957,0.0,0.0833203195317398,0.10934124617645084,0.09993107814244304,0.02862868231912867,0.12400959086660325,0.05633899799791664,0.09080341699970823,0.030846702785777457,0.0,0.0,0.06975623739803292,0.02112670254795409,0.10856598085128356,0.0,0.19424057973981285,0.05850045435722177,0.21915745958426974,0.02294329489898136,0.0314354775143251,0.0,0.0,0.030017818974975977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04126693428290528,0.15440160992371446,0.14391658121086032,0.0,0.03138307655958903,0.031863046649800435,0.1458534860828823,0.017584150233847455,0.05392455372712675,0.08714563554099923,0.14401833628224853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09146942434031873,0.0,0.029849736763607183,0.0,0.0571375595773059,0.06602028883650916,0.0,0.0,0.04528614167054011,0.11330475472580988,0.02178270837706096,0.04402569755891904,0.033417770189749715,0.024674249585373908,0.05087924669727998,0.0,0.030638752978317595,0.031557707879281714,0.0,0.0,0.0799143414255881,0.0,0.0,0.07797792112872468,0.0,0.03334583904688897,0.10603305058746756 divorce,throwaway-the-mom,2019/03/27,"SAHM and infidelity, do I have a chance? I am a stay at home mother of two children (6 and 10). I will just be up front and honest about the fact that I have been unfaithful. My relationship with my husband has been awful for the past couple of years, and I felt like I couldn’t leave because my youngest is on the spectrum and needs extra care, and I haven’t worked in almost 12 years. I have no money of my own except for maybe $400 in my bank account that my husband deposits into. We do not have any joint accounts that I can have access to, and I don’t have any family or close enough friends to help me. The house was his when we got married, but from what I understand, I can fight for equity and force him to sell or pay me out? Jesus this is such a mess. He recently found out about my infidelity and proclaims to want to work things out with me, but has since sexually assaulted me as a form of “punishment” for my infidelity. I cannot and will not bring my children to a shelter, but I can’t stay with the man for obvious reasons. He is normal in front of the children, but I can’t stand to coexist with him in the same household knowing what he did to me that night. I live in conservative Indiana and know that I am in a “fault state”, but what are my chances of coming out of this on top given the abuses? I have a high profile volunteer position in public administration in my community, and would like to go into this with as much knowledge as I possibly can. I have a reputation to uphold, and I do not want my children to face bullies and gossip. Ultimately I would want child support and rehabilitative spousal support while I see about turning my volunteer work into a paying job opportunity. I do not condone my actions or pretend like I was justified in cheating. I do understand that what I did was wrong, it at this point, I’d like to believe that him raping me while our children slept would outweigh my infidelity in the eyes of the court? If anyone has been in a similar situation (SAHP and infidelity) I would really appreciate whatever advice you can give on the matter. 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Divorce is so much harder than i thought. We have fought a lot and discussed for a divorce since last year. But now executing it, is just a whole new challenge. I can't sleep. Here i am in office fighting back tears. the lump in my throat hurts. How can this be real? The woman that's closest to me. The laughs we shared, the silly things we did together. How can all these go away by just signing some stupid documents?",2.3793545454545466,4.9931857900000045,3.2954545454545467,87.62772727272728,81.1,6.436363636363637,26.09090909090909,7.686295010490155,1.6211000000000009,409,17,79,7,11,130,75,100,0.158,0.767,0.076,-0.8645,0,0,0,0,5,0,13.0,3,0,0,1,8,8,3,0,9,0,10,3,2,2,1,15,13,5,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,3,0,9,4,12,9,5,12,0,1,0,0,11,5,0,2,5,60,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27684295640628065,0.22657550459929424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16746218143289515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3154398371374851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2401873898061892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2505095638831667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2166091501652405,0.0,0.0,0.28458465615839834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3353878155774193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2437459613933488,0.0,0.2948729988855345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957591430064675,0.0,0.0,0.2339272839946485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289775890533876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18975150722206052 divorce,TheNorthernBaron,2019/03/27,"So it looks like its going to happen My wife has been away for a few days since we decided we might be heading down this route. Looks like it's going to happen. This is horrible, I'm going to kiss my wife who is my best friend, I'm going to miss my house (neither us can afford I on our own), I'm going to miss my puppy ( I work minimum 6 days a week so it wouldn't be fair in the dog) 34 years old and I don't think I have it in me to start again. Took this long to finally let someone in my life, I shall be one of those old single guys.",0.537295081967212,1.582359614754104,2.999147540983607,95.2897049180328,79.90163934426229,6.191475409836067,17.937704918032786,6.742157984588678,-0.27089770491803306,411,7,105,4,10,143,77,122,0.07,0.802,0.127,0.8428,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,4,0,0,2,3,7,0,0,3,0,14,3,1,0,0,7,31,3,0,1,0,2,0,2,1,3,1,0,0,1,10,3,0,0,2,0,0,6,3,2,0,1,2,2,16,5,15,22,5,22,0,2,2,1,9,6,0,1,12,68,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15105166155628116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872149620473628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20737075550336032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17611912123583706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12421293260120254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4568554150995975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919068974141154,0.2843423213837597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16499962927780748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18551062290087936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1644014329326655,0.11355882656472906,0.15709127484403576,0.0,0.0,0.1422791736186596,0.2700178992045492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17055489951155142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33740874033123425,0.0,0.10894404353342224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13299320648803478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13622256357944146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11379605914951645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1030169392402585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862487911547453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933902973202379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896251880591458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11704476397185253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353263388300774 divorce,MrFeenyJr,2019/03/27,"Best Ways to Support Coworker I have a coworker who confided in me recently that he intends to file for divorce from his wife of 7+ years. While I have absolutely no intention of prying into his personal life, on several occasions he has confided in me regarding their struggles within their marriage, his attempts at marriage counseling, and how this is impacting in his work life. They have a older child together, and she intended to file divorce a year ago before they gave marriage counseling a chance. From what he has told me, she has been emotionally abusive towards him throughout their relationship despite all of his efforts to appease her or change himself for her. In situations where you are confiding in a co-worker, what would you want them to say or do in order to best support you? How would you want your coworker to respond if you identify that you plan to work more often in order to distract yourself? In the event that another conversation arises between him and I, I want to make sure I am doing everything I possibly can to support him while also respecting that we are colleagues in our workplace and what you would do to support a friend outside of work, may or may not be different from how you support a colleague. So far, I have listened to him with the intention of only listening rather than listening to what he says and then feeling like I must provide feedback in order for the conversation to continue. I try to focus on asking him questions so I can better understand what he’s feeling and what’s going on, as well as so he can articulate his thoughts out loud and make them real (if that makes sense) rather than keeping those thoughts to himself. I don’t provide my opinion unless he asks for it, and I remind him that these conversations stay between him and I. I have suggested to him that he look into finding a counselor for himself because there’s no reason he needs to go through this alone and he’s already attempted counseling once before for his marriage. I also told him to join Reddit because these communities are amazing. Thank you in advance for any input you can provide me!",10.064452926208652,8.532868078880405,9.679198473282444,64.55508269720104,59.050890585241724,12.804580152671758,45.24300254452925,11.645159339076185,5.4764239185750645,1717,92,277,40,18,558,196,393,0.039,0.818,0.14300000000000002,0.9886,1,1,0,0,2,0,28.0,2,11,7,11,14,17,0,2,11,0,29,2,0,11,3,58,59,29,0,12,9,1,2,1,1,6,2,6,0,2,20,15,0,1,8,0,0,3,4,2,1,0,6,9,63,15,64,46,4,40,0,0,1,0,81,22,0,10,11,226,83,4,0.0,0.10992716224325108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224240091149984,0.0,0.0,0.09609038025462284,0.10238320580015764,0.1483896107252223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06309245303180859,0.09728617948665604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1734704483884162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131136304393561,0.0,0.1578950686030038,0.0,0.19473028873174866,0.08205490260340789,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814718225976364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09693361893927556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10436314541767877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0833831900422214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0938230332486302,0.06628086497747836,0.0,0.0,0.08479772237810212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07168031570884804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10545613794587742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0824656519265868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106417132618756,0.04532681074392767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07791043918173546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18579078811968064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06879396387643569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09880590465459052,0.0,0.07056210868779478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08101046828042452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045936386902943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393297465920796,0.0,0.0,0.10560206323083056,0.0,0.09539158622505747,0.09160741836240396,0.09960921635174017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14756212040050742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10481311643863042,0.0,0.0,0.10428674196051163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09888936640153954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699206580794197,0.0,0.0,0.5264188065227204,0.08744248791660306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0854178307515681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1473112778011279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17730736051569226,0.0,0.06299040305625203,0.0,0.0,0.096585524444435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416920705848434,0.07364312819738464,0.0,0.0,0.08341887032300832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701749474189217,0.0,0.0,0.19772121341080334,0.0,0.0,0.11949241882452302 divorce,ShortLitLover,2019/03/27,"I write myself emails to get me through this time I've basically dealt with 'splitting', which was a reaction to my once-awesome but suddenly a psychological nightmare of a relationship. The 'younger' of me doesn't think there's anything insurmountable about this marriage at all, and she cant believe a divorce is happening and doesn't know how to even defend it. The 'adult' version of me is proudly starting the divorce process and dances in the shower. I know I bounce from each perspective daily (instead of weekly or monthly as I did in the marriage) so the 'adult' writes myself emails in order to tell the 'youth' why this is happening. The other day it was ""Do it... for that scared, unemployed, unsecured, uninsured, humiliated and heartbroken woman who chose to cleave herself in two instead of bravely stepping out. Now you can step out, take her hand so you can take your whole self."" &#x200B; Tl;dr My unsuccessful marriage to someone who I was very much in love with and still has great qualities did a 180 on me and it drove me crazy. The shred of sanity I have left sends me emails and is filling out paperwork right now.",8.540218531468533,8.245758144230772,7.839353146853149,72.53746503496505,61.30769230769231,10.832867132867134,39.1013986013986,10.230975488527342,4.003090384615385,906,42,158,17,11,283,132,208,0.099,0.789,0.112,0.7046,3,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,0,3,0,1,11,5,0,1,14,0,17,2,1,1,1,22,28,13,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,12,13,0,0,3,1,0,6,3,1,0,1,6,1,22,4,29,22,5,29,0,0,0,1,26,12,0,1,10,118,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19825884126394855,0.22234082652540746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15057701571073198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2061558913471701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11800701465006247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12085661774299518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09559954007343907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20173618522675196,0.0,0.0,0.32361736257089896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20112213429812295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.198808393347568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16514666707911782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14605295488462092,0.0,0.1345114134581688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1964521285595078,0.0,0.1562639893474044,0.0,0.0,0.18319498216683566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19088813090646295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15503842879839172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12951424309160853,0.0,0.1461281290138093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2751564974487229,0.0,0.15993265592617187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724624746263015,0.0,0.0,0.10669715669033424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1787449510451056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509777300102751,0.0,0.0,0.1467755837518942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16511106232882924,0.20429072578824425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22234082652540746,0.0 divorce,UpmarketBog8673,2019/03/27,"Parents may be getting Divorce Hello, I am 14 years old I suspect that my parents are getting a divorce. I am not sure if i am just overthink all of this or it is really happening. (First of all for a bit of context we are currently on a road trip for my brother because he is felling sick and we have been in a pop up camper for the past 6 weeks. One of the reasons I suspect a divorce is because my parents have been getting in arguments often, but then start kiss each other a lot, this confuses me because i see them arguing (like a big argument) and then an hour later they are all lubby dubby. So I was on my way home with my mom and my brother and my dad starts texting me that he wanted taco bell and some bananas for a cramp, at the moment my mom was on the phone with her brother and I couldn't tell her that he wanted food and then it seemed that he was getting really annoyed, but you never know through text messages but he seemed mad. So when we got back to the camper we get out of the car, he is standing outside, they kiss and hug and they decide to go to the supermarket together. So they left my brother and I home, and I decided to peek at my dad's computer because i was curious. Now I notice that it was not the best idea because i wouldn't like it if someone went on my computer, anyways I looked on there and he had 2 tabs, One tab was Orlando legal divorce attorney and the other was Orlando legal divorce attorney team. When I saw this I instantly thought a divorce was happening, then I remember that earlier that day my dad asked me for my email info, this email was an email me and my mom share, and over a year ago she cheated on him and he has kept a close eye on her ever since. To be fair my aunt had recently had a divorce about a year ago and my dad helped her a lot, but it was a year ago what could he be doing? Could someone try to help me understand, I am not really sure if i am overthinking all of this and after i saw the stuff on his computer I just don't know what to think, and if they are hiding it they are doing a good job.",5.167083333333334,4.523234875,6.343888888888893,81.64,68.30555555555556,9.7,33.0462962962963,9.188382445141503,2.6764518518518527,1614,65,346,27,24,546,190,432,0.099,0.83,0.071,-0.8812,5,0,0,0,7,0,30.0,4,1,7,3,14,15,4,1,28,0,43,7,1,1,8,78,70,37,0,10,14,15,0,2,0,2,2,0,2,0,23,28,1,1,15,1,0,5,7,5,0,3,21,5,61,10,38,41,10,56,0,0,5,3,63,19,0,13,32,254,84,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24504709560001364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861445942702887,0.0,0.0,0.07085501639521061,0.0,0.2808584370180365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967021292143777,0.0,0.1006001772348073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471430594692498,0.0,0.0,0.0594269077890211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335183856652317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07837981644577235,0.11142398552453388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24071387067387714,0.0,0.052369013287601775,0.07728816225274655,0.0736980213882355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16296979651130292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12352779294634453,0.0,0.18486102471870414,0.0,0.09074579960603904,0.0,0.0,0.1040222495685636,0.0,0.0,0.09144124186589242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128267853151174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011750652437257,0.0,0.0,0.09003630894776779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737990228402247,0.0,0.0,0.15667941940581798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.323762810431922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07106910734900454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10490946874496157,0.09669231348558743,0.0,0.12488178699081555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069535485759003,0.0,0.0879643176524521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17709433670806765,0.09474201016368128,0.09098361087195818,0.0,0.1043840890261372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07342887767387221,0.16777353398959127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0762245862426114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15615096169118894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13044361819326492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054857647672797,0.0,0.0,0.17369408365611633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805401545354052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904379461875306,0.0,0.07315407538004237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256146524799244,0.0,0.0,0.0959278181724526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108700856467589,0.07314164986942162,0.07391441184381274,0.0,0.0,0.08542078384227282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23735745272221986 divorce,ughhidontcare,2019/03/28,"Can people stop fucking their coworkers? Oh, no, that’s all I wanted to say. Just that. Hey fuckos, you’re married, stop banging your coworkers. Christ. </rant>",2.7711904761904727,5.158372785714286,2.665714285714288,84.26261904761904,106.85714285714286,4.723809523809524,26.095238095238088,6.42735559955562,1.8477666666666672,130,6,19,2,6,39,25,28,0.231,0.769,0.0,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,1,1,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,3,1,2,1,0,0,1,4,0,1,0,2,10,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4089082069510699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3066418664318568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517424407175029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7395814590308079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26088573149025146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,imadirtydinosaurrawr,2019/03/28,"Ex bringing mistress turned girlfriend to our kid's first big recital Ex had an affair with a co-worker, informed me on the eve of our kid's first birthday and moved in with her the next weekend (where he still lives with our kid during his time ~45%). Our marriage wasn't perfect but I was shocked and obviously devastated. I tried to take the high road for the sake of our kid. I worked hard to make a new life for the kid and I. I found a full time job (I was part time), top notch full time daycare, packed (80% alone) and sold the house and moved into a new place in about 6 weeks. We had a reasonably civil and short divorce process and for the most part co-parent well considering. I try to keep it civil, light and about the kid. Hindsight (and lots of therapy) has made me realize that he was not a good, supportive partner for me. And to appreciate that he is a good dad for our kid. I feel like I have a lot to be proud of but some how today it all came crumbling down when he told me he'd be bringing her to our kid's first big recital. I knew this was an eventuality the longer the relationship maintained and I thought I'd be better prepared for it but I'm a giant wreck. We had a conversation and I acknowledged that I understand he would like her to come but was hoping that we could go just just the two parents since it was a first and I feel like we deserve his firsta. He said no it's unfair. I know I have zero control in this and I'll be there for my kid no matter what but I'm terrified. I don't know why? I have nothing to be ashamed of but why is this still so hard two years later? Why do I feel embarrassed and scares of judgement showing up alone? It just feels like I take 2 steps forward and 10 steps back. And it's so frustrating and still so sad sometimes. My family and friends try to be supportive but really just don't understand. I get a lot of the ""karma"" talk or ""what goes around comes around"" which to me is bullshit. He's had no retribution that I can tell. And hoping or banking on that seems like something we tell ourselves to feel better. It just flat out sucks and isn't fair. Anyway, sorry for my rambling. I guess I'm not sure what I'm looking for, probably just some support and perspective from people out there who have been through this and that it will be ok? Hopefully? I'll survive this too, right? I read in a post on here once a woman in a similar situation invited them to the birthday party she threw because ""I'll always love my kid more than I can hate someone else."" I try to live by that in all of this but god damn this fucking sucks.",2.902261904761904,4.332788712406018,3.922556390977445,89.50051378446119,74.46992481203006,7.096741854636591,25.63659147869675,7.7094869923839395,1.1780170426065166,2033,69,444,27,42,657,249,532,0.157,0.71,0.133,-0.9424,3,2,1,0,1,0,57.0,12,0,1,12,26,33,6,3,30,1,37,3,0,5,5,97,84,38,0,5,18,4,7,5,3,2,1,1,0,12,29,39,0,2,17,3,2,12,9,11,1,7,21,10,55,22,56,52,13,63,1,1,1,2,58,29,4,13,28,286,84,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15321731026239774,0.0,0.0,0.06154739361321744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13169460145116155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05687691139460306,0.0,0.045090273771445616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13083756602297694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459981337863996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12743395566933252,0.0,0.0,0.08296152585223199,0.05905751760103346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06179086515839955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973055183021985,0.0,0.18700249646377906,0.15852849931706606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2516689488995888,0.0,0.08110221556141126,0.05714757888649746,0.06838232649034963,0.03864528495034118,0.0,0.042037781940066736,0.12408188382264801,0.0,0.0,0.08148421323947692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252179684474116,0.07302819570914816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07815137014786913,0.0,0.22040107164345968,0.0,0.08534926866712307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07340193646148647,0.06574625547190963,0.0,0.0,0.08130187847976063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052245864125931685,0.18068541321604453,0.0,0.1306303939174452,0.0,0.062114583692748686,0.0,0.0,0.18865512792764505,0.06675910786776704,0.0699904148741722,0.049374288303361866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1572327914725304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14287772459084458,0.07866592494201563,0.0,0.0,0.0709743972041478,0.0,0.0,0.07877362390024975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08213283346202414,0.16020051162424054,0.0,0.05128017454651517,0.0,0.07728093243320007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708410034326955,0.0,0.07975013394838161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0739881275801652,0.0,0.04738586581387818,0.07605153723160417,0.0,0.07941406916237402,0.0,0.06316836243321354,0.07036061185864481,0.0,0.07405498271091585,0.0,0.0,0.0673377899869516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061187185585131525,0.08314325563536111,0.0,0.0,0.06267294021042766,0.05694426541713474,0.07315635290025117,0.08280124413617101,0.0,0.0,0.17721308640169475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2518144065823045,0.06971406901363357,0.0,0.11122962769146297,0.059452765565770074,0.12930277815947328,0.0,0.08458898103758078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05872241762442141,0.1725256008772276,0.0,0.07011312013526416,0.07067969966388146,0.0,0.2008779672439467,0.08045606402798805,0.1445121924491785,0.15400682385110506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05933275676313165,0.0,0.06650621478524224,0.0,0.20023414486877694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10769933117685948,0.0,0.0,0.0525448236343502,0.0,0.0,0.047633038188962015 divorce,ArseAboutFace345,2019/03/28,"Separated for about a year. Found someone else. Need to move states (2 hours away), have what I think to be reasonable child care solution but I can’t bring myself to talk to him about it. So longer story (apologies for it being a bit clunky it’s a long story and I’m on my phone): moved to America 2 years ago for his job. I (34F) was starting to feel unhappy in the relationship back home but I was convinced that heading off on this ‘adventure ‘ would be great. I thought I’d give it a go as I wasn’t ready to give up at that point. Naive. Being away from my friends and family was extremely more difficult than I could’ve imagined. Being forced together with no respite was probably the worst thing to happen for us. I made some fellow parent friends (as always he does not do this) so I got some folks to chat with and our child (6) had friends to play with too. This helped but it’s hard making new friends! I tried my best to make the start of his job go as well as poss, kept the house, made sure child was taken care of and tried to be supportive as poss all while putting my career on hold. Fast forward a year and we’ve drifted even further apart. I’ve made my own friends and started going out with them. This made me feel better about myself but it also threw into relief that I’m not happy at home. I brought this up and after a few weeks we decided to separate. At this point he asked if we were going to see other people. I thought why not. I’m ok with this (we’d not had sex for at least 9 months at this point) and he must be or he wouldn’t have brought it up. A few months later I’ve met someone and ended up moving in with him. During this time my dad died and my ex seemed to make it clear he’s not there for me at all. That hurt. I’ve finally starting to make progress in my American career (have lots of quals to get through having done lots of it at home but they’re not transferable) but it’s going to move me to a different state; only 2 hours away. I put this idea to him and he flipped out. I didn’t get chance to say it’s only 2 hours away and I hadn’t thought about any solutions to me seeing our child at this point. You might wonder why I broached this subject without thinking it though? Well he’s gotten mad at me before for not telling him things ASAP. So I thought I’d bring it up as something I’m considering. Now I have thought it through and I have what I think is a reasonable solution but I’m too scared to bring it up again. I don’t NEED to move states now, but it’s by far the better option for my career now and this move would NEED to be done in a couple of years anyway whether I moved now or not. I might add that he never made any attempt to ‘win me back’ or even have much of an opinion to give me on any of this. I don’t dislike him as a person, I just don’t love him. There’s no attraction no affection there’s just nothing. There’s no abuse or anything untoward like that. Any advice. I’m concerned that I can’t talk to him and I’m also concerned about how our child will be affected by all this. 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Anyone have pet/divorce experience? Ok, so I’m divorcing a Narc. He turned our three adult children against me with lies. They all rely on him for income so he controls the purse strings. I left him and moved away while the divorce is ongoing, but I missed some court dates due to the snowy area I lived in. Fast forward to Dec 2018. I tried to move into a house I’m co-owner of which is closer to the court, not the marital home. Husband and son blocked that by calling the police on me. I had no choice but to go to a hotel. But with 2 dogs, one a big golden, I wouldn’t have been able to get a hotel room. I had the police call my STBXH to ask him to take the golden. He had the police leave the dog with our son. I’ve lived in 2 hotels and 2 Airbnb while the house issue was being settled, for a total of 3 months. Fast forward again. I’m getting into the house tomorrow. Requested my dog be returned. Was informed our son gave the dog to our daughter who lives upstate! It wasn’t our son’s dog to give away. Husband knew this was temporary. Daughter didn’t reply to my text asking for the dog back. Son told me not to contact him because I told him not to talk to me but it was the opposite, he told me not to contact him anymore! I have the old text to prove it. Do I have to file a case in civil court against our daughter to get the dog back? Has anyone else had legal issues over a pet in a divorce? I’m heartbroken. I miss him, my other dog misses him, and I’m sure he misses us. I was his primary caregiver since we got him years ago. What do I do?",0.8571662571662593,2.79126245345346,2.6968058968058948,93.7008353808354,82.12312312312312,5.357684957684959,21.2020202020202,6.42735559955562,0.2116894894894896,1219,37,273,11,33,405,165,333,0.09,0.89,0.02,-0.9694,1,0,0,0,3,0,40.0,8,0,1,1,6,7,1,0,26,1,26,1,1,1,4,28,50,13,0,1,8,10,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,2,9,10,0,2,3,3,0,5,8,5,0,2,18,0,42,2,41,29,3,36,0,4,0,0,54,18,1,1,17,170,51,1,0.11558587947791735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245990810427973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146301335897701,0.16164066887303905,0.11843139283241602,0.0,0.0,0.21611438873010866,0.0,0.21719347724797228,0.17775681325594392,0.0,0.07046007930039237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23605221244603025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963939230130805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09655717064769333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11306516932076215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18116655418790112,0.11088050789467714,0.06569011898493829,0.0,0.09244458678952933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11594206141291045,0.0,0.0,0.4001117581808276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24128325604136555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12238875708363285,0.12558439625247614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061933476314394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0922595462456597,0.2456989951299061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12128793687432235,0.0,0.07832398332030968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09561383393565437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893832350524148,0.0,0.08690619652720656,0.09290355160905234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3313417834955855,0.0,0.07847522490910974,0.12572424555114284,0.0,0.0,0.13903558129796384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443351675186068 divorce,annatoo84,2019/03/28,"Women success stories So, I’m 9 months into a separation. And the economic fear and loss of social status as a women married to a successful man is VERY real. I’ve started my own business as well as switching jobs, and will most likely be going back to school. Daily I wake up to feel shame and fear that this is my life at 37. Living with very little and a lot of grilled cheese sandwiches. So, ladies, how did you build yourself up after a divorce? How did you ditch the fear and live in uncertainty? What are your regrets?",3.177950377562027,5.1903896213592216,4.453915857605182,83.51403451995688,75.11650485436894,6.519525350593313,26.00755124056095,7.3871296695380915,1.4221033441208195,413,15,77,5,9,136,75,103,0.179,0.737,0.084,-0.8702,1,0,0,0,1,0,12.0,0,3,0,3,6,10,0,4,7,0,7,3,1,2,0,15,11,13,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,1,1,0,0,3,3,8,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,6,1,0,2,1,6,4,15,7,3,11,0,2,0,0,8,6,0,2,5,53,9,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14753668543443418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6477234692396409,0.09701556508516176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10904451135582356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19040201277568392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13552391351421356,0.0937383072273359,0.19230479629381173,0.3388505961911829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16312156422342214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314932129403905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21839080412906145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1941833400385083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1955879635786558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13580703275096573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3166267591073985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17251475598121616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,wishingforrain_,2019/03/28,"23, divorced and alone // venting My spouse kicked me out. it felt like it came out of nowhere, a text i got one morning after he let me sleep in before he went to work. &#x200B; ""you need to find another place to live. you're not welcome in our home anymore."" &#x200B; we've had our issues, everyone does. honesty, trust, money, separate addictions. all stuff we had worked thru in the past. except he decided he was out of fight. it feels strange to say out of ""fight"" because frankly when i lost my job a few months ago, there was no desire for counseling. no more looking forward. no more planning and wishing and day dreaming. i was foolish to believe that when we said our vows a year ago, ""for better or for worse"" actually meant something. he had been married before, a divorce i thought was finalized when i met him. the first two and a half years of our relationship were spent filling out his divorce papers and dealing with custody agreements with their son. &#x200B; infidelity led to an ""open relationship"" agreement that should have been a clue that trust issues were always going to be present. i never felt like i was enough for him. i'm sure at times he felt the same. but he *was* enough for me. he was my future, my plans, my home and my everything. i don't know how i can breathe without him. the air feels different. my body feels foreign. music doesn't sound the same anymore. i feel like he died. this really is a grieving process. &#x200B; it would be easy if i could look at him and not want our life back. i begged, believe me. on my hands and knees, saying i'll do anything. wishing i could be a different person, wanting him to look at me and pick me up off of the ground and say ""i love you. we'll get thru this"". god, how i've wished for that. &#x200B; i'm essentially homeless, apart from a friend who's letting me crash on his couch. i have no income, and will likely have to suck up my pride and move back in with my parents. in an argument, i found out he never filed our marriage paperwork, so technically we're not even legally married. i don't have hope for gaining any custody of the little boy i helped raise from a baby to kindergartener. the 30k of debt has been handed to me. my wrecked car is now my responsibility. i'm at the lowest of my low. the idea of life after him feels unbearably painful. especially seeing how he's already happily dating and having strangers sleep in what was once our marriage bed. &#x200B; i'm hoping there's an ""after"" to this feeling. because honestly, each morning is a new hell.",3.394422828692605,5.555017281947265,3.9306855061773938,86.8380455928453,74.96348884381341,6.510215747741102,28.24308500829799,7.435244526350478,1.6159862068965525,2012,84,388,25,44,633,255,493,0.122,0.757,0.121,0.0955,7,1,1,0,5,0,102.0,10,2,1,9,13,25,4,0,24,0,41,12,7,5,4,75,81,23,2,14,8,3,11,4,1,4,4,5,4,2,14,27,0,0,16,1,3,8,13,8,0,4,29,20,60,17,61,41,9,61,1,3,4,1,57,29,2,4,30,250,74,5,0.0,0.0,0.055619602684039406,0.0621337495783148,0.0,0.0,0.10104653679035368,0.0,0.0,0.059030378709676874,0.0628961962256709,0.0,0.04742500631762385,0.3705290441397429,0.41553624242169057,0.03875904524803861,0.05976498379023346,0.0,0.0,0.11304888151249518,0.0,0.0,0.046902622639691256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08765238376029988,0.0,0.06948812591196289,0.0,0.09699832253059812,0.1284293214494403,0.0,0.0504080841685689,0.0,0.06330939808458473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06518792183411291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09101289204651923,0.0,0.0,0.03675752538223479,0.058760086437559325,0.0,0.0,0.05915256069949437,0.11909679658926442,0.0,0.0,0.049877340179826216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778363294312875,0.0,0.03764513666812637,0.0,0.0,0.054461854618121266,0.05122407959225956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291249664164368,0.04071775499751209,0.1641744929720331,0.062436027234498474,0.05209305710346164,0.048480531793590034,0.0,0.06249286703421384,0.044034753230346745,0.0,0.02977791219615052,0.0,0.03239198213031103,0.0,0.045584685331701166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03820303086235589,0.0,0.11434271209950213,0.11321922398847055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434123229847799,0.0,0.11897745108099406,0.05655945924027316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03132335810000332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11656397410965305,0.08051552765379565,0.11138092270322457,0.0571246864942697,0.0503282665041896,0.0,0.14358615456037288,0.0,0.06221756309545438,0.0,0.051440864129587885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04549344131992244,0.060577432212507464,0.0,0.04226160547814525,0.08791722855741183,0.05504682321684348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060698583511247,0.038621776110162924,0.0,0.060647466425809524,0.0,0.06328700400051303,0.0,0.054408865598730025,0.0,0.04976646579366266,0.05954839829463221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03651291880387021,0.0,0.0,0.1223841501851998,0.0,0.0,0.05421598326125565,0.13597585669912818,0.0,0.0,0.045418210963771743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140737667320894,0.0,0.0,0.04387809115250834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524646528241647,0.0,0.0,0.05371779322087857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04524823657563081,0.03323466369255505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055676538335200615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0672351067779473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05283560506630989,0.0,0.0,0.1966268015202563,0.05494184185782063,0.0,0.08298712848125459,0.0,0.05808350973118581,0.04048812543513361,0.0,0.41553624242169057,0.07340675224154468 divorce,jwb76,2019/03/28,Counseling My wife wants to do couple counseling sessions while we go through the dissolution process. I attended one session and it turned into a marriage counseling session. I expressed to her that what I said is what I felt and agreed to make all efforts to maintain us being friends. I don’t feel counseling help us just point out all negatives in the relationship and rehash all negative feelings again. Unless counseling can make her not be gay; yeah; if not; let’s be friends and just enjoy our boys and restart our life’s. ,5.463324742268039,7.76370980412371,5.31813144329897,78.53018685567012,69.51546391752578,8.973711340206185,35.83634020618557,9.516144504307137,3.7615783505154656,429,23,73,10,8,133,67,97,0.055,0.804,0.141,0.823,0,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,5,0,0,1,3,3,0,0,3,1,8,2,0,2,3,23,17,8,0,2,6,1,3,0,2,0,1,1,0,1,4,8,0,0,3,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,2,4,13,3,9,11,3,8,0,0,0,1,16,4,0,1,2,55,17,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24507188561772855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22398163407855184,0.0,0.21266288975112532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34224163700161925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587654269361226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14845851130767318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264861409919833,0.15644328607985694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2956894689850986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500857721480651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093774320515323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377948599106126,0.0,0.0,0.21068548705068346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409149748437693,0.0,0.0,0.5328447734794671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13063916179621884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MasterSplinter86,2019/03/28,"Cancel wedding or divorce later? I’ve realized lately I just don’t truly love my fiance, and I don’t want children with her (not even completely sure I want them at all). When we met I felt something for her and loved her but as time went on I realized how different we are. I felt pushed to propose (and admittedly being the pushover, I did), and she has baby fever and I honestly am not ready for children. Although we’ve discussed this, I kept thinking I might want children in a few years which she is ok with, but now I just feel like I plain do not want children with her and feel our love originally may have partially been because I had come from a bad place into the relationship but now I’m emotionally in a much better place and feel this decision I’ve made is terrible. Anyway, we are about 2.5 months from our wedding and I’m having serious doubts. I feel trapped. Cancelling our wedding and honeymoon, returning all the gifts, reimbursing guests for travel, paying her parents for cancelling venue/etc, seems almost as bad as just following through with it now and having a divorce. Although since I’ve never experienced divorce, maybe cancelling the wedding and all the humility that would come with it is still better than divorce. Another thing is I worry about my fiance’s mental health if I were to call off the wedding. She is the one who really wanted a big wedding, honeymoon, and to call it off now would crush her emotionally because she loves me a lot. I just feel trapped now, I feel I need to tell her how I really feel but cannot right now because it would be easier to end it after getting married.",7.3597276338188,7.103321360128617,7.480397200680915,74.0156667297144,63.69453376205789,10.533081142424816,35.9790051068659,10.056822442137396,3.5620722905239264,1297,55,235,25,17,420,158,311,0.131,0.731,0.139,0.1733,2,2,1,0,4,0,32.0,6,0,1,2,19,15,0,1,13,1,27,6,0,4,5,75,59,26,0,10,13,1,9,1,1,5,2,0,0,4,11,23,0,1,15,1,2,6,7,5,0,1,10,10,41,10,31,42,6,35,0,0,0,4,46,11,0,8,19,170,52,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10079448045831392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554872458798734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1680905068519923,0.18408060871629595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17804770136274406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20556621275167788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17341596585878027,0.10553803295314623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516622096504308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264534788178735,0.08915314073265203,0.0,0.11226031502501392,0.06648368175263403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3562700829674005,0.0719101191955123,0.1932949947625722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052589667960562206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699478255527572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11354664606546593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049176430700712793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08557586045767314,0.3633912204938449,0.09524506504181472,0.0,0.0,0.10112452394066312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10143962267629096,0.10678226661313876,0.0,0.0,0.08034428195094638,0.0,0.07399523643353152,0.07463665635575513,0.07763368075289112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06820848850320706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11176883404995748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21033244193008616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12896822742426736,0.0,0.0,0.1080690576874502,0.0,0.08596141056389918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09163529318421007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326536542551632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749147184173638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0803856355232565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09486900526979658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08797955790108491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687272471979594,0.0644976034293155,0.0,0.0,0.0586945087640619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968535803865295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331100544019452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10222311900636864,0.0,0.21451373678788585,0.0,0.0,0.06482047332628546 divorce,beefandfoot,2019/03/28,"While it may look and feel impossible, it will get better 3.5 years ago learned my ex wife had emotional affair. I played the pick me dance for a few months. Moving out was the best and the worst decision. Best is for me personally. I needed that. Worst is because of two young kids. My son at the time was 7 years old asked ""you told me to work out any problems how come you and mum couldn't work out the problem"". It turns out that it took me months in counseling trying to get over the fact that I couldn't stand up for myself and did the pick me dance. That was awful. Fast forward to today, my career is blossom, met a girl I love, kids are doing way better (50/50 custody), and travelling on a corporate jet with my boss. Don't stop believe in yourself. Never self doubt yourself. It will get better. Be positive. Cheers.",1.9729520028870409,4.344228417177913,2.8451172861782767,91.7422049801516,80.77914110429447,5.7984843016961385,20.63118007939372,7.048011613610866,0.4419566221580653,644,18,133,8,17,203,104,163,0.075,0.732,0.194,0.9643,0,0,0,0,0,0,26.0,0,2,0,7,1,13,0,1,10,1,17,1,0,4,2,28,30,7,0,5,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,5,9,11,0,1,3,4,0,7,4,5,0,1,8,2,16,8,18,16,5,32,0,0,1,1,16,11,0,2,14,84,25,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1336713557679729,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10254629779794938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409736934036626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919237046164101,0.0,0.0,0.1698951994181195,0.3165017243583648,0.4000998252790359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12989720752667833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962494997201094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624687459029629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2363537052313357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663047185487195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13609907411956992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407274973669473,0.16027204395116615,0.0,0.11181315620772783,0.11630299770703155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158234798959514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166905399679954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28858238193189056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15731288034010776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12607201983025496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08793022889034946,0.0,0.14293676232079944,0.14409182492907535,0.16753965417882874,0.10238043252118764,0.1640225007680329,0.14730556039094772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11969466698488088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2195622398894376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942150697358228 divorce,alec7717,2019/03/28,"California divorce. Does anyone by chance have the time and knowledge to do a digital ""sitdown"" with me? Tying to get divorced here in California. Of course they require a ton of paperwork. We have a kid together and bought a bunch of stuff while married. I have all the stuff I'm supposed to need, but I just feel like I cant make it through all of it without getting lost.",3.686894977168951,5.528406479452058,4.672808219178084,83.2310388127854,73.24657534246576,7.606392694063928,32.714611872146115,8.344100000000001,2.5963899543379,295,15,57,5,6,96,54,73,0.0,0.895,0.105,0.7346,0,0,0,0,2,0,9.0,1,0,1,2,2,2,0,0,6,0,5,0,0,1,2,14,13,4,0,1,3,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,4,0,1,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,1,6,1,12,11,4,3,0,1,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,43,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2014338510257192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521027728689091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14566307301699216,0.2058060614872476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010222360627334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14074246620280775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3144758746348412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19229718047340771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21360938431198875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6595706490477702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798311301386595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2777010688409555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gonzoparenting,2019/03/28,"Mildly funny divorce lawyer story The other day I was with my team of divorce lawyers (Im a fancy person with fancy lawyers) and I had to call my various banks/credit cards, and give verbal permission for my lawyers to have access to my statements. They had written down the all the numbers I needed to call in their presence *on speaker phone*. I started with the first one (American Express) and everything went smoothly. So I move on to the second number (Bank of America), also on speaker phone. A man's voice answers and says in a sultry tone: ""Hello, you have reached Big Beefy Men. To speak to a big beefy man, press 1 now."" For a second I thought B of A was playing an April Fools joke on their customers because the idea that my lawyer would accidentally write down the wrong number never crossed my mind! As a matter of fact, I was so confused I almost pressed one! LOL! Once I realized what had happened I burst out laughing. Needless to say, the lawyers were mortified and didn't join in on the hilarity. What is it about lawyers not having a sense of humor? LOL! 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The child in question is taking three this year and four next year. 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We’ve been together since we were 18. Married at 20 and have been married 14 years. Last week my husband told me he cheated on me w/ a bridesmaid at his cousin’s destination wedding (he was a groomsman). I was unable to go to the wedding bc it was “no kids allowed” and we have 4 kids, including a 2 month old baby. I can’t go into details right now, bc I’m just so shattered. I’m in shock. I knew he had been “unsatisfied”. But I thought we were okay. When our baby was born, he took off work for over 6 weeks, to help me recover. And I had never felt more loved in our marriage. I thought our marriage was on the mend. But the very next week, he slept with another woman. And the worst if it is, he said he doesn’t regret it and couldn’t promise he wouldn’t do it again. Yet, moving forward, he would “never make that mistake with another woman”. So I guess I’m the chump. Even still, I offered him forgiveness. But he doesn’t want to work on our marriage. Or himself. He’s happy with the way he is. But me? I need to “improve myself and be able to give him what he needs”. Sorry, but a relationship goes two ways. So, there’s no point in trying to make it work... I haven’t held a job in over a decade, so I could be a SAHM. I have no work history bc I was just a poor college kid bouncing from job to job. I have an associate degree in general studies. But I got pregnant before I could finish my bachelors. As hurt and broken as I am, we’ve agreed to divorce mediation (bc we can remain civil for the kids). But I’m such a pushover, how to I make sure I’m able to stand up for myself and my 4 kids? He’s been thinking about this a while and I was totally blindsided... How do I protect myself from being railroaded?",0.5989572192513393,2.699044871657754,2.790724598930481,91.70785160427809,84.24064171122996,5.665133689839572,22.986363636363635,6.961326702584282,0.7390151871657755,1378,51,303,18,40,467,186,374,0.103,0.8270000000000001,0.07,-0.9306,4,0,0,0,1,1,57.0,8,0,0,4,17,13,1,0,19,1,38,2,1,6,4,58,65,29,0,11,11,3,1,0,1,2,0,1,0,9,8,18,0,2,6,0,1,5,11,6,0,1,26,2,44,7,37,31,3,43,0,2,0,1,53,18,0,3,19,191,52,8,0.2289572276206377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240375302348208,0.0,0.0,0.2400816163086697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974128686042629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18280371583590668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07561204474819487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991742190188386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981831777117576,0.13012166877818945,0.0,0.09155900528450704,0.0,0.1261110995451077,0.0,0.0,0.1218646131222584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673260173144411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12255172378695388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3408070796005497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09331534951245886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033214185073059,0.0,0.2292460909781776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0913757373537132,0.12167264939327488,0.0,0.16976888317420574,0.17658592870639608,0.0,0.12174930451883186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12012604781831138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10821929280879393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12290718880704884,0.0,0.09776411069349332,0.10889537707239452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09469789233324916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12814943565849493,0.0,0.0,0.09142276886697456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078947387174808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335327328582425,0.0,0.1817664639602854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10938922136897704,0.12718995215773454,0.07772346420363765,0.0,0.11182897129950313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09445684556383722,0.06752245246393519,0.18173559020353705,0.2754835162653032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33336717715048864,0.0,0.0,0.08132232269896067,0.0,0.0,0.07372047396505815 divorce,rez667,2019/03/28,"Paying alimony after being cheated on (rant) I just do not understand why I have to pay my ex alimony if she cheated after 13 years of marriage. It is complete bullshit, and a failure of our court system. I could have taken it to a judge and hoped he would see it my way.. But that would have been an equal amount of lawyer fees for something that wasn't even a certainty. I live in PA, which is an at fault state, but her being on fake disability and pulling that card whenever she can could have trumped the cheating. I have been paying this bitch for over 2.5 years, and it pisses me off every pay day, when I have to give her a check. I only have till October next year.. But wtf man.. The alimony laws are so god damn dumb. Still am happy I divorced her :-) It sucked at the time, but now I am the happiest I have been in a long long time. Happy Thursday y'all... :-) <3 ",2.8393506493506493,4.296002545454545,3.928766233766236,89.28636363636366,74.68181818181819,7.074025974025973,24.50324675324676,7.7094869923839395,1.0885337662337666,672,21,144,9,14,218,111,176,0.237,0.637,0.126,-0.9685,0,0,1,0,1,0,33.0,1,1,0,0,6,13,8,0,11,0,25,1,1,0,0,18,31,12,0,6,7,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,10,4,0,0,1,0,6,1,2,10,0,0,5,1,20,3,19,20,2,28,0,0,1,0,14,8,5,2,16,102,30,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19545116436540616,0.0,0.0,0.2976722603064595,0.0,0.0,0.12022138202365085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231244570914096,0.0,0.1570615392830567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17882495836869586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3968815915321732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18515081521398746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16460666737137214,0.3299404266353468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982530305860528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14177598022658314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14854754323982186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14351033438893498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887018093513993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21739859572490625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19406318289602034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1479664777782087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682093234832502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2648458156386781,0.0,0.0,0.3601328345383442 divorce,iToronto,2019/03/28,"Almost 2.5 years later, it still hurts... After 13 years of marriage, she had an affair, abducted our kids, lied in court, cost me thousands of dollars, and currently lives with and subjects our kids to a borderline abusive boyfriend. Two and a half years since we separated. She is not the same person I was married to. That person is gone, replaced by a husk of her former self. She is a pod person from Invasion of the Body Snatchers. Last night when I went to pick up our kids, I saw her walking down the street with our 9yo daughter. She was pushing the baby stroller with her boyfriend’s baby in it. It brought back a tidal wave of emotions. I almost started crying in my car. Yes, it has gotten ‘easier’, but it still hurts. 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Any thoughts on this? It’s been a couple years since my divorce and I’m starting to contemplate if I’d get married again, or if I’d just feel embarrassed ",1.5515384615384598,4.226889794871795,2.8827692307692345,88.2872307692308,86.94871794871796,5.171282051282052,28.312820512820515,6.742157984588678,1.650442051282051,158,8,29,2,5,51,31,39,0.08199999999999999,0.918,0.0,-0.4329,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,7,4,0,2,4,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,3,5,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,3,5,17,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3061322870038725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3147706162631699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4981065765269187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2276204075276877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351962052849942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3723867964794133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3186339440765554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35738615482256003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2898959043162695 divorce,firefly676767,2019/03/29,"Common law separation I have been living with my partner for 3 years in BC. We purchased a home 2 years ago under his name and split the down payment. I paid 1/3 of the mortgage and utilities and he paid 2/3. He worked away and made 4 times as much money as me. During our relationship, we each purchased vehicles. I bought mine used and paid in full. He still owes a lot on his. Our relationship was toxic and I decided to leave him. He has agreed to give me back my half of the down payment. Is it worth it to get a lawyer and fight for my rights to the property as common law? He said he will go after my pension and investments and it will get nasty. Has anyone gone through a similar situation?",2.805976190476187,4.636561264285717,4.131428571428572,86.22190476190477,75.64285714285714,7.523809523809526,24.523809523809533,8.344100000000001,1.4626666666666668,547,18,114,10,12,180,89,140,0.057,0.913,0.029,-0.5803,2,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,4,0,0,1,2,1,1,0,8,0,8,0,0,2,0,20,21,12,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,3,13,0,0,1,0,10,2,0,1,0,1,9,1,18,0,21,10,4,20,0,0,0,0,20,9,0,1,9,74,21,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19086341137580093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15055298237616624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20229516482646964,0.16556364533721224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22498599500537966,0.20654939462097305,0.12236825539982975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21597811058632385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279870841505339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19012674632382048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18305278261073554,0.0,0.20373589108657786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15828101355518082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.462334626096864,0.0,0.18387750139712092,0.20481350168003826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24202264417438604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1719505265359572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12555168123078286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1859626922631172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567516012456373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773111003281204 divorce,YuengalingaDingDong,2019/03/29,"This hour I miss her so so deeply. Last hour I hated her so so much for deciding to end it. The cycle repeats. Just wanted to get that out into the universe. I keep struggling with the thought that maybe she’ll reconsider and we can work it all out. But I broke her heart pretty bad with my action, so I don’t deserve her. She asked for space in January. She moved into the spare bedroom last month. We see each other in passing, but I try to avoid too much time around her because I get terribly sad. Currently living in our old room together most of my days. Terribly lonely. 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We have to wait one year, unless there is proof of infidelity or cruelty, to receive a divorce. We haven't been living apart long but I'm hoping to convince my STBX that we should file uncontested and get it over with since we haven't really been acting married for more than a year. I can't take any real steps right now so I'll just post and hopefully feel better.",3.5922521008403336,5.420349905882354,4.6939495798319335,83.03705882352945,73.47058823529412,7.680672268907562,25.084033613445378,8.418075326091056,1.622109243697479,342,11,67,6,7,112,63,85,0.028,0.816,0.156,0.9032,0,0,0,0,2,0,6.0,4,0,0,1,7,4,0,0,2,0,8,0,0,0,1,20,17,6,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,7,0,1,2,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,2,1,7,4,11,14,1,12,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,3,5,42,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912548463889372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23296168542412635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13318626470648548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13761904916736334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5232442707912299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.232592806941099,0.23310650528304705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849109334543972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25227065984885194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2998143176578179,0.1687449789969943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22494775201396192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21789261774814425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19804894208709695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16878027950608845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33925036044842444 divorce,Tell_The_Truth_Today,2019/03/29,"I haven’t been faithful in my marriage. How bad is divorce? Reading these stories I’m terrified of it but I know it’s what I need to do. We’ve been married 7 years and I had sex with a handful of other women. I told her that I’m not a monogamous person and I think we should just call it quits. She doesn’t want one to get a divorce, but I do. We even tried opening up our marriage because of me. She knows I had sex with other women. When she was pregnant 3 months into our marriage I was trying to sexually talk with a girl I knew. 7 years later I brought home divorce papers and she had a hard time with it I think. I told her I’m done, I’m not happy. Should have done this 6 year ago. Anyway, Is divorce scary? My wife and I still like each other and she says she likes women and guys to. I just can’t seem to seem to find the words to tell her that I actually deeply love her. 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We dated a few years, married for 4, and have been apart for 8 months while trying to agree on things. Without identifying details - less than a year into our marriage I found out that my husband was hiding sexual stuff from me, lying to me regularly, and ultimately lying to himself about what he was doing. I worked hard to work with him. I'm a very open person and offered all that I could, but was told no at every turn. I asked if he wanted a divorce in 2016 and he said absolutely not. He said he was ready for counseling to save our marriage. He went, but wouldn't admit anything in therapy and so therapists could not help. He gave me permission to talk to a therapist we liked by myself and tell her everything, but afterward he refused to go back and he asked for that divorce. I agreed that it was time. A few months later I asked him to move out and he did. Fast forward: We're separated (not legally) and we've split property. We don't own a home or have children: so that's a silver lining. I've decided to move home across the country. He's offered to pay for my move and a few other things that we had agreed on. We have an unsigned agreement via a mediator while we hash out a few details. It has been over 6 months since I moved and he hasn't sent any spousal support or finished the agreement. He's now talking to an attorney and saying some pretty hurtful things to me. All the sudden I feel like I need an attorney, but I can't afford one and I can't find help in my state because I'm a resident of my prior state and want to stay that way until this is finalized. (I plan to move to finish my Master's, so I don't want to continually change residencies. It's more than I feel I can deal with right now.) I'm feeling so alone and angry that someone I've been so kind to isn't being kind in return. I'm only asking for half BAH/BAS while we're still married and for our verbal agreements to hold true. I gave him most of our stuff, I did all the work at the garage sale and almost all the work cleaning the house we rented. I've paid for everything upfront (my fault I guess) and I made less than half his paycheck when I was working so I can't figure out what I could be doing differently.",4.731788701393988,4.917196812765957,5.844732208363904,82.02500000000002,69.17021276595744,8.61041819515774,28.97285399853265,8.433251757073789,1.924665443873808,1802,60,373,25,29,602,229,470,0.084,0.7809999999999999,0.135,0.9805,3,1,0,0,2,0,49.0,11,0,0,8,13,13,0,0,22,0,35,0,0,1,5,75,65,36,0,9,11,2,4,2,0,1,0,3,4,2,20,34,0,2,8,0,4,9,13,3,0,3,22,7,53,10,56,36,14,59,0,2,0,0,59,20,0,7,30,246,73,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08216182439604268,0.08497967713775705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05579722209720628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06752065319515947,0.07304243034249283,0.3068249424745169,0.0,0.0,0.06309184724139333,0.0,0.050017284608224896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679865599776368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19653218437387893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08459056647102141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08572541413017995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913116988606659,0.0,0.14748357847534516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12446174714513206,0.05861696552008808,0.0,0.08988242244297352,0.07499276254931456,0.0,0.0,0.08996424857951488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04663124722312823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09038798711524297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07350122182862352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10999357616638752,0.0,0.16460688495766532,0.0,0.0,0.09467537685989263,0.08783686503854392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1708861486426624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017155791238283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09179363442979273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776382622636929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08284771668953042,0.0,0.1964760199625188,0.4360340170415812,0.0,0.06083948074463754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05559961050682457,0.06240317915860929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164341967434132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347495861469907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07007076466362845,0.15609782128984634,0.06524993093049329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06787310476978907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06952120769167648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08745502314479496,0.06552571569191827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1878566146881485,0.0,0.09311004930775474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13189832960971432,0.07171584152070667,0.0,0.0938320126580321,0.19053414287733506,0.16353231963684112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047844365089805545,0.0,0.0,0.07840286515073151,0.0,0.1114139438373168,0.0892474921164451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06770033859483406,0.1451867104160035,0.0651279476784787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07606172885990675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07909385107275148,0.0,0.2986690725639248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10567579340627166 divorce,mollyb253,2019/03/29,"Filed the paperwork today! I know for most divorce is a very sad thing, but it is something I have been wanting for years and today I went to the court and filed the paperwork. Washington State has a 90-day waiting period, so early this summer it will be official. I feel like I am becoming myself again and my spouse and I are getting along better than we ever did when we were married. I see the light at the end of the tunnel again. I am getting myself back. I feel excited to live again. 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Hi everyone, Long time lurker in the subreddit. I myself am not going through a divorce but a family member (35f) is from her stbxh (41?m). I will be receiving a subpoena in the next day or two for the hearing scheduled next week. I wanted to see if anyone had any personal experience within a contested (primarily custody of their one child) divorce. What can I expect? What kind of questions will they throw my way? Can I give any advice to my relative on how to get through with a bit of grace? The main issue is stbxh is unwilling to share physical and legal custody 50/50. Minor issues include a few possessions, not who they should go to, but how much he wants to be compensated for them. I can't really give too much more info, I don't trust him or his family. He is already spreading filth online, leaving anonymous bad reviews on different profiles of her and her business. Thanks in advance! 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I feel so uncertain and guilty, but so free. My wife and I have been married for close to 13 years now, and we’ve had a dead bedroom for most of our marriage. She has weaponized sex and used it as a tool of control throughout our marriage, and I am done. I finally announced to her Tuesday night that I will no longer accept her behavior, her lack of effort in our relationship or her emotional manipulations. I told her I intend on moving into our basement and the papers will be served officially early next week. She was more angry than she was sad. She screamed at me, in fact. No ounce of any other emotion shown, and that’s all I needed to confirm that I was making the right choice. She tried to tell me that I couldn’t leave her because I had vowed to stay with her through anything, and I reminded her she abandoned our vows a long time ago. I have felt so beaten down and hopeless for so long, and for once I finally feel like I am in control of my own life. I know she is going to fight me hard in the divorce, but I was lucky enough to be put in contact with a shark of a lawyer and I am confident I will prevail with my dignity and fair share of assets. Despite all of this, I feel guilt. Mainly for my family. They have been blindsided by all of this. Has anyone else left a dead bedroom and managed to cope with the feelings of being selfish? I really never saw myself going through a divorce, but in these last couple months I have had experiences that have opened my eyes to the life I have been missing and I just don’t really know where to go from here. I don’t really know how to start my life over after all these years. 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Ex royally screwed up papers. Now what? First post to r/divorce! I gave my stbxh any ultimatum in January that ""we need to fix things or i have to leave for the kids in August"" and he left me (you can't fire me i quit style) after he got an oui in the beginning of February. We have a (now) 7mo son and a 2yo daughter who he traumatized by vanishing one night after doing bedtime stories for 5 months. We're doing better though. 2yo doesn't ask about daddy much, she often forgets that our dog isn't living here anymore though. I have an attorney and am waiting to hear back but since it's Friday afternoon, i expect i won't get my call back until Monday. I filed for divorce on 2/21. The paperwork i was served was dated 3/11. I'm guessing mine didn't go through as quickly bc i had to ask the fee to be waived. But he's screwed up so much of the information. The marriage date is wrong, he didn't list his debts, his 401k, or his life insurance. I'm surprised he figured out our son's birthday. He had been asking me for almost a month. I wonder who finally enlightened him that it was on the tax return we filed together... I'm not even sure if i was served correctly? Do you usually have to sign acknowledgement? I confirmed my birthdate and was handed papers. I wondered if anyone else has been through something similar? Were there any consequences for the missing information? He can't exactly claim ignorance or anything since he has a lawyer who should have asked him these things. I may write a more thorough introduction post soon but it's definitely hard to adapt to suddenly being a stay at home single mom of two tots.",2.4935059574068887,4.9324013095975285,3.79012102448635,85.32259405197486,79.24767801857584,7.134965756637584,25.577352472089313,8.199878495009871,1.8158057791537665,1305,51,252,26,33,426,195,323,0.07,0.878,0.053,-0.6442,1,0,1,0,3,0,40.0,5,2,0,3,15,8,2,0,16,0,33,4,1,0,3,40,53,17,0,5,10,5,3,0,0,3,1,1,1,1,13,8,0,2,7,0,3,1,8,5,0,3,15,4,34,3,34,33,4,37,0,1,0,2,43,10,2,11,23,164,47,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11957419634166665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624089542659249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11842494126132985,0.08349587546166842,0.12235204043178395,0.09826617047058232,0.0,0.4465376247869144,0.0,0.0,0.18364141704633735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1056104992263746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12193333689014745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09975367649169133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07887071573025421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13081036731918524,0.0,0.10157206428157986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062388012256881786,0.0,0.06786477725029308,0.0,0.19100989273303828,0.0,0.13154614077394647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10696998995450176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458637106935967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197803001929569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12644041243593088,0.12974184260103058,0.0,0.08434445795000482,0.0,0.0,0.10544327241104888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1398542740737685,0.19062756018482466,0.0,0.17556360009832922,0.08854272734765037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11206037960733484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0809168831404801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2287280011586403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12700970843983422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975582216125222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09192944322621607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12727765218763076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11254470494106876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15866448795981747,0.0,0.2346440098309141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166484921171297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13151580766269433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2589951495251883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1305586338326322,0.0,0.0 divorce,CoffeeandRoll20,2019/03/29,"Buying a House While Separated Obviously, I will be discussing this with my attorney. However, I am interested in your experiences; the do’s and don’ts. I am about 1-2 years to putting down enough money on a house again without relying on the money from when my STBX buys me out of the current house. However, due to a few complications, my divorce will take a while and will not be finalized any time soon. So, is there anything that I should look out specifically or keep in mind when I am ready to buy my own house? I am in Virginia if it makes any difference. Thanks!",5.695324675324677,6.3703050000000045,6.522207792207791,76.29045454545457,67.18181818181819,10.64935064935065,32.98701298701299,10.608840637214634,3.4578831168831163,450,19,89,12,7,149,76,110,0.0,0.919,0.081,0.8122,4,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,7,0,13,0,0,1,1,14,18,9,0,2,4,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,5,0,1,0,0,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,12,2,16,12,3,20,0,0,1,0,3,8,0,2,11,67,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22919608425266436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386759836497984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1760654787199435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412417725243326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1648429737255214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18460326959632625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7777887441647088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1497865719168335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415127065503102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248709653059692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17015517565940988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940716957236973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670458954585095,0.0,0.0,0.1551487649699251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826422104880513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624453715881824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085200890772647 divorce,Size9MoonShoes,2019/03/29,"Rough morning, looking for a source for hugs Not a huge deal, but for whatever reason my alarm clock just decided to take a day off. I ended up being two hours late for work which is more personally embarrassing than actually punishable. The real punch in the gut was when my boss, unsolicited, told me that I ""look more tired than \[I\] usually do."" Embarrassed, tired, flustered, I'm used to telling my wife that I just need a hug, but it's hitting me pretty hard that I'm just plain alone right now. She's always been ""the responsible one"" and I've felt like I've been kicking ass at life, but mornings like this annihilate my confidence, and make me wonder if splitting up was the right thing to do. Sorry for being a crybaby, I just have no friends and need a hug. Thank god it's Friday, right?",6.2642078853046606,6.304105083870969,6.656989247311831,78.00992831541221,65.90322580645162,10.243727598566313,31.415770609319,9.994966539143718,2.8312652329749106,628,22,125,13,9,204,102,155,0.206,0.593,0.201,0.2435,0,1,0,0,0,0,27.0,0,0,0,1,6,11,1,3,10,0,10,8,2,4,0,22,24,8,0,3,9,1,3,2,1,0,3,0,0,1,8,3,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,6,5,13,7,15,15,2,17,0,0,2,4,7,9,1,2,10,75,21,2,0.0,0.0,0.1500003308182474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15919884190972233,0.0,0.0,0.12790034975820522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.099131254114074,0.1584698915346978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13614283759059514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14758722386432854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11875718691437785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13769538539312126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137494537774054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17339335964174135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857103612087478,0.15019142933503565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25815803116906555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1026036745397824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2279503806830017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415894601446267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13421502442423136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1563799391515651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749574320038836,0.0,0.15804110686959194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.393806553351402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1720675314373754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11557197998192673,0.0,0.13435069773411742,0.14151697285469012,0.0,0.0,0.10211914494486628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3533377031223945,0.0,0.14687800371572496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501538803960473,0.0,0.0,0.13275745416677034,0.16929159130616706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16669365372469608,0.11190386235370116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ghanddi,2019/03/29,"A Series of Unfortunate Dates 28 year old male 12 years together and just over 2 years married and she left on New Year’s Day. This has been the hardest three months of my life. Almost half my life we have been together. I am moving on and focusing on myself but couldn’t help but laugh as I got served the paper work this past Monday. The dates on the paper work bring up pain and memories but will hopefully start a new fresh chapter. Date of separation 1/1/2019 Date paper work accepted by courts 3/21/2019 (her birthday) Date divorce will be final 9/25/2019 (our would be three year anniversary) Good luck to everyone going through this as well! 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I filed for divorce under the grounds of adultery. She was sent a confession statement and I can't believe she signed it. I can now claim my legal fees and court costs from her. Yesterday I paid my solicitor to send the divorce petition to court. The wheels have been set in motion. I've spoke about financial matters with my wife and especially about my bigger pension. I've made her get a transfer value of hers so I will know how much money she's entitled to of my pension. We have sort of agreed to keep matters out of court and I've provisionally offered her £160000 to let me keep my pension. This would mean I'll need a £11000 mortgage to get a £160000 apartment, while she would be mortgage free. Off setting the equity in the house. I need to find out what her pension is worth first though. I might owe her more...or less. Put she seems happy with my initial offer. So my question If I decide I won't a 50/50 share in the house will she have to go to court to any of my pension she's entitled to. And if so please tell me she can't insist on offsetting from the house equity. If anyone can help I would be grateful. I'm going through hell as it is :( ",1.594847138047136,3.680459407272728,3.0571313131313147,91.28540067340069,80.38181818181819,5.81952861952862,23.27609427609428,6.937597516519254,0.7066538720538721,1047,36,224,12,27,342,150,275,0.045,0.8170000000000001,0.138,0.97,3,0,0,0,3,0,25.0,1,0,0,1,8,4,1,0,14,0,24,0,0,2,0,39,43,16,0,8,4,2,0,0,0,7,0,1,0,1,5,12,0,2,9,0,7,6,3,1,0,1,9,1,39,4,39,24,2,31,2,0,0,0,34,13,1,7,10,140,44,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12663700109735193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714987591888943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09989121569686794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16095459219021502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13057168981975947,0.12151686446578265,0.0,0.15663890168958072,0.0,0.0,0.1492771793766516,0.0,0.16238155633546456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15207740360864855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575622114146876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.494524678943104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2539615268469321,0.0,0.0,0.07851226296479158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608429527735195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261482272023263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13517783255115867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1556167044316778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515521602019689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501872906280224,0.21185814573400194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990781154533894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15681766572329842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14361401991129055,0.16003618668832875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300546155582264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1248661643588209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.140359480443787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459388364741567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3044514902552233,0.0,0.0,0.2759919714057821 divorce,cbmonkey1,2019/03/29,Group chat support Going through a lgbt divorce. Thought it might be a good idea to start a group chat for support with others going through it. Anyone interested? I can add you to it via phone number or WhatsApp. ,3.5875000000000017,6.229834750000002,3.6500000000000017,86.70500000000001,76.5,5.0,30.0,5.985473137389443,1.4222500000000005,170,8,30,1,4,52,30,40,0.0,0.716,0.284,0.8834,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,1,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,0,0,6,9,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,2,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,4,6,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,2,1,19,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20924740335619715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3401492191189677,0.2510025145312007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3378246480168277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3174643112915755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21181559514887965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6791864350660769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2375765749035276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jayno462,2019/03/29,"Anyone up? It’s 1:45am here and I am going to tell my wife in the morning that we are getting a divorce I found out tonight that for quite some time my wife has been trading dirty pictures and texts with random guys over KIK and Line. I’m 32 and we’ve only been married for 2 1/2 years. We own a house together and have a mutual friend as a roommate and have two dogs. I love her family and my nieces and family love her. This is going to be the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life. I guess I just need reassurance, advice or basically anyone to just talk to me right now. I’m absolutely crushed.",1.958869005010737,3.628086905511815,3.778869005010737,88.53368647100932,77.58267716535433,6.822906227630638,22.56907659269864,7.686295010490155,0.8739039370078743,475,14,104,7,11,160,86,127,0.048,0.841,0.112,0.8445,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,5,4,0,0,6,0,11,3,0,0,1,21,21,10,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,5,12,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,14,4,14,16,2,13,0,0,0,2,14,6,0,4,5,67,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19750516140757216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2826480489208029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18282525769243846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3810734626588019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22160947606249648,0.1561541189425,0.0,0.10559713185204092,0.0,0.22973406499637575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22265327375294452,0.200126358663706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.233214426766386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14276032405813882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3648346919887302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986625981560744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15371812754875205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21497496784137465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17260573716325175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624529753755037,0.1766580649060598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13427671638537642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178553130549782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1974377088937559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13015590959198542 divorce,a-drop,2019/03/30,"Hang in there My STBXW cheated on me. I was angry, depressed, confused, and every other crappy emotion for quite some time. Therapy helps, a lot. Don't dismiss it or let the stigma of seeing a therapist dissuade you from going. It's incredibly helpful and helps you process everything. My therapist helped me increase my confidence enough to put myself back out there in the dating world. The first few dates with different women were weird, to say the least. But, keep going! Eventually you'll find someone you click with. I just finished my third date with someone whom I feel I have a real connection with. And even if this one doesn't work out, I know someday I'll find someone to share my life with. Using a throwaway because some of my students found me on here. TL;DR - Hang in there! It gets better.",3.6660000000000004,6.327832266666667,4.122,83.32100000000001,76.33333333333334,6.4,27.33333333333333,7.554174236665415,1.808133333333334,640,26,110,9,15,201,102,150,0.109,0.768,0.122,0.2679,1,0,0,0,0,0,23.0,0,4,0,4,7,6,1,1,8,0,7,1,0,1,0,26,16,6,0,1,4,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,6,10,0,1,5,0,0,6,2,4,0,3,3,4,19,2,19,11,7,21,0,1,2,0,12,8,0,6,7,80,25,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140674719105979,0.0,0.09042919896233297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1311983195046792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776857359592975,0.0,0.0,0.15498803246171566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668671689636891,0.0,0.15327913133554405,0.0,0.09797989250822932,0.0,0.12498631953118773,0.0,0.13332213020047384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07500724455518816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27116767727098057,0.12618143309596766,0.0,0.16265167127757146,0.0,0.0,0.0775036802713654,0.0,0.16861476451716764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39772774798307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318550702804277,0.0,0.0,0.08152604908016263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516919138092249,0.10477983934962963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261168663934568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052181521111753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912681400022626,0.0,0.1577822321658345,0.0,0.1688480857636948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796919870019845,0.0,0.0,0.1182110578420148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3770744756554707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16964443008355595,0.34447791499138697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08650064960185909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12812169080318378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10799628647708442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,galunga22,2019/03/30,"Ex wife wants to move children out of state My ex wife is suicidal. She has been hospitalized. I try to help in various ways but my presence makes her even more unhappy. She is heartbroken, still loves me and cannot be around me. She wants to move our children out of state so that she and I won't have to interact. She has told me that if she has to move without the children, she will likely kill herself. I don't know if this is just grief or legitimate (she made an attempt once over 20 years ago). I will agree to them living with her over the summers but I won't agree to them living out of state 9.5 months per year. But for the first time in three years they have real stability and a large network of family. Is it wrong to deny her this request? I feel that sending children to live with an unstable mother away from friends, grandparents, extended family and school after an acrimonious divorce is not in their best interest.",4.1773536299765786,5.74426524043716,4.7898243559718985,84.0035655737705,71.45901639344262,8.507259953161592,27.82552693208431,9.04235418022936,2.165624824355972,741,27,148,15,14,237,109,183,0.192,0.71,0.098,-0.9743,1,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,0,4,3,5,8,1,0,7,0,18,1,0,2,0,26,26,11,3,4,9,5,1,1,1,4,0,0,0,4,6,10,0,0,2,0,0,4,6,3,0,2,3,1,28,5,29,18,3,28,0,1,0,1,34,10,0,3,11,108,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304138652056515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1309688568377996,0.0,0.0,0.13822499643731706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15439438382548998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717201469796513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773851185770768,0.0,0.07438878410443693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514102391347126,0.0,0.0,0.11366529827858075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09861208658080893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16276755810591093,0.0,0.08085383885085623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07187587571673261,0.0,0.3897315418654547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1327824215208282,0.1392094212620104,0.09820439144833618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743055650382207,0.4690989318391338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15667903403029712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16745587539989368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14889427841937486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11749099855261362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16092646503713445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578742208549994,0.0,0.0,0.14058039379921625,0.0,0.0998854829428872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17355152251519568,0.1167777799238994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418193673091834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16085368781386986,0.0,0.28422324790434683 divorce,whothefuckhasthetime,2019/03/30,"How to deal with mega toxic ex husband Hey all, I am a little at a loss and hope someone can give some new ideas. Long story short my sister in law started dating a toxic person in her early 20s. Got stuck in the relationship. He abused her. Beat her down mentally. Hey wound up having two kids. And then finally she snapped and divorced him. Divorce was messy. This little tool tried to claim alimony from her because she made 80k a year and he can barely make 40k and works off the books as a car mechanic. So now a year after the divorce and the custody is settled it seems his hobby is to just drive her nuts every chance he gets. Every weekend it’s a new drama. And me and my wife are just watching it on the sidelines. This weekend’s drama was he had the kids for the weekend and he claimed she had a UTI and brought her to the emergency room to stick my sister in law with the bill. He regularly in the process of trying to figure out the pickup schedule will call her fat, ugly and tel her no one will ever love her. Just crazy shit like that. Like who the hell has the time!! Get on with your life. So what the hell can be done about this? How do you stop a toxic abusive person that has no desire to do anything except cause drama? Can we go back to court and get like an order stop all contact? Any advice is appreciated. I am at a loss. TLDR. Toxic ex husband hasn’t moved on and just causes weekly drama. Any advice to stop it would be great. 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My daughter has been acting out a lot lately and I can't tell if it's from me and her dad splitting up, or if it's just normal defiant pre-schooler behavior. What are red flags I should be looking for? Did your young kids do therapy to cope with your divorce? What made you seek that out?",1.83327380952381,3.943748319444445,3.007539682539683,91.82000000000002,79.69444444444444,6.336507936507938,25.563492063492063,7.447530270364453,1.2217158730158726,277,11,59,4,7,89,56,72,0.028,0.919,0.053,0.4137,0,0,0,0,2,0,7.0,0,5,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,9,0,0,1,0,13,12,5,0,4,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,5,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,4,2,10,0,9,6,1,6,0,0,2,0,14,3,0,4,2,42,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18890673709098865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31791993003348473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2366687610656739,0.0,0.0,0.23960436095640186,0.0,0.2666772244128653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2761365274643074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2852300694871939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119033616143182,0.0,0.2463344877325863,0.0,0.6446012563168521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,knt1993,2019/03/30,"Coming out and terrified First time posting...Bear with me. My (25F) STBX (27M) and I have been married for three years in July and together for 6 in April. Shortly after we got married I decided to address my (at the time) bi-curiosity and ask about the possibility of me experimenting with women with or without him present. He was fine with this and I have been with a handful of women (with his permission) over the past three years. Fast forward to the past couple months, and I have found myself struggling. I finally came to terms with the fact that I think I may fall closer to the homosexual/lesbian end of the sexuality spectrum than in the middle/bisexual. My fantasies, desires, and wants all surround women and I have found a decreased want or even thought of sleeping with my husband. This has been going on for months and when I finally said the words out loud the other day that I might be a lesbian it was like a huge weight lifted. It felt right. Now comes why I’m posting here. He knows I’ve been struggling and that I’m not really sure where I’m at. But now that I’ve come to terms with who I am, I of course feel like I need to be honest with him and break things off so he can have someone who can give him everything he wants and needs. I’m terrified to have this conversation. Any time we’ve ever hit rough patches where it looked like we might not make it he becomes inconsolable at the thought of losing me. He has such limited support and even though it’s not my responsibility to make sure he’s okay, he’s still one of my best friends and I do love and care about him. I guess I just need to know where i go from here. What are the logical next steps besides telling him. We do own a house together, no kids, but we do have three pets together, and no other major financial assets. Help please 😓",3.5082577633834973,5.16967878176796,4.468331110687753,85.26002762430943,73.33701657458563,7.534539912364258,26.84739950466756,8.216663640201805,1.6398520480091443,1437,52,295,23,29,466,187,362,0.056,0.85,0.094,0.8799,0,0,0,0,0,0,40.0,4,0,0,4,18,16,0,2,17,1,27,5,2,2,5,76,64,23,0,7,9,1,5,3,1,3,0,2,2,4,18,36,1,1,11,1,0,9,6,3,0,5,14,8,37,13,46,44,6,56,0,1,1,2,33,20,0,6,30,194,55,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06932330249474511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09530097333088684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125857065026434,0.0,0.0,0.1069806772597212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165932234757174,0.10393553374704864,0.0,0.0,0.2634391568675824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279565842971892,0.0,0.06574344220101452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902893729551704,0.0,0.0,0.13466199592894293,0.09221137334961403,0.0,0.0,0.091617900850352,0.09971775363413346,0.0,0.0,0.051544378149239255,0.07282659385791479,0.09787924311506438,0.2233425294585301,0.0,0.08671087094961975,0.0,0.22354585348801492,0.07875928054815177,0.0,0.0,0.09779099288925444,0.1158707166935472,0.0,0.08153144408368017,0.0,0.11229938583259408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06832883131509025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11762610291652753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204809689308017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14940951229487898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08560467509752591,0.11404578306035745,0.0,0.0,0.09200563537686632,0.0,0.1360926744446423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21628635437856275,0.0,0.0,0.16273649538916413,0.0,0.0,0.2267636399498229,0.0,0.0,0.10841529549998033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06907778690200407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19462823318577813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190048751613793,0.0,0.11492303921513095,0.09763119579833182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530594598005099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08705696506453901,0.09696913284674516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10201451283534653,0.0,0.08637418727072066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08141012830678096,0.0,0.0,0.213141508833214,0.0,0.0,0.11568131657553064,0.19215616922295475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08910083313366371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06772499917709282,0.06531960761996271,0.10015640914388453,0.16185936322283268,0.17832766233477124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18038213850236656,0.0,0.0,0.12413654383632552,0.0,0.0,0.09198579944720044,0.0,0.0,0.09826738244851084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13129318480967814 divorce,Jfloisillest,2019/03/30,"This song has helped me It shifts my perspective when this process starts to get to me. Thought I'd share. . Feel free to share your divorce songs. Avett Brothers - No Hard Feelings https://youtu.be/tFGs7HP15d4",5.091862745098037,8.550103088235296,1.5435294117647054,94.08921568627451,91.64705882352942,4.619607843137255,26.25490196078432,6.42735559955562,1.0918784313725496,171,7,29,2,6,43,29,34,0.092,0.7120000000000001,0.196,0.6249,0,0,0,0,1,0,10.0,0,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,3,6,1,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,4,4,3,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,6,0,0,0,2,13,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5272564442871389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2724024533988888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4670590815376807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3494737732326481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3690394068962292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139219221946847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Quisenburg,2019/03/30,"A new stage of grief: my best friend didn't want to be my friend anymore. My grief process dealing with the abuse and infidelity from my wife has taken many forms since we were first separated. I was in denial for a long time. Then came bitterness. And unfortunately, not just towards her but towards all women. I'm sorry about that ladies. But I've worked on forgiveness towards her. I knew that it was something I needed to do for many reasons. And so I have, for the most part. The biggest thing was ""wanting"" to forgive her. This is not to say I would allow her to continue her abuse. The divorce came and went. Now the thing I deal with the most is not anger but the loss of my best friend. She could be outright vicious at times. But the rest of the time, she was my friend. Yet she decided she didn't want to be friends anymore. I have friends and family that are there for me as needed. I don't feel lonely, per se. It just hit me that I lost not only my wife but my friend. And so I needed a moment to grieve that loss.",1.8627403846153847,3.9408082548076964,2.818884615384615,93.3761153846154,79.43269230769229,5.6984615384615385,21.93846153846154,6.742157984588678,0.3534473076923073,799,24,175,8,20,253,109,208,0.14400000000000002,0.6579999999999999,0.197,0.9582,0,2,1,0,4,0,27.0,1,0,0,7,8,21,3,0,12,0,20,0,0,2,1,40,35,15,3,8,11,2,1,0,7,1,0,1,0,1,10,11,0,0,6,0,0,3,7,10,0,1,13,3,30,11,25,16,8,22,0,7,0,0,26,7,0,2,11,129,40,1,0.0,0.2601348895548596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2177379872469023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2304077587308471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25111061167640664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764776644666915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263499254515672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348770773435824,0.0,0.05550640054235723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933760093170758,0.0,0.0,0.5936924705761889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09714892958207473,0.0,0.0,0.11983424142337963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22259269776415266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2441941076688209,0.0,0.10602302589120947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834901309907344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11887747401046052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11286873617371887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08729884204580106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908084248973032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451147082536407,0.0,0.12288603385885885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586153004583333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1920350387131818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1942474347330367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1017641054753734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991874877997468,0.0,0.0,0.07798222168763076,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Irocz1990,2019/03/30,"Wife cheated while deployed My wife of 8 years cheated on me while she was deployed with her co worker. I need help, I love her still. We have 4 kids together all under 13. Backstory: I was looking in her room (we dont share a room atm) for a micro USB adapter when I found her old phone. I turned it on and her background was her and this dude. After seeing that i went through her pictures and you can imagine what i found... i am already suffering from depression and anxiety. I confronted her over the phone (she was out of town with the kids) and she didn't seem remorseful at all but said she was shocked and was mad at me for going through her phone.",3.439090909090908,4.7644301818181845,3.950424242424244,90.2506363636364,72.93939393939394,7.4012121212121205,28.35151515151515,7.908726449838941,1.5983278787878792,512,20,110,7,10,161,83,132,0.154,0.802,0.044,-0.9074,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,0,1,2,9,4,0,4,0,11,1,0,0,2,19,22,10,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,4,11,0,0,4,0,1,2,2,7,0,0,11,3,28,2,18,11,2,20,0,2,2,1,27,11,0,1,7,78,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25914316811008303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796459874197598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20226062658624194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27522158514648865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5149627646613887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1334605488779613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15740307114212262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1971999009076915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2119452256386358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1741250980223038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2464168870090499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2233791947308679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713085663899176,0.2137824118479925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753729532516664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554299958319503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176917986704632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512242351532039 divorce,Cc20022019,2019/03/30,"Abandonments she says So I moved out a few weeks before paperwork was filed. All alone in solitude I couldn’t handle it. The ex and I got in a fight and I said maybe I should move to Tx to be with around family and friends, so she tell me “fine do it, it will be easier for me”. So I did, I took my teenager who was so in school the next week and left her and my other 4 kids in Colorado. Now she tell me I abandoned them and no amount of FaceTime or calls will make it better. Even thought I will still have them half of summer and other big holidays. Also, I still pay for everything up there to keep their lifestyle. Am I an awful person, she sure makes me feel that way. :(. I’m feeling more abandoned than anything because she wants the divorce.",1.5249019607843124,3.5881135163398703,2.655973856209151,94.1878823529412,80.5032679738562,5.648627450980393,21.31111111111111,6.742157984588678,0.31606091503267963,580,17,127,6,15,185,103,153,0.123,0.7559999999999999,0.121,-0.1027,0,1,0,0,2,0,17.0,0,0,3,1,11,8,1,0,6,1,13,0,0,2,2,25,24,13,0,3,1,1,2,0,1,4,0,2,0,2,8,10,0,4,3,1,1,3,2,4,0,1,7,4,26,4,16,10,4,20,0,3,0,0,21,9,0,1,7,92,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17227852419178613,0.0,0.13302238514091558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13688400423163233,0.1480782526672487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10139958477857028,0.0,0.1415434579611712,0.0,0.0,0.14711459654709585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1698521813042938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10986628800197316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949605657519546,0.0,0.1568109574540332,0.0,0.16821344301521035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285142068456696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13303764072591068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14785102080749032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1807293684751446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2220670629801679,0.0,0.16711132383830635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.353587113924036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17690493887384584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14524205110287938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15822784451024627,0.13228058970027362,0.0,0.16834539991287814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26567937126225233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1567738906851264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2907777425026227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13205572435625573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18481034286607434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09811189782933824,0.13203329416631765,0.2668565256465318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,hollygosadly,2019/03/30,"Guilt I was in an arranged marriage. My ex and i have been separated for 2 months, during which time i tried to lie to myself about preparing for a breakup, but was shocked when it actually happened. A little over a week ago, i found out we were getting divorced. Had no appetite. Horrible flashbacks. Im already being able to talk about him like a fond memory. And im ready to move on, albeit slowly, with someone new. I feel terrible and lonely. I know im supposed to be focusing on other parts of my life. Like improving my non existent social circle, going back to school, healing from the loss, and learning from my mistakes, but instead, im just trying to move on, and not with flings and light rebounds. Im trying to find a new husband/partner already of the same cultural background. My ex and i were long distance. I didn’t get to have all the good parts of a marriage. And now i want to start over again. I don’t want to wait. The loneliness is unbearable. I cant focus though. Or enjoy any of my usual activities. I registered for classes today, im making plans to make my career my focus again, but when i find myself alone, i feel dead inside, dread, and utterly shit. It feels crazy and fucked up. Can anyone relate?",2.9234204545454503,5.079930804166668,4.348712121212124,83.31477272727275,76.375,6.863636363636362,26.74242424242424,7.84624498591911,1.7730833333333336,963,38,179,15,22,319,148,240,0.209,0.6859999999999999,0.105,-0.9848,0,3,0,0,1,0,38.0,1,0,0,2,11,14,2,2,11,0,15,4,1,2,1,36,31,17,1,3,6,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,4,14,0,1,8,0,0,3,5,9,0,0,8,4,26,5,33,21,4,28,0,2,0,1,10,9,2,1,18,118,30,4,0.101895977005999,0.0,0.09943577488646184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032463556437326,0.0,0.0,0.10553350195941613,0.22488948886020102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0692927585260171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07124803632206722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07835171665431566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456500281732924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18626215396442736,0.0,0.0,0.11172367939634448,0.0,0.09420118881214733,0.10647288476855428,0.0,0.057909831926220824,0.08546551109074757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901062759497731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6603908436235327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055999364152483314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07197214198138234,0.09956245480105162,0.10212653799366153,0.0,0.09017473317090847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603271177346601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0813323967018625,0.21659859553118724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19682353909283207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2206868268140511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10312416869665443,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10459475611212254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1038701164946516,0.0863361306522394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07212249698056153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0819001265664134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011228005426086,0.0,0.0594163636179388,0.0,0.09658547181782233,0.0,0.0,0.20754203927842946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.112224022916909,0.0,0.12020177454373808,0.0,0.08173480648362774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ipdipdoox,2019/03/30,"It’s UK Mother’s Day tomorrow, would you still buy a card on behalf of your child? I’m the mother, I have two young children 4 & 5. They are so excited to show me what they have made for me at school. Is it unrealistic / unreasonable to think he could part with £5 to get me a card and chocolates from them? Just something to show that he appreciates my efforts, as well as the children!? I personally will ensure he gets a small gift and cards from the children when it’s Father’s Day....",2.859300000000001,4.352042930000003,4.388999999999999,85.85950000000003,74.7,7.4,24.5,8.07648339933343,1.2182999999999993,383,12,83,6,8,128,70,100,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.9306,0,0,1,0,0,0,16.0,0,2,3,1,5,2,0,0,6,0,7,0,0,1,0,8,12,6,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,1,0,11,2,13,8,1,9,0,0,0,0,16,3,0,0,6,51,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3085660895025588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22737887329438164,0.0,0.0,0.36732750794163227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2975784187039766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2694719033570946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3083960629735804,0.0,0.0,0.2486646158705199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2882191754043262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21924258650007566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2274308931125371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824797111581412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2781950616209108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560572946377601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20230418210503093,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,fantasticthrowaway13,2019/03/30,"Started talking about separation and need support. 22F married to 23M for 3 years together 5. We have grown apart over time and there have been a lot of things brought to my attention and I simply “woke up” and realized I wanted more. I’m in the textbook definition of a codependent relationship. I slept about 45 minutes last night and am 8 hours into a 12 hour shift. I couldn’t stop thinking about how much I wanted it to be done. How different my life could be. He knew something was wrong this morning and I ended up saying I was thinking about separation. It somehow turned into “I think you have a pretty good life” and “I’m happy with us, idk why you’re not” It’s so hard to stand strong because this is my first ltr, I don’t want to hurt him, and the whole codependency thing. My next appointment with my therapist is on April 9th but I’m looking for support before then. My mind is so jumbled. Wishy washy. I guess I’m afraid of the unknown. He was pretty clear about me being the one to move out if I choose to, but I would like to finish the lease and find a roommate in the summer. Anyways, yea. This is hard and while I know it’ll end up okay, starting the talks took months of talking myself into. I don’t know what comes next and honestly I’m scared. And tired. Working on 45 minutes of stressed out sleep is a bad idea. 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Married 9 years, have a 9 year old daughter. We bought a house in Utah 6 years ago, I was the sole income earner while she went to college. She started working for a year, then we split up. We tried our best to do everything amicably. We agreed that she could move with our daughter to California if she didn't come after me for the house. Now they've lived there for about nine months and she's saying she wants me to split up the house and give her half. Now that she lives out of state, do I have any legal leg to stand on? We haven't filed yet for insurance purposes but I'm thinking Monday looks like lawyer day. 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Has anyone here had to walk away from their marriage because your spouse just can’t stop hurting you? We (25f & 26m) have been together since high school. We have a toddler together, and our marriage has had its ups and downs, but the only thing worth complaining about is our sex life. I guess it’s a pretty typical story, he doesn’t show any interest or desire in my body, wants sex maybe 2 times a week (I have a higher libido, like 3-5 times a week) and during those two times a week I am fully responsible for my orgasm. Foreplay has always been nonexistent, he says it’s because he “feels like he can’t do it right” but whenever I’ve tried to help guide his hands with mine, he’s so stiff that I can’t even manage to get him to maneuver correctly even with me practically doing it for him. Most of the time he’ll just stare at the TV. sex always begins with “want to f***?” And he expects me to just lay down and do it and be done. I’m 25 and have been using lube in order to have sex since I was 18. Two years ago our sex life took a dive and I found him talking to other women on a dating app. None of them were local and I have no reason to believe he ever did anything in person. Things got bad, full transparency, the whole nine. It wasn’t until I started looking at his activity that I realized he regularly was watching porn while telling me he wasn’t interested in sex. I confronted him, he swore he’d stop. The usual. Fast foreword about 3 times finding out he hadn’t stopped and had just been lying to me, I found a google drive file full of curated downloaded porn. Maybe 25 videos. I lost it. This happened a second time, with admittedly less videos saved the second time around. I forgave it again, we had yet another talk for the hundredth time, and fast forward to today I found his secret Reddit account with a bunch of saved kink porn. Just last night I cried in our bed about how I felt like he just had no interesting my body expect for sticking it in and being done. No romance, sensuality, or anything that would possible benefit just me. He told me he would fix it. Today, I think I’m just done. I’m tired of being hurt. I’m tired of the dishonesty and hiding. I’m tired of feeling like just a receptacle for him, and the nanny/maid. Im so hurt and my self esteem has been in the negative for the last 3 or so years because of this. I actually don’t believe he’s addicted to porn, as he doesn’t view it all that regularly, usually in bursts every couple months, from what I can see. He just drops to 1 time a week during those periods. Maybe he’s just gotten better at hiding, who even knows at this point. I honestly believe that there’s a deeper reason for our issues but I can’t fix them if he’s not willing to have an open and honest discussion with me about what he’s feeling. I’ve asked if it’s my appearance, he says no and I’m inclined to believe him given how much *he* seems to really enjoy when we do have sex, and beyond that I can’t think of any other obvious reasons for this. I’ve asked, I’ve begged, and I always get the simple “I don’t know”. That’s his go to answer in any discussion. He doesn’t know why he does anything he does, ever. But somehow he’s still always sorry. I love this man so much. He is my best friend, and he’s been my best friend from when we were barely getting through puberty. We have a beautiful child together and a really happy life on the surface, but this is absolutely killing me and I know that at my age, I shouldn’t be feeling this worthless and disgusting. I should have a husband who cares about my body and my orgasms. I *know* there are people out there who would truly want me. I don’t want any of them anytime soon because my heart is still with my husband, but I can’t do this for the next 50+ years. I’ve tried marriage counseling when things first got really bad, but that didn’t really go anywhere. I don’t hate porn as a whole, I’m not a prude, and I really just want a decent sexual partner who doesn’t lie to my face and hide things from me. My question to you lovely people is, have any of you had to walk away from your marriage because it just wasn’t working, despite still being in love with your spouses? At this point, I just see it as an act of self preservation, but it still hurts so much to think about. 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I’ve been a stay at home mom for 7 years. We have 2 children, ages 7 and 4 plus my stepdaughter who is 12. I am at the end of my rope. My husband has emotionally cheated on me 4 times (talking to people on FB, being emotionally invested in them, although I’ve always caught on before it turned sexual). My husband is selfish, lazy and doesn’t respect me and I feel as if he doesn’t care about me at all. Everything revolves around him and I just want out. I do everything, as I should since I’m a stay at home mom, but once he gets home I’d like him to help. Parenting should be 50/50, but it’s more like 95/5. He will sit on the couch, and watch me struggle to get the kids ready for bed and not say a word. Then once the kids are ready, he will comfort them as if I was in the wrong for making them brush their teeth. I feel like it’s on the verge of emotional manipulation, the way he acts. He turns everything around and acts as if I’m to blame for his behavior. We’ve tried counseling over the years, but it just doesn’t work. I have no issues divorcing, but I don’t know how to do it. I can get a job, but I wouldn’t be able to support myself. I’m so stupid. We wanted to raise our children without daycare when they were young, but I’ve put myself in this position and I’m stuck. We’ve been down this road before and I actually got hired at a nice job, but my husband wouldn’t help me figure out childcare. He acted as if it was on me to do so. I couldn’t, and so I had to quit before I started and now I’m stuck again. This was a few years ago. So what do I do? Get a job, find childcare, and then divorce? He won’t leave the house and we can’t afford an apartment for him. We aren’t well off, so we can’t afford daycare while I do interviews and such. If I try and divorce now, he said he wouldn’t have to pay alimony or child support and he’d get the kids 50/50. But that I could keep the house, and one of our cars, as long as I keep paying them monthly. While I’m willing to get to the point of 50/50, he is a horrible father. He has bathed the children less than 10 times in their lives (that’s a generous guess) and when he does, he doesn’t wash them or shampoo their hair. My stepdaughter was 1 when we married, and he never took care of her. He’d never brush her hair etc. I did it all, and I was too stupid to realize that he’s just lazy. I know it’s my fault, but I want out and I don’t think I can. I don’t want my kids to go to school looking like a mess and not being taken care of. My oldest is 7, so he’d be okay, but not the 4 year old. I suggested perhaps working 50/50 so he’d get the children more over the summer and school breaks, but he said no because he wants it 50/50 exactly for child support reasons. Another thing he always throws in my face is getting a lawyer. I wouldn’t be able to get one, but they have self help forms online that I could do. He said he doesn’t care, that his parents (who are well off) would pay for his and I’d be shit out of luck. His exact words were, good luck with that. I know I’m a stupid idiot for doing this to myself....but am I stuck? What do I do to get out of this marriage but not hurt my kids?",1.4228001822738676,2.7056856219336254,3.0970334928229697,94.51291866028713,78.06204906204907,6.363879395458343,21.53740411635148,6.987383910865308,0.27856479076479035,2468,65,598,26,57,819,255,693,0.109,0.753,0.138,0.9632,8,0,0,0,3,0,93.0,8,0,10,3,24,32,6,1,29,1,74,6,5,4,6,108,128,68,0,20,28,9,4,4,0,11,1,4,7,12,25,39,0,2,10,1,4,9,26,12,2,2,21,12,83,20,76,82,8,77,0,1,2,0,90,34,1,10,32,371,108,13,0.12674378906840147,0.0,0.06184182755969254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05617536086325158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10546098573816072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0664509569163829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11282884351459435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03863091871138947,0.0,0.16177444406407188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2584474799719532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10119460233513823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05545717196254022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21385455518148702,0.056128688782469065,0.0,0.07067641400941932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17086371769197353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408546797774332,0.04527289411753626,0.0,0.0,0.05792076352558952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3310919931562992,0.0,0.03601570806966891,0.0531533384761162,0.050684293191739414,0.0,0.06981128643998558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274305352522078,0.0,0.25426870898501114,0.0,0.0,0.14624531563807644,0.0678409237875599,0.0,0.0,0.06614379335861363,0.1886604806443615,0.11265570324933324,0.0,0.0,0.10448260775333287,0.0,0.0,0.06710168613249749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384122652549688,0.0,0.05595854390062867,0.056082132465544436,0.05321643078924783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04230123169240471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2226611908896184,0.05058284161405861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775262363630167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06649814301355735,0.13497799888805384,0.08588487162779157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407339786442738,0.0,0.0,0.043934092404353545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05990692394133889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370625744159103,0.0,0.06740381043780821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06515686215528868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18084355115955572,0.05039587409519553,0.0,0.12827148106518002,0.0,0.0,0.06611070689581801,0.0,0.06505033906076234,0.05242188602577952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044854953124658405,0.20263802302376685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06625006368061319,0.0,0.0,0.2157410247794533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050935928341890056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04210147082859251,0.04060615117256644,0.0,0.0,0.07390532265233711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07040850658189449,0.08605071309662696,0.13786084711119312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18689192652721406,0.05030166016235937,0.0,0.0,0.11395788768964628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06108824489963941,0.0,0.09227098795303862,0.0,0.0,0.045017575648616436,0.06928721838648008,0.0,0.1632376894033932 divorce,midnight_margherita,2019/03/30,"How do I do this without traumatizing my kids? I have been in an increasingly toxic/abusive relationship for the past 7 years. Married two years ago. This is my (32f) second marriage, my first was when I was 18, fell in love, had two kids, then one day he up and left with someone else. I vowed not to be that single mom who dates around. A few years later, I finally went on a date, met my now husband (49m). We had a baby (now 5).Things were great at first, but his true colors started showing. Now I’m in a situation where I’m scared to leave but know it’s best, I am embarrassed as well. I bought a storage shed, which I plan to fill with things to move into our own place in 6 months. I know that I won’t be able to have a conversation with the kids and him, I fear for my safety to tell him the day I file divorce. How and when do I tell the kids to ease the transition the best way possible? My oldest will be relieved I can almost guarantee because my husband is always picking fights with him... my other two will be upset...they have lived a pretty comfy life and only see the good in everyone. I know my STBXH will make me look like the bad guy since I will be leaving him... the kids have kept me here and I know now it’s better for them for me to leave, but I just want to be sure I am setting them up for this the right way",1.6957619047619057,3.2505963857142888,3.2885714285714305,92.26476190476193,78.0,6.238095238095237,21.666666666666664,6.996647511020387,0.3767023809523802,1028,28,236,11,24,340,159,280,0.07400000000000001,0.7340000000000001,0.191,0.9883,1,0,0,0,3,0,40.0,2,0,2,6,13,16,1,3,18,0,29,2,0,4,2,31,45,14,0,1,6,3,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,6,11,12,0,1,4,1,1,5,3,5,1,7,10,3,40,11,31,24,6,46,0,0,3,1,29,15,0,1,24,163,51,0,0.11062066281980727,0.1310673966168251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805854312089528,0.0,0.1107706146923991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09204525310261596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09847584285207736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09236363282636624,0.06743332931108331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23217912175368585,0.09783498677130728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268235219934278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09240936925252813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10570278386868567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12447900004720372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117952902381768,0.0,0.18818775856787254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09278336361145524,0.0,0.12195967128408346,0.0,0.10953184794744272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24317689322202604,0.0,0.0,0.35139392869014985,0.1201896738254117,0.0,0.07813464559128827,0.05404366818824957,0.0,0.09768007193438248,0.0,0.09289349624278584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09983946711390612,0.0,0.07384015141574568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12955758332880687,0.08829635768008631,0.1175722580396312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07495942401195715,0.08413199883244069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1055999396504085,0.0,0.0,0.11557504823880076,0.0,0.0,0.12470817626932193,0.0,0.11254098293389593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11876519324109272,0.0,0.09446944162708257,0.0,0.0,0.1107505814132844,0.0,0.08815034616189033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09150655540693252,0.12434225983354764,0.0,0.0,0.09372852862960357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07829787450528647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425866556589823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19337467021518526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14698290600209918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32418094129193203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524693301366799,0.17561106635667567,0.0,0.0,0.09946126088253944,0.1025464626949578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10663437145073593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21370824004518146 divorce,reg1369,2019/03/30,"A question about property division. TL;DR Can I eye force my ex to buy me out of the house five years after divorce with out a formal property agreement? I am not sure this is the right sub. If not, please let me know and I will post elsewhere and delete. I have been divorced for almost five years. My ex wife asked for the house and I agreed., Because she was in a better position to be a full time parent to our two daughters and I did not want to disrupt there lives. She offered to pay a consolidated student loan of approximately 55000 dollars so I would not fight her on the house. We did not formalize this agreement. She said she would also refinance the house in her name. Five years later she made not one payment on the loan and has not refinanced the house. At this point can I legally force a refinance with the equity being used to pay the loan? Is that even possible? 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We're negotiating rather than go to court. Good news is we agree on child custody, what I owe her on equity paid into a house I purchased before we married, retirement, child support, etc. (pretty much everything). Her lawyer has thrown in a $10,000 move out ASAP,"" award in the offer sheet just for me to get her out of the house ASAP. It's not tied any community property, remodel, anything....as far as I can tell it's just a departing gift to her on the way out the door. My questions regarding this $10,000 award called ""Move out ASAP,"" are: 1) How common is this? 2) How likely would I be to be forced to pay this if we went to court? Any advice or past experience would be greatly appreciated. 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I left my country in my very early 20’s and met her here. We were such a great team, we spent almost 10 years together, like we were growing up together. But, it had to go all wrong in every direction. She cheated, but could not blame. While we were together, we did not need anyone else, I did not keep many friends and they are married. Since the separation, riding the emotional rollercoaster every day, I did not know what I want and where I stand, still dont. I couldnt get back to so called ‘normal’, because everything has been shattered. Just live day to day, sometimes wake with good feelings heart filled with hopes and positive things being alone, lasting couple of days, sometimes weeks. Then, it starts to dip down to the depressive curve. Feel like I am trapped in the moment where time is frozen. I have no family here, and I am suck at making and keeping friends or relationship. This realization of being lonely is suffocating. I have no other way to describe my feeling. The loneliness is persistent and it is slowly killing me. Just 5 months separation is enough to break me like this. I am so lost, I lost my pace. 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I’m not happy. It’s strange to type that. I’ve been unhappy for so long, I can’t recall when things really started to break down in our relationship. This time at least. I’m in denial, and consciously remain in denial to avoid having to mentally and emotionally deal with the reality that...it’s likely my marriage, our relationship might be too far gone. For a little context... My husband and I have been together since we were kids, “high school sweethearts” if you will (except we didn’t attend the same high school). Anyway, fast forward nearly 15 years..of course there’s a lot to unpack. We have and always have had major communication issues. We don’t argue in the same manor, we never seem to come to a legitimate resolution, and arguments tend to get heated easily. This has always been the case. But other wise, things were great for a long time. We had a couple on/off periods in our early years; we were so young that I think of those times as growing pains. Or I guess that’s what I told myself. For at least the past 5 years, he’s slowly become more and more distant. I noticed it early on and tried to address it, but he said nothing was wrong or different. Now we’re at a point where he spends 98% of the evenings after I get home from work on his phone, and drinking. The drinking is also a reoccurring trend throughout our relationship; I’m not much of a drinker. To try to sum this up, I’m beyond lonely and have tried expressed this to him in every way possible, as well as tried NOT expressing anything and trying to give him “space”. That only seems to create more distance, But it makes me sad, angry, and honestly, very resentful, that he chooses his phone/social media/YouTube over myself and his son, night after night. It likely sounds like I’m exaggerating this part a bit, but I promise you I’m not. He is most definitely an alcoholic and highly addicted to his phone. Ive tried everything and it always blows up in my face somehow. I have suggested, and even at one time begged him to go to Marriage counseling with me, which he refused. He never understands where I’m coming from in an argument, which is fine; but beyond that, he makes me feel stupid and small for my thoughts or how I said something, The tone I used or the look on my face. It spins the view on to me and 9 times out of 10, by the end I’m the one apologizing and feeling like I did something wrong, sad that I upset him and caused this big argument. Even now, I hear my inner voice defending him and making excuses or trying to rationalize. The fact is, he plays a lot Of head games. Which I obviously allow. this relationship has a hold on me that I feel ashamed to admit. I’m such a strong person in all other aspects of my life; I would never, ever let someone else talk to or treat me or make me feel the way he does. I feel super weak, and embarrassed. And ignorant for staying in an unhappy relationship for so long. And stuck. And angry at myself that I have a child in this situation. He, my son, always comes first in my mind. I’ve considered it might be better to just fake it, stay married and unhappy until my son is grown. The thought of split custody kills me. But then I wonder what kind of example I’m setting, or how miserable of a person I could be 10-15 Years from now. It feels like an impossible decision, and one most times that I don’t allow myself to even think about. Unfortunately I can feel the “fuck it” stage setting in, the walls going up. It’s what I have to do emotionally to protect myself; otherwise I’m immediately sucked back in and living in “maybe someday things will be better and good again” land. How do you ever just come to that final decision? Is it better to cut your losses earlier on, or do you just suck it up and put on a smile? It makes me crazy weighing scenarios like that. So much so that I wouldn’t be surprised if in the next 24 hours, I’m living back in the land of “fake it until you make it”, going through the motions, pretending none of this is true. 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Sometimes the junkie I left 5 years ago pisses me off since she still uses and I still lose.,1.41,4.02019,2.7716666666666683,89.44000000000004,86.5,4.866666666666667,16.333333333333336,6.42735559955562,-0.2390666666666665,96,2,19,1,3,31,22,24,0.212,0.7879999999999999,0.0,-0.6249,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,0,1,1,0,8,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,0,6,12,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27762735202304395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2773966913561263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833016670221833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3402859131154278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3503836813637998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590770968222057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3097566155764392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5002338480386036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2704988318920473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20168649904067992 divorce,hottie124578,2019/03/30,"Pro/con list Separation is a time for deep reflection. For some reason I thought I would bare to the internet my deepest flaws and that of my stbxh. I’m not sure why but I’m hoping this will get me one step closer to pulling the trigger. I hope to internalize and work through my flaws and hopefully recognize that he will not work through his and I need to vamoose. Me: female 30s, 2 kids lost virginity to stbxh first love Pros Okay mother (dealing with post partum depression after he cheated while I was pregnant ) Loves family Masters degree Cons No energy/lazy 100lbs overweight FAT Feel sexually undesirable Don’t attend church Slob Poor communication in relationship Materialistic Poor hygiene No skin routine but tons of products Hoard clothes makeup and books Don’t take care of mail or finances Messy car Okay cook Grumpy negative demeanor Depressed High anxiety Bad at laundry Break lawnmowers Pick nose and eat it Secretly Likes gangsta rap music (I’m a white 30 something) Watch a ton of tv allow son to watch tv Unemployed feb 2019 Likes porn Bad eyesight/need glasses Unorganized Spend a lot Hate cleaning sink trap Jealous of others Fantasized about my boss (husband found google searches caused initial marriage decline) Toxic relationship with mom where I take all her criticism and never talk back/defend myself (paved the way for stbxh) Love gossip Dont do what I say I’m going to: Examples Lose weight Move to Another state to follow husband Doctor (college dream) Lawyer (post college dream) Start businesses (didn’t write business plans) Realtor (studied 60 hrs didn’t finish) Stbxh Pros Kids bio father Cons Alcoholism Drug addict marijuana Coke binge then lied about it Smokes cigarettes Out all night Physically cheated with two women Untreated bipolar PTSD from assault and several TBI Very forgetful disorganized Little contribution to household duties Unemployed Doesn’t love me Years of mental and verbal abuse one example he screamed that I am a “Stupid F;)$@$ c*nt!” Blew through our assets/retirement Don’t see him working on our relationship I’m terrified of him can’t talk for fear of anger lashing EGGSHELLS 9k on credit card Slob Went to college 4 years but didn’t graduate DUI years ago Boundaries I asked for in January which he immediately agreed to and now has said I am controlling and he will not do them: No alcohol Take bipolar meds everyday Lay off pot",5.715017730496457,8.687745203309692,5.550798463356973,74.10137500000002,70.96217494089834,8.76900709219858,32.79722222222222,9.3871,3.6210359810874713,1963,94,304,48,40,610,288,423,0.249,0.6409999999999999,0.111,-0.9974,5,0,6,0,1,0,36.0,2,0,1,9,4,30,7,1,8,2,20,21,3,7,4,48,50,17,0,5,7,6,3,2,0,4,9,3,1,3,9,15,8,2,6,7,5,8,17,16,0,4,9,11,25,14,42,37,6,40,1,4,4,6,39,12,0,6,17,141,34,16,0.0,0.1111057188552949,0.0,0.10222645532996297,0.0,0.0,0.08312414227011078,0.20042972372160425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09832920895957886,0.07173611914901783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08766513423541325,0.0,0.0,0.07210567971391442,0.15659314346894698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560786421486964,0.09633074334424246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10517443836175484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09667588697222863,0.16153316437893034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959806802344223,0.0,0.0,0.10990130482746556,0.0,0.108746955759293,0.09595323067551056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08840087679271269,0.10552074077633322,0.04741446673209871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797633001614305,0.0,0.10281729854822716,0.0,0.0,0.0489925432087838,0.0,0.053293379793851625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09258146338777026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09907636555701817,0.0,0.2794133628366252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09162554164689493,0.09398522142598467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1049080458628304,0.1023643507382405,0.07972248549364265,0.3385353200002796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10416070813661933,0.0,0.09450116895162423,0.0,0.0,0.10982585143568822,0.0,0.0996659015447062,0.0,0.06953152117656744,0.07232354959143739,0.0,0.0,0.0879996459463969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708607792333668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796173026587708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10961566596231538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09641430328956346,0.0,0.3020314550524699,0.0,0.0,0.08919963512005853,0.0745720854079289,0.0,0.0,0.07472497226974488,0.0,0.0,0.1059368440859822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219106774672125,0.0,0.0,0.06637304056007158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08837998070914535,0.0,0.21151696828371394,0.15074243544098742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07444531943510263,0.05467981389230472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160263460161072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07737257894138745,0.0,0.07443267460154415,0.0,0.11419030046154588,0.0,0.08692854781498259,0.08461558339275765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20480367047440365,0.0,0.0,0.06661367733765666,0.0,0.0,0.1811602904186453 divorce,indigo_lo,2019/03/30,"Ways to meet people when you're feeling too old for Tinder? Can anyone share their advice on how to meet potential love interests at 40+? I'm nervous about online dating. If you've tried it at this age, was it a good experience? I'm 38F and haven't dated in decades. Anyone else feeling partly hopeful and partly hopeless? Been here and met someone great? Please share.. 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We talk about counseling but neither of us looks into it and I don't think either of us believes in this marriage anymore. I really just want to be happy and stop arguing. There was no cheating involved. I just don't think we like each other that much. But we have 20 years together and it's hard to walk away from it. For those of you who have been through this, can counseling really help? What comes next?",3.1595049504950516,5.662411534653463,4.121277227722775,83.50429207920793,77.21782178217822,7.604356435643562,24.951485148514852,8.548686976883017,1.9712447524752479,419,15,77,9,10,135,72,101,0.182,0.7170000000000001,0.101,-0.8586,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,1,0,0,5,5,3,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,0,22,15,7,0,2,5,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,12,11,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,2,2,12,2,14,12,4,11,0,0,1,0,15,4,0,1,6,62,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19474181060031048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287010230509527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1827186572368881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21911031790429253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167525736651361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12542234095735252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16385625917501778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20702564491835684,0.17421425492263815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130354628408648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2193798642726924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09501221802991676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16331269535290008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14296384339044824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20682975673246426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2491754112359515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16259247134970747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3126283978254685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2492275373431853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4678666237091394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2294165452901611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12523757533281424 divorce,cheekyfraggle,2019/03/30,"Does this sub have community chat page? I’m new here so if I’m breaking any rules, I apologize. But does this sub have its own reddit community chat room thingy? I just asked my husband to leave today and it would be really great to talk to some others who have been through it. Just wondering if there’s a chat for that! Also I’m old and I’ve heard of “KiK” but have no idea what that is. Quick backstory: Married 7 years, together 8, 2 kids. Asked for separation after several years of things getting progressively worse in our relationship. Mental health issues, inability to maintain stable employment, unequal sharing of responsibilities, all that fun stuff. I asked for a separation because I really hoped maybe some time apart would help him get a handle on what he wants from life and what he needs to do to get it. But it’s looking like the reality is divorce is inevitable. I’m really struggling with this and need to find a community to share and support one another. So, that’s that I guess. Thanks for reading. Happy to share details if requested. 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We have an almost 5 year old daughter that is the sweetest thing in the world and loves her family dearly the thought of breaking up that family absolutely devastates me. I'm sorry if this is too off topic or too sensitive but how did your kid/kids handle it. 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My husband and I are living together while separated due to financial reasons. I am sleeping in another room. However, he still wants to come in to my room to talk all the time. I am trying to set boundaries and we agreed to write a list of ground rules that we would like each other to respect and abide by. I don't want to make it a mile long list but I also don't want to miss anything important so I am looking for suggestions of things that I might need on this list. It is important to be a thorough as I can be the first time because it is difficult to negotiate things with him. I would appreciate any suggestions.",3.909545454545455,5.876613893939401,5.270303030303033,78.65045454545455,72.93939393939394,9.345454545454547,30.93939393939393,9.800150414767053,3.2598848484848486,542,25,102,15,11,181,81,132,0.044,0.8079999999999999,0.147,0.9294,1,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,2,0,0,1,3,4,0,0,5,0,14,1,1,2,1,21,22,9,0,6,2,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,2,0,9,8,0,0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,1,14,2,21,17,2,16,0,1,1,0,10,7,0,1,8,75,23,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1640571812897877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13950801480601874,0.2151160894220244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688197356716438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12505662144837254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767172676150451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17449920925505982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10022519462328483,0.0,0.3622997678965298,0.18154996680659624,0.1722730719857922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693821671906814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2176301390955199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521150132837591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21092682538029786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20529665574055891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16383185705907774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16489059337061948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725830953784025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23924748015967465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13928236516304607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630057014499135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914632167291789,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,emdogg22,2019/03/31,"Divorce party ideas Hey all, sorry if this isn't the right kind of post for this sub. I'm planning a ""divorce party"" for a great friend. I'm looking for ideas. She doesn't want it to be a divorce party, she wants it to be a becoming herself again. FYI: they were Dating and married they were together a total of 9 years and he finally told her he has been cheating the entire time. But she does not want to focus on that. Any unique ideas?",0.968,3.2551542444444483,2.6044444444444466,92.42000000000004,84.33333333333334,4.933333333333334,21.222222222222214,6.2581,0.2803555555555555,342,11,71,3,10,112,60,90,0.077,0.735,0.188,0.9116,0,0,0,0,3,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,1,4,1,0,7,0,8,0,0,0,2,13,15,4,0,4,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,1,7,3,9,9,2,8,0,0,1,0,15,2,0,1,5,44,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13230696396832944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21487540953091933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17026011367868574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131301520142181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15031599647817934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145022636230236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.65890114544218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2026035227323921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16338077177594731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18633398352096645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615253926858425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21779315527402526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11344906520608752,0.0,0.0,0.18590970418634886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442682653667851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252897802525931 divorce,MysticalElephant,2019/03/31,"I’m 16 and conflicted about my parents. I’m 16 and I was already depressed and suicidal before. My mom was already sad and depressed too, as was my dad. School isn’t that great nor is my job and I’m going to college soon. My home life wasn’t that great either, but it was something to look forward too. Now everything is changed. This is how everything went down. On Saturday, my dad never returned home from work in the morning. I was 12 PM and he usually comes him anywhere from 8-10AM so it was odd. My mom, me, and my older brother (24) were calling and texting him for a while. My mom even drove out to his job and didn’t see his car. She began to worry. We got back home and he finally texted back about an hour later stating “I need some time to think.” Not even an hour after he sent that text, my mom left the house as well, leaving me and my brother at home. I was worried too, but didn’t let it get to me so I started playing some volleyball outside. I see my mom pull up with alcohol in her hand and walk to the backyard. I walk back with her and she’s just sobbing. Sobbing a lot. I hug her for a long time and I just sit there trying to support her without even knowing what’s going on. She tells me that my dad told her “I don’t love you anymore.” My heart shattered right then in there. Honestly, this is no shock to me as my dad cheated on my mom when I was 7 (so I don’t really have recollection of this), but all I know is that their relationship when downhill from there. She always told me how she felt stuck in a loveless marriage and I guess this was it. My house didn’t feel the same before this happened either. My dad was always making side comments on her weight to me when we were together and I never really saw them talking. My dad has been sick lately (his ear has been messed up) and emotions have been running wild in general. My dad lost his mom in 2017 (and he has to deal with his crazy family members) and my mom lost her mom back in 2008 (and she has yet to recover from this, hence why she was suicidal and depressed). So I guess all of this has to do with timing....— anyways tension is high in the house ever since this happened. My brother isn’t even really reacting to anything, and I’m just conflicted. My mom is just talking about finding a place to live, and I want to go with her, but she wants me to stay with my dad because she doesn’t want me to go through a whole bunch of living changes/arrangements. I tried to talk to my brother to get him to live with her to keep an eye on her. My dog is also going to live with my mom and I just don’t know what to say or do so help support my mom. What pisses me off the most is how non-chalant my dad is. I guess he’s trying to calm the blow because he’s trying to talk to me and my brother but I’m just angry with him. I feel like my entire life was a lie (my parents have been together for like 27 years and married for like 21 years). This has made me question if my dads love for me or the family was even real. It makes me angry because he acts like he doesn’t even care that he broke my moms, but at the same time, I love him. It’s crazy because everything was just so normal not even a week ago. My dad has been stressed lately, but I never saw this coming. I’m broken because my family will never be a full family anymore. And what makes it worse is that it’s at the worst possible time for me. I’m already depressed and jealous of other peers around me, I’m preparing to take the ACT, preparing and looking for colleges as I am a junior. I don’t know how to support my mom. I don’t know how to deal with my dad. I don’t know how to deal with this “moving” situation. I don’t know what to do. I’m sorry for such the long paragraph but I needed to vent. I don’t have many friends I can tell this to. Tl;dr: Parents split at the worst possible time for all parties involved and I’m sympathetic for my mother who has been crying for the past 2 days, and angry yet conflicted with my father who is acting like he has done no wrong. I feel betrayed and lied to, but also conflicted on the truth. I don’t know what will happen next. 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I am married to a hot headed and stubborn man. His temper flares quickly and he can be verbally and physically abusive. He has been gas-lighting me for years but I have put up with it because of the kids. He is addicted to porn - he pressured me into acting out his porn fantasies - sometimes with other men as well. It distressed me greatly and I can't get over my feelings of humiliation and disgust. We no longer have sex as he always hurts me- he has no longer any idea how to make love - only dominant sex. His parents are old and he has been staying at their house at least once a week to look after them. I recently found out about Google Timeline and discovered that he leaves his parent's house at \~9.00pm when they go to bed, he then drives to another house where he stays until \~5am. At that time he heads back to his parents where they must be obvious to his absence overnight. So some investigation on my part - checking credit card statements, phone records, his gmail account ect, revealed that he has been in a long term B and D relationship with a woman. I am frightened to approach him about this as I am scared of his reaction. (He will obviously blame me and will be violent.) But I can't continue living with him. Any ideas how to handle volatile men with news that you want to separate? 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Two kids. I saw some texts yesterday my husband sent to a woman and after reading hundreds of emails, they are in love with each other and planning to be together. After reading the extent of their relationship I’m stunned and afraid that our two kids (under 7) will end up having to travel internationally to see their father if he moves to be with her. We are married and living together, but he has been sleeping in the guest room for a few months. Have been to therapy and agreed it’s unlikely we will be “together” aside from parenting. I had a consultation with a lawyer but have not filed bc I have been strongly averse to disrupting my kids lives and home. Questions: 1. Is it actually advantageous for me to file first? Seems like the writing is on the wall so is there any reason for me to wait? 2. Can the agreement limit one parent taking a child out of the country, even if he moves there? If he does that, I would prefer for our kids best interest that he be the one to travel to visit them. 3. What other advice do you have for me in this situation? What should I be doing now? State is CA. Thanks for any guidance 🙏🏼 ",2.663072707343808,4.9581460672268935,4.112879064669347,84.00590610157107,77.82352941176471,6.82820606503471,24.213372305443922,7.893859768569023,1.4262909755206437,956,33,184,16,23,316,141,238,0.005,0.861,0.134,0.9873,2,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,4,1,4,6,6,9,0,1,13,0,29,2,1,1,0,33,40,12,0,7,7,5,0,1,1,4,0,0,2,7,10,14,0,2,5,4,0,6,1,1,0,5,7,2,22,8,36,24,5,25,0,0,2,1,36,11,0,6,8,137,32,4,0.0,0.0,0.13835858453340566,0.0,0.0,0.2770950680861073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19283297181566206,0.14867057948710424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14879125186230138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1240742086342198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12557659173578722,0.0,0.0,0.09364554172666197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12059952665416515,0.0,0.15545642559523953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221870558541064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15012645452846266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06926742580662583,0.0,0.25039185393310576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279636100346937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11316888008594607,0.3013832307721965,0.0,0.10512940819232656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19215003404911624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3148638203193663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15882806429378146,0.0,0.2836403363453785,0.0,0.0,0.14577530412959208,0.0,0.15222059284690867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11298173805168732,0.12907282577166934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593686836290861,0.14188419312436856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10660226864031197,0.0,0.0,0.13053363245813202,0.1621398447110066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.277000433805285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10071772280429432,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mmamammamamama,2019/03/31,"My dog is not dead I (58F) took my boys, (16 , 17 ) and moved out of an abusive marriage of 28 years 18 months ago. Any contact with STBXH has been filled with intimidation, threats and him basically telling me how things will proceed in the future. This is the latest; he called me approx 2 months ago to tell me that the family dog had to be put down. He was an older dog with some medical issues. Purposely I did not react in the fashion in which he expected me to, but my heart broke. I had to tell my boys and they took it hard. I told them if they wanted to see where the dog had been buried in the yard I would take them. They gave it much thought, in the end deciding against it as they wanted no contact with their father. Just a few weeks ago my son was talking with a friend at school and when he mentioned his dog had passed, his friend told him he'd just seen the dog in the yard a few days ago. Needless to say we were conflicted, would the ex really lie about this. Fast foward to just yesterday, I am told by a friend that yes, the STBXH really did lie. Our dog is alive and he had seen him himself . He thought I should know so i could tell the boys. My 17 yr old said, ""So he was just playing with our strings"". The 16 yr old never said a word, but took a suspicious swipe at his eyes. In the past 18 months my life had changed so much. Learning to be on my own, parenting on my own, learning to stand up for myself against the abuse. But this lie has rocked me. Who does this, tells this kind of hurtful lie to not just me but his kids? I dont recognize the person he has become. We go to court in a few weeks, the first time i will be seeing him in over a year. I want to tear into him but i won't, basically that is just not me. I have nothing but my back to give to him. 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Any help would be appreciated. &#x200B; 1. In regards to credit cards, how is this divided? We agreed in the property agreement to just take care of our own credit cards and plainly stated as such (didn't mention account numbers, just that X will take care of Amex credit card and Z will take care of MasterCard credit card), will this be okay? 2. We filled out FL800 and FL825 forms and attached our property agreement to it. We made two copies and will be submitting this to the courts, is there anything else we missed in terms of what we give to the courts? (we did the document exchange with each other) 3. Do we need to give the courts any financial or tax documents? (their website isn't really clear) 4. We still have a lease together (5 months remaining, no option to buy) and are still living together until we're in a better financial situation. We plan to move out when the lease is over, until then we have the same address, is this going to be a problem with the courts? 5. We talked about and agreed to separate (3/28) signed everything today (3/31), and will be filing it with the courts tomorrow (4/1). Here is the kicker, we moved to California 10/1, and didn't officially become residents until 10/10 when we signed our lease. The FL800 documents doesn't specifically state we need to be residents, but that we need to be living in California for six months. Will filing on 4/1 be okay? 6. Do I need to bring any proof of residency? I have a California DL, but was wondering if I will need anything else. 7. Do I need to bring my soon-to-be ex, or can I file/pay for the filling?",4.988812375249502,6.3671590538922205,5.771032934131736,78.47425399201597,69.23952095808383,9.5187624750499,29.48552894211577,9.827888789773867,2.827675049900199,1380,52,261,33,24,451,163,334,0.026,0.812,0.162,0.9942,0,0,0,0,1,0,67.0,19,0,1,2,11,14,0,0,20,2,38,0,0,2,2,59,59,24,0,9,8,2,0,0,0,8,0,0,1,0,10,32,0,0,3,0,9,7,5,2,0,2,5,0,29,12,41,38,7,33,0,1,0,0,30,9,0,7,15,174,39,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1200949884786552,0.13468261404975224,0.22612480449312464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824235918221213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241396449897625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980288868017411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390260042822033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18518503240669126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09961575772411564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057909274514518785,0.2126554693971524,0.06299287112197405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07429365050585356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957473298754464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10487939611628387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17694270603337392,0.23561055108707302,0.0,0.4931183012974119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10605881781496147,0.0,0.0,0.2483321162924049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07100688001266238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12458869486422122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17703377925988145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25001343834349643,0.08908891540635706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10506326777509248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10827447946092278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020114657626856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07873748686466077,0.0,0.13468261404975224,0.07137726343562141 divorce,alimcc2925,2019/03/31,"Best way to divide furniture?? We are in the process of choosing/dividing furniture and my STBX is really unmotivated and delaying the process. We are doing it like a draft- i pick, he picks...etc. we’ve divided into 3 categories: home furniture, kids furniture, and art. I’m always ready with my picks, but he never wants to complete the process. We are only in the middle of the home furnishings and i want to just get this done!!! Any ways/methods/processes that you have found that work?? Help please! 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I said yes thinking that we would have a long engagement and because I knew he was the one. Shortly after getting engaged, he mentioned wanting to elope. This surprised me because I didn’t know he wanted to get married so soon, but I trusted him and felt sure of our relationship, so I agreed. We started planning to go to Vegas. When we told his parents, they were happy and said they figured that once he found a girl (he had been celebrate and single for 7 years), it would be a quick marriage because he was ready to settle down and had been working to get to a point where he could be a husband and a father. They expressed happiness for us and didn’t really express opposition to a short engagement. They just wanted a wedding, so all of our loved ones could attend. We all liked each other. It seemed perfect and heaven sent. Things fell apart shortly after we got married because we got married right before Thanksgiving and wanted to spend our first weekend after working a whole month of 60 hour weeks together as a newly wed couple. His parents expressed concern that I was trying to pull him away from family events because we declined going to an after Thanksgiving lunch. It wasn’t my intention, and I would have gone if my husband had said he wanted to go. His parents quickly began to lose trust in me and my husband fell off the wagon and started lying to his parents and to me about each other bad mouthing the other in order to buy himself time to go to the liquor store and buy booze. In January, he suddenly texted me on my lunch break and told me not to come home. When I tried to come to our marital home, his family was there are refused to let me in. They told me he was filing for divorce and that my things were packed up and they’d deliver them to my parents’ home. We resolved the almost divorce and the problems between his parents and I. Now, it’s only been two months, and his family doesn’t trust me again and has shut me out. I haven’t been invited to any family events they’ve been inviting my husband to. They told him they thought I was a manipulative narcissistic sociopath. This caused fights between us because it hurt that he didn’t defend me against their attacks or try to console them that they had no reason to not trust me. They believed that I was fighting with him all the time when in reality I was getting frustrated about him not defending me against his family and these would turn into fights. Last night, I saw that he had been lying to be about a lot of critical things when I had given him several opportunities to tell me the truth after explicitly asking. I said I wanted a divorce. He didn’t try to stop me. He says he doesn’t love me anymore. I hurt. I know that divorce is the best course of action, but it hurts to know that he is choosing his family over me even though throughout our entire marriage he said he wanted to put me first as his wife. I am speaking with an attorney tomorrow as a part of a free consultation. I am terrified and scared. I would do anything and told him explicitly that I would do whatever it takes to save our marriage. He says he just doesn’t care anymore. I know this is for the best, but I can’t even begin to get over the hurt because it hurts to have the love of your life tell you that they don’t care enough about you to keep you. He said he doesn’t love me as a wife anymore. He even had sex with me this morning, and I thought it was him deciding he did love me and just wanted to connect. No. He said it was an attempt to see if it would spark the love he had for me before. Help me. I’m so low. I hurt so bad. I never saw this coming as foolish and naive as that sounds. How do I begin to pick up the pieces? Is there any saving this?",5.683082237950794,5.785458587855299,6.14142455903831,81.00070778564208,67.1266149870801,8.694259072014379,31.683968093472643,8.321376580360154,2.2720555892596344,3073,115,602,38,46,995,297,774,0.115,0.72,0.16399999999999998,0.994,6,0,0,0,10,0,65.0,16,4,14,13,29,47,5,1,33,1,67,13,1,6,9,119,137,52,0,20,12,14,1,1,0,7,1,11,3,1,39,49,4,3,17,2,5,15,18,17,0,6,58,15,113,31,94,65,14,82,1,8,3,7,142,25,0,7,41,431,152,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09417178710120433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06395335253083556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13990002062069232,0.0,0.0,0.038695225090054526,0.0,0.04395936521073826,0.05349448698626417,0.04417886029632796,0.0,0.07852306670475863,0.20064987471316886,0.0,0.120037165699011,0.05297786373083905,0.09869369635552372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09588443699302153,0.0483047036273267,0.0,0.12151626266547025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508672533924808,0.05202911753988022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04858645350891117,0.0,0.0931730650613744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2659698039664113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04514864060943703,0.0,0.0,0.07999403805837411,0.0,0.05155736332674447,0.0,0.0,0.12283566997880667,0.0,0.10689509192474957,0.0,0.07521582207118535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10011191175455746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03151795774188059,0.0,0.14150115920234158,0.0,0.0463073484762838,0.0,0.302029121730848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04179544981938866,0.0,0.0,0.1033685814601168,0.038329330378970634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04808333694060145,0.0332131370322519,0.022972648607777358,0.0,0.0,0.04161312540103189,0.0,0.05260576102290504,0.0,0.039976552661310144,0.25463597184480397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11259790090112375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03626638295322002,0.0,0.0,0.04412710490107982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050077057943185316,0.06372685516718826,0.07152493199074961,0.0,0.0,0.3132752149773371,0.05092040905274127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04445113316424983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04499384961279288,0.0,0.04727025102649353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352150418355113,0.030123595063423998,0.04834660446037044,0.0,0.05048419440476856,0.0,0.04015666144482325,0.3131018459932133,0.0747878062485022,0.04707737789100703,0.0,0.037470567689395606,0.04280720175083794,0.0,0.05312164817934562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656504334533232,0.0,0.0,0.03931262513428357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04431782239537009,0.0,0.035354806819333486,0.0,0.0821988680158493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1249577152747876,0.03012989675161528,0.04619902624147914,0.0746606735692594,0.0548379907134398,0.0,0.0,0.2246584097715928,0.0,0.15962477519636664,0.05114659934030802,0.04593381056036015,0.0,0.1131237199240308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22187907151485015,0.0,0.03771833452931756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052498554184211406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269806149737384,0.0,0.0,0.2338223168149087,0.0,0.0,0.030280724629593275 divorce,Silver18191,2019/03/31,Mistake What are the mistakes you made during your divorce. ,6.649000000000001,10.051737900000004,4.830000000000002,78.24500000000002,70.0,4.0,40.0,3.1291,2.7260000000000013,49,3,6,0,1,14,10,10,0.38,0.62,0.0,-0.5994,0,0,0,0,1,0,1.0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,0,3,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dingowithastick,2019/03/31,"Friend's soon-to-be ex-husband wants 50/50 custody despite moving hours away. (Posting on behalf a friend, with her permission.) &#x200B; Story is, friend and her husband are getting divorced (PA), it's already filed and it'll be official in about a month. She stuck it out for a while, but he's proven time and time again that he's just a liar, manipulator, and narcissist. So she's finally done with it. They're currently attending mediation and very soon are gonna be putting a custody order in place involving their kids (one age 2 and one age 3), which based on how they've already discussed the subject amongst themselves will be 50/50. She works overnights, he goes to school during weekdays, but she's confident they'll figure out a solid agreement together. Currently they're still living together, but she'll have her own apartment very soon and that's when the agreement will be necessary. &#x200B; Thing is, ex-husband has been planning to move out of state for his future job for months now, at a point over the summer. He got a career offer while in school and supposedly has a position waiting for him the second he graduates and makes the move. He told her as much as far back as October, but she completely disagreed to the move. Regardless, he still wants to do it and plans to do it, and thinks he'll be able to maintain aforementioned 50/50 custody when he does it. The place is eight hours away from where they're currently residing, and as said, she has no desire to move whatsoever. There was also a point at a previous mediation where he said he'd forget the move and instead find work much closer (of which there is plenty available), but he not long afterwards dropped out of that verbal deal and backpedaled to his first plan. She has a job she likes and wants to advance in here, she wants to stay, and her kids like it here - they're rooting in. She's already put off divorcing him, uprooted, and moved them all once before (just so he could attend said school), but she's adamant about not doing it again. Hence why she finally filed here in PA, when she had the window of opportunity. She's been the primary caregiver for the kids throughout the majority of their lives so far. If the ex-husband does move, he's claimed his own parents are willing to sell their home from where they're from and move to the same area in order to support him and the family through all this. That, on top of the fact that he would be making a good deal more money than her (aside from the mountain of school debt he's accumulated), seem to be the primary factors in him thinking he can keep that 50/50 custody with the move, despite such a long distance case probably winding up to be a total nightmare for the kids. &#x200B; She's scared he actually does have a very good shot at this, and what it'll do to their kids. A lot of that fright is because her own lawyer has told her as much: that 50/50 is probably all she can hope for here. Friends and family have called bullshit on that, and told her she needs a new lawyer. &#x200B; So I suppose the advice requested is...how high of a chance of this actually being approved by a judge is there? And, if the chance actually is low, unlike what's been told to her by her lawyer, should she now be seeking a new legal representative?",10.317860805860803,7.486845914285716,9.162539682539684,72.52934065934069,59.6984126984127,12.54945054945055,40.421245421245416,10.64471489884176,4.0424322344322325,2626,102,504,45,26,817,268,630,0.051,0.847,0.102,0.9857,8,0,0,0,1,0,101.0,0,0,6,10,34,17,1,2,43,0,52,0,0,5,5,73,78,47,0,13,12,4,0,2,4,11,0,3,2,5,27,30,0,2,5,0,3,15,3,4,0,5,15,3,45,13,76,40,14,95,0,1,0,0,90,39,0,5,37,324,72,14,0.0524216646942133,0.0,0.15346794847652798,0.0,0.0,0.05122584403363773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17354583161200374,0.04192158631653657,0.0,0.2271954071785597,0.2547922417624009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09850375919178493,0.04030902435359866,0.0,0.03195576023729192,0.0,0.04460697561673162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05352838074627055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054963118067974916,0.0,0.0,0.04185443366865075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1080888689443231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13762365611181152,0.05364556339541684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09883696013004373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11485074264356727,0.04791245183198101,0.04458984120927801,0.0,0.0,0.16200339242075,0.0,0.027388156178306037,0.0,0.0,0.0879376104329412,0.04192639406616836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538636689854571,0.052583203889577636,0.052066541276585915,0.1032495603671574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404082682689804,0.04659478421021634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0512211548980606,0.0,0.0925785806688182,0.09278304728158633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04456702470655073,0.0,0.0,0.06998373648856973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08368494525413428,0.5571593345390339,0.11560786579287866,0.038870000138257685,0.0,0.1012583408434798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0558273620412814,0.0710445533602892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058208054957163864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095389644457474,0.0,0.0991108346309506,0.0,0.050205464090528035,0.0,0.11303884169185395,0.0,0.0,0.10539650395725493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.149595022693866,0.0,0.0524832313922532,0.21221409331861013,0.0,0.04772271471757696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05587451963960317,0.08372801828124714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05948748387016117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034826624691148896,0.0671793720840087,0.0,0.0,0.061134988494112336,0.0,0.0,0.2003645883856328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1297600902407391,0.1236786241405838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047302398718175334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.076327192472801,0.0,0.0,0.03723884654773192,0.0,0.2547922417624009,0.0 divorce,Bdwilson0523,2019/03/31,"Need advice Middle of divorce. I’m living with my parents now. Trying to sell our old home. Co parenting with our 1.5yr old son is going good. I need advice though I’m renewing my EAP through work so I can go back to counseling (haven’t been in about a month) so I know that’s a big tool that will help But I’m having a hard time trying to meet people. Not romantic partners, but people in general and finding activities and hobbies to do. I miss sex, but during this season of my life, no one is attractive to me. Male or female. When I would go out when before I was married. I always had the whole “dress nice and get noticed” as motivation but now that I’m in counseling and have realized I don’t need that validation and understanding why I needed it before...I just don’t know what I enjoy anymore. I’m not particularly good at anything and I don’t really have hobbies. Maybe I should just focus on losing weight. One thing at a time Anyone else feel like during your divorce “idk what to do with myself”",2.180198019801981,4.439868257425747,4.121277227722775,83.50429207920793,79.29702970297029,6.812277227722772,22.47623762376237,7.908726449838941,1.2670368316831686,796,25,154,14,20,270,121,202,0.063,0.8079999999999999,0.13,0.9462,2,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,2,1,0,3,11,8,0,0,5,0,18,3,0,1,0,33,36,17,0,6,9,3,3,1,1,3,1,0,1,2,9,10,1,0,7,0,1,3,7,2,0,2,3,3,20,6,21,30,1,23,0,2,0,1,12,9,0,1,12,100,29,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2542818146959853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10826102427882922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12903306352929902,0.09097516526611883,0.13331193951057446,0.1070685354120748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000457098815894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11071308752349507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108689287399601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06578696715280298,0.09294982129980113,0.0,0.0,0.1189171738231381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797652811365654,0.0,0.221831651873444,0.21825833798105376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11655201482489387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08720925041136812,0.0,0.1305098311195291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430088932006631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091899761022394,0.06356463453169423,0.0,0.11488853887398807,0.0,0.0,0.1455585740579579,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1307118738568117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385167947638944,0.0,0.0,0.38589639112238056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812984045261685,0.2730547993610417,0.0,0.17633031034937555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28894106331780395,0.0,0.0,0.18040225249800507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08335109040666057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08643856917600183,0.0,0.1278313297216231,0.0,0.1517350871319272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1766707996243118,0.0,0.0,0.1354479492732679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843758378804626,0.0,0.0,0.11740304149632295,0.14526193592810152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09472082587789483,0.0,0.0,0.092425626712218,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,spotty567,2019/03/31,"Question: Can she be taken back to court for this? Brother's cheating ex took a lot of his money in alimony. She claims to only make $12/hour at her current job and can't afford things like child care etc. So he's taking care of that too. Suddenly, she makes a huge ($50K) purchase that will cost her a large monthly payment. Not sure where she's getting the money to pay for it since she is only making $12/hour? So my question is, can my brother take her back to court proving that she obviously has more income from somewhere that she's not reporting?",4.809172932330828,4.9734396666666685,5.666691729323308,83.44184210526316,69.0,7.917794486215539,30.32080200501253,7.447530270364453,1.7943749373433584,438,16,89,4,7,144,77,114,0.086,0.835,0.078,0.2887,4,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,6,5,1,0,4,0,8,0,0,3,3,12,18,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,3,0,5,1,3,1,0,0,2,0,13,4,11,14,3,10,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,3,6,55,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27464007059854345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641564809031365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19916831234969906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330274382716948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3517384382682672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17721701581149238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724709803157514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15182568926009474,0.0,0.0,0.3576185228653653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14254400621940885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716422846857118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4001097928567556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14772649003600116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16831326074285394,0.0,0.2685458128158111,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1186432420192303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19841334096421026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Handyashell,2019/03/31,"Someone here needs to read this. It’s okay to let go. https://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/relationship-disengagement-what-happens-when-you-just-stop-feeling-dg/",36.894358974358965,47.477277923076926,17.869230769230768,-25.332564102564106,39.0,4.810256410256411,19.71794871794872,6.42735559955562,0.5664564102564107,155,2,11,1,3,35,12,13,0.0,0.853,0.147,0.2263,0,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,6,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2425867211376881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4364794992829231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31650129534260063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4269620432966338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.458273433117088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3616656818711753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3568628141450849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thursdaycrash,2019/03/31,"Where to go next At the moment I’m struggling. I was with my ex for almost 13 years. Married 8 of them. We met when we were 19. Many of those years were happy. Although he always lied to me and snuck around, we were able to work through it. And I never knew the extent of the lies until now. Finally a year and half ago, I decided enough was enough. Things progressively got worse. He couldn’t keep a job, stopped sleeping at night. Started to do all kinds of weird stuff. Last straw was when he woke up at 6 am and smashed everything in my house. I decided after that I was finally done. He moved out, his family naturally attacked me. He texts me most days 50+ times. I stuck around as long as I cold, asked him family for help, found doctors. It was becoming a dangerous situation and bad for my mental health. I also found out he was cheating on me and fired from his long time job for sexual harassment. I filed for divorce and he has done everything to drag this out. I couldn’t find him, did and he avoided the server, finally served him and now he won’t respond. My lawyer is doing everything possible to hurry this along. In between all of this chaos. I feel depressed and lonely. I don’t know how to cope. I do not miss him, I miss having someone around. I started dating which is nice but I just feel so sad and lonely. I cry a lot. Almost every day. Some days are a struggle to get out of bed. For years and years I had it all together. My friends used to tell me how they wished they had what I did. And now I’m a complete train wreck. Is this normal? Does this get better? Any advice? As silly as it may sound, I’ve never been alone. And I don’t know who I am. 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It’s almost all over now and it mostly feels like an epiphany more than anything. But then— grief and this utter hatred comes over me from time to time. Absolute disgust. I’ve been mad but mostly kept things in perspective over the drinking, the nastiness, the verbal abuse and selfish laziness. Even the weird lying that is just second nature to him and the BPD fuckery. I’ve kept perspective. I feel pity and disappointment but have worked through my emotions fairly well. I feel like I was big enough to forgive a lesser being who was unworthy of my love and devotion and hard work. I was doing good. Now I cannot deny that I hate him. This changed everything for me. I hate that son of a bitch and I genuinely wish that he dies. I never want to see his disgusting face ever again. Why did this revelation sting so so so deeply when it’s all— everything, our marriage, the happy fantasy, the delusion, the pain, the unhappiness, the mistresses, etc— in the past? It’s all past but this is so powerfully terrible to me. It’s changed the narrative. 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Hi all. I’m new to this sub but I need some advice. My wife and I are going through a divorce and we have a house we bought a year ago. We don’t have enough equity meaning we are going to have to pay out of pocket for closing fees which we simply cannot afford. Realistically our realtor is citing that we will have to pay $12,000 for these fees. What options do I have or what have others done in this situation? I know foreclosure is an option but I have good credit and the spouse is rejecting that. Thanks for any advice. 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It’s really the same story that everyone tells. Like I always thought it was just in movies or exaggerated by people. Nope, it’s real, and it happened to me. Every woman has her suspicions here and there, but they usually pass. At least for me they did. I never, ever thought he would cheat no matter how much we fought or argued. I was so naive. Last year in March I caught him cheating. Fell asleep at her house and didn’t come home. Nearly drove me and our 2 kids crazy with worry thinking the worst. Only to find out he was with another women. I was devastated. Absolutely broken. I lost all trust. My feelings for him just somehow, went away. I felt nothing for him. I blamed myself. Yet I stayed. I stayed because he was all I knew. I was afraid I couldn’t move on alone. I didn’t have the strength to go through a divorce, so I stayed. Convinced myself it was for the sake of the kids. Fast forward a year later. Same month. March. After one year of trying to swallow the numbness I felt towards him, playing the role of forgiving wife. Believing everything he promised me, more time for us, no social media, even agreed to a family tracker on the phone. Things were ok. Inside me they weren’t, but I never showed it. I really did try. But I guess no matter what I did, it didn’t matter because he got caught again. This time the women contacted me. Telling me how he has been with her for 3 years. 3 years. She claims that he would tell her he hated me, never touches me and is only in the living with me for the children. That he would leave me when the time is right. Over the course of 3 years she also claimed that he borrowed over 40,000 dollars to pay for bills, vacations, etc. When I approached him about it he broke down and told me that it was true and it was all for the money. It was easy money for him. That he loved only me and and he wanted only me , she was nothing to him. The man I married had succumb to being some sort of male prostitute. He continued to tell me that he was glad I knew and that it was off of his chest and we can move on. The man had also apparently become delusional. Now, I’m at the processing stage once again. The first step after you find out your spouse is a pathological liar and adulterer. I definitely want a divorce. That I know for sure. But in the mean time he’s still in the house, but sleeps downstairs and we don’t communicate unless needed for the children sake. I even avoid looking at him. I can’t wait to be rid of him. I want to move on. I want to be free of him. I want to fast forward to my normal daily life with me and my children with a smile on my face again and the weight of the ball of numbness (if that’s even a thing) weighing on my chest. No more feeling suffocated. Only happy, positive thoughts . A new beginning. We had booked a vacation for the family only one month before the betrayal. And this is real life not the movies and these vacation cost money. Non refundable money. Not to mention the kids have been looking forward to it for a long time now. So for 26 days we have to live in the house together until the vacation. Then we also have to go on this vacation together. Not speaking. Me ignoring him and wishing he didn’t have to exist. I thank god that we had booked it with my best friend and her family. So i will have someone with me. My best friend to give me strength. I have no idea how I’m going to do it. Any of it. But I’m going too. I will not live this life constantly feeling numb all the time . This was a horrific ordeal, but it also could be a blessing because I’ve never felt so sure that I need to leave this marriage. My happiness and my health are worth it. My children are worth it. I am worth it. This could be my second chance at happiness. I’m scared but I’m ready. I just need to get through this month. Prayers needed for me to get through it all. 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A really hard time. I don’t know how I will afford the next down payment with my attorney to continue the fight I don’t want to have with my ex. He has never ending supply of money for attorney fees, attorney friends, and the advantage of keeping our child in his home while I was the one to move out under the agreement that we would have an uncontested parenting plan of 50/50. Of of that was retracted once I moved out, and he is literally trying to drain me with having me deposed, requiring a multiple day mediation which is with a neutral partied attorney, and at the same time is constantly in my ear reminding me he has possession of the family home and I’m “unfit”. I’m so tired of being bullied and intimidated....this is why I left our toxic relationship to begin with. I’m afraid, anxious, and depressed. How can I beat someone who is so skilled in manipulation and has endless money to fund it?? 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I married my bf last year June 2018 in California. But he was apparently still married to his wife. He fixed this by successfully getting a divorce. He received the decree this March. Is my marriage to him legal now? Or do we need to get married again? What should we do? Please help, Thanks in advance",1.5080952380952368,4.2384934603174615,2.686031746031748,88.27285714285719,90.58730158730158,4.704761904761905,26.04761904761905,6.42735559955562,1.1439714285714295,260,12,49,3,9,83,47,63,0.0,0.805,0.195,0.9111,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,2,0,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,6,10,2,0,2,2,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,9,2,7,8,0,11,0,0,0,0,15,2,0,1,7,32,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43163668923726417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27688022000393986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367170396903978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30629513832733035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4534400926475948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3298878936211572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3803104925406661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660113249082695 divorce,lt1023,2019/04/01,"[Ny] how to protect myself from their fear of physical abuse. This weekend my soon to be ex demonstrated fear of physical violence from me. I asked her if this was the case and she confirmed that she is afraid of me. She also confirmed that those feelings are baseless and that she did not have any concern for the safety of our child. We haven't filed for divorce yet but plan to. We had serious disagreements on custody but decided to table it until I get more stable at my new job and state. I am concerned that this is a ploy or some kind of tactic. How do I proceed? I reached out to a police officer friend of mine and he said to get a body camera. Which I think I will. But I would really like some advice on the matter. My spouse and I are seperated but i still have to spend the weekends with them to spend time with my child. I now live in a new state for work and I am hopping to bring my child with me when I get more stabled. 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Probably a long time coming, it was a pretty volitale road. I think I only went so long for the kids, and at the end of the day I'm glad I did. Kids are older, son graduates this year and twin daughters just turned 16. I have no real assets outside of bank accounts. We're in an apartment now, so no house to sell. I'm willing to go pretty much any route as long as the kids are good. I keep hearing horror stories and, maybe I'm being very naive, but I just can't see how they could apply to me. I'm researching lawyers, counselors, support groups, all that. What else should I be doing or looking out for? 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We have been married 2 years. Everything got bad once we were married. I was miserable for the past year. Always being put on the back burner with work and his friends a higher priority. In the end, I had an affair. He caught me. He kicked me out. He makes significantly more money than me. I can’t afford the divorce right now, but he is aware that that is where we are headed I moved out over a month ago and got my own bank account and am living on my own. He wants me to sign our house over to him this Friday. I am fine with him keeping the house, but should I be asking for something in return of him having the house? Thank you in advance. 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Earlier tonight my daughter was on facetime with her mom. After that was over my daughter ran up to her step-mom and said “my mom wants to know how daddy treats you.” We were pretty shocked at what was said. I mean is it really appropriate to ask your 6 y/o a question like that? I really don’t know what to do something like this. Anyone ever have to deal with something like this?,2.8145585874799366,4.202327213483148,3.820256821829858,90.31876404494385,74.61797752808988,6.8834670947030485,23.950240770465488,7.447530270364453,0.8589184590690206,338,10,74,4,7,109,60,89,0.026,0.8220000000000001,0.153,0.8875,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,2,2,0,0,3,6,0,0,1,0,8,0,0,2,1,12,17,3,0,1,0,5,0,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,7,4,0,0,4,0,0,1,1,1,0,0,7,2,14,5,12,10,0,9,0,0,0,0,18,4,0,1,7,46,21,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11999334591710573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3208634161854941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17692184941719524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15523060903788274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1886241760688552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25151918626840597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1869330442630282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6029608837848606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16574151534672027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17458854662234385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19224190410117567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21987486792638297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3264798473959313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642267398243975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10121972377931654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Kozmicblues14,2019/04/01,"First time divorce, confused on the process first steps Hey, My now-separated husband filed divorce papers after a domestic violence incident that resulted in him going to jail. No files were charged and he was release. During his night in jail he called the real estate agent to put on the house on the market. The agent declined due to my approval needed. I declined at the moment because I was so lost, hurt, and confused with the entire situation. Turns out prior to the DV incident my now-separated husband actually had the real estate agent view the home, my bedroom and office, without my knowledge. This hurt me and I declined using the agent due to my now-separated husband’s prior relationship with work and her husband. He has now officially moved out of the home, got lawyers, and served me papers. Papers stated that the house be sold and assets be divided. Also it stated that any rebuttal would mean I am liable for payment of his lawyer fees. As a recent grad, currently studying for my boards, and being recently diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that has caused many doctors appointment, not only am I very overwhelmed but also not financially stable to pay bills on top of medical, student loans, and lawyer/mediator fees. It’s also not helpful that my family lives on the other side of the country for even moral support at times. I talked to a lawyer briefly about my situation which they strongly suggested that because I live in Washington, that all of the assets and everything get split down the middle. Which is fine, but now leaves the selling of the house process to me. Which includes fixing up the house, finding an agent, etc. all because that night when he was in jail and the other incident, I wasn’t comfortable will putting the house on the market. I am just so overwhelmed. Thanks for listening and sorry for all the spelling mistakes",7.628082520842162,8.614160020771514,7.405663416701994,70.55022749752723,63.035608308605354,9.979878479581744,36.81913240073477,9.957137785484203,3.9348087890349017,1505,70,236,30,21,478,177,337,0.078,0.843,0.08,0.5573,1,0,0,0,3,0,39.0,0,0,1,7,11,13,0,4,29,0,17,3,0,3,3,40,29,21,0,3,7,4,0,0,0,2,3,1,3,0,16,17,0,0,3,0,7,5,6,8,0,2,9,2,26,5,42,15,4,44,1,5,1,0,22,19,0,2,18,164,42,18,0.0,0.0,0.09342042372687392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22967004878111685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06510090427812235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750716434516559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09775286749522533,0.0,0.0,0.09834292535358284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09716575812235888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09798555003306793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10676625844995888,0.06322994859870927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08603756570704907,0.0,0.09024741765513034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08749712750519399,0.16285883408372587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05001591239097996,0.0,0.054406585986550855,0.0,0.07656546278000954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06416700513102143,0.0,0.19205359439722736,0.0,0.0,0.5523081987588438,0.20496573585697947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10136614971856732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16906586006985716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10450256433239112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705701576494706,0.0,0.1042799909259969,0.0,0.09643971329269428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10174774921940216,0.0,0.07098391395520075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796756115858515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07280834493835041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924737931944888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2179274851303226,0.0,0.0,0.1890471993843734,0.10278012261885147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.215213100128654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071639082982699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863530798639688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07694559162288628,0.0,0.08813697607539805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11164396057326016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10412870431458413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268153512400128,0.0,0.07898875780555098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228203545160124,0.0,0.06969388787831131,0.0,0.0,0.06800512142353735,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Deadmarriage123,2019/04/01,"Advice or divorce made this throwaway for advice if this is even salvageable. My possible stbxw and I have been married for 2 years together for 3. Obviously didnt date long, in hindsight what a mistake. We've had issues the whole marriage. I found out early months into our marriage she was sleeping with her ex in the beginning of our exclusivity. I was angry but didnt end it because it happened early. She was also talking to him for months into our relationship. All while saying she wanted to wait for marriage with me. I moved to her homestate closer to our wedding and relocated my job while she wasn't working. Through all this I still stayed. Took a lot to get through. Our intimacy started suffering about a year ago. She started working 4 months ago finally. She leaves at 6:30 and is home by 5 or 5:30. Nothing outrageous. Her commute is maybe 20 minutes more than mine. I work out in the morning, go to work, and workout again 4 days a week after work. She literally comes home vents about her job for hours. We dont have sex anymore more than once a week if that. I stopped initiating months before she started working because there was always an excuse. Now i try maybe once a month but I know the result. In turn I kind of dont spend much time with her anymore. She wants to plan things on the weekends but I dont want to. She single handedly killed our sex life and says I have to deal with it. I don't treat her bad I occasionally get frustrated but generally i kind of dont care anymore. More so she does nothing else. She has not picked up a single bill, not cooked or purchased a single meal or done laundry or other chores once. She comes home vents for hours and then watches TV. This is our relationship for months now. We are I counseling. When we go she acts worried about our marriage and asks for advice and participates but does absolutely nothing to try to work on what the therapist says. We argue and when we do I ask her to name one thing shes done to help me or this marriage. She single handedly killed our sex life, she does not a single chore, not picked up a single bill, she picks arguments most of the time. And when I say I'm the one who does these things she says well I dont ask you to. She blames me for not emotionally connected to her but she literally sits on her phone for hours so I stopped spending time at home and wasting my life. I'm honestly at my end here. I cant live like this for years. Or even months. Theres an argument at least once a week. I generally walk out I dont really get involved. But at this point I want to vent and or just listen.",2.686093649258545,4.83514225918762,3.8342226789168263,86.75714962121212,77.08510638297872,6.861524822695036,25.471026756931014,7.8658589789855275,1.4300999677627342,2056,76,417,33,48,667,227,517,0.118,0.846,0.036000000000000004,-0.9913,2,0,0,0,1,0,50.0,14,1,0,8,20,15,5,0,21,0,30,11,3,5,3,74,59,38,2,7,23,1,2,1,0,0,3,6,6,0,19,28,2,3,2,4,5,8,16,8,1,2,14,9,78,7,64,45,16,78,0,1,1,3,74,21,0,12,48,283,97,9,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16326183067149638,0.09873343995220173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04453608040892168,0.04633938145954257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16569155127456658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1561907292614463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04649966696010392,0.06789744532614977,0.0,0.047388947495097936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056780696092736414,0.0,0.0,0.09594574743115493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035916094112637284,0.05741498571005741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19494231185132627,0.11398247704275208,0.3916166922573911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04652269256573887,0.06264489020941551,0.09865140941399828,0.0,0.0,0.07356677346451533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061006779070530974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061062317727573076,0.0,0.0,0.08728876216174984,0.0,0.0633009685276253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0492473760354284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037328509946524036,0.0,0.22345049434936834,0.0,0.16453327963225206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058126945242782266,0.11052946790674396,0.0,0.12322770204743565,0.11598723346682345,0.030606322535174976,0.0,0.0,0.05896873822121225,0.0,0.0,0.11800862158174585,0.02720781432211704,0.0,0.04917618195168248,0.049284791170790064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04734650499459735,0.0,0.052696180016133104,0.0,0.0,0.1118982094302408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3111642288413255,0.0591907298933094,0.04093930008579282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031107766671354,0.0,0.0,0.2372364314761363,0.07547533905752186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05264600517726815,0.06278324581089935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0356770869216538,0.0,0.0,0.1195826054729784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143863129465516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055731229171821633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825515010948714,0.05935920651212673,0.044474912357769736,0.09312035572654556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04476232413171325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06466155475107163,0.1109958969041575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09742162699237872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061874761015334026,0.07562107998782673,0.060575826576117785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13139200191518205,0.0,0.13401590647223913,0.0,0.0500729060231362,0.0,0.0,0.062177023590569015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28380602882988937,0.0565569237482833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10758955321097056 divorce,Thalonforge,2019/04/01,Crossing my fingers Today my mom filed for divorce. It is April’s fools day. I hope this is a joke😢,-1.9809090909090905,-0.33356499999999656,0.5004545454545449,101.2706818181818,108.0909090909091,2.2,19.13636363636364,3.1291,-0.8622181818181818,78,3,18,0,4,26,20,22,0.145,0.7240000000000001,0.131,-0.0772,0,0,0,0,1,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,0,0,1,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,1,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,3,9,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365258584426613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.518277497583483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6111404287275857,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4946171837620437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sarahconner292929,2019/04/01,"Divorce and anger Throwaway. So found out wife of 6 years was cheating and wants a divorce and I'm going through the 5 stages. The issue is, I'm getting to the anger part and starting to have the darker thoughts. Idk what her plans with the guy are, but I legitimately am starting to want him to hurt her, badly. Not rape or putting her in the hospital or anything to that extreme. More of I want him to rip her apart the same way she has done to me and put her through the same hell she put me through. If that makes sense. Is this normal? Is there a way to stop having those thoughts or just go through them?",2.888306451612902,4.431584120967743,3.0443870967741944,95.3215806451613,74.7258064516129,5.605161290322582,26.916129032258066,5.6839178017228535,0.5714251612903225,477,18,107,2,10,145,77,124,0.19,0.753,0.057,-0.9612,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,1,1,3,7,5,0,10,0,10,1,0,1,0,25,24,11,0,5,7,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,0,1,3,0,0,5,1,7,0,0,5,0,14,0,17,19,4,15,1,1,0,1,14,3,1,4,4,74,19,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469306552664704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14908099923972673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18271766965484004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576981810494956,0.0,0.0,0.09328450959041333,0.0,0.20294708022398672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17679163152098584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1911404514906412,0.0,0.0,0.18635882031116155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11918287772164893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17494016002043716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933512223056936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5384733342500981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2527558739820965,0.0,0.0,0.14927500118638695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834960040841533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3159385682444196,0.28344785116045923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149797346162283 divorce,HeartbrokenFamilyCEO,2019/04/01,"How long between telling the kids and moving out? I found out two weeks ago that my husband of 14 years has been having an affair and intends to leave me for the other woman. We have three elementary-aged kids, who were on spring break last week, along with having out-of-town family visiting. We didn’t want to ruin the kids’ break or the family visit, so we agreed not to tell anyone until after all of that. Now that we’re back in our regular routine, and it’s clear that he has no intention of changing his mind, I want to rip the band-aid and start whatever awful separation process is coming. I’m tired of having no support system and being in limbo, living with a man who clearly doesn’t want to be with me, and having to pretend everything is fine. Meanwhile, he has two major work deadlines coming up in the next two weeks and wants to put off telling anyone (and his apartment search with the other woman) until those tasks are finished. I feel like I’m already being forced into enough sacrifices and want to get on with things. So, my question is, if we tell the kids soon, will it confuse them that he’s still living here until his work deadlines are complete? How much time passed between when you told the kids and when your ex moved out? Any personal experiences would be welcome. I’ll be the first of my friends to go through divorce and feel like I have no one to turn to. 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Me and my wife have been together for 9 years. 5 as friends and 4 married. She’s been the single biggest part of my life. Long story short, she had been cheating on me for the last 8 months and I finally found out. We were going to separate before I found out, and split some extra money we were getting. But after I found out, I want to get a divorce. She doesn’t deserve anything from me. I know she’s going to come for my money or spousal support. Anyway... we should be getting all the paperwork started within the next week or so. All advice/help is greatly appreciated. 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We fought sometimes over money and there was an infidelity far in the past (her not me). We dated for 4 years or so then married for 3. No kids. She says she just doesn't love me anymore and when I ask what I can do it's just ""I dont know"". I threw out the divorce word because it was obvious that I don't know was the end of the line but it hurts so bad. We were a great team. Things were rough in life in general the last two years and she had a mental breakdown/suicide attempt and got hospitalized. When she came home I bought flowers chocolates, I asked what I could do, I offered to get a second job so she could work less and do more art. In return I get that she just doesn't care. Part of me thinks she trauma bonded with someone in the hospital and doesn't want to tell me but honestly I think she just changed somehow and she dislikes me now. Not just doesn't love but dislikes. She has no interest in talking to me at all, wants me to leave her alone. She says I'm still her best friend but it's bull. Mutual friends have accused me of abuse so she's saying things differently to them. I admit I got pathetic and begged for her back. It's not happening. Just like a couples months ago we were snuggly happy. Someone told me that my marriage made them believe in true love. But now I'm abandoned and basically homeless and broke and crushed and I just want to go home. She gave up on me after I supported her through so much. I feel like garbage.",0.8987413872301353,3.1977465819935738,2.1796086357372566,95.26230225080387,84.78778135048229,5.226311437758382,22.390537436839686,6.610729790773281,0.41631843821773096,1181,42,262,13,35,377,168,311,0.225,0.6609999999999999,0.114,-0.9879,3,1,0,0,2,1,30.0,4,1,2,4,22,22,1,0,11,0,23,4,0,2,3,55,54,28,0,5,16,0,2,2,2,0,1,3,2,1,12,19,0,1,6,2,2,4,12,7,0,3,17,5,52,15,28,35,6,36,0,3,0,3,46,14,0,2,20,182,64,3,0.0,0.1294636846149902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09685872023172044,0.0,0.0,0.1131677961111266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10836363456617737,0.0,0.0,0.0899175399512653,0.0,0.20430003796952967,0.0,0.0,0.08401968029737325,0.0912334916141336,0.06660822984064806,0.0,0.0,0.12310664087013574,0.114669114397615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12497249057664615,0.11140512393918783,0.0,0.1155901379661796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448182843719462,0.12090200390703205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114160897223693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12806026560603848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09677824726375588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055248745343047086,0.07806046134862206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16883903116680282,0.0,0.11417513387819628,0.0,0.062099029507960285,0.0,0.17478181533543674,0.12046739941764875,0.0,0.0,0.09662456448131733,0.11631689444677268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21920768615276487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169727253447747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084307688917052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010071696849478,0.08906729674360146,0.0,0.1156981164750472,0.0,0.0,0.07717860715512254,0.10676480336624854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29585355968467075,0.10339120281707948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11011556973800124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872159827570699,0.11613366960217088,0.08032391488460094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07404223689264594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11832565658111235,0.1043078418825288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606808284704454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18516337370162395,0.0,0.10806798807616257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08726087322546375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952050827058898,0.12399504717905367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08782478220335761,0.09550429001979864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451844553079936,0.1400279330892011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10440942772144217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10673811139650398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933457574305528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07954777388438927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11946645643571455,0.0,0.1407289018372721 divorce,sweatypalms4,2019/04/01,"How to move on? Together for 5 years, and married for 2 out of those 5 (I’m 29 with no kids). We were as happy as it gets until she had to move away for work. After roughly 9 months away from each other, she told me she wasn’t happy and wanted to end the marriage. I was shocked. We were supposed to spend our lives together, have kids one day and grow old together. I tried everything within reason to get her back. Win her back. She never gave me a legitimate reason, she just said she’s not happy. I have my suspicions and asked her if she cheated or found someone else but she strongly denied it. I don’t know what to think anymore. I gave her my entire life, my heart, and my time. I tried to change her mind for 6 months but she didn’t even budge 1%. We got divorced back in summer 2018 and I can’t get over it. I’m trying to move on. Get myself involved in my hobbies, be more social, focus on work and self improvement. I’m learning a lot about myself these days. I’ve stopped doing things or caring for others before myself. I’m really focussed on me and trying to enjoy my own life; making myself the priority - no more personal sacrifices. I feel like I’m making progress but I still can’t shake the feeling of disappointment that she’s gone. I don’t know how to act around women now. I’m a softer soul by nature and I feel like I’ve been taken advantage of for it. I’m questioning my entire relationship with her because I can’t believe how she could’ve done that to us. I’m not really sure why I’m posting this but I figured that there’s people out there that have gone through something like this. I’m trying to find my deepest purpose in life. 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Me and my wife have had a pretty long distance relationship from the start and we've been married for almost two years now. I recently moved to out-of-state for work and she came to visit me for a month and left 23rd of March. A week before she left I caught her in a slick lie when I asked her who she was talking to and she said her brother as she got insanely defensive when I tried to grab her phone. I backed off and when she left her phone unattended, which she never does, and scrolled through her social media apps. I didn't have enough time to snoop for long but I certainly found out shes been keeping contact with certain ex's whom she said she blocked and hated, along with other individuals she's been sexting with. I decided not to tell her because having her be with me and me bringing it up with her thousands of miles away from home would've been a recipe for disaster. When she left, I still never bright it up as I had important work to do and I just needed my head to be clear of any more nonsense because I know if I tell her she will deny everything, try to put the blame on me, or maybe even threaten to harm herself. Yesterday she tells me that she's pregnant and I know for a fact the baby is mine because she's been three weeks pregnant and while she was with me she had her period. I honestly do not want to be with her anymore but I'm scared to bring it up now more than ever because Im scared she might keep me away from my future kid. I'm in a sinkhole and I don't know how to get out. I know I haven't been the perfect husband, but I've always been faithful and I know for a fact I didn't deserve this. 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My husband is in the army. My kids love my husband, as he is mostly a good father. He is however abusive to me. He has been long before I became pregnant with my first and physically abusive while I was pregnant with her. I don’t have a healthy family dynamic and his mom hates me. We’ve been married for 5 years and I’m ready to leave. I’m worried because of the family dynamics and that it will hurt me. I’d like to immediately remove myself from the marriage without negatively affecting my children, or at least as little as possible. I live in Washington state, moved via the military, bought a home and lived here for three years. I don’t want to have to keep living with him. But my family is in Hawaii. I truly don’t know what to do.",2.2932059800664457,3.7378147325581423,4.637475083056478,83.6963953488372,76.09302325581395,7.937541528239202,26.239202657807308,8.634040054169528,1.865857475083057,642,24,136,13,14,225,101,172,0.104,0.7609999999999999,0.136,0.5574,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,1,7,1,0,10,0,16,1,0,1,0,17,24,12,0,1,3,6,0,1,0,1,0,0,2,2,3,9,0,1,1,0,1,2,5,2,0,2,4,0,20,5,25,19,2,18,0,1,0,1,16,7,0,2,8,89,23,0,0.0,0.3294120393886974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08474018369371522,0.0,0.11828863653106593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3931433063220132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11824319956369855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11659633828672933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13724517953875795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278879946758826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14881479745948262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12355990105768062,0.0,0.0,0.07639714223006087,0.0,0.0,0.1471932172130664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06791404809078216,0.13932614712053806,0.3682493800988,0.12302089532404425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12546340021394278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3256174216031909,0.0,0.1477473357069692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917385887899385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15671469691818465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14816787405147092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08199264585503728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1340022258594614,0.0,0.0,0.14117303190301772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17903783092923028 divorce,Inda20,2019/04/01,"Divorcing cheating husband and now living with baby brother who also provides care for elderly parents. Wouldn’t trade this for the world. If it wasn’t for my divorce, I would have never gotten this opportunity to re live my life and re write my life story, and rebuild my relationship with my elderly parents. I left the house when I met my soon to be ex husband at age 23 and haven’t lived my parents since then. I am now 41 and grown. I am not afraid to say I moved back home with my parents and my baby brother who is an adult sibling and has his own family who provides primary care of my elderly parents, his three children (aka my nephew and nieces), his wife, and now me. My brother is a financial adviser with his MBA and is also City Commissioner. In ever heartbreak and hardships in life, there is pure bright light at the end of the tunnel! I feel so blessed to be able to work on rebuilding my connection with my parents. I left home when I was 23 and wasn’t that close to my parents as I was trying to find myself and who I was. I got lost and quickly jumped into a committed relationship with my soon to be ex husband. I used to regret not being able to be a better daughter to my parents, but today, all of that has changed. I now get to live with them 24/7 and get to bond with not only my parents, but with my beautiful nieces and nephew, my beautiful sis in law, and my strongest supporter, my baby brother. You will never know in life what family is until you go through shit or unexpected divorce like I am going through. Although, I lost some friends along the way going through this divorce. I wouldn’t want to trade this situation for anything else in the world. I am so happy to be with my parents and my brother and his family. Above all, being an Auntie is best gift of all gifts:) Life is beautiful. As long as I can still see the sun, the moon, the stars, breathe some fresh air, and be with my family and close friends, life is beautiful. Can’t complain. 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I immediately think of my ex telling me how awful I was at sex. Am I being paranoid or is my new man correct in saying hes just really tired? He'll feel awful in the morning when I tell him but it still won't help what I'm feeling. 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Married 5 years, best friends for 10. She claims emotional abuse, and while I resist that diagnosis I acknowledge that when we fight I get ugly, say mean, hurtful things, act out. And yet still, she says I am a wonderful father, says she wants me in our daughter’s life, shared custody, weekends with me, everything 50/50. And that’s what I want too. Our 7-month-old daughter is beautiful, happy, full of life and curiosity for the world. She lights up when she sees me, and her smile lights me up like nothing I’ve ever known. She reaches out for me to hold her and folds herself into my arms and I want to stay that way forever. Right there. But.... But, my incessant googling tells me that infants under three should not experience separation from their primary caregiver for extended periods. Even overnight is contraindicated. Babies, according to google, need routine, consistency, familiarity, and, uninterrupted connection to their moms. Weekends with me (every other weekend?), three hours travel each way, two different homes, different sights &amp; smells, different routines... is it too much disruption for a little baby? Assuming wife files in 2-4 weeks, do I fight for joint custody of my baby daughter from the get go? Is that what’s best for baby? Or do I agree to visit on the weekend, play with her, go to the park, maybe a monthly overnight, and that’s it? Will I torpedo my chance of joint custody in the future if I agree to something less now? How to do what’s right for my kid while protecting my own rights at the same time? So many questions, but I’ll leave it at that for now. 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What did you do? How did you get through this emotional hell I am in? Its over. I didn't want to believe it. But I am slowly accepting it. I am sad. The future I thought I was going to have after being married for 15 years is over. Part of me is excited, part of me is scared. Its a mutual decision, and we are on good terms. I am currently looking for a place to live and provide a good home for my 2 teenagers. Hoping they wont hate me too much. Their Dad makes more money than I do and I can't afford much. I have so many emotions, denial, excitement, heartache, sadness, loneliness and all if that in a span of 5 minutes sometimes. I am going to get into therapy and work through things. I feel so embarrassed that I failed at this. We lost site of eachother somewhere along the lines and neglected our marriage. I can see that now. But the damage is done. I know in my heart its the right decision, but the reality still hurts so much. If I don't keep myself busy, I cry at the drop of a hat! I cant sleep, night time is the worst. Thats when I start thinking about holidays, birthdays and how I cant afford a decent vacation for my kids on my own. What did you do? How did you cope? Did you get financial support? Emotional support? What kind of terms are you on now with your ex? Sorry for ranting.. Thanks for readung if you got this far! 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I have three local coworkers who are all married,recently I've begun to get to know them socially. Two are newlyweds. I don't feel awkward around them, or ashamed of my divorce, I'm not really even jealous. I'm just sad that I've had such a huge setback in my life. I'm 31 and getting to an age where married, even married with kids, is the norm, and I'm concerned I'll be looked at like the typecast guy who never got promoted.",5.104879725085908,5.403522804123714,6.042835051546394,80.53304982817872,68.38144329896907,8.940893470790376,35.75429553264605,8.841846274778883,3.070850171821306,380,19,74,6,6,126,72,97,0.09,0.815,0.095,-0.1536,0,0,0,1,2,0,12.0,0,0,2,1,7,5,1,2,4,0,7,1,0,0,2,12,17,4,0,0,3,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,0,2,2,2,6,1,9,14,1,10,0,1,1,0,10,6,0,1,5,43,9,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2592390189016096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3002251616964827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3846834791601057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1472447410333667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3042908561263952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329075798609686,0.0,0.0,0.2883441052952241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1600416340510907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20569053565489,0.14227070429862693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2445434142106676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2245994327084923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20188864223825986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865568554524033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2968523558163297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2844702711958829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Lydia--charming,2019/04/02,"Going before a judge on Friday! I filed for divorce last April. Never thought it would take a whole year. It’s been hell! I am almost through it! Now the harder part-when my kids go with him for visits. Dad’s rights! 😒 he was no kind of father before, just did this to show off and to try to hurt me. He’s a narcissist who only cares about himself. It’s going to be fun “co-parenting.”",-0.16814814814814485,2.0333082962963007,1.8455432098765456,96.25794444444449,89.49382716049381,4.227654320987655,15.507407407407406,5.6839178017228535,-0.7466059259259263,296,6,66,2,10,98,65,81,0.139,0.784,0.077,-0.7243,1,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,4,0,6,0,0,0,1,7,12,1,0,1,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,6,2,0,0,1,1,0,4,2,2,0,0,4,0,6,3,12,6,1,12,1,1,0,0,10,3,1,1,5,40,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23843211884865814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4052270379371635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24276835112290665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4059690919120433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549009834934043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24795424640497166,0.0,0.19409089999506526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18364460942469515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109289002589726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2578492220825706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20334408359241976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17902859786146855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18903222654844226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16166061850311306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658405855074303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16914605029929222,0.0,0.0,0.15333461445194005 divorce,AlpacaSwimTeam,2019/04/02,Considering divorce. Those that have done it what were your deal breakers? Some things are going on in my life with my wife and I'm considering divorce because I'm tired of being treated like this. I want to hear what some other people's deal breakers are to see if I see any of mine at the top of the list. ,3.111904761904764,4.623755428571432,4.120825396825399,87.96028571428577,74.07936507936509,6.309841269841268,25.29841269841269,6.742157984588678,0.8458469841269838,244,8,51,2,5,79,46,63,0.046,0.863,0.091,0.1962,0,0,0,0,2,0,4.0,0,1,0,1,0,2,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,0,6,13,2,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,8,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,3,6,2,9,10,2,5,0,0,2,0,7,4,0,3,1,35,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18443715147373507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16533162675232868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5592265182766506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27754959351144104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15413911453365906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30568175282473176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19156889024017296,0.1325031355934817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18802801510794406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4322503509353152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18018480773807488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3117245357767865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.159971066028575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sr20rocket,2019/04/02,"Don't know how to handle this anymore. My STBXW (36F) is dating a convicted felon(30M) out on parole. I (43M) am trying my hardest to protect my daughters from him, but the fight is getting difficult. He was convicted of attempted armed robbery, did 3 years, and is currently out on parole. 2 years into a 5 year parole. While out on parole he was arrested again for felony forgery charges with a trial pending. Currently has a failure to appear warrant out for his arrest on this case. Case history shows 10-12 instances of failure to appear warrants in various cases. I think this disregard for the law & court system in general is the most disturbing part personally. My wife has given this man free access to our marital home. She already treats him like a husband taking him with our kids to various dinners & family style events (going to an amusement park etc). He stays at the house 2-4 nights a week with her and our kids. I moved out in January because i could no longer deal with her relationship interfering in our day to day household activities. I want to protect my children from this persons influence & i am genuinely concerned for their safety. My STBXW would say she trusts him more than me. She would blame my depression and a recent suicide attempt as a reason to consider me mentally unstable & potentislly dangerous to our children. I just don't know what i can do to protect my children anymore. I don't think i can afford a lawyer at this point & she makes nearly 1.5 times what i do in a year. If i started fighting a legal battle I'd be buried in bills for years. A bit depressed and scared right now. Looking for any advice i can get at this point.",5.5952897727272735,6.823695631250002,6.270852272727275,76.01073863636367,67.6875,9.318181818181818,33.92045454545455,9.573946990214177,3.371875,1342,62,234,28,22,439,183,320,0.214,0.701,0.084,-0.9946,3,0,0,0,3,1,45.0,5,0,1,2,4,14,4,2,17,0,23,2,1,4,0,35,38,9,1,5,3,3,0,1,0,2,0,1,1,8,9,14,1,4,5,2,2,4,4,9,0,0,4,2,40,6,48,30,7,48,0,2,1,0,36,23,0,4,20,155,49,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10423577048266257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177119597434252,0.0,0.0,0.5778794074585812,0.0,0.07253861835397582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211574088548884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06502446865504216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11645498601981333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0851665643362068,0.0,0.0,0.1375854378391035,0.10997111660681176,0.1837478094293106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11896419812690945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005580960711376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11146036205750312,0.0,0.06062248475014592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10699776402469624,0.0,0.0,0.12308177309605604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11724505101920896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0521131144496635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08957514476010772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07120242557010399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10749732322853617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11337232916874512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10010168645785814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11551219670381448,0.0,0.0,0.18627861681992133,0.0,0.0,0.2016734795848957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10967355895753904,0.10532282768643098,0.11452265021039335,0.0,0.091094794053568,0.0,0.08482751756251533,0.10679433720992583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550090939509084,0.1136950247448974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11667863809425034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08020185767773906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1366984525451624,0.0,0.0,0.06219958645237748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07242128951551398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06291617504176189,0.0,0.08556348541854958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515492788850717,0.0,0.0,0.34345688544300057 divorce,03Cobra,2019/04/02,"Filing for divorce then immediately taking half the money out of joint accounts? My STBXW and I have been hammering out a uncontested divorce for about 6 months. Things have stalled and I have a meeting with the lawyer I originally chose that wrote the draft agreement. I plan to just file for divorce, and I would like to remove all responsibility from the credit card the wife has been charging 2-3k a month on for the past 6 months. I wish to file, then remove half the funds in all joint accounts and move them to separate accounts in my name only. Also, take a snapshot of her cc balance and state that I only am responsible for half of the cc balance. Is this legal? I am in KY for reference. The state calculator calls for me to pay 840$ a month in child support, I also plan on (after notifying her) having her open new accounts, paying her 420 bi weekly until court ordered support is mandated. Is all this legal to do? The main consul web in immediately getting off responsibility for her erratic CC spending",7.192116477272728,7.340337046875002,7.872481060606058,69.70926136363637,63.94791666666666,9.898484848484847,34.64204545454545,9.573946990214177,3.2651187499999987,811,33,142,14,11,271,107,192,0.017,0.8640000000000001,0.119,0.9538,0,0,0,0,3,0,19.0,0,0,1,2,4,5,0,0,15,0,14,1,0,1,3,19,21,10,0,2,1,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,9,0,0,1,0,10,3,0,0,0,3,3,0,18,5,32,17,4,29,0,0,0,1,15,11,0,0,13,101,23,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2924109277007434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866852479549577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0955187632409822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931929071429982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5837181897550148,0.1943145431801347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1765739800487958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27809401966995884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17452760009170004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149363579353678,0.0,0.0,0.2749240039631187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12146111978839125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14665156572075747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2102402700087316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298739697408895,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ConflictedHusband77,2019/04/02,"How do you respond to somebody who has the answer for everything? So wife and I have obviously had our issues. I’ve mentioned divorce already. We carpool and usually we don’t talk about anything of substance. Just idle chit chat. But today I mentioned an upcoming therapy appointment and that somehow turned into us. I tried explaining to her the issues I have had with her these past years. Every single one of them she responds in such a way that it makes it seem like my issue isn’t that big of a deal and I start to second guess myself. Except I KNOW I haven’t been happy in years and I just have a terrible time articulating it or maybe my reasons are dumb. How do you deal with that kind of person? She’s definitely more educated than I am.",2.631529680365297,5.121813431506851,4.208739726027396,82.22415981735159,79.06849315068494,6.90703196347032,25.486757990867577,8.021203637495839,1.7898105936073052,595,23,110,11,15,198,99,146,0.046,0.888,0.066,0.4329,0,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,4,2,1,0,8,5,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,4,1,26,21,10,0,0,5,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,9,10,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,2,0,2,3,0,23,3,16,18,2,12,0,0,0,0,24,4,1,4,8,86,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809296138507096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13492188577409267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3380630431397292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13814007071048215,0.0,0.14735315482723654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1806161092320009,0.0,0.0,0.17453429836548615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5133826583992995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17073502947978605,0.09010597501328696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010066007300587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10944195807896542,0.0,0.1647159218714544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11110088458717124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651463257829745,0.0,0.14316012698852024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685741594573096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925945957139689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11604895893336953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13178168841138585,0.0,0.0,0.1874980690309408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956041100923992,0.0,0.15541119514438806,0.0,0.0,0.11131541752573926,0.17833713637448176,0.0,0.0,0.19721897963391624,0.0,0.180574461119004,0.0,0.0,0.13014070660688953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2111646829872456 divorce,Whosehand,2019/04/02,"Technically Married He said “technically married” in court. I wanted to start laughing. The therapist keeps reminding me that methamphetamines destroy brain cells and he may not actually remember assaulting me. That’s ok. I do. Two months and I’m free. Sweetheart, you will NEVER hurt, cheat, lie or steal from me again. It all adds up if you do the Meth...",2.8028571428571425,5.822135396825402,3.3495396825396853,82.26907142857145,91.85714285714286,6.964444444444445,26.93492063492064,7.908726449838941,2.5132806349206347,282,13,48,7,10,88,51,63,0.086,0.644,0.27,0.9225,0,0,2,0,0,0,13.0,0,2,0,0,1,9,3,0,2,1,4,1,1,0,2,12,9,4,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,2,0,1,0,0,3,3,0,1,1,0,1,0,2,5,0,1,1,1,7,5,4,6,1,6,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,3,4,29,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.2982467811809008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3411795693391722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.327178835917299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.271654333334125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2439476692342969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2357175272947251,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3462145547055073,0.0,0.29072020863009795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21632357770372576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35485521393410263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2985520849564371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18026606817735555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SoftasACactus,2019/04/02,What in the actual fyck Okay 8 years and honestly at this point im only thinking about my one child I can protect my wife soon to be ex wife we are done she stole.my w2s filed my taxes stole the vehicles and on and on. She refuses to not have my child around a convicted felon who lost his child due to his own neglecting self. I got my daughter back the other day after I have her to her mother cause I don't want her to not see her sister and mother. To my surprise she still refuses to not have my child around garbage like this and won't tell me where my child sleeps at night and if it is the same bed every night. My step daughter I don't have rights to I'm assuming who I raised from a baby and haven't spoken to in monthssss my heart hurts for my kids and I'm compelelty at a loss of how someone could put another in a position I was in. Even throughout all this I could never imagine putting the mother of my kids in a position where she couldn't provide for our kids. But she did it so easily it dumbfounded me. Guess some people truly are garbage. 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It's been a year since she left. I'm dating someone else who I can see a future with and actually love. I thought I had gotten over her. She very innocently contacted me two days ago asking for some tax information. Which I was fine with, but man, it triggered something where I really started to miss her a lot. Like, to the point about wondering about reconciliation which I haven't thought about in months. I really hope this wave passes. We should never have been married and the divorce was one of the best things to happen. We split on the best terms possible with no cheating or anything. I suppose it doesn't hurt that my ex was (and is) simply stunning. I don't want to compare other women to her, but it's hard not to sometimes. Ah well, just tell me it'll pass. 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It’s been just about 1 yr since my ex. wife asked for a divorce. It’s been 6 months since I walked in on her in bed with the guy who she had been cheating with for a few months leading up to her asking for a divorce. Divorce was finalized last week. It’s cliché but I wanted to say it does get better. Maybe it’s the sun, maybe it’s therapy, but I’ve begun to notice that the dark cloud is slowly abating. I am finally feeling re-engaged with things that I like to do. It’s not perfect but it is coming back. I still miss her a lot sometimes, I still fucking hate her guts other times, and I know that I still have a lot more work to do, but ultimately it’s not as bad as it was. Therapy, exercise, and meditation (headspace/waking up apps) have helped the most. Getting laid helped bump up my confidence and reminded me that being single can be fun, but the high was followed by a low. A rebound relationship helped remind me that someone can like me again, but it also showed me just how needy I am right now, so I plan to avoid any more relationships for a while. Basically all the cliché stuff really does hold true. It’s nice to feel like everything is going to be okay, even if it’s just for right now. 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I have a constant sense of dread and anxiety about this process. My wife has become like a best friend to me, no infidelity, and little hiccups in the marriage. The problem is we want extremely different things in life(we are from different countries and she wants to move home), the bedroom has been all but dead, and the love/romance i feel has died. I’ve told her that I’d be willing to move from the beginning but I was just lying to myself and her. I feel like I’ve wasted her time to start a family and I just feel extremely guilty to even bring it up. She still means a lot to me but I think I need to be firm and honest about what I want and that it might be best if we went our separate ways. Does anybody have advice?",3.7478542914171618,4.8179767544910215,4.534505988023953,87.33952345309382,71.87425149700599,7.961876247504987,27.689121756487022,8.344100000000001,1.7142618762475044,646,23,137,10,12,208,101,167,0.175,0.7020000000000001,0.123,-0.8931,2,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,2,6,9,0,2,12,0,17,1,0,0,1,29,32,12,2,6,6,1,3,2,1,3,1,0,2,0,8,10,0,0,5,0,0,4,1,3,0,0,4,3,21,6,19,21,4,15,0,0,0,0,15,5,0,3,7,98,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1520354547827924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11902178087988405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1454505836327478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17183094932995208,0.0,0.0,0.3265528441315506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16813166283065326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147223451825798,0.32510555150656995,0.0,0.0,0.13615311789422962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10276215035606284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14667129908930868,0.0,0.23600472133994735,0.11114965787223212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12020426362750762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15606402330898822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10989399283762627,0.1520215376893124,0.15593662667022168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13227244953010514,0.14042116145659372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16947722312216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16505065675948075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307235806890602,0.0,0.11536399760532255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14887343469796432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11012356932024886,0.0,0.12425004973165872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10336348425985008,0.09969231917494463,0.0,0.0,0.09072262208837148,0.0,0.0,0.14866773740991607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27530345604129425,0.12349580088554307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14422846807127618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lil_innocent,2019/04/02,"Lifting the Veil I've been manipulated so long, the lifting the veil only a slight bit sent me into an almost deadly depression, but it led me to help. Still I stand here stuck, every morsel and fiber of my body wants free but I have to be patient and play my cards right or this will end badly for everyone. I married a very charming on the surface guy, believed everything he said and disregarded his temper because like; he never cheats, holds open the doors, really polite to my friends! He lashes out like crazy and he's family I see now has always condone his behaviour and blamed the other. It's my fault, I'm to strong minded and opinionated. I want sex to often and I talk too much. I need to tone down my racial traits and be more ""italian/Spanish"". (I am Bermudian and German"" ) After a solid year of therapy I finally see it - he's bat shit crazy! All the excuses I have made all of his ridiculous expectations on me, his vegan, anti-vax, anti-floride, anti-religion family have made me crazy with doubt. There ""we have to have dinner every single week at least"", is unreasonable and rigid with 2 kids in school and sports and forever I have blamed myself for not being enough, to be worthy of their love, for not being patient or open enough, for not being sexy enough, healthy enough, pretty enough. I have been overwhelmed with anxiety attacks and self doubt over them and him. and 3 words changed it all.... I am Love. This is the message I have written on my heart and I know it, I have never been anything but loving but all I have ever sought was his validation. I kept trying to prove I was worthy of his love, but then I loved myself and realized I am Love, and he is not worthy of mine. Divorce is going to be so painful, but I love myself more ",4.366122448979592,5.682089670553937,5.276251895043731,81.67129912536444,70.66180758017492,8.053597667638485,25.964897959183673,8.488131031819089,1.7314038250728858,1379,42,264,22,25,451,184,343,0.162,0.609,0.229,0.9892,0,0,0,0,1,0,52.0,1,0,2,1,9,27,5,4,12,0,31,13,3,4,8,67,53,29,1,4,12,0,0,2,1,1,1,1,1,3,8,26,1,4,3,2,1,3,6,13,0,0,12,3,46,15,33,33,15,29,2,2,2,8,34,13,1,7,14,186,54,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918159867680089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629483473027733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07014389498827568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754544515765728,0.0,0.0,0.10431253904131213,0.0,0.0,0.07655873457938653,0.05589440565029255,0.0,0.0,0.10330514021318578,0.0,0.0,0.10010358197807212,0.10184880169307978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09699765443567092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07897392174075182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812116254046372,0.4737101535181144,0.0,0.0,0.08294038673005495,0.15450841375965804,0.08761534304002473,0.0824065823107691,0.0,0.17287753762476665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004437689932568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07084077538328894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05211050277287551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0907891928716366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086550989449378,0.06145900975359452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05039135711298697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08959186038727426,0.0,0.0,0.08114426387789718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5792873364328396,0.1735217958728232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0925824726415405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06740394531907554,0.06798822932772199,0.14143657415263422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973566512216499,0.09756642722992498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328341662282334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058740047117844814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07830420573633039,0.08721979824217402,0.0,0.0,0.0927968895793718,0.14613281761179747,0.0,0.0956544341248864,0.0,0.09412020631234283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0732251053230417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369831046954757,0.0,0.0,0.10485744317333433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062252641469043815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07565525033439251,0.10816427361844687,0.0,0.07354954622095868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05904644474737596 divorce,divorcethrow11111,2019/04/02,"Just need to rant about cancer and divorce. Apologies in advance because I think this will be long. &#x200B; I have two small children and have been married to my husband for 15 years. We were highschool sweethearts. &#x200B; So I was diagnosed with a form of leukemia about nine months ago. I did chemo, radiation, and then was lucky enough to match to a donor for a bone marrow transplant. It was rough. I was still mostly functional through chemo but radiation really made me sick. I have some family here and they did help out, especially with the kids, but previous to my diagnosis I was working full-time, doing probably 80% of the childrearing and 90% of the housework -- my husband tried to step up but I could tell it was all wearing thin on him. I'm not proud of it but I initiated quite a few fights in the chemo days with him to try...pester him, basically, into aiming towards the minimums I'd kept with house/yard work and childcare. To make matters work, his ""love language"" is physical touch/sex and we went from sex a few times a week minimum to not even being able to hug for weeks on end at times because my counts were low/he was sick/etc. &#x200B; But he was by my side for treatment. Stroked my head while I puked after chemo and cuddled with me while I cried over a new set back. In hindsight, I think he started to pull away during the middle part of my radiation treatment but I was also in and out of the hospital so it's hard to tell. After my bone marrow transplant, I had to be hospitalized in isolation for three weeks until my counts were high enough to let me go home. He was definitely distant for that and it did occur to me that he might be cheating on me, but I wanted to believe he wouldn't do that. &#x200B; I finally get home, was cleared to have sex by my Oncologist...and my husband gave me trich. &#x200B; He had the audacity to try to blame me at first? But then came clean. Said he's been dating some woman from the gym since I started radiation and the sex stopped essentially. He wants the divorce. For the type of cancer I have, the 5 year survival rate is below 50%. My transplant bought me some time but I will statistically be dead definitely within the decade. We have kids and I am relying on his insurance because I had to drop to PRN at my nursing job -- haven't actually worked in months but they are keeping me technically as an employee. It would just be easier to stay married and he can sleep with whoever he wants. But he wants a divorce. Says I deserve someone who can ""love me fully"" lol. &#x200B; I am trying not to be angry with him. We need to coparent and if these are the years that I have with my children left, I want them to remember those years fondly if that makes sense. &#x200B; But the other night...he was trying to get me to sit down and hammer out divorce specifics while I was prepping for a colonoscopy of all things. I told him that I couldn't talk about this right now because I was literally shitting my brains out on the toilet. This triggered him to launch into a rant about how hard HE has it, how he's been miserable in our marriage for years (news to me) and the leukemia was just ""bad timing."" How everyone thinks he's a bad person for leaving his sick wife but watching me battle with my own mortality made him realize that he deserves to be happy because you never know what will happen...the only reply to that I could think of was to say ""it's okay for you to think that and I understand why you'd think that, but that's really not an appropriate thought to say out loud to me."" That made him storm out of the house for most of the night, leaving me to feed and put to bed two children while also still prepping for my colonoscopy...",4.491427275554635,5.831112696428572,5.0032448683392055,83.65684947128344,70.38736263736264,7.966867095168983,29.12046444121916,8.393068210462019,1.994408687538877,2945,112,583,45,53,940,316,728,0.11,0.81,0.079,-0.9799,3,1,0,0,5,1,115.0,5,3,3,9,20,16,4,1,33,2,66,21,7,10,4,112,103,49,2,14,23,4,5,0,1,6,6,5,4,7,29,40,1,3,11,1,1,7,8,7,0,5,39,11,85,9,113,45,14,88,0,1,1,7,69,37,1,9,40,405,114,7,0.05074921376749683,0.0,0.04952391197498063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04498611597254476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08116825582936257,0.0,0.3849072633999969,0.4316609465403448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04768055689652441,0.039023012825188455,0.08474694739956927,0.1546812483774692,0.0,0.0,0.057176985303184574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056652906337206724,0.0,0.058043580805206565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103823538447627,0.0,0.05574562832410245,0.032729044502331314,0.0,0.0,0.051509383711451764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044948740233315014,0.10487500788355693,0.05659878829957355,0.03351937706619747,0.0,0.0,0.04849304856462069,0.0,0.0,0.047841842175634336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055593283080321215,0.0,0.04316725530538493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053028739193926165,0.0,0.028841947700158663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04487736213274518,0.05402348173329587,0.09092265474844433,0.0,0.052083334473978136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03401612824083871,0.05361933067054213,0.10181119849353512,0.0,0.0,0.05855777896782264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503607639320944,0.04510823298207245,0.0,0.0,0.027890440680017812,0.0,0.0,0.10747217954356024,0.055139169248580734,0.051894509441694665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044911457199610524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09160629361351746,0.14406039939437942,0.06775098852781469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05383689597556349,0.0,0.0,0.08101507650694922,0.0,0.0,0.07525979793529235,0.03914092224728298,0.049013906895015766,0.0,0.09524939854954642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03859706391733735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05495645303541995,0.0,0.0,0.044312255973351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05471623587798217,0.0,0.0,0.05101697686323185,0.0,0.05397803568593132,0.0,0.0,0.06502249169469103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05748896623059568,0.04333955126844925,0.04827412374590608,0.12107343513661252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052093338646537486,0.04198027405637815,0.0,0.05078586424274848,0.0,0.04299964413777669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184110941880804,0.054091909478399966,0.08105677534030972,0.042428615108994636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040790295680262816,0.08871409938986961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033715522609998314,0.19510828211263828,0.0,0.0402892069892056,0.11836909864877485,0.0,0.0,0.04849304856462069,0.0,0.13782153952899298,0.0,0.09914921540334376,0.05283172129911462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966600573429614,0.0,0.12212387441670253,0.0,0.0,0.04704502959708553,0.04579327188991464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778412817182604,0.0,0.0,0.036050785394353836,0.0,0.4316609465403448,0.16340414893968136 divorce,rainydaymaebee,2019/04/02,"Considering. Have been here before. I think I want to keep trying at things, but know we can't keep going on this way. My husband says that he (34M) doesn't feel like he can talk to me about career/ life decisions because I (34F) change my mind from one moment to the next and always change my mind very easily when he asks questions. He hasn't said that he wants to end it, but the way he's describing his feelings about me sounds pretty terrible and I don't really want to be married to someone who treats me as not a life partner for those types of decisions. (we did have a similar fight/ talk about a year ago where splitting up was considered briefly, but we decided to keep going after that). He is right that I change my mind sometimes, and that I sometimes get overwhelmed in big conversations and say things I don't mean. I understand that this has eroded the trust between us. I don't think he'll go do couples counseling (I've brought it up before but he just said something sarcastic, and I know he would think the counselor would automatically take my side.) I guess I still like the idea of our marriage, but it's been tough for a while now. I don't want it to be over, but I also can tell he's unhappy and I am too. Is it time?",4.323229435200375,5.129038107569722,5.024012186547925,85.34045699554727,70.31474103585657,8.455683149753929,27.912116240918678,8.671277953709913,1.8355711741270213,979,33,207,16,17,316,139,251,0.07200000000000001,0.855,0.073,-0.2,0,0,1,0,1,0,29.0,5,0,0,0,11,8,1,1,9,0,24,2,0,0,0,44,51,16,0,6,8,1,2,2,1,3,2,5,0,1,17,9,0,3,14,0,0,4,8,4,0,1,7,7,29,4,25,39,0,27,0,1,0,0,32,10,0,2,13,127,46,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09443682277425182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08519597685795766,0.08864562921097101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959581559793802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0649427287674187,0.0,0.18130682525472333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33809961604226924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11787891775469812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094358361987287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10773456349575873,0.07610860371085057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05566012465107178,0.0,0.18163883530774935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11736028009191217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026501342158595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2840795284296688,0.0,0.0,0.117097666542366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15049759956429787,0.10409520990887833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1160478139073272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32270984937175323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11330114899374782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219085268225595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838436429822608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11934354784771363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.068249029636826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09098028211086344,0.2026783050822491,0.16944176796894767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0902667341913538,0.0820158245787098,0.21073161844598215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507896449803425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08010103884800669,0.17125754650244832,0.0931162593228935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1415542002072325,0.20478992086030567,0.0,0.0,0.06212139762112667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07233025135420354,0.0,0.0,0.11090666071790063,0.1281484513629234,0.0,0.0,0.08790250732851114,0.2513483416525386,0.16912500046300238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15135877181470722,0.0,0.0,0.06860502766414409 divorce,ILoveSaturn,2019/04/02,"I feel selfish. 35/F, no kids. We’ve been married four years, together six. I’ve been having doubts for a while. I feel like I mostly just don’t want to be married. I miss my independence and don’t want to have to be responsible for anyone else. I feel so selfish that I’m going to crush this person I love because of these feelings; she like love loves me, obsessively so, and I’ve had happy times but I’ve been mostly just waiting to be alone. Sex life has been non existent since before we got married. I think it comes down to one thing, I’m just not into females. I’ve always dated guys before, and she’s the only female I’ve been with. I’m her only relationship that made her feel comfortable being herself in. I don’t want to break her which is why I just keep on letting it go on. I don’t think she has any idea I have these thoughts. I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow and I plan on finally bringing it up with her; but, can someone please give me advice? I don’t want her to be broken beyond repair, and I feel like me making this decision for myself will do that to her. 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Me and my husband have been together for 10 years married only for a few months. We were teenagers when we started dating. I should have left him numerous times in our relationship, friends begged me not to marry him. I felt as though I was destined to be with him even if it made me miserable. Multiple things in our past lined up to make it seem we were meant to be even though I knew he wasn’t the one for me. I felt trapped, pressured, and too scared to leave him. He’s extremely emotionally abusive. The things he’s said to me I’ll never forget. No one has ever made me cry as much as he has or called me such awful names. For the majority of the relationship he was very controlling. I wouldn’t be able to see friends unless he was at work because he wants me around all the time. He would loose his temper and yell at me over the smallest things. He snapped at me and expect me not to get upset. Any concerns I have turned into a fight and everything being my fault. He never helped with any housework or cooking. I felt/feel as I’m the maid. For whatever reason our relationship went to complete shit a month after the wedding. We would go a week or more without talking while living in the same house. That’s “normal” for us. But something in me snapped. I don’t know if it was all the fighting or the independence I felt when we weren’t speaking because I could do whatever I wanted but something in me changed. I told him I was thinking about divorce and it scared the shit out of him. Now he has changed into a person I don’t know at all. He is affectionate-too much actually, doesn’t want to fight, and wants to save our marriage. He is finally trying to fix things I’ve asked for, for years. He’s cooking, cleaning, communicating without yelling. He’s still controlling in the sense I should be putting my sole focus on him and not taking to my friends. He’s trying to fix our DB but I can’t stand kissing him or having sex with him, and have thought about getting on a more permanent form of birth control to make sure I don’t get pregnant. I feel terrible because all his family and him talk about it is us having kids but I know I’ll be tied to him for life even with a divorce if we have kids. Honestly I’m over it. It’s a struggle to “try”. I did it for so long and now that he is actually trying I don’t care anymore. I know I owe it to my marriage to try but I feel so checked out. If we go to therapy what do I say? “I’m really over this. You started to try too late? ” Part of me is afraid this might be a whim-I want to move to a different state, live my life the way I want. Honestly I feel like a rebellious teenager. The other is saying this is something I should’ve done a long time ago. 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Need help I am male, 31 old. My wife is 27 old Japanese. Marriage life over 7 years. We have no kids. Here are reasons why I initiated divorce: -Constant faking of being sick: she is always pretending to have depression or bipolar disorder. She even takes mental medicine. This caused her to get extra weight. Now she is literally fat. She can avoid doing anything by claiming that she is sick m. As simple as that -No sex for more than 2 months. Even when we used to have sex. It was only once in month. But, she never initiate it. She is always cold possibly due to medicine. -She does not want to have a diet or go to the gym with me -She does not want to have kids -She visits hospitals at least thrice a week -She sleeps late and wake up late -She does not want to change her life because she thinks she is being sick. -She is only child and spoiled by her parents I told her that if she doesn’t promise me to go to the gym, make diet, make a child after two or three years, we should divorce. 3 days after submitting the divorce, she said that my conditions are impossible. So, she signed the divorce paper. I need a new address to sign the divorce document. I loved and still love her. I wanted her to change to have children and save the marriage. But, now everything is over. I am very hurt and devastated. I am currently staying at a guest house for about two weeks. Please give me any advice to go through this. 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When my STBXW and I split it wasn't pretty. She cheated multiple times, lied constantly, and would always go behind my back to make her friends happy at the expense of our family. In the post break up years she has neglected our kids, to the point I had to contact CPS, started fights with me because she was ""having a bad day"", shown incredible jealousy over me dating, and many other frustrating things. So I have to keep reminding myself of all of these horrible things she has done and keeps doing or else I slip back into missing her. The triggers can come out of no where. The latest was a song on an episode of the Orville. You see when we were together I use to do these little romantic gestures like randomly bring home some roses, put a song on and dance in the living room, or whatever came to mind to make her happy. But as things got bad I stopped I just couldn't do things for someone who obviously didn't appreciate it or me. Then when I started dating again I figured that part of me was emotionally beaten to death. Except that was a lie I told myself. I have had this stupid song stuck in my head now for days, and the person it makes me think of is me ex. I have this stupid urge to leave it for her as a voice mail, even though I know it is a horrible idea for many reasons. I have no illusions that she would ever change, even if I was dumb enough to try to win her back within 2 to 3 years I would be posting on either /r/deadbedrooms or /r/survivinginfidelity. So here I sit ripping open old scars(emotional and psychological ofcourse) to remind myself that it just isn't worth it, and hating myself for all of it.",5.2438281698221445,5.758563448795183,5.787762478485372,81.72568273092374,68.1265060240964,8.853930005737235,27.857716580608148,8.841846274778883,1.925159609868043,1323,40,267,21,21,428,189,332,0.194,0.746,0.06,-0.9918,0,0,0,0,1,0,35.0,3,1,0,2,18,17,8,0,15,0,31,1,1,6,4,52,52,24,1,5,10,1,1,1,1,3,0,4,2,2,23,16,0,4,6,4,2,6,7,12,0,1,15,6,44,5,43,32,6,51,0,2,1,0,23,17,1,7,25,199,67,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885741628506563,0.0,0.0,0.07238902537499409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455583177396826,0.17776107250898046,0.06489037175337048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12174939030603515,0.0,0.0,0.11260901305429137,0.09169645763630507,0.0,0.11503363983290067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730170186538504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10893436819522856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08892454792834104,0.2394817769423471,0.0,0.10999035630670756,0.0,0.14061722811152175,0.09628928809002214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035071984184953,0.0,0.05382385379095882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822422959227687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06049746585272502,0.0,0.0851370543848632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2266340522757,0.0,0.1050964292668696,0.1092474676673176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10677710757123676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016805542310433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1892336684664802,0.0,0.0,0.05850163103400776,0.0,0.0,0.11271420674580003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0520056440261644,0.10668994433967724,0.09399648876117787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21316676447585856,0.2158453205815468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1074832265887842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1117004038474064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11527398133652796,0.0,0.0,0.09294723159733992,0.0,0.0,0.10062878892932624,0.0,0.20389758870971816,0.10829698451311584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10701072783914843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094473843381118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482613554857069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019396089155804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1506904148453994,0.0,0.0,0.08899619819089734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28288015761070545,0.06820827287973716,0.10458568161167067,0.0,0.062071315172334086,0.0,0.0,0.10171665867130528,0.0,0.07227193849827432,0.0,0.1039852844812431,0.0,0.0,0.0919378280609564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268551189086486,0.0,0.0,0.2056491542826892 divorce,wellsurethen,2019/04/02,"When do you stop? When do you stop missing them? It has been a over a year since we separated, eight months since the divorce, yet i still think about my ex husband every day. He cheated, neglected me, spent money only on himself/friends and I was more of a mom/maid/pet that sometimes received attention than a wife. But he had his good points, he was wonderful to other people, just not with me. I ended up being spiteful the more the neglect dragged on, the more I clingged and resented him. So then he pushed away too in the vicious circle. I've been on dates, and seen other people. I'm in another state, and never see him. But I still feel so empty. I still love him more than anything and I don't want to. When will it stop? And why do I wish he missed me too?",1.786602150537636,3.8690172516129056,2.9806451612903224,92.09763440860216,79.70967741935483,5.681720430107527,23.23655913978495,6.742157984588678,0.6171204301075268,594,20,126,6,15,191,99,155,0.21,0.708,0.08199999999999999,-0.9476,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,1,2,1,0,14,10,4,0,9,0,12,1,0,0,1,24,24,14,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,5,4,0,2,2,3,8,0,1,7,3,20,2,15,15,4,29,0,4,2,1,19,9,0,1,17,89,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18034835188958545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14153456013736554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16159191592396266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11092045378098063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15233364552416387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1449104719607092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696419935985422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13288040366297926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14425852442816325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15522927435417996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20143466535400534,0.13728217835096862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13265064480466146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13080748031063422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2384748549779412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16258780160517985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370551612937656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845467149431576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1701042440171263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4120585143631247,0.4313784266619544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11020537220805968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144519355248807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519580774144956,0.0,0.19778203078446407,0.0,0.186517722173434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11075705157719076 divorce,000thr0w4w4y000,2019/04/02,"Considering meeting with an attorney to discuss options. What questions should i be asking? Going on 12 years married. 3 kids, one house that was purchased and renovated by my inheritance along with my brother's who co-owns the property. I would like to keep the house. I also want 50-50 custody, and a fair child support schedule, and alimony for a short amount of time while I stabilize. I want to meet with an attorney to plan this to best protect my interests and desires. What questions should I be asking my attorney?",5.078125,7.335440562500002,5.806666666666668,74.80500000000002,70.45833333333334,8.966666666666667,35.95833333333333,9.516144504307137,3.9041083333333333,418,23,69,10,8,136,66,96,0.0,0.7979999999999999,0.202,0.9456,0,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,2,1,4,0,0,6,0,6,0,0,0,0,18,13,6,0,6,0,1,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,5,8,0,2,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,10,4,13,7,2,7,0,0,0,0,11,2,0,3,5,48,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731472458835684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4048252466442605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272195002010565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230506620888569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4996592842725303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924487899293948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057784626112349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14671640353110774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4850934841267771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2456990515313249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12625184081719312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2554127244006962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380629136825347,0.0,0.0,0.13942878562936556 divorce,Nicetryrabbit,2019/04/02,"Out of town for work... ...and I realized there is no one to check in with. It's strange to not have someone who wants to know you made it in safely. I've noticed lots of little things lately that struck me like this. This is also the first time since she moved out that I've slept on a real mattress instead of an inflatable air bed. What a world.",1.3099404761904765,3.2904315416666705,2.351984126984128,96.52000000000002,80.80555555555556,5.2253968253968255,20.007936507936503,6.18269132825596,-0.12717301587301622,269,7,61,2,7,85,58,72,0.083,0.8390000000000001,0.078,0.1779,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,4,0,3,1,1,1,0,12,7,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,9,4,0,1,2,0,1,1,2,0,0,2,2,0,4,2,13,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,1,4,42,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2214486884008793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2355436117622059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521851478611716,0.0,0.3123719882443569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352865977554795,0.2775414064130176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23542308472478185,0.0,0.2620235063607352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943166390039633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31526936776304937,0.0,0.0,0.18764465448503706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.315189699340848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22906680779338384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2346290356671813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1839699075567274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16147126345841142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1633315405359186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20159729327508527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jessfdgb,2019/04/03,"Tomorrow is D-Day Divorce Day, that is. First time poster, long time lurker. Tomorrow morning me and my STBX husband will meet and sign off on everything and put our dumpster fire of a relationship behind us. Married when we were 21 way too quickly and we’re now 26 with two small children. Turns out that he only had those kids with me to keep me around and although he keeps them around 40 hours each week, he tells me often that he dislikes our son and wishes we never had our daughter. It’s been ugly. But SOMEHOW we have gotten through this without lawyers and without a fight, mostly because we already sold our house and split our few assets and the court already arranged child support/parenting time for us. Part of me is thankful that it’s been such a simple process for us but I’m also very irate because he simply doesn’t care about our kids. He flat out said that he only tried to ask for more overnights with our children (and was denied, the court gave him two overnights every other weekend and some extras for holidays because of his work schedule) so that the amount he would pay in child support would be lower. There were SO many red flags that I wish I had paid attention to and I feel so stupid for staying in a miserable relationship for so long but I am incredibly happy to think that 12 hours from now, I will at least be legally free of him. There wasn’t much of a point to this, I just really wanted it off my chest and out there. I can’t sleep and have a huge mixture of happiness and sadness washing over me and I figured that this was the best sub for my rant, thanks for reading!",8.181814345991562,6.611854481012664,7.413341772151897,79.434611814346,62.73417721518987,9.94565400843882,36.25654008438819,8.238735603445708,2.754909957805906,1280,48,251,12,15,396,181,316,0.108,0.7490000000000001,0.14300000000000002,0.9244,2,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,14,0,1,3,20,12,2,1,10,0,24,3,2,0,1,52,43,26,0,5,6,3,2,0,0,4,1,1,0,6,17,29,0,2,4,3,4,1,6,4,0,3,15,4,35,9,40,22,11,37,0,2,1,0,44,15,0,4,19,177,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412568016905174,0.08120941851226947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18080188203934666,0.09493544847133588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18571162985530687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10657035514376276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10353689121437123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098256924895108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08556017074168505,0.0,0.09126650233709227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05134668078136216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637829324534642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162035141813209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20001239208252,0.11717495049651172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18052443449277186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17973693220100775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10295565993003218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07465086113865843,0.0,0.07832154339790412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15446655025320774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10996864596636606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09599747953085283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208569798584274,0.0,0.0,0.10157738105932948,0.0,0.06505546641097754,0.0,0.0,0.2180531776814672,0.0,0.0,0.0965972097967935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10162323833758424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823868198409888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23047524668445876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08875908878018289,0.186987008915584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06506907565195948,0.0,0.0,0.17764369037256836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894571633487308,0.11045713064504754,0.19839899346316966,0.0,0.3664560793445076,0.0,0.0,0.08378930284255702,0.05989676221348283,0.08060558403119515,0.08145720455621883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335547472117023,0.1957809599795584,0.0,0.07392953680935922,0.0,0.0,0.1442762710062823,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,donewithfourteenyrs,2019/04/03,Finally time to do this I woke up this morning with my heart physically aching from the hate I have for him right now. I have the paperwork from the attorney. What do I need to be doing to get ready? How do you get past the hate???? ,2.036249999999999,3.5380367916666664,3.59416666666667,90.6675,76.91666666666666,8.133333333333335,22.416666666666664,8.841846274778883,1.233691666666667,178,5,42,4,4,59,33,48,0.153,0.7979999999999999,0.049,-0.7476,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,1,0,0,2,2,2,0,4,0,7,1,1,1,0,3,13,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,7,0,8,11,0,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,4,31,10,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3442585213888919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32837771641661284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6205370764327575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37240183317552733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2330211971812983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2999985177006306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2683779228468658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18324862564821054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,majikutatomachan,2019/04/03,The one that got away My (28F) biggest fear about actually thinking about divorce is that what if he was the one that got away. What if I'm not trying hard enough? What if this was just a phase? Is it just me or is this normal?,0.541875000000001,2.5541444375,1.9206666666666656,98.39100000000002,83.79166666666666,4.673333333333334,17.933333333333334,5.6839178017228535,-0.6471716666666665,175,4,42,1,5,56,32,48,0.076,0.897,0.026,-0.5337,0,0,0,0,1,0,6.0,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,1,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,9,4,0,4,7,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,2,4,1,2,0,4,5,1,3,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,4,0,33,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.26225083471385424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5049789221841794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2776795820570433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3024064772375976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4298708081867516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407376674345245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633074994452436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3642094705551833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17219732112935385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1824563748179195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,twilightzone77,2019/04/03,"It's so hard to leave. So hard to stay. Trying to find a moment where my husband is sober to tell him we need to get a divorce. I'm worried about being lonely, money, and my kids. I wish I could go back in time and forget how much he has hurt all of us. So I could stay. But now it's all I think about and I desperately want to escape. Is there a world that exists where we all get along and are happy apart??",-0.10200000000000033,1.6239514666666683,2.0766666666666684,97.985,84.33333333333334,4.4444444444444455,14.444444444444445,5.033348758259628,-1.209222222222222,312,4,77,1,9,105,60,90,0.189,0.711,0.1,-0.7514,0,2,0,0,1,0,11.0,3,0,0,0,11,3,0,0,3,0,7,0,0,1,3,20,15,9,0,5,1,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,2,11,1,11,12,4,12,0,2,0,0,9,5,0,0,4,53,14,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15774919914438973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32759430414158297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18750518095495367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21436687056820464,0.0,0.11659259042468435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21838808337520604,0.3675517324841427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21961942344419694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172263111672852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081030063838585,0.1521175838632038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4373294004045015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1793118613657445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145309661072502,0.0,0.0,0.11962576159185452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1392847188845964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2467725562873196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12100394528474412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359146371874796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20834178053329294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,BiggestThrowDown,2019/04/03,"At a Loss I've been married to my STBXW for over a decade. Over the years she has gotten more and more out of control. She often tried to be seen as the victim. &#x200B; Usually her behavior is so bad that when a third party sees it they are shocked. I've put up with a lot over the years. The STBXF frequently escalates the situation to gain an upper hand. &#x200B; I was recently diagnosed with a disease that is very not conductive to long life. Once a treatment starts the average lifespan is 3-5 years. I am not old. No one can tell me how long until I will need treatment. I am frequently tired. I maintain a full time job. My wife works the equivalent of part time because she simply doesn't want to work. At a time when I really need her support she has been horrible. I've had to put up with it to a degree because if I can't continue working I will lose health insurance which would likely be fatal if I need treatment. If I can keep working for a little bit I will be able to maintain medical coverage for life. Things have been rocky. We had a verbal argument yesterday. She became heated and I knew it was time to leave. I walked outside to our vehicle. The STBXF began throwing items at my vehicle, hitting the windshield. Once of the items she threw was a security badge that I can't just leave. I retrieved it and walked inside to retrieve another item I could not leave behind. &#x200B; The STBXF begins yelling and screaming and grabbed my arm. I began recording on my phone to protect myself from a false claim. The STBXF attempted to grab the phone out of my hand but I held it tight and did not let her have it. She tried to pull it away and then punched my numerous times on my head. I did not hit her back. I walked out the front door and called police. &#x200B; I had bruising and video of her trying to physically take the phone. She was arrested. Her family sent me text messages that were vaguely threatening if I let the police arrest her I better watch out. &#x200B; I gave the police a copy of the video, and the messages. STBXF was given a no contact order, placed on G.P.S. restrictions preventing her from coming within 500 feet of my home. I am so thankful for this because she has to abide by the order or it is automatically flagged. &#x200B; It's overwhelming. It's also hurtful to know someone that claims to love you, when you are ill throws punches. Obvisouly she doesn't love me. I'm just thankful she didn't manage to make a false claim and get me arrested. &#x200B; There is no satisfaction at her getting arrested, no sense of vindication or justice. &#x200B; Thanks for listening. &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B; &#x200B;",3.913537703804348,6.2317443789062485,4.422744565217394,83.1782336956522,73.9609375,7.499048913043477,28.903872282608692,8.389252357687651,2.2679422894021735,2150,91,391,39,46,680,247,512,0.115,0.78,0.105,0.6478,1,0,0,0,1,0,102.0,2,2,1,10,12,18,1,1,37,0,46,14,5,3,0,52,80,28,1,10,14,1,5,1,0,4,7,3,2,0,18,20,0,8,2,2,0,12,14,9,0,2,25,11,64,9,59,43,9,63,0,4,3,2,39,22,0,8,28,274,82,6,0.0351452166636158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028105617068276502,0.0,0.4950377584296468,0.5551687060654039,0.0,0.0368528240396929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033020087965253735,0.02702450222956337,0.029344787897438437,0.0642725936160985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031083088093230155,0.0383694740653576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03588719568434208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03027449218554733,0.0,0.0,0.03941834894667577,0.02806059571358948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03567165511257115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03313178242627414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03672385028283042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03606913169212274,0.0373577218490004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035253517879417766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03762368132906113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03487620454274412,0.031238683395784006,0.0,0.0,0.0193148919515034,0.0,0.0,0.11164112963426548,0.0,0.07187673039965503,0.04964821179409823,0.017170177608378037,0.035224740076646124,0.0,0.062204821583657574,0.0,0.039318507648324716,0.0,0.02987920640256482,0.06343986039956884,0.0,0.023459705030043496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03540510832427308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0781791984979433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03687899282667482,0.07485701746192516,0.023815308376622404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038058844770334034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0367192711354211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07066129984182401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02251492573941793,0.0,0.03470166150479023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02800618741436109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039504696056758416,0.0,0.0,0.02977842802854282,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02487596524594469,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039882375380210916,0.0,0.0,0.026424829054858552,0.0,0.030718468452130082,0.0970709807852485,0.0,0.0,0.02334892029035417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10246729233450004,0.04039425648459839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715838853659515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038707490876162313,0.028998484452329436,0.020729559369365776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10234454523449024,0.0,0.0,0.02496615355230509,0.0,0.5551687060654039,0.06789710175053351 divorce,westteter,2019/04/03,"Basically divorced - when will it get better? I was with my fiancee (in a lesbian relationship) for seven years. We were essentially married - we lived together for most of those years, moved across the country together, etc. We had planned on getting married this summer. She broke up with me in November, essentially leaving me for another woman. I'm in this sub because I find that I relate more to divorced people than people who were just in a relationship. I hope y'all don't mind, but I could really use some advice. It's been five months and it hasn't gotten any better. I still think about it all the time, I'm still depressed as Hell over it. When will it get better? Does anyone have any advice?",4.376206425153793,6.420976285714287,5.2728229665071735,78.7943062200957,71.85714285714286,7.843882433356117,27.88038277511961,8.575989854853784,2.2153218045112784,558,21,99,10,11,182,90,133,0.097,0.818,0.085,-0.5705,0,0,0,0,2,0,20.0,3,1,0,4,6,7,1,0,4,0,11,1,0,1,1,17,20,5,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,11,6,0,0,2,0,0,1,2,3,0,2,6,0,14,4,18,11,5,18,1,2,0,1,12,8,1,3,9,72,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3102819444898479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159280201917079,0.16647642561922596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11101049916922076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967802054912689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4212378457668613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12675901499741554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674199207593407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13893421843257614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1770622625446636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14510613734291192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24884071259273385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15768708134463855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1681066666115577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14019028173146558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16030496474366165,0.0,0.12672279016490476,0.16873951515364088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22013198923545865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170738492506153,0.0,0.0,0.34090322766234965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25357602993839834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10172866154311454,0.0,0.0,0.09257574698945664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13711990934461166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20447581433939047 divorce,ProfessionalMistake7,2019/04/03,"Stranger in Your House Children of Divorce of Reddit-- Do you ever feel like a stranger in your own home? How do you cope?",1.6062499999999993,4.265183791666669,1.2966666666666669,100.015,86.08333333333334,3.2,28.83333333333333,3.1291,0.43968333333333387,97,5,20,0,3,28,18,24,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.4329,0,0,0,0,1,0,4.0,0,4,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,3,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,4,3,1,3,0,0,0,0,6,2,0,0,2,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4434683630919056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24789025663642825,0.3502419408208899,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4917708921685495,0.0,0.0,0.5656943761101767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2395163396188129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sexytimeinseattle,2019/04/03,"bonus first bonus drop after paperwork, and this time it's ALL MINE hookers and blow here I come",2.6557894736842123,5.2230811578947405,2.399210526315791,94.78197368421051,79.52631578947368,5.905263157894738,20.026315789473685,7.1686216300943375,0.3433999999999999,78,2,16,1,2,23,17,19,0.091,0.606,0.303,0.7096,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,2,1,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,10,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6410681166708834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6330217807655583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4339528717089541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SofiM27,2019/04/03,"??? How do you know when you are ready to move on?? We are trying to make this work...but sometimes it feels like it isnt gonna get better... I feel that every time we move forward something happens n we are back at the same spot... I dont feel ready... 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Short version: I’m getting remarried and my ex is acting out and I could use any insight. I filed for divorce in 2013 and moved out the following year once I had a custody agreement. Started dating and fell in love. Divorce finally got finalized in 2017. Got engaged last year and getting remarried this week. Now my ex is flipping her shit at every opportunity. (I’m a bad dad. My daughter says I’m mean to her mom. She stopped paying her share of extracurricular activities for our daughter.) None of it huge by any stretch. It’s all piddley shit but I just want the drama to end. I haven’t gotten drawn in-and I’m trying very hard not to, but I was wondering if anyone else has been through this and what you/they did. 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We have been together for 6 years now and so much has changed. I feel like we are completely different people now and we want different things. He has these plans for the future that i cannot commit to and i have told him that I’m not ready and he keeps pushing me to try. I think it’s time that we move our separate ways but he’s all I ever known and I still care about him so much I just don’t know if I can continue on; any advice? Sorry if the English is bad it’s not my first language. Thanks ",-1.407746082764163,0.5996005114503831,1.15085576536762,99.09180393732426,97.32061068702292,4.8952993169947785,16.055042185616713,6.5966054737557815,-0.3208259541984733,461,12,113,7,19,156,81,131,0.08800000000000001,0.825,0.087,0.2266,2,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,5,0,0,2,10,4,0,0,2,0,14,0,0,0,3,27,25,13,0,3,6,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,8,11,0,1,5,0,0,2,5,1,0,1,5,1,21,3,7,20,3,14,0,0,0,0,13,1,0,2,11,76,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1923750119894176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1338755161584664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437474611478206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20071783551637046,0.0,0.20825794612709927,0.0,0.20641007867745975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4113657860809795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17807641526882542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09954127950438688,0.14064098927673555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167453975606694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745158939413226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17498339637310126,0.0,0.0,0.2163846248852908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09617870113722046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20923722328826824,0.2894380754809617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13648197976215554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611729262262114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2203751805919344,0.0,0.0,0.1572173072456183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812476077802439,0.0,0.0,0.13078891073246687,0.12614367565731416,0.0,0.0,0.11479404943337727,0.0,0.0,0.188113738387746,0.0,0.13365897689750747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11611656796838668,0.15626293360282684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12677514091179487 divorce,Cholliday09,2019/04/03,I (30m) am confused and lazy 6months after divorce Hello! I have been divorced for a little over 6 months and with all the debt I allowed my ex to pile onto “us” and for me to take the majority of. I feel like I am sinking fast. We were together 10 years with 2 kids (7m 2f). She started seeing guys that came into the bank she worked at. After a year of “trying” and arguing/leaving. I told her I was done and to figure out who got what. She emptied bank account and asked me for money and I willing gave her money for bills. I never paid a bill. I had a crap lawyer who talked me out of 50/50 for the kids. I pay her way more then anyone else I know of per child. And I get my kids more. She makes more then what she told FoC. I make less without overtime. But somehow I pay her a lot and I still work a lot just to stay afloat. But I got a new g/f and of course she wants things for “us” and uses my great credit score to get things. Well now my credit score is dropping so much and she doesn’t listen when I want to pay off my past so we can work on the future. She always gives me crap about my ex but I just ignore her. Idk why I posted I just wanted to let it out. I am so confused! My g/f makes so many promises with money and never goes through with anything so I’m always getting late fees and miss payments on my credit. I work almost everyday where she hardly works at all but she makes more money then me. But when I put a little extra on a credit card she gets super mad at me.,0.5185408501658131,2.278523143302184,2.4907546980203,95.64820319565877,82.3644859813084,4.640377851472215,18.14300070344689,5.181179040167988,-0.5919575721033059,1143,25,265,4,31,382,168,321,0.091,0.823,0.086,0.6653,3,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,4,0,0,6,16,16,3,2,14,0,14,2,2,6,4,57,43,29,0,3,9,2,2,1,0,1,0,1,0,5,8,25,0,1,3,0,19,2,4,7,1,0,12,4,58,9,40,29,12,43,0,1,1,0,39,16,2,6,22,184,66,13,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10819543912224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981080282365935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07555035439801781,0.11070894178701716,0.08891509866013422,0.0,0.1010112045001198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12357924088501293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11057161349240466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09026105265417986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05463280741096983,0.0771902081176839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258045159779975,0.10365042072245877,0.0,0.0,0.17283326882575634,0.11912437451419965,0.0,0.10698547100648324,0.0,0.0,0.09679065709928572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05938089000318731,0.0,0.12188394816908167,0.11440826168894495,0.0,0.1104873957453966,0.0,0.05278727059194993,0.21658691346905296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1837187464706609,0.0,0.0,0.2884941147781678,0.10954469997344853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08624365964403047,0.0,0.07942842765275204,0.0,0.16666805844013885,0.1043543717129082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1031449710149707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10348104893048693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10861906149733837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08610104257566817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647761942968445,0.1151658291688628,0.08628804965323557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123938106407312,0.08684567191950247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356587351727748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20649084865826667,0.0,0.07335816035263015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599392223313829,0.09331962132895076,0.0,0.0,0.19119025172145032,0.08576424574309564,0.0,0.0,0.09714900316046046,0.0,0.09749739246426756,0.0,0.0,0.10415535452858783,0.0,0.3933046971123787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391599925662481 divorce,CupertinoCA,2019/04/03,"Hi All, 25M recently started divorce process.. Hey everyone, I am a 25 year old male who just recently was served divorce papers from my wife who is 23 years old. We were together for about 1.5 years, and I am honestly struggling quite hard everyday. I had made the decision to move to Maryland(where she resides), while I was in California all my life. I met her after doing some med school interviews in the Maryland in 2017, and we were as happy as can be up until February of this year. Our families didn't exactly co-exist, and there was always some tensions between them, but my wife and I figured we could handle this. I had finally decided to move to Maryland to live with her, find our own apartment, and start my job and our life together. I had packed my bags, said goodbye to my family, my friends, my entire life back in California, in order to be with my wife. Little did I know, her and her family were conniving to get me to sign divorce papers, two days before my birthday in fact. &#x200B; I know a lot of you will say 'you're young, you will be able to get over this' but the truth is, I had made every effort to move out there, all my bags packed and shipped, told all my family and friends about the move, and then all of a sudden, a week after I had landed, her family lies to me by saying we have interviews lined up for you at medical clinics, which I had studied and prepared my ass off for, only for them to take me to their attorney's office, humiliate me, and practically force me to sign separation/divorce papers and then they dumped me off at the airport. Keep in mind, I had no phone, no money, nothing. To top it all off, she has cut off all contact from me, changing her number, blocking me off all social media, and threatens me with a restraining order anytime I have e-mailed her(just asking her why, what happened etc). &#x200B; Now I have been forced to move to another country, which has been even more depressing since my family and I have financial issues, and I have been forced to start a new life, where I know no one, and know of nothing. I truly feel depressed all the time, and even though she did me dirty, I still can't help but miss her, and remember all the great things about her. It's just truly heartbreaking to wake up everyday to see where my life has gone because of one person",8.89886813186813,6.560210463736269,8.713269230769232,73.11298076923076,61.94505494505495,12.176923076923075,37.69505494505496,10.686352973137794,3.8043164835164838,1831,68,355,35,20,595,221,455,0.14400000000000002,0.794,0.062,-0.9906,1,0,0,0,4,0,72.0,7,3,4,3,15,14,2,2,13,0,40,9,2,2,13,67,62,29,0,1,5,3,2,0,2,2,7,3,0,2,11,27,0,3,10,0,1,6,5,8,0,3,25,6,72,6,64,31,16,62,0,4,1,1,52,25,1,3,29,259,83,7,0.07551407045902568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06283375592796779,0.16363892758581786,0.18351572206922825,0.0,0.07918308706938369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07059546222898512,0.0,0.0,0.058065658977599,0.0,0.04603267645556037,0.0,0.0642569120865356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07988387373723009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06029184062569457,0.0,0.0,0.04870032832289015,0.0,0.13008031646901486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08421814980485139,0.0997526626960524,0.0,0.06362386125688202,0.0721569304079948,0.0,0.0,0.4271276702916257,0.0,0.03818218296802872,0.0,0.0,0.08272197308925919,0.06901849234681548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1166839670317846,0.0,0.07890597017304196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08325452926916327,0.0,0.0,0.06677684311786893,0.0803861321820673,0.06764577465624791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0506154896603957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0788170703877881,0.07493606291836179,0.0671203754859349,0.0,0.0,0.16600223304291192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26668910590793643,0.0,0.07568493685806342,0.06668030769722434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06419936229554939,0.0,0.14290647864433734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08387910885137985,0.0760724815043303,0.0,0.0,0.07624768452192132,0.0,0.0,0.40129753118970335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293195980728404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14491557446235567,0.0,0.1584786282256432,0.0,0.10234057692508003,0.057431853378427065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06593597361134168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08031850914383674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14912206898589594,0.0,0.0855427212418049,0.0,0.07183117355466925,0.12010363948374513,0.0,0.07642427080834745,0.060174937316182724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062466019424578564,0.0,0.0,0.0769770851218448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.160347743219058,0.0,0.0603056342140793,0.0,0.0,0.07894370230627756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056777183143164114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05016819298124595,0.0,0.07419219082011536,0.0,0.04403286175272618,0.0,0.0,0.0721569304079948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07376627421487747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06057283238371732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06813970312696922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351572206922825,0.19451434219824126 divorce,rockyroad2a,2019/04/03,Pain Married 30 years and he decides to leave me last March and has not talked to me since. He harbors deep resentment toward my family as was in business with my father that did not work out (but that was over 20 years ago). I still love him but can't stand him. Maybe I should have tried harder but all he did was yell about my family and blame everyone but himself for his woes. All I hear from my divorce lawyer is how bad he is but I still love him. I am a fool and I hurt (sorry for the rant but depressed). Any suggestions on how to deal would be great...I thought I was doing better but the pain just keeps coming back....,2.8011627906976737,4.1031854341085285,3.436348837209305,93.40196511627909,74.50387596899225,6.710387596899222,21.427131782945736,7.1686216300943375,0.34947689922480585,487,11,110,5,10,153,86,129,0.218,0.701,0.081,-0.962,0,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,7,11,1,0,3,0,16,4,0,2,2,26,22,14,0,2,10,1,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,7,0,1,2,0,0,1,3,8,0,0,7,2,18,3,14,12,2,16,0,3,0,2,17,6,0,0,8,74,20,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15145271373700636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11618730876150635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313770051670116,0.1426568496425148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1511074280052318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1471765171659025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17614407842306168,0.14715722433692868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16325934443806106,0.0,0.0,0.3221339149216401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1883683215614864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1925660850561516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1829038897509389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1518638395274103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926968851917554,0.0,0.18091085317342004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3084067486871637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716468856825638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3636036884874097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1413330822590252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1912582665264931,0.0,0.0,0.2728901645910714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1373268360994097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13563984355864767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1159993795964584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12438452828724232,0.0,0.0,0.12137054205029787,0.0,0.0,0.2200501310929313 divorce,Cheshire_101,2019/04/04,"This all new and I am a little scared. I wish I could form words but simply can't. I was never given the book on what to do and not to do when it came to a divorce. I knew people who went through it but I never knew it would be this painful and emotional. I half the time feel like I am invisible and my emotions are all over the place. Which I find myself feeling like a burden to my friends and family that I do have. I try taking every day one day at a time.Don't get me wrong there are many days, I wake up feeling strong but this last week I have felt like I dropped dramatically. I have been going to a therapist which is helping with the support, she can be there day and night. Are these feelings normal with a divorce? The feeling like a burden, feeling strong and then weak, feeling sad and lonely even in a room full of people, telling friends and family sorry for everything even just telling them hi? Or am I crazy? 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Long story. I never imagined I would have to do a hard reset of my life the year I turn 40 (this June). Background: been together with my wife (37) for almost 18 years, married 15, 3 great kids (12, 10, 6), own a nice house in a nice town, we’re not wealthy but secure financially because of our steady jobs and minimal frivolous spending. The majority of our marriage has been drama free: we rarely argue, we get along with our respective in-laws, no abuse, drug or alcohol problems. It was by all appearances a nice life. A little about me and my issues with the relationship which seem shallow compared to hers—and have only recently came to light and in devastating fashion. I didn’t think we had enough sex, I was always frustrated with having to take care of the housework alone, etc but would always grumble to myself , get it done and move on with life. I’m very passive aggressive and constantly working on it. I’m also not a great communicator, I can listen to her all day and offer advice, solace, solutions, a back rub but when it comes to me I just keep it in so as not to “burden” her or anyone else for that matter. I’m a conflict avoider. I have always considered myself a happy man who goes with the flow. I have no close friends, save my wife. Around last Christmas I noticed my wife becoming increasingly distant, detached from me, the kids, everything really. She even mentioned she didn’t care about doing anything for Christmas. This was a huge red flag I let just pass me by. The entire month of January was spent with an awkwardness between us that had never been there. We slept separately a few times even. Another red flag I missed the boat on. Around this same time she had started seeing a therapist which I supported 100%. At this point I was starting to genuinely worry that this was getting to a breaking point. But again because of my horrible communication skills I just let it slide because I didn’t want to rock the boat. She finally sat me down at the end of January and simply stated she wasn’t happy and didn’t think she could ever be happy with me. I apologized profusely for not being there emotionally for her and for not fighting harder for her. She insisted on accepting all the blame because something was broken in her and she couldn’t just accept that her comfortable life was good. She said I had done nothing wrong and it killed her to hurt me. The finality of her language was shocking. We agreed to move into separate rooms. Two months now we’ve spent separated but living under the same roof. A new normal set in: work, school, meals but with us living parallel to each other. The kids don’t know, or at least if they suspect haven’t asked any questions. We’ve been amiable, friendly. Trying to make it feel like the warm, stable household the kids are accustomed to. Personally I’m kind of uncomfortable living out this lie but part of me, an itch in the back of my head tells me living under the same roof while separated will lead to reconciliation. I know I’m lying to myself about that. In the conversations about our situation we’ve had she continued to insist on taking all the blame and I continued to try to articulate how I was also to blame. But taking a hard look back at the relationship the signs were everywhere: her emotional and physical distancing over the past 18 months was SO obvious and I continued to take everything about our “normal and comfortable” life for granted. She claims that if I had confronted her about fixing us at any point during this distancing period she would have just stonewalled me and shut me out. As difficult as the last 2 months were, I had started to slowly accept that it was probably over. My feelings for my wife have not faded, in fact they seem stronger than ever. It is pure hell to feel love for someone who no longer feels it back. But I know it takes 2 to make a marriage work and if one is checked out and has emotionally broken away from the other, fighting for it is futile. But now the hammer blow: in mid-March she left town for a work conference in a city where an ex BF from college lives (with his own wife and family, my god the ripple effect of pain this will cause). My hackles were up from the word go and though we were separated and they hadn’t seen each other for over 15 years I didn’t think she or him would do anything reckless. She got back home and I just had that nasty ol gut feeling. She left her watch on the bathroom counter one evening and I looked. Did I ever feel like a scum bag. I didn’t even have to snoop because as soon as I woke the screen up a text from him appeared: “I can’t wait to have you all for myself.” I immediately confronted her and she confessed to being with him on her trip. Despite the separation this betrayal hurts worse than anything I’ve ever experienced. That another man has touched her since the last time I did, that he has her ear and she his and not mine. That conversations are still happening between them, under the same roof me and my children sleep under. I heard her talking to him on the phone one night after we went to our separate beds. His voice in my house. I confronted her again about the nature of their relationship; basically she’s held a flame for him for 19 years. They’ve gone long periods—years and years without contact. But call it serendipity, fate, whatever somehow they always ended up reconnecting even if to just catch up on Facebook. Then came our separation, her out of town trip; it all aligned so perfectly. I don’t have an answer for any of this. How can I counter a relationship such as theirs? And yet, through all of this I haven’t felt any anger and I don’t know why. If she came to me right now and begged for forgiveness and said she wanted to reconcile, I think I would do it. That scares me. The confusion and pain is so intense I’m barely functioning as a human but that the anger hasn’t come is what I struggle with the most. Food, music, work, god help me even my children; things that just 2 months ago were centerpieces to my existence just feel like nothing now. I’ve contemplated suicide, or at least wished for a massive heart attack or stroke to just take me. A reset at 40 in a strange apartment, away from my kids, from her, alone contemplating a failed marriage and broken up family seems more than I can bear. I’m terrified of having to meet new women. Of not being able to provide for my kids. Basically everything really scares me now. The trajectory of life has taken a 180 and right now there’s no light at the end of this tunnel. Sorry this was so long. I just needed to get it out. Thanks. 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Yet the parenting plan calls for me - the non-custodial parent - to fill out IRS Form 8332, which is used by the custodial parent to give the non-custodial parent the child tax credit. I'm not the custodial parent, so I'm confused as to why I should fill this out and send it to her, as per the parenting plan. My ex, of course, scoffed at my inquiry, stating the parenting plan only exists for when we're at an impasse. My problem is she's already taken me to court once since our divorce, so I'm trying to adhere strictly to the plan and am NOT trying to claim the children as dependents. To be honest, I cannot fill it out properly.",6.18549295774648,5.9274887816901405,7.287429577464793,74.43001760563384,66.11267605633802,9.916901408450704,33.94718309859155,9.516144504307137,3.0922366197183098,565,23,107,10,8,192,79,142,0.061,0.88,0.059,-0.0717,8,0,0,0,1,0,20.0,2,0,0,4,4,6,1,1,12,0,7,0,0,2,0,13,13,8,0,2,2,9,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,4,5,0,0,1,0,4,4,3,3,0,0,1,0,12,3,22,10,1,12,0,0,0,0,21,5,0,3,2,66,16,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162825603339815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075983866490864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108410877975813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122196114055784,0.0,0.08014148997050476,0.0,0.0,0.9360406896012524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10082845371861074,0.0,0.0,0.11804272294510353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0871662600930906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14308372719149925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09100909275573778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508342519892286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,HollyDay777,2019/04/04,"Using credit card to pay retainer fee? Hey all! I was just wondering if anyone used their joint credit card to pay for the upfront retainer fee? Not sure how credit card debt gets split but I’m assuming it’s broken in half and we will each pay for half? Also, if it’s free for me to file the petition at the court house, should I do that myself and just use my attorney for everything else? Does that screw anything up w the attorney? I’m currently a SAHM so I have no income and think I will apply for a fee waiver. Any input would be amazing as I am so clueless about this whole process still ",2.3261157024793384,4.299940123966948,3.8157024793388414,87.29809917355374,77.51239669421489,7.375206611570247,22.570247933884296,8.296473431620573,1.3097371900826449,469,14,96,9,11,155,84,121,0.165,0.72,0.114,-0.5807,3,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,1,0,8,7,1,0,6,0,9,1,0,4,2,24,17,11,0,4,6,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,0,5,5,0,2,3,0,11,0,2,1,0,2,1,0,10,7,13,11,3,5,0,0,0,1,3,3,1,4,2,63,15,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1899685900342647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16154209564508973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16610043160199436,0.0,0.19548334857009864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20788154110323195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1984424814703842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134945562221564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411003184721275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27410072059306795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18970767779578784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22388799401010664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221240076442707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6155005957224237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.265216009033014,0.0,0.0,0.2576127615950697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874865182247303,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sittingbythefirenow,2019/04/04,"Reunification Counselling Does anyone have any experience with reunification counselling? (STBX 49 M left 25 year marriage to be with 26F AP. Left family home, has little to no contact with teen kids and now wants reunification counselling)",7.8615789473684226,11.721863842105265,7.367631578947371,59.16092105263158,68.47368421052633,9.06315789473684,33.1842105263158,9.516144504307137,4.093926315789473,198,9,26,5,4,62,30,38,0.051,0.949,0.0,-0.2315,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,5,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,3,3,0,0,2,11,0,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449980355492206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21027030445130968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26316195879806004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2941617074671853,0.2834919020935212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30164651905955403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6534659728507617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30140028195885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1773723532157984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19365371769265116 divorce,imnewtothis110011,2019/04/04,"words vs actions and letting go hey y'all! I've been lurking on this thread for a while now and would love to hear other peoples opinions. All little back story... I (30m) have been married to my wife (30f) for about 4 years (together almost 9 years), have an almost 3 yo son, wife moved out about a month ago/wanted to separate to ""find herself/doesn't know what she wants""/not sure if she is going to come back or not, claims there is no one else (I believe she had or is having an emotional affair), I filed for divorce the same week she moved out =), told her im not going to sit around and wait for her to make up her mind, she immediately said she wants to ""work on us"" and go to counseling, told her I cannot do marriage counseling through my insurance because I already have a therapist and I would have to give him up to do marriage counseling (I've offered to give up my counselor for us several times) she says she is going to call her insurance and set something up but every time I ask about her contacting her insurance, she gets mad that I'm ""telling her what to do"" or something along the lines of ""Oh I was really busy at work/didn't have time to call but I sent them an email."" Basically words are coming out of her mouth but no actions are being taken... I'm having a hard time letting go of her/ I still have some hope in the back of my mind and would like others peoples perspective on this. 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Apologies for the novel. Like the title says. What do you do? My husband (32M) and I (29F) have been together for six years, married for almost 3, but have had a rough 10 months or so. Last June, I thought I wanted out. I was unhappy with myself and the way my husband had been treating me once in a while. After almost 2 months, I changed my mind realizing the grass is green where you water it. It made me realize I truly was in love with my husband and everything he is. Unfortunately, it seems to have destroyed him. He’s always been such a happy go lucky guy, and now he’s depressed and sad. He’s now on his third time wanting a separation. The first time (mid-October 2018), he didn’t move out and we only slept in separate bedrooms for half a night. He changed his mind a few days later. We enjoyed the holidays and my birthday. Then he decided he wanted to try to separate again (February 1, 2019). Two week prior we went out and bought a new mattress (luckily we were able to return it since it had not yet been delivered), and booked a trip to Vegas on my birthday. I was devastated once again. He told me he would actually be filing this time so I was a wreck. I cancelled our vacation, returned all of the new stuff I got for our new bed, and spend endless hours on the phone with my mom going over every detail trying to figure out why he’d want to leave. He didn’t move out, but spent every night for the next six nights sleeping in the other bedroom. This time I found out he had been hanging out with his ex-fiancé. I asked if they had sex, he said no and if we did, I’d never tell you. Nice. I spent the week trying to get my shit together, seeing my counselor, and thinking about the future, but I still wanted it all to work out. He never ended up filing, and by Thursday night he came home from his friends’ house and slipped in to my bed and we reconciled and re-booked out trip to Vegas. The next few weeks were great. Everything seemed to be looking up. We were getting along, enjoying our time together, we had a great vacation, started making summer plans, and looking forward. Then about two weeks ago I could feel something was wrong again. I kept asking him if everything was okay and he’d reassure me that everything was fine and that he was just stressed out about work. Well, this past Sunday night, late, he told me he couldn’t do it anymore. He had been lying and talking and seeing his ex again. He admitted they had sex twice back in February. He said a lot more, but it kind of came down to he’s unhappy and depressed. The thing is, he keeps saying I am the perfect wife, and I didn’t do anything wrong, he’s just unhappy. I keep telling him it’s not fair to me to have to suffer through this alone when it’s his happiness that’s keeping him in a depressed state and he needs to get help. He refuses. He moved some stuff to his friends’ house and has spent (most) nights over there. Everyone around me tells me I should be done with him, but he’s my husband. I love this man. He’s my best friend, the person I laugh and cry with, the person I share my life with. How can I just let that go so easily? Yes, I am so angry at him for the affair, but I can forgive him. Right now the trust is completely gone due to his lying and cheating, but I am willing to put in the work to get that back. He’s giving up and I hate that. What would you do?",3.0382683982684,4.428880178932181,4.109660894660898,88.45591991341993,74.05050505050505,7.2112554112554115,25.0988455988456,7.793537801064563,1.200747763347764,2656,85,565,36,54,863,302,693,0.138,0.7170000000000001,0.145,0.6551,0,1,1,0,1,0,97.0,11,4,2,7,29,38,4,1,33,2,62,9,3,3,5,119,114,49,0,15,16,7,2,1,3,4,1,4,6,5,28,57,1,5,13,3,5,15,9,12,1,9,48,11,84,26,75,54,9,109,0,5,5,4,104,32,1,12,63,370,112,4,0.05918759535589721,0.0,0.057758555154081265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05246623210785114,0.0,0.11853565423699094,0.06130049874390001,0.0,0.0,0.049248820755513414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869819041174457,0.0,0.0,0.048706347867944234,0.052689508365665286,0.11066482383939047,0.0,0.0,0.09102321479291617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06211372974156569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353896826636627,0.0,0.0,0.12522525578292776,0.0,0.062057067639532774,0.0,0.0,0.0472564787532167,0.0,0.06501479426308679,0.0381711025369583,0.0,0.1529345674548036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06056945954327087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052422641676287164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0997362036547981,0.056556283791235784,0.21277597707080206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029927026600198355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05034493837372906,0.0,0.06489614332265066,0.13718456805236345,0.0,0.12369230278218435,0.056778134697502786,0.10091302325827983,0.0,0.04733772689584565,0.1305090656608876,0.0,0.058605024862824213,0.0,0.12601259169043225,0.0,0.05843549676823396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039672197546093635,0.0,0.05936998400351293,0.0,0.058287858992392735,0.13658907672407505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15782596277416944,0.0,0.06163477253060275,0.0,0.048245789878176314,0.06676618559164309,0.06267111746778033,0.0,0.06052332633367832,0.041805948985016814,0.028916069409970494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09940534664429962,0.0,0.0,0.05031917700314428,0.106838231293407,0.05600473382193533,0.0395081794992715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11952519764528703,0.0693197963371841,0.09448594786095894,0.18872114096615605,0.0,0.04388685199310018,0.09129824467596227,0.1714912452479303,0.12589335825925227,0.33326129258304804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12606571475977152,0.04010704640016344,0.09002966672670658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056501256983215314,0.0,0.15504097587837382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059499881056208036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0505458830384095,0.11260191401282978,0.09413670288627407,0.0,0.0,0.0943297009096934,0.10776432776277957,0.0,0.0,0.06075521608422867,0.04896059050613221,0.0,0.05923033992941384,0.0,0.0,0.04556550254925158,0.0,0.0,0.04189328462978549,0.0,0.04726729010695327,0.0,0.06779919050616978,0.0,0.13551127234875845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04757274716080552,0.15519770141976252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03932160838186738,0.03792502121370523,0.0,0.04698833939402538,0.17256381413028565,0.0,0.0,0.11311256758247157,0.0,0.12055347621257125,0.0,0.1156353607374764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2094622634317555,0.04698035823771717,0.18990687541513868,0.0,0.05321675636939858,0.05486749387006018,0.053407598767151065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12926782301985495,0.0,0.0,0.08409033913151596,0.12942468819458927,0.0,0.03811487086765822 divorce,sassyseductress,2019/04/04,"Filing today My husband is filing today. I feel like a gigantic weight is off my shoulders. How many of us, women with kids went back to their maiden name post divorce? 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When you or your spouse decide to get a divorce, how does the divorce court handle the issue of infidelity. After all, the cheating spouse should be punished...right? Does the innocent spouse get more money? Does the cheating spouse lose custody of the kids? Watch to learn all about how Michigan courts typically deal with infidelity in family court.",9.091951219512195,13.57552112195122,6.027512195121955,66.45346341463414,69.48780487804879,8.158048780487805,36.248780487804886,8.841846274778883,4.380186341463414,460,23,53,10,10,128,55,82,0.221,0.754,0.025,-0.9625,1,0,0,0,3,0,29.0,0,2,0,1,5,6,5,0,9,0,3,0,0,3,2,11,5,6,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,1,2,0,9,3,3,4,0,1,1,0,14,2,0,1,2,32,2,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877337020344796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2737802739614953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.697178953612379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2503459448341831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27748784773237883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771752147336353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2970932508262531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2267864366752008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sparked54,2019/04/04,"I'm confused about her behavior So I'm 32 and she's 31. We've been married for 10 years now and I filed for divorce about a month ago. Interactions have been awkward since everything happened and we finally sat down about 2 weeks ago and had a post mortem conversation. We talked about forgiveness and how we can be better moving forward with our lives. After this conversation, she started to be more friendly with me and even trying to joke around. At first, I took this as a sign of keeping things light in spite of the current events. She even asked me to go see Captain Marvel with her. I blatantly asked if this was a date and she said no, that it was just two people seeing a movie together. I reluctantly agreed and we went. It was a decent night, but I was in a sour mood and got short with her. The next day she even hinted at us having sex! I avoided that topic and her like the plague, as I was running late to meet some family anyhow. And then that night, her demeanor was distant again, and she said she was just ready to get the divorce over with. However! The day after that, she was all friendly again! She's been talking to me and cutting up again, and even asked me yesterday, how I was going to make it up to her for being sour the week before. I can't pinpoint her angle here. I feel like this is a test of some sort and I don't like being played. I still have every desire and intention on moving forward with the divorce, and I've made that clear. It just seems like she's in denial now. Hoping I can get some insight here. Sorry for such the long story. Again, any help is appreciated. 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Upon separation we had about $20k in savings and only $7k in cc debt. Fast forward and cc debt is now $25k. I haven't used the savings to pay anything down just in case I need it for child support and alimony payments or home equity buy out. She wanted to use all savings to pay off the debt. My lawyer originally said only to pay minimum and wait till judgement but I'm paying too much in interest! ,3.185384615384617,4.538062923076922,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,73.61538461538461,8.661538461538461,28.384615384615394,9.188382445141503,2.4216769230769235,400,16,81,9,8,140,75,104,0.109,0.8320000000000001,0.059,0.1386,4,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,5,5,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,3,1,20,15,8,0,2,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,1,2,7,0,1,0,0,9,1,2,0,0,0,3,1,5,5,16,12,2,15,0,0,0,0,5,9,0,1,7,45,7,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382154582819995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29036970675643353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21279939604231,0.21464402521896372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4403216265860273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27535955500833464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2394589209767386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2311772421349345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3284958307852457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5000315288756628,0.0,0.0,0.1707414305676161,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,strum_and_dang,2019/04/04,"Husband hasn't worked for two years, I can't take it anymore Tomorrow will be the two year anniversary of my husband getting laid off. He has not worked a day since then. He's now 50, I'm 49. We have two teenage kids, the older of whom will be starting college in the fall. I have always worked full time, and for the first ten years of our marriage made more than he did. I had 12 weeks of maternity leave for each of our kids, when I went back to work, my parents used to drive the babies to my job so I could nurse them in the parking lot on my lunch break. Four years ago I took a management position that I knew I would not be very happy at because it paid more, but I don't make enough to support a family of four with our current expenses, which aren't extravagant. We have a mortgage and two car payments, but no other debt. When he was at his last job, we were doing pretty well and saving money, so now he thinks it's ok that we're dipping into those savings to the tune of over a thousand bucks a month to pay our bills. Nevermind that we need a new furnace and air conditioner. Everything is fine! We still have money! He'll talk to me in this condescending voice like I'm a stupid child who's getting upset over nothing, or he'll get angry and stop talking to me, or take it out on the kids. When I told him about 6 months ago that I was feeling a lot of anger and resentment towards him, he laughed and said ""You know you love me"". Uhh . . . Tonight, I overheard him talking to his brother saying he got a call back for a job, but he wasn't going to interview because it only pays 45K. He was making 75K at his last job, but honestly he lucked into that. He doesn't have a degree of any type, he's been taking some online classes, but the demand for 50 year old IT guys with a two year gap in their employment history isn't that high. When I told him that this job pays 45K more than he's making now, he said he doesn't want to get ""trapped"". I feel trapped. And taken advantage of, disrespected, depressed, anxious, and angry. Very, very angry. Every morning when I get up to go to work and have to look at him snoring in bed, I get mad. It's so great to start every day seething with anger! He has the nerve to nag our daughter about how she needs to get a job, but he can't even pick up a part time job to pay for his beer and cigarettes (oh yeah, he started smoking again after 20 years of not!). So I'm done, frankly things weren't that great when he was working. I was planning to hang in until the kids were out of high school, but my physical and mental health is deteriorating, and I feel like I need to protect my future and that of my kids. But I'm afraid I'll file for divorce, and he just won't leave. I don't want to spend all my money on a lawyer and get hosed. How will they divide up our remaining savings? Our daughter turns 18 this summer, will he still have to support her? I know shared custody is all the rage these days, but the kids definitely don't want to live with him, he mainly either ignores them or criticizes them. Last Friday night our 14 year old son wanted to play a game with me and his sister, dad heard and decided he wanted to play, but our son said he didn't want to play with him because he always ends up making it no fun. So his father decided to prove the point by yelling, throwing the game, and kicking the trash can until he broke it. He's never hit me, but he has ""temper tantrums"" and breaks things, and he likes to lunge at us with his fist raised to make us flinch. He's a big guy. I don't know what he's going to do when I tell him I want a divorce. I have no family in the area, plus I know there are legal implications if the kids and I leave the house. I guess I need to talk to a lawyer, but if anyone has read this rant and has any advice, I'd be grateful!",4.977249407500351,4.439760454203267,5.604660811375995,86.42534894744179,68.67377666248431,8.53990241182211,28.37610483758539,7.715138304826218,1.4328975268367494,2970,85,668,29,45,965,342,797,0.136,0.753,0.111,-0.9331,12,2,2,0,4,1,94.0,16,2,5,9,28,38,9,2,39,2,56,5,1,10,4,111,124,58,0,15,22,11,3,3,0,8,1,7,1,10,31,41,2,3,12,7,13,10,22,14,1,10,27,11,82,24,95,83,14,103,0,2,1,1,117,34,0,10,60,401,113,28,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052823973012931374,0.0958367160172892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08995967614427243,0.0,0.0,0.07352136412639812,0.0,0.0,0.06106913686667139,0.0536101181580498,0.03779798158676823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08313314713697577,0.0,0.0988581202453566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055198343596059914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04316019611375309,0.0,0.0,0.10458707344510873,0.0,0.04655930148323506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531918207540292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0478785460796854,0.055855435230180266,0.0,0.03570420508107588,0.0,0.09109087733476738,0.0,0.04858303634211287,0.0,0.1019204468580592,0.0,0.08199868279932801,0.038618403425882165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04598094210303499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2259408312549065,0.0,0.09216568794734026,0.0,0.043234401510817394,0.1191962883642313,0.05954999069465049,0.10705005675687143,0.0,0.05754478871102029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05746017004852973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422858931955902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062374636176275235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3755033179596585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11883347496277374,0.13219125553212788,0.0,0.1717159927236434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922870638060002,0.0,0.04773341014756004,0.0,0.04539434982374283,0.0,0.0,0.09191482755538702,0.048788643766185,0.05115013557561639,0.1804176718488412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447684297715287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629572383014783,0.0,0.0,0.16033062037729806,0.04169216844989455,0.05220868455127669,0.0,0.0507289269270411,0.0,0.051869245894832924,0.0,0.11344766726432196,0.0,0.0,0.0411128608658341,0.0,0.0,0.06002401292155144,0.058538572057292224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05110143280798425,0.0,0.0,0.054995505126182516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05407172915770223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426204469096902,0.0429883760414241,0.0,0.05470867171590603,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044716592176178266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114785681974733,0.0,0.08634014063702955,0.04519415656698632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1226867141711177,0.0,0.0,0.1219326363475344,0.17379619906534774,0.047248288533874284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07182627119266992,0.034637607295070524,0.0,0.0,0.06304226007946813,0.0,0.0,0.1033077522615312,0.060059427717042375,0.0,0.05879860249879304,0.26402966211137474,0.0,0.13004807214535374,0.046687978590983406,0.0,0.13380830778564298,0.2231899492818525,0.0,0.04336134537801095,0.0,0.048603825380974186,0.05011147377418063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2361252780542856,0.0,0.0,0.03840061324862455,0.0,0.0,0.2784880033214961 divorce,worldcrushed1999,2019/04/05,Wife wants to leave everything My wife of 3 years wants to leave. She says she is not happy. I’m 35 and she is 30. She said she just wants her own space and needs to figure out who she is. We have built a lot and have accomplished so much in the past 3 years. It seems out of the blue that all of a sudden she wants to leave. I have been very flexible and try to be understanding. She says she still loves me and our family but is not in love with me. The last 2 weeks have been so turbulent that I needed to reach out. I have offered everything and anything just for a shred of hope but she seems disinterested at any chance of trying to make it work. She wants to pay off all her credit card debt then leave. It seems odd but I am still trying to be optimistic. ,1.3597708333333325,3.2175862687500008,2.5825,95.54583333333336,80.0625,6.5166666666666675,16.916666666666664,7.554174236665415,-0.09459583333333343,593,10,142,9,15,190,86,160,0.111,0.773,0.116,0.4206,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,2,0,0,2,6,5,0,0,6,0,14,2,0,1,2,35,31,12,0,8,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,6,11,0,0,5,0,3,0,2,0,0,0,3,4,22,5,23,26,5,17,0,0,1,2,24,8,0,5,9,94,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08438242595383823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211183109921536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22304017426570089,0.0,0.11697680888233568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13209137045087696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12324494480732345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1011462809867314,0.0,0.525554704205678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054930933669583,0.22398409871234187,0.0,0.08282806510159657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121715334260216,0.18401571927937926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11845369366649985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803376898941925,0.1973556122791671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3388884606438225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19818975370540512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25273782043393683,0.0,0.0,0.12917742888418393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10238357025330104,0.3659443481438471,0.0,0.0995339398036294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09033575491059716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15981404587997045 divorce,Moeasfuck,2019/04/05,"I’m here for the second time in my life M43 - things have been bad for a couple of years we finally tried counseling and that made things worse In the last session she laid everything out for me. I truly saw my role in things. It also made me realize my role in my first divorce It also made me realize that we are truly incompatible, and that’s sad When she filed for a NF divorce, I thought maybe we would have 6 weeks to work things out, but no, I don’t think that’s the best path Still it’s weird being here again and having to think about a place to live, furniture, stuff like that In a way though, I guess it’s very freeing. I could get a job anywhere I wanted and/or move anywhere I wanted. I think I made the right decision to get myself into therapy and I am going to spend a while working on me",2.3589563729683505,3.970716431137728,3.68849016253208,89.86402694610783,76.30538922155688,6.927117194183063,22.108212147134303,7.7094869923839395,0.7804152266894775,632,17,138,9,14,207,97,167,0.069,0.823,0.108,0.8534,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,0,4,9,6,0,0,10,0,10,1,0,4,0,27,26,10,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,14,10,0,0,7,0,2,2,2,3,0,2,7,1,24,4,20,16,1,24,0,1,1,0,9,11,0,1,11,96,38,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21210057756713105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072602402771796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1391687952679485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058804107248704,0.14673337557033067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1191836994578686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14527067669136262,0.0,0.11280025286619305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13856927311994482,0.0,0.07536682540308665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14608778553262053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315975932657052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10809700982427488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366823694994957,0.06478784256578013,0.0,0.11709940006764415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5019251857989879,0.0,0.0,0.13322723189245578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1409462606690913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13855199472666274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325047904026846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1059046340822665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15180975765317328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1516541232830382,0.0,0.3524078099493376,0.2549184955459595,0.13029125591604504,0.1052796316098851,0.07732750301511257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0900352848432032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941932507599822,0.15643675441366964,0.10526174944578254,0.10637386924995436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930871781105844,0.0,0.13514362039031946,0.09420422215263446,0.0,0.0,0.08539819911821825 divorce,sorrynopeno,2019/04/05,"Finding an attorney What am I looking for in a good divorce attorney? I’m afraid this is going to get really ugly and I want to be as prepared as possible. My spouse is an abusive covert narcissist and we have a blended family with 6 kids now all 18+. Mixed assets and finances with a very very long history of financial secrets and hiding money. I’m very concerned he’s already begun hiding money and assets over the last year. We’ve got nearly $1m in retirement, investments & property. After all I’ve lost in the last 20 years to him I’m not willing to lose my share of that too. I’d love to ask locally for recommendations, especially to a couple of people who had tough divorces in the last couple years but I don’t think I can risk it getting back to him. Are there certain things I should look for, questions I should ask, professional recommendations? Thanks for any help. This isn’t my first rodeo unfortunately but it’s my first of this caliber. 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I'm in my mid 30's and about a year ago I left my souse. I'm with the love of my life and the person I should have always been with. they are caring and wonderful and provide everything I always expected and wanted in a real partnership. My ex and I never had a healthy relationship. We would bicker constantly, immediately go for blood in our many and constant fights. She was a terrible partner, did nothing to support the house. Rarely helped with cooking, or cleaning, or any household things. She was verbally abusive, and every once in a while physically. I was so unhappy for so long and told people about it constantly. The problem is when things were good, they were great. We got along and had a ton of fun. She probably would have been a great friend to have, but we never meshed as a married couple. She just was never who I expected her to be and was never a true partner. Most of the time I'm very happy with the decision I made. That said, she stills asks for another chance. Every time that happens I can't shake the horrible feeling of missing her. Missing the good times we had, the fun that we had. It becomes hard to focus on all the bad. I try to remind myself that we tried several times to fix things. They would be great for a few months, and then would revert back. It's hard to shake that ""this time would be different"" feeling. I know deep down that it ultimately wouldn't, but what if? It's not a constant feeling, but when it comes on its almost crippling. I need to figure out how to get past these feelings.",3.199880507841673,5.038768964401296,4.243705501618127,85.80512509335328,74.5663430420712,7.3428429176002,25.800472989793377,8.139509932561175,1.5767031615633558,1226,43,245,20,26,398,162,309,0.126,0.6709999999999999,0.203,0.9861,1,1,0,0,1,0,40.0,7,0,3,0,10,22,1,2,21,0,31,4,1,2,6,65,57,27,0,13,9,2,6,0,3,7,1,1,1,3,20,25,1,0,8,1,0,4,8,9,0,0,18,7,36,13,33,29,4,39,0,3,0,1,31,11,0,6,24,179,56,0,0.0,0.1066463228128222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07978782911816536,0.0,0.09013132966390112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14978992532318888,0.0,0.0,0.0612094224555149,0.09438261746265593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08414656150396461,0.0,0.0,0.06921160921899397,0.07515402042632137,0.0,0.09940821951313256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09177049800454573,0.0,0.0,0.07753505706230518,0.0,0.389072383315156,0.0,0.0,0.0995935978164915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09404057928774333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167346413871333,0.0,0.08089457074065055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18204566163493174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695409754278465,0.0,0.047026153399628526,0.0,0.051154369404546436,0.15099109012281234,0.07198867371767906,0.2977067709355508,0.0,0.0,0.07959494221076555,0.09581659220225204,0.16126133770842296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060331348209702075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10385866752033884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04946676695462465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779538683464813,0.0,0.06357624284668449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07965541356531602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123692324810361,0.08516899255901088,0.0,0.0912553204306974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07184457849480247,0.0,0.0,0.06674076842723571,0.2776829382380621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863663677123166,0.0,0.0,0.0958569855582106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0859240783266334,0.06240112752908705,0.07859266422555597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09704526794191504,0.08612676082998029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10245030886992304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966363219553784,0.0,0.0,0.08561947287510274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1016849086488482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07188155723055979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1021415068478389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17939457309081489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26242578436932845,0.0,0.0,0.08600776014213392,0.0,0.12222083644043608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07426711348126558,0.05308982752640547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761126529550357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3197001833160974,0.0,0.0,0.05796304940286681 divorce,jizzydicknuts,2019/04/05,"Should we stay together and pay off our debts or just pull the plug now? I've posted a couple of threads about my relationship with my wife. To make a long story short, she's basically holding me hostage emotionally while she debates whether or not she's going to fuck one of her Facebook friends when she flies to another country in seven weeks. She's been talking to this guy for 10 years. I know if she sleeps with him and regrets it, there's no way she'll cut off all contact with him to try to regain my trust. She blew up when our marriage counselor suggested it. So, I've told her in no uncertain terms that if she takes her relationship with him beyond friendship, we're over. She immediately suggested that, in such a scenario, we should stay together for a couple of years to pay off debts and help our children cope. I honestly don't know what's best for me and our kids. I love my wife unconditionally, but there's no way I could stay in the same house with someone who would fly to another country and fuck someone who isn't her husband. There's no fathomable way. What's better? Should we pay off our debts first? Should I get a lawyer the minute I know that she's slept with her friend? What's better for the kids?",5.1122131147540975,5.8748414918032825,5.252581967213113,84.56608606557378,68.50819672131148,8.395081967213113,29.59426229508197,8.472884824447931,1.9249639344262288,980,35,203,14,16,308,126,244,0.113,0.7879999999999999,0.099,0.5684,3,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,8,0,0,4,11,13,3,1,9,0,10,5,2,1,1,37,22,15,0,9,8,3,0,0,2,6,0,0,0,4,11,14,0,1,3,0,6,2,7,5,0,3,3,0,39,8,33,12,4,31,0,1,0,3,48,12,2,5,10,133,50,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680236742447895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13412061134487968,0.22606146732877186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020397236932689,0.2828215908357872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1437603667765893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087085567216597,0.0,0.0,0.1974794537999831,0.2363023027048489,0.0667714180778816,0.0,0.07263298269359082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1265443533207112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08566317640906798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14746667564068774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2107103774289014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11310099884500212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11534655023693165,0.0,0.08530901637387278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08660213458132911,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12239925940096855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2744236467719391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12789458038585624,0.0,0.21657291948230786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40866068746664014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09609141170491256,0.10272263409570924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12212055835376813,0.0,0.08676936106640193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30433051086743124,0.10251528259230354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078707509146666,0.0,0.0,0.16460096031491694 divorce,lilyfernanda,2019/04/05,"When ex MIL bad mouths you to your children? She’s never been too kind. Even when her son told her we were getting married she asked me “are you marrying my son because he owns a house.”? Little did she know I made more money than him. She’s made many rude comments in the past that whee we announced we were divorcing I didn’t expect her to stay quiet. Her son put me down when I suffered from PPD, belittled me constantly and that caused my love to die. Then he confessed he’d love if he could share me in bed with another man. I decided we were no match. I got with my now bf not long after divorce and in her eyes, I abandoned her son for another man. I am the villain and she can’t stand to see me. When I pick up my kids and she’s there, she hides. My ex is more than ok being around me because he knows his part on causing our divorce and acknowledges it. Now my daughter asks me why grandma doesn’t say nice things about me. I won’t allow her to continue talking smack about me to my kids. Advice on how to handle?",1.518802816901406,3.4221802582159597,2.8564577464788736,93.55201056338028,79.75117370892018,5.950140845070423,22.85657276995305,6.961326702584282,0.5891541784037555,797,26,177,9,20,258,129,213,0.134,0.7879999999999999,0.078,-0.9125,1,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,5,3,0,0,13,11,2,0,3,1,15,4,2,7,1,30,27,12,1,3,2,7,0,0,1,1,0,2,1,5,4,12,0,1,5,0,1,1,7,5,0,0,10,4,50,6,24,13,4,25,1,2,2,2,55,9,0,1,13,119,54,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14995713724465007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3218276622009226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13660993243042133,0.2869245619489416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281308113137106,0.18709284011070768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3152867622610377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16583331088322625,0.0,0.1225235264025235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592649166436098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135739657907478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08017534063882348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273418130553773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17706963986561688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15980263190796454,0.16867273226390048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15380498029529893,0.0,0.13580527971433065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770032215272838,0.2904108670022779,0.0,0.15558207235155122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835607716854996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1661797888991098,0.1464927864793041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15426742406280286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12203576214137417,0.0,0.0,0.12228595850642222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1635655432943749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12334352657202101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101950510276593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14663545641035322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1384717505469447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Felinoface,2019/04/05,"Does it get better? F(35) I got divorced a year ago, separated for a year before that. No kids, we handled the divorce ourselves and it actually was kept pretty amicable. Ever since my ex and I broke up my life has hit several huge bumps and I'm struggling to cope. Most recently I'm struggling with a difficult and stressful job and I feel like I can't stay there and keep my sanity. I left my old job because my ex and I worked in the same department so I moved across the country for a new job, which I now really feel like leaving it would be the right thing to do. So, I'm 35, facing moving back in with my parents and being single. I feel like I've failed spectacularly in life but when I was with my ex my life was great, and I feel like I've just made terrible decisions. Does it get better?",1.1039701897018972,3.395633109756101,3.2889430894308944,87.71039295392956,83.75609756097559,6.571273712737128,21.915989159891602,7.793537801064563,1.0930728997289971,626,21,132,12,18,213,96,164,0.104,0.752,0.14400000000000002,0.8205,4,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,1,0,0,4,8,14,0,3,8,0,9,4,1,1,1,27,23,13,0,1,2,4,4,4,0,1,3,0,0,1,7,13,0,2,5,0,0,3,2,7,0,0,6,4,20,7,12,13,3,22,0,2,0,0,8,8,0,1,14,78,27,5,0.0,0.0,0.11693168606356373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10621742468119576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09213784822238172,0.0,0.07304406479169875,0.0,0.10196204981247513,0.0,0.0,0.2119505350136643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20971891930708209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10838836036763504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423480067944909,0.3424113452682724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12520698863416466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583481106100028,0.13210722683070444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3567227710729253,0.10650575706956457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12687712518856864,0.1301899581688543,0.0,0.2539073262444616,0.23416131109366714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11338109022758774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2547095248503957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1157275050624465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12573593455280335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13305122163008667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12190486415437668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07676281297967137,0.0,0.11831250002803426,0.0,0.0,0.1023296949081538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353678780961381,0.0,0.0991202841427936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277172566840515,0.0,0.0,0.13725886387708586,0.2505337230053581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07960624975048428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872338562899452,0.0,0.0,0.08512007537302671,0.0,0.0,0.15432644056835826 divorce,Em497,2019/04/05,"My parents are divorcing. I'm an adult. Okay, so my parents are getting a divorce. It is fueled mostly by my father(54), who has a girlfriend and just up and left yesterday. I'm hurt that he didnt have the respect to tell my mother(49) or us (my brother (18) & I(21)) in person. I just want to hear some positive outcomes and how to even process this. I want to be able to support my mother without damaging my relationship with my father. What do you wish your children knew? What did you wish they would have said to you? 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Unfortunately, I've been married for 15 years. We briefly tried marriage counseling. My wife had baselessly accused me of cheating three separate times. Then, she accused me of ""wanting to cheat"" even though the reality is that I've been loyal and faithful to her from day one. At the time, she insisted that we go to a marriage counselor. But when it became clear that the counselor wasn't just there to tell us I was in the wrong, she became disengaged in the counseling process. So trying that again is not something I'm interested in. Without getting into the long list of issues I have with my marriage, those episodes are not the sole - or even prevailing - reasons I want a divorce. However, I'm still in this marriage years later because I fear the process and the aftermath. I question the validity of what I want, even though I know I shouldn't. I worry for the outcomes for my children. I know there's premarital counseling and marriage counseling, but I feel like I need counseling for myself to get from ""I want out of this marriage"" to ""I am getting out of this marriage,"" but I don't know what to look for.",5.592583333333334,7.051912555555552,5.889930555555555,77.8815625,67.8888888888889,8.825000000000003,36.28472222222222,9.188382445141503,3.450338888888888,955,50,169,18,16,305,115,225,0.07,0.856,0.07400000000000001,-0.0839,1,0,1,0,3,0,33.0,3,0,0,0,13,8,2,1,14,0,13,0,0,1,1,33,30,13,0,7,8,1,1,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,12,11,0,0,6,0,0,1,6,4,0,2,5,2,29,4,31,24,0,23,1,0,1,0,21,9,0,2,14,125,41,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0914089033141734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09670616496377638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971242018216407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16873686938203222,0.07581986840626184,0.10712521832732344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2350300510580264,0.0,0.08522076322666489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15651016889141728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24722789176953525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07325861692774266,0.0,0.0,0.1327021565936564,0.12592130187433462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118696779785972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10161086234354047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16797974205012273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417488145969813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11543981476350695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11975127912660878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13106402066822456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2946527258257406,0.0,0.17487558458552868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20361414058853824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803729166115869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4422257251958388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454767471055155,0.0,0.0,0.15228279502477318,0.0,0.0,0.1639481756495346,0.0,0.28969110751767985 divorce,Needtoexpress,2019/04/05,"At the cliff of Devastation A marriage that is based on adolescent excitement. Broken bonds by the mere premature growth of self. Discovery through self deprivation. Beneath my own heart, hiding from the exploitation. Vulnerably rips through the essence of secure. Exposes to the skeptic, the crucifier. Unrecognizable to even I. Sworn a higher purpose to the Infatuation. Now I cower, a lowlife, protecting my rags ",6.887272727272728,10.813911893939398,7.1153787878787895,58.74306818181819,74.0,11.17878787878788,40.06818181818181,10.411451182825502,6.262581818181817,339,21,44,13,8,109,51,66,0.241,0.635,0.124,-0.802,1,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,0,0,0,0,2,4,1,0,10,0,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,13,1,1,5,1,1,0,0,3,3,0,0,1,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26539426413147205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4761513573198457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8383589741206229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sh514,2019/04/05,"AM SINGLE AND NEED A FEMALE COMPANION Been single for awhile now waiting, every lady turns me down by saying i have got a boyfriend/lover",5.1780769230769215,7.025692192307695,5.364615384615386,79.75538461538463,69.38461538461539,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,1.2755230769230774,111,3,18,1,2,35,24,26,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,7,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,0,3,5,2,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,14,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4371395057837129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4149584560446388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38470838246596595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41259713391782377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5643417384736293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ImJustKittying,2019/04/05,"I need to get this out I'm 24, and my husband is in the Army and he's 26. We've been married or a year. Most of which he was gone on deployment for. He was gone for 9 months. A few days before he got on the plane to Come home he told me that he wanted a divorce. He even changed completely. He was a country boy, and now he listens to rap and dresses that way to match. I still haven't seen him. While he was gone I stayed with my parents. He still hasn't come to see me, even after being gone. He refuses to. At this point, he's given me a million different reasons. Initially, it was that ""he loved me, but didn't like me"" then it was that he didn't love me or like me. The reason was different, depending on who he told. Now he doesn't even give me a reason. He just says he doesn't love me anymore, and won't tell me why or when it happened. I've done everything I could do. I've fought so hard. I've talked to friends he deployed with, and all of them have agreed with me that something is off with him, and that they think he's having a quarter life crisis or breakdown. He got into a lot of trouble while he was deployed. Got caught using inhalints, and got deranked and barred from reinlistment. They're all telling me to be patient, but I can't. I'm trying. He's my best friend, we've been through a lot together. I've tried to tell him that whatever is going on with him that I love him and he's not a disappointment or anything he could be thinking he is. I don't know what else to do. He and I had so many plans. My parents were building us a house for when he got out next year, and my father had a job for him that he was thrilled about doing. He was excited about seeing me again and being back and making plans till the day he said he wants a divorce. He completely blindsided me. I didn't see this coming at all. He still seems like he has feelings for me. When he has tried to text me, and if I don't reply fast enough, he dogs after me and tries to msg me until I reply. He makes depressing posts on Instagram about how he's miserable, then deletes them before people can see. I know for a fact that he isn't happy, but he puts a front up like he is. He and I have had phone sex on a few occasions, and sexted, but not recently. He isn't cheating. Which is the only thing I can take from this. Multiple people around him on the daily have assured me of this. But, who knows. I'm sorry if it all seems wildly badly written and disjointed. I'm upset right now. I apologize. I just want to go home. There's so much more to this than I've written, and I'm just so tired. I want to go home and see him again. I understand how someone can fallout of love with someone while they've been deployed, but I expected that he'd come back to me and we'd make things work and fall in love again. Especially since I didn't have any idea anything was going wrong in the first place. He wrote me love letters, sent me flowers. I just feel so abandoned, and like trash. 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My first thought was divorce but I’m terrified for my kids I just confirmed that my wife has been having an affair with one of her coworkers. Obviously I’m upset but now I’m at a loss for what’s next. I don’t know if I should I try to make it work or if should I see an attorney first thing in the morning. We have two young children together and I’m terrified of breaking up our family. I’m absolutely heartbroken for them. I’m trying to collect my thoughts but it seems like my world is crashing down around me. I’m worried that she may try to empty our bank account. How can I prevent that?",1.0935368956743012,3.477940694656489,3.038900763358779,88.83020865139952,84.80152671755727,6.241424936386768,24.76386768447837,7.554174236665415,1.3977324173027983,505,21,104,9,15,169,85,131,0.207,0.762,0.032,-0.9805,0,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,3,0,1,4,4,3,0,1,4,0,14,0,0,2,1,22,27,8,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,2,7,4,0,1,4,0,2,0,1,2,0,4,5,1,19,1,14,19,0,12,0,1,1,0,13,6,0,5,6,72,26,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20842805232322376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.220719800891552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39830690302690136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12867340039022132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1143855810180741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628562799867568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24900315334413606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1586546131273183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865737264086101,0.2131459340030041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15554759388474104,0.0,0.0,0.3717509753111039,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4768829132623668,0.0,0.2287139675980659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1704516478758719,0.2377734759195064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MtbPollack,2019/04/05,"Sons getting married and I am not invited. Son doesn’t want me at his Wedding In 2012 I had an affair and my wife and I separated. We got back together 5 months later and worked to make things between us. Easter of 2017 and one month before our 25th wedding anniversary my wife moved out. Three months later we decided to divorce and I started dating shortly there after. We have two sons, 25 and 22. My younger son is in the Navy and got engaged in November of 2017, I found out through Facebook. We talked about that and he apologized that I found out that way. He was deployed for 6 months and since he got back last October I have seen him one time and he hasn’t spoken to me or responded to any of my calls or texts. Recently I found out from his brother I am not wanted at the wedding. My younger son confirmed this with his only contact with me since October a text, “I have thought about it and I don’t really want you at my wedding.” I believe it is because I am dating, but since he has never said I can only assume. His brother has said he doesn’t know why and his mom said she believes it is because he is hurt. This is tearing me apart. I have talked to a couple of friends and they are supportive and the lady I am dating is understanding. I am not sure where to go from here. My biggest fear is losing him completely and any chance of seeing him again or my grandchildren if and when he has kids. I also wonder what my GF would do if one of her kids didn’t want her at their wedding because she was dating, but not sure asking her is the right way to go especially the odds of that are minuscule. 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Scared I won’t get to see me child Hi for those who divorced, how does visitation rights work? i did nothing wrong lets say. just irreconcilable differences. what if ex is not cooperative with my visitation time. 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We handled this well and decided that divorce was the best option, but that we would remain friends (still in the process of filing). Recently, he told me he had a steady girlfriend, and I just lost it. Not because I'm jealous of her being with him, but I'm jealous of the bonds she will form with his family. I don't have a family (dad died, mom and siblings are estranged, never knew uncles/aunts), so calling his mother my mother was huge for me. I loved having his sisters to call anytime for advice. Now that he has someone else, his family will be there to support him and welcome her to their family, as they did with me. I'm replaced in their family, and this breaks my heart more than anything. How should I handle ""breaking up"" with his family? To imagine life without a family again is a terrible feeling, and I fear that I will not have the strength to go through with the divorce because of this need for them. This would be a mistake in the end, as him and I have a better future apart. Advice?",4.348333333333333,5.3372693888888865,5.1584074074074096,83.72733333333336,70.3888888888889,7.611851851851853,29.677777777777766,7.793537801064563,1.9121244444444447,852,33,165,10,15,277,124,216,0.105,0.74,0.154,0.8933,0,0,0,0,2,0,32.0,2,0,4,4,8,15,3,1,12,0,23,3,1,1,1,33,35,15,1,5,6,6,1,0,2,6,1,0,0,0,9,15,0,0,4,0,0,2,5,7,1,0,8,1,33,8,30,17,3,19,0,1,0,1,36,7,0,1,8,131,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22227066835319734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358984225471463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865712356078105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11935229026258075,0.10058466627634613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322614529596668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11803345982071405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09500656026867453,0.0,0.10073074619269794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7504995925579164,0.1279775169534063,0.057505147096208076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08786727429322631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12927040439431173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1347702270436279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11629631069151745,0.08033064153002183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12414938841071725,0.0,0.10264548309629516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319883523017742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08432912207309,0.08771534606251209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122943457620695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09636279498681896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908246751924721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12905910139604787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1086735899986919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10225664727364027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1096313601087523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16158061359479653,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Sprite_xo,2019/04/06,"Thanks for ruining my life. When I met my husband I had life all figured out. I had a house, car, job. But my boyfriend broke up with me. I hadn’t considered him an option until I seen him going out of his way to do nice things for me. Fast forward to us married. I sold everything I had and moved away with him. A few things happened and it became sexless, not for my lack of trying. Also up until the end I tried everything to make it work. Now after 4 years of my first marriage we are getting a divorce. Little does he know I will be fucking a 60 year old rich man to not be homeless. Thank you for breaking my heart. Thank you for leaving me when I found out I have an autoimmune disease. Thank you for teaching me that I will pick myself up no matter what it takes. 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I’ve been married for 14 years (I’m 37) we are in the process of a divorce. Never thought we would be here. I grew up in a household with verbally abusive parents. I got married because I thought that was my escape. (Being told you can’t make it made me think I couldn’t do things on my own) Now 14 years later, and two kids, I have things that I’ve questioned including his love for me. We had problems with intimacy. Not only did I have a emotionally abusive household I was also sexually abused at 8-9yrs old by a family friend. So I had the issues. He would push to have sex and get angry when I couldn’t preform or had a panic attack. He would never take normal pictures of me. He only wanted to do pictures of me in sexy outfits or nude. He would require photo shoots every month. I hated them, I told him I didn’t like it and he didn’t listen. I had major headaches, black outs, and stomach issues due to stress. Since we’ve been separated they have lessened, almost to the point I don’t have any. Now he’s telling me no one will love me like he did. He’s said he has changed. What is happening to my life? Do I really want that? Is it wrong that I don’t want to go back? So many have said “you’re throwing away 14 years!” Or “you should stay together for the kids!” I wasn’t able to be a mother with all my health issues. I want to be better. I’m sure I’m not the only one who struggles with the feelings “is this what I really should do?”",0.9194630660922556,2.9306140912052143,2.878121256698538,92.06661342860146,82.35504885993484,5.394515078280972,21.303877272249657,6.532088108194933,0.30059134180939395,1134,35,249,11,31,380,156,307,0.134,0.765,0.101,-0.9211,1,0,0,1,2,0,37.0,3,2,2,2,9,14,2,3,12,0,45,7,2,2,4,44,72,11,0,14,5,2,1,2,1,7,2,3,0,2,14,12,0,1,5,0,0,5,13,7,0,3,21,5,38,7,28,38,3,29,0,0,1,4,34,10,0,5,15,162,52,1,0.09813238255591174,0.3488124798084292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09826540593645433,0.0,0.0,0.07847643087570932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673338524080487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11163975200807033,0.09219860373177637,0.07545774483501969,0.0,0.05982058957423929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679011772722277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10381104885457874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038572211780834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08268076471831018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251047671532177,0.0,0.049618681168451965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07581683533479742,0.0,0.05127011962073898,0.0,0.11154178893633618,0.0,0.07848543089371432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08677814180702248,0.0,0.0,0.09688541136405072,0.0,0.10431013377984634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3072741353849053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06931380391857468,0.09588505051742384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17713661320145166,0.09285523311614956,0.0655041273665099,0.09949083342520804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832833151858835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15137148619321456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614889942714326,0.0,0.0,0.10297342784887664,0.0,0.132994084211816,0.22390229684486102,0.0,0.11513720712637135,0.108964397643833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09276682070451092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09389943703825768,0.0,0.0,0.10993072711341548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1257322341771669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1866927358003221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08117612092231069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1045960628756341,0.0,0.0,0.11241031266308547,0.10258927307200544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09248860920990287,0.0,0.07378333895635075,0.0,0.08577202771371392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13038958900899794,0.06287926832988963,0.0,0.15581230051178582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18753939380608006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958610785642457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23152408701535102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788417160484654,0.10729235524539332,0.0,0.1895821109083904 divorce,dipdotgo,2019/04/06,"Divorce isn't always a bad thing This Friday I will have been divorced for a year. Living through our marriage and building up the courage to leave my ex husband was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I have never had anyone in my life treat me so badly and make me feel like I didn't even deserve to be human. Since leaving my ex husband my self confidence has sky rocketed. I'm doubting myself less on everything I do and I'm starting to feel comfortable in my own skin again. In the last year I've bought a home for my kids and I, got a pay raise at my job, and I started putting myself back through school. I think I've been able to accomplish so much because I didn't have that lingering fear over my shoulder anymore. I know divorce is hard and it hurts an unbelievable amount, but trust me, it could be one of the best things to happen to you. I still don't regret going through with it. Stay strong my friends!",3.600766917293232,4.7957666105263215,4.235488721804515,88.86842105263159,72.36842105263158,6.9022556390977465,28.83458646616541,7.1686216300943375,1.4362481203007524,736,29,154,7,14,234,117,190,0.059,0.752,0.19,0.9814,1,0,0,0,3,0,14.0,1,1,0,3,7,14,0,2,9,0,20,3,2,1,2,18,33,9,0,2,1,4,4,1,1,1,1,0,1,3,8,7,0,0,4,0,2,2,5,6,0,2,9,4,26,8,22,20,5,21,0,2,0,0,14,8,0,1,11,106,34,4,0.1510816278891794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12571201730066606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14983237802161867,0.1056397870429327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161724461344418,0.25229369720730394,0.09209795807227228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15855084747397624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12062638624556048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09978799033603483,0.1366619820121957,0.0,0.0,0.13578242534719115,0.0,0.0,0.1700088345681234,0.1527828211115269,0.1079327451515664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672529093299798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586317080690165,0.0,0.12083377939234305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13360098458766298,0.0,0.13533946313271478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1515471912158291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16173600739991786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14992520340239315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08303051156198282,0.12315169132594132,0.0,0.3199472589393798,0.0,0.0,0.10671342179268,0.07381085195885674,0.0,0.1334078453698815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10084815978409437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11106238017345234,0.0,0.11652346531505665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20475364216194014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15187876505425216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1529026732870096,0.0,0.0,0.15761108756712594,0.0,0.0,0.12497628382439338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21387270766566474,0.16103291327963154,0.12065398319239345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.301115760988324,0.0968070067426275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19458322990977586 divorce,CIaireVoyant,2019/04/06,"I need resources for a friend looking at divorce in California My friend (early 30s/F) and her husband (late 30's/M) have been separated for a few months. He moved out in January and has signed a new 12 month lease elsewhere (about an hour away) as of this month, with a friend as a room as a room mate. They have been married 8 years, together 12. They have a 2 year old child together. Her husband has been a less than present father. He's always been more focused on his hobbies, job and friends than parenting or their marriage. Since he's moved out, he comes by once a week at best to see their child. There may be infidelity at work here, she isn't sure yet. She cannot afford a lawyer and I need to know if there are any free or pro bono legal options for her to fight for child support, full custody and alimony. She is concerned he wants to bring their child to his new place for overnights, which she is not comfortable with given strangers and adults she and the child does not know being present. He seems to think that he will get at least 50% custody, not have to pay half of her medical insurance and preschool tuition and be able to do what he wants as far as taking the child places. Any advice, direction to resources or help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!",5.936987951807232,6.219600048192778,5.432594377510044,85.67997590361448,66.59036144578313,8.72835341365462,31.459437751004014,8.447377352677275,2.09333124497992,1008,37,209,13,15,307,149,249,0.028,0.8240000000000001,0.14800000000000002,0.9836,3,0,0,0,2,0,31.0,0,0,5,2,5,12,1,0,13,0,23,1,0,0,1,34,40,18,0,6,7,4,0,0,5,3,1,0,2,7,4,14,0,0,4,0,3,4,5,1,0,1,5,2,19,12,37,28,6,35,0,0,2,0,44,16,0,7,15,123,23,5,0.12853751693010346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12560537390678075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10695351101163984,0.0,0.0,0.17481983850347932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12076522835214876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348921938835429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11072368934571594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124840472645746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39723106691640425,0.0,0.06715554740561183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171306619273644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861559881436768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12658356226508996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12755365188889733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14128171551662094,0.0,0.14499591779731225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10793914122041946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12948802547445146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30779225908249724,0.2732300769684705,0.0,0.19061788022141712,0.0,0.2482846696381185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13487850168046694,0.13688826051982195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272570116131306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2685886947521049,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242775918487483,0.11701572788164777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10632756227463118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14586285097379142,0.12114508852759362,0.0,0.09664421604008187,0.0,0.0,0.1183400760292059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08236165073135489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15162951555520768,0.0,0.10310504281782884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09357684319955338,0.0,0.0,0.09130936410561942,0.0,0.0,0.1655478932699093 divorce,--Megatron,2019/04/06,"How long to wait before posting new bf on social media? I (26f) was with my partner (27m) for almost 10 years, married for a year and a half. We'd always had our issues, but I always assumed that's just how things are and in time we'd work on things and it would be better. Over the winter holidays, I realized that even if we did work on it, things had been unsatisfying for me for a long time and I have felt more like really close friends and roommates than a romantic couple for a lonnnng time. I realized that I was trying to force myself to have romantic feelings for someone that I didn't and had not felt romantic about for a very long time. I initiated the separation at the end of December. Nbsp; Like I said, I haven't felt anything for my STBX in possibly years, so I decided I just wanted to have some fun and see what's out there a few weeks after we decided to separate. It was all fun and dandy, but then I met someone at the beginning of February and we started talking for a few weeks before deciding we really liked each other and starting seriously dating. I understand that's super fast, be careful about rebounds, etc. I wasn't looking for anything serious, but sometimes you meet the right person and things just click. Nbsp; So we've been together for 2 months now and are super happy, things are going awesome, we do all sorts of stuff together and just generally love being in each other's company. He's met a lot of my friends and has become a pretty big part of my life. My question is how long should I wait before he starts appearing on my social media? We have one pic on fb, but I haven't posted anything else because I'm concerned about hurting my ex and his family since we've only been separated for 4 months. We have to wait a year before we can file where we live and that's the only reason it hasn't been finalized yet. I would really love to start posting more because I'm super happy and I think it's pretty normal for your SO to be a regular feature on your socials if you use them, but also I don't want to be inconsiderate so I've kept it pretty low key online. 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Had the big D talk last night after two weeks of avoiding one another... We were only married a few months and together a couple years. Its hard to think about going forward even though I'm the one initiating. But I keep telling myself it's better now to realize it wont work than 5 or 10 years down the road when children are involved. Any advice on how to make this transition easier? 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I married a gal (no prenup) who is the only child of very wealthy parents. she sold her house so that we could put the money towards a new place for us (me, her and our 2 young kids). her dad ended up just gifting her the money for the new house, but we were adding an extension with the money from sale of her old house. last month she told me she wants to separate and doesn't want me to live in the new house when it's done. I'm currently still living with her on her parents property and trying to find a new place to live. I'm a self employed welder, so I have earning power but not that much compared to what she has. she had a solicitor draft up a separation agreement and wants to give me £75,000. I know that with the sale of her old house and the gift of the new house adds up to about £650,000... and from everything I've read, I am entitled to half of that. I didn't marry her for the money and don't consider myself to be a gold digger, but I'm very hesitant to just take the first offer. I know that in the long run, I'm not taking away any luxury from her. her parents are old and worth 10s of millions. I don't want to burn any bridges because of the kids involved. I do have a solicitor.. but still wanted to hear some other outside opinions on what to do. in the UK if that matters. 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He was stationed in my hometown and 3 years older than me. We have no human kids together, but we have pups and a cat that we treat like our children. He used to be all about me and vice versa. We had a lot of fights before we moved to a new duty station, but I just chalked it all up to moving anxiety. When we got to our new home in a new state 8 hours away from my hometown, 4 from his hometown everything was fine for about a year and then we ended up getting into a weird slump again. Talking to each other and really questioning whether we really loved each other, if we were ready to spend the rest of our lives together, if the other was who we wanted to start a family with, etc. We were always able to communicate with each other and be accepting of what the other had to say. One night in October I was putting some music on on his phone and I found some messages with a couple of girls on tinder. So I decided to go get checked for STDs and turns out I popped up positive for one that I've gotten from him before we got married, again. He still denies that he gave it to me to this day. Luckily for me it was an easily curable one, but it really got the wheels in my head turning and the rose colored glasses removed from my eyes. I told him about what I found and I told him I was leaving. I left in December and decided that I liked it in our new town so I stayed. We decided that we didn't want others to know the WHY we're divorced because its something that needs to stay between us. We decided it would be better to just do it quietly and only tell our parents and close friends. Sometimes I don't really feel like my leaving is validated. It's really lonely when the only person that I want to talk to did me wrong and living in a town that I really don't know anyone makes it that much harder. If you made it this far, thank you for reading. Some words of encouragement or even constructive criticism would be very appreciated.",5.38591726618705,5.127412151079138,6.438528177458036,79.84829586330937,67.77697841726618,9.827697841726616,30.084832134292565,9.516144504307137,2.4828817745803358,1605,53,330,30,24,539,205,417,0.066,0.792,0.142,0.9904,1,2,1,0,2,0,30.0,21,2,0,1,14,15,1,0,17,0,26,3,2,3,2,77,53,29,0,9,10,1,1,3,1,2,0,2,1,5,31,39,0,1,11,1,2,5,4,4,0,3,24,5,56,11,57,23,13,49,0,1,2,1,54,21,0,9,23,239,87,3,0.08829656229349643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07346981311831859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06754662847620597,0.0,0.0,0.06173900935294367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08295752681983322,0.0,0.0,0.05382476483505397,0.0,0.15026774232532136,0.0,0.0,0.07809113400457186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09769846675029824,0.0,0.05694397808695852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07820454638386896,0.0,0.09847400709940517,0.058319046650142474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07935525679419134,0.0,0.08323814073750291,0.0,0.04464539491044309,0.0630790817449612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19362524620372745,0.06821770499886244,0.0,0.09226261898427486,0.0,0.05018097114647057,0.0,0.21185648073174013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09061774647196573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08856865124201665,0.0,0.08695432787106044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09705096296382396,0.0,0.0,0.18698662090334606,0.09593447328413836,0.0,0.0,0.12941172091490302,0.0,0.1559349643463371,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07506657974698272,0.07969109479783404,0.08354834216366752,0.058938640964951626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18769054426827228,0.06490813281838857,0.06547078213894922,0.0,0.34110948029505656,0.0,0.08286034233927918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17949610722919868,0.13430702883936865,0.0,0.0,0.09804288323327183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07709715243750725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876243277911189,0.09891235738629586,0.0,0.08832045659723405,0.0,0.3393902326074493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702169703002987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06797500743326954,0.08732755784551974,0.0,0.06249676125124881,0.18822477434685556,0.07051374870490547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14193886431435496,0.07717508727303599,0.08129161154258087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16874229827496984,0.0,0.0,0.19208260955837894,0.0,0.0,0.10620989277010733,0.07625988018121613,0.0,0.07285391105620427,0.1562388003772484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967391381815891,0.09857995854866304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544668900233255,0.0965384298413746,0.0,0.17058027360150765 divorce,kds0808,2019/04/06,"How to get through the loneliness? So me (43M) and my STBEW(36F) with 3 kids (18, 13 and 4) are separated now 5 weeks. I moved out to get some peace from our arguments. She told me about 2 weeks prior she didn't love me like a wife should love a husband and that through her therapy she uncovered repressed emotions that made her decide this. I have hired an attorney and she was served about 1.5 weeks ago. Anyways, our marriage had always been rocky but now that I'm out and have moved in with my brother and his family my anxiety and panic attacks are out of control and my feelings of loneliness are killing me. We've been married almost 19 years and would have been together 20 come September. I have come to believe she is and has always been a narcissist and me codependent. What do you guys suggest to help get through the pain and anxiety. I've been drinking some, lifting weights and trying to read and self improve. I have seen a therapist 1x and have another appointment next week but I feel hopeless about my future and miss being with my kids like I was daily when we were together. 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I am currently missing my kids so much and need suggestions or advice on how to improve parenting time. I have more custody than x wife, my children are with me 4 days a week which are Monday morning to Friday morning (turns into Friday @ 6pm) she has 4 days Friday until Monday morning. I am the parent that doesn’t get to do many fun things with my kids because every night is school night. I am the parent that does all the homework with them, gets them rdy for school, while other parent has all day to do fun things because weekend. This is a rant as well as solicitation of advice.",4.844452554744529,6.2885610729927,5.515043795620439,79.92366058394163,69.65693430656935,7.8157664233576645,29.75839416058394,8.238735603445708,2.217610802919708,565,22,101,8,10,183,84,137,0.047,0.8290000000000001,0.124,0.8934,5,0,0,0,1,0,14.0,0,0,2,1,3,5,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,1,2,14,21,9,0,1,1,5,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,7,8,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,1,1,0,13,4,17,20,4,16,0,1,0,0,16,2,0,1,14,70,20,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2741944847829947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17104829367690827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27144113820464244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.122775421252701,0.14357320892986014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11820682331639087,0.0,0.12609048372561926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14659946583867986,0.0,0.0,0.11767501463653154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09403855920033193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14223979916443136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10313491752693103,0.1040289317090208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2633196859113406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6231357604852483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283977429161427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18641505267633487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636173789674408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260355856014382,0.13705042055873776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11253831430391133,0.0,0.12614443877173362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,yas1189,2019/04/06,"Was I really that bad to her? I [32M] once called my wife [29F] some names I won’t repeat here, and I put rules on her to contribute more financially. We’ve been married for a few months and had a 2 year relationship before we got married. She paid the bills and occasional groceries, but I wanted her to help more with the rent. I decided we need to split costs in percentages (they were in her favor because she earns less than me). I didn’t apologize for cursing her out as I felt I was in my right because she wanted me to pay for her clothes that day indirectly. She didn’t ask me to, but she was complaining to me about how expensive they were and I took it as an indirect jab as “why didn’t you suggest to pay for it”. She denied it but I flipped and cursed her out. She became depressed after the argument and the rules I laid down, she stopped taking care of herself as much, she was having problems at work at the same time, that I knew at the time. She didn’t cook and clean as much anymore and I resented the fact she wanted a cleaner to help in the weekends. She spiraled down more and kept demanding I apologize for the rules and the names I called her. I refused and kept my foot down. I wouldn’t apologize to her in a 100 years. She’d cry a lot but I believe she was exaggerating. One day she flipped and kept yelling for me to get out of the house and she’d call the police if I didn’t . I didn’t and I shoved her out of my way because she was standing and raising her voice in my face demanding an apology. She fell but I didn’t check on her, because I think she was overdoing the whole fall to the ground. She ended up staying at her parents that night and after a while she called me crying to apologize and if I could come pick her up. I suppose I did but I started disliking her from that point onward. She became more and more depressed and I resented her even more. I was tired of all the crying, it seemed to be a ploy to get my attention in my eyes. I thought it was a bit overdone. I told her this and it made her feel worse. One day, she called me to tell me she passed out at work. She had been having troubles sleeping, back aches and the like, but I was cold on the phone. I thought she called me to make me feel guilty. She she said she couldn’t take it anymore and wanted a divorce. I remained cold when I got home. She was on the couch with tears i. Her eyes after resting at her parents house. She asked me why I was doing this to her and I answered it’s good that she wants a divorce. She then completely flipped. Started shoving me and trying to remove me from the room, physically. She wanted me out of the house and ended up packing my stuff with me and she drove me to a hotel. I was done and filed for a divorce. I don’t know how she was doing afterward but her laying her hands on me was the last straw. I saw how she could become when angry and didn’t want anything to do with that anymore. I’m a bit conflicted as she keeps telling me that she was genuinely depressed and miserable by my actions that led to her meltdown. She apologized, but I don’t think what I did was so bad that she would flip that way. I think that’s just the way she is and I honestly can’t deal with it. TL;DR: set rules for my wife to ensure more financial contribution and support, called her names and didn’t apologize, she became depressed and physical. Am I really at fault or is just her personality. 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For 6 years she said no. It took her 3 months to get pregnant after our break-up. To the best of my knowledge its a random guy who means nothing. I don't know why, this was more devistating than everything that had happened before (finding out she cheated, reconciliation attempts, the divorce process).",4.254848484848488,5.947629571428571,5.199415584415586,80.64293290043291,71.46753246753245,7.2112554112554115,31.01515151515152,7.793537801064563,2.128525541125541,315,14,59,4,6,103,63,77,0.073,0.845,0.08199999999999999,0.1779,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,1,0,0,2,1,3,1,0,4,0,4,0,0,0,0,8,12,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,5,2,0,1,4,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,5,1,10,2,11,7,2,8,0,0,0,0,10,1,0,1,6,38,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21961225225310815,0.0,0.2708454270842491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2319511347281281,0.0,0.2433005950292215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23588600913448066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13483932905600504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555458037103304,0.2282246755916017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1418373646266385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811314107500622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2060018534415612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2476405623987306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24549897114695485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826746617008133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28674314038322857,0.17522351277855433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23288255201898336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3323979584340986 divorce,PocketProtectorLife,2019/04/06,"I’m a terrible person (I’m a 24/F and he’s the same age). I’m heavily contemplating on divorcing my husband, and chances are, I probably will. However, I’m so scared of telling him over the phone (he moved to a different state and I was supposed to join him when I finished schooling in the state I’m in). Words can’t describe how heartbroken I am over having the conversation. He’s liked me ever since high school and has been nothing but very sweet and loving to me. Unfortunately, there are issues that I have with our marriage: Let’s just say that money is a big factor, as well as his religion that I can’t see myself being a part of any longer. There’s also the issue of rushing into marriage and being unprepared, and how I wish I could’ve waited. (Basically, I want to do things in life that I should’ve done before getting married). I have also been falling out of love with him for a while... I’m a terrible person, and I am so devastated that I’m going to put him through this nonsense. We had dreams of having kids and growing old together, etc., but here I am about to trash our marriage. He doesn’t deserve this. (He also has mental health issues, and I am horrified that he might do something to himself). God help us.",3.558196405648264,5.0270724105691125,5.096872058194268,81.58122593068036,72.86178861788619,7.943175010697478,28.39452289259735,8.532816995589336,2.118173983739838,967,38,189,17,19,326,141,246,0.139,0.722,0.139,-0.4556,2,0,1,0,0,0,38.0,4,0,0,0,15,8,0,1,12,0,28,4,0,2,1,27,43,23,0,2,3,1,0,1,0,2,2,1,0,3,9,15,0,1,0,1,1,6,3,3,1,0,5,3,28,5,27,33,3,24,0,0,1,2,31,10,0,1,7,134,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3233146009548463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09164483135778967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11467510168810208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759889839404724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14080075720168114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13791139956095727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1502986150322469,0.0,0.1219026713353153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0704091580156088,0.0,0.07659006357560147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432489088432643,0.0,0.0,0.09033014870030144,0.14238663725596545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42197898722424587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137806358248898,0.09518851543290988,0.0658393789906923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2432613748809315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13581143785533706,0.14296438397115485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14323388317941393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1293106663395248,0.0,0.1414132131239983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14593737828077452,0.0,0.0,0.23534322560044085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1452994793582961,0.0,0.0,0.13547606222753192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1071705488458696,0.13492328976836848,0.272778779490174,0.10739026871561057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11147901287129396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10374869242107662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11779056294948073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08953188761833145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16210571963377546,0.0,0.0,0.11119525094958936,0.07948789737409456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12116993293881248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15497311617135662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,callipygouss,2019/04/06,"Broken My STBXH left two weeks ago. We were married for 21 years and have two children together. Luckily one is living on his own and the other will be going to college soon. I am 41 and feel like my life is falling apart. I feel so broken and scared. I seriously don't know where to go from here. How do I start all over? I had been with this man since I was 17 and can't imagine being on my own. Financially I will be fine, I work full time and have a great job but my family was everything to me. Everything I did was for my STBXH and children and I feel like I have nothing now. I apologize if this doesn't make much sense, I am just feeling so lost, lonely and afraid.",0.7070212765957429,2.8195720425531974,2.6377021276595762,92.89400000000002,83.8936170212766,6.029503546099291,20.038297872340426,7.3011,0.4377438297872343,522,15,118,8,15,174,91,141,0.13,0.779,0.091,-0.6732,1,2,0,0,0,0,14.0,1,0,0,2,8,9,0,2,2,0,23,1,0,2,1,23,33,14,0,1,3,0,4,2,0,2,1,0,0,3,3,11,0,0,6,0,0,3,3,5,0,3,8,4,21,4,10,20,5,17,0,2,0,0,6,7,0,1,9,86,24,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255858056886185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3296268802063106,0.0,0.17287782658580764,0.0,0.3708972243155859,0.2620186962005065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084423594977863,0.0,0.0,0.20218117075370812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18198002037253236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10078288268208696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19924692081143194,0.0,0.12952932683194585,0.17918402027623742,0.0,0.16193116212159933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20018496555175733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12241004017706698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13480811596660586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1759616009029397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12426553750263344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1835990698895396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15169688724986885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12979992294446024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1069325070834291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35827844596142755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1470993383148484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13350551379497005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11809308688444616 divorce,ShorD19,2019/04/07,"Just Depressed? I (29F) think about filing for divorce. I can’t tell if divorce is what I really want or if I’m trying to push my husband (31M) away because of my depression. I can’t decide if my miserable marriage makes me depressed or if my depression makes my marriage seem/be miserable. We’ve been together 10 years, no kids. Did anyone struggle with the decision because of their depression? 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And couldn't be happier! :) Well not exactly, completely happier.. Hes still super bitter, and irrational. But I have found an awesome awesome guy, who loves me like crazy ! And is great with my 12 year old ! I could not as for more. So long story short, I never ever thought I'd be able to get away from ex. I just assumed I'd live that life forever. We had been together on and off for 12 years. I met him when I was 16 and he was 25 ! Yes. I did just say that. 🙄 Gross! He molded me, manipulated me and did some horrible things. He literally made me feel like I was legit crazy, something wrong with me. Nope, not so much.!! It was him. Hes the most narcissistic person I have ever met! Point of the story, if anyone feels like they are stuck, or wont find anyone else, NEVER BELIEVE THAT! You deserve better and will be soo glad ya walked away. I'm actually enjoy time with my significant other and I enjoy life, and I will be damned if any man, or woman really will ever make me feel any less again! Divorce can be a great thing !!! And I'm so glad I did ! 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Hi - 44/M going thru tough times with wife of 13 yrs for past few months. Recently getting way worse, we've hardly talked or interacted except when necessary...basically avoiding each other in our own house. We have an 11 yr old daughter together. It's really been blowing up lately, she obviously has severe anger issues, and she's just relentlessly screaming, berating everyone, especially our daughter. I almost feel like she's being abusive, but she claims she's just getting on her because she's not doing homework or cleaning her room, whatever. It's insane. Today she said she can't be in the house with me anymore, she thinks I should stay at my mom's house for a while till she sorts things out. I'm hesitant to do this (mainly because I don't really want to subject my daughter to her rants while she's in this state), although my mom just had surgery and I could spin it like I'm staying with her to help her out. But I'm not sure if this would trigger anything, i.e. an official separation and I'm the one who ""abandoned her"".... Would there be any adverse effects going forward if I were to just stay at my mom's for a few nights to let things cool down (although not sure there is any cooling down with her...)? I want to make sure I don't screw myself even more here. THANKS.",4.8044830544830575,5.912064559845562,5.375334620334623,82.15228549978552,69.42471042471043,8.226598026598026,29.83290433290433,8.515128840125781,2.166304847704848,1047,40,203,16,18,337,151,259,0.154,0.779,0.067,-0.952,0,1,0,0,0,0,42.0,3,0,0,1,10,15,2,1,6,2,20,1,0,3,4,46,36,15,0,9,14,8,2,2,0,4,0,3,3,0,10,12,0,2,3,0,0,4,6,7,0,1,5,7,35,8,31,22,6,35,0,1,0,1,36,14,1,6,16,135,45,1,0.0,0.12945779615564834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10941027308879674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14860403483313156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1083587058106103,0.0,0.0,0.08991345018833527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13321040053267205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872369461979292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.072166628008095,0.0,0.0,0.10440467881697624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055246232437658915,0.07805691088692908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11416994079539708,0.0,0.12419241005557292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09787743653142712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07323612453131859,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3782215979197944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1140413106905153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12325247868584913,0.0,0.0,0.11172796413087403,0.0,0.10675994733109373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07293334205781196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3838995733324741,0.08721201587037151,0.11612838743834475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253513810153404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1146522599125144,0.0,0.07403886919379804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430309759854067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1399922785266289,0.0,0.10788320421173596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078666750821428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12343514364834343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3493767830350145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30893488592930546,0.0,0.0,0.08782078762633974,0.0,0.10059391960855492,0.0,0.0,0.1451778518132399,0.07001078206551993,0.0,0.0,0.06371164575172024,0.0,0.10356775458001898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.128891308928011,0.08672721904113934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11134747835101104,0.1552334110395887,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thrvy5545,2019/04/07,"How is child support calculated ? I moved out of our family home into a small condo and have two options. sell my home or rent it out to cover mortgage I know my ex is itching to go back and modify orders since I earn more on paper Controlling my finances is a way to control my ability to do things like self care or start dating. The longer I am embroiled in courts the worse it is for my life ... Ex has been very good at showing a deflated income since there is extended network of friends and family outside the country to hide purchases and money under I am ok with the current order even though it’s taxing towards me and have no interest in pursuing a more equitable plan but I don’t want hold my financial future hostage. I need to understand the implications of selling my old home versus renting it out on my divorce custody. 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It's been three years since she decided to walk away and end things. We were together for 6 years, married for 2. It was a hard situation and surprised me; we were definitely having issues and had been, but we were in counseling. We made it maybe four times before she...didn't any more. I'm not in denial; the situation wasn't just...her fault. It was our fault. Mine as much as hers. I was selfish, I wasn't pulling my weight at things...I own it. Now, she wouldn't tell you that, but that's because of who she was...unable to accept any blame on her part. But none of this is really important to my post, I can go into more detail if someone would like. I'm posting today because it's three years later and I'm struggling. I'm struggling hard. It's been three years since the end, two since the final documents were signed, and I'm still single. Still without an actual relationship since. I've put effort into the online dating thing, with limited results...been ghosted more times than I care to count, rarely get matches that I really am excited about. I delete them from time to time and take breaks. The current girl I've been talking to for 6 weeks seems to be ghosting me now, too. All of my friends are married, outside of one or two. All of the married ones, outside of one or two, have children. I'm on tinder and bumble. Hanging out with them...it makes me realize how far behind I am. She's also remarried, so I've heard. But we don't talk, so that's all I know. All I care to know, really. I just don't know what to do any more. I'm not certain it's going to get better. I'm scared it won't. That the ""peak"" of my happiness was in a doomed relationship that I can't even be certain that my Ex ever truly loved me (there's many instances where...it'd be very easy to conclude she didn't, but I'm not here to bash her, that's unfair). Last Wednesday was the three year anniversary of the ""end"", that fateful counseling meeting that ended with her ending ""it"". And I've had all sorts of anxiety since. Not really sure what I'm looking for...I just...needed to tell...someone. I don't tell my friends these things; not only won't they understand, I try to keep a happy-go-lucky facade. tl;dr: A rambling post where I explain how terrified I am that the best has already come and past...and that the best was a failed marriage. I just don't believe it'll get better any longer.",1.933061377245508,4.015409552894212,3.3189483532934148,89.85770396706587,79.21956087824351,6.171007984031937,22.413547904191613,7.251919499444523,0.7651799401197605,1930,60,402,25,48,630,229,501,0.099,0.752,0.149,0.9847,1,0,0,0,0,0,109.0,6,1,2,9,20,26,0,4,18,0,42,2,0,5,9,66,75,24,2,3,16,1,3,1,2,5,0,1,0,2,31,21,1,2,10,0,0,7,18,9,0,13,21,5,46,17,47,46,16,56,1,2,1,1,35,13,0,5,33,252,77,1,0.0,0.0,0.06871802764458909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07770826008103475,0.056313427448573435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19154722538835384,0.0,0.05386974781059575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0661602384839884,0.0,0.0,0.0858525902192252,0.0,0.05992072117991911,0.0793372231717775,0.14779916104559426,0.1245583914392292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1435921428441317,0.0,0.0,0.060659063812462624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31184822147156344,0.0,0.0,0.04651057212580518,0.06369731417407246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.077139721221881,0.0,0.05989770446476603,0.0,0.0,0.10880988873636674,0.0,0.11037184525306316,0.0,0.1200608966665181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07496150774763248,0.12616179242220435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07349832952701629,0.0,0.06259095207637487,0.0,0.0,0.11610004120660862,0.05740025029606875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03440278676962027,0.07057755892291137,0.0,0.0,0.059133571992064135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06355519551981535,0.06663142519297707,0.047004710622968016,0.07139302549018882,0.07074456980180074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0517654962899437,0.05221422004845197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07389207936179873,0.0,0.14315163091858446,0.05355623171714512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07625607324486865,0.0672221617900404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20232357656289332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07078976370449176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18044686712363012,0.0,0.0,0.15120563631964662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0705009257273382,0.0,0.0,0.06410610544661433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2912534085141553,0.15830606599854527,0.0,0.0,0.11933026357287832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16870825142298834,0.0,0.0,0.2208492481758797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636834176123901,0.0,0.052945739999473496,0.11319900041835736,0.18464589199105574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403482149755924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16424572835281934,0.0,0.06674824156618951,0.0,0.0,0.047809351006831854,0.0,0.20636511495098706,0.07330785351887996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0581024087234167,0.0,0.0,0.056485250885612376,0.08575042476860631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06788065403987101,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050023085183373665,0.0,0.0,0.3174291877760078 divorce,LifeGivesMeAnxiety,2019/04/07,"Should I stay or should I go? TLDR; I'm not sure really what to say...I've been in denial up until recently. I beginning to suspect I'm in a more abusive relationship that I ever thought I was. Given the information below, I could use advice on whether I can save my marriage or if I should be keeping my intentions of leaving to myself. On New Year's Eve I married who I thought was my best friend. A man who commanded a room, got even the grouchiest of people to laugh with his antics, and a man who loved me dearly. But since we've been married it seems like more and more awful things are going on. I can't tell if I am stressed out and nagging him, or if these are really reasons to get anxious and head for the hills. Let me preface this with a simple fact: he has a medical condition called gastroparesis. He cannot digest food. Obviously this is a stressful condition that results in hunger pain, starvation, and major stress. I think I may have let him use this condition as an excuse to walk over me. He throws things often....His anger is beyond his control. When he gets upset at anything, he becomes terse and slams things. Then it leads to throwing and breaking things. I have a list of things on the fridge that I need him to fix that he's broken. I don't think those will ever be fixed. We don't ever have sex on my terms. Sex is how he likes it, on his terms, when he's aroused. I don't think in the 4 years we've been together that he's even asked what I like in bed... Sometimes he gets rough. Sometimes he doesn't care if I don't want to. In the mornings once in a while I find him masturbating over me in bed (he likes to cum on my panties while I'm sleeping). I told him this is a gross violation of my body and trust. He doesn't stop. My heart is sad. I've been so depressed. I love him so much...but he won't listen. At what cost? Is this a marriage that I even want to save?",2.0572824129651863,3.7573916760204114,3.475858343337336,90.67754501800724,77.39285714285714,6.5505402160864366,23.51920768307323,7.39963492309942,0.8345798919567824,1475,47,325,19,34,484,193,392,0.155,0.733,0.113,-0.9325,0,0,0,0,0,0,55.0,1,0,0,3,12,26,3,4,18,1,39,14,5,8,6,57,68,27,0,11,10,0,1,4,1,6,3,1,3,2,27,12,3,3,10,0,1,6,10,11,0,0,11,2,46,15,43,46,7,50,0,2,0,5,42,24,0,9,22,209,73,1,0.0,0.11572354733915036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09544246244115252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11033984134976067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037448279117929,0.0,0.09130871404466273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10786937133237494,0.0,0.0,0.10249914273484508,0.0,0.0,0.1084898847972581,0.0,0.0,0.09973248006527456,0.0,0.0995815635275668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095457481579046,0.0779819305816176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412344111284714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19353129221883308,0.2650456220928249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08926904906504944,0.0,0.11810353183688177,0.0,0.07545997039259869,0.0,0.1530863834472244,0.0,0.1110167689472304,0.0,0.07811600504475022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10023809018395698,0.0,0.0,0.11573998879921955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08681401011210188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341893557848256,0.0,0.1997493658962148,0.0,0.19086745156762785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.176302842615377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09839273291838953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07179904074457122,0.07242142317551976,0.0,0.09433075799064523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10401587334148688,0.0,0.0,0.10392827676217847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771241281617298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12514042067975545,0.10042152020484654,0.09643781572401916,0.10486154312242307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07767148572363843,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891553654111113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079403016934092,0.0,0.09774101622810312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19319720385172015,0.0,0.0,0.10410373597003986,0.0,0.08165689448705843,0.3356436137668495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0920532713059402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08536830432461233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3244396341087528,0.18774989903742406,0.0,0.1550789020868786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09332832900213084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16871187034842794,0.0,0.0,0.115217159053151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12579317344615834 divorce,as240LS,2019/04/07,"She asked for a divorce today So she finally asked for a divorce. We’ve been going back and forth for a long time now. She went to have a weekend to relax and stayed in touch the entire time. We argued the first night she was gone. Today and argument happened on FaceTime. She texts and says she can’t do it anymore. For the first 7 years of our marriage she said she wanted me to chase after her. I had a horrible relationship prior to her and swore I’d never chase a mother woman. Not the entire last year I’ve been chasing her, begging for her to work things out, etc. and now she says I’m a nuisance, don’t give her space, all of the above. Why the hell are women so damn confusing? I’m 34 and god damnit when u say you want something and the person does it then you say they’re being a fucking nuisance...make your damn mind up. 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I wanted to wait another 3 years till my youngest graduated high school and went off to college. I can't wait another 3 minutes . I have 2 older daughters that are self sufficient 22 and 18. They actually took me out to lunch and told me ""it's time to leave dad"" . They can tell how unhappy and emotionally tortured I am. He's extremely mean and always picking fights with me . This weekend was the end for me when he fought with me for standing too close to his friend . I'm 48 yrs old female, married for 23 years, together for 28. He's just extremely mean and always picking fights with me. Neither of us have cheated. I stayed this long for the sake of the family, but I honestly can't do it anymore . He refuses to leave the house . So now we'll be forced to sell it . The sale will give us enough to pay off the mortgage and all our debt . I'm not financially secure right now. I've worked full time our first 18 years of marriage when the kids were little, because he was always in between jobs . Now I'm working part time making $15/ hour. He told me he will not give me a dime if we divorce . He's very angry and spiteful. He makes over $250k a year. I know florida laws suck when it comes to alimony . A few women I know said they never got any money from their ex . I don't mind working 3 jobs and I'm not a spoiled brat that needs stuff . I just want peace in my life ! It scares me to death that I won't make enough money to live . Does anyone know what legal rights I have if he doesn't pay ?",1.58342857142857,3.5567978666666704,3.0770634920634947,91.70321428571432,79.85714285714286,6.358730158730159,22.563492063492063,7.42949916751922,0.7697111111111109,1188,38,262,17,30,389,177,315,0.155,0.8009999999999999,0.044,-0.985,5,0,0,0,3,0,36.0,6,0,4,4,11,11,7,1,11,0,20,2,0,6,2,46,49,18,1,5,8,3,0,0,1,4,1,1,0,3,12,16,1,5,5,1,8,3,11,8,0,1,10,1,34,3,31,34,7,39,0,0,0,0,40,12,1,2,22,142,46,11,0.0,0.0,0.09625553605400868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24622179151834794,0.0,0.0,0.06707657907024417,0.3102886540560739,0.0,0.0,0.0978214529156814,0.06896932152242705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06012823254995854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08496708802530159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08631795058354498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095340946878464,0.08736315273914336,0.20383688807943987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09298623595715584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08390062767051235,0.0,0.0,0.07620674317418888,0.0,0.0,0.18924330004015572,0.0,0.0,0.07888906268140816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10421546301022397,0.0,0.0,0.09713762918386973,0.1138139169524305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.195764112125152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1626250357480183,0.0,0.0,0.20888479605739196,0.0,0.0,0.06967026822371943,0.0,0.098860240905694,0.08709832572068914,0.08729068878684577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19752299825067526,0.0,0.0,0.21488933631118887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09959530618985273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313812565168197,0.07607497675999113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10350299554436257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10681431727816106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16847101019775232,0.09382642593031054,0.0,0.09875289834112597,0.09982596454198253,0.0,0.0,0.10289995917446088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10513397539472827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129158280231741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08621313272500061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17254817806634082,0.0,0.0,0.18850386402587765,0.10958939622637742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372964619969164,0.0,0.0,0.08138589958703446,0.1163573799928809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09143753718066297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2154268500331704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2540761151111671 divorce,generic9000,2019/04/07,Dumb question - stbxh wants to mow the lawn Married 27 years and a week ago he told me he wants a divorce. He moved out last Thursday. Our kids and I are devastated. I love him and didn’t see this coming. I’m living in a rental house and will move when the lease is up in October. In the meantime he’s offered to mow the lawn for me. I don’t know how divorce works. I’m going to be broke so I’ll be moving into a cheap apartment. Do I let him mow the lawn or should I figure the riding lawn mower out? If he does it should I leave?,-0.32104774535809355,1.665612120689655,1.8262068965517244,97.86255968169762,87.27586206896551,4.258885941644564,17.54376657824934,5.369823440869387,-0.6939236074270556,410,10,98,2,13,137,74,116,0.105,0.857,0.038,-0.755,2,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,1,0,0,1,3,3,1,0,10,0,11,1,0,1,0,18,21,9,0,5,2,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,1,2,8,0,0,3,0,1,6,2,2,0,0,2,1,11,1,11,13,0,20,0,1,1,1,15,8,1,3,6,54,13,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1786328190922553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1735892049526278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17634904011863836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145268559956386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2325237667369935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074857067984106,0.16426339588395136,0.0,0.2133775942956694,0.0,0.20606496730318175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17794335978722953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18187712054050684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6425426046183842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22574535828540254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605831000307938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19255829902636126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2377201049578197,0.0,0.16164492454248275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14670690535128642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12977045537463355 divorce,MrsB-izzle,2019/04/07,"Please tell me it gets easier to cope I've just moved across the country to be close to my son, my ex (we're separated, soon to divorce I guess) is playing happy families with her best friend and moved to be with her. I'm in my rented house, boxes everywhere and drowning in flat pack and I just don't want this at all. I can't cope, I hate every second of being here and I can't stop crying. I moved for my son and I love him so much but don't feel I can be the person I can for him when all I want to do is hide in the bathroom and cry my eyes out. I feel like I've given up my life, Ive left my life 200 miles away yet I have my son who is my absolute beautiful boy and I don't know why it isn't helping, having him here with me 50/50. I'm so heartbroken and alone, I don't know anyone here except my ex and I haven't lived alone in years. I'm so scared and sad. I just don't know what to do. 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I don't want to attend, if I don't what can happen .I live in California. Thank you",3.803571428571427,6.857132714285719,5.6910714285714326,69.84517857142862,79.0,8.071428571428571,31.607142857142854,8.841846274778883,3.6151428571428585,155,8,23,4,4,53,32,35,0.039,0.883,0.079,0.3134,0,0,0,0,1,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,0,0,3,8,2,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,4,1,2,8,0,5,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,1,1,15,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3240797890154488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3367890632468059,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42925157637431055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3363021867733009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36544090955978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28965759980157685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506403691140849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2246383097208184,0.0,0.30549913000093604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Shakkakhan90,2019/04/07,"Stay Together for the Kids First post on Reddit and it's a sad one. My husband and I have been married for 5 years. We have two small children together. When I was pregnant with our first, I caught him sending inappropriate messages to a girl on Reddit (ironically enough). If you knew my husband, you would not think he was capable of that. He's not your typical offender for this. He said it's because we weren't being intimate and I was tired all the time (8 months pregnant when I found the messages). I ""forgave"" him and stayed. I have never really let go of the hurt I experienced from that. We fight all the time. He never puts down his phone and has a terrible spending problem. We just finished filling for bankruptcy at the age of 28. About 2 years ago, a friend of his (a girl) who was the ""best woman"" at our wedding came back into the picture. She had originally been asked to leave the picture due to the inappropriate ways they interacted with each other. It was to the point that people thought they were dating and I was the awkward third wheel. When she came back into the picture, I asked him to only hang out with her in large groups with me there. One night he was late getting home from work. I called him and he said he was finishing up mopping the restaurant and he would be home soon. I heard voices in the background so I thought nothing of it. A couple of days later, I found two movie tickets in his jeans pocket from that night. He admitted he was with her but he swore on his life that he just felt hopeless and needed someone to talk too since we weren't communicating well. I told her she had to be out of our lives and he agreed, but never deleted her from social media. I won't make him delete her because I want him to make that decision himself. Fast forward two years, I am still harboring a lot of anger towards him. I envisioned such a different life for myself. I always wanted to be married and to be a mom, but I want someone to be head over heels in love with me. He says that's a fairytale, but my sister has been married for 5 years as well and they act like they were married yesterday. Their communication skills are out of this world. When my husband and I were dating we had this. He used to be the most kind and genuine person I've ever met. I am not without fault for sure, but I keep begging for him to talk to me so we can work on things. When we talk he just sits there staring at a wall. He refuses to talk to me. The only form of communication he will use is fb messenger. Neither one of us can read each other's tone over that and nothing ever gets solved from that. He was raised by his grandparents due to his parents being crappy people so he has a lot of deep seeded parental issues. His grandparents hate each other so he never grew up talking about problems. They just ignore them. I am a product of divorce and I swore I would never do that to my kids. Part of me feels like I still have love for him in there somewhere. If I could get us back to the way we were in the beginning, I feel like everything would be ok. I just don't know what to do. I feel completely lost. I also have no friends to talk to about this. Hoping Reddit can give me some advice. Sincerely a sad mom ",2.8155183263413583,4.694241296754253,3.889308622212411,87.75634756568779,75.75425038639877,6.661614042835064,25.000248399205127,7.514486670522907,1.1596010377566794,2537,87,520,33,56,821,282,647,0.093,0.8190000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.0071,5,0,0,0,2,1,66.0,14,3,7,7,33,30,4,1,33,1,58,7,2,5,10,104,100,34,0,14,16,8,4,3,2,6,3,5,3,7,24,41,0,3,13,2,1,11,15,15,2,9,37,11,94,15,86,46,14,90,0,5,1,2,118,30,0,7,48,380,118,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06568828079757738,0.059587993418445284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05375718029423315,0.055933850957949394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256864564057045,0.0,0.0,0.15506804584870448,0.0,0.08195546568989244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07054504145499038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864088569808104,0.15376746519368367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07048068804466595,0.0,0.0,0.053671068643486544,0.07437954781824302,0.0,0.043352444331650516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07023238358028011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06945799992311806,0.0,0.0,0.12161177741990804,0.0,0.0,0.060414541944021766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10196795495551138,0.09604641163861212,0.06454338708636152,0.0,0.0,0.11435751095291186,0.0,0.14741027917702976,0.10387065876851534,0.0,0.10536171306735877,0.06448519325175849,0.038203649116564944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06636752549089656,0.06898887189416841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348577198675998,0.06676632953649646,0.0,0.0,0.07196223500895864,0.0,0.0,0.07016200452932768,0.0,0.059749747937649776,0.0,0.0700010706381818,0.036943295942524296,0.0,0.0758290212156131,0.07117808893766314,0.0,0.0687387568411638,0.09496136897538954,0.09852340168891917,0.0,0.05935800490491831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338044148777924,0.1142989945198011,0.12134044255480685,0.0,0.08974203198499008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15745851767731495,0.05365573067740717,0.0,0.0,0.04984404907036966,0.2592276491136075,0.0,0.0,0.12616604948391552,0.0,0.1290020948732609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13665351908710385,0.1022502850471138,0.0,0.0,0.14928351619531013,0.07279456541156598,0.0,0.09320614478681792,0.058695407687740786,0.0,0.0,0.06354624758398354,0.0,0.06437982008819029,0.0,0.0,0.12864420336310273,0.0,0.0675763891999603,0.0,0.0,0.06723990501911302,0.0,0.04306395121462391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12788648701336394,0.0534574049503932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055606496362181616,0.0,0.0,0.06852407185905919,0.11391348003642225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432988057007272,0.10736669505868328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633556697849083,0.0,0.0,0.3241816037661956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04465911972952165,0.043072959953198035,0.0,0.1067330641468294,0.07839504387904045,0.07726147137844043,0.0,0.06423322832476812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1969975402578944,0.0,0.16171888998535475,0.116115955413086,0.0,0.0,0.11894732548286382,0.10671493511143047,0.0,0.0,0.12088078754243925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06479933335693727,0.0,0.097876416606269,0.0,0.0,0.19100950738842115,0.0,0.0,0.1731543191238271 divorce,WelcomeAnyChange,2019/04/07,"How to talk to our kids about our separation? Our kids are 12 and 13. They know that mom and dad's relationship is not good, but they don't know that dad is moving out and separation is starting. Here's what we're planning to cover when we all sit down together to announce this. What else would you recommend to cover or recommend against covering? - Mom and dad love you no matter what. We are always your mom and dad and are always here for you. - This has been a very difficult decision for mom and dad. We tried very hard for a long time to work it out and could not. - Even though this is a big change and there will be a period of adjustment, we're hoping that this separation will make everyone's lives better. - Somehow find the right way to let them know that this separation is in no way due to anything they have done. - Talk about specifics: dad is going to spend some time living in a nice hotel. He will find a place to rent nearby. Then you will spend some time with mom and some time with dad. - Mom and dad are always available. You can call or text any time. - Questions?",3.5500522264980745,5.175877023364485,4.0418416712479415,88.50560472787248,73.15887850467291,7.652116547553601,22.86860912589335,8.313332769828598,1.0785379879054422,849,22,180,14,17,267,112,214,0.057,0.8320000000000001,0.111,0.935,1,0,0,0,0,0,27.0,6,6,4,3,10,6,0,0,7,0,24,1,0,2,1,42,32,18,0,3,5,14,1,0,0,5,0,0,1,2,13,18,0,0,8,1,3,2,5,1,0,0,2,1,16,5,24,22,4,24,0,0,0,1,39,8,0,8,11,115,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2457733487386212,0.0,0.0,0.06695441276080695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08102205654668887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707757511324801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10053602037333416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10415488123464377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07861022764674247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075611067006507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08224852946589065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06503018850915249,0.0,0.0,0.0940802713401533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17997657191795555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05595561314305796,0.08258140140624806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08819849734031285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09779042036343663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1623288474105268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067936897868593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17387938776577208,0.08713170659894745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08886165352278144,0.0,0.06572108346381376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6918727481515041,0.0,0.10464464164145726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10286703434382198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1102948284683554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1057064080712246,0.0,0.08408208730500308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06968865917444278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827266790745748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673390212429983,0.0,0.2870565279146732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06684611619192572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16247534353692722,0.0,0.15630181314519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07167816465305238,0.0,0.0,0.0699413167932057,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ashipooh,2019/04/07,"24 F Betrayed Discoverd my husband sexting other people behind my back. I feel like the only step next is out. He was dishonest and that's where my problem is. I don't feel like I can trust him. Additionally, the people he was sexting he was also telling how bad of a wife I am because I guess I wasn't giving him enough attention. (I work 70 hours a week to support his passions financially). We don't have kids, we don't own any property together besides our car which I'm willing to let him take in exchange for me keeping the apartment and the cat. I feel hurt, I feel stupid, I feel betrayed. 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Hey all - first time poster here. I'm not divorced myself (although my dad is a family law attorney) and it is my first time dating a divorced man. We met on OKCupid and his profile does not say divorced, but in his questions he answered ""yes"" to the question ""have you ever been married?"". Through a little bit of light snooping on the part of my friends, we discovered he was just married in late 2015. So this divorce (and I'm praying it's a divorced and not just a separation) must be fairly fresh and also short-lived. &#x200B; My question for you all is, when you reveal this fact about yourselves to a new date, what would be their ideal response in a perfect world? It is definitely not a deal breaker for me at all, and I really like him. But I definitely would like to know a few factors, such as - how recently this happened, if it's legally official, what was the underlying cause, and if marriage is still a path he'd be willing to go down again? Would you be uncomfortable with someone asking you that? &#x200B; This guy seems extremely sweet and sensitive, and my heart breaks for him that he underwent something that probabaly hurt him deeply. But I'm not sure what the most appropriate reaction would be when he decides to divulge this information to me. Any advice would be helpful!",7.5198537682789635,7.384150141732285,7.373903262092237,74.5097637795276,63.33070866141732,10.091788526434195,38.61529808773904,9.606745405546679,3.726084139482565,1072,52,191,18,14,342,146,254,0.038,0.7959999999999999,0.166,0.9891,0,0,1,0,6,0,43.0,2,5,1,4,15,8,0,0,14,1,24,1,1,4,8,55,33,23,0,10,12,1,0,2,1,8,0,1,0,2,15,12,0,0,10,0,0,1,5,1,0,2,4,3,25,7,23,14,7,27,1,1,0,0,41,10,0,7,17,142,40,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1164726432402244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09531747224904627,0.0,0.2582880780719733,0.28966165843633546,0.08105436912452904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11142804789016138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13012634700567685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12244259677778492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1228812966217269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430536449011013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781561789451584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11236322420198266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20276861280786926,0.0,0.0,0.09208712752852682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06773932792883339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1180184143517242,0.10540073027295284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14124260920395718,0.07989161098724093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12759706333000492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06550458127670097,0.0,0.13445330625287488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11646198151223368,0.11946128692279502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1151159813044289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1290728779024644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40056558054529706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07635718526097131,0.0,0.11768731671834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09478593715250626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10850754791088264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009906482513998,0.09175950991556273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518655852775176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11233666393009388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1390031504350464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4233514323144511,0.0,0.28966165843633546,0.0 divorce,Enough_Cry789,2019/04/08,"Feels like a Long Con It's become painfully obvious over the last few weeks that my husband (39m) and I (32f) are not on the same page. I feel like divorce is in the making. It's not financially feasible for us to divorce now though. We have 2 kids (4&2), I'm the only one working, and only one car. The plan is for him to start working this summer, but with our debts and everything. It will be at least 2 years until we're financially able to split households. Is it a long con to try to keep appearances for the time being, while I start building a nest egg for me and the kids?",3.8895000000000017,4.472146949999999,5.010000000000002,85.86000000000001,71.16666666666666,8.0,27.5,8.07648339933343,1.55125,454,15,98,6,8,150,80,120,0.02,0.948,0.032,0.0772,1,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,3,0,0,3,2,3,0,0,10,0,8,2,0,1,1,16,16,8,0,0,3,1,2,2,0,1,1,0,0,2,6,6,1,1,2,0,1,2,2,1,0,2,0,2,9,2,15,13,4,18,0,0,0,0,9,4,0,1,14,63,15,2,0.1926966808436752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087867731862992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21281834458251356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17318335158858714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.194866463443983,0.275325094594678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1712776638115254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15707351377098416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18828372954980915,0.0,0.0,0.34106099747147256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1286265307774024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2611525159379441,0.2931090180532245,0.2050428545438448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727834050110532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18932351055442345,0.0,0.11236298422560534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13082839735052054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317903809384185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15456965408818749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805709573211757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12409034465447738 divorce,Murrayrulz,2019/04/08,"Still hate my ex It's been 18 months since my ex and I finalized our seperation. We are 6 months away from the divorce and I can't wait for it all to come to an end. But I still hate her. We have a beautiful daughter together and she is the best thing to ever happen to me but the hate and disdain I have towards my ex continues. I have a great girlfriend now and is everything I've wanted in a partner and yet I still despise my ex. I did everything I could for her. I helped her come to the US from Canada. I supported her for years while she couldn't work. I put a roof over her head food on the table a new car. We went on vacations together and I tried my hardest yet nothing seemed to be enough. In the end I found out she was cheating on me. Tried to work it out and she cheated again! Then came the false accusations against me to the court including abuse which never occurred. But she still wound up with my daughter, the apartment, considerable alimony and child support, the car and most of our possessions. I spent the follow year in my parents basement struggling to get by. This was followed by the passing of my mother last year. And yet all I can do is feel pain and hatred to this woman. I so wish I never had to see or speak to her again. Yet we have my little girl who I love so much and I know that I have no choice if I want to continue to see her. So I'm reaching out? Does the pain and anger ever end? How do I get passed it? So many things in my life are going the right way but I feel this hate holding me back. I knew divorce can be hard but I've never felt this way towards someone before.",1.1359713737126924,3.1981418160237425,2.7017009949380366,93.34666564845524,81.87833827893175,5.863815674637808,22.37467271775179,7.048011613610866,0.6004666433932626,1260,42,280,16,34,412,168,337,0.183,0.733,0.084,-0.9914,2,0,0,0,3,0,27.0,7,0,0,3,19,16,8,1,20,0,24,7,1,1,7,56,56,28,0,6,7,8,4,0,2,0,4,1,0,4,13,25,1,2,8,0,1,12,6,11,0,0,11,7,57,5,40,41,6,64,0,0,2,1,38,18,0,4,32,206,70,2,0.0,0.11172347990675348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0885927205682128,0.07250659589514376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0802376144551398,0.0,0.09895618633461778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784770711075692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16245260335835854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07528642920780662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08251769075974083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25055062960098506,0.09743135224050137,0.0,0.0,0.17058942001652447,0.0,0.0,0.1694915063235897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09535619364710338,0.0,0.09053743973288908,0.10329493852374573,0.0,0.0,0.11402119853294986,0.10338897499399148,0.0,0.0,0.09852989518741513,0.0,0.053589697343266976,0.0,0.0,0.10395994149465257,0.0,0.0,0.08338425266074434,0.0,0.08446928758539915,0.3723849094757358,0.09677328868720184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320356850263184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051821752481864235,0.07686254541322105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06660294422616922,0.0,0.09450779046930552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08510440419146599,0.0,0.0,0.09559975149276853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15052982813033616,0.0,0.06931725539350525,0.0,0.21817703146553116,0.0910701476689978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09047804831172444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2006718426381072,0.0,0.10470280504927698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09479194601874992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0805269276407578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15028090406011882,0.08584210723367869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07800132655591535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989536418162774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3012146130536454,0.0,0.0,0.09857701130707944,0.0,0.0,0.21400840248357866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12529005816274638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12803945606456407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11342458861143853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123459529513632,0.14969305830390628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741188091118346,0.0,0.0,0.10843394043886896,0.0,0.0,0.1372949355431909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1821675632453242 divorce,crazycrqz,2019/04/08,"The kids... In sure this has been asked before, i apologize. But in a very troubled situation and facing divorce. 9 year old son and 6 year old daughter. Does antone out there regret NOT staying together for the kids?",2.587500000000002,5.490152750000004,3.7550000000000026,82.39,84.0,6.2,25.5,7.554174236665415,1.81285,170,7,29,3,5,55,34,40,0.146,0.7659999999999999,0.08900000000000001,-0.5256,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,2,1,1,0,1,7,3,3,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,1,1,4,2,0,8,0,1,0,0,7,3,0,0,4,16,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2655304214570015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2416892589005232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2485572341766795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5960850119259492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3192624772969844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3027390011631523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2676956321431269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23435512504151795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3658129972702704 divorce,nullpassword,2019/04/08,"Well, she filed papers (again) She filed divorce papers again. Guess after second time it's a little easier (but not much). Guess if she's willing to go through with it twice, that's it. Swig of whisky and push through. &#x200B; Two kids or it'd be easier. (Sigh)",0.7822058823529403,3.3080404313725538,1.4727205882352938,95.85849264705885,95.66666666666669,4.1186274509803935,16.178921568627448,5.985473137389443,-0.4075313725490197,206,5,41,2,8,63,38,51,0.0,0.858,0.142,0.7281,0,0,1,0,1,0,17.0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,8,6,4,0,1,4,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,2,3,0,0,3,1,6,3,1,7,0,0,0,0,5,1,0,4,4,29,8,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3010679631365,0.3376379047579082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15791779191671682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6122019972031222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27849497813436663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2042636636544616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16202604349154032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2714349483180853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2498351269483674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3376379047579082,0.0 divorce,baskeyg88,2019/04/08,"Advice/tips for someone living by themselves for the first time We haven't actually divorced yet,but have been separated for 6 months, papers being sent off in next few weeks (we are in the UK) He will be moving out next month. This is the first time I have lived completely by myself, ever. I have always lived with friends, or in a house share with strangers, then 10 yrs with husband. I'm just wondering if there's any other people, especially any ladies here who moved out by themselves during/after divorce for first time? and what things you wish you knew beforehand to be more prepared? Any tips for being more independent? Thanks : )",6.301779661016947,7.606194050847463,5.762500000000002,80.01968220338985,66.11864406779661,8.272881355932205,28.309322033898304,8.472884824447931,1.9759457627118648,510,16,91,7,8,156,85,118,0.0,0.8809999999999999,0.119,0.9171,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,2,2,0,3,4,3,0,0,4,0,12,0,0,1,1,16,18,4,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,2,0,0,3,1,0,0,3,3,0,7,3,18,10,3,22,0,0,0,0,12,6,0,3,13,60,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.14802284058651008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1262142088616955,0.0,0.0,0.30945334194280943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15903900999545265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372079162478697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3870699726136896,0.0,0.0,0.11719158252010264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1750243152365084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4018223401593712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421473037297707,0.322434651051732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32263778847648217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10515939474792198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12852234841016455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965132075966724,0.0,0.0,0.10077288383663896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2653465193012452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167269017926165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17443045432385712,0.0,0.16449609142509952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Car_Accident_Throwaw,2019/04/08,"California - Child Custody Mediation was Coercive... Can I get a re do? I had to recently fire my lawyer for not being an advocate on my behalf... Mainly, he would receive documentation and sit on it and not say anything about it until I saw him day of hearing. &#x200B; In California, no attorneys are present at custody mediation. When the hearing started, the mediator says ""you've had time to review the document they submitted?"" This was the first I had heard that her attorney and her created and submitted a 10 page hit piece against me. &#x200B; I said no my lawyer and I have not seen it... may I see it? She hands it to me and I glance through the bullet points of accusations... Everything in the book I am accused of, domestic violence, drug and alcohol abuse, financial crimes... She and her lawyer even included unfounded claims that my father is a child molester. &#x200B; So.... the mediator says ""You need to give that back or it will be like I served you this document, I have to check with my supervisor if this can be submitted to the judge for ""consideration"""". The mediator then tells me if I agree to status quo (70/30) custody, then the document need not be reviewed or submitted....otherwise it's admissible as if I already saw and had time to address it. &#x200B; Reluctantly, I agreed to 70/30, as I was completely blown away that my STBX would submit salacious documents on my behalf. &#x200B; Anyone got any advice on how I can get back to 50/50? &#x200B; I am out of $ for an attorney so will be using the court resource system.... if anyone can highlight how I would contest this custody arrangement I would appreciate it.",5.323856589147287,7.410592142857141,6.315203488372093,72.12381298449614,69.43189368770764,10.19939091915836,34.46857696566999,10.411451182825502,4.150405204872646,1309,66,223,39,24,434,157,301,0.077,0.875,0.048,-0.8677,0,0,2,0,2,0,86.0,0,2,1,1,9,2,1,0,16,0,30,3,1,3,0,32,47,25,0,10,10,1,2,1,0,7,2,7,1,2,17,11,1,0,1,1,1,1,6,1,0,1,13,14,38,1,33,21,3,26,0,0,5,0,23,10,0,7,14,168,55,6,0.0,0.08480975688277136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06994645620570908,0.0,0.07649649503212863,0.0,0.0,0.07898952920822086,0.0,0.0,0.4653368011247834,0.5218600508061544,0.04867637346013515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000998112381993,0.0,0.058903658778461127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06725110155219256,0.1100801152165468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07504952633569742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046162722056901036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08300925438139684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0472774476174249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06433085264169895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088530963621103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07479445201227121,0.06866537974407091,0.0,0.0,0.0572484991069515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16135012974936658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03497002670693343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10615027682515957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06766556788671778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067591595589277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06808829866279703,0.17076817914093298,0.0,0.0,0.05703942872214157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05066419164976881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256345663209227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08347692216709954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061821526545302964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2033915027337876,0.0,0.5218600508061544,0.0 divorce,720rusty,2019/04/08,"I'm lucky to be with her and she'll be better off without me Married high school sweet heart now 45 w two kids. Life should be perfect, great income and heath smart kids. My depression comes n goes and I always feel she's better off without me truly. At same time, I feel I'm better off without her. She supports me so much that I never had a reality check. It's always yes. Wtf, I've made some poor life decisions and she still won't say no or not to do that idea. Trite yes? She's a yes man and that's super awesome, however I regret way too much now and have resentment. I've had an affair that we got past, still its yes yes yes. I asked for divorce just so she can have one less thing to worry about but I don't think it's in her and I don't want to keep breaking her heart till she says NO MORE. I'm a horrible person on the inside and really think she is better without me. I love her and my kids so much--I'm crying I write all this. I don't want her sad. Can she not be content without me!? I feel me options are divorce and hope for the best or call it a life.. Middle life is hard, too late to start fresh, too early to quit.",-0.04481029810298054,1.9615231097560968,2.017804878048782,96.82380758807592,86.1951219512195,4.7826558265582655,17.241192411924118,6.0378880255834675,-0.4981262872628727,879,20,207,7,27,293,131,246,0.15,0.648,0.202,0.8969,2,0,0,0,2,0,28.0,1,0,0,8,12,19,1,0,7,6,20,7,2,1,3,46,39,17,0,5,11,0,4,0,0,3,4,2,0,5,10,13,0,1,7,0,2,1,14,5,0,2,4,7,35,14,22,28,8,22,0,3,0,1,30,8,0,6,11,132,45,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1722058060555788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673899242108973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10859493418496972,0.3660754289763812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10566373356711437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08913808435494658,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11366693536879355,0.0,0.0,0.08912639957092243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15696643065175198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08276169146674801,0.11408607609745455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269695069866228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24524646998725705,0.0,0.10933135345451526,0.0,0.10277809768407092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168153114873827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0919769811035898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672893513676795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2923614020576228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339393032763046,0.09791442904401754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282071409427517,0.0,0.0798094633267105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0701201180850147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09878251248136473,0.0,0.09035396114802732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11006276327132912,0.0,0.0,0.06629136295682214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458147171098053,0.0,0.10472637647070357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07324304153191692,0.0,0.16527709025438006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742685952017445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874691782384676,0.1326104614809462,0.0,0.0,0.060339496971618674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108404728703828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206931170852227,0.0821368952088079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4987508119628957,0.0,0.0,0.10508805183988286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,itsryanodom,2019/04/08,"Out of state custody agreement My ex and I have had split custody for the last year but now I am moving to Texas from Florida and am trying to get my son 1 weekend every other month and his summer vacation. First she didnt like the idea of our 11 year old on a plane by himself, so I agreed to either fly back on Fridays to get him and fly him back on Sunday. Now she is saying she wants to keep him for the summer for a family reunion so I agreed to fly him back that week but she now wants to do a 2 week vacation and wants me to come back a week earlier than we agreed on. I feel she is taking the situation and using it to her advantage. I would like to have him longer but I have to move for my job.",2.3635650623885915,3.0934340196078445,4.179643493761141,89.8702139037433,74.8169934640523,7.3937017231134865,22.4058229352347,7.686295010490155,0.7022339869281038,547,13,128,7,11,186,83,153,0.035,0.8640000000000001,0.101,0.878,1,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,2,9,4,0,0,8,0,11,0,0,1,0,21,21,11,0,4,4,2,1,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,9,0,1,2,1,0,3,1,0,0,1,2,2,26,4,25,18,1,29,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,0,22,93,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4890758798624884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697314179240494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13397288721231496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14990059302384007,0.0,0.08040029622915047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352539299329962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16615245339621346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1795030748043812,0.0,0.0,0.15779301204248564,0.14133550396004474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1296144735604644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15536862899228984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269203636398481,0.3380051937909894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16685437637235434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12645123251305218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17873404122799508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11955582391895915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10795743624906068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13733369296583614,0.0,0.0,0.2813648721893052,0.0,0.38264498950995823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11295622960649886,0.0,0.0,0.2047946125376336 divorce,angelhippie,2019/04/08,Mediation is wednesday We tried to mediate just the two of us with a lawyer but it didnt work. So now we each have a lawyer and I am praying it goes better. I just need this to be over (separated last aummer). 18 years of marriage two kids. Please send good vibes,1.8505555555555588,3.7812896111111085,3.2627407407407425,90.90633333333336,78.81481481481481,6.542222222222222,21.91111111111111,7.554174236665415,0.6613155555555554,205,6,46,3,5,67,45,54,0.0,0.764,0.236,0.9313,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,3,0,0,2,4,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,0,0,9,6,3,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,5,2,6,4,1,6,1,0,0,0,6,1,0,0,4,31,8,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2719752510589401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579320491073981,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506687394519858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22802117854023485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375631258384624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2087849737428907,0.0,0.6008020634615122,0.0,0.3699070658828169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22387723591986014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19803192483522566 divorce,Animsay89,2019/04/08,"The pain is unbearable Hi everyone, I’m a 29 year old female who is going through divorce. All I ever wanted in life is a family. Kids, a husband, the whole white-picket fence thing. I don’t have kids and I moved back with my parents. I’m turning 30 in August. I hope and pray life will get better but I’m stuck in guilt, self-blame, “what if I did A B C instead”. But truth is, his filing for divorce is actually the 4th time he broke up with me. Every time I was the one fighting for him to come back. Apologizing profusely for whatever I did. I’m a shell of my former self.",-0.15261707988980788,2.0584091652892624,2.5741818181818203,90.97460606060606,89.57851239669421,5.540716253443526,19.63691460055097,7.03164865440522,0.4724243526170797,443,14,97,7,15,154,82,121,0.13699999999999998,0.7879999999999999,0.07400000000000001,-0.802,1,0,0,0,4,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,4,7,1,1,9,0,11,3,0,0,3,14,22,5,0,3,3,2,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,3,5,0,1,0,0,0,3,1,4,0,1,4,0,12,3,12,17,2,16,1,1,0,0,14,4,0,2,9,59,15,0,0.0,0.0,0.19082606392538914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3007277754512892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294579298870186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16844677860370316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688382747717366,0.16475712665884873,0.18685393007733872,0.0,0.0,0.18434469469875814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10216545070606672,0.0,0.11113409938907316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19422270055703447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27624183715103434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078359498087005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20519411198474374,0.0,0.13250798569664946,0.0,0.2080762311595124,0.0,0.21713225712261008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4079971914826366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12991301002440564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2280505344262098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21269942902524755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1153389287669318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2183216996566313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12592612064648856 divorce,rhymingisfun,2019/04/08,"Separating with an infant? It's not technically a divorce, which will be good for me as I pay every single expense we have. We were only together for 6 months when she got pregnant and I proposed as her family was breathing down our necks. We never married, we let the certificate expire which turned out to be a blessing. We are miserable together but she's unwilling to admit it freely like I am. Our fights have gotten worse, and worse, and worse. They've turned physical (her, not me) which she thinks is funny. She think's I'm a ""pussy for not calling the cops"" and that ""they'd laugh at you."" I'm over the whole thing. I think very little of myself and even I know I deserve better than this. The hardest part is that we have a 4mo old that is my world. Has anyone divorced or separated with children this young? Looking for any advice or stories, good or bad. I'm lost.",2.441439808481533,4.760090633720932,3.654719562243504,86.88070451436388,78.7093023255814,6.3726402188782485,23.489740082079344,7.5105763829236425,1.128472913816689,687,23,134,10,17,223,111,172,0.14,0.7040000000000001,0.156,0.4871,0,0,0,0,3,0,26.0,8,1,1,2,2,10,1,1,9,0,16,2,2,0,1,27,30,12,0,0,7,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,11,14,0,0,5,0,2,0,4,4,0,0,5,1,26,6,16,20,3,11,1,2,1,0,23,6,0,3,6,95,37,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721938186249554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1094103942050148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1124976968178244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343360330986868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14229371040252292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16428619365456915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626601394341084,0.0,0.13555636400520912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15167232546339074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26989300060440913,0.12867805076043168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08842067537047067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16452044001374952,0.0,0.07860249512012144,0.16125357134518714,0.0,0.0,0.13510668002180787,0.0,0.17562992228487678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12842048395934896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12408792028185447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16882649206140224,0.0,0.0,0.12236373379834363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742276771137157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1068878514271837,0.3092745337496901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500032054376453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13275070792179527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17962740907815405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4918805137612188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,stormsacomin2019,2019/04/08,"Don't want to blindside, but how? Hi all, I've been a lurker here for a while, and have appreciated the support y'all have shown one another. My situation: Married 20 years, together 24. Lack of intimacy has been the primary problem almost since day one. Can't remember the last time we had sex, but it's been years, and it was never fulfilling. We saw a counsellor going on 9 years ago after my spouse had an affair (a symptom of the problem). I couldn't bear to put my (at the time 7yo) through a divorce, so I decided to keep things together. Since then, I would describe us as being friends, partners, roommates, but it's just not enough. I'm miserable. I am craving affection and intimacy that she cannot give me. On top of that, or because of it we've grown apart. I know the only way I'm going to be happy again is to move on, and move out, but at the same time I don't want to blindside my spouse. I want to start the conversation, ""I haven't been happy in a long time. Remember 9 years ago, well nothing has changed since then, and it's time to do something..."". I feel like bring that up out of nowhere is unfair, but what is the alternative? Then there's my parents. I'm sure this is going to gut them too. They'll for sure be blindsided. I am carrying so much guilt about this, and fear of the unknown. At the end of the day my spouse is a good person, and doesn't deserve to be hurt, but I just don't know how to move forward.",2.4861045197740097,3.976075467796612,4.123750000000001,87.39014477401129,75.67796610169492,7.492937853107344,26.52895480225989,8.212053250817874,1.5794209039548028,1113,42,243,19,24,373,152,295,0.07200000000000001,0.7609999999999999,0.16699999999999998,0.9868,1,0,1,0,1,0,51.0,3,1,2,1,12,15,0,3,20,0,33,3,1,3,4,45,51,23,0,8,10,4,1,1,2,2,1,0,0,2,12,11,0,1,6,0,0,10,10,6,1,2,8,2,25,9,34,36,5,47,0,2,1,1,19,13,0,2,26,161,37,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18713932896442745,0.0,0.10569980872016163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11068542591696108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06434639754720316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11166501478724013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13615070546546434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349192415491722,0.10906831016732953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11878065794979528,0.05337264990126494,0.07540974277012331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08155286101233236,0.0,0.0,0.1012596254796858,0.1799709517686157,0.08853596970078906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22473418523308664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11300065330097428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09382366390763756,0.0,0.0,0.11602242693203668,0.08604281630707772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156968213904694,0.0,0.0,0.09341437665211133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33657026875122825,0.07759633564917381,0.0,0.08141185081276775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10128452094392287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1430559323307798,0.08028064309770458,0.0,0.0,0.11720824718018115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09216805750482923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2020070530272481,0.0,0.10611365984346904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2391503763031739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2619528318953348,0.11865017736640288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08126272107233938,0.0,0.0,0.0747135906159406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978451639918213,0.1989719211784952,0.10971385035149243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07012719525253949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30775486520072953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1269717388375895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678026726510008,0.08378601208718367,0.0,0.0,0.09490816927886836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07498446622350538,0.0,0.0,0.2719002707523187 divorce,massiejam,2019/04/08,"Mind Games My ex wanted my phone password and would ask me constantly for it. I always just told her ""nope"". After our divorce I informed her I was 100% transparent and always told her the truth and never hide anything. My ex argued with me a told me I was very secretive with my phone. The truth was my password was in fact ""nope"". For two years I told her my password once or twice a week and she never realized it.",1.1060240963855392,3.5871348433734984,2.4325421686747006,92.4056807228916,86.10843373493975,5.247710843373494,20.34819277108434,6.742157984588678,0.4076997590361451,324,10,66,4,10,104,47,83,0.031,0.893,0.076,0.3855,1,0,0,0,1,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,4,0,5,0,0,0,5,19,11,5,0,2,2,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,6,0,0,3,1,0,0,4,1,0,2,8,0,20,2,6,2,0,7,0,0,0,0,20,1,0,1,6,49,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3135122549196693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550294678606243,0.0,0.17611984373398018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20358338512573684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902208705641852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29059699419670143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20062991304198485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7200614264162695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18403030842721801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1554420309887291,0.11111769703595023,0.0,0.15111563034096495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13382732537372433,0.0,0.0,0.1213174135784134 divorce,lilypadthrowaway,2019/04/08,"Husband and I decided that it would be best if we got a divorce, tipping point was trying for a child Never in a million years thought that I would be going through with a divorce over wanting children. Never thought in a million years I would want a child as much as I do. We decided tonight that it is over. I don't have anyone to talk to so... I hope this is the right place where I can rant, mourn and gather my thoughts. I love my husband, but our marriage has been tough from the beginning. It started with a whirlwind romance and I truly believed he was ""the one"", until he went on a 5 weeks bachelor trip to the US, did drugs (I was clear that it was a deal breaker) and lied about it (I found out when he got back). Felt trapped and pressured into going through with the marriage because my parents had paid a large chunk of the wedding and I had, up to this point, declared to everyone that they were wrong about him and I. He was also so regretful and begged me to stay with him, saying he'll change. The first year of our relationship was brutal. Fighting constantly, we were so toxic. My mental health declined badly because I felt trapped and I would lash out physically and he would act back with twice the force. I liked my house orderly and neat, he hated chores and didn't really care much about a neat home. I was trapped in a nightmare. We worked hard. He had to sacrifice a lot of freedom to win back my trust, but eventually he did. He gained back all his freedom and privacy but the end result was that he resented me for being controlling. I gave up on having a clean and mess-free house but I resented him for being lazy and unreliable. Eventually things got better, we compromised and fell into a routine. We loved, laughed, went to therapy together. Things were looking up, then I fell pregnant. I wanted to keep it, he didn't. We decided to keep it in the end but I had a miscarriage. After this, I felt ready to start a family- I had accepted that I was going to have a child and I wanted to start trying. He wanted to wait. I didn't. He didn't feel ready, and I don't think he'll ever be, even though he claims he'll be ready at the end of this year. All the unresolved resentment from the years came up and we got to a point. I've come to accept that we are different. We've fought for so long to be happy and for us to work. But I think at some point we had to admit that it shouldn't be this difficult. I really do love him and I hope he finds happiness. And I hope I will too. 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Wanting to get a divorce but I'm scared of the outcome. Hey everyone, I made a post elsewhere describing my situation but I'm seriously thinking about divorcing my wife after just 1.5 years of being married (together for 7.5). We have a house and three cats. I'd like to think I can represent myself without an attorney but I don't know. I'd really like to keep the house but I probably won't keep my hopes up. Worried about how I should present to her the divorce papers but I really don't want to be there when she finds out. I have an option of staying at a relatives for a short while while this hopefully blows over. Should I just do that? Because my wife will find ways to disrupt my sleep by arguing like mad. My post in /r/relationships: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/batjy8/my\_28m\_wife\_28f\_kept\_me\_up\_last\_night\_for\_the/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/batjy8/my_28m_wife_28f_kept_me_up_last_night_for_the/) ",8.403611111111111,12.200656320987651,5.8402314814814815,71.22479166666669,66.03703703703704,8.494444444444445,28.026234567901234,9.188382445141503,2.7261716049382723,852,29,127,18,16,240,101,162,0.14400000000000002,0.772,0.085,-0.8276,0,0,0,0,2,0,61.0,1,0,0,0,7,9,2,1,10,0,13,1,1,2,0,28,27,10,0,6,8,3,0,3,0,4,0,0,0,0,2,4,0,2,5,0,0,0,4,4,0,1,2,0,19,5,22,19,0,17,0,0,0,0,11,6,0,3,10,80,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963984533336145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110606256725162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2890675244605405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08261971787381017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.314130160711146,0.0,0.3649362403240078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811177138597171,0.0,0.0,0.08690760426841307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2317723036536795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14963244127208802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3029018274818154,0.0,0.17049773538170507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20261239474774675,0.0,0.0,0.16977926279590455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15832207697751086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17775188700330613,0.15825055769736646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1685523121346609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20265478013145347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18654583694848875,0.12552127677809832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1524378016786362,0.0,0.0,0.16059514311481518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2036692539181147 divorce,cliffotn,2019/04/08,"Cheaters. Denial. Gas Lighting. So... Found out Ex-wife is dating the dude she cheated on me with. Spending time with my kids too. It's the guy I suspected. I'm not sure if it was emotional, or emotional plus physical cheating - frankly don't care. Knowing she's now in love with him raises my confidence from maybe 90%, to a solid 100%. And that's my issue, I should have trusted the ""evidence"", and my gut from the get-go. But, we humans can be dumb when in love. (I was so damn dumb) It's been one part cathartic having it settled, and one part crazy time. I confronted her and she *still* is in denial. The gas lighting is strong with her. I literally never put up a fight or confronted her until now, I just hung my head in shame and let her recant what a horrible human I was. Many months of therapy, many deep conversations with my circle of friends, and even how my kids have reacted to me when with me (totally fantastic), have convinced me that I am, though of course not perfect, definitely not the horrible person she convinced me I was. Although I guess it doesn't matter, I can't help but wonder if she's denying, even now, because she is somehow denying reality, or if she is worried an admission would br used against her, that I'd possibly use that info to turn her family or my kids against her - which I would NEVER do. I haven't, and won't ever share any of this outside my super close friends, and my therapist. Kids don't deserve to live in a soap opera, so I have and will continue to keep her dirty little secret. **Question for the group** Have any of you experienced such a denial? One where it's all laid out for all to see, but they still say nope? Have you been on the bad end of extended gas lighting? I've never really felt like I was a ""victim"" of gas lighting, until all if this. And WOW, what folks say is right. It does make one question their sanity, their view of reality. It's truly a form of abuse. Best and love to all of you! 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I'm actively contemplating divorce, and I'm thinking why. Here's the breakdown. Feel free to roast away. **My point of view** a. Fuck she never fucks me. b. She screams at me, never reigning in her emotions. She dumps all her frustrations at me, she’s easily annoyed, she has a high conflict personality c. She draws out all my physical health and emotional energy. I couldn’t physically recover, I thought I was dying from various sickness (i was hospitalized because of stress) a. She never did like fucking me in the first place – I shouldn’t have ignored that before marriage b. Before marriage she screamed at me, multiple times. Each time I though things would get better when the specific problem was dealt with, but each time it just pacified her a little, and the screamed got worse and worse, eventually, escalated when I tried to fight back, escalated when we were facing normal child care stress. – I never… I should have fought back long ago. I should have initiated a divorce long ago… i should have withheld having a second child... c. I should have changed into self-preservation mode when i started to get sick. I should have done physical training,whatever she said. Whatever the fuck she said. My health should have been the no. 1 priority. No matter how much I earn, if I die from over-stress, I die. I just die. a. I’ve lost time. Valuable time to live and spend with my kids. b. I stayed unhappy, stayed a zombie while I could've been happy c. I’ve given up any opportunity of forming a loving relationship, as long as I’m stuck with my STBX a. From now on, I’m going to put myself first. I won’t care about my STBX, my kids, or my clients as much. I need to stick to a daily plan of physical training and eating healthy. Everything else doesn’t matter b. Then I need to think. Think whenever I have time. c. I need to remind myself that I have limited time. That I need to live and work efficiently, so that I can regain some control of my time and my life, so that I can do whatever that’s important to me. a. I need to remember rope-a-dope tactics. If I need my own time and space, just get my own time and space whatever she says b. I need to learn how to stand ground. I’ve grown tired of negotiating with STBX. I just need to do whatever I feel right. c. I will grow my capacity to tolerate disapproval from STBX in order to stay true to myself. &#x200B; **My STBX's point of view (my guess only)** STBX thinks I never help with the children, I’m selfish and lazy, I am unmotivated, uncaring, have poor personal hygiene and stubborn. She thought I was her white knight. Maybe she should’ve looked clearly before she jumped into marriage. She feels a sense of hopelessness and despair, she feels that there’s no future with me, that whatever she does is not enough. She thinks her life is an endless loop of responsibilities, and that she’s the only person to take care of the kids, the kids’ only hope for salvation, that I don’t care, or I don’t care enough She thinks she has to scream harder at me, at the kids, at the maids. She thinks she has to talk to me incessantly to try to get me to understand. She thinks she has to attend talks and read books to further her knowledge, and use Machiavellian means to obtain resources for the kids. She thinks she need to become even more robust in pushing me. She thinks that she must regain strength by resting alone at night, by watching tv to help herself wind down. She thinks she has to train up the kids to stand strong in face of adversity, because their dad (me) is such a wimp, that if she doesn’t push the kids, no one else would, and that the kids will be eaten alive in the real world.",2.8147711511789173,5.164098736477119,3.7293578363384183,86.6703751733703,77.58529819694868,6.949403606102635,24.308321775312066,8.005294315242164,1.3931794174757282,2923,101,582,51,70,935,309,721,0.171,0.716,0.113,-0.9924,0,1,0,0,3,1,122.0,1,0,1,13,23,40,10,2,32,0,53,16,2,4,9,107,116,37,4,26,11,1,4,1,0,13,7,7,1,15,15,29,2,6,22,3,3,8,16,24,0,4,19,16,112,17,83,82,15,78,0,3,5,5,74,32,4,8,33,368,127,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09360512722345454,0.0,0.0,0.054683181479362665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057207004842143624,0.0641557907761166,0.03590469774367006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04960580056642597,0.08119736503532682,0.0,0.06437078472074519,0.05831164437876257,0.1347825557808492,0.0,0.0,0.04669586194209815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2691572523032698,0.0,0.055853667817497656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05921785425175685,0.04215519704878324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21918546229277092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04620420374017069,0.05403105710687524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05402590703250019,0.08821251560771819,0.11878210504547335,0.0,0.10910964686851836,0.0,0.0348728211682827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0474517646961608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10678575608680237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982052211873423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19524494526363048,0.11033986312079612,0.0,0.030006526741420025,0.0,0.04222767454928126,0.0,0.058163349985017175,0.0,0.0,0.056204839775291636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1122443829712122,0.0,0.0,0.07077926028502471,0.055784369916661865,0.0,0.052440688232440746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07458609120997202,0.025794613479757544,0.052917830899935736,0.09324384464229007,0.14017467080929916,0.04433732777019293,0.0,0.05763565080084259,0.0,0.04765258448515363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053043052763406116,0.05751289627122464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0776257445263734,0.35234385806720586,0.20360676440906209,0.0,0.0,0.04954768752779855,0.05173118612012546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035777537570517715,0.12046660398418693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1383044835591694,0.0551630523457397,0.0,0.09982303897869894,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050520903337868135,0.0,0.053076938368643946,0.0,0.0,0.05281265153206842,0.060096096747091626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056685683211429035,0.05981025347069305,0.04508951398211962,0.1004466688698823,0.041987377862168,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05508020807271556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0373709534688756,0.16882809147966985,0.0,0.0,0.18144104116143228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03969779854846426,0.08487464930209987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0350768866692141,0.3721416540070973,0.05187412411108256,0.08383200604067069,0.30787150376313777,0.06068395194199929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0716932461429721,0.0,0.0,0.054964958484700815,0.0,0.04560083397501353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0476423108393017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0384378374862748,0.0,0.1076120862856022,0.07501288520670342,0.0,0.0641557907761166,0.0 divorce,chubbybunni1985,2019/04/08,"Husband says he doesn't love me but doesn't want to divorce I am not really sure what to do next, we have been going through a rough patch. Husband lost his friend has been treating me badly lying hiding things with money and generally just making me and him miserable. Not perfect either but I am feeling I can't take much more and feel like the best thing for us to do is split. Normal begs of I love you we'll make it work. I wont lie, blow money, be lazy etc... So I am away Friday night (pre planned) come home to talk and he goes on a bit then tells me he doesn't love me and isn't sure when he stopped as if he did he wouldn't treat me this way. SO i was like okay then we'll make a plan and separate. To be honest I just thought well least your being honest if this is why it won't work. If he doesn't love me, he said he doesn't want to go back to his parents so wants to be able to look for some where of his own. I point out he can't afford to so needs to make peace with going back to his parents. He is now saying he has made a terrible mistake, cannot believe he said such things. He loves me and needs to change etc. I am at the moment to tired and cannot fight any more. I think I am just venting as feel like this switch to working things out is the realization that he cannot afford to go it alone. 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I am entering a divorce here pretty soon. Married for 10 years with three children under 9. I committed infidelity about 4 years ago and we have moved past and rebuilt our marriage on new grounds and it was great for 2 years. Then things went back to normal... I focused too much on work and didn’t notice the signs of what was happening or what my wife was asking for. She let me know about a month ago that since I didn’t hold up to my end of the new marriage she wanted a divorce. I completely understand her, I know it is my fault. And of course I see it all so clear now.... I’m sure it always goes that way. I worked way too much. I didn’t want to face the problems at home. I tried to distract myself from my filing marriage. Now we are living together still with our children and I’m a wreck. I can’t stop feeling the guilt. I can’t stop feeling the pain. I can’t stop missing her. We don’t really interact much except for when it comes to the kids. She is confident and ready to move forward but I am so emotional and don’t know what I can do. I miss her so much and can’t figure out how to accept it and move on. We are going for a mediation consultation soon. I just can’t figure out how to remain positive... any tips ",0.6713836477987414,2.9268690000000035,2.5938679245283005,92.1989779874214,85.41509433962264,5.646540880503143,20.531446540880502,7.03164865440522,0.4760842767295594,995,31,216,14,30,331,139,265,0.077,0.815,0.109,0.7879999999999999,0,0,0,0,2,0,30.0,6,0,0,3,19,11,0,2,12,0,23,2,1,3,4,49,41,20,0,4,4,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,3,12,19,0,4,10,0,0,8,10,7,0,2,7,3,35,4,31,33,5,44,0,2,1,0,25,10,0,1,25,150,47,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2054432177936002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09642236350948924,0.0,0.0,0.07880312603771454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10833319162023518,0.0,0.0,0.08910541785492736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998213122899956,0.12149913525801764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13035064745216676,0.20527252974977211,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11718593839749687,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09856840984748028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06585790320919918,0.0,0.0,0.12775932882645852,0.0,0.0,0.10247327962550368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162381980181407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19105567646075647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11849628240887485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1023251399307892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249519350337038,0.36948983096467575,0.3407437864178471,0.0,0.0,0.2238373891912224,0.0,0.0,0.11353888031611158,0.0,0.13193140761294234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330566736194255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106216282136817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109820673689331,0.11789274514862445,0.0,0.1108825686737635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07423640402111888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0923422385686018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958580486395306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09254280120587267,0.29064538111618193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10921657132065188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07698625792475935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757120499293012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07867566456333068,0.0,0.0,0.12063631845755465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13669935778023062,0.1839620567684786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107422946532204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16872565109294718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2238708994980648 divorce,Hislilcherry,2019/04/08,"My heartbreak rant. From the perspective of the cheater. I (F25) was married 5 yrs to (M28), together for 10 No kids. But had a house and two dogs. People blame our divorce on my infedelity. I've lost friends, respect and my reputation, while you get the sympathy card and off scott free. You were unfaithful to me too. Although I committed physical infedelity. Which betrayed our marriage, my committment to you and your trust that I won't deny. You committed emotional infedelity. Which betrayed me and your committment to me your wife and my trust. You did this by refusing to give me your heart and be emotionally available to me. I made a mistake towards the dying years, but you made the CHOICE day in, day out, for 5 long years to shut yourself off from and refuse to give me your heart. You chose to never fully commit to me emotionally, you never left the sphere of influence from your parents, didn't put me first and treated me as inferior. This wasn't an equal partnership, and not a marriage. Even when you saw me hurt and communicate my needs to you over and over, you still refused to do you one job, to love me. I apologise for hurting you through my infedelity, I ended it with you and never wanted you to experience the pain of my betrayal. Even if my affair ended, I would have still wanted to end things with you. But I needed those 8 weeks to muster up the courage to do the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But now. I will not apologise for being with someone who loves me and shows me the emotional committment you never did.",4.785121725731893,6.349222311864409,5.359545454545458,80.52036594761175,69.9491525423729,9.160246533127893,30.69722650231125,9.573946990214177,2.8853050847457618,1222,51,231,28,22,393,151,295,0.149,0.725,0.127,-0.8095,2,0,0,0,1,0,39.0,2,23,0,2,8,16,0,0,14,0,17,5,2,3,11,48,30,23,1,7,7,2,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,10,18,0,3,0,1,1,1,10,7,0,3,12,1,56,10,43,13,1,32,0,5,1,2,41,11,0,1,20,180,66,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1378323267782715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11090429770939816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4808145869789892,0.2839399780675821,0.0,0.0,0.14116066641857328,0.0966614138132325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10453004546423764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09089546196420553,0.0,0.0,0.0825601347442597,0.0,0.05583018554587146,0.20502060185213952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2532603450769417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330263606577045,0.22879268849457124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10604252853451604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610421431049492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09456815405020666,0.0,0.0,0.11665082726250454,0.0,0.19289149421067345,0.20222792270150186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15847137030757202,0.32966953161166346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07241142065763254,0.0,0.11370707526895282,0.0,0.11865590685863177,0.0,0.0,0.07408359553915879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10742428832212947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09054253022457252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17067782020802205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14198669715366954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438715264288782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260581488011284,0.0,0.08571702403773983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07591061255598179,0.0,0.0,0.1376292794125122 divorce,Lucky_Books,2019/04/08,"Did anyone get the plate number of that depression truck that just hit me? I just finished watching ""Five Feet Apart"". Went to the movies alone. Sure, it was a little sad, but cute movie. I got into my car, and suddenly felt this overwhelming sadness and anger and hurt. It hit me like a runaway truck. Completely out of nowhere. The end of this month will be a year since I left my STBXH. I have a place of my own. I am making sure my children have everything they need, in spite of his attempts to play Disneyland Dad and screw me over. I finished the last of the paperwork to file for divorce. I'm on Tinder and Bumble and a few throwaway accounts on here. My confidence has come back in droves. And yet... I sat in that parking lot and cried. I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. It felt like I couldn't breathe. Like I will never know what it feels like to lay in a man's arms and feel content again. Like I will always go to the movies alone. Like I will always drive the dark streets of my city late at night, because I can't bear to go to my empty apartment without my children there. Like I will always live a shell of a life, fully functioning to everyone else, and one sappy teen angst movie away from a total meltdown on the inside. I am so fucking lonely. 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I was married when I was 20 after knowing my ex for just a few months. Didn’t tell me family or anyone else. We were together for more than 10 years. I got divorced almost three years ago. After close to a year I met another woman and we’ve been together since. She’s been perfect, or as close as someone can be. I feel like I have more in common with her than anyone I’ve ever known. We could almost be siblings or twins. With one exception, she understands me better than anyone. She could be a happy ending. I’ve never been happier and could see myself getting old with her. At first she had no interest in getting married, but lately our situation has changed where it would be to our advantage legally to do it (don’t want to get into more details, but it would be a big help). She’s make it clear that she is willing, and told me recently that if I asked the answer would be yes. We’ve already talked about and agreed on how a potential wedding would go. The only catch is that she was never married, so doesn’t understand divorce. Somehow the memory of my marriage is stuck with me and I’m afraid to do it again. I feel like it’s somehow not the same, or not as real, even though I feel more about her than I did when I got married. I feel like somehow I’m spoiled and that it wouldn’t be as special to marry her, and that I would somehow spoil her. Thanks for reading/listening. 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My husband (37M) and I (39F) have been married for 16 years. We have two children together (15 & 12). We go through slight peaks and valleys in our marriage but things have generally not been good for quite some time. He’s addicted to pain medicine and has been for the past 10 years roughly, but his addiction is only getting worse. He’s also extremely controlling and jealous. I can’t even go to my sister’s house without him getting upset at how long I’m gone. He accuses me of cheating daily. He thinks every man I encounter is hitting on me, or that I want them. He tracks my whereabouts with my phone GPS and scrutinizes the exact times I come and go with cameras on the house. If he tries to call me at work and I am not at my desk or don’t respond to texts, he will text or call repeatedly and send increasingly more and more angry texts accusing me of not being at work (I work as a project manager and I’m in meetings constantly - many in conference rooms away from my desk, or even if the meetings are virtual I have to lead them or am paying attention and not looking at my cell). It’s to the point now after years of this, that I get extremely anxious and agitated if I’m away from him too long or am unable to check my phone often enough because I know I’ll pay for it later. These issues are not new. In fact, we separated shortly once before about 8 years ago. The straw that broke the camel’s back at that time was when he told me he’d installed cameras inside the house and “caught” me masturbating (which he forbid because masturbating means your sex life isn’t satisfying according to him). I broke down when he told me that as I felt overwhelmingly violated at having been recorded doing something so intimate (though he later claimed it was a bluff to see if I’d admit it, but honestly I’m not sure whether it was or not). I told him I wanted a divorce at that moment. He apologized and convinced me to do a trial separation. After a month or so, I decided divorce was what I wanted and when I told him that, he took a bunch of his meds and told me goodbye. I called an ambulance and he was committed for a few days and had his dad convince me to take him back. I naively believed the suicide attempt had made him decide to change. I was wrong and things didn’t change and the same behaviors continued or heightened over the years. Now he’s starting to treat my children poorly as well. If they make him angry he tells them not to ask him for anything ever again or calls them names. He yells/cusses at them, especially my older son. My son will come to me upset about an interaction with his dad and when I offer to talk to my husband, my son will frantically panic and beg me not to talk to him or it’ll only get worse and he’ll be more angry or yell more. I could go on, but I think you all probably get the picture. He’s got issues he needs to work through but attempts at counseling have failed because he manipulates therapists too. I’ve finally had enough and know I need to get my children out of this toxic environment. They deserve better. I’m terrified but I know I’ve got to do this. Here is where I struggle - he has no friends, except his father. Unfortunately his father is dying of stage 4 lung cancer. I feel immensely guilty for considering leaving right now. Am I heartless? Should I wait until his father passes or would that be even worse? I feel bad about putting him through this while he’s dealing with his dads condition and I also feel bad putting my FIL through this (he and my MIL love me a great deal and are wonderful people - our marriage ending is going to devastate them). I don’t know what I should do. I know there’s never a good time for divorce but this could possible be the worst time.",4.946480822892159,5.680617517426278,5.753985336762053,80.92584258904634,68.86595174262736,8.824380368769491,30.640039393773595,8.957266950251167,2.4153604311429664,2972,115,588,51,49,974,329,746,0.188,0.741,0.07200000000000001,-0.9987,0,0,1,0,3,1,72.0,5,2,8,11,30,32,5,6,24,0,57,8,1,6,7,121,115,68,2,15,37,12,5,0,1,8,5,1,1,4,26,37,0,3,17,0,4,16,17,20,1,1,26,8,99,12,80,73,13,87,0,4,2,2,109,27,0,21,43,389,125,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14011960020720804,0.0,0.0,0.056968235594495514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10278754279883748,0.0,0.06963255595439398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07260267507382884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05288572456632135,0.0,0.0600803555279734,0.0,0.12076068981886355,0.09883370191768087,0.10731942424901633,0.1175284988594654,0.0,0.05468592458204362,0.07240616129924964,0.0,0.05683835796847087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2624924870621792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13597053928245145,0.11071952818810114,0.0,0.06944908591003199,0.07208016852241995,0.10262289121298143,0.0,0.0,0.041446474710763216,0.13251155572695936,0.0,0.0,0.06669831784414385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05692090477093077,0.13280862390368034,0.0,0.12734194062363166,0.058132586698062275,0.054147165889742714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974849822547698,0.0,0.06170576773381298,0.07040063760836979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04965201729924791,0.0,0.2014590708068026,0.0,0.18262021915712093,0.10780711907886367,0.10279933092076857,0.07085387020458785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22246419429709716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13415473065993655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17659550742980912,0.0,0.0,0.06804877806997221,0.0,0.0,0.045393218749427006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137473826902947,0.05396754235509072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05800288381973628,0.06081036778506518,0.042898283089921295,0.06515598495414594,0.0,0.07000488801600477,0.07138541943126997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05129678196680385,0.0,0.0,0.09530535826183556,0.049566165732776266,0.062068834684595585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06844155802974504,0.0,0.09775489983801308,0.06838392022723139,0.07540270673104528,0.0,0.0,0.061349496426355364,0.044554190453965456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06075246699597571,0.07245064570775504,0.0,0.0,0.06928998756512453,0.0,0.0,0.12921085070057065,0.0,0.06835516664210195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054883105905999145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05121195490020299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04947537072743045,0.0,0.0,0.045488048459644284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06718513558097051,0.0,0.07029694855810115,0.0,0.06057026785930469,0.0,0.0483202920047967,0.10330970451863596,0.0561716165680984,0.0,0.0,0.07461817772679104,0.08539140549098058,0.08235855546048619,0.0631413558482462,0.0,0.1873711075392389,0.0,0.0,0.3070462247741758,0.07140227190668344,0.04363262844627176,0.0,0.06277887899406884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11371786282277073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778316057068455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06195046144818765,0.06969410772908262,0.1871466528908133,0.0,0.19647868229585366,0.045652966283320835,0.07026515753653825,0.0,0.2069270896735125 divorce,Funseas,2019/04/09,"Divorce or no? I discovered two months ago that my husband has online girlfriends -- he says he hasn't consummated the relationships. Let's assume that's true. When I discovered and asked him about the online girlfriends, he said he felt like we were just roommates, not spouses. He said we hadn't had sex in a long time (true), and he had hinted he wanted sex 3 times (after I was asleep and I didn't wake up to take him up on his hints) so he gave up trying. He also said he tried to let me know that our relationship was falling apart -- by suggesting outings together, but I didn't arrange those outings. I said I wanted to work on our relationship. In the past two months, I've offered sex, organized outings together, asked for input on outings, spent a lot more time with him, and asked him periodically if there are things I can do to make our relationship better. He's turned down sex more often than not, he never has ideas for outings but he goes on the ones I arrange, and he has no idea what to do to make our relationship better. He does have ideas for how I can be a better roommate. He's also not sure if he wants to be more than roommates. No abuse, no kids. Am I wasting my time? I don't want a roommate. Divorce or no?",4.281513629842177,5.219815735772361,5.259220468675277,83.13027977044479,70.5040650406504,7.902056432329027,27.88522238163558,8.124751697461798,1.6882628407460545,965,33,197,13,17,317,119,246,0.113,0.826,0.061,-0.8992,0,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,6,0,0,4,9,7,0,0,8,0,24,6,2,3,4,37,43,16,0,6,10,2,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,1,6,8,0,0,6,0,1,1,14,0,0,3,15,6,26,7,26,24,4,25,0,0,0,4,51,11,0,7,14,125,32,1,0.0,0.11320797178581965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0846969503441244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15281834372396969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26797158990659264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535115682762499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08361411956695633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09174042852402853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32358394439803473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05251031831227438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1954072537401711,0.0,0.046679603176555104,0.0,0.0,0.08455638763389124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08123093015773783,0.0,0.0,0.12755718041112454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1525299476003277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07369199754930149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06474534916899075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09121074574691806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5129104183278289,0.0,0.0,0.36354959510693996,0.07598307834960041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005223552518686,0.0,0.07183970733577183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06347740591937337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22285768517230206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12974074153192092,0.10392806688504992,0.18667173175832774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2254251825361851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06955960019452427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gbook2,2019/04/09,"Ex-wife still angry 2 years after divorce My wife and I separated about 2 years ago, and the divorce was final within 3 months. It was ""amicable"" in that she wanted to divide everything 50/50, and that is what we did. Our co-parenting seemed challenging but reasonable for a while, little spats here and there, but we were adjusting to our new lives. About a year after the divorce, she decided that I was not honoring my verbal agreement to watch the kids if she had to go to work early on a day the kids were with her, which was usually once a week. I had never missed a day in that year. But she called the mediator, and wanted to amend our divorce decree saying that I would be available to watch the kids every morning, in case she needed to work early, and I would need to tell her in writing each week if there were any days I couldn't, etc. And if I didn't do all this, she would hire a sitter and I would have to pay for it. I refused to sign any changes like that. What I did end up signing was basically a bilateral right of first refusal, which I was comfortable with. Even the mediator could not understand why she was being so difficult about something that was not legally binding. After that incident I was less interested in talking with her about anything. I no longer wanted to take her late night calls, when I realized she was just looking for an argument. If she started to talk about something in person, and I sensed it was going toward an argument, I asked her to email me instead. Her subsequent email usually said ""You treated me badly in front of the children, you yelled at me, and you refused to do xxx. So I have decided to do xxx. We need to work together, this is not co-parenting."" That continues now, nearly two years after the divorce. There's an email, call, or text from her at least once a day about some new or old crisis about the children. And because I didn't talk with her about it, or I didn't do exactly what she asked in a timely manner, she's been forced to decide on her own about what to do. And all of our children's bad behavior is because of me, because I initiated the divorce..... etc. She tells these crises to her family, the health care providers for our children, their teachers, and anyone else interacting with our kids. She's really good at being a martyr. If I ignore her, then she will say to the doctors, teachers, and other staff ""The children's father ignored this problem, and I had to deal with it myself."" Most of these crises are based on a tiny bit of reality, that is blown way out of proportion. ""The children's father missed a dose of the children's medication once last month... he simply can't be trusted to give medication."" and she'll tell the doctor this. Doctors/teachers/staff may think it's insignificant, but they won't disagree with her about it if it's written down somewhere. I find myself getting into the details of these situations, and lose sight of what's really happening. She's using the children as a tool to continue to try to hurt me. Why is she doing this? How can I stop it?",5.932760999254287,6.237280035234902,6.4878076062639805,78.03547352721853,66.6006711409396,9.50812826249068,31.65622669649516,9.372597083632963,2.723877479492916,2415,90,460,43,36,789,263,596,0.123,0.8240000000000001,0.053,-0.9919,2,0,2,0,6,0,87.0,9,3,2,7,23,20,0,0,35,0,53,7,1,3,4,89,78,37,0,19,18,3,0,1,0,8,6,4,0,13,35,30,0,6,10,0,1,3,12,10,0,2,25,8,76,10,84,39,11,69,0,4,4,0,90,23,0,13,43,345,111,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0696881447424412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10692285123747043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05496998063488817,0.08055115604197564,0.06469408767756865,0.0,0.1469902821640237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13128178348327751,0.14377034771060454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08582806943810313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408265006099297,0.0,0.08015402623068317,0.0,0.08316507017762391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06276830256464061,0.0,0.0,0.20280269512062454,0.08104941621571547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16093316223148496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06567339565802308,0.0,0.0696302458581079,0.0,0.1753547496154001,0.051924980633830366,0.0,0.06623718453871102,0.0,0.07065479305500537,0.0,0.07411195988369823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08611974326419666,0.0718533978266705,0.06687054151755455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0410734998183757,0.07541541883304596,0.0893583178956482,0.06593918558502249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06951967380056494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08356489691372229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08415981746654229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06408235265174751,0.08868202305526073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038407698618078495,0.0787936637361188,0.06941917322820984,0.0,0.06601745453037658,0.08795094764381553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1583942532307396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550072963360245,0.0,0.0,0.17487781213438405,0.060633335329193475,0.15185521862687618,0.0,0.0737755830799253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08249403553834338,0.251169716909887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06864426593350788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07522468327880345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10072656229089172,0.08083011432528997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06713744577796886,0.0747816087295104,0.1250368458483827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07156885266476627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08836742954868597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12104453509781005,0.0,0.0,0.055644653060190015,0.0,0.06278266271885384,0.06572631148555873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05910928200754498,0.18956515591530385,0.2061409681183517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037381686315818,0.0,0.0,0.04584149298809482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053374953514458964,0.0,0.07679619283363577,0.08184179854806757,0.0,0.0678987917155569,0.1731683477878831,0.0,0.13910887008338452,0.06240154616385823,0.12612167188135598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14187702542010824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716996704209656,0.0,0.0,0.22338557542275408,0.0,0.0,0.2531299210132673 divorce,marquezkelly,2019/04/09,"Divorce Attorney / Lawyer in Fort Myers and Cape Coral, FL Family Law issues can be painful and difficult to resolve, but with a caring and compassionate Family Law Attorney, such as [**Mellany Marquez-Kelly**](https://www.marquezkellylaw.com/), you will have the equitable resolutions that will protect your interests and also those of any children. Whether it is Divorce, Minor Guardianships, Paternity, Prenuptial / Postnuptial Agreements, Same Sex Divorce & Adoption, etc. Call us now at 239-214-0403.",12.32054054054054,15.095438081081081,9.795513513513516,51.194081081081094,53.32432432432432,12.406486486486488,47.23243243243243,11.979248473330829,6.9553708108108125,414,24,45,12,5,123,65,74,0.044,0.732,0.224,0.9455,0,0,0,0,3,0,33.0,1,2,0,1,3,7,0,0,2,0,6,2,0,0,0,11,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,3,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,6,4,2,3,0,0,0,1,9,2,0,0,1,31,6,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22330221511413248,0.0,0.30254841326649184,0.0,0.18988774820732807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851277120541562,0.0,0.28469625294394874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114181688624778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5264713020528026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2914462950343285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2971231814503811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33588244548796004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,overhisshit,2019/04/09,"Can he refuse to sign divorce papers? Husband (40m) and I (31f) have been married for 9 long years. I was young dumb and pregnant when we got married. We’ve had a volatile relationship...there’s emotional, verbal, and physical abuse going on. I’m no angel in this. I’ve begged for a divorce for years. Begged him to leave for years. I have pictures of what he’s done to me. And audio of him admitting to beating my ass for throwing a plastic cup at him. Again...I’m no angel in this. He refuses to leave, says he will not sign divorce papers, and if I file paperwork he won’t show up to court. If I go through with filing the paperwork, what will happen if he refuses to sign or show up to court? Also, can I have him removed from our home that we own? Live in Mississippi, and we don’t have to be separate before filing. I just want it over and done.",1.8633598265895936,3.7926389306358392,3.56444725433526,88.76551481213876,78.76878612716763,6.6371387283237,24.68533236994219,7.6454224807358475,1.2233124277456646,657,24,139,10,16,219,100,173,0.141,0.8420000000000001,0.017,-0.962,0,0,0,0,4,0,32.0,4,0,0,1,3,1,1,0,4,0,16,1,1,0,0,25,23,13,0,4,6,1,0,0,0,3,0,2,1,0,6,11,0,3,1,2,0,4,5,1,0,0,6,2,17,0,27,13,1,18,2,0,0,1,23,8,2,4,6,88,23,2,0.0,0.2425911911054037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1637357486489148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17422424076276827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190536311254301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23031231988284606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327243748642916,0.0,0.16375452657585998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18105670526273265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20537749192525867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.43359408420674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18079496205375511,0.18119426104094646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21982117928572345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16282268103484973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1207648248483508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3955502118743153 divorce,jhodges09,2019/04/09,"How to go about separation? I live in austin tx and wantung to separate from my wife,to get myself together,how do i go about this?",1.0377777777777766,3.3422631481481524,3.653333333333337,84.90000000000002,84.18518518518519,8.044444444444443,23.814814814814817,8.841846274778883,2.036837037037037,103,4,22,3,3,36,21,27,0.0,0.885,0.115,0.4329,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,6,4,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,14,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3412031929957194,0.0,0.7423117952339966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5766745873939713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Di60W13,2019/04/09,"He told our kids he had a gf months before he told me Need some clarity please. Husband moved out. One child in high school, one in college at the time. Nine months later, he finally told me he was seeing someone. I was blindsided, and it did sting ... but I knew the marriage was over. Just a few weeks later, I learned that my kids had known for at least 4 months, but prob longer. I was absolutely devastated & brokenhearted to learn they'd been keeping this secret from me. I feel it was selfish and deplorable of him to put my kids in that position. Not to mention it's negatively affected the relationship I have with my kids ... I can't help but be feel betrayed by them, esp the older one. I have grown to despise my ex for this and other similar behaviors. Anyone else deal with this?",3.455414585414584,5.373695870129873,4.431298701298704,84.39167332667333,74.06493506493507,7.8553446553446555,26.78121878121879,8.617729084823388,1.91756003996004,620,23,124,12,13,201,100,154,0.146,0.8320000000000001,0.022,-0.9719,0,0,0,0,0,0,25.0,1,0,2,0,1,2,1,0,6,0,14,0,0,1,0,22,23,6,0,1,5,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,9,6,0,1,7,0,0,3,3,2,0,4,13,3,19,0,18,8,3,20,0,0,1,0,26,8,0,1,9,81,28,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799143912974431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11610555987219395,0.17013717237277445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1412957588424615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1711895790821441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13871291718708448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16791907178682464,0.0,0.0,0.18189893633313445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11129937291597544,0.17544024521406038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14759228353992696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3976169986831914,0.17648417065138358,0.0,0.12312348214169555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3375579919915221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1822723124314224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16692545056111094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17827484970425858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16805079776172335,0.13231982607469864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14069306754314626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682470590833654,0.0,0.0,0.4760017828436858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13319476518523762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,diploid12,2019/04/09,"Bad Timing? My wife (F 27) told me last week, she was taking a job in another state and would be seeking a divorce. I (M 28) am by no means absolved of any wrong doing, I should've been a better husband first and foremost. I wasn't a true partner and pretty selfish for the total 2.5 years of our marriage. We had discussed this move, but I felt like the timing and location was bad. Mostly because my father passed away from cancer last month. Obviously, I had just finished grieving his loss and then hit with this. The part I find most difficult is that I have to attend his celebration of life next week without my wife. I feel like I needed her during this time, and she is just walking out. Am I justified in feeling angry that she would end our marriage at this time. I don't think she did this on purpose as the job is great career wise for her, but damnit why now?!",4.9401253918495325,5.375048310344827,5.498631138975966,83.81402821316614,68.77011494252875,7.7065830721003135,29.036572622779516,7.348242739294969,1.5956045977011497,682,23,136,6,11,220,117,174,0.203,0.6629999999999999,0.135,-0.9419,2,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,3,0,0,3,3,13,0,0,8,0,18,2,0,0,3,28,27,10,1,3,5,4,3,2,1,2,2,0,0,1,7,9,0,0,6,0,0,4,4,7,0,1,9,3,26,6,17,14,4,27,0,2,0,0,21,6,0,2,18,94,33,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10422900673176116,0.1607171915079892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1440024187944582,0.0,0.25594846632075025,0.09343210464945548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13555505587194067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1357519235651578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15499605886516285,0.10949627712908264,0.1471634489760937,0.0,0.1400862060653954,0.13037157242486938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16898096070357907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041940904464112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24987137505683674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10825929044605977,0.14976017685589973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16695620432213154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233882881377554,0.16290198970238462,0.0,0.11364792743700372,0.0,0.0,0.16300461977197198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16597671421160315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15593091728164332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11524013213210918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09820936939426927,0.0,0.0,0.3574923957565166,0.0,0.0,0.14645626524826788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2458882537344095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830253558008798,0.0,0.0,0.1477470244224845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21775753615852986,0.1675769268528079,0.0,0.09870099772294916 divorce,NefariousShe,2019/04/09,"Fellow Collaboratives? At my instigation, my husband (52) and I (53) are using the collaborative process to divorce after after 18 years of marriage, and for the most part it’s working well. Still living together in relative harmony. We haven’t told the kids (girl, 17 and boy, 14) but that’s coming soon because I just bought a house. I’d like to hear from others who are using or who have used the collaborative process. Are you still on friendly terms? Do you think it was easier on your kids, and have you been able to maintain a family feel for them despite the divorce? Etc. Just anything really. I’ve held off from posting because I see so little about people in my situation, and I’m hoping they’re out there",4.388362299465244,6.319897742647065,5.63034759358289,76.71679144385027,71.57352941176471,8.180748663101605,28.540106951871657,8.841846274778883,2.402861764705882,567,22,102,11,11,189,96,136,0.0,0.862,0.138,0.9577,0,0,0,0,2,0,21.0,1,4,1,1,9,4,0,0,7,0,9,0,0,3,0,20,22,8,0,1,4,1,1,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,6,8,0,1,2,0,1,1,1,0,1,0,5,3,12,4,18,17,4,17,0,0,1,0,20,8,0,3,8,70,18,1,0.18342440916698605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15094265997189596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2236276346887614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800388699021453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20456670227402948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291620860826512,0.0,0.09274489256166618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14171324351849354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20673264001119665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18218182552452392,0.0,0.2116471411461163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08961190119420752,0.1838394453066019,0.1619671137854064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19863076054965906,0.0,0.1271633900294276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1756698807921678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11750637336279895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14616550606777676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20617672108517265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2929659401994472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11753095504117635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17526988343942262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4752593906959505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16492057222709594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13353515444773548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11811930569805795 divorce,survivingbean,2019/04/09,"When to Lawyer Up My wife and I submitted joint petition for divorce only. In our state basically according to the checklist etc. You get case manager, first Appearance (explains process) , child impact program, mediation and then after that you are kind of done. I talked to few lawyers and I get conflicting answers some say to lawyer up now through process some just want to make first meet etc. Some want retainer and most did not. Here is where I am bit confused: We filed for divorce, we got told will be called from case manager and get first appearance meeting scheduled. I filled out majority of paperwork that still needs to be filed which I think it’s at mediation such as affidavit / parenting / decree etc. So I am wanting to go through this without lots of mess but still be prepared with lawyer and also anything before I sign I would like lawyer to look into it and advise. So do I hire lawyer now or do I have time to hire them bit later? Because I really don’t have $400 to spend for every single little thing. But then again that $400 could save me $4000 or more importantly time with kids. In general what did you do or when did you hire a lawyer? And what are some good points to hire lawyer because dating sites etc can be bit altered for their rating.",5.3323674655047215,6.616584691358027,5.3295618494311325,82.3116557734205,68.34156378600824,8.845219075284437,30.343500363108202,9.168548406835145,2.498927087872186,1012,39,194,19,17,316,145,243,0.015,0.8959999999999999,0.08900000000000001,0.9506,1,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,3,4,2,3,14,6,0,1,2,0,23,0,0,1,0,46,39,21,0,6,8,2,0,1,0,2,0,1,0,2,10,14,0,2,3,0,1,4,3,2,0,3,6,2,23,4,33,26,17,34,0,0,1,0,23,11,0,12,19,137,33,16,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09725504687960317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10007834571987714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14827010297199775,0.0,0.10348495574584833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.398314506659672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418197010866085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09709925759555957,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12445382537554285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5425291208401207,0.0,0.0,0.10246543527771024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31033561548111777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19061562171966304,0.0,0.06911630530967446,0.1020044465941687,0.09726620051086833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12664275487062912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05941468654387809,0.12188964715323118,0.0,0.0,0.10212552452962577,0.0,0.0,0.10339227252500867,0.0,0.0,0.08117860237460545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09017558775358743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09249328379279437,0.0,0.0,0.13503847566465813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11496498242609972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0779093429245299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671270695479814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19424294399534325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09774910346617924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08079524928807273,0.07792564112483649,0.0,0.0,0.14182874968244066,0.0,0.0,0.11620783675336725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21519409412327992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11723200824340906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08639142945107015,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,beverlycrushher,2019/04/09,"Reminder: The length of time you are/were married isn't necessarily a reflection of the quality of your marriage I spend a lot of time feeling like a failure in divorce, and I've been trying to remind myself that the amount of time you're married (or staying married) does not define your marriage as good or bad. Bad marriages can be long, good marriages can be short, you might have kids, you might not, but your relationship was really important. &#x200B; In the process of divorcing my spouse of 4 years that I am in love with, and he is in love with me, but things aren't getting better and we're just not good partners for each other after all the things we've gone through together. I'm walking away from someone I spent 7 important years of my life with, and we still love and respect each other, and I'm marking that as a success.",9.601875547765117,7.133362018404911,8.838667835232254,73.16809815950923,60.71779141104296,11.522874671340931,41.6906222611744,9.606745405546679,3.9461628396143738,671,30,126,9,7,212,94,163,0.054000000000000006,0.711,0.235,0.9881,0,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,1,6,0,2,2,12,0,0,9,0,13,4,0,0,1,26,22,12,0,0,8,1,1,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,7,12,0,0,2,0,2,2,5,2,0,0,4,1,14,10,23,14,5,17,0,0,0,3,21,6,0,5,9,85,21,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760060017936335,0.18795860871809794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14533118750496118,0.0,0.2583102066053609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13680587733939267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1353654556645728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821313517523314,0.11050664367836514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08081627124940245,0.0,0.0,0.38922607996164216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10925824281762586,0.07557103736738939,0.0,0.0,0.13689092225920316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1315072374355868,0.4188264242384849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3281916375553088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09909485697732852,0.0,0.0,0.1660732729152399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1310636819615115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16487310448086995,0.1235312481888058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553102804126824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27059334229020365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10502062741726563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18795860871809794,0.19922350370343506 divorce,InbredShitkicker,2019/04/09,"I want to leave it all behind... I think about it all the time, I just want out. In my 40's have a couple of kids. One's graduating high school this year. Tons of fucking debt. Unhappy marriage...I just want to leave it all. Live on my own. Do what I want. Split the debt and try and be happy again. I'm so unhappy...",-1.6835294117647095,0.2546671176470596,0.9443529411764722,100.40358823529414,98.41176470588236,4.484705882352942,14.152941176470588,6.2581,-0.8159811764705882,236,5,60,3,10,80,46,68,0.16,0.711,0.129,-0.4878,2,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,0,0,0,0,5,2,1,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,3,13,10,3,0,4,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,5,3,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,6,1,9,9,5,7,0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,3,38,11,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25887375752412584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162934761523416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2490561823286851,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24719298659334815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4954625263844345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20659213748410052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15853824966068952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2367813528043673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14991297094220446,0.0,0.0,0.13642473082673354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15884438292597822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5519858078986912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15066342340724234 divorce,incogneatogang,2019/04/09,"Going to first mediation appointment tomorrow. What to expect? Live in Canada, 35F, one child together. Just wondering what all will take place during this first meeting and if I can better prepare myself. TIA!",4.8125714285714265,8.36372225714286,5.345714285714287,69.20428571428573,83.57142857142857,8.514285714285714,27.0,8.841846274778883,3.598257142857144,169,7,22,5,5,54,32,35,0.0,0.816,0.184,0.8034,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,6,5,2,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,0,2,1,3,4,1,6,0,0,0,0,2,2,0,2,3,17,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3113087596075828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5988092769924833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004544795824167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31081582402983704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2385192258941973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.36775724202744586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26465455205855504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3817208484652791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,oitiBuon,2019/04/09,"Dealing with conflicts/different ways of dealing with it Hi everyone, I am in a crisis with my spouse. Talking to each other is very hard and i feel like we cant resolve our issues. We are seperated but still have to talk sometimes as there are still things we need to discuss regarding living situation etc. My spouse cant take criticism very well and is not good at apologizing. Also in this situation he cant see that he is also part of the Problem. We have a conversation coming up soon and i would like to know how to talk to my spouse. Pressure in any type of way is not working at all. I just want our communication to get better. Advice and help is very much appreciated. Also are there different specific types of how people react to Conflict?",4.6505642633228845,6.285061655172412,5.989529780564264,75.59890282131664,70.3793103448276,8.858934169278996,29.733542319749212,9.339509955726095,2.752448275862069,600,24,109,13,11,202,90,145,0.11,0.7290000000000001,0.161,0.8538,2,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,6,0,0,3,12,8,0,1,3,0,15,0,0,3,1,29,23,11,0,4,4,3,2,2,0,1,0,0,0,0,5,13,0,1,3,0,0,1,5,2,1,0,0,3,13,6,22,22,5,12,0,0,1,0,21,6,0,0,5,82,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13043270811721197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32022582360447394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09076930492458607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805003795320712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114979082541555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27521896729464784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.278911241904221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1488627412531695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12754351034590794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06749025521008789,0.09535638186032963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06973650601692047,0.0,0.0,0.11195462847418497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11956965894949124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08946718205253093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1393158741038297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07335576571729624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304207685061896,0.0,0.11786311400113225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09812135065465924,0.09897190525977796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14454316945978368,0.0,0.09253652044245607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277199800672031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10636431866980517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3000686968323429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13201270092224493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131906731012425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035849924166558,0.3218525739112153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0886765471363524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3303988503248388,0.07872851188295768,0.2118965181328018,0.0,0.0,0.12001233924121199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09717323945578857,0.0,0.0,0.09481861536907976,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Padoke81,2019/04/09,"Wife's confusing behavior and trying to get her back. My wife and I seperated once before well over a year ago for a month. I left immediately and stayed at my moms during this which was an hour away. I played the ""game"" of no contact and did everything I read to do. She never made it past a third day at most before texting or calling, usually less than that. She also would want to see me occassionally. I got her back. During this first time there was very little talk of actual divorce. This time is a bit different. She said she wanted a divorce and allowed me to stay at her house for 3 weeks. During this time my 6 yr old stayed with her grandparents down the street to keep her clear of possibly being upset at the situation. Her reasoning was that she just wanted to live alone with her daughter and not worry about anyone else. I had also not been paying them as much attention as I should have been and she doesnt feel this would change. The first week I tried to play the game but she was upset when I wouldnt talk to her and was upset when I would be polite. It was a no win situation. She would also hug me sometimes ""to comfort me"". She kept distance physically and emotionally to ""not lead me on"". By the end of the third week our relationship was amazing. Hanging out, sex, kissing regularly and just completely normal....but I had to go. So back to mom's I went because Im saving for my own place. During me packing and leaving she was crying and holding me. She had also mentioned during all of this that she wanted to continue talking and seeing each other indefinitely. Shes even looking forward to me having my own place. The first night at moms she began texting and it lead to her saying that she wanted me to tell her whatever was on my mind and to be open and honest with her because shes always there for me. I didnt totally spill my heart but started talking about things. She totally shut me down and told me she thought our conversations would be ""light and flirty"" and didnt want to text about serious issues. Conversation didnt go on much past that. She also mentioned she wanted to not put a label on our relationship and ""not worry about what we are or are not supposed to be...just be"". Day 2 I start the no contact phase...well at least try to. By the late afternoon she was texting to ""check on me"". I kept my answers to one word and then she became upset. A casual conversation flared up and at the end of the night she said ""I guess Im going to bed..."" I havent been hysterical and have kept my composure throughout this with the exception of the first week. Ive been playing it cool. Day 3 I try to begin no contact and it starts off disasterous. Before 8am I miss a text asking if I could call and then one saying nevermind. I call anyway and she said, ""I needed you to call a few minutes ago"" hatefully. My stepdaughter missed me so I made arrangements to call her tonight. Then I get a text asking if we can please text throughout the day. No contact rule is blown once more. I am confused how things can turn from terrible to absolutely amazing and I still have to leave. I dont understand why she doesnt want to live together but is insistent on having as much casual conversation as possible and still spending time together. My biggest question is how am I supposed to start the process of winning her back when I cant even begin the no contact phase!?",3.9688235294117646,5.463067443946192,5.135747823793196,81.60579002901609,71.86995515695068,8.176804712916558,27.01899235030335,8.728711383574653,1.9870598259034555,2676,93,522,49,51,885,277,669,0.079,0.821,0.1,0.9371,3,1,0,0,2,0,76.0,5,1,1,8,30,28,1,6,29,1,58,4,1,8,5,102,104,54,0,19,16,6,1,0,0,7,0,5,1,0,22,37,0,5,7,8,3,9,22,12,1,8,34,11,100,16,80,57,15,93,0,2,3,3,87,29,0,10,54,385,122,4,0.0,0.0,0.05486119856712472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09966871124317897,0.0,0.0,0.058225466770791365,0.0,0.2247897845111407,0.04677834006507415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03930931973573649,0.05760255163574818,0.0,0.0,0.10511351710326987,0.0,0.05281918159075996,0.17291438983024368,0.0,0.06854061679242289,0.0,0.1435135449436479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06137609991628939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2870271435419897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059471775261683825,0.0,0.058944083715108835,0.0,0.0,0.044885940403932366,0.0,0.0617534411716657,0.1450252645842493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05873642287152685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06588772597799138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04696338762059325,0.06323830584820672,0.0995859036550986,0.0,0.0,0.07426364871999612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05052561086948525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02842578981515767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19127789146405916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0587437477102371,0.0,0.095850898489627,0.0,0.0449631128760291,0.0,0.0619310747877502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05550418259283847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06661925654887786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05536395080700472,0.06486866266191756,0.0,0.0,0.12145136980900395,0.0586775637884756,0.0,0.04996963341449701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06341697702688831,0.11905466162203847,0.06108162284314107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056345759725216264,0.09928402537898147,0.0,0.047209425913949984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10639070921035862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05676471290097339,0.19752747110839988,0.04487311302693471,0.0,0.12398131617993155,0.041685345058520805,0.04335921420330045,0.0,0.0,0.10551460817283127,0.055082246075747056,0.0,0.0,0.05899191489272289,0.11974184935015005,0.0761902935636289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10733394110636052,0.0,0.0,0.11747284574305372,0.06171108960006645,0.0,0.12675594409888707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05651517391037575,0.06297764611164683,0.0,0.05623376701332471,0.0,0.0,0.05780203615848376,0.0,0.12071537445027002,0.0,0.0,0.16043015481992154,0.08941450034061978,0.0,0.0,0.08959781695679246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12638401914043287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05560158689081534,0.0,0.15916712601778682,0.17976449366128233,0.08979241885015263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18074537504687926,0.049137493669624215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07469821776744742,0.0,0.0,0.044631251785267764,0.13112596251408212,0.0,0.0,0.05371923703791614,0.0,0.15267483010523766,0.06114964261606624,0.0,0.05852549682056599,0.0,0.0,0.06191679415457885,0.04638619429954775,0.2652732752933009,0.0,0.1803805301849896,0.0,0.05054723115028576,0.052115162300301665,0.050728500273971334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11418533993344245,0.0,0.1996802369953751,0.0,0.0,0.03620290523979912 divorce,savagetroublemaker,2019/04/09,"Court sent certified mail, spouse did not go pick up mail On 3/18 in the state of Indiana, I filed a petition for divorce. The county clerk's office sent the papers via certified mail to my spouse but due to his irresponsibility and excuse that he ""forgot"" for 15 days to go pick up the mail, the mail was (I'm assuming) returned to the courthouse after 4/2. My spouse did receive a letter from the courthouse, while the certified mail was still waiting at the post office but I don't know what it was for. What are my options now? Will the court contact me to work out a new delivery method or will they send it back out certified mail? Is there a timeline for this kind of stuff?",5.01137009189641,5.981709669172938,5.433483709273187,82.4280367585631,68.84962406015039,8.617878028404345,28.311612364243945,8.841846274778883,2.029829406850459,538,18,107,9,9,172,83,133,0.0,0.984,0.016,0.2477,0,0,1,0,1,0,16.0,0,0,1,1,4,1,0,0,14,0,10,0,0,2,0,14,18,5,0,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,7,3,0,2,2,0,0,6,2,0,0,0,8,0,8,1,20,8,0,24,0,0,0,0,21,7,0,3,9,69,15,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2716258704378561,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22781570560350856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4015179035136883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3678533828090445,0.1941358362190643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34116907332498875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383138913187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2821042708225471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.40438439127440573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25716871626107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,68whiskeybusiness,2019/04/09,"Uncontested “DIY” divorce? Wondering if anyone here has gone through an uncontested “DIY” divorce with children? If so, how difficult was it and what was the price range? We’d prefer to not have to pay for lawyers and such.",4.2940000000000005,7.111812400000005,4.535,80.36,75.0,8.0,32.5,8.841846274778883,3.116,176,9,31,4,4,55,33,40,0.08,0.889,0.031,-0.4629,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,1,0,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,7,6,0,3,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,2,0,2,1,1,1,0,0,3,1,1,0,5,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,0,0,3,0,23,3,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.541893378184615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.840447242056077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway47463728273,2019/04/09,How does the first couples counseling meeting usually go? My wife and I are going to our first couples counseling tonight. Feel like I should prepare myself for what it’ll be like.,4.908181818181816,7.5233295151515165,4.790909090909089,80.30636363636367,72.03030303030303,8.036363636363637,35.24242424242424,8.841846274778883,3.489351515151516,146,8,24,3,3,45,28,33,0.0,0.848,0.152,0.6124,0,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,0,1,0,4,7,2,0,1,0,1,1,2,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,1,5,2,2,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,6,17,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6189577324921377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24476429903712946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14142295841044775,0.1998152412377966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4758194137306812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3179159422681318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2732911716349912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3080461883934004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,baxqwe,2019/04/09,"Alimony Question I 39M am divorcing with my 40F. We've been married for a few years but are going through a divorce of course, hence why I'm here. We are doing mediation and have already verbally agreed on $1000 for 3 years. But at times she gets angry and says she is going to demand more. Weather that happens or not remains to be seen. My question: I have been lucky enough to be able to work some overtime at work. However this overtime will not continue forever. But with the overtime of course I'm working more therefore my paychecks are bigger. If we do have to get attornies and they go through my bank statements, will they be able to say I can pay more since I am making more, even though I won't continue to get the higher pay with overtime later? Or will it be based off what I would regularly make? Any help would be great. Thanks Live in Utah.",2.69479411764706,4.899327464705884,3.5466911764705884,88.55886029411766,77.29411764705883,6.367647058823527,27.095588235294123,7.413659706084162,1.4653823529411758,679,28,135,9,16,216,107,170,0.054000000000000006,0.8340000000000001,0.113,0.924,1,0,0,0,1,0,17.0,2,0,2,3,3,3,0,0,4,0,25,0,0,3,0,26,38,10,0,3,8,0,0,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,4,8,0,0,3,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,3,3,16,3,21,24,7,15,0,0,1,0,13,6,0,7,6,91,20,5,0.32789325773435685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18091918174611624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11148932959913732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16940069331615967,0.0,0.10828520214928927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2569660408066011,0.0,0.27952394201028713,0.0,0.0,0.180751737108508,0.0,0.0,0.14497746246518933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10988996948305244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14476787693119875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21887129567055702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3673154905597768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2607538792220607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13561834557664604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1509400289366418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107673045950222,0.0,0.09559859771631653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.147936332285763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3580652952306953,0.0,0.0,0.23292596257732925,0.0,0.0,0.2111525075781876 divorce,beachywomango,2019/04/09,"Thinking about divorce more and more everyday Me and my husband have been together for 3.5 years. I was LDS back when we married in the lds temple after 8 months of dating but now realize I want to resign from the religion. He is okay with me wanting to resign. He also doesn't really practice mormonism. Anyway, I noticed us having problems in our first year of marriage. I made two appointments that year which we ended up not showing to because my husband thought we could work it out. The issues are intimacy, communication, and personality clashes. I have tried books on marriage to read with him but no matter what I say to him about improving our relationship, he simply won't try harder. After two years of trying I gave up in hope he would naturally figure things out. But of course that didn't work. I feel like I literally do everything. I clean.cook. you name it. We have two animals that need taking care of. My dog needs to exercise and now I automatically take care of all of them. I feel like I am my husbands mom most of the time. Our relationship is struggling as I have high aspirations. I try to take care of myself (bathing, brush my teeth etc) I workout. My husband on the other hand will not shower when I ask him to. Even when he doesn't shower for a month, he denies it and sid he took one a 'few days ago'. Which I know he doesn't keep track. He barely brushes his teeth and my oh my it's annoying. He expects me to kiss him. We stopped making out a while ago because I think his mouth is gross. Hygiene is very important to me. Things like this keep getting to me. I thought it would change. Maybe it was just a phase. Nope. Since we have been married I have noticed a sad outlook on life even. I'm 25 and have the rest of my life ahead of me. To be fair he did have health problems our first year of marriage. But the problem is that it's ongoing. He has stomach problems but wont take the precautions to make himself better. He doesn't exercise because he gets to distracted with sleep and video games. That is his life besides a few things on occasion. I am a very adventurous person and want to live a certain life. When we got married he said that is what he wanted too--to be adventurous. I wanted stability and tried to save money. Each time I tried he would whine about a new game he wanted. I said it was fine most of the time because I have to buy stuff for myself so why couldn't he to? Well, it's ongoing and financially difficult. Now, I find myself hiking alone or I go with my dog. I just couldn't take being lazy anymore. I have found a group of mainly college guys who like to hike. It's hard to find many girlfriends around here in southeast idaho that are exmormon, and even if I do hangout with other girls, they seem to be infatuated with their husbands. But I am not.. My husband is a really nice person and is loving and caring when he sees an opportunity to be. The problem is I am very passionate about life and I want to experience all I can especially outdoors. While he is at home he literally plays videogames until 3 in the morning or later and gets up does the same thing until he goes to work. On his days off he says we will run errands on his next day off but nothing happens. The only time anything happens is when it benefits him or I have to convince him until he says ""OK fine! Lets go!"". He says he is fine after I make him upset and apologize. But I know he isn't. When we go somewhere when he doesn't want to go and I feel guilty the whole time because he gives in and raises his voice. Then I feel defeated after and don't feel happy. I then have to fake my happiness like I am having a good time. But he stays quiet and grumpy in snobby way. He doesn't communicate very well. I try to recognize the goods things about him. He keeps saying things will get better in our relationship, but to me it always feels like we are going in circles. Another thing I want to add is that I have struggled with Major Depressive Disorder since I was a kid. I started taking medication for anxiety and depression the past few years and I thought it was helping me. I thought maybe I am depressed because I am a senior in college and ready to be done. Maybe I am having trouble with my meds. Maybe I am going crazy. Or all of those things and much more. I keep finding things to pin my depression on because I want my marriage to work out. Then the other day while I was hiking with my group I felt like an individual again. I didn't feel constricted and I wanted to flirt with other guys. This made me feel guilty. My husband is such a great guy and loves me a lot...at least from what he tells me lately....I think he has noticed I have started to pull away. Hence his want to give me more attention sometimes. But he barely remembers what I like. He seems clueless at times. Additionally, I have been going through my faith crisis. But while in my religious mindset 3.5 years ago I thought if I married any decent person then we could work through life together. But once I noticed the world outside mormonism I fell into a more critical and logical mindset. I plan on going to individual counseling first. And then plan on doing couples counseling after I have my own issues moreso figured out. I am just so confused but kind of feel like it's time to throw in the towel. Which I NEVER thought I would do. Any advice is appreciated. I know ya'll can't know every detail but...I feel like the bad guy and guilty for wanting what is best for my life. I want to cry but hold back to seem like I am happy....",2.876663079777366,4.900901478181818,4.1919146567718,85.00068831168835,76.03636363636362,6.926159554730984,25.679035250463823,7.852658510275912,1.4806983302411871,4366,159,866,67,98,1436,408,1100,0.152,0.7190000000000001,0.129,-0.9852,3,1,0,0,1,0,122.0,17,1,3,16,34,73,1,5,39,2,99,21,6,5,5,180,191,75,0,33,27,8,13,11,1,9,11,9,4,10,48,61,0,7,37,12,2,13,21,25,2,7,28,25,147,48,127,143,24,124,3,9,1,4,123,38,0,13,82,584,195,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03645179838961924,0.09919986470149332,0.0,0.0,0.0386343808657008,0.0,0.02983098163458205,0.031038861628258325,0.0,0.0,0.050734274413800434,0.03911516742151278,0.028536488194844507,0.0,0.036994287011742004,0.0,0.0,0.030696970378152468,0.033207340487229,0.034873019308608366,0.0,0.03504714503406458,0.05736699733262698,0.03114622342973777,0.15917579613804156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039146916273069515,0.06598247089204401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15213048717254332,0.0,0.039461344728486884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05956639296365754,0.04127476390707476,0.04097529995569936,0.09622870571657877,0.0,0.12851515507271027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042752163103924726,0.0,0.03264387251440143,0.03817364649186058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033039148881466085,0.0,0.04160240717389911,0.07391430884752226,0.0,0.03142916091267532,0.0,0.033525290599870534,0.03648923013430705,0.0,0.0,0.18861382330353,0.13324539745094802,0.035816472967305515,0.0,0.1022820648919832,0.09518905540639347,0.0,0.04090052070076974,0.0,0.0,0.07795655229180377,0.0715683599871418,0.16960001978266298,0.06257552426586765,0.029834402781145707,0.04112639417694156,0.0,0.14774227926943398,0.06597336615953855,0.11912835688942885,0.033415921239829185,0.0,0.0,0.03965106020195605,0.0,0.0,0.02500323522942987,0.039412384857798057,0.0374176820904011,0.03705003014128218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07786872217270538,0.0,0.13262553010728834,0.0,0.03884505551033702,0.08200242473659622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03814457123103111,0.18443616153937803,0.20046653906196948,0.0,0.032938996139535305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03171344914027377,0.06733434479956918,0.07059349470542944,0.07469959064095949,0.037819115772698766,0.14990243415257706,0.0,0.04143492641318858,0.03757857846088362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04368850936127305,0.05954937024848081,0.0,0.027421800431887137,0.055319006847943324,0.0287701668783899,0.036027211413736056,0.03967187911284382,0.0,0.0,0.03579297781174436,0.16987763237794776,0.0,0.03972619259170767,0.025277296886209097,0.028370408926548994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035609678981569394,0.0,0.13028522844269308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784683853819913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037312827063427284,0.0,0.047794171151264574,0.0,0.0,0.1201475233650763,0.0422567240922682,0.0,0.07096688153147293,0.14832315018935865,0.0,0.0,0.029725448133122962,0.10187701979189212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06171441145776176,0.0,0.037329672001495916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03689335618610656,0.0,0.05280613199785427,0.0397597494671285,0.0,0.03118675460411477,0.0,0.07799383042185162,0.04270270401379577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16828207435919382,0.0,0.03260423231455397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2230405009821152,0.07170625413822784,0.0,0.1776852166876932,0.17401218601108698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04144470825777533,0.17728274685535092,0.0,0.10931804780916878,0.0,0.044870594130061135,0.0,0.0,0.1231146435997748,0.3080296528176633,0.029609172691170717,0.0,0.0,0.06707927263698307,0.0,0.033659913935006475,0.041647168583153454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13578416735492033,0.0,0.0,0.10599516335766243,0.0,0.0,0.16815215659664606 divorce,standingstill86,2019/04/09,Silence Long time lurker first time posting. Throwaway account. It’s been a little over month I think since this started. It happened fast. I initiated. It’s a long story that I won’t get into here right now. It was over. Tonight I’m barely hanging on. I’ve read about these waves hitting. The waves of fear and regret. I’m trying to hang on. Why are these waves so heavy. Why does it feel like someone is opening my chest and trying to rip out my heart. I’ve never felt such physical pain from an emotion before. How do you know what’s real and what isn’t?,0.6348082595870217,3.1146419203539857,1.9674690265486736,94.37450737463129,89.97345132743362,3.7212979351032454,19.922713864306786,5.2151,-0.2415328613569323,439,14,89,2,15,140,82,113,0.087,0.89,0.023,-0.7783,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,1,0,1,6,4,0,1,4,0,7,3,2,1,1,14,17,5,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,11,6,0,0,4,1,1,2,3,3,0,1,3,2,6,1,11,12,0,23,0,1,0,0,1,9,0,0,12,49,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1589715485233514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1634889717213763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101493223645932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21022640742257925,0.09446268977655001,0.13346549497919472,0.17937817682408694,0.0,0.0,0.15891048445773678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09760665318972188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16520585585644598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2213846723500844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10267234756638596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.091271669943085,0.187244472563747,0.0,0.3306627382632187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14911933785252632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14408845020226335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19879151309421006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17892359346171574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18687230584931488,0.21264405111062004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954475306636076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545408815263596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15829346186371904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13223339567178746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11970783337545368,0.0,0.0,0.21787452871431426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25367940885196033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3371551408330293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,drgnfyr,2019/04/09,summons for default hearing...advice please long story short; my ex wife and i decided to divorce a few months ago; i filed all the paperwork(and had the court self help assistant double check everything); she decided to sit it out and go default(because we basically have nothing to split or worry about). just got a summons in the mail saying the paperwork is being returned unfiled and i have to come in to the courthouse next month. Ive never been to court for anything; so im freaking out a little bit. should i hire a lawyer? or is this something common and they just need me to come in and answer some obvious questions?,6.010705128205128,7.3037024957264975,6.2505021367521385,76.29831730769233,66.77777777777779,8.926923076923078,33.42841880341881,9.188382445141503,3.121923931623932,500,22,85,9,8,160,83,117,0.056,0.9,0.044,-0.3266,0,0,1,0,1,0,16.0,1,0,1,0,4,1,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,0,3,24,14,8,0,2,4,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,2,10,0,0,4,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,3,1,10,0,15,9,5,19,0,0,0,0,11,7,0,4,8,59,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200840632900926,0.18218912363281306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16913291610448627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12528861616557316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22438451779447485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3540901977939752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1847162795727236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11680690945984973,0.0,0.16438037631890454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.137761806272897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22200666943028655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20599412707796494,0.0,0.1818867633130048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32810269281425675,0.0,0.0,0.1523972044950681,0.15851669272280974,0.0,0.21858250241122887,0.0,0.0,0.19721069013612053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22560920458237702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2302396009825723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16344496937837394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2144116489329781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1582263227950497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20872475177722785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,protelorigida,2019/04/09,"Thoughts, Advice, Suggestions whatever I'm upset right now so forgive me if I'm not coherent. Feel free to ask questions. This is Bay Area in California. To sum it up, wife and I decided we are divorcing. We were all like let's be amicable for the sake of our 5 years old daughter. We talked about nocontest divorce, etc etc. We met with the mortgage lender and apparently even if we were to sell our house and split remaining proceedings, we wouldn't be able to purchase smaller places of our own. For me - I have bad credit and will not be able to get any loan at all. Let me back up here a bit. I have been unemployed so I could be a stay at home dad for our daughter. I just recovered from cancer then became a stay at home dad. I have been collecting SS benefits (not sure which one SSI or SSDI). I have been battling with depression which was caused by our marriage in many ways, ironically. My wife and I haven't had sex even once in our daughter's lifetime and it wreaked havoc on how I see myself as a person. I have been trying to improve myself as a person but apparently nothing is good enough for the wife. She then announced she's asexual. Which is fine but when I asked about perhaps I could get my sexual needs met outside of the marriage, she refused. So after 5 years of trying I'm done and after one argument we decided to divorce. So back to the lender. Now that it turns out if we were to sell our house we likely will not be able to afford smaller places. Wife is adamantly against renting because she felt it'd not be stable environment for our daughter. I have suggested maybe have a renter renting out my bedroom (we have been sleeping in separate bedrooms for about 4 years now). but nope not an option. We are still looking into options but she's considering refinancing the house. Because our interest rate was very low when we bought the house, refinancing meant accepting a higher interest rate but I'd get money to pay off my debts and I could spend a year trying to rebuild my credit. I am concerned she'd not be able to afford higher mortgage along with utilities and so on. She even brought up the possibility of asking for child support from me because I am collecting SS benefits for our daughter. I am totally terrified that I might end up not being able to afford renting and be forced to move out of Bay Area meaning I'd see my daughter less. The idea is killing me. I am applying for jobs and I kinda wish she'd wait until I see what I get so I would know what I will be earning monthly. Also some people have suggested I could qualify for alimony because I have been unemployed for few years now but I am afraid going that direction will involve higher legal fees and destroy any goodwill the wife has for me impacting my access to my daughter. Furthermore it'd mean less money available to the wife and indirectly the daughter. Initially I thought we'd share custody of the daughter, she could sometimes stay at my place and most of the time at hers but apparently she is insisting that the daughter sleeps at wherever she's living. Her reason made sense to me at that time but some people have been saying that I'm getting screwed over. Sigh I can't think anymore so feel free to ask questions or whatever. &#x200B; Thanks",4.460851579934669,6.185115153724247,5.252847116659662,80.33861218021283,70.99683042789223,8.383983958084025,31.102590640059514,8.957266950251167,2.718380096380866,2606,115,480,51,49,846,272,631,0.093,0.833,0.07400000000000001,-0.9464,19,0,0,0,2,0,53.0,23,0,0,1,26,28,4,2,24,0,70,5,2,4,4,100,109,43,1,12,22,18,3,2,0,7,1,1,7,3,17,34,0,2,18,0,18,3,12,9,1,2,23,8,83,20,78,57,14,62,0,2,4,2,79,30,1,15,27,343,100,9,0.3365030304691119,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06576537336693923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05382027037819048,0.0,0.07292017858476031,0.0817776028224176,0.09153343995983816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06674411703274914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25166792713483643,0.0,0.0,0.10350002373531256,0.05619319494014713,0.16410329925260994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734748311502967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913626126351748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26867028832878936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05796591341206505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06887188630533257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059608361120923214,0.06953951668092925,0.15011593181279448,0.1333542467935102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06805841719598146,0.0,0.06461913599446796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17580894476971204,0.0,0.03824848538619531,0.056448555335869385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13501599053622812,0.0,0.0,0.31062345391972235,0.0,0.07597419242199682,0.0,0.0,0.06678546689423988,0.0,0.07445814922845681,0.0,0.036986653046262204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13763885897300304,0.0,0.06575935330503853,0.0,0.05942766818510699,0.0,0.05651555902803972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06368146074655318,0.0,0.06823225133131806,0.06761250463752654,0.1466201797698363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07139530763895427,0.0,0.0,0.053718701698854,0.071529893459196,0.0,0.049902546655685914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06457674665440638,0.0,0.0706206649149618,0.07167294903574936,0.09120926488509948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0933155326577545,0.11752858667147073,0.2109444274926538,0.0,0.0,0.07587132126890309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15078416258470342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919623196456598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05747434987986004,0.0,0.053520143214342335,0.0,0.0,0.16088960885379558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13469841957333406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656202029883221,0.0,0.0,0.21520047439631815,0.05374635096226351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07637193024700474,0.06343002477347029,0.0,0.0,0.05409367787656502,0.0,0.061961355969599625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04312351090555201,0.0,0.10685832737568908,0.07848704926089077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13707808142969038,0.07320373357454096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05553004831705796,0.0,0.053420088531916286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07739237562170588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04780841962033031,0.0,0.0817776028224176,0.21669691893688245 divorce,hoosiergirl2810,2019/04/10,"Today I saw a rage that I didn't know I was capable of with my stbxh. It's been awhile since I've posted anything but I need a place to vent and I figured I would here. I've been going through a divorce with my stbxh for the last 7 months or so. I knew it wasn't going to be easy but I didn't know how drawn out he would make it. Anyways, it all started on my daughter's 17th birthday a couple of weeks ago. My daughter and I did most of the planning because he just didn't seem interested in doing so, and I didn't let it effect her day. However, what was supposed to be her day ended up being all about him. He talked nonstop and interrupted conversation and just made it about him. He ask us in front of her guest what her and I are going to do for the 4th of July weekend. I said that is the weekend she leaves for Germany (3 week trip with her school) remember and I was going to be there for when she leaves. He was like oh right I forgot and told us that he planned a vacation with one of his friends and couldn't really cancel it. (whatever). She was so over it that she ended up leaving and went home. He didn't even get her a gift or card which I believe upset her but she didn't say anything about it and still hasn't. I also tried not to let it show how furious I was with him. So after a couple of years of not having a dog I decided to get an Australian shepherd puppy for Christmas. She is the most sweetest, lovable dog and so smart. My daughter was going to dad's and asked if she could take Sansa because I was on nights rotation last weekend she didn't want to leave her home all night by herself. I was very reluctant but let her anyways. When my daughter brought Sansa home she was every skittish and hesitant, I asked my daughter if something happened and she wouldn't say anything. Finally, after a couple days my daughter told me my stbxh had hit and kicked her to show her obedience and I f***ing lost it. I called him up and we had one of the most nastiest fights we have ever had. Brought up past and present issues/fights and no holding back for either of us!! It was when he said that he purposely hurt me because I assumed that when he was on his phone he was cheating. I responded with one of those quiet scary voices and said it's not an assumption when actually DID cheat. An assumption is thinking someone or something was done. Its takes a really disturbed person to purposely hurt another person and hurt animals. You need to seek professional help and get a dictionary. Then I hung up on him. For almost a year i tried not to let him push my buttons and react to him because it was what he wanted but these last few weeks he has pushed every button and tested every ounce of my patience and I just reacted. What's done is done and I will deal/handle what happens next. Just when you think you are in a good place and bam this happens, you realize you have more work to do on yourself. Just really needed to vent.",3.05555,4.597036721666669,4.172666666666668,87.41050000000001,74.28333333333333,7.066666666666667,26.5,7.720077496677588,1.42,2323,84,479,31,48,757,251,600,0.115,0.825,0.06,-0.9874,1,0,2,0,3,0,50.0,5,5,0,5,32,16,5,2,22,0,61,0,0,7,4,95,103,53,0,12,20,7,0,1,2,4,0,7,3,2,30,37,0,2,12,5,0,12,16,11,0,3,46,8,83,5,63,42,9,69,0,4,1,0,83,18,0,11,39,342,113,4,0.0,0.0,0.06404995125465543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05818115775331769,0.0,0.06572362185622893,0.0,0.0,0.052488006520188736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06882365413944587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16203517548587856,0.0,0.18407861537418854,0.0,0.0,0.05046899506900457,0.0,0.1600410956806693,0.0,0.0,0.07394777543840332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670203168460996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05240392791224998,0.21787047811014587,0.0,0.1269867598128038,0.06766644295222572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20150110685342493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11626563839934298,0.0,0.0,0.04335106782882942,0.05937029929035019,0.1659000722587193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189955173936409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050709168383251284,0.0,0.10287418819567516,0.0,0.18650842296320894,0.05505123106414175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17412151478413002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04399352290260344,0.0,0.19751071878116275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21078975346272616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214217515484138,0.16050300159150652,0.0,0.27799047314655523,0.0,0.2684635092481382,0.0,0.032065775039630186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07164797465536094,0.0,0.0,0.0621050935529062,0.043811639060879606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05238895206606209,0.0,0.0,0.1460017857118983,0.0,0.0,0.06980319571948475,0.12318734709842315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342721403153834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06265570089050237,0.0,0.11461929083917265,0.1371484808955129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06285985235948123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614171389384146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07435126462970869,0.056051633149360056,0.1873007492430244,0.10439061737356824,0.0,0.06642577066191155,0.0,0.0597513210102263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05429366137970863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0556120266182426,0.10105752158750876,0.0,0.0,0.04645654364582152,0.0,0.052415916901205416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09869817811556354,0.052754646105172436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08411206802488552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062213974486577624,0.12543344307383172,0.0,0.08912323902373848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368512105414384,0.0,0.0,0.054155460714913804,0.07742603513715575,0.0,0.1579444735175833,0.0,0.0,0.060843978843784126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04778280747691736,0.0,0.0,0.09324994553608502,0.0,0.0,0.08453312637888913 divorce,J3891f1983j,2019/04/10,"Hoping for some good ideas, child support question Hello all, I'll try to keep this as short as possible, I just request you read this assuming I'm not a piece of shit and there's more to the story... I'm just hoping to get some advice for a situation I'm in right now with an upcoming dramatic increase in child support. Will you brainstorm with me? I was married for 10 years, and towards the end of the marriage we decided I should go back to school. I was beginning my 2nd year of undergrad when she abruptly told me she wanted a divorce. I was more than shocked because we had no obvious conflicts or had ever even discussed the possibility of divorce. Anyways.....fast forward 2 months into the separation when I discover she is engaged to an x- boyfriend (and we're still 6 months from finalizing at that point). My question is about child support so this detail may not matter to the court, but wanted to give a sliver of the context. Needless to say, it was a living hell going through the divorce and all entailed while competing in a difficult program. I currently take care of my son every other weekend, and pick him up from school for dinner 1 day every week, plus a 2 full week stay every year. Although, I actually have him probably about a month worth of days beyond that, helping her with her schedule when I can. Despite the dramatic story, we are very amicable and I wish her the best (besides the topic of this post of course). I am just now beginning a difficult graduate program in a lucrative field and will be making over 3 times more than I ever did in the best financial years of our marriage (and 7 times more than I currently make and pay child support based on). Can someone, please anyone, tell me how I can set the stage so I don't get taken to the cleaner when support is recalculated. I have never missed a payment to date (divorced 4 years now) and like a fool, took nearly all our debt when we divorced and did not touch her retirement savings. I know that provably won't affect anything for the order, but again to explain myself. There are a few more, quite dramatic details that I won't get into, but suffice it to say that my son is very well taken care of, with lots of grandparents and myself giving him everything he needs (including good living conditions). I want some tips on how to put myself into a good position to pay the least amount possible with my huge new income in a few years. I'm very happy to pay a sizable amount compared to the current, and have no desire to get out of paying all together. It's hard to explain, but it's just very difficult for me to pay her more than our joint income through all our marriage. I want any tips, no matter how small to reduce the amount I will have to pay. It took everything in me to get where I am headed, and I don't want to share quite so much of the monetary plunder with her. May the Buddhist karmic heavens open for anyone that takes time to share their thoughts. Thank you so very much. TLDR: About to have income dramatically increase beyond what me or my x ever had, and I have a few years to prepare myself to keep the payments as low as possible (without taking a lower income job of course, haha). What do? Or where can I find more information that might help with this? -Peace and Love",7.755008830455258,6.721487194662482,7.86354739010989,74.14004635989009,63.23861852433281,10.599862637362635,36.38976648351648,9.673873057562805,3.3978775902668747,2601,105,481,42,32,847,287,637,0.08199999999999999,0.746,0.173,0.9967,11,0,0,0,5,0,73.0,8,3,1,5,36,34,2,0,41,1,40,4,2,7,10,100,90,42,0,11,15,2,2,1,0,9,0,2,0,4,20,33,1,3,11,2,8,8,12,9,1,0,15,4,65,25,93,65,31,88,2,2,0,1,58,31,2,15,47,348,85,14,0.0,0.0,0.06357810717852465,0.0,0.0,0.06366493267053326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04430500424312127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09111037339862962,0.0,0.053613830830112987,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05009719937072366,0.0,0.03971552567502752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13674418815471814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13285184340498274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840341813171449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0577045655346673,0.0,0.0,0.0430317085764289,0.1767987880191531,0.1646779172876138,0.0,0.11710727388466248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07136988111666849,0.05954695481367207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019388864699975,0.1249978059030262,0.07405378004243604,0.16393703665705747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06935459205104318,0.058362617753954675,0.0,0.06686385807071181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733886160637166,0.0,0.0,0.12941955012335932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354769839527908,0.0,0.0,0.06465244604433994,0.11581864020018925,0.0,0.0,0.035805358585288743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031829552439884015,0.0,0.11505928728365138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05538916304444645,0.058801440771984674,0.0,0.08697777373177883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911505585872686,0.0,0.0,0.1560090372052199,0.0,0.09578715757947713,0.048308739238748274,0.05024856984159985,0.06292336977304708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07151637899226802,0.06158887894122745,0.29379245112823243,0.062396775520525485,0.0,0.07024394015588359,0.0,0.0,0.06549488304909168,0.14596835792562698,0.13859249809910487,0.06516876334465985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055638711194840096,0.0,0.10362159111443003,0.0,0.13187284873232905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687670128785371,0.0,0.07323260268121662,0.0,0.0,0.05520234316326047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0694424386354247,0.05202977859195887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3696636655558389,0.0,0.0,0.1469566304962719,0.0,0.05694496147744621,0.059982409496401774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05172272177108198,0.11397044791694452,0.0,0.0,0.062254699116104324,0.14477061090805193,0.04423334235041019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2687825375499339,0.19213912984830367,0.0,0.10452061730831977,0.0,0.0585786924745811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07492058709493249,0.06280336682851656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29368635296685736 divorce,paula_anxiety55,2019/04/10,Prep to leave abusive marriage I’m starting the prep to leave an abusive marriage. He has been using money to manipulate and control me and our child who is disabled. I need to setup a bank account to start saving but he has credit monitoring on my social security number. Would he be able to find out if I got a bank account?,3.0377083333333315,5.3122831875,4.979375000000001,78.36145833333336,76.5,6.141666666666668,29.416666666666664,7.1686216300943375,1.9481541666666664,260,12,45,3,6,89,46,64,0.11,0.772,0.118,0.3716,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,1,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,4,0,6,0,0,3,0,12,12,4,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,3,0,2,1,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,5,3,8,8,0,4,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,2,28,6,1,0.2313942033727268,0.5483285862730704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595282749309931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2114901098232239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18506708269993136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4900261013726322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17157586981557216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2358772501793393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3275640162532893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1998502972876424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16437580305195532,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PolarBud,2019/04/10,"I don't know how I'm going to go on I'm really struggling. Even though this is what needs to happen I don't really want it. I have no desire to go on anymore. I didn't think it was possible to be more depressed and miserable than I already was, but here we are. I don't think I'll ever find someone and I don't like being alone. I'm talking to someone to regime my dogs because I'm not even capable of giving them a good life anymore. I don't know how to feel better. Meds therapy, fuck it and I can't afford it anyway. I'm breaking. I don't know how people do this. I don't know what's the point anymore. Everything is gone",-0.39358695652173736,1.6465185362318877,2.5665036231884057,92.02410326086957,88.27536231884058,5.478985507246377,20.219202898550726,6.9077264865688965,0.4458681159420293,490,16,110,7,16,173,75,138,0.149,0.7390000000000001,0.112,-0.4263,1,1,0,0,0,1,13.0,1,0,1,1,9,7,1,2,2,0,18,2,0,3,1,21,39,8,0,3,2,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,8,4,0,0,8,0,0,4,11,4,0,0,4,1,14,3,11,33,1,9,0,2,0,1,4,3,1,0,2,69,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15581640952161965,0.16602060977197702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4476052297837721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09171032374059072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330570268681408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12957869120611207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987359783147231,0.1360867805943531,0.0,0.0,0.13521092592629996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760698840637889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13750467634278415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13908465786553312,0.0,0.14432125788829955,0.2565053348712197,0.12618674476671488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1330386667094316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307241660980477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10626427192221707,0.07350018687063113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1671112961519554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11155360629838404,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10430012984558837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221984804475604,0.16960496145751447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192758780598534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25494436629980705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15727854761560375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1209225831040105,0.0,0.0,0.17204780958229493,0.0,0.0,0.1927991046610805,0.1478121708978877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873679248668849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwwaway-acct,2019/04/10,Is a Sexless Marriage grounds for divorce? Legally? Does anybody know or have any advice?,3.678000000000001,6.505024800000001,2.879999999999999,83.32000000000002,101.0,2.0,45.0,3.1291,3.187000000000001,72,6,9,0,3,21,15,15,0.0,0.87,0.13,0.2359,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,5,0,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.619867364008225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4313713223365727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5551131110251354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3486153571934076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Lowkey57,2019/04/10,"What was your point of no return? We all have one. Even if it was a slow burn, slow realization, we all have that one moment where we could almost hear the glass shatter. The point where you either knew *immediately* that they were not the one, or it unravelled over the next days/weeks/months starting from that instant. Even if things *improved* for a while afterwards, you can look back and confidently say ""That was it. That was the killshot."" Mine was two or three years ago. We'd gotten real heated over her inviting 5 of her family to stay in our 4 bedroom house for two weeks without so much as a text message about it to me. I was working 10 hour days, we had two toddlers, and an old friend of mine had died earlier in the week. So we got into it. One of those arguments where you finally understand what ""saw red"" means. The kind where Things That Can't Be Unsaid are exchanged. Not gonna lie. ""This is exactly what's gonna get us a divorce you unbelievable cunt!"" came out of my mouth. ""No, what's going to get us a fucking divorce is the fact that you don't even *want* to work on this""! I guess she was right about that in retrospect. I didn't. ""Why should I *want* to work on this? ""Her response? ""Because without me, you'd have nothing""! Not ""Because you love me/we have kids/we're a family/we've been to hell and back together"". Just ""I enable you to have stuff, so sit the fuck down and shut up"". Felt like she slapped me right in the face. I did that thing where you keep opening your mouth to talk, but no words come out. Then I just turned and walked away. I brought it up a couple days later, trying to explain to her how fucked up it felt to have that said to me by my wife, and she didn't think there was anything wrong with it. No understanding of ""Holy shit, that was cold as dry ice"". I was being ridiculous. Looking back, that was where it crumbled. There was no way back from there for me. I knew that things would never change. Began subconsciously planning my escape right there and then. What's yours?",2.151674020078012,4.3424931321695786,2.7506733167082302,93.65507705096235,79.02493765586036,5.808581111324256,21.25461986060489,6.900799576094004,0.3232113434362813,1570,44,339,17,39,487,209,401,0.104,0.863,0.033,-0.9856,0,0,0,0,3,0,79.0,9,12,1,5,25,12,7,0,18,0,38,8,4,1,5,57,73,21,1,7,13,1,2,1,1,4,0,3,1,0,36,19,0,1,9,0,1,5,15,8,0,8,30,10,49,4,47,34,4,63,1,0,4,4,40,29,6,6,27,245,85,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07848537143194508,0.0,0.0886600245239136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728608792728054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08318624840583275,0.2723271916026424,0.0,0.10794632939524587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10126617735829964,0.0,0.0,0.09366358434678483,0.07626937365998113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069198870404532,0.09796783047317513,0.0,0.11420195581880654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09189054558658948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17543951299197566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08346763600206739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17002457771571192,0.0969912466847148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06840578753071604,0.2455614212132517,0.09251699557132503,0.0,0.05031932473230664,0.0,0.07081352955796599,0.0,0.09753679659881814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09979101950640508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08719406900779159,0.10216327711697132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07869842380696647,0.0,0.09220078936188597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04325617367239582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870260813967665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07991081052817138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09644602085093787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07067178654760925,0.0,0.06508709055316689,0.0,0.0682875094760734,0.0,0.09416329881933493,0.0,0.0,0.08495652186613824,0.0,0.0929078402657466,0.0,0.2399879928319867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673978450561968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10077790853370568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268380391679533,0.08422181935114043,0.07041056499178516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0908850418493311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06266907061124531,0.09437186374272397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10135712167823308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116510145570573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352881779509778,0.05673285953531688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06011285086190351,0.09630609955300508,0.25947215590472217,0.1843465335874141,0.21300544656590972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444637681511207,0.07027893405254276,0.14204290126836533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07989358217894378,0.0,0.0,0.17069880878007065,0.0,0.1933745324622624,0.0,0.0,0.06289627857217177,0.09680459523503654,0.0,0.0570168597390307 divorce,Coolhandshell,2019/04/10,"Feeling stuck So, I guess I’m looking for advice from anyone who has experienced anything similar. I’m 38(F) and have been with my husband 35 (M) for almost 11 years, married for 8. We have two kids, one is 9, the other is 3. We fell madly in love in the beginning. We moved in together within the first year of dating and then a year later found out we were having a baby. Life was pretty great then. We had an awesome pregnancy, he was amazing to me. Spent a lot of time together. At the time, I had a great career, but after my maternity leave I only went back to work three days a week. I thought it was amazing. I still worked a little, plus my sweet baby girl spent the days I was working with his mom, so I thought it was a perfect situation. After she was about a year old, we were having a deep heart to heart one night (yes alcohol was involved), kind of exposing skeletons in the closet. Without telling you guys every detail, my husband was sexually abused for several years by a family member his mom dropped him off with. (His mom still does not know) This was such a bombshell for so many reasonsz I hurt for my husband to have experienced such pain and trauma for such a long time. I was angry with his mother for not only not keeping him safe, but for dropping him off with an abuser. I didn’t mention these feelings to him, it’s just feelings I was having. And let me be clear, I’m not trying to blame him for his past. But I developed agonizing anxiety and depression after this, mostly stemming from the fact that I dropped off my baby in his mother’s care that didn’t protect him when he was going. (There were several others things I didn’t really like about her watching my child before this, but knowing she didn’t keep my husband safe as a child, I really didn’t want her responsible for my child’s safety). After dealing with anxiety attacks every time I went to work because I worried about my baby, we made the choice for me to be a stay at home mom because the cost of daycare in our area is so incredibly high. It was a huge dent on our finances and ultimately, my happiness, as I found out. So at first I tried not to take on his pain from childhood. I had my own demons I was fighting and I chose to start therapy for dealing with my emotions and thoughts. I encouraged him to go to therapy to work through some of his emotions (I’m the only one he’s told) as well, because I found keeping a big secret is hard. He never went to therapy, but we talked a lot and for a time, things seemed to be okay in our relationship. The normal ups and downs of raising a new family and working though stuff. I’ve since went to therapists two other times in the past few years (most recently last year, and therapy and antidepressants did help quite a bit for while.) A few years ago, we found out I was pregnant again, unexpectedly. (Birth control fail). My oldest was now in school, and I was working part time again and starting to come out of that baby raising haze that engulfs moms. After she was born, we made the decision for me to stay home again, for financial reasons again. This second time however, has been a lot more difficult for me. For a few reasons. Being a stay at home mom is incredibly lonely and isolating. I go to storytime, mommy and me classes, anything I can to help with the loneliness. My husband works all the time, this last year he has started helping his grandparents on their farm because their health is fading. It’s just made me even lonelier because I was home alone for 50 hours a week now with the farm, it’s more like 60 or 70 and I just completely resent him. I wish I did not. I’m alone all the time and all I do is cook and clean and take care of kids. I love my kids soo sooo much. I love spending time with them, but sometimes (a lot of the time recently) I want to do something for myself. And I don’t mean go get a haircut or work out, just anything at all without someone clinging to me or crying or having a meltdown. So I decided to talk to my husband about everything and a lot all came out. And through talking I was telling him how much I resent the fact that he can go to work uninterrupted or have a phone call (even if it’s before or after work) without someone crying or demanding his attention. But the more we talked the more honest I got about how much I also resented him because I feel kind of stuck where I’m at, for the kids. I never planned on becoming a stay at home mom. And I wish he would have told me about his childhood before we had kids or at the very least before my first child was born. I’m pretty sure I would have just continued working full time and found a great daycare and possibly still felt fulfilled in life with my career. I don’t mean life would have been perfect I just feel so alone after almost 9 years of being home alone all the time. This wasn’t what I wanted marriage or motherhood to be like. I also know nobody’s expectations of marriage live up to the reality of marriage. I just resent him because I feel like I have no other choice but to be a stay at home mom at this point in my life. I love my kids more than I can explain. They are the sweetest, most loving kids, my oldest loves school and our town and if we were to divorce it would devastate them. I got a part time job last year to help with all my loneliness, on the weekends, thinking he would finally have to watch the kids, but he now just takes them to his grandparents every single day I work and they watch the kids while he works on the farm. And it just irritates me that he’s never watching the kids, although I do appreciate how hard he works. But marriage is about more than paying the bills. I just don’t know how to work through this anymore. More therapy? Or just finally cut ties and move on?",4.5920559388528135,5.3683832612847215,5.425013528138533,82.81517045454547,69.6857638888889,8.414971139971144,29.37076118326118,8.575989854853784,2.0852964781746026,4535,166,911,70,77,1482,388,1152,0.111,0.754,0.135,0.9897,4,6,2,0,5,0,124.0,17,1,7,25,53,46,8,0,68,2,87,17,2,10,16,191,166,78,0,14,42,16,9,4,0,5,8,0,9,16,33,66,2,7,30,2,7,14,22,16,1,10,65,17,146,30,151,88,36,164,1,4,5,6,132,51,0,25,95,645,179,25,0.0,0.07681058627751232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03167458855365658,0.028733057881107776,0.034640711443816384,0.06491588355659289,0.13428452608745134,0.0,0.051842932923504635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04959324709726178,0.0,0.032145981040718946,0.022664624537546363,0.0,0.08002188776908133,0.0,0.0,0.03687560781222116,0.0,0.024924367484529125,0.0,0.1383149274689558,0.03579871963803573,0.11032771648273257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035387696086661036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03309832113197081,0.037072984205184636,0.06609647260956407,0.0,0.0,0.02792179342399227,0.033985465408553524,0.0,0.03635506054596522,0.0,0.0,0.07121052042957911,0.06271305111022064,0.06683482752950581,0.027918133258664646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02836571243042268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07292278106441642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042818286511754934,0.0,0.08193058651222739,0.0,0.02913161579964949,0.0,0.061114074449560185,0.0,0.0983369629912046,0.023156570196158733,0.031122526042655863,0.07101591173252468,0.0,0.08271400309476548,0.0,0.17770140597454448,0.0,0.0,0.016934978711555766,0.0,0.09210812433532962,0.0,0.05184887849626498,0.10720965810738388,0.03570767865501868,0.03209495905949202,0.0,0.03450530889417327,0.058073159798579674,0.0,0.0,0.03445456940667404,0.0,0.0768214991661699,0.08690569172334928,0.03424717378675698,0.2275972149642276,0.0,0.03192126361869333,0.0,0.03469986057839363,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032165896381914715,0.08643316551129221,0.0,0.06750839217766932,0.0712555533247315,0.07926521597204401,0.0,0.03432174892936464,0.0,0.03314551414951949,0.09157987556582133,0.06334337822033022,0.03248734643692763,0.028622158471813094,0.028685372616495,0.027219598816920126,0.0,0.0,0.13778613093360445,0.17552941922863613,0.09201274003517973,0.0,0.03286271142947168,0.0,0.07061670344302141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30370310814294005,0.0,0.06890191079629449,0.07148406535090407,0.0,0.0749990320438528,0.0313056460498439,0.0,0.03041834599963138,0.03175884076306195,0.0,0.0,0.034013043491539934,0.0,0.0658937018740321,0.07395692966166532,0.06898156902777415,0.0,0.0,0.07020241298318862,0.061885667105533726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.030641709935354342,0.036541918051709914,0.0,0.06595338812345328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03447628207376072,0.0,0.0,0.04153048061712277,0.06665398718903412,0.06400983495066609,0.03480050858444888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06560940300700907,0.0,0.02950849091622937,0.0,0.07323719414687828,0.0,0.02681319821126241,0.03643469742825246,0.0,0.0,0.054928559052833656,0.02495388308880472,0.032058277758148006,0.0,0.06882839440173304,0.17274507171179884,0.07765759392066011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03710627841480523,0.0,0.0,0.030549814192310436,0.0,0.07311388877594119,0.10421259105665287,0.05666253459612194,0.0,0.18534118650495007,0.037635155753600984,0.04306884654083549,0.0207695842810974,0.031846593340071436,0.07719929302929496,0.28351298694736576,0.0,0.0,0.061945937812857066,0.0,0.04401396060694333,0.0,0.06332754191958627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026744947116679633,0.05735585630316167,0.0,0.05200111599501508,0.0,0.029144081432482476,0.1201924219691662,0.0,0.0,0.07454900746415892,0.09373782649101936,0.0,0.3775644833407408,0.032917993426007125,0.0,0.11512988852244405,0.0,0.0,0.22960910693417985 divorce,emdubs24,2019/04/10,"How can I help my friend who's going through a divorce? My best friend is on the verge of getting a divorce. They haven't filed yet but they will. Some background info: - they decided to open their marriage - it didn't work and left a lot of things they suppressed in their marriage - her husband is pretty much out - she was negligent to him and mean during their open relationship - he found someone who has been treating him ""better"" - she's severely depressed now and wants him back - they are separated My question is what can I do as a friend to help? She's been going on some dating apps and telling me things like ""oh he's cute, I'd date him"" and honestly it's been annoying me. I've been preaching to her to stop looking for attention and to be alone to heal. What else can I do? I feel bad because I'm also at the point where I am getting angry and annoyed.",3.751547406082288,5.140500290697677,4.38860465116279,87.16390876565296,72.25581395348838,7.152772808586764,28.92844364937388,7.61054688173877,1.6495683363148474,678,27,138,8,13,216,105,172,0.151,0.684,0.165,0.1754,0,1,0,0,2,0,21.0,0,0,8,3,6,13,2,0,6,0,20,1,0,1,0,25,30,11,0,1,1,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,0,8,10,0,2,7,0,0,2,2,4,0,0,7,2,27,9,17,21,5,19,1,1,1,0,34,11,0,4,7,97,35,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1810696746145337,0.0,0.1398103455257202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13443238001845956,0.1459745546718724,0.1065738745327604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1834717998035792,0.15462166426603907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1505795925198262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1460468380396543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08839857879977918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19169050490539127,0.4052163621564109,0.0,0.18268142573082413,0.0,0.19871821230561484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2343678125988982,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18995175455911426,0.0,0.0,0.08541240913991165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14681196842317176,0.0,0.0,0.14863299962526194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904395671985588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12851911614182449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16526950972785276,0.0,0.0,0.1778635092990913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1958480115636548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18770045810647695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1975065229067506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14813168135641527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461645141429896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15280787743887825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2322966690620393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10311842116778272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272772823057628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Kiewiiek,2019/04/10,Moving too fast? My husband left me shortly after our son was born. Our divorced finalized in January. I met a man at the end of January who also just finalized his divorce (his ex ended the marriage after she cheated on him). He has a 13 year old and a 16 year old. He just asked me to marry him and I said yes. We are moving in soon. Our parents seem to really be on board but our friends are not. How can I convince my friends this is right for me?,0.2296421663442949,2.442262138297874,2.6810251450677,91.06136363636364,87.19148936170212,5.545841392649903,23.439071566731144,6.980632752743323,0.9405021276595744,347,14,74,5,11,119,67,94,0.044,0.8490000000000001,0.107,0.8047,1,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,5,0,0,0,6,4,1,0,5,1,7,0,0,1,0,9,11,5,0,0,4,4,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,2,3,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,3,1,18,3,11,7,0,23,0,0,0,0,26,8,0,1,13,53,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1519246792528133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17760301480979815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3365267799825795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4162214212583003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2935517903061962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20641075791915287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4038313462349288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39869817785879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2109471720016689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1217042437834558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16223947054528493,0.18071179899998088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294808626269528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2446781457857524 divorce,farawayouterspace,2019/04/10,"How do you afford life after divorce? Can someone with experience please be my divorce mentor? I literally have no idea about what I'm doing. I'm early 30sF with a full-time job but I worked out a budget and it doesn't pay me enough to live alone. It's a small company and they've been pretty accommodating with flexible schedules and working from home so it was a pretty good set-up while we were together because he, early 30sM, earned significantly more while I was able to leave earlier every day to pick the kid up from school, take her to her activities, or drop everything when she was sick, etc. She's 6. We own a house together. We live in a not great but densely populated and fairly expensive area (in Ontario). I'm not sure if I'd get enough out of selling it to make a downpayment and then pay a mortgage, even if it was a much smaller apartment instead. I'm concerned that my lack of funds makes me less likely to have my kid live with me as the primary residence. He was ok with that if I moved in with my parents but they are not good to be around and they don't seem like they want me there. Even if I did live with them, they expect me to pay them some kind of rent (for utilities, hydro or whatever. I would pay for my food and any other expenses) so I wouldn't even be saving the maximum amount by staying with them. I don't really have much in savings. I have no idea how I could afford a lawyer or legal fees. Just... please help... I'm freaking out.",4.259395973154362,4.983096852348994,5.426369127516782,82.69673489932887,70.40939597315436,8.778791946308726,27.651677852349,8.982922981607832,1.989233020134228,1154,38,241,21,20,384,166,298,0.103,0.7809999999999999,0.116,0.2232,6,1,0,0,2,0,36.0,3,1,7,3,13,11,0,0,13,1,25,3,0,5,1,54,36,26,0,10,14,1,0,2,0,2,2,0,2,2,9,22,1,0,3,0,11,1,9,1,0,0,8,0,35,10,36,22,11,24,0,0,0,0,23,12,0,9,11,164,44,12,0.11847313983748345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12270244324210312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08056579770656189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1054662122196144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07222012641700208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09459116191310317,0.0,0.0,0.07640537415685703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448288466372957,0.132128867878976,0.2347511745475947,0.0,0.09981873001770224,0.0,0.1064760188937742,0.11588946397424385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1432581909574479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061897325766563614,0.0,0.0,0.1987392975512666,0.0,0.13061705491775052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07941004832645766,0.0,0.11883821896637548,0.0,0.0,0.1367020968642188,0.0,0.26748350855275016,0.0,0.0,0.1175663105833334,0.0,0.0,0.12337154400279307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544594891692806,0.0,0.0,0.08368108233420754,0.1157599836303024,0.0,0.4184558120201543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15816348160105567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259181983968714,0.17418277894946546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13155040143868682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2600958614507499,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24105955015463745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07589692705801597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11990114249460194,0.0,0.10785349696809496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10038190692442947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12627660371391536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1116595322248097,0.0,0.08907705699361501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987852740935756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1724997136199467,0.0,0.0,0.08415991938010774,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Googlali,2019/04/10,"Need suggestions/help with the current situation. I've been married about two and half years now. Have a son who is almost year and half now. Right after the marriage, I started noticing his online accounts and noticed he has an account on seeking arrangements. When confronted, he said it's an old account (pretty much lies, and me wanting to make the marriage work due to my pregnancy), I let it slide and stopped looking through his phone since I was scared to find out anything more. That's one part of the issue. Financially, he's very irresponsible. Lots of credit cards with debts on it and he's even tried getting a cash advance under my name claiming to pay off my debt. :-/ so it's safe to say I have lost all trust in him from my side. I use to work full time (in FL) prior to the baby being born and stopped working since he didn't want ""strangers raising his child"". We had one bank account that we deposited our money but at some point he opened another account without my name and I just Happen to find out about it. I still held on to the fact he's the father of my child and I want them to have a bond so I stuck around and he would play with the baby at least for five ten minutes after work and the baby stayed attached as well. But now that we've moved in with his family(in NY), he barely interacts with the baby. Before the move, we sat down and talked about the situation and how it's a sexless marriage and is it just better for me to move back to my family (in GA) vs moving with him and he mentioned that he wanted to work on this as well. In the two to three weeks that we were trying to make it work, we had sex and I got pregnant again. He was actually happy about the pregnancy and Mentioned that it'll be nothing like the last one and I won't go through the same depression since he'll make sure he'll be here with me every step of the way. Maybe it was too naive of me to fall for that but I did and as soon as we moved here with his family, things are different. Almost the same as before but feels twice as worse since now his whole family is involved as well. It's like having a biased opinion in a personal issue on every disagreement. Well I had found many receipts of him going places (strip clubs and spas) whenever I was visiting mine or his family. Also found couple of checks that he had cashed totaling $18000 that never did make it to our account. I spoke to lawyers but feel so financially constricted to make any kind of move since I don't have any money in my name and we haven't been married that long. Also scared that he'll take me off the insurance and right now I need the obgyn visits as well. I just want to move back to my place and have him pay his part for the baby and the visits needed for my future needs. I am done with the situation and just want a peaceful pregnancy and at this point don't really care about the father not being in the picture since he doesn't make an effort anyway. My parents will let me move in but I know they can't take care of me financially, specially with two kids. How would the divorce work if I go to my place (different states involved) and then file it. What about child custody? I am the primary caretaker of him but his mother has been trying to take care. I don't have anyone in this state other than them so if I was to leave to file for a divorce here, I wouldn't have anyone to stay with. Also if I was to leave here, can I take all the stuff (crib, bassinet for the new baby, etc) that belongs to the baby as well (I'm assuming the baby will stay with me. It would kill me if he was separated from me). Also his mom kept the jewelry that was given to me as a gift for my wedding as a safe keep, how can I get that back? Will I get any financial support until I'm on my own feet which might be a while since the new baby is on the way. Any help would be appreciated.",4.5468607594936685,4.893302622784812,5.344405063291141,84.8873670886076,69.60759493670886,8.395949367088608,26.939240506329114,8.302211771458257,1.5500891139240514,3032,88,644,41,50,989,312,790,0.092,0.833,0.075,-0.5371,6,0,0,0,2,1,73.0,9,0,3,11,47,28,2,2,48,0,64,2,1,10,6,127,118,65,1,19,19,6,2,2,0,14,0,3,0,5,37,50,0,8,8,3,18,18,12,6,6,12,31,6,82,22,112,65,16,97,0,2,1,1,80,37,0,12,37,453,119,11,0.0,0.0,0.04702237212446996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0965022000408444,0.0,0.0,0.15413660908817806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13107193585655993,0.05052699358105472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06738523797696343,0.0,0.039652792701628435,0.042895561753861125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11115567554988327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08200510247067971,0.0,0.0,0.0426164081991228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14738584778411784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05331665101976083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04150234323077293,0.0,0.0,0.10068777225659203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04931078449631995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05373988400918695,0.031826254407839066,0.0,0.08119719875310022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18170106651020226,0.0,0.048728358166833456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08808186315660811,0.0,0.0,0.10566644517405277,0.0,0.0,0.07552524653932803,0.0,0.0821552706641906,0.0,0.03853857153602461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04261052768280157,0.05129466070462898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06459582761484929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1005868742165044,0.0,0.042829736839688125,0.05331042821045811,0.05017807668508259,0.02648164549347004,0.03927784341278297,0.0,0.10204357083257484,0.0,0.09854645309187092,0.0,0.04708227802947586,0.0,0.0,0.042642900547904816,0.040463920787152004,0.0,0.05260047291549027,0.04096582852058635,0.0,0.0,0.19298630099930691,0.048852819656790114,0.04840909439675618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05111749972151339,0.0,0.056434605233181924,0.0,0.4097108821180102,0.035422093927709924,0.1429165864891115,0.037163845459876055,0.09307625659523464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04623555718557875,0.10971966383562748,0.05056287224615879,0.0,0.09795579835458924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05350460825224319,0.10436101197247896,0.0,0.0,0.04207396602890218,0.15103165838488808,0.0,0.09110227758657012,0.0,0.0,0.0490222631608512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03086904566901608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08230078869706907,0.045835712895812585,0.03831926769878923,0.0964847472577758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27901843632515505,0.1624885128421749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034106144347326436,0.15407889613212214,0.03848122756525329,0.08057094235160467,0.0,0.0,0.055161191778820506,0.0,0.05468065412470692,0.045414529062472515,0.0,0.14491884438459793,0.03872990614137016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032012492295423946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.028097516849601437,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09814494847116008,0.0,0.14121152136266846,0.0,0.0,0.0416170442963299,0.0,0.03975831638316351,0.17052733522933006,0.07649526141024826,0.03865172761396116,0.0,0.2599488281433193,0.0,0.0,0.05379770453220047,0.0,0.04644937411218834,0.0,0.24555876112672945,0.0,0.04910542824964916,0.1369191874058027,0.0,0.0,0.06206012725332177 divorce,justaguyinstl617,2019/04/10,"How long for a Judge to sign the Judgement? Uncontested in Missouri. My attorney submitted all the signed/notarized documents on 3/25. I am in this limbo waiting for the judge to sign off and the clerk to post the judgement. How long does this take? I was told anywhere from 3 days to 3 weeks but I'm in the 3rd week now...wth?! &#x200B; Thanks in advance",1.5846376811594176,4.285465724637682,2.44927536231884,91.1576811594203,87.40579710144928,5.965217391304349,25.057971014492754,7.3871296695380915,1.4107797101449275,281,12,56,5,9,88,48,69,0.0,0.928,0.07200000000000001,0.6890000000000001,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,7,0,2,0,0,2,1,8,7,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,3,1,13,5,1,13,0,0,0,0,1,6,0,0,5,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28694238126138205,0.3217965252297956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17079295719354662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23175386094892506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46873110435268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25363321551912804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19911863726764087,0.0,0.0,0.24381919206951574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25305569696945746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4248600994971753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3217965252297956,0.0 divorce,bossB85,2019/04/10,"Seeing the truth My STBX admitted to much infidelity, I said it’s over, but honestly my mind went back and forth. He is onboard for divorce too, he obviously wasn’t as happy or has issues to deal with. I didn’t know I was unhappy. I spent most nights having moments of pure joy of our world traveling, hard working, fun life. It’s been weeks now, and we are living in the same house, but separate rooms and thanks to reddit subs and starting therapy, I realized here are so many things that I let myself be content with. Married for over a decade. Still stress about being completely alone after being in a very long relationship, but it seems more doable and I have a mental list of how I want to be treated and how I want a future man to communicate love, affection and how he will simply communicate every day day needs. I’m far from being in a place to date, but as a wife that gave everything I could to be in a successful marriage, I feel like for the first time, I see guys again. Other men exist and are sexy, my blinders are lifted. I’ll take any steps of positivity I can grab. Thanks to everyone that has taken the hard step to share your stories and encouragement.",6.419979933110369,6.2507920347826085,7.009130434782609,76.32252508361206,65.6086956521739,10.381270903010034,30.735785953177253,10.035473477838034,2.800023411371237,928,30,181,19,13,306,151,230,0.052000000000000005,0.693,0.255,0.9953,0,1,0,0,1,0,25.0,2,1,0,3,11,14,0,1,11,0,23,2,0,4,3,36,43,20,0,4,5,1,4,1,0,1,1,1,1,3,8,12,0,0,5,1,1,4,2,1,0,1,9,7,20,13,29,25,4,30,0,0,2,1,20,10,0,3,17,120,28,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15128201302699187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09933099729828317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11231699128248032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15314913104185665,0.0,0.0,0.11662311695408993,0.0,0.0,0.1884030750019109,0.1505893127610375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230682781522174,0.13957388009205035,0.1312761673829739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738561825884143,0.10435074408481984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12424505149161574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14462991845767315,0.0,0.15549170829196535,0.2616958118151573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16854243364840915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15245665619796053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08027494947033134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14936404809854056,0.1031718868288395,0.07136126587557104,0.0,0.12898039340656653,0.12926525610334605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1318317389702993,0.0,0.0,0.14808965063742188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720181560504106,0.0,0.14748666713765868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737651483482813,0.1083072968569366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370745758980135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15260958447939396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568219703762432,0.0,0.0,0.1389437653168217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2327939794009021,0.13297448447004787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033874203468426,0.0,0.11664979803157427,0.0,0.16731997669749024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10982467944770476,0.0,0.0,0.2689588978679151,0.16704106486860612,0.0,0.09704084295170408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08517320971990643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12052109222105915,0.17230894535638824,0.0,0.11716664215283892,0.0,0.0,0.1354061564341647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10633897432472128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,purple365258,2019/04/10,"*LONG STORY*20 yrs old, thinking about leaving my husband. HELPPP idkkk what to do Let’s start from the top. Back in 2017 of July I started dating my boyfriend. He was 25 years old (I was 19). So i’m thinking, wow, he knows what he wants in life, he’s mature, he will be there with me through my 20s in a supportive way since he’s already lived through those ages. We are in the military so he is higher ranking and was testing for staff sergeant, he never studied & failed. I should’ve known then that he had no ambition. He is a bad communicator so I always had to fish stuff out of him on how he was feeling or what he wanted to say. I should’ve known this was bad from the start. 2018 comes around & he fails his staff sergeant test again. okay maybe he really has no ambition ? but i didn’t know. We decided to get married in October 2018 because he was moving to a different base while I was staying overseas, and we planned to meet again when I left from overseas. I would stay up until like 12-1AM to call him & make sure he got up for work & we could talk. eventually, I got tired of it. I asked if he could stay up a little later & wait till i got off so we could talk then & that way I wouldn’t have to stay up so late anymore. He didn’t like that idea. So i stopped calling and he never called. It got to a point where one night he called, i didn’t answer because I was sleep, and he blocked my number and unadded me on facebook, childish right??! i know. he’s 26. he apologized and i was just in shock i guess, like i’m your wife! we also get free education in the military and he literally has only taken 1 class within his 5 years in the military .. & every time i tell him about it, he always says” i’ll sign up” & then forgets.....i expressed to him that i deserved better and that i could leave him and get better & he said “i don’t give a f*ck, LEAVE” . i should’ve left right then & there but i didn’t want to give up so easily. he said he didn’t mean it but i just went with the flow, but i will never forget what he said. while i was overseas, i traveled to the united states to see him about 2 times and one of those times i didn’t even see my family. okay, understandable, he’s my husband. yeah well last week he flew all the way to see his family and flew over the state that i’m in without coming to see me. (i’m in the united states now). when i confronted him about it, he said “i have nothing to apologize for, i didn’t do anything wrong.” mind you, we haven’t seen each other since january. my parents are pushing for me to find someone who treats me how i should be treated and give me the love that i deserve but i just am not ready for the hurt that this divorce will bring and i am so young. any advice ?",1.7674782608695632,3.4074023130434803,3.0960434782608712,93.3482391304348,78.04347826086956,6.130434782608695,22.45652173913044,6.918507183188421,0.445347826086957,2130,63,486,22,50,692,252,575,0.076,0.8009999999999999,0.123,0.9809,2,0,0,0,1,0,91.0,7,2,0,8,31,23,1,0,18,3,46,4,1,3,5,78,96,41,0,11,12,4,1,3,0,6,2,6,0,0,24,27,0,3,14,1,1,10,17,8,1,2,32,12,69,16,63,51,2,88,0,3,5,1,79,31,0,3,40,281,93,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536505915918432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06058684315784296,0.043905921879467916,0.09136741462762243,0.5948739465412881,0.0,0.03733593343172964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05444903876851305,0.0,0.0,0.045180503942822615,0.04887532415517161,0.05132690838741779,0.0,0.0,0.04221703017017149,0.0916834497434854,0.06693673765031617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711451161372213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2242484705263259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09458817329006712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17534236238958936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05736196597378827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036262924116807455,0.0,0.04625815873821086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10351535405906136,0.0,0.02776061442695659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050180361766484896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0860536791123069,0.15800392664556262,0.0,0.0,0.17564382880528914,0.0,0.06048186169704885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058774813918471,0.06197882199208692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09051978489633733,0.044753285664642026,0.06193299320140089,0.17440309900864218,0.11930457456749605,0.05614205342320831,0.0387796237170577,0.0804685207478632,0.05502724534646293,0.04848036879932848,0.04858744126385035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04955211529391668,0.0,0.0366481893588118,0.0,0.055157458813015564,0.0598054795497333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055436394842423145,0.0,0.0,0.05835321696077503,0.0,0.0,0.12703377128805038,0.0,0.0,0.051522761072683415,0.0,0.05268092437877277,0.0,0.11522295874934407,0.0,0.07440740878090543,0.04175621752163877,0.0,0.0,0.060963301684432876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051901096130501735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035172277777622364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09377375097397957,0.20890136266506135,0.08732216358017691,0.0,0.0,0.175002381021493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09083268400261583,0.0,0.054942666076526654,0.0,0.046519147099257564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11658191144975096,0.2340772389504263,0.0,0.04590137958232778,0.0,0.0,0.06285081763109827,0.0,0.06230329167145856,0.051745442617568936,0.0,0.0,0.08825792878156914,0.04798765573585143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07035927124419653,0.0,0.0,0.09604317005052776,0.06310294007363433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05715597568076914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0971496635768024,0.1307383751918324,0.04403988755595925,0.0,0.0493644047689779,0.05089564567333427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0529245479885502,0.0,0.039970049376065436,0.0,0.0,0.03900152716218327,0.060027828930309765,0.0,0.07071148418622297 divorce,graveyardsnatch,2019/04/10,"How to divorce a controlling abusive partner? What happens after I file for divorce? Who has to leave the family home? How long does it generally take to get a divorce finalized? I’m worried that after I file for divorce, he’s going to harass me. I want to have a safe space where he cannot. Should I start making arrangements to get my own place? How would that look to the courts? Will it make me lose my family home? My kids? Also, I’m a homemaker as well as working part time. I do everything when it comes to the kids and home. But he tells me that he will take my kids away from me if I ever leave him.",1.2003323076923067,3.371475064000002,3.075199999999999,90.1409846153846,82.36,6.406153846153848,21.615384615384613,7.61054688173877,0.8853323076923076,473,15,101,8,13,158,74,125,0.126,0.823,0.051,-0.8541,0,0,0,0,4,0,15.0,0,0,0,3,8,4,1,0,7,0,8,0,0,6,1,16,22,10,0,4,2,0,0,0,1,4,0,0,3,4,8,2,0,2,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,0,0,1,15,2,16,18,2,14,0,1,1,0,15,4,0,1,8,67,23,1,0.0,0.18351438636751846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1238621456237309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455203397287112,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13342043160487407,0.0,0.0,0.17371763322681585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13554163723576526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14010310438437654,0.0,0.0,0.13920140065203854,0.0,0.2920251599306791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16966986056894098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16184291134921405,0.0,0.08802518890190959,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13696503163455107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.46608936086209296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32800346926535034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1370690892638293,0.13006509170519276,0.17327763016957726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067749940278545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772626488727568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16182273093396582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10962899061561204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23290974302567016,0.0,0.13537704593045038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09031517546099928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09135567794461556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13926096595601273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11275873195413084,0.15729408293274014,0.0,0.110026452699751,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gothsurf,2019/04/10,"Ex wife has been stalking me online, careful out there So I just found out my ex wife (who left me in 2010) has been lurking all of my social media accounts as well as all of my gf's accounts for years now. Including this Reddit account, which I can't figure out how she found out about. She spoke to her lawyer about a post I had made here years ago asking for advice. Feeling super creeped out and probably going to shut them all down now. She's probably going to read this. Hey there J, get a life.",3.9568907563025206,4.765770823529415,4.553641456582636,88.36852941176474,71.15686274509805,7.0050420168067244,25.35574229691877,6.868970318607317,0.9003624649859939,392,11,82,3,7,125,69,102,0.015,0.894,0.091,0.765,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,1,1,11,3,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,2,3,16,16,5,0,0,1,4,1,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,4,6,0,0,4,1,3,2,1,0,1,0,7,2,13,3,18,9,3,17,0,0,0,0,15,9,0,0,5,56,17,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405902403025106,0.18510863175669254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19522093832081727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21290855396119787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10558697897575688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4579263962408485,0.0,0.0,0.10910118759709067,0.0,0.2373573872984637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268863616062053,0.0,0.1474975752022514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19759298949399648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19999432311103768,0.0,0.45029215522545535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2088791064020817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128683390151095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1877565924272752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2689498106664859 divorce,Singledad2015,2019/04/10,"Hello - New here. A friend recommended that I join reddit for support outside of the usual facebook forums. Divorced in 2015, ex has 75% custody. She's poisoning my kids (age 6, 8) opinions about me (like why I'm seeing other people, even though we're separated 4 years). THey've become fearful of seeing me although I've done nothing, NOTHING, to instill that fear. It's all coming from her. &#x200B; Thanks for letting me rant. Sigh...",4.076487341772154,6.880846063291142,4.691629746835441,79.01440664556964,75.70886075949366,5.468987341772152,31.39398734177216,6.6274283507984215,2.108125316455697,345,17,53,3,8,110,69,79,0.141,0.6829999999999999,0.17600000000000002,0.2732,0,0,0,0,1,0,25.0,0,0,0,0,4,8,1,2,2,0,3,1,0,0,1,3,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,1,0,0,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,2,7,4,8,7,1,6,0,0,2,0,7,1,0,1,5,29,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20587835119818804,0.2308858584931969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20985376237545528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16367885392385315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1944486515480678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12550139521491305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4276335431811171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14680310546015538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19430054818930426,0.0,0.09283045857165427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18351515566981114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3646440363965542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13173067028647015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028305565401105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21562381472777134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1749378848571714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18668621388778275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20927180895548714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17145663245143697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2308858584931969,0.12236175293672835 divorce,SandyS0ul,2019/04/10,"Prejudiced towards dating divorced people? I (29F) am now officially divorced, made legal back in January of this year. I've been separated from my ex since late 2017. As I begin the trials of meeting new people and dating, I realize many people don't want to date someone who has been married before. It's made for some pretty awkward conversations during first dates... Has anyone else come across this?",5.830416666666667,8.274583430555559,6.462222222222222,70.10500000000002,68.8611111111111,8.133333333333335,30.055555555555557,8.841846274778883,2.951122222222223,325,13,47,6,6,106,60,72,0.085,0.85,0.065,-0.0982,0,0,0,0,2,0,12.0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,1,1,0,6,0,0,2,0,7,11,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,4,0,4,0,9,7,1,15,0,0,0,0,6,3,0,1,11,29,8,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15892483018583034,0.2328830872303134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17477019587975248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1934050746987015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578821043519476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18986969127753264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933307840455544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563904023944336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4301301957976891,0.0,0.2304340327686775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21951585714941493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4727179762661706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2312332814147447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1880147171820393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19258011323687665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13406016217097033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14636581365813311 divorce,thrownawaaa4,2019/04/10,"Am I making a huge mistake?? I (early 30sF) asked my husband (mid 30sM) for a divorce in December. Together 17 years, married for 10, no kids. I had been unhappy for several years, but stayed because I ""love him, but am not in love with him"". His family adored me, I would go hang out with them several times a week with or without my husband. His mom became one of my closest friends. He moved out about 5 weeks ago. I underestimated how lonely I would be. I thought getting him out of the house would be empowering (and it was, for a while), but I'm painfully lonely. I've only seen his parents twice since the new year and its killing me. I'm not from the area, and have no family here and only co-workers as any form of friendship. I dont like the way he treated me (multiple lies, emotional and physical neglect, hardcore gamer), but I have those moments when his car isnt in the garage and I wonder why or I try to walk into my house but the door is still locked (he worked from home). He refused couples counseling on multiple occasions until I finally dropped the D word. By that time, I was done. I no longer wanted counseling. Why am I having second thoughts? His habits make me so unhappy, but right now I just miss him. I miss his family. I feel empty inside and desperate. I dont think I want him back, but I like the idea of having someone. So conflicted and deflated right now.",3.0399158997143765,4.827269310218977,4.473605204696924,84.20749444620758,74.87591240875912,7.976896223421136,27.971437638844808,8.716276077567194,2.175474008251348,1077,44,216,22,23,358,161,274,0.204,0.706,0.09,-0.982,2,4,0,0,1,0,49.0,0,0,1,1,11,15,1,0,12,0,21,3,0,3,0,47,40,24,1,6,13,4,1,2,1,3,1,0,2,1,4,15,0,3,6,0,0,5,9,8,0,3,8,2,42,7,27,27,1,41,0,5,1,2,27,14,0,3,21,143,46,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09761567374588853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07488609576960496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10294832414157336,0.0,0.0,0.08467629636775106,0.0,0.06712877495553057,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12184685633238365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11269207572571162,0.2581221200797367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387136855536952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3114369993668182,0.0,0.05568051577983117,0.0,0.0,0.12063223655368352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08507925637733663,0.0,0.05753370781631061,0.0,0.06258433510047713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11046040006974883,0.0,0.0,0.2541298319906269,0.0,0.12431327069600738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12183263507623587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10759917318761524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19877710882852534,0.0,0.1470133228689688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12897245240466626,0.0,0.11704125736616668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10635560419119612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07462087897338654,0.16750405397093815,0.11717657000792354,0.0,0.12227640315246473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18808556397694431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2488109020448728,0.0,0.09109327728029212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09330521523361196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11737439593936425,0.08794281930609922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07056112758379242,0.0,0.17484763909554266,0.12842494918149389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476496996333835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12990450649730004,0.0874089702643561,0.17666494093303906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987342535323932,0.0,0.0,0.1061527703996128,0.1194215901387385,0.16033888377078198,0.0,0.0,0.2346805205956894,0.0,0.0,0.21274305300802632 divorce,Irrelephant_867,2019/04/10,"I'm the a**hole 32m, married for almost 8 years, only dated for 9 months before proposing and only engaged 12mos. I have a very successful career in a high stress job that I hate that pays well; she and her family have been very supportive of me and this career choice. I had an affair. Out of frustration, perhaps, because she got to sit around the house, get fat, and basically be retired. I don't want kids so there was no child to raise. I told her I was cheating on her and I wanted out. She fought to save the marriage, we went to counseling-didnt finish because the counselor was a schmuck, she went back to school, got a job, started trying new things, we read 5 love languages, she lost some weight, she started doing the things I liked to do. She's a great person, easy to get along with, we never fight, but the emotional connection isn't there for me, it feels like she tries to make me happy rather than be her own person. I'm on affair #2, she probably suspects but I haven't confirmed, I've left again and again asking for divorce. I can't let myself continue to do this to her. I'm probably making a mistake leaving her, but I'm tired of not feeling love. I'm tired of feeling like this is the logical thing to do, because she supports my decisions, her family (seemingly) care more about me than her. I'm tired of being ""stuck"" and constantly looking at who else is out there rather than only being able to see her. Is this just some fairytale expectation I have and I truly am immature, self-centered and shitty person I think I am. Or do I have some validation in that there's no feeling of love and it's not something I can force? That she's just not they I've for me. To further enforce that I'm the a**, she doesn't make nearly as much as I do, can't afford a place on her own. I've offered to pay for a handful of her debts, either to soothe my own guilt or to actually take care of her, I can't tell you. I've paid for her attorney, she's living in the house that I pay the mortgage on. The list goes on. I think about her because of what I'm doing to her, but not because I want to go back. I miss the damn dog and the king size bed more than anything else.",2.853281250000002,4.212749015625004,4.231017857142859,87.52648214285719,74.46875,6.995000000000001,25.3,7.554174236665415,1.1803608928571427,1701,56,358,21,35,563,206,448,0.124,0.737,0.138,0.926,5,0,1,0,2,0,63.0,3,1,1,3,17,27,6,2,23,0,34,9,2,3,1,59,82,20,0,7,15,0,6,3,0,0,4,0,1,5,17,20,2,0,10,1,5,3,14,11,1,0,14,8,63,16,58,63,10,36,0,2,2,3,52,18,1,7,17,243,80,10,0.08401387596177494,0.0,0.08198542379138629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08412776099647849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06913626147038286,0.07479016158203923,0.07854163298465437,0.0,0.0,0.12920296949506194,0.0,0.2560703949884697,0.0,0.07148962052911872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17131549154869238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09078915343844436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14036562588192386,0.09450430249843986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840161042655732,0.0,0.1699197600831939,0.12003905954771635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08778756529034544,0.0,0.047747021809608006,0.0,0.13438714284052086,0.09262559484289376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943433319298501,0.0,0.08294630906578901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08876527263548413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19388146588196276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16674161667667148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08895856399746972,0.09128132205375188,0.08590988028516096,0.0,0.12313480827039305,0.0,0.07418579167980761,0.0,0.07055049637254207,0.0,0.09171107004530807,0.0,0.2274774095286521,0.0,0.1682397437487695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06705907425355823,0.0,0.06175986559236826,0.0,0.06479668043288599,0.08114112492747984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916890154375188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22007302777068166,0.08777661893806828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1811623358426171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0840366113097688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08502652776008816,0.06694818182834568,0.07648307733509019,0.08764479537364939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467798626198695,0.0,0.0,0.11893090764558155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09623761106095624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1906759016638974,0.0,0.0,0.06316797906738499,0.0,0.07343183065207026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16744525821739825,0.10766539876935384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28968477443291635,0.0,0.0802788588170343,0.0,0.11407981392477838,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386404926266752,0.14866068230017024,0.0,0.0,0.10230626745148068,0.07553856415052318,0.15576340943114186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054102181616260826 divorce,rdevalco,2019/04/11,Asked her for a divorce tonight Context is everything...24 year marriage 2 adult children bankruptcy in 2004 discharged 2014 living paycheck to paycheck since 2004. 9 months ago she said go to therapy or I’m divorcing you. We started going she stopped going as it wasn’t what she wanted as the counseling was he’s doing what you asked him to do you’re not. She said it’s been years of being yelled at etc turns out it was Asperger’s syndrome where I have sensory overload. She said no to the uncontested irreconcilable difference no fault divorce...wants alimony we need to look at bills etc to figure out who does what said I would move out sigh,4.70878048780488,6.747240081300816,5.132203252032522,80.17489024390247,70.95121951219512,8.497235772357724,31.812195121951213,9.120678840339163,2.9437551219512192,522,24,94,11,10,166,86,123,0.099,0.892,0.009000000000000001,-0.8555,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,3,0,10,0,0,0,0,12,25,3,0,3,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,5,0,2,7,5,0,1,1,0,1,4,4,1,1,0,8,6,13,0,16,15,2,18,0,0,1,0,24,7,0,1,7,56,20,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14160575415356774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2986830806876945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690123416388902,0.0,0.0,0.13979535757850128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35631945226081124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27236308361215217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14105920618246987,0.0,0.13414694092694776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12750824069338498,0.1697853928618294,0.0,0.11845010636811085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6078225293611622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13214406798210654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1130694910924072,0.0,0.0,0.13355534058257973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18268420019441836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17375846744405074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09422270473890984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113479426779398,0.0,0.0,0.2057431920243776 divorce,excusemesister,2019/04/11,"Going to Court in two weeks to see Narc Bipolar Rager. Advice? Left my husband of 20 years due to him self medicating his bipolar disorder. Tried everything I could but he’s also a narc and is the Grand Wizard of that type of abuse. Also feared that the day was coming when he would just beat the shit out of me. He’s a former prizefighter and knocked his first wife out cold with one punch. His outburst also remind me of that movie “Concussion” where the athletes have CTE.(?) I created a safety plan and left and he filed for divorce to retaliate. Of course he makes more money than me, and I’m concerned about winning sole custody of our young child. We were definitely in danger, so why am I feeling like I’m fighting Goliath? Any advice will help. Thanks",3.172710371819964,5.566103746575344,3.833307240704503,86.15410958904111,76.60273972602741,6.36320939334638,24.81213307240705,7.447530270364453,1.2635886497064577,601,21,113,8,14,190,104,146,0.11,0.669,0.221,0.9632,1,0,0,0,5,0,16.0,2,0,0,4,8,8,3,1,7,0,8,4,1,1,0,16,16,11,0,2,2,2,1,1,0,2,3,0,0,2,3,10,0,0,1,0,1,2,0,4,0,3,2,3,13,4,19,11,1,17,0,0,1,0,18,7,1,0,9,67,16,1,0.0,0.20568319509236568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3392725348255555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4164746268752599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11805141751118135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14953781665997032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.138602497160678,0.0,0.0,0.11195523387655254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19895636685067875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560171353002517,0.0,0.0,0.19534406810919225,0.08777549087063917,0.12401721106823542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1476608998829459,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865876163896432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.116357921555169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3772257139094883,0.0,0.0,0.08481036958388681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11587685924437595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17487998031389013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11763332629652272,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13833375282551522,0.0,0.18109877114732795,0.0,0.17819407808156856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15982412343151425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11786047321130827,0.0,0.1695783327614003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13924845785684098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15664363388435518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331781057558208,0.0,0.0,0.1117903072889156 divorce,div-sf64,2019/04/11,"So many layers to divorce Where do I start? I am a male in my mid-fifties, wife about ten years older, no kids. Married almost twenty years, together almost twenty-five. There is so much to process as we are heading for divorce (her idea). I don't think either one of us can quite get our mind around it or fully accept it. She said she will file sometime soon. We still hug, and we cuddle in bed. We still sleep in the same bed. Causes have to do with breakdown of our sexual relationship--which can't be fixed. (No infidelity as far as I know). You might wonder about cause and effect with that, but the sexual problems are much more cause than effect. Also the age difference has become more, not less of an issue over time. She checked out of the marriage and started to place priority on other people, things, and activities. Spends a lot of time looking at devices in front of the TV, so there are two screens that take priority over human interaction. (Here too you might say, cause or effect, I realize). Wife effectively retired on inherited wealth ten years ago, I've got ten more years of work in me. I asked her specifically before our marriage if she was planning on early retirement in anticipation of family wealth, she said no. A twenty-year difference in retirement might not be a recipe for a great marriage. I paid half of housing costs for our (her) place for twenty years, but no ownership stake. She had purchased the condo before we married. Fair enough, but the opportunity cost of not having purchased a place of my own is going to be a major financial hit. We live in a very expensive part of the country. Also I have provided health insurance through my employment for a decade, enabling my wife's life of leisure. With the residence now paid off my monthly outlay will increase 3-4X for a crummy apartment vs. what I pay now. I am a fairly high earner so i won't be on the street but my prosperity will take a major hit from this. Also by having a partner each with a certain amount of assets, it's insurance against outliving your money. Not any more after divorce. not bashing her here at all, but darned if our financial arrangement was not to my extreme disadvantage. I am starting to accept that our journey in life, the together part, is going to end soon. I experience grief in all phases at once, I have never felt that it was a sequence. It's not especially acrimonious at all. Just a state of constant anxiety which is heightened by other life stressors. I am not a model husband by any means but I never dreamed we would end up where we are. My parents were very sanctimonious about divorce being bad, I guess I internalized some of that. Very apprehensive about the loneliness of being single again. Dating, STDs, finding someone with a similar set of values. i don't",4.998486717267554,6.722493950664138,5.826428368121443,76.75611314041747,69.64516129032258,8.533757115749527,29.87329222011385,9.052201404669685,2.646341973434536,2220,88,391,43,40,727,268,527,0.065,0.8440000000000001,0.091,0.9273,2,0,0,0,4,0,75.0,15,3,0,9,27,12,0,1,31,0,43,8,2,8,6,77,66,24,1,4,21,5,1,0,1,8,4,3,3,4,16,20,0,0,14,2,14,5,18,4,0,6,11,6,56,8,76,39,24,69,0,1,2,2,49,33,1,13,29,298,72,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189156371505775,0.0,0.16242282315160742,0.0,0.0,0.1945704594443555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1103035674251898,0.0,0.06204240596810332,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07219750676966304,0.07581893071443424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06771634355309891,0.0,0.08957020670840314,0.13802276269854158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3332542187489933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08764188205147798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16946755845814887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1436636683356752,0.0837995028952865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933280416282011,0.07645525226304156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787013387949489,0.0,0.07412527836823743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042372173059083376,0.0,0.09218367382584362,0.0,0.06486425787662826,0.08941466189210433,0.0893424175653772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0832335105594326,0.08620707486213745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568816053407721,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09358021262041732,0.0,0.09155369294621764,0.0,0.08464886849898454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04457124936974452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17185310957416985,0.0,0.0,0.07161408778533734,0.0,0.06810481260790469,0.0,0.0,0.06894957335938526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08222416571035474,0.0,0.08834328138564247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25810754408828895,0.0818893697607949,0.0,0.06473442315106974,0.0,0.11923783074883178,0.0,0.1251009136829685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08637042342116462,0.054956458008515084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09005358966191389,0.17564998709204988,0.0,0.05622555075417447,0.0,0.2542013376872233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07760315805321716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08626140105309649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08707263217745845,0.0,0.0,0.15429214850134887,0.06449514765575584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0811600449627635,0.0,0.06871701611542602,0.0,0.08021143198824962,0.0,0.17221212312354633,0.0,0.12953548451418714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12195643116349884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05388021591778357,0.051966550092168905,0.0,0.0,0.09458184390263752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07922435603039969,0.0,0.09755508799958756,0.0,0.0,0.20075163015895067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795108948140863,0.05904283931192924,0.0,0.0,0.057612160532770115,0.0,0.0,0.3133601431687423 divorce,XenthiaLi,2019/04/11,"30 Day Post Divorce Today marks 30 days since my divorce was finalized. After 18yrs of marriage my wife was unhappy and has moved out of state. The divorce process was pretty simplistic as we agreed on most things, we have little property to divide, and as her job is out of state, and incredibly transient we made the decision to have me with the kids fill time, with 50/50 legal. I took on all the debts, and as shes making less the minimum wage, I am not seeking any child support. We have worked it out to our terms (outside of the paperwork) and its working so far. Here is what I have learned: 1) Changes suck. However as everyone has said it gets better overtime. The 3 kids (9-15) have gone through a lot as well, including their stages of grief. With the ex gone, I have been able to provide to them a stable environment. I hold true to my word, and have set standards that I am consistent with so now they know what is expected. 2) Get your shit together - Princess Carolyn Finances - Set budgets and spend time understanding where you are at. Create a debt elimination plan as well as some treat-yo-self money as you will need those moments of reward yourself. Meal Plans - making food sucks. No suck it up and get it done. I established a 4 week meal rotation with one day set to BBQ burgers, one day to eat left overs, and one out to eat day with the kids. I use an app ""Out of Milk"" so it syncs to my phone and I can work on it on the computer. Keep to your budget for groceries, and spend some time finding those deals. 3) Establish time to spend one on one with the kids. Even if its to go and get an 1$ ice cream cone with the kids. Set a ""forced family fun night"" where games and phones are turned off. Spend time together playing a board game, or watch a movie at home with theater bought popcorn. 4) Set chores or cleaning schedule. I spent a solid week cleaning the home and gutting it. I established weekly chores for the kids and gave them all their own ""snack boxes"" with sodas, chips, and pop tarts for the week. Its theirs to manage, and I don't refill it until they complete their chores by Saturday night. 5) Find time for yourself. Even if its 30min in your room with the door closed. Watch a Netflix show, play a game, read a book, whatever you need to do to enjoy. 6) Hit the gym. I started a year ago and lost 41lbs. Now I have confidence so when I go on dates I believe in myself. People love confidence and it shows when you know you are worth it. 7) Forgive yourself. Move on from the past. Respect that it helped to make you who you are today, but it cant define you. Choose how who you want to be now, and DO IT -Shia Labeouf 8) Dating in your 40's can suck. Once you accept that most people have issues, baggage, children, financial debts, and so forth, you realize that there just like you and trying to put themselves out there to make it. So get over it and find someone to talk to, and allow yourself to trust in others, feel your heart break again, and try again. Know what are your deal breakers, and be upfront and honest with who you are talking to. 9) Allow yourself to grieve. Everything in its own time. As I tell my oldest when I am down, its okay because even Superman has bad days 10) Seek help, when needed go see a therapist and work through what you need. Mental health is just as important if not greater then physical help. You cant help others if you are to weak to lift them up. Remember you got this. Make a decision and move out",3.4172435301924367,5.068299807299272,3.8579296615792975,89.58604512276045,73.55474452554746,7.142402123424022,25.447246184472466,7.814691822520688,1.2453562043795618,2708,89,564,37,55,847,341,685,0.053,0.8340000000000001,0.113,0.9862,6,0,0,0,3,0,107.0,5,23,9,9,28,28,5,0,34,1,42,14,3,10,3,108,87,59,2,10,11,2,1,1,0,1,2,1,9,8,38,53,8,2,16,11,15,11,6,10,2,5,15,7,64,18,93,68,12,100,0,3,4,1,74,34,5,11,46,354,102,13,0.07049440192722893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06248903391966625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047938610666561285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058859881056100516,0.04297273310945593,0.0,0.0,0.07942305079672889,0.0,0.06234656983782547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07457373001488396,0.0,0.07391203920857682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2727783443201871,0.14535326597634354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07214024830513648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14426674423657904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13968266287318762,0.0,0.0,0.0673604220126939,0.06335582294691701,0.0,0.06645584829588523,0.0,0.035644087734188604,0.0,0.0,0.07722317157213529,0.19329181874314874,0.0,0.08524211063009977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18415207728917754,0.0,0.12019077947812234,0.0,0.056380813007377024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0749322527817962,0.0,0.08353620570107807,0.1890036466144152,0.0,0.14142326579043188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07357784059141971,0.0699548164481143,0.06265866345503669,0.0,0.0,0.11622563913397682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659237395777048,0.0,0.0,0.034440003971862816,0.07065391027496343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07695296710143124,0.05993181961486119,0.06362395002453224,0.06670350758687506,0.2352778034221367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07104177668236275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22477317896490448,0.0,0.2090828231908672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323084415739064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07507423736410733,0.23884415577675924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06729488324738264,0.09774388444672606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06751415059376065,0.07171814995495512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086634462132663,0.0,0.0,0.0705134787135465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798564153211786,0.0,0.06705631928840307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056174911395016375,0.0,0.07354103546788966,0.0,0.07236149054652426,0.058313697743252964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05972967798996024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04989630051678812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07999621191056153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11332145997724245,0.061615214450937775,0.0,0.0,0.08184943399306663,0.04683334825529902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2877409686531133,0.0,0.1336409006658968,0.0,0.07832187436658293,0.0957221430690306,0.07667766631972663,0.0,0.07338715852485664,0.0,0.0608845294174373,0.0,0.0,0.041579424703654166,0.0,0.22618542827699306,0.0,0.1267658667398124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20528305674918984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04539608359138071 divorce,stoicuser85,2019/04/11,"Conflicted Apologies in advance for the length. My STBXW and I have known each other since high school and dated on and off through our college graduations. Around the 7 year mark in our marriage she suggested an open relationship. We had our problems. I was bored and complacent, she wanted more attention and another child. I agreed to the open relationship since it was an easy way for me to satiate my boredom. Long story short, it didn't work out well for either of us. She wanted to work out our relationship and I didn't. But we tried a little bit anyway. The amount of resentment and anger led to us moving into separate places. She moved a few states away for work and seems to be doing better while I stayed local with our kid. It has been nearly a year since then. It took me a while to muster the courage and file for divorce, but I did and the court date is coming soon. She still wants to work things out and we are still good friends, but I can't shake the feelings that this is either the right thing to do or the cowardly thing to do. The things that keep running through my head are these: if it costs you your peace then it is too expensive (she has cost me a great deal of peace over the last 2 years). Am I making a mistake and allowing the possibility for a happy full family life to pass my child and I by or are we all better off with a divorce. Finally have I tried hard enough.",4.665466463993923,5.646693783393504,4.962937488124645,85.44747672430174,69.64981949458486,8.430856925707772,26.131293938818175,8.6894789155246,1.6149826714801447,1106,32,229,18,19,349,155,277,0.068,0.7909999999999999,0.141,0.9806,0,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,11,2,0,7,7,14,2,1,22,0,23,2,1,3,1,51,32,23,0,6,8,0,2,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,15,28,0,2,4,0,3,9,3,6,1,0,8,2,36,8,37,23,10,49,0,0,0,0,32,22,0,4,15,170,51,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11279154620494948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09575588002849256,0.0,0.0,0.1010610957090562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19026544956684946,0.11743339675247465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09265794069132073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089505232178876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1111436600060008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10140294714892012,0.0,0.05438822372093916,0.0,0.0,0.11783247654497372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08310464738076022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09022063053539116,0.0,0.11859107080033215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11450521162816026,0.0963573384177881,0.0,0.11039298180901012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1136485951812821,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560893889223697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08768003746387165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07597651903875388,0.0,0.10780864157474414,0.0,0.09519186372619462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07180064141083628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2286496811696881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11238279493647807,0.0,0.0,0.12126366040202305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10292541979439176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3464544785660063,0.0,0.09186013804816877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1088617783303404,0.0,0.09792336615659344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2669372656559699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465024732713767,0.1718034994497228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2858462970358686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11950895354819692,0.14605949157993495,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2587755095881724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19033431882178875,0.08538029081398593,0.0,0.0,0.09671408021211103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3132351401403413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2078054881500819 divorce,R3b3lli0us,2019/04/11,"Divorce when convenient? Basically, my wife and I have been together for 10 years almost. Have a kid. Things were okay, but she's turned into someone who is emotionally abusive and manipulative to the point I considered suicide. She is unable to feel empathy and is just an empty shell of a person I fell in love with. She accuses me of infidelity, does not let me leave the house when were arguing, physically placing herself and an exit. All our ""talks"" are not about making the relationship better. It's just an insult fest to justify her feelings. Financially, it's one sided. I'm the sole provider and we have a joint account. She has maxed out credit cards after we've paid them off.. 30% APR cards. We financially struggle often and I feel inadequate in providing, when its obviously a spending problem. I'm getting out of active duty in 2 months, 1 month post surgery. She makes me feel like that's an inconvenience. I really dont want my son to see a relationship like this or how depressed and defeated I am. She does not have a job, and the house has been better. I'm not sure if she has underlying mental health issues or this is a new page. Really skeptical of to the people shes talking and when confronted she gets defensive. ( she did cheat years ago ) practically have to stay for convenience and she does too. Anyone else have anything similar, waiting for the ""right"" time? Is that such a thing? Is she entitled to any benefits? I hate typing this, and she might see this. I want the best for myself and my son. Shes so consumed by her self image that it blinds her. Thanks all.",3.613850520340588,5.987833152317883,5.066097445600757,77.95173841059605,75.09271523178808,8.552696310312205,27.0108798486282,9.23628265651192,2.5927091769157995,1260,49,230,32,28,421,177,302,0.195,0.675,0.131,-0.9771,1,0,0,0,1,1,45.0,3,0,1,4,12,22,7,1,20,1,27,3,0,4,4,49,48,22,1,4,10,3,4,2,0,1,2,0,0,3,14,18,0,3,4,0,4,1,5,11,0,1,6,7,37,11,27,40,4,28,0,2,3,1,37,13,0,6,14,158,51,4,0.0,0.13369261572975466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10002261022096584,0.0,0.1129892986851207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07673258279845246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07889779484327328,0.11561416814025073,0.09285469629432642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1184147808925914,0.19958915228294025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09718577718330676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29623153335868896,0.0,0.13224335404042767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.094260286022354,0.12692569890778607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282137821942949,0.08061030623224154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1179046645000522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11140252847398464,0.0,0.1199397565116416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26039598104795764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1177718266510086,0.11197265983763054,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11947739532174488,0.0,0.11538280596757275,0.0,0.11025227555012736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10183920529485416,0.0,0.15063827074421246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137124947017075,0.11970152891076227,0.0,0.0,0.180129785474741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10897804353145067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646082647885502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07822651305560639,0.09852434270918524,0.11788996280524533,0.0,0.10666681639140876,0.0,0.10806602607940233,0.0,0.0,0.10796914170121427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14457170177446124,0.0,0.0,0.2422880098621445,0.0,0.096361620690288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1798319133524868,0.0,0.11771291480209585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0956058675494003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12026852865376884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796104546210436,0.0,0.12342464554106054,0.0,0.10634691824045384,0.0,0.0,0.18138715723379573,0.0,0.10388454491228097,0.0,0.0,0.14992690538005818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579577921096376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12273353978893227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331075975887902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14532581126014332 divorce,chemsin,2019/04/11,"Dating again, advice? I (26F) have officially downloaded dating apps. I am potentially going on a second date. The guy said he wants to see me again but my schedule is hectic recently so he's waiting until I let him know. I'm nervous, he was my first date after divorce, let alone my second. I know I'm young and I don't have kids so there isn't really a reason I should be too worried but I'm so nervous about telling him I'm divorced. It's not even like we've discussed what each other is looking for so he could be wanting something casual, but I'm not sure. He seems really nice and understanding but I don't want to be rejected because of it? I don't know. Any advice? Sorry for the rambling. Very nervous.",1.3240775862068972,3.683333455172413,3.6505818965517234,85.03104525862071,83.41379310344827,6.107758620689657,23.54525862068965,7.413659706084162,1.2615603448275858,561,21,109,9,16,193,87,145,0.182,0.774,0.044,-0.9501,0,2,1,0,2,0,18.0,0,0,0,1,10,8,0,3,4,0,17,0,0,1,1,22,35,11,0,5,6,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,2,4,3,0,1,6,1,0,1,6,4,0,3,2,3,14,4,9,26,1,14,0,1,2,0,14,1,0,1,13,69,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34474110567510896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1826913865038264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11995423154498472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.107528380690601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1408365641653588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11650682857466775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1500409749253713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10024899477772778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17465817518076854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2908252248925878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3607504222736369,0.0,0.08617738715011794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14812685847966062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22600552147523897,0.18136280762003384,0.17416817615162378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.167791455334901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14056348806948335,0.1605828244308868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13579701646872436,0.0,0.19745907390715184,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16624962160101092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15417646857457096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1836327770812848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554384226029776,0.3121259378854978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17913706173426533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,ThrowAway99yo,2019/04/11,"Common law separation in Ontario questions I have a few questions regarding common law separations in Ontario. In short, I am the primary earner, and have a high net worth, with approximately 1m in liquid assets. I earned these assets during my 6 year relationship with my partner and she has been unemployed. I purchased a home with cash while in this relationship and have been renting it out to a third party and neither of us have lived in the home. I also have a fairly significant RSP as well as a union RSP and a significant portion in a TFSA. If we separate, how is this going to play out? What rights does she have to these assets? In other words, am I going to potentially lose out on 50% of everything I own? I will fill in the blanks if there are other questions that need to be asked in order to help elucidate on this",5.969312500000001,6.56762730625,7.1700000000000035,72.15500000000002,66.5625,9.9,31.0,9.888512548439397,3.0067625,659,24,119,14,10,224,93,160,0.017,0.847,0.136,0.9237,3,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,2,0,0,2,4,3,0,0,11,0,15,0,0,1,0,22,19,12,0,3,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,1,10,12,0,0,3,1,4,3,1,1,1,1,2,0,14,2,28,15,4,26,0,1,0,0,12,18,0,5,4,94,24,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14169049987232638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16563905266080384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505110327888266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15923764231593024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2013905532487068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1187597827480247,0.18720002513052245,0.35545126502351554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15645287458100018,0.0,0.0,0.1982187044458528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13137646338193576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5954452630764099,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3804492669747213,0.0,0.15131045063672435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131253000567144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15930578127519535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11409788374977008 divorce,WeenMalkov,2019/04/11,"Question about first time mediation/divorce Hello. So, wife and I of around 8 years or so are about to be going to mediation. It's pretty amicable (as much as can be) but we have a child together. We've done our initial consultations and I think I have a pretty decent idea of the overall flow of things. We are not doing alimony or retirement or anything like that. I'm going to just buy her off the deed of the house for her half of the equity, and child support. I have a few questions: \- Child Support- I sometimes get distributions from work based on the company earnings (I own 25 percent of the company). This is not a gauranteed thing, nor is it ever a consistent amount. Last year I did not receive any, but some years before I have, in varying quantities. Really just depends on how work went. This is a little concerning for me as far as if they're going to use this as my part of my child support ""income"" . If child support is calculated based on a fluctuating, non-consistent value, then I'm worried that if our company has a bad year or two as we have before, I'm going to be having to pay high amounts of payments for a year where I make a significant chunk of less money. Things are already tight since we split. I had a meeting with a third party attorney just for general counsel. Neither myself or my wife is being represented by any lawyers in this mediation, but this third party did tell me that if they were representing me, they would argue that child support should be based on just my standard salary earnings- because those don't change. How do I negotiate something like this in mediation without a representing attorney? \- Do any of you that have gone through this process have any advice / things I may not be thinking about before we go into this mediation process? My main fear is just the two of us going in without having ever experienced this process before and making sure we dont' miss anything before it gets signed off. We already have parenting plan , holidays, division of property filled out and have been implementing that for a while as practice.",6.065885007849289,7.1511430178571445,6.7558163265306135,73.48039246467819,66.52551020408163,9.806279434850863,33.954474097331236,9.943994293440598,3.493208477237048,1661,74,291,37,26,547,196,392,0.041,0.8320000000000001,0.127,0.9871,3,0,1,0,1,0,47.0,10,1,2,6,16,12,1,1,21,0,42,0,0,6,3,61,66,31,0,6,23,3,1,2,0,3,0,0,0,6,23,16,0,1,5,1,3,11,10,4,0,6,8,2,36,8,52,49,11,40,0,1,0,0,32,17,0,14,14,224,59,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08037387261881614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1815301218443606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22373162857743176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536969345577304,0.07322005147187141,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06867542083223617,0.05013891427660951,0.0,0.3499440022672501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700972886643159,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08417043701762253,0.09639653680666764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1487998983778549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09255426027999793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06996191639310792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08594459368961968,0.0,0.28046785731514995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08690177549831192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09490560396601913,0.0,0.09285038237329774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670448316515917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08036651531719077,0.08243623559061314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10980519751372964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06046330749812194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132903288902446,0.08906887281402352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1673558981463652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842779331442249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05269153778058304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06803815537759485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0633201664901464,0.08134747918026422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4666823496216662,0.07751977173316127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07189023671409653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21857331973537736,0.10540512111321346,0.0,0.0,0.047960710755219536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16069284621914942,0.0,0.09893677613357953,0.07103770182494794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07624669217669723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585723755220204,0.0,0.11975814475857885,0.08352899694362388,0.0,0.05842813067040256,0.0,0.0,0.2648319270134101 divorce,suzyweiss1,2019/04/11,"Interview Inquiry: Divorce Photoshoot? Hi there r/Divorce! &#x200B; I'm a reporter with the New York Post, find my clips here: [https://nypost.com/author/suzy-weiss/](https://nypost.com/author/suzy-weiss/). I'm curious whether any of you have ever participated in a divorce photoshoot? For reference: [https://metro.co.uk/2019/04/01/woman-celebrates-splitting-from-husband-with-divorce-photoshoot-9079970/](https://metro.co.uk/2019/04/01/woman-celebrates-splitting-from-husband-with-divorce-photoshoot-9079970/) &#x200B; Has anyone here participated in this wacky trend? Would love to talk to you and/or your photographer. PLease message me here or email sweiss1@nypost.com",26.762241758241768,35.378880476923094,13.265274725274725,16.496153846153845,28.84615384615384,10.483516483516485,40.054945054945065,10.290406445055957,5.729417582417582,601,20,44,11,7,139,52,65,0.0,0.855,0.145,0.8635,0,0,0,4,5,0,82.0,0,3,0,0,5,1,0,0,3,0,3,1,0,0,1,7,6,2,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,5,1,7,5,0,5,0,0,0,1,11,2,0,1,2,26,6,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4411166629937904,0.49469795555596,0.13842850624842234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423346313669122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1841326395676295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1860511277973464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372181089644493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1966005473784014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22344892378004366,0.0,0.0,0.19495523310700316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636146752317352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14460394183904532,0.0,0.49469795555596,0.0 divorce,MrWolph,2019/04/11,"Fax it or Forget it? Im 42yo married 9 years 4yo girl, 5yo boy wife 34yo &#x200B; Story: We got married and in the second year I found out she was seeing another guy. We went back and forth, and I said F this, Im done. She was like ""Cool!"" We agreed to get a divorce. That was until about 2 weeks later she saw me with another woman. That rocked her to the core. Enough so that she 86ed the other guy, and begged for me back. &#x200B; Everything was good. Fast forward to yesterday. &#x200B; I stayed home to tend to my sick daughter and so she could go to work. Her phone went off. I noticed her body positioning was meant to block me from seeing who messaged her. ALERT ALERT WARNING WARNING!!!! Is what went off in my head. So I asked can I see her phone. Well, Im sure you all know what happened next. There was a fight about the phone. She finally gave it to me and said ""Its not that bad."" I checked. I saw a message to some guy saying ""oh so that's it. Its over. Really. Just like that?"" Her story is that she was sexting, talking, and going out with these 2 guys (I think more) but never had sex. Its was just fantasy and flirting. She said she did it because I was not giving her the attention she was asking for. So when these guys gave her attention, she was all over it. &#x200B; My story is simple. I work in IT. Monday - Friday. I'm always oncall because its a lot of extra money. Im also a gamer. So every night I was at my battle station. I spent good time with the kids and what I thought was good enough time with her. I was always asking, ""Hey, are you good? Do you need anything from me?"" She: Naw Im good. Yeah, REAL good as I found out. &#x200B; We talked the last 2 days. She said she wants to be with me, but I need to gave her WAY MORE attention than I have been. I'm good with that. She sent one guy a text asking him to reply back to prove to me that whatever they were doing is over. His reply sounded like a man whom had been caught by his wife, as he stated he was married too! Da Fuck!? Now there was one other guy that comes into her work that she needs to cut ties with, and she said that would be it. She even said she thinks she should go see a therapist. 100% support from me. I have known she has some issues she needs to work out. &#x200B; So what do you all think? Should I really trust that me giving her more attention, will work? And by attention we are talking, scheduled date nights at least twice a month no kids. Do family projects like gardening, nature walks, etc. Or, is this only postponing the inevitable fact that she will do this again. Or will this work out with a therapist and attention? &#x200B; WOW! I had planned on keeping this short. Guess I have a lot on my mind. Sorry.",0.5648383150728655,2.9426884321880697,1.856843686841828,96.23454964897354,87.8245931283906,4.77192851824274,17.897271566854588,6.303781248473895,-0.2281096479097968,2105,54,459,21,68,669,243,553,0.047,0.8370000000000001,0.116,0.9918,0,0,0,0,2,0,124.0,5,4,1,7,23,23,4,0,19,2,50,5,2,0,7,82,104,29,0,9,9,3,0,4,0,6,1,8,2,13,41,32,0,2,16,3,3,11,4,5,1,4,46,15,84,18,56,49,15,59,0,0,6,2,96,20,1,8,31,311,125,8,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035661637427493786,0.07421121055338722,0.33822146676247816,0.379304347736443,0.0,0.0935209531881199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03669688919921887,0.0,0.16675669420732506,0.0,0.0,0.10286961476362473,0.03723395162763917,0.054367920464531566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049533647289334994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03841360113175017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03560451236158817,0.0,0.0,0.02875930513633692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045634929388307585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215461064511407,0.04973386323387555,0.02945377745317438,0.0,0.03757219104780863,0.0,0.040078022663457,0.0,0.04203905608413148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04885031677364822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09778957713786213,0.0,0.04122623990543763,0.023298414522378127,0.0855568528185165,0.07603103487265417,0.2618220848174217,0.03566572725899293,0.0,0.049125086786723886,0.3090840390697332,0.039434140865235986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04576609343264935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044731206918722885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2408447254743081,0.046544330506477015,0.0,0.03963700915252789,0.0,0.0,0.02450758053283229,0.03634989037339535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08714509230637554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07582409044861144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045027015230088584,0.0,0.0355943374048251,0.0,0.0,0.13226291975410154,0.03439347965526667,0.0,0.04742600113934944,0.08369650133672099,0.0,0.0,0.050770325019077515,0.0,0.0,0.060435811851267375,0.03391558645979833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050757495381623004,0.057135847007062826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2545134346770635,0.035462771349265544,0.0,0.0,0.14214190691791564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049919096503805487,0.0,0.0475310463153182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05060450397161493,0.0420291189470702,0.0,0.0,0.10752839668018938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10355365357068194,0.0,0.08572169926170903,0.0,0.03540248776346245,0.0520059946527128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026302572488132232,0.03539647451012802,0.035770448156850015,0.0,0.040095172344361434,0.12401666916070928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19478885960595316,0.0,0.0,0.03167814866966155,0.0,0.379304347736443,0.0574338768681744 divorce,divorceshmashmoris,2019/04/11,"The Calm app is the only thing getting me through right now I had heard about it before but after the severe anxiety and insomnia that has come with asking my husband for a divorce I finally decided to give it a try and I love it! $10 per month and it has a lot of great features like last night I had a guy whisper the story of Beauty and the Beast to me in French and I was out like a light in 10 minutes :) &#x200B; I realize I sound like an ad right now but that's how sad my life is at the moment...getting 7 hours of sleep is now pretty much the only bright spot :/",1.8499180327868807,3.2210066147541028,3.676196721311477,90.43560655737707,77.11475409836065,6.519344262295082,23.67540983606557,7.1686216300943375,0.7927088524590165,445,14,99,5,10,150,79,122,0.086,0.639,0.275,0.9846,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,5,8,0,0,13,0,8,4,1,1,0,14,14,8,0,0,2,1,0,3,0,0,2,3,0,1,7,8,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,5,11,7,14,10,2,16,0,1,1,1,7,6,0,1,12,66,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19853814623358546,0.22265405794250745,0.0,0.0,0.14017646240055098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17130266508371486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15592192391587031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15784319257733415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2007281205300375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19146843939933103,0.17577845343666235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20202038904197755,0.0,0.1814342913674032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18045238298868727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1493633134444799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12942632046983155,0.2685622900839333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15578227708504466,0.16537932396614538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14625871275079907,0.0,0.1347009117222171,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17195632001840452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787213011655109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1864187802090227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3129682648230013,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20700662675944376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18337019355759265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12173509300422206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12440647981807945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22265405794250745,0.0 divorce,urbanmanchild,2019/04/11,"How did you let her go? I am in a ""walkaway wife"" situation - my wife left me on Sunday (moved out and all that) after a trial separation. It has been utterly devastating to say the least. I've been seeing a therapist for the past few months and that helps to some extent and family/friends have helped. I just feel like this can all be fixed and am just in total disbelief of the entire situation. Our marriage was not the best and we didn't do ourselves any favors by adding the stress of moving, many job changes and remodeling our house. I'm just wondering how you all dealt with letting someone go who says they are done with the marriage and won't change their mind. During our separation, she said she did not miss me at all but I have a feeling like the adjustment to a new job/apartment might've contributed to that. Are there any resources you have found helpful to cope/understand something like this? I want to let her go and refusing to is basically contributing to the original issue of not comprehending her wants/needs. It just hurts so much and I really feel like we can come back stronger than ever from this.",5.351388888888888,6.589459879629632,5.759333333333334,79.41900000000003,68.25925925925925,9.648888888888887,29.21481481481481,9.888512548439397,2.716383703703704,898,32,173,21,15,288,134,216,0.065,0.802,0.133,0.9035,2,0,1,0,0,0,22.0,5,3,2,1,10,9,0,1,13,0,24,0,0,3,6,42,38,13,0,1,8,2,3,4,0,1,0,3,1,0,9,15,0,1,6,0,0,6,5,3,0,0,9,7,23,6,23,24,11,20,0,2,1,0,27,6,0,2,12,125,32,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15703554550261026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08878275903286972,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1211697106683029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24428589419301394,0.09945985023959396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1181571919562628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444152827686733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17514239618500968,0.24745713523475604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12659756454187265,0.08920526099582217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968582772560016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321742093850997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1332270576567184,0.12360391340393925,0.0,0.0,0.12051179804254535,0.22915542625700794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12544924705325394,0.3542015897796362,0.0,0.2256346079134916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170598287728078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12248639498667528,0.11658319083807507,0.0,0.09216025999539468,0.2454345831214688,0.08487748054427215,0.0,0.0,0.111513426823642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11022105723704777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07396758725046812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10983031769626096,0.18363922275246555,0.0,0.0,0.09200785892435594,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2595671055015476,0.0,0.0,0.09783014604959428,0.08888789617561711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13226074704189322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13405968943887933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1201994833767265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06810217848655277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1252130609794566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,sun4finger403,2019/04/11,"Worried for my mother’s safety. Hi everyone. My mother is currently going through a divorce and there isn’t a minute that doesn’t go by where I’m not riddled with anxiety and worry. She’s pursuing a restraining order but I’m not sure if it will help since my father’s family and he, himself, are very unpredictable. The restraining order is only for him(since they are the ones divorcing, right). They were complicit with his abuse and threats. I’ve witnessed what him and his family members have done to my mother and I’m literally so scared. I just don’t know what I can do and won’t be home since I go to university—that’s a few hours away. Does anyone have experience with something like this?? What do you recommend?",3.433829670329672,5.7691894928571426,4.7928571428571445,79.88137362637363,75.5,8.593406593406593,27.1978021978022,9.265573868473778,2.6537582417582417,579,23,106,15,13,192,89,140,0.14800000000000002,0.76,0.092,-0.8731,1,0,1,0,2,0,16.0,0,1,2,0,4,4,1,1,6,0,17,0,0,0,1,19,24,10,0,1,5,4,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,0,6,10,0,2,1,0,0,3,6,2,0,1,2,0,15,2,10,19,1,10,0,0,0,0,17,3,0,1,3,71,21,0,0.0,0.2104858990402627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1359015691389034,0.0,0.0,0.1242168326891711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16690778386769378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15546248953923344,0.1817973684279379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975194493794338,0.0,0.17377553951501234,0.3349447394673848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30288733310153393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11907487978294813,0.0,0.1781971795164636,0.0,0.17494921460452376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09763165424216083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08679069226722623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12038006523333697,0.13511063673654564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15171191208474433,0.0,0.0,0.17785838659905515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.440861116038219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676345334784706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16743278283410334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14657964511036967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3608238799709873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,divorcedthr0waway,2019/04/11,"Finalized.... now what? Became official today. Started off rocky, with false allegations - you can see in my post history if curious. Custody is 60/40 then moves to joint in a year. House was sold. Basically bought all new furnishings and in a townhouse establishing things with a toddler. Just took out a loan to pay off attorney bills. What now? Do I embrace some stability or seek change in my new life? Change seems inevitable. I’d like to build some better habits around eating better and exercising that have especially dwindled over the last 7 months. I want to get a new job (unrelated reasons) but also don’t want to bring potential instability. What has worked for those that have moved on?",3.860349462365592,7.032000895161296,4.4775483870967765,77.6846559139785,80.37096774193549,8.145376344086023,26.815053763440858,8.841846274778883,2.7483963440860224,557,23,95,15,15,177,95,124,0.01,0.885,0.105,0.8079,1,0,0,0,0,0,22.0,0,1,0,3,5,3,0,0,6,0,8,3,0,1,1,17,18,7,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,7,6,1,0,2,1,5,4,1,0,0,0,4,1,5,3,18,14,3,27,0,0,1,0,1,10,0,5,13,57,12,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130285674287886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14503179277448086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2881759245020971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3446918354371252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16670605336999958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1784689913067423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08511806705618323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18798579911985466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1616712351276723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13280012694922896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1150739856568202,0.07959363289964135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1300398014265849,0.3463126563871167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4720424144181792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1560306590638361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675071060835417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298247607461868,0.14831466583542235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531438351830735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823565326934267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544274616906132,0.0,0.18100818227078866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218682255348907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11860643419757053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10491401845963123 divorce,Lat3ralu5,2019/04/11,"I'm (34m) feeling dating is pointless after ex (32f) cheated and left My ex-wife cheating on me left quite the hole in me I found out the other day. She was cheating on me with her boss and a year later was knocked up by a married man. I started to find out she didn’t have a lot of nice things to say about me from our 13 years of marriage and she made me feel like I was nothing but a mistake. She was the type of person that would tell you, you were a great person and immediately turn out to tell another person you were garbage. Every time I get into a somewhat relationship I start pushing back and I think I might be afraid. I’ve learned to love myself again. My kids and I have an incredible relationship and I’ve doubled the amount of money I make within the last 3 years. Honestly, my life has come together so well. However, when I think about things like a dating or just being with someone I get a headache. Has anyone else had these feelings after their ex had a string of affairs or even just one?",3.613608414239483,4.736440393203888,4.6019223300970875,86.52964724919096,72.25242718446603,7.0467313915857615,27.32556634304207,7.3011,1.3005337216828483,795,28,166,8,15,259,127,206,0.033,0.821,0.146,0.9751,1,0,0,0,0,0,18.0,1,3,1,1,11,12,3,1,15,0,18,2,0,3,0,35,34,12,0,2,5,2,3,2,0,2,1,1,0,5,5,14,0,0,8,0,1,2,1,5,1,1,11,4,30,7,26,19,4,29,0,0,0,1,25,11,0,5,18,116,35,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14190685625186295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0946269172314261,0.13866309370394822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10406155438829584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165760867076393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872776087231767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11305208594696625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08938516601118073,0.0,0.11402260846003034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205282987202,0.09668083614999257,0.0,0.0,0.12369052072442872,0.0,0.0,0.14838398233515734,0.0,0.0,0.14141022510208634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14920343414956005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11031321842095293,0.0,0.0,0.29407609737313634,0.0,0.09558862635111444,0.13223225026482188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11505398455547618,0.12214194413789743,0.12805391828606147,0.09033481357694156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14356531372282813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985420469819595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09170411306213984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35449868432986753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14394168695963033,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29059072564620386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10762102447844137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11466592359655935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915766357813174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23657135649733155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17981644346771236,0.17342989551339807,0.0,0.0,0.07891287412963581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720178851890206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12167925292249372,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09613560034077698,0.0,0.0,0.2614471077617682 divorce,lavender203,2019/04/11,"How is everyone going about on dating apps? I am having a hard time figuring out when to say I'm divorced and with a child! I'm educated, good paying job not a broke single mom, I don't rent I own, I have retirement accounts, above all my personality is great I make people laugh so I know I'm funny, sweet, and caring. I just want to find someone who will love me for me. I feel like if I put out my situation out there tho people won't know the real me. But I also think whoever likes me will like me for me and will continue to chat. The anxiety and super self conscious of me makes me think that I will inevitably turn everyone off right away. Any advice?",1.6364309954751128,3.6366123602941203,3.934117647058823,85.49006787330319,79.80882352941177,7.12579185520362,21.490950226244344,8.139509932561175,1.1307133484162897,515,15,108,10,13,178,92,136,0.021,0.7020000000000001,0.276,0.9891,2,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,0,0,0,1,8,11,0,0,5,0,11,1,0,3,1,26,26,11,0,2,4,1,2,3,0,5,0,1,1,3,2,8,0,0,8,1,3,2,3,1,0,0,0,4,21,10,14,21,3,13,0,1,0,1,9,7,0,1,7,70,23,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16732155347355365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13693058804365496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11644058708072053,0.0,0.13098858619828396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16087389404585922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1745778711129893,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3272304714760642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08657778029058899,0.12232497643267352,0.0,0.0,0.15649885370340813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09731254709253943,0.14361752220939458,0.0,0.18877894826750827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15338622782985664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16991689544361938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1882043369831768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25095935567089583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1545395244092578,0.0,0.22859140201695874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20053960512833985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23741520937455424,0.14950926827177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721309536767149,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19489440731261407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14622736881799747,0.0,0.13616699862381704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17862764951547164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19246690967135927,0.0,0.0,0.14508052433285604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.219431365368876,0.0,0.0,0.09984414546401267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18624637548114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1009944292430074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Dyngnavatnmygrg,2019/04/11,"My wife [23F] is a fucking asshole enough of the time that it's not worth it anymore. How do I [22M] start getting mentally ready for divorce at this age? It's hard because I do love her. But she has pretty bad anger problems and any time I've tried to raise that issue with her it's set her off on a rage where she acts like a psycho and completely loses control of herself. That is only one of the millions of innocuous things that incur her wrath and guarantee that my night ends up miserable and that my ears inevitably start ringing before it's over. The military forced us to move faster than we were ready and it didn't allow our relationship time to mature and I think that is a major contributing factor to why shit has gone downhill so fast. We've been together 2.5 years now, married 1.5. Regardless of the reasons, she has anger problems that she isn't willing to even acknowledge much less work on, so she's pretty much doomed to become a miserable asshole as her life progresses, and I can't allow my life to be sunk along with hers. I'm a happy person, but as a result of her anger I'm much less happy than I would be otherwise. So I'm ready to punch out and parachute into singles land again. Only problem is I'm fucking married, 22 and we have a dog, and also I still love her enough that it's gonna hurt immeasurably when I do break it off. I'm weak against her pathetic crying fits as it is, so I can't imagine what waterworks she'll pull out if I tell her I want a divorce. Maybe I'll just tell her when I'm on a deployment and won't be back for another month or something. Harder for her to get to me. What do you guys think? And before anyone jumps down my throat about wanting out so soon, let me put it like this: You know how when you see those murder shows where the wife snapped in a fit of rage and stabbed her husband in the neck while he slept, everyone they interview is like ""I could never have imagined that she would do that""? Well that's not me. I can and have imagined that she could one day do that and it honestly doesn't seem insane to me to think that it's a possibility. That's probably a pretty sure sign of a need for a divorce, right? Feeling like your wife murdering you in your sleep is within the realm of possibility? Also she hits me a lot and will literally walk up and get a couple inches from my face and yell in my ear during arguments. Tl;Dr: Wife is chronically prone to extreme anger that gets directed at me all the time, could conceivably kill me one day if I'm being honest with myself. Divorce seems likely best bet. What do? Standing by for questions, will probably answer in the AM.",4.883671513549242,5.361294544943824,5.605706102665788,82.84633840052877,68.90636704119851,8.679356686494822,29.001762502753916,8.671277953709913,2.02639806124697,2093,71,426,32,34,682,261,534,0.159,0.7140000000000001,0.127,-0.9702,0,0,1,0,4,1,49.0,4,6,1,5,23,36,12,2,26,0,45,16,8,7,3,74,77,39,3,14,8,5,2,5,0,8,4,4,0,2,36,28,0,1,14,1,2,7,9,22,1,4,5,7,61,14,61,55,12,63,1,5,1,4,53,28,3,8,30,292,97,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13284030489301038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056481182585707834,0.0870918501755114,0.0,0.0,0.08236960530058993,0.05807494800295593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386522500175051,0.06934860319641233,0.050630394815657176,0.091729239904558,0.1413497141195792,0.0,0.08716254055996575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0870830281431908,0.0,0.0931547861008516,0.19894126933865475,0.0919002983034026,0.0912335270403501,0.10712898056320692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07356329511013443,0.1716388738498531,0.0,0.05485795184090528,0.0,0.0,0.07936392485823801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0419957983642605,0.059335490329472926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15356855920498322,0.17357410999251233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08223886857023498,0.0,0.17683010954232936,0.07440219735568089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08891356640219866,0.0,0.0,0.08668927594943546,0.0,0.0,0.0918895722352744,0.0,0.045645611152749614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08493076986895337,0.11733034674348106,0.2028857454920084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09291883774074892,0.0,0.07061155922738996,0.14992324091971132,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0834412914271491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0837012901337267,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662948054886041,0.08827578149751035,0.18316797489481312,0.061585249071558726,0.06405819605207988,0.0,0.0,0.07794278080089287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16884344603711549,0.12633623049712805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07252162232452017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872671649394172,0.0,0.2534945756244353,0.1790976381680396,0.2384211993254357,0.0,0.08349459640328699,0.09304214745689046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08539578570516898,0.0,0.08917146291879778,0.0,0.07092968976110947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06618517689856677,0.1512228073989741,0.0,0.0,0.0852561745720984,0.0,0.0,0.08311635652790793,0.0,0.0,0.06394085463244398,0.0,0.0,0.11757545830613082,0.0,0.06632892773061047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07827964975900117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451898638309283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055178964453233496,0.15965751276879378,0.0,0.0,0.1937233588888559,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05638982612347975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09990659171030923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09797760284838226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.074677655082327,0.0,0.07494545912990026,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0604660296198928,0.0,0.0,0.11800173046680228,0.0,0.0,0.05348558187960417 divorce,gonegirl_geek,2019/04/11,"Harder than expected We finally had the conversation last night that we couldn't continue like this anymore and we needed to start moving towards a divorce. I've been quite emotional since that conversation, despite having been preparing emotionally for this eventuality for the last year. We have agreed we want to be amicable and above all, fair to each other. We'll be going to have a consultation with a lawyer together to get some advisement before we proceed. Our 7 year anniversary is this weekend, married for two and a half years, no children. Things have been declining steadily for the last two years and I've tried...holy crap have I ever tried to make this work. I'm in a place where no one can say I haven't tried enough, I haven't worked hard enough at it, and I'm feeling okay about that aspect of it. It's really tough to come to the realization that you deserve better. I've always been the strong person, the one who can get through anything, and I know that this too shall pass and ultimately, once this is over and done, I will be better off. I just didn't expect to be such a basket case right after our conversation (it's just not like me). I had been gearing up for this conversation for the last few weeks - my therapist warned me I would never be 100% on this decision and I wasn't, so this whole thing feels a little surreal. Hearing him tell me that he's been looking at divorce websites and lawyers (just like I have) was a bit of a shock (I don't know why, I mean... I was doing it, so it's reasonable to expect he would be too). I've been mulling this over for a long time and anticipating it would get to this place; no amount of preparation could have prepared me for how dark this feels. I'm going to lose my partner, my home and my best friend in one fell swoop. On the other side of the coin, this new freedom that's opening up in front of me is a bit scary, but exciting. I don't remember what it's like to be happy anymore and I'm looking forward to getting to a place where I can feel that way again and find joy in my personal relationships and my space. Hard to reconcile the two at the moment, but I know this is for the best and my happiness is what matters.",7.203244084682439,6.03111615296804,7.422947281029472,77.30398505603985,64.41095890410958,10.886010792860107,33.607721046077216,10.018931242160765,2.9864027397260267,1737,60,356,32,22,566,205,438,0.057,0.825,0.119,0.9828,0,0,0,0,2,0,49.0,9,1,0,9,14,19,1,0,24,1,49,1,1,3,3,62,75,21,0,10,6,0,6,4,2,6,0,2,1,4,37,26,0,0,13,1,1,8,12,4,0,7,14,10,39,15,50,46,12,57,0,1,2,0,31,26,1,1,28,250,76,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07047316331838621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16798969380063825,0.0,0.0,0.06969690553566195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206934859983419,0.0,0.1777647039356335,0.14981198418347422,0.1849303719297931,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07295738651932321,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06762219874380362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08667256086576353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1905413253150528,0.0,0.17502549488431682,0.0,0.0,0.07661162699127888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17129768395466474,0.0,0.0,0.09277941503642753,0.07740984780094824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06543527554436697,0.0,0.17699891533383136,0.0,0.0962684298484678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1803191592842104,0.1517404667202645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09545760810549596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08495615762375681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13963874561940787,0.2761514592512252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16551112094000828,0.08488680705407196,0.0,0.07495255715322904,0.14224521767864393,0.09475222713169787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056534681309147475,0.0,0.0,0.09225786556006076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09001755835579198,0.0,0.06280039279302639,0.06532213369810261,0.08179911957707697,0.0,0.0794806763546461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09019758817392473,0.17217491025064116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14790510509019547,0.2654652676433964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09008373490949408,0.0,0.0,0.05425789240516954,0.08708073712460483,0.0,0.0909309125424237,0.095943113311321,0.07232920942658509,0.0,0.06735299581783492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07006071694654763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059947674774080674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07402730861373727,0.0,0.0,0.0983376161887601,0.11253541046977203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049386432688079435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11500491703687635,0.0,0.24820461295168306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049955403579256916,0.06722708093416191,0.06793735383459525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07642421427804283,0.09455912876124473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12331817985673126,0.0,0.0,0.18049504878095116,0.0,0.0,0.2181636415499327 divorce,perryontheradio,2019/04/11,"How did it get so bad in just 2 weeks?? My STBXW and I have been together for 7 years, married 5 next month, and have a 6 year old. On the eve of our 7 year anniversary she suggested that we go to the same restaurant that I took her to the night I proposed to her. As we walked out of dinner I told her I loved her, she reciprocated, I told her that she was my best friend, she said the same... before I could say anything she immediately followed up with the ""But I am not in love with you, I won't ever love you, I could never be in love with you, we're going to get a divorce!"" &#x200B; To say I was shell shocked is an understatement, I asked why, what happened... she didn't have a concrete answer. Over the course of our 7 years together I have been laid off from work 3 times, never out of work for more than a single month, that was 1 reason she gave. I supported our family while she went through school, which she failed the final semester 3 times in a row, she is now re-enrolled starting the program all over. She blamed that we didn't take our honeymoon, she wouldn't go on a honeymoon until she graduated! Everytime I asked why she didn't have a good reason. I asked her to go to marriage counselling, she agreed to go in and be open minded, she ended up going in to emotionally crucify me with an audience. &#x200B; We never fought, argued, yelled, anything at all like that. Over the next couple days her mom and dad advised me that they had been encouraging this for 2 years..... still I don't get mad, at this point I realize that they are trying to get me to react. Since then she has come unglued, it has gone from her saying she will never keep our child from me, I am devoted to my child, to her using the child as a pawn to get me to sign a parenting agreement. I had zero intention of signing, I met with several attourneys and they all said the agreement was horrific, they purposely left Christmas out of the holiday list so that she would always have our child on that holiday.....they're Jewish! &#x200B; She got so angry a couple days later, I have been doing some really great self reflection and improvements. She was so angry, I asked her to take 5 and breathe. I advised her that I was going to walk into the other room to let her cool off and she followed me and said ""Just get it over with and hit me already!"" I have never struck any female, never been emotionally or verbally abusive. This was where I saw how crazy this was about to get. I installed cameras in the house, we have always had the doorbell and rear cameras. Every day last week our child asked to stay the night with me, she denied our child everyday except Wednesday, I left on Sunday. &#x200B; Monday I get notifications that there are people in the house, it's her and her mother. Side note, the last time she slept in the house was 4 days after the initial bomb drop. Even in the parenting agreement she put her parents address as her home address. I can see her and her mother packing her items, totally fine, they aren't there long. Then today I start getting notifications, they are back at it, with our child with them this time! Then I hear the actual plan, they start talking about how tomorrow the movers will be here and how every piece of furniture, except our bed and my office, will be taken! Every toy of our child, clothes, my childs bed, etc. My heart hit the floor! My lawyer told me yesterday to change the locks, hard to do from another country. I am having to watch the entire contents of the house be planned to be taken. I was to come home to a completely empty house, I realize that I had to act. I contact my attorney, he is filing the divorce paperwork and injunction first thing in the morning. In the meantime I call a close friend and ask them to come to my house, I was able to open the garage remotely, and change the locks. My friend changed the 2 deadbolts for the bedroom french doors and side garage door. They installed a different front door lock and disabled the smart lock, they also disconnected the garage door opener. &#x200B; I know based on their convo's that she is planning on going to work tomorrow and that her mom will be coming by the house to coordinate that great move. I know when she hits the garage door clicker she will know something is up, when she tries the front door keypad and it doesn't work, she will know what has happened. I am dreading watching my phone start to blow up, the evil text's that will follow, I save all these things to CYA. Tomorrow is going to be horrific and I have to let it play out from another country. &#x200B; How does it go from being great to this in 2 weeks??????",6.243651942117289,6.142471020902092,6.311768426842686,80.9454845773039,65.96369636963696,9.456554116950157,30.68208936278243,9.057496981413335,2.336794516374714,3654,120,727,56,52,1162,360,909,0.075,0.8370000000000001,0.08800000000000001,0.8646,6,0,1,0,3,0,146.0,16,3,12,10,25,32,4,1,55,1,80,8,3,10,12,99,153,45,0,4,7,8,1,1,3,10,0,8,14,10,38,50,1,1,10,3,0,28,15,8,0,2,41,14,146,24,114,86,14,141,2,1,4,4,138,49,0,2,63,508,184,11,0.04163577594832303,0.0493315861662962,0.040630511292677134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04594611409813047,0.033296114983282395,0.06928860192294913,0.2706740750685873,0.3035521502399367,0.028313755396453432,0.08731748274399542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06852539201489127,0.0,0.2335429805704253,0.0,0.0,0.03201534168118842,0.03476413378932653,0.0,0.0,0.03542897871222245,0.0,0.04369417813452095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04251478240206037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132135390739352,0.14346213718370887,0.04365431892802983,0.0,0.0,0.06648555832162485,0.09213838832340858,0.0,0.1074065241794562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043500524142816,0.0,0.0,0.03643574811092032,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366928783925747,0.036876939337182287,0.0,0.04643489610270362,0.027500037337512283,0.037661943038416634,0.1052398109182622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03925050407491255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04560995741073765,0.0,0.03541536975199757,0.0,0.0,0.09650309164699963,0.0,0.19577677031747456,0.0,0.23662570968265234,0.0349221134694433,0.03329993352639148,0.1377107699106825,0.0,0.0,0.07363675833368076,0.0,0.03729747714985812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046926545489784977,0.04933859496720796,0.0,0.0,0.08352815609967149,0.0,0.0,0.33629466722655804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03700779071121677,0.0,0.0,0.09152773436635596,0.06787742890174626,0.0,0.0,0.09047478478497846,0.08515080363457253,0.0,0.020341137024072947,0.0,0.0,0.036846351512805235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503116534503441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04204026468227145,0.09752663515804798,0.06646655826695705,0.044252240663667286,0.0,0.0,0.19267246305309474,0.0,0.0885602401372424,0.07814471048537486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043689742966383865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13869480578618534,0.0,0.0,0.028865004609470536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03935926614326953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041855454706546336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026672944217470428,0.085617024207136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11881547227083104,0.09933132051536142,0.0,0.04213762808769367,0.03317832282872933,0.0,0.043435194739428494,0.0470365756691566,0.0,0.034441544116689704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.032053254464989106,0.0,0.0,0.1178800660575431,0.04437819734464663,0.03325038445545512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0472477851398893,0.0,0.0,0.06260984375377784,0.033465259572099976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0553219189484105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09711262312603164,0.0,0.039465847255511985,0.11935430454180708,0.046258879057461316,0.05653591764959806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03595994229669961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019312410336413,0.0,0.0,0.03859678143508494,0.07513962352537028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12124536308030966,0.0,0.0,0.0295768606449177,0.0,0.3035521502399367,0.1340603731409208 divorce,scooby6920,2019/04/12,"When do I stop thinking about her? I just want to talk to her. Hear about her day, listen to her talk about nothing. Its been almost 7 months since she moved out. I just want my wife back. I want to watch her cuddle with her pups, do yoga and handstands against the door. Cook dinner and watch a movie. She left cause I did some stupid things. I was recently diagnosed as Bipolar and I wish I knew that a long time ago so I wouldnt have had the psychotic break that sent her running. I just wish the pain would end. I feel so alone now.",1.3395454545454548,3.42354222727273,1.826363636363638,99.77954545454548,81.27272727272728,5.090909090909091,18.18181818181818,6.11248444174946,-0.4976363636363641,415,9,97,3,11,126,72,110,0.108,0.805,0.087,-0.6389,0,1,0,0,0,0,13.0,0,0,0,0,11,2,1,0,5,0,9,6,0,1,0,22,20,7,0,7,3,1,1,0,0,2,3,2,1,0,4,5,2,1,3,2,0,3,1,2,0,0,6,5,21,0,11,12,1,17,0,0,2,1,15,2,0,2,11,62,25,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16430469976279852,0.0,0.1856047623217952,0.1919703328556562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1425254051715755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1904091089646545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11953767766394308,0.0,0.0,0.18812990725498546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16416819076486006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09372030204553347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2089068727060889,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20138712695462133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16403202035924422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14794740036968634,0.1970014436561568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17785168832654571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19722919911923806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1830142262782022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15332633581887406,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15496383086482216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29796025462930137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12314063350484565,0.11876704260383025,0.0,0.0,0.1080811201090888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279789011153403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4262947695889657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316698128384192,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,jcwilk108,2019/04/12,"""I know you don’t care and I know you're mad and hurt. But I miss you. Just so you know."" My STBX sent me that message on facebook messenger today. It has messed me up emotionally all day. Why can't she just leave me alone? We have been going through the process for about a year, due to some extenuating circumstances, and I pretty much cut off all contact with her because she cheated on me. I basically have only talked to her a couple of times, about the divorce paperwork and once or twice about our dog. I make it pretty clear that I don't want to talk to her or have anything to do with her. Once we split, I don't plan to ever talk to her again, but that message still hit me hard. Not sure what I'm looking to say here. I just wanted a place to vent I guess. I was going to tell my mom, but I thought it would just make her mad for no reason.",1.8505214152700158,3.3340158770949735,3.1712625698324035,93.58076722532593,77.37988826815642,6.114115456238363,21.989199255121044,6.742157984588678,0.2598064059590315,658,18,154,6,15,214,105,179,0.141,0.807,0.052000000000000005,-0.9114,0,1,0,0,2,0,21.0,3,3,0,1,12,9,4,0,5,0,12,0,0,3,5,35,29,10,0,3,10,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,8,0,0,5,0,0,3,6,7,0,1,4,3,33,2,23,23,4,16,0,2,1,0,25,5,0,4,8,105,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15488900056271182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12306714785214302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09116446996227244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15247648975651742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654745536689665,0.0,0.09644756638973666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682239496450276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1352768010812864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16998575472756136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1647465071497067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13396768701202152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16009668071964345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24656678830939496,0.0,0.0,0.15835216593076662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12558458012429805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996519624500876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17515149458625895,0.0,0.0,0.10993667213898277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3185323604941788,0.0,0.1137397361035438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15624822504236927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30429282264476554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15376260780048354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11892839475286375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11943105641864415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14094938040863947,0.0,0.0,0.3606085796729177,0.1307135469536955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11872622696346855,0.08720397794998112,0.0,0.14175619041329154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17641727393926246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13494587752145354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623623666973904,0.0,0.0,0.09630548488573046 divorce,Dugotz,2019/04/12,"Divorce sucks I am actually the one who initiated and wanted the divorce. I have two small kids and we’ve had so many issues I didn’t want to be older and regret not making a move. I also want my kids to see that their mommy or their daddy(me) can lead a happy life where they are in love, show affection etc. This is the worst feeling ever, having to put the house up for sale, living with the guilt of not knowing where my ex wife who I still care about will be living with my children, will she be able to afford it, will she struggle etc. Will the future man she’s with be caring to her and the children. Life is unfair, I want to be happy but even when I am happy I’m miserable with worries...",4.363333333333333,4.562761444444444,5.481944444444448,84.25750000000002,69.97222222222223,7.511111111111113,25.027777777777786,6.937597516519254,0.9425611111111108,544,13,113,4,9,181,92,144,0.103,0.742,0.154,0.6908,1,0,0,0,2,0,16.0,0,0,3,1,9,12,1,3,9,0,19,3,0,3,1,23,32,9,0,5,4,2,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,5,5,8,0,0,2,1,1,3,3,6,0,2,2,2,17,6,15,21,3,13,0,2,1,1,19,5,1,1,5,86,22,1,0.147319726748012,0.0,0.14376280217999146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1178115322552339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3004045595294009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3286008750701883,0.09730329011162843,0.13325912705710488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07448928030630711,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4704737655673393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1699871851420728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537635198583041,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08096306907701137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.208112559528079,0.0,0.0,0.2601720354820136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329618051362296,0.0,0.098337061560724,0.14935908017705266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1565775550970921,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09982765950894827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14809701536331166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11739474866884522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11764972408161133,0.0,0.0,0.15401056493898968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14390996663928066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3475719670339309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14961033358231735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LoyaltyIsEvrthng,2019/04/12,"What’s your story... When did you know your marriage was done? Do you remember the moment, the day? Was it triggered by something your spouse did or said? Once you determined in your mind you were done, how long did it finally take you to act on it (tell your spouse you were done, file papers etc).",2.162126436781609,4.556470155172416,2.421379310344829,94.91988505747128,80.20689655172413,5.935632183908046,20.011494252873558,7.1686216300943375,0.3212666666666668,231,6,49,3,6,70,39,58,0.0,0.95,0.05,0.4479,0,0,1,0,0,0,12.0,0,11,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,0,11,0,0,2,0,6,14,3,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,11,1,11,0,4,3,1,8,0,0,0,0,16,2,0,1,5,36,15,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14554650999285826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6928545048030342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25169558818745136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2472240926804145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12402917240221548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19972186641841394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22787493964360056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24034444374870306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25565422166126706,0.0,0.2146756906905583,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17374137584035113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16968511585637008,0.0,0.19725640863782848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,davethemacguy,2019/04/12,"Reality Check So, mainly looking to see if I’m out to lunch or not: Wife left me. Been together 16y and married for only 6 months. After cheating on me, decides she doesn’t want to continue the relationship and moves out: 1. The house is in her name, but not mine, and she doesn’t want to pay 1/2 the mortgage 2. Nor does she want to pay the 1/2 house insurance 3. Nor does she want to pay the 1/2 of our pet expenses (3 dogs, 2 cats) 4. Nor does she want to babysit the pets while I go on vacation From your personal positions, which do you think she’s being unreasonable about and which ones do you think I am? Cheers",2.7215748031496076,4.092547811023621,4.136228346456694,88.02796456692914,74.8267716535433,8.229606299212598,25.298425196850395,8.841846274778883,1.6252903937007868,480,16,108,10,10,159,80,127,0.056,0.857,0.087,0.4588,1,0,0,0,0,0,20.0,1,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,6,0,8,1,0,0,0,20,19,12,0,6,5,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,2,6,1,0,3,0,5,2,7,1,0,1,1,2,16,1,17,17,1,12,0,0,2,0,15,6,0,2,4,65,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4783545674385891,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035530533141154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.420487331192114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19796961676284094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15300890056210886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14543675454908858,0.19365835787072788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12346891352718607,0.13857745874694752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590970711472409,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19562329310301166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451962526542069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335031664028288,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5373552449451605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,LadyVixus,2019/04/12,"I’m free!! I got my certified divorce decree today and I cried tears of joy. For those of you in the middle of the process, I promise life gets better. It’s not the end of the world, it’s a chance for a new beginning. I was buried in suicidal depression and panic attacks not too long ago and I know how hard it is to envision a world where breathing doesn’t hurt. Purging toxicity from your life is hard (especially if you love your abuser) but I promise you’ll make it. ❤️",1.8932199546485224,3.801431224489797,3.948503401360544,86.14808390022678,78.59183673469387,7.212698412698412,25.174603174603178,8.167268648758528,1.5446018140589572,372,14,79,7,9,127,67,98,0.177,0.6709999999999999,0.152,0.1862,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,0,5,0,1,3,10,1,1,7,0,5,4,1,2,0,10,12,6,1,1,4,0,2,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,1,0,1,0,3,4,0,0,2,2,12,7,10,9,0,12,0,2,0,1,7,6,0,1,6,48,17,0,0.0,0.2584741257006589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1933783446904916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2481790844430708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.192937475843653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2396294300140381,0.0,0.0,0.18789376399644744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1932176804849344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11397527420019625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17447586572848936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908421985318735,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2335359371566441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11989048475938255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081740345416544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930574147854636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1968904520788648,0.0,0.14561797267238236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21069229866291694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2559540498431905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2386225833940297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2067823306961405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,theatrejunky427,2019/04/12,"In a bad place today. I wish I didn't care, but today was hard and I do fucking care, so I will speak my truth. I had surgery on my face today. I have been living with a lot of nose issues that eventually became emergent in the last few weeks, so my ENT performed surgery on my sinus cavity and nose in order to address the shit going on in there. I'm so hopped up on pain meds right now so be patient with me. I let STBXH know, because I needed him to take the kids last night and send them off to school today during my surgery. He picked them up after dinner last night and didn't say a damm thing about what I was soon to undergo. I have had very few surgeries in my life, and he has held my hand through each one. Held my hair while I puked. Walked me to the car. Brought food to my bedside. Loved me. He was there when I needed him most. And now today... We had originally planned for him to pick the kids up from school and drop them off at my place. I sent him a text a few hours ago - after my surgery - to confirm that he can still pick them up. He text me back that he can't because he put his car in the shop today. Which... okay, I totally understand. Car problems suck and need to be addressed. And I have someone else who can get the kids for me. But why the fuck did he not tell me he would be unable to pick them up? He didn't reach out at all to say things had changed on his end. What the hell? But I tell him that's fine, and that I have a backup plan. And then I get stupid (PAIN MEDS) and ask him if he would like to come over to sleep on the couch and hang with the kids at some point this weekend while I stayed in bed to recover. Nothing sexual, nothing loving, just a very matter-of-fact request wondering if he would be interested. No reply. No reply. No reply. So I shoot him another text apologizing for putting him on the spot and tell him I will find someone else. I genuinely just wanted to know if he wanted the extra time with the kids, while simultaneously giving me the opportunity to rest after my surgery. I told him I will have a friend come over. He replied immediately: ""Okay"" And I was heartbroken all over again. This man, who says his ""heart still loves [me]"", who told me I was his best friend, who wanted to keep my as his ""companion"" after he told me he'd fallen in love with someone else... this man is not someone I can trust or count on anymore. That hurts. We aren't even 2 months away from D-Day. I have people sending me texts and emails left and right - people I barely know at work offering to bring me food this weekend and take my kids for playdates - asking me how I am and what I need, but my ex can't even manage to ask me how the surgery went. Won't acknowledge it at all. Doesnt give a shit, and is truly not interested in helping beyond dropping the kids off at school this morning. I thought for sure he would at least check in to see how it went. Not: do you need any food? Not: do you need any company? But, at the very least: is everything okay over there? But all I get is silence and one-word responses from a man who used to love me so much. He probably has some dates lined up with his AP. And yeah, I understand that this weekend is his. I'm okay enough to admit that. He has his own life, I have mine, and he isn't obligated to do anything for the kids this weekend. I get that and respect that. But it fucking hurts that he really does not care anymore. How quickly he turned everything off for me... I just don't understand. Sorry, needed to vent.",2.367452932062537,3.8511997257617767,3.4504094088924373,92.12080074181893,75.98060941828254,6.556965115733132,22.62509976994225,7.202711024589979,0.5415316399830985,2710,75,614,30,59,873,285,722,0.107,0.7609999999999999,0.132,0.9743,0,0,0,1,0,0,105.0,2,2,5,6,29,38,8,0,29,5,57,26,9,10,7,107,119,51,0,19,20,1,3,1,3,8,5,4,4,11,32,36,4,3,11,5,2,18,19,14,0,1,24,10,97,24,91,81,21,111,1,2,1,8,98,49,7,9,41,402,129,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049789763246672836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07639267006530992,0.058897305892447675,0.0,0.0,0.11140761919404332,0.0,0.0,0.04622168262378686,0.0,0.1575291904144614,0.0,0.05277191835801806,0.04318991599372128,0.0468981413007292,0.06847928583222677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058945111435543526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1718018181159655,0.0,0.05941855920889556,0.09676794511433902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036223873562577176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04915321272375133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14076409266610776,0.0,0.04974839650124065,0.05803681536101134,0.0,0.0741971967226723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10096079990228043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0513367615034258,0.0,0.20375660691324848,0.0,0.08679089883163338,0.15577992180779698,0.11738236621034474,0.10776340402585652,0.03192170998803805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05031571803672578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06655964484471028,0.037648392955583615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05531441048446098,0.0,0.12025854331548545,0.0,0.0,0.058625058405572285,0.0,0.04992491999140017,0.0,0.0,0.09260580125327766,0.13735385747228046,0.0,0.0,0.0610269662795643,0.0574358395483869,0.07934658993570033,0.027440969021507958,0.0,0.049597592425320455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047752236230797836,0.2534701858738964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12478052359026537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044832960030978086,0.0,0.041290125407215945,0.2915363116071512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10542019244480312,0.0,0.10778989849448883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07612211758155345,0.0,0.1195339529989656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07787998245690643,0.0,0.11736772964163007,0.0,0.05309714996111287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06055887180339144,0.05374542807245309,0.0,0.11292920691937705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035982818222885155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09593475454471702,0.0,0.13400173677123822,0.0,0.1705357983124236,0.04475882188155338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11531179973495867,0.0,0.0,0.056208812480440434,0.0,0.19036469853211707,0.0,0.0,0.06287575556988083,0.0,0.05986787941714461,0.08971207152437513,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052937909433757036,0.0,0.0844630652089702,0.0,0.14728057456524454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0746313769125644,0.0,0.0,0.04459131520963065,0.0327521573602922,0.0,0.3194455916592283,0.1610135052745225,0.0,0.0,0.061094925187586566,0.0,0.17541938252698988,0.0,0.04851133254798575,0.0,0.13903406214134467,0.09938846460272777,0.0,0.04505478088458073,0.0,0.0,0.10413705806481087,0.05068310780777085,0.0,0.06459071372204075,0.0,0.060912069459536235,0.04089115382722682,0.0,0.0,0.15960124859296246,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,I_Am_Vladimir_Putin,2019/04/12,"Wife says I’ll be obliged to cover all of her expenses over the course of our marriage (3 years), including tuition, and rent she’s been paying the last year that we’ve been separated. Is this true? I am In Canada btw. This makes no sense to me. She says since I married a student, I’m obligated to take care of all her expenses. That seems insane.",2.7050476190476154,4.510564457142864,4.131428571428572,86.22190476190477,75.85714285714286,7.523809523809526,25.952380952380953,8.344100000000001,1.6479523809523813,272,10,57,5,6,90,54,70,0.07,0.8390000000000001,0.092,0.3716,1,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,1,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,5,0,0,1,3,6,10,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,4,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,2,2,8,2,8,7,2,5,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,1,3,32,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3514434825677558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2809755946912618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2300891799679773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5482367713853107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3138009156457777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2851384767175015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2591706605108629,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4439495564550898 divorce,throwaway4516761,2019/04/12,"Wife is not self-sufficient, won't contribute to relationship, don't see a way out Hi everyone. This is a throwaway account. &#x200B; So We've been married 3.5 years, I'm in graduate school, she moved with me to attend school and we got married soon after. No kids, no significant assets, all I have to my name is student loan debt and about 7500 in savings. &#x200B; I could write a huge wall of text but I doubt anyone would read it. The basic thing is she's sick mentally and I've been trying to fix her, but I'm realizing I can't fix her, she feels like dead weight, and I want to end the marriage but I am afraid of what will happen to her and feel responsible. I still love her dearly, but I can't allow her to drag me down with her. She appears unwilling to help herself, and I don't know what to do. I feel like divorcing her is literally a death sentence for her. If she doesn't kill herself, she will be totally unfunctional and unable to support herself. If I'm really honest with myself a large part of the reason I'm still with her is fear of what would happen to her if I divorced her, and a sense of obligation. That's no way to live, and I can't so it any longer.",2.118653198653199,4.023645670781897,3.8197848858959986,87.34978956228956,77.8888888888889,7.051926674148897,23.802656191545076,8.00094639256281,1.2494954732510286,930,31,197,16,22,311,131,243,0.135,0.7,0.165,0.7874,1,0,0,0,1,0,36.0,1,0,0,0,6,11,1,3,9,0,24,3,0,2,2,41,40,18,3,7,8,1,4,2,0,5,1,0,0,1,8,15,1,0,6,1,3,3,11,4,0,0,3,5,37,7,28,30,3,17,0,0,1,1,32,6,0,5,8,134,45,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2845924454364129,0.3191611488184622,0.08930904319953759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918291332185974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1048564826027128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11631958114407087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12549163932418758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14778299308337273,0.19921349369525454,0.18764465000566632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1050367625278965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23226973388066935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08802786838027354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14529741412361585,0.0,0.07217564632475941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12832260925996394,0.0,0.1159669774788368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11853063787744855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13234995788316928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13958322439992674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14221781444957748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313657452524067,0.0,0.08413349250291638,0.13502932420064534,0.0,0.1409994916784207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2658263585678407,0.1046531703516218,0.0,0.13700604632085814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20976094341095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14903196079278822,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08724995289504738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08916458874837051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07746195781307441,0.20848760831072646,0.0,0.15992480965487868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.186586419784818,0.0,0.3191611488184622,0.08457234646936543 divorce,secrets-and-skies,2019/04/12,"Help? Is there a relationship or discernment counselor service that I can see without my partner? I think it’s over, but I am terrified and I need help to work this out. My partner is not really keen on counseling but is also being stubborn about just talking to me about our issues. Even if a counselor could just coach me on how to communicate what is wrong with us as a couple.",5.191891891891891,6.1962041351351385,6.127945945945946,77.48867567567571,68.45945945945945,9.163243243243244,32.36756756756757,9.3871,2.9723978378378377,302,13,56,6,5,100,55,74,0.202,0.732,0.066,-0.9209,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,2,0,0,1,8,3,1,0,3,0,8,0,0,1,0,17,11,8,0,3,8,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,4,3,0,1,2,1,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,1,10,1,12,9,0,4,0,0,1,0,8,4,0,2,0,49,14,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21581953992972489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21547382654325256,0.2986123844750137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17825038774680094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3617840532417898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2816801672853213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20010944918842424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17288931614021572,0.0,0.0,0.2897455575323369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21505603197644751,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2169159052972322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17292548362154142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246272985632136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2601505926520355,0.0,0.19647276034864047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29506676703622564,0.0,0.0 divorce,crlp88,2019/04/12,"I need Advice... So this might get long and my writing is not great bare with me. So my wife and i are seperating soon. I am terrified to no end. Like thinking back idk if i was truly happy or just comfortable. Im sad that im losing my home, pool, and most importantly my 4 animals which i love so much. They have been my rock for 10 years. I dont have friends really, only person i have to talk is my mother. Its hard for me to make friends cause im crazy shy when i first meet people. I have anxiety i start to sweat when im put on the spot. My biggest fear is being alone. My wife has been all i talk to for 10 years pretty much other than coworkers but not outside work. We seemed fine almost 3 months ago. She even quit taking her birth control and we were activily trying to have a baby. Then one day it changed she was staying at work longer. Ignored me mostly and i knew she was talking to someone else cause she has done it in the past so i know her behavior. But she went on to tell me she wasnt happy any of the 10 years but why marry me after and 8 and finally wanna have a baby with me if u wasnt happy. Im not saying i was in the wrong i done some thing and probably didnt treat her as well as she should have been. I have been pleading saying ill change and all i ever got was a idk im so confused. I told her i would get out if she wanted me to still all i got was the same thing. Until yesterday i sat her down and told her i understood but i couldnt do this anymore. I have a apt lined up and i told her i was taking the check today. My biggest fear is i gave up to soon. I fear ill be alone in silence for the rest of my life while she has a good time with this new ""just friends"" guy. I feel like im worthless i feel like i dont have much to offer. I mean im leaving everthing i worked for with her for 10 years taking nothing but a few things i bought, my stuff out of my man cave, and my tv. I have the money to get out and settled wont have much but ill be settled. Being alone and lonely is the only thing i fear i think and i dont know how to get passed that....",-0.07741343345848861,1.7298249651416135,2.203908589440505,96.6558865248227,84.75163398692811,5.213572521207063,17.826959625457746,6.356417079543762,-0.34269836369535955,1605,37,390,15,47,544,210,459,0.16699999999999998,0.747,0.085,-0.9856,0,5,0,0,0,0,40.0,2,0,1,7,17,27,0,5,15,0,52,6,1,5,4,73,83,38,0,9,15,3,3,3,3,4,4,2,1,3,15,24,0,2,10,3,3,3,12,11,1,2,28,5,78,16,44,46,13,47,0,4,0,1,43,14,0,11,32,267,93,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06088006042687945,0.05522629905950039,0.0,0.062385702451901434,0.19357591769700688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042366986383114334,0.0,0.04766028570397821,0.0,0.06178609912880353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047905815603237284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12800109078457314,0.1318129232427864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06987614942848927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040179152179320714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12751161851046786,0.21904980292157566,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05204470003136757,0.0,0.0551804154861434,0.0,0.0,0.04114938803064809,0.056355047415225325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2804249079963965,0.0630027678597814,0.08901605085939923,0.0,0.0682479740853166,0.0,0.052993411401151866,0.0,0.0,0.14440137355460084,0.0,0.1301993268882934,0.0,0.0,0.05225533261528442,0.09965600186317627,0.06868734803890751,0.0,0.06168803246268306,0.0,0.19896251725261024,0.05580968276396461,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062493233457203326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5383683273594697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847827533437041,0.0,0.0,0.06596802813196091,0.0,0.0,0.04400521532338633,0.09131173133860328,0.0,0.0,0.055134645720857016,0.0,0.06969916267817791,0.0,0.0,0.05622931050460207,0.0,0.04158656813468197,0.0,0.0,0.06786432545880483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609178083736432,0.0,0.0,0.04972826334053472,0.0,0.18319434881792196,0.046195587439340685,0.0,0.060170935448409374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05977972962391648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042216939351305785,0.0947658160139201,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05947359263341874,0.04319184227293118,0.05439904840593381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06338276892707642,0.06717128475487441,0.0,0.0,0.06262996394443067,0.0,0.06626504815963552,0.0,0.0,0.03991177604793067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09908890913656336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671671810488847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05278764692764865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04409714539426763,0.06640484302705088,0.04975385870692515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.071320025776599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14052835948233933,0.15022615439873535,0.05445403851589763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16556072862511545,0.07984025073805759,0.0,0.0,0.03632835987313485,0.0,0.059054300281261414,0.1785945426342921,0.0,0.04229845917079271,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.036746891404306224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0560163058058287,0.05775388289527681,0.05621718776186179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.136068155955815,0.0,0.0,0.04425702047123918,0.06811663663233966,0.0,0.1604798494257829 divorce,Barryblast777,2019/04/12,"Divorce next week So, my ex left my child and me for a girl he works with. He wanted to be in his childs life but would always have an excuse for not being able to watch them. He finally started wanting to watch the child, but I found out he was taking our child to his GFS house. Not a problem, but he was lying to me about it. I said I wanted to see the environment and he refused so we signed an agreement stating he couldn't take our child over there anymore. 1st chance he got, he took our child.. He has given our child back in dirty clothes and with diaper rashes and blisters from not changing diapers. He says he has no money to buy her essential things, yet has bought a gaming system and a huge TV recently.. Ultimately, he moved in with his gf so now our chid goes there, even though we signed an agreement. They finally let me come see the place and it wasn't terrible but the gf threatened me. So, I reached out to a friend thats a cop for advice and she decided, on her own accord, to do a welfare check which pissed off my ex and his gf. I didn't want a welfare check done, but she is a mandated reporter and felt the need was there. What I'm worried about is, our coparenting relationship was in a good spot but NOW it's fucked. He was ok with only having our child 2 days a week and I'm afraid he's going to fight for more. He doesn't have a lawyer as of right now, but we go to court next week. He has lied endlessly and I have proof, but that's not going to be enough for the court. He has also agreed to let me take oue child on a trip this summer and I'm worried that he's going to take that back. Looking for positivity.",2.2579446064139965,3.7090665218658927,3.5676749271137034,91.30270772594757,76.20116618075802,6.649271137026237,22.16253644314869,7.310402129719878,0.5498763848396511,1279,34,289,15,28,418,169,343,0.118,0.77,0.113,-0.5961,1,0,0,0,2,0,34.0,10,0,2,1,18,11,3,1,22,1,28,4,2,0,1,49,57,27,0,8,12,2,1,0,4,1,1,2,0,10,11,22,0,1,3,2,5,8,9,6,0,0,15,8,34,5,39,35,3,41,0,0,5,1,63,14,2,0,17,178,45,3,0.11273983766923755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11016806456853152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0901580074523078,0.09380857634089962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11180762486980693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17337995230554767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1192637994850502,0.09711538748459823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07270786856259279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11537199637121998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11649038957057528,0.0,0.07446359950579905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10824792412993467,0.2470019629738405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12361341290453755,0.08710251891999385,0.10422616325966856,0.0,0.0,0.25629059135202537,0.09456082693158764,0.09016834716426096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13008663592994707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12249216349993962,0.23056824474898455,0.07963148145888678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09467306938848304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1198246055294864,0.0,0.0835951611104436,0.0,0.0,0.2398001927336133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08574372679910842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11778913491308075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10787679880180616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11131698866301372,0.12104039395033295,0.0,0.09627920536952136,0.10724140278649642,0.08965524396032383,0.0,0.0,0.17967810829278713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0797978373710463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3390653091254106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07489933860648662,0.0,0.11076631809860492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12525810788712194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26598750898315626,0.0,0.2712992922482571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0820759445481911,0.2289855553501229,0.0,0.0800871460162612,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,velvetwallpaper,2019/04/12,"Missing that ring on your finger As small as it sounds, I miss rubbing my finger where the ring was. It was comfortable. It was safe. It was tangible ""love"". Does anyone else miss this feeling? The comfort of knowing that you belonged in someone's heart, and there was evidence to prove it? I feel so unsafe, so... vulnerable. It's been 3 years and I still find myself touching my finger where my band used to be. And there is nothing. 3 years since I left, 3 years. And i still miss that material object that signified safety. I have since met someone new, someone kind. But due to the walls built by the mortar of pain I didn't let them in soon enough. And now I fear... that i will never be - What's the word for good enough/happy enough/open enough/ stable enough? I miss that feeling of safety. I dont miss my ex, I miss knowing that I build someone up to their greatest potential. Knowing that they do the same for me. I miss my ring. I miss having a partner in life. I dont know if this rant even belongs here but I needed to let it out. So thank you if you've read this far and thank you for (maybe?) Trying to understand. Tangible evidence of love. What a time to be alive when that's what someone desires most.",0.9172839506172856,3.3883356872428045,2.185460905349796,93.82090740740743,87.18930041152264,4.886090534979424,20.85720164609053,6.42735559955562,0.2792376954732512,944,31,197,10,30,301,126,243,0.073,0.767,0.159,0.9765,0,1,0,0,0,0,44.0,0,4,3,0,14,20,0,1,8,0,19,8,4,1,2,29,43,16,0,4,4,1,8,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,22,7,0,1,10,2,0,0,4,11,0,0,8,12,31,9,23,29,6,24,0,9,0,2,13,12,0,3,12,134,53,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0708369916877898,0.10380213900540873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08865541682913823,0.0,0.23746471975638234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08462993307630398,0.0,0.0,0.523391836682523,0.0,0.06691305652767163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399979816561605,0.1536732853983684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259378456751508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0849724429086179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10784437550562584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005060769620515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10549681525991247,0.22270516902722565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1100715667099862,0.2071888291295042,0.07155691983202833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1828690637879788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10177762134100507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511868588070758,0.0781350661053546,0.09784401172585036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972078715862023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077989803832006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10133553348863003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16760624431856375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42919019843038175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16180958791643232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1865418078935949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05907357834673454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06878156213211821,0.0,0.0,0.10546532373678402,0.0,0.08749768671581523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1957173195658796 divorce,Achoo-1,2019/04/12,Mixed Emotions I (26F) met my husband (26M) in high school. We’ve been together for almost 10 years (married for 3). I recently found out he’s cheated multiple times and it’s left me heartbroken. When I caught him he put the blame on me and became verbally and emotionally abusive. Now that I’ve had time to process some of the things he’s done I’ve started to feel a lot of mixed emotions. Anger because I didn’t deserve to be cheated on. Frustration because he’s making it seem like cheating is okay. Scared because i don’t want to end up alone and I lost the person who I thought was my best friend. Stressed because I don’t want this to be a reason for people to judge me.,2.579782608695652,4.421463572463772,3.687753623188408,89.1059782608696,76.31884057971014,6.6289855072463775,28.89130434782609,7.492282038375204,1.65475652173913,535,24,111,7,12,173,91,138,0.249,0.6559999999999999,0.095,-0.9753,0,1,0,0,0,0,15.0,0,0,0,2,2,12,5,2,5,1,10,0,0,2,0,16,21,5,0,2,0,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,6,5,0,0,5,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,10,1,14,4,16,9,3,17,0,1,0,0,10,7,0,4,9,60,20,1,0.0,0.1788483405163525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15115231649583802,0.15633629302733754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3680652657819489,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15841029767909626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1544719043025166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5093875341123317,0.1336948579262038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07632369223539326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1655063610692661,0.1166218180348122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15948453191093093,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16400511695306816,0.0,0.0,0.07374542121365407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16477724500763352,0.12833033600139904,0.0,0.0,0.1007587614087624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10464812860462433,0.13180170870185506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1517441298276665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15519937518101,0.14904264258953942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15112498003522878,0.15276713040149698,0.0,0.1374171162407748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10684155848587663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17291007954553694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1002829441237712,0.0,0.0,0.11983561222009367,0.17603763469850672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17806572793066602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0972053693324689 divorce,iamaflappytrappybird,2019/04/12,"Stages of grief Me (26m) and her (25f). No kids, married since 2018, together 3 years total. Before you say anything, I know better than anyone we've been married a short time! We're not little white chapel drunkards or whatever, we're post-grads in the starts of our careers and it felt like the right thing to do and we were in love (oh, love, I *hate* you). I was wondering if anyone who's been through the initial process of separation could chip in on this topic. Most of us are aware of the 5 stages of grief model. For me, since my wife told me over the phone that she was done with our marriage, I just went from depression to acceptance (I think). I'm still a bit of a yo-yo ever since d-day 5 weeks ago. I was 'blindsided' like many men. But in the last few days or so I've begun to feel weirdly positive. Maybe there are better women out there for me, ones who don't condescend me or disagree with tiny things for no reason or start a huge row with me for not re-stocking an item in the fridge? Maybe there are women out there who *can* take constructive criticism. Maybe I've just got so used to the ideal of my wife in my head that it clouds it a bit. I remember this one time she mentioned a big falling out we had while traveling (for a completely innocent reason, she wasn't starting anything). What was interesting was that I honestly couldn't remember it. I have this tendency to block out and forget all the bullshit and negativity between us and just remember the good stuff. I don't want to defame her too much. She can be incredibly warm, thoughtful and considerate. She has loved me and doted on me as I have her, but she can also go completely the other way as well. Now that we've been separated for a month I'm just thinking about all the things that make us unhealthy and always have done. I feel terrible because she's my fucking wife and she initiated and if you asked me three weeks ago I would've said I'd walk over hot coals to have her back. Now I'm just kind of like maybe it's for the best, I'm losing my fight. There is of course the unfortunate fact that the sex has been pretty great from day one even up until the separation. So when I'm alone without her I kind of miss the dynamite sex and her warmth in bed to snuggle, which makes it a bit more confusing. At least with a dead bedroom it's not like your missing that fundamental part of what makes us great apes tick. My question is have any of you folks felt like this? At first devastated and depressed (I've lost 15 pounds in a month because I don't eat much anymore) and then actually feeling like it could well be for the best? I would still probably get back together, but only if she had a complete personality change lol",4.605146520146518,5.28318722527473,5.2803113553113565,84.21885531135531,69.6043956043956,8.777289377289376,27.98717948717949,8.920646497554287,1.9279179487179483,2139,70,452,37,36,692,265,546,0.121,0.718,0.162,0.9739,0,1,0,1,1,0,62.0,8,5,0,8,27,39,3,1,31,1,40,8,1,6,5,80,79,34,3,9,19,3,7,6,0,1,0,2,2,5,30,24,1,1,18,1,0,5,12,14,2,5,23,10,59,25,62,50,16,60,1,8,1,6,51,24,1,11,34,298,89,1,0.0,0.0,0.06589481025969053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1197139506196059,0.0,0.0,0.06993569563466241,0.0,0.0539998417298693,0.05618633794666094,0.0,0.0,0.04591942065776685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06696680880348832,0.09443031625547006,0.0,0.11113489742389727,0.0,0.06312690431629883,0.0,0.0,0.10384535160212448,0.0,0.08232541498510634,0.0,0.057458933093890885,0.0,0.14172696754354164,0.11944102372365675,0.22115993985340646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07143266004078849,0.0,0.21239651960498412,0.0,0.0,0.10782668273738064,0.0,0.0,0.13064441548266434,0.0,0.11631863340646645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382033547580462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06909509081942204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04459972776213562,0.06108036821517971,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10242824119453946,0.04823998393162855,0.12966947553040106,0.0,0.0,0.05743686199945178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06242591733308715,0.03527910627556745,0.0,0.03837610147158848,0.05663689596126481,0.05400603466630147,0.14889344264156176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06666711038220023,0.0693002896174405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1406341149105518,0.03711005902759455,0.05504201345359805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1979362782337268,0.06767794439431311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07554337572117177,0.07371168288067925,0.0,0.18283226512797893,0.0,0.13522069509176424,0.0684599082626853,0.27135237513529875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077958683331946,0.0,0.09927751633579213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372703769458105,0.051355922866089115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07312316214325085,0.0,0.0,0.05896036042180902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06467043242096314,0.06869735794983182,0.07280353747348564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07564362699898633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885421043533286,0.0,0.0,0.2294785107265755,0.05766611306912432,0.06423188512039077,0.05369871319162989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675725169889063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14338395590769182,0.0,0.10785135136356844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0773001467544477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050770512642892014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13458213678563186,0.08653478503072487,0.0,0.05360743011190886,0.07874892132927733,0.0,0.0,0.06452317893816563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3248977872775861,0.05832005306360768,0.0,0.0,0.03982808569391516,0.053598324676719565,0.10832921191595124,0.0,0.12142644684386325,0.06259649481098344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06509183938449667,0.07322814972316834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0959358648595408,0.0,0.0,0.04348398565713559 divorce,drivenbyresults,2019/04/13,"Joint credit card - ex-spouse ordered to pay - how to remove name from account. Ex-spouse was ordered to pay off joint credit card as part of the final agreement. Card has $1200 balance, spouse is late on all monthly payments. Late payments are affecting my overall credit score. How do I contact bank and remove myself (my name) from credit account? Please help.",4.783128205128207,7.429866107692307,4.247307692307693,83.90685897435898,72.53846153846155,4.94871794871795,29.294871794871803,5.46131890053228,1.364641025641026,287,12,45,1,6,86,44,65,0.038,0.708,0.253,0.9413,0,0,0,0,0,0,14.0,0,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,3,1,7,5,4,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,9,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,4,5,9,4,2,10,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,4,24,4,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35075414836775565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2146176198057128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7223799396812521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2555738084768941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3467362028952493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35147412627425656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,VeggieGirlFromJax,2019/04/13,"This is crazy right? Be honest. Didnt answer phone from stbx last night. Within 20 minutes received text from adult son and sis in law he wanted to call police to check on me to make sure im okay. I gave no response sis in law told him to leave me alone. Then i received this morning a long text from his live in girlfriend from work since feb that she is woman i am woman and they basically think i she be her new best friend. We can share what we are going through. Really???? Please tell me this is not normal. Every man and woman. Be brutally honest with me. This seems totally wrong. Be truthful i can handle it. It seems comical. This is only been 60 days or so thank i served him mid march.",-0.001155015197568332,2.3528591985815623,1.5065856129685926,96.22,95.31205673758863,4.104154002026343,15.224924012158056,5.916634753146586,-0.6293927051671737,541,12,115,5,21,173,99,141,0.094,0.7190000000000001,0.187,0.943,0,1,0,0,0,0,18.0,2,0,1,2,1,11,1,0,1,1,14,0,0,1,3,20,23,6,0,2,2,3,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,5,9,6,0,0,4,1,1,3,3,2,0,0,4,0,19,9,15,15,2,17,0,0,0,0,28,7,0,3,7,68,28,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2038404708095998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20654468028322384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.200969614567638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12692907352942795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16582470882244846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15205839817841074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11185421866209956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125934387077968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16043008988286747,0.0,0.20839814279761146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17379081353518866,0.17417464334460073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1313752102345345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19008467515141927,0.0,0.18469708016175046,0.1928364270144933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14968629969123534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21604322396881626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1260844114895284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16807851171132004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3583450666432125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16280699218420525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1854953415571024,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17202455213368134,0.18120035314457708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12611078764567166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18806469362362302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11608629421094832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14328330353386853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21518576452525187,0.0,0.0 divorce,vitDjunkie,2019/04/13,"Feeling hopeless Long-time lurker here. I would like to apologize in advance for the length of this post. There is a lot of history, & I will sum it up as best I can. First of all, I am at a all-time low. I just fled my house sobbing and have been unable to console myself for hours. My poor teen son offered to go with me. I told him I appreciate it but just need a moment. My STBX and I have been married almost 18 years. It has been an uphill battle from the start. When we got married he had a drug addiction. It started as pain pills and escalated to cocaine. I became pregnant with my son during the process. At the time, I didn’t believe in divorce. I was a child of divorce and believed that love was enough. I stuck through it and helped him though recovery. The problem was, something in him changed when he started cocaine. He became violent. He would threaten physical violence, but it was mostly verbal and emotional. I went from an independent woman that had supported herself to a co-dependent that was fearful in every way imaginable. Even after his recovery, the emotional and verbal abuse continued. Every time it would happen, I would cry and he would beg forgiveness. Promises would follow. I don’t think I need to go any further. I am ashamed I stayed and lost myself. I am even more ashamed that I was not stronger for my son. Years of therapy followed. Sometimes alone, sometimes together. I lost all interest in sex over the years and it got to the point where I could not be aroused at all. I always took the blame. The blame came from him in the form of abuse, but I also put so much on myself. It had to be my hormones. I had test after test, doctor after doctor. I felt like a failure as a wife. When we would have counseling together, nothing on his end would change. He wouldn’t follow through on what they told him to do. I continued to read self-help books, seek out websites with advice - you name it, I tried it. Throughout it all my panic attacks became scary and my daily anxiety was off the charts. Meds helped, but couldn’t they affect sex drive?! (See the issue?) Fast-forward to the last couple years. My son hit the teen years and the two of them would bump heads. It would get ugly. Screaming matches with threats of violence. Finally, it escalated. My son kicked his father so my STBX threw him against the wall. We had what some people call a “come-to-Jesus”. I demanded that either he get therapy and put an end to it or I would leave. He promised to get help. Five months later, no therapy and he lost his shit again. Luckily, I had pushed record on my phone. He once again insulted, cussed, and continued to abuse me. It was all over the fact that I “ruined his dinner” by crying at the table bc of a school shooting on the news. The next day, I made myself replay the recording and script every word. This was the final straw. Hearing it again and typing it out made me realize this was not love. You don’t treat people you love like that. Through therapy and the separation I have realized that I have been so disconnected from him for so long. He has since become medicated and overall has made great strides in controlling his anger - until today. I have seen myself regaining the strength I once had - until today. I feel like I want to die. He lost it on me today bc I spoke with my best friend and he felt I was “being shady” because I didn’t tell him who i was talking to when he asked. Mind you, last weekend he told me who he sees and what he does is “none of my damn business” (which I agreed to). This weekend, he has “every right to know what I’m doing and who I’m talking to bc I’m still his wife”. He called me a cunt (typical past behavior) and told me the divorce would get nasty if things weren’t fair. I tried to match his level since I am tired of being his chew toy, but I still feel like a loser. Up until now, I have said that we could handle our business without a lawyer. I do trust that he will help me financially with our son. (He makes over 3x what I do.) I am not going after his pension and have even been helping his family while he works out of town. People say I’m an idiot, and that I need to just get a good lawyer. I feel almost like a child screaming “it’s not fair”, but dammit, it isn’t!!! I fought with everything I had to save this and to keep it civil. I haven’t told anyone save close friends and family the reasons. I feel like I’m still being shit on. I want more than anything to be a good role-model for my son through this since I have failed to model a healthy relationship. Will there ever be a day when I will be able to breathe? Will I ever get myself back without feeling like I’m walking on eggshells or feel like it would be easier to just die?! (Mind you, I’m not suicidal. My biggest fear is death, so that’s not going to happen by choice.) I just feel so hopeless. If nothing else, putting this out there has made it so that I’m not sobbing. Thanks for reading & hope I can surface soon.",2.5699591110909736,4.548423632056455,3.5902324211670917,89.17476576658211,76.79233870967741,6.514878579195361,24.35171257702066,7.4535912281125585,1.06899545578108,3881,131,797,51,89,1247,386,992,0.196,0.6659999999999999,0.138,-0.9975,2,1,4,1,6,3,141.0,6,5,3,13,39,64,12,5,49,0,91,20,5,9,8,140,172,58,4,26,26,10,10,9,2,19,8,6,0,3,54,44,2,2,17,6,1,19,21,33,0,3,55,19,127,31,106,85,17,120,0,12,3,6,108,40,6,10,67,532,181,14,0.04377557339624128,0.15560068871943378,0.0,0.04772183651922079,0.0,0.04277698368335972,0.0,0.0,0.0876698267757193,0.045338292016325714,0.0,0.03500731022929509,0.036424783853742135,0.09486163097117208,0.0,0.029768891037818906,0.0,0.033488193829111154,0.0,0.0,0.030608898751430545,0.0,0.03602356698452379,0.0,0.04092425185745167,0.049801034385188736,0.0,0.03366071383682365,0.0,0.026685183232166225,0.04834668154401773,0.0,0.0986401613306736,0.09187952708219922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939950968016393,0.05006759401948285,0.0,0.0,0.09261750443866368,0.03770878032669418,0.0,0.0,0.0490980278764435,0.06990246661214422,0.0484368393382279,0.09617082366640572,0.05646324675549036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09086426782715074,0.0,0.0,0.0896123086018455,0.038308299277434114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050765767314899984,0.0,0.03656887441366945,0.09848325607934827,0.07754432950101317,0.04523186926669577,0.0,0.08674006011285575,0.07919502467154904,0.14753123444532942,0.0,0.039342662703274515,0.0,0.08253542934342772,0.09851938080923137,0.1770739617436028,0.15636639190523954,0.08406283077403615,0.09590800184491828,0.0,0.03723548036808079,0.0,0.0,0.06764179883186222,0.0,0.1372255819762437,0.0,0.09951466867827484,0.07343374809350968,0.07002265003941731,0.048262724210705966,0.0,0.0,0.07742118996648978,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04492636755777411,0.0,0.04933825272933039,0.0,0.17605106458809733,0.0,0.0,0.043479021744862914,0.04311012187754002,0.05051113427827261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0456903253746527,0.0,0.03890974100068036,0.0,0.0,0.024057910308427112,0.07136586993177486,0.0,0.0463520115328005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1924788057460362,0.0,0.0,0.07748000983742814,0.0,0.0,0.19114483801903576,0.03721642707216565,0.11852749230780718,0.1656860239864308,0.02922053516488932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04862479354661802,0.04409928477281537,0.0,0.0,0.08840170023396943,0.0,0.034941245041548406,0.0,0.03218008332826828,0.09737709898510942,0.0,0.0,0.04655581892995502,0.0,0.0,0.08400768661487368,0.0,0.0,0.09323911397367056,0.0,0.0,0.04658029650101008,0.051361203406296685,0.0,0.0,0.041788738116088964,0.09104541220269584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04138206637521034,0.0,0.041924898627453785,0.0,0.0,0.041887311719879965,0.0,0.13201962647317508,0.0,0.0,0.08757483937619925,0.0,0.0,0.04500858026278965,0.0,0.04699858327655326,0.0,0.037384100494720636,0.041640594805265656,0.0348120929875525,0.0,0.04430321734332051,0.06976692870842133,0.0,0.04566747015009018,0.0,0.08986999403869715,0.10863482003299313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033700575081441315,0.08659032285479201,0.0,0.092953728484498,0.04665893671501765,0.10487768838435503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047883372232419535,0.04967600192603993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07037029541329985,0.03826178063481585,0.04030266654948915,0.2002447330306115,0.0,0.029082545817722363,0.028049619852129136,0.04300927860108103,0.0,0.051051777762368585,0.05031358197198855,0.1244823751085703,0.20914718170546664,0.04863627275545727,0.05944148166388415,0.0,0.04276237436853293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0516399347502018,0.034747012576715294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.040580395107018434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08439618123799407,0.0,0.0318691387970265,0.0,0.0,0.4042598476557001,0.0,0.0,0.14095017014314198 divorce,WonkyOne,2019/04/13,"How can I help with the grief and transition? Please tell me anything you wish x (your closest person except spouse) had known to tell you when you realized it was happening. Or tell me to continue keeping my my shut as I have been. Either way, please advise. My heart is breaking for everyone involved - and this is not about me.",4.445645161290322,6.375728403225808,4.662129032258068,83.72319354838713,71.41935483870971,8.185806451612903,28.529032258064518,8.841846274778883,2.3190864516129035,259,10,48,5,5,81,49,62,0.048,0.804,0.149,0.7003,0,0,0,0,0,0,9.0,0,4,0,0,3,1,0,0,1,0,7,1,1,1,0,12,10,6,1,1,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,3,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,3,0,12,0,7,7,1,6,0,1,0,0,12,2,0,1,2,36,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18670817120398686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167996735330058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20063488989430034,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.268861470623905,0.15207716808406796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20166705277628005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19810844879615225,0.0,0.498106258255952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5949261292534126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18009185974802508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2609081571945264,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Rudy6151,2019/04/13,"If I petition for divorce can I stay in the house? Been considering divorce for years. After his last horrible episode I made a plan. I bought enough to get buy and have stashed a bit of money. I’ve been desperately looking for a rental but nothing is available that is livable. And by livable I don’t mean nice, I mean not leaking or infested with mold. I can’t move my kids in to unsafe (crime) or unhealthy conditions. So all along I had planned to leave and let him stay in our long paid for home. After looking at another rental this morning that literally had a hole in the floor I decided my kids and I are not leaving my home. He Doesn’t know i’m planning all this. He should know because I’ve asked him for a divorce twice in the past year. I think he might sense something because he has bought things for our kids recently and contributed more. If I tell him it’s over, file for divorce, and request that I either stay in the marital home until our youngest child graduates or negotiate home ownership in the divorce agreement, is this doable? How can I stay in the house? Not because I want to, but because I have no where else to go. I live and work in this horribly small town. He does not work here but commutes 45 minutes away to a bigger city. He could easily find a rental there. It just makes sense for me and the kids to stay here. I want him to leave, to just go, because he is exhibiting increasingly strange behavior. I know the general advice here is don’t move out, but how could I get him to move out? I have no where to go.",3.853022372308992,5.173794957928807,4.542769100886449,86.42199662304769,71.9126213592233,8.092359645420009,29.939636977627693,8.587818076936951,2.1390626424651757,1218,51,254,21,23,390,151,309,0.094,0.868,0.037000000000000005,-0.9198,3,0,1,0,5,0,32.0,3,0,0,5,11,2,0,0,15,0,25,0,0,4,2,49,47,21,0,7,16,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,4,5,10,12,0,0,8,0,5,7,10,0,0,1,8,2,34,2,40,34,7,41,0,0,2,0,29,20,0,6,9,164,44,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08901863211546884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552282336287192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516310892009947,0.0,0.08558833989856994,0.0,0.0,0.277658486472732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09945399271773124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14546659029002354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07971932816931503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07609959604453223,0.0,0.0,0.09412723346628284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08326072520309352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09518852232309404,0.0,0.1553170464297511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3655096345059945,0.0,0.0,0.21022670103790944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1501930769405256,0.07425596166482802,0.0,0.2893747272827533,0.0,0.09315253852014196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08044004710706318,0.08061770487459502,0.15299655427627276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08619789163430576,0.060807748608798264,0.0,0.0,0.19846200478193085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09663919324265187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2904640973712089,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08740973188988638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08696209934906811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08994699235939131,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07013068330064504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4854847589392819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962252316865395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060520593651304425,0.0583710812589796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10746237715173997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13263895198449402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1173265645419124 divorce,aminemessai,2019/04/13,"Please help, I am right to think about divorce? or i am i over reacting? Hello, i am lost and i need some help from fellow Reddit users. &#x200B; My wife hasn't driven for 10 years, and barely can control a car, 2 weeks ago, I started teaching her again, so that she can go to work in a car in the future, her work is 100 miles away, she normally takes the train or I drive her there when i can, yesterday, after an argument about her coming late last night, i told her to take the train to work, she said if I don't drive her there she is going to take the car, I thought she wasn't being serious, but i told her if she does that it would mean that she is crazy and that would be the end of us, in the morning I was horrified to see that took the car, the road to her work is very dangerous, it's a high way. My wife also has a history of unstable behavior during arguments and probably has a borderline personality disorder, example of things she has done in the past two years of marriage: &#x200B; \- During an argument, she once opened the car door while I was driving at 60mph and told me to let her out \- Thrown sharp things at me during arguments. \- Swallowed 3 different types of Anti-inflammatory drugs at once to get rid of pain (this is extremely dangerous) \- i had to save her life two times from being hit by a car while crossing because she sometimes zone out and becomes completely unaware of space or her surroundings. \- just last week i had to step in the save a pedestrian she was about to hit, she is not ready to drive alone yet. Should I end this marriage while we still have no kids, I am lost, I love her very much, but how can i be with a person who can do such behavior, or plan to have kids with her, I feel like I will be condemning myself and the kids to a life of instability and misery, i can't trust her anymore.",7.0722849462365645,5.449236712365593,7.378602150537635,78.9712365591398,64.94086021505376,11.277419354838711,33.03225806451613,10.25414643259724,2.9333161290322582,1435,46,308,28,18,470,186,372,0.152,0.787,0.061,-0.989,2,1,1,0,1,0,56.0,2,0,0,9,14,11,2,0,23,0,41,6,0,3,0,40,66,23,0,7,10,2,2,1,1,4,4,1,1,5,12,15,1,1,4,0,0,17,6,6,0,2,16,4,56,5,45,38,2,61,0,2,1,1,48,19,0,7,25,213,68,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08308314093048233,0.0,0.0,0.0970726841176416,0.0,0.07495327716520465,0.0,0.2031058676589102,0.22777660859684334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09295178690015904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805940105377202,0.0,0.0,0.05713497900592924,0.10351387176139562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073732728609691,0.0982707522398247,0.0,0.1051225606190229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09792454298482653,0.10741901724164972,0.0,0.0820209423306769,0.0959150436603142,0.0,0.0,0.10869331585703504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16602822620789598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.047391079343059965,0.06695843488134468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0489683774267558,0.0,0.1065341852114703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1256461784017,0.09902749571484698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15279968081226608,0.10572789743121533,0.0,0.0,0.0958419892060459,0.13240400202990546,0.04579017347778405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462771816655825,0.0,0.0845920840004948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10209594726185173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06889997229449074,0.06949722445558139,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08795623974367296,0.0918323505219798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19963193705920315,0.0,0.0,0.09973190888444683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08947282295851035,0.0,0.1636772292246091,0.0,0.10288386576417842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10105332808483287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08004216341099574,0.08915563701752886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07468811385673653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09269818826766896,0.0,0.06634030177319385,0.0,0.07485033263462293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211412636632079,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1245358242645768,0.060056340158230886,0.0,0.07440859896205418,0.05465284283962387,0.0,0.0,0.26867988273328564,0.10413390826786996,0.0,0.0,0.18311490241856448,0.0,0.11274178367965725,0.0,0.0,0.15466882917006966,0.0,0.07439596036561406,0.1503639489619692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2729368669142683,0.0,0.0,0.13316163971131298,0.0,0.22777660859684334,0.1207139548856954 divorce,caelumpanache,2019/04/13,"Ex wants to move back in, told her no A little background, married for 15 years, wife left to move in with boyfriend in a different state about a year ago. We divorced as quickly after that as possible. 3 kids. I got full custody in the divorce in a state where that is very rare. So my ex shows up at my doorstep because she's leaving her boyfriend. My kids let her inside because it's 'mom' and I haven't told them not to, I'm not sure if I should or not, my issues with their mother aren't theirs to deal with and I want them to have as best a relationship they can with her. Anyway she just wants me to hold her, so I hug her for a minute and then she lets me know she's leaving her boyfriend and she wants to move back in to the spare bedroom, if possible. I tell her no, it's not possible, why doesn't she move in with her parents till she's back on her feat. She says she doesn't want her mom telling her she told her so. I just rolled my eyes and let the conversation die. I wanted to fix it for her still. It took a lot to just sit there and say nothing till she got uncomfortable enough to leave. Maybe I should have just told her to get out. I don't know, I know she can't be in my life again.",2.7693410852713214,3.3981492674418625,3.4922480620155016,95.5541085271318,73.76744186046511,6.818604651162791,24.02325581395349,6.691623216298621,0.3755255813953479,933,25,231,7,18,295,123,258,0.058,0.897,0.045,-0.3118,2,0,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,0,5,1,17,3,0,0,10,0,16,3,1,0,1,38,34,18,1,10,11,7,0,0,0,2,1,2,1,2,6,13,0,1,3,1,0,5,12,0,0,0,7,3,52,3,39,21,4,37,0,0,1,1,55,16,0,4,13,159,58,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08075609974218778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2101545942224623,0.0,0.11106941821641696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09560554194282538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09392178202121453,0.0,0.0,0.094549110609602,0.09518181513031172,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09413233854503136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04759684248091932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14572459432234713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508643454552572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15020122280285503,0.0,0.0,0.2893904217923676,0.09898218939944356,0.2794727722061889,0.06434777666348995,0.0,0.0913077682185906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07745134944429599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09152383393200343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21339425997301945,0.0,0.38730646795177504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741447263863944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115758084917496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3081102044027517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978090586095414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14489534815569596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07275388075464337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08586220973165733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15925368314168348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3482060526476466,0.1012172648800113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07516838708539321,0.3224046164235227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08220505265491312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733292785813047 divorce,naturalbeautylounge,2019/04/13,Do You Think Husbands Not Standing Up For Their Wives Destroy Their Marriages? Hey all you husbands and wives out there. Need to know your opinion on this. Do you think husbands not standing up for their wives wind up destroying their marriages? Is it vice versa? What are your thoughts.,3.5463865546218467,6.770463078431376,1.8278991596638683,94.93411764705887,84.88235294117645,3.698599439775911,28.85434173669468,5.288315135182226,0.9553282913165266,231,11,40,1,7,63,33,51,0.135,0.865,0.0,-0.8243,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,5,4,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,4,0,0,0,1,11,9,1,0,1,2,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,9,0,8,8,1,7,0,0,0,0,18,5,0,1,0,29,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31091650751006866,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4194898495583689,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7250080933549925,0.0,0.4491352313557655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Richard_acosta,2019/04/13,I don't know what to even call this Male 44 since I lost my wife and son 7 years ago I turned everyone down. I'm so lonely,-1.1673563218390797,0.4000237586206907,1.2006896551724149,103.67160919540231,87.27586206896551,5.2459770114942526,13.114942528735632,6.42735559955562,-1.188733333333333,95,1,27,1,3,32,26,29,0.209,0.7909999999999999,0.0,-0.6748,0,2,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,2,5,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,1,0,4,0,2,4,0,3,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,2,12,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3361609500990641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3872321256041082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2504751832360584,0.0,0.0,0.3623666752789197,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20841268100136487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4139699545845901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3136996494834955,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4124889687773873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2442090977190223 divorce,milob86,2019/04/13,"3 weeks til settlement its been a horrible 11 month divorce process. Im 32m who left an emotionally and physically abusive relationship. Its been a roller coaster ride with friends never speaking to me again and STBX putting the kids in the middle of it all. Shes been sleeping with who was my best friend and as much as I presented evidence to my attorney, he didnt want to push anything because its no fault in my state and the litigation process is fucking expensive. I guess at this point i just feel like my attorney gave up on me. I wanted more justice for what she did but i stuck paying alimony for 3 years. I feel really angry and bitter and I wish the worst for her. But being with the kids makes me happy. I had to fight tooth and nail to get equal joint and legal custody but I dont get equal overnights. Everything has been horrible and shes always wanted more and more and more. I dont know what im to expect by posting but I dont know if I should just settle or maybe say something in court. The gender bias is so blatant and regardless of how this situation looks, I can see how the courts look at me as the bad guy. &#x200B; Thanks for reading and listening.",4.261637046307882,5.5031816468085095,5.116070087609511,83.00411764705883,70.82978723404256,8.593241551939926,29.568210262828536,9.007467420416297,2.3445068836045047,937,37,188,18,17,305,141,235,0.16699999999999998,0.7340000000000001,0.099,-0.9545,0,0,1,0,2,0,19.0,0,0,0,1,7,12,3,0,11,0,19,3,2,3,3,42,39,26,0,8,8,0,2,1,2,1,0,3,0,3,10,16,0,0,4,2,2,3,6,6,0,0,10,9,25,6,27,27,10,22,0,0,3,1,19,10,1,3,8,127,35,3,0.0,0.15058199232891628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10574985049204846,0.1377029899877184,0.15442941365791496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10458502205805986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061156337024956,0.07747346280723587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13337410993620047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4468489366066138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1429602114892337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11422114996031585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1285220047949366,0.09079379925688333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19638030364723127,0.11749353430134453,0.13279955058384652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14000500852543613,0.12584002057821125,0.0,0.13529067830407832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745600673621573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13969172355189727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13808468779542238,0.0,0.0,0.062090217999377126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2134487767317374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08483419523894388,0.0,0.12767994031067395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10144278285868706,0.0,0.09342647068134674,0.0,0.09802037466641901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12014202609416255,0.0,0.12171799782120166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12776150635615505,0.0,0.0,0.1271253414719548,0.0,0.08141771618705483,0.0,0.0,0.13644811661176104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010678235876685,0.0,0.0,0.1012750317178202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14285555141645215,0.1271827324195882,0.0,0.0,0.09784082153152818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11700827049935945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2248846033450908,0.0,0.10194469316463146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14614831905511488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15442941365791496,0.08184240422299573 divorce,kksalt,2019/04/13,"Feeling like a statistic and a cliche 42F, 3 kids, together 20 years, married 17, nurse, separated waiting for divorce filing to process. Just feeling like a statistic and cliche today. When I was growing up, my parents home was the gathering place for all the kids of single/divorced parents. My folks have been together through some tough shit. Always thought I would continue that. Not regretting the divorce, more the concept/identity of divorcee. Sigh.",6.518961038961037,9.534187649350653,5.557142857142856,74.81285714285715,68.6103896103896,8.036363636363637,42.16883116883117,8.841846274778883,4.557576623376624,367,24,52,7,7,110,58,77,0.065,0.768,0.16699999999999998,0.607,2,0,0,0,4,0,16.0,0,0,0,0,2,6,1,0,7,0,5,1,1,0,1,12,9,3,0,2,2,2,2,2,0,1,0,0,1,2,1,2,0,1,3,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,4,2,4,2,7,4,3,7,0,1,0,0,7,2,1,1,6,32,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2131264738059696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2590210913865866,0.3659685983295383,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25692626029363336,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2502711665024284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5688195763238617,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26760861272910536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2629209140586741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20334413964471712,0.0,0.0,0.24278789376312665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18195235119656933,0.0,0.0,0.16494380785116505 divorce,gozerandseul,2019/04/13,"How did you know when it was over? I am still married and absolutely love my wife. But I will just say that I am a very self-starter kind of person and knew I'd always end up making my own business. Well, earlier this year I finally dropped the bombshell that I was going to do it and that was a hell of a fight. At the end of the day she says she's accepting it and our compromise was to completely separate our finances legally (where we live you can choose separate finances or community property). But at the end of the day she says she's worried about not seeing me for a time while I'm working and that's true for a couple months, but I used to be traveling half the weeks away and probably would have had to go live in another country for several months if I was any good at my last job. Regardless thing have been cold and I am trying all I can to be strong and be there for her but I just keep getting the cold shoulder and I've barely gotten so much as a hug in the last few months. I feel like we're roommates and we've only had sex twice and I felt like it wasn't intimate at all just a way to get horniness out of her system. So yeah, I'm dealing with all the emotions of starting a business and I feel like I can't open up with her even though I'm fucking terrified of that half the time and so I've been going out with friends more which she hates. I really want to fix things but when I've proposed therapy she just outright denies it and finally said explicitly she'd go if it would shut me up but that she wouldn't be able to completely open up so I don't even see the point in that. But I just don't know at what point that I can deal with unilateral effort when I feel like there isn't any coming from the other side and I'm actually considering moving into my business (it has a bedroom) for awhile to see if some time apart actually help. Sorry for the rant, I guess I'm not in a good place and I'm looking for some perspective on what is and isn't salvageable.",3.4562984655997364,4.2170311650717744,4.795494142880717,86.35380382775122,72.27751196172248,8.444943078699882,27.093218940768853,8.74248658614541,1.7532876423032502,1569,53,348,28,29,523,194,418,0.059,0.816,0.125,0.9778,1,0,0,0,1,0,21.0,3,2,0,3,22,18,4,0,23,1,36,5,1,3,5,72,71,39,0,8,18,1,4,4,1,4,0,4,1,1,22,28,0,1,9,1,2,7,9,4,1,3,15,14,42,14,49,47,9,61,1,0,4,4,28,28,2,7,27,235,64,5,0.090515133125766,0.0,0.17665942593164208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531584177677073,0.0,0.0,0.12310678884338555,0.0949130092422098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0850419471476364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07797077243022614,0.1898067899197837,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10015327317831288,0.0,0.11674954547197353,0.1866342554930133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10181734176263832,0.240508624903648,0.0,0.0,0.11956878352203335,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13730151295150034,0.193992087572478,0.08690872246911509,0.19830980798904585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06993176732047103,0.08367978203334699,0.09458084236772804,0.0,0.20576734430973706,0.15183959840897748,0.0,0.0,0.09971262390437187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08936495455580222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606703857570819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08982230291315978,0.0804540092413287,0.0,0.0942575823065256,0.09948949998137524,0.14756382878277402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17688448779709295,0.0,0.15985304172832893,0.0,0.0760099150068377,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08169344159274572,0.0,0.06041955422297642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2167449470887338,0.0962032618236003,0.06653903765213841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06884083751025588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07903432291397884,0.09456904895238724,0.0,0.17113211576084428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0975906227301668,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05798631205281302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0861006193595246,0.21594380061909715,0.0,0.0,0.2163865262023321,0.0,0.09442702446719482,0.10225633632379454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132428095119812,0.12813415421050126,0.0,0.07228550223740074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1035119432013857,0.0,0.12026846490391635,0.0,0.08893065872563248,0.0,0.15834030608715854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06145383382301086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07817601305714894,0.0,0.0746844643403604,0.05338817068381026,0.07184669954258331,0.07260578000482516,0.0,0.08138397511054872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0658960949455902,0.0919225113983349,0.0,0.12859870713300747,0.0,0.0,0.058288778077782176 divorce,Ashamed_ofHim,2019/04/13,"Almost settlement / mediation time. Yay. I am a 35 year old female leaving husband who’s 34. We’ve been married almost 15 years. I’m leaving out of lack of time together As well as emotional abuse and verbal at times. When it was good it was good. Bad, scary bad (cussed at and threatening to hurt himself with one attempt down pain medicine) no known infidelity likely some backstage strip clubs tho. My husband he was gone traveling a lot to his hobbies, and has erectile dysfunction at a young age. Something I’ve worked to get him help. I also got him help with his suicidal tendencies and support and anxiety meds. So my divorce is almost finalized. I’m trying to decide if the settlement is right for everyone not just me. I’m also trying to decide if I should stay out of the debt of businesses my overachiever entrepreneur Trump like husband asked. Please don’t judge the amounts are more than a lot of ppl would need. Please bear with me that my situation is extreme and I know the amounts are generous. Please keep in mind a character like Donald Trump. I think I may settle in joy with current offer. He’s agreed to give me my home with the mortgage debt of not quite $400K I could turn around and sell it for more. —- he’s agreed to give me $3,000 in alimony which would cover my mortgage. He’s also agreed to give me potential contract for deed money of $700 with that. I could live off all of that. He’s going to cover my phone and my car and car insurance until paid off then it’s my car. My car is worth over $70K and retains its value because of the type of car. I could probably sell the car as well and live off that if push comes to shove. He’s agreed to pay $2,000 in child support which is above and beyond and will help me pay for health insurance and child activities meals etc. Now is the part hear me out. He has several businesses that the company makes millions. A profitable concrete company, a saloon, two apartment complexes, and now building 30+ townhomes. A lot of it is debt. But with the apartment buildings. If he’s an owner of 4 and the debt is 4 million and they sell for say 8 million a portion of that could be mine. He said if I dig too far he said it will be long drawn out and nasty. The first thing to go will be my home and car. I’m so sorry to sound greedy I am a health professional and work in fluoroscopy doing X-rays i don’t make much an hour or have guaranteed health insurance in my position. I’m not guaranteed my hours so just need to make sure I can maintain some things. My lawyer is digging into what things cost and the value of the properties vs debt. The debt may be a LOT. I don’t want to take everything so he can afford to live and still make a living. I think settling with current offer is great. Another coworker is leaving in early June and I should get more hours 3-4 days a week vs 1-2. I can’t count on someone wanting to possibly marry me. I know money isn’t everything but it would help me pay my needs and a way. If I settle with agreement I could be done in my situation in about 10-20 days!! Yahoo. I’m on good terms with my X. Which is wonderful for the kids and to make it a positive for the kiddos which is what is important. I hope my lawyer isn’t trying to dig too deep she’s almost $300 an hour.",2.436436110829188,4.3131567215568865,3.8405632802192216,87.69343499441796,76.8443113772455,7.343184816807065,24.944788389323048,8.227898612235593,1.5029542474373283,2582,91,540,47,59,850,300,668,0.068,0.8109999999999999,0.121,0.9856,11,0,1,0,2,0,70.0,0,0,1,5,22,21,0,0,35,1,55,5,0,5,2,106,97,48,1,23,16,3,0,3,0,10,4,5,2,3,25,42,1,2,9,2,18,13,10,4,2,6,10,5,56,17,82,67,18,75,0,1,0,0,42,31,0,21,32,330,81,10,0.0,0.07541123772685916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2549329390325743,0.0,0.0,0.1526953482047543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06673938505363834,0.04868974874096744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056659286652204176,0.05950131412041816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10628510296497808,0.03879859491112295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05482621872067109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25408458523377353,0.0,0.0,0.08209404519255435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.065132935893317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07159426122180762,0.0,0.0,0.07098318260067203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0608173959998303,0.11440356393051315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06972213156533287,0.0,0.054138070050080096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06650581735712237,0.1831678853640401,0.07234406607163428,0.16015214624709054,0.050904286656871855,0.07017099600430289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2029612205991418,0.07173474750439261,0.0,0.17064485759003595,0.0,0.12768617687022674,0.06321579046822616,0.25071773212029563,0.0,0.06813538502913925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056572340764832765,0.0,0.0,0.06995740732554984,0.0,0.0,0.2021788162139036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09328406639426023,0.0,0.22480572029229806,0.05632555506998795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644147097656471,0.0,0.0,0.2124241938092048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07069742227507543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06426528397785104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04678783752006147,0.1415802389016194,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0667867759604761,0.0,0.043128826008195,0.0,0.06772485086796162,0.0,0.0,0.06892345327696463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2095957415295696,0.0,0.07175238213224458,0.0,0.0,0.0686221857257943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06769637440363582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05435415446063002,0.12108566432928056,0.05061461568696715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07190294627233312,0.0,0.0,0.14308369522613765,0.0,0.0,0.05392786106021135,0.048998537858290885,0.0,0.071247558745379,0.0,0.0678391888427268,0.050828542958809286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06961944184759294,0.14445162761403527,0.059986504783187074,0.0,0.0478545915333188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12685263252821058,0.0815648016043551,0.0,0.0,0.11133915931897592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12963631997179112,0.06922961373417273,0.062173829803896526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0750812498523458,0.05051999282173313,0.051053750666529424,0.0,0.114452518057622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06902241106745144,0.09267148706415756,0.0,0.0,0.13563891875213546,0.0,0.0,0.08197310854430573 divorce,paperplatesforme,2019/04/13,"The end Tonight is the last night in our home we had built. I spent most the night crying while packing. Everything hit at once, my little one kept wiping my tears away. My ex never showed to spend the last evening here as a family to support our child through the process. They are off with their new interest who is almost twice their age playing family not more then 5 min away. The ex hasn’t come to see our child once in about a month but will watch the new interest children. It all makes me so sick to my stomach. How, how did it come to this as the tears keep coming. My child is now asleep and Dave Mathews band is quietly playing in the background while I sit in my backyard for the last night. Goodness the life and family that could have been. It feels like hell right now, but tomorrow is the new chapter in our book. I will never understand how people can be so polar opposite in the end. I miss the person I married with every fiber in my bones but they are gone now. So to new beginnings it will be tough but only get better from here.",4.096,5.213232790476192,4.310952380952383,89.0907142857143,71.09523809523809,7.6952380952380945,25.42857142857143,8.021203637495839,1.2522285714285712,826,24,174,11,15,257,125,210,0.095,0.807,0.098,-0.0884,1,0,0,0,0,0,17.0,5,0,4,1,13,11,1,0,16,0,19,5,3,4,3,27,35,17,0,1,5,2,1,1,0,3,2,1,2,5,7,8,0,2,2,5,2,4,4,3,0,2,6,4,22,8,25,22,3,44,1,1,2,0,18,13,1,2,27,118,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11558455258671632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21689696918056292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10208676014564727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.298293221028162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09215993261561084,0.0,0.1267923302028937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2044700431299096,0.0,0.0,0.07623916086232471,0.0,0.09725313915329932,0.0,0.1037393190649604,0.0,0.3264459743128434,0.0,0.058363907502780976,0.08246184628242854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060306409778256576,0.0,0.0,0.09681560042165728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11578377969562965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10259778467075116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28226788335495645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08153026935229607,0.056392331350964435,0.11568926422663073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07704914239236405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0921335954109294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17805050861280058,0.4459246512702599,0.0,0.32496431259972425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24585428461718645,0.07821705702942668,0.08778825928047382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08002329970335392,0.10078735069130157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0985749530586699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09198123843385514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13098642185314333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12016470624743733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,whatacircus_00,2019/04/13,"Just need to vent I’m a 32/f. My stbxh (29) and I were together for 7 years and married for 5. We started the separation process in December. I’ve gone through a rollercoaster of emotions over the past couple of months and felt myself plateau recently, being generally happy with my choices. I feel like I’m accepting this path and I’m making a life for myself but every now again this panic hits me, usually late at night when I get home from work. I’m so scared that I’ve missed my chance to have a family, having stayed in a relationship I wasn’t happy with for so long. There are times where it feels like everyone around me is in a relationship and it’s making me increasingly lonely. All of my friends are married as well, so I just feel like the odd one out. I haven’t dated in 7 years and the idea of having a sexual relationship with someone new is exciting but also absolutely terrifying. My stbxh slept with someone shortly after we separated (in January) and while i understand everyone deals with divorce differently, that also did a number on me emotionally. The idea of starting all over again makes me panic a little. I’m focusing on being comfortable alone, as I’ve always been preoccupied with my relationship status, but it can be so hard sometimes.",5.046974288337921,6.659847756198349,6.475647382920113,72.58145087235998,69.37190082644628,10.005876951331498,30.386593204775025,10.25414643259724,3.3769193755739213,1015,41,180,28,18,345,138,242,0.133,0.726,0.141,-0.2676,1,3,0,0,1,0,24.0,2,0,0,1,16,15,0,3,14,0,16,2,1,3,2,37,37,20,0,1,5,0,5,3,1,0,1,0,1,0,7,17,0,0,8,0,0,2,2,5,1,1,7,5,22,10,34,26,3,38,0,2,0,0,9,15,0,0,23,122,29,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10823242006275774,0.0,0.1671402136031062,0.08695392639259084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302881900125402,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11562933027736598,0.0,0.0,0.10773683817128077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.109182210908508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351010738845206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08804733167448361,0.19971202812083771,0.0,0.0,0.098515061568059,0.0,0.15851785453267514,0.22396846806172074,0.10033818222269836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08073788468183209,0.0,0.05459791334317398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22248836529071164,0.09361314827291764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10482389506540256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359397799473296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11788265989698557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07381276048947018,0.15316300364955268,0.10473832626094268,0.0,0.0924808654919278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20926742687744426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08341239474770801,0.0,0.0,0.07748681164885242,0.0,0.10092855617321486,0.0,0.0980679248092179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07081317089432268,0.0,0.0,0.24522085393059556,0.0,0.0,0.09975885849525347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10318298833651968,0.4487835938513728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10462460126445863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708818879031935,0.0,0.10335502044513467,0.0,0.14793392134711833,0.11138508782825296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060935880135687376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10879013097826644,0.0,0.0,0.11509404467736138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09395973030844773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07607860516836551,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13459155468279627 divorce,awalshmom95,2019/04/13,"I just want 1 day when I don’t cry!!! Ok new to the sub. 45 years old- just starting divorce process- high school sweethearts since 16... 28 yeas together (married 23 years). 3 children together (22, 19, 18). He has been unfaithful multiple times and I have taken him back with open arms each time. A month ago he moved to his parents’. We have been tortured for a month while I begged and groveled to get him up come home and to try again. He claims he “just doesn’t want to be married anymore”- no evidence of current affair but there are always rumors. Here’s what gets me- I am falling apart. The idea of my life without him is so sad and overwhelming that at times I can’t function. He is going out most nights and claims he is struggling but doesn’t seem too torn up about what we are going through. Our kids and friends and family are pissed at him and a little pissed at me for not wanting to end it. I’m fighting feelings of feeling unworthy and unwanted. I know it’s not “my fault” but apparently I’m codependent and can’t seem to stop trying to figure out what else I could/should do to fix things and make him want to come home. I not afraid- I know eventually I’ll be ok. But my god it is so much harder than I expected (and we haven’t even started the official process).",2.273837209302325,4.328171519379843,3.1924224806201567,91.32142441860468,77.99224806201549,6.470542635658915,25.47868217054264,7.492282038375204,1.1830589147286823,1004,38,213,14,24,319,155,258,0.162,0.757,0.08,-0.9807,3,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,4,0,0,0,13,13,4,3,6,3,22,4,3,1,0,50,44,20,0,6,11,1,2,0,2,0,1,0,2,2,8,22,0,1,8,0,0,6,11,9,0,0,3,2,26,4,27,39,3,38,0,2,0,0,25,11,2,3,21,125,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11914993698456933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11184324953088587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.133302610225388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10335610040010816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23157158842827466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731867411374173,0.0,0.14764751209096888,0.08668593644309999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11228568335598982,0.0,0.11905094384240307,0.0,0.0,0.08877920618078923,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12671359501076945,0.0,0.13592755531669182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10384795440169407,0.0,0.14045157704176095,0.0,0.1527811937835874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14201581382240153,0.2696564845080574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15173709099558255,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1477408830548573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09494061202842656,0.0,0.13471818059785856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0897224158966969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2145760097736444,0.14286085322810044,0.09880978577827444,0.0,0.0,0.12981791807660964,0.0,0.12613847172228548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14104492481933328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14925088534698153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13603418519231678,0.0,0.2447309887953292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11118868344769127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1902778996385608,0.0,0.0,0.11237615667164,0.0,0.1405187397368836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08929871600461882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2351337241505135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18251662090608045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.317123534965445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295703386402539,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1731164705222616 divorce,LoadingPlsWait1,2019/04/14,"Divorced 4 years, still regret it My ex wife and I were married 4 years. The last 3 were a struggle to say the least. After she gave birth to our son, she was overtaken by post pardum depression. I didnt realize this at the time and we fought a lot and developed resentment towards each other. We stopped having sex (dead bedroom for a year), acted like roommates instead of a married couple. We never kissed, hugged, hell I slept in the spare bedroom or the sofa most of the time! Our fighting got bad sometimes. Police were called by neighbors when it got too loud. I hated the arguing in front of our son. She expected things out of me I felt like I couldnt give. I felt like the person I fell in love with wasn't there anymore. I had enough after a big fight one night and I got a hotel room and the next day I filed for divorce. The anger and sheer exhaustion of the marriage was carrying me through the entire process. She begged me to stay. She called and texted constantly, even her family got involved. I was dead set on divorce. I wanted out of that hell I was living and I wanted my son out, too. She reluctantly agreed on the divorce, because she knew I wasn't going to change my mind. The divorce happened so fast. Suddenly I found myself questioning my decision. Once the anger that had gotten me through had begun to fade, I started to see things differently. I see now that our issues could have been worked through. Before the divorce was finalized, she completely changed. She was the woman I felt in love with right in FRONT OF ME! I didnt believe her that she would change. She still begged me to stay. I said no. People dont change often. But she *did*. It has been 4 years since the divorce and she is thriving and happy and still the woman I fell in love with. I am happy with my life, sure, but I can not let go of the regret of not giving it one last try at the end. I never believed she would change and she did. I dont have regrets in my life. But I do now. I wish I believed her. I wish I had more faith. She says she misses me. But once the divorce was final, she said it felt like I had given up (even though my words now say otherwise). She stopped begging after that. And here I am wishing I would get a call from her begging me back again. I thought my time would be wasted trying to fix things with her back then. But now, I find my life has been empty without her in it. I wish I never gave up. I wasnt a great husband, but she loved me. She loved my imperfections. She loved my quirks. She loved me, even though I hated myself. I dont hate myself today. But my life has never felt the same since. Thanks for letting me rant.",1.3783920960867917,3.712211400749069,2.5628619398166097,93.08662921348316,82.93258426966294,5.180885961513626,21.004649360712907,6.48374012150746,0.2738874854707478,2064,63,432,20,58,659,227,534,0.121,0.7390000000000001,0.139,0.964,1,0,0,1,11,0,72.0,7,0,0,1,23,39,12,1,31,0,48,16,1,0,5,77,95,26,2,16,11,6,5,4,1,4,5,6,5,3,16,25,0,2,12,1,0,7,17,20,0,2,45,13,104,19,53,41,7,76,3,5,2,10,80,21,2,5,48,313,120,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05640141051570283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08746160091107442,0.04748546534000959,0.03466843955545264,0.0,0.048393598726389216,0.19222467620404754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742169879818137,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008134070575039,0.0,0.05962885947226253,0.06145806660729266,0.0,0.04540739738296043,0.06292741639601661,0.0,0.03667751950992358,0.0,0.04898348234447987,0.0,0.0,0.05941878615396836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19995950597573905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05037141541777875,0.05876363343693941,0.0,0.11268959650365333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05361354498639652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27302858876728603,0.12460025984895128,0.05197967214537265,0.0,0.0,0.062356846007544924,0.0,0.0,0.029713098044052817,0.10911296791013113,0.06464295646647512,0.0,0.18194186558763892,0.06270121222414837,0.0,0.0,0.05029142616920644,0.12108189135346252,0.0,0.16844698714535208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059359243282644886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927159962338092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163102627313237,0.16068055755467933,0.11113849267598436,0.0,0.05021872276255556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04835025643991234,0.35930229107384626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05742417008151503,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17545173850203485,0.0,0.06048366168167106,0.0533702056801663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12113293578976694,0.07707542507597816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03942765219546647,0.049658144858935334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0544673349734527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06370928129166416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04856809177813466,0.10819595514857247,0.13567989371153996,0.0,0.0,0.09063870874912984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09408965914816562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05624753159573482,0.0,0.040254057709127405,0.12123525727014225,0.13625335710964326,0.09509451816281053,0.0,0.05945461316660506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05360087188679588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05235978884005978,0.0,0.0,0.11334902290478405,0.0,0.11175224562129864,0.045149749950099516,0.09948697688271796,0.0,0.05390768926741127,0.0,0.0,0.07722425573105683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06708876386416927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26159843547460665,0.05482225627803773,0.0,0.04140324997795996,0.0,0.0,0.16159999838129047,0.0,0.0,0.14649395243568986 divorce,edubalub,2019/04/14,"Rating So I am in the beginning stages of separating from my husband of 9 years. I haven't moved out yet but am looking for apartments. We still live as though we are married. It seems like either I am just seeing all of the insanity of our relationship or my husband has gone off the deep end. He just coded my personality and appearance into positive and negative scores and again by frequency. Then tallied the scores and told me that I came out with a positive score and he would like to work towards reconciliation. Is this insane?",4.934975247524751,6.888678079207923,6.157512376237623,73.40280321782178,70.1881188118812,9.406435643564356,30.446782178217827,9.827888789773867,3.1618405940594068,430,18,77,11,8,144,76,101,0.122,0.74,0.139,0.2529,0,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,3,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,5,0,8,0,0,0,1,21,16,11,0,1,5,2,0,2,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,12,0,0,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,3,2,11,2,16,12,2,20,0,0,2,0,10,8,0,3,9,61,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3171397346400471,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2455918699750385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2709345172864486,0.0,0.2448473986430996,0.0,0.2328492440217248,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29470966762736484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2421142339211056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29769990990548123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22095994116104284,0.2524295030312792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22143985489518467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27243073029031445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2649573362002367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2018665050564019,0.0,0.0,0.19697503763422355,0.0,0.0,0.17856220348543625 divorce,AZDad41,2019/04/14,"When did you know it was time? I feel like there has to be a defining moment, an epiphany, or a major discovery for me to call it. Lots of little stuff - hiding info, quietly taking money, behavior that makes me question everything. It’s even been noticed by others. When did you know?",3.3333333333333286,5.632353814814818,4.573851851851857,81.50633333333336,75.66666666666666,7.282962962962964,25.61481481481481,8.238735603445708,1.9239081481481484,222,8,39,4,5,73,45,54,0.036000000000000004,0.909,0.054000000000000006,0.2355,0,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,0,2,0,0,4,1,0,0,3,0,6,0,0,1,0,8,11,3,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,6,0,0,0,5,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,4,2,5,1,5,6,2,5,0,0,0,0,4,1,0,3,5,31,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30190761789286896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19528432924852346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2657251615988158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14949740264829967,0.2112235517510373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32498014446310136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14444726933078905,0.2963345885528662,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25136430577838503,0.0,0.0,0.19735907270068528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3366172261891498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312131194882252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3384663554509533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22230372256864395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17240497927308734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,uncreativenickname52,2019/04/14,"Papers So apparently I’m the one that has to fill out all of the paperwork, figure out the legal lingo, and file this shit by myself. I love that our relationship is ending with me literally doing EVERYTHING... again.",3.823,6.5238273000000016,6.0100000000000025,69.785,76.0,9.0,22.5,9.516144504307137,2.548,172,5,28,5,4,60,35,40,0.095,0.779,0.127,0.1154,1,0,0,0,0,0,7.0,1,0,0,0,2,2,1,0,3,0,3,2,1,0,1,6,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,4,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,4,1,6,5,1,5,0,0,0,1,3,2,1,0,2,24,7,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3932656248148986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.39905217904251533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4007410008367223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3008761511760105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4767060940910521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4557751622222444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,I_have_no_mouth_and,2019/04/14,"STBE wants to give me birthday present He left 3 weeks ago (no warning), won't speak to me. My daughter just told me that I'm going to love the present my estranged is going to give me for my birthday. WHAT??? Wht should do?? I don't want it.",-1.2495588235294122,0.7716341176470642,0.3158578431372572,104.15261029411764,99.98039215686278,2.5500000000000003,20.100490196078432,3.1291,-0.8500803921568627,184,7,44,0,8,58,36,51,0.024,0.873,0.102,0.713,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,5,1,0,0,0,4,14,0,0,3,1,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,0,1,1,8,1,5,11,0,7,0,0,0,1,7,1,0,0,4,24,11,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27096932413492114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5864775176916731,0.3474531155264189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3321252146721786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2758906268114951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2920929782605962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3605992252769393,0.0,0.24520027269174904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,hiAnajaki,2019/04/14,"How? How do I find the strength to leave him? I (F24) have been with him (M30) for 5,5 years now, and I can’t find any happiness. When I work or spend time with friends I’m happy, but as soon as I have to go home to him I hate everything. He is nice to me and truly loves me, we have a nice house, car and dog, I just don’t love him anymore. How do you leave someone that does nothing wrong? I really should be happy with him, but I’m not. How do I leave something “perfect”?",1.3324514563106789,2.2808325728155343,2.8351334951456297,97.66784587378643,77.64077669902912,6.315048543689321,21.612864077669908,6.6274283507984215,0.05381650485436884,357,9,92,3,8,117,64,103,0.069,0.575,0.35700000000000004,0.9909,0,0,1,0,0,0,19.0,1,1,0,3,8,12,1,0,2,0,12,2,0,4,1,20,18,13,0,1,5,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,7,0,0,2,0,1,2,3,2,0,0,1,0,18,10,10,15,0,7,0,0,0,2,11,0,0,1,5,58,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10852779657705244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15827203608262572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13965973088861242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14343068706308787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2917277589384045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12330011511688653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090699614112497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5096648461986336,0.0,0.15756371683917475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16008344012848472,0.0,0.0,0.18414734021715148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.506953551495568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28807539516398284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15313249513166569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10223849940115304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13522148957539318,0.1228614513158001,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09305917618584504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161846240108698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17448841928709638,0.0,0.10277179202518667 divorce,birdonthewire76,2019/04/14,"The first question everyone asks... So I recently separated from my husband (my choice) and we're at the stage of telling the people closest to us before we 'go public'. Today I drove 6 hours home to tell my mum. Her response is one I am becoming used to - 'is there anyone else involved?' What my (diagnosed autistic, if that makes any difference) brain doesn't get is - why do people keep asking this? Are they looking for someone to blame? Do they think I'm incomplete without a man? Or that I couldn't possibly just make up my own mind? Or that I'm clearly that sort of woman? There isn't anyone else, but even if there was - whose damn business would that be anyway?",2.1997009966777408,4.735478565891476,3.2795404208194934,87.96156976744189,81.17054263565892,6.166334440753047,24.71816168327796,7.447530270364453,1.3415975636766335,521,20,100,8,14,167,94,129,0.051,0.934,0.015,-0.6553,0,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,2,0,2,1,7,1,1,0,4,0,13,2,1,3,1,21,26,7,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,1,1,0,1,2,8,2,0,1,2,0,0,2,4,1,0,2,2,1,14,0,11,21,1,10,0,0,1,0,17,3,1,7,4,66,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1042334642266621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143493722336871,0.3141003422391032,0.0,0.0,0.2865861907027313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16928215749770895,0.13042724758617438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17110757444781416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15557270187884265,0.0,0.16014160833109464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2560861577385644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012378654090692,0.0,0.0,0.14646252864917736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.130377147942065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08008078954935585,0.0,0.08711072445163781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1537491044339657,0.0,0.15094674977381484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13623944175517586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12871388866809075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20462687729442328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15476585014885855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10386431071215664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2125256352070169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17279653544719206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717050689192483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1513423255228405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1298709154785598,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2679413175304949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821356945121146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14528846210904245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1843730898736413,0.1323819220196193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13830845027568442,0.0,0.0,0.1477533430244615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10888342442751917,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,mstacosauce,2019/04/14,"Explaining to Young Children Ex and I separated spring 2018. He moved out and bought another home nearby. We have a 2/2/3 arrangement with our young children (ages 5 and younger). We told the children they have two homes and are happier when we have our own space. Things are amicable between us. The oldest had the hardest time with it. She seemed to really get it when I explained that the same way she needed a new room and space from her sisters, Mom and Dad needed space to feel happy. Everything we read said to avoid using the word divorce or talk about the marriage ending. So now that we are here, how do you socialize the idea that we’ll no longer be married to each other? Do you assume they will figure it out? I honestly think they still view us as a family unit with two houses. How did you explain this to young children? How did they react? How do you explain this piece?",4.063252100840336,6.0083350058823575,4.346890756302525,85.52529411764709,72.47058823529412,7.4453781512605035,25.672268907563023,8.192908349453996,1.5845798319327733,701,23,134,11,14,219,107,170,0.026,0.91,0.064,0.8253,0,1,0,0,1,0,20.0,10,4,4,0,11,3,0,1,10,0,15,0,0,6,0,39,29,15,0,2,1,4,1,0,0,2,0,1,3,4,10,17,0,1,10,1,1,1,1,1,0,2,6,3,24,2,15,20,4,21,0,0,1,0,40,6,0,3,13,97,34,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17462119077465027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14749612235302648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14966639673376014,0.0,0.1569896324235898,0.0,0.08420255515436599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08700503466587609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1772742468489652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3340862705375809,0.0,0.0,0.19215322357261225,0.0,0.1879920630331476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19503788506448133,0.0,0.17699500068713042,0.0,0.24695972138281336,0.0,0.16083568017394292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1665750327173795,0.0,0.10668336132355588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840813392215908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15160262784105785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16975633009306434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329910470357844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13385047970739214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1106351106230722,0.1067056788881375,0.0,0.0,0.09710496315632527,0.0,0.0,0.15912652028136814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32535116068723746,0.0,0.4006300928395349,0.14382842351165268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321837367450675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,animalrevolver,2019/04/14,"Guts to spill first time posting on reddit. It’s been 9 months since I escaped my abusive ex. Yes, escaped. I remember breathing in sweet relief when he was admitted to the psych ward after threatening suicide to guilt trip me and then attempting it for the last time when I managed to get away and leave him. He had attempted it twice before, leaving me traumatized. I was too in love and up in the clouds to notice his deteriorating mental health. I tried my hardest during the entire relationship to fix us and fight for us, but it was effort gone to waste. I remember he would constantly come home ready to pick a fight and make me cry. He never ever cared about how much I cried or when I would tell him he was hurting me very badly. His only focus was himself and what others thought of him. After every daily argument (about nothing of any significance) he’d smoke weed or pop pills and do other drugs behind my back and get very drunk. He wasn’t violent or physical, but he would turn into something so soul-sucking and would vehemently consume any drop hope and love you have. He’d insult me, bring up my past and would make me explain every sexual encounter I had with past partners because if I didn’t, then I’m “lying” to him and hiding something and “didn’t love him”. He told me I was just a toy that’s been played with. He cheated on me with a coworker. When I would leave the apartment to grab some fresh air after another pointless fight, he’d threaten to run away and kill himself. He did this many many many times. He would constantly get stranded on the road because he wouldn’t put gas in his car and I ALWAYS went over to save the day and have his back. But did he ever run to my rescue? Hell no. He also jumped onto the windshield of my car as I was trying to drive off to get another fresh breath of air after an intense argument and then placed his head right next to the tire so I wouldn’t go anywhere. A few days after that, he locked the front door and shielded it with his body so I wouldn’t leave. He’d always sexually coerce me too. He would make me feel bad for pleasing him sexually and that i “changed” after we got married and he’d say “man. They were right, married people really don’t have sex.” Again, making me feel bad for lacking sex drive. And so Because of this,I was pretty depressed and experienced the worst anxiety attacks that led me to be prescribed antidepressants and mood stabilizers. The divorce was a 6 month process and he made it very hard. I still think of him a lot and miss the old him sometimes. The memories of our younger days when it was so sweet and rush- filled, are what kill me the most. I know no ones gonna read this but it feels good to send this out there to the sad internet.",5.141120757695344,5.77901555616943,5.563702183635887,82.80623204419894,68.39226519337015,8.415659037095503,28.958116285188108,8.418075326091056,1.930167208629308,2169,73,432,30,35,695,269,543,0.22,0.68,0.1,-0.9976,0,0,4,0,4,2,47.0,4,1,1,4,24,31,10,1,23,1,43,15,5,8,3,81,76,50,3,14,9,1,5,0,1,12,4,1,2,2,19,34,1,0,10,4,0,19,10,19,0,3,26,9,65,11,60,32,7,81,1,4,0,5,62,23,1,8,37,277,84,3,0.0,0.08157770793839593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05506047858329775,0.1145798416470115,0.0,0.0,0.0936426921520361,0.14439349428565898,0.05267116973694517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07832846251915465,0.1293764048526511,0.10588502807964877,0.17246425100362378,0.12591361206179,0.0,0.058587511623859986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07647843796494806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07019864057306133,0.0,0.07283570326000183,0.059309426459241366,0.0,0.14880791205847058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1512601665806091,0.13321046525830446,0.0,0.05930165180440344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0798458215069502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124560154186955,0.11602062999611534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10444008352523083,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05856500702044368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14388816065357518,0.0,0.039129864931031405,0.057749328464693474,0.05506679315817181,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0616773741576727,0.0,0.07066144992396907,0.07318587024048627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06906361676636252,0.06838502386859806,0.0,0.0,0.07370689976352914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15234785340679935,0.0,0.03783895553870785,0.05612312010290696,0.0,0.2916149708821457,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058535039462673424,0.18642336154934627,0.06514890543934491,0.1838355063671836,0.2094136867049612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06938606617192343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10991313880916093,0.0,0.05061373688236461,0.0,0.053102481730239036,0.0,0.07322429670633662,0.0,0.0,0.06606482188140081,0.07838783059425099,0.07224801326275379,0.0,0.046655523472058036,0.05236462923797231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13145299681656153,0.04773292526484016,0.0,0.07193510952044492,0.07557821487897794,0.0,0.0,0.06594065547635566,0.07004667578559974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06921472275732732,0.0,0.0,0.06887008079635105,0.0,0.044108001025852606,0.0,0.0,0.07392068887881834,0.15599053898953288,0.11759752184118973,0.0,0.05475343543466238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056954629786833785,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10601041784488344,0.06809584320873309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054984855804204716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07531230974417823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06017920084129056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04411722817382816,0.0,0.05466035942008552,0.12044350013094847,0.07913461172745045,0.0,0.06579050971710608,0.0,0.09349122816568026,0.0748906049036085,0.0,0.0,0.16563963046083593,0.0,0.0,0.17042896744698535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06382598266067185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3912807492209425,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SpicyPlaces,2019/04/14,"Wanting my Parents to get Divorced? (RANT) TLDR: My parents have a toxic relationship and my dad said he's going to file divorce. Is it wrong for me to feel relieved and to commend the decision? My parents have had a bad relationship for as long as I can remember. They started dating in their early teens, my mom got pregnant, and they decided to get married right out of high school. My dad has a lot of mental health issues and he came from a neglectful home while my mom came from a very abusive home. My mom's parents divorced when she was 5 and she has whole blanks in her memory from that time period. I'm an adult now (23F), as are my two older siblings (24M, 25F). My mom has always told me that she stayed with my dad so my siblings and I could have a ""stable"" home life because hers was so chaotic. But it hasn't been stable. While my dad might not physically abuse me, he emotionally abuses everyone and smashes things. In the last year, he started doing drugs and has thrown my mom around. My mom has been very emotionally abusive as well (I started noticing it in the last 6 years). She displaces whatever my dad does or whatever their relationship trouble is onto my siblings and myself to the point where she told me that they wouldn't have fights if it weren't for me and my siblings. She also gets extremely angry if I talk to my dad (has throughout my childhood) or if we have any positive experiences together. She's even said I'm choosing his side over hers if I don't parrot what she says when they're fighting. She also tells me everything my dad does that's crazy every day. I've told her for years that they should either go to counseling/therapy or get a divorce because things just keep getting worse, not better. My dad emailed my mom a couple days ago that he wanted to get a divorce. He said he would give her 50% of his income (in the past he always said she'd get nothing from him if they divorced) and that he was sorry their relationship came to this point. I feel really bad because I felt so *relieved* to read that email. But my mom was having a panic attack. They went away for the weekend to sort things out (my mom seemed to want to convince my dad to stay with her) and I feel bad for being afraid that they'll come back and stay together. Is it wrong for me to want them to get divorced?",3.883328168577627,5.3319770911062925,4.700002479082741,84.8256529284165,72.01518438177874,7.437768825534552,27.27121165168888,7.957251820313856,1.6304949612643318,1833,65,363,25,35,592,209,461,0.131,0.8240000000000001,0.044,-0.9922,5,0,1,0,12,0,52.0,1,0,11,1,14,17,3,2,17,0,36,3,0,0,0,59,75,36,0,13,14,22,4,0,0,5,3,5,3,1,19,23,0,2,9,2,0,7,6,12,1,1,21,9,73,5,48,46,3,53,0,1,0,0,89,17,0,12,26,235,92,2,0.0,0.2544020744508861,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04758295623380277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08585372355905987,0.08933000859519777,0.0,0.0,0.036503377795674516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04778545113341322,0.0,0.06106730581493354,0.05043293476136753,0.04127563074138916,0.13445849464498613,0.09816616855156446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04747447540531319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18418250422816654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04623947370866755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042858098817838586,0.059394494855232835,0.0,0.06923668151654028,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0939492384487829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06225028607981605,0.0,0.0,0.12076269480933954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035454295563071336,0.0,0.04522664600419948,0.0512923278129248,0.048242982189727064,0.05250809904964776,0.0,0.0,0.08142473776263402,0.0,0.05153999970002447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243593714770388,0.051493530025075895,0.061013719697510724,0.0,0.04293178481851888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057057980912301125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05671452645832584,0.1615324316390916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05602664898196492,0.0,0.047712122493083854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751066032412792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0379148751672787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04750398775545786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04563573751855713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05409553546617722,0.05694465080142636,0.0,0.5658109287553148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051506190108787514,0.061113591012943974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06298042508868341,0.2384155132617977,0.0,0.0512424226054698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10148750257044567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0536932572174703,0.0,0.03438796959499178,0.0,0.0,0.23052347351817135,0.06080753816903162,0.045841342970303484,0.2042430619107916,0.04268748139016622,0.0,0.05432574153308458,0.0,0.04886710066162909,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060088944601455724,0.11398224623401315,0.17164315516042958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04314493065599115,0.04691757687155811,0.0,0.06138630703545641,0.0,0.106985291043826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03130049971349375,0.0,0.0,0.1538769834387744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052436320353067285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08858114951733582,0.1266444252246965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0482636257169135,0.04976072141240797,0.0,0.05993038617292078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05470321278162823,0.038131830377636365,0.11737853141954815,0.0,0.10370202849471052 divorce,rhead2018,2019/04/14,"To stay or go? 47F married to 48M- been together for 28 years (married for 22). 2 teenage kids. Our main issues are his drinking and my lack of love and affection for him. He partied a lot when we were young. Because he was always responsible - went to college, has a career, paid bills, got stuff done, etc. I thought he would take the partying down a notch when the kids came along. In fact, the opposite was true. He continued drinking at home several nights per week. Aside from his job, he let pretty much everything else go. When he drinks he is usually very lovey, but when I reject his affection, he will often say or text hurtful things to me. I asked for a separation a few years ago. He begged me to stay and do couples counseling. I agreed to an in-home separation and counseling. He quit drinking for 6 months, but started again immediately after the 6m mark. Not as much at first, but is drinking pretty much 2 nights a week again. I have told him repeatedly how his drinking affects our relationship and his relationship with his kids. I can’t begin to love again without trust that he won’t go back to his old ways. He gets angry because he claims he has made so many positive changes and turns things around on me. I am not trying. I never show affection, etc. It is a vicious cycle. I want out, but have stayed simply out of fear of the unknown. The thought of what he might do or say with the kids terrified me. One child will be leaving the house within 6 months. One just expressed she doesn’t like him as a person and that when I was out of town recently he got drunk and when she went to her room to get away from him, he texted hurtful things to her. That feels like the last straw to me, but I feel trapped. We are in a no-fault state. I feel like we could do things amicably based on discussions we have had, but I also know fantasy is almost never reality. I know it is over. I just want to do what is best for my kids. I always thought staying was the best because I could at least try to protect and shield them. In the same house I had some control and could intervene if needed. If we split, I lose that control. I know my daughter won’t want to spend much time with him, but not sure that is an option for her. I don’t want to put her in a worse situation. He may be reasonable, but he is also in denial. Since it’s a divorce sub, I doubt this, but anyone in a similar situation stay and not regret it? Anyone leave and does regret it? Any advice? 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The fact that my wife had sex with me at night after having sex with her AP earlier the same day on many occasions 2. All the sexual mind movies especially the ones that cause comparisons Has anyone ever gotten over these two painful problems ?",11.134615384615381,7.485220153846152,9.829487179487183,70.89884615384621,59.0,13.989743589743593,38.82051282051282,11.855464076750405,4.230405128205128,324,10,63,7,3,101,52,78,0.07400000000000001,0.926,0.0,-0.6808,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,3,2,0,0,4,0,7,3,0,1,3,11,12,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,2,0,4,2,0,7,0,10,10,2,9,0,0,0,2,4,5,0,2,4,42,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14588063167075224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21432295500338225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13455064440185918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887199588277647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2180036459620035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.211520517086138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106592591851615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19578738317304226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14137472012950866,0.0,0.22199959339147085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1996330394735357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.37986221985534974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2772122047863385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6114106458336289,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Muscrat55555555,2019/04/15,"Parents getting divorced My parents are getting divorced. I'm 24 btw and the most stable person in my family so my mom comes to me for advice. Their relationship ended badly and it's over. They have 2 houses (one they rent out) and some land to camp on. They aren't very wealthy, not a ton saved. It's not looking like it is gonna be that easy a separation. Can anyone tell me what they should do? Lawyer up? Can they even afford that? Anyone with general advice thanks!",1.5359824046920814,4.092580838709679,2.9330791788856314,89.09234604105572,84.6989247311828,5.102248289345064,20.282502443792765,6.574015621080383,0.3733311827956989,370,11,72,4,11,120,70,93,0.11,0.804,0.086,-0.3416,4,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,0,0,6,0,2,4,0,0,3,0,9,0,0,0,0,13,16,4,0,1,2,3,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,1,6,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,1,0,1,0,1,11,3,9,13,3,8,0,0,1,0,14,6,0,2,2,49,17,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017825830695357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874939125277229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1716514775032976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17708975551208073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18208367167687864,0.0,0.0,0.13578425595143473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19380339110524586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21481508684572906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372127749155805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043645112627997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17263619232578994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2407738838288525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13930694896590953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4565465560857444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17950532597870733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22071696697034573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1796867816825094,0.1892712865253164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16962578564192854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,alanon1234567,2019/04/15,"Divorcing an alcoholic I really want to divorce my alcoholic husband. He has become borderline abusive. We have a baby. My fear in divorcing him is him getting any kind of custody of our baby. I have left him alone with the baby ONE time ever and he took our baby to a liquor store and left him in the car. I can't live with the fact that he may get a second of unsupervised time. I can't live with him anymore, but it is so unfair that I won't get to spend every day and holiday with my child just because of my husband's horrible life choices.",3.653035714285714,4.660246803571432,5.568214285714286,80.07678571428572,72.03571428571428,8.814285714285715,29.17857142857143,9.188382445141503,2.5076750000000008,430,17,85,9,8,149,67,112,0.14400000000000002,0.8140000000000001,0.042,-0.9116,0,1,2,0,1,0,8.0,3,0,0,0,3,2,0,1,7,0,9,4,0,0,2,14,14,5,0,1,2,2,0,0,0,2,3,0,0,1,3,8,3,0,0,2,2,2,3,1,0,2,1,0,17,1,13,11,0,10,0,0,0,0,17,4,0,1,4,58,20,0,0.0,0.22007441233146588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3970043496972346,0.0,0.19237314539647846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12631122499824518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1842065847745223,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11322686421457324,0.20513792612115914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11978850431485068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16801466617149674,0.15649601226846874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20901187854585207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2911282677358749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.193422162958966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4036193976258864,0.0,0.13119537470863868,0.0,0.0,0.3280279456576158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12586388082739236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11899135989712485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21661581478835654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2063666793393823,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1095557004263425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Odd_Extension,2019/04/15,"I don't love my husband anymore, and I want a divorce. He's done nothing wrong. What do I say? Throwaway account. I won't get into too much detail, as this has been rattling around my head for a long time, and I'm pretty sure the decision is made. My husband and I have been together approximately 12 years, two kids, married for 8. We had our first child very young (accidentally, though we got a great kid, so no regrets there), got married a couple years later, had our second child after that. I have never really been satisfied with our relationship. I think after I got pregnant, I wanted to stick it out for the kid, give my children the life I never had, with two parents and a loving home. I messed up, I'll admit it. I traded my own happiness for something I thought I wanted, only to be miserable for years until I just couldn't take it anymore. It's really difficult admitting to yourself that you royally screwed up. I'm realizing that decisions I made when I was 20 shouldn't keep me from being happy, not just for myself, but for my kids, too. So now I want out. I want my freedom to live my own life. I've been talking with a counselor who has been helping me work through this decision process. I want to do the whole separation thing in a way that makes it the least painful for the children as possible. I would welcome any advice or anecdotes you may have for me on ways to tell kids, or ways to help kids through this kind of transition. What has worked for you? Ages are 11 and 6. I also don't know how to bring this up to my husband. He knows I've been unhappy, especially lately, and he knows I have issues with our marriage. We had a long talk and he's been trying to make changes, but it's still not working for me. How do you break up with someone who is doing their best? Why do I have to feel like such an asshole? TLDR: Looking for advice on how to help kids transition during a separation, and advice on how to tell my husband I want a divorce.",4.295548992030007,5.160293174683549,5.410745428973278,82.32719174871075,70.41772151898734,8.180965775902484,29.81950304735115,8.401726058763845,2.1015804031879983,1544,60,310,23,27,512,196,395,0.049,0.807,0.14400000000000002,0.9884,1,0,1,0,2,1,51.0,7,4,1,5,18,17,1,1,17,0,38,7,1,8,3,64,70,24,0,11,8,5,1,1,0,4,3,1,1,11,19,20,0,1,12,0,2,1,10,7,0,4,19,3,52,10,51,44,6,36,0,2,1,3,52,12,1,3,20,221,71,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261248545448367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07126580768418173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0606017443150268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17675769278312353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07933188286779487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09352144829559253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09427261358102293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0986048472304256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09119632008150608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04505958477258112,0.06366428692063829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07580178441470632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04655928466756422,0.08548791725316941,0.0,0.0,0.2138219422697856,0.09825039397161732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1897306783444383,0.0,0.0,0.09145843680506216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17919716238340996,0.0,0.08939033145161654,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09301365685767096,0.0,0.07921014499638246,0.0,0.09280030705633288,0.1469270045108104,0.0,0.10052641178821907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12589013452315914,0.04353743852587645,0.0,0.07869081188628528,0.15772921267804146,0.0748347589589295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1608608300527255,0.16864689466334154,0.1189708678473241,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06551030669629053,0.0,0.1374630714411538,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550893512062246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06777651943364753,0.09482540733835723,0.0,0.09895245897723068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10046458243891504,0.0,0.09066272313453977,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11417962209270115,0.0,0.0,0.09567693076896208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07086839599172266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07550745887784614,0.06860563370534294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07116792770620017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839905098050345,0.0,0.06700392953252486,0.14325567736439787,0.15578213136142685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05920452338774097,0.057101753916627376,0.08755574071083815,0.07074792596448144,0.051964091958484115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060503722979211624,0.0,0.1741062154107813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07352980050543226,0.3679393167082484,0.21220772744372302,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0804130746531462,0.09949451691515858,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19463191273708302,0.0,0.0,0.06330524938662843,0.09743404828146746,0.0,0.17216280232923425 divorce,hawksnakewhale,2019/04/15,"Advice for the new partner? So I’m looking for a bit of advice, I’m dating my long time best friend. He recently got divorced. I was not the reason for it, however we started seeing eachother before everything was completely done. XW blames me, kids think it’s because of me. Any common stories out there?",2.364926108374384,5.1614887931034525,3.917290640394089,81.73534482758622,83.48275862068967,6.0729064039408875,27.25123152709359,7.447530270364453,2.049509359605911,242,11,40,4,7,80,47,58,0.049,0.823,0.128,0.7,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,1,2,2,0,0,3,0,3,0,0,1,0,5,10,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,4,2,5,2,6,6,2,8,0,0,2,0,6,1,0,0,7,23,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4580937116212748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1593957849775713,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14288425199170948,0.0,0.19945181392277372,0.0,0.24598177547207994,0.0,0.25589726317364897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24575738314339465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23986618191867945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2106579851002647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18109202671342772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18746609094479133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20743108926055007,0.19683171305859848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22637894047749746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2409958091014939,0.23143554669339794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18678146849382685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16590509983006016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15019004802606076,0.0,0.0,0.13667687823162974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,fortsrus,2019/04/15,"36M divorced 5 years, 3 kids. Remarried. Although divorce was pretty uneventful, I am now super emotional at movies, tv shows or emotional events. What’s up with that? So about 3 years I ago, my wife and I decided to divorce. We couldn’t get along and decided matter-of -factly to move on. She had always resented me and I couldn’t figure out why. As we were waiting to file, I discovered she had an affair early in the marriage which explained her resentment. It was a shock, but it made everything else make sense and felt like closure to be honest. Pretty much since that day, any emotional event in movies or tv where something sad happens, I’m fighting tears. Like pretty much every time and I don’t know why. I wasn’t like this before and it seems to be getting worse. I don’t miss my ex or regret the divorce. The only thing I thought about during the divorce was my kids. Not her. What’s up with me?",2.067900617465451,4.512354067039109,3.3121434872096467,88.09609526609822,80.95530726256983,6.226521611290798,24.504851514260512,7.475848149327749,1.3246692737430168,714,27,138,11,19,231,113,179,0.13,0.7040000000000001,0.16699999999999998,0.7998,0,0,1,0,7,0,26.0,2,0,0,1,5,12,3,0,6,0,14,0,0,2,1,32,27,13,0,3,5,2,1,3,0,0,0,0,0,2,10,12,0,1,8,3,0,1,6,7,0,0,10,1,20,5,18,13,2,18,0,3,0,0,19,8,0,4,12,85,30,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1308020849074764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1227808473231639,0.0,0.0,0.10034512984814432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12556177799397167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09516330017348562,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12326654851799272,0.4979517933635278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12432475951376805,0.0,0.13261644824177082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416797095112965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15418689737103752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13048587114507554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08109452685715507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2162695136013467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.139623823825176,0.09849672907291196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1568317862922289,0.21694557825461905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11222521265841276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4503614291049006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13433210451484745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12206226861000295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135980704893646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0980315938771958,0.0,0.0,0.11714530493526525,0.08604279652264157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2662979592010746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1503751521409506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19004622116642866 divorce,wtf_gladys,2019/04/15,"Court is brutal Seriously. Court sucks. Custody battles suck. I feel for anyone going through this right now, because it is one of the hardest things I've ever been through. I never wanted to be here. I never wanted to drag my stb ex through the mud, but here we are. And the lies that came out of his mouth were astounding. Thankfully, it's over now, and all that's left is waiting on the ruling from the judge. Getting divorced sucks, but from what I have heard, BEING divorced is awesome. Keep your head up. Tell the truth. Protect your children. You will get through this.",2.293683839096687,5.052939229357801,2.51119266055046,91.99250529287228,83.3119266055046,4.454763585038815,24.898376852505287,5.873414542411696,0.6513113620324633,452,18,85,3,13,137,77,109,0.13,0.706,0.16399999999999998,0.8117,0,0,0,0,2,0,19.0,1,3,0,0,5,8,5,0,6,0,11,2,2,0,5,17,25,4,0,2,2,1,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,8,5,0,3,1,0,0,2,2,6,0,1,4,2,10,2,15,18,1,13,0,0,0,0,11,6,3,0,5,63,18,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18241155449566412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15902845100409158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29837426459273864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2359785576732743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1319074596764395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725953643757376,0.0,0.14826264705028555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2677354912572326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23187983333200016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2834440750651286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4024094905587574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17677728818323638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2227878872756051,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22801835962957234,0.2401808740430144,0.0,0.0,0.1733153627767865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3077445173161852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,canidothisidontknow,2019/04/15,"They say you should hold tight to your friendships through a divorce, but I'm not so sure? After leaving my marriage about 6 months ago, I realized how much of an emotional sink my STBX was. Leaving her made so much of my life so much easier. I drink less; I sleep better; I smoke less pot; I worry less, etc. Contrary to the ""sad divorcee"" trope, I'm just happier across the board. I have enjoyed my newfound freedom and am growing accustomed to the emotional energy I never knew I could have. With that, I've taken more time nurturing old friendships, but it is increasingly difficult. On one hand, there is the ""damaged goods"" avoidance by fair-weather friends (or friends ""giving me my space""). On the other, I've begun to see toxic friendships for what they are. It's like there was a cloud, where emotionally demanding, not-very-giving friends seemed so great in the shadow of my ""maybe not narcissistic, but certainly self-centered"" ex, but these friendships now seem a lot more draining. Like, relative to my ex the friendships were reciprocal, but now free of her, I'm beginning to have a lot less patience with ""takers"". Should I be more understanding and patient and try to keep these friends in my sphere? Maybe my insight is clouded by the not-so-traumatic-trauma of ending my marriage. Or should I make more distance — now's the time to clean cut relationships that weaken rather than strengthen. What's funny is the more fulfilling relationships seem mostly on the periphery, while the more draining ones seem to be some of my ""best friends"" ... at least a couple pretty close to my ex, so that might have something to do with it too. What do you think?",7.810686274509803,7.823445362745101,7.124771241830068,76.0414705882353,62.692810457516345,10.20653594771242,36.30065359477124,9.773937934552695,3.45133202614379,1315,56,235,23,17,407,169,306,0.08800000000000001,0.607,0.304,0.9981,0,1,3,1,2,0,60.0,0,3,2,2,16,21,1,1,18,0,22,4,2,3,3,46,39,17,0,5,11,3,2,2,5,4,1,1,1,0,12,7,1,4,9,1,1,2,3,5,0,2,6,4,30,17,34,26,21,26,0,2,1,0,22,10,0,11,16,167,42,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09348271740341547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11067233172694337,0.09326959313716454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08420013923786986,0.11668797437864885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1033093143152549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35588031194192304,0.09340504931421456,0.0,0.11761425536745382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4073854011149661,0.0,0.0,0.101165532712715,0.0,0.08845370004665863,0.0,0.11626851799345116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09373648080674626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22333093604105267,0.0,0.0,0.07448855306998707,0.10304352481470892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17931432141297102,0.0,0.09978751083872933,0.07039445812807155,0.0,0.21189474802416491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11187494682653268,0.0,0.0,0.08417607676040945,0.0,0.2325726940619037,0.0,0.08133620105334094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11066109795575713,0.0,0.14292300147664294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10728934541625017,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2264462155720784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08386493978752835,0.0,0.0,0.08403687875625053,0.3840223242144905,0.11001635655045187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10553479651345234,0.0,0.0,0.08118720988768853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09939351595238224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06757363542614322,0.0,0.0,0.122987556927939,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715994910505034,0.0,0.0,0.10978615880409287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10709836348306802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Unrelated_Resolve,2019/04/15,"First Time posting here, Needing to vent, throw away account I am currently working on starting the divorce process. I am a 25 years old woman, and My husband and I have a 2 year old daughter. He and I have been together for 6 years married for 3. He's the only man I've ever dated/been with. I noticed not long after we became engaged that his behavior towards me had started to change, he had always been very kind and thoughtful, but after I said yes he started becoming more irritated with me, yelling/screaming at me then he'd apologize and say he didnt know why he had done that, or blaming it on alcohol. And after we were married he stopped apologising for his outbursts. Then we dound out I was pregnant and He became more hateful, calling me names, putting me down for things I had no control over. All of these outbursts were accompanied by periods of calm. And those momebts made me wonder if I wasn't just blowing the whole thing out of proportion, or just being too sensitive, or just taking everything the wrong way. And if I'm honest I still have these thoughts even though Ive made this decision to leave him. What finally opened my eyes and made me realise I was living in an unhealthy relationship was the moment my Sister in law pulled me aside after my husband's whole family (his grandparemts, mother, sister, brother in law, and neices and nephew, him myself and our daughtet) had gone out for dinner. And with this concerned look asked me if he talked to me like that often? I hadn't thought anything of it but looking back at that dinner in front of his whole family he'd treated me as if I was his slave, there only to do exactly what he said when he said it with no questions. I was embarrassed. I tried talking to him about the way he'd been speaking to me but he just told me I was playing the victim and that I needed to shut up about it. I've since decided I dont want my daughter growing up thinking the way he treats me is acceptable. Or worse how will he treat her once she's older? I can't let her grow up thinking he's what to expect out of marriage. I went and had an Nexplanon birth control placed into my arm (hed been saying he wanted me to give him as many children as he deemed acceptable, I told him I didn't want any more right now and he said I didnt have a choice in the matter since Im his wife.) I've applied for a new job so I can better support myself. And I've been saving money to pay an attorney who I've already met with. This last weekend I should have known something was up, he was overly kind and thoughtful in a way he hadn't been since before we were married. He asked me to have sex with him, I contented and he asked to try for a baby. I said absolutely not, I'm not ready for that right now. He said okay, but then he came inside of me anyway. He then played it off, saying it was my duty to give him as many children as he wanted, and that I'd give him a boy or else. He then called me at work today and said he wanted to do it again, to try for a baby again. I feel so angry right now, I've had enough and I don't know how much longer I can live with him. I'm sorry this went on so long. If you read through to this point, know that I appreciate you",4.082181818181816,4.712686309090909,5.045757575757578,85.60363636363638,70.75757575757575,7.636363636363638,28.333333333333336,7.604176662624187,1.5478333333333332,2524,88,526,27,44,827,288,660,0.079,0.8170000000000001,0.104,0.9289,2,0,2,0,2,0,62.0,5,2,0,6,27,21,2,1,20,2,57,6,2,7,3,106,109,54,0,14,21,10,1,1,0,2,1,11,0,5,29,41,3,4,17,4,3,10,14,4,0,1,53,15,88,17,80,48,9,90,0,0,3,1,103,34,0,13,42,351,117,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06822705003031014,0.0,0.0,0.07045058154489889,0.0,0.05312116591056162,0.0,0.0,0.04341434683986318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0525360393670125,0.0,0.17904929633194988,0.0,0.05998110460182263,0.04909010226590938,0.0,0.0,0.07050781967127592,0.054324336297233815,0.0,0.0,0.05646253759922044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13037843148532385,0.0730175635174936,0.0,0.0,0.0675357448827109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14320713584346964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06533192592537232,0.07482165502832179,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053331304660341965,0.0,0.0,0.06596524062871352,0.0,0.0421666480607335,0.05774820877126735,0.0,0.0,0.057376541236749165,0.0,0.12036799595726982,0.0,0.032280134241812364,0.0,0.0,0.06993514221815952,0.0,0.05430346926242828,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18372748831883087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06303017354063108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06895967617399516,0.0,0.06335274681866893,0.0,0.0,0.13296200506857167,0.10525670516702924,0.05203926854061343,0.0,0.06759883338797623,0.0,0.06528216534546083,0.0,0.031189687327414777,0.0,0.11274626626529327,0.11299527469682223,0.1072214081572212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1812248523817992,0.0,0.12945033536431275,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04693078076621218,0.09467519060369567,0.0,0.06165842992971071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07268386645522673,0.13398163740050176,0.06798901625109123,0.0,0.0971085355891806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06670068369272604,0.0,0.060350766183436974,0.0,0.0611424217289802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06417824842824628,0.07151698805685539,0.0,0.0638586846633536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06854178050362378,0.0,0.16356064152126534,0.42509459161180857,0.1523077507922417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15843081792354308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04914823509649087,0.0,0.07146522978698272,0.13556183209370026,0.0,0.05098383111301235,0.053374275944092116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07244647355170074,0.0,0.0,0.048000793858956434,0.1026266113983019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08482678978620888,0.081813993234722,0.06272385948631709,0.20273178805259945,0.037226438562178166,0.0,0.06051419026154607,0.12200640293393047,0.0,0.1300323766689585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05267584783722527,0.1882765833622252,0.2026973532521796,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11836325013495465,0.05760694106928293,0.2138299572813584,0.0,0.0,0.06923328397840613,0.0929546111384618,0.0,0.06505984915286002,0.0,0.06980055795282981,0.0,0.12333532141237134 divorce,DestructionbyDivorce,2019/04/15,"2019 Tax laws - Spousal Maintenance no longer a Tax Deduction/Income With the new 2019 tax laws, comes a fun one that many of you probably already know, but I had forgotten about. &#x200B; As of Jan1 2019, the tax laws change so that when paying Spousal Maintenance, it is no longer tax deductible. Also, when receiving Spousal maintenance, it is no longer taxable! This has pretty significant tax implications - for me, it could be as much as $350 a month depending on what amount is determined for spousal maintenance. &#x200B; I read an article that seemed to indicate that this new tax law will impact how the spousal maintenance is calculated - have any of you seen this in reality? Obviously my concern is that the courts will NOT change their thinking and award the same amount as last year, costing me an additional $350 a month!",9.219748322147652,9.247526100671141,7.987843959731546,70.96686661073828,59.805369127516784,12.5506711409396,40.1015100671141,11.93303328291395,4.92433489932886,675,32,117,19,8,206,89,149,0.061,0.831,0.108,0.8602,1,0,0,0,0,0,28.0,0,2,1,1,6,2,0,0,11,0,12,0,0,2,1,18,17,11,0,1,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,12,4,0,0,3,1,9,2,4,0,0,1,2,1,8,2,14,11,4,12,0,0,1,0,4,2,0,2,8,71,20,10,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771399240045126,0.12836931683030292,0.0,0.3478508540478309,0.3901033916242674,0.1091604062206035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3396218016592876,0.1382754155442342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12816368674113215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0882186460607624,0.13084678468778588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627440261382298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2562541209710128,0.0,0.11800207686151044,0.0,0.0,0.3100661301149291,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1087738034352106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16330849546154833,0.1730697733347473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1605653537591508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14613312195121433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10285596106022292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3901033916242674,0.10337084985894636 divorce,Typhoon5516,2019/04/15,"Separated for 2 months feel lost Me 32 and my wife 34 separated through her choice in February. I don’t want to divorce we have 4 awesome children 6,5,4,2 and I want to win her back but I fear another party has become involved. So from the beginning: She said that she doesn’t find me attractive any more and just can’t live a lie, there were a number of contributing factors in the past 10 months that’s lead to her decision. The first one was my work went through some financial issues and failed to pay me on time for 9 straight months, she asked me to leave the job but I argued I had too much money to lose if I didn’t stay, she feels I chose the job over her. I thought I was choosing the best way to provide for my family, this causes the first big split up and she removed her wedding rings. Over the past 6 years all we have done is focus on our children and I have always put her and their needs first letting myself go in the process, I have put on 2 stone and don’t look my best anymore, I have become very negative and easily agitated sometimes snappy towards the kids. In January last year she was down and felt real low about her job etc and i asked her what she would like to do, she said she wanted to be a nail technician so I helped her go through the training and supported her growing her business as much as possible, cancelling any of my plans or gym sessions and trying to help her, putting myself aside against I would work 9-5 then take over from the kids and get no time for myself. Now we are living separately whenever we argue she brings back the job decision and holds it on me, more so because when she asked me to move out I also quit the job. Since I have moved out I still stay 3/4 per week to help with the kids but it always seems like she doesn’t want to talk to me or even be in the same room as me. I have recently discovered someone i thought she was having an affair with is still in contact with her and I have pushed her towards him by accusing her. I don’t want to lose my wife I want to win her back but I fear if I know she has been with another my feelings will be lost and I will lose her forever. I don’t know what to do and feel very lost any advice or help is very much welcomed, happy to answer any questions if it helps me Thank you 🙏",4.397138830162085,4.723240613107826,5.003397463002116,87.2728481324877,69.93023255813954,8.420831571529247,28.240239605355892,8.344100000000001,1.6640619309372795,1802,59,396,25,30,579,225,473,0.114,0.731,0.155,0.9646,5,0,0,0,1,0,28.0,5,1,1,19,17,23,2,2,20,0,41,0,0,2,1,71,76,37,0,12,11,2,5,2,0,4,0,3,1,5,8,28,0,1,16,1,2,13,10,12,0,4,18,9,85,11,58,50,11,63,0,8,1,0,66,23,0,9,26,273,93,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06656389551778467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05447375527246283,0.11335888124536203,0.0,0.0,0.18528967515701789,0.14285484022361447,0.0,0.0,0.06755452307411533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1910427564234212,0.0,0.0,0.1571350791449072,0.0,0.04152395974636759,0.15046144827548769,0.0,0.0,0.14297079210150224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0699757126833023,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06970812768844564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07596931857278064,0.044991144001616364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06421537030284519,0.15330285602192933,0.13776956289938722,0.0,0.06540374054878523,0.0,0.06225840682391965,0.17382281858313486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03558872285404234,0.0,0.07742579581370085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07251263176315158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2282895235550747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109725330154698,0.3379818750249381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07487148883614804,0.05552507330621325,0.0,0.07212688195939101,0.0,0.06965503393972798,0.0,0.06655780236038505,0.0,0.12029847603442992,0.0,0.05720177007559973,0.2286190790378516,0.22307577459486166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16311286004335698,0.14479681664849298,0.1502231938749136,0.05050846260883999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04615836318750202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13005223642551794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07679254968357496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20543151634779294,0.07630749078260707,0.07245163213128955,0.0,0.07753293401861629,0.0,0.0,0.06725807911520464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12959119429424976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.062011858588409005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056347722440299286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057715964637419084,0.0,0.06737021532445887,0.0,0.0,0.14520895682869386,0.10879787665625157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07729923704818095,0.0,0.0,0.05121608493968216,0.05475048248047303,0.0,0.06271368979977622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10815579954140896,0.07944003780456754,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04624749379461555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686128799262168,0.24106575021988644,0.05406871442437269,0.05463996550478939,0.0,0.0,0.06314585432129848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09918109424588767,0.0,0.0,0.09677781743052788,0.0,0.0,0.08773121983607046 divorce,trappedthrowaway191,2019/04/15,"How to overcome anxiety around telling husband I want a divorce? For those of you that sat your ex/STBX down for ""the talk"" -- how did you do it? Was it just as awful as you thought it would be, or were you surprised by their reaction? &#x200B; For those of you on the receiving end -- were you at all expecting it? Was there anything your ex/STBX did or didn't do that made the conversation better or worse? &#x200B; *Background* I decided a few weeks ago that I want a divorce, but I was waiting until a couple of major events happened before talking to my husband/STBX. Well, today's the day and I am absolutely terrified. Not terrified in the sense that he's going to physically attack me or anything, but I'm so scared of the moment the words leave my lips and how sad and hurt he is going to be. We had a serious, calm conversation about potentially splitting up last summer, but ultimately decided to try to work through it. At this point I believe that we have tried our best, but we just aren't right for each other and I'm never going to be truly happy in this marriage. &#x200B; I still care about my husband/STBX and I hate the idea of causing him pain and not being able to make it better, but I know that this is what I have to do for my own sanity and for the well-being of our 3YO son. I have done a consultation with a divorce attorney and I think that what I will be asking for is more than fair. I sincerely hope that we can have an amicable divorce and that we can work on having a healthy co-parenting relationship in the future.",5.3929254955570745,5.74068724675325,6.286650717703347,78.86313397129187,67.76623376623378,9.341353383458646,31.47026657552973,9.276330184999452,2.638062337662338,1224,47,241,22,19,406,160,308,0.13699999999999998,0.7170000000000001,0.146,-0.2588,1,0,0,0,4,0,47.0,7,8,1,5,12,17,2,1,19,1,32,2,1,6,2,51,51,25,0,5,13,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,23,17,0,1,6,0,0,4,5,7,1,0,13,0,36,10,41,31,7,29,0,2,0,0,35,12,0,5,13,187,59,3,0.1043642088290938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09251257415096044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33923572999025176,0.38044181087775775,0.0,0.0,0.07983833409685542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17176570291890225,0.09290627235506856,0.09756644712259192,0.1187293540494661,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08880625492636768,0.11758272476373602,0.1095237984061262,0.18460332328372367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10640626641116616,0.10721079091189396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547701203041533,0.0,0.06730628085918597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10680082011153108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924357120842497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17793775485513086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09228892519947507,0.11109764094314796,0.0,0.10303804962983967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1036572077307205,0.0,0.0,0.111724044063453,0.11781448851288795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05735583981261753,0.08507075950111044,0.0,0.11050662814785928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09875193781509002,0.06966391979478301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08049211169838877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11105087641798732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09865791083693036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204810306760984,0.0,0.08912646410369708,0.0,0.0,0.1044867795213569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08334539198365871,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776799562171452,0.09121891855533673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06687237097562851,0.0,0.08285352421504984,0.0,0.0,0.09892506698334433,0.0,0.0,0.14171289429673162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12311342870162355,0.0,0.08371467317066593,0.0,0.18767191474993927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15195677399861682,0.0,0.10635604488064618,0.07413733959675424,0.0,0.38044181087775775,0.0 divorce,ideliver22,2019/04/15,"Kids birthday You can read my story in my post history. Married 24 years and 3 kids. But the cliff noted version is - divorced after 2 D-days separated by 7 years. Only to discover she had cheated the entire relationship, even while engaged. We are civil but I’m pretty well over her lies and abuse. As the kids say, I’m woke My twins are turning 16 soon and she called and asked about plans for their birthday. She said that she wanted to take the kids out for dinner with our extended family and have a nice party celebration. She gave me the lecture about putting aside our differences and making this something nice for the boys. But, the more I think about it....it’s just more of her entitled bullshit. She didn’t give a crap about those boys when she was leaving me and them to go out with her boyfriend. She didn’t didn’t care about our family when she was making plans to leave me to be with her boyfriend and start a new life. But now...she wants to pretend we are all a big happy family. My instinct is to just say...that sounds nice, but I’ll do my own thing with them. You can do as you please. And end it at that. Thoughts?",2.420532829872037,4.489304629955949,3.1287979861548187,91.88359765051399,77.59030837004406,6.262135514998952,22.263268302915886,7.2636822038024595,0.6329691210404866,889,26,189,11,21,279,130,227,0.092,0.754,0.154,0.9489,0,0,1,0,2,0,32.0,5,3,3,2,12,9,2,0,11,0,17,3,1,2,1,31,35,19,0,2,7,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,6,6,17,1,0,2,2,0,2,3,2,1,0,10,3,33,7,29,24,5,19,0,0,0,0,38,6,1,0,10,122,39,2,0.0,0.1792768349461268,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14145381500408022,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15450376158129775,0.0,0.1542699643996232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09758201187038401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1580860639780062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13401517122486484,0.0,0.0,0.09993839724005912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.42792296097289795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1451497139404211,0.08599258932357166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16107161440055004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32042950411243193,0.0,0.0,0.10687426715428736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20200032928796746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1461355110474624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11507757732051427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16609222662413353,0.0,0.0,0.1449125294988826,0.15393600348299696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15210768653830964,0.0,0.0,0.15135029433503627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1624496136768082,0.0,0.0,0.14392983932268014,0.240654533088035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11648532830132376,0.0,0.0,0.10709753521200914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1137657989225319,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10052320737046584,0.0969529205156475,0.0,0.12012272079586607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16458112091674215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17849234733530636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1360452752632435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19487651832140948 divorce,whywhywhydidi,2019/04/15,"Trying to save my marriage This is a throw away account. tldr: To possibly save my marriage I need to help my wife understand why I didn't respond to her cries for help and need for love when she needed it most. If I have that do anything for you love, why did I not show it for many years in very emotional circumstances? My wife asked me for a divorce a month ago. She came to me with a very long list of items that had been brought up individually over the years and I had not addressed or talked through with her about. She did not feel that she mattered, she didn't feel loved, and felt alone for many years. I understand and admit that these are true. My capacity to show true deep love has been blocked for most of my life. While I did feel like I loved my wife, I did not show it in a way that she felt loved. I focused all my attention on running the mechanics of the household. I took care of the cleaning, cars, laundry, dog, house, bills. I felt like I was doing everything in my power to make her life easier and stress-free. Now that we have a 4 yr old boy, my attention turned to him and meeting his every need. I have tried my best to be the best father our boy could have. One of her needs that went unfulfilled was intimacy. Early in the marriage in the first year we had much intimacy which began to taper off over time to 2–3 times per month, and eventually 1–2 times a month. I can't explain why my drive was lowering. We had the occasional argument and all I can think of is that I was losing connection with my wife. As I focused more and more on the mechanics of day to day life, we drifted apart. On the outside we appeared to be a great couple, while on the inside deep fissures were making their way through our foundation. My wife is a loving person, I love her with my whole heart. Since she has asked me for a divorce, I have made great effort to show her that she matters. I have opened my heart to her and expressing my deepest regret and sorrow for how I have made her feel with my actions and lack of action. I have been seeing a therapist for the last month, 2 of those visits we went as a couple. At the last therapy session, my wife came to the realization that I did not have a deep love for her that transcended all my problems. That cut through the BS, when tough times came our way. That if I had truly loved her in the way I say I do, that I would have made the great effort I am making now in the past. I admit that I felt unloved for many of the years. I understand that I did not communicate well with her in the way that was most necessary. In one of the therapy sessions, our therapist expressed the concept of fight, flight, and freeze. That because I had experienced several instances of almost losing my wife in the ICU and childbirth, I had the inability to respond because I was experiencing a form of PTSD. My wife does not believe this. She feels that true love overcomes these obstacles and can't see herself staying with someone that is not truly madly in love with her, like she has told me she has for me. I ask this community to please help me understand why I could have possible let my wife suffer in this way. I know I was selfish and controlling in many ways. I have never been physically or verbally abusive to my wife. I love her so much and need help understanding myself and how or why I could see her like that in the past and not respond appropriately. I know this is not a complete picture. If anyone has been in a similar situation or this resonates with you, please help me. She has said that this is what is blocking her from staying in our marriage. She has said if she understood why there is a possibility that she will stay, but can't tell me it will be enough.",5.6259960793923085,5.694671086253376,6.0469259985297725,81.74509372702771,67.24797843665769,9.38696397941681,30.74503798088704,9.157702336890667,2.3433870619946098,2934,103,608,49,44,947,275,742,0.067,0.8170000000000001,0.115,0.9822,2,1,0,0,3,0,69.0,11,2,1,9,10,41,3,0,42,0,74,18,2,9,7,120,140,37,0,17,19,11,10,4,0,3,3,3,2,3,39,38,0,3,23,4,2,16,16,12,1,3,47,18,124,29,88,83,17,89,0,5,3,13,105,31,0,13,36,437,163,2,0.0,0.05273427303540831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03945333561106108,0.0,0.04456797029826046,0.04609649012143575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031120775313178462,0.0,0.036625993741516205,0.0,0.12482590019898933,0.0,0.0418163909618014,0.0,0.0,0.05426288598641136,0.0,0.0,0.05014486673559431,0.09341604026419216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15271464255592745,0.0453785031750317,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04666541160394149,0.0,0.04991910052927203,0.10660718186595143,0.09849370969970386,0.04888955037733332,0.05740748891359719,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03894893390724505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05006510213655388,0.0,0.045988287650437366,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037499604576874665,0.0,0.0400005951260677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1125219952779964,0.031796265449033426,0.17093724867094448,0.0,0.0,0.037858174108898704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14720948391778535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10548353054829462,0.14916265770685355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05135583849172103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892046769099581,0.07255933057939515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045512075295055535,0.09431118280730984,0.08697673495128581,0.0,0.0,0.03938785901764541,0.0,0.09958532452045764,0.0,0.0,0.522208452347034,0.12634260955177187,0.0891275818299262,0.18049503655075805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1421022879563634,0.0,0.06543647002469125,0.1980110975422202,0.034327034200751165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046703279044576385,0.0,0.060319054691837126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08497515314700961,0.0,0.038862352723823455,0.0,0.09771204216638477,0.0,0.15052702320075012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.042587798636386,0.05202704700865517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08467391168597424,0.035394260108637984,0.0,0.0,0.10640047508359866,0.0,0.0,0.050280962295159416,0.0,0.036817178046698484,0.05002844985982007,0.0,0.0,0.037711177207635976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14231766039528093,0.0,0.0,0.05098334890333976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03577355346991937,0.03890163732736631,0.0,0.1017967257642978,0.10335359618634014,0.0,0.028518697262748912,0.0,0.0,0.10381104645306716,0.0,0.0,0.04252895540017517,0.049449623417840496,0.060435529228496015,0.048411529406490884,0.0,0.23167010379337086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07344692506175818,0.0,0.247296639447874,0.0,0.0,0.04001771167515896,0.08251805257688362,0.2409673232119893,0.04969118831883417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03161694901764428,0.0,0.0,0.14330729801816178 divorce,Teentitians,2019/04/15,Stay at home mom divorce advice At this point in my 2.5 yr marriage I've made my mind up to get divorce. My husband pays for everything and even tells me not to touch the light because he pays for it. I have been on interviews but haven't gotten anything yet. What do I do to support my child and I?,4.014047619047616,4.253416079365081,4.787420634920637,88.79160714285715,70.74603174603175,7.56984126984127,30.035714285714285,7.1686216300943375,1.526495238095238,235,9,52,2,4,76,48,63,0.0,0.942,0.058,0.5499,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,6,9,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,3,2,0,0,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,0,3,2,8,1,10,6,0,8,0,0,0,0,9,6,0,0,1,33,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833353166412426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23860375087824376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1767505370804481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1915089243589085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2605879338537408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15148665774846926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29084301108403804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27435724791113203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29276636137810913,0.3395853752166408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740960177669136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3090476108869701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3290312809189647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534286618165749,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,testyoint,2019/04/15,"Today. I had a ""I gotta get my shit together"" moment of clarity. Just briefly as a backstory, back last summer, me and my wife got into one of our usual arguments about the constant slights made towards each other revolving each other's intelligence, and the straw that broke the camel's proverbial back was when I told her, ""you're like your fucking dad, fucking just angry all the time because of your fucking adhd, clueless brain."" She responded by saying, ""what about you, you fucking homeless for 26 days asshole, you loser. Mental. Asshole."" That straw broke my back, I know it sounds weak, like why did my back break at that comment. But if I have to admit, it did. It was the world ""mental."" I was accused of being one during my sophomore year in high school, by my best friend who was a Christian. Hearing that word from my wife's mouth brought back feelings that I was an incorrect person. A human who was born incorrect. Anyway, the straw that broke my back broke my wife's back too, when she said the phrase, because when she said those words, she saw the look on my face. She realized she was seeing the face of a man being broken down. I fought back with a ""you fucking bitch. You only have money because you fucked rich guys."" Anyway. Today. I had a ""I gotta get my shit together"" moment of clarity. I was in the bathroom again, looking at myself, getting ready to jerk off after smoking some pre roll I bought down the street at the Apothecarium, and I was looking at myself just pumping away, just stroking away, the bathroom lights all on, with all its yellow warmth, and I saw myself looking at myself in the mirror just jerking away, and I thought, ""why is this the thing that I'm doing with my time? What am I doing. I'm jerking off? Why am I doing this?""",4.811950980392158,6.0278407441176505,5.0667647058823535,83.96877450980394,69.5,7.196078431372548,28.57843137254902,7.333567415737692,1.6117549019607846,1383,49,259,13,24,436,166,340,0.14400000000000002,0.769,0.087,-0.9682,0,0,0,0,0,0,63.0,1,8,0,2,22,24,13,0,23,0,23,14,6,1,3,30,56,11,0,1,7,4,2,2,1,2,2,5,0,4,21,11,0,0,5,0,3,1,0,19,0,2,24,16,50,5,38,28,7,50,1,5,8,6,36,22,9,2,28,191,71,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10158965355589117,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2382585454079781,0.5199920402688084,0.0,0.15458766272502322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08870991079172401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09436438341335183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09134781753707856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054515404484064514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04274133707653647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06530832417974837,0.4688844462300401,0.1324916390194769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06760704191304306,0.0,0.0,0.08369883034167411,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0952724102361296,0.0,0.0,0.08931148293868454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04645594388805562,0.06890392404346703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08259500591828807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.283938493783128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07998513310871902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1703744276661323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11456058179346905,0.06428951970171505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07380907676105734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16081638936537831,0.06722232387278555,0.0,0.08554973198319278,0.06736014233507834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17353940332960552,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05615853992757892,0.0,0.0,0.06710805184680209,0.09858123555657802,0.0,0.16025072166720858,0.08077284862310521,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09309878764558434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2288278296254217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05443509524505994 divorce,ellergy,2019/04/15,"I am going to be summoned to appear in the family court I am a mother to a three year old and recently tried to commit suicide. When she was born I had a real bad case of PPD and I was plagued with depression since. Things went okay for a while. The bond that formed between us in the last few years is indescribable, I love her more than life itself. Recently my mother in law moved in with us, when I went trough my PPD she helped take care of my daughter, and now she acts like its her daughter. Since she moved in things has gotten worse. I felt like a useless mother, I sank into a deep depression. One night something in my head just went wrong, and I thought my daughter would be better off without me. During the six years we were married my husband never understood my depression, he never supported me, he gave up on me. So I found out that he is taking me to the family court to get full custody of my daughter, he is planning to declare me unfit, and to take my daughter with him to Ireland. I also found out his mother is going with him to Ireland. For years, through my depression I always took care of my daughter, I did all the mom things, dressed her in the morning, took her to school, picked her up, played with her, prepared dinner, bathed her and put her in bed. On the weekends I was the one who got up early to play with her. I actually enjoyed doing all these things. Since the suicide attempt I changed dramatically, when I was in the psych hospital, I saw a fantastic psychiatrist who diagnosed me with bipolar disorder, he said I was taking the wrong meds all these years. Since then, I have managed to get off my sleeping pills, at night I wake up when she cries, I see my therapist once a week and is planning on seeing a life couch as well. I can already feel the new meds working. I know it is a long back story, but I want full custody of my daughter. But I am so scared that they will declare me as unfit and he will take my daughter away from me. Also, I fear receiving the summons, I don't know how it will feel having those papers handed to me. Anyone that has gone through something similar and can explain to me how the family law works, I'll appreciate it.",5.539103154909609,5.675129262672813,6.037050691244239,81.5107408720312,67.43317972350229,8.796738745125841,31.438851471109533,8.502166056373571,2.2847556894718184,1716,64,341,23,26,556,203,434,0.092,0.836,0.07200000000000001,-0.9126,0,0,2,0,0,3,48.0,3,0,1,6,14,22,0,2,25,1,31,11,4,3,6,49,69,25,2,2,4,14,4,2,0,4,5,1,3,0,18,20,1,0,10,4,0,14,4,10,1,4,24,8,74,12,60,39,8,67,0,5,3,1,49,26,0,1,29,249,92,6,0.0,0.0,0.07398742061814666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08366703645593601,0.12126323719988664,0.06308664069704327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053013700930041104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07123349666304314,0.05829935375749725,0.06330485409274188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0670548501959199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15460298606091194,0.0,0.0802053795053407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08328250103751728,0.0,0.0,0.2612076921279736,0.07695366311865721,0.0,0.0,0.08689398422728273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21442335787107603,0.08531631654649653,0.07667170686706075,0.0,0.07279715951523948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1662610236595992,0.0,0.0,0.07922354020767053,0.0,0.08617822101841588,0.0,0.060638572097356284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07781113044681576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05081920001043568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08333516814505458,0.061801780519766425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10710497600377243,0.07408167965253673,0.0,0.0,0.06709653462109755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06842869541764839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16843338819858225,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08879711265424718,0.0,0.16116504760147093,0.0,0.0,0.11695101465954146,0.07322548645616415,0.0,0.14230009369354826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0795582257448764,0.08074368410511948,0.10275246338293273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07621802025157297,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08629747042109474,0.0,0.0,0.14972223524084322,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0721202699085084,0.0,0.07590703378064742,0.07673185283634666,0.12083424246626605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25086969671083104,0.0,0.0758727440813362,0.0,0.0,0.11673678449176005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16586514893370252,0.08603735570147378,0.0,0.0,0.285028461202388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08803052917429502,0.20148041244938866,0.0,0.0,0.06019101450200199,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684731514941689,0.051475437867891286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823994116568293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04471941442790536,0.0,0.0608166176947079,0.0,0.06816947769784908,0.21085210682979896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0730858360524888,0.0,0.11039279830376594,0.0,0.07726500834376968,0.053858924229049435,0.16579013824498212,0.0,0.2441214963886184 divorce,hck1996,2019/04/15,"In college; how to help my younger siblings and mom? Okay so long story short, my stepdad is extremely verbally and emotionally abusive. He’s basically the only dad I’ve ever known though; married my mom when I was like 5 and my baby sister was 3. He then had another daughter w/ my mom. My mom finally seeing the light at how terribly he treated us; she’s pursuing separation for a year then divorce. I’m now 23. I’m in college and don’t live at home; but are there some ways that I can help them? I’ve already done some things for my mom such as make phone calls to relatives and other emotional support things. Is there more I can be doing in this process to help my youngest (16yo) sister and mom? What are things you wished your adult children could have helped with to make the process easier?",2.793333333333333,5.079046210191084,3.899643312101912,85.74636518046708,77.343949044586,7.243991507430997,27.66411889596603,8.238735603445708,2.0018419532908704,633,27,124,12,15,205,104,157,0.03,0.833,0.13699999999999998,0.9465,0,0,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,2,1,0,10,5,0,0,4,1,15,0,0,4,1,18,22,15,0,2,1,10,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,2,7,7,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,4,2,16,4,13,16,3,15,0,0,1,0,27,6,0,2,9,77,23,2,0.0,0.12780895685623403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11903782892129235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11311167197424166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11014788722705847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612585277966105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11038901952067882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2426796885842088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097575083774776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11816690951863845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2892134103468649,0.0,0.10820295199140983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05270009959851396,0.0,0.0952516676292379,0.0954620379514006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14400885300473487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7580200723668205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08204041040381664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08595885842155243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1224102162890196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2149931910230832,0.0,0.1059822629009373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12975498404072836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08562261776311343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12404580332504578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06946509438857154 divorce,steframsay,2019/04/15,"A marriage based on a lie My divorce is set to be finalized next week. While I’m devastated over it, I’m starting to become more angry than sad. I’ve been depressed since he lift on November 6, 2018. Saying he never loved me, only stayed with me and married me because I got pregnant. I didn’t know this...why would he do that and then leave when our son is 9? Why do that to someone?? If you’re in something because you think it’s the right thing to do, then stick with it because backing out halfway through causes more damage than walking away at the start. I have 12 years invested in a man that didn’t love me. 12 years of blaming myself for him being rude and uncaring in every situation I can think of (and now I kick myself for not seeing it before...because it was so very obvious). But what’s worse is I had a 2 year old little girl when we met. Her biological father was a huge mistake when I was younger....it’s a sad story but basically I had lost my high school sweetheart right after we got engaged (he died of heart failure)...met my daughter’s dad while out on a drunken night with a fake ID, had a one night stand (at this point I was depressed about the loss of my fiancé and honestly I didn’t care who I was with or what I was doing...it was just a really bad and dark time for me), ended up pregnant. He turned out to be a major alcoholic...physically abusive and he still to this day is in and out of jail...usually 9 month out, 3 month in but it varies. So needless to say, my daughter looked to my STBEH as her dad and has for 12 years. When he decided to leave and drop this bomb on me, I was so overwhelmed with grief and depression, I still am but I feel it changing...really the feelings just kind of eb and flow between sadness and anger at this point. Tonight I’ve been thinking and I’m just so mad that not only has he hurt me but my innocent daughter has been hurt too. He has made it a point to be in our son’s life (which is remarkable because he has 6 biological children that I learned about later in our relationship and our son is the only one he speaks to or has contact with...he’s a real winner). But as for my daughter, he hasn’t spoken one word to her since he left. He didn’t say bye, didn’t explain or say a thing to her at all. She is so confused and hurt and it just infuriates me. I sent him the following text tonight, and while maybe later on I won’t feel like this, I definitely mean what I say right now. I hate him for hurting my daughter. I hate him for hurting me and giving our son a half assed father/son relationship. How can people be so cruel and not think it might come back on them later. I believe in karma...and she can be a major BITCH. Here’s the text I sent. I know it might make me seem crazy but I’m just so hurt and mad. “It’s one thing for me to hope that one day you’ll feel the hurt you’ve put me through with your years of lies,but no. I hope one day you will care for someone. Actually love and care. And I hope that you innocently think that they care for you too. You know...that non suspecting, sweet knowledge that they love you and care for you in a way that other people in your life and daily interactions do not. Then I hope one random day they disappear, without a care or fuck to give your way. I hope you’re left confused, sad and blaming yourself that they left. I hope that you’re left wondering if you did something so awful to them that they just could never speak or look at you ever again. I want this for you more than I want happiness for myself. This is what you’ve done to my daughter. You absolute piece of garbage. I really hope one day you are hurt beyond repair because of what you’ve made my daughter feel. And I hope it stays with you until you die. You deserve nothing. You are nothing. You are cruel and evil and to hurt a child (and yes she is a fucking child that you have been around since she was 2) it is disgusting. I don’t care who you end up with or what you do, what you’ve done to her (and Bear and I) will follows you wherever you go. I will make sure of it. No girl will be with you blindly. No girl will not know about your 6 kids and how you’ve written all but one of them off and play uncle with the only one you contact. No girl will not know what you did to me and more importantly what you did to my daughter. I know you don’t care because that’s just who you are but one day, when you are hurting so badly, she will come into your mind...no matter how much you try and stop it, and you’ll understand what you’ve done and you’ll just know...karma has finally found you. McKinsy will grow and prosper and excel even more than she has already, despite having been hurt by someone as awful and low as you. “",2.2412436289500515,3.747211941896026,3.591641182466873,90.88350662589195,76.37003058103976,6.4754332313965355,23.62996941896025,7.143608871765197,0.7129645259938828,3669,113,816,40,81,1202,333,981,0.215,0.654,0.132,-0.9987,0,0,3,0,1,0,126.0,7,40,8,3,42,73,13,3,29,3,89,11,2,8,7,156,164,86,3,15,32,15,5,1,1,15,3,7,0,9,56,62,0,1,25,1,1,12,22,43,0,12,38,17,136,30,107,103,11,121,0,24,4,7,137,48,4,23,56,548,192,5,0.0,0.04692655498616679,0.03864967803517586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04370613266637016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035257677909915186,0.0,0.0,0.03721107842852864,0.060909036524336976,0.06613860054335133,0.16900386688442393,0.04374164205593303,0.0,0.04462232454710946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230471117716177,0.040686203833390576,0.0,0.06823400981158607,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.031622115269600834,0.0,0.0,0.1532553041916123,0.0,0.1023375978988522,0.0,0.08220941235337917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12159186308592833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07015820313153119,0.0,0.0,0.02615934565513888,0.03582583448503844,0.03336970730505103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10012975043802486,0.028294486925930742,0.0,0.08677272882070804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043425861994884817,0.0,0.07323009494877493,0.0,0.07598724101190639,0.02250896482252197,0.0,0.06335296645010481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04216125285873898,0.0,0.0782053197103984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046933222091503,0.0,0.04184584343670267,0.0,0.3147010293766482,0.0,0.0,0.4663886825488641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041243485189756734,0.1523646975143056,0.0,0.0,0.08387393021770354,0.17212785126193975,0.0,0.0559496844723864,0.0193494586171134,0.03969555038726387,0.0,0.0,0.06651801854336642,0.0,0.043234555187906816,0.0,0.142983605816395,0.07495218413581023,0.05287453653677075,0.0,0.039789483768629695,0.04314247264157327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08403127349551825,0.03999070262195329,0.0,0.06322615678201282,0.0,0.029114918362982918,0.0,0.06109307534597003,0.0,0.042121359775248224,0.07433497153544598,0.0,0.07600592306442362,0.0,0.04155976494922087,0.0,0.2952180622922849,0.12048838906440415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05491553510629699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11232122725556276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039814902568441515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04508022335633861,0.050745150550996786,0.0,0.0,0.08504390130467315,0.0,0.10146975284752127,0.0,0.1574811405921403,0.0,0.040083319331717805,0.03156080133573485,0.03605575451634448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828731281934013,0.044518728866200584,0.0,0.0,0.10067393721189508,0.060981165416674,0.0,0.0,0.056066567401410486,0.08442931110548055,0.06325869957638335,0.03311233398261209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.037328123764948935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07893726737434112,0.12688941538415094,0.0,0.0,0.02309453842418771,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02688982915868454,0.04307988270043543,0.0,0.0412311737264718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03267904314487514,0.046721211663276266,0.06287469328209767,0.031769490995234524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07147638965260326,0.0,0.0,0.03817870671474017,0.042950945586733694,0.0,0.0,0.040361830037083934,0.02813491892786891,0.0,0.0,0.12752461375266952 divorce,stevebri,2019/04/15,Why do I rent my XSO so much space in my brain? And as a follow up; how can I evict?,-2.498571428571428,-1.5390729999999966,0.8669047619047632,107.54892857142859,88.5238095238095,4.2,10.5,3.1291,-2.2336857142857145,61,0,20,0,2,22,19,21,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,3.0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,1,1,1,0,2,3,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,0,3,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,14,4,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6922105797648558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4558276627582393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5595227029584795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Ketosucks,2019/04/16,"Ignored by ew pals Maybe it's a bit of a rant but I'm (40m ) getting peeved that ex wife pals act like I don't exist. At some kids event- her lady pals will walk right up to me and my kids and interact with the kids only. Like I'm invisible or something! Any suggestions how to handle this?",-0.03380952380952351,2.004519269841272,2.5295238095238126,92.95714285714287,86.46031746031748,5.504761904761906,18.52380952380953,6.868970318607317,0.08741904761904751,226,6,52,3,7,78,52,63,0.055,0.8340000000000001,0.111,0.6643,0,0,1,0,0,0,7.0,0,0,0,0,1,3,0,0,3,0,2,0,0,1,0,8,5,5,0,0,2,2,0,2,3,1,0,0,0,3,3,3,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,1,0,0,0,0,4,2,7,4,2,6,0,0,0,0,11,3,0,2,3,25,7,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28257055147987753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4536445602206106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2170941264764882,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.406008049878118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41744968244926506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3160247067179481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.35485520370752605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3198906561166144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,gaylord678,2019/04/16,"My mom said she's leaving and my father by Sunday what do I do I'm already quite depressed so this just makes it worse, I just hate this so fucking much",-0.8599999999999994,1.275728454545458,0.9294545454545472,100.15418181818184,97.78787878787878,2.64,18.72121212121212,3.1291,-0.8748133333333334,121,4,27,0,5,39,26,33,0.28600000000000003,0.7140000000000001,0.0,-0.8858,0,0,0,0,0,0,1.0,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,0,0,0,2,1,0,1,0,4,7,3,0,0,2,2,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,1,1,5,0,1,6,1,1,0,1,0,1,4,0,1,0,1,18,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3431383784320926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678186885404587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2874660202146606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3069963521485162,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3292485819704478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20755991917738773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3641780387629406,0.0,0.0,0.2285822438585124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3307310186249596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2957823477054045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31688214135068976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwawayobviouslykh,2019/04/16,coping with a soon to be divorce. i feel as if the marraige is coming to an end with my(23m) wife(22f). we have a kid and it sucks to see this happening. i feel like I'm losing everything. i am scared to be single. any advice on how to be alone after so many years together?,0.5379885057471263,2.528935327586204,2.8282758620689665,92.00264367816094,83.65517241379311,5.935632183908046,20.011494252873558,7.1686216300943375,0.434025287356322,211,6,47,3,6,72,46,58,0.171,0.7859999999999999,0.043,-0.7579,0,1,0,0,1,0,10.0,1,0,0,1,3,4,1,1,4,0,6,0,0,1,0,9,13,5,0,1,1,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,3,4,1,10,10,1,6,0,1,1,0,3,1,1,1,5,32,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2855685983897324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30266726144889444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1987297784297384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2517345221109947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25883341439628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2626419180991609,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2955255298079155,0.2087726974962428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25842238980721005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14277122893804875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3269361438767125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2962803581900701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2925781528911087,0.0,0.23287340912924656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1881897182303156 divorce,Andjazzy,2019/04/16,"I love my husband, but I'm considering divorce I met my husband when I was 18, and we got married when I was 22. I'm 25 now. My husband has a temper. He regularly snaps at me about all kinds of things, like when other drivers on the road annoy him or about politics. It feels like walking on eggshells to keep him from yelling at me. He apologizes after, and has been going to therapy but seems to be ignoring his therapists advice. In the moment, if I tell him how much that upsets me, he starts saying how he's a terrible person end should just kill himself. Mostly when my husband gets home he plays video games for three or four hours. He refuses to cook. He doesn't clean anything unless I throw a fit. I work about 55 hours a week, he works 40. I take care of all chores, grocery shopping, cooking, finances and I spend most of my nights alone while he plays games. He gets irritated if I ask him to go anywhere with me on the weekend. Is there any way I can save this?",2.9582653061224486,4.583330081632656,4.0579081632653065,87.78798469387758,74.71428571428571,6.940816326530613,26.535714285714285,7.6454224807358475,1.3772816326530617,760,28,158,10,16,247,128,196,0.155,0.7140000000000001,0.131,-0.804,0,1,0,0,2,0,24.0,1,0,0,2,12,14,3,1,7,0,10,3,0,2,2,26,26,17,1,3,8,4,1,2,0,1,0,2,3,1,5,5,2,3,2,9,3,4,1,6,0,2,5,3,27,8,22,19,5,28,0,0,0,1,32,8,0,7,17,97,32,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17446025944432147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18490621607356306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12140847733141814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14691734435391385,0.0,0.16690413820348685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1820261649221621,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15812713611742182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.090271586045231,0.12754392175983356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18655211730357324,0.0,0.20292869460640697,0.0,0.1427890496356779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17908303056881644,0.0,0.35163783884826016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15868822262310806,0.19752017463145352,0.18591451620648708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1744442896184496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16113289031291805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13124220557358926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16754100928487678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15588802034488836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14197650819337182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16252962441280008,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12636648801421418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13423450350666508,0.0,0.1560456021341292,0.0,0.2041679021566276,0.20729042859951216,0.1186093093009478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1417110863617755,0.14320830359826853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2599481190142511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,greyghost6,2019/04/16,"Parenting, Finances, Dating - oh my! I've been on here a few years, mostly lurking. I had all but given up on ever being happy. But if finally happened. She filed and now I'm awaiting a court appearance. I'll tell you a little about my background (I read the FAQ, so hopefully I do this right - mods let me know if not and I'll edit this post) and situation. I'd welcome advice or words of encouragement (or tough love) from all on here.  I'm specifically asking for advice on parenting, finances (including support and insurance), and dating. And any legal advice you want to throw my way, too... PA resident, 38/m, married 8 years to 42/f, 2 LOs 7 and 4. My 7 y/o completely understands what's happening, and is getting comfortable with the routine. My 4 y/o is internalizing a bit, but I think is OK. My STBX is making this harder than it needs to be. We physically separated earlier in the year, but I had deliberately not filed as I was waiting until open enrollment so I could get my benefits squared away. I make considerably more than her, so I knew there were going to be some financial considerations, but I was under-prepared for how bad it looks. I have to give her a boatload every month (basically doubling her salary and hurting my chances at retiring on schedule). Anyone else out there, in the earner's role, who has any advice for best way to deal with it? I don't like her parenting style (yells, impatient), and she never cooks real food (pizza, chicken nuggets, the microwave diet). Everything comes from a package. I'm not the best cook, but I'm trying. On my nights with the kids, I make as much 'real' food as I can. They're slowly getting used to the idea that Dad doesn't give them whatever they ask for, and fruit can be dessert. I'm reluctant to give her money because she has a serious spending problem (one of the major pains in our former relationship). But I don't seem to have a choice. My only bet is to offset what she'd get each month with expenses that benefit the kids (i.e., insurance) - right? How did y'all handle this? I'm thinking I get expensive insurance (higher premium, but a HSA), in addition to the childcare costs I'm already covering, and try to limit what I give her. To be clear, it's not because I want her to suffer (I really don't; it doesn't benefit me for my kids to watch me treat their mother like that), but rather because she never makes a budget and has spent every dollar she's ever earned. Any tips? I'm also struggling with how to 'come out' at work. I told my boss, and he's been great. Highly supportive, flexible with me needing to take calls and meet with my attorney, etc.. But besides him, no one else knows. I feel like, working in a corporate environment, there's a sort of privilege that comes with being married with kids. I guess maybe I'm afraid of losing that privilege. Anyone else solve this creatively? Finally, I'm starting to learn about myself. I'm gaining respect for who I am, and how far I've come (I'm far from perfect, but I'm trying to improve, and have made really good progress vs where I started on this journey). I don't know about dating, or even how to flirt - but it was a dead bedroom for so damn long that I'm chomping at the bit. Any tips from the sub? Favorite apps? How to read body language if someone's interested vs just being nice? Thanks for reading.",3.855237966549563,5.461827911179174,5.305520223403295,79.82983124643425,72.33843797856049,8.490634477374412,28.88355403417109,9.061647067312856,2.4923241089391346,2618,105,497,55,51,880,323,653,0.079,0.736,0.185,0.9977,4,0,0,0,0,0,121.0,2,3,3,10,27,39,1,2,26,1,40,11,1,13,8,114,106,50,1,11,26,6,1,3,0,0,1,1,1,4,23,36,8,2,13,5,11,8,13,11,0,2,14,6,65,28,74,82,15,60,0,3,3,1,51,27,1,14,25,307,88,12,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2627675064016904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07418489351642656,0.05376012298385004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18286229165321405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401111656388203,0.13776072017044522,0.0,0.0,0.125693336532754,0.0,0.06316047022334399,0.0,0.05613039565966108,0.1229399279474477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14109780623772508,0.0,0.14678543720056172,0.07467225742305023,0.0,0.0,0.06864464312770313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2316348962152051,0.07048454618580663,0.0,0.0,0.05367400661931712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06930642895710122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684745705668078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07497408410792168,0.04440173846310354,0.1216184344973951,0.11328058705154374,0.0,0.06041784906028631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03399117890742519,0.04802583462885969,0.0,0.14728426550187845,0.0,0.0,0.16257842559932242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17561246768300592,0.2579548927884351,0.038205740399645034,0.05638547067475792,0.0,0.07411623378399257,0.0740563501217836,0.0,0.11889438711208053,0.0715626815513542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07102731928156808,0.0,0.06676998435216216,0.0,0.0,0.07196617425057454,0.07588928668519558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11083595470009792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06874251962829153,0.0,0.09852879489945557,0.06737750514405523,0.0,0.05949235788707325,0.056452399486265875,0.07520801986237999,0.0,0.0,0.06067354238965725,0.06361029287792702,0.17949388899965152,0.0,0.06753694359054177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10731733562726264,0.0,0.04941839935792977,0.09969355510722676,0.1036967357356492,0.0,0.0,0.06308647793204128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09110733303704303,0.05112794113437023,0.071532558546099,0.0,0.2239375320523196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06438334426537133,0.0,0.0,0.06432562269920368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.201730757275472,0.15303443088479746,0.08613261710518164,0.0,0.0,0.07217491433831584,0.0,0.11482023766310134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061199473535382375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07556415905374686,0.0,0.0,0.05695985785301098,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951649592119042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0702785776013407,0.0,0.0,0.15257316002844776,0.0,0.0,0.050545129692949435,0.0,0.05875795709627162,0.06189211042168274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08615063556861381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06423674447745722,0.0,0.13692488841595696,0.0,0.0,0.06998400558119264,0.0,0.05806115582353572,0.0,0.0,0.07930255780478856,0.1067207767297929,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0978817744005824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12987284824554454 divorce,NellieRae92,2019/04/16,"How to get through I've been separated from my husband since November. He came at me wanting a divorce put of the blue. Kicked me out, barely spoke to me, but said it wasn't my fault. He could never tell me a real reason. Just that i didn't do anything. I think about him every single day. I've tried anything and everything. Every day I think of him and he doesn't think about me. If we have to talk he is cold, heartless, and rude. He acts like I did a horrible thing to him. I still love him. I think of him every day and no matter what I do to try and make myself stop, I can't. I got a new job to work more and keep me busy. Am I not getting over him fast enough? He is over me he says. I don't feel like I feel any better. I feel so sad and empty. Any advice?",-0.6921616541353366,1.2224993452380986,1.6953258145363428,98.65669172932331,88.28571428571428,4.489223057644112,15.984962406015036,5.750287758089431,-0.8123142857142853,582,12,144,4,19,197,97,168,0.14800000000000002,0.7390000000000001,0.114,-0.7909999999999999,1,0,0,0,1,0,23.0,1,0,0,2,6,8,2,0,5,0,14,1,0,3,1,31,31,11,0,3,4,1,3,2,0,0,0,3,0,0,4,10,0,2,8,0,0,3,8,4,0,0,8,8,30,4,17,22,3,15,0,1,1,1,22,4,0,1,10,89,34,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14050068371047725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19555140096253534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23663827391292344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271622071173164,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16444663895767808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11479706499123245,0.0,0.0,0.2781796689680731,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14856373709083706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3634239290044216,0.0,0.12922068207794254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21809928976458876,0.10271684948451744,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15023880001252815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11499443577627337,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14268000438786008,0.12779875397618992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14048782249233574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12976755468161838,0.0,0.09597462970840642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11089241945411,0.13886414551369133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14453915934468936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1636537368337221,0.0,0.1478303460236673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13676822291999596,0.11434005965330575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11893675192544885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11482332830391012,0.12020697299359692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11556535509448472,0.12567053298952252,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09552140472729907,0.3685150684035881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1952351029787144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08480549017753862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10467394857454904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,orangeyougladddd,2019/04/16,"Husband did something sketchy years ago and now I want a divorce. Am I crazy for wanting to move on now? A few years ago I caught my then boyfriend trying to film up someone’s skirt. I was completely aware of what he did, watched behind his back as he replayed the video, and confronted him later about it. He denied it even though I saw what he did. I was so insecure but scared of losing him I never went back on it. The last few years it has gotten worse and I’m upset with myself that I let it go. I recently heard of a similar event that occurred of him taking pictures of one of my friends but they couldn’t prove of confirm it so I only recently found out. I decided to confront him about the issue(now husband). He refused to look at me. Denied and claimed he doesn’t remember the situation or the conversation we had about it. Got angry, broke glass, left the house. Came back a few hours later wanting an annulment. The next day he was trying to repair things. Right now. I’m torn. Broken since I never addressed the issue initially and allowed myself to accept what happened. We’ve been married for 6 months and I’m not sure if I want to be married to him anymore. Has anyone been with anyone that has done something similar? I’m concerned there’s something more underneath and I should’ve taken the red flag as a sign. I’m not sure how I feel about him now especially know he is lying about the situation.",2.6456494708994707,4.928539260714292,3.7944444444444434,86.3290740740741,77.82142857142857,6.4338624338624335,26.084656084656075,7.526774132740827,1.4802116402116408,1123,44,216,16,27,364,154,280,0.191,0.774,0.035,-0.9926,1,0,3,0,1,0,27.0,1,0,1,1,18,11,2,3,16,0,19,0,0,2,5,38,43,18,0,6,6,2,1,0,1,0,0,1,1,0,14,12,0,1,7,2,0,5,6,7,0,1,19,6,29,4,33,21,4,38,0,2,4,0,24,8,0,2,25,145,43,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.209467847858309,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11717425784884465,0.16522815441505742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2725529756256826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13513351497911846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12387930179671937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07619775975487875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12090971494188266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07803776369461006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05974080473184816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954670966419393,0.09128333620448237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06714805870861658,0.0,0.09449632055713572,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10448072989054212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11635514776730126,0.13633063969379286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1233191725972256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06493281825695572,0.09630901027189932,0.0,0.0,0.12837164162209744,0.12081762309785347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09921726408896601,0.13218098851775725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0943071731861882,0.12557604404258896,0.0,0.0,0.1822510027611968,0.0,0.12565515835029106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.080062321572149,0.08985932367831519,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23332014337564586,0.0,0.1338422952458401,0.10090049268631464,0.0,0.0,0.11828997861560984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09773590661236746,0.2656138336979004,0.0,0.0,0.10010914169285336,0.2728757346998174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22271224517116295,0.0,0.0888350101464947,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07849441775374283,0.0,0.1160829695914414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1604338396944294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27875459297571303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10952736070998166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12040618279368992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22825652761667464 divorce,alex435blazeit,2019/04/16,Am I at the point where I need to just accept it? My(31M) wife(27F) have been married for a little over two years and we have been together nearly 4. After a long time of feeling unhappy she has told me that she has no interest in continuing to try on our relationship and we need to go our separate ways. I have been finding reasons that we are worth fighting for but I feel that obviously I can’t do this without her so what to do? Am I fucked and just need to accept what’s going on? Any words of encouragement/advice would be much appreciated.,3.985272727272729,5.192625481818184,5.54159090909091,79.82238636363638,71.45454545454545,8.772727272727273,28.29545454545455,9.188382445141503,2.277727272727273,433,16,88,9,8,147,77,110,0.099,0.77,0.13,0.3695,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,5,0,0,0,4,5,2,0,3,0,16,1,0,1,1,22,25,5,0,4,4,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,7,6,0,0,6,0,1,2,3,2,0,1,4,2,15,3,17,19,1,17,0,0,0,1,11,9,1,0,5,69,22,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21350136361224664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14857753592082035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22094552395467498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19969165941739989,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20198619325085326,0.0,0.0,0.24834052839608606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897972731919813,0.0,0.19335266688539424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1606118777003351,0.4860123745941666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20653928443385733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22463933716053247,0.0,0.2345715091008436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12740056951859166,0.0,0.0,0.2087721229729696,0.0,0.14833721662460705,0.0,0.21342844803081976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17342350787267907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21061208886716493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15520572998401355,0.0,0.0,0.14069740751097048 divorce,Connectdotcom,2019/04/16,"Could my (36m) wife's (35f) marriage concerns be a blessing in disguise? My wife is questioning our marriage saying we have no emotional connection. I thought we had but perhaps she is right. I think she's going through an early midlife crisis. But whatever the cause, it's made me think about our marriage. Whilst we have always got on really well and have shared plans and support each other, the sex has been quite dull. I put it down to basically you can't have everything perfect in life. I chose to marry someone who seemed to be my match in every way except in the bedroom. Basically I'm up for anything, very high sex drive and love flirting, and satisfying my partner. But she was never so keen, other than when trying for kids. She's not really a flirter and never dressed up sexily for me and mainly receives rather than gives oral. So I'm thinking perhaps of we do split, and putting aside the incredible pain of divorce and kids custody issues etc might there be a silver lining? Might I find someone who desires me and my body and enjoys sex as much as I do? Given our lengthy relationship I'd assumed all women had low sex drives but I know this not to be true. Has anyone else got divorced and couldn't be more happy because of the sex they now get?",4.715392290249434,6.1688248408163275,5.226904761904766,81.83115079365079,69.9795918367347,7.56689342403628,30.345804988662127,7.984000788550335,2.1154716553287978,1006,41,186,13,18,322,152,245,0.118,0.743,0.14,0.7909,0,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,7,1,1,3,8,14,0,0,9,0,24,9,1,2,5,45,41,20,0,4,8,2,0,0,1,2,2,1,1,4,7,16,0,0,9,0,0,6,7,3,1,0,9,1,28,11,25,23,6,24,1,2,0,6,33,11,0,5,6,126,35,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11459494761224776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09629776151790176,0.14111149258070393,0.11333269094948095,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08395347483164692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15297704144258342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14147745709868342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10995905331312764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11504826671038132,0.15491764640817554,0.0,0.0,0.15359537755392486,0.0,0.0,0.116035925911856,0.0,0.12377480095725794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12587454622045294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07195356528296093,0.13211458206241572,0.07827004746018218,0.0,0.2202962121932648,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14660662044006448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1455098525243996,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14374499691525186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07568788829397886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09727645170634827,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12429862614205404,0.1303149890679175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2922005439385125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10124081938187847,0.0,0.2124379305987914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14654490905778775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2768953915229661,0.1542790968398465,0.14648329089515716,0.0,0.0,0.17645526452760227,0.0,0.0,0.14786086885380842,0.0,0.11761302565103328,0.0,0.10952130802476766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1253760730206146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23338120035605014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15628421739325232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647382669781833,0.0,0.1093351314537221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09350355385248747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11363429096230357,0.0,0.10931656044684324,0.0,0.0,0.12382776510567045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,greenebean94,2019/04/16,"She's not happy and says we've become roommates sharing chores etc... Me (35m) and my wife (34f) have been married 9.5 years and together for 15 years. We have 2 younger kids and I've noticed lately my wife was really short towards the kids and myself. I confronted her and she says she is no longer happy and wants a divorce. We had trouble 6 months ago and read the 5 love languages book along with counseling, but she goes in and out of needing more happiness. I admit I have taken her for granted and not said how much I love her. I promised to work on my health and have but not consistently and this frustrates her. I am 6ft and weigh 280. By no means does this effect my routine of playing outside or going on hikes with the family, but it is a big concern to her. Neither of us has ever cheated and she says it's about her being happy and feeling like her old self. I'm a great father to our kids and do acts of service to help her out, but she feels like we are roommates and wants to divorce. I keep telling myself to let her go but we've been together so long the heart has me wanting to fight for her to stay and work it out. She is very cold and wants no touching and is short on conversation. She said she'll find a place after the kids are done with school in May. She has clearly checked out and her attitude makes fighting for her turn into anger inside of me and that's not what I want. Advice or suggestion? Words of inspiration? I feel as though I'm drowning in emotions. Thank you for letting me vent.",3.215010752688169,4.612379635483872,4.026209677419357,89.20264784946238,73.61290322580646,6.715053763440863,26.46505376344086,7.1686216300943375,1.1327311827956987,1197,42,252,12,24,383,167,310,0.116,0.725,0.159,0.9579,0,0,0,0,5,0,29.0,5,1,0,3,5,21,6,0,9,0,25,5,1,3,2,66,49,33,1,6,11,3,4,2,0,2,1,5,1,5,7,34,1,1,8,3,1,3,8,7,0,0,8,10,47,14,39,36,4,29,0,0,0,2,53,16,0,3,11,170,54,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10404254766592684,0.09438040652426663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11758921471103086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317377501591977,0.10895713271152907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11976591127575395,0.0,0.0,0.11874367308693183,0.0,0.09630941010573314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10037169059364676,0.0,0.16150530482824174,0.15212627335833814,0.0,0.0,0.09731286321503896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.121020216573217,0.0,0.0,0.11738501296278107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4533628260734092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11317404087918415,0.0,0.1261690341332231,0.07136548560252014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09463660674857104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010429346747298,0.0,0.0,0.21774828929324333,0.0,0.104033023769913,0.0,0.0,0.09422377319000776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19218905754614832,0.0,0.07107043697191581,0.0,0.0,0.11597848732170833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498439674128529,0.0,0.07826867547178794,0.07894713925071993,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12121831051476173,0.11172374639490804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11123987456545588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650013880803944,0.0,0.06820825788906779,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2025572257236876,0.2540108160139196,0.0,0.1077546663017619,0.0,0.0,0.11107281371316816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11348426722060108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09306063197320803,0.0980244922497968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10460753736292068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11581022884577374,0.0,0.0,0.12807189589594642,0.0,0.0,0.0878499946572661,0.3139977337160419,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1550247870165514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1371280864886504 divorce,justahopefulgirl,2019/04/16,"A long time coming I have been reading all y’all posts on here and I think it’s time I share my story. I have been with SO for 15 years now, married for 9, 2 kids under 5. I am 32 F, he is 31. For me, it all starts at the beginning, we had instant chemistry when we met, it felt like love at first sight, but we were only 16/17 what the hell did we know.. Our relationship has always been rocky, it always seemed so hard like almost forced. There’s been physical and emotional abuse, things he said that he can’t take back. I’m not sure if I was ever 100% happy, but even so, I can say I gave it everything I had. I have been seeing a therapist on my own for a few years now and I think this is when a huge shift happened that eventually led me to the realization that I am miserable and alone in this relationship and that I no longer love him. Me telling him how I feel has been gradual because he can’t cope with things like this and he is a narcissist so there’s an element of fear as well. He has finally accepted that I’m done, that there’s no hope and is discussing an exit strategy. Even tough I’m the one to initiate the separation, I feel guilty, sad, depressed and all of the above. I guess I’m looking for support and success stories. Thank you",2.0881714087439285,3.6407771717557273,3.7369882026370576,89.4816238723109,76.90076335877863,7.511727966689799,23.741151977793198,8.296473431620573,1.2219251908396942,977,31,221,18,22,326,148,262,0.171,0.6659999999999999,0.16399999999999998,-0.6252,0,1,0,0,1,0,30.0,5,2,0,2,18,20,1,2,13,0,27,2,0,2,5,38,54,20,0,2,4,0,4,3,0,0,0,2,0,1,17,16,0,0,8,1,0,2,5,6,1,2,16,9,30,14,18,38,5,26,1,3,3,2,27,8,1,5,18,145,47,2,0.0,0.15885349381296107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1342538236808015,0.1388582431654643,0.0,0.0,0.2231174254112232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10309315545882712,0.0,0.08172909691509382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11549122728733807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11547608796661672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1372022889535983,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15081304689939104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1771066916974703,0.12127587414824838,0.0,0.0,0.12049534249020595,0.0,0.0,0.15086836676592447,0.1355817463812457,0.0,0.12873022425056466,0.14686941269093207,0.0,0.1140416446537515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14769551399611894,0.0,0.11855949953579313,0.1427222245936589,0.12010225123699644,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13316382919477182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07368251010553249,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1965025414047882,0.0,0.0,0.11864957377082146,0.11258678215611567,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24201057747159505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09085071273154433,0.10196786005502716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12840399382936907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13410836403914295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2878864824770189,0.0,0.0,0.12753325239826144,0.1066195010483342,0.0,0.0,0.1068380911659968,0.1220541882665832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09489690986733826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1521434100881056,0.12636135082348884,0.0,0.10080552036016092,0.0,0.11718490933491245,0.12343556016469293,0.0,0.15566802107341252,0.17814306800855634,0.17181595339865358,0.0,0.0,0.15635701865442087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1205469033342009,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17267605045997172 divorce,misterandmisses,2019/04/16,"I've come so far since my divorce, and my ex has announced his engagement. The first part of the title is 90% of this post, the second part is what prompted me to write this, and that part is at the end. 31f divorced 35m, 2 small kids. We've been seperated 5 years, offical divorce was signed 9 months ago. This is written from a perspective of someone who is happy to be in the here and now, and understands that Divorce was a necessary step in my process. Ending my marriage was the first time I felt as though I couldn't hide my failure. It also threw me into a wave of shock, anxiety, and uncertainty - how was I supposed to support my kids when I was suddently so unsure of my next move? So, I did what moms do. I faked it, I smiled, I said I was tired but fine. I became a single mom toting around 2 kids everywhere I had to go- to therapy, to the gym, to work on early release days. I could no longer afford our home, so we moved in with my mom, and got on government assistance after I lost a higher paying job that I jumped on for the pay increase. Looking back, I think I gave up at some point during that time. I can still take myself back to laying on my mom's couch in the middle of the afternoon with no money or job.I was depressed. It's not that hard to reignite the anger and frusteration I felt towards my ex. I remember internalizing everything that I assumed he said about me, I hated him because I believed it to be true. I resented his ability to walk away from responsibity, I was mad at him for playing the martyr. I still logged onto his FB to see who he was talking to, still checked his phone bill. Feeling out of control in my own life was temporarily on hold when I felt as though I could find something to give me the upper hand in his. This was all 3-4 years ago. I go to therapy alone now, and have a corporate job that allows me to work from home. I have been able to determine the source of my anxiety attacks, and it's a daily practice for me to remove my expectations of others and clearly communicate what is important to me. I knew my mom's couldn't be a long term solution. I found a job, then another one. Once I had a steady income and could support my family, the kids and I moved in with my boyfriend, whom we have been living with for 2 years now. *side note: The best thing I ever did was to block him on all social media, and stop complaining to him about decisions he makes when the kids are with him. I force myself to believe that he is trying his best, even if it doesn't always look that way, because I know the same rings true for me. --- Yesterday, my ex called to tell the kids that he was now engaged to his girlfriend of 6 months. I didn't feel much of anything, but was holding the phone and watching the children to gauge their reaction. The youngest was excited for a wedding and all the fanfare it entails. The oldest was a bundle of emotions; he cried and asked if they needed MY permission to get married. Following my gut feeling, I assured him this morning that he did not need to worry about me and did not need to feel sad for me, I am happy for all invovled. I think he will be processing for some time, and I will work on helping him without internalizing it myself. And here's the thing. I DO feel something. Whatever it is, it's buried deep. So deep that I am having trouble extracting it and putting a name to it. I'm not sure what exactly. I don't want to be with him. I don't love him. Maybe I still resent our marriage? Perhaps I'm upset that HE gets to project his 'happily ever after' first? Is it possible that I still internalize the damaging words from our relationshp? I'll continue with this discovery over time and hope I can bring it to the surface and address it head on with myself. Whatever comes next, this divorce will always stay with me. The emotions were too strong, the feelings too deep, the growth too grand. In the end, I want the same for him that I want for myself. I want him to be the best version of himself so that he can be the best parent possible. Tldr; Split up 5 years ago and felt my life fall apart. Rembering where I was back then makes me grateful for where I am now. I love myself, and hope he can love himself so that he can be a good parent. Ex is now remarrying, and I feel some lingering resentment, but overall am happy that I don't have the same grief as before.",4.5673096092503975,5.100578051136368,5.502870813397131,83.10755183413079,69.625,8.766347687400321,29.643141945773525,8.841846274778883,2.1822992424242424,3415,125,705,57,57,1124,361,880,0.115,0.745,0.14,0.9827,8,1,2,0,6,0,103.0,5,0,2,14,42,43,7,1,49,0,76,9,3,5,12,120,133,50,1,17,11,11,13,0,1,3,3,3,4,7,50,41,0,6,21,2,5,18,14,17,0,5,41,20,122,26,108,76,23,115,0,5,4,3,88,41,0,9,53,507,172,11,0.054568004144534166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14511372968748545,0.0,0.0,0.05651599544474248,0.0,0.04363801319950708,0.0908099015998464,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05721931021747347,0.08348874762274645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04490481791567311,0.048577092777340236,0.05101371773604522,0.06207898240726197,0.05126843616264313,0.1258782807158034,0.0,0.06652829768920998,0.0,0.04643335240358441,0.12295890869522876,0.2290630150854759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055720033300184935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09401100757844362,0.0,0.0,0.06120265665966735,0.13070433321150404,0.0,0.059940390236696374,0.035191848374874816,0.0,0.04699934201040753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12276332002007605,0.14499316509100493,0.0,0.0,0.03604165209436082,0.09871976765185296,0.0,0.0,0.04904220355988826,0.0,0.05144185787946506,0.0,0.19313855736383584,0.0,0.20957536553811296,0.0,0.04987416720535661,0.13924654934778874,0.0,0.05983100000094613,0.0,0.0,0.05701905990840954,0.05234660186585115,0.062024508550975514,0.045769052915014256,0.043643017796430206,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1742659652993119,0.048882213465175024,0.05387460684393548,0.056002515121868886,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03657578293392047,0.0,0.10947231472014278,0.10839668128608394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21660129652912896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.029989148001241327,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07708599018977665,0.0,0.0,0.048184547391804035,0.0482909665129635,0.09164676035676343,0.0,0.0595674225601614,0.0,0.14774926265269692,0.0,0.07284913298794607,0.0,0.054820894601446186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31954693471499845,0.08711132059808091,0.17399145784651912,0.04011376172126108,0.12138445093350655,0.0,0.0,0.11606738293644375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05811314350693132,0.03697669183938359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12118262182919246,0.1772754926260374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05158440185424863,0.1230344513593561,0.052261063980911966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05485591594913399,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06181491129908519,0.0,0.10381333577733133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043483634359880716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045139216918554326,0.0,0.0,0.05562520831455103,0.04623529283179725,0.08401823108387545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058162231914094274,0.21789039299094756,0.045621294858311685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12384624888622413,0.05142969812042071,0.0,0.04102834804478277,0.0438596947321169,0.04769484080446471,0.0,0.12480653677598398,0.0,0.07250511450074311,0.06992994739276284,0.10722557403022984,0.0,0.1272761681637716,0.0627178934864522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03704809287627275,0.0,0.0,0.05680721675848651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1287424906107313,0.04331354175840869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05260160873156202,0.0,0.1191784707570407,0.055416457002729284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1405600223471508 divorce,nzpom,2019/04/16,"Am I the only one to be stunned that divorce isn’t fair? So to provide context, my wife cheated on me while I was working away trying to support the family. There were no jobs locally. She decided to file for divorce and pretends that the cheating never happened. I have agreed a 50/50 split; however, she wants more and child support so she can continue to live in a lifestyle block with he kids. I’m in a studio flat! She has since brought her new partner to the her house and the kids have heard them ‘together’ shall we say. She is now portraying me as the bad guy. So not only is she the one who cheated, I’m now the bad guy. I have to give up 50% of my property (yes mine, she has never contributed a cent). She also wants over $1,800 a month so she can live in the lifestyle block with her new partner and my kids rent free (and some in the bank), yet that seems to be the way the law works.",2.931917701863356,4.157209722826089,3.9650621118012417,90.04391304347826,74.05434782608695,7.213664596273293,27.27329192546584,7.7094869923839395,1.400366149068323,695,26,152,9,14,225,106,184,0.153,0.7909999999999999,0.056,-0.9524,3,0,0,0,2,0,25.0,1,0,1,2,9,8,3,0,17,1,16,0,0,0,2,19,27,12,0,2,1,1,0,0,2,1,0,2,2,8,4,8,0,2,2,1,4,1,5,5,0,2,4,2,24,4,21,20,2,21,0,0,0,0,30,9,0,2,10,105,28,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12796339308760207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15033872004376772,0.0,0.26721054511417563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15084725903746926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15350031544139542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31687866643812074,0.14150013383063814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18463504018490254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1587895209866834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2825911505391477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1277219027950414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24682581475545176,0.30908565279270883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2168596875063788,0.24339620023200534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12724980896820065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1456710262942482,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1323654982138543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3631647058769373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10863921898089599,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1887611823409506,0.12701191836364642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2329846599773666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,pepper_plant,2019/04/16,"Marrying fiance with daughter Hello, I live in Wisconsin and I'm about to get married to a gal I'm crazy about who has a young daughter. We bought a house together last summer. I know that even when you're totally in love things can happen and you could end up getting a divorce so I'm wondering if I should get a prenup. I contribute a much larger share to our finances than she does. My biggest concern is that should we divorce and if the courts are involved, could she potentially get a larger percentage of our marital estate because she has a young daughter? Otherwise what things could factor into the courts decision about how everything is split? Is there anything else I should be thinking about when entering into this marriage contract? Thanks for your input!",5.184131455399061,7.537080957746482,5.312323943661976,78.0523356807512,70.40845070422536,8.395305164319247,32.255868544600936,9.075114841892004,3.1749417840375584,624,29,102,13,12,196,92,142,0.018000000000000002,0.904,0.078,0.8406,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,4,2,0,0,10,3,0,0,10,0,14,1,0,1,1,22,28,9,0,8,2,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,8,0,0,4,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,15,3,16,20,2,14,0,0,0,1,20,6,0,3,7,75,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16776781613360175,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12427739085107475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4883213329863902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17840819906392494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17030740463544275,0.0,0.1805684986653104,0.0,0.0,0.1346543543072138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18322540367656834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4260550917627069,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18028175789369869,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2352388560504715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11204173853513352,0.16618143547628506,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1800211349813203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18400082872429965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14986806568323136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1876963032082133,0.0,0.0,0.2708846240318638,0.13063180189766085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22108855172108446,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Eyairalyn,2019/04/16,Vomiting from emotional distress? Hi all. I just learned some traumatic news about my husband who left me yesterday (news that confirms he is probably living with another woman). I woke up in the night and spent hours throwing up until early morning. Super sudden and I can’t think of any cause. Just curious—is throwing up from emotional distress a thing? Might help me feel less alarmed if this is known to happen...,4.232700000000001,7.2281559200000025,4.58625,78.87937500000002,76.46666666666667,8.016666666666666,32.04166666666667,8.841846274778883,3.3855666666666675,334,17,53,8,8,105,61,75,0.155,0.728,0.117,-0.633,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,0,0,0,1,3,4,0,3,2,0,4,1,0,1,1,16,9,4,0,1,3,1,1,0,0,1,1,0,0,1,4,3,0,0,4,0,1,2,1,3,0,0,2,1,6,1,11,6,3,13,0,0,0,0,6,5,0,3,6,35,10,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16939588335205966,0.2612020538142756,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558933227797601,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5604057651242151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1259519548868124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202774508442361,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16696582999505793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2453123687941011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2706468265184393,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995900847135802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2642547075691504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2337625665795492,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26857088710656296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1654903278950218,0.15961260117162274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,yozabru,2019/04/16,"Finding Parental Orders/Forms that argue for sole custody of children Hi all, I will soon have to propose to my government a new and improved version of a parenting order form (a form where a parenting/guardian proposes they should be the sole parent/guardian for the child because of abusive or potentially abusive behaviour from the other parent/member in the household. It is very difficult finding forms for each state in the United States and other countries such as England etc. (Non-western countries are very welcome!) I was hoping those who can access these files can please reply with a link! And if any parents/guardians have had experience filing these forms previously, what were the benefits and difficulties of filing the forms? All the parenting order forms will be analysed in determining whether they are/how they can help children in danger and better their situations. Thank you all.",10.766298701298703,10.839662220779221,9.157759740259742,63.69235389610391,56.662337662337656,11.596103896103894,43.92532467532467,10.9516,5.220418181818182,738,38,104,15,8,225,100,154,0.114,0.753,0.134,0.3302,7,0,0,0,0,0,19.0,0,1,4,1,3,8,2,0,13,0,15,0,0,0,3,18,17,9,0,3,3,3,0,0,0,3,0,0,0,3,9,7,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,3,0,0,3,0,8,5,16,9,12,11,0,0,0,0,16,5,0,3,2,83,17,1,0.0,0.3285981189073807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09429908386804284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0845308052774714,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12264069267495148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15465162076455555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13564403995021415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2534803181711841,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09294632487070953,0.0,0.0,0.13772874215604924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1339265445259422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7698727432280527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15221596602324378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15586878864103226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12766698390705306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22883146031633,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MVANDENBERG,2019/04/16,Did You Sell Your Wedding Rings? Hey all! New to the group.. been separated for 2 months now and struggling to cover the bills on my own. I’m considering selling my wedding rings for cash and would love advice as to how to go about this and not get ripped off!,3.5476923076923086,4.990359153846157,4.003076923076924,89.51692307692308,72.84615384615384,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,0.7724461538461541,204,6,44,2,4,64,42,52,0.05,0.8640000000000001,0.086,0.4559,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,2,0,0,3,2,0,1,2,0,3,1,0,1,1,7,7,5,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,1,3,0,0,0,0,4,1,1,1,0,0,2,2,4,1,10,4,2,6,0,0,0,1,7,2,0,0,3,28,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41543604295275294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.222114978115656,0.0,0.24161346015812485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3837000503974517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3393379178707742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4105970846312777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4444423830458991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30200300933559704,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,spartyhog23,2019/04/16,"Just found out today she is engaged We got married in August 2017. She cheated on me in the first month. We survived that. Then she got a DUI in January 2018 and it cost me over $4000 for her legal fees and I stood by her in court when she was treated like a criminal. I opened up my house to her and her 3 lousy kids for 3 years. I took them on vacations. I coached them in football and basketball. I stayed home with them while she got drunk 3-4 times a week before the DUI. I took her to her breathalyzer place every morning at 5:30. I drove her when she had a suspended license. A year ago this week she fucked another dude 15 years younger than me. She broke up with me via text message and moved in with him in May 2018 and took my step kids with her. The day she moved in with him, her kids had never met him. She lied about where she went and who she lived with for another month until I got an anonymous tip from a different guy she was fucking. She finally admitted it all to me. She then got sober in July. The divorce was final in October 2018. No lawyers, I got everything back. The whole thing cost me $200 and that was just the filing fee. She begged me to take her back at least a dozen times. Including two weeks ago. She said she thought he was going to propose and didn’t want to say yes. She admitted to using him for his house and car. Without him she and her kids would be homeless. I took a job transfer and moved 3 hours away from her. She begged me to help her find a job and a apartment in my new town. I said no. She blocked me from everything and blasted social media accounts with how happy she is about being engaged. I had to find out from former co-workers because she is too much of a lying, conniving, betraying coward to have the decency to tell me herself. I think that is the ultimate display of disrespect after everything I did for her and her kids. We were married 10 months and she bailed. She has been officially dating him for 11 months and said I do. Many of you will say I dodged a bullet and I would agree. Still I can’t help to feel some pain today. I could send the dipshit dozens of screenshots of all the times she said she loves me and can’t stand him. But I would rather take the high road and let them experience a slow and painful death to their relationship. Just venting I guess, but I am laying here alone. At least I have one thing she will never have....dignity.",2.8376425661914446,4.422061967413445,3.616801934826885,90.99501960285131,74.94704684317719,7.028126272912424,24.49495926680245,7.7348632917899725,1.0430826476578408,1890,60,412,26,40,600,238,491,0.086,0.862,0.052000000000000005,-0.9359,3,1,0,0,1,0,52.0,3,1,5,2,15,12,3,0,25,1,33,6,0,2,4,64,66,30,1,6,7,0,1,1,0,6,2,6,1,6,9,34,1,1,8,2,5,13,8,6,0,5,32,7,99,6,64,24,7,83,0,1,0,3,88,29,2,3,40,285,108,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13009943323999582,0.0,0.0,0.07600279097150042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15389721935426454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06894586579324886,0.11285419383555018,0.0,0.04473367462762401,0.0,0.062443638284423814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058590457668784963,0.0,0.0,0.04732604769478877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766697515279986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061828451594946626,0.0,0.19785607507815944,0.07178278177277081,0.0,0.0,0.037104715193198114,0.0,0.0,0.16077526286364802,0.13414170183705068,0.06241965246771111,0.0,0.08046081380861131,0.0,0.13568304149159666,0.0,0.0,0.04170532361160389,0.0,0.35214715404144525,0.0,0.08083979043504996,0.07266083548744444,0.0,0.07811770591000278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837432971214992,0.07753330533361502,0.07360926218645703,0.0,0.07226760065497749,0.16934855767846638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14564286565875936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07503922177625348,0.0,0.035851290350261265,0.0,0.06479864779266342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06623113944538378,0.0,0.0,0.07439897537872088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2342948554145376,0.2339839597174749,0.053945043756018614,0.0,0.1131951867987461,0.0708738837535029,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04972630772174949,0.0,0.15616964737365896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0766697515279986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07878601821696979,0.0,0.0,0.2792166429007912,0.11671441992833193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07480485917319674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07821665211444248,0.05860386201418176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11034996148665296,0.0,0.06414008967823885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09750498099520456,0.04702094630480939,0.0,0.058258007850505514,0.12837087883459405,0.0,0.13911725261001295,0.0,0.3261254279746438,0.0,0.0,0.07168465453895688,0.0,0.0,0.06337946255078504,0.0,0.0,0.04328327107236691,0.0,0.17659056025621436,0.0,0.0,0.06802689624366601,0.0,0.08192964342778875,0.0,0.07073871815809041,0.0,0.05342379226725078,0.0,0.0,0.15638780920288595,0.0,0.0,0.1417689883191344 divorce,abloodyminge,2019/04/16,"AITA Posts I've noticed an uptick in AITA posts. They are not appropriate for this sub. Whether or not you are an asshole is completely subjective and while you are welcome to farm karma over in the /r/AmITheAsshole sub (which I totally enjoy reading) while seeking validation from strangers on the internet...Asking that question in a divorce sub seems ridiculous and opens a whole can of worms when OP cannot handle someone strongly disagrees with them. We already have enough to do policing people's hurt feelings and banning trolls without that adding gasoline to the fire. Philosophically you *have* an asshole therefore you *are* an asshole.",5.556891891891893,8.91662047747748,4.9202027027027055,76.26246621621623,73.95495495495494,6.582882882882884,36.27702702702703,7.793537801064563,3.3326810810810805,527,30,76,8,12,159,80,111,0.108,0.835,0.057,-0.6021,0,0,0,0,1,0,16.0,1,4,2,1,1,5,1,0,9,0,10,0,0,1,1,17,12,8,0,0,5,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,6,0,1,3,1,0,0,4,2,0,0,0,2,8,3,13,12,3,11,1,1,0,0,10,6,0,3,3,57,12,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26698545899510445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22618009918281234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2536682068743865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24998743318755204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12233151619169125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25900046699071994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754489036363772,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16772988653830193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4634209447648202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2710268029531898,0.0,0.2420042512325236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025197796482415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20499394246369976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2701160068034515,0.0,0.2332203495075543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,SufficientTower,2019/04/17,"Not sure where to go from here I’ve been married to the same person for over 21 years and we’ve had a lot of good times together. When I look back over the past 21 years - it seems as though I’ve “put up with” or “tolerated” my spouse’s behavior in a lot of ways. Everything from getting upset about what my extended family says or does to getting upset about what their family says or does. Things I have zero control over. Stupid stuff like - “they didn’t include me on that text” or “Why did they call you and not me”. There’s also the issue of sex - most of our marriage has been about when they want sex and pleasing them. Of course there have been times during the past 21 years where they have “pleased” me but more times than not - it’s been about what they want. Overall we have had a “decent” marriage but I’m kind of at the point in life where I don’t want to deal with the garbage and constant drama. We’ve had multiple instances of trying to talk about things in the past and it ALWAYS turns into me blaming them for problems or me trying to say I’m perfect. It never ends well and always ends up in an argument instead of a healthy conversation that drives change. I’m kind of at the end of my rope and don’t know what to do. Maybe this is just a rant but I’m kind of asking what others’ opinions are on what I should do next.",3.739096650717702,4.5411802800000025,4.214736842105263,90.6242105263158,71.65454545454546,7.244019138755982,24.291866028708128,7.273561745256523,0.7633636363636365,1047,27,232,10,19,330,138,275,0.085,0.841,0.07400000000000001,-0.6372,0,0,0,0,0,0,16.0,2,1,8,2,19,12,1,2,14,0,21,3,0,1,3,39,36,20,0,5,12,1,0,1,0,1,1,3,0,1,17,11,0,1,2,1,0,3,7,4,1,1,9,4,23,8,45,26,5,40,0,0,1,2,23,18,0,10,19,159,40,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08464841021941083,0.17615178233400774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09895569915146288,0.0,0.0,0.08139231190499323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10808494453378467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119755339366439,0.0,0.0,0.11438652103943438,0.1187200609651907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1091269644410143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18526054191564764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28125572219618783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09513138341156566,0.0,0.19957239887716868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11060477825573256,0.0,0.06015713890864805,0.08878217137868709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11048016485812244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33068025391657835,0.05817253160756581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07476516506286998,0.05171308760819367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08888755464750372,0.0,0.0,0.17998020213899185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10634080780906677,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08163824167219615,0.0,0.11257294642379036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30313813515801685,0.0,0.09242435932750064,0.0,0.2323835862431885,0.1000627042555342,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1012843980936758,0.0,0.10640874173153844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25252911250582155,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0963620961691488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12117321686281513,0.0,0.0,0.09976261210734977,0.0,0.0,0.08507842496881365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064441126603766,0.0,0.10399733753947836,0.0,0.18516640373770527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14373074912003514,0.11513468114647807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1872996676325928,0.08401900503716732,0.0,0.0,0.09517209083077156,0.0,0.0955133906628618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20449228023445346 divorce,WhittlingDixi,2019/04/17,"Trouble knowing if I'm done So, here I am. Where I never expected to be. Where I never wanted to be. I never for a moment believed my (35m) wife (37f) would have been capable of the scale of infidelity I came to find out almost a year ago. She's been seeing older men most of our marriage. During marriage counseling (where everything was my fault). During every major milestone of our adult lives together. Hell we renewed our vows in the middle of her last one. We've been married for more than ten years. The scale of it is unfathomable. I wanted to make it work after I found out. After the entire scale of everything came out - and I still don't think I know everything - I still wanted to make it work. I tried to reconcile and for the life of me I don't even know why. I've posted and deleted on here before. The advice was divorce. Every person in real life said to divorce. And I kept going because I wanted to make it work. Hard to give up on the dream, the illusion, am I right? And now here I am and I just can't get up the courage to tell her I'm done. I've watched as she mourned the loss of another man. I've watched her in depression over it. I've suffered through years and years of a terrible marriage and now it all makes sense. Everything makes sense now. I can't deal with being bested by losers. I can't deal with living this fairy tale existence that's all a sham anyway. I can't to do it. And yet I wake up every day and make it to the end of the day. Again and again. And now she's all smiles. She seems happy that we are back together and all I want to do is end it, find a new life and forget the past decade took place. And I can't. There are kids and finances and real life bullshit in the way of me uprooting. It would have been nice to have been forewarned before we decided to have kids. I find myself getting excited by the idea of being poor and alone. I won't have to live a lie anymore. I look good. Make decent money. I could date. I'm just longing to be alone, away from this whole cluster. Rebuild an authentic life just relying on myself again. I can't imagine why, but I feel bad. I wanted to make this work and tried for a long time. Then just when I give up, she starts wanting to keep it going. WHY? Why wasn't it good enough when I wanted to try? Why does it take me being absolutely done with this terrible situation for her to finally show up and try? I know I'm past the point of no return. It's timing now. But why can't I just leave? Why do I keep being stuck? Why don't I just call my attorney and tell them to file? (I've had a lawyer since the hour after I found out.) Now that she's trying why am I now done? What's wrong with me? So, all of you out there in the ethos, how did you get out? Why is this so hard to do? To look into your kids eyes and tell them that their lives blew up because mommy fell in love with a coworker (s) for years and daddy wasn't strong enough to swallow his pride and stick it out? How do you do that? Aside from the infidelity and the terrible marriage for a decade or more, there's nothing else. And now she seems happy. I'm miserable and I want out but can't seem to pull the rip chord. So close but just can't reach yet.",0.9283639705882364,2.9484440580357147,2.6453676470588263,93.6981617647059,82.37797619047619,5.798179271708682,19.406162464986,6.986292612891036,0.1802014355742303,2485,64,560,31,68,819,262,672,0.096,0.847,0.057,-0.9704,0,2,0,0,2,0,84.0,6,4,3,9,42,25,1,1,32,0,58,9,2,10,8,117,112,43,1,14,13,1,3,0,0,3,5,1,0,7,26,47,1,3,18,2,3,7,19,14,0,2,23,10,73,11,89,78,13,93,1,6,6,1,49,34,1,7,50,372,99,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050705251102962236,0.045996395891599616,0.0,0.051959257035522136,0.10748254240101986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05441005584533879,0.0,0.0,0.05145986467541818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04875134747536233,0.03989937579598524,0.04332507995993872,0.06326200680867054,0.0,0.08830729653199512,0.05846104281370972,0.054454219194241565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298438782369975,0.11869419993100637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.041429079578418126,0.0,0.0,0.06692812017831352,0.10699039409986423,0.04469184989754611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045408342686521184,0.21240151832253373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.043346533580372534,0.0,0.09191636156640068,0.10723024821015326,0.0,0.034272141620707464,0.0,0.1311559566141824,0.0,0.18653765830662725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.026236596531870424,0.0,0.0,0.05684177444962853,0.14227659574553184,0.0,0.0,0.11378704283435476,0.0,0.0,0.08132945561753405,0.09955315854069513,0.058979336891895925,0.0870439268012606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11047343828321672,0.092964558795808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051100132984137736,0.0,0.0,0.0585762736053848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09224251071064617,0.0,0.0,0.11406717147061192,0.042296394503379096,0.0,0.054942873048160125,0.0,0.0,0.1832533901220534,0.0,0.0,0.18327546448959575,0.09184012092453876,0.08714724679664376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.046831775272408685,0.0,0.2770900508303035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12005979953995832,0.05011464130651018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04978881722840043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035161274407365266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09906768907020794,0.0,0.04530740261826733,0.05421287635722388,0.0,0.049051800431892674,0.0,0.049695240976007006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11812189949468815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044312853306217634,0.04935824440793928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413487503587014,0.1417131691269431,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04292304999865915,0.058325319011814675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03672724393606165,0.0,0.08287711547546682,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03901400942923142,0.0,0.13605960689716548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.033248324109820385,0.0,0.0,0.06051369189222396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057650498245320224,0.1761458496004136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2754488593735654,0.04118700866853076,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4682167858869332,0.05793212499873737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15110300409207986,0.0,0.0,0.07372079857766815,0.056732387262991,0.0,0.16707381294145385 divorce,youknowit84,2019/04/17,"Fathers: Do you regret your decision? I’m reaching a point in my marriage of 2 years where the only option seems to be divorce. If I didn’t have a 10 month old baby the decision would be so much easier. I’m constantly depressed and find myself sinking into these deep pits of self loathing. I love my daughter more than anything in this world and I can’t bare with the thought of leaving her. Meanwhile, the love for my wife has seemed to finally dissolve. I often fear my depression might actually spiral out of control even more if I decide to leave though. Are there any other fathers out there that have found themselves in this position? How did you finally tell your wife? How did you cope with leaving your child? Do you regret your decision?",4.3549061032863845,6.501895922535213,4.730633802816904,82.22275821596246,72.16901408450704,7.550234741784037,30.143192488262912,8.344100000000001,2.4000122065727694,599,26,106,10,12,189,93,142,0.141,0.773,0.086,-0.8117,0,0,0,0,1,0,13.0,0,8,0,1,9,7,0,1,6,0,14,2,0,3,0,27,22,8,0,5,2,5,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,5,7,0,1,9,0,0,0,2,5,0,0,5,0,19,2,17,13,3,16,0,4,0,2,21,10,0,7,6,77,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.1506994327132863,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10501632247481224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12708107004502392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.166881785651397,0.1732041116949745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2660171870782701,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10199822484400324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17377441188415702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3383366090750678,0.14114437671172445,0.0,0.0,0.16932231005284298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4905508019395913,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2787545638054217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16382368353009738,0.0,0.0,0.12326294091012703,0.0,0.11352233456645933,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16204618822037767,0.0,0.0,0.11744943815584888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14598435734848852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811708675408581,0.1611020634190917,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13497686186904542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15172470701854845,0.12259856694698905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1097012067734513,0.0,0.0,0.09944655648627992 divorce,Lindsey76827,2019/04/17,"She want space but said I haven’t fought for her? This may be long, and it’s my first post here. My wife and I have been married for 2.5 years. We let ourselves get into a rut and didn’t work to get out. I’ve dealt with unhappiness inside myself that I allowed to infiltrate parts of our marriage. Basically, I was not the best I could be and did not address her needs. She said she needed space to miss me and hopefully rekindle her desire to be with me about 5 weeks ago. She is living at her sister’s home in a nearby city and we have seen each other a bit. She’s said to me a few times she doesn’t want me to fight for her because she thinks that could make things harder. She doesn’t want to have her heart broken again. Another time we sat down together, she made the comment that I haven’t fought for her at all and my actions don’t match when I say that I want to work it out and be better. Then she says “I can’t even say that would have changed things but you haven’t tried.” Now, I’m the type that if you tell me what you need (and it’s space) I’m going to make sure and do that. So I gave her space and was hoping she would miss me. It hasn’t worked and she told me she wants a divorce. I can’t let go and feel like maybe she kind of does want me to show her I love her and want her, etc. Does anybody have any advice at all how I can manage to fight for her without smothering her or overstepping this new dynamic between us? Thanks for reading this far. TLDR: wife left for space but said I’m not fighting for her and asked for divorce. How do i fight for her without being overbearing??",2.6723235294117664,3.6234662911764737,3.4922352941176484,94.24805882352942,74.32352941176471,6.616470588235294,21.835294117647056,6.742157984588678,0.1989494117647057,1249,28,295,10,25,397,163,340,0.093,0.7709999999999999,0.136,0.9057,1,0,0,0,7,0,30.0,5,3,0,6,9,19,7,0,8,0,35,2,1,6,3,63,74,25,0,18,10,3,1,1,0,3,0,7,2,0,18,24,0,0,2,2,0,3,15,9,0,1,16,9,63,10,37,46,8,31,0,2,1,1,62,15,0,5,13,201,81,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09508171545196267,0.08625174179889628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06616822840829323,0.10202890894094532,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09096359151915458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0593139763580693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10211172338091827,0.08605510289392705,0.10622783131381852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10293188584885593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15537435946872738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.170298066750439,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10851668273661504,0.06426659855983043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0491984666599061,0.06951207636066949,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0827644458356755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10167183856608014,0.0,0.11059715524361301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.115302522587428,0.0,0.0,0.0976011488751318,0.19328431402623208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10132434277375413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10571815961921996,0.19899436670092405,0.0,0.04753650590842642,0.0,0.08591884067658223,0.08610859876316329,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08781823250454797,0.09206885356653302,0.12989876193551492,0.0,0.09775224556349237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21644306867857652,0.0,0.0939742129470374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1053678383856724,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0931877598279238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0973276425934425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702233159618404,0.2321337248248283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0917053345530597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08504563495953453,0.08958197476425928,0.0,0.0,0.12928533561542427,0.062346751539504475,0.0,0.0,0.11347435439695598,0.0,0.0,0.09297557287207607,0.0,0.06606120346684287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1170414973119669,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4017358414930298,0.0,0.07804924294196934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1875899841162661,0.0,0.2125095408241734,0.0,0.0,0.13824011992406438,0.0,0.0,0.06265885444218104 divorce,diggastyle,2019/04/17,"Wife continues to threaten divorce / I never do anything right. This sucks! I’m not perfect by any means but I’m not as bad as she thinks I am. I make good money, I’m a laid back person and hardly have my own life and even with that it’s never good enough. If I go golfing once every 3 weeks I’ll hear about it for the next 3. We just bought a house together and have an awesome 2 yr old. I have flaws I own up to them but I get nagged all day. I’m the one getting up at night for our kid, I get him up bring him to day care which is fine I’m not bragging it’s my responsibility, but I get told I don’t do shit. She constantly threatens divorce , today she said she’s going to take the kid and I will only get to see him on the weekends. I love her but not if she doesn’t love me back. The thing is I know she does, we been together for 9 years. I don’t want to break up a family but I feel like I can’t take this anymore. Something needs to give. She’s way worse that time of the month or when there’s alcohol involved. It’s also never her fault these arguments. I’ve almost never gotten an apology. I just want her to be normal is it that much to ask. Is this how marriage is? I know the answer is no. I fuck up my “tasks” sometime but I feel like with all this pressure I can never get it right even if it is right. Ok I’m done thanks for listening. I don’t even know what I’m asking for if anything. Just somewhere to vent my frustration. Most likely sleeping in the spare room today so looking forward to some comments!",-0.11444963144963086,1.9245737909090928,2.119893529893531,95.74957002457005,86.84848484848484,4.9009009009009015,18.918918918918926,6.243973517019112,-0.1766658476658476,1181,33,276,11,37,398,171,330,0.118,0.726,0.156,0.9475,0,0,2,0,2,0,30.0,3,0,1,1,14,20,5,1,13,1,23,7,2,2,8,51,69,21,0,8,18,1,3,3,0,1,2,3,1,3,18,8,1,0,8,2,2,4,15,8,0,1,6,8,44,12,31,61,8,40,0,0,2,3,36,13,3,8,26,176,62,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1032320314738022,0.09672720702247764,0.0,0.0,0.07724799896118748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0656887732563006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957975396069448,0.0,0.0,0.15898099264250695,0.0,0.1806089382055022,0.0,0.0,0.14855313192979008,0.08065384721889676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09848633091448568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10438624701308157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12459320062423483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08453204326197318,0.09885151754877204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0998097645103378,0.0,0.19140276786772545,0.0,0.08138652020484717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09106236266685387,0.0,0.09768394888974173,0.1380167833557523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0893016913164416,0.30280537249270034,0.09266394022266436,0.10979576797433203,0.16204072975868167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0865312808288219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10887101210057357,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11145912161486768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592603446258379,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0682287993140031,0.1415761687957196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08111653498600879,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17436380273519062,0.0,0.06447875758743102,0.0,0.0,0.10522165175835962,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07710221787943627,0.0,0.07100936996389881,0.07162490721676379,0.3725049762624399,0.0,0.10273122467229363,0.0906490519603774,0.09464383127757972,0.0,0.0,0.1013615318476732,0.10287187064936028,0.06545612972199012,0.0734658130306353,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08434413351429958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2474780499215113,0.0918851692172741,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07697471758174966,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09915467884667288,0.0,0.0,0.09666602659330917,0.0,0.0,0.07436452477585907,0.09553617696023926,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14525674084439838,0.0,0.0,0.08893286354638942,0.0,0.0,0.06417426687172649,0.0618949868186604,0.0,0.0,0.05632605946763181,0.0,0.18312393078452965,0.09230187163365218,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.113949960731379,0.07667361970541542,0.07748369792833011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0984398474277452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06220482822290727 divorce,sous_neux,2019/04/17,"No-contact with ex wife for a year... is breaking it worth $$$$? I've been divorced since June of 2018, and have had zero contact with the ex since it was final. The divorce was extremely quick, she just wanted out. I complied and filed before she could slow down and lawyer up. This saved me a significant amount of money. &#x200B; In the year since the divorce, I've been though a lot. I've gotten into decent shape, picked up new hobbies, made new friends, fell in love, and found out I wasn't ready for a relationship. Besides work stress, I'm generally happy with my life. Sometimes I miss the ex and sad about it, but the distance has given me perspective. She was not a good wife, and we were not a good match. Our marriage was mostly about getting her needs met. I still feel hurt, and we are not going to be friends in this life. I have no idea what she is up to or if she is dating. She is blocked on all social media. &#x200B; Smash cut to this April. I had a professional do my taxes and found out I overpaid in 2016 and 2017. Years that I filed as married. To get a refund, I will have to get her to sign an amended return... which means I would have to break no-contact. &#x200B; The amount I am owed is on the order of a few thousand dollars. I don't need the money, but who couldn't use a few thousand bucks? I also don't want to split the refund with her on principle (she never contributed to the tax bill among a host of other reasons). Maybe she would sign it over to me, but that would require a conversation. &#x200B; My friends seem split on the issue. Most say that I should just leave it alone. I'm tempted to do so, but I also wouldn't hate a nice vacation or new camera. &#x200B; I also have some desire to put the no-contact thing behind me, just to prove to myself (and maybe to her) that I'm over her... Maybe offer to split the refund and be a bigger person. &#x200B; Or maybe I should count my blessings on getting out of the marriage relatively unscathed and not open a Pandora's box. &#x200B; I suppose this is a poll... what would you do in my situation?",3.0865446416096134,4.6866744275534495,3.954082017605142,88.76809941316195,74.32066508313541,6.188095570769876,24.97142657538075,6.661559191721324,0.8080847561827582,1638,53,337,13,34,525,199,421,0.084,0.838,0.079,0.4648,1,1,0,0,3,0,95.0,3,1,0,2,12,16,2,1,32,0,41,3,0,4,3,76,67,26,0,15,15,5,1,0,3,8,2,1,0,1,19,24,0,2,8,0,13,3,11,6,0,3,16,2,45,10,53,39,9,46,1,3,0,1,40,25,0,9,15,236,64,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05960201273433439,0.0,0.13806251122097307,0.0,0.4364700036092375,0.4894868785540114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04896881386371705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045947117986691766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.02909782231915825,0.0,0.0,0.06304064062698943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1261960616955245,0.13338352117118404,0.0,0.12026509337815967,0.0,0.03270565721619945,0.09653648151154967,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06126054639455115,0.0,0.056816392914976324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06160595244536706,0.06496429517515531,0.0,0.06006479807036691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060934654985352964,0.0,0.0,0.08129521797810349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04892495640292116,0.051939003373092964,0.054452980429790715,0.0,0.0,0.2312574082739233,0.06268626446395884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0853417105883791,0.044384297463326665,0.16673964474246813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05024839062213998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05785128573291396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059168571524730824,0.0,0.061784642393148036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045764203221546236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052389221680380856,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1428120389860975,0.06468597278814105,0.0,0.05866258478195651,0.0,0.0,0.05691610001103535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.045957629784414235,0.0,0.06592064173586204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038232103352075664,0.0,0.05654027659341704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04970269493739599,0.0,0.0,0.06788619314272877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0418953765556204,0.0,0.0,0.16352080542411082,0.0,0.4894868785540114,0.11117640469675953 divorce,makeitwrite,2019/04/17,"What am I doing? I've been hanging around here for a while... I'm not totally sure what I'm hoping to get out of this post. Advice? Sympathy? Confirmation? Who knows. &#x200B; I think that my marriage is over. I cannot see a future in which this marriage works or we are happy. My spouse (31M) and I (30F) have been together for more than a decade--since high school--and we've been married for nearly 6 years. We have two small kids. One is in preschool and the other is a toddler. One of my biggest concerns is that my sons are getting a terrible model of what a relationship looks like. Also, I'm at a point in my life where I think I finally feel worthy of being taken care of, loved, and supported (thanks therapy!). &#x200B; My spouse works crazy hours. He thinks his job is more important than mine because he makes more money. I'm a teacher and he manages three stores. He comes from a family that is close, but that also really values traditional gender roles. Women cook, clean, and tend to the kids. Men work outside the home and have very little to do with keeping the household moving. They justify behavior from men towards women that isn't okay. Verbal and emotional abuse that comes with an I'm sorry later. He saw much of this growing up and is recreating it in our marriage. &#x200B; I am estranged from my family with the exception of a younger sister. My dad died. My parents had many issues with mental illness and addiction. There was plenty of verbal and emotional abuse between my parents and directed at the kids. In many ways my family has becomes my in laws. My sisters-in-law and my mother-in-law, and too a lesser extent my father-in-law, are the only people I can depend on. Like, if I were in a car accident it is more likely I could reach and count on my mother-in-law than my spouse. &#x200B; He is good dad. He isn't a good partner. There's been issues with emotional and verbal abuse most of our relationship. I think maybe I chose to stay with him and marry him because I felt so damage that it was like I was lucky to have someone like that. My parents definitely liked to show off my accomplishments and then belittle me, call me ungrateful... among many other things. I found success despite the verbal and emotional abuse that I grew up with. I've only come to really see this recently. &#x200B; I struggled with some postpartum depression and some underlying anxiety issues that I finally really took the time to address and my spouse loves to call me crazy, ask me when I'll be fixed, etc... he'll throw these things in my face when I'm upset. There is a fair amount of gas lighting. He has called me many terrible things--bitch, cunt, whore. He'll tell me I'm the reason my dad killed himself or that I'm crazy like my parents. It's just exhausting. And so dehumanizing. How did I end up here? &#x200B; This feels like such a failure--I guess it almost feels as if I am somehow making this giant failure public. Like, I should have somehow figured out after watching my parents that I didn't need someone like that. I should have made better choices. I want to blame myself. Like that time he flipped out about not getting a BJ when we were in high school and coming home from our first solo trip together. Or when he tried to call off our engagement because I was struggling after a huge life change and was pretty depressed. Here I am feeling stuck and like I'll lose my family that I gained when we got married. &#x200B; So what do I do now...?",3.4474457593688363,5.5969943165680505,4.339502958579882,84.01767652859962,74.76923076923076,7.169388560157793,25.763708086785012,8.07648339933343,1.6811091518737669,2762,98,516,45,60,890,305,676,0.16399999999999998,0.6809999999999999,0.155,-0.9711,7,0,0,0,4,0,129.0,8,0,1,9,26,40,2,3,28,1,52,10,1,6,2,91,103,44,2,8,10,14,5,12,1,4,5,0,4,8,37,45,1,1,13,2,2,12,6,13,0,5,22,11,74,27,72,74,12,73,0,4,5,3,63,37,1,15,33,336,111,8,0.0,0.20991169254789746,0.0,0.0482840318270033,0.0,0.04328092530132716,0.0,0.0,0.04435131812877488,0.0,0.0,0.07083943974403697,0.0,0.3359270765899908,0.3767312639633797,0.0,0.0,0.03388270725965053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039428628670699406,0.04140636704929895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08099865787682183,0.04891623794614728,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03917203704672114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1809053919782384,0.0,0.04515791087309187,0.0,0.04685430044433541,0.15261206041123307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03536298232495096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07629602752843151,0.0,0.045967354985766734,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19928691005204469,0.03922892690982805,0.0,0.04939648403634586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16701550434541054,0.0,0.08958000601169325,0.03164169861897652,0.042526573709362234,0.09703786256589644,0.0,0.037674139352580086,0.0,0.048563101395280465,0.0,0.0,0.0694210957802446,0.0,0.0,0.07429884700047287,0.03542378195936144,0.0,0.04879183734095408,0.0,0.0,0.047148890165316114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09359233619942853,0.08885552839909544,0.04399123384303081,0.04361798808733526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1386857643473539,0.043952260222656164,0.03936812390069312,0.04900173799441918,0.0,0.02434132866105071,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06256848051482544,0.259661780588907,0.04439149736682786,0.0,0.0,0.03719351937694584,0.049550612011340485,0.0,0.0,0.07994921721924958,0.041909479176416034,0.05912954541618811,0.17961762075218335,0.04449654298052708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044635191884735526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04707462023131576,0.0325591863379338,0.032841422219257066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060025833933232915,0.06737102715172229,0.0,0.0,0.24590111945078386,0.0,0.0,0.030705996116522888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04186957492977146,0.0,0.04241880211078094,0.045060153818652963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08512238254995744,0.045538811588306666,0.043732294744050236,0.09510451635008517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08965027803915121,0.07058883001857888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03663820374195064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07505571405443827,0.0,0.0,0.04958046074087145,0.0,0.04720861034873748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09260572310785783,0.0,0.0,0.05026121861569868,0.041744006359766016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.038712530126228085,0.040777459048644535,0.050650937642276295,0.0,0.05885031550735116,0.11352025290393505,0.0,0.0,0.05165320201603072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04920924073669025,0.0300708711340902,0.0,0.04326614387895287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03654494379253197,0.02612414394423886,0.03515635573814667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967337360133896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3767312639633797,0.028522131575853787 divorce,superponydeluxe,2019/04/17,"Need some advice and just venting about my mom. In short, my mom is a 63 y/o married to a 60 y/o man (I am their adult daughter). This man is rude, abusive, possibly narcissistic. Mom has no assets or savings, and has been unemployed for quite a while (more than 5 years) to be a homemaker. She has a physical ailment which could be reversed with knee surgery. Right now, her joints are gone and she cannot stand or walk for long periods of time. It’s so difficult to motivate her to lose weight as well, since she needs to lose 20lbs to qualify for it. She’s in denial about her situation and is avoidant because she feels so stuck right now. I think she’s afraid to try because she thinks he’ll screw her monetarily and also probably because of retaliation from him. Her only friend is her sister who she may be able to stay or live with, but it’s not certain at this point. I would let her stay with me in Milwaukee (she lives on the west coast) but I’m in the process of finding out my life situation. I am in despair that she will stay with the person called my father until her death, silently complacent and miserable. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation? It’s just awful.",4.28167959949937,5.528202289361705,5.166282853566957,82.64411764705883,70.78723404255321,8.763454317897374,29.568210262828536,9.168548406835145,2.385102628285358,938,37,191,19,17,306,143,235,0.14800000000000002,0.823,0.029,-0.9785,2,1,0,0,0,0,30.0,0,0,1,4,10,13,2,3,9,1,21,4,1,1,1,33,31,17,1,4,8,6,2,0,1,4,1,0,0,4,9,11,1,1,5,0,0,3,3,9,1,0,4,2,29,4,33,18,2,28,0,4,0,1,34,13,1,5,8,125,38,3,0.1157830738982032,0.13718400958101767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1131418797903842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09259168236512066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08095821736018202,0.11863344181935732,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21174086156611852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11822746377378487,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0924433631532456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967219012824068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058543401055049224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1058236319557156,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08945371568141883,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1183960376041724,0.08178100920659273,0.0,0.0,0.20447715099272287,0.10246437691905508,0.0,0.2590632870575502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4068112103721527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17170336442703074,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805824508471331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10109731416656108,0.0,0.0,0.10945242923060672,0.13052801909369546,0.0,0.0,0.12483373656025815,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1231495511110122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19775622496219547,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0957769551978657,0.3904350785466296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3702280540419148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14837823727670152,0.0,0.0,0.06751404149285799,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0786091069763021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14099259186629576,0.10410288842266396,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0822489737186054,0.0,0.0,0.07456050349325173 divorce,ShortBusKing54,2019/04/17,What if I can’t afford court ordered air travel. My ex wife and I live in separate states. I moved with our two daughters to OK. She lives in TX. I have been ordered to receive no child support and to pay 100% or their travel to and from South TX. The problem is this cost has gotten out of hand and I have had to resort to driving them all the way to south TX. We were meeting in Dallas or Waco before. The case is still in TX but the children and I have lived in OK for almost three years. What can I do?,1.5783333333333331,2.9663846111111165,3.0751851851851875,94.38833333333334,77.8888888888889,5.170370370370371,21.259259259259263,5.033348758259628,-0.1832296296296297,390,10,89,1,9,128,73,108,0.042,0.795,0.163,0.9124,1,0,0,0,0,0,10.0,2,0,2,0,1,4,0,0,4,2,12,1,1,0,1,15,14,9,0,2,4,3,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,3,8,0,0,0,2,2,5,2,1,0,2,4,1,13,3,17,10,1,20,0,0,0,0,12,9,0,4,2,63,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2610495810582276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22183326012823876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6905985471061344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2770787973917563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24945105011108498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20819231748631525,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2958349518498643,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2546623011476578,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20692850458987508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1678798018391601 divorce,ajfuckinpuppy,2019/04/17,"It’s extra hard today My husband of 2 years (together 14) told me he wanted to separate 2 weeks ago. He claims he isn’t involved with anyone, but I saw their texts (co worker). Today I finally put a face to her because he Venmo’s me CC payment. She is the person most active on his Venmo. From the dates of their transactions, It’s seems as though he has been involved with her since January. Our anniversary was Feb 13. It was difficult to finally put a face to her, but the dates hit me hard. I finally broke down.",2.5537393162393194,4.366643903846153,4.4608974358974365,83.66188034188036,76.30769230769229,8.083760683760685,25.017094017094017,8.841846274778883,1.9621850427350431,402,14,80,9,9,137,68,104,0.096,0.865,0.039,-0.5804,0,0,0,0,1,0,15.0,1,0,2,1,1,2,0,0,5,0,6,2,2,0,0,7,11,4,0,1,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,3,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,1,2,0,0,5,3,15,0,12,5,2,15,0,1,1,0,19,2,0,2,10,46,18,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16502839846376244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13017433454839664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134874533631146,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.6118201320838997,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33354335605160673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16255639051082849,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3743043738801671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1694821002741135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15400167906965062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291099809791936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3529346258497174,0.17789333371498242,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1098078404718166,0.0,0.14933427772454722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11988732264998116 divorce,hegotadog,2019/04/17,Selling the house About to get a divorce my STBX husband is living in the house we are about to sell. He is a very messy person and leaves his clothes and dishes everywhere. Can he be forced to keep the house clean? Otherwise it will be on the market for years,3.7288461538461526,5.216507269230776,3.77615384615385,91.14384615384618,72.46153846153847,6.7384615384615385,24.538461538461537,7.1686216300943375,0.8353307692307697,206,6,43,2,4,63,39,52,0.104,0.847,0.049,-0.4754,0,0,0,0,1,0,3.0,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,6,0,7,1,0,0,0,4,9,2,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,3,1,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,3,0,8,6,0,3,0,0,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,27,4,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1274499438307202,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8444310485687219,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21682739764352765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2582999983480788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21540579127255546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21300127518260692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20127819856369092,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15709104097616858 divorce,Lifeis_weird_,2019/04/17,"How to separate? My wife doesn't love me and although I've tried for two years to win her back am no considering the possibility of a separation. She thinks it will help her decide if she wants to try to reconcile or not. We get on well as friends and parents it's just she doesn't want to be intimate. So we share things together, joke together, go on holiday together etc. So if we separate do we do the same thing but living apart, or should I reduce contact with her? The other complication is that she's homesick and wants to go back to Mexico but I wouldn't want her to take the kids so am thinking we separate just here in Boston initially. I guess it would be a trial separation rather than legal which would mean selling the house etc and sorting out settlements etc. Sorry I'm new to all of this so any advice gratefully received!!",3.1135742971887552,5.257575337349401,4.719975903614458,80.93365863453815,75.74698795180723,8.764016064257026,26.729317269076304,9.3871,2.524443052208835,670,26,131,18,15,225,105,166,0.058,0.8220000000000001,0.12,0.8898,1,0,0,0,0,0,13.0,5,0,0,1,12,7,0,0,7,0,14,1,0,1,1,39,28,17,0,11,10,2,0,0,1,5,0,0,1,1,9,11,0,0,5,2,1,3,5,1,1,1,0,0,18,6,19,21,5,12,0,1,0,1,22,5,0,6,4,98,27,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14870465295889493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1034849171114427,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23402794392914045,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5091494900957557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11757082144059958,0.0,0.07950569359100497,0.0,0.17297028677455367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16763905088671802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1020003835723185,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17559070431449209,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1343742203714943,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13734480626456544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16576430599575126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14697255573217602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.168973469839432,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17155560625915667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17034860407171845,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144174342205354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20219798174633244,0.195016507784412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20663506729739045,0.0,0.14865386693089055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3590294553113109,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13682452442536208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21620296773768055,0.0,0.0,0.09799637249218464 divorce,Throw-it-away_4,2019/04/17,"Do you regret it? For those who initiated your divorce and now have their marriage in the rear-view mirror, do you look back and feel it was a mistake? I can totally understand having second thoughts while in the middle of the traumatic process (I know it’s bad even if you’re the one who wants it), but I’m wondering if there is anyone who, once the smoke clears, has decided they made a tragic mistake. In the years I’ve been on Reddit reading this sub and the DB sub, I can remember exactly one person who wished they could have their old life back. Even for those who haven’t been in a relationship since, posters seem generally happier. Would love to hear about a diversity of experiences.",4.80368421052632,6.4223900075187945,5.389481203007518,80.11143984962409,69.97744360902256,9.229774436090226,29.089473684210525,9.642632912329526,2.681842706766917,553,21,106,13,10,178,90,133,0.112,0.8029999999999999,0.085,-0.2047,0,0,1,0,1,0,15.0,0,3,4,0,7,6,0,0,11,0,15,2,0,1,3,26,28,7,0,9,3,0,1,0,0,1,1,1,0,1,12,3,0,0,8,1,0,0,1,5,0,3,5,3,10,1,11,21,1,12,0,2,1,1,18,6,0,4,6,76,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1348255711720809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29653631161085864,0.16099825066509554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539526146277835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25471412182423664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188616839309336,0.0,0.0,0.0974965573968447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21732431992684992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10596988558396876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13619582590674867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16192185100999915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1740293128453661,0.18245276480387587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20233417096545267,0.2053490538677312,0.2613222491903376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1683646647730394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19287410231718116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070185826023471,0.218429649200974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1755378358735208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15950428641757847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15307906762383305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20073442099760053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11373136541966496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2217356942096308,0.0,0.20910714914033585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13697516103390042,0.0,0.0,0.12417099583148472 divorce,kenosha_wosha,2019/04/17,"One photo that says it all Was in the north visiting my in-laws (salt of the earth people). Me and the stbxh are in my favourite little shop while I pick out one goodie that I’ve been meaning to get. I find a fun little photo booth and ask him to take a photo with me. He is apprehensive but agrees. We go in and he sits there looking as cold as stone and unhappy as ever. I meanwhile do some cute and nice poses, while he makes no effort. We get out and immediately things feel tense and awkward (not the first time these feelings are present). The photos finish printing and I take them to have a look. A wave of discomfort and sadness overcomes me as I stare at the reaction on my husbands face. If only you could see what I saw - a lifeless and loveless expression that speaks a thousand words. I just want to say for the record, he was not having a bad day, or simply in a bad mood. This is just how he is. He is unhappy, unhealthy, negative, depressed, self centered, and unloving. This is not the first instance I’ve been in a situation and we’ve been struggling for years. In this instance, as the tears start to run down my face I make my way to the door and head to the train station. I collect my things and head to my parents home where I will begin the process of separation. Why did I stay with him for so long if I (and obviously he) was so unhappy? It’s time to start living for me. This one activity of taking a photo with him really put things into perspective and I saw what I had been ignoring for many years - a dysfunctional and unhappy marriage that is going nowhere.",4.59099306811332,5.324392870253167,5.439330922242316,82.86672995780592,69.66455696202532,8.42411091018686,29.28812537673297,8.563005593585519,2.033335322483423,1241,45,253,19,21,406,168,316,0.17,0.768,0.061,-0.9907,1,0,0,0,0,0,37.0,2,1,1,3,8,14,0,4,23,0,22,4,4,4,3,50,44,31,0,4,9,2,2,0,0,1,0,3,2,1,16,25,0,1,4,1,1,5,5,10,0,6,11,13,32,3,38,31,2,41,0,2,6,0,24,17,0,4,16,175,48,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11825618943096215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21123686855855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10099634028950552,0.0,0.0,0.08157911386459013,0.0,0.108950363521265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11442239521164453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12791982145563385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11561456852184646,0.2151939654412452,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1321773250205581,0.0,0.14378058212730274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2596416936765473,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12688527087924725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2535633863016984,0.11169781809460592,0.1119445109511436,0.21244867330705544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1688734178339804,0.12824655299702598,0.0,0.13779065096343313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25714981393713154,0.0962055055388813,0.0,0.0,0.1404582504349407,0.0,0.0,0.08769603208846108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1271628862937412,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08103623760453385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2011885508457833,0.0,0.0,0.1008005126898519,0.0,0.13196236353233504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.142186208970953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790682903993105,0.13482734096246438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13224053104194616,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28532655413555896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2521139098157262,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14752105237947707,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07461030597814639,0.10040621672803712,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1141424871561215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16291787157241552 divorce,trainertreyy,2019/04/17,"I (25M) feel blindsided by their decision (24NB). Hey all, first time poster. A little background: My spouse and I had been married for coming on 4 years. When we first started dating, they were in a polyamorous relationship. After a little ways into therelationship, I expressed my discomfort with the idea and they made the decision to be monogamous with me. For the past month, our marriage has been shaky. I saw a lot of bad signs stacking up on their end (new friend circles, sudden interest in appearance, asking for financial independence, talking about finding themselves, remarking on sexual satisfaction). I was of course afraid, because we all know what those signs mean. I confronted them and they assured me that we were okay. Things came to a head a few days ago. They expressed feeling chained and I knew that we needed a compromise to keep us alive. But how can you compromise between a polyamorous person and a monogamous person? I decided that I would make the same sacrifice they made for me. I would change my lifestyle to suit theres. I wanted to make that sacrifice for them. Two nights ago, I said that is what I would do to save us. They did not like or appreciate that. They didn't want to inevitably hurt me. They wanted to mercy kill me and announced a divorce. I thought if I gave them what they were asking for that they would stay. But that doesn't look to be the case. You may be reading this and asking how I was blindsided. Here is how: they announced yesterday that they have always been unhappy in the relationship and that they never wanted a family (like we were planning). I feel uprooted. I feel betrayed (why string me along for 4 years if you knew this wasn't what you wanted? We were even planning our 5 year anniversary renewing of the vows right before this...) Anyway. I have no support system here. While they had years to decide on this, I have had 3 days. Not a smooth stroll into ""our marriage is in jeopardy."" Just a straight decent from ""everything is okay"" to divorce. How can I cope? How can I live without a support system? I don't even know how to function - they have been a constant my whole adult life.",3.96824560221069,6.410909693266838,4.173913863988677,84.44107838511829,74.26184538653366,7.427404461818428,27.296690705668265,8.358175599149588,2.0316002021972106,1701,66,311,31,37,528,198,401,0.086,0.8390000000000001,0.075,-0.7227,0,0,0,0,2,1,64.0,11,4,20,4,15,17,2,3,22,2,40,2,1,11,4,80,74,21,1,12,9,1,5,2,1,5,1,1,0,3,20,21,0,1,16,1,0,3,9,7,0,3,26,8,68,10,42,40,6,47,2,1,2,0,55,15,0,7,27,233,88,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1686708579658349,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07916368792752522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668277771299318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0794375109900282,0.05799615795010425,0.0,0.08095670966154593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10881424593088344,0.0,0.0,0.10064497908139683,0.08195425757079235,0.0,0.10281200376969307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12271421742609125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0842653607200023,0.0,0.0,0.1256774888431436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08550525062786166,0.0,0.08968905618963835,0.0,0.19242156527060592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08695578210596237,0.16185122522764978,0.0,0.0,0.07350454398141683,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09764057778191974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10184880563827503,0.10740091841919903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08456436162495558,0.10525776393267328,0.0,0.10457236542525447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0671998445484283,0.09296071092647623,0.1907095520157923,0.08400992414818949,0.0,0.07989322098840136,0.0,0.0,0.0808842031938576,0.0,0.18004659615113608,0.1270127139892925,0.0,0.0,0.10363480982200747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07593944357707287,0.0,0.0,0.07054473593490722,0.07337744984533058,0.0918863248083629,0.0,0.08928197859916813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09082142083232372,0.0,0.16614428856201624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951652490584147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20428844242317346,0.0,0.08124861569250638,0.09049945403977784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0673402298738301,0.1014060514392958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2159263610046737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07646952865711941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06320645828665912,0.0,0.0,0.07553013816284804,0.05547660926628005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09293747007925647,0.0,0.22888221568028716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2805787191200281,0.07551730906851456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08584860341631449,0.10621985742480317,0.0,0.09171108579019108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27033749286197284,0.0,0.0,0.2450668825346385 divorce,SARed2019,2019/04/17,"What did you do with all your marriage paraphernalia? So it looks like divorce is imminent for us - I don't want it so it makes this question so much harder. I don't want to hang onto our wedding album, photos, my wedding ring etc because I don't want to be reminded of my feelings and memories etc. BUT I have a 4 year old - I don't want to take those memories away from him or sell my ring in case he wants it or burn my wedding album. Do I keep everything for 14+ years to see if he wants it? I am in no way sentimental and literally would sell or burn everything. What did you guys do? Also would love to hear from children of divorced parents too, if keeping that stuff meant anything to them?",2.5119696969696967,4.166687510489513,4.158199300699302,86.47524766899768,75.99300699300699,7.284149184149183,27.301282051282055,8.07648339933343,1.7009631701631704,546,22,115,9,12,183,88,143,0.053,0.8640000000000001,0.083,0.8452,1,0,0,0,2,0,14.0,2,3,1,0,5,2,0,0,1,0,15,1,0,1,1,24,31,12,0,10,6,1,1,1,0,2,0,3,0,2,11,3,0,2,3,0,2,1,5,0,0,0,3,6,18,2,17,25,4,9,0,0,2,1,21,4,0,6,4,80,29,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12115779158504568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12467498337557224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1423431097810589,0.0,0.0,0.09235550652920453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3379342885564481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2723242715297333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07660503624653145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15001290017284144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17075615641981556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2693276495629504,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07401726121509604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1272253051483425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13673838517409728,0.0,0.1011301778492122,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11137296191962358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15897809024815907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16822739811945134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.169719289929154,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12072916988792395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17343597258709012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11391224478443157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18224080449316693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5361663387689775,0.12025692006607508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21524836273277506,0.0,0.0,0.1951273745537735 divorce,pawsywawsy2,2019/04/17,"Wondering how hard this’ll be for my kids... Kids are 3 and 6. My STBXH is someone whom I’ve grown to hate. It’s not that anything big has happened - no cheating, no secrets - it’s just his constant bad mood and sour attitude that I can’t stand anymore. I have asked him to go for counseling, he refuses. He is obviously depressed, sad, whatever it is.... but has taken no steps to fix it. I have asked him to help me help him fix it, and it’s fine for 2 days and then we’re back where we were. This has been going on for the better part of TEN YEARS. I have wasted ten years trying to fix whatever the hell is making him grumpy, and I’m done. He’s just a sour curmudgeon who can’t seem to be happy with the beautiful life he has. We live in a beautiful home, our kids are happy in school and healthy, our careers are flourishing... we lead a charmed life and he still finds a way to be a miserable twat. I am terrified for my kids. They love their father - and leaving him will put us in a lesser and struggling financial position. Our lives are going to change tenfold. I am so sad that they will have to grow up with one parent, but at the same time, they’ve only had one parent anyway. He doesn’t do anything with us, he doesn’t acknowledge us, unless it’s because he’s pissed off. I really don’t want to leave him but I want to be happy. I want HIM to be happy. He clearly can’t.",1.4119228287520968,3.2961448083623712,3.1513743708865682,91.40132662279005,80.01045296167247,6.621189830945929,22.476319525100013,7.662118739084242,0.8846434120531685,1068,34,237,17,27,355,148,287,0.173,0.634,0.193,0.8934,2,0,0,0,0,0,43.0,9,0,3,2,8,19,4,2,10,0,36,4,1,3,2,37,52,16,0,3,7,3,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,4,13,15,0,1,5,0,0,8,10,10,0,4,5,3,33,8,29,40,2,27,1,4,0,1,45,9,2,2,8,152,46,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1063988867735564,0.0,0.0,0.17657447889289454,0.0,0.20059586128479626,0.0,0.0,0.0824963142524648,0.08957933150793576,0.06540055188601207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09488575151149384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11349436599131925,0.0,0.0,0.11593805563515945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06919059664979083,0.0,0.0924052775292524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10979083039313824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09805746346684556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18291932443434697,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09487265849793418,0.4568317824199926,0.09610718593663327,0.10592271687741553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14382309318756814,0.0,0.10761660898618973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2272007734702644,0.0,0.0,0.15155855406499494,0.0,0.0,0.1894710131633376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09682980680269657,0.0,0.07161424036559826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14539954498832164,0.0815958400857214,0.0,0.0,0.2382568206884535,0.11618028674824475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078520660199582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06873016099952564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10857916317720917,0.0,0.0976691481239108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0909030825329938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08567874091015085,0.0,0.0,0.11215862505279016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06255933135951541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284015387712056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.38715555697488535,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18984019348702968,0.08515863575439686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11634709418356767,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1381773373724064 divorce,Oppilate,2019/04/17,I'm having an affair with my wife So we've been together for nearly 10 years and have a child together who's 6. I noticed that she was spending a lot of time on a social media and would close it down when ever I came into the room. So the other day I set up a fake social media account and liked some of her posts so we could start talking. I was very aggressive in the conversation and posted naked photos from reddit saying it was me and that she should post me pictures of herself. She has posted them and now I'm talking to her about us meeting. I don't know what to do if she agrees. Should I confess before she agrees or should I use as proof of her infidelity if we are to divorce. I love her dearly and she tells me that she's happy in the relationship while messaging my fake account behind my back.,3.578632734530938,4.606724622754495,4.958458083832337,84.30000249500999,72.23353293413173,7.243313373253492,24.695109780439118,7.492282038375204,1.115399600798403,640,18,130,7,12,214,104,167,0.049,0.847,0.104,0.8405,0,0,0,0,1,0,8.0,3,0,1,0,8,7,1,0,9,0,15,1,0,1,2,28,22,16,0,7,3,1,0,1,0,4,0,1,1,1,8,13,0,0,2,0,3,1,1,3,0,0,5,1,30,4,20,12,2,24,1,0,0,1,33,9,0,5,10,102,38,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.125396778260846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1387672145381232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18651758295294651,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13020437041445096,0.0,0.0,0.105171703541534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14751322559945998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17359937301961129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08962330564317679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07967158602839178,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13864293181221735,0.14718410055895942,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18566518023647408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.624733895101657,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17508454972979814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12968602883223945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3324746035488591,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11542732115738352,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2621515507029567,0.14253720361926472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0950919889418158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19616253958474486,0.14084687757999506,0.0,0.13455628132870498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11584580520413215,0.0,0.0,0.10501677009554436 divorce,bleachedaardvark,2019/04/17,"Epic last romp Using my known username in hopes he reads this. We've definitely decided to get divorced due to a trust issue. Anyway, we were an amazing team but we should just be co-parents. We've been completely agreeing on the terms. Anyway, the communication became turn on and I asked him for just a hug. It ended up with having amazing sex. We agree right before that this changes nothing and we are still getting divorced. Im so happy it is ending on such a lovely note. Good friends, not good married.",1.9176764472640748,4.723166762886597,3.0127835051546414,86.752260111023,87.55670103092783,4.634099920697858,23.9563838223632,6.297961479604792,0.8826723235527356,404,16,72,4,13,129,76,97,0.025,0.616,0.359,0.9918,1,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,4,0,0,1,7,10,0,0,6,0,7,3,0,1,0,16,14,4,0,2,4,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,5,7,0,0,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,7,10,9,10,1,12,0,0,0,3,12,6,0,1,6,45,12,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19695841955678545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17927412684277422,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22287270346533186,0.0,0.2208951596462096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3732019008511011,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1627717207917114,0.0,0.22014439297057656,0.0,0.0,0.3534186774386986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22427398375135527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20925390246771286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2275717767781169,0.21989636624690773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1717332426872221,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1901479481350941,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2021542292809742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21073814637536065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1799205364984946,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16825022501655795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22916057416840055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18196085495214573,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,milleniallawyerrebel,2019/04/18,"From the Outside Looking In: It Does Get Better I'm not a divorcee but I watched a lot of people get divorced that were friends of my parents. A lot of my friends parents got divorced. And some stayed and rotted in misery till they finally got divorced. Then I became a divorce attorney (not promoting myself just sharing my observations) and watched my clients come out the other side ultimately better for it, even when the divorce wasn't their idea. I understand this may not be something you want, and it is horrible, but there is happiness on the other side if you keep yourself open to it. I've seen in it over a dozen of my clients first hand. If you have your health, you can find happiness on the other side of the divorce once it is over. In the meantime don't surrender any rights or remedies at law you don't have to. Don't be in a rush to get it over and do yourself harm in the process. The law is typically quite equitable (may not seem fair all the time but I believe it is equitable), and if you have kids. It is your relationship with you children that must be fought for the hardest. Time is sometime the only thing that heals,",4.229529936974792,5.761879468750003,4.720252100840336,84.68945378151261,71.27678571428571,7.770588235294117,31.926470588235286,8.313332769828598,2.3708737394957984,907,42,178,14,17,288,116,224,0.08,0.773,0.147,0.949,2,0,1,0,7,0,22.0,0,9,2,5,4,9,1,0,18,0,23,3,1,0,2,37,37,16,0,5,12,2,1,0,2,3,2,0,0,2,17,10,0,1,4,0,0,2,8,2,0,2,6,5,21,7,26,25,4,28,0,0,4,0,26,18,0,10,7,133,38,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10115242934962627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1675858858390269,0.0,0.2631076250656205,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1281315697319969,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13016868956395306,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09824537737735878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16294405069300685,0.135951214601464,0.12652333244280795,0.0,0.0,0.2298416917422021,0.0,0.23314104929503526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23793164320388854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31668591809714114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811011833945313,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1679162093052082,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13221234283075747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12490923741633035,0.0,0.0,0.2529171815826279,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15840971161575518,0.0,0.11312809014105643,0.0,0.0,0.3303298190109759,0.0,0.0,0.103121797110737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15820975657094632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15969761414271336,0.0,0.12702833233819444,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13541283699455994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1145119929269972,0.14711366815450602,0.0,0.0,0.15854352093931087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09882028045307954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17347006096802065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15484990625799186,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08773428685675709,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Purple-Cage,2019/04/18,Loophole Hello everyone. So my divorce will be finalized soon. Thank God. Anyways my boyfriend is going through a messy divorce. He is in the navy and has always taken care of his family. His Soon to be ex racked up a lot of debt and never held a job. Now he has to pay 3800 a month. That’s child support and Alimony. He doesn’t care about the child support. It’s paying his lazy ex all this extra money that he feels she doesn’t deserve. She put him in jail on a false DV case that he was proven innocent of. Now he has classes to attend and she also won’t give him back his truck. All of this because he wanted a divorce. My thing is since she is ordered to show that she is looking for a job or at least have one. Can she go to school instead. I think she isn’t trying to work.,1.127743902439022,3.075251347560976,2.72579268292683,93.77637195121952,81.25609756097559,5.319512195121952,21.835365853658534,6.322622252153567,0.2595317073170733,607,19,134,5,16,199,100,164,0.053,0.8340000000000001,0.113,0.872,3,0,0,0,3,0,16.0,0,0,0,1,10,5,0,0,9,0,18,0,0,0,3,13,32,7,0,1,1,2,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,4,0,1,2,1,4,4,5,0,0,1,3,2,17,5,18,25,5,18,0,0,1,0,29,5,0,2,8,91,25,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627527587955555,0.15219807726332127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14064862940151962,0.0,0.1115019267008736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3729835185017494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1747809900447452,0.0,0.0,0.1724338804948305,0.0,0.09248619229626014,0.0,0.0,0.2003719985487847,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17546659593042893,0.207907084543672,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3630254001346885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15360065882656307,0.0,0.0,0.1555058958136358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1459992277198888,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1410736042409922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12394642659808905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387785443852245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18511748822744695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15130733330048166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4151344869817574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1684015032744482,0.0,0.0,0.12151911657603558,0.11720311715789496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12418576394649895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1078866907013455,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1331626748540619,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MAKC0485,2019/04/18,"Coping Hey all. I have been divorced since February. Three children who live with me and visit their dad every other weekend. My husband cheated for years and years. I always stayed bc I loved him. They were always one night stands or little flings. Well, around this time last year, he began to cheat with a woman from work. I thought it would end like all of the others. But our marriage ended instead. He claims he did not leave me for her and chose not to be with me period. (Doesn’t hurt any less) The day after our divorce, she moved in with him. He has since been forcing the kids to go on trips with him and his gf and her kids like one big happy family. It breaks my heart, but not much I can do about it. The kids hate it though. And complain every time they come home. Some days are ok for me. But most days, I get to thinking about everything that has happened the last year and him leaving for her and still being with her and it literally feels like I may stop breathing. He says he loves me but love just wasn’t enough anymore. I don’t understand that. He claims he is with her for $$ reasons as she is paying a lot of his bills. Idk. I’m so lonely and miss my family so much. I do have my kids and I love them so much. But I miss my husband. After 14 years, I don’t know anything or anyone else and I really don’t want to. I hate myself for it because I look so desperate and sad pining a way for him all of the time 🤦🏽‍♀️ Anyone else ever have these feelings? Did you get past them? Any advice at all?! I need help.",0.3919706854189613,2.627954388714734,1.9028399559434064,96.77621706345846,86.61755485893417,4.577175294416674,16.77209184105736,5.946609106918303,-0.5571325764636113,1186,26,266,9,37,382,174,319,0.121,0.7659999999999999,0.113,-0.5917,0,3,0,0,2,0,40.0,2,1,5,1,13,20,4,0,9,1,25,6,2,1,5,53,49,26,0,3,11,3,2,3,1,2,0,1,1,6,13,22,0,1,7,1,2,5,8,10,1,3,8,4,49,10,32,37,12,40,0,5,1,4,53,6,0,6,28,176,62,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09339140129865144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1590463521823657,0.0,0.0,0.12998384690738524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0947812853330986,0.1336516837075,0.19584867058808467,0.0786472329457213,0.08507893158947524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05825952279409394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08232641791765517,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849072076493106,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15967551385515347,0.0,0.16929603191449674,0.09875094713181863,0.0,0.0,0.08644992812845682,0.16104628627110165,0.0,0.08589353629691028,0.0,0.1801926816585482,0.0,0.09664768291722632,0.06827632618578068,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09986436857140754,0.0,0.05431550776481234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08451359584748179,0.10173767985685958,0.0,0.18871421602336688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11325273325710734,0.06405958768117326,0.0,0.09586604552178073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10231130859977358,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05252361813662161,0.15580711924806476,0.0,0.20239291961781905,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14007427858847893,0.0957877891003944,0.08439141942906496,0.0,0.0802560220156616,0.0,0.0,0.08125150434462879,0.3450281793585885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10157742050098027,0.21076823215355125,0.07086508479990919,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08968741466934868,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1295234957689979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0912338476235778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061225574799010675,0.098263458974081,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07600232335949356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15811552847837762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1018665438212204,0.07632355408443901,0.07990208557899002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06123838284801356,0.093898551312807,0.07587312610820282,0.16718559795987706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09949334206838867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05637056956832975,0.07586023875600284,0.0,0.0,0.08593029077333778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06957721826453386,0.0,0.0,0.06789127885436938,0.0,0.0,0.3077246867238093 divorce,beautifullymade0303,2019/04/18,"Just Separated.. I’m a 32 y/o F..married for 6 years, together for 9. Newly separated, my husband hasn’t been home since Monday. I regretfully cheated on him, the worst decision of my life. Instead of communicating with him and telling him my frustrations, I sought what I thought I was missing with someone else. I know I deserve to feel everything I’m going through right now. I have no idea where he is. This is a different type of loneliness..a different kind of emptiness..something I never thought I would feel. Guess I’ll just hug on my pillow and cry until I fall asleep.",2.5441891891891864,5.155634702702706,4.282364864864864,80.83543918918922,80.35135135135134,7.6639639639639645,30.871621621621625,8.59863814320734,2.889437837837839,456,24,85,11,12,153,78,111,0.196,0.774,0.029,-0.9493,2,0,1,0,0,0,21.0,0,0,0,0,5,7,2,0,3,0,7,3,1,0,1,17,17,3,0,2,2,1,2,0,0,1,1,0,2,0,2,4,0,0,7,0,0,2,3,5,0,0,4,2,17,2,13,12,1,11,0,2,0,1,6,4,0,1,5,52,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2378580986657817,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4524746670493558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1808906819505927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19461143391078087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21897741049639927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1230641944134569,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23854229688015374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2172064323659829,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2444463536849097,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22549221253401336,0.1190042589982166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15294801208254474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1670083489172659,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1849232589470052,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17912343027984556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.183472927033,0.1667024240245782,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18926476963394526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3438158097524273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1538232060002025,0.0,0.0,0.1394441191152135 divorce,UnrealLifeBro,2019/04/18,"Tried for several years, finally over, and feel happy as fuck? Married 9 years. Run a business together. I tried for the last 2 years to make it work. Her health has been degrading from the thought of me and I finally gave her what she wants. After the suffering there is peace. And I’m so happy we can remain great friends and manage our kids together. Downside is now higher taxes. I’m happy she is happy.",1.5984810126582296,4.271088658227853,3.1745443037974685,86.37346202531647,86.46835443037975,6.704303797468356,23.08987341772152,7.908726449838941,1.6470192405063284,320,12,60,7,10,105,57,79,0.125,0.617,0.258,0.9337,0,0,0,0,0,0,11.0,2,0,0,1,3,9,1,0,4,0,6,2,0,1,0,9,14,6,0,1,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,1,2,5,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,3,1,9,6,8,11,0,10,0,1,0,1,9,1,1,0,8,36,11,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08374487243319706,0.0,0.0,0.3628677328157505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1279613051754839,0.15311745342738706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18260192035038875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7052426929725021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17605141130669608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1350063129479066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11055583624911182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18710887426157874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1314875861531243,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22489672677635408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09768979482993932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12057682278447153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31997081179444603 divorce,jo-porter-39,2019/04/18,"Ex Wants to be Bff's Yup. After everything is finalized my ex was in tears that we couldn't be best friends. Despite being offended I was polite in saying no. Anyone else experience this? &#x200B; fyi... I was the dumpee.",1.807142857142857,4.611817333333338,3.4352380952380983,82.90142857142861,89.95238095238096,6.609523809523811,23.66666666666667,7.793537801064563,1.8863523809523808,176,7,31,4,6,58,36,42,0.224,0.737,0.039,-0.8064,0,0,0,0,0,0,12.0,1,0,0,1,0,3,1,0,1,1,8,0,0,0,0,3,9,0,0,2,0,2,0,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,1,0,0,3,1,4,2,4,2,1,4,0,0,0,0,5,2,0,0,2,21,6,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31269234179021993,0.3506742664214542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20179219210585114,0.2956994739062056,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3028624343876367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2410839210748491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2593703946896761,0.2823010882982232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3161414935235716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2229676241394759,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.229502165785126,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1702206884028999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3506742664214542,0.0 divorce,OlaWhoWasLadyBlue,2019/04/18,"I filed for divorce today. Finally, it's almost over. We had a huge fight yesterday where he accused me of ""drawing things out"" and being obstructionist simply because I asked questions about the realtor (a friend of his) and contractor he contacted without consulting me within an hour of us deciding to sell our house. He's been consistently setting up meetings about the house when he knows I'm at work or out of town, then complains that I'm making him do all the work. I'm tired of arguing against his crazy twisted stories. I want out. Let's get this over with as soon as possible and I'll heal and rebuild my life with whatever's left on the other side of this nightmare.",6.404538461538461,6.983355261538462,6.7228846153846185,75.8058653846154,65.61538461538461,10.192307692307693,36.25,10.125756701596842,3.757076923076923,544,26,98,12,8,176,93,130,0.119,0.8290000000000001,0.052000000000000005,-0.836,0,0,0,0,2,0,13.0,3,0,0,2,5,4,2,0,7,0,5,3,0,1,1,19,13,9,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,6,10,0,0,3,0,1,0,1,3,0,0,2,0,12,1,25,9,1,22,0,0,0,0,20,14,0,3,7,65,18,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20390448343832726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190365117440948,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413001605060656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22306501898103867,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1573228390759182,0.0,0.1063874631917614,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2005330101744348,0.469919794377769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11190887342791128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22124291197666573,0.2082238913089288,0.14382879965205825,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13592357479685116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2295604870781385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2281104719656491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13528169725268646,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23404095386604776,0.1930159655242523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2449399590446608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12010533848739237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1962905639533749,0.0,0.2964878806322348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,woa4lyfe,2019/04/18,Making parents remarry How can I make my parents remarry? Any tips?,1.7650000000000006,3.2617054999999984,4.653333333333332,68.82500000000002,119.0,8.266666666666667,37.333333333333336,7.793537801064563,5.434633333333335,54,4,7,2,3,19,10,12,0.0,1.0,0.0,0.0,2,0,0,0,0,0,2.0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,3,3,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,3,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,2,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25384837254641834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.49834475104357207,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.8289834213437897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Fairywinkle,2019/04/18,"Why doesn't she file? My wife left about six months ago very suddenly after saying that she wanted a divorce. I haven't seen her since and I don't know where she is. There is minimal contact and she hasn't responded to my requests for trying to work things out or even to talk about what will happen next. I don't suspect that there was someone else, but at this point anything can be happening. I didn't want the divorce and I've been so busy improving my life that I haven't really pushed the issue. But I can't help but all myself why she hasn't filed yet. She's making no attempts to reach out or work on our relationship so I can only assume that she's not interested in that, so why would she continue letting the legal marriage continue? We have no children or property and have very similar incomes so splitting finances shouldn't be difficult. Should I try asking her? Nothing would make me happier than us trying to work things out, but I'm trying to practical and am preparing myself and my life to forge ahead alone. I'm in a pretty healthy place right now. But this question still nags at me from time to time. The hassle if filing myself just send daunting and it seems to me that if it's what she wants she should do it. What kind of reasons keep people from filing if they've made it known is what they want?",4.753337526205454,5.686709845283022,5.2022327044025145,83.9870387840671,69.41509433962264,8.30398322851153,27.552410901467503,8.515128840125781,1.8276121593291403,1059,34,210,16,18,338,148,265,0.07200000000000001,0.835,0.092,0.8098,1,1,0,0,2,0,18.0,3,0,1,5,15,4,1,0,6,0,29,2,0,4,1,45,45,22,0,12,13,1,0,0,0,6,2,1,0,1,18,11,0,1,7,0,1,2,13,2,0,1,5,2,34,2,26,31,1,28,0,0,1,0,31,13,0,9,13,148,52,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10737069161402382,0.0,0.0,0.12544977373041086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09967619259992247,0.0,0.11323624925603715,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101185042857784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08000243231190167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2142222463902692,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08118805405381557,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1264238400920589,0.0,0.10766215460182267,0.0,0.12613385578137526,0.06656755846761801,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13160350942179658,0.1238593119069411,0.1711094346121398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11461213741744325,0.1617047913228362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0966814383467003,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12881863631946658,0.0,0.0,0.11622344831226004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09212161035650236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0839733615307447,0.0,0.12655065502477256,0.0,0.11450300909874675,0.0,0.0,0.12322845912198305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13568858942567147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0775962733478363,0.12453747061889395,0.0,0.13004375276356733,0.0,0.10344075040340958,0.0,0.09632407826033512,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11026835679208727,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10019649312091096,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.102629476459975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0967312007287222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735631013362628,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16094116606879846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14125882745027554,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3289458024686725,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14569939402763005,0.0,0.0,0.1998829001062571,0.2857724824540491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3278915172687914,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2645430213580001,0.0,0.0,0.17208855120468214,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,thrownthrowthrowawa,2019/04/18,"A Video going viral about husband suing cheating wife triggered my feelings of depression, inadequacy and suicide Throwaway cause i'm active on my other account and have friends who know the name &#x200B; There's a video right now going viral about an man who finds out he's infertile due to cystic fibrosis and ends up suing his wife. I can't say I can completely understand what he's going through since his children were completely grown up but I can sympathize as I found out that our children (ages 8, 6, 5 and 4 at the time) weren't mine and this lead to my divorce. We had been dating since highschool and married after college. Me and my Ex had known each other for most of our lives, I couldn't even comprehend that she betrayed me and used me like that. &#x200B; &#x200B; She had been cheating on me since the second year of college with as she described multiple men and after we decided to try for children and she went off birth control and all the children we had were actually fathered by the other man (she had met the year before we married). The thing is this man seems so dignified and composed going through what he has gone through but I was the opposite. I broke down I begged (I know It still makes me feel shameful) her to leave that man and said i'd still take her back, I refused to believe it at first it was completely shameful how she acted yet even now I can't help but think back on memories of her and me in highschool or college and feel affection for her. I &#x200B; &#x200B; hate that she betrayed me but I can't fully bring myself to hate her just because she was there for me through my mother passing in highschool and other big moments in my life and she always seemed so sweet and loving but then I remember what she did and I feel so angry and hateful to her and myself for being fooled and still feeling love for her. &#x200B; I don't know why I wrote this It just feels cathartic after watching that video. We've been divorced now for a year and a half but I still find myself missing her, I've tried dating afterwards but I just lost that trust I had in people, I've been going through hook ups and month long relationships since. I took a month off work after the divorce and went to Europe to try and heal but I still felt miserable there. I've been depressed ever since this happened to me.",4.901091439559713,6.2897412800875285,4.993403620449573,83.92802201445528,69.45951859956236,7.377468337643392,30.47868178502752,7.686295010490155,1.9750399708242163,1883,76,351,21,33,588,208,457,0.163,0.7559999999999999,0.08,-0.9911,0,0,0,0,3,1,49.0,6,0,0,5,26,20,5,3,15,0,29,4,0,8,2,81,69,42,1,1,12,6,7,1,1,0,2,2,0,9,25,34,0,2,20,3,1,14,6,14,0,3,28,11,67,6,53,39,3,66,0,6,1,2,60,19,0,4,34,255,92,8,0.0,0.0,0.058178553607922276,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04960693962665951,0.3875763726726904,0.4346542655670974,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916851013199368,0.0,0.03634257045531974,0.0,0.050730514377121914,0.06716905373471375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061244093383377024,0.0,0.0,0.1875249697703996,0.0,0.06686663987999351,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10269776667644584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05280383937750331,0.0,0.0,0.07875423397631111,0.05392788085425704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.180867867979796,0.0,0.0572426151902242,0.0,0.10897951689841856,0.050711027799257104,0.0,0.06536804362872735,0.04606070751667762,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16941137457782862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052719987466682314,0.0,0.0,0.17658125305941158,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039960678821038716,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0982934566480172,0.0,0.0,0.06312683822406896,0.0,0.0,0.042109946096582765,0.029126336173239568,0.0,0.052643773229398116,0.05276004087919126,0.0,0.0,0.06508007348534864,0.0,0.10761511866246663,0.0,0.0397954680967702,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0951730140783434,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0413316043691449,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06400740475221743,0.06753555545855182,0.050913433657837716,0.05671035635564346,0.04741061476288642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1085479493564784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2465830673774454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2380550001686012,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06521239947482807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044825305359488574,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.039607540304486814,0.03820079768057065,0.0,0.0,0.034763726635419344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0662377752448308,0.1214300956757723,0.0,0.0,0.062064425188223464,0.0,0.051490797533315584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11053293923077252,0.05379595870527151,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04340260331003466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4346542655670974,0.11517608354905676 divorce,Opieholly,2019/04/18,"How do you tell someone you want a divorce? First post here yada yada. I’ve been with my husband for 9 years. We have 2 children together and 1 of mine from a previous relationship. It’s been a hell of a ride. We’ve had good times. But mainly bad due to drug use, suspicions of infidelity, dead bedroom and so on. I got to a point about 2 years ago where I just woke up one day and was checked out. I just didn’t care anymore. We separated for about 3 months at that point. Like an idiot, I let him come back because of promises that he’d change blah blah blah. Surprise, nothing changed. Now here I am almost 2 years later, completely miserable. I just want out. But I feel so guilty because he seems completely fine and content with how things are even tho I’ve made it clear that I’m unhappy. I just don’t know how to initiate the conversation that I’m really done and want to just end it. Please help. Any advice is welcome!",1.731038633818592,3.946501090425532,3.2072452407614804,89.69184210526316,80.64893617021276,6.723852183650617,24.256438969764837,7.85451343220497,1.2841340425531915,727,27,155,13,19,238,123,188,0.16399999999999998,0.685,0.151,-0.7723,0,0,1,0,1,0,23.0,2,2,0,1,19,11,2,1,7,0,14,1,0,5,1,32,28,13,1,3,7,1,1,4,0,0,1,0,1,1,8,12,0,0,3,0,1,2,2,4,0,2,9,1,16,7,20,17,1,24,1,1,0,0,15,8,1,2,14,91,24,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14272080973267473,0.1294667262982997,0.0,0.1462504785186769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0993207063221244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14484483155987138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11230535492010653,0.12194773438867945,0.1780644931372793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14891025459305512,0.0,0.3090083519387475,0.1258112938044971,0.30626652870542953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09419177795154077,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14946241278780786,0.0,0.0,0.16937452793572064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12935916167538342,0.0,0.0,0.09646629682294416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0738485308761103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12423217934799975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12250190508041706,0.11681152401052645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09789591009306703,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08026663275537213,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14934857355484554,0.0,0.07135387264379286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13819840407500147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1165777096933901,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14014130994125626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09896895184409757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16032178297817473,0.2761336360318823,0.0,0.13987791949898787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09356496947422316,0.0,0.0,0.15680572317041416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132960707932143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12374980676054367,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12765631991343812,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09703078924210283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08516438553113924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12614246390849354,0.0,0.0,0.25843664048331183,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.28215905867078944 divorce,swanzie,2019/04/18,"One step closer to divorce I can't and don't want to keep typing the story over and over again....but long story short....I've been with my wife since high school, our 19th anniversary is in a few days, we've been married for 9 of those (we got married on our 10th anniversary together). We've never been super touchy or emotional, but we've been good together. About 16 months ago she left. We've been living apart since, but still talk and see each other, and have been doing therapy. We've had sex maybe 4 times in that period and she's basically said she has no interest in having sex with me anymore. Shes been very supportive and patient, in the long run I couldn't ask for a divorce to go better, it's just all the romance and passion is gone for her and we're simply friends now. I can't be friends though because I still love her. I know part of me is terrified to lose her because I won't get someone as good looking as her again. I have no self confidence after all of this, I feel undesirable, I have no idea how to flirt or approach a woman because I've never had to. I'm terrified to start dating in my late 30s. I don't know what the point of this is other than hoping this is a common thing and maybe some others have experience in it. Maybe this is the wrong place to ask too but I would appreciate a woman's point of view. What can I do? How to approach someone? Do I stand a chance in the dating world? How awful is online dating? How do I ask the cute woman at the grocery store out? I swear this isn't some cheesy pick up line...I don't really have any girl friends in my life right now and I'm missing that and the support and viewpoints they give.",2.615062111801244,4.1243002608695685,3.8884006211180164,89.13048913043482,75.3768115942029,6.899585921325053,23.33592132505176,7.5804360353943165,0.894331262939958,1310,38,282,17,28,429,175,345,0.108,0.7040000000000001,0.187,0.986,0,0,0,0,2,0,40.0,3,0,1,3,13,19,0,0,15,1,39,5,0,5,4,43,63,24,0,4,6,1,1,0,3,2,1,1,0,5,16,17,0,1,4,0,1,6,13,3,0,1,12,5,32,16,38,47,7,51,0,2,3,4,30,23,0,5,21,181,48,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09564172562246334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07337177678226839,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10700208489061852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30259962339056706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19731396493914047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09542367919460548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0695828529870811,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12136648746278493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10554126098403176,0.0,0.0,0.05455456494204807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2500764451758088,0.0,0.05637028241320025,0.10350197759448443,0.06131877777667079,0.18099312354488975,0.08629287268155235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11399617862502102,0.0,0.10716331603090876,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12179945362144595,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09590134975907942,0.0,0.0,0.11859169511926015,0.0,0.12170939186347317,0.0,0.11722739743839708,0.0,0.0762088860124825,0.0,0.0,0.09527258249403812,0.19096599801643974,0.09060398000009297,0.12070604596914365,0.0,0.0,0.0973787557523522,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3251827703710036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08612014563881679,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16642936449412474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07311192310220854,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1168389377203684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11272650705028567,0.0,0.2039898451718346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06911980702832783,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09214108356337013,0.10263212100347983,0.0,0.0,0.10919472174898316,0.08597773281973377,0.0,0.11255721356252507,0.0,0.0,0.17850244530140585,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18283686322236475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0763680918757291,0.0,0.17232894414958802,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2448741889728105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08672129574137499,0.0,0.0,0.12338645597413744,0.0,0.0716801327025301,0.0,0.10600553393392777,0.0,0.06291399363113331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0890240399927161,0.06363881275807705,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07664496591049122,0.11796540383950548,0.0,0.0 divorce,neue_u,2019/04/18,"How do I protect my stuff? Very likely she'll freak out. First time posting here. I'm 35 y/o male. Been married for 7 years. No children. Bought a house with my wife 3 years ago. I've been considering divorce on and off for the past year. But the end finally feels near. Bad dispute last night. I haven't sought out an attorney yet—I don't even know how to begin with that. My STBX has shown a history of violence and destruction (she has slapped and punched me on a few occasions, broke my computer screen once and needed to be replaced, forcefully moved important/fragile belongings of mine to another room, etc.) and one of my biggest fears is that she will really lose it when I tell her that I want a divorce and potentially try to damage or destroy belongings of mine that are important to me. Belongings like my clothing, books, artworks, framed photos, etc. &#x200B; So, my main question: Can I move these belongings into a bedroom or two and then have deadbolt locks installed on the doors without expecting some legal trouble down the road? I would plan to sleep in one of the bedrooms. I realize it would be a no-no to change the locks to the house in general, but I can't seem to find any existing posts on reddit that speak to a scenario like this, about doors to rooms on the inside of the house. I have a legitimate fear that she will try to damage or destroy things that she knows are important to me (much of it irreplaceable) and I just want to take measures to protect that stuff. &#x200B; I'm even worried that she would use my power tools to destroy things or to try to bust through these doors. So I'm also considering installing a door and deadbolt lock to a room in the basement to keep that stuff away from her. &#x200B; Thoughts?",5.064802761341222,6.383152437869827,5.228535502958582,82.66053500986196,69.0,8.710256410256411,32.13067061143984,9.075114841892004,2.7161534516765284,1396,61,268,26,24,439,183,338,0.138,0.8140000000000001,0.048,-0.9833,1,0,0,0,2,0,51.0,0,0,0,4,11,16,4,2,21,0,22,1,1,3,0,43,38,22,0,7,8,1,1,3,0,6,0,1,9,2,21,14,0,3,8,1,1,2,5,13,0,4,4,3,31,3,50,26,6,38,0,4,1,0,16,20,0,7,17,181,52,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07834819292605656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07068165399155127,0.0,0.2872961504380747,0.3221932658273074,0.06010500213428355,0.09267964304278588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08304085360093362,0.0,0.07379799346100588,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09349987701734963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0782830990284257,0.0,0.19714583885314144,0.11675525056426063,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1989159618436696,0.04469023902756489,0.0,0.0,0.09682172319184314,0.08078251897970481,0.07518045009306283,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3059541414972806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0785608729233221,0.0,0.0,0.09714844591270733,0.07204577690037138,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12954170866350018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0988804887760278,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18787907024652165,0.06497332986538758,0.06553654433969094,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08294357150331877,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0941274086640746,0.11978426819729965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08437372391419021,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16929727871161965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09901171001490004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056621855584706365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08046261378889451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08844908264664961,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3035399022311485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06645470972952161,0.0,0.07725260587623121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11743846797812553,0.0,0.0,0.07016801726013837,0.05153815114355284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18002335278800996,0.0,0.08633954820226379,0.0,0.0,0.07633647950361881,0.0,0.0729270892490893,0.10426382307731916,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08520022877222161,0.0,0.0,0.08975951360106453,0.0,0.18835904110524967,0.0,0.3221932658273074,0.17075161314914514 divorce,secrets1788,2019/04/18,"How to get past hate? I have been divorced for almost 2 years, and been separated for 2 years before that. I have a son with my ex husband. My problem is that I’m either raging angry when I acknowledge my feelings toward him or I am super depressed (anger turned inward at being in this position) if I try to ignore it and take the full brunt of everything myself. My sons dad doesn’t pay child support and I don’t want him to bc then he will want more time with my son. He’s a heavy drinker and not responsible when he’s there. He falls asleep while my 6 year old stays up til midnight doing whatever he wants. He never brushes his teeth, he feeds him either barely any food or all sugar. It’s just not in his best interest to be there more often. He takes him every other weekend. I am shoving my feelings inside and try to pretend that I don’t care that he’s Disney dad, while I work my ass off to make ends meet and only take jobs that allow me to be available for my son. It’s like every medical situation or dental situation, it all always falls on me. His dad just knows I’ll deal with it all. Then he feeds him donuts for breakfast and sugar before bed and doesn’t care if he gets cavities (his dad has bad oral hygiene too). I know I sound like a control freak (maybe?) but it just gets old. His dad is talking about buying a house—- I went bankrupt bc of all the debt in my name he racked up, including his home inspection education that we put on my cards. I was young when I met him at 22. I’m 31 now. Argh, I don’t know how to not let this consume me. Whenever I say I’m not going to let it affect me, I end up swallowing so much anger and then later exploding. Help!",2.725828292475857,3.997557320916908,4.32790194205667,87.05615939721956,74.64469914040114,7.118794439138278,23.814178074923053,7.662118739084242,1.0174755598004883,1311,38,280,17,27,440,187,349,0.114,0.8240000000000001,0.062,-0.958,3,0,1,0,1,0,36.0,1,0,0,4,15,18,5,0,6,0,22,11,3,6,5,53,48,27,0,6,15,11,2,2,0,1,1,2,2,1,16,13,7,2,6,2,3,5,10,10,0,0,5,7,46,8,32,37,11,42,0,1,0,1,45,13,1,7,25,172,62,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1161840990573308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09654360801308468,0.0,0.0,0.07890221555958954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09687754731155993,0.0,0.0,0.19746055415581068,0.0,0.12176298811640215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23659414923668015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1301339433214478,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11961855553268662,0.09993372907549462,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20553064586584144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19551519818439628,0.0,0.10427742334634944,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11733329167128355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1403000899310994,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18185767208500286,0.0,0.06594071500193903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11455246252593128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07777033094703989,0.0,0.11638435957345407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11513871449492638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19129591585967246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2372905667006253,0.0,0.11336968591609635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07744880255759727,0.0,0.11656453461761275,0.0,0.0,0.11688481336936425,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08529306208507689,0.0,0.08948703553771938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24350125718105745,0.0,0.0,0.08824362411803299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11076072731799236,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11102199589279152,0.0,0.1166389997850382,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09226918333957496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26083801148220165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12366915105411674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1316658590717245,0.0,0.0,0.2617131842195467,0.09325796198854623,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06765617114506046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15754918762230136,0.12620386098893438,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20530687175920864,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075580235138606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08446890600885808,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22415240178748366 divorce,Number175OnEarlsList,2019/04/18,Anyone consider divorce but decided against it for financial reasons? We've considered divorce seriously as recently as 2 years ago and things aren't looking great again. I think he's cheating on me again but don't have the time or energy to find out. And I don't really care. We have 2 kids together and 2 dogs. I worked in payroll for 10 years and quit to stay home and raise his kids like he wanted. Our youngest is 10 so I still have 8 more years until she's out of the house at least. At this time I can't support myself financially. The plan always was for me to go back to school and become a teacher when the kids started school and I want to stick to that plan. Just wonder how realistic it is to stay together for financial reasons and kids? Am I dreaming?,3.1189860139860137,4.953706512987015,4.431298701298704,84.39167332667333,74.77922077922078,8.115084915084916,27.43056943056943,8.841846274778883,2.148663936063936,609,24,123,13,13,201,96,154,0.122,0.83,0.048,-0.9222,0,0,0,0,2,0,11.0,2,0,0,4,8,6,1,0,5,0,11,0,0,3,0,24,20,17,0,2,4,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,1,4,5,11,0,0,6,1,0,1,4,2,0,0,1,1,14,4,22,19,2,23,0,0,1,0,12,6,0,2,15,78,19,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14508876073785995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1361914146327496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1144459563039976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1258566215078366,0.0,0.0,0.18076711117126826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1668784321485491,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14959675686597804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0930207544842524,0.0,0.0,0.18045319666628631,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16418021759956453,0.0,0.0,0.1888599493049834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07996375015988147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13744648677735516,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17408940815240467,0.0,0.0,0.1048549373080813,0.33657205715834204,0.16161015069220058,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3312973862519768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11585060535087392,0.34891334548442915,0.1307117410481726,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1857374089787912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108738958395506,0.10487687237654976,0.0,0.0,0.19088140264309136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1930805078600442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1774994716901597,0.1191579643498304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31620563309202643 divorce,bodrifle,2019/04/18,divorce 50/50 community state question I live in texas a community state and i was reading in a community state a divorce settlement is not clearly 50/50 and that it even gets worse when the assets are not in your name but the other spouses.I think i was even reading that as long as the separate assets are in the other spouses name that you are not even entitled to those assets is this true? How does it work if there is no joint accounts and the house is in the wives name etc.,5.574561403508773,6.159395526315793,5.987105263157897,80.33890350877195,67.42105263157895,8.85964912280702,31.62280701754386,8.841846274778883,2.4607543859649126,385,15,75,6,6,124,52,95,0.08900000000000001,0.818,0.094,0.1154,0,0,0,0,2,0,5.0,0,2,0,1,6,1,0,0,9,0,9,0,0,1,2,16,11,9,0,1,5,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,9,3,0,0,2,2,1,0,4,0,0,0,2,0,5,1,8,9,1,10,0,0,0,0,10,5,0,2,2,56,14,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2164931982574995,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.27590593549569586,0.4901975129431456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.129251388015737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854555595987737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21845044942181505,0.21893291332575773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2771341118392999,0.0,0.4949151338234526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1585179197780671,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18010331740163202,0.0,0.2521121764390128,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,halplatmein,2019/04/18,"Say you ex results in 37k in unexpected dept Am I wrong for being upset that I have to cover it? What if it turns out the but isn't on me? What if I want to have children? What if It'm 35, and need to consider reality?",-0.24312499999999915,1.574169270833334,3.1498333333333366,89.57850000000002,85.45833333333334,6.34,20.016666666666666,7.554174236665415,0.5655366666666666,167,5,40,3,5,61,37,48,0.102,0.868,0.031,-0.5204,0,0,0,0,0,0,5.0,0,1,0,0,0,2,0,1,1,0,5,0,0,1,0,9,8,5,0,5,4,1,0,0,0,0,0,1,0,1,6,2,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,1,5,0,8,7,0,4,0,0,0,0,4,4,0,3,0,30,11,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3750523022131786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4022410532635816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5501769077471217,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.29834031742663364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5530247108887536,0.0,0.0 divorce,frekkenstein,2019/04/18,"Just moved in to my very own apartment. Ex and I got married after two weeks. Celebrated 7 years in November. I still honestly believe we got married for all the right reasons. I got in to the medial field shortly after we were married. A lot of overtime, screwed up schedule, and things plaguing/occupying my mind finally took its toll. She told me two weeks ago we were done. It’s been coming for quite some time. We weren’t intimate for the past two years; including cuddling, hand holding, or even real kisses. She was done a long time ago. I actually feel a sense of relief. I’ve been working hard on fixing things for a while, and knowing I no longer need to worry about living up to her expectations or letting her down has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I tried. I really did.",2.9724561403508787,5.4177343157894775,4.198842105263157,83.0075614035088,77.55263157894737,6.9480701754385965,27.23859649122807,8.021203637495839,1.9641617543859653,624,26,115,11,15,204,103,152,0.063,0.815,0.121,0.872,1,0,0,0,0,0,21.0,4,0,0,2,4,4,1,0,8,0,11,6,2,1,1,22,20,6,0,2,3,1,4,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,4,8,1,1,3,0,0,3,2,1,0,3,14,4,19,3,21,5,4,31,0,0,0,3,10,12,1,4,16,80,23,1,0.0,0.0,0.13337661888443392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2423110697794747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15398769349231545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11773476500003174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.279735173429737,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09027358707972108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06910778170525142,0.0,0.0,0.14972250442744536,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3279382219066722,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12243536290580935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07511386982064239,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1397610554573375,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12068791750951807,0.1209544656626323,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11619753430159195,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13800437606943514,0.0,0.0,0.14526556644252625,0.0,0.10134394665354908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1304732536857663,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14537235865878206,0.0,0.15556786176462575,0.08755851211895772,0.14052627993574676,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11672104608930385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10915008731567293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18160368316279474,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15939441704592625,0.0,0.0,0.13060032212752692,0.15185270098188844,0.09279442101176838,0.0,0.4005394542203145,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11277248620480393,0.0,0.0,0.21926740444085407,0.16643524436838653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0995021725580761,0.13880169376775678,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17603046308840534 divorce,Niliam,2019/04/19,"Tough situation I’m in a very difficult situation. My husband of 7 years filed for divorce in 2017 we have 3 kids. He has no desire to finalize nor do anything else divorce related. We still live together. Things have been horrible. I have been staying at home with the kids and he works full time. It’s been a nightmare. Today things finally got worse. Our youngest came down with a fever out of nowhere. Then, he started claiming our son was sick because I neglect him. He has cameras in the house and can see what I do all day he states that because I talk to my aunt for one hour each day I’m neglecting our youngest child. So he said he was calling CPS. He claims he has a bunch of video footage of me not even paying attention to our son. ( I’m studying to become a medical coder) i try to juggle maintaining the house and taking care of all 3 kids. All with barely no help from him. But ok that’s fine. I have to do it al for the kids he does nothing. He says it’s my job since I can’t work. Well today before I could even give our son medicine or do anything to nurse him he decided to demand I call 911. I did. The rescue came they asked if we wanted a ride to the hospital. I said to ask dad. They went to the hospital. Before the rescue came he punched a hole on the wall. But yet I’m the abusive and neglectful one. What do I do? I can move out but I can’t take anything other than my clothes. Since he has already filed for divorce I’m not sure if I still will be accused of abandoning the home. I hate to have to deal with CPS since I know I don’t neglect my son or any of our kids. I take care of them every day of my life. What do I do if he does call CPS? Do I need a lawyer?",0.5154425169067913,2.574302620111734,2.323316671567188,95.18548074095855,84.25139664804469,5.667862393413702,22.270214642752126,6.950104931194217,0.5179653631284921,1310,46,303,17,38,432,172,358,0.117,0.8290000000000001,0.054000000000000006,-0.9634,1,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,9,0,3,2,7,14,1,0,19,1,32,4,0,0,4,43,58,15,0,7,10,7,0,0,0,1,4,3,2,6,11,17,0,5,3,1,1,6,8,8,1,2,13,4,43,6,40,42,6,33,0,5,1,0,58,10,0,5,15,178,54,5,0.0,0.1078405672868518,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043980731262216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06189485644515502,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22469834408513006,0.0,0.1701776993052494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1109665511737921,0.10052141042019312,0.15489796536605951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2788163897787445,0.3122984870803482,0.1855963206978428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266987424261655,0.0,0.0,0.1760958049084835,0.0938347962774362,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1592996313784448,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07603323984489307,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12023208079666688,0.0,0.07668596527134196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19940991414800824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08731204730138753,0.0,0.0,0.07279481567843797,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08986069875473597,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06100694936790279,0.0,0.1825954614118498,0.0,0.08963366494081451,0.2100433906700674,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09032058421174494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050020704601282696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06428818091165157,0.0,0.0,0.0803699061851364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0916903117714325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09673694092862098,0.0,0.06748814341199356,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08733351364535986,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12335129891345413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17315650989406967,0.07238057659865782,0.0,0.0,0.07252897045343695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2258712486919703,0.20461442256887816,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06442248356156717,0.09701228662467444,0.14537299936372244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08578268836807981,0.0,0.20530095197186785,0.07315622417838757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12093564359926895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05307289498721069,0.0,0.17254743612514967,0.0,0.0,0.061794743542838135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07509876981537844,0.05368433684916826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08183544553033202,0.08437390987946604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13252329543393015,0.0,0.09275436155962684,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.058612129930179224 divorce,growingupcrazy,2019/04/19,"Made up my mind to divorce. Just haven't told him yet. STBX and I have been separated for a month and a half. I told him I had to move out for my emotional health and well being, and he threw a temper tantrum that pretty much proved the point (sorry, if you're going to throw my laptop against the wall hard enough to make a dent and come in and tip the mattress up in the middle of the night to roll me out of bed, then, no, I can't live with you). Over this time I've been distancing myself, to the point where we have extremely low contact now. I have my own apartment and our two pets (cat was already mine, and the rabbit is a pain in the butt, so he wanted me to take her), and except for how much I want to go out and flirt with cute guys (loneliness coupled with a feeling of recklessness from *finally* not feeling ""one down"" as my therapist likes to say), I'm really pretty happy. (Don't worry, not going to go out and get myself in trouble while we're separated). What I've found out through the separation is how much we were already ""emotionally divorced"" at least in my mind. He has a serious drinking problem that he won't take responsibility for, and he has shown very, very little regard for my feelings and wishes. It got to the point where, just for my own emotional safety, I simply stopped trying to get him to listen to me. I knew that making requests that he didn't like would simply lead to us arguing which put me in a very low state, sometimes to the point of self-harm/suicidal ideation. So, long story short, I already had to emotionally check out of this marriage to protect myself. I just want to go ahead and make it official. I'm waiting for a few things first: he graduates next month and is in the process of finding a full time job where he can support himself, so I think the timing is not quite right yet. To be honest, I'm just looking for support. When I think of getting divorced, all I feel is relief. I felt trapped in a marriage without respect or consideration. But I feel really strange, because I'm not crying over it, not experiencing negative emotions at all about leaving...I guess I'm curious what other people felt when they finally made up their minds to initiate a divorce.",6.856465157832048,6.0709598242009175,7.220061544570182,77.216828469327,64.91324200913242,10.083144729005364,34.3402819138376,9.318704503766252,2.9176540401032365,1745,67,344,27,23,571,224,438,0.087,0.789,0.125,0.9336,1,1,1,0,4,0,61.0,4,1,2,4,19,20,3,0,25,0,25,4,1,8,3,77,71,28,0,7,14,0,8,2,0,2,2,2,3,1,14,27,1,3,14,1,1,11,13,9,1,4,17,12,43,11,69,50,11,70,0,2,1,1,34,38,1,3,22,236,57,4,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24619069528717824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04533217973703902,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06405881468236244,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08228339628291864,0.0816863992646208,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07284933425902486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41825276473054257,0.0,0.07683886633270286,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18800575095065009,0.0,0.14280401677210278,0.1629263228222237,0.0679682117390192,0.0632547835236956,0.0,0.0815373229166381,0.0,0.0,0.11655784209059525,0.0,0.2113165575699344,0.0,0.05947643922160487,0.0,0.08192136998383888,0.07363298637054548,0.0,0.07916286588203969,0.06661638321483819,0.0,0.0,0.07904645819369979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07379573239198238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07266191080842749,0.0745332104325589,0.06566560813316591,0.06581063546425428,0.06244782381503738,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1407318164901078,0.1489175330649999,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22526218365453776,0.0,0.11871477791091894,0.07903816685299099,0.16400037152057395,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07908796177924697,0.06978646248632553,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0503916107511016,0.0,0.07912954371784339,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05155528886944768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2811956364683849,0.0,0.0,0.15131176580670155,0.0,0.0711572083679051,0.0,0.07475730862866685,0.0,0.0790962718892617,0.0,0.0,0.09528017492012976,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06350725600007935,0.0,0.05913798839619733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07757885516350263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07354883129320416,0.08324546665335121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06217242316990354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08134317900575938,0.1687769147647658,0.0,0.0,0.11182636637230764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0863434318617298,0.0494047645372919,0.09530010700167224,0.0,0.0,0.13008839092190094,0.0,0.0,0.142117781992801,0.0,0.05048891564992198,0.0,0.07264374480742594,0.0,0.08945187152532624,0.0,0.0,0.18407660120766006,0.1315871124064463,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06686301568175343,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08551601577635702,0.07168515246297404,0.0,0.0,0.07552121056736599,0.0,0.052826722705591855,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Taylencia,2019/04/19,"How was your first date with someone new? I am 34/f and my soon to be ex husband and I separated in August 2017. Since then we haven’t shared the same home or been physical in anyway. We have two children together and were married in 2011. However we started dating in 99’ during our sophomore year of high school. I asked for the divorce and he filed the papers which I received last month and everything has been really amicable so far. He has a new girlfriend that I haven’t met but eventually he wants to introduce her to the kids and I’m okay with that. I have had a couple of hook ups here and there through Craigslist and Tinder but nothing serious. However tomorrow I have my first date with someone I met on line and I’m super scared and nervous and it’s starting to hit me that I’m starting over. I have to find someone that will put up with things my soon to be ex learned to deal with. For example my hands start to sweat if I know I’m about to hold someone’s hand, and I snore really bad, and I don’t always like to dress up and put on make up to go out. I know those sound like little things but they still concern me. It’s hitting me that I’ve never really dated before and I don’t know how too. Do you remember your first date with someone new?",2.522013986013988,4.220009215384618,3.8598601398601424,88.43877622377623,76.07692307692308,7.18881118881119,25.279720279720287,8.00094639256281,1.3714230769230773,996,35,212,16,22,327,143,260,0.046,0.868,0.086,0.8483,2,0,0,0,2,0,17.0,4,3,1,4,11,9,0,2,6,1,20,3,3,3,1,43,39,24,0,2,5,3,2,2,1,1,0,1,1,2,11,25,0,1,6,0,0,4,5,4,0,4,7,3,30,5,35,27,1,44,0,0,0,0,25,15,0,2,27,139,41,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09671171495831203,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10865828597397216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.097046235729932,0.0,0.0,0.0989021915694247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12860501295957572,0.0,0.0,0.11982684182296467,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10445899682858924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10623106418068842,0.2965926039385699,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06605553453679193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12280216252275422,0.11658701430702773,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19162901064151727,0.09474202644972878,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11356709133705545,0.11649184314950135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07758366059612952,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0927727600063602,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08964285519778073,0.3367636457855105,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11152471727529806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2336841958238061,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22337753454406795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13166463075961704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1163653561707082,0.1176298024072742,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09614570665003397,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4924016415155355,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.32906951595016004,0.0,0.09282051057362116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15443456810501605,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1135386987463292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0685547877247632,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07484756935247362 divorce,SorryNotSorry525,2019/04/19,"Divorced Parents TRYING to be Friends... My ex (42m) and I (33f) were married for 13 years. We separated about 2 years ago, and have now been divorced for 8 months. We have two boys (10 and 13). We share them 50/50 and generally things work out pretty well. He pays me half of their insurance once a month, because it is through my work, but otherwise there is no support on either side. Any purchases over $40, such as doctors appointments or sports fees are split. But after 2 years, and now owing me $200, he just decided he's not going to pay me back this month...?? It's always about money right? Unendingly, we seem to get to a good place, where we are 'friends', then without reason or warning he pulls the bipolar rug out from under me over something random like this, shattering my admittedly overly-emotional world. At this point, I genuinely do not care about getting this money back (ok maybe a little but hey, single mom). I cannot do anything legally, and it's really not a bank breaker, but really, I am so tired of being walked all over and feeling stupid for trying to trust him and be friends. The bigger problem is, and the reason for this post is this: I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I have no poker face, suck at lying, and have no desire to fake my life. On top of that, I am extremely emotional and don't have much of a filter. My kids know this, and thus, unfortunately every time this type of event happens (maybe every two months), they see it all over my face. My youngest has had a difficult time with the divorce. We have assured him that we love him, want him to be happy and will still do things as a family, but I am genuinely starting to wonder what the hell is best for him? So here's my question (sorry it took a while): Do I continue to fake my emotions (badly) when this stuff happens for the sake of my children? Or, is the best thing for them to stop faking it and just cut my 'friend' out?",5.3384444189514735,5.535212889182064,5.874516462085579,82.29478949179766,67.86543535620052,8.807663186876221,29.407020764024324,8.587818076936951,2.0235425260984283,1491,49,302,21,23,483,206,379,0.15,0.7020000000000001,0.14800000000000002,-0.6328,1,0,1,0,4,0,71.0,7,0,4,5,18,27,4,0,15,1,32,8,3,3,3,59,51,29,0,3,15,3,1,1,4,1,4,0,1,3,22,25,0,1,9,2,8,4,9,10,1,3,4,2,42,17,46,42,7,50,1,0,1,1,38,22,2,7,24,212,64,7,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0818859249953524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07686439602153271,0.0,0.0,0.0628189816867696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0760177391834318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14206318692844014,0.0771302659534051,0.056311672297093475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1938862392231259,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09418368941028736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945509519621818,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4156431525945951,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15566186028014511,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08708405727723624,0.0,0.046708180806279885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854784826670677,0.0,0.09652550050958104,0.0,0.052499521575422425,0.07748077129941723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16337593189125293,0.0983361794536852,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.050767542034637965,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06524803984226539,0.0451303437608763,0.09258521750939104,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08337312441595067,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18560861221800476,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10818988548465533,0.29493519655662376,0.0,0.06790713374942424,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09837763499086287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257283480221764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09651346461214144,0.0,0.0873253648072571,0.0,0.08847086160353843,0.0939798022092427,0.0,0.08839154486797231,0.0,0.0,0.10348248194560833,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11835711447442845,0.1899562315360498,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07888876751810214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.073611869036516,0.08409582035753853,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0711157095568373,0.0,0.10340758961060988,0.06538434770676475,0.0,0.0737717502654883,0.07723063703904101,0.0,0.0,0.10574864477369922,0.0,0.10482741366816037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18411192181870348,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1077306067013719,0.1061728493842377,0.0,0.0,0.1026333538476902,0.12543474808430669,0.0,0.18047624339965831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05448587438574235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08305729505413481,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08904735747273038,0.10017804516089134,0.1345019432480819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17846172662032425 divorce,Lo0kmeinI,2019/04/19,"Is it strange for kids to have three motherly figures? I (39M) got divorced from the BM 5 years ago because she decided that she like women more then men. I am over that part of the divorce, it was a long time coming and a really bad rebound relationship that caused me to be ok with all of it. Now the BM has a serious SO who is getting more and more involved with our three girls. This all being said I have met a wonderful woman and we have a amazing relationship and as a plus she loves my kids and is very accepting of all of the kiddos and logistical challenges. I guess wanting to know if anyone else has run into these sorts of challenges and how they felt about it. Thoughts?",6.886298227320125,5.8205735839416075,7.2019812304483874,78.28678832116789,64.98540145985402,10.456308654848804,34.89989572471325,9.606745405546679,3.0310654848800844,539,21,110,9,7,176,92,137,0.048,0.799,0.152,0.9308,0,0,0,0,2,0,10.0,2,0,1,2,4,9,0,0,10,1,12,1,0,2,3,29,24,13,0,2,1,1,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,6,10,13,0,0,7,0,0,2,0,2,0,2,6,2,12,7,17,16,7,10,0,0,0,1,22,2,0,4,7,82,22,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.190014488968696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14988335272177453,0.21963401103189592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1789790866988155,0.13066999774518265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2202036191730133,0.0,0.1846495187008212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1790677131801786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20581627287565912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1119926510741415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17144082248109066,0.0,0.23613833028029246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11780496533996575,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10472397066029604,0.0,0.0,0.18969914170478044,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19346550253318293,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2321276712448477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13732254123003684,0.0,0.0,0.4602782538417264,0.0,0.0,0.20390253205206973,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17017546217326532,0.12499325238012875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1768669203221871,0.12643327382583766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23246095172290115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13803883791651492 divorce,mech1985,2019/04/19,"New to divorce and looking for insight Hello everyone, I am getting ready to divorce my wife of 8 months (yes I know how that sounds). A little context to the situation is that we kind of made a lot of irresponsible and rushed decisions which culminated in our being wed by the clerk of courts. I'm not typically one to make such hasty decisions (we moved in together after dating for a month and got married after 4 or 5 months) but it always felt like there was pressure (such as me offering her to move in because her roommate did renew their lease) which just kind of made things speed up. &#x200B; The problem is now, 8 months down the road I have realized - for a month or two now - that I'm not actually in love with her. Don't get me wrong she's a great person and I care a great deal about her but I'm not in love with her, that feeling still belongs to someone else. I feel like love is fundamental to marriage, she consistently asks me why I'm kind of distant sometimes and so today I told her and she moved out. She's willing to cooperate in a divorce and doesn't want anything financially (we also don't own any marital assets or debt so I feel like it could be relatively fast and easy) but I know she is heartbroken because she is in love with me and I feel terrible about hurting her. &#x200B; Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? Any insights or advice would be super appreciated. Also I know I'm going to get some lectures but I already know it was irresponsible so just be gentle please.",3.7809392419175047,5.5206867525083645,5.330957357859532,79.03193213489412,72.77926421404682,8.060256410256411,29.180741360089183,8.72156446121922,2.3500065774804906,1205,50,230,23,24,407,160,299,0.14400000000000002,0.705,0.152,0.389,1,0,0,0,3,0,32.0,4,0,1,1,17,19,0,1,12,1,22,4,0,4,1,54,53,24,0,4,13,1,5,3,0,2,0,1,0,1,10,16,0,0,14,0,1,5,6,5,0,2,9,7,34,14,38,37,3,34,0,1,1,4,34,13,0,6,19,156,44,1,0.0,0.0,0.08559840634159872,0.0,0.0,0.08571530387245622,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09679706258331193,0.14029330615139346,0.07298694642947832,0.1900810394841799,0.21316968845518133,0.1193001152273988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0613332411911202,0.0,0.07218299947243319,0.0,0.08200285250778333,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10694202314816666,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08943256239980787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07003428773105558,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09043160168048107,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07327567099736143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07934436956981049,0.0,0.08381663544419354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17740788540750752,0.12532901241291552,0.08422135531470755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13748436010863405,0.0,0.04985116604214476,0.0,0.07015469779859794,0.19341494959320615,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09390205933600088,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2740289273046548,0.19282622710261804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12856118643654973,0.08791472593665445,0.0,0.0,0.073659557721684,0.0,0.0,0.07457321860631103,0.31666935956671205,0.16599847243250707,0.058551277703775786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3500713676527096,0.27968547458600496,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08471690041183359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.059438800810791385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07659044573530617,0.0,0.09628610131268127,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.083932604482968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19719347932638776,0.0,0.0,0.07432169359538952,0.0,0.0867536137055848,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07005031019989638,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05827477857258113,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08314474818340872,0.08381663544419354,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08568603014270904,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.051737316635408384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0791502718307979,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06231110697956689,0.09590394895752816,0.21316968845518133,0.0 divorce,raptor2819,2019/04/19,"Divorce Alimony Marriage was in India under Hindu Marriage Act My parents recently agreed for a mutual consent divorce. Father agreed to pay only Rs 1,50,000 permanent alimony (has property and savings worth much much much more, but refused to give divorce under any other condition). My mother was not in a financial position to hire a lawyer and file normal divorce case so she unwillingly accepted to get rid of him (father was very violent). Now she doesn't want to go through the divorce under mutual consent as the amount is too low to sustain a standard of living and support my education. Father has also refused to pay for my education citing that he is not legally bound to pay for it once I am 18+. Now coming to the main point, mother has already received Rs 50,000 alimony (out of Rs 1,50,000) in advance. If she decided to not go through the process, will she have to repay that Rs 50,000? Any guidance is highly appreciated",7.8880701754386,8.395306257309947,8.468473684210531,64.80481578947372,62.45029239766082,11.050526315789476,41.66140350877193,10.793553405168565,5.045698947368422,754,42,113,18,10,252,102,171,0.08800000000000001,0.804,0.108,0.6781,1,0,0,0,5,0,23.0,0,0,0,1,5,5,1,0,8,0,13,0,0,0,0,19,20,8,0,3,5,6,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,4,5,0,3,2,0,4,6,4,2,0,0,3,0,10,3,27,16,6,19,1,1,0,0,23,10,0,1,3,80,14,6,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2364339246788795,0.17133834485421748,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.291399281187685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18456030941332788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11193854432814454,0.2055313582090153,0.2435302585141627,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2263704517341189,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18918965352333134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4725026440439531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20992281508689908,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22817284960319184,0.0,0.16294934467316016,0.0,0.0,0.23790301536394115,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20253869014599465,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2115493579620836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2431321884838791,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17678147102313618,0.12637219041574918,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,turtlegir,2019/04/19,"Husband ""fell out of love"" with me I am a 28F and he is 27M. We have been together going on 11years and married for almost 4 years. He has tools me that he doesn't love me anymore. He doesn't handle stress well and the last few months have been stressful for him. I suffer from major depression. Sometimes it's debilitating and I can barely get out of bed. As such our income hasn't been as high as he would like and it stressed him out. He didn't know how to handle depression and so he kept to himself. This has all resulted in him pulling away and wanting to leave. He told me he doesn't feel love for me anymore and he wants to be happy and move on. I feel so alone and lost. He has been the love of my life and he now wants to leave. Everything in me is saying to hold on but it hurts to much. We split our apartment so we each have our own rooms, we have been going to therapy for 2 months, and have berm awesome with eachother. We have been like best friends but he still wants to move forward with the divorce. I just hurt so much. I barely have any tears left. He was my first and only in everything; boyfriend, kiss, sex, etc. How do I move on from that?",1.9754811302114208,3.67659195020747,2.840071132187316,95.1410235131397,77.63070539419087,5.918277020351709,22.264572218929068,6.655083550727371,0.2767236119344005,904,26,207,8,21,285,122,241,0.107,0.748,0.145,0.9434,1,1,0,0,1,0,27.0,8,0,0,3,11,20,0,3,4,0,29,7,0,3,1,43,46,24,0,5,3,1,2,2,1,1,1,1,2,0,6,25,0,2,3,0,0,8,5,9,1,1,11,3,27,11,35,33,9,30,0,6,0,6,35,16,0,1,10,136,33,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10675844376926936,0.11041987139320228,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07250112374613897,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21146472766417745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10016729039382577,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11188473487743526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18365283171658645,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11890270652344898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1916354393940299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10781440595387257,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09068574863885652,0.0,0.0,0.08236965262310278,0.0,0.05570137456221325,0.0,0.12118229898509925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1134925037601447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11264346340699442,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22826481972661636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05859222401428703,0.08690457700626464,0.0,0.2257775017384894,0.11583633954156887,0.0,0.07530456692826969,0.10417235522944507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11638169135229195,0.0,0.3848929128156277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17019643273799784,0.33994118386736594,0.15674700146403456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08108469282662265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0847836709250007,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10544389618910988,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08514201681326984,0.0,0.3663776665601494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12192231271330407,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.101874172489129,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25153461677900874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0958587208045694,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07573547216234296,0.0,0.0,0.06865587108773942 divorce,Waitingfornextseason,2019/04/19,"When will I break the habit of texting and responding like we are still married? Divorce was final just 8 days ago but took almost a year. We have a child under 2 together. The hardest part right now is managing the anxiety from anticipating the next text and being thrilled to realizing we are no longer married. The texts are not coming. She has our kid way more than I do, which I resent if I focus on the parenting plan too much. I guess I am not used to all the alone time. Ex-wife is 35. I am 36. We were married just under 5 years.",2.1254128440366955,4.0871296605504615,3.8169633027522964,87.11094954128441,78.08256880733944,6.928807339449541,23.74403669724771,7.908726449838941,1.2160121100917434,419,14,88,7,10,140,82,109,0.09,0.857,0.053,-0.4215,1,1,0,0,1,0,12.0,5,0,0,1,6,3,1,0,9,0,14,0,0,1,1,18,18,5,0,1,6,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,0,2,1,7,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,1,0,0,3,0,13,2,8,13,4,18,0,0,0,0,11,4,0,3,11,62,14,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2130600023638433,0.0,0.2406805840375354,0.2489350556074273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18387074197767014,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2070443527985953,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15500894327682896,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2632969032431234,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2647778781543429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11742520034937765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17668841230034746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2556200257831612,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2668855291879157,0.2602807946518675,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20526166120540865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19194763064399514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14015279988444485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2670429944418305,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2075893507695624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907824296703091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3095611844383099 divorce,late_night_shadows,2019/04/19,"Should I just file Contested divorce no assets/children (ex just being difficult.) I want to file uncontested; but he won’t tell me his address. He lives out of the country and I have his mothers address. (He says he doesn’t live with her but I know that’s a lie.) He’s already stated he wouldn’t sign the papers, but doesn’t want me to serve them by certified mail to his parents... I was suggested to file by cook county contested, send to his parents. And get a default judgement and show his uncooperative behavior? Can he appeal after? As stated above, neither of us make more than 35k. We have no kids, no property or assets to divide, we just got married on a whim and it just went terrible. (Mostly Bc he wanted a green card.)",2.55007992007992,4.863061055944058,4.236928071928077,82.87868881118881,78.3006993006993,6.882917082917084,26.298201798201795,7.957251820313856,1.8024089910089915,573,23,108,10,14,192,91,143,0.086,0.88,0.034,-0.8426,2,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,3,0,1,0,4,2,0,0,6,0,10,1,0,1,0,25,18,9,0,5,8,4,0,0,0,3,0,1,2,1,2,8,1,0,1,2,0,2,8,2,0,0,3,2,17,0,16,11,3,7,0,0,1,0,29,2,0,2,1,69,19,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.261837604113774,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1239657984558384,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18976958079797795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13039950791738295,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4190343299418166,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15838214365814834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5269290829473019,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.188689696526174,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20738781144574964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2854112381830261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4198508096079312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21995524487405665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,obrseamus,2019/04/19,"The Last.... Yesterday I had a soul wrenching crying jag because I realized that so many Last things were past already. Last time we'd get sushi together, last time we'd make love, make soup together, etc. What's even worse is how many of those Lasts are shit, because that's how things have been for us. At least I can flip those to ""That was the Last time"" gladly enough. I could feel that chapter of my life closing.",4.185894308943091,5.481971573170731,3.842439024390245,91.85601626016262,71.07317073170732,7.417886178861789,25.861788617886177,7.793537801064563,1.1442130081300812,327,10,70,4,6,98,58,82,0.116,0.8059999999999999,0.078,-0.4939,0,0,0,0,0,0,15.0,3,0,0,0,4,3,1,0,3,0,11,3,1,4,0,8,16,3,0,1,0,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,9,1,0,0,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,4,1,8,2,5,9,3,13,1,0,0,1,4,2,1,0,11,41,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15890351977840778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17555764025216775,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1149693444060885,0.0,0.15817319593697016,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14878669116807575,0.16059396047084884,0.09510821127626423,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0728088659803958,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07523213395358586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.7042573182332508,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10170885926947312,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12996230076149035,0.0,0.19223732345483424,0.2919793346599281,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13746078093129238,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14781015316293647,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1913295131558453,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.25189623648066584,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1732098431205075,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14674455199568587,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,MsNoName30,2019/04/19,"Counseling during separation Me (29F) and my spouse (30M) are seperated and thinking of divorce. He moved out lives in apartment not far from our home. It was his decision to leave, unhappy for years all my fault blah blah. But talking to him yesterday I see he is extremely guilt ridden, confused and very sad. He told me he wants to get this all settled so he can finally sleep with tears in his eyes. I want him to live a happy life with me or without me. I worry that divorce isnt going to make him happy and I think he knows that as well. He asked me other day if it would be better if he wasnt around. Lots of his Army buddies over the years have taken there own lives. It has effected him tremendously. His entire life has been a trauma. Abandonment, abuse, state living, army trauma. I'm legit worried about this dude he is the father to my child. I have told him for years he need counseling and he doesnt think it will help. So my question is to get him to actually go should I tell him to do couples counseling to help us transition through our separation and divorce? I really want to get his foot in the door. If I make him go with me he will. If it's on him to go solo he wont. Wierd right? I dont no how else to get him help. I dont necessarily want to fix our broken marriage but help him live a healthy happy life. What do you guys think? Is that ridiculous?",1.22173190984579,3.4717293523131687,2.97047330960854,90.44882977461448,82.87900355871886,6.308944246737841,21.466310794780547,7.554174236665415,0.8234198339264536,1072,34,230,18,30,355,148,281,0.103,0.7829999999999999,0.115,0.7637,0,0,0,0,4,0,32.0,4,1,0,2,7,13,1,2,6,0,25,6,3,4,2,43,51,17,0,11,9,2,0,2,0,5,3,0,2,2,12,11,0,1,8,0,0,6,9,8,1,0,6,2,41,5,33,39,4,23,0,2,2,0,52,10,0,8,6,141,53,0,0.0,0.1151938320058614,0.094876014656885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08654943937966035,0.0908907556688224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08598619734072688,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1075758439029169,0.0,0.06270105050420426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2278902035998429,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0812176760370385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650348346910804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2031808569379898,0.0,0.2210171970353062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09626645235531883,0.0,0.3104883544337256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2606671850300296,0.0,0.09752299823757456,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053431438535816236,0.0,0.0,0.10294554362681872,0.0,0.0,0.20601528992889845,0.0,0.0,0.42925022115245387,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08265585872321404,0.0,0.0,0.12979475013667693,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10333308885932714,0.0,0.07208991987133698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10891245965459544,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0622838001788842,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08302825316880308,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07747446297966527,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09729361450064368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07814448690512198,0.08497753770176505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24918731841095385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18580225199892592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1169477805090296,0.0,0.0,0.08021948781990784,0.2293795233439261,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08741551349104637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09371988906484352,0.0,0.0,0.1974701659474601,0.0,0.06906471454021818,0.0,0.0,0.1878260478004546 divorce,lllLuna,2019/04/19,Wedding album/ video I’m curious to know what you all have done with your wedding album/ video. I guess this is more directed to those who have not had children since I assume those who had children would keep it for them.,5.3434108527131805,6.611556209302329,4.81860465116279,86.0448062015504,68.30232558139535,7.593798449612403,28.286821705426355,7.793537801064563,1.645719379844961,179,6,34,2,3,54,32,43,0.0,0.944,0.056,0.3182,0,0,0,0,0,0,4.0,0,2,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,7,0,0,0,1,8,11,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,2,7,1,0,1,2,2,0,0,1,0,0,0,3,0,5,0,4,7,2,0,0,0,0,0,9,0,0,2,0,26,12,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.480186882139556,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5169115538282391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.41707464210881456,0.0,0.0,0.2578774382383514,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3881532620586691,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.333328694610307,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,Hyrkania,2019/04/19,"Jesus fucking Christ. When does it fucking end? Apologies. I’m more than a little drunk tonight. My fucking ex (F41) and I (M40) have been divorced, officially, for three months now. She is a clinical narcissist. Utter sociopath. I’m in fucking hiding. My state has me in a. Program for victims of abuse. At her peak, she assaulted me. Tried to kill me. Being a man, I never went to the cops. She is a solid ducking liar, able to be very persuasivez. Had memon the fucking hook since I. Was 19. She keeps dragging me to court. Each time doing financial damage over spurious fucking bullshit. The judge rules in my favor, but it doesn’t fucking matter. I’m Drowning in legal fees. We have no kids. It’s just her petty fucking revenge. Jesus Christ. Please just fucking kill me now.",1.104246575342465,3.6188357808219216,2.447873972602739,87.91424931506849,98.72602739726028,4.253808219178082,24.33315068493151,6.152001189255117,1.0760370410958902,608,27,105,7,25,195,100,146,0.222,0.72,0.058,-0.9792,0,0,0,0,2,2,34.0,1,0,0,0,5,16,14,0,8,0,12,11,0,0,1,9,26,3,3,0,3,1,0,0,0,0,1,0,0,2,3,3,1,1,0,1,1,1,3,15,0,1,4,0,18,1,14,20,2,17,4,1,0,9,12,7,9,0,8,67,21,2,0.1082518976568884,0.1282607972421121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09473196513620814,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09587905045849696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.9006942153235831,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0962192605116932,0.239529371808736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1084968402461198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08640563192638231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08349053699079788,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11882807619250177,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08954708838602222,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06312255206243232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0734959326678414,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08931915262278753,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10035059365728932,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,TheDude191179,2019/04/19,"Post divorce Maybe I can give some hope to people in the process of divorce. I think this applies to men and women. Getting divorced was one of the worst things I’ve ever been through. It sucks. But I’ve been divorced for 8 months, and it’s AWESOME. I’ve dated, and I’ve woke up next to one night stands wondering why I did that, but it’s still awesome. I’ve met some girls that are wifey material, and I’ve met some dirty girls. One girl I hung out with for a while turned out to be a professional cuddler!! Look, all I’m saying is being divorced is great. Remember that feeling you got in high school and college when you met someone you wanted to be around? Well that feeling is going to happen again when you start meeting people. I almost feel like once people know your divorced, they also know you’re available. I’m 39 and was afraid of how dating was going to go. It’s great because it seems like we’re a little older and know what we want and are more upfront about it. I think the next time I get married, it’ll be to someone better fitted for me and my morals, and she won’t be such a bitch all the time🤭 😁. Don’t lose hope!! I recovered really fast because of my situation. Everyone has a different situation, so theres no timeline, but press on! You’ll wake up one day in a great mood and the weight will be gone. I still have bad days sometimes, but it doesn’t outweigh the good times. One thing I realized after my divorce is, it sucks to fall in love with the wrong person, but now that I’ve truly felt love, I can’t wait to fall in love with the RIGHT person. Now where is she at? 🧐",2.3608571428571423,4.032193921212127,3.4882467532467563,91.04522727272727,76.45454545454545,6.047619047619048,23.300865800865804,6.7097532225279775,0.5586320346320348,1254,38,270,11,28,405,176,330,0.08800000000000001,0.7090000000000001,0.204,0.9931,1,0,0,0,7,0,38.0,1,6,1,2,17,22,3,1,14,0,29,5,1,1,3,49,68,22,0,4,5,0,6,2,0,4,0,1,0,7,18,18,1,1,13,0,0,6,5,8,1,5,13,8,25,13,35,45,7,48,1,1,1,3,33,17,3,8,25,164,43,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09548727990890143,0.0,0.0,0.07625777199888903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0848888524884798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07961996135514282,0.11625872455429055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08433641713244477,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12299606479888915,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0996288321799881,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08625678601544738,0.0,0.09111867202730152,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14464763623445728,0.06812378662682986,0.09155865076122303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09964125658533884,0.09147609933001682,0.1625824763079564,0.07998178069751508,0.07626651757145587,0.3153976522159713,0.0,0.0,0.08432477979137408,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10075098081701256,0.0,0.18942405487525266,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15721881747440086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09317422108607804,0.09557378480463763,0.0,0.0,0.08007671801842975,0.10668122974488337,0.0,0.0,0.2581930009705529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09579994538659314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07611385965625968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20282866646584746,0.08948703952555613,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10155317629676927,0.3230853021045359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1983277275466888,0.1665258851872385,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09132662120191927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061088787676766586,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10802204468901973,0.08143522576391225,0.0,0.07583252276341361,0.0,0.09650740444939893,0.0,0.08681035757145153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2143728136239372,0.0,0.0,0.16159307725352118,0.0,0.09431151742765413,0.0,0.06749489546410678,0.0,0.15230607162142468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12670325903869206,0.1222031342213318,0.0,0.0,0.16681208024443445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10372214010015253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11248925851272663,0.0,0.0,0.1161203754963048,0.08573830960816183,0.0,0.08604577864049608,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10341170208284227,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10425902238705824,0.0,0.0 divorce,TheCultofAbeLincoln,2019/04/19,"Online Divorce? And other questions Hello all, thanks for reading. Been married for just under two years, and just under four together. Two years ago my wife (F) and I (M) moved to New York state and got a civil marriage for health insurance followed by a family ceremony a couple months later. We've had our ups and downs, but after going to see her family down south a couple months ago she told me she wasn't happy and wanted a divorce. That she wasn't attracted to me (apparently she never actually was) and wanted out, and now claims I forced her to move to NY. That was rough, but Ok. I dont know if I'm numb or processing, but I've accepted this. We don't have any kids. For the last couple years she's been working sparingly and added to my debt, but I'm willing to eat it (we're now financially seperate re bank accounts). She still lives with me, working but not helping with any bills as she wants to save up and move (we rent). Each of our cars are financed, but we are willing to take each of our accounts and go out seperate ways. Has anyone had experience with online divorces? We agree to the terms, and the sites agree to do the filing for about $100. Am I missing something? Are there details that I need to take care of right now that I'm oblivious to? I appreciate any and all advice and input. This has left me in a position in which I'm doubting everything I'm doing unfortunately.",3.8596231586159684,5.272084208633097,5.108108941418294,82.01847721822544,72.02158273381295,7.885166152792054,26.907159986296676,8.418075326091056,1.8234454950325456,1102,38,216,18,21,366,154,278,0.102,0.8079999999999999,0.09,-0.5554,4,0,1,0,3,0,39.0,7,0,0,2,8,10,0,1,10,1,21,3,0,0,3,48,42,23,0,5,11,1,1,0,0,2,2,0,1,1,9,25,1,0,3,1,7,7,6,3,0,3,10,2,28,7,38,30,5,40,0,1,1,0,26,14,0,4,17,144,37,4,0.0,0.0,0.11331456069237412,0.0,0.0,0.11346930881119165,0.205863461321892,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2368929643431809,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08119250788006441,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11839018917578475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3854475613374378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13608960283798108,0.0,0.0,0.11881785274662192,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10435950268903553,0.11358582855466012,0.21893170844761486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13198523714390747,0.0,0.09287028931157924,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1236099261054652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12342815974830422,0.0,0.0,0.07783154590076398,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0638154965377041,0.09465178744028606,0.0,0.0,0.12616270587634318,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10253445069947403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1853687933312264,0.3702456393671149,0.0,0.08610013426587583,0.08955747299982916,0.11214762942054136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13007889891157873,0.0,0.11614956967073373,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09916426261055426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253112885450757,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08939342215749416,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09273210175185533,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1746127900993505,0.0,0.0,0.10690598828728108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11095586506796963,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2268611129124733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.205468473883064,0.09216917979813964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1690707871538507,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2243288376947953 divorce,usadivhelp24,2019/04/19,"Wife drained savings to her aunt's bank account. Can I use her direct deposit to cover bills? Pretty much what the title says. My wife did not want me to access her savings (post marriage). So she had her aunt drain it to another account since the aunt is listed on the savings account. I am not. Firstly, is this legal? She has admitted to having done this. &#x200B; Secondly, I have been paying bills from a shared checking account. I would like to pay them using all of this pay check and then tell her to ask her aunt if she needs cash. Is this legal? &#x200B; If it matters, we have not yet filed for divorce but are in the process of doing so. Thank you for your help.",2.5582867132867158,4.893789863636363,3.120000000000001,90.77884615384615,78.3939393939394,4.9706293706293705,25.305361305361306,5.873414542411696,0.7008291375291379,530,20,102,3,13,165,87,132,0.038,0.8240000000000001,0.138,0.9121,0,0,0,0,1,0,26.0,1,2,1,1,3,6,0,0,5,0,16,0,0,2,1,19,23,7,0,5,6,6,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,7,2,0,0,1,0,14,0,3,0,0,2,4,1,19,6,14,18,2,6,0,0,0,0,27,2,0,2,4,76,26,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3908023039134878,0.4382720422766774,0.0,0.18910496001306826,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16859600397012167,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1845531124948233,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15339933929233834,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087985581925985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08810629401297479,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1325725751925671,0.1337217666130903,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727183773587814,0.1834732775048549,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1434156887701042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918127775328746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15762739761940814,0.1660352534544116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3115162387366121,0.0,0.0,0.106370748993626,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12811022200371155,0.0,0.4382720422766774,0.0 divorce,cherryblossomkisses,2019/04/19,When did you know it was time for a divorce? Just want to see people personal point of views on their divorce..,2.6959090909090904,4.761581318181824,3.1818181818181834,91.8427272727273,76.72727272727272,6.218181818181819,24.63636363636364,7.1686216300943375,0.9369272727272728,87,3,18,1,2,27,21,22,0.0,0.939,0.061,0.0772,0,0,0,0,2,0,3.0,0,1,1,0,2,0,0,0,1,0,2,0,0,0,0,3,5,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,0,0,0,0,2,2,2,0,4,3,0,4,0,0,2,0,5,2,0,0,2,12,3,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2833600541170298,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3574518401379513,0.45020168002051053,0.0,0.0,0.4874082751670528,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4108661234694269,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.300650271034723,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3041140007137582,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,PhoenixRising121212,2019/04/19,"I am lost I don't even know where to start. My ex (M45) and I (F42) were together almost 13 years, married over 8. I helped raise his daughter from the time she was a year old. His first ex-wife cheated. Again and again. I knew he had trust issues, but, like an idiot, I thought that if I loved him enough, he would realize I was not her. I loved him and would never do something like that. He was constantly on the lookout for ""signs"" and, not being perfect, I gave them. After years of a rough, but mostly loving marriage, he declared he wanted out. I moved out in October. We had sporadic contact until just after Christmas. Then he began calling and texting. We started spending time together. A lot of time. In some ways, these months were some of the best of our marriage. We laughed and had fun. He was more loving and affectionate than he had been since we first started dating. Then, a month ago, he announced it was really over. All that had been ""just sex."" As we signed final divorce papers a few weeks ago, he admitted that he never wanted to marry me, because then we were legally tied and he couldn't just leave. I was stunned and said it sounded like he had an escape plan from the beginning. He said he had never thought of it like that, but when he said it out loud, that's what it sounded like. He also said he never wanted to put anyone in the same category as his first ex. &#x200B; I should hate this man who used me and lied to me for all these years, but I don't. Or at least not completely. He was my best friend. He was my only friend. He has kept the house, the dog, everything. My access to the little girl I raised for 13 years is limited. I see her maybe once every two weeks now. I feel so alone. I'm really trying to make friends, to find things I like to do. I have a big trip planned. But I feel so lost. He, of course, had a new girlfriend within minutes of us filing. It just seems like his life has continued on without a hitch, while I am reeling. I feel like I have nothing. I feel like a failure. How did I let this man fool me? I was so sure of him. Now, of course, I see signs from the beginning, but it doesn't take away the pain I am feeling now. I know everyone says time. My therapist says time. And I know this is true, but I feel like I am on a roller coaster. One day I hate his guts and never want to see him again. The next, all I want is to see him, talk to him. Not necessarily to have a relationship with him. I just miss his company. I feel like I am going crazy. &#x200B; I'm not sure what to expect from this post, but I just needed to put the words down. Thanks for reading.",1.184313093622798,3.311357882462687,2.5864735413839917,93.87657259158752,82.11567164179105,5.465345997286296,20.752917232021712,6.6590880762095805,0.2253914925373133,2019,59,445,21,55,653,241,536,0.086,0.7090000000000001,0.205,0.9975,0,1,1,0,1,0,98.0,8,0,1,11,20,38,4,0,25,0,47,8,1,3,12,99,100,35,0,12,22,3,8,11,4,3,2,9,0,3,23,22,0,2,17,2,1,5,15,9,0,5,35,21,72,29,54,59,14,77,0,3,4,5,78,18,0,8,63,296,95,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11226213205151367,0.0,0.06340776121206518,0.06558241756969582,0.0,0.05063852067084497,0.0,0.13721855890498932,0.15388613999283193,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.044276162378195004,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05949303311575205,0.0,0.0,0.0386004578431316,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1329049076008686,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06465876540143346,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06639183377756262,0.06842850556918299,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0408374032344,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06542847570521994,0.0,0.04182353436320764,0.0,0.05335145299740386,0.060506813089447116,0.056909663310226975,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22412227579408334,0.18094878393925345,0.0,0.06936607385875594,0.057875092420526526,0.16158479157276304,0.0,0.0,0.14676708689949655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.035987309321326426,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12503458302868328,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04244335166415394,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07306499986730451,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06609163831175531,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1044002221654107,0.0,0.0,0.06704877577754495,0.0,0.06475095866519748,0.04472614839052354,0.34029483529748145,0.06346520427440548,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1382467228666479,0.05383403635540617,0.22860203883053065,0.0,0.04226787674541641,0.0,0.06361538486589265,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10108591306857093,0.06730118527952697,0.0,0.04695240515506153,0.2441888617714973,0.06115670990097258,0.06734358577654465,0.0,0.0,0.060759094990355186,0.0,0.06644570855842928,0.06743578368862957,0.04290857527100342,0.0481591774774831,0.06737899289522144,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06064490050403246,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1273120488326784,0.0,0.0,0.06333906096970779,0.0,0.08113129341287002,0.0,0.0,0.06798405005016844,0.0,0.0,0.24093460559882424,0.10071227288238598,0.0,0.0,0.20183750413285606,0.057645902458170875,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.052380550840976134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04874831161557916,0.0,0.0,0.134458753627846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11936033015342035,0.0,0.047610207207596296,0.050895764849677866,0.0,0.05829832111604575,0.0,0.07352163564477439,0.042068273395056095,0.0,0.0,0.10054107089470332,0.18461761890376036,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04299143062158735,0.0,0.061856319843256034,0.0,0.0761684793414285,0.05468981237685232,0.0,0.0,0.1867445603619169,0.05026199679699121,0.1015860576833494,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.061040076203629515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08996415767415257,0.0,0.15388613999283193,0.2038862185527109 divorce,threw_it_all_away_12,2019/04/20,"Confused and lost. See my previous post in r/marriage if it paints a better picture. I do believe my marriage is failing due to my actions, however there is more to the story. Long story short: Pretty sure I'm heavily on the narcissistic spectrum(covert to be specific), and yes I'm currently in therapy for help. Been married for 7 years and I've been stuck in my own head, I haven't been nearly the best husband or father. My wife told me some 5 weeks back that we are ""no longer in a relationship and are separated."" Since that time she has slept with another man, the same man twice within 3 weeks. We talked about it, I'm in therapy, and I'm really really trying to work on my shit and be a better partner/father. Lately, I've tried to talk to my wife numerous times about even menial things, and the answer I always get is, ""We aren't in a relationship anymore, I'm not helping; figure it out on your own."" We never finish any conversations anymore because she doesn't want to talk about it and needs her space. I give her her space, and we never return to the subject. EVER. She says she isn't, but she's literally fucking avoiding conversation with me. She told me recently she doesn't want to stop talking to the other man, and I was like okay.. we aren't in a relationship. Well the other day, I go to go a movie, literally by myself, and she had a fucking panic attack, was losing her shit, and said I only care about myself. I know consistency is key, but this just feels like it's going nowhere. It feels like, as much as she will sit there and say she still wants us, but doesn't expect me to become a better husband, but is hopeful that I do, is a complete load of shit. Like she's lying to herself? At this point it just seems like a waste of time, and I'm considering just moving to divorce. I mean, how do I reconcile something that is unreconcilable?",5.2086136177194415,5.5515263854447445,6.444804875190433,77.58659791398105,68.1644204851752,9.255408414391187,29.60752373139576,9.20300075937882,2.4052431969998818,1463,50,286,26,23,495,187,371,0.133,0.7509999999999999,0.116,-0.7706,2,1,1,0,1,0,57.0,7,1,0,8,15,26,6,3,18,2,29,7,5,1,4,57,60,23,0,7,10,5,2,5,0,1,0,3,0,3,16,23,0,2,8,0,0,5,11,12,1,1,12,6,48,14,41,45,7,45,0,3,1,2,51,18,5,6,25,195,64,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07502515241162397,0.0,0.0,0.06131582266089241,0.09454668256046653,0.0,0.0,0.1788404519892855,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10257659208103867,0.0,0.06933191960814626,0.0,0.0549642229083454,0.09958102060401194,0.0,0.10158595816870808,0.09462342385515267,0.23923291684113804,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09193002246080696,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0945371053854763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05814946919788778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05955364765092356,0.08156011055663229,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09118105560548867,0.12882890321987273,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16671362233276266,0.047107898859381415,0.08649523265693583,0.15372987279949488,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253610362814436,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12087244412107145,0.0,0.0,0.08955496472442417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049552754927590065,0.0,0.10171092775647872,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.22025222953031476,0.0,0.0,0.079793878396755,0.0,0.1008724448735194,0.09842660057130324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09821696797607543,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09583195527713116,0.0662822232800717,0.06685678375923583,0.139082816941581,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06857513910099773,0.0,0.10579011612188187,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08523580673462611,0.0,0.0863538936015802,0.09173101395849764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11552501563866385,0.0,0.08902783056952135,0.2904129139883603,0.0,0.0,0.08576830501781485,0.14340689529667192,0.0,0.0,0.07185045326085669,0.08208354018338211,0.0,0.0,0.2776616339190284,0.07458606538257985,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06941402293550618,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07200650878450959,0.07538262985996365,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08498018105935047,0.0,0.0,0.28988735580877995,0.0,0.0,0.2062248560701224,0.0,0.05990213809514468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15772917512230736,0.0,0.0,0.17231453448750866,0.0,0.1224332926534991,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.108458332129781,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15954634037295093,0.0,0.14465110081281513,0.0,0.08106986515041413,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06564176207811515,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05806380644505674 divorce,wildnwildin,2019/04/20,"Divorced at 22 Hi guys I'm getting divorced. The family made the decision to follow through with I've wanted for 7 years now. I never wanted to get into this marriage and was forced into. I've been pushing through for a divorce since I got married. And I always joke about the divorce too. But now the divorce is happening and I'm just in shock. I've never wanted to be divorced at 22. I don't mourn this marriage but just the idea of a marriage I wanted. The idea of the husband I wanted. It's going to be a lot of heartache. I'll get the marriage annulled here but to think this is happening... if I get married again it won't be the first time IRL though it will be the first time in my heart. It's just such a shock. And what a relief. How do I move on now guys?",1.0187962962962978,2.981630679012348,2.853811728395062,92.6359027777778,81.71604938271605,5.037654320987656,23.70524691358025,5.985473137389443,0.4531469135802464,598,22,129,4,16,199,79,162,0.049,0.9,0.051,0.0557,0,0,0,0,6,0,17.0,0,0,0,2,14,5,0,0,15,0,12,1,1,2,2,28,30,10,1,6,7,1,0,0,0,2,0,0,0,2,8,7,0,0,4,1,0,4,4,3,0,2,4,0,9,2,21,20,1,22,0,1,0,0,14,7,0,2,11,90,17,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1299239372828655,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14719823717674865,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2656312380858718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3263142293056149,0.0,0.08873997457333581,0.0,0.12488225638663113,0.0,0.0,0.3092133154837393,0.2761544411618417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.185030851835418,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3525341113868541,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.132747657645184,0.0,0.14774679704001062,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16595587675462414,0.0,0.0,0.24085505466620746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12916355341439625,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10005047840803707,0.15341023952223284,0.0,0.1820971127463624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4604875399341046,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10055132318269293 divorce,Throwaway7655575,2019/04/20,Please enlighten me how much better it is alone now that you are divorced... I like doing whatever I want whenever I want and not having to 'ok' it with anyone. 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I have two young boys and their dad is deployed, so they’re always with me. I took them to this big Easter egg hunt event today and I was having a good time with my boys but I couldn’t help but notice all the seemingly happy, married couples all around me. I noticed one presumably single dad and he noticed me. I just wanted to go up to him and say, “Hey, lets be friends!” but that’d be weird, right? He didn’t talk to me and I never talked to him. I’m sure he assumed I was married or maybe he was and just didn’t wear a ring. We kept looking at each other but never spoke. I just want some male companionship and I don’t know how to find it with kids. I don’t want to do the online dating thing. I don’t even know what I want anymore. I just know I’m lonely.",0.15902298850574326,2.0558438678160904,2.014482758620691,97.83712643678163,84.45977011494253,4.55632183908046,17.137931034482758,5.46131890053228,-0.7374689655172421,619,13,148,3,18,204,102,174,0.056,0.833,0.111,0.9186,0,2,0,0,1,0,18.0,1,2,2,0,10,6,0,0,4,0,19,2,1,2,5,43,34,16,0,5,9,2,0,0,1,0,0,3,0,6,6,13,1,1,7,0,0,2,8,2,0,2,8,4,26,4,13,21,5,15,0,1,1,0,28,5,0,4,8,97,32,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12652288302430165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15079882452559898,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13536219550618836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1682472182200169,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10043164129901673,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13897655017982025,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11747819061221153,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08641700411277776,0.12753746950672204,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1618665802901765,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10192002026524596,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2506982210780819,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15548769738005047,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1276888548042937,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15276082261404142,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2345501263635369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.519350743284809,0.0,0.0,0.10303717048027043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12985510615120208,0.0,0.12092113947967087,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13842619200375736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14331110516864914,0.0,0.0,0.2444339186942844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1010193377487002,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08866515353868337,0.0,0.14413143394975195,0.0,0.16893995783984736,0.0,0.0,0.1485367466227378,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3587465858420523,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,rhynoplaz,2019/04/20,"Landslide by Fleetwood Mac I listened to this song today and really took in the lyrics like I never had before. It really matches my current situation, and maybe it can touch others like it did me today. https://youtu.be/k4M53xndqiU",6.51192307692308,9.960796538461539,5.7612179487179525,71.1233653846154,70.7948717948718,8.002564102564103,27.698717948717945,8.841846274778883,2.9716102564102567,191,7,25,4,4,58,32,39,0.0,0.875,0.125,0.6124,1,0,0,0,0,0,8.0,0,0,0,0,0,2,0,0,1,0,3,0,0,0,1,3,5,2,0,0,0,0,1,2,0,0,0,2,0,0,5,2,0,0,0,1,0,1,1,0,0,0,3,3,4,2,3,2,0,6,0,0,0,0,1,1,0,0,6,19,9,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2563736044058768,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2943878602278954,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30268394630585604,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2323716141331085,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3860251747415285,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.338659948847235,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5711709385705118,0.0,0.3347416716713182,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,lilcarpart,2019/04/20,"Apology? Soon to be ex husband and I have been separated for almost 2 years. Last year he got together with somebody and moved it with him. No problem with since im long separated from that relationship. Since she's been with him, I've been trying to make sure he has his bills payed for and caught up. We still had our apartment together in our name as well as cell phones, car, and electronic bill. Little by little I've been trying to make sure he has his affaits in order and mine since our divorce will be uncontested with no lawyers involved. He can't afford any and I'm trying to make sure it's easy as possible for him. Slowly for the past year I've been trying to remove my name from any and possible all items we have. However he's not been truthful with his girlfriend and fell behind while I'm trying to pay what I can and remove myself. She's been involved our affairs and feels as though she needs to know but it's not of her business. But ex husband refuses to tell her and it's not my place to say anything. She's texted some very hurtful things that all I can say is we all need to get together and find out where the issues lay. Months passed by and she's now calling me to complain about the issues shes dealing with my ex. It's still not my place to say anything. I did explain to ex it's his responsibility to let her know whats going on. She's gotten more friendlier with me with text and phone calls but I've cutted them short and simpler so I don't have to explain anything. She has revelaved to me that she's leaving him for all the same issues I've have dealt with and I have not revealed them to her. As of right now, I'm the evil bitch that left the relationship. Is it wrong for me to want an apology for her?",2.8780674286812022,4.427728342618387,3.930410143117857,88.9323955431755,74.7660167130919,6.7344539429449615,24.63557775429834,7.372421405659032,0.9598067620785704,1381,44,295,16,29,447,160,359,0.09,0.863,0.047,-0.9655,2,0,0,0,1,0,24.0,7,0,2,0,10,12,3,0,7,0,28,0,0,3,8,66,47,27,0,4,8,6,1,0,1,1,0,3,0,0,14,30,0,1,7,0,4,8,9,7,1,0,12,4,47,5,53,31,8,36,0,1,0,0,67,14,1,2,13,192,61,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09721727350048466,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13204316824913778,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23967970003796635,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1982706457404065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1000910617141835,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.049089431340732084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08873454260425072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05072325498553569,0.0,0.05517602302874279,0.0,0.07764827843821072,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10393221663038653,0.0,0.1048691824966956,0.3039966443394836,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10671148933773167,0.07913777808078085,0.0,0.10279970539943874,0.1054838634295388,0.09927667430048437,0.0,0.0,0.19461069130240796,0.0,0.08591776195081564,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19441631380585792,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07749285473876301,0.1031867016144011,0.0,0.1439755867802706,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09267925652608013,0.0,0.0,0.2028677209323853,0.0,0.0,0.21889900879918534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09289787352013884,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2084673504019021,0.0,0.08291063085279014,0.0,0.2316192621495524,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.24093080593945934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15506548133668369,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2745062821921216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08485715392380895,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06449940452340294,0.0,0.09538617685458592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3295739818772134,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0801058445528676,0.05726364297491634,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0872916759446708,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1061479382800067,0.0,0.1875599632580648 divorce,the_okayest_stan,2019/04/20,"Feeling like divorce = giving up on having a family This is just off my chest because I’ve been lurking for a while and I see so many posts here/elsewhere from people who are divorced with children... I’m 30F and my STBX is 34M, we have no kids, and I can’t help but feel like this divorce is equal to giving up on my dream of having a family. I'd appreciate success stories from people who had children after divorce in their 30's. For context, my STBX and I were together 10 years and starting a family was a goal of ours for the last couple of years but my job means that I spend most of my time outside of our home country of the USA. My STBX was always extremely supportive of my career, I was in school when we met and he pushed me to accept jobs that I honestly wanted to turn down because I was sick of the distance and wanted to get settled (in retrospect, maybe he was afraid of ‘settling down’ and making a family and just didn’t know how to say it), but the end result is that we’ve been essentially separated for three years with some spells living together overseas. We might have settled down overseas together, but my STBX didn't want to find work overseas and it didn't work out. Of course, a lot of other things happened, but my STBX has made it clear during the process that he doesn’t want to fight to save our relationship. Before this, it was our goal to get pregnant this year and start building our family. And now, nothing. So, now I find myself living alone in a new country (where I actually can’t date locals for work reasons), surrounded by married (male) colleagues with families (men in my career tend to be married with children and SAHMs), and female colleagues who are older than me and who openly say that women in our career have to be either extremely lucky or accept a childless, single life. I always thought I was one of the lucky ones, but now I guess not. I try to tell myself that if I meet someone this year and it goes well then maybe we could start a family in a couple of years, but it seems like fantasy. As a result of all of this, I’ve been suffering a lot of doubt about the divorce. I often feel like, even though my relationship has caused me a lot of pain and my STBX doesn’t want to save it, if I want to have a family then I should try to find a way to make things \*good enough\* and soldier on, maybe change jobs and try to live where my STBX wants to live, just to be able to do things like have children and family life. Obviously, that sounds like a terrible idea. I’m the child of a divorce (so is my STBX) and I wouldn’t want my kids growing up a family where their parents don’t want to be together. And, maybe I’ll have the chance to have a family after all because 30 isn’t really old, but in this moment I just feel like I’m not only divorcing the man but the entire hope of having a family and it’s really scary. A couple of times a week I have this urge just to call him and try to fix things somehow. Thankfully, I'm a little smarter than that, but I still feel it. Anyway, I guess I could solve my problems by finding some incredible single father, haha, and maybe I’ll get lucky… But right now, I just have a lot of doubt. I know divorce is the right thing to do, but the temptation to compromise my career and do everything I can to win him back is tempting sometimes.",7.424128338278932,5.668300394658758,7.6982622403560805,77.38445567507422,64.3412462908012,10.798887240356082,33.08030415430268,9.516144504307137,2.758104005934717,2622,81,535,40,32,861,269,674,0.07,0.782,0.149,0.9957,4,1,0,0,8,0,71.0,10,0,2,7,28,30,1,3,38,1,57,5,1,8,4,122,101,51,0,17,24,2,5,7,0,3,4,3,1,11,35,36,0,0,18,2,1,2,13,8,1,3,18,9,63,22,86,74,14,63,0,1,1,0,54,28,0,21,38,369,98,14,0.05049914417586057,0.0,0.04927988012651592,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05230188362115866,0.0,0.0,0.08403866671282123,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03883072474509487,0.0,0.09235142872048324,0.0,0.04297105225594043,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05156527234635242,0.0,0.0,0.0518765316980824,0.05342139859049885,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08063891494332891,0.1676290275645497,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04472725279971247,0.052179115205802734,0.0,0.033354208459384214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04538537458164976,0.0,0.5712731858431606,0.0,0.12766942312411855,0.14430639475776366,0.0,0.0,0.18462121163040984,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07915115566972471,0.09688676125072362,0.0,0.04235628621904452,0.0,0.0,0.111261001267132,0.0,0.044656226418728746,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.03384851186480568,0.0,0.050654759056928185,0.050157044611270254,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057007386997591426,0.0,0.0,0.15033782534629922,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05550601794467866,0.041163542534315006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0713380779370584,0.17269931723817866,0.050613409065401925,0.1783666779779798,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17173026604732633,0.0,0.047783511237423804,0.06741714173933587,0.051198206040228636,0.2536658893548141,0.05500837233891717,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.053571611657007315,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04877238812513121,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04845529080618826,0.0,0.052990356942166514,0.0,0.06843905404337343,0.03840687472433061,0.053734649857512,0.0,0.0560733234364973,0.0,0.0,0.07001949627261565,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04836422086770235,0.0,0.0,0.04832086091790764,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470208972709092,0.051921530833370325,0.0,0.10843436413548567,0.0,0.08625198640709784,0.0,0.08031789267175311,0.0,0.05110782992660765,0.04024127976192388,0.045972524242489606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04278776098428978,0.0,0.04994494484969916,0.0,0.10723066249602826,0.0,0.040328681771246086,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.057305830368833376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0441384778495813,0.04649282718313953,0.0,0.0,0.1677469374251915,0.0,0.04961515275462355,0.04009067966649086,0.05889291414460846,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13714241617810535,0.0549285676690415,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2680713326036921,0.04008387010511781,0.04050736739645548,0.0,0.0454047953175064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029193520579256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19511875901865688 divorce,setsunaf85,2019/04/20,"How do you move on? I'm (33M) is going thru divorce with the love of my life (30F). I am still in love with her. But 6 months ago she brought up divorce as she said she no longer love me. Reason being we drifted apart while I was away a year for work. I still love her deeply so we tried six months of counselling and did whatever I could to change her mind. Two weeks ago she said nothing had changed for her and she moved out with all her stuff and everything I ever bought her. I basically came home from a short (2 days) work trip to a empty house. She seems adamant on her decision and I had made up mind to give her what she wants. While I really want to have her back, I no longer know what i can do if its only one sided. Now I'm trying to move on but it seems impossible. Friends tell me I should be angry at her for leaving without a word. But all I feel I a sense of nothing to look forward to. How do you move on from this. I keep thinking of signs that she is not totally gone.. Like the fact that she took the engagement and wedding rings with her. And that she kept all my gifts over the years. I know the right thing to do is to move on. But my mind and heart keep saying otherwise... I'm just stuck in this endless cycle of depression and hope. Its affecting everything I do... Sorry for the rant. TLDR: wife left cause she doesn't love. Me but I am unable to move on...",0.2447669801462915,2.4053381517241412,1.7531347962382462,98.14564785788929,86.44827586206898,5.17032392894462,18.098223615464995,6.574015621080383,-0.2389425287356324,1064,27,252,12,33,342,156,290,0.081,0.82,0.099,0.8112,0,0,0,0,2,0,39.0,2,2,0,2,9,10,0,0,11,0,21,7,1,6,6,57,53,20,0,6,9,1,1,1,1,1,1,4,1,0,12,16,0,3,8,0,1,14,5,1,0,3,14,6,49,9,42,35,4,48,0,1,1,5,41,20,0,4,17,170,61,2,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15098387051945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08001352053991159,0.06548515456716593,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09740388005631599,0.0,0.0874859462180535,0.18018250067994968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06799579255676264,0.0,0.0,0.05492314362481486,0.0,0.07335083920605777,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07703488489144128,0.0,0.0,0.15307817657683526,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04306101398655925,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06579678721578218,0.0,0.0,0.08169619003592253,0.04840014305466135,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10091866423692886,0.0,0.0,0.08542551673142579,0.08458615801179906,0.0,0.09826676438326196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15139372361203535,0.0,0.0,0.09360680719651833,0.0,0.0,0.09017540906705046,0.0925299396313589,0.0,0.06015320459377878,0.04160638094567018,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0715155414430745,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3843150401712611,0.08058336896068055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2579713118333572,0.0,0.13595272182325974,0.543089281756391,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16343255135566542,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05770870955772036,0.06477036275461935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054557652148025056,0.08756183394224776,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07272880816250264,0.16201918951038285,0.0677251023596102,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15505854581004214,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09533309980550923,0.0,0.0,0.13602269731592906,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974913557551296,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07443628887468501,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05657856863382394,0.054569065304773484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09461931955458804,0.1156402871706932,0.0,0.08319195810158256,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1004627865394798,0.0,0.06831268879164938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08209417364171549,0.0,0.12399947845209912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10968446745172153 divorce,ren_fin,2019/04/20,"Tried of waiting I have been separated from my stbxh since Sept 2018.. I left our marital home last oct because I did not feel safe around him. He is mental unstable and has abused me mentally and physically. He still lives in the house today with his new gf. He doesnt want the house but is stalling the divorce so he wont have to pay for a appartment since our house is paid off. He changed the locks and put padlocks on all the doors. His gf locks me out every time I come to the house to get my mail. Which is whatever cuz I dont need to go into the house. What can I do to get my house back asap??? My lawyer is busy and doesn't seem 100% interested in my case right now. Court is coming up next month. I live in Illinois, and have been married for 6 years. Any advice is welcome.",2.436715431807457,3.807751944785277,3.488957055214726,92.38085417649836,75.56441717791411,6.978574799433696,22.967909391222268,7.61054688173877,0.6951731005191135,609,17,141,8,13,196,107,163,0.077,0.889,0.034,-0.599,0,0,0,0,2,0,18.0,2,0,0,0,5,3,0,0,8,0,20,0,0,1,1,21,31,8,0,2,2,0,1,0,2,1,0,0,2,0,2,11,0,2,2,0,2,4,5,0,0,0,4,1,19,3,19,26,1,25,0,0,0,0,15,11,0,1,10,81,21,2,0.0,0.13081382767195468,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10788810161318027,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07508030872333936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09828532700899376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08489589966606516,0.0,0.06730286972613786,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11679559741755174,0.19021110762318935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12939577277158226,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09302236531433664,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055824920122505485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11536583662037507,0.0,0.06274664411729065,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11074687301706647,0.0,0.0,0.7643667110261188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08999615638990761,0.0,0.0,0.1199571494176421,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1949821912517968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2225278726855907,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08812553553185752,0.0,0.0,0.08186513280028962,0.0,0.10663143157709333,0.1174187259340048,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11098917883273364,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09428667674997196,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10051006853739347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18265904532844005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817089415125763,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06437900609741318,0.0,0.1046525956900494,0.0,0.0,0.07495886878398347,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06512070333041066,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07109826345569956 divorce,Kumite_Champion,2019/04/20,"Does that hate ever go away? We've been divorced and separated for over a year now and I still feel the hate deep in my heart. I don't want to feel this way. I attend therapy and managed to cope with everything else but this. I don't want to hate her, it's not her fault we started to take different paths in life and fell out of love. I just want/wish this feeling to go already, it creeps up on me during the worse possible times.",0.6142857142857139,2.78729312087912,2.222736263736266,95.33476373626374,84.82417582417581,5.837802197802197,20.089010989010987,7.1686216300943375,0.3321243956043958,338,10,78,5,10,110,65,91,0.16699999999999998,0.725,0.108,-0.5747,1,0,0,0,1,0,9.0,1,0,0,0,4,5,3,0,3,0,3,3,1,0,1,16,16,5,0,2,3,0,3,0,0,0,1,0,0,0,6,7,0,0,3,0,0,4,3,4,0,0,1,3,10,1,15,15,0,19,0,0,0,1,5,8,0,0,6,47,16,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19349802130214824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16474278567272133,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18319863414920914,0.0,0.0,0.15344595081683832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14647859107680294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15860996298323218,0.0,0.0,0.15758914908880484,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.26597972505781303,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1993056758402681,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5193518745336555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20778515631578368,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12385164938439545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.158256079388873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19767560479467428,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12411038441893628,0.0,0.1400310717447173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13183792708256073,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20052275900725006,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10224531925711304,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.31026979939038485,0.13918102561184334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20163856911488445,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17869195400852148,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1129166957727611 divorce,Not_For_Hire_,2019/04/20,"Advice on splitting assets (including LLC) I (48M) am in the process of filing from my wife (44F). We have one child (13) and custody is the main issue I'm interested in but we still have to split the assets. I've hired an attorney and am working with her but in the meantime, I'd love any advice. In addition to the regular stuff (bank accounts, retirement accounts, cars, house, etc.) the complicated asset is a company in which I'm a 50% owner and which is a marital asset. The company is a LLC and is the main source of our income (she doesn't work). The average income for the past 3 years has been about $500K. It's a professional services firm and I am the main partner and effectively the CEO however the other owner is equal in ownership, title, etc. Last year, the company did $13M in revenue. Obviously, we'll have to get some sort of valuation done, but the range could vary wildly. Presumably the value could be deemed in the multiple millions. As far as I can tell, the options are either: (1) buy out my wife over time or (2) sell the company and my wife gets half. Option #1 requires a really long payoff period as presumably I have to pay alimony, not to mention supporting my child. Option #2 isn't my choice as it requires consent of my business partner. I'm curious to hear what folks who have gone through this have seen to work or not work from either side of things.",3.834241946778712,5.369436643382354,5.5128991596638635,78.60745098039217,72.2720588235294,9.151540616246498,29.12885154061625,9.606745405546679,2.8209322128851535,1085,44,207,27,21,370,156,272,0.017,0.872,0.11,0.9753,3,0,0,0,0,0,49.0,4,0,0,7,2,3,0,0,26,0,27,1,0,1,1,34,37,16,0,2,9,3,0,0,2,1,0,2,0,4,10,12,0,2,3,0,6,2,4,0,0,3,5,3,16,3,33,28,9,23,0,0,1,1,20,13,0,7,8,138,26,11,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3230461521346334,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11240537404725294,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2639471150061147,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16915282862498188,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3686923046544031,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1727182564655118,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1862979963154386,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1907267198797287,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17252366262330274,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13473641483146934,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14627970984704589,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14918400432200665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11200727887516301,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1577915258225163,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10589136727803433,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13200375045969912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18922172330089235,0.0,0.1875733150615103,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14447396641368224,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10981377965119417,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09638407705322292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4813430856383084,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2128874277088239 divorce,williammeladdie,2019/04/20,"How to deal with being sidelined by ex wife So a couple years ago my ex wife moved back home several states away and took our daughter with her. I was in school finishing up my undergrad. We did a pro se divorce to save money and because I thought we were ‘splitting up amicably’ so we could be big kids about it and work out a plan where I take my daughter around my school schedule, breaks, summers, etc. Well two years later she’s basically doing her best to sideline me. I’m starting medical school this summer so that’s great, but with it being as competitive as it is, I didn’t get in around where my exwife lives. Furthermore my ex wife does her best to keep me out of the picture. So much for an amicable agreement. She barely answers FaceTime calls anymore, she cancels plans to meet halfway and let me have her at my place, she doesn’t let me talk to her during holidays, and now she’s apparently trying to get her new bf to fill in my role as dad. She does let me see my daughter- but only if I drive out there, get a hotel, etc. My options are to take out extra student loans and goto court, wait until I finish medical school and get a lawyer, or forego the opportunity to goto med school, get a job, and get a lawyer. The problem is my ex is a trust fund kid so she has tons of money to pay for legal fees while I’m making shit wages as a student. No matter what I’m fighting an uphill battle. I guess I figured that by getting into medical school my ex would quit looking at me like I’m a piece of shit and let me into the picture but I’ve realized that that will never change. Anyway, moral of the story for anyone else is get a fucking lawyer. Second moral is don’t marry young and especially not to a spoiled brat. And lastly don’t have kids with them either. But at this point I’m not really sure how to unfuck this situation. I’m just getting tired of my ex wife’s shit- it consumes too much of my emotional and mental energy.",5.066812236286921,5.20637830886076,6.034319620253168,81.11358913502113,68.44303797468355,8.608649789029537,29.1165611814346,8.344100000000001,1.9320232067510537,1532,50,310,20,24,509,207,395,0.092,0.804,0.104,0.2665,3,0,0,0,3,0,35.0,4,0,1,7,19,17,6,0,19,0,27,8,3,3,2,55,54,31,0,4,10,14,0,1,1,2,4,0,1,3,12,27,0,2,4,2,7,4,8,7,1,2,6,2,47,10,51,38,10,46,2,0,2,1,43,22,4,4,19,207,59,17,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07036378273695035,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0787216186726335,0.055502923614094,0.08133211271293793,0.0,0.14132644827771476,0.0,0.0,0.07457821760588103,0.06103676071631892,0.0,0.04838807493829887,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16660456865028667,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08105378434569935,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08397136917490232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.063376851554146,0.08783021616457734,0.0,0.0,0.08183520360079381,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13892839633650042,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06631011000160311,0.08928953445579056,0.0,0.0,0.17705484267707766,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07338365598404688,0.37324542722912,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08751449429880924,0.08744378524969253,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07962257794560157,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07877038893394121,0.07055478866269277,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06470364157239641,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3246774173457915,0.0,0.038780067556352535,0.0,0.07009220349976802,0.0,0.06665750458116143,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05298541265369769,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08817103234865313,0.2398948672468025,0.07999432582284698,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08436622202711899,0.11670388545295696,0.0,0.061221185461143815,0.07666373994044794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.060370524572986015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08293308594296891,0.0,0.07503784071647862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0759539989226037,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08442824399177343,0.0,0.0,0.0508515614174458,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4820084723792946,0.06325396653991798,0.0,0.0,0.08967451425702758,0.2444410425299489,0.0,0.0892241662734311,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.056184137099228405,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07481279915895463,0.0,0.11936471238509044,0.06380100706568331,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0630172431192468,0.0,0.09123330178000028,0.0,0.0,0.0881918475258514,0.0538924324440934,0.0,0.07754074452035124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07137032969023216,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05778810896343184,0.0,0.0,0.05638783380483165,0.0,0.0,0.10223362284777053 divorce,_throwaway_Broken,2019/04/20,"Looking for advice, how do I tell him? Hi, throw away account as I am sure my Stbxh is also on here. Sorry for the wall of text ahead of time. Anyways, We have been living separately for a few months, I am 30f he is 34m. Been together 10 years, 5 married. For the better part of the last year we really started to drift apart, there was bad communication issues and trust issues that caused the rift, huge arguments that ended in nothing changing. He stopped trusting me after a really bad falling out with his best friend, I did nothing wrong here, completely unrelated to our relationship, he stopped trusting everyone. He should have gone to therapy then, but was too stubborn. It was after a really bad argument he decided to stay at his parents for a while. We went to counseling for one session about 2 weeks into the separation. I felt great after, that we were really making a step forward. Then I found out from my best friend that he had been to the house to see our dog while I was at work and was venting to her (she’s a roommate, so she lives there.) she said He was venting and not really communicating, but that he just kept going on about all the reasons why it was my fault we were in this broken situation. He even told her a about childhood abuse that I had suffered, and blamed that on why we were having issues. So in one breath he blamed me for all of our issues, pulled out all the hurried emotions about my abuse and also broke my trust by telling someone about abuse I had never told anyone but him about. I let him know how bad this hurt, that it had broken my trust in him completely and that I had canceled our remaining therapy sessions. It was clear to me from this action that he didn’t think he had contributed to the breakdown of our relationship and that I was totally to blame. He even said that it was my fault he told her, since she should have known. It’s been a rough few months. There were several fights over the last year where he blatantly called me a liar and that I needed to earn back his trust. I only ever supported him and in my eyes I never did anything to break his trust. I love him very much, but I think our relationship is too toxic for me. I asked he to move all his things out and give up his key, which he did. He texted me today and was asking if he could come see the dog, but asked if he asked about our relationship if that would effect him seeing the dog... does he think that there is still some reconciliation that is possible? Or does he care more about the dog? Which by the way is my dog. Period. So, how do I tell him I want a divorce? I have not talked to him on the phone it in person in 3 months, I get too angry and my blood pressure is crazy high. I wrote a letter a month ago, but haven’t given to him because I’ve been too scared to hurt him more. Why doesn’t he get it? How does “please move all your shit out and give up your key” not say this isn’t working out?? How did you tell your spouse it was over? How hard was it? Sorry for rant/wall of text. Thanks in advance.",4.513578431372551,5.102651272875819,5.126999999999999,85.55550000000002,69.76797385620914,8.342222222222222,25.757516339869284,8.395991825355821,1.4001861437908496,2377,64,508,34,40,765,255,612,0.172,0.7170000000000001,0.111,-0.9944,1,0,0,0,5,0,67.0,13,4,0,9,37,35,4,2,27,0,57,5,4,10,12,84,95,39,0,9,14,2,3,0,2,3,0,3,0,1,33,28,0,4,10,0,1,14,9,17,0,2,45,11,80,18,76,45,15,80,0,4,5,1,98,32,1,5,33,351,113,5,0.0,0.22198812129864529,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06102789339071753,0.055360403188414314,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09988653769434733,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.04366826384105764,0.0,0.05139311415124589,0.0,0.23353875513415134,0.0,0.058676211470460996,0.04802214365311188,0.20858102886191887,0.03807048504071844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13108016275918974,0.05523419113942165,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06377101978868367,0.0,0.06367452061904202,0.0641559557227996,0.06606650002295282,0.05379732808432403,0.13096058730320514,0.0,0.0,0.049863266560956784,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16395789999511245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07025069482773258,0.055314408197548966,0.0,0.0,0.08249861935810104,0.05649189244507929,0.0,0.059676072546720374,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05996422647017359,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06847597998518072,0.09650134564006338,0.0,0.06525774272534858,0.11982032262878993,0.035493214270696696,0.0,0.0,0.06885413917162927,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.055945203503530376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06598453101454108,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07206183915622286,0.13371345856402614,0.0,0.0,0.2607368791209263,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.034322279391505256,0.10181430121793247,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06386194726636403,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11029346334655914,0.0,0.052444399456779534,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05636585021182607,0.0,0.041687551372545005,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19939606711111374,0.13275432005596047,0.04590979834386767,0.0463077626007895,0.09633448853857064,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11984978138436747,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08463890659597156,0.04749796629824326,0.0,0.0,0.06934614820741998,0.06763000832752047,0.0,0.0,0.05453114375044285,0.0,0.06855412814801183,0.0,0.07040584837824652,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20004346222789676,0.06421160636937517,0.0,0.268202597073902,0.0,0.0,0.1188133225714258,0.049664761668984495,0.06252588143015385,0.0,0.14929975143636365,0.0,0.0,0.07055358697177139,0.06410662864655804,0.051661381461329065,0.07019926483363118,0.0,0.0,0.0529158293611849,0.0,0.0,0.13982099741586512,0.0442042249808305,0.06656609163109391,0.0498746742965197,0.10442622966577124,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07087039544582817,0.05886077416526761,0.0,0.0,0.05019698113996225,0.2183450695640228,0.05749790251107963,0.14283983075925286,0.0,0.041490688516802425,0.12005118612314306,0.0,0.0,0.036416574784121546,0.0,0.059197699814322775,0.1790282176401611,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05152988107839775,0.03683612262106329,0.049571914534090725,0.050095655666784616,0.0,0.0,0.05789412466937657,0.16906109409553546,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09093237706311127,0.0,0.0,0.044364488276971134,0.06828204192611616,0.0,0.12065215285731296 divorce,whatifs-n-whatevs,2019/04/20,"Someone touch me! (haha) Married (36f) to STBX (39m) for 15 years. Three kiddos. Separated since October, paperwork (finally) filed in March, living apart since November. I was never into PDAs and my love language was definitely not physical touch. I always had to ""work at it"" bc it was something he wanted. I literally make fun of those lovey-dovey ooey-gooey couples. Gross. The ones who post love notes to each other on Facebook. Ewww. But goddamn I miss human touch! Just a hand on my leg, an arm at the small of my back, holding hands, someone's shoulder to put my head on, etc. Maybe it's bc I haven't had sex since SEPTEMBER and I am losing my freaking mind. I guess I'm just venting. Any other non-PDAers out there who were surprised by how much they ended up missing physical touch?",1.5593046357615885,4.267027894039739,2.9836390728476836,87.11876986754967,87.94039735099336,5.669006622516558,23.44403973509933,7.1686216300943375,1.2398765562913914,616,24,115,10,20,200,113,151,0.097,0.7759999999999999,0.127,0.7707,0,0,1,0,0,0,34.0,0,0,1,2,5,10,0,0,4,1,8,9,6,2,1,16,16,4,0,1,4,0,6,0,0,0,0,0,0,1,8,5,0,1,0,0,0,1,3,5,0,2,6,6,14,5,17,10,3,19,0,3,0,3,7,11,0,1,6,66,22,1,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15025492075882885,0.0,0.0,0.12279887183204685,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13885292801038665,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19980553586252392,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15993804014398053,0.0,0.20139161249392454,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19781379177443376,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19892644163511447,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18532458077117345,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15945321429943698,0.0,0.0,0.2020199989473359,0.0,0.0,0.3259564336920122,0.0,0.12053686339939533,0.0,0.18141433982750485,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1823317678004038,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13274521792405114,0.0,0.13927247707419624,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12236396702052173,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17294329999003752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18153023313272795,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4481266475389136,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.30600540858706066,0.13901735858533326,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10650927037807968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13146254879168992,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1162859701835977 divorce,socalqueenofcheese,2019/04/20,"First Easter Alone. Ex is throwing a party and hired a lawyer. We agreed to have holidays together for a while. We agreed no lawyers. I have kept my word in every informal agreement we had. He has lied every step of the way. Not only is he throwing a party at the house I made a home, true to my word I didn't ""gut"" the house when I moved out, but he is so manipulative surely everyone will think what a great guy he is. I am devastated. Six months in. Things have been pretty ok but this fucking sucks. Party aside-him hiring a lawyer and trying to give me a fraction of what I'm owed is forcing me to gut him. Damnit.",0.3032381889763798,2.6484255196850413,2.278853346456696,92.86190206692913,89.07874015748031,5.064763779527559,18.173720472440944,6.6274283507984215,0.016165748031496285,479,13,104,6,16,159,82,127,0.129,0.64,0.231,0.9169,1,1,0,0,0,0,17.0,3,0,0,1,2,7,2,0,11,1,14,3,2,2,2,18,22,7,0,0,3,1,0,0,0,1,0,0,1,1,4,6,0,1,2,1,1,4,3,2,0,2,5,0,13,5,11,16,0,13,0,0,0,1,12,4,2,0,4,64,17,5,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21615478027109844,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3516848578368489,0.19942596465515636,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1775238263133755,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19294382249151906,0.0,0.2002082443246486,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23009729928276235,0.0,0.20665013387458928,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2093474948807816,0.0,0.0,0.4816336322167787,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19748111649134695,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16658583304450186,0.22181971106235493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15872907421595794,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.21232736985161435,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19670139416543936,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13865390647469267,0.1337293300250832,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1416965641694091,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16565981060540338,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,CeramicVulture,2019/04/20,"Finding an attorney I need to speak to an attorney about a separation agreement. What is the best way to find one? Yellow Pages, Yelp, Thumbtack? Any advice on what to look for in an attorney and any ball park on what drawing up a separation agreement will likely cost me in attorney fees?",4.031111111111109,6.503442851851853,5.229407407407408,76.80633333333336,74.18518518518519,8.764444444444445,31.170370370370367,9.3871,3.300574814814813,230,11,40,6,5,76,38,54,0.0,0.812,0.188,0.903,0,0,0,0,0,0,6.0,0,0,0,1,1,4,0,0,6,0,2,0,0,0,0,4,4,1,0,1,0,0,0,1,0,1,0,1,0,0,3,1,0,0,2,1,2,0,0,0,0,1,0,3,2,4,11,3,2,6,0,0,2,0,1,5,0,0,1,27,5,0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.3116693387219237,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.4337870408497824,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.33471307443927545,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.5830198588514739,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15582040449317805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2678334510699176,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.23649365799139874,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2161253697553116,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2531636758802125,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,throwaway2021865,2019/04/20,"Advice till I can get to my lawyer Monday Backstory. I have been going through a nasty divorce for the better part of two years. I filed two years ago but reconciled. I filed again last summer but let it lapse due to an emotionally abusive gaslighting spouse. I refiled again recently and I am determined to get out. There has been physical abuse in the past but nothing has been documented. Now I think he knows that if he does it again I’m prepared to call the cops so it’s just been verbal abuse and threats. He drinks on a nightly basis along with Other substance abuse (mostly marijuana and Xanax every now and again) . Last night he called the kids up and harassed and verbally assaulted me to tell them I filed for divorce. I will not lie and say that this is not been a one way street. After I filed the second time and could not get him to work with me I basically shut down. I started seeing other people outside of marriage because I am miserable at home and do not want to be there except for the kids. This week my lawyer laid out a parenting plan pre divorce 50/50 (with me at the house one week then him the next till divorce). Last night he said no and that’s what caused him to retaliate and tell kids about the divorce on a whim. Which I have been consoling them since then. He is a narcissist and sociopath and I have to get away. My question, and no you people are not my lawyer so you can’t give official legal advice. Can I take the kids and move to my parents house which is just 10 mins away until there is a court order for custody? Does anyone have any mother suggestions as what to do if this is not an option. I will speak with my lawyer Monday morning but after last night I don’t know how much more I can take.",4.241739130434779,5.489378971014496,4.636057971014495,86.40365217391306,70.8840579710145,7.60695652173913,25.973913043478266,7.976525956113202,1.3764469565217397,1375,42,279,18,25,434,174,345,0.139,0.835,0.026,-0.993,2,0,1,0,8,0,26.0,0,2,2,3,15,5,3,1,19,0,32,2,0,2,0,48,48,30,0,4,15,4,0,0,0,2,1,3,1,4,15,22,1,0,5,1,0,2,10,4,0,5,7,4,35,1,42,36,4,53,0,1,1,0,37,13,0,5,36,197,50,6,0.0,0.4341063470876806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17901360475045244,0.0811945553465873,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06228859582000401,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0640462327065232,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1721153974819116,0.0,0.0,0.05583622818261806,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08100944594334718,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.18706003921677367,0.0,0.0,0.09409458742594938,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07313215806550571,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.16031300374692584,0.0,0.0,0.08972946093115475,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10303346075557956,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07717379714881606,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1914210554237995,0.08786747618345782,0.05205626376531653,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0918785142068146,0.0,0.0,0.21137956556542198,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10067781494256954,0.2986526990122637,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09366337875488576,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09735232554753176,0.06733378819325389,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0974136585979364,0.34382752967516617,0.0,0.0878890790839284,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12413598872631493,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20341360772019634,0.09918982048505393,0.08743899176607599,0.12700262330351805,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10260877077729537,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09044025366414292,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08712901586540886,0.07284102007680722,0.0,0.0,0.07299035792769472,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.07576937043010704,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06483230224215862,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.13773797213848815,0.0,0.1601183320055793,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.05869118307613125,0.0,0.0,0.05341051413190015,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.17895246752466212,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.054025845634294925,0.07270484545742725,0.1469459849422325,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.06668316609905649,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11796997298492888 divorce,ABardInTheHand,2019/04/20,"I finally told her tonight. It broke her heart, but I have to do it for myself. She cheated on me 5 months ago, and then it turned into an open relationship. I thought I could work with that, and I really could if it was only that. But it was the simple fact that she broke my trust in an already pretty one-sided marriage. I was always the one to do the housework, and pay bills while she was in school. But I knew I had to get out when I had planned a suicide in part from what she had done to me. I know I can’t be with someone when I was willing to end my life because of them. I know if I stay in this marriage, I will end up that way. I hate that this is what it’s come to, but this is the only option I have. And now that I’ve finally told her how I feel, I feel like a weights been lifted off my shoulders. I broke her heart, but I’m saving my life.",2.1855564648117856,2.6076423510638307,3.732978723404255,94.05653846153848,74.95744680851064,6.63567921440262,23.50409165302782,6.297961479604792,0.2923309328968897,654,17,163,4,13,218,99,188,0.141,0.795,0.064,-0.9398,0,0,0,0,0,2,21.0,0,0,1,2,4,8,2,0,8,0,22,6,3,1,1,29,35,16,1,4,7,0,3,1,0,2,2,0,0,0,17,10,1,0,6,0,2,1,1,5,0,1,14,3,36,3,20,16,1,25,0,3,0,0,14,10,0,3,13,122,53,3,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.12804497094690656,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15940262524971147,0.0,0.1201928091547758,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.08805452760852736,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.124429681050807,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2306609110625752,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14782107225739555,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2558771751172053,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14607510764914527,0.10319411077881528,0.0,0.316472767784945,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0754684331225813,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1426130900838388,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.34234457987493505,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15877034900051568,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.20405664017154745,0.07057029099950078,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11529749672015215,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.19576422337775135,0.2197193432279231,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15642376053447324,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1469561593663563,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.09253747383996724,0.0,0.0,0.15508374114135642,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.14618969788454114,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1223908324894998,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.1539629912004743,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.15800332662309055,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.114676055642483,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.2760536605726685,0.0,0.0,0.1571186005020964,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.11465657745839106,0.0,0.17589948366029245,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.10516030329070968,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0,0.0 divorce,justafloridawoman,2019/04/20,"How can I help my mom go through a divorce? My mom came into my room tonight crying that my stepfather has basically been emotionally abusive to her for several years now and that she doesn’t know how much longer she can do it. I’ve known they were struggling but didn’t know it was this bad... and I wish I could’ve been there for her from the start. One of the reasons why they haven’t separated sooner is because she is worried she won’t be able to give my sibling and I a better life as a single parent. I’m in college which she helps pay for ... but I’m going to try and help pay for my bills to take the load off of her. What I’m here to ask is, if you are a parent that has gone through a divorce... what is the best way your kid could do something to help? Any advice? My biological parents were divorced when I was young, so I’ve lived with it for basically my whole life but my stepfather has been in my life for a really long time too. I had always wanted more siblings and finally got some when they were married and I love them a lot too. And I know our dogs would get split up in the divorce (and he would probably get my favorite one). This has all been really hard to hear but I just want to be there for my mother (and even my stepfather) as much as I can right now. Any recommendations/advice greatly appreciated. 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